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ScottyB
 May 17, 2019
Lisa Bilyeu's approach, choices for guests, and insights are amazing. Male or female, you'll learn a lot (about yourself) by listening. Definitely on my all-time best Podcasts (and broadcasts) of all time

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Hosted by Lisa Bilyeu, co-founder of the billion dollar company Quest Nutrition and President of Impact Theory, this show features women who have overcome incredible hardship to achieve massive success. Our mission is to empower you and all women to recognize that you really can become the hero of your own life. Welcome to Women of Impact.

Episode Date
Therapist REVEALS Why All Insecurities Come From This ONE THING… | Marisa Peer
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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!

One of the hardest things to accept as an adult is that many of the beliefs you have about yourself and the world you live in were developed from a childhood where you didn’t know any better and you weren’t equipped with the resources or capacity to process the complexities of life happening all around you.

Those experiences helped you shape the story you tell yourself today. Whether the story is good or bad is irrelevant considering that chances are the story isn’t even accurate or factual.

Marissa Peer is not just a best-selling author, she is a trained hypnotherapist that created Rapid Transformational Therapy, or RTT. She joins Lisa here to discuss the ideas from her latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie. Her tips and strategies are powerful to rewrite your story and create a narrative that gives you meaning, fulfillment and more happiness.

Check out Marissa Peer’s latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: https://amzn.to/39U2M7w

SHOW NOTES:

RFPI Illness | The unconscious role, function, purpose and intent of illness [1:06]
OCD Control | Marissa shares about an OCD patient’s illness rooted in control [5:55]
Uncover The Root | Uncovering when and why trauma starts helps to identify the cause [10:14]
Choose for Yourself | Helping people see their normalized behaviors on their own [17:07]
Change Isn’t Hard | Choosing the unfamiliar over what’s familiar and comfortable [22:49]
Be Enough | How you go from thinking it, to saying it, to actually feeling it’s true [27:19]
Lie to Yourself | Marissa on why the lies you tell yourself are super powerful [30:39]
Be Flaw-some | How you are a flawed person in a flawed relationship, be proud [36:20]
Stressed Eating | Examining how you are hardwired and being accepted or not accepted [38:27]
Self Sabotaging | Why people self destruct because they don’t feel self-worth [43:53]
Feel Your Emotions | Marissa on why allowing yourself to feel all emotions is good [47:20]
Outcome of Beliefs | Words shape your reality and that’s controlled by your thoughts [51:03]

QUOTES:

““When you think a thought a lot, it’s not a thought. It’s a direct request to the mind.” [3:26]

“That’s the saddest thing for children when they don't get love and care. When their needs aren’t met, they don’t stop loving the parent, they stop loving themselves immediately, and often permanently.” [11:47]

“When the mind starts to look for what’s the same, it finds it. But if you look for what’s different you find that too.” [15:04]

“You can make anything familiar with a little bit of persistence, [...] I have chosen to make this familiar, I have chosen to feel great about it.” [25:15]

“If you didn’t have love, or success, or joy or wealth, that’s a shame, but you can go out and get it.” [29:33]

“Nobody gets away without pain, but it’s what do you do with the pain.” [36:08]

“The minute you fall in love with you, your world will change so dramatically.” [52:48]

Follow Marissa Peer:
Website: https://marisapeer.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarisaPeer
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marisapeertherapy/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg
May 18, 2022
The BIG SIGNS You’re Dealing With A Narcissist & How To SET BOUNDARIES! | Dr. Ramani
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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!

The term narcissist gets thrown around a lot to the misfortune of people who are not actually narcissistic. Toxicity, emotional, mental, and verbal abuse are clear common markers of narcissistic behavior. Hopefully, you’re not in a relationship with a narcissistic person, but perhaps you’ve recently left a toxic situation and still feel lost, confused and uncertain how to handle the narcissist in your life.

Dr. Ramani doesn’t mince words when it comes to dealing with narcissists. The depth of knowledge she has from working with victims of narcissism is mind-blowing. In this episode we’ve packed some of the best advice Dr. Ramani has shared with Lisa on Women of Impact so you can take notes and the cycle of abuse and start healing.

If you’ve managed to avoid relationships with narcissists to this point, we’re cheering for you. We want you to be safe and be aware of the red fags many people miss until it’s too far gone.

SHOW NOTES:

0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Ramani
0:09 | Look for These Red Flags
26:02 | They Weaponize Vulnerabilities
47:48 | 6 Types of Narcissists
1:04:44 | Red Flags in Conversation
1:15:15 | How to Heal & Detox
1:37:06 | Break the Trauma Bond
1:52:15 | How to Leave a Narcissist

QUOTES:

“Once you’ve communicated something about three times, and it has been dishonored, devalued, not listened to, or validated, that’s it! You're done…” [3:29]

“Charisma is a tricky pattern, because we always assume, that it's a good thing and I think people have to be discerning about charisma.” [15:12]

“We're literally more protective of the password we have for some game on our computer, then we are with the most sacred parts of our psyche.” [27:02]

“There's a short list of reasons people stay in their relationships, hope, fear, guilt, and lack of information.” [40:48]

“Secure, people don't lash out at other people, [...] they know they're not always going to get it right. They're not always trying to overcompensate, they apologize when they are wrong.” [52:18]

“this is it. This is who this person is. You stay. And this is how it is” [1:04:40]

“It's not just about the trust of the other. It's about that you have the right to set a boundary. And that's about trusting yourself. “ [1:36:30]

“The primary motivations of these difficult relationships are that the narcissistic or difficult person wants power. They want control. They want everything for their own pleasure, their own needs.” [1:51:19]

“There’s no such thing as failing at healing. If you’re getting out of bed in the morning, even if you’re slow and even if it’s later than you want, you’re healing because you had the courage to face down another day.” [1:54:03]

Follow Dr. Ramani:
Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorRamanDurvasula
Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani
Podcast: http://doctor-ramani.com/podcasts-feat-dr-ramani/
May 15, 2022
The 10 NO B.S. Lessons to Raise Your Confidence to ANOTHER LEVEL! | Lisa Bilyeu
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What up homie! If you're struggling to find purpose and strength to achieve your frikin' dreams, join me and 5 other world-leading experts this Saturday May 14th at RADCON Live to learn how to become Radically Confident in all areas of your life! Registration is free at radconlive.com - see you there!

Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!

Confidence is something too many of us struggle with. Tragically, lack of confidence impacts the quality of life for many of us, and the lack of confidence isn’t necessarily a reflection of the things you have and don’t have. It’s internal, it’s personal, and it’s self reflective of how you feel about yourself.

The great news is that you can give your confidence a major boost. Being confident today is an ongoing process, and Lisa is stepping into her Bad B*itch Boots to get vulnerable and share with you the hard road to Radical Confidence.

Admittedly, it’s been a heck of a rollercoaster ride. There is pain, tears, many fears, and stages of denial along the way that Lisa not only had to overcome, but that she admits to still working on even still! In this special episode, Lisa is reading passages from her first book, Radical Confidence and giving you the lowdown on how to start taking charge and changing your life today.

It’s time to stop living in denial about the reality of the life you’re living, and it’s time to start dealing with the negative thoughts, and Dream Killing mentality that has you living in a mundane existence. Lisa’s experiences are not only totally relatable, but they are an inspiration of how you can take small planned incremental steps toward confidence and showing up for yourself today!

Lisa’s 3 Dream Killers to Look Out For:
Dismissing your own Happiness
Not defining the Dream or Goal
No Deadline on the Dream

Lisa’s 5 Tips for Negative Thoughts:
Observe your thoughts
Identify the patterns
Put your thoughts on trial
Allow the negative thoughts to fuel you
Deal with your negative thoughts
Practice! Practice! Practice!

SHOW NOTES:

Part 1 | You Can Change Your Life [0:46]
Outside Perspective of Your Reality [7:04]
Dream Killers | Lisa’s 3 Dream Killers [10:17]
Part 2 | You Can Figure Sh*t Out [12:24]
Journey to Becoming the Entrepreneur [15:37]
4 Tips for Your Negative Thoughts [19:12]
Part 3 | You Can Boost Your Confidence [24:27]
Lisa’s Confidence Boosters [31:30]
Vanessa’s Event Tips for Confidence [34:37]
Boost Your Confidence in Style [41:02]

QUOTES:

“We don’t let our dreams die by chance. They aren’t taken away from us. We’re not unlucky, it’s a choice.” [0:52]

“You can be over the top freaking grateful for what you have and you can be madly in love with parts of your life, and be utterly miserable in others.” [1:51]

“Sometimes you need a slap in the face for us to actually see the reality. We really cannot see ourselves the way other people see us.” [5:48]

“Just like I made small, tiny choices every single day to be stuck, I actually could make small tiny choices in the opposite direction to get myself out.” [10:03]

“I started to see that I don't know, was nothing more than an excuse. If I didn't know how to do something, then I had to get radically confident and bloody learn, period.” [12:54]

“I had to overcome the obstacles [...] I had to show up every single freaking day and face my inadequacies...” [14:21]

“There is no moment where there's no negative voice, there is no moment where you're not going to need courage, but that you can always have radical confidence.” Tom Bilyeu [19:01]

“We don't want confidence just for the sake of feeling confident. We want to be confident that we can go out and kick ass…” [24:43]

Follow Lisa Bilyeu:
Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/
Twitter:https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu
May 11, 2022
The Psychological Tricks To Become MORE ATTRACTIVE & Charismatic Today! | Vanessa Van Edwards
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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!

Have you ever set out for a get together, family dinner, or a company meeting thinking, ‘I hope no one here likes me.’ Of course not! Though some of us have a harder time admitting to it, we all want to be liked. No one sets a goal to show at the next social event feeling awkward and unaccepted and not liked.

As social beings, our nature drives us toward being social, but our awkwardness drives us to feel (and sometimes live) like social outcasts. Vanessa Van Edwards, professional behavioral scientist and queen of the recovering awkward people, is no stranger to the show.

We’re bringing some of Vanessa’s best highlights with tips and tricks to help you put your social anxiety to rest, and walk into the next event feeling confident and capable. By following her strategies to up your likability and knowing how to unapologetically say no, you can become a recovering awkward person too.

Vanessa’s 3 Keys to Saying No:
Offer something nice to say
Do not offer a reason
Offer an alternative plan or idea (only if you want to, no obligation)

SHOW NOTES:

The Secret of Being Liked [0:08]
It’s Okay to Say No, This Is How [10:54]
Boost Confidence & Charisma [22:34]
Deal with Awkwardness [43:59]
Be More Likable Online [58:30]

QUOTES:

“You are in control of how many people like you because you like the most other people.” [2:57]

“Saying no is a skill. It’s a skill that as women as men, we have to hone that skill, and we have to get good at it.” [12:56]

“If you give a reason, it invites someone to question your reason.” [13:41]

“Most emotions fade quickly [...] but contempt sits and it festers.” [43:16]
“If you’re setting yourself up to be fake, it’s almost impossible for you to get into authentic, real, deep connecting discussions and relationships because you’ve primed yourself for it.” [50:45]

“I decided to put my awkwardness forward, [...] I don't want you to fake it til you make it. I want you to show up anxious and awkward and learn how to use it.” [57:07]

Follow Vanessa Van Edwards:
Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT/featured
Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/
May 08, 2022
Why Relationships DON’T LAST & How To Build LASTING LOVE | Matthew Hussey
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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!

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Matthew Hussey is a great relationship expert with solid advice. “How a person is making you feel is more important than how you feel about them,” is just one tiny piece of his advice that will surely challenge the perspective you have of your current and former relationships. It’s not easy putting yourself out there, being vulnerable and open to the possibilities of a new relationship when you're barely navigating the signs of how into you this person is, and what to do with the off comment he or she made over dinner you didn’t like.

Matthew rejoins Lisa with no shortage of knowledge. If you’ve been stuck trying to figure out if you’re in love or in lust with your current partner, this episode will help open your eyes and consider angels of your relationship you haven’t considered.

SHOW NOTES:

Love or Lust | Examining the differences between the two and if love at first sight it real [0:40]
Defining Love | Knowing what love means to not be victim of being lavished with attention [5:23]
Be Intentional | Matthew shares how to be intentional and communicate what you want [12:01]
Value Consistency | How love values consistency but it needs to be communicated [16:26]
Bedazzled | Matthew exposes truth on why average days matter more than 5% dazzling [19:33]
How He Makes You Feel | Why how he makes you feel is the reality of the relationship [24:28]
He’s Not All Bad | How someone can be bad for you and not inherently bad as a person [28:10]
Different Person | The person you break up with isn’t the same person you started dating [33:03]
Address Issues | Ignoring issues becomes inevitable problems, confront the hard topics [37:45]
Trust Yourself | Ways to take comfort in trusting yourself even if you’ve been wronged [48:10]
Putting Yourself Out There | Matthew shares 2 easy steps to putting yourself out there [55:36]
Breaking Beliefs | Secret to breaking existing beliefs that keeps you from happiness [1:00:00]
Run Experiments | Trying new things in similar dating situations can help you evolve [1:06:08]
Be Humble | Matthew exposes how humility is needed to see how wrong you are [1:11:50]

QUOTES:

“Attention is not the same as intention. You could give me lots of attention, but have no real intention behind it. There might be no intention for this thing to go anywhere.” [4:38]

“It's very easy to value intensity, when we have it, especially because it plays to some kind of love story or an idea of a love story we've had in our head…” [7:42]

“A longtime partner is someone we have to be able to live with, not be dazzled by.” [21:27]

“If you're chasing Bad Boys, you're always chasing someone in a phase. You're chasing someone who's in that period of their life, but they won't do that to someone else down the line.” [23:28]

“I had convinced myself that the bad times weren't indicative of who he was, and the good times were” Lisa Bilyeu [25:04]

“You have to be able to separate how you feel about someone from how someone makes you feel.” [25:33]

“Because the reality for you, if somebody is bad, it doesn't make them evil. It just makes the reality for you bad.” [30:19]

“They're not the devil. They're a complex person, but I care enough about me to protect myself from the inevitable consequences of having a relationship with that person.” [32:21]

“A lot of the time relationships end the way they began just with you paying more attention.”[36:46]

“The moment we start ignoring things, the moment we start going, ‘I'll just hope that goes away,’ that's when we set the timer.” [39:18]

“Someone may have done something that was wrong, and in that sense, we are a victim to someone else's actions. But at a certain point in our journey, we have to also realize that we've been a victim of ourselves.” [48:10]

“When we trust our ability to pay attention and to act accordingly. If someone isn't making us happy, regardless of how strong we feel for somebody, we don't fear the things they do as much” [50:32]

“In life, you can't make an impact without being vulnerable.” [54:53]

“If I get vulnerable and I get a bad response to my vulnerability, then I'm learning I'm actually learning something new.” [1:05:13]


Follow Matthew Hussey:
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/
Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/
May 04, 2022
The 7 Psychological Tricks To COMMAND RESPECT & Be Confident In ANY SITUATION! | Evy Poumpouras
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RADCON LIVE - a FREE ONE-DAY LIVE EVENT HOSTED BY LISA BILYEU, author of Radical Confidence Saturday May 14th, 10am. Become the HERO of your own life. Join Lisa and the world's leading coaches & teachers - LIVE & FREE!
Learn their top strategies on how to overcome the things holding you back & live YOUR life with Radical Confidence!

When you walk into a new situation, a new job , or family function, how you show up matters more than most would rather admit. How you dress, the way you speak, and your facial expressions are all communicating and telling a story on your behalf. Evy Poumpuras, former secret service agent has been a guest on Women of Impact multiple times, and each time she’s brought so much knowledge and hard hitting truths with her that can level you up and change your life. Whether it’s being more confident, taking control of your emotional responses, or commanding respect in the workplace, Evy is unpacking everything you need to know to be super badass.

SHOW NOTES:

Master Body Language & Be Warm [0:28]
How to Handle Disrespect [20:39]
Master Confidence [37:33]
Master Your Emotions [48:56]
This Commands Respect [1:14:23]
Think & Speak With Conviction [1:23:48]
How to Handle Confrontation [1:36:30]

QUOTES:

“My goal isn't how I want that person to feel about me, my goal is what do I want my end result is this, and how do I navigate my conversation to get to that point…” [3:02]

“The more you have stress in your life, the more you're able to cope better if you know how to use these situations as a learning tool.” [10:38]

“Even if you can't articulate it, even if you don't understand it, if you feel it, follow it! There is a point where you have to trust in yourself…” [16:06]

“If I cannot master myself, forget about the outside world. So, it always has to begin with you.” [25:56]

“You're not going to own my response to you. I'm going to own it. That's why, I do for me not for you.” [33:50]

“When you assert yourself as an authority, in body posture, and voice in speech, and how you present yourself, people are less likely to mess with you.” [58:10]

“If you're not dealing with any stress, if you're not dealing with adversity, you're not dealing with obstacles, then when something does happen, you're not going to know what to do.” [1:15:36]

“When you avoid conflict, you don't know what to do when real conflict shows up [...] repetition in creating habits that are healthy, so that when things happen, you default to those habits.” [1:26:57]

“When you first meet people, and you're trying to figure them out, let them do the talking. Ask open ended questions, and then that way, let people guide you and give you the information you need rather than guessing.” [1:42:32]

Follow Evy Poumpouras:

Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/
May 01, 2022
When You’re FEELING INSECURE, Do This To Instantly BOOST CONFIDENCE! | Lisa Bilyeu
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Do you have an internal voice screaming every time you’re ready to speak up about something you see could be done better? Does the voice get louder in agony when you get complimented on the project knocked out of the park and impressed everyone? What does that inner voice say to you when you’re scrolling and see how much prettier, how much richer, how much more ‘ers’ everyone else seems to have on your feed?

You want to be more confident. You want to accept praise with grace, and not feel like a total imposter as you reach new levels. Learning how to discern and control your inner voice is a critical lesson that takes specific strategies, trial, errors, and lots of practice over time. Lisa is giving you a run down on tactics and strategies you can start practicing immediately to step up and stop villainizing your inner critic, your inner voice, today!

You don’t have to give default to feeling jealous, you can absolutely feel inspired. You don’t have to deflect the compliments you receive, you can accept them and simply say thank you. Get ready to take notes and put these tips into practice right away!

SHOW NOTES:

Trick to Comparison | Comparison that inspires and avoids feelings that bring you down [0:13]
Be Confident | Lisa’s tips to show up confidence without being obnoxious, or arrogant [5:46]
Accept Praise | Why you should stop deflecting compliments immediately and own it [12:32]
To Fake It or Not | Do what makes you feel best and don’t waste time on anything else [17:59]
Inner Critic | How to change your inner critic’s voice by listening and not villainizing her [21:32]

QUOTES:

“When you can look at someone so mind blowingly amazing [...] and not let it be detrimental to your self esteem, but actually be the complete opposite, see it as a frickin inspiration.” [4:30]

“Confidence isn’t me just coming into a room and saying why I disagree. Confidence is someone disagreeing with me and me being able to admit that they’re right! [11:34]

“Stop thinking that we are boasting, or that it means that we're big headed, if we accept the compliments that actually come with recognizing that we frickin busted our asses [...] let's freakin’ own that shit.” [17:32]

“We hold meaning to things, and the meaning we hold to things can really hold us back...” [20:16]
Apr 27, 2022
The MAJOR RED FLAGS In A Man You Should NEVER IGNORE | Matthew Hussey
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Apr 24, 2022
Neuroscientist DEBUNKS Female Brain Myths | Lisa Mosconi on Women of Impact
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When it comes to physical health, it’s no secret that too often research of new medications and studies being released are disproportionately reflective of results based on men. Women’s health issues have been poorly studied for years. More physicians and scientists are starting to shine light on the problems that exist with treating men based studies as sufficient evidence for how to best treat women. Dr. Lisa Mosconi is a neuroscientist and author of the book, The XX Brain, which dives deep into women’s cognitive health and preventing Alzheimer’s disease.

If you’re curious about how stimulants such as caffeine or alcohol effect you between cycles or how significant physical activity truly is for women over the age of 35, this interview is going to help you get started. As Lisa Mosconi says, it’s not about which is better or more superior. men’s brains or women’s brains, it’s about understanding there are functional differences that we can optimize for to have greater cognitive function and energy throughout our lives.

Check out Lisa Mosconi’s latest book, The XX Brain: https://amzn.to/3rBH4ex

SHOW NOTES:

Bikini Medicine | Lisa on women’s health is treated indistinguishable from men’s health [1:07]
Ambien Study | A study that revealed how women medicated with Ambien crashed more [4:30]
XX Brain | Lisa on understanding how the xx brain is wired and responds and functions [6:56]
Brain in Puberty | Lisa explains what happens to the brain during puberty for women [13:42]
Brain During Menstrual | How menstrual flow effects women’s changes in the brain [17:10]
Caffeine Stimulants | Lisa explains how to optimize energy from stimulants for your cycle [21:28]
Diet for Your Cycle | How foods functions for women’s brain health and how to optimize [26:39]
Supplements | Lisa shares how to supplement with a healthy diet to optimize xx brain [31:03]
Exercise for Women | Lisa on why consistency is usually more important than intensity [33:05]
Stress in Women | Reducing stress is a brain protective strategy that relies on hormones [38:33]
Tips Against Stress | Practical tips that can help you effectively fight stress day by day [43:13]
Magic of Sleep | Lisa reveals the self care process that happens during sleep [46:41]
Pregnancy & Your Brain | How pregnancy stimulates brain plasticity and connection [50:08]


QUOTES:

“Men's brains and women's brains are not different. In the sense that one is better than the other, [...] the way that the brain is built, or the way the brain functions really dictates different strengths in different vulnerabilities.” [7:54]

“This is a system that works as a system and changes at the same time, and whatever happens to your ovaries has an impact in your brain.” [19:29]

“The truth is that the same exact foods that change your body also really impact the functionality of the brain.” [22:15]

“There's so much more to food than just food. Food is information and food is function, and one of the functionalities of food is that very specific nutrients can literally speak to our cells.” [27:22]

“What the brain wants the minimum, it's a moderate intensity exercise, and the need for frequency ranges between three and five times a week.” [35:03]

“Reducing stress doesn't just save your day, it also really says your brain for the long term.” [40:59]

“Very little has been done for people to really have the tools to cultivate mental health and well being, and we live in a society that consistently prioritizes productivity and just soldiering on and just toughening up, instead of distressing and taking time for yourself.” [41:51]

“If you don't have a healthy lifestyle, you're enabling all your risks to become actual medical issues in a way. Whereas if you have a strong healthy lifestyle, you're effectively reducing this risk and keeping the risks under control…” [49:34]

Follow Lisa Mosconi:
Website: https://www.lisamosconi.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_mosconi/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/dr_mosconi
Apr 20, 2022
How To Destroy Fear, FIND YOUR WORTH, & Be More Confident | Julia Haart
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As a woman, how many times have you politely stayed quiet because culture wouldn’t allow anything else. Whether the culture came from your workplace, your family and home life, or social environment because of the country you live in, this doesn’t always have to be your reality. Sure, we’re all guilty of not speaking up at some point or another, but we can certainly agree there are extremes of being a woman forced to silence that exists in the world. Not all forms of extreme are far from home or in third world countries either. Julia Haart joins Lisa to discuss her eye opening experience that led her to a brazen victory far away from cultural and religious oppression that made her feel powerless, frustrated, and insignificant. There is a part of her story each of us can take with us to be more confident, more powerful and more secure in who we are as women.

Check out Julia Haarts new book, Brazen: My Unorthodox Journey from Long Sleeves to Lingerie: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593239164?tag=randohouseinc47720-20

SHOW NOTES:

Invisible Woman | Julia on traditional roles of women and not conforming to invisibility [0:52]
Spiritual High | Julia talks about the nature of being righteous and miserably trapped [3:10]
Breaking Beliefs | Julia reveals how she came to question her beliefs and breaking away [7:42]
Giving Up Power | How extreme religions trap you with strong beliefs & being powerless [11:19]
Brazen Moments | Julia on laws of Judaism versus add ons and standing up against it all [12:16]
Walking Away | How Julia walked away from her religion and strict life for her daughter [18:46]
Courage to Go | Julia shares how she made moved towards the impossible to be free [27:04]
Polite Women | Julia sheds light on the trouble of polite women tolerating too much [31:34]
Reprogram Old Beliefs | Julia reveals the slow process of reprogramming old beliefs [35:03]
Work In Progress | Julia is honest about the ongoing work to get to putting herself first [39:14]
Get Uncomfortable | Julia on how to be successful in spite of the fear and discomfort [43:43]


QUOTES:

“The greater of a woman you want to be the more you need to have complete removal of self” [2:53]

“The odds stacked against me seemed impossible to overcome.” [27:44]

“It was me accepting these boundaries, these rules, these commandments and strictures that made my life so miserable. I chose to do that. It was my mind that was keeping the prisoner.” [31:21]

“There are words that are reserved exclusively for women. You ever heard the word a well behaved man?” [32:52]

“As far as I've come, I still find myself in a place where I think men know better” [35:50]

“I have a long way to go until I eradicate that inferiority complex I've had my whole life” [42:12]

“I don't think fearless actually means not having fear. I think fearless means facing your fear and overcoming it.” [44:47]

“Just because this is how something is done. Doesn't mean it's something how it should be done. I literally don't give a flying fuck” [48:45]


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Apr 13, 2022
STOP Emotional Overwhelm In It’s Tracks By Following These TIPS | Lisa Bilyeu
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Losing your cool has probably never ended well for anyone. Whether you are in the workplace or home with your family, there never is an ideal or acceptable time to lose control of your emotions. But how can you keep it together when everywhere you go there is someone or something there to trigger you?

Lisa has had lots of practice doing the inner work needed to gain control of her emotions, but she will also be the first to admit, it’s a process and no one is perfect, We all slip and fall short. Being dedicated to being empowered, successful and strong has taught her so much that in this episode Lisa is sharing tips and dropping gems on how you can take practical steps to control your emotions and start making progress everyday. Staying cool when someone has trigger you is far from easy and you may fail the test 100 times, but assessing the situation, your reactions, your feelings, and learning how to rewrite the script is going to set you on the path to self mastery, and it begins now.

SHOW NOTES:

Discover Your Triggers | Lisa’s steps for discovering her triggers when emotionally sober [0:34]
Take a Step Back | How to make decisions when you are in an emotional state [11:05]
Overcome Jealousy | Lisa shares tips on how to acknowledge it and determine if it’s real [18:09]
Let Yourself Feel Emotions | Steps to uncovering the emotions you’ve been suppressing [29:58]
How to Handle Arguments | Lisa 2 rules she has to not allow arguments to go too far [42:04]

QUOTES:

“I haven't seen any situation from my own experience, where I made a decision that I was proud of making in an emotional state.” [17:55]

“Actions speak louder than words, they're showing you time and time again that they're saying, ‘this is on you, [...]. This is your problem.’” [27:24]

“There's no room for jealousy in a relationship. So you have a choice, either acknowledge it, [...] or identify that the jealousy is actually very warranted, and they are totally disrespecting you.” [28:00]

“I want to make sure that no one ever feels shame or embarrassment or any type of emotion around seeking help.” [30:35]

“I can only assess why I acted the way I did once I look back without the emotion.” [34:07]

“Giving yourself the freaking grace to get there over time, to put the work in, put a plan in place, and then every day make incremental steps to get there.” [40:37]

“I can't control what the other person says to me. But you better frickin believe that I'm never going to lower myself to their level.” [43:16]
Apr 06, 2022
Divorce Attorney Reveals SHOCKING Reasons That DESTROY Relationships And Cause Bad BREAKUPS
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Are you choosing the history of a bad relationship, when times were good, over the pain of leaving an unhealthy relationship now? Often we make relationships about what the other person is or isn’t doing and we have the tendency to focus on our reactive emotions. What feels good and what doesn’t. The problem with this kind of relationship habit is that we give our power away. Judge Faith Jenkins has been a prosecuting attorney, a judge on Divorce Court TV, and is now hosting and producing an Oxygen True Crimes show, Killer Relationships. She is revealing the success we can have in healthy relationships when we realize our power to be happy comes from within. If you are single, Faith is highlighting all the lessons and opportunities available for you to properly prepare, learn, and plan for a successful marriage or relationship that you choose to be in. Taking some time to journal after this episode may be a great way to get started on having a better relationship now.

Check out Faith Jenkins new book, Sis Don’t Settle: How to Stay Smart in Matters of the Heart: https://amzn.to/3uCFg5R

SHOW NOTES:

Relationship Disaster | How loving relationships turn into divorce or worst [0:37]
Power to be Happy | Why your personal foundation is a must for healthy relationships [3:05]
Lessons of Single Life | Faith reveals what single life is teaching and preparing you for [7:10]
Accept, Reject, or Build | 3 options you have when taking relationship to next level [8:39]
Being Resentful | Ways to navigate conflict and reveal a person’s true character [10:39]
Normalized Hurt | Faith on why healing is your responsibility, not normalizing disrespect [15:22]
Commitment | How to know if you are committing to love and the same things together [18:44]
Manifesting Love | How Faith manifested love from knowledge and acceptance of self [19:38]
Broken Love | Faith reveals the process for staying positive for love after being broken [26:44]
Toxic Traps | Revealing how people get trapped and remain in unhealthy relationships [30:59]
Danger Zone | Examining the danger of external pressure of being single and settling [36:38]
Rejection is Okay | Faith on how rejection isn’t about you and cannot be taken personal [41:35]
Due Diligence | How counseling gave Faith peace with her decision to marry and invest [46:38]
Successful Love | Why love deserves the same planning for success as your career [49:11]

QUOTES:

“People don't really have a lot of relationship problems [...] they have problems that they bring into the relationship.” [1:27]

“Being single was not a rest stop in my life, it was time for me to really live.” [6:07]

“It is easy to treat people right when things are going well. How do people treat each other when things are not going well? That is the key and a reflection of someone's true nature. [15:10]

“We aren't in charge of the person who hurt us. But we are in charge of our healing.” [15:58]

“I knew I was bringing a lot to the table. And I wanted someone who was going to add to the happiness I already had.” [21:43]

“I could not be a cynic about love and attract it into my life at the same time.” [26:28]

“If you're not careful, over time, you will internalize that messaging, and being single can start to feel like something you're embarrassed about.” [38:07]

“When you're single and you're dating, you can be the total package at the wrong address.” [41:48]

“A lot of times rejection has nothing to do with you. It's what somebody else is dealing with, and their perspective and what's going on in their lives, but if we're not careful, we make it a whole story about us.” [44:58]

“It was all about preparing, because I wanted to set myself up for success in my relationship, just like I did for all those other aspects of life.” [50:40]

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Mar 30, 2022
Psychotherapist on SETTING Boundaries, Ending Manipulation and Being Pushed Around | Terri Cole
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So many women have problems with boundaries. If you are fortunate enough to have thought through what boundaries you should have in place, you may lack the skill and discipline you need to uphold them. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. She is turning the conversation of boundaries on its head and revealing the key players running defense against your best efforts to create stronger and healthier boundaries. Whether your boundaries have been too laxed or too rigid, Terri is spotlighting the importance of your relationship with yourself and why boundaries have to start with knowing your preferences, your desires, and your limits. Boundaries are more about you than the people around you. If you’ve been struggling with boundaries, there’s a good chance you’re frustrated with the people you love, you’re feeling exhausted, unappreciated and overly sacrificing yourself and it’s making you resentful. Take a moment, sit down, and open up for some self-reflection time with Terri and Lisa.

Take Terri’s Boundary Quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com/

Check out Terri’s new book, Boundary Boss: https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688

SHOW NOTES:

Assessing Boundaries | How corrupted boundaries affect you and ways to assess them [1:30]
Self-Abandoning | Prioritizing needs and wants of others over what's true and right for you [4:37]
Codependency | Terri on what high-functioning codependency looks like for women [5:26]
Awareness is Key | Why being radically curious without judgment is the key to boundaries [8:50]
Guilt-Free Boundaries | Why helping isn’t a help and how it hurts the one you love [13:57]
Obligation-Free | Terri shares how important it is to recognize boundary issues [17:52]
Boundary Violators | How to take small steps to uphold and honor your boundaries [20:40]
Know Yourself | Why it’s important to know your preferences, limits, and deal breakers [23:22]
Self-Love & Giving | Terri on what self-love is and how it’s a way of life not a feeling [26:10]
People Pleaser | Strategies to stop the automatic ‘yes’ and start healthy boundaries [30:10]
Type of Boundaries | Terri explains physical, material, emotional, & mental boundaries [33:49]
Rigid vs. Non-Negotiable | Understanding what deal breaker boundaries for you [39:35]
Boundary Consequences | Steps to take in relationships enforcing boundary violations [42:44]
Stay in Your Lane | Terri discusses importance of respecting other people’s boundaries [50:12]
Indecision | Terri reveals what indecisiveness really says about your situation [55:54]

QUOTES:

“Women have a tendency to over give, and let’s be honest about how we were raised, most of us were raised and praised for being self-abandoning [and] codependent.” [4:37]

“But, what is codependency? It is you being overly invested in the feeling states, the outcomes, the circumstances, the relationships of the people in your life to the detriment of your internal peace…” [7:05]

“It is wrong, emotionally, to think that we have the answers for others.” [15:58]

“You must know your preferences, your desires, your limits, and your deal breakers because those are the things that not only make up your boundaries, they also make up who you are.” [23:22]

“Giving is love, over giving is dysfunctional.” Terri Cole quote read by Lisa Bilyeu [26:10]

“...it’s less of a feeling and more of a way of life that is evidenced in your relationships, your boundaries, your self-care, how well you negotiate for your own needs. That is what self love is.” [26:21]

“If you are not rocking this kind of self-love where you’re taking care of yourself first, you really don’t have that much to give to others because what we’re seeking from others they cannot provide because it’s an inside job.” [28:28]

“When you’re saying yes when you really want to say no, that isn’t being nice, that’s just being dishonest. So, how can anyone ever authentically love you if you never allow them to authentically know you.” [29:48]

“When you have healthy emotional boundaries you're not easily guilted by others. You also don’t blame others for your life, your choices, and what you’ve done.” [36:33]

“We don’t just learn how to say no, we learn how to accept someone else’s no and talk about that.” [51:09]

“No matter where you are stuck in your life, if you can reveal the unobvious gain you’re getting, unconsciously, by staying stuck, it makes it so much easier to get unstuck.” [57:37]

Follow Terri Cole:
Website: https://www.terricole.com/
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Mar 23, 2022
Calm Your ANXIETY, Stop Feeling Triggered & Let Go of STRESS | Ellen Vora on Women of Impact
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Hey guys, Lisa here! If you didn’t already know, I am super frikin excited to share that I’m writing a book! To be the FIRST to get sneak peeks about my book and other exclusive content go to: http://lisabilyeu.com/ and be sure to sign up for my newsletter.

With anxiety affecting more than 40 million Americans and 264 million people worldwide, chances are anxiety and stress have been affecting you too. Anxiety is more common in women, as we are twice as likely to be diagnosed than men. What’s the best solution for anxiety and is it a one size fits all kind of band-aid? Dr. Ellen Vora breaks down why treating anxiety strictly as mental health without looking at the entire body is problematic. Not only will it be beneficial to your anxiety and stress levels to look at your diet and lifestyle for clues to treat your anxiety, but it’s also a game changer and Dr. Vora is simplifying ways to address anxiety and lower your stress levels dramatically.

Check ut Ellen Vora’s new book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063075091?tag=imprintweb-20

Dr. Vora takes a functional medicine approach to mental health, considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root, rather than reflexively prescribing medication. In addition to her private practice and speaking engagements, Dr. Vora consults for healthcare startups as well.

SHOW NOTES:

How Anxiety Manifests | Ellen explains why anxiety isn’t just coming from your mind [0:34]
False Anxiety | Ellen reveals what avoidable anxiety does to our stress responses [4:34]
Substance Induced Anxiety | How substances affect anxiety levels and neurotransmitters [9:17]
True Anxiety | The beautiful side of anxiety that is a purposeful way to communicate [16:08]
Body Relationship | Our relationship and ability to heal really listen to your body [18:39]
False Yes | Ellen explains what a false yes and how it silences our inner voice [21:52]
Healthy Boundaries | Ellen explains how to uphold boundaries to honor saying ‘no’ [23:39]
Goals | Ellen reveals why finding balance is more important in deciding to go hard or not [28:12]
Relaxation & Ease | How healing and doing the right thing is better achieved with ease [30:39]
Long Term Diet Success | Ellen’s diet tips to help you focus on what to add into your diet [33:21]
Sleep Shoe Size | Why the right amount of sleep is necessary to lower stress & anxiety [41:28]
Hustle Culture | How to go after a fulfilling life first, be productive and allow space [51:27]
Panic Attacks | Ellen gives grounding tips for moments of anxiety and panic [54:09]

QUOTES:

“A lot of what's happening in our brain, [...] it's often a downstream effect of things that are happening elsewhere in the body.” [1:03]

“Many seemingly benign really common aspects of modern life are getting our body out of balance. And oftentimes it precipitates a stress response.” [4:57]

“Avoid the temptation to pathologize it, we want to see it as not the nuisance or the symptom to suppress, but the communication to heed.” [17:16]

“It's all about teaching ourselves not to betray ourselves, and if in that moment, not having the drink is the act of radical self love, we're now better at that we've developed that skill and kind of cultivated it.” [26:20]

“A really healthy goal is to kind of see this as well, what is building towards a fulfilling life? Sometimes it's more motivation, discipline, goals, and sometimes it's a little bit less.” [30:14]

“A lot of times we're anxious because we don't have enough healthy fats in our diet, or because we're micronutrient deficient.” [37:24]

“If you're someone who needs nine hours of sleep, rather than feeling like, ‘well, that's not fair, other people get to live more life’, just own it, embrace it and protect it fiercely and unapologetically.” [42:50]

“We don't just exist for productivity, we also exist to have a little bit of spaciousness to just enjoy what is to be enjoyed about the human experience.” [53:40]

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Mar 16, 2022
Command RESPECT, Silence The Haters, & OVERCOME Their Negativity | Lisa Bilyeu and Evy Poumpouras
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It’s been reported that the average person has 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day, 80% are negative thoughts every day. How many negative thoughts have run through your mind so far today? It’s easy to come across critics, naysayers, and haters with opinions about what you’re doing or saying and what you should be doing better. Whether the hate is coming from someone you love and respect, or people you’ll never meet, like internet trolls and gangsters, knowing how to maintain your confidence and identity through it all is super important. Evy and Lisa are exposing all the ways you can better face the haters in your life while taking aim on your most ambitious goals today.

Questions to Ask Yourself
Can I live with NOT following my dream?
Who is this person?
Why should I listen to them?
What’s more important at this moment? My goal or my identity?

SHOW NOTES:

Negative Comments | Evy and Lisa react to negative comments and reviews [0:00]
Tune Out Other Opinions | Deciding against strong opinions and culture for yourself [1:52]
Stand Alone | Evy on choosing the police academy against her parent’s support [6:03]
To Listen Or Not | How to decipher if a person is worth listening to about your dream [11:05]
Cruel Hate | Tactics Evy uses to deal with people that have expressed hatred and cruelty [16:54]
Screw What They Think | Showing up in spite of the hate being thrown your way [21:15]
Goal Vs. Identity | Lisa reveals not being willing to sacrifice identity for your goals [24:03]
Coping With Critics | Evy shares how she deals with haters and critics that don’t matter [29:20]
Don’t Play Victim | Evy’s advice to not allow anyone to make you a victim [36:06]
Ditch Your Inner Critic | Evy shares a time she allowed her inner critic to play small [38:17]
When to Hear Your Inner Critic | How to discern when to listen to your inner critic [43:59]
Negative Comments II | [55:02]

QUOTES:

“Just because somebody thinks something doesn’t mean I have to follow it.” Evy Poumpouras [8:53]

“There’s an expiration date for how long you can blame somebody else for the dreams you didn’t achieve.” Evy Poumpouras [9:47]

“I am not here to make choices to make the rest of the world happy. Do no harm, but live your life.” Evy Poumpouras [10:33]

“Just because somebody is your family member [...] that does not mean that is in harmony with who you are and your value system, and it does not mean that you’re supposed to listen” Evy Poumpouras [15:03]

“At the end of the day, if I betray who I am, who I feel like I want to show up every day to be, who I try to be every day. If I betray that, why am I doing a show to empower women? I would feel like a liar…” Lisa Bilyeu [26:21]

“People self-select… so those people who have doubt, who don’t think they can, they’ve already self selected out.” Evy Poumpouras [46:26]

“Focus on where you want to go because you don’t have the bandwidth to waste it on anything else.” Evy Poumpouras [54:54]

Follow Evy Poumpouras:

Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/
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Mar 13, 2022
Women & Weapons: Why YOU Need to Be Paying Attention to NFTs | Sara Bauman on Women of Impact
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Currently, women have been one of the slowest groups to learn and engage with NFTs, cryptocurrency, and Web 3.0. If you are clueless about what any of these things are, or you've heard about all of them but still don’t feel confident enough to explore, you’re not alone. Women only made up 16% of the NFT market. The NFT market is huge and consists of many layers of engagement and roles from all sorts of people. Until now, women have been showing very little interests, and this is the first episode Lisa is bringing a wildly successful NFT artist, Sara Baumann, up front to share how we can begin to change these disproportionate spaces that exists. NFTs are still new enough for you to become an early adopter and seize the opportunities being presented to you. It starts here with curiosity and ends with your commitment to self to not be left behind, not one more day.

SHOW NOTES:

NFT Gender Gap | Sara discusses the need for more women to venture into NFTs [1:00]
Where to Start | Ways to start learning and the benefit of joining great communities [4:48]
Imposter Syndrome | How to be confident with what you know and don’t know here [8:49]
Peak Curiosity | How Sara slowly stepped into her curiosity to learn more abou NFTs [11:09]
Sara’s Story | Sara reveals her path from occupational therapist to sold out NFT artist [12:28]
Opportunities | Sara on the opportunities available through the NFT/Web 3.0 space [16:39]
Beat Their Expectations | Sara reflects on cultural pressures and how to follow your gut [20:35]
Failing | Sara breaks down how she charges forward with confidence and is prepared [27:06]
Learn on the Go | Get over the fear of failing and embrace opportunity to learn on the go [31:03]
Supporting Women | Sara on the ways she’s been able to support and elevate women [33:42]
Community Vibe | How Sara leads her community & ways to choose a safe community [36:15]
Women and Weapon Art | Sara reveals the meaning behind her art empowering women [39:58]
NFT Art Business | The business side that Sara has been planning for to create value [44:58]
NFT Utility | Sara on the use of owning an NFT and receiving digital or physical product [47:25]
Metaverse Defined | Why this is a new way to interact and engage with community [49:33]


QUOTES:

“You are taking a risk jumping into a new space, but you’re also taking a risk by not jumping into this space and by not being early.” [4:13]

“I am certainly not an expert in the web three area, but I am more than happy to learn about it. Because there is nothing wrong with having more knowledge.” [29:19]

“I'm a huge believer in your vibe attracts your tribe.” [36:23]

“If somebody has something negative to say about you, that's on them. That's not on you.” [39:47]

“I want to give them weapons that are symbolic of the weapons that we as women carry on a day to day basis.” [41:46]

“It's absolutely bringing us all together very much becoming like an in one place world friendship.” [53:34]

Follow Sara Baumann:
Website: https://www.womenandweapons.io/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/NFTSaraBaumann
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Mar 09, 2022
Behavioral Scientist REVEALS How to READ Anyone With Confidence and EASE | Vanessa Van Edwards
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You may have heard this advice at some point in your life, “don’t listen to what people say, watch what they do.” Nonverbal communication can be more authentic and transparent than the things we verbally communicate. Vanessa Van Edwards, behavioral investigator, reminds us that nonverbal communication and cues can also send the wrong message if a person is nervous or anxious. In her latest book, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication, Vanessa explores over 90 cues that will help you become more effective in your communication efforts and perceptive to areas that require more attention or follow through.

Check out Vanessa Van Edwards new book, Cues: https://amzn.to/3leaa1j

Don’t miss Vanessa’s last episode with Lisa, “Are They Lying to You”: https://youtu.be/LkOEShBS6hQ

SHOW NOTES:

Blindsided Cues | When you’re missing cues being shown while focused on your delivery [0:44]
4 Kinds of Cues | Vanessa shares four cues: nonverbal, verbal, vocal, and imagery[2:29]
Imagery Cues | Vanessa explains how to use them to get your message across effectively [3:14]
Goals of Cues | Trying to assess warmth and competence to speed up your connection [8:10]
Listening Cues | Vanessa shares why watching people listen is more telling of their cues [10:00]
Warmth Cues | Why trust and reliability are important cues and the power of a slow nod [13:15]
Danger Zone Cues | How to spot danger zone cues and handle it when you see them [17:12]
Lip Purse Cue | Vanessa explains why lip pursing is a red fag and how to address it [18:33]
Lower Lid Flex | Vanessa describes why this cue that can be positive or negative [22:06]
Question Inflection | Vanessa explains why vocal inflection clues you to deception & lies [24:14]
Shark Tank Case Study | Vanessa shares cue insights on Jamie Siminoff’s pitch [28:02]
4 Space Zone | Vanessa breaks down how to use the 4 space zones to your advantage [32:58]
Fronting Position | Vanessa explains the importance body, toe, and seating position [37:30]
Context & Clusters | Vanessa shares why context matters and cues cannot be isolated [42:25]
Contempt | Vanessa explains why contempt is the #1 cue to get wrong [46:26]

QUOTES:

“If you can cue someone for your warmth and competence, right off the bat, it actually speeds up your connection.” [8:45]

“When someone's listening, they're not rehearsing anymore. They're off the clock, and their brain is much more focused on you.” [11:49]

“If you are smart, you might run into this problem where people underestimate you and your ideas, because you're not delivering them with the right competence and warmth.” [32:47]

“If someone is angled away, and they're just giving you head attention, their body and their feet are looking somewhere else. They are not fully engaged with you.” [41:29]

“Contempt is the number one cue people get wrong.” [47:43]

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Mar 02, 2022
You’re Not Being Irrational! You’re Emotionally TRIGGERED. This Is How You CONTROL IT
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Trauma stems from any number of experiences, but women are twice as likely to develop PTSD and roughly 50% of women are reported to have experienced some sort of traumatic event in life. What trauma have you experienced that gets pushed out of your mind continuously so you can carry on with your day? When you still have to show up for work, care for your children, and attend family functions, when are you taking the time to face the trauma that is affecting you? As we disregard the warnings in our minds, symptoms can often manifest physically and go untreated. Gabby Bernstein is back to share the depth of work she’s been doing to get to the next level seeking freedom. Gabby is a NY Times bestselling author, spiritual coach and motivational speaker. She opens up and reveals her journey from being a meditative holistic spirit junkie to accepting medical diagnosis and prescription to help her through mental health challenges she needed to overcome.

“When an eggshell is cracked from the outside it is broken, when it's cracked from the inside it is reborn.” Ama

Check out Gabby’s new book, Happy Days: https://amzn.to/3JN8Dsb

SHOW NOTES:

You’re Not Crazy | Gabby on how to be compassionate and more curious about triggers [0:42]
Being Medicated | Gabby explains how she came to accept a diagnosis and medication [7:13]
Go Next Level | How being devoted feeling free is the catalyst for change to level up [12:56]
Codependency | Gabby exposes how codependency in relationships is an addiction [18:14]
Running Away | How to identify if you’re running away when you need to face the trauma [21:23]
Address Wounds | Why addressing your core wounds is a must even when medicated [24:38]
Shame of My Shame | Healing the trauma causing shame and caring for your inner child [28:00]
Discomfort | How to sit in the discomfort when you are ready and desire to feel free [35:27]
Rage on the Page | Gabby shares how to journal your anger and make space for love [38:49]
Doing the Work | Gabby explains how to do the internal work in your own pace [44:00]
Happy Days | Gabby explains why her book is meant to share hope of the other side [47:23]

QUOTES:

“When we're being guided and we're resisting that guidance, we block the miracles.” [12:19]

“The only way I was able to up level in these moments of crisis is because I was so devoted to feeling free, to being free in my energy system.” [14:35]

“Send those inner children just so much compassion, and so much love and respect and just calmness and say, ‘I am proud of you for getting to where you are. And I want to do more for you.’” [30:35]

“Noticing the ways that I could be as respectful to my own inner children as I am to my son, was really profound for me.” [32:26]

Follow Gabby Bernstein:
Website: https://gabbybernstein.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabbybernstein/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gabriellebernstein
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiGs8bAma9q1fqP-3SokQZw
Twitter: https://twitter.com/gabbybernstein
Feb 23, 2022
How to BREAK Expectations, REMOVE Family Pressures, & Take CONTROL of Your Life | Payal Kadakia
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How many times has fear kept you in the place where you work or where you live? So many women (and men) are fearful of making moves that change careers or change the relationships in their lives, but why? How are you supposed to break free from the ‘I can’t afford to’ traps or the ‘this is what’s expected of me’ traps? Today’s guest, Payal Kadakia is the founder and executive chairman of Classpass. She’s a professional dancer and choreographer and entrepreneur from the corporate world that knows the pressure of living with multiple identities. She is sharing her experience and lessons of what it took to successfully merge her different identities and align with her North Star. LifePass, is the book she wrote to help you do the same. Get empowered, walk through the discomfort of life with confidence and a plan to change your fear into a life you want to live for everyday.

Check out Payal’s book, LifePass, Drop Your Limits, Rise to Your Potential: https://www.amazon.com/LifePass-Develop-Mindset-Techniques-Optimize/dp/179720694X/

SHOW NOTES:

Train of Expectation | Pursuing family expectations and finding balance with dance [0:45]
Guilt of Expectations | How to live aligned with passion beyond the expectations [3:45]
Dual Identity | Payal on being Indian in America and embracing what made her different [8:49]
Self-Acceptance | Learning to blend her different communities to accept all sides of her [12:55]
Breaking Assumptions | How sharing wins & failures of all sides of her life made impact [18:30]
Listen to Yourself | Payal on not listening to others, setting boundaries to find your way [21:13]
True North | Payal on aligning with passion & understanding the value driving her path [26:21]
Plan B | Making sure to cover your bases and still wanting to live to the fullest [31:28]
Motivated | Live more by what’s motivating you versus what’s an obligation [33:08]
Be Emotional | Payal on allowing emotion and pushing through other side in business [35:23]
Do It Your Way | Payal shares how playing to her strengths and not the norm was a win [43:29]
Confidence & Fear | Focus on what you want to achieve rather than be a prisoner to fear [45:49]
Uncomfortable & Intimidated | How to keep showing up and get to the other side [50:54]
LifePass Goals | Payal on 3 steps of goal setting she designed for you to live with feeling [54:45]

QUOTES:

“Having these other things that helped me feel like I was progressing as a human being because really, that's really what it's all about is we're all looking for progress.” [3:12]

“The guilt just goes away because you were just living your life so inline with your being, that everything just dissipates.” [6:08]

“You might not be in a place today, where you can go after your dreams. But that doesn't mean you can't put a plan together today and start working towards it…” [8:14]

“When you really are doing stuff that you really love. I think you stopped questioning it because you're in the right environment. And you're in the right state of mind.” [18:20]

“Getting yourself in an environment where you are like, I'm going to do something and doing it well. [...] and getting that response from other people, helps you just break through a lot of those expectations of other people” [20:54]

“Design the people in your life to help you fulfill your mission.” [24:05]

“How can we create companies that have exceptional brands, if we're going to be devoid of emotion in our offices...” [42:17]

“There are environments that can trap even the greatest human beings, [...] We just have to work through these traps.” [48:53]


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Feb 16, 2022
THIS Is What it Actually Takes to Have a Happy Relationship | Tom Bilyeu on Women of Impact
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Get ready for Valentine's Day with this fun Q&A for you and your partner to get even closer: relationships.radicalconfidence.com

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The truth about happy long lasting relationships and marriages is that most times, couples don’t know how they survive, but in hindsight they can see what worked and what didn’t. Tom and Lisa have been thriving together for over 20 years. Through many trials and errors they have found the secret to building a healthy and lasting relationship. Lisa takes Tom through several topics they formulated 26 hardcore questions around that keep the love strong and the relationship focused on what matters. In their experience, thriving together has looked like telling each other hard truths, handing over their insecurities and vulnerabilities to each other in exchange for a beautiful shared life experience.

SHOW NOTES:

Desire | Tom shares why understanding your partner’s changing wants over time is critical [0:55]
Perfect Day | Toms reveals what a perfect day would be if Lisa was down for anything [4:31]
Speak Up | The importance of letting your partner know what makes you happy [6:00]
Setup for the Win | How to set your partner up for the win and being happy[10:34]
Trust | Tom discusses what total trust looks like for a healthy thriving relationship [12:33]
Broken Trust | Tom and Lisa discuss ways to open up again after trust is broken [18:57]
Insecurities | The importance of never using your partner insecurities to hurt them [23:17]
Irreversible | Lisa shares 3 major things that can’t be taken back in healthy relationship [26:21]
Hard Truth | Asking your partner the one trait they want in a partner, you don’t have [32:00]
Reconsidering | Ask the hard question, what would make you reconsider the relationship [41:10]
Disruptors | Lisa and Tom break down how to pattern interrupt big arguments [44:29]

QUOTES:

“All the things that are self evident to you may not resonate with them. And if you don't understand what resonates with them, what they want, where they're excited, then you can get into ruts.” Tom Bilyeu [2:13]

“It's those moments where someone doesn't say anything [...] and now over time, I start to perceive that as you just keep pulling away from me, and that becomes the crack in your relationship.” Lisa Bilyeu [8:39]

“The relationship, prioritizing it, and then thinking of it in different ways, even when it's inconvenient, is so freakin’ important.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:11]

“To think about somebody else and compromise and make sure they're happy too [...] there's a lot of compromise, but there's certain things need to be true for that to be worth it.” Tom Bilyeu [14:40]

“What makes love worthwhile is that you are in a position where they can devastate you, and they don't.” Tom Bilyeu [21:42]

“I don't think that you can have what makes a relationship worth it, and be guarded, I don't think it's possible.” Tom Bilyeu [22:38]

“At my worst, I still don't reach for things that are going to hurt you. All of my micro personalities, you're safe with.” Tom Bilyeu [30:17]

“I think a lot of people get themselves in trouble because of one simple idea, I want them to know that it's important to me, I shouldn't have to tell them.’” Tom Bilyeu [37:04]

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Website: https://impacttheory.com/
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Feb 09, 2022
How to CHOOSE A Partner Wisely, Select The Right Relationship & Find HAPPINESS
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Choosing the right person to date can be a high-stress situation for most of us. The choice is even more difficult when you begin to think about all of your previous choices and wonder if you can even trust your judgment anymore. Have you ever wondered how is it that you seem to attract not one, not two, but every wrong person possible? Does the madness ever end?

This episode is dedicated to a few basic strategies and ideas worth learning about and practicing so that you can stop attracting the wrong person to your life and start picking the right partner for you. Spirit, the relationship therapist, and Matthew Hussey are united in wisdom for a masterclass on not just how to date better, but also how to make better choices and get out of the wrong situations even faster.

Check out these full episodes:
Secrets of a Successful Relationship with Spirit: https://youtu.be/2dkk3D8tXDs
What Guys Really Think with Matthew Hussey: https://youtu.be/pse1IbIc7vM

SHOW NOTES:

Are you compatible | Spirit reveals truth about aligning with your partner [0:25]
Dating Rules | Tips for dating potential life partners [5:18]
Solving Relationship Problems | The healthy way to solve relationship problems [11:44]
Ask Hard Questions | Knowing the truth is better than wondering [19:25]

QUOTES:

“Compatibility is about how do we line up in the areas of our lives in such a way that if you never changed, and I never changed, we would still fit like a glove, [...] and have our needs met in this relationship for the rest of our lives.” Spirit [3:14]

“The longer that we can hold out on the sex, the more objective we can be about who the person is.” Spirit [8:58]

“The relationship is its own living, breathing entity, and it's up to the two of you to constantly work together in partnership to resolve the problems in your relationship.” [12:06]

“Everything starts with us as the individual and then radiates outward, and if you don't understand that, that's because either you haven't learned to be connected to all the parts of yourself, or somewhere along the line, somebody told you that what you needed and wanted wasn't important enough for you to express an advocate for you getting what you want in order to be happy.” Spirit [17:22]

“When someone is being intentional about dating, they are asking intentional questions about who you are and what you're all about.” Matthew Hussey [20:18]

“Be kind in your tone, but ruthless in your actions.” Matthew Hussey [26:53]

“The uncomfortable conversation lasts an hour, maybe five minutes, the knowledge, the answer you have for the rest of your relationship.” Matthew Hussey [30:35]

Follow Spirit: https://www.instagram.com/talk2spirit/
Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/
Feb 02, 2022
Secret Service Agent on How to KICK ASS, Get TOUGHER & Get Back up When You’re Down
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The CDC reports that 60% of women do not have a regular form of exercise, and yet multiple studies and science points toward the benefits of exercise for improving women’s health. Maybe you don’t feel like you have time for an exercise routine. Possibly the thought of going to the gym is making you want to click on another video right now, but before you do, know that getting healthier, stronger and more unstoppable doesn’t have to look the way you may be imagining.

Evy and Lisa are sharing practical strategies we can all put into effect starting today. Listening to your body is the biggest takeaway from this episode. As these ladies discuss workout routines, body movement, relaxation and how to eat, it all comes down to knowing your body and listening to yourself about what is best for you. Achieving better health is not going to be the same process for everyone. It will look different for each of us, but it can be fun even though it’s tough. It will also be rewarding when you are as Unstoppable as Evy and Lisa in your own unique way.

Train for how your body feels and not for metrics.
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What do you enjoy doing?
What challenges you?
How does this feel to you?

SHOW NOTES:

Get Physical | Evy shares mindset around a exercise, body movement, and routine [0:55]
Mind-Body | Why mind-body cannot be separated for optimal performance [4:58]
Get Uncomfortable | Evy and Lisa on doing hard things without being overly extreme [11:09]
Cold Plunge | Lisa joins Evy for a cold plunge demo to talk or not talk [19:49]
F*ucking Relax | Plan your time and honor boundaries to relax and take care of you [23:20]
Avoid Burnout | What Evy and Lisa do to relax, avoid burnout, and sustain high levels [33:15]
Relax Time | Evy and Lisa show the different ways they relax to recharge [43:55]
Brain Food | How Evy and Lisa view food as fuel for the body to become unstoppable [47:41]
Listen to Your Body | Allow your body to dictate what and when you need to eat [58:22]
Collective Mindset | Evy on how collective ideas in the right environment shaped her [1:02:37]
What I Eat | Evy and Lisa show what they eat to start the day unstoppable [1:06:59]

QUOTES:
“I do it first thing in the morning, and that’s when I get all my best ideas. In moving and in the gym and working [...] I get my best creative ideas.” Lisa Bilyeu [7:15]

“I don’t do treadmills, I don’t want to see numbers. I don’t want to see how far I’ve gone. Some days I run three miles, some days I run a mile and a half, some days maybe I’ll go longer. I go with what I feel and I let my body guide me.” Evy Poumpouras [7:41]

“I have this mindset, kill fear while it’s still small, so I kept that in check.” Evy Poumpouras [11:26]

“It’s a lifestyle, and the second I shifted from ‘I just wanna deadlift 100 pounds’ to ‘I want to keep deadlifting until I’m 90.” Lisa Bilyeu [18:35]

“It took me recognizing the importance of f*cking relaxing, the importance of sticking to it, the importance of setting boundaries to it, and the importance of understanding what it does to you and why you need to make it a habit.” Lisa Bilyeu [26:44]

That’s why I’m not always in beast mode. I can’t sustain beast mode cause beast mode is going to make me crash. I save beast mode for when I need it.” Evy Poumpouras [34:53]

“Food is literally like gas in a car. If you’re not putting in the right gas, if it’s not good quality, if it’s not regular, if you leave the car on empty, your car just doesn’t work anymore.” Lisa Bilyeu [48:03]

“It’s not about how you f*cking look. Being unstoppable means you have to look at what you eat, how it affects your brain, how it affects your mood, how it affects how you show up everyday…” Lisa Bilyeu [1:06:34]

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Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/
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Jan 30, 2022
How to PROTECT YOURSELF From EMOTIONAL Harm & Stop Your Self Sabotaging Ways | Cheryl Burke
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Heeeyyy guuuuyys!!! I’m SO frikin excited to share my upcoming book RADICAL CONFIDENCE with you guys! I have poured my heart and soul into this book and I CAN’T WAIT to share it with you! Sign up for updates about the book (and bonus content!!) here: lisabilyeu.com

People that experienced abuse as children are significantly more likely to be abused as adults. Even more shocking is a recent study that cites women who suffered from childhood abuse are at a higher risk of dying young. Sadly, drugs and alcohol addiction play a major part in this. Cheryl Burke is a professional dancer, podcaster, motivational speaker, and entrepreneur. You may have caught her in one of her 20+ seasons on Dancing With The Stars. She has recently braved the storm and decided to come forward about her alcohol addiction and childhood trauma. While she is a work in progress and making moves towards healing and recovery from a complicated past everyday, she is joining Lisa to openly share her struggles with addiction and finding herself with love, compassion, and acceptance.

For a deeper dive into Cheryl’s world and her story you can also check out the essay she published in US Weekly about her sobriety here: (https://www.usmagazine.com/entertainment/news/cheryl-burke-details-sobriety-healing-through-dwts-with-cody-rigsby/)

SHOW NOTES:

Abusive Past | Cheryl reveals traumatic events created addiction and Queen of numb [0:36]
Out of Control | How social anxiety was amplified even after being called out for drinking [5:31]
Pivotal Moments | Cheryl exposes what happened that helped her get sober [7:57]
Body Dysmorphia | Coping with an unhealthy body image & social media stressors [9:37]
Admitting Addiction | Steps Cheryl took to admit a drinking problem without sabotage [11:43]
Self-Identity | How Cheryl is discovering herself beyond toxic addictions and learning self [15:43]
Assessing Relationships | Deciding the relationships to stay with and outgrow for better [21:37]
Accepting Compliments | Working through the discomfort of taking a compliment [23:55]

QUOTES:

“When I was calm, or when I was not creating drama around me there was something wrong.” [2:10]

“Addiction is a disease and everybody will be triggered in certain ways that we will never know, and that doesn't mean it's your fault” [13:52]

“I'm just trying to be happy and understand that peace is not boring. Peace is a beautiful thing. but there's only little tiny seconds that maybe once every few months that I experience that.” [17:52]

“We get so consumed with what we think people want, that we don't know what we want.” [19:37]

Follow Cheryl Burke:
Website: https://www.cheryl-burke.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCemwzBiVg4zXdy9I4A8oGog
Twitter: https://twitter.com/CherylBurke
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cherylburke/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialCherylBurke
Jan 26, 2022
How to Boost Your CONFIDENCE, Stop Feeling Embarrassed, & Feel WORTHY
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Heeeyyy guuuuyys!!! I’m SO frikin excited to share my upcoming book RADICAL CONFIDENCE with you guys! I have poured my heart and soul into this book and I CAN’T WAIT to share it with you! Sign up for updates about the book (and bonus content!!) here: lisabilyeu.com

The confidence gap between men and women has been studied and well documented. It was reported that 79% of women admit to struggling with self-esteem and confidence. Chances are that even if you are a confident woman, you have times where confidence is lacking and M.I.A.

Lisa is exposing why you don’t have to feel confident 100% of the time. Whether you are in a professional setting or in the privacy of your home and family, being confident around the clock sounds stressful and unrealistic.

It is, however, your responsibility to observe the things you do and don’t do that add and take away from how confident you feel. Taking back your power and showing up confident starts with you and that means not allowing other people in your life or in the room to affect your level of confidence. This episode is packed with tips for better strategies and tactics you can employ right now to start exuding more confidence. Before you show up in the next meeting, before you walk into the next event, and before you leave the mirror tomorrow morning do the internal work needed to be at your best.

“Walk in the room and freakin’ own it” -Lisa Bilyeu

SHOW NOTES:

Confident Vs. Vain | The line between confidence and being vain about your success [0:29]
Ditch Other’s Opinions | How to be sensitive to other without diminishing your confidence [5:27]
Daily Confidence Routine | Lisa’s tips to get suited up everyday to be confident [12:51]
The Right to Be Confident |Why you have the right to be confident no matter what [18:40]
Recover From Embarrassment | How to not allow shame to break your confidence [19:54]
Stop Hating Yourself | Recognize when you’re hating on yourself without judgement [26:46]
Dress for Confidence | Lisa reveals what you are in control of that makes you confident [35:18]

QUOTES:

“If they're struggling, don't let their struggle diminish your accomplishment.” [2:40]
“You can be confident that that journey existed, and confident that you were the one that did the work.” [4:59]

“Do not diminish your confidence, do not fake that you are not confident if you really are, but just be sensitive to the people you are talking to.” [11:11]

“When I dress up like this, and I step in front of the camera and I play my music, you better frickin believe I'm feeling confident.” [18:32]

“I don't necessarily want self love all the time. I don't want to be like [...] everything's okay, just love yourself, no, you're fine. No! I'm not, I've got to improve “ [34:53]

“The days you don't feel your best, you're not showing up as your best.” [35:59]

“If you're dressing differently because you're feeling differently, you then walk in differently which means your body posture is probably going to be different because of all these other things.” [37:38]
Jan 19, 2022
Neuroscientist Shows You How to ESCAPE the Cycle of STRESS & Anxiety | Amishi Jha on Women of Impact
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Attention and focus may be at the top of every employer’s list and every woman’s dating requirements. We live in a society that highly values attention and praises anyone who can focus long enough to accomplish the seemingly impossible. Yet, many of us continue to struggle with both. Mindfulness is viewed as something that would be nice but very few are actually mastering the practice of being present and attentive in the here and now. With stress and overwhelm overtaking us at every turn in the day our minds are flooded and vulnerable to digital attacks and sabotage initiated by our own self. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at University of Miami and author of the new book, Peak Mind: Find Your Focus, Own Your Attention, Invest 12 Minutes a Day. She’s joining Lisa to dispel the rumours that improving your attention and meditation skills means that you have to clear your mind. She’s calling it out, and giving simple strategies and techniques you can start using before this episode ends. It’s time to take back your attention, regain your focus and do it in 3 simple steps.

SHOW NOTES:

Attention | Amishi reveals while attention can be a superpower it is vulnerable too [0:36]
Prioritized Info |How attention systems helps to prioritize information into subsystems [5:08]
Flashlight Focus | Spotlight information like a flashlight versus not focusing on something [7:17]
Suppressing Memories | Amishi shares ways to stop thinking about troubled memories [10:46]
Floodlight Focus | Information that is not limited but has a broad and receptive range [12:49]
Emotional Overwhelm | Strategy to manage emotions and overwhelm from 3rd person [15:32]
Hijacked Focus | When we create a simulated reality and are not in the present [20:29]
Mindfulness Practice | Ways that mindfulness in 12 minutes a day empowers you [25:32]
Executive Control | Amishi on the power of your mind’s attention being guided by goals [29:51]
Overriding Attention | Mindfulness of your attention requires initiating executive control [32:20]
Meditation | How mindfulness meditation is about staying present without the extra story [34:34]
Rumination Spiral | Time traveling in your mind and tips to break the lapse in attention [39:02]
Becoming Aware | Amishi shares simple exercise to find your attention flashlight [43:05]
Wandering Mind | Amishi on why you don’t need to clear your mind, redirect instead [49:35]
Well Wishing Practice | Deliberately speak to deep care and concern to yourself [52:55]

QUOTES:

“Whatever it is that we pay attention to recalibrates the entirety of the way the brain operates.” [1:49]

“Trying to suppress certain information actually brings it more saliently in your mind.” [10:12]

“Our default is always to simulate reality, make assumptions, conceptually elaborate, emotionally react, and then mentally time travel.” [20:38]

“If I can practice becoming more aware, moment by moment, I will have more opportunities to intervene, to best advantage what I want to succeed and do in my life.” [34:05]

“Mindfulness meditation is about being in the present moment without a story about it.” [37:03]

“We typically cannot think ourselves out of mental challenge. We've got to do something with our attention that is not thinking.” [41:43]

“The moment you've noticed your mind has wandered away. That's a win! That's the successful moment. If you had never noticed that your mind had wandered away, would you ever have been able to get it back?” [50:10]

Follow Amishi Jha:
Website: https://amishi.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AmishiPJha
Twitter: https://twitter.com/amishijha
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amishipjha/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amishi.jha
Jan 12, 2022
How to HEAL and Build TRUST After Narcissistic Abuse | Dr. Ramani on Women of Impact
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By now, you are most likely aware of narcissistic behavior being grandiose, egotistical and charming. If many of us can describe a narcissistic person, then how do we fall into unhealthy relationships with people that have zero concern for our happiness or well being? If you’ve experienced a relationship with a narcissistic person or happen to be currently living through narcissistic abuse then you are familiar with the frustration, the gaslighting, and feeling totally lost on how to end it or get out of the relationship. There are very clear traps narcissists use to keep hold of the people they want to control. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is an expert in narcissism and clinical psychologist. She is also a repeat guest on the show, joining Lisa for the third time. She’s breaking down all the ways narcissists are trying to trap you, how to heal from narcissistic abuse to move on, and how to create better boundaries and a plan for revenge.

SHOW NOTES:

Feeling Lost | What does moving on from a narcissistic relationship look like [1:02]
5 Traps to Avoid | Dr. Ramani breaks down 5 traps in narcissistic relationships [5:39]
Hoovering Trap | A powerplay tactic narcissist use to suck you in after you’ve left [9:38]
Avoid Enablers | Dr. Ramani explains how enablers make it harder to walk away [11:44]
The Hope Trap | Dr. Ramani reveals how narcissist trigger hope to keep you baited [13:44]
Trapped by Guilt | When vulnerable narcissists trap with the belief you can save them [15:24]
Responsibility | Dr. Ramani on why responsibility of being treated poorly is not on you [17:27]
Trauma Bonding | Why people hold onto the good things in bad relationships explained [21:47]
Breaking Triggers | Dr. Ramani explains why being alone for a whole year is necessary [25:35]
Danger of Control | Why controlling what someone wears is a dangerous dynamic [35:53]
Be Cherished | Dr. Ramani reveals why being cherished over desired is important [38:37]
Rebuilding Trust | Why it’s hard to rebuild trust for with yourself and tips for progress [42:00]
Boundaries | Dr. Ramani’s tips for setting boundaries when you don’t feel safe [55:21]
Revenge | Dr. Ramani explains the best form of revenge against a narcissist [57:25]
Self Efficacy | Dr. Ramani reveals how to heal from narcissistic abuse with indifference [1:04:38]

QUOTES:

“The hope is around, you are a better navigator of your own life, and you had the wisdom to extract the lessons from this really difficult experience.” [5:07]

“You can retain your empathy and compassion, and you can also preserve yourself, and your job on this earth is not to rescue another capable adult. That responsibility lies on them.” [17:03]

“Even if you try to teach them how you want to be treated, they ain't listening because they have no empathy. They don't care. You're merely an object to get them what they need.” [20:08]

“That time and becoming reacquainted while you're not in a relationship is where you find out that your legs can stand on their own.” [32:04]

“It's not just about the trust of the other, it's about that you have the right to set a boundary, and that's about trusting yourself.” [46:45]

“You may not be able to like, boom, set this line in the sand with this person, but that doesn't mean you have to sit here quietly and endure an uncomfortable situation, you can give yourself permission to leave, and it ain't your job to school that person anyhow.” [56:06]

“If you can think of revenge as you being your best self that shuts everybody down.” [59:04]


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Jan 05, 2022
How to MOTIVATE Yourself, Overcome Self Doubt and ACHIEVE Your Goals | Lisa Bilyeu
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It’s been said that more than 90% of people never achieve their goals. A big part of women and men failing their goals ties into fear of failing and being too scared to even dream of better. Lisa is experienced at handling multi-million dollar companies, leading teams, creating content that makes the world a better place, and becoming a bestselling author. In this Q&A, Lisa is sharing exactly how she prioritizes her goals and what you can do to create a toolbox that will help you stay the course and accomplish what you set out to achieve.

SHOW NOTES:

Goal Setting | Lisa on how motivation impacts achieving your goal [0:26]
Transform Your Life | How to undertake a complete life transformation and prioritize [8:03]
Steps to Your Goal | Lisa breaks down exact steps to achieving massive goals [14:53]
Stick to Your Goal | How to stick with your game plan and if it’s time to change goals [20:26]
Time Management | Lisa’s strategy for managing time and prioritizing all that she does [22:30]
Setup for Success | Making sure that you’re able to get back up after failing a goal [35:03]
Your Own Hero | Lisa reveals why not have family support doesn’t stop your goals [37:25]


QUOTES:

“When shit hits the fan, I just feel shitty about myself, that reminder of what my goal is, doesn't frickin help. It doesn't snap me out of this negative downward spiral” [2:44]

“Start on one aspect of your life in transforming that. And over time, you will actually start to see it already starts to interconnect with the other parts of your life.” [13:59]

“People change their path because of the difficulty it is to get to the goal, not because they don't want the goal itself.” [21:10]

“If you are setting a goal. It won't be easy. If you are setting a goal, you fall on your frickin’ face. [...] now we have to say is Is this the goal unwilling to fall on my face for.” [21:59]

“Even though you've decided these are the things that you love to do, there's going to be some times that you don't actually act in accordance, and you don't show up for the things that you've said.” [23:48]

“Break every preconceived notion of how you do things.” [32:14]

“I realized I'm the hero of my own life. Everything starts and ends with me.” [39:43]
Dec 29, 2021
How to Practice SELF LOVE, Prioritize Yourself, and ACCEPT Who You Are
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The Body Shop launched a global report this year that revealed 60% of women wish they had more respect for themselves. This study is shining light on a self-love crisis. Sexuality, economic status, age, and time on social media were all factors that seem to impact how people felt about themselves and their ability to love themselves. In this episode, we have 7 powerful women who understand the pain of being in a mental space that doesn’t make you feel confident or much like a badass. The throughline here seems to be that self love requires you to take the time to get to know yourself. So, in the next 35 minutes, take notes and think through areas you can start to remove the barriers in place preventing you from loving yourself. Where are you being most unkind to yourself? Where does self-doubt seem to always show up? It’s time to create an unbreakable relationship with yourself, and this is how…

“I’m my own worst critic, talk a whole lot of shit,
but I’m a ten out ten even when I forget!
I wonder when I love me is enough”
-Demi Lovato

SHOW NOTES:

Tip #1 | Spend Time with Yourself, Radhi finds herself through meditation [0:30]
Tip #2 | Challenge Yourself, Roxy has loving dialogue and a journal for challenges [4:41]
Tip #3 | Accept Yourself As Your Are, Cynthia says start with knowing who you are [11:30]
Tip #4 | Know Who You Are, Patrice anchored to her true self not outward situations [17:42]
Tip #5 | Treat Yourself How Like Your Best Friend, Najwa on making yourself feel heard [23:43]
Tip #6 | Humbly Brag About Yourself, Daniele says start bragging on your achievements [25:49]
Tip #7 | Slow Down, Mel takes pause to be with herself face to face in the mirror [30:07]

QUOTES:

“We never get into relationships with people or friendships without knowing them. We can't fall in love with someone without knowing them.” Radhi Devlukia [1:20]

“To love yourself is to say this shit’s hard, I'm not comfortable, but I love myself so damn much, and I love what's on the other side of this, this vision that I hold, this impact that I want to make that girl, You better get your ass up!” Roxanne Saffaie [4:44]

“The most valuable methodology tactic is really spending time in your journal to deeply connect with who you are, and developing a relationship with who you were blooming into.” Roxanne Saffaie [10:59]

“We're trying to love an idea of who we wish we were not who we are currently, and that's why we fail so much when it comes to this idea of just loving yourself.” Cynthia Garcia [14:18]

“We have to be fulfilled in different parts of our lives. if one thing goes down, that can't be the end all be all.” Patrice Washington [22:38]

“Self love is picturing the person that you love the most and telling yourself, I will not treat myself any less than I would treat that person.” Najwa Zebian [23:46]

“Be seen, so that you can see yourself because I think that's the thing is we're just like coasting through this life, thinking that we're supposed to get to this place, but it doesn't exist because everyone's trying to sell a salvation.” Daniele Della Valle [28:59]

“Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every single relationship that you have. If you don't love and respect yourself, how on earth are you going to do that for other people?” Mel Robbins [34:31]

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Dec 22, 2021
How to Respond When Someone DISRESPECTS You, Keep Your COOL and Come Out On TOP | Tracy Tutor
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It’s not really a secret that there is a huge gap in confidence in the workplace for men and women. There are reports that show 79% of women lack confidence at work! Too often women play small, are shy about speaking up, and not able to call people out in a business setting without allowing emotions to take over. Tracy Tutor is the Million Dollar LA Listing Luxury Real Estate Agent that shows up to play hard. Though real estate agents are largely female, Tracy is the first female real estate agent to star on the Bravo TV reality series. When it comes to confrontation and holding her own in high stakes, multi-million dollar deals, Tracy runs with the best of them.

Tracy is giving you high value strategies for better conversations, handling confrontations like a female alpha, and making a statement with your fashion.

SHOW NOTES:

Confrontation | Tracy shares how to check your emotions and communicate effectively [0:34]
Being Emotional | Being tough doesn’t mean that you’re not dealing with being emotional [6:37]
Gut Instincts | Tracy’s experience not following her gut, why intuition has to be trained [11:56]
Conversation Tips | Tracy on how to lead with a question, have the last word, & move on [17:56]
Processing | Why processing confrontational conversations are necessary [24:11]
Own the Room | How understanding personality types helps you navigate the room [26:00]
Different Moods | Tracy shares her tips on how to deal with apathetic and agitated moods [30:34]
Self Deprecation | Why being able to poke fun at yourself keeps your insecurities in check [37:07]
Relatable | Why being vulnerable and flawed and revealing yourself creates connection [43:17]
Power Fashion | Tracy’s rules for dressing to impress and using clothes to empower you [45:45]
Judgement | Tracy’s thoughts on the need for women to support women not judge them [51:04]

QUOTES:

“It's not about reeling back the emotion, it's about learning how to effectively communicate the emotion.” [6:03]

“ I should be able to, to wear something that makes me feel sexy and confident and strong, but also be equally talented, still a boss and effective in business.” [11:01]

“You have to find a way to connect on some level so that they're hearing you and that you're making that connection” [29:50]

“If you can't poke fun at yourself, then you're more insecure than you should be. I think by having the ability to poke fun at yourself. It actually speaks to your insecurity being at a level that's reasonable.” [37:12]

“By poking fun at your own insecurities and being aware of them. It's sort of like an exercise in being aware of your insecurities, and thereby making you less insecure” [38:02]

“I know what I feel good in, and as long as I feel good, then that's going to make everybody else around me feel comfortable.” [46:48]

“As women, we need to be more supportive of each other and celebrate each other's bodies and celebrate each other's successes.” [53:38]

Follow Tracy Tutor:
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Dec 15, 2021
Secret Service Agent on How to Become Mentally Stronger and Get Back Up When You’re Down
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Resilience is one of the most important things you can do for your mental health and well-being. Being resilient is how single mothers go on to raise increible children. Being resilient is how generations that lived through war survive to tell the story and continue their traditions. The problem is that you may not feel resilient, and you may not have taken inventory lately to uncover how much adversity you’ve overcome. Adversity is the catalyst for change and the training agent we all need to bounce back from struggles with a stronger mind.

In part 4 of this series, Evy and Lisa are breaking down all the ways adversity and resilience make you the powerful badass woman that you are. This is how you can break the patterns that have been holding you back, become more resilient and reclaim power over your life. It’s time to answer the call and become more responsible to yourself.

Tips To Become Mentally Resilient
1. Be the Leader in Your Own Life
2. Taking Ownership Makes You More Powerful
3. Don’t Weaponize the Other Person’s Insecurities

Evy’s Nightly Journal Challenge:
1. Write 3 things you are grateful for
2. Write 3 things you want to do tomorrow
3. Write 3 things you could have done better today

Resilient Terms:
● Adversity: Difficult or misfortune
● Progressive Overload: Gradual increase weight, frequency, or reps to get stronger
● Hypertrophy: Increase and growth of muscle cells achieved through lifting weights
● Acceptance: Taking stance of non-judgemental awareness
● Ego: A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance
● Disruptor: A person or thing that interrupts an event, activity or process

SHOW NOTES:

Adversity | How adversity creates mental resilience and is better to embrace [0:44]
Shaped by Adversity | Evy and Lisa share ways they’ve pushed through adversity [6:55]
The Reframe | Remove the negative, find ways to make it work, & give yourself grace [17:01]
Take Ownership | Taking ownership makes you feel stronger & requires you to adapt [19:37]
Solution Mindset | Evy on being adaptable by shifting from problem narrative to solution [23:03]
Own It | How Lisa kicked herself into high gear and took ownership over her health [40:45]
Disruptors | 3 ways to interrupt feeling emotional: distance, time, and environment [41:42]
Lisa vs. Evy | It’s a battle of disruptors, whose disruptors take the win? What are yours? [57:26]

QUOTES:

“When you face adversity over a consistent period of time you know how to manage it, how to withstand it, it makes you stronger, it makes you more resilient” Evy Poumpouras [1:20]

“I take ownership of how I act and how I show up in the world.” Lisa Bilyeu [20:40]

“You are the recipient of whatever life is doing to you. You are affected, you are not affecting the world. The world is only affecting you.” Evy Poumpouras [22:07]

“If it was my fault then it means that I have the power to do something about it. If it’s someone else’s fault, then I’m waiting for someone else to fix me.” Lisa Bilyeu [29:19]

“It’s not okay to be vicious and mean to people, and it takes a lot of work to control that. It’s easy to lash out and rip somebody and shred them. It is not easy to control it.” Evy Poumpouras [52:27]

“If you engage with every fool you deal with you become as predictable as that fool. Stop responding to everything.” Evy Poumpouras [56:04]

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Dec 12, 2021
How to COME BACK STRONGER & Change Your Mindset When You’ve Hit Rock Bottom | Natasha Grano
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You’re no stranger to pain, none of us are. The heartbreaking reality is that too many women have allowed pain to fester and keep them stuck in cycles of negative thinking and habits that do not serve their higher purpose. Natasha Grano (a.k.a. Natasha Graziano) is no exception. She is a woman like many of us. She’s experienced unimaginable pain from sexual trauma to physical sickness, and barely being able to provide for her baby. She’s opening up the book with Lisa to discuss how she started shifting her thinking and became aware of all the ways her thinking could attract positive change or create more negativity and heartache. She is an instagram influencer with over 7 million followers, a best selling author, a model and so much more. She’s dropping so much wisdom in this episode you’ll want to take notes. The best way to create a new mindset that attracts the success you want starts with the story you create for yourself.

SHOW NOTES:

Self Talk | How having intentional and powerful talk changed Natasha’s life [1:01]
Being Worthy | What you focus on expands & changing your beliefs changes everything [5:28]
Attracting Energy | Your actions attract the energy you give, careful what you send out [9:27]
Creating A New You | Ways to change how you show up and build your character [13:44]
3rd Person Journal | How to amaze yourself and create the success you want [22:38]
Building Instagram | Going from broke and broken to Insta-famous best selling author [30:56]
Imposter Syndrome | What it took for to get over the fear and focus on the bigger picture [35:30]
Rejection | Using rejection as a rebound to fall and get back up when you have nothing [40:16]
Authentic Self | Why you can only ever be the best version of yourself and no one else [43:03]
5 Pillar Goals | Natasha shared 5 pillars of achieving goals, starting with clarity [46:17]
Gift of Pain | Why the painful experience of life contributes to your growth and beauty [47:48]
Law of Attraction | Why it’s not wishful thinking, it’s action that makes things happen [51:21]

QUOTES:

“If you can fix yourself, then you are able to show up in the world as the most amazing person, but if you do not fix yourself first, you can't ever pour out onto others.” [1:23]

“Whether you have a super positive or super negative thought, you are translating that to the universe through feeling.” [9:39]

“We can never be first place to someone else. Because they've already taken that slot, we can only ever be second place to them.” [43:21]

“It was in the failing of trying to be someone else that I discovered myself.” Lisa Bilyeu [45:05]

“When you look back at anything, in hindsight, it no longer has a negative connotation. It is now something that happened for you, to make you the person that you are today.” [48:23]

“Your outer reality is a direct reflection of your inner self beliefs. Who do you believe you're worthy of being.” [53:35]

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Dec 08, 2021
How to Take ACTION, Gain CONTROL & Build Habits to CREATE the Life You Want | Vanessa Lachey
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You’ve probably heard “it’s not how you start, but how you finish” and as cliche as it has become, it is such a powerful statement. Just because life starts out rough and harsh doesn’t mean it remains that way. Vanessa Lachey is a wife, mother, actress, model, and so much more and yet having her mother leave at the age of nine has not held her back. She shares with Lisa the perspective she’s developed over the years that has lead to her success and the release of her first book, Life from Scratch. Vanessa wants everyone to know that “creating your own happy ending,” traditions and happiness is always possible and within reach. If a life of shame and darkness or a string of failures and mistakes make it difficult to see how, she urges you to simply start with a time when you were your happiest and recreate from there.

To Purchase a Copy Vanessa’s book ‘Life From Scratch’: https://www.harpercollins.com/pages/lifefromscratch

SHOW NOTES:

New Tradition | Vanessa explains how she found her way to start a life from scratch [0:46]
No Regrets | Why living a life with no regrets started with knowing what you want [5:18]
Friend Traditions | Nurturing bonds with friends being intentional to stay connected [9:02]
Romantic Traditions | Making sure you don’t let important moments pass by big or small [13:15]
Saying No | How to say no to stress and anxiety to make room for what matters no guilt [16:21]
Self Care | Vanessa on what self care is for her to feel refreshed and better for others [19:36]
Communicating | How communication helped strengthen Vanessa’s family and marriage [23:41]
Future Rehearsal | Reframing mistakes, reshape the future, be prepared for what’s next [26:32]

QUOTES:

“You can make it happen! No one's going to bring you the job, no one's going to bring you the husband, it's not going to land in your lap. You have to be open to receiving it, to accepting it, but also [...] working on yourself to be ready for when it comes." [3:30]

“The hardest thing about friendship is reciprocity, where we always want to know that people have our back when we're down, but we don't ever think to reach out to them.” [11:00]

“In the moments of overwhelm or stress or anxiety, where's like that those are the times you really don't feel like it. But of course, those are the times that you really need it.” Lisa Bilyeu [16:22]

“Finding ways to say no to other things that will stress you out or give you anxiety to be able to say yes to the things that matter.” [16:32]

“People are really appreciative when you're like, ‘I'm going through a lot right now, and I think I over committed, can we raincheck, I don't know when ’” [18:04]

“When you hold it in and you blow up, you end up beating yourself up or you end up hurting someone close to you and then beating yourself up for hurting them.” [23:22]

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Dec 01, 2021
If He’s THREATENED By Your Independence, Watch This | Tom Bilyeu on Women of Impact
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It seems like everywhere you look, society is constantly reminding us that successful, powerful women are failing at dating. In a survey that was listed this year on mantelligence.com states 64% of women prefer to find a husband who earns more money! So, are successful women raising the bar too high, expecting too much and are men feeling the pressure of having to step up their game and their status way higher than before? Being strong, independent and successful doesn’t necessarily come with an ego or attitude for women. So what is the best way for you to approach dating when you have your shit together and don’t want to be single?

Tom joins Lisa in this discussion and explores why at the root of this situation is a much needed conversation and a good working insecurity filter. It is important for women to understand that while there may be men that are intimidated by your success, there are also men that are confused by the mix of messages they are receiving from women. While one woman expects a man to pay for dinner another is easily offended. Have conversations while navigating the dating scene and meet people with compassion for where they are.

Survey mentioned: https://www.mantelligence.com/dating-statistics/

SHOW NOTES:

Facing Reality | Women being successful shrinks the dating pool, men want to lead [0:26]
Is It Insecurity? | Being intimidated is not insecurity, it can be what you want to be better at [3:55]
50/50 | Making a safe assumption half of men are insecure the other half aren’t into it [12:40]
Filter Insecurity | Why it’s not worth dating someone insecure and intimidated by you [14:58]
Attraction | Being attracted to what matters and enjoying what you’re better at matters [21:17]
Confusion Dating | Awareness that some women catch offence to a guy paying or not [24:36]
Feel Good | Understand both of you have something you are good at than the other [29:46]

QUOTES:

“Deal with the world the way it is not the way that you wish it were.” Tom Bilyeu [0:55]

“Feel good is an angle that people need to look at, instead of just writing everything off as insecurity.” Tom Bilyeu [9:04]

“With utter compassion, you clearly have insecurities that you need to work through, or find someone that isn't actually successful or wealthy as me, and that's totally fine.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:27]

“Have compassion for the people that have the insecurities” Lisa Bilyeu [16:40]

“Guys are judged by their height and access to resources, it's the fucking way that it is. Women are judged for beauty and youth, it's the way that it is.” [17:46]

“It's the differential. It's being good at something that you're not good at. It's you being good at something I'm not good at. That's what people like.” [24:26]

“While us women find ourselves in a situation where it's difficult because we want to be our own person, we want to be independent, we want to be around wealth creators, and yet, we still want this.” Lisa Bilyeu [26:32]

“People should very much avoid for their own reasons, avoid moralizing, or saying this is how people should be and help people move to where it is mutually better.” Tom Bilyeu [28:00]
Nov 24, 2021
Secret Service Agent Shares Psychological TRICKS to Influence People and Get What You WANT
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When you hear about influence, maybe you think of influential people or you immediately think of social media influencers. Have you considered, however, your own influence? To varying degrees we all have some level of influence over someone or something. You probably have more influence than you take credit for and acknowledge. So, how are you using your influential power and do you know when and how to activate it and get the most out of it?

Evy Poumpouras, a former secret service agent, is sharing her own strategies of influence so that you can find creative ways to connect with people and stop getting steamrolled over. Having influence and knowing how to activate that influence is another ingredient for becoming unstoppable. In the first episode of this series, we talked about confidence, in the next episode Evy and Lisa took a deep dive into the skills you need to start using your voice. In this episode it’s time to add another layer and look at how to effectively off balance people’s perception of you and better adjust and navigate to the people and situations all around.

You can use these strategies to get people to say yes, stay in the forefront of their mind, and connect in a more authentic way.

Influential Terms:

Priming: exposure to one stimulus influences how a person responds
Reciprocity: exchange of something between two or more people where something is given
Stereotype: widely held and oversimplified idea of a particular type of person or thing
Common Ground: opinions or interests shared by two or more people

If you didn’t catch it the 1st time:
1st Episode of Unstoppable, Be Confident As Hell: https://youtu.be/kZ7R1T2GCQA
2nd Episode of Unstoppable, Use Your Voice: https://youtu.be/_vG_OcS5QiA


SHOW NOTES:

Priming | Tips for priming people you need to influence [0:57]
Pink Is Life | How to influence Evy into wearing pink on set [12:32]
Do Something for Them | Evy explains the idea of reciprocity [14:35]
Branding | The way you see yourself vs. the way others see you [24:08]
Swag Bag | Lisa reveals what’s inside Women Of Impact’s Swag Bag [31:27]
Common Ground | How to find common ground or create it [33:28]
Influence in Action | Evy shows how all these strategies work [48:32]


QUOTES:

“This is not about manipulating people, this is about setting you up so that you understand people, understand behavior and put them in a space where they feel comfortable and feel connected to you.” Evy Poumpouras [6:34]

“As long as you’re not manipulating or as long as You just don’t want this stuff to come off as disingenuous when you use influence techniques” Evy Poumpouras [41:35]

“We are resistant to things we don’t understand, we are negative towards things we don’t know, and we really want to break down those barriers and find the threads that connect us.” Evy Poumpouras [46:25]

“If you can just simplify people and find ways to connect and find that human element [...] how can I make you feel good about being with me and because I do that now I’ve influenced you to want to have a relationship with me.” Evy Poumpouras [48:12]
Nov 21, 2021
How to Get Rid of INSECURITIES, Heal from a Toxic Partner, and Be CONFIDENT in Your Relationship | Emily Morse
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A study referenced by the National Organization for Women, states that 53% of 13 year-old American girls are unhappy with their bodies. By the age of 17 the percentage of girls unhappy with their body increases to 78%! This isn’t a fad that ends when you reach womanhood, at least it doesn't seem to be the case for 60% of women surveyed in the U.K. How you feel about your body affects your confidence when you're dating and when you become more sexually active.

“Hands down, men and women say confidence is the sexiest trait in and out of the bedroom” Dr. Emily

So if you’re not feeling confident with your body image what are you supposed to do? Dr. Emily Morse returns to Women of Impact to give a lesson on confidence and some practical tips you can try right away! Being confident about your flaws and the parts of your body that you feel most insecure about is critical.

3 Ways To Boost Your Sexual Confidence (In and Out Of the Bedroom):
1. Make eye contact with yourself in the mirror
2. Look at yourself in the mirror in the nude and admire yourself.
3. Sign up for a pole dancing class or sensual dancing

SHOW NOTES:

Self Confidence | Dr. Emily on the importance of taking time to learn about yourself first [0:58]
Body Confidence | Why getting to a place of body acceptance is important to feel sexual [4:59]
Insecure Flaws | Acknowledging your physical flaws isn’t attractive or the right move [10:40]
The Journey | How confidence is a practice, and a tool you use to get what you want [14:42]
Aging Body | Celebrate your changing body and know that you deserve sexual pleasure [18:12]
Reprogram | Dr. Emily gives practical ways to surround yourself with realistic images [22:15]
Dating Confidence | How to show the real you when dating and not be confidently fake [26:39]
Body Counts | Dr. Emily warns you to never discuss how many people you slept with [31:24]
Good For You? | Why you should stop performing to please your partner and speak up [35:07]
Sex Positivity | Becoming sex positive and sex confident with no judgement [43:07]

QUOTES:

“We're not going to pick always the best partners, if we're just coming from desperation, or coming from a place of lack, or coming from a place of a deep insecurity that this person is going to complete me.” [1:51]

“A lot of women, too, are also focused on the external part of sex, which is how they look, and we're in our heads the whole time. But when we're in our heads, worrying about sex the whole time, the blood is washing away from our journals, and it's going to our head.” [13:15]

“I am my own worst critic, we are our own worst enemies. If we can also remember that, it's just really important to take a step back. Your thoughts are not the truth, and your thoughts are actually something that is keeping you from living the life that you want and finding the partners you want.” [21:47]

“You're choosing somebody whose difficulties you can work with, who's challenges you can work with.” [30:59]

“Never have this conversation, the body count conversation, or it used to be how many people you slept with [...] you should never have this conversation because we are setting ourselves up for failure.” [32:03]

“Find the partners that are invested in pleasure that have a growth mindset around sex, and pleasure..” [39:31]

“Before we go inward and start to beat ourselves up, just have a conversation, have a healthy conversation and remember to be open, and to be curious, and to be non judgmental, and to be an active listener.” [42:50]

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Nov 17, 2021
How to STOP Feeling TRIGGERED, Calm Your Emotions, And SHUT DOWN Rude People
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When was the last time you felt triggered? Was it a week ago? A few days ago? Within the last hour (no judgement here by the way)? Feeling triggered can not only make you feel threatened but it can also make you feel vulnerable and out of control in a situation. With stress and the potential for added stress on the rise everyday it’s more important than ever before to learn what’s triggering you and how to deal with it.

Lisa’s taking your questions and opening the floor to discuss emotional triggers so you can be better equipped and prepared the next time it happens. The best part is that in this Q & A, Lisa is being completely honest and transparent about how hard it really is to tackle your triggers while remaining cool, calm and collected. In this episode, we’re going to give ourselves permission to try, fail and escalate when the situation demands it of us to honor ourselves. It matters how you feel about yourself at the end of the day. When you lay down at night to rest, you want to be proud of how you showed up, how you stood up for yourself, and how you
responded without shame or embarrassment. Losing control, being mistreated and taken advantage of is a choice you make every day. Now Lisa is going to show you how to make that a conscious choice you can be proud of.

Lisa’s Empowering Tips & Takeaways:

1. Remember how you felt the last time you lost control and use it to rewrite how you'll
respond next time.
2. Empathy can be a superpower when you have the right boundaries in place.
3. Don’t allow someone else’s emotionally charged stay to dictate your emotional response.
4. When you need to show up for yourself, ask yourself, what's more important, being there
for yourself? Or not offending people?
5. Know what kind of language to use in sticky situations so you can better handle them
and honor your boundaries to get the results you want.

SHOW NOTES:

Anger | How to not be triggered by emotions but stay cool, calm and collected [0:15]
Empathy | How empathy triggers boundaries needed to avoid being mistreated [8:08]
De-escalation | How to not get triggered by someone else’s emotional turmoil [15:03]
Guilt | How to stop being triggered by the guilt of being too assertive [24:48]

QUOTES:

“When you meet anger with anger, there's nowhere to go but up” [3:45]

“When it comes to people crossing your boundaries when it comes to you feeling like you are mistreated by your friends or people are taking advantage of you, that is a freakin 'choice.” [10:10]

“Stop dictating your actions based on how other people are going to perceive you, or whether you've hurt them or upset them or not.” [28:18]
Nov 10, 2021
Stop Making THESE Relationship Mistakes and Find LOVE
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If you have ever dated someone and created expectations long before a commitment was ever discussed, or fallen victim to being gaslit and thinking you were crazy because of the person you were involved with, this episode is for you. Being single is great when it’s your choice, and you have other goals that rank higher on your list of priorities. But, when being single feels like an involuntary life status and no one you date seems to be working out, what are you supposed to do? We’ve pulled together 7 Tips for dating and getting rid of unreasonable expectations to help you find love in a healthy relationship that allows you the space and environment you need to thrive. These 6 relationship experts break down everything from why you have to stop trying to be the problem solver when he tells you why he doesn’t have time for you to reasons why you have to start prioritizing sex and stop getting too far ahead of yourself.

“Instead of going in with a curiosity, we go in with a conclusion.” Matthew Hussey

Also check the full episodes from any of these amazing clips here:
Matthew Hussey, Relationship Expert:
https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE
https://youtu.be/pse1IbIc7vM
Spirit, the Professor: https://youtu.be/2dkk3D8tXDs
Steph Purpura & Emily Morse: https://youtu.be/uTKIe8iVKls
Najwa Zebian: https://youtu.be/xWWSgnIGIRg
Stephan Labossiere, Relationship Coach: https://youtu.be/V96AzU8JZXA
Emily Morse: https://youtu.be/KLukArHg-vk

SHOW NOTES:

Tip #1 | You Get Ahead of Yourself [0:38]
Bonus | Matthew Hussey’s 4 Stages of Importance [5:10]
Tip #2 | You’re Not Actually Compatible [10:54]
Tip #3 | You Don’t Know How to Communicate [19:07]
Tip #4 | You Ignore Your Past [27:04]
Tip #5 | You’re Not Mature Enough [32:33]
Tip #6 | You Don’t Prioritize Sex [36:53]
Tip #7 | You Lack Self Awareness [41:18]


QUOTES:

“Instead of watching a story unfold, we've created the story before it's happened [...] so now what happens is our mind takes the 5% of what we know and uses it to build a story for the next 95%.” Matthew Hussey [2:06]

“You are hiring for the most important position on Earth. And that position is for your life mate. And that's how we have to see dating” Spirit [13:45]

“I had to understand how I got myself to a point where my whole self worth and my whole image of who I was, and understanding of who I was, was in someone's hands” Najwa Zebian [30:38]

“Just because someone took advantage of those needs, and of those dreams, it doesn't mean that something was wrong with me for wanting them, we all want love” Najwa Zebian [31:31]

“Recognize the difference between the person who does not belong in our life and continues to do wrong, and the person who does belong in our life, but makes mistakes.” Stephan Labossiere [35:36]

“As soon as you're having sex with somebody, it's time to start talking about it.” Emily Morse [40:19]

“At least allow your knowledge of how long you've been in the past to create the space for you to be curious instead of rushing to the end of the story already.” Matthew Hussey [45:10]

Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/
Follow Spirit: https://www.instagram.com/talk2spirit/
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Nov 03, 2021
How to Stop Others From MISTREATING You, Let Go of TOXIC People & Heal from BETRAYAL | Najwa Zebian
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. More than 70% of people say they have regrets related to their ideal self. If you’re a human, you’ve most likely been in relationships and situations that spark regret, shame and confusion on what to do and who to be in the moment. So often, people spend time trying to please everyone around them. The way you dress, the way you style your hair, where you sit in the meeting, all of these decisions are so easily influenced by a want and desire to be given approval from the right people. But what about you? What do you want? How often are you spending time apologizing for feeling, and even better how often are you downplaying that you even feel anything? Najwa Zebian is an activist, poet and celebrated author. She joins Lisa for a second time to discuss how she came to radical self acceptance, and share the startling fact that we may actually be gaslighting ourselves when we diminish and disregard the pain we feel when vulnerability has been betrayed in the hands of the wrong person.   Najwa’s Questions for Self-Acceptance: 1. Who are you? 2. Why do I believe what I believe? 3. Why do I live my life the way that I do? 4. Why am I scared of X, Y and Z? 5. Why are you so afraid of feeling pain?   “When you build your home and other people you give them the power to make as homeless” -Najwa Zebian   SHOW NOTES:   Gaslighting Yourself | Why diminishing your painful experience lessens your self-worth [0:40] Homeless | How we build homes in others and end up homeless when they walk away [6:37] Toxic Savior | Trying to save someone doesn’t mean you’re owed anything, that’s toxic [9:47] Proof of Love | Examining the real cost of having someone love versus what you receive [16:03] Self-Aware | The need to be aware of your triggers and the filter you’ve created for life [19:56] Self-Acceptance | Self-acceptance versus indifference and know who you’re accepting [25:59] Identity Crisis | Najwa shares the personal crisis that made her question her identity [33:59] Being Hurt | Why you need to acknowledge the hurt and know healing in your power [39:30] Vulnerability | How to be open to vulnerability after being hurt even in protection mode [45:24] Unwinding Triggers | Finding the origin of your triggers and allow yourself to feel it [51:56] Self-Judgement | Not blaming or judging yourself for allowing things to happen [55:36]   QUOTES:   “You should never be okay with being treated that badly. You should never be okay with being betrayed. You should never be okay with having someone you trusted so much to turn around and treat you as if you never meant anything to them. You should never be okay with that.” Read by Lisa [0:46]   “Don't push yourself to a point where you gaslight yourself out of your own pain” [2:09]   “When pain knocks on your door, if you keep it out the door, yeah, it might stay there for a while, but you're adapting your life to noise in the background.” [5:45]   “The foundation of your home is self acceptance and self awareness. Once you have those two elements, you can build whatever home you want within” [9:23]   “Let me separate what I've chosen to give you from what you've chosen to reciprocate” [12:47]   “You don't deserve someone's burdens to be placed on your back for them to believe that you actually love them.” [17:18]   “Once you become aware of yourself, historically, and in the moment, you're golden” [25:49]   “The one who broke you cannot heal you. You have to heal you. You can't expect the person who broke you into pieces to bring those pieces and say I'm gonna put you back together.” [42:32]   “Vulnerability is beautiful, it is what's needed for connection to happen, but vulnerability [...] is being open to injury” [44:14]   “Boundaries aren't about being in protection mode. Boundaries are about knowing that what you have within is so valuable that you will not allow certain people to come near it or hurt it or whatever. Boundaries stem from self worth.” [48:46]   “The ending itself is not what you need to change, the storyline is what you need to change and that's in your hands.” [1:01:20]   Follow Nejwa Zebian Website: https://najwazebian.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian Twitter: https://twitter.cokkfdlk dfmlkfd m/najwazebian Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1 Podcast: https://najwazebian.com/stories-of-soul-podcast  
Oct 27, 2021
How to BEAT Imposter Syndrome and Feel WORTHY | Danielle Canty & Natalie Ellis on Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsor:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Building a successful business takes confidence and some level of skill no matter who you are. As women, there are sets of challenges we face that have to become part of an intentional way through to success. Natalie Ellis and Danielle Canty are the genius inspiration, muscle and energy behind the infamous online community for ambitious women, BossBabe. Even after building an 8-figure business they share how imposter syndrome is still something to be dealt with at every level of success. They share the lessons and wisdom they’ve found along their journey and explain how to start having the right conversations to change your upper limits and reimagine what is possible. This episode is about having the understanding of the many forms of confidence it takes to be a successful entrepreneur and a Badass BossBabe!   SHOW NOTES:   Imposter Syndrome | Why imposter syndrome meets you at every level of success [0:35] Mindset | What it looks like being all in, getting resourceful, & deciding where to go [6:54] Competence | Finding confidence in what’s unknown through growing competence [9:06] Capabilities | How women doubt themselves more and ways to have more confidence [12:39] Confidence | Recognizing what your good at and celebrating yourself and others [14:32] Receiving | People struggling to receive compliments without deflecting back [19:26] Recognition | Why being recognized is important and can create positive spiral [22:28] Communication | Being open to conversation, being more efficient, avoiding triggers [25:19] Managing Emotions | Advice to manage emotions in business & personal relationships [29:15] Triggered | Being triggered and learning to work through it and not taking feeling as truth [34:33] Lifestyle | How lifestyle decisions impact confidence, productivity, and your responsibility [37:00] F.O.M.O. | Pursuing your goals and sticking to your decisions over what you miss [46:03] Money Talk | Why women are uncomfortable talking about money & the need for more [51:04] Upper Limit | Pushing through upper limits to find success without overwhelm [1:02:09]   QUOTES:   “Give yourself a reality check and do it anyway. There really is nothing that is going to set you up for success more than just being willing to do something, getting resourceful, leaving your excuses at the door and not waiting for anything to be perfect.” Natalie Ellis [1:28]   “A lot of my imposter syndrome was doing the things that I actually wanted to do, and the thought of not doing them then became worse or like the thought of not achieving the goals became worse than the imposter syndrome.” Danielle Canty [3:09]   “You have to own how you're feeling. So that you can start addressing it head on.” Danielle Canty [5:51]   “If you're all in with something, you get resourceful. I can't say that enough, getting resourceful being the kind of person that just figures it out.” Natalie Ellis [7:31]   “When you look at people who are famous or experts in the industry, they start at nowhere, like they started at the beginning to” Danielle Canty [12:17]   “The people around me that actually matter will celebrate that I'm celebrating myself. And if they don't, I can't be around them.” Natalie Ellis [15:54]   “If you struggle to receive, it's actually very hard, [...] like you actually repel that too, because you're just not good at receiving anything: knowledge, money, love any of it.” Danielle Canty [21:18]   “You have to take responsibility for your words, your actions, everything. If you want to change your life, if you want to do something new, if you want to, if you don't like the situation, you have to take responsibility.” Danielle Canty [27:17]   “Your only success was going to be mentally and physically capable of being.” Danielle Canty [39:16]   “I don't have FOMO so much because whatever I'm missing out on is a choice.” Natalie Ellis [46:54]   “Choosing an easy life now leads to a harder life later. Choosing a hard life now leads to an easy life later.” Danielle Canty [50:38]   “If women are serious about building wealth it's important to really acknowledge that, and claim that, and not be ashamed to talk about it.” Natalie Ellis [53:40]   “You get to change your narrative around money, you get to learn about money, and you get to understand how other people use money is part of the process.” Danielle Canty [55:39]     Follow Natalie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamnatalie   Follow Danielle Canty: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellecanty/     Follow Boss Babes: Website: https://bossbabe.com/ Podcast: https://bossbabe.com/podcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bossbabe.inc/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/teambossbabe/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6h1nurnE-9auq41a5oiPnA
Oct 20, 2021
Former Secret Service Agent Shows You How to Find Your Voice, SPEAK UP, & Communicate Well
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This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to http://Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more.   Though we all know how important communication is for literally every relationship you have, very few have taken the time to learn how to do it well. When communication is not done well, relationships suffer, individuals suffer and the consequences can be high stakes.   If there’s any chance of your communication needing improvement, you’re in the right place. Grab and pen and paper, you’ll want to take notes and add this to your favorite playlist to listen to again. Evy Poumpouras is a former secret service agent and an Unstoppable Badass, here to lay out everything you need to know about communication alongside Unstoppable Badass, Lisa Bilyeu. Spoiler Alert! This is about you, and the tactics you can learn and practice to improve your communication skills to build rapport. It’s not about what the other person should do.   Unstoppable Women of Impact Tips: ● Build rapport ● Tell the other person exactly what you’re looking for   Evy’s Strategies for Building Rapport 1. Acceptance: recognize what is being said without trying to change or protest it. 2. Adaptability: able to adjust to new conditions or circumstances. 3. Autonomy: having the capacity to make informed and uncoerced decisions. 4. Empathy: ability to see from the other person’s perspective   Unstoppable Communication Questions to Ask: ● Who are you speaking to? ● Who is that person? ● How do I speak to this person? ● What is your goal and what is the best way for you to achieve that goal?   Unstoppable Key Terms: Rapport: The ability to understand and communicate with people Mirroring: When one person imitates how the person across moves, talks or acts Identify Based Motivation: Where perception of self motivates you to take action toward a goal Instrumental Based Motivation: The end state is what’s motivating the person to take action Relational Motivation: The way that two or more people are connected   Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4   SHOW NOTES:   Build Rapport | Eva on why established rapport is a ping pong match for communication [0:45] Strategies | 4 ways to build rapport and keep people talking and communicating [1:41] Using Strategies | Example for using these strategies with close relationships & situations [8:07] Building Blocks | How building rapport establishes connection, trust and faith [10:23] Close Relationships | Handling rapport and these strategies with close family & friends  [13:28] Being Adaptable | Not being so rigid, allowing people the space y build rapport [16:15] Lisa’s Rapport | Lisa shares behind the scenes ways that she builds rapport with guests [17:51] Get In Synch | Identity motivation vs instrumental motivation & getting to cooperation [19:26] Cooperative Zone | When you find a way to move the conversation forward together [26:53] Motivation | Eva explains how to use base motivations to get in synch and adapt [33:20] Identity Vs. Instrumental | Lisa and Eva showing you how it’s done [34:03] Choose Your Words Thoughtfully | Define words that you use, comply vs. resist [35:40] ‘No’ | Improving ways that you say no with compassion and without being harsh [41:38] ‘Sorry’ | Ways that language diminishes you when you apologize for everything [43:13] Word Play | How words land with people: powerful, shut people down, provoke reaction [46:25] Word Challenge | Lisa & Eva share how different words make them feel [47:13]   QUOTES:   “When it comes to communication, rapport is king. When you have rapport you have trust. When you have trust you have cooperation.” Evy Poumpouras [0:48]   “I have someone who’s giving me no trust, and I want to move that relationship forward, I do it through rapport.” Evy Poumpouras [8:00]   “People don’t remember what you say to them, what people remember is how you make them feel.” Evy Poumpouras [26:23]   “Rather than me trying to change you, I’m going to adapt to you.” Evy Poumpouras [29:23]   “Language can also diminish you and there are some people who their language is littered with, ‘I’m sorry’ and I think when you use that language when it lands on that person, it lands in a negative way for you.” Evy Poumpouras [43:39]   Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/
Oct 18, 2021
Harvard Doctor on How to BALANCE Your Hormones & Take Back CONTROL of Your Emotions | Sara Gottfried
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Girls begin going through puberty as early as 8 years old. From the moment you become aware of your body and people begin commenting on your changes, shame, discomfort, and confusion begin to settle in. While we all settle into our bodies in different ways and at different ages, the harsh reality is that 53% of American girls are not happy with their bodies by 13 years of age and by 17 the amount of unhappy girls grows to 78%! Behind the onslaught of body image issues and societal pressures that mark the barometer of where you fall on the ‘acceptance meter,’ are a mounting number of quietly misdiagnosed hormonal issues. Dr. Sara Gottefried is a Harvard and M.I.T. graduate, medical physician, and NY Times bestselling author of, The Hormone Cure. She shines light on the issues women are having with being properly diagnosed, treated and even heard on health issues that have been sold as not being related. As females, the number of factors that impact our hormones, our moods, our ability to function and feel like we have worth and value is mind-blowing. Dr. Gottfried is sharing some of the issues, their sources, how to resolve them and most importantly how to speak up confidently for yourself. She’s debunking myths about what’s the best diet for you and misconceptions around the “man hormone” testosterone and why it’s so critical for female health.   “Genetics loads the gun and food pulls the trigger”   SHOW NOTES:   Misconceptions | Ways women can take ownership of their health and transparent risks [0:51] Testosterone | Why testosterone can cause problems with confidence and empowerment [4:15] Hormones | Identifying hormonal issues, and why cortisol is a big concern to watch for [7:13] Precision Medicine | How it starts with diet, lifestyle, & nutrition observed with wearables [13:34] Average Treatment | Dr. Gottfried shares reality of how medicine for the average works [16:58] After 40 | How hormonal changes affect women and allows us to speak our truth more [20:35] Food Plan | How to use elimination diet to assess how food is impacting your health,  [24:15] Eating for Hormones | Connecting the dots between your food, hormones and mood [32:05] Body Messages | Stop ignoring the messages your body is sending you  [38:33] Antibiotics | The havoc antibiotics caused Dr. Gottfried’s microbiome, changing it by 87% [43:28] Feeling Shame | How shame is holding you back from being honest about your health [46:29] Confidence | Feeling okay with challenging your doctor and getting hormones checked [52:38] Fertility Value | Women not given full evaluation and tests based on not wanting kids [54:52] Gut Related | Dr Gottfried explains why gut health has everything to do with estrogen [57:10] Nutrigenomics | How genetics predict food and nutrient response to gluten, salt, caffeine [58:30]   QUOTES:   “Whatever you're experiencing, is your truth, and you don't need a doctor to validate that for you.”  [2:35]   “When it comes to your hormones. Your food is the backbone of the hormones that you make.” [32:10]   “What is a perfect meal for you today might be different than 10 years ago might be different than five years from now.” [36:32]   “Women have such clear messages about what's going on in their body, and yet were invalidated when we bring them to our doctors.” [38:56]   “It is normal for women to be moody. I just want to normalize that right now, that is totally cool, like that is our superpower to use our moodiness to use our willingness to speak our truth...” [47:56]   “A big part of stepping into our power is not just not allowing a physician to disrespect you, but to not do it to yourself, like not reinforce the habit by putting up with it.” [54:11]   “Medicine is set up to reinforce fertility in women.” [55:34]   “Genetics is part of the story. Environment is a bigger part of the story. So, the way that we sometimes think of it is that genetics loads the gun, but environment pulls the trigger.” [1:01:27]   “So much It is under your control the choices you make with food, the time that you go to bed tonight, the amount of morning sun that you get the, the people that you feed yourself with…” [1:04:59]   Follow Sara Gottfried: Website: https://www.saragottfriedmd.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrGottfried Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saragottfriedmd/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrGottfried/ LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/drgottfried/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrGottfried
Oct 13, 2021
How to STOP Being A Pushover, Set Boundaries and Stand Your GROUND!
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Boundaries don’t push people away, they can actually make relationships closer. Anna Yusim says, “the stronger your boundaries, the closer you can get to somebody.” Have you ever stopped to think about boundaries in that way? I’m sure many of you, myself included, are guilty of thinking if we have stronger boundaries we’ll end up pushing people away. The fear we face of disappointing people or somehow offending them can easily keep us stuck in a space of not honoring ourselves. This episode is for all the strong women (even if you don’t feel strong every day) that need a little more assurance that it’s not only okay to have boundaries, but it’s essential to the health of your relationships and critical for your own mental health. Start standing up for yourself (no one else can) and prioritize you, your needs, and what matters for you to flourish in the life you choose to live.   SHOW NOTES:   Tip #1 | Communicate Your Boundary [0:34] Tip #2 | Set Boundaries with Those Close to You [5:34] Tip #3 | Know Who’s In Your Corner [14:03] Tip #4 | Get Clear on Your Priorities [18:30] Tip #5 | Separate work from your personal life [22:20] Tip #6 | Stand up for yourself [27:30] Tip #7 | Decide if the boundary is worth breaking [32:15]   QUOTES:   “A lot of times it means them changing, it means them experiencing you differently. It might mean them not having that role that used to play for them performed anymore, and they might need to find somewhere else to go with that need.” Nicole Lepera [2:31]   “To know your own boundaries, you have to be comfortable enough with yourself to really feel in real time what you're comfortable doing versus not.” Anna Yusim [6:01]   “Not every person in your family can help you promote growth, and to create an environment for you to incubate hope some people are blowing your candle out while you're trying to get the flame going” Sara Jakes Roberts [14:20]   “What I do need to carefully covet and protect is my time because I can't get more of that.” Chalene Johnson [22:06]   “Assertive is clearly stating what you want or need, being mindful of your tone, and trying to say it in the right setting.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [28:46]   “If you're trying to turn these healthy habits into a lifestyle, you have to learn how to hold your boundaries in those social situations.” Melissa Urban [35:03]   “There's no guilt, there's no shame, there's a consequence, and the only person who can decide at that consequences worth it is you” Melissa Urban [37:34]   Follow Anna Yusim: https://www.annayusim.com/ Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Chalene Johnson: https://www.chalenejohnson.com/ Follow Nicole Lepera: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ Follow Natalie Ellis: https://bossbabe.com/ Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Follow Melissa Urban: https://whole30.com/  
Oct 06, 2021
How to CONTROL Your Emotions When Feeling TRIGGERED | Lisa Bilyeu
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Sep 29, 2021
How to Accept Your Flaws, SILENCE the Haters, and Love Yourself to the Fullest | Emme
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. At what age did you become aware of your body? How long after becoming aware of your body did you start to feel shame or embarrassment? When your walking down the street, sitting in a class, at work, or scrolling through social media, everywhere you look, consciously or unconsciously you are silently judging others and judging yourself. Maybe you think to yourself, ‘she’s so pretty,’ ‘at least I have more curves than her,’ or ‘she’s too skinny (or fat).’ From Khloe Kardashian to Billie Eilish, from your grandmother to your best friend and the last woman you saw today, everyone seems to be struggling with body image, self-love and confidence. Emme, the first plus-size supermodel that flipped modeling industry standards for how thick or thin is actually beautiful, joins Lisa and discusses her experience getting into modeling and on her first big photo shoot, being called a ‘fatty’.Emme is an international ambassador and champion for changing beauty standards to help “real” women embrace and love the body they have. She is speaking out against unrealistic standards and talking about leveling up your life, your vibe, your passion and purpose for living.   For more information on eating disorders and body image issues, Emme highly recommends: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/   SHOW NOTES:   Big Photo Shoot | Photographer refuses to work with Emme. This was her response [0:31] Not About Me | Emme on why it's more about where the other person is coming from [4:31] Fear | Identifying when people are coming at you from a place of fear and bullying [7:45] Body Dysmorphia | Think about what your relationship is with food and view of self [8:53] Comparison | Emme on why comparison is problem, know what’s right for you first [12:11] Solutions | Limiting social media, knowing yourself and connecting to nature is a start [15:00] Gratitude | Reframing gratitude and having appreciation for your body and soul [19:15] Confident | Emme shares how she found confidence in spite of body shaming at home [22:48] Empowered | You choose your journey and how you decide to feel, it’s empowerment [29:51] Self Talk | How to talk to yourself & counter negative self talk, you’re a work in progress [33:38] Self Acceptance | Love yourself and be free with who you are in the present moment [35:33] Passion |How to live a full with joy and a meaningful life with purpose on purpose [38:36]   QUOTES:   “If I let one person trip me off of my game, that's my fault. [...] you don't know where people come from with their own ideas of body image” [3:31]   “The goal is always to be the master of your own universe” [10:49]   “It touches me deeply when you can really get into that place of gratitude, and thankfulness when it's all hairy and crazy all around you and you can save yourself” [19:15]   “You learn and then you go forward, and it's like life was presenting me with opportunities to get beyond that, but not to forget it.” [27:04]   “Set yourself free to be able to to be okay with just exactly who you are in this present moment. Not a second later. Not a second from before, but right here. And now.” [35:35]   “go for what really gets you so excited that [...] gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of truth is real.” [39:41]   “Go for what really gets you so excited that I'm goosebumps and pumps all over gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of time Truth is real.”   Follow Emme: Website: https://www.emmestyle.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/supermodelemme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theofficialemme/?hl=en
Sep 22, 2021
Former Secret Service Agent Shows You How to Get CONFIDENT, Beat Your INSECURITIES & OVERCOME Fear
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This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more.   In this special episode Lisa and Evy tag team and bring you into their world of confidence and share all the tips you need to walk into your day with the most confidence. As Lisa shares, competence is confidence, and this episode is about empowering women to become more confident and learn what it means to be unstoppable.   Former Secret Service Agent and friend of the show, Evy Poumpouras, never disappoints and challenges you to reflect on all that you’ve overcome and everything you’ve accomplished to give your confidence an immediate boost. Think about your daily habits and examine if those habits are building your confidence or diminishing your confidence.   TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE: ● Don’t be afraid to raise your voice ● Be proactive to avoid being reactive ● Use clothes to feel confident and also affect how others perceive you ● Don’t let people's negative perception of you affect how you present yourself ● Being authentic to yourself helps you feel grounded and confident ● Shift and adapt to what you are doing and how you feel   A CHALLENGE FROM EVY: Write a list of the greatest accomplishments and difficulties you’re overcome.   SOMETHING TO TRY ASAP FROM LISA: Put on your best outfit and say out loud, ‘I got this,’ ‘I’m confident,’ ‘I’m unstoppable!”   Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4   SHOW NOTES:   Confident Woman | How to step into a space with comfort of being woman not stereotype [0:50] Watch Self Talk | Flip negative voices so you are not tearing yourself down with words [4:00] Confident Now | Looking at your accomplishments can help boost your confidence now [11:00] The Inner Voice | Listen in on the inner voice Lisa and Evy use to push through training [14:15] Over Prepare | How preparation is the secret to confidence, over preparing is peace [15:18] Proactive | The value of having a plan in place, not being reactive, just being prepared [21:20] Lisa’s Prep | Quick peak into how Lisa prepares for another amazing interview [25:54] Look Confident | What you wear has an effect on the way you act & feel about yourself [27:07] Identity | Remaining confident and not having your identity tied solely to how you look [37:17] Camera Ready | Behind the scenes of how Evy and Lisa get ready to show up confident [42:24]         QUOTES:   “Confidence is not like genetics, you either have it or you don’t. I really think it’s like a skill you cultivate [...] I think you build it by gaining competence.” Lisa Bilyeu [6:07]   “50% is what the world does to you but 50% is you. This you can manage, and so if you want to be those things and you want to change those things, it’s something you can do.” Evy Poumpouras [13:21]   “When I’m over prepared, it’s one less thing I have to worry about.” Evy Poumpouras [16:36]   “I am proactive at prepare, prepare, so that when things happen I am less reactive. When you’re reactive you’re sloppy, you’re emotional, you’re in that moment, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re not sure.” Evy Poumpouras [23:20]   “We shift and adapt to how we’re feeling in that moment to what we’re doing, or maybe what we’re trying to feel.” Evy Poumpouras [39:41]   Follow Evy Poumpouras:   Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/   Check out our AMAZING theme song by Lorenzo Taft here: https://open.spotify.com/album/12AV0W5m9SyUBE7GG6Liw8?si=LAp9IIl1TzSgAUWIZ5tA4Q&dl_branch=1
Sep 19, 2021
Neuroscientist Shows You HOW TO STOP Stress, Anxiety and NEGATIVE Emotions In Their Tracks
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Check out our sponsor:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! So, you’re up early, get the kids ready (or not), grab a coffee and you’re running out the door to start another- busy day. The problem is everyday is a busy day, and the reality is that a majority of women (and men too) never feel like there are enough hours in the day. This leads to more stress and more anxiety. Add to all this the fact that in 2020 it was estimated the average person was spending almost 2 and a half hours on social media every day. This would be okay, except that Dr. Wendy Suzki points out that continuous exposure to news and social media is contributing heavily to anxiety and stress. According to Dr. Wendy, there are healthy levels of stress you need in your life, and there are detrimental levels of stress and anxiety that do you no favors. So how do you cope with all the added stress? Avoid it? Pretend it’s not a thing, or even worse, spiral out of control ? There are free, simple, very portable and easy ways to effectively lower levels of “everyday stress and anxiety.” Dr. Wendy Suzuki is a Neuroscientist and Psychology professor that brings movement, joy and fun into brain science. This episode is best listened to before your next anxious situation or immediately after if it’s too late.   Order Dr. Wendy’s new book, Good Anxiety, Harnessing the Power of The Most Misunderstood Emotion: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1982170735?tag=simonsayscom   SHOW NOTES:   Value of Anxiety | Dr. Wendy on why anxiety is a protective emotion that is really valuable [0:41] Identify Anxiety | Dr. Wendy explains how anxiety shows up and useful tips to calm down [4:30] Self-Reflection | How to productively reflect on your anxiety to rebalance with positivity [8:40] Connection to Smell | Dr. Wendy explains why smell is so effective conditioning memory [10:51] Foolish Reframing | Why calling failure a failure is healthier than pretending you don’t [17:10] ‘What If’ Playlist | Dr. Wendy explains how to turn worry into action with a positive effect [25:44] Social Stress| Being prepared for social situations and the danger loneliness is shocking [29:32] Get Moving | Dr. Wendy on power of movement with verbal information you can do now [34:45] 5 Points in Anxiety | 5 points to help emotionally regulate and get out of anxiety [36:24] Change Responses | Dr. Wendy explains why your brain is capable of change for better [39:42] Power Reminders | What you remind yourself matters and your brain can learn anything [41:44]   QUOTES:   “I like to call a big failure, a big failure. And I think it's healthy, to be able to, to be able to admit that and to learn from it, because everybody has failures.” [18:34]   “Negative emotions, like embarrassment and fear and worry, are very useful for us.” [19:02]   “We are human, we have this whole array of emotions for a reason, and the reason for those negative emotions is to help us learn, help us learn about ourselves, help us motivate ourselves.” [20:00]   “It helped me realize how much wisdom comes from great pain.” [23:24]   “Just because that scary person or that scary question is there doesn't mean you have to go there. You can tactfully and thoughtfully avoid that to decrease your anxiety.” [38:06]   “The human brain is the most powerful structure known to humankind, and it was designed to learn.” [43:11]   “You can train your brain to learn anything. If you remember that. That is the best mindset that you can go into life with.” [43:58]     Follow Dr. Wendy Suzuki: Website: https://www.wendysuzuki.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/wasuzuki Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy.suzuki/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WendyASuzuki/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-suzuki-5a509411/  
Sep 15, 2021
Relationship Expert REVEALS Why He’s NOT READY to COMMIT & What You NEED Know | Matthew Hussey
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. How many times have you come across that person that really sparks your interest and makes you want to get serious? What about that moment when you find out they’re not ready for a serious relationship, they just want to have fun, or go with the flow and see where things go. If you’re honest, how many mental gymnastics have you gone through to continue pursuing a relationship like that? You know they don’t want the same level of commitment, but you just feel like, ‘if only I hang in there long enough…’ Matthew Hussey is no stranger to Women of Impact and in this episode he’s addressing everything you need to know about commitment and why trying to commit and stick it out with someone who’s already told you they aren’t ready is not only foolish, but it’s high stakes and a total waste of your time. Matthew is the relationship expert many of you already know and love, but get ready because in this episode he’s going off to let you know how serious he is about the time you’re wasting on people that just don’t want a relationship. It’s hard truth ladies, but it’s a powerful dose of medicine you may need right now.   Make sure to check out this FREE 30 Day Challenge from Matthew Hussey to build confidence: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/challenge/   SHOW NOTES:   Committing | How dating apps and social media has made fear of commitment worse [0:59] Giving Yourself | Why it’s only painful in the wrong hands and choosing who to give to [6:36] Conditional Love | The costs involved with committing and how to assess what’s worthy [10:04] Energy Management | Protecting yourself from dating burnout from misplaced energy [13:50] Dating History | When a person’s character is questionable from their relationship history [19:00] Trust Yourself | Trust your gut and rely on people around you to make accurate decisions [24:16] Validation | Engineering answers you want to hear and not being honest about yourself [29:16] Communication | The purpose is making progress through the friction to get closer [32:39] Timing | Staying with someone not ready stunts their growth and wastes your time [41:00] Not Ready | When someone says they’re not ready what’s the best way to proceed [47:11 High Stakes | Why it’s arrogant to think you can change someone to want a relationship [50:15]   QUOTES:   “When we're away from someone and we're investing in them through our thoughts. Even if it's not visible to them, we're investing psychologically in the situation.” [3:10]   “Take the beauty in what you gave, and know that in the right hands, that remains a beautiful thing.” [7:49]   “The danger is if we say giving equals pain. No, giving doesn't equal pain. Ignoring things, ignoring the fact that I'm giving to the wrong person equals pain.” [8:29]   “Romantic relationships are conditional, because who would want to be in a relationship long term with someone who never gave back?” [9:56]   “Your game is not to worry about someone else. Your game is energy management for yourself.” [13:50]   “I have a limited amount of energy. Not everyone can have it. And my heart isn't something I give. It's a house that I invite people into.” [14:36]   “Character is something that you see in people's actions every day. It's not in a grand gesture. It's what behavior Am I seeing from this person every day” [20:40]   “On a first date, your job is not to be a human lie detector. Your job is to see if what they're saying aligns with the kind of person you're seeing in front of you.” [24:19]   “Every time we're hung up on a mistake we've made or something someone else has done, or whatever we're not, we're not living in the moment of what can be made beautiful now.” [40:16]   “The fallacy is that, because I've invested this much time and energy, I now have to make it work. That is the easiest way to throw away your life.” [43:02]   “Assuming that the relationship that evolves is going to fit the template that you want for somebody else, that's fantasy” [52:40]   “You have all this pain staying here anyway. So at least have the pain that's a question mark. This pain is a period, it's not a question mark. At least leaving means possibility.” [56:34]   Follow Matthew Hussey: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/  
Sep 08, 2021
How to Beat SELF DOUBT, Pick Yourself Back Up, and FINALLY Break Free From SADNESS | Mel Robbins
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT In what ways did last year’s pandemic impact you as an individual? Yes, it was disruptive to all of our daily lives, routines, and relationships, but what fundamentally changed about you as a person? Mel Robbins, author of the 5 Second Rule, joins Lisa for the first time on Women of Impact, and she came in so real, so raw and so authentic to her truth, her failures and how much she uncovered and found unhinged in her own life from the pandemic. If you’ve been dealing with any kind of self-doubt or if you’ve ever stood eye to eye with yourself in the mirror and felt disappointed, disconnected or unworthy this interview is going to speak straight to your core. Mel is sharing the power she found in giving herself a simple high and why this simple gesture that packs so much meaning may be the catalyst you need to start connecting with yourself again and start dealing with the truths and pain we’ve all ran from at some time or another. Maybe you’re still running. If you are, sit down, catch your breath, and dare to see yourself in a new light today. Order Mel’s new book, The High 5 Habit: https://www.amazon.com/High-Habit-Take-Control-Simple-ebook/dp/B096JQSWQ6   SHOW NOTES: The Imposter | Mel exposes feeling like a total failure leading up to her Impact Theory interview High 5 Attitude | How Mel developed a high five attitude in the middle of perceived failure Pursue Dreams | What happens when something becomes so important to you, it takes over High 5 Habit | How Mel formed the high habit standing in her bathroom on a bad day Mirror Moments | Mel breaks down the power of taking a moment in the mirror in the mornings Celebration | Mel exposes how self validation and celebration is hard wired & not to be denied Put Yourself 1st | How to acknowledge your own existence by fulfilling your own needs R.A.S. | Mel explains the reticular activity system as a hair net and a filter you control Visualization | Mel breaks down why visualizing the suck part of the process is more effective Responsibility | Mel on how you are your own responsibility and that’s liberating power High 5 Your Heart | Mel breaks down why placing your hands on your heart helps anxiety Stop Running | How being busy is a distraction from the need to face yourself, slow down! Self Relationship | Mel on the importance of loving and respecting yourself first regardless Failing to Win | Mel gives the difference between loser mentality and winning mentality Look Forward | Mel shares why you have to look at the best days ahead not what past   QUOTES: “Your feelings are going to rise and they're going to fall, and feeling nervous and feeling scared and feeling on edge and imposter syndrome, it's all normal stuff. You’ve got to develop the ability to feel all that stuff, have your cheeks be as red as a baboon’s butt, and walk out there and do it anyway.”   “You need celebration and support so that you can do those things that you deserve and you want in your life.”   “When you realize you can change the filter in your mind, at any time, you can silence the bullshit you've been saying to yourself.”   “Instead of visualizing the finish line, which is what we all want to jump to in life, right? Visualize all the crappy, horrible things you have to do, in order to get to the finish line. [...] If you just visualize the good stuff, you are not preparing yourself to do the work that it takes to get that stuff.”   “You are not responsible for the shit that was done to you. Period. You survived it, which shows you're worth celebrating, but you are responsible for healing, for changing and for who you become next.”   “Know that no matter what, you are going to be okay. Because you have your own back.”   “Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every single relationship that you have. If you don't love and respect yourself, how on earth are you going to do that for other people?”   “At any moment, you can choose to change, but no one's going to come in and do it for you. You got to look yourself in the mirror and you gotta say ‘I see you. I see that you're not happy, and I'm going to fucking do something about it.’”   Follow Mel Robbins: Website: https://melrobbins.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins
Sep 01, 2021
Practical Tools to Help You Stop Fighting with Your Partner | Relationship Theory
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Relationships inevitably have arguments, fights, and disagreements, but are you experiencing them more than normal? Are they taking a toll on the relationship? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to address these questions and discuss how to overcome chronic fighting and begin loving each other instead. They talk about how arguing is a sign of deeper issues, why you need to choose compassion, the importance of reframing your partners motives and understanding their perspective, how to let go and move on from arguments, and tools you can use to deescalate any disagreement.   SHOW NOTES: Constant Fighting | Lisa and Tom address a couple’s case of constant-explosive arguing. [0:35] Collision of Values | Tom and Lisa on how arguments are about something much deeper. [3:41] Choose Compassion | Tom and Lisa discuss strategically approaching problems. [4:34] Reframe Motives | Tom describes the letter he wrote himself to hack his neurochemistry. [7:30] Understanding | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need sympathy for your partner. [10:04] Fight for Them | Tom and Lisa reveal you need to know if you want to fight for them. [11:49] Let Go | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of truly letting go and moving forward. [13:39] Needs | Lisa recalls a time when both her and Tom’s deep needs weren’t in sync. [16:32] Tactics | Lisa and Tom discuss effective practices to keep yourself rooted in love. [19:31] QUOTES: “You can’t let dust settle in a relationship.” [2:10] “There’s a generosity of framing.” [10:04] “It comes down to people’s ability to make something sacred.” [21:12]   FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0  
Aug 27, 2021
Therapist PROVES You’re Not CRAZY!! This Is How You Deal with GASLIGHTING | Nedra Glover Tawwab
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Gaslighting is one of those words that once you hear about it, you think to yourself “that’s what I’ve been dealing with all this time!?” When someone is gaslighting you, they are undermining your reality by denying facts and making you think you’re crazy. You find yourself asking questions like: Am I at fault? Did I do something wrong? Am I crazy? Do I need to start recording my conversations? Nedra Glover Tawwab is joining Lisa in this episode to take a deeper dive into manipulation and more specifically, gaslighting. If you’ve been in a relationship where you weren’t even aware that you were being gaslit, or you didn’t have the word to perfectly capture all the craziness and frustration, this is for you! Knowing how to recognize it is the first step in knowing how to respond and avoid being a victim of gaslighting in the future. These are unhealthy relationships to be a part of, getting the knowledge you need so you can apply it in the future is the beginning of stepping into your power.   3 Impactful Ideas from Nedra: 1. It's completely okay to not be perfect. 2. Arguing is a choice. 3. Conflict is a growth tool.   Check Out Nedra’s 1st Episode, Don’t Be Manipulated: https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo   SHOW NOTES: Gaslighting | Nedra explains why most people don’t realize it’s happening Apologies | The harm of apologizing when it’s not your fault, not being given apology Change Behavior | Focus on the behavior first not the origin story, action is a must Arguing | Nedra breaks down why arguing is a choice, you do not have to engage Speak Up | Nedra on finding courage to stand your ground and say it’s not your fault Internal Work | Practicing how to externalize the internal dialogue you should be having Be Assertive | Nedra explains difference between assertive and aggressive behavior Behaviors to Stop | Nedra breaks down conflict, the need to be right and denying others Preferences | Nedra exposes why arguing is usually about preferences Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nedratawwab/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/nedratawwab/_created/
Aug 25, 2021
Tips For Effective Communication in Any Relationship | Relationship Theory
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We’ve heard it from every relationship advice column ever: communication is key. But what does that even mean? In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share their secrets for effective communication. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After you watch this episode, you'll know why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. Furthermore, Lisa and Tom share how to use the right love language with your partner. SHOW NOTES: Why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. [1:02] How to use the right love language with your partner. [2:24] The one word that Tom should never use because Lisa gets very upset. [2:59] QUOTES: “I think the more areas you have specific, discussed, and agreed-upon rules of engagement, the better off you´re gonna be.” [0:46] “Let me tell you if you know certain words gonna rub the other person the wrong way, don´t use them in an argument.” [2:24] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0  
Aug 20, 2021
Tips on How to Handle TOXIC and NEGATIVE People In YOUR Life | Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. In 2018, ‘toxic’ became Oxford’s word of the year. You’ve likely fallen victim to toxic behaviors in different relationships in your life. Even more shocking, is that you’ve even been toxic at varying times in your life. We all have. Whether the word is overused and completely misunderstood, this episode will help you think through toxic relationships and behaviors that may be costing you more than you know. After this episode, you’ll be able to identify some of the relationships that are no longer serving you and start examining the options you have for letting go of toxic people. Learning to set boundaries and identify language that you can use to spot red flags will serve you for many years to come.   Don’t miss the  full episodes of these incredible guests on Women of Impact: Sarah Jakes Roberts - https://youtu.be/IbriO6QIxoU Dr. Ramani - https://youtu.be/uwtwnIxSO9s Amy Morin - https://youtu.be/fHzaceSFLwg Matthew Hussey - https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE Nedra Glover Tawwab - https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo Lori Gottlieb - https://youtu.be/gBRwYDZ4Vrs   SHOW NOTES: Vilify Toxicity | Don’t Vilify Toxic People with Sara Jakes Roberts [2:36] Complainers | Avoid Complaining About Them with Amy Morin [6:30] Vulnerabilities | Be Thoughtful About Sharing Vulnerabilities with Matthew Husssey [12:02] Stand Up | Stand Up For Yourself with Nedra Glover Tawwab [16:12] Empathetic | Reconsider Your Relationship With Them with Lori Gottlieb & Dr. Ramani [19:39] Boundaries | Create Clear Boundaries with Vanessa Van Edwards [24:33]   QUOTES: “When we encounter someone that is toxic, we have to understand that they are acting, thinking and speaking from their brokenness.” Sara Jakes Roberts [3:49]   “If you have a toxic person in your life, and you find yourself wanting to complain about them all the time, it's probably a good sign that you need to do something different” Amy Morin [8:16]   “Confronting someone is sometimes the most loving thing that you could do, and that it's really the kind thing [....] it doesn't have to be bad. It's about saying, I respect myself, but I respect you enough that I think we need to talk about these talk about these things” Amy Morin [11:41]   “There needs to be some separation between labeling someone a toxic person and saying the way they're behaving is toxic, or the effect of their behavior is toxic.” Matthew Hussey [12:58]   “Once you start to recognize the tactics that people will use to silence you, you can stand up for yourself better.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [17:24]   “We must have tremendous empathy for narcissistic people. Otherwise, we lose the best part of ourselves, and I'll be damned if somebody who's toxic is going to be the reason the most beautiful part of myself gets turned off.” Dr. Ramani [23:57]   “I don't have people in my life who put me in step number three very often. And that way, I know that I can totally be easy when I'm in interactions.” Vanessa Van Edwards [25:22]   Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Dr. Ramani: http://doctor-ramani.com/ Follow Amy Morin: https://amymorinlcsw.com/ Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/core-confidence/ Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Follow Lori Gottlieb: https://lorigottlieb.com/
Aug 18, 2021
Do This For a Stronger Relationship | Relationship Theory
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Are you or your partner extremely competitive? Does it sometimes get out of hand? Are you looking for ways to support each other while still having a healthy dose of that intensity? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you and your partner can be competitive with one another in a healthy way that pushes each other while still showing support, care, and love. They discuss the tactics they use to strengthen their relationship, how to properly be competitive in your relationship, how to handle intensity when competing, why you should push each other, and how to be each other’s biggest fan.   SHOW NOTES: Tactics | Tom and Lisa discuss the best tactics they use to strengthen their relationship. [0:30] Competitive | Tom and Lisa discuss being competitive with each other in their relationship. [2:16] Intensity | Lisa and Tom reveal how they handle intensity when being competitive. [5:22] Working Together | Lisa and Tom discuss how they want to push each other. [7:10] Winning | Lisa and Tom discuss encouraging each other on a path towards winning. [9:08] Be Their Fan | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should cheer on your partner. [10:40]   QUOTES: “You can’t imagine how gross I would find it if you thought you had to lose to me. That’s so emotionally weak when somebody can’t, like, tolerate that.” [8:34] “Just putting them first and saying, “I believe in you so much and I really want to see you succeed,” gives a support that I don’t know how to replicate other than that, like be your partner’s biggest cheerleader. So powerful.” [10:19]   FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0  
Aug 13, 2021
HOW to PROTECT YOURSELF When Communicating With a NARCISSIST | Dr. Ramani on Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT By now, you’re probably proficient at spotting narcissistic behaviors in people and relationships you are involved with. You may notice gaslighting or maybe you haven’t been able to put a finger on exactly what seems to be off, but if you’re honest you know something isn’t right. Spotting narcissism and knowing someone is portraying narcissistic behaviors isn’t enough if you’re going to protect yourself. Dr. Ramani Durvasula joins Lisa for round 2 to break down the rules of engagement. Understanding that some women are unable to get away from the narcissistic relationship they’ve been “stuck” in for years does not call for judgement. As Dr. Ramani clearly iterates, leaving these kinds of unhealthy relationships are never easy, and there is also no need for judgement. The good news is that Dr. Ramani came loaded today with practical tips and advice to give you and the people you love the best chance possible for dealing with narcissists when escape isn’t an easy option.   SHOW NOTES: Words Hurt | Why words hurt more than we like to admit and the damage being done [2:45] D.E.E.P. | Dr. Ramani reveals the D.E.E.P. technique to shut down narcissists [5:34] No Leaving | Dr. Ramani explains why some people can’t leave and how they survive [7:25] Don’t Defend | Why it’s not about being a doormat, it’s about not engaging in toxic routine [8:36] Firewalling | Not giving away your vulnerabilities and psychological “passwords” [10:56] Apology Cycle | Differentiating someone who is sorry or a repeat offender to shut down [14:21] Narcissistic Parents | Why these kinds of parents are tricky and how to deal with them [15:55] Narcissist Magnets | Why familiarity can be a magnet for unhealthy toxic relationships [18:32] Happiness | Dr. Ramani discusses if true happiness is possible with a narcissist [22:05] Staying In It | Dr. Ramani explains why people stay in narcissistic relationships [25:17] Empathy | Dr. Ramani shares having empathy for narcissist in an empowering way [27:26] Hangtime | That suspension time of trying to figure out and decide to stay or go [30:27] Support | How to best aide people leaving narcissistic relationships that are scared [34:05] Once You Know | Dr. Ramani’s advice on what to do and not do once you know [37:46] Responding | How to get out of dodge when under verbal attack and hold the tears [44:29] Good News | Dr. Ramani explains why you never share good news with narcissists [49:04] Communication | Why it’s best to have surface level conversations to protect yourself [49:35] Contempt | Looking for the contempt to identify narcissistic behaviors and not engage [51:45] No One’s Exempt | Dr. Ramani shares how even she still falls for the pity trap [56:16]   QUOTES: “I think some people feel like, beat me with a stick, but please stop. Stop criticizing me, stop undermining me, stop invalidating me” [2:55]   “Deep stands for don't defend, don't engage, don't explain and don't personalize.” [5:41]   “What gets challenging with the narcissistic relationships in our lives is you almost have to have two sets of strategies, one set of strategies you maintain in your healthy relationship, and a different toolkit in the narcissistic relationships.” [10:03]   “We're literally more protective of the password we have for some game on our computer, then we are with the most sacred parts of our psyche.” [11:34]   “Once you identify the difficult people in the system, you can still be in that system, but you got to be mindful.” [17:32]   “We must have tremendous empathy for narcissistic people. Otherwise, we lose the best part of ourselves, and I'll be damned if somebody who's toxic is going to be the reason the most beautiful part of myself gets turned off.” [28:33]   “Empathy is understanding whatever happened in your story that brought you here, I am so sorry, and I really hope the path forward takes you to a place where you can work on this. I really do, but not on my time.” [28:55]   “If you decide to leave them, and they don't want you leaving, you are in for the fight of your life.” [32:34]   “I'm so glad I'm out, but had I really known how bad this was going to be, I don't know that I would have had the courage to do this.” [33:34]   For narcissistic people, it's really important for their ego to always be in control, and the idea that someone else is calling the shots does not work for them. [37:13]   “You don't want to serve up your pain to somebody who's going to melt it into bullets.” [46:33]   “Your dreams, your aspirations, are sacred spaces within you. Why would you put that sacred space in front of somebody who's having contempt for it?” [52:57]   Follow Dr. Ramani: Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorRamanDurvasula Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani Podcast: http://doctor-ramani.com/podcasts-feat-dr-ramani/
Aug 11, 2021
The Right Way to Settle a Fight in a Relationship | | Relationship Theory
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Do you and your partner or spouse struggle with a clash of values? Do you find yourself in frequent disagreements, arguments, or fights and are looking to tackle the root cause of them for good? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you and your partner can overcome your disagreements and actually get to the bottom of what’s causing them. They discuss what to do when your values are different from your partners, how to properly handle disagreements, when and how to persuade your partner, and how to be open to your partner’s perspective. SHOW NOTES: Collision | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do when your values of your partner are different. [0:20] Values | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to break down your most important values. [2:15] Compromise | Lisa and Tom discuss how to properly handle disagreements. [4:51] Convincing | Lisa and Tom discuss when it is and isn’t time to convince your partner. [7:03] Be Open | Tom and Lisa discuss why you have be open to your partner’s side. [9:40] QUOTES: “When there’s a collision of values, you have to get into a situation where each of you are assessing the importance to which that value means something to you and where the compromise lies.” [5:09] “…and that’s a big thing, it’s like, not thinking about it of winning an argument, or being right, or getting what I want…” [8:45] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0 
Aug 06, 2021
Body Language EXPERT Says These HABITS Will Help You Spot If Someone Is Telling the Truth or LYING
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Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. It’s so easy to get caught up trying to catch other people in lies. In your love life, working relationships, and even with family and friends, thoughts of,  ‘what if this person is lying’ crosses your mind more than you’d like to admit. But, have you ever considered whether or not your own verbal and nonverbal cues were sending the wrong message and causing people to think maybe you’re the one not being honest? Vanessa Van Edwards is joining us to break down how to better identify if you are being lied to, and ways you can ensure you’re not sending the wrong signals. Lack of confidence, anxiety and shame are just a few of the ‘honest’ behaviors Vanessa warns could manifest almost identical to the cues used for dishonesty. Here is what you need to know to not just spot a lie, but to be a better communicator and create better relationships in your life built around honesty and transparency.   Preorder Vanessa Van Edwards’ new book, Cues: https://amzn.to/3leaa1j   SHOW NOTES: Science of Lying | Vanessa shares why mornings are better for honesty Assume the Truth | Up your ability to detect lies by assuming the truth Congruence | Vanessa breaks down looking for misaligned verbal and nonverbal cues Mixed Messages | Why anxiety and lack of confidence has same cues as lying does Step 1 Lie Detection | Establish a baseline of person when they tell truth Step 2 Lie Detection | Establish their nervous baseline to know their nervous tells Step 3 Lie Detection | Spot redflags and microexpressions incongruent with baseline Ignoring Instinct | Vanessa shares importance of not ignoring instinct if you see truth Step 4 Lie Detection | Look for redflag clusters, use the rule of 3 before moving to step 5 Step 5 Lie Detection | Circle back, ask questions, and give opportunity to to overcome the lie Share The Cues | Why learning cues together improves relationships and conversations Intentional Liars | Vanessa explains how to spot them and remove those toxic people Modes of Communication | Why people are more likely to lie over phone than text Kinds of Lies | When people are self-deceptive, ill-intentioned versus well-intentioned Truth Rules | Vanessa shares how to establish truth rules for people in your life Shame Cues | How to spot shames cues and respond for better relationships Modes of Lying | Listening for audio cues and how to communicate truthfully in email   QUOTES: “The more you seek the good and people the more you focus on the truth, the better you are at spotting lies.”   “The basis of lie detection is that liars have so many things they’re trying to keep straight that they forget where they leak out their truth. And so that means they're saying one thing, but their body, or their voice tone shows another.”   “baselining is looking at how someone acts, sounds and speaks when they're telling the truth.”   “ I trust the body because it's hard to be incongruent, it takes more energy.”   “When you know what cues to spot, it gives you your confidence back, I think it's a secret backdoor into confidence.”   “Give our partners and our friends and our people as much communication advantages we have.”   “So if you've made it to set number three, with people over and over again, you're constantly in set three, you're constantly seeing red flags, you've confirmed, you've seen clusters, what's going on, you've done research, those people should not be in your life.”   “It's against our nature to put any kind of lie in writing because we think to ourselves, I could get caught.”   “It's really important to distinguish between ill will lies, like lies that don't mean well, and lies that people don't know themselves well enough.”   “I would rather live in hard truth than ignorant bliss. I would rather hear the truth than think that everything's okay and it's not.”   “Being sterile and emotionless and not using personal pronouns and not using emotional words actually makes you sound dishonest.”   Follow Vanessa Van Edwards: Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT/featured Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/
Aug 04, 2021
The Real Way to Fix Bad Communication with Your Partner | Relationship Theory
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Are you struggling to communicate in a clear and healthy way with your partner? Does your relationship struggle due to arguing, fighting, or a pattern of bad behavior? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to identify patterns of negative behavior in your relationship and how to fix them for good so that you can communicate together in a healthy way. They discuss how you should be communicating with your partner, dangerous patterns to look out for in your relationship, why you need to just be clear about your feelings, how to prevent problems from happening again, and why putting pressure on your partner isn’t doing the relationship any good. SHOW NOTES: Communicate | Lisa and Tom reveal how to better communicate with your partner. [0:17] Patterns | Lisa and Tom reveal the power of predicting patterns in your relationship. [5:54] Feelings | Tom and Lisa discuss why you need to be very clear about your feelings. [6:58] Prevent | Lisa and Tom reveal how to prevent repeating problems in the future. [8:33] Pressure | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should never dismiss your partner’s feelings. [10:10] QUOTES: “Don’t ever say, like, the other person shouldn’t be feeling something, right? Cause you feel it and it’s real and there’s nothing anyone could ever tell you that’s going to make that seem less valid." [7:40] “They may kind of resolve it in the moment but then they don’t think about, “How do I prevent this in the future?” Because having the same argument or the same problem over and over again is just, like, a waste of energy.” [8:45] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0 
Jul 30, 2021
5 TIPS to building an UNBREAKABLE Relationship | Lisa Bilyeu on Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsor:  Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. Relationships are never easy, and marriage is harder than most would imagine. With the average length of marriage in the U.S, being just over 8 years, I am happily celebrating 19 years of marriage this year and sharing some of the lessons learned along the way. I am answering your questions about everything from how to know if he’s the “one” to de-escalating those heated arguments that leave you angered and red in the face. Relationships are beautiful when you recognize the amount of work it takes to be in a great relationship, and when you finally realize the “perfect” relationship doesn’t exist and never did. So, whether you are in a relationship, thinking about marriage, dating or not even started yet, there’s definitely make you stop and think, ‘huh maybe I should give this a try.’ It’s not for everyone, but being married and in a healthy and loving relationship can be one of the best experiences for anyone.   BONUS TAKEAWAYS: 2 Tips for when you find yourself sabotaging your own relationships: 1. Write it down and reflect to explore your feelings in detail with no judgement. When and how did things progress from argument? Exactly was it that triggered your response. 2. Communicate with your partner about exactly what things are triggering you before the next argument. Be open, be vulnerable, and be patient with yourself.   How to disrupt heated arguments before they escalate any further: 1. Recall the argument and identify where would have been a good moment to walk away and take the time to change your mood. 2. Consider writing a letter to yourself to remind you to disrupt the moment. 3. Use something meaningful and significant, such as Lisa’s love chip, to signal to your partner and yourself what’s important.   SHOW NOTES: Selection Matters | Lisa breaks down why who you choose to be with is critical [0:42] Sacrificial Love | A love worth sacrificing for starts with open communication [1:52] Self Sabotage | When killing relationships is a habit, identify your triggers and talk [4:42] Growth Minded | Lisa on why you can’t grow with someone that doesn’t grow [13:49] Arguments | Unavoidable, but treatable when you find ways to disrupt the anger [17:16]   QUOTES: “If you're with somebody, you should be looking at them saying, are they worth the sacrifice that I could be spending on a relationship with myself?” [4:24]   “That's the beauty about being in a relationship, being vulnerable, showing that you want to get better, but that you're not there yet.” [8:06]   “If they're not going to be there for you, while you're stumbling while you're trying to figure it out, then maybe they're not the right one for you.” [8:48]   “It all comes down to being each other's security, knowing I'm not going anywhere, when you know, someone's not going anywhere. It gives you a sense of safety.” [12:26]   “Be vulnerable with your partner, show your weaknesses, show your vulnerabilities that builds trust. And honestly, a relationship without trust isn't a relationship.” [13:37]   “having the communication about what the disrupter means, and then both of you being on board with making sure that you can use it in order for you both to have a beautiful freakin relationship.” [26:36]
Jul 28, 2021
3 Shocking Love Tips For the Perfect Relationship | Relationship Theory
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Are you and your partner looking for powerful tips to help your relationship last? Are you wondering what the key lessons are when it comes to making your love thrive for years to come? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they share their key tips to help make ensure your relationship can stand the test of time. They discuss why you sometimes need to put yourself first and be selfish, why you need to go deeper and understand the root cause of your arguments, and why having little to no expectations is best long-term. SHOW NOTES: Be Selfish | Tom and Lisa discuss the hidden benefit of being selfish in your relationship. [0:34] Go Deeper | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of addressing underlying issues. [6:24] No Expectations | Tom and Lisa discuss how to set realistic and healthy expectations. [16:00] QUOTES: “While it’s not romantic, I actually do think it is a hundred-percent important to be selfish in the sense of taking care of yourself, what makes you happy, so that you can show up to be happy in that relationship.” [3:22] “You can either feel like you’re saying different things but you’re actually saying the same thing or you can actually be saying different things and think you’re saying the same thing and it causes like a total derailment.” [5:53] “People are mistaking an emotion for objective truth…” [11:55] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0 
Jul 23, 2021
Stop Waiting for PERFECTION and Take Action on Your Dreams TODAY | Ellen Bennett on Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsor:  Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Big audacious dreams scare most people back into their regular full time jobs. The sad truth is that the discomfort most of us complain about is usually the comfort we seek when opportunities present themselves to go after those big dreams we secretly carry around. If this sounds familiar or feels familiar to you, then Ellen Marie Bennett’s inspirational story may be the kick you need to find your inner spark and dare to take action. She went from zero experience, being a line cook at a Michelin star restaurant, to jumping at an opportunity to make a difference that led to the multi-million dollar brand, Hedley & Bennett aprons. Her energy is infectious and willingness to dive into discomfort, fail, and figure things out along the way are beyond motivating. This episode is packed with goodies that may have you making some major moves today.   Order Ellen Bennet’s new book, Dream First, Details Later: https://amzn.to/3kgec8L   SHOW NOTES: Override Perfection | Ellen on how she showed up for the journey of life asking questions [3:02] Opportunity | The importance of not focusing on what you’re missing, just take action [6:17] Inner Dialogue | How to listen but not be overtaken by inner dialogue to light your spark [11:37] Perseverance | Ellen share the perfect response when you hit against a “no” and failure [13:24] Self Belief | Ellen on being your own cheerleader and what humble enthusiasm is [15:33] Humble Enthusiasm | Ellen explains being “excited to share and excited to learn” [16:33] Confidence Belt | Building confidence with successes & failures out of your comfort zone [21:04] Covid Shift | Applying humble enthusiasm to an operational pivot making masks [26:56] Purpose | Ellen breaks down how your ‘why’ is essential to get through the shitstorms [31:03] Imposter Syndrome | Leaning into who you are and honoring your own special sauce [33:27] Weaknesses | How to tackle leaning into areas that are not your core strengths [36:26] No Ego | Ellen on knowing how to get better and allow others to step in [39:32] What to Take On | Ellen shares how she decides what to take on and what to pass [43:40]   QUOTES: “You learn life on the journey, not staring at it or thinking about it or imagining what it can become, but simply, you want to do something, show up, start trying.” [4:53]   “It put me so far out of my comfort zone that I wasn't just thinking about it. I didn't have time to think I had to act, and that's a beautiful thing when you're doing it versus thinking about it.” [9:37]   “When you hit a no, a no is not a no, a no is like go left or go right, but still keep going forward in some capacity”  [14:07]   “Every day, you have to wake up and know that nothing is just there. You have to create it and make it and be willing to shift when things happen, and your playbook goes flying out the window” [30:17]   “The shitstorms are so real. They're so aggressive, and so frequent, in growing something out of nothing, that if you don't truly believe in it, you don't have enough energy to fight through that storm.” [31:06]   “I'm not trying to be like that person, I'm going to walk in and be 100% myself. And they're going to appreciate that, because I'm not trying to act like somebody that I'm not. So there's an authenticity to it.” [34:24]   “If you have no ego, then you're willing to learn, and you're not claiming you know everything. Therefore, you can listen, if someone's telling you this is not working” [37:19]   Follow Ellen Hedley Bennett: Website: https://www.hedleyandbennett.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/hedleybennett Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmariebennett/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hedleyandbennett/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellen-marie-bennett-72517367/  
Jul 21, 2021
How to Pick the Right Partner For a Lifetime of Love | Relationship Theory
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Are you still questioning whether your partner is 100% right for you? Do you sense a difference in your core values and aren’t sure if your relationship will go the distance? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore the importance of knowing if your partner is the right one for you and why you need to have clear and open communication about your shared values. They discuss the importance of selecting the right partner, understanding your differences, why you need to share the same core values, the power of communication, and why changing over time with your partner can be expected. SHOW NOTES: Selection | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of selecting the right partner for you. [0:28] Yin & Yang | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of always sharing core values. [2:56] Finding Each Other | Tom and Lisa discuss the experience of their early relationship. [5:00] Making It Work | Tom and Lisa discuss their connection despite early differences. [6:40] Communicate | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of having deep communication. [9:29] Changes | Tom and Lisa discuss the difference between change and influence. [11:35] QUOTES: “We understood very early on that you either grow together or you grow apart.” [2:36] “Once you get to the way things ought to be and you have a collision there. So, “I understand your position, you understand mine, but I think you’re crazy and you think I’m crazy.” That’s where it gets dangerous. You can have some — you will have some — but if you have too many and you don’t know how to navigate, or compartmentalize, or say, “Hey, cool like we’ll put that on the back burner,” you’re going to have a real problem.” [4:37] “…from the beginning, I think you have to establish communication with your partner, even when you have to say the hard things.” [9:33]   FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0  
Jul 16, 2021
Radhi Shetty on How to STOP Beating Yourself Up, and START LOVING Yourself Unconditionally | Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsor:  Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. When you are feeling overly emotional and trapped in your thoughts about stress, frustration and doubts you are having about everything happening around you, anything can set you off. Yet, so often you try to hold those emotions in, try to put on your brave and confident face for everyone else and feel like you’re falling apart inside. Radhi Devlukia Shetty joins me in this episode and opens up to all the vulnerabilities and insecurities we experience as women. We explore being emotional, and how healthy and freeing it is to have emotional release so you are not storing those emotions in your body.   SHOW NOTES: Estrogen | Radhi on the symptoms and way she’s dealing with high estrogen levels [0:38] Support | Recognizing when you’re emotional or just need a little more support [3:17] Being Emotional | Why crying isn’t a weakness and permission to sit with your sadness [5:34] Emotional Release | Radhi on value of allowing emotions to move through and out of you [8:06] Trapped Emotions | Advice on how to release trapped emotions as a routine practice [11:49] Meltdowns | Radhi on feeling overwhelmed and not knowing what to do out of frustration [16:11] Pressure | Feeling pressure like you “should” be good at everything and processing that [21:17] Comparison | Radhi breaks down how detrimental it can be to your person growth [23:26] Weakness | Radhi shares how powerful it can be to use your weaknesses to grow [27:19] Self Doubt | Radhi’s evolution, not allowing it to turn into self destructive behavior [34:12] Future Stuck | Radhi & Lisa discuss being stuck by future expectation & fear of unknown [38:18] Conflict & Pain | Radhi on the healing we block when we hurt and try hurting others [42:17] Self Control | Radhi explains why self control is a daily practice and having freedom in it [48:16] Being Proud | Radhi & Lisa discuss the angles of feeling pride and celebrating yourself [50:00]   QUOTES: “Whether you're getting a high from a happy thing, or a low from something that's made you sad, treat them equally. Allow them to feel those emotions equally, because actually, one is not better than the other.” [6:13]   “Even if you want to cry alone, don't see it as a weakness. See it as something that's making you stronger and happier in some way.” [7:41]   “Any emotions trapped in your body, anything mental trapped in your body is going to physically manifest in some way” [9:22]   “Exactly how I do with exercise now, exactly how I see with working out, exactly how I see journaling, exactly how I see my meditation, I see releasing of emotion being just as important. [...] energy is not meant to be stagnant in your body.” [11:16]   “If you just think of one thing that you're good at, and you realize that one thing actually does make you feel very happy, the rest is just bonuses.” [25:52]   “if your weaknesses are something that you really are fixated on, and that you want to change, and you really feel is preventing you from progressing in some way, take one weakness a week, take one weakness a month, however long it takes you to feel like you're a little bit more in control of it, you're a little bit better at it, then you were.” [28:02]   “Being a trustworthy friend, being someone who trusts in themselves, show up for yourself, show up for that person. That is how a relationship is built, and friendship is built in that way. So why do you think that you can keep going back on your word to yourself and still believe in yourself?” [32:01]   “belief in yourself is what you exude out of yourself, like what people feel the energy that they feel when they're around you. It's everything that you are feeling about yourself within you.” [33:25]   “I really have found so much growth in terms of doubting myself, but also so much growth which has come from the process of doubting myself.” [35:05]   “I don't think self doubt is a negative thing, as long as you are trying to figure out ways to and using it as a platform for further growth.” [35:20]   “...a lot of us use our past to keep us stuck but what we don't realize is, we use our future to keep us stuck.” Lisa Bilyeu [38:22]   “Whatever I'm giving out to people, it's not only what they're receiving is what's being created inside of me, which means I'm choosing to create the energy within me to give out. I can't give out anything that's not already within me.” [43:19]   “So pain and giving out pain is never going to heal your heart from the pain that you're feeling, you're gonna have to heal that, and you're going to have fend through that pain and, and really learn how to digest it, recycle it in a way that it's coming out of you in something better.” [45:56]   “Yes the work is done by me but that work is supported through the nourishment that I receive through my teachers, through nature, through my parents, through the person that I randomly meet that inspires me.” [53:22]   Follow Radhi Shetty: Website: https://www.radhidevlukia.co/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/
Jul 14, 2021
The Uncomfortable Truth About Why You and Your Partner Struggle to Communicate | Relationship Theory
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Check out the Relationship Theory Podcast here! Apple: https://apple.co/3wpECHD Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2SYC0Tz Are you and your partner struggling to have a deep and meaningful level of communication? Have emotions taken over your conversations and you can’t seem to achieve a break through? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they share their key communication techniques they find the most effective towards having a strong and healthy relationship. They discuss how they navigate moments of sticky communication, how emotions can skew your mind, the importance of being vulnerable with your partner, why you sometimes need to let your partner go crazy, how to help your partner during emotional times, why it’s always on you to improve, and how to learn from your past. SHOW NOTES: Communicate | Lisa and Tom share how they navigate sticky moments of communication. [0:31] Emotional | Lisa and Tom discuss how little things over time can influence your emotions. [3:39] Sanity Check | Tom reveals how Lisa keeps him from going too far into something. [7:20] Vulnerable | Lisa and Tom reveal the importance of being open with each other. [9:21] Crazy | Tom and Lisa reveal why you sometimes need to let your partner go all out. [11:38] Help | Lisa and Tom discuss how to help your partner during emotional times. [15:36] It’s on You | Tom and Lisa reveal why at the end of the day, it’s on you to step up. [16:59] Your Past | Lisa and Tom reveal why learning from the past is crucial to growth. [18:20] QUOTES: “In those moments, when someone says, “You’re just being emotional, it’s your hormones,” you want to fight back and say, “Stop using that as an excuse — as a defense mechanism,” right? “Stop deflecting, alright? Stop trying to blame me that it’s my emotions.” No, you actually did this.” [6:50] “You have to let the person, like, really go deep into crazy-land, before you say, “You’re being crazy…” [12:53] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Jul 09, 2021
How to FIND YOUR WORTH, Let Go of SHAME and Own your VALUE | Sarah Jakes Roberts on Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. As women, many of us have lived lives with moments that bring us shame, fill our hearts with pain, bitterness, and resentment. The thing is, you don’t have to stay in that mental space with negative thoughts and beliefs that say you’re not worthy, you have no value, or that you’re unlovable. Sarah Jakes Roberts is a woman of faith that breaks the mold and dares to own her scars, be bold, and walk in the truth of all that she is, from every mistake that she no longer allows to define her. She joins me today to help you flip the toxicity of the life you may be holding onto on its head and redefine what it means to create a meal worth serving from your leftovers.   Order Sarah Jakes Roberts latest book, Woman Evolve: https://www.amazon.com/dp/078523554X?tag=hcads-20   SHOW NOTES: Self Worth | Sarah defines her self-worth and share how her flaws add to her value [2:03] Shame | Ashamed of her truth and deciding what to create with the “leftovers” [4:38] Leftovers | Sarah exposes the hidden power of creating from what’s left after the struggle [6:30] Poison | Sarah on purging the insecurities, fear, false confidence, and false positivity [8:06] Living Divided | Denying part of your truth, avoiding the ruins, and missing your strength [10:14] Negative Thoughts | How to look at the root of negative thoughts that echo insecurities [12:11] Relationship Work | Bring value and purpose into the relationship with yourself [17:46] Marriage | Sarah’s 1st marriage failing was a symptom and that she could do better [20:48] Walking Away | Sarah on how to leave bad relationships & questions to ask yourself [24:47] Incubate Hope | Creating an environment for hope to grow and starving your fears [27:16] Toxic People | Instead of labeling people as toxic, see that we are all broken [28:28] Being Hostile | Sarah shares how being petty takes energy and takes away from you [30:13] Betrayal | Understanding what betrayal communicates to you and knowing it’s about you [34:01] Inner Circle | Sarah on the value of knowing people’s value and intention for you [38:12] Success | How success is obedience to the urge and nudge to manifest what’s within [45:27]   QUOTES: “Self-worth is believing in the value that I bring when I come into a room or space.” [2:31]   “I had to really come to this space where I realized I don't feel smart, I don't feel worthy, I don't feel valuable. This is my truth. And as painful as that was to say, it was also liberating, because I took the whisper that was haunting me and taunting me throughout my life and finally gave it a voice.” [5:57]   “I had my own poison that my insecurities were constantly pumping into my veins that fear was constantly pumping into my veins. And I realized that as long as I was poisoned, I could only attract poison.” [8:16]   “fall more in love with you than you do with the potential outcome that you're achieving or looking to achieve.” [10:47]   “I realized that just because a thought comes my way doesn't mean I have to accept it. To accept the thought is to say, I'm going to allow this to now become a part of my truth.” [15:06]   “So just like you have to work a relationship with somebody else, you have to work in a relationship with yourself.” Lisa Bilyeu [17:56]   “We're not qualified to be in a relationship until we realize what I need a person in my life for” [18:08]   “at the end of the day, it's love that leads us out of places of fear.” [25:03]   When we know that I am betraying myself to be in relationship with someone, then I have to ask myself, what am I receiving to them that is so valuable, that I am willing to betray myself?” [25:22]   “I spend so much mental real estate thinking about what I want to go wrong with someone that I don't have time to consider what I want to go well with my own spirit and soul.” [31:09]   “What I want to understand is how can I be a better qualifier based on this wound that I just experienced? Because betrayal does make you feel like I cannot trust myself, or the decisions I make?” [35:07]   “Not every person in your family can feed you. Not every person in your family can help you promote growth, and to create an environment for you to incubate hope. Some people are blowing your candle out while you're trying to get the flame going.” [38:23]   “The truth is, I'm afraid, but I'm going to dare to believe anyway. The truth is, I'm not qualified, but I'm gonna dare to go after it anyway.” [41:41]   More About Sarah: In 2017, Sarah launched Woman Evolve a ministry that focuses on incubating every woman to her fullness. Since its conception Woman Evolve has been successful at reaching and guiding thousands of women to awaken healing, wholeness, and love for themselves and others.   Follow Sarah Jakes Roberts: Website: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/SarahJakes Twitter: https://twitter.com/SJakesRoberts Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahjakesroberts/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SarahJakesRoberts Podcast: https://www.womanevolve.com/podcast  
Jul 07, 2021
Living in Denial? Do THIS to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY Yourself and LIVE YOUR BEST Life | Martha Beck on Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsor:  Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. It is so easy to take inventory and list every person, every event, and every situation causing stress in your life. Regardless of where you are, what your social status or income, we are all having a similar experience. The stress and anguish you experience on a daily basis to co-exist and keep the peace with family, friends, and co-workers is overwhelming to say the least. What if the solution to relieving this stress and finding true happiness is much simpler than you think? Martha Beck is an amazing life coach dedicated to freeing people from suffering. She shares some shocking truths about curing unhappiness and getting in alignment with your true nature. Find out why “going harder” is usually the worst decision you can make, and how all the little white lies we tell ourselves and people around us are hurting our body, mind, heart and soul.   Order Martha Beck’s new book, The Way of Integrity: https://amzn.to/3xVGmcY   SHOW NOTES: Integrity | Martha explains what integrity and being whole [0:52] Lost Integrity | Martha on living out of integrity without your true nature [1:45] 6 Symptoms | Signs that you’ve fallen out of integrity with your true self  [2:45] Should | Marth shares 2 possible solutions driving actions from unseen truths [5:14] Lies | Martha breaks down the impact of self-deception on body, heart, mind & soul [6:42] What’s True | Martha on checking in with yourself and finding her integrity [10:33] Throw It Away | Martha reveals what she gained “throwing” her life away for her truth [13:16] Moment of Pause | Martha reveals the power of pausing and why it’s key to your truth [16:53] Mourning | Martha explains why losing the familiar causes you to mourn [21:27] Purgatory | Why breaking away from culture allows others to find their integrity [23:34] Looking Back | Martha explains the point of no looking back stepping into true nature [25:21] Bad Relationships | Martha shares what it takes to be true to yourself to move on [28:40] Don’t Go Harder | Martha on why doing more of what isn’t true for you makes it worst [31:37] Positive Stress | How to go with the flow of what you need and not fight yourself [34:29] One Degree Turn | Martha shares the secret to small incremental steps to what you love [38:41] In Integrity | The miracle of peace that happens when you live in your integrity [41:55]   QUOTES: “Whether the lie is for good or for evil, it has the same effect on you. When you speak to other people in a way that presents a persona that isn't what you really are, you've sold yourself away for those people to make them happy.” [7:15]   “A lot of times you don't have to tell those lies to be polite, but if you say something that's not true, you yourself end up paying the price.” [8:04]   “if it's worth throwing your life away, for one little child, it's worth throwing your life away for another, for your own inner child, for the truth of yourself. [15:08]   “There is so much joy in an ordinary day, when you're living in integrity” [20:53]   “The shape that fits with integrity is integrity. So you're actually inviting everyone around you to be honest with you, as you're honest with them.” [24:57]   “You’re split from yourself because you were trying to be good. And you need to find out where that pulled you away from your truth, and reexamine that, so you can find your truth. And when you have enough of your truth, you act, that's how it works.” [30:49]   “When we're pushing ourselves to do more of something, that's not true for us, not in integrity for us, it actually makes the pain much worse very quickly.” [32:34]   “for you not to answer your life's purpose would be the ultimate stress.” [38:18]   “fill your time with things you love, and subtract the things you don't love. Step by step by step, your whole life will turn around.” [40:38]   “you don't get the success and that brings you peace, you go to peace, and that brings you success.” [43:04] Follow Martha Beck: Website: https://marthabeck.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themarthabeck/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/themarthabeck/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/marthabeck/
Jun 30, 2021
Psychotherapist Shows You HACKS on How to Change Your LIFE by Changing Your LIFE STORY | Lori Gottlieb on Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsor:  Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. How often have you spent time with people you love only to feel frustrated and misunderstood? As humans we are all so complex in our network of feelings and emotions. Unfortunately, we’ve been raised thinking that negative emotions are bad and should be shunned. Many of us are barely holding it together, or are spiraling out of control because we don’t know how to handle the feelings that are leaving us totally overwhelmed. Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist and author joins me and breaks down why we don’t have to run away from those taboo feelings of envy and jealousy. She explains how to communicate better and hold space for your partner or children and allow them to just be heard. This episode is packed with so much you may have to listen a second time.   Order Lori’s Latest Book, Maybe You SHould Talk to Someone: https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-You-Should-Talk-Someone-ebook/dp/B07BZ4F75T/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Maybe+You+Should+Talk+to+Someone%3A+A+Therapist%2C+HER+Therapist&qid=1623870198&s=books&sr=1-1   SHOW NOTES: Unreliable Narrator | Why your perspective isn’t the full story, it’s a faulty narrative [0:19] Unknow Yourself | Lori helping people unknow the stories they keep repeating [1:32] Insight | Lori explains why insight without action is useless  [3:58] Idiot Compassion | Lori breaks down what this is and why it doesn’t help [5:05] Relationship Filter | Lori’s questions for examining people around you [6:45] Change | Lori on why change is difficult because of uncertainty and loss [8:17] 5 Steps | 5 stages of change to making a permanent change in your life [9:08] Change Anxiety | Getting through unfamiliar territory & anxiety with change [12:39] Choosing to Suffer | Lori on why we don’t choose pain but we choose to suffer [14:06] Numb the Pain | Distracting yourself from pain feeling overwhelmed [15:34] Feeling Compass | Lori on using feelings as a compass to know what you want [17:13] Negative Feelings | Why the way you deal with negative feelings matters most [19:28] Setting Intention | Lori on setting yourself up for a better day with confidence [22:55] Transformation | Lori shares why tiny steps are so important in change [26:35] Future Loss | Lori explains how change collapses the future & holds us back [32:18] Unfinished Business | How cycles repeat when we don’t address past issues [35:30] Selection | Lori confirms why selection is so important for healthy relationship [39:48] Childhood Wounds | Lori on why you have to give up hope for better childhood [41:53] Vulnerability | When someone opens up and how to navigate what they need [45:05 Understand | Why people need to be understood and heard, ask what they need [47:21]   QUOTES: “my job as a therapist is to be an editor and to help people to edit these faulty narratives that they come in with.” [1:09]   “Where people can really grow and change and communicate better is to understand and be curious about the other person's part of the story, the other person's perspective.” [2:38] “The fact that you're making the change, and that you were very human, and it was difficult sometimes, you're still on the path of success.” [11:49]   “When we are in pain, we do something that is going to make us suffer instead of something that is going to help us sit with the pain and move through it in a more healing kind of process.” [14:48]   “numbness isn't the absence of feelings. numbness is a sense of being overwhelmed by too many feelings.” [16:26]   “feelings are like a compass, they tell us what direction to go in [...] all of our feelings are so useful there, there are no bad feelings, they're all extremely useful” [17:13]   “there are no bad feelings. There are unfortunate ways that we deal with them.” [19:29]   “therapy is like getting a really good second opinion on your life from someone who's not already in your life.” [31:22]   “need a healthy person, be a healthy person, meet a healthy person, that's going to be a healthy relationship.” [39:23]   “people don't look for the qualities that are going to be important in a happy, lasting, loving relationship.” [40:18]   “we give them what we think they need in that moment based on what we might need in that moment. But we don't ask them, like, you know, how can I help in this moment?” [47:46]   “Can you sit with me in my sadness? Can you sit with me in my anxiety? Can you sit with me in my anger so that I can make sense of this?” [50:11]     Follow Lori Gottlieb: Website: https://lorigottlieb.com/ Podcast: https://lorigottlieb.com/podcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GottliebLori Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LoriGottlieb1  
Jun 23, 2021
Robin McGraw shares the RELATIONSHIP SECRETS of her 50 year marriage with Dr. Phil | Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. What comes to mind when you think of what it takes to be a supportive partner in your relationship? Being in a relationship is beautiful, but you can run the risk of losing yourself if you’re not careful. You have to be mindful to communicate with your partner who you are, what you want, and how you can best be supported. In today’s episode, I am joined by the beautiful badass wife of Dr. Phil, Robin McGraw. They’ve been married over 45 years and she came to debunk any myths you have around what it takes to be a loving and supportive partner, especially when your significant other is larger than life and has a strong personality. She shares why she is so passionate about the importance of taking care of yourself and being okay with putting yourself first in order to show up 100% for your family. She’s unlocking the secrets of what it takes to spend a meaningful and purposeful lifetime together with the one you love, so take notes.   SHOW NOTES: Supportive Wife | Robin on wanting to support Dr. Phil and not missing any shows [1:30] Purpose | Not being conflicted about your purpose, making sure your partner supports it [6:44] Changes | Robin explains why talking about changes together in marriage is so important [8:51] Non-Negotiable | Robin on what her deal breaker was and communicating that [10:25] Frustration | Robin on how she powers through anger with journaling and not lashing out [15:51] Put Yourself 1st | Why caring for your family isn’t a sacrifice but requires you to be #1 [18:58] Firm Beliefs | Robin on telling him how to treat you and what you want [28:17] Forgiveness | Robin on Dr. Phil not forgetting to mail hundreds of handwritten letters [30:39] Divorce | Robin discusses why divorce is not an option and early conversations about it [38:10] Payoff Phase | Robin shares what the dessert phase is like after 45 years married [42:40]   QUOTES: “I respect myself and I always have. I respect who I am and what I stand for” [19:56]   “it's not selfish to put yourself first you have to take care of yourself, so you can take care of those you love.” [21:14]   “if you care about your kids, take care of their mother, if you care about your husband, take care of their wife, if you care about your parents take care of their daughter. [24:17]   “I never knew how strong I was until I chose to forgive someone who wasn't sorry. and accept an apology that was never given.” [36:30]   “The payoff for having so many conversations and working really hard is what the phase to life that we're in right now, and I call it the desert phase of our life.” [42:42]   Guest Bio: Robin McGraw, #1 New York Times best-selling author, has been married to TV talk show host Dr. Phil McGraw for over thirty years. His viewers have embraced Robin--whether she's discussing her experiences as a mother and wife or dealing with issues that women face in their lives.   Follow Robin McGraw: Website: https://www.ivegotasecretwithrobinmcgraw.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/robin_mcgraw Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robinmcgrawofficial Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robin_mcgraw/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPYeLvLCbf05dLQEwQanb2w
Jun 16, 2021
Women’s HEALTH EXPERT Reveals the SECRETS to Balancing Your Hormones | Aviva Romm on Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsor: Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Taking control of your health and learning about your body is more important than ever before. With environmental changes affecting your body, foods, and mental stressors, there is no wonder that women are quietly suffering through so many health issues. Dr. Aviva Romm joins me in this episode and just kept shocking me with information about what is going on with women on a hormonal level that is impacting girls as young as 7 years old. We discuss everything from diet to libido, and how you can start gaining control over your days and your power living in harmony with your menstrual cycle because you have a better understanding of how to work with it and not against it.   Order Dr. Aviva Romm’s New Book, Hormonal Intelligence: https://www.amazon.com/Hormone-Intelligence-Complete-Balanced-Hormones/dp/0062796216   SHOW NOTES:   Early Menstruation | Dr. Romm explains why girls are starting puberty as early as age 7! [1:15] Hormonal Imbalance | Dr. Romm explains what hormonal imbalance is really costing [2:51] Microbiome | How increased antibiotics impact microbiome and hormones [3:41] Establishing Normal | Dr. Romm explains normal healthy vs. what’s normal ‘common’ [6:56] Quiet Risks | Not discussing issues like endometriosis is causing greater problems [9:36] 6th Vital Sign | Dr. Romm reveals menstrual cycles are the 6th vital sound for women [11:36] Me-Search | Dr. Romm emphasizes the importance of researching your own body [12:28] Behavior & Habits | How to use your cycle to your advantage for improving habits & behaviors [13:53] Diet Tips | Dr. Romm on eating habits around your cycle to improve health & cravings [21:28] Mind-Gut-Health | The shocking connection between the three that tie to your cycle [25:02] Long Term Process | Why you should understand long term health is not overnight [32:06] Sex Drive | Dr. Romm on knowing when you feel most sexual in relation to your period [35:24] Low Sex Drive | Dr. Romm share natural remedies to increase libido [38:46] Body Image | Dr. Romm on why body image and self esteem can lower your libido [42:03] Birth Control | Dr. Romm on what people should know about taking birth control [45:38] Depression | Dr. Romm exposes pill induced depression going unchecked and treated [50:11]   QUOTES:   “If your hormones are wonky, if things are going on, it’s not your fault, it’s not something you’re doing wrong.” [5:48]   “It takes women nine years, on average, multiple different doctors to get a diagnosis.” [10:12]   “So we’re doing ourselves a disservice by not pushing for information that we deserve to have.” [11:29]   “If your microbiome is disrupted it can really have an impact on your hormones, especially your estrogen.” [26:25]   “If you’re not feeling sexy, you’re not going to be feeling sexual” [36:00]   “Right now, the use of electronic devices in the bedroom is one of the biggest buzz kills for sex.” [38:23]   “In general, for an ongoing healthy sexual relationship and good libido it really is about that connection that we tend to want to get things going.” [41:23]   “What I am opposed to is women not being told about the very real risks, and the risks of depression are real and they’re significant.” [46:35]   “If you can do something as mild and safe and get lifelong benefits rather than do something that is just suppressive and has risks, why not try the other thing first?” [48:29]   Follow Aviva Romm: Website: https://avivaromm.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/avivaromm/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AvivaRommMD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.avivaromm/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/avivaromm?lang=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AvivaRomm  
Jun 09, 2021
Gigi Gorgeous on the Power of VULNERABILITY and the Freedom of Becoming AUTHENTICALLY YOU | Women of Impact
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Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. What does it take for you to show up everyday?  And I mean really show up! If I’m honest, even now after all these years, it can still feel uncomfortable and a bit scary, but I do it anyway. When I come across people that are showing up and being completely vulnerable and authentic to who they truly are, I am struck with admiration. Gigi Gorgeous, the famous YouTuber, Transgender Activist, Author, and so much more has been showing up since 2008 inspiring everyone on what it is to live your best life through the highs and lows. Learn through our candid conversation about being vulnerable, resilient and committed to changing and evolving into your truest self. No matter who you are or how you identify, her story is impactful and inspiring.   SHOW NOTES: True Self | Gigi on the ongoing struggle being herself through hard times & being happy [3:18] Avoid Bottom | Seeing others living as their true self and using that to inspire you [5:48] Mental Resilience | Gigi on getting down your thoughts & building up when knocked down [8:30] Internal Transformation | Building confidence with every external change to not comply [12:10] Being Compliant | Gigi on not being compliant and being open to your real thoughts [15:10] Social Media | Gigi on having a healthy relationship with social media and protecting self [16:57] Insecurities | Gigi on not allowing others to project what they’re dealing with onto you [19:26] Getting Hate | Gigi on seeing unkind people as hurt people and not taking it personal [21:57] Evolving | Getting beyond the battles and rising above the grudges you let go of [26:27] Defending Yourself | Ready for battle, ready to talk about it but not defending decisions [29:47] Evolving Together | Gigi shares how her & her spouse have handled many changes [36:22] Labeled | Being empowered by the labels others create, owning it or rejecting as needed [42:53] Vulnerability | Gigi explains why vulnerable is beautiful, and vulnerability is key [44:40] Overcoming | Gigi shares what she is most proud of overcoming so far [46:07] Coming Out | The importance of living your truth, celebrating life, live it to the fullest [49:13]   QUOTES: “There’s no better feeling waking up and being yourself, your authentic true self. You don’t have to hide anything, everyone has that. It doesn’t have to be gender thing, it doesn’t have to be sexual orientation thing we all hold things inside and when we let go it’s the most healing and beautiful thing”  [2:32] Gigi quote read by Lisa   “You can never experience true happiness if you haven’t experienced true sadness” [3:45]   “it was all internal for me as well, and then the second I reached out, the second I started making changes, it just felt so good, and I feel like that’s when your confidence really skyrockets” [13:21]   “If you can’t look in the mirror and be like b*tch I love the f*ck out of you then something’s got to change”  [17:54]   “Hey on some days I’m really insecure. Some days I don’t really like the way I look, sound, or am, and I get really down on myself. Those feelings always go away and it’s just about how you deal with them.” [18:29] Gigi quote read by Lisa   “When you think about it, it’s impossible to hurt you. What people think of me is none of my business” [19:46]   “I can’t ever let any negativity dictate how I show up, and that was the big difference between me caring and letting it dictate my life and caring and not letting it dictate.” Lisa Bilyeu [21:19]   “the second that you let that go it's such a gorgeous feeling and it sets you free and honestly it ages you, like if you hold onto all this negativity and anger you’re going to look horrible” [25:54]   “I love to say I hate change, but I think I love change, it’s exciting [37:29]   Follow Gigi Gorgeous: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzco9CewPf0F-SP1p6LhWrw Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GigiGorgeous/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gigigorgeous/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/thegigigorgeous
Jun 02, 2021
Sex Expert REVEALS the 5 Taboo Tricks You Should Try for BETTER SEX | Emily Morse on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Women’s sexual health has been neglected and shamed for far too long. Between being objectified and treated as taboo, women have been sitting in silence, often not brave enough to start asking questions about what it means to have a great sex life and what it takes to get your partner in on the action. Emily Morse, a sex therapist and host of the popular Sex with Emily podcast, joins me to answer all the embarrassing questions you were too afraid to ask. Emily breaks down exactly how to improve your relationship by first discovering your own pleasure, and then by having conversations with your partner so the two of you can explore and enjoy together. She’s here to change your sex life!   Emily’s Yes, No Maybe List: https://sexwithemily.com/yes-no-maybe-the-list-every-relationship-needs/   SHOW NOTES:   No Orgasm | Emily on why very few women orgasm with penetration [2:05] Faking Orgasms | Emily lists reason why women fake orgasms and the disservice it is [5:22] Masturbation | Emily explains its importance and why people think masturbation is wrong [6:30] Talking Sex | Emily’s 3 T’s of communication for how to express yourself to your partner [8:49] Sex Fantasies | Why having fantasies is healthy and normal and the 2 types of fantasies [14:11] Spice It Up | Emily reveals 3 things people miss that reveal it’s time to spice things up [16:03] Less Sex Drive | Emily shares what kinds of things may be impacting your sex drive [18:34] Mismatched Libidos | High desire and low desire partners revealed [19:36] Consistency | Emily on the magic number that works & getting in the mood for intimacy [23:18] Prioritizing Sex | Emily explains why sex is one of the top pillars of your relationship [29:27] Normalizing Sex | Emily shares her tips for making sex part of normal conversations [32:29] Porn | Emily shares her views on how porn is not a concern and when it is a concern [34:22] Being Judged | When your fantasies are judged & how soon you can share your desires [37:31] Sexual Confidence | Emily on being confident when discussing your sexual preferences [40:39] Pain During Sex | Why it’s so difficult for women to talk about the pain they experience [43:35] Hard To Say | More things women find difficult to communicate to their partner about sex [46:28] Impossible Orgasm | Emily reveals why she believes every woman can have an orgasm [48:53]   QUOTES:   “We need good ol’ foreplay. It’s not just a suggestion, it’s actually a requirement. It is a requirement for women to get turned on.”  [3:20]   “Healthy masturbation is the key to unlocking our own pleasure because we’re responsible for our own orgasm.” [7:00]   “even if you're having the most incredible sex, [...] in every single relationship, it's going to get stale [12:09]   “If we expect that every time our partner comes up to us, we should be ready to go, then we're not doing our part, we have to keep our own pilot light lit.” [18:16]   “We got to make sex fun and something that you share. It’s not up to one person to carry the weight of the sex life.” [20:51]   “Most people want to talk about it. They just haven't felt safe or had that person.” [34:01]   “If you don't accept your own body, it's going to be really hard to get somebody else on board with it as well” [42:39]   “we're going to be the ones who ultimately are going to be able to crack our own code, then we can share it with a partner.” [48:05]   Emily Morse Bio: She is an American sex therapist, author, and media personality. She is the host of the long-running podcast Sex with Emily and is also known for her 2012 recurring reality television appearance in Bravo's series Miss Advised (2012).   Follow Emily Morse: Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Email: Feedback@sexwithme.com Podcast: https://sexwithemily.com/listen/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/
May 26, 2021
UNDERSTAND & IMPROVE Your Relationship with the MEN In Your Life | Justin Baldoni on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsor Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Masculinity is being challenged on all fronts by women, men, judges, and corporate cultures everywhere. In this episode, Justin Baldoni joins me to discuss his new book, Man Enough. We discuss the problems men are facing with finding acceptance among themselves and with their female partners to be more open and vulnerable. The issues facing men today reach beyond just masculinity and ego. It’s an issue affecting women as well. Justin dives into how we as women were raised hearing and being impacted by the same stereotypes on gender roles as men were. Whether you are married, dating, or raising a son, this episode will help you start a conversation around the challenges men are having with learning to be more empathetic and open.   Order Justin Baldoni’s new book, Man Enough: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063055597?tag=authorweb-20   SHOW NOTES:   Being Human | Responding to error,  having the bar set too low, and being empathetic [4:10] Masculinity | Justin unpacks masculine culture and dominance and how to end suffering [8:04] Power | Justin explains breaks down the zero-sum game of exerting power [12:26] Enough | Justin on why feeling enough means other’s success isn’t a threat  [18:50] Socialized Women | Justin discusses the behaviors women are taught [22:25] Women Leaders | Justin highlights the disparity in how women are viewed in leadership [24:40] Open Men | When men risk vulnerability but his partner can’t handle it [28:11] Patriarchal Standards| How boys and girls raised desensitized to the same stereotypes [32:11] Traditions | Justin on why questioning is important and it’s not about right or wrong [38:05] Rightful Seat | Justin shares when your ego is tied to where you sit, move your seat [43:01]     QUOTES:   “I would never ask women to have compassion for men. I would ask women to see how the patriarchal structure and system hurts men and let that be the entry point into compassion.” [8:29]   “I would rather challenge a system that will make me feel less than that will make me feel like a traitor to my own gender, then continue to be miserable.” [10:36]   “there's something wrong if I feel confidence, or pleasure exerting power over this person who loves me, for me.” [15:38]   “we don't have to seek power. It's not a thing to go and find. It's a thing that's innate within us, and it starts with recognizing our own enoughness.” [16:30]   “the second you enter what the patriarchy deems a man's place. You can't be emotional. You're not allowed. You have to conform, and you're immediately judged for the very same things that are okay for men. “ [23:13]   “We have to be willing to cry, and be emotional and vulnerable to the women in our lives. And the women in our lives have to brush up against that discomfort.” [34:00]   “My hope for men is that they don't feel they have to sit at the head of the table to feel like a man.” [43:02]   “I'm on the journey with you. And you know what, I reserve the right to change my opinion and to have my ideas and thoughts changed and challenged. Because I'm growing.” [46:50]   Follow Justin Baldoni: Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni? Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/justinbaldoni Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinbaldoni/
May 19, 2021
Psychologist Debunks 5 Love Myths That Will Change Your Life | Dr. Shefali on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. It doesn’t matter what culture or social climate you were raised in, you come into adulthood, womanhood carrying the burden of social demands, pressure, and expectations that weigh heavily. Maybe you’ve never questioned the beliefs you have around how a woman acts, what true love looks like, or if being your true authentic self is even an option. Who is she? What does she like? How does she feel about herself, marriage, or children? In this episode, Lisa is joined by the NYT bestselling author and clinical psychologist, Dr. Shefali. The conversation gets super real and right to the heart of breaking down belief systems that are keeping you trapped so you can rethink and discern beliefs that are uniquely empowering for you as an individual woman.   Order Dr. Shefali’s book, A Radical Awakening: https://www.aradicalawakening.com/   SHOW NOTES:   Belief System | Dr. Shefali on how beliefs restrain you from discovering who you are [2:35] Love Debunked | The idea and agenda of love as an idea that comes with expectations [5:16] Motherhood | Dr. Shefali explores Lisa’s backlash deciding to not have children [11:25] Motherhood Pressure | Dr. Shefali debunks mothers just identifying through their child [17:41] Authentic Life | Dr. Shefali explains and Lisa punctuates discerning life on your terms [23:19] Beauty & Youth | Dr. Shefali breaks down positive & negative of the standard of beauty [26:30] Feeding Insecurities | The problem with tying self-worth to the physical & being powerful [36:45] Niceness | Dr. Shefali debunks being nice and embracing the bitch and authenticity [41:17] True Essence | Dr. Shefali reveals your true essence is not destructible, false self hurts [45:20] Toxic Femininity | When good qualities of femininity is extreme and excessive  [47:29]     QUOTES:   “we ingest these belief systems and then we robotically follow them, so they encage us, they don’t liberate us” [3:39]   “The condition is always there, and there should be conditions. Those are called boundaries. Those are called, my standards, what I need, and we should flourish ourselves with conditions that allow us to blossom.” [8:35]   “the fairytale ends when the real relationship begins.” [10:42]   “There's a big distinction between biologically bearing a child and being a mother” [12:55]   “We need the permission to believe that there are other options so that we can still feel worthy without what culture has told us...” [20:33]   “We are at war with our own bodies, because of this inner critic. And we women need to say no more.” [29:26]   “I'm learning for myself to neutralize the word cellulite, fat, thin, wrinkles, old. These are judgmental words in culture when actually they're just parts of life.” [31:18]   “Everyone can have their own relationship with me. The key is, do I have a relationship with me?” [44:34]   Follow Dr. Shefali: Website: https://www.drshefali.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drshefali Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrShefaliTsabary Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKzsU94h-PkLBiF5xHo-SjQ  
May 12, 2021
How to Quiet Your Negative Voice and Overcome Social Anxiety | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. As humans our desire to be liked and accepted by others is part of the human experience. We are social by nature, so caring what others think about us is something we all experience on some level, but it can feel like kryptonite when you care too much. When it starts affecting our self-esteem, our self-worth, our confidence and our ability to show up, it becomes a problem we need to deal with. In this episode, Lisa introduces the tactics and strategies she uses and reveals how to turn your kryptonite into a superpower that leaves you in charge with your empathy intact.   SHOW NOTES:   Beating Yourself Up | Lisa’s tip for catching yourself and asking ‘what’s the lesson?’ [2:18] Social Anxiety | Lisa shares tips socially awkward situations and having a plan [4:54] People Pleaser | Lisa reframes the problem & defines the main issue with people pleasing [9:56] Inner Critic | Lisa explains why caring isn’t a problem but listening to your gut is crucial [17:32] Caring for Others | Lisa reveals why boundaries and self-care are needed [25:21]   QUOTES:   “So every time negative thought comes in, you ask yourself, what is this telling me? Can I listen to it? Can I just do it? Can I get better? And then use it as getting better” [4:40]   “...overcome the fact that caring and people pleasing can actually become detrimental to you. Don't switch off the part of you that is special. Just develop tactics to overcome them.” [8:52]   “it can be beautiful to complete someone. But if you seek your value in that, that's where it becomes dangerous” [10:36]   “your protection is having your own value system that cannot be damaged by external people.” [13:43]   “Give your gut the megaphone and go, now does it feel true? What these people are saying? Does it feel true? [...] But if something doesn't feel right, that someone's telling you, ask yourself why, and start following that thought.“ [22:56]   “....the reason why you give yourself over is because you do care because they are meaningful to you, so don't shut that off, but don't give up who you are.” [28:23] Lisa’s Book Suggestion for Social Anxiety: Captivate by Vanessa Van Edwards, https://www.amazon.com/Captivate-Succeeding-Vanessa-Van-Edwards/dp/0399564489
May 05, 2021
Controlled by Trauma? How to Pursue Growth and Healing with Gabby Bernstein | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory If you fall into the category of average, you may be dealing with unresolved traumas and experiences that have left your mental and emotional state in chaos. Too many of us have been left coping with behaviors and feelings we don’t quite understand and therefore struggle to resolve. In this episode Lisa explores unresolved trauma, letting go of control, what it takes to surrender and living judgement free with the #1 NY Times bestselling author, Gabby Bernstein. Gabby shows up with grace and honesty to help you step out of the illusion of control into a place where you can exist and create from inspiration and balanced energy. You are capable of being genuine with yourself and letting go of your controlling ways. Take a dive in to get the exact steps how, so you can start today!   SHOW NOTES:   Unresolved Wounds | Gabby breaks down what it means to show up for you wounds [3:06] Honoring Wounds | Gabby shares why honoring your wounds starts with a decision [5:53] Judgement | Gabby on judging others and self and the need for evaluation & compassion [8:42] Self-Care | Gabby on being unapologetic about self-care and making time [13:56] Radical Honesty | Gabby reveals her practice of radical honesty in healthy relationships [19:40] Surrender | Gabby breaks down the difference between surrender and control [22:15] Lose Control | Gabby on letting go of control to succeed and be more grounded [26:31] Control Recovery | 3 steps to letting go of control and identifying negative control [28:53] Inspired Surrender | Gabby on getting into mindset of surrender and allowing inspiration [32:48] Choose Again | Gabby shares 3 steps to mentally recondition negative thoughts [34:43] Trauma | Gabby on her experience recovering traumatic experience & the gratitude  [39:41]     QUOTES:   “...unresolved wounds from attachment breach, from childhood experiences, from feelings of being unlovable, and not good enough, [...] they will show up until you show up for them” [3:11]   “So you have these moments in life where you are in the wound, you feel the experience, and you realize there has to be a better way. Those moments are a miracle because an invisible door opens for you” [7:12]   “when we're judging, we're actually projecting out a disowned part of our shadow, a part of us that is unresolved, a part of us that is still needing resources and healing and support.” [9:38]   “if my temple, if my energy field, if my physical presence, if my mental psyche is not steady its not at ease, it's not regulated, then everything in my life gets dysregulated” [14:15]   “when people walk their talk, that is when they become unapologetic. Because it's no longer this thing I have to prove, it's something that I have to stand by.” [17:39]   “when it comes to giving advice to others, and caring for others, just just telling the truth, is the most loving thing we can do.” [20:55]   “surrender isn't giving up, it's giving over, it's welcoming a path, that may not be what we expected, it's taking our hands off the wheel, releasing control, opening up our consciousness to something that could be this or something better.” [22:17]   “So when you release the control, you've relaxed your container, which is your energy field, your nervous system, and in that relaxed state, you have far more power to create and to cultivate.” [28:15]   “you can still be in the pursuit of growth and healing and feel really fucking great at the same time.” [42:40]   Follow Gabby Bernstein: Website: https://gabbybernstein.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabbybernstein/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gabriellebernstein Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbybernstein/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiGs8bAma9q1fqP-3SokQZw Twitter: https://twitter.com/gabbybernstein
Apr 28, 2021
How Struggles Will Help You Find Your Purpose with Camila Alves McConaughey | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Sometimes it’s not about the marriage or the kids, or anyone else. Sometimes you go all out and are in it to win just for you. Fun fact, there are 114% more women entrepreneurs now than there were 20 years ago (source). In this episode two successful badass women entrepreneurs discuss purpose, life, taking pause from everything to reconnect with yourself and listening to your gut. A woman’s journey is never easy, but Camila Alves McConaughey opens up about the fulfillment, the rejection, the pain and the success she’s found along the way following her intuition. She and Lisa jump right in to get real, get vulnerable and get practical about what it takes to start successful businesses and balance marriage and kids.   Episode Photos - Courtesy of Camila Alves’ Instagram   SHOW NOTES:   Business Journey | Camila recounts rejections and obstacles starting Yummy Spoonfuls [1:17] Purpose | Knowing when to leave and understanding the purpose of your business & self [5:32] Family Effort | Camila explains the importance of involving the family with business plans [9:03] Seasons of Life | Picking the right path for the season and knowing your priorities [15:07] Take Pause | Not getting lost in the journey and quieting the negative voices [20:58] Evolving | Growing with the journey and having new goals as we reassess [24:35] Ask Questions | Camila on how to ask yourself questions and find answers and therapy [26:34] Time for You | Giving yourself time to reconnect to you and find your adventure [31:17] Intuition | Camila and Lisa discuss going with intuition & listening to you gut responsibly [34:47]   QUOTES: “So I think that having a purpose is so important beyond [what] you can even imagine because the hard times are going to come, the doubts are going to come, the questions are going to come and the sacrifice is going to come, so you need to have that purpose really clear to yourself, so it helps you through the journey.” [8:31]   “I do believe [in] hard work and do things for the right reasons. [...] Be a good human and the universe and people around you, they will see that. It kind of shelters and you will find your path and you'll find your journey.” [38:26]   “if you just really seek to do better for yourself, you can do better for others around you and for your community.” [39:29] Follow Camila Alves McConaughey: Website: https://womenoftoday.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/iamcamilaalves Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wotbycamila/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/camilamcconaughey/?hl=en  
Apr 21, 2021
Relationship Experts Reveal 10 Red Flags You Shouldn't Ignore | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you’re not sure what to look out for, or you think your partner’s behaviors are a bit questionable, then today’s episode is going to reveal all the red flags and warnings of toxic unhealthy relationships you’ll want to avoid as early as possible.   SHOW NOTES: Identifying Flags | Know difference between toxic behavior and not being the right match [0:28] The Facade | Get past the representative to avoid a commitment to the wrong person [3:56] Narcissist Trap | When you’ve been disregarded 3 times staying is devaluing yourself [9:45] Lack Empathy | If your partner is not showing empathy it could signal a narcissistic trait [12:19] Unbalanced Effort | Acknowledge the gap, their intentions, and if the gap is reduced [14:54] Self Righteousness | Watch out for rigid people that thinks they’re right and knows better [19:48] Misaligned Values | Not aligned and lacking a mutual respect for the other perspective  [20:55] Jumping Conclusions | Not attributing the absolute worst intention to behaviors [28:40] No Boundaries | A partner tries to set boundaries over your boundaries to stop you [30:58] Weaponized Insecurities | Using trusted information against a partner is broke trust [33:48] Broken Trust | Don’t live in fear of trusting others, trust in yourself [35:13]   Matthew Hussey is a dating expert on ABC’s What To Text Him Back, columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine and NY Times Bestselling author. He is a specialist in human attraction and relationship-coaching all over the world.   Spirit is the owner and clinical director of her mental health group practice T2S Enterprises. She is also the host of Love Goals on the Oprah Winfrey Network.   Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, best-selling author, professor, speaker and more. She is the go to expert on narcissism devoted to demystifying toxic narcissistic relationships.   Evy Poumpouras is a former U.S. Secret Service Special Agent turned TV personality, host and multimedia journalist that authored the book, Becoming Bulletproof.   Nedra Glover Tawwab is a therapist, content creator and author. Her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace dives deep into healthy boundaries and how to say no.   Tom Bilyeu is co-founder of Impact Theory along with his wife, Lisa Bilyeu. His mission is to pull people out of the matrix at scale through mindset     QUOTES:   “when someone is saying something that's not been earned yet, by the point in relationship you're at, that is something of a red flag.” Matthew Hussey [2:27]   “people will tell you one thing, but their behavior can tell you something completely different. It takes time in order to see that.” Spirit [5:55] “with a narcissistic person, the earlier you leave, the easier it is to extract, right” Dr. Ramani [11:11]   “people reveal who they are not through their words, but through situations. And you have to in order to really see who someone is you have to see them in in enough situations.” Matthew Hussey [15:24]   “Highlight the gap in a classy and tactful way. Look at whether this person acknowledges the gap because it's usually the sign of a toxic relationship if the gap can't even be acknowledged.” Matthew Hussey [18:08]   “You have to look at people holistically who they are with everybody, because that's going to come back to you.” Evy Poumpouras [20:40]   “without immediately labeling, without immediately accusing if we can create just a little bit of space between the point at which we get curious and the point at which we've drawn all of our conclusions, that space saves relationships…” Matthew Hussey [29:32]   “So the more you increase your language around what's happening in the situation, the better you will be at recognizing when someone is trying to set boundaries over your boundaries.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [32:28]   “it's so terrifying to think how fragile trust really is that it only takes one gnarly comment that was aimed to be cruel, and you can really do a lot of damage.” Tom Bilyeu [34:38]   “You don't trust that someone is never going to betray you. You just trust that you'll be able to handle it.” Matthew Hussey [38:37]   FOLLOW MATTHEW HUSSEY: http://www.matthewhussey.com/ FOLLOW SPIRIT: https://www.linkedin.com/in/talk2spirit/ FOLLOW DR. RAMANI DURVASULA: http://doctor-ramani.com/ FOLLOW: EVY POUMPOURAS: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ FOLLOW NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ FOLLOW TOM BILYEU: https://impacttheory.com/
Apr 14, 2021
Love Therapist on Why You Seek Validation and What to Do Instead | Jordan Green on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsor Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you find it a struggle to love yourself in spite of how much you put on the line day after day for everyone else? How can it be so easy to put others first?  Have you ever wondered, If you said to others what you say to yourself, would they love you, could they trust you or build a deeper connection with you? Lisa speaks with Jordan Green, a licensed therapist and coach, and the founder of the Love Group about the importance of self-validation, self-love and relationships in this episode. Jordan shares incredible insights on what it takes to have healthy relationships, what healthy conflict looks like and how it all starts with first valuing and loving yourself.   SHOW NOTES:   Know Your Value | The importance of your value and how it impacts your relationships [1:29] Love Letters | You can start doing these two simple things to start valuing yourself today [2:16] Seeking Validation | When seeking validation is okay and where it becomes a problem [3:40] Healthy Relationships | What validation looks like in a health relationship [7:25] Interdependence | Jordan breaks down what healthy identities look for couples [8:28] Nonverbal Communication | Jordan breaks down 4 types of communication breaking down relationships [10:17] Criticism | Jordan explains how criticism breaks down relationships [11:25] Contempt | Jordan explains how contempt is the greatest predictor of divorce [12:49] Defensiveness | Jordan explains how defensiveness escalates conflict [15:59] Stonewalling | Jordan on how emotional overwhelm can lead to shutting down [17:48] Self Regulate | Jordan explains techniques to self regulate or co-regulate [ 20:54] Turning Towards | The power of turning towards a person seeking your attention [22:54] Healthy Conflict | Jordan shares healthy and unhealthy ratios of conflict in relationships [25:13] Better Relationship Tips | Small bank appreciation deposits and minimal withdrawals [27:17] Not Being Needy | Jordan on how to communicate and not feel needy in a relationship [31:43] Rupture Repairs | How to repair those ruptures when they happen and the effort it takes [33:28] 1-2-3 Baby! | How Lisa and Tom resolve their conflicts and one is emotionally sober [37:08] Certainty & Uncertainty | The healthy balance of both in a relationship [41:34]   QUOTES: “If you know what you have to bring to the table and the value that you bring to a relationship, it's going to make that relationship that much better.” [1:56] “validation is a skill that I think everyone should learn how to validate each other, and it's okay to sometimes feel like you need validation from the people around you, the issue is that when we need validation from others to feel lovable, and worthy.” [4:15] “So we have to retrain our minds by starting to focus on our partner’s strength and positive traits. And we have to start making repairs by making efforts to connect and communicate openly and show appreciation and love for each other.” [25:01] “I think a lot of times we feel guilty, like we shouldn't have to ask for that validation, or appreciation or love or, or to have to ask to do activities that help us to feel more connected, but it's totally okay to ask, and it's so important to ask,” [32:07] “It's totally normal to experience times of disconnection in our relationships. A lot of people think that we shouldn't have conflict. We have these beliefs from our childhood or just from society that we shouldn't have conflicts that until we avoid it, or we feel like there's something wrong, but it's totally normal to experience conflict, there's totally, it's totally normal to experience times of disconnection in your relationship.” [39:39]   Follow Jordan Green: Website: https://jordanandrea.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jordangreencoaching/?ref=bookmarks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.love.therapist/?hl=en
Apr 07, 2021
How To Overcome Judgmental Pressures and Be Yourself | Haifa Beseisso on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Do you ever feel pressured to behave a certain way because your family, friends, or society expect it from you? Most of us want to be liked, but by trying to please everyone, we end up pleasing no one—ourselves included. That’s why most people don’t live the life they want. But how do you stay true to yourself if your best friends and your family shame you publicly? How do you stick to your choices under overwhelming pressure to change and adapt to others’ opinions? In this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by the YouTube phenomenon Haifa Beseisso to discuss such matters and more as they explore how Haifa went from getting rejected to traveling around the world by succeeding on YouTube. How to keep going even if your closest friends judge your choices. Why awareness is the key to change, and what needs to change to give everyone the freedom to make their own choices. They discuss how to stay emphatic to people that try to tear you down, and what to do if you feel like other people don’t understand you, and much more.     SHOW NOTES:   Lisa introduces today’s guest Haifa Beseisso and shares why she´s a role model for being authentic. [0:00] What Haifa loved about Lisa when they first met and why this video is not about motivating other women to remove their hijab. [2:15] How Haifa went from getting rejected to traveling around the world by succeeding on YouTube. [4:40] How to keep going even if your closest friends judge your choices. [8:09] Why listening to your body can uncover if you should change. [15:02] Why awareness is the key to change. [21:20] What really needs to change to give everyone the freedom to make their own choices. [24:30] Haifa´s tactics to handle depression and find her soul´s mission. [31:18] How to stay emphatic to people that try to tear you down. [37:32] What to do if you feel like other people don´t understand you. [40:00] How Haifa deals with family attacking her and the choice you have at that moment. [45:15] Haifa shares how you can connect with her. [53:24]     QUOTES:   “I deserve respect. Me and any girl that’s standing to make any choice that they want. We need to learn how to do that.” [11:59]   “I used to really care about being loved by everybody, and my biggest growth was: “You don´t all have to like me.” [18:30]   “What I´ve learned is that there isn´t some ultimate truth. What could be true to me might not be true for another girl living in Jordan or Syria or America. What´s important is that we have the ability to think and know what our choices are as individuals, as all genders, and decide for ourselves without controlling one another.” [25:13]   “Instead of seeing them as an attacker, I feel sorry for them.” [38:00]   “The more we are open to seeing different realities and truths, the more we can live freely.” [51:50]     FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW HAIFA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flywithhaifa/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-utv5IW04U Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/flywithhaifa/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/flywithhaifa/
Mar 31, 2021
How Self-Belief Helped These Billion-Dollar Businesswomen Overcome Fear | Women of Impact Panel
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Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Today is the day to go from underestimated to unstoppable. It’s time to learn how to turn your setbacks into set-ups for success. Now is the time to push through failure and obstacles holding you back to build the unstoppable self-belief you need. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by one of Forbes America’s Richest Self-Made Women, Jamie Kern Lima, and CEO of the BRNGroup, Dia Simms, two women behind billion-dollar brands with incredible success stories. They discuss why most female entrepreneurs fail and what to do when you keep failing, and you can’t get back up again. Jamie shares how she managed to take on big risks and pushed through no after no. They explore the one moment, Jamie doubted herself most, yet she decided to trust her gut, thus completely changed her business. Dia shares how she failed with her first company, but what she learned made her successful 15 years later. Jamie reveals why your setbacks are actually your set-ups for success and much more.     SHOW NOTES:   Lisa introduces today´s guests, two women behind billion-dollar brands. [00:04] Dia and Jamie share why most female entrepreneurs fail. [5:17] What to do when you keep failing, and you can´t get back up. [10:10] Why entrepreneurship is actually the safer road. [12:24] Jamie shares how she managed to take on big risks and pushed through “no” after “no.” [13:21] The one moment, Jamie doubted herself most, yet decided to trust her gut, thus completely changed her business. [19:04] Why success is about taking risks over and over again and how to do that. [21:17] Dia shares how she failed with her first company, but what she learned made her successful 15 years later. [23:16] Jamie reveals why your setbacks are actually your set-ups for success. [26:20] What you will be most proud of when you´re successful. (Not what you think.) [29:09] Lisa, Dia, and Jamie share what they still struggle with today. [30:00]     QUOTES: “The truth is none of us sat there and just loved ourselves. It has been an ongoing effort and work to look at our insecurities, our negative voice, all the things we had to go through.” [4:55]   “I have the capability inside me because that is just science.” [11:25]   “The greatest risk is not to trust yourself.” [14:08]   “I would rather stand for something in that moment than sell a whole lot of products and stand for nothing.” [19:04]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW JAMIE: Website: https://jamiekernlima.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamie-kern-lima-35574a71/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JamieKernLima Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JamieKernLimaPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamiekernlima/   FOLLOW DIA: Website: https://www.diasimms.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diasimms/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/diasimms?lang=de Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diasimms/?hl=en
Mar 24, 2021
Relationship Expert on WHY You Settle and HOW to Stop | Stephan Speaks on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsor Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Why do we stay in bad relationships? If you find yourself in one bad relationship after another, it could be a sign that you’d rather be with anyone than be on your own. Many people become complacent and settle for less than they deserve just because they like the idea of having someone. But how do you know if you are settling for less than you deserve? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, & Bestselling Author Stephan Labossiere, a.k.a Stephan Speaks. They explore three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. Stephan explains the bad advice that makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. Furthermore, Stephan shares the fundamentals that every successful relationship needs and why a connection isn´t built, how to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. He explains why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone and what to do if your partner has changed in a negative way and how to differentiate tough times with when it’s time to break up with your partner.     SHOW NOTES: Three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. [00:20] Why Lisa stayed with her ex-boyfriend before she met Tom. [1:41] This lousy advice makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. [2:01] The fundamentals that every successful relationship needs. [3:29] Why connection can´t be built, and even a great connection is not enough for a successful relationship. [11:23] How to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. [14:30] Why analyzing everything is sabotaging your relationship. [15:51] This is what kills most relationships and the three things you have to learn to build a successful relationship. [17:20] Why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone. [21:59] What to do if your partner has changed negatively. [29:10] How to differentiate tough times with when it´s time to break up with your partner. [34:45] This mindset is the reason for Lisa´s long-lasting, happy relationship with Tom. [36:59] Implement this communication habit to keep your relationship on track. [38:48] Why being authentic from the beginning is essential for a lasting relationship. [41:25] Stephan shares how to connect with him. [43:30]     QUOTES: “Women confuse intuition and fear, and they allow fear to overrun their intuition.” [14:28]   “Especially within relationships where two people have a connection: This is the person that could hurt you the most and make you the happiest.” [18:12]   “We got to recognize the difference between the person who doesn´t belong in our lives and continues to do wrong and the person who does belong in our life and makes mistakes.” [20:34]   “The majority of people are not with the person they most love. The majority of people are not with someone they have a connection with.” [36:08]     FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW STEPHAN: Website: https://www.stephanspeaksshop.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/RelationshipExpert1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships
Mar 17, 2021
People Pleasing Is Holding You Back | Patrice Washington on Women of Impact
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Check out Our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Are you tired of feeling lost with no purpose? Most people wake up one day and realize they have no idea what they should do with their lives. But what would happen if you allow yourself to trust your gut and step into your true authentic self? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Former National Spokesperson, #1 Best Selling Personal Finance Author and Speaker & Money Maven of the Steve Harvey Morning Show, Patrice Washington. They explore why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. Patrice shares how her career skyrocketed after she accepted herself. They discuss why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful and much more.   Pre-order Patrice´s book “Redefine Wealth for Yourself, How to Stop Chasing Money and Finally Live Your Life's Purpose” https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08RSNZQ7M?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420   SHOW NOTES:   Why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. [1:22] Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. [3:04] Why you´re confused and feel like something is missing even when you read all the books. [3:58] How to build passion around the things you´re good at even when your natural gifts are unsexy. [6:34] How Patrice’s career skyrocketed after she accepted herself and stopped caring about others. [7:35] The story about how Lisa first met Patrice and why Lisa was shocked when Patrice started to speak. [10:24] Why most people put their talent in a box and how to unleash it. [11:50] How Patrice threw away her suits, started to live into her authentic self, and why the reaction that followed made her cry. [13:40] Why you shouldn´t leave room for a plan B and go all-in when you make a real decision. [15:00] Why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful. [16:20] How Patrice transformed from being insecure to badass self-esteem with the first pillar of her book. [17:47] The confident practices Patrice still does to this day. [21:00] How to use her book´s second pillar to create wealthy relationships that matter. [23:10] What is Patrice´s first responsibility, and what does she prioritize in her life above everything else. [26:40] Why Patrice turned down interviews with huge platforms that would´ve brought in lots of sales. [29:00] How Patrice trust and acts on what feels right for her. [30:20] The pillar of faith that helped Patrice through the most challenging times when her child died. [33:34] Three things you really need to be successful. (Most people will realize their current goals don´t matter.) [37:30] Why even when you feel miserable right now, you´re exactly on the right way. [43:18] How to know if it´s just a roadblock or if something isn´t for you. [45:26] Why you shouldn´t give up even when you feel like nothing is working. [49:00] Patrice shares how to connect with her. [52:27]     QUOTES:   “I believe purpose will connect you to the people you´re supposed to serve. That´s why I don´t care about pissing everybody else off.” [17:02]   “Your business is only going to grow to the extent you´re willing to heal.” [19:49]   “The thing that has allowed me to keep going is this idea, that none of those things happen to me; they happen for me.” [34:30]   “We have to do it until other people believe it. We have to show up until they start to show up. If we don´t show up for ourselves, why would anyone else?” [39:40]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW PATRICE: Website: https://patricewashington.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seekwisdompcw/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SeekWisdomPCW Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/SeekWisdomPCW Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redefining-wealth-with-patrice-washington/id1281824139
Mar 10, 2021
Narcissism Expert Shares Signs You Are Dating a Narcissist & How to Respond | Dr. Ramani Durvasula
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Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Do you casually throw a narcissist label on people simply because they were unkind, harsh, or brief with you? How do you know if a person is truly narcissistic or just experiencing emotions or a situation that hasn’t been communicated? In this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu speaks with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist, best-selling author, expert of narcissism and so much more. Dr. Ramani and Lisa go deep into the world of narcissism. Together they walk you through a complete journey to getting a better understanding of the narcissist, their motivators, and how you may be allowing yourself to be the victim. Dr Ramani begins with the 6 types of narcissistic behaviors and teaches you what the narcissistic game is and how you can play to win by removing yourself or taking responsibility for staying.   Order Dr Ramani’s book, “Don’t You Know Who I Am?” https://www.amazon.com/Dont-You-Know-Who-Entitlement/dp/1682617521/ref=sr_1_2?crid=3DVXDMXL6FQAD&dchild=1&keywords=dr.+ramani+durvasula&qid=1614728895&sprefix=Dr.+Ram%2Caps%2C221&sr=8-2   SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa welcomes Dr. Ramani Durvasula  Define | Dr. Ramani explains what a narcissist is? [3:52] Grandiose | Dr. Ramani defines the classical grandiose narcissist [3:53] Covert | Dr. Ramani defines the covert narcissist [4:34] Malignant | Dr. Ramani defines the malignant narcissist [5:01] Communal | Dr Ramani defines the communal narcissist [5:35] Neglectful | Dr Ramani defines the neglectful narcissist [6:10] Self Righteous | Dr Ramani defines the self-righteous narcissist [6:42] Insecurity | Dr. Ramani explains the relationship between narcissism and insecurity Pathological Insecurity | Dr. Ramani explains the difference between Pathologically insecure and conventionally insecure [8:30]  Misconceptions | Dr. Ramani talks about the misconceptions of narcissism [11:02] Relational Responsibility | Dr. Ramni explains the responsibility of respect, empathy and clarity[17:07] Not Changing | Dr. Ramani explains what to do when they are not going to change [19:41] Red Flags | Dr. Ramani reveals red flags to look for [20:40] Rules of Three | Dr. Ramani breaks down rules of engagement with narcissistic people [21:00] Wanting is Fine | Dr. Ramani explains it is okay to want what you want, but accept truth [23:22] Devaluing Yourself | Dr. Ramni explains about devaluation of yourself dealing with narcissist [24:14] The Game | Dr. Ramani reveals the narcissist's game [25:15] Avoid the Trap | Dr. Ramani explains how to void the narcissistic trap [26:00] Abandonment Issues | Dr. Ramani reveals narcissist have abandonment issues [26:30] Holding Safe Space | Dr. Ramani explains holding space when you’ve hurt someone [28:25] Communication | Dr. Ramani explains narcissistic people shut the lines of communication [29:45] Conversations | Dr. Ramani talks about having conversations when you’ve been shut out [31:17] Identify Narcissism | Dr. Ramani explains how important it is to identify these behaviors immediately [31:58] Charisma | Dr. Ramani explains the connection between charismatic people and narcissist [32:28] Changing a Narcissist | Dr. Ramani reveals her thoughts if narcissists can change their rigid behavior [37:17] Men vs. Women Narcissists | Dr. Ramani explains social impact on behaviors that impact narcissistic behaviors in men and women [42:07] Raising Kids | Dr. Ramani shares tips how to raise children to not be narcissistic [44:17]   QUOTES: “Too many people try to draw water out of empty wells, they want people to communicate with them the way that they want. If this is not working for you then leave. Do not try to transform someone into something they can’t be.” [19:30] “They’re not going to change, what are you going to do? [...] I’ll stay if, there’s no if, this is it this is who this person is. You stay AND this is how it is  [19:57] “With a narcissistic person, the earlier you leave the easier it is to extract. [...] The problem is, early in the game, the narcissist doesn’t like to lose, so they will try to suck you back, they will try to hoover you back, and that is very seductive” [25:17] “You are disrespecting yourself staying in this conversation, and it’s just going to get more abusive, so there is no way forward.” [31:48] “Charisma is like heavy perfume or cologne that someone that someone wears when they don’t take a shower, it’s probably covering up something else”  [32:28]   “No one gets made a six month old baby for crying, [...] a narcissist wants to be treated like a six month old, have their tantrums, and still have people snuggle them afterwards.” [38:42]   FOLLOW Dr Ramani Durvasula: Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/  Twitter:  https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani    Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/DoctorRamani    
Mar 03, 2021
Anyone Who Tells You What You “Should” Do Is Wrong, Here’s Why | Cynthia Garcia on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you find yourself living your life on others terms? Do you tend to let your friends, family, and even strangers influence your goals, dreams, and what you’re ultimately capable of? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by celebrity life coach, nutritional expert, and CEO Cynthia Garcia to discuss such matters and more as they explore the power of changing your perspective on your life, rewriting the stories you tell yourself, and how to live life on your own terms as your true authentic self. They discuss how to reframe your perspectives, why you need to look inward, how to get used to discomfort and change, why you need to understand and change the stories you tell yourself, the silver-lining of trauma and pain, how to stop focusing on what others think of you, why it’s okay to not always be happy, the power of curiosity, and much more.   SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Cynthia Garcia. [2:20] Reframe | Cynthia reveals the power of reframing and controlling your perspectives. [5:00] Inside | Cynthia reveals why you have to look inward and refrain from ‘numbing out.’ [7:28] Release | Cynthia reveals why getting uncomfortable is required for change. [9:30] Unstuck | Cynthia reveals how to break negative patterns and get unstuck from your rut. [10:35] Change | Cynthia reveals what you need to be truly change the course of your life. [17:38] S.T.O.R.Y. | Cynthia reveals the power of understanding the stories you tell yourself. [20:15] Immerse | Cynthia reveals the power of immersing yourself in the world you desire. [30:17] Endings | Cynthia reveals what to do if your story truly doesn’t have a happy ending. [32:00] Trauma | Cynthia reveals how the impactful events of your life form your narrative. [33:33] Aware | Cynthia reveals why you need to make an effort to be aware of your stories. [37:56] Naysayers | Cynthia reveals how to let go of what other people think of you. [42:31] Know Yourself | Cynthia reveals why you must know the truth about who you are. [45:12] Happiness | Cynthia reveals the truth about why it’s okay to not be always happy. [50:15] Stay Curious | Cynthia reveals why you should remain curious in life. [53:46] Enjoy Pain | Cynthia reveals the power and beauty of pain in your life. [56:48] Connect | Cynthia shares how you can stay connected to learn more. [1:01:14]   QUOTES: “Our past is creating our present and, if we’re not careful, it will also create our future.”  [6:30]   “So there’s two requirements to do this work — two. One is you have to be willing and you have to be ready. If you can’t see it, you’re not ready…”  [18:33]   “That’s what stories are… We give meaning to events that don’t have them, but we need to make sense of it…” [26:52]   “Any real solution that doesn’t explore our underlying feelings of shame, and unworthiness, and deep-seated beliefs that we hold is a distraction. It’s a distraction from the real work that needs to be done and trying to be happy all the time is a distraction. You can’t understand how to be happy all the time if you don’t know what makes you sad. You cannot know the light if you’ve never seen the darkness.” [51:27]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW CYNTHIA: Website: cynthiagarcia.com Website: transformationalnutrition.com Instagram: instagram.com/iamcynthiagarcia Facebook: facebook.com/iamcynthiagarcia
Feb 24, 2021
Maria Menounos on How to Get Back Up When Life Pushes You Down | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Life is going to knock you down. You are going to have setbacks. It’s almost certainly inevitable. Still, it’s on you, and you alone to push away the temptation to simply become a victim of life. Instead, you must rise above, stand tall, and continuously adapt as life throws you curveballs. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by author, reporter, host of the ‘Better Together’ podcast, and all-around badass Maria Menounos to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to overcome setbacks in life and why you need to find your voice, feel a sense of empowerment, and start putting yourself first. They discuss Maria’s incredible journey from entertainment reporter to overcoming a brain tumor, why you need to feel a sense of empowerment, the power of being open to every perspective, why hardship is a blessing, how Maria has re-defined her definition of success, why you need to live life on your own terms, the power of purpose, and much more.   Listen to Maria’s all-new podcast, ‘Better Together with Maria Menounos’: mariamenounos.com   SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest Maria Menounos. [0:30] Journey | Maria shares her incredible journey of discovering she had a brain tumor. [3:00] Learning | Maria reveals what she would have done differently when looking back. [9:06] Empowered | Maria reveals how to empower yourself to start speaking your mind. [13:36] Possibilities | Maria reveals why you have to think of every perspective possible. [20:56] Hardship | Maria reveals how she pushes through pain and overcomes challenges. [23:18] Success | Maria reveals why it’s okay to radically re-define your definition of success. [28:11] Living Your Way | Maria reveals why she decided live her life on her own terms. [33:08] Dreams | Maria shares how her dreams have evolved and shifted over time. [37:48] Purpose | Maria reveals the little things that led her to finding her purpose. [41:16] Connect | Maria reveals how to stay connected and follow her for more. [43:50]   QUOTES: “…I know our beliefs create a chemistry in our bodies that make shit happen.” [19:29]   “You have to realize that your pain, your traumas, they can all be your fuel. They can be your ally in your pursuit of your dream.” [26:43]   “For me, it was redefining success and knowing that just because I can doesn’t mean I should and then making choices that supported that — or it’s like, “Is this gonna serve my soul? Is this gonna to make me feel like I’m living my purpose? Or is this going to make me feel happy and have fun?” And if it wasn’t, I was like, “Well, not interested.”” [42:10]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW MARIA:   Website: mariamenounos.com YouTube: youtube.com/mariamenounos Instagram: instagram.com/bettertogetherwithmaria Instagram: instagram.com/mariamenounos Facebook: facebook.com/MariaMenounos/ Twitter: twitter.com/mariamenounos
Feb 17, 2021
Matthew Hussey Reveals the Red Flags You Need to Watch Out For | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. The term ‘toxic relationship’ gets thrown around quite often in today’s digital age, but what does it actually mean? How can you truly identify the red flags and warning signs of one? How do you know you’re not the problem in the relationship? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by the world's leading dating advice expert Matthew Hussey to discuss such matters and more as they explore the red flags of a toxic relationship and what to do if you spot them. They discuss why not everything is toxic just because it was labeled as so, why the rationale behind your feelings might be invalid, how to properly approach a breakup, what to do after you’ve broken up, how to heal your trust issues, why you need to be self-aware and self-reflective, why you need to have compassion when approaching your partner, and much more.   SHOW NOTES:   Intro | Lisa welcomes back today’s guest and relationship expert, Matthew Hussey. [1:03] Red Flags | Matthew reveals the key red flags to watch out for in your relationship. [2:36] Toxic | Matthew reveals how labeling things as ‘toxic’ can be going over the line. [6:30] Feelings | Matthew reveals why the rationale behind our feelings may be invalid. [12:22] Breakups | Matthew reveals why people use language poorly while exiting a relationship. [16:23] Post-Breakup | Matthew reveals why reaching out after a breakup can lead to pain. [19:22] Forgiveness | Matthew reveals why it can be so difficult to forgive. [22:46] Trust | Matthew reveals how to let go of the pain from your past relationships. [23:40] Compassion | Matthew reveals the power of approaching your partner with compassion. [30:05] Healthy Signs | Matthew reveals what to look for early into a relationship. [33:03] It Might Be You | Matthew reveals why you need to reflect and have self-awareness. [36:32] Be Curious | Matthew reveals why you should never rush to drawing a conclusion. [39:08] Vulnerable | Matthew discusses why you need to be vulnerable. [43:08] Connect | Matthew shares how you can connect with him to learn more. [45:50]   QUOTES: “…when we’re scared, when we’re hurt, when we’re wounded, we have our favorite weapon. Our favorite weapon could be passive aggression. Our favorite weapon could be the silent treatment. Our favorite weapon could be storming off — it could be attacking you. We all have our favorite weapon and I think we often scare people off in relationships not because of our wounds, we scare them off with our weapons.” [7:45]   “You don’t trust that someone’s never going to betray you, you just trust that you’ll be able to handle it if they do.” [27:55]   “It’s very difficult, especially when someone is making us feel like we’re overreacting, to get impartial and to say, “Where is the line between me asking too much and me asking the right amount?” … and sometimes I think people don’t realize they’re toxic because they’re so convinced of their story.” [38:48]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW MATTHEW: Website: getcoreconfidence.com YouTube: youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: instagram.com/thematthewhussey Facebook: facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter: twitter.com/matthewhussey TikTok: tiktok.com/@thematthewhussey
Feb 10, 2021
How to Manage Your Self-Doubting Habits | Women of Impact Q&A
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Check out our Sponsor Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Do you struggle with self doubt and a habit of putting yourself down right as you’re getting started on a new path? Do you tell yourself things like “I’m not good enough,” “I’ll never meet their expectations,” or “What’s the point of even trying?” It’s time to silence that negative inner voice for good and start walking on a path towards empowerment, encouragement, and letting your true self shine. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu answers your questions about how to overcome these negative inner voices and stomp out self rejection and doubt. She discusses how to own your true self, why you need to speak to yourself with encouraging language, how to not let others dictate your decisions, how to start valuing yourself, and how to set expectations that serve you in life.   SHOW NOTES:   Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about overcoming self doubt and self rejection. [0:20] Being You | Lisa reveals how to block out your self doubt and own your true self. [1:09] Build Yourself Up | Lisa reveals the power of using encouraging language with yourself. [7:16] Keep Showing Up | Lisa shares how to stop others from dictating your decisions. [11:22] You’re Valuable | Lisa reveals the importance of building a foundation of valuing yourself. [19:15] Expectations | Lisa reveals how to have expectations that serve you in life. [26:36]   QUOTES: “So, be the student, don’t worry about all the failures or the mistakes you’re going to make — that’s part of the process. So you want to know the language I use, “It’s part of the process, I’m a student.”” [11:08]   “It’s not about whether you care or not, it’s about whether you act or if you freeze. That’s what matters.” [13:14]   “…eventually start showing people, start taking action, show what you’re made of, and who you are, and who you’ve decided to be… but first it comes to ‘decide who you want to be.’” [17:24]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  
Feb 03, 2021
Therapist Reveals How to Stop Others From Manipulating You | Nedra Glover Tawwab on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you struggle to say no when others demand or expect something from you? Do you fold under pressure, constantly apologize, and have a fear of disappointing others? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by therapist, content creator, and author Nedra Glover Tawwab to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways you can begin to set powerful and clear boundaries in your life while still maintaining healthy, loving relationships. They discuss how to acknowledge the boundaries you need to set, how to shift the language you use to put you in control of situations, how to handle conflicting boundaries within your relationships, why you need to take ownership over your choices, how to handle disrespect, the power of being clear, why you need to stop apologizing, how to maintain boundaries after setting them, and much more.   Pre-Order Nedra’s book, ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’: amazon.com/dp/0593192095/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_6LXdGbMN7FMVF   SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest, Nedra Glover Tawwab. [1:46] Acknowledge | Nedra reveals how to acknowledge the boundaries you need in your life. [3:22] Recognize | Nedra reveals why you need to recognize when you’re being manipulated. [5:51] Language | Nedra reveals why you need to develop the language you use. [8:23] Boundaries | Nedra reveals how to deal with conflicting boundaries in your relationships. [9:13] Fine Line | Nedra discusses why you need to set boundaries with others within yourself. [11:57] Choices | Nedra reveals how you can take ownership over the relationships in your life. [14:06] Do This | Nedra reveals what to do if someone isn’t respecting your boundaries. [17:18] Empower | Nedra discusses the empowerment within recognizing you have the choice. [21:26] Lifestyle | Nedra reveals how you can build your lifestyle around empowering yourself. [23:42] Being Clear | Nedra reveals how to be clear with others about your boundaries. [26:50] Fear | Nedra reveals why you need to get over the fear of disappointing others. [30:03] Don’t Apologize | Nedra reveals how to avoid apologizing when you shouldn’t be. [33:20] All Around You | Nedra reveals how boundaries are constantly all around you. [34:56] Restate | Nedra shares how to keep boundaries in tact with your relationships. [38:20] Co-Dependency | Nedra shares how boundaries are healthy in your relationship. [41:26] What’s Key | Nedra shares the one key thing you can start immediately. [44:51] Connect | Nedra discusses her book and how you can stay connected with her. [46:52]   QUOTES:   “The more you increase your language around what’s happening in the situation, the better you will be at recognizing when someone is trying to set boundaries over your boundaries. They’re really trying to say, “Hey, I don’t want you to talk to me about this thing and this is how I’m going to get you to stop.”” [8:00]   “You can’t make a person respect your boundary, you can only make a request. So you can say, “This is what I need, I would really like,” but you can’t change another person’s behavior…” [13:03]   “The person that I have to please the most is me. It doesn’t mean that what I need or what I want is more important than anyone else, but I certainly believe in self-care first because I cannot care for anyone or anything before I care for myself.” [31:20]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW NEDRA: Website: nedratawwab.com Instagram: instagram.com/nedratawwab Facebook: facebook.com/nedratawwab/  
Jan 27, 2021
Blogilates Cassey Ho on Why Body-Shaming Yourself is Never the Answer | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Believe it or not, the person you talk with most in your life is actually yourself. Are you treating yourself with kindness, grace, acceptance and love? Or are you harsh, unkind, brutal, and unforgiving towards the person you see in the mirror? It’s time for you to away from the scale and step towards a path of self-love and acceptance. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by award-winning fitness instructor, entrepreneur, and creator of ‘Blogilates’ Cassey Ho to discuss such matters and more as they explore why it’s critical you silence your inner negative-voice and begin to treat yourself with love, acceptance, and grace everyday, no matter your weight or size. They discuss the importance of being your true self, why you should love yourself unconditionally, how to end your negative thoughts, the four stages of your relationship with the scale, how to approach health, how to stop hating yourself and start loving yourself instead, the rules you need to set for yourself, why grace is important in growth, and the key steps you can take to get started today.   SHOW NOTES:   Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest, Cassey Ho. [0:47] Transformation | Cassey shares her realization that she wasn’t being truly herself. [3:02] Be Kinder | Cassey reveals why you need to be kinder to yourself. [6:05] Change | Cassey shares how you can start to break your negative thoughts. [6:41] Be You | Cassey shares why you should never let others dictate your decisions. [9:09] The Scale | Cassey shares the four relationships you have with the scale. [11:21] Health | Cassey reveals why you can’t go overboard and disregard your health. [16:01] Stopping | Cassey shares the time when she had to stop a workout YouTube video. [18:12] Love Yourself | Cassey shares how to love your body while still pushing yourself. [20:26] Journey | Cassey shares her journey to being physically and mentally healthy. [24:10] Rules | Cassey shares why you should create a flexible structure for yourself. [25:35] Adapt | Cassey shares why it’s okay to have setbacks on your journey forward. [27:18] Slipping Back | Cassey shares how to avoid fluctuating and reverting back. [28:25] Confidence | Cassey shares how accomplishing your goals builds confidence. [30:46] Comparing | Cassey shares why you shouldn’t negatively compare yourself to others. [32:31] Grace | Cassey reveals why you should give yourself grace to slip from time to time. [36:25] Get Started | Cassey reveals what you need to get started on your fitness journey. [40:28] Connect | Cassey shares how you can continue to follow and workout with her. [41:58]   QUOTES:   “You know, there’s a camp of people who believe that if you want to change, it means you don’t love yourself… No, you can do both because in loving yourself, you want to improve yourself…” [10:26]   “So, I highly suggest that anyone going through an abusive scale relationship, they need to take the scale out of their life until, at some point, they can see the scale again simply as a tool, not as something that can tell you if you’re going to have a good day or a bad day…” [14:28]   “When you go on any type of journey, you have to write out your rules so that you stay in line and I think it’s really important to be very strict and ridged with yourself so that you know exactly where you’re going and how you’re going to get there…” [25:38]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW CASSEY:   Website: blogilates.com YouTube: youtube.com/user/blogilates Instagram: instagram.com/blogilates Facebook: facebook.com/blogilates/ Twitter: twitter.com/blogilates LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/cassey-ho-23350792/  
Jan 20, 2021
Psychologist Reveals How to Stop Your Daily Self-Sabotage Patterns | Dr. Nicole LePera on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Are you struggling to make truly impactful change in your life? Do you struggle with overthinking, fear, worry, and you continue to make decisions that are self-destructive and continue to hold you back in life? Today, put an end to that way of living and start walking down a path of embracing change and owning every single one of your life’s choices. On this episode of Women of Impact, holistic psychologist and author Dr. Nicole LePera joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you can put an end to your self-destructive ways that are holding you back from making real and necessary change in your life. They discuss how to identify the things in your life that are causing self-destruction, how to let go of your thoughts, how to overcome fear of change, how to stop betraying yourself, how to start on a path towards making the changes you want for your life, why you need to stop overthinking, how to find meaning and purpose, how to start the healing process, and much more.   Pre-Order Dr. LePera’s book, ’How To Do The Work’: amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X   SHOW NOTES: Sabotage | Dr. LePera reveals how you can identify and address your own self-sabotage. [1:17] Awareness | Dr. LePera reveals how to begin to shift your mind so you can change. [3:50] Release | Dr. LePera reveals the power of letting go of your thoughts. [5:55] Thoughts | Dr. LePera reveals how to process and address your thoughts. [8:25] Fear | Dr. LePera reveals how to overcome fear and just start putting in the work. [11:13] Betrayal | Dr. LePera reveals the difference between self-sabotage and self-betrayal. [16:01] Intervene | Dr. LePera reveals how to not get caught up vulnerable moments. [18:20] Changes | Dr. LePera reveals why your life, mind, and body is always changing. [23:03] Shifting | Dr. LePera reveals why we fear change in ourselves and others. [25:07] Expression | Dr. LePera reveals why you have to retrain your mind before doing. [30:40] Overthinking | Dr. LePera reveals how your habit of overthinking is holding you back. [32:19] Meaning | Dr. LePera reveals how to cultivate meaning and purpose. [33:06] Choices | Dr. LePera reveals why you need to make positive-choices a habit. [36:22] Healing | Dr. LePera reveals why you have to reverse-engineer your life’s choices. [37:15] Connect | Dr. LePera reveals how you can continue to follow and learn from her. [39:33]   QUOTES: “…there’s a universal reality that most of us humans share, or all of us humans share, which is that change is hard. Period.” [2:31]   “…It’s not about the smallness of the promise, it’s not even about the promise. When we’re talking about healing from self-sabotage and self-betrayal, it’s just the act of observing yourself show up.” [15:49]   “I think overthinking is a sabotage. I think humans and our thinking brain has become so primed,our school system trains us to solve all of problems from up here…” [32:27]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW DR. LEPERA: Website: yourholisticpsychologist.com YouTube: youtube.com/c/TheHolisticPsychologist Instagram: instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist Facebook: facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/  
Jan 13, 2021
Dr. Gabrielle Lyon Reveals the Truth About Eating Meat | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Are you currently on or considering a plant-based diet? Have you been convinced that animal protein and eating meat is detrimental and a danger to your health? You would be surprised to know these current narratives being spun around in the medical community are simply wrong and are, in fact, the real danger to your health. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Dr. Gabrielle Lyon to discuss such matters and more as they explore how the trending narratives in the medical community are leading you astray, aren’t rooted in true medical data, and may be jeopardizing your health longterm. They discuss why red meat is something you should have in your diet, why most medical studies get healthy diets wrong, the pitfalls in a vegetarian diet, what optimal eating looks like, why protein is powerful for achieving great health, why your goal should be to optimize your health and body composition, the differences between plant and animal protein, and how you can start to eating healthier for longevity.   SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about food shaming and welcomes Dr. Lyon. [0:54] Red Meat | Dr. Lyon reveals the one thing you can do to optimize your health. [4:13] What’s Factual | Dr. Lyon discusses why some groups refuse to listen to true data. [8:56] Vegetarian | Dr. Lyon reveals how she got sick from being a vegetarian. [14:01] Optimal | Dr. Lyon reveals the exact diet she recommends for optimal health. [16:30] Why Protein? | Dr. Lyon reveals the power of packing your diet with protein. [17:58] Body Composition | Dr. Lyon reveals why you need enough muscle. [20:24] Optimize | Dr. Lyon reveals why you should care about protein and muscle. [21:30] Plant vs Meat | Dr. Lyon reveals the key differences between protein types. [23:10] Younger | Dr. Lyon reveals why most vegetarians and vegans are young. [25:20] Longevity | Dr. Lyon reveals what she concluded from seeing people live unhealthily. [28:03] Obesity | Dr. Lyon reveals why we’ve been focusing on the wrong thing. [31:03] Start | Dr. Lyon reveals how you can get started to shift your diet to optimize yourself. [33:11] Feeling | Dr. Lyon reveals how to be in tune with your health and how you feel. [37:39] Real Talk | Dr. Lyon reveals why what she teaches and believes is so significant. [38:46] Success | Dr. Lyon reveals what success looks like to her on this journey to educate. [40:45] Connect | Dr. Lyon shares how you can connect with her to learn more. [42:12]   QUOTES: “This really isn’t about protein, this is about longevity. How you want to live?” [18:28]   “We are missing the much bigger picture. And the much bigger picture is longevity and how you want to age and how you want to function.” [20:50]   “…we’re going to be victim to what people tell us. And if you are victim to what people tell you,  you don’t have a chance.” [40:04]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW DR. LYON: Website: drgabriellelyon.com Instagram: instagram.com/drgabriellelyon Facebook: facebook.com/doctorgabriellelyon Twitter: twitter.com/drgabriellelyon
Jan 06, 2021
How to Stand Tall When Others Try to Drag You Down | Janelle Ginestra on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory This week’s Woman of Impact, Janelle Ginestra has already achieved international fame just as a dancer. In this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Janelle talks about loving your own body, and how to ignore negativity by focusing on your own journey.   SHOW NOTES: Janelle needed intense, honest criticism to become a successful dancer [2:40] “Don’t ever let anyone make you feel inferior, insufficient, or not enough” [5:45] Janelle and Lisa discuss vulnerability and strength [07:50] Janelle explains how she deals with competition [12:37 ]   Janelle talks about body image and diversity [18:30 ] Lisa and Janelle discuss her positivity how she lives her truth [24:18] Janelle explains how she avoids burnout [27:15] Janelle advocates a strongly pro-choice political position [29:29 ] Janelle lays out three keys to success [31:39] Janelle shares her superpower [32:55]   FOLLOW JANELLE: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/31UeC99 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xcvmdL TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Fw2xgO  
Dec 30, 2020
5 Tips for Ending Your Habit of Self-Blame | Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Do you have a tendency to easily feel guilt, shame, or self-blame over things that are sometimes just out of your control? Are you looking to shed yourself of this guilt and start living more openly, without constantly feeling like you are doing something wrong or owing someone an apology? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by eight incredible speakers including Amy Morin, Sanja Hatter, Lilian Garcia, Natalie Ellis, Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen, Heidi Powell, and Najwa Zebian as they share five key tips for you to overcome self-guilt, self-shame, self-blame, and feelings of selfishness. They discuss why you should never downplay your successes, why you have the power to choose your own journey in life, why you need to start letting shit go, how balance in life is key, and why it’s okay to desire good things for yourself.   SHOW NOTES:   Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about dealing with guilt, shame, and feeling selfish. [0:04] Tip #1 | Amy Morin shares why you should never downplay your successes. [1:40] Thank You | Amy Morin reveals how to say thanks and take compliments. [3:36] Be Tasteful | Amy Morin reveals when and why it’s okay to share your successes. [4:23] Tip #2 | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia reveal why you should choose your own journey. [6:16] Overcoming Guilt | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia reveal how to not succumb to guilt. [9:17] Not Having Kids | Sanja Hatter & Lilian Garcia discuss guilt over not having kids. [11:30] Tip #3 | Natalie Ellis reveals why it’s you start letting shit go. [12:40 ] Self-Aware | Natalie Ellis reveals why it’s okay to not be everything at once. [14:03] Self-Worth | Natalie Ellis reveals how to not let guilt bring down your self-worth. [14:56] Tip #4 | Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen, & Heidi Powell discuss why balance is key. [16:54] Tip #5 | Najwa Zebian shares why you need to desire good things for yourself. [21:55] Happy | Najwa Zebian shares why you shouldn’t feel guilty if you’re not always happy. [24:36]   QUOTES:   “It’s not your job, you’re not in control of how other people feel about themselves anymore than they’re responsible for how you feel about yourself.” [5:49]   “You have to give yourself permission. It’s really important that we give ourselves permission to avoid shame, guilt, whatever…” [21:27]   “Would you ask the sun why it shines brighter on some days than others? Would you ask the moon why it breaks the darkness on some nights and not others? Such is the course of life. Some days we give our best but other days we just exist. Some days we are kings and queens of our minds and souls, and some days we are spaces to our hearts.” [22:2o]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH PODCAST: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW AMY: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2pubNgM INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2CYvIre FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2KBbvMB TWITTER: https://bit.ly/35ex8tN   FOLLOW SANJA WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2H4Glut INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Lt1xiY     FOLLOW LILIAN   INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2LtWXBk FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/29nP1vn TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2VjIWKR PODCAST: https://apple.co/2PSANa8   FOLLOW NATALIE: WEBSITE: https://bossbabe.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Rct9tJ FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2G9FYyq TWITTER: https://bit.ly/38uIUBQ   FOLLOW BETH: https://bit.ly/2T1Es7U FOLLOW JEN: https://bit.ly/35SSuNx FOLLOW HEIDI: https://bit.ly/35Vwstg   FOLLOW NAJWA: WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2virGWO INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2adrxex FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2GBCOEJ TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2vjRQZm YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2UzlDaJ
Dec 23, 2020
How to Handle Your Insecurities and Feel Worthy | Tom Bilyeu on Women Impact
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Check out Our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Do you or your partner struggle with insecurities, doubts, and uncertainties in life? Are you easily overwhelmed and feel like you’ll never be able to overcome such feelings? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by entrepreneur, speaker, host, and husband Tom Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore why you are trapped in a cycle of insecurity and ways you can break out of it. They discuss how a growth mindset leads to turning insecurities into strengths, why you have to own up to your insecurities, how understanding sexuality helps feeling less worried about it, how to let go of the things you can’t control, why you may need to re-prioritize what you value, why your insecurities aren’t sexy, and how to be clear with your partner so you know how to support each other.   Check out Tom and Lisa’s ‘Relationship Theory’: youtube.com/channel/UCtHuUTWVRHUXVjmRrvS8WYg   SHOW NOTES:   Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about dealing with your insecurities and uncertainties. [01:33] Handle It | Tom shares why having a growth mindset is key early into a relationship. [2:49] Own Up | Tom reveals how to identify your insecurities and share them with your partner. [6:20] Identity | Tom reveals how to shift your mindset to deal with your insecurities. [9:3 0] Sexuality | Tom shares the reasons behind why we find each other physically attractive. [12:15] Value | Tom shares his insecurities and how he utilizes them as a strength and force. [  20:12] Harmless | Tom reveals how men and women have to embrace their aging. [23:26] It’s Not Sexy | Tom shares why wallowing in your insecurities isn’t sexy. [25:53] Articulate | Tom reveals why you have to be tactful and clear with your partner. [29:39] Connect | Tom shares how you can continue to follow him and learn more. [34:09]   QUOTES: “There’s two things you should never worry about: the things you can’t change and the things you can. Because if you can’t change it, what’s the point in worrying about it? And if you can change it, just go do something about it.” [9:38]   “Men enjoy looking at something that turns them on and women enjoy being the ‘turn on.’” [16:50]   “You shouldn’t put yourself in a weak, vulnerable position where you need somebody to echo value back to you. You should not need me to feed you that you are attractive and all that. And at the same time, what kind of person would I be if I don’t do everything I can to make you feel good about yourself across every dimension that a human can feel good about themselves?’ [32:14]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL
Dec 16, 2020
End Your Lack of Self-Confidence for Good | Women of Impact Q&A
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Check out our Sponsors Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT It’s time to awaken a radical confidence within. No longer will you listen to your fears, self-doubt, or negative inner-voice. Now is the time to reclaim the confidence you deserve, own your decisions, and live life unapologetically. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu takes on questions submitted by you, the audience, and answers them in a no-BS way so that you can begin to overcome your fears and awaken an unshakeable confidence within. She discusses how to overcome self-doubt, how to get over your fear of failure, how to have an inner voice that builds you up instead of bringing you down, why you need to be your unapologetic-self, the power of having conviction in your decisions, why you shouldn’t let others erode your self-worth, and how competence leads to confidence.   SHOW NOTES:   Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode on becoming radically confident. [0:55] Self-Doubt | Lisa reveals how to overcome moments of uncertainty self-doubt. [2:10] Paralyzing Thoughts | Lisa reveals how to get over your fear of failure or change. [8:17] Inner Voice | Lisa shares how to change your inner voice to one that hypes you up. [13:54 ] Unapologetic You | Lisa reveals how to live without worry of what others think of you. [18:00] Staying Confident | Lisa reveals why you need to have conviction in your decisions. [26:00] Believe In Yourself | Lisa reveals why you shouldn’t let others erode your self-worth. [32:06] Competence | Lisa shares why your confidence is connected to your competence. [35:12]   QUOTES:   “It’s not that you want confidence. It’s not that you personally are looking to only build confidence. Confidence is a tool, right? So you want confidence to do something else. You want the confidence to be able to get started.” [12:08]   “Flip the switch. Tell yourself, “Perspective is everything,” and tell yourself that, “I’m gonnarewind the gameplay, I’m gonna come up with a better plan, because that’s how I get better.”” [21:37]   “The second you feel like you have to defend your decision, what are you actually saying to yourself? You’re saying that, “This isn’t for me, this isn’t my decision, other people get to weigh in.” Fuck that shit. Like, seriously no one gets to weigh in on your decision.” [26:56]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW
Dec 09, 2020
Therapist Reveals How to Stop Telling Yourself Negative Thoughts | Marisa Peer on Women of Impact
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Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c You’ve been lying to yourself. Yes, everyday in the privacy of your own mind, you tell yourself lies over and over again. Most of the time, these lies are destructive and push your thoughts into negative places, thus bubbling up bad emotions and causing you to feel sad, depressed, anxious, frustrated, or angry. Well, it’s time to make a change—to start lying to yourself in a positive way. It’s time to stop criticizing yourself and start praising yourself instead. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by hypnotherapist, founder of rapid transformational therapy, speaker, and bestselling author Marisa Peer to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to stop telling yourself destructive lies and begin speaking to yourself in a positive and uplifting way that informs your thoughts and behaviors to change for the better. They discuss why the thoughts you create dictate your emotions and behaviors, the power of connecting your mind and body, why you need to confront your thoughts head on and discover the root cause of them, why you have to begin telling yourself positive lies, why creating stories in your head is dangerous, how our thoughts influence our relationships, what RTT is and the power it has, how childhood trauma and lack of our needs being met influences us as adults, and why it’s okay to mess up time and time again.   SHOW NOTES:   Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Marisa Peer. [1:53] Feelings | Marisa discusses why your thoughts dictate and influence your feelings. [2:59] Thought Pattern | Marisa reveals how to disrupt your thought negative patterns. [4:43] Body Connection | Marisa discusses the power of connecting your thoughts to your body. [6:07] Ask Yourself | Marisa reveals why you need to question your beliefs and their origins. [11:13] Needs | Marisa shares the needs of children and what happens if they’re not met. [13:10] It Has to be You | Marisa shares why the thoughts you tell yourself must come from you. [15:38] Relationships | Marisa reveals why you should never threaten someone as a game. [18:55] Lying to Yourself | Marisa discusses the story you create for yourself in your head. [22:40] What Lies Beneath | Marisa shares how to address the root cause of destructive habits. [26:21] RTT | Marisa reveals how she treats other’s emotional pain fast and permanently. [28:54] Role, Function, Purpose | Marisa discusses how your issues have a job and function. [33:33] Children | Marisa discusses why you have to be very careful of what you say to kids. [37:04] Inner Child | Marisa discusses how our problems can be traced back to childhood. [40:23] Parenting | Marisa shares how you should approach parenting or treating children. [42:31] Connect | Marisa shares where you can keep in touch and follow her for more advice. [43:02]   QUOTES:   “Thoughts dictate feelings. Your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” [2:10]   “We have this fear that rejection will kill us. It won’t. It feels like it will, but it won’t.” [25:44]   “…you have to keep going into expansion yourself. And when you move your mind into new dimensions, it never moves back. But it goes back again, you have to do it yourself. You can’t give someone else the agency to make you feel good about you.” [32:33]     FOLLOW LISA BILYEU:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW MARISA:   Website: marisapeer.com RTT: rtt.com YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg Instagram: instagram.com/marisapeertherapy Facebook: facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy Twitter: twitter.com/MarisaPeer  
Dec 02, 2020
Lessons to Get Unstuck & How to Stop Numbing Yourself From Life | Victoria Arlen on Women of Impact
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Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT This week’s guest on Women of Impact is Victoria Arlen. As a teenager, Victoria contracted a rare disease that rendered her locked into her body in a vegetative state. After years of immobility and a prognosis that looked grim, she was suddenly able to blink. From there she began the long road to regaining her mobility to even competing in the Paralympics and Dancing with the stars. Today Victoria Arlen is an actress, speaker, model, and the best sellingauthor of her memoir, Locked In.   BUY LOCKED IN: https://amzn.to/2UJj1b3   SHOW NOTES How Victoria reacted when she realized she was locked in [03:00] How to coach yourself through hard times [05:35] Are your doubters right? [10:07] The difference between surrendering and giving up [15:24] Why you can't let negativity get to you [19:00] How to use others' negativity to fuel you [21:51] How to dream big, breathe, and listen to your intuition at the same time [27:27] Why you can't put a timeline on your goals [33:29] The power of dreaming big [38:05] What to do after achieving your biggest dreams [41:46]   FOLLOW VICTORIA INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TUK4mS TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2UJix4J
Nov 25, 2020
Evy Poumpouras on How to Handle Your Emotions When Triggered
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Control your emotions, stay calm under pressure, and walk through life with complete ownership over your decisions and actions. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu sits down with former Secret Service Agent and author Evy Poumpouras to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to overcome pressure and begin taking complete ownership of situations in your life. They discuss how Evy handled pressure in times of immense stress, why you sometimes need to prioritize yourself first, the power of your words, why you need to be mindful of who you surround yourself with, how you can learn from your mistakes and grow, how to have authority with others, and the power of taking complete ownership of your life.   Order Evy’s book, “Becoming Bulletproof”: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Bulletproof-Influence-Situations-Fearlessly/dp/1982103752 Check out our sponsors! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Himalaya Toothpaste: Enjoy 20% off your purchase of Himalaya toothpaste, using discount code LISABILYEU20 when you checkout on Amazon. To learn more about Himalaya Botanique and Ayurvedic wellness visit https://Himalayausa.com  SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces today’s guest, Evy Poumpouras. [1:05] Pressures | Evy shares times she’s felt immense pressure and how she handled it. [1:50] Instincts | Evy shares which intuitions to listen to when under pressure. [5:53] You First | Evy discusses why you sometimes need to prioritize your needs first. [8:16] Learn | Evy shares why you need to asses, learn, and grow from your mistakes. [13:12] Verbal Economics | Evy discusses how and why you need to properly apologize. [16:57] Surround | Evy shares why you need to be around those that can handle pressure. [19:17] Composed | Evy discusses how to stay composed when tensions begin to escalate. [21:05] Authority | Evy shares the importance of clearly setting the tone with people. [22:49] Words | Evy shares the language that makes all the difference in establishing authority. [26:02] Priming | Evy discusses how to prime others to have them be more open to you. [28:05] Dating | Evy shares what to be mindful of when going out for the first time. [29:58] Deflect | Evy discusses how to deflect pressure off yourself and to focus. [31:09] Ownership | Evy shares why you need to take ownership over the situation. [34:19] No Excuses | Evy discusses why you shouldn’t let excuses trap you from living. [34:49] Choices | Evy discusses why you have choices that will make you stronger. [37:47] Victimhood | Evy shares how people get trapped in abusive relationships. [41:58] Resilient | Evy discusses how she built her resilience and learned to take ownership. [45:0p] Connect | Evy shares how you can continue to follow her and ways to connect. [46:43]   QUOTES:   “Choose what you let out. Not every idea that pops into your head should you verbalize. Because when you do that, you’re not putting weight into your words.” [26:27]   “Own your shit. You make a mistake, own it. You make a mistake, fix it. Nobody wants to hear it. Find out what it is, fix what it is, and then that way you can move forward and excel.” [34:38]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW EVY:   Website: evypoumpouras.com Instagram: instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: facebook.com/evypoumpouras Twitter: twitter.com/evypoumpouras
Nov 18, 2020
What You Can Do Right Now to Become More Confident | Women of Impact
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Confidence, strength, and how to carry yourself with conviction. Are you looking to awaken an inner confidence that will empower you to fully take on any challenge in life? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu sits down to speak with five badass women including Evy Poumpouras, Mally Roncal, Elle Russ, Roxy Saffaie, and Eve Torres Gracie on confidence and ways you can develop it inside you. These women are experts on putting confidence into action. They discuss why you need to walk with strength, how to develop a commanding voice, why you shouldn’t rely on your looks for confidence, how to let negativity fuel you, why you need to be authentically yourself, and the power of surrounding yourself with badass women.   Check out our amazing sponsors! Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Himalaya Ashwagandha: Enjoy 20% off your first purchase of Himalaya Ashwagandha, use discount code 20IMPACTFUL when you checkout on Amazon. To learn more about Himalaya Ashwagandha and Ayurvedic Wellness visit Himalayausa.com   SHOW NOTES: Walk With Strength | Evy discusses the importance of carrying yourself with strength. [2:49] Your Voice | Evy shares how to convey strength and to speak with conviction. [4:33] Looks | Mally shares why you shouldn’t let your appearance influence your confidence. [6:22] Negativity as Fuel | Elle shares how to handle nay-sayers and let it fuel you. [12:48] Confidence | Elle reveals how to handle negativity when still developing confidence. [17:46] Be You | Roxy shares why you should always be rooted in your truly authentic self. [19:45] Turn It Up | Roxy discusses what it means to turn up the volume on yourself in life. [21:16] Awareness | Roxy reveals the power of being self-aware and journaling. [23:21] Surround Yourself | Eve shares why you should surround yourself with badass women. [28:25] QUOTES: “My success in standing my ground wasn’t really about my physical strength, it was about my mental conviction. I had to speak with confidence to make sure those who heard my message heard it clearly the first time and when I did act, I had to do it so in a way that ensured it would not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of my abilities.” [2:21] “Are you going to allow their opinion of you to dictate your success?” [18:09] “When you say, “I trust myself,” you’re also saying that, “I got myself, I love myself, I’m willing to bet on myself, I don’t want to exist in this world as anything but myself, and let all that comes to me be the result of me being a hundred-percent myself.” [20:33] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW EVY POUMPOURAS: Website: evypoumpouras.com  Instagram: instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: facebook.com/evypoumpouras Twitter: twitter.com/evypoumpouras FOLLOW MALLY RONCAL: Website: mallyroncal.com Instagram: instagram.com/mallyroncal Facebook: facebook.com/mallyroncal FOLLOW ELLE RUSS: Website: www.elleruss.com Instagram: instagram.com/_elleruss Facebook: facebook.com/elleruss Twitter: twitter.com/_elleruss FOLLOW ROXY SAFFAIE: Website: blackbeltbeauty.com Podcast: blackbeltbeauty.com/podcast Instagram: instagram.com/roxylook FOLLOW EVE TORRES GRACIE: Website: evetorresgracie.com Instagram: instagram.com/evetorresgracie Facebook: facebook.com/EveTorresGracieOfficial Twitter: twitter.com/evetorresgracie
Nov 11, 2020
Never Let Others Dim Your Flame of Passion | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about never letting others dim your flame of passion.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Nov 09, 2020
Empowerment Coach Reveals How to Stop Self-Rejection and Start Developing Self-Confidence | Roxy Saffaie on Women of Impact
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Is your greatest enemy, or bully, in life actually yourself? Do you put yourself down, tell yourself, “You can’t do it,” or shut down your own dreams before even giving them a try? On this episode of Women of Impact, empowerment coach, podcast host, writer, and athlete Roxy Saffaie joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to stop fighting with yourself and start fighting for yourself so that you can lead an empowered and confident life. They discuss the importance of turning up the volume on yourself in everything you do, why you have to have self-love, the incredible reward of always taking on challenges in pursuit of victory and change, how confidence will dramatically shape your life, the importance of staying true to your authentic self, and how to stay motivated each and every day in your relentless pursuit of greatness.   Check out our sponsors! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c   SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Roxy Saffaie. [1:44] Fighting Yourself | Roxy discusses why we rarely fight for ourselves. [2:27] Turn It Up | Roxy shares what it means to turn the volume up on yourself. [4:08] Awareness | Roxy reveals the importance of knowing and loving oneself. [7:04] Self-Love | Roxy discusses what it means to practice having self-love in life. [9:06] Know Yourself | Roxy shares why discovering who you are only is crucial. [14:09] Tension | Roxy discusses why challenge is the path to victory and change. [16:25] You Got You | Roxy shares why you have to be relentless and keep going. [20:01] Confidence | Roxy reveals the power and importance of having a confident mindset. [21:05] Authenticity | Roxy discusses how to do things that honor your authentic self. [22:42] Physicality | Roxy shares the importance of training, movement, and exercise. [24:03] Fuel | Roxy and Lisa discuss where their confidence and drive come from. [29:30] Rituals | Roxy shares the power of morning rituals and consistency. [34:44] Connect | Roxy shares how to follow and connect with her. [36:28]   QUOTES: “I want to hit all my goals, right? But what I’m really interested in is, “Who am I on the way to the goal?”” [12:17] “…on the other side of challenge is victory.” [16:29] FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW ROXY SAFFAIE: Website: blackbeltbeauty.com Podcast: blackbeltbeauty.com/podcast Instagram: instagram.com/roxylook
Nov 04, 2020
If Others Are Intimidated By Your Confidence, Shrug 'Em Off | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about confidence.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Nov 02, 2020
Relationship Expert Reveals What Guys Really Think | Matthew Hussey on Women of Impact
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On this episode of Women of Impact, motivational speaker and dating advice expert Matthew Hussey joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they break down the complicated parts of finding love and reveal how dating and relationships can be much simpler than you might think. They discuss the importance of feeling someone just try in a relationship, how to identify good intentions, why you have to invest in someone, the pitfalls of building up a story in our heads even before the first date, and why you should be willing to ask the difficult questions necessary in developing a strong relationship long-term.  This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT  SHOW NOTES:   It’s Not That Complicated | Matthew shares the importance of feeling someone just try. [1:53] Intentions | Matthew discusses the difference between attention and intention. [5:46] Invest, Then Test | Matthew shares why trying and staying confident is key to finding love. [7:20] Complicated | Matthew shares why we try to force a fix when it gets complicated. [12:45] Fantasy | Matthew reveals the pitfalls of writing a story in your head before it’s unfolded. [15:15] Process | Matthew shares the four stages of importance in developing any relationship. [18:13] Maintenance | Matthew discusses why the work in a relationship never ends. [23:52] What They Actually Mean | Matthew reveals the true meaning behind what he says. [27:09] What You Can Trust | Matthew reveals what you can trust that signals he likes you. [31:45] Ask | Matthew shares why you shouldn’t shy away from asking the tough questions. [33:56] Be Ruthless | Matthew reveals why you have to stand firm in your conviction. [39:21] Love Switches | Matthew discusses the importance of knowing what your partner needs. [40:05] Difficult Talks | Matthew shares why you shouldn’t steer clear of difficult conversations. [43:12] Connect | Matthew shares how you can get his free guide and follow him for more. [47:05]   QUOTES:   “Attention does not mean intention. We can get lots of attention from someone who has no intention of taking it anywhere further…” [5:46]   “Don’t invest in someone based on how much you like them, invest in them based on how much they invest in you.” [7:13]   “Instead of watching a story unfold, we’ve created the story before it’s happened.” [15:15]   “Women have to be brave enough to ask questions that they’re afraid of the answers to.” [35:35]   “Be kind in your tone, but ruthless in your actions.” [39:21]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW MATTHEW:   Website: threelovehabits.com YouTube: youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: instagram.com/thematthewhussey Facebook: facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter: twitter.com/matthewhussey
Oct 28, 2020
Your Voice Has Strength, Never Let Others Silence It | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about the strength of your voice.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Oct 26, 2020
Psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera Uncovers Ways to End Your Self-Sabotaging Habits | Women of Impact
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Has your potential for growth been constricted by your patterns and habits that seem to have been in place for nearly your entire life? Do you wish there were a way to identify and interrupt such patterns in an impactful and positive way? On this episode of Women of Impact, holistic psychologist and author Dr. Nicole LePera joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to identify patterns of self-sabotage and what we can do to break negative patterns so that we may develop positive change in our life. They discuss how childhood patterns are developed, how we carry them with us every today, ways we can break negative habits and patterns, the power of connecting to your emotional body, how to access your consciousness, the benefits of connecting to your senses, how to navigate relationships and your family, and our ability to expand in life.   Pre-Order Dr. LePera’s book, ’How to Do the Work’: amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X This episode is brought to you by: Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c  Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SHOW NOTES:   Intro | Lisa introduces today’s guest on Women of Impact, Dr. Nicole LePera. [1:41] Observing | Dr. LePera discusses childhood patterns that still aren’t serving us today. [3:13] Judgement | Dr. LePera discusses how to identify your patterns without self-judgement. [5:22] Resistance | Dr. LePera reveals the steps on breaking through patterns to new directions. [7:51] Connecting | Dr. LePera discusses the power of connecting to your emotional body. [10:41] Childhood | Dr. LePera on how to identify childhood patterns you’re still carrying today. [12:22] Conscious | Dr. LePera shares how to escape repetitive patterns that aren’t serving us. [18:05] Grounded | Dr. LePera reveals the power of becoming aware of your senses. [20:22] Trauma Bonds | Dr. LePera discusses the importance of gaining support from others. [22:24] Relationships | Dr. LePera shares how to work through trauma bonds with your partner. [27:08] Differences | Dr. LePera shares what to do if your partner isn’t open to doing the work. [32:49] Family | Dr. LePera shares how she worked through patterns and establishing space. [36:05] ‘And’ | Dr. LePera shares how to steer away from making excuse and show up today. [41:35] Connect | Dr. LePera discusses her new book and how to follow her to connect. [44:22]   QUOTES:   “Minds seek the familiar. Repeating the same behaviors is called a pattern, which comes from childhood conditioning. We repeat what we know.” [1:54]   “I believe, quite universally, all of our souls as humans seek three things: to be seen, to be heard, and to have this space to just express as is.” [14:55]   “Self healing means gaining the support of relationships around. You’re learning how to be in your authentic self and be connected authentically with others, because we need others. We all need other humans.” [22:03]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW DR. LEPERA:   Website: yourholisticpsychologist.com YouTube: youtube.com/c/TheHolisticPsychologist Instagram: instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist Facebook: facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/
Oct 21, 2020
If My Confidence Intimidates You, That's a YOU Problem | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about confidence.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Oct 19, 2020
How to Adopt a Commanding Presence | Evy Poumpouras on Women of Impact
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Do you find yourself being spoken down to, disrespected, or repeatedly walked on by others? Do you later wish you had spoken up for yourself and had a confident presence that commanded respect? On this episode of Women of Impact, Former Secret Service Agent and Author Evy Poumpouras sits down with Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to handle disrespect and stick up for yourself in all situations. They talk about how to defend yourself in a non-physical way, the power of self control, how to walk away from people in your life that need to be let go, how to deal with being spoken down to, and personality red flags to watch out for. Purchase Evy’s book, “Becoming Bulletproof”: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Bulletproof-Influence-Situations-Fearlessly/dp/1982103752 This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c  SHOW NOTES:   Handling Disrespect | Evy shares a story of handling disrespect as a secret service agent. [2:57] Defend Yourself | Evy reveals the importance of defending yourself in a non-violent way. [7:02] Self Control | Evy discusses the elements needed to non-physically stand up for yourself. [7:24] Common Denominator | Evy shares her story of recognizing and owning her temper. [8:56] Trust | Evy describes conditional and unconditional trust and our emotional responses. [11:18] Own Your Response | Evy shares the power of owning how you respond to situations. [14:37] Walk Away | Evy shares when to know it’s time to walk away from someone. [19:38] Phones | Evy shares why you should be open with your phone in a relationship. [20:22] Jealousy | Lisa discusses handling jealousy in her relationship with Tom. [22:42] Starts With Trust | Evy reveals how to handle the fine line of jealousy in a relationship. [24:03] Size Doesn’t Matter | Evy discusses the importance of how you carry yourself. [27:00] Persona Red Flags | Evy discusses the two types of personas to watch out for. [31:20] Being Spoken Down To | Evy and Lisa discuss how to handle being spoken down to. [33:50] Letting Go | Evy discusses her process of letting someone go and moving on. [38:47] Connect | Evy shares how to connect with her and follow her. [40:56]   QUOTES:   “You’re not going to own my response to you, I’m going to own it.” [16:39]   “You get what you tolerate.” [18:56]   “My success in standing my ground wasn’t really about my physical strength, it was about my mental conviction. I had to speak with confidence to make sure those who heard my message, heard it clearly the first time and when I did act, I had to do it so in a way that assured it would not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of my abilities." [27:05]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW EVY:   Website: evypoumpouras.com Instagram: instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: facebook.com/evypoumpouras Twitter: twitter.com/evypoumpouras
Oct 14, 2020
Never Hide from Your Weaknesses | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about never hiding your weaknesses.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Oct 12, 2020
How to Forgive Your Partner | Spirit on Women of Impact
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Forgiveness, grace, and healing. When should we embrace them, how can they help our relationships grow, and why do they sometimes cause continued emotional pain rather than the healing we first think they promise? On this episode of Women of Impact, Host of Love Goals on the OWN Network and therapist, who is simply known as Spirit, joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such topics and more as they explore forgiveness, grace, and the power of building scar tissue in a relationship. They discuss how to properly embrace an apology, the power of grace needed in a relationship, the difference between a mistake and a bad choice, why scar tissue is a good thing, how ego is the root cause of judgement, and why you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself because of your past mistakes. This episode is brought to you by: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES:   Forgiveness | Spirit discusses forgiveness and the process of embracing it. [0:19] Grace | Spirit shares the power of grace in a healthy relationship. [4:53] Being There | Lisa share the power of the word ‘important’ in her relationship with Tom. [9:29] Scars | Spirit discusses why you shouldn’t forget, but instead work through it and heal. [11:42] Needs | Spirit reveals why your best interest can differ from your relationship’s. [13:38] Judgement | Spirit reveals why ego is the root cause of judgement in a relationship. [16:57] Your Past | Spirit reveals why you shouldn’t be hard on yourself because of your past. [20:51] Giving | Spirit reveals why a successful you leads to a successful relationship. [23:45] 3 Tips | Spirit shares three things to do if your relationship is losing its ebb and flow. [26:25] Follow | Spirit shares where and how you can follow her for more tips and advice. [30:32]   QUOTES:   “The key is not to forget but to pay attention to how it makes us feel.” [12:08]   “Your relationship is different from you and your partner." [13:38]   “If I can not judge me, then it’s that much easier for me to not judge you.” [22:50]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW SPIRIT:   FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/Talk2Spirit INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/talk2spirit/ TWITTER: https://twitter.com/talk2spirit T2S Enterprises: 888-718-2t2s
Oct 07, 2020
Only One Person's Opinion About You Matters--Yours | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about only one person's opinion about you matters--Yours.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Oct 05, 2020
This Is How You Love Yourself | Radhi Devlukia Shetty on Women of Impact
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Radhi Devlukia Shetty sits down with Lisa to discuss how to cultivate self-love, why you need it, and the importance of breaking down your fears. This episode is brought to you by: EBY: Get 20% your first order at shop.join-eby.com with code IMPACT20 Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SHOW NOTES Emotional struggles of growing up overweight [01:55] Why basing your self-worth on external validation never works [04:49] How to develop a relationship with yourself [05:49] Why self-criticism isn’t always healthy [08:00] Tactical steps to changing your perspective [09:38] Balancing self-doubt and self-trust [13:17] Why we focus on physical appearance over internal strength [15:34] Stop hiding your emotions [17:11] How to embrace your emotions without being overly-emotional [18:07] Why having a safety net is ok [26:38] Learning to spend time with yourself [28:27] Recognizing and changing your negative qualities through observation [30:12] How to break down your fears [32:30] Developing the courage to step out of your comfort zone [34:28] The differences between men and women in the workplace [36:00] FOLLOW ROSHNI DEVLUKIA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2wJwhCN FOLLOW WOMEN OF IMPACT: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28
Sep 30, 2020
How to Take Action and Find Fuel for Your Journey | Lisa Nichols on Women of Impact
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Writing your life’s story, tilling new soil, and giving yourself second chances. These are the things most of us only allow to happen once we’ve received permission from others or from life itself. Don’t wait. The only permission you need is from yourself. Your story is being written now, the soil is ready for new seeds, and second chances are ready to be seized. On this episode of Women of Impact, speaker, author, and CEO Lisa Nichols sits down with Lisa Bilyeu to discuss why you should feel empowered to begin writing your own life’s story, as well as legacy, that will inspire change and action today. They discuss why you should welcome interruptions to your routine, why now is an amazing time to lay fresh soil, how imperfection is nothing to be shameful of, why second chances are unlimited, and why you should look for the positive evidence all around you. This episode is brought to you by: EBY: Get 20% your first order at shop.join-eby.com with code IMPACT20  SHOW NOTES:   Impact | Lisa Bilyeu reveals the impact today’s guest, Lisa Nichols, has had on her life. [0:26] Unwelcome Interruptions | Lisa N. discusses complacency and the possibility for change. [2:50] Your Story | Lisa N. speaks about writing your life and legacy’s story. [7:20] The Unknown | Lisa N. discusses the finish line and how you’re never really done. [9:09] New Soil | Lisa N. discusses how our mindsets have experienced a massive disruption. [11:17] Imperfection | Lisa N. reveals the importance of learning to live with your disfunction. [14:58] Endgame | Lisa N. discusses how to accept yourself and rise above to new heights. [21:24] Power Voice | Lisa N. discusses how to identify and strengthen the voice inside you. [27:20] Second Chances | Lisa N. discusses why you should give yourself permission to fail. [29:37] Evidence | Lisa N. shares how she began to accept that her potential is limitless. [37:00] Connect | Lisa N. shares her upcoming projects and how you can connect. [42:52]   QUOTES:   “Don’t make me extraordinary to let yourself off the hook.” [0:26]   “…my memories of myself 20 years from now will be based on the action that I’m in today.” [7:02]   “People want to get clear before they fully get in action.” [10:35]   “What you haven’t done yet has to call you to your greatest version.” [22:26]   “Your mind is going to produce whatever you ask it for.” [40:05]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW LISA NICHOLS:   Join Lisa’s Waitlist: powerhousespeakers.com Instagram: instagram.com/lisa2motivate/?hl=en Facebook: facebook.com/LisaNicholsFanPage/ Twitter: twitter.com/2motivate
Sep 23, 2020
Sink or Swim: The Secret to a Strong Relationship | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on the secret to a strong relationship.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Sep 21, 2020
Why It’s Critical You Firmly Establish Your Values | Relationship Theory
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Values, priorities, and the ‘non-negotiables.’ What do you do if your significant other isn’t valuing the same things as you and may not be walking through life with the same growth mindset? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss how you can take your relationship to a deeper level of connection through communication and a mutual understanding of shared values. They discuss how to approach your significant other when change may be needed in their life, how to open up the lines to a deeper form of communication, and the importance of openly sharing each other’s values and priorities. This episode is brought to you by: EBY: Get 20% your first order at shop.join-eby.com with code IMPACT20  Fastic: Download Fastic for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. https://fastic.com/ SHOW NOTES:   Initiating | Lisa and Tom discuss approaching a significant other about much-needed changes in their life. [00:27] Opening Up | Tom and Lisa share how to open the lines of communication. [1:50] Breaking Through | Lisa and Tom share how to talk to a significant other who may not have a growth mindset. [5:39] Values | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of why couples should be openly sharing their values. [7:51] Compassion | Lisa and Tom share how to give constructive criticism in a relationship without sounding superior. [11:20] Balance | Tom and Lisa discuss the balance of priorities, values, and sacrifices in a relationship. [13:25] Cut the BS | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of brutal honesty in a relationship. [16:20]   QUOTES:   “If you don’t carve out that space and say that these are my non-negotiables, you end up in a world of hurt.” [1:20]   “What are the rules of this relationship? What are the values? What are the things that we as a couple are going to decide that we value together?” [7:51]   “Things that are right, move you towards your goals. Things that are wrong, move you away from your goals.” [13:07]   FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0  
Sep 16, 2020
How to Become Unbreakable | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on how to become unbreakable.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Sep 14, 2020
From Divorce to Pandemic: How to Deal with the Worst that Can Happen | Rachel Hollis on Women of Impact
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Authenticity. What questions do we ask ourselves to know if we’re living it and how do we walk through the dark storms of life without losing it? Rachel Hollis, two-time #1 New York Times best-selling author of “Girl, Wash Your Face” and “Girl, Stop Apologizing,” joins Lisa Bilyeu on this episode of Women of Impact to discuss and answer these questions and many more as she takes us on a discovery of one’s true-authentic self. She shares why holding onto your dream equates to holding onto your true-self, how her childhood trauma shaped her vivid imagination, the importance of specificity and details, why you should shake off shame and not let criticism bring you down, and how people pleasing may result in anxiety, depression, and the loss of your true-authentic self. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT  Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SHOW NOTES:   Take ownership. Take Control. Rachel discusses navigating the dark seasons of life.  [5:00] “Every single day, we decide who we are.” [7:01] When life crashes down all at once; Rachel speaks about holding onto the dream. [8:16] “We should never teach from our wounds, we should only teach from our scars.” [10:23] Rachel shares her story of how childhood trauma formed her vivid imagination. [12:06] Visualize and imagine. Rachel discusses how to leverage imagination to bridge the gap. [14:05] The importance of details and being specific. Rachel discusses, “What does that mean to me?” [15:58] “It’s not enough to know your why, if you don’t know how your ‘why’ manifests for you.” [17:45] Approaching life as a business; Rachel discusses the lessons she applied to parenthood. [19:23] Shaking off shame; Rachel shares why criticism shouldn’t bring you down. [20:58] Backlash while staying authentic; Rachel explores why some women feel they have the right to tell others how to live their life. [23:55] Turning the mirror towards critics and haters; Rachel explores what drives internet trolls. [28:00] Finding your release valve; Rachel explores the different ways you can release pressure. [32:20] Rachel discusses staying connected to what is serving your goals. [33:41] Addressing anxiety and depression; Rachel shares how people pleasing can hold you back. [34:53] Pivoting in life; Rachel discusses how to adapt and lead during hard times. [40:38] The power of belief; How anyone can apply Rachel’s mindset to their own life. [45:56]   QUOTES:   “Every single day, we make a decision of who we want to be and not making a decision is a decision in and of itself. You, and only you, are ultimately responsible for who you become and how happy you are.” [4:40]   “If I lose my dreams, I’ve lost myself.” [7:48]   “It’s not enough to know your why, if you don’t know how your ‘why’ manifests for you.” [17:45]   “Does this serve my goal or not?” [33:56]   “Depression is your avatar telling you that it’s tired of the role you keep pretending to play.” - Jim Carrey [37:29]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW RACHEL:   WEBSITE: thehollisco.com RACHEL’S BOOKS: https://amzn.to/2R8acY8 FACEBOOK: facebook.com/TheChicSite/ INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ TWITTER: twitter.com/msrachelhollis
Sep 09, 2020
No One Is Coming to Save You | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on how no one is coming to save you.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Sep 07, 2020
If You’re Torn or Unsure About Having Kids, Listen To This
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Lisa Bilyeu shares her tips for deciding whether or not you want to have kids. This episode is brought to you by: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription.  TIPS Give yourself permission to ask the question. What does an average Wednesday look like with kids? Think about the bigger picture. Talk to your partner. Say it outloud. Have the hard conversations. Deal with the haters.   FOLLOW LISA YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH PODCAST: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh
Sep 02, 2020
Why You Should Never Cling to a Grudge | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on why you should never cling to a grudge.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Aug 31, 2020
A Woman’s Failed Attempt to Find God and What She Found Instead | Anjali Kumar on Women of Impact
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Anjali Kumar, author of the provocative book “Stalking God”, realized when her daughter started asking spiritual questions that she didn’t know what she believed about big ideas like God, religion and faith. So, she went on a journey to discover and understand her own beliefs. On this episode of Women of Impact, Anjali Kumar describes her journey of spiritual curiosity, talks about what she learned, and ultimately says that we may all be looking for the same things, no matter how different our practices look on the surface. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Fastic: Download Fastic for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. https://fastic.com/ SHOW NOTES:   When Anjali raised her daughter, she realized that she didn’t know what she believed [2:56] Anjali shares the story of how she started her journey to questioning her faith [4:58] Anjali talks about how spiritual practices like meditation are no longer seen as “woo” [6:37] The spiritual communities Anjali met with were very welcoming and encouraging [8:11] Anjali describes her reasons for avoiding the “big box” religious gatherings [11:12] Anjali shares some of her more uncomfortable and challenging experiences [13:08] Anjali explains how she balanced personal stories with a desire for evidence and data [15:12] Many people on different spiritual journeys are all looking for the same thing [17:29] Lisa and Anjali discuss our need to see our connections and similarities [23:22] Anjali strongly advocates staying open and curious [26:30]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW ANJALI:   WEBSITE: anjalikumar.com INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/anjalikumar/ TWITTER: twitter.com/anjalikumar
Aug 26, 2020
The Next Time Someone Tells You to Act Like a Lady... | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about someone telling you to act like a lady.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Aug 24, 2020
5 Tips to Calm Your Emotions
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Lisa Bilyeu shares her top 5 tips you can use the next time you’re pissed off. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com  Podcorn: Visit https://podcorn.com Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  TIPS Acknowledge that you’re pissed. Walk away. Be alone. Do something that makes your heart sing. Don’t lean into the sadness. This too shall pass FOLLOW LISA YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH PODCAST: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh
Aug 19, 2020
If You Feel Like You're in Over Your Head, Listen to This | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about feeling like you're in over your head.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Aug 17, 2020
Tips To Being Likeable and Confident in Video Chats and Zoom Calls | Vanessa Van Edwards on Women of Impact
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Vanessa Van Edwards, professional investigator into the science of human behavior, used to try so hard to be someone she wasn’t. Thankfully, she got tired of pretending, and decided to embrace her real self. And now she devotes her time and energy to helping others present their own authentic selves in the most likeable and powerful way. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Vanessa Van Edwards explains the best way to deal with video calls, job interviews, and even first dates. Those best practices include some surprising insights, including reasons why you might want to wear perfume and high heels in a video call interview, why you should use a real background instead of a virtual one, and why it’s better to reveal your inadequacies and insecurities sooner rather than later. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory  Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT  Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com SHOW NOTES:   Vanessa spent about a decade trying to fake it, and then she got tired of it [2:04] There’s actually more cognitive load on a video call than in real life [4:02] The background people see behind you in a video call says a lot about you [8:33] Interviewers are doing tons of interviews now, and they’re tired of conformity [10:52] Your first impressions now include your visual background along with facial expressions [13:30] How formally should you dress for a video call? Should you wear perfume? [15:25] Vanessa explains why you should quickly reveal your secrets on dates or interviews [19:38] Vanessa explains why even a 1.2 second delay causes people to like you less [21:20] Vanessa discusses why in work calls you should show some of your upper body [26:03] Vanessa describes the importance of hand gestures, and talks about how to use them [27:06] We now have a brief window where we can create our own rules for dating [29:40] You can have fun with video calls in ways that wouldn’t be possible in real life [33:04] Vanessa discusses what the future holds for Zoom calls and in-person meetings [37:10]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW VANESSA:   WEBSITE: scienceofpeople.com/  INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/vvanedwards/ FACEBOOK: facebook.com/vvanedwards/ TWITTER: twitter.com/vvanedwards
Aug 12, 2020
Let Go of Your Past Self | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about letting go of your past self.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Aug 10, 2020
Love Expert Reveals the Secrets to a Successful Relationship | Spirit on Women of Impact
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Host of Love Goals on the OWN Network and in possession of a PhD in General Psychology, the therapist known as Spirit combines gritty real-world experience with high-level academic thinking in her straight-forward, powerful advice. She not only gets to the point, she nails the most important point every time. And on this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Spirit takes on some of the most important questions that everyone who struggles with dating and relationships need answered. She explains why you have to see dating as an interview process, breaks down the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and details exactly how to focus on solutions instead of problems in your relationship. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription.  SHOW NOTES:   Spirit breaks down the difference between chemistry and compatibility [1:45] People often mistake the relationship’s chemistry changing for falling out of love [3:56] Spirit explains how people end up feeling that they are incompatible [6:45] When you are dating, that is the perfect time to go slow and really take stock [8:32] Spirit talks about how someone can be a 10 at 2 AM but a 2 at 10 AM [11:34] There are three sides: you, your partner and the relationship [14:38] Spirit explains what to do instead of focusing on the problems [17:57] There is science to relationships, and you can control intensity, duration and connection [19:48] Relationship problems and habits are passed down through the generations [22:01] Spirit explains how to deal with feelings, thoughts and behaviors [24:41] If you can change the way you think and behave, everything else will fall in line [27:33]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW SPIRIT:   WEBSITE: oprah.com/app/love-goals.html  INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/talk2spirit/ TWITTER: twitter.com/talk2spirit
Aug 05, 2020
Six Things to Say HELL NO to | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on six things to say no to.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Aug 03, 2020
The Next Time You Feel Like a Hot Mess, Just Remember This One Thing | Teddi Mellencamp on Women of Impact
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Accountability coach Teddi Mellencamp has changed the lives of over 10,000 people with ALL IN by Teddi, and in the process built that company into a multi-million dollar juggernaut. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, the Real Housewives star shares the story of her own journey to becoming accountable, discusses why you have to be authentic and vulnerable in your relationships, and explains why every morning she writes down her three non-negotiables for the day. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us.    SHOW NOTES: Teddi shares the consequences of believing that only winning matters [2:13] Teddi used to take everything personally because she wasn’t taking accountability [4:55] “Every day I write down my 3 non-negotiables for the day.” [6:40] Teddi no longer competes with other people. Now she competes with herself. [7:23] Take small steps each day that feel right to you [8:31] Be vulnerable with your circle, and write down your goals to keep yourself accountable [9:59] You have to figure out what formula works for you [14:15] If you’re being authentic you can always deal with your mistakes [15:39] Teddi discusses why setting boundaries in your relationships is so important [19:17] Teddi talks about why she tells her kids the whole truth about difficult situations [24:45] Teddi explains the difference between blame and accountability [28:02] What to do when you ask a question and you get an answer you don’t want [30:34] How to identify the moments when your behavior needs to change [35:28] Teddi and Lisa discuss how they keep improving their relationships [39:04] Teddi shares her superpower [45:59]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW TEDDI:   WEBSITE: allinbyteddi.com/  INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/teddimellencamp  FACEBOOK: facebook.com/teddimellencampofficial/ TWITTER: twitter.com/TeddiMellencamp
Jul 29, 2020
Never Sweep It Under the Rug | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on never sweeping it under the rug.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jul 27, 2020
If You’ve Ever Felt Like A Disappointment, Listen To This | Aileen "Lavendaire" Xu on Women of Impact
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Aileen Xu, creator of Lavendaire, describes herself as an “artist of life.” She helps people design their dream life and embody their best self. And she knows all about how difficult the process can be, given that she had to embrace her own creativity over the objections of a family that desperately wanted her to pursue a conventional life of middle-class success. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Aileen Xu explains how to find your passion if you haven’t discovered it, how to deal with other peoples’ criticisms and negativity, and how to rewrite the negative voices in your own head so that they become more compassionate and empowering. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us.   SHOW NOTES:   Aileen talks about parental expectations in an immigrant family [2:18] Aileen describes the tension between wanting to be creative and her family’s desires [5:50] You have to tell yourself you’re a pro before you become one [11:06] How to rewrite the voices in your head so that the self-criticism ends [12:38] People are mirrors and only projecting their own insecurities onto you [15:03] Follow your curiosity if you don’t know what your passion is yet [16:59] Aileen explains why she decided to not pursue singing and music [18:44] Done is better than perfect. [21:17] You are never too old to take the first step towards your ideal life [24:09] Aileen shares her superpower [25:28] Aileen talks about the lessons she learned from COVID-19 [25:59]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh  YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH  Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW      FOLLOW AILEEN:   WEBSITE: lavendaire.com/ INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/lavendaire  FACEBOOK: facebook.com/Lavendaire/ TWITTER: twitter.com/lavendaire 
Jul 22, 2020
Lisa's Six Life Principles | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption on six life principles.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jul 20, 2020
How to Take Control of Your Emotional Responses to Money | Tiffany Aliche on Women of Impact
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Best known as “The Budgetnista”, Tiffany Aliche is rapidly becoming America’s favorite financial educator. Her mission, which has made her wealthy and helped over 800,000 women worldwide collectively save over 100 million dollars, is to empower women so they can create a better life for themselves and their families. And on this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu and Tiffany Aliche discuss personal finance, big dreams, achievable goals and global impact. Tiffany shares her own story of hitting financial rock bottom, describes her visualization and journaling methods, and reminds us that our mistakes do not define us.  And she also shares her new children’s book, “Happy Birthday Mali More”: https://happybirthdaymalimore.com/  This episode is brought to you by: Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us. Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ SHOW NOTES:   Tiffany describes turning 30 and realizing she had more money at age 15 than age 30 [2:00] Fear makes the wolf bigger [7:06] Sometimes judgment comes from the people that love you most, because they are afraid [8:44] Tiffany grew up with a good financial mindset, but blew it at first with a bad relationship [12:11] Some of us are living someone else’s idea of “more” instead of our own [16:29] Money is merely a tool. You can use your money to build or to destroy. [21:10] Children show the fire of their passion easily, so that means it’s inside you [21:52] Unearth your dream, visualize what it looks like exactly, and write down your goals [25:56] Your mistakes do not define you and you can’t let your mistakes beat you down [29:22] You are literally a miracle [34:16] Tiffany talks about her bill to include financial education in New Jersey middle schools [36:31] Tiffany describes her struggle to remember to soak up the good things that happen [39:17] Tiffany and Lisa discuss how to normalize discussions about money [44:33] Tiffany talks about her free financial education courses [47:05] Tiffany thinks her superpower is her energy [50:27]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH  Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW      FOLLOW TIFFANY:   WEBSITE: thebudgetnista.com  INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/thebudgetnista  FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/groups/LIVERICHER TWITTER: twitter.com/TheBudgetnista 
Jul 15, 2020
Are You Tired of People Trying to Put You in a Box? | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about people trying to put you in a box.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jul 13, 2020
Reality Check: Are You Willing to Change? | Monica Berg and Lisa Bilyeu on IG Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Monica Berg, follow her @: @monicaberg74: https://instagram.com/monicaberg74 To see Monica Berg on Women of Impact, watch here: https://youtu.be/vpXqT9v3TI4 
Jul 10, 2020
The Secret to Happiness is Simpler than You Think | Michelle Poler on Women of Impact
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Hello fears! Whether it’s spiders, open water or public speaking, everyone has something that frightens them, whether it’s rational or not. Keynote speaker Michelle Poler invented the “100 days without fear” challenge because she believes it’s important for everyone to face even their fears that seem trivial or easily avoidable. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Michelle Poler explains why she visited the concentration camps her grandparents endured, why comfort, not failure, is the enemy of success, and why this year you should make a New Year’s resolution to fail. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT  Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us. SHOW NOTES:   Why is it important to face even “trivial” fears like spiders and roller coasters? [2:05] Michelle explains why she believes she really only has seven core fears [4:35] Michelle says that her top three fears are pain, loneliness, and lack of control [7:15] Michelle explains how her relationship pushed her to become brave and independent [10:58] Michelle shares the story of visiting the concentration camps her grandparents endured [14:46] Why you should create a New Year’s resolution to fail [16:17] The enemy of success is not failure. The enemy is comfort. [19:12] Are the relationships in your life based on “me” or fear, or is the basis love? [20:54] Why are people so afraid of disappointing others? [23:51] Trying to check of society’s boxes leads to comfort, not happiness [27:07] Michelle and Lisa talk about why sometimes you really should listen to your fears [28:24] Michelle explains why she approaches fears with “x-ray vision” [32:12] Michelle started her journey because she wants to impact her future kids [33:55] Michelle describes the six stages of facing your fears [34:50] Michelle finally felt proud of herself once she finally pursued her own goals [39:00] Michelle wrote a letter to herself about gratitude and pride [40:43] Success is never guaranteed, so you are better off loving the journey [42:56] Michelle describes a surprising superpower [44:17]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh  YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH  Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW    FOLLOW MICHELLE:   BOOK: hellofearsbook.com WEBSITE: michellepoler.com  INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/hellofears FACEBOOK: facebook.com/hellofears TWITTER: twitter.com/hellofears 
Jul 08, 2020
This is Why You Must Own Your Choices | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about why you must own your choices.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jul 06, 2020
Lisa and Tom Bilyeu on How to Resolve Your Differences | Instagram Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Tom Bilyeu, follow him @: @tombilyeu: https://bit.ly/3b44pvm   To see Tom Bilyeu on Women of Impact, watch here: https://youtu.be/ADjORr9Ih5c 
Jul 03, 2020
T-Boz on How TLC Became the Baddest, Best-Selling Girl Group of All Time | Women of Impact
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By most measures, TLC was the most successful girl group in popular music history. And T Boz, the “T” in TLC, attained that success while dealing with sickle cell anemia, overcoming the usual doubters and haters, and shutting up everyone who tried to tell her that she should fit into the stereotypical roles that women are encouraged to play. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu gets to interview one of her childhood heroes, the incredibly resilient and cheerfully outspoken T Boz. They discuss living with chronic illness, the importance of not holding grudges, and why it's so important to believe in yourself when others doubt you. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES:   T Boz credits her mother as the primary reason for her incredibly resilient mindset [2:36] When people try to discourage you they are projecting their fears onto you [5:20] T Boz says that, for her, she needs to be the leader [8:58] You have to start by believing in yourself, because other people will not believe in you [11:37] T Boz explains that she turned down some hit songs because they didn’t fit her [15:30] What really matters is whether you are proud of your work and the way you live your life [18:56] TLC came back after severe hardships because they still had something to say [20:53] T Boz explains why she doesn’t hold grudges [23:04] T Boz discusses the ways she deals with being hurt and getting angry [25:31] T Boz talks about the consequences of trying to ignore her sickle cell anemia [28:38] T Boz didn’t talk about her illness because she didn’t want people pitying her [34:10] When you’re chronically ill, it affects everything you do [37:13] T Boz talks about why she started her natural products line, TLCBD [39:55] T Boz shares her superpower [43:04]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW T BOZ:   WEBSITE: https://tionnewellness.com/  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/therealtboz  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RealTBoz/  TWITTER: https://twitter.com/therealtboz 
Jul 01, 2020
Five Tips on Ending Petty Arguments | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about five tips on ending petty arguments.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jun 29, 2020
How to Help a Loved One Change Their Life for the Better | Lisa Bilyeu Not-So-Solo Q&A
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Jun 26, 2020
Why You've Got to Face the Truth, Even When It Sucks | Sara Kuburic on Women of Impact
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Best known as the “Millennial Therapist”, Sara Kuburic has built quite an online following by posting hard truths in ways that allow people to actually accept and learn from them. Needless to say, that balancing act requires an unusual combination of a strong moral center, a non-judgmental attitude, and a whole lot of empathy. Thankfully, she brings all of those qualities to this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa and Sara discuss self-sabotage, self-awareness and personal growth. They talk about how to give and receive hard truths, why toxic positivity is so insidiously harmful, and the reasons why we judge ourselves and others. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT  Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ SHOW NOTES:   Why do we self-sabotage, and what constitutes self-sabotage? [2:03] How to deal with the desire for instant gratification [4:10] When we reenact patterns we feel in control, but that can be dangerous [6:16] Sara hopes to spark interest in improvement with her social media posts [8:22] Hard truths don’t have to be harsh truths, but a lot of suffering comes from avoiding truth [10:48] If you find yourself resisting a hard truth, ask what you need to be open to that truth [11:57] When is it our place to tell someone a hard truth, and when is it not? [14:00] Sara explains why we avoid believing people when they tell us who they are [16:14] Sara and Lisa discuss why you should put your true self forward even on a first date [18:45] Sara talks about why you might seek relationships with emotionally unavailable people [21:08] Sara and Lisa discuss why taking responsibility hurts your ego at first [23:01] Blame and self-judgment are never the point of self-awareness [25:03] Most of the time when we judge others it’s because we are triggered [26:36] Judgment also comes from a lack of understanding or real moral conflicts [29:25] Sara describes what moral injury is, and how it relates to infidelity [31:36] Lisa and Sara discuss how deeply personal morality is [33:59] Lisa asks why people invalidate themselves so much, and Sara discusses toxic positivity [35:58] Sometimes we try to make people feel better but it’s actually for us [40:06] Instead of telling people to calm down, try to understand them [42:10] Lisa and Sara discuss asking permission to give someone advice or truth [45:06] Sara says her superpower is adaptability [46:39]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW SARAH:   WEBSITE: sara-kuburic.com/  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2A2Nig8  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2V81XOg  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/3i2kfKT 
Jun 24, 2020
Why You've Got to Set Boundaries, Even When It Hurts | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about how to forgive your partner.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jun 22, 2020
Dating Advice from the Founder of Coffee Meets Bagel | Dawoon Kang and Lisa Bilyeu
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Dawoon Kang, follow her @: https://www.instagram.com/dawoonkang/?hl=en 
Jun 19, 2020
If You Struggle with Conflict in Your Relationship, Listen To This | Tom Bilyeu on Women of Impact
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Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that you are going to have conflicts; you’re going to have fights. But what are these fights really about? Are arguments about washing the dishes and cleaning the closet really about those issues, or is something deeper happening? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu talk about how to deal with differing values and opposing ideas. They discuss creating shared goals, how they build positive habits, and their methods of making sure that conversations stay open, respectful and honest. And then they give a wonderful example of good communication by examining a real life conflict they have had over making the bed... This episode is brought to you by: Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription.  When you are having arguments about money, you are really having conflicts over values [2:48] Concrete advice on how to minimize financial conflicts [6:59] When you have a collision of values, part of it is that you are judging each other [9:07] Why you have to start with shared goals and open discussion of those goals [11:02] Tom and Lisa discuss corporal punishment, spanking and discipline [14:08] Tom and Lisa talk about having differing religious beliefs and how they dealt with it [19:50] What do you do when your habits and routines conflict? [23:47] How to form habits that help your relationship [27:13] Whenever you have conflicts over “small issues”, they are actually about deep values [31:10] The problems that happen when you don’t articulate your values and just project instead [36:47]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW TOM:   WEBSITE: impacttheory.com  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33XrFYV  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xDM4Xa  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39slhdy 
Jun 17, 2020
What I Do When I Don't Feel Confident | Lisa Bilyeu Live Q&A
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv
Jun 12, 2020
A Candid Conversation About Systemic Racism | Dia Simms on Women of Impact
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Since the murder of George Floyd, protests and unrest have swept the country, reaching all fifty states. More and more people see the need to discuss racism and the brutality and oppression faced by too many Americans. But where should that discussion begin? On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Dia Simms, president of Combs Enterprises, addresses the uncomfortable conversations we all need to have, breaks down the structure and history of systemic racism, and advocates staying ruthlessly focused on overcoming the problem as quickly as possible. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE Jane Elliott’s Blue Eye/Brown Eye Study: https://youtu.be/6gi2T0ZdKVc Jane Elliott Blue Eye/Brown Eye study (condensed): https://www.instagram.com/p/CBLd0j4DNX4/ Thread Baltimore: https://www.thread.org/ National Urban League: https://nul.org/ Revolt TV: https://www.revolt.tv/ Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk about Power Posing: https://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc Amy Cuddy Successfully Refutes Criticism: https://bit.ly/3f0SrnI Andreessen Horowitz Announces new fund designed to invest in underrepresented founders: https://tcrn.ch/3hc4wIC ARTICLES: How to Make This Moment the Turning Point for Real Change: https://bit.ly/2YmNgYi Your Difficult Questions About Race in America, Answered: https://bit.ly/2MLNNO9 TV/MOVIES/PODCASTS: -13th (Netflix) -When They See Us (Netflix) -Explained: The Racial Wealth Gap (Netflix) -LA 92 (Netflix) -1619 Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7j5MhJCMBvOjF1Asi9LPLX?si=el6TNr1RSjq4aFzzkvTJAQ   What resources have you guys been using to learn more about systemic racism? Please share in the comments below so we can all learn together!   SHOW NOTES:   Police brutality represents only a fraction of the brutality that needs to be addressed [3:13] Dia describes the sorts of uncomfortable conversations that we all need to have [6:11] Dia explains why she needs to be dressed to the nines just to avoid being abused [7:54] Lisa talks about how powerful it is when you feel a connection to another’s experience [11:58] Dia gives a basic breakdown of systemic racism, its history and current reality [14:12] Dia talks about the famous, ground-breaking brown eyes/blue eyes story [17:34] Dia and Lisa discuss the failures and limitations of the American education system [21:10] “You can’t be what you don’t see.” [25:27] It’s not easy to change habitual ways of thinking, but it is possible and necessary [29:04] We are all inextricably connected, so how do we move ahead together? [33:25] Lisa talks about how protests and unrest have pushed her to talk about racism [38:28] Dia discusses the importance of humility and clear, honest communication [39:58] Dia advocates staying ruthlessly focused on overcoming systemic racism [43:35] Dia recommends resources and people to follow [47:41]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh  YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH  Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW    FOLLOW DIA: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2IksIJi FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2x00xcm  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2XUkoWa 
Jun 10, 2020
How to Forgive Your Partner | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about how to forgive your partner.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jun 01, 2020
How to Live Out Your Inner Badass | Lisa Bilyeu and Roxy Saffaie on Instagram Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Roxy Saffaie, follow her @: https://www.instagram.com/roxylook/?hl=en 
May 29, 2020
Kristin Neff on Why Self-Compassion is Key | Women of Impact
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Self-esteem has been a buzzword for what seems like forever, but as a goal or concept it has some big drawbacks. Self-esteem tends to be comparative and fragile, and provides a shaky foundation for healthy growth. So what should we replace self-esteem with? Dr. Kristin Neff, who has researched the subject for years, advocates for a better framework: self-compassion. And on this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Kristin Neff explains what self-compassion is, discusses the difference between self-compassion and self-pity, and asks us to treat ourselves with the same mindful, motivating kindness that we so easily bestow on other people. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT BLUblox: Go to blublox.com/woi for 15% off your order or use discount code WOI at checkout. SHOW NOTES:   What’s the difference between self-esteem and self-compassion? [2:20] Self-compassion does lead to self-worth, but that isn’t the end goal [6:05] Self-compassion is not self-pity, self-indulgence, selfishness or complacency [8:48] Why suppressing your pain actually makes it more intense [13:15] Be mindful. Remember that pain is part of life. Then, be kind. [15:36] Lisa and Kristin discuss the balance between compassion for others and the self [19:17] Why are we often harder on ourselves than we are on other people? [21:03] Kristin explains why it works to use compassionate touch on yourself [23:35] We need other people, but it’s not good to wholly rely on other people [27:13] Kristin discusses why it can be effective to talk about yourself in the 2nd person [29:21] Self-criticism comes from the desire to be safe. It’s misdirective care. [32:27] To come up with healthy methods of motivation, think about how you’d motivate a child [35:44] Sometimes kindness has to be a little bit fierce, like a Mama Bear [38:39] Kristin describes how compassion actually feels scary to someone used to abuse [40:06] You already know how to be compassionate. All you have to do is use it on yourself. [42:39]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW KRISTIN:   WEBSITE: self-compassion.org  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/selfcompassion/  TWITTER: https://twitter.com/self_compassion 
May 27, 2020
Never Forget How Far You've Already Come | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about never forgetting how far you've already come.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
May 25, 2020
The Power of Living in the Present Moment During Uncertain Times | Lisa Bilyeu and Najwa Zebian on Instagram Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Najwa Zebian, follow her @: https://bit.ly/2adrxex To see Najwa Zebian on Women of Impact, watch here: https://youtu.be/xWWSgnIGIRg 
May 22, 2020
Sarah Wilson on Strategies For Dealing With Difficult Situations | Women of Impact
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Sarah Wilson is best-known as the founder of I Quit Sugar, and now she is at the forefront of another movement tackling one of the primary forms of human suffering: anxiety. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, best-selling author Sarah Wilson details specific methods for dealing with fear, anxiety, the feeling of overwhelm, and even full-on panic attacks. She advocates reading about others who have suffered, writing out your emotional reactions by hand, having intimate conversations with both acquaintances and strangers, learning to sit with your pain and discomfort, and talking to yourself as you would to your best friend. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. BLUblox: Go to blublox.com/woi for 15% off your order or use discount code WOI at checkout. SHOW NOTES:   Sarah talks about how COVID-19 has revealed the lies we’ve been telling ourselves [3:08] Sarah describes the freeze mechanism, our response to fear when we can’t fight or flee [5:33] Sarah details specific strategies for dealing with feeling overwhelmed [8:56] “Let’s run the experiment.” [10:28] Sarah advocates talking to yourself as if you were your best friend, or even a small child [11:57] How to deal with an outright panic attack [13:01] Why it’s valuable to write out by hand what is going on emotionally [13:45] Sarah explains why she reads about world leaders and what they suffered [15:28] Lisa and Sarah discuss how your failures lead to your ultimate success [19:20] Sarah talks about getting older as an unmarried woman with no kids [23:17] Sarah describes the biological need for human contact [26:03] Sarah discusses how technology has prepared us for everything except real life [30:13] It is not natural to be sent into isolation to deal with a crisis [31:09] Sarah advocates having really intimate conversations with people [32:38] Sarah doesn’t eliminate bad habits. She forms new good habits. [35:47] Sarah describes her process for identifying the deep needs underneath bad habits [39:34] Sarah says that her anxiety is her superpower [44:33]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW SARAH:   WEBSITE: sarahwilson.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/3cMattb  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2Tiao8D  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2yfyCJw 
May 20, 2020
You Are Good Enough | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about feeling like enough, while still striving for more.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
May 18, 2020
Lisa Bilyeu Live Q&A: How to Handle Criticism, Disruption and Distraction
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May 15, 2020
From Minimum Wage To World’s Leading Finance Expert | Suze Orman on Women of Impact
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From America’s Matriarch of Money herself, Suze Orman’s Women & Money podcast speaks directly to every mother, daughter, grandmother, sister, and wife — and the men who are smart enough to tune in. Join Suze Orman twice weekly for unmatched personal finance expertise, and receive powerful insights and actionable advice on investing, saving, and life. https://www.suzeorman.com/podcast    And right now, literally millions of Americans definitely need those powerful insights and immediately actionable advice on money. So on this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Suze Orman details exactly what steps people need to take to gain control of their finances. She guides listeners on how to create new truths about money, how to deal with shame, anger and fear, and how to eventually reach the point where saving is more pleasurable than spending. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT SHOW NOTES:   What do you do when you are confronted with the truth about your situation? [3:35] What is your truth right now? Are you fearful, ashamed or angry right now? [5:47] In order to overcome shame, you have to own the situation you find yourself in [7:15] The past is the past and it’s over. It’s only valuable as a tool to learn from. [10:30] Live below your means. Always ask, “is this a want or a need?” [13:00] How do you define the difference between a want and a need? [13:57] When do you buy what you need instead of what you can afford? [16:02] Suze explains how to get more pleasure out of saving than spending [17:37] Power attracts money. Powerlessness repels money. Never be a victim. [18:18] People spend more money than they realize they are spending [19:57] Ask yourself why you get more pleasure from spending than from saving? [22:35] Right now many people have an unprecedented opportunity to save money [24:32] Suze advocates not making big financial moves right now [27:31] Why don’t you do what you know you should do? [30:05] Suze says her superpower is that she knows her own thoughts, her own motives [31:02] How do you deal with a spouse who has different financial goals and values? [34:28] The first step you need to take is to create a new truth [36:37]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW SUZE:   WEBSITE: https://www.suzeorman.com/podcast  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Wr3UX8  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2LjHlNK  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2SWiHa0 
May 13, 2020
How Do You Feel About Yourself When You're By Yourself? | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about why money isn't everything.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
May 11, 2020
How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy in Stressful Times | Lisa Bilyeu and Trent Shelton
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Trent Shelton, follow him @: https://www.instagram.com/trentshelton/?hl=en  To see Trent Shelton on Impact Theory, watch here: https://youtu.be/BI1P14gjqKI 
May 08, 2020
How to Deal with Negative Emotions | Lisa Bilyeu & Andrea Navedo
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Andrea Navedo, follow her @: https://bit.ly/2WKtXce To see Andrea Navedo on Women of Impact, watch here: https://youtu.be/gUkT1PkdWzQ 
May 07, 2020
Supernanny Jo Frost on Raising Kids in Crazy, Challenging Times | Women of Impact
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The world’s most recognized parenting expert, Jo Frost, has spent years providing real, authentic, unfiltered advice as The Supernanny. Her show has reached millions of parents worldwide, and can still be viewed right now. The first eleven episodes of Supernanny Season 8 can be seen through your cable provider on Video on Demand, MyLifetime.com and the Lifetime app. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, the Supernanny herself, Jo Frost, shares honest, powerful and timely advice with parents struggling with the coronavirus pandemic and its associated lockdowns and quarantines. She explains how to set boundaries, how to talk with your kids about COVID-19, how to deal with anxiety and worry, and how to shift your own energy when it starts moving in an unhealthy direction. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Ettitude: Enter WOI at checkout or click the link for 20% off your sheet set and FREE shipping. https://www.ettitude.com/?utm_source=libsyn.com&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=micropodcast20200315&discount=WOI   SHOW NOTES:   How can parents talk to kids about the coronavirus when no one knows all the answers? [3:46] Jo advocates the importance of keeping a routine going even during isolation [9:11] Jo shares on advice on dealing with your kid’s negative influences [10:07] Jo describes ways to ground your family, and to encourage spiritual calm [13:22] Why it’s so important to accept your own vulnerability [16:08] How to deal with a partner who increases the family’s anxiety and worry [17:23] Right now you are doing as much as you can, and you are doing enough [22:38] Jo talks about the little rituals that hold families together [27:28] Jo strongly advocates not making things more complicated than you need to [29:21] Keep your ego in check, reach out to your partner, and take individual quiet time [32:09] How to shift your energy when you feel it start to go in the wrong direction [35:10] How to set effective boundaries [38:45] Jo describes the methods parents will need when kids start reentering society [42:29] Jo talks about how to talk with teenagers about staying physically isolated [45:19] You are not your children’s friend. You are their parent. Your job is to keep them safe. [47:13] You cannot make your kids happy all the time [49:47] The Supernanny shares her superpower [51:45]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW JO:   WEBSITE: jofrost.com  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2YttiwL  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2Wmd71L  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2xuFMJu 
May 06, 2020
You Are Worthy | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about seeing your own worth.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
May 04, 2020
The One Book Every Female Should Read, Morning Routines, and Feeling Like the World is on Pause | Lisa Bilyeu Q&A
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In this solo Q&A, I answer questions from you guys about morning routines and feeling like the world is on pause. To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv  
May 01, 2020
Why Friendships Can Make You Live Longer | Lydia Denworth & Lisa Bilyeu on Instagram Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Lydia Denworth, follow her @: https://www.instagram.com/ldenworth/?hl=en 
Apr 30, 2020
Kelley Earnhardt Miller on Navigating Your Business Through A Crisis | Women of Impact
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Kelley Earnhardt Miller, one of the most prominent businesswomen in NASCAR, oversees a company with 125 employees, protects the legacy of one of the most famous names in racing, and still manages to find time to nurture her family. That would be challenging enough under normal circumstances, but right now circumstances are the opposite of normal. And during the difficult times everyone is currently facing, her insights and advice are more valuable than ever. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Kelley Earnhardt Miller discusses managing emotions in times of fear and uncertainty, explains how she balances running a juggernaut of a business with the needs of her family, and talks about why it’s so important to make other people feel like they matter. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Ettitude: Enter WOI at checkout or click the link for 20% off your sheet set and FREE shipping. https://www.ettitude.com/?utm_source=libsyn.com&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=micropodcast20200315&discount=WOI StoryWorth: For $10 off your first purchase, go to storyworth.com/womenofimpact SHOW NOTES:   How do you manage your emotions in times of fear, uncertainty and the unknown? [3:14] Focus on what you can do right now, on what you can control [6:01] Kelley explains how she remains optimistic and adaptable [7:52] Even when you have negative experiences or emotions, owning them helps [9:45] How to juggle working from home and raising kids [11:46] Kelley advocates doing the right thing, always, and communicating transparently [14:09] Kelley describes trying to minimize the impact of quarantine on her employees [15:28] What does it mean to aim for the “win-win”? [17:01] How do you live a balanced life in the midst of pandemic, quarantine and recession? [19:39] Kelley talks about how important it is to actually carve out time and make a schedule [22:05] It was hard for Kelley to get remarried after feeling she failed at her previous marriage [24:09] Kelley explains why she didn’t postpone her book release [29:14] Kelley shares her superpower [31:49]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW KELLEY:   INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/358Bh3E  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/3bORbmA  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Y9JKSM 
Apr 29, 2020
5 Things All Entrepreneurs Need to Hear | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption with 5 things all entrepreneurs need to hear.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Apr 27, 2020
How to Stay Calm and in Control During Coronavirus | Evy Poumpouras and Lisa Bilyeu on Instagram Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv This episode is brought to you by: Podcorn: Visit https://podcorn.com and use coupon code WOMENOFIMPACT KPS Essentials: Click the link http://ss1.us/a/RYwxV8yU And enter the coupon code IMPACT20 to save 20% on your first order. For more from Evy Poumpouras, follow her @: https://bit.ly/38iK9Up To see Evy Poumpouras on Women of Impact, watch here: https://youtu.be/loG9ujz0N4M     
Apr 24, 2020
How to Not Panic During a Pandemic | Amy Morin & Lisa Bilyeu on Instagram Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Amy Morin, follow her @: https://www.instagram.com/amymorinauthor/?hl=en  To see Amy Morin on Women of Impact, watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MqpOlHTx-MY 
Apr 23, 2020
Marisa Peer on How to Take Control of Your Life | Women of Impact
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  Famed hypnotherapist, creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy, and all-around psychological superwoman Marisa Peer is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling your thoughts, your emotional state, and thus your life’s results. And right now, when people are physically isolated and spending so much time confronted with their own mental state, her message is more necessary than ever. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Marisa Peer discusses how her methods of controlling language and using powerful, positive words can help people make it through these unexpected times. She gives concrete examples of how to use self-talk effectively, discusses the importance of taking control of your thoughts, explains how to talk to children about the coronavirus pandemic, and even shares some surprising ways women can boost their immune system.  This episode is brought to you by:  WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout.  Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SHOW NOTES:   Marisa Peer advocates looking for what’s good about quarantines and isolation [2:30] You need to give yourself a daily routine to make it through the coronavirus pandemic [5:15] Why words matter and how they are so powerful [6:57] You can only control your thoughts, which control your emotions and your beliefs [10:48] Marisa and Lisa discuss how you always have a choice about how you think [13:00] How do you deal with living with other people who have a negative mindset? [17:06] Marisa and Lisa talk about how to break out of procrastination [21:02] Nobody can reject you without your consent, and you can always make progress [26:12] Marisa explains how to talk to children about dangers and uncertainty [29:11] To be happy you need someone to love, something to do, and somewhere to go [33:13] The words you use will shape your reality [34:44] Marisa shares her superpower [36:34]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW MARISA:   WEBSITE: marisapeer.com  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33kLFmz  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2XK3IBe  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2pLuJYu 
Apr 22, 2020
Keep Hope Close | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about staying positive during difficult times.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Apr 20, 2020
Use This Time to Improve Your Relationship | Tom Bilyeu and Lisa Bilyeu on Instagram Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Tom Bilyeu, follow him @: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/?hl=en To see Tom Bilyeu on Women of Impact, watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=afLphfD9ZTQ   
Apr 17, 2020
New Project, Worth in Relationships, Stress | Lisa Bilyeu on Instagram Live
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In this solo q&a, I answer questions from you guys about a new project, worth in relationship, and stress. To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv
Apr 16, 2020
5 Powerful Strategies for Dealing with Stress, Worry and Anxiety | Women of Impact
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Anxiety is currently at an all-time high, and right now more people than ever are stressed about their finances, their family and of course, their health. So this seems like the perfect moment to listen to a few extraordinary women explain how they manage their own anxiety, and even turn it into positive emotional energy. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, guests Tobie Gonzalez, Vanessa Van Edwards, Nicole Lepera, Seane Corn, and Ashley Stahl share their favorite stories, most effective tactics and best tips. Find out how improving your gut health can improve your mental health, learn why you have to face your past trauma and shadow emotions, and discover a really cool trick to instantly turn anxiety into excitement. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Ettitude: Enter WOI at checkout or click the link for 20% off your sheet set and FREE shipping. https://www.ettitude.com/?utm_source=libsyn.com&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=micropodcast20200315&discount=WOI Canvas People: Visit canvaspeople.com and use coupon code WomenOfImpact for your FREE print. SHOW NOTES:   Nicole Lepera explains how proper sleep and nutrition can help you deal with anxiety [1:13] Nicole and Lisa discuss how strongly linked brain and gut health are [3:57] Vanessa Van Edwards talks about how to transform anxiety into excitement [6:51] Why you should never hide your flaws [10:40] Seane Corn shares her struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder [13:27] Seane explains how childhood sexual trauma led to her obsessive need for control [14:55] Seane describes the ways that yoga and breathing techniques helped to heal her [17:13] When Seane first tried yoga, it actually made her anxiety worse [18:40] How to face your past trauma and deal with your shadow emotions [20:34] Ashley Stahl discusses why you need to embrace discomfort in order to defeat anxiety [23:52] Tobie Gonzalez talks about facing your fears head on [26:25] Your brain believes whatever you tell it [29:08]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW TOBIE: https://bit.ly/2y7V9Yu  FOLLOW VANESSA: https://bit.ly/2KdZkVv  FOLLOW NICOLE: http://bit.ly/2NbJn4B FOLLOW SEANE: https://bit.ly/2V8TcUN  FOLLOW ASHLEY: https://bit.ly/2K2KBww 
Apr 15, 2020
You Can Do More Than You Think | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Apr 13, 2020
Change the Energy and Focus On the People You Love | Mally Roncal & Lisa Bilyeu on Instagram Live
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To catch Lisa live on instagram, follow her @lisabilyeu: https://bit.ly/3a1NbNv For more from Mally, follow her @mallyroncal: https://bit.ly/3aX7jlf To see Mally on Women of Impact, watch here: https://bit.ly/3aX7tJn
Apr 10, 2020
Rachel Luna on How to Take Charge of Your Own Narrative | Women of Impact
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Given that when we look around the world right now we see nothing but stress, anxiety and panic, it might be good for all of us to take some time building our confidence. Fortunately, cancer thriver, best-selling author and Chief Confidence Creator Rachel Luna is perfectly positioned to help us. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Rachel Luna represents thriving instead of surviving, being a champion instead of just barely making it. She explains how she stays in control of her own story, shares how she remains deeply rooted, and engages Lisa in a fascinating discussion of each of their deepest values. This episode is brought to you by:  Whoop: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT   SHOW NOTES:   Don’t focus on not making mistakes. Instead, be aware of your stories and thoughts. [3:36] If you are uncertain, check in with your body and see how you feel. [5:39] We have to stop just looking for survival, and try to thrive. [7:17] It’s not easy to adopt a powerful, thriving perspective, but it’s worth it [10:17] Why you should build your identity on your core beliefs, and not on your roles [11:10] Lisa and Rachel discuss their core beliefs [14:02] When your identity is deeply rooted, it’s easier to collaborate with different people [15:51] Rachel advocates doing an audit of your week, and seeing where you spend your time [16:36] Who do you want to be? And how would that person handle the situation you’re in? [18:52] Rachel explains why she writes her story the way she wants it to happen [19:43] Rachel shares her story of battling breast cancer [21:29] At first, Rachel was not available for people who wanted to tell her “I’m sorry.” [25:34] Life is not always perfectly laid out like on social media [26:43] How do you give yourself grace when you make mistakes? [28:04] Rachel talks about how to let go of sorrow and embrace self-love [29:56] Rachel reviews the process for learning to truly love yourself and live out your values [33:16] Rachel shares her superpower [35:35]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW RACHEL:   WEBSITE: rachelluna.biz INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2UQSCed  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2RhkB4n  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2JW5LfL 
Apr 08, 2020
5 Ways to Improve Communication with Your Partner | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption with her 5 tips for improving communication with your partner.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Apr 06, 2020
These Relationship Hacks Will Help You Navigate Through Anything | Women of Impact
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Normally, people are twice as happy and find their lives much more meaningful when they are with their spouse. However, current quarantines may be causing stress for some couples. The sheer amount of time spent together is uncharted territory for many relationships. On this episode of Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and her husband Tom Bilyeu discuss the tactics, strategies and rules of engagement they have used to keep their relationship strong and growing for 19 years and counting. They discuss how to avoid letting the small things frustrate you, how to lift each other up, and how to hopefully find a way to make this surprise quarantine fun and empowering. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/woi for 2 free months of Premium Membership. Ettitude: Enter WOI at checkout or click the link for 20% off your sheet set and FREE shipping. https://www.ettitude.com/?utm_source=libsyn.com&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=micropodcast20200315&discount=WOI SHOW NOTES:   How do you avoid getting annoyed with each other over small things? [3:39] How to view everything that happens as practice, and then make it fun [5:50] Don’t tell me I’ve done something wrong after I’ve done it [9:06] Why you have to take responsibility for yourself instead of matching negative energy [10:23] It’s OK to match your partner’s righteous indignation, but not their anxiety [12:42] Do not tell someone they are being irrational. Wait for emotional sobriety [16:31] How do you make space for yourself in a situation that seems impossible? [17:37] How do you deal with a partner who isn’t willing to do the work in a relationship? [21:26] Lisa talks about writing her “quarantine script” in real time [23:38] What would need to be true for this experience to be positive? [25:08] Why you shouldn’t let “dust settle” [27:06] You have to know exactly why things are bothering you [28:38] How to talk to someone who is agitated without getting them even more angry [31:55] What is one thing couples can do right now to get stronger? [34:35] Why you absolutely must take selfish time [37:13] Tom and Lisa used to do relationship theory, which you can still find on YouTube [39:21]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW   FOLLOW TOM:   WEBSITE: impacttheory.com  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33XrFYV  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xDM4Xa  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39slhdy 
Apr 01, 2020
Stay Adaptable | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about    Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Mar 30, 2020
Andrea Navedo on How Difficult Times Make You Stronger | Women of Impact
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Andrea Navedo didn’t get to see many positive portrayals of Latinas in the media growing up. So when she had the chance to play a starring role on Jane the Virgin, a role that cast her as a complex, flawed, and genuine Latina single mother, she jumped all over the opportunity. Now she focuses on making the most of her ability to influence and inspire others who grew up the same way she did. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Andrea Navedo tells her story of surviving abusive relationships, dealing with endless rejection, and eventually triumphing in the entertainment industry. She also talks about how to listen compassionately to your own internal dialogue, discusses why fame and validation did not make her feel better about herself, and explains why she never plays the victim. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Podcorn: Visit https://podcorn.com/ and use coupon code WOMENOFIMPACT Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/woi for 2 free months of Premium Membership. SHOW NOTES:   Andrea and Lisa discuss the pressure to fit in and reject your own culture [3:51] Andrea explains why she needed to see positive role models on TV as a youth [6:59] Andrea used to believe that being an actress was a very selfish career [10:39] Andrea talks about being in an abusive relationship and why she eventually left [13:31] How to listen to the internal family dialogue in your own mind [17:28] There is an essential part of you that is pure and doesn’t need fixing [20:21] Andrea talks about her first acting gig on a soap opera [24:15] Andrea explains why she needed to take a temporary break from acting [30:09] Andrea feels she has a responsibility to inspire people who are similar to her [36:33] The curated, money-driven images you see of celebrities are pretty much BS [39:20] Fame, money and validation did not help Andrea feel better about herself [41:00] Why you should not numb out the emotions that you feel [44:10] It doesn’t matter what other people say about you. It matters what you say about you [45:36] Andrea explains why she never plays the victim [47:29]   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW ANDREA:   INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2WKtXce  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2UB3bjU  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2y44P6c 
Mar 25, 2020
Stay Connected | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about spending time with the ones you love.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Mar 23, 2020
 Tiffany Boone on How to Come Out Ahead When the Odds Are Against You | Women of Impact
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Tiffany Boone could very easily have become just another statistic. Raised by a single mother in Baltimore after her father was killed, she drew inspiration from her mother’s no-excuses mindset and incredible hard work. So instead of becoming a statistic, she became a successful actress and a role model. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Tiffany Boone shares her story, and she goes into great detail on the struggles she faced with mental health, her difficulties on a show that seemed like the opportunity of a lifetime, and her eventual triumph. Tiffany and Lisa also discuss building confidence, the connections between blessings and karma, and why nothing is more important than integrity. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES:   Tiffany credits her mother with developing her no-excuses mindset [4:07] Tiffany says she will always keep striving until her mother doesn’t have to work any more [6:22] Tiffany describes suffering from anxiety and depression due to being rejected as an actor [7:15] After Tiffany returned to acting after taking a break, she wasn’t desperate any more [11:13] Tiffany explains why she used medication even though it was culturally unacceptable [12:32] “How can I be creative in a way that doesn’t harm me, that doesn’t beat down my spirit?” [15:37] “You can be grateful for situations that end up being really painful.” [19:56] “No job is worth my integrity.” [22:06] Lisa and Tiffany discuss why it’s unhealthy to hold onto personal hatred and bitterness [25:40] How do you forgive yourself if you have dishonored yourself? [29:42] Tiffany explains how she found her voice, why and when she decided to use it [32:45] Listen to your gut, to that little voice in the back of your head, and bet on yourself [36:40] Tiffany and Lisa discuss confidence and how to build it [37:35] You are more powerful than you want to give yourself credit for [40:07] Tiffany talks about working with her heroes and idols [42:21] We can’t push women to run things just to fill a quota [44:59] Tiffany and Lisa discuss blessings, karma, and doing the work [46:51]   FOLLOW LISA:   Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW     FOLLOW TIFFANY:   INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2WgU8as  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39XvU91 
Mar 18, 2020
Love Is Not Enough | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about the lessons she's learned from her husband, Tom Bilyeu.    Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Mar 16, 2020
Former Secret Service Agent, Evy Poumpouras, on How to Get The Truth Out of Anyone | Women of Impact
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How do you know if someone is lying to you? How often should you trust your intuition? What is the best way to deal with conflict and confrontation? These are the kinds of questions that everyone asks, and former Secret Service Agent Evy Poumpouras has devoted herself to answering them systematically and effectively. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Evy Poumpouras shows you how to tell if someone is lying, explains when and how you should listen to your gut feelings, talks about why she embraces confrontation, and gives a surprising lesson on why she thinks that respect is a gift--a gift she doesn’t need. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/woi for 2 free months of Premium Membership. SHOW NOTES:   Evy explains how to build mental armor by dealing with small amounts of stress [3:36] Evy talks about how she overcame her weaknesses and outperformed expectations [5:46] How to differentiate between opinions you should heed and those you should ignore [8:22] Don’t get distracted by your own mental chatter [8:56] You can’t make people respect you. Respect is a gift, and you don’t need it. [10:15] Within the first five seconds people make their impression of you [13:12] What is your goal in every interaction you have with people? [15:21] In order to succeed at interrogation, you have to get your ego out of the situation [17:00] Everyone lies. And it has nothing to do with you. It has to do with them. [19:42] Evy used self-assessment to learn how to not let her emotions take control [20:33] Evy explains what it means to “introduce a disruptor.” [23:48] Why you should trust your instincts [24:51] The more prepared you are, the easier it is to pivot if things go wrong [27:43] Why you should welcome confrontation [29:39] Speak to people in a way that they can understand, and that they will appreciate [32:02] Evy explains the basics of body language, verbal language, and para-linguistics [34:38] Don’t be someone you’re not, but bring out the version of yourself that works [36:39] Shut up and listen. Ask open-ended questions. [38:00] Don’t assume your conjectures are facts [38:42] How to tell if someone is lying to you [41:12] There’s no gimmick to understanding people. Always be curious and empathetic. [45:55] Evy says her superpower is that she fails a lot [47:24]   FOLLOW EVY:   WEBSITE: evypoumpouras.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/38iK9Up  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2PH7lVN  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39jMy2r 
Mar 11, 2020
Stop Waiting | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about    Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Mar 09, 2020
6 Extraordinary Women on Overcoming Stereotypes | Women of Impact
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Many people spend their lives trying to fit in to their cultural narrative, their family’s expectations, or their social circle’s trends. But fitting in is rarely the path to success or happiness. In honor of International Women’s Day, this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu focuses on six extraordinary women who defied stereotypes, refused to fit in, and made a pronounced impact on the world as a result. Andrea Navedo, Anousheh Ansari, Noor Tagouri, Sabrina Kay, Brenda Gilbert and Najwa Zebian share their incredible stories of overcoming failures, outperforming expectations, and living a life true to themselves and their own deepest convictions. This episode is brought to you by: WHOOP: For 15% off your order, go to whoop.com and use discount code IMPACT at checkout. Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription.   SHOW NOTES: Andrea Navedo believes that as a youth she needed to see herself reflected in culture [3:22] Do you want to try, and take the risk of failure, or not try and have failure guaranteed? [5:47] Anousheh Ansari says there are always problems, but she looks for the solutions [8:12] Anousheh explains why she always focuses on taking the next step [11:02] Noor Tagouri explains why she chose to wear the hijab [13:14] Noor’s parents always encouraged her to become a journalist [18:07] Sabrina Kay describes the pressure to marry the perfect man, and become a mother [19:17] Sabrina’s ambition and resilience was actually driven by fear of failure [22:32] Brenda Gilbert shares a story of standing up to a bully and what it taught her [24:29] Brenda is driven not just by the passion for her career, but by passion for other people [27:40] Najwa Zebian describes home as the place where you can be unapologetically yourself [29:31] Najwa never associated with other students in school [31:37] Najwa struggled for a long time with accepting that painful things had happened to her [33:21]   FOLLOW NAJWA: https://bit.ly/2uMKKzU  FOLLOW BRENDA: https://bit.ly/2PJFwwd  FOLLOW NOOR TAGOURI: https://bit.ly/38klrD1  FOLLOW ANDREA: https://bit.ly/2PLph1B  FOLLOW ANOUSHEH: https://bit.ly/32LItlf  FOLLOW SABRINA: https://bit.ly/2VDc4vH 
Mar 04, 2020
Be Honest, Even When It's Hard | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares a recent instagram caption about ALWAYS being honest with your partner, even when it's hard.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Mar 02, 2020
Alisa Vitti on Women's Health Expert Debunks the Worst Myths About Hormones | Women of Impact
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Too much of the advice in the fitness, diet and self-help field is based on research that ignores reproductive-age women, their hormonal cycles and their natural rhythms. Functional nutritionist and women’s hormonal health expert Alisa Vitti intends to end that imbalance by promoting concepts, practices and bio-hacking methods developed by and for women. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Alisa Vitti explains exactly how women can get in tune with and benefit from their hormonal cycles. She also talks about why much of the health advice aimed at men is actually damaging to women, discusses in detail the unappreciated but critically important infradian rhythm, explains why PMS is absolutely not inevitable, and even suggests some ideas that could significantly increase your sexual pleasure. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT SHOW NOTES:   Why are women getting sicker? Why are women left out of so much research? [3:49] Women in their reproductive years have a second biological rhythm, the infradian rhythm [5:48] Your infradian rhythm impacts six key systems in your body [6:56] Men organize their lives around the circadian rhythm, which matters to women too, but... [8:00] Lisa and Alisa discuss the need for women to organize around the infradian rhythm [10:08] PMS is not inevitable. Alisa explains how to avoid it. [13:35] Alisa explains what happens if you disrupt your infradian rhythm too much [16:41] Women should not necessarily follow the same schedule every day [20:31] Alisa discusses the negative internal dialogue that women often struggle with [22:24] Alisa explains how it’s counterproductive for women to train the same way every day [23:56] Intermittent fasting and keto diets are harmful for many women [26:42] You should listen to your body, when health experts disagree [27:52] Women’s brain chemistry changes by 25% over the course of the month [28:55] Alisa explains how the infradian rhythm balances out a woman’s life [34:34] You may need extra self-care during different phases of your infradian rhythm [35:13] How to listen to your body and respond to it [37:47] You don’t need to be perfect in order to get started [40:00] Sexual pleasure is different throughout the different infradian phases [41:05] Lisa and Alisa discuss owning your own sexuality and its effect on confidence [43:24] Alisa shares her superpower [46:35]   FOLLOW ALISA:   WEBSITE: floliving.com  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/32o5nPj  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/32mjoNz  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2ToO391 
Feb 26, 2020
Show Up For Yourself | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) shares her thoughts on the quote "It's not your job to like me. It's mine".    Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Feb 24, 2020
Dr. Ellen Vora on No Shame, No Judgment: How to Deal with Depression and Anxiety| Women of Impact
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Given that 1 out of 6 Americans are taking some sort of psychiatric drug, it’s probably time to let go of the stigma surrounding mental illness. And it might also be a good time to question whether giving people drugs is always the best go-to solution for mental health. Dr. Ellen Vora, a functional medicine practitioner and holistic psychiatrist, is one of the leaders of a movement that aims to treat the whole person, and to stop using drugs as a first resort. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Ellen Vora discusses how to find the real source of your suffering, what to do if you are too much of a people pleaser, the connection between gut health and brain health, and ways to encourage yourself to make better lifestyle choices. This episode is brought to you by:  Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. SHOW NOTES:   Why is the placebo effect so powerful, and does it last? [4:30] Sometimes the benefit of psychiatric drugs is that they lead people to therapy [6:12] Ellen talks about the first steps you should take if you are depressed [7:04] Some people are rebels, and do the opposite of what their therapist asks [10:07] Other people are obligers, and try too hard to please other people [11:01] Ellen discusses learning to value your true yes and your true no [12:32] Ellen describes ways to learn how to respond to situations that trigger you [14:35] Humor and an attitude of gentleness and patience is really helpful [16:08] How to get unstuck [17:18] How do you find where the real source of your suffering is? [18:06] Ellen discusses the connection between gut health and brain health [19:39] Depression can be seen as a bad adaptation of a good behavior [22:16] Ellen details ways to encourage yourself to make good lifestyle choices [23:49] What to do if you are too much of a perfectionist about your diet [28:45] How to deal with social situations that can’t accommodate your dietary needs [33:02] Ellen advocates having compassion for the people who trained you to feel shame [35:26] Ellen discusses her own miscarriage and eliminating the shame around miscarriages [39:29] How to deal with a miscarriage [43:02] Lack of community is our modern epidemic [46:17] You can refuse to tolerate bad behavior without judging the person [47:45] Ellen shares her superpower [50:55]   FOLLOW ELLEN:   WEBSITE: https://ellenvora.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2SHvs93  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/37BcaGf  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2V0l11A 
Feb 19, 2020
How To Be More Confident | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram with her top tips for developing confidence.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Feb 17, 2020
Tom Bilyeu on What it Actually Takes to Have a Happy Relationship | Women of Impact
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What does it take to make a marriage work? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu invites the person she most trusts to offer insight into that question--her husband of 17 years, Tom Bilyeu. And if nothing else, he’s certainly the only person she could reasonably ask to discuss his most embarrassing relationship stories. Over the course of the episode Tom and Lisa share their history and talk about how to build trust, why you need to keep your sex life alive forever, the extent to which you can influence your partner, and how to deal with changing roles in the relationship.   SHOW NOTES:   Why you have to choose the right person to be with in the first place [3:28] Your personalities can be different, but your values need to be quite similar [6:08] Tom discusses how easy it was to have differences when he wasn’t giving anything up [7:37] “I don’t even know who I am without you.” [13:24] To what extent can you change, manipulate or influence your partner? [14:13] You should never weaponize your knowledge of your partner [16:57] Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of defining words clearly [20:04] Tom talks about defining roles in a relationship [20:58] At first it was incredibly hard for Lisa to admit that she had outgrown being a housewife [25:04] Tom tells the story of how Lisa’s changing role affected him [27:20] Lisa and Tom discuss loving each phase of the relationship for what it is [32:36] You will always find other people attractive [35:19] Never take anything for granted, and keep your sex life alive forever [37:33] “Don’t make me feel bad for asking, and I won’t make you feel bad for saying no.” [41:48] Tom shares the story of how he and Lisa learned to not test each other or drop hints [43:02]   FOLLOW TOM:   WEBSITE: https://impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2UBHWjM  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2UMIFPj  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2SgF7TN 
Feb 12, 2020
Seek Purpose | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about finding purpose in her career.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Feb 10, 2020
Elle Russ on Guaranteed Tips and Tactics to Help You Feel More Confident | Women of Impact
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Too often people confuse confidence with bravado or performance. But the most confident people are sometimes the quietest people in the room. That may not be the insight you’d expect from the author of a book called “Confident as F*ck”. But Elle Russ is dedicated to talking about real, genuine, authentic confidence, without neglecting the importance of vulnerability and relationships. And fortunately, she is also dedicated to helping as many people as possible become comfortable with themselves at all times and in any situation. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Elle Russ shares some of her best advice for building confidence, dealing with jealousy, negativity, nay-sayers and shame, and learning to choose your battles wisely.  Buy Elle's new book 'Confident As F*ck' here: https://amzn.to/31vfTEa This episode is brought to you by: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription.   SHOW NOTES:   What is confidence? [2:38] Confident people are kind, authentic, and unafraid to speak up. [3:20] Elle talks about how she struggled to allow herself to be more vulnerable [6:07] People will project their own lack of confidence onto you [7:57] Confident people choose their battles wisely [10:24] Being jealous and wanting others to lose is a sign of a lack of confidence [14:06] Elle explains being down with “OPC” (Other People’s Confidence) [16:21] Elle talks about how to deal with nay-sayers and negative people [17:13] Don’t try to prove people wrong. Prove yourself awesome. [21:48] Lisa and Elle discuss the importance of changing your perspective on rejection [24:27] We trust confident people because they believe they can figure it out [27:39] Elle discusses shame and disability, and how the shame was actually worse [31:48] Elle describes the blessings that came with her disability [36:42] Confidence is built by overcoming genuinely difficult challenges [37:58] Elle shares her superpower [40:35]   FOLLOW ELLE:   WEBSITE: elleruss.com  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/3b9eYNV  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/36VXi4U  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/37V7jkd 
Feb 05, 2020
Say No | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about taking a break and not feeling bad about it.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Feb 03, 2020
Gabby Reece on How to Balance Your Career, Family and Relationships | Women of Impact
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Gabby Reece was declared one of the five most beautiful women in the world, and she could certainly have made a career out of modeling. But she decided that being pretty wasn’t exactly what she wanted to bring to the table. So she pursued what turned her on, volleyball, and eventually became one of the world’s most successful female athletes. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Gabby Reece talks about how hard it is to determine precisely what you want out of life, and how difficult it is to stay focused on getting it. But she also discusses learning to be vulnerable, shares stories about childhood, marriage and motherhood, and explains why she fulfills different roles in the home than she does in her career.   Check out Gabby's new podcast: https://www.gabriellereece.com/category/the-gabby-reece-show/   This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2   SHOW NOTES: Gabby discusses leveraging her beauty to become more successful in athletics [2:50] Being pretty is not what Gabby wants to bring to the table [5:37] How do you balance being in the present with thinking about where you’ll be in the future? [7:37] Gabby talks about how hard it is to clearly define success and stay focused on it [9:20] Gabby shares the story of her childhood trauma and how she never fit in [11:30] Gabby discusses accepting what cannot be changed [13:19] “Input from your kids is like an ice pick to the eyeball.” [16:47] Gabby credits a lot of her success to fear [19:41] Nothing in life, even a 22-year long marriage, is guaranteed [22:09] Gabby tries to bring the athlete’s attitude of excellence to her relationships too [26:05] Gabby explains why she wants to be submissive in her home life [27:57] Real alpha males need to be compassionate and honorable [30:35] Lisa and Gabby discuss differences between women and men [35:30] Gabby talks about the need to figure out what you really want [40:05] Gabby discusses her attempts to become more vulnerable and more tender [42:22] You have to lose to win [44:54] Gabby shares her superpower [47:25]   FOLLOW GABBY: WEBSITE: gabriellereece.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/38O3Wfd  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2t8xZz2  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Rv811Y 
Jan 29, 2020
Be the Underdog | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about using an underdog mentality to motivate yourself.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jan 27, 2020
Natalie Ellis on Why You've Got to Narrow Your Focus | Women of Impact
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Natalie Ellis is not just the CEO of Boss Babe, she is the embodiment of being a boss babe in real life. But everyone, no matter how successful, can experience chronic health challenges and personal hardship. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Natalie Ellis talks about applying the same consistency and intention she uses in business to solving critical health issues and making a marriage work. She also discusses separating her personal life from her business life, talks about becoming more compassionate towards herself, and describes her hopes for a future family. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES:   Natalie explains exactly how she decides what to focus on [2:46] Natalie describes her process for setting realistic goals and building on them [5:00] Set milestones for success, and have harsh conversations with yourself if you miss them [6:54] How to be honest with yourself without denting your confidence [8:56] Natalie answers the question, “What is your why?” [10:28] What happens when your personal “why” comes into conflict with your business “why”? [11:04] Natalie and Lisa discuss dealing with guilt around having to say no to people [12:36] Natalie talks about wanting to start a family in the future [15:11] It was a real wake-up call for Natalie that she couldn’t completely control her health [16:28] Natalie describes the changes she made in order to become more compassionate [19:27] Natalie gives advice on how to manage stress while building a business [20:43] You have to be really intentional about what you’re doing [25:22] Natalie discusses the health challenges she faced when coming off of birth control [27:04] Natalie doesn’t credit any specific thing for her health improvement [29:29] Lisa talks about her own health struggles as a result of ending birth control use [30:40] Natalie explains how she separates her personal life from work [32:40] Natalie never works week-ends [37:36] Natalie shares her superpower [39:40]   FOLLOW NATALIE:   WEBSITE: https://bossbabe.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2Rct9tJ  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2G9FYyq  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/38uIUBQ 
Jan 22, 2020
Celebrate Small Wins | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about why she's proud and horrified that Women of Impact just hit 100k on YouTube.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jan 20, 2020
If You Struggle with Weight or Dieting, You Need to Listen to This | Women of Impact Health Panel
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Words like self-love, wellness, and health are thrown around so often, but rarely do people delve into how complex those big ideas are. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, a panel of nutrition and fitness experts discusses both their own personal experiences and the ways they have coached other people to better health and self-acceptance. Beth Manos-Brickey, Jen Cohen and Heidi Powell share their stories of dealing with eating disorders, chronic illness and body shame. Along the way they discuss the necessity of taking small steps, sticking to your plan, the difference between trust and control, and learning how to change your own self-talk about food and your body. This episode is brought to you by: Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES:   “Not everyone can be skinny, but everyone can be strong.” [3:47] Heidi recommends always asking why you are chasing a fitness goal [6:18] The goal of loving yourself is too broad, and people need to get specific [9:12] Beth talks about self-acceptance instead of self-love [9:46] Lisa and Heidi discuss the need for supporters and super-friends [11:22] Heidi explains when she decides to cut people out of her life [14:48] Heidi details exactly how she learned to ignore other people’s opinions [15:28] It’s not true that if you have an eating disorder you will always have it [19:43] Beth and Lisa discuss trust versus control, and Beth advocates taking baby steps [21:26] Jen strongly advocates not switching your plans constantly [26:23] Beth recommends refusing to identify with the labels applied to your diet [27:01] Deprivation is not the name of the game [30:21] Lisa talks about how her identity around food has changed [33:02] The stories we tell ourselves have nothing to do with what other people see [35:23] Beth discusses the dangers of trying to manage emotions with food [36:54] Jen advocates really knowing your personality type [39:24] Give yourself permission to avoid shame [40:33] Everyone shares their superpower [42:36]   FOLLOW BETH: https://bit.ly/2T1Es7U FOLLOW JEN: https://bit.ly/35SSuNx  FOLLOW HEIDI: https://bit.ly/35Vwstg 
Jan 15, 2020
Take the Chance | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about taking a chance and changing everything about her life when she married Tom.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Jan 13, 2020
Radhi Shetty on If You Struggle to See the Beauty in Your Own Life, Listen To This | Women of Impact
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Superstar vegan recipe creator and conscious cooking advocate Radhi Devlukia-Shetty has developed quite a following by promoting plant-based food and fashion products. She is also justly known for being honest, compassionate and vulnerable in an online environment where those qualities are rare. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Radhi Shetty talks about setting boundaries, learning to not try to “fix” people, learning to be happy when your peers succeed, and how she overcame body image struggles and embraced healthy, conscious living. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES:   Radhi talks about learning to be happy for other people when they succeed [2:26] Radhi explains that her jealousy had been about not putting in the work [4:44] Radhi describes wanting to create exceptionally good content [6:51] Radhi and Lisa discuss the fact that there will always be haters [9:10] Radhi talks about how she uses meditation [12:35] Radhi shares her story of learning to not try to “fix” people [15:51] Radhi explains why she always gives advice, even when people don’t take it [18:11] Radhi describes her process for setting boundaries [20:28] Radhi says that her online persona is very separate from her husband’s [22:26] Radhi gives advice for people who suffer from social anxiety [24:45] Radhi describes going from struggling with body image to focusing on strength on health [26:30] Radhi talks about food and relationships [30:46] Radhi and Lisa discuss the difference between habitual cravings and the body’s needs [33:46] Radhi shares her reactions to her husband’s busy schedule [36:28] Radhi and Lisa discuss how they make their relationships work [38:52] Radhi explains how she deals with guilt [43:24] Radhi talks about what she’s most excited about next [47:00] Radhi shares her superpower [47:41]   FOLLOW RADHI: INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2QuTDXa 
Jan 08, 2020
Melissa Urban on Want to Feel Better About Yourself? Try this Right Now | Women of Impact
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  Whole30 founder and NYT best-selling author Melissa Urban specializes in helping people change their relationship with food, which often means helping people change their relationships with their loved ones and with their own past. And she herself went through a pretty difficult transformation, from being addicted to heroin to becoming a nutrition and fitness expert. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Melissa Urban discusses every aspect of healthy eating, from the nuts and bolts of dieting to dealing with emotional urges and setting boundaries in social settings. She also talks about empathy and confidence, self-reflection and grace, and explains why sometimes it’s a good idea to ditch the scale and the mirror. This episode is brought to you by:  ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES:   Melissa talks about recovering from drug addiction [3:32] Melissa credits God, therapy, and doing things one at a time for her recovery [5:09] Melissa explains why it’s so dangerous to focus on physical appearance [7:54] Lisa and Melissa discuss dealing with compliments and criticism [10:09] Melissa explains how she gained a sense of self-worth [11:40] Melissa describes the process of becoming empathetic to herself and others [13:01] Melissa talks about ditching the idea that thinness equates to health [14:40] You can’t win an emotional argument with logic, and excuses are emotional [17:10] Melissa discusses why sometimes people don’t want to take back their power [18:44] Melissa talks about how to tell that you are yo-yo dieting [21:07] Melissa explains how to tell when you are using food to deal with stress or trauma [22:40] Melissa describes the process of separating from her husband [25:02] Melissa discusses how to “bomb-proof” your confidence [29:01] Melissa advocates honest self-reflection and giving yourself grace [30:59] Melissa and Lisa talk about belief, religion and God [32:49] Melissa talks about how to deal with food and social situations [36:19] Melissa discusses setting boundaries with people who won’t listen to you [39:49] Melissa talks about food freedom and making clear, shame-free decisions [43:03] Melissa shares her superpower [45:48]   FOLLOW MELISSA:   WEBSITE: https://whole30.com  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2EDRoKh  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2tDLc2N 
Jan 01, 2020
Jamie Kern Lima on How to Deal With Rejection | Women of Impact
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It’s easy to see the fairy-tale ending, that Jaime Kern Lima sold her cosmetics business to L’Oreal for a billion dollars. But what’s not so apparent are the years of constant rejection that she suffered in the beginning when she couldn’t even get her business off the ground. She couldn’t get a business loan and she couldn’t find anyone who would give her product a platform. Most people would certainly have quit. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Jaime Kern Lima explains exactly why she continued to have faith in her intuition, and why she absolutely refused to give up on her mission to create beautiful cosmetics for women who look like her.  This episode is brought to you by ITU.  ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES:   Jamie talks about how she once got fired from Denny’s and how it turned into a gift [2:55] Jamie explains that she found success by following her gut instead of following the money [4:47] “Am I pretty any more?”, Jaime once asked [6:43] Jamie wrote her business plan on her honeymoon and then faced constant rejection [8:09] Jamie explains that she always felt she was meant to help other people [10:50] Jamie and Lisa discuss whether doing things for ego works [12:29] Jamie experiences her faith through her gut feelings and that keeps her going [15:44] Jamie shares the story of finally getting a “yes” from QVC after unending rejection [17:46] Jamie says she kept up through constant failure because she believed in her mission [20:05] Jaime was told that women wouldn’t buy makeup from someone who looked like her [23:21] Jaime explains why she ignored experts who wanted her to follow the normal formula [31:05] Sticking with the authenticity of her brand is the reason it grew to a billion dollar brand [34:29] Jaime worked 100 hour weeks for 10 years, and the stress took a toll on her body [35:41] Jaime talks about how after selling the business she had her first child [41:13] Jaime and Lisa discuss self-care for both women and men [43:26] Jaime shares her superpower [44:41]   FOLLOW Jamie Kern Lima:   INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/36IKCig  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/34yhwAA  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/36RtAPf 
Dec 18, 2019
Prove Them Wrong | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram about her childhood dreams of moving to America.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Dec 16, 2019
Chelsie Hill on If You Want to Stop Doubting Yourself, Listen to This | Women of Impact
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It would have been so easy for Chelsie Hill to give up or to play the blame game after a devastating car accident with a drunk driver left her paralyzed from the waist down. Instead of quitting, though, she pursued her dream of becoming a professional dancer in LA and even started a successful dance team made up entirely of wheelchair-bound dancers. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Chelsie Hill describes struggling to embrace her differences, talks about developing her purpose, and explains why you need to surround yourself with people who want to see you fulfill your dreams. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES:   Chelsie describes learning she was paralyzed and recovering from her accident [3:10] Chelsie explains how she took ownership of her decision to ride with a drunk driver [4:51] Chelsie has to work every day on accepting the reality of her situation [7:50] Chelsie describes the experience of making it onto an able-bodied dance team [10:03] Chelsie advocates accountability to friends as a way to deal with life’s ups and downs [11:58] Once a dancer, always a dancer [14:24] You need your tribe around you, the people who only want to see you succeed [14:42] Chelsie and Lisa discuss the different treatment of physical and mental limitations [16:05] Chelsie shares the story of starting Be Boundless [17:48] People are so much more than the labels attached to them [18:39] Chelsie struggled to embrace people saying, “Chelsie, the wheelchair dancer!” [20:55] Chelsie describes how she developed her purpose [23:57] Chelsie talks about why she defended the drunk driver who caused her accident [25:00] Chelsie must choose every day whether to be a victim or to pursue her dreams [29:26] Chelsie says her paralysis is actually minor compared to the loss of her close friends [32:25] “Everything that I’ve gone through has made me a stronger version of myself” [34:17] Chelsie explains how she changed her mindset [35:22] Chelsie talks about the importance of self-care [36:21] Chelsie shares her superpower [38:20]   FOLLOW Chelsie:   WEBSITE: chelsiehill.com  INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2sJMNDu  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/33PTO2n  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/33RtmWl 
Dec 11, 2019
How To Become a Desirable Partner | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram with her top 5 tips to become more desirable to your partner.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Dec 09, 2019
Amanda Nguyen on How to Go from Feeling Powerless to Changing the World | Women of Impact
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Nobel Peace Prize nominee Amanda Nguyen has achieved stunning success passing legislation to protect the civil rights of rape survivors. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Amanda Nguyen describes exactly what motivated her to take on the entire legal system and its double standards about sexual assault. Along the way, she describes the importance of radical empathy, details exactly how to stay centered on your own internal compass, and advocates just showing up and being present. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 Audible. Right now, for a limited time, you can get 3 months of Audible for just $6.95 a month. That’s more than half off the regular price. Choose 1 audiobook and 2 Audible Originals absolutely free. https://audible.com/WOI or text WOI to 500-500 SHOW NOTES:   Amanda details the experience of going through a rape kit and its legal aftermath [3:36] Amanda describes being betrayed by the criminal justice system [6:32] Amanda asks why evidence from murder trials is never destroyed, but rape kits are [9:57] Outrage fueled Amanda, but it didn’t sustain her. Hope sustains movements. [11:22] What is the difference between referring to people as victims versus survivors? [14:31] The difference between having a dream and having hope is having a plan [15:28] Amanda describes her internal compass, her North Star [16:50] Amanda explains how incredible optimism and outrage helped her deal with politics [17:47] Amanda talks about radical empathy, clear objectives and staying grounded [20:14] Amanda advocates the importance of just showing up and being present [24:27] Amanda deals with pressure simply by reminding herself that it’s not about her [27:15] Amanda talks about having already had two heart surgeries [29:36] Other survivors have been inspired by Amanda’s organization Rise to advocate [33:40] Amanda describes the experience of being seen as nothing more than a victim [35:38] Amanda talks about believing in democracy and running an efficient campaign [36:51] Amanda shares her superpower [40:35]   FOLLOW AMANDA:   WEBSITE: https://www.risenow.us/ INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2P5ZZdl  FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/34PeOYI  TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2LdEKFh 
Dec 04, 2019
Always Stay True to Yourself | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about never losing yourself in a relationship.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Dec 02, 2019
Amy Morin on Why You Should Never Feel Sorry for Yourself | Women of Impact
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After suffering a series of devastating personal losses, Amy Morin was faced with a choice. She could have hope or she could wallow in self-pity. And as a psychotherapist, she worked with many people who faced the same choice. She noticed what separated those who are mentally strong, and now she dedicates herself to helping other people build their mental strength. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Amy Morin explains how to deal with guilt, self-doubt and self-blame, describes how complaining and venting actually damage us, and gives tons of detailed, concrete, constructive advice on building mental strength. This episode is brought to you by: Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES:   Amy explains how she dealt with her loved ones dying [3:46] Amy describes the difference between healthy grief and unhealthy self-pity [6:03] When you are sad in a healthy way you still have hope [7:23] Mentally strong people don’t give away their power [8:30] Just because you think something doesn’t make it true [10:20] Amy and Lisa discuss vulnerability and facing your fears [11:29] Amy discusses the difference between secrecy and privacy [13:57] Amy explains how to deal with self-doubt [15:10] Amy describes toxic self-blame and apologizing [17:13] Lisa and Amy discuss that guilt can be irrational just like any emotion [18:30] Amy discusses how to deal with things that you cannot control [20:35] “There’s this huge misconception that venting makes us feel better” [23:10] Amy explains why you should set boundaries instead of complaining [24:45] Amy advocates changing your own behavior instead of having angry confrontations [25:59] Don’t downplay your success [28:53] How to say thank you [30:24] It’s OK to be proud of the successes you’ve had [32:20] Amy advocates looking at people as opinion-holders, not competitors [33:15] Amy explains the difference between upwards and downwards comparison [34:50] Amy advocates setting aside a specific time to worry [37:48] Parents should not take responsibility for their kids’ emotions [40:13] Parents also should never lose sight of their own values [42:51] Amy shares her superpower [44:48]   FOLLOW AMY:   WEBSITE: https://bit.ly/2pubNgM INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2CYvIre FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2KBbvMB TWITTER: https://bit.ly/35ex8tN
Nov 20, 2019
Make Time For Wellness | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about balancing work and health.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Nov 18, 2019
Lilian Garcia on Why You Should Never Say I Can't | Women of Impact
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  Best known as the first female announcer in the history of WWE, Lilian Garcia has had a long, extraordinary and surprising career as a host, singer, songwriter, and executive producer. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Lilian Garcia shares how she learned to always ask how to do something instead of saying she can’t do it. Along the way, she describes her struggles with marriage and wanting to have children, the stress she experienced as a perfectionist, and why she has decided to be herself and trust that it’s enough. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2   SHOW NOTES:   Lilian describes the first time she ever announced for the WWE and how afraid she was [4:04] Lilian advocates asking “how” instead of saying “I can’t” [7:35] Lilian describes the stress she used to experience by being a perfectionist [8:31] “If it’s causing you stress and you love it, keep at it.” [11:31] Lilian talks about her first marriage, why she stayed, and why she eventually left [13:12] Lilian describes her second marriage and the realization that she wanted kids [19:08] Lilian talks about going to Personal Success Institute and how it changed her [23:54] Lilian advocates always being yourself and trusting that it’s enough [27:00] Lisa and Lilian discuss how much is imprinted on us from a young age [29:12] Lilian explains what it was like being a woman in the WWE [32:25] Lilian talks about how her dedication has helped her in MMA [35:02] Lilian encourages people to stop lying about their age [37:37] Lilian and Lisa discuss why we need to stop judging each other based on age [43:48] Lilian shares her superpower [48:09]   FOLLOW LILIAN:   WEBSITE: https://liliangarcia.com FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/32F1owr INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/32E2VCS TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2NXVyAU
Nov 13, 2019
Be Honest with Your Partner | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption about choosing to not have children.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Nov 11, 2019
Sabrina Kay on How to Deal with Shame, Fear and Guilt | Women of Impact
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Serial entrepreneur, fashion designer, philanthropist and educator Sabrina Kay has accomplished more than even she ever expected she could when she immigrated from South Korea to the US. And on her incredible journey she has learned tough lessons about how to deal with shame, depression, big disappointments and catastrophic setbacks. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Sabrina Kay explains how to deal with cultural and family pressures, why education is so valuable, and how to transform fear into light and grace. This episode is brought to you by: ITU. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2  Audible. Visit Audible.com/WOI today and start your 30-day trial with a free audiobook. That’s Audible.com/WOI, or text WOI to 500-500.   SHOW NOTES:   Sabrina describes growing up in South Korea and its social and cultural pressures [3:06] Sabrina explains that she was educated mostly to be able to educate her future children [4:47] Sabrina shares the story of marrying because she got pregnant [6:23] Sabrina advocates that her successes were driven by fear [9:08] Fear gives you hypervigilance, which shows you that opportunities are everywhere [14:15] Sabrina explains how she chooses which opportunities to pursue [16:07] Sabrina shares how she dealt with shame and depression [19:03] Sabrina explains why she went back to school [21:04] Sabrina claims she wasn’t determined and didn’t have a plan [24:11] Sabrina explains why she got a PhD while running two businesses [27:37] Sabrina describes coming to the realization that she is a workaholic [29:43] Sabrina explains why she cashed out of her investments at the worst time [34:48] Sabrina talks about being villainized for being successful [36:57] Sabrina shares her experience with spirituality and meditation [39:42] Sabrina advocates the necessity of going through suffering [42:37] Sabrina shares her superpower [43:56]   FOLLOW Sabrina Kay:   WEBSITE: https://sabrinakay.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2WGAaEd FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2NfNVH2 TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2WEOo8H
Nov 06, 2019
Communicate Obsessively | Dear Diary
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Host Lisa Bilyeu (@LisaBilyeu) reads a recent instagram caption with her top 7 marriage hacks.   Follow Lisa on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcS28   Follow Women of Impact on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PjcSPG
Nov 04, 2019
Anousheh Ansari on How to Make Your Wildest, Craziest Dreams Real | Women of Impact
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Ground-breaking astronaut, serial entrepreneur and philanthropist Anousheh Ansari is used to accomplishing the impossible. This is a woman who sold a business she and her husband created for $750 million, resisted cultural enormous cultural pressure in order to become an astronaut, and eventually became the first person to blog from space. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Anousheh Ansari describes her devotion to m