Zen Parenting Radio

By Todd and Cathy Adams

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Self-awareness and mindfulness with pop culture and humor to expand compassion for ourselves, each other, and the world.

Episode Date
Real-Time Emotional Labor- Podcast #440
1:01:26
Todd and Cathy discuss a recent emotional labor issue and why it created an important discussion about invisible work. They also discuss the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, and discuss why allowing our darkness and discussing mental wellness is essential. They offer a recipe for fulfillment and share why we need to call women’s sports just “sports”.
Jun 12, 2018
Negative Sticks, But Does It Have To? – Podcast #439
43:43
Cathy and Todd discuss Abby Wambach’s graduation speech at Barnard and why it made such an impact. They share wisdom from Franciscan friar Richard Rohr about why it’s so easy to remember the negative, but so difficult to absorb the positive.
Jun 05, 2018
Why Are Women So Tired? A Talk with Karen Brody, Author of Daring To Rest- Podcast #438
52:02
Cathy and Todd talk with Karen Brody, author of Daring to Rest: Reclaim Your Power with Yoga Nidra Rest Meditation. They discuss why women feel so much pressure to be productive, and why we need to redefine what rest really means. They discuss the power of yoga nidra, why it makes such a difference physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and why intention is an essential part of the process. Karen is also the creator/writer of Birth, a play about how low-risk, educated women are giving birth today. Since 2006 the play been performed around the world as part of BOLD, an arts-based global movement inspiring communities to create childbirth choices that work for mothers.
Jun 01, 2018
Reparent Yourself- Podcast #437
1:08:26
Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Robin Berman’s book, Permission to Parent, and also her interview on the goop podcast. They discuss how our brain grows on love, why group-think starts in childhood, and why continuing to seek the approval of your parents can be detrimental to your present-day relationships.
May 29, 2018
True Crime And Pop Culture- An Interview With International Best Selling Author Charlie Donlea- Podcast #436
59:29
Cathy and Todd talk with International Best-Selling Author Charlie Donlea.  They talk about each of his three books including his latest and greatest "Don't Believe It"  They also talk pop culture, Serial, The Making Of A Murderer, baseball, and Dungeons & Dragons.  Won't want to miss this one!!!!
May 25, 2018
Intersectionality- Podcast #435
57:23
Cathy and Todd discuss intersectionality, a way of describing how multiple threats of discrimination exist when an individual’s identities overlap with several minority classes — such as race, gender, age, ethnicity, health and other characteristics. They discuss why we need to recognize our differences and listen to each other so we can begin to view experiences through a broader and more inclusive lense. They share how this can affect parenting and how it can shape our world view and make it easier for us to take care of each other. They share clips from Franchesca Ramsey and Laci Green, and recommend Kimberlè Crenshaw’s TED Talk titled, The Urgency of Intersectionality.
May 22, 2018
Moms Demand Action (Part 1): A Path To Common Sense Podcast #433
44:00
In part 1 of this 2 part interview- Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, and Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in Elmhurst. They discuss how Moms Demand Action started, how members are making a difference at the state and federal level, and why it’s a bipartisan group (that supports the 2nd amendment) that is not just for moms. They discuss legislation, other groups and individuals that are making a difference, and how we can all get involved to decrease the epidemic of gun violence that is now a public health issue.
May 18, 2018
Moms Demand Action (Part 2): A Path To Common Sense Podcast #434
42:58
In this two-part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, & Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in Elmhurst. They discuss how Moms Demand Action started, how members are making a difference at the state and federal level, and why it’s a bipartisan group (that supports the 2nd amendment) that is not just for moms. They discuss legislation, other groups and individuals that are making a difference, and how we can all get involved to decrease the epidemic of gun violence that is now a public health issue. Link to Part 1:  https://zenparentingradio.com/podcasts/433/ Resources/Videos used on today's show https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf68LZ-yagM&t=3s JOIN US TEAM ZEN- VIRTUAL COMMUNITY WITH TODD+CATHY  Upcoming Events 2019 Zen Parenting Conference CLICK HERE for a list of all upcoming events
May 18, 2018
How To Raise An Adult (Part 2)- Podcast #432
56:46
Todd and Cathy continue discussing Julie Lythcott-Haims’ book, How to Raise an Adult, specifically focusing on what our kids should know before they venture out on their own. They share a clip from Luvvie Ajayi’s TED Talk about the importance of speaking up, even when it’s uncomfortable, and why “keeping the peace” can keep us stuck in time. Todd shares a clip from a highly emotionally-intelligent father who understands how to reach his daughter, even while she’s under duress.
May 15, 2018
How To Raise An Adult (Part 1)- Podcast #431
56:59
Todd and Cathy discuss a practical checklist of what kids need before they go to college written by Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult. The checklist offers intention and clarity, and recognizes that skills develop over time in a child-developmentally appropriate way. They also discuss why Todd wanted to play Cashflow for his birthday, and why financial awareness is necessary education for our kids.
May 08, 2018
I Feel Pretty- Podcast #430
59:38
Cathy and Todd discuss the Super Soul Podcast conversation between Amy Schumer and Oprah about her new movie, I Feel Pretty. They talk about trusting your intention, why emotional labor is vital to the health of the family, and why accepting yourself leads to real confidence and a deeper connection with others.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/hI-O20u2wR0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 01, 2018
The Profound Loneliness of American Men- Podcast #429
1:17:29
Todd and Cathy discuss the emotional challenges of American men and why this impacts every part of our society. Their guests, Frank Naugo and Shaun Emerson, discuss why men struggle with intimacy, vulnerability, and friendship, and why anger or numbness can become a default setting. They share clips from the Hidden Brain podcast titled How American Masculinity Creates Lonely Men, and discuss how we can redefine what it means to be a man.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/7niTdRw6uxw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 24, 2018
How To Value Each Other- Podcast #428
1:09:52
Todd and Cathy discuss “moral outrage” and how to use it to create positive change. They explain how society tends to value a clean and concise way of thinking, but how thinking out of the box or seeing the bigger picture can lead to greater compassion and connection. They discuss how to support a child who doesn’t want to share, why spaghetti thinking is as important as waffle thinking, and why archetypes can help us understand ourselves better.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/fIYx19q2Kk4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 17, 2018
“Better” Zen Parenting #427
1:04:24
Todd and Cathy welcome their friends John and Julie Duffy, hosts of the Better Podcast (formerly titled Undue Anxiety). They talk about Tony Robbins, the #MeToo movement, and why listening and respecting others is essential for real change. They discuss couplehood, family dynamics, and how we can live in joy but always leave room for the dark.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/mD3jO-fpIQo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 10, 2018
Less Show, More Soul #426
1:01:42
Cathy and Todd discuss how to recognize when we are showing up authentically rather than performing. They also discuss how to deal with a child who seems consistently disappointed, and why taking responsibility for our own behavior is key. Todd shares a clip about investing from Freakonomics, Cathy discusses the joy of Funko characters, and they offer some wisdom from Tommy Boy.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/8XMOeSGFAXA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 03, 2018
The 4 Types of Fear Podcast #425
1:01:53
Todd & Cathy Discuss the 4 different types of fears as described by Iyanla Vanzandt, Dierk's Bentley, Bruce Willis' wine cooler commercial, Eddie Murphy's single "Party All The Time", and how we've all already done the hardest thing we will ever do.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Z4ywPyrapGI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 27, 2018
Focus Your Energy- Podcast# 424
1:04:04
Todd shares a story of a softball coach who proclaims "boys are stronger than girls" and what happened after that statement was made. They also discuss why focusing on too many things makes us feel overwhelmed and paralyzed, and why choosing one thing helps us take action and create real change (they share examples from MOMS Demand Action and from A Wrinkle in Time). They share how they created their women’s circle/men’s group, why we should speak up for others, and they play a new song by Lin-Manuel Miranda and Ben Platt called Found/Tonight (some proceeds go toward the March For Our Lives).<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/kCMV1-2xcrU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 20, 2018
How Do I Get My Partner To….- Podcast# 423
1:12:34
Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” - they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wanting to change others feels easier than changing ourselves, why true wisdom comes from quiet, and the life-changing advice Oprah has for all people.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/2sS1LfsQehs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 13, 2018
3 Forces For Good- Podcast# 422
57:35
Todd and Cathy discuss Cheryl Strayed, MILCK, Mike Domitrz and all the goodness from the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss the most frequently asked question ZPR question, the Oscars, and how we can all become forces for good.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/8sOyggDNyow" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 06, 2018
Manifesto To End Busyness- Podcast #421
1:01:30
Todd and Cathy discuss The Gentle Warrior’s Manifesto to Reduce Busyness from Courtney Carver’s book, Soulful Simplicity, and they discuss a Freakonomic’s podcast titled After the Glass Ceiling, A Glass Cliff, about why only 5% of Fortune 500 companies are run by women. They share why men and women eat Doritos differently, why we need to linger longer, and why Cathy loves Lionel Richie.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/MqeZPOYyJG4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 27, 2018
Teenage Wisdom Podcast #420
59:58
Todd and Cathy discuss the Parkland tragedy, and talk about why it’s time to take action to keep our kids safe at school. They explain how we can take on all pieces of the puzzle – common sense laws, mental wellness, and community/parent/school support – rather than fight about which one matters the most. They also discuss Dr. Dan Siegel’s book Brainstorm, and process how the teenage brain works and why it’s necessary for teenagers to take risks.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/3ET2IvGDA2g" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 20, 2018
Humility & Procrastination Podcast #419
1:11:58
Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, why procrastination may not be such a bad thing, and why Slow TV on Netflix is so soothing.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/wEWExwjV6vw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 13, 2018
Fault & Responsibility- Podcast #418
55:14
Todd and Cathy share some of the touching and funny Superbowl commercials, and they discuss a video of Will Smith explaining why fault and responsibility are two different things. Cathy shares some of her favorite self-compassion quotes, and they discuss why some quotes wake us up or resonate so strongly. Todd discusses his gullibility, he defends Taylor Swift, and he shares an aha from our Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker Mike Domitrz.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/lXa-vocl3O4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 06, 2018
Finding Strength- Podcast #417
1:03:30
Cathy and Todd discuss the road to wellness and why shame, judgment, anxiety, and hope all play a role. They also discuss why asking for help is so essential, and why asking for help is an act of bravery and strength. They discuss what it means to be a strength-based parent and play a clip from Lea Waters, author of The Strength Switch. Todd plays a clip from the TED Talk podcast about how people with less money actually give more to those in need, and how exposure and empathy are the keys to greater giving.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/fObWWemyUHA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 30, 2018
Honesty & Healing- Podcast #416
1:01:27
Cathy and Todd discuss the challenges of healing and why honesty and support are essential. They talk about how each of us are challenged to do hard things, and how not doing our own work leads to projection. They discuss how to talk to your kids about difficult topics like sex, and how living a “healthy life” means something different to everyone depending on their circumstances.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/gbCEE_CJTlM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 23, 2018
Cathy’s Recovery & Sarah Silverman Podcast #415
30:01
Todd+Cathy discuss Cathy's recovery of the flu as well as an inspirational exchange between Sarah Silverman and one of her followers.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/w7Q9alfPBlU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 16, 2018
Cathy Has The Flu Podcast #414-1/2
4:46
Yup- Cathy has the flu :(  We're gonna shoot for another one at the end of the week.  if not, next Tuesday for sure.  Sorry for the inconvenience.  Keep truckin' Todd<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/8LKNmoTnQ44" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 11, 2018
The Art of Fulfillment- Podcast #414
1:03:23
Todd+Cathy discuss how to “let go” and “bring in” for the new year, and how to wake up to our lives in 2018. They discuss how Steve Bartman and Bill Buckner became the scapegoats for their perspective cities pain, and how we tend to project all blame on one person or event in our own lives. They explain why the science of achievement and the art of fulfillment work well together, and why humor is essential in the midst of challenges.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/GJAmXBmWzi0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 02, 2018
These Are a Few Of Our Favorite Things- Podcast #413
54:58
Cathy and Todd discuss their favorite things from 2017, and share why faith played a big role this year. They answer some questions posed in the Tim Ferriss book, Tribe of Mentors, reflect on growing up in the 80’s and 90’s, and share why they are hopeful for 2018.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/7kr-vKbjUKI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 26, 2017
Meaning Creates Joy- Podcast #412
1:01:01
Todd and Cathy talk about how meaning relates to happiness and joy, and how this knowledge can make our holidays less stressful and our parenting more conscious. They also discuss the benefits of Forest Bathing and share why trees can be our best teachers. They discuss the benefits of being cold, the zen-ness of their rabbit, and the need for more optimistic TV shows and movies.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Z6wKFaquYTY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 19, 2017
#Metoo. So What Now? An Interview with Mike Domitrz- Podcast #411
1:20:15
Todd and Cathy talk with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Date Safe Project and 2018 Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker. They discuss they #metoo movement and what comes next – how does this change our behavior? How will this impact our relationships and society overall? How can it influence our parenting? Mike offers his expertise and support as we all navigate this ever-changing and uncertain time.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/acdOyZGPee0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 15, 2017
Less Perfect, More Peace- Podcast #410
54:17
Cathy and Todd share how we can take care of ourselves and say no during the holidays without feeling guilt. They discuss Shauna Niequist’s book Present Over Perfect and why our decision to be good to ourselves allows us to be more present for the ones we love. They also discuss why discomfort and confusion during this time of #metoo is normal and necessary for change, and how we can be more thoughtful and self-aware about our choices. It’s awards season again! Cathy shares the Golden Globe Best Picture nominees.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/9GpyXVR4ijM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 12, 2017
9 Statements For Women Podcast #409
1:03:30
Todd and Cathy discuss how inequality can lead to challenging and often unconscious communication, and they share some civil statements that women can use to feel heard. They discuss common unconscious double standards in private life and the workplace, and explain why the skit “Welcome to Hell” from Saturday Night Live was so thought-provoking. They share a moment from A Very Brady Christmas, some wisdom from Zen Parenting Conference keynote Mike Domitrz from The Date Safe Project, and a powerful speech from actor Jeff Daniels.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/IDHWMKd1QWU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 05, 2017
We Are Differently The Same- Podcast #408
55:39
Todd and Cathy discuss how they experience the world differently, and why understanding and respecting these differences lead to better communication. They talk about why connection is like nourishment, and why not connecting can make us feel uncomfortable mentally and physically. They discuss Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies and share which tendency describes their underlying motivation. They talk about the movie Wonder, owning our stuff, and why sexual assault allegations are uncovering a deeply-embedded systemic issue.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/kzuWVxNGUps" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 28, 2017
The Gift Of Failure- Podcast #407
1:05:26
Todd and Cathy discuss Jessica Lahey’s The Gift of Failure, and discuss why allowing our kids to make mistakes will help them succeed. They also discuss the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, why rewards and punishment don’t work, and why praising our kids for effort rather than outcome will lead to greater success and a healthier sense of self. They play a clip of a Hillary Clinton interview on the Dear Sugar podcast, a commercial about failure from Michael Jordan, and discuss Carol Dweck’s book Mindset.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/lDXPFDKhwsY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 21, 2017
The Five Invitations- Podcast #406
1:03:09
Cathy and Todd discuss The Five Invitations, a book that shows us how to wake up fully to our lives. As a compassionate teacher and cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, author Frank Ostaseski supports the dying. His five invitations dive into the suffering, joy, and inevitability of death, and why embracing this wisdom will lead to a more mindful and compassionate life. Cathy and Todd use clips from Dead Poets Society and Star Wars to highlight his points, and discuss why this book empowered them to live with greater intention and meaning.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/KPhsE7j8gvM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 14, 2017
Emotional Labor is an Unpaid Job- Podcast #405
58:30
Todd and Cathy discuss an article in Harpers Bazaar titled “Women aren’t nags, we’re just fed up” about emotional labor and the sensitivity surrounding this topic. They discuss how to have a productive conversation about what it really takes to manage a house, and why it’s not always true that men are “problem solvers” and women are “sensitive”. They discuss how they are challenged with this issue, how it’s easy to go on autopilot, and why this is an ongoing discussion and not a one-time conversation. They explain how this relates to gender issues overall and what we are all currently modeling for both our daughters and sons. If you find this discussion interesting, join Cathy+Todd for a one-time virtual class about civility and compassion (in the home and for the holidays), and why the way we talk to our loved ones extends into the world. Click here to register.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/zdqdr6G3i0k" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 07, 2017
It’s OK To Let Go – Podcast #404
1:05:57
Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s OK for kids to change their minds and try new things, and why it’s important for adults to do this, too. They discuss how self-awareness is essential, and how self-forgiveness and understanding are also essential because we will always be a mystery (the great paradox!). They discuss the offensive gesture during the world series, how they managed their daughter’s crying episode, Byron Katie’s “The Work”, cranial sacral holds, and some humor from Anchorman.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/IAav-ykiQ1k" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 31, 2017
From Refugee Camp To An Engineer- Podcast #403
52:45
Cathy and Todd talk with Roksanna Taghizadeh, an immigrant who grew up in Iran, became a refugee in Germany, and eventually made it to the United States where she became an structural engineer. She shares her immigration story, explains what it’s like to live in a refugee camp, and shares why the current political environment has been surprising and emotionally challenging.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/lNZ9dgEdREc" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 27, 2017
Cell Phones & Getting Uncomfortable- Podcast #402
58:27
Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s OK to be uncomfortable, and why focusing on what works and what we are grateful creates the foundation to deal with discomfort. They reference the Good Newspaper, and explain why good news can help us speak out about the uncomfortable news. Todd shares some wisdom from Simon Sinek about why cell phones shouldn’t be the classroom or the boardroom, and why will power sometimes isn’t enough. They discuss if it’s safe for Todd to drive with his knee, why we shouldn’t answer the phone in a movie theater, and a wise observation from Martin Luther King.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/RxXoFN9ju_w" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 24, 2017
#MeToo Podcast #401
1:02:33
Cathy and Todd discuss the power of #metoo (a hashtag for anyone who has been sexually harassed or assaulted) and why sharing stories and listening to each other paves the way for change. They also talk about the power of words and why inclusive language is not just about being politically correct, it’s about growth and understanding. They discuss software that allows parents to see how their children are doing throughout the school day, why children hold in painful secrets, and why Cathy won’t share her water bottle.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/RTIMl2IHXxo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 17, 2017
Equality Connects Us- Podcast #400
1:16:58
On their 400th episode, Cathy and Todd discuss why they started Zen Parenting, how it’s changed, and why equality, compassion, and connection motivate them to keep going. They share their favorite Tom Petty songs, discuss why difficult conversations are essential, and explain how if we work together, we will soar.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/fp8zZ8D1Ors" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 10, 2017
Brain Trusts, Civility, & Compassion- Podcast #399
1:04:19
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of civility when we have different opinions or viewpoints, and offer some definitions and research from Brenè Browns book, Braving the Wilderness. They also discuss the Las Vegas tragedy – how we can make the unbearable bearable, and how we can give of ourselves to help others. They share who resides in their “brain trust”, offer some wisdom from Cory Booker, and discuss why we have dehumanized in the past and why rehumanization is essential for the future.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/U9C8APGBV48" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 03, 2017
Peer Health Exchange: Improving the mental and physical lives of young people- Podcast #398
37:10
Cathy and Todd talk with Danya Rosen, Executive Director of the Chicago Peer Health Exchange, an organization that empowers young people with the knowledge, skills, and resources to make healthy decisions. They train college students to teach a skill-based health curriculum (focusing on mental health, sexual education, and overall wellness) in under-resourced high schools across the country. They aim to reduce unplanned pregnancy and substance abuse by offering knowledge, support, and access to resources. The Peer Health Exchange has had a statistically significant positive effect on sexual and mental knowledge, skills, and help-seeking behavior. They are also located in the Bay Area, Boston, Los Angeles, and New York.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/J-OBMRZbdrA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 29, 2017
The Wilderness & The Keeper- Podcast #397
1:11:35
Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s book, Braving the Wilderness, specifically the difference between “fitting in” and “true belonging”, and why listening and civility are our ways back to each other (this book discussion will continue next week). They also discuss a blog titled The Keeper and how it created an argument in one home, and why it’s an important discussion piece for any marriage. Todd shares a great Chicago story about how one person’s sacrifice lead to another person’s extreme act of bravery, and how we are all interconnected and modeling for each other.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/b75CEXYDVs4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 26, 2017
Success And Momentum- Podcast #396
55:12
Todd and Cathy discuss Simon Sinek’s definition of success and why momentum is the key. They talk about the best predictor of whether or not we will view our lives as successful (and it has nothing to do with money). They discuss why a man can be perceived as assertive and a woman is perceived as bossy, how the 2017 Emmy Award winners made some history, and why Oreos and seeing the movie IT are not great self-care choices for Cathy.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/zccQ8Z7FztY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 19, 2017
Safe Spaces, Triggers, and Civility- Podcast #395
1:08:49
Cathy and Todd discuss The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech by Jean M. Twenge about the millennial generation (otherwise known as iGen) and why they are different. They discuss how they were raised, how they think, and why they understand emotional risk more than physical risk. They also discuss They also discuss Brene Brown’s new release, Braving the Wilderness, and how it focuses on stepping out and speaking up, and how we can answer questions with civility rather than mistrust and disdain. They talk about how we can support our kids without being permissive, how we can teach our daughters to trust themselves, and why the Jedi know how to fight hate with light.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/4vTUGpWMicg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 12, 2017
A Checklist For Self-Compassion- Podcast #394
1:05:46
Cathy and Todd offer ways to practice and recognize self-compassion, and explain why our ego tends to argue against too much self-love (but why we don’t have to listen…). They discuss lovingkindness meditation, why it’s important to accept compliments, and how we can get to know ourselves like a friend. They also discuss Keyshawn Johnson’s decision to pull his son out of Nebraska football – was this decision too much or just right? They discuss their upcoming self-compassion class, their upcoming screening of Angst, and why it’s important for each of us to speak our truth.T<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/-EWmzsoGidE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 05, 2017
Angst: Let’s Talk About Anxiety- Podcast #393
50:58
Cathy and Todd discuss anxiety, how and why it shows up, and why it’s important topic of conversation in every home. They discuss their documentary screening of Angst: Normalizing the Conversation Around Anxiety on Monday, September 11th, 7pm, at York Theater. This movie is a perfect opportunity to open an important conversation and normalize what’s been stigmatized. It’s appropriate for kids 10+, and it’s highly recommended for all parents and teens. They share the wisdom of Michael Singer from his book The Untethered Soul, and what it means to have a “voice in our head”. They also discuss Hurricane Harvey, how to give, and why we need to stay focused on hope. Click here to get tickets to the screening of Angst at York Theater on Sept 11th. T<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/VNpgcM3sVPA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 29, 2017
Be a Force For Good- Podcast #392
57:16
Todd and Cathy reveal their three speakers for the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference, and explain why each of them is a force for good. They discuss candor, wisdom, kindness, and responsibility, and offer new resources that will help each of us live with greater clarity and intention. They answer a listener questions, and also discuss their NEW+IMPROVED website! Go to zenparentingradio.com to find all the podcasts, events, books, and resources that you’ve been asking for - all in one place! And get your early-bird 2018 Zen Parenting Conference tickets, a spot in Cathy’s How to Be Brave pre-conference workshop, and become a Zen Friend to support our conference scholarship program.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/U-dISwa7x8I" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 22, 2017
There’s Room For All Of Us- Podcast #391
55:49
Cathy and Todd discuss fear-based thinking, what happened in Charlottesville, and how an abundance mindset can shift the way we relate to each other. They answer listener questions about a husband who doesn’t understand the challenges of busy motherhood, and how to manage, and hopefully reduce, an anxious home environment. Todd talks about his trip to New England with his daughter, and explains why this experience led to more authentic communication and connection.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ciJePUTjTwk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 15, 2017
Good Grit, Bad Grit- Podcast #390
1:11:49
Cathy and Todd discuss Caroline Adams Miller’s book Getting Grit, about what grit really means, and why we need to be thoughtful about the kind of grit we are using and promoting. They share some clips from her interview with Jonathan Field’s on The Good Life Project, and explain why self-awareness, compassion, and connection are essential in becoming a force for good. They also discuss the challenges with participation trophies or awards and offer new insight into why these are only a symptom rather than the problem. They discuss why giving our kids space to find their own grit is essential, and why humility, community, and confidence are essential in keeping our goals healthy and manageable.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/LfwSW7SJICQ" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 08, 2017
Say Yes & Say No- Podcast #389
59:13
Cathy and Todd discuss what a hell yes feels like, and why saying no is so important. They share an interview with Oprah on the Dear Sugar podcast where she explains how she learned to say no, and why a no can be the best decision for all involved. They also share why letting go can be just as important as holding on, and what it really means to be impeccable with your word. They discuss the proposed military transgender ban, and why proximity to people different than us will decrease fear, increase compassion, and create unity.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/i8swFDbhC00" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 01, 2017
Humans Are Like Porcupines- Podcast #387
58:42
Todd and Cathy discuss why humans are like porcupines, and why it’s important to stay open and use “relational ethics”, when communicating with our loved ones. They discuss Andy Murray’s subtle equality comment after Wimbledon, they share a quote about compassion from Pema Chodron, and explain what Tim Ferriss means when he says, “Hard Choices/Easy Life”. They also discuss a bill that could affect teens who are caught sexting - teen expert Rosalind Wiseman explains, “We understand why adults don’t want young people sending these kinds of pictures but it’s dangerous and unethical for lawmakers to write and pass laws that can’t tell the difference between a sexual predator and a young person who is going through adolescence.”<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/S8tKjD2_p30" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 25, 2017
Truth & Healing- Podcast #386
1:01:42
Todd and Cathy discuss how to have honest communication with friends and why it can be helpful to be “called out” by the people we love. They also discuss why our understanding of healing is oversimplified, and how it’s a daily action rather than a destination. They share a quote from Brad Pitt about toxic masculinity, explain the difference between shame and guilt, and discuss how marriage is handled on Friday Night Lights.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/nyh2mQ8wLLs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 18, 2017
How To See Pain Differently- Podcast #385
1:03:46
Cathy and Todd discuss how to embrace a challenging past by accepting it as a given rather than viewing it as a “gift” (which can sometimes feel inauthentic). This concept is taken from Sharon Salzberg’s book, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection, and it allows us to acknowledge our experience and move forward as a force for good. They also discuss how kids can be sensitive to clothing and why it’s important to find ways to keep them comfortable. They share why joy+sadness are a team, why trying to defend our emotional state can cause conflict, and explain why The Soupdragons I’m Free is Todd’s empowerment song.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ngshQ1Ow9Es" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 11, 2017
Think Differently About Fear Podcast #384
54:40
Cathy and Todd share a quote from Gutsy Girl author Caroline Paul about how we can use “micro-bravery” to handle our fear. They discuss why bravery can mean different things to men and women, and why it’s hard to differentiate between fear, excitement, and other strong feelings. They talk about ball players who get the “yips”, the movie Get Out, and explain why The Babadook represents repressed grief and anger.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/j0J4MJU5KWE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 04, 2017
Discussing Equality Is Difficult….And Necessary- Podcast #383
Todd and Cathy discuss gender inequality and why Todd gets frustrated talking to men about this issue. They discuss why it’s difficult to understand inequality, how we can be better listeners, and why the impact can negatively affect women and men. They reference an article from the New York Times titled Talking to Boys the Way We Talk to Girls by Andrew Reiner and discuss how we can make changes in our own home that will impact the world. They answer a listener question about a challenging four-year-old, talk about their vacation and the Backstreet Boys, and share some movie clips.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Mu0kbjiRtxQ" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 27, 2017
Simple Ways to Have a More Joyful Home- Podcast #382
Cathy and Todd discuss Mary Oliver’s poem Wild Geese, specifically this line – you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. They discuss that the things we love may not be cool or trendy, but sometimes embracing this uncoolness is the first step toward creating a more joyful home. They discuss Hamilton, the Backstreet Boys, and the most important scene from Revenge of the Nerds.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/zXHKpIosU68" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 20, 2017
Money & Happiness- Podcast #381
Todd and Cathy discuss how money contributes to happiness and how our relationship with money affects our feelings of success. They reference an episode of The Good Life Project called The Truth About Money and Happiness and discuss documentaries such as Happy, Born Rich, and the 1%. They also discuss how to talk with our girls about body image and why it’s important to find a new and true definition of beauty.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/16x-VzI2YkM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 13, 2017
Lessons From My Dad- Podcast #380
1:01:16
Cathy’s dad recently passed away so Cathy and Todd share how he lived and what he taught them. Most importantly why culture literacy leads to a bigger heart and mind, why willingness is the key to a deep and meaningful life, and why we are all simply “walking each other home”.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/BGhA2ETAzik" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 06, 2017
Who’s Busier? Podcast #379
Cathy and Todd discuss how to approach who’s busier in a partnership, and how to talk to a friend who thinks she’s busier than you. They discuss why “turning toward” is the key to a long-lasting marriage, and share some tips from author and relationship expert Esther Perel.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/WFU7blu3Ejw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 30, 2017
Listen To This One With Your Partner- Podcast #378
1:03:06
Todd and Cathy discuss why “figuring out” our partner will cause frustration, but why staying present with every new experience will create intimacy. They use a post from fellow coach Jayson Gaddis They discuss why it’s important to ride the waves with your partner rather than trying to control their emotional expression, and why unpredictability can be just as connecting as predictability. They share a recent miscommunication, explain why labeling family members is detrimental, and practice saying toy boat really fast without messing up.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/hFapoJI2UUA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 23, 2017
Free Your Mind- Podcast #377
Cathy and Todd discuss why freeing ourselves from needing to be right can shift the dynamics of a conversation, and ultimately, a relationship. They share a clip of Glenn Beck from the On Being Podcast where he explains why using fear divides, and why it’s time to come together and listen. They also share an interview from Tim Ferriss’ podcast about why treating all people with dignity is essential, and why we want all people to be just like us. This episode will free your mind (and as En Vogue says), and the rest will follow…<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/i9Kd3ID2zEE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 16, 2017
Portraying Girls Beyond Stereotypes- A Discussion With Jodi Bondi Norgaard- Podcast #376
Cathy and Todd talk with Jodi Bondi Norgaard, founder of Dream Big Toy Company and the creator of the award-winning Go! Go! Sports Girls line of dolls and books for girls encouraging healthy and active play over fashion and body image. Jodi is a keynote speaker, entrepreneur, activist, consultant, and founding member of The Brave Girl Alliance, a think tank of girl empowerment experts.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/LkstKq2pTAg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 12, 2017
Decrease Anxiety By Creating A Button Podcast #375
Todd and Cathy discuss why teens and adults need buttons (or release valves) to manage their anxiety. They may rarely (if ever) use supports that are offered, but just knowing they are there decreases feelings of anxiousness. They talk about what it means to be “busy” and why busyness requires a sense of self-awareness and personal responsibility. They share a story about Canadians helping out with the National Anthem, play some of Kristin Wiig’s best SNL characters, and explain why allowing someone else to explain something can feel freeing and empowering.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/FIyjsr6HD5A" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 09, 2017
Be Wise, Live The Paradox- Podcast #373 (Rebroadcast)
Todd and Cathy talk about how we can “comfortably hold our paradoxes”, and use examples from Danielle LaPorte to explain why this acceptance leads to wisdom. They discuss how to share information about your kids without feeling like you’re listing a resume, why allowing kids to share their viewpoint results in less and anger and more connection, and why 13 Reasons Why has become the most talked about show for teens.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/1kDNLCMiNJM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 08, 2017
Veganism And The Environment- A Discussion With Charlie Rogers Podcast #374
43:04
Todd and Cathy talk with Charlie Rogers, 17, about what it means to be a vegan and a steward of the environment. They talk climate change, carbon footprints, minimalism, education, and why it’s important to make choices that align with our souls - in our teens, and as parents.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/FBdox5F5Z3U" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 05, 2017
Loving Bravely: A discussion with Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #372
Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. They discuss why the past shows up in love relationships, the challenges of hookup culture, and how to listen with the “third ear”. They also discuss why self-awareness is essential, and why offering compassion to yourself and your partner are keys to connection. If you are in a marriage or partnership, or if you are interested in having a healthy partnership, this is a must-listen episode.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/r_p8BIWmuok" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 28, 2017
Show Up, Speak Up- Podcast #371
Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s important to speak up in a relationship instead of “kick the can down the road”. They discuss why intimacy is created when a couple is willing to communicate about what matters, and how both sexes have been conditioned to not share their true feelings. They talk about internalized misogyny, why our beliefs and actions are not always congruent, and share a clip from Gone Girl about the myth of the “cool girl”. Todd shares some “quick takes”, they play a movie game, and they sing songs by Pat Benatar and Run DMC.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/RaFF3yMQpS8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 25, 2017
Peace Comes From Within- Podcast #370
Cathy and Todd discuss internal vs external peace, and why internal peace is the key to contentment. They talk about “good enough parenting” and share why Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, believes that being good enough, is good enough. They offer an opportunity to join their monthly Zen Talks, explain their 10,000 campaign goal, and talk more about being a force for good and focusing on what matters.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/gGdCKvwF6pA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 18, 2017
Ride The Waves Podcast #369
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of zen, why acceptance keeps us from suffering, and how to let go when things don’t seem to be going our way. They explain what it means to be “sex positive” and explain why Teen Vogue and Rookie Magazine offer smart and timely journalism for teens. They discuss why regret is “unskillful”, share perspective from This American Life and 10% Happier with Dan Harris, and play movie quotes that start with B.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/MHcV6EbLi94" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 11, 2017
Acceptance, Zen, & Regret- Podcast #368
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of zen, why acceptance keeps us from suffering, and how to let go when things don’t seem to be going our way. They explain what it means to be “sex positive” and explain why Teen Vogue and Rookie Magazine offer smart and timely journalism for teens. They discuss why regret is “unskillful”, share perspective from This American Life and 10% Happier with Dan Harris, and play movie quotes that start with B.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/NKvgcnQCKOk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 04, 2017
Be Your Own Guru- Podcast #367
Todd and Cathy discuss the importance of balancing studentship and maintaining your own perspective. Teachers are necessary and helpful in guiding us through life, but it’s also important to ground ourselves in our own identity. They also discuss why it’s vital to focus on women’s equality and awareness around women’s rights (or lack of rights). Gender equality for men is just as vital, but they emphasize bringing attention to the disparity. They answer a listener question about managing the tantrum of his son, they discuss Pear Jam’s Elderly woman behind the counter in a small town, and Todd shares some of his favorite movie quotes.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/kBKehV1ZQsY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 28, 2017
Buck up Or Console? Finding The Middle Ground- Podcast #366
Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between telling your kid to buck up and offering them consolation, and why it’s not one or the other, it’s both. They also explain why it’s importance to answer your kids questions and not assume that they already know what to do. They talk about the new State Farm commercial titled Following and Julia, the new character on Sesame Street. They discuss Beauty and the Beast, Pretty in Pink, chess, and why Todd wants to play catch his daughters.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/GAuLSCAKwOA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 21, 2017
How To Have A Conversation When We Disagree- Podcast #365
Cathy and Todd discuss Megan Phelps Roper’s TED talk titled, "I grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church, here’s why I left”. She explains how rational and considerate conversation allowed her to see things differently, and offers four healthy ways to communicate when we disagree or feel polarized. They also discuss Rob Bell’s most recent podcast about “the lie of redemptive violence”, and why emotional leadership begins by listening instead of demanding. They share the wisdom of Stephen Covey, why being calm creates change, and why George Costanza ordered chicken salad instead of tuna.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/l3MvBYqI5Ro" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 14, 2017
10,000 Joys, 10,000 Sorrows- Podcast #364
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of 10,000 Joys and 10,000 Sorrows, and explain why acceptance of both leads to a more balanced and calm life. They discuss Mark Nepo’s interpretation of what it means to “unlearn what we have unlearned”, and why life is a constant tension between acquiring new information and letting go of what we don’t need. They also talk about Stranger Things, why rabbits and trees are Zen, and why pictures can be just as important as words.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/bwlxIFlTRJ0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 07, 2017
We Are Here- Podcast #363
57:21
Cathy and Todd share the highlights from their conference, including the messages of their speakers, Rob Bell, Rosalind Wiseman, and Ali Smith. They process their Friday night talk, specifically focusing on we are here, bring the light, love louder, if not you, then who?, just do right, generate peace, create meaning, and let’s take care of each other. They also share an important message from Maya Angelou at the very end of the show.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/JUTv_bbr-1g" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 28, 2017
Live Without Regrets Podcast #362
1:00:14
Todd and Cathy discuss the top ten things that adults usually regret – why they regret them, and how to view these things differently. They answer two listener questions – one about lying to the school about vacations, and the other about how to support an emotional partner. They share Phish music, My Blue Heaven quotes, and discuss this weekend’s conference. Click here to get your ticket, it’s your last chance!<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/JYWOZkQljpw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 21, 2017
Walk In Someone Else’s Shoes- Podcast #361
47:58
Todd and Cathy discuss Valentine’s Day and how we can find ways to love ourselves and others every day. They also discuss the importance of understanding another’s perspective, and how we can incorporate empathy into our everyday parenting. They talk about Adele and Beyonce, Anchorman and A League of their Own, and share the wisdom of Atticus Finch.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/FLFDGiYtYXQ" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 14, 2017
Tell The Truth 5 Different Ways- Podcast #360
47:36
Cathy and Todd discuss five truths, as explained by Neale Donald Walsh in his book Conversations with God, Vol 2. They also discuss the variability of feelings, how to determine what you are feeling, and why shame can get in the way of our true emotions. They process the difference between wounds and wholeness and why responding is better than reacting.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/__1-GPyfls8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 07, 2017
How To Deal- Podcast #359
Cathy and Todd share tens ways we can deal with the challenges our world is facing. Specifically focusing on how we can support ourselves and the ones we love, and how we can help and give back to others. They talk about daily action, a documentary that will inspire you, and why taking care of nature will create more peace. The Zen Parenting Conference is only a few weeks away!<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/jtbmTctJ9QY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 31, 2017
I Can’t Keep Quiet- Podcast #358
Cathy and Todd talk about the Chicago Women’s March – why it happened, who was there, and what comes next. They also discuss self-awareness and the “4 ways of being in the world” as described by the Conscious Leadership Group. They talk REM, unification, and share an anthem by MILCK called “I can’t keep quiet.”<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/A2J8dO0sFzQ" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 24, 2017
The Five Essential Questions in Life- Podcast #357
Cathy and Todd discuss The Five Essential Questions in Life, proposed by Dean James Ryan during a Harvard Graduate School of Education commencement speech. They also discuss the power of words and how word choice can empower or drain us. They talk about Dennis Miller, Hidden Figures, and answer a listener question about how marital separation effects kids.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Jw0OD96x-pU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 17, 2017
Mindfulness & Connection- A Talk With Annmarie Chereso: Podcast #356
Cathy and Todd talk with Annmarie Chereso, founder of Bring It! Home, an organization that offers programs to increase wellbeing and conscious leadership in the home and school. They talk mindfulness, parenting, partnership, and share why self-awareness and connection are the keys to deeper contentment. Bring It! Home is based in Chicago and is a Zen Parenting Conference sponsor.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/XgI5L67_bR0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 13, 2017
Take Turns Being Cloudy & Clear Podcast #355
Cathy and Todd discuss how experiences can “rearrange” us, causing us to open our heart wider, or close ourselves tighter. They process how relationships are a back and forth, and how in the words of Mark Nepo, we “take turns being cloudy and clear”. They share Deep Thoughts by Jack Handey, wise words about compassion from George Lucas, and why certainty is elusive.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/petj-aBhFD4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 10, 2017
Foster Care & Adoption: Children are Waiting- Podcast #354
Cathy and Todd talk with Susan McConnell from Let It Be Us about foster care in Illinois and throughout the country. They also talk with Kyle Osterhues and his mom Carolyne about his experience in foster care and their experience with adoption. This touching show sheds light on the importance and impact of foster care, and how so many great kids are waiting for their forever family.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/pDwx2kup-2Q" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 06, 2017
Be curious, not judgmental- Podcast # 353- (fixed)
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of listening to others and being open to differing perspectives. They share quotes such as Polish your mind with the minds of others and Be an expert who is interested in everything, and discuss why it’s important to not make our individual story everybody else’s story. They talk about Todd’s “man cold”, discuss the Newtown Documentary they are screening on 1/18, and contemplate this quote from Mark Nepo - “just because you feel broken, doesn’t mean the world is broken.” They introduce their new partner Healthy Habits Healthy Moms<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ev87Ys5wMow" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 03, 2017
Feeling Good- Podcast #352
Todd and Cathy share wisdom from Wayne Dyer and Tony Robbins about feeling good and why it increases our ability to parent well. They also discuss Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls and why this book prompted an important discussion. They talk about George Michael, different types of fear, and why we need to know what we are FOR rather than against.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/5uOJ8iKe1Dg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 27, 2016
Find Meaning- Podcast #351
Cathy and Todd process why paradox allows us to become more self-aware and open-minded. They also discuss why it’s important to be an “emotional leader” and find meaning in our decisions. They share wisdom from Growing Pain’s Jason Seaver, a great line from Don Henley, and why Madonna and the elderly woman behind the counter in a small town are similar.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/niXDYkiHZ0Q" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 20, 2016
Kindness As Empowerment- Podcast #350
Cathy and Todd discuss why kindness is empowering and why practicing kindness makes you healthier and much less stressed. They also discuss why self-awareness is essential in monitoring our own reactivity, and why being mindful is the first step toward choosing kindness. They share a clip from an interview with Life-Vest Inside’s Orly Wahba on The Good Life Project podcast. She explains how kindness offers us the tools to create change, and how we can transform inspiration into action.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/cEeVsy9WxGg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 13, 2016
Connecting In The Land Of Dementia Podcast- #349
Taking care of our parents: A discussion with Deborah Shouse, author of Connecting in the Land of Dementia Todd and Cathy talk with Deborah Shouse and her brother Dan about what it means to be a “care partner” for parents or loved ones with dementia. They offer how we can bring greater understanding and hope to an undeniably challenging time. They share the power of being present, why appreciation and going with the flow are essential, and how creativity and music can offer a brand new perspective.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/_x1IVIh_lm8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 09, 2016
Truth & Reality- Podcast #348
Todd and Cathy discuss fake news and where to find trustworthy information (as explained on Planet Money). They also discuss lessons from former NBA player Chris Herren, and why this coach thinks society is hurting kids by giving them all trophies. They distinguish between Stephen Covey’s circle of concern and circle of influence, and explain why our willingness to do good creates more good.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/OTUs4uh3cfc" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 06, 2016
Building a culture of consent and respect: A discussion with Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project Podcast #347
1:02:57
There are so many questions about relationships, sexual intimacy, consent, bystander intervention and supporting survivors, it can be feel overwhelming. Confusion is widespread in schools, college campuses, and the military, and as parents it can be difficult to approach these conversations with our own kids. Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project offers a refreshing perspective on sexuality, respect, consent, and why it’s all about communication and caring for each other as human beings.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Wlb637kpCJw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 02, 2016
Ten Hints for Using Here and Now – Podcast #346
[powerpress] Cathy reads ten hints from her grandmother’s notebook, a “here and now” list (what we would call mindfulness) that her grandmother transcribed in the 70’s. Cathy and Todd discuss the message of It’s a Wonderful Life, why John Hughes spoke for kids and teens, and why hope is such a valuable thing.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/TjVKnRYnYSg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 29, 2016
Undue Anxiety with Dr. John Duffy- Podcast #345
Todd and Cathy welcome back Dr. John Duffy and his wife Julie to discuss why so many people are dealing with undue anxiety. They process why it’s difficult to discuss, where it’s coming from, and why we need to talk to our kids about it. They discuss Dr. Duffy’s new podcast called Undue Anxiety, Bruce Springsteen, and why communication and connection are the keys to feeling less alone.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/bCRDd93BeBM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 25, 2016
Show Up And Accept What Is Podcast #344
Cathy and Todd discuss why “some things in life cannot be fixed, they can only be carried”, a quote taken from Megan Devine, therapist and grief teacher. She shares that most of what passes for grief support is not very useful, and that humans have the capacity to handle feelings and the feelings of others with compassion and understanding. Not by blaming, judging, or compartmentalizing, but by practicing presence, honesty, and the ability to show up and accept what is. They share clips from The Good Life Project, a podcast hosted by Jonathan Fields.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/wFTAWaQjulE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 22, 2016
Let’s talk about Mental Wellness – An interview with Alexa James, NAMI Chicago’s Executive Director Podcast #343
We talk with Alexa James, Executive Director of the National Alliance of Mental Illness (NAMI), Chicago. She explains the importance of sharing our stories to de-stigmatize mental health, and how language and perspective can shift our thinking. We discuss the myths and challenges around mental health for adults and children, and how we can shift our focus to care, recovery, and hope. NAMI Chicago’s mission is to provide hope and improve the quality of life for those whose lives are affected by mental illness, providing information and referrals, education, support, advocacy, and active community outreach.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/PZRUuxihdQ8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 18, 2016
Create Beautiful Things Podcast- #342 (Fixed)
Cathy and Todd explore how art, creativity, and imagination have the power to create change (highlighting Cathy’s blog about The Beatles bringing the country together). They also discuss the difference between pro and against and why focusing on what you DO want (rather than what you don’t) leads to a desired outcome. They offer steps to stay focused on what you desire, answer a listener question about an emotional toddler, and explain why Sammy’s Van Halen songs are more meaningful than Dave’s.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/JZ40ElrKZMM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 15, 2016
The Grass Grows Through- Podcast #341
Cathy and Todd process why the election felt shocking and how we can take care of ourselves. They discuss how nature always find a way, how we can organize in our homes and in our communities to create change, and how we can embrace our value and use our power for good. They talk about how we can be better listeners to those who think differently, how we can practice empathy and find commonality, and how we can allow this wake up call to keep us awake and engaged in our lives. They share grief, fear, hope, serenity, optimism, and some wise words from Andy Dufresne.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/iAMdjMHFIVo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 10, 2016
Live in the Grey- Podcast #340
Cathy and Todd talk about how living in the black and white keeps us from listening to each other, but if we live in the grey, we remain open, curious, and empathetic. They talk politics, parenting, Anne Lamott, Dave Matthews, poetry, and the most effective way to hold space for each other.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/uS3usyOwLxU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 08, 2016
Cubs Win
Todd and Cathy talk CUBS, connection, emotions, and history. They also talk Bull Durham, City Slickers, and Field of Dreams. Enjoy the joy Chicago, we love you.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/jQT8AooRp2E" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 03, 2016
A Long Swim Part 2- An Interview With Doug & Susan McConnell Podcast #339
The following is the second half of a 2 part interview we did with our friends Doug and Susan McConnell.  Doug is a marathon swimmer.  If you haven’t heard it yet, I recommend you go back and listen to podcast #337.  We left off with Doug and his team led by Susan who just swam the English Channel.  Doug now turns to Hawaii's Ka'iwi Channel which has only been completed by 35 swimmers.  The swim itself is 32+ miles and started on the west end of the almost deserted Island of Molokai.  Things do not go as planned as Doug & Susan explains. To learn more about the MCconnell’s effort to raise awareness about ALS, please visit http://www.alongswim.com/ Upcoming Events The Tribe Men's Adventure Retreat Shoot Todd an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for more information Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.         [/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section]<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/mtm8fQYzpd4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 01, 2016
A Long Swim Part 1- An Interview With Doug & Susan McConnell Podcast #337
There are 7 billion people walking the earth right now. There have been 5,000 people who have successfully summited Mount Everest. Just over 1600 human beings have swam the English channel- Today’s guests are Doug and Susan McConnell. Doug is only the 48th person over the age of 50 to successfully swim the English Channel. But he could not have done it without his team led by his wife Susan. In this two part interview- Doug shares with us how the idea came up as a gag over a few glasses of wine to a commitment that changed the direction of his life. He tells us about the obstacles namely sharks, hypothermia and how he navigated past each one of them and he sets the record straight of the old wives tale of whether or not it helps to pee on a jelly fish stings. To learn more about the MCconnell’s effort to raise awareness about ALS, please visit http://www.alongswim.com/<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/081m-MK50Sw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 28, 2016
Be Kind To It, And Let It Be Kind To You Podcast #336
Cathy and Todd discuss the book On Living by Hospice Chaplain Kerry Egan, and focus in on the three things we can do with pain: accept it, be kind to it, and let it be kind to you. They also share three great takeaways from Dr. Shefali’s Evolve Conference, process why negotiating with our kids is not always the best answer, and share some wisdom from Austin Powers. Upcoming Events MON, SEP 26 AT 7:00 PM, ELMHURST, IL Zen Parenting Presents Screenagers Click here for tickets By: Zen Parenting Radio Trailer- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQx2X0BXgZg New Warrior Training Adventure- October 28th-October 30th www.getyourweekend.com The Tribe Men's Adventure Retreat Shoot Todd an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for more information Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.         [/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section]<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/f12R4m340ms" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 25, 2016
Recognizing Our Unconscious Bias and Triggers- Podcast #335
Cathy and Todd discuss unconscious bias and how our “brain shortcuts” can cause us to deviate from our true values. They also discuss why people get triggered and how we can differentiate between political correctness and considerate language. They share their experience of the Sia concert, how girls and boys are raised differently, and Cathy’s awesome experience at the Emerging Women Conference. They also answer a listener's question when their daughter seeks out a definition of beauty.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/pJEhZXmnP50" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 18, 2016
Curiosity, Decency, and Motivation Podcast #334
Cathy and Todd discuss sexual assault, how it’s an act of power and control, and why so many women are using the #notokay hashtag. They share research from Daniel Pink, author of Drive, about how to better communicate with our kids and inspire them to become more intrinsically motivated. They also listen to wise words from the Holistic Life Foundation’s Ali Smith, one of the keynotes for the Zen Parenting Conference.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/wFNk9Mca9UA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 11, 2016
Misery Loves Company – Or Does It? Podcast #333
1:09:17
Cathy and Todd discuss why misery loves company and how we can better support each other through failures and success. They also process why pain isn’t a competition, and how what we focus on creates our life story. They share a poignant quote about happiness from Patton Oswalt, answer a listener question about how to teach our children humility, and discuss why all songs about teachers are negative or sexualized. They also answer a listener's question who struggles with a very confident child.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/IW1YVPvXi2s" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 04, 2016
Use Your Energies Wisely- Podcast #332
1:06:01
Cathy and Todd discuss that we all have energy to share, but we have to be conscious of how we use it so it doesn’t get misdirected or used to harm. Todd shares his metaphorical paddle boarding experience, and Cathy explains why experiencing “illumination” reminds us to have faith during dark times. They share the poetry of Mark Nepo, Rob Bell’s recent podcast, surprising wisdom from Kanye, and the compassionate mission of Linked In CEO Jeff Weiner.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/H-Fy9yDnYiE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 27, 2016
What If? Podcast #331
What if we questioned how we looked at things, said things, believed things? Cathy and Todd discuss Heidi Stevens article from the Chicago Tribune about how using “what if” in front of our kids statements can change our reaction, and another Tribune article about why there’s a difference between empathetic belief and empathetic action. They also discuss the Emmy Awards, including Sarah Paulson’s apology to Marsha Clark, and why it’s OK that Eddie Murphy doesn’t want to do stand up anymore. They answer a listener’s question about how to take care of one child’s emotional needs when the other kids are also having emotional breakdowns.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/YVtPJCDl9aY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 20, 2016
Raising Digital Natives: A discussion with Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise Podcast #330
Cathy and Todd talk with author Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise about appreciating the benefits of technology in the home while monitoring overuse and inappropriate content. They also discuss why not all tech-time is created equal, what it means to be a tech-positive parent, and why parents hold the wisdom that children need when they use their devices.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/pENyoJYy_Z8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 16, 2016
Dealing With Pain Podcast #329
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance and transformational experience of pain using the wisdom of Louis CK, Glennon Doyle Melton, Brene Brown, and Pema Chodron. They process how and why we are hard-wired to deal with pain, why the bravery to feel it will heal us, and how we can better handle the pain we feel. They share pop culture references from Silence of the Lambs, Mr. Mom, and Cheers.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/_RXjgGRx40A" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 13, 2016
What Is Men’s Work? Podcast #328
56:11
We interview Erik Treese and Bryan Thomas from The Mankind Project. The Mankind Project is a global brotherhood that conducts challenging and highly rewarding programs for men at every stage of life. We dive deep into what men's work is, shadows, emotional intelligence, and the danger of phrases like "man up" and "boys don't cry." We also discuss how relationships can be affected as a result of men working on themselves.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/JrqMfS3Z2lE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 09, 2016
Grow (in the familiarity of your interiors) Podcast #327
Cathy and Todd discuss what “the familiarity of your interiors” means, and why it’s vital for personal growth and healthy relationships. They talk about the Little League World Series, specifically the 1982 Kirkland champs, and why adult pressure can lead to sports not being fun. They also discuss why popular fiction books have so many unhinged characters, how empathy can be taught, and the definition of “universal principles”. Upcoming Events MON, SEP 26 AT 7:00 PM, ELMHURST, IL Zen Parenting Presents Screenagers Click here for tickets By: Zen Parenting Radio Trailer- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQx2X0BXgZg New Warrior Training Adventure- October 28th-October 30th The Tribe Men's Adventure Retreat Shoot Todd an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for more information Zen Gets Real Conference- February 24th and 25th 2017 Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2 The Tribe Men's group   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.         [/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section]<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/9Zoxg2bxjrY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 06, 2016
Rituals And Change Podcast #326
1:06:17
Cathy and Todd discuss why change is a type of loss and how rituals can acknowledge meaning, slow down time, and connect us. They offer many examples of rituals, explain why ritual is different than superstition, and discuss why Rob Bell says the space between certainty and uncertainty is where the magic happens. Get your early bird tickets for the 2017 Zen Parenting Conference (with Rob Bell, Rosalind Wiseman, and Ali Smith), and get your tickets to Screenagers on 9/26!<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/8pudK6MgcjA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 30, 2016
Three People You Need To Know- Podcast #325
Todd and Cathy announce and discuss the speakers for their 2017 Zen Parenting Let’s Get Real Conference. New York Times Best-Selling Author and Oprah favorite Rob Bell, parenting educator and author of Queen Bees and Wannabes (the basis of the 2004 film Mean Girls) Rosalind Wiseman, and Executive Director of the Holistic Life Foundation, a safe space for learning mindfulness in the inner city of Baltimore, Ali Smith. The conference is Feb 24+25, 2017 at the Westin in Lombard (15 minutes outside of Chicago, 15 minutes from O’Hare). Early bird tickets are for sale until Sept 30th.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/MA6mofDh6hw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 23, 2016
A Very Brady Podcast #324
Cathy and Todd discuss how The Brady Bunch is a great learning tool and why it’s still relevant today. They answer a listener’s question about how to help her son with friendships, and why caring and loving too much can actually be a problem. They finish by discussing Tony’s Robbins appearance on Super Soul Sunday and why things can be easy to teach, but hard to apply.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/LFnzOdwM9T4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 16, 2016
Give Up Control- Podcast #323
Todd and Cathy discuss how when we give up control, we recognize that we never had control in the first place. They process what it means to have humility, be patient with the “not knowing”, and be appreciative for the right now. They discuss why the oldest child is expected to be most responsible, Todd’s most recent experience with letting go, and Dr. Shefali’s most recent appearance on Super Soul Sunday.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/iAvZCFQBjEs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 09, 2016
Words & Images Matter- Podcast #322
Todd and Cathy discuss the book Words Can Change Your Brain and process why “compassionate communication” supports healthy relationships and the brain development of our children. They also discuss the impact of an all-female Ghostbusters cast and how a female presidential nominee shapes the way boys and girls see each other.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/T8RS2zmJtek" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 02, 2016
Keep Peace Inside To Keep Peace Outside- Podcast #321
Cathy and Todd discuss how we can shift the dynamics of any situation by “flipping the script” (as explained in this Invisibilia podcast). They also discuss why we have to keep peace inside so we can keep peace outside, why we have to question the negativity that we hear, and why the journey from the head to the heart is always the longest and most important. They end the show with a poem by Mattie J.T. Stepanek.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/KqMcw5BwUhM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 26, 2016
It Was The Best Of Times… Podcast #320
Cathy and Todd discuss how to process the continuous bad news and stay in a place of compassion. They talk about the importance of mercy and grace, and how we can all contribute to a ripple effect of goodness. They discuss Tony Robbins new documentary, Mark Nepo’s wisdom, and share some advice from Martha Beck.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/K0jxuyuz6ZE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 19, 2016
Privilege and Compassion- Podcast #319
Cathy and Todd discuss privilege and why self-awareness is essential when we are talking about societal racism. They also discuss why recognizing injustice is not synonymous with taking sides, how we can talk to our children about injustice, and why the best leadership is calm. They share clips from The Daily Show, President Obama, and Michael Franti’s “Same As It Ever Was” song. They end by discussing why the phrase “happy wife, happy life” may need to be reevaluated.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/-27scUrzL00" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 12, 2016
Why Won’t My Kids Try Anything New?- Podcast #318
55:15
Cathy and Todd discuss why we “force” our children to try new things, and why this is usually about our fear rather than theirs.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/1dbrIcuXR9U" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 05, 2016
Coming out at 60 – One woman’s journey #317
51:47
Todd and Cathy talk with Georgia DeClark, preschool teacher and parent coach who’s life took a dramatic turn when she decided to come out at 60.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Q_TvzQ_VE7U" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 01, 2016
Be Content In This Moment- Podcast #316
53:02
…so you can be content when you achieve your goals. Cathy and Todd talk about why striving and goal-setting can keep us from contentment, and why money doesn’t equal happiness. They discuss why actor Tony Hale didn’t feel any happier after getting a major role on Arrested Development (hint: he realized he wasn’t living in the moment), and how Lady Gaga found peace and reconnected to her authentic self.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/8WWbvFsQ4cc" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 28, 2016
Jill Salzman from Founding Moms: Support for Female Entrepreneurs- Podcast #315
39:17
Todd and Cathy talk with entrepreneur Jill Salzman about Founding Moms, a collective of offline meetups and online resources (based all over the world) where mom entrepreneurs can exchange, connect and learn from one another. Jill shares her authentic take on work and mothering and how women are changing the workplace and supporting each other. Check out Foundingmoms.com and listen to Jill’s podcast, Breaking Down Your Business for more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/snS9O2A1X6A" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 24, 2016
We Can Work It Out- Podcast #314
Cathy and Todd discuss Orlando, gun legislation, and how we can better communicate about our differences. Todd shares why not hearing “Happy Father’s Day” led to a two-hour conversation about the energy we bring to a room and what we really want for our kids. They also discuss why we must continuously wake up while parenting, why parenting is a one-way-giving situation, and how our homes can become places of unconditional support and acceptance. They discuss this blog by Roseanne Cash and they announce the screening of Screenagers at York Theater on Sept 26, 2016.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/x-I4rrtpFzg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 21, 2016
Healthy Masculinity, Healthy Femininity Podcast #313
Cathy and Todd discuss the Stanford rape case, the presidential campaign, and why embracing healthy masculinity and femininity is the key to meaningful change. They also discuss how anger can be paralyzing, why we should be supporting each other rather than fighting each other, and why we need to use our individual voices to create more love and compassion. They reference Tara Mohr’s Playing Big, Marianne Williamson’s A Woman’s Worth, The Hunting Ground, The Mask You Live In, Miss Representation, and The Sunflower by Simon Wiesenthal.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/DfPRKUhX4M0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 14, 2016
Talking To Kids About Fear Podcast #312
1:00:29
Cathy and Todd discuss talking to kids about fear - how to notice it, normalize, and get creative with it. They process why parents need to acknowledge their own fear so they can authentically talk with their kids about being afraid. They share why fear is not always bad and why it gets us closer to the truth. They answer listener questions about religion and music in family culture, and how a pregnant busy mom can find some quiet. They also reference Pema Chodron and Byron Katie.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/3vEYj3Ss6-A" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 07, 2016
Sleep, Sex, & Work- Podcast #311
Cathy and Todd discuss some listener questions about toddler sleep issues, a 6-year-old who wants to know more about sex, and why work jargon can be so annoying.   Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 The Tribe Men's group   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.       [/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section]<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/3RDw2Bc8PtY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 31, 2016
National Runaway Safeline- Help For A Silent Crisis- Podcast #310
21:45
Todd and Cathy talk with Maureen Blaha, Executive Director of the National Runaway Safeline, a support and intervention system for youth and parents. Maureen shares why teens runaway and how families can be more open to the emotional needs of kids. The safeline is based in Chicago but helps kids and families nationwide. http://www.1800runaway.org/<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/4yPiTTvXl0Q" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 27, 2016
Why We Do What We Do- Podcast #309
53:47
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the need for validation, why it’s important to become aware of our needs, and sometimes put them aside, to connect with our kids, and how we can better support each other as we become more self-aware and conscious. Zen Parenting is part of the Education: Next Generation virtual conference – click here to register and read more about it. The Zen Parenting Conference will be held on Feb 24+25, 2017 – more information coming this summer!<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/eUDMkzTTJTE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 24, 2016
The 7-Year-Old In You – Podcast #308
53:41
Cathy and Todd discuss their difficult conversation and how they went “in and out of child” – is your present-time self talking or is it your 7-year-old? Your inner 7-year-old has a right to be there, and he/she may have some valid points, but the adult needs to manage the conversation so it doesn’t go off the rails. They also discuss why learning and healing through relationship can be more powerful than individual work. While both are important, the goal is to take self-awareness and apply it to all relationships. You may be calm and loving when you are alone, but can you bring these practices into a difficult conversation?<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/DHuCz6xbVKo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 17, 2016
Choose Your Own Story- Podcast #307
55:56
Have you seen the movie or stage production of Once? The movie starred musician Glen Hansard, and his interview on Sam Jone’s Off Camera podcast led to a deep discussion about education, parenting, friendship and why it’s so important to create our own life story. Cathy and Todd also discuss mom guilt and how to become more clear about how your true feelings.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/VCsbN2fdBKM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 10, 2016
Life’s Too Short To Feel Like Crap Podcast #306
54:03
Cathy and Todd talk about suffering and why we either transform it, or we transmit it (quote taken from Richard Rohr). They also discuss why it’s important to celebrate young women, why talking about sexuality is so important, why tampons and pads have a “luxury” tax, and what it means to be in the “8:30 club”. The first three people to purchase Cathy’s award–winning book, Living What You Want Your Kids to Learn through the Zen Parenting website will also receive a free copy of The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary. Other Resources Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 The Tribe Men's group Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/S5jS8Gsreps" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 03, 2016
Your Questions Answered Podcast # 305
56:32
We've been inundated with listener questions so we decided to dedicate an entire show to answering them. Below are the topics as well as the time stamps for each question: 3:15 Chakras and toddlerhood 14:42 Step-parents and an 8 year old with a huge personality 23:52 Preschool drop-off 30:22 Spanking 36:28 2 year old son with tantrums 43:25 Top 10 books We also mentioned a podcast that would be helpful for step parents which can be found @ http://www.wbur.org/2016/03/25/dear-sugar-episode-forty-eight<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/w-xZp8_pr7Q" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 29, 2016
Spring Clean Your Mind Podcast #304
56:30
Cathy and Todd discuss an article from the Chicago Tribune about getting rid of emotional and mental clutter. They process the devastation around Prince’s death, but Todd thinks he has alexithemia because he’s not as sad as everyone else. They also talk travel sports, small breakdowns, and Caddyshack.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/bUEdmKaPemI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 26, 2016
Do you have an intuitive or sensitive child? An interview with Dr. Therese Rowley (Part Two) #303
In the second part of our interview with Dr. Therese Rowley, Therese says Cathy has "clairsentience", she challenges me to remove love some of the walls i have built up, and gives parents of hyper-active children some holistic things you can do to help them. You can learn more about Therese by going to http://thereserowley.com/<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/DnRJA_ceBYU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 22, 2016
15 Seconds To Joy Podcast #302
49:40
Cathy and Todd explain how negative experiences stick immediately, but it takes 15 seconds of savoring a positive experience for it to imprint on the brain. They also discuss why judging or fighting someone doesn’t create change. Instead, we can recognize negative behavior and then role model a more rational and kind way to interact. A listener asks a question about work/life balance and they provide insight and resources.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/NML89nG5P40" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 19, 2016
Do you have an intuitive or sensitive child? An interview with Dr. Therese Rowley (Part 1) #301
31:29
Does your child seem intuitive, gifted, or sensitive? Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Therese Rowley, author, consultant, skilled intuitive and innovative educator who challenges us to see sensitive children through a new lens. This is part one of a two-part interview (part two will be posted next Friday).<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/W2pgkcO9KSY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 15, 2016
Emotional Hygiene Podcast #300
57:42
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of “emotional hygiene” (as explained by the Dalai Lama) and why boundaries lead to more compassion (as explained by Brenè Brown). They also discuss how we can subtlety (and often unconsciously) shame our kids, and how to become more aware of why and how we say things.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/UGkg6CjFOHE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 12, 2016
Forget Punishment, How About Kindness? Podcast #299
1:00:28
Cathy and Todd discuss the 60 Minutes report about the prison system in Germany and how they put rehabilitation above retribution. They also discuss the article in The Atlantic about punish-free parenting, Rocky Balboa’s great advice, and Tim McGraw’s Humble and Kind performance.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/XKEKDHWC3Ms" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 05, 2016
Kindness & EQ- Podcast #298
55:02
Cathy and Todd discuss how emotional intelligence and “cognitive control” lead to our ability to be kind. They also discuss the relationship between EQ, grit, and resilience, and why paying attention is the essential factor. Cathy and Todd will be focusing on kindness the entire month of April, starting with a talk on Tuesday, April 6th at Fitz’s Spare Keys at 7 pm titled Teaching Kids to Be Kind. Click here to register.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/oU6fBFVDSt4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 28, 2016
The Key To Self Understanding Podcast #297
53:43
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss self regulation and self organization and why it’s essential for self understanding and relationship building. They discuss the definition of the mind, how the brain processes emotion, and why the brain can always learn new things (neuroplasticity). They also discuss the hilarity and absurdity of the Walk of Life Project.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Y7K1R9f5MeI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 22, 2016
Teaching Your Kids About Money Podcast#296 An Interview With Bill Dwight From Famzoo.com
37:58
We interview Bill Dwight, the Founder of Famzoo.com.  Famzoo is an online family banking designed for kids, teens, and parents. With this amazing resource, it makes it easier for families earn, save, budget , and spend.  We've been utilizing Famzoo for several months and have loved it.  Listen in to help teach your children the power of money. To learn more about Famzoo- click on the Famzoo link on the lower right hand side of zenparentingradio.com  Make sure to enter "zenfinance" to get an extra month free.  You won't regret it.   Other Resources   Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 The Tribe Men's group   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.       [/et_pb_text][/et_pb_column][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section][et_pb_section admin_label="section"][et_pb_row admin_label="row"][/et_pb_row][/et_pb_section]<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/l6eE883ITQk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 18, 2016
Be Curious About Your Fear- Podcast #295
49:05
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss their experience at the Zen Parenting Conference, they process why it’s important to be curious about your fear, and they answer a listener’s question about feeling continuously triggered by negative people.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/7Rk1RL9zN0o" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 15, 2016
Diplomatic Parenting Podcast #294
53:55
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the definition of diplomacy and why it’s important in parenting as well as in government (micro and macro level). They also discuss the true and false self (as explained by D.W. Winnicott) and why the true self is the key to our integrity, compassion, and connection to others.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/lSy9pOO60tw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 08, 2016
Part 2- Divisive Issues: How Do We Talk, How Do We Listen? Podcast #293
35:46
This is Part 2 of this discussion, Part 1 aired on March 1st and can be found @ http://zenparentingradio.com/292 Cathy and Todd discuss the many issues raised at the Academy Awards (race, sexual assault, sexual abuse, the environment), why they are necessary to discuss, and what each of us can do to be more empathetic, open, and aware. This is Part 1 of a two-part discussion.  Other links mentioned in this podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=epKmOtDZj5Q     Other Resources Zen Gets Real 2016 Conference tickets are now on sale. Zen Gets Real Attendee And Sponsorship Information Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 The Tribe Men's group   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/q4bO7fqhEXU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 04, 2016
Part 1- Divisive Issues: How Do We Talk, How Do We Listen? Podcast #292
44:24
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the many issues raised at the Academy Awards (race, sexual assault, sexual abuse, the environment), why they are necessary to discuss, and what each of us can do to be more empathetic, open, and aware. This is Part 1 of a two-part discussion (Part 2 will air on Friday).<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/UZth_nRjX5Q" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 01, 2016
Grow Or Die Podcast 291
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss the literal and spiritual definition of grow or die, and share why this universal wisdom keeps us in alignment with ourselves and others. They also discuss the brain of an introvert and how it differs from an extrovert (click here to see the illustrations).<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ImeacGNDkwg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 26, 2016
Staying Connected And A Changing School System Podcast #290
54:35
[powerpress] Staying connected and a changing school system Cathy and Todd discuss why our relationship with our children needs to change and evolve as they age, and why it’s important to be creative in maintaining a connection. They also discuss major changes in the college admission process and how this will effect our children’s high school experience.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/11DPuQ9ykKI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 23, 2016
A Discussion With Dr. Shefali Tsabary (Replay) Podcast #289
38:44
This podcast is a replay of an interview we did with Dr. Shefali Tsabary who is our keynote speaker @ the Zen Gets Real Conference on March 11th and 12th.  We hope to see you there!!!! We interview Dr. Shefali Tsabary the author of the The Conscious Parent (with a forward written by the Dalai Lama) and her new book Out of Control  which questions why and how we discipline children. Some of the issues we discuss with Dr. Shefali: – What are the first steps we can take to become a more conscious parent? – What prevents us from being the parent that we want to be? – Why most discipline strategies don’t work. How parenting our children can help us heal our past wounds. – How to release guilt when we recognize our parenting challenges are less about our children issues and more about our issues. – Can our children be an instrument for our own personal growth? – How do we release the power of natural consequences? - See more at: http://zenparentingradio.com/shefali/#sthash.ZA8QwqMD.dpuf Other Resources Zen Gets Real 2016 Conference tickets are now on sale. Zen Gets Real Attendee And Sponsorship Information Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 The Tribe Men's group Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/5xJ2iJnSET8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 19, 2016
Who do we trust? Podcast #288
41:13
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss why wellness is more important than dollars, and why journalists who present both sides of a story keep us open and connected. They also discuss the friendship between Scalia and Ginsburg, why compassion in essential in all situations, and the tools we need to manage our anger.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/4cElJhzFjko" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 16, 2016
Can Youth Sports Be Fun AND Competitive? John O’Sullivan Says Yes Podcast #287 (Replay)
48:39
[powerpress] We speak with the Founder of Changing The Game Project John O'Sullivan. Their mission is to ensure that we return youth sports to our children, and put the ‘play’ back in ‘play ball.’ For every Tiger Woods and Andre Aggassi, there are thousands of others who are in it for the fun (until the adults take the fun out of it.)<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/aSMLFfah174" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 12, 2016
What Level Is Your Relationship? Podcast #286
53:44
Cathy and Todd discuss relationship “levels” (as explained by Tony Robbins) and how we can communicate and become better partners. They discuss how these levels can apply to our children and other relationships, and how we can be supportive and connected rather than enabling.   Other Resources Zen Gets Real 2016 Conference tickets are now on sale. Zen Gets Real Attendee And Sponsorship Information Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 The Tribe Men's group   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming. How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/u-XBxkexgco" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 09, 2016
Never Give Up- One Family’s Journey- Podcast #285
44:01
[powerpress] This is a follow-up interview from a podcast we did in October of 2014 titled Setting Boundaries With Love (Interview begins @ the 21:00 minute mark) At the time, Rick's wife Trish was battling with a rare form of Hydrocephalus and in need of exposure to raise funds for the medical expenses that came with this journey. We were happy to oblige. Fast forward to February of 2016 and we pick up where we left off in October of 2014- only this time Trish was able to join us for the interview. It's a heartfelt interview of the miracles of medicine as well as faith.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/inzZ9XBapfg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 05, 2016
Is Your Best Good Enough? Podcast #284
47:51
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss “doing your best” and why the definition of “best” is defined by the individual. They also discuss The Four Agreements, The Karate Kid, Best in Show, Inside Out, Canada’s Prime Minister, and why Flint Michigan is so heartbreaking.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/UVBpUHRPRmM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 02, 2016
From Dream To Reality- Fiction Writer Charlie Donlea- Podcast # 283
1:00:09
[powerpress] 1st time author Charlie Donlea shares his experience of bringing his dream of being a pubished author of his own suspense thriller into reality. His journey began all the way back in 2001 when he started his first manuscript. Perservering through many failures, obstacles, and challenges, Charlie never gave up on his dream. In this provactive interview, we explore inside the mind of Charlie to find out why he kept going even though all signs told him to quit.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ynFkVuVFgB4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 29, 2016
Do Our Words Connect or Disconnect? Podcast#282
51:32
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss how using certain words can turn people off, and using other, more inclusive words can build connectedness. They also discuss the most important thing Tim Robbin’s learned from his parents, the mysteriousness of the universe, and answer a few listener questions.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/whC86YlGTkI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 26, 2016
ADHD and Anxiety- A Conversation With Dr. Dan Martinez Podcast # 281
46:58
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy talk with Dr. Dan Martinez, Director of Comprehensive Clinical Services and licensed physician and surgeon who is Board Certified in Child, Adolescent and Adult Psychiatry. Dr. Martinez shares his experience with treating anxiety and ADHD, how it typically affects kids and adults, and what parents need to understand about both diagnoses.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/lQznOxNBE4E" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 22, 2016
Recognizing Spiritual Ego – Podcast #280
54:01
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss "spiritual ego" and why many teachers develop a sense of “specialness” around their knowledge or awareness. This can lead to a desire for power rather than an ability to live the message. They also discuss a listener question about how to talk to teens about drugs.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/XYqdkT5Qsb0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 19, 2016
Tara Mohr – Callings and Communication- Podcast #279
31:01
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd welcome back Tara Mohr, author of Playing Big and expert on women’s leadership and well-being. Tara explains what a “calling” really means, and she shares how women can communicate more effectively in the workplace and at home. Tara’s book is now in paperback - you can read more about her at taramohr.com.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/QEhHO2XhXLA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 15, 2016
Learn It, Then Live It- Podcast # 278
1:07:02
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss autonomous growth and relational growth and process why they are both essential. They also discuss the impact and passing of David Bowie, answer a listener question, and explain how to meet your goals through “temptation bundling”.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/59AiXc8oeVY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 12, 2016
Understanding Opiate And Heroin Addiction Podcast #277
47:58
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd talk with Kenji Oyasu, Executive Medical Director of the Brightside, a clinic dedicated to the treatment of prescription drugs and heroin addiction. He offers new insight to why this addiction is so deadly, why it can be a challenge to treat, and the new model of recovery that is offering hope and changing lives.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ob2ivD2OEeA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 08, 2016
5 Ways To Be Impressed This Year- Podcast # 276
49:13
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the things that can impress us this year versus the things that typically impress us (money, labels, “likes”). They also share how they handled their daughter’s desire to watch a scary movie, and they answer a listener’s question about what to do when a teenager is making poor choices.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/MsQ-H_vd3V0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 05, 2016
Less Busy, More Connected Podcast #275
52:04
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss how we can stay connected and curious about our kids lives. They also share a new perspective on being busy, and why contemplation is more important that “doing”. They reference the following books, blogs and quotes: Anna Quindlen’s book Loud and Clear. A blog titled Busy Is A Sickness by Scott Dannemiller The Victor Hugo quote – “To contemplate is to toil, to think is to do”. Randy Pauch’s book The Last Lecture<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/fcQzmtAROsY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 29, 2015
4 Gifts You Can Give Yourself Podcast #274
50:13
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss four gifts you can give yourself for the holidays and throughout 2016, and the mindfulness wisdom of Bill Murray and Billy Corgan.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/yJqLCr3PFSc" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 22, 2015
How To Change The World Podcast #273
1:01:43
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between the circle of influence and the circle of concern, and which one can actually change the world. They also discuss why worry isn’t necessary, how to make your newsfeeds more enjoyable, and how we can turn despair into hope.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/y0MY2Gr8apw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 15, 2015
Physical And Emotional Safety Podcast #272
35:05
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy talk to Jay Smith, creator of the MacGill First Aid Kit. While planning for an upcoming vacation, Jay has trouble finding a kit with all of the essential emergency supplies – so he MADE one. It’s an ideal holiday gift, and you can use coupon code zencode for a discount (Cathy and Todd have already bought three!). Jay also asks a question about his daughter’s recent jealously of her stepmom, and Cathy and Todd offer some support. If you're interested in ordering a family first aid kit, don't forget to enter the coupon code ($5.00 off and free shipping), by entering "ZENCODE" upon checkout.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Ni_hCAhtmE4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 11, 2015
The Importance Of Character Podcast #271
51:35
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of character and reference David Brooks’ new book The Road to Character. They also discuss suffering, getting your “loves” in order, and why their house felt like a scene from European Vacation this weekend.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Vm0CzovPQKg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 08, 2015
Smile At Your Intensity
42:02
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss the pressure children feel around homework and how we can support them rather than increase their anxiety. They process the meaning of inner disarmerment and why this individual practice will lead to a change in our immediate surroundings and world (outer disarmerment). They also discuss Mr. Mom, the Rocky movies, and Todds new coaching education.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ZNiQbr9NMi0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 01, 2015
When you want to contract, expand – Podcast #269
49:30
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s important to stay expand when we are in fear or crisis rather than contract and shut down. We have the capacity to function and make heart-centered choices even when we are afraid. They also discuss Mockingjay Part 2, Planes, Trains, and Automobiles, and a great question from a listener regarding the many different paths to “success”.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/h9y0wuT8lk0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 24, 2015
Talking To Our Kids About Paris- Podcast #268
56:43
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss talking to kids about tragic events such as the recent terrorist attack. They also discuss 10 things every middle schooler should know, and answer a few listener questions about sensitivity and technology. Click here to read Cathy’s blog about what to do after Paris.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ysJ3Mz6MfC4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 17, 2015
Understanding Your Child’s Identity Podcast #267
49:18
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss why children like to have something of their own to feel “special", and why it helps to normalize these feelings rather than shame them into thinking differently. They also discuss why normalizing feelings is reliant on the parent’s self understanding, and why it’s important to frame the world, experiences, and opportunities as abundant rather than limited.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/e0rnNfQTi9I" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 10, 2015
“All Teenagers Are Amazing” Part 2- Dr. John Duffy Podcast #266
40:24
[powerpress] In the 2nd half of this interview with Dr. Duffy, we talk about issues specific to teen-agers and our the topics covered includes empowering our sons, Brene Brown, and how to "manage" the boys who come to take out your teenage daughter. HINT- It does not include a shotgun over the fireplace and other difficulties of being a teenager in this day and age.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Ygggj6tEkrA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 06, 2015
How To Handle Criticism -Podcast #265
53:36
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss criticism, why it hurts so much and why it’s an inevitable part of life. They discuss why it’s important to speak up, even in the face of criticism, and how to offer constructive criticism rather than blame and guilt. They share personal stories about how they talk to each other about their pain, and why most of the pain stems from childhood. They discuss the wisdom of Elizabeth Gilbert and cartoonist Lynda Barry and how they deal with criticism in their creative lives.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ZF2i1RpMpII" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 03, 2015
“All Teenagers Are Amazing” – Dr. John Duffy Podcast #264
39:40
That is a quote from Dr. Duffy who visits us again in this two-part interview. We talk about issues specific to teen-agers and our the topics covered includes suicide, drugs and alcohol, technology, depression, and the difficulties of being a teenager in this day and age.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/W4PrWtQRq8U" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 30, 2015
How Do You Respond? Podcast #263
45:22
Cathy and Todd share some reactions to their kids behavior, why it’s important to recognize how you feel before your respond, and why understanding your response will keep you self-aware. They also discuss privilege, their upcoming interview with Dr. John Duffy, and why Todd thinks he’s being duped by strawberry companies.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Gw1Pd9VZAuM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 27, 2015
How to Know If You’re Conscious Podcast #262
34:02
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to live above and below the line, a consciousness tool taught by Jim Dethmer from the Conscious Leadership Group. Above the line means you think from a place of abundance, creativity, and openness, while below the line means you think defensively and rigidly and with a constant need to be right. This understanding affects our understanding of the workplace, our parenting, and most importantly ourselves.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/n2iz8iMdZuw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 20, 2015
Crying releases stress hormones- Podcast #261
48:45
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of grieving, the value of “keening”, and a listener asks a question steming from Susan Stiffelman’s book, Parenting with Presence. Todd shares his favorite quote about personal responsibility, Cathy tells a serendipitous story about the conference she attended, and they somehow work in Six Feet Under and Terminator 2.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/5HVeKB3-YDA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 13, 2015
Are kids’ sports taking over your life? Podast #260
53:19
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss why it can be challenging for families when kids are involved in youth team sports or travel leagues. They also discuss why valuing relationship above all else will make decision making so much easier, and why leaders who value relationship are the most successful.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/wqFDnuppkYo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 06, 2015
How To Change Your Thinking Podcast #259
50:31
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the effectiveness of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and why it’s more powerful than just focusing on behavior. They also discuss Tara Mohr’s five new takeaways about mindfulness and lovingkindness, and why Elizabeth Gilbert thinks fear is “boring”.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/_vx03bpLELk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 29, 2015
Children Know That Grace Is Given, Not Earned- Podcast #258
52:50
Cathy and Todd share the words of a 6-year-old girl who wants her divorced parents to stop fighting. She offers wisdom beyond her years, and wakes us up to what children know and what we need to remember. Her words are a form of grace, and being open to her words will deepen your awareness and remind you that grace often comes from the most uncommon places – other people, a sunset, an animal, or simply the willingness to notice what has always been there.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/R3SlUWEH9SA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 22, 2015
Change your words, change your life: Mindfulness vs Mindlessness
54:08
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the life-changing mindfulness research of Ellen Langer, author and professor from Harvard who has been researching mindfulness (and mindlessness) since the 70’s. She defines mindfulness as paying attention and being able to notice new things, while recognizing that experiences are based on the words and ideas that we attach to them. Ellen Langer was interviewed by Krista Tippet for the On Being Podcast. They also talk about different ways of dealing with sibling rivalry. Todd unveils his new technique in dealing with children being unkind towards one another.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/depOYyU2miQ" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 15, 2015
Brenè Brown, Rising Strong: The Reckoning
52:07
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book Rising Strong and focus on the first step, The Reckoning. Reckoning is how we engage and become curious about our feelings, our willingness to practice emotional intelligence. If we do not engage our feelings, if we deny and disengage, then our emotions “don’t go away; instead, they own us, they define us…” (from Rising Strong).<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/6J8-OK2lpsE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 08, 2015
Dr. Wayne Dyer: 10 Secrets To Success & Inner Peace
51:53
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd pay tribute to Wayne Dyer by sharing his Ten Secrets, and explain how Wayne influenced their lives and millions of others. They also discuss the Beastie Boys, Batdad, and why they dance before taping a podcast.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/I_M1bPjbyV0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 01, 2015
What does “Be Present” mean anyway?
52:03
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to be present, and how this knowledge can be turned into daily practice. They also discuss their differences when it comes to filling up a Saturday, why it’s important to dance with our fear, and why the Humans of New York Facebook page wakes us up to the world.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Kr4Dfah5c38" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 25, 2015
Do Boys Read Books About Girls?
54:11
[powerpress] Girls tend to read books with male protagonists (Harry Potter, Diary of a Wimpy Kid), but do boys read books with female protagonists? Todd and Cathy ask this question, as well as how men respond to female leads in movies and television (specifically their recent experience after seeing the movie Trainwreck, and why Amy Poehler once got mad at Jimmy Fallon in the SNL writer’s room). They also talk about Who’s the Boss, Family Ties, and why IBM and Netflix are changing their family policies.and they talk about Amy Schumer’s Football Town Nights sketch and why humor can open up important conversations.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/4btzWtZRaCM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 18, 2015
The Truth About Sex Education
53:21
[powerpress] *May not be appropriate for children* Cathy and Todd discuss John Oliver’s most recent rant on Last Week Tonight about sex education. He makes vital points about why abstinence-only education doesn’t work for all, why there's no required standards for sex education around the country, and why shame/guilt/fear do not change sexual behavior, they only negatively impact the way people feel about themselves. They also discuss why Elizabeth Smart believes abstinence-only sex ed can be harmful, and they talk about Amy Schumer’s Football Town Nights sketch and why humor can open up important conversations.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/wRyEp7JHTjg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 11, 2015
Dealing with “Victim Mentality”
54:26
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss why some people grow from difficult times, and why some people stay stuck and feel victimized by their experiences. They discuss the power of personal responsibility and why taking care of yourself and moving through challenge is a natural and necessary part of human evolution.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/CheFR7cuGY8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 04, 2015
I feel it, but is it true?
51:21
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss self-acceptance, and Todd offers a new understanding of his difficult emotions (with the help of Jeff Foster). They also discuss the vital distinction between fact and opinion, and process how life is full of paradox. They discuss Kathryn Schulz’s TED talk about the importance of being wrong, and why “to err is human”.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/RAkFCTooknA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 28, 2015
Walking Through Fire (Fixed)
52:57
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss their workshop with Tony Robbins, specifically their inspiring moments and new life lessons. Tony is an advisor to leaders around the world, a recognized authority on the psychology of leadership, negotiations, organizational turnaround, and peak performance, and he has been honored consistently for his strategic intellect and humanitarian endeavors.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/pAf8InHlO7k" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 21, 2015
Why Do I Talk This Way?
51:22
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss speech patterns, specifically discussing the new documentary Do I Sound Gay? by filmmaker David Thorpe. They also discuss the phenomenon of “upspeak” and how those who use it may not be taken seriously, and why the Kardashian voice or “vocal fry” is not only challenging on the ears, but also the vocal cords.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/NVXMxSgQrJY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 14, 2015
Reframing The Path Of Healing
47:17
[powerpress] Do you feel like you have been “working” on “healing” and that any sadness or discomfort means you are failing? Todd and Cathy discuss Jeff Foster and specifically his teaching that feelings and experiences will always be a part of us, and that the more we accept and understand this, the less challenging they will be. They also discuss Malala’s new documentary, share a passage from The Book of Awakening, and celebrate the U.S. Women’s Soccer Championship.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/vJ49YLzeDEo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 07, 2015
Finding Your Family’s Rhythm
42:35
[powerpress] When a spouse travels or works long hours, it’s hard to find a consistent family rhythm. And when an often-absent spouse is home for a day or two, it can throw off the daily rhythm and cause friction. How can we acknowledge and discuss this openly without offending each other? Cathy and Todd share their experience with this challenging topic, and demonstrate how this is relevant to all of our relationships.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ug1caqZh7Rg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 03, 2015
Do We Need To Fight With Our Teenager?
47:19
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss an article titled “Why mothers and teenage daughters fight” and question why and how these fights occur. Can we be self-aware when we are talking with our teenagers, and can we create space between our emotional experiences and how we react? It’s not easy, but it’s a worthy practice to keep family relationships healthy. Todd shares an inspirational story and Cathy talks about addictiveness of reality television.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/hWbXBcIkClI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 30, 2015
Listen, Allow, Support, Repeat
49:09
Cathy and Todd share a letter from a listener whose son discovers himself through dance, and how this discovery leads to self-aware parenting. It's an inspirational and emotional story about how to create a connected relationship with your child - you don't want to miss it. Steve is the father in this story has a part-time photography business which can be found here. Cathy and Todd also discuss Pixar's Inside Out.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/nkxwcYaPlUo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 26, 2015
Trade Criticism for Compassion
49:09
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss why self criticism and fear decrease our ability to create meaningful change, and why self compassion is essential for goal setting. They also discuss the “neurotic roommate” inside our head, why balance may not exist, and the big mistake at the end of The Karate Kid.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/65HAq2LbFF4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 23, 2015
Happiness vs. Pleasure
49:11
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss a blog by Mark Manson titled, Stop Trying to Be Happy. They discuss the difference between happiness and pleasure, and why "happiness is the process of becoming your ideal self". It's the pursuit of our ideal self, not the achievement of goals, that allows us to experience our "happy".<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/FsyVkCXtaf0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 19, 2015
Relationship Resilience
49:50
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss overdetermination, the recognition that multiple factors lead to a single outcome. They also process the importance of integrity and communication and how they play a role in our most important relationships. They reference M. Scott Peck’s The Road Less Traveled and Beyond, Pearl Jam, and the movies Blow, Poltergeist, and Honeymoon in Vegas. How does it all fit together? Listen and find out!<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/BdGqAyFmQoI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 16, 2015
Find Your Own Path
41:30
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful commencement speech by Jim Carrey, and also a thought-provoking quote by Ethan Hawke. They process why it's important to follow your own path and trust love instead of fear.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/kWGq47z6MlY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 12, 2015
No More Public Shaming
45:31
[powerpress] We discuss the public shaming of children, and how it can be detrimental to the child and your relationship. We discuss compassion and empathy, and how spreading anger or shaming will not create a better world. We also share some of Brenè Brown’s research around shame – specifically why secrecy, silence, and judgment will exacerbate it, and empathy will eradicate it.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/bhv3BAOTLfA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 09, 2015
Pronouns, Puberty, and Loss
44:35
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss Sheryl Sandburg’s moving tribute to her late husband Dave, and highlight the numerous lessons about present-moment living and finding meaning even in the darkest times. They also discuss Caitlyn Jenner and why transgender is an umbrella term with many different variables. Todd shares a blog about a dad who talks to his daughter about puberty, and why this can positively impact how a girl responds to her own development.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/CdgH_cvt7eA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 05, 2015
The Weaker Sex And Loving Kindness
50:33
[powerpress] Do you practice spreading loving kindness to yourself and others? “Metta” is tool that you can use AND share with your kids. Cathy and Todd also discuss why education and awareness play such a huge role in educating boys and changing societal norms.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Sqc2cpF0UBU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 02, 2015
The “Five Awareness Exercises” That Can Change Your Relationships
39:36
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the “five awareness” exercises that helps you maintain loving relationships, how to connect with a child who has different interests, and how Todd’s been handling his worry. They also discuss close talkers, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, and how you can support them in their Kickstarter Campaign for the ZPR Conference in March, 2016.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/HEmpEU648sI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 29, 2015
Zen Parenting- Conference With People We Love
49:05
[powerpress] Our “Conference With People We Love” and Dealing with Anxiety We are hosting our first-ever live event, and we launched a Kickstarter campaign to make it the BEST it can be! Our “Conference With People Will Love” is March 11/12, 2016, and we already have amazing speakers confirmed (Dr. Shefali, John O’Sullivan, John Duffy) – check out our campaign to become a sponsor, vendor, get your tickets (with VIP status!) or simply to support this exciting event. We hope you will join us, it’s going to be a fantastic weekend! We also discuss Todd’s issues with worry and anxiety, and why it’s so important to “release” a problem rather than “think through” a problem.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/92Zu6te9doM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 26, 2015
You are not defined by your diagnosis – A Conversation with Maddie McFadden
35:41
[powerpress] Maddie's world changed when she was diagnosed with Turners Syndrome in 5th grade, but it didn't define her, it simply allowed her to know herself so much better. Turners Syndrome comes with physical challenges and learning disabilities, and Maddie had to accept and endure both. Her story will remind you that we are so much more than a diagnosis, and that even our challenges can be our greatest gifts. Maddie is our niece and we know you will be inspired by her story - her motto is Be Fearless, and she puts her energy toward living these words.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/lh2EejZmPS8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 22, 2015
What Our Children Learn When We Run Away
43:39
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to “runaway” from our problems. It’s a lot more common then we realize, and when we do it, our children learn to do the same. They also discuss how to communicate with kids when they break the rules, why we should think before we judge other parents, and why David Letterman will be missed.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/LZZrcfsVEHs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 19, 2015
How Did We Get Here?
43:07
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss partnership and how slowly and incrementally we take on certain roles and get stuck in patterns. They process how to communicate what feels fair and balanced, and why communication is not one big talk, but rather many talks that lead to greater trust and stability. Effective communication with a partner leads to a more intimate relationship, and it serves as a training ground for how we communicate with others. Listen to this episode with your partner!<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/38LRWwQVx_E" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 15, 2015
Filtering Our Lives Through Social Media
52:25
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss this article about Madison, a girl who’s life appeared perfect on Instagram, but in actuality, she was struggling and took her own life. We process what it means when the inner world doesn't match the outer world, how social media shapes our perception of other people, and what we can learn from Madison. We also discuss the movie Beginners, and why it’s now in Cathy’s Top Ten favorites.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/70Pn57rlMK8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 12, 2015
“Overwhelmed” With Author Brigid Schulte
32:58
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd talk with Brigid Schulte, award-winning journalist for The Washington Post, and author of Overwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time. She shares why busyness has become the new status symbol, why moms are still the default caregivers/home managers, how kids are absorbing our stress, and why we should find more time for the present.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ik8B-VAI1x4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 08, 2015
What Do You Do When Your Child Rages?
51:18
Cathy and Todd discuss Bruce Jenner and Janet Mock and why understanding transgender helps us expand our awareness about everything. They also discuss how a listener handled his child’s rage, and they answer a listener question about how to handle it when your kid won’t practice her instrument. Even more important, they share their full list of top 10 favorite movies – they might surprise you! Other Resources Parent/Daughter date night!!!  Next in  is our ZPR community screenings is a documentary called The Empowerment Project brought to you by Zen Parenting Radio and CCS.  This film documents ordinary women doing extraordinary things.  It's on Monday, May 18th @ York Theater in Elmhurst.  Click here for tickets. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTIogIwn8U0 Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The POWER of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/FFNA2eWGBWs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 05, 2015
Free Range, Helicopter, Lawnmower Parenting
48:18
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss Bill Maher’s take on Free-Range Parenting and question why we judge other parents decisions. When we judge ourselves less, we judge others less (and vice versa). They share their own judgment stories, Cathy’s last Chicago Parent column, and more of their top ten movies.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/JJvSDq_ycyc" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 01, 2015
Sibling Rivalry- A Different Perspective (Take 3)
48:24
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss the meaning of “behavior is neutral” and share a personal story about deescalating sibling rivalry. They also discuss mindfulness, Cheryl Strayed, and why the movie Best in Show is so brilliant.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/08ejqErhPdk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 28, 2015
Kids In The House – A Conversation with Founder Leana Greene
17:51
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy talk with Leana Greene, Founder of Kids in the House. After becoming a mother of three, Greene decided to focus on raising her family and developed a strong passion for parenting and education. She spent her time reading parenting books and attending lectures to gain as much knowledge as possible.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Tq_bWX72Vtw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 24, 2015
Curse It, Nurse It, Rehearse It
41:20
When you are struggling, do you curse it, nurse it , and rehearse it? Or do you disperse it and reverse it? Todd and Cathy discuss all of these possibilities, and which choices lead to greater contentment. They also discuss Lionel Richie songs, new apps, why Cathy wears her earphones when she’s grocery shopping, and how Todd allowed his daughter to make her own choices this past weekend.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/dW8w3PNpO1o" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 21, 2015
Nothing is certain except death and TEXTS
45:53
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss mortality and question why we shy away from talking about something we all share. Todd references a book called Being Mortal by Atul Gawande, and talks about an important conversation he had with his 93 year old grandmother. They also discuss how cancelling on friends through text has become the new normal, and why it’s important to be impeccable with our word and never take anything personally (Two of The Four Agreements).<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/GgRCLP2zFuE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 17, 2015
Does Your Partner Give You Credit?
48:57
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s sometimes important to give your partner “credit” for introducing you to new ideas or experiences. Cathy admits that it was difficult when Todd first started doing yoga and getting interested in her line of work – she was excited for him, but she also felt like she losing a part of her identity.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/sJYVAti7dBI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 14, 2015
Roman Krznaric: Why empathy will change the world
28:19
[powerpress] We talk with Roman Krznaric, author, cultural thinker, and empathy expert. He has been named one of Britain’s leading popular philosophers, and he’s the founder of the Empathy Museum and the Empathy Library. Over half a million people have watched his RSA Animate video The Power of Outrospection (it’s a much watch!). Roman talks to us about the golden rule vs the platinum rule, how to raise empathetic kids, and why empathy has the power to change the world.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/50BxDOIIH-0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 10, 2015
Why empathy can get us out of the “hole”
46:05
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss empathy and how it relates to connection, self awareness, and parenting. They discuss how empathy is the necessary step, in all situations, toward real and meaningful change.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/WTKkYx0_nB4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 07, 2015
Equal Justice & Quantum Entanglement
48:08
[powerpress] On today’s show we discuss Bryan Stevenson, Executive Director of the Equal Justice Initiative, and why he is one of our heroes. We also discuss an episode of NPR's Invisibilia called Entanglement – specifically how it’s the explanation for why random people tell Cathy stories, and why she doesn’t like to answer the door for the pizza guy. Intrigued? You should be, this show goes deep!<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/4cVHPz_LQCI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 03, 2015
Scientology and the Nature of Ideology
48:23
[powerpress] On today’s show we discuss the documentary Going Clear: Scientology and the Prison of Belief, and why ideology shapes our culture and our lives. We also discuss positive psychology and mindfulness – we focus on why it’s important to notice strengths as we deal with our challenges.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/NXgFlu-5VZQ" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 31, 2015
Can Youth Sports Be Fun AND Competitive? John O’Sullivan Says Yes.
44:52
[powerpress] We speak with the Founder of Changing The Game Project John O'Sullivan. Their mission is to ensure that we return youth sports to our children, and put the ‘play’ back in ‘play ball.’ For every Tiger Woods and Andre Aggassi, there are thousands of others who are in it for the fun (until the adults take the fun out of it.)<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/9iiSsiKonFE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 27, 2015
Are your children free to “explore”?
38:49
Cathy and Todd discuss a New York Times article that makes a case for “free-range parenting”.  Why are we so fearful to let our kids roam free and have their own adventures, and do the statistics reinforce or dispute our fear? Parents have started calling the police when they see a child at the park unaccompanied – is this helpful or harmful to our way of living? They also discuss how to talk and stay connected to your child when they make a decision that disappoints you. The name of the article is The Case For Free Range Parenting by Clemens Wergin Other Resources Parent/Daughter date night!!!  Next in  is our ZPR community screenings is a documentary called The Empowerment Project.  This film documents ordinary women doing extraordinary things.  It's on Monday, May 18th @ York Theater in Elmhurst.  Click here for tickets. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTIogIwn8U0 Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. It's winter time which means it's time for an upgrade on your hat wear.  Don't you owe it to your ears to keep 'em warm?  Click here to order. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/jytnFwZWeSo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 24, 2015
What to do when life stinks
42:28
[powerpress] You’ve been let down, put down, you’ve failed, and you’ve had your heart broken. Once we reach a certain age, it’s a given that we will have dealt with lots of life’s challenges. But then what do we do?<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/mo6X6rM4GP0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 20, 2015
Pardon The Interruption
55:23
[powerpress] On today’s show we discuss Interruption Science, the study of the effects of interruptions on job performance. Not only do interruptions challenge our job performance, but they challenge our parenting skills and our ability to feel calm and happy.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/2gBdlPlJJNs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 17, 2015
Radical Optimism For Raising Teens and Tweens- Dr. John Duffy
44:20
[powerpress] We speak with Dr. John Duffy the author of The Available Parent- Radical Optimism For Raising Teens and Tweens. He talks to us about how to minimize conflict and maximize satisfaction in your relationship with your child.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/PKdRPPCVhL4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 13, 2015
Are The Men In Your Life Lonely?
55:18
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss why boys and men can experience emotional isolation and loneliness due to a lack of meaningful relationships with male friends.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/BHHOBd7nDvI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 10, 2015
Stephen Hawking thinks our greatest threat is…
39:51
[powerpress] Agression. British theoretical physicist and cosmologist Stephen Hawking believes that the greatest threat facing us today is our inability to “correct our aggression”.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/YCANRrZOAiY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 06, 2015
Let’s fulfill our potential!
46:40
[powerpress] We discuss the book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success – How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential, specifically the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset by Carol Dweck.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/U4Ob0wQ4mw4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 03, 2015
From Role to Soul: 15 Shifts on the Awakening Journey by Annie Burnside
40:16
[powerpress] We speak with Author Annie Burnside about her book "From Role to Soul: 15 Shifts on the Awakening Journey" From her work with many who have awakened, Annie has learned that what it takes for us to finally quit trying to awaken, and simply awaken, is highly individualized.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/S9T6G_13f-Q" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 27, 2015
And The Oscar Goes To…
1:00:51
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd discuss the Oscars, specifically all of the amazing speeches and shout-outs for social change. They answer a listener’s question about a son that doesn’t want to be involved in extracurricular activities, and another question about how to parent together with different philosophies.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/JqOvtGTReEc" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 24, 2015
My Kids Don’t Listen To Me
47:06
[powerpress] We discuss Cindy Crawford’s non-photoshopped picture that went viral and how women were normalized by its authenticity. We also discuss how to see situations from a child’s perspective and why it made sense when our youngest daughter ate a sleeve of Hershey kisses – instead of insisting that our kids listen to us, we can make sure we are listening to them. A listener appreciates how his partner tells him the truth, and we discuss the importance of being thoughtful when offering feedback to someone you love.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/9TPtnKZxPr8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 17, 2015
Play Big with Tara Sophia Mohr
36:25
[powerpress] Cathy and Todd talk to Tara Mohr, an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. She is the author of Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message, and she’s the creator of the Playing Big leadership program for women. Cathy first heard Tara Mohr at an Emerging Women conference, and she fell in love with her message and book. Listen as Tara talks about why women get blamed for not playing big, the two kinds of fear that hold us back, and why our inner mentor is our greatest guide. Find Tara at http://www.taramohr.com/ and read her viral blog post, 10 Rules for Brilliant Women.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/SiygGKLN92E" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 13, 2015
“Not everything that counts can be counted…
40:30
[powerpress] And not everything that can be counted counts." Albert Einstein Today we discuss our workshop with Dr. Daniel Siegel, Psychiatrist and Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute, where we learned more about mindfulness and how it can change every aspect of our lives AND our children’s lives.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/7XF2p6dNNQA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 10, 2015
5 Ways To Raise Kind Children
44:31
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss a blog that offers 5 ways to raise kind children. They also talk about “dementia of the pre-occupied”, not a true diagnosis, but a great description of what it feels like when you begin forgetting why you walked into a room or what you planned to say next.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/bXA7eFCQ5lg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Feb 03, 2015
Things People Say That Aren’t True
47:09
[powerpress] This week Todd and Cathy bust open these so-called “facts” to recognize how these negative belief systems slow us down or keep us stuck. They also discuss “mini freedoms” and why they are so important to busy parents.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/wWFPI5enGTU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 27, 2015
Sleep Trouble? Dr. Darius Is In The House
46:38
[powerpress] We speak with Darius A. Loghmanee, MD Attending Physician, Sleep Medicine; Assistant Professor of Pediatrics, Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine. We cover all the bases from infants to adults.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/QJkUt1K-SgM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 23, 2015
Actions Express Priorities
49:49
[powerpress] Todd and Cathy discuss why our actions dictate our priorities (a Gandhi quote), and how investigation into our priorities tells us a lot about what we think and believe. They also discuss Rob Bell’s new podcast (The Robcast) and his teaching about why “good can be the detriment of best”.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/tHMAg2nkMjM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 20, 2015
It all starts with connection
47:34
[powerpress] On today’s show Cathy and Todd talk about why connection is essential if we want our children to listen and cooperate. If we are seeking changes in our children’s behavior, we need to we focus our attention on deepening the relationship and creating daily connection.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/1B-WvBmxEpo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 13, 2015
Does your partner have your back?
48:30
[powerpress] A listener shares how her husband has her back – he tells the kids that he loves them, but he loves their mom the most. We also discuss how negative behavior from your children is a method of communication – instead of yelling or punishing, consider asking questions and offering some attention.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/q8jYc1s6yYk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jan 06, 2015
Detachment vs Non Attachment- What’s the difference? (And a follow up on spanking)
48:56
[powerpress] They sound the same, but there is a distinct difference between detachment (giving up) and non attachment (opening up). If you learn the difference, forgiveness will become easier and you will inevitably experience more love in your life.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ii5A0qGB2n0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 30, 2014
Are you a master or a disaster?
45:44
Cathy and Todd talk relationships and discuss and article (link below) from The Atlantic called "Masters of Love"  In the article, it talks about the most current research about “master” and “disaster” partnerships. The biggest take away? If your partner sees a bird and points to it, look at the bird and acknowledge you’ve seen it. This is a metaphor for aspects of your relationship! Also, do you scan your relationship for kindness or for contempt? Be conscious of what you are looking for, because what you focus on grows. Todd shares some money tips (he loves money tips!), they play some clips from Frosty the Snowman, they laugh a lot, and they ask listeners to comment on how their partner showed up for them. Go to the Zen Parenting Radio website and click “send us a voice message” – share a brief story about why your partner has your back. "Masters of Love" Article by Emily Esfahani Smith Other Resources Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/2wx8bfeTgDg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 23, 2014
What kind of parent are you?
48:39
Today we talk different parenting styles from a blog by Denise Stirk, Malala’s Nobel Peace Prize speech, and Todd shares more money tips. We also talk about why the best choices are made responsibly (rather than just running away or pretending something isn’t happening), and we answer a question about whether sleep training is practical option for a 3 year old. The link to hear a snapshot of Malala's speech can be found below... http://www.upworthy.com/shes-known-as-malala-but-when-she-revealed-her-other-names-i-got-teary?c=upw1 Other Resources Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/i0eM11_kNv4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 16, 2014
Puberty & 401K’s
51:04
Why are girls going through puberty early? Cathy and Todd discuss a recent NPR interview with the authors Julianna Deardorff and Louise Greenspan of The New Puberty. The book looks at the percentage of girls who are going through early puberty and the environmental, biological and socioeconomic factors that influence when puberty begins. They also discuss why sexuality is an ongoing communication, not a one-time conversation. Todd talks about Tony Robbins new book (Money: Master the Game), 401K’s, and why everybody needs to know more about money. The website Todd referred to that compared 401K plans can be found here.   Cathy also shares some Zen wisdom that’s set the stage for her own self awareness. Other Resources Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/27DtMAFJ0Yg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 09, 2014
Are You a Crab in a Pot?
46:01
Do you let others grow and expand or do you keep pulling them back down into the pot? When you try to crawl out and try something new, do family/friends/co-workers pull you down or deter you? When you change or grow it can be quite uncomfortable for the people around you. Just like crabs in a pot, we pull back the ones who are crawling out because change can feel risky and unpredictable. We also discuss how Billy Corgan reacted to Anderson Cooper’s slight. How would you handle public ridicule? We play some clips from our discussion with Dr. Darius, sleep expert who we interviewed for our next Conversations with People We Love, and Todd brings back Tournament of Bad because he’s got some bubble wrap issues. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0e5dB5BkxI Other Resources Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/D1jF4MwLrQc" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Dec 02, 2014
Preserve Your Marriage By Having “Mini Meltdowns”
48:33
Todd & Cathy share a marriage challenge where Cathy was able to speak up (not easy), and Todd was able to really listen (also not easy). In couplehood- Can we allow our partner to share their pain without taking it personally? Are we brave enough to ask for what we really want? Instead of preaching to others, can we begin to offer what we want to receive, love instead of fear, and BE the change we want to see in the world? Today Cathy and Todd talk about the challenges of today’s culture, but also the signs of meaningful change. They also talk about why we should trust our children to make good decisions rather than worry or “freak out”. Todd shares clips from Planes Trains and Automobiles because it’s Thanksgiving! We are grateful for you! Other Resources Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering  for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st.  Click here for more details.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OS_AZt6pds&list=UUvdNYzqMwvAcwP0alEyHfPw Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/NegCxcgNxJs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 25, 2014
Teaching Girls to Love Themselves
39:27
We talk with Mary Ellen Young & Sandra McDonnell about their book, Elements for Girls: A Fun and Engaging Self-Discovery Project. This book supports preadolescent and teenage girls on their journey of self awareness, and offers them a sense of acceptance and empowerment as they grow. We shared their book with our Be U girls, and have gotten tremendous feedback. Listen as we discuss the challenges faced by young girls and how to support them, and why this book may be the first step toward meaningful discussions. Other Resources Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering  for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st.  Click here for more details.   Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/h3kLh9F0nyk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 21, 2014
Which Wolf Will You Feed?
43:02
Todd & Cathy discuss the “two wolves” parable and how we can use this when we are teaching our kids. An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life... "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy. "It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. "One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego. "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. "This same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?" The old chief simply replied, "The one you feed." Do you let your children surprise you or do you plan everything for them? Do you tell them how to compete, or do you let them figure out what competition means to them? Is true competition based on internal goals (doing the best of your ability) or external validation (being first/being better than others)? This week Cathy and Todd discuss these things and share how their children have been developing their own interests from a place of self understanding rather than obligation. Other Resources Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering  for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st.  Click here for more details.   Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. In person workshop focusing on Sleep Strategies, Symptoms, and Solutions for your Child.  Click here for more info... Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/n3N7p-KHRSM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 18, 2014
Are You A Naysayer To Your Kids?
46:49
On today’s show we discuss why it’s important to support children’s dreams, and why it’s important to do what you love. We talk about Dave Grohl, Jim Morrison, Billy Corgan, and other famous people who realized their dream regardless of what they were told. Parents can redefine what it means for their children to be successful, and they can focus their energy on acceptance and belonging. This results in children who are intrinsically motivated and who have a sense of self worth. Michael Jordan's view of failure. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JA7G7AV-LT8 Alan Watts- What if money was no object? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSyHWMdH9gk Other Resources Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering  for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st.  Click here for more details.   Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. In person workshop focusing on Sleep Strategies, Symptoms, and Solutions for your Child.  Click here for more info... Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.    <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/B-D98jd6xrk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 11, 2014
Support For Our Sons
30:36
We interview Matt Theodores who is the director of Maine Boys To Men. Boys To Men supports the happy, healthy, non-violent development of boys and those who help raise them. By working with parents, teachers, coaches, boys and girls, Boys to Men challenges the pervasive messaging that defines masculinity in terms of violence, harassment, apathy and sexual conquest. Their programs support empathy, tolerance, respect, leadership, and critical thinking. In the interview, we discuss the focus of  their program: Mission The Mission of Boys to Men is to reduce interpersonal violence, specifically male violence against women and girls, and support the development of emotionally fluent, civically engaged boys. Boys to Men will: • Provide assistance and educational resources to boys and those who help raise them. • Provide programming to students which challenge traditional gender stereotypes and sexism. • Increase community awareness about the challenges facing boys and the corresponding bias and violence against girls and women. Vision Boys to Men envisions a world in which: • Boys and men are loved and valued for who they intrinsically are without regard to arbitrary cultural stereotypes of masculinity, femininity, and gender roles. • All boys have the opportunity to develop into healthy men, supported by adult mentors who model healthy masculinity and respectful, nonviolent relationships. • The absence of violence and fear frees all people to be caring and productive members of society. Core Values Community Responsibility for Raising Healthy Boys: • It is the responsibility of the entire community to raise healthy, happy, non violent boys. • Adult male investment in the raising of boys is an indispensable component of transforming boys into men. Non-violence: • Violence is not the solution to any problem or conflict. • Violence prevention is an important responsibility of boys and men. • Every person has the right to live free of threats or acts of violence or abuse. Gender Justice: • Traditional media and cultural representations of masculinity and femininity are too narrowly defined and contribute to destructive and damaging behavior towards individuals of all genders and ages. • We are committed to eliminating the inequalities and institutional injustices that result from these traditional media and cultural representations of masculinity. Respect: • The ability to honor all people regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity and/or religion is essential to healthy development. • Respecting differences is a learned skill/ability and therefore young people must be taught to accept and value themselves, others, and the world around them. Other Resources Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering  for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st.  Click here for more details.   Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent d...<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/3Rg3stV-R38" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 07, 2014
Our 200th Podcast Celebration!
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We've made it to 200! We celebrate by hearing from our listeners and by listening to some of our "greatest hits". We also talk about the intention of Zen Parenting and why self awareness leads to more connected families and eventually, a more connected world. Thanks for listening, we appreciate you! We announce the release of Cathy's new book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting as well as our two week Self-Aware Virtual Retreat.  Information can be found below. Other Resources Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering  for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st.  Click here for more details.   Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ExAzfR6EhSM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Nov 04, 2014
Don’t be afraid of fear
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Do you get annoyed by your fear? Are you tired of being afraid? We discuss how to shift the way we look at fear. Pema Chodron said, Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth, so maybe our fear is trying to help us, heal us, push us closer to who really are. We never stop being afraid, but we can begin to have a gentler relationship with the discomfort. We discuss how to talk to your kids about hitting - punishment and consequences may not be working, but how about a down-to-earth meaningful discussion. What is your child hoping to achieve by hitting? How you can support your children when they feel like hitting? What tools can your children use instead of hitting? Instead of using fear or shame, we can shift the focus to the feelings behind the hitting. Todd shares his weekend retreat experience with The Mankind Project. He was awakened to a whole different definition of masculinity. Other Resources Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering  for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st.  Click here for more details.   Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Registration can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/yBGrpFOnuyQ" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 28, 2014
Alfie Kohn encourages us to raise “reflective rebels”
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Our guest Alfie Kohn, author of  The Myth of the Spoiled Child, says that the negativity thrown at parents and the supposedly narcissistic kids they are raising is unfounded. Kohn says parents should work to raise kids with high self esteem, and that the fashionable belief that kids must develop grit and self-discipline through failure and suffering is unproven and often counterproductive. A few of the topics we discuss with Alfie: Warm responsive parenting is often confused with over indulgent and permissive parenting Punishment and rewards don't work Competition is uniquely counterproductive We want to raise "reflective rebels" Other Resources Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book. Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/mmU_Bm5C1pA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 24, 2014
Setting Boundaries With Love
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We are always told to avoid "toxic" people, but sometimes it's difficult to completely cut ties. This is when we learn to set boundaries. Cathy shares a metaphor she found in Glennon Melton's latest blog - the reason we can see the beauty of a tiger behind bars is that we are safe from being devoured. If we don't set up our own boundaries (bars), then we risk allowing others to take advantage of us (and we miss their beauty!). We also share the website worldpulse.com  - it allows women from all over the world to communicate with each other and transform their circumstances. At 22:00, we interview Todd's good friend Rick Williams.  Rick shares the story of his wife Trish - for the last 19 months she has been dealing with Hydrocephalus. Rick has persevered to support Trish in unbelievable ways, but they have reached an impass - recovery is possible, but insurance has run out. To learn more and donate, please visit Trish's fund raising page here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM-MH0b6w44&feature=youtu.be Other Resources We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? It's on Wednesday, October 22nd @ 8:00 Central.  The discussion revolves around assessing your child's sleep behavior and the effects on overall development.  Register by clicking here.  $15.00 to register.  An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below.  It's called "Finding Connor Deegan" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/YBZE1QBsgoI" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 21, 2014
Are you supporting your partner and hurting yourself?
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Are you supporting your partner instead of listening to your own internal knowing? Are you choosing to support rather than voice your opinion? Supporting your partner and kids is important, but if you do it by hurting yourself, it can create resentment and disconnection. Cathy and Todd go deep on this one (think Zen Parenting grad school) and ask listeners to practice extreme self awareness. If you take care of yourself first, and do what feels right, it may create an environment for others to do the same. Cathy talks about Emerging Women, the conference she attended in New York this weekend. There were so many amazing speakers, and they all shared a similar message. Success comes from the inside, find your joy, and make a life, not a living. It's time to bring female leadership into the workplace and into the world - it will lead to greater strength, compassion, forgiveness, creativity, and balance. Other Resources We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? It's on Wednesday, October 22nd @ 8:00 Central.  The discussion revolves around assessing your child's sleep behavior and the effects on overall development.  Register by clicking here.  $15.00 to register.  An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below.  It's called "Finding Connor Deegan" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE Shameless plug for Cathy's sister's S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew? http://www.sosclorox.com/ Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/uGhVEqP6Xro" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 14, 2014
Down Syndrome- One Parent’s Story
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Our friend Shawn Bowen tells her story about her son Matthew who was diagnosed with down syndrome in the hospital 4 days after he was born. Matthew is now 7 and is amazing as he was when he showed up seven years ago.  Shawn talks about her initial reaction to Matthew's diagnoses, advocating for her son in a school system, Matthew's health challenges, and how the perception of down syndrome has changed for the better as time goes by.  Hope you enjoy... Other Resources We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? The discussion revolves around assessing your child's sleep behavior and the effects on overall development.  Register by clicking here.  $15.00 to register.  An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below.  It's called "Finding Connor Deegan" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE Shameless plug for Cathy's sister's S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew? http://www.sosclorox.com/ Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ABnayVEFHQw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 10, 2014
You don’t need to put your kids in a class
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http://youtu.be/DATKrf42eJY Do your kids love to dance, or play sports, or be artistic at home? Do you keep insisting that they need to take a class?  We all want what is "best" for our kids, and that often means getting them into the "best" class with the "best" teacher at the "best" facility  The intention is based in love, but what if your kid doesn't want to take a class? Maybe he/she just wants to enjoy the creative process without being told what to do. We can always offer a class or opportunity for growth, but our kids know when they are ready to know more, and sometimes they don't need as much guidance as we think they do. A few examples are Ballerina Mindy Copeland who didn't start dancing until she was 13, and Saturday Night Live comedians Fred Armisen and Kristen Wiig who didn't start their life in comedy until their early 20's https://screen.yahoo.com/weekend-garth-kat-mothers-day-000000363.html We also answer two questions from our listeners - one who's husband is displeased with his work and allows his feelings to affect the family, and the other is a mom who feels that time-outs are helping her son - she questions herself after listening to last week's podcast on time-outs. We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? The discussion revolves around assessing your child's sleep behavior and the effects on overall development.  Register by clicking here.  $15.00 to register Other Resources Shameless plug for Cathy's sister's S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew? http://vimeopro.com/bottlerocket/sos-pads-who-knew If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/v8nAhXz7xJs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Oct 07, 2014
Are Time-outs Hurting Your Child?
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Time-outs are typically viewed as an effective parenting technique, but the latest brain research suggests that they may be making things worse. Instead of using time-outs as a break, parents have used them as punishment. This isolates the child and eliminates the possibility for connection and compassion at a time when they need it most.  We discuss the blog written by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, where they share how the latest brain research have proved time-outs ineffective. We share an update about Erin and Aaron Kreiger - they shared their journey of grief and infant loss back in June - (click here for Part 1 and Part 2 ), as well as a blog titled  25 ways to ask your kids "So how was school today?" Other Resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/pZGeSP1zmpg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 30, 2014
Anxiety and Gender Equality
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Have you heard of He for She?  This campaign, headed by the UN,  is asking men to stand up and support gender equality - not just for the sake of women, but also for their own freedoms and for the welfare of our nation. Emma Watson is the Ambassador for He for She, and she gave an amazing speech yesterday in front of the UN.  She was given a well-deserved standing ovation.  Click here to check out HeForShe. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9SUAcNlVQ4 Todd reads a few questions from listeners about childhood anxiety. Cathy talks about the importance of being self aware, practicing self care, and why finding our calm can create calm in our kids. She also suggests that we ask kids how we can support them - if kids are met with understanding and compassion rather than fear and shame, they can usually offer their own solutions for change. Todd brings back "Tournament of Bad" and explains why he is frustrated with Sharon Osbourne. Other Resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Ru_QBNz4Pu8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 23, 2014
Adrian Peterson, spanking, and waking up
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In this "special edition" episode of ZPR, we discuss spanking and hitting, especially how it relates to the Adrian Peterson case. Three-fourths of our country still believes in spanking as an appropriate method of discipline, so instead of pointing fingers and demonizing, let's discuss, understand, and pay attention to why and how this became acceptable. Emotions, outbursts, and negative behavior are all messages; our children's way of communicating needs and challenges. Is causing them physical pain the best way to handle their self expression? Instead, can we take responsibility for the energy we bring, pay attention to our ability to listen and empathize, and focus on creating a connected and trusting relationship with our kids? In 1989 the United Nations proposed The Rights of a Child , this identified the human rights of a child, and made corporal punishment illegal.  38 countries ratified this resolution - the only two countries who did not were Somalia and the United States. As people and as parents we are supposed to grow and evolve, we are supposed to learn new ways of being. When it comes to spanking or harming a child in a physical way, we can break the cycle and wake up to a new way of relating to our kids. We posted a previous podcast on spanking which can be found here. Other Resources Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat.  Highlights of last years retreat can be found here. If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/HugqJLjkvak" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 18, 2014
And these children that you spit on…
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....as they try to change their worlds....are immune to your consultations, they're quite aware of what they're going through - David Bowie's famous line from the song "Changes" sums up our misunderstanding of children today. Todd is sick of hearing people say kids are more spoiled than ever or kids are narcissistic, it was never like that when I was young...."The Myth of The Spoiled Child", a book by Alfie Kohn, proves that these assertions are simply not true. We play a few clips from the documentary "Moving Forward" - it helps us understand and respect the impact we have on our children.  More specifically we discuss the importance of two things that go wrong in childhood- things that should not happen, but do (abuse, neglect, etc.) and things that should happen, but don't (have you ever heard of the term proximal abandonment?) The full feature can be found on Netflix, but you can watch a 30 minute clip by clicking here.   We also discuss some improvements we have made to Be U, Inc, and how Cathy and I scared our kids by coming home an hour later than we promised - listen to how we navigated this challenging situation. Other Resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/dnQTdPr8NW4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 16, 2014
Eliminate Morning Meltdowns
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Our daughter was struggling to get out of bed this morning - struggling to get dressed, struggling to eat breakfast.  The trick to dealing with a scenario like this is to check yourself before responding (even if you have to fake that you are not frustrated). If we meet this situation with a sense of calm and trust natural consequences, we may be able to sidestep some possible landmines. We discuss how to support your loved ones when they are grieving. Todd shares his insights after losing his mother last week. Power School is an on-line resource that monitors our daughter's progress at her school on a daily basis.  We must balance out the positives and negatives of such a resource and figure out what works best for both parent and child. We also discuss the best way to create change in your life.  The answer is more simple than you think.  Sometimes it's as easy as "do something different." Other resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America's Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.      <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/nz3jb9Sjk0g" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 09, 2014
For Todd’s Mom (Rebroadcast)
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Instead of posting a new podcast, we are reposting one of our favorites, the one where we interview our moms. Unfortunately, Todd’s mom passed away last weekend, and we wanted to share this to honor her. We share some great stories, have some great laughs, and near the end, Sharon (we call her GG) shares how at peace she is with her family. Please listen and enjoy – and even more important, be good to each other. In honor of Mother's Day, we invited our moms to talk about what we were like as kids.  We also talk about the changes that have taken place from the time they were kids (a.k.a. the olden days) to  raising us in the 70's - we also discuss how their grandchildren are being raised. We get nostalgic and we have a lot of laughs. We love our moms! Other resources If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America's Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/rnuETDterPE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Sep 02, 2014
Grieving The Loss Of A Pet
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We lost our "Zen Bunny" Greeley last week and it was a shock to our family.  How do we deal with the grieving process, and how do we help our children deal with their sadness?  As parents we need to allow our children to grieve, and respect that it's an individual process. We also discuss how to handle "disrespect" from our children - are they trying to be mean, or are they trying to communicate something? If we can do our best to not be offended and communicate in a productive way, it will keep our relationships healthy. Have you seen the movie "Boyhood"?  It's a special movie and we give a quick review of this incredible film. We also answer a listener's question about how to deal with energy vampires. Other resources https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IiDztHS3Wos Donate to Red Door Shelter If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America's Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/sMDfxHH7JTU" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 26, 2014
Stop Teaching Our Kids To Kill
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We discuss the newly revised version of  "Stop Teaching Our Kids To Kill" a book written by Lt. Dave Grossman and Gloria DeGateano, Founder and CEO of the Parent Coaching Institute. Originally published in 1999, the book is updated and includes even more indisputable research that demonstrates the affects of violence on the child and adolescent brain. We also talk about the "Ignore No More" app created by a mom who wanted her son to respond to her texts/calls, and also Cathy's blog titled , "Want Change, Then Rethink". We also discuss why mini-breakdowns are the key to a healthy marriage (or any other relationship!). Other resources: If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America's Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/qpXPYJjLgXw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 19, 2014
Robin Williams, Mental Illness, and Back To School Anxiety
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Robin Williams' death prompts a discussion about mental illness and depression.  We play some clips from his most meaningful roles as well as some of his stand-up. Mental illness carries a stigma that makes asking for help difficult.  We support a group called NAMI (National Association of Mental Illness) and we discuss the importance of removing the stigma from mental illness.  A few other clips discussed in the show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3yqXeLJ0Kg&list=PLZPBiTEeqgyqoiyay3UOAQoEwJO3r3tEI ****Warning- the clip below has explicit language https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wi-JlvBCl3A We also discuss Cathy's blog about back to school anxiety - she suggests feeling it rather than avoiding it - this helps you process your feelings so you can be more available to your children. Other resources: Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/re3tvu0OaMg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 12, 2014
We choose what’s familiar and what it means to be a “sex-positive” parent
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Sometimes we make decisions based on old patterns from childhood, even though they are unnecessary or unhelpful today. The first step toward understanding why we make certain decisions is to become more self aware and introspective. It also necessitates listening to other viewpoints and being conscious of our own defensiveness. Our children, spouse, and friends can all act as mirrors - allow them to help you see yourself better. For example, when Todd was younger he always asked friends to come over/join his family get-togethers because it reduced the possibility of family chaos (everyone was on their best behavior). But as a father in a calmer household, he still feels a "need" to have others around rather than just be present with his family. This "need" is based in an old pattern, an outdated method of protection that is no longer necessary. But it takes self awareness to recognize this - what are your outdated patterns? We also discuss an amazing blog written by Lea Grover called "This Is What Sex-Positive Parenting Really Looks Like" . We open up about how best to treat the topic of sexuality with your children. It starts by finding a sense of comfort with the topic, and deciding what values you would like to impart. Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender?  Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ATgNFvfxaYM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Aug 05, 2014
Domestic abuse: Is the NFL sending the right message?
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The NFL and Comissioner Roger Goodell handed down a punishment to NFL player Ray Rice for allegedly knocking out his fiance in an Atlantic City Casino.  Some players have been suspended for 5 games for memorabilia violations, others 4 games for violating the league's drug policy.  Ray Rice received a suspension of ..... wait for it ..... 2 games!  We discuss the inconsistencies of this decision and why this sends the wrong message to players and society. Two other resources  supplied by one of our listeners can be found @ http://www.ncadv.org/need-help/what-is-domestic-violence and http://www.injuryclaimcoach.com/domestic-violence-help.html We also role play a conversation Cathy and I overheard during breakfast - a little girl wanted to share a story with her grandma, but Grandma was in "teaching" mode and missed a big opportunity for connection. We discuss how to listen and communicate with your children so you can both feel heard and appreciated. The Aspire App for victims of domestic abuse as presented by Dr. Phil. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qooHj4QLh3s Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/_VNXoBShMRc" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 29, 2014
The Meaning of Life
46:09
Is there a difference between a happy life and a meaningful life?  We explore the subtle differences and why this understanding can change your life.  We discuss a blog by Jed Diamond (Founder of the health program "Men Alive") titled How the Science of a Meaningful Life Can Help Us Live Joyfully and Well: Happy people satisfy their wants and needs, but that seems largely irrelevant to a meaningful life. Happiness involves being focused on the present, whereas meaningfulness involves thinking more about the past, present, and future—and the relationship between them. Meaningfulness is derived from giving to other people; happiness comes from what they give to you. Meaningful lives involve stress and challenges. Self-expression is important to meaning but not happiness. In a recent New York Magazine article they summarize a study that concludes Men Would Rather Give Themselves Electric Shocks Than Sit Alone With Their Thoughts. We discuss why we're so uncomfortable with our minds. In this week's Hit 'N Run Topic we discuss the new development regarding Archie's Comic Digest. Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ehxaaIIx_AM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 22, 2014
Do You Need to Be Right, or Can We Agree to Disagree?
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The topic of contraception and women's rights can be so emotionally charged, it often leads to to yelling and judgment. But our listener, Charles, left us a respectful and informative message sharing his viewpoint. Can we disagree but still listen to each other in a respectful manner? It takes awareness and compassion, but it's always possible. We also talk about listening with an "Empty Cup": Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era, received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen.  Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor's cup full, and then kept on pouring.The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. "It is overfull. No more will go in!""Like this cup," Nan-in said, "you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?" Sometimes we think it's easier to complain about the perceived "shortcomings" of our loved ones rather than deal with the problem. In the long run, this can be the tougher way to go - communication breaks down and resentment builds up. We share some of our personal stories of discussing the difficult stuff, big or small (i.e. Todd makes an annoying sound when biting his nails) Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ShRhrAw-QKA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 15, 2014
It was a normal Friday, until it wasn’t – the diagnosis of Kawasaki Disease
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Have you ever heard of Kawasaki Disease?  Chris and Monisha Lozier's daughter Mae was a healthy and happy 4 year old until she got swollen glands and a fever. They found themselves living in a hospital for the next 9 days and eventually discovered their daughter had Kawasaki Disease. This is is an immune disease in which the medium-sized blood vessels throughout the body become inflamed. It's cause is unknown, and it's largely seen in children under five years of age. It affects many organ systems, and it's rarest and most serious effects are on the heart - it can cause fatal coronary artery aneurysms in untreated children. Chris and Monisha takes us through their experience with Mae and how they eventually arrived at this diagnosis.  They talk about advocating for your child in a hospital, misdiagnoses, and the blessings that can arise from such a challenging experience. No worries listeners, the story ends well (Mae just received a completely clear heart scan, she's doing great!), but it is an important and interesting story that will keep us better informed. We hope you enjoy.   Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Rhn-dhSHsAM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 11, 2014
Finding Contentment and the Benefits of Empathy
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We discuss a blog by Gayle Allen and Deborah Farmer Kris called “Why It’s Important To Teach Empathy To Boys”. They define empathy as the ability to sense other people’s emotions coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling.  How does this relate to parenting?  We discuss three benefits of raising an empathetic child: It breeds courage- this will help your child stand up for those in need of help. It breeds happiness- it gives our children the ability to have stronger interpersonal connections, and are more eager to collaborate, effectively negotiate, demonstrate compassion, and offer support. It breeds thoughtful problem solving. Empathic problem solvers put themselves in others’ shoes in a way that allows them to design solutions to problems that will help us evolve. We follow up on our talk from last week’s podcast about the Hobby Lobby Supreme Court decision. Todd also shares a few “tricks” or “reminders” to reduce the possibility of forgetting your child in the back of a car during the warm summer months. Cathy also shares 3 things that content people do: Differentiating between feelings, thoughts, and me Practice what you want instead of talking about what you want Live in present time We also refer to a previous podcast titled, "She was cut from her soccer team (what she did next might surprise you)"  which is a wonderful example of how our children are here to teach us. Do you know any parents that are polite and gentle with you while at the same time are nasty and cruel towards their children?  We ask the question- why is this okay? We refer to this podcast - “Speaking down to children and lessons from “Frozen” Finally we answer a listener’s question about how to get started on a more conscious path. Other resources: Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/EGh8Ib31jeg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 08, 2014
Hobby Lobby, corporations and women’s rights
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NodjPc0anO4 We discuss Hobby Lobby and the supreme court decision affecting contraception and women's rights. Cathy gets all riled up, so watch out! We also remind you to put that bathing suit on and get in the pool - your children are watching you! Cathy explains what it means to be an empath, and we also answer a listener question about bossiness and bullying. At the end we have a conversation with The Joyful Mother Sigrid Kjeldsen. We discuss a blog called "Moms, Put on that swimsuit" Many moms out there have self-image issues and are unconsciously passing them down to their children. We are not meant to look like the women on the magazine covers and yet we cover up our bodies because we don't look like them.  The message that is being conveyed is we don't love our bodies.  We need to show our kids our whole selves so they can embrace their whole selves. Dads- you're not off the hook - Todd challenges the dads to "show up" in a different way - by being vulnerable. An emapth is a person that is hypersensitive to the emotions and energy of people and animals, and they have the ability to physically feel what others are feeling. Cathy is an empath and this has its share of challenges - we discuss how it impacts her and our relationship. We chat with Sigrid Kjeldsen from "The Joyful Mother" . Sigrid speaks our language and is on a mission to support moms. One of her resources is the "Mommy Meltdown Cure" which is an 8-week self-study on-line coaching program.  To find out more, click here. We are bringing "Race To Nowhere" to Field School in Elmhurst.  This documentary exposes the negative affect of constantly pushing our children to "succeed".  The showing is Septemebr 11th and it's FREE.  Click here to reserve your seat. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y Other resources Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/h20F0oYTTyg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jul 01, 2014
The Adolescent Brain
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We discuss Dr. Daniel Siegel's new book titled "Brainstorm- The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain". Dr. Siegel explains that adolescence has an ESSENCE that is often overlooked. ESSENCE stands for: ES: An Emotional Spark is revealed in the enhanced way emotion generated from sub-cortical areas washes over the cortical circuits of reasoning. The downsides are emotional storms and moodiness; the upside is a powerful passion to live life fully, to capture life being on fire. SE: Social Engagement emerges as teens turn more toward peers than parents, the downside being falling prey to peer pressure simply to gain membership in a group, the upside being the central importance of supportive relationships in our lives. Relationships are the key factor associated with medical and mental health, longevity, and even happiness. N: Novelty-seeking emerges from shifts in the brain’s dopamine system with the downside of risk-taking behavior and injury, and the upside of having the courage to leave the familiar, certain, and safe home nest for the unfamiliar, uncertain, potentially unsafe world beyond. CE: And our Creative Exploration of adolescence is found as we push against the status quo, imagining how things could be, not simply accepting them for what they are. The downside? Not just conforming to life as usual can be disorienting and stressful. The upside? The thrill and passion of discovery—and the reality that most innovations in art, music, science and technology emerge from the adolescent mind. Dr. Siegel reminds us to be conscious of adolescent ESSENCE so we can better relate to our children and respect this important time of development. Resources: Daniel's book can be found here Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ol7oQoiUo28" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 24, 2014
She was cut from her soccer team (what she did next might surprise you)
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Casserly had always been on the top tier soccer team only to find out from her coach that she was being moved down to the next level.  Her reaction to this gut punch might surprise you.  Casserly is going into 6th grade and graduated from our first "Be U Girls Club" in the fall of 2013. We asked Casserly and her mom Rita to share this story in an effort to remind us that children are here to teach us as much as we are here to teach them. From a parent's perspective -  how would have handled this situation?  Would you have tried to fix it?  Would you have reacted with anger or thought it unfair? From a preteen's perspective - do you feel you have the tools and the self understanding to react in such a compassionate and authentic way? Other Resources: For more information on Rita's Coaching business go to http://www.ritahyland.com/ Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/3jldYl0YLTo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 20, 2014
Kids and Cell Phones – Striking a Balance
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IlxfxMOHhzc How do we introduce cell phones to our kids? It's a big step into an adult world, and concerns such as these are common: Will they abuse it?, Will they turn into "phoneheads"?, What kind of phone is appropriate?, What are the expectations around use of the phone? A few years ago Janelle Hoffman wrote a blog about phone expectations that went viral. We used her blog as "bones" for a list we created called "Jacey's Phone Smarts": We own the phone, but it’s yours to use. We will know all phone passwords. Answer calls/texts from your parents, and answer the phone politely when it rings. Phone stays plugged in downstairs at night. Listen to your instincts and call and text only at appropriate times during the day. During the day the phone is for safety – (specifically so we can communicate). Talk to people during the day, do not become a “phone head”. If it breaks or get lost, you will cover the cost. Use technology only for good. Do not use it to harm or lie. Do not involve yourself in group texts, phone calls, or games that are intended to harm or lie. Use the phone to be a good friend. Do not text anything that you would not say in person Phone is to be silenced and put away in public. Family events are for family, not phone time. You are a kind and respectful person, so don’t let the phone change that part of you. Do not take pictures of yourself or anybody else that you would not show to your parents or your grandparents. Sharing pictures of your body or anything inappropriate could harm your friendships, your life, your future. Just be your smart self. Be present for experiences and don’t think you have to take a million pictures. Leave your phone at home sometimes and know that it’s OK, you are not missing anything. Listen to lots of different music and enjoy! Be conscious of explicit lyrics – don’t fill your brain with negative or violent language, it only hurts you. Just be your smart self. Keep your eyes up and see the world and BE with people! Use the phone to connect, not disconnect. Before downloading any apps, get our OK first. We are in this together – we can always discuss all of this. You have shown tremendous responsibility and that’s why you are getting a phone. ENJOY! We also answer a listener's question regarding the lack of attention that his parents pay to their own grandchildren.  We expand on what he could do to help and how to go about it. Cathy discusses her experience with reading the book  "Gone Girl" and why she may not finish reading it.  We'll give you a hint- it's about filling your life with negative stories and how it will affect your your perception of everything else. Other Resources: Scratch Wireless is th phone and plan they got for the their daughter. Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/2V4DPGj2X5E" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 17, 2014
Grief and Hope: Surviving pregnancy and infant loss- Part 2
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In the second half of this 2 part interview, we continue the conversation between Aaron Krueger and Erin Kuhn-Krueger about their experience with multiple miscarriages and stillbirth. In this moving and inspiring interview they share their challenges, coping tools, and their strength and determination to become parents. This show is a must if you have experienced pregnancy or infant loss, or if you know someone who is trying to navigate the grief associated with baby loss. This is Part 2 of a two part interview with the Krueger family - Part 1 was aired on Friday, June 6th.  Part 1 can be found here.   Erin has a website and blog called "Will Carry On". She  shares her experiences and insights and offers resources and tools for other families in need. Click here to hear an episode about Cathy and Todd's experience with miscarriage. Click here to watch the movie "Return to Zero" about a couple's experience with stillbirth. Other Resources: Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1  & and Part 2 Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.   Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/NPDBNTw7yj4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 13, 2014
#Not All Men, #Yes All Women- Can Both Be True?
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqycEE4dBM0 Of course there are plenty of men who are not misogynists, but that doesn't mean that women are not subjected to misognystic behavior. We have to take responsibility for ourselves and also recognize what we tolerate- our friends inappropriate jokes or behavior, the song lyrics we listen to, the movies we love, the people we idolize. And it's not just men, women need to recognize how they contribute  - gossiping, judging, and disrespecting other women can add to the overall problem. Todd gets on his soap box. There are numerous youtube clips, blogs, books articles helping and supporting the girls, but he is seeking more support for the boys. If we are going to make change, it can't be one sided.  Girl empowerment is essential, but so is supporting boys in expressing their emotion. If we focused on both simultaneously, real change could occur. They also discuss The Fault in our Stars and Malificient, two great summer movies. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=642lKXC97c4 Other Resources: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.  Don't forget about the webinar for Assessing the Risk Factors For Obstructive Sleep Apnea in Children. Register here. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/GVjEIsWQWo8" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 10, 2014
Grief and Hope: Surviving pregnancy and infant loss- Part 1
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We speak with Aaron Krueger and Erin Kuhn-Krueger about their experience with multiple miscarriages and stillbirth. In this moving and inspiring interview they share their challenges, coping tools, and their strength and determination to become parents. This show is a must if you have experienced pregnancy or infant loss, or if you know someone who is trying to navigate the grief associated with baby loss. This is Part 1 of a two part interview with the Krueger family - Part 2 will air Friday, June 13th. Erin has a website and blog called "Will Carry On". She  shares her experiences and insights and offers resources and tools for other families in need. Click here to hear an episode about Cathy and Todd's experience with miscarriage. Click here to watch the movie "Return to Zero" about a couple's experience with stillbirth. Other Resources: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.  Don't forget about the webinar for Assessing the Risk Factors For Obstructive Sleep Apnea in Children. Register here.   Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.    <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/KntZzRWMAL0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 06, 2014
Can you be a “friend” to your child?
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Of course you are the parent and your role is important, but can you sometimes just drop the role and relate to your child as an individual? We break down the the role of parent to redefine what it means to support your child. When your child comes to you with a problem, do you deal with the internal or the external?  Most of us deal with the external - focus on how it looks and how to fix it. But do we consider what our child is feeling and experiencing? Instead of trying to "fix" the problem immediately, can we first: Listen Validate Normalize If we initially put more attention on the internal, our children we will be better able to hear our opinion and probable solutions. Other Resources: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.  Don't forget about the webinar for Assessing the Risk Factors For Obstructive Sleep Apnea in Children. Register here.   Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/POoaWc9Z5bo" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Jun 03, 2014
Happiness is an Inside Job
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Do you want to be happy? Guess what, you've got the tools to do it! Happiness can be cultivated regardless of your childhood or genes - you just need to make it a daily priority! Shawn Achor is a Harvard Professor who teaches a class on how to be happy -  research shows it comes from the INSIDE and has little to do with the external experiences. It's not about waiting to be happy until you find success, it's about being happy and then achieving success due to your happiness. Happiness comes from striving for something that has value, not the attainment. Genes and environment can play a role in your everyday feelings, so you need to strengthen your happy muscles, you have the power! Here are a few specific steps you can take right now to make yourself more happy.  Pick a few and practice for 21 days - see if it makes a difference: Spend two minutes each day expressing gratitude either verbally or written. Write about one meaningful thing that happened to you in the last 24 hours and provide as much detail as possible. Exercise Take two minutes a day and breath mindfully If you do this, it will not only will you feel good, you will create a ripple effect of happiness all around you! Other Resources: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/m1zrcak1jlg" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 27, 2014
“My name is Emerson and I love everybody.”
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Did you know that May is Williams Syndrome Awareness Month? Williams syndrome is a genetic condition characterized by medical problems, including cardiovascular disease, developmental delays, and learning disabilities.  People with Williams Syndrome also tend to have enhanced verbal abilities, highly social personalities and an affinity for music.  It effects 1 in 10,000 people worldwide – an estimated 20,000 to 30,000 people in the United States. We interview Amy Connell-Donohue, the mother of 11 year old Emerson who was diagnosed with Williams Syndrome when she was 1.  Amy shares her road to diagnosis and the challenges of finding out that your child is not  typical. She also shares lessons from Emerson and says that she's the glue that holds the family together. Amy's article about her family is in the May issue of Chicago Parent, it's titled Having it All. We know Emerson personally and she is dear to our heart!  Learn more about Williams Syndrome here: http://williams-syndrome.org/ Whispering Trails Music Therapy Camp  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gF4DiqEdN3w Other Resources: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/BmsEXJsfiTY" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 23, 2014
Living consciousness and keeping our kids “busy”
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mkleTRvPu2A Todd and Cathy discuss their  disagreement over how "active" their kids should be in extracurricular activities. Keeping  kids "busy" is connected to our past experiences and our need for constant productivity. It is essential that we see ourselves and our motives clearly when creating expectations for our children. We also talk about some conscious parent foundational elements including self-awareness, mindfulness, and kindness.  Conscious parenting is not a "technique", it's actually a way of living and relating to yourself and others. Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/Zk9VVlfIVnQ" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 20, 2014
Pink Floyd’s “Mother” Can Help Us Understand Conscious Parenting
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmVACrFgpJU Mother do you think they'll drop the bomb?  That's the first line in this epic song.  We disect the lyrics and use it to help understand conscious parenting. Roger Water's song (on the show we use the Natalie Maines version) points out that parents can have the best intentions when "protecting" their children, but if done unconsciously, or with lack of self awareness, it can backfire. Full Lyrics to Mother: Mother do you think they'll drop the bomb Mother do you think they'll like the song Mother do you think they'll try to break my balls Ooooh aah, Mother should I build a wall Mother should I run for president Mother should I trust the government Mother will they put me in the firing line Ooooh aah, is it just a waste of time Hush now baby, baby don't you cry Mama's gonna make all of your Nightmares come true Mama's gonna put all of her fears into you Mama's gonna keep you right here Under her wing she won't let you fly but she might let you sing Mama will keep baby cosy and warm Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe Of course Mama's gonna help build the wall Mother do think she's good enough for me Mother do think she's dangerous to me Mother will she tear your little boy apart Oooh aah, mother will she break my heart Hush now baby, baby don't you cry Mama's gonna check out all your girl friends for you Mama won't let anyone dirty get through Mama's gonna wait up till you get in Mama will always find out where You've been Mamma's gonna keep baby healthy and clean Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe You'll always be a baby to me Mother, did it need to be so high.... Our guest Dr. Shefali Tsabary is about to rocket into the Oprah stratosphere.  She'll be on Oprah's Soul Series and Life Class on Sunday, May 18th.  Time to set your DVR's. Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/3Wghgsn8cNE" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 13, 2014
Todd & Cathy’s moms set the record straight
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fq8sLkyWKnw In honor of Mother's Day, we invited our moms to talk about what we were like as kids.  We also talk about the changes that have taken place from the time they were kids (a.k.a. the olden days) to  raising us in the 70's - we also discuss how their grandchildren are being raised. We get nostalgic and we have a lot of laughs. We love our moms! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUkE9qaVgmo&list=PLyfsVoKpa6Y3LqyDbc04-6M6V9rJETgt- Our guest Dr. Shefali Tsabary is about to rocket into the Oprah stratosphere.  She'll be on Oprah's Soul Series and Life Class on Sunday, May 18th.  Time to set your DVR's. Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/B-Xd_8oJrGs" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 09, 2014
Natural consequences, cell phones, and sexting
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What's the difference between punishment, discipline, and natural consequences?  We discuss a few different events that happened in our house that allowed for natural consequences.  Rather than using fear to punish, natural consequences help children understand and integrate a teaching. We also discuss cell phone usage - specifically: What is the correct age to give your access to a phone? What conditions should be put on it? Are we telling our children that we don't trust them if we ask them to look through all their messages? There was a story in the Chicago Tribune about a middle school that had to deal with sexting.  We discuss the different technologies surrounding kids and their phones.   Our guest Dr. Shefali Tsabary is about to rocket into the Oprah stratosphere.  She'll be on Oprah's Soul Series and Life Class on Sunday, May 18th.  Time to set your DVR's. Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.  630-631-6844 Looking for a chirporactor?  Give Dr. Kelly and the Tree of Life team a call to schedule an appt.  630-941-8733 Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/ejb2l8NtauA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
May 06, 2014
Do you ever feel like a fraud?
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Most of us do.  Why do we sometimes feel like fakes at work, at home, in the world?  Why are we afraid that someone is going to figure out that we really don't know what we are doing? We discuss how this feeling plays into our parenting and how we can practice feeling as "real" as possible. We play a clip (below) from Amy Cudder's Ted Talk on self doubt and how to deal with it. We also discuss our upcoming "The Good Life Virtual  Retreat" . What does it mean to live a good life? It means to "shed the veils over our souls" (a quote from Elizabeth Lesser) and learn to live in love. Our retreat starts next week and we will practice "letting go" so we can actually notice all the goodness around us! You don't want to miss it, click here to register. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4xYENd02_E Other notes: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting How important is a good smile?  Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS.  They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/DhfEBo1_Zlk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 29, 2014
Popular, I want to be Pop-U-lar
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fSoQ0DMrAHc Do we want our kids to be popular?  How important is this? What makes our kids popular? Is it athletic ability and physical stature or is it physical attractiveness and attention from the opposite sex? We share our perspective and discuss why parents play a role in how their children are perceived. We also use great 80's movies like Ferris Bueller's Day Off, The Breakfast Club, Pretty in Pink, & Revenge of the Nerds to make our "popular" points. We are facilitating our next virtual retreat! It's called "The Good Life" and it's in celebration of Mother's Day. Register and gift the retreat to someone for FREE!   Other notes: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/qFhZivPfyE0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 22, 2014
Pessimism, sibling rivalry, & a ressurected goldfish
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Typically pessimists respond to problems by believing these three things: It's Personal- They blame themselves for an event that has occurred. It's Permanent- They think it will never get better. It's Pervasive- They assume failure in one area of life means failure in life as a whole and that failure is happening everywhere and can't be stopped. Do we carry some of these traits?  Does it affect our parenting?  We discuss this and offer options for turning these thoughts around.   We also discuss a few scenes from The Shawshank Redemption and Terms of Endearment.   We answer a listener's question regarding a rivalry between her two sons- (ages 8 and 10) and how we almost lost Goldie the goldfish. We are facilitating our next virtual retreat! It's called "The Good Life" and it's in celebration of Mother's Day. Youtube clips https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4xYENd02_E&feature=youtu.be https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw Other resources discussed on the show- The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz  Other notes: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/F4GCYPb-VAw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 15, 2014
Outliving cancer with tears, wit, and grace
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In this compelling interview, our friend Katie Weiss shares her breast cancer experience, starting with the fact that she was diagnosed at 35.  Due to her age she is told her lump is probably nothing, but she walks us through the series of incidents that lead to the mind-numbing news that she indeed had breast cancer.  Recently separated and with a three-year-old daughter at home, Katie takes us from diagnosis, to chemotherapy and finally recovery. Katie's storytelling is vulnerable, raw, and full of humor - we were laughing and crying a the same time! There is so much to learn from her amazing story, this podcast is a must listen! Other notes: Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/XG3hCLABL5I" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 11, 2014
Paternity Leave or Play Ball!
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Is it manly to take paternity leave? When Daniel Murphy's (a player on the New York Mets) wife had a baby, he utilized the paternity leave that is allowed under the collective bargaining agreement set forth by Major League Baseball.  But why is he being criticized?  Is it "man code" to get back to work as soon as the birth is over? If we are a nation of family values, why do we place work over family? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbMFHX5iq We also discuss Todd's blod titled, Am I a Bad Dad? Am I a Bad Husband?  where he discusses "traditional" father/mother roles and whether it's nature, nurture, or gender (or all three?) that influence our ability to parent. Lastly we review some previous podcasts titled Grieving a Miscarriage and The Business of Being Born and Honey, it’s time!  Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/NVgHiAaqspM" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 08, 2014
8 ways to encourage mindfulness in your home
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We discuss 8 different ways to help your children be more mindful: 1. Mindful breathing 2. Past/present/future 3. Take in the joy 4. Quiet time 5. Practice listening 6. Emotional awareness – feeling – asking questions about feelings 7. Gratitude – don’t judge what they are grateful for – role model 8. Do it yourself We also discuss the idea of creeping separateness.  This is when we "ignore the cracks" in a marriage.  The little things that are done (or sometimes not done) which create distance between couples.  We come up with a few practical ideas on how to fill those cracks. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/iM1yZ4GljYk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Apr 01, 2014
Do you walk the walk, or just talk the talk?
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Our friends and neighbors Jeanne and Jeff Plaisted walk the walk.  They decided that on their 15th anniversary they were going to do something special.  Massages on the beach in Hawaii?  Nope.  A cruise through the Caribbean?  Try again. They decided to make a difference.  They stepped away from their day to day life and packed up for a two-week trip to Nicaragua.  They were inspired by Spark Ventures, a Chicago-based nonprofit that partners with grassroots organizations to help children in developing countries. They told us about their experience and how it changed their perception of our world.  They also wanted to lead by example and teach their sons (3rd grade and 6th grade) what it means to be a global citizen.  Their story is truly inspiring! Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.    <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/0PXg2GcthTA" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 28, 2014
Feeling overwhelmed? You’re not alone
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We all know that most of us are overwhelmed.  The question is- what do we do about it?  Like most things- it begins with awareness.  We get into a discussion based on a book by Brigid Schulte titled -Overwhelmed- Work, Love, & Play When No One Has The Time.  We play some clips from an amazing interview she did with NPR's Terry Gross.  Some of the highlights include: The idea of "contaminated time" Is there a different set of expectations between men and women when it comes to parenting? We claim to be a culture of family values- Is this in alignment with the behaviors and policies we currently have? Balancing the responsibilities of parenting between mom and dad The dangers of being "fun dad" The biology that men have in regards to being a nurturer. Resources Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh A New Earth weekly interview with Oprah Winfrey and Eckhart Tolle  Hunteryoga.com has created another Daily Practice that begins on March 24th!!!  The first week is free.  Click the link for more details. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting Painting or remodeling?  Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/A8IO9Bmv9yw" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 25, 2014
Outliving Cancer with Tears, Wit, and Grace
56:40
In this compelling interview, our friend Katie Weiss shares her breast cancer experience, starting with the fact that she was diagnosed at 35. Due to her age she is told her lump is probably nothing, but she walks us through the series of incidents that lead to the mind-numbing news that she indeed had breast cancer. Recently separated and with a three-year-old daughter at home, Katie takes us from diagnosis, to chemotherapy and finally recovery. Katie's storytelling is vulnerable, raw, and full of humor - we were laughing and crying a the same time! There is so much to learn from her amazing story, this podcast is a must listen!<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/k6-lq3SQNX4" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 23, 2014
“Powerful Women Intimidate Me” ~Todd
42:28
Todd confesses that he still feels intimidated by powerful women in our society, and he uses Oprah and Hillary Clinton as examples.  This leads to a discussion about the campaign created by Sheryl Sandberg called "Banning Bossy"  The campaign is designed to empower female leadership by making us more conscious of the words we use to describe young girls as they assert themselves. The confidence gap starts early- Between elementary and high school, girls’ self–esteem drops 3.5 times more than boys’. Bossy holds girls back- Girls are twice as likely as boys to worry that leadership roles will make them seem “bossy.” Girls get less airtime in class- They are called on less and interrupted more. They also discuss Cathy's blog- "Banning Bossy: It's not about the word, it's about the conversation" and why this campaign (which has been ridiculed by bloggers and the media) is worth another look. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dynbzMlCcw Other topics include the value of partner vacations and why being away can bring you back to center. Hunteryoga.com has created another Daily Practice that begins on March 24th!!!  The first week is free.  Click the link for more details. Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/mEheou4NE3Q" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 18, 2014
Why do certain people drive you crazy?
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Why do we get "triggered" by certain people or circumstances?  You could call it a "trigger", or you could call it   a "thorn".  A thorn is when you are disturbed because something you are experiencing feels similar to a negative (or uncomfortable, or unresolved, or painful) experience from the past. Instead of feeling/responding to something in present time, the experience can trigger old pain from the past.  That makes the present experience feel like too much to bear, and you may respond in an inappropriate or over the top way. An example is when you are driving and somebody cuts you off - you go from being calm to out of control very quickly, and most likely you are having a response based on old thoughts or experiences (that person thinks he's better than me, that person doesn't respect me, that person is a jerk driver just like that guy who hit me 10 years ago....).  When we pull up all of that pain into a present-time situation, it's understandable why we go from 0-60 so quickly. We played a few clips from an interview between Oprah Winfrey and Michael Singer who authored "The Untethered Soul" We discuss what our thorns are, why it's best to acknowledge them, and how best to remove them. We also talk about one of the best guys in the world.   Hunteryoga.com has created another Daily Practice that begins on March 24th!!!  The first week is free.  Click the link for more details.   Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group.  Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com   Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned.  An outline can be found here.   If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting Resources links http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKDPBt2m_iE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AuqemytQ5QA http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xdDOPx2D8Y<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/YxnkiJq7k9A" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 11, 2014
“Leukemia Sucks” ~Maddy, Age 4, Cancer Survivor
40:52
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ktyQYqGtB7k "Leukemia messed with the wrong girl in November 2011 - my then almost two year old daughter, Maddy. That was when my family's journey with leukemia began...."~Erin and Dan McCarthy Last month, Maddy became a SURVIVOR, after 2+ years of treatment. It was brutal - Maddy had 3 surgeries, over 50 rounds of outpatient chemotherapy (as well as hundreds of chemo meds at home), 10 spinal tap chemo injections, 4 blood transfusions, 12 ER visits, hair loss, 16 body scans, numerous inpatient admissions, and on and on.. Dan & Erin share their 2-year experience with their daughter's Leukemia and take us through all of the ups and downs of diagnosis, chemo, and what it means to be a survivor. Dan has also been nominated as a person of the year by the Leukemia Society.  Please consider donating (click here to find his page.)  Every dollar counts as a vote, and we would love to see Dan receive this tremendous honor (not to mention raise a ton of $$ for cancer research)! Erin is a professional photographer and if a listener books a session during the ten-week voting period, she will donate all costs to  LLS.  Find her website here. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/LxELsarxuBk" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 07, 2014
Want your kid to work for Google? Stop studying and start cultivating
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There are 5 attributes Google, Inc. currently looks for when hiring an employee and guess what?  The school you came from and your G.P.A. don't mean that much.  In a New York Times article titled "How to Get a Job at Google" Thomas Friedman interviewed Laszlo Bock, the Senior Vice President of People Operations for Google and asks what they look for when hiring employees.  Google determined that “G.P.A.’s are worthless as a criteria for hiring, and test scores are worthless. ... We found that they don’t predict anything.” What does count? General cognitive ability- and it’s not I.Q., it's learning ability. Leadership — in particular emergent leadership as opposed to traditional leadership. Emergent leadership is described as "understanding when to assert your leadership qualities and just as importantly, when to step back and allow others to lead." Humility and ownership- “It’s feeling the sense of responsibility, the sense of ownership, to step in,” he said, to try to solve any problem — and the humility to step back and embrace the better ideas of others. Expertise Be U, Inc.- Kids and Grownups Living from the Inside Out- We discuss the similarities between what Google is looking for and what our consciousness development system is all about. What do you do when your kids are "fighting" and they're both right?  We share a story of our two daughters having a serious disagreement, how they were both right, and how we navigated through the experience. We also give our Oscar ballot results.  Here's a clue- Todd was the runaway winner, but did some interesting "research" to get ready for the evening. We also play this ultra-funny Saturday Night Live Commercial.  Listen and enjoy. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program.  Thanks for supporting us! Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR. Todd's Men's Group has a few openings.  Please email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com for details. We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting  <img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ZenParentingRadio/~4/RXBYKquiJq0" height="1" width="1" alt=""/>
Mar 04, 2014