Secure Marriage Podcast

By Paul & Shannon Elmore

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We’ll show you how to have a marriage where you fight less, feel understood, and enjoy a deeper connection with your husband or wife.

Episode Date
348: Why Accusations Are Toxic To Your Marriage
Jan 20, 2026
347: The Year of Adventures
Jan 09, 2026
What it Takes To Forgive An Incredibly Hurtful Husband
Jan 01, 2026
Why You Get Defensive When You Hear “You’ve Hurt My Feelings”
Jul 07, 2025
This Simple Trick Will Make Your Spouse Happier
Jun 25, 2025
343: When should you start seeing progress in marriage therapy?
Feb 10, 2025
342: Doing THIS Creates The Deepest Connection
Jan 27, 2025
341: Don’t Let Comparison Become the Cancer in Your Relationship
Jan 14, 2025
340: Stop Chasing: How to Rebuild Attraction During a Marriage Separation
Jan 10, 2025
339: Why Your Husband Thinks Your Feelings Are Always Wrong
Jan 07, 2025
Husbands, Stop Trying To Fix Your Wife
Jan 03, 2025
Six Steps to Fix A Struggling Marriage
Dec 06, 2024
Strengthen Your Relationship: How to Work Together as a Team
Dec 03, 2024
7 Magic Questions to Make You An Empathetic Husband
Nov 25, 2024
My Wife Doesn’t Like Sex. Should I leave?
Nov 13, 2024
I Don’t Feel Like I’m Important To My Husband
Jul 29, 2024
Supporting Your Spouse’s Wild Ideas
Jul 25, 2024
2024 Marriage Cruise Recap
Jul 22, 2024
My Friend is Having An Affair? What Do I Do?
Mar 16, 2024
Did my Husband Sabotage My Birthday?
Mar 12, 2024
How to Melt Your Wife’s Heart Through the Power of Empathy
Mar 08, 2024
Yelling at Your Wife and Kids is ALWAYS a Bad Idea
Mar 01, 2024
Don’t Let Shame Destroy Your Relationship
Feb 19, 2024
How to Completely Remove Anger From Your Marriage
Jan 19, 2024
Why Doing Planks Makes Your Marriage Stronger
Jan 15, 2024
Why I Woke Up SUPER Mad at my Husband
Dec 28, 2023
The RIGHT Way to Pick A Christmas Tree
Dec 26, 2023
Why Love Isn’t Enough For A Happy Marriage
Dec 21, 2023
My Husband Confides More in His Mother Than in Me
Dec 12, 2023
Will Dating Other People Help Strengthen Our Relationship?
Dec 07, 2023
Why You Should Stop Using A Toxic Tone of Voice
Nov 28, 2023
How to Know When To Call it Quits!
Nov 24, 2023
How to Respond to “I Don’t Want To Argue About This.”
Nov 20, 2023
Why I Yelled At My Wife Because I Care About Her So Much
Nov 02, 2023
What If I Get Married and Then Find Someone Better?
Oct 26, 2023
Stop Trying To Teach Your Husband How To Be A Good Husband
Oct 23, 2023
Help! My Husband Finds Other Women Attractive
Oct 20, 2023
What To Do When You Realize You’ve Been A Complete Jerk To Your Wife
Oct 09, 2023
What NOT to Say When Your Wife is Overreacting
Oct 05, 2023
How To Be A Loving Husband During “That Time of the Month”
Oct 02, 2023
Why Negative Self Talk Will Sabotage Healthy Conflict
Sep 28, 2023
Why Getting Reconnected After A Fight is SO STINKIN’ HARD!
Sep 25, 2023
How Can I Fix My Marriage When My Spouse Doesn’t Want To
Sep 07, 2023
How to Get Your Husband To Avoid Helping Ever Again
Sep 04, 2023
Why Giving More Than You Get in Marriage Always Works Best
Aug 31, 2023
How to Take Your Marriage to the Next Level Using Emotional Intelligence
Aug 28, 2023
Is AI Trying to Sabotage Healthy Masculinity
Aug 23, 2023
Giving Your Spouse the Best Day Ever
Aug 17, 2023
Celebrating Our 300th Episode!
Aug 14, 2023
The Proven Exercise to Make Your Marriage Better (that my wife hates)
Aug 07, 2023
Why Men Find it Hard To Start Changing
Aug 03, 2023
Does Sharing Emotions Make a Man Weak?
Jul 31, 2023
Why Making Your Spouse Take Responsibility NEVER Works
Jul 27, 2023
Why You Should Show Love To Your Spouse, Even When You Don't Feel Like It
Jul 25, 2023
Why Men Have Such A Hard Time Admitting They’re Wrong
Jul 21, 2023
Our Husbands Won’t Get Off Their Phones
Jul 17, 2023
Why Attunement Wins Your Wife’s Heart Every Time
Jul 14, 2023
If You’re Married, You Should Live Like You’re Single
Jul 07, 2023
The Best Way to Fix Anger Issues in Your Marriage
Jul 03, 2023
What's the Main Reason Someone Has an Affair?
Jun 29, 2023
Relationship Advice From Ted Lasso
Jun 26, 2023
Announcing our 2024 Marriage Cruise
Jun 23, 2023
Listen to Us Resolve Our Saturday Morning Fight
Jun 05, 2023
My Wife Tears Me Down When I Open Up Emotionally
Jun 01, 2023
Meeting Your Spouse’s Needs—Who Goes First?
May 29, 2023
I Can’t Stop Hearing My Husband’s Cruel Words
May 25, 2023
My Husband Wants Us to Keep All Our Problems Private
May 22, 2023
What Love and Respect Really Means in a Marriage
May 18, 2023
Why Unconventional Couples Have The Greatest Sex
May 15, 2023
What to do if you Regret Getting Married?
May 11, 2023
How Secrets and Jealousy Will Destroy Your Marriage
May 08, 2023
Are You Afraid Your Husband is Going to Leave You For A “Newer Model”?
May 04, 2023
How to Support Your Husband in the Midst of a Mental Health Crisis
Apr 27, 2023
How to Handle the Silent Treatment
Apr 24, 2023
What Are the Signs of an Unhealthy Marriage
Apr 20, 2023
Where to Start if You’re Looking to Improve Your Marriage
Apr 17, 2023
Learning to Develop Tolerance to Annoying Behavior
Apr 13, 2023
Is it Normal For Your Spouse to Always Be Expecting Rewards?
Apr 10, 2023
How do the Ghosts of Your Past Impact Your Marriage Today?
Apr 06, 2023
How These Stupid Secure Marriage Tools Actually Work
Apr 03, 2023
What’s Better for My Marriage? Pastoral Counseling or Professional Counseling
Mar 30, 2023
How to Get Reconnected in Five Minutes or Less
Mar 27, 2023
I Want One More Child and My Husband Doesn’t. How Do We Find A Compromise?
Mar 23, 2023
Can Going to Counseling by Myself Help My Marriage?
Mar 21, 2023
Is Today’s Culture Producing Immature Men?
Mar 17, 2023
What to do If You’ve Been Missing Your Wife’s Emotional Bids
Mar 14, 2023
How to Start Getting Connected Even if Sharing Your Feelings Feels Impossible
Mar 10, 2023
How to Patch the Holes in Your Emotional Bucket
Mar 03, 2023
Are You Finding it Hard to Make Your Husband Feel Loved?
Mar 01, 2023
Is Your Husband Emotionally Unavailable? Here’s What to do.
Feb 23, 2023
Highlights From Our 2023 Marriage Cruise
Feb 16, 2023
257: I Want Connection And My Husband Only Wants Sex
Feb 14, 2023
Everyone is Wrong—Communication Doesn't Make Your Marriage Better
Feb 06, 2023
5 Signs You’re Stuck In Abusive Relationships
Jan 30, 2023
254: The Simple Secret to a Secure Marriage
Jan 19, 2023
253: Don’t Do These Three Things When You Find Out About Their Affair
Jan 17, 2023
This One Phrase Will End Almost Any Fight With Your Spouse
Jan 12, 2023
Our Path to a Happy Marriage
Jan 10, 2023
A Wakeup Call For Lazy Husbands
Jan 04, 2023
Making Your Marriage Better in 2023
Jan 03, 2023
Is Your Wife An HSP (Highly Sensitive Person)? Here’s How to Tell Her
Dec 26, 2022
Want Your Wife To Love You More? Be More Decisive
Dec 22, 2022
Believe it or Not, Men Have Feelings Too
Dec 20, 2022
Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late to Work On Your Marriage
Dec 15, 2022
What to do If It Feels Like Your Spouse is Testing You All The Time
Dec 12, 2022
What to Do When “You Love Him, But You’re Not IN Love With Him”
Dec 05, 2022
How Do You Have A Healthy Long Distance Relationship?
Dec 01, 2022
My Husband’s Complaining I’m Not Prioritizing Him
Nov 28, 2022
What to do When Your Wife Won’t Stop Being Verbally Abusive
Nov 24, 2022
This One Thing Makes Your Relationship Successful (according to 40,000 couples)
Nov 21, 2022
How To Resolve A Fight In Under 20 Minutes
Nov 17, 2022
What to Do When Compromise is NOT An Option
Nov 14, 2022
It Feels Like My Opinion Doesn’t Matter
Nov 10, 2022
What Does A Good Relationship Look Like?
Nov 07, 2022
What to Do If It Feels Like You’re Falling Out of Love
Nov 03, 2022
Is it Okay to Go Through Your Spouse’s Phone?
Oct 31, 2022
What To Do When Apologizing Makes Your Fights Get Worse
Oct 27, 2022
Is Fighting About Chores Ruining Your Marriage?
Oct 24, 2022
Is Marriage About Personal Happiness or Duty to Family
Oct 20, 2022
How to be Compassionate When Your Husband’s Behavior Embarrasses You
Oct 17, 2022
How To Move Through the Rough Patches In Marriage
Oct 13, 2022
Can My Marriage Survive Infidelity
Oct 10, 2022
Stop Trying To Be Independent In Your Marriage
Oct 06, 2022
Shannon’s Success Stories
Oct 03, 2022
#224: What A Kick-Ass Wife Looks Like
Sep 29, 2022
#223: Research Says Your Difficult Marriage WILL Get Better
Sep 26, 2022
#222: How Do I Become A Happy Person
Sep 22, 2022
#221: My Husband Thinks “Marriage Shouldn’t Be Work”
Sep 19, 2022
#220: What to do if Your Husband Struggles With Depression
Sep 15, 2022
# 219: What to do if You’re Living in a Sexless Marriage
Sep 12, 2022
#218: Can My Husband Buy Anything He Wants if He makes all the money?
Sep 08, 2022
#217: The Absolute Best Way to Make Your Spouse Feel Loved & Encouraged
Sep 05, 2022
We’re Getting Married. Do You Offer a Pre-marital Program?
Sep 02, 2022
How Can I Make My Husband Fall In Love With Me Again
Aug 29, 2022
Can I Tell My Wife to Shut Up?
Aug 25, 2022
Is Tit-For-Tat Destroying Your Marriage?
Aug 22, 2022
How To Navigate Separating From Your Spouse
Aug 18, 2022
What to do If You or Your Spouse Are Verbally Abusive
Aug 16, 2022
What to do if You're Stuck in a Horrible Marriage and Your Spouse WILL NOT CHANGE
Aug 10, 2022
Things Paul Wished He Knew How to do Early in Our Marriage
Aug 04, 2022
How to Get Your Avoidant Husband to Pursue You
Aug 01, 2022
#207: Are You Afraid To Be 100% Honest With Your Spouse
Jul 28, 2022
When Your Husband Spins Everything To Be Your Fault
Jul 21, 2022
When Do We Get To Do Things My Way?
Jul 14, 2022
My Wife Isn’t Attracted To Me Anymore. Is It Too Late?
Jul 11, 2022
How To Set Boundaries Even When You Don’t Want To
Jul 07, 2022
The Habit that Leads to the Biggest Changes in Your Marriage
Jun 30, 2022
How to Help Your Wife When She’s in a Crisis
Jun 27, 2022
Holy Cow! It’s our 200th Episode
Jun 23, 2022
Am I Broken Because My Husband Won't Listen to my Feelings?
Jun 19, 2022
Are You A Woman That Suffers From Beauty and the Beast Syndrome?
Jun 16, 2022
What’s Crossing The Line With Coworkers of the Opposite Sex
Jun 13, 2022
Healthy Ways to Handle Anxious Attachment Issues
Jun 02, 2022
How To Have Better Connection, Communication, and Conflict Resolution
May 29, 2022
Why Everyone Has A Need For Connection
May 26, 2022
How To Be Angry & Still Stay Connected
May 22, 2022
Why First Responders Have A Higher Divorce Rate
May 19, 2022
How To Walk Through Loss With Your Spouse, Part 2
May 12, 2022
How To Walk Through Loss With Your Spouse
May 05, 2022
Should You Check Up On An Unfaithful Spouse?
May 01, 2022
Why You Need To Be Careful Giving Advice To Your Spouse
Apr 28, 2022
How To Help Your Spouse Deal With Negative Self Talk
Apr 24, 2022
How To Handle Major Life Changes With Your Spouse
Apr 21, 2022
How To Respond When You’re Treated Rudely
Apr 17, 2022
Are You Willing To Look Foolish For Your Spouse
Apr 15, 2022
Choosing To See The Best In Bad Situations
Apr 07, 2022
What To Do When Your Wife Says She's Not In Love With You
Apr 03, 2022
How To Help Your Wife Find Herself
Mar 31, 2022
What to do When Positive Intentions Get Lost
Mar 24, 2022
How Your Husband Should Respond to Being Inconvenienced
Mar 17, 2022
What To Do When Connection Is Missing In Your Marriage
Mar 13, 2022
Why Rigid Thinking Will Ruin Your Marriage
Mar 11, 2022
Can I Fix My Marriage If My Husband Won’t Do Counseling?
Mar 04, 2022
How Can A Husband Love His Overweight Wife?
Feb 27, 2022
Why Miscommunication Doesn’t Always Lead To Conflict
Feb 26, 2022
#173: How To Validate Your Wife Even When She’s Wrong
Feb 20, 2022
How to Initiate Hard Conversations With Your Husband
Feb 18, 2022
What To Do When Your Husband Wakes Up In A Pissy Mood
Feb 13, 2022
Why You Need A Relationship Roadmap
Feb 03, 2022
#169: How to Not Let Hamburgers Ruin Your Marriage
Jan 30, 2022
How To Respond Graciously To Your Spouse’s Mistakes
Jan 27, 2022
Is Being Controlling Ruining Your Marriage?
Jan 23, 2022
What to do when your spouse refuses to be honest
Jan 21, 2022
Our New Roadmap To A Secure Marriage
Jan 02, 2022
Is Being Inconvenienced A Moral Issue?
Dec 30, 2021
A Special Christmas Gift For You
Dec 27, 2021
A Tool That’s Guaranteed To Resolve Conflict Faster
Dec 23, 2021
How to Avoid Hurting Your Spouse When You're Highly Stressed
Dec 19, 2021
How To Make The Holidays Less Miserable
Dec 14, 2021
How To Survive The Family Holidays
Dec 02, 2021
Are You Unintentionally Ignoring Your Spouse's Needs?
Nov 25, 2021
What Our Bathroom Taught Us About Our Marriage
Nov 21, 2021
Is Your Spouse Suffering From SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)
Nov 18, 2021
How To Create Healthy Relationship Habits
Nov 11, 2021
How to Grieve The Loss Of Your Relationship
Nov 07, 2021
Paul & I Need Your Help
Nov 04, 2021
How Being A Highly Sensitive Person Affects Your Marriage
Oct 31, 2021
How To Bring Up The Topic Of Finances With Your Spouse
Oct 28, 2021
Are You Avoiding Conflict To Keep The Peace
Oct 21, 2021
Is Your Husband Constantly Spinning The Truth?
Oct 17, 2021
Is Your Husband Not Fulfilling His Promises
Oct 15, 2021
Today's Episode Goes Horribly Wrong!
Oct 10, 2021
Do Questions Feel Like Criticism
Oct 07, 2021
How Do You Get Over Resentment Hurt and Neglect?
Oct 03, 2021
When Your Husband’s Disappointment Feels Like Anger
Sep 28, 2021
Are You Married to Your Soulmate
Sep 23, 2021
The One Question Shannon HATES To Ask
Sep 20, 2021
How To Prevent Conflict 95% of the Time
Sep 17, 2021
Why Do Married Couples Fall Out of Love?
Sep 12, 2021
When Is It Okay to Lie to Your Spouse?
Sep 09, 2021
Some Unscheduled Conflict While Recording Our Podcast
Sep 05, 2021
Why You Need to Manage Your Stress Better
Sep 02, 2021
What to Do When You Love Your Spouse More Than They Love You
Aug 29, 2021
Why Most People Feel Hopeless In Their Marriage
Aug 24, 2021
Can You Give Up What You Really Want for Your Spouse's Happiness?
Aug 20, 2021
The Real Meaning of Unconditional Love
Aug 17, 2021
The Importance of Shared Values
Aug 09, 2021
Wives—Stop Emotionally Bonding With Other Men
Jul 29, 2021
Every Spouse Needs To Work Two Jobs
Jul 28, 2021
What To Do With A Narcissistic Spouse
Jul 22, 2021
Is This Important Thing Missing From Your Marriage
Jul 20, 2021
How To Stop Being Anxious Spouse
Jul 12, 2021
How To Be Your Best While In Survival Mode
Jul 06, 2021
This Is Why A Husband Should Celebrate His Wife
May 27, 2021
How To Argue Without Being Defensive
May 24, 2021
What Are YOU Doing To Make Your Marriage Better?
May 06, 2021
Why You Should Correct In Private & Defend In Public
May 04, 2021
What To Do When You Spouse Won't Get Off Their Phone
Apr 30, 2021
Join Us On Our First Marriage Cruise
Apr 24, 2021
Paul Admits He Was Wrong (And Shannon Was Right!)
Mar 18, 2021
Why Being Grumpy Usually Leads to Less Sex
Mar 10, 2021
How We Resolved Our Most Recent Fight
Mar 05, 2021
What NOT To Do To Get Your Spouse To Change
Mar 02, 2021
Accepting The Quirkiness Of Your Spouse
Feb 25, 2021
Why Date Night Should Still Be A Big Deal
Feb 22, 2021
Does Selflessness Lead To Being Abused?
Feb 12, 2021
Why Bonding With Your Spouse Is So Important
Feb 08, 2021
Are You The Pusher or Withdrawer In Your Marriage?
Feb 02, 2021
Are You Willing To Sacrifice For Your Spouse?
Jan 28, 2021
How To Handle Your Wife's Monthly Mood Swings
Jan 25, 2021
How Men Can Develop More Empathy
Jan 21, 2021
What To Do When Your Husband Refuses To Compromise
Jan 18, 2021
What To Do If Your Husband Keeps Lying
Jan 14, 2021
Why It's Hard to Apologize After A Fight
Jan 11, 2021
What to do With a Moody Spouse
Jan 07, 2021
Where Does Reconciliation Begin
Jan 04, 2021
What to do When Your Husband Refuses to Get Help
Dec 24, 2020
Should you defend your wife against insults from your family?
Dec 22, 2020
Our 100th Episode (and a cool giveaway)!
Dec 09, 2020
Who Should Do More Chores: Husband or Wife?
Dec 02, 2020
What To Do When You Disagree on Having More Kids
Oct 16, 2020
Does Your Marriage Suffer From Marital Remorse?
Oct 10, 2020
How To Hold Your Spouse Accountable To Their Goals Without Sounding Critical
Sep 11, 2020
How Shannon Has Been Overcoming Obstacles & Achieving Her Goals
Sep 10, 2020
How To Go 27 Hours In A Two-Seater Car With NO Arguments
Sep 02, 2020
What To Do When You Feel Embarrassed By Your Spouse's Anger
Aug 15, 2020
Why Some People Don't Like Our Podcast
Aug 13, 2020
#92: When Should A Couple Consider Separation
Aug 10, 2020
What To Do When Your Spouse Keeps Threatening Divorce
Aug 03, 2020
What To Do When You Feel Blamed All The Time
Jul 27, 2020
Why It's So Hard To Forgive Your Spouse
Jul 23, 2020
What To Do When Your Dreams Make Your Spouse Nervous
Jul 20, 2020
#87: How One Misinterpreted Text Led To Our HUGE Fight
Jul 02, 2020
What To Do When Your Spouse Secretly Has Lunch With Their Ex
Jun 26, 2020
What To Do If You're In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Jun 18, 2020
Your Spouse Wants To End The Marriage
Jun 15, 2020
Dealing With Sexless Marriages
Jun 12, 2020
What To Do If You've "Fallen Out Of Love"
Jun 08, 2020
How To Change Your Negative Attitude Toward Your Spouse
Jun 05, 2020
What To Do When You Crave Something New In Your Marriage
May 29, 2020
Is Doing Something Without Your Spouse Wrong?
May 26, 2020
Who Does The Chores When Your Wife Starts Working From Home?
May 23, 2020
Husbands—Start Improving Yourselves
May 22, 2020
How To Become An Empathetic Spouse
May 18, 2020
The Number One Thing To Look For In A Husband or Wife
May 15, 2020
How COVID-19 Is Affecting Our Marriage
May 12, 2020
Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?
May 06, 2020
A Better Way To Talk About Feelings
Apr 03, 2020
Understanding Your Spouse's Primary Need
Mar 30, 2020
How To Support Your Spouse When They're Trying Something New
Mar 13, 2020
What Will People Say About Your Marriage At Your 50th Anniversary Party
Mar 03, 2020
How To Make Big Decisions Together
Feb 26, 2020
Why You Need To Ask, "How Can I Be A Better Husband or Wife?"
Feb 17, 2020
Practical Ways To Rebuild Trust In Your Relationship
Feb 08, 2020
Why You Should Bring Your BFF Into Your Marriage (It's NOT what you think)
Jan 24, 2020
How "Captain Obvious" Can Save Your Marriage
Jan 17, 2020
How Relentless Empathy is Guaranteed to Improve ANY Relationship
Jan 12, 2020
How to Stop 90% of Your Fights Before They Even Get Started
Jan 03, 2020
#61: Tired of Being The One Who Always Goes First?
Dec 20, 2019
#60: 8 Essential Tips To Survive the Family Holidays
Dec 13, 2019
How To Show Your Spouse You Love Them By Taking Responsibility For Your Crap
Dec 09, 2019
What To Do When Your Spouse Won't Initiate Sex
Nov 22, 2019
The Magic Question That's Guaranteed To Change Your Marriage
Nov 15, 2019
#56: How to Overcome Sexual Shame in Your Relationship
Nov 11, 2019
#55: How To Talk About Sex With Your Spouse
Nov 01, 2019
How To Support Your Spouse When They're Totally Messed Up
Oct 26, 2019
What To Do When Your Husband Works Too Much
Oct 02, 2019
5 Communication Styles That Are Guaranteed To Destroy Your Marriage
Aug 20, 2019
Four Tips For Effective Communication With Your Husband or Wife
Aug 13, 2019
Why Telling Your Spouse What To Do Can Potentially Hurt Their Feelings
Aug 02, 2019