Light The Fight- Parenting Podcast

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Heidi Swapp, a wife, mom, entrepreneur and influencer of women, teams up with David Kozlowski, a licensed marriage and family therapist to create a podcast that brings light to tough topics related to personal and family relationships. This unlikely duo was brought together by the death of Heidi’s son Cory, who passed away from suicide in July of 2015. Heidi and David discuss information, tools and strategies that have helped her these past few years to learn, grow and understand the complexities of these relationships. Heidi is not a typical mom, and David is not a typical therapist. The unique combination of relatable info, sense of humor and honest expression through personal stories makes this show a ‘must listen’ for parents who are genuinely looking for help to connect with their kids, and improve the quality of their relationships.

Episode Date
#151- "When In Doubt, Don't Tap Out"
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In this episode, David and Heid discuss how to handle parenting fatigue and how it differs from being tired of being a parent!
May 06, 2021
#150- "I Want My Kids To Show Appreciation"
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In this episode, David and Heidi break down the best ways to get your kids to show appreciation for all that you do for them and how to get them to start doing it while they are young!
Apr 29, 2021
#149- "Don't Fight Sarcasm with Sarcasm"
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David and Heidi build on last week's episode of kids being anti-fragile and when to allow them to be anti-fragile. This goes into when you should and shouldn't use sarcasm with your kids and the repercussions of fighting sarcasm with sarcasm.
Apr 22, 2021
#148- "Knowing When Our Child/Teen Needs To Be Anti-Fragile"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about when do you as a parent let your kids go through a difficult time because they are antifragile or when is it too much for them and you have to jump in.

Join Our Patreon Here: www.patreon.com/lightthefight
Apr 15, 2021
#147- "3 Year Anniversary/Light The Fight 3.0"
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We can't believe it has been 3 years!! In this episode, we take the time to thank all of you, apologize to all of you, and let you know what we are doing as a Light The Fight 3.0 to make sure we are more available to you and provide the resources you need/have been asking for!

www.patreon.com/lightthefight
Apr 08, 2021
#146- "Shame 3.0- Have You No Shame?"
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In this episode, David talks about how once you are grounded how shame can be used as a tool, how the shame we have for ourselves can be used differently and affect us differently than being shamed by others.

We recommend listening to our previous guilt vs. shame episodes #002, #003, and #012!
Apr 01, 2021
#145- "Part of Being Motivated is Being Afraid of the Right Things"
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In this episode, David and Heidi take a deep dive in discussing ways to help your kids be motivated and making sure they are motivated by the right things.
Mar 25, 2021
#144- "Don't Freak Out- Sunset High Q&A"
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In this episode, David and Heidi answer some of the overflow questions from the Don't Freak Out Event done on 3.11 with Sunset High.
Mar 18, 2021
#143- "Don't Freak Out Lehi Jr. High Q&A"
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In this episode, David and Heidi answer questions from our first Don't Freak Out event in over a year! Heidi also discusses her Hot Topic of the week being the Oprah interview with Meghan Markle.
Mar 11, 2021
#142- "Using YouTube To Help Your Kids"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss how to use YouTube to help your kids, why it works, what David has learned teaching in his class, and why he launched a Mr. Koz Channel

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKV0RedPp3uajZFysegygrQ
Mar 04, 2021
#141- "How to Support Someone Who Has Depression?"
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"The conversation doesn't end after the conversation is over"

In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how to support people who have depression, are going through a depressive time in their life, and how conversations don't just end once the words are done being said but can and need to continue in order to support others.

Thank you to Tricia in Austin, TX for helping spark the conversation for this episode!
Feb 25, 2021
#140- "Looking to the Future"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how we can lose sleep over the future and our kids future and what we can do to control it.
Feb 18, 2021
#139- "If Only Love Were Enough"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss how sometimes you need more than just love in your relationships.
Feb 11, 2021
138-* "Full-Time Parent Part-Time Friend"
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In this epsiode, David breaksdown ways on how to be able to be friendly with your kids so they are more likely to open up to you and trust they can have deep conversations with you.
Feb 07, 2021
#137- "Complaining vs Venting Vs. Processing"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the differences are between complaining, venting, and processing. They also share the ripple effect due to the Social Health Curriculum and Orrin Hatch Foundation Webinar.

OP Ed Article
https://www.deseret.com/opinion/2021/1/28/22244917/the-fight-against-suicide-starts-in-the-classroom-suicide-awareness-prevention-utah-schools
Jan 29, 2021
#136- "Social Health Ambassador"
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In this episode, David and Hiedi talk about the Orrin Hatch Foundation webinar call on the new suicide prevention number, social health, and being a social health ambassador.
Jan 15, 2021
#135- "Social Health Curriculum"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about their holidays, what Herriman High School is doing for their students via a Social Health Curriculum, and an exciting event David and Heidi are apart of this Monday, Jan. 11 register and be apart of it here!

https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_lUq6rV-yT_uIWkzcyPmsOQ
Jan 07, 2021
Throwback Episode #088- "Holiday Spending and The Gift of Conversation"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the stress of holiday spending and how it can affect the relationship with your kids when it comes to gift-giving. David gives you a hack on how to give the gift of conversation and how to not let your kids become disappointed over money.
Dec 19, 2020
#134- "Handling The Holidays"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the long journey of trying to find resources in Mental Health, how to handle the holidays, and how to use the tool "Mic Drop"
Dec 10, 2020
#133- "Connection Before Concern 2.0"
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In this episode, David and Heidi take a deeper dive into the tool, "Connection Before Concern"
Dec 04, 2020
#132- "Time Machine 2.0"
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In this episode, David and Heidi are back together!! They discuss when feeling your feelings goes wrong and how to avoid the time machine emotions.
Nov 20, 2020
Throwback Episode #008- "First Responder"
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Nov 12, 2020
#131- "PSA- Political Switzerland"
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In this episode, David breaks down ways to help avoid the drama of the political drama with your interpersonal relationships.
Nov 05, 2020
Throwback Episode #032-"Drake, Tupac, and Expiration Dates"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the rapper Drake and how Heidi's son showed her the music video for his song "God's Plan" and how it made her emotional. David refers back to Tupac's "Dear Mama" and how you can't take a screen shot and label an artist by one song.
Oct 29, 2020
#130- "When You Relate It Kills The Hate"
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In this episode, David is back for a quick message and some pointers on how to handle those with harsh opinions and how to find common ground with them.
Oct 22, 2020
#129- The Evolution of Suicide Prevention"
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In this episode, Heidi is joined by Taryn Aiken Hiatt, Area Director for the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention, and they discuss the way they met, the evolution of suicide prevention. Taryn tells her story of how she got into suicide prevention.
Oct 15, 2020
#128- "Listen, Learn, and Love"
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In this podcast, Heidi is joined by Richard Ostler, they discuss the difficulties that can come up when your child makes decisions that go against your beliefs.
Oct 08, 2020
#127- "Listening to Your Body"
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In this episode, Heidi is joined by Georgia Anderson (@georgiaandersoncoaching and www.georgiaandersoncoaching.com) where they talk about different ways to connect with your body to better understand your emotions.
Oct 01, 2020
Throwback Episode #002- "Guilt Vs. Shame"
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Throwback episode! One of the key fundamental principles here at Light The Fight is being able to recognize shame and how it can affect us on the day to day and especially in our parenting.


As a 40-something, mother-of-five … Heidi was surprised to learn that there was a major difference between “guilt” and “shame”. In episode 2, Heidi explains how learning about this distinction was a major light bulb moment, and opened her understanding to not only her kid’s struggles… but also her own. David explains what he calls “the shame game”, and discusses 2 kinds of vulnerability. Learn how to diffuse the power of shame through opening up and talking about it.
Sep 25, 2020
#126- "The Social Dilemma"
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In this episode, David and the producer Brandon discuss the new Netflix Documentary "The Social Dilemma" while Heidi is out recovering from a medical procedure.

Watch the Documentary here: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224?s=i&trkid=13747225
Sep 17, 2020
#125- "Suicide Prevention Day"
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In this episode, Heidi is joined by Brandon, the producer, as David is out sick, to discuss world suicide prevention day and ways to have pre prevention before you are in crisis.
Sep 12, 2020
#123- "Self-Compassion"
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In this episode, Heidi breaks down the book Indistractable by Nir Eyal and how we could all use a little more self compassion.
Aug 27, 2020
#122- "Avoiding back to school blow up"
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In this episode, David goes solo with a quick tool of how to avoid back to school blowups with your kids.
Aug 20, 2020
#121- "How do you manage your mental health as a parent?"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the Instagram poll Heidi ran on her social media page asking if parents know how to manage their own mental health.
Aug 14, 2020
#120- "5 Months Since Lockdown"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how it has been almost exactly 5 months since we went into lockdown and how life has changed. They answer listener questions about the current situation and how to support their family and themselves.
Aug 06, 2020
#119- "Body Language as a Parent"
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In this episode, David and Heid break down the importance of body language and give an example of how the kids respond.
Jul 31, 2020
#118- "How to Parent and Work From Home"
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In this episode, David answers questions from listeners on the best way to manage working from home as a parent.
Jul 24, 2020
#117- "5 Years"
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In this episode, Heidi and David discuss the grieving and learning process that has happened in the past five years since Heidi's son Cory's passing.
Jul 16, 2020
#116- "Do Something so You Don't Feel Like Nothing"
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In this episode, David gives a breakdown of ways to help with Depression and using power thoughts to overcome questioning/victim thoughts.
Jul 09, 2020
#115- "How to Handle Argumentative Family Members"
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In this episode, David and Heidi answer the emailed in the question of, "How to handle Argumentative Family Members?"
Jul 02, 2020
#114- "Resolving Grief"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the current stressors that are going on in their life's and how certain things can bring up trauma from the past and the way Heidi is handling it is showing signs of resolving grief.
Jun 25, 2020
#113- "The 50-50"
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In this episode, David breaks down the tool of 50-50.
Jun 18, 2020
Throwback Episode #013- Assertive Vulnerability vs. Victim Vulnerability
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David and Heidi are in need of a mental health week and will be taking this week off from recording. However, and we wanted to make sure that we got you all an episode on something relative.

Enjoy a deeper dive into vulnerability!
Jun 11, 2020
#112- "Change Nothing and Nothing Changes"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the recent world events and how this relates and impacts your family.
Jun 04, 2020
#111- "Filling the Social Bucket Without Work and School?"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss how to make social a priority when you are used to getting it while working/at school. We need social now more than ever and now we have to make it an item on the to-do list more so than before.
May 28, 2020
#110- "Public Parenting Announcement aka PPA"
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In this episode of the podcast, David gives you a quick Public Parenting Announcement of now is the best time to evolve your family business. Business across the world are being forced to evolve to survive these unique times and you need to do the same with your family business.
May 21, 2020
#109- "Mental Health Awarness"
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In this weeks episode, Heidi discusses the importance of Mental Health Awareness, how it has affected her, and what new systems and coalitions are in place to help.
May 15, 2020
#108- "Semi-Pro Adult 101"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss what it means for teachers to be semi-pro adults, how to help your semi-pro become an adult, and answer listener questions,
Apr 30, 2020
#107- "The And 2.0"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the balance of feeling productive, lazy, and/or relaxed during the shutdown that leads them down the conversation of leaving room for the tool "The And" and how it applies now more than ever.
Apr 23, 2020
#106- "The Role of Siblings"
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In this episode of the podcast, David and Heidi reflect on Heidi's late son's, Cory, birthday and leads down a path of what role do siblings play in the family.
Apr 16, 2020
#105- "Your Kids Should be Project Managers"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how the family has to evolve during these unique times and David shares how making your kids project managers of the family business might just be the thing to keep everyone sane.
Apr 09, 2020
#104- "Back with another Light The Lockdown"
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In this episode, David and Heidi check-in during the lockdown, talk about how their experience is going, what their families are going through, and how they think its effecting society.
Apr 02, 2020
#103- "Light The Lockdown"
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David is Launching Virutal Parent Support Groups via Zoom! For more details go to www.davidkozlowski.com/groups/parentsupport

In this episode, David talks about the quarantine, answers questions from the Instagram audience, and shares some things you can do to get through these unique times.

David's Parent Teen Partnership Online Training is now on sale for $49 for a limited time! For more info visits: https://ptpagreement.com/facebook
Mar 26, 2020
#102- "Pre-Prevention with Heidi"
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In this episode, Heidi breaks down her presentation of suicide prevention that she gave to a group of youth leaders this past week with the focus not being on signs but on Pre-Prevention.
Mar 19, 2020
#101- "What to do When Your Child is the Forgotten Friend?"
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In this episode, Heid and David break down what you can do as a parent when your kids are having a hard time making friends, getting best friends, or being the forgotten friend.

Still Trip'n #029 Smile Experiment Episode - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/029-the-smile-experiment/id1450586985?i=1000447537453
Mar 12, 2020
#100- “Two Year Review, What’s Changed, and What We Have Learned”
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In this episode, David and Heidi recap what’s happened at Light The Fight over the past two years, what’s changed in society, and what’s changed for them personally.
Mar 05, 2020
#099- "Mom Loneliness"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how as parents you can become lonely as your kids get older, you lose friends, or get caught up in your day to day life as a parent.
Feb 27, 2020
#098- "Social Anxiety To Social Autonomy"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss what the opposite of social anxiety is, how Heidi struggles with social anxiety, and how to overcome social anxiety and learn to have social autonomy.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf

$99 flash sale on David's new E-course!! ptpagreement.com/ltf
Feb 20, 2020
#097- "Setting Emotional Boundaries with Your Kids/Co-Parenting Q&A"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how to handle situations with your kids when they are just flat out being mean to you and you need to set a boundary and how to handle situations with your kids when they are struggling with the Co-Parenting situation.

$99 flash sale on David's new E-course!! ptpagreement.com/ltf
Feb 13, 2020
#096- "Teaching Others to Don't Freak out"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the growth of Heidi and how she's learning how to not freak out which is now allowing her to teach others to not freak out. Listen to find out how this applies to you and how to take that next step of teaching others to "Don't Freak Out" inside of your family.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf

$99 flash sale on David's new E-course!! ptpagreement.com/ltf
Feb 06, 2020
#095- "Stories Sustain You"
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We dedicate this episode to those who have lost friends, family members, loved ones, etc.

In this episode, Heid shares ideas on how to handle loss and talks about the best ways people could help support her when Cory passed away. What helped her the and most people the most are the stories.

Vote Light The Fight for the Family Is Awards online now at https://awards.family.is/family-is-awards-2020

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf

$99 flash sale on David's new E-course!! ptpagreement.com/ltf
Jan 30, 2020
#094- "H.O.P.E (Healthy Optimism Planning and Executing)"
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In this episode, David discusses what he means by hope is not a strategy and Heidi talks about her focus for the new year!

Vote Light The Fight for the Family Is Awards online now at https://awards.family.is/family-is-awards-2020

$99 flash sale on David's new E-course!! ptpagreement.com/ltf
Jan 23, 2020
#093- "Breaking The Ice"
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In this episode, David and Heidi breakdown the importance of how breaking the ice the right way can open up a conversation with your kids.

Vote Light The Fight for the Family Is Awards online now at https://awards.family.is/family-is-awards-2020

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf

$50.00 off David's new E-course!! bit.ly/LTF_PTP
Jan 16, 2020
#092- "Emotional Dependency Vs. Independence"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the importance of understanding the difference between being emotionally dependent and emotionally independent.

Vote Light The Fight for the Family Is Awards online now at https://awards.family.is/family-is-awards-2020

Emotional Dependency (Subconscious)- When a person has excessive or extreme hope and desire to have things or people bring them emotional comfort and stability because they feel hopeless or unable to give themselves the type of comfort or stability wanted. Often the person believes or expects that other people or things have to act or behave in a manner that will reassure them that they are worth something because their true sense of SELF is not present or has not been trained to reassure themselves and recognize that they have significant self-worth.

Emotional Independence (Conscious)- When a person is free from feeling responsible to be the caretaker for other people's emotions and actions to maintain a relationship with others. Also, when a person is not relying upon others or things to rescue them from emotional distress to feel capable of handling difficult situations. Emotionally Independent people can allow others to explore and exercise their freedom without giving in to the excessive desire to rescue others from potentially harmful decisions or situations.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf

$50.00 off David's new E-course!! bit.ly/LTF_PTP
Jan 09, 2020
#091- "Recapping the Lessons Learned From Light The Fight"
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$50.00 off David's new E-course!! bit.ly/LTF_PTP

In this episode, Heidi is solo as David is out of town. Heidi breaks down the biggest and most helpful lessons she and others have learned from Light The Fight. Be sure to check out

#010- "The And" https://www.spreaker.com/episode/14574470
#017- "Connection vs. Concern" https://www.spreaker.com/episode/15056821
We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Jan 02, 2020
#090- "Year in Review/Goal Setting"
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$50.00 off David's new E-course!! bit.ly/LTF_PTP

In this episode, David and Heidi recap their year and talk about the best way to goal set heading into 2020.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Dec 26, 2019
#089- "Is Faith the Opposite of Fear?"
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Link to David's brand new online training for parenting teens: http://bit.ly/PTP_LTF

In this episode, David and Heidi break down what would be the opposite of fear-based parenting? Is it faith or is it something else that wouldn't come to us naturally?

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Dec 19, 2019
#088- "Holiday Spending and The Gift of Conversation"
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Link to David's brand new online training for parenting teens: http://bit.ly/PTP_LTF

In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the stress of holiday spending and how it can affect the relationship with your kids when it comes to gift-giving. David gives you a hack on how to give the gift of conversation and how to not let your kids become disappointed over money.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Dec 12, 2019
#087- "Heidi and Her Husband Eric"
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Link to David's brand new online training for parenting teens: http://bit.ly/PTP_LTF

In this episode, Heidi is joined by her husband Eric as he is filling in from David. Heidi and Eric talk about how they communicate with each other, why Eric is able to connect with the kids so well, and what Eric has learned and applied to be the one to connect and have his friend group open up about their lives.


We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Dec 05, 2019
#086- "How to Speak About Stigmatized Topics"
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Link to David's brand new online training for parenting teens: http://bit.ly/PTP_LTF

In this episode, David and Heidi talk about Heidi's latest speaking engagement, the holidays, and how to speak about stigmatized topics by taking the approach of speaking as if someone close to you was in that group and would hear.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Nov 28, 2019
#085- "The State of the Union Address- Holiday Version"
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Link to David's brand new online training for parenting teens: http://bit.ly/PTP_LTF

In this episode, David wants to hold his own "The State of The Union Address" specifically on this holiday season and how to flip the script on how the holidays have been with your family.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Nov 21, 2019
#084- "Hollywood in the Home"
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Link to David's brand new online training for parenting teens: http://bit.ly/PTP_LTF

In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the effects of having "Hollywood" in the home via social media. They give you the tools on how to help your kids navigate this new world and what the fix is for your kids.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Nov 14, 2019
#083- "Going From Problem Child To Partner"
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Link to David's brand new online training for parenting teens: http://bit.ly/PTP_LTF

In this episode, David and Heidi talk about what you need to do as a parent to take your problem child and make them your partner. It may surprise you, and that child can be the key to your family business being as successful as possible.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Nov 07, 2019
#082- "Parent Teen Partnership Explained"
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Link to David's brand new online training for parenting teens: http://bit.ly/PTP_LTF

In this episode, David explains the parent teen partnership. If you have not heard of this go back and listen to episode #050! David answer a lot of the common questions that parents have with this agreement.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Oct 31, 2019
#081- "How to Reset Your Reputation as a Parent"
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In this episode, David and Heidi breakdown what you need to do to be able to reset your reputation as a parent. We have received many comments asking the question, "Where were you 5, 10, and/or 20 years ago?! I needed you then because my kids already think I am a certain way." This episode gives you the tools to change the narrative and adjectives your kids have for you as a parent.
We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Oct 24, 2019
#80- "How to Play it Cool Instead of Trying to be Cool"
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In this episode, David breaks down the art of playing it cool with your kids causing them to be more willing to see you as a trusted adult who they can rely on when things go bad.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Oct 17, 2019
#079- "Rapid Fire Questions"
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In this episode, David goes rapid fire with questions related to ways to hang out with your kids as a mom, what to do when your teen tells you they are above the rules, and more.
Oct 10, 2019
#078- "Religion or Relationship"
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In this episode, David and Heidi tackle the elephant in the room for a lot of families... religion. We discuss how to handle when your kids say they don't want to go to church, how to handle the conversation, how to influence them to get back to church, and how to save the relationship.


We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Oct 03, 2019
#077- "Question and Answer"
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In this episode, David and Heidi answer your questions from the Heber Don't Freak Out Event and the Mountain Creek Middle School Connection Currency Event. We have a range of questions about how to trust a teen again when you know they are lying, when do you share with your kids about the family history of depression, and when do/how do you share with your kids your mistakes growing up without them justifying their bad actions.


We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Sep 26, 2019
#076- "Money=Trust, Food=Love, and Home=Safety"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how the things in our daily life such as, food, money, and shelter, play a bigger role in our relationships than we realize. Especially the relationship with our partners.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Sep 19, 2019
#075- "World Suicide Prevention Day"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the impact of World Suicide Prevention Day, discuss how what you are learning is actually suicide prevention, and David breaks down his "Stages" of suicide prevention. IF YOU ARE A FIRST TIME LISTENER TO THE PODCAST WE RECOMMEND LISTENING TO A FEW OF OUR OTHER EPISODES BEFORE THIS ONE.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Sep 12, 2019
#074-"From An Administrators Eyes"
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In this episode, Heidi invited Mrs. Julie Scherzinger, an Assistant Principal and licensed counselor, to join the show while David is out of town. They talk about the unique relationship Heidi and Julie have, why Julie thinks this is a resource everyone needs to hear, and what Julie and her administrative staff are doing to create a safe/welcoming environment for their students this up coming school year.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Sep 05, 2019
#073- "OG Therapy"
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In this episode, David is joined by one of his former college football teammates "Juice". "Juice" is better know these days as Mr. Peterson who is an assistant principal for a local alternative high school. David and "Juice" sit down and discuss the unique dichotomy that is required in today's day and age to build relationships with teens, keep those teens safe, and be on the same page as the teenagers parents. With over 40+ years of experience working with teens between David and Mr. Peterson they give you some very actionable tools for your tool belt to help with your teens school success.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Aug 29, 2019
#072- "Don't Judge a Teen by Their Profile Picture"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss why we shouldn't be judging teens by their profile picture and when we do judge the example it sets for our kids. David also gives you tools on how to give your kids friends the benefit of the doubt when they look a little different than what you are accustomed to.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Aug 22, 2019
#071- "Older Kids, Yet Young Adults"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss how to help your older kids find a purpose and get them to successfully launch.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Aug 15, 2019
#070- "What Are You Modeling?"
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In this episode, David and Heidi recap our latest workshop, discuss how what you model to your kids can make them feel like they are the reason for ALL of your frustration and anger, and discuss some unique things that happened at the workshop between a couple.

We have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf to help provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf
Aug 08, 2019
#069- "Back To School"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the stresses of going back to school, the biggest worry for most parents, and what you can do to make it an easier transition back into the school habit.

We are happy to announce that we have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf They provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf

Workshop Dates August 2nd and 3rd! Link to sign up: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events
Aug 01, 2019
#068- "When Feeling Your Feelings Goes Wrong"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the need of being able to feel the feelings that you are going through. They also discuss how it can go wrong, what to do when it goes wrong, and gives you a three step system to help face, replace, and connect with your feelings.

We are happy to announce that we have partnered with http://www.TeenCounseling.com/ltf They provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at http://www.teencounseling.com/ltf

Workshop Dates August 2nd and 3rd! Link to sign up: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events
Jul 25, 2019
#067- "Helping Your Kids Make Decisions"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about helping your kids make tough decisions, when not to make the decision for them, and when its the right time to let the kid make the decision on their own.

We are happy to announce that we have partnered with TeenCounseling.com/ltf They provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at teencounseling.com/ltf

Workshop Dates August 2nd and 3rd! Link to sign up: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events
Jul 18, 2019
#066- "Four Years Later"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about life after Cory's passing four years ago.

We are happy to announce that we have partnered with TeenCounseling.com/ltf They provide access to thousands of counselors to help get your teen the help that they need!

It’s more affordable than traditional counseling and financial aid is available.
Visit teencounseling.com/ltf and help your teen take charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional

For Light The Fight listeners get 10% off your first month at teencounseling.com/ltf

Workshop Dates August 2nd and 3rd! Link to sign up: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events
Jul 11, 2019
#065- "Sexting"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the world of sexting, how it can effect your teens, and how to have the right conversations about sexting.
Jul 04, 2019
#064- "Platitude"
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In this episode, David and Heidi breakdown why there are so many platitude's out there in the world and why we rely on them to help defuse situations.
Jul 04, 2019
#063- "Don't Hate Congratulate"
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August workshop dates have been announced!! Link to sign up: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events



Heidi is out of town this week!! Don't Freak Out though David gives you some tips and tricks on how to have your partner/spouse bring down the amount of criticizing comments.
Jul 03, 2019
#062- "Partnering 2.0"
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In this episode, David and Heidi breakdown the importance of having partnerships with our kids and how to start having the conversations about partnerships.



August workshop dates have been announced!! Link to sign up: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events
Jul 03, 2019
#061- "Oldest Child Relationship 2.0”
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n this episode, David and Heidi jump into the topic of the same sex oldest child relationship and why it's so unique.
Jul 03, 2019
#060- "You Don't Have To Deliver Bad News In A Bad Way"
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In this episode, David and Heidi break down that sometimes you have to deliver bad news to your kids and it can make you the bad guy if you do it the wrong way. They give you some suggestions and ideas on how to deliver bad news/punishments to your kids.

Link to youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_S4VcTXzF4&t=54s
May 30, 2019
#059- "Summer Time"
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In this episode, David is flying solo and comes at you with what you should do this summer time with all the hard work you and your kids have done during the school year.
May 22, 2019
#058- "What Language To Use At Home?"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the Time Magazine's Mental Health Awareness Magazine and brings up the conversation on what vocabulary to use with those around you.
May 15, 2019
#057- "Mother's Day Service Announcement"
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In this epsiode, Heidi and David discuss the Mom guilt that comes with Mother's Day and David gives a unique approach on how to handle it.
May 08, 2019
#056- "Grieving Changes In Life"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the stages of grieving in relation to major changes in life and having to pay respects to your former self.
Apr 24, 2019
#055 "Question and Answers 2.0"
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In this episode, David and Heidi rapid fire some your questions! They answer questions about how to get a spouse to therapy, what do you do when you don't want your kid to hang out with a certain friend, and more!
Apr 17, 2019
#054- "Statements Vs. Questions 2.0"
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In this episode, David and Heidi recap our workshop, Heidi talks about bridging her two worlds, and we go more in-depth on statements vs. questions.
Apr 10, 2019
#053- "To Share or Not to Share?"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss when its good to share what is stressing you out with your kids and when not to as well as how much is too much.
Apr 04, 2019
#052- "Question and Answer"
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In this epsiode, David and Heidi recap our Don't Freak Out Event at Herriman High School and rapid fire questions from how to discipline a depressed child, to vaping, and more.

Use discount code WORKSHOP50 for 50 dollars off your workshop order for April 5th and 6th! Expires March 31st! https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events
Mar 27, 2019
#051- "Jumpstart"
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In this episode, Heidi and David breakdown what the Jumpstart is and how it can help get your kids going in the morning!

Link to our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events
Mar 20, 2019
#050- "Parent Teen Partnership/Agreement"
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In this episode, David and Heidi breakdown the Parent Teen Partnership/Agreement that has been eluded too multiple times throughout the podcast.

They break down the 3 essential parts in the agreement for both the teens and the parents.

Link to our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events

Link to the September episode of Still Trip'n: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/still-tripn/id1450586985?mt=2
Mar 13, 2019
#049- "Self-Shaming"
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In this episode, Heidi takes over as David is out of town and talks about self-shaming, what the opposite is, and what her personal expriences have taught her.

Our next workshop has been announced! April 5th and 6th as well as May 3rd and 4th!

https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop?category=events
Mar 06, 2019
#048- "Its Been One Year!"
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Its official! We have been doing the podcast for one year! David and Heidi share with you some of crazy things over the past year.
Feb 27, 2019
#047- "How to Instill Confidence in Your Kids"
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In this episode, Heidi talks about the emotions she had after telling the story of "Stabbing the Balls" on last week's episode. She may or may not have overthought about it while listening to a murder podcast. We also discuss how you can instill confidence in your kids. While also, diving deep on how where some of your kids greatest insecurities and lack of confidence can come from.
Feb 20, 2019
#046- "Don't Stab The Balls"
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In this episode, David and Heidi tell the story of behind the story of "Don't Stab The Balls", talk about David's confession on Studio 5, and do a Q&A at the end of the episode!
Feb 13, 2019
#045- "Don't Freak Out Event Recap/Q & A"
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In this epsiode of the podcast, David and Heidi recap the "Don't Freak Out Event" that we put on with 1-800-Contacts and do a full episode answering peoples questions!
Feb 07, 2019
#044- "PSA- Parenting Service Announcement From David"
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David takes a moment to give parents a PSA.
Jan 30, 2019
#043- "From Parenting To Partnership"
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In this episode, David and Heidi recap how Heidi's crafting conference went after #Hugs4Heidi was launched. David and Heidi also go into a little bit of whats going to be talked about at the 1-800-contacts community event on Jan. 31.


Sign up for our workshop at: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop-supporter-packs-workshop/feb2019slc
Jan 23, 2019
#042- "#Hugs4Heidi"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the power of hugs, their event at Bingham, and ask for a little bit of free therapy from the listeners!
Jan 16, 2019
#041- "Year in Review/Building Bridges"
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss what the past calendar year has been like for the both of them and the influence this podcast has had on them.

They also discuss building bridges to your goals instead of having a New Years Resolution.

Supporter Packs and our next workshop registration are live on our site! www.lightthefight.com
Jan 04, 2019
#040- "Turning Pain Into Purpose"
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In this episode, we check in with Heidi to see how her holiday experience had gone and also discuss turning pain into purpose after an unfortunate event in our community.
Dec 28, 2018
#039- "Do Your Kids Know You Love Them?"
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In this episode, Heidi goes solo and talks about ways to show kids you love them and allowing them to have the space to try and fit in and figure out who they are.
Dec 19, 2018
The DMs #028- "What To Do When There Is An Absent Parent?"
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In this episode of The DMs, David gives suggestions and ideas on how to support your kids when there is an absent parent and how a new parent (step) should fill their new role in the family.
Dec 13, 2018
The DMs #027- "When You Don't Like Who Your Kid Is Dating"
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In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi give you some suggestions and ides on how to handle not liking who your kids are dating especially when you have to see them during the holiday season.
Dec 11, 2018
#038- "The Other Side Of The Coin"
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In this episode, David and Heidi give their highs and lows, as well as, talk about how they wish that there was a machine that could allow you to feel what your situation would be like if it were "Healthy and Happy" when you are going through a rough situation.
Dec 06, 2018
#037- "Handling The Holidays"
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In this episode, Heidi gives her view on the holiday's, how things have changed the past few years, and gives suggestions on what she would tell someone in her situation. David and Heidi give suggestions on how to handle the holiday season and the changing of traditions.
Dec 01, 2018
The DMs #026- "How To Support My Struggling Adopted Teen?"
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In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi give you some actionable tools to help with your struggling adopted teen. David gives some personal insight as he was adopted and can relate to the situation.
Nov 28, 2018
#036- "How to Have "THE" Talk with Your Kids"
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In this episode, Heidi talks about her thoughts on the last podcast Brandon and David did on pornography and the Fight The New Drug Documentary, Brain, Heart, World (brainheartworld.org to watch)

Heidi and David also discuss how to have THE talk with your kids. Not the Sex talk but the talk about pornography as our kids today are being exposed to pornography first and not the biological sex talk from the world.
Nov 21, 2018
#035- "Pornography 2.0"
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In this episode, we talk about Fight The New Drugs mini Docuseries "Brain Heart World", discuss more about pornography, and how pornography can affect people daily.

You can watch the film for free for the month of November at www.brainheartworld.org

Download the Fortify App at www.joinfortify.com

You can find more helpful resources at www.ftnd.org
Nov 15, 2018
The DMs #025- "What Is The Right Amount Of Phone Monitoring For Your Child?"
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In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi talk about and answer the question about how much parenting needs to be done with phones.
Nov 10, 2018
#034- "Villain, Victor, and Victim"
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In this episode, David and Heidi recap our workshop from this past weekend, share some insight from Heidi's brother who attended the event and David explains how him working with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) clients had helped him create the Villain, Victor, and Victim which can be used and with your teens.
Nov 07, 2018
The DMs #024- "How To Win Influence Over Your Kids?"
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In this episode of The DMs, Heidi and David give you some suggestions and ideas on how to win influence with your kids.
Nov 02, 2018
#033- "Survey Says...."
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In this episode, David and Heidi discuss how Dinner with David went, how to influence your kid, and we talk about doing a survey with your family about the likes and dislikes of your family!! Scary thought we know!

We ONLY have TWO spots open for our event this Friday and Saturday!!

Sign up here! https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slc
Oct 31, 2018
The DMs #023- "What To Do When You And Your Spouse Aren't On The Same Page With Parenting?"
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In this episode of The DMs, David talks about some ways to help parents get on the same page with parenting styles.
Oct 26, 2018
#032-"Drake, Tupac, and Expiration Dates"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the rapper Drake and how Heidi's son showed her the music video for his song "God's Plan" and how it made her emotional. David refers back to Tupac's "Dear Mama" and how you can't take a screen shot and label an artist by one song.

They also talk about how relationships have expiration dates and how you have to update those relationships, adjust your expectation, and how when you elevate expectations you have to elevate the relationship.

Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Oct 24, 2018
#031- "Sarcasm"
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In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how sarcasm can hurt others and how sarcasm is used inside of the family dynamic. It may be meant for fun but sometimes it isn't used for fun...

Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slc

Sign up for Dinner With David Oct. 25th: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/dinnerdavidoct

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Oct 18, 2018
The DMs #022 "What To Do When Your Kid Wants To Quit Something?"
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In this episode of the DMs, David gives some suggestions and ideas on what to do when your kid wants to quit and quit piano specifically.

He failed to mention but he no longer knows how to play the piano after three years of lessons!
Oct 11, 2018
The DMs #021- "How To Support Your Child When They Are Affected By Suicide/Attempt in Friend Group?"
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In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi tackle the question of "How To Support Your Child When They Are Affected By Suicide/Attempt in Friend Group?"

"In this situation you have to take of the hat of mom and dad and being an expert. You have to be the supporter they need in that moment"- David

Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Oct 05, 2018
#030- "Face It, Replace It, and Take Action"
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Heidi talks about her son coming home after being gone for two years, gives her opinion on the past two DMs (#19 and #20), and discusses with David another tool of Face it, replace it, and take action.

Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Oct 04, 2018
The DMs #020- "How To Regain Trust With Your Teen After Years Of Questions?
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In this episode of the DMs, David dives into some easy suggestions on to regain your teens trust after years of questions even though you have been using STATEMENTS!

Rememeber, your teen is secretly rooting for you to be the cool parent!
Here is the link to sign up for our workshop Nov 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Sep 28, 2018
The DMs #019- "What To Do When Your Teen Becomes Violent?"
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In this episode of The DMs, David discuss with you the steps and options that you have when a teen becomes violent and always to err on the side of safety of the family.

Here is the link to sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Sep 26, 2018
#029- "Going From Numb To Feeling/The Gang Is Back!"
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David and Heidi are finally both back in town!! They give us a report on how their trips went as well as what they learned. Heidi also discusses what it was like to go from numb to feeling again.

Plus we have a special announcement at the end of the episode!
Sep 20, 2018
#028- "Heidi's Fitness Experience"
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Heidi talks about her two week Movara Fitness Resort experience, what she has learned and what she is going to be taking away from these past two weeks.
Sep 13, 2018
#027- "Curiosity Motivates The Cat"
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In this episode, David goes in depth on how to use curiosity as a tool as well as he talks about his story with Trey and how he first discovered that using curiosity was an asset.

As for the title, in previous episodes David has referenced using curiosity as a tool and teens as cats.
Sep 05, 2018
#026- "Where Did Heidi Go?"
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In this episode, Heidi gives us an update on where she is at while she faces some personal goals down at Movara Fitness Resort
Sep 02, 2018
#025- "Following Through On Your Kids Safety"
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In this episode, David is a one man show and he goes in-depth on how to follow through with your kids safety and how to deal with situations involving but not limited to; bullying, harassment, assault, teachers, schools, coaches, organizations, etc. David also give his personal experiences of him "blowing the whistle" on organizations in his professional career. As well as, the personal situation he is dealing with surrounding his daughter and her former school.
Aug 29, 2018
The DMs #018- "How To Support Your Kids To Have The Best School Year Yet?"
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What a timely DM!! In this DM, David and Heidi give some suggestions and ideas on how to support your kids to have the best school year yet! Including the older ones going off to college!
Aug 24, 2018
#024- "Exclamation Point Statements"
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In this episode, David opens up and talks about how he handles the emotional stress of his work and what actions he takes to help keep his "Emotional Cardio" up.

David and Heidi also dive into the topic of exclamation statements, explain what they are, and how to handle ones you may hear from your children such as, "I hate my life!"
Aug 22, 2018
The DMs #017- "What To Do When Your Kids Stay In Their Room All Day?"
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In this episode David and Heidi answer the tough question of, "My child/teen checks the boxes and is a great kid but they stay in their room all day and doesn't like spending time with the family.. Is this normal? What can I do to change this?"
Aug 19, 2018
#023- "The Studio Got Up and Walked Away/The Power of 'Yet'"
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After taking a week hiatus we are back in the studio recording! We cannot confirm nor deny if the studio got up and walked away from us or if we just forgot to record....

In this episode, we talk about how our first workshop went and the power of "Yet".
The word "Yet" can help us calm our brain, help us not freak out, and open us open to open ended options. The relationship with your kids may not be where you want it to be YET.....
Aug 15, 2018
The DMs #016- "How To Have A Better Relationship with Adult Children?"
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In this DM, David and Heidi discuss and give useful tips on how to have a better relationship with your adult children.

Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Aug 04, 2018
#022- "Cyberbullying"
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What is cyberbullying exactly? David and Heidi discuss cyberbullying, what it is, what cyber hurting is, what to do if your kid is the one bullying, and what to do when your kid is the one being bullied.

Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Aug 01, 2018
#021- "The Root Of Pornography Addiction"
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Pornography has become a multi-billion dollar industry that is very taboo, carries heavy stigmas, and shame. David explains in detail the root of porn addiction and some very powerful info to help people make sense of how it can affect people's lives, relationships, and how people can start to get a hold of this issue.

DM us your questions at lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

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Jul 26, 2018
The DMs #015- "How To Respond To Spouse's Social Media Usage?"
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In this episode David and Heidi tackle the question of how to respond to your spouse or anyone using "too much" social media and the best ways to approach the situation.

Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Jul 20, 2018
#020- “Three Years Since”
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In this episode, Heidi talks about hownits been three years since the passing of her son Cory. We also discuss what a safe place is and how they effect parenting.
Jul 17, 2018
The DMs #014- "How To Help Teens With The Question, 'What Are You Going To Do With Your Life?'"
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In this episode, we get our first DM question from a Teen! Teens are wanting to know how they should handle being asked by adults "What are you going to do with your life now that you are going to be a senior or just graduated?" Not only do we answer that question but we also give adults/parents the tools to better handle this situation for your teen and/or when you talk to other teens.

Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Jul 12, 2018
The DMs #013- "What To Do When Your Parent Doesn't Want To Help The Relationship?"
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In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi discuss ways to help you have a better relationship with a parent that is unwilling to work on the relationship and what expectations you should have.

Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slc

Email us questions at: lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com

Or find us on Social Media @lightthefight
Jul 08, 2018
#019- "Making Ripples"
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David and Heidi have a catch up after Heidi’s 2 week trip Downunder. They recap a really cool community connection event that took place in their community in conjunction with Chick-fil-A, and how amazing it was to see people come together. They also announce opening registration for their upcoming LIVE event called “Parenting 2018: Optimizing your influence as a Parent”. Get more info about what you will learn at that event! You can learn more and register at https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slc
Jul 05, 2018
The DMs #012- "What Age Is The Right Age For Cell Phones?
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In this DM, David answers the tough question of what the right age for a cell phone is. He also gives you tools you can implement right away before your child/teen even asks.
Jun 26, 2018
#018- "David Needs A Therapist"
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OH NO!! David needs a therapist?!? Since Heidi is out of the country, David takes this opportunity to tell you the name of the teen podcast, introduce himself, tell his life story, and why he became a therapist.. By the end of it you'll agree, David may need himself a therapist.
Jun 21, 2018
The DMs #011- "How The Highs and Lows Helped my Family"
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In this episode, we share the "Wins" of a mom who started using the highs, lows, and who the heck knows with her family! David and Heidi also expand on why the highs, lows, and who the heck knows works and why our brains need those three options.
Jun 19, 2018
#017- "Connection vs. Concern"
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In this episode, David and Heidi go more in-depth on the Instagram message from David on the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. As well as discussing the current situation of the mental health discussion.
Jun 15, 2018
The DMs #010- "What To Do When Family Is Criticizing Your Parenting?"
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David and Heidi breakdown skills and tools to help when family is criticizing your parenting skills.
Jun 11, 2018
#016- "The Oldest Child Relationship"
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Finally, David addresses the long awaited topic of “THE OLDEST CHILD”. In this episode, David shares what he has learned in his schooling, as well as his clinical experience about the unique relationship between the Father and his oldest Son, and the Mother and her oldest Daughter. Learn about how critical an optimized relationship is to overcome difficult cycles within families.
Jun 07, 2018
The DMs #009- "What To Do When You Are Having Trust Issues With Your Teen?"
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In DM #009, David confesses that this is a topic that he discusses with clients multiple times a week! “How can parents re-trust their teens?” You might be a little surprised to hear David’s advice.
Jun 04, 2018
The DMs #008- "How Do I Help My Teen/Kids With Anxiety?"
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David and Heidi get a DM asking on the best way to support teens and kids that are dealing with Anxiety. David gives some suggestions of what you can do to support your teens and kids figuring out what works best for them.
Jun 01, 2018
#015- "From Resisting To Evolving"
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Heidi shares her experience speaking at her community’s suicide awareness event, and how she has faced her own “resistance” and is seeking “Evolution” ... she also opens up about her first try at “video journaling”.
May 30, 2018
The DMs #007- "Talking About Cell Phones"
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In this 7th DM, David responds to the many questions about cell phones, and how dangerous they are? Instead of debating the dangers, or the addictions of cell phones + social media combo, he talks about how effective our approach is in talking to our kids about this touchy subject! This episode will give you some thoughts on how to discuss it in a more open way with your teens.

Social Media Video Link: https://youtu.be/PmEDAzqswh8
May 23, 2018
The DMs #006- "How To Help My Spouse Understand Mental Illness?"
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David and Heidi discuss how you can help someone understand the struggles you are going through and the struggles your kids are going through when they can't personally relate.

In this episode, David discusses the book, "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions" by Johann Hari

You can purchase that book here: https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Connections-Uncovering-Depression-Unexpected/dp/B078HSDZSQ/ref=tmm_aud_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
May 20, 2018
#014- "Mirrors- Staring At A Mirror W/ Cracks Can Make You Look Broken"
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This episode was originally filmed as part of a LIVE stream on Instagram and Facebook! David and Heidi discuss the concept of how we influence those around us by ourselves being MIRRORS that others see themselves in. How do we reflect back? How can we create a more positive reflection for those we come in contact with?
May 16, 2018
The DMs #005- "What to do When a Boy Threatens Suicide When Your Daughter Doesn't Like Him?"
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In this DM, David and Heidi are asked a very serious question. "What to do When a Boy Threatens Suicide When Your Daughter Doesn't Like Him?" We give three different options on how to handle this situation.

You can DM us at @lightthefight on social media, David @DavidKoz, Heidi @HeidiSwapp and you can email us at lightthefightpodcast@gmail.com
May 12, 2018
#013- "Assertive Vulnerability Vs Victim Vulnerability"
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Understanding the vital difference between “victim vulnerability” and “assertive vulnerability” is an absolute game changer in building relationships and creating connections. David explains (and demonstrates) the difference between the two types, giving an important clarity that can otherwise be misunderstood. Learn to spot examples of these two opposite approaches in your life, and how to become more ASSERTIVELY vulnerable in all your relationships, including yourself.

In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the Books "Extreme Ownership" by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin and "The Way of The Warrior Kid" by Jocko Willink.

To purchase Extreme Ownership: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1250183863/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=jocko20-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=1250183863&linkId=b647a7a20738130a540ea90deab4dfdb

To purchase The Way of The Warrior Kid: https://www.amazon.com/Marcs-Mission-Way-Warrior-Novel/dp/1250156793/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_3?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1250156793&pd_rd_r=3Q9W20GNFPTJ0SMPNRYW&pd_rd_w=O3H1R&pd_rd_wg=yo9GN&psc=1&refRID=3Q9W20GNFPTJ0SMPNRYW

Follow Light The Fight @lightthefight Heidi Swapp @heidiswapp and David Kozlowski @DavidKoz_
May 09, 2018
#012- "Guilt Vs. Shame 2.0"
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David and Heidi dig deeper into the Guilt vs. Shame concept! Specifically, about the power and importance of "Best Friending" yourself...
May 03, 2018
The DMs #004- "How to Encourage My Kid to Be Social in Person Instead of Digital?"
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In DM #004, Heidi reads a question from a mom who is concerned about her son’s "video game” to "real friends" ratio! David’s suggestion for approaching this very common issue, might not be what you expect! Would you believe David says “games first”?
May 01, 2018
#011- "Cheerleading"
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The natural inclination that we feel as parents is to SAVE our children from things that might cause them HURT and PAIN! In this episode, Heidi remembers some valuable advice that David gave to her in a session they had 3 years ago. This information was hard for Heidi to hear because she felt so hard-wired to protect her son from his own choices. It’s ok to allow our kids to experience the hurt and pain associated with their actions; instead of saving them from it, learn how and what the parent’s role is to support throughout the challenges our kids are facing.
Apr 27, 2018
The DMs #003- "What To Do With Siblings That Fight With Each Other?"
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David and Heidi respond to the DM’s! This time they discuss the struggle that happens between siblings! How do you get siblings to connect and communicate? David shares a great suggestion that you can start now to help build relationships in your family.
Apr 23, 2018
#010- "THE AND"
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In a world that demands to be defined as one or the other: “yes or no”, “right or wrong”, “true or false”, “up or down”, “good or bad”… Episode 10 discusses a third option.
Apr 19, 2018
#009- "Choosing To Evolve"
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Heidi brings a big question to David about helping anyone that is struggling with depression. However, she admits that the conversation doesn't go how she thought it would… and this episode really became an important discussion about how important it is to EVOLVE faster, and with more intention in making and building relationships.

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Apr 10, 2018
The DMs #002- "How Can I Motivate My Once Self-Motivated Child?"
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David and Heidi respond to the “DM’s”. This particular question has come in from several people… different situations and scenarios, but the question is very similar: how can I motivate my once self-motivated child? David’s advice goes hand in hand with the discussion from episode 8. Find out how to put your relationships first, and increase your influence as a parent.
Apr 05, 2018
#008- "Less Blow Up Equals More Follow Up"
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How can you make sure that your kids know they did something wrong without losing your temper, and getting MAD? Sometimes parents may feel that it’s their responsibility to SHOW kids how upset they are to ensure kids are aware they are in trouble! David teaches: “the more you blow up, the less you follow up”! Find out what that means, and how to build relationships even when you are mad.
Apr 03, 2018
The DMs #001- "What Do We Do When Our Child Doesn't Want To Open Up/Go Back To Therapy?"
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We invite your questions, and feedback at “Light the Fight”… The DMs #001 is the first dedicated “DM” episode where David and Heidi read a question that has been submitted, and answer it specifically. In this question, a concerned mom shares that her daughter has faced some difficult times, and is now very disconnected seems unwilling to seek help. She asks what can she do now? This feels like a very common concern from parents who are afraid that they have made parenting mistakes, and wonder what they can do to leave the past where it belongs, and move forward.
Mar 27, 2018
#007- "Check Your Motivations"
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In Episode #7, Heidi talks about the importance of recognizing the motivations behind your actions. Understanding why you (as a parent) do what you do, will help you to attach appropriate expectations for their response to your actions. Ultimately, we talk about separating our expectations, and motivations from the way that we show and give love and appreciation for one another.

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Mar 22, 2018
#006- "Know Less So Your Kid Can Learn More"
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This episode of “Light the Fight” podcast gets into some secrets of David’s for helping people work through their problems in certain situations. Parents’ instinct is to jump right into problem-solving mode with their kids when they are faced with difficult situations. Find out how to give space and allow connection to foster finding solutions, rather than delivering lectures!
Mar 20, 2018
#005- "Statements vs. Questions"
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In Episode 5, David recaps an important TOOL that he taught at the live “First Responder” event last week. This important skill helps parents to create a connection with kids and “RELATE”, in order to initiate productive conversations about important topics, as well as regular day to day interaction. Heidi shares a critical moment that she was able to put this instruction into action, and witness the benefit of using “statements” instead of questioning.
Mar 15, 2018
#004- "The Kryptonite To Depression Is Connection"
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David has been telling both kids and adults for years that “connection is the kryptonite for depression” , and this is exactly what he taught to Heidi, her husband and son during their first counseling session. In episode #4, Heidi and David discuss the challenges and importance of creating real connections. Since social media and our virtual relationships aren’t going away anytime soon, what are some ways that we can encourage and foster real-life interaction? It’s imperative for individuals to realize how critical real connections are to our well-being as a humans! By simply having conversations about this concept inside our families, it will create awareness of the need for real connections! Since you can’t work on something you don’t know is a problem, awareness is the first hurdle! Because creating connection requires patience and effort, it won’t come easy…but understanding that can help create appropriate expectations, and a desire to allow them to happen! Oh and remember, you have to ‘go first’.
Mar 08, 2018
#003- "Shame In Motion"
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Heidi named this episode “shame in motion” because she shares a personal story about the moment that all of the information that she had been learning about the “Shame Game” crossed over from a theoretical concept, to an actual TOOL for improving an important relationship. David explains how he helped Heidi turn a blow up, into an opportunity for connection to strengthen that relationship! Learn how to adjust your perception of your shame, and view it in a different way… which will create motivation rather than frustration.
Mar 08, 2018
#002- "Guilt vs. Shame"
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As a 40-something, mother-of-five … Heidi was surprised to learn that there was a major difference between “guilt” and “shame”. In episode 2, Heidi explains how learning about this distinction was a major light bulb moment, and opened her understanding to not only her kid’s struggles… but also her own. David explains what he calls “the shame game”, and discusses 2 kinds of vulnerability. Learn how to diffuse the power of shame through opening up and talking about it.
Mar 08, 2018
#001- "Introductions"
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Welcome to the first episode of the “Light the Fight” podcast! In this first episode, David and Heidi introduce themselves and talk about how and why they met. Since that time, Heidi has been learning more about the mental and emotional challenges that we all face and how they influence our relationships. Heidi has experienced first hand, the worry and fear of having a teen struggling with these challenges, and not knowing how to help. The “Light the Fight” podcast will present topics that parents need to understand in order to “RESPOND” to their kids, instead of “REACT”, and then “INITIATE”. While most of these topics are basic to the understanding and improvement of relationships, we as parents are expected to know this stuff… but have never formally been taught!
We start here with an important TOOL for dealing with a child when something has gone wrong: “Be a first RESPONDER, not a first REACTOR”.

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Mar 01, 2018