When you determined the strange numbers on your husband's phone connected to escort services, he immediately told you not to worry -- he was just seeking inexpensive massages for back pain he'd been having. And when he went to the hospital to find relief from another kind of pain, his innocent explanation didn't match with the doctor's summary that it was an STI-related condition. So now that his cheating ways have caught him up in a clap trap of his own design, what are you going to do with this information? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/671

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• First off, we have a heartwarming update from a Feedback Friday listener who was going through tough times back in episode 478!
• Your husband always has a convenient way to explain away his obvious infidelities. But now that there's evidence of an STI on his latest medical summary, what are you going to do with this information?
• How do you politely turn down a work acquaintance's request for a donation to his crowdfunding cause?
• How can you maintain a healthy relationship with your mom without letting her addiction to alcohol get in the way? [Thanks to clinical psychologist and addiction specialist Dr. Rubin Khoddam for helping us field this one!]
• The fact that your 22-year-old girlfriend still tacks up magazine cutouts of pop stars she swoons over like a high school girl makes you more than a little jealous. Are you overreacting?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is the lead investigator at human behavior research lab Science of People and the author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People and Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!]

What We Discuss with Vanessa Van Edwards:

• How can nonverbal communication affect the first impression you make to someone — even if they’re just hearing your voice over a telephone call?
• Explore the science of popularity — what makes the cool kids so cool?
• Understand the difference between social attraction and romantic attraction — and why they both matter.
• Find out what we can learn about people from their photographs — especially on dating sites.
• What interesting patterns turn up in researching episodes of reality television shows Blind Date and Shark Tank?
• And much more…

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/670

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Miss our conversation with FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss? Catch up with episode 165: Chris Voss | Negotiate as If Your Life Depended on It here!

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Dallas Taylor is the host and creator of Twenty Thousand Hertz, a podcast revealing the stories behind the world’s most recognizable and interesting sounds. He is also the Creative Director of Defacto Sound, a TED mainstage speaker, a regular contributor to major publications, and a respected thought leader on the narrative power of sound.

What We Discuss with Dallas Taylor:

• How sound designers create audio more in line with what our brains expect to hear when capturing it in reality would fall short.
• How the tricks of sound design are akin to a magician's ability to invisibly manipulate our emotions.
• Why we hear certain sounds recycled in movies and trailers to the point of cliché.
• With the perspective-bending nature of sound design occupying so many of his waking hours, does Dallas find elements of the job extending into off-the-clock parts of his life?
• Analog vs. digital (and why many prefer to rely on the older technology).
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/669

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Miss the show we did with Moby — musician, singer, songwriter, producer, animal rights activist, and author? Catch up here with episode 196: Moby | What to Do When Success Makes You Miserable!

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Tipping isn't a city in China. But it is a shameful institution that encourages racism, sexism, harassment, and exploitation of low-income workers while placing the burden of compensation on customers instead of business owners. If most restaurants and service-based industries in the world can exist without relying on tipping, why does the custom persist in the United States, and what would be a fairer, more sustainable alternative?

Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and fact-checker, comedian, and podcast host David C. Smalley break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions.

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/668

On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss:

• The federal minimum wage for tipped workers is $2.13 per hour -- the same as it was 31 years ago (though it can be even less in some states under certain circumstances). Why is it the customer’s responsibility to pay these workers a fair wage?
• Why, contrary to the protests of whoever happens to be holding the purse strings, raising the minimum wage for the person serving you will not make your burger cost $25.
• How tipped workers are still expected to fulfill untipped tasks during their "down" time, but without a raise in compensation to make up for it.
• Why the institution of tipping encourages racism, sexism, harassment, and exploitation of low-income workers.
• How the custom of tipping came about, why it persists in places like the United States, and what we should be doing to replace it with something that would better serve the server and served, alike.
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!
• Connect with David at his website, on Twitter, on Instagram, on TikTok, and on YouTube, and make sure to check out The David C. Smalley Podcast here or wherever you enjoy listening to fine podcasts! If you like to get out of your house and catch live comedy, keep an eye on David's tour dates here and text David directly at (424) 306-0798 for tickets when he comes to your town!

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Your inseparable friend's perpetually ill spouse seems to get a sick kick out of infecting your family on the regular and refuses to respect any boundaries you've tried to establish that might keep her and her nasty cooties at bay. If you didn't know any better, you'd suspect she was doing it on purpose! What can you do to protect the health of your household from this physically -- and perhaps mentally -- unwell woman? We'll try to find a remedy to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/667

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Your friend's perpetually ill spouse seems to get a sick kick out of infecting your family on the regular. How can you keep her and her nasty cooties at bay?
• Must you bid your love adieu to dodge her herpes simplex 2?
• Is it time to cut loose the "friend" who ghosts you profusely?
• How can you remain an influential, vital part of your child's life when they live with your ex on the other side of the world?
• You suspect you're clinically depressed, but how can you ask for help when the thought of therapy just adds to your stress?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabe (@GabeMizrahi) take a deep dive into their tried-and-true approach to asking for a promotion, maximizing your chances of landing it, and building on it to create a thriving career.

What We Discuss:

• The important questions to ask yourself before approaching your boss for a raise or a promotion.
• What you can start doing to ensure you get a raise or promotion next time around if you can't quite justify one yet.
• How to build your case for a raise or promotion when you're ready to take one on.
• The best practices for negotiation when the floor is yours.
• What to do if you don't get the raise or promotion on the first try.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/666

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Did you miss our deep dive into what you should do if you’re looking for a new job or relationship and you want to know how to get your foot in the door — while avoiding the mistakes that are liable to get that door slammed in your face? Catch up with episode 629: Getting Your Foot in the Door | Deep Dive here!

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Luis Navia worked for nearly 25 years as a cocaine trafficker for the deadliest Colombian and Mexican cartels until the law caught up with him in 2000. He is the co-author (with Jesse Fink) of Pure Narco: One Man's True Story of 25 Years Inside the Cartels.

What We Discuss with Luis Navia:

• Why did Luis Navia -- a Georgetown student and the privileged son of an affluent sugar trader -- get involved in the illicit international cocaine trade with the most ruthless and infamous Mexican and Colombian drug cartels?
• How did Luis move between 200 to 300 tons of cocaine (roughly worth $10 billion) over the course of 25 years -- and live to tell the tale?
• Why did Luis insist on carrying out his business without a weapon -- in spite of being regularly surrounded by the perpetrators of unimaginably brutal violence?
• What are the logistics for smuggling massive amounts of cocaine over international borders with limited space and personnel?
• How did Operation Journey, an anti-narcotics effort coordinated across 12 nations and led by the United States and Great Britain, finally put an end to Luis' lucrative cocaine trafficking career?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/665

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Miss our two-part conversation with the Caravaggio of currency counterfeiting? Catch up by starting with Episode 488: Frank Bourassa | The World’s Greatest Counterfeiter Part One here!

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Is Reiki -- the not-so-ancient Japanese energy healing technique by which your psychic empath aunt swears -- a legitimate way to treat ailments like cancer, diabetic neuropathy, anxiety, lactose intolerance, and cooties? Or is it nothing more than a placebo that, at best, might offer you a relaxing way to spend an hour of your day -- and a day of your savings? Here on Skeptical Sunday, it's all hands on deck to discover the truth about the controversial practice of Reiki healing.

Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and fact-checker, comedian, and podcast host David C. Smalley break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions.

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/664

On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss:

• How "ancient" is the hallowed practice of Reiki healing?
• With over 800 hospitals in the world offering Reiki -- including Johns Hopkins and the Mayo Clinic -- there must be some tangible benefit to this energy healing technique, right?
• What scientific evidence do we have to support the efficacy of Reiki healing?
• How [much] does someone [have to pay to] become a Reiki practitioner?
• What can (and what can't) Reiki do for you?
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!
• Connect with David at his website, on Twitter, on Instagram, on TikTok, and on YouTube, and make sure to check out The David C. Smalley Podcast here or wherever you enjoy listening to fine podcasts! If you like to get out of your house and catch live comedy, keep an eye on David's tour dates here and text David directly at (424) 306-0798 for tickets when he comes to your town!

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Celebrating only the second anniversary with your wonderful husband, you've found yourself wondering what life might be like if you'd, instead, pursued a relationship with a certain unrequited crush. Does having these thoughts make you an unfaithful, horrible person, or is this a normal adjustment to married life -- for better or for worse? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/663

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Is your marriage screwed because you've been having thoughts about another dude on your second anniversary?
• Should you give your estranged family -- who abused you and worked hard to slander your name when you broke free -- a second chance just because tragedy has forced you to interact again?
• You run successful social media pages reviewing a certain company’s products, and it seemed to be a win/win situation -- until you received a cease and desist letter from said company. How can you safely move forward without losing your business entirely?
• You feel obligated to be there for a new friend who's going through some tough times, but you're concerned that some of your own negativity may be residual from this friendship. Should you stay in their life and risk your own mental health to be the voice of reason, or would it be best just to cut them out of your life entirely?
• You're resentful that your peer got the promotion you wanted and is now your direct manager, and you feel like your manager isn't trying hard enough to help you get ahead. Should you raise a stink about the unfairness of it all, or learn from this teachable moment and grin and bear it until your next review?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Daniel J. Levitin (@danlevitin) is a cognitive psychologist, neuroscientist, musician, record producer, and author of Weaponized Lies: How to Think Critically in the Post-Truth Era. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!]

What We Discuss with Daniel J. Levitin:

• The most important quality for anyone who wants to be an evidence-based, critical thinker.
• Why even society’s smartest people fall victim to misinformation.
• The first step to making good decisions.
• How to dismantle bad arguments on the fly.
• Why you need to look beyond averages when making a case.
• And much more…

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/662

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Miss the show we did with award-winning cybersecurity journalist Nicole Perlroth? Catch up with episode 542: Nicole Perlroth | Who’s Winning the Cyberweapons Arms Race? here!

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Dr. Rachel Zoffness (@DrZoffness) is a pain psychologist, international speaker, medical consultant, educator, and author of The Pain Management Workbook: Powerful CBT and Mindfulness Skills to Take Control of Pain and Reclaim Your Life.

What We Discuss with Dr. Rachel Zoffness:

• Pain lives in the brain, not the body (which is why amputees often report sensing it in limbs they no longer have).
• The overlap between physical and emotional pain, and why they co-occur 100% of the time.
• How the "pain dial" in your brain works: what turns it up, and what turns it down.
• The ways in which trauma, anxiety, and depression amplify pain.
• Why pain medicine is broken and how we can fix it.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/661

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Miss the show we did with Jack Barsky — author of Deep Undercover: My Secret Life and Tangled Allegiances as a KGB Spy in America? Catch up here with episode 285: Jack Barsky | Deep Undercover with a KGB Spy in America!

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Look! Up in the sky! It's a bird! It's a plane! It's a chemtrail of dihydrogen monoxide, known to cause suffocation as well as accelerated corrosion in certain circumstances, and now it's in the very air you're breathing! But to what end? What nefarious plot has the government hatched to control the lives of you and your loved ones this time? Listen on as we get to the bottom of this chemtrail conspiracy!

Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and fact-checker, comedian, and podcast host David C. Smalley break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions.

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/660

On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss:

• What is dihydrogen monoxide, and why are aircraft continually depositing it into the air we all breathe?
• Are government scientists really geo-engineering our weather? If so, to what end?
• If we're supposed to believe so-called chemtrails are just condensation-created contrails, why did a weatherman admit on live television that the military was spraying chemicals into the atmosphere?
• If chemtrails are just contrails, why are there sometimes breaks in the streams? Wouldn't the temperature difference between an airplane's exhaust and the air create consistently solid trails?
• Aluminum found in the soil proves beyond a doubt that the government is spraying us with toxic chemicals to control the population -- or something -- right?
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!
• Connect with David at his website, on Twitter, on Instagram, on TikTok, and on YouTube, and make sure to check out The David C. Smalley Podcast here or wherever you enjoy listening to fine podcasts! If you like to get out of your house and catch live comedy, keep an eye on David's tour dates here and text David directly at (424) 306-0798 for tickets when he comes to your town!

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Can your friendship with the woman whose husband raped you on their wedding day ever recover? Perhaps a better question to ask is: should it? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/659

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Can your friendship with the woman whose husband raped you on their wedding day ever recover? Perhaps a better question to ask is: should it?
• How can you communicate with your Russian parents when they've been brainwashed by state propaganda?
• Are your friends trying to grow their network, or are they trying to clandestinely rope you into their undercover MLM?
• If management and law enforcement don't want to protect you and your coworkers from the dangerous, mentally unstable members of the homeless community camped across the street from your office, what can you do to ensure your safety?
• When your last five roommate situations ended on a sour note, are you wrong to wonder if you might be the common denominator that invites neverending chaos into the equation?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Dr. Shanna Swan (@drshannaswan) is the Professor of Environmental Medicine and Public Health at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, and the author of Count Down: How Our Modern World Is Threatening Sperm Counts, Altering Male and Female Reproductive Development, and Imperiling the Future of the Human Race.

What We Discuss with Dr. Shanna Swan:

• Why has sperm count among men in Western countries decreased by over 50 percent in the past four decades?
• What can increasing reproductive problems in the animal kingdom tell us about diminishing human fertility?
• The same chemicals that cause reproductive decline are responsible for the obesity epidemic.
• What are some of the best practices we can personally observe for recovering from some of the most common fertility issues we face?
• What steps can society take today to ensure we have enough of a population to constitute a society tomorrow?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/658

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Miss our conversation with Ishmael Beah, a former child soldier and New York Times bestselling author? Get caught up with episode 622: Ishmael Beah | Memoirs of a Boy Soldier here!

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Josh Peck (@ItsJoshPeck) is an actor (currently appearing as Drew on How I Met Your Father), comedian, YouTuber, and author of Happy People Are Annoying.

What We Discuss with Josh Peck:

• Why Josh considers it a blessing he grew up before social media dominated the landscape of adolescence.
• How Josh went from wild child to grounded, friendly father (instead of becoming some kind of "drunk Hollywood jerkface") without knowing his own father until later in life.
• What Josh did to overcome the food addiction that once had him tipping the scales at 297 -- when he was just a kid.
• How Josh became a standup comedian at the tender age of 11, and what he did to relate to his significantly older audience.
• How ego can turn someone into an imposter -- and how this is different from the common phenomenon of imposter syndrome.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/657

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Miss our episode with spooky mentalist Derren Brown? Catch up with episode 150: Derren Brown | Using the Power of Suggestion for Good here!

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Having a stalker is bad enough. But what happens when that stalker starts showing up at family functions because their sister is now dating your brother? Is it possible to ensure your safety without infringing on your sibling's relationship? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/656

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• A testimonial from a listener who secured a great job after following advice from our deep dive on how to get your foot in the door!
• How can you help the people of Ukraine as they continue to suffer the atrocities of invasion by Russian forces? Here’s a list.
• What do you do when confronted with a romance like no other: your stalker's sister is dating your brother?
• Your significant other hates their job, feels stuck because their current skill set doesn't offer any alternatives, and brings this negativity home every night. How can you address the effect their work is having on your relationship without making them feel even more hopeless?
• You fear your tendency to cry when discussing things that are unfair or unjust may be holding you back and keeping others from taking you seriously, but therapy has thus far been unsuccessful in keeping these involuntary tears in check. So what can you do? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• Your spouse once lived a chaotic life of addiction and sometimes homelessness in her hometown, but found the road to recovery that led to you and an amazing job in another state. Now her lonely father is encouraging her to move back, but you worry that leaving her job and relocating to the very place that marks her troubled history could trigger a relapse. What's the best way to guide her in the right direction?
• When your bosses constantly ignore your advice that turns out later to have been the right course, how can you resist saying "I told you so" and, instead, use these incidents to reinforce their confidence in what you suggest?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger...

David Eagleman (@davideagleman) is a Stanford neuroscientist, host of Emmy-nominated PBS/BBC series The Brain, and author of many leather-bound books, including Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain, The Brain: The Story of You, and Livewired: The Inside Story of the Ever-Changing Brain. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!]

What We Discuss with David Eagleman:

• Why our conscious brain should be grateful for its separation from the subconscious brain.
• What is sensory substitution, and how might it allow the blind to “see,” the deaf to “hear,” and create completely new, superhuman senses altogether?
• Your umwelt is not my umwelt: a shared environment is several realities, depending on how it’s being sensed.
• Alien hands, intellectual flexibility, zombie routines, and smartphone symbiosis.
• How might technology augment our brains in the not-too-distant future?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/655

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Miss our conversation about the spooky nature of perception with world-renowned neuroscientist Beau Lotto? Catch up with episode 177: Beau Lotto | Why You See Differently When You Deviate here!

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Former US Secretary of Defense Chris Miller and Freedom Research Foundation's Brandon Wheeler join us after meeting with Ukraine President Volodymyr Zelenskyy's top general and intelligence officers to share fresh perspectives from the war front.

What We Discuss with Chris Miller & Brandon Wheeler:

• Putin's unintended consequence: how Russia’s actions have consolidated the entire Western world.
• Why isn't there a no-fly zone over Ukraine?
• Are sanctions against Russia working?
• What else can the West do to contain Putin’s Russia?
• Predictions about Russia's plans and strategies moving forward, and what Putin's likely ambitions beyond this invasion entail.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/654

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Have you heard our interview with Yuriy Matsarsky, a Ukrainian journalist turned civilian fighter against the Russian invasion? Catch up with episode 638: Yuriy Matsarsky | Fighting for Ukraine here!

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Is ear candling -- the practice of inserting a lit, hollow candle in your ear to remove earwax -- a safe, practical way to get the job done? If you have a burning desire to discover the truth, listen on!

Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and fact-checker, comedian, and podcast host David C. Smalley break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions.

On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss:

• Where did the practice of ear candling originate? It's got to come from a noble, ancient, shamanic tradition and not some hippies out to make a buck, right?
• Ear candling is a thriving industry that rakes in about $1.2 million a year.
• Are there risks to placing a hollow, burning candle in your living human ear canal?
• In spite of any of its potential dangers, at least ear candling gets rid of excess earwax and other debris like it's supposed to, right?
• If ear candling is so hazardous to your health, the FDA or some governmental agency is on the case to have it banned, right? Right?
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!
• Connect with David at his website, on Twitter, on Instagram, on TikTok, and on YouTube, and make sure to check out The David C. Smalley Podcast here or wherever you enjoy listening to fine podcasts! If you like to get out of your house and catch live comedy, keep an eye on David's tour dates here and text David directly at (424) 306-0798 for tickets when he comes to your town!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/653

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Miss our conversation with behavioral expert Thomas Erikson? 

Your father's never been abusive, but you were recently disheartened when he referred to a child sexual assault survivor and advocate who's been in the news lately as a "media-hungry slut." And when you brought up how this made you feel to your mother, she dismissively suggested you should just let it go because he's always been supportive of you. Is there another approach you can try with your parents to make them understand they're missing the whole point about why you're upset? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/652

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Why does Jordan crusade hard against MLM scams while giving infomercials that peddle shoddy goods a pass?
• How can you help the people of Ukraine as they continue to suffer the atrocities of invasion by Russian forces? Here's a list.
• How do you make your father understand why you're so upset about dismissive, sexist remarks he casually made regarding a sexual assault survivor who's been in the public eye?
• Your father and older sister have serious health issues that require constant care. How can you handle feelings of wanting to run away at a time when you're needed the most?
• A creative project on which you collaborated with your significant other fell by the wayside when you had a very bitter breakup. Is there a way to finish the project -- giving your ex credit and a share of the profits for their contributions -- without actually bringing this person back into your life? [Thanks to Cypher Content founder Edward Sabin for helping us with this one!]
• Your friend's brother died in a car crash when their sister, who survived, was texting behind the wheel. As the maid of honor for this friend's wedding, you want to honor the memory of their late brother in your speech, but you don't want to exacerbate the guilt, shame, regret, and PTSD of the surviving sister, who will be present. What's the right thing to do here?
• When you have a little extra to give and want to donate to a charity that is working to make the world a better place, how do you decide on the right charity?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at

Anja Shortland is a professor of political economy at King’s College, London who specializes in the economics of crime. She is the author of Kidnap: Inside the Ransom Business and Lost Art: The Art Loss Register Casebook Volume One.

What We Discuss with Anja Shortland:

• How many people are kidnapped every year for ransom, and how many actually return from the ordeal alive?
• What incentives do kidnappers have to treat hostages nonviolently and bargain for their release in good faith?
• How do insurers keep vulnerable clients from letting down their guard once a policy has been obtained?
• The protection theory that explains how crime organizations (e.g., the mafia) effectively stabilize the kidnap-for-ransom industry.
• Why offering a higher ransom than demanded is the worst strategy for ensuring a hostage's safe release.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/651

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Miss our conversation with Somali pirate hostage Michael Scott Moore? Catch up with episode 115: Michael Scott Moore | What It’s Really like to Be a Pirate Hostage here!

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Brian Klaas (@brianklaas) is an associate professor in global politics at University College London, host of the Power Corrupts podcast, and author of Corruptible: Who Gets Power and How It Changes Us.

What We Discuss with Brian Klaas:

• How accurate was historian Lord Acton's assessment that "power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely"?
• Why do people become corrupt? Is it the system working on them from the outside or something in human nature working on them from within?
• What kind of people become corrupt? Is everyone susceptible to corruption's temptations?
• When it comes to corruption, should our leaders be held to higher standards than the rest of us?
• How can we create fair systems to incentivize people to resist corruption in favor of the straight and narrow?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/650

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Parental plans for an arranged marriage threaten a lesbian couple's future. Welcome to Feedback Friday!

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Susan Cain (@susancain) is, in her own words, an "unlikely" award-winning speaker, and bestselling author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. Her latest book is Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] 

What We Discuss with Susan Cain:

• How “quiet” came to be a pejorative term as the West urbanized and placed more value on personality (extroversion) over character (introversion).
• Better ways to understand our introverted friends (or selves).
• Action steps for introverts to become more social.
• Why being an introvert might actually be an advantage — in social situations, negotiation, and creative pursuits.
• Why brainstorming doesn’t work and is mostly a social exercise vs. a creative one.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/648

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Miss our conversation with producer, author, and Academy Award-winning actor Matthew McConaughey? Catch up with episode 455: Matthew McConaughey | Following Life’s Greenlights to Success here!

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Karim Hijazi (@karimhijazi) is the founder, chairman, and CEO of cyber intelligence company Prevailion, and creator and host of The Introverted Iconoclast podcast.

What We Discuss with Karim Hijazi:

• How vulnerable is the Internet and how much of our current infrastructure would suffer if it were to go down tomorrow?
• What are the biggest threats to the security of your privacy, your bank account, your company, and your country?
• How cyber warfare can lead to kinetic (i.e., real) warfare with physical consequences.
• Why the current efforts of companies and governments to mitigate digital security risks are woefully insufficient.
• What are our best practices for staying as safe from cyber attacks as possible?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/647

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Miss the show we did with award-winning cybersecurity journalist Nicole Perlroth? Catch up with episode 542: Nicole Perlroth | Who’s Winning the Cyberweapons Arms Race? here!

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How concerned should you be about expiration dates stamped on items you buy from the grocery store?

Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and fact-checker, comedian, and podcast host David C. Smalley break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions.

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On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss:

• What really determines the expiration date that gets stamped on an item from the grocery store?
• Is there a difference between "sell by," "buy by," and "use before" expiration warnings?
• What federal regulations dictate expiration dates for the protection of the consumer?
• How dangerous is it to ignore an expiration date on something like a gallon of milk, and what variables might change this?
• Why most cases of food poisoning have very little to do with the lackadaisical observance of expiration dates, and how you should really be gauging if something is still fit for consumption.
• And much more!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!
• Connect with David at his website, on Twitter, on Instagram, on TikTok, and on YouTube, and make sure to check out The David C. Smalley Podcast here or wherever you enjoy listening to fine podcasts! If you like to get out of your house and catch live comedy, keep an eye on David's tour dates here and text David directly at (424) 306-0798 for tickets when he comes to your town!

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Miss the show we did with Molly Bloom — the woman behind the most exclusive, high-stakes underground poker game in the world? Catch up here with episode 120: Molly Bloom | The One Who Makes the Rules Wins the Game!

Everyone knows that when tweetle beetles fight, it's called a tweetle beetle battle. But bridesmaids brawling at a bachelorette bash just make wedding plans more of a pain in the ass. Now, to fend off further fighting, the bride must decide who she's disinviting. Boo, hoo! But who? Which one gets the axe; which one gets to stay? We hope to find out this Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/645

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• After a brawl between two bridesmaids at the bachelorette bash, the bride now has to disinvite one to the wedding. But who should she choose?
• Does Jordan Harbinger ever get tired of saying "Jordan Harbinger?"
• Aside from this one, have Gabe or Jordan ever done any weird jobs?
• Just because an oil is classified as "essential" doesn't mean it's necessary to put it on your family's food, right? Right?
• Do we ever get generous offers from shady sponsors?
• What’s the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to Jordan and Gabe (that they're willing to fess up to)?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!

Miss our interview with Bar Rescue‘s Jon Taffer? Catch up with episode 142: Jon Taffer | Raising Your Bar and Crushing All Excuses here!

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Laowhy86 (@laowhy86) -- aka Matthew Tye, aka C-Milk -- shared the good, the bad, and the ugly aspects of life as an American in China on his YouTube channel for 10 years until he caught the attention of the CCP and barely escaped. This is his story. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to listen to part one here first!]

What We Discuss with Laowhy86:

• What the Chinese social credit system is, the factors that increase or diminish someone's score, and the consequences someone with a low score faces.
• How the Kremlin is cribbing the Chinese Communist Party's propaganda playbook for its own nefarious purposes.
• Why, after 10 years of having mostly positive things to say about life in China, Laowhy86 suddenly found himself on the run from the authorities and barely escaping the country.
• How Laowhy86 went from lifestyle vlogging to covering things mainstream journalists couldn't (or wouldn't) touch.
• Myths perpetrated by the CCP that need to be dispelled.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/644

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Miss our two-parter with wrongfully imprisoned Erik Aude? Catch up by starting with episode 147: Erik Aude | Imprisoned in Pakistan for a Crime He Didn’t Commit Part One here!

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Laowhy86 (@laowhy86) -- aka Matthew Tye, aka C-Milk -- shared the good, the bad, and the ugly aspects of life as an American in China on his YouTube channel for 10 years until he caught the attention of the CCP and barely escaped. This is his story.  [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the second part later this week!]

What We Discuss with Laowhy86:

• What the Chinese social credit system is, the factors that increase or diminish someone's score, and the consequences someone with a low score faces.
• How the Kremlin is cribbing the Chinese Communist Party's propaganda playbook for its own nefarious purposes.
• Why, after 10 years of having mostly positive things to say about life in China, Laowhy86 suddenly found himself on the run from the authorities and barely escaping the country.
• How Laowhy86 went from lifestyle vlogging to covering things mainstream journalists couldn't (or wouldn't) touch.
• Myths perpetrated by the CCP that need to be dispelled.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/643

Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!

Miss the conversation we had with scambuster Coffeezilla? Catch up with episode 368: Coffeezilla | How to Expose Fake Guru Scams here!

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Several violent encounters with your erratic, mentally ill neighbor over the years leave you constantly in fear of his return. In spite of being a repeat felon, the law doesn't seem to be doing much to keep him in check -- leaving him to run loose as a danger to himself and others. What can you do to keep your family safe from this menace to your community? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/642

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How can you keep your family safe from the violent maniac who lives in your neighborhood when the long arm of the law seems short-handed? [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us field this one!]
• How can you enjoy your passion for travel while maintaining strong relationships and creating new ones?
• While you fear being alone, is it worth staying in a relationship that's guaranteed to lead to marriage when your partner's many flaws -- including that time they cheated on you -- give you cause for concern?
• When faith forbids your attraction to people of the same sex, is it possible to "pray the gay away?"
• You've been following along with the lessons from Six-Minute Networking, but you're only 16. Do the same strategies for networking as an adult apply to teenagers?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Miss our two-part conversation with North Korean defector and activist Yeonmi Park? Start catching up with episode 578: Yeonmi Park | A North Korean Girl’s Journey to Freedom Part One here!

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Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabe (@GabeMizrahi) have helped a lot of people optimize their chances at landing dream jobs, but this is only half of the equation. It's also important to consider the way you end things with your soon-to-be ex-employer so you don't needlessly burn bridges you've built along the way. Don't be that person! Here's a deep dive into how to quit your job the right way.

What We Discuss:

• The important questions to ask before making the commitment to quit your job.
• How to break the news to your employer in the right order.
• How to set your team up for success long after you've made your exit.
• Why you should take the time to craft a great goodbye email to your peers, and what you might say.
• How to make quitting a transition to a new phase of your relationship with former employers and colleagues rather than a final farewell -- and why you should stay close and connected long past the time you've collected your last paycheck.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/641

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Miss the show we did with prolific art forger Ken Perenyi? Catch up here with episode 282: The Secret Life of an American Art Forger!

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Peter Zeihan (@PeterZeihan) is a geopolitical strategist and author of The Absent Superpower, The Accidental Superpower, Disunited Nations, and the upcoming The End of the World is Just the Beginning: Mapping the Collapse of Globalization.

What We Discuss with Peter Zeihan:

• How did the Russian invasion of Ukraine become a "now or never" scenario for Putin?
• Even if Russia "wins" this conflict by sheer numbers, how difficult will it be to maintain control of Ukraine -- and what can we expect Putin's next move to be?
• What the US and its NATO allies are doing to keep the desperation of a nuclear confrontation at bay.
• Why Peter believes Putin's ruthless pruning of threats to his personal power -- leaving no competent next-generation successors -- will ensure he's the last president of the Russian Federation as we know it.
• Are China's designs on Taiwan likely to be deterred by the difficulty faced by Russia's forces in Ukraine?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/640

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Miss the show we did with award-winning cybersecurity journalist Nicole Perlroth? Catch up with episode 542: Nicole Perlroth | Who’s Winning the Cyberweapons Arms Race? here!

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Your significant other has DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder), a mental health condition where a person has two or more separate identities. These personalities, or “alters” control the person’s behavior at different times, and each alter often has its own history, traits, likes, and dislikes. It's a very complex disorder — one that clinicians are still coming to understand — and it makes relationships quite hard. So what can you do to be supportive to your loved one as well as yourself? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/639

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• What can you do to empower your significant other as she struggles with DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder), while ensuring you're not neglecting your own needs in the process??
• You never took the chance to communicate with someone you matched with on a dating app a few years back, but now you see them on LinkedIn and would like to make a networking connection. How can you do so without being awkward about it?
• You're losing respect for the person you once saw as future spouse material because their tendency to procrastinate is derailing and delaying their academic and career paths and straining your finances. On top of the frustration this makes you feel, you've recently been diagnosed with bipolar II. How do you walk the line between being caring partner while also maintaining your own mental health and financial well-being?
• You're only 16 years old, and your dad's work has relocated your family 10 times. You've never really settled anywhere long enough to build strong friendships or feel like you can call anywhere "home" until you arrived at your current residence. Now, it's your mother who's rallying to move again after some disagreements with the neighbors. What can you do to convince your parents to come to an agreement with the neighbors and just stay put?
• Your grandmother has always been verbally and physically abusive to your mom, going as far as faking heart attacks whenever the inheritance your grandfather left behind when he passed away 30 years ago is brought up. You think the healthiest thing to do would be to cut her out of your life completely, but your mother pleads with you to maintain a connection. What's the right call here?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at

Yuriy Matsarsky is a Ukrainian journalist turned civilian fighter against the Russian invasion of Ukraine. Since the incursion began, he's been keeping the world updated with events as they happen as the host of the daily podcast Fighting for Ukraine.

What We Discuss with Yuriy Matsarsky:

• Why did Yuriy -- and so many of his civilian countrymen and women -- turn in the tools of their trades for assault rifles to defend their homeland against the professional army tasked with invading it?
• Why Yuriy considers these Russian invaders more heartless and brutal against civilians -- including women and children -- than even ISIS terrorists he's encountered in war zones.
• What Yuriy hopes Westerners come to understand about this conflict sooner rather than later that often gets missed by mainstream media.
• What day-to-day life and overall morale are like for Ukrainian defenders, and how Yuriy sees this conflict ultimately playing out.
• Short of picking up a rifle and heading to Kyiv, what can you do to help Yuriy and his fellow defenders keep resisting the advances of their uninvited neighbors?
• And much more...

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Miss our interview with Read & Riot: A Pussy Riot Guide to Activism author Nadya Tolokonnikova? Catch up with episode 118: Pussy Riot’s Nadya Tolokonnikova | How to Read and Riot here!

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Bill von Hippel (@billvonhippel) is a professor of psychology at the University of Queensland and the author of The Social Leap: The New Evolutionary Science of Who We Are, Where We Come From, and What Makes Us Happy.

What We Discuss with Bill von Hippel:

• What our eyes tell us about how humans evolved to cooperate with one another.
• How a psychological phenomenon called the theory of mind makes us aware that mental states of others don't match our own, and why this trait gives human beings a unique advantage in the animal kingdom.
• Why hunter-gatherer societies are more egalitarian than what we see in modern Western civilization.
• Why so many of us hate the way we look in photographs.
• Can animals lie?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/637

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Miss the conversation we had with scambuster Coffeezilla? Catch up with episode 368: Coffeezilla | How to Expose Fake Guru Scams here!

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You and your spouse made the decision long ago not to have children of your own. So was it wrong to hesitate when your brother-in-law asked you to assume guardianship over his children should the unthinkable happen to him? We'll try to get to the bottom of this conundrum and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/636

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• First off: the good pastor from episode 571 shares what he's been up to since we last spoke.
• Are you wrong to decline your brother-in-law's request to assume guardianship over his children should the unthinkable happen?
• By happenstance, you did a favor for someone who turns out to be a bigwig at a company where your son would like to apply for a job. Is there a non-awkward way to approach this person for a possible lead?
• Can there be such a thing as closure when a seemingly dandy keen college romance ends in a sudden, inexplicable breakup?
• You adopted a puppy just a few weeks after losing the family dog you'd known since childhood. Now you find yourself having full-blown panic attacks worrying about all the things that could go wrong with the new pet. What can you do to ease this ever-present, crippling anxiety sooner rather than later?
• You and your spouse speak multiple languages, and you'd like to pass them along to your newborn daughter. What can you do to ensure you're not unintentionally overwhelming her in the process?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Miss the conversation we had with counterfeiting investigator Kris Buckner? Catch...

Joe Barone was born into a life of crime from both sides of his family, became the longest-running mafia informant in the history of the FBI when his father was killed, and now lives in hiding from people in both camps who want him dead or behind bars. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!]

What We Discuss with Joe Barone:

• The many reasons Joe now considers the FBI to be more treacherous than the mob.
• What Joe was allowed and not allowed to do by the FBI while blending in with the mob.
• How Joe prevented the murder of a federal prosecutor and a US district judge.
• How Joe's relationship with the FBI soured after 18 years of being its top informant.
• The consequences Joe continues to suffer as a result of this soured relationship, and what he hopes the future brings.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/635

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Miss our two-parter with former mobster Anthony S. Luciano? Get caught up by starting with episode 425: Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi | The Mob Enforcer Part One here!

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Joe Barone was born into a life of crime from both sides of his family, became the longest-running mafia informant in the history of the FBI when his father was killed, and now lives in hiding from people in both camps who want him dead or behind bars. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part two later this week!]

What We Discuss with Joe Barone:

• What it was like being born into -- and growing up in -- a crime family, and how Joe was swayed into the life in spite of aspiring to become a postman.
• The real glue that ties mob families together has nothing to do with honor or unity.
• How his father's murder was used to turn Joe into an FBI informant for 18 years.
• What it was like for Joe to live a double life among mobsters -- keeping his cool while fearing for his life -- during those 18 years as an informant.
• How much does it cost to hire mafia "assistance" in intimidating or eliminating a personal archnemesis?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/634

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Miss our two-parter with Sammy “The Bull” Gravano, former second-in-command of the Gambino organized-crime family? Start catching up with episode 587: Sammy “The Bull” Gravano | Mafia Underboss Part One here!

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Getting your record expunged after the embarrassment of earning a DUI can take years, but you need to land a job today. So how do you find work fast when you have a criminal past? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/633

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Getting your record expunged after the embarrassment of earning a DUI can take years, but you need to land a job today. So how do you find work fast when you have a criminal past?  [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us field this one!]
• Despite working in tech -- arguably the most optimistic field there is -- you find yourself battling a constant wave of hopelessness over the escalating climate crisis and the future of the planet. What can you do to keep your eco-anxiety in check?
• When confronting your fiancée with text messages suggesting she's been cheating on you with a co-worker, she insists it never got physical and she wants to reconcile. But can you ever trust her enough to carry on with the wedding you've been planning?
• As an experienced world traveler on a gap year before college, you've researched places you want to visit that your very concerned parents have "forbid" you to consider -- like Iran, Turkmenistan, Iraqi Kurdistan, Lebanon, and Russia. You believe the benefits of seeing these destinations up close outweigh the risks and are determined to go, but how can you alleviate your parents' worry and depart with their blessing?
• As a third-year medical student, you'll be graded on your performance under pressure working full time in a hospital. The problem? You're a very feminine female with a petite build and a soft voice, and getting peers and patients to take you seriously has been an issue. How can you thrive in a field where masculinity is deemed equal to competency?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Jon Acuff (@jonacuff) is the New York Times bestselling author of seven books, including his Wall Street Journal #1 bestseller, Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!]

What We Discuss with Jon Acuff:

• Why are only eight percent of new year’s resolutions realized? (Incidentally, that’s the same percentage of applicants accepted to Juilliard.)
• The harm perfectionism causes and what we can do to navigate through it.
• The Planning Fallacy and how it causes overachievers to fail before even beginning.
• Strategic Incompetence: why you should deliberately be terrible at some things.
• Secret Rules: what they are, how they’re made, and how these invisible scripts affect our lives (and what we can do about it).
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/632

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Every week on My First Million, hosts Shaan Puri and Sam Parr dive deep into different business opportunities and explain how to pounce on them — basically spoon-feeding you interesting businesses you can start tomorrow. Check it out at HubSpot or wherever you listen to fine podcasts!

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Amanda Catarzi survived a cult-dominated childhood and abuse at the hands of sex and labor traffickers. In the years since, she has helped law enforcement bust trafficking rings, written federal anti-trafficking legislation, and worked to save countless victims.

What We Discuss with Amanda Catarzi:

• 70 percent of human trafficking victims are women, and 30 percent are men. They usually die (overdose or violence being primary causes) within seven years.
• How Amanda's upbringing in an isolated cult that matched teen brides with middle-aged men and preached absolute male dominance over them programmed her to consider abusive relationships normal.
• Why moving to the other side of the country didn't turn out to be an escape from the childhood traumas that haunted Amanda, but just the next chapter of her abuse by expert manipulators.
• How training as an MMA fighter was the perfect cover for this abuse as no one questioned Amanda's bruises and black eyes when her "coach" trafficked her out to violent johns.
• How Amanda escaped this dire situation and has used her experience to help legislators and law enforcement save other trafficking victims (especially children), and what we can do to help stem the tide of abuse that may be going on in our own neighborhoods in plain sight.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/631

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Miss our conversation with Mosab Hassan Yousef, the son of a Hamas co-founder who worked undercover to thwart terrorist plots? Catch up with episode 407: Mosab Hassan Yousef | The Green Prince of Hamas here!

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A well-intended law in your state makes it impossible for victims of sexual abuse, or their loved ones, to get psychological help without triggering a mandatory report. In your situation, such a report would ruin the life of the offender -- who was a minor at the time and may not even remember committing the crime. How can your family seek the help it needs without initiating legal complications that will only make the overall situation worse for all parties -- including the victim?

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

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On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• A well-intended law in your state makes it impossible for victims of sexual abuse, or their loved ones, to get psychological help without triggering a mandatory report. Is it wrong to seek loopholes when this would hurt the family it's intended to help?
• Surprisingly, your new company accepted the highball offer you proposed during negotiations, and now your salary is twice what you'd ever hoped to land. So how can you shake the guilty feeling that you don't really deserve it? You wanted to be a jazz guitarist, not an oligarch, for goodness' sakes!
• Should you take it as a bad omen that your fiancée doesn't post about you on social media, or are you just reading too much into it?
• Is there a way to turn an insensitive racist comment into a teachable moment for the offender...inoffensively?
• As a manager, how can you address the deteriorating performance and poor attitude of an older employee who's worked for the company for decades?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Miss our two-part conversation with ex-Al-Qaeda spy Aimen Dean? Catch up by starting with 

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabe (@GabeMizrahi) take a deep dive into what you should do if you're looking for a new job or relationship and you want to know how to get your foot in the door -- while avoiding the mistakes that are liable to get that door slammed in your face.

What We Discuss:

• How to make sure you're aligning the job you want to do with the employer who needs you to do it -- without wasting everyone's time in the process.
• Why you should use Ramit Sethi's Briefcase Technique to anticipate what someone needs before you meet, and up the stakes when it comes time to negotiate terms.
• The best resources to use and questions to ask yourself when you're doing research on someone in anticipation of a meeting.
• A cold email script you can adapt for your purposes to maximize the chance of landing that crucial meeting.
• How to create a relationship that will generate business for years to come even if your pitch doesn't close at the first meeting.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/629

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Miss our interview with entrepreneur, venture capitalist, and Kernel founder and CEO Bryan Johnson? Catch up with episode 223: Bryan Johnson | A Plan for the Future of the Human Race here!

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Amanda Montell (@amandamontell) is a language scholar and author of critically acclaimed Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language. Her latest book is Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism, which explores how cults co-opt the words we use in order to control us and affect our behavior.

What We Discuss with Amanda Montell:

• How the uncertainty of current times drives people toward the solace of community — and the sights of aspiring cult leaders and con artists.
• What personal experience drew Amanda, a language scholar, to explore how language is one of the most powerful tools of manipulation cults use to exploit their victims?
• What thought-terminating cliches are and why they're so effective at shaping behavior.
• How MLMs operate like cults and who they predominately target with empty promises of wealth and prestige.
• How to tell if your language is being taken over by cultish manipulators.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/628

Miss our conversation with the American photographer who survived seven months under captivity by Al-Qaeda? Catch up with episode 217: Matthew Schrier | How to Survive in a Secret Syrian Terrorist Prison here!

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You're an American citizen living and working in Kyiv, Ukraine. The embassy just released a statement recommending you evacuate as the situation with Russia escalates, but you've considered staying there and becoming an independent journalist to cover what happens should armed conflict come to pass. Is this a foolhardy death wish disguised as a passion project, or a perfect time for a prudent career pivot? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/627

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• You're an American currently living and working in Ukraine, considering a pivot to war reporting should the situation with Russia escalate. Is this flirtation with danger a death wish in disguise, or a perfect time for a prudent career pivot? [Thanks to seasoned war reporter Danny Gold for helping us tackle this one!]
• You're a 37-year-old married man who's come to realize you don't really have any male friends your own age. What can you do to change this?
• How do you establish healthy boundaries with the sister who mistakes your support system role as an invitation for constant abuse?
• You and your spouse went into marriage with a noncommital attitude about having kids. Eight years on, you've decided you'd like to try having some, but your spouse does not. Is there a win/win way to work through this?
• You took a 50% pay cut to join a startup making a product you strongly believe in. But the pandemic happened, and now your pay cut is 100% as your company struggles to regain momentum. What are your options for seeking job opportunities in your network without simultaneously signaling there's something wrong with your current company's product?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant) is Wharton’s top-rated professor, the host of podcast WorkLife with Adam Grant, and the author of several New York Times Best Sellers. Here, he joined us to discuss Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!]

What We Discuss with Adam Grant:

• How to give to someone you don’t know without being awkward and transactional.
• What stage gates are and how you should use them.
• How to avoid committing social capital suicide.
• What Abraham Lincoln could teach us about the power of powerless communication.
• Why you'll be a better, more effective giver if you practice chunking rather than sprinkling.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/626

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Miss our conversation with actor, producer, and Scientology survivor Leah Remini? Get caught up with episode 485: Leah Remini | Surviving Hollywood and Scientology here!

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Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) is the NYT-bestselling author of When and Drive. His latest book is The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us, about the transforming power of our most misunderstood yet potentially most valuable emotion: regret.

What We Discuss with Daniel Pink:

• As uncomfortable as it can make us feel, regret is a universal, healthy part of being human.
• Understanding how regret works can help us make smarter decisions, perform better at work and school, and bring greater meaning to our lives.
• The four core regrets we each have, and the insights they give us for finding a better path forward.
• How we can reimagine regret as a positive, propelling force rather than an anvil of shame we have to carry around in perpetuity.
• How regret works like a photographic negative: knowing what we regret most allows us to focus clearly on how to avoid repeating whatever got us there.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/625

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Miss our two-part conversation with former gangster, pimp, and mob enforcer Mickey Royal? Get caught up by starting with episode 548: Mickey Royal | A Pimp’s Secrets of Mind Manipulation Part One here!

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You're concerned your 21-year-old daughter is making a mistake by moving abroad to be with her Bahrain beau of five years -- especially since they've only corresponded remotely and have never been face-to-face in real life. You can't outright forbid her to leave as she's an adult now, but is there any way you can get her to reconsider the gravity of what she may be getting herself into? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/624

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How can you convince your 21-year-old daughter she may be making a huge mistake by moving abroad to be with the Bahrain beau she's never actually met in real life?
• How can gently turn down writing a letter of recommendation for someone whose countless character flaws make them someone with whom you don't want your name associated?
• Over the past 10 years, your once-athletic spouse has become clinically obese. The doctor has warned that this is a perfect recipe for diabetes and heart disease, but to no avail. How can you bring up losing weight and leading a healthier lifestyle without sounding like a superficial a-hole?
• You have an offer for your dream job, but it would mean a $40,000 pay cut and a move across the country -- something your significant other is dead-set against. And if you turn down the offer, you'll likely be barred from joining the organization in the future and lose some valuable links in your network. What's your best option?
• You know therapy might be effective in helping you through your depression if you could only find the right therapist. How do you go about finding someone who's the right fit?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Feb 11, 2022

Ludacris (@Ludacris) is a Grammy-winning rapper, a SAG award-winning actor known for roles in Crash, The Simpsons, and the Fast & Furious franchise, and the philanthropic founder of Kid Nation and The Ludacris Foundation.

What We Discuss with Ludacris:

• Does Ludacris really own a car from every Fast & Furious movie in which he's appeared?
• What was Ludacris' initial rap name?
• Is Ludacris the Where's Waldo of hip-hop history?
• How has Ludacris maintained much of the same support team over the past couple of decades -- all without written contracts?
• The pandemic's silver lining for famous people: it's a lot easier to maintain anonymity in public when you're encouraged to wear a mask everywhere.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/623

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Miss our two-part conversation with the Danish family man who infiltrated the illicit North Korean arms trade? Catch up beginning with episode 527: Ulrich “The Mole” Larsen | Undercover in North Korea Part One here!

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Ishmael Beah (@IshmaelBeah) is a former child soldier, UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador, and the New York Times bestselling author of A Long Way Gone: Memoirs of a Boy Soldier and Radiance of Tomorrow: A Novel. His latest book is Little Family: A Novel.

What We Discuss with Ishmael Beah:

• What the volatility of life in a warzone is really like from the perspective of a child.
• How desperation drives human beings to rationalize committing any number of atrocities to survive.
• Why trusting old neighbors, friends, and even family in the midst of a civil war can arouse suspicion and cost you your life.
• The choice for all too many children in an area embroiled in armed conflict: accept recruitment into one of the factions as a soldier, or be killed before someone else can recruit you.
• How rap music saved Ishmael's life.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/622

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Miss our two-parter with professional pickpocket Bob Arno? Start catching up with episode 530: Bob Arno | Schooled by the Professor of Pickpocketry Part One here!

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A "friend" who once admitted to having a crush on you came over to continue a night of drinking and crash on the couch. You pushed him away when he tried to kiss you because the crush isn't mutual and you have a boyfriend. Then you woke up in the middle of the night to him spooning, touching, and trying to make out with you. You pushed him away again and went back to sleep. Is this a form of sexual assault, or did you cheat by allowing yourself to get drunk and winding up in this situation? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/621

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Were you sexually assaulted by the "friend" who kept trying to make out with you one drunken night, or did you cheat by allowing yourself to get drunk and winding up in this situation?
• You feel like the past two years of the pandemic have dulled your ability to converse smoothly with other human beings, and you worry this is damaging your relationships. What can you do to regain what used to come so naturally?
• Your young, sweet neighbor is a stay-at-home mom of four kids, and married to a teacher. She's also embroiled in an MLM scheme and you want to help her see a way out before her family's modest savings are emptied by shysters. What can you do?
• You've never gotten along with your snarky mother-in-law, and the tension has only increased since you gave birth to your son. On top of this, your husband takes her side in any disputes, and you're mentally exhausted by all of it. What should you do?
• You're an in-house art director for an advertising company, where people are so competitive and credit-hungry that stealing work is not uncommon. You've collaborated with partners who completely dismissed and gaslighted your contributions. How can you nip this behavior in the bud before you're actually driven to kill somebody at your office?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Richard Clarke (@ghsrm) is the former National Coordinator for Security, Infrastructure Protection, and Counter-Terrorism for the United States, and is the co-author of Warnings: Finding Cassandras to Stop Catastrophes. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!]

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/620

What We Discuss with Richard Clarke:

• What is the Cassandra Coefficient?
• Discover how to use the Cassandra Coefficient to filter signal from noise when it comes to warnings.
• Understand how to spot your own cognitive biases and what you can do to diminish their effect on your decisions.
• Learn to persuade people to see things from your perspective and motivate them to take action.
• Find out what someone at the top levels of government does when their personal politics don’t agree with those of the current administration.
• And so much more…

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Miss the conversation we had with Gift of Fear author and security legend Gavin de Becker? Catch up with episode 329: Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear Part One here!

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Danny Gold (@DGisSERIOUS) is a journalist, documentary filmmaker, long-form writer, and co-host (with Sean Williams) of the Underworld podcast, which covers organized crime around the world -- from Balkan warlords to Brooklyn wiseguys.

What We Discuss with Danny Gold:

• How coming from a family of Holocaust survivors inspired Danny to pursue journalism and keep an eye on the world's most unsavory and unreported misdeeds.
• What it's like to get caught red-handed trying to secretly record a violent human trafficker on his own turf.
• How Danny finds ways to relate on a human level to people who may be responsible for committing unfathomable atrocities.
• Why assuming everything is going to go wrong -- and preparing accordingly -- is the best way to survive as a freelance reporter in the field.
• How even the darkest shadows cast by the human experience can bring out the brightest and best facets of humanity.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/619

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Miss our conversation with elite counterterrorism undercover agent Tamer Elnoury? Catch up with episode 572: Tamer Elnoury | Undercover with a Muslim FBI Agent here!

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Your fiancée knows her weed habit triggers your own addictive tendencies, but keeps it in her daily routine anyway. Now she's giving you flak for your recent lapse in sobriety, and this is making you wonder if getting married next month is really the best move for both of you. What should you do? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/618

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Should you proceed with the marriage next month when your fiancée refuses to quit her weed habit even when she knows it triggers your own addictive tendencies?
• Your mother's always fawned over babies, but expresses indifference once they get older. As a result, you feel like you were neglected through most of your childhood and never fully developed. Now, at age 30, you've discovered you were conceived via a sperm donor, and suddenly the dots connect. How should you approach your mother about this?
• Your international long-distance relationship of several years was disrupted by COVID. And even though you've both agreed to date other people, you still hold onto hope that you might someday be able to work things out and resume a life together. Is this at all realistic, or is it just time to move on?
• You don't mind having a reputation for being nice, but it seems to be a green light for some people to habitually take advantage of you. How can you find the right balance between kindness and assertiveness?
• This past year, you've been surrounded with reminders of the impending death of loved ones, and what’s to come once they’re gone. How do you stop planning for the inevitable and start enjoying the time you have with those close to you while you still can?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Daniel Levin is an attorney, political commentator, and author of Nothing but a Circus: Misadventures Among the Powerful and Proof of Life: Twenty Days on the Hunt for a Missing Person in the Middle East.

What We Discuss with Daniel Levin:

• How the Syrian regime kidnaps westerners and blames the opposition, keeping them in captivity -- often for years -- as bargaining chips.
• How Daniel became the go-to person for hunting down a missing person in Syria when no government, embassy, or intelligence agency would help.
• What proof of life means in a kidnapping scenario, and how someone in search of a missing person goes about finding this.
• How people use leverage to get what they want from one another in a place where no one does a favor without wanting something in return.
• The nuances of negotiating with criminals.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/617

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Miss our episode with FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss? Catch up with episode 165: Chris Voss | Negotiate as If Your Life Depended on It here!

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Martin Kove (@MartinKove) is a prolific actor best known for his portrayal of the evil karate sensei, John Kreese, in The Karate Kid trilogy and Netflix's Cobra Kai series. Be on the lookout as he hosts the upcoming Kicking It with the Koves podcast with his kids Jesse and Rachel.

What We Discuss with Martin Kove:

• How Martin nailed his audition for The Karate Kid by channeling his anger at not having ample time to prepare for it.
• Why we need more role models for leadership and personal responsibility in popular culture -- in the western genre, if Martin had his way.
• How Martin finds common ground with the hard-to-love characters he sometimes portrays in order to make them relatable.
• Does playing villains for months on set ever rub off on Martin's real-life behavior (and does this tend to work for or against him)?
• How does Martin look so young and stay in shape as a 74-year-old?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/616

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Miss the show we did with Jonathan Haidt — the social psychologist who studies the American culture wars and is widely considered to be one of the world’s leading experts on the psychology of morality? Catch up with episode 90: Jonathan Haidt | The Danger of Good Intentions and Safe Spaces!

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You'd love to invite your dad to your wedding, but he has a habit of getting drunk at gatherings and making a spectacle of himself. Is there a way to politely request sobriety as a condition of his invitation? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/615

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Your dad loves to hit the sauce and cause a scene whenever there's a gathering, which makes you hesitant to invite him to your wedding. Is there a way to politely request his sobriety for your special day?
• Your job burdens you with cripping depression and dissatisfaction that even the fattest of paychecks can't outweigh, but quitting now would have a dire impact on your career. How can you summon the motivation to power through this soul-sapping, meaningless job for the time being?
• With as little awkwardness as possible, how can you get your coworker to understand that the Ukrainian model Internet "girlfriend" he's never met in person is scamming him to the tune of $1,000 a month?
• Is it wrong to continue a relationship with someone whose romantic past triggers suicidal ideation in you, courtesy of your recently diagnosed borderline personality disorder?
• Your enthusiasm for weed has outlived the reasons you once had for using it as a coping mechanism. How can you quit it in secret before it hurts your career, love life, and relationship with your aggressively judgmental family?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Missed the episode we did with Annie Duke — World Series poker champion and author of Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don’t Have All the Facts? Catch up by listening to episode...

Shawn Achor (@shawnachor) is one of the world’s leading experts on the connection between happiness and success, and is the author of Big Potential, Before Happiness, and The Happiness Advantage: How a Positive Brain Fuels Success in Work and Life.

What We Discuss with Shawn Achor:

• What did Shawn have to teach Pentagon bigwigs about happiness?
• The science behind the contagiousness of happiness.
• The importance of mirror neurons.
• What is the 10-5 Way, and how can it improve your life?
• At what point in her career was Oprah most depressed, and why should you care?
• And much more...

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Miss our conversation with Arthur Brooks about the merits of learning to love your enemies (especially during these divisive times)? Catch up by listening to episode 211: Arthur Brooks | How Loving Your Enemies Can Save America here!

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Ray Dalio (@RayDalio) is the founder of Bridgewater Associates — the largest and best-performing hedge fund in the world — and author of New York Times bestseller Principles: Life and Work. His latest book is The Changing World Order: Why Nations Succeed and Fail.

What We Discuss with Ray Dalio:

• What an investor like Ray Dalio is uniquely poised to observe about the ebb and flow of history and the repeating patterns that make the future somewhat predictable.
• Why transitional (and often painful) cycles -- like recessions, pandemics, and wars -- are necessary to reset and change the rules.
• How studying these cycles as symptomatic of larger problems is the best way to heal and grow from their discomfort.
• What the current state of political polarization in the United States bodes for our collective future.
• How our rivalry with China differs from our Cold War rivalry with the Soviet Union and what Ray sees as our best way of managing it.
• And much more...

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If you missed the last time Ray Dalio was on the show, make sure to catch up with episode 491: Ray Dalio | The Changing World Order here!

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Your mom and stepdad split up when she caught him trying to take pictures of you -- at age 16 -- in the shower. Now he's remarried with new stepchildren and a baby on the way. How can you warn his new family about his predatory proclivities before he ruins their lives too? This and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/612

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• The stepdad who was caught trying to take pictures of you in the shower when you were a teenager now has a new family, new stepchildren, and a new baby on the way. How can you prevent him from preying on them?
• You've discovered hard evidence that your toxic, soon-to-be-ex-business partner is guilty of fraud. The vengeful part of you really wants to report her to the authorities, but you don't want your other partner, who you like and respect, to suffer blowback. What's the right thing to do?
• Your significant other's anxiety has only gotten worse over the years, and their constant need for validation and reassurance is draining. How can you support their quest to become mentally healthier without becoming emotionally exhausted yourself?
• You consider yourself a strong, knowledgeable, take-no-crap woman, but you've been fired from two jobs this year for "not fitting with company culture." So you started your own business, which you love, but you can't overcome the guilt of providing less for your family than you did as someone else's unsatisfied employee. What should you do?
• You really do love your future mother-in-law, but you're not jazzed about her plans to live in your backyard guesthouse permanently when you tie the knot with her son. Is it wrong for you to want boundaries between yourself and your extended family while building a family of your own?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Reid Hoffman (@reidhoffman) is a co-founder of LinkedIn, investor at Greylock Partners, host of the podcast Masters of Scale, and co-author of Masters of Scale: Surprising Truths from the World's Most Successful Entrepreneurs.

What We Discuss with Reid Hoffman:

• What Reid means when he calls himself a "six-person-or-less extrovert."
• Why fostering diversity is important for any company that wants to be relevant tomorrow.
• How to identify the five kinds of "no" and what they can each teach you.
• Why unanimous consent in a pitch meeting is a concerning sign.
• The best and worst ways to pitch ideas to venture capitalists.
• And much more...

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Miss our conversation with comedian, actor, and director Bob Saget? Catch up with episode 372: Bob Saget | How Comedy Continually Changes His Life here.

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Bill Sullivan (@wjsullivan) is a professor of pharmacology and microbiology at the Indiana University School of Medicine in Indianapolis, an award-winning researcher, teacher, science communicator, and author of Pleased to Meet Me: Genes, Germs, and the Curious Forces That Make Us Who We Are.

What We Discuss with Bill Sullivan:

• What we're just now learning in the field of epigenetics -- the study of how your behaviors and environment can cause changes that affect the way your genes work.
• Why twins who are genetically identical look less alike as they age -- or if they've been raised apart from one another.
• How the overabundance of plastics and other endocrine disruptors in our environment are affecting not only our bodies on a molecular level, but the physical and mental development of generations down the line.
• How kids -- even the unborn -- are epigenetically altered by the social and economic status of their parents.
• What we're learning about the role of the teeming millions of microorganisms that live inside of us -- collectively known as the microbiome -- on our overall mental and physical health.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/610

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Miss our interview with Find Your Why, Start with Why, and The Infinite Game author Simon Sinek? Catch up with episode 300: Simon Sinek | How to Play the Infinite Game here!

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The tenant renting your upstairs room has become so paranoid and delusional that you and your spouse no longer feel safe in your own home. On top of this, he has no job, no car, and he's behind on the rent. You don't want to be the heartless landlord who evicts someone so clearly in need of help, but you also don't want to wait until his erratic outbursts become violently directed toward you or your wife. So what's the right thing to do here? We'll try to find answers to this and more on this, our first Feedback Friday of the new year!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/609

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How do you evict the mentally unstable boarder who makes you feel unsafe in your own house without also being heartless? [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us field this one!]
• With a desire to "fix" the problems of others where you find them, you seem to get romantically involved with a lot of emotionally dysfunctional narcissists. What can you do to break this lamentable pattern? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• In conversation, you often find yourself thinking of something to say before the other person has finished talking. And when it is your chance to speak, you're painfully aware that you're speaking too much. How do you strike a better balance of active listening and speaking succinctly?
• In your senior year of high school, you're hopelessly overwhelmed. If you crush one deadline, another one looms nearby to crush your spirit. Your willpower is low, you're neglecting basic self-care, and procrastination is always more appealing than productivity. Do you truly need a break, or are you just being lazy?
• As an underling ascending the corporate ladder, you found certain aspects of company culture a bit cringy and borderline cult-like. Now that you've started your own business, you want to create a company culture that builds rapport and teamwork while avoiding these pitfalls. But how?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Jocko Willink (@jockowillink), commander for the most highly decorated special operations unit of the Iraq War, joins the show to talk about taking responsibility, discipline, intensity, and leadership to the next level as outlined in Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!]

What We Discuss with Jocko Willink:

• When making a decision, worrying about variables that can’t be controlled is a waste of time. A better outcome is likely if we learn to focus that wasted effort on factors that can be controlled.
• Understand why taking ownership of your mistakes, personal issues, and outcomes gets better results than trying to pass the blame to someone else.
• What does discipline = freedom mean?
• How do you stop small weaknesses that sometimes permeate discipline from having a negative impact on significant decisions?
• Is there such a thing as a natural leader?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/608

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Miss our conversation with accidental international poker champion and human motivation expert Maria Konnikova? Catch up with episode 371: Maria Konnikova | Pulling Off the Biggest Bluff here!

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Dwyane Wade (@DwyaneWade) is a retired NBA All-Star, host of The Cube on TBS, and author of Dwyane and A Father First: How My Life Became Bigger Than Basketball.

What We Discuss with Dwyane Wade:

• How to know the difference between giving your kids the opportunity to excel in areas that will enrich their lives versus pushing them into things they don't want to do.
• Lessons Dwyane learned from the basketball court that he now applies to his most important job: parent.
• How Dwyane dealt with imposter syndrome on the cusp of signing to the NBA.
• On the stigma of athletes seeking help for mental health, and why Dwyane encourages them to do it anyway.
• How Dwyane encourages his kids to be the best versions of themselves, strives to see the world from their unique perspectives, and doesn't shy away from consulting professional help when they pose questions he's unable to answer on his own.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/607

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Miss our conversation with rapper, singer-songwriter, and record producer T-Pain? Catch up with episode 551: T-Pain | You Can’t Auto-Tune Your Way to Happiness here!

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David M. Rubenstein is co-founder and co-executive chairman of The Carlyle Group, host of The David Rubenstein Show, and author of How to Lead: Wisdom from the World’s Greatest CEOs, Founders, and Game Changers and The American Experiment: Dialogues on a Dream.

What We Discuss with David Rubenstein:

• Why David was one of the original signers of The Giving Pledge, a promise to give away the majority of his wealth instead of just building a stockpile of money for his heirs.
• The many ways David gives back to the United States for the privilege of growing up here, but why he eschews the idea of running for office.
• Why David finds giving away his money more rewarding than making it.
• The key errors people commonly make when fundraising for their business (and what they should be doing instead).
• How David raised his kids to develop the skills and strong work ethic to succeed without spoiling them.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/606

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Miss our interview with Freeway Rick Ross, the crack empire kingpin gone good? Catch up with episode 121: Freeway Rick Ross | Life in the Crack Lane here!

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Aaron Levant is the founder and CEO of NTWRK, the curated livestream shopping company some have called "QVC for the YouTube Generation."

What We Discuss with Aaron Levant:

• What drew Aaron to graffiti art counterculture in his rebellious youth, and how he pivoted this interest into wildly successful streetwear entrepreneurship.
• What society loses when it underestimates the intelligence and educational capacity of people -- like Aaron -- who struggle with dyslexia, and why we need to support their development rather than shame them toward failure.
• How Aaron fell into the trade show game by making a stand to defy The Man and accidentally starting a viable business.
• How having an archnemesis in his industry to duke it out with feeds Aaron's competitive spirit and motivates his drive to push harder.
• "Ignorance is rich": The chaos theory by which Aaron decides where to put his investment dollars.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/605

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Build for Tomorrow with Jason Feifer is a podcast about the crazy, curious things from history that shaped us, and how we can shape the future. Each episode is deeply researched, fast-paced, funny, and aims to answer big questions about ourselves. Check it out here or wherever you listen to fine podcasts!

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You're concerned that your foot fetish betrays the dedication you have to your significant other and makes you some kind of pervert in waiting. Is there anything you can do to course-correct your way back to decency, or should you just embrace this as an indelible part of yourself that you have the power to control? Or maybe no one should judge you for your foot fetish until they've walked a mile in your shoes? Welcome to Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/604

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Is your foot fetish really a problem as long as the way it makes you feel doesn't intrude on the way anyone else feels?
• Is your roommate just wagging the dog when she insists her pooch got fleas from your apartment instead of the other way around?
• Was there a better way to make it clear you and your significant other want to get married on your own terms than refusing to participate in the garter/bouquet toss at their pushy family's wedding?
• Would it be rude of you and your siblings to request your historically terrible gift-giving mother instead direct her resources to charity?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Miss our interview with Jonna Mendez, the CIA’s former chief of disguise? Catch up with episode 344: Jonna Mendez | The Moscow Rules here!

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Mike Rowe (@mikeroweworks) of Dirty Jobs and The Way I Heard It podcast (and book) fame joins us to talk about the skills gap, The mikeroweWORKS Foundation, authenticity, and life experiences possible outside the comfort zone. Just don't tell him he's following his passion. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!]

What We Discuss with Mike Rowe:

• Did you know Mike Rowe started his show business career in opera — to get women?
• What are Anagnorisis and Peripeteia?
• Discover how Mike broke a pattern of commodity hosting by approaching the profession as a tradesman.
• Bromide busting and the problems with conventional wisdom.
• Why finding and filling a niche may ultimately be better than chasing what you think is your dream job.
• And much more...

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Miss the other show we did with Mike Rowe — the Dirty Jobs host working to close the skills gap in the US? Catch up here with episode 264: Mike Rowe | The Way I Heard It!

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Tom Wright (@tomwrightasia) is an award-winning journalist, co-author of the New York Times bestseller Billion Dollar Whale: The Man Who Fooled Wall Street, Hollywood, and the World, co-founder of journalism studio and production company Project Brazen, and host of the Fat Leonard podcast.

What We Discuss with Tom Wright:

• A deep dive into the shadowy world of corruption, money laundering, and embezzling by the shadiest shysters among the elite.
• How does an investigative journalist uncover misdeeds by the rich and powerful without winding up on someone's hit list?
• How did Jho Low, a charisma-free, second-generation fraudster, siphon billions of dollars from a Malaysian sovereign wealth fund -- with the aid of Goldman Sachs -- right under the nose of global financial industry watchdogs?
• How many ways are there to launder this kind of money without being detected by the authorities?
• Where is Jho Low today?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/602

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Miss the show we did with Shark Tank heavyweight Mark Cuban? Catch up with episode 362: Mark Cuban | Tales from the Shark Side here!

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You've met someone who checks your boxes for marriage material, but there's one problem: medical issues may mean they've only got three years left to live. Should you propose and hope for a miracle? We'll examine this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/601

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• You've met someone who checks your boxes for marriage material, but there's one problem: medical issues that may mean they've only got three years left to live. Should you propose and hope for a miracle?
• Your spouse went on a quest of self-improvement, and now follows a so-called "life coach" who dispenses what certainly seems to be a steady buffet of snake oil with an exorbitant price tag. How can you wake them up to the fact that this is probably a scam?
• You have three years before you're able to retire from teaching -- a job you once loved, but students, parents, the community, and the administration are more entitled and demanding than they were when you first started. Three years seems like forever to endure a job you now hate. What can you do to make it to the finish line intact?
• You've received a sizable inheritance, but you understand how quickly money dissipates when you try to throw it at every problem you want to solve. Are you wise for wanting to use the money to create multiple streams of income so you are able to help people more confidently in the future, or just stingy?
• As a freelance consultant, how can you set boundaries that ensure you're not working for hours more than clients are willing to pay?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Miss our two-parter with former Westboro Baptist Church spokesperson 

Metta World Peace (@MettaWorld37) (aka Metta Sandiford-Artest, aka Ron Artest) is a former NBA All-Star, author of No Malice: My Life in Basketball or: How a Kid from Queensbridge Survived the Streets, the Brawls, and Himself to Become an NBA Champion, and host of the Mettaphorically Speaking podcast.

What We Discuss with Metta World Peace:

• How did Ron Artest become Metta World Peace, what were some of the considered alternatives, and why did he later change his name to Metta Sandiford-Artest?
• Growing up with anger management problems that arguably culminated in the infamous Malice at the Palace Pacers–Pistons brawl, how does Metta positively channel his passion these days?
• Why Metta chose to work a part-time job at Circuit City after practice while pulling in a million dollars a year (albeit before taxes) for the Chicago Bulls.
• Why Metta made a point to thank his shrink when he was playing for the Lakers and they won the 2010 championship.
• How Metta has advocated for mental health awareness by donating a portion of his NBA salary and auctioning off his 2010 championship ring.
• And much more...

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Miss the show we did with Dennis Rodman — one of the greatest rebounders ever to play professional basketball? Catch up here with episode 258: Dennis Rodman | The Worm Is Back!

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Spencer Roberts (@Unpop_Science) is an ecologist, photovoltaic engineer, musician, and writer who specializes in exposing corporate science propaganda and greenwashing.

What We Discuss with Spencer Roberts:

• Is there really such a thing as sustainable seafood in industrial nations?
• Logistically, how "dolphin safe" can a can of tuna be (and how endangered is that tuna)?
• Will the escalating amount of microplastics found in seafood lead to human extinction?
• Is the climate-rescuing promise of "regenerative" ranching a complete racket?
• Is your fish dinner financing slave labor?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/599

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Miss the conversation we had with scambuster Coffeezilla? Catch up with episode 368: Coffeezilla | How to Expose Fake Guru Scams here!

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A medical issue has rendered your therapist colleague mentally (and ethically) incapable of providing care for others, but she hasn't accepted this. How can you support management's efforts to establish reasonable cause for termination without feeling so guilty? This and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/598

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How can you get better at your job when the boss is afraid to constructively criticize your performance just because you're the heir apparent to the family business?
• A medical issue has rendered your therapist colleague mentally (and ethically) incapable of providing care for others, but she hasn't accepted this. How can you support management's efforts to establish reasonable cause for termination without feeling so guilty?
• You're at a lucky point in your life where everything seems to be falling into place, but you can't curb the urge to shop impulsively and worry this could be the domino that brings all good things down. How can you keep your sticky fingers off your credit cards before catastrophe strikes?
• On the job hunt after learning a new skill set, you've noticed that listing pronouns on LinkedIn profiles has become pretty common and you support the idea. But you happen to live in a conservative-leaning state and worry that prospective employers in your area might not be as open-minded if you chose to observe this practice. What's the right move here?
• Nearing 30, you and your long-term significant other own an investment property together and run your own business, but you live with your parents because it's culturally acceptable and it allows you to build capital for the future. However, you've been feeling social pressure to move out and you're wondering if it's finally time. Should you stay or should you go?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Gary Vaynerchuk (@garyvee) is the chairman of VaynerX, the active CEO of VaynerMedia, and the author of several bestselling books, including #AskGaryVee: One Entrepreneur's Take on Leadership, Social Media, and Self-Awareness.

What We Discuss with Gary Vaynerchuk:

• With so many platforms at his disposal, why does Gary continue to write books?
• Where does a workaholic like Gary stand on the concept of work/life balance?
• When do we quit if something isn’t working?
• How do you know if you’re hard-wired to be an entrepreneur?
• How do we balance the hunger required to achieve Plan A while not taking too much comfort in Plan B?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/597

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Miss the show we did with Vince Beiser — author of The World in a Grain: The Story of Sand and How It Transformed Civilization? Make sure to check out episode 97: Vince Beiser | Why Sand Is More Important Than You Think It Is!

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Andrew Gold (@andrewgold_ok) is an award-winning BBC and HBO journalist who interviews the world's most controversial and inspiring figures in his On the Edge with Andrew Gold podcast.

What We Discuss with Andrew Gold:

• What Andrew discovered while making a documentary about someone claiming to be a modern-day exorcist.
• Is professional wrestling "real?"
• What you can buy in an exorcist's gift shop to keep the "demons" at bay.
• The multitude of benefits Andrew enjoys when making documentaries about people who natively speak a language different from his own.
• How Andrew handles the blowback from making documentaries addressing taboo subjects like pedophilia and abortion.
• And much more...

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When your significant other confessed his bisexual tendencies, you began to wonder: can you ever really give him everything he needs to be satisfied in a relationship? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/595

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• When your significant other confessed his bisexual tendencies, you began to wonder: can you ever really give him everything he needs to be satisfied in a relationship?
• Losing all your hair to Alopecia Universalis is ruining your confidence on a personal as well as professional level. What can you do to bring that confidence back?
• Your relationship with someone from a radically different cultural background has become more serious. How do you integrate respectfully and smoothly into the experience with as few hiccups as possible?
• Bad people taking advantage of the perks of your friendship in the past have made it difficult to open up to new, more deserving friends. How can you lower your defenses enough to make new friends without being a sucker to the undeserving?
• You love the feeling of being counted on and wanted by your employer, but you worry that you're a little too accommodating. How can you draw healthy boundaries and avoid being a yes man?
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Miss our conversation with behavioral expert Thomas Erikson? Catch up with episode 465: Thomas Erikson | How to Protect Yourself from Psychopaths here!

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Joshua Fields Millburn (@JFM) is best known as one half of The Minimalists, where he and Ryan Nicodemus write about living a meaningful life with less stuff. Their latest book is Love People, Use Things: Because the Opposite Never Works.

What We Discuss with Joshua Fields Millburn:

• How Joshua found that having more stuff -- including more money -- really isn't the key to success or happiness.
• The average American throws away 81 pounds of clothing every year when 95% of that can be reused or recycled. How can embracing minimalism help solve this problem?
• 'Tis the season -- to ask yourself if you're overdoing it on consumption and indulging in a little too much when just a little might go a long way.
• Why being a minimalist involves more than just waking up one day and getting rid of a bunch of things you don't need -- it's a process of constant evaluation.
• How can you allow yourself to let go of things that have sentimental value?
• And much more...

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Missed our conversation with Daniel Pink in which we discussed the psychology, biology, and economics behind scheduling for optimal effect (including sleep) — and why your ideal time to get something done may widely differ from someone else’s? Catch up with episode 63: Daniel Pink | When Is the Best Time to Get Things Done?

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Steven Pinker (@sapinker) is a psychology professor at Harvard, one of the world's leading authorities on language and the mind, and an author of several bestsellers. His latest is Rationality: What It Is, Why It Seems Scarce, Why It Matters.

What We Discuss with Steven Pinker:

• Why, by most metrics, older generations are mistaken when they proclaim: "Things were better back in my day!"
• Alternatives we might consider if Universal Basic Income can't sustainably solve the problem of housing and feeding a workforce increasingly unemployed by automation.
• Why nostalgia is overrated, and how criticizing the present is very often a way of criticizing your rivals.
• If we're really living, as Steven says, in "the most peaceable era in our species’ existence," how does he explain why we still have wars, famines, uprisings, and genocides?
• What sentiment mapping shows us about the power of the media to manipulate us into seeing the world in a heavily negative light even as it's improving constantly on every measurable level.
• And much more...

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Miss the last time we had Navy SEAL leadership authority and Extreme Ownership co-author Jocko Willink on the show? Make sure to check out episode 93: Jocko Willink | Leading on the Line Between Extreme and Reckless!

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Thinking back on how you've navigated your life, you're concerned that certain human interactions reveal a tendency toward behavior that our former guest, behavioral expert Thomas Erikson, might categorize as psychopathic. Weighing the evidence for and against, you really want an answer to this question: "Am I a psychopath?" We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/592

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Weighing the evidence for and against, you really want an answer to this: "Am I a psychopath?" [Thanks to behavioral expert Thomas Erikson for helping us field this one!]
• Now in your thirties, you gathered the courage to tell your mother about the sexual abuse your stepfather inflicted on you as a teenager. Her response was to take his side and now they've moved out of state, essentially cutting you off entirely. You're rightfully devastated. How can you move on from this? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• Your otherwise model spouse has one or two episodes a year when overdrinking prompts him into hurtful ranting for which he'll apologize the next day and all is forgiven. But what if he mouths off to the wrong person or says something that is truly unforgivable next time (like the upcoming holidays)? Is there anything you can do in the moment to bring him back to his senses?
• As a factory supervisor, you expect to hear certain blue-collar perspectives aired that would be considered unprofessional (or grounds for termination) in other fields, but it's only gotten worse in today's divisive political climate. Sadly, objecting to the employees and HR has gotten you nowhere. Hunting for another job during the pandemic would set you back in several areas of your life, but you feel powerless to improve conditions at your current position. What should you do?
• You're an overwhelmed teenager in a rural community who has found solace in the act of cutting yourself with a razor blade. You know it's dangerous and you told your parents you're over it after they caught you, but you still crave the feeling. How can you actually get over the urge to cut yourself? [Thanks to Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one, too!]
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to...

Jordan digs into what it takes to push past the mental boundaries that keep you from realizing your full potential — with Chase Jarvis (@chasejarvis) of The Chase Jarvis LIVE Show.

What Jordan and Chase Discuss:

• Handling debt after graduation.
• Zooming out on the timeline of your career and understanding why patience is key in the long term.
• Why nothing you do is ever wasted. Even if you’re working as a barista at Starbucks, you are building skills that can be applied in other areas later on.
• Why the phrase “Burn the boats” is misleading and unnecessary.
• How to overcome feeling “unemployable” because you have taken a non-traditional path.
• And much more...

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Andy Norman (@drandyno) directs the Humanism Initiative at Carnegie Mellon University, is the founder of CIRCE, and is the award-winning author of Mental Immunity: Infectious Ideas, Mind-Parasites, and the Search for a Better Way to Think.

What We Discuss with Andy Norman:

• Like our bodies, our minds and cultures have immune systems, and they can break down under certain conditions.
• How the root cause of contemporary divisiveness is a compromise of these mental and cultural immune systems.
• What it takes for certain ideologies to weaken our mental and cultural immune systems.
• Why, if you want to effectively persuade others, you must also show your willingness to be persuadable.
• How you can inoculate your mind (and help others protect themselves) against divisive ideologies to build the mental rigidity to withstand their influence.
• And much more...

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You dared to set a boundary with your parents: you would only communicate with them if they were respectful to you and your family. This means zero tolerance for name-calling, swearing, threatening, or yelling at you or your husband whenever there's a disagreement. Now they've leveled false accusations against your husband for being abusive, going as far as involving the CEO of your company and the police department! Of course you've cut them off completely since then, but you're wondering: will this be enough to protect your family against them? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

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On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Cutting off your parents for their never-ending disrespect to you and your husband is the only way you can think of to protect your family against their paranoid delusions and abuse. But is it enough?
• After being married for 10 years, you and your partner have come to an amicable agreement that you can no longer meet each other's emotional and romantic needs. You want to hold off on your divorce until an adoption in the works has been finalized, but until then, how do you break the news of this complicated situation to any date that could potentially become a significant other?
• What's a good, useful second language for an English-speaking kid to start picking up now?
• You had a challenging adolescence, and lost your youth to anxiety and depression. How can you make up for this lost time as you approach your thirties?
• As a recently graduated engineer who started working at the company where you interned, you've inherited a seemingly cursed project that's been foisted upon numerous employees before you. What can you do to instill confidence in your teammates that you're the one who will finally lead this thing to the finish line?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Sammy "The Bull" Gravano (@gravanothebull) is the host of the Our Thing podcast, former second-in-command of the Gambino organized-crime family who played a major role in prosecuting "Teflon Don" John Gotti, and subject of Peter Maas' Underboss: Sammy "The Bull" Gravano's Story of Life in the Mafia. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!]

What We Discuss with Sammy "The Bull" Gravano:

• How does someone growing up in a relatively "normal" family get involved in a life of crime?
• What compels someone entrenched in the comforts of the gangster lifestyle to reject it?
• How has the code by which the mafia lives changed over time?
• What kinds of people do you meet when you spend half a decade behind bars?
• How true does on-screen gangster life ring to reality?
• And much more...

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Sammy "The Bull" Gravano (@gravanothebull) is the host of the Our Thing podcast, former second-in-command of the Gambino organized-crime family who played a major role in prosecuting "Teflon Don" John Gotti, and subject of Peter Maas' Underboss: Sammy "The Bull" Gravano's Story of Life in the Mafia. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Be on the lookout for the conclusion later this week!]

What We Discuss with Sammy "The Bull" Gravano:

• How does someone growing up in a relatively "normal" family get involved in a life of crime?
• What compels someone entrenched in the comforts of the gangster lifestyle to reject it?
• How has the code by which the mafia lives changed over time?
• What kinds of people do you meet when you spend half a decade behind bars?
• How true does on-screen gangster life ring to reality?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/587

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Your grandpa is allowed to cope with the grief of recently losing your grandma in any way he sees fit, but you're concerned that the young woman he's about to marry is part of a larger plot to grift him out of his life savings. What can you do to protect him? This and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/586

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How can you guard your grandpa against what seems to be a classic young woman marrying an older man for his life savings grift? [Once again, thanks to Corbin Payne (aka C-Payne) for helping us with this one!]
• You've caught wind that your father is preparing to file for a divorce from your mother, but you're not sure if she even knows yet. What's the best way to be supportive of her if this comes to pass?
• You've only been working for your "real" employer for a month, but your side hustle is far more profitable, enjoyable, and fulfilling. So how do you jettison the day job so soon after accepting it without feeling like a jerk?
• You've been out of the dating scene for a while and the whole thing can tug at your insecurities, but how do you avoid sabotaging a new relationship with your tendency to be too clingy?
• Since you were bullied early on, you've never really been the "school" type, but you know getting a higher education gives your future path a wider set of options. How can you summon the motivation to go back to school?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Timothy Snyder (@TimothyDSnyder) is the Housum Professor of History at Yale University and author of Black Earth: The Holocaust as History and Warning and On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century.

What We Discuss with Timothy Snyder:

• Democracy has to be an ongoing activity — not a waiting game for the next election cycle.
• How fragile a democratic republic can be against the concentrated efforts of would-be tyrants — and that the United States is not immune to their strategies.
• The small actions we can take every day to ensure we’re doing our part to maintain an open and free society.
• How to consume information critically in a “post-fact” world.
• Recognize the scary parallels between historic catastrophes and current events.
• And much more...

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Anderson Cooper (@andersoncooper) is a broadcast journalist, political commentator, 18-time Emmy Award winner, and author of Vanderbilt: The Rise and Fall of an American Dynasty.

What We Discuss with Anderson Cooper:

• How Anderson got his start in broadcast journalism without relying on his famous, wealthy family connections.
• Why experiencing the loss of a parent early in life drew Anderson toward learning how to survive in extreme circumstances and report in places torn by conflict.
• What growing up scrutinized by media in the wake of family tragedy taught Anderson about being an empathetic journalist from the other side of the lens.
• How Anderson harnesses his self-described innate awkwardness for establishing rapport with people who have already been interviewed from every angle (like Eminem).
• What a real journalist is prepared to do during a breaking news segment when the teleprompter goes dark.
• And much more...

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Happily married for 20-something years, you've started to fixate on what it might be like to be married to someone you've been mentoring, instead. And even though you know this mentor-mentee fantasy could only end in misery, you're having a hard time putting it to rest. What can you do? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/583

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Happily married for 20-something years, you've started to fixate on what it might be like to be married to someone you've been mentoring, instead. And even though you know this mentor-mentee fantasy could only end in misery, you're having a hard time putting it to rest. What can you do?
• Your 18-year-old stepson is ambitious, with a well-paying job he's been using to save for university. But now his deadbeat mom is hitting him up for cash, which you know he'll never see again. How can you gently encourage him to stand up to her before he's as broke as she is?
• You recently discovered that a toxic higher-up in your company is returning to the office after leaving for some time. How can you set boundaries and signal that you won't tolerate his toxic behavior this time around?
• You and your ex-wife divorced when your son was only 11, and you've each moved on to more positive relationships while remaining amicable in the aftermath. But now that your son is 19, you wonder if he's owed a fuller explanation of the circumstances around the breakup lest he carries some of the burden himself?
• Your dad can't seem to enjoy retirement because he's the kind of person who fills every moment of his days with charities, soup kitchens, chores, video chats, bible study, visits to friends, and more. He's tried counseling, medicine, meditation, yoga, breathing exercises, and books, but with no luck. How do you teach him to be retired and just relax?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Robert Greene (@RobertGreene) is the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers on power and strategy. His latest book is The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations on Power, Seduction, Mastery, Strategy, and Human Nature. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!]

What We Discuss with Robert Greene:

• The benefits of cultivating profound dissatisfaction with your own work while it's still in the process of being created.
• Why the attitude you have of the world has a feedback effect on the way the world sees you (and how you can change that attitude if it doesn't serve you).
• The emotional self thrives on ignorance: how focusing on the rational instead of succumbing to your feelings deprives those who prey on your emotions of their power.
• How you can balance the need to be rational, cautious, and skeptical with the benefits of being curious and open-minded to new ideas.
• What you can do to train yourself to see past the front that people put on and discover the signs of their true character.
• And much more...

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Robert Greene (@RobertGreene) is the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers on power and strategy. His latest book is The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations on Power, Seduction, Mastery, Strategy, and Human Nature. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!]

What We Discuss with Robert Greene:

• The one simple reason why Robert Greene's work resonates among the hip-hop community's most accomplished artists.
• How seeing the world through a lens of radical realism allows you to be prepared for the worst life can throw your way.
• What we can do to uncover a career path that aligns with what has brought us joy in the past (hopefully before working 80 jobs we hate like Robert did prior to writing his first bestseller).
• Why we shouldn't fret if we haven't found our calling early in life -- the experiences we've had and lessons we've learned along the way combine to give us a unique edge when we finally do find it.
• Always stick to what makes you strange and weird. What made you a "weird" kid makes you an interesting adult.
• And much more...

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Grieving the loss of a sibling while still finding your footing at a new job is making it impossible to perform optimally, and you're worried your employer -- while overwhelmingly supportive of your plight -- may be forced to let you go. Is there anything you can do to manage your grief and find a way forward before it comes to this? We'll try to help with this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/580

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• What can you do to manage the grief of losing your sibling and find a way forward before you're fired from your new job for subpar performance?
• Your nephew made an escalating series of bad choices, and now he's serving hard time for the next few years. A recent letter indicates he's adjusted his attitude and wants to turn his life around. How can you be supportive while he waits to be released?
• You work with a fellow salesperson who takes the spirit of friendly competition into the realm of petty high school rumormongering and character assassination. What can you do to keep your sanity while the boss gaslights the notion that this is even happening?
• You overcame poverty and work in finance, so your boyfriend's nonchalance over $20,000 in credit card debt and fuzzy details about future income give you pause about your future together. But can his good qualities cast aside the red flags you're seeing?
• Someone who once referred to you as one of his best friends has taken to completely blowing you off now that his girlfriend's moved to town. You've tried to connect a few times in the past few months only to be completely ghosted. This guy might not be the friend you thought he was, but it still puts a dent in your psyche. What can you do?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Yeonmi Park (@YeonmiParkNK) is a North Korean defector and activist whose harrowing experiences are chronicled in her book In Order to Live: A North Korean Girl's Journey to Freedom. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!]

What We Discuss with Yeonmi Park:

• Why there's a black market for poop in North Korea.
• How the people of North Korea are kept isolated from the outside world to the extent that they use a different calendar, have never heard of Shakespeare, and don't even have words for "oppression" or "love."
• How North Korea's guilt-by-association policy can carry punishment for people who are within several generations of someone perceived as offensive to the regime.
• Why Yeonmi finds being on the North Korean regime's official kill list to be "liberating."
• How long it might take to watch Titanic in a country that only turns on the electricity for State holidays (and the ultimate penalty for getting caught doing so).
• And much more...

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Yeonmi Park (@YeonmiParkNK) is a North Korean defector and activist whose harrowing experiences are chronicled in her book In Order to Live: A North Korean Girl's Journey to Freedom. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Please stay tuned for the conclusion later this week!]

What We Discuss with Yeonmi Park:

• Why there's a black market for poop in North Korea.
• How the people of North Korea are kept isolated from the outside world to the extent that they use a different calendar, have never heard of Shakespeare, and don't even have words for "oppression" or "love."
• How North Korea's guilt-by-association policy can carry punishment for people who are within several generations of someone perceived as offensive to the regime.
• Why Yeonmi finds being on the North Korean regime's official kill list to be "liberating."
• How long it might take to watch Titanic in a country that only turns on the electricity for State holidays (and the ultimate penalty for getting caught doing so).
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/578

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Your narcissistic sister with special needs thinks nothing of "borrowing" thousands of dollars from you to invest in every sure-to-lose scam that comes her way, and now she wants to "borrow" more to check herself into an assisted care facility (which would make your life easier if you knew that's where the money was actually going). What should you do? This and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/577

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Your narcissistic sister with special needs thinks nothing of "borrowing" thousands of dollars from you to invest in every scam that comes her way, and now she wants to "borrow" more to check herself into an assisted care facility. What should you do? [Thanks to cult and scam expert Dr. Steven Hassan for his help with this one!]
• You moved back home to accept what turned out to be a crummy job. The good news: your old, better-paying job in a city you actually like wants you back. The bad news: your girlfriend might not be able to make the move with you for a year and a half. Should you stay or should you go?
• Your brother and his wife are lazy, negligent parents to your nieces, aged four and six, allowing them free range of the neighborhood until 11 p.m. You fear for the children's safety, but you're not sure how to bring up solutions without starting a huge hullabaloo.
• You strive for excellence in all you do, but you want to do a lot. A wide range of hobbies keep you mentally stimulated, but you don't feel like you're able to focus on any one thing in order to excel. Is now the time to switch gears and leave some of your interests by the wayside to really shine at your career?
• Your little brother gets bad anxiety and overreacts to everything. You know that therapy could really improve his quality of life, but your mother is involved in politics and worries about what effect this would have on her image. How can you convince your parents to get your little brother therapy without it sounding like they're failing as parents? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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General Michael Hayden (@GenMhayden) is a retired United States Air Force general, former Director of the NSA and CIA, and author of Playing to the Edge: American Intelligence in the Age of Terror. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!]

What We Discuss with General Michael Hayden:

• How does an intelligence agent view cognition, cognitive bias, and psychology differently from a policymaker?
• What is The Unpleasant Fact an intelligence agent brings to the briefing table?
• General Hayden gives us a rare glimpse of working for two very different presidents and conveys the importance of adapting to their particular learning styles.
• Find out what it’s like to present new intelligence to an administration that forces it to change policy. (Awkward!)
• Get General Hayden’s take on the Orlando shootings and the difficulty of balancing security with liberty.
• And much more…

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Benjamin Hardy (@BenjaminPHardy) is an organizational psychologist and author of books about willpower, self-limiting beliefs, and teamwork. His latest offering (co-authored with Dan Sullivan), is The Gap and the Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success.

What We Discuss with Benjamin Hardy:

• If you measure your current self against your ideal (often chosen and defined by other people rather than yourself), you’ll never be happy because there will always be a gap. Unsuccessful people primarily focus on this (but we all wind up here sometimes).
• If you measure your current self against your previous self — and notice the gain you've made between yesterday and today — you’ll experience happiness, satisfaction, and confidence. The most successful people understand this.
• The difference between ideals (general, immeasurable, and constantly changing) and goals (specific, measurable, and time-bound) -- and why your ideals shouldn't be your benchmark for achievement, but merely the source from which your goals are inspired.
• How you can weed out the arbitrary reference points with which you've been burdened by external sources and choose ones that are actually meaningful -- not just constant reminders of what you don't have.
• How the increased confidence that comes from living in the gain allows you to set bigger and more imaginative goals to truly tailor the fabric of your own life.
• And much more...

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You've been secretly chatting with an old flame whose torch you still carry, and you even met in person to discover that these feelings are mutual. But there's a big hitch: while you're now single again, she's in what seems to be an otherwise happy marriage and is mother to three. Now you feel frustrated, jealous, and even heartbroken because you can't be with her. Or can you? We'll try to help you find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/574

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Rekindling with an old flame whose feelings are said to be mutual should fill you with joy, but her current marriage to another man and motherhood to his children is a bit of a downer. Can there be merit in pursuing something...extramarital?
• You share custody of two children with a narcissistic ex -- one is hers by a father who was out of the picture by the time you came along, and the other was adopted. The problem: she shamelessly plays favorites and clearly favors her biological kid. Are you hurting your adopted child by allowing her to go to your toxic ex's every other week?
• You're blind and working toward certification in a well-paying field, but it involves visual math concepts and a lot of the instructional material is inaccessible. On the other hand, your interest in languages makes a career as an interpreter appealing -- and it's much easier to accomplish. Should you finish the certification you've spent so much time and money pursuing, or just cut your losses and take the lower-paying but potentially more satisfying path?
• You have well-off parents who let you live rent-free in a house they own while you finish school, but you think your roommate may be taking advantage of the situation by mooching free food without asking and even offering it to guests. What can you do to set better boundaries without creating an awkward living environment?
• Working the night shift doing repetitive work wasn't really what you signed on for, so you've been looking for a new job. Now you've been informed you're on deck for training in a more challenging task that's more up your alley, but you're not sure you can work three more months of overnights before this is slated to happen. What are your best options here?
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David Buss (@profdavidbuss) is considered the world’s leading scientific expert on the evolutionary psychology of human mating strategies. He is the author of several books on the subject, most recently When Men Behave Badly: The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault.

What We Discuss with David Buss:

• Why, from an evolutionary standpoint, the reproductive interests of males and females sometimes diverge.
• Why metabolizing alcohol differently makes women more susceptible to an expectation of bonding (and how some men exploit this).
• The Dark Triad traits that mark the men most likely to have short-term relationships and cheat.
• How do women use active signaling to show they're more open to short-term relationships?
• She's not playing hard to get. If she rejects you softly, it isn't an invitation to try harder -- it's a survival tactic meant to avoid prompting a violent reaction.
• And much more...

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Tamer Elnoury is an Arabic-speaking Muslim American, a longtime elite counterterrorism undercover agent, and co-author of American Radical: Inside the World of an Undercover Muslim FBI Agent.

What We Discuss with Tamer Elnoury:

• What unique psychological skills (and desire for thrills) drew Tamer to the exciting and dangerous life of undercover law enforcement work?
• Why, when working undercover, you're only as good as your informant.
• How an agent is trained to work undercover (and why the FBI undercover school only has a 50 percent graduation rate).
• How an undercover agent blends in with criminals without breaking the laws they've been recruited to enforce.
• What an undercover agent does to hook a mark into noticing and eventually confiding in them.
• And much more...

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As an exemplary member of the clergy for 29 years, you'd think honesty to your superiors would be rewarded unconditionally. Alas, when you disclosed a need to seek counseling during a rough patch between you and your spouse (which resulted in a stronger relationship), you were unceremoniously booted from your position. Now you can't find work at another church because you've been unfairly branded a pariah among those of your faith, and you can't find a job among the secular because your clerical past seems to be a turn-off to potential employers. What can you do? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/571

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Honesty got you kicked out of the clergy, and the seculars seem turned off by your pastor past. Who will hire you now? [Thanks to Pastor Brad Mortensen for helping us with this one!]
• Thanks to an accidental pocket dial after calling your parents to ask for a loan, you overheard exactly what your mother thinks of you -- and it wasn't favorable. Yet she's never hesitated to call you when she needs help. Is it unreasonable to cut toxic family members out of your life?
• You're a fully booked hairstylist at your sister-in-law's salon, and feel it's time to branch out on your own after 20 years. But you'd be bringing along another fully booked stylist, which would ultimately hurt your sister-in-law's business. Is there a way to follow opportunity without leaving family in the lurch?
• You love your job, but you find the constant interruptions that come with it challenging your ability to stay on task. What can you do to stay focused?
• You run a junior developer meetup; most people come through, build technical and interpersonal confidence, and leave when they get jobs, but there are some people who have been coming back week after week for years. These folks are generally technically proficient, but lack in the social skills department. How can you proactively add social skills training without coming across as some kind of jerk?
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Marc Fennell (@MarcFennell) is an award-winning journalist, interviewer, author, and documentary maker. He is also the writer and narrator of Audible Original Nut Jobs: Cracking California's Strangest $10 Million Dollar Heist.

What We Discuss with Marc Fennell:

• Who stole $10 million in nuts (specifically almonds and pistachios) from California's Central Valley farmers -- and why?
• Why are nuts (and prepackaged food in general) such ideal targets for theft, and how do current security protocols make it so temptingly easy for thieves with the means to haul them away?
• What makes nuts grown in California's Central Valley valuable enough for organized criminals to take notice, and where do they go?
• Who wins and who loses when hot nuts change hands?
• What will it take to stop these heists from continuing?
• And much more...

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Rick Ross (@RickRoss) is a multi-platinum-selling, multi-Grammy-nominated rapper, artist, songwriter, investor, and author of The Perfect Day to Boss Up: A Hustler's Guide to Building Your Empire.

What We Discuss with Rick Ross:

• Why Rick, in spite of growing up middle class with a computer programmer father, got involved with dealing drugs in his early teens.
• Where Rick's "no complaints" policy originated and how it keeps him focused on what's important.
• How embracing the difficulty of the process that allows Rick to acquire, enjoy, and manage his success builds resilience.
• The dangers of hustling backwards.
• How taking Rick's calendar audit exercise can help you keep your schedule lean for the things that matter and trim away the things that don't.
• And much more...

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You're a bit embarrassed to say you went through a debaucherous sugar daddy phase, but your sweet tooth for the lifestyle turned sour and left you feeling empty. Now you're in a more confident headspace to pursue regular dating, but should you disclose this part of your life to a hypothetical significant other should things turn serious? We'll try to find a good answer (devoid of any candy coating) to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/568

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• After going through a sugar daddy phase, you're ready for regular dating. But should you disclose your past if a relationship gets serious?
• Jordan. Jen. Jayden. Is the Harbinger family alliteration premeditated, or purely happenstance?
• You were recently offered the position of Assistant Grand Master in your Masonic District -- a huge honor -- but what they don't know is you may have to move for a job offer you're pursuing. How do you break the news without offending your fellow Stonecutters?
• Showers: is it best to take them in the morning or at night?
• Your profession makes you highly visible in your cozy, rural community, so you're finding it hard to date online without stumbling across the profile of someone who would definitely recognize you. What are your options for keeping romance on the DL without driving 250 miles outside of town? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• As a novice, what's the best way to start building your podcast?
• What happens to the Feedback Friday questions that don’t make it on the show?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
• Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Kai-Fu Lee (@kaifulee) is an AI expert, CEO of Sinovation Ventures, former President of Google China, and co-author (with Chen Qiufan) of AI 2041: Ten Visions for Our Future.

What We Discuss with Kai-Fu Lee:

• How AI will magnify the effects of the energy revolution, materials revolution, and life science revolution currently under way.
• How can we keep the data that trains AI to operate free from human and cultural biases and other inaccuracies?
• The four waves of AI and where we are on the path to truly autonomous AI that frees humans to do more worthwhile work.
• How human beings can avoid displacement when all the repetitive, soul-crushing tasks are being done by robots, and what society must do to keep this from widening the gap in economic inequality.
• How AI might be used to optimize the educational experience and make it engaging for every child by tailoring it to their individual interests.
• And much more...

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Brian Chesky (@bchesky) is co-founder and CEO of the peer-to-peer lodging service Airbnb, named as one of Time magazine's 100 Most Influential People of 2015.

What We Discuss with Brian Chesky:

• How Airbnb not only survived the pandemic after losing 80 percent of its business during the first eight weeks, but is now thriving like never before.
• Why a company that still conducts itself like a startup is better poised to withstand and grow from business crises than the behemoths who have everything to lose.
• What was going through Brian's head when he got the news on live television that Airbnb shares were trading at twice their IPO price.
• How does a company leader become successful without losing their mind along the way?
• What Brian sees for the future of travel, and how it's changed as a direct result of the pandemic.
• And much more...

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You have a manipulative half-sister who disrespects your father by referring to him as "bio-dad" and ghosts him when it suits her, but never hesitates to contact him when she needs money. Your attempts to salvage a relationship with her always go unanswered, yet your father believes she should still be invited to your wedding next year. Should you cut her out of your life for good, or try to make nice with her again for your dad's sake? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/565

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Should you delay career training or investing in yourself because it will take "too long?"
• Should you cut the half-sister who manipulates your family out of your life, or should you keep trying to build a relationship with her for your father's sake?
• To an outside observer, you appear to have a perfect life. But here's the secret you haven't told anyone: you're a high-functioning alcoholic. How do you even start dealing with this?
• Marrying a successful businessperson will allow you to retire from a job you don't really want and pursue your own interests. But you've spent your whole life working multiple jobs to get by and you're frozen by the overwhelming possibilities ahead of you. How can you be sure you're spending all of this "free" time wisely and with purpose?
• You're invited to be in a groomsman party with a contractor who stiffed you on a job. How can you conceal or eliminate your resentment so everyone can have a good time, and how do you deal with this person at the bachelor party and wedding?
• You learn best by being hands-on and watching others, but your new job is 100 percent remote until the pandemic is better contained. How can you learn, improve, and stay focused in this role when you're working from home?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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A.J. Jacobs (@ajjacobs) is a New York Times best-selling author who went on a quest to help build the biggest family tree in history, as detailed in his latest book It’s All Relative: Adventures Up and Down the World’s Family Tree.

What We Discuss with A.J. Jacobs:

• What did A.J. Jacobs learn by following every rule of the Bible literally for one year?
• How much do you really know about your heritage?
• See how relating to one another on a family tree of millions is a step toward overcoming the ills of modern tribalism and race relations.
• Why acknowledging the bad as well as the good revealed by digging into family history is important.
• The disciplined daydreaming of A.J.’s brainstorming sessions and how we can cultivate our own big-picture thinking.
• And much more...

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Bobby Hall (aka Logic) (@Logic301) is a Grammy-nominated, platinum-selling recording artist, actor, streamer, film producer, and author of NYT best-seller Supermarket and his latest, This Bright Future: A Memoir.

What We Discuss with Bobby Hall (aka Logic):

• Why Logic's good memories of childhood make him sad.
• The challenges of living with cervical dystonia.
• Why Logic was suicidal when his song 1-800-273-8255 became a big hit (and what stopped him from going through with it).
• How Logic got his career started like so many of us: in a '90s rap battle chat room.
• Why Logic found the story about Helen Keller's education to be particularly inspiring.
• And much more...

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Your family helped a 62-year-old convict who was "wrongfully convicted" of the statutory rape of his stepdaughter get back on his feet -- until he went off and eloped with your 23-year-old sister. Now that conviction seems like it might not have been so wrongful after all, and you're wondering how you can protect your sister if he's just been on the hunt for another victim. We'll try to help find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/562

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Why did our advice to the job negotiator in episode 553 seem counter to our usual stance on negotiation?
• How can you make sure your 23-year-old sister is safe now that she's eloped with a 62-year-old ex-con?
• You're vaccinated and set to be the maid of honor at a wedding, but you're uneasy because the groom's family doesn't even believe in COVID -- and will be taking zero precautions to protect themselves and others (in spite of the recent surge in delta variant deaths). How do you express your concerns to the bride-to-be without losing your lifelong friend?
• You're a busy stay-at-home mom and newly full-time student trying to stay focused, but your husband has gotten in the habit of calling you from work -- sometimes for an hour at a time. Is there a nice way to convey that when he's working, you're working, too, and he should reserve these calls for emergencies?
• Your teen daughter suffered a brain injury that has left her with daily headaches, nausea, dizziness, and head fog. Now she's under pressure to apply to colleges, but she's angry and behaving like a victim instead of doing the necessary work to regain her cognitive performance. How can you help her make progress instead of enabling her inaction?
• You're eager to start your own business as a wedding coordinator after hiring one for your own wedding and realizing your company vastly underpays you. Is there a protocol for asking this person for advice even though they would technically be your competition?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Charles Duhigg (@cduhigg) is a Pulitzer prize-winning reporter at The New York Times and author of Smarter Faster Better: The Secrets of Being Productive in Life and Business and The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!]

What We Discuss with Charles Duhigg:

• What’s the difference between what we think and how we think?
• Learn more about the science of motivation and what makes us tick.
• Compare the internal vs. external locus of control.
• What is cognitive tunneling and when does it affect us? Discover how we can use mental models to avoid it.
• Find out how to increase creativity even when we hit a block.
• And much more...

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Dan Carlin (@hardcorehistory) is the host of the wildly popular Hardcore History and Common Sense podcasts, and author of The End Is Always Near: Apocalyptic Moments, from the Bronze Age Collapse to Nuclear Near Misses.

What We Discuss with Dan Carlin:

• Do tough times make for tougher people? How do we define what "tough" means?
• Will war ever become obsolete, or will we always need to be prepared to engage in military force on some level?
• Why do the people who are best qualified to lead rarely get elected, and how does this hurt us all (even if "our" candidate wins)?
• How denying the cultivation of skills, talent, and opportunity to the poorest members of the population underserves society as a whole.
• Is a de-escalation of our current political polarization possible, or have we passed the point of no return?
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/560

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How do you find your way back to high achievement when coping with the aftermath of extreme trauma keeps you low? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/559

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• How do you find your way back to the hallowed halls of high achievement when the trauma you're trying to work through is doing its best to keep you low? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• How do you break off a friendship with someone who's way more into it than you are without hurting their feelings? [Many thanks to From Start-Up to Grown-Up author Alisa Cohn for helping us answer this!]
• How can you get your lyin' and cheatin' ex-spouse to change their no-good behavior for the sake of your angelic offspring?
• You recently finished the novel you've been working on for five years and discovered along the way that writing it was a process you enjoyed far more than your day job. Should you dive in and become a full-time, professional writer, or just keep at it as an inspiring hobby?
• Your mom has been diagnosed as seriously mentally ill (SMI) and in treatment for half your life. Her psychiatrist of the past 17 years doesn't seem to be doing much to help -- in fact, her behavior's only gotten worse. As her medical power of attorney, you're considering a court order for a new mental health evaluation, but she lives in another state and you don't know where to begin. What can you do? [Once again, thanks to Corbin Payne (aka C-Payne) for helping us with this one!]
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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• Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi.

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Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!]

What We Discuss with Jack Schafer:

• How undercover cops get made just by the way they look at people.
• The spotlight effect: why we all overestimate how much other people notice about us, and how we can use this to our advantage when trying to spot a lie (or not get caught in a lie ourselves).
• What Jack has to gain by making minor mistakes deliberately when he's teaching a class.
• What people are really telling us when they're angry, and how we can stealthily defuse them before they go off.
• If you make people feel good about themselves, they will seek to be around you to get those feelings again.
• And much more...

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Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Keep an eye out for part two later this week!]

What We Discuss with Jack Schafer:

• Why happy people make terrible spy recruits.
• How the Friendship Formula (Friendship = Proximity + Frequency + Duration + Intensity) can be used to build rapport in every human interaction.
• How to "name it and claim it" when manipulative techniques are being used against you to withstand and resist their effects.
• How to recognize friend and foe signals in others and make sure you're not inadvertently broadcasting the signals that mark you as an easy target for manipulation.
• What's really going on when someone grabs food from your plate without asking, or takes their sweet time getting out of the parking spot you're clearly waiting for.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/557

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You live in an extended family situation and the only contribution one member makes to the collective is drinking, smoking pot, eating your food, stealing your old phones to pawn, and making messes they can't be bothered to clean up. Since they're not liable to move away from free room and board of their own volition, is there anything you can do to expunge the family sponge and restore sanity to the homestead? We'll try to find a solution to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/556

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• When one member of your extended family is allowed to live in the house rent-free while eating your food, making messes, and contributing nothing, what can you do to expunge this family sponge?
• After numerous disappointments trying to conceive a baby through natural and scientifically enhanced means, you can't help but wonder if you're just ignoring something the universe is trying to tell you.
• Your in-laws' free-range cats have fleas, and now, after a recent visit, your home is infested with them. How can you fix this problem without making it seem like an attack on your wife's family?
• Your brother has been working with/hanging out with d-bag bros for so long that he's become one. You know deep down he's a great, thoughtful, and grounded person, but you're worried you may never see this side of him again. How can you nudge him away from this wretched d-baggery?
• You've been working hard at your high-paying, high-stress job through vacations and holidays for years that you think you may be burning out. In your 30s with unfulfilled career ambitions, would it be imprudent to take a gap year off to go traveling -- an almost guaranteed remedy for the depression you've been feeling?
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Jessica Tracy (@ProfJessTracy) is a professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, where she also directs the Emotion & Self Lab. She is the author of Take Pride: Why the Deadliest Sin Holds the Secret to Human Success. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!] 

What We Discuss with Jessica Tracy:

• Pride is a universal human emotion and a force that can be harnessed to help humans succeed — it’s a key ingredient to confidence.
• Understand the difference between hubristic and authentic pride — why you should seek out one but try to minimize the other.
• Learn how pride intersects with grit.
• Identify pride to gain an advantage in shifting your own behavior and knowing how to react to others.
• Discover how the statuses of dominance and prestige are affected by pride.
• And much more...

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Laurie Santos (@lauriesantos) is a professor of psychology at Yale University, instructor of Coursera's The Science of Well-Being course (adapted from her popular Psychology and the Good Life course at Yale), and host of The Happiness Lab podcast.

What We Discuss with Laurie Santos:

• Happiness is actually a set of skills we can learn and master as opposed to some ideal state of being.
• While there's no denying that genetics and circumstances play a role in happiness, the good news is that we're in control of developing the mindset and behavior to mobilize it.
• The mechanisms by which people become happy (or miserable), and some tools we can use to to hack our own happiness.
• The bad news: we outgrow the rush of the happiest days of our lives; the good news: we outgrow the anguish from the worst days of our lives.
• Why Olympic bronze medalists are often happier than silver medalists.
• And much more...

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Your best friend speaks glowingly about her fiancé, but she lives far away and your recent communications have only taken place by text and telephone. The thing is, this fiancé seems to be ever-present and listening in the background whenever she's in contact, and she let it slip that he's fantasized about seeing her lick from a dog's dish. You're worried he might be controlling every aspect of her life, but she doesn't seem to be distressed. Could what you perceive to be tyrannical oversight just be part of a consensual power dynamic they've established in their relationship? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/553

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Why are height and salary correlated? [Thanks to Scott Galloway for this one!]
• Is your best friend really being controlled by a domineering fiancé, or is this just a consensually kinky aspect of their relationship?
• Your ex-husband swapped out libido-killing medication (that treated his anxiety and depression, but contributed to your divorce) for cannabis and junk food. This seems to leave him with a loss of appetite, but how can you find reliable information to confirm what's really going on and help him out of his funk?
• Should you file an ethics complaint against your neighbor who's trying to sabotage your home sale -- after refusing your initial, generous offer to sell to them first?  [Once again, thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
• How do you know when it's time to stop negotiating and accept the terms of a job offer without feeling like you've left some unknown variable on the table?
• You now make even more money in 10 hours or less per week than you did in 70 hours working for someone else. But how can you dispel the anxiety and guilt you feel because your supportive partner is still grinding out 60-hour workweeks?
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Will Storr (@wstorr) is an award-winning investigative journalist and best-selling author. His latest book is The Status Game: On Social Position and How We Use It.

What We Discuss with Will Storr:

• The evolutionary purpose of status and why it's always been important for human survival.
• How seeking status spurs innovation.
• The three kinds of status games we've been playing throughout human history: dominance, virtue, and success.
• The connection between low status and depression: why Will believes that Jeffrey Epstein did kill himself.
• Why you might choose a higher status title at work instead of a pay raise.
• And much more...

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T-Pain (@TPAIN) is a rapper, singer-songwriter, record producer known for popularizing auto-tune in modern music, and host of the Nappy Boy Radio podcast.

What We Discuss with T-Pain:

• Why T-Pain will wear a Fitbit over a Rolex, and why there's no shame in wearing fake jewelry in public.
• T-Pain's tattoo goals and the meaning behind the ones he already has.
• What T-Pain learned after avoiding time with his own family pursuing the ambition to be #1.
• How T-Pain went from having $90 million in the bank to $0, and how he climbed his way back.
• How a musician's life really changes once they earn a Grammy award (let alone two).
• And much more...

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Your father was physically violent toward you and your brother on at least two occasions that would have warranted police intervention, but your also-abusive mother begged you not to call them. Years later, how can you reframe the anger you have toward yourself for putting up with your mother's manipulations and not reporting your father's abuse to the police when you had a chance? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/550

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Thought exercise: If you met someone exactly like yourself, what advice would you give them?
• How can you stop hating yourself for not calling the police on your physically abusive dad -- at the behest of your also-abusive mom -- years ago?
• How can you stick to your own weight loss goals when the people surrounding you (including your obese spouse) keep enabling you to make every day a cheat day?
• Are our review instructions clearer than they were? Please let us know!
• A friend passed away recently, and her husband (who wasn't on good terms with her parents) isn't on the deed to their house. Are there any spousal rights that could entitle him to the equity? [Once again, thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
• As a college student, it seems difficult to develop valuable professional connections if you don't already have a job or internship, and it’s hard to get jobs or internships if you don’t have the connections. What can you do?
• When you've got a somewhat high-profile Internet presence, how should you deal with the inevitable (and anonymously cowardly) haters?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Mickey Royal (@mickey_royal) is a former gangster, drug dealer, pimp, mob enforcer, and bestselling author of The Pimp Game: Instructional Guide and The Pimp Guide: Secrets of Mind Manipulation. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!]

What We Discuss with Mickey Royal:

• How Mickey's pseudobulbar affect and bipolar disorder came in handy as advantages in his line of work.
• What being deemed "capable" in certain circles means -- and why it's a networking mistake among criminals to turn your back on the type of job this entails (even if you've since moved "up").
• How Mickey established The Royal Family -- an organized stable of prostitutes that ran with the efficiency of a Fortune 500 company.
• Why someone who's smart enough to make money through illicit entrepreneurial means would probably find outstanding success in the mainstream under different circumstances.
• How the mental toll of seeing people only from the levers by which they can be manipulated adds up and makes "normal" relationships difficult to impossible.
• And much more...

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Mickey Royal (@mickey_royal) is a former gangster, drug dealer, pimp, mob enforcer, and bestselling author of The Pimp Game: Instructional Guide and The Pimp Guide: Secrets of Mind Manipulation. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!]

What We Discuss with Mickey Royal:

• How Mickey's pseudobulbar affect and bipolar disorder came in handy as advantages in his line of work.
• What being deemed "capable" in certain circles means -- and why it's a networking mistake among criminals to turn your back on the type of job this entails (even if you've since moved "up").
• How Mickey established The Royal Family -- an organized stable of prostitutes that ran with the efficiency of a Fortune 500 company.
• Why someone who's smart enough to make money through illicit entrepreneurial means would probably find outstanding success in the mainstream under different circumstances.
• How the mental toll of seeing people only from the levers by which they can be manipulated adds up and makes "normal" relationships difficult to impossible.
• And much more...

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When your stepfather passed away and your mother posted about it on Facebook, an old friend -- a self-described "swami" who claims to be psychically linked to her -- called to reconnect. Now, he seems to be taking advantage of her grief and loneliness to get closer, and based on a number of his wild, unlikely claims, you're worried that his end game may be less than altruistic. What can you do to stop this "swami" from swindling your mommy? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/547

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• You worry that your mom's "swami" friend may be trying to take advantage of her grief and vulnerability since your stepfather's recent passing. How can you keep her safe from his less-than-altruistic intentions?
• You squandered a financial windfall in college on partying and substance abuse, which led to hurting a large number of friends and family along the way. Now you've been sober for years and you want to recover these relationships, but it's clear from attempts to reach out that many of the people you left behind are content to leave those bridges burned. What can you do to move on and let things go?
• Your brother, who died by suicide, should be remembered for how he lived his life rather than just how it was ended. You want to start a foundation in his name to help your community learn skills as he loved doing, but where do you begin?
• You worked hard to advance in your career, but a recent merger no longer allows you to work from home and care for your daughter. As a result, you've decided to quit and become a stay-at-home dad, but you eventually want to return to the workforce. How can you network and stay relevant during this time away and ensure your time is spent as productively as possible?
• You worry that your tendency to procrastinate could cost you your dream job. How can you stop putting things off and causing yourself unnecessary stress and exhaustion?
• Documentary of the Week: The Dissident
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Scott Adams (@ScottAdamsSays) of Dilbert fame revisits us to discuss his book Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!]

What We Discuss with Scott Adams:

• Is Scott Adams a Trump supporter?
• People don’t use facts to make decisions. They use emotion.
• Learn the three types of persuaders and how they operate.
• See how master persuaders move the topic to things they understand and can dominate (regardless of facts and details).
• Find out why master persuasion is effective even if the subject or target sees the technique.
• And much more...

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Rachel Nuwer (@RachelNuwer) is an award-winning freelance journalist who reports about science, travel, food, and adventure for The New York Times, National Geographic, Scientific American, and more. Her multi-award-winning first book, Poached: Inside the Dark World of Wildlife Trafficking, is out now.

What We Discuss with Rachel Nuwer:

• What drives the global demand for resources cruelly derived from endangered wildlife.
• Why poachers and smugglers are willing to risk their own lives to meet this demand.
• The pros and cons of solutions proposed to stem the tide of this illicit trade -- from legalizing it for sustainable sourcing to synthesizing alternatives.
• Why governments are shy to throw the book at the worst offenders, and how the most clever, wealthy, and well-connected usually (but don't always) bypass legal repercussions for their trafficking transgressions.
• What we can do here and now to promote policies for preserving these species before they vanish forever.
• And much more...

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You stopped renting from a violent, paranoid landlord as soon as you saw the warning signs, but you fear a future tenant may not be so lucky. Can you publish some kind of APB as a heads up to potential victims without getting in legal trouble? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/544

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• You stopped renting from a violent, paranoid landlord as soon as you saw the warning signs, but you fear a future tenant may not be so lucky. Can you publish some kind of APB as a heads up to potential victims without getting in legal trouble? [Thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
• How can you overcome a lifelong tendency to be late for everything that infuriates everyone you know -- most of all you?
• How can you best encourage your friend get help for her recently developed eating disorder when her own family is not only unsympathetic toward her condition, but actively exacerbating it?
• You're a paralegal who enjoyed working at Firm A -- until the pandemic hit. So you took a position at Firm B, but find it less than enchanting after just six months. Now there's an opening in your old department at Firm A, but you're worried about being seen as a firm hopper if you apply. Should you go for it anyway?
• You've kept the stupid tattoo you got on a drunken night of college debauchery secret from your mom for 13 years. But now you're going on vacation together and you're liable to reveal all when you take your shirt off poolside. Is there any way to minimize the inevitable awkwardness of the moment?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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R. Douglas Fields (@RDouglasFields1) is a neuroscientist specializing in the cellular mechanisms of nervous system development, plasticity, and memory, and author of Why We Snap: Understanding the Rage Circuit in Your Brain. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!]

What We Discuss with R. Douglas Fields:

• What is rage, and what evolutionary purpose does it serve?
• What makes ordinary people “snap” — that is, react violently when triggered by rage?
• Can we control our urge to snap when rage overtakes us?
• Understand the nine triggers of rage.
• LIFEMORTS: the mnemonic that helps us identify when rage intrudes so we can get a rational handle on it preemptively.
• And much more...

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Nicole Perlroth (@nicoleperlroth) is an award-winning cybersecurity journalist for The New York Times and bestselling author of This Is How They Tell Me the World Ends: The Cyberweapons Arms Race.

What We Discuss with Nicole Perlroth:

• The startlingly simple reasons why most nation-states now resort to using cyberwarfare tactics before conventional weaponry in acts of aggression -- to increasingly devastating effect.
• How industries are so interconnected that there's almost no way for a cyberattack to target one victim without endangering countless others on all sides of a conflict (which is why you may have Putin to blame if there's a Cadbury chocolate egg shortage next Easter).
• Why leaving the security of 85 percent of its critical infrastructure up to privatization makes the United States especially vulnerable to cyberwarfare attacks.
• The massive amount of intellectual property that's been lost to hackers -- from the formula for Coca-Cola to information that would allow China and other rival nations to catch up with the United States in the nuclear arms race.
• What Nicole believes the US should do to push back against these threats and the governments that perpetrate them -- and ensure that it's not inadvertently one of them.
• And much more...

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Four years ago, you lost your spouse and child in a tragic car crash that you barely survived. Now, with a supportive partner and a toddler by your side, you're determined to move on with your life. Unfortunately, it's hard to meet new people who can see past what you've endured without pitying you. How can you truly enter your next chapter when well-meaning but oversympathizing strangers keep reminding you of your last one? We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/541

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Trying to move on from the loss of your family in a car accident years ago is difficult when everyone new you meet wants to throw you a pity party. How can you become more than the suffering sum of your tragic past's parts?
• You and your fiancé called it quits when she had a hallucinatory episode, wound up in the hospital, and came out with a bipolar disorder diagnosis. But you've each spent the past year coming to terms with who you are and you've considered getting back together. Could this work, or should you consider it a relationship that's sailed?
• A company hired you for one thing, then it turned out they needed you for something else, and their needs aren’t in alignment with your interests. Should you express your dissatisfaction to your boss, hope your next project is more to your liking, or just start looking for a new job?
• You've discovered that the work you love to do isn't the same as the subject you loved learning about at university. Should you feel guilty or ashamed for not using your master's degree, even though you absolutely adore your current, but completely unrelated position?
• How do you invite your parents' best friends to your wedding without them bringing their disruptive, social misfit adult child?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Daryl Davis (@realdaryldavis) is a musician, author, lecturer, host of the Changing Minds podcast, and anti-racism activist featured in the documentary Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!]

What We Discuss with Daryl Davis:

• How Daryl Davis, a black musician who was once told by a Ku Klux Klansman that he played piano "just like Jerry Lee Lewis," leveraged the encounter into a teachable moment that has led to more than 200 KKK members hanging up their robes for good.
• Why racism was such an unfathomable concept when Daryl first experienced it as a 10-year-old Cub Scout.
• How traveling around the world as a child with his diplomat father gave Daryl the tools he needed to sit down and relate to people vastly different from him.
• Why Daryl considers a missed opportunity for dialogue to be a missed opportunity for conflict resolution.
• The five values all humans have in common that Daryl uses to positively navigate (almost) any conversation.
• And much more...

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Daryl Davis (@realdaryldavis) is a musician, author, lecturer, host of the Changing Minds podcast, and anti-racism activist featured in the documentary Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America.

What We Discuss with Daryl Davis:

• How Daryl Davis, a black musician who was once told by a Ku Klux Klansman that he played piano "just like Jerry Lee Lewis," leveraged the encounter into a teachable moment that has led to more than 200 KKK members hanging up their robes for good.
• Why racism was such an unfathomable concept when Daryl first experienced it as a 10-year-old Cub Scout.
• How traveling around the world as a child with his diplomat father gave Daryl the tools he needed to sit down and relate to people vastly different from him.
• Why Daryl considers a missed opportunity for dialogue to be a missed opportunity for conflict resolution.
• The five values all humans have in common that Daryl uses to positively navigate (almost) any conversation.
• And much more...

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It's not a request; it's a demand from the brother who sexually abused you when you were eight in a family that gaslighted you about the whole thing: "You will speak at my wedding." Maybe he thinks you're too spineless to say anything that will embarrass him, but the truth is that you've been diagnosed with complex PTSD and the thought of speaking at his wedding at all fills you with dread. On the other hand, being the only sibling to refuse would also cause drama you don't want to deal with. How do you balance being genuine with not calling someone a cruel person on their wedding day? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday.

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/538

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Should you speak at the wedding of your brother who sexually abused you when you were eight, or be the only sibling to refuse and cause unwanted drama? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• If you have a physical feature that might surprise someone you're meeting for the first time (like, say, type IV radial club hand), how can you put everyone at ease and defuse any potential awkwardness ahead of such a meeting?
• In spite of going above and beyond in your leadership role during the pandemic, your boss "doesn't believe" in giving you a 5/5 star rating on your review because there's always room for improvement. On the other hand, you've been criticized for giving a subordinate a 3/5 for meeting expectations. If 4/5 is the best you can expect for exceeding expectations, how is such a system fair for anyone?
• Your dad spent 10 years in prison. You'd enjoy making up for that lost time by watching movies and other low-key activities together, but he wants to party and go bar hopping (even though you're under the legal drinking age). How can you get him to reel in his wilder tendencies that make you uncomfortable without hurting his feelings?
• At the end of the month, you'll be laid off from the company where you've worked for 15 years. If you're able to secure interviews for future job prospects before then, would it be dishonest to negotiate from the more powerful position of being currently employed?
• Documentary recommendation of the week: Made You Look: A True Story About Fake Art [Many thanks to Fruit of the Loom for its sponsorship of this segment!]
• Have...

Kevin Kelly (@kevin2kelly) is the founding editor of Wired magazine and author of The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future.

What We Discuss with Kevin Kelly:

• Technology is an extension of the natural process of evolution.
• What’s driving technology; what will the future look like?
• Why Artificial Intelligence (AI) is the biggest thing since electricity.
• Ways humanity will interact with future technology and AI — and how it will change our lives in ways we can scarcely imagine.
• How technology will actually make us better humans.
• And much more...

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Julia Galef (@juliagalef) is the host of the Rationally Speaking podcast, co-founder of The Center for Applied Rationality, and author of The Scout Mindset: Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don't.

What We Discuss with Julia Galef:

• How to spot bad arguments and faulty thinking -- even when the source is you.
• The difference between having a soldier mindset that defends whatever you want to be true, and a scout mindset that's motivated to seek out the truth regardless of how unpleasant it might be (and which you should try to cultivate).
• How to tell if you're making reasonable mistakes or foolhardy leaps of faith that carry consequences far outweighing the value of the lesson.
• The best ways to manage and respond to uncertainty.
• How your brain matches arguments you misunderstand with ones you've already decided you don't agree with -- and what to do about it.
• And much more...

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You and your five siblings aren't close, but you all have one thing in common: you endured a childhood marred by abusive parents who played you against each other. Now that you're all adults, you'd like to unite your siblings to confront your parents as a group for some closure -- but you're not sure they're all on board with the idea. Is there a good way to convince them, or might it be possible to get the closure you're looking for without their help or even a confrontation at all? We'll get into this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/535

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Is it worth trying to unite your siblings for a confrontation with your abusive parents to gain a sense of closure? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• You've postponed your wedding twice due to the pandemic, but two very close people in your life have passed away in the interim -- and it's hard to imagine having this wedding without them. Is there a way to somehow include and honor them in the ceremony?
• As a middle manager, you rely on your second-in-command to lead the department so you can focus on admin. Unfortunately, he fails at every step and creates more work for you than he saves. He can't be fired, transferred, or demoted, and he refuses to improve. What can you do?
• You're a teenager living in a household with your father and a verbally abusive stepmom who doesn't like teens. You'd prefer to live with your biological mother, but the custody agreement as it stands wouldn't allow it. How can you convince your dad and stepmother that changing the agreement would be the right move for everyone?
• You consider your current sales job as a placeholder until you can get your master's degree in mental health counseling. The hitch is that your program requires your completion of a nine-month internship that would fall during your busy season in two years. What's the least awkward way of bringing this up to your boss -- who doesn't yet know about your aspirations in a completely different field?
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Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the host of the What’s Essential podcast, and author of the New York Times bestseller Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. His latest book, Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most, is out now.

What We Discuss with Greg McKeown:

• If you want 10x the results of any endeavor without putting in 10x the effort, it's important to understand your ROE (return on effort).
• How the disciplined pursuit of less keeps you from getting overwhelmed with unexpected options and opportunities that come from what should be the good news of success.
• Why, if you find yourself procrastinating on a project because it's not perfect enough to your liking, you should delay a bad first draft and create a truly awful zero draft.
• Why "easy" does not (always) equal "lazy" and what you can do to work smarter rather than harder to avoid earning the meaningless badge of honor that burnout has become in the modern workforce.
• Five questions to ask yourself before taking on a project that's in danger of being overthought, overwhelming, and anything but effortless.
• And much more...

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Tristan Harris (@tristanharris) is a former Google design ethicist, primary subject of the acclaimed Netflix documentary The Social Dilemma, co-founder of the Center for Humane Technology, and co-host of the podcast Your Undivided Attention.

What We Discuss with Tristan Harris:

• Why we're worth more to social engagement platforms as manipulatable slabs of predictable human behavior than as free-thinking individuals.
• How the social networks of the early 2000s so quickly turned from places where we could keep in touch with friends, family, and colleagues into disinformation amplifiers that contribute to the destabilization of democracies.
• Why your algorithm-tailored online experience so radically differs from that of your closest friends and loved ones, and why this is a problem when the public good is cast aside in the interest of keeping us engaged and enraged.
• The unintended consequences of allowing an algorithm to bring people together by what it sees as similar interests, and how this has thrown fuel on the disinformation fire.
• How attempting to outthink a social media algorithm is like trying to play chess against a computer that can look ahead and counter every move you could possibly make.
• And much more...

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You're a veteran who's been lucky enough to return home from war in one piece only to fight a new battle on two fronts: heroin and PTSD. How are you going to fight your way free of this doubly dangerous burden? We'll try to help with this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

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On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• You're a veteran who's been lucky enough to return home from war in one piece only to fight a new battle on two fronts: heroin and PTSD. How are you going to fight your way free of this doubly dangerous burden? [Many thanks to Dr. Rubin Khoddam of COPE Psychological Center and Dr. Jennifer Mitchell, Deputy Associate Chief of Staff for Research and Development at the San Francisco VA Medical Center, for help with this one!]
• Your long-term partner has recently made it clear that he never wants to get married, which is at odds with your own expectations. It's an otherwise ideal, supportive relationship, but disagreeing on this subject casts a shadow over your future together. What should you do?
• You're a teenager attending a boarding school with peers you've known your whole life, but their toxic jockeying for position in the social hierarchy goes against your positive, perhaps more mature nature. Is there anything you can do to lift them up without being brought down in the process?
• You come from a family in which expressing feelings is forbidden, and problems are ridiculed or ignored rather than talked through. After 15 years of living abroad, you just can't deal with them like you used to. Now that you're visiting for the first time since the pandemic, you want to keep the trip shorter than they were expecting. Should you feel guilty?
• Your aunt makes a good living from her small business and wants you to take over when she retires in the next couple of years. But you have very little experience with running a business and you're not positive she's been on the level with her tax obligations -- which you don't want to get stuck dealing with down the line. How do you minimize your risk should you choose to go through with it?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Bob Arno is a comedy pickpocket and criminologist specializing in global street crime, is the co-author of Travel Advisory: How to Avoid Thefts, Cons, and Street Scams While Traveling, and was featured in National Geographic's Pickpocket King documentary. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!]

What We Discuss with Bob Arno:

• How Bob, the son of a judge, got involved in social engineering and pickpocketing for the purpose of entertainment.
• Why pickpockets are commonly targeted by terrorist organizations for radicalization efforts.
• How diversionary crime like pickpocketing has changed just like every other profession during the COVID-19 pandemic.
• How Bob is able to get close to real-life criminal pickpockets and learn their tricks of the trade without winding up in the hospital -- or worse.
• The psychology of a pickpocket -- what they're looking for in an ideal victim and what you can do to ensure you're not that victim.
• And much more...

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Bob Arno is a comedy pickpocket and criminologist specializing in global street crime, is the co-author of Travel Advisory: How to Avoid Thefts, Cons, and Street Scams While Traveling, and was featured in National Geographic's Pickpocket King documentary. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!]

What We Discuss with Bob Arno:

• How Bob, the son of a judge, got involved in social engineering and pickpocketing for the purpose of entertainment.
• Why pickpockets are commonly targeted by terrorist organizations for radicalization efforts.
• How diversionary crime like pickpocketing has changed just like every other profession during the COVID-19 pandemic.
• How Bob is able to get close to real-life criminal pickpockets and learn their tricks of the trade without winding up in the hospital -- or worse.
• The psychology of a pickpocket -- what they're looking for in an ideal victim and what you can do to ensure you're not that victim.
• And much more...

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Your conspiracy-minded Mom subscribes to the tenets of QAnon, believes she's a half-human/half-alien starseed, and thinks Jim Carrey is playing Joe Biden in real life, and not just SNL. She's tough to take, and never respects the boundaries you try to set. Is there still room in your life for her? We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/529

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Your conspiracy-minded Mom subscribes to the tenets of QAnon, believes she's a half-human/half-alien starseed, and thinks Jim Carrey is playing Joe Biden in real life, and not just SNL. She's tough to take, and never respects the boundaries you try to set. Is there still room in your life for her? [Thanks to cult expert Steven Hassan for helping us with this one!]
• The closest friend you've ever had passed away earlier this year, and you've noticed yourself, against character, succumbing to overwhelming feelings of anger at unexpected moments. Does the rage from grief ever go away, or is this just who you are now?
• Disgruntled in your current leadership position, you've considered taking a lower stress, lower responsibility role where you don't have to hold people accountable. How do you know if you're making a wise move for your own mental health or throwing away an opportunity that will become manageable over time as you learn to adapt?
• You fell for your roommate. After a period of intimacy, she withdrew, citing a series of toxic relationships and a need to focus on her own self-discovery before committing to anything serious. You're trying to take this as an opportunity to work on your own issues, but the rejection still hurts. What can you do?
• You've recently applied for a job within your company. The thing is, a number of your contacts have applied for the same job and asked you for referrals. You don't want to damage your network by not responding at all, but it seems awkward to recommend other people for a job you want. How can you handle this delicately without sounding selfish or self-conscious?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen (@UlrichTheMole) is a family man from Denmark who spent 10 years undercover in North Korea infiltrating its illicit arms trade. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Part one can be found here!]

What We Discuss with Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen:

• How did a young Danish chef and family man wind up working undercover in North Korea to disrupt its illicit arms trade?
• Why would the repressive regime that runs North Korea trust a young Danish chef and welcome him with open arms?
• How some low-status Westerners cozy up to the North Korean regime for the chance to boss around other Westerners visiting the country and the illusionary rush of power it gives them.
• The natural qualities and easygoing talents that made Ulrich such an ideal mole in a place where every move is surveilled and analyzed by invisible eyes from every nook and shadow.
• Why operating clandestinely in the DPRK is no job for a teetotaler.
• And much more...

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Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen (@UlrichTheMole) is a family man from Denmark who spent 10 years undercover in North Korea infiltrating its illicit arms trade. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the second half later this week!]

What We Discuss with Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen:

• How did a young Danish chef and family man wind up working undercover in North Korea to disrupt its illicit arms trade?
• Why would the repressive regime that runs North Korea trust a young Danish chef and welcome him with open arms?
• How some low-status Westerners cozy up to the North Korean regime for the chance to boss around other Westerners visiting the country and the illusionary rush of power it gives them.
• The natural qualities and easygoing talents that made Ulrich such an ideal mole in a place where every move is surveilled and analyzed by invisible eyes from every nook and shadow.
• Why operating clandestinely in the DPRK is no job for a teetotaler.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/527

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While you're beyond grateful she survived, your teenager's attempted suicide came as a heartbreaking shock. Now what can you do to address the root causes and make sure she doesn't try again? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/526

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• While you're beyond grateful she survived, your teenager's attempted suicide came as a heartbreaking shock. Now what can you do to address the root causes and make sure she doesn't try again? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
• After listening to our episode with Thomas Erikson, you think you've got a psychopath or two in your life. How can you really be sure, and how should you handle the situation? [Thanks to Thomas Erikson himself, who was kind enough to help us answer this one!]
• After finding out your significant other (with whom you have a child) had a Tinder account for nine months of your relationship, you're not completely on board with trusting him. Now his ex-girlfriend (with whom he also has a child) has offered him a job. Should you be concerned?
• You're a bit burnt out after traveling for work five days a week for the past two months, but you've been with your company for a few years and you don't want to leave. How might you ask for a new job within the company without being completely sure what you want to do (or initiating your own layoff)?
• An amazing job opportunity means you may be moving your family to another country in a few months, but it means leaving behind the network and support system you've had for years. How do you start and grow a new network from scratch, and is there anything you can do to give you a head start in the months before you move?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Robert H. Frank (@econnaturalist) is the HJ Louis Professor of Economics at Cornell University and author of Success and Luck: Good Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]

What We Discuss with Robert H. Frank:

• As we strive to achieve success, there are natural limits on how hard we can work and how smart we can be. There’s no denying that luck plays a part in this achievement.
• Understand the role of luck, talent, and hard work in the overall formula.
• Discover why we tend to minimize the role of luck in our success.
• Find out how to maximize our luck in life by way of context outside of talent and work.
• Learn new ways to look at the luck factor and turn it to our advantage.
• And much more...

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Nicholas Christakis (@NAChristakis) is the Sterling Professor of Social and Natural Science at Yale, a physician, and author. His latest book is Apollo's Arrow: The Profound and Enduring Impact of Coronavirus on the Way We Live.

What We Discuss with Nicholas Christakis:

• What social science tells us about our best shot (pun moderately intended) at achieving herd immunity from COVID-19.
• How social networks allowed the virus to spread and reinforced mistrust of well-known science among certain politically oriented segments of the populace.
• What the lessons of past disasters can teach us about the road ahead.
• Why the bad (and good) habits of our friends' friends can have an impact on our own behavior from across vast social networks.
• What we can do to best defend ourselves against the unwanted influence of these unseen members of our network.
• And much more...

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You're raising your teenage sister to keep her out of the cycle of neglect and abuse she was exposed to at home with your alcoholic mother and her sociopathic boyfriend. Now you're struggling to reconcile your relationship with your mom before her toxic beau completely blows through her savings and leaves her destitute. Is there anything you can do at this point to defuse the drama around your intoxicated mama? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/523

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• You're struggling to reconcile your relationship with your mom before her toxic beau completely blows through her savings and leaves her destitute. Is there anything you can do to defuse the drama around your intoxicated mama?
• As a new recruiter for a high-growth startup tech company, you feel like you're getting the brush-off whenever you bring up the need to diversify personnel to the higher-ups. What can you do to get the issue taken more seriously? [Thanks to executive coach Michelle Lederman for helping us with this one!]
• Through therapy and medication, you've overcome decades of anxiety, depression, and financial problems, and you're ready to date after losing 140 pounds you gained when you were at your lowest point. But now you've got a lot of loose skin; how do you pre-empt any worries you have about being seen naked by a possible partner?
• You fought your way through stage four breast cancer, but you still have to go to the doctor for time-consuming checkups and scans regularly. Now you're looking for a job and don't want to mislead a potential employer by omitting this information, but you don't want to lose out on a lead because they decided to hire someone who doesn't have these issues. What should you do?
• How do you politely get your extremely chatty client to shut up?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) is the author of To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others, which uses social science, survey research, and stories to offer a fresh look at the art and science of sales. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]

What We Discuss with Daniel Pink:

• What’s the best way of dealing with an “off” day?
• Learn why sales and a sales skillset are a part of our lives — whether we like it or not.
• Understand the concepts of irritation versus agitation (and how to use both to motivate others).
• Attunement: what it is and how it can make you more persuasive.
• Tips for both introverts and extroverts to improve a social skillset and build better rapport.
• And so much more...

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Neil deGrasse Tyson (@neiltyson) is the Frederick P. Rose Director of the Hayden Planetarium, host of StarTalk Radio, and author. He rejoins us to discuss his latest book, Cosmic Queries: StarTalk's Guide to Who We Are, How We Got Here, and Where We're Going.

What We Discuss with Neil deGrasse Tyson:

• How Neil learned to explain scientific complexities in layman's terms.
• Why you should always take advantage of an opportunity to engage with an expert.
• How opportunity comes from embracing the unknown rather than shying away from it.
• Why, when it comes to learning something new, understanding is far more important than memorizing facts.
• How Neil has mastered the art of ending any Q&A with the perfect answer -- no matter the question.
• And much more...

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Enduring your bipolar mother's hypochondria your entire life has made you neglectful of your own health. Now she won't stop meddling in your medical business since you were recently sent to the ER with an undiagnosed condition. How can you get your mother to back off without completely ruining your already strained relationship? We'll dig into this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/520

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• Have you played The Jordan Harbinger Show Bingo yet? Thanks to the work of a fellow dedicated listener, now you can!
• Your bipolar hypochondriac mom won't stop meddling in your medical affairs. How can you get her to back off without completely ruining your already strained relationship? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us field this one!]
• You've noticed the bad influence of an older neighborhood kid rubbing off on your six-year-old daughter, and having met his emotionally volatile parents, you see the bad apple didn't fall far from the tree. How can you minimize the effects of this negative behavior without being needlessly punitive toward these children?
• Are you experiencing "early-onset imposter syndrome" because you're worried about lazy habits picked up during quarantine stunting the level of overachievement that got you into law school?
• You were laid off one day before your last retirement accrual through the company's employee stock ownership plan. You're doing well enough financially, but you're rightfully angry to have been cheated out of this benefit in such an underhanded manner. Do you have any legal recourse, and should you pursue it? [Thanks to once-adversary, now-friend, and attorney Jeremy Golan for helping us with this one!]
• Your late father was a much-loved pillar of the community, and everyone in town had their own story about how he had come through for them in their time of need. Does Six-Minute Networking advise a way to responsibly enjoy this inherited social capital without coming off like a petulant so-and-so?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at

Dacher Keltner is a professor of psychology at University of California in Berkeley, one of the world’s foremost scientists specializing in the study of power, and author of The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]

What We Discuss with Dacher Keltner:

• You don’t have to be Machiavellian to appreciate that Niccolo Machiavelli was the OG power scientist.
• What is The Power Paradox, and how does it affect us and society at large?
• The imbalance of power is the greatest threat to society (just after climate change).
• Powerlessness can literally be lethal.
• Learn how we can increase our power relative to others in a healthy way.
• And much more...

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Daniel Kahneman is a celebrated psychologist, economist, Nobel Prize winner, and author of the much-lauded Thinking, Fast and Slow and his latest, Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment.

What We Discuss with Daniel Kahneman:

• Why we don’t always produce the same results when faced with the same facts on two different occasions.
• How noise -- in this context, variability in judgments that should be identical -- influences our choices.
• How the detrimental effects of noise in medicine, law, economic forecasting, forensic science, bail, child protection, strategy, performance reviews, and personnel selection can ruin (and even end) lives.
• How to tell the difference between noise and good old-fashioned bias.
• How we can reduce the role of noise and bias in our lives to make our best choices.
• And much more...

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The pedophile psychopath who lives across the street has made your life hell for more than a decade, to say nothing of the catastrophic damage he's caused to your loved ones and the community. But how can you prove it to the authorities who continue to protect him? We'll try to find a resolution to this and more here on Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/517

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

• The pedophile psychopath who lives across the street has made your life hell for more than a decade, to say nothing of the catastrophic damage he's caused to your loved ones and the community. But how can you prove it to the authorities? [Special thanks to Thomas Erikson and George Grant for helping us with this one!]
• When you've finally found a partner who could be "The One" with whom you see yourself starting a family at the same time you've finally found your dream job -- nine hours away -- how do you choose between them? Or is there a way you don't have to?
• Your friend at school has only been in the country for three years and struggles with English, so you help him every night with his homework. The problem is, this leaves you with no free time to pursue extracurriculars or even get a full night's sleep during the week. How can you set boundaries that are reasonable for both of you?
• At your corporate job, you regularly have to report to people who are senior to you. How do you strike the right balance between confidence and humility without being either cocky or unsure of yourself?
• Someone taking our free Six-Minute Networking course wants to know: how can you grow your network through cold contacts?
• Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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Mike Massimino (@Astro_Mike) is the astronaut who sent the first tweet from space and one of the few spacefarers we’ve had on this show! He’s the author of Spaceman: An Astronaut’s Unlikely Journey to Unlock the Secrets of the Universe. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]

What We Discuss with Mike Massimino:

• How is bedtime on a space shuttle mission a lot like a slumber party?
• Why assembling a team around you is crucial for success — whether orbiting or staying on the surface of the planet.
• Why it’s important to take small, deliberate steps in the right direction for the sake of your own happiness.
• How to stay focused on the task at hand in the face of disaster by thinking like an astronaut.
• Why even astronauts have imposter syndrome.
• And much more...

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James Jani (@jamesvjani) is a YouTuber who makes documentary-style videos about money, business, and life, including The Law of Attraction: Fact or Fiction? and The Dark World of New Age Gurus.

What We Discuss with James Jani:

• Why "hustle culture" is a bankrupt paradigm that makes it easy for fake gurus to prey upon society's very young and very desperate.
• Why the so-called Law of Attraction that tells you you only have to think positive thoughts to "manifest" the good things you want out of life is bunk.
• How studying philosophy exercises your grey matter and sharpens your critical thinking skills (so you can better resist nonsense like the Law of Attraction).
• Why the Just World Fallacy that explains away suffering as a deserved consequence of wrongdoing is just a dangerously convenient way for people to bypass empathy for the world's unlucky have-nots.
• How we can use street epistemology to help people question their unfounded beliefs.
• And much more...

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/515