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Crystal
 Mar 11, 2019
My husband and I have been listening to your show for a few weeks now. We love it! It gives each of us a different perspective on how the other one feels and why. We are learning so much together. It's very helpful. Thank you!

Anthony
 Sep 18, 2018
I listen with my wife very informative and entertaining.

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Sex podcast to help committed couples keep it hot! Find hope to keep your marriage and committed relationships emotionally connected and sexually erotic. Certified sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson is joined by global leader in couples therapy - George Faller, LMFT for an expert, frank and fascinating conversation about sex, love, therapy, relationship dynamics, healthy couples and marriage. We discuss everything from best sexual techniques and solving sexual problems, to building the emotional intimacy necessary for great sex in your relationship! Two therapists bring you sound, concrete tools to reframe your relationship problems and learn how to fall in-love again, rebuild trust, and feel desire. Subscribe to us today!

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348: Overcoming Critical Body Image Thoughts
2174
In our world with its focus on physical perfection, we all have aspects of our body which we criticize, and even avoid looking at in the mirror. These critical thoughts can intrude before, during, and after sex, diminishing our ability to be in the moment with our partner. We talk through this thorny issue as an example of how to begin to address it with your partner. Check out our sponsor: Uberlube for the best in siilcone-based lubricants! As George says, silicone makes everything is a little bit better. Get 10% off with the coupon code 'foreplay'! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 13, 2022
347: Oral Sex -- Do you want it and your partner doesn't?
2107
Oral sex - you like it. You don’t like it. What works. What doesn’t work. Laurie and George talk about it all. They role play a couple who gets stuck in retaliation - if you don’t go down on me; I won’t go down on you. Then, they demo how a couple might talk to help each other work through their difficulties with oral sex. For a great hands-free vibrator, go to dameproducts.com and use code FOREPLAY today for 15% off site wide. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 05, 2022
346: Sex--Hit or Miss?
2127
Sometimes sex is awesome; sometimes not. This episode shows you how to turn up the heat when it's not! Thanks to our sponsors: BetterHelp.com/Foreplay for 10% off your first month! Uberlube.com - Foreplay rated as the best lubricant! Use the coupon for 10% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 29, 2022
345: She Needs to Get Ready; He Needs to Get Going
2115
She needs more foreplay and he doesn’t wanna lose his erection. Women need a slow patter of arousal to reach the best climax. Men when they’re on sildenafil (viagra, etc.) need to use their erection - soon. This is a familiar dilemma for couples in their 50s. George and Laurie role-play a couple who learns how to talk about this problem. Check out our great sponsors: Foriawellness.com/foreplay or use the code foreplay at checkout for 20% off your first order! These oils help improve your orgasm ladies...You'll thank me later! North Texas EFT -- If you are a psychotherapist, come down to Texas to have face-to-face training time with George and Laurie as they train about sex and attachment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 22, 2022
344: Stop the Toxic Sex Cycle: Blame and Forget
2255
Libido is shared between the couple. The pursuer afraid of being rejected, almost starts every initiation with an edge of criticism. So the sexual moment starts the partner off without even being given much of a chance at feeling desire. In our case example, she’s not turned on because she hears the edge and then she’s blamed.  On the flip side is a lack of engagement. The withdrawer can nearly erase the whole idea of sex because it’s safer. But unfortunately this sends the purser a message that they don’t care. And send the pursuer the whole responsibility for the sexual relationship. Thanks to our sponsors: Uberlube.com Uberlube.com with the coupon Foreplay for the slipperiest, safest silicone lubricant I've been recommending for 2 decades! For delicious tasting, convenient meals go to GreenChef.com/foreplay135 for the #1 Meal Kit for Eating Well and $135 off the first 5 meals! Delicious! Dameproducts.com and enter code FOREPLAY today for 15% off site for Aer -- the suction vibrator and their hands-free couple toy Eva! Keep it hot baby! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 15, 2022
343: The Cycles - What's It All About?
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In most of our episodes, we use the emotional and sexual cycles to bring coherence to the issues that plague committed relationships. We wanted to explore and summarize the emotional and sexual cycles in one condensed episode. Many couples feel like they are facing unique, specific troubles, when the reality is, these relational upsets are all manifestations of the underlying sexual and emotional cycles. A clear understanding of how these cycles power your relational upsets provides an avenue for hope and change; rather than dealing with hundreds of different issues, you and your partner can team up to clarify the cycles and understand your partner better.   Please check out our sponsor Foria! Their Awaken Arousal Oil and Intimacy Sex Oil (both with CBD) help relax you and heighten your orgasm and sexual pleasure. Laurie recommends these great products and you can get 20% off your first order by going to Foria’s website and using the coupon code Foreplay.   Attention all therapists! Join Laurie and George in North Texas August 12 & 13 for a 2-day training on integrating sex therapy and attachment theory. We’re tired of Zoom meetings and are so excited to be with colleagues in person to train and have fun! Go to www.northtexaseft.com/upcoming-events or click the link below to find out more. Great Love Great Sex for Couples- Integrating Sex Therapy and Attachment Theory Training for Therapists Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 08, 2022
342: We're Sexless. My Partner Never Wants to Do It Again
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There can be so much disappointment even shame when a couple is in a sexlessness marriage. Couple can tune out and shut down their need for flesh on flesh and over time it gets harder and harder to get back. They don’t know how to repair or even talk about normal failure and so they ignore the failures. This doesn’t happen just with aging. It’s people who resign themselves to not talking about it and both withdraw. George and Laurie talk about how to get back in bed! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 01, 2022
341: Should You Keep Sex Secrets?
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Laurie and George define secrets as issues, fantasies or alliances that block connection. We certainly have a right to privacy and sometimes our private erotic thoughts makes our world sexier and makes us more available to our partner. Certainly some people choose and open marriage but they do it with… openness. we think talking about your fantasies or actual affairs with your a partner while incredibly difficult makes it possible for YOU not to be carrying the guilt of a secret that you find unethical and against your promise.  Sponsors: Uberlube -- Go to Uberlube.com with the coupon 'Foreplay' for 10% off! Bluechew - BlueChew.com, promo code Foreplay to receive your first month free! Dame Products -- DameProducts.com with the coupon 'Foreplay' for 15% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 24, 2022
340: Losing Attraction - How to get it back!
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“I’m just not attracted to you anymore.” - OUCH!!!I Sounds like a showstopper doesn’t it? But Laurie and George have hope for you to get it back. We use our favorite acronym BEST SEX Conversations - to explore why people might lose attraction for the partner they’ve committed to and some ideas about getting it back. We go through the primary areas of sexual attachment from a holistic viewpoint to discover what is causing lack of attraction. Then we offer ways you can feel the gas - how to increase the turn-ons! and then we talk about ways to release the brakes on the things that turn you off. Sponsors: Bluechew.com - promocode FOREPLAY for your first month free Foriawellness.com/foreplay or use the code foreplay at checkout for 20% off your first order,  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 17, 2022
339: How a Man Can Be Sexually Confident
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Confidence is essential for a great relationship. But how to you grow in confidence if you've lost it or never had much of it? Confidence is the end result of a string of successes. We discuss moves you can make to help yourself -- and your partner -- build their confidence by how you interact, particularly in the difficult conversations. Learn new moves to help you be successful -- and grow your confidence. Check out our sponsors: Blue Chew -- use the coupon code 'foreplay' to get your first month free (with only $5 for shipping)! Manscaped -- the Performance Package 4.0 is here! Great grooming products for 'down under'! Coupon code 'foreplay'. Uberlube -- Our favorite silicon lubricant to make everything smoother! Use coupon code foreplay for a discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 10, 2022
338: Details of Sex
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Most of us grew up not talking about sex. But the more detailed you get, the more power you can have to change things. Go play-by-play and have more choice and agency about shaping your experience and connecting with each other. One woman’s grimace during oral sex or another person’s turning of their head during sexual intercourse send messages to their partner that in our example are indeed misinterpreted. Knowing exactly what happens - the detail- helps the couples discover what is really going on. A look, a certain touch, a sigh may turn us on. Or these very same actions can be misinterpreted We can get triggered into the negative cycle. Join Laurie and George as they talk about getting down to the nitty-gritty details when you counsel someone or when you communicate with your partner. Sponsor: BetteHelp.com/FOREPLAY for 10% off your first month of therapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 03, 2022
337: Flattery
1978
Everyone wants to feel desired certainly. But the research shows that for women - being desired, hearing their partner's verbal admiration and open "want" - is very important to their turn on. When men are dating they instinctively know how telling their partner how sexy they look, sending flirty messages, giving their partner longing looks - tells her she's hot! George and Laurie talk through the shut down to this process and encourage men to go for it again. #couples #eft #sexpodcast #marriage #desire #secureattachment Sponsor: BetteHelp.com/FOREPLAY for 10% off your first month of therapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 27, 2022
336: How to Talk About Intimate Touch
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Touch is vital for intimate communication. We learn so much with touch - pleasure, safety, exploration and curiosity! So often we don’t put it into words and then we find ourselves in intimate relationship with a partner without really explaining what we need and want. For instance, tickling may be fun and erotic or triggering. There are lots of ways me might miss each other in the conversation but Laurie and George explore people’s reservations and offer ideas of how to communicate about intimate touch better. #EFT #Couples #Marriage #Sex #SexPodcast #SecureSexualAttachment Best Lubricant - Uberlube.com/Foreplay for 10% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 20, 2022
335: Good-Enough Responding To Stay Sexually Attached
2023
We’re talking about good-enough responding - responding to our partner in ways that keep us connected even when we disappoint them. Think about when a withdrawer finally comes forward; while their pursuing partner may long for whatever they’re offering, the same pursuer most likely feels doubt and mistrust about the sincerity of their withdrawing partner or the evidence that this is a start of a change pattern. George is so confident that mistrust is going to be present at this stage - he calls it a natural part of the change process. So of course - the pursuer doesn’t reward their withdrawer with success for initiation and guess what? - the withdrawing partner backs away. Fail. But what if there were a way to find a secondary target, a secondary path to stay connected. George and Laurie discuss how you can target a lesser but important target (other than true responsiveness); you can give permission for you partner’s defensive/protective move - you can let them know it makes sense to you. As hard as it seems to do, validating your partner’s defense actually helps them feel seen by you and keeps you in connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 13, 2022
334: Spicing Things Up
2027
Wanna spice it up? What have you fantasized about doing? It takes vulnerability to tell each other about ideas for novelty and change. Are you willing to risk? Laurie and George talk about how couples choose to spice things up - ways that novelty can be gas petals or brakes for different couples often dividing the couple themselves. Porn, gummies, alcohol, vibrators, handcuffs, feathers, etc… and other toys might add to arousal or block connection! Knowing that you’re gonna have a glass of wine, you’re gonna loosen up, you’re gonna feel less inhibited…. some of it is simply the ritual, the getting ready, looking forward to a bit of change that can create a little fun. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 06, 2022
333: Something Better Than Nothing?
1923
Is it worth it to accept something that your partner wants to give you sexually instead of holding out for what you really want? Is something better than nothing? Laurie and George use a tried and true EFT principle called "slicing it thinner" - find a way to help your partner get closer to what you want without them losing themselves or feeling compromised. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 29, 2022
332: Laurie invites her girlfriends for a private talk!
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Would you just love to go for a walk with Laurie and talk about sex? Well, on this episode, L invites all of her girlfriends out there to talk about all the stuff - hacks to conquer menopause, how to use a vibrator and what to do if his erection fails. Join in for some girl talk! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 22, 2022
331: Q&A Partners Wanting Sex For Themselves
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The million dollar question! (for pursuers) how do you get someone to pursue their own pleasure. In our Q&A, Laurie and George see a reader’s point. For so many  reasons it works better when your partner is engaged sexually - they supply desire that fuels the sexual fun, it’s a turn-on to see your partner in uninhibited abandon plus it takes the pressure off from always having to initiate. But there’s a flip side that is often dynamic.      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 15, 2022
330: Six Modes of Sex
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  Lovemaking, maintenance sex, icebreaker sex, the 5-minute window, RED HOT sex, and scheduled sex - all have their merits. Compliments of our friends' blog @thehappymarriageau, George and Laurie riff on these six modes of sex - what they're good for, what the drawbacks are and how connected relationships might make use of all of them.   Please follow @thehappymarriageau and us as well on insta @Foreplay_radiosextherapy. And find some fantastic lube at Uberlube.com with 10% off using our coupon "Foreplay." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 08, 2022
329: Red Light; Green Light, Brain Regulation for Better Sex
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Keeping connected is easier when we're in green brain - when our brain says we are safe, cared about and even loved - when we can relax, talk, listen with openness.  Red brains are escalated, tense, maybe angry or in total shut down.  Listen to George and Laurie talk about pulling a partner in red brain into the calm connected place where sex and connection can happen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 01, 2022
328: Sue Johnson Talks Sex!
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FOREPLAY welcomes Emotionally Focused Therapy, founder Dr. Sue Johnson to talk with us about George's driving and the sexual cycle. We laughed together about their early relationship and more seriously about George asking for help after 9/11 with the couples he was seeing and Sue's generous response.  Sue gives us a keen example of a uber sexual pursuer and how his needs for attachment drive him even thought his behavior pushes his partner away. Listen up to our discussing with someone who has changed the world with her theory and life's work! For an EFT Therapist or to purchase her bestselling books LoveSense or Hold Me Tight - contact Sue's organization: ICEEFT.com   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 24, 2022
327: Withdrawer Vulnerability for the Win-Win
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Listen to this emotional episode to to help the withdrawers in your life. Trained to suppress emotions, withdrawers have decided early in life - it's is not okay to have needs. Their nervous systems don't trust because in the past people haven't shown up for them. Even if their pursuing partner are longing to be close and cover them with their love, their hearts believe others are not safe or dependable. George and Laurie think about the actual words that withdrawers might say when they finally reach out to their waiting partners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 18, 2022
326: World of the Withdrawer
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Withdrawers in relationship are steeled against the three waves that come for them... first, they do it wrong for their pursuing partner, next it's their fault for withdrawing and third, they really are nothing after all.  Can you see why it makes sense not to engage? If all you get when you engage with your partner is ultimately the knowledge about being not good enough, maybe unloveable - it's soo much better to stay distant.  Laurie and George talk about the different strategies that withdrawers use to stay as far away from failing as they can. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 11, 2022
325: Getting Pursuer Needs Met
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We want to help pursuers get what they need and then take it into their hearts when it finally comes their way. We know there can be mistrust when a withdrawer at first tries to understand and meet the pursuer's need. Your longing for attention, engagement or sex has left you in fear of always feeling this way.  It makes sense that when your withdrawer starts to come forward that you would have serious doubt about their intentions and authenticity.  But Laurie and George want to set up both partners for a better reconnection.    Please support our sponsors: Uberlube.com/FOREPLAY for 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 04, 2022
324: The World of the Pursuer
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This is George and Laurie's love letter to those pursuers out there! We see how hard you work. Male or female, sexual or emotional pursuer. We see your good intentions. We see your longing for your partner. We know you are working hard at doing it right and often are only criticized when you blow it. But we are sending love and encouragement. Hang in there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 25, 2022
323: Fairplay Before Foreplay
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George says the value of my hour is equal to the value of your hour! Laurie says if there are big inequities in responsibility between couples - there's gonna be big problems in the bedroom! Hear G and Laurie exclaim over how important it is to get FAIRPLAY before FOREPLAY is possible. We know so many couples fight about this and we know it's so important to straighten this out in order to keep the bedroom hot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 18, 2022
322: Keeping It Married and Hot!
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We promise fidelity in marriage - a promise of an erotic life with our partner. So what gets in the way? Why do people joke that marriage is where sex goes to die? George and Laurie believe facing the discouragement that couples might feel, is better than settling for low engagement. They explore how men and women may stabilize each other and destabilize each other at different points - in the emotional and sexual cycles. It's complicated and George and Laurie dig in!   #couplescounseling #couplestherapy #vulnerability #marriage #anxiety #foreplayradiosextherapy #sextherapy #withdrawer #lovequotes #marriagetherapy #EFT #couplescounseling #marriageadvice #insecurities #intimacy #communication #sex #sexuality #coregulation #marriagecounseling #pursuer #attachmenttheory #EFTtherapist #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #couples #secureattachment #pursuerwithdrawer #attachment #emotions   Please help support the podcast by purchasing the best lubricant out there - Uberlube.com/Foreplay for 10% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 11, 2022
321: Q&A - Can't Orgasm With Intercourse, Partner Rejection, Accepting Herpes
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Our Q&A - What happens when you can’t orgasm during intercourse like you used to?  George and Laurie come up with many different ideas about what might be happening and techniques to help our listener. A listener doesn’t think Laurie gets hookup culture and why orgasm isn’t always the focus.  Here’s to a deeper look at what people might be looking for.  Heartbroken over her partner’s rejection due to herpes, we help a listener come to terms with what she needs to do.  Please support us at the podcast and get slippery, slick sex by using Uberlube.com with the coupon Foreplay for 10% off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 04, 2022
320: Escape Old Sexual Scripts for More Erotic Freedom - With Dr. James Hawkins
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We all have scripts that have been handed down. Our families have told us how we are to behave sexually. Gender roles proscribe the way we should act in the bedroom.  Our culture tells us what makes us valuable in sex.  Let's examine these scripts instead of just unconsciously following them.  Free yourself from scripts that might have outlived their purpose! Welcome special guest - Dr. James Hawkins from the postcast: The Leading Edge! Please check out Uberlube.com/Foreplay for the slickest, slipperiest sexual experience.  And support the podcast!       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 28, 2022
319: Cracking the Nut - How to Breakthrough the Hard Shell Around Your Partner
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Are you tired of having the same fight over and over? Would you like to discuss things without triggering your partner. Can you imagine that underneath your partner's defense lies a hurt and even below that a need? George tries to help make it simple, in a nutshell there are three parts to how we react in a conflict - our protection, our hurt, and our need Together Laurie and George make sense of defensiveness and role play a different way to reach each other.   Please find the best lubricant on the market @ Uberlube.com/Foreplay for 10% off!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 21, 2022
318: Desire After the Wedding Cake – Is Marriage An Anti-Aphrodisiac?
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What happens to sexual desire after marriage? Everything can change! Men are usually sexually consistent throughout the dating process and marriage. Women, on the other hand, are statistically more likely to switch from sultry to celibate after the wedding cake digests. Even women who were sexually engaged throughout the dating process can fizzle out once they embrace married life. For husbands, the switch can be confusing, and so in this episode, we will try to iron out a bit of that confusion by digging into what it is about marriage that dampens sexual desire.  Research concludes that in dating and early partnership, what secures a woman emotionally is male sexual desire.  Women rely on this primal sense from men that creates a feeling of being wanted. As far-fetched as it sounds, in early partnership, the man’s relative emotional availability is not meaningful in making her feel secure. What makes her feel secure is his sexual desire for her. In short, male desire drives female desire, but unfortunately, desire also has enemies. While it’s easy to blame marriage, the byproducts of marriage–time and togetherness–are the real villains. Listen as we talk about the real reasons for the shift in desire after marriage! “Being desired is the best sexual orgasm for women.” – Meredith Chivers, Canadian sex researcher Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 14, 2022
317: What Does An Orgasm Feel Like? Tips for Talking About the Big 'O'
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What does your orgasm feel like? An orgasm is so powerful – It’s almost indescribable!  In this episode we talk about how to put words to it! And give you tips on how to talk about orgasms with your partner. Laurie and George also open up about what their own experiences are like… Practicing what we preach – VULNERABILITY! If your partner asked you to describe how an orgasm feels in your body, could you do it? Would you do it?  It's difficult to find the words to describe the feeling and to explain what the body experiences during sex. Sex is, after all, a non-verbal language. However, that doesn't mean we should resign to remaining non-verbal about sex. Working through the discomfort of such an intimate conversation can improve the quality of our sexual encounters and, subsequently, our romantic connections. If you're ready to talk about the big O, we have 5 open-ended questions you can use to keep the conversation flowing smoothly while improving the emotional connection you have with your partner.  The conversation isn't meant to put pressure on either of you. The ultimate goal of sex is pleasure and connection, not orgasm. Instead, it's intended to open the door to communication. It's a way to explore how orgasms work and don't work while encouraging intimacy. As the saying goes, "communication is lubrication." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 07, 2022
316: How and Why to Talk About Our Sexual Past
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A person’s sexual history is profoundly revealing. Those who have attempted to discuss sexual histories with their lover know the conversation can elicit different emotional reactions. It can be awkward to ask your partner about their past or have your partner ask you about your sexual past, but the outcome of braving such a conversation is stronger intimacy. Join George and Laurie as they get beyond numbers and into curious questions. Find success in discussing sexual histories, learn about your partner's accelerators and brakes. Caveat: use caution if your partner is a jealous person. Please checkout the best lubricant on the market: Uberlube.com with the coupon code FOREPLAY for a discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 31, 2021
315: Closing The Orgasm Gap
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Not fair. Women have less orgasms than men; Laurie and George talk about the disturbing stats. Why is this happening? Do men still not know how a woman gets aroused and reaches orgasm?   Are we as parents and a culture teaching young women and men about what a female bodies might need?   Women are socialized to give instead of to get. And men are more shaped to get what they need. George volunteers that women also need "fairplay" not just foreplay.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 24, 2021
314: Pain Points – How To Heal Attachment Injuries Together
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How do we heal the pain created by reaching for our person and finding they aren’t there? We’ve all experienced hurt and disappointment in relationships. When a healthy attachment is present, the pain is acknowledged, and you move past it together. However, when there’s an attachment injury, the process of moving forward is blocked... Dr. Sue Johnson defines an attachment injury as a “feeling of betrayal or abandonment during a critical time of need.” If our lover isn’t there for us in those moments or doesn’t show up, it’s incredibly painful, and our bodies are smart enough to avoid future pain.  The pain we experience in these moments is sent to our limbic system. In response, our limbic system releases stress hormones, alerts our amygdala to danger, and embeds a message in the hippocampus that says, “Do not depend on this person again.”  The good news is that it’s never too late to heal an attachment injury! The body and the brain stand outside of time. Our bodies hold memories, and we can go back to them and heal them now. While you can’t change what happened, you can change how you feel about what happened, which can change everything.  Let’s talk about HOW to heal these attachment wounds… together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 17, 2021
313: Are You A Good Kisser?
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Let’s talk about all things smooches! Types of kissing, “good” and “bad” kissers, what a kiss means to you… Labeling someone as a “good” kisser implies a one-size-fits-all technique, but in reality, we don’t have good and bad; we have compatible and non-compatible kissers. Kissing is a matter of preference, attraction, attunement to your partner, and perhaps even genetics. Once we become sexually active, we often throw kissing into the foreplay category and give it little thought, but kissing can be the end game. Kissing doesn’t always have to lead to sex! Kissing can be exciting, and my challenge to you is to let it stand alone. Spend a day making out with your partner and explore how that feels together! Communication is, not surprisingly, key when it comes to kissing. Does your partner prefer wet kisses or dry kisses? A hot and heavy makeout or soft and slow caress? Do you like to be touched while kissed? Where and how? The bottom line is that you don’t know what your partner wants and they don’t know what you want unless you talk about it. When we explore kissing with our partner, we learn to dance together, and we learn to enjoy the kiss! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 10, 2021
312: Forbidden Dark Places – Shame & The Sexual Cycle
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Shame and disgust are heavy words that inhabit dark places, but we can't avoid dark places if we want to experience the highs a relationship can provide emotionally and sexually. The power of shame is in secrecy. We don't want to show our shame. We don't want to be rejected, so we lock away parts of ourselves and pray that no one sees us. The irony is that the antidote to shame is connection and empathy, gifts we can only receive when we allow others to see us.  Within the sexual cycle, shame takes many forms. We might feel shame over what we've done, over things that have been done to us, or over our desires and fantasies. Many feelings of shame and disgust are rooted in our childhoods (or trauma). If one partner brings up a new sex act and their partner has a huge reaction of disgust, it can create deep shame for simply bringing it up or even disgust at one's self for having "such" ideas, further fueling the shame cycle. So how do we close the gap and find attunement within this mismatched experience? The answer is communication. Listen as Laurie and George roleplay and show you how to have these conversations with your partner – with safety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 03, 2021
311: All The Feels – Sharing 5 Primary Emotions with Your Partner
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Let's talk about five primary emotions: joy, fear, anger, sadness, shame, and disgust – feeling all of them is important, especially with your partner. Emotions are the language of the body. They say, "pay attention, something's happening!" But so often we don't pay attention, choosing, consciously or unconsciously, to disconnect... We may have been raised in homes where anger was expressed in an unhealthy way, joy covered by a wet blanket, or shame used to control and manipulate our behavior. Regardless of how our childhoods taught us to relate to emotions, we can rewrite the script by creating healthy emotional attachments and responses. While there are many tools we can use to do that, in this episode we're going to talk about co-regulation and co-creation ("CoCo.") And learn how to share and navigate emotions together. If your loved one is excited, you match their excitement. If your loved one is angry, you honor their anger. Co-regulation is not co-dependency. Co-regulation does not say, "I feel happy only if you're happy." It says, "You feel happy, and I'm happy for you." Co-regulation allows the witness to be there for their partner while also honoring their own emotions. Most of the time, people don't understand the emotion they're in, and they need someone to support them in a curious and non-judgemental way. Co-creation allows partners to act as witnesses for each other. By asking questions and being present, the witness can help the emoter explore and deepen their understanding of their feelings. Listen to learn how to apply 'CoCo' to your relationship and create positive shifts in your emotional and sexual cycles!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 26, 2021
310: The 3 Roads of Connection – Is Your Relationship On the Right Path?
2220
Let's use the 3 road analogy to discuss the sexual and emotional cycles: the High, Middle, and Low Roads. Research highlights the importance of navigating all three roads for relationship success. The question is, how do we navigate them? We’re putting all the pieces together in an exercise that will challenge your relationship and open the door to communication. Balancing the High, Middle, and Low Roads within your relationship will require a conversation that isn’t for the faint of heart. In your relationship, attempting such a pointed conversation will probably come naturally if you are the Emotional Pursuer. If you’re a Withdrawer, channel your inner Simon Cowell while expressing what you need to feel safe within the conversation. After all, clarity is kindness.  Listen to hear our 5 exercises that will engage you and your partner, and explore how each of you show up in the relationship! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 19, 2021
309: Script For A Sexual Breakthrough!
2065
EFT (or Emotionally Focused Therapy) walks couples through a de-escalation process, but what sets EFT apart is Stage Two. The second stage of EFT focuses not on “what’s wrong” but on making things right in the relationship. Laurie and George celebrate as Laurie becomes certified in EFT and both thank Dr. Sue Johnson for the amazing gift of this therapy model! In sex therapy, we discuss emotional patterns, but we also understand the interdependency between sex and emotions. One isn’t more important than the other, and when leveraging patterns to create lasting change, the sexual cycle can’t be ignored. When the sexual pursuer learns to communicate from a place of vulnerability, the withdrawer feels a release of pressure that allows them to draw closer to the pursuer, which is ultimately what they both want... In stage two, couples learn to replace the negative cycle with a positive cycle. They create “new moves.” The “new move” script in this episode is about compassionately sharing and accepting each other’s needs. By integrating these new moves into your relationship through better communication, you can continue to grow in sex and love… Listen as Laurie & George talk you through a success script for addressing the sexual/emotional cycles in your relationship! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 12, 2021
308: 5 Sexual Initiation Styles – Which Turns You On?
2108
How do you initiate in the bedroom? ;) George and Laurie explore (and joke!) about 5 different initiator styles: Seduction, Touch, Emotional Connection, Sex Talk and Power Play. Which way do you like it best? Which way does your partner like it best? Does seduction begin with the way you drink your coffee in the morning like it does with Laurie? Are you missing each other because of a style difference? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 05, 2021
307: The Yin and Yang of Sexual Energy
1936
Both Yin and Yang are needed for our sex lives to flourish. Where do you fall on the spectrum? Partners in relationships can both be dominant in one type, but we most often see opposites attract.  When Yang dominates a relationship, sex can be passionate at first, but eventually, this gives way to dissatisfaction as the emotional component of the relationship is ignored. You might see resentment and frustration manifest toward the Yin partner and an inability to be vulnerable.  On the other hand, when there's too much Yin, the relationship is sexless. If there is no initiator, there is no sex. When sex does occur, it's described as "boring" as Yin lacks creativity and sensuality.  Combining Yin and Yang in the bedroom requires honoring our evolving natures. The balance of Yin and Yang is ever-changing because people are ever-changing. In the bedroom, that means honoring and asking, “Where am I now? Where is my partner now? What do I want now?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 29, 2021
306: Body Blocks – Moving Past Your Sensory Turnoffs
1945
Touch, smell, sound, taste, vision... Which senses cause you sexual "blocks?" Perhaps touch feels unnatural, painful, or irritating. Maybe you are self-conscious about the way you smell and aren't comfortable with letting your partner go down. Or maybe some sounds or things your partner says turns you off... Moving past these requires communication with your partner. Start by sharing your "blocks" with your partner. Explore what you don’t like, explore what you do, and share when you’re ready. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 22, 2021
305: "Still Face" In Bed – Rethinking Unresponsiveness
1859
Laurie and George discuss the 'still-face' experiments and how that shows up in the bedroom. Still face – a look on our partner's face that spells d i s c o n n e c t i o n!   Based on the seminal work by Ed Tronick, George and Laurie look at what this might mean when we see still face when we're making love to our partner.   We have to get curious about what is going on for the partner giving the still face. Could be their face actually is showing their performance anxiety, or going inward with their focus to try and get aroused. Maybe they don't realized that they've given their partner a message that they've disappeared.   For the partner observing, we understand it can be unnerving. Maybe it feels rejecting or maybe this partner worries that it's a reflection on their bedroom skills.   Listen as Laurie and George suggest ways to get curious and open up a conversation about still face.   Please support us and get us a 10% discount by using the coupon FOREPLAY at Uberlube.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 15, 2021
304: Love and Sex – How They Go Together
1918
Sex and emotions—there’s a delicate balance between the two, an overlap that can’t be ignored. Emotions can enhance sex or inhibit sex, and sex can enhance emotions or inhibit emotions. Borrowing concepts from the attachment theory, we dive into how sex and emotions intertwine by exploring the role of the Pursuer and Withdrawer... Great episode for EFTers – So important for therapists to know how to leverage the sexual attachment cycle in order to get change in the emotional attachment cycle and vice versa! While we don’t always fall neatly into a cycle, there is always a cycle, some level of interdependence. This interdependence can shift as patterns and is not concrete. A Pursuer can become a Withdrawer, or you might find that you were a Pursuer in an old relationship and a Withdrawer in your current relationship. The patterns are not your personality; they are a response to the complexity of sexual and emotional connections. Understanding yourself and your partner requires intention but a balanced connection is worth the effort.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 08, 2021
303: Sensual Moves from the Movies – 3 Hollywood Tips
1775
What can we learn from Hollywood about balancing sexual 'yin and yang'? In this episode, we'll focus on sensuality as a pure act of giving, and on the importance of balance between the yin (sensuality) and the yang (assertiveness) of sex.  Shifting from yang to yin asks us to unravel our unrealistic views of sex, and Hollywood occasionally provides the perfect how-to guide. Let's talk about three movies with scenes that perfectly capture yin sensuality... The movies we discuss all focus on men performing sensual acts for women – but ALL genders crave sensuality. A back scratch, a hair massage in the shower, an affectionate touch in the middle of the day, all of these efforts allow the mystery to unfold between partners. Focusing on the mystery is focusing on the journey – which is where endless possibilities unfold... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 01, 2021
302: How to Ask Your Partner for Variety in the Bedroom
2105
Want to explore new moves with your partner, but don't know how to ask? How can Pursuers approach and encourage their Withdrawer partner to open their mind to new things? Pursuers can get discouraged themselves after being rejected time and time again; They assume it is a hopeless attempt and stop trying, eventually resulting in pain, distance, and resentment. When we want variety or want to suggest something new to our partner, energy and enthusiasm can carry the day. When there is reluctance, a Pursuer needs to resist the wish to fall back and at least bring their heart and passion. On the flip side, the partner receiving the request can really support their partner’s vulnerability at asking, with encouragement and responsiveness.  Unfortunately, when a sexual Withdrawer is the suggester, it can feel like just a drop in the bucket compared to all that has been longed for.  Instead of receiving the new suggestion with grace and gratitude, it often becomes an opportunity for the sexual Pursuer to complain and feel disappointed. In order for Withdrawers to feel safe enough to initiate or try new things, Pursuers must acknowledge their effort and vulnerability – no matter how "small."  Pursuers – in order to open a conversation about sexual variety, ask your partner what THEY want and need, and tell them what YOU want and need. With your heart and deep vulnerability. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 24, 2021
301: The #1 Sex Life Destroying Habit & How To Fix It
2079
All of us have struggles communicating, and these struggles often seep into the bedroom. As sex and couples therapists, we often run into couples who avoid talking about sex and sexual needs. Instead, they defer to an avoidant-style habit that can be a sex life killer: making assumptions.  When we make up stories about our partner, it kills the curious drive that creates sexual magic. When we assume our partner knows what we want, we forfeit the possibility of getting our needs met.  People make up stories and assumptions for understandable reasons. They do it to avoid embarrassment or vulnerability. They do it because they don't want to hurt their partner, make them feel insecure, or because communication wasn't received well in the past. But no matter the reason, we can't stop trying. The cost of not sharing is so much worse! Let's talk about some practical solutions to breaking the habit of assumption, and talking explicitly to get better sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 17, 2021
300: The Shared Trauma of 9/11
1643
Where were you on 9/11? We all remember. It's been 20 years. Most of us were stunned, watching the twin towers fall, but George was with the FDNY rushing to Ground Zero, following his training, following his instinct to get people out of there. Listen up as he shares about the worst of times -- the horror of the day and months to come, searching for people who were still alive and finding none. And the best of times -- the support and love that people poured out to the first responders, to their neighbors -- the cohesion of a community and a nation united. "There's value in pain if we face it with others." -- George Faller Today, we honor George and all the first responders who ran toward the danger. We send gratitude and peace to Kathy Faller for watching her young husband leave in the midst of chaos, not knowing what would happen and for holding down the fort afterwards. To both of them, we celebrate that in the midst of fear, they could turn towards each other and find comfort. G - we love you! Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing with us. #20YearsLater #911 #FirstResponders #NeverForget #SendingRespect #PrayingForYourPeace #LieutenantFaller #28Truck #BraveHearts #343FireFightersGone #HarlemHilton_Manhattan #HelpingCouples #SueJohnsonTrainsGeorge #DoctorLove Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 10, 2021
299: Vulnerability Can Spice Up A Boring Marriage
2025
Couples who find themselves stuck in the boring and mundane are often couples who have failed to be vulnerable. George uses a three-road analogy to explain why some couples remain in mediocracy. The High Road—the road of great energy, great sex, vacations, and excitement. The Middle Road—the grind of everyday life. It’s doing the dishes, mowing the lawn, and cooking dinner. The Low Road—relationship depth. It’s diving into deep conversations, sharing, and vulnerability. Failure in vulnerability reinforces our opposition to vulnerability and keeps us from exploring the Low Road. We perceive failure when we share with our partners, and they react by trying to fix us (yellow zone), blame us (yellow zone), or shutting down and saying nothing (red zone). Vulnerability contains a sense of danger. When someone is vulnerable, it's important to understand that they are already in the yellow zone. Every couple must face the dilemma of addressing vulnerability. When our fears and triggers arise, if we draw closer to our partners and see beyond our triggers, we can rebalance our relationships.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 10, 2021
298: Frustrated Pursuers–The Pain of Rejection
2027
We always talk about sexual Pursuers and Withdrawers—those who seek sex and those who withdraw from it. Because sexual Pursuers are usually the sexual initiator, they are often facing rejection. Over time they become anxious about initiating. For Pursuers, rejection goes beyond being told “no” when they make a sexual advance. Rejection also happens when they perceive or assume rejection. It may seem unfair but it feels true to the sexual Pursuer. Pursuers are prone to stories from others, past experience, and ideas they tell themselves about what they will happen if they ask for sex. The feelings created by potentially false assumptions are as real as the sting of actual rejection and can leave a pit in their stomach. Couples (Withdrawers and Pursuers) usually have opposite protective strategies which can create psychological, sexual tension and frustration from the negative cycle. How can Withdrawers seek to understand and help their frustrated sexual Pursuer? We’re breaking down 5 ways Withdrawers can protect their partner from rejection! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 03, 2021
297: When Does Sex Become Compulsive?
2043
It is believed that 3-6% of people in the U.S. struggle with sexual compulsion, all genders can be affected. Sometimes sexual activities become compulsive and lead to damaging pattern in people's relationships and work lives. Defining sexual compulsion is best done by identifying certain patterns and behaviors... Some of these include overindulging in porn, loss in interest in sex with their partner, having a "secret" life seeking seeking sexual activities elsewhere, the escalation of risky sexual behaviors, or neglecting responsibilities due to their sex addiction. It’s difficult for many to understand what drives a person into these behaviors, which are clearly antithetical to relationships and how love-making bonds us to our partner. How do we understand and begin healing sexual addiction? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 27, 2021
296: 4 Steps To Romantic Sex!
1971
We talk a lot about romance outside of the bedroom, but what does a romantic interlude look like? “I wish my partner were more romantic in bed” is a statement we often hear from women. “Are you kidding me?” is a retort we often hear from men. “I thought we were done with all the jumping through hoops after we got married.” While it is true that many men feel as described, it’s also true that both men and women appreciate romance and thoughtfulness in relationships. Bringing romance to a relationship will differ for everyone but based on our experience, there are 4 important elements for adding spice to the bedroom! Let's break down each of these steps! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 20, 2021
295: How To Talk About Sex While Grieving
2214
In this episode, we explore grief through the lens of sexual intimacy... For many couples, sexual intercourse is a safe space where they can be vulnerable, knowing that they can reach out to their partner and their partner will reach back. No matter what you are experiencing while working through sex and grief, the goal is not to force one behavior or another but to communicate so that you can return to that safe space when the time is right. As therapists, we often see clients who successfully navigate the emotional aspects of grieving while failing to address the sexual side of their relationships.  It’s not uncommon for us to work with couples who are not having sex. Often, those couples can trace the loss of intimacy back to a period of grief. It’s understandably a difficult position: How do you maintain a sexual connection with your loved one while honoring the grieving process?  Grieving is a complex topic. Sex is a complex topic. Talking about both may seem awkward – but for anyone in a relationship, the reality is, sex and grief will eventually converge. When couples are faced with the terrible loss of a loved one, this conversation can comfort and add to their security with each other when they need it the most.   In memory of Mary Louise Faller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 13, 2021
294: Red HOT—The Color of Attraction
1969
Q&A episode!!! We're answering a bunch of different questions from our listeners about the science of attraction, faking it, and how to bring sexy back! What does scientific research say about attraction and desire?? What visuals spark chemistry and the get the erotic mind flowing? Hint: Red is SEXY! Like our Foreplay colors ;) How can you bring passion back to the bedroom when you get a little too comfortable? Couples slip into habits... The key is being intentional, and building anticipation and excitement...  These questions... and more! Listen to Laurie and George answer YOUR Q's in this week's episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 06, 2021
293: It Takes Two to Tango!
1993
We often use the word "tango" in EFT in context of the cycles, patterns, or feedback loop that couples can get stuck in. How do you change that dynamic? To break free from the negative cycle you have to see the interdependency – it takes effort, vulnerability, and engagement from BOTH partners. Change can't happen without meeting each other halfway!  Pursuers and Withdrawers: What are some new moves to help you better understand each other's needs and strengthen your emotional and sexual bond? For both pursuers and withdrawers, acknowledging the attempts of your partner and making them feel heard and seen, is the key to changing the dynamic you are stuck in. You have to protect each other and always reward the vulnerability and risks of your partner!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 30, 2021
292: Healing After An Affair
1873
Affairs devastate the trust and connection in a committed relationship… Although healing after an affair is a delicate process and can feel impossible, we believe that recovery and reconnection is possible! What works best to restore the relationship and trust?  Acting out in an affair is often a sign of problems with the person’s life or relationship. A push/pull dynamic can fuel the infidelity… While sexual betrayal strikes at the very heart of commitment, marriages and partnerships can often emerge stronger after an affair. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller, LMFT as they talk about the causes and how to recover from the pain of infidelity... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 23, 2021
291: What Turns Men On?
1610
We’ve talked about what turns women on… let’s hear about men!! It might not be what you expect... We’re borrowing from Michael Castleman’s insightful research on male libido. Contrary to popular belief about what turns men on – a supermodel, beauty, lingerie… the research actually says there are much bigger, deeper factors. The #1 factor? Desire, feeling wanted. Let’s talk about some of the main factors that impact male libido... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 16, 2021
290: Turnons and Turnoffs
1584
All gas, no brakes!! We're using our acronym B.E.S.T. sex to talk about turn ons and turn offs. What works, and what doesn't work. Body, Emotional, Spiritual, and Thoughts... Use B.E.S.T. to be more intentional and find practical tactics to apply to your relationship. B.E.S.T. sex is all about attunement! When your partner knows what you like, what you need, and how to touch you, that's hot stuff! The best love is when you feel safe, safe enough to take risks and know you'll still be accepting. A big part of great sex is to keep growing together, and the best lovers are vulnerable. We've got some homework for you! Write down your turn ons and turn offs using the B.E.S.T. acronym and share them with your partner! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 09, 2021
289: Strengthen Your Erotic Mind
1410
How can you develop your erotic mind? The BRAIN is the best sexual organ we have! Engagement of the mind is important and developing eroticism can bring new energy into your relationship!  Fantasizing about and longing for your partner leading up to the experience itself, builds anticipation - a major turn on. The unknown, “what could happen next?” feeling, common in the dating phase, that can be so exciting. Fantasies fuel arousal; They are great bridges into the moment. Sharing these fantasies with your partner and exploring them together - opens a new door to vulnerability… “What do you like?” “What do you think about?” - Get specific! Reminder: It’s OKAY to fantasize, to let your mind wander… don’t judge your own thoughts, or your partners! Be open to vulnerability and use fantasies as an opportunity for connection. Strengthening your erotic mind will inevitably strengthen your bond and relationship.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 02, 2021
288: New Moves—For Pursuers and Withdrawers
1525
Do you feel stuck in the negative cycle? What's not working? Couples usually understand what’s not working, but not what they could do differently. It is difficult for pursuers to understand where their withdrawer partner is coming from... and vice versa. But you are not helpless victims to the negative cycle! There are things you can do; You can control own your new moves. You can learn new ways to approach your partner that recognizes their needs. In this week's episode, Laurie and George teach you new moves— for both pursuers and withdrawers!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 25, 2021
287: Hope For A Sexless Marriage?
1573
When someone is committed to fidelity and their partner absolutely does not want sex—is there any hope? Technically, sexless is considered less than 10x a year—but for some people, there is no sex. Sometimes each partner still has desire but they don’t know how to talk about it.  They may even masturbate on their own but feel it’s too complicated to share with their partner.  Sometimes the sexual pursuer just gives up and becomes a sexual withdrawer. The danger of a sexless marriage is that the couple may not feel the love of or for their partner and become subject to the temptation of others. They may long for the sexual connection they shared in the beginning; George and Laurie share some ideas about how taking their clothes off again can be safer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 18, 2021
286: What Turns Women On? Female Sexual Cues
1744
What sexual cues turn women on? Here’s a hint—interest is sexy! 32% of women lack sexual interest, according to a research study by Meston & McCall, “Cues Resulting in Sexual Desire for Women.” The study found that increased sexual cues resulted in increased frequency for females. In this episode, we’ll talk about the many cues that trigger a woman’s desire!  Female sexual desire has a more emotional component to it; Women are more externally triggered in relationship factors and setting; connection and presence. What kind of cues increase her desire? Let’s get specific. In this episode, Laurie and George break down the cues from the study: emotional bonding cues, erotic/explicit cues, visual/proximity cues, and romantic/implicit cues.  “Cues Resulting in Sexual Desire for Women” (Meston & McCall): https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2861288/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 11, 2021
285: Q&A: Sexual Crossroads—Breakthrough Or Breakup?
1947
In this episode, we’re answering YOUR questions!! We find that the questions can be repetitive because couples are struggling with the same sexual and emotional issues… Let’s talk about a common theme we hear from our listeners: Willing vs wanting. Couples find themselves at a sexual "crossroads" with two options: breakthrough or breakup. How can you avoid the latter and instead find an opportunity to connect on a deeper level both emotionally and in bed? People get separated and divorced… not because they don’t love their partner, but because the distance gets too great. The mistrust gets too great. They become stuck in the negative cycle.  But you can BRIDGE that distance and have a breakthrough with higher levels of engagement, more love, and better sex!  We love hearing your feedback! Ask us your questions on our website: www.foreplayrst.com/contact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 04, 2021
284: 3 Tools for Better Communication—Reflect, Evocative Response, Validate
1910
How can you better approach and communicate with your partner about your feelings and needs? Reflect, Evocative Response, Validate... In this week's episode, Laurie and George give you concrete tools and bridging exercises to build your connection and understand each other on a deeper level. R- Reflection - You’re telling me how sex makes you feel alive in your body.  E - Evocative response - Can you tell me also what you feel about me in your heart when we have sex? V - Validate - It makes sense that orgasm makes you feel merged with me and kinda one with the universe. Starting these conversations opens the door to vulnerability; The goal is connection, not to solve the problem. When you experience success in that communication, that feeling of connection is what will eventually allow you to solve the problem. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 28, 2021
283: Finding A Sexual Flow State—Merging As One
1969
Have you experienced a state of “flow” during sex? What is the correlation between flow and sexual satisfaction? A new research study by Jamea, E. N., McCaskill, L.A., & Needle, R. B. (2021) found that flow proved to be a significant positive predictor of both partner-focused and personal sexual satisfaction. In this episode, Laurie and George talk about how to find this sexual rhythm that will help you fall into each other, lose yourself in the moment, and merge together as one.  In general—how do we control happiness and contentment during sex? By entering the zone... Happiness requires a committed, intentional effort. When we become absorbed in a flow: There’s a distortion of time - losing track of time, getting caught up in the present moment A loss of self-consciousness and inner critic Have a beautifully synchronized experience Get in sync with your partner and have passionate, fulfilling, and BETTER sex! Check out the article and research by Dr. Emily Jamea, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC! https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/extraordinary-relationships/202103/can-you-experience-flow-state-during-sex  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 21, 2021
282: 4 Hot Techniques for Female Pleasure—OMGYES Research
1790
We are keeping HOT this week! Real talk about female pleasure and the clitoris… Discover new techniques to increase pleasure during sexual intercourse. Using research from OMGYES and Laurie’s sex therapist experience, we hear about techniques to try—both physical and psychological—to help your partner experience more pleasure. Women: FEEDBACK is important, so being vocal about what feels good or even showing your partner can help you have better sex and intimacy. In this episode, we’ll discuss 4 techniques from the study: angling, rocking, shallowing, pairing, and kegel squeezes!  Explore even more techniques with informative videos and graphics at OMGYES.com. Our listeners get a 10% discount with our link OMGYES.com/foreplay! Research by OMGYES gives insight into how women can increase their pleasure in vaginal penetration. In partnership with Indiana University and Kinsey Institute researchers, OMGYES has interviewed and surveyed thousands of people with vulvas about what’s made their pleasure better. Everybody is different—What works for you?  Finding out what works for other people can help you find NEW things that expand your pleasure.  THERAPISTS AND CLINICIANS: This has been such a valuable resource for us to use as sex and couples therapists! We highly recommend it for sex-positive educational purposes, PLUS certified nurses, clinicians and therapists get free personal access—so you can see whether you want to recommend it to clients! All you need to do is email your professional website/profile to therapist@omgyes.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 14, 2021
281: Anal Play - It's Okay If You Want It; It's Okay If You Don't
1963
Anal play, anal penetration, prostate stimulation or anal sex.  While we may feel squeamish about this subject - the anus IS an erogenous zone charged with sexual nerve endings. It's also a body part that from childhood that we've been taught is contaminated and dirty. We may even feel shame about the anus. Especially we might feel shame about our desire to include it in our lovemaking and then never talk to our partner about these ideas. We're not trying to get you to try anything you don't want to try. But George and Laurie are trying to get you to have a conversation about it. We want people to see the opportunity in these vulnerable conversations to share who they are. Even if you don't get what you want, there is something important about knowing yourself and knowing your partner better. If we protect ourselves and don't have these conversations, we ultimately have lower engagement in our partnerships. You can help us by patronizing our sponsors and the products we trust: Uberlube.com with the (-10%) coupon FOREPLAY for the most effective lube on the market! OMGYES.com for excellent instructional videos for female orgasms (doctors and therapists receive free membership by visiting foreplayrst.com) Manscaped.com/FOREPLAY (-20%) - get their new 4.0 Lawnmower! And Addyi.com for pharmaceutical help with female low libido.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 07, 2021
280: My Partner Won’t Go Down—How Do We Go On?
1974
Maybe you or your partner is uninterested in or uncomfortable with certain acts, such as oral sex.  Both men and women can resist oral sex. What’s holding them back? The turn off could be anything: smell, taste, self-consciousness, discomfort, cleanliness, or fear of failure. But most of these concerns can be mitigated by change!  However, some things may be off limits entirely and we have to understand and respect our partner’s boundaries… How do we grieve for sex acts that we want but just aren’t on the table for our partners? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 30, 2021
279: 5 Erotic Blueprints—What's Your Sexual Style?
1838
This week we’re talking about erotic blueprints. Like the 5 love languages—but all about sex! We all have different ways that we get turned on… Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and the Shapeshifter. Do you know your dominant style? When partners have different sexual styles, they can be on completely different wavelengths and don't understand what their partner wants. How do you get them talking about it and into flexibility, so that they can meet each other's needs? In a committed erotic life, you have to be willing to meet each other half way. Some of the time, figuring out what your partner's big turn on is and giving them that, keeps it exciting for both of you. How can we meet our partner in a different approach and learn to speak each other's erotic language? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 23, 2021
278: Erectile Dysfunction—Overcoming Anxiety with Vulnerability
2063
Erectile dysfunction is a common issue and can be caused by a number of reasons such as anxiety, age, medication, and physiological issues. The good thing is, ED is treatable!  Anxiety is perhaps the number one reason for ED. Oftentimes the pressure of performing can become overwhelming and cause a disconnect because they are unable to relax. With unrealistic expectations that come from porn and society, men can be harsh on themselves and worry that they aren’t a good lover. Men are hindered from being in the present moment because they are concerned about their performance and focused on the “end goal” being ejaculation. But what is the goal of sex and intimacy? Is it orgasm or deep connection? The goal is to focus on the love and the connection, not the finish line. Focusing on the connection without expectations can be an excellent anecdote for anxiety. If the goal is connection, there is a beautiful opportunity to use vulnerability to come alongside parts of each other that almost never get connection. When struggling with ED, men need reassurance from their partner and know that they will be loved and wanted regardless of the outcome. Learn to let your partner in during these moments and face those fears together, not alone. There is strength in sharing fears and overcoming them together.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 16, 2021
277: Overcoming Sexual and Emotional Blocks
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What are the blocks that keep us from each other?  Withdrawer blocks might look like taking space through laughing, walking away, or being too positive to avoid emotional pain. A sexual withdrawing block might be a headache or being busy.  A sexual pursuer block may be angry pressure trying to motivate change or wishing to wake up their partner and drive a sexual action.  Laurie and George show the way to see past the block.  You don't have to be perfect but you CAN get through blocks. Take George's challenge about what to do with the blocks from your partner! Thanks to our sponsors!!  Uberlube.com, OMGYES.com, Addyi.com and Manscaped.com - use our coupon FOREPLAY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 08, 2021
276: Longings Fulfilled—When Your Lover Loves You Back
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Does your partner feel just outside of your grasp? Are you longing for a deeper physical and emotional connection? Pursuers and withdrawers have different needs and fears that need to be heard and understood... What do you long for?  Fulfilling each other's needs and desires can bring you closer together, but you have to communicate and create the space for this to happen. Pursuers fear rejection and often feel like they're being "too much." They need to feel wanted and fought for. Withdrawers fear failure of "letting their partner down" which is why they are hesitant to engage. They need to feel acceptance and reassurance from their partner. You have to meet each other halfway... Pursuers—create safety by expressing your longing for both sexual and emotional connection to your partner. Be attentive to their needs and give affirmation of their feelings. Withdrawers—you hold a lot of power and being willing to initiate can go a long way. Meet your partner with excitement and reciprocate a desire for deeper intimacy. When the pursuers longings are finally met, it can be very healing for both partners. Enjoy the afterglow moment together! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 02, 2021
275: Online Dating—Finding Connection Beyond the Profile
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How can you navigate the world of online dating and find a partner with the qualities you’re looking for? How can you avoid wasting time on drama and ghosters and find people interested in a similar connection?  It’s hard to know much about a person by evaluating their online profile. Most profiles keep it surface level- their hobbies, career, favorite books, etc. But who are they really? What are their values? And what level of commitment are they looking for?  When you’re online dating with the intention of finding a partner and real commitment, it can be hard to decipher who is on the same page. And the “swiping” culture doesn’t help with clarity… Physical attraction can become the highest value and maybe you’re basing that first impression solely on their profile picture. Or maybe you’re only looking for casual sex, no strings attached. What’s important is being clear and upfront about your intentions and what level of commitment you’re looking for! Without communicating this, somebody could be hurt. Authenticity will prevent things from getting lost in translation and save everyone’s time.  Online dating can be tricky… and putting yourself out there can be a little scary! So, when you set up your online profile, ask yourself: Who am I? What do I need? What qualities are important to me in a partner? What kind of commitment and connection am I looking for? And then, make those values very clear on your profile.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 26, 2021
274: How to Have Hot Makeup Sex—Minus the Fight!
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Why is makeup sex so hot?! Emotions are so raw in the moment… and anger can be arousing! The passion is mutual and therefore, even hotter! Energy is high, inhibitions are low, and both partners are present. Distance is created when fighting and the act of makeup sex literally bridges that distance. The most threatening part of a relationship is right before the makeup scene… the riskiness. Which is why the experience of overcoming those fears together feels even better. It’s the mutual affirmation that brings greater connection—which equals greater sex!  But how can we skip the fighting and distance altogether and still get this kind of passion in everyday sex?! What risks can you take together that will bring you closer? It’s about being present in the moment together… Maybe it’s going on a high-adrenaline date together like skydiving. Or meeting in a bar as strangers! Even taking emotional risks and revealing vulnerable parts of yourself can be arousing... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 19, 2021
273: Stop the Fight—How to Break the Negative Cycle
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Are you always having what feels like the same fight? Does the negative cycle leave you feeling frustrated and angry? Or misunderstood and like you're failing? Can you see what your partner does clearly but not see how what you do is contributing to the problem?   George and Laurie use and acronym T.E.M.P.O. to help organize your thinking so you can be less reactive. Getting to know your feelings, what your body is communicating and how you are making sense of it all can give you emotional intelligence. Find the "space" that can change the pattern so you can help each other in these difficult moments and stay connected. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 12, 2021
272: Secrets of Her Erotic Mind
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Let’s open the door to the erotic mind of a female…What do women fantasize about? What gets them hot? Not just fantasizing in the moment—but even daydreaming can be exciting. Our minds are designed to wander… Women often turn the switch “on” by thinking about old memories, fantasies, romance novels, movies, etc. These scenarios and thoughts tend to have more of a romantic narrative than men. There can be more emotional connection involved sometimes, but women also fantasize about being “taken” and respond to a man’s powerful, dominating sexual energy! There is no shame in whatever your fantasies may be, and it can be freeing to express those with your partner! If exploring those fantasies together increases your engagement and keeps you present in the moment—it’s a good thing! Creating the safety to have these conversations is a great start that will lead to a deeper connection.   In this week’s episode, Laurie shares her perspective on the erotic mind of women with George, and together they break down the themes of female arousal... Please support our sponsors: 10% OFF Uberlube.com with the coupon: FOREPLAY $20% OFF + Free Shipping on Manscaped products with coupon: FOREPLAY OmgYES.com/FOREPLAY Addyi.com/Foreplay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 04, 2021
271: Vulnerability—Why Do Men Have a Hard Time Expressing Emotions?
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Why do men struggle with expressing their emotions? Often they’ve spent much of their lives learning how to avoid feeling vulnerable at all costs—adhering to values such as toughness, assertiveness, logic, disciple, and confidence. They are trained to feel like expressing their emotions is a “weakness,” making them reluctant to embrace being vulnerable. How can we help men/ emotional withdrawers open up and be vulnerable?  As a partner, you can encourage vulnerability by creating safety. A soft approach is important to reassure the withdrawer that they aren’t doing anything “wrong.” Being too pushy can make the withdrawer more defensive and retreat. When initiating a conversation, it should be an invitation—not an accusation. Being vulnerable can take time... so pace it and celebrate the little wins! We want men/withdrawers to embrace the positive benefits of vulnerability to bring deeper intimacy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 26, 2021
270: 4 Female Inhibitions in Bed – How to Overcome Them
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What are some of the common sexual "blocks" that women experience? Reservations around the idea of sex can come from a number of things – religious values, guilt and shame, body image and acceptance, or society's perception of female sexuality. These inhibitions can shut down the erotic mind completely... How can females overcome these hindrances and develop a healthier relationship to sex? Listen to this week's episode as Laurie & George answer questions from fans! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 19, 2021
269: 5 Ways for Men to Get Their Mojo Back
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Pursuers become burned out after being turned down time and time again... This rejection causes them to lose their confidence and be more cautious. How can men get back their sexy confidence and energy that women crave?!  Great sex NEEDS communication! Pursuers have to change their relationship to getting feedback- welcoming it instead of perceiving it as criticism and pushing back.  Men need to champion themselves internally with affirmations- talk yourself up, you handsome devil! Take charge like a 21st century pirate- with communication and strong energy! Borrow some mojo from other roles in your life where you do feel confident and in your element! Fantasize about a different, more confident you...Rocky in the bedroom! The pirate, the caveman! Listen to Laurie and George talk about the ways that men can get their mojo back after being shot down... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 12, 2021
268: Sex on the Table: How to Respond to a Pursuer's Request
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When sexual pursuers make attempts to initiate sex, they are coming from a good place-- but their method of delivery may not be the best.   When their attempts are not reciprocated by the withdrawer, they can feel rejection, hurt, and anger. This is a major dilemma. Pursuers can come across as being critical of their partner if they don’t approach it in the right way. A soft or playful approach is best, and being vulnerable is key for both partners!   If the pursuer is brave enough to initiate the conversations, withdrawers need to respond better by matching their partner’s mood. But withdrawers also need affirmation in these conversations - How can sexual pursuers represent themselves and express their sexual needs without pressuring their partner? How can withdrawers listen to their partner and express their own feelings? Listen as George and Laurie keep going back to the drawing board in a roleplay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 05, 2021
267: The Gleam in Their Eye Makes Us Hot
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In early dating years our partner’s face lights up at the thought of sex, they tell us with their eyes that we make them hot. The gleam in their eyes hits our body, hits our center, hits our being.  Feeling that we light up their world is a turn-on! Secure attachment begins with the loving gaze of our mother or parent – cradled in the crook of their elbow – they smile and coo because we are theirs.  Later in childhood we know we belong and make our parents proud when we see it in their eyes… not so much for our accomplishments but because we are their son or daughter.  In romantic partnership, sexual desire that radiates from our partner’s face and gaze is a powerful reminder of belonging, safety. We revel in being the person who excites our partner. What happens though when our partner is willing to have sex but doesn’t give us that deep reassurance that we are desirable with a gleam in their eye? Can we get it back? How do we tell them what we need from them to turn on?  Listen as George and Laurie get through to each other about how sexual desire is tied to being the gleam in our partner’s eyes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 29, 2021
266: Anxiety is a Sex Killer - Gain Confidence with Playfulness
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Have you lost your confidence in bed? Anxiety is a sex killer. Whether it’s anxiety over your performance, being vulnerable, being naked, expectations of yourself, or of what sex is supposed to be like… any of these might interfere with pleasure, communication, self-esteem, and connection.   This week, EFTers, Trainer Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D. and Supervisor Michael Moran, LCSW, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, CST join George and Laurie to talk about how playfulness is the antidote to anxiety when making love! Join us, as four sex therapists&couples counselors share how to start with a light, playful mood to shift the energy. Breathe and be powerful in overcoming any root of anxiety in bed. Can’t beat the fun or experience present in this episode as these two experts teach and tell their stories about helping couples change their sexperience from fear to confidence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 22, 2021
265: Do You Have Sex on Her Period?
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How do you feel about having sex during your/her period? There can be a negative connotation to intercourse during a woman's menstrual cycle that goes way back in history. This interpretation of a woman being "unclean" when menstruating is outdated- it's a natural, healthy, and beautiful thing! Even the word "period" makes most men uncomfortable and a topic they tend to avoid. At the same time, women are often taught to not talk about their cycle and are worried about the shame aspect... This is an important conversation to have...often men and women both have some resistance to having sex during her period. But, sex is always messy!  We talk a lot about cycles, the pursuer/withdrawer, but how do couples see the menstrual cycle as their cycle? Not her cycle? How can it be something that they they do together and use this cycle to unite? They want to be there for each other when the other is down and not feeling so great... So wouldn't this also be a fantastic opportunity for vulnerability for couples? This is also a great time for non-sexual touching! Hormonal changes during this cycle can make you more sensitive and feel crappy...so maybe she needs more nurturing, comforting, or cuddling during this time! Is this a conversation you've had with your partner? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 15, 2021
264: Premature Ejaculation - How to Last Longer
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Premature ejaculation is very common, but also very treatable. It can be caused by a number of things such as performance anxiety, biological factors, early experiences with sexuality, or relationship issues. Sometimes it is related to the way that boys learned to masturbate "quickly" in their teenage years. Both men and women tend to have control over masturbating, but the body can be triggered too early with excitement or fear during intercourse. Things like pornography set up unrealistic expectations for sex and how long it lasts. When in reality, the average intercourse is about 8 minutes! Premature ejaculation averages about 1 minute. This can create certain expectations that men have for themselves which results in pressure and anxiety. This anxiety is often the reason for early climax. With sex, there can too much focus on orgasm, and not enough on intimacy! Being present and focusing on a deeper connection can help. In this week's episode, we'll talk about ways to overcome this problem! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 08, 2021
263: Sizzling Resolutions
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Jump into 2021 with a sense of direction for your relationship! Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about setting intentional relationship goals in 2021. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 01, 2021
262: Making the Most of the Holidays
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The point of the holidays is to share love and connection! It's also a great time to spur meaningful conversations! Set aside time to ask each other questions like: What’s your earliest Christmas memory? What is your favorite part of Christmas? What was your favorite gift? What was your worst Christmas and why? What was your best Christmas and why? The simplest of questions can lead to a deeper conversation. Sharing memories and stories can be a great tradition to start! What are some of your favorite holiday traditions? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 24, 2020
261: The 5 Love Languages of Christmas
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The holidays are busy for everyone! But you can't forget to make time for your partner... Let's talk about the 5 love languages and ways to express your love during the holiday season. Gary Chapman's five love languages describe how we receive and give love: -Acts of Service -Receiving Gifts -Quality Time -Words of Affirmation -Physical/Sexual Touch Do you know your love language? What about your partner's? We all want to feel loved and appreciated, but in different ways. We may be more responsive to certain love languages than others.  But, we need all five! If you put them all together, it gives room for major growth in your relationship. Little reminders can go a long way- simple things like helping wrap presents, taking over chores, sitting by the fire together and watching a romantic movie, telling your partner how much you appreciate them, mistletoe kisses or a massage! Listen to hear our suggestions on how to speak your partner's love language during the holidays. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 18, 2020
260: The Madonna/Whore Split
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Originally identified by Freud, the “madonna/whore complex” is the inability to maintain sexual arousal in committed, long-term relationships. It is the split between the softhearted and sexual currents in male desire. Freud wrote “where such men love they have no desire, and where they desire they cannot love.” Men want to keep the two separate- they desire a sexual partner who is sexy and promiscuous, while they cannot sexually desire the respected partner. Women in particular split themselves- whether it’s the all-giving, loving mother madonna or the fun, sexy party girl. It can be hard to merge the two! The difficulty when you're in a committed monogamous relationship, is this how do we let both parts of ourselves out? And how do we see both parts in our partner. The same applies to women and their conflicting desire for the “caveman/co-partner!”  Don’t settle for either/or! How can you have both? Sometimes this requires re-eroticizing your partner, taking risks, and rekindling the lustful side of yourselves. What Freud was missing was...you need secure attachment to make it work! In order to bridge the divide of how to feel safe while also bringing out that lustful side, you need clean ways of communicating that create safety in your relationship. That integration is the key!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 11, 2020
259: What To Do With A Hot-Tempered Man
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Women who have felt or seen their partner’s anger will not be able to feel his erotic vibe.  Sexual pursuers can become demanding when their partner isn’t responding to their attempts at intimacy. Their frustration can keep increasing and eventually boil over and become anger (COVID definitely hasn’t helped with impatience!) While anger can sometimes provide quick change in the short-term, it is not sustainable in the relationship long-term. In the long-term, anger can slowly disintegrate the relationship and feeling of safety.  Men and women can both be hot-tempered! However, an angry man can unconsciously frighten a woman by his intensity, strength and size. For a man, moving out of a place of silence into a place of speaking and expressing your feelings is important - the manner in which you do this is more important. Even if you have no intention of physically acting on your anger, it may shut down your partner’s sexy feelings. Hear what Laurie does to respond to a roleplay of George’s anger by 1) not responding in kind 2) being firm and 3) removing herself when the anger reaches the point of abuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 04, 2020
258: Variety - To Spice Up The Bedroom
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This one comes at you fast! George and Laurie talk through a variety of sex acts that couples choose to liven things up. No judgements just a curious exploration of what might turn a monogamous couple on and why. With lots of laughter, they talk through where to do it, what you might try, how to reduce some anxiety when trying new things - everything from sexual positions to taking control to role play. If you’d like to receive the list Sexual Variety for you and your partner to talk about - email us at info@foreplayrst.com Help us and join our contest to win from our sponsor Manscape a perfect package by sending us a screenshot of your review on iTunes!  Drawing on 12/4/20. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 27, 2020
257: Intersection of Emotional and Sexual Cycles
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How can you and your partner align your emotional and sexual cycles?  We can be on different planets sometimes when it comes to these cycles, but when they align with each other they are more consistent. Finding an intersection between your emotional and sexual cycles requires both partners to take risks. However, you may not recognize each other’s attempts!  Sexual pursuers often look for connection through physical touch...they are being vulnerable by initiating. They are trying to make repair without words, but the withdrawer may not see this attempt because they need words. The withdrawer may perceive it as their partner “only wanting them for sex” which can add to the pressure and make them pull away. The pursuer then perceives this as rejection to their attempt for connection. This miscommunication is what causes us to get lost in a negative cycle.  When the withdrawer takes a risk to open up sexually and lower their defenses, they are also being vulnerable. Again, flexibility from both partners is key; having the mindset of “let’s see what can happen…”  Sex can be a great repair; it can bring you closer together and help you get to a place of connection to then talk about hurt feelings and emotions with each other. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 20, 2020
256: Desire versus Willingness
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Can willingness replace desire? Are you wanting or just willing to have sex? Sometimes willingness can mean being vulnerable and communicating with your partner about your needs, anxieties, desires, and what you are comfortable with. Simply opening a safe space for conversation can make a world of difference. Both partners want to be heard and responded to simultaneously and that's hard to do when emotions are so prominent. Who is initiating vulnerability and bringing it up? If a withdrawer takes the risk to initiate a conversation or explain their anxieties, the pursuer needs to keep focus on the withdrawer. The way that the pursuer chooses to responds makes a big difference in the outcome. It's not a time to compare your pain, or feelings of rejection, because that will only increase the pressure and their sense of failure. Instead, listen to them, address their hesitations, and make them feel safe. For pursuers, it can be so frustrating when the withdrawer doesn't want to talk, so it's important to voice your appreciation for their vulnerability. Withdrawers, be open to taking a leap! Never force yourself to do something your body doesn't want to- but maybe use willingness as starting point, not desire. Be willing to make love in hopes that your body starts to respond. Take time for pleasure, the goal is to connect and be present with the person you love. Pursuers, this requires patience. Start with the understanding that it may not lead to sex or orgasm and be open to connecting in other ways. This takes off so much pressure for the withdrawer! A strong relationship needs both partners to be willing to be vulnerable emotionally, physically, and sexually. The goal is good enough or resilient sex. This requires lots of flexibility and adaptability! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 13, 2020
255: Mailbag! Unrequited Sexual Fantasies, When to Compromise and Being Vulnerable
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Mailbag!! George and Laurie answer questions from the Foreplay Fam in this week’s episode! They’re talking all about unrequited fantasies, compromise, and vulnerability. Sexual fantasies are extremely common; in fact only 4% of men and 14% of women report NOT having fantasies. A listener talks about a fantasy of an old lover and not being able to get it out of her head. While this one may be a block to emotional connection, fantasies can also be mined for good information about what turns us on. And some partners feel comfortable and like sharing their sexual fantasies as a way to grow learn and get aroused with each other. Sexual improvement requires vulnerability and willingness to talk about your sexual needs. Discuss with your partner what they are comfortable with and address any of their concerns. Compromise is important in any relationship. While we want people to feel respected sometimes we might do something for tour partner out of love in order to just make our partner happy. It’s all about communicating these things! Listen to this week’s mailbag episode now to hear more of your questions answered! Find our sponsors Uberlube.com and get 10% off with the coupon Foreplay as well as Manscaped ;) - the the "lawnmower" and other goodies for 20% using the code Foreplay!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 06, 2020
254: Low Libido Joe
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What should a woman think about a man who doesn't initiate sex much and doesn't even seem to want it?  She wonders if he's even attracted to her. Laurie and George explore his mind, heart and body's experience before, during and after sex to see what really goes on, what his secret fears and hidden insecurities are.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 30, 2020
253: Resilient Sex - The Female Sexual Pursuer
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What does resilient sex look like in a female? George and Laurie take another look at how a different woman - a sexual pursuer - might answer questions about her experience pre, during & after sex for her erotic mind, her heart, her body and her genitals. It makes sense why she would want to connect sexually when all 4 categories are so high during the sexual experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 23, 2020
252: Sex During COVID (Still)
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Sex during COVID (still!) - while kids are home, while we're stir-crazy, closeness is feeling claustrophobic; and we've got the big sex killer - stress! Sigh. And the forecast is for .... more home time. Who knew in April we'd be looking at lockdown for a much longer time. Are you bored in bed? Need a bit of encouragement to keep it hot? Here's some help!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 16, 2020
251: Setting Up An Early Relationship for Sex Success
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Thinking about getting married and want to make sure sex is good and you stay emotionally connected? Never had these important conversations about basic sexual expectations? Set yourself up for success!  Couples often believe all of marriage is going to be like George’s example of  the “high road” – the great dinners, great sex and good times but we also want couples to have success during the “middle road” – the grind like paying the bills and the low road – dealing with their insecurities and vulnerabilities.  Especially, George and Laurie emphasize the importance of learning to talk about sex and direct couples to have the who, what, when, why conversation.  If you’ve never had these conversations you can jump right in now and make things better.  What so obvious later,  needs to be worked out early.  Who should initiate?  What are you going to do in bed? When is the best time for sex for your energy? Sponsors: Uberlube - get the best personal lubricant at 10% off with the coupon Foreplay! Manscaped - special male grooming packages at 20% off with the coupon Foreplay!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 09, 2020
250: Do Creams, Meds, Pills, Gadgets, and Toys Really Help Her in Bed?
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George and Laurie talk with Dr. Polly Watson, MD (no relation!) about all the new exciting advances in sex medicine to find out what helps. We discuss the O-shot, hormones, female desire drugs, toys, Scream-Cream; JoyGell, even sex robots for a laugh! Find out what works and what is fun!!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 02, 2020
249: Closing the Arousal Gap
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With the average Joe and average Jane so different in their approach to sex and the ways and timing of arousal, what can a couple do to close the arousal gap? Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about how to negotiate the differences. Check out our great sponsor Uberlube. Use the coupon code Foreplay to receive a 10% discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 25, 2020
248: Sexual Self Improvement Plan for Her
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This week it is Average Jane's turn! Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about what the sexual experience for an average woman is and how to improve their sex life! Check out our sponsor Uberlube! Use the coupon Foreplay! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 18, 2020
247: 12 Ways To Get Better In Bed For Guys
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George wants men to have a method to improve their sexual game in 3 zones—pre-sex, during sex and post-sex in 4 different areas: heart, mind, body, and genitals. Twelve variables for guys who like stats to measure their self progress. George gets into specific numbers for the average Joe in each area and has a plan for what they can do if they don't like their own assessment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 11, 2020
246: Ask a Sexual Question and Get "I don't know" For An Answer - What to Do?
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As a sexual pursuer, how can you open a conversation with your sexually withdrawing partner? What are some typical questions that pursuers ask and how can they ask them in a better way without being dismissed? Ever asked your partner: What are your sexual fantasies? What turns you on? How do you like to be touched? These questions are often met with an "I don't know" response - and we know it's so frustrating to the sexual pursuer who has planned and thought about them only to be seemingly met with disinterest and rejection. Hear Laurie and George talk about how sexual pursuers can open communication with their partner about sex and reduce the pushing energy that blocks their partner? Open up to curiosity and leave them wanting something more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 04, 2020
245: The Killjoy Cycle
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Let's talk about “killjoy” – the negative cycle that squashes the love life is so many millions of couples out there and how we can name it, notice it and do it differently. Sexual discrepancies are the most common thing we're going to see over 80% of couples are going to find themselves in a dynamic where one wants more than one wants less. In his marriage, George calls the negative cycle “California" and Laurie calls it “Drowning” with her swimmer husband. But there's something really fun about naming the negative cycle, the merry-go-round Groundhog Day, whatever word you want to come up with. The beautiful thing about doing this is it starts to externalize the problem. The problem isn't Joe. The problem isn't Mary. The problem is the dynamics that they've unconsciously created in this attempt to be with each other. George and Laurie role play a new way of communicating in “killjoy”! Please support us by ordering Uberlube at Uberlube.com with the coupon "foreplay".   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 28, 2020
244: Orgasm Gap and How Big is Big Enough?
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Is the orgasm gap fair? Laurie and George don't think so. But it's so natural to feel criticized when your partner tries to tell you what they need; how can we get excited about feedback to change this problem? How often do normal couples have bad sex? George suggests often enough that it's coming for you! (you gotta expect it!) But if you strike out... get back in the game. Do men who worry about their penis size even know what's normal? How big is big enough? What's so special about sex in Finland - what are they getting right for women? We got the stats! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 21, 2020
243: Why Do YOU Want To Have Sex? Five Motives For Sex!
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Why do YOU want to have sex? George and I talk about the 5 most frequent motives to get it on! Pleasure, Intimacy, Approval, Coping and Procreation. Each motive can be used in sexually healthy relationship as sex serves many purposes for a couple. Sometimes though some motives fail, like when pleasure is never accompanied by intimacy or when the anxious need from approval doesn't develop into pleasure. Please support us on Uberlube.com/FOREPLAY   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 14, 2020
242: Come as you are with Emily Nogaski
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Welcome Dr. Emily Nagoski, PhD, fellow podcaster and award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life.    Dr.Nagoski's mission is to help us live with confidence and joy in our bodies! Together, Emily, George and Laurie want to help people have a healthy view of sex and challenge people's assumptions about what they believe and where they get stuck. We all see EFT as a way to help couples deal with the difficult feelings around sex where we often are anxious about hurting our partner's feelings or fearful of being found sexually inadequate.   To help us understand desire, Emily tells us about where to find our brakes (all the good reasons not to be turned on... potential threats) and accelerators (everything we think, believe, imagine & touch, taste, smell, hear that has sexual connotations.)  Fun topics in this podcast: look at your genitals! (if you want to make friends.) She and George talk about the complicated relationship men have with their penises. Nagoski uses a hedgehog visualization to gracefully accept our feelings around sex. Ever wonder why your body may be turned on but you really don’t want sex? Emily shares the concept of non-concordant sex – when our body’s arousal and subjective sexual feelings don’t align. Please help support our podcast and get a 10% discount on Uberlube's fabulous lubrication - Uberlube.com/Foreplay Find Emily!!!: book - Come As You Are workbook -The Come as You Are Workbook new book!! - Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle podcast - the feminist survival podcast 2020 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 07, 2020
241: What Withdrawers Can Do Besides Walking Away
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Knowing that their withdrawal triggers their partner, what can someone who feels attacked or criticized do - other than walking away? Wrestling with themselves and naming their feelings, gives them a moment to feel instead of shutting it down. Recognizing what happens in their body makes some room and space for the withdrawer distress. And becoming curious about their pursuing partners criticism and anger helps them reconnect emotionally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 31, 2020
240: Do Men Really Want Directions In Bed?
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Men want an engaged partner and frequently ask for communication in bed.  Yet, how can a women ask for what she wants without sending the message that she is critical and unhappy? Laurie and George discuss how a woman can offer sex tips so her guy can really be the best in bed for her especially if he is a sexual withdrawer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 24, 2020
239: Two Ways Pursuers Can Calm Down & Love Their Withdrawing Partner
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Pursuers have beautiful motives to push toward their partners - wanting more connection, more intimacy and more sex. But they often feel rejected and are told they are too much which escalates the cycle. Learn two things that help the pursuer calm down. 1) Remind yourself that you have good intentions to create change. 2) Use an image of someone who made you feel safe - a therapist, parent, grandparent or even of yourself comforting a younger version of yourself. See how taking a wider lens including both peoples vulnerabilities can stop the pursuer-distance cycle. Subscribe to get all the latest episodes! Dedicated to Dr. Jeanne Yorke. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 17, 2020
238: Four Sexy Questions
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It's so hard to ask for what I want in bed or how to answer what do you want me to do to you sexually. Why? George says we either want to protect our partner from something hurtful and we're avoiding what we feel. But without talking about it, we shortcut that delicious exploration, even the missing spots and getting redirected - that is part of the magic of excitement. Our 4 questions are open-ended and hopefully spark real conversation between you and your lover - even if you've been doin' it forever.   Check our our great sponsor Uberlube! Use the coupon code "Foreplay" so that they know we sent you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 10, 2020
237: 49 Year-Old Virgin and Other Mailbag Questions
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Mailbag! - A 49 year-old virgin wonders if it too late for love or if she has lost her mojo. George and Laurie discuss having hard conversations about racism and sex including a listener's feedback. A woman having trouble with physical intimacy after her husband's emotional infidelity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 03, 2020
236: You Excite Me -- Seeing Your Partner as Sexy
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When we are falling in love, we notice all the positive attractors in our partner. Over time, the inevitable negatives which were there all along become more noticeable. The key to long-term relational connection is to intentionally replicate that focus on the positive attractors over the negative. Check out our great sponsor, Uberlube! Use the coupon code Foreplay to let them know you are a listener! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 26, 2020
235: I'm Too Sexy For My Shirt -- Getting Sexual Confidence
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We all resonate with how sexy confidence is in the bedroom. But how do we get it back when we've been repeatedly rejected? Or how do we love ourselves and our imperfect bodies when a critical voice inside our heads screams about our flaws and jiggly thighs? Listen to George and Laurie talk through the ways that can get our game on!   Visit our sponsor Uberlube. Use coupon code "Foreplay"! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 18, 2020
234: Rooting Out Racism
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George and Laurie add their hearts to the conversation about racism. We need to have the conversations that are uncomfortable. If we're marginalized, we have to protest - the rage and anger makes sense. As a former first responder, it breaks George's heart to see the men watching the murder of George Floyd. Where were their feelings? Shut down. Blocked. Trained to be closed. If we can train people to shut down their feelings we can train them to turn on their feelings and be in touch when their humanity is essential. Join Laurie and  George as they talk about what's happening in the world.    Check out our sponsor Uberlube. It is an awesome product! Use the coupon code 'Foreplay'. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 11, 2020
233: She Only Wants Sex to Keep Him Happy
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Join us for a sample conversation with "Eleanor" who is always anxious about sex, preoccupied with whether or not she is pleasing her husband, but unable to be present for her own experience. She doesn’t want to risk hurting her husband even if it would make the sexual moment better for her. Her husband thinks she's not into it, but hear how she worries and actually thinks about it constantly without ever knowing if her husband is happy with her. We have heard hundreds of similar stories about the disconnects that can happen in sexual relationship. We invite you to consider opening up a discussion with your lover about their experience in sex.   Help support us by checking out our sponsor Uberlube. Uberlube has great lubricants! Go to uberlube.com and use the coupon code ‘Foreplay’ to get savings! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 04, 2020
232: Talking to a Man About His Sex Life
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Conversation is the best foreplay. But to have a deeper, more satisfying relationship you must ask deeper, specific questions. Have you ever wanted to talk to your husband or boyfriend about what he really thinks about what is going on in his bedroom? How to Talk to a Man About His Sex Life (Assessment - Part 3) will give you so good questions to ask and ways to make sense of his answers. In this third episode on assessing your sexual relationship, join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about the kinds of questions they use to understand and assess the depth of a couple's connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 28, 2020
231: Sharing Your Sexual History - Assessment Part 2
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In therapy and in our partnerships, sharing our sexual histories takes vulnerability and courage. Have you told your partner about your sexual development? So often we don't even bother to think about what was formative and how our experiences, our strengths, our trauma may influence what we feel in bed. This episode, relationship experts, licensed couples therapist guru George takes the role of sex therapist and sex therapist Dr. Laurie role plays a patient talking about her history. Check out our sponsor Uberlube! Use the coupon code "Foreplay" for a nice discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 21, 2020
230: How to Assess Your Present Sexual Relationship
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We invite you into a thoughtful reflection about what is happening in YOUR sex life. Bring your spirit of curiosity and stay with us in the discovery mode as our “client” played by the brave volunteer - George - answers this first set of questions. Pull back the curtain and hear what Laurie thinks about his answers as a sex therapist. Think about these beginning questions, (not easy questions) like… What would you want your partner to know about you sexually? Laurie reflects on how important vulnerability is when communication with your lover the deeper aspects of these questions. Our patient acknowledges his anxiety and how most of the time he communicates in frustration with his partner instead of coming from his heart’s longing. We ask: What is going on in your sex life now? Can you describe the problems? When did things change between you or when did the problems start? What have you tried to resolve these issues. Do you and your partner have desire for each other? What turns you on the most? When do you feel most erotic with your partner? What are your 3 most important expectations in bed? We gratefully acknowledge the work of EFT founder Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT Supervisor Mike Moran in the development of this sexual questionnaire as well as the work of Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D for pioneering the understanding of the integration of the sexual cycle into the couple emotional cycle in emotionally focused therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 14, 2020
229: Sex During Hunkering Down
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The stay-at-home orders across the country because of the Covid-19 Pandemic has increased the economic and health security. Dealing with feelings of helplessness is a drag on individuals and impacts sexual desire. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and Couples therapist George Faller as they talk about how to maintain sex during 'war-time.' Check out our sponsor Uberlube. Use the coupon code 'Foreplay' to get a discount! Silicone-based lubricant for keeping it hot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 07, 2020
228: Male Arousal -- What Turns Him On
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What turns him on? Visual stimulation is very important. Seeing his partner naked works if women can let go of their insecurity.  Join sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and Couples therapist George Faller as they talk about what turns men on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 30, 2020
227: Overcoming Shame in Sex
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A married woman listener asks George and Laurie about how to overcome 15 years of shame regarding her thoughts about the 'right kind of sex to have', 'what is good and acceptable in a sexual encounter', and even shame over how much she should be enjoying sex. George remarks, that shame is the biggest turnoff and cut-off for sexual desire... Please support our sponsor Uberlube by buying their high-quality silicone lubricant. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 23, 2020
226: Do Women Enjoy Sex?
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In this Mailbag episode, a listener raises a question about given the difficulty many women have in orgasming through intercourse, why would women want to have sex? Sex therapist and author Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller discuss the different viewpoints towards sex that men and women have. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 17, 2020
225: De-escalating Conflicts
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The Pursuer - Withdrawer dance can escalate negative emotions and lead to misunderstanding what each partner is wanting, thinking, and feeling. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as the talk about the process of escalation and de-escalation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 09, 2020
224: Connecting During Covid
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STAY CONNECTED! - our most important mission during the COVID-19 outbreak! In times of stress we need to turn to each other. George and Laurie talk about their own struggles and hope to offer comfort to their listeners...as well as some thoughts about how to grow after being battle-tested! Plus, some a nudge for creative sex during quarantine!     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 02, 2020
223: I'm a Burned-out Pursuer
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Pursuers get exhausted. After trying everything... talking, begging,  holding back their needs, getting angry... sometimes they just give up.  When Pursuers become Withdrawers, the relationship is in trouble. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about dealing with burn out in a relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 26, 2020
222: Let's Talk About Sex, Baby!
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Laurie and George demonstrate best ways to initiate a conversation to get your partner to open up about sex. And secondly, they talk about how to change the conversation with our kids and friends so we change the culture. George says he feels like he's been let into a secret society of women when Laurie reveals her girlfriend talk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 19, 2020
221: Do 2 Withdrawers Ever Get Together?
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Do 2 withdrawers ever get together?  They do but when there is little conflict there is usually little sex.  Both people are so intent on being nice and not demanding, the difficult conversations that create intimacy just don't happen. They avoid the negative emotions and unfortunately shut out the intense emotions would make them feel securely connected. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as they talk about withdrawers in relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 12, 2020
220: Affairs - Different Reasons Pursuers/Withdrawers Cheat
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Why would a withdrawer have an affair when their partner is begging them for more connection? How can a pursuer get over their shame to see their partner's pain?  George and Laurie use attachment theory to add understanding that helps answer the question... "why, did you do this?" Uberlube is a great product in so many ways. Use promo code 'Foreplay' at their website so they know we sent you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 06, 2020
219: Forgiveness After an Affair
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Affairs devastate the trust and connection in a committed relationship. Recovery and reconnection is possible. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller as the talk through how to reconnect after an affair. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 28, 2020
218: Stress and Sex
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Nothing more sexy than talking about stress! How we perceive stress is how it impacts our body and which makes it inseparable from sex. Connection with another is the fastest way to relieve stress.  George leads us in a discussion about how to change distress into eustress by changing our mindset about seeing stress as a challenge and reaching out to a partner and fight problems together.  Drawing from his writing in Sacred Stress, George helps Laurie think about a couple who look at the same moment - an erotic moment in two different ways - one as eustress (highly exciting) and the other sees it as distress (highly anxiety-producing.)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 21, 2020
217: Men Who Don't Go Down
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One of the big disappointments for some women is when their partners don't want to do cunnilingus with them and they do. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they discuss how to have great cunnilingus. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 14, 2020
216: Masturbation -- We All Do It
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Masturbation is a topic few couples are comfortable talking about; yet it is something that we all do. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they talk about masturbation and how it plays into your relationship. Visit our sponsor UberLube at www.uberlube.com; use promo code FOREPLAY so they know we sent you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 07, 2020
215: Sexual Fantasies - What Do You Want?
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Most fantasies have the theme of someone being so into you. In our fantasy, our partner is showing high levels of engagement, high levels of passion and high levels of initiation. George and Laurie talk about how to tap into the energy of fantasy to bring new information, new ideas to the partnership. Try a fantastic lube at www.Uberlube.com/foreplay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 31, 2020
214: Healing Childhood Sexual Trauma
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Sexual trauma in childhood can wreak havoc on adult emotional and sexual relationships. While challenging, traumas of this gravity can be healed. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist and author George Faller as they discuss how you can heal childhood sexual trauma. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 24, 2020
213: Overcoming Trauma for a Great Sex Life
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Trauma, PTSD, and other troubling experiences can invade and derail your relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and marriage therapist George Faller as they respond to a listener's letter about her husband's PTSD and how it plagued their relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 17, 2020
212: Redeeming Sexual Problems Brings Closeness
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Sexual problems are opportunities to actually get deeper with each other. Cohosts talk about a man with ED and how he feels alone, alienated from his own body for fear of failure as well as alienated from his partner thinking he will let her down.  George shares how withdrawers strengthen their muscle memory to go away when they don't share their "ouch" or what hurts, denying themselves the comfort that their partner might offer.  Laurie share how vulnerable sharing actually draws a partner in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 10, 2020
211: Great Sex - Connecting Brains, Hearts and Bodies
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When our hearts are connected, we can lose ourselves sexually in one another. Great sex requires a bit of knowledge, a lot of vulnerability and a willingness to explore more than just genital pleasure. George and Laurie talk about exercises they give clients to get more in tune with each other by exploring touch and the skin of their lover.     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 03, 2020
210: His Porn Use - Man with ED Fears Rejection, Q&A Mailbag
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Q&A for a woman, who's husband prefers porn and a man struggling with ED. George says, "When I think about porn, I don't come at it from a moralistic point of view. I think, does the porn serve a function to strengthen a couple's emotional bond, or does it create more distance?" Laurie and George discuss how the fear of rejection in a man with ED prevents him from sharing his vulnerability and receiving the comfort he deserves from his wife. Instead they both stay separated and dissatisfied.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 27, 2019
209: He Wants You Not Just Sex
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Men who feel sex as their primary path to connection are often  told "all they want is sex."  Indeed, sex is exciting and pleasurable to them but also the way they feel and want to express love and connection.  Listen to George Faller and Laurie Watson talk about how men feel about sex; why the couple needs their sexual motivation and what they can do to have more of it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 20, 2019
208: Women Who Want It
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Women who feel sexually alive and use sex as a pathway for connection can feel out of place in a society that tells them - women don't/shouldn't want sex as much as men. Laurie and George discuss healthy women who are in touch with their bodies, their desire for their partners and long for physical intimacy. When rejected the relationship can be strained, she can feel crushed emotionally and she can question her very attractiveness. Co-hosts affirm her right to have her needs met. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 13, 2019
207: Why He Doesn't Want It
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We think men always want sex. But some of them don't chase their partners. How can we understand this phenomenon? Laurie and Geoge talk about one issue - sexual performance - causing one  man to sexually withdraw. But there are other reasons as well...  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 05, 2019
206: Why She Doesn't Want Sex
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Sounds pretty discouraging if your partner says she'd be fine never having sex again. Laurie and George discuss how to get to the root of what she's saying. Using an acronym O P L E A S F helps us organize what has obscured her libido.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 29, 2019
205: Pursuer Pain and Frustration
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Pursuers' frustrations -- what's it like when you want more and you can't get it? What's it like to work so hard and see your partner walking away from you? We know it feels unfair and want to help you see how you push that might be driving your partner away! Get vulnerable for your own sake.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 22, 2019
204: How to Understand Your Emotional Withdrawer
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Learn why your withdrawing partner feels they are keeping you safer by shutting down. Understand what is good and useful about withdrawing behavior. Hear George walk Laurie through a better way to help her husband feel safe about opening up in a personal example. Sex therapist and author Laurie Watson, together with expert, couples therapist and author George Faller delve into the world of the Emotional Distancer to help you resolve your relationship conflicts with smart moves. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 15, 2019
203: Laurie's Story
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Laurie tells George her own story of why she became a sex therapist. Hear about her moment of decision when she stopped the negative pursuing cycle and changed her marriage. Laurie shares her heartfelt commitment to be the generation to love and struggle to become securely attached in order to change the course of her family's legacy and how you too, can change your family's future.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 08, 2019
202: Foreplay Meet Faller
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Foreplay - meet my new podcast cohost, George Faller, LMFT - a global leader in couples therapy! George debuts and tells his story of trauma to transformation. After surviving 9/11 as a firefighter, George, having become a recent graduate in marriage therapy, became the designated couples therapist to bring healing to the firefighter couples. Now, he specializes in helping couples and therapists find their way through the intense heat and confusion of reactive relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 01, 2019
201: Goodbye to Adam (Bloopers Included)
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The sad day is here when we say goodbye to Dr. Adam Mathews. Join Laurie and Adam as they share their fond memories of working together. Listen through to the end where are fabulous editor Joe added a compilation of outtakes and bloopers! You can even hear Madison our intern chiming in off mic.     ****** Please consider subscribing to Foreplay on your favorite podcast listening platform, and rate and review us! It helps us get the word out and improves our rankings! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 25, 2019
200: For Richer and Poorer
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Money is one of the Big 3 -- along with Time and Energy. Negotiating the issues around money impacts a couple's capacity for intimacy. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the money issue. Please subscribe and rate/review Foreplay on iTunes! It helps us get the word out to more people. We appreciate it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 18, 2019
199: Three Commitments to Better Sex
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One weekend, three commitments, better sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how in one weekend with three commitments you can have a better sexual relationship. Help us reach more people... subscribing to the podcast makes us more prominent on the major sources for podcasts. Rating and reviewing helps too! Ask questions, get on our mailing list on our contact form.   Finally, if you haven't filled out our short, 8-question demographic survey, it only takes a couple of minutes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 11, 2019
197: Your Sexual Style
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We all fall into relational patterns in how we initiate sex and respond to initiation, how/when/where we have sex, how frequently, how freely we talk about sex, and so on. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the various styles and how you can spice it up to keep it hot! Take our demographic survey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 27, 2019
196: Becoming Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz
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Dr. Laurie Mintz is the author of 'Becoming Clitorate'. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she and Dr. Mintz talk about Orgasmic Equality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 20, 2019
195: September 2019 Mailbag
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Are you being used for sex? What is it like to be in a pursuer-pursuer relationship? And more! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they handle your questions.   To submit your question click here! If you haven't subscribed please do! It drives our prominence in your favorite podcast source.   Finally, if you haven't already, please take a moment and complete our short demographic survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 12, 2019
194: Male Menopause
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Do men go through menopause? Listen in with sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what happens to men as they age.     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 06, 2019
193: August 2019 Mailbag
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Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer your questions!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 30, 2019
192: Faking Orgasms
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A certain proportion of women will fake an orgasm to reassure their partner. Laurie says this is short-sighted! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about why women fake orgasms and how to change.   Check out our sponsors!   Limited spots available! November 15-17 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 22, 2019
191: Forgiveness
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Forgiveness is essential for long lasting love and great sex. Unforgiveness robs a relationship of intimacy, both physical and emotional. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to forgive the big hurts and the little hurts that happen in a relationship. Please help us out by subscribing and giving us a rating and review! Also if you haven't yet filled out our 8-question demographic survey, it helps us get to know you, our great audience! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 16, 2019
190: Honeymooning Anytime
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The focus of a honeymoon ought to be sex. Whether you are newly married or have been partnered for awhile, getting away for a few days strictly devoted to sex is a great boost to any couple. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share some tips for a great sex time away. Also fill out our short (8-question) survey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 09, 2019
189: Interview with Erica Delong
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We have special guest Erica Delong! She joins Laurie and talks about being a female sexual pursuer. Find out what it's like! Help us out by hitting the Subscribe button!   Finally, take a minute and fill out our 8-question survey. Let us know who you are! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 02, 2019
188: Riding the Crimson Tide
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To have sex or refrain from sex during a woman's period? Research shows that there are 4 different reactions women have about sex on their periods. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the issues about sex on periods.   Please take a moment and subscribe so that you don’t miss any of our episodes! Also check out our Fall retreat at LoveandSex360.com. Finally, please answer our 8-question demographic survey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 25, 2019
187: Sexual State of the Union
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Talking regularly about the state of your sexual union is essential to achieving and maintaining a satisfying sexual relationship. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to accomplish a regular state of the union. Please take a moment and subscribe so that you don't miss any of our episodes! Also check out our Fall retreat at LoveandSex360.com. Finally, please answer our 8-question demographic survey!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 19, 2019
186: Mailbag - July 2019
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Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer your questions! In this episode: Diagnosing problems with oral sex; and female sexual pursuers and male sexual pursuers. Please take a moment and subscribe so that you don't miss any of our episodes! Also check out our Fall retreat at LoveandSex360.com. Finally, please answer our 8-question demographic survey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 12, 2019
185: Autopsy of a Sexless Marriage
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Why and how does the frequency of sex decrease in a marriage to the point where it rarely happens? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they dissect the genesis of a sexless marriage.   Also we'd love to find out more about our listeners. Please fill out our short demographic survey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 05, 2019
184: Fourth of July Fireworks
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Fourth of July fireworks in the sky are great, but what about fireworks in bed? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Couples Therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the two important factors for great sex on the Fourth and any time: fantasy and seduction. Take a moment to subscribe to our podcast on iTunes so you automatically get all our episodes! Also we want to know you, our listeners better! If you have not done so, please take our short, 8-question demographic survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 28, 2019
183: My Mother is a Sex Therapist
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What is it like growing up with a mother who is a sex therapist? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and her son, sex therapist Reed Watson as they talk about the unique experiences of growing up with a mother who is a sex therapist. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 21, 2019
182: Virgin Sex--10 Steps to Make It Good
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Our first sexual experience ought to be good. Even if your first sexual experience is in the rear-view mirror, understanding what would make it good through these 10 steps can help your sex life today. Also a great resource to share with someone heading toward their first sexual experience. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she shares how to make that first sexual experience good. Take a quick minute and fill out our listener survey.   Please also Rate and Review us on iTunes or your favorite podcast source. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 14, 2019
181: Saying It Better So You Can Do it Better
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Good communication leads to more intimacy which leads to more and better sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about communicating better so that you can do it better. Spend a moment and take our 8-question survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 07, 2019
180: My Side of the Bed
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Being connected with your partner is essential to communication and intimacy, but requires being able to take your partner's perspective. When we get stuck on 'our side of the bed' and have difficulty grasping what it is like from our partner's point of view, empathy becomes impossible. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to check out 'the other side of the bed'. If you listen to us through iTunes, please take a moment and rate and review us. Also, we want to know our listeners better! Help us by filling out our 8-question demographic survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 31, 2019
179: The Perfect Argument
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Learning to argue is essential for intimacy and therefore great sex in a relationship, but is often avoided by couples at all costs. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to have healthy arguments. Please take a moment and fill out our 8-question demographic survey so that we can know you better! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 24, 2019
178: Too Tired For Sex
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We live our lives on overload: work commitments, family commitments, making dinner, chores, the necessities of everyday life can crowd out sex by making us too tired. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about ways to deal with the burden and make room for sex.   Take our quick 8-question survey here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 17, 2019
177: May 2019 Mailbag
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The May 2019 Mailbag episode is here! Sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews take your questions and give you great advice. In today's episode, Laurie and Adam answer questions on what to do after an emotional affair, how to break the ice and have sex for two anxious people, and what does it mean to be 'safe', and others!   Take a moment and fill in our 8-question listener survey here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 10, 2019
176: Sex Game to Change the Game
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Unhealthy power dynamics in relationships can hamper connection. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the pursuer-distancer dance through the lens of power.   Take our short demographic survey here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 03, 2019
175: Infertility Grief and Sex
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For National Infertility Awareness Week, Foreplay's sex therapist and author Laurie Watson discusses the impact of infertility, both permanent and episodic, on a couple's sexual relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 26, 2019
174: Sexual Equality
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Sometimes in committed relationship sex becomes unbalanced and the mutuality of the experience goes out the window. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to achieve a mutually satisfying relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 19, 2019
173: The Eight Worst Sex Mistakes
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Beware of these 8 sex mistakes! Every couple can fall into these bedroom traps. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they identify the big mistakes that destroy great sex! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 12, 2019
172: The Secret Emotional Life of Men
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Men are often viewed as mostly manly when they are least emotional. This dichotomy is confusing to men and leads them to most often shut down their emotions. Their partners are often starved for the emotional side of their men. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the secret emotional life of men.   Let us know more about you! Take our short, 8-question demographic survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 05, 2019
171: Sexual Resilience
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In a committed relationship, challenges of all sorts impact both parties. Resilience is the power and capacity to use these struggles to draw closer together and makes our relationship stronger. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explain sexual resilience.   Tell us more about you! Take our listener survey!     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 29, 2019
170: Female Sexual Pursuers
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Women sexual pursuers are more common than our culture assumes. A woman who wants sex is sometimes viewed as a slut or whore, and is subject to negative feedback. What women sexual pursuers have in common is a solid erotic core. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss developing an erotic core. Also let us know about you! Fill in our short, 8-question demographic survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 22, 2019
169: The Change
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What goes on during menopause? What exactly is changing? What can be done to mitigate the changes from menopause? Join sex therapist and best-selling author Laurie Watson and couples’ therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they take a deep dive into the issues around menopause. Help us get to know you better! Fill in a short questionnaire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 15, 2019
168: March 2019 Mailbag
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Listener questions answered! The problems with quick orgasms; pursuer shutdown frustrations, and listening to actions versus listening to words. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they respond to listener questions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 08, 2019
167: Sexual Positions
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Different sex positions have different pluses and minuses in different situations. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss different positions for sex and where they each shine! Let us know about you! Take our demographic survey here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 01, 2019
166: Unmet Expectations
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We bring our expectations along with us into any situation. Particularly with our partner, we have a host of expectations that we want our partner to fulfill. A couple can run into problems if their expectations are not discussed, negotiated, and clarified. Join sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about expectations in our relationships.       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 22, 2019
165: Sleeping with a Narcissist
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Are you sleeping with a narcissist? What is a narcissist in any case? The term is floated around casually and often unhelpfully. Join sex-therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about narcissism in a sexual relationship. Please let us know more about you! Take our demographic survey at foreplayrst.com/listener-survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 15, 2019
164: Overcome the Valentine's Day Curse
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Get geared up for a great, romantic Valentine's Day! Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss ways to make Valentine's Day romantic and overcome the Valentine's Day curse! Help us get to know you by filling out our demographic survey! Click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 08, 2019
163: More Sex, More Money
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The key to a great relationship, the hottest sex, the most money, the best connection, comes from secure attachment. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to become more securely attached. Take our quick demographic survey! Foreplay Survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 01, 2019
162: Fellatio
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Following on last week's podcast on cunnilingus, this week we talk about fellatio for the fellows! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about fellatio! Take a moment and fill out our demographic survey. We want to find out more about our listeners. Listener Survey! Thanks! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 25, 2019
161: Cunnilingus
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For the majority of women, oral sex is the best way to climax. Often however it gets caught up in the power struggle of the pursuer and distancer. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews get to the specifics of oral sex for her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 18, 2019
160: The Great American Vibrator
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Gain orgasmic security with the Great American Vibrator! Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk all things buzzing. The vibrator that Laurie recommends is available through Amazon here. Help us know you better by filling out our listener demographic survey at our survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 11, 2019
159: Fantasy in Relationships -- Part 2
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Fantasy can play an important part in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson in a seminar discuss fantasy and common obstacles to satisfying sex. We are asking listeners to fill out a short, 8 question survey so that we can find out more about our listeners. The survey can be found here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 04, 2019
158: Relationship Goals for the New Year
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Set relationship goals that cannot fail! 97% of new years resolutions fail. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss making great relationship goals for 2019. We are asking listeners to fill out a short, 8 question survey so that we can find out more about our listeners. The survey can be found here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 28, 2018
157: Fantasy in Relationships
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Fantasy can play an important part in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson in a seminar discuss fantasy and common obstacles to satisfying sex. We are asking listeners to fill out a short, 8 question survey so that we can find out more about our listeners. The survey can be found here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 21, 2018
156: Mailbag - Self consciousness about sex, intrusive thoughts, and date night sex
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Self-consciousness about sex and talking about sex can get in the way of our intimacy and enjoyment of sex. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about reducing self-consciousness, dealing with intrusive thoughts, and date night sex.   Help us get to know you better by taking a short, 8-question survey. Click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 14, 2018
155: Holiday Naughty and Nice Ideas
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The holidays can be stressful for many reasons. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they go through the list of naughty and nice ideas for the holiday. We want to find out more about our listeners! Please click this link to a short, 8-question demographic survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 07, 2018
154: Sex After Kids
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Having kids can radically change sex for couples and can complicate our sex lives for a number of reasons. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they work through the issues around sex after kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 29, 2018
153: Body Image
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Next to relational distress, a negative body image is the biggest disruptor for derailing sex and desire. While this has traditionally been a woman's struggle, increasingly it is also an isue for men. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about body image issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 23, 2018
152: Criticism
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Criticism can be destructive to our relationships. In the fourth and final of Gottman's 'Four Horseman' series, Laurie and Adam address this destructive behavior and distinguish it for communicating complaints in your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 16, 2018
151: Sex and Anxiety
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Anxiety can interfere with sexual satisfaction. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to deal with sex and anxiety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 09, 2018
150: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered
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Dr. Adam and Laurie are back at it again answering your listener questions! In today's episode they cover topics on getting your needs met, trusting your partner, a listener's boyfriend struggling with the death of a beloved pet and more!    Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 02, 2018
149: Defensiveness
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Continuing Gottman's Four Horseman series, Dr. Adam and Laurie dive deep into defensive behavior. Tune in to learn how to spot defensiveness within yourself and your partner. In this episode they offer advice on what to do with this common yet powerful emotion.    Love us on Patreon www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 26, 2018
148: Getting Pregnant
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Sexual problems and the quest for getting pregnant plague more couples than you'd think. The stress of conceiving can often prolong the process. Laurie and Dr. Adam talk infertility, conception and remaining calm with a common goal of pregnancy in mind.    Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 19, 2018
147: Sex and Depression
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Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss the complicated relationship between sex and depression in both men and women. They discuss symptoms and how to stay connected when your relationship is impacted by this all too common mental health issue.    Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 12, 2018
146: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered
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Laurie and Dr. Adam answer listener questions about sexual confidence, bringing a third person into a marriage, a porn addicted father and more!   Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 05, 2018
145: Say Yes to Sex!
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How to say yes to sex! Just because you or your partner is a sexual distancer may not mean you don't want to have sex. Some distancers have difficultly saying yes in the moment. Dr.Adam and Laurie explore how to get over the ''let's go for it'' hurdle.    Love us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 28, 2018
144: Stonewalling
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What to do when your partner shuts down. In the second of Gottman's 'Four Horseman' series, Dr. Adam and Laurie address this destructive behavior and how to get through the seemingly unbreakable barriers of a silent a partner.    Like us? Send us some love on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 21, 2018
143: 10 Tips to Rekindle Romance
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How to bring back the fun and romance into your relationship with these 10 easy tips. Listen in on Laurie’s controversial advice on becoming the "most romantic man in the universe"! Follow us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 14, 2018
142: Before Marriage
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What is the number one most important trait in a good partner? Tune in to find out! In this episode Laurie and Dr. Adam explore the importance of sexual attraction vs emotional attraction. They also reveal red flags to look out for before you fully commit.    Love us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 07, 2018
141: Porn: Good or Bad?
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Porn use can bring out strong reactions on both sides: Some view it as a minor impact on a marriage while others feel it is equivalent to cheating. Dr. Adam and Laurie explore porn’s impact on the sexual partnership and the place of fantasy within a monogamous marriage.   Love us on Patreon!: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 31, 2018
140: Contempt 911
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Contempt, one of the most dangerous emotions in a relationship. This episode covers the markers of contemptuous behavior and why it's so destructive to a marriage. Laurie and Dr. Adam offer advice on recognizing this powerful emotion and how to bring the humanity back into your relationship.   Support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 24, 2018
139: Inside the Mind of the Sexual Distancer
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Adam is back in part two of our two-part series on resolving the demand-withdraw sexual cycle. Why does sex feel so much riskier to the distancer than the pursuer? Laurie and Adam give tips on how distancers can better communicate their needs and how both partners can provide clarity and security in this all too common relationship dance. Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 17, 2018
138: Inside the Mind of the Sexual Pursuer
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What in the world are they thinking? Today's episode is the first of a two-part series about resolving the demand-withdraw sex cycle between partners. Laurie addresses the expectations of the "sexual pursuer" and how to relieve the negative thought patterns that damage your marriage. Find us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 10, 2018
137: Special Guests: Anatomy of Marriage
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We've got a special treat today! Seth and Melanie, from the Anatomy of Marriage podcast, share how they emerged from crisis in their marriage by developing tools for better communication, shedding shame and understanding their family of origins. Tune in, you don't want to miss this in-depth discussion. Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 03, 2018
136: Self-care (for Men)
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Guys need self-care too! Men tend to run on low batteries without knowing handy ways of taking care of their bodies and minds. Dr. Adam and Laurie deliver practical tips on how to be present with yourself and in your relationship as a man or a woman.   Love us? Support us on Patreon! www.foreplayrst.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 27, 2018
135: Daring to be Vulnerable
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How to share your true-self with your partner. Laurie and Dr. Adam dive deep into what vulnerability really means for men (and women too).    Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 20, 2018
134: Premature Ejaculation
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The easiest sexual problem to cure is often the most difficult to talk about. Dr. Adam and Laurie tackle the confusion and embarrassment associated with premature ejaculation. They offer help on addressing it with your partner and techniques for improving staying power.    Love us? Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 13, 2018
133: Mailbag: Listener Questions Answered
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Laurie and Dr. Adam answer listener questions! A fiancé suddenly experiences attraction troubles, mental health, switching distancer and pursuer roles, and a question from a young woman about the screaming pleasure she sees in the movies. Don't miss this episode!   Like us? Support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 06, 2018
132: Sex Isn't Everything
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Believe it or not sex isn't everything! A well-rounded relationship includes other aspects like shared aspirations, friendship and intimacy. Can you have a great relationship without good sex? Can you have great sex without a good relationship? Tune in to find out.    Love us? Support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 29, 2018
131: Friendships
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How do friendships impact romantic relationships? Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss keeping your individuality while maintaining a strong bond with your spouse. How to talk about friendship boundaries, the positives of a strong community and how trouble in your friends' relationships can affect your own!    Love us? Join the community on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 22, 2018
130: Getting Naked
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Today's episode is all about nakedness. Why we grow to be self-conscious, positive self-talk and how getting naked in front of your partner builds intimacy and attachment. Shed the shame, shed the clothes!  Love us? Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 15, 2018
Suicide Prevention
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Recognizing symptoms of depression and hopelessness in your loved one.  Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 12, 2018
129: Mailbag: Listener questions answered
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Today Dr. Adam and Laurie answer your burning listener questions. They cover everything from separate bedrooms to sexting to smoking pot and low libido! Tune in to get answers to the questions you've always wanted to ask. Have a question of your own? Email us at info@foreplayrst.com.   Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst/memberships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 08, 2018
128: Sex and Alcohol
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The effects of alcohol on sexual performance and satisfaction are complicated. Dr. Adam and Laurie debate the pros and cons of this widely used social lubricant in your sex life.    Love us? Support us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 01, 2018
127: When does sex end?
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Just because he orgasms doesn’t mean sex is over! To know when sex ends first we have to know what sex actually is. Join us as Laurie and Dr. Adam cover the sex cycle and how ending it right can improve your overall sense of satisfaction and desire.   Love us? Support us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 27, 2018
126: 7 Sex Dos and Don'ts
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Don't miss these common dos and don'ts! Covering everything from phone etiquette to laughing at your loved one's short comings, Laurie and Dr. Adam give great tips on definitely what NOT to do between the sheets.   Like us? Supports us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 18, 2018
125: Dividing Chores for Better Sex
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Dr. Adam and Laurie delve into the dirty details of how splitting your household tasks can impact your sex life.  Like us? Become a Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 11, 2018
124: Is age really just a number?
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Even a five to ten year age difference can have a meaningful impact on communication, health and sexpectations.  Dr. Adam and Laurie tackle blending families and other issues that can arise when marrying someone older or younger than yourself. Love us? Support us on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 04, 2018
123: Sex and Self-Confidence
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How to end the comparison game. Laurie and Dr. Adam discuss positive self-talk and tools for forgetting that critical voice, in and out of the bedroom.   Support us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/foreplayrst Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 27, 2018
122: Morning Sex
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Equally loved and loathed by many, today's hot topic is all about getting busy in the AM. Dr. Adam and Laurie give tips on how to make morning sex great and delve into the biological differences between the genders in when they want it most.    Want to keep it hot? Support us on Patreon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 20, 2018
121: What Happens in Sex Therapy
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What goes on in the sex therapist's office? This week Laurie and Dr. Adam dispel popular myths around their practices and discuss who can benefit from talking to a trained professional. Like what you here? Support us on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/foreplayrst. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 13, 2018
120: Facebook Friends and Exes in Town
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Setting good boundaries with your partner shouldn't feel like a power struggle. Sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples counselor Dr. Adam Mathews discuss safeguarding your relationship and what to do if those boundaries get crossed.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 06, 2018
119: Sex Advice for Young Couples
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Struggling with sexual problems in your 20s? You're not alone! In today's mailbag episode Dr. Adam and Laurie discuss common reasons for trouble in the bedroom, even for couples who are just getting started.   Support us on Patreon at www.patreon.com/foreplayrst! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 30, 2018
118: Sexual Addiction and the Hole in the Soul
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Sexual addiction or sexually compulsive behaviors involve using increasingly risky sexual actions to fill an inner emptiness. What is sexual addiction; what it is not. Healing the rift with EFT therapy.   Support us on Patreon at www.patreon.com/foreplayrst! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 24, 2018
117: Stealing the Covers and Other Nighttime Disturbances
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How you handle the non-sexual behaviors we share with our partner in bed – both positive and negative – can draw us together or drive us apart. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about stealing the covers and snoring. Support us on Patreon at www.patreon.com/foreplayrst! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 16, 2018
116: Affair Discovery
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Affair discovery! To-do's and not to-do’s in the first few moments after discovering your partner is having an affair. While sexual betrayal strikes at the very heart of commitment, marriages and partnerships can often emerge stronger after an affair. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the steps to take if you find your partner has been having an affair. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 09, 2018
115: Sexual Perfectionism
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Having high standards and being driven to meet them can produce good results in life. But in your sexual relationship, being a perfectionist can be a problem. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to deal with sexual perfectionism in yourself and your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 02, 2018
114: What to Do When Your Partner Says No
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Handling a rejection when we want to be intimate can sting. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through how to handle sexual rejection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 25, 2018
113: Treating Erectile Dysfunction
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Erectile Dysfunction has many potential causes and ways of treatment. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk with urologist Dr. Ryan Terlecki about the various ways of treatment of ED. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 18, 2018
112: Valentine's Day 2018
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Sexiest day of the year! Don't think you can write this day off as a greeting card holiday. Why sex is essential on Valentine's Day. Learn what Laurie and Adam are doing with their spouses to celebrate! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 11, 2018
111: Male Sexual Desire Disorder
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Men can have low libido and low sexual frequency for a number of reasons.Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Adam Mathews as they discuss the various causes of male sexual desire disorder and what to do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 05, 2018
110: Dating and Sex after Divorce
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The challenges that a divorced person faces when they begin to date again are real and painful. Even more complications come when you start a sexual relationship after divorce. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the whens, hows, and whys of dating and sex after divorce. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 28, 2018
109: Her Arousal on Thursday Night
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Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she gets down to the fine details of women's arousal patterns in this solo episode of Foreplay! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 22, 2018
108: Pursuer Pitfalls
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What to do if you are a sexual pursuer and you feel constantly rejected and even the sex you have feels perfunctory? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the changes to make if you fall into the Pursuer Pitfalls. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 14, 2018
107: The Ultimate Sex Game
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The path to a long-term successful relationship requires putting your relationship above your individual interests, which runs counter to where we always start and where our culture starts, which is 'me first.' Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to win the relationship game and how to avoid 'starfish sex.' Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 07, 2018
106: Relational Resolutions 2018
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New Years is commonly time for resolutions. But often those resolutions aren't about our primary relationships. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share their own goals for 2018 and how to formulate effective relational goals. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 31, 2017
105: Ghosts of Christmas Past
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The holidays can evoke memories and strong feelings about our families. Managing these experiences in the holidays is a path of growth. Join sex therapist and acclaimed author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about dealing with our sexual pasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 26, 2017
104: Grieving What Hasn't Been
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Each of us has unreal expectations and fantasies about our partner and our relationship. When we are realistic about our sex lives, we can let go of, and decide to grieve, the losses of our idealizations of our partner and our sex lives. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what and how to grieve. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 17, 2017
103: I am Good, You are Bad
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Black and white thinking is something that we can often fall into with our partner; doing so seems like it simplifies the world. But rigid black and white splitting is unrealistic and damaging. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how black and white thinking impacts your relationship and your sex life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 11, 2017
102: Leaving a Sexual Intimacy Legacy
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While we don’t often think of it in terms of our sex life, we leave our children a sexual intimacy legacy. Becoming more intentional about how we embody our sexual relationship directly and indirectly impacts our children. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about leaving a vibrant relational and sexual intimacy to the next generation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 03, 2017
101: Why Men Don't Talk
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The strong, silent type is the culturally-valued view of classic manhood. Join nationally acclaimed author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about this classic archetype of manhood. Note to our listeners: We have solved the sound problems that have plagued our recording sessions over the past 8 episodes. Since we record once a month for 3 to 5 episodes, it took us some testing and switching out equipment to figure out the problem. We have solved the issue(s) that were plaguing our system. This is the final poor-quality episode. Clear sailing from here out. In this episode, we are offering a Foreplay RST coffee mug for the first 3 listeners who send us a rating/review on iTunes. Here’s what you need to do: go to iTunes on your computer (it doesn’t work on iPhones); search the store for Foreplay and click through to our page on the iTunes store. Click on ‘Rating and Reviews’ toward the top of the page. Then under ‘Customer Reviews’ click on the ‘Write a Review’ button and you will be able to rate us and write a review. Email us a screenshot of your review to info@foreplayrst.com. We’ll randomly draw three names from the emails we receive and we’ll send you out a Foreplay RST coffee mug! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 26, 2017
100: A Sexual Feast
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Just as in feasts like Thanksgiving, where we take our ordinary day-to-day activities and raise them to a new level, our sexual lives benefit greatly from quarterly sexual feasts – times together where our sexual times together get to a new level. Join national author and popular sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the benefits and how-to’s of having a sexual feast.   Note to our listeners: We have figured out our technical recording problems and are back to the quality levels that we have set for ourselves.  However, we have one more (Episode #101 next week) that was recorded while we were still having problems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 19, 2017
99: How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Sex Life
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How does your attachment style impact your sexual relationship? Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to know what your attachment style is and how it impacts your sex life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 12, 2017
98: When Sex Goes Wrong
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Many things can make sex goes wrong; some have easy fixes. Join acclaimed author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist as Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the things that can wrong and what to do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 05, 2017
97: Optimal Sex and the Best Orgasms
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Reaching orgasm is only the beginning. Optimal sex involves deeper connection and leads to more satisfying sex and even better orgasms. Join sex therapist and acclaimed author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to get the most meaningful sex and the best orgasms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 30, 2017
96: #MeToo
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#metoo - Laurie and Adam discuss their professional and personal experience with abuse and harrassment. In a serious conversation, they raise futher awareness about the stats and real situations of harassment and assault women face and why it matters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 22, 2017
95: Get More Sex Now -- Increasing Sexual Frequency
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Husband’s positive behavior toward partner increases frequency of sex – but don’t wait too long to be positive guys. Even if you don’t feel like being positive, being positive is the route to more sex. What is positive behaviors? “Saying I love you” • “Making partner life” • “Engaging in physical intimacy outside of sex” • “Appreciative expressions” and more. Tune in to sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share what works in increasing sex frequency. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 15, 2017
94: Seven Ways to Increase Her Orgasmic Power
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Oct 08, 2017
93: The Complexity of Male Sexuality
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The expectations in relationship and in our culture for what it means to be a man often comes down to a big erection that works every time. The prevalence of porn has communicated unrealistic ideas about sex and sexuality. Join sex therapist and popular author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the complexity of male sexuality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 01, 2017
92: Secure Attachment Equals Plenty of Sex
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A thriving, vibrant sexual relationship develops best in our relationship when we feel safe and secure and when we help our partner feel safe and secure. Join sex therapist and popular author Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about how to move to a more secure relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 24, 2017
91: Adam's Midlife Crisis Plan and Help with Hot Sex
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Do you want long-term great sex? We have your growth plan and challenges mapped out. Join sex therapist and popular author and blogger Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share how to have great sex for a lifetime. Laurie's blogs can be found on WebMD and Psychology Today where Laurie's blogs are frequently rated the most popular. Laurie's counseling center can be found at AwakenLoveandSex.com and Adam can be reached at mathewscounseling.net. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 17, 2017
90: Sexual Pursuer Rescue Plan
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Sexual pursuers can sabotage themselves through their own thinking about sex in the midst of the experience. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson as she talks about how sexual pursuers can manage their desire for great sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 10, 2017
89: Mailbag -- Bodily Functions and Syncing Sex
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Today's Mailbag Topics: Living in an intimate relationship includes sharing spaces and being exposed to our partner in ways that may not be appealing; and how to sync up the best times for sex. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they take questions from listeners. If you have a question for a mailbag episode, email us at info@foreplayrst.com. We are also set up now to take live callers. If you want to do a live mailbag episode, send us an email and we will arrange a time to have you call in! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 03, 2017
88: Mid-life Crises and Sex
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Mid-life crises are often caricatured, but often in our 50’s there is a real change in sex – declining abilities and physical attraction. These changes can be disruptive to our relationship unless handled well. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples’ therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to successfully handle mid-life crises with tips that work even if you are young! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 27, 2017
87: Ten Mistakes Couples Make about Sex - Part B
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Couples in committed relationships fall into certain traps and mistakes. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist, Dr. Adam Mathews, as they cover the second five of 10 Mistakes Couples Make about Sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 20, 2017
86: Ten Mistake Couples Make about Sex
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Couples in committed relationships fall into certain traps and mistakes. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couples' therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they cover the first five of 10 Mistakes Couples Make about Sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 13, 2017
85: Friendship and Sex
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Relationships have three broad areas of relating: the mundane details that must be done in live, sexual intimacy, and being friends -- liking our partner, enjoying their company, sharing the details of our inner worlds. The best relationships manage to have all three work; imbalance among them leads to problems. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about balancing these three essential arenas of relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 06, 2017
84: Involuntary Celibacy
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Involuntary celibacy (going more than 6 months without intercourse) within a committed relationship occurs more frequently than you would imagine. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and couple's therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the reasons behind involuntary celibacy and what couples can do to address (and avoid) it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 30, 2017
83: Male Pursuit and Female Resistance
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After the wedding day, it is often easy for each partner to take their partner for granted. Men need to continue to pursue their partners. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk to caller Joe from Raleigh about men pursuing their partners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 23, 2017
82: Weight, Sex, and Marriage
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Weight, sex, and marriage – Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and couple’s therapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they wade into the sensitive and dicey topic of weight gain in marriage and how it can impact a couple’s sexual relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 17, 2017
81: Pleasure
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Pleasure can often be hard to arrive at with our performance-oriented, accomplishment seeking culture. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what keeps us from pleasure and how to encourage pleasure with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 12, 2017
80: Ending the Fight
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Fighting in relationship is unavoidable with two people with natural differences. Often because our wants and needs are involved, our fights in committed relationships can escalate emotionally. How to fight fairly and how to end a fight are equally important. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to end a fight. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 09, 2017
79: Impact of Stress on Sex
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Stress impacts sexual desire for both men and women. For women, stress can lower desire; for men, it can either lower or increase desire. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss stress and sex.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 03, 2017
78: Medical Challenges and Disabilities
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Both short-term and long-term medical challenges/disabilities can impact a committed relationship. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to handle these difficult situations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 25, 2017
77: Long-distance Relationships
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Some couples are faced at times with relating over a long-distance, whether due to business travel, being in the military, school, etc. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Laurie Watson talk through how to survive long-distant relationships both sexually and emotionally in a committed relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 18, 2017
76: Confidence in Your Sexual Self
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From adolescence onward, culturally we are expected to be sexually confident, often with no space for a learning curve. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about developing sexual self-confidence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 11, 2017
75: Trust
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Trust is a foundational element in a relationship. In our sexual relationship, part of trust is worshiping our partner with our bodies. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore building trust and how it is broken in relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 05, 2017
74: Jealousy
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Can jealousy be healthy? If so, how? Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how jealousy can be healthy and be helpful to a committed relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 28, 2017
73: Getting Comfortable Talking about Sex
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Getting comfortable talking about sex and what you want in bed is directly correlated to satisfaction in committed relationships. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they help you get comfortable talking about sex. From a talk given by Laurie and Adam at the North Carolina Marriage and Family Therapist annual conference. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 24, 2017
72: Making Time for Sex
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In our busy lives, sometimes sex is bumped down the priority list by work, children, or other responsibilities. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the necessity of scheduling time for sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 21, 2017
71: Self-forgiveness
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When we are critical and hard on ourselves, intimacy is more difficult. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to forgive yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 14, 2017
70: Trauma in Your Partner
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What to do if your partner has been sexually traumatized in their past? From big traumas of date rape, sexual assault, or groped to serial sexism or shaming messages about sex. Each trauma has an individual impact. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss how to relate to a lover who has had trauma. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 08, 2017
69: Ruthlessness
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The ideal in a sexual relationship includes room for each partner to be ruthless in pursuing their own satisfaction. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore the benefits of a ruthless pursuit of sexual satisfaction. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 30, 2017
68: What Women Really Think about Sex
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Now it is the women's turn! In this episode, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take up what women really think about sex. Compared to men whose body's testosterone drives sexual desire, for most women, it is their mind and imagination that is the source of their sex drive. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 23, 2017
67: What do men really think about sex?
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What do men really think about sex? Move beyond the stereotypes and join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about what men really think about sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 16, 2017
66: Postpartum Issues
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In a response to a reader email, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take a deep dive into issues that arize for couples after childbirth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 09, 2017
65: Questions and Answers with Laurie Watson and Adam Mathews
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Author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews presented a seminar on sex therapy to attendees at the North Carolina Association of Marriage and Family Therapists on March 30, 2017. Here are exceprts from the Question & Answer period. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 03, 2017
64: Mailbag -- Impact of childhood and religious upbringing
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Often our religious and family environments in childhood carry forward into our adult sex lives. Even when we believe and want to be free in bed, often those early messages get in the way of our sexual fulfillment. In this mailbag episode, join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the impact of these early messages and how to overcome them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 27, 2017
63: Am I Normal?
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Everyone has questions about what is normal in life, but particularly in our sex lives. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about specific questions of what is normal in sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 20, 2017
62: Sexual Lulls
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Sexual lulls happen in every committed relationship -- periods of little or no sex. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they discuss why sexual lulls happen and how to get out of them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 12, 2017
61: Emotional Connection
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Emotional connection is not the same as being highly emotional. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews and learn the five ways to build emotional connection with your partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 05, 2017
60: Sexual Bids
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Our communication with our lovers (and others) can be broken down into discrete bids for attention and interactions. In thsi episode of Foreplay, sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the role these bids play in seducation and sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 26, 2017
59: How to Keep Your Love Alive -- Part 2
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Part 2 of the Keynote Speech author and sex therapist Laurie Watson gave to the Forsyth (NC) Medical Society "How to Keep Your Love Alive. September 1, 2016. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 23, 2017
58: How to Keep Your Love Alive -- Part 1
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Keynote Speech author and sex therapist Laurie Watson gave to the Forsyth (NC) Medical Society "How to Keep Your Love Alive. September 1, 2016. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 20, 2017
57: The Power Struggle
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Every couple struggles in ways that are common -- The Power Struggle. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they dive into the whys and hows of the Power Struggle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 16, 2017
56: Anal Sex - Why are we talking about it?
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Do women want anal sex? Do they orgasm with anal sex? Do men find it more exciting than vaginal sex? Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews take on this trendy subject with honest answers to your questions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 12, 2017
55: The Highly Sexual Couple
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Couples who have consistent, frequent sex have certain characteristics in common. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss these specific characteristics. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 05, 2017
54: Seven Things Not to Say
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While it is important to be honest in our committed relationships, tact goes a long way to making takling about the sensitive areas surrounding sex. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the seven things not to say to your lover around sex.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 29, 2017
53: Sex and the Working Couple
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Balancing the demands of work with family and your partner can be difficult. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share strategies for keeping your relationship hot with the demands of work and home. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 22, 2017
52: Stages of Sex
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Sex follows a specific pattern from initiation to resolution. Understanding these stages helps to 'know where you are'. Join sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they lead you through the stages of sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 14, 2017
51: Sex During Pregnancy
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Through the three trimesters of pregnancy, a woman's body changes in different ways, but that doesn't mean that sex can't be good. Join author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the changes in a woman's body at the different stages of pregnancy and how to keep sex alive and hot during pregnancy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 07, 2017
50: Sex Resolutions for the New Year
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It's a new year and it is time for new year's resolutions -- including for sex! What sexolutions are you setting for 2017? Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the benefits and how-to's of sexolutions for 2017. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 30, 2016
49: Foreplay Mailbag -- Recovering from Infidelity
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The painful impact of infidelity in a relationship can be overcome with hard work and direct communication. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk through the process of recovering from infidelity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 25, 2016
48: Sex at the Holidays
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Straightforward 'how-to' guide to using the time at the holidays to 'sex up' your relationship. Listen as author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Mathews as they talk about sexy gifts and how to further your relationship during the hurly-burly of the holidays. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 18, 2016
47: Pursuers and Distancers in Bed
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Sex is often snagged in the relational problems of attachment -- the pull between closeness and autonomy. To improve sex, understanding this relational tension is essential. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explore how pursuers and distancers come together in sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 12, 2016
46: Attachment -- the basis for sex
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The foundation for a healthy sex life comes from our ability to be attached to others. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they explain this important foundation for your sex life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 05, 2016
45: Sex Rules
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Unspoken and explicit rules for sex: when, where, and how sex can happen with your partner can limit our sexual expression. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and pyschotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss bringing these rules into a conversation with our partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 27, 2016
44: Seduce Her
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Often seduction seems to fade after the initial courtship in a committed relationship. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss the four questions to discuss with your partner to bring seduction back to a relationship and keep it hot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 20, 2016
43: Breakdown in Paradise
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Conflict drives true intimacy! Too many couples want to eliminate conflict in their relationship; but to be intimate requires healthy conflict. Join sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss how to build a backlog of good sex and emotional connectedness that will allow conflicts to help build rather than destroy your relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 13, 2016
42: November 2016 Mailbag
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  Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews as they answer and discuss letters and questions that you the listeners have sent in. What if you aren’t currently in a relationship? How do you keep your sexual self alive? How can you have a satisfying sexual relationship when one of the people in the couple struggles with chronic pain? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 06, 2016
41: When Your Partner Travels
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What to do if one partner travels? How to manage the separation and make your time together a time for reconnection and building your relationship. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews share ideas for managing the stress of travel. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 30, 2016
40: Make Up Sex
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Make Up Sex. The best way to end an argument! Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the reasons behind the best sex after a conflict. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 23, 2016
39: Witches, Wenches, and Role Play
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Halloween and sex! What the emphasis on sexuality in women's Halloween costumes reveals about how our current culture views a woman's sexuality. Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and her co-host Dr. Adam Mathews hold the mirror of Halloween to discuss the impact of culture on sexuality. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 16, 2016
38: Am I doing it right?
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What can we do when we feel inadequate in bed or fear that we're not doing it right. How to manage the expectations we all have in bed. Join certified sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and her co-host pyschotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews in exploring this sensitive topic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 09, 2016
37: Breast Cancer
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Breast cancer survivors suffer additional sexual side effects in addition to the gross impact to her physical breasts. From the point of diagnosis onward, breast cancer has a big impact on a women's sexual life. Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the huge impact of breast cancer on a woman's sexual relationship. Even if you aren't impacted directly by breast cancer, many of the points Laurie and Adam make can benefit anyone's sex life.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 02, 2016
36: Masturbation
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Masturbation is often a charged topic with many individuals and couples. The messages we receive about masturbation can influence our current sexual relationships. Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they discuss maturbation through adolescence and into adulthood, as well as it's impact on coupled sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 25, 2016
35: Five Mistakes Men Make in Bed
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Time to turn the tables. This week we take on the men, with 5 common mistakes that men make in bed. Join popular author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they share these pitfalls to avoid. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 19, 2016
34: The Five Mistakes Women Make in Bed
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In this solo episode, author and sex therapist Laurie Watson talks about five of the common mistakes women make in bed, including focusing on body flaws and initiating too subtly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 12, 2016
33: Caveman Sex
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Men and women approach sex often with different views of what is 'ideal'. Men are geared to the immediate, athletic style; women to more sensual and romantic. Balancing these differences can make our sexual relationship dynamic and hot! Join popular author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and psycotherapist Dr. Adam Mathews talk about sex from the male viewpoint. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 05, 2016
32: Size Isn't Everything
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The popular conception is that a larger penis results in better sex. Join author and certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and her co-host psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews as they talk about the real world impact of penis size on sexual satisfaction. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 29, 2016
31: The G Spot
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Is the G-Spot real? Does every woman have one? Where is it? How to stimulate it? Join certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the elusive G-Spot and how to discover it, and employ it in your sex life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 21, 2016
30: When He's Inhibited
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Contrary to our cultural assumptions, men can be inhibited sexually just as easily as women.  Join certified sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews discuss the underlying reasons and cures for sexual inhibition in men. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 14, 2016
29: Physical Attraction
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Afraid you've lost attraction to your partner? Certified Sex Therapist Laurie Watson and psychologist Dr. Adam Matthews explain why attraction can lessen in long-term relationships. Learn practical and psychological ways to feel desire again for your partner or spouse. This episode is the final episode with lessened sound quality. We'll be back next week with our awesome quality level of sound. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 07, 2016
28: Erectile Dysfunction
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Find out the reasons behind Erectile Dysfunction and ways to cope with this syndrome to maintain a satisfying sexual relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 31, 2016
27: Sexy Getaways
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Find out some great ideas for sexy getaways from certified sex therapist Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Matthews. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 25, 2016
26: Technology Menage a trois
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With laptops and smartphones, technology can seem like a third partner in a relationship. Listen to Laurie and Adam suggest ways to deal with this intrusive partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 18, 2016
25: Sex after Trauma
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After a sexual trauma, whether recent or not, a satisfying sexual relationship can be difficult to recover for a women. Listen to Certified Sex Therapist Laurie Watson and psychotherapist Adam Matthews discuss this sensitive topic. Dealing with the shame and pain of a past violation needs to be talked through and healed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 11, 2016
24: Cunnilingus -- How to please her
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Cunnilingus is an essential part of pleasing your woman. Listen in to a frank, helpful discussion of this essential part of love and sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 03, 2016
23: Honeymoon Expectations and Sexpectations
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With wedding season upon us, Laurie and Adam turn to discussing honeymoons and the relational changes that occur -- even for long-term couples. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 28, 2016
22: Spirituality and sexuality
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Faith and sexuality are not mutually exclusive, but can support and enhance each other. Often however in many faith practices, even knowledge about sex is ignored or suppressed, which can lead to problems once sex is allowed and expected in marriage. Listen to Laurie Watson and Dr. Adam Mathews discuss this delicate subject. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 20, 2016
21: Desire Discrepancies
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Discrepancies in desire are a stress on a relationship, and are common at different times in a relationship. Listen to sex therapist and author Laurie Watson and Adam Matthews provide helpful insight and tips for dealing with desire discrepancies in this first Mailbag episode where we respond to your questions. If you have a question, visit us at www.foreplayrst.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 12, 2016
20: Talking to your teens about sex
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Following up on last week's episode on talking to your younger children about sex, join Foreplay as we discuss talking to your teenagers about sex. Learn how to not only talk to them, but have them talk to you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 06, 2016
19: Talking to your children about sex
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Talking to your kids about sex may be the most dreaded conversation for many parents. Some parents may never have a frank discussion with their children on the topic of sex.  Learn what to say and when to say it; give your children a great start to a future healthy sexual relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 01, 2016
18: Making Lemonade with Beyoncé
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A woman who is betrayed in a relationship can feel inadequate and insecure. Laurie and Adam use the lyrics of Lemonade by Beyoncé to explore the feelings that follow an affair. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 15, 2016
17: Affair Recovery
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Recovery from an Affair – The delicate process of recovering from an affair; what works best for restoring the relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 08, 2016
16: Pornography
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Pornography – The wide-ranging impact of pornography: what it is and how it impacts couples, including difficulties in arousal, attraction, and relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 01, 2016
15: His and Hers Fantasies
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Fantasies can play an essential role in keeping a sexual relationship vibrant. Men and women's fantasies differ and understanding the differences can heighten the couple's experience together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 25, 2016
14: Variety
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Variety and creativity in sex can both make our sexual relationship sizzling, but it can also be a source of tension.  Join Laurie Watson, author of "Wanting Sex Again" and her co-host discuss variety! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 10, 2016
13: Affairs: What counts?
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What is an affair? It can be broader than sex-outside-the-relationship. Different people have different definitions, which leads to tension within the relationship. Who can we be for our partner? Join Laurie and Tony as they discuss the difficulties of affairs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 03, 2016
12: Talking
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Talking is one of the most underrated parts of Foreplay... and it can begin in the morning and last all day long. Join Laurie Watson and her co-host Tony Delmedico for this important, and overlooked, way to improve your sex life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 28, 2016
11: Premature Ejaculation
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Premature Ejacualtion -- the number 1 sexual dysfunction for men is easily cured. Author Michael Castleman joins Laurie and gives vital information about the steps to cure PE. Visit Michael's amazon page and his blog. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 25, 2016
10: Kissing
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Kissing often falls off in a long-term relationship. As the eyes are the window to the soul, kissing is the window to the heart.  Join the conversation with Laurie and Tony! If you have topics that you'd like to hear about, email us at info@foreplayrst.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 21, 2016
9: When Sex Changes
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The frequency of sex in a relationship can change suddenly -- whether on the honeymoon, when partners decide to live together, or at other points when life crowds in and crowds out sex. Join Laurie and Tony as they discuss why this happens and what can be done about it.  Email the questions you want Laurie and Tony to address to info@foreplayrst.com. Visit us on the web at www.foreplayrst.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 14, 2016
8: 52 and Needing Blue
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Erectile dysfunction in men 45 and older in a partnered relationship is a problem with solutions. Listen to Laurie and Tony distinguish physiological ED and partnered ED and offer approaches to solve this problem in this podcast spurred by a question from a listener. If you want Laurie and Tony to address a question you are concerned about, email info@foreplayrst.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 07, 2016
7: She couldn't care less
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Her low libido: sources & cures. What to do when she is happy without sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 29, 2016
6: Boobs, Butts, and Bulges
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The erogenous zones and beyond. Talking about how to get your lover hot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 22, 2016
5: Saying No Without Wounding
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Having your desire synced with your partner's may sound ideal, but rare in practice. Find out how to get back in the game when you are not in the mood. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 17, 2016
4: Parents Still Lovers
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Raising young children can dampen sexual desire and frequency.  Find out how to keep it hot when you have tots. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 15, 2016
3: Go Oral or Go Home
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Men describe the frustration of disappearing oral sex in a committed relationship. Find out how to restore this essential part of foreplay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 11, 2016
2: Valentine's Day Sexpectations
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Is Valentine's Day a holiday just for her? Or does this big day have mutual obligations? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 11, 2016
1: Her Big O
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A woman's orgasm is essential to her sexual desire. Find out how to get her there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 11, 2016
Episode 0: Foreplay
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Foreplay -- What's it all about? Why is foreplay essential for the sex life you want to have. How can you keep your sexual relationship hot!?  Join author and sex therapist Laurie Watson and couples therapist George Faller discuss their goals in offering Foreplay Radio. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 09, 2016