U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @uuppod on Instagram.

Episode Date
How To Date In Your Twenties Ft. Dr. Meg Jay
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade. They start out with a discussion about how the phrase “30 is the new 20” has affected twenty-somethings’ mindsets and how gender stereotypes play into dating problems. Later, Dr. Jay explains how the “strength of weak ties” can help you meet your match. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who asks if it’s even worth it to date in your early twenties when so much of your future is still up in the air.
Jul 25, 2021
Why Am I Offended If I Don't Even Like Him?
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about Jordana’s pre-wedding feelings and prep. The first email is from a listener whose ego is bruised after a guy she thought was really into her updated his dating app profile. They’re not exclusive, and she’s still using the apps, so why does it still feel personal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate butt dial. Later, an emailer asks how to set boundaries when her boyfriend lives with his parents. Should he be more independent from his family? And is it rude to ask to spend less time with his family? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Instagram hashtags, former friends with benefits, and unread text messages. Get the brand new "IRL Summer" hat by going to: shop.betches.com/collections/uup
Jul 21, 2021
How To Know If The Timing Is Off Or If They're Just Not That Into You
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana break down the text messages between a listener and a guy she met through mutual friends at a wedding. After 3 dates, he sends her a text saying he’s not ready for a new relationship after his last ended, but that he’ll let her know when he’s ready to “pursue.” Is there still hope for something in the future? Or is he just letting her down easy?
Jul 18, 2021
Lightning Round: Your Summer Dating Questions Answered
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about summer dating with topics ranging from group dates to vacation communication. Plus, they discuss how to meet people off the apps and whether or not serious relationships are possible during IRL Summer.
Jul 14, 2021
What To Do When You Catch Feelings And They Don’t
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener shared screenshots of her conversation with a guy she was seeing long-distance for about two months. It was supposed to be casual, but she caught feelings and his reaction was confusing. If he says he didn’t want to end things, why would he still be using Tinder? Can she still bring this up even if they haven’t put a label on it? Plus, they discuss what it actually means to use someone.
Jul 11, 2021
Why Don’t My Friends Like The Guy I’m Seeing? Ft. Iliza Shlesinger & Margaret Cho
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On this week’s episode, J&J start out with a recap of Jordana’s bachelorette party. The first emailer asks how she should respond to her friends’ concerns about a guy she’s seeing. Why won’t they elaborate on their warnings? And should she give him a chance to explain himself? A listener’s fiancé confesses a dirty little secret during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Then, a listener asks if you can get back together if the breakup was for mental health reasons. Should he reach out or let it go? Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by Iliza Shlesinger and Margaret Cho to chat about their new movie Good on Paper and the real-life story behind it. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker inspired by the movie.
Jul 07, 2021
Am I Settling Or Did I Just Find The Right Person Early? Ft. Lori Gottlieb
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by psychotherapist and author Lori Gottlieb. They start out with a discussion of what type of relationship issues Lori sees in therapy and how COVID has impacted them. Then they get into Lori’s book Marry Him and what you should actually look for in a long-term partner. Later, they answer an email from a listener who is anxious about planning a future with her boyfriend. Is it normal for her to feel she should date around more? How can she stop feeling like the grass is greener on the other side? Plus, they discuss how our pasts play out in our dating choices.
Jul 04, 2021
How To Tell If A F*ckboy Has Actually Changed
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On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start out with a tale about Jordana’s phone and her plans for her bachelorette party. Then they answer an email from a listener asking if a f*ckboy can change his ways. Does him not wanting to hook up mean he’s more into her or less? The Awkward Sexual Encounter almost ended with penis surgery. Then (content warning) at around the 49 minute mark, a listener shares a story about being harassed by a stranger and asks how to turn down men when they hit on you in public. What should you do to stay safe in this situation? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about pregnancy paranoia and unexpected erections.
Jun 30, 2021
Am I Being Avoidant Or Do I Just Not Like Him?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she ended things with after six weeks because he never wanted to sleep over. Did she end it too soon? Or did she never really like him in the first place? Plus they discuss miscommunication when it comes to dating expectations.
Jun 27, 2021
How To Keep Your Summer Fling From Fizzling Ft. Jared’s College Ex, Ashley Bisman
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On this week’s episode, J&J start with an email from a listener asking how to keep the dating momentum going while you’re traveling. Should she try to keep in contact while she’s out of town? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a dinner disaster. Later, a listener asks how to deal with being stereotyped by people she’s dating. Are stereotypes the real reason this guy doesn’t want to take her hiking? Finally, Jared and Jordana are joined by Jared’s college ex and author Ashley Bisman for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about multi-level marketing companies and Shrek. Check out Ashley's brand new book: Chasing Butterflies
Jun 23, 2021
Should I Call Out A Breadcrumber?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J answer an email from a listener about how to deal with breadcrumbing. Should you call the breadcrumber out? Are you also a breadcrumber for continuing the conversation? Plus they discuss how to take control of your dating life.
Jun 20, 2021
Is It Weird To DM Someone If You Didn’t Match On The Apps?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about freezing your eggs and what it means for dating. Then they answer a listener's email about sliding into someone’s Twitter DMs. Can Twitter DMs be used for dating like Instagram? What should she say to make her move? An emailer finds a surprise in her sink during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, a listener asks how to compromise on decor when moving in with your significant other. What can differences in decor style tell you about a relationship? Finally, J&J end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about phone contact names for parents and bumping into dates while they’re on other dates.
Jun 16, 2021
Is Infidelity Inevitable? Ft. Dan Savage
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by relationship and sex columnist Dan Savage. They start out with a discussion of how Dan’s advice has evolved over the past 30 years and his thoughts on monogamy. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose ex-boyfriend left her for the same woman they had a threesome with. How should she approach threesomes in her current relationship? Plus, they discuss how to develop trust and boundaries in an open relationship.
Jun 13, 2021
Do I Have What It Takes To Have A Hot Girl Summer?
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Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about the world opening back up when you’re single versus when you’re in a relationship. Then they read a break up contract sent to a listener by her now ex-boyfriend. Can you take a long-term relationship back to a short-term relationship? How do finances play into a breakup? A listener learns about blue balls in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, J&J answer an email asking exactly how to have a hot girl summer. Finally, Dylan Hafer, host of Betches’ new podcast Pop Alarm, joins J&J for a round of celeb-inspired Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
Jun 09, 2021
Why Do Exes Come Back Pretending To Want Friendship
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. This week’s emailer wants to know if her ex actually wants to be friends or if there’s another reason for him staying in touch. Is it ever a good idea to stay friends with an ex? J&J break down why he’s holding onto the friendship and what she should do about it.
Jun 06, 2021
Lightning Round: Dating App Pictures, Bad Kissers, And Emotionally Slutty Boyfriends
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On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round, answering 20 questions submitted by our Instagram followers with topics ranging from first date conversations to spicing up long-distance relationships. Plus, they discuss the best pictures to use on dating apps and how to correct someone’s kissing style.
Jun 02, 2021
Are Personality Types Relevant In Dating?
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special all about personality types and how they factor into dating. They answer an email from a Type A listener with a Type B boyfriend who doesn’t know how to deal with their differences. Do these personality types actually determine compatibility? Do opposites attract or are their differences in cleanliness and punctuality a deal breaker? Plus, they discuss how to assess which qualities are most important to you in a partner.
May 30, 2021
How To Hit On Someone Without Being Creepy Ft. Camille Kostek
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a pep talk for going back out into the world. Then they answer an email from a listener who doesn’t know if she should ask someone out at their workplace. Is there an appropriate way to show someone you’re interested without making them uncomfortable? A listener gets an unpleasant surprise during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they weigh in on an email from a listener wondering what it means for her relationship that she actually enjoys dating long distance. Finally, J&J are joined by Wipeout Host Camille Kostek for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about skincare, unconventional living situations, and Instagram captions.
May 26, 2021
Is Alcohol F*cking Up My Dating Life?
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Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reading texts from a listener who thinks she might have ruined her chances with a dating app match by drunk texting him. The emailer describes her previous pattern of drinking too much and scaring guys off with her drunk texts, but she got it together during quarantine and finally feels ready to get back out there. That is until a night out with her coworkers. How should she address the drunk texts? And should she tell him she’s working on her relationship with alcohol? Plus J&J discuss when it’s time to talk to a professional.
May 23, 2021
Dealing With A Breakup
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J&J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s relationship status. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a 69 gone wrong. Later, they answer a listener email about a guy who wants to be in a one-sided open relationship. Is it a red flag that he wants her to sleep with other people? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about vaping, voice messages, and airport hygiene.
May 19, 2021
How To Tell Your Best Friend You Have Feelings For Them Ft. Tinx
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Tinx, and they start with a discussion about the differences between dating in NYC, LA, and San Francisco. Then they dive into Tinx’s dating life and her Box Theory about the right time to sleep with someone you’re dating. Later, they answer a listener’s email asking if she should tell her best friend she has feelings for him, and Tinx shares her personal experience of falling in love with her best guy friend.
May 16, 2021
Will My Relationship Survive After The Pandemic?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and they start out with a discussion of the viral video of Ben Affleck shooting his shot with a woman who unmatched him on Raya. The first email asks how to deal with going back to the office when her boyfriend wants to continue their nomadic pandemic lifestyle. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves three condoms and a dog. Later, J&J try to figure out why a guy bailed on a listener in the middle of their first date. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Chick-Fil-A and a recycled pick-up video.
May 12, 2021
A Matchmaker’s Guide To Finding Love Ft. Matchmaker Maria
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On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Matchmaker Maria. They start out with a discussion about how Maria got into matchmaking and how she applied her matchmaking strategies to meeting her own husband. Maria breaks down how the matchmaking process works, the types of guys who hire matchmakers, and how men and women differ when it comes to matchmaking. Later, Maria explains when to have sex with someone new using her 12 date rule, and they answer an email asking about how to set up your friends the right way.
May 09, 2021
Is Faking An Orgasm Anti-Feminist?
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This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about experimenting with your look. The first email asks about the etiquette of orgasms. Is it ever okay to fake it? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost too gross to believe. Later, an emailer asks J&J to sort out her boyfriend’s shady phone behavior. Is it always a bad sign if your S.O. doesn’t want to share their passcode? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about someone’s history of cheating and peeing in cups.
May 05, 2021
Not Everyone Who Doesn’t Want To Date You Is A F*ckboy
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts from a “verbose fuckboy.” The listener received some very lengthy text messages from someone she was dating essentially saying, “it’s not you, it’s me.” Does his long explanation and apology mean he is being genuine? Or is he just like other guys who run at the first sign of a serious relationship? Plus, they discuss what actually makes someone a f*ckboy.
May 02, 2021
How To Have Casual Hookups Without Feeling Disrespected
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the energy in NYC and the post-pandemic dating scene. The first email asks how to have casual relationships without feeling disrespected. Are they always just about 2AM booty calls? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bed wetter and an early morning streak across a college campus. Later, a listener writes in hypothesizing that you shouldn’t date someone who’s new to your city if you’re looking for a serious relationship. How should someone who just moved to town position themselves if they are looking for something serious? Finally, they finish the episode with a new segment called What Would J&J Say? to ghostwrite a listener's text to her ex-boyfriend.
Apr 28, 2021
Is My Coworker Flirting Or Just Being Friendly?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about relationships with coworkers. An emailer writes in wanting to know if her work crush is flirting with her or just being friendly after their first Zoom meeting felt more like a first date and he offered to help her move. Should she make another move after her initial ask for drinks fell through? Plus, they share their general advice for navigating romantic relationships at work.
Apr 25, 2021
What You Should Know Before You Pay For Dating App Features
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the paid bonus features on dating apps and if using them makes you look desperate. Would you be turned off by someone sending you a Hinge rose? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter is surprisingly nutritious. Later, an emailer writes in asking how to find an “ass-smacking nice guy” after not feeling the sexual chemistry on first dates. Is there a middle ground between the guy who’s too shy to make a move and the guy only looking to hook up? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about verified check marks and Alexa devices.
Apr 21, 2021
Is He Bad At Planning Or Does He Just Not Care?
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Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re dissecting texts between a listener and a guy who keeps rescheduling their dates. The emailer thinks the chemistry is there but worries he’s only looking to hook up. How many chances should you give someone to schedule a real date? Should she give him another chance if he reaches out again? Plus, they discuss how to know if a guy is taking you seriously.
Apr 18, 2021
Are You Setting Your Standards Or Avoiding Rejection?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about adult braces and sharing your space with a significant other during quarantine. An emailer sends in a screenshot of a dating app conversation where she sets her standards of looking for a relationship, but she isn’t sure if the response is sincere. At what point does the “what are you looking for?” conversation actually matter? During the Awkward Sexual Encounter, a listener gets nostalgic about a water bed mishap. Later, an emailers asks for advice on how to handle meeting her boyfriend’s parents when they’re already biased against her for her age and ethnic background. How should her boyfriend be responding to this situation? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about Cheesecake Factory and first date locations.
Apr 14, 2021
How To Spot a Lazy Dater Before You Get In Too Deep
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Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing when you can assume exclusivity with someone you’re seeing. A listener writes in after her DTR conversation with a long-distance romance did not go as she hoped. Was she reading the signs all wrong? Plus, they talk about the clues that someone is a lazy dater.
Apr 11, 2021
Lightning Round: Dating App Tips, F*ckboy Streaks, And Running Into Exes
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana change things up with a lightning round of questions submitted by our Instagram followers. Instead of our usual email format, they answer 20 questions with topics ranging from how to get excited about using the dating apps, to running into exes, to how to get your S.O. to go to therapy. Plus, they give their best tips for moving in with your partner, making a dating app profile, and reaching out to a fling that ended because of the pandemic.
Apr 07, 2021
Why Do People Still Get Married?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about a listener’s unpopular opinion on marriage. The emailer doesn’t think marriage is right for him, not because he’s afraid of commitment but because he doesn’t think it holds the same value in a modern relationship. Is it okay to date without having the end goal of marriage? How should you explain that to your S.O.? Plus, J&J talk about the benefits of marriage today.
Apr 04, 2021
How Long Should It Take For Them To Say “I Love You”?
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This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about a survey sent to a listener by two of his dating app matches. Is this actually a good way to get to know someone? Next, a listener writes in for help after she told her boyfriend she loved him and he didn’t say it back. Can you ever come back from that conversation if it doesn't go well? Later, an awkward date takes the joke too far in an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another emailer asks for advice on getting back together with an ex whose family doesn’t like her, but J&J see some bigger problems with the relationship. Finally, they finish up the episode by playing Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about zodiac compatibility and LinkedIn affairs.
Mar 31, 2021
Am I An As*hole If I Keep Hooking Up With Someone Who Has Feelings For Me?
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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing how to interpret a guy’s lovey dovey messages and whether or not they mean he wants something more. A listener writes in detailing her vacation fling that she doesn’t believe could be a long-term match for her. Does she need to tell him she doesn’t want anything serious or can she continue her beachy booty call without addressing his feelings? Plus, they talk about the best way to be honest about your intentions for a relationship.
Mar 28, 2021
Can You Call Dibs On A Dating App Match?
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On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start the podcast off by discussing the pros and cons of continuing a long-term relationship that started in college. A listener writes in asking if it’s possible to make things work with her boyfriend even though she feels like she has matured faster than him. Is it ever worth it to wait for an S.O. to grow up? Later, an emailer gets an earful during an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another listener asks about girl code surrounding dating app matches. Is it fair to be mad at your friend for going out with a guy you matched with first? Finally, they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about dog custody battles and bad tattoos.
Mar 24, 2021
How Many White Lies Make A Red Flag?
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Judge J & J are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts between a listener and her boyfriend to figure out what went wrong with their plans for a Friday night in. How clear do you need to be with your expectations for a date night to avoid being disappointed? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss telling white lies in relationships and whether or not they’re a red flag for the future.
Mar 21, 2021
Do I Really Want To DTR Or Is It Just Relationship Anxiety? Ft. Victoria Justice
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This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of what it means to be “casual,” and how long you should wait to see if a relationship could turn into something more. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who isn’t in a hurry to progress the relationship. Is it ever too early in a relationship to start owning your standards? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves more tears than your average sex-scapade. Another emailer writes in for advice on how to tell her boyfriend that he’s not invited to her family vacation until he puts a ring on it. Do you need to be engaged before introducing your significant other to your extended family? Finally, they close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breakers all about trust with special guest Victoria Justice to discuss her new movie Trust, out March 12th.
Mar 17, 2021
How To Ask For What You Want In Bed Without Offending Your Partner Ft. Dr. Emily Morse
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On this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. They start with a conversation about how to open up to your partner about what you want in the bedroom, with some tips for broaching the subject and getting what you want. Emily fills us in on her own sex life and offers advice for those who feel sexually incompatible with their partner. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she and her boyfriend will ever be sexually compatible if they weren’t on the same page in the first place. Then another emailer asks how to deal with a clueless sexual partner, especially when he shows no interest in offering her pleasure after he orgasms. They close the show with a conversation about giving directions to someone and not just expecting them to anticipate your needs.
Mar 14, 2021
Should I Wait To Break Up Until It’s More Convenient To Move Out?
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Jared and Jordana start the week with a discussion of the rules for how explicit you have to be about what you’re doing surrounding Covid while dating in 2021. A listener writes in with a story about insisting that the guy she’s dating get a test, and how she responded when it came back positive. Is it fair to insist that your partner be more cautious around you? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a UTI and a stained toilet. Another emailer asks how to break up with her uncommunicative boyfriend after moving in together. Is it ever worth staying in a relationship if you can't afford your apartment lease on your own? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, which leads to a conversation about whether or not you should tell your partner when someone else hits on you.
Mar 10, 2021
How Do I Know If The Person I'm Dating Is Ready To Move On From Their Ex?
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Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to interpret a guy's actions after he failed to reschedule a date. A listener writes in to share the text exchange she had with a guy who said he had to cancel the date but never came back around to pick a new time. The listener wanted to know if she should be more wary of guys who have just gotten out of long term relationships or if this could happen with anyone. Plus, they talk about the appropriate amount of time to wait before calling someone out for their sh*tty behavior.
Mar 07, 2021
How To Apologize To An Ex You Treated Poorly
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The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re newly interested in. A listener writes in to ask whether or not her own emotional masturbation is getting in the way of setting realistic expectations and developing a healthy relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lube mixup. Then another emailer asks if she should write an apology to her ex for mistakes she made when they were together. Do our exes actually want to hear an apology from us, or should we leave things in the past? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about proper etiquette regarding pulling down someone’s mask before going in for a kiss.
Mar 03, 2021
Is It Ever Worth Trying To Make It Work With a Bad Communicator?
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This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your relationship stands. A listener writes in to ask how to get the guy she was seeing to be more clear about his feelings now that he’s in a new city. Jordana and Jared read their text exchange and tell us what he’s really trying to accomplish by cutting off communication so abruptly.
Feb 28, 2021
How To Set The Expectation That You Won’t Be Hooking Up Before A Date
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Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “success” really looks like. Then they dive into a conversation about how to moderate someone’s expectations about whether or not you'll be hooking up before the date. A listener writes in to ask how to communicate to a guy she only met once that she isn’t looking to sleep together right away. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves horrible smelling feet and not enough ventilation. Then another listener writes in to ask if it’s possible to fix her boyfriend’s fashion sense even though he seems pretty committed to his accessories. How do you deal with dating someone who has an unattractive wardrobe? Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about whether or not you should be honest about how many sexual partners you’ve had in the past.
Feb 24, 2021
How To Get A Straight Answer About Why Your Fling Suddenly Ended
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It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal age for a woman. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing suddenly cooled off on her after hanging out for the first time in a month. Why won’t he give her a straight answer about where things went wrong between them? Jordana and Jared read their latest text exchange and try to explain what each of these people are thinking (and what it says about how we all communicate).
Feb 21, 2021
Can I Ask My Partner To Pay More If They Make More? Ft. Mike Johnson
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J&J begin the week with a conversation about properly loading the dishwasher (this doesn’t need to be so difficult!) and finding a good date spot in a pandemic. Then they react to a post from someone who applied to the Bachelor while in a relationship. What does it say about your relationship if you daydream about being on The Bachelor when you’re already with someone else? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a listener who suddenly realized that she’s been farting on every sex partner she’s ever slept over with. They read an email from another listener whose boyfriend started making more money but refuses to take on some of the extra household costs. Is it a sign of things to come if your partner insists on splitting everything fifty-fifty? Then they’re joined by Mike Johnson of The Bachelorette and the Talking It Out podcast. They talk about whether it hurts more to end a relationship with someone who did all the right things or someone who did you wrong. Plus, they discuss how to keep a relationship out of the public eye. Is there a difference between being private and secret? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker with Mike, leading to a debate about how to make a proper excuse when you have a bathroom emergency on a first date.
Feb 17, 2021
How Do I Tell My New Partner About My Food Issues? Ft. Aleen Dreksler
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On this Valentines Day Sunday Special, the J’s are joined by Betches co-founder and host of the Diet Starts Tomorrow podcast, Aleen Dreksler. They start with a conversation about how V-Day expectations change as a relationship gets more serious. Then a listener writes in to share her experience with serious eating disorders (including anorexia and crash dieting) in her romantic life. She asks how and when it’s appropriate to tell the guy she just started dating that she has struggled with disordered eating throughout her life. When is it safe to tell someone that you struggle with food and are still working on it? Another emailer tells a story about dating a guy who lost a lot of weight and feels entitled to criticize other peoples’ bodies. Is it a deal breaker if they make negative comments about another person’s body, or is it possible she's overreacting? Finally, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that his fitness and diet routine is too extreme. Is there a way to tell your partner that you want them to ease up their restrictions (so you can just enjoy a bottle of wine together) without discouraging them from achieving their goals?
Feb 14, 2021
What Are The Valentine’s Day Expectations In A New Relationship?
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Jared and Jordana begin the week of Valentine’s Day with a conversation about how to celebrate the holiday in 2021. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should expect the guy she’s only been dating for 2 months to plan something this year. J&J rate the level of V-Day expectations at every stage of a relationship, explaining exactly how much effort is required based on the milestones you’ve hit. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves period sex, a flung condom, and a lot of cleanup. Then another listener asks why the guy she just started dating asked her to go on vacation together, then backed out at the last minute. Is he showing that he’s unreliable or just trying to avoid getting too serious too soon? They read a text message exchange about the cancelled vacation and tell us what’s really going on here. Finally, this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breakers feature a debate about whether or not you’re required to split lottery scratcher winnings with the person you’re dating.
Feb 10, 2021
How To Not Die Alone Ft. Logan Ury
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On this week’s Sunday Special J&J are joined by Logan Ury, behavioral scientist, dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. They talk about how Logan uses her behavioral science background to better understand relationships, including some tips for how to figure out the age in which you should settle down. They discuss the three dating tendencies everyone should be aware of, how to identify our dating blindspots, and why it’s time to say “f*ck the spark” and just commit to a second date. Plus, she confirms one of Jared’s long-running theories about breakups. Then Logan tells the story of how she and her partner took on a health crisis, put on an impromptu wedding ceremony, and moved into a commune. Finally, a listener writes in to ask whether or not her relationship is struggling due to the pandemic, or if it’s a sign of a deeper problem. They discuss the best way to identify whether or not the person you’re dating is right for you long term.
Feb 07, 2021
Is There A Way To Salvage A Relationship With Very Different Marriage Timelines?
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The J’s start the show with a conversation about criticizing a loved one’s appearance without hurting their feelings. A listener writes in to ask how she should bring up her partner’s balding head, and whether or not he’ll be offended by her suggestion to shave it all off. Is there any way to comment on your partner’s appearance without things going horribly wrong? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a fully masked guy going down on a fully clothed girl. Then another emailer asks whether her recent breakup was inevitable after relocating for each other but not feeling the desire to take it to the next level. Is there an expiration date on a relationship if you’ve been together a long time and aren’t considering marriage? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about asking family members to join you on an otherwise romantic vacation.
Feb 03, 2021
How Many FaceTime Dates Equal One IRL Date?
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This week’s Sunday Special is all about trying to walk back a first date hook up in order to start taking things slower. A listener writes in about a guy who seems to be avoiding the second date after a great text exchange and a successful first meeting. Is it always a mistake to agree to a Netflix and chill hook up on the first date if you’re hoping for something more serious down the line? J&J examine their texts after the date and try to explain why he isn’t trying harder to see her again. Plus, they explain why having a series of FaceTime dates before meeting up in person might trick you into thinking things are more serious than the other person perceives.
Jan 31, 2021
How To Get Your Parents To Stop Pressuring You To Date
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Jared and Jordana start the show with a reaction to Clare and Dale from The Bachelorette suddenly calling it quits, and tell us what this says about people who swear they’ve “met the one” too quickly. Then a listener writes in to ask how to deal with parents that excessively pressure you to date. How do you create boundaries without starting a fight? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an old couch, bad aim, and an overeager virgin. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s shady for her boyfriend to hide his IG stories about his relationship from a select list of women. Is he trying to keep them from seeing he’s in a relationship so that he can keep his options open? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a conversation about people who wait a full week to text you back.
Jan 27, 2021
Everything You Need To Know About Dating With Herpes Ft. Erica Spera
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This Sunday Jared and Jordana are joined by Erica Spera, comedian and host of the Shooters Gotta Shoot podcast. They start with a conversation about dating with herpes, including some of the most common misconceptions associated with it. Is it time for people to stop stigmatizing herpes and be open about it? Plus, they debate when it’s the right time to disclose sensitive information to a sexual partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she’s obligated to share her herpes diagnosis with a new partner before they get serious. Is it better to be up front about it, or should you wait until things get more serious to have that conversation?
Jan 24, 2021
Should I Tell Him I Snooped On His Phone If I Didn't Like What I Saw? Ft. Stephen Colletti & James Lafferty
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J&J start the show talking about the value of spending time away from your partner (even if it’s just during work hours) and tell us what they think of the new Cameo breakup trend. Then they share some listener responses to recent Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a series of detailed explanations for the closed-mouth kisser. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bag of sh*t on the counter and no chance to explain. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should tell her new boyfriend that he has to stop sending check-in texts to his ex. Is it a violation of their trust if he doesn’t tell her that he keeps sending messages to his ex? Finally, they’re joined by Stephen Colletti and James Lafferty to talk about their new series Everyone Is Doing Great and play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. They debate whether or not it’s flattering for someone to Google you before a first date, and close the show with a conversation about who should pick up the bill.
Jan 20, 2021
Does An Expensive Date Imply That He Wants A Relationship Or Sex?
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The Sunday Special is all about whether or not a guy taking you out on an expensive date indicates that he's looking for something more serious than just sex. A listener writes in to share a story about having sex following a $200 dinner and not hearing from the guy again. Did he really spend all that money for a one night stand? J&J read their text exchange that went from casual hook up-chat to going on a real date and explain where the communication went wrong. They talk all about setting expectations with someone you’re dating and the pitfalls of expecting someone to get on the same page about what they want out of the relationship.
Jan 17, 2021
Is It Normal To Keep Track Of Every Date You’ve Been On?
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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about obsessively tracking your dating life and what it might say about your approach to romance. They react to a TikTok from a woman who maintains a detailed spreadsheet tracking all the guys she’s dated. Should all single people be tracking their dates to see what’s working and what isn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blowjob and an accidental snorting incident. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should be open and honest about family issues with someone she just started dating. Is it necessary to divulge your family secrets, or is that something you save for after the relationship gets serious? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a text exchange that always ends in exclamation points!
Jan 13, 2021
How To Spot An A*shole Who’s Pretending He’s a Nice Guy
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This Sunday Special is all about dating someone who may still be seeing their ex. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who has repeatedly asked for a date even though he seems to be back with his ex-girlfriend. Why would someone try so hard to get you invested in a relationship with them if they have something else going? The J’s go through her most recent text exchange with this guy and try to figure out whether or not he is aware that he’s being called out. Finally, they share the solution for dealing with guys who try to get away with treating you like a side chick.
Jan 10, 2021
Is There Ever A Chance A Long Term Hook Up Can Turn Into A Relationship?
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Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about whether or not you can ever turn a long term hook up into a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if there’s any way the guy she has been hooking up with for the last seven years will consider making things official. Is it worth trying to get him to see her differently, or is he set in his ways? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an attempt to make out with a tight-lipped kisser. Then another emailer asks if it’s normal that her boyfriend sets calendar reminders to tell her he loves her. Is this a sign that he’s a thoughtful partner or a careless one? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a question about dating someone who only uses one fork.
Jan 06, 2021
Is It a Bad Sign if He’s Saying He Doesn’t Want to See Me Until the Pandemic is Over?
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This week, the Sunday Special is all about dating someone who wants to put things on ice until they are more comfortable about the pandemic. A listener writes in to ask why a guy she had great chemistry with would call it quits and whether or not she should wait for him to come around later in the year. Plus, they break down a text exchange between the couple and explain exactly what this guy is looking for.
Jan 03, 2021
How To Move On In The Midst Of A Pandemic
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J&J start the show with a conversation about New Year’s resolutions and how the pandemic has changed everything, including how we look at love and relationships. Then a listener writes in to ask how to move on in the midst of a pandemic after calling things off with her boyfriend of two years. Is it normal to feel ‘frozen’ after a devastating breakup? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about getting stuck in a guy’s bathroom the morning after a one night stand. Then another emailer asks how to tell her college boyfriend that she wants him to focus on getting a new job for the sake of their shared future. Is it fair to expect him to prioritize their future immediately out of college, or should she move on from the relationship altogether? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a revelation about Jared and Jordana’s love of Benihana (even on a first date).
Dec 30, 2020
How To Get A Guy Who Won't Date You To Stop Looking At Your Instagram Story
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This week’s Sunday Special features a Deal Reveal all about guys who try to keep things casual. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was hooking up with asked if he could keep the conversation going even though they’ve made it clear they’re not looking for the same things. Is he hoping she will change her mind about hooking up casually even though she’s told him otherwise? J&J read the back-and-forth text exchange and explain where both parties stand. Plus, they tell us why guys will keep trying to circle back to see if your standards have changed.
Dec 27, 2020
How Do I Get Over An Ex Moving On Too Quickly? Ft. Bo Burnham
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Jared and Jordana get this holiday week started with an update on Jordana’s #treebetch reviews and a conversation about people who still get into the Christmas spirit the way they did as children. Then they answer an email from a listener who is devastated to find out that her ex is already back to dating his college girlfriend just a month after they split. How do you get over having someone move on to a new relationship so quickly? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a female condom that went missing in action. Then another listener writes in to ask why her ex-boyfriend didn’t give her the response she was looking for when she tried to rekindle their relationship after breaking up with him. Finally, the J's are joined by comedian and actor Bo Burnham to talk about the new movie Promising Young Woman and to play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including one about sharing a meal-prep promo code on a dating app.
Dec 23, 2020
Is It Possible To Turn An Out-Of-Town Fling Into Something Real?
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The Sunday Special is all about what it means when your long-distance fling won’t make an effort to see you again. J&J analyze a listener’s text exchange with a guy who failed to plan another meetup and won’t come to her city this time around. Is he intentionally keeping her on the hook without letting things get serious? Finally, they talk about why it’s important to figure out what you actually want out of the relationship in order to understand what to do next.
Dec 20, 2020
Here Are The Signs That Your Boyfriend Is Trying To Break Up With You
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J&J start the show with a conversation about how to handle dating after a major body transformation. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should tell a guy about her drastic weight loss before hooking up, especially if she’s feeling insecure. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an exchange of “I love you’s” and some embarrassing oral sex. Then another listener asks if her boyfriend is looking to break up with her or just setting expectations for the future. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker featuring a conversation about whether it’s harder to date someone that’s a total grinch or way too into the holiday spirit.
Dec 16, 2020
Does A Random “How Are You?” Text Mean They’re Looking To Hookup?
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The Sunday Special features an email from a confused listener who wants to know why a guy would reach out five months after severing their quarantine fling. Is he really interested in finding out “how you’re doing” or is he just looking to hook up again? Plus, J&J talk about whether or not people ever want someone to check in out of the blue, and why no one is ever straightforward about their motives.
Dec 13, 2020
How Do I Relay That I Want An Expensive Engagement Ring Without Seeming Shallow?
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Jared and Jordana are in the holiday spirit and start with a conversation about celebrating as an “interfaith couple” this year. Plus, they talk about Jordana’s destiny as a Christmas tree connoisseur. Then they answer a listener email about how to tell the guy she started seeing that she wants to be exclusive for the sake of covid safety. How do you broach the subject without coming off as "too much" to someone you’ve only been dating for a month? Another listener asks how to safely connect for a casual meetup in the times of covid closures. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a passionate hookup and an accidental 911 call. Then another listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that she expects a pricey engagement ring. How do you explain that you care about the marriage but also care about the ring? Finally, they finish things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including a debate about backseat driving.
Dec 09, 2020
Why Would An Ex Swipe Right On My Dating Profile?
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This week’s Sunday Special features an email from a listener who matched on a dating app with a guy she dated who recently rejected her. Is this a sign that he still wants to see her? Plus, they explain why a guy would reignite a connection and the implications it has for where things are going.
Dec 06, 2020
Is It Okay To Judge Someone You're Dating By Their Friend Group?
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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about cuffing season being more important this year than ever before. Then they answer an emailer who wants to know if she is free to leave the apartment if her boyfriend tests positive for coronavirus. Is this a passive aggressive way of fighting with your partner or just a practical question about staying healthy? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a marching band hook up and a drummer with too much rhythm. Then another listener asks how to deal with dating a new guy who has different political opinions, especially when his friends are at odds with hers. Should she respect his desire to avoid political conversations with his friends and is it fair for him to judge her by the company she keeps? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about requesting a selfie before going on a first date.
Dec 02, 2020
These Are The Signs You Shouldn’t Go On That First Date
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This week’s Sunday Special is all about getting a last-minute text to confirm plans for a dinner date even though there was plenty of time to lock it in. Should you hold your ground and pass on the date or just go through with it? Plus, does this indicate that no one wants to go on the date in the first place, or is it just a matter of miscommunication? They discuss the dynamics of getting out of a first date and why we often struggle with the decision. Thanks to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Bruush: Get 15% off your Brüush when you use promo code UUP at Bruush.com
Nov 29, 2020
Do I Have a Right To Ask The Guy I'm Seeing Why He's Following Girls On Instagram?
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Jared and Jordana are back on this Thanksgiving Eve episode to talk about spending holidays together as a couple and what it says about your relationship. Then an emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her new boyfriend to be as thoughtful as her when it comes to gift giving. How do you ask your partner to do something when it's not in their nature? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a faulty vibrator and a startled cat. Then another listener asks if she should be worried that the guy she started talking to again is consistently following new girls on Instagram each day. Is he telling other women the same things he’s telling her, or is this just harmless social media behavior? Finally, the show closes with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what you should do if you find the wrong color strand of hair in your partner’s bed. Thanks to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Bruush: Get 15% off your Brüush when you use promo code UUP at Bruush.com
Nov 25, 2020
Is It Worse To Be A Cynical Dater Or A Naive Dater?
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On this week's Sunday Special, a listener writes in to ask how she should respond to a guy who took her out and then sent an uncomfortably long text explaining why he wants to just be friends. Why would a guy go to the trouble of spilling his guts over text if it’s not going to be a romantic connection? Plus, they explain why he felt the need to treat their text exchange like a therapy session and how she should react. Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Parade: Get your own pairs of Parade now and use our promo code for 20% off your order at www.yourparade.com/UUP or use promo code UUP
Nov 22, 2020
How Soon Should You Expect To Get Daily Messages From A Person You Started Dating?
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The J’s start the show with a reaction to tone-deaf people on social media and a conversation about trying to make things romantic in a relationship after you move in together. Then a listener writes in to ask how much daily communication tells you about where a relationship is at. How soon should you expect to hear from a guy on a daily basis? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves chafing from too much masturbation and an unlikely solution. Then a guy writes in to ask for advice after his childhood crush turned into a quarantine fling, but now she went back home and is starting to ghost him. Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about whether or not you could date someone who considers their friendship with an ex to be a “package deal.” Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Parade: Get your own pairs of Parade now and use our promo code for 20% off your order at www.yourparade.com/UUP or use promo code UUP
Nov 18, 2020
Does It Count As Cheating If He's Getting Nudes From Someone He Never Met?
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To celebrate the three year anniversary of the U Up? podcast, Jared and Jordana are back to answer another listener email. This time around, the emailer found nudes in her boyfriend’s Snapchat messages and isn’t satisfied with his explanation. Should she give him the benefit of the doubt that he “didn’t know it was a real person” and cut things off after some back and forth? Plus, they talk about his history with cheating on an ex and whether or not she should hold it against him.
Nov 15, 2020
Is It a Dealbreaker If Your Significant Other Won’t Get a Dog?
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Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about cringe-worthy behavior from influencers (and review Jordana’s charcuterie board). Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she’s been dating for cancelling plans at the last minute, even though she discovered the lie using his dating app location. How much deception should we ignore early in the dating process? Plus, another emailer asks if using the dating app geo-locator after matching with someone counts as spying. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween hookup and a chance run-in with his parents the next morning. Next, a listener asks whether or not she should be concerned that her long-term boyfriend is talking about getting a dog even though she doesn't approve. Does this mean that he’s not thinking of her as being part of his life in the future? Finally, they close things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about whether or not you should date a former reality show contestant.
Nov 11, 2020
Should I Keep Talking To Someone Who's In An Open Relationship?
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On this Sunday Special, it’s time for another Deal Reveal as the J’s help a listener that says she started messaging with a former coworker who turned out to be in a relationship. Why would he like all of her photos and watch her IG stories if he is already with someone? They talk about connecting over a kinky dating app, and discuss whether or not this guy is just being up front about his open relationship, or shutting her down entirely.
Nov 08, 2020
Where's the Line Between Being Shady and Wanting Privacy?
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Jared and Jordana start the show by asking whether or not it’s a deal breaker if someone wants to see your Instagram before going on a first date. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that the guy she matched with immediately asked to take the conversation off the app and to Instagram DM. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bunk bed, a bloody nose, and a sudden interruption. Then another listener asks if she should be concerned that her partner unplugged the dog camera when she wasn’t home. Should she be worried that he has something to hide, or is this a violation of his privacy? Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about splitting the check on a first date.
Nov 04, 2020
Is It Ever Too Early To Tell a Guy You’re Really Into Him?
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On this Sunday’s Deal Reveal, the J’s respond to a listener who is confused why the guy she was seeing got freaked out the moment she asked if they were “on the same page” as one another. They read the last text exchange between the couple and try to decipher what it all means. Do guys stop texting because they’re afraid of commitment, or is it something else? Finally, they discuss whether or not this girl should have played things differently, drawing comparisons to the situation in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days.
Nov 01, 2020
Is It Time to Start Accepting That Closure Isn’t A Real Thing?
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Jordana and Jared start the show with a conversation about Halloween and dating. A listener writes in to ask if her boyfriend secretly has a crush on his roommate, and whether or not it’s weird that he and the roommate are doing a couples costume for Halloween. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween costume, a circus theme, and some spontaneous role play. Then another emailer asks if she should hold off on dating again after a difficult breakup. At what point do you admit that you might never get closure and start dating again? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including one about using coupons on a first date.
Oct 28, 2020
Is It Possible To Wait Too Long To Have Sex With Someone?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J talk about waiting to have sex and whether or not people will lose interest in the relationship if you wait too long. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing called things off after four dates (despite great chemistry), and whether or not it really boils down to the fact that she said she wanted to wait longer before having sex. Plus, they discuss the proper etiquette for calling things off and why people try to soften the blow.
Oct 25, 2020
Can I Improve My Dating Life By Moving to a New City?
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The J’s start the show with a conversation about whether or not moving to a new city will improve your dating life. A listener writes in to ask if she should just pick up and move to a new city to improve her odds of finding someone. Is the city ever really the cause of your dating woes? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a mid-sex pause to return a text. Another emailer asks whether or not she should confront her boyfriend after snooping on his phone and finding unanswered late-night texts to an unknown number. How are you supposed to react when you snoop and find something suspicious? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about what it means if the person you just started dating doesn’t follow you back on social media. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive
Oct 21, 2020
Is It Worse To Do The Slow Fade Or Ghost Someone Completely?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, the J’s return with yet another deal reveal. A listener writes in to share a text exchange that suddenly fell silent with no explanation. Should he have given her excuses in order to fade out slowly instead of abruptly ghosting her? J&J read the texts and tell us exactly what happened here, along with insight into what this guy was actually thinking when he ghosted. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive
Oct 18, 2020
Should I Stop Seeing A Guy That Won’t Call Me His Girlfriend?
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The J’s are back and talking about how hard it is for single people to not drink on dates. Two different listeners write in to ask how to maintain a normal dating life if you’re not a drinker. Will people judge you on a first date if you don’t order alcohol? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a secret work hookup. Then another emailer asks how to react when the guy she’s been living with declares that they aren’t officially dating. Why do some guys go out of their way to avoid putting a label on the relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who make instagram accounts for their dogs. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Thanks to our sponsors: Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Ship: Update Ship today and let your friends take control of your dating life – because let’s be honest, we all could use a little help in that department. Download Ship in the app store to start getting matched today.
Oct 14, 2020
How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Talk About His Erectile Dysfunction?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, Urologist at NYU, to talk about the various potential problems guys face in the bedroom. They start out by settling a debate from a recent Awkward Sexual Encounter regarding peeing during an erection. Then they read an email from a listener whose boyfriend experiences erectile dysfunction and is afraid to seek treatment. When a guy can’t get it up, is the problem more likely to be mental or physical? They also discuss guys who have a problem staying erect, as well as those who orgasm too quickly. Finally, they close the show with some surprising information about infertility in men. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive
Oct 11, 2020
Is It Fair To Judge My Partner For Not Being Ambitious Enough?
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Jordana and Jared return and start the show with a conversation about learning to tolerate your partner’s work personality. A listener writes in to ask how she should react to her partner crying over the stress of work, especially now that they are stuck working from home in the same space. How do you help a partner who won't help themself? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who doesn’t think girls fart and a ruined hookup. Then another emailer asks if it’s fair to expect his partner to continue working when they get married even though he can afford to support them financially. Do people really care if their partner is “ambitious” or is it actually all about the money? Finally, they play some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about guys and their fantasy drafts. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Thanks to our sponsors: HelloFresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/80uup and use code 80uup to get $80 off on your first box, including free shipping. Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP
Oct 07, 2020
What's the Best Way to Handle Rejection?
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On this Sunday Special, the J’s are back with another deal reveal from a listener who was rejected over text by a guy she was dating. They start out by reading both sides of the text exchange, and weigh in on whether or not the guy’s explanation was sufficient. Does it feel better or worse to get the “I’m actually dating someone else” excuse or nothing at all? Plus, they discuss whether or not you should ever give someone another chance if they come back around and try to go on another date.
Oct 04, 2020
Should We Stop Asking People What They’re “Looking For” On A Dating App?
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J&J return and start the show with a conversation about the Netflix show Dating on the Spectrum, and what it can teach us about dating cues. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was dating selected the “don’t know” option in the “what are you looking for” menu of a dating app. How honest should your dating profile be about what you’re actually looking for? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and a piece of mint gum. Then another emailer asks why the girl he was seeing broke things off the way she did. When someone seems sad to be ending things, does that mean the door is still open for a relationship down the road? Finally, they close the show with some RF or DB, including a conversation about how to react when a guy doesn’t plan anything for the first date. Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Ship: Update Ship today and let your friends take control of your dating life – because let’s be honest, we all could use a little help in that department. Download Ship in the app store to start getting matched today.
Sep 30, 2020
Should I Reach Back Out To Someone Who Ghosted Me?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are talking about reaching back out to someone after they ghosted you in the past. They examine a listener’s texts after she stopped getting messages from a guy she liked. Did he stop responding because of the pandemic, or because he didn’t want to see her anymore? Plus, they talk about when it’s appropriate to shoot your shot one last time.
Sep 27, 2020
Can You Ask Someone To Delete Your Nudes After You Break Up?
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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone to delete your nudes after you break up. Then a listener writes in to share her concerns about an ex holding onto the pictures she sent while they were dating, and asks whether or not she should just ask him to delete them altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a friendly hookup, a used tampon, and a Gatorade bottle. Then another emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her partner to continue with their plans for marriage and kids even during a pandemic. Is it okay to admit that your biological clock is not pandemic proof? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about social media turn offs. Thanks to our sponsors: Thrive Market: Join Thrive Market at ThriveMarket.com/UUP and get up to $20 in shopping credit toward your first order. Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase.
Sep 23, 2020
How Detailed Should A Breakup Text Be After Just A Few Dates?
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On this Sunday Special, the J’s return with a deal reveal about breakup texts. First, they take turns reading each side of a long text exchange about pandemic comfort levels and going your separate ways. Then they decide whether or not this guy mansplained his overly detailed excuse for why he doesn’t see things working out.
Sep 20, 2020
Can You Ever Assume You’re In A Relationship With Someone Without Having “The Talk”?
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J&J start the show with a conversation about all the things diet culture and dating culture have in common, and why people just want to be told what to do. Then a listener writes in to ask how to keep the new guy she’s dating from losing interest in her when he goes on vacation. Is he bound to forget about her if she doesn’t make an effort to keep his attention? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a daring maneuver, a missed target, and an embarrassing fall off the bed. Then another listener emails to ask whether or not the relationship labels conversation needs to be explicit. Is it fair to assume you can call each other boyfriend and girlfriend without first discussing it? Finally, they finish with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone who wants to be an influencer. Go to shopbetches.com/collections/uup and check out our latest show merch!
Sep 16, 2020
How Do I Get My Boyfriend To Spend More Time With Me? Ft. Dr. Naomi Bernstein (Jordana’s Sister)
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On this Sunday Special, the J’s are joined once again by Jordana’s sister (and fan favorite), clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about the biggest challenges couples have been facing since the pandemic began. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should insist her partner cut back on his recreational spending so that they can save more for their future home. Is it fair to expect him to sacrifice the same way she does? Finally, an emailer asks if it’s normal for her boyfriend to continue staying at his family’s vacation home even though they just moved in together. Is it fair to ask him to spend more time at home so that she doesn’t feel so lonely? You can find out more about Dr. Naomi Bernstein at naomibernstein.com
Sep 13, 2020
Why Does He Keep Texting Me If He Won’t Make A Date?
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The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about sharing passwords in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if she should be concerned that her boyfriend refuses to share his social media passwords, especially considering that he has been caught texting other women in the past. Should it be assumed that you share passwords in your relationship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a neck injury and a massage gun. Then another emailer is frustrated that the guy she has been talking to is only a late-night texter and refuses to acknowledge that he won’t make time for her during the day. Is it time to call it quits or should she continue to pursue a relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about sharing a dog with an ex.
Sep 09, 2020
How Do You Signal To A Guy That It’s Okay To Approach You In Public? Ft. Girls Gotta Eat
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On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Ashley Hesseltine and Rayna Greenberg of Girls Gotta Eat podcast. They start with an update on Ashley and Rayna’s dating lives, including tips for signaling to guys that it’s okay to approach you in public. Plus, they talk about hooking up during quarantine and posting IG stories that are targeted at one person in particular. Then a listener writes in to ask whether it’s fair for her brother to request that she stop dating his close friend. Should she continue the relationship or respect her brother’s feelings? Finally, they close out the show with a great game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
Sep 06, 2020
Is It A Red Flag If Someone Expresses Strong Feelings Right Away?
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J&J start the week with a discussion about differing pandemic precaution levels in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask how she should handle her boyfriend’s stress level and anxiety when she still wants to maintain a social life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a lit candle, a poorly positioned pillow, and a moment of panic. Then another emailer asks what it means if a guy shows too much interest too early. Should she be concerned that he expressed strong feelings at the beginning, or should she take it as a positive sign? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker, which leads to a conversation about buying expensive gifts when you’re newly dating.
Sep 02, 2020
The One Where We Talk About Indian Matchmaking Ft. Aparna Shewakramani
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On this Sunday’s episode, the J’s are joined by Aparna Shewakramani of the hit Netflix series Indian Matchmaking. They start out with an explanation of how real world matchmaking differs from the way it was presented on the show. Plus, Aparna talks about why her preferences were ignored, how the public has reacted to her portrayal, and what her dating life is like right now. Finally, they close the show with a surprisingly forgiving round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
Aug 30, 2020
Should I Be Worried That My Boyfriend Won’t Talk About Marriage?
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The J’s start this week with a conversation about post-engagement nerves and the way people reacted to the news that Jordana is getting married. Plus, Jordana makes another exciting announcement. Then a listener writes in to ask if her own boyfriend will ever come around to the idea of marriage, and whether or not she needs to just move on. How long should you wait for someone to get on the same page about marriage? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves begrudging oral sex, a hair in the throat, and an overly dramatic response. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a heated debate about how to properly give directions to your partner in the car.
Aug 26, 2020
Is It Normal To Obsess Over My Boyfriend’s Ex?
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On this Sunday Special episode of the U Up? podcast, the J’s receive an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s ex and wants to know more about their relationship. Why can’t she get over it, and will her insecurity inevitably damage their relationship? Plus, they talk about how hard it can be to join their friend group when the ex was so entwined in their crew.
Aug 23, 2020
How To Interpret An Ex's Viewing Of Your Instagram Stories
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J&J start the week with a conversation about the Netflix show Indian Matchmaking and a conversation about getting to know your future spouse. Then a listener writes in to ask why her ex suddenly stopped watching her IG story even though they recently hooked up. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a tampon, marathon sex, and an overly talkative doctor. Another emailer writes in with a scenario about a guy blowing off a date and getting spotted in public that night with another girl. Should you meet up again to ask for an explanation, or just call it off entirely? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about filtering people based on education, and a question about hanging onto old keepsakes from a previous relationship.
Aug 19, 2020
Do You Deserve An Explanation If Someone Ends Things After the Third Date?
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On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are back with a deal reveal. A listener writes in to ask about a guy who called things off out of the blue after the third date, leaving her wondering whether or not he’s being genuine. J&J read both sides of the text exchange and reveal the truth behind his messages, leading to a conversation about following up for an explanation after things end.
Aug 16, 2020
Is It Possible To Go From Sexting To Dating?
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The J’s get this week’s episode started with a conversation about turning your sexting penpal into a real relationship. A listener writes in to ask how to move the conversation from sexting back to serious. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a pack of discarded birth control placebos and an uncomfortable conversation. Another listener asks how to react if the person you matched with on a dating app shows up to the first date with a beard they didn’t have in their profile. How much are you willing to accept if someone's appearance differs from their pictures? Finally, they finish things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a debate about whether or not to reschedule a date if someone falls asleep and stands you up.
Aug 12, 2020
The One Where Jordana Got Engaged
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J&J return for a Sunday Special episode with some big news… Jordana just got engaged! They tell us how it went down, when exactly the engagement conversation got started, and how it feels to go from dating to engaged. Jordana shares how she went about helping to pick a ring and passed the information along to her fiancé. Plus, they talk about the pitfalls of telling your friends the engagement is coming soon, and close the show with all the details on how he popped the question.
Aug 09, 2020
Why Do People Keep Cancelling On Me Before Dates?
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J&J begin this week with a conversation about the increase in date cancellations during covid. Are people cancelling more often than they used to? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bent penis and an unpleasant trip to the ER. Another emailer writes in to ask why the guy she just became exclusive with keeps insisting that they wait to have sex. How does she tell him she’s ready without coming off desperate? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a conversation about how early in a relationship you can start leaving things at your partner’s place.
Aug 05, 2020
Is It Okay To Be Jealous Of My Boyfriend’s Hot Female Friend?
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The J’s start the week with conversation about why some people always seem to be the ones who get dumped, while others are doing all the dumping. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a puddle on the ground, an embarrassing fall, and a misunderstanding about fluids. How are some guys still so clueless about female anatomy? Another emailer writes in with a story about going on a first date and getting cornered in the bathroom with a message from her date's ex. Is it a dealbreaker if someone warns you about the way they've treated partners in the past? Then a listener asks whether or not she should be worried that her boyfriend’s attractive neighbor has gotten so close to him since he moved in. What are the boundaries on guy/girl friendships when you’re in a committed relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about living near your ex. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com
Jul 29, 2020
How to Judge a Guy By His Birthday Text
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The J’s start the week with a debate about whether or not guys like women with curly hair, and a conversation about how you’d react if your partner payed someone on an OnlyFans page. Then, a listener writes in to ask how to reach out if your date hasn’t texted you after a while. Is it possible to make the next move without coming off desperate? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a movie soundtrack, constant interruptions, and an uncomfortable amount of Lord of the Rings talk. Another listener writes in to ask whether or not the “just joined” label on dating apps gives people the impression you’re just looking for rebound sex after a breakup. Should you be up front about the fact that you’re fresh out of a relationship? Then an emailer asks how early in a relationship you should tell someone that you’re bisexual. Finally, they finish things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what it means when someone you’re dating sends a subpar birthday text. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Glossier: Get that glowy, dewy skin for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and you’ll get 10% off your first order
Jul 22, 2020
Why Are Some People Always In Relationships And Others Always Single?
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J&J begin the show with a conversation about the wave of Karen videos going around and why people can’t help but watch them. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should start following a guy that she met briefly and developed a crush on at work on Instagram. What does it signal to a guy if you initiate the IG follow? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing vibrator and a desperate quest to retrieve it. Another listener writes in to ask why some people always seem to be in a relationship and others are perpetually single. Next, an emailer asks if she should agree to put her relationship on hold for the sake of their careers, and whether or not it’s best to cut off all communication during a break. Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a debate about using liquor bottles as decor. Thanks to our sponsors: Thrive: Go to thrivemarket.com/UUP to start your risk-free membership and get up to twenty dollars toward your first order!
Jul 15, 2020
How Do I Get My Partner To Compliment Me More?
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The J’s start the week with a conversation about the return to in-person dating now that many states have started to at least partially re-open. A listener writes in to ask how long is too long to talk to someone from a dating app before meeting them. Are the stakes higher than a regular first date when you’re meeting out of quarantine? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a parked minivan, a dead battery, and a dad with jumper cables. Another emailer asks whether or not she should be concerned that her boyfriend’s ex is still Facebook friends with his mom and likes everything she posts. Next, a listener wants her boyfriend to give her more compliments but doesn’t know how to bring it up. Finally, they finish out the week with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about people who allow the restaurant to ‘surprise’ them with their meal each time they order. Thanks to our sponsors: Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase.
Jul 08, 2020
Should I Respond To A Random Text From An Ex?
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J&J begin the show with an email from a listener whose girlfriend watched footage of his ex’s wedding and made fun of the people from his hometown. Is it a dealbreaker if someone doesn’t respect where you're from? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a dog, a tongue, and some misplaced blame. Another emailer asks if she’s reading too much into her boyfriend choosing to buy a house without including her in the process. Then a listener writes in to ask about a series of confusing texts she got from a guy that broke things off over a year ago and is using Covid to get back into her good graces. Finally, they close things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone you’re dating to quit smoking. Thanks to our sponsors: Hello Fresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/80uup and use code 80uup to get a total of $80 off, including free shipping on your first box.
Jul 01, 2020
How Do I Get My Partner To Improve Without Insulting Them?
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The J’s start the week with a conversation about how to talk to your partner about a hygiene issue that could offend them. A listener writes in to ask how she can encourage her new boyfriend to address his earwax problem without making it a big deal. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who won’t have sex on the first date but is open to it the morning after. Another emailer asks how to feel about her boyfriend’s response to the Black Lives Matter protests. Should she be concerned about their compatibility if he’s not willing to post publicly about the movement? Then a listener asks whether or not premium options on dating apps actually give you a better chance of finding a partner. Is the ‘super like’ a turn on or an act of desperation? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including a debate about changing your name to please the person you’re with. Thanks to our sponsors: Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Prose: Take your free in-depth hair quiz and get 15% off your first order at Prose.com/uup
Jun 24, 2020
Why Was My Ex Able To Move On So Fast And I Can’t?
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J&J start the show with an email from a listener who was blindsided when she found out her ex-boyfriend moved on so quickly, and in such a public way. What does it say about your former relationship when your ex moves on too fast? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves fresh sheets, embarrassing facial expressions, and a misunderstanding about the pillow. Then another emailer writes in about a new relationship that suddenly became long-distance due to the pandemic, derailing her plan to get serious and come out to her family. Next, a listener asks for advice dealing with a former fling that reached back out after a long period of no contact. Did she shut the door on the possibility to check back in with him to see where they stand? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who constantly ask if you washed your hands. Thanks to our sponsors: Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/  Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com
Jun 17, 2020
Is It A Huge Mistake To Tell A Guy That You’re Open To Something Casual?
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The J’s begin this week with an email from an avid milk drinker who is turned on by a past listener’s love of milk. What do the things you love say about your values? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a burning candle, an impromptu massage, and a huge misunderstanding. Then another emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should feel judged by a guy who called things off after she admitted to occasionally smoking weed. Next, an emailer asks why the guy she’s talking to is quick to respond to Snapchat messages but hesitant to take things to text. Did she make a mistake by telling him she was only looking for something casual? Finally, this week’s game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker features a debate about what kind of person actually wants to be on the show Four Weddings. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com StoryWorth: Give your dad the most meaningful gift this Father’s Day with StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/uup. Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase.
Jun 10, 2020
Is It Okay To Ask Your Quarantine Fling Not To Hook Up With Others?
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J&J get the show started with a conversation about people shaming each other for the extent to which they’re social distancing. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she just started seeing after he sent a screenshot that ‘accidentally’ included a popped up snapchat with another girl’s name. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing pair of testicles and a doctor’s explanation. Another emailer asks if it’s reasonable to ask a quarantine fling to remain exclusive for as long as you keep hooking up, even if you’re not actually dating. Next, they respond to a listener who is struggling to be happy for her friends getting engaged when her boyfriend hasn’t proposed after dating for much longer than other couples. Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a discussion about people who lose their phone when they’re drunk. Thanks to our sponsor: HBO Max’s Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/
Jun 03, 2020
Is This Relationship Real Or Just A Quarantine Distraction?
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The J’s start the show with a conversation about couples who moved in together for quarantine, and whether or not it’s okay to go back to living apart once this all ends. They offer advice to a listener whose boyfriend moved in for just this reason on how to navigate the transition back to “normal” life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a guy who doesn’t know whether or not he’s circumcised. Is it a huge red flag if your partner doesn’t know their own anatomy? Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should be alarmed that the guy she just started seeing hasn’t mentioned that he was married before. Another listener asks whether or not the quarantine-hookup in her building is using his past relationship as a cop out for getting more serious. Is it possible that he’s genuinely not ready for a relationship, or is she just a quarantine distraction? Finally, they finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about dating with strict food restrictions. Thanks to our sponsors! HBO Max’s Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/
May 27, 2020
Is It Okay To Like Photos Of Your Friend’s Ex?
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Jordana & Jared get the show started this week with details about the upcoming U Up? Live At Home show and a conversation about social media etiquette when it comes to liking photos. Then they dive into a listener email about what to do when your best friend keeps hitting ‘like’ on photos posted by your ex. Is this a violation of some sort of unwritten rule of friendship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a foot fetish and an unsatisfying finish. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she was DMing with never called or texted when she gave him her number. Was she too eager to take the next step or is she just overthinking things? Another listener asks how to start a conversation about finances during quarantine with her significant other. Is it fair to ask your partner to take on more of the financial burden when you lose your job? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about whether or not it’s weird to have a roommate of the opposite sex. We’re hosting our first ever U Up? Live At Home on Thursday, May 21st at 8pm ET/5pm PT! Grab a drink, gather the group chat, and get your tickets NOW before they sell out at: betches.co/uupathome
May 20, 2020
Should Couples Stop Moving In Together Before Getting Engaged?
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The J’s start things off with a conversation about quarantine sex and whether or not the frequency has changed for couples since getting trapped indoors. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s okay to move in together without getting engaged first. Do people underestimate the importance of the move-in as a milestone? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted golden shower and an apologetic Taco Tuesday. Then a listener asks if it’s messed up for a guy to be mad at her for not wanting to meet up in person during quarantine. Another emailer asks if it’s a bad idea to go straight from living in your parents’ house to living with your boyfriend. Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a conversation about people who get angry at strangers who aren't social-distancing. We’re hosting our first ever U Up? Live At Home on Thursday, May 21st at 8pm ET/5pm PT! Grab a drink, gather the group chat, and get your tickets NOW before they sell out at: betches.co/uupathome
May 13, 2020
Who Gets To Decide Where You Quarantine As A Couple? Ft. Mark Manson
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J&J start the week with a conversation about who gets to decide where you quarantine as a couple. A listener writes in to ask whether her boyfriend of five years should feel obligated to come quarantine with her in her parents’ home. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a random flip into the air, a pair of bunnies, and a strange invitation. Plus, Jared shares a hilarious story about a spontaneous flip ruining his night. Then they’re joined by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, to talk about his new audiobook Love Is Not Enough. They start with a conversation about the concept of ‘f*ck yes or no’ and why sometimes it’s best for people to just admit it’s time to move on. Together, they answer another emailer’s question about a guy she’s been seeing during the pandemic, and whether or not it will all end the moment quarantine is over. Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about someone you dated adding you on LinkedIn. Thanks to our sponsor! 1-800-Contacts: Order online at 1800contacts.com, through their 5-star rated app or calling 1-800-Contacts (1-800-266-8228)
May 06, 2020
How To Tell If You’re Bored In Your Relationship Or Just Bored Of Quarantine
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The J’s start the show with an update on quarantine dating, and a conversation about whether or not video chatting before in-person dates will become the new norm. Then a listener writes in to ask how to tell if you’re bored of quarantine or just bored in your relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a late night fart and a discussion about the proper etiquette for being gross around your partner. Another emailer writes in to ask if it’s unfair to invite her boyfriend over during quarantine even though she’s not comfortable with her roommate having friends over. Is this a double standard, or is she in the right to see it as two separate things? Then another listener asks for help with texts from a guy who keeps flaking on her but continues to ask for another chance. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about dating someone who has never left their hometown.
Apr 29, 2020
What Do You Do When You’re Fed Up With Quarantine Dating?
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J & J get things started this week with a conversation about avoiding fights with your significant other when you’re stuck trying to work and coexist in the same living space. Then they discuss the reasons why some men are resistant to going on a Zoom date, and an emailer asks what to do when you’re fed up with quarantine dating altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves Gucci in the bedroom, a Gucci bathroom, and a suspicious deodorant choice. Plus, Jared makes a shocking confession. Another listener writes in to ask why the guy who refused to commit to her is still sending casual Snapchat and Instagram messages. Then another emailer asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend hides (and deletes) his text conversations from her. Is there any reasonable explanation for why he could be hiding his messages? Then they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, and a conversation about what your hopes and dreams say about who you are as a person.
Apr 22, 2020
This Is What It’s Like To Quarantine In A New Relationship Ft. Sam Morril & Taylor Tomlinson
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The J’s begin the show by talking sh*t about the first photo Instagram challenge. Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not it’s weird to follow someone on Instagram the moment you match on a dating app. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a half-naked man, grandparents at the front door, and a strange text months after the fact. Next, they offer advice to a listener who confronted the guy she’s seeing after he updated his dating profile. Then they’re joined by comedians Sam Morril and Taylor Tomlinson to talk about how the new couple is handling quarantining together just six months into their relationship. They talk about how to avoid fights, activities couples can do together, and whether or not it’s expected to continue living together once social distancing ends. They give advice to a listener asking how to deal with a resentful boyfriend whose pandemic related stress is testing her relationship. Finally, they close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a debate about liking thirst traps and where to draw the line.
Apr 15, 2020
Are You Willing To Go On A FaceTime First Date? Ft. Nicole Byer
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The J’s start the show with a conversation about dating when you’re stuck inside, and discuss the fact that people are finally willing to try FaceTime dates. Plus, they talk about how the quarantine has forced people to reassess their relationships. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sexy lingerie, a wad of toilet paper, and a disappearing act. Next, a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to be upset with your partner for giving up on seeing each other during the quarantine. Should your significant other be willing to forgo social distancing rules for the sake of your relationship? Then they’re joined by Nicole Byer, comedian and host of Netflix’s “Nailed It!” to talk about dating in this weird and confusing time. They respond to a single listener who feels like a loser right now and needs advice for dating without seeing people in person. Finally, they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and Nicole tells us whether or not it’s okay to move into your partner’s childhood home together.
Apr 08, 2020
How Do I Know If My Partner Is Ready To Move In With Me?
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J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared moving in with his girlfriend and how living together affects your relationship. Then a listener writes in to ask what the correct etiquette is for reaching out to an ex when one of their loved ones passes away. How do you check in without giving the impression that you have ulterior motives? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex, a piece of gum, and a strange conversation. Next, an emailer asks how to get her weekends-only boyfriend to spend more time with her. Are they using the “love language” conversation as an excuse not to compromise? Then another listener asks if the guy she’s moving in with really wants to live together, or if he’s just doing it to please her. Is it common to have cold feet about moving in together? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including one featuring a difficult Bachelor/Bachelorette scenario.
Apr 01, 2020
How To Admit That Your Toxic Hookup Is Never Going To Change
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The J’s begin the show with a conversation about opening lines on dating apps and how to ensure you get a first date. Is it possible to come off too eager with a dating app opening line? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a children’s show theme song and a cringeworthy post-sex routine. Next, a listener writes in to ask if she made a mistake by asking the guy she is seeing if he is open to something more serious. They read a series of texts from her and discuss what to do when you get a direct answer, but it’s not the one you’re looking for. Another email writes in to ask what it means when a guy says he needs time to himself. Should you assume he really just wants to break up? Then they’re joined by Betches’ own Alicia Angeles to share her story of being in an on-again/off-again toxic relationship for over a decade. A listener writes in about a similar experience and asks how to get over the resentment of being treated so poorly for so long. At what point in a relationship do you admit to yourself that he’s not going to change and it’s time to move on? They close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring someone who declines your Instagram follow request.
Mar 25, 2020
Love In The Time Of Corona
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J & J begin the show with a conversation about trying to maintain a dating life during the coronavirus crisis. They talk about getting quarantined with someone you can’t stand, trying to date when you’re supposed to be practicing social distancing, and whether or not you’d rather spend this time solo or with someone you just started dating. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy with sangria d*ck and a pre-worn condom. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s just using her casual hook up to distract herself from pursuing a real relationship. This leads to a conversation about the biological reasons why emotion is so important for good sex. Then another listener writes in to ask about a series of texts she received from a guy she was dating for months. When a guy says he needs time to himself, should you assume he really just wants to break up? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about Uber etiquette on a date.
Mar 18, 2020
How Many Times Should I Let Him Reschedule?
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The J’s start off this week’s show with Jared’s dating dilemma involving one first-class plane ticket, and one upset girlfriend. Should men feel obligated to give up the superior seat to their significant other? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves bad aim and an embarrassing climax. Next, they answer an emailer whose worst fear is dating someone in debt. How far into a relationship is it okay to bring up finances? Another listener writes in to ask how long you should wait for someone you’re texting to finally book a first date. Is there a certain amount of time after which you should cut someone off? They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and decide whether or not getting banned from a dating app should get you blocked IRL. Thanks to our sponsors! WOO: Go to woomoreplay.com and use promo code UUP for for 20% off your order of WOO SHIP: Download our dating app at betches.co/SHIP to start finding matches today
Mar 11, 2020
U Update: He Wouldn't Call Me His Girlfriend
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On this special “Where Are They Now” episode, J & J receive an update email from a listener who was dating a guy that wouldn’t call her his girlfriend. First, they listen back to their original advice from the March 27th, 2019 episode titled “Is Refusing To Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker?" Then they read her full update, telling us whether or not they're still together, which predictions they got right, and why people find it so hard to take good advice.
Mar 06, 2020
The One Where We Talk About Love is Blind
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The J’s are back with a special pop-up episode *spoilers ahead* all about the hit dating show Love Is Blind. They start off with a conversation about which parts of the show worked, which fell flat, and why viewers are so invested in these couples. Then they dive into each of the couples that made it past the pods, starting with the most boring couple of all, Kelly and Kenny. Next, they discuss Carlton withholding info about his sexuality from Diamond before proposing, and the fallout that ensued. They talk about the constant toxic energy between Giannina and Damian, then dive into the love triangle Barnett found himself in despite being a classic f*ckboi. Plus, they cover Jessica’s relationship with Mark, including her constant obsession with their age gap. Finally, they talk about what they would change about the show, and what it says about dating in general. Thanks to our sponsors! Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP MeUndies: To get 15% off your first order, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/uup Glossier: New customers will get 10% off their first order by going to Glossier.com/podcast/uup
Mar 04, 2020
How Do I Turn My Work Hookup Into A Real Relationship?
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J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s birthday and the difference between how men and women celebrate. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she is seeing insists on using a condom every time they have sex even though they’re exclusive and she has an IUD. Is this a sign that he’s hiding something, or is he just overly cautious? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a night of shots and an ugly-cry. Why are guys judged more harshly for showing emotion in a relationship? Next, a listener asks why her office-party hookup hasn’t asked her on a date yet, and whether or not they’re ever going to go out. Another emailer asks whether or not it’s fair to judge a guy she matched with on a dating app who was going bald but didn’t disclose it until the first date. They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring the age old question: what do you do when your boyfriend accidentally calls you mom? Thanks to our sponsors! Care/of: For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter promo code UUP
Feb 26, 2020
Am I Allowed To Be Upset With My Partner About What They Did Before We Were Exclusive?
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The J’s start off this week’s show with a viral tweet involving a girl who cancelled her date at the last minute and the negative reaction she got from the guy she was supposed to meet. Is there a double standard when it comes to rescheduling a date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a set of messy sheets and an embarrassing personal hygiene story. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s reading too much into her newly-exclusive boyfriend getting tagged online by other women. Is it okay to call him out for who he was hanging with, or should she just leave it alone? Another listener writes in to ask how to avoid ending up in a friends-with-benefits situation. Will guys put you in a certain category if you hook up too soon? They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about ordering an Uber pool on a first date. Thanks to our sponsors! ThirdLove: Go to ThirdLove.com/UUP now to find your perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first order
Feb 19, 2020
Should You Expect A Valentine’s Day Date After A Month Of Dating?
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J & J begin the show with a conversation about Valentine’s Day and what to do when you don’t have a date. They debate whether or not you should expect a Valentine’s date with someone you’ve been hooking up with for a month. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she has been seeing for weeks still hasn’t kissed her. Is this a sign that he’s not interested or that he just can’t pull the trigger? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a guy who accidentally sexted an entire group chat. Then, an emailer sends in a deal reveal involving a guy who keeps trying to suggest a group-date scenario after only one drink together. Another listener asks whether or not she should be okay with her longterm boyfriend going on a solo-vacation to South America. Is it a sign that they’re not in the same place in the relationship and should break up? Finally, they play a round of Valentine’s Day-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Thank you to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Ship: Finding a date is more fun when you do it with friends - go to betches.co/ship to start finding matches today! Shop Betches: Get 15% off the U Up? collection at Shop Betches by going to shop.betches.com/collections/U-UP and use promo code UUP
Feb 12, 2020
When Is It Time To Admit Your Long Distance Relationship Isn’t Working?
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The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not there are rules for which pictures you can and can’t use on your dating profile after a breakup. Is it okay to use a picture you like even if it has your ex in it? Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen encounter and a boyfriend naked from the waste down. Then, they discuss setting expectations before ‘dates’ with the opposite sex. How do you clearly signal to someone you met offline that you're interested in seeing them romantically? Another listener asks how to make things work with his new girlfriend even though she lives an hour away. Is it okay to tell someone you want to date but don’t want to travel to see each other as much as they’d prefer? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about guys who don’t understand the importance of soap. Thanks to our sponsor! Me Undies: To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/UUP
Feb 05, 2020
Should I Come Clean About My Past On A First Date? Ft. Jordana’s Sister
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J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do they have a right to get annoyed if you’re not paying attention to the screen? Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should stay together with her boyfriend just for an expensive vacation. Is it unfair to take advantage of the trip if you’re not planning to stick around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a naked stranger and a carpet fire. Next, an emailer asks why her long term hookup keeps trying to reconnect with her despite having a girlfriend. After, they’re joined by Jordana’s very own sister, clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about couples in therapy, trying therapy before you get married, and figuring out when it’s time to admit things aren’t working. Then they answer a listener email asking whether or not it’s okay to hide evidence of her troubled past on a first date. Do they have the right to know up front about your past struggles, or is it fair to save that for down the road? They finish out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about how long you should wait to text after the first time you sleep together. You can find out more about Dr. Naomi Bernstein at naomibernstein.com
Jan 29, 2020
Is It A Bad Sign If My Partner Still Talks About Their Ex? Ft. Luann de Lesseps
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The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say about you if you’re rooting for Brad and Jen to reunite? Next, they respond to a listener question about what to do when the person you’re dating constantly brings up their ex. Should you be okay with your partner talking about their ex, or is it okay to expect them to move on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a New Year’s hookup, a gun next to the bed, and a weird clothing request. Next, an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she’s seeing isn’t trying harder to spend time together. Is he trying to send the signal that he no longer wants to see her? Then they’re joined by Countess Luann de Lesseps of The Real Housewives of New York City to talk about her own romantic history, what she’s looking for in a man, and taking her cabaret show on the road. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird to sleep in separate bedrooms from your partner. To close the show, Luann joins Jordana and Jared for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.
Jan 22, 2020
Why Do So Many Daters End Things At The Three Month Mark?
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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going. Is it a sign that you need to break up if you don’t see a long term future after three months? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about saying the wrong person’s name during sex. Next, a listener asks for a “Judge J’s” ruling on a case involving a last-minute date cancellation and a text admitting that he just committed to be exclusive with someone else. Then an emailer writes in to ask if she should continue to revive a long distance relationship even though the guy doesn’t seem to think it’s worth the trouble. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a frightening listener text exchange. Thanks to our sponsors! Me Undies: To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/UUP Ship: Download our dating app at betches.co/SHIP to start finding matches today Care/of: For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter promo code UUP50
Jan 15, 2020
What Should You Do If You Find Out Your Partner Cheated On Their Ex?
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The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your business? Then, an emailer asks if it’s possible to successfully live with a messy person if you’re a clean freak. They close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which leads into a conversation about guys who only pee sitting down. Thanks to our sponsors! Fabletics: Go to Fabletics.com/uup and get 2 leggings for only $24 (a $99 value) when you sign up for a VIP Stitchfix: Get started today at Stitchfix.com/uup and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP
Jan 08, 2020
How Do I Break The Cycle of Hooking Up With a Guy Who Won’t Date Me?
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Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.  Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey
Jan 01, 2020
How Do I Handle A Guy Who Tries to Make It Too Sexual Too Fast?
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Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual conversation after a first date means the guy she went out with is worth seeing again. Finally, they close the show out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey
Dec 25, 2019
Is It Important To Show Off The Person You’re Dating On Social Media?
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J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule.  Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey
Dec 18, 2019
When Is The Right Time To Unfollow An Old Hookup?
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Lincoln Theatre in Washington, DC. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question asking when the right time would be to unfollow someone you casually dated. At 17:20 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 30:30 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 45:40 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 58:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and an unquenchable appetite.  Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Moxy Hotels! Find out more at: http://moxy-hotels.marriott.com/
Dec 14, 2019
What Do I Do When My Partner Sucks At Buying Gifts?
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The J’s are back in the studio and start the show with a conversation about 90 Day Fiancé and what the show says about setting expectations in your relationship. Is it fair to change your expectations of your partner after being together for a long time? Next, a listener writes in asking how to correct someone’s technique in bed without being offensive. They offer up options for saying the right thing. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a girl in a hot tub and a booty call. Another listener sends an email after she saw the awful gifts her boyfriend ordered for her birthday. Is he really trying his best or should she ‘accidentally’ cancel the order? They read another email from a girl who’s hooking up with an influencer and asks how to engage with someone who thinks they are famous just because they have a blue check mark. Finally, they close out the episode with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.  The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Dec 11, 2019
How Soon Can You Start Dating After A Breakup?
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Jared and Jordana are back to talk about gender roles, how they’re changing, and what they mean for your relationship. They start with an email from a listener who got broken up with because he cried in front of his girlfriend. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who stopped a hookup mid-makeout to admit that he farted. They give their best advice on how and when to fart in front of your partner. Next, they read an email from a listener who blacked out on a sixth date and is worried she may have ruined things. Are drunk antics always a turnoff? Another listener writes in the day after her breakup, wondering when it’s acceptable to get back out there and if dating too soon will scare guys off. Then they close out the show with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Dec 04, 2019
Can You Ever Really Be Friends With An Ex?
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J and J head to Boston for a very special episode recorded live at The Wilbur Theater. At 8:00 they kick things off by answering a listener submitted email. Then, at 16:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover and deal reveal for a lucky audience member. At 30:20 they invite another guest on stage for a dating profile makeover. At 47:30 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. Then at 57:20 they read some awkward sex, then close out the show with some audience Q&A. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Nov 30, 2019
How Do I Avoid Being The Drunkest Person In The Room?
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Double J is back in action just in time for the most regretful night of the year, Thanksgiving Eve. They start by breaking down Jared’s philosophy of the Thanksgiving eve drunk person pace car in hopes to save some listeners from being the drunkest person at the bar. Next, a listener writes in wondering what the best way to up her dating game in real life is in an effort to use the dating apps less. Then they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features some bad sex and a little too much honesty. Later, a listener writes in wondering how to cancel a subscription-based gift after a breakup. Lastly, a listener writes in wondering how to take a step back and take it slow after falling for a guy very quickly. As usual, they close out the show with a round of red flag or dealbreaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Nov 27, 2019
How Do I Find Closure After An Unexpected Breakup?
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J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about how to avoid getting grilled by your family about your relationship status over the holidays. Is Thanksgiving the toughest time to be single around your family? At 13:50 a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to have dinner with a friend you used to have a crush on even though you’re in a relationship now. Are old love interests completely off limits for one on one drinks, or should your partner trust you enough to let it go? At 27:40 The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a new hookup uncovering an embarrassing search history. At 45:25 another listener writes in to ask for help finding closure after an unexpected breakup with her long-distance boyfriend. Is it possible to get closure on a breakup if you weren’t the one who initiated it? At 1:01:30 an emailer wonders whether his female roommate is getting in the way of finding a girlfriend, or if it’s just a matter of not having his own place. They finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a conversation about never having attended a wedding. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Nov 20, 2019
If A Guy Likes My Instagram, Does That Mean He Likes Me?
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Miami Improv. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question about sharing your Instagram before a first date. At 8:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 27:50 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 42:30 they’re joined by Nicole Lopez-Alvar of Bachelor fame to talk about life after Paradise and dating in Miami. Then, at 46:00 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 57:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted dog in the bedroom, then they close out the show with some audience questions. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Nov 16, 2019
Is It A Mistake To Follow Someone To Another City Just For Love?
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Coming in hot from the East Coast live tour, J and J kick off the episode discussing how to be more realistic on dating apps. Have these apps made it too easy for average guys to act like they’re god’s gift to women? At 15:40 a listener writes in to ask about sharing expenses when traveling as a new couple. Is a detailed spreadsheet the sign of a good partner or a huge turn off? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a divorced couple, a bottle of lube, and a muscle cream mix-up. At 39:25 another listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to follow her boyfriend to a new city. Do men and women consider their partner’s needs differently when facing a possible relocation? At 55:55 an emailer is concerned that men won’t want to date her because she’s never been in a serious relationship. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a debate about body wash. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Nov 13, 2019
How Often Do I Need To Text My Significant Other While I’m Away?
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The J’s return to discuss the best way to deal with people who aren’t engaging on the dating apps. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering how to pull out some conversation with the duds she’s been chatting with on the apps. At 22:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener wondering if she should be offended that the guy she’s hooking up with pours her a cup of mouthwash after every bang sesh. At 31:05 a listener writes in wondering whose responsibility it is to keep the communication fluid in a relationship while her boyfriend is away. At 42:25 a listener writes in wondering if it’s possible to maintain mutual friendships after a relationship has ended. At 59:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Check out the new podcast Sibling Revelry from Kate and Oliver Hudson! Click here to listen: Sibling Revelry with Kate Hudson & Oliver Hudson
Nov 06, 2019
Would You Swipe Right On Someone From NSYNC? Ft. Joey Fatone
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Plaza Live in Orlando. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 19:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 47:20 the hosts of The Two Cups of Joe Podcast, Joey Fatone and Joe Mulvihill, share their dating stories and play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 1:22:00 they close out the show with some audience questions. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Nov 02, 2019
What’s the Best Way To Decline a Request For Nudes?
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The J’s are back in the studio in between their fall tour dates to cozy up and close out the month. They begin by decoding a cryptic text message that may or may not be asking for nudes. At 15:50 they help a listener looking to repair trust with a 4 month fling who was sexting someone else while they were out on a date. At 41:00 a listener writes in asking for an opinion about using the mute feature on Instagram to banish an old flame that was haunting her story views. At 47:20 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features an audible out of a blow job and into a solo masturbation. At 1:10:00 a listener writes in wondering if she’s reading too far into a Facebook profile picture of her college boyfriend and another girl. At 1:09:50 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker.   The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Nov 01, 2019
The Easiest Way To Get From A Dating App Convo To a First Date
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J and J are back to talk about why it’s so hard for women to initiate a date, and tell us the best way to steer the first-date conversation where you want it to go. At 21:05 they answer a listener question about how many dates she should wait before asks the guy out herself. Is it better to take the initiative early on or wait for your moment? At 28:10 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a sleep talker, a weird sex request, and an expression of love that was probably meant for someone else. At 31:30 they address the universally dreaded topic of family holidays when you’re in a newer relationship. Is it ever a good idea to meet the parents for the first time during a holiday gathering? At 54:20 a listener writes in to ask whether or not she is obligated to forgive her ex for cheating on her. At 1:00:20 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one involving a naked portrait. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets now at Betches.co/uuptour
Oct 23, 2019
Do I Get To Care About Who My Partner Used To Sleep With?
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Fresh off the Southeast leg of the U Up? Live Tour, J and J recap everything that happened on the road. At 11:00 a listener writes in suggesting that people should encourage their boyfriends not to watch porn. Is your sex life destined to be more fulfilling if you cut out porn altogether? At 28:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bar mishap, a trip to the ER, and a strange first kiss. At 35:55 another listener shares a strange text she received from the guy she’s dating where he admitted to hitting on her friend. Is this guy trying to make her jealous or is he just that dumb? At 51:35 they give advice to a listener who is unhappy in her career and it’s affecting her dating life. Is it better to hide your insecurities or be up front about them? Then they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about finding out who your partner used to sleep with. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Oct 16, 2019
Is It Shallow To Only Want To Date Rich People?
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The Js return from a very happy Yom Kippur to continue the best month of the year, fucktober. They start by addressing a listener who writes in wondering what the best way to let her dates know she’s admittedly high maintenance. At 31:50 they talk about their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a trip to Tulum, some roadway felatio and a slamming door. At 44:05 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her inferiority complex with her friend. At 59:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do after finding snapchats to an ex on her bf’s phone. At 1:05:50 they play a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker”. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour #Entertainment   
Oct 09, 2019
How Do I Confront My Partner About Their Terrible Texting? Ft. Jonathan Van Ness
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F*cktober has arrived, aka the season of confusion. J and J are here to offer some clarity, starting with an email about hooking up again the morning after. Does not engaging in morning-after sex ruin your chances of being together? At 37:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a weird choice of words. Is it acceptable to tell a girl you’re going to make her “nut” during sex? At 48:00 another listener asks how she should talk to her boyfriend about his terrible texting habits. Then at 1:04:00 they’re joined by Queer Eye star Jonathan Van Ness to talk about his new book Over the Top. They discuss his HIV diagnosis, answer a listener question about trying a same-sex relationship, and share the “forearm test” for figuring out if someone is interested in you. Finally, the close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a celebration of male ass-play.  The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Oct 02, 2019
What’s the Best Way To Be Broken Up With?
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre in Toronto. At 5:30 they ask the question “what’s the best way to be broken up with?” At 15:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 29:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker”. At 43:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” At 55:15 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter. Thanks to our sponsors! Head to PRIVACY.COM/UUP to sign up and get $5 to spend on your first purchase. Go to CAPRI-BLUE.COM and use code UUP get 20% off your entire purchase and have your space smelling like the Betches office today.
Sep 27, 2019
Why Are Guys So Afraid Of Commitment?
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As we say gabagool to F*cktember and head into F*cktober, Jared and Jordana are back to talk about taking serious steps in a relationship and transitioning into cuffing season. At 30:40 a listener asks for advice after her partner freaked out about how fast things were moving. Is he afraid to commit, or just afraid to commit to HER? At 47:55 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about running into a guy’s mom in the hallway the morning after a hookup. At 54:40 an emailer writes in to ask if she has the right to be mad that her boyfriend swapped Instas with a girl he met at a bar. Then at 1:08:00 another listener asks if the third date is the right time to bring someone back to your apartment. At what point do you stop going for drinks and just invite them over? At 1:14:05 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Sep 25, 2019
What Counts As An Appropriate First Date Location?
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J and J are back and ready to bring in everyone’s favorite month, fucktober. At 21:50 they break down the science behind the ‘walking date.’ What does it mean for a future relationship and should you be scared? At 38:30 a listener shares their awkward sexual encounter which features a sorority house, a forgotten condom, and some head banging on the dashboard of a car. At 47:00 they share their advice for a listener worried about the ex girlfriend posing as her boyfriend's cat on his Netflix account. At 1:08:05 they respond to a west coast tech guy who feels he’s no longer datable. At 1:18:00 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Sep 18, 2019
How Do I Bring Up Weird Instagram Activity Without Sounding Crazy?
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Agora Theatre in Cleveland. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 14:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Brandon Zingale.
Sep 13, 2019
Should I Delete My Instagram Photos With My Ex? Ft. Rachel Lindsay & Travis Mills
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The Js ride again and following Jordana’s 30th birthday, she wants to speak to the manager. At 12:45 a listener writes in wondering how to handle a guy that she’s seeing and his semi soft noodle dick. At 25:00 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a hexagon, sleep talking and a happy ending. At 34:35 a listener writes in wondering if she should delete all of her instagram pictures with her now ex-boyfriend. At 50:00 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. At 1:07:35 they’re joined by Travis Mills and Rachel Lindsay of MTV’s new show “Ghosted” to discuss being on The Bachelorette, getting catfished in Las Vegas, and what actually constitutes being ghosted. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Sep 11, 2019
How Many Dates Should It Take To Decide if You Have Sexual Chemistry With Someone?
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Jared and Jordana are here to wrap up the summer and kick off fall hook up season. At 10:00 they discuss when the exact start date of cuffing season should be. At 17:00 they breakdown what guys think about vibrators. At 32:00 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter featuring hookup persistence despite a knocked out tooth. At 37:50 a listener writes in wondering how to deal with the pressure of getting physical on a first date. At 1:17:00 they play red flag or deal breaker. Is it a deal breaker if someone tells you they hooked up with someone else in their dreams? The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Sep 04, 2019
Is It Hot Or Offensive To Leave Right After A Hookup? Ft. Tyler Cameron
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J and J start the show with a conversation about the best way to ask your significant other for spontaneous plans. Does your partner have the right to be upset when work is your number 1 priority? At 14:50 this week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who uses a condom for an unorthodox purpose. At 24:00 a listener asks how to respond to an ex who texted him after they saw each other in public without saying hello. What does the phrase “I have love for you” even mean? At 34:50 they’re joined by Tyler Cameron of The Bachelorette to talk about suddenly becoming a major celebrity and dating after the show. He talks about his move to New York City and current living arrangement. They talk about his dating history and what he’s actually looking for in a woman. At 46:15 Tyler helps with an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s a bad look to leave right after a hookup. At 51:30 they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a conversation about how important it is for your partner’s parents to like you. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Aug 28, 2019
How Do I Slide Into A Guy’s DMs Without Seeming Desperate?
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J and J kick off the show with a conversation about sliding into someone’s DMs after you miss the chance to connect on a dating app. What’s the right way to start a conversation via DM? At 26:25 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who played dead the moment after he finished during sex. At 38:45 a listener writes in to ask if it’s safe to have a threesome with her long-term boyfriend. Is there any way to bring in a third person without somebody getting jealous? At 55:00 another emailer asks if she comes off as desperate when she initiates the first date with guys she has matched. Is it important to make guys chase you or is it better to just take charge? At 1:02:45 they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and ask how you should deal with an insincere complimenter. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Aug 21, 2019
How Do I Handle The Guy Who Wants To Take Things Slow?
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Vic Theatre in Chicago. At 9:25 they ask the question “how do I handle the guy who wants to take things slow?” At 16:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for 2 audience members. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Diggy Moreland.
Aug 16, 2019
Does It Count As Cheating If Your Partner Pays Strangers For Nudes?
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J and J start the show with a preview of tonight’s live show from Chicago. At 9:10 they discuss an argument that was set off by a dangerous hypothetical question. At 25:20 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost condom and a ruined set of sheets. Should you come clean when the condom gets lost in the most embarrassing place possible? At 35:15 a listener writes in to ask if it’s normal that her boyfriend has paid strangers for nudes on Snapchat. Does it count as cheating if he’s getting pictures from amateur porn stars? At 50:20 another emailer asks if she should be alarmed that her fiancé asked if the deposits for their wedding are refundable. Does this mean he’s having second thoughts about marriage or just asking an honest question? At 1:14:20 they rank the best and worst months of the year to be single, then close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th! Get your tickets by visiting betches.co/nycf
Aug 14, 2019
Is It Better To Be The Dumper Or The Dumpee?
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Would You Rather Be The Dumper Or The Dumpee? J and J start the show with an announcement about U Up? LIVE coming to the New York Comedy Festival at Town Hall. At 5:45 a listener writes in to ask if women are better off ‘dating down.’ At 22:45 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roll in the grass, a new sex toy, and a surprise they didn’t see coming. At 29:25 another listener writes in to ask why her boyfriend is still following a girl he hooked up with when they were on a break. At 47:25 an emailer asks if it’s okay to be upset that the guy she just started seeing didn’t invite her out to join him on a Friday night. Then at 1:03:10 they play a game of Would You Rather all about whether you’d prefer to be the dumper or the dumpee. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th at 9:45pm! Get your tickets before they go on sale to the public by visiting betches.co/nycf and using the promo code CNYCF
Aug 07, 2019
Who Should Pay For The Couples Vacation? Ft. Maddie Poppe
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J and J start the show with a conversation about money in relationships. At 18:55 a listener asks if it’s fair to expect her boyfriend to cover the majority of the expenses on vacation because he makes more than her. Who should pay for the couples vacation? They also debate who should have to sit in the middle seat on a flight. At 36:50 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a rushed hook up and bad aim. At 43:30 another listener writes in to ask if the ex-boyfriend she was hooking up with just ghosted her. At what point should you admit that you’re keeping someone around because you’re comfortable together? At 54:45 an emailer asks if her love for her sick dog will an obstacle for finding a relationship. Then at 1:11:30 they are joined by the Season 16 winner of American Idol, Maddie Poppe. Jared tells the story of how they first met and Maddie talks about dating someone she met on the show. Does it put pressure on a couple if your relationship is public? They close out the show with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring Maddie’s take on expressing your love via Instagram. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Jul 31, 2019
Is It A Deal Breaker If Someone Late Cancels A Date?
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J and J start the show with an explanation of why men love The Rock and women are obsessed with Beyoncé. At 17:45 a listener writes in to ask why people choose to unmatch on dating apps. Also, how late is too late to cancel a date? At 35:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a messy apartment and an air mattress. Is a messy apartment past a certain age a deal breaker? At 49:00 another listener asks if it’s okay to be mad at her boyfriend for sitting on another girl’s lap. Is a grown man sitting on someone’s lap too weird to ignore? At 56:50 an emailer asks if it’s acceptable to tell her boyfriend what to wear to a formal wedding they’re attending. They finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker all about being comfortable. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Jul 24, 2019
How to Stop Comparing Your Relationship to Everyone Else's
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The J’s kick off the show with a conversation about Jared’s trip to Napa and how hard it is to fulfill your partner’s expectations. Is everyone just comparing their own relationship to the people around them? At 18:50 a listener writes in to ask what your drink order says about you. If someone cares about what you drink, should you second guess dating them? At 28:42 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a towel and a weird habit in the middle of the night. At 43:40 another listener asks if for advice after messing up his vacation plans with his girlfriend. Is she the one being unreasonable, or should he have planned ahead? At 1:00:20 they give some advice to an emailer who’s in a relationship with someone that never wants to sleep over. Is she putting too much pressure on him to live up to the standard of her former relationship? They finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a very weird Would You Rather. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour  
Jul 17, 2019
Is It Ever Okay To Question The Sexuality of the Person You're Dating?
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J and J start the show with a debate about what counts as the first date when calculating your anniversary. Should you start counting from your very first date even if you kept seeing other people early on? At 14:20 they respond to an email about what to do when somebody constantly threatens to break up with you. Is this purely manipulation or just their way of slowly getting out of the relationship? At 25:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nightmare scenario with a tampon and a trip to urgent care. At 40:40 a listener writes in to ask if she should leave her boyfriend for withholding an important piece of information about his past. At 58:20 an emailer thinks her boyfriend might be gay. Is it ever okay to ask a guy about his sexuality? They finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour
Jul 10, 2019
What’s Worse, Looking Jealous or Crazy?
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J and J start the show with a recap of their weekends and give tips on how to make the best wedding speech possible. They talk about what to do when your significant other is suspicious of something on your clothes or body. Does every bruise deserve an explanation? At 23:34 they respond to an email about what to do when the person you’re dating never wants to travel to your neighborhood. Is it okay to expect your significant other to travel to you even if you live in a worse area? At 34:55 a listener shares a story about a guy who stayed the night and masturbated after she left for work. Another listener writes in to ask what she should do after finding out her friend is dating the same guy she matched with. Should they come clean or keep living a real life episode of the Bachelor? At 1:08:42 they close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Fabletics: Get 2 leggings for only $24 ($99 value) when you sign up for VIP by going to Fabletics.com/UUP
Jul 03, 2019
What Percent Of The Time Should You Expect To Be Happy In A Relationship?
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The J’s start the show with a listener DM about a friend who constantly responds to her boyfriend’s Instagram stories. Does she have a right to be upset with her boyfriend for not shutting it down? At 24:10 they respond to an email about what to do when you don’t like a close friend’s significant other. Is it ever okay to tell them that the person they’re dating sucks? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a broken window and an unpaid bill. At 42:50 a listener asks why guys on dating apps aren’t willing to have a back-and-forth convo anymore. Another listener writes in to ask about her first long-term relationship and whether or not she should stick it out. If you’re happy 90% of the time, should that be good enough? At 1:12:20 they close out the show with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker about literally sleeping like a baby. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy comforter, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP! Flamingo: Visit ShopFlamingo.com/UUP for 25% off the Flamingo Bare Bundle! Function of Beauty: Go to FunctionofBeauty.com/UUP to get 20% off your custom formula!
Jun 26, 2019
Should I Put My Instagram Handle In My Dating App Profile?
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J and J kick off the show with the latest details on the U Up? LIVE national tour, including how you can get your chance to be part of the show. At 10:40 they answer a question about whether or not it’s okay to put your IG handle in a dating app profile. At 23:00 they talk about the iMessage double tap and what it means if a person you’re dating uses it. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a tray of vegetables, ranch dressing, and a bop on the nose. At 40:30 a listener asks what it means when a friend says that you can “do better” than the person you’re dating. What are you even supposed to do with that information? Another listener writes in to ask whether or not she should give her boyfriend a marriage ultimatum. When is it okay to ask a guy for a timeline? At 1:16:10 they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a ‘Would You Rather’ involving PDA. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy comforter, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP! ThirdLove: Go to ThirdLove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase!
Jun 19, 2019
Am I Being Ghosted Or Did The Conversation Just End?
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J and J start the show with an exciting announcement... UUp? LIVE is going on a national tour! They share the list of all 20 cities the show is coming to this year. At 15:10 they dive into a conversation about texting in a relationship, including how to tell if you’re really being ghosted. A listener writes in to ask how to avoid coming on too strong over text after just three dates. At 35:35 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features shower sex that went so bad it resulted in circumcision. At 46:15 they respond to an email from a guy who struggles to connect with new women he meets. Do girls ever really want to be approached in public? Another listener writes in to ask why a guy ghosted her after a great first date. Do we need to redefine what it means to be ghosted? At 1:07:55 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets on pre-sale before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour and using promo code UUPLIVE Thanks to our sponsor... StoryWorth: For $20 off, visit storyworth.com/UUP when you subscribe!
Jun 12, 2019
When Is The Right Time To Ask If Someone Is Looking For A Relationship?
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J and J start the show with an impromptu conversation about outside pressure to get engaged. Why is the default conversation for so many women to ask each other when the proposal is coming? At 17:20 a listener writes in wondering when it’s okay to ask someone if they’re open to being in a relationship. Is there ever really a good time to ask, or is this the wrong approach altogether? At 40:00 they answer an email from a guy who blew it on the first date and immediately got put in the friend zone. Can you ever recover once you’re put in that category? Another listener asks why she can’t seem to get guys to date her despite being “intimidatingly attractive” and successful. Has anyone ever been too hot to date, or is she just kidding herself? At 1:00:10 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Away- For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/UUP and use promo code UUP during checkout!
Jun 05, 2019
Are You Obligated To Reveal Your Phone Passcode In A Relationship? Ft. Dr. Helen Fisher
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J and J are back and start the show with a conversation about girls taking on the role of vacation planner in a relationship. Why does it seem like it’s always on women to keep things exciting? At 17:30 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a latex glove and a lot of confusion. At 34:35 a listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that her boyfriend refuses to share his phone passcode. Does this guy have something to hide, or is he just protecting his own privacy? At 49:45 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Then at 59:07 they’re joined by Dr. Helen Fisher, Chief Scientific Advisor to Match.com, to talk about how the way millennials are dating differs from generations before them. They discuss the “slow love” dating trend that results in longer lasting and more committed relationships. Why are people sleeping together faster and falling in love slower? Dr. Fisher explains why first dates are less common today and seem to carry more weight than they did in the past. At 1:20:00 they talk about the best way to approach dating apps and close the show with a conversation about the difference between how men and women set their friends up. Thanks to our sponsors! Cheers- To order, visit CHEERSHEALTH.COM and enter promo code UUP at checkout to get 10% off your first order, plus a free gift!
May 29, 2019
What’s The Difference Between Sexual Preference And Sexual Racism? Ft. Ronny Chieng
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The J’s kick off with news about the Red Flag or Dealbreaker card game, and Jared reveals where he’s headed for the long holiday weekend. At 16:30, the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves a guy who came over for dinner and just wouldn’t leave. Is the second date too soon to cook dinner for someone? At 24:55 a listener writes in to ask how to pass a guy she's no longer interested in dating off to a friend. Does any guy really want to be set up by someone they’re hooking up with? At 35:20 they’re joined by comedian Ronny Chieng of Crazy Rich Asians and The Daily Show. They dive into the concept of sexual racism and discuss why people are so resistant to acknowledging their biases. What’s the difference between having a “type” and just being flat out racist in your sexual choices? At 105:30 they react to a listener-submitted text exchange that’s mildly racist and definitely inconsiderate. Is this guy rude or just really into his body? At 1:25:00 they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Check out Ronny’s Daily Show story about sexual racism here: Sexual Racism: When Preferences Become Discrimination Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP.
May 22, 2019
Can A Relationship Survive A Huge Body Transformation?
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J and J are back to talk about Jordana’s trip to Mexico and Jared shares a family rule for weekend beach trips. They tell us what you should and shouldn’t put on the bachelorette party itinerary. At 15:00 they ask whether or not you need to tell the person you’re with about past hookups. This leads to a story about Jared’s ex having a weirdly close friendship with a guy friend. At 47:05 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week starts with a guy carrying home street furniture and ends with him cutting a chunk of his date’s hair off. At 1:02:45 a listener writes in to ask if a relationship can survive a dramatic body transformation or do insecurities get in the way? Another listener asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend follows a stripper on Instagram and likes all her pictures. At 1:21:00 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, and play a new game called Would You Call Off the Wedding. Thanks to our sponsors! Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Flamingo- Get a set with all your shave essentials from Flamingo, a $22 value, for just $16 plus free shipping today when you visit shopflamingo.com/UUP
May 15, 2019
When Is The Right Time To Ask Someone To Move In Together?
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J and J are back to talk about moving in together with your boyfriend. Is the end of your lease a good enough reason to talk about getting a place together? At 25:10 the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves a ‘Hey Arnold’ DVD, bad kissing skills, and a guy who can’t get it up. When is it time to just admit that a hook-up isn’t going well? At 40:50 a listener writes in to ask if she is being too picky with guys on dating apps. At 53:20 another listener asks if she says “I love you” too often to her boyfriend. At 1:04:35 they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Cameo- Browse through more than 10,000 celebrities and get a personalized video shoutout on Cameo.com. Use promo code UUP for 20 percent off!
May 08, 2019
How Do I Show Guys On Dating Apps That I'm Not Only Interested In Hooking Up?
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The J’s return to declare cuffing season officially over. They start by talking about the new phenomenon of guys making their location status on dating apps their office in the city when they actually live in the suburbs. At 27:50 they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week which features a passionate make-out, a peanut allergy, and an emergency trip to the pharmacy. At 39:10 a listener writes in wondering how to reintroduce condoms into a sexual relationship with a guy who she’s not exclusive with. At 50:45 a listener writes in wondering why dating app compliments lead to guys being too sexual on dating apps. At 1:01:35 they play red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Cameo- Browse through more than 10,000 celebrities and get a personalized video shoutout on Cameo.com. Use promo code UUP for 20 percent off! Cheers- To order, visit CHEERSHEALTH.COM and enter promo code UUP at checkout to Get 10% off your first order, plus a free gift!
May 01, 2019
Is Jealousy In A Relationship Flattering Or Annoying? Ft. Vinny Guadagnino
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Double J is back asking the tough hypothetical questions. Is some amount of jealousy in a relationship actually healthy? At 20:40 they breakdown their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a new relationship, a hometown trip, and a 3AM switcheroo. At 34:00 a listener writes in wondering if her boyfriend is sexually distant because he’s nervous about their impending move in together. At 46:40 they’re joined by Vinny Guadagnino of MTV’s “Jersey Shore” and “Double Shot At Love” to talk about performing at Chippendales, sex without kissing and dating 20 women on national television with his pal, DJ Pauly D. Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Myro- Get 50% off your first order and get started today for just $5! Visit mymyro.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Cameo App- For 20% off site-wide, visit Cameo.com and enter promo code UUP.
Apr 24, 2019
How Do We Ask Our Partners For More Sex?
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J and J are back asking the tricky question, how do we ask for more sex in relationships? At 14:45 an undersexed listener writes in wondering what to do about his girlfriend’s sex drive not matching up with his. At 32:25 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a lack of protection, a blowjob, and an inconvenient nap. At 39:40 a listener writes in wondering if she’s doing something to repel men from dating her more seriously. At 50:50 a newly single listener writes in wondering if he’s scaring dates away because he gives off too much of a relationship vibe. At 59:25 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsor! Third Love- Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra... and get 15% off your first purchase!
Apr 17, 2019
Is It Tacky To Talk About Money With The Person You’re Dating?
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Double J are back to defend all the basic bitches in the world. Obviously people are going to Iceland because it’s fun, what’s there to be embarrassed about? At 22:20 a listener writes in wondering if it’s weird to see her BF in one of his female friend’s profile pictures. At 37:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a wearable vibrator, an uncooperative Alexa, and fumbled attempt at ass play. At 48:10 a listener writes in wondering what is the proper way to break up with someone after having her engagement cancelled via text message. At 1:03:00 a listener writes in wondering if she should help her financially strapped BF pay for her engagement ring. At 1:14:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Care/of- For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Cheers- To order, visit Cheershealth.com and enter promo code UUP at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift.
Apr 10, 2019
How To Stop Sleeping With Someone Who Doesn't Want To Date You
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Double J return to give you their latest opinions on Netflix’s hit show “Dating Around”. At 25:30 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a hot bowl of ramen and a blow job. At 31:50 a listener writes in wondering what to do after discovering that a guy she’s dating has some very well documented legal troubles. At 40:25 a listener writes in wondering if she should keep a potential relationship option open because a guy still follows her on Instagram. At 48:30 a listener writes in wondering if a girl who’s “not looking to date right now” is really just not looking to date him. At 53:20 they play red flag or deal breaker. Check out our red flag or deal breaker video! www.youtube.com/watch?v=scXh8k5x-DM&t=23s
Apr 03, 2019
Is Refusing to Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker? Ft Nev Schulman & Laura Perlongo
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J and J return and they both need a little “me” time. Jordana tries to anticipate some issues she might run into once she moves in with her boyfriend. At 13:00 they discuss how to handle having a friend tell you they saw your significant other on a dating app. At 28:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week featuring a mysterious floating turd and a very unsexy naked cleanup. At 39:40 a listener writes in wondering how long she should have to wait for a guy that’s dragging his feet to define their relationship. At 55:40 they’re joined by Nev Schulman and Laura Perlongo who give dating advice through the eyes of a married couple and play red flag or deal breaker. Check out our red flag or deal breaker video! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scXh8k5x-DM&t=23s Thanks to our sponsors! Just Fab-NOW is the time to sign up as a VIP because right now, you’ll get your first JustFab style for as low as $10! Go to JUSTFAB.com/UUP NOW to get this exclusive VIP offer. Skorch- Skorch makes it fun and easy to find the best places to go. It's not like a regular app, it's a cool app. It only features the best spots. Download in the app store today. Care/of- Take advantage of this month’s special offer! For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50
Mar 27, 2019
What To Do When He Can't Get It Up
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Jordana and Jared are back to talk about erectile dysfunction. They discuss Jordana’s bachelorette trip to Colombia and her upcoming move-in plans with her boyfriend. At 27:45 a listener asks how to deal with dating a guy who can’t get it up. Is there any right way to react when this happens? At 41:00 the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves vomiting during oral and a questionable ‘courtesy tap.’ At 59:35 they answer a listener’s email asking why she can’t find a relationship that sticks, and another from a listener who questions if she should invite a guy to be her plus-one to a destination wedding. At 1:12:45 they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Flamingo- Get a set with all your shave essentials from Flamingo, a $22 value, for just $16 plus free shipping today when you visit shopflamingo.com/UUP Skorch- Skorch makes it fun and easy to find the best places to go. It's not like a regular app, it's a cool app. It only features the best spots. Download in the app store today.
Mar 20, 2019
How Do I Say "I Love You" First?
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The Js are back and they’re talking about Netflix’s classy dating show “Dating Around.” Jared has a full breakdown of the dating adventures of Luke, the basic bitch of NYC men. At 37:35 they dissect their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a series of very loud queefs, and absolutely no bodily control. At 53:27 a listener writes in wondering when, how and where is the best time to say “I Love You” for the first time. At 1:07:20 a listener writes in wondering how to date while living abroad in a place where she doesn’t want to live long term. At 1:15:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Skorch- Skorch makes it fun and easy to find the best places to go. It's not like a regular app, it's a cool app. It only features the best spots. Download in the app store today. Kopari- Go to KOPARIBEAUTY.com/UP to make the safe switch today, and save five-dollars off your first order when you subscribe! Lola- For 40% off all subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter UUP when you subscribe!
Mar 13, 2019
How Do I Hit On A Guy At The Gym?
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The Js are back and they’re asking a question that has been tough for women for a long time, “how do you hit on a guy at the gym?” Jared insists that a single man is never bothered by a female approaching him. At 22:19 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week that includes a long trail of hints around an apartment that leads to intercourse. At 39:55 a listener writes in wondering how to decipher a coded text from her BF to his ex that hints at a secret hookup. At 54:20 a divorced listener writes in wondering when the right time is to tell a new girl he’s dating that he’s had a vasectomy. At 1:15:15 they play red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Starz- Tune in to 'Now Apocolypse' March 10th on Starz! Skorch- Skorch makes it fun and easy to find the best places to go. It's not like a regular app, it's a cool app. Go to the app store and download Skorch today!
Mar 06, 2019
How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Sleeping With Someone?
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J and J return to answer the question that has plagued a generation, “how long should you wait to sleep with someone you’re dating?” At 35:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a trail of red flags, several apologies and some dentures. At 47:20 a listener writes in wondering what guys will think of a woman in her 30s who lives with her parents. At 1:03:20 a listener writes in wondering how to avoid feeling jealous about her BF taking a boys trip to Greece. At 1:11:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Just Fab-NOW is the time to sign up as a VIP because right now, you’ll get your first JustFab style for as low as $10! Go to JUSTFAB.com/UUP NOW to get this exclusive VIP offer. Fab, Fit, Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $29.99. Daily Harvest- Go to DAILY-HARVESt.com and enter promo code UUP to get three cups FREE in your first box!
Feb 27, 2019
What Do We Owe An Ex After a Breakup?
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J and J return to close out cuffing season by asking the age old question “what makes a guy decide to settle down?” Jared insists it’s all about instinct. At 27:20 they break down their weird sexual encounter of the week which involves fingers, a vagina, and a caliente jalapeño pepper. At 33:00 a listener writes in wondering what she did to get ghosted after dating a guy for 3 months. At 49:10 a listener wonders if she’s wrong to ask an ex if he’s with someone new after seeing a new girl in his Instagram story right after the split. Thanks to our sponsors! Fab, Fit, Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Cove- Got migraines? With Cove, there’s finally a way to get the help you need when you need it. And when you use our link you’ll get your first month of treatment for free. Go to WithCove.com/uup .
Feb 20, 2019
Bonus UUP?: Live At Murmrr Theatre
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Murmrr Theatre in Brooklyn. At 5:20 they ask the question “how honest should we be during a softcore breakup?” At 21:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 36:15 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Yamaneika Saunders. At 57:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship at https://itunes.apple.com/US/app/id1448104758?mt=8 Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pouri before you go toilet spray today at www.poopourri.com/ Kendra Scott- Go to https://www.kendrascott.com/ and use promo code “Betches”
Feb 15, 2019
How Do I Wear Lingerie Without Looking Stupid?
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J and J are back just in time for Valentine’s Day. While Jordana has planned a romantic magic show/dinner for her BF, Jared hasn’t made plans and is riding the excuse train into the station. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering if there’s a non-cliché way to be sexy in lingerie after buying a teddy to turn on her BF. At 26:25 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features dirty tampons and a period fetish. At 41:40 a listener writes in wondering if she was out of line for being upfront about her preference to keep a relationship casual. At 54:20 a listener writes in wondering if she’s overreacting to being blown off by a mom recommended set-up. At 1:03:30 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors Fab, Fit, Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Kopari- Go to KOPARIBEAUTY.com/UP to make the safe switch today, and save five-dollars off your first order when you subscribe! Flamingo- Get a set with all your shave essentials from Flamingo, a $22 value, for just $16 plus free shipping today when you visit shopflamingo.com/UUP
Feb 13, 2019
Bonus U UP?: Live At Underground Arts
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Underground Arts in Philadelphia. At 4:40 they ask the question “how do I deal with an office hookup gone awry?” At 15:30 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 30:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Ghee Funny. At 48:10 they tell some hard truths when deciphering text messages in a “Deal Reveal.” A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship at https://itunes.apple.com/US/app/id1448104758?mt=8 Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pouri before you go toilet spray today at www.poopourri.com/ Kendra Scott- Go to https://www.kendrascott.com/ and use promo code “Betches.”
Feb 08, 2019
How Long Into Dating Someone Should You Expect To Have Valentine's Day Plans?
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Jordana and Jared return to talk about Valentine’s Day anxiety. Is Valentine’s day the most romantic day of the year, or is it really a deadline for deciding whether you’re in or out in a new relationship? At 17:00 they debate if it’s better to send V-day flowers to a girl’s office or her apartment. At 25:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a forced dental flossing. At 38:50 a listener writes in wondering how to transition out of drinking-only dates to ones with a larger variety of activities. At 1:00:30 a listener writes in wondering how a guy she was dating who knows her mom could feel so comfortable ghosting her. At 1:11:50 they play red flag or deal breaker. A Huge thank you to our sponsors! Fab Fit Fun-Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Daily Harvest- Go to DAILY-HARVEST.com and enter promo code UUP to get three cups FREE in your first box!
Feb 06, 2019
Bonus U Up?: Live At Sixth & I
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Sixth And I in Washington, DC. At 7:40 they ask the question”why do women keep getting stuck dating guys who aren’t ready for a relationship?” At 24:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:25 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker." At 57:10 they dissect their enigmatic “Deal Reveal”. A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship at https://itunes.apple.com/US/app/id1448104758?mt=8 Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pourri before you go toilet spray today at www.poopourri.com/ Kendra Scott- Go to https://www.kendrascott.com/ and use promo code “Betches”
Feb 01, 2019
Were Jim and Pam Assholes or the Best Couple Ever?
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J and J have returned from their live tour! They start by talking about what a low-key blessing it is to be a third wheel in social scenarios when you’re a single person looking to meet someone. At 20:20 they talk about why a guy would un-match a girl on a dating app. At 28:10 they do a Rom Com breakdown focusing on whether or not Jim and Pam have a healthy relationship on “The Office.” At 42:33 a listener writes in wondering if guys will think she’s a loser because she only has 3 friends. At 59:55 a listener writes in wondering which one of his new girlfriends to invite to his housewarming party. At 1:06:50 they play some Red Flag or Deal Breaker with some listener submitted scenarios. Thanks to our sponsors! Just Fab-NOW is the time to sign up as a VIP because right now, you’ll get your first JustFab style for as low as $10! Go to JUSTFAB.com/UUP NOW to get this exclusive VIP offer. Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Fab Fit Fun-Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99.
Jan 30, 2019
What To Do When You're Blindsided By A Breakup
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Jordana and Jared are back with a huge announcement! Not only are they coming to DC, Philly and Brooklyn this weekend, but Betches has finally launched their new dating app, Ship! It’s the latest avenue for you to meet your awkward sexual encounter with the help of your friends. This week a woman writes in who created a website to market herself in lieu of using the dating apps. At 25:30 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which includes so much blood (from some dude’s nose). At 35:40 a listener writes in wondering if she’s out of line for not wanting her BF to be a groomsman in a wedding where she won’t know anyone. Another listener wonders how a guy she was dating could break up with her out of nowhere after an amazing weekend together. At 1:05:00 they play red flag or deal breaker. Check out Ship at betches.co/ship Thanks to our sponsors! Care/of- Take advantage of this month’s special New Year offer! For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Fab,Fit,Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99.
Jan 23, 2019
How to Date as A Single Parent Ft. Chris Distefano
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Jordana and Jared return with a Jared undergoing a personal dating dilemma. What should you expect when you ‘come out’ as a couple on Instagram? At 21:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week featuring a fresh pubic shave and an ungraceful assisted masturbation. At 39:30 they are joined by comedian Chris Distefano who helps them understand the world of dating as a single parent. At 1:15:20 Chris sits in on some “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” games. Thanks to our sponsors! Daily Harvest- Go to DAILY-HARVEST.com and enter promo code UUP to get three cups FREE in your first box! Kopari- Go to KOPARIBEAUTY.com/UP to make the safe switch today, and save five-dollars off your first order when you subscribe! FabFitFun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99.
Jan 16, 2019
How to Get A Guy To Go Down On You Ft. Violet Benson of Daddy Issues
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The J’s return with famed influencer, Violet Benson of ‘Daddy Issues.’ They start by talking about the differences between the Los Angeles and New York dating scenes. At 10:00 Violet talks about her experience dating professional athletes. At 17:45 a listener writes in wondering how to get better oral from a selfish lover. At 31:20 they dig into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes clown makeup, some rope, and tickling. At 40:50 a listener writes in wondering what to do after a guy took a picture of her naked without her consent post hookup. At 55:15 a listener writes in wondering what to make of a boyfriend’s cryptic Venmo payment to a model/stripper after a bachelor party. At 1:06:15 they play ‘Red Flag or Deal Breaker’ including “their friends don’t like you.” Thanks to our sponsors Care/of- Take advantage of this month’s special New Year offer! For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to www.TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Fab,Fit,Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99!
Jan 09, 2019
Does The Person I’m Dating Care About My Instagram Brand?
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The J’s are here to help you shake off your 2018 hangover. They start by answering a DM that Jared received from a listener wondering if guys are turned off if you have too many thirst traps on your Instagram. At 17:00 a listener writes in wondering how important of a role religion should play when you’re considering dating someone. At 28:15 they take on their awkward sexual experience of the week in which a woman finds out her hookup has a fetish for diaper play. At 39:20 a listener writes in wondering if her boyfriend only likes her because she likes sports after receiving a horribly ugly sports sweatshirt from him as a gift. At 49:00 a listener writes in wondering how to get back the power after hooking up with a guy who refused to date her. At 60:00 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “they constantly roast you in front of your friends,” “they read the whole iTunes privacy update,” and “they Venmo request you after every meal.” Thanks to our sponsors! Skorch- Skorch is a new platform that shows you only the best spots. Get Skorch in the App Store and follow Skorch on social at @GetSkorch. Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase!
Jan 02, 2019
Should You Be Mad If Someone You're Seeing Is Still Updating Their Dating App Bio?
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The J’s are back and the Christmas break isn’t slowing them down. At 7:20 a listener writes in asking if lying about your age on dating apps is acceptable. At 22:30 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week in which a listener breaks her nose on black ice but continues hooking up anyway. At 30:00 a listener writes in wondering if it’s weird to update a dating app profile picture while casually dating someone. At 53:00 a listener writes in wondering if it’s mean to give a guy her phone number in an attempt to be nice even if she has no intention of meeting up with him. At 1:08:40 they play red flag or deal breaker including “they show you pictures of people they used to hook up with on a third date” and “they speak with unidentified European accent but they grew up in NJ.” This episode is presented by Skorch! Skorch is a new platform that shows you only the best spots. Get Skorch in the App Store and follow Skorch on social at @GetSkorch.
Dec 26, 2018
Did Carrie And Big Have An Abusive Relationship?
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The J’s are back just in time for Christmas. At 6:50 they discuss the best way for a single person to approach the dreaded New Year’s Eve kiss. At 14:50 a listener writes in wondering if she should give her bf permission to get a happy ending massage while they’re on vacation…together. At 33:50 they analyze whether or not the Carrie/Big relationship from Sex & The City is a healthy one? Is it a great love story or is Big just a douchebag? At 48:15 a listener writes in wondering how to tell her long distance hookup that her commute to see him is making her broke. At 1:02:35 they play some games including a new one called “sane or psycho”. This episode is presented by Skorch! Skorch is a new platform that shows you only the best spots. Get Skorch in the App Store and follow Skorch on social at @GetSkorch.
Dec 19, 2018
Why are Millennials Having Less Sex than Our Parents' Generation? Ft. Kate Julian
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J and J are back and joined by author of the cover story for The Atlantic’s December edition, “The Sex Recession”, Kate Julian. Kate’s research led her to the conclusion that millennials are having less sex than older generations. At 3:20 they talk about the Japanese phenomenon of sex through artificial intelligence and whether or not the trend will spread across the planet. At 11:55 they dissect whether or not sex is also down amongst married couples. At 16:20 they discuss whether the Me Too movement is affecting the downward trend in sexual encounters. At 30:50 they talk dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week where a guy’s partner says another man’s name during sex. At 42:30 a listener writes in wondering if moving to a new city might lead to an instant relationship with someone out of comfort. At 1:05:55 a listener writes in wondering if it’s a red flag that she’s never had a boyfriend at the ripe age of 23. At 1:18:50 they play red flag or deal breaker including- “everything is perfect but they’re obsessed with sitar music” “the person is absolutely perfect but when they have kids they would like to feed them like a baby bird (where someone chews up their food for them and feeds it to their child)” “ALL of their friends are of the opposite sex. Girl with all male friends, guy with all female friends” and “Only watches Netflix with the subtitles on”. Thanks to our sponsors! Hydrant- Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off Zola-To start your free wedding website and also get $50 off your registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/UUP Storyworth-For $20 off, visit storyworth.com/uup
Dec 12, 2018
What's The Best Way to Tell My Significant Other That They’re Getting Fat?
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J and J are back. This week they start the show with a question from a listener who asks if it’s possible to date without social media in 2018. Jared thinks that someone who quits social media usually does it because they’re going through something. At 31:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a soft core hookup and an R. Kelly smash hit. At 46:40 a listener writes in wondering how to bring up weight gain to a significant other in a relationship. At 1:03:00 a listener writes in wondering if a guy that she’s seeing is not that interested in her because their text/social media interactions don’t seem enthusiastic. At 1:14:45 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “They love stupid and cringey graphic tees and wear them 99% of the time.” “they celebrate Santa-con at the age of 30 or older.” and “they run a very active celebrity Instagram fan account”. Thanks to our sponsors! Hydrant- Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off Care/of- For 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, visit TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP Be A Hero- To learn more and watch the video visit www.beyondbatten.org/hero Text HERO to 501501 to donate $10
Dec 05, 2018
Were Ross and Rachel On A Break?
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J and J are back. With the holiday in their rearview, they wonder, is Thanksgiving Eve the best night of the year to hookup? At 10:15 they discuss their first classic rom-com scenario breaking down the iconic Ross/Rachel break argument from “Friends.” At 29:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a blowjob, weed infused honey, and a slice of buffalo chicken pizza. At 42:50 a listener writes in wondering if she’s giving off a vibe to married men that she’s mistress material. At 56:10 a listener writes in wondering how to handle a problem with ED after a pivotal first sexual encounter with a new girlfriend. At 109:40 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “their dad is their roommate during the week,” “they insist on recording all dates or outings on insta stories starting with “hey everyone” to their 103 followers,” and “they frequently get into fights on facebook in the comments of popular videos.” Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP Lola- For 40% off all subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter UUP when you subscribe! Ritual- Visit ritual.com/UUP to start your ritual today
Nov 28, 2018
Is It Too Soon To Take A Trip With My BF?
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J and J are back and they’re coming to a city near you! With upcoming shows in Brooklyn, DC, and Philadelphia the audience has some questions. At 6:30 a listener writes in wondering if it’s too soon to bring her new BF to UUp Live. At 25:05 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week which features the story of a hookup that ended with the man taking his soiled condom with him after sex. At 40:20 a listener writes in wondering why a guy who seemed into her the night before would disappear and unfollow her on Instagram. At 49:40 a listener writes in wondering if her BF is thinking about sex way too much. At 1:01:10 they play red flag or deal breaker which includes : “they’re scared of flying and refuse to go near an airport”, “has Christmas decorations in their apartment in October”, “they have political signs of everyone they’ll vote for and leave them up weeks after the election”. Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- The Leesa mattress is the product of 30 years of experience and hundreds of hours of rigorous product testing. Designed for body contouring and pressure relief, the Leesa mattress is perfect for all sleepers. Shop conveniently online with free shipping and 100 nights to try the mattress in your own home. Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP Hydrant- After drinking you pee out a ton of water, and also a ton of electrolytes (you don't just sweat them out!). Maximum Strength Hydration with the right balance of electrolytes will help you rehydrate, be healthier the next day, and ultimately feel better. Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off.
Nov 21, 2018
Why Aren’t Stable Relationships Sexy?
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The Js are back and ready to talk about affairs. After reading Esther Perel’s “A State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” Jordana explains the hypothesis of why cheating and relationships have changed from generation to generation. Older generations seem to have settled and gotten married younger leading to a ton of cheating whereas millenials live a lot more life and date tons of people before they settle down. At 37:00 their weird sexual encounter comes from a listener who had a sleepover with a bed wetter. At 53:00 a listener looking for a spark with a new guy writes in wondering how long you can continue to date a guy while still being on the fence about him. At 1:01:40 a listener writes in wondering if it’s worth it to work out a relationship with a boyfriend who has turned cold and mean. At 1:11:50 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “everything is perfect but they live above, or in a funeral home”, “everything is perfect but they’re a mascot for a semi pro-sports team.” Thanks To Our Sponsors Leesa- The Leesa mattress is the product of 30 years of experience and hundreds of hours of rigorous product testing. Designed for body contouring and pressure relief, the Leesa mattress is perfect for all sleepers. Shop conveniently online with free shipping and 100 nights to try the mattress in your own home. Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP Teami Blends- Teami Blends Detox Mask has ingredients like matcha, and bentonite clay and it smells like a spa. Get yours today and use promo code UUP25 at checkout for 25% off any order.
Nov 14, 2018
Are Dating Apps Bad For Society? Featuring Nancy Jo Sales
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J and J are back and they’re joined by award winning journalist and director/producer of “Swiped: Hooking Up In The Digital Age,” Nancy Jo Sales. Nancy’s documentary explores the landscape of dating in the era of swipe apps and social media for better or for worse. They discuss the morality of the apps from their invention to their execution and the culture built around it. At 1:00:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a new relationship that may become long distance very soon. At 1:10:30 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “They refuse to pay for Spotify premium”, “facetiming someone before you’ve even met,” “he’s on the Buzzfeed hottest mugshot list.” Thanks to our sponsors! Zola- Zola, the wedding company that will do anything for love, is reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in couples' lives even happier. To start your free wedding website and also get $50 off your registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/UUP Thirdlove- ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so right now they are offering our listeners 15% off their first order! Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase!
Nov 07, 2018
Is Halloween the Best or Worst Hook-Up Night?
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Happy Halloween from the J’s. Jordana is planning to force her bf into a couples costume, which believe it or not, Jared is opposed to feeling that couples costumes are all about ownership. At 12:45 they discuss a controversial article proclaiming that dating without texting is the absolute best. At 32:35 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which could be either a bad joke or a Freudian disaster. At 38:30 a listener writes in to ask if she can bring her boyfriend home for the holidays despite his abysmal table manners. At 53:13, an overworked betch with no time to go out writes in looking for advice on how to meet guys since the dating apps have been letting her down. At 1:05:10 they play Red Flag Or Deal Breaker including, “you’re on a first date and find out it’s their birthday”, and “they have $200,000 in student loans”. Thanks to our sponsors: Leesa-Get up to $160 off the Leesa mattress or $235 off the luxury Sapira mattress and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/UUP Ritual-Whether you’re living life—or creating it—why not add some good looking science into your daily routine? Visit ritual.com/UUP to start your ritual today!
Oct 31, 2018
What Do I Do If My Significant Other Is Texting Their Ex? Ft. Johnny Bananas
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J and J are back. Jared is looking for the party, but Jordana confesses that she doesn’t go out anymore, unless she’s going to a wedding. They agree that weddings are much different for single people than they are for couples and it affects whether or not people will have fun at them. At 18:00 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week as a listener writes in wondering if it’s hot or gross when a guy licks and swallows his own bodily fluids. At 27:30 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her husband who is still texting an old ex-girlfriend. At 44:40 a confused listener writes in trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to likes her despite his inconsistent texting habits. At 1:00:02 Johnny Bananas joins the show to talk about “The Challenge”, dating on reality TV and play “Red Flag Or Deal Breaker.” Thanks to our sponsor Leesa! Get up to $160 off the Leesa mattress or $235 off the luxury Sapira mattress and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/UUP Thanks to our sponsor Care/of! For 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, visit TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP
Oct 24, 2018
How Do I Make the First Move Without Coming Off Desperate?
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J and J are back and this week the show’s theme relates to initiating romantic contact with a guy without coming on too strong. At 13:25 a listener writes in asking how to make a romantic introduction with an old college crush who she has always had chemistry with. At 35:50 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener who is wondering if he was gaslighted by a girl who tricked him into thinking he finished sexually without knowing it. At 47:00 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a girl he’s dating who’s hoping for exclusivity, but not a relationship. At 58:30 they take a letter from a listener who is going on a vacation with an ex that she recently broke up with. At 1:05:30 they play red flag or deal breaker including “he/she writes inspirational quotes on their wrists” and “they want to have ONLY joint social media accounts after you get married.”
Oct 17, 2018
Bonus U Up?: Live At Canton Hall Ft. Raven Gates
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J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live in Dallas, TX. At 8:15 they talk about the best opening lines to use on dating apps. At 22:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:00 they are joined by Raven Gates of “The Bachelor” to play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker. At 55:40 they dissect their “Deal Reveal” wondering why guys get off the hook for playing dumb after things get intimate. At 1:07:35 they talk about the “Awkward Sexual Encounter Of The Week” and it gets a little messy. At 1:17:20 they are joined by Poo Pourri VIP of creative, Nicole Story, to uncover some “Poo-tastrophes” from the audience. At 1:24:00 they go into the audience and listen to some of their horrible dating stories. A huge thank you to our sponsor Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pouri before you go toilet spray today at https://www.poopourri.com/
Oct 12, 2018
What’s The Difference Between Loving Someone and Being “In Love?”
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The Js are back with an ep you won’t want to miss. This week’s topic is longer term relationships and they discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They discuss the question of what it means to love someone versus being “in love” with them. At 34:30, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy gets off to a very specific part of his body being licked. At 44:44, they take a letter from a listener dealing with a toxic ex who keeps making contact. At 53:00, they a letter from a listener who tells a guy he can spend the night, but she won’t sleep with him. He proceeds to take his phone out and show her a group chat where him and his boys share pics of women. What gives? After they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “you have to spend all major holidays at their parents’ house” and “they don’t believe in vaccines.” Thanks to our sponsors! Fab Fit Fun- Use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com. ThirdLove- ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so right now they are offering listeners 15% off their first order! Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase!
Oct 10, 2018
How Do I Stop My Boyfriend From Acting Like a Drunk Asshole? Ft. Girls Gotta Eat
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The Js are back, hot off their live show in Dallas. They briefly discuss how men ask a few close friends about new partners, while women get opinions from around 70 people. At 15:05, they take their first email from a listener who notices her friend’s boyfriend’s Tinder profile is up with a fresh profile pic as soon as she goes on vacation. At 24:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a listener finds that sex is ruined by an affectionate canine. At 34:37, they take another letter from a listener asking about her boyfriend who drinks too much. His drunken episodes are becoming a pattern, but she’s not sure what to do about it. At 45:55, they are joined by Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine of Girls Gotta Eat podcast to respond to listeners and play some games. At 47:49 they take a letter from a listener who meets a guy at a wedding and it seems like love at first sight. He buys a non-refundable flight to visit her, but then bails at the last second. What gives? They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: their favorite movie is Paul Blart: Mall Cop.
Oct 03, 2018
What’s The Best Way to Get Someone to Stop Texting You?
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The J squad is back with another ep you won’t want to miss. At 15:15, a listener asks what to do about a friend whose new guy is clearly a bunch of trouble, but she just won’t react to a ton of red flags. At 25:50, they take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy puts a girl into a sex position that seems straight out of Cirque du Soleil. At 35:50, they take an email from a listener who occasionally hooks up with a guy, but he texts her every single day and it’s getting to be a bit much. What should she do? At 47:14, they take another letter from a listener who was badly burned by a girlfriend of three years who left him for her coworker. He can’t seem to shake it. They wrap up playing games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears the same thing on your first ten dates and is really mean to waitstaff but leaves a 50% tip. Thanks to our sponsor, FabFitFun. Listeners to U Up? can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com.
Sep 26, 2018
Did Instagram Ruin My Relationship? Ft. Corinne Fisher
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The Js are back. They briefly discuss an article that says 18-year-old women get the most swipes and the most responses on dating apps. At 19:42, they take an email from a listener whose friend decides to like all of her crush’s pics on Insta using her account. Now, he's gone cold. At 37:20, they take another email from a recently single listener who can’t stop Insta stalking her ex even though he has a new girlfriend. At 43:38, they are joined by Corinne Fisher of Guys We F*cked and Two Less Lonely Girls. They talk about slut-shaming and then take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a DJ who has some wild role playing requests. At 1:10:00, they wrap up with some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: a burglar breaks into your home and they run into the closet without you.
Sep 19, 2018
Bonus: U Up? Live At The Comedy Cellar (10 PM Show) Ft. Michelle Wolf
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The duo of Js returns with another bonus ep from their unreal night at the Comedy Cellar’s Village Underground. It’s a wild one. The topic this time around: what to do if a guy booty calls you after a date? At 8:08, they read an email about a Hinge date that went well but then he seemingly just wants sex. She is looking for a response that doesn’t make her look like a “ho”. At 16:55, they do a dating app makeover where they go through a girl’s profile and discuss the various kinds of bikini pics - and whether it’s OK or not to have one. At 32:50 they bring on their special guest, HBO star and Host of the White House Correspondent’s Dinner, Michelle Wolf. At 39:41, they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including: “makes instagrams for his cars”, “loves shitting at public restrooms” and “has 5 roommates.” At 57:50, they do a deal reveal, where they read a letter from a listener who has been friends with a guy for 6 years and finally decides to give it a shot. He’s acting weird so what’s his deal? At 1:18:00, they begin taking questions from the audience and things get wild. Don’t miss the story at 1:23:50 where a girl hurts herself during sex in an unbelievable way and is debating Venmo-ing the guy for the hospital bill. Thanks to our sponsors P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP Beau Undies: Sign up at beauundies.com using our special promo code BETCHES to try it out and get your first undie for just $3!
Sep 14, 2018
When Do You Introduce Your S/O To Your Friends?
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The Js return with an episode about meeting your S/O’s friends. At 11:17, they take an email from a listener who has gone on a few great dates, but then ends up at loud bars surrounded by her date’s friends. Is this normal? Also when is it OK to leave? At 20:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week that ends with a trip to Planned Parenthood. At 36:22, they take a letter from a listener talking who can’t get over her insecurity and jealousy. At 45:07, they take another letter from a listener who split with her boyfriend, but noticed that he left pictures of the two of them on Instagram. Could this mean anything? At 1:05:33, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: gets all their dating advice from their mom. Listeners to the U UP? Podcast can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com.
Sep 12, 2018
Bonus: U Up? Live At The Comedy Cellar (8 PM Show) Ft. Matteo Lane
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J Squared is back with a bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: How to be an excellent stalker. At 6:02- A listener writes in wondering if it’s flattering to find out that your current hookup is stalking your ex. At 22:00 Hillary from Hoboken joins J and J for a dating app makeover. She’s looking for the Jewish boy of her dreams. At 37:00, they are joined by Matteo Lane. They play some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including "they put their credit score up as a picture on their dating app" and "insists you call their parents mom and dad as soon as you meet them." At 56:00 they re-enact their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week. A listener encloses a full Bumble conversation and wants to know why the guy she was messaging suddenly disappeared from the app. At 1:17:10 they are joined by audience members looking for dating advice. Thanks to our sponsors SKORCH: Click https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/skorch/id1001454679?mt=8 to download the app today. P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP SMART SWEETS: Go to SmartSweets.com and get free shipping on your first order of $30 or more using code “Betches”
Sep 07, 2018
Is It Crazy to Call Someone Out After Stalking Their Instagram Story?
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Jor and Jar return for an amazing episode about going deep into peoples’ social media profiles. Jared says you know you’ve gone too far when you hit a bar mitzvah. At 16:57, they take a letter from a listener who went on several dates with a guy only for him to bail on one because he “needed to nap.” After some stalking, the listener discovers he was liking food pics on Insta. What gives? At 31:14, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a dental student stuck his finger in a girl’s mouth in an unsexual way. At 40;11, they take a letter from a listener who's displeased with her merely financially adequate boyfriend. He doesn’t have the drive to earn more. What should she do? At 53:25, they take another letter from a female listener who’s hooking up with a guy and he decides things are moving too fast. He says he wants to start from scratch and cut the sex out of the picture. Is this a thing? After they wrap up on some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “still believes in the tooth fairy” and “has his own place, but he still has glowing stars on the ceiling.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale! Extended now through September 13: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at Leesa.com/UUP and enter promo code UUP at checkout.
Sep 05, 2018
How to Know You're Chasing The Wrong People
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Dub-J are back with an episode you don’t want to miss. At 3:54, they take an email from a listener who went to block a male creeper, but when she saw her blocked list, there were several girls only her BF of a few months could’ve put there. This segues into a brief discussion of those moments when your friend breaks up with their S/O and you are inclined to sh*t-talk them, but know there’s a real chance they’ll get right back together and you’ll be cut out forever. At 30:21, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy’s phone goes off during sex. If he answered it and took the call, that would’ve been OK, but what this listener describes is far more weird. At 41:15, they take another email from a listener asking about "GU guys," geographically undesirable dudes. This listener seems interested and hesitant at the same time about one such man. At 50;32, a male listener writes in who can’t seem to keep a woman for longer than two to four months. Is he being too hard on himself? At 1:00:13, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: “when meeting their parents, they get into a huge screaming fight with them” and “they tried out for The Bachelor five times, but they never made it on.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/uup
Aug 29, 2018
Is a Cheap Guy a Dealbreaker?
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J squared are back. They start off discussing "Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, a book that casts people into three groups: the anxious, the avoidant, and the secure. At 30:04, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl describes an encounter with a guy who strategically refused to remove his pants. At 50:14, they take an email from a listener who asked a guy she's been dating for four months to attend a wedding with her. He refused. Now what? At 57:34, they take another letter from a girl listener whose date keeps letting her pick up the tab. They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears a fanny pack un-ironically and gets food all over their face on a first date. This episode is presented by Leesa. Go to Leesa.com/uup or use the promo code UUP at checkout to receive $165 off your purchase of a mattress, or $235 off your purchase of a Sapira.
Aug 22, 2018
To Text or Not To Double Text
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J and J are back. At 3:00, they take their first email about when to double text - if ever. Is sending five iMessages in a row the same as two texts? This segues into a general discussion about texting strategies. At 19:12, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a guy in her living room and subsequently locks her door. He ends up knocking on her roomie's door and it only gets weirder. At 28:11 they take their third email from a girl who is back on the apps and goes lukewarm on a guy. Yet, he seems to want to keep it together. What's really going on? At 44:53 they take another email from a listener whose BF drops that he doesn't want kids. Do guys know what this really means? Jared says they sure do. At 54:44, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: Doesn't own a TV and they have no friends, but they're very close with their family.
Aug 15, 2018
Should I Swipe Right on Someone I Know IRL?
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After a brief discussion of "k" texts, J squared agrees that "Kk" is polite while "k" is extremely aggressive. At 12:37 they take a letter from a listener who is unsure if he should continue small talk with a suitor on a date that's a week in advance. This leads to a more general discussion of scheduling dates and how to broach small talk around them. At 38:40, they take a letter from a female listener who finally decides to swipe right on someone she knows IRL. After seeing him in a group setting after he swiped right back, she's unsure how to proceed. At 46:50. they take a letter from a listener who learned her boyfriend used to hook up with a 20-year-old when he was 30. She's a bit uncomfortable with it. Is he out of line? After they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: he or she has a framed selfie of themselves in their room.
Aug 08, 2018
Can I Go Through My S/O's Texts?
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J and J are back. At 3:11, they take an email about a boyfriend who has yet to post a picture of her on his Instagram. The thing is he posts A LOT. At 18:55 they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man wearing a retainer seems to misunderstand its role in sex. At 24:58, they take another email where a girlfriend goes through her boyfriend's texts and what she finds shakes her to the core. At 38:15 they take another letter from a listener whose friends' new guys went on vacation and upon their return, ghosted them. She's worried she'll suffer the same fate. At 51:35 they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: they have a tattoo of Daffy Duck pushing a lawnmower through their pubes.
Aug 01, 2018
Why Do Guys Stop Putting Effort Into Long Term Relationships? Ft. Hinge Founder Justin McLeod
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Jared and Jordana talk about the general state of U Up? which is now recommended by some therapists. Jared tells the story of a good friend who is in a bit of an Insta situation. He thinks a girl might be into him but then she seemingly hid her Insta stories from him. At 24:22 they take a letter from a listener whose boyfriend is a lifelong friend. After a year of dating, however, he's not putting in any effort. At 38:22, they take a very literary Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week. At 42:02 they are joined by Justin McLeod, the founder of Hinge who has brought with him some serious dating tips generated by Hinge's data scientists. They talk about the history of Hinge, a new feature called "Most-Compatible", and the best time to double text someone. You'll never guess how many NYT Wedding Announcements mentioned Hinge in the last year.
Jul 25, 2018
Why Do Guys Really Send Dick Pics?
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J and J are back with an amazing 90 minute episode. At 4:40, a listener writes that she was “blindsided” by her boyfriend’s choice to end their relationship because he did not feel “needed." She asks what’s the right balance between being chill and needy? At 39:11, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man asks if his girlfriend's strange sexual technique is a thing. At 48:30, a listener is perplexed about a guy who sent her a dick pic before they'd ever even dated. Should she still go out with him? At 57:34, a listener wants to know the right time to introduce your new boyfriend to your friends. They wrap up at 1:07:19 with a couple rounds of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including "showers once every three days" and "only eats at restaurants with a Michelin Star.
Jul 18, 2018
Bonus: U Up? Live at the Comedy Cellar (10PM Show) Ft. Liza Treyger
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J Squared is back with another bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: how to deal with the early period of dating. At 2:51, they take a letter from a very busy female listener, asking what to expect in terms of confirming dates. And what should you say in texts, anyway? "Looking forward to it," that's more for HR and "Kk" is gold. At 24:44, they play a round of Douche Detective where a girl gets a handwritten letter from a guy who went way out of his way to tell her that she was the best sex he ever had. At 37:10, they are joined by Liza Treyger. They play some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including "sneezes in their own hand twice and does nothing to clean it" and "asks how much money you make on the first date." At 54:11, they do another round of "Douche Detective" where a wishy-washy guy repeatedly creates the "illusion of planning." At 1:03:09 they take some general questions from the audience, including a woman whose boyfriend calls her "a long-term partner" but often says that he doesn't believe in monogamy. Don't miss the Q&A question at 1:07:00, where a girl asks what her trip to Thailand with her ex (of seven years) should really be about.
Jul 13, 2018
What's The Ideal Day of the Week for a First Date?
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Everyone's favorite Js are back discussing early date activities. At 5:39, they take a letter from a listener asking about what's "too much" to ask for on a second date. Are there certain date activities you should hold off on until later in a relationship? At 21:48, Jared poses an interesting question: what's the ideal day of the week for a date? At 28:08, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week. A girl describes an encounter where during 69, her jaw gets stuck wide open, taking on the appearance of the person in Edvard Munch's 'The Scream.' It's a story that must be heard, but surprisingly leads to a serious and meaningful question. At 42:47, they take another letter from a listener who recently had an abortion and tells a recent suitor. He freaked out. Are all guys weird when it comes to this topic? At 52:50 they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: believe the Earth is flat.
Jul 11, 2018
Do You Have To Break Up If They're Not The One?
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It's summer fling and fun season. The Js start things off fast this Independence Day. At 3:40, they take a letter from a girl who's 6'1" and thinks she falls higher on the attraction scale. Are guys really intimidated by her height? This segues into a more general discussion about how to state what you want on dating websites. At 18:25, they take a Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a female listener talks about a guy who leaves his undies on during the act. At 27:47, a guy writes in about dating a girl where things are going well, but he knows that she's not the one. Is this a break up situation or should he wait it out and see what happens? At 44:56, they take another letter from a listener who gets set up with a guy who keeps referring to his roommate as "they" and it turns out, she's his ex. They wrap up on some games including Would You Rather: date someone with customized ring and text tones or someone who has ZERO contacts saved in their phone?
Jul 04, 2018
Bonus: U Up? Live at the Comedy Cellar Ft. Andi Dorfman
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Don't miss this very special bonus episode of U Up? where Jared and Jordana take letters and play games in front of a sold-out crowd at NYC's legendary Comedy Cellar. Jordana starts things off with a story of being on a date when a homeless man asks if her and boyfriend of three months are together. He replies that she's his girlfriend. At 9:37, they take a letter from a listener who has been single for 5 years in the city and keeps getting stuck with noncommittal guys. Is her life just a classic case of "who wants to buy the cow when they can get the milk for free"? At 19:00, they do a dating app makeover for a 30-year-old New York girl who's "very single" and has been on the apps for six years. At 30:30, they are joined by former Bachelorette, Andi Dorfman, to talk about some of her dating experiences including a guy who wouldn't stop flirting and texting the bartender in front of her. At 37:29, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: their email is CottonCandyLover@hotmail.com. Don't miss the final segment, Douche Detective, at 51:22.
Jun 29, 2018
Should You Tell Your Partner About A Time You “Almost” Cheated?
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Jared and Jordana are buzzing after their sold-out live show. They talk about a Twitter thread by a girl describing the perfect behavior from the perfect first date. Is high-fiving your dog a likable gesture or a romantic fairy tale IRL? They discuss social media gestures at large like praising your significant other or mother in a post. The Weird Sexual Encounter of the week involves a man who starts masturbating out of nowhere. After they take a letter from a male listener who met a “gorgeous Tinderella.” They hook up and go on a few dates, but then she seems only willing to talk on the phone or DM. What’s the deal? A second letter comes from a female listener on her way to marriage. An ex reaches out and she finds herself reaching back. They wrap up playing games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: Showed up on a date wearing a shirt that says, “Drive Fast, Eat Ass.”
Jun 27, 2018
How Important Is It That Your Significant Other Likes Your Family?
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Jared and Jordana deem guys who get into relationship mode too fast, "the male thirst trap." At 6:33, they take a letter from a listener on the topic who has dealt with guys who want to hold hands or kiss foreheads immediately. At 16:11, they receive their weird sexual encounter of the week - where a fajita-breathed man finishes himself off during a bathroom break while they're having sex. At 26:10, they take another letter from a listener, a girl who keeps letting her guy friends buy her dinner. Is letting guys pay merely accepting kindness or is she off the mark? At 34:54, another listener asks about her partner who keeps dissing her family. She likes his family, but does that have to mean her family sucks? At 49:20, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: their family takes an annual trip to Disney Land.
Jun 20, 2018
Can You Start a Real Relationship From an Instagram Thirst Trap?
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Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking about Instagram thirst traps. Do they come off as desperate? Do they work? After, they debut a new segment: Weird Sexual Encounter of The Week where a guy describes a balloon situation that is truly bizarre. Another listener asks how to handle her ex of 5 years (who she's still close with) seemingly entering into a new, serious relationship. Another letter asks about proper blowjob etiquette. They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: shows up to brunch in Hollister/Abercrombie sweatpants.
Jun 13, 2018
When's The Right Time To Talk About Your Sexual History? Feat. Taylor Strecker
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Jordana and Jared talk about the Dobler-Dahmer Theory from How I Met Your Mother. The theory states that a big romantic gesture is either creepy or amazing based on how into the person you are. This segues into a poem-letter a listener received that is decidedly Dahmer. After they take a letter from a listener who wants his fiance to do molly with him. She's not into it. They're then joined by Taylor Strecker of the Taste of Taylor podcast. They talk about lesbians, the sexual spectrum, and when to break various things to a partner. After, they take another letter from a listener who recently discovered her bisexuality and doesn't know how/if she should broach with a guy she's been on three dates on. After they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: they go for runs in NYC wearing a helmet.
Jun 06, 2018
Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?
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Jordana and Jared talk Plan B, condoms and more in this particularly intimate episode. They take a letter from a listener who has been using the pull-out method and is having some issues. She breaks it to her partner that she’s not on BC. His reaction: priceless. Literally, he didn’t offer to pay the price for Plan B. A listener writes in wondering if he has to disclose that he’s cheated on a past girlfriend in a new relationship. In another letter, a listener’s boyfriend suspects her boyfriend is going to cheat on her during a bachelor party. They wrap things up with Red Flag or Dealbreaker, including “only eats McDonald’s or Burger King.”
May 30, 2018
Is It OK to Ask How Many People They’ve Slept With? Feat. Andy Cohen
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J and J talk about U Up? live shows (be sure to follow @uuppod on Instagram for updates and ticket info). They take a letter from a listener who had his heart broken using the apps in the NYC dating scene. He’s unsure how to regain his confidence without being an asshole. Another listener asks how you should answer the “How many people have you slept with?” question. Another person writes in dealing with a boyfriend who’s invited her to plenty of family events. She happily attends. Unfortunately, he’s not reciprocating. At 52:20, Jordana and Jared are joined by Andy Cohen who discusses his dating strategies, app philosophy, and more. Love Connection premieres Tuesday, May 29 at 9/8c on FOX.
May 23, 2018
How Do You Handle The First Fart In a Relationship? (Ft. Jax Taylor)
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Jared and Jordana take a letter from a listener asking about the right time to start posting pictures with a new partner. A listener asks how to get out of the block/unblock cycle with an old fling. Another listener asks how to handle "the first fart" milestone in a relationship. After Jax Taylor comes and discusses a variety of issues, including dating in the entertainment business. They also play a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker, including "They tell their mother all about your sex life."
May 16, 2018
How Long Should I Put Up With a Guy Texting Me Without Asking Me Out?
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Jar-dana get a letter from a listener who is the only single person in a friend group of couples. Another listener feels stuck in a pen pals situation. When does the texting stop and the real life action start? When should you quit texting back? Another letter asks when it's OK to re-follow your ex on social media. Don't miss some fire red flag or dealbreakers including their house is covered in Batman memorabilia and they sincerely insist their ex is worse than Hitler.
May 09, 2018
How Do You Extend a Vacation Hook-Up?
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Jordana's returned from Coachella. jared's decided that the people who hate on Coachella have officially become more annoying than the people who go. After a tangent into how much Jordana loves tans (a lot, but only natural) a listener asks how to extend the vacation hook-up with a dude in Costa Rica. Can a fling be resurrected? Another listener (who calls J&J Jar-dana) is curious about the right time to explain their mental health history. They wrap up on some red flags or dealbreakers, including being obsessed with Coachella, and putting artificial sweetener in wine publicly.
May 02, 2018
What Do I Get a Guy For His Birthday If We've Only Been Dating a Month?
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Jor and Jar start with a listener asking if it's a red flag that dudes always ask her for a pic over the apps. A girl in a new relationship asks for the protocol on her suitor of one's month's birthday - is that a gift or a dinner sitch? A pretty boy writes in to ask why his constantly complimented looks aren't translating to catching more fish in the sea. Finally, a listener writes in to ask about her roomie's new fling where her BF comes over and massages her feet - while all three of them are watching a movie. Don't miss some great red flag or dealbreakers including "had sex with an animal."
Apr 25, 2018
The Reason Guys Don’t Make Plans in Advance
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Jor and Jar talk about scenes in different cities like comedy, music, and magic (are there magic open mics?). After they move on to the complications of hooking up with an ex, they take a letter from a listener who likes her new guy, but has serious qualms with his dog. Another listener asks about guys who have that "creepy Asian fetish." Finally, a woman writes in complaining about how a guy she’s dating can't seem to make the most basic of plans.
Apr 18, 2018
What's The Proper Post Breakup Protocol?
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Jor and Jar are joined by hilarious comedian, Matteo Lane for this special ep. Matteo brings a new perspective to the pod as someone who's seasoned at "trolling Grindr." They take a letter from a listener whose friend is convinced that her boyfriend "sleep-texted" his ex, and that he would never actually sext unfaithfully. Another listener is confused about how to handle a long-distance potential suitor; he lives 45 minutes away, does that entitle him to play the field or what? They wrap up on some games including "would you rather date an extremely cheap person, or someone who spends insanely frivolously?"
Apr 11, 2018
How Do I Tell Someone I'm Seeing That I'm a Virgin
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J-Train and Jordana answer an email from a listener who is struggling with their virginity. Double J explain that it's just not as big of a deal as it may seem. Jordana advocates not even necessarily telling his suitor. A second female listener is a sports fanatic and can't seem to find a guy who's into it. After, a 23-year-old asks a question relating to a GF who has massive jealousy issues and is worried "anything with a vagina" is out to steal him. The Js wrap up playing a game of "Red Flag or Dealbreaker" with "singing for money on the subway" and "believing in spanking their kids."
Apr 04, 2018
How Soon Should I Get Back on Dating Apps After a Breakup? Ft. Hannah Bronfman
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Jordana and Jared field a letter from a listener who wonders why past boyfriends refused to put their relationship on Facebook. Another letter asks what to do if you're hooking up with a guy but you have your period. A guy asks how to handle the apps after breaking up with his GF after three years, is it OK to start going out and to use pictures she took on his dating profile? She even did the filters... Finally, double J is joined by Hannah Bronfman, DJ and founder of HBFIT, who discusses the importance of horoscopes and married life.
Mar 28, 2018
Should I Hide the Fact That I Smoke Weed on a Dating App?
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Jared and Jordana field a letter from a listener who is both weirded out by the guy who doesn’t ask for the date on a dating app and the guy who asks too soon. Another letter asks how prominent weed should be in her dating profile (esp. when it’s part of her lifestyle). After a fan describes the pod as, “a Yom Kippur sermon without the guilt,” they take a question about sending exes a happy birthday text. Then they play some games including Red flag or Dealbreaker: person who signs their text messages like “Hey good to see you last night -Jared.”
Mar 21, 2018
Is It Messed Up That My Boyfriend Goes to Strip Clubs?
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J&J start with a letter from a listener who sent a "Red flag or dealbreaker" as an opening line on a dating app and revealed he doesn't respect girls who put out on the first date. Jared talks about his tendency to post pics of his insane messages to girls. This segues into a conversation about how best to open on dating apps (and how to deal with the inevitable rejection/non-response). Another listener hooks up with a smoker, but she's not sure if she can deal with the habit since her grandmother just had lung cancer and surgery caused by cigs. A self-described "binge-listener" writes in to inquire about a bf who is adamant about attending strip clubs (though he hates porn) for access to fresh T&A, but he doesn't want an open relationship or anything.
Mar 14, 2018
What Do Guys Really Think of Fake Boobs?
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Jared and Jordana discuss their partying and drinking habits. J&J agree on rose. Jordana confesses to being the type of drunk that loves to start fights. After they take a letter from a listener asking why girls talking about boob jobs is so taboo. Finally, an "independent betch" asks how to deal with her needy boyfriend (at least, that's how she sees it).
Mar 07, 2018
How Many Dates Should You Wait Before Adding Someone On Instagram?
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Jared has an awkward hook up after masturbating 700 times. A listener tells the story of watching a gay porn and hearing familiar music, namely the 'U Up' theme song. Another fan asks when the right time to add a dating partner on social media might be. J&J then take a letter about a guy who requested a Venmo refund for a cheeseburger after a first date that went nowhere. Also, is sleeping with a dude on the first date always a bad move? Probably, especially if it's with the guy whose dating profile pics were all taken by his ex.
Feb 28, 2018
How to Plan a Date Without Looking Desperate
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Jordana and Jared start off talking about the heart DM on Instagram (is it sincere?). Then they take a letter from a compulsive planner who is curious how far ahead it's appropriate to plan in a dating context. After a listener asks what he should if he's in a long-term relationship (over two years), but he doesn't see it going anywhere. They wrap things up answering whether a dating partner who kisses their family on the mouth is a "red flag or a dealbreaker."
Feb 21, 2018
Stop Instagram Stalking Your Exes with Whitney Cummings
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After talking about various verbal dealbreakers such as “golly” and “oh my gosh,” Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking how to act if she runs into a 25-year-old college student after he ghosted her. They talk about Instagram stalking and other weirdos that linger in the “viewed by” section of social media apps. At 0:47, Jordana is joined by Whitney Cummings. talking about her new film, The Female Brain, and how men and women differ.
Feb 14, 2018
Do Women Have More to Gain From Marriage Than Men?
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Jared and Jordana talk about how to handle Valentine’s Day as a single person, having reasonable standards, and what men and women have to gain from marriage. After, they discuss people who are resistant to “the apps.” Do you live in the Now? It’s time to get better at dating online— though they’re not sure which gender has it better in our Hinge-driven world. They also respond to a letter from a listener caught between a girlfriend and a dream crush.
Feb 07, 2018
Is It OK to Talk About Your Ex?
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Jordana and Jared have a fascinating discussion about exes, matchmaking, and being nosy about people's relationships. They take two questions posed by listeners. The first comes from a distressed lover scorned by someone who randomly started bringing up their ex. Number two deals with a bizarre boy who switches from smooth Romeo to college frat bro who doesn't want anything serious. And don't miss a classic would you rather: date someone who smokes pot everyday or someone who does crystal meth once a year?"
Feb 01, 2018
How Much Porn is Too Much Porn?
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This week Jordana and Jared discuss micro-cheating and whether or not men and women can really be just friends. They answer questions from a listener whose boyfriend turns into a caveman when he gets angry and another listener who is offended by the fact that her boyfriend watches porn. They play games involving dating someone with cats and a ‘Live Laugh Love’ sign in their room.
Jan 25, 2018
If You’re Not On His Instagram It’s Not Official
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This week Jordana and Jared discuss how long you should wait before putting the person you’re dating on social media. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know if she should stop having sex with a guy because he’s a Trump supporter and another listener who wants to know what the etiquette is for confirming a first date. They play "Shoot, Fuck, or Marry" and "Red Flag or Dealbreaker" about people who want to be stay at home parents, live off their parents, and have weird voices.
Jan 18, 2018
How Many Drinks Should I Have On A Date?
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This week Jared and Jordana discuss if it’s possible to not drink while dating. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why the guy she slept with texts her all day even though he lives in in another state. They also respond to a listener who is tired of dating girls who are overly sarcastic and not sweet enough. They play 2nd Date Dealbreaker involving calorie counting, over-ordering, and being a messy eater.
Jan 11, 2018
What’s The Best Way To Dump Someone?
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This week Jordana and Jared discuss why a girl might not have sex with a guy she lets sleep over. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why guys Snapchat her more than they text her and a guy who wants to know if it’s okay to dump a girl he’s been seeing for 4 months over text. They play 2nd Date Dealbreaker involving STIs and farting.
Jan 04, 2018
Should You Have ‘The Talk’? The Great Debate
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This week Jared and Jordana discuss why guys like Instagram Models’ photos. They answer questions from a girl who’s anxious she won’t get a New Years kiss and other listeners wondering when an appropriate time to initiate exclusivity is. They play games involving dating a bad tipper and dating a closed mouth kisser.
Dec 28, 2017
Blowjobs Are a Selfless Act
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This week Jordana and Jared talk about what girls and guys think of oral sex. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know how many times is normal for a guy to not be able to get it up and a male listener who is ashamed of his lack of sexual experience. They play a game called “would you go on a second date” where they discuss dating dealbreakers.
Dec 21, 2017
Don’t Text for A Specific Response
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This week Jordana and Jared discuss lingerie and who should text first after a first date. They answer questions from a listener trying to move on from a 10 month relationship and another one who has an issue with guys no longer being interested after 3-4 dates. They play red flag or dealbreaker about messy apartments, still living with your parents, and posting inspirational quotes.
Dec 14, 2017
Girls Trying Not To Be Crazy Is What’s Gotten Guys Laid for Centuries
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Jared and Jordana discuss who should pay on dates, and what you “owe" someone you’re having sex with in terms of honesty. They answer a listener’s question who wants to know what it means when a guy who ghosted you keeps liking your Instagram picture and another guy who wants advice on how to hit on girls at bars. They play red flag or dealbreaker involving being loud in movie theaters, dating someone who has done porn, and dating someone who has never said ‘I love you.'
Dec 07, 2017
Is it ever okay to fake an orgasm?
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Jared and Jordana discuss why girls fake orgasms and what the best solution is to get them to stop. They answer questions from a male listener who doesn’t want a relationship but finds himself doing “relationshipy” things with girls he’s hooking up with and another listener who wants to know how to define her relationship. They play Shoot Fuck Marry and Red Flag or Dealbreaker involving crying in public and taking your shirt off while having sex.
Nov 30, 2017
You're Not Better Than The App
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Jared and Jordana discuss how to be put yourself out there on dating apps and whether or not a guy can ever truly be 'not in the mood.' The give advice about how to ask a guy out in a low key way and how to let go of your boyfriend's transgressions from years ago. They play red flag or dealbreaker regarding eating habits and same-sex infidelity. They debate texting vs calling and personal grooming.
Nov 23, 2017
Why Does My Boyfriend Rarely Seek Out Sex?
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In their premiere dating podcast, Jared and The Betches discuss how your dating app profile picture can affect what kind of guys or girls you attract and what types of photos you should avoid. They answer questions from a listener who wonders if a visiting hook up was just using her for her bed and another who wonders why her new boyfriend rarely wants to have sex. They play red flag or dealbreaker with a few dating scenarios.
Nov 15, 2017