U Up?
By Betches Media
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Subscribers: 651
Reviews: 7
Episodes: 459
Faith Calvert
Jul 15, 2022
I love the U Up? pod. Jared and Jordana are like friends to me and I love their banter and down to earth advice. While I'm not in the dating world anymore, this pod is still so fun and entertaining!
Mar 28, 2021
Sep 20, 2020
J&J are hilarious together and so truthful.
Feb 18, 2020
Girlfriend and I love listening and then talking about this
Alycia
May 23, 2019
Love this podcast. Jared and Jordana have such a good rapport and cover so many different relationship topics ❤❤❤
Description
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram.
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What’s The “10-Monther” Timeline?
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It’s time for another Sunday Special and this week starts with Jared sharing more about his Euro trip… from hotel preferences to a w/Benefits tease about his dry spell. Next, a listener shares her concern over whether Jared’s so-called “10-monther timeline” is becoming her reality, or if she and her boyfriend are in it for the long haul. She has professed her love — and he hasn’t — but she’s still convinced that she sees it in his actions. So, how does she tell if he’ll come around or if the end is near? J&J break down the telltale signs of when all isn’t as it seems.
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Jun 04, 2023 |
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Scandoval And The Audacity Of Men
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Jared and Jordana are back in the studio after weeks of travel and touring to talk about the word on everyone’s minds and TVs: Scandoval. Jordana gives Jared the highlights of the Vanderpump Rules finale and reunion, and they debate the toll of being cheated on in such a grand scale. Then, they jump into an email about a guy having a great time seeing a fellow grad student, but he’s about to move across the country for 5 months. Is it fair to bring titles into play, or should they put a pause on the relationship potential between them? The Awkward Sexual Encounter pulls the plug on the breakup sex that could’ve been. Then, our second emailer shares a bizarre request from a one-night stand. J&J finish with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about a shitty date, manners when you meet the parents, and settling the debate on whether a S.O. should take an upgraded seat when flying as a couple.
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May 31, 2023 |
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Heather McMahan’s Guide To Relationships
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J&J are back with a Sunday Special and, this week, they’re joined by comedian Heather McMahan. Heather and Jared have only known each other digitally until this point, so the trio kick off with a discussion about online energy vs energy IRL. Next, they dive into a problem commonly hidden in the fine print of some relationships: how do you address a shift in your friendship when one of you is no longer single? Our emailer has happily been in a relationship for over a year, but as it continues to progress, she’s noticed one of her friendships regressing. Jordana and Heather are both married, so they’re able to delve into how their friendships transitioned over the course of their relationships, while Jared is able to give the perspective of the single friend. Plus, as a bonus, you can catch J&J on Heather’s podcast, “Absolutely Not.”
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May 28, 2023 |
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How Do I Know If I'm Ready To Date Again?
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As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, this week’s emails focus on how you view yourself playing a role in your relationships. First, Jared and Jordana hear from a listener who’s a few months into being single again. She started off feeling single and free, but day by day, loneliness has crept in and made her feel like she’s not meant to be single even though she’s not ready for a relationship. Next, our Awkward Sexual Encounter is a tale that will be stuck in our minds for eternity. Our final email comes from a woman concerned about her partner’s body image issues taking a toll on his mental health and their relationship. J&J close with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about peeing in public, ChatGPT texts and voice memos in the DMs.
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May 24, 2023 |
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Is He Self-Sabotaging Or Does He Just Not Like Me?
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It’s time for another Sunday Special, and this week, Jared and Jordana hear from an emailer confused about where she stands with a guy she’s dating. He went out with coworkers and invited her to join, but because she’s in the middle of a move and has a busy week coming up, she chose to stay home. First, he’s understanding, and suddenly, he’s calling it all off. So, what just happened? Do people in the early stages toward a relationship have to accept every invitation, or is the issue with his anxious approach? J&J add an additional perspective on their situation, and where to go from here.
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May 21, 2023 |
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Why Can’t I Make It Past A 3rd Date?
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This week, Jared and Jordana are recording from home and they kick off with the joys and goals of being moderately effective, from daily living to dating. Then, they dive into hurdles in your dating life and those around you. Our first emailer noticed her dating life tends to die around the 3rd or 4th date, and Jared is able to share hesitations he’s had with getting into somewhat serious territory. The Awkward Sex Encounter is a treat for pet owners. Then, our second emailer hates her best friend’s boyfriend, but given that it’s not her relationship, does she have the right to do anything about it? J&J end with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about social media etiquette, keeping gifts from an ex and sentimental details your first date might be keeping from you.
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May 17, 2023 |
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Is Lust Worth Risking A Friendship?
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J&J are back with a Sunday Special. This week, our email is about a friendship that spans nearly a decade, beginning at law school and still going strong between two busy lawyers in different towns. Our emailer is a queer woman whose interest in her friend has intensified recently, but is lust worth risking her friendship? Her friend is a straight man with a history of dating women that don’t look like her, so has he ever even considered the thought? Jared and Jordana help guide her through the next steps to breaking down the platonic barrier without throwing out her friendship.
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May 14, 2023 |
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Is Being Exclusive Different Than A Relationship?
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Jared and Jordana are discussing the stages of relationships this week, from starting out to starting families, and what that means for your dating life. Before jumping into advice, Jared’s date gets postponed for an indisputable reason, so he and Jordana discuss the best excuses to back out on short notice. Next, our first email is about the talk before “The Talk,” the stop in between casual dating and “DTR.” The Awkward Sexual Encounter will make you think twice about what you bring to sleep over for the first time. Then, our second emailer is ready to become a parent, but wonders if becoming a single mom will ward men off from wanting to date. J&J end with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about tracking down a ghost, keeping used condoms and using AI to write sweet messages.
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May 10, 2023 |
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Is He That Busy Or Am I A Benchwarmer?
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Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re kicking off with a chat about the subtle yet surreal reminders of being all grown up. Jordana is finding these more as she settles into suburban life, and Jared is prepping for a royal stint in Europe. Then, they share a listener email about being in limbo with a busy lawyer early on. Has he lost interest, or is he just busy? Jordana understands the direct approach in getting clarity, while Jared breaks down why that tactic was averted. They give advice on how to get out of this stalemate.
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May 07, 2023 |
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Getting Your Situationship To The Next Level
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This week, J&J are diving into the hurdles holding back your situationship from evolving into a relationship. Our first listener found a spark in a former high school classmate, but she’s fresh out of a long term relationship. Will time bring them together or fizzle out the chance of a flame? The Awkward Sex Encounter is a moment more wholesome than horrifying. Our next listener admits she may have shared too much with her friends, accidentally swaying them into disapproval of the guy she’s dating. Jared and Jordana end with a round of Red Flag or Dealbreaker about an ex climbing the family tree, greeting cards and being a little too direct in dating app DMs.
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May 03, 2023 |
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Is It Okay To Play Games In Some Dating Scenarios?
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In this Sunday Special, J&J hear from a male listener who’s grown confused and frustrated with being branded as a “good guy” from dates that have dumped him. He’s divorced, in his mid-thirties and ready to find love but wonders what about him is “too much of a good thing.” Should he change who he is, or hold back from his dates? Jared has had this problem in the past, and Jordana understands the struggle of turning down a good guy if the connection doesn’t feel great. Listen in as our hosts come together to find a common ground to help the good guy get a good ending.
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Apr 30, 2023 |
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Why Do I Keep Getting Textzoned?
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This week’s episode is full of common dating faux pas and how to steer clear, from the matches that only text but don’t really talk to guys unwittingly becoming the subject of an invasive TikTok trend. Jared and Jordana give great advice on easy mistakes to make and necessary boundaries to have with new matches. Plus, brace yourself–this week’s Awkward Sex Encounter is a spring break classic. J&J finish with a round of Faux Pas or Nah featuring diplomatic duties, fake teeth, and not-so-little white lies.
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Apr 26, 2023 |
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We Matched, We Connected, He Canceled
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Picture this: you match with someone cute on an app, have great conversations and agree to go on a date… but on the day of, they cancel. Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener decipher what went wrong before the first date that never was. Did he foresee a disconnect, or did she misinterpret a message? J&J break down the text exchange and talk navigating the road to a first date.
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Apr 23, 2023 |
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Does Your Parents’ Opinion Of Your S.O. Actually Matter?
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J&J break down Jordana’s recent move to – gasp – the suburbs! The first emailer is weighing whether the potential hurdles of different religious backgrounds is worth falling further in love, or if her current happiness isn’t worth the future risk. Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter will change the way you look at lube. Then, J&J reassure a listener who confessed their love but didn’t get the response they’d hoped for. The episode closes out with a round of Sweet or Corny covering dating firsts.
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Apr 19, 2023 |
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Behind The Scenes Of A Set Up By Jordana
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Jared and Jordana are joined by a surprise guest on this week’s Sunday Special. Julia, a Betches team member and friend (you may know her as Adam Pally's fake fan), gives the run down on a guy Jordana set her up with and where they stand now. Why would he reach out again just to change his mind after she made it clear she wanted a relationship? Where do his actions cross the line when it comes to set ups by a friend? J&J get extra personal with their advice.
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Apr 16, 2023 |
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Am I A Rebound Or Is He Ready To Move On?
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On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana cover dating advice we’ve all needed through the stages of starting out to getting serious. The first emailer has first date jitters so intense, the solution is borderline self-sabotage. The Awkward Sexual Encounter served up secondhand embarrassment when they broke the rules of a one-night-stand. Our next emailer is ready to take their relationship to the move-in level, but would ending a roommate-ship ruin a friendship? J & J close out with a few rounds of Faux Pas or Nah? about dating app moves, selfie-obsessed partners, and rebound red flags.
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Apr 12, 2023 |
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How Much Does Your Resume Matter On The Apps? Ft. Jesse Metcalfe
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener about how much your resume matters on the dating apps. Is judging someone by their job title or alma mater shallow or valid? Later, Jesse Metcalfe joins the pod to talk about his new movie On A Wing And A Prayer and break down his dating history. J, J, and J answer an email about a guy who led the emailer on for months, only to reveal his feelings once she was already in a relationship. Is this just an ego trip or does he actually want to make it work? Plus, Jesse shares his best advice for a first date.
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Apr 09, 2023 |
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Am I Insecure Or Is He Being Inappropriate?
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This week’s episode is the “mean with purpose” special, starting with a story about a recent unhinged DM Jared received. The first emailer asks if her insecurity is making her a bad girlfriend after her boyfriend told her he was going to help a friend’s friend make an “Only Fans-ish” website. If he’s not getting paid, what does he even get out of this favor? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an elaborate sorority house seduction. J&J finish the episode with a round of Corny or Sweet about pet names, moms, and snack preferences.
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Apr 05, 2023 |
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The Dating Mistakes Everyone Makes
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about whether or not bachelor and bachelorette parties are on their way out. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana their opinions on a Reddit thread asking men “What mistakes do single women who want a serious relationship make?” Are any of these mistakes valid? Or are these posters bitter guys who just got dumped? Plus, they talk about how men view sex through the lens of the recent “Sex Week” on The Bachelor.
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Apr 02, 2023 |
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Blindsiding Is A Spectrum Ft. Rebel Wilson
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a deep dive into Jared and Mike’s snacking habits. The first emailer asks how to get over her fear of being blindsided in a new relationship after her last one ended suddenly. Should she open up to the new guy about how she’s feeling? Later, J&J are joined by their favorite fan Rebel Wilson to talk about her new dating app Fluid and play a round of Faux Pas or Nah.
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Mar 29, 2023 |
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SOS: Can We Be Just Friends If We Made Out?
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J&J are back with another SOS episode, and this week they’re joined by Alysha to figure out whether or not she’s just friends with the guy she’s been going on dates with. After a few makeouts, he asked her to help set him up with a mutual friend but then invited her to go on vacation for his birthday. So what does he want out of this relationship? Does she even know what she wants? Plus, Alysha shares her pet peeve as a flight attendant.
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Mar 26, 2023 |
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The Betchelor Crossover: Love Is Blind Eps. 1-2: The Beginning
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No you didn't press play on the wrong podcast, Jared and Kay are covering Love Is Blind Season 4! Every single week on the Betchelor podcast, you will be hearing their thoughts on the pods and what comes after. For this special crossover episode, they covered episodes 1 and 2. They give their first impressions on all the pod people, and predict what is to come. You don't want to miss it. For more Love is Blind episodes every week, head over to the Betchelor podcast and follow @thebetchelor on Instagram and Twitter to stay up to date on all reality tv!
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Mar 24, 2023 |
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Am I More Invested In The Relationship Than My BF?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start by breaking down a recent Raya experience that started from Jared’s love of complaining. Is it time for him to delete the apps? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a spit take. Later, an emailer asks if she should move to be closer to her boyfriend or move on after the financial conditions of the move changed. Is him being unwilling to help with rent a sign she needs to end it? J&J finish the episode with a round of Corny Or Sweet about first date flowers, dating app openers, and forehead kisses.
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Mar 22, 2023 |
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Does Swiping Count As Cheating? Ft. Adam Pally
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J&J are back with another Sunday Spesh and this week they’re joined by comedian and actor Adam Pally. They start with a chat about his new movie Who Invited Charlie? and the story about how he met his wife. Then they dive into an email from a guy who claims he found the one but can’t stop swiping on the apps. Is there any justification for this behavior? Can he still redeem himself in this relationship? Plus, Adam shares nuggets of wisdom from 13 years of marriage.
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Mar 19, 2023 |
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Why Are Situationship Breakups So Painful?
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On this week’s episode, Jared starts with a story about being on his phone at the bar. The first emailer asks how she can slow down the pace of dating. How can she get out of the cycle of going from first date to “Willy Wonka grandparents” with the guys she’s dating? The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes back to haunt the emailer years later. Later, a listener asks why situationships breakups are so painful, even if the relationship is short-lived. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about lap-sitting, getting recognized from the apps, and using ChatGPT to hack dating.
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Mar 15, 2023 |
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Why You Should Have A Roster Ft. Violet Benson
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they’re joined by podcaster and meme queen Violet Benson. They start with a conversation about why Violet doesn’t sleep with anyone unless they’re in a relationship and how she frames that conversation to keep the ball in her court. Later, an emailer writes in to ask what to do after snooping on her boyfriend’s phone and finding suspicious messages with a woman on Instagram. Should she feel guilty about reading his DMs? Is he on the verge of ending the relationship anyway? Plus, Jared, Jordana, and Violet break down the best way to confront him about what she saw.
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Mar 12, 2023 |
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The Problem With #DatingTok
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J&J are coming in hot this week with a lot to unpack. First, they break down the recent Vanderpump Rules cheating scandal and what people’s reactions to it say about them. Then they dive into a recent New York Times article all about #DatingTok. How is the virality of these bad date videos affecting the power balance in dating? And how is what Jared and Jordana do on the podcast any different? The Awkward Sexual Encounter takes place at a grandmother’s house. Later, an emailer asks how she can avoid losing herself when she moves in with her long-distance boyfriend. J&J finish the episode with a new game called Sweet Or Corny, presented by Angie’s BOOMCHICKAPOP.
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Mar 08, 2023 |
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SOS: How To Make First Dates Feel Less Like Interviews
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they get their first SOS call from a male listener. Danny joins the pod to ask how he can make first dates feel more flirty and less like an interview. Is a kiss necessary to bring the romantic vibes? How much planning is too much planning? Plus, Jared and Jordana give him some questions to use on his next date.
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Mar 05, 2023 |
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Breadcrumbing, Cookie-Jarring, & Cobwebbing: Dating In 2023
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker scenario from Jared’s own dating life. Then, they get into a recent New York Times article about modern dating terms. J&J dive into the definitions and admit which ones they’ve done themselves. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost and found condom. Later, a listener writes in asking if she was love bombed after the guy who was actively pursuing her changed his mind once she was interested. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about showing up to a date sweaty, becoming exclusive, and deleting the dating apps.
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Mar 01, 2023 |
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Is It “Limerence” Or True Love? (Oversharing Sneak Peak)
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Does love at first sight really exist? And what’s the difference between love and limerence? On this excerpt of the latest Oversharing podcast, Jordana and her sister Dr. Naomi Bernstein have a conversation about the concept of limerence and why romantic obsession doesn’t always lead to lasting love.
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Feb 28, 2023 |
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So Jared, Why Do Men Say Things They Don’t Mean?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and Jared is in the hot seat this week answering an email about why men say things they don’t mean. But first, they analyze the “bangers” of Les Mis through the lens of modern dating. Then, they dive into the email from a listener about a guy who said all the right things only to ghost a few weeks later. What went wrong? And why do men allude to future plans they don’t intend to keep? Plus, they give advice on what you should say to a “we should” guy.
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Feb 26, 2023 |
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Lightning Round: Do Men Hate Situationships As Much As Women?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round Episode, and this week they start by discussing the highs and lows of Jared’s 38th year and revisiting the infamous clip that made his birthday The Worst Day Of The Year. Then they jump right into your questions submitted via our Instagram story with topics ranging from how men feel about situationships to talking about STIs before a hookup to trying to get romantic with a coworker. Plus, they talk about the difference between “the chase” and playing games.
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Feb 22, 2023 |
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SOS: Husband Or F*ck Off
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J&J are back with another SOS call from a U Up? listener on this week’s Sunday Special. Nicole joins Jared and Jordana to decide whether she should prioritize her new relationship or her career. They talk through the pros of taking the dream job and moving away vs staying in her current job and with her boyfriend of 6 months. Will she end up resenting him if she doesn’t take this opportunity? Should he know for sure if he wants to marry her by now? Plus, Jared proposes a few romcom endings.
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Feb 19, 2023 |
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How Much Can You Embellish On Your Dating App Profile?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s Dad’s birthday party plans and how everyone goes a little crazy this time of year. The first emailer writes in about a guy who put a fake story on his dating app profile. He doubled down on the lie during their date but later called to admit that he stole the story from a friend. Should she go out with him again? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a wild night in Vegas. Later, a listener asks how to deal with her and her boyfriend’s different views on drinking. Her boyfriend and his family are big drinkers but heavy drinking makes her anxious and emotional. Is this lifestyle difference a deal breaker? J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about expensive drinks, fake teeth, and single pillow households.
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Feb 15, 2023 |
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Valentine's Day Dates: The Archive Dive
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As a special gift this Valentine's Day, J&J are diving into the archives and revisiting our Valentine's Day episodes past. In these throwback clips, Jared and Jordana talk through their Valentine's Day plans from 2019, 2020, and 2021 and give advice on navigating Valentine's Day at different stages of a relationship. Plus, they break down how to spice things up in the bedroom on Vday without feeling awkward.
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Feb 14, 2023 |
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Nothing Happens When You Least Expect It Ft. Jay Shetty
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Jay Shetty to talk about his new book “8 Rules Of Love” and his journey from monk to best-selling author and podcaster. Then, they answer an email from a listener wondering which side of dating TikTok to listen to. Should she treat dating like a job to find a relationship or will it happen when she least expects it? Plus, J,J, and Jay talk about how absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
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Feb 12, 2023 |
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Was Your DTR Talk Too Vague?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a chat about Valentine’s Day and how weird it is at different stages of a relationship. The first email comes from a listener in situationship limbo. How can you get to the next step of a relationship if neither of you have time to really hang out? When are relationships supposed to go from “me” to “we”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise visitor. Later, a listener asks if it’s normal to feel embarrassed about a past rejection. Does she need to tell her new boyfriend how upset she was about her last breakup? J&J finish the episode with a game called Who Comes First? presented by Bumble.
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Feb 08, 2023 |
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Do You Need To Be Single To Work On Yourself?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about not drinking on dates. The emailer writes in about a breakup with a younger guy. Things were progressing well until a few months in when he revealed he was scared to get into a serious relationship and needed time alone to work on himself. Is this a legit excuse? Jared and Jordana break down what she should’ve done differently and why you should negotiate like Judge Judy.
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Feb 05, 2023 |
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What Counts As Cheating?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Maddy (AKA the person reading all your emails) to talk about what 25 year olds do on their birthdays, and Jared recaps his brother’s engagement. The first emailer asks if it takes longer to “click” with someone when you’re in your 30s. Is it actually harder to settle as you get older? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was a hookah bar hookup. Later, a listener asks if she’s a cheater after a steamy dance floor moment on vacation. Does she need to tell her boyfriend about it? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mid-date haircuts and pizza syllabi.
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Feb 01, 2023 |
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SOS: Blindsided By A Breakup
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by a real listener to break down her break up LIVE for our first U Up? SOS episode. Jess was blindsided by a breakup after a solid start to her new relationship, and then 2 days later, he tried to take the breakup back. Was the excuse he gave the real reason for the breakup? Jared explains the spiral he probably went through, and they advise her on what to do if he reaches out again.
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Jan 29, 2023 |
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Is Ambition A Valid Reason For A Breakup?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how girls' trips evolve as you grow up and a TikTok poking fun at men who say they want someone who “doesn’t take life too seriously” on the dating apps. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is a deadbeat or if she’s being too hard on him. Are lifestyle differences a deal breaker? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a repeat offense. Later, a listener asks if she has to justify her texting style to guys who interpret her slow responses as lack of interest. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about expensive tabs, dog behavior, and fart etiquette.
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Jan 25, 2023 |
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Why Can't I Commit To A Fifth Date? (Jared's Oversharing Therapy Session)
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Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/jared
In an Oversharing first, Jordana invites her Jared on for a dating therapy session with her sister, Dr. Naomi. They walk through Jared’s dating challenges, including why it’s so hard to get past the first few dates, and where his mind goes to when it’s time to end things. Plus, they talk about his dating habits and history, how his role as a podcast host affects his decision-making, and whether or not people are as upset about ending things after 3 dates as they are after 3 months.
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Jan 24, 2023 |
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The Problem With Being Comfy
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We love a Sunday Special, and this week, Jared is in his Samantha Jones era. This week’s email comes from a guy getting mixed signals from a barista. She keeps saying they should hang out, but when he tries to make plans, she flakes. Why even bring it up in the first place? Plus, J&J talk about the problem with being a people pleaser in dating.
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Jan 22, 2023 |
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How To Revive A Dating App Match
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J&J are back in the studio for this week’s new episode, and they’re starting with a conversation about Jared’s recent spa experience and Jordana’s upcoming girls trip. The first emailer asks how she can revive some of her old dating app matches since her chat archives are full of guys with potential. Is it desperate to message someone on the apps months after the conversation ended? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a series of unfortunate events in Jared’s least favorite place. Later, an emailer asks how to get her husband to improve his hygiene. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about familiar faces, coupons, and “breast friends.”
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Jan 18, 2023 |
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Don’t Fall For A Selfish Apology
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared gives his weekly dispatch from Boca. Then, J&J read an email from a Pilates instructor who went on a few great dates with a client before getting a text saying he wasn’t in the right mindset to date. She accepted the break up, so why did he reach out again a few weeks later? How much does his relationship history factor into this behavior? Plus, Jordana explains the most annoying parts of what he’s doing.
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Jan 15, 2023 |
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How Much Does Sexual Chemistry Matter?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jared’s big week on the dating apps before NYE, including a date he went on in Boca. The first emailer asks if she should let her guy best friend out of the friend zone. They’ve been going on dates and expressed romantic interest, but she just can’t imagine having sex with him. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprising discovery. Later, a male listener who keeps getting the “you’re so great, but I’m not feeling a romantic connection” text after first dates writes in to ask what he’s doing wrong. Is his problem that he’s actually being *too* romantic? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about shower frequency, middle names, and date plans (or lack thereof).
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Jan 11, 2023 |
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Playing It Cool Is Overrated
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about Jared’s struggle to get to the fifth date. The emailer asks how to set boundaries with a friend she tried to date but ultimately decided wasn’t the match. She was really upset by their breakup, but she’s trying to play it cool which ended in them drunkenly making out (shocker). How can she set a boundary with this guy without making it weird for their friend group? Plus, J&J explain the problem with being the “cool girl.”
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Jan 08, 2023 |
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How To Be More Charming
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On this week’s episode, J&J start with a detailed discussion about ice luges and Jordana’s most recent fan interactions. The first emailer writes in asking if “cute if you’re into it, creepy if you aren’t” is valid in all situations after she saw this explanation all over the comments section of a woman’s TikTok about a bad date. Is it really men thinking about it this way or just men on the internet? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very oblivious emailer. Later, an emailer asks how to handle taking out her Invisalign liners on first date. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about the Batmobile, subtle insults, and bad cooking.
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Jan 04, 2023 |
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You’re Not Annoying, He’s Just An Asshole
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J&J are back with the first episode of 2023, so they start by reflecting on 2022 and making resolutions for 2023. Then, they dive into the Deal Reveal about a miscommunication early in a relationship. The emailer explains that the guy she’s been seeing stopped communicating with her after she made a joke about having another date. When she calls him out on it, he comes back with a lot of excuses, including misunderstanding her joke. How much do his excuses matter? Was her joke really the problem here? Plus, Jared and Jordana critique her original call out text.
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Jan 01, 2023 |
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Make Your Dating Life About You
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Australia and a conversation about the magic of December in NYC. Then, they talk about why it’s so hard to keep dating momentum going during the holidays. The first email asks how to get to a first date when you’re not on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a broken table and an attempted robbery. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about happy places, cousins, and ferrets.
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Dec 28, 2022 |
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What Does Emotional Availability Actually Look Like?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with a full rundown of Jared’s sushi order (just what you wanted for Christmas, we know). This week’s emailer asks how soon is too soon to talk about mental health in dating after a guy asked to reschedule their second date due to an episode of depression. Is she wrong to be turned off? Plus, Jared and Jordana talk about what real emotional availability and vulnerability looks like.
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Dec 25, 2022 |
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Does Splitting The Check On The First Date Mean He’s Not Into It?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Santacon in NYC and a follow up from the Awkward Sexual Encounter from our 12/7 episode. The first emailer asks if men are getting cheaper after more of her recent first dates accepted her offer to split it. Are these guys into equality or just not that into her? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sisters with a lot in common. Later, a listener asks J&J’s opinion on a Curb Your Enthusiasm theory about non-single people “safely” flirting with other non-single people when their significant others aren’t around. Is this type of interaction as harmless as it seems? They finish the episode with a round of holiday-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker about dog holiday cards, ugly Christmas sweaters, and NYE kisses.
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Dec 21, 2022 |
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To Play Games Or Not To Play Games
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with special instructions for shouting them out in public and a story about how Jordana doesn’t “respect sleep.” This week’s email is from a woman asking if her situationship ended because she doesn’t play games in dating. Did time apart over Thanksgiving get in the way or was the breakup text coming either way? Plus, Jared breaks down how men see the “men are like cabs” analogy from Sex and the City.
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Dec 18, 2022 |
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How To Ask For More Romance In A Relationship
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a boutique coffee shop cautionary tale. The first emailer asks how to make her new relationship more romantic now that they’ve gone from just friends to dating. Is this the right relationship for her to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very amateur diagnosis. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they find appealing about the “marriage to suburbs pipeline.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nicknames, sexting, and dad-speak.
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Dec 14, 2022 |
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Was He Using Me Or Did He Just Change His Mind?
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J&J are back with another bite-sized Sunday Spesh, and after a brief sidebar about TJ Maxx’s slogan, they’re jumping right into the episode. The emailer writes in about a situation going back 5 years that started with a first date that turned into a platonic relationship until last year when they both expressed romantic feelings. Once she got invested in the idea of them being together, he called it off, blaming the 4 hours distance between them. Is that the real reason he backed off? Plus, they ask the listener to think about whether or not she actually wants to date this guy.
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Dec 11, 2022 |
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Are You Too Picky Or Not Picky Enough?
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On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jared and Jordana start with a Thanksgiving recap and Jordana’s belated anniversary gift to Jared. The first emailer asks why a woman who didn’t want to go on a date with him is now responding to his stories on Instagram. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing tampon. Later, a listener asks if she’s setting her expectations too high when making her list of traits she wants in a partner (inspired by Jordana’s list). How specific do you need to be on your list? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about kids' toys, sharing beers, and roommate situations.
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Dec 07, 2022 |
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How Gender Norms Are Hurting Your Sex Life Ft. Emily Nagoski
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Emily Nagoski, sex researcher, educator, and author of Come As You Are. They start with a discussion about spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and Emily explains why she believes we need to center pleasure in your sex life instead of desire. Then, they answer an email from a listener who says she can’t have an orgasm and feels like she can’t ask for things in the bedroom because she won’t come anyway. Emily breaks down all the stories the emailer is telling herself and advises her on how to have a conversation with her boyfriend about it. Plus, they talk about how the cultural scripts we’re given based on gender are getting in the way of our sex lives.
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Dec 04, 2022 |
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Do I Need To Live In A City To Date?
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This week’s episode is coming to you virtually from Jordana’s apartment and Jared’s parent’s pool house. Jared gives a breakdown of his experience being the main character of his family’s Thanksgiving. Then, J&J dive into Bumble’s dating trend report for 2023. They compare Bumble’s statistics to the results from our Instagram polls and talk about why this whole survey feels a little bit like propaganda to keep people on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a marina makeout gone wrong. Later, an emailer asks how she’s supposed to date while living in the suburbs. Should she lie about her location on the app to get more matches? Is she better off trying to meet people IRL? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mixing up dates, changing the subject, and bathroom talk in a relationship.
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Nov 30, 2022 |
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How To Deal With Weird Texts From An Ex
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Thanksgiving is over, and the Board Lord and the Tree Betch are back. This week they’re helping a listener interpret some strange messages from her ex talking about “their song” and then his engagement photos with his new fiancé. J&J break down why he might be sending her these things and tell her what she should say to cut off this weird behavior.
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Nov 27, 2022 |
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Sliding Vs. Deciding
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On this week’s episode, J&J start with a coaching session for Jordana’s gift-receiving reactions and a pep talk for listeners going out on Thanksgiving Eve. The first emailer asks how important a sense of humor is to a relationship. The guy she’s seeing checks a lot of boxes, but is it doomed if she cringes at his jokes? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another almost fairytale in the streets of Rome. Later, a listener asks if you have to live together before getting married. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about biking manners, bad breath, and art gallery etiquette.
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Nov 23, 2022 |
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Do You Have To Like Your S.O.’s Friends?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start about how Jared is feeling about dating now that cuffing season is fully underway. This week’s emailer asks how to move forward after one of her boyfriend’s friends called her a 3/10. Should her boyfriend “dump” him as a friend? Do guys even have friend breakups? Jared and Jordana unpack why he would say that and how to handle him going forward. Plus, Jared shares a story where he offended a friend with a joke about sixes.
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Nov 20, 2022 |
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The Anniversary Episode
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It’s U Up?’s fifth anniversary, and J&J are celebrating with a special episode reflecting on 5 years of the podcast and sharing U Up-Dates from previous emailers. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise quick change. Later, an emailer asks J&J when a couple should celebrate their anniversary. Is it the first date or when you DTR? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about names, DM slides, and nerdy decor.
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Nov 16, 2022 |
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Can Family Dynamics Be A Deal Breaker?
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We love a Sunday Special, and this week J&J are answering an email from a listener who’s struggling to bond and set boundaries with her boyfriend’s family. After an awkward dinner with his family where they left her with more than half of the bill, she’s wondering when she can have a conversation with her boyfriend about her inability to relate to them. How much can she expect her boyfriend to defend her? Plus, Jared talks about how he handled similar issues in his own relationships.
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Nov 13, 2022 |
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Why Won’t My Friends Set Me Up? Ft. Fortune Feimster
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On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start with a recap of their Halloween weekends and a warning to single people with the new iPhone. The first emailer asks how to handle a breakup with her boyfriend of 5 years when neither of them can afford to move out. J&J dish out the hard truths of the situation and her responsibilities as the dumper. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a study abroad adventure. Later, a listener asks why his friends won’t set him up. As the resident set up expert, Jordana gives some potential reasons they’re not telling him, and Jared breaks down how his attitude toward dating might be playing a role. J&J are joined by Fortune Feimster to finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about exes on Instagram, Hinge profiles, and the wrong times to bring up your mom.
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Nov 09, 2022 |
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Do You Have To Reply To A Breakup Text?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a conversation about Jared’s run-ins with Al Roker and the “seven year itch.” The emailer asks if you have to reply to a breakup text after she gets one from a guy she was dating exclusively for four months. Jared and Jordana break down each line of the breakup text, and Jared shares some relevant experiences from his dating life. Plus, they tell the audience exactly what *not* to say in a breakup text.
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Nov 06, 2022 |
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Why Doesn’t He Ask Me Any Questions?
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Jared and Jordana are back with the first episode of November. They start with a discussion about Jared and Jordana’s favorite holidays and break down what it means when people say they’re “so single.” The first emailer asks if a guy not asking any questions about her is a reason to end the relationship. J&J rephrase her email to help her see this situation clearly. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves some improper condom disposal. Later, a listener asks why old situationships pop back up once you get into a relationship. What are they hoping to get out of this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mice, cash gifts, and cheating friends.
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Nov 02, 2022 |
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Why Do Men Make Promises They Can’t Keep? Ft. Delaney Rowe
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J&J are are joined by special guest Delaney Rowe for a spooky Halloween Special. They start with some horror stories about UTIs, DM slides, and the meanest comments they’ve gotten online. Then they dive into Delaney’s dating life and how her career has impacted it. In the spirit of spooky season, they answer an email asking whether or not it’s ghosting if both people stop texting. Is “ghosting” overused in general now? Plus, Delaney asks Jared why men make promises they don’t intend to keep.
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Oct 30, 2022 |
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Is “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Accurate?
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On this week’s episode, J&J start by launching Jared’s presidential campaign to fix Halloween scheduling and giving some Halloween dating tips. The first emailer asks if “He’s Just Not That Into You” holds up in 2022. If the guy she hung out with once wanted to see her again, wouldn’t he just make a plan? What do people actually mean when they say “if he wanted to he would”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a cautionary tale for sports bar hookups. Later, a listener asks how to recover from the first fight with her boyfriend. They made up, but she’s still feeling self-conscious in the relationship. Is this just the end of the honeymoon phase? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about “crepe-fishing,” flossing, and concert etiquette.
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Oct 26, 2022 |
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How To Talk About Money With Your S.O. Ft. Ramit Sethi
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Ramit Sethi, author of “I Will Teach You To Be Rich.” They start with a conversation about Ramit’s work with couples to change their mindsets on money, and he gives an exercise for couples to open up the conversation about their finances. Later, they answer an email from a listener wrestling with an income difference in her relationship. She’s moving in with her boyfriend who makes $300k more than her, and she can already feel the resentment building. How should she handle his snarky comments? Plus, they talk about how important non-monetary contributions are to relationships.
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Oct 23, 2022 |
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Am I Giving Up If I’m Not On The Apps?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jordana’s weekend with her entire family and Jared’s bloody mary tour of Milwaukee. The first emailer asks if she’s gotten too comfortable being single after a friend told her she feels like she’s giving up. Does she need to put herself out there more or should she continue focusing on herself? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a “king size” man and a CPAP machine. Later, J&J listen to a voicemail asking how to approach dating apps when you definitely don’t want kids. Should she avoid guys whose profiles say they do want kids? Is she too worried about wasting her time? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nosey friends, football obsessed boyfriends, and couples costumes.
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Oct 19, 2022 |
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Stop Romanticizing Your Ex
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they're talking about being friends with exes. Jared and Jordana share their own experiences trying to be friends with exes and how that idea changes as you get older. Then, they dive into the email detailing a listener’s relationship with her ex from college. They broke up but stayed in touch through their friend group, and they eventually ended up in the same city again. When she told him she was thinking about getting back together, he said he wanted to stay friends, but now that she’s dating someone else, he tried to make a move. Why is she so committed to being friends with this guy anyway? Plus, J&J discuss the hard truth behind every breakup and the problem with romanticizing your exes.
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Oct 16, 2022 |
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Do Guys Care Less Once It’s Official?
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Jared and Jordana are back in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Hawaii and a look into her family dynamic with 9 siblings. Jared updates Jordana on his dating goals from his latest U Up? With Benefits episode. The first emailer asks if guys care less once the relationship becomes official after noticing her new boyfriend has been putting in a lot less effort. Should she “match his energy” or speak up about her annoyance? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a Lizzie McGuire style escapade. Later, J&J read an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over exes who seemed to disappear after the breakup. She’s in a happy relationship, so why can’t she stop trying to keep tabs on them? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about missing teeth, bluelight glasses, and dating app openers.
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Oct 12, 2022 |
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Should I Reach Out Again If The Timing Wasn’t Right?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re tackling the age-old “right person, wrong time” question. The emailer sends in screenshots of the very nice breakup text she received after two great dates. He didn’t want to keep dating because he was moving but told her to let him know if she was ever in his new city. Fast forward a year, and she’s moving there for work, so should she ask him to grab a beer? J&J break down all the possibilities she should think about before she reaches out.
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Oct 09, 2022 |
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Lightning Round Part 2: Embracing Disappointment, The World’s Saddest Pep Talk, and Romantic Coffee Dates
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This week’s episode starts with a big shame on Jordana for straying from Delta Airlines for her trip to Hawaii and the Bach By NoonTM plan for Park City. Then they dive right into the second half of your Lightning Round questions about everything from moving in with your long distance S.O. to making a coffee date actually feel like a date. Plus, Jared gives the world’s saddest pep talk. Detours include planning where Jared would move for a date and Jewish mom erotica.
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Oct 05, 2022 |
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Will Losing Weight Fix My Relationship?
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J&J are back with our first Sunday Special of October, and they start with a chat about Jared’s trick or treating observations from last year and Jordana’s days as a babysitter in the city. Then, they dive into the email from a listener whose husband wants her to lose weight. They’ve both been on their own health journeys, but she’s healed her relationship with her body and he’s still struggling. After he revealed he prefers a thinner body type than hers, she asks if she should try to lose the weight for him. Would that solve any of their issues in the long run? Plus, they talk about the best way to address it without putting him on the defense.
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Oct 02, 2022 |
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Lightning Round Part 1: Adam Levine, Standing Out On Dating Apps, & Living With A Disgusting
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are answering your lightning round questions submitted via Instagram, but first they’re breaking down Jared’s adventures in Buffalo and the recent cheating accusations against Adam Levine. Then, they get into your questions ranging from how to stand out on dating apps to how to meet people IRL as an introvert. Plus, they discuss the old line that “the best relationships are when the man loves the woman more than she loves him” and give advice for disgustings cohabitating with non-disgustings.
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Sep 28, 2022 |
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What Should You Expect When Visiting A Long Distance Fling?
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Jared and Jordana are getting right into it on the Sunday Special, and this week’s email is about a “somewhat-unsuccessful” trip to visit a long-distance situationship. They go into what you should expect when you’re taking a chance and getting on a plane to meet up with someone. The first night of her visit went great, but the next night felt off and he made excuses to not see her again before she left. She says she got the ick after he needed too much reassurance that she liked him, but J&J aren’t sure that’s the full story. They break down the games he’s playing and why this trip was a little weird from the start.
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Sep 25, 2022 |
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How Much Time Do You Need Between Relationships?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about interpreting comments from strangers on the internet and getting set up by Jared’s mom. The first emailer writes in to ask if she’s jumping into a commitment too quickly after a long term relationship ended. Should she stick with her goal of staying single for at least a year even if she really likes the guy she’s seeing? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves way too much tongue. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s smoking habit. She wasn’t bothered by him smoking weed before they lived together, but now she’s majorly turned off. How much can she expect him to change his lifestyle? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about backhanded compliments, early “I love you”s, and plumbing problems.
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Sep 21, 2022 |
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Are You Dating Like You’re In A Relationship?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and they start with a chat about how to enjoy dating on football Sundays. This week’s email comes from a male listener who keeps finding himself in the same dating situation. After about two months of dating someone, he gets a text saying he’s a really nice guy, but they don’t see it going anywhere romantically. Jordana gives the honest version of these texts that he’s not getting. Is there anything he should do differently or is this just a normal part of dating? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss the ways men and women break up differently.
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Sep 18, 2022 |
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How To Avoid Dating App Burnout
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Jared and Jordana are back in the studio on Jordana’s birthday to record the first episode for our new YouTube channel. They start with a discussion about happy birthday etiquette and. Then, J&J discuss a New York Times article all about dating app burnout and how to avoid it. Have dating apps done more damage than good over the last ten years? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very large man in a very small bed. Next, they answer an email from a listener asking if how her boyfriend talks about his exes is a red flag. Is it possible that all of them really are “crazy” or does he just not want to talk about it? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about checking yourself out in the mirror, liking friends on dating apps, and keeping the Christmas tree up year round.
Link to the article: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/31/well/mind/burnout-online-dating-apps.html?smid=url-share
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Sep 14, 2022 |
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How Secure People Respond To Rejection
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a refresher on the “reveal” and what being “exclusive but not in a relationship'' actually means. The emailer writes in about how she regrets responding poorly to a reveal from a guy she was dating. She tried to make up for it, but he ended the relationship a few weeks later. Did she ruin it with her original response to his reveal? Or is she just more attracted to him now that he’s pulled away? Plus, they talk about how people with secure attachment styles respond to rejection.
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Sep 11, 2022 |
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How To Take The Pressure Off Of Your Dating Life
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On this week’s episode, J&J start with a chat about the start of fall (aka hookup season), Jordana’s birthday plans, and her gift to all of you. The first emailer asks if she should go out with a guy who previously canceled their first date because he decided to be exclusive with someone else. Should she still go out with him if she feels like his second choice? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a one night stand gone wrong. Later, a U Up? Hotline caller asks how to handle birthday gifts in a new relationship. Does she have to buy him the gift he’s been dropping hints about? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nicknames, sleep routines, and poop stories.
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Sep 07, 2022 |
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Are Work Crushes Hurting My Love Life?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks why she keeps falling for her long distance coworkers. She explains that she quickly hit it off with a coworker she only knew via Zoom, but he ended things after she visited him in his city to meet IRL. Now, she feels herself falling into the same pattern with a different coworker. Should she go for it? Is there a deeper reason she’s in this situation all over again? Jared and Jordana break down where she’s being too hard on herself and what she should do differently this time.
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Sep 04, 2022 |
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“The Rise Of Lonely, Single Men”?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Charleston and Jared’s side hustle as a bachelorette party planner. Then, they talk about an article that exactly 3 people sent to Jordana called “The Rise of Lonely, Single Men.” The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a barnyard bang. Later, a listener asks if her f*ck buddy of 5 years could possibly turn into a real relationship. Why does she suddenly want something more with this person? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about screenshotting selfies, holding hands with your mom, and surprise condoms.
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Aug 31, 2022 |
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Can You Trust A Drunk Text?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out by planning Jordana’s trip to Charleston. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana how much she should believe drunk texts from a guy saying how much he likes her. Are drunk texts sober thoughts? Does it matter that he’s followed new girls on Instagram since they met? They finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle to the tune of the Full House theme song.
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Aug 28, 2022 |
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Should I Join A “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook Group?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about a recent date Jared went on where he might be the red flag. The first emailer asks J&J’s opinions on “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook pages popping up in many cities. Are these groups empowering for women or a slippery slope? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is less than eye-deal. Later, a listener writes in about her fiancé’s underwhelming proposal. How can she ask him to make up for it without seeming like she’s not excited to marry him? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cockroaches, bad manners, and going barefoot.
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Aug 24, 2022 |
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How Much Vetting Is Too Much Before A First Date?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jordana’s dorm mistakes and the vulnerability of being a little clueless. The emailer sends in screenshots of a text exchange where a guy vetted her by asking about deal breakers before the first date. If someone gives an extensive list of deal breakers before a first date, is it even worth it to go? J&J discuss what you actually need to know about someone and how much texting is too much before a first date.
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Aug 21, 2022 |
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Would You Want To Be On A Singles List?
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On this week’s episode, Jared is back from his French adventure and ready to give Jordana the full recap of the trip and responses to his social media coverage. The first emailer asks J&J’s opinions on a “Singles List” she encountered at a recent wedding. Is it a fun way to meet people or is it a little presumptuous of the bride and groom? The listener forgets her underwear in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. The next email asks how to deal with snoring in a relationship. Are the listener and her boyfriend doomed to sleep in separate bedrooms? Would that even be so bad? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about scary movies, duvet covers, and handshakes.
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Aug 17, 2022 |
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Do You Actually Want To Know Why They Ended It?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they’ve got the screenshots from a listener who’s confused by the lack of communication from a guy she’s dating. He told their mutual friends that he’s into it, so why won’t he initiate any texts even after she brought it up? Is she confused about whether or not he likes her or does she just not like him? J&J translate the texts to what the emailer and this guy would say if they were both being completely honest. Plus, they talk about how there’s two sides to every date and why “I don’t know why” is the most annoying excuse.
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Aug 14, 2022 |
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Am I Trusting My Gut Or Being Judgemental? Ft. Zoey Deutch
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how every family has a “lazy one” and why they need a travel agent. The first emailer asks how to trust your gut on whether or not you like someone. She lists several reasons she doesn’t think they’re a match, but is she being too judgmental? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual accessory. Later, a listener asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend never had a “hoe phase.” Do men even think about dating phases like that or is he trying to warm her up for a breakup? J&J advise her on how to address it with him which leads to a conversation about “relationship talk” and emotional maturity. Finally, Jordana is joined by Zoey Deutch to chat about her new movie “Not Okay” and play around of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying on your profile, seeing ghosts, and ordering off the kids’ menu.
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Aug 10, 2022 |
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Stop Worrying About The Friend Group
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J&J are fresh off the flight from the U Up? Live show in Chicago and ready to solve dating with another Sunday Special. The listener writes in about a situationship with (debatably) 22 years of history. She explains that they didn’t want to date long distance, but now that they’re finally going to be living in the same city, she’s not sure what to expect. Should she be worried that things will move too quickly since they’ve known each other for so long? Plus, J&J talk about how they might not know each other as well as they think.
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Aug 08, 2022 |
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What’s The Right Texting Ratio?
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a French lesson for Jared and a discussion about “going out woman” vs. “going home woman.” The first emailer asks how often she should be initiating text conversations with guys she’s dating. Is 60% of the time too much or is she just overthinking all of this? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost sacrilegious. Later, a hotline caller asks how to non-awkwardly break out the lube during sex with a new partner. Do guys care about this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about condom disposal, posing nude, and profile photo faux pas.
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Aug 03, 2022 |
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Can Height Be A Deal Breaker? Ft. Patti Stanger
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Patti Stanger (AKA the Millionaire Matchmaker). They start out with a conversation about what has changed about dating over the course of Patti’s career and being “dickmatized.” Later, they answer an email from a listener who’s having a hard time being attracted to her boyfriend because of his height. Should she try to overcome her own insecurity of feeling “huge” next to him? Or is feeling this way a deal breaker? Jared, Jordana, and Patti all share wisdom from their mothers and reveal their own superficial deal breakers. Plus, Patti takes a turn solving dating for Jared.
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Jul 31, 2022 |
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Can I Ask My BF To Clean Out His Following List?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Jared’s TedTalk (which we *think* is available now) and how going on vacation can turn you into a monster. The first emailer writes in to ask how to deal with her fiancé continuing to follow women from before their relationship. She says she trusts him, so is her “ick” valid? How much can she negotiate his following count? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate bathroom break. Later, a listener emails in about her pattern of getting cold feet in long term relationships. Is she wasting their time or is this a normal part of dating? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about white lies, well done steak, and gifts from exes.
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Jul 27, 2022 |
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Do Men Avoid Hookups To Avoid Blame?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s been playing DM tag with the same guy for 5 years. Now they’re finally living in the same place, but they’ve only managed to get together twice, both with no kiss. Did they miss their dating window? Or is he just more interested in making friends in his new city? Plus, they discuss the person you go on one date a year with because you don’t trust your former self. J&J finish the episode with a new rap jingle.
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Jul 24, 2022 |
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It’s Not You, It’s Your Explore Page
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a reveal of the destination for Jared’s upcoming solo vacay. The first emailer asks about the difference between cute and hot. Is she wrong for being annoyed that she gets called cute on the dating apps as a 34-year-old woman? Jared explains the difference between various physical compliments from a guy’s perspective. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing press-on nail. Later, a listener asks how to stop obsessing over an engagement ring when she knows she won’t be getting engaged for at least a year. J&J explain how social media plays a role here. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about promotional pens, sleeping habits, and dating app photos.
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Jul 20, 2022 |
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Are Men Really Intimidated By Me?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a midsummer pep talk for all the singles. This week’s emailer writes in about a trend of guys claiming they were intimidated by her on the first date. Is she coming off too confident for these guys' egos? Or does it have something to do with her sexuality? Plus, they discuss how men actually behave when they’re intimidated. J&J finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle all the way from Hawaii.
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Jul 17, 2022 |
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What Do Men Actually Mean When They Say They’re Not Ready?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of their 4th of July weekends, including Jared’s thoughts on being the single guy of his friend group and his mom’s reaction to an upcoming solo trip. Then, Jared reads some of his recent Hinge interactions, and they discuss the spectrum of cheesy to jaded daters in New York. The first emailer asks when she should tell guys she’s dating about a random friend makeout after finding out that her friend tells women about it on the third date. Was the kiss more meaningful than either of them are letting on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an accidental AirPlay. Later, a listener asks if it’s possible to be too in control in her dating life. Looking back on her last relationship, she realized that she was the one initiating all of their next steps. Did she miss a red flag that he wasn’t bringing up these conversations? What do men actually mean when they say they’re not ready for a relationship? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about close friends lists, group chats, and lookalikes.
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Jul 13, 2022 |
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How Is He Not Thinking About The Future?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about couples' trips at different stages of a relationship. This week’s emailer writes in for help deciding if she should move forward in her relationship even if her boyfriend isn’t as passionate as she would like. Is she just seeking the drama she had with her exes? How can she get an answer out of him about their future plans? Plus, J&J listen to a listener-submitted jingle to finish the episode.
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Jul 10, 2022 |
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Does The “Crazy/Hot Scale” Still Hold Up?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the studio talking about the art of eye foreplay and meeting new people when you go out alone. The first emailer asks about the infamous Hot/Crazy scale created by Barney on “How I Met Your Mother.” Are men really attracted to “crazy” women? And does the graph work if the genders are flipped? The Awkward Sexual Encounter includes a surprise visit from a landlord. The next email is from a listener wondering if she’s the assh*le for being turned off by guys who go to therapy. Does being in therapy mean they’re not ready to date? Are they bringing it up to be vulnerable or because they saw a TikTok saying that women want to date guys who go to therapy? Later, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about messy cars, dating profile updates, and gift shopping.
Link to the How I Met Your Mother video from today's email: HIMYM Crazy/Hot Scale
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Jul 06, 2022 |
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“Better Than Nothing” Relationships Are Actually Worse Than Nothing
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special just in time to solve all your 4th of July dating worries, and this week they start out with a chat about single vs relationship holidays. The emailer writes in about a guy she’s been seeing casually for a few months. When she tried to address their slow momentum and mixed signals, he explained that he saw her more as a friend and he’d like to keep it that way. Should you “stay friends” with someone you only know in a romantic context? J&J give her some tough love and translate exactly what he means by “I like you as a friend.” Plus, they talk about how to approach dating when you’re feeling extra lonely and listen to a listener’s jingle.
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Jul 03, 2022 |
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Is It Inflation Or Is He Just Not That Into Me?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of our Boston show and a discussion about what counts as a “failure” in dating. Jared reads some texts and Jordana does a Deal Reveal to decide if he’s being too judgmental over TSA preferences. The first emailer asks what a low-cost first date means. Is he not into you if he just asks you out for coffee or a walk? Or is inflation just hitting everyone hard right now? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another tale of missing panties. Later, an emailer asks how to get over the ick in a relationship. How can she kindly get her girlfriend to stop using baby talk? Is baby talk actually the problem here? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about manipulative behavior, video texting, and post-sex peanuts.
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Jun 29, 2022 |
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How To Spot A Guy Who’s Just Telling You What You Want To Hear
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks if she’s being too chill in dating. They start out with a conversation about how “chill” is perceived by men and women and what the right level of chill is. The listener submits screenshots where a guy she went on one date with slides into her DMs to ask her out again, explaining that he didn’t think she was interested initially. Is she playing things too cool and not showing enough interest? Or is he just saying what she wants to hear? Plus, they talk about how to spot guys who give convenient answers.
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Jun 26, 2022 |
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How To Block Someone In An Empowering Way
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a follow up discussion about why a guy might not want to date someone with a TikTok following and an update on Jared’s feelings about being single. The first emailer writes in about how she and her boyfriend are doing great except for one thing: he’s never said “I love you.” Do actions really speak louder than words? Is it a bad idea to get engaged without him saying those 3 words first? The Awkward Sexual Encounter feels like an episode of Below Deck. Later, a hotline caller asks what guys think when you block them. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about holding hands, post-sex hygiene, backpacks.
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Jun 22, 2022 |
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Should You Pre-Qualify Your First Dates?
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It’s Faux Pas Sunday on the pod, and Jared and Jordana are starting out with a U Up-Date from the infamous Poof from our episode on 5/22. The emailer writes in asking how to deal with guys who quickly set the expectation that they’re just looking for a hookup. How much should she go with the flow? Is she too worried about wasting her time? Plus, they give the listener some mirror mantras to repeat for her next date.
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Jun 19, 2022 |
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Can You Wait TOO Long To Have Sex?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a talk about the official vocal coach of the U Up? Podcast, a proposal at one of Jared’s recent shows, and why you should listen to the pod with your S.O. The first email comes from a male listener who isn’t sure if the girl he’s dating is attracted to him because they’ve been on many dates, but they haven’t gotten physical yet. What happens if they aren’t sexually compatible after all this lead up? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a real eye-opener. Later, an emailer asks if her idea to hand out flirty business cards is dumb or genius. Will she come off as confident or desperate? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about elevators, name mix ups, and restaurant tips.
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Jun 15, 2022 |
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Should I Call Out A Vibe Shift In My Relationship?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start things off with a conversation about Flo-Rida and all things Australia. The email is a deal reveal from a guy who tried to get vulnerable after feeling a shift in the relationship with a girl he’s been seeing for a couple of months. Did he blow it by bringing it up or was the relationship already doomed? Plus, they talk about how important someone’s response to vulnerability is.
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Jun 12, 2022 |
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What’s More Important, Chemistry Or Connection?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about post-MDW energy in New York and bad bar behavior. The first emailer asks whether chemistry or connection is more important in dating. How much can you really tell from a first kiss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a warning for any laser hair removal enthusiasts. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s unenthusiastic reaction to her new work opportunities. Does he really want a partner who’s home all the time or is he jealous of her success? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Faux Pas canned cocktails, all about disappearing dates, unsolicited advice, and going barefoot in the airport.
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Jun 08, 2022 |
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Vague Questions Get Vague Answers
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Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a listener jingle and a conversation about the impact of American Idol. The emailer submits screenshots from a guy she’s been on one date a year with since 2020. Should she believe him when he says they’re on the same page now after he ignored her initial reveal? J&J give their takes on what she could have done differently and how social media plays a role here. Plus, they discuss birthday dinners and hook up regrets.
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Jun 05, 2022 |
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How To Do A Mini Reveal
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jared’s time at a chili cookoff and the correct pronunciation of Nevada. The first emailer writes in after a guy she went on five dates with seemed spooked after she pointed out that it was, in fact, their fifth date. Are fifth dates really that big of a deal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing pair of underwear. Later, a listener asks if she should give her boyfriend a vacation hall pass. Will they regret not having more sexual experiences before they settle down? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about ball scratching, happy hour, and elaborate jokes.
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Jun 01, 2022 |
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How Should I Interpret Confusing Communication From My Ex?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are shedding light on some cringey post-breakup behavior. A listener writes in about how her ex-boyfriend broke up with her and then came back into her life with a bottle of expensive shampoo. Now they’re broken up again, and she received a note from him addressed to her dog along with a box of dog toys. Jared reads the note in his best dog owner voice, and they try to understand what his goal is here. Plus, they discuss the right way to get back together.
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May 29, 2022 |
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What’s The Right Answer To “How Are You Still Single?”
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jared’s upcoming Ted Talk and our new segment for the live tour called “Set U Up?”. The first emailer asks how she’s supposed to respond when dates ask “how are you still single?” Jared explains why guys ask this question, and Jordana shares her past anxiety about it. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very confused sister. Later, a listener writes in about how her TikTok following is ruining her dating life. Is there a way to explain this part of her life to guys without turning them off? Or are male TikTokers her only options? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about crying, comfort water bottles, and ice cream eating methods.
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May 25, 2022 |
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How Do I Stop Comparing Myself To My Boyfriend’s Ex?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener whose boyfriend drunkenly told his friends he was relieved that she wasn’t as hot as his ex. After looking up his ex on Instagram, she started feeling insecure, and her boyfriend didn’t help by overcompensating. Can their relationship move past this? Is he ready to be in a new relationship in the first place? Plus, Jared gives a definitive ranking of the Kardashian family.
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May 22, 2022 |
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Is The Saying “When You Know You Know” Actually True?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of the best day of the year for a birthday and how the internet can be a fickle friend. They read a follow up from the listener who wrote in on May 8th, 2022 about Tony the contractor which leads to a discussion about women making the first move. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a wet pair of trousers. Later, an emailer asks if she did herself a disservice by throwing out her old pros and cons lists about her current relationship. Is needing to make a pros and cons list in the first place a bad sign? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about peeing after sex, customer service voices, and sharing medical records.
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May 18, 2022 |
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Is This A Red Flag Or Am I The As*hole?
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J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they start out with a chat about the summer dating season. Next they listen to two new listener jingles which leads to a conversation on how “Les Miserables” is a f*ckboy story. Later they introduce a new segment called The People’s Courtship where Judge J&J will decide who is wrong in a dating situation. This week a listener called the hotline to ask if it was weird for a guy to bring her “grocery store flowers” on a first date. Plus, they talk about how judgmental is too judgmental when it comes to dating.
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May 15, 2022 |
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When Does A White Lie Become A Regular Lie? Ft. Rebel Wilson
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about how to keep dating momentum going while you're traveling for work. The first emailer asks about the difference between taking things slow and getting strung along. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a condom balloon. Another emailer asks how much white lies matter after her boyfriend lied to her about going to a strip club. Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by U Up? With Benefits subscriber Rebel Wilson to talk about her dating life and her new movie “Senior Year.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about wedding etiquette and recycled playlists.
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May 11, 2022 |
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How To Take The Hint After Shooting Your Shot
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and her almost contractor to decide whether or not he’s interested in her. Should she shoot her shot one more time or is a "k" text the kiss of death? Later, J&J introduce a new segment called Rate My Date where they review creative date ideas submitted by listeners. This week’s submission is a triple date straight out of a fever dream.
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May 08, 2022 |
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Dating Before & After College
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Jared and Jordana are back with a very special episode recorded from the Pizza Hut struggle bus in Athens, GA. The first emailer asks how to deal with her boyfriend’s controlling mother. Should she take out her nose ring to please her? Is the nose ring really the issue here to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a pet octopus. In the next segment presented by Pizza Hut, J&J answer a listener voicemail from the Hut-Line to solve some college dating struggles. The caller asks how she should address moving from college to the real world in her relationship. Is it better to leave the college bubble single? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cult leaders, ear wax, and pet tarantulas.
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May 04, 2022 |
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“The Ultimatum” Review
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reviewing Netflix’s newest dating show “The Ultimatum.” They break down why they think each person is actually on the show and how fear of commitment and fear of loneliness come into play. Later, Jared and Jordana explore why marriage isn’t as enticing for men as it is for women and whether or not any of these people are old enough to get married anyway. Plus, they play two new U Up? Jingles submitted by listeners.
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May 01, 2022 |
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How To Weed People Out On The First Date
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Dallas and a discussion about how Jared’s feeling now that he’s a year out from his breakup. The first emailer writes in about how she always has a good time on first dates, and it leaves her (and her dates) feeling confused about whether or not they have a connection. Can you be too good at first dates? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a steamy bar bathroom encounter. Later, a listener asks if she should finally meet up with a guy she’s been texting since November 2020. Is it possible for the connection to live up to her expectations? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Ohio, dating app openers, and homemade bidets.
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Apr 27, 2022 |
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You Can’t Hack The Dating Apps
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they answer an email from a guy who has been disappointed by his recent dating experiences. He says he’s looking for a relationship, so where are all the women supposedly looking for commitment? Is he just coming in too hot with what he’s looking for? J&J show him how he’s going about this the wrong way. Plus, they explain how to show you’re looking for a relationship instead of telling.
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Apr 24, 2022 |
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The Key To A Better Dating Life Is Your Life Outside Of Dating
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IRL Spring is officially here, and Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s move and a very exciting U Up? Live announcement. Jordana does a dramatic reading of a text a listener sent to our hotline instead of sending to their ex, and Jared helps to analyze it. The first emailer asks how to not get too excited about every dating prospect when she feels like she doesn’t have many options. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a “wrong hole” situation. Later, a listener asks what she should do about her boyfriend not being supportive of her desire to drink less. Is this a sign that they’re just not the match? Finally they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about sales calls, honeymoon crashers, and Chipotle orders.
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Apr 20, 2022 |
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Does Being "Adventurous" Mean Putting Up With No Effort?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special, but first they listen to a couple jingles created by listeners. Then, the emailer writes in about a “bizzaro” story of being stood up for a first date, and J&J break down the texts in completely accurate accents. Should she believe his unlikely story? And how can she avoid situations like this in the future? Plus they discuss why you have to embrace being a pain in the ass.
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Apr 17, 2022 |
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Is It A Good Sign If A First Date Lasts a Long Time?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a very exciting Betches announcement plus discussions about Jordana’s love of moving and Jared’s Deux Moi fame. Then, they break down some of Jared’s recent dating app dilemmas and talk about how dating apps are like being at a party where half the guests are on shrooms. A massage goes terribly wrong in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they think of marathon first dates. If her date had a good enough time to stay for 6 hours, why wouldn’t he want to go on a second date? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birthday dinners, being “gross,” and holding on to old clothes.
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Apr 13, 2022 |
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Are Men Intimidated By Women’s Success?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week the emailer asks if she’s too independent to be in a relationship. She explains that things often fizzle after guys see her house and make comments about how much money she makes. Are men really intimidated by women’s success? Plus, they discuss how to convey that you’re willing to change your priorities for a relationship without sounding despy.
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Apr 10, 2022 |
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Better App Conversations Come From Better Prompts
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Jared and Jordana are reunited in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start out with a recap of Jordana’s honeymoon and a few luxury lounge complaints. Then, Jared fills Jordana in on everything that’s been happening in his dating life, including redownloading the apps and getting tired of them again all in a 3 week span. Later, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about grocery shopping, self-help books, and unconventional pajamas. Plus, they listen to some of the jingles submitted by audience members.
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Apr 06, 2022 |
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Men Picture The Breakup, Women Picture The Wedding
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On this week’s Sunday Special, the emailer asks Jared and Jordana to help her understand what’s happening with her “best guy friend” who said he wanted to try dating her but kept canceling their dates. Is there any truth to their romance or is she just prematurely writing the “Our Story” page? J&J give her a reality check and discuss whether or not men and women can actually be friends if they’re attracted to each other. They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about headphone etiquette and dating app pictures.
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Apr 03, 2022 |
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The Upside Of A “Failed” 3-Monther
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with an email from a listener who doesn’t know how to tell her boyfriend that she used to hook up with her coworker. Does he really need to know or is ignorance bliss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves canine voyeurism. Later, a U Up? Hotline caller asks why she can’t seem to get past the 3-monther. Finally, J&J wrap up the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Plan B, abs, and potentially armed robbery.
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Mar 30, 2022 |
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Is Ghosting Ever Okay?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they answer an email from a listener who wants to know if we’ve created a whole other monster by shaming f*ckboys. She tells a story about how a guy she’d only been going out with for a few weeks asked her on a date to break it off. Did he really think this was better than just sending a text? They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about mediocre dating app prompts and dating outside your city.
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Mar 27, 2022 |
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The Only Dating Rules That Matter Are Your Own
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s honeymoon plans and their favorite jingles. The first emailer wants to know what the “bare minimum” actually is, and J&J craft an elaborate metaphor comparing dating to apartment hunting. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a stinker. Later, an emailer asks how she should handle her boyfriend delaying the engagement ring shopping appointment. Is it still romantic if she has to bug him about it? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about hairstyles, Apple Watch interfaces, and packing for vacation.
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Mar 23, 2022 |
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Temporary Relationships: Every Man’s Dream?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to date seriously when you travel for work. The emailer submitted screenshots with a guy she was seeing while living in his city for 13 weeks, and it’s pretty clear he’s not interested in extending her stay. How should she bring up her work situation to avoid guys who only see her as a short term hook up? Plus, Jared shares his experiences dating when traveling all the time. Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about name mix ups and the future of dating.
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Mar 20, 2022 |
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Is Instagram The Ultimate Relationship Test?
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a story about how Jared accidentally ended up on a 2-on-1 date. The first emailer asks if she should break up with her boyfriend or Instagram after a fight over him not posting her to his account. Would his response have been better if she expressed her concerns differently? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a goose-fueled romcom. Later, a hotline caller asks why women always want to change men. Is he going to have to give up his video games no matter what? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about couples trips, Hinge locations, and credit card roulette.
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Mar 16, 2022 |
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Is Sliding Into The DMs Less Creepy When Women Do It? Ft. Taylor Tomlinson
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by comedian Taylor Tomlinson to solve dating and chat about her new Netflix special. They start out with a discussion about Taylor’s dating life, mental health journeys, and hate mail. Later, they answer a listener's email about men’s lack of planning skills. Can he really not make a plan or does he just not want to? Plus they discuss whether or not “if he wanted to, he would” is an empowering point of view.
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Mar 13, 2022 |
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Is Going On Dates The Same As Dating? Ft. Sebastian Stan & Daisy Edgar-Jones
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s friend’s wedding and a discussion about how men and women look at life stages differently. The first emailer asks if she’s wrong to be turned off by her matches asking for a FaceTime or phone call before the first date. Is this the new normal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves some unwanted help from the caller’s mom. Later, a listener asks how to go from first dates to dating. Can you really progress a relationship when you’re only seeing each other once a week? Sebastian Stan and Daisy Edgar-Jones join J&J to chat about their new movie “Fresh” and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about burner phones and food sharing.
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Mar 09, 2022 |
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Is Timing a BS Excuse?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she went on a date with while visiting a friend in the city where she plans to move. After a couple weeks of non-stop texting, he sent a text saying he didn’t want to keep talking until she moved. Is it really about timing or was he just not feeling it? They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about serial killer jokes and texting chemistry.
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Mar 06, 2022 |
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Closing The Sexting Gap
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Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jared’s birthday reflections and why he doesn’t want to “do drinks” anymore. The first emailer asks how she should tell her boyfriend about her nose job. Will it impact how he sees her? Next, J&J are closing the sexting gap with some help from the sext-y nurse from our February 16th episode. Later, a guy writes in asking how to stop feeling threatened by his girlfriend’s exes. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cold sores, the “talking” stage, and going to hell.
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Mar 02, 2022 |
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Is The Instagram Follow A Big Deal In Dating?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The emailer writes in about a guy she almost overlooked on the apps because of his “weird” profile, but she was pleasantly surprised by how much she liked him. After their 5th date she suggested he follow her on Instagram since she would be leaving town, but he declined. Is this a red flag? Is he self-conscious about his own profile? Plus, they discuss how she should address it. They finish the episode with a Breakup Breakdown featuring the voicemail story of a listener who was dumped via the Golf Channel.
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Feb 27, 2022 |
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How Do I Stop Being A “Cool Girl”?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by discussing Jared’s plan for the worst day of the year (AKA his birthday) and his recent foray into van life. Then they discuss the Netflix documentary “The Tinder Swindler” about a man who fooled his Tinder dates into giving him thousands of dollars and what these extreme circumstances can teach the average dater. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nosey little brother. Later, a listener asks how to stop being a “cool girl.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker (including our very first voicemail submission!) about guys trips, sports superstitions, and living without wifi.
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Feb 23, 2022 |
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Does Acting “Coupley” Actually Mean Anything?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Fuckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. The emailer writes in about a guy she met before the holidays. He acted very “coupley,” but a few weeks later, he bailed on their plans and her friend saw him on a date with another woman. Jared and Jordana weigh in on which of his actions actually mean something and give her advice on how to deal with the “we should” kind of guy. Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about how much you owe someone after a first date and sweaty sex.
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Feb 20, 2022 |
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Winter Dating Pep Talk
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are talking all about how to keep dating fun in the winter. The first emailer asks if it’s worth it to date now or if she should just wait until spring, and J&J give her some tips to spice up her swiping routine. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very sexy nurse. Later, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that she’s not comfortable with him using her phone all the time. Is she right about it being an invasion of privacy? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birthdays and cat dads.
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Feb 16, 2022 |
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Can We Still Be Friends If He Wants To Hook Up With Me?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with Jared’s love letter to Tom Brady. Then, they break down the texts between a listener and her guy friend. They went on a date, but both agreed they were better off as friends. So why is he now calling her a GILF (grandma I’d like to f*ck)? J&J discuss his motivations and how she should move forward.
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Feb 13, 2022 |
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Valentine’s Day Lightning Round: Embrace The Cliché
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round episode, and this time it’s all about Valentine’s Day. They answer 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers and break down exactly what you should do for Valentine’s Day whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between. They walk us through whether or not you should try to “Define the Valentine” around February 14th, and how to go about it if you do. Plus, they discuss why you should lean into the clichés of the holiday and the gift that every guy wants.
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Feb 09, 2022 |
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“And Just Like That...” Season Review
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are talking all about the first season of And Just Like That. They start out by discussing the glossy legacy of the original Sex and the City and how the creators betrayed its true fans. Where were all the brunch table dating breakdowns? Then, they talk about Carrie and Big’s relationship and how the message was bad for its young, single viewers. Plus, they give their opinions on each and every character.
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Feb 06, 2022 |
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Will Men Settle Down With Literally Anyone If The Timing Is Right?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s entry to TikTok and how it differs from Instagram. Then they chat about a long-awaited first date that Jordana set Jared up on. The first emailer asks if the classic Sex And The City quote comparing men to cabs is accurate. Do men actually end up with the first woman that comes along when they decide they’re ready? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a game of musical bunkbeds. The next emailer writes in about how her relationship with her “work husband” is impacting her dating life. How can she back away from this relationship without affecting her work? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Impossible Foods, about cheapskates and open relationships.
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Feb 02, 2022 |
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Does Anything Justify Not Texting Back For Over A Week?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about Jared’s favorite sandwich in LA and how to date someone with a heavy personal life. The emailer writes in about a guy she really likes except that he routinely takes over a week to respond to her texts. When she called him out on it, he revealed that his mom is dying and that’s why his communication has been slow. Can she pursue this relationship without compromising on what she wants? Later, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about whether or not you should tell on a cheater and unfortunate dating app prompts.
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Jan 30, 2022 |
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How NOT To Do Long Distance Relationships
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of how Jordana’s husband feels about her most recent U Up? With Benefits episode. Then, they talk about a full-blown presentation someone DM’d Jared to try to set him up with her friend. Should PowerPoints be a requirement for a fix up? J&J go over each slide to tell you exactly how to make a presentation for your own friends. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a visit from a raccoon. Later, a listener asks how she should deal with her boyfriend not wanting to sext while they’re doing long distance. Is it a deal breaker if she won’t talk about it? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Impossible Foods, about fantasizing to Instagram pics and COVID comfort.
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Jan 26, 2022 |
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West Elm Caleb Is Everything That’s Wrong With Modern Dating
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Jared and Jordana are back with an emergency Sunday Special all about West Elm Caleb, a New York guy who’s blowing up on TikTok for ghosting, love bombing, and sending unsolicited dick pics. Maddy gives the timeline of how this all started, and Jared and Jordana discuss the extent of his offenses. Does he really deserve all of this public shaming? Plus, they talk about how the power dynamics on dating apps play into these issues.
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Jan 23, 2022 |
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Stop Judging Yourself So Much When Dating
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the most annoying person on vacation and Jared’s conflicted feelings about dating apps. The first emailer asks how to navigate the early stages of dating a sober person. Should she address it before planning the first date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was thwarted by a full moon. Later, a listener asks how to deal with their partner being a workaholic. Is there room for compromise or are they just not the match? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about leftovers, white lies, and Jared’s alleged doppelganger.
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Jan 19, 2022 |
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Can Awkward Sex Be A Deal Breaker?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana answer an email from a listener asking if her situationship fizzled because of an awkward sexual encounter. They went on four good dates, but when they finally had sex, it was a letdown. He started being distant afterwards, so she texted him to ask what was up. J&J break down the texts to try to figure out what happened here. Was it really about the sex? And does it really matter either way? Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about dating rules and dog pics on dating apps.
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Jan 16, 2022 |
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Is It Normal To Have FOMO When You’re In A Relationship?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about how we’re all living in an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and what it takes to really be excited for a first date. The first emailer asks if she’s crazy for wanting to marry her first serious boyfriend. Is FOMO from her single friends a sign that she needs to date around more? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very needy puppy. Later, an emailer asks how to make it clear to her guy friends that she’s not romantically interested in them. Are they even her friends in the first place? Finally, J&J give justice to The Original Cottage Inn and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birth control and dating app ghost writers.
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Jan 12, 2022 |
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It’s Okay To Admit You Don’t Want Something Casual
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she’s seeing casually. They talked about making plans for the weekend, but he wasn’t sure of his schedule and said he would let her know. When she didn’t hear from him she assumed he just wasn’t interested, but when he reached out later, she gave him a piece of her mind. Is she wrong for expecting him to follow up on plans even though they were keeping it casual? Plus, they discuss why pretending you don’t care doesn’t work. They finish the episode with a game of J&J’s Final Say to settle the debate on parental approval for moving in together and bad dating app profiles.
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Jan 09, 2022 |
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Is It A Red Flag If My Boyfriend Stays In Touch With His Ex?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about their New Year’s resolutions. Then, they answer an email regarding a TikTok that lists questions you should ask on a first date to avoid wasting time. Do those questions actually help you get to know someone? Is anything really a waste of time in dating? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a chicken suit. Later, an emailer writes in about setting boundaries with her boyfriend’s ex. Is an ex ever calling just to “catch up”? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about never-nudes, first date hygiene, and chain restaurants.
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Jan 05, 2022 |
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Is It Possible To Separate A Potential Love Interest From Their Income?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about money and dating. First, they answer an email from a listener who makes ten times more than her boyfriend. Should she decline his offers to pay for dates? Then, Jared and Jordana are joined by Kurt and Steven, the stars of Joe Millionaire: For Richer or Poorer, to discuss the new show and how much money matters when it comes to love. Finally, they debate some unpopular opinions about jobs, money, and dating multiple people at once.
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Jan 02, 2022 |
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What Does “Settling” Actually Mean?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by reflecting on this year of the pod. The first emailer asks if she’s being too picky or not picky enough when it comes to dating. Should she swipe right on fewer people or give those matches more time to develop a connection? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing condom. Later, a listener asks if guys like her less because she offers to pay for dates. Is it a turn off to men? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about masturbation, shirtless selfies, and New Year’s Eve.
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Dec 29, 2021 |
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Why Do Some Women Reject “Sweet” Guys?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about being single around the holidays. Then, they dissect the breakup texts between a listener and a woman he went on two dates with. Why would she keep flirting with him after saying she doesn’t want to go out again? Plus, they discuss why she says he’s too sweet for her.
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Dec 26, 2021 |
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Jordana’s Wedding: A Dramatic Reading (U Up? With Benefits Excerpt)
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As a special holiday gift, we present to you an excerpt from Jordana’s wedding, as read by J&J on the latest U Up? With Benefits. To hear more, subscribe now on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and check out the episode entitled “Jordana’s U Up? Themed Wedding”.
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Dec 23, 2021 |
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Does Every Situationship Deserve A Breakup?
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion of Jared’s first appearance on @deuxmoi and how men approach commitment differently than women. Then, an emailer asks how to break up with someone she’s never even met. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a fast and furious adventure. Later, a listener writes in about a situation with her long distance boyfriend who doesn’t want to move to be near her. What does his resistance mean for their relationship? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about SAT scores and love languages.
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Dec 22, 2021 |
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Why Does He Keep Texting Me Without Planning A Date?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener submitted screenshots from a guy who rescheduled a date because he was sick. He kept the conversation going for a while but eventually left her on read. Why would he put in the effort to keep texting her to ghost later? Should she ask him what went wrong? Finally, they play a new game called J&J’s Final Say where Jared and Jordana weigh in on Instagram polls about bringing your S.O. home for the holidays and using dates to move on from a break up.
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Dec 19, 2021 |
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Does It Matter How Many People They’ve Slept With Before You?
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On today’s episode Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s new favorite first date spot and Jordana’s first date shirt. The first emailer asks if the number of people you’ve slept with matters in a relationship. Should she be concerned if her boyfriend initially lied about his “body count”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unexpected guest. Later, an emailer asks how she should approach dating while freezing her eggs. When should she bring this up to guys she’s dating? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about French kissing and car decorations.
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Dec 15, 2021 |
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All Too Well (Taylor’s Version) (J&J’s Version)
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about Taylor Swift and the ten minute version of All Too Well. Jordana shares how her own dating experiences have informed her perspective on the song, and they discuss the nuance that is missing from the Jake Gyllenhaal conversation. Plus, they talk about how failed 3-monthers can actually make you a better dater.
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Dec 12, 2021 |
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Jared Reviews Jordana’s Wedding
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Jared and Jordana start out this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s wedding and her feelings about being married. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a trip to the emergency room. Later, a listener writes in asking if guys are no longer approaching women in bars post-lockdown. Is this a new trend in the dating world or are these guys just not into her? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Photoshop and charcuterie boards.
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Dec 08, 2021 |
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Do I Really Need My Stuff Back From My Ex?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s trying to get her stuff back from her ex. What is his motivation to hang on to these things? And what items should you just let go of in a breakup? Plus, they discuss how the reasons for a breakup get spun by each side of the relationship. Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries about fish pictures and goat DNA.
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Dec 05, 2021 |
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You Are Your Explore Page
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode by planning a full night out for the U Up? Live show. The first emailer asks if she’s the asshole for swiping left based on height. Should she stick with her preference or try to be open in case she misses out on a great match? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roommate that didn’t realize what she was walking in on. The next emailer asks how she can make it clear that she’s networking and not flirting with men she meets at events. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about wedding dates and meeting the parents.
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Dec 01, 2021 |
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When To Take The Loss In Dating
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Jared and Jordana start out this week’s Sunday Special with a discussion about Thanksgiving plans and traditions. Then, a listener asks if she was the f*ckboy in the situation and whether or not the guy’s response was justified. Is it ever okay to send a Venmo request for a meal you originally agreed to pay for? Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries featuring overly sexual and overly earnest prompt responses.
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Nov 28, 2021 |
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The Pros & Cons Of Meeting On The Apps
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the brand new Betches office recording IRL. They start out with a discussion about two NY Post articles about “golden penis syndrome” and divorce rates among couples who met on dating apps. Then they discuss the new Hinge voice recording feature and whether or not they would use it on their own profiles. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves shower sex and a flooded pool table. Then they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying about your location, dog Instagram accounts, and bedtime routines.
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Nov 24, 2021 |
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How To Handle A Breakup With A Coworker
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are helping a listener who’s going through a break up with a coworker. After a pretty rough break up on her birthday, he’s been completely avoiding her at work and making things uncomfortable. How should she reach out to him to end the awkwardness? Plus, they discuss his motives for ignoring her. Finally, they play Sunday Swiping Scaries with dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers.
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Nov 21, 2021 |
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Lightning Round: Thanksgiving Invites, Holiday Gifts, And Nosey Family Members
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about dating during the holiday season with topics ranging from buying gifts to dealing with nosey family members. Plus, they discuss deciding where to spend the holidays when you’re in a relationship, keeping dating momentum going during the holiday season, and tips for bringing someone home for the first time.
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Nov 17, 2021 |
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How To Stop Wasting Time On People Who Aren’t Making You A Priority
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re analyzing the texts between a listener and a guy who keeps canceling because he’s busy and exhausted. Will he want to date when the time is right or is he just looking for a hookup? Later, J&J play a new game called Sunday Swiping Scaries where they discuss dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers and decide whether to swipe right or left.
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Nov 14, 2021 |
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Do Exes Always Come Back? Ft. Ricky Velez
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion about the differences between Jordana’s eating habits and her fiancé’s. The first emailer asks if walking away to get a guy to commit ever works. Does it actually mean anything when guys come back? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a misplaced piece of gum. Another emailer asks if being disinterested in sex is a sign she should end her long term relationship. Finally, J&J are joined by comedian Ricky Velez to discuss his new HBO special and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about concerts, creepy exes, and TSA pre-check.
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Nov 10, 2021 |
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When Should Couples Start Mixing Finances? Ft. Berna Anat
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Berna Anat, the host of Betches’ new financial podcast Money Please. They start with a discussion about how Berna ended her long-term relationship and how they mixed and unmixed their finances. Then they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend is resisting starting a savings account with her. Is his hesitation about his relationship with money or his relationship with her? Plus, they discuss how money is tied to our emotions.
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Nov 07, 2021 |
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Is Dating Easier For Men?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s final weeks of wedding planning and whether or not dating is easier for guys. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is too close to his mom. Will she ever be his go-to for advice and support? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a hat-fish situation. Later, a listener asks how seriously she should take other women’s warnings about a guy she went on three great dates with. Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about seat belts and Androids.
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Nov 03, 2021 |
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The Best Way To Approach Failed Situationships
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start out with a discussion about why they love Halloween and their costume plans. This week’s emailer asks if you can set your standards too soon. In her relationship with a self-proclaimed avoidant dater, she tried to call him out for keeping her at a distance and asked if he saw their relationship getting more serious. It didn’t go as she hoped, and now she’s wondering how things would’ve gone if she had waited to set her standard. Plus, they discuss why people date with no purpose in mind.
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Oct 31, 2021 |
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What Is “The Reveal”?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about the updated Betches office and a recent dating app interaction Jared had. The first emailer asks if “we weren’t exclusive” is the new “we were on a break.” Is exclusivity a technicality? And are there different expectations for people you meet IRL versus on the apps? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a drunken disaster. Later, a listener asks why she feels the need to “win” the break up with her ex. Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about dog dads, mama’s boys, and wine etiquette.
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Oct 27, 2021 |
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How To Cut Ties With The Guy In Your DMs
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener is trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to is flirting or just being friendly. J&J dissect their texts and DMs to decide. Should she make a move? Plus they discuss why men love vague relationships and what they get out of them.
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Oct 24, 2021 |
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How To Talk To Your S.O. About Sex
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s braces and a discussion about how dental customer service relates to dating. The first email is from a listener who wants to know how to get her boyfriend to put in more effort in bed. How should she bring this up to him in a constructive way? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nose bleed and an unfortunate roommate run in. Later, a listener asks if she should get back together with her ex. Is getting back together ever a good idea? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cringe-worthy hobbies and third wheels on the first date.
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Oct 20, 2021 |
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How To Write An Effective Standard-Setting Text
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s ever worth it to “chase” someone. After three dates, she felt like his communication became inconsistent and he always had excuses to not meet up, so she sent a text to set her standard. Jared and Jordana debate the effectiveness of her text and analyze his response. Should she keep pursuing this guy? Plus, they discuss why guys don’t take the out when you give it to them.
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Oct 17, 2021 |
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What Are The Signs That You’re In Love?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about generational differences in wedding customs and why everyone loved The White Lotus. The first email is from an admittedly analytical listener asking how you actually know when you’re in love. Could research ever find you an answer? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a close call with a friend’s parents. Later, a friend group asks how to deal with making more money than most of the guys she ends up dating in their small hometown. How should they talk about money with their dates? And how should they handle men who are intimidated by this wage gap? Finally they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about siblings, private social clubs, and LinkedIn stalking.
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Oct 13, 2021 |
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When Is It Okay To Have A Serious Conversation Over Text?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener wants to know if he’s in the wrong for asking for less communication. After a girl he was newly seeing started texting him a lot, he asked to dial it back, but her reaction was not what he expected. How should he have handled this situation? Plus, they discuss when, if ever a text is better than a phone call for a serious conversation.
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Oct 10, 2021 |
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How Dating Buzzwords Might Be Hurting Your Love Life
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s decision to download Hinge and what makes someone good at using dating apps. The first emailer asks what the difference is between love bombing and the honeymoon phase. Does love bombing always have to be toxic? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an OB/GYN in training. Later, an emailer asks how to deal with going out with her friends and getting more attention from guys than they do. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about first date selfies, indigestion, and rule followers.
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Oct 06, 2021 |
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Am I The F*ckboy?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week a listener wants to know if she’s the f*ckboy. After being ghosted by a f*ckboy, she doesn’t believe the romantic things he says when he comes back into her life, but she continues to hook up with him anyway. Is she leading him on now? Plus, J&J discuss relationships that drain your dating battery.
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Oct 03, 2021 |
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Would You Really Want To Know Why Someone Broke Up With You?
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Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s wedding decision process and all the reasons you should come to the U Up? Live show on December 8th. The first emailer asks how much information is too much in a breakup. Is it helpful to give someone the specific reason you’re ending a relationship or is it just cruel? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blow job mishap. Later, a listener asks how she should balance wanting to date with loving her consistent routine. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about business dinners, Kim Kardashian, and shower schedules.
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Sep 29, 2021 |
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How To Confront Your S.O. About Sketchy Texts
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener who saw something suspicious on her boyfriend’s phone. Should she be concerned by this message? How should she bring this up to him without breaking the trust in their relationship? Plus, they discuss how to deal with his potential reactions.
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Sep 26, 2021 |
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How To Know If You’re A Rebound
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s orthodontic journey and an exciting announcement. The first email asks how to know if you’re someone’s rebound. If they constantly bring up their ex, does it mean they’re not over them? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual request. Later, a listener asks if a guy she’s seeing is doing too much too soon. Is he weird or is she just not into him? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about vaccination cards and Instagram pictures.
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Sep 22, 2021 |
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Are Different Political Views A Deal Breaker?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week’s episode is all about navigating political and cultural differences in dating. They start out with a conversation about how heightened political differences have manifested on dating apps. Then they answer an email from a listener about a guy she’s been seeing who has different opinions on heavy topics like guns. Do their differences mean they’re doomed? Plus they discuss how you should broach conversations about these topics.
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Sep 19, 2021 |
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Can I Be Confident And Insecure At The Same Time? Ft. Violet Benson
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by recapping Jordana’s birthday celebration. An emailer writes in asking how to flirt IRL. How should she express interest outside of texting and social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very hot car. Later, they answer an email from a listener asking how to be vulnerable with her partner about her insecurities. Finally, J&J are joined by Violet Benson, host of Too Tired To Be Crazy, to discuss her dating life and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about roommates and squatty potties.
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Sep 15, 2021 |
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What Does A F*ckboy Get Out Of Being Friends?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another F*ckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. An emailer describes her situationship with a guy she met last October. At first he says he didn’t want a relationship and she was fine with that, but they continued to hang out and hook up. Eventually they have a DTR talk and he says he can see them dating in the future, but he needs to figure his own life out. Is he a f*ckboy for giving her hope for the future? Or should she have taken him at his original word? Plus they discuss how to know what being in love feels like.
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Sep 12, 2021 |
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What To Do When You Let Your “Crazy” Show Too Soon Ft. Giannina Gibelli
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by answering an email from a listener who’s perfectly happy with her boyfriend except that she’s not physically attracted to him. Can attraction grow over time? Is it a deal breaker if it doesn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a bloody nightmare. Later, an emailer asks if she can recover from letting her “crazy” show too soon. Should she address it or just move on? Finally, J&J are joined by Love Is Blind star Giannina Gibelli to chat about life after the show and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about making plans, serial daters, and wedge salads.
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Sep 08, 2021 |
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How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Text Back?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special. This week, an emailer writes in asking if long response times over text are always a bad sign. Do long messages make up for taking 48 hours to respond? Are these long waiting periods okay at any point in a relationship? Plus, they discuss what enthusiasm actually looks like over text.
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Sep 05, 2021 |
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Should I Accept A “Hangout” Date?
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Greece, an update on Jared’s week of shows in Chicago, and Jordana’s feelings on the first Betches baby. A listener emails in asking if you can be too busy to date. Is it even worth it to schedule a date two weeks away? Or does she need to reprioritize? The awkward sex story involves a misplaced naked man. Later, an emailer asks how to go back to “real” dates after you’ve done a “hangout” date. Is there a more serious version of the hangout date? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that leaves them asking, “How many plants is too many plants?”
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Sep 01, 2021 |
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What You Should Ask Yourself Before You Break Up Ft. Logan Ury
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On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Logan Ury, author of How To Not Die Alone and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, is back to share more wisdom with Jared and Jordana. They start out with a discussion about post-pandemic dating from Logan’s research at Hinge and how it might be different from what “shot girl summer” predicted. Then, they discuss why we often look over the consistent, “nice” person and tips for going on dates the right way. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who isn’t sure if she wants to stay with her boyfriend of 5 years, and Logan gives advice on how to know if you’re settling or not.
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Aug 29, 2021 |
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Lightning Round: Dating In The Age Of Social Media
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Jared and Jordana are back with your comprehensive guide to social media and dating. They answer 10 questions submitted by @uuppod Instagram followers and give real solutions to all of your social media issues, from how to craft the perfect DM to when to make your relationship Instagram official. Plus, they discuss which social media behavior should be a red flag.
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Aug 25, 2021 |
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Does Playing Games Ever Work?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special episode. A listener shares screenshots of texts between her and a guy she had been dating for about 3 months. They met through mutual friends, but he was sketchy about her meeting his other friends. After an awkward situation where neither of them made the move to say hello in public, she decided to call it off. Did she overreact? Or did the situation prove that they’re looking for different things?
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Aug 22, 2021 |
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Why Would He Act Like My Boyfriend But Not Want To Date?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jordana’s upcoming trip to Greece. Then, J&J answer an email from a listener for our newest segment, F*ckboy or Nah? Does honesty make someone exempt from f*ckboyhood? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a mystery for Jared and Jordana to solve. Later, they answer an email about money etiquette when on vacation with your boyfriend’s family. Should you make an effort to pay for something or enjoy the hospitality? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about moms on Facebook and Close Friends on Instagram.
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Aug 18, 2021 |
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Can You Set Your Standard Too Low?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The listener’s first date with a guy she met on a dating app went well, but the second date was rescheduled and the third was canceled. She sent a text setting her standard for following through on dates, and they ended up deciding to take things slow and keep it casual. Over a few weeks of being friends with benefits, his communication gets more and more inconsistent, and he ultimately tells her they can’t hook up anymore. Why would he want to end a casual but consistent hookup? Plus, J&J discuss the expectations in a casual relationship.
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Aug 15, 2021 |
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How To Date Multiple People At Once
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the wedding industry and the fear of being judged. The first email asks how to juggle dating multiple people at once. When does she have to choose one guy to focus on? Does she need to tell them she’s dating around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a dangerous food fetish. Later, J&J answer another email from a listener asking how she should bring up that she’s unsure about having kids. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about poetry, social media comments, and picky eaters.
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Aug 11, 2021 |
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When Is It Time To Block Someone?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to end it with a friend with benefits. A listener shares screenshots from her FWB who won’t take a hint that she’s no longer interested. Did she lead him on? How can she cut ties without feeling guilty? Plus they discuss the female version of a f*ckboy.
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Aug 08, 2021 |
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What Does Being A F*ckboy Actually Mean?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana discuss a DM Jared received asking whether or not a guy is a f*ckboy, which prompted the question: “What is a f*ckboy anyway?” J&J break down what actually makes someone a f*ckboy and where a lot of people get the definition wrong. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an infection in an unexpected area. Later, an emailer asks how to break off a relationship with her professor without getting anyone in trouble or impacting her grades. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about unconventional living situations and going viral.
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Aug 04, 2021 |
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Your Love Language Is Whatever You’re Getting The Least
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special all about love languages. Jared starts by explaining why he doesn’t like them, and then they answer an email from a listener who asks how to get more words of affirmation from her husband. Is it annoying for her to keep asking? Plus, Jordana shares a similar issue she had with her fiancé and how she dealt with it.
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Aug 01, 2021 |
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Is Cheating Always A Deal Breaker?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about what makes a good first date. The first emailer asks if she should change one of her Hinge prompts. Will some guys always try to make it sexual or is her prompt putting out that vibe? A listener’s romantic vacation goes to sh*t in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend of 10 years cheated on her. Can they still make it work? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that leads to a conversation about bedroom decor, weight loss, and outfit choices.
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Jul 28, 2021 |
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How To Date In Your Twenties Ft. Dr. Meg Jay
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade. They start out with a discussion about how the phrase “30 is the new 20” has affected twenty-somethings’ mindsets and how gender stereotypes play into dating problems. Later, Dr. Jay explains how the “strength of weak ties” can help you meet your match. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who asks if it’s even worth it to date in your early twenties when so much of your future is still up in the air.
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Jul 25, 2021 |
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Why Am I Offended If I Don't Even Like Him?
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about Jordana’s pre-wedding feelings and prep. The first email is from a listener whose ego is bruised after a guy she thought was really into her updated his dating app profile. They’re not exclusive, and she’s still using the apps, so why does it still feel personal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate butt dial. Later, an emailer asks how to set boundaries when her boyfriend lives with his parents. Should he be more independent from his family? And is it rude to ask to spend less time with his family? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Instagram hashtags, former friends with benefits, and unread text messages.
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Jul 21, 2021 |
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How To Know If The Timing Is Off Or If They're Just Not That Into You
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana break down the text messages between a listener and a guy she met through mutual friends at a wedding. After 3 dates, he sends her a text saying he’s not ready for a new relationship after his last ended, but that he’ll let her know when he’s ready to “pursue.” Is there still hope for something in the future? Or is he just letting her down easy?
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Jul 18, 2021 |
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Lightning Round: Your Summer Dating Questions Answered
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about summer dating with topics ranging from group dates to vacation communication. Plus, they discuss how to meet people off the apps and whether or not serious relationships are possible during IRL Summer.
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Jul 14, 2021 |
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What To Do When You Catch Feelings And They Don’t
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener shared screenshots of her conversation with a guy she was seeing long-distance for about two months. It was supposed to be casual, but she caught feelings and his reaction was confusing. If he says he didn’t want to end things, why would he still be using Tinder? Can she still bring this up even if they haven’t put a label on it? Plus, they discuss what it actually means to use someone.
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Jul 11, 2021 |
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Why Don’t My Friends Like The Guy I’m Seeing? Ft. Iliza Shlesinger & Margaret Cho
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On this week’s episode, J&J start out with a recap of Jordana’s bachelorette party. The first emailer asks how she should respond to her friends’ concerns about a guy she’s seeing. Why won’t they elaborate on their warnings? And should she give him a chance to explain himself? A listener’s fiancé confesses a dirty little secret during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Then, a listener asks if you can get back together if the breakup was for mental health reasons. Should he reach out or let it go? Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by Iliza Shlesinger and Margaret Cho to chat about their new movie Good on Paper and the real-life story behind it. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker inspired by the movie.
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Jul 07, 2021 |
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Am I Settling Or Did I Just Find The Right Person Early? Ft. Lori Gottlieb
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by psychotherapist and author Lori Gottlieb. They start out with a discussion of what type of relationship issues Lori sees in therapy and how COVID has impacted them. Then they get into Lori’s book Marry Him and what you should actually look for in a long-term partner. Later, they answer an email from a listener who is anxious about planning a future with her boyfriend. Is it normal for her to feel she should date around more? How can she stop feeling like the grass is greener on the other side? Plus, they discuss how our pasts play out in our dating choices.
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Jul 04, 2021 |
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How To Tell If A F*ckboy Has Actually Changed
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On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start out with a tale about Jordana’s phone and her plans for her bachelorette party. Then they answer an email from a listener asking if a f*ckboy can change his ways. Does him not wanting to hook up mean he’s more into her or less? The Awkward Sexual Encounter almost ended with penis surgery. Then (content warning) at around the 49 minute mark, a listener shares a story about being harassed by a stranger and asks how to turn down men when they hit on you in public. What should you do to stay safe in this situation? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about pregnancy paranoia and unexpected erections.
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Jun 30, 2021 |
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Am I Being Avoidant Or Do I Just Not Like Him?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she ended things with after six weeks because he never wanted to sleep over. Did she end it too soon? Or did she never really like him in the first place? Plus they discuss miscommunication when it comes to dating expectations.
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Jun 27, 2021 |
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How To Keep Your Summer Fling From Fizzling Ft. Jared’s College Ex, Ashley Bisman
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On this week’s episode, J&J start with an email from a listener asking how to keep the dating momentum going while you’re traveling. Should she try to keep in contact while she’s out of town? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a dinner disaster. Later, a listener asks how to deal with being stereotyped by people she’s dating. Are stereotypes the real reason this guy doesn’t want to take her hiking? Finally, Jared and Jordana are joined by Jared’s college ex and author Ashley Bisman for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about multi-level marketing companies and Shrek.
Check out Ashley's brand new book: Chasing Butterflies
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Jun 23, 2021 |
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Should I Call Out A Breadcrumber?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J answer an email from a listener about how to deal with breadcrumbing. Should you call the breadcrumber out? Are you also a breadcrumber for continuing the conversation? Plus they discuss how to take control of your dating life.
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Jun 20, 2021 |
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Is It Weird To DM Someone If You Didn’t Match On The Apps?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about freezing your eggs and what it means for dating. Then they answer a listener's email about sliding into someone’s Twitter DMs. Can Twitter DMs be used for dating like Instagram? What should she say to make her move? An emailer finds a surprise in her sink during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, a listener asks how to compromise on decor when moving in with your significant other. What can differences in decor style tell you about a relationship? Finally, J&J end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about phone contact names for parents and bumping into dates while they’re on other dates.
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Jun 16, 2021 |
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Is Infidelity Inevitable? Ft. Dan Savage
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by relationship and sex columnist Dan Savage. They start out with a discussion of how Dan’s advice has evolved over the past 30 years and his thoughts on monogamy. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose ex-boyfriend left her for the same woman they had a threesome with. How should she approach threesomes in her current relationship? Plus, they discuss how to develop trust and boundaries in an open relationship.
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Jun 13, 2021 |
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Do I Have What It Takes To Have A Hot Girl Summer?
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about the world opening back up when you’re single versus when you’re in a relationship. Then they read a break up contract sent to a listener by her now ex-boyfriend. Can you take a long-term relationship back to a short-term relationship? How do finances play into a breakup? A listener learns about blue balls in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, J&J answer an email asking exactly how to have a hot girl summer. Finally, Dylan Hafer, host of Betches’ new podcast Pop Alarm, joins J&J for a round of celeb-inspired Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Jun 09, 2021 |
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Why Do Exes Come Back Pretending To Want Friendship
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. This week’s emailer wants to know if her ex actually wants to be friends or if there’s another reason for him staying in touch. Is it ever a good idea to stay friends with an ex? J&J break down why he’s holding onto the friendship and what she should do about it.
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Jun 06, 2021 |
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Lightning Round: Dating App Pictures, Bad Kissers, And Emotionally Slutty Boyfriends
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On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round, answering 20 questions submitted by our Instagram followers with topics ranging from first date conversations to spicing up long-distance relationships. Plus, they discuss the best pictures to use on dating apps and how to correct someone’s kissing style.
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Jun 02, 2021 |
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Are Personality Types Relevant In Dating?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special all about personality types and how they factor into dating. They answer an email from a Type A listener with a Type B boyfriend who doesn’t know how to deal with their differences. Do these personality types actually determine compatibility? Do opposites attract or are their differences in cleanliness and punctuality a deal breaker? Plus, they discuss how to assess which qualities are most important to you in a partner.
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May 30, 2021 |
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How To Hit On Someone Without Being Creepy Ft. Camille Kostek
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a pep talk for going back out into the world. Then they answer an email from a listener who doesn’t know if she should ask someone out at their workplace. Is there an appropriate way to show someone you’re interested without making them uncomfortable? A listener gets an unpleasant surprise during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they weigh in on an email from a listener wondering what it means for her relationship that she actually enjoys dating long distance. Finally, J&J are joined by Wipeout Host Camille Kostek for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about skincare, unconventional living situations, and Instagram captions.
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May 26, 2021 |
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Is Alcohol F*cking Up My Dating Life?
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Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reading texts from a listener who thinks she might have ruined her chances with a dating app match by drunk texting him. The emailer describes her previous pattern of drinking too much and scaring guys off with her drunk texts, but she got it together during quarantine and finally feels ready to get back out there. That is until a night out with her coworkers. How should she address the drunk texts? And should she tell him she’s working on her relationship with alcohol? Plus J&J discuss when it’s time to talk to a professional.
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May 23, 2021 |
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Dealing With A Breakup
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J&J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s relationship status. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a 69 gone wrong. Later, they answer a listener email about a guy who wants to be in a one-sided open relationship. Is it a red flag that he wants her to sleep with other people? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about vaping, voice messages, and airport hygiene.
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May 19, 2021 |
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How To Tell Your Best Friend You Have Feelings For Them Ft. Tinx
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Tinx, and they start with a discussion about the differences between dating in NYC, LA, and San Francisco. Then they dive into Tinx’s dating life and her Box Theory about the right time to sleep with someone you’re dating. Later, they answer a listener’s email asking if she should tell her best friend she has feelings for him, and Tinx shares her personal experience of falling in love with her best guy friend.
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May 16, 2021 |
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Will My Relationship Survive After The Pandemic?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and they start out with a discussion of the viral video of Ben Affleck shooting his shot with a woman who unmatched him on Raya. The first email asks how to deal with going back to the office when her boyfriend wants to continue their nomadic pandemic lifestyle. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves three condoms and a dog. Later, J&J try to figure out why a guy bailed on a listener in the middle of their first date. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Chick-Fil-A and a recycled pick-up video.
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May 12, 2021 |
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A Matchmaker’s Guide To Finding Love Ft. Matchmaker Maria
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On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Matchmaker Maria. They start out with a discussion about how Maria got into matchmaking and how she applied her matchmaking strategies to meeting her own husband. Maria breaks down how the matchmaking process works, the types of guys who hire matchmakers, and how men and women differ when it comes to matchmaking. Later, Maria explains when to have sex with someone new using her 12 date rule, and they answer an email asking about how to set up your friends the right way.
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May 09, 2021 |
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Is Faking An Orgasm Anti-Feminist?
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This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about experimenting with your look. The first email asks about the etiquette of orgasms. Is it ever okay to fake it? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost too gross to believe. Later, an emailer asks J&J to sort out her boyfriend’s shady phone behavior. Is it always a bad sign if your S.O. doesn’t want to share their passcode? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about someone’s history of cheating and peeing in cups.
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May 05, 2021 |
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Not Everyone Who Doesn’t Want To Date You Is A F*ckboy
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts from a “verbose fuckboy.” The listener received some very lengthy text messages from someone she was dating essentially saying, “it’s not you, it’s me.” Does his long explanation and apology mean he is being genuine? Or is he just like other guys who run at the first sign of a serious relationship? Plus, they discuss what actually makes someone a f*ckboy.
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May 02, 2021 |
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How To Have Casual Hookups Without Feeling Disrespected
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the energy in NYC and the post-pandemic dating scene. The first email asks how to have casual relationships without feeling disrespected. Are they always just about 2AM booty calls? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bed wetter and an early morning streak across a college campus. Later, a listener writes in hypothesizing that you shouldn’t date someone who’s new to your city if you’re looking for a serious relationship. How should someone who just moved to town position themselves if they are looking for something serious? Finally, they finish the episode with a new segment called What Would J&J Say? to ghostwrite a listener's text to her ex-boyfriend.
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Apr 28, 2021 |
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Is My Coworker Flirting Or Just Being Friendly?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about relationships with coworkers. An emailer writes in wanting to know if her work crush is flirting with her or just being friendly after their first Zoom meeting felt more like a first date and he offered to help her move. Should she make another move after her initial ask for drinks fell through? Plus, they share their general advice for navigating romantic relationships at work.
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Apr 25, 2021 |
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What You Should Know Before You Pay For Dating App Features
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the paid bonus features on dating apps and if using them makes you look desperate. Would you be turned off by someone sending you a Hinge rose? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter is surprisingly nutritious. Later, an emailer writes in asking how to find an “ass-smacking nice guy” after not feeling the sexual chemistry on first dates. Is there a middle ground between the guy who’s too shy to make a move and the guy only looking to hook up? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about verified check marks and Alexa devices.
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Apr 21, 2021 |
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Is He Bad At Planning Or Does He Just Not Care?
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Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re dissecting texts between a listener and a guy who keeps rescheduling their dates. The emailer thinks the chemistry is there but worries he’s only looking to hook up. How many chances should you give someone to schedule a real date? Should she give him another chance if he reaches out again? Plus, they discuss how to know if a guy is taking you seriously.
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Apr 18, 2021 |
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Are You Setting Your Standards Or Avoiding Rejection?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about adult braces and sharing your space with a significant other during quarantine. An emailer sends in a screenshot of a dating app conversation where she sets her standards of looking for a relationship, but she isn’t sure if the response is sincere. At what point does the “what are you looking for?” conversation actually matter? During the Awkward Sexual Encounter, a listener gets nostalgic about a water bed mishap. Later, an emailers asks for advice on how to handle meeting her boyfriend’s parents when they’re already biased against her for her age and ethnic background. How should her boyfriend be responding to this situation? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about Cheesecake Factory and first date locations.
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Apr 14, 2021 |
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How To Spot a Lazy Dater Before You Get In Too Deep
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Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing when you can assume exclusivity with someone you’re seeing. A listener writes in after her DTR conversation with a long-distance romance did not go as she hoped. Was she reading the signs all wrong? Plus, they talk about the clues that someone is a lazy dater.
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Apr 11, 2021 |
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Lightning Round: Dating App Tips, F*ckboy Streaks, And Running Into Exes
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana change things up with a lightning round of questions submitted by our Instagram followers. Instead of our usual email format, they answer 20 questions with topics ranging from how to get excited about using the dating apps, to running into exes, to how to get your S.O. to go to therapy. Plus, they give their best tips for moving in with your partner, making a dating app profile, and reaching out to a fling that ended because of the pandemic.
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Apr 07, 2021 |
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Why Do People Still Get Married?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about a listener’s unpopular opinion on marriage. The emailer doesn’t think marriage is right for him, not because he’s afraid of commitment but because he doesn’t think it holds the same value in a modern relationship. Is it okay to date without having the end goal of marriage? How should you explain that to your S.O.? Plus, J&J talk about the benefits of marriage today.
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Apr 04, 2021 |
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How Long Should It Take For Them To Say “I Love You”?
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This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about a survey sent to a listener by two of his dating app matches. Is this actually a good way to get to know someone? Next, a listener writes in for help after she told her boyfriend she loved him and he didn’t say it back. Can you ever come back from that conversation if it doesn't go well? Later, an awkward date takes the joke too far in an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another emailer asks for advice on getting back together with an ex whose family doesn’t like her, but J&J see some bigger problems with the relationship. Finally, they finish up the episode by playing Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about zodiac compatibility and LinkedIn affairs.
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Mar 31, 2021 |
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Am I An As*hole If I Keep Hooking Up With Someone Who Has Feelings For Me?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing how to interpret a guy’s lovey dovey messages and whether or not they mean he wants something more. A listener writes in detailing her vacation fling that she doesn’t believe could be a long-term match for her. Does she need to tell him she doesn’t want anything serious or can she continue her beachy booty call without addressing his feelings? Plus, they talk about the best way to be honest about your intentions for a relationship.
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Mar 28, 2021 |
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Can You Call Dibs On A Dating App Match?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start the podcast off by discussing the pros and cons of continuing a long-term relationship that started in college. A listener writes in asking if it’s possible to make things work with her boyfriend even though she feels like she has matured faster than him. Is it ever worth it to wait for an S.O. to grow up? Later, an emailer gets an earful during an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another listener asks about girl code surrounding dating app matches. Is it fair to be mad at your friend for going out with a guy you matched with first? Finally, they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about dog custody battles and bad tattoos.
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Mar 24, 2021 |
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How Many White Lies Make A Red Flag?
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Judge J & J are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts between a listener and her boyfriend to figure out what went wrong with their plans for a Friday night in. How clear do you need to be with your expectations for a date night to avoid being disappointed? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss telling white lies in relationships and whether or not they’re a red flag for the future.
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Mar 21, 2021 |
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Do I Really Want To DTR Or Is It Just Relationship Anxiety? Ft. Victoria Justice
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This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of what it means to be “casual,” and how long you should wait to see if a relationship could turn into something more. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who isn’t in a hurry to progress the relationship. Is it ever too early in a relationship to start owning your standards? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves more tears than your average sex-scapade. Another emailer writes in for advice on how to tell her boyfriend that he’s not invited to her family vacation until he puts a ring on it. Do you need to be engaged before introducing your significant other to your extended family? Finally, they close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breakers all about trust with special guest Victoria Justice to discuss her new movie Trust, out March 12th.
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Mar 17, 2021 |
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How To Ask For What You Want In Bed Without Offending Your Partner Ft. Dr. Emily Morse
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On this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. They start with a conversation about how to open up to your partner about what you want in the bedroom, with some tips for broaching the subject and getting what you want. Emily fills us in on her own sex life and offers advice for those who feel sexually incompatible with their partner. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she and her boyfriend will ever be sexually compatible if they weren’t on the same page in the first place. Then another emailer asks how to deal with a clueless sexual partner, especially when he shows no interest in offering her pleasure after he orgasms. They close the show with a conversation about giving directions to someone and not just expecting them to anticipate your needs.
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Mar 14, 2021 |
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Should I Wait To Break Up Until It’s More Convenient To Move Out?
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Jared and Jordana start the week with a discussion of the rules for how explicit you have to be about what you’re doing surrounding Covid while dating in 2021. A listener writes in with a story about insisting that the guy she’s dating get a test, and how she responded when it came back positive. Is it fair to insist that your partner be more cautious around you? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a UTI and a stained toilet. Another emailer asks how to break up with her uncommunicative boyfriend after moving in together. Is it ever worth staying in a relationship if you can't afford your apartment lease on your own? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, which leads to a conversation about whether or not you should tell your partner when someone else hits on you.
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Mar 10, 2021 |
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How Do I Know If The Person I'm Dating Is Ready To Move On From Their Ex?
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Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to interpret a guy's actions after he failed to reschedule a date. A listener writes in to share the text exchange she had with a guy who said he had to cancel the date but never came back around to pick a new time. The listener wanted to know if she should be more wary of guys who have just gotten out of long term relationships or if this could happen with anyone. Plus, they talk about the appropriate amount of time to wait before calling someone out for their sh*tty behavior.
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Mar 07, 2021 |
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How To Apologize To An Ex You Treated Poorly
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The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re newly interested in. A listener writes in to ask whether or not her own emotional masturbation is getting in the way of setting realistic expectations and developing a healthy relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lube mixup. Then another emailer asks if she should write an apology to her ex for mistakes she made when they were together. Do our exes actually want to hear an apology from us, or should we leave things in the past? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about proper etiquette regarding pulling down someone’s mask before going in for a kiss.
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Mar 03, 2021 |
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Is It Ever Worth Trying To Make It Work With a Bad Communicator?
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This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your relationship stands. A listener writes in to ask how to get the guy she was seeing to be more clear about his feelings now that he’s in a new city. Jordana and Jared read their text exchange and tell us what he’s really trying to accomplish by cutting off communication so abruptly.
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Feb 28, 2021 |
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How To Set The Expectation That You Won’t Be Hooking Up Before A Date
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Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “success” really looks like. Then they dive into a conversation about how to moderate someone’s expectations about whether or not you'll be hooking up before the date. A listener writes in to ask how to communicate to a guy she only met once that she isn’t looking to sleep together right away. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves horrible smelling feet and not enough ventilation. Then another listener writes in to ask if it’s possible to fix her boyfriend’s fashion sense even though he seems pretty committed to his accessories. How do you deal with dating someone who has an unattractive wardrobe? Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about whether or not you should be honest about how many sexual partners you’ve had in the past.
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Feb 24, 2021 |
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How To Get A Straight Answer About Why Your Fling Suddenly Ended
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It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal age for a woman. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing suddenly cooled off on her after hanging out for the first time in a month. Why won’t he give her a straight answer about where things went wrong between them? Jordana and Jared read their latest text exchange and try to explain what each of these people are thinking (and what it says about how we all communicate).
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Feb 21, 2021 |
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Can I Ask My Partner To Pay More If They Make More? Ft. Mike Johnson
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J&J begin the week with a conversation about properly loading the dishwasher (this doesn’t need to be so difficult!) and finding a good date spot in a pandemic. Then they react to a post from someone who applied to the Bachelor while in a relationship. What does it say about your relationship if you daydream about being on The Bachelor when you’re already with someone else? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a listener who suddenly realized that she’s been farting on every sex partner she’s ever slept over with. They read an email from another listener whose boyfriend started making more money but refuses to take on some of the extra household costs. Is it a sign of things to come if your partner insists on splitting everything fifty-fifty? Then they’re joined by Mike Johnson of The Bachelorette and the Talking It Out podcast. They talk about whether it hurts more to end a relationship with someone who did all the right things or someone who did you wrong. Plus, they discuss how to keep a relationship out of the public eye. Is there a difference between being private and secret? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker with Mike, leading to a debate about how to make a proper excuse when you have a bathroom emergency on a first date.
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Feb 17, 2021 |
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How Do I Tell My New Partner About My Food Issues? Ft. Aleen Dreksler
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On this Valentines Day Sunday Special, the J’s are joined by Betches co-founder and host of the Diet Starts Tomorrow podcast, Aleen Dreksler. They start with a conversation about how V-Day expectations change as a relationship gets more serious. Then a listener writes in to share her experience with serious eating disorders (including anorexia and crash dieting) in her romantic life. She asks how and when it’s appropriate to tell the guy she just started dating that she has struggled with disordered eating throughout her life. When is it safe to tell someone that you struggle with food and are still working on it? Another emailer tells a story about dating a guy who lost a lot of weight and feels entitled to criticize other peoples’ bodies. Is it a deal breaker if they make negative comments about another person’s body, or is it possible she's overreacting? Finally, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that his fitness and diet routine is too extreme. Is there a way to tell your partner that you want them to ease up their restrictions (so you can just enjoy a bottle of wine together) without discouraging them from achieving their goals?
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Feb 14, 2021 |
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What Are The Valentine’s Day Expectations In A New Relationship?
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Jared and Jordana begin the week of Valentine’s Day with a conversation about how to celebrate the holiday in 2021. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should expect the guy she’s only been dating for 2 months to plan something this year. J&J rate the level of V-Day expectations at every stage of a relationship, explaining exactly how much effort is required based on the milestones you’ve hit. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves period sex, a flung condom, and a lot of cleanup. Then another listener asks why the guy she just started dating asked her to go on vacation together, then backed out at the last minute. Is he showing that he’s unreliable or just trying to avoid getting too serious too soon? They read a text message exchange about the cancelled vacation and tell us what’s really going on here. Finally, this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breakers feature a debate about whether or not you’re required to split lottery scratcher winnings with the person you’re dating.
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Feb 10, 2021 |
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How To Not Die Alone Ft. Logan Ury
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On this week’s Sunday Special J&J are joined by Logan Ury, behavioral scientist, dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. They talk about how Logan uses her behavioral science background to better understand relationships, including some tips for how to figure out the age in which you should settle down. They discuss the three dating tendencies everyone should be aware of, how to identify our dating blindspots, and why it’s time to say “f*ck the spark” and just commit to a second date. Plus, she confirms one of Jared’s long-running theories about breakups. Then Logan tells the story of how she and her partner took on a health crisis, put on an impromptu wedding ceremony, and moved into a commune. Finally, a listener writes in to ask whether or not her relationship is struggling due to the pandemic, or if it’s a sign of a deeper problem. They discuss the best way to identify whether or not the person you’re dating is right for you long term.
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Feb 07, 2021 |
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Is There A Way To Salvage A Relationship With Very Different Marriage Timelines?
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The J’s start the show with a conversation about criticizing a loved one’s appearance without hurting their feelings. A listener writes in to ask how she should bring up her partner’s balding head, and whether or not he’ll be offended by her suggestion to shave it all off. Is there any way to comment on your partner’s appearance without things going horribly wrong? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a fully masked guy going down on a fully clothed girl. Then another emailer asks whether her recent breakup was inevitable after relocating for each other but not feeling the desire to take it to the next level. Is there an expiration date on a relationship if you’ve been together a long time and aren’t considering marriage? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about asking family members to join you on an otherwise romantic vacation.
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Feb 03, 2021 |
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How Many FaceTime Dates Equal One IRL Date?
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This week’s Sunday Special is all about trying to walk back a first date hook up in order to start taking things slower. A listener writes in about a guy who seems to be avoiding the second date after a great text exchange and a successful first meeting. Is it always a mistake to agree to a Netflix and chill hook up on the first date if you’re hoping for something more serious down the line? J&J examine their texts after the date and try to explain why he isn’t trying harder to see her again. Plus, they explain why having a series of FaceTime dates before meeting up in person might trick you into thinking things are more serious than the other person perceives.
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Jan 31, 2021 |
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How To Get Your Parents To Stop Pressuring You To Date
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Jared and Jordana start the show with a reaction to Clare and Dale from The Bachelorette suddenly calling it quits, and tell us what this says about people who swear they’ve “met the one” too quickly. Then a listener writes in to ask how to deal with parents that excessively pressure you to date. How do you create boundaries without starting a fight? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an old couch, bad aim, and an overeager virgin. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s shady for her boyfriend to hide his IG stories about his relationship from a select list of women. Is he trying to keep them from seeing he’s in a relationship so that he can keep his options open? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a conversation about people who wait a full week to text you back.
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Jan 27, 2021 |
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Everything You Need To Know About Dating With Herpes Ft. Erica Spera
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This Sunday Jared and Jordana are joined by Erica Spera, comedian and host of the Shooters Gotta Shoot podcast. They start with a conversation about dating with herpes, including some of the most common misconceptions associated with it. Is it time for people to stop stigmatizing herpes and be open about it? Plus, they debate when it’s the right time to disclose sensitive information to a sexual partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she’s obligated to share her herpes diagnosis with a new partner before they get serious. Is it better to be up front about it, or should you wait until things get more serious to have that conversation?
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Jan 24, 2021 |
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Should I Tell Him I Snooped On His Phone If I Didn't Like What I Saw? Ft. Stephen Colletti & James Lafferty
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J&J start the show talking about the value of spending time away from your partner (even if it’s just during work hours) and tell us what they think of the new Cameo breakup trend. Then they share some listener responses to recent Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a series of detailed explanations for the closed-mouth kisser. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bag of sh*t on the counter and no chance to explain. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should tell her new boyfriend that he has to stop sending check-in texts to his ex. Is it a violation of their trust if he doesn’t tell her that he keeps sending messages to his ex? Finally, they’re joined by Stephen Colletti and James Lafferty to talk about their new series Everyone Is Doing Great and play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. They debate whether or not it’s flattering for someone to Google you before a first date, and close the show with a conversation about who should pick up the bill.
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Jan 20, 2021 |
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Does An Expensive Date Imply That He Wants A Relationship Or Sex?
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The Sunday Special is all about whether or not a guy taking you out on an expensive date indicates that he's looking for something more serious than just sex. A listener writes in to share a story about having sex following a $200 dinner and not hearing from the guy again. Did he really spend all that money for a one night stand? J&J read their text exchange that went from casual hook up-chat to going on a real date and explain where the communication went wrong. They talk all about setting expectations with someone you’re dating and the pitfalls of expecting someone to get on the same page about what they want out of the relationship.
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Jan 17, 2021 |
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Is It Normal To Keep Track Of Every Date You’ve Been On?
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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about obsessively tracking your dating life and what it might say about your approach to romance. They react to a TikTok from a woman who maintains a detailed spreadsheet tracking all the guys she’s dated. Should all single people be tracking their dates to see what’s working and what isn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blowjob and an accidental snorting incident. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should be open and honest about family issues with someone she just started dating. Is it necessary to divulge your family secrets, or is that something you save for after the relationship gets serious? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a text exchange that always ends in exclamation points!
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Jan 13, 2021 |
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How To Spot An A*shole Who’s Pretending He’s a Nice Guy
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This Sunday Special is all about dating someone who may still be seeing their ex. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who has repeatedly asked for a date even though he seems to be back with his ex-girlfriend. Why would someone try so hard to get you invested in a relationship with them if they have something else going? The J’s go through her most recent text exchange with this guy and try to figure out whether or not he is aware that he’s being called out. Finally, they share the solution for dealing with guys who try to get away with treating you like a side chick.
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Jan 10, 2021 |
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Is There Ever A Chance A Long Term Hook Up Can Turn Into A Relationship?
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Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about whether or not you can ever turn a long term hook up into a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if there’s any way the guy she has been hooking up with for the last seven years will consider making things official. Is it worth trying to get him to see her differently, or is he set in his ways? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an attempt to make out with a tight-lipped kisser. Then another emailer asks if it’s normal that her boyfriend sets calendar reminders to tell her he loves her. Is this a sign that he’s a thoughtful partner or a careless one? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a question about dating someone who only uses one fork.
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Jan 06, 2021 |
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Is It a Bad Sign if He’s Saying He Doesn’t Want to See Me Until the Pandemic is Over?
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This week, the Sunday Special is all about dating someone who wants to put things on ice until they are more comfortable about the pandemic. A listener writes in to ask why a guy she had great chemistry with would call it quits and whether or not she should wait for him to come around later in the year. Plus, they break down a text exchange between the couple and explain exactly what this guy is looking for.
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Jan 03, 2021 |
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How To Move On In The Midst Of A Pandemic
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J&J start the show with a conversation about New Year’s resolutions and how the pandemic has changed everything, including how we look at love and relationships. Then a listener writes in to ask how to move on in the midst of a pandemic after calling things off with her boyfriend of two years. Is it normal to feel ‘frozen’ after a devastating breakup? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about getting stuck in a guy’s bathroom the morning after a one night stand. Then another emailer asks how to tell her college boyfriend that she wants him to focus on getting a new job for the sake of their shared future. Is it fair to expect him to prioritize their future immediately out of college, or should she move on from the relationship altogether? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a revelation about Jared and Jordana’s love of Benihana (even on a first date).
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Dec 30, 2020 |
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How To Get A Guy Who Won't Date You To Stop Looking At Your Instagram Story
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This week’s Sunday Special features a Deal Reveal all about guys who try to keep things casual. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was hooking up with asked if he could keep the conversation going even though they’ve made it clear they’re not looking for the same things. Is he hoping she will change her mind about hooking up casually even though she’s told him otherwise? J&J read the back-and-forth text exchange and explain where both parties stand. Plus, they tell us why guys will keep trying to circle back to see if your standards have changed.
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Dec 27, 2020 |
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How Do I Get Over An Ex Moving On Too Quickly? Ft. Bo Burnham
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Jared and Jordana get this holiday week started with an update on Jordana’s #treebetch reviews and a conversation about people who still get into the Christmas spirit the way they did as children. Then they answer an email from a listener who is devastated to find out that her ex is already back to dating his college girlfriend just a month after they split. How do you get over having someone move on to a new relationship so quickly? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a female condom that went missing in action. Then another listener writes in to ask why her ex-boyfriend didn’t give her the response she was looking for when she tried to rekindle their relationship after breaking up with him. Finally, the J's are joined by comedian and actor Bo Burnham to talk about the new movie Promising Young Woman and to play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including one about sharing a meal-prep promo code on a dating app.
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Dec 23, 2020 |
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Is It Possible To Turn An Out-Of-Town Fling Into Something Real?
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The Sunday Special is all about what it means when your long-distance fling won’t make an effort to see you again. J&J analyze a listener’s text exchange with a guy who failed to plan another meetup and won’t come to her city this time around. Is he intentionally keeping her on the hook without letting things get serious? Finally, they talk about why it’s important to figure out what you actually want out of the relationship in order to understand what to do next.
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Dec 20, 2020 |
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Here Are The Signs That Your Boyfriend Is Trying To Break Up With You
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J&J start the show with a conversation about how to handle dating after a major body transformation. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should tell a guy about her drastic weight loss before hooking up, especially if she’s feeling insecure. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an exchange of “I love you’s” and some embarrassing oral sex. Then another listener asks if her boyfriend is looking to break up with her or just setting expectations for the future. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker featuring a conversation about whether it’s harder to date someone that’s a total grinch or way too into the holiday spirit.
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Dec 16, 2020 |
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Does A Random “How Are You?” Text Mean They’re Looking To Hookup?
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The Sunday Special features an email from a confused listener who wants to know why a guy would reach out five months after severing their quarantine fling. Is he really interested in finding out “how you’re doing” or is he just looking to hook up again? Plus, J&J talk about whether or not people ever want someone to check in out of the blue, and why no one is ever straightforward about their motives.
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Dec 13, 2020 |
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How Do I Relay That I Want An Expensive Engagement Ring Without Seeming Shallow?
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Jared and Jordana are in the holiday spirit and start with a conversation about celebrating as an “interfaith couple” this year. Plus, they talk about Jordana’s destiny as a Christmas tree connoisseur. Then they answer a listener email about how to tell the guy she started seeing that she wants to be exclusive for the sake of covid safety. How do you broach the subject without coming off as "too much" to someone you’ve only been dating for a month? Another listener asks how to safely connect for a casual meetup in the times of covid closures. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a passionate hookup and an accidental 911 call. Then another listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that she expects a pricey engagement ring. How do you explain that you care about the marriage but also care about the ring? Finally, they finish things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including a debate about backseat driving.
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Dec 09, 2020 |
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Why Would An Ex Swipe Right On My Dating Profile?
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This week’s Sunday Special features an email from a listener who matched on a dating app with a guy she dated who recently rejected her. Is this a sign that he still wants to see her? Plus, they explain why a guy would reignite a connection and the implications it has for where things are going.
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Dec 06, 2020 |
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Is It Okay To Judge Someone You're Dating By Their Friend Group?
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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about cuffing season being more important this year than ever before. Then they answer an emailer who wants to know if she is free to leave the apartment if her boyfriend tests positive for coronavirus. Is this a passive aggressive way of fighting with your partner or just a practical question about staying healthy? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a marching band hook up and a drummer with too much rhythm. Then another listener asks how to deal with dating a new guy who has different political opinions, especially when his friends are at odds with hers. Should she respect his desire to avoid political conversations with his friends and is it fair for him to judge her by the company she keeps? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about requesting a selfie before going on a first date.
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Dec 02, 2020 |
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These Are The Signs You Shouldn’t Go On That First Date
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This week’s Sunday Special is all about getting a last-minute text to confirm plans for a dinner date even though there was plenty of time to lock it in. Should you hold your ground and pass on the date or just go through with it? Plus, does this indicate that no one wants to go on the date in the first place, or is it just a matter of miscommunication? They discuss the dynamics of getting out of a first date and why we often struggle with the decision.
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Nov 29, 2020 |
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Do I Have a Right To Ask The Guy I'm Seeing Why He's Following Girls On Instagram?
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Jared and Jordana are back on this Thanksgiving Eve episode to talk about spending holidays together as a couple and what it says about your relationship. Then an emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her new boyfriend to be as thoughtful as her when it comes to gift giving. How do you ask your partner to do something when it's not in their nature? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a faulty vibrator and a startled cat. Then another listener asks if she should be worried that the guy she started talking to again is consistently following new girls on Instagram each day. Is he telling other women the same things he’s telling her, or is this just harmless social media behavior? Finally, the show closes with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what you should do if you find the wrong color strand of hair in your partner’s bed.
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Nov 25, 2020 |
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Is It Worse To Be A Cynical Dater Or A Naive Dater?
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On this week's Sunday Special, a listener writes in to ask how she should respond to a guy who took her out and then sent an uncomfortably long text explaining why he wants to just be friends. Why would a guy go to the trouble of spilling his guts over text if it’s not going to be a romantic connection? Plus, they explain why he felt the need to treat their text exchange like a therapy session and how she should react.
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Nov 22, 2020 |
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How Soon Should You Expect To Get Daily Messages From A Person You Started Dating?
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The J’s start the show with a reaction to tone-deaf people on social media and a conversation about trying to make things romantic in a relationship after you move in together. Then a listener writes in to ask how much daily communication tells you about where a relationship is at. How soon should you expect to hear from a guy on a daily basis? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves chafing from too much masturbation and an unlikely solution. Then a guy writes in to ask for advice after his childhood crush turned into a quarantine fling, but now she went back home and is starting to ghost him. Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about whether or not you could date someone who considers their friendship with an ex to be a “package deal.”
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Nov 18, 2020 |
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Does It Count As Cheating If He's Getting Nudes From Someone He Never Met?
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To celebrate the three year anniversary of the U Up? podcast, Jared and Jordana are back to answer another listener email. This time around, the emailer found nudes in her boyfriend’s Snapchat messages and isn’t satisfied with his explanation. Should she give him the benefit of the doubt that he “didn’t know it was a real person” and cut things off after some back and forth? Plus, they talk about his history with cheating on an ex and whether or not she should hold it against him.
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Nov 15, 2020 |
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Is It a Dealbreaker If Your Significant Other Won’t Get a Dog?
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Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about cringe-worthy behavior from influencers (and review Jordana’s charcuterie board). Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she’s been dating for cancelling plans at the last minute, even though she discovered the lie using his dating app location. How much deception should we ignore early in the dating process? Plus, another emailer asks if using the dating app geo-locator after matching with someone counts as spying. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween hookup and a chance run-in with his parents the next morning. Next, a listener asks whether or not she should be concerned that her long-term boyfriend is talking about getting a dog even though she doesn't approve. Does this mean that he’s not thinking of her as being part of his life in the future? Finally, they close things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about whether or not you should date a former reality show contestant.
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Nov 11, 2020 |
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Should I Keep Talking To Someone Who's In An Open Relationship?
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On this Sunday Special, it’s time for another Deal Reveal as the J’s help a listener that says she started messaging with a former coworker who turned out to be in a relationship. Why would he like all of her photos and watch her IG stories if he is already with someone? They talk about connecting over a kinky dating app, and discuss whether or not this guy is just being up front about his open relationship, or shutting her down entirely.
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Nov 08, 2020 |
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Where's the Line Between Being Shady and Wanting Privacy?
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Jared and Jordana start the show by asking whether or not it’s a deal breaker if someone wants to see your Instagram before going on a first date. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that the guy she matched with immediately asked to take the conversation off the app and to Instagram DM. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bunk bed, a bloody nose, and a sudden interruption. Then another listener asks if she should be concerned that her partner unplugged the dog camera when she wasn’t home. Should she be worried that he has something to hide, or is this a violation of his privacy? Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about splitting the check on a first date.
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Nov 04, 2020 |
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Is It Ever Too Early To Tell a Guy You’re Really Into Him?
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On this Sunday’s Deal Reveal, the J’s respond to a listener who is confused why the guy she was seeing got freaked out the moment she asked if they were “on the same page” as one another. They read the last text exchange between the couple and try to decipher what it all means. Do guys stop texting because they’re afraid of commitment, or is it something else? Finally, they discuss whether or not this girl should have played things differently, drawing comparisons to the situation in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days.
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Nov 01, 2020 |
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Is It Time to Start Accepting That Closure Isn’t A Real Thing?
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Jordana and Jared start the show with a conversation about Halloween and dating. A listener writes in to ask if her boyfriend secretly has a crush on his roommate, and whether or not it’s weird that he and the roommate are doing a couples costume for Halloween. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween costume, a circus theme, and some spontaneous role play. Then another emailer asks if she should hold off on dating again after a difficult breakup. At what point do you admit that you might never get closure and start dating again? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including one about using coupons on a first date.
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Oct 28, 2020 |
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Is It Possible To Wait Too Long To Have Sex With Someone?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J talk about waiting to have sex and whether or not people will lose interest in the relationship if you wait too long. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing called things off after four dates (despite great chemistry), and whether or not it really boils down to the fact that she said she wanted to wait longer before having sex. Plus, they discuss the proper etiquette for calling things off and why people try to soften the blow.
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Oct 25, 2020 |
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Can I Improve My Dating Life By Moving to a New City?
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The J’s start the show with a conversation about whether or not moving to a new city will improve your dating life. A listener writes in to ask if she should just pick up and move to a new city to improve her odds of finding someone. Is the city ever really the cause of your dating woes? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a mid-sex pause to return a text. Another emailer asks whether or not she should confront her boyfriend after snooping on his phone and finding unanswered late-night texts to an unknown number. How are you supposed to react when you snoop and find something suspicious? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about what it means if the person you just started dating doesn’t follow you back on social media.
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Oct 21, 2020 |
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Is It Worse To Do The Slow Fade Or Ghost Someone Completely?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, the J’s return with yet another deal reveal. A listener writes in to share a text exchange that suddenly fell silent with no explanation. Should he have given her excuses in order to fade out slowly instead of abruptly ghosting her? J&J read the texts and tell us exactly what happened here, along with insight into what this guy was actually thinking when he ghosted.
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Oct 18, 2020 |
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Should I Stop Seeing A Guy That Won’t Call Me His Girlfriend?
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The J’s are back and talking about how hard it is for single people to not drink on dates. Two different listeners write in to ask how to maintain a normal dating life if you’re not a drinker. Will people judge you on a first date if you don’t order alcohol? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a secret work hookup. Then another emailer asks how to react when the guy she’s been living with declares that they aren’t officially dating. Why do some guys go out of their way to avoid putting a label on the relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who make instagram accounts for their dogs.
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Oct 14, 2020 |
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How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Talk About His Erectile Dysfunction?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, Urologist at NYU, to talk about the various potential problems guys face in the bedroom. They start out by settling a debate from a recent Awkward Sexual Encounter regarding peeing during an erection. Then they read an email from a listener whose boyfriend experiences erectile dysfunction and is afraid to seek treatment. When a guy can’t get it up, is the problem more likely to be mental or physical? They also discuss guys who have a problem staying erect, as well as those who orgasm too quickly. Finally, they close the show with some surprising information about infertility in men.
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Oct 11, 2020 |
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Is It Fair To Judge My Partner For Not Being Ambitious Enough?
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Jordana and Jared return and start the show with a conversation about learning to tolerate your partner’s work personality. A listener writes in to ask how she should react to her partner crying over the stress of work, especially now that they are stuck working from home in the same space. How do you help a partner who won't help themself? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who doesn’t think girls fart and a ruined hookup. Then another emailer asks if it’s fair to expect his partner to continue working when they get married even though he can afford to support them financially. Do people really care if their partner is “ambitious” or is it actually all about the money? Finally, they play some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about guys and their fantasy drafts.
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Oct 07, 2020 |
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What's the Best Way to Handle Rejection?
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On this Sunday Special, the J’s are back with another deal reveal from a listener who was rejected over text by a guy she was dating. They start out by reading both sides of the text exchange, and weigh in on whether or not the guy’s explanation was sufficient. Does it feel better or worse to get the “I’m actually dating someone else” excuse or nothing at all? Plus, they discuss whether or not you should ever give someone another chance if they come back around and try to go on another date.
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Oct 04, 2020 |
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Should We Stop Asking People What They’re “Looking For” On A Dating App?
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J&J return and start the show with a conversation about the Netflix show Dating on the Spectrum, and what it can teach us about dating cues. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was dating selected the “don’t know” option in the “what are you looking for” menu of a dating app. How honest should your dating profile be about what you’re actually looking for? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and a piece of mint gum. Then another emailer asks why the girl he was seeing broke things off the way she did. When someone seems sad to be ending things, does that mean the door is still open for a relationship down the road? Finally, they close the show with some RF or DB, including a conversation about how to react when a guy doesn’t plan anything for the first date.
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Sep 30, 2020 |
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Should I Reach Back Out To Someone Who Ghosted Me?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are talking about reaching back out to someone after they ghosted you in the past. They examine a listener’s texts after she stopped getting messages from a guy she liked. Did he stop responding because of the pandemic, or because he didn’t want to see her anymore? Plus, they talk about when it’s appropriate to shoot your shot one last time.
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Sep 27, 2020 |
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Can You Ask Someone To Delete Your Nudes After You Break Up?
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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone to delete your nudes after you break up. Then a listener writes in to share her concerns about an ex holding onto the pictures she sent while they were dating, and asks whether or not she should just ask him to delete them altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a friendly hookup, a used tampon, and a Gatorade bottle. Then another emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her partner to continue with their plans for marriage and kids even during a pandemic. Is it okay to admit that your biological clock is not pandemic proof? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about social media turn offs.
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Sep 23, 2020 |
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How Detailed Should A Breakup Text Be After Just A Few Dates?
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On this Sunday Special, the J’s return with a deal reveal about breakup texts. First, they take turns reading each side of a long text exchange about pandemic comfort levels and going your separate ways. Then they decide whether or not this guy mansplained his overly detailed excuse for why he doesn’t see things working out.
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Sep 20, 2020 |
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Can You Ever Assume You’re In A Relationship With Someone Without Having “The Talk”?
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J&J start the show with a conversation about all the things diet culture and dating culture have in common, and why people just want to be told what to do. Then a listener writes in to ask how to keep the new guy she’s dating from losing interest in her when he goes on vacation. Is he bound to forget about her if she doesn’t make an effort to keep his attention? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a daring maneuver, a missed target, and an embarrassing fall off the bed. Then another listener emails to ask whether or not the relationship labels conversation needs to be explicit. Is it fair to assume you can call each other boyfriend and girlfriend without first discussing it? Finally, they finish with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone who wants to be an influencer.
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Sep 16, 2020 |
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How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Spend More Time With Me? Ft. Dr. Naomi Bernstein (Jordana’s Sister)
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On this Sunday Special, the J’s are joined once again by Jordana’s sister (and fan favorite), clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about the biggest challenges couples have been facing since the pandemic began. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should insist her partner cut back on his recreational spending so that they can save more for their future home. Is it fair to expect him to sacrifice the same way she does? Finally, an emailer asks if it’s normal for her boyfriend to continue staying at his family’s vacation home even though they just moved in together. Is it fair to ask him to spend more time at home so that she doesn’t feel so lonely?
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Sep 13, 2020 |
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Why Does He Keep Texting Me If He Won’t Make A Date?
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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about sharing passwords in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if she should be concerned that her boyfriend refuses to share his social media passwords, especially considering that he has been caught texting other women in the past. Should it be assumed that you share passwords in your relationship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a neck injury and a massage gun. Then another emailer is frustrated that the guy she has been talking to is only a late-night texter and refuses to acknowledge that he won’t make time for her during the day. Is it time to call it quits or should she continue to pursue a relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about sharing a dog with an ex.
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Sep 09, 2020 |
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How Do You Signal To A Guy That It’s Okay To Approach You In Public? Ft. Girls Gotta Eat
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Ashley Hesseltine and Rayna Greenberg of Girls Gotta Eat podcast. They start with an update on Ashley and Rayna’s dating lives, including tips for signaling to guys that it’s okay to approach you in public. Plus, they talk about hooking up during quarantine and posting IG stories that are targeted at one person in particular. Then a listener writes in to ask whether it’s fair for her brother to request that she stop dating his close friend. Should she continue the relationship or respect her brother’s feelings? Finally, they close out the show with a great game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Sep 06, 2020 |
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Is It A Red Flag If Someone Expresses Strong Feelings Right Away?
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J&J start the week with a discussion about differing pandemic precaution levels in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask how she should handle her boyfriend’s stress level and anxiety when she still wants to maintain a social life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a lit candle, a poorly positioned pillow, and a moment of panic. Then another emailer asks what it means if a guy shows too much interest too early. Should she be concerned that he expressed strong feelings at the beginning, or should she take it as a positive sign? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker, which leads to a conversation about buying expensive gifts when you’re newly dating.
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Sep 02, 2020 |
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The One Where We Talk About Indian Matchmaking Ft. Aparna Shewakramani
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On this Sunday’s episode, the J’s are joined by Aparna Shewakramani of the hit Netflix series Indian Matchmaking. They start out with an explanation of how real world matchmaking differs from the way it was presented on the show. Plus, Aparna talks about why her preferences were ignored, how the public has reacted to her portrayal, and what her dating life is like right now. Finally, they close the show with a surprisingly forgiving round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Aug 30, 2020 |
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Should I Be Worried That My Boyfriend Won’t Talk About Marriage?
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The J’s start this week with a conversation about post-engagement nerves and the way people reacted to the news that Jordana is getting married. Plus, Jordana makes another exciting announcement. Then a listener writes in to ask if her own boyfriend will ever come around to the idea of marriage, and whether or not she needs to just move on. How long should you wait for someone to get on the same page about marriage? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves begrudging oral sex, a hair in the throat, and an overly dramatic response. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a heated debate about how to properly give directions to your partner in the car.
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Aug 26, 2020 |
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Is It Normal To Obsess Over My Boyfriend’s Ex?
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On this Sunday Special episode of the U Up? podcast, the J’s receive an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s ex and wants to know more about their relationship. Why can’t she get over it, and will her insecurity inevitably damage their relationship? Plus, they talk about how hard it can be to join their friend group when the ex was so entwined in their crew.
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Aug 23, 2020 |
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How To Interpret An Ex's Viewing Of Your Instagram Stories
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J&J start the week with a conversation about the Netflix show Indian Matchmaking and a conversation about getting to know your future spouse. Then a listener writes in to ask why her ex suddenly stopped watching her IG story even though they recently hooked up. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a tampon, marathon sex, and an overly talkative doctor. Another emailer writes in with a scenario about a guy blowing off a date and getting spotted in public that night with another girl. Should you meet up again to ask for an explanation, or just call it off entirely? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about filtering people based on education, and a question about hanging onto old keepsakes from a previous relationship.
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Aug 19, 2020 |
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Do You Deserve An Explanation If Someone Ends Things After the Third Date?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are back with a deal reveal. A listener writes in to ask about a guy who called things off out of the blue after the third date, leaving her wondering whether or not he’s being genuine. J&J read both sides of the text exchange and reveal the truth behind his messages, leading to a conversation about following up for an explanation after things end.
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Aug 16, 2020 |
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Is It Possible To Go From Sexting To Dating?
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The J’s get this week’s episode started with a conversation about turning your sexting penpal into a real relationship. A listener writes in to ask how to move the conversation from sexting back to serious. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a pack of discarded birth control placebos and an uncomfortable conversation. Another listener asks how to react if the person you matched with on a dating app shows up to the first date with a beard they didn’t have in their profile. How much are you willing to accept if someone's appearance differs from their pictures? Finally, they finish things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a debate about whether or not to reschedule a date if someone falls asleep and stands you up.
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Aug 12, 2020 |
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The One Where Jordana Got Engaged
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J&J return for a Sunday Special episode with some big news… Jordana just got engaged! They tell us how it went down, when exactly the engagement conversation got started, and how it feels to go from dating to engaged. Jordana shares how she went about helping to pick a ring and passed the information along to her fiancé. Plus, they talk about the pitfalls of telling your friends the engagement is coming soon, and close the show with all the details on how he popped the question.
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Aug 09, 2020 |
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Why Do People Keep Cancelling On Me Before Dates?
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J&J begin this week with a conversation about the increase in date cancellations during covid. Are people cancelling more often than they used to? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bent penis and an unpleasant trip to the ER. Another emailer writes in to ask why the guy she just became exclusive with keeps insisting that they wait to have sex. How does she tell him she’s ready without coming off desperate? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a conversation about how early in a relationship you can start leaving things at your partner’s place.
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Aug 05, 2020 |
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Is It Okay To Be Jealous Of My Boyfriend’s Hot Female Friend?
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The J’s start the week with conversation about why some people always seem to be the ones who get dumped, while others are doing all the dumping. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a puddle on the ground, an embarrassing fall, and a misunderstanding about fluids. How are some guys still so clueless about female anatomy? Another emailer writes in with a story about going on a first date and getting cornered in the bathroom with a message from her date's ex. Is it a dealbreaker if someone warns you about the way they've treated partners in the past? Then a listener asks whether or not she should be worried that her boyfriend’s attractive neighbor has gotten so close to him since he moved in. What are the boundaries on guy/girl friendships when you’re in a committed relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about living near your ex.
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Jul 29, 2020 |
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How to Judge a Guy By His Birthday Text
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The J’s start the week with a debate about whether or not guys like women with curly hair, and a conversation about how you’d react if your partner payed someone on an OnlyFans page. Then, a listener writes in to ask how to reach out if your date hasn’t texted you after a while. Is it possible to make the next move without coming off desperate? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a movie soundtrack, constant interruptions, and an uncomfortable amount of Lord of the Rings talk. Another listener writes in to ask whether or not the “just joined” label on dating apps gives people the impression you’re just looking for rebound sex after a breakup. Should you be up front about the fact that you’re fresh out of a relationship? Then an emailer asks how early in a relationship you should tell someone that you’re bisexual. Finally, they finish things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what it means when someone you’re dating sends a subpar birthday text.
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Jul 22, 2020 |
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Why Are Some People Always In Relationships And Others Always Single?
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J&J begin the show with a conversation about the wave of Karen videos going around and why people can’t help but watch them. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should start following a guy that she met briefly and developed a crush on at work on Instagram. What does it signal to a guy if you initiate the IG follow? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing vibrator and a desperate quest to retrieve it. Another listener writes in to ask why some people always seem to be in a relationship and others are perpetually single. Next, an emailer asks if she should agree to put her relationship on hold for the sake of their careers, and whether or not it’s best to cut off all communication during a break. Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a debate about using liquor bottles as decor.
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Jul 15, 2020 |
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How Do I Get My Partner To Compliment Me More?
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The J’s start the week with a conversation about the return to in-person dating now that many states have started to at least partially re-open. A listener writes in to ask how long is too long to talk to someone from a dating app before meeting them. Are the stakes higher than a regular first date when you’re meeting out of quarantine? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a parked minivan, a dead battery, and a dad with jumper cables. Another emailer asks whether or not she should be concerned that her boyfriend’s ex is still Facebook friends with his mom and likes everything she posts. Next, a listener wants her boyfriend to give her more compliments but doesn’t know how to bring it up. Finally, they finish out the week with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about people who allow the restaurant to ‘surprise’ them with their meal each time they order.
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Jul 08, 2020 |
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Should I Respond To A Random Text From An Ex?
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J&J begin the show with an email from a listener whose girlfriend watched footage of his ex’s wedding and made fun of the people from his hometown. Is it a dealbreaker if someone doesn’t respect where you're from? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a dog, a tongue, and some misplaced blame. Another emailer asks if she’s reading too much into her boyfriend choosing to buy a house without including her in the process. Then a listener writes in to ask about a series of confusing texts she got from a guy that broke things off over a year ago and is using Covid to get back into her good graces. Finally, they close things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone you’re dating to quit smoking.
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Jul 01, 2020 |
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How Do I Get My Partner To Improve Without Insulting Them?
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The J’s start the week with a conversation about how to talk to your partner about a hygiene issue that could offend them. A listener writes in to ask how she can encourage her new boyfriend to address his earwax problem without making it a big deal. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who won’t have sex on the first date but is open to it the morning after. Another emailer asks how to feel about her boyfriend’s response to the Black Lives Matter protests. Should she be concerned about their compatibility if he’s not willing to post publicly about the movement? Then a listener asks whether or not premium options on dating apps actually give you a better chance of finding a partner. Is the ‘super like’ a turn on or an act of desperation? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including a debate about changing your name to please the person you’re with.
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Jun 24, 2020 |
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Why Was My Ex Able To Move On So Fast And I Can’t?
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J&J start the show with an email from a listener who was blindsided when she found out her ex-boyfriend moved on so quickly, and in such a public way. What does it say about your former relationship when your ex moves on too fast? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves fresh sheets, embarrassing facial expressions, and a misunderstanding about the pillow. Then another emailer writes in about a new relationship that suddenly became long-distance due to the pandemic, derailing her plan to get serious and come out to her family. Next, a listener asks for advice dealing with a former fling that reached back out after a long period of no contact. Did she shut the door on the possibility to check back in with him to see where they stand? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who constantly ask if you washed your hands.
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Jun 17, 2020 |
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Is It A Huge Mistake To Tell A Guy That You’re Open To Something Casual?
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The J’s begin this week with an email from an avid milk drinker who is turned on by a past listener’s love of milk. What do the things you love say about your values? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a burning candle, an impromptu massage, and a huge misunderstanding. Then another emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should feel judged by a guy who called things off after she admitted to occasionally smoking weed. Next, an emailer asks why the guy she’s talking to is quick to respond to Snapchat messages but hesitant to take things to text. Did she make a mistake by telling him she was only looking for something casual? Finally, this week’s game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker features a debate about what kind of person actually wants to be on the show Four Weddings.
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Jun 10, 2020 |
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Is It Okay To Ask Your Quarantine Fling Not To Hook Up With Others?
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J&J get the show started with a conversation about people shaming each other for the extent to which they’re social distancing. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she just started seeing after he sent a screenshot that ‘accidentally’ included a popped up snapchat with another girl’s name. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing pair of testicles and a doctor’s explanation. Another emailer asks if it’s reasonable to ask a quarantine fling to remain exclusive for as long as you keep hooking up, even if you’re not actually dating. Next, they respond to a listener who is struggling to be happy for her friends getting engaged when her boyfriend hasn’t proposed after dating for much longer than other couples. Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a discussion about people who lose their phone when they’re drunk.
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Jun 03, 2020 |
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Is This Relationship Real Or Just A Quarantine Distraction?
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The J’s start the show with a conversation about couples who moved in together for quarantine, and whether or not it’s okay to go back to living apart once this all ends. They offer advice to a listener whose boyfriend moved in for just this reason on how to navigate the transition back to “normal” life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a guy who doesn’t know whether or not he’s circumcised. Is it a huge red flag if your partner doesn’t know their own anatomy? Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should be alarmed that the guy she just started seeing hasn’t mentioned that he was married before. Another listener asks whether or not the quarantine-hookup in her building is using his past relationship as a cop out for getting more serious. Is it possible that he’s genuinely not ready for a relationship, or is she just a quarantine distraction? Finally, they finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about dating with strict food restrictions.
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May 27, 2020 |
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Is It Okay To Like Photos Of Your Friend’s Ex?
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Jordana & Jared get the show started this week with details about the upcoming U Up? Live At Home show and a conversation about social media etiquette when it comes to liking photos. Then they dive into a listener email about what to do when your best friend keeps hitting ‘like’ on photos posted by your ex. Is this a violation of some sort of unwritten rule of friendship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a foot fetish and an unsatisfying finish. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she was DMing with never called or texted when she gave him her number. Was she too eager to take the next step or is she just overthinking things? Another listener asks how to start a conversation about finances during quarantine with her significant other. Is it fair to ask your partner to take on more of the financial burden when you lose your job? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about whether or not it’s weird to have a roommate of the opposite sex.
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May 20, 2020 |
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Should Couples Stop Moving In Together Before Getting Engaged?
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The J’s start things off with a conversation about quarantine sex and whether or not the frequency has changed for couples since getting trapped indoors. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s okay to move in together without getting engaged first. Do people underestimate the importance of the move-in as a milestone? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted golden shower and an apologetic Taco Tuesday. Then a listener asks if it’s messed up for a guy to be mad at her for not wanting to meet up in person during quarantine. Another emailer asks if it’s a bad idea to go straight from living in your parents’ house to living with your boyfriend. Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a conversation about people who get angry at strangers who aren't social-distancing.
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May 13, 2020 |
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Who Gets To Decide Where You Quarantine As A Couple? Ft. Mark Manson
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J&J start the week with a conversation about who gets to decide where you quarantine as a couple. A listener writes in to ask whether her boyfriend of five years should feel obligated to come quarantine with her in her parents’ home. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a random flip into the air, a pair of bunnies, and a strange invitation. Plus, Jared shares a hilarious story about a spontaneous flip ruining his night. Then they’re joined by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, to talk about his new audiobook Love Is Not Enough. They start with a conversation about the concept of ‘f*ck yes or no’ and why sometimes it’s best for people to just admit it’s time to move on. Together, they answer another emailer’s question about a guy she’s been seeing during the pandemic, and whether or not it will all end the moment quarantine is over. Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about someone you dated adding you on LinkedIn.
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May 06, 2020 |
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How To Tell If You’re Bored In Your Relationship Or Just Bored Of Quarantine
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The J’s start the show with an update on quarantine dating, and a conversation about whether or not video chatting before in-person dates will become the new norm. Then a listener writes in to ask how to tell if you’re bored of quarantine or just bored in your relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a late night fart and a discussion about the proper etiquette for being gross around your partner. Another emailer writes in to ask if it’s unfair to invite her boyfriend over during quarantine even though she’s not comfortable with her roommate having friends over. Is this a double standard, or is she in the right to see it as two separate things? Then another listener asks for help with texts from a guy who keeps flaking on her but continues to ask for another chance. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about dating someone who has never left their hometown.
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Apr 29, 2020 |
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What Do You Do When You’re Fed Up With Quarantine Dating?
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J & J get things started this week with a conversation about avoiding fights with your significant other when you’re stuck trying to work and coexist in the same living space. Then they discuss the reasons why some men are resistant to going on a Zoom date, and an emailer asks what to do when you’re fed up with quarantine dating altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves Gucci in the bedroom, a Gucci bathroom, and a suspicious deodorant choice. Plus, Jared makes a shocking confession. Another listener writes in to ask why the guy who refused to commit to her is still sending casual Snapchat and Instagram messages. Then another emailer asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend hides (and deletes) his text conversations from her. Is there any reasonable explanation for why he could be hiding his messages? Then they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, and a conversation about what your hopes and dreams say about who you are as a person.
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Apr 22, 2020 |
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This Is What It’s Like To Quarantine In A New Relationship Ft. Sam Morril & Taylor Tomlinson
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The J’s begin the show by talking sh*t about the first photo Instagram challenge. Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not it’s weird to follow someone on Instagram the moment you match on a dating app. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a half-naked man, grandparents at the front door, and a strange text months after the fact. Next, they offer advice to a listener who confronted the guy she’s seeing after he updated his dating profile. Then they’re joined by comedians Sam Morril and Taylor Tomlinson to talk about how the new couple is handling quarantining together just six months into their relationship. They talk about how to avoid fights, activities couples can do together, and whether or not it’s expected to continue living together once social distancing ends. They give advice to a listener asking how to deal with a resentful boyfriend whose pandemic related stress is testing her relationship. Finally, they close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a debate about liking thirst traps and where to draw the line.
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Apr 15, 2020 |
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Are You Willing To Go On A FaceTime First Date? Ft. Nicole Byer
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The J’s start the show with a conversation about dating when you’re stuck inside, and discuss the fact that people are finally willing to try FaceTime dates. Plus, they talk about how the quarantine has forced people to reassess their relationships. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sexy lingerie, a wad of toilet paper, and a disappearing act. Next, a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to be upset with your partner for giving up on seeing each other during the quarantine. Should your significant other be willing to forgo social distancing rules for the sake of your relationship? Then they’re joined by Nicole Byer, comedian and host of Netflix’s “Nailed It!” to talk about dating in this weird and confusing time. They respond to a single listener who feels like a loser right now and needs advice for dating without seeing people in person. Finally, they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and Nicole tells us whether or not it’s okay to move into your partner’s childhood home together.
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Apr 08, 2020 |
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How Do I Know If My Partner Is Ready To Move In With Me?
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J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared moving in with his girlfriend and how living together affects your relationship. Then a listener writes in to ask what the correct etiquette is for reaching out to an ex when one of their loved ones passes away. How do you check in without giving the impression that you have ulterior motives? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex, a piece of gum, and a strange conversation. Next, an emailer asks how to get her weekends-only boyfriend to spend more time with her. Are they using the “love language” conversation as an excuse not to compromise? Then another listener asks if the guy she’s moving in with really wants to live together, or if he’s just doing it to please her. Is it common to have cold feet about moving in together? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including one featuring a difficult Bachelor/Bachelorette scenario.
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Apr 01, 2020 |
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How To Admit That Your Toxic Hookup Is Never Going To Change
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The J’s begin the show with a conversation about opening lines on dating apps and how to ensure you get a first date. Is it possible to come off too eager with a dating app opening line? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a children’s show theme song and a cringeworthy post-sex routine. Next, a listener writes in to ask if she made a mistake by asking the guy she is seeing if he is open to something more serious. They read a series of texts from her and discuss what to do when you get a direct answer, but it’s not the one you’re looking for. Another email writes in to ask what it means when a guy says he needs time to himself. Should you assume he really just wants to break up? Then they’re joined by Betches’ own Alicia Angeles to share her story of being in an on-again/off-again toxic relationship for over a decade. A listener writes in about a similar experience and asks how to get over the resentment of being treated so poorly for so long. At what point in a relationship do you admit to yourself that he’s not going to change and it’s time to move on? They close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring someone who declines your Instagram follow request.
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Mar 25, 2020 |
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Love In The Time Of Corona
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J & J begin the show with a conversation about trying to maintain a dating life during the coronavirus crisis. They talk about getting quarantined with someone you can’t stand, trying to date when you’re supposed to be practicing social distancing, and whether or not you’d rather spend this time solo or with someone you just started dating. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy with sangria d*ck and a pre-worn condom. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s just using her casual hook up to distract herself from pursuing a real relationship. This leads to a conversation about the biological reasons why emotion is so important for good sex. Then another listener writes in to ask about a series of texts she received from a guy she was dating for months. When a guy says he needs time to himself, should you assume he really just wants to break up? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about Uber etiquette on a date.
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Mar 18, 2020 |
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How Many Times Should I Let Him Reschedule?
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The J’s start off this week’s show with Jared’s dating dilemma involving one first-class plane ticket, and one upset girlfriend. Should men feel obligated to give up the superior seat to their significant other? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves bad aim and an embarrassing climax. Next, they answer an emailer whose worst fear is dating someone in debt. How far into a relationship is it okay to bring up finances? Another listener writes in to ask how long you should wait for someone you’re texting to finally book a first date. Is there a certain amount of time after which you should cut someone off? They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and decide whether or not getting banned from a dating app should get you blocked IRL.
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Mar 11, 2020 |
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U Update: He Wouldn't Call Me His Girlfriend
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On this special “Where Are They Now” episode, J & J receive an update email from a listener who was dating a guy that wouldn’t call her his girlfriend. First, they listen back to their original advice from the March 27th, 2019 episode titled “Is Refusing To Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker?" Then they read her full update, telling us whether or not they're still together, which predictions they got right, and why people find it so hard to take good advice.
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Mar 06, 2020 |
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The One Where We Talk About Love is Blind
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The J’s are back with a special pop-up episode *spoilers ahead* all about the hit dating show Love Is Blind. They start off with a conversation about which parts of the show worked, which fell flat, and why viewers are so invested in these couples. Then they dive into each of the couples that made it past the pods, starting with the most boring couple of all, Kelly and Kenny. Next, they discuss Carlton withholding info about his sexuality from Diamond before proposing, and the fallout that ensued. They talk about the constant toxic energy between Giannina and Damian, then dive into the love triangle Barnett found himself in despite being a classic f*ckboi. Plus, they cover Jessica’s relationship with Mark, including her constant obsession with their age gap. Finally, they talk about what they would change about the show, and what it says about dating in general.
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Mar 04, 2020 |
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How Do I Turn My Work Hookup Into A Real Relationship?
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J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s birthday and the difference between how men and women celebrate. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she is seeing insists on using a condom every time they have sex even though they’re exclusive and she has an IUD. Is this a sign that he’s hiding something, or is he just overly cautious? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a night of shots and an ugly-cry. Why are guys judged more harshly for showing emotion in a relationship? Next, a listener asks why her office-party hookup hasn’t asked her on a date yet, and whether or not they’re ever going to go out. Another emailer asks whether or not it’s fair to judge a guy she matched with on a dating app who was going bald but didn’t disclose it until the first date. They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring the age old question: what do you do when your boyfriend accidentally calls you mom?
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Feb 26, 2020 |
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Am I Allowed To Be Upset With My Partner About What They Did Before We Were Exclusive?
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The J’s start off this week’s show with a viral tweet involving a girl who cancelled her date at the last minute and the negative reaction she got from the guy she was supposed to meet. Is there a double standard when it comes to rescheduling a date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a set of messy sheets and an embarrassing personal hygiene story. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s reading too much into her newly-exclusive boyfriend getting tagged online by other women. Is it okay to call him out for who he was hanging with, or should she just leave it alone? Another listener writes in to ask how to avoid ending up in a friends-with-benefits situation. Will guys put you in a certain category if you hook up too soon? They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about ordering an Uber pool on a first date.
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Feb 19, 2020 |
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Should You Expect A Valentine’s Day Date After A Month Of Dating?
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J & J begin the show with a conversation about Valentine’s Day and what to do when you don’t have a date. They debate whether or not you should expect a Valentine’s date with someone you’ve been hooking up with for a month. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she has been seeing for weeks still hasn’t kissed her. Is this a sign that he’s not interested or that he just can’t pull the trigger? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a guy who accidentally sexted an entire group chat. Then, an emailer sends in a deal reveal involving a guy who keeps trying to suggest a group-date scenario after only one drink together. Another listener asks whether or not she should be okay with her longterm boyfriend going on a solo-vacation to South America. Is it a sign that they’re not in the same place in the relationship and should break up? Finally, they play a round of Valentine’s Day-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Feb 12, 2020 |
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When Is It Time To Admit Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working?
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The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not there are rules for which pictures you can and can’t use on your dating profile after a breakup. Is it okay to use a picture you like even if it has your ex in it? Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen encounter and a boyfriend naked from the waste down. Then, they discuss setting expectations before ‘dates’ with the opposite sex. How do you clearly signal to someone you met offline that you're interested in seeing them romantically? Another listener asks how to make things work with his new girlfriend even though she lives an hour away. Is it okay to tell someone you want to date but don’t want to travel to see each other as much as they’d prefer? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about guys who don’t understand the importance of soap.
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Feb 05, 2020 |
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Should I Come Clean About My Past On A First Date? Ft. Jordana’s Sister
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J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do they have a right to get annoyed if you’re not paying attention to the screen? Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should stay together with her boyfriend just for an expensive vacation. Is it unfair to take advantage of the trip if you’re not planning to stick around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a naked stranger and a carpet fire. Next, an emailer asks why her long term hookup keeps trying to reconnect with her despite having a girlfriend. After, they’re joined by Jordana’s very own sister, clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about couples in therapy, trying therapy before you get married, and figuring out when it’s time to admit things aren’t working. Then they answer a listener email asking whether or not it’s okay to hide evidence of her troubled past on a first date. Do they have the right to know up front about your past struggles, or is it fair to save that for down the road? They finish out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about how long you should wait to text after the first time you sleep together.
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Jan 29, 2020 |
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Is It A Bad Sign If My Partner Still Talks About Their Ex? Ft. Luann de Lesseps
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The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say about you if you’re rooting for Brad and Jen to reunite? Next, they respond to a listener question about what to do when the person you’re dating constantly brings up their ex. Should you be okay with your partner talking about their ex, or is it okay to expect them to move on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a New Year’s hookup, a gun next to the bed, and a weird clothing request. Next, an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she’s seeing isn’t trying harder to spend time together. Is he trying to send the signal that he no longer wants to see her? Then they’re joined by Countess Luann de Lesseps of The Real Housewives of New York City to talk about her own romantic history, what she’s looking for in a man, and taking her cabaret show on the road. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird to sleep in separate bedrooms from your partner. To close the show, Luann joins Jordana and Jared for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Jan 22, 2020 |
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Why Do So Many Daters End Things At The Three Month Mark?
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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going. Is it a sign that you need to break up if you don’t see a long term future after three months? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about saying the wrong person’s name during sex. Next, a listener asks for a “Judge J’s” ruling on a case involving a last-minute date cancellation and a text admitting that he just committed to be exclusive with someone else. Then an emailer writes in to ask if she should continue to revive a long distance relationship even though the guy doesn’t seem to think it’s worth the trouble. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a frightening listener text exchange.
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Jan 15, 2020 |
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What Should You Do If You Find Out Your Partner Cheated On Their Ex?
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The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your business? Then, an emailer asks if it’s possible to successfully live with a messy person if you’re a clean freak. They close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which leads into a conversation about guys who only pee sitting down.
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Jan 08, 2020 |
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How Do I Break The Cycle of Hooking Up With a Guy Who Won’t Date Me?
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Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Jan 01, 2020 |
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How Do I Handle A Guy Who Tries to Make It Too Sexual Too Fast?
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Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual conversation after a first date means the guy she went out with is worth seeing again. Finally, they close the show out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Dec 25, 2019 |
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Is It Important To Show Off The Person You’re Dating On Social Media?
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J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule.
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Dec 18, 2019 |
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When Is The Right Time To Unfollow An Old Hookup?
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Lincoln Theatre in Washington, DC. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question asking when the right time would be to unfollow someone you casually dated. At 17:20 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 30:30 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 45:40 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 58:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and an unquenchable appetite.
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Dec 14, 2019 |
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What Do I Do When My Partner Sucks At Buying Gifts?
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The J’s are back in the studio and start the show with a conversation about 90 Day Fiancé and what the show says about setting expectations in your relationship. Is it fair to change your expectations of your partner after being together for a long time? Next, a listener writes in asking how to correct someone’s technique in bed without being offensive. They offer up options for saying the right thing. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a girl in a hot tub and a booty call. Another listener sends an email after she saw the awful gifts her boyfriend ordered for her birthday. Is he really trying his best or should she ‘accidentally’ cancel the order? They read another email from a girl who’s hooking up with an influencer and asks how to engage with someone who thinks they are famous just because they have a blue check mark. Finally, they close out the episode with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Dec 11, 2019 |
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How Soon Can You Start Dating After A Breakup?
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Jared and Jordana are back to talk about gender roles, how they’re changing, and what they mean for your relationship. They start with an email from a listener who got broken up with because he cried in front of his girlfriend. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who stopped a hookup mid-makeout to admit that he farted. They give their best advice on how and when to fart in front of your partner. Next, they read an email from a listener who blacked out on a sixth date and is worried she may have ruined things. Are drunk antics always a turnoff? Another listener writes in the day after her breakup, wondering when it’s acceptable to get back out there and if dating too soon will scare guys off. Then they close out the show with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
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Dec 04, 2019 |
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Can You Ever Really Be Friends With An Ex?
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J and J head to Boston for a very special episode recorded live at The Wilbur Theater. At 8:00 they kick things off by answering a listener submitted email. Then, at 16:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover and deal reveal for a lucky audience member. At 30:20 they invite another guest on stage for a dating profile makeover. At 47:30 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. Then at 57:20 they read some awkward sex, then close out the show with some audience Q&A.
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Nov 30, 2019 |
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How Do I Avoid Being The Drunkest Person In The Room?
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Double J is back in action just in time for the most regretful night of the year, Thanksgiving Eve. They start by breaking down Jared’s philosophy of the Thanksgiving eve drunk person pace car in hopes to save some listeners from being the drunkest person at the bar. Next, a listener writes in wondering what the best way to up her dating game in real life is in an effort to use the dating apps less. Then they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features some bad sex and a little too much honesty. Later, a listener writes in wondering how to cancel a subscription-based gift after a breakup. Lastly, a listener writes in wondering how to take a step back and take it slow after falling for a guy very quickly. As usual, they close out the show with a round of red flag or dealbreaker.
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Nov 27, 2019 |
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How Do I Find Closure After An Unexpected Breakup?
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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about how to avoid getting grilled by your family about your relationship status over the holidays. Is Thanksgiving the toughest time to be single around your family? At 13:50 a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to have dinner with a friend you used to have a crush on even though you’re in a relationship now. Are old love interests completely off limits for one on one drinks, or should your partner trust you enough to let it go? At 27:40 The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a new hookup uncovering an embarrassing search history. At 45:25 another listener writes in to ask for help finding closure after an unexpected breakup with her long-distance boyfriend. Is it possible to get closure on a breakup if you weren’t the one who initiated it? At 1:01:30 an emailer wonders whether his female roommate is getting in the way of finding a girlfriend, or if it’s just a matter of not having his own place. They finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a conversation about never having attended a wedding.
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Nov 20, 2019 |
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If A Guy Likes My Instagram, Does That Mean He Likes Me?
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Miami Improv. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question about sharing your Instagram before a first date. At 8:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 27:50 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 42:30 they’re joined by Nicole Lopez-Alvar of Bachelor fame to talk about life after Paradise and dating in Miami. Then, at 46:00 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 57:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted dog in the bedroom, then they close out the show with some audience questions.
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Nov 16, 2019 |
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Is It A Mistake To Follow Someone To Another City Just For Love?
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Coming in hot from the East Coast live tour, J and J kick off the episode discussing how to be more realistic on dating apps. Have these apps made it too easy for average guys to act like they’re god’s gift to women? At 15:40 a listener writes in to ask about sharing expenses when traveling as a new couple. Is a detailed spreadsheet the sign of a good partner or a huge turn off? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a divorced couple, a bottle of lube, and a muscle cream mix-up. At 39:25 another listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to follow her boyfriend to a new city. Do men and women consider their partner’s needs differently when facing a possible relocation? At 55:55 an emailer is concerned that men won’t want to date her because she’s never been in a serious relationship. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a debate about body wash.
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Nov 13, 2019 |
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How Often Do I Need To Text My Significant Other While I’m Away?
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The J’s return to discuss the best way to deal with people who aren’t engaging on the dating apps. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering how to pull out some conversation with the duds she’s been chatting with on the apps. At 22:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener wondering if she should be offended that the guy she’s hooking up with pours her a cup of mouthwash after every bang sesh. At 31:05 a listener writes in wondering whose responsibility it is to keep the communication fluid in a relationship while her boyfriend is away. At 42:25 a listener writes in wondering if it’s possible to maintain mutual friendships after a relationship has ended. At 59:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker.
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Nov 06, 2019 |
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Would You Swipe Right On Someone From NSYNC? Ft. Joey Fatone
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Plaza Live in Orlando. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 19:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 47:20 the hosts of The Two Cups of Joe Podcast, Joey Fatone and Joe Mulvihill, share their dating stories and play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 1:22:00 they close out the show with some audience questions.
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