3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

By Rachel Nielson

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A 30-minute podcast with 3 doable takeaways to make your family life a little better each week

Episode Date
Modeling for our Children How to Endure Life’s Trials with Hope // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose and her father, Bob Peters
32:57
How do we stay positive when we face incomprehensible trials?  How do we endure well and allow our struggles to soften and strengthen us?  And perhaps most importantly, how do we model this kind of resilience for our children? Today on the podcast, Ralphie Jacobs, the respected parenting expert from Simply on Purpose, talks about her heroic father who, as a father of nine children, was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when Ralphie was five years old.  He lost the ability to walk by the time Ralphie was ten, and he has endured MS for over 30 years. This interview is especially meaningful because Ralphie's father joins us on the call.  Ralphie wanted him to hear her tribute to him and to add his own thoughts to the discussion--and it is a truly tender and touching conversation between a beloved father and "his girl." I felt honored to be apart of this sacred conversation, and I know you will feel the same after you listen.  You will come away braver, more determined to stay positive, and completely inspired to invest in your children when they are young--so you can have rich relationships with them that last a lifetime. Show Notes -Ralphie's Instagram account and teaching platform, Simply on Purpose: https://www.instagram.com/simplyonpurpose/?hl=en -Ralphie's interview on the Extraordinary Moms Podcast: https://extraordinarymomspodcast.com/ralphie/ -Ralphie's first interview on 3 in 30, "How to Step Yelling at Your Kids": http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/
Jun 18, 2018
How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself (Encore!)
35:46
The past few weeks at our house have been so busy that I've slipped into some negative self-talk and coping behaviors. Whenever this happens, I feel so frustrated with myself, thinking, "Rachel, you know better than this!  You've learned great strategies in counseling over the past six years to help you stay in the positive!" That's when I remind myself that recovery isn't linear.  We can have little setbacks along the way, without being all the way back at the beginning.  Yes, I've come a long way since the beginning of my therapy journey, but I'm still learning and practicing--and that's okay. This Encore episode is as much as reminder for ME as it is for you.  I've recorded a new intro to tell you what's going on in my life right now, and then I re-air what I consider to be one of the most important episodes I've ever published. Whether or not you've listened to this episode before, I hope you will listen!   Show Notes "The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder" (narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/ "Unhealthy Stress or Habits? Break the Cycle!" (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/unhealthy-stress/ "Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating" (podcast on Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/
Jun 11, 2018
How to Meditate All Day Long, Even As Busy Mothers (Ep 034) // Dr. Leah Weiss
41:59
Do you laugh aloud at the thought of having a few minutes to meditate during busy days with your children?  What if I told you that you could be meditating THE ENTIRE DAY, even in the midst of chaotic, everyday moments with your little minions? Dr. Leah Weiss--an author, a mindfulness expert who studied with the Dali Lama, a professor at the Stanford Graduate School of Business, and a mother of three little children--teaches that this is possible.  It just requires that we redefine (or rather, correctly define) the word "meditation." The word "meditation" is a translation from the Tibetan word "gom."  Dr. Weiss points out that a more literal definition of this word is simply "familiarization" or "getting to know your mind and heart."  When explained this way, busy moms can let go of visions of silent meditation rooms and burning incense (though those things are great too!) and instead embrace every moment with their children as an opportunity to "familiarize" themselves with their own hearts and minds.  In fact, motherhood itself can become meditation. Join me for this fascinating conversation with a renowned mindfulness expert who teaches us the Tibetan process of "dampa sum," meaning "good in the beginning, good in the middle, and good in the end." Show Notes LeahWeissPhd.com "How We Work: Live Your Purpose, Reclaim Your Sanity, and Embrace the Daily Grind" by Dr. Leah Weiss https://amzn.to/2sz6Wby "Motherhood Matters: Are You Willing to Suffer?" by Laura Fanucci: https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865638913/Motherhood-Matters-Are-you-willing-to-suffer.html
Jun 04, 2018
BONUS Episode! How to Get Your Kids to Do Quiet Time (Ep 033)
23:13
Thank you so very much for leaving Reviews on my podcast this week for my birthday!  I absolutely loved reading your words.  This extra episode is my way of saying, "THANK YOU--I LOVE YOU!" Instituting a daily Quiet Time is one of the BEST things I've done for my kids (and for me!).  But I know it's not always easy to do it, especially with strong willed kiddos.  I hope my three tips will help you to start this routine in your family! Show Notes "Okay to Wake" Clock That Turns Green: https://amzn.to/2LtZkjq Quiet Time 101 by April Perry of Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/mommys-naptime-101-2/ Quiet Time: My Very Best Parenting Secret by Jansen of Everyday Reading: https://everyday-reading.com/quiet-time-my-very-best-parenting-secret/
Jun 01, 2018
Three Tips to Make This Summer the Best Ever (Ep 032) // Jamie Cook of Wander and Scout
34:19
Ready or not, here it comes. Yes, summer is here, my friends.  Are you a mom who is giddy with excitement at the prospect of long summer days with your children?  Or, like me, are you shivering in fear a little bit, thinking about all of that unstructured time that often leads to a lot of fighting, a lot of mess, and very little alone time for Mom? Jamie Cook, a mother of four who is passionate about bringing magic and adventure to everyday moments with our kids, is on the podcast today to give us three tips to make this summer our best ever. Her ideas are realistic and adaptable to every stage of life and style of mothering.  She gives so many specific examples and stories, under each takeaway, so you are going to want a pen and paper ready! **And don't forget to give Rachel her birthday present. ;)  Leave a Review for 3 in 30 podcast this week! Show Notes Jamie's Instagram Account: https://www.instagram.com/wander_and_scout/?hl=en "How to Create a More Peaceful Home" podcast with information about family rhythms: http://3in30podcast.com/peaceful-home/ April Perry's article about "Quiet Time": https://powerofmoms.com/mommys-naptime-101-2/ Clock that turns green: https://amzn.to/2LtZkjq Lisa Anderson who does theme weeks with her kids: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/ Sign up to get a monthly printable of ALL of the takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways Taryn Palmer's POINTS System for her kids (see my Instagram for a full explanation): https://drive.google.com/file/d/1BvXj0dmlIvhJBWfPnQ59B11QXeZs2OWE/view?usp=sharing https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ftlw-ATkXNQnjaEUQza8mK2tHQnQ2FFQ/view?usp=sharing Simpler Version with PROS:  https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DoNBiQ6CP6kCiq8gQr_S2yEIhyDBJ3Zj/view?usp=sharing PDF Version: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1W4UrNTWMEJ_o0vxseQ-nEmIplAmDCncG/view?usp=sharing
May 28, 2018
3 Easy Ways to Teach Children the True Meaning of Patriotic Holidays (Ep 031) // Brittany Richman and Andrea Reeve, The American Moms
31:41
Let's play two truths and a lie about this week's podcast guests: They are twin sisters. One of them worked on Capitol Hill as the press secretary for two US Senators. One of them worked in the White House in the office of presidential speech writing. You guessed it...there's no lie.  All three of those impressive facts are TRUTH.  The moms on today's episode have very unique life experiences, and they share their knowledge about politics, government, and American history with other moms through their website TheAmericanMoms.com. On today's episode, they teach us how to make the upcoming patriotic holidays, particularly Memorial Day and the 4th of July, more meaningful than just a neighborhood pool party. Don't miss hearing their insights about making patriotism part of your family culture, and all of their specific ideas and links are below!   Show Notes The American Moms Website: theamericanmoms.com The American Moms Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamericanmoms/ App to find historical sites near you, "History Here": https://www.history.com/history-here Favorite book series to teach children about historical people: Ordinary People Change the World A Dozen Books to Get Your Kids Excited about America: http://theamericanmoms.com/12-of-the-best-books-to-teach-patriotism-to-your-children/ Patriotic resource list from the website "Raise the Good:" http://www.raisethegood.com/blog/10-patriotic-movies-for-families The books I purchased to teach my kids about patriotic holidays: The Poppy Lady by Barbara Walsh: https://amzn.to/2GBeorS America's White Table by Margot Theis Raven: https://amzn.to/2KEAETW The Wall by Eve Bunting: https://amzn.to/2Lm7rhI Don't Forget, God Bless Our Troops by Jill Biden: https://amzn.to/2LlDIFN Night Catch by Brenda Ehrmantraut: https://amzn.to/2GBgvvO Memorial Day (Rookie Read-About Holidays) by Jacqueline S. Cotton: https://amzn.to/2Li14fH I Am George Washington (Ordinary People Change the World) by Brad Meltzer: https://amzn.to/2s2FWkz (These are affiliate links, so if you purchase one of these books, it supports the podcast.  Thank you!)   Other Resources from "The American Moms": 10 Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Memorial Day: http://theamericanmoms.com/meaningful-ways-celebrate-memorial-day-kids/ Teaching My Children What the American Flag Means to Me: http://theamericanmoms.com/lessons-i-hope-my-children-remember-when-they-see-the-american-flag/ 12 Meaningful Ways to Celebrate Independence Day: http://theamericanmoms.com/meaningful-ways-to-celebrate-independence-day-with-your-kids/   Quote from the Episode: "One might also say that history is not about the past.  If you think about it, no one ever lived in the past. Washington, Jefferson, John Adams and their contemporaries, didn't walk around saying 'Isn't this fascinating living in the past? Aren't we wearing our funny clothes?' They lived in the present. The difference is, it was their present, not ours. They were caught up living in the moment exactly as we are, and with no more certainty of how things would turn out than we have." David McCullough
May 21, 2018
How to Coach your Children through their Big Emotions (Ep 030) // Georgia Anderson of KnowHowMom.com
32:26
Our little kids come with big emotions—too big, it sometimes seems, for their little bodies. And sometimes (often?) those feelings just come bursting out in bizarre and irrational behaviors. As parents, this can bring out the bizarre and irrational in us as well, despite our best intentions to stay calm and level-headed. Today on the podcast, we have a parenting expert who is going to teach us how to coach our children through their emotions, so we can keep ahold of our own. Georgia Anderson of knowhowmom.com is a wife, mother, stepmother, mother-in-law, and grandmother to 28 people she adores. She has taught parenting classes for three decades and is a Certified Active Parenting Instructor and a Gottman Trained Educator. In this episode, she walks us through three of the steps to "emotion coach" our children through their big emotions:   1) Notice emotions when they are small. 2) Put words to emotions. 3) Set limits and problem solve.   There are so many gems and insights in this episode, as she walks me through a specific scenario when my six-year-old son got extremely angry.  I think it will be helpful for you to hear me coached on how I can coach him.  I have applied these steps in the weeks since this interview was recorded, and it has honestly changed my relationship with my son.  Please listen! Notes Georgia's website: knowhowmom.com Georgia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knowhowmomtips/ Upcoming Emotion Coaching Workshop with Georgia: http://www.knowhowmom.com/class/emotion-coaching-for-parents-2/ Book Recommendation: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman
May 14, 2018
Making the Most of Everyday Moments to Connect with Our Children (Ep 029) // April Perry of Power of Moms
35:29
When her mother was dying of Alzheimers, April Perry felt an urgency to write a book about her--to capture in words the beautiful memories and lessons of her life. Each Thursday, she would spend the day with her mom and dad, and she would read them the latest chapter from her book, reliving with them how much her mother had shaped her.  April says those Thursdays were some of the most sacred days of her life. Today on the podcast, we will talk about three chapters from April's book, which capture lessons about how to connect with our kids during everyday moments. This episode will remind you that you don't need to do more as a mother--you simply need to "lean in" to those mundane, everyday moments with your children that are actually making a profound difference to them. **To enter a giveaway for a copy of April's book, simply share a memory of your mother on social media this week and tag @3in30podcast, or send it to me in an email at 3in30podcast@gmail.com. Show Notes "Your Children Want YOU!" article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/your-children-want-you/ Thursdays with Zoe (April's book): https://www.amazon.com/Thursdays-Zoe-Unforgettable-Stories-Alzheimers/dp/1537501275 "The Best Nine Minutes" article from Power of Moms: https://powerofmoms.com/the-nine-minutes-that-have-the-greatest-impact/?tag=powofmom-20 "Five Words That People In Your Life Need to Hear" by Christy Wright: https://www.businessboutique.com/2017/01/five-words-that-people-in-your-life-need-to-hear/ April's previous podcast on 3 in 30, "Getting Out of Overwhelm: A Step-by-Step Process": http://3in30podcast.com/overwhelm/
May 07, 2018
How to Raise Confident Children (Ep 028) // Marilyn Faulkner
33:17
Marilyn Faulkner raised five rockstar children, helped her husband start multiple companies, got a Masters degree when she was 45, and published three books (with her next book due for publication in July). She spreads wisdom and laughter everywhere she goes, and she shares some of both on this week's episode.  (I dare you to listen to the entire 30 minutes without laughing aloud.) She is the mother of Alison Faulkner from TheAlisonShow.com and Andrea Williams from TubbyTodd.com.  She also has three incredibly smart and successful sons who may or may not be able to keep up with their sisters in a dance contest.  I'm waiting to see that. I met Marilyn at a branding workshop last November and immediately loved her.  So when a podcast listener asked me to get a grandma on the podcast who could give us some "looking back" advice, I knew just who to ask.  I wanted someone who would give us more than the trite "enjoy every minute" advice that we so often hear, and I knew Marilyn would deliver some true wisdom. This is one of my favorite episodes to date, so listen in as she teaches us how to raise confident children by...   1) Limiting our criticisms. "You can't build a wall by taking off bricks." 2) Talking to our kids like they are already the intelligent adults we hope they will become. 3) Living full lives of our own, and modeling happiness for our children.   Show Notes -Marilyn Faulkner's books: Back to the Best Books: How the Classics Can Change Your Life The User-Friendly Book of Mormon: Timeless Truths for Today's Challenges The User-Friendly Old Testament: A Modern Approach to Ancient Scripture -Resources referenced in the episode: Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey Podcast episode about specific ways to praise your children with Tony Overbay: http://3in30podcast.com/praise/ Miss Manners' Guide to Rearing Perfect Children by Judith Martin Alison's Build an Awesome Brand Workshop: https://alisonsbrandschool.com/workshop/
Apr 30, 2018
3 Battles You Can Let Your Child Win (Ep 027) // Lisa Andersen of Thriving Motherhood
34:30
If you feel like you face battle after battle with your child, this episode is for you!  Lisa Andersen, a mother of four who is passionate about helping moms thrive, teaches us 3 power struggles we can opt out of. I'm not going to tell you ahead of time what the three battles are...so you'll have to listen! ;) Chime in and tell us your opinions and ideas in the comments on this post or on my Instagram account, @ https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/   Show Notes -Lisa Andersen's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingmotherhood/ -Thriving Motherhood Conference: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-mothers-conference-express-session-tickets-44616612489 -Ep. 017 with Jody Moore: http://3in30podcast.com/ep-017-3-keys-happier-marriage-jody-moore-bold-new-mom/ -Ep. 004 with Ralphie Jacobs: http://3in30podcast.com/yelling/ -Ellen Satyr, Expert on Positive and Joyful Eating and Feeding: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/ -Division of Responsibility with Eating: https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-division-of-responsibility-in-feeding/ -Amy McCready, Positive Parenting Solutions (When-Then tactic): https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/
Apr 23, 2018
How to Praise Your Child When It Feels Like There is Nothing to Praise (Ep 026) // Tony Overbay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
35:22
I don't know about you, but sometimes I feel truly stuck in a rut of nagging, bossing, and criticizing my children.  This is not who I want to be--but when I can't get my children to listen to me or to behave, what other option do I have?? Gratefully, Tony Overbay, a professional counselor and father of four, is on the podcast today to teach us a better way. Using the principles of a powerful parenting and child development model called The Nurtured-Heart Approach, Tony shares four ways that we can effectively praise our children in order to energize the positive in them and in our homes: Listen in as Tony teaches us how to acknowledge and praise...   1) What we see our children doing (active recognition) 2) What we see our children doing, plus what that shows about their greatness (experiential recognition) 3) What we don't see our children doing (proactive recognition) 4) What we want to see our children doing (creative recognition)   This episode has the potential to change your parenting and the environment in your home forever.  Don't miss it!   Show Notes: Tony's website: TonyOverbay.com Tony's podcast, The Virtual Couch: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/ Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured-Heart Approach by Howard Glasser Children's Success Foundation PDF of the 4 Recognition Types: http://www.naswwv.org/index.php/documents/177-c1-wendy-baracka-transforming-the-difficult-child-nha-recognition-techniques/file
Apr 16, 2018
Finding Motivation to Exercise (Ep 025) // Monica Tanner of On the Brighter Side
33:46
If you’re like me, finding time and motivation to exercise has become difficult since becoming a mom. If you’re not like me (ha!), you exercise almost daily, but it’s probably hard to find motivation to do some other things in your life. Whatever camp you're in, I think this episode will help you. Monica Tanner, a mother of four, a small business owner, and a podcaster at On the Brighter Side, shares three steps for finding motivation to exercise—and her tips can be applied in many other situations as well.   Listen in as she teaches me how to… 1) Start with a positive and believable thought about yourself. 2) Find your own compelling reason to exercise. 3) Make it enjoyable, so the habit will stick.   This is a great discussion with so many nuggets of wisdom. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Show Notes Monica's Website: http://onthebrightersideoflife.com/ Monica's Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/on-the-brighter-side/id1345544810?mt=2&ls=1 Rachel's Website: 3in30podcast.com Get a PDF of each month's takeaways: 3in30podcast.com/takeaways
Apr 09, 2018
Fighting Against Mom-Guilt (Ep 024)
29:21
A few years ago, I had a phone conversation with a friend that changed my perspective forever.  She told me why she never feels mom-guilt.  And I loved her wisdom and think of it often. Listen to this week's episode to hear her advice, as well as three strategies that I use frequently when I feel the mom-guilt sneaking in:   1) List all of the blessings that your kids have in their lives, from you and others. 2) Reject "filtered-thinking." Zoom out so you can see the big-picture of yourself and your kids' lives. 3) Examine whether your guilt is beckoning you higher, or dragging you down lower.   I love to hear from you!  Let me know what resonated from this episode or others at @3in30podcast on Instagram or 3in30podcast@gmail.com. Show Notes: -Organization I worked with in South Africa: https://helponenow.org/south-africa/ -More about the people I worked with in South Africa: http://fyionrachandry.blogspot.com/2016/11/i-want-to-introduce-you-to-people-who.html -Episode about the three best tools I learned in counseling, including how to recognize and combat "filtered-thinking": http://3in30podcast.com/ep-012-stop-mehan-3-best-tools-learned-counseling/ -Another great episode to help combat mom-guilt, "How to Be the Mom You Are, Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be": http://3in30podcast.com/ep-016-how-to-be-the-mom-you-are-instead-of-the-mom-you-think-you-should-be-julie-bastedo/ -Last week's episode "How to Stop Looking at Your Phone So Much--And Why It Matters": http://3in30podcast.com/lookup/
Apr 02, 2018
How to Stop Looking at your Phone So Much–And Why It Matters (Ep 023) // Dr. Katie Penry, Licensed Clinical Psychologist
35:41
"Parents act as mirrors for their children. Children learn who they are in the reflection of another person's watchful gaze." Dr. Katie Penry, a licensed clinical psychologist and mother of two young children, is on the podcast today teaching us the brain research behind why we need to look up from our phones and engage more with our little children. And she doesn't just tell us WHY to do this...she also tells us HOW!  Listen in as she explains each of the following takeaways:   1) Decide on some sacred spaces and places where you will not use your phone. (This matters more than arbitrary time limits for yourself.) 2) Tell your kids what you are doing when you are looking at your phone. 3) Use your phone's non-notification settings to help you be present at important times of day.   Listen to the podcast as an introduction to Dr. Penry's work, and then head to her website to sign up for her 7-day email course called the "Look Up Challenge": https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/   Fascinating Facts from the Interview: -Almost 80% of your child's brain development happens from age 0-3 years, through consistent verbal and non-verbal interaction with their parents -Look at your baby and attune to who they are and what they love--react to each other--Harvard Psychologists call this "Serve and Return" -Daniel Stern, a renowned American psychologist, found that 70%-80% of the time that your baby is alert, he/she is looking at you. -Babies are born able to see the exact distance from their biological mother's eye to nipple. (!!!)   Show Notes: -Dr. Katie Penry's 7-day FREE email course, the #LookUpChallenge": https://afriendlyaffair.lpages.co/look-up-challenge/ -Sign up to receive a monthly PDF of all the podcast takeaways: 3in30podcast.com -Dr. Katie Penry's website: https://www.afriendlyaffair.com/ -Dr. Katie Penry's Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/afriendlyaffair/ -Children's book about the life of Nelle Harper Lee, the author of To Kill a Mockingbird: https://www.amazon.com/Alabama-Spitfire-Story-Harper-Mockingbird/dp/0062456709
Mar 26, 2018
Cleaning Strategies for the Naturally Messy Mom (Ep 022) // Candi Kidd of @operation_organization
31:48
Since I was a little girl, I have left a "wake" behind me everywhere I go--cupboards left open, shoes kicked off in the middle of the hallway, and spills on the kitchen counter that should've been wiped up immediately but I didn't even notice them. Luckily, I have a very wise friend who is teaching me better habits.  Candi Kidd (who was our guest in Episode 001!) teaches moms who are naturally messy like me how to keep their lives more tidy and orderly.  And her tips can really help any mom, even if you are naturally a neat-freak (P.S. you amaze me), because we all live with children...and children bring chaos and confusion along with them everywhere they go. Join Candi and me as we dive into these three takeaways:   1) Be a detective to find and then solve the messy spots in your home. 2) Lower the "activation energy" it takes to get started with cleaning. 3) Focus on completing one J.O.B. per day.   Show Notes: Candi's new Instagram account, operation_organization: https://www.instagram.com/operation_organization/ Candi's first episode, "Getting Unmotivated Kids to Help": http://3in30podcast.com/unmotivated-kids-to-help/ The House that Cleans Itself by Mindy Starns Clark: https://www.amazon.com/House-That-Cleans-Itself-Solutions/dp/0736918809 Jordan Page who came up with the acronym J.O.B. (just one bite): FunCheaporFree.com Shel Silverstein poem about Melinda Mae who ate the whale: http://shelsilverstein.yolasite.com/melinda-mae.php
Mar 19, 2018
3 Easy but Impactful Ways to Deepen Relationships with Others (Ep 021)
29:45
In this episode, you will hear Rachel sing Destiny's Child; model how to ask someone how they are doing without pity in your voice; praise the hero who cleaned her bathroom when she had kidney stones... AND SO MUCH MORE. You don't want to miss this episode, which is an continuation of last week's podcast on "How to Be a Good Friend, Instead of Being Friendly." If you love people, and you want to love people better, listen in as Rachel dives deep into the importance of:   1) Using people's names. 2) Following up with friends who you know are going through hard times. 3) Letting people serve you.   Show Notes: Sign up for the monthly printables: 3in30podcast.com Order a little "follow up" gift: TheBrightBoxes.com   Previous Episodes Referred to In This Episode: How to Be a Friend, Instead of Just Being Friendly: http://3in30podcast.com/friendship/ How to Support Someone Who is Grieving: http://3in30podcast.com/grief/ Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times: http://3in30podcast.com/hope/
Mar 11, 2018
How to Be a Friend Instead of Just Being Friendly (Ep 020) // Brooke Romney
34:36
As mothers, this can be a hard stage of life to find and maintain meaningful friendships. Many of us feel busy and overwhelmed--barely managing the needs of our own families. Opportunities to connect with other women might feel scarce, depending on the ages and needs of our children. Sometimes it's just easier to give a friendly wave or a quick hello in the hallway at church than to invest in a real friendship with someone. In this week's episode, Brooke Romney, a mother of four and a professional writer, shares totally doable ways that we can be good friends to other women, even if we are busy, shy, or maxed out on life. Brooke discusses each of the following takeaways, offering concrete ideas within each:   1) Take advantage of small opportunities to build connection by simply being present wherever we are.  2) Follow the advice that we give our children about being a good friend. 3) Don't wait for life conditions to be perfect before extending friendship to others.   Don't miss this conversation where we learn how to go beyond just being friendly, to start being real friends.   Show Notes -Brooke's website: http://brookeromney.com/ -Brooke's article in the Deseret News: "It's Time to Stop Being Friendly and Start Being a Friend" -Rachel's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/ -Brooke's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brookeromneywrites/
Mar 05, 2018
Helping our Kids Rewire Difficult Behaviors (Ep 019) // Chrissy Austin, Speech Language Pathologist
35:06
All of our kids get stuck in behaviors that are difficult for us and others to deal with--perhaps it's whining, interrupting, fighting with siblings, or defiance. According to Chrissy Austin, a speech language pathologist with 17 years of experience teaching children social skills and communication, these neurological "loops" can be rewired.  She does it every day in her private practice, and, in this week's episode, she teaches us how to do it!  We can follow this simple three-step process with our kids, in our homes:   1) Identify the specific troublesome behavior, and then ask yourself, "What SKILL does my child need to learn in order to change this behavior?" 2) Sit down with the child and make a GOAL to learn the new skill.  Have him or her make it visual by writing it down and/or drawing a picture.  Consider adding a hand cue. 3) Offer positive reinforcement through verbal praise whenever the child is working on their goal, and consider adding additional reinforcement through earning privileges, if needed.   Chrissy offers so many fantastic tips and interesting bits of research throughout the interview.  You won't want to miss it, especially if you sometimes struggle with knowing how to help your children change. Show Notes -Michelle Garcia Winter: https://www.socialthinking.com/ -"Kids Beyond Limits" by Anat Baniel -"Finally Focused" by James Greenblatt
Feb 26, 2018
Speak Your Partner’s Love Language (Ep 018) // Celeste Davis of Marriage Laboratory
33:23
"I got this crazy idea in my head 3.5 years ago to start a marriage blog, but I had so many doubts, like 'Why would I do that?  I'm not that great of a wife...' But the idea just coming back and back... And eventually I kind of thought, 'I can just try things and tell people how it went. I can experiment. I can conduct marriage experiments." This is the premise behind "Marriage Laboratory," a marriage blog run by Celeste Davis and her husband Rich (who happens to be a real-life scientist studying immunology).  This past year, she conducted experiments on the five love languages by simply focusing on one per month. Today on the podcast, Celeste will share some of her experiments and outcomes in the following areas:   1) Words of Affirmation: Send your husband a loving note, text, or email every day for a month 2) Quality Time: Dedicate ten minutes every single night to just sitting and talking with your spouse, with no phones anywhere in sight! 3) Physical Touch: Have sex every other day for a month (don't worry--she doesn't get too steamy on this one, but her story is pretty fascinating)   Don't miss this conversation with a wife and mother who is dedicating her life to loving her family better, in simple but profound ways.   Show Notes -Celeste's marriage blog, Marriage Laboratory: http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/ -The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman: 1) Words of Affirmation -"42 Love Letter Prompts": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/42-love-letter-prompts/ -"40 Loving Texts to Send RIGHT NOW to Make Your Partner's Day": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/40-loving-texts/ 2) Quality Time -"10-Minute Daily Connect Challenge": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/10-minute-daily-connect-busy-couples/ -"The Ultimate Guide to Speaking the Love Language of Quality Time": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/quality-time-love-language-guide/ -Article Rachel read about "bids for attention": https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/ 3) Physical Touch -"6 Resources for Spicing Up Your Marriage in the Bedroom": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/spice-up-your-marriage/ -"What Would Happen If You Had Sex Every Other Day for a Month?": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/sex-every-other-day/ 4) Gifts -"46 Just Because Gift Ideas to Make Your Spouse's Day": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/just-because-gift-ideas/ -"DIY Anniversary Gifts (that we've actually made)": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/diy-anniversary-gifts/ 5) Acts of Service -"The Best Way to Get Your Marriage Out of a Rut": http://www.marriagelaboratory.com/blog/marriage-out-of-a-rut/
Feb 19, 2018
Three Keys to a Happier Marriage (Ep 017) // Jody Moore of Bold New Mom
34:48
"Love is always going to serve you best. You are your best, most creative, most confident, most genius self when you’re operating in love.” Jody Moore is a life coach and podcaster whose business has exploded in the past couple of years due to the wise principles that she teaches about how we can adjust our own thoughts in order to achieve more happiness in our relationships with others. Jody teaches that happiness is a skill—something that we need to learn how to do and then work on it and practice over and over. On today's podcast, she talks about three of her hallmark principles:   1) Your relationship is the story you tell yourself.  Make it a good one. 2) You are 100% responsible for your own emotions--and no one else's. 3) Every person on earth is worthy of love, just as they are.   Please listen in as we discuss these principles in the context of marriage, and don't forget to claim your free printable of Jody's "Three Keys to a Happier Marriage" by visiting 3in30podcast.com.  (Thanks to Natalie Hansen from the podcast Babes Unpaused for designing it!) Link to the PDF Version (for download and printing or saving): https://drive.google.com/file/d/1mJnv9KsKx32KV8xpGNBlAztSm2PjgeWz/view?usp=sharing Show Notes -Rachel's "3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms" Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/3in30podcast/ -Jody Moore's Website: boldnewmom.com -"Ask Jody Anything" Free Coaching Call: https://boldnewmom.lpages.co/public-call-invite/ -Instagrammer I follow who sees motherhood through a beautiful lens: https://www.instagram.com/kellyejensen/ -Natalie Hansen's Podcast: Babes Unpaused: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/babes-unpaused-podcast/id1334298125?mt=2
Feb 12, 2018
How to Be the Mom You Are–Instead of the Mom You Think You Should Be (Ep 016) // Julie Bastedo
31:37
"Fill your life with things that make you feel whole, instead of holey." In this week's episode, Julie Bastedo (who has taught high school English for 18 years and has two children of her own) walks mothers through some strategies to help us embrace who we truly are, instead of always pining after whom we think we "should" be. With humor and wisdom (and while quoting classic literature and poety, of course), Julie dives into each of the following takeaways:   1) Sit down and make a list of the unique gifts that YOU bring to your children. 2) Only follow social media accounts that enhance what you are already good at. (Julie calls this "ancillary material." And don't worry, she defines that.) 3) Recognize that you will be a source of joy and a source of disappointment for others throughout your life...and that's okay.   Don't miss this lively and uplifting discussion between two old friends who want to empower and encourage each other--and all the women who are listening. Show Notes -Rachel's podcast with Power of Moms about her trip to South Africa: https://powerofmoms.com/ordinary-moms-can-make-extraordinary-difference-crystal-paine-rachel-nielson-episode-186/ -"When I Heard the Learn'd Astronomer" by Walt Whitman -"One's-Self I Sing by Walt Whitman: "Of Life immense in passion, pulse, and power/ Cheerful, for freest action form’d under the laws divine..." -The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu -Quote by Mother Teresa:   "People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway. If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway. What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway. Give the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway. In the final analysis, it's between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway."   -Jody Moore, Bold New Mom: "Other people's opinion of me is none of my business."
Feb 05, 2018
Three Valentines Traditions for the Whole Family (Ep 015) // Sarah McKenna of Bombshell Bling
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The first Valentines Day that my husband and I were dating, he showed up on my doorstep with flowers and a clue that started me on a scavenger hunt to romantic places all around our college town. Seven years later, on our first Valentines Day as parents, he showed up on our doorstep with...a toilet plunger.  (You'll have to listen to the episode to get the full story!) Yes, becoming parents can definitely affect the romance of Valentines Day a bit--but there's no reason why this "holiday of love" has to be limited to just you and your spouse.  February 14th can be a day to celebrate family love as well! In this episode, my amazing sister Sarah McKenna, from the craft blog Bombshell Bling, shares three totally doable and super fun Valentines traditions for the entire family. 1) Secret Cupids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/secret-cupids-valentines-day-family-tradition/ 2) Heart Attacks: https://www.bombshellbling.com/heart-attack/ 3) Love Letters to your Kids: https://www.bombshellbling.com/mushy-love-letters-a-february-tradition/   All three of these traditions can be adapted for little kids up to teenagers, and all of them will bring your family closer together.  I hope you will give at least one of them a try, and let me know at my instagram account: @3in30podcast. Show Notes -Sarah's craft blog: BombshellBling.com -"32 Ways to Surprise Your Sweetie" by Rachel Nielson: https://www.bombshellbling.com/things-for-hubby-valentines-day/
Jan 29, 2018
Getting Out of Overwhelm (Ep 014) // April Perry of Power of Moms
30:59
If you often go to bed feeling like you will never get caught up on all of your responsibilities, wondering how you could've worked so hard all day and still have a massive to-do list, this episode is for you. April Perry, the co-founder of the websites Power of Moms and Learn Do Become, shares a step-by-step process for getting out of overwhelm.  April has spent thousands of hours developing time management systems that help important people--from business leaders to mothers--organize their *minds* so they can focus on their true priorities, get more done, and be more present with their families during downtime. In this episode, April explains this process in detail:   1) Make an ACCURATE list of all of the projects you have brewing in your mind.  (Include for your family, for you, and beyond.) 2) Narrow that list to no more than 7-8 projects to tackle this month.  Put that shorter list in a visible place to reference often. 3) Using that list, identify tiny "next actions" that will move each project forward.   Show Notes -PowerofMoms.com -LearnDoBecome.com -Getting Things Done by David Allen -Essentialism by Greg McKeown. For more about April's organization systems, please visit learndobecome.com/STEP.
Jan 22, 2018
How to Support those who are Grieving (Ep 013) // Rachel Gainer of Rachel Rebuilt
36:47
Many of us know friends and family members who have lost precious loved ones.  During those heartbreaking times, it's so hard to know what to say and do to show our love and support. On today's podcast, we hear from a mother who has been there and has so much wisdom to share.  Several years ago, Rachel Gainer lost her two-month-old daughter, Daphne, and was engulfed in sorrow.  She talks about her journey to "rebuilding" her sense of self after Daphne's death, and she shares invaluable insight into what it's like to grieve and what we can do to serve those around us who are hurting. Listen in as she teaches us how to...   1) Reach out to the grieving family, no matter how long it has been. 2) Offer a specific service or gift based on your talents and interests. 3) Speak with sensitivity.   This is an episode that everyone should listen to--because, at some point, we will all inevitably need to support someone whom we love who is grieving.  You won't want to miss Rachel's ideas for specific, heartfelt gifts we can send and meaningful words we can say.  You'll also want to hear all about her angel baby, Daphne. Show Notes Rachel Gainer's website: RachelRebuilt.com Rachel Gainer's Instagram: @rachel_rebuilt Ink Puddles by Karin (custom artwork for families):  https://www.etsy.com/shop/InkPuddlesbyKarin?ref=l2-shopheader-name **This portrait was done for a family who lost their baby:
Jan 15, 2018
How to Stop Being Mean to Yourself: 3 of the Best Tools I Learned in Counseling (Ep 012)
33:51
Five years ago, I realized that I needed to go to counseling.  I had been coping with stress and heartache through both undereating and overeating for almost ten years, and my negative thoughts about myself had become debilitating and all-consuming. I sought treatment from an outpatient eating disorder clinic, and I fully expected my counselor to teach me how to control my eating; instead, my counselor went to the root of the problem and taught me how to control my thinking. I learned that destructive behaviors (such as eating disorders) are part of a three-part cycle: we have a negative thought about ourselves, we then feel a negative emotion about ourselves, and we then cope with that feeling through a destructive behavior.  In order to stop this cycle, we must have strategies to stop the negative self-talk that starts it all in the first place! Whether or not you've ever struggled with an eating disorder, I think this episode will benefit you.  I share three of the best tools that I learned in counseling:   1) Reject "filtered thinking" and embrace "big-picture thinking." 2) Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend, sister, or daughter. 3) Use "coping statements" to help  you re-center and stay calm in moments when you might spiral into despair.   I truly believe that almost no topic is more important for women and mothers--so I hope you will listen, and let me know what you think in the comments. Additional Resources Unhealthy Stress or Habits? Break the Cycle (podcast with Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/unhealthy-stress/ Listening to and Loving your Body through Intuitive Eating (podcast with Power of Moms): https://powerofmoms.com/intuitive-eating/ "It Is What It Is" (article with a list of coping strategies): https://powerofmoms.com/it-is-what-it-is/ "The Surprising Way I Confronted my Eating Disorder" (full narrative therapy): https://powerofmoms.com/eating-disorder/
Jan 09, 2018
Setting Goals without Sacrificing Sanity (Ep 011) // Monica Packer of About Progress
35:20
"Perfectionism, we wrongly assign only to overachievers. I think most perfectionists are actually underachievers." When I first heard Monica Packer of the podcast About Progress explain this phenomenon--that a perfectionist can actually become an underachiever--I was stunned.  I recognized that she was describing me.  I had gone from a hardcore overachiever (who had developed eating disorders as a result) to an apathetic underachiever who avoided making any sort of goals in my life. In this week's episode, Monica describes her own similar journey and how she has now found a middle ground: striving for "progress, not perfection."  She gives us three takeaways to consider as we head into the New Year about how to set goals that will push us to improve while also helping us maintain our mental health.   1) Don't think too much. 2) Make room for failure. 3) Make your goals visible.   Listen in as she and I dive into these principles and offer specific examples from our own lives as "recovering perfectionists." Show Notes Monica's website and podcast: About Progress.com Her Intro episode that resonated so deeply with me: http://www.aboutprogress.com/2016/11/most-likely-to-be-talk-show-host.html To get the PDF printable of each month's take-aways, visit my website and sign up: 3in30podcast.com.
Jan 01, 2018
Simple Holiday Traditions to Connect Generations (Ep 010)
34:48
"How are you today, Grampy?" "Oh the same: old and ugly, but contented." This is the opening line of this week's interview with my 88-year-old grandpa. You are going to love his personality and spunk, as he shares memories from his childhood Christmases. My Granny also hops on to talk about what she remembers. My heart just melts at the sound of their voices, and I am so grateful for all of the Christmas Eves that I spent in their home when I was a child. (And we are headed there next week! I can't wait!) Listen as I reflect on how to create cherished traditions that your children and maybe even grandchildren will remember, by creating "anchors" every year: -A special food -A meaningful gift -A memorable activity Stay tuned until the end of the episode to hear about my Christmas gift to you! I think it will be useful to anyone who is a consistent listener to the 3 in 30 podcast. Merry Christmas to all of you. I truly love and appreciate you!
Dec 18, 2017
Protecting our Kids from a Holiday “Soul Fever” (Ep 009) // Carrie Thomas Scott, MA LCPC
24:59
Though you may never have defined it as "soul fever" before, all parents have witnessed this malady taking over their children from time to time...when kids have had too much excitement, too little sleep, too much sugar, and too little downtime--and their behavior shows it! On today's episode, Carrie Thomas Scott--a licensed professional counselor and a mother herself--uses the four pillars of Simplicity Parenting to teach us how to protect our kids from catching a "soul fever" this holiday season. Listen in for concrete strategies on how to help your children stay balanced and soul-healthy during this exciting month by using these four pillars: 1. Environment 2. Schedule 3. Rhythms 4. Filtering Out the Adult World
Dec 11, 2017
Controlling Kids’ Clutter (Ep 008) // Tana Parke
29:34
It's the witching hour--when you are trying to get dinner made--and your four-year-old son is whining that there's nothing to do. You walk with him to the playroom, only to find that he has dumped out every bin of toys, yet can't seem to find anything suitable to hold his attention. Unable to face the mess of Legos, cars, Magformers, and stuffed animals that are now strewn everywhere, you simply close the door to the playroom and pretend it doesn't exist. You turn on the TV to keep your little man occupied, and you wonder, "What new toy should we get him for Christmas that he will actually play with?" If this scene sounds familiar, this episode is for you. I invited Tana Parke, a mother of five children and a semi-professional organizer, to share three strategies for keeping our kids' clutter at bay. Our discussion includes exciting topics, like: -Why you should hide some toys from your children for a while -Who might be happy to receive some of the little trinkets that your kids have collected (it's not who you think!) -How to teach your kids to think critically about whether or not they actually want a new toy or trinket -Why "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up" doesn't work for children (and how you can modify it!) -How to allow your children to have some "treasures" while also keeping them from being hoarders ...and much more!
Dec 04, 2017
How to Create a More Peaceful Home (Ep 007) // Cate Johnson
33:16
"At any given point, you can say, 'This is not how the story is going to end.'" Cate Johnson was a mother of two young children with a big, beautiful home in the country. From the outside, it looked like she was "living the dream," but inside, she felt like she was drowning. She craved peace and connection with her children--but instead she felt only chaos and overwhelm. She spent hours cleaning her big home while her kids watched television. She felt heartbroken that she was not the mother that she had always wanted to be. In this powerful episode, Cate shares three small but significant changes that transformed their home environment: 1) Using the five senses to create a haven of peace. 2) Designating a "kid of the day" to eliminate fighting. 3) Structuring their family time around rhythms to create stability. Cate is now a fulfilled, empowered mother, and she has a message of hope for all of us: We can have more peaceful homes, no matter where we live. (Click on Episode Webpage for links to the resources mentioned in the podcast.)
Nov 27, 2017
Three Messages of Hope for the Darkest Times (Ep 006)
23:26
This week, my family has been through the death of a loved one who is incredibly special to us: my son's birthmother, Katie. I couldn't go on with business as usual on the podcast, so I took a break from our usual show format to record some thoughts on how we can find hope, even in the darkest of trials. Listen in as I share three scriptural phrases that gave me strength during my long battle with infertility and the ups and downs of the adoption process. Whether or not you're religious, whether or not you've ever adopted, I think these messages of hope will uplift you. They are universal. 1. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. 2. He gives unto them beauty for ashes 3. When He has tried me, I shall come forth as gold. Hold your families close this week. Much love.
Nov 20, 2017
The Very Best Way You Can Support your Child in School (Ep 005) // Amanda Hamilton Roos of Building the Bridge
31:36
Is your child's life at school a bit of a mystery to you? Whenever you ask what he/she did today, do you hear the lackluster response, "Oh, nothing." Amanda Roos taught high school English for nearly a decade before deciding to stay home with her three children. She has continued to be very involved in education by writing curriculum and developing a website called BuildingtheBridge.org. Her mission is to help families bridge the divide between home and school and build strong, effective partnerships. In today's podcast, she shares three easy steps for forming a "working relationship" with your child's teacher. Within the discussion, you will learn... -Why talking to your child's teacher about something other than school is so important -How to start these conversations without sounding like an awkward teenager on a blind date -How often you should "follow up" with teachers and in what ways -Why a little praise and gratitude goes a long way -What you should be asking to see within the classroom (Click episode webpage for full shownotes.)
Nov 13, 2017
How to Stop Yelling at your Kids (Ep 004) // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose
“The prerequisite to all other parenting principles is to be in control of yourself as the parent. And this is the major struggle for parents. They feel like they are standing on the sidelines helpless, and their children are running rompus around them and all over them...But this can easily be changed. We should not feel like victims in our own households.  We can find joy and delight in working in our own homes." Ralphie Jacobs is a mother to four girls, ages 3-14, and the founder of the popular Instagram account @simplyonpurpose.  Her account has experienced incredible growth from when it started just a year ago because so many mothers are thirsting for her wise, compassionate, and positive parenting advice. It was an honor to have her on the show, and in this episode she will teach us how to stop yelling at our kids by being in control of ourselves.  But how do we do that, especially in the moment when anger is building?  Ralphie explains how we must: Listen to the right story Use time to our advantage Model being happy Listen in as Ralphie and I dive into these principles a little more deeply and give practical advice of how to apply them in your home. As always, I would love to hear from you!  Let me know in the comments which strategies stay with you the most and what works with your children.
Nov 06, 2017
Introducing Our Kids to Unexpected Heroes (Ep 003) // Jennifer Brimhall of Raise the Good
39:24
"Children are great imitators--give them something great to imitate." Joy D. Jones Jennifer Brimhall, a mother of five and the founder of the website Raise the Good, believes that we can surround our children with good role models whom they will want to emulate.  These aren't superheroes with capes or celebrities with millions of dollars;   these are unexpected heroes, and we will find them all around us. In this episode, Jen goes into specifics about how we can introduce our children to... 1. Heroes in books and media 2. Role models in the world around them 3. Mentors in education. Listen in to glean incredible wisdom from an incredible mother! Episode Notes An outline and list of resources mentioned in the podcast is included below: 1. Heroes in books and media Books: Value Tales, Little House on the Prairie, Chronicles of Narnia TV Shows: Wild Kratts, Planet Earth documentaries, Mr. Rodgers on Youtube (ha!) Movies: Third Man on the Mountain Sign-up for Jen's Family Movie Night Suggestion List!! 2. Role Models in the world around them Check out the Hero Spotlights on Jen's website! Kayley Willis, a woman who feeds 130 children on the weekends Glenn Allgood, the bus driver who impacted Jen's life Keep watch for news articles about "heroes" and share them with your kids Point out everyday heroes around town, at the grocery store, and in daily interactions Ask your children to list three things they are grateful for and who is responsible for that blessing "Coming of Age Celebrations" with treasured family and friends Article outlining the tradition Jen's eBook about how to plan your own!! 3. Mentors in education Look into conferences, clubs, and personal mentorships (it never hurts to ask!) for your children to learn about their passions from experts in the field Rely on websites to teach your children Art For Kids Hub (elementary school) TheKidShouldSeeThis.com (middle school) Cash Flow and Constitution Quest (high school)
Oct 30, 2017
Easy Ways to Capture Memories of Motherhood (Ep 002) // Laura Webb
28:28
This week my little sister Laura Webb, a mother of two young children and a Chemistry and Math teacher--"not a writer!" she is quick to point out--will share her ideas for easy ways that we can fit record-keeping into our busy lives as moms. Listen in as Laura details ideas for how to... 1) Use technology to help us capture memories 2) Find routine times or triggers to remind us to journal 3) Remember that something is better than nothing when it comes to documenting our lives Click episode webpage for full show notes.
Oct 23, 2017
Getting Unmotivated Kids to Help (Ep 001) // Candi Kidd
22:28
This week on the 3 in 30 podcast, Candi Kidd, a mother of three young children who reads books and takes courses on home management and family systems, shares three practical strategies that we can use to motivate our kids to help around the house. Listen in to discover... 1) How single-tasking outloud can help our kids (and us!) breakdown overwhelming tasks 2) How a celebration blitz can ramp up the positive energy and motivation in our homes 3) How to use the tiny habits to make family contributions just a part of the routine You won't want to miss hearing Candi explain each of these three tools, and when you try them in your home, please let us know via social media or a comment on this post! We'd love to hear if it's working for you. (Click episode webpage for full show notes.)
Oct 13, 2017
Learning How to Love: The “Why” Behind 3 in 30 Podcast (Ep 000)
8:57
In the middle of a rainy summer night, just over six years ago, I became a mother. My experience was a little different than most mothers—I wasn’t the one in the hospital bed that night. I was standing beside my son’s brave birthmother as Noah came into the world. After years of failed infertility treatments and adoption possibilities that didn’t go through, I was finally a mother. I often tell our son, who we named Noah Atticus, that he was our first miracle.Rachel Nielson, Host of 3in30 Podcast for Moms Three years later, this time on a hot summer morning, we were blessed a second time. After going through Invitro Fertilization and an incredibly difficult pregnancy, my second little miracle was placed in my arms. Sally Grace was bruised and battered from a posterior delivery, but she was here and she was ours. And the focus of life just zooms in for a moment—for a day or two—and everything feels clear. There’s peace and perspective and happiness when a new baby joins your family. But then the focus zooms back out, because it has to—because there are meals to make and families to support, and very complicated, very real adult challenges that come to us in life— And even though you know that those babies in your arms are what you most treasure and what you want more than anything, there are moments when you wonder if you can really do this. There are times when you hardly recognize yourself in the midst of your discouragement or your yelling at your kids, and you mourn a little bit for the happy mother that you wanted to be—that still you want to be. Motherhood is beautiful, magical, and good—but it is also very hard at times. We all have our own unique situations and struggles and heartaches. The hard stuff will never go away completely, but what if we could minimize it? Manage it a little better? And what if there were simple things we could do as mothers to maximize the joy? That is the premise and the goal of this podcast: to give moms like you and me practical, doable takeaways to try with our families each week—strategies that will help us create more meaning in motherhood. Please listen to the entire introductory episode to learn more about being a part of the 3 in 30 Podcast community of moms!
Oct 12, 2017