ADHD Essentials

By Brendan Mahan

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 Jun 30, 2019

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ADHD Podcast for Parents and Educators

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Moving Beyond Structure Routine and Productivity with Cathy Rashidian of Ready Set Choose Coaching
38:11

Today, we’re talking to Cathy Rashidian of Ready Set Choose Coaching.  Cathy is an executive and ADHD coach to emerging leaders, and the host of the Proudly ADHD podcast.

In this episode, we discuss the importance of moving beyond structure, routine, and productivity when it comes to managing ADHD, why we should take more care in looking at home much time we actually have to do things, menstruation and ADHD, and the relationship between production, emotions and processing styles.

Side note, this episode is overdue.  It was recorded back in February before things went off the rails for me.  So, some of the examples might be a little out of season.  Sorry about that, but it’s good to be back!

 

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Sep 30, 2022
Getting Back on the Horse: Thoughts on Supporting Our Kids, and the Role of Anxiety in Performance with Brendan Mahan, Your Host in Absentia.
08:44

Today, it's just me, your host in abstencia.  In today’s episode, I share a little bit about the family stuff I've been going through that led to the podcast being so intermittent of late, pledge to return to weekly posting moving forward, and share a lesson of two about parenting (and just being human) that I've learned as a result of all this.

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Sep 19, 2022
The Importance of Being Understood with Amanda Morin
41:39

Today, we’re talking to Amanda Morin. Amanda works in print and digital media as a writer and editor, empowering parents and educators to affirm the pivotal roles they play in children’s education. She played an integral role in launching Understood.org in 2014.

In today’s episode, we discuss what Understood.org is and why it’s so valuable, learning loss during the pandemic, masking, and the importance of acceptance for neurodiversity.

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Aug 11, 2022
The Accomplishment Equation and Motivation as Resource Management with Brandon Tessers, LCPC.
52:33

Today, we’re talking to Brandon Tessers of Effective Artistry.  Brandon is a licensed clinical professional counselor (LCPC), trained professional actor, amateur singer/songwriter, former schoolteacher, and a self-described “enthusiastic if sometimes ill-prepared husband and father”. He’s been helping children and adults with their executive functioning for over a decade, and has been doing so as a licensed therapist for the last five years.

In this wide ranging episode, Brandon shares his Accomplishment Equation. He talks about motivation as resource management, ways to recover energy, negative vs positive aims, and why change requires discomfort.

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Jun 15, 2022
Processing Grief with Claire Bidwell Smith
40:54

In this episode we’re talking to therapist and author, Claire Bidwell Smith.  Claire is a grief expert, and her latest book is “Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief”. 

 

In this episode, Claire talks to us about grief.  She discusses the interconnections between anxiety and grief, a few different models and perspectives on the subject, it’s cyclical nature, the importance of making space for grief, how to handle it with kids, and why grief is around us more than we might think.

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Learn more about Claire and her work at https://clairebidwellsmith.com

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May 04, 2022
FROM THE VAULT: Out of Loss Can Come Gain Post Traumatic Growth in a Time of Crisis with Richard Tedeschi, Ph.D., Distinguished Chair of Boulder Crest Institute for Posttraumatic Growth, Bluemont, VA
41:57

Today, we’re revisiting an episode from May of 2020 with Richard Tedeschi.  Richard originated the concept of posttraumatic growth with his colleague Lawrence Calhoun during their years at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. More recently, he has been applying the posttraumatic growth concept in the development of innovative programs for combat veterans and first responders. The success of which is leading to their implementation at a number of venues across the country. His new book about the growth experiences of military families is Transformed by Trauma: Stories of Posttraumatic Growth (2020).

In Today’s Episode, Dr. Tedeschi talks to us about trauma, PTSD, and Post traumatic growth as it relates to the COVID-19 pandemic.  We discuss how getting clear on our beliefs can help us more effectively navigate this crisis, the importance of taking action for our mental health - especially actions that help others, and how parents can help their kids better handle difficult and challenging times.

 

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Apr 15, 2022
ADHD and Employment with Alex Gilbert of Capeable Consulting
45:12

In this episode we're talking to Alex Gilbert of Capeable Consulting.  Alex has ADHD and dyslexia.  And after spending her career working in leadership development, she decided to start a consulting and coaching business to help adults with learning disabilities and/or ADHD who are struggling in their careers. 

In this episode, Alex talks to us about navigating jobs, careers, and employment with ADHD.  She discusses what your favorite game has to do with picking a job, navigating boredom and imposter syndrome, the fact that interview questions are a two way street, and why things can be challenging but not hard.

 

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Mar 29, 2022
Why ADHD is Poorly Named with Brendan Mahan Your Acceptably Named Host
10:19

Today, host Brendan Mahan explores why ADHD is poorly named in response to some of the things talked about in the recent episode featuring René Brooks, Inger Colzie, and Stacey Machelle.

 

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Mar 22, 2022
Co-Parenting and Seeking to Understand with Coco Stanback ADHD/Parenting Coach
34:22

In this episode of the podcast we are talking to my friend Coco Stanback.  Coco is an ADHD and parenting coach whose family is, unsurprisingly, affected by the disorder.

In this episode, Coco discusses effective co-parenting.  She talks about why we should first seek to understand when things get challenging, the importance of knowing and honoring each others’ skill sets, and her three core C’s of parenting.

 

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Mar 12, 2022
Commandeered by René Brooks! with René Brooks, Inger Shay Colzie, and Stacey Machelle
44:24

This episode of the podcast was commandeered by René Brooks of Black Girl Lost Keys.  I thought we were going to have one-on-one interview and catch-up, but René had other plans and brought along some friends!  So it’s me, René, ADHD coach and mental health clinician Inger Shay Colzie, and the Stacey Machelle of ADHD is the New Black on YouTube.

 

In this episode, we discuss and demonstrate the importance of singing people’s praises and the supportive nature of the ADHD Community, the power of planting seeds, finding humor in ADHD, the importance of diverse voices in ADHD, and some excellent Ending Essentials. 

 

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Feb 27, 2022
Supporting vs. Enabling with Cindy Goldrich, Ed.M., ADHD-CCSP
37:20
Today, we’re talking to Cindy Goldrich, the founder of Pathways to Success Coaching

Cindy is a mental health counselor and ADHD coach who has been working in the field for over 15 years.  She is the author of two books on parenting children with ADHD, and books and training programs have been translated into multiple languages.  In addition to working with parents, Cindy also trains ADHD coaches and other professionals. 

In this episode, we discuss ways to distinguish between supporting and enabling, Cindy’s three N’s of praise, and the importance of connection and setting appropriate expectations in managing family dynamics.

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Feb 19, 2022
How To Respond To The Idea That Not Everyone Deserves a Trophy with Brendan Mahan Your Clapping Compatriot
09:51

In today's episode, I share how I responded to a guy who didn't like my supportive, and encouraging approach to parenting.  He tried to crush my positivity by saying, "I don't believe that everyone deserves a trophy".  So, I thought about it and came back to him with a clearer perspective.  The gist of which is that ADHD is a developmental disorder, so kids with ADHD might not meet the same standards as other kids their age.  We should meet them where they are. Then teach them to do better moving forward.  This episode will teach you how to do that.

 

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Feb 12, 2022
FROM THE VAULT: Executive Function Volcanoes and Why ADHD Rarely Travels Alone with Monica Hassell of ConnectADHD
35:32

In today’s episode, we’re revisiting a conversation I had with Monica Hassell.  Monica is an ADHD coach based in Australia.  She and her husband Jon make up ConnectADHD.  Monica has presented at the International Conference on ADHD several times, and her work is outstanding!

In today’s episode, we discuss Executive Function, why ADHD rarely travels alone, and the various layers that underlie problem behaviors through Monica’s outstanding Volcano model of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.  The image for the volcano will be in the show notes.

 

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Feb 05, 2022
ADDed Perspective with Renee Crook
50:48
In today’s episode, we’re talking to Renee Crook

Renee is a veteran ADHD coach who works with adult clients both one-on-one and in groups.  She sits on the board of directors for ADDA and is the chair of their virtual support groups.  She also teaches for RenaFi, a financial education program for ADHDers, and trains coaches as part of the faculty of the ADHD Coach Academy.

In this episode, Renee shares her story and discusses how her struggles with ADHD led to her leaving teaching and becoming an ADHD coach.  Along the way we discuss why clear expectations matter so much, how prioritization struggles can affect performance, the importance of standing up for ourselves, why ADHDers so often take on too much, the power of planting seeds, and the healing hidden of helping others.

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Jan 29, 2022
Help Starting Homework with Brendan Mahan, your handsome homework helper
12:42

In today's episode, I share a strategy I use to help kids get their homework done.  (I use it to help adults get stuff done, too!)   It involves assessing in advance the time and effort/energy required to do each homework assignment (or part of the task) and then using the information to make decisions about prioritization and sequencing.  So, not only dies it help kids attack the task at hand, but it build executive functioning skill, too!

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Jan 22, 2022
Managing Lingering Pandemic Anxiety with Dr. Sharon Saline
42:37

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Dr. Sharon Saline.  Dr. Saline is a friend of the pod, a licensed, clinical psychologist, and the author of “What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew”.

In this episode, Dr. Saline and I talk about the effects of the pandemic on children and families.  We discuss the data on mental health pre- and post-pandemic, moral injury, the effect it is having on social skills, and ways to manage the anxiety we're all experiencing.

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Jan 15, 2022
Healthy Screen Time Use with Dr. Randy Kulman of LearningWorks for Kids
43:48

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Dr. Randy Kulman.  Dr. Kulman is the founder and president of LearningWorks for Kids. He coordinates their team of psychologists, educators, and digital designers in a quest to make video games good for kids. As a licensed clinical child psychologist, Dr. Kulman has been working directly with kids and families for the past 30 years, and has become a leading expert on the use of digital technologies for improving thinking skills in children.

In this episode, Dr. Kulman joins us to discuss all things screen time.  We explore screen time as play time and what makes a healthy play diet, the difference between neurotypical and neurodiverse screen use, how screens can teach executive functioning skills, the various types of screen time and why not all of them equal, what makes games good for kids, how tech companies have worked to make screen time irresistible, and five rules for limiting screen time.

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Jan 08, 2022
From the Vault: ADHD and Giftedness with Dr. Robert Gruberman
31:44
Today, we're talking to Dr. Robert Gruberman.

Robert is the director of his school district’s gifted and talented program.  He has been assessing and teaching gifted children for nearly two decades, and has been a public educator for even longer.

In today’s episode, we discuss ADHD and giftedness through the lens of an academic expert in the field.  We talk about the various components of giftedness, and where they overlap with ADHD, the social emotional side of giftedness, how twice exceptional kids are affected by having both ADHD and giftedness, and how to help kids with ADHD, giftedness, or both, manage the challenges they face.

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Dec 25, 2021
Children‘s Holiday Stress, Parent Holiday Stress, and an Unasked-For Gift from Brendan
18:03

In today's episode, I'm talking about children's stress, parental stress, and the interplay between the two.  And, I have a present for you!

 

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Dec 18, 2021
Giftedness is Not Achievement with Aurora Remember Holtzman
37:08

Today, we’re talking to Aurora Remember Holtzman.  Aurora is a school psychologist, neurodivergence coach, and host of the Embracing Intensity podcast.  And her focus is giftedness and twice exceptionality.

In today’s episode, Aurora discusses just that – giftedness and twice exceptionality!  She talks to us about the challenges of twice exceptionality, how ADHD and giftedness can mask each other, executive function fatigue and burnout, common  challenges for the gifted, and why giftedness should not be confused with achievement. 

 

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Dec 11, 2021
Learning How to Live and Talking About Mental Health with ADHD Jon-Jon
35:12

Today, we’re talking to ADHD Jon-Jon.

Jon is a minority black male and men’s health advocate with ADHD.  I’ve been following him on twitter for a while now, and am excited to finally have him on the show!

In today’s episode, John and I talk about having ADHD and learning how to live! We discuss working at thriving rather than just surviving, the importance of taking action, vulnerability, being mindful rather than just having a mind that is constantly full, and managing anxiety.

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Dec 04, 2021
Reframing Our Thoughts Through Our Culture of Origin with Your Host Brendan Mahan
18:06

In today's episode, I share a tool I've been using for a few years now to help me reframe my thoughts in order to gain distance, depersonalize the thoughts I don't want to be having, and better see the role unhealthy cultural systems play in those unwanted thoughts.

 

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Nov 26, 2021
From the Vault: Holiday Planning with Cindy Jobs
53:19

Today, we’re revisiting a conversation with to Cindy Jobs about holiday planning.

Cindy is an expert in the field of organization, and an Associate Certified Coach.  She helps people with ADHD simplify their lives through education, structure, and support. 

In today’s episode, we talk about setting reasonable expectations around the holidays, the importance of clear, honest, early, and open communication, managing the various holiday pressure cookers, and using traditions to foster connection.

 

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Nov 19, 2021
Getting Kids into College and Doing It Debt-Free with Denise Thomas, Your Debt-Free College Coach
28:41

Today, we’re talking to Denise Thomas.  Denise helps equip parents to take an active role in supporting their children to live a life of greater financial freedom by teaching them how to reduce or eliminate their kid’s college debt. Her mission is to FLIP the student debt statistic in the U.S!

In this episode, Denise talks about how she sent her kids to college debt-free, and shares strategies for you to do the same.  She tells us about how her family’s financial hardship forced her to find alternative ways to fund her children’s college, the three things colleges look for in their applicants, why it’s never too early to look into scholarships, and importance of story-telling and marketing.

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Nov 12, 2021
Rough Cut! Reflections from Day 3 of the International Conference on ADHD 2021
24:02

It's Day 3 of the Annual International Conference on ADHD, and it's virtual again for 2021!  We're still doing the rough cut debriefs, but today os the last day!  Each day, I've grabbed some folks to do a quick, unedited reflection on the conference.  For day 3, I'v got Alan Brown, Roxie Martin, Moira Maybin and Jessica McCabe!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 06, 2021
Rough Cut! Reflections from Day 2 of the International Conference on ADHD 2021
41:37

The Annual International Conference on ADHD is virtual again for 2021!  And we're still doing the rough cut debriefs!  Each day, I'll be grabbing some folks to do a quick, unedited reflection on the conference.  For day 2, I grabbed Will Curb, Dr. Carolyn Lentzsch-Parecalls, Kate Barrett, Lollie Weeks, and Jon Hassall!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 06, 2021
Rough Cut! Reflections from Day 1 of the International Conference on ADHD 2021
30:27

The Annual International Conference on ADHD is virtual again for 2021!  And we're still doing the rough cut debriefs!  Each day, I'll be grabbing some folks to do a quick, unedited reflection on the conference.  Today, I grabbed Tamara Rosier, Inger Shaye, Monica Hassall, and Jeff Copper!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 05, 2021
What If You‘re Not the Main Character? Empathy and Compassion Tool with Brendan Mahan Your Compassionate Captian
09:10

In today's episode, I share a tool I've been using for a few years now to help me get emotional space, and be more empathic and compassionate when I'm supporting people (including my kids!) who are going through a challenging time.

 

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Oct 30, 2021
Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell, Author and School Counselor
43:24

Today, we’re talking to Phyllis Fagell, author of Middle School Matters.  Phyllis is a school counselor, and author of the book Middle School Matters.

In this episode, Phyllis talks about ten key life skills through the lens of middle school. She discusses the importance of good friend choices and the influence of peer presence, reasons why we want to help our kids get clear on their values, the effects of the pandemic on kids as well as ways to mitigate those effects, navigating teacher/student mismatches, the imaginary audience, and the value of identifying emotions.

NOTE:  This episode was recorded over the summer.  So a few of the examples are a little dated.  Podcast Time is weird.

 

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Oct 16, 2021
Brain Performance and the Eyes with Trent McEntire of Fire Up You Brain
44:00
Today, we’re talking to Trent McEntire.

He's the founder of FireUpYourBrain.com, and creator of the Brain Speedball.  Trent became a professional dancer after rehabilitating his own severe movement restrictions caused by a brain injury at birth, and has continued to work on understanding how the mind-body connection and neuroplasticity can be used to address challenges in attention, emotional regulation, and movement.

In today’s episode, Trent shares his story, and talks to us about his work with physical movement and the senses to address neurodiverse and development challenges. We discuss failing first grade, cerebral palsy, the importance of engaging our senses, why clear goals and measuring outcomes matter, and the power of play.

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Oct 09, 2021
From the Vault: An Overview of School Testing with Leanne Kaplan, School Psychologist
50:05
Today, we’re talking to Leanne Kaplan. 

Leanne is a school psychologist working with elementary school students.  I really enjoyed this conversation.  It was both wide ranging, and insightful.

In today’s episode, Leanne talks about how school testing works.  She shares the basic things we should, as well as things that don’t show up on tests and rating scales, the difference between private testing and school testing, and the importance of looking at the whole student to determine what’s best for your child.

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Oct 01, 2021
Technology and Education with Anthony Amitrano, M.Ed., M.A, Instructional Technology Specialist, and founder of EduPowerTools
37:35
Today, we’re talking Anthony Amitrano, M.Ed., M.A.

Anthony is an instructional technology specialist in Northbridge, MA, as well as a former music teacher and school administrator.  He also has a website called edupowertools.com that provides resources related to using technology in education.

In this episode Anthony talks to us about technology education.  He discusses the way the use of technology is changing in schools – from worksheets to more creative and collaborative projects, ways parents can support their kids through technology - setting boundaries for technology as well as talking about digital citizenship, the power of teacher and district websites, and the Northwestern Tree Octopus.

 

 

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Sep 25, 2021
Your Brain’s Not Broken with Tamara Rosier, PhD, Author, ADHD coach, and Neurodiverse Mom
37:36

Today, we’re talking to friend of the pod, Tamara Rosier!  Tamara is an ADHD and Leadership coach, founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan, author of the new book, “Your Brain’s not Broken”, which was released this week! 

In this episode Tamara and I talk about her new book, “Your Brain’s not Broken”.  We discuss managing the basic things in life, the interplay of anxiety and imagination, convergent vs divergent thinking, ADHD as an at-risk population, and ways to manage our emotions.  

 

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Sep 18, 2021
Helping Kids Solve Their Own Problems with Aimee Buckley, CEO and Chief Academic Officer of Study Help Inc., Teacher, and Mom
47:33
Today, we’re talking to Aimee Buckley. 

Aimee is the CEO and Chief Academic Officer of the online tutoring platform, Study Help Inc as well as a full-time special education teacher of mild to moderate students with 25 years of experience, and the adoptive mom of a neurodiverse daughter.

In today’s episode Aimee talks to us about using understanding rather than patience to manage frustrating behaviors and situations, looking at issues as problems to solve rather than moralizing them, the benefits of impulsivity, being solution-focused, behavioral strategies that help at home, and the effervescence of ADHD!

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Sep 11, 2021
A Free Sample of the ADHD Essentials Parent Groups with Ashleigh, ADHD Mom and Past Group Member
43:43

Today, we’re talking to Ashleigh.  She’s an ADHD mom, and previous member of the ADHD Essentials Parent Coaching Groups.  Ashleigh contacted me a little while ago and said she wanted to help support the groups.

In today’s episode she does just that.  She asks to me about my vision for the parent groups, and tells me about the things got from them.  I share how my background contributes to the parenting philosophy and the skills that I teach during the eight weeks of the parenting groups, Ashleigh shares how meaningful it was for her to connect with other ADHD parents, and some of the lessons she found most important.  This episode is basically a free sample of what goes on in the groups, you get a little bit of the content and, hopefully, a little of the connection as well.  I’m sure you’ll find something valuable in it.  (Like anxiety smiley faces!  Because we talk about those, too!)

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Sep 04, 2021
EPISODE 200: Reflecting on the Past and Looking Ahead to the Future of the Show with Cameron Gott, ADHD Coach and Host of the Translating ADHD podcast
46:09

Today, we’re talking to me!  For the 100th Episode of the ADHD Essentials Podcast, my friend Cameron Gott, offered to flip the script, and interview me about what I learned over the course of doing 100 episodes.  Well, we’re doing it again for episode 200! 

Cameron is a phenomenal ADHD coach, who’s been doing it for over two decades, as well as the co-host of the Translating ADHD podcast with Shelly Collins.

In today’s episode Cam interviews me about the past present and future of the ADHD Essentials podcast.  I talk about my goals for the show, why the second hundred was so much harder than the first (hint:  It’s COVID), and the value of  connecting, and how I posted 200 episodes of a podcast in a row without missing a week, despite having ADHD.

 

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Aug 21, 2021
ADHD, Integrative Health, and the Mind/Body Connection with Dr. Nicole Beurkins, Child Psychologist
53:11
Today, we’re talking to Dr. Nicole Beurkins. 

Dr. Beurkins is a child psychologist who has appeared in Good Housekeeping, The New York Times, The Washington Post and has been featured on both NBC, CBS, and ABC, including The Today Show.

In today’s episode, Dr. Beurkins discusses ADHD and integrative health.  She talks about her neurodiverse-friendly approach - she is focused on helping people not changing them.  She also talks about why our starting points should be simple and doable, and digs deep into the ways the mind can affect the body and vice versa, and the importance of sleep, nutrition, and movement in ADHD management.

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Aug 14, 2021
9 Thoughts on Cleaning a Room with Brendan Mahan, your Decluttering (Not-So) Dynamo!
18:03

In today's episode, I share my thoughts on cleaning a room.  Among these are a way to avoid panic-cleaning, the Five Box method, the Job of the Space method, using timers and clipboards, what to do once it's clean,  and the power of self-forgiveness.

 

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Aug 07, 2021
From the Vault: Going All in with the ADHD Population with Gail Oakerman, Counselor, College Professor, and Educational Consultant
32:23
Today, we’re digging into the vault to hear from Gail Oakerman. 

Gail is an Educational Consultant, Counselor, and one of my old College Professors.  She runs Five Points Counseling in Lunenburg, MA.

In today’s episode, we discuss the internal struggle of ADHD, how systemic & cultural realities get in our way, the power of teaching our kids ways to talk about their challenges, and harnessing incremental change.

 

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Jul 31, 2021
Meeting the Sensory Needs of Our Kids and Ourselves with Keri Wilmot Pediatric Occupational Therapist, Toy Consultant, and Author.
41:28

Today, we’re talking to Keri Wilmot.  Keri is a pediatric occupational therapist with over twenty years of experience in the field, a consultant to the toy industry as the “Toy Queen”, and the author of “Wired Differently: A Teacher’s Guide to Understanding Sensory-Processing Challenges”.

Keri talks to us about the important role sensory processing plays in the lives of the neurodiverse.  She tells us about the role of an occupational therapist, reveals that we actually have eight senses - not five, illuminates the difference treatment and woo when it comes to sensory integration, and shares the role that a healthy sensory diet plays in self-regulation. 

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Jul 24, 2021
Changing the World One Brain at a Time with Jessica McCabe, Creator and Host of How to ADHD
55:23
Today, we’re talking to Jessica McCabe! 

Jessica is the creator and host of the “How to ADHD” YouTube Channel where she shares her toolbox of ADHD tips, techniques, information, and strategies to help us work with our brains rather than against them. 

This is an incredibly wide-ranging interview in which Jessica shares some of the lessons she’s learned while working on “How to ADHD”, and goes into her personal experiences with ADHD.  She talks about being surprised by just how much of her life was affected by ADHD, how ADHD traits can be a blessing and a curse, how to be successful without being neurotypical, navigating para-social relationships, the long-term impact of the core beliefs we develop about ourselves, making invisible challenges more visible, dealing with imposter syndrome.

 

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Jul 17, 2021
Lessons Learned During the Pandemic with Brendan Mahan Your Reflective Speaker
22:50

In today's episode, I reflect on the lessons I've learned during the ongoing COVID19 pandemic including (but not limited to) why focusing on connection is key, the importance of time alone how exhausting transitions can be, that if you want it to happen you have to MAKE it happen, and the fact that both kids and adults need to feel like they’re contributing, and accomplishing something.

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Jul 10, 2021
Focus at Will with Will Henshall, inventor, tech entrepreneur, and music producer with ADHD.
33:11
Today, we’re talking to Will Henshall.

Will is an inventor, tech entrepreneur, and music producer. He was the founding member of the band Londonbeat, whose hit song “I’ve Been Thinking About You” reached #1 on the Billboard charts in the early 90s.  His latest endeavor, Fous@Will is a science-based music streaming service designed to help people work more efficiently and reduce distractions. 

In this episode, Will talks about how music affects the brain.  We discuss why it can be used to reduce our anxiety and help us focus, how music affects the limbic system of our brain, and Will even shares a few non-musical productivity hacks toward the end of the show!

Alright, let’s get rolling.

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Jul 03, 2021
Burnout as it Relates to Parenting with Dr. B, Clinical Director at TakeThis.org.
52:43

Today, we’re talking to Dr. Raffael Boccamazzo, otherwise know as Dr.B.  Dr.B is the clinical director at TakeThis.org, an organization working to decrease the stigma and increase support for mental health in the game enthusiast community and inside the game industry.   

In this episode, Dr. B talks about the three characteristics of burnout, the difficulties of not being taught how to be neurodiverse in a neurotypical world, the six causes of burnout, and the importance of supporting our children’s independence.

 

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Jun 26, 2021
Effective Communication in a Neurodiverse World with Joe Butler Author and Autism / Neurodiverse Communication Consultant.
43:42
In this episode, we’re talking to Joe Butler. 

Joe is an autism and neurodiverse communication consultant, and co-author of “Is That Clear? Effective Communication in a Neurodiverse World”.

Joe shares effective strategies for communicating with our neurodiverse kids, spouses, co-workers, students and friends.  She talks to us about  pausing and pacing, the importance of connection when communicating, the nonsensical nature of our language around time, respecting other people’s priorities, and the challenges of figurative language.

 

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Jun 19, 2021
Integrating ADHD, Computer Science, and Patterns of Human Interaction with Andrea Goulet, Empathy Driven Software Developer and ADHD Mom
48:56

Today, we’re talking to my friend, Andrea Goulet.  Andrea is an author, an empathy driven software developer, and an ADHD mom.

In this episode, Andrea discusses the patterns of emotions and communication.  She talks about the value of recognizing what we say about ourselves, the limits of binary thinking, paying attention to messaging, and the importance of empathy.

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Jun 12, 2021
Holidays are Ruining Your Life
12:48
Today, it's your celebratory speaker, Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S.

  Holidays, especially religious holidays are intended as a break, and often as a time of reflection.  But they can also be unwelcome speed bumps in our week/month/year, if we aren't ready for them when they come.  So, we're looking at the calendar as a whole and exploring when some of of these holidays will occur, and how they can disrupt things if we fail to be mindful of them. 

 

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Jun 05, 2021
A Mother and Teacher Shares Her New Perspective on ADHD, with Erin, Middle School EnglishTeacher and ADHD Mom
40:46

Today, we’re talking to Erin.  Erin is a teacher, and an ADHD mom of two boys.  She’s also an alumna of the ADHD Essentials Parent Groups.

In this episode, Erin shares some of the lessons she’s learned along her ADHD journey.   She talks about how learning about herself and her imperfections made her a better teacher and parent, how being a teacher made her a better parent (and vice/versa), the importance of clear communication, and the things she loves about her ADHD kid.

 

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May 29, 2021
From the Vault: Nutrient Rich Boredom with James Garrett of Brian by Design.
46:35

Today, we revisit a conversation with James Garrett of Brain By Design.  James has been studying and teaching about the brain for over a decade. He’s passionate about turning this academic knowledge about the brain into practical tools that anyone can use.  And today, he’s doing it through the lens on ADHD!

In this episode, James discusses the four qualities of restorative activities, managing the pull of our of our phones, the important role rest plays in performance, and nutrient rich boredom.

 

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May 22, 2021
ADHD and Financial Literacy with Rick Webster of Rena-Fi
43:27

Today, we’re talking to Rick Webster.  Rick is the CEO and leader of Rena-Fi, a practical, research-based financial education platform.  He is also an ADHD Coach, and long-time associate of the ADHD organizations ADDA, and CHADD.  And he has ADHD.

In this episode, Rick talks to us about financial literacy.  We discuss the role emotion and The Wall of Awful plays in people’s financials, money as if relates to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, the importance of having a reservoir of savings for when problems arise, the power of doing good for others, ADHD meltdowns, and how automation allows overseeing which is better than doing.

 

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May 15, 2021
Reflecting on Pandemic Schooling with Mary Dibinga English Teacher and ADHD Mom
52:05

Today, we’re talking to Mary Dibinga, M.Ed.  Mary is a high school English teacher, and an ADHD parent.

In this episode, Mary reflects the effects COVID has had on her students and her teaching.  She discusses what being  a parent during COVID taught her about teaching, learning loss and huge leap forwards, why we should intentionally teach our kids how to face hard things, and the significant differences in the challenges faced by her students during the global pandemic.

 

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May 08, 2021
A Strengths-Finding Approach with Ilyse Greenberg
33:33
Today, we’re talking to Ilyse Greenberg. 

Ilyse is a strengths-based coach and expert in the use of the Clifton/Gallup Strengths-Finder Program.

In this episode, Ilyse talks to us about the power and importance of focusing on strengths.  She discusses the Clifton/Gallup Strengths-Finder Program, the importance of playing to our strengths and our kids’ strengths, identifying what our kids are good at and not letting what they aren’t good at get in the way, how to use a strengths approach to parenting to improve our family roles, why the overuse of our strengths might hold us up, and how discovering the Clifton/Gallup Strengths-Finder Program has changed her. 

 

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May 01, 2021
On Transitions and Video Games with Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S.Your Transitional Troubadour
10:04
Today, it's your host, Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S.

We're talking about transitions, as well as how video games can make them harder.  Specifically we look at transitions through two lenses - the physical/mental/emotional lens, and the into/out of lens.  I'm sure you'll find this episode useful!

 

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Apr 24, 2021
OCD Co-Morbid Friend of ADHD with Jeff Szymanski, PhD.
42:58
Today, we’re talking to Jeff Szymanski, Ph.D.

Jeff is the executive director of the International OCD Foundation, and author of The Perfectionist's Handbook. 

In this episode, Jeff tells us about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, a disorder that is com-morbid with ADHD.  Jeff talks about what OCD is and isn’t, what it’s like to live with the disorder, and methods of treatment - many of which are just great anxiety management and self-improvement strategies in general, including self-compassion, why facing adversity and confronting our fears is so important for all of us, and the power of doing hard things.

A brief disclaimer.  OCD can sometimes be accompanied by pretty grim thoughts that are diametrically opposed to the values of the person who has it.  We do spend a few minutes discussing what that might look like, so this episode is a bit darker than our norm.   I know some of you listen to the show as a family.  Please preview this one before listening to it with your kids.

 

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Apr 17, 2021
The Life Changing Effects of and ADHD Diagnosis with Hilary Stern, M.Ed., CALC of ADHD Advance.
35:45
Today, we’re talking to Hilary Stern, M.Ed., CALC.

Hilary is an ADHD mom, and an ADHD coach at ADHD Advance.

In this episode, Hilary talks to us about her work in education, how her son’s ADHD diagnosis changed things for her, seeing ADHD as an explanation rather than an excuse, the difference between intelligence and executive function, how her son’s ADHD diagnosis helped him understand himself better, and navigating big emotions.

 

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Apr 10, 2021
Falling Through the Cracks of a Disruptive and Disrupted Childhood with Palo, Dad with ADHD and Dyslexia
35:10
Today, we’re talking to Palo.

Palo is a dad with ADHD and dyslexia who basically grew up in a Mark Twain novel. 

In this episode, Palo shares his experiences growing up with ADHD.  He tells stories of being raised by hippies, living an unfettered childhood, getting kicked out of every school he attended, (including kindergarten for not pledging allegiance!), his love of history, frustration with English, how his past challenges affected him when his child started to struggle, and backtracking his wandering thoughts.    (Fair warning, there’s lots of tangents along the way!)

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Apr 03, 2021
Procrastination and the Nuanced Skills of Success with Leslie Josel of Order Out of Chaos
41:58
Today, we’re talking to Leslie Josel, of Order Out of Chaos. 

In addition to being an academic/life coach for teens and college students, Leslie is the creator of the award-winning  Academic Planner: A Tool for Time Management®, writes the weekly Dear ADHD Family Coach® column for ADDitude Magazine, and is the author of several books.

In this week’s episode, Leslie talks to us about her new book, and shares her thoughts on procrastination.  We discuss, the role skills deficits play in procrastination, the importance of choice and control, the trouble with “oh, by the ways” and “don’t forgets”, and why it’s important to allow space for forgiveness.

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Mar 27, 2021
The Wall of Awful with Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S., your Considerate and Compassionate Climbing Instructor
17:47
Today, it's your host, Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S.

Brendan finally shares his "Wall of Awful"model!  He discusses an overview of the model, and ways to get past it.

 

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Mar 20, 2021
Translating ADHD and Time with Shelly Collins, ADHD Coach & Co-Host of the Translating ADHD podcast
43:51
Today, we’re talking to Shelly Collins! 

Shelly is an ADHD coach, and, along with friend-of-the-show Cameron Gott, hosts of the Translating ADHD podcast.

In this week’s episode, Shelly talks about the relationship between ADHD and time.  She discusses why ADHDers don’t really procrastinate, the difference between big brain mode and fast brain mode, the time horizon, the importance of understanding the ADHD causes of our challenges, and ways to solve email drama.

 

 

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Mar 13, 2021
The Three Cs of Self-Talk with Brendan Mahan, Your Compassionate and Considerate Coach
10:23
Today, it's just your host, Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S.

In this week's quick and actionable episode, Brendan shares his thoughts on self-talk, walking us through his the Cs of self-talk model.

 

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Mar 06, 2021
ADHD Diversified with MJ!
25:19
It’s the 175th episode of ADHD Essentials! 

And to celebrate, I’m turning the show over to my friend MJ.  MJ was on two episodes back, and talked about her then upcoming show, ADHD Diversified. Well, ADHD Diversified is here, and I am honored to share her first episode with you.  It’s fantastic! 

In her premier episode,  MJ talks about why she started the podcast, the expectations and cultural norms that come with being visibly Asian, how those expectations don’t always allow for talking about weakness or struggles, and what it has meant for her to navigate undiagnosed ADHD while being grouped into a stereotype. 

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Feb 27, 2021
Teaching During COVID with Mrs. Melissa, 8th Grade English Teacher
30:46
In this week’s episode, we’re talking to my old friend, Mrs. Melissa, an 8th grade English teacher.

Melissa talks to us about the effects the COVID pandemic is having on schools.  Wed discuss the way it has changed school pacing, the heightened importance of technology and technology instruction, the positive changes she seeing, the areas of struggle for her students, the politics of educating during a pandemic, and why we should take time for ourselves.

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Feb 20, 2021
Growing Up An ADHD Asian Minority in Canada with MJ Siemens, host of the ADHD Diversified podcast
43:43
Today, we’re talking to MJ Siemens, host of the upcoming podcast, ADHD Diversified. 

In today’s episode, MJ shares her experiences growing up as a gifted Asian Canadian kid with undiagnosed ADHD.  She tells us about being caught in the push/pull clash of Asian culture and White culture and how having ADHD made it harder for her to meet the expectations of both, how her parents separation led to her dropping out of school in her senior year, and why academia isn’t the only road to success. 

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Feb 13, 2021
ADHD & Pregnancy with Dusty Chipura, ADHD Coach
34:29
Today, we’re talking to Dusty Chipura. 

Dusty is an ADHD Coach based in Vancouver, British Columbia.  She has a passion for helping people better understand their ADHD, and an interest in the effects pregnancy has on the ADHD experience.

In today’s episode, Dusty talks to us about just that – ADHD and pregnancy.  We discuss the importance of having a good care provider, the risk/benefit analysis of medication during pregnancy, post-partum executive function struggles, the role of ADHD understanding inn emotional stabilization, and the pregnancy bubble.

 

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Feb 06, 2021
Exercise as Part of the ADHD Treatment Plan with Gabriel Villarreal, LMHC
40:18
Today, we’re talking to Gabriel Villarreal, LMHC.

Gabriel is an ADHD coach, as well as a strength and conditioning coach, and the owner of Lost Boys Strength and Conditioning, and ADHD Counseling in the Roanoke Valley of Virginia.

In today’s episode, Gabriel talks to us about using exercise as part of our ADHD Treatment Plan.  We discuss how exercise affects the brain in ways that help us manage ADHD symptoms, the importance of having a plan, ways to get moving more during COVID, and giving kids more credit.

 

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Tuesday, February 2nd - The Time to Thrive Summit!!

Topic:  Improving Communication with Logic and Emotions

 

Friday, February 5th - Webinar for ADDitude

Topic: When Teen Stress Ignites Strong Emotions: Teaching Anger and Frustration Management

 

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Jan 30, 2021
Managing the Psychological Pain of the COVID Pandemic, with Todd Schmenk, LMHC.
48:46
Today, we’re talking to Todd Schmenk. 

Todd is a licensed mental health counselor, and the author of Team Positive.

In today’s episode, Todd talks to us about managing the psychological pain of the COVID pandemic.  Todd discusses the importance of accepting and riding out emotions, ways to understand our observing minds, how to develop psychological flexibility, the critical role that context plays in our experiences, and why getting clear on our values can help us during this challenging time.

 

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Tuesday, February 2nd - The Time to Thrive Summit!!

Topic:  Improving Communication with Logic and Emotions

 

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Topic: When Teen Stress Ignites Strong Emotions: Teaching Anger and Frustration Management

 

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Jan 23, 2021
ADHD, Planning a Job Hunt, and Why the Wrong Job Can Blow Up in Your Face with Shell Mendelson
28:24

Today, we’re talking to Shell Mendelson.  Shell is an ADHD and career counselor and coach with nearly 35 years of experience.

In Today’s Episode, Shell talks to us about job hunting, whether because you’ve lost a job due to COVID, or just because you’re looking to make a lateral move.  Shell tells us about informational interviewing, the importance of getting clear on what you want, why research and networking are so important, and why it’s critical to have a clear plan and a solid understanding of yourself when looking for a new job.

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Jan 16, 2021
Parenting When Events Gets Scary
09:30

In today's episode, I interrupt your regularly scheduled interview episode to share ways to manage ourselves, and our kids, when the events of the world become troubling and upsetting.    

 

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Jan 09, 2021
Planning for 2021 with Eric Tivers, Founder and host of ADHD reWired
40:34
Today, we’re talking to my friend, Eric Tivers. 

Eric is a licensed clinical social worker, coach, consultant and entrepreneur.  He is the founder of ADHD reWired which encompasses a podcast network, adult ADHD coaching groups, as well as an alumni support network for those groups. 

In Today’s Episode, Eric talks about how he plans his year.  We discuss how he uses theming to set his priorities, ways he segments his year to make things more manageable, the importance of anticipating a post-COVID pivot, and why its ok to leave some things on your to-do list. 

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Jan 02, 2021
ROUGH CUT! 2020 Year-In-Review with Brendan Mahan, Husband, Father, ADHD Coach, Entrepreneur, Survivor
43:25

As the title says, it's my personal reflection on 2020.  I'll let the show speak for itself in all its unedited glory!

Dec 26, 2020
Falling Off the Cliff of Perfectionism with Moira Maybin, ADHD Mom and Educator
34:34
Today, we’re talking to Moira Maybin. 

Moira is a mom, and an educator in British Columbia, Canada and she’ll be adding her show to the ADHD rewired Podcast Network in the coming months.

In Today’s Episode, Moira shares her story about literally falling off the cliff of perfectionism.  She talks about being driven as a kid in school, how her son and daughter both contributed to Moira realizing she had ADHD, the binocular vision disorder - vertical heterophoria, and how she learned to take care of herself, and let herself rest.

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Dec 19, 2020
ADHD, The Odysseus Strategy, and How Our Behavior Affects the Way We Think with AJ Jacobs, New York Times Bestselling Author
46:19
Today, we’re talking to AJ Jacobs. 

AJ Jacobs is an author, lecturer, and human guinea pig.  He’s written four New York Times bestsellers that combine memoir, science, humor, with a dash of self-help.  In addition to his books, he has written for The New York Times, Entertainment Weekly, New York Magazine, and Dental Economics – one of the top five magazines about the financial side of tooth care.  He has appeared on Oprah, The Today Show, Good Morning America, Conan, and The Colbert Report.

In today’s episode, AJ shares his journey as a writer, and dad with ADHD, and how his lifestyle experiments have affected both himself, and those around him.  AJ talks about how the way we behave can affect the way we think, the power of gratitude, as well as how his ADHD affects him, and the strategies he has developed to manage it, where he gets his ideas, and talking spoons.

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Dec 12, 2020
ADHD, College, and the Supports to Look For with Mary Jo Levand, Director of the Academic Support Center at Notre Dame College
32:00

Today, we’re talking to Mary Jo Levand.  Mary Jo is the director of the acadeic support center at Notre Dame College.

In Today’s Episode, Mary Jo talks with us about the kinds of supports available at the college level. We discuss the importance of personalized guidance, why kids pick the wrong majors, and some of the awesomes hiding in the awful of COVID19.

If you kid is younger, this episode will give you an idea of what to look for when college comes, and if they’re college age, hopefully it’ll help you and your kid navigate the challenges they’re facing now.

 

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Dec 05, 2020
Figuring Out Family Game Night with Stephen Duetzmann of Engaged Family Gaming
38:16

Today, we’re talking to Stephen Duetzmann, the founder of Engaged Family Gaming.  He has made it his mission to support parents who want to play games with their kids by providing them with the information they need to make the process of finding and exploring new video and board games as easy as possible. 

In Today’s Episode, Stephen talks about using video games and board games to engage with our families. We discuss whether or not video games are really a problem, how they can give our kids the opportunity to be experts at something, the over use of the word addiction, as well as using board games as an alternative for family connection.  Throughout, Stephen shares specific games we might try out, as well as possible pitfalls to avoid.  This one is excellent!

 

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Nov 28, 2020
On Swearing with Brendan Mahan, Your #&%$@%! Host
07:42

Today's Episode is a quick one on swearing.  How to talk to your kids about it, how to do it more effectively, and why it's such a valuable clue to how people around us are doing.  

 

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Nov 21, 2020
Anger, ACEs, Resilience, and Growth with Keith Gelhorn of ADDvocacy.
43:02

Today, we’re talking to Keith Gelhorn.  Keith is the founder and CEO of ADDvocacy, where he provides one on 0ne and group coaching & training for neurodiverse youth and adults struggling with Executive Function.

In Today’s Episode, Keith shares his story.  It is a story of filled with struggle, heartache, mental health challenges, and ultimately, growth and success. Keith uses his story to explore topics ranging from anger, to Adverse Childhood Experiences, trauma, and the power of resilience, personal development, ADHD Coaching, and asking for help.

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Nov 14, 2020
Rough Cut! Day 3 of the International Conference on ADHD
20:12

WELCOME BACK!!!!!  It's Day 3 of the Annual International Conference on ADHD. (Now, with Virtual Wonderment™!   The rough cut debriefs started last year, and now it's a tradition!  Each day, I grab someone to do a quick, unedited reflection on the conference.  Today, I grabbed four someones!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 07, 2020
Rough Cut! Day 2 of the International Conference on ADHD
19:46

It's Day 2 of the Annual International Conference on ADHD, and it's still virtual for 2020!  As you know, we're continuing the rough cut debriefs from last year!  Each day, I'll be grabbing someone to do a quick, unedited reflection on the conference.  Today, I grabbed four someones!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 07, 2020
Rough Cut! Day 1 of the International Conference on ADHD
32:41

The Annual International Conference on ADHD is virtual for 2020!  But we're still doing the rough cut debriefs!  Each day, I'll be grabbing someone to do a quick, unedited reflection on the conference.  Today, I grabbed three someones!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 06, 2020
The Effects of COVID19 on Schools with Dr. Noor Ali, Principal of Al Hamra Academy
51:35

Today, we’re talking to my friend, Dr. Noor Ali.  Noor is the principal of Al Hamra Academy, and an assistant professor at Worcester State University.

In Today’s Episode, we look at the effect COVID is having on schools, and how they’ve been planning around a crisis that no one could have been trained for, and trying to create the best-case educational scenario given the current circumstances.  Noor and I discuss the challenges of leading during a pandemic, such as managing the logistics of the crisis for teachers, parents, and students (including those with executive functioning challenges), while also being cognizant of the anxieties of everyone involved, and hopefully keeping a level head the whole time.

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Oct 31, 2020
ADHD Meets D&D -Using Dungeons & Dragons to Foster Family Connection with Dave and Ted from Nerdarchy
42:26

Today, we’re talking to Dave and Ted from Nerdarchy!  Dave and Ted are two dads with a passion for Dungeons and Dragons that have turned that passion in to a thriving website and YouTube channel.

In Today’s Episode, we talk about using Dungeons and Dragons and similar roleplaying games to create quality time with family.  Dave and Ted discuss how roleplaying games can help us bond as a family, how they can improve executive function and social skills, the best games to get younger kids started playing (It’s not D&D), why role playing games make great educational tools, and what to do if you don’t want to play, but think your kids would.

 

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Oct 24, 2020
Weird History, Curiosity, and Rocks with Veronica Ditko, mother and author of “A Rock Solid History of Hawthorne New Jersey”
32:42

Today, we’re talking my friend Veronica MacDonald Ditko, author of “A Rock Solid History of Hawthorne New Jersey”

In Today’s Episode, Veronica and I discuss the fascinating mysteries of history that can be found in our own backyard.  We talk about how watching her kids play in the park led her to get curious about the rocks in her town, and how that led to her learning about her town’s history.  We also discuss how we can use her experience to encourage our kids curiosity and find fascinating, family-friendly adventures to get us out of the house, and keep us entertained during the COVID-19 pandemic.

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Oct 17, 2020
SHRED Your ADHD, Exhaustion, and Burnout with Brendan Mahan, Your Mildly Motivated MC
12:43

Today, it’s just me, mainly because I’m burnt out and just don’t have enough bandwidth to edit another episode.  This COVID pandemic is lame.  So, in today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to S.H.R.E.D. your ADHD, exhaustion and burnout to improve your bandwidth so you can get more done.

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Oct 10, 2020
Networking, Legwork, and Earning Honorary Degrees with Diane McLean, M.Ed., ADHD Coach and mom of a son with special needs.
36:16

Today, we’re talking to Diane McLean.  After a 25 year career as an educator and school counselor, Diane is now an ADHD and executive function coach, and has committed herself to providing coaching services to help children, adolescents, and adults overcome executive functioning challenges, and acquire the skills and knowledge needed to experience success.

In Today’s Episode, Diane talks about being the mother of an adult son with special needs, and how she navigated the challenges that presented.  We discuss the power of networking and building a community, the importance of doing the leg work, some of the hard decisions she has had to make, and what she has learned from her son.

 

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Oct 03, 2020
Building Esteem, Managing ADHD, and Communicating with Your Kids' Support Team, with Dr. Tom Pedigo, co-founder of the Esteem app.
43:14

Today, we’re talking to Dr. Tom Pedigo.  Tom is a board certified medial psychologist specializing in ADHD., And he is a co-founder of the Esteem app.  Esteem is a free, busy parent, ADHD friendly app that helps parents better monitor their kid’s ADHD progress.

In Today’s Episode, Tom and I talk about the importance of communication when managing ADHD with the support of a medical team, typical conflict flashpoints at home, including a great tip for cleaning a room, and the Esteem app.  We discuss how Esteem helps parents communicate more effectively with their pediatricians and mental health clinicians about their child’s ADHD, gain insight into the needs of their children, and focus on specific areas of need with regard to their children.  And we also talk about the aspects of Esteem that make it easy to use.

 

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Sep 26, 2020
Discussing Differently Wired Kids with Debbie Reber of TiLT Parenting
37:36

Today, we’re talking to Debbie Reber.  Debbie is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who has been inspiring and sparking conversations for parents, women, and teens for twenty years. She has inspired tens of thousands of parents around the world through TiLT Parenting, her top podcast, community, and educational resource for parents raising, as Debbie calls them, “differently wired” kids. 

In Today’s Episode, Debbie and I talk about what got her into parent advocacy, her observations on parenting during COVID19, homeschooling and being flexible, why it’s important to realize that we’re not alone as parents of atypical children, avoiding getting caught up in our kids emotional storms, and the good stuff about parenting a differently wired kid. 

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Sep 19, 2020
The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ElaineTaylor-Klaus, PCC, CPCC, Author & Parent Coach
46:54

Today, we’re talking to Elaine Taylor-Klaus.  Elaine is a certified co- active coach, public speaker, educator, the cofounder of Sanity School, and Impact ADHD, and the author of The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids.   

In Today’s Episode, Elaine and I talk about how parents of complex kids are handling the pandemic, the importance of verbalizing the unspoken, and of course her new book.  We discuss the value of the book’s intentional, user-friendly design, the 6 areas of challenge parents face in raising their kids, the power of using a coach approach to raising our kids, and how to avoid taking things personally. 

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Sep 12, 2020
Back-to-School Social Skills with Caroline Maguire, PCC, M.Ed., Author and ADHD, Executive Function, & Social Skills Coach
56:31

Today, we’re talking to Caroline Maguire.  Caroline is the author of “Why Will No One Play With Me?”, and an expert in ADHD, Executive Function, and Social Skills.

In Today’s Episode, Caroline and I talk about the social challenges of COVID19.  We discuss the need for small social interactions, the importance of clear communication when planning to socialize with others, ways to strengthen social skills weakened by COVID, and why we need to collaborate more with our kids.

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Sep 05, 2020
Homeschooling Pods, the Complexity of Public Education, and the Importance of Reading Instruction, with Victoria Crisp, M.Ed, Educational Consultant
37:51
Today, we’re talking to Victoria Crisp, M.Ed. 

A former special education director, and founding head of student support at Bentley Academy in Salem, MA, Victoria is an educational consultant with a relentless passion for helping children and their families. 

In Today’s Episode, Victoria and I talk about the complexity of public education.  This one’s got a lot packed into it, folks!  We discuss the many facets and stakeholders involved in reopening schools during COVID, the many and varied expectations that we put on schools in order to address society’s ills, what Victoria does as an educational consultant, Home Schooling Pods, and why effective reading instruction is so important. 

 

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Aug 29, 2020
Doodling to Learn & Focus with Dani Donovan, ADHD Content Creator & Artist
38:15

Today, we’re talking to returning guest, Dani Donovan!  Dani is an artist who creates cathartic illustrations and a community of validation and solidarity for adults with ADHD!

In Today’s Episode, Dani and I discuss how we can harness the power of doodling to help us attend and learn while attending virtual meetings both for our kids at school, and for ourselves in our jobs.  But first, Dani tells us what it’s like to quit your job just before a global pandemic.  The ADHD abounds in this one, folks!

 

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Aug 22, 2020
ADHD & Rejection Sensitivity with David Nowell, PhD., Clinical Neuropsychologist, and ADHD Expert
47:52

Today, we’re talking to my friend, Dr. David Nowell.  Dr. Nowell is an ADHD expert, and clinical neuropsychologist who works with his clients to identify areas of cognitive strength and weakness and relate those patterns to known profiles of brain-behavior relationship. 

 

In Today’s Episode, David and I talk about the rejection sensitivity that so often accompanies ADHD.  We discuss what rejection sensitivity is, the controversy surrounding it, it’s relationship to The Wall of Awful, how social competency factors into rejection sensitivity, things we can learn from the therapeutic models of CBT and DBT, and the mom/friend override.

 

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Aug 15, 2020
Values, Decision Making, and the 2020-2021 School Year with Brendan Mahan, Your Values-Driven Visionary
08:48

Today, it's just me.  I haven't yet addressed the puzzle of the upcoming school year, and I feel like I should.  So that's what we're doing, even though I don't have a guest to do it with. It's not my place to tell you what to do here, but I can give you a tool for how to address the decision.

In this episode, I walk you through a decision-making approach I use that involves looking at the values which undergird an issue in order to figure out how best to address it.  In this case, the issue is how to approach the 2020-2021 school year for our children, but this approach can be used in lots of areas.

 

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Aug 07, 2020
A Prescription Video Game for ADHD? Yup. EndeavorRx with Eddie Martucci, Co-Founder and CEO of Akili Interactive
35:02

Today, we’re talking to Eddie Martucci.  Eddie is the Co-Founder & CEO of Akili Interactive, a digital medicine company.  That prescription video game for treating ADHD that you’ve been hearing about?  That’s the work of Eddie and Akili.

 

In Today’s Episode, we talk about Endeavor RX, the aforementioned prescription video game.  We discuss how it came about, the thinking that went into it, how it’s different from other video games, what it does, and doesn’t do, whether it works for adults, and whether or not it can be used by kids with video game addiction.

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Aug 01, 2020
Revisiting Perfectionism with Brendan Mahan, your Imperfect Impresario
06:48

Today, it's just me.  We're revisiting perfectionism, because the last episode clearly resonated with a lot of you, and I got a good amount of feedback and questions about it.  

 

We're talking about the roles that inconsistency, judging ourselves based on our best performance, and asynchronous development play in the perfectionism of folks with ADHD, as well as ways to address it!

 

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Jul 25, 2020
Cutting Out Perfect with Denise Roadman, Middle School Wellness Teacher
36:03

Today, we’re talking to my friend, Denise Roadman.  Denise is a middle school wellness teacher who helps her students better manage their stress, and cut out their perfectionism. 

In Today’s Episode, Denise and I discuss the causes, and detrimental effects of perfectionism (and ways to reduce it), stress management techniques, why you should train your mind like a horse, and the effects of social media on our kids and ourselves.

 

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Jul 18, 2020
Developing Family Resilience During Challenging Times with Juliana Chen, M.D. and Tai Katzenstein, Ph.D.
41:22

Today, we’re talking to Juliana Chen and Tai Katzenstein. 

Juliana is a child and adolescent psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) and Newton-Wellesley Hospital (NWH), and a part-time clinical instructor at Harvard Medical School. 

Tai is also a clinical psychologist at Newton Wellesley Hospital (NWH), and the former Director of Certification at Think:Kids at Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH).  Together, they serve as co-directors of The Resilience Project Parents Program, an innovative community outreach program based out of Newton-Wellesley Hospital. 

In Today’s Episode, Tai, Julianna and I discuss ways to develop the skill of resilience, how to ask our kids better questions, the importance of unconditional love, the challenges of checking-in, and Parental Self-care.

 

 

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Jul 11, 2020
Building Executive Function Skills During a Summer of Social Distancing with Seth Perler, Executive Function and 2E Coach
42:32

Today, we’re talking to Seth Perler. In fact, this episode was also shared on Seth’s YouTube vlog!  Seth is an executive function and 2e coach who works tirelessly to help outside-the-box kids succeed.

In Today’s Episode, Seth and I discuss trauma, self-compassion, building our kids’  Executive Function skills during the summer, and the opportunity cost of screen time.

 

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Jul 04, 2020
Managing Defensiveness and Other Pitfalls in ADHD/Non-ADHD Relationships with Joyce Kubik and Robin Nordmeyer, ADHD Coaches
37:11

Today, we’re talking to Joyce Kubik and Robin Nordmeyer.  Joyce and Robin are ADHD coaches who have created a program to help ADHD/nonADHD couples better manage their relationships.

In Today’s Episode, Joyce, Robin and I discuss managing blame, excuses, and defensiveness in relationships, the importance of being able to slow down & pause, improving our communication, and how couples can support each other.

 

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Jun 27, 2020
Discussing ADHD & Autism with Sarah Chayette, MD, Pediatric Neurologist, & Author
37:24

Today, we’re talking to Sarah Chayette.  Sarah is a pediatric neurologist, and an expert in both ADHD and Autism.  She is the co-author of two books on ADHD, and her blog 1-2-3 ADHD is featured in Psychology Today.

 

In Today’s Episode, Sarah and I discuss ADHD and the nervous system.  And then shift into the intersection of ADHD and Autism.  We talk about their similarities and differences, the challenges with diagnosis, why kids with ADHD and autism might both miss social cues, but miss them for different reasons, the roles anxiety and sensory challenges play in both disorders, and why symptoms matter more than diagnosis.

 

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Jun 20, 2020
Ideas for a Mostly at Home Summer of 2020 with Brendan Mahan, Your Social-Distancing Summer Savant
17:25

In this week's episode, I share ideas for managing the Summer of 2020 - one that, for many of us, is likely to be mostly at home, for both us and our kids.

I talk about the importance of prioritizing and communicating with our kids, helping the set goals for the summer,  and then planning the summer around the things they want to learn, make and do.  I also break summer ideas down into 7 categories, and share how I will be addressing each to get your brains going!  

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• Their Goals • Projects • Physical Activity • Time Outside • Social/Connection Time • Rainy Day Activities • ADVENTURE!
Jun 14, 2020
COVID19, Protests, and Black Lived Experience in Brooklyn, NY with Romanza McAllister, Psychotherapist, ADHD Coach and ADDA Board Member
42:31

Today, we’re talking to Romanza McAllister.  is a Psychotherapist and ADHD Coach in Brooklyn NY.  She works with Adult who have ADHD.  Her work centers on racial identity, codependency, and acceptance of the ADHD diagnosis. She serves on the board of the Attention Deficit Disorder Association, and leads their African American /Black Diaspora + ADHD Virtual Peer Support Group. 

In Today’s Episode, Romanza shares with us the challenges that black Americans who have ADHD face in our culture.  We discuss the ways COVID19 and civil unrest are affecting her daily life in Brooklyn, New York, the reality of police interactions for Black Americans and how having ADHD affects them, shared trauma, nonviolent ways to resist systemic racism, and who gets to have ADHD.

This episode was challenging for me as an interviewer.  My first question is awful.  It framed things well enough, but I should have phrased it better.  Also, I if I could do it again, I would talk less and listen more. 

I imagine this episode may be challenging for some listeners of this show.  It’s not the first time we’ve talked about race and racism ion this show, but I’ve never covered it when things were as charged as they are right now, following the death of George Floyd. I hope you find meaning in it.

 

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Jun 06, 2020
Becoming Emotional Scientists with Chandler Creedon, Retired School Psychologist and Professor at Framingham State University
40:53

Today, we’re talking to Chandler Creedon.  Chandler is a retired school psychologist, a former professor of mine, and a returning guest! 

In Today’s Episode, Chandler and I talk about teaching our kids at home, using uniforms to set roles, creating vs. consuming, and being emotional scientists.

 

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May 30, 2020
The Power of Cooperative Games and Reducing Variables with Bruce Sabian, M.A., LMHC of Academy MetroWest
29:03

Today, we’re talking to Bruce Sabian, M.A., LMHC.  Bruce is the co-founder, owner, director, and clinical supervisor of Academy MetroWest in Natick, Massachusetts. The Academy MetroWest team runs weekly social skills groups, and Bruce, himself, provides individual counseling and executive functioning coaching services to children, adolescents, and young adults.  

In Today’s Episode, Bruce and I talk about how his usual hands-on, in person work at Academy Metro West has changed since things went virtual, and the ways he and his staff are supporting the kids they work with.  We discuss how reducing competition can make it easier for kids to receive feedback, the power of cooperative games and where to find them online, why virtual schooling has made things easier  for some kids by reducing variables, and the challenges of changing family dynamics.

 

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May 23, 2020
The ADHD Experience & the African American Experience with Inger Colzie. Social Worker, and ADHD Mom of an ADHD kid
36:19

Today, we’re talking to Inger Colzie MSW, LSW of Alchemy Coaching and Counseling Inger is an ADHD coach, as well as an ADHD mom of an ADHD kid. She brings her 15 years of expertise as a psychotherapist to her work with individuals, families and organizations to help them experience deeper connection, community, and authentic communication. 

In Today’s Episode, Inger and I discuss ADHD and the African American experience.  We discuss the cultural challenges to mental health support for black Americans, wearing a mask of normalcy as an ADHD person, code switching, and Inger shares what it’s like to be a parent with ADHD of a child with ADHD.

 

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May 16, 2020
Out of Loss Can Come Gain Post Traumatic Growth in a Time of Crisis with Richard Tedeschi, Ph.D., Distinguished Chair of Boulder Crest Institute for Posttraumatic Growth, Bluemont, VA
42:08

Today, we’re talking to Richard Tedeschi.  Richard originated the concept of posttraumatic growth with his colleague Lawrence Calhoun during their years at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. More recently, he has been applying the posttraumatic growth concept in the development of innovative programs for combat veterans and first responders. The success of which is leading to their implementation at a number of venues across the country. His new book about the growth experiences of military families is Transformed by Trauma: Stories of Posttraumatic Growth (2020).

In Today’s Episode, Dr. Tedeschi talks to us about trauma, PTSD, and Post traumatic growth as it relates to the COVID-19 pandemic.  We discuss how getting clear on our beliefs can help us more effectively navigate this crisis, the importance of taking action for our mental health - especially actions that help others, and how parents can help their kids better handle difficult and challenging times.

 

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May 09, 2020
Mindfulness, and a Teacher’s View of Distance Learning with Stephanie Letourneau, 3rd grade teacher
40:27

Today, we’re talking to Stephanie Letourneau.  Stephanie is a 3rd grade teacher, and a return guest, though it’s been a while!  She was on about two years ago, in the early days of the pod to talk about how she was adding mindfulness to her classroom curriculum. 

In Today’s Episode, we talk about distance learning from the teacher perspective, how her continued use of mindfulness in her virtual classroom is helping her students and their parents, and how the current COVID crisis is shining a light on inequities in our education system.

 

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May 02, 2020
An ADHD Adult Who Pursued His Childhood Passions to NASA, with Chris, ADHD Adult and NASA Problem-Solver
43:22

I met him at the International Conference on ADHD last year, and was struck by his passion and intelligence.  When he told me he worked at NASA, I knew I had to get him on the show. In today's episode, Chris tells us about his journey from grocery store clerk to NASA employee.  Along the way, we dig into his passion for STEM, the importance of supporting our kids' passions, and the power of a wide and varied skillset!

 

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Apr 24, 2020
ADHD & Money with Alicia, ADHD Mom of ADHD Kids
26:41

Today, we’re talking to Alicia.  Alicia is an ADHD mom of ADHD kids, and a member of the ADHD Essentials Facebook Community.  

In Today’s Episode, Alicia shares her story with us.  She talks about her initial misdiagnosis, and how things have changed since receiving a new diagnosis of ADHD.  She also shares how having ADHD has affected her finances, and the strategies she’s used to get them back on track.

 

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Apr 17, 2020
The ADHD Effect on Marriage Relationships with Melissa Orlov, ADHD Expert, Marriage Consultant, and Author
33:42

Today, we’re talking to Melissa Orlov.  Melissa is a marriage consultant, specializing in helping ADHD-affected couples rebalance their relationships. She is a cum laude graduate of Harvard College and an award winning author of The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD.

In Today’s Episode, Melissa and I talk about ADHD in family relationships.  We discuss how status within the relationship affects ADHD marriages, why the parent-child dynamic doesn’t work, why it happens, and how to get out of it.  We also discuss Melissa’s three legged conceptual model for ADHD treatment, the power of verbal cues and silos, ADHD as a reward deficiency syndrome  - meaning punishment just isn’t an effective way to parent our kids, and why knowledge is power when it comes to ADHD.

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Apr 10, 2020
Mindful Over Matter: How to Power Up Your Kid’s Brain, with Alan Brown, the ADD Crusher
31:42

Today, we’re talking to my friend Alan Brown.  Alan is an entrepreneur, former marketing executive, and president of Crusher Solutions where he creates the ADD Crusher videos, tools, and Crusher TV.  He’s also created a guide called “Stop Making Your ADD Worse”, which can be found on www.addcrusher.com.

In Today’s Episode, Alan and I talk about taking care of our brains and ways to do it - how visual clutter impacts us, the importance of paying attention to what we are paying attention to, and why simple carbs, though tasty and comforting, are not a good plan.  We also talk tools we provide kids to manage their emotions.

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Apr 03, 2020
COVID Q&A with ADHD Coaches Lollie Weeks and Kyra Todd
53:22

Today's episode features Lollie Weeks of Fast Brain Coaching and Kyra Todd of Northern Virginia Coaching Solutions.  Lollie and Kyra joined me for an impromptu Q&A to help us better manage the challenges that COVID-19, learning and working from home are causing for families.  I hope you find it useful. 

 

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Apr 02, 2020
Creativity and Confidence Born of Big Passions and Small Wins with Roxanne Jarrett, Educator, Artist, Creativity Coach, and Mom with ADHD.
37:19

As promised, as normal episode.  :)

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Roxanne Jarrett.  Roxanne is a coach, educator, multi-disciplined artist, and mother with ADHD. Who believes that consistent creativity can be a powerful affirmation of our own unique contributions to the world, and evidence of our self-worth. Her mission is to help people build and maintain feelings of self-value through creative accomplishments. 

Today, Roxanne and I talk about the benefits of understanding the needs of the people we are caring for, why  we should push our kids in the directions of their passions (even when it’s hard), how short-term goals fuel our pursuit of long-term goals, why putting our adult ambitions on our kids is inappropriate, and the power of theater arts.

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Mar 27, 2020
An Overview of COVID-19 with Dr. Carolyn Lentzsch-Parcells, Pediatrician.
39:03

Dr. Carolyn Lentzsch-Parecalls is a pediatrician based in Texas who is confronting COVID-19 full on in her practice.   She's one of the most intelligent, driven, and determined people I know.  So, I was overjoyed when I found out she wanted to come on the show to talk about the virus and its fallout.

In today’s episode, Dr. Lentzsch-Parecalls gives us an overview of the COVID-19 Pandemic.  We discuss where to get reliable information, why social/physical distancing matters, way to maintain support for your mental health (including medication), maintaining our social relationships, the impact of the virus on our medical infrastructure, and medical community, and a lot more.  It's a fairly quick episode, but it's packed with ideas and information. P.S.  The promised Q&A will likely post this weekend, so there's still time to get questions to me.  Send them to:  brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

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Mar 26, 2020
Thoughts on Self-Care During COVID-19
08:43

What's Up Team!?!

There are a lot of different ideas in my head.  Lots of topics to address.  My skill set, professional experience, and educational background make me uniquely qualified to handle some of the problems we’re facing right now in the shadow of COVID-19.  Obviously, I’m not a doctor, but the challenges around maintaining our mental health, homeschooling, working from home and parenting during this time?  Those I can handle. I think the most important place to start, though, is to remind all of us (me included) that self-care matters. Take the time to care for yourself and your family.  That matters more than school, or work, or cleaning out your closets.

  • Watch an extra episode of your favorite TV show together.
  • Go for a walk.
  • Call a friend. (Or Skype with them!)
  • Eat the cookie.

 

Also, set healthy boundaries around your social media and news consumption.  It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all the information available to us.  Especially because we’re at home, with easy access to it, and little pressure to avoid the rabbit holes. 

  • Limit how much time you spend on social media
  • Remember that when you are on there, you’re seeing other people’s highlight reels. Don't compare other people’s highlight reels to your blooper reel.  They have a blooper reel, too.  It’s just not on Facebook.  (And it’s definitely not in Instagram!) That post your friend shared about the amazing project their kids did this week?  It didn’t happen.  Not like you think.  Those kids got a ton of help, and mom’s fried because of it.  She’s as burnt out as you are.  You just can’t tell because she keep smiling in all the pictures.
  • Also, remember that the news is for profit. It’s designed to get ratings. And the best way to keep you watching is to elicit strong emotions.  Fear, anger, concern, that sort thing.  Those emotions aren’t helping you.  Turn off the news, and be targeted in your consumption.  Pick a few reliable, well-established news outlets, like NPR, the Associated Press, the Wall Street Journal, or the New York Times, and visit their sites once or twice a day at most to get updates.  Don’t overwhelm yourself with constant monitoring.

 

And speaking of boundaries, set some for you expectations of yourself and your kids, too.  Your kids are just as anxious as you are, if not more so.  That means they’re going to make mistakes, and get frustrated and sad, and angry.  Don’t take it personally, but help them bounce back.  And frame social distancing so they know it’s not a time to be scared.  Social distancing right now is like looking both ways before you cross the street.  We don’t do it because we’re scared, we do it because it’s a strategy to keep us safe.  As for yourself, set reasonable expectations.  You’re not going to do all the things you think you’re going to do.  You don’t need to be all things to all people.  You don’t have to be a great spouse, and a great friend, and a great parent, and a great homeschool teacher, and a great housekeeper. Allow yourself to be thoroughly ok at some of them, the important ones, and crappy at the rest.  Support those who need it if you can, but pace yourself to keep some gas in your tank. 

If I’m honest, this is a lesson I’ve had to learn over the last few days.  Because I know ways to navigate this situation, I feel very much like I should be helping everyone else.  And because it feels urgent, I want to help everyone RIGHT NOW!  I want to post a podcast episode every day, and start a YouTube channel to share tips and strategies that I know will help.  But to do that, I would have to ignore my own family.  I just can’t drop the ball on my kids to help everyone else with theirs, and then claim I know how to be a good parent.  I have to prioritize the important over the urgent.  So, here’s how I’m going to do that.  I’m wrapping this episode here.  But I will post at least twice next week – somewhere in the middle of the week, I will post a COVID-19 tip show for those who want the help.  And on Friday, I will post an interview episode like usual for those that want a break from all this. If you’re anything like many of the folks I’ve been in contact with, you probably fall into both of those groups.  If there’s anything specific about maintaining our mental health, homeschooling, working from home, or parenting during this time you want me to address, send an email to Brendan@ADHDessentials.com, and I’ll address your concern on the mid-week show.

 That said, this is going to pass.  Things will be okay.  Take care of yourselves, and each other.  And give yourselves and each other the grace to make mistakes, feel uncertain, and be not-quite-good enough.  That’s where ADHD lives, after all.  Our comfort in that space might just help us navigate this uncertain time more effectively than others. Again, email me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com if you have any questions you want me to address in the mid-week show.  I’m here to help.   I love you all, I believe in you.  We can handle this.  Together.

Mar 20, 2020
COVID-19 & What to Do When You and Your Kids are Stuck in the House with Dr. Sharon Saline, Clinical Psychologist and ADHD Expert
41:50

Today's episode starts with my thoughts about COVID-19, and how to respond to it.  (Like ordering a bidet!)  I hope you find them useful, and maybe even a little reassuring. After that, we’re talking to my friend, Dr. Sharon Saline.  Dr. Saline is a licensed, clinical psychologist specializing in ADHD, and the author of “What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew”.

In today’s episode, Sharon and I are talking about what to do when your kids are cooped up at home.  We did the interview through the lens of a snow day, but it works for quarantine and social distancing, too!  There’s a lot of really good information and ideas in here.  I hope you enjoy it, and I hope you’re able to navigate the current pandemic with as much ease and grace as possible.

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Mar 13, 2020
The Benefits and Pitfalls of Technology and ADHD with Brittany Smith of Devise and Conquer
39:45

Today, we’re talking to Brittany Smith of Devise and Conquer!  Brittany is a cognitive neuroscientist, coach, and computer enthusiast. She specializes in helping people get their work done: better, more efficiently, and more enjoyably.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about the pitfalls and benefits of smartphones for people with ADHD.  We look at ways to determine what your goals are for your smartphone, managing notifications to increase our available willpower, the importance of turning off autoplay, the affect social media can have on our mood, and best practices for setting up your phone.

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Mar 06, 2020
How to Play with Your Kid with Megan Vandersluys, Play Therapist
41:50

Today, we’re talking to Megan Vandersluys.  Megan is a therapist with over a decade of experience, who specializes in play therapy services for children, as well as providing support for their parents.  

In today’s episode, we’re talking about Play Therapy, and how to more effectively play with our kids. Megan discusses how video games factor into play therapy, the importance of “getting back into our bodies”, co-regulation and modeling through verbal awareness, and how to enter the child’s world.

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Feb 28, 2020
Two Good Things One Thing You Would Change If You Could at Disney, with Brendan Mahan Your Traveling Talker
13:35

In today's episode, I share an exercise called "Two Good Things, One Thing You'd Change if You Could" that can be used for debriefing family adventures, events, and vacations.  

During the episode, I share some reflections on my family's recent once-in-a-lifetime Disney vacation, as well as the tale of my stolen $200.

 

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Feb 21, 2020
Bids and Turning Towards with Dr. Don Cole, Clinical Director for The Gottman Institute
40:16

Today, we’re talking to Dr. Don Cole.  Dr. Cole is the Clinical Director for The Gottman Institute, a Certified Gottman Method Couples’ Therapist and a Master Trainer for the Gottman Institute. He is also a Clinical Member of the American Association of Marital and Family Therapists.

In today’s episode, Dr. Cole talks to us about how we can improve the quality of our relationships by responding effectively to bids for connection, and turning towards the people we care about.

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Feb 14, 2020
Guarding Your Yes with René Brooks of Black Girl, Lost Keys
26:49

Today, we’re talking to René Brooks of Black Girl Lost Keys.

Diagnosed with ADHD on three separate occasions, René is a friend of the pod, and a friend of mine, who has made it her mission to uplift others with ADHD. 

In today’s episode, René shares with us her new mantra (and her new workbook), “Guard Your Yes”.  We talk about the interplay between values and boundaries, the roles people pleasing and ADHD play in causing us to overtax ourselves, why would should expect both push back and a new sense of self-respect when we start guarding our yes.

 

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Feb 07, 2020
Safety and Peace of Mind Through Structure, with Mike, former Marine and ADHD dad
35:35

Like so many of my recent guests, I met Mike, a former Marine and recently diagnosed single dad with ADHD, at the International Conference on ADHD last November.  It was great to reconnect with him during the course of this interview, and get to know him a little better.

In today’s episode, Mike talks about how his military training has reframed his perspective on accomplishments, giving ourselves more credit, why we should let our kids make small mistakes, and the importance of self-care, and self-compassion.

 

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Jan 31, 2020
Learn the Reasons for Our Kids Behavior by Underreacting, with Michelle, ADHD mom and School Librarian
31:44

Today, we’re talking to Michelle.  Michelle is an ADHD mom, as well as a school librarian.  She’s also an alumn of the ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups.

In today’s episode, Michelle talks about how learning about her son’s ADHD helped her better understand the kids in her library (and vice versa), the tips and tricks she's learned for helping her son navigate his day (locker included!), and the power of under-reacting.  She also talks about her experience as part of the ADHD Essentials Parent Groups - why she was hesitant to sign-up for a summer session, and why is was worth all the time and money she spent on it!

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Jan 24, 2020
Self-Regulation with Jeff Copper, ADHD & Attention Coach, Host of Attention Talk Radio, and ADHD Dad
46:28

I really enjoyed talking to Jeff Copper, PCC, PCAC, MBA for today's episode.  

Jeff is an ADHD and attention coach, and the founder of the DIG coaching practice.  He’s also the host of Attention Talk Radio, and a father affected by ADHD.  He helps his clients move past obstacles by intentionally managing attention to achieve what is possible.

In today’s episode, Jeff and I talk about emotional regulation through the lenses of mindset, lying, noticing successes, and the importance of manners.  Throughout, Jeff our conversation, Jeff shares words of wisdom he has learned from life experience, interviewing guests on Attention Talk radio, and of course, his mom.

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Jan 17, 2020
Finding the Gifts in ADHD with Dr. Carolyn Lentzsch-Parecalls, Pediatrician and Mom with ADHD
40:56

It is an absolute pleasure to have my friend, Dr. Carolyn Lentzsch-Parecalls on the show this week.  Carolyn and I met at the very end of 2018 International Conference on ADHD, but connected immediately.  So when we got to reconnect during the 2019 conference, I couldn't wait to have her on the show! 

Carolyn is a pediatrician based in Texas, and a mother with ADHD.  She speaks to parent, student, and professional audiences on subjects including parenting, ADHD, depression, anxiety, adolescent development, and preparing for college. 

In today’s episode, Carolyn shares her personal story about navigating school, balancing her career with her growing family and doing it all with ADHD.  We discuss the power of accommodations, feeling like you’re not parenting at the level you’re supposed to, prioritizing our choices based on wants, needs, and values, and the importance of looking at the positive side of ADHD.

 

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Jan 10, 2020
Enraging Swim Lessons, Incredible Videos, and Competitive First Aid with Laura The ADHD Mama
40:11

What's up, Team!?!

We're jumping in to 202 by talking to Laura, the ADHD Mama!  And I couldn't be more excited about it!

While researching ADHD for herself and her daughter, Laura decided to start recording her experiences with ADHD.  Since then, her videos have helped people all over the world come up with new ways of dealing with ADHD in themselves and their loved ones.

In today’s episode, we talk about respecting the way ADHD presents in ourselves and our children, the invisible nature of the disorder, the power of knowing you’re not alone.

 

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Jan 03, 2020
Improving Our Kids’ Mindsets, Trying Differently Not Harder, and Celebrating Small Wins, with Carrie Herzberger
35:10

Today, we’re talking to Carrie Herzberger. Carrie is a coach who helps kids  and teens with ADHD and anxiety get unstuck, and develop the skills, mindsets and confidence they need to meet with success.  Her goal is to help kids achieve in school, but also stand out, in their own way, outside of school.

In today’s episode, Carrie and I talk about helping our kids embrace little wins to build their confidence, how to try different rather than harder, and the importance of mindset shifts in the pursuit of success.

 

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Dec 27, 2019
From ADHD Kid to ADHD mom & ADHD Coach, with Lollie Weeks of Fast Brain Coaching
54:28

 

Today, we’re talking to my friend, Lollie Weeks of Fast Brain Coaching.

Lollie is a wife, mother and business owner with ADHD, parenting two boys with ADHD, and she’s driven to help students, families, and adults navigate the ADHD superhighway!

In today’s episode, Lollie shares her experiences as kid, mom, and coach with ADHD.  We talk about empathic time travel, the power of fierce moms, why kids ruin sandboxes, the nature of ADHD coaching, and celebrating progress no matter how small.

NOTE:  This episode may sound a little different to you. It was recorded live at the Commonwealth Learning Center in Needham, MA.  As a result, there are some audio artifacts and background noises that don’t typically appear on my episodes, but I think it feels a bit more intimate, too.

I hope you enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed recording it!  Please let me know what you think about this experiment in live recording by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com. Special Thanks to Jeffrey Gordon of Ideal Video Strategies for his support on this project!

 

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Dec 20, 2019
Hacking the ADHD Toddler in Your Head, with Will Curb of Hacking Your ADHD
31:36

Today, we’re talking to Will Curb. Will is a dad, host of the Hacking Your ADHD podcast, and the proud owner of an ADHD brain.

In today’s episode, we discuss depression and perfectionism, inventorying the past year, allowing our ADHD struggles to inform our compassion for our kids, gaining from failure, and managing an Ultimate Frisbee Team (which is almost certainly one of the most ADHD jobs ever).

 

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Dec 13, 2019
Why Will No One Play With Me with Caroline Maguire, Author and ADHD & Social Skills Expert
41:59

Today, we’re talking to Caroline Maguire.

Caroline is an ADHD and Social Skills expert who has written a book called “Why Will No One Play With Me?”  It’s about helping our kids develop friendships and navigate the waters of social interaction.  It is filled with great information, and practical tips.  Otherwise, I wouldn’t be endorsing it.

 In today’s episode, Caroline and I discuss the ideas and strategies in her book.  We talk about the role of executive function &  direct instruction play in developing social skills, what it means to “read the room” and why it’s important, the problematic stories we tell ourselves, and the spectrum of silly.

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Dec 06, 2019
ADHD, Perfectionism, Parenting, and Motivation with Emily Kircher-Morris of the Mind Matters Podcast, Licensed Professional Counselor and ADHD Mom
52:49

Today, we’re talking to Emily Kirscher Morris of the Mind Matters Podcast.

Emily is a mom with ADHD, who is has kids with ADHD, and is married to a husband with ADHD, as well as a mental health counselor who is motivated to help gifted and talented kids with the social emotional challenges the face. 

In today’s episode, we talk about Emily’s journey from teacher to mental health counselor, making educational decisions for our kids, reframing our expectations to help us accept our flaws and navigate perfectionism, and the importance of taking a strength-based approach to our kids, process over product, and a deep dive on motivation.

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Nov 29, 2019
ADHD & Holiday Expectations with Cindy Jobs, Professional Organizer and Coach
48:41

Today, we’re talking to Cindy Jobs.

Cindy is an expert in the field of organization, and an Associate Certified Coach.  She helps people with ADHD simplify their lives through education, structure, and support. 

In today’s episode, we talk about setting reasonable expectations around the holidays, the importance of clear, honest, early, and open communication, managing the various holiday pressure cookers, and using traditions to foster connection.

 

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Nov 22, 2019
ADHD After Dark with Dr. Ari Tuckman. Psychologist in Clinical Practice Specializing in ADHD, Certified Sex Therapist, and Author of ADHD After Dark.
45:14

Today, we’re talking to Dr. Ari Tuckman.

Ari is a friend of the pod, and a psychologist in private practice, specializing in diagnosing and treating children, teens, and adults with ADHD, anxiety, and depression. He has appeared on CNN, NPR, and, as you may recall, this pod! He’s also an author, and has written a pioneering book called “ADHD After Dark” that is based on a study he conducted exploring the impact of ADHD on a couple’s sex life and relationship.

In today’s episode, Ari and I start by talking about what makes a good scientific study (both to bore your kids in case you don't want them listening to the sex episode, and also to increase our scientific literacy). 

Then, we discuss the things we can do to improve our marital relationships, how having kids amplifies what’s already present - especially marital tension, how generosity outside of the bedroom can lead to generosity inside of the bedroom (and vice versa), and lots of other things related to ADHD and sex.

 

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Nov 15, 2019
Rough Cut! Day 3 of the 2019 Annual International Conference on ADHD
27:42

It's Day 3 of the 2019 Annual International Conference on ADHD!  I've got seven of my friends with me to debrief the events of the day!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 10, 2019
Rough Cut! Day 2 of the 2019 Annual International Conference on ADHD
22:50

It's Day 2 of the 2019 Annual International Conference on ADHD!  I've got seven of my friends with me to debrief the events of the day!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 09, 2019
Rough Cut! Day 1 of the 2019 Annual International Conference on ADHD
12:06

I'm at the 2019 Annual International Conference on ADHD!  Each day, I'll be grabbing someone to do a quick, unedited reflection on the conference.  Today, I grabbed five someones!  Check it out!

 

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Nov 08, 2019
Celebrating 100 Episodes by Interviewing the Interviewer with Cameron Gott (Part I), and Nathan and Gavin Mahan (Part II)
01:08:58

SPECIAL DOUBLE-SIZED 100th EPISODE!

Today, we’re talking to me!  A while back, my friend Cameron Gott shared an interesting idea with me for the 100th Episode of the ADHD Essentials Podcast.  He wanted to flip the script, and interview me about what I learned over the course of doing 100 episodes.  Then, the boys, Nathan and Gavin, found out about it, got all excited for the 100th episode, and said they wanted to get in on the fun, too.  

So, in today’s episode, we have a double shot of interviews. First, Cameron interviews me about my journey to 100 episodes, and then in a flip of episode 96, my kids interview me about the things I do, and what it’s like to be in our family.  The two interviews are separated by a celebratory blast from a noisemaker!  (It was the boys' idea, I swear.)

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Nov 01, 2019
BONUS EPISODE: The State of the Pod, and Fear in Parenting. with Brendan Mahan, your humble host.
12:36

NOTE:  THE AUDIO ON THIS EPISODE DOESN'T SEEM TO WORK.  I'M TRYING TO GET IT FIXED. Today, it's just me.  With an eye toward the future, I give you an update on episode 100 (which drops tomorrow), and beyond!  Then I share some thoughts on fear and parenting as it relates to the judgement of others, and what "They" think.  I hope you enjoy it.

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Oct 31, 2019
Managing Our Parental Mindset with Penny Williams of Parenting ADHD and Autism. ADHD Expert, Author and Mother.
45:43

Today, we’re talking to Penny Williams of Parenting ADHD and Autism.  Penny is a luminary in the field of ADHD and Autism.  Her son’s ADHD diagnosis sent her on a journey from needing help to providing it.  She’s written four award-winning books on the subject, and offers services like mom retreats, and coaching for parents in need.  It was an pleasure to talk to her, and I’m very glad we’ve connected.

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In today’s episode, we talk about Penny’s journey as the mom of an ADHD son, the importance of parent mindset and how it can affect the emotional well-being of our homes, gaps between ability and output, and being a survivor.

 

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Oct 25, 2019
Keeping Things Simple and Being Open to Change with Lysa Miller, Business Owner and Mom with ADHD
35:44

Today, we’re talking to my friend, Lysa Miller.  Lysa is amazing.  She’s a single mom with ADHD of kids with ADHD.  She has started and runs multiple businesses, including 3 Media Web, the company responsible for my website, and a women’s networking group in Central Massachusetts. Oh, and she’s also a client.

In today’s episode, Lysa opens up about her life with ADHD, and shares the lessons she’s leanred along the way.  We discuss the importance of having a good morning, useful tech tools for managing our lives, teaching our kids by giving them jobs we struggle with, the struggles of supporting our kids when we have ADHD, too, and the power of looking for help.

 

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Oct 18, 2019
BONUS EPISODE: A Slice of Life, with Nathan and Gavin Mahan, sons of a father with ADHD
25:01

When I told my sons that I was going to be posting two bonus episodes during the month of October, the get really excited and told me they wanted to be interviewed for one of them.  So, in today's episode, we're talking to my kids, Nathan and Gavin. The boys and I talk about their thoughts on school, hobbies, adventures, and being a Mahan.  I hope you enjoy this window into our family.

 

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Oct 15, 2019
Excuse My ADHD, with Jeanette G. ADHD Mom and Podcaster
40:21

Today, we’re talking to Jeanette G. of “Excuse My ADHD”.  Jeanette is a mom who is harnessing the power of podcasting to chronicle her journey with ADHD.

In today’s episode, Jeanette’s shares a bit about her life as an ADHD mom.  We discuss navigating parental guilt, her interview of a member of Scottish Parliament, the bias toward childhood ADHD, the connections between ADHD and compassion, and what it takes to follow through on our goals.

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Oct 11, 2019
Reading is a Complicated Process, with Beth Dinelli and Alex Fortuna, Reading Specialists
47:34

Today, we’re talking to Beth Dinelli and Alex Fortuna of the Commonwealth Learning Center.  The Commonwealth Learning Center supports kids with learning disabilities through specialized, one-to-one instruction.  Beth is the director of Commonwealth Learning Center in Danvers, MA, and Alex is the director of Commonwealth Learning Center in Needham, MA.

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In today’s episode, we’re talking about the intersection of reading and ADHD.   Alex, Beth and I look at the various elements that going into reading, from very basic foundational elements, to more sophisticated ones.  We also discuss multiple reading disorders, dyslexia among them, and ways parents can help their kids read better, and more.

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SPECIAL NOTE:  The audio on this one is a little static-y and click-y.  I apologize in advance.  We did what we could to clean it up, but some of it is still there. 

BONUS SPECIAL NOTE:  In order to celebrate ADHD Awareness month, and to get to 100 episodes before the upcoming ADHD Conference November 7ththrough the 10th, I will be posting two bonus episodes during the month of October.  So keep your eye out for them.

 

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Oct 04, 2019
Pumpkin Spice ADHD, with Brendan Mahan your Autumnal Auteur
08:26

It’s that time of year again.  The leaves are turning, acorns litter the ground, the air is becoming chilly.  It’s the season of pumpkin spice!  It’s been around for years now, but it seems like people are still out of their minds about it.  

Why?  Why is pumpkin spice so exciting for so many people? Because it’s a special event. It adds an interesting twist to ordinary, commonplace things - like coffee, pancakes and muffins.  And, it’s only available for a little while. 

What does this have to do with ADHD?

The ADHD brain loves unique experiences and reward.  Pumpkin spice, because of it’s limited timeframe, is a unique experience. And for some, the unique flavor it adds to their food is a reward. People with ADHD need a little “pumpkin spice” every now and then to help motivate them. It adds an interesting twist to an activity that has become boring and uninteresting.  

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How to Use “Pumpkin Spice”

  • Best used to manage unique challenges or when the ADHD person is stuck
  • Make sure it is a positive reward.
  • Make sure it is unique.
  • Make sure it has a limited in time frame.
  • Communicate clearly that it will not happen again soon.

The pumpkin spice approach to motivation works best when unique challenges arise.  It can be very helpful when people with ADHD go through a period of increased difficulty with motivation or productivity.

Just like coffee shops and bakeries keep coming up with new uses for Autumn’s favorite flavoring, there are no limits to how pumpkin spice approach to motivation can be used.  I’ve shared a few examples.  Please let me know how you apply it.  I’d love to hear from you.

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Sep 27, 2019
Event Planning Motherhood with Danielle Frisby of Unboxing Change, Event Planner & Mother of a Son with ADHD
44:43

Today, we’re talking to Danielle Frisby.  Danielle is the mother of a son with ADHD, and a Social Impact Event Coordinator.   Her company,  “UnBoxing Change” provides a voice to communities through membership driven engagement activity and involvement.

In today’s episode, Danielle shares with us how being an event planner has informed the way she approaches motherhood, including - why we should look at meals as events, the importance of dates, times and locations, finding the good no matter what, and figuring out ways to help our kids feel safe so they can have hard conversations with us.  And, she shares her son Jordan’s Ending Essentials to conclude the show.

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  • UnBoxing Change Mission:

    UnBoxing Change believes that​ ​Community​ i​ s the secret.

    UnBoxing Change was created to tackle the most pressing problems people face on the planet. We believe that​ ​“Community”​ ​is the key to solving these problems and that we, as members of this mission, are the agents of change that we all seek.

    UnBoxing Change understands that we are all responsible for our piece of the mission. From the Homeless to the Hungry; To the Left behind and the Forgotten-UnBoxing Change provides a voice to communities through membership-driven engagement activity and involvement.

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Sep 20, 2019
IEP Meetings, The Family Medical Leave Act, and Advocating for Our Kids, with Aelan Mosden, Parent of Children with Special Needs
28:57

Today, we’re talking to Alan Mosden.  Alan is the father of several children with special needs, who wrote a comment letter that addresses how the Family Medical Leave Act applies to IEP Meetings.

In today’s episode, we discuss what a comment let is, and how FLMA applies to school care meetings, petitioning the government to get things done, and advocating for our kids.

 

Special Note: Nether Alan nor I are lawyers. So, although we talk about legal matters in this episode, do not take any of it as legal advice.  Consult your legal representative before implementing anything discussed in this episode.

 

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Sep 13, 2019
Free to Choose Your Own Path: ADHD, Counseling, and Dungeons & Dragons with Matt Fahy, LMHC, and Heroic Group Counselor
50:00

Today, we’re talking to Matt Fahy, LMHC.  Matt is a licensed mental health counselor based in Florida.  He began his quest to better understand the human condition as an Anthropologist, spending a number of years exploring and working on archeological sites.  Eight years ago, he shifted his focus to mental health counseling.  And now, he has married the two and uses his Anthropology knowledge and counseling skills to run therapeutic games of Dungeons and Dragons for his clients.

 

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In today’s episode, we talk about what Dungeons and Dragons is, how Matt uses it as a therapeutic tool  to help the kids he works with develop social skills,  problem-solving skills, and greater insight into themselves, the roots of this approach in classic psychological approaches, and Matt shares with us the tale of the clients in one of his groups helped Boogers the Goblin learn coping strategies to better manage his anxiety.

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Sep 06, 2019
ADHD, Vaping, and Substance Use with Amy Leone, LMHC Addiction Expert and Owner of Community Impact, Inc.
33:31

Today, we’re talking to Amy Leone.  Amy is a mental health clinician who specializes in adolescent and youngadults with dual diagnoses, including substance abuse, and behavioral or trauma related symptoms.  I first met Amy when I joined her Juvenile Advocacy Group, a group she created to address the effects of the opioid epidemic in Milford, MA, which has become a model for many other towns throughout Massachusetts, as well as the state as a whole.  She is one of the most caring and driven people I know, and it an honor to call her my friend.

In today’s episode, Amy talks to us about vaping. What it is, why it’s so hard to catch, its connection to marijuana use, step we can take to keep our kids from doing it, and the fact that it might be a signal of the need for stress reduction and mental health supports for both kids and parents.

A quick disclaimer:  

This week’s episode is about vaping.  It touches on addiction, and the kinds of behaviors that might signal addiction.  I don’t want to panic anyone.  If your kid engages in one or two of the behaviors mentioned, that doesn’t mean they’re vaping or engaging in addictive behaviors. Sometimes our kids becoming more secretive is a perfectly healthy, developmentally appropriate way of seeking independence and setting boundaries. 

That said, the more of these behaviors you see, the more concerned you may need to be.  You can learn more about addiction and what to do if your kid might be  vaping, or using drugs or similar substances athttps://www.drugabuse.gov, and https://drugfree.org

 

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Update:

During the course of this discussion, Amy mentions that vaping doesn't necessarily leave a smell.  She also later talks about there being a smell of marijuana from  dabbing.  This is not a contradiction, things just weren't made clear enough.  Some vaping methods leave no smell, others do.  Sometimes the smell is connected to the flavor, say strawberry.  When dabbing the smell of marijuana will typically be present, unless there are steps are taken to cover it up.

 

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Aug 30, 2019
Back To School Thoughts, with Brendan Mahan, your Accessible Academic Advisor
17:03

Today, I share a handful of back to school tips and ideas.  Depending on the age of your kid and your individual situation, some of these might need a little tweaking, but I’m sure you’ll find things in here that are useful.

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Aug 23, 2019
Resistance, Execution, and Executive Function with Seth Perler, Executive Function and 2e Coach, Founder of The Executive Function Online Summit.
27:38

Today, we’re talking to Seth Perler.  Seth is an Executive Function and Twice Exceptional Coach who has dedicated his life to helping kids overcome their challenges so they can live great lives.  He does this by teaching the world about executive function. Unsurprisingly, he’s also the founder of The Executive Function Online Summit.

In today’s episode, Seth and I talk about the resistance our kids sometimes experience when faced with challenging tasks, how major shifts come from millions of little successes, The Executive Function Online Summit (TEFOS), and the importance of our relationships with our kids. 

 

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Aug 16, 2019
Two Dads Talking About Self-Care and Listening to Where Each Other is At, with Adam Wilson Director of Calm Passion, and father of a son with ASD, Anxiety, and ADHD
37:15

My buddy Adam Wilson is back on the pod! Adam is the founder of Calm Passion, a non-profit that creates sensory sensitive spaces to help those with sensory needs participate in events like comic book conventions and movie showings that might otherwise be too overwhelming for them.  He also runs Calmer Con, which is an entire pop culture convention Adam has developed for kids, adults, and families with sensory needs.

In today’s episode, Adam and I talk about the importance of having a consistent approach to how we handle our kids, the power reframing our struggles, navigating the isolation of raising a kid with special needs, including our kids on their support team, and going out to dinner to get on the same page as our partner.

 

Recent & Upcoming Appearances:

Replay of my ADDitude Webinar on The Wall of Awful

Register for the Live Q&A with Eric Tivers

Register The Executive Function Online Summit

  Guest Links: ADHD Essentials Links:
Aug 09, 2019
Teaching and Organizing with ADHD, with Lindsey Steele, a High School Teacher with ADHD
40:44

Today, we’re talking to Lindsey Steele.  Lindsey is a high school social studies teacher with ADHD. She writes about managing the life of a teacher while having ADHD on her blog, Fight, Pray, Teach.

 In today’s episode, Lindsey and I talk about how having ADHD informs her teaching practice, and her relationships with her students.  She also shares some of the organization strategies she uses in her classroom, and we talk about how they can be applied in the home by parents affected by ADHD.      

 

Register for my Webinar with ADDitude Magazine on Tuesday, August 6th at 1pm Eastern, Here!

 

Guest Links: ADHD Essentials Links:
Aug 02, 2019
The Power of Being Seen by Others Affected by ADHD, with Doug Harris of ADHD Synergy
42:50

Today, we’re talking to Doug Harris of ADHD Synergy.  Doug is a long-time ADHD coach, working primarily with creatives and the gifted.  He organizes the Ann Arbor Michigan ADHD Support group, and was an absolute blast to talk to!

 In today’s episode, Doug tells us about finding connection in ADHD conferences and groups, how he used streaks to meditate for 388 days in a row, his theory of pre-trying, and growing up with ADHD.

Guest Links: ADHD Essentials Links:
Jul 26, 2019
Wonder and Problem-Solving, with Jarra Meltzer of The Interactive Learning Center
42:43

It was is an honor and a privilege to reconnect with my old friend, Jarra Meltzer for this interview. Jarra is the senior Developmental Learning Specialist at the Interactive Learning Center in Lexington, MA, and is an expert in learning and development of children, both academically and socially.

In today’s episode, we discuss focusing on process over results, the power of saying “I wonder…”, allowing space for failure, asking better questions, and the pillars of problem solving.

 

Guest Links:   ADHD Essentials Links:
Jul 19, 2019
ADHD, Self- Esteem, & The Stories We Need to Hear, with René Brooks of Black Girl Lost Keys.
51:59

WARNING:  At one point in this episode, we discuss mass shootings at mosques and synagogs.  It's only a small part of the show, but it does occur. /WARNING

Today, we’re talking to René Brooks of Black Girl, Lost Keys. René is a member of the ADHD tribe, and return guest.  She’s currently raising awareness for Black Women’s Health as part of the “Crazy Like a Fox Tour”.  The tour will be in Philly on Sunday at Location 215, and then they’ll be at Impact Hub in Baltimore on July 27th. Go to CrazyLikeAFoxTour.com for more details.   

In today’s episode, René and I share some of our ADHD struggles and vulnerabilities while discussing ADHD & Self-Esteem, the  importance of asking for help, the intersection of mental health and race, and the power of networking.

 

Guest Links:   ADHD Essentials Links:
Jul 12, 2019
Executive Function, Volcanoes, and Why ADHD Rarely Travels Alone, with Monica Hassell of Connect ADHD
36:23

I really enjoyed this conversation with ADHD coach Monica Hassal of Connect ADHD. Monica and I met  at last year’s ADHD Conference, and she’s been a big supporter of this show. I am overjoyed to finally have her on!  She's incredibly knowledgeable, as evidenced by this episode.  I'm sure I'll have her back on in the future. You can learn more about her work at ConnectADHD.com.

In today’s episode, we discuss Executive Function, why ADHD rarely travels alone, and the various layers that underly problem behaviors through Monica’s outstanding Volcano of Attention deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.  

(Scroll Down to See an Image of Monica's Volcano Below.)

 

ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups! CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up! REGISTRATION CLOSES MONDAY, JULY 10th!

 

Monica Hassall's Volcano Model of ADHD:

 

Guest Links:

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

 

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

Jul 05, 2019
Going All In with the ADHD Population, with Gail Oakerman, Counselor, College Professor, and Educational Consultant
31:57

Today, we’re talking to Gail Oakerman.  Gail is an Educational Consultant, Counselor, and one of my old College Professors.  She runs Five Points Counseling in Lunenburg, MA.

In today’s episode, we discuss the internal struggle of ADHD, how systemic & cultural realities get in our way, the power of teaching kids ways to talk about their challenges, and harnessing incremental change.

 

REGISTRATION IS OPEN: For the ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups: CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!   SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

 

Another big thank you to Jeffrey Gordon of Ideal Video Strategies, who did the heavy lifting on editing this episode.

Jun 28, 2019
Today's Awesome: Finding What We Look For, with Brendan Mahan, the Host You're Looking For
10:46

Today's Episode is a little more personal.  In it, I share the story of the worst year of my life, how it turned into the greatest lesson of my life, and why it might be useful for you as well.  Along the way, we'll talk about expectations for summer vacation, confirmation bias, and my signature Facebook practice.

 

The second annual Parenting ADHD Summit wraps up today. 

But don’t worry!  All 28 sessions are still available on recording for the low price of $77.  That’s just $2.75 per session.  Not too shabby when you’re talking about information from experts like Sharon Saline, Jeff Copper, Dawn Kamila Brown, Ned Hallowell, Penny Williams, Ross Greene, Melissa Orlov, and well…  me!  CHECK IT OUT!!!

 

ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups: CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!   SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

 

ADHD Essentials Links:  

 

Jun 21, 2019
When Your Kid Becomes a Puddle: Anxiety, Movement, and the Physical Side of ADHD, with Krista Gordon, Mom, and founder of Tranquil Little One
42:14

Today, we’re talking to Krista Gordon.  Krista is mom of two kids with ADHD, and the founder of Tranquil Little One. Krista shares her story of getting her kids diagnosed with ADHD, learning how to help them manage their it though both mental and physical therapies, and how that led to her work with Tranquil Little One.

In today’s episode, we discuss how the way our children feel physically can affect how they feel emotionally, why core strength matters, anxiety, yoga, and learning from our kids.

 

Online ADHD Parenting Summit: CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!   Guest Links:   ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups: CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!   SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

 

ADHD Essentials Links:  

 

Jun 14, 2019
Organizing in Shared Spaces, with Cindy Jobs, Professional Organizer & ADHD Coach
49:57

Welcome to ADHD Essentials!

Friend of the Pod, ADHD coach, and professional organizer Cindy Jobs is back for a second round!

In today’s episode, we talk about the cost of keeping things in terms of upkeep, space, money, and bandwidth, how to manage challenge of organizing shared spaces, and why me putting my laundry away is a way for me to love my wife.

  Online ADHD Parenting Summit: CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!   Guest Links:

 

 

ADHD Essentials Links:   SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

Jun 07, 2019
Making ADHD’s Invisible Struggles Visible, with Dani Donovan, Web Comic Artist with ADHD
47:43

Have you seen the ADHD comic memes going around social media that are set on a black background, with neon colored words and pictures? Well today, we’re talking to the artist of those memes Dani Donovan.  

Dani is an artist who has her heart on her sleeve, and a fire in her belly.  She’s a part of the ADHD tribe, and was great to talk to.  I really enjoyed our conversation, and look forward to stating connected to her. She can be found at https://www.adhddd.com.

In today’s episode, we talk about apologizing for our stories, abandoning food in the car, the catharsis of shared experience, Dani’s experience growing up as a girl with undiagnosed ADHD, and of course, Dani’s art. Those mentioned in the show are below, but you can find more on her Twitter page.

 

Online ADHD Parenting Summit: CLICK HERE for more information, and to sign up!

 

 

  SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

 

  GUEST LINKS:

You can learn more about Dani at https://www.adhddd.com. All of her comics are up to date on Twitter! Or support her on Paetron.  (I should probably set one of those up...)

 

  

Shameless Plugs (Besides the "Wall of Awful" video):  

 

 

 

 

May 31, 2019
Plotting a Better Course for Your Kid with ADHD (And Why You’re Already Doing It!), with Cameron Gott, PCC, Veteran ADHD Coach
34:33

Today, we’re talking to Cameron Gott.  Cameron is a giant in the world of ADHD coaching, having been at it for over 15 years.  (He’s also the first repeat guest on the pod!)   Cameron first appeared way back in episode 7, talking about his book, Curious Accountability. And he appears on the web at CameronGott.com. As you might expect with a guest of Cameron’s caliber, this one’s a doozy.  It’s chockfull of important ideas about ADHD and parenting. 

 

In today’s episode, we talk about closing the gap between kids with ADHD and their peers, how having ADHD is like trying to watch a play from onstage, ADHD in relationships, and the power of curiosity.

 

Guest Links:

You can learn more about Cameron and his work at www.CameronGott.com.

  SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

 

Shameless Plugs (Besides the "Wall of Awful" video):  

 

May 24, 2019
Accounting for Our Shared Humanity Through Authenticity, Boldness, and Curiosity, with Juma Inniss, Youth Culture and Media Literacy Expert, Founder and Director of The Message
34:36

I really enjoyed my conversation with Juma Innis.  Juma is the director of The Message. Juma and his team at provide schools with workshop residencies, assemblies, and concerts in order to empower teens for success in a 21st century powered by media.   They teach teens to think more critically about the messages they're being exposed to by helping schools, both the teachers and the students, develop awareness around media literacy education and the needs of our youth.  

In today’s episode, we talk about meeting kids where they are, how generational and other blindspots can keep us from connecting, validating the foolishness and silliness of youth, accounting for our shared humanity, and the power of music as a unifying force.

 

Guest Links:

You can learn more about Juma and his work at http://themessagemovement.com.

Or check out their Facebook Page.

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd take a look at her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included.

 

Shameless Plugs (Besides the "Wall of Awful" video):  

 

May 17, 2019
An Overview of School Testing with Leanne Kaplan, School Psychologist
48:48

Today, we’re talking to my friend Leanne.  Leanne is a school psychologist working with elementary school students.  I really enjoyed our conversation.  It was both wide ranging, and insightful.

 In today’s episode, we talk about how school testing works, things that don’t show up on tests and rating scales, the difference between private testing and school testing, and looking at the whole student to determine what’s best for your kid.

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd go check out her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included on the channel.

 

 

Episode Edited by www.idealvideostrategies.com.

 

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May 10, 2019
Knowing the Score, Impending Fatherhood, and Hauling Watermelons, with Evan Kirstein ADHD Coach and Soon-To-Be Dad
42:40

Today, we’re talking to my friend Evan Kirstein of Progressive Growth Coaching.  Evan is a fellow ADHD coach, who also happens to be a soon-to-be dad.

In today’s episode, we talk about impending fatherhood, a maturing view of love, hauling watermelons, imposter syndrome, and importance of knowing the score. 

 

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd go check out other her channel, as well as my episodes (Episode 1 and Episode 2).  They really do great work, and I'm honored to be included on the channel.

Guest Links:

Learn more about Evan at his website, www.progressivegrowthcoaching.com. Or check out his Facebook page!

 

Shameless Plugs (Besides the "Wall of Awful" video):  

 

May 03, 2019
10 Ways to Get Your Kid to Read More, with Brendan Mahan, Your Enlightened Former English Teacher
09:29

1. Let them read whatever they want. 

2. Use audiobooks (or audible).

3. Encourage books that are part of a series.

4.Encourage books from a high interest universe they know from other media (Spider-Man, Star Wars, Minecraft, LEGO, etc...).

5.Remember nonfiction.

6. Encourage reading comics & graphic novels.

7. If they're reading at inappropriate times (the dinner table, when they should be sleeping, etc...) don't make a huge deal out of it.

8. Make time for reading. 

9. Read to them.

10. Read yourself.

 

 

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: My "Wall of Awful"model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHDchannel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd go check out other her channel, and my episode.  She does great work! Here's the link.

Shameless Plugs (Besides the "Wall of Awful" video):  

 

 

 

Apr 26, 2019
Not a Troublemaker, Just Having Trouble. with Gerry Goyette, Middle School Principal
46:30

One of my favorite things about doing this podcast is the way it has helped me reconnect with people.  Today’s episode is an excellent example of that.  I recently invited my old principal, Gerry. Goyette, to come on the show to talk ADHD from the administrative side of school, and he was nice enough to agree.  It was an absolute pleasure to talk ADHD and education with him. He’s just as smart as I remembered. 

 In today’s episode, we get an inside look at a principal’s approach to leading a school through the lens of ADHD.  We discuss the Intersection of Anxiety and Standardized Testing, the ebb and flow of stress in the school year for ADHD kids, the importance of consistency,  and the value of trust.

 

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT (part 1): Calmer Con, a sensory friendly comics & pop culture event, is taking place on Saturday, April 27that Becker College in Leicester, MA.  Get tickets here.  Listen to our episode about it here.

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT (part 2): My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHDchannel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd go check out other her channel, and my episode.  She does great work! Here's the link.

Apr 19, 2019
Helping Our Kids (and Ourselves) to Protect Personal (and Financial) Information While Online, with Tim M., Financial Expert & ADHD Parent
48:35

The other day, my friend Tim, an ADHD dad himself, was telling me about his job.  It turns out that one of his responsibilities is helping kids (and adults) understand the importance of protecting their identity when online.  I thought that might be useful information for you all to have, so I invited him on the pod!  

In today’s episode, we talk about ways to keep identity safe, what to do if it’s not, and how to behave so that we don’t need to worry about our identity being stolen any more than we worry about getting hit by a car.  We also discuss managing the contents of our phones, teaching our kids about social media, and how to create a password you’ll remember.

 

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Apr 12, 2019
Guarding Our Time While Meeting the Demands of Our Kids, Our Parents, and Our Careers, with David Greenwood
37:30

Today, we’re talking to David Greenwood.  David and I first connected when he interviewed me for his book on ADHD & productivity, Overcoming Distractions.  He is a father with ADHD who has a son with autism.  I really enjoyed our talk.  I hope you do too. 

In today’s episode, David tells his tale of finding his way with ADHD.  We talk about the value of experiential learning, the challenge of balancing the demands of a career, children with special needs, and aging parents, ikigai, and guarding our time.

 

 

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: My "Wall of Awful"model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd go check out other her channel, and my episode.  She does great work! Here's the link.

Guest Links:

Visit David's Website!

Buy Overcoming Distraction on Amazon!

 

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Apr 05, 2019
Teaching the Kid vs. Teaching the Subject with Ms. Sally, a High School Special Education Teacher
35:49

Today, we’re talking to Ms. Sally.  Sally is a high school special education teacher who has ADHD.  Which means she gets them on a level not all teachers can. 

In today’s episode, we talk about Sally’s journey to becoming an educator, why teachers have to depersonalize their student’s understanding, how having ADHD has affected her teaching practice, and why her mission statement as a teachers is to help her kids redefine who they are as students and learners.  

 

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: My "Wall of Awful" model was recently featured on Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD channel on YouTube.  I'd love it if you'd go check out other her channel, and my episode.  She does great work! Here's the link.

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Mar 29, 2019
Emotional Intelligence with Dawn Marie DesRoche
49:59

Today, we’re talking to Dawn Marie DesRoche of EQ Solutions: You 2.0 about Emotional Intelligence.  Dawn Marie helps people learn to recognize their reactions to people and situations, and teaches them how to respond to those same people and situations with more productive thoughts, feelings, and actions.

In today’s episode, we talk about balancing societal expectations against the needs of ourselves and our kids, experiencing a terrible moment without becoming the terrible moment, losing parents, and how adjectives are like stones in a basket.

 

Guest Links:

 

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Mar 22, 2019
Thoughts on Clear Expectations with Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S.
07:14

Today's episode is a quick and actionable one on setting clear expectations.  I hope you find it useful.

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

Mar 15, 2019
Finding Success in the Face of ADHD, OCD, and Tourette's with Isaac, high school senior
40:29

Today, we’re talking to Isaac.  Isaac has ADHD, OCD, and Tourette’s.  And, as a senior in high school, Issac is the first person below the age of 18 that have been featured on the pod.  (Don’t worry, I got permission from his mom.) 

 As you’ll hear, he’s an incredible young man, who has overcome his varied challenges though hard work, resilience, ingenious strategies, and the support of his family and friends.  I greatly enjoyed talking to him.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Goal Setting
  • The blending of impulsivity and compulsivity 
  • Tourette's Syndrome
  • Overcoming stigma
  • Isaac's college planning
  • The value of social support 
  • Being driven
  • Isaac's use of running to manage his symptoms 
  • The power of Self-Acceptance 

 

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Mar 08, 2019
Parental Self-Care with Louise Clarke
39:46

I really enjoyed talking to Louise Clarke of "Your Parenting Partner".  Lousie has a child with ADHD, and is also a parenting coach.  So, the conversation was an interesting one.

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • The power of parent coaching
  • Controlling our reactivity through self-care
  • Losing touch with our own needs because we're focused on everyone else
  • Role modeling self-care
  • Scheduling self-care
  • Busy weeks make it harder to show up for our kids
  • The frustration of parenting ADHD
  • The isolation of parenting ADHD
  • Louise's Son's ADHD project
  • Always be curious
  • Look for the unmet need in poor behavior
  • An expectation is a prediction of the future
  • Expect the process, not the outcome 

 

Guest Links:

 

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Mar 01, 2019
Getting Help for a Child in Crisis, and Being UnNormal with Kimberly Berry
40:07

Today, we’re talking to Kimberly Berry of Being UnNormal.

This episode has some hard parts.  I’m not going to lie to you. 

Kimberly Berry tells the tale of her struggles to get her daughter the help she needed after her ADHD and other mental health challenges led to a child in crisis.  Although it ends well, part of Kimberly’s story includes her 10 year-old daughter’s suicide attempts.  Luckily, medication, parental skill building, and good mental health care, as you’ll hear, have made a world of difference for them both.

I should note, that while Kimberly focuses on her daughter’s ADHD, her daughter also has a mood disorder diagnosis, and that certainly played a role in the crises they faced as well. 

 

Collection of Links to Resources for Kids in Crisis In The States, and Worldwide http://www.safekids.com/resources-for-youth-in-crisis/

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Being UnNormal's origin
  • ADHD misconceptions due to media simplification
  • If it was easy, don't you think I would have don it?
  • Learning to accept differences
  • Visual cues don't work if there' a visual processing disorder.
  • Challenges with getting help for a child in crisis
  • Handling childhood meltdowns with grace
  • The mission of Being UnNormal

 

Guest Links:

Find Kimberly Berry at https://www.beingunnormal.com

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

 

Feb 22, 2019
Planning for College with Linda Katz
41:18

Today, we’re talking to Linda Katz or Right Fit College Coaching.

Linda specializes in providing students with ADHD and similar learning disabilities with comprehensive college planning.  She helps them find the colleges that will best suit their interests and needs, and then helps them through the application process.

In today’s episode, we talk about the college application process, how important it is for our kids to try out the career they’re looking at before committing four years of study to it,  how to find just such an internship in high school, and how college is different from high school.

 

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Podcast Support:

  • Today’s Episode was edited by Jeffrey Gordon of Ideal Video Strategies.  Go to www.idealvideostrategies.com to learn more about their work.

 

Guest Links:

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

Feb 15, 2019
8 Ways to Help Your Kids Manage Stress & Anxiety
10:24

In today's episode, I discuss 8 Ways to Help Your Kid Manage Their Stress and Anxiety.

 

 

In Advance

1.  Reduce sensory stimulation

2.  Set & Have Reasonable Expectations

3.  Be clear about your own escalation

 

(4-6) In the Moment

4.  Help them get grounded in reality

5.  Name emotions

6.  Reflective Listening

(7-8) In the Aftermath

7.  Forgive

8.  Fix

 

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Feb 08, 2019
A Good Relationship Pushes Us to Be a Better Person with Ari Tuckman, PsyD, MBA
49:43

Today, we’re talking to Ari Tuckman.

Dr. Tuckman is a psychologist in private practice, specializing in diagnosing and treating children, teens, and adults with ADHD, anxiety, and depression. He has appeared on CNN, National Public Radio, The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post and The Boston Globe. And now, he’s on the Pod! 

In today’s episode, we talk relationship skills.  The episode focuses on marital and parent/child relationships, but the concepts discussed apply to all of them.  And we dig deep, discussing the roles effort, shame, problem-solving, communication and even asymmetrical information play in our relationships.  I really enjoyed doing this episode, and think you’ll enjoy listening just as much.

 

Guest Links:

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Happiest ADHD couples felt that their partner put in good effort on managing ADHD
  • The importance of communication
  • Prioritizing relationship & partner needs bodes well for a relationship
  • If it’s easy for me, but hard for you, I might not give you enough credit for doing it.
  • Why scapegoating ADHD is a bad plan
  • Bob Brooks’ Islands of Competence
  • The narrative of imbalance
  • “Is this how it needs to be?  Do we have better options?”
  • Demystifying the perils of doing the dishes
  • Why we rate our effort as higher than that of others
  • Changing our questions/assumptions
  • The anxiety of not doing your job.
  • “We can’t expect our partner to behave better than we do”
  • “Giving the other person your dilemma”
  • Emotional self-regulation is the key to healthy relationships
  • Strategies for having hard conversations
  • A good relationship is one that pushes us to be a better person
  • Modeling self-advocacy & flexible problem-solving
  • Communicate honestly.  Listen respectfully. Work together.
Feb 01, 2019
ADHD, Small Not-For-Profit Private Schools, and the Muslim American Experience with Dr. Noor Ali, Principal of Al Hamra Academy
40:12

Dr. Noor Ali is the principal of Al Hamra Academy, a private K-8 Islamic School.  Al Hamra. Noor has long been an advocate for students with special needs, and brings her strong advocacy, and thoughtful manner to the pod!

In today’s episode, we talk about the intersections and commonalities between the Muslim and ADHD experiences, the importance of celebrating your child’s diagnosis, the special education challenges faced by small faith-based schools, and how a child is like an interactive canvas. 

 

Guest Links:

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Noor's experience with ADHD in the Islamic Community
  • Bringing parents to the idea of ADHD
  • Why it can be easier to blame the child than to pursue a diagnosis
  • Getting advanced degrees is possible with ADHD & Dyslexia
  • Micro-aggressions and feeling like your experience is irrelevant to the mainstream
  • 10 year old Muslim girl gets death threats at school
  • How Ramadan & Afternoon Prayer could single out Muslim students,
  • Why it’s important to teach about these cultural differences
  • Special Education in a private school vs. a public school
  • Coaching parents
  • Universal Design
  • Teaching is hard, meaningful work
  • Mentorships foster resilience
Jan 25, 2019
55: Stress Management with Jason Dulac, M.Ed., M.S.
54:12

Today, we’re talking to Jason Dulac.

 Jason is a mental health counselor, and expert in stress management, having taught about it at the college level.  He’s also an old friend.  We’ve worked together as both teachers, and as mental health clinicians.

In today’s episode, we talk about the physical nature of stress, various levels of stress management ranging from short term Band-Aids to  more long-term approaches, and I even share a story about the time I was assaulted in Whole Foods.

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

Jan 18, 2019
54: Being Outrageous to Keep Their Attention, with Lauren Mahan, teacher. (Special Guest Appearances by Nathan and Gavin Mahan)
38:27

Lauren Mahan is a fourth-grade teacher in Massachusetts, and my sister! That’s right, I’m celebrating the anniversary of the pod with family!  And since Nathan and Gavin are in fourth grade this year, and Lauren is their aunt, we had them sit in on the interview, and contribute their thoughts.  You’ll hear about 4th grade from both sides of the teacher desk.  (As well as on top of it!) 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Why teaching every kid like they have ADHD works
  • How costumes affect the classroom
  • The influence of Ms. Frizzle
  • Showing your work
  • "Sideways Stories from Wayside School"
  • Writing on desks in math
  • Teaching on tables
  • ADHD is more than one fire to put out
  • Teaching sarcasm and fidgets
  • The importance of recess
  • The power of class pets
  • ADHD & Anxiety
  • If the kids didn't learn it, you didn't teach it

 

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Jan 11, 2019
53: Three Tiered Goal Setting & 2019 Intentions
17:50

In today's episode, I walk us through how I'm setting my goals for 2019.  I think you'll find it useful.  In fact, this is probably a good one to share with your middle school and older kids.  

Shameless Plugs:  

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Intentions vs. Resolutions
  • Setting goals with emotions in mind
  • SMART Goals
  • Pre-Mortems
  • Brendan's quest for a Black Belt
  • The role shame plays in derailing us from our goals
  • Using accountability & scheduling to keep our goals on track
  • Alexa as a reminder tool
  • The power of being a role model for our kids as a motivation tool
  • Happy New Year!

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Jan 04, 2019
52: ADHD and Giftedness with Dr. Robert Gruberman
32:22

Kids with both ADHD and giftedness, and often referred too as "Twice Exceptional".  Today, we're talking about them.  (But not behind they're back.  They're welcome to listen in.) Our guest for today's episode is Dr. Robert Gruberman.

Robert is the director of his school district’s gifted and talented program.  He has been assessing and teaching gifted children in his district for nearly two decades, and has been a public educator for even longer.

In today’s episode, we discuss ADHD and giftedness through the lens of an academic expert in the field.  We talk about the various components of giftedness, and where they overlap with ADHD, the social emotional side of giftedness, how twice exceptional kids are affected by having both ADHD and giftedness, and how to help kids with ADHD, giftedness, or both, manage the challenges they face.

 

Shameless Plugs:  

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • The various components of Giftedness
  • The Social-Emotional side of Giftedness
  • Models of the solar system upsetting a 4-year-old
  • The overlap between ADHD & Giftedness
  • Giftedness & ADHD are not two sides of the same coin
  • Shared characteristics, arrived at differently
  • But there’s lots of crossover
  • Giftedness and ADHD can exacerbate each other when they co-occur.
  • When school challenges become home challenges
  • Work in short bursts toward small, manageable goals
  • The importance of getting kids invested
  • The power of choice
  • Peer support
  • “All Summer in A Day”
  • Don’t rush to judgement

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Dec 28, 2018
51: Gifted with ADHD, with Aurora Remember Holtzman, ADHD & Gifted mother of an ADHD & Gifted Child
37:13

Today, we’re talking to Aurora Remember Holtzman.

Aurora is a school psychologist, host of the “Embracing Intensity” podcast, and a twice exceptional mother of a twice exceptional son. They both have ADHD and giftedness. 

In today’s episode, we’re talking ADHD and giftedness through the lens of someone who’s living it.  We explore growing up gifted, impulsiveness vs impulsiveness, the value of teachers who “get” your kid, and the importance of learning to self-regulate as a parent.

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Growing up Gifted with ADHD
  • High achievers will achieve regardless of supports
  • Gifted kids struggling with Executive Function of Social Skills need support
  • The value of growing up with a foundation of acceptance and love
  • Adulting can be a challenge
  • Aurora’s son being too distractible to nurse
  • The effects of missing meds
  • Missing meds is not an excuse for poor behavior
  • Looking for the off-kilter reasons for behavior
  • Compulsive or Impulsive?
  • Looking at behavior through the lens of Dopamine
  • Relationships with teachers affects engagement
  • Exponential reactions to stressors
  • “Self Reg” by Stuart Shanker
  • It's hard to not escalate when your kid is melting down
  • The importance of learning to self-regulate as a parent
  • Weaknesses as the flipside of a strengths

 

Dec 21, 2018
50: Talking to Our Kids About Sex (Our Context is Not Their Context) with Erika Miley, Mental and Sexual Health Therapist
47:54

We made it to 50 episodes!!  Thanks for being a part of it

!!

You might want to preview this if you tend to listen with your kids, because in this episode, we're discussing how to talk to our kids about sex. 

Today, Erika Miley guides us through talking to our kids about sex.  We start with talking to younger kids about sex, and the move on to older kids as the episode progresses.  Regardless of the age of your child, there should be something in this episode that you find useful.

You can find Erika at www.ErikaMiley.com.

 

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Registration closes next Friday, December 21st.

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Kids can learn about it from you, or from the internet.  Your choice.
  • When to start talking to kids about sex
  • Where to begin when talking about sex.  (Hint: It’s not intercourse.)
  • Typical developmental behavior
  • Helping kids understand consent
  • You don’t need to tell the about everything at once.
  • The importance of really listening
  • Times to talk to kids about sexual safety
  • Why we shouldn’t use cutesy names for genitalia
  • Sex talk with older kids
  • The importance of open-ended questions
  • Ask the question, shut your mouth
  • “Let me give you context.”
  • It’s okay to say, “You don’t want to know.”
  • Working as a parenting team
  • Porn will come to your kids
  • And it’s performance.  Not reality
  • Where to get better sex info
  • Scarleteen.com
  • Every question is an opportunity
  • Give the gift of curiosity
  • Our context is not their context
  • Kids talk above their heads
  • Dopamine seeking behavior & playing with sexual language
  •  Framing sex conversations around family values
  • Relationships > Sex
Dec 14, 2018
49: Talking Organization with Cindy Jobs, Professional Organizer & ADHD Coach
39:40

Today, we’re talking to Cindy Jobs.

Cindy is a professional organizer and ADHD coach who I met at last month’s ADHD conference.  And I’m really glad I did, because organization is a thing we ADHD folks tend to struggle with.

In today’s episode, we talk about organization as a balance between space and stuff, the clutter/anxiety connection, and making holiday kits.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Why Cindy enjoys working with ADHD folks
  • The benefits of having a "Why"
  • Organization takes time
  • Brendan's two organizational insights (that came to him really late in life)
  • Clutter correlating with anxiety
  • Closet drama
  • Getting rid of duplicates 
  • Looking at space like real estate
  • Storing like things together
  • Organizing through kits
  • The geography of organization
  • Reducing the barrier to entry
  • Reducing the barrier to completion
  • Organizational consent

 

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Dec 07, 2018
48: An ADHD View from Down Under with Jon Hassall of Connect ADHD
47:08

Jon and his wife Monica run Connect ADHD out of Australia.  Jon’s a brilliant guy, and we go deep on multiple topics related to ADHD.  In today’s episode, we talk about how ADHD leads to our kids’ behavioral explosions, how environment affects our ADHD, the importance of science in ADHD.

I got to spend time with Jon (and Monica. Her workshop was excellent!) at this year's ADHD conference, and editing the show this week felt like I was reuniting with him. I look forward to continuing our relationship in the future.

 

Guest Links:

 

Shameless Plugs:  

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Jon’s ADHD Origin Story
  • ADHD Coaches as the Missing Link for Big Pharma
  • How Jon works with his clients
  • ADHD & Potential
  • Why Scientific Studies spoke to Jon
  • ADHD & moments of connection
  • How & Why Brendan does his first sessions.
  • ADHD Explosions:  The Neurochemistry, and recovering afterward
  • Fight, Flight, Freeze, (Fib)
  • Forgiving & Fixing
  • The Underpinning of “We’re all good people”
  • Russell Barkley’s Extended Phenotype model of ADHD
  • Brendan’s Executive Function Algebra
  • Jon’s Performance Influences Model for Executive Function
  • The  Myths of ADHD
  • Monitoring your inner voice
  • Using Monitoring, Referencing, and Self-Direction to manage ADHD

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Nov 30, 2018
47: The History of ADHD at School with Richard Kelley, Veteran Educator for Over Four Decades
42:18

Today, we’re talking to Richard Kelley!

I've received excellent feedback on past episodes that looked at the history of ADHD through a personal lens.  So, I decided to bring in my friend Richard Kelley.  Rich is an Assistant Executive Director with the Massachusetts School Administrators Association (MSAA).  And he has been working in education for longer than I've ben alive.  (Admittedly, only by a year.) (Side note:  I erroneously identify Rich as the President of MSAA during the interview.  Thankfully, he corrected me.  Sometimes the ADHD wins.) 

In today’s episode, Rich shares his experience as an educator for over 42 years, and how he’s seen the approach to ADHD at school change over the decades.  It's an interesting conversation.  I hope you enjoy it! 

 

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Nov 23, 2018
46: This ADHD Life with Keith Griffin, ADHD Coach
47:27

Today, we’re talking to Keith Griffin!

Keith is an ADHD coach, and host of “This ADHD Lifeon YouTube.  He’s also got a webinar on surviving the holidays with ADHD coming up through the Attention Deficit Disorder Association.  

Keith can be found at ThisADHDLife.com.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Information Overload
  • How music can help our morning routines
  • No screens in the bedroom
  • Productivity Tips
  • Tragic Stories
  • How to Positivify
  • Brendan's "Today's Awesome" gimmick on FB
  • The difference between eating watermelon and eating grapes
  • Self advocacy
  • And doing less

 

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Nov 16, 2018
45: Done is Better than Perfect at the International Conference on ADHD 2018
05:05

I'm at the International Conference on ADHD.  Here is a brief episode where I share a few takeaways.  

Nov 09, 2018
44: Parenting as Leadership with Tamara Rosier, PHD, BCC, ADHD Mom, and President of the ADHD Coaches Organization
52:39

Today, we’re talking to Tamara Roseer.

 Tamara is the president of the ADHD Coaches Organization, the co-founder of Acorn Leadership, and the founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan.

In today’s episode, we talk about parenting as leadership, developing core values in our kids, ways to avoid passing anxiety on to our kids, and the importance of being authentic when we parent.

 

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Nov 02, 2018
43: Managing Self-Sabotaging Thoughts, Positive Psychology, and Upward Spirals of Emotion with Mindy Katz, ADHD Coach, Social Worker, and Parent with ADHD of Adult Kids with ADHD
34:52

Today, we’re talking to Mindy Katz.

 

When Mindy learned that she and her daughter had ADHD, it led to her becoming an ADHD coach, and eventually a Social Worker. She’s a big proponent of positive psychology, and developing resiliency in our kids. 

 

In today’s episode, we talk about how to manage our sabotaging thoughts,  upward spirals of emotion, and the power of curiosity.

 

 

Alright, let’s get rolling.

 

 

 

Shameless Plugs:  

 

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Being calendar challenged
  • Why no two people with ADHD have the same challenges
  • Managing self-sabotaging thoughts
  • Positive Psychology
  • Growth vs. Fixed Mindset
  • Valuing the process more than the results
  • Resilience
  • How perfectionism undermines our efforts
  • Upward Spirals of Emotion
  • Positive Paper Chains
  • How hard it is to talk about what’s going well
  • Using curiosity to celebrate good news
  • Kids want to succeed.  If they aren’t, something is wrong with the process
  • Coach training & social work
  • Going back to work as a grey-haired adult
  • Alan Brown’s See-Saw Visual

 

Guest Links:

 

 

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Oct 26, 2018
42: Still the Kid Avoiding Her Homework with Rene Brooks of Black Girl, Lost Keys
49:43

Today, we’re talking to Rene Brooks from Black Girl, Lost Keys.

I always enjoy it when I talk get to talk to someone for the first time, but it feels like they’re already a good friend. Talking to Rene was one of those times, and it was a pleasure.  

With to her clear memory of childhood, and her thorough understanding of ADHD, she makes the experience of having the ADHD both understandable and relatable.

In today’s episode, we discuss all kinds of things.  From Rene’s journey with ADHD, to the extra scrutiny African American children experience in school and how that affects the ADHD diagnosis, to the importance of going with the flow of ADHD.  We even delve into the controversial land of whether or not ADHD is a superpower.  (But you’ll have to listen to find out how we fall on it.)

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Rene's Journey with ADHD
  • The origin of Black Girl, Lost Keys
  • The importance of common ground
  • ADHD & "Laziness"
  • How African American kids being more heavily scrutinized affects ADHD diagnosis
  • ADHD & the Age of Distraction
  • Time Blindess
  • Fixed vs. Growth Mindset
  • School as a Self-Esteem Shaper
  • Navigating the fear of failure
  • The Importance of Early Diagnosis

 

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Oct 19, 2018
41: ADHD and Unmet Needs in School with Mr. Kayerrook, High School English Teacher
54:41

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Mr. Kayerrrook.  He’s an old friend of mine, and a veteran high school English teacher. I really enjoyed our wide-ranging conversation, both when we had it, and when I listened to it again during the editing process.

 

We get into some interesting corners of both ADHD, and education.  talk about everything from the interplay between ADHD and poverty, to the various red flags teachers keep an eye out for, teachers face, to the ways teachers work to address the unmet needs of their students when those red flags are spotted.  Mr. Kayerrook even shares some stories about his students.  Including a school shooting threat that ended up being a prank, and how he used a failed test to help a student find success. 

 

Shameless Plugs:  

The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups winter session has a special discount if you register in October!

Go to https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/to sign up for a free 15-20 minute prescreening call to see if the groups are right for you!

Or go to https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/ for more information.

 

Also,the 9thAnnual Online ADHD Awareness Expo is going on now.  I’m a part of it.  My topic - 3 Ways to Communicate with Your ADHD Child Besides Talking. 

Register at https://www.adhdexpo.com/adhdessentials to let them know I sent you.

 

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Oct 12, 2018
40: Three Views on Awareness for ADHD Awareness Month, with Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S. Your Awesomely Aware Audio Artist
07:36

For today's episode, I decided to celebrate ADHD Awareness Month by looking at those very things.  ADHD and awareness.  It's a quick one, but a good one!

I look at them through three lenses:

  • My 3 A's of ADHD Management - Awareness, Acceptance & Action
  • How ADHD Awareness differs from Neorotypical Awareness
  • The signs that make me aware that my ADHD may be about to go on the fritz

 

Share your signs that your ADHD is about to go on the fritz, and get valuable ADHD resources in the ADHD Essentials Facebook Community!  Click the link to sign up.

 

Further celebrating ADHD Awarenss Month:  Early registration for the January Session of the ADHD Parent Coaching Groups is open this month!  Sign-up during October, and get one entire month of the program for free! Learn more at: https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/ Sign-Up for a pre-registration call at: https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/ 

Oct 05, 2018
39: Taking a Break, Intervening Early, and The Importance of Thinking Twice with Robbin Miller, LMHC, mother with ADHD of an adopted child with ADHD
24:13

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Robbin Miller.  Robbin is a mother with ADHD of a child with ADHD.  She’s also a licensed mental health clinician, a college academic coach, and the author of a children’s book about early intervention playgroups.

We talk about early markers for ADHD, the steps Robbin has been taking to support her son ever since he was an infant, and the challenges she helps her college students with.

 

Blatant Plug:

I’ll be a part of the 9th Annual Online ADHD Awareness Expo taking place throughout the month of October.  My topic - "3 Ways to Communicate with Your ADHD Child Besides Talking"!

Register at https://www.adhdexpo.com/adhdessentials to let them know I sent you.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Robbin’s journey in adopting her son
  • Early intervention Playgroups
  • Markers for ADHD
  • Robbin’s experience with ADHD testing
  • How Robbin supports her son
  • Setting rewards and limits
  • Household responsibilities
  • The importance of thinking twice
  • Tips for College
  • “It has to be on their terms”
  • Robbin’s book, “Playgroup Time”
  • ADHD, Emotions, and taking a break

 

Guest Links:

  • Robbin’s book: “Playgroup Time” on Amazon.

 

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Sep 28, 2018
38: The Calm Passion of Adam Wilson, founder of Calmer Con, and Father of a son on the Spectrum
51:38

Adam Wilson is the creator of Calmer Con.  An event he developed to help kids with sensory needs experience the thrill of a comic book convention, without the overwhelm.  Adam’s son is on the spectrum, so at it’s core, Calmer Con is a mission of love for him.  And Calmer Con's first convention was great.  I know, becasue I was there!

(And yes, I realize this show is supposed to be about ADHD, but I tend to think of autism as sort of a cousin to ADHD, and many of the challenges are similar.  Not to mention, Adam’s story is so good that I just had to have him on.)

In this episode we’ll look at the struggles of parents who’s kids can be overwhelmed by sensory input, discuss the importance of acceptance, and maybe, just maybe, find the inspiration to do something big!

 

9thAnnual Online ADHD Awareness Expo Plug:

The 9thAnnual Online ADHD Awareness Expo will take place throughout the month of October.  And I’ll be a part of it.  My topic is 3 Ways to Communicate with Your ADHD Child Besides Talking. 

Register at https://www.adhdexpo.com/adhdessentialsto let them know I sent you.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Adam’s goals for Calmer Con
  • How Adam created Calmer Con
  • Connecting to a child with autism
  • Sensory challenges and the movies
  • The value of talking to experts
  • Why paraprofessional educators / teacher aides are amazing!
  • The Overstimulation/Anxiety Spiral
  • Different types of meltdowns
  • The Tale of Logan and the Ocelot
  • Sacrificing things you love to make something more important
  • How Adam workshopped elements of the convention
  • Star Wars Skill Drills you can do at home!
  • Evolving Calmer Con to better serve parents
  • The importance of opportunities for social interaction
  • The power of acceptance

 

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Sep 21, 2018
"What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew" with Dr. Sharon Saline, Clinical Psychologist, ADHD Expert, and Author
39:26

Dr. Saline is a licensed, clinical psychologist, who guides families from the maze of emotions, conflict and stress related to ADHD, toward successful dialog, interventions and connection.

Today, we're talking about her new book, What Your ADHD Child Wises You Knew.  There are many things that I liked about this book. But what I loved about it, is the way it’s framed.  Quotes and brief, personal stories from kids with ADHD are sprinkled throughout, to help us better understand the impact ADHD has on them, and, as you’ll hear, Dr. Saline does not shy away from addressing the emotional impact of ADHD.

I greatly enjoyed my conversation with Dr. Saline, and look forward to having more.  I'm certain she'll be back.

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Dr. Saline’s family history with ADHD
  • Solving the right problem, and starting with the problems that overlap
  • Managing technology & your child
  • The importance of getting your kid’s buy-in
  • Dr. Saline’s Five C’s of Parenting Kids with ADHD: self-Control, Compassion, Collaboration, Consistency, Celebration
  • The Importance of Bids in relationships
  • Shame & ADHD
  • Positive vs. Negative Statements
  • Pointing it out when our kids meet our expectations
  • Bedtime conversations
  • ADHD & Friendships
  • Strength-based thinking & Attentive Awareness
  • The vulnerability of ADHD

 

Guest Links:

Dr. Sharon Saline’s Website

Dr. Sharon Saline on Facebook

Dr. Sharon Saline on Twitter

Buy “What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew”.

 

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Sep 14, 2018
36: Comics & ADHD with Dav Pilkey, Creator of Captain Underpants, and adult with ADHD (with special guest co-hosts: Nathan & Gavin Mahan)
17:37

I’m pretty jazzed about this episode.  One of my goals at the start of this podcast was to get Dav Pilkey, the creator of Captain Underpants on the show.  Well, Mission Accomplished!  Today’s the day that episode drops.

Dav only had about 15 minutes to talk, and was gracious enough to include my sons.  That's right, not only is Dav on the show, but I got to share the mic with my boys for this one!  We recorded last week, and by coincidence, they were home from school due to teacher training.  Which is awesome because they’re the reason I pursued getting him on in the first place. 

I am grateful to Dav and his team for helping to make this episode happen.  It will always have a special place for me.

 

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The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups will run two sessions.  One will be on Mondays & Wednesdays at 5:30pm EST and the other session will be on Tuesdays and Thursdays at 12pm, EST.  They run for seven weeks beginning the week on September 16th.

Go to https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/to sign up for a free 15-20 minute prescreening call to see if the groups are right for you!

 Or go to https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/ for more information.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Dav’s childhood with ADHD & dyslexia
  • Dav’s struggles in school
  • How Dav’s parents responded to him having ADHD
  • How comics influenced Dav growing up
  • The Secret Origin of Captain Underpants
  • The Secret Origin of DogMan
  • ADHD & Creativity
  • Seeing ADHD as a gift & a different way of thinking

 

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Sep 07, 2018
35: Going on a Dopamine Hunt with Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S., Your Happy Hunting Party Host
08:45

Today's episode is short and sweet.  I'm flying solo, and talking about the role dopamine plays in ADHD.  I hope you find an insight or two in it!

 

Shameless ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups Ad:  

The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups will run on Tuesdays and Thursdays for seven weeks, from Tuesday September 18th through Thursday, November 1st.

Go to https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/ for a free 15-20 minute prescreening call to see if its right for you!

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • What is the role of dopamine in ADHD?
  • What the heck is a Dopamine Hunt!?!

  

ADHD Essentials Links:

 

 

Aug 31, 2018
34: Unraveling ADHD from the 50s & 60s to Today, with Joyce Kubik, ADHD Coach, Parent with ADHD of kids with ADHD (and grandkids with ADHD)
46:28

It was an honor to interview Joyce Kubik for the pod.  Joyce is a mother with ADHD of kids with ADHD.  (In fact, her kids are now grown, and have ADHD kids of their own!)

Joyce is also ADHD coach.  Indeed, she was among the first.  Hers are the shoulders that so many of us stand on when doing this work. She is a pioneer in the industry.  And she shares her story, and some of her pioneering work with us in this episode.

 

Shameless ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups Ad:  

The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups will run on Tuesdays and Thursdays for seven weeks, from Tuesday September 18th through Thursday, November 1st.

Go to https://www.adhdessentials.com/parentgroups/ for a free 15-20 minute prescreening call to see if its right for you!

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Joyce’s life with ADHD.
  • Growing up with ADHD in the 50s & 60s
  • Living with an alcoholic father
  • Joyce’s journey of self-discovery
  • Learning about ADHD from an episode of 20/20 in 1993
  • ADHD Misdiagnosis
  • The importance of accurate descriptions of ADHD symptoms
  • ADHD & Reading
  • Using color to help study & remember content
  • Joyce’s Bridge Model for ADHD
  • ADHD & Memory
  • Struggling to graduate from college
  • Academic tips for students
  • Getting results in a unique way
  • Doing things the ADHD way
  • Parenting in “rescue mode”
  • Being a parent with ADHD of kids with ADHD
  • Why ADHD kids interrupt
  • How to have a calmer dinner

 

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Aug 24, 2018
33: ADHD Parents Palooza with Linda Roggli and Diane Dempster
29:55

Today, we’re talking to Linda Roggli and Diane Dempster about the ADHD Parents Palooza, which will run next week, from August 20thto the 25th.

The ADHD Parents Palooza brings together many of the most well-known experts on ADHD to talk about parenting our complex kids.  Guests include Dr. Russell Barkley, Ned Hallowell, and Jessica McCabe.

I wasn’t able to be a part of the Parents Palooza this time, but I hope to participate next year.  I’ll be in the audience with those of you who attend, though.  And if you need help implementing the things you during the Palooza, the ADHD Essentials Parenting Coaching Groups are a great place to get that support.  The next session starts in September.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:
  • The goals of the ADHD Parent Palooza
  • The topics that will be discussed at the ADHD Parent Palooza
  • Russell Barkley, Grand-Parenting, & ADHD
  • The Guest Experts who are involved
  • Where to find the Palooza
  • How to avoid being overwhelmed by the all of the information of the Palooza
  • The value parent coaching

 

Guest Links

 

ADHD Essentials Links
Aug 17, 2018
32: What is a Special Education Advocate? with Melissa Carriveau, Special Education Advocate
47:02

Today, we’re talking to Melissa Carriveau.  She's a Master’s Level Certified Special Education Teacher with almost 25 years of experience.  She has been an doing special education consulting for nearly 20 years with both school districts and individual families. She was trained through the Federation of Children with Special Needs and through Wrightslaw. She is also a special education surrogate parent and the parent of a child with special needs.

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • What is a Special Education Advocate?
  • What should we look for in an advocate?  
  • How best to communicate with schools
  • Assuming everyone is there for the right reasons.
  • How to navigate IEP & 504 Meetings
  • The importance of documentation
  • Keeping communication child centered
  • You’re a good parent.  Schools aren’t judging you.
  • Mourning the kid you didn’t have.
  • Why you shouldn’t sign anything at a team meeting
  • Team meetings are a negotiation
  • Getting your kid’s year started on the right foot with meetings & letters
  • Supports vs. Accommodations in school
  • 504s vs. IEPs
  • Typical ADHD Accommodations
  • How to find an advocate
  • What an advocate needs from you
  • The importance od paperwork & documentation 

 

Links and Such:

 

Our Guest:

Find Melissa on Facebook at www.facebook.com/BayStateAdvocacy

Or email her at BayStateAdvocacy@gmail.com

 

 

ADHD Essentials: ADHD Essentials Website

ADHD Essentials Facebook Community

Email Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com

Aug 10, 2018
31: Living the Modern History of ADHD, With Diann Wingert, LCSW, ADHD Coach, and mother with ADHD of children with ADHD
41:05

This is a powerful one.  Diann Wingert, LCSW shares her journey with ADHD.  It's a tale the encompasses her professional work and her role in her family, and mirrors our modern undernstanding of ADHD.  She shares her struggles, uncertainty, successes, and growth.

 

Diann Wingert  is a coach and psychotherapist on a mission to help others achieve their true potential through radical self acceptance, leveraging their strengths and creating an ADHD friendly business and life. She helps creative entrepreneurs and self-employed professionals overcome their struggles with procrastination, perfectionism and people pleasing.  Find Diann at www.diannwingertcoaching.com.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:
  • What counted as ADHD in the early to mid-90s and how still that colors views today
  • How our understanding of ADHD has evolved
  • The patterns of ADHD across generations
  • How a child’s diagnosis might affect their parents
  • ADHD & Trauma
  • Why people with ADHD might not get diagnosed until college
  • The rainbow of colors of ADHD
  • What ADHD adds to our parenting
  • Empathic Time Travel
  • Blame vs. Responsibility
  • The transition from parenting children to parenting adults
  • The echoes of WWII (Wait… What!?!)
  • Radical Self-Acceptance

 

Links and Such:

From Our Guest:

www.diannwingertcoaching.com

 

From Our Host:

ADHD Essentials Website

ADHD Essentials Facebook Group

 

Aug 03, 2018
30: "Talk to the Teacher" with Meg Flanagan, Author and Founder of MilKids Education Consulting
54:47

On the pod today is Meg Flannagan of MilKids.  Meg is a former teacher turned education consultant.  She’s a military wife, and she started MilKids to support military families, but it has since grown into a flourishing education blog. She’s also the author of “Talk to the Teacher”.

Her book is an outstanding resource for ADHD parents because of the sheer amount of structure it provides around communicating with school.

 

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Similarities between
  • Questions to ask when homework takes too long
  • How long homework should take
  • Homework strategies
  • The lack of breaks and time to move for kids in school
  • Heavy Screen Use at School
  • Assigning playtime for homework
  • Navigating homework resistance
  • #1 Teaching Secret: Kahn Academy
  • How to effectively communicate with teachers
  • “New” Math is in Puberty
  • School in Japan vs. America
  • How the book supports school communication record keeping
  • What to do if the parent/teacher relationship becomes adversarial
  • Ways to keep the parent/teacher relationship from becoming adversarial

 

Links and Such:

From Our Guest

The MilKids Website

The MilKids Facebook Page 

 

From the Episode:

ADHD Essentials Episode 8 on brain breaks w/Steph Letourneau

"What Teachers Make" slam poetry by Taylor Mali

 

From Your Host:

ADHD Essentials Website

ADHD Essentials Facebook Group

Jul 27, 2018
29: The Toxicity of Comparing Ourselves to Others with Kat, mother with ADHD of a Neuro-Typical Son
39:00
Disclaimer:

  Part of today’s show includes our guest sharing a time of struggle, when she considered ending her life.  Obviously she didn’t, and we spend the majority of the episode on other topics, including some of the strategies she used to move past that stage, and being a mom with ADHD.  But I want to be mindful of my listeners, so I’m telling you in advance.  That said, I also recognize that shying away from such topics doesn’t help anyone.

People consider suicide when their emotional pain overwhelms their coping resources, often when they are in the depths of depression.

If you, or someone you know, is considering suicide:

 

This is episode 29.

Today, I’m talking to talking my friend, Kat. Kat is a single mother with ADHD, whose child is neurotypical.  She is among the strongest people I know.

In this episode, Kat tells us about her journey with ADHD and depression.  Along the way, she’ll share why she initially found her ADHD diagnosis to be so devastating, her 3 Ts of Thought, tips on co-parenting, and, of course, her love for her son.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:
  • Kat’s Journey with ADHD & Depression
  • Kat’s Three Ts of Thought and how they have helped her
  • Getting help for suicidal ideation
  • The moralization of ADHD and how it impacts ADHDers
  • Divorce
  • How shame can affect friendships
  • The wrong way to tell your kids they have ADHD
  • Being a mom with ADHD of a neurotypical son
  • The Cult of Being Busy

 

Jul 20, 2018
28: Taking a Gap Year with Katelynn Shea and Stephanie Kozlowski of Dynamy Internship Year
39:13

In this episode, I talk to talking to Katelynn Shea and Stephanie Kozlowski of Dynamy Internship Year. Katelynn is the Director of Admissions at Dynamy, and Stephanie is the Business Manager and Onsite Coordinator for USA Gap Year Fairs.  

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:
  • What is a Gap Year?
  • The benefits of taking a Gap Year for kids with ADHD
  • How Dynamy develops executive function skills
  • Navigating the area between structure and independence
  • The value of natural consequences
  • The value of participating in an internship (perhaps one in blacksmithing?)
  • How Gap Years help kids who are college bound, but not college ready
  • Why colleges like kids who take Gap Years
  • How Gap Years help students make better career choices
  • Finding a good Gap Program with Gap Matcher
  • The USA Gap Year Fairs

 

Links and Such:

Learn more about USA Gap Year Fairs here:

www.USAGapYearFairs.org

Learn more about Dynamy here: www.dynamy.org

Take the Gap Matcher Quiz here: https://gapmatcher.com

Contact Katelynn Shea at SheaK@youinc.org

Contact Katelynn Kozlowski at KozlowskiS@youinc.org

 

And, as always, you can learn more about ADHD Essentials at:

www.ADHDessentials.com.

Contact me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

 

 

Jul 13, 2018
27: Music and ADHD Lessons with Richard Podgur, Music Teacher
33:09

Episode 27 features Richard Podgur.  Richard is a music teacher in private practice. He teaches all ages, toddlers on adulthood, but specializes in teaching kids with ADHD.  As I spoke to him I was struck by just how much Richard’s approach to teaching and managing kids with ADHD applied to situations beyond the teaching of music.  I think you’ll find many of the ideas discussed in today’s episode useful at home.

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Getting kids to practice
  • Time as the great limiting factor
  • Shame and ADHD
  • Taking in the view from a mile up
  • Why ukuleles are better than guitars
  • The importance of creativity and imagination
  • Why kids with ADHD love music
  • Ways to manage kids with ADHD
  • How to help kids struggle through the early learning stages

 

As usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com. Email any questions you have to brendan@ADHDessentiasl.com.

Jul 06, 2018
26: ADHD & Time with Brendan Mahan, Your Humble, Harried Host
10:13

Today's episode is a bit different.  The kids are home from school, I'm launching my first coaching groups, and I get to spend all day Friday driving out of state to visit the in-laws.  So, time has been limited this week.  As a result, rather than posting an interview, I'd discussing the challenges of ADHD as it relates to time.  I hope you enjoy it.   We will return to our ususal interview format next week!

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • The difficulty folks with ADHD have with time awareness
  • The role shortened time horizons play in goal setting and doing things last minute
  • How long it takes your humble host to mow his lawn
  • And why he timed it to find out.
Jun 29, 2018
25: The 20th Anniversary of "Joey Pigza Swallowed the Key" with Jack Gantos, Author
41:00

In today’s episode, we’re talking to Jack Gantos.  Jack is the author of the Joey Pigza book series, about a boy who has ADHD.  The first book of which, Joey Pigza Swallowed the Key, is a National Book Award Finalist, and celebrates it’s 20thanniversary this year.

Learn more about Jack, and all of his books at http://www.jackgantos.com.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • A spolier-free overview of the Joey Pigza books.
  • Why writing the books was a labor of love for Jack.
  • How things have changed for kids with ADHD over the past 20 years.
  • Rambling childhoods.
  • The value of Audiobooks.

 

Registration for the ADHD Parenting groups closes on Monday, June 25th! To learn more,and get on the registration list, go to www.ADHDessentials/parentgroups.

Jun 22, 2018
24: Nutrient Rich Boredom with James Garrett of Brain By Design
45:45

In today’s episode, we get to learn from James Garrett of Brain By Design.  James has been studying and teaching about the brain for over a decade. He’s passionate about turning this academic knowledge about the brain into practical tools that anyone can use.  And today, he’s doing it through the lens on ADHD!

In Today’s Episode:

  • The Four Qualities of restorative activities.
  • The important role that resting (and recess!) plays in performance.
  • Why tablets, phones, & TV exhaust our mental resources.
  • Managing the pull of our phones.
  • And nutrient rich boredom.

 

James can be found at https://www.brainbydesign.com.

Also,Stephanie Letourneau from episode 8 is trying to build a curriculum on Mindfulness for her third grade classroom. Click Here for her Donors Choose page. And, if you're interested in the upcoming ADHD Essentials Parent Coaching Groups, registration closes on June 25th.  So now's the time to register.  Here's a link to the ADHD Essentials Parent Coaching Groups information page if you want to know more.

Jun 15, 2018
23: Dinner and a Show with Meg - Wife, Mom, Sister, and Daughter to folks ADHD with ADHD
46:47

Meg is surrounded by ADHD! But she works in the theater, so she can handle it.

In today’s episode, we discuss:

  • Why extended family dinners make it hard for kids to eat
  • How to get younger kids to eat a more varied diet
  • How letting go of control can help you maintain it
  • Why theater is a good choice for middle and high school kids with ADHD
  • Skills kids learn doing theater
  • And transitions

 

Want to learn more aobut the ADHD Essentials parent coaching groups?  Go to www.ADHDessentials.com/parentgroups. Or join by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

 

Registration for the Parent Coaching Groups closes on Monday, June 25th.

Jun 08, 2018
22: Reading More, Calendar Strategies, and Thoughts on College, with Ryan McRae, the ADHD Nerd!
34:32

The ADHD Parenting groups are filling up!  Don’t miss out on this opportunity!

Twice a week, for six weeks, we’ll be looking at ADHD parenting through the themes of structure and systems, communication, emotions, self-care, connection, and questions. We’ll strategize ways to make mornings smoother,  compliance easier, and conversations deeper.

Space is limited! Email me today to save a spot!  Brendan@ADHDessentials.com 

My Guest today is Ryan McRae.  The ADHD Nerd!

Ryan is a former residence director, and taught freshmen how to succeed in college.  With so many kids getting ready to take that step, I thought we’d get out ahead of it!  But don’t be fooled. The tips in today’s episode apply to all ages, elementary school through adulthood!

We talk about why high school is a restaurant and college is a buffet, strategies for organizing a calendar, how to get more reading in, and the value of an emergency productivity kit!

Ryan can be found at his blog, www.theADHDnerd.com, dedicated to helping people be more productive, successful and happy.  And if you go to www.theADHDnerd.com/essentials, you’ll find a free book waiting for you: 4 Apps to Help You Focus.

Jun 01, 2018
21: A Mother's Story of Bullying, Homeschooling, and Doing the Best You Can With What You Have, with Samantha MacLeod, Homeschooler and Mother of ADHD Kids
01:12:43

This might be a controversial one! 

We’re talking homeschooling.  As you know, I’m a proponent of the public schools.  But that doesn’t mean I’m going to ignore the segment of the population that feels homeschooling is a better option for their kids with ADHD.  To that end, in this episode, I am talking to Samatha MacLeod.

Samantha is the mother of five kids, three of whom have ADHD.  Which, as you will learn in the episode, is part of what led her to homeschooling.  Samantha’s story is a compelling one.  She describes the various trials and tribulations her family has faced in recent years, and how they confronted each with support for each other, a thirst for knowledge, and a great deal of resilience.

She also talks about the missteps and false starts that she took on her road to learning how best to serve her kids by homeschooling.  And how she managed to overcome them, and give her kids the support they needed in order to succeed.

 

Samantha can be found on YouTube at Creatively Misaligned Homeschool where she vlogs about her experiences parenting and homeschooling her kids with ADHD and Dyslexia. When not engaged in running a business, politics, her community, vlogging or homeschooling, Samantha also knits and makes mead.  She lives in Calgary Alberta, with her spouse, 5 kids (ages 15, 12, 12, 7, and 5),and 2 dogs.

 

Samantha’sYouTube channel, Creatively Misaligned, can be found here:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIlARNCwbn5xvG3VyDoG0EA?view_as=subscriber

 

Samantha is a scheduled speaker at Inspired Calgary in September, 2018: 

http://inspiredcalgary.com/speakers/

 

Want to join the ADHD Essentials Parent Coaching Groups?  Registration opened this week!

Email me at brendan@ADHDessentials.com to learn more!

 

And as usual, you can find me at www.ADHDessentials.com.  Drop on by!

 

May 25, 2018
20: Using the Voice as a Parenting Tool, with Tracy Goodwin, Voice Coach
48:01

We've all gotten stuck in the pattern of speaking to our kids in a way that is loud and too fast.  Especailly when the frustration and anxiety spike.  In this episode, voice coach Tracy Goodwin talks to us about how to break that cycle, and teaches us new ways to think about using our voice as a pareting tool so we can move beyond yelling.

Tracy Goodwin is a voice coach and owner of Captivate the Room.  Over the last 25 plus years Tracy has coached hundreds of people around the globe on how to step into their voice power, sound more confident, heal their voice story, free their voice and make an impact with their message.  Parents included.

Tracy can be found at www.captivatetheroom.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com.  

Let me know how you're using your voice by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And if you'd like to be in the upcoming coaching groups, the email above is good for that too!  Regitration starts this Monday, 5/21/18.

May 18, 2018
19: iGotThis with Rich Shramm, ADHD Dad & App Developer
46:20

Rich Shramm is a dad who has ADHD, whose kids also have ADHD.  Turns out, there's an app for that.  Because Rich created the iGotThis app. 

As Rich says, "iGotThis is a task-focused, life management solution".  It helps kids build their self-esteem by supporting their success. And, helps parents monitor and support their kids through life’s daily productivity challenges.  

 

We discuss how the app supports kids in staying on track, and helps parents keep track of things. (It can even help you plan for things that are a year away!)  But this episode is about more than the app.  We also discuss the emotional impact ADHD can have on those who have it (even if we don’t call it the Wall of Awful), how small failures can lock up our kids’ potential, and how breaking tasks into smaller chunks supports success.

This is not a commerical.  I was not compensated in any way for this episode.  I just wanted to share an exciting new tool with you.

Learn more about iGot This by going to their website, https://www.iGotThis.com/ 

If you dig it, sign up for a FREE 15 day trial at https://www.iGotThis.com/signup. Once you've signed up , you can download the free app from the Apple app store or Google Play store and sign in with your newly created account.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com.  

Let me know what you thnk of today's episode by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And if you'd like to be in the upcoming coaching groups, the email above is good for that too!

 

May 11, 2018
18: "What's The Skill Set That's Missing?" with Chandler Creedon, School Psychologist
50:37

Chandler Creedon is a veteran educator with over 40 years of experience, working as a school psychologist, counselor, and college professor. He’s also a former professor of mine, and one of my mentors.  It was an honor to have him on the show.

Learn more about today's show at http://www.adhdessentials.com/whats-skill-set-thats-missing/

I'm going to be launching ADHD parent coaching groups soon. If you're interested, email me here: Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com

May 04, 2018
17: The Baskin Robbins of ADHD with Kate Barrett, ADHD Mother, Wife, and Coach
49:20

It was great to get to talk to my friend Kate Barrett again.  I know her from the ADHD coaching world.  She's the founding coach of Coaching CVilleout of Charlottesville, VA, as well as the mother of sons and the wife of a husband who have ADHD.  Her love for her family really shines through in this episode, and her coaching skills do as well.

If you're in the Charlottesville, VA area, and need a coach, I encourage you to reach out to Kate.  In today's episode, she shares only shares a few of her coaching strategies, but I'm sure they'll be a huge help.  We talk about treating ADHD issues as a symptom of a problem, rather than a problem in themselves, the value of ownership, and how to manage your non-ADHD kid, if the kid with ADHD tends to get more of the focus.

 

Kate can be found at https://coachingcville.com.

As usual, fee free to email me at brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And the website is www.ADHDessentials.com.

Enjoy the show!

Apr 27, 2018
16: The Struggle Makes Us Stronger, with Gabriel Villarreal, Strength & Condition Coach and Mental Health Counselor Specialized in ADHD
46:25

In this episode, I'm talking exercise and fitness, while battlnig a cold!  Gabriel Villarreal is the owner of ADHD Counseling in the Roanoke Valley, as well as a strenth and conditioning coach.  It's that latter bit that we focus on in the episode.  We talk about the importance of struggling, growth from failure, and the neurological benefits of exercise for the ADHD brain.  (Though, that doesn't coem unitl the end.)

Gabriel was great to talk to, and you can be sure he's going to come back.  Both on and off the air we noticed that there were many intersting places for us to go in futire episodes.  I expect he'll become a "friend of the show".

 

Learn more about Gabriel at www.RoanokeADHD.com.

Or find him on his Facebook page.

Or just email him at gabriel@roanokeadhd.com.

 

And as usual, I can be reached at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And the episode website is http://www.adhdessentials.com/podcast-16-struggle-makes-us-stronger-gabriel-villarreal-strength-condition-coach-mental-health-counselor-specialized-adhd/

Enjoy the show!

 

Apr 20, 2018
ADHD Friendly Systems in the Household with Marina Darlow, Mother & ADHD Systems Expert
44:11

Marina Darlow from Vision Framework visits us to talk about how creating systems can benefit families affected by ADHD, as well as what makes for a good system.

We aslo discuss wanting to do good by your family, the characteristics of a good system, the benefits of having good systems, managing time vs. managing energy, and the value of transition rituals.

You can learn more about Marina at www.vision-framework.com

or at the following social media links: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VisionFramework/ Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/VisionFramework/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marinadarlow/

Find more indepth show notes, and some free gifts from Maria, here: http://www.adhdessentials.com/podcast-15-adhd-friendly-systems-household/

And as usual, I can be reached at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

Enjoy the show!

 

Apr 12, 2018
Flipped Classrooms and The Wall of Awful (Finally!) with Denielle Stasa, Middle School English Teacher
47:58

In today's episode, I get to talk to Denielle Stasa, a middle school English teacher, and former co-worker of mine.  Denielle has flipped her classroom.  Her students watch instructional videos she’s created for them at home for homework, and then apply the lessons by doing the work in class with her where she can better support them, and monitor their progress.  

We talka bout how she flipped her classroom, the benefit of focusing on the process, and how success in writing leads to success in reading for her students.  There's lots of important ideas in here that can be readily applied both at home and at school.

Oh, and I finally describe the Wall of Awful.

I'm going to be launching ADHD parent coaching groups soon. If you're interested, email me here: Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com

Apr 05, 2018
Seeing an ADHD Diagnosis as a Manual with Kimberly, mother of a son with ADHD
49:03

Kimberly has a son diagnosed with ADHD, and she sees that diagnosis as a manual to help her better understand how to help him succeed.  Over the course of the interview, she shares her son's passions and struggles, as well as the things she has learned as a result of their family's journey. Kimberly has some amazing stories about her son, including the challenge of her son's Geography test, his misadventures with his grandfather, and the various entrepreneurial ventures he's been pursuing in his quest for a Tesla.

Let me know what you think of today's episode by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com

 

P.S. You can find The Jordan Harbinger Show here.

Mar 29, 2018
Reducing The Barrier to Entry with Brendan Mahan, ADHD Poet
09:36

Today's episode is a bit different.  Due to the recent snow storms, and an exceptionally busy month, I don't have the 6-8 hours needed to edit a full interview.  In today's episode, I go back to my English teacher roots, and blend them with my ADHD coach skills to create something short, sweet, and actionable.  I hope you enjoy it. We're looking at the struggle that comes about for those of us with ADHD when the "barrier for entry" is too high, and thinking about how we can reduce those barriers.  Oh, and I read an original poem.  (I promise it all makes sense.)

Let me know about your expereicnes/struggles with barriers to entry, and how you're overcome them at  Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com

A copy of the poem in today's episode can be found here:

http://www.adhdessentials.com/barriertoentrypoem/

 

Mar 21, 2018
Respect as the Foundation of Family with Jessica, ADHD Mom
47:23

In today’s episode, I talk to Jessica. She ahs ADHD, her husband ahs ADHD, and one of her two sons also has ADHD. Like many good ADHDers, Jessica has thrown out the rulebook for how things are “supposed to be done”, and is doing what works instead. As a family, they’ve built a foundation of mutual respect, and they address problems head on. They don’t play games, or hold grudges, and it’s clearly working for them. 

We talk about ADHD at home, in school, and in sewing class. And Jessica shares stories about her dad’s lack of a filter, her own time in high school, and why little boys and living plants don’t mix.

Let me know what you think of today's episode by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com.  Show Notes: http://www.adhdessentials.com/podcast-11-building-foundation-respect-jessica-adhd-mom/

 

Mar 14, 2018
Zerberts, Sensory Challenges, and Crayons in the Dryer with Eric Tivers, Parent with ADHD of a thrice-exceptional son
43:38

Today’s episode is a conversation with my friend Eric Tivers. Eric is an ADHD coach, and licensed clinical social worker. He’s the host of the ADHD reWired podcast, and runs the ADHD reWired adult coaching groups.

But in this episode, he’s talking as a dad who has ADHD, parenting a thrice-exceptional child who is gifted, and who has autism and ADHD. We discuss the challenges of transferring skills from work to home, the role sensory stimulation plays in his life, including how overwhelming it can be, and he tells the epic tale of cleaning crayons out of his dryer.

 

Eric can be found at www.ADHDreWired.com.

You can learn more about his coaching groups at www.coachingreWired.com.

And the reWired podcast can be found at www.ADHDreWired.com/podcast

Let me know what you think of today's episode by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

As usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com

 

Show Notes

 

2:03    Hardest job he’s ever had

3:15    Son doesn’t know why he did, Dad doesn’t know why he didn’t

3:43    Planning and being “on” as dad

3:59    Son has always needed/gotten less sleep

4:34    Transitioning is hard because Eric is “state-based”

6:05    Getting home after son is in bed

6:44    Working on shifting gears

6:54    Adulting is hard

7:10    Making a dentist appointment

7:32    “ADHD is frustrating and comical at the same time.”

7:43    “…and I’m responsible for a life!”

8:13    Eric is grateful for wife and her acceptance of his ADHD

9:09    “Acceptance grows when gratitude shows up.”

9:23    Phone calls are hard

10:29  Supportive spouses supplying strategies

11:09  Filling tires and taking Adderall

11:55  The struggle to bring successful work strategies home

12:12  Environmentally-based to-do lists

12:37 Dad needs checklists and reminders for homework, too!

13:09  On the transfer of concepts from one environment to another

14:02  Generalization of concepts

14:11 Stepping back professionally from Autism work

15:24  Uncarved pumpkins

16:04  Needing a plan at home as well as at work

16:38  On trying to remember names

17:29  How to fake it when you forget a teacher’s name

18:23  Wild wife memory skills

19:00  Eric the hippy

19:21 Never enough time

20:10  Fluff only after 8pm

21:12  “Dishwasher moments”

22:04  Wandering assumptions

22:32  Undermined at the gym

23:12  Father and son podcasts and projects

23:46  Creating space for son to “let him be him”

24:05 Potty humor

24:33 Son is linguistically gifted

26:13  On Pokemon

28:05  On wrestling and rough play

28:40  Activate Zerbert-Tron

29:21  Teaching boundaries and body respect

30:13  The power and challenge of reassuring hugs

30:55  Eric opens his parenting toolbox

31:05  The row your boat strategy

31:29  Developing cues to breathe deeply

32:36 Meet them where they are, and start with sensory needs

33:40  Teach self-regulation strategies

34:45  Give Feedback with self-esteem in mind

35:42  X-Ray blankets and dentist nerves

36:14  Family visits and sensory overwhelm

37:45  Ending Essentials

38:46  Eric’s not-so proud parenting moments

42:37  Wrap-up

 

Mar 07, 2018
Playing and Pausing with Dr. Kirsten Milliken, ADHD Parent, author, and ADHD Expert
39:25

I had a blast talking to my friend Dr. Kirsten Milliken. We started off doing an episode for her show, Your ADHD Life, and wrapped up with this episode of ADHD Essentials. Kirsten is a psychologist, a mother (with ADHD) of two boys (one with ADHD, one without), and an ADHD coach! So there was a lot to talk about.

In today’s episode, we discuss about her journey to getting an ADHD diagnosis as an adult, her book PlayDHD, and the importance of learning how to pause when moments get heated. She also indulged me as I told her about a scavenger hunt I created for my boys that was inspired by her work. There’s a lot in this one. I hope you enjoy it!

 

Dr. Kirsten Milliken can be found at YourADHDLife.com.

Her book, PlayDHD, can be found here. And you can contact her here.

 

Let me know what you think of today's episode by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com

My blog post on how I created the scavenger hunt is here.

  

Show Notes

 

2:06     How Dr. Kirsten became diagnosed with ADHD

4:07     Missing signs of ADHD because you’re too close to them

5:11     The “ah-ha” moment of diagnosis

6:18     Professionals who “get” ADHD tend to have ADHD

6:49     Not all clinicians understand ADHD at a deep enough level

7:45     ADHD is a matter of degree

8:30     Does our distracted culture make it harder to prove ADHD is valid?

8:58     Yes. Unless you have a good metaphor

9:31     ADHD, asthma, and our distracted culture

11:23   Going back to Dr. Kirsten as a parent

11:38   ADHD adds a lot of fun!

12:01   Folks with ADHD can be frustrating for nonADHDers

12:52   Oftentimes strong emotions spread from mm to son, and vice versa

13:15   Wanting things to be better for our kids

14:03   The emotional challenges of ADHD

14:31   The movie “Up” gets Oliver down

14:58   “As a parent, I wanna fix that!”

15:17   Uncomfortable emotions mean you care

15:49   The challenge of being less emotionally reactive

16:04   Naming our emotions helps us control them

16:27   They’re not trying to upset us

16:56   “This is” vs. “You are”

17:04   PlayDHD

17:45   Brendan and Kirsten’s first meeting

18:28   Usibng play to help kids manage ADHD

19:18   The link between ADHD and play

20:01   What the doc means by play

21:03   Using play to help kids clean their room

23:00   Kirsten inspires Brendan’s scavenger hunt

23:53   The clues built the skills

25:05   Addressing social emotional needs with the hunt

26:41   You can use play to teach lids things

27:02   There’s a reason kids with ADHD can be class clowns.

27:16   “Just a doctor”

28:01   Coaching is the best model for treating ADHD

28:15   Coaching vs. Therapy

28:44   Therapy is about “fixing” yourself

29:19   Coaching is about where you want to go

30:41   Your ADHD Life

32:36   If you understand, you can help

32:47   Ending Essential

34:13   Managing the pause

35:58   Finding the pause after the reaction

37:41   Modeling the pause

Feb 28, 2018
Slow Mornings, Smashed Tasks, and Kindness Clipboards with Stephanie Letourneau, 3rd Grade Teacher
40:09

On one of the recent snow days, I sent a message to my friend Stephanie Letourneau and asked if she’d let me interview her for the podcast. She agreed, and I’m glad she did. What followed was an excellent discussion about helping our kids break down tasks, manage their emotions, and feel included.

Another topic we discuss is the challenging shift that occurs between 2nd and 3rd grade. This type of shift also happens between 3rd and 4th grade, and during the transitions from elementary to middle school, middle school to high school, and from high school to college. So, although the strategies Stephanie shares come from the perspective of a third grade classroom, they can be adapted across grade and age levels, and used both in school, and at home.

If you need any help adapting the ideas in this episode, feel free to contact me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com

 

Show Notes: 

2:05     Why the transition from 2nd to 3rd grade is hard for students and for Stephanie

4:06     How the transition affects ADHD students

4:44     Learning to read vs. Reading to learn

6:43     Summer regression

7:06     Smash the Task!

7:13     The value of starting slow

8:08     Smash the Task Part II

9:57     One task at a time with clear instructions

10:16   Two kids with ADHD: One’s done, the other hasn’t started.

11:04   Brendan tries to translate the tips hiding in the story

13:10   Writing is thinking

13:45   Choice helps with engagement

14:44   But too much choice can be overwhelming

15:55   Know your kid’s learning styles

16:20   Things that work for ADHD kids are just good teaching strategies

16:32   School is not an office!

16:51   It’s not in the curriculum, but teaching kids to recognize their emotions matters

17:30   Slowing down the morning is about getting the emotions in line

17:56   10 minute guided meditations help with transition

18:40   Spaghetti toes

19:36   NOTE: An OT is an occupational therapist

20:13   Putting work into helping kids transition

21:05   Teaching strategies, development gaps, and the nature of ADHD

22:57   Grade-to-grade transitions, ADHD, and regression

24:25   Making sure their brains are ready

25:07   Allow time for transition. Even at home.

25:39   Alternative Seating

27:45   Systems and discussions help navigate seating (and other) conflicts.

28:11   ADHD kids like the rockers. (Tired kids do too!)

28:50   Go Noodle

29:38   Sometimes you have to stop and take a break

30:25   A lesson from Stephanie’s grandma

31:02   Meditation and “A Stitch in Time Save Nine”.

32:03   YouTube advocates lying to children

33:37   ADHD kids are more likely to be bullied

33:52   Making the classroom safe for everyone.

34:58   Creating an inclusive environment

35:29   Kindness Clipboards

37:36   We’re all in this together

38:45   Positive Attitude

39:13   Ending Essential

Feb 21, 2018
Curious Accountability with Cameron Gott, ADHD Coach and Author
37:20

It was my honor to talk about ADHD with Cameron Gott. He’s been coaching people affected by ADHD for over 15 years, and is one of the people I most wanted to get on the pod. So, when he told me he liked the show, I jumped at the chance to get him on. I’m glad I did.

We talk about his new book, Curious Accountability (co written with Casey Moore), as well as the trials of bringing unmedicated kids to Walmart, the importance and challenge of reflection, and what it was like for both of us growing up with ADHD. The conversation was excellent. I learned a great deal from it.  

Cameron’s book is phenomenal. I highly recommend it.  

Without geeking out about the whole thing, I really enjoyed the concept of presence as it relates to Curious Accountability, and the way the three conversations discussed in the book provide an effective communication frame that can be used to talk to our kids about the challenges they face. Done right, it can limit the amount of intense confrontation and emotionality that so often derail those conversations.

 

Cameron Gott can be found at www.CameronGott.com. The first chapter of Curious Accountability can be found at: https://www.camerongott.com/2018/01/24/curious-accountability-chapter-one/

 

As usual, I can be found at www.ADHDessentials.com.

Please let me know what you thought of today’s episode by emailing me at Brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

 

SHOW NOTES:

3:10     Cameron’s first experience working with kids with ADHD.

4:31     Certain environments invite certain behaviors

5:50     Teaching trip plans

6:14     Mine the learning and apply forward

7:15     Putting accountability in a positive light

8:11     What accountability means to most people… And what gets lost in it

9:08     What Curious Accountability is about.

9:29     Pausing, Pivoting, and ADHD

9:47     Light the Rocket and Go!

11:14   Fitting reflections into the day

11:59   Don't get us started on recess!

13:15   Just enough structure to be successful

14:17   Using structure outside of the plan/schedule

15:43   ¾ of the battle of ADHD

16:06   Presence and Curious Accountability

17:30   Curiosity and assuming good

19:13   How Cameron’s ADHD shows up

19:35   Trading Volume and Speed for Mastery

20:05   The student side of the pressure to get 100% right away

21:28   Bringing accountability out in the open in our relationships

21:57   Keep an eye on the bigger picture

22:19   The 3 Conversations of Curious Accountability

23:56   The Big Carrot in the Sky

24:21   Conversation 1

24:37   Conversation 2           

24:27   Conversation 3

24:57   Where the failure in the system happens

25:14   The ADHD Experience (Not being able to do what’s on the plan)

25:25   Sometimes the plan has to fail so you know what to address

25:45   How curiosity plays in

26:13   Mirror Neurons and Modeling

27:33   The Value of pairing accountability with curiosity

28:29   You need a safe place to share what’s going on…

29:20   …but it has to come from the top down

29:42   Radical transparency: Apply it at home!

30:11   The power of assumption

30:33   Curiosity is a muscle to build

31:11   Tone of voice matters

31:42   What would have helped when Cameron was in high school

32:43   Timing matters when asking questions

33:17   Prefrontal Cortex shutdown (is a good name for a band)

34:29   Ending Essential

34:59   The book is Phenomenal

35:51   Extra Bonus Ending Essential

Feb 14, 2018
Love Languages, Twin Gaps, and Being Married to ADHD with Sandy, Wife and Mom to ADHD
47:52

Sandy and I had a great conversation about her husband, her kids, and the way ADHD affects their family.  One aspect of this episode that I love is the symmetry of it -  the topics we discuss early on in our conversation return again at the end, allowing us to go into more depth in them the second time through.  

I was impressed with Sandy's honesty and willingess to be vulerable, as well as the clear love she has for her husband.  Being married to ADHD can be hard at times, and I appreciated her willingness to go there during her time on the show.  

And she seemed to find some meaning in the thoughts and ideas that I shared.  Which is nice, since helping people is my main goal in doing this.

I hope you find meaning in this episode as well.

As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com.

Or email me at brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

SHOW NOTES:

1:46     Always 15 minutes early or 30 minutes late

2:55     Chris’s diagnosis leads to Dad’s tears

4:06     ADHD, litigation, and the need for excitement

5:18     Last minute struggles and working in bursts

7:13     Travelling in the car together

8:32     Struggles with consistency

8:54     Feeling like she has to overcompensate for Chris’s ADHD

11:26   Three kids, and one might have ADHD

13:40   Two years old and counting in three languages

14:12   How Sandy met Chris

15:06   Married to ADHD is a mixed bag

15:47   ADHD and the gap between the twins

17:00   The kid who walks into walls

18:34   Swimming lessons and mercurial moods

20:36   W’s Everywhere

22:44   What ADHD adds

24:24   Self Medicating with Surfing

24:59   Overcompensating after hurting feelings

26:51   Empathy beats fixing

27:06   Prepping the ADHD person in advance

28:44   The biggest challenge is carrying the mental load

31:58   But it depends on the day

34:15   “Is there anything you need me to do?”

35:31   Chris addressing Sandy’s needs makes a world of difference

36:17   A strong base of love and understanding helps a lot

38:35   The 5 Love Languages

40:57   Dopamine and small vs. large efforts

43:09   ADHD is just one aspect of the relationship

44:19   Communication and problem-solving

46:10   The moralization of ADHD

46:40   Sandy reflects again on Chris’s dad’s reaction to Chris’s ADHD diagnosis

 

Feb 07, 2018
Transitions, Testing, and and Helping Kids Understand Who They Are with Cara Fleming, School Psychologist
46:50

Cara Fleming is a school psychologist at the high school level, as well as a transition consultant.

What’s a transition consultant? I’m glad you asked. Transition consultants help kids successfully make the leap from high school to college and/or the workforce.

Cara was great to interview. We laughed a fair amount, looked at things in new ways, and discovered some interesting things along the way. Cara talks transitions, testing, and shares why she isn’t a geneticist. Her knowledge and enthusiasm really shine through. I’m sure you’ll enjoy the show.

Cara can help with questions around transition from high school, and also performs independent testing for families looking into Special Education diagnosis in the New England area. She can be contacted at CaraFlemingTransitions@gmail.com.

As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com.

Or email me at brendan@ADHDessentials.com. P.S. This was the first episode I recorded for the podcast. I’ve learned some things since then (mostly on the technical end - editing & recording stuff), but I’m pretty happy with it.

 

SHOW NOTES:

2:27    The child HAS to be involved in the transition process

3:31     Kids need to have something they can succeed at

5:49     Disability Awareness

7:18     Disability documentation and the transition to college

8:08     Some colleges specialize in students with disabilities

10:13   Self-Advocacy and College

11:46   ADHD Supports in College

14:06   504 vs. IEP

16:42   Why Special Ed Teachers want to be useless

18:31   But, what if my kid isn’t going to college!?!

19:01   Licenses and 504s

19:56   How to ask for accommodations in the real world

22:28   Know your disability

23:15   “How can I do a better job for you?”

23:38   Sparkle! Sparkle! Sparkle!… Documentation

25:55   Empathy for testers and school staff

27:47   Credentials to look for in outside evaluators

29:05   The Historical Perspective

30:04   ADHD leaves a footprint in cognitive testing

31:55   Transition Plans for the Post-High School World

32:45   A Three-Legged Stool on a Really Nice Rug

32:59   The Academic Leg (which Cara turns into a prong)

33:12   Performance based tasks of attention

33:35   Cara changes the stool by adding a fourth leg/prong

34:32   Cara recaps the leg/prongs

34:48   The rug is for transition planning

35:35   ONET

38:14   You have to know what’s bad about the job you want

38:55   Cara talks about transitioning from a Geneticist to a poet (to a school psychologist)

40:37   What Cara loves about her job! (Besides the kids)

41:16   Why helping kids understand who they are matters

42:31   Self knowledge shifts the locus of control to the individual

43:43   Cara’s daughter turning 15 gave her a new empathy for parents

45:06   Ending Essentials

Jan 31, 2018
Routines, Giggles and Belonging with Dan and Stacy, ADHD Parents
43:53

 As I spoke with Dan and Stacy, our guests for this episode, I was struck by how clearly their love for each other and their kids came across.  Dan's thoughfulness about how ADHD affects their family of four, and Stacy's understanding and acceptance of the struggles it presents were moving.  As was their clear support for one another, and their children. I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I enjoyed recording it.

As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com.

Or email me at brendan@ADHDessentials.com.

 

Episode 004: Routines, Giggles, and Belonging with Dan and Stacy

 

2:44     Child Evaluation leads to Parental Diagnosis

4:42     ADHD has always been there

8:22     Counting Down for Compliance, not Completion

8:51     Routine, Practice and Habit

12:37   Kids as “Little Recorders of Us”       

14:19   Giggles in the Walls

16:25   The Value of Routines

17:07   Disrupted Routines

18:32   Relationships and Belonging

24:44   Overcoming Fear at Disneyland

35:19   Evening Routines

36:06   Love and Humility

38:36   Catching Lessons

39:04   Empathy and Marginalization

41:25   Ending Essentials

 

Jan 23, 2018
Separating Attitude from Performance with Michele Monteiro, Special Education Teacher
35:49

Episode 3 finds me talking to Michele Monteiro.  She's a special education teacher at a school for kids with social, emotional, and other disabilities.  Many of her students have ADHD.

We talk aobut how students taking, or not taking, their prescribed medication affects both themselves, and their classmates, the importance of letting kids earn back your opinion of them when they mess up, and the transformative power of chef Boyardee and ramen.

Side Note:

During our conversation, Michele and I express frustration with the the fact thatn not all educators are able to understand/respect the social and emotional challenges of their students. No offense is intended. I’ve worked with a great many teachers and administrators who deeply value social emotional learning. And, given that you’re here, I’m sure you do too.  

Thanks for listening!  I hope you enjoy it.  

As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com. Show Notes:

2:10      Bit by ADHD

3:40      Time Blindness

6:31      How not taking Prescribed Meds affects classroom 

10:16      Shame and ADHD

16:18      Effort Grades

17:26      Separating attitude from performance

18:08      Earning point back by doing well afterward

19:15      Teaching Self-Care

21:06      Why Projects don’t work for Michele’s population

22:08      Emotions Beat Academics

22:31      ADHD & Comorbidities

23:12      Why Michele Loves Her Job

24:38      The Value of Kids Putting Their Heads on Their Desks

27:31      Managing the Emotional Drain

27:47      The Value of Shared Experience

29:23      The Transformative Power of Chef Boyardee and Ramen

30:23      On Self-Care

31:55      Self Care Outside of School

32:31      Being Goofy in Class

34:22      Ending Essential 

Jan 16, 2018
What Parents Have to Learn with Sam, Parent of a child with ADHD
41:50

ADHD Essentials, Episode 2!

In this episode, I'm talking with Sam Gardner.  Sam is the mother of a daughter with ADHD.  (Even better, her daughter is in middle school!)  Sam shares the frustration, joy and adventure of being part of a family affected by ADHD.  We talk about selfcare, the importance of learning how best to manage your kid with ADHD, and the importance of recognizing growth in yourself and your child. Thanks for listening!  I hope you enjoy it.  

As usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com.

 

Ep 2 Sam Gardner Show Notes

 

2:00                 How School reveals ADHD

2:40                 Why you might not be a Helicopter Parent

3:30                 Managing Teachers when you have a kid with ADHD

4:27                 School Struggles

5:17                 Letting Go and Letting the Kid Take the Lead

7:45                 The Importance of Breaking Parental habits to Help the Kid

9:21                 ADHD Outside of School

9:34                 Fearlessness and Getting Lost at Target

11:07               Disney’s “The Circle”

12:31               Social Media & Technology Challenges

17:23               Good Things ADHD Adds

20:27               The Value of Having Friends Who also have kids with ADHD

20:50               The Ripple Effect of Joining the School Play

22:05              What Parents Have to Learn

25:40               Self Care

30:05               How an Outside Perspective Helps you See Growth

34:24               On Medication

36:57               Judgment from Other Parents

39:10               Ending Essential

 

 

 

Jan 08, 2018
Overview of ADHD with Dr. David Nowell, ADHD Expert
53:19

It's the very first episode of the ADHD Essentials podcast!   In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. David Nowell.  He's a clinical neuropsychologist, international speaker, and renowned expert on ADHD.  

This episode is an overview of ADHD.  We talk about it all!  How ADHD works in the brain, the role of dopamine, behavior management, reframing perspectives, even mindfulness.  It's a wide ranging discussion filled with science, stories and strategies.  

 

Dr. Nowell can be found at DrNowell.com.

And, as usual, I can be found at ADHDessentials.com

 

Thanks for listening!

 

Ep 1 Dr. David Nowell Show Notes

 

1:30                 10 Second Grocery Store Description of ADHD

3:52                 ADHD/Asthma Metaphor

4:37                 Diagnosis Based on Severity / Functional Impairment 

6:12                 ADHD Genes, and heritability 

8:32                 ADHD Brain Basis

11:16               ADHD Look-a-likes

12:20               Major Life Changes and ADHD

13:12               Major Life Changes from the Kid’s Perspective

18:52              Systems for Kids to Manage ADHD Now and in the future.

19:39               Raising a Healthy, Well Adjusted 26 Year Old

22:44               Managing ADHD with Bright Line Rules

35:33               On Attention

38:51               Reframing the Point of Homework

40:44               Stories about ADHD Testing

42:32               How to get paid $800/hr… Sort of.

44:08               Brief Recap

44:35               Mindfulness as an ADHD Treatment

Jan 08, 2018
The Plan for the Pod, with Eric Tivers
19:34

Welcome to the origin episode of ADHD Essentials!  I'm your host, Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., M.S.  I'm a former teacher and school counselor, turned ADHD coach, speaker and consultant.  

In this episode we'll be talking about the plan for the pod, and how it came about.  I'll also share some of my credentails, and preview some of the upcoming episodes and guests!

The format is a little different than how the rest of the show's episodes will work.  In this one, I'm joined by my friend friend Eric Tivers, host of ADHD reWired.  Eric's been encouraging me to do this for sometime, so I couldn't think of anyone better to start out with.  In this origin episode, he'll be interviewing me.  Moving forward, however, I'll be the one asking the questions.

  

Eric can be found at ADHDreWired.com. And I can be found at ADHDessentials.com.

 

Thanks for listening!

 

Ep. 00 with Eric Tivers Notes

 

1:39               How Eric and Brendan met

2:00                Brendan is 5’6”, but his message is “the stuff of giants”

3:15                 Preview of Guests

5:02                 The Concept Behind the Podcast: 3 Silos

6:04                 What Parents will get from listening

7:20                 What teachers will get from listening

8:09                 On The Importance of Science

9:55                 What Brendan is Most excited about

11:28               Brendan’s Qualifications

12:41               Parent Groups? 

15:38               Bright Line Rules

17:57              Contact Info

Jan 08, 2018