Relationships, Sex, Dating and Marriage Advice - I Do Podcast

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I Do Podcast interviews today’s most successful and inspiring relationship experts, therapists and couples. Hosted by Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz, I Do Podcast is all about inspiring young couples to create a fulfilling and happy relationship. Our weekly podcast will give you great advice to improve your relationship and fun ways to keep the spark alive. Each episode we will interview amazing relationship experts who share their knowledge on building successful and lasting love. Our guests will provide daily tips to improve your relationship, advice for young couples, amazing books and resources and much more. Join us on our journey to create lasting love!

Episode Date
152: Create A Thriving Marriage
39:35

No relationship or marriage is perfect. You probably already knew this. However, you might not know which of the four phases of marriage you’re in, and what it means for you and your partner. Listen to today’s show to create a thriving marriage by understanding the importance of each phase you might go through! This show is worth listening to even if your single or dating!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • The thriving, working, detached and conflictual stages of marriage
  • How to determine which phase of marriage you’re in and how to change phases
  • The importance of doing things together to create a ‘couple culture’
  • How to ‘act’ your way to being in love
  • What to do if you feel like you’re always at war with your partner
  • And much more!

Dale is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a private practice in White House, TN. He specializes in marriage, parenting and men's issues. Dale is an author, online curriculum consultant, and a trained Prepare/Enrich provider for couples looking to get married or for those who want to strengthen their relationship. He believes you are never too far gone in your marriage if you're willing to make the journey back.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/152

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to take steps to improve your marriage? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Jun 20, 2018
151: What’s Your Sexual Personality Type?
59:26

Do you really know what you or your partner likes in the bedroom? Many of us have not asked key questions around sexuality in our relationships. Understanding you and your partners sexual personality type can help take your relationship and sex life to the next level.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Questions to ask in order to understand your sexual personality type
  • How to avoid a ‘vanilla’ sexual relationship — Learn how to spice it up
  • The details of monogamish relationships and how to know if they’re right for you
  • How to make a non-monogamous relationship work
  • The BDSM checklist and why you should go through it with your partner today
  • How to communicate with your partner about sexuality
  • And much more!

Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb is an Alternative Sexuality Specialist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Clinical Sexologist with her PhD in clinical sexology. She is an author, teacher, public speaker and has been counseling and consulting with individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 25 years.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/151

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to communicate more with your partner about sexuality? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Jun 13, 2018
150: Navigating Finances In Your Relationship
43:42

No one wants to think about divorce or death. Deny it all we want, one happens 50% of the time and the other 100%! Understanding the legal financial side of relationships is an important part of creating a successful relationship or marriage. Listen to today’s episode to learn how to get your finances in order!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Understanding a prenup and it’s legal details
  • Avoiding the unromantic stigma of prenups and doing what is practical for a successful relationship
  • How to communicate about prenups and other important financial hurdles.
  • Creating a post-nup if you married without a prenup
  • Using separate bank accounts in your relationship
  • And much more!

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/150

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you struggling to navigate finances in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Jun 06, 2018
149: Practical Ideas To Find The Love Of Your Life
54:33

Why do so many good people end up in bad relationships? Today’s episode will help answer that and give you the tools to improve yourself to attract the right kind of partner, find love, or help determine if you're currently with the right partner.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, this episode will give you great relationship advice with topics that include:

  • How to use practical spirituality to maximize your current or future relationship
  • Why our partner should be a catalyst for our own personal growth
  • Avoiding a chemical dependency on your partner
  • Why are there so many good people in bad relationships!?
  • Questions to ask yourself when considering a potential partner
  • And much more!

Dr Ali Binazir is an author, speaker and clinical hypnotherapist and Happiness Engineer. He is the author of 4 books, including "The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible", the highest-rated dating book on Amazon for 4 years. He holds an honors degree from Harvard College, an M.D. from UC San Diego School of Medicine, and an M.Phil. from Cambridge University.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/149

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you keep finding yourself dating the wrong person? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

May 30, 2018
148: Practicing Good Emotional Hygiene To Improve Your Relationship
40:01

We’ve all been in a situation where we’ve let our emotions get the better of us. We snap at our partner, stress ourselves out and react negatively to the smallest transgressions. Worry no more. Today’s episode will give you amazing actionable tips to help control your emotions, feel better and improve the relationship with yourself and your partner.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to take control of your mood and emotions
  • Finding an emotional grounding to avoid being controlled by the events of your day
  • How to respond rather than react
  • Creating a buffer period to decompress and interact positively with your partner
  • Body scan exercises to help control your emotions and create happier relationships.
  • And much more!

Kongit is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Sex Therapist in the state of California. She's the founder of the Inspired Journey Counseling Center in the heart of Downtown Los Angeles.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/148

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you struggle to control your emotions? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

May 23, 2018
147: The Sexual Science Of Cuddling
39:59

Cuddling on the couch is a favorite activity of many healthy relationships. Cuddling is very much in mainstream culture, and yet it can be complicated and filled with nuance. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the comfy, cozy and sometimes sexual world of cuddling. 

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Understand the general differences between male and female desires from cuddling.
  • Find out if cuddling should always lead to sex?
  • Learn the science of cuddling and why it can feel so good and be such a positive element of a healthy relationship.
  • How to cuddle in a way that is best for your partner.
  • And much more!

Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray is a sex researcher and relationship therapist. She is passionate about challenging norms and stereotypes about men and women's sex lives in order to promote stronger and more intimate relationships. She is a blogger for Psychology Today and Lifehack and is regularly sought after by media outlets, including Men's Health, Elle and Today's Parent for her expertise on sex, intimacy and romantic relationships.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/147

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you love to cuddle but your partner doesn't or vice versa? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

May 16, 2018
146: Is Porn Causing Issues In Your Relationship?
46:28

Have you caught your partner looking at porn? Maybe browsing pictures of scantily clad women or men on Instagram or Facebook? This doesn't need to be an issue in your relationship if you know how to talk and deal with it! Our culture largely creates a negative narrative around these issues that can hurt our relationships. Listen to today's episode to learn how to talk to your partner about porn, social media 'stalking' and your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn why we aren't really facing what some call a 'porn health crisis'.
  • Understand that it's not the porn, it's the lack of healthy conversations around porn.
  • Is it OK that your partner is 'stalking' the opposite sex on social media?
  • Communicating with your partner about their deepest fantasies and where they came from.
  • The erotic differences between individuals and sexes.
  • Why porn elicits a disgust response in some individuals.
  • And much more!

Dr. Joe Kort is the author of four books on gender and male sexuality. He specializes in couples therapy, sex therapy, mixed orientation relationships, and out of control sexual behaviors. He is starting an LGBTQ certification program in the spring.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/146

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to talk to your partner about porn? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

May 09, 2018
145: Not Feeling Like A Priority In Your Relationship?
44:02

Our lives our busier than ever. It's easy for one partner in the relationship to feel like they no longer are a priority to the other partner. Work, hobbies and technology are just a few things that can begin to take priority over a partner. Listen to today's episode to navigate the emotions of not feeling like a priority in your relationship, and learn how to proactively make your partner feel important.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • The importance of understanding that no one is a priority all of the time.
  • Exercises to remind your partner that they are important.
  • How to talk about feelings of unimportance and neglect.
  • Navigating priorities in relationships with blended families and family dynamics.
  • Communicating our feelings in a productive and positive way.
  • And much more!

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 40 years’ experience in counseling individuals and couples. Dr. Tessina is the author of 15 books in 17 languages appears frequently on radio, TV, video and podcasts.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/145

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you or your partner no longer feel like a priority in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

May 02, 2018
144: Mindful Sex is Mind Blowing Sex
50:57

Want to learn how practicing mindfulness can lead to better sex? Instead of thinking about the emails you need to respond to or the kid's lunches that need to be packed — think about the amazing orgasm you're about to have! Sex with your partner should be incredible, and mindfulness can help with just that. Listen and learn for a better sex life full of passion, connection and mindfulness.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to put your head and body in the same place to practice mindfulness.
  • Practicing mindfulness in daily life so it's easier to do in the bedroom.
  • Understanding the myths surrounding female pleasure to help improve your sex life.
  • Century's-old vibrators and how women have been using them for years to improve their sex life.
  • Communicating about sex in your relationship.
  • How to avoid 'spectator sex' so that you can be more present for real amazing sex.
  • And much more!

Dr. Laurie Mintz is a professor at the University of Florida, where she teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality. She is also a licensed psychologist in private practice, and the author of two books, both aimed at empowering women sexually: A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How To Get It.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/144

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Apr 25, 2018
143: Navigating the In-Laws
43:06

You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family! There's a reason this cliche exists, but it doesn't have to be that way. Going over to the in-laws doesn't have to be the excruciating experience it is for so many. Listen to today's episode to learn how to navigate the minefield that is family! Whether it's getting along with the in-laws or your own family, this is the episode to help you end the family discomfort.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • The culture shock we experience when interacting with a new family.
  • Being supportive for your partner when visiting your own family.
  • How to be proactive in cultivating or fixing your relationship with the in-laws or other family members.
  • Managing expectations during family visits.
  • Steps to offering an olive branch to end old family feuds.
  • How to have honest communication about family.
  • And much more!

Robert Taibbi has served as adjunct professor at several universities. He provides trainings nationally and internationally in the areas of relationship issues, family therapy, brief therapy and clinical supervision. He has 44 years experience, is the author of 11 books, 300 articles, and is a contributor to PsychologyToday.com.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/143

Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge

Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you have issues with your in-laws? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

 

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Apr 18, 2018
142: Jealousy In The Modern Relationship
43:19

Jealousy is a common feeling that many of us have or will experience. With the pervasive use of the internet flooding our brains with sexual images, past lovers and other temptations, jealousy is an important issue to address in relationships. Learn how to deal with your own or your partner's jealousy in today's episode.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Understanding the difference between emotional and sexual jealousy and how each sex may experience them differently.
  • How to talk about jealousy with your partner.
  • The importance of 'striking when the iron is cold' when communicating about sensitive relationship issues.
  • Online emotional infidelity and how it can hurt your relationship.
  • And much more!

Dr. Suzanne Degges-White is a professor and chair of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University in DeKalb. She is a licensed counselor and has experience working with couples and families dealing with concerns related to communication difficulties, developmental transitions, addiction, and abuse. Suzanne’s academic research explores transitions and development over the lifespan with a strong focus on intimate family relationships and friendships. Her Lifetime Connections blog on PsychologyToday.com explores relationships in families and friendscapes.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/142

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Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you or your partner have issues with jealousy? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Apr 11, 2018
141: Emotional Habits
55:21

We've all felt the need to blame our partner for something going wrong in the relationship. Why do we retreat to negative emotional habits so easily? Dr. Steven Stosny explains how our toddler brain takes over and can cause us to react with blame, denial and avoidance during conflict. Listen to today's show to avoid falling into that trap, and learn how to better react to improve your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn why we retreat to our 'toddler brain' of emotional reactivity and how to avoid this.
  • How to create new positive emotional responses that will benefit your relationship.
  • The importance of communicating at least 5 positives for every negative communication.
  • How to prevent defensiveness from your partner and communicate in the most productive manner.
  • Focusing on how you want to feel to help create the emotional changes you need.
  • And much more!

Steven Stosny, Ph.D., is the founder of CompassionPower. His current book is Empowered Love and he has published over five others. He has treated over 6,000 clients for various forms of anger, abuse, and violence. He has appeared on “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” “The Today Show,” “CBS Sunday Morning,” many CNN shows, and in the New York Times, Washington Post, U.S. News & World Report, WSJ, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, O, Psychology Today, USA Today. He has taught at the University of Maryland and at St. Mary’s College of Maryland. His blog on Psychologytoday.com. has nearly 12 million views.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/141

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Apr 04, 2018
140: How To Keep The Spark Alive
45:04

Intimacy is an area of our relationships that can often be overlooked, especially if you've been together for a long time. The spark does not have to fade! There are simple and easy steps to take to create more intimacy and have more satisfaction in our relationships.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Why checking in with your partner on a daily basis is a profoundly simple way to greatly improve your relationship.
  • How to create and maintain the new and novel feelings we have early in our relationships.
  • Understanding and communicating our attachment styles to help create more intimacy in our relationship.
  • How our attachment styles can be changed for the better.
  • Learning the different intimacy needs of your partner and how to communicate your own needs.
  • And much more!

Tim Cole is an Associate Professor at DePaul University where he studies how differences in people’s need for intimacy can lead to a betrayal of trust. He’s also the author of Broken Trust: Overcoming an Intimate Betrayal.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/140

Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge

Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling with making lasting, positive changes in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Mar 28, 2018
139: Avoid These Common Sex Life Pitfalls
47:19

There can be many areas in our lives and relationships that can cause frustration and disappointment. Your sex life shouldn't be one of them. Learning how to communicate your needs and desires, understanding your partner's sex drive and confronting sex life negativity are just a few ways to prevent some of the common troubles many couples run into. Listen to today's show to prevent these common sex life pitfalls from wreaking havoc on your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how to talk about sex, your desires and fantasies with your partner.
  • Avoid getting distracted during sex and become more present for a better experience.
  • Navigate the desire discrepancies in your relationship. Do you or your partner want to have sex more often? There are ways to compromise around this!
  • Understanding your partners sex drive and what 'gets their motor going'.
  • Confronting any negativity surrounding your sex life.
  • And much more!

Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed sex therapist whose work focuses on helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it's become stressful, negative, disappointing or pressured. She teaches, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. She is the host of the Better Sex podcast and will be releasing her first book later this year.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/139

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better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Mar 21, 2018
138: You Have The Power To Change (Yourself & Your Relationship)
37:29

Creating the change you want in your relationship starts with one person: YOU! Don't wait around for your partner to change (hint: you won't be able to change them on your own anyway). Listen to today's episode and use these actionable tips to get your relationship out of a rut or to take it from good to great!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how to pay more attention to your partner with some simple exercises.
  • How to express gratitude toward your partner to help your relationship flourish.
  • Honoring the differences between you and your partner to keep everyone happy.
  • Prioritizing your time together for maximum relationship happiness.
  • How to express love in small ways. It's the little things that add up.
  • And much more!

Dr. Kathy McCoy is a psychotherapist and award-winning journalist and author of more than a dozen books including the recently published "We Don't Talk Anymore". She is a contributing writer for PsychologyToday.com and has been a frequent guest on national television including numerous appearances on The Today Show and two on Oprah.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/138

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Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Mar 14, 2018
137: Managing Anxiety to Improve Your Relationship
49:48

Feeling anxious? Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. That sense of uneasiness, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don't let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner any longer!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How anxiety can manifest as reactivity to your partner and how to change this to responsiveness.
  • Why some anxiety can be good and how to best channel this energy.
  • Becoming aware of your anxiety and taking steps to manage it.
  • How to slow things down rather than approaching everything with a sense of urgency.
  • How anxiety lives in the body and the physiological responses we can create to cope with our anxiety.
  • And much more!

Dr. Denise Fournier is a mindfulness-based psychotherapist and coach in Miami, FL. Through her practice, Evergreen Therapy, she works with individuals and couples using an approach that blends modern research and Eastern philosophy. In addition to her work with clients, Denise is also an adjunct professor at Nova Southeastern University and a regular contributor to the Psychology Today.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/137

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Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the
better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

Mar 07, 2018
136: Empowering Your Partner
45:02

One of the benefits of being in a relationship is helping your partner become their best self. We can achieve this by empowering our partner through words of affirmation, validating their feelings and many other simple exercises. Listen to today's show to learn how to help your partner become the best version of themselves!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How creating a 'best self' nickname for your partner can give them a huge boost and benefit your relationship.
  • Validating your partner to help them heal childhood wounds.
  • The importance of assuming your partner wants to come through for you.
  • Creating an affirmation of your deepest desires that you can live into.
  • Acting as if you're having an affair with your partner.
  • And much more!

Dr. Diana Kirschner was a frequent guest on The Today Show and starred in a PBS TV Special on love. She is the best-selling author of Love in 90 Days and 30 Days to Love: The Ultimate Relationship Turnaround Guide. Dr. Diana has helped thousands all over the world to find passionate lasting love. Her free Dating Tips & Relationship Advice newsletter is available at lovein90days.com.

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Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/136

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Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Feb 28, 2018
135: Coping With Your Partner's Annoying Behaviors
48:33

We all have weird pet peeves that our partner's seem to always break the 'rules' on. Chewing too loud, not squeezing the toothpaste out of the tube correctly, leaving dirty clothes on the floor....the list goes on. These little things can create conflict in a relationship, especially over time. Listen to today's show to learn how to communicate with your partner, and not let small things annoy you.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to step back and ask ourselves why we're having little fights, and what's really going on underneath.
  • Why every communication is a negotiation with our partner that we must understand.
  • The importance of active listening and validation in communication with your partner.
  • How to deescalate an argument so that it can be more productive for your relationship.
  • Decompressing to help manage communication when you or your partner is stressed.
  • And much more!

David Ludden is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College in Altanta. He is the author of the textbook "The Psychology of Language: An Integrated Approach." His also maintains the blog "Talking Apes" on the "Psychology Today" website. Much of his writing focuses on the role of communication in building and maintaining relationships.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/135

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Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Feb 21, 2018
134: How To Have Great Sex In A Long-Lasting Relationship
49:38

Want to have better sex!? If you answered, YES!, then this episode is for you. It turns out that as relationships mature, the sex tends to become less frequent and less passionate. Don't despair. There are simple steps to help improve your sex life right here in this episode. Listen and learn!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Why being aware of when you're aroused and what that feels like is the first step to better sex.
  • Dumb and happy arousal and why it's important in your relationship.
  • Why women are increasingly less satisfied in bed and what to do about it (hint: smartphones and porn).
  • The importance of taking your time during sex and not simply having the goal of climaxing.
  • Why you should 'simmer' and not only get aroused when you are going to have sex.
  • Understanding that everyone is responsible for their own arousal.
  • Learn what 'lazy sex' is and how it can help your relationship.
  • And much more!

Stephen Snyder, M.D. is a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer in New York City. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/134

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Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the
better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Feb 14, 2018
133: The Importance of Nonverbal Communication in Your Relationship
35:41

Did you know that well over half of the communication you have in your relationship is nonverbal? We all know that feeling when your partner 'needs to talk'. They may touch your shoulder, or their tone or facial expressions change. These are nonverbal communications that are most recognizable, but there are hundreds of nonverbal cues we give and receive in our relationship each day. The way in which we give positive or negative nonverbal communication is a key to creating a successful relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn more about the importance of nonverbal communication in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how nodding, leaning and tilting with your head can create positive non-verbal cues for your partner.
  • Understand the gender differences in how men and women give and receive non-verbal communication.
  • Why the tone of your voice can be a critical component of successful non-verbal communication.
  • How reading body language can affect your relationship.
  • Why something as simple as placing your hand on your partners shoulder can help your relationship.
  • And much more!

Vanessa Van Edwards is a published best selling author and behavioral investigator. Vanessa is lead investigator at her human behavior research lab, the Science of People. She designs original research experiments to crack the code of human behavior. Her unique work has been featured on NPR, the Wall Street Journal, the Today Show and USA Today. She has written for CNN, Fast Company and Forbes.

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/133

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Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the
better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Feb 07, 2018
132: I'm Right, And You're Wrong
43:45

We've all been in an argument where we are so sure we're right. We'll go to great lengths to stand our ground and prove that we are right and our partner is wrong. News flash, this is not helpful for our relationships. Learn the tools to defuse a situation where you or your partner thinks they are right and an argument begins.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Recognizing that when we argue we often go away from the content of the argument and go toward feelings.
  • How to go beneath the content of an argument to discover the trigger for the conflict.
  • Why arguments often begin with the relationship we have with ourselves and not our partner.
  • How to wait and have a productive conversation when we're not in an escalated emotional state.
  • Validating your partners feelings to have a productive conversation and create a stronger relationship.
  • And much more!

Ellen Gendelman is a psychotherapist and professional coach who specializes in working with relationships. She cherishes her own roles as wife, mother and grandmother. A veteran educator and motivational speaker, she has a passion for helping people grow and maximize their potential. Ellen is excited to have recently authored her second book ‘When Ice Cream Is Not Enough.’

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/132

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Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the
better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Jan 31, 2018
131: Communication Tips for a Better Sex Life
56:07

Why is talking about sex in our relationships so hard sometimes? Not satisfied in bed? Unhappy with the frequency of sex in your relationship? Do you want to simply spice up your sex life? Sex is a huge part of relationships, and it's often not talked about at all, or in a productive way. Listen to today's episode to learn how to talk about sex with your partner and ignite your sex life.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:  

  • Learn how to avoid a 'sexless' relationship (having sex less than 10 times per year - 1/3 of couples are actually 'sexless').
  • Get the tools to have a productive conversation about sex with your partner.
  • The importance of giving your partner a warning that you want to have a sex talk.
  • Understand why it's critical that the 'sex talk' is an ongoing conversation.
  • Learn how to communicate the change in your sex life you want to see in a positive manner.
  • Find out the steps to having the who, what, where, when, why conversation about sex in your relationship and learn how it can help tremendously.

Laurie Watson is a certified sex therapist, author, speaker, and educator on sexuality, intimacy and relationships. Laurie also co-hosts a podcast with Dr. Adam Matthews where they talk easily and frankly about the challenges of monogamy, and how couples can have an exciting, meaningful sex life in marriage.

Full show notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/131

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Jan 24, 2018
130: Achieving Work-Life Balance In Your Relationship
54:58
Are you struggling to achieve a healthy work-life balance in your relationship? Do you feel like your partner is focusing more on work and less on you and the relationship? It's easy for our relationships to take a back seat to a busy job or a new business venture. There are only so many hours in a day, and much of the time is spent working. Don't let work ruin your relationship. Listen to today's show to find out the key tools to balance your work life with your romantic life.
 
In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:
  • How to manage your time between work and your relationship. 
  • Creating weekly agreements to manage expectations and avoid conflicts. 
  • How to be present with your spouse and forget about work while at home. 
  • Setting boundaries on when to talk about work and when to 'keep it at the office'. 
  • The importance of checking in with your partner and letting them know you care about their work, while not letting it overshadow the relationship. 
  • Using shared calendars to help manage time, expectations and work-relationship balance. 

Dorcas Cheng-Tozun is an award-winning writer and author of Start, Love, Repeat: How to Stay in Love with Your Entrepreneur in a Crazy Start-up World. She is a columnist for Inc.com and has written for dozens of other publications. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her entrepreneur husband and their two young boys

Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/130

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Lovelands: Lovelands is a highly readable guide to creating the relationship and life you most deeply desire, by psychologist Dr Debra Campbell.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep going wrong in love and how to make lasting change for the
better — Lovelands will show you how to make that change, not just in your relationship but in every
area of your life.

Get your copy of Lovelands today — available in hardcover, Amazon and Audible.

If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Jan 17, 2018
129: Recovering From Infidelity In Your Relationship
01:01:32

Infidelity is unfortunately a huge part of the modern marriage. If we can understand why men and women cheat then we are halfway towards solving the problem. Once a partner has committed physical or emotional infidelity, it is important to learn how to heal the relationship. Listen to today's show to learn about healing from a cheating spouse or how to avoid it altogether!

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:  

  • How to heal the broken trust from a cheating spouse.
  • Why men tend to cheat more because of opportunity and women for a larger variety of reasons.
  • How a man can earn back trust and heal the relationship.
  • Why a man's desire to 'fix things' can be detrimental to healing after infidelity.
  • And much more!

Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, is a digital-age intimacy and relationships expert specializing in infidelity and addictions—in particular sex, porn, and love addiction. He is the author of several highly regarded books, including “Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating,” and “Sex Addiction 101. Currently, he is Senior Vice President of National Clinical Development for Elements Behavioral Health, creating and overseeing addiction and mental health treatment programs for more than a dozen high-end treatment facilities.

Full show notes and episode links at http://idopodcast.com/129

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Jan 10, 2018
128: Improve Intimacy In 2018
41:15

Let's face it, getting old sucks! As we age, we may also face daily obstacles of intimacy along the way. Whether you're 25 or 55, these obstacles can be increased if you suffer from  a chronic illness, depression or any other health issues. Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the relationships intimacy issues involved with getting older or living with a chronic illness.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how unrealistic relationship depictions can shape how we feel and act in our own relationships.
  • How to deal with sexual functioning issues, fatigue and the insecurities surrounding these issues.
  • Tips for communicating effectively about intimacy issues and other relationship areas.
  • The importance of being willing and ready to hear about changes from your partner.
  • How to be honest with the people in our lives.
  • And much more!

Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., is a nationally recognized expert on sexuality, sexual health, relationships, intimacy, parenting, and sexual politics. She is also a TV personality and best-selling author of three books, and is a contributor to online resource Arthritis.com.

Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/128

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If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah

Jan 03, 2018
127: Just Be Nice 🙂
51:19

The next time you want to shout, "Hey, you a**hole!", at the person who cut you off, try practicing some compassion. No really, it's the single greatest tool to help you navigate rush hour traffic, a screaming child or a partner who has been getting on your nerves. It can sound a bit 'woo woo', but learning to practice more compassion toward ourselves and others can have a profound impact on our relationships and overall well being. Listen to today's show to get the tools and tips to bring more compassion into your life.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Understand the balance involved in creating a truly compassionate life.
  • The tools and tips to become more compassionate to yourself and others on a daily basis.
  • Learn how to be curious about what the other person is experiencing in order to become more compassionate.
  • How understanding that everybody has a life story will help you be more compassionate.
  • The tips to realizing that kindness is always possible.
  • And much more!

Laura Jack, author of #1 best selling book, The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens, teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief.

Full Show Notes and Episode Links at http://idopodcast.com/127

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Dec 27, 2017
126: Managing Stress In Your Relationship...Especially During Holidays
53:00

Relationships are hard — add your drunk uncle, traveling with kids, buying presents and everything that comes with the holidays, and you have a recipe for a mental meltdown. No need to worry! Today's episode will give you the tools and advice to manage stress around the holiday's and in everyday life.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how to tolerate each others differences and not try to fix them.
  • Find out what 'speed arguing' is and how it can be a valuable tool for your relationship.
  • Learn why it's important not to take your partner's mood personally.
  • Tips to create rules that will help you navigate stressful situations.
  • And much more!

Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples—many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane, and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage.

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Dec 20, 2017
125: When Two Worlds Collide - Dating and Parenting
57:35

Being a single or divorced parent and dating can be difficult. Whether you are dating someone with kids, or you yourself have kids from a previous relationship, these circumstances present all kinds of potential problems. Learn how to navigate these issues with a world's leading expert on resilience and family dynamics.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how to create structure for your kids to help ease the transition of divorce and dating.
  • Find out if it's OK for your kids to stay in touch with an ex who is not their parent.
  • Understand the importance of being genuine with your child when dating new people.
  • Learn why it's important to not feel guilty about dating.
  • And much more!

Dr. Michael Ungar is the Canada Research Chair in Child, Family and Community Resilience at Dalhousie University, and the founder and Director of the Resilience Research Center. He is among the best known writers and researchers on the topic of resilience in the world. As both a family therapist and professor of Social Work, he has helped to identify important factors that influence the resilience of children and families during periods of change and stress. He is the author of 14 books that have been translated into five languages, numerous manuals for parents, educators, and employers, as well as more than 150 scientific papers.

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Dec 13, 2017
124: Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa...Oh My!
59:07

Navigating the complexities of an inter-faith relationship can be difficult, especially during the holiday season. Forty-nine perfect of unmarried relationships and 39% of marriages are inter-faith, and the numbers continues to grow. Today's episode will help you learn how to communicate with your partner during the holiday's and beyond. Don't be the Grinch this holiday season, listen this episode to get the tools to maintain a happy and healthy relationship. 

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how to communicate about your differences and establish rules to operate under in your relationship.
  • Understand why our needs are not always met in a relationship, and why that's OK.
  • How to deal with parents who might be pushing their religious views on you or your partner.
  • Remembering that you got together because of your differences and this is what should be appealing about your partner. It would be pretty boring if you agreed on everything!
  • And much more!

Diane Barth is a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst in New York City where she works with individuals, couples, and families and leads private study groups. She also offers workshops for therapists around the country. Her articles have been published in numerous professional journals and books.

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Dec 06, 2017
123: Help, My Partner Is A Workaholic!
44:57

Technology and work are an integral part of living in the 21st century. While both can be great, they can also create a huge strain on our relationships. It's common for a person to have feelings of betrayal when their partner is always working, talking on the phone or browsing social media. Learning to create awareness around these issues and communicate through them is critical to having a successful relationship in today's world.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How using 'I' statements can be the difference between successfully solving a relationship problem and a full-scale blowup.
  • Why getting out of the house can be the key to a productive conversation within your relationship.
  • How to discuss and create boundaries between work, technology and your home relationship life.
  • Forming a contract and schedule for when your partner will take off work to spend time on the relationship.
  • Why it's important to remember that we cannot change our partner.
  • The 10-minute rule and how it can help your relationship flourish.
  • And much more!

Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, therapist and professor. She is also the director of a landmark study, funded by National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for almost 3 decades. Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Dr. Orbuch has been featured in such publications as The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, USA Today, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan and TIME magazine and has appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, and CNN.

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Nov 29, 2017
122: Managing Long Distance Relationships...Even If You Just Feel Like You're In One
44:18

There is nothing harder than being madly in love with someone and not being able to see them everyday. Whether you live in another state or your partner works a lot, finding success in a long distance relationship can be hard. Listen to today's show to learn the tools to create a successful long distance relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:  

  • Learn how to gauge if your long distance relationship is going to last.
  • Find out why you should avoid texting your partner too often.
  • How to create novelty and passion to keep the relationship alive and thriving.
  • How simply having kid's can make a relationship feel like it's long distance.
  • Why it's important not to skip over uncomfortable relationship conversations.
  • And much more!

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is an award-winning author and relationship expert. She is the founder and director of Paulette Sherman Group, a psychotherapy and relationship coaching practice and home of numerous award-winning books, including Dating From the Inside Out published by Simon & Schuster. For more than 20 years, Paulette changed the lives of thousands of clients, and shared insight with millions more through expert commentary on over 30 media outlets including MSN, USA Today, The New York Post, The New York Times and many more. She lives in Brooklyn, NY with her husband and two children and works in Manhattan.

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Nov 22, 2017
121: Split the Check, Please
43:56

Managing and communicating around the subject of finances can be a critical part of any relationship. If you're dating, how do you decide who picks up the bill? Recently engaged? Will you combine or keep your finances separate? Financial disagreements in long term relationships and marriage can become a huge problem. Listen to today's show and learn how to navigate the ins and outs of finance in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how to communicate about spending habits and how you view money in your relationship.
  • Find out the best ways to manage your money in a long term relationship.
  • How to decide on whether or not to combine bank accounts.
  • Learn how to decide who will pick up the bill for dinner on your next date. This is not the 19th century, women are working and making money too!
  • And much more!

Stefanie O'Connell is a millennial money expert, speaker and author of the book, “The Broke and Beautiful Life". Stefanie's website, StefanieOConnell.com, is a destination for millennials who want to feel as much clarity with their money as they do confidence in their lives. Her work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Forbes, SUCCESS magazine, MONEY.com and many more!

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Nov 15, 2017
120: Esther Perel Talks Infidelity and Modern Relationships
38:34

Infidelity is something that can affect both unhappy, and seemingly happy relationships. That's right, research has shown a significant number of partners are cheating while in a happy relationship. Esther Perel breaks down how to deal with infidelity and a range of other relationship topics that we know you'll enjoy. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships, and we couldn't have been happier to have her on the show to share her extensive knowledge.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How the rulebooks for marriages and relationships are being reinvented.
  • Why people cheat in a happy relationship.
  • How to avoid the trap of becoming a narrow version of yourself while in a relationship.
  • What to do when there has been cheating in your relationship.
  • Talking about non-monogamy with your partner, and why it's important even if you don't want to explore an open relationship.
  • How to cultivate the healthiest relationship possible.
  • And much more!

Belgian psychotherapist, Esther Perel, is the New York Times bestselling author of The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered nearly 20 million views, and she is also the host of the popular Audible original podcast Where Should We Begin?

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Nov 08, 2017
119: Feeling Lonely In Your Relationship
39:29

The human condition of loneliness is one that everyone experiences. Feeling lonely is common even for those in relationships. Learning how to deal with loneliness is important whether it's your own or your partners. Listen to today’s show to learn how to overcome loneliness in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to look inward, rather than outward to your partner, to help deal with loneliness.
  • Why it’s important to accept your own, or your partners loneliness.
  • How to frame loneliness as a necessary stage before we make a big change in our lives.
  • How to talk about loneliness with your partner and discuss from a place of acceptance.
  • Mirror meditation as a tool to deal with loneliness.
  • And much more!

Dr. Tara Well is a professor of psychology at Barnard College of Columbia University in New York City. She has over 20 years of experience in conducting research on what motivates us and influences our perceptions as well as extensive training in meditation, yoga, and other mind-body healing modalities. Her research has been funded by the National Institute of Mental Health and the National Science Foundation and has been published in the top professional journals in psychology. She teaches classes in personality, motivation, health, and women's leadership.

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Oct 31, 2017
118: Bad Breakups: Learn How Past Relationships Shape Who We Are
50:19

Chances are you've been through a breakup at some point in your life. Whether it was a recent and difficult breakup, or a high school sweetheart from years ago, these events shape who we are and how we form new relationships. Learning how to accept and validate your feelings is critical to moving on and forming a new happy and healthy relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to examine your past relationships to improve where you are now.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to accept and validate your feelings surrounding a breakup.
  • The steps to completing a through investigation of your beliefs so that they do not negatively affect your current or future relationships.
  • Examining your fears surrounding relationships so they do not have power over you.
  • How to deal with a partner who has a past breakup that is affecting your current relationship.
  • Writing therapy to help process your past.
  • And much more!

Rachel Dack is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC), Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC) and Relationship Coach. Rachel is the owner of Rachel Dack Counseling LLC, a private psychotherapy, relationship coaching and consulting practice located in Bethesda, Maryland. With a Master’s degree in Clinical Counseling from Johns Hopkins University, Rachel specializes in supporting individuals and couples in achieving healthy mindsets, decreased stress, satisfying relationships, positive wellbeing and love. Her areas of expertise include relationships, dating, anxiety, self-esteem, mindfulness and depression.

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Oct 25, 2017
117: Why Making Excuses Hurts Your Relationship
53:02

It's easy to rationalize the negative ways we talk or act toward our partner. In fact, rationalizing bad behavior often leads to conflict and the eroding of a relationship. Listen to this episode to learn why excuses and rationalizations creep into even the best of marriages, and how help couples identify and eliminate them.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn why it's so hard to be self aware when emotions are high and how to change this.
  • Defending yourself versus being defensive and the important distinction between each.
  • Why using "I" statements instead of "You" can make a huge improvement in the communication in your relationship.
  • How to become self aware in order to avoid rationalizing bad behavior.
  • Why we have negative reactions to being accused and how to change this communication on both sides.
  • And much more!

Jason Whiting, Ph.D., is a professor at Brigham Young University who studies deception, conflict, and abuse in relationships, with the goal of helping couples become more loving and authentic. His book, Love Me True: Overcoming the Surprising Ways We Deceive in Relationships, looks at how partners can be more honest with themselves and each other. In addition to teaching, studying, and writing about relationships, Whiting is a licensed marriage and family therapist who works with couples in a clinical context.

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Oct 18, 2017
116: Affair Proof Your Relationship
01:03:17

The incidence of infidelity in the United States is greater than 50%. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that we're doing something wrong. A huge part of preventing infidelity is communication with your partner. For example, have you communicated your deepest sexual desires to your partner without fear of judgement? Today's show will outline the steps to share feelings like this and to affair proof your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to come to terms with the fact that we are all sexual beings, and will find people other than our partner attractive.
  • Avoiding the irrational belief in your relationship that, "we love each other and therefore will never stray."
  • Facing your own fears of your partner being attracted to someone else.
  • Learn to know the person you love on the deepest level possible.
  • How to talk about these deep emotional feelings with your partner.
  • Why the more you talk about your weaknesses, the stronger you and your relationship will become.
  • And much more!

Steven Ing is reframing an important conversation in society one about the intelligent management of human sexuality. He is a sought-after trainer, speaker and therapist, bringing nearly three decades of experience to his audiences and clients. His book, We're All Like This" (2015, Giant Publishing), is used as a text in Human Sexuality classes in university classrooms.

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Oct 11, 2017
115: Great Expectations
36:45

When expectations in your relationship don’t meet reality, disappointment is bound to happen. Whether you find yourself struggling with too high or too low expectations, finding the balance is key to being happier and more satisfied in your relationship. Listen to today’s show with Dr. Sarah Vannier to learn how to manage expectations and avoid disappointment in your relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How creating false romantic expectations can hurt your relationship.
  • Finding a balance in your relationship expectations so they aren't too high or too low.
  • Examining your expectations to determine which are the most realistic.
  • Learn if you have a growth romantic belief system or a destiny romantic belief system and how this will affect your relationships.
  • How to keep intimacy for couples who are new parents.
  • And much more!

Dr. Sarah Vannier is a Postdoctoral Fellow working at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia. Her research tends to focus on the ways that we think about our sexual and romantic relationships and she recently published two papers looking at the link between violated romantic expectations (e.g., love at first sight, destiny) and relationship outcomes in young adults dating relationships. Right now Sarah is doing research looking at the ways to help new parents cope with the sexual and relationship challenges that come with early parenthood.

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Oct 04, 2017
114: Is Your Partner In Love With Their Phone?
58:41

We all know our relationships would benefit from limiting the amount of time we spend on our phones. So, why is it so damn hard to put the phone down!? The average person spends about 4 hours each day on their phone - 4 HOURS! What if we spent 10% of that time nurturing our relationship? That's 10 full hours a month that can be dedicated to date nights. Yes, please! Listen to today's show to learn how to put your phone down and reconnect with yourself and your partner. 

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How a smart phone can ruin your relationship and the steps to prevent this.
  • How our brains react to phone use in the same way as cocaine.
  • Why creating awareness of an addiction to technology is the first step in treatment and improving your relationship.
  • Tips to put your phone down and reconnect with yourself and your partner.
  • How to have a serious conversation about dealing with technology in your relationship.
  • And much more!

Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, mindfulness teacher, relationship expert, blogger for psychology today and huff post, and the author of the new book, The Power of Off: The Mindful Way to Stay Sane in a Virtual World.

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Sep 27, 2017
113: Why Respect Is Critical In A Relationship
41:30

John Kim LMFT, The Angry Therapist, pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth. He quickly built a devoted following of tens of thousands of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. John became known as an unconventional therapist who worked out of the box, and when he built out a coaching team of his own, launched an entire movement to change the way we change.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn why mutual respect should be a foundation of your relationship.
  • How to address your partner in a non-blaming way for conflict resolution.
  • Why it's important to respond and not react in your relationship.
  • How to accept your partner for maximum relationship happiness.
  • Why self awareness is one of the most valuable tools in a successful relationship.
  • And much more!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/113


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Sep 20, 2017
112: Don’t Make These Online Dating Mistakes
50:03

Megan Murray is the Senior Content Strategist and Editor-in-Chief at Zoosk, an online dating site and app. She splits her time between product management and writing and managing Zoosk's online publication, The Date Mix.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn the top tools and insights to navigate the world of online dating.
  • Find out how to send better messages to attract the right relationship match online.
  • The counterintuitive reason removing your online dating filters can help you find true love.
  • How to set up your online dating profile to attract the best partner.
  • Find out how to time your messages for maximum response rates and interaction.
  • Understand the biggest mistakes people make when online dating so you can avoid them.
  • And much more!

Download today's freebie here: The Ultimate Cheat Sheet to Online Dating - 5 Tips That Will Help You Meet Interesting People and Go On Great Dates

Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

Want to hear more from us about this topics? We'll be doing a Facebook Live tomorrow (Thursday, September 14th) at 2pm on our Love Tribe group page!

The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/112


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Sep 13, 2017
111: Conflict Happens - Learn How to Deal With It
45:01

Dr. Bernard Golden, the founder of Anger Management Education in Chicago, has been a practicing psychologist for almost forty years. He is the author of Overcoming Destructive Anger: Strategies That Work, Unlock Your Creative Genius and Healthy Anger: How to help children and teens manage their anger.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn how you and your partner can manage your anger for a happier relationship.
  • Understand that unless you are the ultimate enlightened being, you will experience some form of anger in your life.
  • How to take a mental pause to scan your body and deal with anger appropriately.
  • Why keeping an anger log can help you manage knee-jerk reactions and unnecessary anger.
  • Using compassionate words with yourself and your partner to dissolve an angry situation.
  • Why the ability to apologize is a critical element in dealing with angry blowups.
  • And much more!

Download today's freebie here: Step-by-Step Guide to Help Couples Manage Conflict

Join Our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe

The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/111


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Sep 06, 2017
110: Progress Over Perfection
49:27

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relationships and codependency. Shes counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include Conquering Shame and Codependency, Codependency for Dummies, 10 Steps to Self-Esteem, How to Beat Perfectionism and many more.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How unrealistically high standards can hurt your relationship.
  • Why becoming aware of self-talk and beliefs is important in dealing with perfectionism.
  • Learn the type of perfectionist you or your partner are in order to improve the relationship.
  • How to work with your inner critic.
  • Learn how you or your partner can become a healthy perfectionist that does not damage the relationship.
  • Why challenging your beliefs can be a valuable exercise in improving your relationship.
  • And much more!

Housekeeping Notes: We’ve created a Facebook Group: Love Tribe

The Love Tribe community is made up of I Do Podcast listeners and was created to help support you in making your relationship {even} better. We encourage you to share your success stories, tips and heartache. Although every relationship is DIFFERENT – be each other’s inspiration. We hope you join our group here!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/110


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Aug 30, 2017
109: Stop Disagreements From Turning Into Fights
52:34
Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D., M.P.P. researches and writes about decision-making from the origins of life to everyday life. He has written over 1100 articles on practical decision-making for his Psychology Today blog: Ambigamy: Insights for the deeply romantic and deeply skeptical and has a book coming out with Columbia University Press this October: Neither Ghost Nor Machine, the emergence and nature of selves.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to avoid escalating a disagreement into a fight in your relationship. 
     
  • Determining where the fight is coming from by asking, "Is it stemming from you, me or us?"
  • Mirroring your partner to help talk your way through a disagreement. 
  • How going meta and thinking about how you are thinking can help resolve conflict in your relationship.
  • Why it's important to not become the 'judge' of the disagreement with your partner.
  • And much more!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/109

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Aug 23, 2017
108: Is Facebook Damaging Your Relationship?
51:57
Dr. Zack Carter is an assistant professor of communication at Taylor University. His teaching and research efforts are conducted through the lens of social psychology. His areas of expertise are marriage fidelity, relationship development/management, the self, nonverbal communication, persuasion, social influence, and social media. Specifically, Dr. Carter is passionate about helping married couples, and those looking to marry, avoid blind spots in their communication with the opposite sex, face-to-face, online, and through texting, that could devastate their marriage relationship.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to monitor social media use for a healthy marriage or relationship.
  • Why online emotional infidelity can be just as damaging as an actual affair.
  • How 'carefronting', rather than confronting, your partner is a more productive way to problem solve.
  • Learn what Zach thinks about one-on-one friendships with the opposite sex when you are married or in a relationship.
  • Find out if you should create a joint Facebook account with your partner.
  • And much more!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/108

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Aug 16, 2017
107: Rethinking Marriage
58:24

Vicki Larson is an award-winning journalist in the San Francisco Bay Area and Susan Pease Gadoua is a licensed therapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area and author of "Contemplating Divorce, A Step-by-Step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go" and "Stronger Day by Day: Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce ." Together they wrote "The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels".

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Learn the many interesting alternatives to traditional marriage.
  • Why it's important to be clear on what you want in your marriage or relationship.
  • Why matching your expectations with your partner's is a key to a successful marriage.
  • Open marriages and how they can be structured.
  • Creating a contract for your relationship in order to find success.
  • And much more!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/107

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Aug 09, 2017
106: How Embracing Vulnerability Strengthens Our Relationships
46:44

Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association and Senior Editor for the mental health website PsychAlive.org. She is the author of numerous articles and chapters and the co-author of several books including Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion, Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships and most recently The Self under Siege. Dr. Firestone is international trainer and speaker on: couple relationships, parenting, suicide, and violence prevention. She expert in the areas of suicide and violence and was involved in clinical training and applied research with her father Dr. Robert Firestone.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How vulnerability will help your relationship by creating more intimacy.
  • Cultivating vulnerability in yourself and your partner.
  • Why it's important to ask for what you DO want rather than what you DON'T want.
  • How to get in touch with your real feelings underneath anger.
  • Creating an atmosphere of safety in your relationship to talk about feelings.
  • And much more!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/106

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Aug 02, 2017
105: Dealing with Emotional Triggers and Thinking Separately
49:37

Dr. Ilene S. Cohen, Ph.D., is a psychotherapist and blogger, and teaches in the Department of Counseling at Barry University. Shes a regular contributor to Psychology Today, and her work has appeared in Psych Central and Tiny Buddha. Her practice is fueled by her passion for helping people achieve their goals, build a strong sense of self and lead fulfilling and meaningful lives.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Why commitment is the baseline and foundation of a relationship.
  • Why it's important to think separately from your partner in a relationship. 
     
  • How to manage your own functioning and avoid trying to manage your partner.
  • Why we become emotionally triggered and how to deal with it.
  • How to take an objective approach to a triggered response.
  • Why it's important to not judge yourself for becoming triggered.
  • And much more!

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Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/105

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Jul 26, 2017
104: Seven Dimensions of Successful Relationships
54:51

Gal Szekely is the founder of The Couples Center, a rapidly growing hub for relationship counseling and education in San Francisco area. He is an adjunct faculty at CIIS and JFK universities where he teaches couples counseling and an instructor in the Hakomi experiential therapy method. His work is especially effective since it integrates mindfulness and the wisdom of the body-mind connection. Gal and his wife, Liron, lead popular weekend premarital workshop for couples called Love Made Simple.


In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Why commitment is the baseline and foundation of a relationship.
  • How intimacy can be created simply by putting your hand on your partners back and why this is so important.
  • Why individuality is an important component of a successful relationship.
  • How to create a win-win resolution to your relationship conflicts.
  • Actionable tips to create more passion in your relationship.
  • How to manage life together and work like a team.
  • Why growing together and becoming better people is so valuable to a relationship.
  • And much more!

14 Day Happy Couples Challenge starts next Wednesday, July 26th! Sign up at idopodcast.com.

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/104

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Jul 19, 2017
103: How Trauma Affects Our Relationships
33:39

Kristen Holbrook is a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Coquitlam, BC. Kristen offers both individual and couples counseling in her private practice. She has specialized training in the area of trauma and has been trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). In addition to her private practice work, Kristen provides counseling to women who have experienced historical and domestic abuse in an agency setting.


In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How past trauma affects how we see ourselves and our partners.
  • Why trauma does not have to be a big thing. Trauma can have an impact whenever something exceeds are ability to cope with it.
  • How trauma can come from early childhood experiences and past relationships.
  • Why self-work is important to dealing with trauma in order to improve your relationship.
  • Why it's important that you come from a place of empathy if you're dealing with a partner who is addressing a traumatic experience.
  • And much more!

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/103

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Jul 12, 2017
102: Controlling the Emotional Freight Train
50:44

Maureen Hosier is a licensed psychologist, specializing in the troubled dynamics of individuals in their romantic relationships and in their family and work place relationships. Maureen and her sister, Berta Hosier Conger, co-authored two books titled, You'll Do Anything for Her and You'll Do Anything for Him. They look at a common issue for many in relationship, both men and women, who give up themselves to make the relationship work. They have developed a framework for understanding the dynamics of individuals who find themselves stuck in an emotionally reactive and emotionally painful situation with their partner and who are frightened that they are destroying their relationship.


In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How we are emotionally triggered and how to deal with an emotionally reactive position.
  • Why it's important to interrupt your emotional reactions.
  • Understanding that you cannot change the other person in your relationship.
  • Why both partners have to want to change who they are emotionally.
  • How to avoid the impossible situation of trying to take care of your partner.
  • And much more!

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/102

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Jul 05, 2017
101: Refresh, Reconnect and Recharge Your Marriage
41:51

Zev Halpern is a licensed psychotherapist and marriage coach practicing from his office in the Metro DC Area. In addition, Zev also coaches couples virtually on line across the country and world. He is a TV show and podcast host, author and speaker with over 25 years of experience. With the divorce rate climbing, Zev Halpern has turned his attention to helping couples find mutual paths to marital fulfillment and family stability. His laid back, yet straight shooting approach is the perfect combination to help couples deal with the issues that have been driving them apart.


In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Key ingredients to creating a lasting marriage.
  • Why it's important to create novelty in your marriage.
  • How acting like a kid can be valuable for creating lasting love.
  • Why you sometimes must change yourself in order to change your relationship.
  • Why having difficult conversations is important for a strong marriage.
  • And much more!

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/101

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Jun 28, 2017
100: Young Love vs Mature Love
42:46

John Amodeo PhD, MFT, has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for over thirty-five years in the San Francisco Bay Area. He is the author of Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships. His other books include The Authentic Heart and Love & Betrayal. He is a former writer and contributing editor for Yoga Journal, and has conducted workshops and lectured internationally on relationships and couples therapy.

He has appeared as a featured guest on programs that included CNN, Donahue, and New Dimensions Radio and he is a popular blogger for Psychology Today.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to develop mature love in our life.
  • How to speak from the heart.
  • How to be authentic and practice authentic relating.
  • How to improve emotional awareness.
  • Best ways to begin mindfulness.
  • How nature, yoga and meditating can improve mindfulness.
  • How to get out of the young love mindset.

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/100

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Jun 22, 2017
99: Why Married Sex Is Better Sex
46:47

Laura Doyle is a New York Times bestselling author whose books have been translated into 16 languages and published in 27 countries. Over 50,000 women credit her with not only saving their relationships, but also showing them how to become desired, cherished and adored for life.

She has appeared on CBS Evening News, Dateline NBC, The Today Show and The View. Articles about Laura have appeared in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, The London Telegraph, and The New Yorker.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to have more and better sex in your relationship or marriage.
  • Why respect is a strong aphrodisiac.
  • How emotional safety can create more intimacy in your relationship.
  • The key to expressing your sexual desires.
  • How women can use men's 'hero gene' to get what they want in the relationship. 
  • And much more!

Full Show Notes at http://idopodcast.com/99

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download. Audibletrial.com/idopodcast

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Jun 14, 2017
98: Turning Conflict Into Passion
41:44

Thea & Duane Harvey are marriage and family therapists specializing in Imago Relationship Therapy. They have been married 10 years and have a thriving couples therapy practice in Santa Monica, California. They believe that novelty, pleasure and romance are the keys to creating a lasting joyous connection.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • Why success in your relationship can be measured by the number of difficult conversations you have.
  • The value of an organizational approach to communication in your marriage or relationship.
  • Three valuable tools to manage anxiety so it doesn't affect your relationship.
  • Learn how to not be controlled by your emotions.
  • And much more!

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Jun 07, 2017
97: Create More Intimacy In Your Relationship
36:28

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, Robert Jameson focuses on helping clients understand and overcome issues, such as anger, hurt, depression, anxiety, love, relationships, boundaries and limiting beliefs, to name a few.

Mr. Jameson is also the author of Thoughts of Pomery, an entertaining book of pictures and thoughts that guides the reader to expand their perceptions of life and relationships with others, Dont Lose Weight Give It Away, which explores the emotional aspects of weight loss, and The Pocket Oasis, a fun and useful pocket-sized book that can be used as a tool to help center anyone during a hectic day.

In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 

  • Creating intimacy through trust.
  • How trust is established and destroyed. 
  • How to use words of appreciation to create more intimacy in your relationship.
  • The importance of a 'house meeting' once a month. 
  • How to get your partner to do what you want through loving communication. 
  • And much more!

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May 31, 2017
96: Taking The Next Step In Your Relationship
37:03

Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally renowned marriage and sex therapist, radio host of the Doctor on Call show, and creator of 'SHRINK WRAP'. Her book, What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, is available nationwide

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: 

  • How to evaluate your relationship the right way.
  • The questions to ask before making a big step in your relationship like moving in together or becoming exclusive, ect...
  • Why it's important to make lists when moving in with your partner.
  • The signs that you should be taking the next step in advancing your relationship.
  • Why it's important that both individuals in a relationship feel their needs are being considered.
  • And much more!

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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May 24, 2017
95: Don't Wait Around, Make the Change YOU Want
42:43

Winifred Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. In her thirty-five years of clinical practice she has treated hundreds of couples, many who were convinced they were headed for divorce. Winifred has been a guest lecturer on marriage and sexuality, and her writing has appeared on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, xoJane and on her relationship advice blog, Speaking of Marriage.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • How to stop focusing on your partner's contribution to the relationship and start making the changes on your own.
  • Why working on your own destructive behaviors will help improve your relationship.
  • How you can take the lead and create positive change in your relationship.
  • Why talking to a therapist can create a safe space to help work through your relationship issues.
  • Why it's important not to wait around for your partner to create the change that you want to see and how you can do it yourself!
  • And much more!

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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May 17, 2017
94: How Netflix Can Improve Your Relationship
37:20

Suzanne Degges-White, PhD, is professor and chair of the Department of Counseling, Adult and Higher Education at Northern Illinois University. She earned her PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. She is a licensed counselor and has over 15 years of experience working with children, adolescents and adults, including couples and families.

Her research interests include the development of identity and intimate relationships including family relationships, romantic relationships and friendships. She has authored several books addressing relationships including Friends Forever: How Girls and Women Forge Lasting Relationships; Toxic Friendships: Knowing the Rules and Dealing with the Friends who Break Them; Mothers and Daughters: Living, Loving, and Learning over a Lifetime; and Sisters and Brothers for Life: Making Sense of Sibling Relationships in Adulthood. She also is a featured blogger for Psychology Today.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • Why it's important to develop rituals as a couple.
  • How to develop a unique relationship identity and why it's important.
  • How binging on Netflix can actually be a good thing for your relationship.
  • Learning to preserve your relationship's identity and that of your own.
  • And much more!

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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May 10, 2017
93: Creating The Relationship Of Your Dreams
44:32

Valerie Greene is a unique relationship mentor who helps women inspire their man to fulfill their deepest needs and desires. A highly successful alternative to relationship therapy, Valerie helps women and couples create a secure emotional connection--not just problem-solving or communication skills. Valerie has been coaching for over 12 years and holds numerous certifications in coaching, NLP, and emotional healing modalities.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • How to stop fighting and fall in love again.
  • Getting clarity on your feelings and relationship desires.
  • Why getting in touch with your feelings is key to a successful relationship.
  • How to realize your relationship dreams and create the changes needed to obtain them.
  • Creating the can-do attitude necessary to get in touch with your feelings.
  • And much more!

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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May 03, 2017
92: Dividing Housework In A Modern Relationship
47:48

Stephen Marche is the author of  The Unmade Bed (2017), The Hunger of the Wolf (2015), Love and the Mess We’re In (2013), How Shakespeare Changed Everything (2012), Shining at the Bottom of the Sea (2007) and Raymond and Hannah (2005). He currently writes “A Thousand Words About Our Culture,” a monthly column for Esquire magazine, in addition to opinion pieces for The Atlantic Monthly, The New York Times Magazine, The New Republic, Salon.com, The Globe and Mail and The Toronto Star. He received a doctorate in Early Modern Drama in 2005 from the University of Toronto.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: 

  • Gender norms and how they affect modern relationships.
  • Why housework is where gender politics comes to a head in our lives.
  • The conversation around biological and cultural mechanisms at play in gender roles and relationships.
  • The modern rise of marriage and the great transition culturally.
  • Why women are a driving force in global economics.
  • Why men are doing more housework than ever before.
  • And much more!

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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Apr 26, 2017
91: Food, Sex and You
46:26

Stacey Gorlicky is a registered Psychotherapist and author of the book "Food, Sex and You". She was also the former host of a live call in show "Mind Matters". Her areas of specialization are addiction, trauma, anxiety and depression. As an Addictions Counselor, Stacey studied at Ontario's McMasters University (CCACCF). She also studied in Transformational Arts College, graduating with honors as a Certified Psychotherapist and Spiritual Director.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: 

  • The similarities between our relationships with food and sex.
  • How to avoid 'emotional eating'.
  • Reaching out to your partner to help them in a non-threatening way.
  • Practicing self love and forgiveness.
  • How trauma in early life affects our current relationships.
  • And much more!

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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Apr 12, 2017
90: Six Steps For More Love In Your Life
35:37

Dr. Margaret Paul holds a PhD in psychology, is a relationship expert, public speaker, consultant and artist. She has successfully worked with thousands and taught classes and seminars for over 48 years.

Dr. Paul is also a bestselling author, popular Huffington Post and MindBodyGreen writer and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, and the related SelfQuest® self-healing software program - recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include: 

  • The 6 step process to heal false beliefs and love yourself.
  • Why it's so important to ask, "How am I treating myself?"
  • How we can reduce self-judgement and show more self-compassion.
  • Why loving ourselves will help our relationship flourish.
  • How to take responsibility for your feelings.
  • And much more!

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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Apr 05, 2017
89: How to Find A Quality Partner
33:53

Marni Battista has a Masters in Education and is a Certified Life Coach by the International Coaching Federation. She is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment, “The D-Factor,” that helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are, or are not date-able, and what types of messages they are unconsciously broadcasting to others based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. Marni is also trained as a Facilitator and Mentor Trainer by the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • How to take responsibility for the bad relationships you continue to encounter.
  • Why 'Power Posing' is a valuable tool to help you find the right partner.
  • The importance of realizing we are most disappointed when our expectations don't meet our reality.
  • Focusing on the process and not on the outcome to get more out of your dating life.
  • How to practice listening to your intuition.
  • And much more!

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Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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Mar 22, 2017
88: Avoiding The Relationship Comfort Zone
40:53

Mirel Goldstein is an expert marriage therapist in New Jersey who has been successfully lecturing and writing about marriage, as well as helping couples reignite the spark in their relationships, for the past 15 years. Her popular blog can be found on her website goldsteintherapy.com. Her YouTube video called, "How to recognize dismissive attachment behaviors in yourself and others", has inspired thousands of couples to address attachment issues that may be getting in the way of deeper closeness in their relationships.

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: 

  • How to balance emotional risk with emotional safety in a relationship.
  • Avoiding the long term relationship 'comfort zone' and keeping the passion in your relationship.
  • Why you can never fully know your partner and why that's a good thing.
  • Learning to be more vulnerable with your partner.
  • The importance of not holding your emotions inside.
  • And much more!

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Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO.

Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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Mar 15, 2017
87: What Straight Couples Can Learn From Gay Relationships
45:20

Dr. Greg Cason is best known as Dr. Greg from the Bravo series LA Shrinks. He appears regularly as a psychological expert on The Nancy Grace Show and has also appeared on a large variety of other TV programs. His expertise was also featured in documentaries such as The Butch Factor, The Adonis Factor and most recently, The Secret Tapes of the O.J. Case.

He writes the psychology column for Frontiers magazine and has been featured in The Huffington Post, The Advocate, People, and several others. Dr. Cason currently teaches at UCLA and is a licensed psychologist in Los Angeles specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and relationship issues.

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include:

  • The importance of recognizing the gender expectations we project onto our partners.
  • How straight couples can learn from gay men's greater openness toward sexuality.
  • The key to arguing in a productive manner.
  • Working to become more empathetic toward your partner.
  • How looking at your partner as an 8-year-old child can improve your relationship.
  • Why it's important to work on what you personally want in your relationship.
  • And much more!

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Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO.

Audible: Use the link below, and sign up for a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook download! You will have to enter your CC information, but you can just cancel the trial at the end of the month if you don’t like it and not pay a dime. There are a ton of great relationship audiobooks on Audible.com. Consider downloading The 5 Love Languages for your free download.

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Mar 08, 2017
86: Building Loving Relationships 101
42:19

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want.
 
She received her PhD in Counseling Psychology and a graduate certificate in Gender Studies from Northwestern University in 2001. In addition to teaching and training marriage and family therapy graduate students, Solomon teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. Solomon is a frequent speaker and media commentator on relationship topics and you can visit her online at dralexandrasolomon.com.

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include:

  • What her students love about her 17-year old college course, Marriage 101.
  • How our life experiences affect how we love.
  • Learning to be less reactive and appreciate our partner more.
  • Why it can be valuable to have the difficult conversations with a therapist.
  • The importance of making time and space to look within ourselves.
  • And much more!

Click here to for this episode's show notes page: Dr. Alexandra Solomon

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Mar 01, 2017
85: Give Yourself A Break
46:31

Kristy Arbon is the founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training LLC, a business set up to support women in their practice of mindfulness, self-compassion and shame resilience using the practices of mindful self-compassion, Internal Family Systems, Brene Brown's shame resilience model, Buddhist philosophy and exploration of archetypes.

Kristy is a qualified social worker, a certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and has completed Internal Family Systems Level 1 training. She is passionate about supporting women in taking care of themselves so that they can go out into the world and courageously do the important work they are called for.

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include:

  • How to calm your partner's or your own fierce inner critic.
  • The tools to help your partner, or yourself, practice more self-compassion.
  • Why it's important to simply 'be with' your partner sometimes and not try to fix every situation.
  • The 3 steps to practicing more self-compassion.
  • How practicing more self-compassion can help your relationship.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Feb 22, 2017
84: Raise Your Low Self-Esteem To Improve Your Relationship
38:38

Amanda Carver is a psychotherapist who lives and works in Ottawa, Ontario. She has worked many years with adolescents and families struggling with trauma and mental health challenges. She works heavily from an attachment perspective, understanding how early relationships with our parents and other important people in our lives affects how we connect with people later in our lives. Amanda is a mother of two young children and a partner in a 13 year relationship. She now runs her own private practice.

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include:

  • How to deal with our own, or our partner's, insecure attachment style.
  • What to do if you or your partner has a low self-esteem.
  • How to work on changing your attachment style to a secure attachment.
  • Creating habits as a couple that will help the an insecure partner feel secure.
  • How to improve your self-esteem to make your relationship better.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Feb 15, 2017
83: Stop Picking The Wrong Partner
34:28

Kristen Craren lives and works as a relationship therapist in Saint Louis, Missouri. Her life's work has been devoted to learning about relationships and helping clients improve theirs. Kristen's clients consistently say they love coming to see her because she goes above and beyond to help them reach their goals.

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include:

  • How to get out of the cycle of habitually picking the wrong partner.
  • Where insecure attachment is formed and how to deal with it.
  • Why learning about yourself can help you find the right partner. 
  • What to do if you or the person you are with has a low self esteem. 
  • Why it's important to think of yourself as a 'gift' to whoever you are in a relationship with.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Feb 08, 2017
82: Invest In Your Relationship
45:52

Sandra Fischer is the creator of Relationship Reveal™: 64 Cards for discovery, skill-building, and growth, a new card game that gets to the heart of what matters in happy, healthy relationships. Using Relationship Reveal is an active, engaging way to explore fears and provides a language to allow for greater vulnerability. Sandra writes for businesses, creates fiction and consults specializing in communications, people development and optimizing organizational effectiveness.

With 25 years of experience working for companies including Microsoft, Amazon and AT&T, her experiences have been as unique and broad as managing the homepage for Amazon to developing an online marketing campaign for a literary novel launch.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 

  • Why it’s important to know your value and that you are deserving of love.
  • The importance of trust and respect in relationships.
  • How the Myers Briggs assessment can help you if you are single or in a relationship.
  • Challenging what we are socialized to believe about relationships.
  • The importance of investing in yourself and your relationship and how to do it.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast.  Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. 

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If you shop on Amazon, you can use this link, and we will get a small percentage of everything you buy! Don’t worry, this money is coming from Amazon, and you will not pay any extra, and you’ll help us out along the way!

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Feb 01, 2017
81: Communicating About Sex And Affection
45:11

Mike Domitrz is one of the leading experts for transforming our sexual culture to one being built on consent and respect. For over two decades, educators, military, families, colleges and individuals of all have sought out Mike and his impactful programs and speaking engagements. You may have seen him as the featured expert on Dateline NBC's "My Kid Would Never Do That." He is also the founder of the globally recognized "The DATE SAFE Project."

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 

  • Why you should not assume your partner wants affection.
  • The value of asking this about your relationship, "What would I ask for if I had no fear or judgement?".
  • How to communicate about sex in a relationship.
  • Changing the culture of sex negativity.
  • Treating your sexuality as a gift.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Jan 26, 2017
80: Online Dating And Attracting The Right Partner
46:01

Lisa Copeland is a leading internationally recognized expert and dating coach for women over 50. She is also the author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 on Amazon and is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post and The Huffington Post Women. Her website, FindAQualityMan.com was named One of the Top 5 Online Dating Service by The Examiner and One of the 10 Best Senior Dating Blogs by DatingAdvice.com. She hosts the weekly, You Can Find Love After 50 Show on Going Solo Network Radio.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 

  • How to set up an online dating profile that will attract the right kind of partner.
  • Why it's important to just 'observe' online profiles of potential matches and not 'create a story' of who that person is.
  • Why you cannot draw to you what you don't already have within.
  • Dating right after a breakup.
  • How to recognize the patterns of your failed relationships and fix them to create a successful relationship.
  • Exercises to discover the qualities that you truly want and need from a relationship partner.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Jan 19, 2017
79: Save It For The Morning
51:03

Amie M. Gordon, PhD, is a social psychologist who researches romantic relationships. For over a decade, Dr. Gordon's work has helped shed light on the factors that help and harm romantic relationships. Currently she is working at the University of California, San Francisco where she is tackling questions about the role of sleep in relationships.

Dr. Gordon's work has been published in over a dozen research articles focused on relationship topics such as perspective-taking, gratitude, conflict, sacrifice, depression and sleep. She also writes the blog, Between You and Me, for Psychology Today and provides relationship advice via short podcasts for Mindsail, a personal growth app.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 

  • The power dynamics involved in relationships.
  • Some of the most interesting findings Dr. Gordon has uncovered in her relationship research and how they can help you.
  • Why we stop seeing the good in a relationship and how to prevent this.
  • How sleep deprivation affects relationships and how to deal with a lack of sleep besides simply sleeping more.
  • How to focus on what you can do for your partner.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Jan 17, 2017
78: Evolved To Love
47:33

Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley and New York Times best-selling author. His books are available in 26 languages and include Hardwiring Happiness, Buddhas Brain, Just One Thing and Mother Nurture.

He edits the Wise Brain Bulletin and has numerous audio programs. A summa cum laude graduate of UCLA and founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, hes been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, Harvard and other major universities, and taught in meditation centers worldwide. His work has been featured on the BBC, CBS and NPR, and he offers the free Just One Thing newsletter with over 120,000 subscribers, plus the online Foundations of Well-Being program in positive neuroplasticity that anyone with financial need can do for free.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 

  • The evolutionary processes that make us have empathy and love for others.
  • Social brain theory and what it means for relationships.
  • Tuning into your body to become more connected and improve your relationship.
  • Recognizing the nature of your experience to improve yourself and your relationship.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Jan 12, 2017
77: Balancing Work, Kids And A Relationship
36:01

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 

  • The importance of creating ground rules for a working relationship.
  • Tools for couples who work together.
  • Separating areas of responsibility with your spouse.
  • Balancing work, kids and a relationship.
  • Managing your energy to help create a strong marriage or relationship.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Jan 10, 2017
76: Tools For A Happy Relationship
54:26

Tripp and Alyson Lanier have both made it their mission to help individuals improve their relationships and lives. Tripp is the host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp which has been listened to millions of times by men all around the world and is an iTunes top 10 podcast in the Self Help category.

Alyson has spent the last 20 years training and educating herself in the psychology of attachment and relationships. She is a counselor, mentor, teacher, coach, old world midwife and mother. Her training and perspective helps men and women get out of their own way and create the amazing relationships, families and sex lives they truly want.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: 

  • The top actionable tools for a happy relationship.
  • Understanding the unique ways to connect with your partner.
  • Valuable communication breakdown tools.
  • Getting on the same relationship team.
  • Dealing with when your expectations don't meet reality.
  • Taking responsibility for yourself in the relationship.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Jan 05, 2017
75: Improve Yourself To Improve Your Relationship
41:26

Daryl Cioffi and Jennifer Weaver-Breitenbecher are licensed psychotherapists who own a private practice (Polaris Counseling & Consulting) in Rhode Island. They specialize in general mental health, relationships, life adjustments, and overall wellness.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to improve yourself individually to benefit your relationship.
  • Correcting a lack of balance in your life.
  • How to have trust in your relationship.
  • Tools to help find meaning in your life.
  • Why you can only be as healthy as the most unhealthy person in your relationship.
  • The value of talking in front of a therapist as a couple.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Jan 03, 2017
74: Let's Talk About Sex
47:33

Dr. Diana Wiley is a licensed marriage and family therapist and board certified sex therapist. Dr. Wiley has been providing talk therapy to individuals and couples for more than thirty years with an emphasis on sexual issues and their effect on relationships.

People describe her as warm, knowledgeable, forthright and very caring. She is a wealth of knowledge and experience in the field of relationship therapy, particularly as a sex therapist.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to deal with mismatched sexual desires in a relationship. (#1 reason couples struggle sexually in relationships)
  • Reducing sexual anxiety in oneself and in a relationship.
  • The importance of sexual knowledge.
  • Sex to reduce headaches and why you should 'Just Do It'.
  • Communication skills related to your sexual relationship.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Dec 29, 2016
73: How To Make A Good Relationship Great
56:36

Charlie and Linda Bloom have been married since 1972. Trained as psychotherapists and relationship counselors, they have worked with individuals, couples, groups and organizations since 1975. They have lectured and taught at learning institutes throughout the USA, including the Esalen Institute, the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, the California Institute for Integral Studies, the Meridian University, John F. Kennedy University, the Crossings, Omega institute, the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology, University of California at Berkeley Extension Program, the Hoffman Institute and the World Health Organization. They have offered seminars throughout the world, including China, Japan, Indonesia, Denmark, Sweden, India, Brazil, and many other locations.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to make a good relationship great.
  • Why it's important to tell your partner why you love them.
  • How the depth of intimacy sets the good relationships apart from the great relationship.
  • How to create more depth of intimacy in a relationship.
  • Creating balance in your relationship.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Dec 27, 2016
72: How To Talk Politics
58:42

Daniel Ellenberg, PhD is a seminar leader, licensed therapist, leadership coach and conversation adviser. He is a principal in Rewire Leadership and co-founder of Relationships That Work. He is a board member of the Wellspring Institute of Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and is currently involved with two research projects: interpersonal courage in the workplace and the relationship between the traditional male role and emotional resilience.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to talk about politics in a productive manner with friends, family and other relationships.
  • The tools to have a constructive political debate that will not end in shouting matches.
  • Navigating the tough conversations you might have with those of opposing political views.
  • Moving forward in a positive direction no matter what your political affiliation.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Dec 22, 2016
71: What's Yours Is Mine, And Mine Is Mine
41:35

Laurie Itkin is a financial advisor and wealth manager at Coastwise Capital Group, an award-winning boutique money management firm in La Jolla, California, where she serves clients throughout the country. Through her separate company, The Options Lady, she serves as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and provides analysis of the financial and tax impacts of proposed settlement options being considered by divorcing couples.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Whether or not you should have separate or joint accounts with your partner.
  • The importance of communicating about your finances.
  • How to form the right financial plan for your relationship.
  • Financial infidelity and it's impact on relationships.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast.  Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. 

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If you shop on Amazon, you can use this link, and we will get a small percentage of everything you buy! Don’t worry, this money is coming from Amazon, and you will not pay any extra, and you’ll help us out along the way!

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Dec 20, 2016
70: 10 Signs You've Found The Right Partner
41:28

Justin Stenstrom is a nationally acclaimed life coach, author, entrepreneur and speaker. He is the founder of EliteManMagazine.com and the host of the Elite Man Podcast and The Justin Stenstrom Show on iTunes. Once anxious, insecure, depressed and unhappy, Justin has overcome many of life's greatest obstacles and loves nothing more than helping others do the same!

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Loving your partner unconditionally.
  • The importance of respect in a relationship.
  • Creating boundaries for your relationship.
  • Considering what is best for 'us' and not 'I'.
  • Determining if your arguments are productive.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast.  Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. 

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If you shop on Amazon, you can use this link, and we will get a small percentage of everything you buy! Don’t worry, this money is coming from Amazon, and you will not pay any extra, and you’ll help us out along the way!

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Dec 15, 2016
69: Why We Fight The Ones We Love
50:21

Erik Newton is a former family law attorney who describes himself as someone who has been through a thousand divorces and still believes in love. Erik has a unique, real-world comprehension of what makes one marriage thrive and another fall apart. Ultimately, his calling to help couples build healthy relationships superseded his legal career, and he is now podcasting and publishing an online magazine about relationships that you can find at www.together.guide.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How conflict in a relationship manifests in different ways.
  • Why we fight in relationships and how to prevent it.
  • Creating a mission statement for your relationship.
  • Moving away from the fight or flight mindset.
  • The importance of naming your feelings.
  • And much more!

We are excited to share the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives. We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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If you shop on Amazon, you can use this link, and we will get a small percentage of everything you buy! Don’t worry, this money is coming from Amazon, and you will not pay any extra, and you’ll help us out along the way!

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Dec 13, 2016
68: Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence
42:52

In today's episode we are joined by Dr. Debra Campbell. Dr. Campbell is a psychologist and author and has worked in private practice consulting on everything from panic to depression and parenting problems. For a number of years she worked as a couple therapist and university lecturer in marriage and relationships.

Prior to psychology, Dr. Campbell taught yoga and meditation, so mindfulness has always been a cornerstone of her work in mental health and couple relationship rehab. She was the Director of Hobsons Bay Yoga and Natural Health and Newport Yoga Centre for over a decade. Dr. Campbell's psychological research on couple relationship satisfaction, emotional intelligence and spirituality in mental health has been published in psychological journals in Australia and the USA.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How to be mindful and practice emotional intelligence in a relationship.
  • Tools to be present with your partner.
  • The importance of emotional intelligence for personal and relationship growth.
  • Tips and resources for meditation.
  • And much more!

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Dec 08, 2016
67: Treat Your Partner How They Want To Be Treated
36:52

In today's episode we are joined by Senior Chief Darek Laviolette US Navy SEAL (ret). Darek served 24 years of active duty, 9 combat deployments and received the Bronze Star with Valor. However, Darek's most proud work is helping men and women through rough spots in their marriages. His book A Seal to Heal Your Marriage helps with just that.

In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How Darek's experience as a Navy Seal helped him write his new book.
  • Treat your spouse how they would like to be treated.
  • How we can become blind to the things that need to be done to help fix a relationship.
  • And much more!

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Dec 06, 2016
66: Build A Deeper Relationship
31:22

On today's episode we welcome Shawn Schweier to the show. Shawn is a personal development expert specializing in Neuro-Linguistic Programming. He runs the largest active NLP community in Denver and is focused most on helping others create successful relationships.

He has been called the inner mind mentor and is a master at communicating, but he hasn't always been successful. Before he was in a place of loneliness and he had trouble communicating with others. This led him on a path of self-discovery. In uncovering himself he found the best version of him. He learned how to communicate in ways he didn't know were possible and this led to developing the most incredible relationships. Today he looks forward to business growth, travel, and finding the woman of his dreams.

In today's episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • Communication strategies for better communication with your partner.
  • Understanding your partner on a deeper level.
  • Accepting without judgement.
  • Communicating with your actions.
  • Practicing sincere awareness in your relationship.
  • And much more!

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Dec 01, 2016
65: Own Your Neediness
42:52

On today's episode we welcome Kyle Benson. Kyle writes at the KyleBenson.net, where he uses science and life experiences to help those in troubled relationships get the love, respect and passion they dream of.

In today's episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

  • How attachment styles affect relationships.
  • How to identify your attachment style.
  • How to deal with the anxious-avoidant downward spiral.
  • Tools to become more secure in your relationship.
  • How to own your neediness.
  • And much more!

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Nov 29, 2016
64: Know Your Deal Killers
46:04

David Essel is a business, relationship, and success coach, TV/Radio Host, author of 9 books and inspirational speaker. He has helped thousands of people from around the world achieve their greatest goals in every area of life from increasing their income to freedom from addictions, preparation for deep love, repairing relationships and more.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • Determining your relationship deal killers and why it's important for a successful relationship.
  • How to set boundaries and implement consequences if broken.
  • Why it's important to be clear on your values.
  • Determining the type of love you give and receive on the 'love scale'.
  • And much more!

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Nov 24, 2016
63: Love and Money
41:50

Scott and Bethany Palmer, The Money Couple, have dedicated their lives to helping others strengthen their relationships with the 5 Money Personalities. With 43 years of combined financial planning experience, they launched The Money Couple and are regulars on national TV and radio and speak internationally about love and money. Scott and Bethany enjoy an active lifestyle in Colorado with their two young sons, Cole and Cade.

In this episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • Determining your money personality to help avoid relationship conflicts.
  • How to deal with a partner with a different money personality.
  • The 5 money personalities: Spender, Saver, Security Seeker, Flyer and Risk Taker.
  • How to make a budget that works for both partners.
  • And much more!

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

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Nov 22, 2016
62: Understanding Your Relationship Boundaries
32:20

Join us as Steve Horsmon breaks down why it's important to hold onto your N.U.T.S (non-negotiable unalterable terms) both individually and within a relationship.

Steve is the founder of Goodguys2Greatmen.com, a company with the mission to educate, mentor and transform smart guys into confident, skilled and authentic men of purpose and passion.

In today's episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • How to determine your N.U.T.S.
  • How to cultivate self reliance for a healthy relationship.
  • Choosing your partner each morning to create more love.
  • How to avoid the cliche, "They are not the person I married."
  • And much more!

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast.  Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. 

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Nov 17, 2016
61: How to Save Your Relationship Featuring Dr. Julie Colwell
37:39

If you're struggling in a relationship, don't waste another day without listening to today's podcast. With the help of Dr. Julie Colwell, we outline all of the steps to find out if your relationship or marriage is worth saving and how to fix it if you want to work it out.

In today's episode we discuss relationship topics that include:

  • How to know when relationship problems are fixable or not?
  • The telltale signs of a stuck relationship or marriage.
  • Methods to shift from conflict and suffering to connection and flow.
  • The relationship between emotions and our bodies.
  • How to shift from a reactive brain to an open-focus brain.
  • And much more!

Dr. Julia Colwell, a Psychologist, teacher, relationship expert and author of Relationship Ride and The Relationship Skills Workbook.

We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast.  Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today. 

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Nov 15, 2016
60: What Should I Do After A Breakup?
35:09

Breaking up is never easy and can take a huge emotional and physical toll on people. Today we talk with Chris Seiter who specializes in helping individuals decide if they should breakup, get back together with their ex or simply move on.

Chris is the mastermind behind exboyfriendrecovery.com and exgirlfriendrecovery.com. Chris has been able to put thousands of couples back together through his knowledge and relationship guidance techniques.

In today's episode we talk all things breaking up. We answer these questions and more in our discussion. What do you do after a breakup? How do you decide if you should give your relationship another shot and get back with your ex? How long should you wait after a breakup to try to get back with your ex? Are some relationships not worth trying to save?

If you have experienced heartache or are thinking about breaking up with a significant other, consider listening to this episode today.


We are excited to announce the I Do Podcast Patreon campaign. Patreon is a website like Kickstarter or GoFundMe where you can support creatives! We started our page to help cover the costs of equipment, production and a babysitter to watch our one-year-old while we record! : )

When you contribute you will also get awesome exclusive benefits for our patrons. You can sign up to donate as little as $2 per month to support the podcast.  Any little bit helps! Sign up to support the podcast today.

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If you shop on Amazon, you can use this link, and we will get a small percentage of everything you buy! Don't worry, this money is coming from Amazon, and you will not pay any extra, and you'll help us out along the way!

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Nov 08, 2016
59: When the Past Affects Your Relationship
25:24
Dr. David Richo explains why the way we were raised and how our past experiences affect our relationships. Dr. Richo gives relationship advice on how to deal with our past both individually and with your partner. You will lean the tools to examine your past and the past of your partner to improve your relationship or marriage.

Take note of the 5 A's - Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection and Allowing, and how they will help you work through your past and build a strong relationship or marriage.

Today's episode is brought to you by Audible.com. Get a free audio book by signing up for a FREE 30-day trial at www.audibletrial.com/idopodcast

Check out our YouTube channel for post-show recaps and to see us live and in the flesh! 
Nov 03, 2016
58: Make Love, Not Conflict
32:16

Do you want more love and less conflict in your relationship? Learn how as we talk with psychotherapist and best-selling author, Jonathan Robinson. Listen to today's episode as Jonathan gives us the tools and practices to communicate well and create a strong relationship.

Learn about the Acknowledgement Formula and how it can help you understand your partner better and improve your relationship. Find out how pausing during an argument can help you better resolve conflict in your relationship. We all want to feel understood and to have our feelings acknowledged in our relationships. Listen to today's episode to learn how to make this happen!

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Nov 01, 2016
57: Fun Fall Dating Ideas For a Stronger Relationship Featuring Samantha Burns
35:41

Join us as we talk with the Millennial Love Expert, Samantha Burns, about fun ideas for fall dates, and why dating your partner is so important for a healthy relationship. Samantha is a licensed counselor and dating coach who works with couples and individuals across the country to provide relationship, marriage and dating advice. Samantha has been featured as an expert contributor on sites such as Huffington Post, Women's Health, Brides, Elite Daily and on media such as Inside Edition, Today Show and more.

Oct 28, 2016
56: Porn and Your Relationship with Dr. David Ley
41:18

Dr. David Ley provides valuable insight and advice on how porn can positively and negatively affect a relationship. 90% of couples never talk about porn use in their relationships. Listen to find out the keys navigating porn use within a relationship.

Oct 25, 2016
55: Are You Dating the Wrong Types of People? Learn More from Melissa Leger
51:42

Melissa is the author of the upcoming book, Gumball Love. We talk about how to filter out the bad guys or girls in dating and relationships. We also cover how to know if the person you are dating is right for you and much more! Don't waste your time dating the wrong people over and over. Listen and learn from our interview with Melissa. 

Oct 18, 2016
54: Darya Haitoglou on 6 Tips to Enrich Your Relationship
37:20

Join us as Darya Haitoglou shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Darya gives relationship advice on 6 Tips to Enrich Relationships in long-term marriage!

Oct 11, 2016
53: We're Back!
23:56

After a two year break, Chase and Sarah Kosterlitz are back - married and with a baby! Join us as we continue to share expert advice on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship.

Oct 07, 2016
52: Fiona Fine on How To Put The Fun Back In Dating
33:13

Join us as Fiona Fine shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Fiona gives relationship advice on how to put the fun back in dating!

As an Author, Speaker and Publisher, Fiona Fine is growing a movement for women (and the men who want to love them) to live and love on their terms. As the Editor-in-Chief of “Women Who Run It: Your Life - Your Love - Your Terms!” and the platform: “How To Put The Fun Back Into Dating”, she advocates for women who want to create their best life of love, work, passion, and... fun!

Oct 08, 2014
51: Marina Margulis Explains 10 Signs You're Ready For Marriage
37:12

Join us as Marina Margulis shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Marina gives relationship advice on 10 signs you're ready for marriage.

Marina is the founder and CEO of NY Socials. She is regarded as a top matchmaker and dating and relationship coach in New York City. She hold a professional Certified Match Maker certification from the Match Making Institute of America, as well as a Certified Professional Coach certification from Fowler International Academy of Professional Coaching. Through New York Socials, Marina offers a suite of high end dating services for members of the club.

Sep 18, 2014
50: Melinda Blau How to Make Your Spouse Listen When You Need to Talk
35:49

Join us as Melinda Blau shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Melinda gives relationship advice on how to make your spouse listen when you need to talk.

Award-winning journalist Melinda Blau has been researching, writing and speaking about relationships and social trends for more than thirty years. Her latest book, Family Whispering is the fourth book in the popular Baby Whispering series. She answers readers' questions weekly at "Dear Family Whisperer" on Huffington Post. A featured guest expert on Oprah, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, and numerous other national and local TV and radio broadcasts, Melinda's writing also has been honored by a wide variety of organizations including the American Psychological Association, the Children's Rights Council and the Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.

Sep 10, 2014
49: Teagin Maddox on 3 Ways To Get Over Your Ex & Not Get Sucked Back In
34:53

Join us as Teagin Maddox shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Teagin gives relationship advice on three ways to get over your ex and not get sucked back in.

As a graduate of The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching, Teagin is a Certified Life Coach, achieving her training from one of the top coach training programs in the country. As a result, her intense approach is unique and skilled, targeting core issues quickly and with purpose.

She teaches dating and relationship safety and breakup programs that incorporate money success and start over strategies for women of all ages, delivering powerfully effective communication strategies that help women recognize, avoid, and recover from relationships and money patterns that don’t serve them well.  She covers the issues of picking the right partner, personal empowerment, money success, and the art of creating personal, woman-centered businesses.

Sep 03, 2014
48: Darlene Lancer on Breaking-Up: Should You Leave Or Can You Get the Change You Want?
34:56
Join us as Darlene Lancer shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Darlene gives relationship advice on breaking up and whether you should leave or try to get the change you want.

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert on relationships and codependency. She’s the author of two books: Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You and two ebooks:10 Steps to Self-Esteem and How To Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits. Ms. Lancer has counseled individuals and couples for 25 years and coaches internationally. She’s a sought after speaker to national audiences on radio and to professional groups and institutions. Her articles appear in professional journals and many online mental health websites.

Aug 27, 2014
47: Cynthia James Explains Why Men and Women Think So Differently
26:55

Join us as Cynthia James shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Cynthia gives relationship advice on why men and women think so differently.

Cynthia James is a transformational specialist guiding people as they make changes for lasting healing in their lives. As a speaker, coach, performing artist and multiple award winning author of What Will Set You Free and Revealing Your Extraordinary Essence, Cynthia has coached and supported thousands of people worldwide into vibrant living. Her program,Advanced Awareness Coaching, offers depth, focus and results for high level business leaders. In 2014, Cynthia’s Extraordinary Living Project was selected to be a Commitment Maker by the Clinton Health Matters Initiative. She serves as minister in Special Ministries at Mile Hi Church in Denver, CO. Internationally, Cynthia creates and facilitates Inward Journey pilgrimage retreats. She has completed a Masters Degree in Consciousness Studies from Holmes Institute and Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica. In June of this year, she and her husband of 15 years Carl Studna, created and co-hosted, Bridging the Gender Gap Teleseries, with the focus on developing trust and understanding between men and women in all areas of life. Cynthia is personally committed to utilizing creative expression as a vital and effective healing modality that will assist everyone in their own personal and professional growth

Aug 20, 2014
46: Kaeli Conforti from Budget Travel on Budget-Friendly Romantic Getaways
30:36

Join us as Kaeli Conforti from Budget Travel shares her expertise on budget-friendly romantic getaways.

Kaeli Conforti is the Digital Editor at Budget Travel. She is originally from Queens, New York, and grew up in Hawaii and Florida before moving back to the Big Apple in 2011 to pursue an Editorial Internship with Budget Travel. Soon after, the internship became a full-time job, and she has been writing, editing and traveling the world as much as possible ever since. Her writing has appeared on BudgetTravel.com as well as the websites for CNN Travel, Fox News Travel, NBC News Travel, Yahoo Travel, and Huffington Post Travel. Some of her favorite places on earth are Machu Picchu, Lake Como, Dublin, Paris; and the Badlands and Black Hills of South Dakota, a truly underrated-but-beautiful part of the country. She loves Aussie accents, experiencing new things, and making friends all over the world.

Aug 13, 2014
45: Jennifer Chappell Marsh Explains How Couples Therapy Can Improve Your Sex Life
34:19

Join us as Jennifer Chappell Marsh shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Jennifer gives relationship advice explaining how couples therapy can improve your sex life.

Jennifer Chappell Marsh is a happily married Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  A native of Ohio who has lived in San Diego for over 10 years, Jennifer graduated from Ohio University and then completed her Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology in 2008. Since then, Jennifer has and continues to focus her skills specifically helping individuals and couples improve their relationships. Jennifer currently specializes in providing relationship therapy in her private practice. She has received advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and is in the process of her certification as an EFT therapist. Working primarily with couples (Couples, Marriage and Premarital Counseling), she frequently writes advice pieces for her website and has also been featured on various relationship sites including PsychCentral and YourTango.

Aug 06, 2014
44: Natasha Burton on Keeping the Romance Alive During Wedding Planning
30:30

Join us as Natasha Burton shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Natasha gives relationship advice on keeping the romance alive during wedding planning.

Natasha Burton is an author, freelance writer and editor whose work regularly appears in Maxim, Cosmopolitan.com, MSN and WomansDay.com, among other print and online outlets. The author of two relationship titles, 101 Quizzes for Couples and The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags, she's regularly called on as a dating expert by various media outlets around the world. She holds a Master's degree in creative non-fiction writing from the University of Southern California, where she formerly taught freshman composition, and lives in Santa Barbara, CA.

Jul 30, 2014
43: Esther Boykin on Making Date Night Work For Your Relationship
31:42

Join us as Esther Boykin shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Esther gives relationship advice on making date night work for your relationship.

Esther Boykin is a licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship expert who is passionate about helping people build healthier and happier relationships. She believes that meaningful emotional connections start by knowing and loving yourself. She is co-founder of Group Therapy Associates, a mental health practice in Northern Virginia, and together with her business partner hosts a free monthly web series called Q & A with GTA where they answer viewer questions on life, love, and parenting. Esther is passionate about making mental health and personal growth accessible and offers couples and individuals a variety of ways to work with her to reach their goals including, traditional therapy, relationship classes and coaching services.

Jul 23, 2014
42: Edward Callirgos Advises on Conflict in Marriage
37:48

Join us as Edward Callirgos shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Edward gives relationship advice on conflict in marriage.

Edward Callirgos is a Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist. Edward is a graduate of the Arizona State University Marriage and Family Therapy Program. He is an adjunct instructor at Mesa Community College and a Clinical supervisor at an agency for mandated clients and families. Edward specializes in high conflict couples and families who are questioning divorce or uncertainty regarding their relationship. He lives in Arizona with his wife and 3 kids.

Jul 15, 2014
41: Dr. Monica Mandell Explains How Ordinary Routines Can Bring You and Your Spouse Closer
36:01

Join us as Dr. Monica Mandell shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Dr. Monica gives relationship advice on how ordinary routines can bring you and your spouse closer.

Monica Mandell has a Ph.D. in psychology and has been the director of client services for Selective Search, a national, upscale boutique matchmaking firm since 2007. Her experience working for Selective Search, along with her psychology background, has led her to become a noted relationship expert in the Northeast. She is a regular featured guest on the Philadelphia affiliate stations for FOX, CBS and ABC.

Jul 10, 2014
40: Dr. Kate Roberts on The Three C's of Couplehood: Connection, Communication and Chemistry
30:26

Join us as Dr. Kate Roberts shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Dr. Kate gives relationship advice on the three C's of couplehood: connection, communication and chemistry.

Dr. Kate Roberts is a child and family psychologist and coach, with over 25 years of experience. She is a well-known expert in the field of families, including parents, couples and child psychology, and has published a number of articles in professional journals. Dr. Kate has done over 60 interviews with newspapers and the local television news affiliates of ABC, NBC and CBS. Most recently she has been interviewed by Parenting magazine, Parents Magazine, Boston Metro, Working Mother magazine and Disney Family.com.

Jul 08, 2014
39: Marc Zola Advises on Taming A Fight
34:25

Join us as Marc Zola shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Marc gives relationship advice on taming a fight.

Marc Zola is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Licensed Professional Counselor. The founder of Eugene Therapy, Marc specializes in treating anxiety, depression and relationship issues. He has a knack for identifying problematic patterns of thought and behavior that tend to keep clients stuck and considers himself a "directive" therapist who readily provides honest feedback to clients.

Jul 03, 2014
38: Jami & Marla Keller on How To Avoid Conscious Uncoupling
38:19

Join us as Jami & Marla Keller share their expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Jami & Marla give relationship advice on how to avoid conscious uncoupling.

Jami and Marla Keller are husband and wife and founders of Passion Provokers. Passion Provokers was created in 2011, after 24 years of working in the coaching field. They have refined their process so that 97% of clients get the healing necessary in order to have a conscious coupleship in 5-10 weeks. When they're not coaching, they're enjoying being "empty nesters" in beautiful Boise, Idaho.

Jul 01, 2014
37: Wyatt Darling on The Language of A Healthy Relationship
35:19

Join us as Wyatt Darling shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Wyatt gives relationship advice on the language of a healthy relationship.

Wyatt Darling is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles. He specializes in individual and couples therapy while also treating various sexual dysfunction and relationship concerns. He is an experienced clinician in the areas of LGBT issues, mood disorders, career aspirations and conflicting relationships. Wyatt’s goal is to guide people towards a better understanding of how to cope while dealing with challenging and painful barriers to finding success and establishing fulfilling relationships.

Jun 26, 2014
36: Mort Fertel Talks About The Marriage Fitness System
40:03

Join us as Mort Fertel shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Mort gives relationship advice from his Marriage Fitness System.

Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships and has an international reputation for saving marriages. In addition to working with couples, he teaches individuals how to single-handedly transform their marital situation.

Jun 24, 2014
35: Morghan Leia Richardson: Divorce Attorney on How to Save Your Marriage
27:16

Join us as Morghan Leia Richardson shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Morghan gives relationship advice on how to save your marriage by avoiding certain pitfalls.

Morghan Leia Richardson is a divorce attorney and mediator in New York City. She focuses on divorce and family law issues, such as Custody, Child Support, Father's Rights and Marital Property issues. Morghan received her law degree from Tulane Law School in New Orleans, and worked as an extern for Federal Magistrate Judge Louis Moore in the United States Court for the Eastern District of Louisiana. She was also a Managing Editor for the Tulane Maritime Law Journal. She is licensed in Maryland, D.C. and New York. Morghan worked for national litigation firms before starting her Queens-based law practice. She juggles her job as an attorney with her other job as divorced mom of two preschool-aged boys. Her firm is Richardson Legal PLLC and she blogs at The Divorce Artist.

Jun 19, 2014
34: Dr. Renée Peltz Dennison Explains Why Following Through With Household Chores is Everything!
37:31

Join us as Dr. Renée Peltz Dennison shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Dr. Dennison gives relationship advice on why following through with household chores is everything!

Dr. Dennison is currently an assistant Professor of Psychology at St. Mary's College of Maryland. She received her B.A. in Psychology from Kenyon College, and her M.A. and Ph.D. in Family Studies and Human Development from the University of Arizona. Dr. Dennison is an active member in the National Council for Family Relations, the International Association for Relationship Research, the Society for Research on Adolescence, and the Society for the Study of Emerging Adulthood.

Jun 17, 2014
33: Debra the “Dating Diva” Explains How Not To Be A Guys Next Dating Mistake
29:15

Join us as Debra the “Dating Diva” shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Debra gives relationship advice on how not to be a guys next dating mistake.

Debra the “Dating Diva” is an LA-based dating coach and author of How to Be a Man Magnet. When she’s not charming the men of Los Angeles, she’s helping women navigate the crazy world of dating and giving men the inside scoop on what women really want. Through being single, enjoying relationships, conducting research on the dating and relationship opinions and outcomes of men and women all over the country, she’s heard it all and wants to share what she’s learned with us.

Jun 12, 2014
32: Dr. Arthur Aron on The Science of Lasting Love
37:06

Join us as Dr. Arthur Aron shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Art gives relationship advice on how doing new and exciting activities with your partner will improve your relationship.

Dr. Arthur Aron is a Research Professor of Psychology at the State University of New York at Stony Brook and currently a Visiting Professor at UC Berkeley.  He received his B.A. and M.A., UC Berkeley and his Ph.D. Social Psychology from the University of Toronto. His research centers on the self-expansion model of motivation cognition in personal relationships, including the neural underpinnings and real-world applications of the model to marriage, family, and intergroup relations.

Jun 10, 2014
31: Ashley Davis Bush on Is Your Marriage Leaking?
34:02

Join us as Ashley Davis Bush shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Ashley gives relationship advice on leaky marriages and how to fix them.

Ashley Davis Bush, LICSW is a psychotherapist in private practice in southern New Hampshire with over twenty years experience in the mental health field. She is also the author of four self-help books, including 75 Habits for a Happy Marriage. She is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and hosts a radio show on webtalkradio.net called “Embracing Change.” Ashley is happily married and has a blended family of five (mostly grown) children and five pets.

Jun 05, 2014
30: Carmelia Ray Explains Three Things You Should Know About Dating A Divorced Person
29:57

Join us as Carmelia Ray shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Carmelia gives relationship advice on dating a divorced person.

Carmelia Ray is an author, speaker, matchmaking and online dating Expert. She is a certified IDCA dating coach. Carmelia is the chief marketing officer at Instant Chemistry, a bio tech company based in Toronto focused on genetic matchmaking. Carmelia has been working in the dating industry for over twenty two years. She has personally interviewed over 60,000 singles and helped over 7,000 clients with their search to finding someone special. She is the author of the E-book, “Finding the One: an A-Z Guide to Attracting and Keeping Your Soul Mate”, and a conference host to iDate; the largest internet dating and social media conference worldwide. She currently writes for Inside Fitness magazine, Your Tango, Plenty of Fish, Lavalife, Dating Advice & several popular online publications. She is also the founder of her own blog www.datingloveandsextips.com.

Jun 03, 2014
29: Gal Szekely on What Communication Style Are You?
38:02

Join us as Gal Szekely shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Gal gives relationship advice on communication issues and the different communication styles.

Gal Szekely is the founder of The Couples Center, a rapidly growing hub for relationship counseling and education. Gal has a lifelong dedication to learning and growth and is trained in a range of effective couples counseling methods. He is an instructor in the Hakomi experiential therapy method and is part of the Hakomi California teaching staff. His work draws on years of meditation practice and a deep understating of the body-mind connection. Gal also holds a master's in Social Psychology from Tel-Aviv University in Israel.

May 29, 2014
28: Sharon O’Hara on Sex Addictions and Your Relationship
34:39

Join us as Sharon O’Hara shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Sharon gives relationship advice on sex addictions and your relationship.

Sharon O’Hara, M.A. is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with 17 years of experience working with sex addicts/offenders and their families, spouses and partners. For the past ten years, Sharon has been providing specialized treatment for sexual addiction and sexual trauma in her private practice in San Pedro and Torrance and written a monthly Q & A column on Love & Sex for the addiction newspaper, Steps for Recovery.

May 27, 2014
27: Blair Glaser Answers the Question: Do Relationships Really Need To Be A Lot Of Work?
30:29

Join us as Blair Glaser shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Blair gives relationship advice on whether or not relationships really need to be a lot of work.

Blair Glaser is a writer, consultant, therapist and leadership mentor who assists in creating thriving teams and fixing broken ones. Blair's foundational experiences bring together a unique practice in which she has consulted with couples and individuals from all walks of life, as well as executives, managers, financial institutions and Mt. Sinai Hospital in New York. She has been practicing her unique blend of therapy and coaching for 15 years and has ran groups and workshops since 1998.

May 22, 2014
26: Richard Greenberg Explains Five Things Every Husband and Father Should Know
49:31

Join us as Richard Greenberg shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Richard gives relationship advice on the five things every husband and father should know.

Richard Greenberg is a happily married father of four and the author of “Raising Children That Other People Like to be Around”.  A native of Los Angeles, Richard graduated from UCLA with a Bachelor’s degree in English in 1976.  Shortly thereafter, he married his childhood sweetheart JoAnn, with whom he continues to happily parent their four children.  Richard has always been an analytical sort and keen observer, so after more than thirty years working in the entertainment industry and studying the dynamics of his own family, Richard wrote Raising Children that Other People Like to Be Around.  Richard’s book humorously and practically guides parents toward improved communication and a team focus by sharing his very male point of view and offering logical, common-sense guidelines for people creating their own families.  You can read more of Richard’s parenting tips, tools, and triumphs on his blog, Common Sense Dad.

May 20, 2014
25: Jasbina Ahluwalia Explains Five Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Relationship
35:51

Join us as Jasbina Ahluwalia shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Jasbina gives relationship advice on five ways you might be sabotaging your relationship.

Jasbina Ahluwalia is an attorney turned entrepreneur, happily married, second-generation, Indian-American Dating and Relationship Coach, Matchmaker and Radio Show Host.

May 15, 2014
24: Dr. Gail Gross on Why Doesn't My Spouse Want to Have Sex With Me?
40:59

Join us as Dr. Gail Gross shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Dr. Gross gives relationship advice on why your spouse or partner doesn't want to have sex.

Dr. Gail Gross is a nationally recognized family and child development expert, author and educator. Her positive and integrative approach to difficult issues helps families navigate today’s complex problems.

May 13, 2014
23: Jessica Nicklos on Getting Over the Fear of Online Dating
24:19

Join us as Jessica Nicklos shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Jessica gives relationship advice on getting over the fear of online dating.

Jessica Nicklos is the Matchmaker & President of Better Half Matchmaking, a highly personalized, quality matchmaking service for relationship-ready singles in South Florida. Jessica comes to the industry with extensive background experience in psychology, social media, communications and online marketing. She has a strong passion for love and relationships and enjoys spending her time helping others write their own love stories.  Jessica lives in Palm Beach County, Florida with her husband and their dog.

May 08, 2014
22: Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway on Interfaith and Intercultural Wedding Ceremonies
44:50

Join us as Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Rev. Laurie Sue gives relationship advice on interfaith and intercultural wedding ceremonies.

Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is a widely recognized as an expert on interfaith, intercultural, and highly personalized nondenominational weddings. She also specializes in helping couples and families manage wedding conflicts and reduce wedding stress.

She is author of 13 books, and New York Magazine lists her as one of New York's top interfaith officiants. A journalist for 20 years prior to her ordination, she began her career as an advice columnist for a local newspaper and has been called upon to share her insights on love, relationships, soul mates and marriage ever since.

May 06, 2014
21: Justin Bird Gives Relationship Tips on Whether or Not He's a Keeper
30:41

Join us as  Justin Bird shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Justin gives relationship advice on whether or not he's a keeper.

A native of Southern California, Justin Bird was an all-American baseball player in college before receiving his MBA from Chapman University. Single and dating, Justin’s lifelong habit of giving dating advice and being the go-to guy for both men and women with relationship questions led him to catch Patti's eye. This "guy's guy" has hobbies such as playing the acoustic guitar, fishing, exercising and listening to country music. His advice on the young, straight dating scene in California makes him a valuable asset to the Millionaire’s Club.

May 03, 2014
20: Dr. Mary Jayne Rogers on Tips for Dating a Signle Parent
34:22

Join us as Dr. Mary Jayne Rogers shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Dr. Mary Jayne gives relationship advice on dating a single parent.

Dr. Mary Jayne Rogers is an Exercise Physiologist specializing in whole-person wellness and fitness education and instruction. As an educator, Dr. Mary Jayne brings multi-dimensional wellness and fitness experiences along with a welcoming and genuine teaching style to inspire students and wellness enthusiasts of all ages.  Dr. Rogers is the owner of Profound Wellness LLC. As a wellness authority, Dr. Mary Jayne provides expert commentary for radio, television, and publications such as Shape and SELF magazines and the Wall Street Journal.

May 01, 2014
19: Adam Bornstein Advises Couples on Health and Fitness
35:33

Join us as Adam Bornstein shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Adam gives relationship advice on health and fitness with your partner.

Adam Bornstein is a New York Times best-selling author, and an award-winning fitness and nutrition journalist and editor. Named "one of the most influential people in health", Bornstein is the CEO and founder of Born Fitness. Previously, he was the editorial director for LIVESTRONG.COM and the fitness editor for Men's Health magazine.

Apr 29, 2014
18: Thea and Duane Harvey on What No One Tells You About Marriage
36:29

Join us as Thea and Duane Harvey share their expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Thea and Duane give relationship advice on what no one tells you about marriage.

Thea and Duane are licensed marriage and family therapists. Thea is a certified kundalini yoga and meditation instructor and life coach. Duane is a certified Imago Relationship Therapist and hypnotherapist with 25 years of experience helping couples. Together they offer workshops titled Tantric Couples Conversation: Bridging Intimacy. Thea and Duane are married and live and work in private practice in Santa Monica, CA.

Apr 26, 2014
17: Monique Boyd Gives You Tips on Balancing Friendship with Courtship
32:10

Join us as Monique Boyd shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Monique gives relationship advice on balancing friendship with courtship.

Monique Boyd is a Certified Relationship Coach and Matchmaker helping busy professionals find love and lasting relationships. She strives to help singles discover new ways of thinking, inspire them to pursue their dreams and help empower them to make better decisions in their lives. She is also a Certified Professional Astrologer and Spiritual Intuitive who uses these techniques to understand who you are on a soul level and matches you with like-minded singles accordingly.

Apr 24, 2014
16: Dr. Robert Jameson on How to Confront a Cheating Spouse
31:42

Join us as Dr. Robert Jameson shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Dr. Robert gives relationship advice on How to Confront a Cheating Spouse.

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. Robert C. Jameson focuses on helping clients understand and overcome issues, such as anger, hurt, depression, anxiety, love, relationships, boundaries and limiting beliefs, to name a few. During his years of private practice, Dr. Robert found it useful to give many of his clients "homework" in the form of handouts to support their work while in session. The Keys to Joy-Filled Living was born from his handout of tried and true exercises and techniques.

Apr 21, 2014
15: Doug Zeigler on If It Ain't Broke, Don't Fix It!
26:28

Join us as Doug Zeigler shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Doug gives relationship advice on why you shouldn't try to fix your wife when she's not broken.

Doug is a husband, a father of four, a tech and video game geek. He writes from the Good Men Project and the Huffington Post. In his rare spare moments, he enjoys good books and even better beers, exploring new things, places and food with his wife and Kentucky basketball. He also possesses a vast knowledge of 80's music that he hopes will pay off big at some random trivia night.

Apr 18, 2014
14: Justin Kelly McClure Explains Why Acting Like A Kid Can Help Your Relationship
28:56

Join us as Justin Kelly McClure shares his expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Justin gives relationship advice on Why Acting Like A Kid Can Help Your Relationships.

Justin Kelly McClure is an author, comedian, certified health and nutrition coach and runs a website called OnlineDatingCritic.net. We love Justin's opinions on bios: The worth of someone is decided on the content they create, not what's announced in a biography.

 

Apr 16, 2014
13: Marni Battista on 4 Ways to Make a Long Distance Realtionship Work
27:41

Join us as Marni Battista  shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Marni gives relationship advice on How to Make A Long Distance Relationship Work.

Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity, has professional training in dating and relationship coaching, as well as training in the Core Energy Coaching Process from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching. A certified Life Coach through the International Coaching Federation, Battista is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment—“The D-Factor”—which helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are or are not "date-able" and what types of messages they unconsciously broadcast to men based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes.

Apr 14, 2014
12: Dr. Deborah Hecker on How to Divorce-Proof Your Relationship
28:40

Join us as Dr. Deborah Hecker  shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode, Dr. Hecker gives relationship advice on How to Divorce-Proof Your Relationship.

Deborah Hecker, Ph.D. is a psychotherapist with over 35 years of private practice experience. She received her Master’s Degree from Columbia University and her Ph.D. from The Union Institute. In addition, she is certified as a psychoanalyst and has extensive training in the following areas:  addictions counseling, grief counseling, collaborative practice and mediation.

Apr 10, 2014
11: Dr. Tina Tessina Explains How to Never Fight Again!
29:58

Join us as Dr. Tina Tessina  shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship. In this episode Dr. Tina gives relationship advice on How to Never Fight Again. Below are some of guidelines she talks about in the interview.

Guidelines for Not Fighting

  • Don't Participate
  • Discuss Recurring Problems
  • Seek to Understand (Tell Me More!)
  • Solve if for the Two of You
  • Talk to Others
Apr 07, 2014
10: Sandy Malone from TLC's 'Wedding Island' Advises on Your Destination Wedding
33:10

Join us as Sandy Malone shares her expertise on destination weddings.

Sandy Malone is the star of TLC’s reality show “Wedding Island” and a regular blogger for The Huffington Post.  She’s the owner of Weddings in Vieques, a successful Caribbean destination wedding planning company based on tiny Vieques Island, seven miles off the coast of Puerto Rico. She also owns Weddings in Culebra, Flowers in Vieques and Boutique in Vieques.

Apr 03, 2014
9: Dr. Pepper Schwartz Explains The Secrets to A Happy, Long Term Relationship
27:59

Join us as Dr. Pepper Schwartz shares her expertise on creating a fulfilling and successful relationship.

Dr. Pepper Schwartz is a sex and relationship expert and has written 16 books on the dating habits and sensuality of couples and singles. She earned a BA and MA from Washington University in St. Louis and an MA and PhD in Sociology from Yale University.

Apr 01, 2014
8: Rachel Dack on Love At First Sight. Is It Real?!
30:48

Join us as Rachel Dack shares her expertise on creating a successful and fulfilling relationship.

Rachel Dack is a licensed psychotherapist, nationally certified counselor and international best selling author who is passionate about helping others achieve positive well-being and partake in healthy, satisfying relationships with others. Rachel offers psychotherapy for individuals, couples and families in her downtown Bethesda, Maryland office. Rachel also serves as a relationship coach for adults who are looking for love and would like support with dating, intimacy and relationship building.

Mar 27, 2014
7: Damona Hoffman on Thinking Twice About Inter-Faith Marriage
35:22

Join us as Damona Hoffman shares her expertise on creating a successful and fulfilling relationship.

Damona Hoffman is an LA based dating strategist with an international client base. Her prior career as a TV casting director gave her insight into the importance of personal branding which led her to meet her husband online in 2003. Since that time she’s used her unconventional dating strategy to help many singles meet their spouses online too. In 2013 she was tapped to create a series of live workshops with Match.com to help their users improve their online dating results which will be expanding into a nationwide initiative in Spring of 2014. Damona is also thrilled to be named as a finalist for iDate’s Best Dating Coach of 2014.

Mar 25, 2014
6: Dr. Greg Cason of Bravo TV's LA Shrinks - 'How To Train Your Man'
29:53

Join us as Dr. Greg Cason shares his expertise on creating a successful and fulfilling relationship.

Dr. Greg Cason is a licensed psychologist in Beverly Hills specializing in cognitive therapy with individuals and couples. He has his undergrad from UCLA, Masters from California State University and PhD from University of Houston.

Throughout his more than 15 years as a licensed psychologist in California, he has treated several hundreds of individuals and couples, exceeding the 10,000-hour mark doing therapy.

He writes a Q&A column for the LGBT community on ShoutOutHealth.com, has been featured on the Tyra Banks Show and Extra. You may also know Dr. Cason from the hit Bravo TV show, LA Shrinks.

Mar 21, 2014
5: Kimberly Seltzer on Keeping It Fresh By Dating Your Partner
30:29

Join us as Kimberly Seltzer shares her expertise on how feeling great on the inside and out leads to a successful and fulfilling relationship.

Kimberly Seltzer LCSW is an Image Expert, Therapist and Dating Coach based in Los Angeles. Kimberly is the owner of Elite Image Makeovers providing an inside out approach to helping her clients look and feel their best through her skills as a seasoned therapist and an image consultant

Mar 19, 2014
4: Dr. Guy Winch: Is Success Causing Tension in Your Relationship?
32:58

Join us as Dr. Guy Winch shares his expertise on creating a successful and fulfilling relationship.

Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, keynote speaker, and author whose books have already been translated into fourteen languages. His most recent book is Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries (Hudson Street Press, 2013). The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem (Walker & Company) was published in January 2011.

Mar 17, 2014
3: Christina Steinorth Powell on Becoming Financially Compatible With Your Partner
31:24

Join us as Christina Steinorth Powell shares her expertise on creating a successful and fulfilling relationship.

Christina is the author of Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships. She is a Licensed Psychotherapist in private practice and a Board Certified Diplomate of professional counseling (IAMBCP). With an office in beautiful downtown Santa Barbara, Christina holds a Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and graduated in the top three of her class from the fully accredited Phillips Graduate Institute of California.

Mar 14, 2014
2: Jonathon Aslay Explains How Long You Should Wait For Your Man
35:38

Join us as Jonathon Aslay shares his expertise on creating a successful and fulfilling relationship.

 

Jonathon Aslay, of Understand Men Now, is a dating and relationship expert and defender and protector of woman’s hearts around the world. He has helped woman transform from attracting Mr. Wrong into finding Mr. Right.

Mar 14, 2014
1: Dr. Margaret Paul on the Importance of Loving Yourself to Improve Your Relationship
18:18

Join us as Dr. Margaret Paul shares her expertise on creating a successful and fulfilling relationship.

 

Dr. Margaret Paul is a bestselling author, popular Huffington Post writer and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing process, and the related SelfQuest® self-healing software program - recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. She has appeared on numerous radio and television shows, including Oprah.

Mar 14, 2014