Just Break Up: Relationship Advice from Your Queer Besties

By Sierra DeMulder and Sam Blackwell

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Gabe
 Sep 10, 2019
Love this podcast so much. Could literally listen to it everyday. Great advice and great hosts.

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Sam & Sierra may not be therapists, but they will tell it to you straight (even if they aren’t). Each episode, they answer listeners’ questions with compassion, radical honesty, and all the relationship advice you don’t want—but definitely need. And no, it’s not always “just break up.” (Unless you really should!)

Episode Date
Episode 521: Am I Being Mistreated Or Am I Just Too Sensitive?
Dec 20, 2024
Episode 520: This Sounds Like a Christmas Movie
Dec 18, 2024
Episode 519: My Toxic Ex Still Owes Me Money
Dec 16, 2024
Episode 518: Can't Unhear The Mean Things You Said
Dec 13, 2024
Episode 517: Who Has This Strap On Been In Before?
Dec 11, 2024
Episode 516: You Can't Grow a Relationship In Resentful Soil
Dec 09, 2024
Episode 515: Remembering The Reality, Not Just The Romance
Dec 06, 2024
Episode 514: What To Do With A Professional Crush
Dec 04, 2024
Episode 513: Learn This Lesson Now
Dec 02, 2024
Episode 512: My Boyfriend Cheated And My President Is A Rapist
Nov 29, 2024
Episode 511: Queerness Is Not A Monolith
Nov 27, 2024
Episode 510: Do You Like Emo...tions?
Nov 25, 2024
Episode 509: Sharing A Business With Your Cheating Ex
Nov 22, 2024
Episode 508: Don't Over-Romanticize Your Ex
Nov 20, 2024
Episode 507: You Can't Be Everything To Everyone
Nov 18, 2024
Episode 506: Holding The Good With The Bad
Nov 15, 2024
Episode 505: The Unfair Burden of Birth Control
Nov 13, 2024
Episode 504: I'm Lonely In My Relationship
Nov 11, 2024
Episode 503: Are These Friends Safe For You?
Nov 08, 2024
Episode 502: My Friend Got Dumped..But It Was Her Fault
Nov 06, 2024
Episode 501: You Can Never Be A Perfect Parent
Nov 04, 2024
Episode 500: My Mom's Third Marriage
Nov 01, 2024
Episode 499: My Boyfriend's Proposal Isn't Romantic Enough
Oct 30, 2024
Episode 498: Sexting With My Hot Parisian Tattoo Artist
Oct 28, 2024
Episode 497: Avoiding Relationship Burnout
Oct 25, 2024
Episode 496: You Don't Trust Him Because He's Proven Himself Untrustworthy
Oct 23, 2024
Episode 495: His Ex Still Uses His Netflix
Oct 21, 2024
Episode 494: Parenting Yourself When Your Mother Can't
Oct 18, 2024
Episode 493: Mr. Fix-It Fixes His Codependency
Oct 16, 2024
Episode 492: I Can't Stop Reading Cheating Stories On Reddit
Oct 14, 2024
Episode 491: Dating With A Chronic Illness
Oct 11, 2024
Episode 490: Why Did He Think You Needed To Know That?
Oct 09, 2024
Episode 489: Am I B*tch Or Do I Just Know What I Want?
Oct 07, 2024
Episode 488: Kids or No Kids, What's The Plan?
Oct 04, 2024
Episode 487: Wanting The Wife And The Mistress Too
Oct 02, 2024
Episode 486: If They Like Me, Then Why Can't I See It?
Sep 30, 2024
Episode 485: Single, Again
Sep 27, 2024
Episode 484: Held Hostage By The Past
Sep 25, 2024
Episode 483: You Say Tomato, I Say TomaNO
Sep 23, 2024
Episode 482: Choosing No Love Over Broken Love
Sep 20, 2024
Episode 481: My Friends Are Hanging Out Without Me!
Sep 18, 2024
Episode 480: My Friend Is Marrying Her Abuser
Sep 16, 2024
Episode 479: Dating Across Economic Class
Sep 13, 2024
Episode 478: You Deserve A Love That Thrives In The Light
Sep 11, 2024
Episode 477: Being The Sober Friend
Sep 09, 2024
Episode 476: I Love To See You In My Sweatshirt
Sep 06, 2024
Episode 475: Healing From Harassment In the Workplace
Sep 04, 2024
Episode 474: Bisexual FOMO
Sep 02, 2024
Episode 473: You Will Be Able To Love Again
Aug 30, 2024
Episode 472: Should I End My Marriage After Two Months?
Aug 28, 2024
Episode 471: One Big Pill Or Fifty Spiky Ones
Aug 26, 2024
Episode 470: Into The Unknown! (AKA Dating in Your 30s)
Aug 23, 2024
Episode 469: Riding The Waves Of His Mood Swings
Aug 21, 2024
Episode 468: Accepting Their Scraps Of Love
Aug 19, 2024
Episode 467: I Might Break Up With A Lifelong Friend
Aug 16, 2024
Episode 466: Rock Bottom Stone Top
Aug 14, 2024
Episode 465: I'm Jealous Of A Clown Doll Replica Of My Partner
Aug 12, 2024
Episode 464: Is Getting Married Young A Bad Idea?
Aug 09, 2024
Episode 463: His Bad Behavior Isn't Your Fault
Aug 07, 2024
Episode 462: The 51% Approach
Aug 05, 2024
Episode 461: Broken Up But Not Moved Out
Aug 02, 2024
Episode 460: Will They Do The Vulnerable Work With You?
Jul 31, 2024
Episode 459: My Married Girlfriend Doesn't Know My Real Name
Jul 29, 2024
Episode 458: Your One Wild And Precious Life
Jul 26, 2024
Episode 457: Why Aren't You Telling Her We're Engaged?!
Jul 24, 2024
Episode 456: Supporting Your Partner Through Grief
Jul 22, 2024
Episode 455: He Broke Up With Me Because I Am A Sex Worker
Jul 19, 2024
Episode 454: It's Okay To Break Up With An Old Friend
Jul 17, 2024
Episode 453: Getting Over Someone I Never Actually Dated
Jul 15, 2024
Episode 452: Learning How To Reassure Yourself
Jul 12, 2024
Episode 451: My Boyfriend's Parents Hate Me
Jul 10, 2024
Episode 450: Waiting For My Ex-Fiancé To Come Back
Jul 08, 2024
Episode 449: I Ghosted My Friend For 3 Years
Jul 05, 2024
Episode 448: My Partner Makes Less Money Than Me
Jul 03, 2024
Episode 447: HELP: I Have A Crush On A Couple!
Jul 01, 2024
Episode 446: Healing After Miscarriage
Jun 28, 2024
Episode 445: There Are Lots of Reasons People Get Married
Jun 26, 2024
Episode 443: Making Space For Moving On
Jun 21, 2024
Episode 442: Some Friends You Just Can't Travel With
Jun 19, 2024
Episode 441: It's Not Polyamory If Her Husband Doesn't Know
Jun 17, 2024
Episode 440: Losing Yourself In Your Compassion For Others
Jun 14, 2024
Episode 439: Having Sex On The Fourth Date
Jun 12, 2024
Episode 438: Heteronormative Tunnel Vision
Jun 10, 2024
Episode 437: Regretting That Last Text
Jun 07, 2024
Episode 436: ADHD And My Overstimulating Apartment
Jun 05, 2024
Episode 435: Should I Take A Free Trip To Europe With Someone I Barely Know?
Jun 03, 2024
Episode 434: Your Hurt Deserves To Be Seen
May 31, 2024
Episode 433: Undetectable Is Untransmittable
May 29, 2024
Episode 432: Is This A Red Flag Or A Real Boundary?
May 27, 2024
Episode 431: I Lost The Only Good Love Of My Life
May 24, 2024
Episode 430: Play Wordle With Your Own Boyfriend!
May 22, 2024
Episode 429: Crying Over Gluten Free Mac & Cheese
May 20, 2024
Episode 428: Queer Polyamorous Witch
May 17, 2024
Episode 427: Alone In The Woods With A Man Or A Bear
May 15, 2024
Episode 426: Cohabitating Isn't For Everyone!
May 13, 2024
Episode 425: There Doesn't Need To Be A "Strong One" In The Relationship
May 10, 2024
Episode 424: We're Moving In Together & I'm Spiraling!
May 08, 2024
Episode 423: Forgiveness Is Morally Neutral
May 06, 2024
Episode 422: This Isn't The Ending To Every Story
May 03, 2024
Episode 421: Feeling Healed? Visit Your Family.
May 01, 2024
Episode 420: My Boyfriend Isn't Curious About Me
Apr 29, 2024
Episode 419: Is It Diabolical Or Totally Understandable?
Apr 26, 2024
Episode 418: Giving Head vs. Changing A Tire
Apr 24, 2024
Episode 417: Can I Fantasize About Women AND Love My Husband?
Apr 22, 2024
Episode 416: I Was Dumped For *Not* Cheating
Apr 19, 2024
Episode 415: Newly Sober and Still In Love
Apr 17, 2024
Episode 414: How Much Meh Is Too Much Meh?
Apr 15, 2024
Episode 413: Your Timeline Is A Valid Desire, Not A Guarantee
Apr 12, 2024
Episode 412: This Is Hard AND You Can Do Hard Things
Apr 10, 2024
Episode 411: Seeking Deep Connection And Coming Up Short
Apr 08, 2024
Episode 410: This Doesn't Sound Like Ethical Non-Monogamy
Apr 05, 2024
Episode 409: Emotionally Immature Coworkers
Apr 03, 2024
Episode 408: My Boyfriend Went To A Strip Club
Apr 01, 2024
Episode 407: From Partners To Platonic Without The Pain
Mar 29, 2024
Episode 406: Watching Someone Younger Make Your Past Mistakes
Mar 27, 2024
Episode 405: Your Anger Is Safe Here
Mar 25, 2024
Episode 404: Complex Grief And The Unfairness of The Universe
Mar 22, 2024
Episode 403: Caught My Boyfriend On Bumble
Mar 20, 2024
Episode 402: Overthinking My Dating App Messages
Mar 18, 2024
Episode 401: Who Taught You Solitude Is Selfish?
Mar 15, 2024
Episode 400: It's Okay To Break Up With Your Nice Boyfriend
Mar 13, 2024
Episode 399: Were My Exes Just Experimenting?
Mar 11, 2024
Episode 398: People Want To Like You
Mar 08, 2024
Episode 397: Reaching Past The Pattern
Mar 06, 2024
Episode 396: Do You Want To Be With a Workaholic?
Mar 04, 2024
Episode 395: Should I Forgive A Cheater?
Mar 01, 2024
Episode 394: My Boyfriend's Not Hot Enough
Feb 28, 2024
Episode 393: Marriage? Been There, Done That, Never Doing It Again
Feb 26, 2024
Episode 392: I Prefer The Caterpillar
Feb 23, 2024
Episode 391: Just Move To South Dakota
Feb 21, 2024
Episode 390: Is It Love Or Love Bombing?
Feb 19, 2024
Getting Ghosted By a Friend
Feb 16, 2024
It's Not Profound, It Just Sucks
Feb 14, 2024
Episode 389: Crumbling Foundation
Feb 12, 2024
Episode 388: You Don't Need To Bubble Wrap Your Hard Edges
Feb 09, 2024
Episode 387: I'm Not My Boyfriend's #1 Priority
Feb 07, 2024
Episode 386: My Partner Is Always On Their Phone
Feb 05, 2024
Episode 385: Is It Really Over Forever?
Feb 02, 2024
Episode 384: Being Reasonably Ready
Jan 31, 2024
Episode 383: Do Not Give This Man A 57th Chance
Jan 29, 2024
Episode 382: Real Or Rebound: Dating After Loss
Jan 26, 2024
Episode 381: You Don't Have To Forgive Your Cheating Boyfriend
Jan 24, 2024
Episode 380: Stable Serious Man VS Wild Bad Boy
Jan 22, 2024
Episode 379: I Feel Bad My Girlfriend Has More Friends Than Me
Jan 19, 2024
Episode 378: I Might Actually Want To Live With My MIL?
Jan 17, 2024
Episode 377: Not Anti-Social, Just Asocial
Jan 15, 2024
Episode 376: How To Trust Your Feelings
Jan 12, 2024
Episode 375: Daddy Issues
Jan 10, 2024
Episode 374: Hi, I Dated Your Ex-Husband
Jan 08, 2024
Episode 373: Dating Is A Practice Of Being Seen
Jan 05, 2024
Episode 372: Wait, Why Weren't You Talking For 10 Days?
Jan 03, 2024
Episode 371: I Accidentally Insulted My Boyfriend's Penis
Jan 01, 2024
PATREON BONUS - Seeking Love and Safety
Dec 25, 2023
Episode 370: Coming Out As Childfree
Dec 22, 2023
Episode 369: My Husband Is Obsessed With A OnlyFans Creator
Dec 20, 2023
Episode 368: Trusting Again After Infidelity
Dec 18, 2023
Episode 367: How To Date Without Settling
Dec 15, 2023
Episode 366: Deep Cleaning Your Relationship
Dec 13, 2023
Episode 365: Your Husband's Coworker Definitely Has A Crush On You
Dec 11, 2023
Episode 364: Empathy Doesn't Mean Losing Yourself
Dec 08, 2023
Episode 363: This Is Textbook Gaslighting
Dec 06, 2023
Episode 362: My Husband Was Depressed All Year And I Had No Idea
Dec 04, 2023
Episode 361: You're Not Alone in Your Loneliness
Dec 01, 2023
Episode 360: I Can't Emotionally Connect with My Mother-in-Law
Nov 29, 2023
Episode 359: Self-Compassion Allows Us to Own Our Mistakes
Nov 27, 2023
Episode 358: A Bunch of One Foot Wells
Nov 24, 2023
Episode 357: Do Breaks Really Work?
Nov 22, 2023
Episode 356: Blocked By My Metamour
Nov 20, 2023
Episode 355: You Don't Have To Hold This Alone
Nov 17, 2023
Episode 354: My BFF Is Marrying Someone I Don't Like
Nov 15, 2023
Episode 353: Having Boundaries Is An Internal Process
Nov 13, 2023
Episode 352: Waiting On A Proposal
Nov 10, 2023
Episode 351: Not All People Are For Us But Some People Are
Nov 08, 2023
Episode 350: Middle School Teacher Drama
Nov 06, 2023
Episode 349: You're Unhappy And That's Okay
Nov 03, 2023
Episode 348: She Has a Crush On Your Husband...What Now?
Nov 01, 2023
Episode 347: He's Either A Hoarder or A Murderer
Oct 30, 2023
Episode 346: My New Boyfriend Has Cancer
Oct 27, 2023
Episode 345: Help! My Partner Is Moving In A Year!
Oct 25, 2023
Episode 344: Morticia & Gomez 4Ever
Oct 23, 2023
Episode 343: Labels Are Just Tape!
Oct 20, 2023
Episode 342: He Is Choosing Someone Who Lit Your Underwear On Fire
Oct 18, 2023
Episode 341: The Vulnerability of Shooting Your Shot
Oct 16, 2023
Episode 340: The Cliché of Heartbreak
Oct 13, 2023
Episode 339: The Emotional Gymnastics of a Yo-Yo Relationship
Oct 11, 2023
Episode 338: Unrequited Crushing On A Friend
Oct 09, 2023
Episode 337: You Don't Have To Talk About Your Abortion
Oct 06, 2023
Episode 336: This Man Is Trash
Oct 04, 2023
Episode 335: Am I Avoidant or Am I Just Unhappy?
Oct 02, 2023
Episode 334: P In V Sex is Not The Only Sex
Sep 29, 2023
Episode 333: Your Growth May Not Help Their Healing
Sep 27, 2023
Episode 332: Crushing On Greener Grass
Sep 25, 2023
Episode 331: Tired Of The "Should We Break Up?" Conversation
Sep 22, 2023
Episode 330: My Husband Didn't Tell His Mom We Got Married
Sep 20, 2023
Episode 329: Believing In Others' Capacity To Grow
Sep 18, 2023
Episode 328: How To Handle Having A Crush on Your Friend
Sep 15, 2023
Episode 327: Is It Bad To Date Someone Who Is "Safe?"
Sep 13, 2023
Episode 326: This Is Confusing Because It Is Confusing
Sep 11, 2023
Episode 325: I Can't Believe It's Not Rejection!
Sep 08, 2023
Episode 324: Haunted By A Ghost of Yom Kippur
Sep 06, 2023
Episode 323: His Silence is Speaking For Him
Sep 04, 2023
Episode 322: Caught In Communication Fatigue
Sep 01, 2023
Episode 321: Exes, Condoms, and A Private Investigator
Aug 30, 2023
Episode 320: Sitting On The Sidelines Together
Aug 28, 2023
Episode 319: Not My Best Friend's Best Friend
Aug 25, 2023
Episode 318: Hook Up With My Ex, Just Don't Lie About It
Aug 23, 2023
Episode 317: Is Marriage A Trap?
Aug 21, 2023
Episode 316: Relationship Escalator to Hell
Aug 18, 2023
Episode 315: Your Queer Love is Holy and Real
Aug 16, 2023
Episode 314: He's a Leo And An Only Child
Aug 14, 2023
Episode 313: Solo Poly Wanna Cracker?
Aug 11, 2023
Episode 312: Becoming A Stepparent
Aug 09, 2023
Episode 311: This AI Doesn't Even Know What Grindr Is
Aug 07, 2023
Episode 310: Keeping Your Friend's Secrets
Aug 04, 2023
Episode 309: Breaking Up As A Game Of Chicken
Aug 02, 2023
Episode 308: Miss Mcfeels-A-Lot
Jul 31, 2023
Episode 307: Letting Go Of A Difficult Love
Jul 28, 2023
Episode 306: The Difference Between A Boundary and A Rule
Jul 26, 2023
Episode 305: Advice for Dating Our Exes
Jul 24, 2023
Episode 304: All Of Our Brains Are Broken
Jul 21, 2023
Episode 303: You Can't Stop Bad Things From Happening
Jul 19, 2023
Episode 302: What We've Learned Over The Past 5 Years
Jul 17, 2023
Episode 301: Right Person + Wrong Time = Wrong Person
Jul 14, 2023
Episode 300: Libido? More Like Libidon't
Jul 12, 2023
Episode 299: Your Efforts Don't Guarantee An Outcome
Jul 10, 2023
Episode 298: When Their Growth Is Too Little Too Late
Jul 07, 2023
Episode 297: Tale of the Broke Bridesmaid
Jul 05, 2023
Episode 296: Spiraling Into The Anxiously Attached Abyss
Jul 03, 2023
Episode 295: Life Is Full Of Imperfect Choices
Jun 30, 2023
Episode 294: Discomfort Doesn't Mean We Are On The Wrong Path
Jun 28, 2023
Episode 293: Is It a Boundary or an Ultimatum?
Jun 26, 2023
Episode 292: Thanks For The Trauma, Mom!
Jun 23, 2023
Episode 291: Self Awareness Is Attractive
Jun 21, 2023
Episode 290: I Don't Want To Have Kids...With You
Jun 19, 2023
Episode 289: Not Awkward Is Not Real
Jun 16, 2023
Episode 288: Love Lost In Translation
Jun 14, 2023
Episode 287: Reversing the Relationship Escalator
Jun 12, 2023
Episode 286: People Need Other People
Jun 09, 2023
Episode 285: Addicted To Their Ex's Instagram
Jun 07, 2023
Episode 284: Is It Your Intuition or Your Anxiety?
Jun 05, 2023
Episode 283: You Don't Have To Act On Those Feelings
Jun 02, 2023
Episode 282: Does He Cosmically Owe You?
May 31, 2023
Episode 281: Let FedEx Return That Engagement Ring
May 29, 2023
Episode 280: You Can Let Go of That Pressure
May 26, 2023
Episode 279: Grief Has No Timeline
May 24, 2023
Episode 278: When is Ghosting Not Ghosting
May 22, 2023
Episode 277: Love Is Scary!
May 19, 2023
Episode 276: When To Let Go Of Hope
May 17, 2023
Episode 275: Everyone Knows You're Making Out in the Break Room
May 15, 2023
Episode 274: What To Wear When You Run Into Your Ex
May 12, 2023
Episode 273: Choosing The Harder Path
May 10, 2023
Episode 272: Am I A Homewrecker?
May 08, 2023
Episode 271: You're Confused Because It's Confusing
May 05, 2023
Episode 270: Their Sadness is Not Yours to Fix
May 03, 2023
Episode 269: Hot People Suck
May 01, 2023
Episode 268: It's Safe To Believe Your Own Experience
Apr 28, 2023
Episode 267: When Guilt Leads To Self-Sabotage
Apr 26, 2023
Episode 266: Holding Boundaries With Humanity
Apr 24, 2023
Episode 265: It's Okay To Miss Someone Who Hurt You
Apr 21, 2023
Episode 264: Internally Spiraling But Totally Fine
Apr 19, 2023
Episode 263: Stay Off Your Ex's Spotify
Apr 17, 2023
Episode 262: Relationships Are Not Transactional
Apr 14, 2023
Episode 261: How Long Are Our Exes A Part of Us?
Apr 12, 2023
Episode 260: Stability vs. Settling
Apr 10, 2023
Episode 259: Sometimes You Just Have To End It
Apr 07, 2023
Episode 258: Unfortunately the Answer is "Talk About It"
Apr 05, 2023
Episode 257: To Love Something So Impermanent
Apr 03, 2023
Episode 256: Punishment Doesn’t Work in Adulthood Either
Mar 31, 2023
Episode 255: You Can Only Say Your Truth So Many Times
Mar 29, 2023
Episode 254: The Emotional Block-Block-Block
Mar 27, 2023
Episode 253: Good News! You Get to Make Better Choices
Mar 24, 2023
Episode 252: It’s Literally Just… Not That Deep
Mar 22, 2023
Episode 251: Grab a Bucket & Get to Work
Mar 20, 2023
Episode 250: The Plot of Every “L Word” Episode Ever
Mar 17, 2023
Episode 249: Hormonal Hell? I Own A Timeshare There
Mar 15, 2023
Episode 248: Big City Woman Changes Her Mind
Mar 13, 2023
Episode 247: You’re Not Bridezilla, You’re Very, Very Human
Mar 10, 2023
Episode 246: Tropes Are Easy, But They Aren’t Our Truths
Mar 08, 2023
Episode 245: Seasons of Figuring It Out
Mar 06, 2023
Episode 244: Swimming Against the Undercurrent of Gender
Mar 03, 2023
Episode 243: Stop the Resentment Snowball In Its Tracks
Mar 01, 2023
Episode 242: Closure Isn’t Real (But I Still Want Some)
Feb 27, 2023
Episode 241: Now’s a Great Time to Take Care of Yourself
Feb 24, 2023
Episode 240: The Best Revenge is Forgetting
Feb 22, 2023
Episode 239: You're a Catch, a Babe, a Great Time!
Feb 20, 2023
Episode 238: Their Struggles Don’t Outweigh Your Safety
Feb 17, 2023
Episode 237: Their New Relationship is Not Your Failure
Feb 15, 2023
Go To Costco and Get That Candy
Feb 14, 2023
Episode 236: Where’s the Healthy Model for Friendships?!
Feb 13, 2023
Episode 235: The Universe Is Cruel & Chaotic, As Is Dating
Feb 10, 2023
Episode 234: Love vs. Attraction is Apples vs. Oranges
Feb 08, 2023
Episode 233: Their “I’m Fine” Is Not Your “I’m Fine”
Feb 06, 2023
Episode 232: Sex Could Be This Good THIS WHOLE TIME?!
Feb 03, 2023
Episode 231: Thankfully, Your Other Wells Have Water
Feb 01, 2023
Episode 230: Being Alone > Feeling Alone in a Relationship
Jan 30, 2023
Welcome to Just Break Up
Jan 27, 2023
If You’re Not Going To Stay, Make Room For Someone Who Will – An Interview with Yesika Salgado
Jan 26, 2023
Episode 229: Don’t Get Confused by the False Romance of Longing
Jan 23, 2023
Episode 228: What Ifs and The Relationship Multiverse
Jan 16, 2023
When You're Healed You Tell the Story Differently – An Interview with Camonghne Felix
Jan 12, 2023
Episode 227: Give Yourself Permission to Leave
Jan 09, 2023
Episode 226: Relationship Wants vs. Relationship Needs
Jan 02, 2023
Widowhood, Sexuality, and Complicated Grief – An Interview with Rebecca Woolf
Dec 29, 2022
Episode 225: Queer Heaven Has No Gates
Dec 26, 2022
Episode 224: It's More Nuanced Than Good Guy vs. Bad Guy
Dec 19, 2022
Acknowledging the Breakup: An Interview with JP Saxe
Dec 15, 2022
Announcing - There They Are: Breaking the Binary of Pageants
Dec 14, 2022
Episode 223: The Hurt Doesn’t Mean You’re Doing Something Wrong
Dec 12, 2022
Episode 222: Just Because It Looks Easy Doesn’t Mean It Is
Dec 05, 2022
Reframing Consent: An Interview with Leah Juliett
Dec 01, 2022
Episode 221: A Tall Order from an Imperfect Person
Nov 28, 2022
Episode 220: The Ever-Present Confusion of Our Early 20s
Nov 21, 2022
The Meaning of Sex: An Interview with Angela Chen
Nov 17, 2022
Episode 219: Too Much Self-Awareness Can Make Our Tummies Hurt
Nov 14, 2022
Episode 218: This is Not the Horrible Corpse You Think It Is
Nov 07, 2022
Penile Diversity: An Interview with Oscar Montoya
Nov 03, 2022
Episode 217: Are You More of An Ariel or Eric (or… Ursula)?
Oct 31, 2022
Episode 216: As If The Human Experience Wasn’t Hard Enough
Oct 24, 2022
Episode 215: Universal Chillness is Not Your Cross to Bear
Oct 17, 2022
Episode 214: We May Not Have Control, But We Do Have Power
Oct 10, 2022
Episode 213: “Agree to Disagree” Is For Books, Not Lived Experiences
Oct 03, 2022
Episode 212: Doesn’t Your Soul Cost More Than $5?
Sep 26, 2022
Episode 211: Yep, that sucks! And here we go again!
Sep 19, 2022
Episode 210: Tickling My Insecurities
Sep 12, 2022
Episode 209: You might be the toxic one if…
Sep 05, 2022
Episode 208: The Realms of Appropriateness
Aug 29, 2022
Episode 207: Yes, but WHEN do I block him?
Aug 22, 2022
Episode 206: That's Intimacy, Baby!
Aug 15, 2022
Episode 205: You Were Like A Pinball
Aug 08, 2022
Episode 204: A Lot of Boat Metaphors
Aug 01, 2022
Episode 203: It'll Be Crunchy Until It's Smooth
Jul 25, 2022
Patreon Bonus: A Heartbreaking Pickle
Jul 20, 2022
Episode 202: Of Course Things Came Out Sideways!
Jul 18, 2022
Episode 201: Where Are They Now? Pt. 4
Jul 14, 2022
Episode 200: Here's To Another 200 Years!
Jul 11, 2022
Episode 199: I Love Pizza AND My Wife
Jul 04, 2022
Episode 198: Multiple Sexual Apartments
Jun 27, 2022
Episode 197: Not All Podcast Hosts Are For Us
Jun 20, 2022
Episode 196: Sam and Sierra's Rainbow Tower
Jun 13, 2022
Patreon Bonus: Continuing The Conversation
Jun 08, 2022
Episode 195: The Parent Episode
Jun 06, 2022
Episode 194: A Whole Jar of Pickles
May 30, 2022
Episode 193: Butt Stuff Is the Trojan Horse
May 23, 2022
Episode 192: ALL CAPS WORK EMAILS
May 16, 2022
Episode 191: Let Yourself Hear What They're Saying
May 09, 2022
Episode 190: Where Are They Now? Pt. 3
May 02, 2022
Episode 189: Love Sandwich
Apr 25, 2022
Episode 188: Where Are They Now? Pt. 2
Apr 18, 2022
Patreon Bonus: More Love Songs!
Apr 13, 2022
Episode 187: The Sexisode: Labyrinth of the Labia
Apr 11, 2022
Episode 186: Where Are They Now? Pt. 1
Apr 04, 2022
Episode 185: Sam "Galaxy Brain" Blackwell
Mar 28, 2022
Episode 184: Toxic Positivity Villain
Mar 21, 2022
Episode 183: The Taco Bell of Sex
Mar 14, 2022
Episode 182: The Vulnerability Garden
Mar 07, 2022
Episode 181: Things Will Always Be Weird
Feb 28, 2022
Dating, Self-Care, and Chronic Illness: An Interview with Tonya Ingram
Feb 24, 2022
Episode 180: More Than the Sum of Our Butts
Feb 21, 2022
Episode 179: Sex Is Like Soup
Feb 14, 2022
Relationship Patterns and Working with Friends: An Interview with Trina Olson and Alfonso Wenker
Feb 10, 2022
Episode 178: A Blanket Statement You Can Unpack In Therapy Later
Feb 07, 2022
Accessing Your Higher Self: An Interview with Bunny Michael
Feb 03, 2022
Episode 177: The Introspective Elevator
Jan 31, 2022
Episode 176: Prioritize Your Peace
Jan 24, 2022
Desire and Communication: An Interview with Sex Therapist Casey Tanner
Jan 20, 2022
Episode 175: There's Something Better Out There
Jan 17, 2022
Episode 174: Our Tiny Little Brains!
Jan 10, 2022
Polyamory & Non-Monogamy: An Interview with Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers
Jan 06, 2022
Episode 173: A Band-Aid for a Wound of Insecurity
Jan 03, 2022
Patreon Bonus: Humbled by the Breadth of Human Experience
Dec 27, 2021
Episode 172: Is It Us, or Is It Capitalism?
Dec 20, 2021
Navigating Grief & Cultivating Joy in Partnerships: An Interview with Alyesha Wise and Matthew Cuban-Hernandez
Dec 16, 2021
Episode 171: Traditions Are Just Patterns
Dec 13, 2021
Episode 170: You Deserve to be Caretooketh
Dec 06, 2021
Online Dating & Interracial Relationships: An Interview with Melissa Lozada-Olivia
Dec 02, 2021
Episode 169: Humans Are Faulty
Nov 29, 2021
Episode 168: You Are Infinitely Capable
Nov 22, 2021
Body Positive Dating + Relationships - An Interview with Virgie Tovar
Nov 18, 2021
Episode 167: Let's Destigmatize "Experimenting"
Nov 15, 2021
Episode 166: Normal is Just a Setting on a Washing Machine
Nov 08, 2021
Emotional Maturity + Healing Parental Wounds - An Interview with Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson
Nov 04, 2021
Episode 165: Feelings Happen
Nov 01, 2021
Episode 164: How Are You Cherishing Yourself?
Oct 25, 2021
Episode 163: Returning to the Goo State
Oct 18, 2021
Episode 162: Clarity Makes the Heart Grow Stronger
Oct 11, 2021
Episode 161: There’s No Healthy Conflict On TV
Oct 04, 2021
Episode 160: Cool Bro, Good Luck with Your Parents
Sep 28, 2021
Episode 159: No Brakes on the Love Train
Sep 20, 2021
Episode 158: We’re All Just Sloppy
Sep 13, 2021
Patreon Episode: Trick That Lizard Into Chilling Out
Sep 08, 2021
Episode 157: Aging Into PBS’ Target Audience
Aug 30, 2021
Episode 156: It Doesn't Have to Make Sense to Be True
Aug 23, 2021
Episode 155: Real World Compatibility
Aug 16, 2021
Episode 154: Attraction is Subjective
Aug 09, 2021
Episode 153: Sam’s Not Here to Talk About Genitals
Aug 02, 2021
Episode 152: We’re All Uniquely F’d Up
Jul 26, 2021
Episode 151: Trying to Solve an Unsolvable Equation
Jul 20, 2021
Episode 150: JBU Turns Three!
Jul 12, 2021
Episode 149: Not a World For Naive Idealists
Jul 05, 2021
Episode 148: A Swimming Pool of Success
Jun 28, 2021
Episode 147: All Relationships Are Weird All The Time
Jun 21, 2021
Episode 146: Sam and Sierra Are Fighting
Jun 14, 2021
Episode 145: He’s Just a Dude
Jun 07, 2021
Episode 144: Noted, and Ignored
May 31, 2021
Episode 143: Uncomfortable Doesn't Necessarily Mean Unsafe
May 24, 2021
Episode 142: You Can't Date Half a Person
May 17, 2021
Episode 141: Having a Big Feeling
May 10, 2021
Episode 140: Everyone Is Annoying
May 03, 2021
Episode 139: The Sierra Sear
Apr 26, 2021
Episode 138: How Do You Block Someone On Linkedin?
Apr 19, 2021
Episode 137: 90% of Human Interaction Hurts
Apr 12, 2021
Episode 136: Hundreds of Small Decisions
Apr 05, 2021
Episode 135: You're Having Two Different Conversations
Mar 29, 2021
Episode 134: You Don't Need Anything Else
Mar 22, 2021
Episode 133: Sam the Time Travelin' Man
Mar 15, 2021
Episode 132: All In or All Out
Mar 08, 2021
Episode 131: Wrestling? Baseball? What’s the Difference?
Mar 01, 2021
Episode 130: Intimacy Is Like Exercise
Feb 22, 2021
Episode 129: The First Pancake Always Sucks
Feb 15, 2021
Invite Those Emotions In (Patreon bonus episode)
Feb 10, 2021
Episode 128: There Is No Normal
Feb 08, 2021
Episode 127: Receive Their Love!
Feb 01, 2021
Episode 126: You Didn’t Betray Yourself
Jan 25, 2021
Episode 125: Recognizing the Complexity
Jan 18, 2021
Episode 124: We're Allowed to Change Our Minds
Jan 11, 2021
Episode 123: Is the Juice Worth the Squeeze?
Jan 04, 2021
Episode 122: A Real Man Would Just Die In His Sleep
Dec 14, 2020
Episode 121: Blocker's Remorse
Dec 07, 2020
Episode 120: The Boring Love Story
Nov 30, 2020
Episode 119: We're All Still Learning
Nov 23, 2020
Episode 118: JBU Middle School
Nov 16, 2020
Episode 117: Does This Feel Good?
Nov 09, 2020
Episode 116: Accountability To The Self
Nov 02, 2020
Episode 115: Who Does This Serve?
Oct 26, 2020
Episode 114: You're Doing The Right Thing
Oct 19, 2020
Episode 113: Navigating The Nuance
Oct 12, 2020
Episode 112: You’re Worth More Than Crumbs
Oct 05, 2020
Episode 111: A Long-Term Waste Of Time
Sep 28, 2020
Episode 110: Don't Abandon Yourself
Sep 21, 2020
Episode 109: Intimacy Isn't Necessarily Compatibility
Sep 14, 2020
Episode 108: People Fall Out Of Love All The Time
Sep 07, 2020
Episode 107: Choosing The Unknown
Aug 31, 2020
Episode 106: Thomas the Train Wreck
Aug 24, 2020
Episode 105: We Have Time to Become More of Ourselves
Aug 17, 2020
Episode 104: A Weak Broth
Aug 10, 2020
Patreon Episode - April 29, 2020 [Gaslighting]
Aug 03, 2020
Episode 103: All Relationships Are Risks
Jul 27, 2020
Episode 102: 2-Year Anniversary Live Show!
Jul 20, 2020
Episode 101: Faith In My Feelings
Jul 13, 2020
Episode 100: And You Can Cook With It!
Jul 06, 2020
Episode 99: We'll Never Love Anyone Perfectly
Jun 29, 2020
Episode 98: You Are Whole, Even As You Become
Jun 22, 2020
Episode 97: Your Boyfriend Probably Has Debt
Jun 15, 2020
Episode 96: White Supremacy and Being Antiracist
Jun 08, 2020
In Solidarity
Jun 01, 2020
Episode 95: There Are No Rules
May 25, 2020
Episode 94: Relationships Are Hard Enough Already
May 18, 2020
Episode 93: The Rom Com Outcome
May 11, 2020
Episode 92: Thanks, But No Thanks
May 04, 2020
Episode 91: Just Wake Up
Apr 27, 2020
Episode 90: Emotional Labor
Apr 20, 2020
Episode 89: @Sam's_Muscles
Apr 13, 2020
Episode 88: I Started Dating the Abundance of the Universe
Apr 06, 2020
Episode 87: A Messy-Hearted Adult Baby
Mar 30, 2020
Episode 86: Their Love Is Not Going To Fix Your Life (Live From Oklahoma)
Mar 23, 2020
Episode 85: You're Doing This For You
Mar 16, 2020
Episode 84: Awkward Isn't Real
Mar 09, 2020
Episode 83: Being Young Sucks, I Don't Know Anything
Mar 02, 2020
Episode 82: Trauma Bonding
Feb 24, 2020
Episode 81: A Multifaceted Person Who Routinely Messes Up (Live in Brooklyn)
Feb 17, 2020
Episode 80: Boundaries First
Feb 10, 2020
Episode 79: It's Ok To Breakup With A Friend
Feb 03, 2020
Episode 78: You Are Not Asking For Too Much
Jan 27, 2020
Episode 77: Not All People Are For Me
Jan 20, 2020
Episode 76: AH! There's a Robot in my Bed!
Jan 13, 2020
Episode 75: What Does Trust Look Like?
Jan 06, 2020
Episode 74: The Diet Coke of Dating
Dec 16, 2019
Episode 73: You Deserve Someone Who Wants You
Dec 09, 2019
Episode 72: I'm Unhappy, Bye!
Dec 02, 2019
Episode 71: Divorce is Just Part of Life
Nov 25, 2019
Episode 70: Your Happiness Lies Ahead of You
Nov 18, 2019
Episode 69: Life is Too Short to be in a Mess Like This
Nov 11, 2019
Episode 68: I Want To Be Like Wet Clay (Live from Austin)
Nov 04, 2019
Episode 67: Ghost Boy
Oct 28, 2019
Episode 66: Can You Really Stay Friends With An Ex?
Oct 21, 2019
Episode 65: A New Nipple Hair
Oct 14, 2019
Episode 64: It's Okay To Want More
Oct 07, 2019
Episode 63: Cani Getadate
Sep 30, 2019
Episode 62: Do You Like Me or Like Like Me?
Sep 23, 2019
Episode 61: Choke Me Daddy
Sep 16, 2019
Episode 60: Drunk Texting “I Miss You” on a T9 Phone
Sep 09, 2019
Episode 59: I Wasn’t Being Uncommunicative; I Was In Vietnam for 7 Weeks and Didn’t Have Service
Sep 02, 2019
Episode 58: The FBI Has Seen All Angles Of My Naked Body
Aug 26, 2019
Episode 57: You May Never Know If They Cheated On You
Aug 19, 2019
Episode 56: Come On Voldemort, Let's Go To The Beach
Aug 12, 2019
Episode 55: Destigmatize the Sex Rut
Aug 05, 2019
Episode 54: Live Anniversary Show!
Jul 29, 2019
Episode 53: Making His Life Perfect & Mine a Living Hell!
Jul 22, 2019
Episode 52: He Is Not Worth Erasing Yourself Everyday For a Year
Jul 12, 2019
Episode 51: You Know What To Do
Jul 08, 2019
Episode 50: Romantic Convicts
Jun 30, 2019
Episode 49: Emotional Connection is My Drug of Choice
Jun 24, 2019
Episode 48: The Brain is a Bonkers Place
Jun 17, 2019
Episode 47: A Bit of a Pickle
Jun 10, 2019
Episode 46: Weird Sexual Encounters of the Third Kind
Jun 03, 2019
Episode 45: Dear Ex, I Hope You're In Therapy
May 23, 2019
Episode 44: Boom Boom Boom Boom AHHhhAahhhaaa
May 20, 2019
Episode 43: Everybody's Dumpable
May 10, 2019
Episode 42: When All Your Hard Work Just Doesn’t Work
May 06, 2019
Episode 41: Sam's Nightmare, Sierra's Wet Dream
Apr 29, 2019
Episode 40: Frolicking With a Peasant Boy Named Ralph
Apr 22, 2019
Episode 39: This Is Your Heart On Heartbreak
Apr 14, 2019
Episode 38: Totally Not About Butt Stuff
Apr 08, 2019
Episode 37: In Which Sam Attempts to Quote Wayne Gretzky
Apr 01, 2019
Episode 36: Hippie Woo Woo Bullsh*t Self Love Bla Bla Bla #Instagram F*ckin Whatever
Mar 25, 2019
Episode 35: Fluent In The Language Of “Well, He Did It Because...”
Mar 18, 2019
Episode 34: Boy Bye (Pay Us $1000)
Mar 11, 2019
Episode 33: Back in My Day, You Just Poked A Man With A Stick
Mar 04, 2019
Episode 32: An Emotionally Unavailable Kitchen Sponge of a Human
Feb 25, 2019
Episode 31: You Don’t Have To Be Friends With Your Exes
Feb 18, 2019
Bonus Episode: 10 Tips for Surviving February 14th
Feb 14, 2019
Episode 30: How to Not Take Someone Else's Relationship Personally
Feb 11, 2019
Episode 29: Overextending Yourself Isn't Love
Feb 04, 2019
Episode 28: I Don't Trust You But Here Is My Heart
Jan 21, 2019
Episode 27: Pedastool
Jan 14, 2019
Episode 26: Tiny Little Boner in Your Heart
Jan 07, 2019
Episode 25: In What Way Has This Been Great For You
Dec 17, 2018
Episode 24: Fa La La La Block
Dec 10, 2018
Episode 23: Shame Can't Live in the Dark...I Mean Light
Dec 03, 2018
Episode 22: Ghosts Can't Text
Nov 26, 2018
Episode 21: To Know You And Love You So Simply
Nov 19, 2018
Episode 20: Surprise Boner!
Nov 12, 2018
Episode 19: I Wanna Be Happy For You But I'm Insanely Jealous
Nov 05, 2018
Episode 18: Peanut Butter in Bed
Oct 29, 2018
Episode 17: The Word of the Day Is Sustainability
Oct 22, 2018
Episode 16: I Don't Want Your Wishy-Washy Tepid Bullshit
Oct 15, 2018
Episode 15: Let Me Be Great
Oct 08, 2018
Episode 14: It Will Never Make Sense
Oct 01, 2018
Episode 13: I'm Not Listening to the Words He's Saying
Sep 24, 2018
Episode 12: Quit This S*** Girl
Sep 17, 2018
Congratulations Sam & Peter!
Sep 15, 2018
Episode 11: There Are Whole States I Can't Go Back To (with Olivia Gatwood)
Sep 10, 2018
Episode 10: The Relationship Dump
Sep 03, 2018
Episode 9: Affirmation Masturbation
Aug 27, 2018
Episode 8: I Too Have Loved A Tank of Toxic Sludge
Aug 20, 2018
Episode 7: Two Virgins Who Can’t Drive
Aug 13, 2018
Episode 6: Frickin' Robert Frost
Aug 06, 2018
Episode 5: That Butterfly Is Intimacy
Jul 30, 2018
Episode 4: Don't You Know That You're Toxic?
Jul 23, 2018
Episode 3: #BlockBlockBlockBlockBlock
Jul 16, 2018
Episode 2: I Just Unbuttoned My Pants
Jul 16, 2018
Episode 1: Tent Sex
Jul 16, 2018