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Steve Cauthren
 Jul 6, 2021
One of the best shows out there, and my favorite! Feedback Friday might be the best Q&A ever!

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 May 3, 2021
Sorry, calling a high school science teacher someone who didn't have dreams is a deal breaker for me. Have respect for those who have the patience and the compassion to work with the youth of today. I'm out.


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(Apple's Best of 2018) In-depth conversations with people at the top of their game. Jordan Harbinger unpacks guests' wisdom into practical nuggets you can use to impact your work, life, and relationships. Learn from leaders (Ray Dalio, Simon Sinek, Mark Cuban), entertainers (Moby, Tip "T.I." Harris, Dennis Quaid), scientists (Neil deGrasse Tyson, Bill Nye), athletes (Kobe Bryant, Dennis Rodman, Tony Hawk) and an eclectic array of fascinating minds, from art forgers and arms traffickers to spies and psychologists.

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542: Nicole Perlroth | Who's Winning the Cyberweapons Arms Race?
01:23:49

Nicole Perlroth (@nicoleperlroth) is an award-winning cybersecurity journalist for The New York Times and bestselling author of This Is How They Tell Me the World Ends: The Cyberweapons Arms Race.

What We Discuss with Nicole Perlroth:

  • The startlingly simple reasons why most nation-states now resort to using cyberwarfare tactics before conventional weaponry in acts of aggression -- to increasingly devastating effect.
  • How industries are so interconnected that there's almost no way for a cyberattack to target one victim without endangering countless others on all sides of a conflict (which is why you may have Putin to blame if there's a Cadbury chocolate egg shortage next Easter).
  • Why leaving the security of 85 percent of its critical infrastructure up to privatization makes the United States especially vulnerable to cyberwarfare attacks.
  • The massive amount of intellectual property that's been lost to hackers -- from the formula for Coca-Cola to information that would allow China and other rival nations to catch up with the United States in the nuclear arms race.
  • What Nicole believes the US should do to push back against these threats and the governments that perpetrate them -- and ensure that it's not inadvertently one of them.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/542

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Aug 03, 2021
541: Spare the Pity Party; My Life is Just Restarting | Feedback Friday
00:53:51

Four years ago, you lost your spouse and child in a tragic car crash that you barely survived. Now, with a supportive partner and a toddler by your side, you're determined to move on with your life. Unfortunately, it's hard to meet new people who can see past what you've endured without pitying you. How can you truly enter your next chapter when well-meaning but oversympathizing strangers keep reminding you of your last one? We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/541

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Trying to move on from the loss of your family in a car accident years ago is difficult when everyone new you meet wants to throw you a pity party. How can you become more than the suffering sum of your tragic past's parts?
  • You and your fiancé called it quits when she had a hallucinatory episode, wound up in the hospital, and came out with a bipolar disorder diagnosis. But you've each spent the past year coming to terms with who you are and you've considered getting back together. Could this work, or should you consider it a relationship that's sailed?
  • A company hired you for one thing, then it turned out they needed you for something else, and their needs aren’t in alignment with your interests. Should you express your dissatisfaction to your boss, hope your next project is more to your liking, or just start looking for a new job?
  • You've discovered that the work you love to do isn't the same as the subject you loved learning about at university. Should you feel guilty or ashamed for not using your master's degree, even though you absolutely adore your current, but completely unrelated position?
  • How do you invite your parents' best friends to your wedding without them bringing their disruptive, social misfit adult child?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Jul 30, 2021
540: Daryl Davis | A Black Man's Odyssey in the KKK Part Two
00:54:12

Daryl Davis (@realdaryldavis) is a musician, author, lecturer, host of the Changing Minds podcast, and anti-racism activist featured in the documentary Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!]

What We Discuss with Daryl Davis:

  • How Daryl Davis, a black musician who was once told by a Ku Klux Klansman that he played piano "just like Jerry Lee Lewis," leveraged the encounter into a teachable moment that has led to more than 200 KKK members hanging up their robes for good.
  • Why racism was such an unfathomable concept when Daryl first experienced it as a 10-year-old Cub Scout.
  • How traveling around the world as a child with his diplomat father gave Daryl the tools he needed to sit down and relate to people vastly different from him.
  • Why Daryl considers a missed opportunity for dialogue to be a missed opportunity for conflict resolution.
  • The five values all humans have in common that Daryl uses to positively navigate (almost) any conversation.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/540

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Jul 29, 2021
539: Daryl Davis | A Black Man's Odyssey in the KKK Part One
01:05:21

Daryl Davis (@realdaryldavis) is a musician, author, lecturer, host of the Changing Minds podcast, and anti-racism activist featured in the documentary Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America.

What We Discuss with Daryl Davis:

  • How Daryl Davis, a black musician who was once told by a Ku Klux Klansman that he played piano "just like Jerry Lee Lewis," leveraged the encounter into a teachable moment that has led to more than 200 KKK members hanging up their robes for good.
  • Why racism was such an unfathomable concept when Daryl first experienced it as a 10-year-old Cub Scout.
  • How traveling around the world as a child with his diplomat father gave Daryl the tools he needed to sit down and relate to people vastly different from him.
  • Why Daryl considers a missed opportunity for dialogue to be a missed opportunity for conflict resolution.
  • The five values all humans have in common that Daryl uses to positively navigate (almost) any conversation.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/539

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Jul 27, 2021
538: Already Dreading Your Abusive Brother's Wedding | Feedback Friday
00:54:43

It's not a request; it's a demand from the brother who sexually abused you when you were eight in a family that gaslighted you about the whole thing: "You will speak at my wedding." Maybe he thinks you're too spineless to say anything that will embarrass him, but the truth is that you've been diagnosed with complex PTSD and the thought of speaking at his wedding at all fills you with dread. On the other hand, being the only sibling to refuse would also cause drama you don't want to deal with. How do you balance being genuine with not calling someone a cruel person on their wedding day? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday.

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/538

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Should you speak at the wedding of your brother who sexually abused you when you were eight, or be the only sibling to refuse and cause unwanted drama? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
  • If you have a physical feature that might surprise someone you're meeting for the first time (like, say, type IV radial club hand), how can you put everyone at ease and defuse any potential awkwardness ahead of such a meeting?
  • In spite of going above and beyond in your leadership role during the pandemic, your boss "doesn't believe" in giving you a 5/5 star rating on your review because there's always room for improvement. On the other hand, you've been criticized for giving a subordinate a 3/5 for meeting expectations. If 4/5 is the best you can expect for exceeding expectations, how is such a system fair for anyone?
  • Your dad spent 10 years in prison. You'd enjoy making up for that lost time by watching movies and other low-key activities together, but he wants to party and go bar hopping (even though you're under the legal drinking age). How can you get him to reel in his wilder tendencies that make you uncomfortable without hurting his feelings?
  • At the end of the month, you'll be laid off from the company where you've worked for 15 years. If you're able to secure interviews for future job prospects before then, would it be dishonest to negotiate from the more powerful position of being currently employed?
  • Documentary recommendation of the week: Made You Look: A True Story About Fake Art [Many thanks to Fruit of the Loom for its sponsorship of this segment!]
  • Have...
Jul 23, 2021
537: Kevin Kelly | 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future
01:15:31

Kevin Kelly (@kevin2kelly) is the founding editor of Wired magazine and author of The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future.

What We Discuss with Kevin Kelly:

  • Technology is an extension of the natural process of evolution.
  • What’s driving technology; what will the future look like?
  • Why Artificial Intelligence (AI) is the biggest thing since electricity.
  • Ways humanity will interact with future technology and AI — and how it will change our lives in ways we can scarcely imagine.
  • How technology will actually make us better humans.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/537

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Jul 22, 2021
536: Julia Galef | Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don't
01:15:22

Julia Galef (@juliagalef) is the host of the Rationally Speaking podcast, co-founder of The Center for Applied Rationality, and author of The Scout Mindset: Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don't.

What We Discuss with Julia Galef:

  • How to spot bad arguments and faulty thinking -- even when the source is you.
  • The difference between having a soldier mindset that defends whatever you want to be true, and a scout mindset that's motivated to seek out the truth regardless of how unpleasant it might be (and which you should try to cultivate).
  • How to tell if you're making reasonable mistakes or foolhardy leaps of faith that carry consequences far outweighing the value of the lesson.
  • The best ways to manage and respond to uncertainty.
  • How your brain matches arguments you misunderstand with ones you've already decided you don't agree with -- and what to do about it.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/536

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Jul 20, 2021
535: Should Siblings Unite to Confront Abusive Parents? | Feedback Friday
00:52:51

You and your five siblings aren't close, but you all have one thing in common: you endured a childhood marred by abusive parents who played you against each other. Now that you're all adults, you'd like to unite your siblings to confront your parents as a group for some closure -- but you're not sure they're all on board with the idea. Is there a good way to convince them, or might it be possible to get the closure you're looking for without their help or even a confrontation at all? We'll get into this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/535

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Is it worth trying to unite your siblings for a confrontation with your abusive parents to gain a sense of closure? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
  • You've postponed your wedding twice due to the pandemic, but two very close people in your life have passed away in the interim -- and it's hard to imagine having this wedding without them. Is there a way to somehow include and honor them in the ceremony?
  • As a middle manager, you rely on your second-in-command to lead the department so you can focus on admin. Unfortunately, he fails at every step and creates more work for you than he saves. He can't be fired, transferred, or demoted, and he refuses to improve. What can you do?
  • You're a teenager living in a household with your father and a verbally abusive stepmom who doesn't like teens. You'd prefer to live with your biological mother, but the custody agreement as it stands wouldn't allow it. How can you convince your dad and stepmother that changing the agreement would be the right move for everyone?
  • You consider your current sales job as a placeholder until you can get your master's degree in mental health counseling. The hitch is that your program requires your completion of a nine-month internship that would fall during your busy season in two years. What's the least awkward way of bringing this up to your boss -- who doesn't yet know about your aspirations in a completely different field?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at
Jul 16, 2021
534: Greg McKeown | How to Make What Matters Effortless
01:14:57

Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the host of the What’s Essential podcast, and author of the New York Times bestseller Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. His latest book, Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most, is out now.

What We Discuss with Greg McKeown:

  • If you want 10x the results of any endeavor without putting in 10x the effort, it's important to understand your ROE (return on effort).
  • How the disciplined pursuit of less keeps you from getting overwhelmed with unexpected options and opportunities that come from what should be the good news of success.
  • Why, if you find yourself procrastinating on a project because it's not perfect enough to your liking, you should delay a bad first draft and create a truly awful zero draft.
  • Why "easy" does not (always) equal "lazy" and what you can do to work smarter rather than harder to avoid earning the meaningless badge of honor that burnout has become in the modern workforce.
  • Five questions to ask yourself before taking on a project that's in danger of being overthought, overwhelming, and anything but effortless.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/534

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Jul 15, 2021
533: Tristan Harris | Reclaiming Our Future with Humane Technology
01:12:55

Tristan Harris (@tristanharris) is a former Google design ethicist, primary subject of the acclaimed Netflix documentary The Social Dilemma, co-founder of the Center for Humane Technology, and co-host of the podcast Your Undivided Attention.

What We Discuss with Tristan Harris:

  • Why we're worth more to social engagement platforms as manipulatable slabs of predictable human behavior than as free-thinking individuals.
  • How the social networks of the early 2000s so quickly turned from places where we could keep in touch with friends, family, and colleagues into disinformation amplifiers that contribute to the destabilization of democracies.
  • Why your algorithm-tailored online experience so radically differs from that of your closest friends and loved ones, and why this is a problem when the public good is cast aside in the interest of keeping us engaged and enraged.
  • The unintended consequences of allowing an algorithm to bring people together by what it sees as similar interests, and how this has thrown fuel on the disinformation fire.
  • How attempting to outthink a social media algorithm is like trying to play chess against a computer that can look ahead and counter every move you could possibly make.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/533

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Jul 13, 2021
532: A Veteran Fights to Be Free from Smack and PTSD | Feedback Friday
00:53:19

You're a veteran who's been lucky enough to return home from war in one piece only to fight a new battle on two fronts: heroin and PTSD. How are you going to fight your way free of this doubly dangerous burden? We'll try to help with this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/532

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • You're a veteran who's been lucky enough to return home from war in one piece only to fight a new battle on two fronts: heroin and PTSD. How are you going to fight your way free of this doubly dangerous burden? [Many thanks to Dr. Rubin Khoddam of COPE Psychological Center and Dr. Jennifer Mitchell, Deputy Associate Chief of Staff for Research and Development at the San Francisco VA Medical Center, for help with this one!]
  • Your long-term partner has recently made it clear that he never wants to get married, which is at odds with your own expectations. It's an otherwise ideal, supportive relationship, but disagreeing on this subject casts a shadow over your future together. What should you do?
  • You're a teenager attending a boarding school with peers you've known your whole life, but their toxic jockeying for position in the social hierarchy goes against your positive, perhaps more mature nature. Is there anything you can do to lift them up without being brought down in the process?
  • You come from a family in which expressing feelings is forbidden, and problems are ridiculed or ignored rather than talked through. After 15 years of living abroad, you just can't deal with them like you used to. Now that you're visiting for the first time since the pandemic, you want to keep the trip shorter than they were expecting. Should you feel guilty?
  • Your aunt makes a good living from her small business and wants you to take over when she retires in the next couple of years. But you have very little experience with running a business and you're not positive she's been on the level with her tax obligations -- which you don't want to get stuck dealing with down the line. How do you minimize your risk should you choose to go through with it?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at Jul 09, 2021
531: Bob Arno | Schooled by the Professor of Pickpocketry Part Two
00:53:34

Bob Arno is a comedy pickpocket and criminologist specializing in global street crime, is the co-author of Travel Advisory: How to Avoid Thefts, Cons, and Street Scams While Traveling, and was featured in National Geographic's Pickpocket King documentary. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!]

What We Discuss with Bob Arno:

  • How Bob, the son of a judge, got involved in social engineering and pickpocketing for the purpose of entertainment.
  • Why pickpockets are commonly targeted by terrorist organizations for radicalization efforts.
  • How diversionary crime like pickpocketing has changed just like every other profession during the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • How Bob is able to get close to real-life criminal pickpockets and learn their tricks of the trade without winding up in the hospital -- or worse.
  • The psychology of a pickpocket -- what they're looking for in an ideal victim and what you can do to ensure you're not that victim.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/531

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Jul 08, 2021
530: Bob Arno | Schooled by the Professor of Pickpocketry Part One
00:52:53

Bob Arno is a comedy pickpocket and criminologist specializing in global street crime, is the co-author of Travel Advisory: How to Avoid Thefts, Cons, and Street Scams While Traveling, and was featured in National Geographic's Pickpocket King documentary. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!]

What We Discuss with Bob Arno:

  • How Bob, the son of a judge, got involved in social engineering and pickpocketing for the purpose of entertainment.
  • Why pickpockets are commonly targeted by terrorist organizations for radicalization efforts.
  • How diversionary crime like pickpocketing has changed just like every other profession during the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • How Bob is able to get close to real-life criminal pickpockets and learn their tricks of the trade without winding up in the hospital -- or worse.
  • The psychology of a pickpocket -- what they're looking for in an ideal victim and what you can do to ensure you're not that victim.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/530

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Jul 06, 2021
529: Qualms about QAnon Mom and Her Starseed Schtick | Feedback Friday
00:54:11

Your conspiracy-minded Mom subscribes to the tenets of QAnon, believes she's a half-human/half-alien starseed, and thinks Jim Carrey is playing Joe Biden in real life, and not just SNL. She's tough to take, and never respects the boundaries you try to set. Is there still room in your life for her? We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/529

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your conspiracy-minded Mom subscribes to the tenets of QAnon, believes she's a half-human/half-alien starseed, and thinks Jim Carrey is playing Joe Biden in real life, and not just SNL. She's tough to take, and never respects the boundaries you try to set. Is there still room in your life for her? [Thanks to cult expert Steven Hassan for helping us with this one!]
  • The closest friend you've ever had passed away earlier this year, and you've noticed yourself, against character, succumbing to overwhelming feelings of anger at unexpected moments. Does the rage from grief ever go away, or is this just who you are now?
  • Disgruntled in your current leadership position, you've considered taking a lower stress, lower responsibility role where you don't have to hold people accountable. How do you know if you're making a wise move for your own mental health or throwing away an opportunity that will become manageable over time as you learn to adapt?
  • You fell for your roommate. After a period of intimacy, she withdrew, citing a series of toxic relationships and a need to focus on her own self-discovery before committing to anything serious. You're trying to take this as an opportunity to work on your own issues, but the rejection still hurts. What can you do?
  • You've recently applied for a job within your company. The thing is, a number of your contacts have applied for the same job and asked you for referrals. You don't want to damage your network by not responding at all, but it seems awkward to recommend other people for a job you want. How can you handle this delicately without sounding selfish or self-conscious?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter...
Jul 02, 2021
528: Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen | Undercover in North Korea Part Two
01:01:11

Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen (@UlrichTheMole) is a family man from Denmark who spent 10 years undercover in North Korea infiltrating its illicit arms trade. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Part one can be found here!]

What We Discuss with Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen:

  • How did a young Danish chef and family man wind up working undercover in North Korea to disrupt its illicit arms trade?
  • Why would the repressive regime that runs North Korea trust a young Danish chef and welcome him with open arms?
  • How some low-status Westerners cozy up to the North Korean regime for the chance to boss around other Westerners visiting the country and the illusionary rush of power it gives them.
  • The natural qualities and easygoing talents that made Ulrich such an ideal mole in a place where every move is surveilled and analyzed by invisible eyes from every nook and shadow.
  • Why operating clandestinely in the DPRK is no job for a teetotaler.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/528

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Jul 01, 2021
527: Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen | Undercover in North Korea Part One
01:04:37

Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen (@UlrichTheMole) is a family man from Denmark who spent 10 years undercover in North Korea infiltrating its illicit arms trade. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the second half later this week!]

What We Discuss with Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen:

  • How did a young Danish chef and family man wind up working undercover in North Korea to disrupt its illicit arms trade?
  • Why would the repressive regime that runs North Korea trust a young Danish chef and welcome him with open arms?
  • How some low-status Westerners cozy up to the North Korean regime for the chance to boss around other Westerners visiting the country and the illusionary rush of power it gives them.
  • The natural qualities and easygoing talents that made Ulrich such an ideal mole in a place where every move is surveilled and analyzed by invisible eyes from every nook and shadow.
  • Why operating clandestinely in the DPRK is no job for a teetotaler.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/527

Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!

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Jun 29, 2021
526: What to Do When Your Teen Attempts Suicide | Feedback Friday
00:53:09

While you're beyond grateful she survived, your teenager's attempted suicide came as a heartbreaking shock. Now what can you do to address the root causes and make sure she doesn't try again? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/526

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • While you're beyond grateful she survived, your teenager's attempted suicide came as a heartbreaking shock. Now what can you do to address the root causes and make sure she doesn't try again? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
  • After listening to our episode with Thomas Erikson, you think you've got a psychopath or two in your life. How can you really be sure, and how should you handle the situation? [Thanks to Thomas Erikson himself, who was kind enough to help us answer this one!]
  • After finding out your significant other (with whom you have a child) had a Tinder account for nine months of your relationship, you're not completely on board with trusting him. Now his ex-girlfriend (with whom he also has a child) has offered him a job. Should you be concerned?
  • You're a bit burnt out after traveling for work five days a week for the past two months, but you've been with your company for a few years and you don't want to leave. How might you ask for a new job within the company without being completely sure what you want to do (or initiating your own layoff)?
  • An amazing job opportunity means you may be moving your family to another country in a few months, but it means leaving behind the network and support system you've had for years. How do you start and grow a new network from scratch, and is there anything you can do to give you a head start in the months before you move?
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Jun 25, 2021
525: Robert H. Frank | The Myth of Meritocracy
00:00

Robert H. Frank (@econnaturalist) is the HJ Louis Professor of Economics at Cornell University and author of Success and Luck: Good Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy[Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]

What We Discuss with Robert H. Frank:

  • As we strive to achieve success, there are natural limits on how hard we can work and how smart we can be. There’s no denying that luck plays a part in this achievement.
  • Understand the role of luck, talent, and hard work in the overall formula.
  • Discover why we tend to minimize the role of luck in our success.
  • Find out how to maximize our luck in life by way of context outside of talent and work.
  • Learn new ways to look at the luck factor and turn it to our advantage.
  • And much more...

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Jun 24, 2021
524: Nicholas Christakis | Pandemic Impacts and Contagious Behavior
01:11:48

Nicholas Christakis (@NAChristakis) is the Sterling Professor of Social and Natural Science at Yale, a physician, and author. His latest book is Apollo's Arrow: The Profound and Enduring Impact of Coronavirus on the Way We Live.

What We Discuss with Nicholas Christakis:

  • What social science tells us about our best shot (pun moderately intended) at achieving herd immunity from COVID-19.
  • How social networks allowed the virus to spread and reinforced mistrust of well-known science among certain politically oriented segments of the populace.
  • What the lessons of past disasters can teach us about the road ahead.
  • Why the bad (and good) habits of our friends' friends can have an impact on our own behavior from across vast social networks.
  • What we can do to best defend ourselves against the unwanted influence of these unseen members of our network.
  • And much more...

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Jun 22, 2021
523: Defusing the Drama Around Your Intoxicated Mama | Feedback Friday
00:48:36

You're raising your teenage sister to keep her out of the cycle of neglect and abuse she was exposed to at home with your alcoholic mother and her sociopathic boyfriend. Now you're struggling to reconcile your relationship with your mom before her toxic beau completely blows through her savings and leaves her destitute. Is there anything you can do at this point to defuse the drama around your intoxicated mama? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/523

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • You're struggling to reconcile your relationship with your mom before her toxic beau completely blows through her savings and leaves her destitute. Is there anything you can do to defuse the drama around your intoxicated mama?
  • As a new recruiter for a high-growth startup tech company, you feel like you're getting the brush-off whenever you bring up the need to diversify personnel to the higher-ups. What can you do to get the issue taken more seriously? [Thanks to executive coach Michelle Lederman for helping us with this one!]
  • Through therapy and medication, you've overcome decades of anxiety, depression, and financial problems, and you're ready to date after losing 140 pounds you gained when you were at your lowest point. But now you've got a lot of loose skin; how do you pre-empt any worries you have about being seen naked by a possible partner?
  • You fought your way through stage four breast cancer, but you still have to go to the doctor for time-consuming checkups and scans regularly. Now you're looking for a job and don't want to mislead a potential employer by omitting this information, but you don't want to lose out on a lead because they decided to hire someone who doesn't have these issues. What should you do?
  • How do you politely get your extremely chatty client to shut up?
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Jun 18, 2021
522: Daniel Pink | To Sell Is Human
01:10:53

Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) is the author of To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others, which uses social science, survey research, and stories to offer a fresh look at the art and science of sales. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]

What We Discuss with Daniel Pink:

  • What’s the best way of dealing with an “off” day?
  • Learn why sales and a sales skillset are a part of our lives — whether we like it or not.
  • Understand the concepts of irritation versus agitation (and how to use both to motivate others).
  • Attunement: what it is and how it can make you more persuasive.
  • Tips for both introverts and extroverts to improve a social skillset and build better rapport.
  • And so much more...

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Jun 17, 2021
521: Neil deGrasse Tyson | Cosmic Queries for the Acutely Curious
01:00:35

Neil deGrasse Tyson (@neiltyson) is the Frederick P. Rose Director of the Hayden Planetarium, host of StarTalk Radio, and author. He rejoins us to discuss his latest book, Cosmic Queries: StarTalk's Guide to Who We Are, How We Got Here, and Where We're Going.

What We Discuss with Neil deGrasse Tyson:

  • How Neil learned to explain scientific complexities in layman's terms.
  • Why you should always take advantage of an opportunity to engage with an expert.
  • How opportunity comes from embracing the unknown rather than shying away from it.
  • Why, when it comes to learning something new, understanding is far more important than memorizing facts.
  • How Neil has mastered the art of ending any Q&A with the perfect answer -- no matter the question.
  • And much more...

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Jun 15, 2021
520: Medical Meddling's Wack from Bipolar Hypochondriac | Feedback Friday
00:53:52

Enduring your bipolar mother's hypochondria your entire life has made you neglectful of your own health. Now she won't stop meddling in your medical business since you were recently sent to the ER with an undiagnosed condition. How can you get your mother to back off without completely ruining your already strained relationship? We'll dig into this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/520

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Have you played The Jordan Harbinger Show Bingo yet? Thanks to the work of a fellow dedicated listener, now you can!
  • Your bipolar hypochondriac mom won't stop meddling in your medical affairs. How can you get her to back off without completely ruining your already strained relationship? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!]
  • You've noticed the bad influence of an older neighborhood kid rubbing off on your six-year-old daughter, and having met his emotionally volatile parents, you see the bad apple didn't fall far from the tree. How can you minimize the effects of this negative behavior without being needlessly punitive toward these children?
  • Are you experiencing "early-onset imposter syndrome" because you're worried about lazy habits picked up during quarantine stunting the level of overachievement that got you into law school?
  • You were laid off one day before your last retirement accrual through the company's employee stock ownership plan. You're doing well enough financially, but you're rightfully angry to have been cheated out of this benefit in such an underhanded manner. Do you have any legal recourse, and should you pursue it? [Thanks to once-adversary, now-friend, and attorney Jeremy Golan for helping us with this one!]
  • Your late father was a much-loved pillar of the community, and everyone in town had their own story about how he had come through for them in their time of need. Does Six-Minute Networking advise a way to responsibly enjoy this inherited social capital without coming off like a petulant so-and-so?
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Jun 11, 2021
519: Dacher Keltner | The Power Paradox
00:50:11

Dacher Keltner is a professor of psychology at University of California in Berkeley, one of the world’s foremost scientists specializing in the study of power, and author of The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]

What We Discuss with Dacher Keltner:

  • You don’t have to be Machiavellian to appreciate that Niccolo Machiavelli was the OG power scientist.
  • What is The Power Paradox, and how does it affect us and society at large?
  • The imbalance of power is the greatest threat to society (just after climate change).
  • Powerlessness can literally be lethal.
  • Learn how we can increase our power relative to others in a healthy way.
  • And much more...

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Jun 10, 2021
518: Daniel Kahneman | When Noise Destroys Our Best of Choices
01:08:23

Daniel Kahneman is a celebrated psychologist, economist, Nobel Prize winner, and author of the much-lauded Thinking, Fast and Slow and his latest, Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment.

What We Discuss with Daniel Kahneman:

  • Why we don’t always produce the same results when faced with the same facts on two different occasions.
  • How noise -- in this context, variability in judgments that should be identical -- influences our choices.
  • How the detrimental effects of noise in medicine, law, economic forecasting, forensic science, bail, child protection, strategy, performance reviews, and personnel selection can ruin (and even end) lives.
  • How to tell the difference between noise and good old-fashioned bias.
  • How we can reduce the role of noise and bias in our lives to make our best choices.
  • And much more...

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Jun 08, 2021
517: Trouble Runs Deep with the Neighborhood Creep | Feedback Friday
01:03:08

The pedophile psychopath who lives across the street has made your life hell for more than a decade, to say nothing of the catastrophic damage he's caused to your loved ones and the community. But how can you prove it to the authorities who continue to protect him? We'll try to find a resolution to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/517

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • The pedophile psychopath who lives across the street has made your life hell for more than a decade, to say nothing of the catastrophic damage he's caused to your loved ones and the community. But how can you prove it to the authorities? [Special thanks to Thomas Erikson and George Grant for helping us with this one!]
  • When you've finally found a partner who could be "The One" with whom you see yourself starting a family at the same time you've finally found your dream job -- nine hours away -- how do you choose between them? Or is there a way you don't have to?
  • Your friend at school has only been in the country for three years and struggles with English, so you help him every night with his homework. The problem is, this leaves you with no free time to pursue extracurriculars or even get a full night's sleep during the week. How can you set boundaries that are reasonable for both of you?
  • At your corporate job, you regularly have to report to people who are senior to you. How do you strike the right balance between confidence and humility without being either cocky or unsure of yourself?
  • Someone taking our free Six-Minute Networking course wants to know: how can you grow your network through cold contacts?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Jun 04, 2021
516: Mike Massimino | Unlocking Science Secrets with an Unlikely Spaceman
01:11:56

Mike Massimino (@Astro_Mike) is the astronaut who sent the first tweet from space and one of the few spacefarers we’ve had on this show! He’s the author of Spaceman: An Astronaut’s Unlikely Journey to Unlock the Secrets of the Universe. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]

What We Discuss with Mike Massimino:

  • How is bedtime on a space shuttle mission a lot like a slumber party?
  • Why assembling a team around you is crucial for success — whether orbiting or staying on the surface of the planet.
  • Why it’s important to take small, deliberate steps in the right direction for the sake of your own happiness.
  • How to stay focused on the task at hand in the face of disaster by thinking like an astronaut.
  • Why even astronauts have imposter syndrome.
  • And much more...

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Jun 03, 2021
515: James Jani | Repelling the Law of Attraction Myth
01:27:24

James Jani (@jamesvjani) is a YouTuber who makes documentary-style videos about money, business, and life, including The Law of Attraction: Fact or Fiction? and The Dark World of New Age Gurus.

What We Discuss with James Jani:

  • Why "hustle culture" is a bankrupt paradigm that makes it easy for fake gurus to prey upon society's very young and very desperate.
  • Why the so-called Law of Attraction that tells you you only have to think positive thoughts to "manifest" the good things you want out of life is bunk.
  • How studying philosophy exercises your grey matter and sharpens your critical thinking skills (so you can better resist nonsense like the Law of Attraction).
  • Why the Just World Fallacy that explains away suffering as a deserved consequence of wrongdoing is just a dangerously convenient way for people to bypass empathy for the world's unlucky have-nots.
  • How we can use street epistemology to help people question their unfounded beliefs.
  • And much more...

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Jun 01, 2021
514: Distancing from Junkie Sibling's Self-Jinxing | Feedback Friday
00:54:44

In spite of what you've done to help your addiction-prone sibling stay off of hard drugs, he keeps relapsing. When is it time to let a self-jinxing junkie suffer for the consequences of their own actions? This and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/514

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • When is it time to let your self-jinxing junkie sibling face the music for their never-ending relapses that perpetually endanger you and your family?
  • You're in a relationship with someone who would be a perfect match -- except that you've never found them physically attractive. This is unlikely to change, but it's hard to imagine a life without them. Should you stay or should you go?
  • You're an ambitious, multilingual 19-year-old in a managerial position, about to enlist in the Navy as a translator. It should be cause for celebration that you've recently been selected as a congressional advisor, but imposter syndrome has hit you like a train. What should you do?
  • You've been responsible for dramatically increasing your department's efficiency, and your supervisor relies on you to keep things running smoothly. Nevertheless, the higher-ups recently denied you a promotion or raise, and it's hard not to take it personally. What's really holding you back?
  • A Six-Minute Networking question: how do you deal with a double opt-in introduction when one party makes it clear they're not interested in meeting the other party?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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May 28, 2021
513: Charlamagne Tha God | The Opportunities of Black Privilege
01:00:58

Charlamagne Tha God (@cthagod) is a radio presenter (The Breakfast Club Power 105.1 FM), television personality (Uncommon Sense Live), podcaster (The Brilliant Idiots), and author of Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It. [Note: this is a previously broadcast episode from the vault. For our most recent interview with Charlamagne, check out Episode 171: Charlamagne Tha God | Turning the Tables on Fear and Anxiety!]

What We Discuss with Charlamagne Tha God:

  • What transformed Lenard McKelvey from Moncks Corner, South Carolina into Charlamagne Tha God?
  • How Charlamagne went from selling crack in a small town to becoming a radio and television personality — and now author.
  • Why the moment you think you can’t transcend your circumstances — whatever they may be — is the moment you won’t.
  • How Charlamagne reframed his background to become an advantage rather than a hindrance.
  • Why it’s important not to live someone else’s expectations — and how to figure out when expectations are actually your own.
  • And much more...

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May 27, 2021
512: Michio Kaku | The Quest for a Theory of Everything
01:20:03

Michio Kaku (@michiokaku) is a theoretical physicist, famed futurist, on-air personality, professor of physics, and bestselling author. His latest book is The God Equation: The Quest for a Theory of Everything.

What We Discuss with Michio Kaku:

  • Why do we need a theory of everything, and what set a young Michio Kaku on the path to search for it?
  • How we're all born scientists with a yearning to understand the world around us, and what tends to dampen this enthusiasm for most of us before we even make it to adulthood.
  • Why physicists seeking to wrap their minds around a universal string theory are more like daydreaming composers than academic blackboard warriors.
  • The four fundamental forces of a universe governed by string theory, and the challenge of discovering how they fit together -- and proving it.
  • What makes the human brain so unique in the animal kingdom, and why Michio thinks IQ is a woefully incomplete way of measuring intelligence.
  • And much more...

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May 25, 2021
511: Does a Reformed Abuser Deserve a Second Chance? | Feedback Friday
00:57:18

You cringe when you think back to the toxic, abusive person you used to be, but a traumatic experience forced you to change for the better. However, it's difficult to form close friendships or seek a relationship because you feel unworthy of connection with others. Do you deserve a second chance? If so, how do you prove it to yourself and others who know about your past? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/511

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • You cringe when you think back to the toxic, abusive person you used to be, but a traumatic experience forced you to change for the better. However, it's difficult to form close friendships or seek a relationship because you feel unworthy of connection with others. Do you deserve a second chance? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!]
  • You're a 20-something "internet personality" whose bad choices (and poor judgment of character) have led you to do things you're not proud of. Sponsors and investors are dropping off, and your livelihood is in danger with no other prospects on the horizon. More than financial ruin, you fear reputational damage from which you'll never recover. You want to take responsibility for your actions; what can you do to see light at the end of this tunnel?
  • You and your partner have been married for 11 years and have no kids. You met at a Christian camp, you both took your faith very seriously, and you built your relationship on that faith. Fast forward 10 years, and you no longer believe in the "Christian" God. Your partner wants to raise a family, but you know you can't be the role model they have in mind without that faith. Should you work on the marriage with the possibility of greater hurt down the road, or free your partner to find someone else still aligned with their faith?
  • You and your partner are ready to adopt a child, but you're pondering how much involvement the birth mother should be allowed to have in this child's life. Is it selfish to apply with the stipulation that contact would only be allowed after the child's 18th birthday? Would this really be fair to the child? What option is ultimately the healthiest for all parties?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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May 21, 2021
510: Rob Reid | Why the Future is a Good Kind of Scary
01:32:18

Rob Reid (@Rob_Reid) is a tech entrepreneur, early-stage tech investor, author of After On: A Novel of Silicon Valley, and host of the After On Podcast.

What We Discuss with Rob Reid:

  • While COVID-19 has been devastating on a global scale, it's comparatively benign when we consider how bad it could have been with a deadlier, more transmissible virus and a decimated infrastructure without access to basic necessities.
  • What gain of function research is, and why it's so dangerous in a world where even the most secure laboratories can leak pathogens into the general population.
  • The death toll inflicted by society's suicidal mass murderers is limited only by the weapons they have available -- whether they're guns, knives, airplanes, or synthetically manufactured superviruses created by soon-to-be commonplace genetic manipulation technology.
  • The steps we can take as an international community to fend off the malevolent efforts of a few bad actors by creating an infrastructure that can detect and prevent the spread of any potential future pandemic.
  • How DNA printers with the ability to create pandemic-defying vaccines on demand may become as common in the home as smoke alarms.
  • And much more...

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May 20, 2021
509: Sam Harris | Making Sense of the Present Tense
01:17:15

Sam Harris (@SamHarrisOrg) is a neuroscientist, philosopher, and author of five New York Times bestsellers. He is the host of the Making Sense podcast and his latest book is Making Sense: Conversations on Consciousness, Morality, and the Future of Humanity.

What We Discuss with Sam Harris:

  • How can someone in the public eye speak freely without worrying about being canceled?
  • How to keep an open mind when debating someone with whom you disagree vehemently.
  • What it really takes to get people to behave ethically.
  • How to resist the distorting effect of social media's "funhouse mirror" on reality.
  • Why, if you choose to participate in social media, you should make sure to follow at least some (preferably many) people who don't share your views.
  • And much more...

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May 18, 2021
508: Shaking an Unsuitable Stalking Suitor | Feedback Friday
01:02:25

Your sister's (now former) boyfriend might be a legitimate psychopath, but he's definitely a stalker who's threatened her for breaking up with him after she discovered his unfaithfulness. How can she best protect herself from his deranged promises to ruin her life? We'll look for the best answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/508

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • How can your sister best protect herself from a stalker ex-boyfriend's deranged threats to ruin her life? [Thanks to George Grant and Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
  • What are the pros and cons of working with your significant other?
  • How can your friend protect her job and sanity against harassment from a senior co-worker? [Thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
  • Your rental property has neighbors who are a nuisance to your tenants. You're losing money because your tenants don’t want the hassle of the weekend parties, and you're not on premises to document the neighbors' transgressions. What can you do? [Thanks to Brandon Turner for help with this one!]
  • Even though there seems to finally be light at the end of the tunnel, what's the best way to network during the COVID-19 pandemic?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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May 14, 2021
507: Robert Cialdini | A New Look at the Science of Influence
01:31:19

Robert Cialdini (@RobertCialdini) is widely regarded as the “Godfather of influence” for his groundbreaking work in ethical persuasion. An update of his bestseller that started it all, Influence, New and Expanded: The Psychology of Persuasion, is out now.

What We Discuss with Robert Cialdini:

  • Cialdini’s Universal Principles of Influence that turn you into an unstoppable persuasion machine (and allow you to defend yourself against the unethical influence of others).
  • Why it’s a bad idea to accept a gift or favor from someone we don’t like or trust, and how we can reject such a gift or favor gracefully.
  • How to become more likable (without being a smarmy weirdo about it).
  • Why social proof is powerful for positive and negative outcomes and how we can leverage this.
  • The most ideal time to disclose a negative for maximum damage control.
  • And much more...

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May 13, 2021
506: Tim Grover | The Unforgiving Race to Greatness
01:21:41

Tim Grover is the preeminent authority on the science and art of achieving physical and mental dominance relied upon by legendary athletes like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant at the top of their game. He's also an author, and his latest book is Winning: The Unforgiving Race to Greatness.

What We Discuss with Tim Grover:

  • Putting aside inspirational Internet meme bromides, what does it really mean to be relentless?
  • Why you can't even access the upper limits of the physical without putting the mental blocks in place first.
  • Why the intangibles -- like commitment and resilience -- are more important than the measurable -- like strength and speed.
  • The paradigm-shifting thought patterns that go into becoming a world-class champion.
  • Why top performers aren't looking for motivation -- they're looking for elevation.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/506

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May 11, 2021
505: Special Needs Son Seduced by Psycho Siren | Feedback Friday
00:58:36

Your adult son has Asperger Syndrome, which has contributed to his naïveté in social situations and led to others taking advantage of him. Now he's married to a woman who has served time in prison for smothering her own mother with a pillow and attempted to do the same to her ex-husband. On top of this concerning history, she also falsely accused your son of rape and assault when he tried to leave her. What can you do for your special needs son who's been seduced by this psycho siren? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/505

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your adult son with special needs has been tricked into marriage with a legitimate psycho killer and accused by her of rape and assault when he tried to end it. How can you help him pry free from this murderous harpy before it's too late? [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne, Surrounded by Psychopaths author Thomas Erikson, and clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!]
  • How do you politely decline an offer to "catch up" with an old co-worker who doesn't seem to understand that you never particularly cared for them?
  • After doing a payscale salary comparison, you estimate that you make $15-20k less than the median salary for your qualifications. Would it be best for you to attempt to negotiate a raise at your current job, or bite the bullet and try to find a new job with better pay?
  • Your usually non-dramatic wife has taken to breaking into tears for seemingly no reason at least once a week or so (that you know of). Could it be due to her obsession with picture-perfect Instagram influencers making her feel bad about herself?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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May 07, 2021
504: Lt. Col. Oliver North | Lessons from the Tragedies of War
01:17:30

Lt. Col. Oliver North (@OliverLNorth) is a political commentator, military historian, and retired United States Marine Corps lieutenant colonel. He is the author of many leather-bound books, and the host of Oliver North's America and Oliver North's Real American Heroes.

What We Discuss with Oliver North:

  • An Oliver North's-eye view of the Iran–Contra affair after 30+ years in the rearview mirror.
  • Using SMEAC (Situation, Mission, Execution, Admin and Logistics, and Command and Signal) for making decisions in high-pressure situations.
  • Why Oliver still recalls one day as a Marine machine-gunner during the Vietnam conflict as the worst in his life.
  • What it's like to survive an assassination attempt (and outlive its bumbling perpetrators).
  • Why Oliver considers "servant leaders" to be the best leaders.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/504

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May 06, 2021
503: Cal Newport | Reimagining Work in a World without Email
01:23:13

Cal Newport researches cutting-edge technology and writes about the impact of these innovations on society. He is the New York Times bestselling author of Deep WorkSo Good They Can’t Ignore You, Digital Minimalism, and his latest, A World without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload.

What We Discuss with Cal Newport:

  • What is the hyperactive hive mind, and how did the collaborative nature of email communication give rise to it?
  • Why checking our email an average of every six minutes is, as Cal puts it, "a terrible way to extract value from human neurons."
  • How so-called multitasking takes its toll not only on our individual capacity to focus, but on the prosperity of society as a whole.
  • Why debuzzing the hyperactive hive mind can't be done from the inbox, but by replacing the rules for how we collaborate.
  • How we can set the rules, guidelines, and systems by which we agree to communicate without succumbing to the collective pull of the hyperactive hive mind.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/503

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May 04, 2021
502: How Do I Tell Daughter Her Dad Is Dying? | Feedback Friday
00:54:12

The father of your eight-year-old daughter has been given six months to live. How much do you tell your daughter -- and how soon? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday.

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/502

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • The father of your eight-year-old daughter has been given six months to live. How much do you tell your daughter -- and how soon? [Thanks to clinical psychologist and friend Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
  • Career circumstances drove you and your ex-girlfriend apart a few years ago. And while she thinks you and her new fiance would be fast friends, you don't need a constant reminder of what might have been. How do you get her to respect your boundaries on this matter?
  • A recruiter told you that a misdemeanor DUI from 2013 makes your chance of becoming an Air Force officer "nearly zero," but it's a dream you've had since you were seven. You couldn't forgive yourself for not giving it a shot anyway, but are you just wasting your time? [Thanks to Evil Genius Jason LeDuc for helping us field this one!]
  • You've been on a revolving door basis with college admissions for years, never really nailing down a course plan that suits you before you drop out and try something else. You've spent countless hours and dollars without credentials to begin a professional career, much to your parents' shame as well as your own. How can you just choose a path and stick to it?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Apr 30, 2021
501: Ed Calderon | Survival Secrets of a Drug War Veteran Part Two
00:52:23

Ed Calderon (@eds_manifesto) is a non-permissive environment specialist and combatives instructor with over 10 years of experience in counter-narcotics, organized crime investigation, and public safety in the northern border region of Mexico. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Find part one here!]

What We Discuss with Ed Calderon:

  • Three things that kept Ed from choosing the cartel life over law enforcement when it became a very real option.
  • Why there’s an eerie devotion to blasphemous, Church-condemned figures like death icon La Santa Muerte by the dispossessed and the deadly on both sides of the law.
  • What happens when different factions of law enforcement in the same area work for different cartels.
  • How occult practices that combine Catholic symbology with Aztec beliefs adapt to changing times and desperate characters.
  • Is Ed worried for his life after crossing some of the world’s most dangerous and vindictive people?
  • And much more…

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Apr 29, 2021
500: Ed Calderon | Survival Secrets of a Drug War Veteran Part One
00:49:44

Ed Calderon (@eds_manifesto) is a non-permissive environment specialist and combatives instructor with over 10 years of experience in counter-narcotics, organized crime investigation, and public safety in the northern border region of Mexico. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stick around for part two later this week!]

What We Discuss with Ed Calderon:

  • How drug cartels infiltrate and take over towns, cities, and entire regions without fearing local law enforcement or even the military.
  • How US taxpayers fund limitless government corruption south of the border without any real accountability.
  • 2020 has been the most deadly year in Mexico for cartel-related violence, and it's getting worse.
  • Not all mass graves found in Mexico are the result of cartel atrocities. The reality could be even more sinister.
  • Why cracking down on cartel crime is such a difficult (and life-threatening) proposition for would-be crusaders.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/500

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Apr 27, 2021
499: Preparing a Polyamorous Protection Plan | Feedback Friday
00:54:59

You're in a relationship with someone who's in an open marriage and all parties consent -- for now. But you want to be sure you don't get stuck with your state's tricky alien of affection law that could ruin your life if someone changes their mind. Aside from documenting all communication, how can you best prepare a polyamorous protection plan should your love triangle get bent out of shape and leave you and your property legally in peril? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/499

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • How can you best prepare a polyamorous protection plan should your love triangle get bent out of shape and leave you and your property legally in peril? [Thanks again to attorney and friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
  • Your intense, old-fashioned dad doesn't approve of your brother's girlfriend, which makes the arrival of their first child (and his first grandchild) somewhat bittersweet. On top of all this, he's hurt he was the last to find out. What can you do to facilitate communication between your dad and brother so this doesn't sour what should really be a happy occasion for the family?
  • How do you remain professional and open to networking when you've got annoying, creepy, and clueless clients abusing your business relationship as an unwelcome excuse to pursue something more intimate?
  • With some of our episodes including less-than-complimentary critiques about the governments of North Korea and China, are we ever worried about being targeted by their agents, and would we ever travel to either country again?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Apr 23, 2021
498: Rob Dyrdek | Manufacturing Amazing with the Dyrdek Machine
01:23:31

Rob Dyrdek (@robdyrdek) is an entrepreneur, actor, producer, reality TV personality, and former professional skateboarder. He's the founder of venture creation studio Dyrdek Machine and host of the Build with Rob podcast.

What We Discuss with Rob Dyrdek:

  • How Rob negotiated with his parents to let him drop out of high school and become a professional skateboarder at age 16.
  • The lesson veteran skateboarder Neil Blender taught young Rob about knowing his range when taking a shot at doing something extraordinary.
  • How Rob hones the clarity to operate in what he calls "kill mode" by eliminating the stressors that keep him from living optimally.
  • What venture creation studio Dyrdek Machine is and how it's been built to efficiently launch meaningful businesses that stand the test of time and have an impact on the world.
  • How Rob has the uncanny ability to, as his friend Shane Nickerson says, put himself in a position where luck hits him.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/498

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Apr 22, 2021
497: David Kilgour | The Heartless Art of Forced Organ Harvesting
01:04:11

David Kilgour is a human rights activist, former lawyer, and Canadian politician. He is a Senior Fellow to the Raoul Wallenberg Centre for Human Rights, and co-author of Bloody Harvest: Organ Harvesting of Falun Gong Practitioners in China.

What We Discuss with David Kilgour:

  • Who is targeted by the Chinese government for forced organ harvesting, and why?
  • How long has this illicit trade been going on, and who does it benefit?
  • How much does a healthy kidney, heart, or lung go for on this immoral market?
  • Who is Gao Zhisheng, and why is his story important?
  • How these atrocities have been brought to light and what efforts are being undertaken by the international community to put an end to them.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/497

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Apr 20, 2021
496: Schizophrenic Mother a Duty Like No Other | Feedback Friday
01:07:13

The schizophrenic mother with whom you've never had a great relationship is out of hospital and probably in need of high maintenance care. You feel guilty for saying so, but just being around her makes you want to leave town and disappear without leaving a forwarding address. Is there a way to ensure she's taken care of without taking on the burden of providing that care, and does it make you a terrible person for even wondering? We'll find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/496

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • How can you ensure your schizophrenic mother gets the care she needs without taking on a burden that eclipses your entire life?
  • Your cousin is in the middle of a divorce from an emotionally manipulative woman who is threatening to lie to the police that he's been abusing her -- which would threaten his DREAMer status and potentially send him back to the country where he was born but hasn't seen since he was nine (he's 29 now). Is there any legal protection he can pursue?
  • You're getting a divorce from your husband, who also happens to be your business partner. You don't want a stake in the business you helped build from the ground up, and you don't want money; you just want your dog and your truck, and you want to start a new life. But are you making a mistake to walk away with nothing?
  • As a high school teacher, you're worried the kids you teach to live in today's world won't have a place in a tomorrow operated increasingly by artificial intelligence. What will the future of work look like, and how can you best prepare your students for this potentially dystopian future? [Thanks to Allen and Shane from Allen Gannett and Shane Snow from the Creative Hotline podcast for helping us with this one!]
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Apr 16, 2021
495: Jon Acuff | The Surprising Solution to Overthinking
01:16:15

Jon Acuff (@jonacuff) is an Inc. Magazine Top 100 Leadership speaker, host of the All It Takes Is a Goal podcast, and author of multiple bestsellers. His latest book is Soundtracks: The Surprising Solution to Overthinking.

What We Discuss with Jon Acuff:

  • Jon defines a soundtrack as those repetitive thoughts that play automatically in your head that shape more of your choices than you know -- and this is why you need to curate your soundtrack.
  • Three questions to ask yourself if you want to identify a broken soundtrack that derails your ambitions -- and change it into one that goads you into action.
  • How you can flip a worry-inducing soundtrack into one that instills confidence.
  • Being prepared always leads to an action; overthinking always leads to more overthinking.
  • Something better to tell yourself than "Fake it 'til you make it" from the son of the guy who coined that phrase.
  • And much more...

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Apr 15, 2021
494: Rutger Bregman | Humankind: A Hopeful History
01:14:36

Rutger Bregman (@rcbregman) is a historian and author who has published five books on history, philosophy, and economics. His latest is New York Times bestseller Humankind: A Hopeful History.

What We Discuss with Rutger Bregman:

  • How crises like the London Blitz during WWII and the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina tend to bring out the best in people rather than the worst.
  • Why a crisis that forces us to isolate rather than connect with each other as a way to cope (like the COVID-19 pandemic) may make some of us behave counter to this tendency, but not most.
  • The evidence that prevails against veneer theory -- the idea that humanity is only buffered from acting on its vilest and most selfish instincts by the thin veneer of civilization (perpetrated by those in power throughout human history).
  • The negativity bias vs. contact theory: how we can counter the effects of past bad experiences with others by increasing our exposure to diversity.
  • How a real-life Lord of the Flies incident disproved the thesis of William Golding's fictional counterpart and showed how six shipwrecked schoolkids cooperated to thrive on a remote island for more than a year.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/494

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Apr 13, 2021
493: Should You Sue Uncle Sam for Allegation Sham? | Feedback Friday
00:52:11

Your promising military career was derailed when former colleagues falsely accused you of wrongdoing to cover their own misdeeds. Even though the timeline proved that your alleged malfeasance would have been impossible and you were cleared of all charges, you missed promotions, eligibility cutoffs, special pay, and accompanying bonuses over the course of the lengthy investigation. Adding insult to these injuries is the message that your higher-ups have elected "not to go forward" with reinstating your qualifications and reimbursing you for your losses. So now you're wondering: should you sue Uncle Sam for this allegation sham?

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/493

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your military career was derailed by accusations of misconduct proven untrue, but you've been denied back pay or promotions due. Should you sue? [Thanks to attorney and friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
  • In an out-of-character lapse of judgment, your girlfriend got drunk, drove, hit a car, and got arrested. As a result, she may spend a year in prison. While you feel bad for her, you don't want to be pulled down by her bad choices. Should you stay or should you go?
  • In spite of the pandemic, your new business is thriving. Unfortunately, your mental health isn't, and establishing self-care boundaries with your workaholic business partner isn't panning out. Should you try to navigate the partnership for the sake of all you've built, or let it go for the sake of your sanity?
  • What's the best way to get your child to learn a second language at a young age?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Apr 09, 2021
492: Michael Shermer | Why We Believe Weird Things
01:00:17

Michael Shermer (@michaelshermer) is the founder of Skeptic magazine and several books on the nature of belief. He’s the Director of The Skeptics Society, a non-profit dedicated to the promotion of science, reason, and critical thinking. He joins us to discuss why people believe weird things. [This is a rebroadcast that originally aired in 2016.]

What We Discuss with Michael Shermer:

  • How do beliefs form and persist even when we know they’re wrong?
  • Why do skeptics (and restaurant owners) scowl at the mention of Uri Geller?
  • Why are smart people even more susceptible to faulty beliefs?
  • How do our genes influence our political and religious beliefs?
  • What’s the difference between a skeptic and a cynic?
  • And much more...

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Apr 08, 2021
491: Ray Dalio | The Changing World Order
01:31:47

Ray Dalio (@RayDalio) is the founder of Bridgewater Associates — the largest and best-performing hedge fund in the world — and author of New York Times bestseller Principles: Life and Work. His latest book is The Changing World Order: Why Nations Succeed and Fail.

What We Discuss with Ray Dalio:

  • What history can tell us about the cycles our society has endured before and what we should expect from the cycles to come.
  • The cycle we're currently experiencing in terms of our economy and security as a country (and as a planet).
  • What Ray sees as the way forward to ensure these cycles serve as warnings -- not just echoes of past disasters.
  • What the West needs to do to remain competitive with China and other emerging world powers.
  • What Ray has learned from grieving the recent loss of his son.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/491

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Apr 06, 2021
490: Boo's Rightful Vexation Over Frightening Fixation | Feedback Friday
01:14:43

You love jumping out of random hiding places in your house to startle your fiancée, but your fiancée does not share your enthusiasm for this "hobby" and wants you to knock it the heck off. You understand your boo's rightful vexation over this frightening fixation, but you can't seem to stop. Is this a common problem? We'll tackle this and more here on our special Day-After-April-Fool's-Day episode of Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/490

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Jordan shares a story about the time he thought he was going to get arrested at the donut shop in the middle of the night.
  • You think you might be addicted to the thrill of jumping out of random hiding places in your house to startle your fiancée, because now you can't stop (even though she really, really wants you to). Is this a "normal" problem?
  • Do Jordan and Gabe brush their teeth and floss every day?
  • What have been Jordan's best and worst interviews? Does he stay friends with any of them afterward?
  • What are the strangest things Gabe and Jordan know how to do?
  • How do Jordan and Gabe feel about psychedelics?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Apr 02, 2021
489: Frank Bourassa | The World’s Greatest Counterfeiter Part Two
01:03:20

Frank Bourassa counterfeited and sold $250 million in fake US currency until he was nabbed in an undercover operation. Now he runs a security company and works with the police to catch other counterfeiters.

What We Discuss with Frank Bourassa:

  • How someone creates a quarter of a billion dollars in American $20 bills that not only look genuine, but feel genuine even to experts.
  • The hours of research that Frank spent learning how to create counterfeit money that would pass most muster without immediately going to jail on his first attempt.
  • The catalyst that drove Frank to pursue a life of crime in the first place (and has probably tempted most of us to consider it from time to time).
  • It takes money to make money: Frank reveals the startup fees that went into his operation to literally print the perfect $20 bills en masse.
  • How much labor actually goes into a counterfeiting project at this scale -- once you find a crew you think you can trust.
  • And much more...

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Apr 01, 2021
488: Frank Bourassa | The World’s Greatest Counterfeiter Part One
01:09:49

Frank Bourassa counterfeited and sold $250 million in fake US currency until he was nabbed in an undercover operation. Now he runs a security company and works with the police to catch other counterfeiters.

What We Discuss with Frank Bourassa:

  • How someone creates a quarter of a billion dollars in American $20 bills that not only look genuine, but feel genuine even to experts.
  • The hours of research that Frank spent learning how to create counterfeit money that would pass most muster without immediately going to jail on his first attempt.
  • The catalyst that drove Frank to pursue a life of crime in the first place (and has probably tempted most of us to consider it from time to time).
  • It takes money to make money: Frank reveals the startup fees that went into his operation to literally print the perfect $20 bills en masse.
  • How much labor actually goes into a counterfeiting project at this scale -- once you find a crew you think you can trust.
  • And much more...

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Mar 30, 2021
487: Connect with Cult Father, or Don't Even Bother? | Feedback Friday
01:01:03

You basically grew up in a cult, and following your own path as an adult was seen as an act of "rebellion" in the eyes of your dad, from whom you've been estranged ever since. He's even forbidden you from setting foot on his property until you "repent, return, and remain." Now, years have passed and it doesn't sit well with you that your relationship is so strained. Should you try to reconnect with your cult father, or is it even worth the bother? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/487

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • After "rebelling" against the cult in which you were raised, should you try to reconnect with your estranged father, or is it even worth the bother? [Thanks to cult expert Steven Hassan for helping us with this one!]
  • You fell behind on paperwork your job legally requires, and even though you provided it to the inspectors before the pandemic lockdowns began, you've yet to hear back from them. Now your wife says if it causes you to lose your job, she'll never forgive you. Is she overreacting? How do you handle this?
  • You've got a new, cushy job that pays handsomely, but you're unfulfilled because it's not the work you signed up for. Quitting now means you'd have to pay off thousands in sign-on bonuses, but you feel like you're doing your career a disservice by sticking with it. Should you just shut up and be grateful, or cut your losses and find something that better suits you?
  • Over the past year, you’ve become obsessed with learning. You read books, consume newsletters, and listen to hours of podcasts every day. The bad news: you can't seem to retain any of it. Are you just overloading your brain circuitry, or is there a trick to getting all this new info to stick?
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Mar 26, 2021
486: Nina Schick | Deepfakes and the Coming Infocalypse
01:07:38

Nina Schick (@NinaDSchick) specializes in how technology is transforming geopolitics and society in the 21st century. She is the author of Deepfakes: The Coming Infocalypse.

What We Discuss with Nina Schick:

  • What deepfakes are and how they're created using technology that is getting exponentially more sophisticated every year and accessible to anyone.
  • How deepfakes go beyond novelty and into dangerous territory occupied by blackmailers, propagandists, terrorists, conspiracy theorists, and other unsavory ne'er-do-wells who profit by making the rest of us doubt what we can trust as reality.
  • Why deepfakes are so much more concerning than reality-bending manipulations of the past.
  • The potential positive uses of AI-assisted deepfake technology that will change our world as dramatically as the advent of the Internet.
  • How we can discern between real photo, video, or audio footage and imposter deepfakes to avoid being duped by 21st-century technoshysters.
  • And much more...

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Mar 25, 2021
485: Leah Remini | Surviving Hollywood and Scientology
01:09:17

Leah Remini (@leahremini) is an actor, producer, co-host of podcast Scientology: Fair Game, and co-author of Troublemaker: Surviving Hollywood and Scientology.

What We Discuss with Leah Remini:

  • What Scientology is, how it came about, and why it's so dangerous.
  • The lengths the Scientology organization has gone through to protect itself from the government and its disillusioned apostates.
  • How Leah and her Fair Game co-host Mike Rinder have survived the stalking, harassment, and threats of post-Scientology life.
  • What die-hard Scientologists really believe.
  • How Scientology recruits and retains its A-list celebrity lineup.
  • And much more...

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Mar 23, 2021
484: Give Bridesmaid the Boot for Political Dispute? | Feedback Friday
00:56:43

Your BFF was slated to be a bridesmaid at your wedding, but she can't resist the urge to argue about politics with you, your fiance, and anyone with whom she disagrees. Now you're wondering: should you even invite her to the wedding at all? We'll dig into this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/484

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your BFF bridesmaid insufferably loves to argue politics to the point that your fiance can't stand the sight of her. Now you're wondering: should you even invite her to your wedding?
  • Even though you helped your dad build a multi-million dollar business, your long-distance girlfriend's old-fashioned parents don't approve of your relationship. They don't see what you've done as an accomplishment, just that you "work for your dad." What can you do to improve your relationship with people who might someday be your in-laws?
  • You tend to interact with people in a way that some consider being too informal or familiar. Sometimes your sense of humor just doesn't seem to hit the right note and you wind up offending more often than making people laugh. Is there anything you should be doing to make a better impression?
  • Your girlfriend is a magnificent writer, with a master's degree in English, pursuing a career in publishing. Unfortunately, her lack of success in landing a job has sapped her confidence; she won’t reach out to friends and family for support, and is terrified to ask for help. She's even opposed to therapy thanks to bad experiences in the past. What can you do?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Mar 19, 2021
483: Drew Binsky | Vicarious Trips and Travel Tips
01:30:35

Drew Binsky (@drewbinsky) has been to 194 countries (probably more by the time you're done reading this sentence), shares his prolific adventures on YouTube, and hopes to inspire us all to become better world travelers. Take in the vicarious trips and travel tips with him here!

What We Discuss with Drew Binsky:

  • What it's like to spend 24 hours with an isolated tribe of pygmies in the middle of a forest in Africa.
  • The story of Zablon Simintov, the last and only remaining Afghan Jew in the country of Afghanistan.
  • What Drew considers to be the most dangerous country in the world (without even a close second), and how he fared during his six days there.
  • Why the most expensive countries in the world are ones you've probably never heard of.
  • How Drew protects himself when he's traveling in war zones and countries that are particularly hostile toward journalists.
  • And much more...

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Mar 18, 2021
482: Adam Grant | The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know
01:32:56

Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant) is Wharton’s top-rated professor, the host of podcast WorkLife with Adam Grant, and the author of three New York Times Best SellersOption B (with Sheryl Sandberg), Originals, and Give and Take. Adam revisits the show to discuss his latest book, Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know.

What We Discuss with Adam Grant:

  • Why being open to changing your mind is a huge advantage in your personal and professional life -- and not weakness, as your ego is urging you to believe.
  • The criteria by which Amazon's Jeff Bezos makes big decisions quickly while allowing room for a change of mind when new information is revealed.
  • How you can use brainwriting instead of brainstorming to come up with the best ideas from within your organization without losing them to the hazards of dreaded groupthink.
  • Why your network could do with a "disagreeable giver" (or several) to tear your ideas apart and point out the holes in your thinking -- not to bring you down, but to help you improve.
  • How to preface criticism so that other people really hear it (in only 19 words or so) without taking offense.
  • And much more...

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Mar 16, 2021
481: Custody Battle Rattles Disproven Dad | Feedback Friday
00:53:23

When a father is unbothered by the results of a paternity test that disproves a biological connection to the daughter he's raised since birth, what can he do to win a custody battle against the uncooperative mother who's considered a more "real" parent by the state? We'll seek the answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/481

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Can a dad who's raised a daughter as his own win custody after a court-ordered test disproves his paternity? [Once again, many thanks to attorney and friend Corbin Payne for helping us answer this one!]
  • A new job with amazing opportunities for growth means leaving behind a team you've come to admire. What's the most graceful way to exit while remaining on good terms?
  • A simple request for a textbook refund has led to erroneous, uninvited emails from the publisher containing private information of other customers, which means someone else probably has your "private" information. On top of this, you still don't have a refund. Is threatening legal action your most reasonable next step? [Yep. The Payne Train helped us with this one too! Thanks, Corbin!]
  • For years, you've been happily married to the love of your life, but they've become politically active to a hostile degree on social media and condescending toward you for being "uninformed" when you want to talk about something -- anything -- else. What can you do to bring the boiling point down a bit?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Mar 12, 2021
480: Roger Atwood | Stealing History
01:08:56

Roger Atwood (@rogeratwood) knows where priceless antiquities are buried, who is digging them up, and who is fencing and buying them, as described in his book Stealing History: Tomb Raiders, Smugglers, and the Looting of the Ancient World.

What We Discuss with Roger Atwood:

  • How abhorrent colonial looting practices of the past pale in comparison to the streamlined, market-driven illicit antiquities trading of today.
  • Contrary to popular depiction, illicit antiquities traders aren't marginalized hustlers scrambling to put food on the table, but savvy businesspeople following the demand that leads to a hefty payday.
  • How well-connected and wealthy collectors perpetuate this market by requesting and purchasing relics on demand in the same way most of us would order pizza.
  • Why this on-demand artifact mill irrevocably destroys more than it rescues from the unknown past and ruins sites beyond the context of legitimate archaeological salvageability.
  • On a positive note: what can be done to stem the tide for this wasteful demand so future generations might still enjoy what's yet to be discovered.
  • And much more...

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Mar 11, 2021
479: Lisa Feldman Barrett | Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain
01:25:17

Lisa Feldman Barrett (@lfeldmanbarrett) is among the top one percent most-cited scientists in the world for her revolutionary research in psychology and neuroscience. Her new book, Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain, is out now.

What We Discuss with Lisa Feldman Barrett:

  • Our brains evolved to keep our bodies alive -- thinking is just a bonus by-product.
  • Why the lizard brain theory is a myth.
  • More like companies than computers, our brains reorganize themselves when the situation calls for adaptation to survive.
  • How our brains predict what we think we’re hearing and seeing, and how this affects our behavior.
  • Why you're not really left-brained or right-brained.
  • And much more...

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Mar 09, 2021
478: Will Suing Abusive Father Bring Mother Peace? | Feedback Friday
00:55:15

Your mother and aunt have suffered lifelong trauma from your grandfather's physical, mental, and sexual abuse of them when they were children. The family has been considering legal action against him, but it would be difficult for your mother and aunt to repeatedly relive this abuse in court, and the strength of the case is in question because this happened over 30 years ago. Should they pursue it anyway? This and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/478

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Should your mother and aunt sue their father 30 years after he physically, mentally, and sexually abused them? Would justice -- or at least telling their story in court -- bring them peace? [Thanks again to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
  • You're an ex-con whose rough childhood and over 10 years in prison have taught you some hard but valuable lessons, and you've earned a uniquely valuable skill set. So how do you market this experience in a way that will serve you in the outside world?
  • You and your significant other have been living with their mother for much of the pandemic. While you get along, she can be passive-aggressive, petty, and dramatic. You try to sympathize, listen, and help her out when possible, but it's stressing you out. What else can you do to maintain a good relationship without sacrificing your own sanity?
  • You’ve been passed over for a promotion twice in a year and a half, and you suspect the reasons might be more personal than professional. Should you lodge a complaint at the risk of a hit to your reputation, or should you just take it on the chin and hope a third time will be the charm? Bottom line: how can you be truly proactive about advancement?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Mar 05, 2021
477: Peter Diamandis | Creating a Future Bold in Abundance
00:58:33

Peter Diamandis (@PeterDiamandis) is the founder of the XPRIZE Foundation, co-host of the Exponential Wisdom Podcast, and co-author of Bold: How to Go Big, Create Wealth and Impact the World and Abundance: The Future Is Better Than You Think.

What We Discuss with Peter Diamandis:

  • What does the future hold for human longevity, space colonization, artificial intelligence, and beyond?
  • How can we adapt — individually and as a society — to deal with increased automation in the workforce?
  • What is linear thinking and why does it cause us to miss the mark when coping with technology, innovation, and the advancement of the human race?
  • If you don’t know your calling in life, your calling in life is to discover what that is.
  • What experiments can kids curious about science do that won’t get them put on a no-fly list for the foreseeable future?
  • And so much more…

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Mar 04, 2021
476: Dan David | Putting Muscle on the China Hustle
01:07:40

Dan David (@Dan_David44) is an investor, activist short-seller, and whistle-blower. He is the founder of Wolfpack Research, host of the I Hung Up On Warren Buffett Podcast, and is featured in The China Hustle documentary.

What We Discuss with Dan David:

  • Dan defines what it means to be an activist short-seller, and how his research discerns between legitimate but worthwhile risks in the market and outright criminal fraud.
  • How Chinese companies use reverse mergers to trade on US markets without oversight and siphon hundreds of billions of dollars from the economy without accountability or criminal consequences.
  • Why the US government allows this legalized corruption to continue (with the blessing of investment banks).
  • In the end, who really suffers in the fallout of these reverse takeover (RTO) scams.
  • The long-term dangers of allowing this fraud to continue, and what Dan sees as our way out of this mess.
  • And much more...

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Mar 02, 2021
475: Is It Possible to Assuage Narcissistic Rage? | Feedback Friday
00:51:15

Your significant other of six years has a narcissistic personality disorder and an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. Even when sober, she can turn on a dime and engage in narcissistic rage, which includes venomous, disrespectful rants and the destruction of expensive artwork. It seems obvious that you should break up with her, but she's unemployable and unable to care for herself, and living arrangements for whoever leaves would be difficult to secure in the midst of the pandemic. What's your next move? We'll do what we can to help assuage narcissistic rage and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/475

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • What are you avoiding just because the desired outcome would take longer than you'd like?
  • What do you do when your significant other ruins your stuff in fits of narcissistic rage but breaking up is logistically difficult? [Thanks to friend and therapist Kim Seltzer for helping us field this one!]
  • You're excited about becoming a first-time parent, but you're worried it won't allow you the time to do your full-time job and pursue a career in competitive golf. Does this make you a selfish jerk?
  • An opening for advancement has come up at your company, but you're not sure you're ready for it just yet. Should you go for it anyway, or wait until you've got more experience under your belt and hope that opportunity knocks again?
  • While you're not currently disabled, you do have multiple sclerosis that will gradually incapacitate you to some degree over time. Are you obligated to disclose this on a job application? [Thanks to once-adversary, now-friend, and attorney Jeremy Golan for helping us with this one!]
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Feb 26, 2021
474: David Eagleman | The Inside Story of the Ever-Changing Brain
01:15:29

David Eagleman (@davideagleman) is a neuroscientist at Stanford, CSO of sensory substitution technology company NeoSensory, host of Emmy-nominated PBS/BBC series The Brain, and author of Livewired: The Inside Story of the Ever-Changing Brain.

What We Discuss with David Eagleman:

  • Like organisms in a forest, the multicellular components of your brain are as much in competition with one another as they are in cooperation.
  • How your sensory landscape adapts to utilize what's useful and discard what's not as you learn new skills.
  • Why David believes the nature vs. nurture debate is dead (and that Darwin might owe Lamarck a bit of an apology).
  • How neglect can irreparably shape the brain of a child, and what this can teach us about the way different generations learn about, process, and behave in the world.
  • How senses like sight and hearing can be translated by technology for people without a native ability to process them, and why we'll be able to invent entirely new senses with the help of technology.
  • And much more...

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Feb 25, 2021
473: Scott Galloway | From Crisis to Opportunity Post Corona
01:13:35

Scott Galloway (@profgalloway) cohosts Pivot with Kara Swisher, publishes the No Mercy/No Malice newsletter, is a professor at NYU Stern School of Business, and is the author of Post Corona: From Crisis to Opportunity.

What We Discuss with Scott Galloway:

  • How the pandemic has accelerated changes already in the making: it only took 40 weeks to lose the jobs that it took 20 years to create, and only eight weeks for e-commerce to experience a decade's worth of growth.
  • The industries most poised to thrive in the post-pandemic world.
  • Why it's never been easier to become a billionaire, and it's never been harder to become a millionaire.
  • How education will change as a result of pandemic upheaval and the technology created to match its demand -- likely for the better.
  • How to make sure these dramatic changes work for you instead of against you.
  • And much more...

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Feb 23, 2021
472: When Your Employee Defrauds the Government | Feedback Friday
00:54:19

In spite of not being financially affected by the pandemic, you know an employee of yours and his wife have been gaming the system and taking unemployment benefits and PPP loans from the government to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars. While you're deeply bothered by their gleeful boasting about these fraudulent actions, you also don't like meddling in other people's business. Should you file a complaint to the proper authorities anyway, or just hope that karma will come around someday? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/472

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your well-paid employee boasts about fraudulently receiving COVID relief from the government to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars. Should you report this or hope karma intervenes? Another ponderable: if he's regularly and remorselessly stealing from Uncle Sam, what's he been stealing from your company?
  • Your irresponsible sister parties and spends beyond her means while neglecting her daughter. You want to be supportive of your niece's well-being, but you also don't want to take her off your sister's hands and enable more bad behavior. How do you find a decent middle ground without also neglecting your own family?
  • As a Westerner teaching English in Japan, how do you get past the point of being a tall, freakish curiosity to the locals in order to build deeper relationships with new friends?
  • Would getting a text message from a person you spent a total of eight hours with over a year ago mean anything? Or would it just be a weird, semi-unnecessary gesture?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Feb 19, 2021
471: Steven Hassan | The #iGotOut Guide to Quitting QAnon
01:40:27

Steven Hassan (@CultExpert) has helped thousands of individuals and families recover from undue influence (authoritarian control). With over 40 years of experience, he is sought after as one of the foremost authorities on undue influence and controlling groups and individuals. He is the founder of the Freedom of Mind Resource Center, and a founding collaborator of the #iGotOut movement.

What We Discuss with Steven Hassan:

  • How a disinformation crusade like QAnon takes root and thrives in the politically polarized petri dish of modern America (with a little help from its outside adversaries).
  • Why the trope of non-human elites ritualistically sustaining themselves on the essence of innocent children should seem familiar -- because this blood libel has been most famously used to normalize the persecution of Jews from the Middle Ages to the Holocaust and beyond.
  • How QAnon appeals not only to the predictable dumber-than-a-box-of-rocks demographic, but a surprising number of seemingly otherwise intelligent people who are counterintuitively more susceptible to its influence than most.
  • How Steven’s BITE model applies to QAnon's manipulation of behavior, information, thought, and emotion among its followers to show it for what it is: a destructive cult with elements of psyops thrown in for good measure.
  • What we can and should do when people we care about have been sucked down the QAnon rabbit hole and we want to see them safely tethered back to reality.
  • And much more...

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Feb 18, 2021
470: Bruce Sackman | A Glimpse Behind the Murder Curtain
01:28:39

Bruce Sackman (@bts1811) is a renowned investigator specializing in tracking down medical serial killers. He is the co-author of Behind the Murder Curtain: Special Agent Bruce Sackman Hunts Doctors and Nurses Who Kill Our Veterans.

What We Discuss with Bruce Sackman:

  • How Bruce first became aware of the MSKs (medical serial killers) who were operating for years, undetected, in our veterans hospitals.
  • Why it's so difficult -- even for medical professionals -- to spot their colleagues who kill in a hospital environment (and why it's often covered up when they do).
  • How the monstrously prolific body count of a quietly efficient MSK makes the serial killers who wind up famous as household names and true crime documentary subjects seem like amateurs in comparison.
  • What motivates an MSK to murder the people who trust and rely on them for care?
  • How Bruce's experience with tracking, exposing, and catching MSKs have helped investigators and forensic nurses throughout the world put a stop to these formerly unchecked murder sprees.
  • And much more...

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Feb 16, 2021
469: Should a Cheater Get a Second Chance? | Feedback Friday
00:53:59

Should a cheater get a second chance? Like most of us, you probably have an instant answer to that question. But what if the cheater happened to be you? Should the ex you cheated on give you a second chance? We'll tackle this timeless question and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/469

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • A listener shares their own false confession story after hearing episode 456 with Laura Nirider, and Corbin Payne reminds us why we should never talk to the police without an attorney present whether or not we're guilty.
  • Should a cheater get a second chance? What if you're the cheater? Does that change your answer? Should the ex you cheated on give you a second chance?
  • Your idealist sibling can't seem to get his life together unless the "perfect" opportunities present themselves, and your family has had enough. How can you gently nudge him toward the path of progress he needs to take?
  • Your former boss turned hostile when you gave your two-week notice, and now you're worried she'll give you a bad reference as you seek employment elsewhere. How do you prepare for this possibility as you interview for future positions?
  • Your grandma's struggles with seasonal depression are exacerbated by her quarantine-era hobby of doomscrolling the news and posting on Facebook. What can you do to help her get unstuck from her own gloomy thoughts during this time?
  • What systems do we have in place to ensure we answer all the messages that come our way?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Feb 12, 2021
468: Jack Schafer | Getting People to Reveal the Truth Part Two
00:56:04

Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Truth Detector: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide for Getting People to Reveal the Truth. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!] 

What We Discuss with Jack Schafer:

  • Elicitation versus interrogation: why one is usually more effective in extracting truth than the other.
  • How the elicitation techniques used by the FBI to uncover secrets from foreign spies can be applied to buying used cars, negotiating better salaries, and finding out if your teenager is throwing parties when you're out of town.
  • Three friend signals we display when we want to establish rapport and trust with someone we've just met (and might be used against us by con artists and other disreputable types).
  • How presumptive statements can be used to play upon our insecurities and get us to easily reveal truths we'd otherwise keep guarded -- and what we can do to avoid spilling the beans when they're used against us.
  • How to use a third-party perspective to discover what people are really thinking.
  • And much more...

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Feb 11, 2021
467: Jack Schafer | Getting People to Reveal the Truth Part One
00:54:45

Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Truth Detector: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide for Getting People to Reveal the Truth. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!]

What We Discuss with Jack Schafer:

  • Elicitation versus interrogation: why one is usually more effective in extracting truth than the other.
  • How the elicitation techniques used by the FBI to uncover secrets from foreign spies can be applied to buying used cars, negotiating better salaries, and finding out if your teenager is throwing parties when you're out of town.
  • Three friend signals we display when we want to establish rapport and trust with someone we've just met (and might be used against us by con artists and other disreputable types).
  • How presumptive statements can be used to play upon our insecurities and get us to easily reveal truths we'd otherwise keep guarded -- and what we can do to avoid spilling the beans when they're used against us.
  • How to use a third-party perspective to discover what people are really thinking.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/467

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Feb 09, 2021
466: How to Cope with a Dying, Narcissistic Parent | Feedback Friday
00:42:21

In order to preserve your own sanity, you cut off all contact with your covert narcissist mom a few years ago. But now that she's dying, you wonder if you should reconcile for the short time she has left -- or regret not doing so once it's too late. What's the right thing to do here? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/466

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • In order to preserve your own sanity, you cut off all contact with your covert narcissist mom a few years ago. But now she's dying and you wonder if you should reconcile for the short time she has left -- or regret not doing so once it's too late.
  • You've become a perpetual shoulder to cry on for someone who never follows your advice no matter how much time you devote to trying to help them. How do you gently quit the job of being this person's informal (and free) therapist?
  • You've been at your current job for seven years with no advancement in your pay or position in spite of exceeding expectations and never receiving a negative performance review. Your boss promised a raise two and a half years ago, but it still hasn't surfaced. What should you do?
  • You're 50 years old and have worked in the same industry for most of your adult life. You're interested in transitioning to a different career, but you're starting to wonder if your age is a help or a hindrance. When you show up to interviews with grey hair, does it communicate "experienced and reliable" or "old and obsolete?"
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Feb 05, 2021
465: Thomas Erikson | How to Protect Yourself from Psychopaths
01:26:14

Thomas Erikson is a behavioral expert, active lecturer, and bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots and Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business.

What We Discuss with Thomas Erikson:

  • Not all narcissists are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are narcissists. So how can you identify the psychopaths in your life who don't act like the ones you see in slasher flicks and psychological thrillers?
  • What psychopaths have to gain from manipulating and destroying other people.
  • The insidious tactics psychopaths use to sow doubt and reap chaos in others.
  • How you can resist these tactics before they're used to ruin your life.
  • What to do if you suspect that you might be a psychopath.
  • And much more...

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Thomas Erikson is a behavioral expert, active lecturer, and bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots and Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business.

What We Discuss with Thomas Erikson:

  • Not all narcissists are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are narcissists. So how can you identify the psychopaths in your life who don't act like the ones you see in slasher flicks and psychological thrillers?
  • What psychopaths have to gain from manipulating and destroying other people.
  • The insidious tactics psychopaths use to sow doubt and reap chaos in others.
  • How you can resist these tactics before they're...
Feb 04, 2021
464: Ramit Sethi | I Will Teach You to Find Your Dream Job
01:11:36

Ramit Sethi (@ramit) is the bestselling author of I Will Teach You to Be Rich: No Guilt. No Excuses. No B.S. Just a 6-Week Program That Works, and now he's applied the same no-nonsense approach to his latest program, Find Your Dream Job.

What We Discuss with Ramit Sethi:

  • Many people are underpaid, often by $10,000 per year. How can you make sure you're not one of them?
  • What hiring managers are really looking for in job candidates, and how to refrain from disqualifying yourself before you've even applied simply because you lack a prerequisite mentioned in the listing.
  • Throwing your resume on a stack with the rest of the candidates and hoping for the best is probably a wasted effort -- because most of the best jobs are filled through backdoor introductions, often before they're ever made public.
  • By the time you've been granted an interview, the hiring manager doesn't want a generic rehash of your credentials -- they're more interested in knowing how well you'll fit in with the team and if you can be counted on under pressure.
  • The three parts of the negotiation power dynamics framework that will help you maximize the outcome of your negotiations by understanding your leverage.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/464

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Feb 02, 2021
463: Saying Sayonara to Sister's Swindling Sweetie | Feedback Friday
00:53:34

While your sister's history of bad beaus continues to sap her self-esteem and savings, her current companion's cons are preying upon your parents' provisions. What's the surest way of saying sayonara to your sister's swindling sweetie? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/463

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • While your sister's history of bad beaus continues to sap her self-esteem and savings, her current companion's cons are preying upon your parents' provisions. What's the surest way of saying sayonara to your sister's swindling sweetie?
  • As a young, caucasian, cisgender, heterosexual, and relatively fit male with no real health issues (or even allergies), you recognize your privilege and genetic luck. How do you most responsibly support those who are less privileged as an ally who amplifies their messages, educates yourself, and stays mindful of your impact on others?
  • You're teaching at a run-down school where a gaslighting principal is in charge. You love your underserved students and don't want to abandon them, but you're finding the work environment too toxic to be sustainable for your sanity. What are your best options here?
  • You’ve been introducing people to each other when you've thought the connection would be mutually beneficial, but these introductions have gone awry more often than not. What's our advice for preventing this from happening (or mitigating its damage to your reputation when it does)?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Jan 29, 2021
462: Linda Carroll | Unlocking Lasting Love Skills
00:51:19

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) is a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship sage, and author of Love Skills: The Keys to Unlocking Lasting, Wholehearted Love and Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love.

What We Discuss with Linda Carroll:

  • Love is a feeling that comes and goes, but loving is a skill set you can improve with practice.
  • Why most arguments are not really about what you think you're fighting about.
  • Is communication in relationships overrated? What the Woodpecker Syndrome is and how to avoid it.
  • "You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else" and other cultural stereotypes and clichés about relationships that are worth less than the Hallmark cards they were printed on
  • Why so many of us get locked into repeating relationship patterns that ultimately end messily.
  • And much more...

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Jan 28, 2021
461: Erik Vance | The Curious Science of the Suggestible You
01:13:46

Erik Vance (@erikvance) is an award-winning science journalist and author of Suggestible You: The Curious Science of Your Brain's Ability to Deceive, Transform, and Heal.

What We Discuss with Erik Vance:

  • How the human tendency for patternicity can be used to inoculate ourselves against pain, but also make us believe we've been abducted by space aliens.
  • The placebo effect vs. the nocebo effect.
  • The power of false memories and the "Satanic Panic" phenomenon of the 1980s.
  • How our brains twist reality to match expectations, and how it fits into our evolutionary model for survival.
  • Why Erik paid a Mexico City witch doctor to curse him -- for science!
  • And much more...

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Jan 26, 2021
460: Why Did Your Adopted Child Leave? | Feedback Friday
00:50:25

When your adopted child turned 18, he immediately moved out without warning and wrote you a letter saying he left "for mental health reasons" -- and not to contact him. You're hurt, disappointed, and feel cut off; is there any way to respect his wishes while getting some clarity on why this happened and letting him know you're still unconditionally there for him? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/460

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Wisdom from Charlie Munger: Take a simple idea and take it seriously.
  • When your adopted child turned 18, he immediately moved out and wrote you a letter saying he left "for mental health reasons" -- and not to contact him. You're hurt, disappointed, and feel cut off; is there any way to respect his wishes while getting some clarity on why this happened?
  • You're a middle schooler who doesn't thrive with the lessened engagement of online courses, but you understandably don't feel safe going to the classroom in the middle of a pandemic. You've considered dropping out and attending a community college that offers courses for all ages and has much safer COVID-19 protocols, but you're not sure it's the right move. What would we do in your shoes?
  • You graduated law school to become a world-changing lawyer, but you've been diagnosed with a debilitating illness that makes this a difficult proposition now. You know there are positions with a work-life balance that would be more accommodating to your condition, but they're not generally world-changing. Where should you go from here?
  • A shady landlord is trying to sucker you into paying two months' rent against the terms of your very explicit lease, and it's having an adverse effect on your credit score. How can you legally get this creep off your back? [Thanks once again to our defense attorney friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
  • You and your fiancee want your relationship to be focused on you, not the image of the relationship you convey online. But how do you balance sharing life updates with your network to provide an engagement point for weak or dormant ties (as discussed in our free Six-Minute Networking course)?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and...
Jan 22, 2021
459: Steve Madden | How a Cobbler Disrupted an Industry
01:03:36

Steve Madden (@stevenmadden) is a fashion designer and businessman, and author of The Cobbler: How I Disrupted an Industry, Fell From Grace, and Came Back Stronger Than Ever.

What We Discuss with Steve Madden:

  • How growing up as a half-Jewish, half-Irish outsider gave Steve a unique perspective and mindset that dispensed with establishment formalities.
  • Why it's not failure that defines someone's character, but how someone responds to coming up short.
  • In hindsight, Steve weighs the pros and cons of living by the "better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission" credo.
  • Why knowing what you don't know can be what Steve considers "a very big gift."
  • Why it wasn't designs or talent that made Steve's company successful; it was the cultivation of an unstoppable work ethic.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/459

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Jan 21, 2021
458: John Brennan | An Undaunted Fight Against America's Enemies
01:25:13

John Brennan (@JohnBrennan) served as the Director of the CIA from 2013 to 2017, and is the author of Undaunted: My Fight Against America's Enemies, At Home and Abroad.

What We Discuss with John Brennan:

  • The mechanics of being in charge of America's spy agency and dealing with international crises on a daily basis.
  • How CIA officers are taught to question their assumptions and overcome confirmation biases to find facts in a field of deception.
  • Why John argued for diversity within the CIA -- not to placate a liberal agenda, as his critics asserted, but to strengthen the agency's ability to operate effectively in a diverse world.
  • How John was able to get a job at the CIA in spite of past hashish use, lying to his mother about going to church, and voting for a communist.
  • The challenges of operating clandestinely in the digitally rich 21st century.
  • And much more...

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Jan 19, 2021
457: Help! I Married a Conspiracy Theorist! | Feedback Friday
00:50:10

You and your wife of four years have had your ups and downs, but she recently revealed her belief in a number of conspiracy theories. Now you wonder if you can continue a life together when you're living in two entirely different realities. We'll examine this rabbit hole and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/457

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your wife of four years recently revealed she's gone down a conspiracy theory rabbit hole from which she may never return. Is it possible for your marriage to continue when you're each living in your own reality? [Thanks to Justin Ramsdell for helping us with this one!]
  • You're the top choice to run operations if your company's acquisition goes through, but your priorities have shifted toward family and you're not sure the new bosses will understand your desire for work/life balance. What’s the best way to discuss your personal plans with the team so you feel your mutual needs are being considered? [Thanks to Michelle Tillis Lederman for giving us some insight here!]
  • How should a financially smart, successful couple entertain the idea of cohabitating when marriage is in the plans down the road, but the relationship hasn't yet passed the one-year mark?
  • You're friends with a family who recently started hosting maskless "freedom rallies" that have drawn thousands of people into tight quarters during this global pandemic. Every reason you've expressed to them for why this is a terrible idea has been dismissed. Should you just give up? And is there even a future for your friendship even after this passes?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Jan 15, 2021
456: Laura Nirider | Anatomy of a False Confession
01:13:05

Laura Nirider (@LauraNirider) is the co-director of the Center on Wrongful Convictions at Northwestern Pritzker School of Law, and the co-host of the Wrongful Conviction: False Confessions podcast.

What We Discuss with Laura Nirider:

  • Two to five percent of people currently serving time in prison have been falsely convicted.
  • False confessions and admissions are present in 15 to 20 percent of all DNA exonerations.
  • The United States is one of the only countries in the world that allows police to lie about evidence during interrogations.
  • Why so many people are coerced into providing false confessions during interrogations that are gentle compared to the more "hands on" approach taken by police in decades past.
  • How Laura is working to clean up interrogation techniques so they're still effective in solving crimes without trapping innocent people in the system.
  • And much more...

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Jan 14, 2021
455: Matthew McConaughey | Following Life's Greenlights to Success
01:28:35

Matthew McConaughey (@McConaughey) is an Academy Award-winning actor, producer, and author of  #1 New York Times Bestseller Greenlights.

What We Discuss with Matthew McConaughey:

  • What the sobriety of grief did for Matthew's attitude about risk when he was dealing with the loss of his father.
  • How Matthew tries to instill the values of self-reliance in his kids.
  • How Matthew learned to cope with imposter syndrome and get his head on straight when he became a household name seemingly overnight.
  • The philanthropic approach to selecting roles that has guided Matthew through his career in film.
  • How Matthew keeps criticism from affecting how he perceives himself.
  • And much more...

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Jan 12, 2021
454: Dodging Criminal Liability For Erotic Roleplaying | Feedback Friday
00:58:49

You're in an online community that chats about erotic roleplay (ERP), and inadvertently engaged in conversation with a couple of minors. When you discovered their age, you immediately broke off contact -- but you're still worried this could have legal repercussions. Should you be concerned? We'll tackle this and more here on the first Feedback Friday of the year!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/454

Jan 08, 2021
453: Javier Peña and Steve Murphy | Taking Down Pablo Escobar
01:17:08

Javier Peña and Steve Murphy (@deanarcos) are former DEA agents best known for bringing down Colombian drug kingpin Pablo Escobar in the '90s, as dramatized on the first two seasons of Netflix series Narcos and chronicled in their book Manhunters: How We Took Down Pablo Escobar.

What We Discuss with Javier Peña and Steve Murphy:

  • How do you conduct an effective investigation against a murderous yet charismatic criminal on their home turf with a $300,000 bounty on your head?
  • Why was there such friction between the DEA and the CIA during the Pablo Escobar investigation?
  • Why do countries like Mexico and Colombia resist extradition to the United States when we catch a big fish drug trafficker?
  • Have Javier and Steve been back to Colombia since bringing down Pablo Escobar, or do they still have to fear for their lives there?
  • Do Javier and Steve see the permanent dismantling of drug cartels as a possibility, or are they too entrenched in the infrastructure of the countries where they thrive?
  • And much more...

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Jan 07, 2021
Bonus: How to Stop Falling for Everyone You Date | Stereo Sunday
00:00

Welcome to Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we did live in front of a studio audience of you!

This time around, we answered questions from listeners. It went a little something like this...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/bonus-stereo-sunday

On This Week's Stereo Sunday, We Discuss:

  • You discovered -- and had to break the news -- that your mom's boyfriend was cheating on her, but she married him a few months later anyway. To your dismay, now she's having doubts. What can you do?
  • As someone who's been dating for just a few months after a long-term relationship ended, why do you get attached so easily, and how do you avoid these feelings (at least until it's a mutual exchange)?
  • You and your friend are both struggling with the mental and physical challenges that accompany type two diabetes, but she isn't as careful with her diet as you are and she seems genuinely puzzled that there are consequences. Is there a way to help your friend without being a nagging, self-righteous a-hole?
  • If you've put your all into a business only to have it fail, how do you overcome the sting of this failure and drum up the courage to try again?
  • You know you have the work experience to fill a job opening at your company, but your imposter syndrome kicks in when you read its prerequisites -- in particular, a degree you don't have. How can you make a case for your qualifications even though you don't check all the boxes on paper?
  • What industries and potential side hustles have been positively affected by the COVID-19 pandemic and might be good opportunities for someone looking to pivot?
  • You've been out of the workplace for so long that you're not sure where to even begin now that you're ready to get back into it. What's a good first step?
  • How do Fiverr, Upwork, and Mechanical Turk compare for freelancers looking to make a buck?
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Jan 03, 2021
452: Fessing Up to Security Clearance Sex Lies | Feedback Friday
00:54:13

You and your direct boss had a secret affair, and he asked you not to disclose it to your company's vetting agency for fear of losing his security clearance. Now it's years later and you want to come clean to the agency, but how can you do so without it coming off as petty revenge? We'll tackle this and more here on the last Feedback Friday of 2020!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/452

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • 2020's been a wild ride. Are we buckled up for 2021?
  • You and your direct boss had a secret affair, and he asked you not to disclose it to your company's vetting agency for fear of losing his security clearance. Now it's years later and you want to come clean to the agency, but how can you do so without it coming off as petty revenge?
  • When your uncle passed away suddenly, you felt remorse that you never tried to talk to him about the signs of depression he was showing. Now you don't want to make the same mistake with his son, who's clearly struggling with similar issues. But where do you even begin?
  • You and your partner of five years recently split up after talking about how there isn't a path forward for you because opportunities forced you into a long-distance relationship -- even though you are still in love and so compatible otherwise. It feels like a wrong decision; how can you be sure you've explored every option?
  • How might someone grasping at gratitude cultivate a more giving mindset?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Dec 25, 2020
451: Jason Silva | Origins of a Performance Philosopher
01:01:04

Jason Silva (@JasonSilva) would have been called a “performance philosopher” by counterculture icon Timothy Leary. Among many things, he’s a futurist, filmmaker, creator of short video series Shots of Awe, and host of the National Geographic Channel’s Brain Games and Origins: The Journey of Humankind.

What We Discuss with Jason Silva:

  • How our concepts of self are formed — often through the eyes of others — and how they affect our behavior.
  • How top performers excel by shutting down the editorial parts of the human brain coined by Buddhists as the monkey mind.
  • Why “unscripted” isn’t the same as “unprepared,” and how videos can be edited to elicit altered states of consciousness.
  • How good directors help performers get out of their heads — while bad directors do just the opposite.
  • How is day-to-day reality edited by context, similar to the Kuleshov effect demonstrated by Alfred Hitchcock?
  • And much more!

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Dec 24, 2020
450: Frank Maderal | The Dirty Money Behind Illicit Gold Smuggling
01:06:03

Frank Maderal is a litigator and trial attorney (as featured on Netflix's Dirty Money) whose work has given him an intimate knowledge of illicit gold mining and smuggling operations that wreak environmental, social, and economic havoc on a global scale.

What We Discuss with Frank Maderal:

  • Why gold is such an ideal, sought-after medium by criminal enterprises for laundering billions of dollars every year.
  • How unethical methods of gold mining -- both illegal and quasi-legal -- have a devastating, irreparable impact on the environments in which they operate and the people who live there.
  • Money laundering 101: how it works on a global scale, what gives it away to law enforcement, and why gold makes its trail harder to trace even when the evidence is seemingly hiding in plain sight.
  • Why otherwise on-the-level gold traders are increasingly turning to illegal means of aggregation (whether knowingly or not).
  • What law enforcement is doing to make the illicit gold trade a more difficult business for its top-level players and deliberately ignorant enablers.
  • And much more...

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Dec 22, 2020
449: How to Cope with Your Partner's Manic Mind | Feedback Friday
00:57:51

Your significant other is hyper-productive and passionate, but you suspect their motivation is hitched to bipolar tendencies that take their toll on you. What are some strategies you can build to deal with this type of personality and keep yourself sane? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/449

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • What's the true value of friends?
  • Your significant other is hyper-productive and passionate, but you suspect their motivation is hitched to bipolar tendencies that take their toll on you. What are some strategies you can build to deal with this type of personality and keep yourself sane?
  • A past business partnership turned sour and went bust. While you've moved on and started your own successful business since then, you can't help but harbor ill will for your past partner and how things went down. How can you just get over it, already?
  • Already the parents of a special needs child, you made the difficult decision to terminate a pregnancy that would have resulted in another. Unfortunately, your in-laws were religiously opposed to the option you chose and you had to exaggerate the diagnosis for their support. How do you strike a balance between the part these in-laws play in your life and your own family's autonomy?
  • In your 30s, you changed careers to a frontline job in healthcare. It gave you personal fulfillment and more money, but also a challenging lifestyle with lots of on-call time while raising two children. Now that your kids are older, should you commit your last working years to "contributing to the profession," or is it okay to finish out your career continuing to focus on giving great care to your patients?
  • On the networking list you created for Six-Minute Networking, you tend to mostly include older professionals with more experience. Is this the right way to go, or should you stay connected with your peers as well?
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Dec 18, 2020
448: Srdja Popovic | Blueprint for Revolution
01:01:06

Srdja Popovic (@SrdjaPopovic) is the author of Blueprint for Revolution: How to Use Rice Pudding, Lego Men, and Other Nonviolent Techniques to Galvanize Communities, Overthrow Dictators, or Simply Change the World.

What We Discuss with Srdja Popovic:

  • What do revolutions and businesses have in common?
  • Why nonviolence is more popular -- and more effective -- than violence.
  • Why there are no charismatic leaders in the most successful revolutions.
  • How to make a revolution cool by using comedy.
  • How was ’90s Serbia like Middle Earth in the Third Age of The Lord of The Rings (Hobbits and all)?
  • And much more...

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Dec 17, 2020
447: Stephen Schwarzman | Lessons in the Pursuit of Excellence
01:04:55

Stephen Schwarzman is the chairman and CEO of The Blackstone Group, an investor, a philanthropist, and the author of What It Takes: Lessons in the Pursuit of Excellence.

What We Discuss with Stephen Schwarzman:

  • How did Stephen turn being paired with a Nazi roommate at Yale into a learning experience?
  • Why it's as hard to achieve small goals as bigger ones -- except larger goals have more significant consequences (and what entrepreneurs can gain from this perspective).
  • What Stephen learned from working a summer wiping down grease in a Scandanavian ship's 120-degree engine room.
  • Why Stephen considers candor fundamental to the operation of a healthy organization.
  • How Stephen assesses talent when hiring.
  • And much more...

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Dec 15, 2020
446: How to Help Your Suicidal Partner | Feedback Friday
00:51:41

Your significant other has gone through more than most in this seemingly cursed year, but any attempt on your part to help ease the pain is interpreted as a sinister affront. Worse, there's talk of suicide as a better option than the continued depression of quarantine. how do you help your suicidal partner? We'll dig into this and more here on Feedback Friday.

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/446

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Great Mondays author Josh Levine suggests this thought exercise for business owners who want to understand the value of their organization beyond making money: ask your employees to write an obituary for your company. He likes doing this in teams of eight to 12 colleagues, and having each group come up with three to five paragraphs memorializing their company -- listing its accomplishments, its impact on the world, that kind of thing. The groups then share their obituaries and identify the most compelling phrases, with the goal of coming up with a short mission statement.
  • Your significant other has gone through more than most in this seemingly cursed year, but any attempt on your part to help ease the pain is interpreted as a sinister affront. Worse, there's talk of suicide as a better option than the continued depression of quarantine. how do you help your suicidal partner?
  • You're lucky and grateful to have a healthy nest egg and a home that's paid in full while so many are struggling to survive through these tough times. The thing is, you can't help feeling guilty for your good fortune, and you feel like you need to justify it. How do you drop the shame of being well off when everyone around you seems to be down and out?
  • Your parents take the fact that you voted for the other side this past election as a sign they failed to raise you right, and their fear-driven conspiracy rambling is especially disheartening. Still, you've agreed to go to their house next weekend for walks and hard talks that are supposed to make adult families closer, but where do you even begin?
  • Sometimes getting fired by a boss who makes empty promises is a favor in disguise, but when it's for voicing your frustrations after being asked for them, might you have grounds for a wrongful termination lawsuit?
  • You're running through the exercises in our free Six-Minute Networking course, but you're wondering how you might introduce somewhat loose connections in your...
Dec 11, 2020
445: Seth Godin | Shipping Creative Work
00:59:31

Seth Godin (@thisissethsblog) is an entrepreneur, a teacher, a Marketing Hall of Fame inductee, a daily blogger, the host of the Akimbo podcast, and the author of 20 (or so) international bestsellers. His latest is The Practice: Shipping Creative Work.

What We Discuss with Seth Godin:

  • Why trust is really the heartbeat of the creative process.
  • Why writer's block is a myth.
  • What's a success trap, and why do creators fall into them?
  • What can we do when what we do is never enough to make us happy?
  • How regularly asking yourself the question "What would I do if I knew I could not fail?" might just help you divorce yourself from outcome dependence.
  • And much more...

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Dec 10, 2020
444: Jordan & Gabe | Kidnap Me Twice, Shame on Me
00:55:01

There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, "Kidnap me once, shame on — shame on you. Kidnap me — you can't get kidnapped again." But Jordan doesn't know any better because he comes from Michigan, so he's actually been kidnapped twice. Here, Jordan tells the story of that second time.

Here, We Talk About the Time Jordan Got Kidnapped in Serbia:

  • Kidnapping victims don't always live to tell the tale. The reason Jordan is still alive after being kidnapped (twice) is due to the fact he saw security expert Gavin de Becker on Oprah discussing what to do in just such a seemingly unlikely situation.
  • After almost getting kidnapped in Mexico in 2000, how did Jordan find himself in a position to get kidnapped in Serbia in 2004?
  • How did Jordan escape whatever dire fate was surely awaiting him at the dreaded second location?
  • What are your best chances for staying alive if you ever find yourself in a similar, unenviable condition?
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Dec 08, 2020
443: Kidnap Me Once, Shame on You | Stereo Sunday
00:43:33

There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, "Kidnap me once, shame on — shame on you. Kidnap me — you can't get kidnapped again." But Jordan doesn't know any better because he comes from Michigan, so he's actually been kidnapped twice. Here, Jordan tells the story of that second time.

Here, We Talk About the Time Jordan Got Kidnapped in Serbia:

  • Kidnapping victims don't always live to tell the tale. The reason Jordan is still alive after being kidnapped (twice) is due to the fact he saw security expert Gavin de Becker on Oprah discussing what to do in just such a seemingly unlikely situation.
  • After almost getting kidnapped in Mexico in 2000, how did Jordan find himself in a position to get kidnapped in Serbia?
  • How did Jordan escape whatever dire fate was surely awaiting him at the dreaded second location?
  • What are your best chances for staying alive if you ever find yourself in a similar, unenviable condition?
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/443

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Dec 06, 2020
442: Sextortion Scam Security for Naive Nudes | Feedback Friday
00:58:35

In a momentary lapse of your usual good sense, you naïvely provided nude selfies to someone on a dating app, and now they're trying to extort a ransom from you. If you don't pay up, they've threatened to share said nude selfies with your family, friends, and employer. Now what can you do? We examine your solution for this quandary and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/442

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • A sextortionist is threatening to send your nude selfies to family, friends, and employer if you don't pay up! Now what?
  • You've always found it easier to make friends with women, but you're married and it seems inappropriate. What can you do to better relate to other men and strike up friendships with them when it always seems like an awkward, fruitless effort?
  • You're proud to work for a company that rallies around racial equity, LGBTQ+, and mental health awareness. But you feel pressured to add hashtags and pronouns to your email closing in order to signal support, which just feels performative and icky -- because you believe action should precede speech. Are you being unreasonable?
  • Even though you landed your dream job in February, the drudgery of working from home every day since the pandemic started has worn down whatever motivation you once had to stay in physical and mental shape. How can you climb out of the funk of feeling bad about your situation and not wanting to do anything about it?
  • You've been getting Spanish lessons through Fiverr, and you're at the awkward stage between being able to hold a fluid conversation and knowing most of the stuff covered in basic lessons. What can you do to make further progress on your language learning from here?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Dec 04, 2020
441: Russell Brand | Finding Freedom from Our Addictions
00:57:38

Russell Brand (@rustyrockets) is a comedian, broadcaster, actor, podcaster, columnist, political commentator, mental health and drug rehabilitation activist, and author of twelve books — including Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions.

What We Discuss with Russell Brand:

  • How the concept of the twelve-step program is applicable to all forms of attachment as a tool for transition.
  • Why does it usually take a serious crisis to spur people toward seeking help for their addictions?
  • Addiction is really the result of reaching for something external that already exists internally — but exists in a place that’s either unknown or inaccessible.
  • Do we really overcome addiction, or is it an ongoing struggle that requires constant attention and maintenance?
  • What does addiction want?
  • And much more...

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Dec 03, 2020
440: David Michaels | Dark Money and the Science of Deception
01:11:38

David Michaels (@drdavidmichaels) is an epidemiologist who served as the Assistant Secretary of Labor for OSHA from 2009 to 2017, Assistant Secretary of Energy for Environment, Safety, and Health from 1998 through January 2001, and is the author of The Triumph of Doubt: Dark Money and the Science of Deception.

What We Discuss with David Michaels:

  • Why bad science thrives and who most profits from its proliferation.
  • How seemingly solid data can be used to mislead and distract us in the guise of fact.
  • Why our flawed regulatory system can take decades to protect the public against dangers the industries benefitting from them know are risky.
  • What David means when he says: "There are two sides to every story, but there are not necessarily two valid sides to every story -- especially if one of them has been purchased at a high price."
  • What we can do to become more aware of these manipulations and resist their effects on our health, our children, and our trust in science itself.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/440

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Dec 01, 2020
439: Going to North Korea: Part Two | Stereo Sunday
01:12:51

This is the third episode of Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we’ve been doing live in front of a studio audience of you! Download the Stereo app for iOS or Android here.

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/439

On This Week’s Stereo Sunday, We Continue Our Adventures in North Korea (Part One Can Be Found Here):

  • Gabe and Jordan traveled to North Korea (aka Democratic People's Republic of Korea -- or DPRK) together several times between 2011 and 2016.
  • As bizarre as you've heard North Korea can be, the reality is probably even weirder.
  • What do you actually do on a trip to North Korea?
  • How long does a typical itinerary last?
  • Should you strike up conversations with random people in transit (or let them tell you what you can and cannot read)?
  • What's so impressive about the Arirang Mass Games?
  • What should you do if you're accidentally caught up in propaganda production?
  • How do North Korean subways differ from what we've come to expect in the West?
  • How can throwing a frisbee thaw international iciness?
  • How much warm beer can you get for $20 cash money American?
  • Want to know what it's like to live out a scene from a David Lynch-directed musical? Just dine at a North Korean restaurant!
  • Will you get thrown into a gulag for performing the Star-Spangled Banner at karaoke in North Korea (or should you)?
  • Why did Kim Jong-il allegedly accompany his mother into battle as an infant?
  • In the US, we have freedom of speech. In the DPRK, you don't even have freedom from speech.
  • Why do so many Americans and Canadians own businesses in a town on the Chinese-North Korean border?
  • After talking about all the upsides of visiting North Korea as an American, what are the downsides?
  • If you visit North Korea, what will you encounter that you won't hear about on American network news?
  • We also answer some of our listener questions that came in live during the show!
  • Download the Stereo app here and participate with us live on Friday, November 20th and 27th, at 2 p.m. PST!
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Nov 29, 2020
438: How to Straighten Out Your Crooked Boss | Feedback Friday
00:59:48

Your boss is a low-down dirty sidewinder whose corruption seemingly knows no bounds, and you're on his radar because you've begun to piece together the extent of his malfeasance. If you're wondering how to straighten out your crooked boss (or at least dodge whatever wrath he's trying to dole out as you collect the evidence that will be his undoing), this Feedback Friday is a good place to start!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/438

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • As a new, proud firefighter, you're wondering how to straighten out your crooked boss before his malfeasance brings the whole department down or gets someone killed. We have thoughts!
  • As a European woman working for an American tech company, you were unpleasantly surprised to discover one of your equal-role male coworkers makes $1,500 more per year than you. How might you negotiate for fairer pay at your upcoming evaluation?
  • You "won" an auction to go on a golf trip with your company's least likable VP, which is made all the more awkward by the fact that you've never even played the game before. What are your best options here?
  • Your Robinhood account was hacked, your $6,000 worth of stocks and options were sold, and the cash was transferred out of reach. Even though you reported this within an hour of it happening, Robinhood still hasn't given you definitive answers about what can be done to remedy the situation. What should be your next course of action? [Thanks to Corbin Payne, Esq. and Nathan Perry for helping us with this one!]
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Nov 27, 2020
437: Charles Koch & Brian Hooks | Bottom-Up Solutions for a Top-Down World
01:10:16

Charles Koch is the CEO of Koch Industries, one of the largest privately held American companies. Brian Hooks is the CEO of philanthropic community Stand Together. Together, they wrote Believe in People: Bottom-Up Solutions for a Top-Down World.

What We Discuss with Charles Koch and Brian Hooks:

  • In what ways is our world "top-down," and what are "bottom-up" solutions?
  • Should corporations with unfathomably deep coffers be allowed to contribute so much money to the political process and crafting of policies that affect us all?
  • In recent years, what problems have warranted Charles' collaboration with figures from the "other" side of the political spectrum (like George Soros -- who is vilified by the right for contributing to Democratic initiatives just as Charles is vilified by the left for his contributions to Republican causes)?
  • Good profit versus bad profit, and why making money should be a side-effect of creating mutual value, not the goal itself.
  • How does Charles answer detractors who say Koch Industries is only in favor of government deregulation and pushing climate change denial so it can pollute with reckless abandon for maximum profits at the expense of the world's poorest?
  • And much more...

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Nov 26, 2020
436: Stuart Ritchie | The Science Fictions Undermining Facts
01:11:56

Stuart Ritchie (@StuartJRitchie) is a lecturer in the Social, Genetic and Developmental Psychiatry Centre at King’s College London and author of Intelligence: All That Matters and Science Fictions: How Fraud, Bias, Negligence, and Hype Undermine the Search for Truth.

What We Discuss with Stuart Ritchie:

  • Why good, meaningful science too often gets pushed aside by the hype around bad science that makes for sensational headlines.
  • How and why incentives in research are often skewed and lead to bad science — and even outright fraud.
  • What happens when good scientists are hoodwinked by bad science and vouch for it as gospel because its pedigree seems legit.
  • How can you spot bad science before you adapt your lifestyle to correspond to its dodgy, worthless, or perhaps even dangerous advice?
  • What is the Open Science movement, and how might it help us reform these problems in research going forward?
  • And much more…

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Nov 24, 2020
435: Going to North Korea: Part One | Stereo Sunday
01:08:02

This is the second episode of Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we’re doing live in front of a studio audience of you! We will be live on Friday, November 27th at 2 p.m. PST, so download the Stereo app for iOS or Android here and follow along with us next time!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/435

On This Week's Stereo Sunday, We Discuss Travelling to North Korea:

  • Gabe and Jordan traveled to North Korea (aka Democratic People's Republic of Korea -- or DPRK) together several times between 2011 and 2016.
  • As bizarre as you've heard North Korea can be, the reality is probably even weirder.
  • Do Gabe and Jordan have regrets about spending their tourist dollars in a country that routinely tries to goad the United States into nuclear confrontation and imprisons hundreds of thousands of its own citizens in slave labor camps?
  • What are the dos and don'ts they lay out for Western tourists in orientation?
  • First impressions of the airport and the island-isolated hotel where foreigners are kept.
  • Travelers are accompanied everywhere by a guide/minder.
  • Why tourists shouldn't argue with the locals about differing accounts of history.
  • Is everything a tourist is allowed to see in North Korea just an elaborate "show?"
  • Does everyone who lives there believe what the regime tells them?
  • Download the Stereo app here and participate with us live on Friday, November 20th and 27th, at 2 p.m. PST!
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Nov 22, 2020
434: Helping My Coworker Escape from Abuse | Feedback Friday
00:59:00

Even people who know they're in abusive relationships don't always leave before it's too late, so what can you do to help a coworker who's clearly suffering from her partner's paranoia, instability, and violence? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/434

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Tune in on Friday, November 20th and 27th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Androidto hear Jordan and Gabe gab live!
  • We're happy to report a positive update from episode 421's Secret Sappho.
  • Even people who know they're in abusive relationships don't always leave before it's too late, so what can you do to help a friend who's clearly suffering from her partner's paranoia, instability, and violence?
  • Your best friend of 12 years -- who was also your business partner -- just ghosted you on the verge of a game-changing deal. It hurts because you don't know why, but you can't help but wonder if maybe you've just dodged a toxic bullet. What's the right way to deal with this on a personal and professional level?
  • You have numerous interests and talents that seem to be pulling you in multiple directions when you feel you're at the age where you should really focus, choose something, and stick with it. How do you know what to drop and what to carry along on the next step of your journey?
  • You and your wife are in your 50s and working stable jobs, but she's obsessed with moving to Europe ASAP -- and you don't have massive savings or employment leads there. How can you get her to see that, without a realistic plan in place, you might just wind up living on the streets of Europe?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Nov 20, 2020
433: Larry Lawton | From Jewel Thief to Honorary Cop Part Two
00:55:42

Larry Lawton (@LawrenceRLawton) stole over $18m in diamonds and spent 11 years in some of the toughest federal prisons in the country. He works with The Reality Check Program to keep youth out of trouble that would land them in prison, and is the co-author of Gangster Redemption: How America's Most Notorious Jewel Robber Got Rich, Got Caught, and Got His Life Back on Track. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here!

What We Discuss with Larry Lawton:

  • How heavy is a million dollars in cash, and how quickly can you haul it away while evading the watchful eyes of authorities and tattletales?
  • What major crimes do not carry a statute of limitations?
  • How should you react if you're ever threatened in a place that's getting robbed?
  • How much of a percentage does a professional robber get from fencing stolen goods?
  • As a master of the skills important for pulling off successful heists -- and then getting caught anyway -- how would Larry have used these talents if he had it to do all over again?
  • And much more...

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Nov 19, 2020
432: Larry Lawton | From Jewel Thief to Honorary Cop Part One
00:53:36

Larry Lawton (@LawrenceRLawton) stole over $18m in diamonds and spent 11 years in some of the toughest federal prisons in the country. He works with The Reality Check Program to keep youth out of trouble that would land them in prison, and is the co-author of Gangster Redemption: How America's Most Notorious Jewel Robber Got Rich, Got Caught, and Got His Life Back on Track. This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the rest later in the week!

What We Discuss with Larry Lawton:

  • How young Larry fattened his wallet with $125 a week in 1972 (equivalent to over $750 a week today) with various scams, thefts, and hustles.
  • How Larry wound up getting into the jewelry robbery game, and what he did to maintain control over the situation when he had a gun pulled on him his first time out.
  • Why Larry spent over $10,000 to get a professional education in the jewelry trade when he decided this would be the focus of his criminal career.
  • How a business owner can ensure their place isn't the one chosen when a potential robber is casing businesses in search of an easy target.
  • How Larry would plan and execute a heist when he was a career criminal, and what he would do afterward to hide his trail from the inevitable investigation.
  • And much more...

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Nov 17, 2020
431: The Redefining Power of Resilience | Stereo Sunday
00:38:09

This is the first episode of Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we’re doing live in front of a studio audience of you! We will be live on Friday, November 20th and 27th at 2 p.m. PST, so download the Stereo app for iOS or Android here and follow along with us next time!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/431

On This Week's Stereo Sunday, We Talk About Resilience:

  • Resilience is a quality that is literally life-defining. It can make or break a career, open or close doors, and mean the difference between failing and succeeding.
  • What is resilience? When we talk about resilience, what we’re really talking about is the ability to survive the ups and downs of life without taking too much of a hit. We don’t have control over everything that happens to us in life, but we do have control over what it means and how it affects us.
  • Why does resilience matter? The more resilient you are, the greater your chances of overcoming adversity and succeeding. The less resilient you are, the more likely you are to hit a wall, give up, or drop off when things get tough.
  • How do we cultivate resilience? Because it's not a skill like learning a language By making meaning out of adversity, developing and nurturing strong relationships, and seeking out new experiences.
  • Resilience is a process. It’s not a skill you acquire once and then never have to work on again. And no matter how resilient you become, you can always become more resilient, you can always build up more grit -- and you should, because you can never have enough!
  • Download the Stereo app here and participate with us live on Friday, November 20th and 27th, at 2 p.m. PST!
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Nov 15, 2020
430: Setting Boundaries with a Bipolar Parent | Feedback Friday
00:59:02

You've been trying to set boundaries with your bipolar mother about not calling during work hours unless it's important, but she calls you three to five times before noon every day just to talk. How can you help her to understand that her perspective isn't authoritative? We'll cover this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/430

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • How Essentialism author Greg McKeown uses the 80/20 rule (aka Pareto principle) to get more done in less time -- and why Jordan is pretty minimal with his posting on social media.
  • You've been trying to set boundaries with your bipolar mother about not calling during work hours unless it's important, but she calls you three to five times before noon every day just to talk. How can you help her to understand that her perspective isn't authoritative?
  • You've had to fire and sue a general contractor who bilked you on a house renovation, and now you're forced to live in expensive, short term rentals while you find someone reliable to finish the job. How do you keep your sanity and identity intact while languishing in limbo?
  • A friend with whom you reconnected has been diagnosed with depression, but would rather keep rehashing the same conversations with you rather than seek professional therapy. How can you bow out of your unintentional counseling role so she can get the help she really needs?
  •  You were recently selected by your company for “reverse mentoring” -- a program that connects senior-level managers with younger and less experienced employees in order to exchange fresh perspectives. Your mentee will be the CEO of the company. How do you make this unique opportunity valuable for both of you?
  • You've been strengthening your network thanks to following our free Six-Minute Networking exercises, and now you've been getting clients for your new photography business. After doing one freebie for exposure, how do you start charging what you're worth?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Nov 13, 2020
429: Greg McKeown | The Disciplined Pursuit of Less
01:00:02

Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the host of the What's Essential podcast and author of the New York Times bestseller Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, which challenges core assumptions about achievement (e.g., “more is better”) to get to the essence of what really drives success — on one’s own terms.

What We Discuss with Greg McKeown:

  • Essentialism: the antidote to the problems of feeling busy but not productive, stretched too thin in one area of life, and fulfilling the agendas of others but not our own.
  • Learn how to live by design, not by default.
  • Find out how to say “no” effectively without getting in trouble at home — or fired.
  • Discover how to set hard boundaries between work and play.
  • Learn why folks who are originally very good at essentialism can end up ruining their career and their sanity by letting these boundaries slip over time.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/429

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Nov 12, 2020
428: Jenny Radcliffe | Cat Burglar for Hire
01:11:19

Jenny Radcliffe (@Jenny_Radcliffe) of Human Factor Security is an ethical social engineer hired to smash security measures using psychology, con-artistry, subliminal linguistics, cunning, and guile. She is also the host of award-winning podcast The Human Factor.

What We Discuss with Jenny Radcliffe:

  • How a childhood incident that took place in '70s Liverpool led to Jenny's resolution that she would never again allow herself to be helpless against bad people.
  • What a thrilling break-in to the local zoo's lion exhibit in the middle of the night and an accidental sleepover in a mortuary with a dead body taught Jenny about the illusion of security.
  • How breaking into places to test security for people went from being a side hustle (with assignments that may or may not have been legitimate or free of life-risking consequences) to Jenny's main calling.
  • The strange, supernatural-seeming things someone might experience while alone in massive buildings after hours or asylums abandoned to the elements.
  • What it was like to track people before the Internet, how social media made Jenny's job exponentially easier, and what you can do to protect yourself against being tracked.
  • And much more...

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Nov 10, 2020
427: Sister’s Neo-Nazi Boyfriend Raises Red Flags | Feedback Friday
00:55:15

Your sister's new boyfriend is a flag-waving neo-Nazi who admires what Hitler did for "his people and country." And even though she insists he's somehow one of those rare non-racist neo-Nazis, she herself has cut off contact with previously close Black and Jewish friends. How do you help her see why all of this is so wrong and counter to your inclusive upbringing? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/427

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Tune in on Friday, November 6th, 13th, 20th, and 27th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Androidto hear Jordan and Gabe gab live!
  • "If a decision is reversible, the biggest risk is moving too slow. If a decision is irreversible, the biggest risk is moving too fast." -James Clear
  • How do you get your sister to see why dating her new neo-Nazi boyfriend and alienating her formerly close Jewish and Black friends is wrong on so many levels?
  • You're about to become an officer in the US Navy, but you're worried your commitment to teetotaling will ruin your chances of bonding with your shipmates. How can you balance your desire to abstain with the need for a social life on board?
  • You're honored to be the best man at your friend's wedding, but you're not too keen on going to the planned bachelor party in the middle of a pandemic. How can you get out of it without jeopardizing your friendship forever?
  • You've been reconnecting with old friends and colleagues thanks to the exercises in our free Six-Minute Networking course, but is there a good way to recommend the course without giving away the fact that it's why you started reaching out to them in the first place?
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Nov 06, 2020
426: Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi | The Mob Enforcer Part Two
01:02:10

Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi was born into the world of organized crime, spent much of his life as a mob enforcer, has played part in heists and assassinations, and is the author of When the Bullet Hits the Bone. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here!

What We Discuss with Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi:

  • The joke Anthony told to distract the bodyguard of an African drug lord he was sent to dispose of in Nigeria.
  • How young Anthony came to the startling discovery that his father wasn't a longshoreman, but an assassin in the mob.
  • Why Anthony likes animals a lot more than he likes people.
  • What happened to people in Anthony's organization who unwisely brought attention to their part in the infamous Lufthansa heist by overspending.
  • The code by which Anthony lived, the lines even he would never cross in his business, and why he left that world behind.
  • And much more...

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Nov 05, 2020
425: Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi | The Mob Enforcer Part One
01:05:36

Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi was born into the world of organized crime, spent much of his life as a mob enforcer, has played part in heists and assassinations, and is the author of When the Bullet Hits the Bone.

What We Discuss with Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi:

  • What was the Black Hand, and how did it differ from what we think of today as the Mafia?
  • The many creative ways mobsters have gotten rid of bodies over the years.
  • How Anthony's father taught him to deal with a bully in Catholic school without getting smacked around by the nuns -- or going to jail.
  • What it was like for Anthony to have an Uncle Lucky Luciano to hang out with as a kid.
  • Why sometimes you've just got to kill a Pope when your grandfather tells you to.
  • And much more...

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Nov 03, 2020
424: Bypassing Putrid Pop's Repulsive Proclivities | Feedback Friday
00:59:36

Your dad has poor hygiene -- so poor, in fact, his #1 gross habit is that he'll go #2 and not wash his hands afterward. What can you do to discourage your foul father's frightening fecal forays? We'll tackle this (from a distance) and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/424

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Tune in on Friday, November 6th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Android) to hear Jordan and Gabe gab!
  • Ever experience something you can't explain and wonder if you're losing control of your mental faculties? Jordan's got a story about that...
  • Your visiting dad has poor hygiene -- so poor, in fact, his #1 gross habit is that he'll go #2 and not wash his hands afterward, and then touch everything in your house. What can you do to discourage your foul father's frightening fecal forays?
  • You've always been interested in becoming a mental health therapist, but life coach might be as fulfilling a career without the time/money investment. But how can you ensure you're the real deal and legitimately helping people?
  • A friend in your group is difficult, loud, and rude, with zero social skills. The solution might seem to just cut her out of your life, but you've known each other since kindergarten and you know doing so would devastate her. So what should you do?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Oct 30, 2020
423: Celeste Headlee | How to Have Conversations That Matter
01:07:55

Celeste Headlee (@CelesteHeadlee) is the host of On Second Thought at Georgia Public Broadcasting in Atlanta and has been a host and correspondent for NPR and PRI since 2006. She is the author of We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter.

What We Discuss with Celeste Headlee:

  • Why listening in the right way is the key to improving what you have to say.
  • Ways to correct the bad advice you’ve picked up about having good conversations.
  • How we can put our cognitive biases in check.
  • What it takes to have productive disagreements instead of shouting matches.
  • Surprising ways your smartphone affects the quality of your conversations — even if it’s off.
  • And much more...

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Oct 29, 2020
422: Billy McFarland | From Fyre Fest Fiasco to Federal Prison
01:05:52

Billy McFarland co-founded the ill-fated 2017 Fyre Festival, and is currently serving six years in federal prison for defrauding investors of $27.4 million.

What We Discuss with Billy McFarland:

  • The ideas that sparked what Fyre Festival was trying to achieve on an epic scale and the shortcomings that transformed it into a fraudulent, failed mess.
  • The countless things Billy would do differently if he could have a do-over.
  • The numerous ways in which prisons are warehouses of unmet potential.
  • How Billy stays safe and sane when he's in solitary confinement.
  • Billy's biggest regrets and what he hopes to have a chance to accomplish after he's served the time he agrees he deserves.
  • And much more...

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Oct 27, 2020
421: Sorting Out My Secret Lesbian Love Life | Feedback Friday
00:55:26

You're a mother of three, happily married to a wonderful man. But lately you've been acting on your urges to get intimate with other women. Racked with guilt, what can you do to come to terms with this secret lesbian love life before it wrecks your marriage? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/421

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • What does it mean to live with a bias toward action?
  • You're a mother of three, happily married to a wonderful man. But lately, you've been acting on your urges to get intimate with other women. Racked with guilt, what can you do to come to terms with this secret lesbian love life before it wrecks your marriage?
  • How do you break out of the dead-end job rut? You're not looking for your dream job, and you're not looking to get rich. You just want to be content with your career and find financial stability, but it seems easier said than done.
  • Your father is a retired child psychologist who should know that treating you like a nuisance when you need good advice about raising your own child isn't doing your relationship any favors. Is there anything you can do to make him understand something that seems so obvious?
  • You've been doing the work of someone two levels above you in the company hierarchy, but you keep getting the brush off when you try to negotiate a raise and elevation in title. How do you more assertively pursue your due?
  • You try to maintain your adult friendships by reaching out and catching up whenever the opportunity arises, but you can't shake the feeling that you're always the one putting in effort that's not reciprocated. Are you crossing some invisible boundaries you're not aware of, or should you just keep on keeping on?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Oct 23, 2020
420: Renee DiResta | Dismantling the Disinformation Machine
01:34:32

Renee DiResta (@noUpside) is the technical research manager at Stanford Internet Observatory. She studies the role that tech platforms and curatorial algorithms play in the proliferation of disinformation and conspiracy theories, terrorist activities, and state-sponsored information warfare.

What We Discuss with Renee DiResta:

  • How the anti-vaxx movement, the Tea Party, and militia groups learned early on to market and cross-pollinate their messages across social media to receptive segments of the populace with shocking success.
  • The challenges faced by the US government in trying to stem the tide of social media exploitation by fringe groups and terrorists for the purposes of recruitment, generating sympathy for their causes, and fueling general chaos.
  • How entire networks of disinformation evolve to support and perpetuate interconnected webs of conspiracy theories, pseudoscientific bunk, fringe political views, and propaganda planted by hostile states and bad actors.
  • Why foreign organizations like Russia's Internet Research Agency and China's 50 Cent Party have promoted tribalism in the United States to keep us fighting among ourselves, how it serves their interests at our expense, and why we're so receptive to their influence.
  • Why memes and hashtags are so effective as short-form vehicles to promote simple ideas powerfully across wide demographics.
  • And much more...

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Oct 22, 2020
419: David Shimer | 100 Years of Covert Election Interference
01:04:53

David Shimer (@davidashimer) is a historian, foreign policy analyst, and author of Rigged: America, Russia, and One Hundred Years of Covert Electoral Interference.

What We Discuss with David Shimer:

  • Why the more polarized a democracy, the more vulnerable it is to foreign subversion.
  • While we know that Russia interfered in the 2016 election and is working to interfere in the 2020 election, it's actually been attempting to subvert the integrity of our elections for the past century.
  • Why every American, of every political persuasion, should be concerned about the interference of Russia -- or any other foreign power -- in our elections.
  • What Russia really seeks to gain from undermining the democratic process not only in the United States, but around the world.
  • Countermeasures the United States can use to defend itself against this kind of interference.
  • And much more...

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Oct 20, 2020
418: How to Deal with Unsolicited Underage Nudes | Feedback Friday
01:05:55

Even if you're a minor, the life-altering consequences of being caught with child pornography shared via sexting by a fellow minor can be dire. We'll tackle how to deal with unsolicited, underage nudes -- and much more -- here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/417

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Even if you're a minor, the life-altering consequences of being caught with child pornography shared via sexting by a fellow minor can be dire. Here's how to deal with unsolicited, underage nudes. [Thanks to our attorney friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
  • After efficiently streamlining and automating the duties of your new job -- for which you got a hefty raise -- you find you're really only working 20 to 30 minutes per day. How can you come to terms with working smarter rather than harder without feeling like you're taking unfair advantage of your company?
  • Your brother has little in the way of dating experience, and is now in a relationship with a recently divorced mother of two, 11 years his senior, who can most politely be described as "mean and controlling." How might you help him see for himself that he deserves better from a partner?
  • You have a coworker who neglects aspects of her job in a way that could erode the public's trust in your profession. You genuinely like this coworker and don't want to destroy her life, so how can you get her to change her ways before resorting to bringing it to the boss' attention?
  • In spite of making decent enough money with the business you co-founded, you've never felt comfortable playing the role of entrepreneur. Where do you look for opportunities and paths when you feel stuck and have exhausted your creativity?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Oct 16, 2020
417: Dan Ariely | The Hidden Logic That Shapes Our Motivations
01:44:04

Dan Ariely (@danariely) is the James B. Duke Professor of Psychology and Behavioral Economics at Duke University and bestselling author of Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions and Payoff: The Hidden Logic That Shapes Our Motivations.

What We Discuss with Dan Ariely:

  • How does the What the Hell effect keep us making bad decisions even when we know they’re bad?
  • Are we ever truly rational, unbiased, or impartial?
  • What’s the best time to appear before a judge?
  • How transparency in our lives can often backfire.
  • How motivation works (and doesn’t work) and how we can use our own psychology against ourselves.
  • And so much more...

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Oct 15, 2020
416: John Perkins | New Confessions of an Economic Hit Man
01:13:40

John Perkins (@jperkinsauthor) is an economist who has advised the World Bank, United Nations, Fortune 500 corporations, and the US government. He is the author of The New Confessions of an Economic Hit Man.

What We Discuss with John Perkins:

  • How corporations and governments use economic hit men (like John in a previous life) to coerce developing countries to auction off their most valuable resources like rainforests, oil, and mines at bargain-basement prices.
  • Why these predatory capitalist policies are commonplace and above scrutiny -- even though your tax dollars are massively subsidizing them.
  • The dire consequences that transpire when the leaders of these developing nations refuse to play ball.
  • How false economics, false promises, threats, bribes, extortion, debt, deception, coups, assassinations, and unbridled military power are used to dominate the developing world now more than ever before.
  • What John has learned from his time inside this corrupt system that we can use to transform what he calls a Death Economy into a Life Economy.
  • And much more...

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Oct 13, 2020
415: Should I Dodge a Debt to the Mafia? | Feedback Friday
01:12:49

You suspect your father-in-law took a large loan from the mafia in the Eastern European country where you now reside, and that they may come to you for it because you're American and they assume you're rich (which you're not). What can you do to keep your family safe? We'll field this and more here on Feedback Friday!

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Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/415

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • When you're stuck with a ceaseless sense of uncertainty (as many of us are in the midst of a pandemic), remember, in the words of the wise James Clear: action forces prioritization.
  • You suspect your father-in-law took a large loan from the mafia in the Eastern European country where you now reside, and that they may come to you for it because you're American and they assume you're rich (which you're not). What can you do to keep your family safe?
  • Texting “Did they pull the plug yet?” when your daughter was on life support a few months back was insensitive of your wife's friend. Should it be chalked up to an innocent lack of self-awareness, or is this a clear sign the friendship has run its course?
  • You work in an industry that allows you a flexible schedule, teaches you new skills, and pays well. But you can't shake the desire to dabble in a craft industry that might be personally fulfilling -- only without your current perks. How can you ensure you've considered all the data before you make a decision you may regret?
  • Can your reconnection with an old flame who already has kids endure if your plans to have a baby together are thrown off by lengthy unemployment and a loudly ticking -- and expiring -- biological clock?
  • You're lucky enough to have work-funded coaching to help with personal and professional development, sleep, nutrition, navigating uncertainty, and communication for the next six months. What can you do to ensure you're making the most of this valuable -- but limited -- time?
  • Recommendation: My Octopus Teacher on Netflix
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Oct 09, 2020
414: Jonah Berger | How to Change Anyone's Mind
01:14:43

Jonah Berger (@j1berger) is a professor at Wharton and a world-renowned expert on word of mouth, social influence, consumer behavior, and how products, ideas, and behaviors catch on. He's also a bestselling author; his latest book is The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone's Mind.

What We Discuss with Jonah Berger:

  • How the ingrained anti-persuasion radar we all possess makes it harder for us to follow even the best advice.
  • Why providing someone with a "menu" of options is a far more effective method of persuasion than giving them a single option.
  • While pushing works well when we want to move furniture, we're better off identifying obstacles and removing them when we want to guide another person in a certain direction.
  • How effective advertising overcomes our anti-persuasion radar and gets us invested in the idea of buying products.
  • Why most anti-smoking campaigns have an effect opposite of their intentions, and how a Thai campaign cleverly adopted a tactic that actually worked.
  • And much more...

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Oct 08, 2020
413: Mark Edward | True Confessions of a Fake Psychic
01:30:55

Mark Edward is a professional mentalist who specializes in magic of the mind -- including a convincing stint as a fake psychic. He's the author of Psychic Blues: Confessions of a Conflicted Medium.

What We Discuss with Mark Edward:

  • What is mentalism, and how does it use our desire for the outlandish to be true against us?
  • Why all so-called psychics are frauds, though a small percentage genuinely believes their own hype.
  • Cold reading vs. hot reading, and how psychics use the results of these readings to convince you they're able to consult supernatural entities.
  • What it was like to work for the Psychic Friends Network, and how Mark used his mentalist superpowers to mine information from people over the phone -- and keep them calling back.
  • How big-name celebrity psychics ply their trade in front of large studio audiences while keeping the scam safely under control.
  • And much more...

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Oct 06, 2020
412: Breaking Up with My Narcissistic Grandma | Feedback Friday
00:58:20

Your grandma is so self-centered and negative that your efforts to stay in touch with her are just making you miserable. How do you go about breaking up with your narcissistic grandma without feeling terrible? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/412

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your grandma is so self-centered and negative that your efforts to stay in touch with her are just making you miserable. How do you go about breaking up with your narcissistic grandma without feeling terrible?
  • You grew up in a good-hearted, church-going family, but over time, you've come to the conclusion that you're an atheist. How do you break the news to them without losing their emotional -- and financial -- support?
  • As two male nurses in a female-dominated field, you and your boss have noticed an extreme anti-male sentiment from at least three of your managers. Should you bring up your grievances to HR or just look for another job?
  • We all cope with the pandemic in our own way, and some choose to drink more than they otherwise would. As your mother recently died from alcoholism, how can you interact with your booze-loving pals without being the killjoy in the Zoom room?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Oct 02, 2020
411: Oliver Stone | Writing, Directing, and Surviving the Movie Game
01:12:58

Oliver Stone (@TheOliverStone) is a film director, producer, and writer known for tackling controversial political issues in films like JFK and Platoon. He is also the author of Chasing the Light: Writing, Directing, and Surviving Platoon, Midnight Express, Scarface, Salvador, and the Movie Game.

What We Discuss with Oliver Stone:

  • The lesson Oliver learned about humanity -- when he was a cab driver prior to becoming a world-famous director -- that still rings true for him today.
  • Why Oliver chose to serve in the infantry during the Vietnam War when a lot of his contemporaries (including several presidents) did all they could do to avoid going.
  • What happened when Oliver snuck an obscene amount of LSD into his uptight father's scotch one night.
  • The projects Oliver has had to abandon in recent years, and why some of his earlier films would be impossible to make now.
  • Oliver's candid thoughts on Vladimir Putin, the CIA, cyberwarfare, and the culpability of the American media in current affairs.
  • And much more...

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Oct 01, 2020
410: H.R. McMaster | The Fight to Defend the Free World
01:19:43

Lt. General H.R. McMaster (@ltghrmcmaster) was the 26th National Security Advisor and author of Dereliction of Duty and Battlegrounds: The Fight to Defend the Free World.

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/410

What We Discuss with Lt. General H.R. McMaster:

  • The problem with taking a "George Constanza approach" to warfare if we want to resolve conflict instead of just drawing it out longer than it needs to be.
  • Why does the United States keep fighting, as H.R. said on 60 Minutes, "a one-year war 20 times" in Afghanistan?
  • The importance of exercising strategic empathy in order to understand how opposing states think rather than allowing strategic narcissism to convince us that they have the same motivations and think like us.
  • Why immigration is good for the United States and we should be encouraging it as a way to compete instead of discouraging it.
  • If H.R. believes that climate change is one of our greatest threats and challenges, why did he support a US withdrawal from the Paris Accords?
  • And much more...

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Sep 29, 2020
409: When Your Deranged Dad Calls the FBI on You | Feedback Friday
01:09:02

Your mentally ill father has threatened to call the FBI on you because he interprets a photo you took of your three-year-old son with a headband on as somehow "sexualizing" him. How do you even find the right kind of lawyer to preemptively deal with this? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/409

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Is 2020 really as bad as it seems? Here's how to gain a reality-based perspective (even if reality's not seeming so great right now).
  • Your mentally ill father has threatened to call the FBI on you because he interprets a photo you took of your three-year-old son with a headband on as somehow "sexualizing" him. How do you even find the right kind of lawyer to preemptively deal with this?
  • You're a landscaper who's been asked to destroy a cannabis crop being grown by squatters on an absentee landlord's property. Said landlord doesn't want the cops involved. In how many ways is it a bad idea to accept this job?
  • You've always been decent looking and you're now as healthy and in shape as you were in high school, but being legally blind has kept you from really throwing your hat in the dating ring. What can you do to find your way to romance with someone accepting of your situation?
  • You love that you can whip through books, podcasts, and videos at 3x, but it seems to have lowered your tolerance for slow talkers and people who can't get to the point quickly in a conversation. Should you learn how to take things a little...more...slowly?
  • After being laid off, you're currently in the process of networking and making a career shift. You've been able to secure cold calls with higher-ups that seem to have gone well, but how do you move from a cold call toward a job offer?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD,...
Sep 25, 2020
408: Chris Hadfield | An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth
01:25:01

Chris Hadfield (@Cmdr_Hadfield) is an engineer, former Royal Canadian Air Force fighter pilot, retired astronaut, the first Canadian to walk in space, and author of An Astronaut’s Guide to Life on Earth and The Darkest Dark.

What We Discuss with Chris Hadfield:

  • The difference between "I want to be" and "I want to turn myself into."
  • Enjoying small victories along a path of preparation and personal growth vs. grand "make it or break it" expectations.
  • How intense is imposter syndrome for a newly selected astronaut?
  • What's the astronaut's (as well as earthling's) best antidote for fear?
  • What really happens when you sneeze in space?
  • And much more...

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Sep 24, 2020
407: Mosab Hassan Yousef | The Green Prince of Hamas
01:21:09

Mosab Hassan Yousef grew up as the son of a Hamas co-founder, then worked undercover with Israel security service Shin Bet to root out terrorist plots. He is the author of Son of Hamas: A Gripping Account of Terror, Betrayal, Political Unthinkable Choices and is featured in the documentary The Green Prince.

What We Discuss with Mosab Hassan Yousef:

  • What it was like growing up in one of the first families of Palestinian terrorist group Hamas -- and why Mosab considers it "the greatest school of [his] life."
  • The turning point when Mosab no longer saw Hamas as the "good" guys.
  • How Mosab dealt with the loneliness of working undercover for Israeli intelligence against his former friends and family.
  • What Mosab feels about the well-meaning but -- he believes to be misguided -- "free Palestine" movement.
  • What prompted Mosab to get out of undercover work and chronicle his story for others to read (and watch on television).
  • And much more...

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Sep 22, 2020
406: My Custody Battle with an Escort Ex | Feedback Friday
01:01:41

You wound up fathering a child during a relationship with an escort-turned-very-wealthy madam, but struggle with constant custody battles since you're not the one running a cash-only business. How can you ensure justice prevails for the sake of your child -- who endured quite a few possibly traumatic "bring your kid to work" days in your ex's care? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/406

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • How can you communicate effectively and convey emotion through a mask in the age of COVID-19?
  • How can you prevail in a custody battle with your wealthy escort-turned-madam ex when legal fees are bankrupting you?
  • Even though it's a life goal, you don't feel ready to accept the role of CFO you've been offered and it's filling you with dread instead of elation. How do you proceed cautiously without blowing a possibly once-in-a-lifetime opportunity?
  • Your mother-in-law gets jealous if you and your spouse spend too much time with your family, and it causes friction at home. What can you do to make her realize that closeness with your family is not a crime?
  • As a manager, you find that if you give your senior-level employees too much direction, they don't like being micromanaged. But if you're not super specific with your expectations, they tend to drop the ball and not manage their time well. How do you strike the right balance in leadership?
  • In the workplace, how do you change subjects gracefully when you feel uncomfortable with someone oversharing or asking intrusive questions?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Sep 18, 2020
405: Harri Hursti | The Cyber War on America's Elections
01:07:03

Harri Hursti (@HarriHursti) is an ethical hacker and researcher, co-founder of Nordic Innovation Labs, and has been featured in the HBO documentaries Hacking Democracy and Kill Chain: The Cyber War on America's Elections.

What We Discuss with Harri Hursti:

  • Who's trying to hack our elections and why.
  • Why all Americans lose if we allow enemies of the state to tamper with our election results -- even if our "side" emerges victorious this time around.
  • Why electronic voting machines are more vulnerable to fraudulent manipulation than mail-in ballots and other forms of voting that leave an auditable paper trail.
  • What we know about hacking strategies that have worked on other countries -- because every single NATO country has had Russian interference in their election.
  • How fostering the public's eroding trust in our election system is the ultimate goal of our enemies.
  • And much more...

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Sep 17, 2020
404: Guy Raz | How I Built This
01:01:59

Guy Raz (@guyraz) hosts popular podcasts How I Built This and TED Radio Hour, and he's the author of How I Built This: The Unexpected Paths to Success from the World's Most Inspiring Entrepreneurs.

What We Discuss with Guy Raz:

  • Guy's number one secret to getting a great interview.
  • What's the one teachable quality all entrepreneurs seem to have in common?
  • How much truth is there to the American folk tale that opportunity comes to anyone who's just willing to put in the work?
  • What a guest has to gain by being asked difficult questions during an interview.
  • Why countries that make a concerted effort to confront the uncomfortable passages from their own history books become stronger and better.
  • And much more...

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Sep 15, 2020
403: My Best Friend’s Cheating Ex | Feedback Friday
00:56:04

How can you still be supportive of the friend you love when they're still trying to work things out with a cheating ex you'd like to strangle? We'll look into this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/403

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • How can you still be supportive of the friend you love when they're still trying to work things out with a cheating ex you'd like to strangle?
  • You accidentally eavesdropped on a pair of clients engaging in carnal relations over Zoom when they thought they were signed out. Should you let them know you heard everything or just let it go?
  • How can you dig the well before you're thirsty when all you're hearing is the sound of your network's crickets?
  • As a highly praised female in a male-dominated industry, how can you make it clear you expect to make as much as your male predecessor -- with the title to match -- without coming off as pushy?
  • Working from home during this quarantine has been an incredibly positive and productive experience, but your company is old school and itching to get back to business as usual in the office. What might you do to keep living the quarandream?
  • This LinkedIn "mentorship" contact you got suckered into having a conversation with is definitely a scam, right?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Sep 11, 2020
402: Cheryl Strayed | Creativity, Meltdowns, and Leaving It All Behind
01:18:31

Cheryl Strayed (@CherylStrayed) co-hosts the Dear Sugars podcast and is the award-winning author of several books, including Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail.

What We Discuss with Cheryl Strayed:

  • Why sometimes the only way to do something right is to do some things wrong.
  • Why we give our best advice to others even when we can't follow through with it for ourselves.
  • The value of surrendering to your own mediocrity in order to finish what you've started.
  • How to avoid getting trapped in the need for other people's approval.
  • What Cheryl really means when she says "Don't let your dreams ruin your life."
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/402

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Sep 10, 2020
401: Robert Wittman | The Undercover Hunt for Stolen Art
01:27:17

Robert Wittman (@robertwittman) is the former senior investigator/creator of the FBI's national art crime team and author of Priceless: How I Went Undercover to Rescue the World's Stolen Treasures.

What We Discuss with Robert Wittman:

  • Why criminal and terrorist organizations find art less risky to smuggle than contraband like cash, drugs, or guns.
  • The three things that make an art piece valuable: provenance, authenticity, and good title.
  • Why the US has only relatively recently begun to take art crime seriously, whereas Italy's art crime team has a freaking submarine!
  • Simple but effective tactics for remaining undercover without arousing suspicion from the targets.
  • Why losing his fear instinct was a clear signal for Robert to retire from undercover work for good.
  • And much more...

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Sep 08, 2020
400: The Doggy Doo-Doo Debacle | Feedback Friday
01:04:38

Instead of hounding your neighbor for letting his pooch poop in your yard, you've instituted a pawsive-aggressive campaign of terrier against them. But what's the best way to solve the problem before somebody gets seriously ruffed up? Retriever the answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/400

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Were we off-base with our advice to the person who romantically matched with a mask-refusing COVID-19 denier a couple of weeks back?
  • Your neighbor's in the doghouse and doesn't even know it for letting his convivial canine crap all over your yard. What's the best way to preserve peace between your houses?
  • You were raised to care about others and your community, but it's never made you rich. Should you raise your child to be the kind of person who puts himself first -- even if it sometimes means stepping on others to get ahead?
  • You're working in a system where networking and name recognition are just as important as being good at your job, but you have a plan to move across the country five to 10 years in the future. How would you start building that network now?
  • Happily married for two years with thoughts of having children ahead, you're still trying to agree on a last name to share, even though you're both attached to the ones you already have. What kind of resolution do we suggest?
  • As a methodical consultant, you consistently put in more than your approved billable hours and eat the time as part of doing business with budget-conscious, mid-tier companies. But is there a better way?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

Sep 04, 2020
399: Jennifer L. Eberhardt | The Science of Why We're Biased
01:24:48

Jennifer L. Eberhardt is a professor of psychology at Stanford University whose research explores race, bias, and inequality; she is the author of Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do.

What We Discuss with Jennifer L. Eberhardt:

  • What's going on in the brain that creates and maintains bias.
  • How bias can alter what we feel and even what we see.
  • How bias is contagious, and why we may have evolved bias in the first place.
  • Why bias doesn’t just hurt the person who is on the receiving end of it.
  • How we can spot bias in ourselves and act to mitigate it.
  • And much more...

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Sep 03, 2020
398: Danny Trejo | Inmate #1
01:03:10

Danny Trejo (@officialDannyT) is an instantly-recognizable actor, producer, and restauranteur with a resume that includes crime, hard time, and battling his own addictions while helping troubled youth overcome theirs. His latest project is the documentary Inmate #1: The Rise of Danny Trejo.

What We Discuss with Danny Trejo:

  • What it was once like for Danny to ponder if he was doing robberies to support his drug habit, or doing drugs to support his robbery habit.
  • How Danny got his act together after spending 10 years in and out of every prison in California.
  • How Danny walked onto a Hollywood movie set as a drug counselor and left as a bona fide actor.
  • Why Danny doesn't do his own stunts.
  • How Danny has maintained sobriety for over 50 years -- and continues to help others maintain theirs.
  • And much more...

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Sep 01, 2020
397: My Future vs. My Special Needs Sister | Feedback Friday
00:50:45

You've been helping your single mom care for your special needs sister for 19 years, but you're 24 now and need to set out on your own life. How do you cope with the guilt you're feeling for putting your needs first for perhaps the first time, ever? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/397

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • You've been helping your single mom care for your special needs sister for 19 years, but you're 24 now and need to set out on your own life. How do you cope with the guilt you're feeling for putting your needs first for perhaps the first time, ever?
  • As a skillful, reliable contractor who has worked on an as-needed basis with several companies for six years, how do you ask for a raise without making it seem like an ultimatum?
  • Is it possible to maintain friendships with people you've known your whole life but who differ from you not only in matters of opinion and lifestyle choices, but core values?
  • You're at a point in your career where you want to focus on your target market, but you don't want your peers to think you're brushing your rejects off on them. When you're in a small industry where word travels fast, how do you nicely decline to work with someone?
  • You've applied for a job that seems like a great fit, but you're concerned your criminal record might be an issue during the interview in spite of having drastically turned your life around. Should you bring it up first, and if so, how?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Aug 28, 2020
396: Dr. Anders Ericsson | Secrets from the New Science of Expertise
01:03:28

Before passing away earlier this year, Dr. Anders Ericsson was the cognitive psychologist who discovered that deliberate practice, not natural talent, is the key to developing expertise. He was the co-author of Peak: Secrets From The New Science Of Expertise.

What We Discuss with Dr. Anders Ericsson:

  • Why innate talent is a myth.
  • How to set up a deliberate practice regimen to become more effective at anything you do.
  • The truth about the 10,000-hour rule to mastery popularized by Malcolm Gladwell.
  • Why “try differently” is a better recipe for success than “try harder.”
  • Contrary to what was once believed, the brain can be rewired to excel toward a specific goal at any age with the proper training.
  • And much more...

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Aug 27, 2020
395: How to Avoid Scams | Deep Dive
01:10:54

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into common scams to watch out for, why even the smartest among us get suckered into falling for scams, and what we can do to help ourselves and others break free of scams for good.

What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi:

  • The most common scams to look out for — from multi-level marketing (MLM) pyramid schemes and large-group awareness training (LGAT) to fake gurus and spiritual shysters.
  • The dangerous consequences you or someone you care about can face when suckered into participating in these predatory scams.
  • The qualities of people who often fall for scams — and why even the smartest among us are vulnerable to chasing their empty promises once hooked.
  • The role of environment (like economic crisis and upbringing) in scam susceptibility.
  • The right — and wrong — ways to approach someone who’s fallen for a scam (even if that someone is you).
  • And much more…

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/395

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Aug 25, 2020
394: Was I Unknowingly a Sugar Daddy? | Feedback Friday
01:07:54

When you gave your girlfriend a place to live rent-free while she went through college -- only to have her break up with you over the phone after graduating because she had to "find herself," were you unknowingly a sugar daddy? We'll get to the bottom of this and more right here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/394

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • When you gave your girlfriend a place to live rent-free while she went through college -- only to have her break up with you over the phone after graduating because she had to "find herself," were you unknowingly a sugar daddy?
  • As a new project manager at a high-speed startup where the learning curve has been tough and your confidence has been low, how can you forge new working relationships during COVID at a company where everyone is seemingly heads-down focused on work all day?
  • The person you're romantically interested in accidentally totaled your mailbox with their car. Should you let them slide on taking responsibility for it (even though it means lying to your parents) in hopes it'll earn you brownie points with this person?
  • You're writing your first children's book, and you're wondering about the best ways to publicize it -- possibly through influencers and podcasts. How do you make sure you stand out to your potential audience and the people who can help you find it?
  • You want to learn and grow and you assumed that conferences were another way to do so, but you're becoming skeptical of anything or anyone offering any sort of education or training. How can you tell the legit courses and teachers from the scam artists?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Aug 21, 2020
393: Joaquin "Jack" Garcia | Undercover in the Mafia Part Two
01:06:35

Joaquin "Jack" Garcia is the former undercover FBI agent who infiltrated the Gambino crime family of Cosa Nostra in New York for nearly three years, resulting in the arrest and conviction of 35 mobsters -- as revealed in his book Making Jack Falcone: An Undercover FBI Agent Takes Down a Mafia Family. This is part two of a two-part episode; listen to part one here!

What We Discuss with Joaquin "Jack" Garcia:

  • How Jack got a mob boss to carry around a mobile phone that was bugged by the FBI.
  • What Jack did to avoid violating his FBI oath without arousing suspicion while undercover.
  • How much weight Jack gained during three years of hanging out with gangsters in the best Italian restaurants New York has to offer.
  • What Jack misses most about being in the mafia.
  • The biggest organized crime threats to the United States today.
  • And much more...

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Aug 20, 2020
392: Joaquin "Jack" Garcia | Undercover in the Mafia Part One
01:00:52

Joaquin "Jack" Garcia is the former undercover FBI agent who infiltrated the Gambino crime family of Cosa Nostra in New York for nearly three years, resulting in the arrest and conviction of 35 mobsters -- as revealed in his book Making Jack Falcone: An Undercover FBI Agent Takes Down a Mafia Family. This is part one of a two-part episode; part two drops later this week!

What We Discuss with Joaquin "Jack" Garcia:

  • How Jack managed to survive undercover posing as a mobster in the Gambino crime syndicate of La Cosa Nostra for nearly three years.
  • The tells of organized crime: how wise guys generally know who's legit and who's not.
  • Mob culture and the rules that govern the always-upward flow of money.
  • How Jack became so trusted by the highest levels of the organization that they offered him the chance to be a "made" man.
  • How Jack's work led to the arrest and conviction of 35 mobsters -- including the top members of the post-John Gotti Gambino crime family.
  • And much more...

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Aug 18, 2020
391: Help! My Ex Hacked My Entire Home! | Feedback Friday
00:59:50

Your ex hacked all of your electronics when you were together, and now they spy on you from inside your own house! What can you do to fight back? This and more on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/391

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your ex hacked all of your electronics when you were together, and now they spy on you from inside your own house! What can you do to defend yourself? [Thanks  to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!]
  • How do you stop caring about what other people think about you?
  • While you've never filed for bankruptcy and you're currently on top of your payments, you have a lot of debt. Should you be concerned if a new employer wants to check your credit -- and do they have the right to as a condition for hiring you?
  • The good news: you made a great online connection with someone you'd like to date. The bad news: they think COVID is a hoax and refuse to wear a mask for your peace of mind. Should you pursue a relationship with this person, or is this enough of a red flag to just move on?
  • You were let go from a small company during your probationary period due to "culture clash." How can you stay in touch with the coworkers you did get along with, and what do you say to recruiters and hiring managers who ask why things didn't work out?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Aug 14, 2020
390: Ray Dalio | Principles of an Investing Pioneer Part Two
00:54:36

Ray Dalio (@RayDalio) is the founder of Bridgewater Associates -- the largest and best-performing hedge fund in the world -- and author of New York Times bestseller Principles: Life and Work and the upcoming The Changing World Order: Why Nations Succeed and FailThis is part two of a two-part episode; make sure to catch part one here!

What We Discuss with Ray Dalio:

  • Why your success has more to do with how you handle what you don't know than what you do know.
  • Good habits come from thinking in a principled way, but good thinking comes from exploring the reasoning behind principles.
  • How to review the principles by which you operate to ensure you're acting in accordance with your own goals and objectives -- not someone else's.
  • What you can do to cultivate a culture of radical transparency in the workplace and at home to make sure progress is propelled by the best ideas in the room -- not the biggest egos.
  • The importance of understanding that you can practically have anything you want, but you can't have everything you want.
  • And much more...

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Aug 13, 2020
389: Ray Dalio | Principles of an Investing Pioneer Part One
00:48:33

Ray Dalio (@RayDalio) is the founder of Bridgewater Associates -- the largest and best-performing hedge fund in the world -- and author of New York Times bestseller Principles: Life and Work and the upcoming The Changing World Order: Why Nations Succeed and FailThis is part one of a two-part episode; be on the lookout for part two later in the week!

What We Discuss with Ray Dalio:

  • The predictable cycles that contribute to the rise and fall of great and once-great nations on the world stage -- and where Ray sees these cycles heading now.
  • Why there are so many people denying the current pandemic as a hoax in spite of endless evidence before their very eyes.
  • How we, as emotional human beings, should prepare ourselves for the less comfortable cycles we're bound to experience in the future.
  • Ray's firsthand account of China's rapid evolution into a technological superpower over just the past few decades.
  • Why we have Ray to thank (or blame) for the invention of the Chicken McNugget.
  • And much more...

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Aug 11, 2020
388: Should I Bail Out My In-Laws? | Feedback Friday
00:49:55

Your in-laws need financial help to keep their business afloat, but they're historically terrible with finances. Should you bail out your in-laws or even co-sign for a loan knowing it could backfire on you? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/388

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Your in-laws need financial help to keep their business afloat, but they're historically terrible with finances. Should you bail out your in-laws or even co-sign for a loan knowing it could backfire on you?
  • What are the secrets to writing a reference letter for someone in a way that showcases their attributes from a place of understanding how valuable these attributes really are?
  • Should you suffer in an industry you've grown to hate for another 10-15 years until you can retire, or should you quit the dip now to find a new career in a city where you want to be, with a life that brings happiness over money and status?
  • Should your multinational, publicly traded company pay you for something you've been informally doing for free? You want to be generous and supportive, but not taken advantage of. How do you negotiate this with your higher-ups?
  • As a blind person, you’ve never been really good at understanding small talk and getting people to talk to you. How can you get better at being social when you can’t see facial expressions or body language?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Aug 07, 2020
387: Tom Wainwright | How to Run a Drug Cartel
01:10:55

Tom Wainwright (@t_wainwright) of The Economist shares the harrowing and sometimes grisly experiences he endured while writing Narconomics: How to Run a Drug Cartel.

What We Discuss with Tom Wainwright:

  • The parallels between the drug trade and regular businesses.
  • How ideas of economics and business apply to any entrepreneurial or business venture.
  • How drug cartels engage in corporate social responsibility, branding, and even PR campaigns.
  • Why drug cartels franchise, regulate labor, branch out online, and diversify into legal (and ubiquitous) industries.
  • How an economist gets discovered wearing a GPS device to a meeting with a drug lord and lives to tell the tale!
  • And much more…

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Aug 06, 2020
386: Amanda Knox | The Truth About True Crime
01:36:02

Amanda Knox (@amandaknox) is an exoneree, journalist, public speaker, and author of Waiting to Be Heard. She was the host of The Scarlet Letter Reports and currently co-hosts The Truth About True Crime podcast.

What We Discuss with Amanda Knox:

  • How Amanda was coerced into wrongfully confessing that she was at the scene of her roommate's murder without being made aware of her rights or being given access to a lawyer.
  • Why not understanding the difference between being questioned as a witness and interrogated as a suspect landed Amanda in custody for 1,428 days without being allowed to see her family.
  • How even a false confession, once made, often sways a jury to convict a defendant before any of the evidence is even considered, and why it's not uncommon for a completely innocent person to give a false confession to a skilled interrogator looking to close a case quickly.
  • Why a police department investigating a case under the scrutiny of a worldwide media frenzy might be less interested in carrying out justice than covering up its own countless acts of gross incompetence.
  • Why a populace literate in its own legal rights is the only real way to combat the manipulation of ignorance -- by both prosecution and defense -- in the court system that leads to so many wrong outcomes.
  • And much more...

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Aug 04, 2020
385: Can I Date a White-Collar Criminal? | Feedback Friday
00:51:45

While googling someone you met on a dating app, it turns out they have a white-collar criminal record. Should you give them the benefit of the doubt that they've learned from their mistake, or back off now? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/385

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • While googling someone you met on a dating app, it turns out they have a criminal record for intellectual property theft. Should you give them the benefit of the doubt that they've learned from their mistake, or back off now?
  • How can you get clients and colleagues to take you seriously as a professional when you look much younger than your years?
  • How do you deal with the envy and resentment you feel toward a friend who is doing miles better than you in their career even though you both started at the same time?
  • Thanks to the pandemic, the job you were supposed to start in August has been pushed to begin in January. What can you do between now and then to make sure it's still there when the new year rolls around?
  • You've been a nurse in a COVID unit for five months, and your friends and family are terrified to be near you. It might be tolerable if you had a significant other for support, but you're single and the loneliness is unbearable. What can you do?
  • You're currently in the "Gmail Roulette" part of Six-Minute Networking, and the success rate has been excellent. However, how do you manage to avoid being overwhelmed by all the incoming traffic?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

Jul 31, 2020
384: Aimen Dean | Nine Lives of a Spy Inside Al-Qaeda Part Two
01:34:31

Aimen Dean (@AimenDean) was once one of al-Qaeda’s most respected bomb-makers who swore allegiance to Osama bin Laden himself. He eventually switched sides and spent eight years as an MI6 spy trying to take al-Qaeda down from the inside. He is the author of Nine Lives: My Time as the MI6’s Top Spy Inside Al-Qaeda and co-host of podcast Conflicted. This is part one of a two-part episode that will conclude later this week!

What We Discuss with Aimen Dean:

  • The radicalizing circumstances that contributed to Aimen's recruitment by Islamic extremists after memorizing the Quran by age 12.
  • Early misgivings about the cause brought about by witnessing a brutal revenge massacre instigated by his own side during the Bosnian War when he was only 17.
  • What Aimen learned about "logistical back-office jihad" and financing terrorism on a global scale while creatively accounting for a now-infamous charity front.
  • Aimen's trip to Afghanistan at the behest of 9/11 mastermind Khalid Sheikh Mohammed that led him to swear allegiance to Osama bin Laden and Al-Qaeda.
  • What Aimen learned -- and taught -- about ingenious and terrible methods of torture that would extract confessions from victims without leaving permanent marks.
  • And much more...

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Jul 30, 2020
383: Aimen Dean | Nine Lives of a Spy Inside Al-Qaeda Part One
01:36:12

Aimen Dean (@AimenDean) was once one of al-Qaeda’s most respected bomb-makers who swore allegiance to Osama bin Laden himself. He eventually switched sides and spent eight years as an MI6 spy trying to take al-Qaeda down from the inside. He is the author of Nine Lives: My Time as the MI6’s Top Spy Inside Al-Qaeda and co-host of podcast Conflicted. This is part one of a two-part episode that will conclude later this week!

What We Discuss with Aimen Dean:

  • The radicalizing circumstances that contributed to Aimen's recruitment by Islamic extremists after memorizing the Quran by age 12.
  • Early misgivings about the cause brought about by witnessing a brutal revenge massacre instigated by his own side during the Bosnian War when he was only 17.
  • What Aimen learned about "logistical back-office jihad" and financing terrorism on a global scale while creatively accounting for a now-infamous charity front.
  • Aimen's trip to Afghanistan at the behest of 9/11 mastermind Khalid Sheikh Mohammed that led him to swear allegiance to Osama bin Laden and Al-Qaeda.
  • What Aimen learned -- and taught -- about ingenious and terrible methods of torture that would extract confessions from victims without leaving permanent marks.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/383

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Jul 28, 2020
382: Should I Move In with My Father-in-Law? | Feedback Friday
00:55:17

You and the spouse moved in with your father-in-law to emotionally support him when your mother-in-law passed away, but it's difficult to relax or work from home on a foldout bed in the dining room. How can you bring up the subject of bowing out to another (nearby) place -- by yourself for the time being if necessary -- without feeling insensitive? We'll try to help you out with this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • "A practical definition of opportunity cost: If you spend too much time working on good things, then you don’t have much time left to work on great things." -James Clear
  • You and the spouse moved in with your father-in-law to emotionally support him when your mother-in-law passed away, but it's difficult to relax or work from home on a foldout bed in the dining room. How can you bring up the subject of finding another (nearby) place without feeling insensitive?
  • When reconnecting with people you've lost touch with for ages, how can you diplomatically ask for exactly what you're looking for without sounding like a user or opportunist?
  • Is your reluctance to take on a new job that would pay you four times more than you've ever made before due to legitimate concerns over your own competence, or are you just suffering from pangs of imposter syndrome?
  • You lent a friend $63k on your credit card, and it's now clear you'll never see that money again. Even worse, you're stuck with the bill and can't even cover minimum payments. You could consolidate your debt or file for bankruptcy -- but are these really your only options?
  • Working from home during quarantine made you realize you like being more present for your kids than commuting an hour each way to the office -- which the boss wants you to start doing again now that the state has decreed things "safe." Are you crazy for wanting to start your own business in these uncertain times?
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Jul 24, 2020
381: Neal Brennan | Comedy's Triple Threat
01:04:48

Neal Brennan (@nealbrennan) is a comedy writer/producer/director, co-creator of Chappelle's Show, host of the How Neal Feel podcast, and is featured in his own live standup solo show 3 Mics at Netflix.

What We Discuss with Neal Brennan:

  • How Neal's 3 Mics show came about, and the idea behind its three parts: one-liners, emotional stuff, and stand up.
  • The comedy-writing process and how it mirrors real life.
  • A mindset to get a more realistic handle on the potential outcome of a given project or situation.
  • Tips on getting happy from a guy who's tried everything -- and why achievement can't be a substitute for happiness.
  • When networking, remember Neal's sage words: "No one's going to help you in a way that's not beneficial to them."
  • And so much more...

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Jul 23, 2020
380: Blake Mycoskie | Made for Entrepreneurship
01:02:56

Blake Mycoskie (@BlakeMycoskie) is the philanthropic founder of TOMS Shoes, author of Start Something That Matters, and co-founder of wellness subscription box service Madefor (get 20 percent off by using code MFJORDAN if you feel like checking it out).

What We Discuss with Blake Mycoskie:

  • What Blake's new Madefor startup can do to make you better (and how you can get 20 percent off by using code MFJORDAN if you feel like checking it out).
  • Why entrepreneurship is more than just saying "I don't want a boss" -- it's seeking to remedy a problem the world needs to have solved.
  • The benefits of cultivating the "beginner's mind" of a Buddhist.
  • Why Blake advises founders in the early stages of a startup to bootstrap resources rather than seek investment dollars.
  • What Blake sees as emerging business trends in a COVID-19 world and beyond.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/380

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Jul 21, 2020
379: How to Deal with a Cheating Dad | Feedback Friday
00:52:18

You know that your father, who has a history of cheating on your mother, is currently having an affair with a family "friend." How should you deal with your cheating dad in a way that won't destroy what little cohesion your family has left? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/379

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • You know that your father, who has a history of cheating on your mother, is currently having an affair with a family "friend." How should you deal with your cheating dad in a way that won't destroy what little cohesion your family has left?
  • How can you keep growing your side hustle that has thrived during quarantine while convincing your unreasonable full-time boss that both of you would be happiest if you took a part-time consulting role so you don't lose your stake in the company?
  • You find your workshop job well-paying and satisfying, but it takes its toll on your body -- as evidenced by your older coworkers. How can you secure an office job at your company to avoid the same fate?
  • You've developed skills for finding and acting on opportunities that you'd like to share with others, but potential mentees so far have been lacking in ambition. How can you teach them to fish when they just expect the fish to come to them?
  • Life Pro Tip: If you're a DJ, music producer, or podcast audio engineer, software can get pretty expensive. Email software companies explaining that you love their product and you want to do the right thing by legally purchasing it, but money is tight. They're often willing to pass along deep discounts when possible.
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Jul 17, 2020
378: Steven Johnson | How We Make the Decisions That Matter the Most
01:19:22

Steven Johnson (@stevenbjohnson) is the best-selling author of 11 books on the intersection of science, technology, and personal experience, including Farsighted: How We Make the Decisions That Matter the Most. He also hosts the Fighting Coronavirus podcast on Wondery.

What We Discuss with Steven Johnson:

  • In a world where we might put more thought into brunch than buying a house, what types of decisions warrant a "decision-making process?"
  • Why we can do better than relying on the old pros and cons list that Ben Franklin, Charles Darwin, and our parents once found useful.
  • Uniform phases of decision-making that we can teach, learn, and apply to tailor-made decisions of varying complexity.
  • How AI might help us augment decision-making processes involving probability.
  • The premortem: why planning as if a future event has already happened might result in better decisions than just asking ourselves "what if?"
  • And much more...

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Jul 16, 2020
377: Randolph Nesse | Good Reasons for Bad Feelings
01:26:22

Randolph Nesse (@randynesse) is the founding director of the Center for Evolution Medicine at Arizona State University and author of Good Reasons for Bad Feelings: Insights from the Frontier of Evolutionary Psychiatry.

What We Discuss with Randolph Nesse:

  • What possible purpose do anxiety, depression, and anger serve from an evolutionary standpoint?
  • Why the body's mechanisms for keeping us safe often overreact, and what we can do to get a handle on them when they work a little too well.
  • The evolutionary upsides to worrying about what other people think of us.
  • Why natural selection shapes our behavior toward reproduction rather than health and longevity.
  • Why do women often go for the reckless mate instead of the safe mate -- and why do men stick around at all?
  • And much more...

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Jul 14, 2020
376: How to Fire Someone You Care About | Feedback Friday
00:57:38

Because of the economic downturn, you're forced to lay off someone who gave up a lot to accept the job on your recommendation. How do you fire someone you care about? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/376

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Because of the economic downturn, you're forced to lay off someone who gave up a lot to accept the job on your recommendation. How do you fire someone you care about?
  • How should you approach handshakes and face masks for an onsite job interview during the pandemic without seeming unfriendly, strange, or paranoid (or reckless or ignorant)?
  • You want to make your voice heard, but how do you overcome the fear of being exposed, on display, and held to old opinions or snapshots of who you were at a certain period when it's a barrier to your growth?
  • Now sober, you burned a lot of bridges when you weren't. While doing an inventory of your network, should you reach out and apologize to people you wronged, and if you didn't wrong them, how much of a connection do you need to just reach out and be personal?
  • Your gullible brother got out of an MLM scam only to get wrapped up in a currency exchange "company" that operates in a similar manner. How can you help him see the error of his ways without risking his tendency to dig in deeper?
  • As Benjamin Hardy might say: what's next for Future Jordan?
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  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Jul 10, 2020
375: Bob Sutton | The A-hole Survival Guide
00:58:05

Bob Sutton (@work_matters) is a Stanford Business School professor and author of New York Times bestseller The No Asshole Rule and, most recently, The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt.

What We Discuss with Bob Sutton:

  • What is an a-hole, and why do they seem to be everywhere?
  • Why a-holes do not finish first.
  • What to do if you’re forced to work with an a-hole.
  • How to spot the red flags that help you avoid dealing with a-holes in the first place — or know when it’s time to quit the a-holes who are already in your life.
  • How to tell if maybe you’re the a-hole.
  • And much more...

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Jul 09, 2020
374: Kelly McGonigal | The Upside of Stress
01:40:11

Kelly McGonigal (@kellymcgonigal) is a research psychologist, a lecturer at Stanford University, and an award-winning science writer. She is the author of The Joy of Movement, The Willpower Instinct, and The Upside of Stress.

What We Discuss with Kelly McGonigal:

  • How much does the way you think about stress affect your health?
  • Contrary to what medical professionals have been telling you for years, can there really be such a thing as good stress?
  • Why trying to shame someone out of a harmful coping mechanism (overeating, smoking, etc.) can generate the very stress that prompts reliance on that mechanism.
  • How anxiety, pangs of loneliness, and other indications of stress can be seen as calls to action instead of triggers for inappropriate responses.
  • How do genetics play into your relationship with stress?
  • And much more...

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Jul 07, 2020
373: How Do I Keep My Mother-in-Law Alive? | Feedback Friday
00:48:01

Your wife refuses to stand up to her mother about her failing health, instead leaving it up to you to hound her about blood sugar levels, smoking, etc. How can you get your wife more involved in your mother-in-law's health? We'll tackle this and much more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/373

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Some food for thought from Ryan Holiday's The Daily Dad newsletter.
  • Your wife refuses to stand up to her mother about her failing health, instead leaving it up to you to hound her about blood sugar levels, smoking, etc. How can you get your wife more involved in your mother-in-law's health?
  • You excel at your job and the rate of upward mobility has been excellent, but you're experiencing burnout. At the point of desperation and without clear direction, what can you do to find a healthy balance?
  • You need an external opinion on how to communicate with a good friend of yours who’s in the middle of a massive manic episode. Here's what we suggest.
  • You're a 70-year-old great aunt, and your grand nephew who just graduated from high school is coming to visit you for a week. What can you do to make it memorable and useful to his development as a young man?
  • Feedback from essays you've written indicates your writing can change lives, but you've promised yourself to focus on a side hustle to eventually expand into a business. So which route should you take: the path of passion or the path of profitability?
  • Recommendation of the Week: Lenox Hill
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: 
Jul 03, 2020
372: Bob Saget | How Comedy Continually Changes His Life
01:12:21

Bob Saget (@bobsaget) is a comedian, actor, director, host of the Bob Saget's Here For You podcast, and author of Dirty Daddy: The Chronicles of a Family Man Turned Filthy Comedian.

What we discuss with Bob Saget:

  • The shared age at which Bob Saget and Richard Pryor knew they were funny.
  • How Bob's sense of humor developed as a mechanism to avoid pain.
  • Why Bob has reinvented himself repeatedly over the course of his career -- from the wholesome family man he portrayed on Full House to the dirty lecher he played on Entourage (and all points between).
  • The big breaks that can come from life's worst disappointments.
  • Bob's proven remedy for dealing with the haters (and we all have haters).
  • And much more...

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Jul 02, 2020
371: Maria Konnikova | Pulling Off the Biggest Bluff
01:36:30

Maria Konnikova (@mkonnikova) is a regular contributing writer for The New Yorker, a bestselling author, and an international poker champion -- a title she earned while researching her latest book, The Biggest Bluff: How I Learned to Pay Attention, Master Myself, and Win.

What We Discuss with Maria Konnikova:

  • How Maria went from being someone who had no interest in poker to raking in big bucks as an international poker champion.
  • How people make decisions and what poker can tell us about reading human motivation.
  • How to spot real physical tells at the poker table (and real life).
  • How we can control and prevent emotional thinking (aka "going on tilt").
  • Why, in poker as in life, triumph is your foe, and disaster is where you learn.
  • And much more...

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Jun 30, 2020
370: My Life as a Secret Love Child | Feedback Friday
00:52:11

Your father already had another family when he decided to have an affair with your mom (which resulted in you). Now that you're 18, is it right for you to still be kept a secret from this other family? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/370

On this week's Feedback Friday:

  • If you're feeling unlucky lately, see if you're controlling these three drivers for results.
  • Your father already had another family when he decided to have an affair with your mom (which resulted in you). Now that you're 18, is it right for you to still be kept a secret from this other family?
  • You've made some headway in life, but your social circle has not. As a result, your lack of relatable friendships makes you feel antisocial. Where do you begin the quest for a new social circle?
  • Looking for a job while sheltering in place is a bummer. How can you: a) politely turn away leads you think aren't a good fit out of respect for your old boss who's passing them your way, and b) avoid being the awkward newcomer on Zoom who doesn't know anyone in real life if you do land a new job?
  • How can you tell the difference between a legitimate, positively influential mastermind group and a scammy, fake guru-style mastermind group as we addressed recently in episode 368?
  • New at your job, how should you go about failure when it could jeopardize how others think of you? You want to acknowledge your mistakes without losing the trust of your coworkers and higher-ups.
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Jun 26, 2020
369: Tim Ballard | Putting a Stop to Child Sex Trafficking
01:26:00

Tim Ballard (@TimBallard) is a former Homeland Security agent who reluctantly got involved in chasing down global child trafficking. As the founder of Operation Underground Railroad, he is featured in the documentary film Operation Toussaint: Operation Underground Railroad and the Fight to End Modern Day Slavery, and is a co-author of the book adaptation as well as Slave Stealers: True Accounts of Slave Rescues -- Then and Now.

What We Discuss with Tim Ballard:

  • Slavery is the fastest growing criminal enterprise in the world.
  • There are more people enslaved right now than there were during the transatlantic slave trade period between the 15th and 19th centuries.
  • Slavery generates three times the revenue of the NFL. With the money from all the trafficking in the world, you could buy every Starbucks outlet in the world. Every NBA team in the nation. Every Target store.
  • There are 30 million slaves in the world; 10 million of them are children.
  • 17,500 children are trafficked into the US every year.
  • And much more...

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Jun 25, 2020
368: Coffeezilla | How to Expose Fake Guru Scams
01:34:29

Coffeezilla (@coffeebreak_YT) is a prolific YouTuber who exposes fake guru scam artists and alerts would-be victims to the tactics used to part them from their hard-earned money.

What we discuss with Coffeezilla:

  • How fake gurus who profess to teach you how to get rich quick aren't using these same methods to get rich -- they're using you.
  • The classic framework used by fake gurus to entice their target demographic.
  • How fake gurus leverage cult of personality dynamics to be both relatable and unquestionable.
  • How fake gurus pass off once-legitimate moneymaking methods long after they've become obsolete and worthless.
  • Why you don't have to be especially gullible to fall for what a fake guru is selling, and you don't have to be a steel-willed ice king or queen to resist their sleazy machinations.
  • And much more...

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Jun 23, 2020
367: How to "Fix" Your Relationship without Nagging | Feedback Friday
01:12:38

Your significant other has picked up some bad habits while self-quarantining during the pandemic; how can you fix your relationship without nagging? We'll figure out this -- and more -- here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/367.

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • First, let's address some reactions to the advice we gave to the ex-self-help cultist/current registered sex offender featured on a recent Feedback Friday.
  • Moving across the country would afford you better business opportunities, but leave you without the safety net of free housing you enjoy now. How can you be confident enough to take this big, scary leap and ensure you do it right?
  • Your significant other has picked up some bad habits while self-quarantining during the pandemic; how can you fix your relationship without nagging?
  • You seem to show appreciation more than verbalize it, but you want to be good at both. How can you improve your ability to verbalize appreciation?
  • You're working at one of the top places in your field and it's making you second-guess your choice of career. So is it time to find a new career entirely, or just a new place to work?
  • You work for a well-known, rapidly growing startup, and former colleagues, peers, and friends of friends are reaching out for referrals. So how do you honestly deal with the ones you're not entirely stoked about referring?
  • Are you thinking about confidence wrong? Don Moore, author of Perfectly Confident: How to Calibrate Your Decisions Wisely joins us to find out and, if so, offer some course corrections.
  • A shout out to Christina (and Elisa and Garrett) for letting us know how our episodes with BJ Fogg and Ramit Sethi helped them change up their habits and their money!
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Jun 19, 2020
366: Bill Nye | Radical Curiosity Saves the World
00:55:36

Bill Nye (@billnye) is a lifelong champion of science who is determined to teach you something today that you didn't know yesterday -- whether it's from a television screen, the pages of a book, or next to you at a dinner party.

What We Discuss with Bill Nye:

  • Why denying proven science -- like climate change and the efficacy of vaccination -- is in nobody's best interest.
  • On reinvention and pivoting: How Bill Nye went from Boeing engineer to television personality.
  • Why episodes of Bill Nye The Science Guy are still being used to teach kids science two decades after they first aired.
  • How to look at the world with radical curiosity.
  • Why it's key to internalize our fears in order to move forward.
  • And so much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/366

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Jun 18, 2020
365: Benjamin Hardy | How to Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs
01:16:47

Benjamin Hardy (@BenjaminPHardy) is an organizational psychologist and author of Willpower Doesn't Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success and Personality Isn't Permanent: Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs and Rewrite Your Story.

What We Discuss with Benjamin Hardy:

  • Why treating the results of a "scientific" personality test like Myers & Briggs or Enneagram as gospel is akin to trusting horoscopes to safely guide your life decisions -- inaccurate and potentially dangerous.
  • Hear the story about how Benjamin and his wife almost didn't get married because a personality test indicated they weren't an ideal match.
  • What looking back at the person you were 10 or 20 years ago should reveal about personality as an unfixed, malleable quality.
  • Why categorizing yourself or accepting labels leads to a tunnel vision of mindlessness that tends to accentuate the negative qualities you believe yourself to have.
  • You're always a work in progress -- you're never "finished." The person you'll be in 10 years may well be as different as you are from the person you were 10 years ago. So who do you want the future you to be?
  • And much more...

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Jun 16, 2020
364: Can You Stop a Racist from Becoming a Doctor? | Feedback Friday
01:00:30

One of your fellow medical students is openly racist, misogynistic, and homophobic. Do you have a duty to report this terrible person in hopes it prevents him from ever becoming a doctor with marginalized patients whose lives may depend on him? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/364.

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • If someone could only see your actions and not hear your words, what would they say are your priorities?
  • One of your fellow medical students is openly racist, misogynistic, and homophobic. Do you have a duty to report this terrible person in hopes it prevents them from ever becoming a doctor?
  • You're skeptical of mainstream viewpoints and want to explore every angle of an issue, but you find yourself getting sucked into conspiracy theory-level stuff. How can you maintain a healthy balance that errs toward accuracy, not nonsense?
  • You're in school to be an airline pilot (your lifelong dream), but COVID-19 has decimated the industry and made your chance of being hired in the US uncertain. What options might you explore?
  • You read so many books and consume such a vast amount of information that it becomes difficult to remember the important bits. How can you retain this data without becoming overwhelmed?
  • VPN! Huh! What is it good for? Absolutely lots, as ExpressVPN VP Harold Li explains here.
  • Life Pro Tip: When you’re dealing with someone who is notoriously bad at responding to email and you need to ask them a yes/no question, frame your question so that their lack of reply is a response
  • Recommendation of the Week: Mr. Toilet: The World’s #2 Man
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Jun 12, 2020
363: Mick West | How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories
01:50:57

Mick West (@mickwest) is a co-founder and former technical director of Neversoft Entertainment, coder, pilot, Metabunk and  Contrail Science founder, and author of Escaping the Rabbit Hole: How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories Using Facts, Logic, and Respect.

What We Discuss with Mick West:

  • Why people believe -- and want to believe -- conspiracy theories.
  • The types of bias and bad thinking that allow conspiracy theories to take root and thrive.
  • Who really benefits from propagating conspiracy theories and what they have to gain.
  • Ways in which we can help people discover bad thinking patterns in themselves and others.
  • How to help our friends and family escape the conspiracy theory rabbit hole.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/363

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Jun 11, 2020
362: Mark Cuban | Tales from the Shark Side
01:01:50

Mark Cuban (@mcuban) is a Shark Tank investor in over 200 companies, owner of the Dallas Mavericks, and author of How to Win at the Sport of Business: If I Can Do It, You Can Do It.

What We Discuss with Mark Cuban:

  • The advice Mark is giving his CEOs and founders during these angry, uncertain, and unprecedented times.
  • What Mark sees as the future of the knowledge and technology economies here in the United States.
  • What jobs will exist in the not-so-distant future?
  • How America can beat China, and the areas we need to invest in to do so.
  • How Mark stays on top of trends and separates fact from fiction when it comes to his investments -- and how to reach Mark and get his attention for your own business idea.
  • And much more...

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Jun 09, 2020
361: From Self-Help Cultist to Sex Offender | Feedback Friday
00:59:50

The mindset and linguistic contortionism you developed as a self-help cult (aka Large Group Awareness Training program) follower led to you becoming a registered sex offender. How did things go so wrong, and what can you do now? This and more here on Feedback Friday.

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/361.

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Is the graduating class of '20 finding it especially difficult to plot a life course when everything's so uncertain right now? (Well, it's not '21 yet!)
  • You were a self-help cult follower, which led to you becoming a registered sex offender. How did things go so wrong, and what can you do now? [Thanks once again to Corbin Payne, Esq. for his help with this one.]
  • Even though you're in a long-term relationship, you've accidentally developed feelings for your very married mentor. What can you do to get over this embarrassingly inappropriate crush?
  • Recommendation of the Week: Spy Wars with Damian Lewis
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.
  • And if you want to keep in touch with former co-host and JHS family Jason, find him on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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Jun 05, 2020
360: Garry Kasparov | Deep Thinking for Disordered Times
01:06:22

Garry Kasparov (@Kasparov63) is a Russian chess grandmaster, political activist, and author of Deep Thinking: Where Machine Intelligence Ends and Human Creativity Begins and Winter Is Coming: Why Vladimir Putin and the Enemies of the Free World Must Be Stopped.

What We Discuss with Garry Kasparov:

  • The part chess played in promoting Soviet Russian ideology during the Cold War.
  • What it takes to become a chess champion now compared to 50 years ago and why Garry considers the game “one of the most aggressive forces of psychological warfare.”
  • What can and can’t be applied from chess to politics and decision making.
  • What Garry knows from experience about authoritarian governments and why we need to be vigilant against them now more than ever.
  • Is our civilization poised for progress or ruin now that supercomputers can beat superhumans at tournament-level chess?
  • And so much more…

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Jun 04, 2020
359: Justin Ramsdell | How to Detect and Disarm Pseudoscience
01:37:54

Justin Ramsdell is a clinical psychologist, an expert witness, an assistant professor of forensic psychology at George Mason University, and a veteran pseudoscience detector.

What We Discuss with Justin Ramsdell:

  • Why stressed brains don't make great decisions (especially when there's no light visible at the end of the tunnel to indicate that there is an end).
  • How pseudoscience preys on our cognitive biases to give us the answers we want with the scantest of unprovable "evidence."
  • Why watching YouTube videos and ranting in Reddit threads doesn't count as "research" in the same way that work done by field-experienced scientists with doctorate degrees and peer-reviewed studies under their belts counts as research.
  • Be wary of intellectual trespassers -- who might very well be field-experienced scientists with doctorate degrees and peer-reviewed studies under their belts, but make wild, pseudoscientific claims about areas outside their expertise (e.g., a chiropractor who claims to cure COVID-19 with massage).
  • Why you don't have to be a field-experienced scientist with a doctorate degree and peer-reviewed studies under your belt to avoid being hoodwinked by pseudoscience charlatans.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/359

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Jun 02, 2020
358: Is My Friend Blowing Her IVF Money on Gifts? | Feedback Friday
00:59:52

Your friend wants to be a mother more than anything, but says she and her husband can’t afford the IVF it would take to make this possible. On the other hand, she habitually buys expensive gifts for everyone in your social circle. Is there any socially acceptable way for you to have a conversation with her about priorities? We’ll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn’t already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let’s dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/358.

On This Week’s Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • Is your friend — who says she wants to be a mother more than anything — blowing the money she could be using for IVF on expensive gifts for everyone else? And if so, is there any socially acceptable way for you to have a discussion with her about it?
  • You were on the path to a job in a new field until the pandemic hit, and now you’re finding it hard to land interviews without past experience on your resume. Should you go back to your old field in the meantime until things go more or less back to normal?
  • There’s a gap on your resume where you took a year off of college to go to drug and alcohol rehab. Is there a way to spin this positively?
  • While you’ve sought therapy to mitigate the effects of your father’s abuse as a child, your BPD-diagnosed sister hasn’t — and it causes her to act out in ways that are dangerous to herself and others. How can you best help her?
  • How do you decide when it’s worth pushing through something (like learning a new language), or quitting because it causes anxiety and isn’t pleasant to endure at the time?
  • Life Pro Tip: If a bee colony has set up a hive that you need removed, don’t call the exterminator. Google local beekeepers, who will relocate the hive often for free. This is an easy way to be nice to the bees and to your wallet!
  • Recommendation of the Week: Spaceship Earth
  • A quick shout out to @thatphysioguy for making use of Six-Minute Networking to get his business through this pandemic!
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you’d like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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  • Connect...
May 29, 2020
357: Robin Dreeke | Sizing People Up
00:00

Robin Dreeke (@rdreeke) is the retired head of The FBI Behavioral Analysis Program and co-author of Sizing People Up: A Veteran FBI Agent's User Manual for Behavior Prediction and The Code of Trust: An American Counterintelligence Expert's Five Rules to Lead and Succeed.

What We Discuss with Robin Dreeke:

  • People can be relied on to act in their own best interest (from their perspective, not yours).
  • Just because you like somebody for any number of commonalities doesn't necessarily mean you can (or should) trust them.
  • Why it creeps us out when people try too hard to get us to like them (and how we can avoid creeping out others when establishing rapport).
  • Four principles that allow you to make any conversation about the other person -- and therefore more aligned with their best interest.
  • How and why professionals who should understand the basics of rapport-building consistently fail (and how they can correct course).
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/357

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May 28, 2020
356: How to Make the Most of Quarantine | Deep Dive
00:55:33

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive exploring the ups and downs of COVID-19 pandemic life and how to make the most of quarantine to emerge better, not beaten, from the experience.

[Featured photo by Kari Shea]

What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi:

  • While you may not be able to control how long the pandemic lasts, you can control your response to it — is there opportunity nestled in the setback?
  • How to use this downtime to strengthen relationships and build skills so you can springboard into action when things regain a semblance of normality.
  • From which everyday nuisances are you spared while quarantining? For which often overlooked boons should you be grateful now?
  • How to work efficiently and effectively from home even if you’ve always relied on the benevolent micromanagement skills of your resident office busybody.
  • How you and your kids could benefit from using this time to learn new skills together — like a new language you can bond over long after the pandemic passes.
  • And much more…

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/356

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May 26, 2020
355: My Roommate Tried to Kill Me! | Feedback Friday
00:57:44

Your unstable roommate physically attacked you over an argument about laundry, and then she filed a protection from abuse order against you! Now even your family doesn't seem to believe your side of things, and abuse hotlines seem to dismiss you immediately because of your Y chromosome. Even though you're in debt, should you get a lawyer to defend you in case she tries to extort you through the legal system? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, we banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/355.

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • After seven-and-a-half years, we're losing a J! :(
  • When an unstable roommate tries to kill you and then convinces your family and friends and the legal system that you tried to kill her, is it time to get a lawyer even on your tight budget? [Thanks to Corbin Payne for weighing in!]
  • You're self-conscious about being Asian American during this pandemic, and your sister is even getting racist verbal abuse hurled at her in high school. What is the right attitude and perspective for you both to carry during this trying time?
  • What's the least awkward way to respond when someone self-deprecates themself in comparison to you?
  • You were recently selected for a diplomatic job in the Balkans with the Army, and despite your aversion to firearms, you'll be required to carry one. How do you mentally prepare for this compromise of your pacifist ideals?
  • You're one semester from college graduation, but nobody in your family knows your GPA is disappointingly low. To top it off, your three younger siblings are set for Ivy League schools and you feel like an unemployable fraud in comparison. How can you improve your outlook?
  • Recommendation of the Week: Kill Chain: The Cyber War on America's Elections
  • A quick shout out to Mercedes!
  • Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
  • Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
  • Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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May 22, 2020
354: ZDoggMD | Debunking Plandemic COVID-19 Pseudoscience
01:25:10

ZDoggMD (@ZDoggMD) [aka Zubin Damania] is a physician, assistant professor, comedian, Internet personality, musician, founder of Turntable Health, and host of The ZDoggMD Show.

What We Discuss with ZDoggMD:

  • No, COVID-19 wasn't cooked up in a lab somewhere to wreak havoc on the world's populace at the behest of elite politicians and scientists.
  • No, COVID-19 is not "activated" by wearing face masks designed to protect you and others from the spread of pathogens.
  • No, Dr. Anthony Fauci wasn't responsible for destroying Judy Mikovits' career and covering up her (discredited) contributions to medical science.
  • No, Italian vaccines aren't to blame for causing COVID-19 symptoms in otherwise healthy people.
  • No, Jordan Harbinger and Dr. Zubin Damania are not shills for the Illuminati.
  • And much more...

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May 21, 2020
353: Jordan Harbinger | A Darknet Diaries Origin Story
00:59:14

Jordan shares the seedier side of his origin story -- from hacking phones and buying pizza with fake credit card numbers to catching online predators and understanding the fundamentals of social engineering -- with Jack Rhysider (@JackRhysider) of Darknet Diaries.

[Featured art by habblesthecat]

What Jordan and Jack Discuss:

  • What Jordan learned about the mysterious workings of the adult mind when he hacked into telephone calls as a youngster.
  • How the allure of easy fraud through technology put Jordan on the FBI's radar -- when he was still in middle school.
  • How Jordan traded his ability to build a private security company's website for hardcore martial arts training.
  • What Jordan did to help the FBI catch pedophiles online at a time when cybercrime wasn't yet taken seriously.
  • The third-path advice from Jordan's law firm mentor that changed the way he looked at work forever.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/353

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May 19, 2020
352: My Spouse Controls My Online Life! | Feedback Friday
01:00:09

Out of work since late last year, you were finally making progress on the job hunt until COVID-19 locked everything down. Now you've been making connections and finding opportunities on LinkedIn that seem promising. The problem is, your spouse is nervous that anything you post there will somehow hurt your chances for getting a job; it seems her resentment that you're not working -- added to the constant proximity of quarantining responsibly -- puts the world through a very negative lens and anything you say is stupid.

So now she's monitoring your LinkedIn account from hers and picking fights with you every time you post anything there. Should you find another place to live for now while pursuing work, or should you just let your spouse control your online life and make that pursuit more difficult? We tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/352.

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • How do you know if the work from home/side hustle guru you're following on Instagram is a scam artist or the real deal?
  • Sadly, your spouse is simultaneously resentful that you don't have a job and embarrassed that you post to LinkedIn looking for one -- and it causes fights that last for days. Should you find your own space for a while or let them control your online life?
  • Your significant other passed away in front of you at home, and now you're dealing with PTSD on top of grief in the very place where it happened. What can you do to move forward?
  • With the biological clock ticking, are you selfish or stupid to try for a child in the middle of a pandemic?
  • Laura Gassner Otting recommended cutting off toxic people in your life who don't support or "cheerlead" for you. Sadly, you've never been the cheerleading type -- should you worry that you've been a toxic person all along without knowing?
  • You're a South Indian with a supposedly hard-to-pronounce name. You don't mind people mispronouncing it (because the effort is respectful), but you do mind the "cutesy" nicknames foisted upon you by people you barely know. How can you get people to take you seriously enough to use your actual name?
  • When the family relies on you so much, how can you find the time to get a place of your own and become independent for the first time in your young life?
  • Life Pro Tip: Buy domains for your name, your kids' names, and the names of any businesses or anything you own (for a discount at our sponsor hover.com/jordan). If you can, set up a small website (quickly and easily...
May 15, 2020
351: General Martin Dempsey | No Time For Spectators
01:14:08

General Martin Dempsey (@Martin_Dempsey) is a retired Army general who served as the 18th chairman of the Joint Chiefs for four years during the Obama administration, and the author of No Time for Spectators: The Lessons That Mattered Most from West Point to The West Wing.

What We Discuss with General Martin Dempsey:

  • Why learning how to follow is as much of a skill as leadership.
  • That character is built over time based on a series of small decisions that we make during the uncertain moments when things don't go our way.
  • How someone who wanted to grow up and become a Supreme Court Justice detoured into a 45-year career in the military.
  • How an assignment that seemed like a career-ending punishment led General Dempsey to take on his most purposeful, important role.
  • How to be a trusted advisor -- whether it's to a CEO or the President.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/351

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May 14, 2020
350: Dan Heath | Solving Problems from Upstream
01:05:31

Dan Heath is a Senior Fellow at Duke University's CASE center, which supports entrepreneurs who are fighting for social good. He is the co-author of four New York Times bestsellers, and his latest book is Upstream: The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen.

What We Discuss with Dan Heath:

  • How many problems in our lives and in society are we tolerating simply because we’ve forgotten that we can fix them?
  • Why are we more often stuck in a cycle of response downstream of problems rather than upstream where we might prevent them from happening in the first place?
  • What lessons can we learn about upstream versus downstream thinking by examining our current pandemic crisis?
  • What the federal response to Hurricane Katrina tells us about an ounce of prevention being worth a pound of cure.
  • Upstream versus downstream thinking regarding the healthcare debate in the US.
  • And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/350

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May 12, 2020
349: How to Pick Your Battles Without Being a Doormat | Feedback Friday
00:46:02

You've never thought of yourself as a doormat, but you've just found it easier to meet people halfway and go with the flow rather than waste your energy on something stupid or trivial. So how do you pick your battles -- especially while everyone who's been following the advice of medical professionals to stay home during the pandemic is feeling a little cooped up and abrasive right now? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/349.

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

  • How do you choose your battles and resolve conflict without being a doormat -- especially while everyone's a bit on edge during this long, long pandemic?
  • You feel you should have strong stances on certain issues, but you don't want your bias to stop you from weighing the evidence that informs those stances. Is it wrong to not take a stand on issues because you honestly don't have all the information?
  • Your friend married an African man with old-world views of gender roles, so she works full time and maintains the house because he won't help with "women's" work. Quarantine has almost broken her. How can she get him to stop thinking in the 19th century and join her in the 21st?
  • You're an introvert about to move to an unfamiliar city to take up an exciting, challenging new job with a bigger paycheck. What are the most important things to keep in mind during this hard reset?
  • You're a jack of all trades with no clear idea of what to do with your life, and you tend to get bored after doing one thing for a while. What might you do to focus and choose a path that will keep you occupied over the long haul?
  • Your job hunt lost momentum as the reaction to COVID-19 started gearing up. You know this pandemic will pass, but what should you do to find the gainful employment you want after this is over?
  • Life Pro Tip: When you have to go out and press elevator buttons and other switches, use a lighter -- then light the lighter to disinfect itself. No need to waste tissues or gloves!
  • Recommendation of the Week: One Child Nation
  • A quick shout out to Josh the Tradesman!
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May 08, 2020
348: Thomas Kostigen | Hacking Planet Earth
01:16:00

Thomas Kostigen (@kostigen) is a New York Times bestselling author and journalist. His latest book is