Today’s narrative of the independent, strong, secure, empowered woman says we can do anything we want without a man’s approval. We are not victims or damsels in distress, we are total badasses capable of being CEO of Fortune 500 companies, caring mothers, best friends, truck drivers and construction workers. With all that we are and all that we do there are still biological differences we may be ignoring in our fight against society’s narrative of oppression. Is pursuing a man that you’re interested in a defiance of our biological nature or an act of defiance against what men in society say we shouldn’t do? Pastor RC Blakes is a voice for female empowerment that doesn’t dance around hard conversations and addresses the realities women are struggling with in society. He’s the bestselling author of Queenology, Father-Daughter Talks, Soul-Ties and more. He and his wife, Lisa, also host women's conferences to bring healing and power to women in search of a better version of themselves free of abuse and manipulation. Today’s conversation brings us some interesting points, some of which may be triggering: What happens when women pursue men Why women can’t behave like toxic men without consequences Instead of looking for a high-value man, seek out what it takes to be a high-value couple with the right person “Submissive” doesn’t have to be trigger, it can be a clear indication of the man your with There is a relational rhythm of a healthy masucline-feminine dynamic in high-value relationships that may be a better target to aim at in your next relationship. QUOTES: “There’s a price to be paid for a woman who pursues a man.” “If a woman has to jumpstart a man she will have to keep him motivated in the relationship.” “If you need to be married or joined to someone, you don’t need to be married or joined to anyone. In other words, if you’re not a fulfilled, healthy and happy individual as a stand alone, you really don’t need to be joined with anyone.” “When you don’t know your value, people can put you in places that you don’t deserve.” “No woman should submit to a man that demands submission. If a man has to demand submission he does not deserve it.” “Just cause a man can afford you doesn’t mean he can value you.” Follow RC Blakes: Website: https://www.rcblakes.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RobertBlakes/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/RC_Blakes Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rcblakes/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RCBLAKESJR Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Sponsors: Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Visit http://www.srimu.com/lisa to unlock 10% off artisanally crafted NOT cheeses made with plant based ingredients for a delicious new take on the cheeses you adore! Go to athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase!  Go to http://aura.com/lisa for a 14 day free trial to see if your personal information has been leaked online. Visit my sponsor Future: https://tryfuture.co/lisa to try your first month for $19 and make 2023 the year you crush your fitness goals. Go to our sponsor Viome https://tryviome.com/lisa to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping - learn if inflammation is causing your issues!

If you ever needed a louder, clearer, better reason to start taking care of your brain this is it! Women are more likely to get Alzheimer’s than men, and the shocking truth is that it starts in your brain decades before the first symptom! Sound the alarm and grab a seat, you’re going to need all the time and determination you have to start changing the habits that have been doing more harm than good on your brain health. Dr. Daniel Amen, founder of Amen Clinics has scanned brains from all over the world and has one of the largest databases of brain imaging anywhere. He’s scanned brains of A-list celebrities and thought leaders such as Justin Beiber, Jay Shetty, his wife Radhi, and even Lisa’s homie Mel Robbins. In the next hour you’re going to walk away better than ever armed with the knowledge you need to start examining which habits you have that are destroying your brain health: Why you’re at greater risk for anxiety and depression thanks to the emotional side of your brain Using your woman super power to be all over the place doing everything may actually be undiagnosed A.D.H.D. that is killing your orgasms. What you can do with 5 minutes a day to start falling in love with your brain. Dr. Amen is a psychiatrist that has been helping people recover from traumatic brain injury, emotional trauma, childhood trauma, addiction and more. The female brain has developments and experiences unique to women that men do not. Understanding that difference alone is life changing. Check out Dr. Amen’s New Book: Change Your Brain Every Day: https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Brain-Every-Relationships/dp/149645457X  QUOTES: “If you are blessed to live to be 85 or older you have a one in two chance of having dementia or having lost your mind, [...] and Alzheimer’s disease starts in your brain decades before you have any symptoms.” “Your brain is involved with every decision that you make. It’s the organ of loving, learning, and behaving. And when it works right, you tend to work right.” “I love my mind, but it’s a trouble maker.” “It’s the undisciplined mind that’s driving the epidemic of teenage depression.” “Every part of your brain you don’t use becomes less active over time.” “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary feeling.” Follow Dr. Daniel Amen: Website: https://danielamenmd.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCdHz-vi0JIugmscU_CkUxUQ  Twitter: https://twitter.com/DocAmen   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doc_amen/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drdanielamen    Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Sponsors: Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Visit http://www.srimu.com/lisa to unlock 10% off artisanally crafted NOT cheeses made with plant based ingredients for a delicious new take on the cheeses you adore! Go to athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase!   Go to http://aura.com/lisa for a 14 day free trial to see if your personal information has been leaked online. Visit my sponsor Future: https://tryfuture.co/lisa to try your first month for $19 and make 2023 the year you crush your fitness goals. Go to our sponsor Viome https://tryviome.com/lisa to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping - learn if inflammation is causing your issues!

First dates can be so much fun but we tend to make them way too intense when we start overthinking everything. You’ve got the right outfit, hair and makeup are on point, but when it comes to conversation how deep are you willing to go? One of the biggest challenges when you start dating is secretly decoding what he meant when he said that? You start conference-calling your closest friends to play detective and decipher his messaging, but why are you not asking him what you really want to know? Why are women so scared of asking the wrong questions and scaring him off too early? It’s clearly better for us all, emotionally, to find out A.S.A.P is he really into you, does he just want to hook up, or is he really searching for a committed relationship. Matthew Hussey has been giving women massive truth bombs about men, dating, and how to not be broken hearted for years. His YouTube channel is clearly a fan favorite with close to 3 million subscribers and almost half a BILLION views on his content. This bite sized nugget is worth replaying and really thinking through before your next date. If you’re already several dates in, this episode is still for you too. Matthew is very clear that you have to stop dismissing and trying to explain away when your partner is saying difficult things for you to hear. Him: “Not looking for a serious relationship.” You: “Well, one day he will…” Stop getting stuck in cycles and start listening and being brave enough to ask the hard questions that really matter to you. Matthew Hussey has been a guest here on several episodes all binge worthy, and he’s said often, “You can’t scare off the right person for you.” Ask the questions and listen to the answers! Previous Episodes with Matthew Hussey Relationship Truth Bombs: Finding the Right One: https://youtu.be/3xyaIh154HE He’s Not Serious About You: https://youtu.be/pse1IbIc7vM Avoid This Type of Guy: https://youtu.be/y-Oy9VYg4wM When He Doesn’t Value You: https://youtu.be/qW7eC_BAqhQ QUOTES: “If someone is telling you something that will make their life more difficult to tell you then it’s probably true.” “We have this real idea of heroes and villains that we need to let go of.” “A lot of men aren’t liars, they're just great avoiders.” “Women have to be brave enough to ask the questions that they’re afraid of the answers to.” “Be kind in your tone but ruthless in your actions.” Follow Matthew Hussey: Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Make sure you check out the full interview I did with Matthew Hussey right here! - https://pdst.fm/e/chrt.fm/track/G9GD5F/traffic.megaphone.fm/GRWD9931782208.mp3?updated=1673391422

Being in a sex deprived marriage or relationship doesn’t sound like the goal everyone is aiming for, yet so many people have found themselves in this exact situation. The number of reasons you may be experiencing this in your particular relationship could be anything. Tom and Lisa are answering the question, how to survive a sexual drought when the sex drive is super low. They get super vulnerable as Lisa shares her experience feeling less sexual and not being able to have sex as often because of her medical issues. They are sharing the 2 biggest pieces of advice to help you thrive and survive your next sex drought. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Understanding | Why it’s not a sexual drought when there are serious medical issues [0:45] No Pressure | Lisa on how supportive Tom was during her medical issues, no pressure [1:41] Feeling Sexual | Feeling less sexual and badly even if your partner is being supportive [3:07] Open Talks |Having open talks about how you’re feeling, no judgement, just check in [4:40] Incest Taboo | A sexless marriage gives room for incest taboo, turning into roommates [6:19] Maintenance | 2 ways to keep your relationship alive: frequent sex & communication [9:42] Compromising | When sex drives are mismatched and not aligned, meet in the middle [12:09] Changing Love | Tom on ways to fall in love again with physical changes & feel desired [13:54] Secret to 20 Years | Lisa shares how having the uncomfortable conversations is the key [17:25] QUOTES: “Be open about how you're feeling. It's no judgement, it's no pressure on the other person.” Lisa Bilyeu [4:43] “You have to have sex often. You have to be very thoughtful not to let much time elapse. because it keeps that relationship dynamic alive.” Tom Bilyeu [9:45] “In a marriage, you have to negotiate this stuff, and that means that each of you are going to give a little.” Tom Bilyeu [13:00] “Why isn't he attracted to me anymore?’, [...] because neither of you ever created the space in the first place that you could have the honest discussion” Lisa Bilyeu [19:08] Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5

It’s hard enough to leave a bad relationship when you’re not seeing eye to eye or you find out you value different things or your partner has cheated on you. It’s even harder leaving when you’re not sure if you’re the problem and you’re questioning if you’re being dramatic and people around you don’t think you should. Dr. Ramani, clinical psychologist, and narcissist expert, points out that in narcissistic relationships everyday isn’t a bad day and that can make it really hard for people in relationship with them to realize they are trapped and even harder to feel validated in leaving. Part of the reason it’s so difficult to thrive in a narcissistic relationship is because there is a splitting of your identity in a way that Dr Ramani describes as “you getting rid of yourself” in exchange for whatever peace you can have. You learn over time how to not anger your partner. You realize that anything good for you sets your partner off and causes arguments and the gaslighting begins to make you believe it’s all your fault. This episode is for the woman that needs hope and a strategy to survive the narcissistic abuse and thrive even if you have to stay a while longer. Your reason to stay or leave is not for anyone’s approval or disapproval You can get your strength and validation elsewhere You can become narcissist resistant and keep your identity Reasons for staying are not to be shamed, your reasons to stay may be valid, but know with eyes wide open why you’re staying and how to navigate the turmoil to come out of this okay. QUOTES: “The vast majority of narcissistic relationships are not violent and it’s important to make that distinction.” “The thing to remember that is unique to narcissistic abuse is that everyday isn’t bad.” “The mistake people make, [...] is they come in and they be themselves. Well if your “self” is at odds with what the narcissist wants, they’re going to shut that down.” “This idea of the narcissistic person as a simple one dimensional cartoon villain is just not real.” “Part of radical acceptance is being okay with them being set off.” “I don’t think we talk enough about how difficult parenting is, and instead we criticize parents all the time or we give them the absolutely most ridiculous advice in the world.” “When you show me something bad that you can do to me, you’ve now shown me what’s in your behavioral repertoire, and the only absolute in psychology is that past behavior predicts future behavior.” Follow Dr. Ramani: Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorRamanDurvasula Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani Podcast: http://doctor-ramani.com/podcasts-feat-dr-ramani/ Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Sponsors: Visit http://www.srimu.com/lisa to unlock 10% off artisanally crafted NOT cheeses made with plant based ingredients for a delicious new take on the cheeses you adore! Go to athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase!  Go to http://aura.com/lisa for a 14 day free trial to see if your personal information has been leaked online. Visit my sponsor Future: https://tryfuture.co/lisa to try your first month for $19 and make 2023 the year you crush your fitness goals. Go to our sponsor Viome https://tryviome.com/lisa to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping - learn if inflammation is causing your issues!

It’s becoming more and more evident there are a host of things women are dealing with that not only destroy our bodies, but they also destroy our confidence and ability to show up and go as hard as we want. Dr. Gabrielle Lyons, a functional medicine physician and muscle-centric advocate for metabolic health and longevity, shares startling data that 73% of people are either overweight or obese. If you’re a woman dealing with PCOS, hormonal imbalances, and gut issues, chances are you are absolutely struggling with your weight. This episode is for you today if you’ve been fixated and obsessing over cutting calories, doing more cardio, and resorting to starving during the day only to binge eat at night. Let's be honest, there’s a bunch of crap being marketed to us and deciphering reliable information from BS myths and none-evidence-based beliefs shared from ulterior motives and political agendas is making a lot of people feel hopeless, overwhelmed and confused. Let’s end that crap right here. Key areas of re-information we’re focusing on in this episode include: Cycles of crash dieting are absolutely destroying your health Move away from the fat phobic model to an empowering muscle centric model  Health at any size is devastating people and is not that same as loving yourself QUOTES: “Obesity is a symptom of unhealthy muscle, it is not the focal point of the problem.” “Saying health at any size is a real thing, I’m not sure where that came from. Health and worth are two different things.” “High quality protein is animal based protein.” “Being sedentary and not moving is what I consider to be a sick state.” “Obesity is definitely one of the leading causes of cancer and death.” Follow Dr. Gabrielle Lyon: Website: https://drgabriellelyon.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWPQJeWz4pvccA3lIoZ7j1Q  Twitter: https://twitter.com/drgabriellelyon  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drgabriellelyon/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorgabriellelyon/  Podcast: https://drgabriellelyon.com/podcast/  Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Sponsors: Visit http://www.srimu.com/lisa to unlock 10% off artisanally crafted NOT cheeses made with plant based ingredients for a delicious new take on the cheeses you adore! Go to athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase!  Go to http://aura.com/lisa for a 14 day free trial to see if your personal information has been leaked online. Visit my sponsor Future: https://tryfuture.co/lisa to try your first month for $19 and make 2023 the year you crush your fitness goals. Go to our sponsor Viome https://tryviome.com/lisa to get 20% off your first 3 months and free shipping - learn if inflammation is causing your issues!

Relationships can be so beautiful and amazing. Two people from totally different lives come together and fall under a spell with each other, and life never felt better. As you get deeper into the relationship, you learn more about each other and now have to find ways to communicate and understand each other’s values, habits and quirky ways. When love is not enough to sustain a massive collision of values, how do you respond? Is walking away the best option because you don’t agree or see eye to eye? In this episode, Tom and Lisa take you into the deep end of what it means to “steel man” each other and how to find compromise when there seems to be no room for compromise.. Not surprisingly, at the heart of their advice and wisdom is strong communication with one another. This is what a strong relationship and partnership looks like. SHOW NOTES: Perception Matters | Understanding how radically different perceptions can be [1:52] Collision of Values | Find out if you’re on the same page and what you think the other should be doing [7:17] Communication | Lisa shares how it always comes back to detailed communication [9:56] Value System | Know your personal value system and how it feeds into your relationship [13:06] Steel Man | Understanding your partners position, see and understand at their soul level [16:11] Compromise | Find the tradeoff after sharing each other’s perspectives for path forward [18:51] Judged Beliefs | Lisa explains why not to judge a person’s belief as right or wrong [22:19] Malleable Beliefs | Tom explains how beliefs can be changed when held to your values [22:58] No Judgement | Lisa on how to effectively approach conflict and express yourself [24:03] QUOTES: “...it isn't going to be a straight division of labor. So it's like that we're each carrying a load that we're happy to carry.” Tom Bilyeu [8:38] “If I've actually asked you to help [...] because I've reached out, but it's not an expectation, I think that's the difference” Lisa Bilyeu [12:43] “when somebody gives you the keys of the kingdom, they've also given you the way to hurt them” Tom Bilyeu [15:13] “You have to be able to articulate the other person's position so accurately, that they feel seen, understood, not judged. Because when you steel man it, you're not trying to set them up.” Tom Bilyeu [16:58] “...there's a lot of power in the being angry about something. Aim it at the behavior and not the person.” Tom Bilyeu [25:11] Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/

The men you attract and find yourself in relationships with reveal more about you, your wounds, your insecurities and the parts of you that need healing and growth. Looking externally for safety, love, and validation is not only an unhealthy way to move through relationships, it’s also a toxic way of living that doesn’t serve your higher purpose and it will never create the peace you’re looking for. Not every woman has experienced seeing a man completely open, vulnerable, and exposed. Honestly speaking, sadly, not many women are able to deal with the rawness of men’s emotions. Yet, there is something comforting from hearing today’s guest, Lewis Howes, share about the emotional trigger and pain that men go through. Lewis went from the cheating ladies man, emotionally closed off, and easily triggered insecure jealous partner-type to a man looking forward to marriage in a committed loving relationship that has healed his some serious past traumas and emotional triggers. Lewis Howes is the bestselling author of the book, The Mask of Masculinity, ultra successful entrepreneur, host of the podcast and YouTube channel, The School of Greatness. In this conversation with Lisa, Lewis brings up some challenging questions that are worth sitting with and giving some extra time and attention as you either navigate through your current relationship or spend time alone before your next relationship. Who do you need to be in your relationship? How do you want to show up for yourself in that relationship? How do you expect your partner to show up in the relationship? Are you looking to your partner to meet your needs, make you happy, and make you feel safe? Do you expect your partner to walk on eggshells to avoid triggering your insecurities and past traumas? What vision do you have for your relationship and does it support you living in your purpose and highest self? Are you gravitating towards relationships because you need and want love from someone to feel whole, validated and accepted? Check out Lewis Howes latest book, The Greatness Mindset: https://www.amazon.com/Greatness-Mindset-Unlock-Power-Today-ebook/dp/B0B6ML61NP QUOTES: “That drive was coming from a wound where I was not willing to accept and fully love who I was and all the things I was ashamed of from the past “You cannot buy peace, you must be ‘peace’ in all situations and that means standing in the face of people being upset with you constantly for not giving them what they want.” “A man without a mission is a scary man. A man who is not on his purpose has more potential to be harmful than good.” “If you don’t accept someone you’re with, don’t be with them, and if they don’t accept you, then why are you guys together?” “You’ve got to learn certain things without running from them in the face of adversity.” “I will not allow myself to abandon myself ever again in this relationship or in any relationship.” Follow Lewis Howes: Website: https://lewishowes.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lewishowes Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/ Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Sponsors: Post your job for free at http://www.linkedin.com/Lisa. Terms and conditions apply. Visit http://www.srimu.com/lisa to unlock 10% off artisanally crafted NOT cheeses made with plant based ingredients for a delicious new take on the cheeses you adore! Go to athleticgreens.com/impact and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! 

Trigger warning to all of you lovely high functioning, independent women here that got your sh*t together. You’re about your business, taking care of home, crushing it in business or your career, and even though relationships aren’t perfect, you’re the one everyone turns to for advice and support to get through their problems. The problem is.. Are you really sacrificing yourself and your peace being a high functioning codependent person to everyone around you? It feels good to be the person the people you care about turn to when their life is falling apart. You get validation from it, but you’re also easily over invested in their decisions and their relationships to a flaw. Terri Cole, the Boundary Boss, is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. In 15 minutes she breaks down what codependency looks like for those of us that are high functioning and living the life. If you find yourself constantly saying, “I’ve got it” “I’m good” “I’m fine” you need to take a break right away and listen up! Plug the codependency holes leaking energy from your life, and change your boundaries by changing the script. Learn that sitting with someone in their pain and mess-ups builds beautiful, healthy, reciprocal relationships that are much better for both of you. QUOTES: “If you have a lot of resentment you’re probably dealing with codependency as well.” “When we’re codependently attached, we’re overly invested to the point where it is disrupting our own internal experience.” “When you’re overly invested in fixing the lives of others you’re not being independent.” “We’re doing it all, but at the expense of ourselves, our health, our inner peace, and our joy.” “It is so much more loving instead of to fix people, to be with people in their pain.” “Be a good listener, that is love.” Follow Terri Cole: Website: https://www.terricole.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Make sure you check out the full interview I did with Terri Cole right here! - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kGAQATAJdhI27PuPVJvvj?si=5wtQac_uStGnsyqJzVth8g Sponsors: Post your job for free at http://www.linkedin.com/Lisa. Terms and conditions apply.

Let’s be honest. There’s a lot of BS we’ve been accepting as the “norm” that we really should be questioning. High stress levels? Of course stress sounds normal, who isn’t stressed and your stress levels are sky high. You’re running around doing everything and trying to be everything for everyone and you're checking social media in between.  Appetite out of control? Why wouldn’t it be? You don’t have time to prioritize sleep, so you’re also tired, and you get insane cravings for all the carbs, the sweet and salty things that betray you later. Is anyone stopping to think that maybe your hormones are the culprit? When was the last time you heard “hunger hormones” used together? Dr Amy Shah joined us for the first time to talk about why we’re so “Effing Tired” and how hormones, fasting, and circadian rhythms are different for women. This time Dr Amy is joining us to share about the hunger hormones making you so “Effing Hungry” that increases stress levels, increases overwhelm, and makes adulting in our relationships 10 times harder. A few ideas Dr Amy Shah shares that will blow your mind: What you eat changes and controls your mood Every 10% increase in processed food you eat leads to a 21% jump in depression Hunger hormones drive you to do the best and worst things for your body Dr. Amy Shah is a double-board certified medical doctor that specializes in food allergies, hormones and gut health for women. She’s passionate about women’s health and disseminating health information for women to have healthier, happier, fitter lives. Check out Amy Shah’s latest book, I’m So Effing Hungry: https://www.amazon.com/Im-So-Effing-Hungry-Crave/dp/0358716918  QUOTES: “I wish more people understood that what you eat influences the gut bacteria, [...] and tells us how to feel, what to crave, what to ask for and what our mood should be.” “You can actually eat to change your mood.” “If we don’t know how to control our mood, how to soothe ourselves, how to create a positive dopamine response, we are going to be stuck with the defaults and the defaults that are trying to control our mood want us to be addicted to TikTok, to food, to alcohol…” “What America has done is make a fiber-less society.” “Feeding your gut bacteria, keeping them happy, growing more of them, bringing more diversity to it is our way out of this huge epidemic we’ve created for ourselves.” “What is ultra-processed food? [...] Food that contains ingredients that could never be recreated in a kitchen.” “For every 10% increased processed food that you have in your diet, there’s a jump of depression by 21%, [...] our grocery stores are 75% ultra-processed.” “Don’t tell everyone you’re wins because you want to retrain your body to keep yourself motivated for the next step.” “My biggest goal is to help people out of this horrible place that so many of us are in. Our mental health is suffering.” Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Dr. Amy Shah: Website: https://amymdwellness.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dr.confidentialwithdr.amys7371/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/amyshahmd  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fastingmd/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drconfidential/

Learning how to deal with your family as an adult is an ongoing struggle many of us still haven’t figured out. When unhealthy family dynamics make it difficult to visit your grandparents and the thought of visiting your parents brings on dread and anxiety, there’s definitely issues you’ll want to address. If you’re finding yourself trapped in a turbulent family relationship you don’t know how to escape, Nedra Glover Tawwab, world renowned clinical psychologist, relationship expert and queen of boundaries, is sharing everything you need to know to set important boundaries, become who you want to be, or cut ties if needed. Nedra’s latest book, Drama Free, is all about better managing unhealthy relationships and no longer accepting the dysfunction within families that keeps people tied to misery, dishonesty, disrespect and abuse long after they have the power and ability to say enough is enough. This episode is about: Breaking up with the dysfunction that started in your childhood Having the strength to walk away from even your family if needed Being able to have difficult conversations if you choose Check out Nedra’s Latest Book, Drama Free: https://www.amazon.com/Drama-Free-Man... QUOTES: “Do we need to go to the people who are causing the harm for validation of the harm?” “I’m loyal to love, I’m not loyal to abuse, I’m not loyal to abandonment…” “How do you change your role in the relationship when you’re not ready to leave? Because not every relationship is to be discarded.” “We have to believe in who we’re becoming.” “People don’t have to be in relationship with you after you’ve offended them.” “The confidence I have now is practiced.” “I can live with not knowing, and it’s much harder to live with blaming myself.” “We have to get into the practice of understanding that our job in this relationship is not to control it, it’s not to change the culture, it is to be in community with people…” “We have to look at the intensity of our emotions because the intensity tells us there may be some history to what is happening.” “‘Just how we are’ could be dysfunctional. What's normal doesn’t mean it’s natural, it’s healthy, it’s the way things should be. Normal can be chaos, normal can be a high level of dysfunction.” “Sometimes with family it’s almost as if there’s an expectation of you lowering your expectations.” “It’s not about changing everyone else and how they show up with you, it's about changing you and how you show up with them.” Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nedratawwab/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/nedratawwab... Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5

There are so many things that happen in life against our will. Traumatic experiences that were 100% out of your control still leave you feeling like you’re somehow to blame.The weight of that guilt and shame can bury your hopes, your dreams, and any chance you have for a better life, if you allow it. Bozoma Saint John is not just a highly respected, award winning, Hall of Famer Marketing Executive that has been at the head of marketing for big companies like Netflix, Uber and Apple. “Badass” Boz is a survivor that has overcome loss and trauma at multiple stages of life. She decided to share her story and her lessons in her book, The Urgent Life. This is the episode you’ll want to take a seat for. Woman to woman, no one wants to experience not even one of her losses, and yet she shares how she experienced, processed, and moved through it each time to become the most powerful version of herself standing, and this is apart from the most insanely successful career she’s had so far. Become the most powerful person you know Stop making yourself the victim. It is not your fault You have the power to choose your own destiny Check out Bad Boz’s book, The Urgent Life: https://www.amazon.com/Urgent-Life-Story-Love-Survival/dp/0593300173 QUOTES: “I’ve been at the bottom. I’ve been at the place where it is so dark that I didn’t want to see light again.” “I'm the most powerful person I know because I’ve been there and I’ve been able to survive it.” “The weight of that guilt will lay you down and it will bury you.” “It’s not that you were too busy. You made a choice! You decided that thing was more important.” “If I’m in a situation, work or otherwise, that is not serving me, I have to make the choice to save myself. I love myself more than I love the situation of toxicity.” “You are not stuck. You do not have to do anything. When you say that you are giving the power away You have a choice! “I had to sacrifice my marriage in order to save myself and to make me the better person that I knew was capable of walking this planet.” Follow Bozoma Saint John: Website: https://www.bozomasaintjohn.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/badassboz Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/badassboz/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaintBoz Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5

Becoming your own boss is exciting and empowering when you dream about it and see it romanticized on social media, but the reality of doing what it actually takes to be your boss is freaking scary. When you want to go out on your own, become your own boss, have the freedom to work where you want and when you want but you’re scared sh*tless don’t you dare quit! You are 100% capable of leading yourself, being your own boss, and being a successful entrepreneur. It’s not going to happen without fear, anxiety, nerves, and all the negative chatter in your head working overtime to convince you otherwise, and we've got the online marketing expert and multi million dollar entrepreneur and author of Two Weeks Notice, Amy Porterfield, here to break it down for you step by step. Amy went from corporate girl to million dollar success story that still struggled with doubts and belief that she was enough. In this episode Amy and Lisa are coming for all of your excuses: The story in your head is just a story, you can totally change it Trying to feel “safe” will keep you playing “small” but you’ve got BIG dreams Stop letting people have opinions about how you live your life Behind your fear is a thought many of us have, ‘what will people think?’ The powerhouse question Amy is asking you to ask yourself here is this, ‘what are you willing to burn down and build back to create the life you absolutely want?’ It may be relationships, toxic dependencies, lack of boundaries, or a miserable nine to five you feel stuck at. How much is your happiness worth? What are you willing to do to build the life you dream of? Permission from others is not needed. Check out Amy’s book, Two Weeks Notice: https://amzn.to/3Z6aO1y QUOTES: “You do it scared. You do it even though you don’t believe in yourself. Action creates clarity, it is essential” “Until you’re willing to let go of that safety net you will always be playing small.” “My capacity for zero is very high. I will burn this down and build it back up if I have to to get my business back to just be for me.” “The worst day as an entrepreneur is still better than your best day in your nine to five job.” “When you go after your dreams, be careful who you tell. Not everybody deserves to hear about your dreams.” “It’s so important to know what you stand for and who you are before you put yourself out there and allow other people to have opinions.” “Proven to yourself that you can get back up when you get knocked down is the only way I know to find confidence.” “We still deal with the stuff that we dealt with on day one of being an entrepreneur. We just can navigate it in such a different way now.” Follow Amy : Website: https://www.amyporterfield.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmyPorterfield Twitter: https://twitter.com/amyporterfield Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amyporterfield/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AmyPorterfield/ Podcast: https://www.amyporterfield.com/amy-porterfield-podcast/ Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5

To have children or not to have children is a choice that you as an empowered woman gets to decide for herself. The problem is that it’s hard to distinguish between where you stand on the topic apart from your family and social pressures. Dr. Shefali is the bestselling author of the book, The Conscious Parent, the book that Oprah herself sends to anyone she knows even considering being a parent. Dr. Shefali’s no holds barred approach to parenting is the thing you need whether you’re leaning towards having kids or trying to steer clear from the conversation for another several years. This is the episode where Dr. Shefali is debunking myths of motherhood and exposing unrealistic expectations of stepping into or away from your maternal instincts. Your bandwidth and capacity to become a mother, an entrepreneur, a career woman, or stay at home wife doesn’t fall into a group decision, it’s a decision for you alone first, and a conversation with your partner second. Dr. Shefali reveals what a powerful teacher parenting can be for us as individuals, but she also exposes how giving birth can be psychological death for women that’s a huge impact and traumatic experience in anyone’s relationship. If you’re on the fence of having children or not wanting to have them, give yourself grace and time to make an accurate assessment of how you really feel about having a child. If your pressure to decide is coming from cultural beliefs, wanting to fit in with your social circle of friends all having children, or you think a child will bring you and your partner closer together, then stop everything and take heed to Dr. Shefali’s fire advice. Check out her latest book, The Parenting Trap: https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Map-Step-Step-Parent-Child/dp/0063267950 QUOTES: “Having children is the biggest libido buster ever.” “When you really surrender to the hard intense labor that parenting is and stop fighting all the things that you could’ve been, then you actually embrace the journey and you get the jewels of this journey.” “See the parenting relationship as an opportunity to not just parent the child before you, but the inner child, and that’s what our children teach us.” “There’s nothing like parenting to bring your value systems as a couple out into the light like never before.” “Children learn very quickly to give up who it is they authentically are in order to get the crumbs of connection.” “Part of becoming a conscious parent is to understand that you have to break free from the lies that exist in the matrix.” “Raise the child before you, not the child of your fantasy.” “We think we should be raising a happy child, what we don’t realize is that we’re just raising a human, and humans have a lot of moods.” “Own your limitations and ask for help.” “Women’s maternal instinct doesn’t all need to come out with a child, so you can express your maternalism in many ways…” “The greatest obstacle of transformation is our resistance to the new and our deep attachment to what we were.” “Raising a young child is a masterclass in embracing the unknown, a masterclass in being in the present, a PhD beyond belief of surrendering to the unknown and embracing the havoc, the chaos and staying equanimous…” Follow Dr Shefali: Website: https://www.drshefali.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrShefali TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorshefali/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorshefali Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - http://bit.ly/412oInk FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5

When you’ve been hurt by someone you trusted, it feels impossible that you’ll ever let go of the pain and shame around what happened and be able to stand in your power again. The truth is that though you feel like a victim, and you feel taken advantage of, or like you’re completely broken, it is possible to move past this situation and open yourself to love and safety without fear. Najwa Zebian has joined us on Women of Impact multiple times and each time she’s been able to put words to the pain that has blindsided many women and offer a new perspective through which we can move out of survival mode and truly start healing.  She’s the bestselling author of Welcome Home, Mind Platter, Sparks of Phoenix and so much more. As a woman she’s experienced the difficulties of life, going against culture, and being open and vulnerable with the wrong people.  In this episode, Najwa and Lisa are bringing you a fresh look at setting boundaries. It’s not about keeping people out or giving other people a set of rules to follow, it’s about your personal value and how you see your self-worth. Being a people pleasing woman may have landed you in painful situations, but you can make peace with that version of you and ask yourself the one question that will bring you to tears, healing, and freedom. QUOTES: “The number one most important thing about boundaries is not to focus them on others.” “When you don’t set a boundary and you end up giving too much of yourself you feel resentful towards others and towards yourself.” “The compromise should never be your authenticity, your true self, or you honoring who you are as a person.”  “Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for someone is to stop giving them your kindness.” “I’m no longer waiting for someone to come and save me. I’m no longer waiting for someone to come and speak to me the way I know I deserve to be spoken to, [...] now I see that I’m the one responsible for giving myself those things.” “Make sure that the people you idolize and take advice from that you also give yourself permission to question whether you believe what they’re telling you.” “The first question you ask yourself is, ‘who are you really?’” “It’s the people that want to judge. These are the people that can get in the way of our growth…” Lisa Bilyeu Follow Najwa Zebian: Website: https://najwazebian.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian  Twitter: https://twitter.cokkfdlk dfmlkfd m/najwazebian  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1  Podcast: https://najwazebian.com/stories-of-soul-podcast Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5

There are few things in life more special than experiencing a lifelong love with a partner that you can grow and evolve with through anything. How can you create that experience with so many complexities and confusion around how to come together and get on the same page? Tom Bilyeu is not only a co-founder of Quest Nutrition, he’s also the co-founder and business partner of Impact Theory alongside Lisa Bilyeu. They’ve officially passed 20 years of marriage, of navigating each other’s identities, ambitions and health scares and come from zero to a billion and are still going? Relationships are hard enough without the addition of outside stress and pressure, but you’ve figured that out. So, then what has Tom and Lisa figured out over 20 years that’s helped them survive their toughest year together? 2022 was a year that would have broken most relationships and this episode is a candid look into the level of communication and commitment that Tom and Lisa have developed through the years. Relationship takeaways from this episode: Have a shared vision of the future you can move towards together Majority of relationship problems are a frame of reference problem There’s often an insecurity at the base of your anger, know what it is to resolve conflict Emotions feel like fact, proceed with caution Write down 5-10 values in every area of your life in a single sentence and order them. QUOTES: “It’s easy to be in something when it’s just fun and games, but it becomes harder to be in something when times are hard.” “You can’ be looking for why it's the other person’s fault, you have to be looking for what am I doing wrong.” “Ladies, if you want to become the hardest core possible version of yourself, my advice, do it in a way that is different from your man.” “When two well intelligent well-meaning people collide they have a different base assumption.” “There is nothing better that life has to offer you than a shared life, that’s why people love friends, people love family, it’s why being in a marriage is amazing.” “PSA, if you have a strong emotion, you can’t trust it.” “They say the greatest hell is meeting the version of you that you could’ve been.” “Pick a path that doesn’t over optimize for today.” Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5

Are you wondering what the most crucial core values are in establishing a healthy relationship or marriage? When it comes down to it, it’s about your ability to communicate your most important values with each other and establishing a way to honor them every day. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore what the most important values you need to be aware of with your partner and how to communicate them in an open and honest way. They discuss why you have to be vulnerable and open up with your partner, why you have to hold onto your passions, why recognizing beauty and attractiveness should be normalized, what unconditional love really means, why you need to embrace commitment, how to overcome feelings of jealousy, and much more. SHOW NOTES: Core Values | Tom shares the important values you need to communicate. [0:30] Insecurity | Tom and Lisa discuss why you have to be vulnerable in a relationship. [3:52] Passion | Tom shares the importance of holding onto your passions. [4:30] Powerful | Lisa discusses seeing attractive people and still choosing your partner. [4:55] Unconditional | Tom and Lisa discuss the true important things that matter. [6:46] Embrace It | Lisa and Tom share why you have to get committed. [7:40] Jealousy | Lisa shares why you should never fear jealousy in your relationship. [10:45] Secure | Tom shares why you have to make your partner feel safe and secure. [12:14] QUOTES: “…at the end of the day, there’s got to be things that you guys share, that you’re really clicking on, that you’re both passionate about, that you come alive when you talk about, that you’re going to be able to enjoy together…” [4:40] “Being in a relationship should make you feel better about yourself. Period.” [9:15] Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

“You’ll never be good enough for the wrong person.” -Stephan Speaks It’s easy to tell our friends about why the person you're with isn’t making the cut. Your partner has annoying habits, the sex isn’t that great, it’s not as good as it was when you first hooked up, or they stopped doing the things that grabbed your attention at the beginning.  Of all the reasons we can chat over a bottle (or two) of wine about explaining why our relationship isn’t working out, rarely do we reflect on ourselves and how we showed up in that relationship. Stephan Speaks has been helping women (and men) have more fulfilling relationships with the kind of advice that cuts straight through the B.S. and gets right to the heart of the matter. The 100+ million views on his YouTube channel speaks for itself.  How do you avoid another bad relationship? How do you choose the best partner for you and invest your time wisely to find the right partner for you? Lisa is digging in and asking all the questions we think about and Stephan is delivering on the hard truths we don’t want to hear, but we need to hear if we’re serious about having a loving, long-term, healthy relationship. You deserve to thrive in your relationship and that means bringing all of you and the best of you to the table with your partner. Some the hard issues Stephan and Lisa are hitting on include: Why relationship tricks and hacks don’t build meaningful relationships Great sex alone is never a valid reason to stay with anyone Exposing the lies and B.S. we’ve been told are the “norm” for relationships It’s time to stop compromising and setting yourself up for heartache and start making better decisions to find and create the relationship of your dreams. QUOTES: “By holding back you’re essentially giving your partner a free pass to do the same.” “The same walls that you have up to protect you are the same walls blocking your blessing, [...] Love cannot flow in and out with a wall up, it’s restricting your ability to receive and give it.” “When there is connection differences can actually compliment each other and find joy in each other.” “Real love is a two way thing, [...] for you to be able to say you are in love with someone in a romantic sense and they do nothing for you, I think that’s impossible.” “Anything that is at conflict with you and your spirit we need to address it and we should not accept it.” “If you’re not able to show up 100% in your relationship, trust and believe that you’re not giving 100% in other areas of your life.” “A man who really loves a woman wants to make her happy and takes joy in it.” Follow Stephan Speaks: Website: https://www.stephanspeaks.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow  Twitter: https://twitter.com/StephanSpeaks  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships/  Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Sponsor: Post your job for free at http://www.linkedin.com/Lisa. Terms and conditions apply.

Knowing the difference between being in a healthy relationship and being in a relationship with someone that has narcissistic traits can save you a world of pain and frustration. One of the worst things that can happen in your relationship is finding out after time invested and even kids being involved that your partner is narcissistic and gaslighting you every chance they get. Dr. Ramani has been shining the light on the dark side of narcissism for years. The 155M+ views of her channel is very telling that women (and men) are trying to understand and identify narcissism, and figure out how to heal the trauma and emotional damage that comes with being in a relationship with one. This episode exposes the power play, insecurity, and fragility of the narcissist’s ego. They don’t want to see you out shine, outperform, or surpass them on any level. Setting boundaries and exhibiting strength and power is not something they will tolerate from you. So what do you do if you find yourself bound and attached to an unhealthy relationship being gaslit in a never ending cycle of narcissistic abuse? Dr. Ramani’s solution is “Don’t go D.E.E.P. Watch this episode to find out exactly what that means. QUOTES: “In a healthy relationship both partners support the success of the other. That’s how we know it’s a healthy relationship.” “Boundaries are never going to work in a narcissistic relationship because when you set boundaries you are exerting an equal amount of power.” “Fear is the heart of the narcissistic relationship.” “Don’t defend, don’t engage, don’t explain, and don’t personalize.” Make sure you check out the full interview I did with Dr. Ramani right here! - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uwtwnIxSO9s&t=52s Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Dr. Ramani: Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorRamanDurvasula Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani Podcast: http://doctor-ramani.com/podcasts-feat-dr-ramani/

One thing nearly every single couple does is argue and have disagreements. Communication allows you both to heal and address the issues that cause the arguments, but what happens when those issues, however small, are not being addressed? Does being pissed off for a day or multiple times in a month, or a year lead to bigger problems? Is it normal to fall out of love with your partner or spouse? Being pissed is one thing, but being in a relationship with someone you no longer like or have love for is an entirely different thing. In this episode, the main things to know are: ● Do not ignore red flags ● Relationships take a lot of work from both partners ● Speak up about what you want Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Prevention | Why Tom and Lisa has been able to avoid falling out of love with each other [0:41] Red Flags | Being annoyed with actions is not same as disliking someone, address it [1:54] Do the Work | Why would you want to stay in relationship with someone you don’t like [4:36] Separate Happily | Lisa on her parents divorcing and being happier apart than together [7:09] Value-Add | Why relationships require work but should give you more value than it takes [9:37] What You Want | Speaking up about what you want is so important and selfish desires [12:24] QUOTES: “Being annoyed with someone hating what they do, is very different than hating the person. Being frustrated, being annoyed with them, being mad at them, being upset with them, is very different than not liking them.” Lisa Bilyeu [2:26] “It's way more important for us to be connected to never get to the point where I no longer like you or you no longer like me, and in order to do that, you have to say the hard thing, you have to say the things that no one wants to hear.” Lisa Bilyeu [4:18] “The cost of love is eternal vigilance, like you must be on that forever, you cannot take for granted not for a minute.” Tom Bilyeu [10:18] Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5

We spend years struggling through relationships. Relationships with family, friends, co-workers are all so challenging. When it comes to romantic relationships we often live by a different set of rules and expectations that can leave us in a whirlwind of frustration wondering why something that started so amazing eventually isn’t so amazing. Instead of giving up and checking out of your relationship mentally and emotionally, Jay Shetty has joined Lisa to discuss his latest book, 8 Rules of Love which includes so much more than just 8 rules. Jay Shetty shares the lessons and experiences he’s picked up from his marriage and time coaching others on how to have deeper and more meaningful relationships. This episode is packed with strategies and tactics that will reframe your approach to dating and finding the love of your life, or maintaining the relationship you’ve already started. Some fire takeaways you don’t want to miss today include: What dating to impress and “attract” the right person means for your relationship Jay’s 3 date rule to go from knowing someone casually to being long term 3 relationship roles we all play and how it affects our partner Why you relationship fighting style is as important as your love language Jay’s 4 E’s for growing deeper intimacy with your partner Check out Jay Shetty’s latest book, 8 Rules of Love: https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Love-How-Find-Keep/dp/1982183063 QUOTES: “When your relationship starts like an interview chances are it will end like a firing.” “If you attract them through something you’re not you’re going to lose them through who you are.” “The problem is when relationships are built on sparks not skills.” “Some of us get our self-worth from fixing other people’s problems, [...] we feel better when we find a partner that feels like a project.” “We see our partners not being as excited as us as discredit to our likes and dislikes.” “Most of our conversations about our partners happen with other people.” “The more you sit there expecting someone to understand you, you’re taking away time from you expressing what you’re going through.” “We often tell our partners what we need but we don’t tell them enough why we need it.” “Your partner can connect with your why even if they can’t connect with your what.” “Our challenge is we think we fall in love overnight and so we think we fall out of love overnight.” “We’re holding on to a particular picture of love. We have an image of what love is and don’t have an image of what it could be or how it grows.” FREE Download: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d GET CONFIDENT: FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Jay Shetty: Website: https://jayshetty.me/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbV60AGIHKz2xIGvbk0LLvg Twitter: https://twitter.com/jayshettyiw Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayShettyIW/ Podcast: https://on-purpose-with-jay-shetty.simplecast.com/

As much as you hate to admit it, relationships are vital to our happiness and success in life. The relationship you have with yourself , your romantic partner, your family, friends and co-workers dictate more than you can imagine. Dr. Molly Maloof, author of The Spark Factor, believes in relationships and connections so much she’s created a lecture for Stanford University called Live Better Longer. She touches on the value of social connection and its impact on long-term health and disease. Molly talks with Lisa in this episode and runs down the power of love, what intense romantic love feels like, and an entire masterclass on sexual desire and arousal. The fact that Molly ranks love in the same category of needs as thirst and hunger says a lot. In addition to unpacking the power of love, Molly also covers the power a loss of love has on your physical and mental health. So much of her explanation fills the voids we have in understanding why a bad break can make us feel crazy and do things out of character. Check out Dr. Molly Maloof’s book, The Spark Factor: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063207206/keywords=clean%20eating?tag=imprintweb-20 QUOTES: “I’m highly encouraging people to create deep social networks of lots of friends, [...] having lots of friends can make you feel supported.” “Love should be part of our education, and yet we’re mostly flying blind through life because it is not taught to us.” “The world is inherently run by our biology whether we realize it or not, our biology is actually running the show of a lot of the world.” “Everything in life is kind of like dating.” “Intense romantic love, the early phases especially in the first few months feels like you are on drugs. It is literally like being on MDMA all the time .” “You can become attached just through having sex with someone a lot.” “Your body is trying to trick you into having a baby at all times” “Desire is largely your emotional arousal, and your physical arousal and your wetness, is your physical manifestation of your arousal.” Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Molly Maloof: Website: https://drmolly.co/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/mollymaloofmd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmolly.co/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MollyMaloofMD/

Entrepreneurship, business, and your relationship. What should we be prioritizing most, why does it feel that they are always in conflict with one another, and how can we maintain a healthy relationship while still pursuing our goals? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to maintain a healthy relationship while still putting in the time and effort to pursue your big goals. They discuss the balance needed in every relationship, how to make time for your partner, the importance of prioritizing in a relationship, and how to manage your relationship when it conflicts with business. SHOW NOTES: Balance | Lisa and Tom discuss how to balance your relationship with your drive. [0:25] Time | Tom and Lisa discuss how to make time for your partner and the relationship. [2:11] Prioritize | Tom and Lisa share how they made time for one another during busy times. [4:20] Conflict | Lisa and Tom discuss how they balance their relationship with business. [5:29] Children | Lisa and Tom share how they came to the conclusion to not have children. [6:16] QUOTES: “But it is almost certainly going to take so much longer than any human being can endure having a lame relationship, just based on the amount of time that you invest in it.” [1:57] “The only thing that is interesting in a relationship is if somebody makes you feel, they don’t intellectually tell you, they make you feel like the most important thing.” [2:41] “And just like I don’t think most people can be number two to another person, they can’t be number two to a business.” [4:00] Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Starting your own business is unnerving on its own for many reasons. Deciding how you personally show up in your business for yourself and the people you serve can feel completely intimidating. So how do you break away from that feeling to experience the bigger career shifting opportunities?  Natalie has openly struggled with the idea of how she was showing all sides and dimensions of herself and reveals the nuggets of wisdom she’s gleaned from those struggles in this conversation with Lisa. Natalie MacNeil is a four time best selling author of books like, The Rituals, The Conquer Kit, and She Takes on the World. She’s a life coach and mentor focused on well-being, relationships, discovering your true purpose and creating your dream future.  Jenna Kutcher is the host of Goal Digger, the podcast that delivers life struggles, reframes, clarity and value through the lens of a mom, entrepreneur and marketing guru. In this episode she and Lisa get into some of the most impactful ways you can get yourself out of the feelings that leave you stuck, unhappy, and ruminating over your fear of failure. Check out Natalies book, The Rituals: https://amzn.to/3XUKl6p  Check out Jenna Kutcher's new book, How Are You Really: https://amzn.to/3O6QLdO  QUOTES: “One of the most powerful things we can do is name our shame.” Natalie MacNeil “Leave space for magic. Leave space for a different door to open that might actually feel like a door you want to walk through.” Natalie MacNeil “Faith is taking the first step without seeing the whole staircase.” Natalie MacNeil  “I’m always willing to face off with the fear and not let it run the show.” Natalie MacNeil “A lot of the time we’re so head down in the busyness and just being good that we miss what could be better.” Jenna Kutcher  “Joy and gratitude can exist with challenge.” Jenna Kutcher “Some else’s direction may not take you to your destination.” Jenna Kutcher “If you pull out your calendar and do an audit, do the things that you’re seeing align with the ‘when’?” Jenna Kutcher “We quit and give up so easily because it’s hard or we’re tired or we’re lacking resources, when really we just need to slow our pace down or we need to remember that we've already come so far.” Jenna Kutcher Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Natalie MacNeil: Website: https://nataliemacneil.com/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/nataliemacneil  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nataliemacneil  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/nataliemacneiltv  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliemacneil/  Follow Jenna Kutcher: Website: https://jennakutcher.com/  Podcast: https://jennakutcherblog.com/goal-digger-podcast/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennakutcher/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenna.kutcher/

Investing months and years in a relationship that you secretly question and know to be wrong for you feels like insanity to stay and even more foolish to leave the longer you stay in it. Have you ever been nervous about asking too many questions when you first begin dating? It’s natural to feel like you may run someone away with a line of questioning, but Matthew Hussey is a reminder that you can never scare away the right person for you. Matthew Hussey is a dating expert and the relationship guru millions of women turn to while trying to decipher what kind of dating life is best and how to get the guy they wants. He’s the bestselling author and life coach that brought you How to Get the Guy, and in this clip he’s running down how to stop lying to yourself about the relationship you wish you had and the actual relationship you’re living with. Look for the person that wants to be in a relationship, and be honest with yourself if your partner is the wrong person for you and have the courage to choose something different that leaves potential for a healthier relationship. Choose self-love. Choose radical confidence. QUOTES: “When you’re throwing out a serious question you don’t have to say it in a really serious way.” “If they’re saying, I’m not ready for a relationship, that is a giant red flag! [...] they are telling you to your face that you are going to get your heart broken here.” “Love isn’t enough. It’s not! Compatibility is crucial.” “You’re going to feel pain either way, leave or stay, you’re going to feel pain, [...] at least have the pain that’s a question mark. This pain is a period, it's not a question mark. At least leaving means possibility…” Make sure you check out the full interview I did with Matthew Hussey right here! - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qW7eC_BAqhQ Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Matthew Hussey: Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/

Living with insecurity, a lack of confidence, and a constant need of approval from your partner or others is never a healthy way to build a long-lasting and stable relationship. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore why it’s crucial that the only person you rely on for validation, approval, and self-confidence is yourself. They discuss why you shouldn’t rely on others for validation, reasons you might be relying on others in the first place, and why feeling safe with your partner is crucial. SHOW NOTES: Validation | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to find your own self-validation. [0:29] Reasons | Tom shares theories to why you might seek validation from you partner. [3:17] Feeling Safe | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of feeling safe with your partner. [6:09] QUOTES: “…you need to find validation in yourself and not seek it from other people.” [3:10] “In a relationship, I believe one of the most important foundational elements is to make the other person feel better about themselves when they’re around you than they do when they’re not.” [5:05] Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

It’s time to break the skinny latte “healthy” snack trap that’s boosting your hunger, increasing fat, and interfering with your sleep. Living with poor health is hard. Prioritizing your sleep, eating healthy and getting enough exercise for your body everyday is hard too. Either way is hard and JJ Virgin is here to remind you, it’s also time you choose your hard. JJ Virgin is a legend in the health and nutrition industry with multiple bestselling books like the Virgin Diet, and more. When it comes to being healthy and feeling like the best version of you, JJ delivers practical advice anyone can follow. Her message today boils down to prioritizing yourself and not beating yourself up for misinformation. In this episode, JJ is busting diet myths and revealing exactly why women need to shift from losing weight to holding onto and building muscle instead. If you’re tired of the thousand moments of hopelessness, hormones out of balance, and fat that won’t budge no matter what you do, this conversation is exactly what you needed today. We wish it was as simple as calories in and calories out, but it’s not. Losing fat is a byproduct of getting healthy and your metabolic health is the key.  QUOTES: “For the majority of women the last thing we want to focus on is losing weight. We actually want to focus on holding onto and building muscle...” “You have to get metabolically healthy to be able to lose fat and hold onto muscle, and one of the symptoms of being unhealthy is not being able to lose weight.” “We have our genetic predispositions, but that’s a predisposition. You don’t have to make that a reality, your lifestyle is going to decide which way things will go.” “The reality is that being first on your list is being selfless.” Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by GrowthDay Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/UDX497 Follow JJ Virgin: Website: https://jjvirgin.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/jjvirginvideos  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jj.virgin/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JJVirginOfficial/  Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ask-the-health-expert/id911502027

What it takes to find and keep love can involve a lot of pain, heartache, and lessons along the way. There’s no need to prolong the result you want and continue making the same mistakes. Today’s episode is an open, vulnerable and honest conversation about how to love yourself and attract the right kind of people in your life. One of the most important things discussed in this episode is how to navigate your perfectly imperfect relationship to make it last through the good and bad times. Steph Purpura is co-founder of Powerful U where her goal is to improve billions of people by helping them evolve their self-esteem, their mental well-being, and more. She went through a childhood feeling lost and worthless and has been able to repurpose her pain to find meaning and fulfillment. Emily Morse, better known as Dr Emily the host of Sex with Emily has been liberating people to have better and more meaningful conversations about sex and pleasure. Navigating a healthy and fulfilling sex life is hard, Dr Emily makes is super easy with her bestselling books, lots of free resources, and the #1 Sexuality podcast around. Tom and Lisa have been married over 20 years learning how to encourage, love, and support each other’s biggest ambitions while continuing to grow and evolve together. They are co-founders of Impact Theory and an example of what a high power couple with love, goals, and communication skills can accomplish. QUOTES: “We need to be our whole selves before we can attract who we really want.” Emily Morse “Once you start growing you notice negative people just fall out of your life, they are simply magically gone because you’re attracting something differently…” Steph Purpura “Telling your story and not being afraid to tell your story and being you is power.” Steph Purpura “Stop making other people’s emotions about yourself.” Steph Purpura “Communication is lubrication.” Emily Morse “Don’t tell me I’ve done something wrong when it’s too late to change it. Tell me when I still have a chance to make good on it.” Tom Bilyeu “It’s not super useful to give somebody a logical argument when they’re really in an emotional state.” Tom Bilyeu “Communicate not in a way that you find satisfying, communicate in a way that’s actually effective where the person can hear what you intend.” Tom Bilyeu Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Steph Purpura: Website: https://powerful-u.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePowerfulU Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/powerful.u/ Follow Emily Morse: Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Email: Feedback@sexwithme.com Podcast: https://sexwithemily.com/listen/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Sponsor: Find your next fleece, parka, or winter jacket in-store or at thenorthface.com. When you’re wearing The North Face, it’s more than a jacket.

Sexual pleasure between you and your partner is a must for a healthy relationship to thrive. When it comes to pleasing each other are you 100% sure you know how to satisfy your partner and are you giving each other the opportunity to explore (or at least discuss) your most intimate kinky little twists. How comfortable are you telling your partner about your sexual fantasies? Is fear of being judged or dismissed holding you back from sharing? If you were to share and your partner expressed excitement in helping you fulfill that fantasy would it be worth sharing? Talking about sex is rarely a casual or comfortable topic, but Tom and Lisa take away the shame and mystery and share reasons why you may want to have a talk with your significant other before the lights go out tonight. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Tell Him What You Want | Tom shares why men are eager to hear women’s sexual wants [0:49] Embarrassed & Insecure | Lisa’s experience being too embarrassed to talk about sex [5:41] Testing the Waters | How to build trust and experiment to see if you feel safe for more [8:19] Just Ask Her | Tom and Lisa reveal how to approach asking questions without judgement [12:30] QUOTES: “It didn't even dawn on me, I could have equal pleasure [...] that is one of the most vulnerable things. It's actually more vulnerable than just having sex.” Lisa Bilyeu [7:14] “How much can I trust you as my partner with things about myself? And so I actually wouldn't start with sex, I would start with other little things about me.” Lisa Bilyeu [8:24] “If you don't make me feel bad about asking, I won't make you feel bad about saying no…” Tom Bilyeu [13:56] Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter:https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu

There are challenges that come along with being a woman. While we stand up for equal pay, and make sure our voice is heard, there are many areas around our womanhood that don’t feel like equality and come they don’t necessarily come with the warning lights on. Women’s health is one of those areas where we have to embrace we are different. Our hormones and biology don’t award us the same benefits as men, which is why medical research and studies focused on women is so critical. Cynthia Thurlow spent the first part of her career as an RN in cardiology and in emergency medicine. Thankfully she pivoted to become the founder of the Everyday Wellness Project and the bestselling author of, Intermittent Fasting Transformation, which focused on fasting for women, losing stubborn weight and improving our hormonal health. Today we dig into more than just the benefits of fasting for women, but also the reason women have to fast differently depending on age and where she is in her menstrual cycle. You’ve probably heard about the benefits of fasting but this time we’re focusing on the benefits of fasting for you and your metabolic health. Cynthia is also going to break down how to implement fasting effectively, and it is the most practical and simplest way to start eating a little less. Her approach is about progression and long term strategy for success, not an all in overnight solution to suffer through. Check out Cynthia’s book, Intermittent Fasting Transformation: https://amzn.to/3CHKG4f  QUOTES: “Women in particular, have to embrace our physiology, not apologize for it.” “Fasting can be a form of beneficial stress, [...] in the right amount at the right time.” “There’s this interrelationship between how frequently we eat, the food choices we make, and ultimately what translates into metabolic health…” “Even if you choose not to have children your body is still primed to procreate.” “Fasting is one of many strategies we can use for our health but it’s also one we have to be conscientious about.” “The moment we feel embarrassed and shame about one thing it starts to bleed into every area.” Lisa Bilyeu “I’m not anti-carb but let’s get real. We have to be honest with ourselves and examine our relationship with carbohydrates.” “Fasting is designed to be flexible, but as you are transitioning into a fasting lifestyle, [...] it’s not about rigidity.” “Our physiology is what makes us unique and beautiful, we shouldn’t fee like we have to apologize for it.” Follow Cynthia Thurlow: Website: https://cynthiathurlow.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/cynthiathurlow  Twitter: https://twitter.com/_CynthiaThurlow  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cynthia_thurlow_/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CHTWellness/  Podcast: https://cynthiathurlow.com/podcast/   Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Sponsors: Find your next fleece, parka, or winter jacket in-store or at thenorthface.com. When you’re wearing The North Face, it’s more than a jacket.

If you’re having a hard time saying ‘no’ to every request you get for your time and attention, or you’re noticing that you seem to never have time for yourself, you may just be suffering from being a people pleaser. As this year kicks off and you start thinking about goals you want to achieve, you have to break up with your old ways and move differently. That means putting an end to pleasing people and saying good-bye to all the things you’ve been allowing that are holding you back. Get your pen and paper or your favorite note app ready, as Lisa shares her best tactics for learning to put yourself first, find your self-worth and be the confident badass you’re meant to be. It is possible to become your best self and set up boundaries that allow you to have stronger, healthier, more meaningful relationships with the people around you and with yourself. Lisa Bilyeu is co-founder of Quest Nutrition, president of Impact Theory, and the bestselling author of Radical Confidence. Her mission is to impact women around the world and show them how to be authentic, confident, and badass. QUOTES: “You’ve got to address where your time is spent and who the hell is more focused on than yourself.” “Give clear rules and guidelines, do not leave anything up to interpretation.” “By learning to say ‘no’ is how you free up your time, have a space for yourself, and really freaking focus on that goal you want to achieve this year.” “Even when maybe you’re feeling sensitive, maybe you’re feeling emotional, just bear in mind that the way you then handle it will have a knock on effect.” “Don’t wait to be given the self or the worth. Homie you’ve got to frickin’ earn it.” “I remember what it was like to be fourteen and going to my mom’s room tearing up photos of myself because I hated my frickin’ nose…” “Just cause you have a goal doesn’t mean that it has to always be your goal.” “Break every preconceived notion of how you do things.” Women of Impact Podcast is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu

In-laws can be one of the most difficult factors about your relationship or marriage. They can be overbearing, intrusive, and outright disrespectful and unsupportive of you. What do you do when these moments of disrespect happen and how can you refrain from escalating the situation while still supporting your partner? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore the best ways to handle your disrespectful in-laws who just aren’t showing support for your relationship. They discuss how to stay supportive of your partner and not direct your anger at them, ways to spend time with your in-laws without escalating the situation, why you shouldn’t dramatically change for your in-law’s sake, and why other’s behavior shouldn’t determine yours. SHOW NOTES: In-Laws | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do when your in-laws aren’t supporting you. [0:40] Staying Yourself | Lisa shares her experience with her family when marrying Tom. [4:20] Advice | Lisa shares what to do to work through a situation with difficult in-laws. [7:29] Behavior | Tom discusses why you shouldn’t let predictable behavior upset you. [11:05] Reality | Tom and Lisa discuss the real world situation of being in escalating situations. [12:01] QUOTES: “…you have to be united. You cannot have other people’s, outsider’s, or your partner’s parent’s influence the affection and the relationship between the two of you.” [7:52] “Behavior that’s predictable should not upset you.” [11:43] Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

The pain and hurt you’ve undoubtedly experienced in your lifetime leaves scars. Though we look beautiful when we step out the door, nails done, hair and makeup on point, there is nothing that truly hides the pain we feel from the scars we get from relationships gone wrong. It’s so hard to experience life without shame and regret. We judge ourselves most harshly and say words to ourselves that we would never utter to another woman. Najwa Zebian is no stranger to Women of Impact, and her words have pierced the hearts of millions of women around the world. She beautifully strings words together that give power to the experience of being a woman familiar with heartache and disappointment. In this episode we’re talking about transforming those scars as Najwa says from being a constant reminder of your pain into a reminder of how far you’ve come. We can all use a big dose of self-compassion and love for our past selves. Today is a reminder to sit with your past self and the choices she’s made and give her the love and support she deserves. She did the best she could with what she knew in the moment. Najwa’s reminder is to stop judging your past self and allow your scars to heal. QUOTES: “If the scars are still painful then they are still begging to be felt by you, they’re still begging to be seen by you and not looked at through a lens of shame or judgment.” “Become the person you needed for yourself in that moment. Stop trying to bring your past self here. You need to go back to your past self and sit with her.” “Me being myself is my ultimate life purpose and goal, and if I’m going to have to go against what my authenticity tells me just to be in certain people’s lives, I’d rather be alone...” “The worst thing you can do when you go through any kind of painful experience is gaslight yourself out of your own pain.” “You’re not going for safety that’s in opposition to something you need to protect yourself from, you’re going for safety that’s open …” Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts Follow Najwa Zebian: Website: https://najwazebian.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian Twitter: https://twitter.com/najwazebian Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1 Podcast: https://najwazebian.com/stories-of-soul-podcast

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: Are you struggling to balance your ambitious goals with your love life? Pursuing your goals without neglecting your partner can be challenging. That´s why in this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share how to pursue ambitious goals without neglecting each other. After watching this episode, you’ll know how to communicate being ambitious to your partner. You’ll learn how Tom makes sure Lisa doesn’t feel neglected while he’s chasing big goals. Lisa shares the fundamental question she asks herself that helps her not feeling neglected and much more. SHOW NOTES: How to communicate being ambitious to your partner. [1:01] This is how Tom makes sure Lisa doesn´t feel neglected while he´s chasing big goals. [2:02] The fundamental question Lisa asks herself to stop feeling neglected. [2:31] Why it´s okay to do something for your partner to make yourself feel good. [4:00] Warning signs that you´re in a dysfunctional relationship. [5:30] QUOTES: “I always ask myself the fundamental question: “Does he love you?” [2:37] “If I were in a relationship and you would make me feel insecure, over enough time, I would either get out of it or start to feel needy, and feeling needy would probably be the first sign for me that this is seriously dysfunctional.” [5:41] “I do not understand why people stay in a relationship, where that person does not make you feel amazing.” [5:57] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts On Today's Episode: You can show up with total confidence in one moment and still struggle being confident at other times. Think of the time you showed up like a total badass and thought, this is it, I’m done with playing small! Just to have a totally different situation happen where you could barely speak up let alone take any kind of meaningful action. Jen Cohen is no stranger to Women of Impact and she’s proven over and over again she’s a total boss at showing up and becoming Bigger, Better and Bolder, just like the title of her latest book. Jen is more than your typical entrepreneur, she’s the host of Habits & Hustle and queen of the grind.  In this episode Jen and Lisa are talking about having the guts to get after what you want and what it takes to step up, be a badass and create the meaningful career, relationships, and experiences you want out of this life. Today you stop accepting what happens to be, stop settling, and get to work on what you’re really after. Check out Jen’s book, Bigger, Better, Bolder, Live the Life You Want Not the Life You Get: https://www.amazon.com/Bigger-Better-Bolder-Live-Life/dp/0306829584  QUOTES: “Rejection is better than regret.” “We have to constantly work the muscle of boldness and audacity.” “If you don’t ask, the answer will always be, no.” Lisa Bilyeu “It’s not just about getting the job you want, it’s about getting the person you want to be with and surrounding yourself with people you want to be with, and doing the things you want to be doing. That’s what a rich life is.” “Being average and being mediocre is your biggest superpower because you have to learn how to be resourceful and have grit and build character and other ways.” “You’ve got to try a lot of sh*t out there to see what works for you and what benefits you.” Follow Jen Cohen: Website: https://www.jennifercohen.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@habitsandhustle  Twitter: https://twitter.com/therealjencohen  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealjencohen/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/therealjencohen/  Podcast: https://www.jennifercohen.com/podcast 

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: Are you and your partner on the same page when it comes to values in your relationship? Do you wonder how you can be more aligned and have a shared ‘mission’ for your life together? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways you and your partner can get on the same page and have a full understanding of your relationships values and goals. They discuss how to lead by example in a relationship, the power of sharing your values with your partner, why you should write down the reasoning behind your values, and why you need to be aligned with your partner when it comes to values in the first place. SHOW NOTES: Leading | Lisa and Tom share how to get your partner to also lead with a growth mindset. [0:21] Values | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of being on the same page as your partner. [2:45] Reasons | Lisa and Tom discuss the power of writing down your values in a relationship. [4:30] Aligning | Lisa and Tom share how they would align their values to be on the same page. [5:48] QUOTES: “We’re not on the same page, but we’re committed to getting on the same page, but we’re going to be really raw, honest, and truthful about how far apart we are right now. Not lie or bullshit, what’s the actual bit of common ground?” [2:17] “I think so many people take things for granted. They think that it’s just truth…” [3:12] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: When you’ve experienced more than one relationship, it’s natural to look back on previous relationships as failures you wish hadn’t happened. Today’s guest shares a totally different view that explains how even after 3 marriages she’s never had a “failed” relationship. Julie Piatt is an artist, entrepreneur and divine badass. She’s the founder of SriMu cheese, a mother, a spiritual guide, and the incredible wife of ultra-endurance athlete and podcaster Rich Roll. What Julie beautifully reveals in this episode is the power of perspective and how your applied perspective is the key to connecting you to the messiness of life that presents opportunities for you to evolve and step into your becoming. Make sure you take note of the simple exercise she shares that can be done in 5-10 minutes daily to reveal the presence holding your life and your divine feminine energy. Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts QUOTES: “I don’t regard any of my marriages as failures.” [1:16] “The biggest error is to put another person before you.” [6:58] “I didn’t go through an abusive marriage, it was a sacred moment because it’s the kind that brings you to your knees and there’s nowhere else to go.” [14:34] “Allow it to be a little messy but always respectful.” [23:14] “It’s all about taking the empowerment of applying the perspective that you choose.” [30:21] “The way to evolution and expansion is through the heart. The heart doesn’t fail you, it will not fail you ever.” [36:34] “This is a new planetary precession and a new moment, a new eon, a new age. This is about the feminine coming into her rightful position, not overpowering the masculine, but in equal balance.” [40:44] “If you’re judging another person, if you see somebody online and they’re annoying you, and you have all this stuff to say about them, it’s because you haven’t loved yourself enough.” [48:10] “We feel guilty because we think we’re responsible for someone else being happy.” Mel Robbins [1:25:19] Follow Julie Piatt: Website: https://www.juliepiatt.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JuliePiattSri Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/srimati/ Podcast: https://www.juliepiatt.com/for-the-life-of-me

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: In a healthy loving relationship, neither partner is looking for ways to hurt their partner’s feelings. On a long enough time line, however, hurting each other's feelings or accidentally pushing each other’s trigger points is bound to happen. It doesn’t mean there’s any love lost, but it doesn’t mean that work needs to be done to diffuse the situation, resolve the issue, and reconnect. Tom and Lisa have come up with a few ways of handling these rare moments for when sh*t hits the fan, tempers flare and feelings are hurt. Their tips will help you stay even-keeled and minimize any relationship damage by sharing tactics for you to put into place long before the next argument happens. The key is not pretending or fooling yourselves into thinking, “that’ll never happen”. The key is to be prepared and have these conversations while you’re emotionally sober. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. QUOTES: “If you have to guess what the other person's triggers are, it's literally like stabbing in the frickin 'dark. It's like a love language, figure out what your love language is in regards to what are your triggers?” Lisa Bilyeu [2:45] “It is always better to walk away because we just don't hear each other, and many times, we've got into arguments because neither of us walked away.” Lisa Bilyeu [3:43] “When the other person has been triggered, you have to do something that changes their neuro chemistry.” Tom Bilyeu [5:15] “The key for when you're being triggered, or you're triggering the other person is to make sure that you build that foundation in the nice loving moments so that you're not having the friction when it actually happens,” Lisa Bilyeu [10:06] “You can decide to feel differently, and that nature, for whatever weird reason, has given us what I call physiological hooks to change your state.” Tom Bilyeu [10:52] “When you're in an argument, and you both believe that you're right, it's going to be a contentious conversation, and it's what we call a dangerous conversation because it could go awry” Tom Bilyeu [13:02] “When the other person is upset, whatever you do better be designed to change their neuro chemistry. Because if you can't do that the conflict is going to just keep going up” Tom Bilyeu [16:06] “If your goal is high level communication, that's very effective, and you're not getting annoyed, and you guys can both navigate that decision making tree to get to a decision that works for both of you, it isn't useful to be triggered.” Tom Bilyeu [23:31] Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: Looking to your partner, your friends, or your family for direction on what to think, how to react, when you should react, and if you should or shouldn’t be upset or not sounds like a personal prison no one wants to put themself in. Your lack of ability to set boundaries is not a habit you want to continue carrying with you from one relationship to another. So, homie, that sh*t stops today! In this episode, Lisa is giving you 5 personal boundaries she has to not keep people in line, and not to isolate people from her life, but 5 boundaries she uses to build tighter, closer, more meaningful relationships. The only question now is, are you willing to do the hard work, be committed, become the hero of your own frikin life? Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts QUOTES: “Be honest with your partner about your non frikin negotiables.” [1:31] “Have those discussions if you want to be with this person for the rest of your life [10:05] “I trust him now to go and act in accordance to the boundaries we’ve set together.” [12:56] “It is about the evolution of the boundary. It is about how you implement it, how you acknowledge it, how you refine it, and then if, and hopefully when, you're at the point where you don’t need the boundary anymore.” [18:01] “Resentment and contempt is the biggest problem you may face in your relationship [20:33] “Everything is a choice.” [41:00] “Are you willing to rattle the cage and set the boundary knowing that people may not respect it?” [43:41] “Either you hold to your boundary or you don’t, it’s not about whether you’re capable or not.” [58:54] “Learning the language, becoming fluent in the language of boundaries liberates you from this ground hog day of frustration in life.” [1:12:55] Terri Cole “Your feelings are your side of the street, my feelings are my side of the street, [...] that’s having good emotional boundaries.” [1:26:22] Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu

Download your FREE copy of The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3RJxOPM On Today's Episode: Is there ever an ideal time to have those hard conversations? Date night isn’t the time for it. During the week, with work, meetings, kids, and life maybe you are too exhausted to have those conversations. But to progress in your relationship, addressing the hard topics is key, and communication is mandatory for a healthy, happy, long-lasting relationship. Tom and Lisa walk through their own recent examples and give you tips for having those conversations no matter how difficult or how busy your partner may be. After nearly two decades together, they can give you a range of ideas for wherever you are in your relationship. SHOW NOTES: Magic Time | Tom shares why the “magic moment” time doesn’t exist [1:05] Open Time | Why your partner needs to create time and space for the hard conversations [2:15] Carving Time | The importance of carving out time for difficult talks and addressing issues [3:22] Warnings | Make sure you are telling your partner and setting them up for success [5:05] Giving Hints | Tom reveals why hinting is not a good option and must be avoided [8:26] Assessing When | Tom walks through how he finds the best time to bring up hard talks [10:39] Any Topic, Any Time | How Tom & Lisa tried this rule for hard conversations & failed [14:13] Rules of Engagement | Why laying out the rules and going through trial and error is best [15:27] QUOTES: “If you're ever hinting in your life stop!” Tom Bilyeu [9:17] “when you're communicating with the other person, like what is the actual thing you're trying to get across” Lisa Bilyeu [9:36] “when you're hinting you're setting the other person up for failure” [9:55] Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: If you’ve ever been triggered by something that on the outside seemed so small and insignificant, and your reaction sent you into a wave of shame and embarrassment over how over the top it was, stop everything you’re doing and listen up! Nicole LePera is one of our favorite friends on this show, and today she is stacking pieces of this complex puzzle that is us together in a way that clarifies the connection between the triggers we experience now as adults and our childhood challenges. Her new workbook, How to Meet Yourself is a wonderful way to get in touch with your inner self and use your heart to heal your past trauma . You may be dealing with shame around your body or feeling disconnected from yourself and can’t really explain why. In this episode we’re deep diving on how to recognize when you’re operating in the present moment from your past experiences. To make sure this episode hits extra hard on how you can turn yourself around, we’re unpacking emotional entanglement and why you have to stop villainizing your ego and see it for what it really is. Check out Nicole’s latest book, How to Meet Yourself: https://www.amazon.com/How-Meet-Your-Self-Self-Discovery/dp/0063267713/ Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts QUOTES: “When we’re talking about these emotional reactions, we’re actually talking about things that are sensations that are stored in our body.” [5:23] “All of our habits are grounded in a best attempt at creating safety by adapting to an environment.” [12:32] “Over time the safer we feel paying attention to [our body], the more conscious we’ll become of all of those underlying sensations.” [26:10] “Even outside of our senses the reality of it is that most of us are cycling in past memories.” [30:05] “So many of us grew up as an extension of our parents.” [33:16] “I view narcissism as a self focused survival based mechanism where that person is only trying to literally maintain their survival often at the expense of their children.” [38:45] “The more consistently conscious we are the more the more we can make different choices before we lose that control.” [45:45] “How we feel in our skin very much does translate to how we feel about ourselves.” [54:26] “We are always filtering and determining what is of personal relevance, and what’s of personal relevance are our deep-rooted beliefs…” [1:02:26] “Ego is a story of us very much grounded in our lived experiences…” [1:03:07] “What feels like disproportionate reactions actually aren’t disproportionate. They are safety making mechanisms.” [1:04:33] Follow Nicole LePera: Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtEWTaMjqOH8J1Gy06Ey0Yg Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1kVlwHe0ESeAWOuXiXSjyQ Twitter: https://twitter.com/theholisticpsyc

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: Jealousy. How does it enter our minds, what feeds it, and is it perhaps just a reflection of our own insecurities? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the harsh reality of confronting your own jealousy in a relationship and why it may actually be a matter of your own insecurities and not their behavior. They discuss the time when Tom and Lisa went together to Tom’s ex-girlfriend’s birthday party, how they dealt with it, where jealousy originates from, what feeds it, how it is an ugly look, and what to be aware of before jealousy spirals out of control. SHOW NOTES: Honesty | Lisa shares her experience when Tom took her to his ex-girlfriend’s birthday party. [0:21] Establishing Feelings | Tom shares his side of taking Lisa to his ex-girlfriend’s birthday party. [3:11] Jealousy | Tom and Lisa discuss how buried insecurities feed jealousy. [4:36] Choose Confidence | Lisa shares why insecurities are a turn off. [8:38] Harsh Reality | Tom and Lisa discusses why it’s not sexy to wallow in your insecurities. [11:23] QUOTES: “You never made me feel like it was a comparison, and you never tried to hide how you felt about them when you were talking about them.” [2:35] “There are two things you should never worry about: things you can change, because go change em’, and things you can’t change, because you can’t change em’.” [7:37] “No one looks at someone else’s insecurities and goes, “Yeah, that’s a turn on. That’s attractive.”” [8:38] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: Does hooking up on the first night make a woman confident or does it make her promiscuous? We wish there was a straightforward way to answer this, but the reality is there are too many variables to say. Men may not think about sex on the first date as the worst thing or the only thing they want from you. Stephan Speaks, the relationship guru with 79 million views and several bestsellers, has been bridging the communication gap between men and women looking for healthier relationships, makes it clear that whether you sleep with him on the first date on not, there are some key things you should be doing and paying attention to that will help you decide with confidence. Given the pressure we all face in dating, seeing how men think about sex on that first date can make dating less stressful and more enjoyable. Stephan's biggest recommendations are keeping the first date simple and not being afraid to ask questions.  You will never scare off the right person by asking questions, and giving someone the opportunity and permission to reveal their intentions is key to beginning a great relationship. You don’t have to be upset or mad if his intentions aren’t aligned. You can use the opportunity to move on quicker and spare yourself the heartache. Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts QUOTES: “Men become more cautious when it comes to making sexual attempts the more they like a woman.” [7:33] “If you are concerned about his intentions, keep him talking.” [11:57] “Focus on having fun first, and through having fun, be confident enough in yourself to be aware.” [14:02] “Most men come into that date putting you in a box.” [15:34] “Women, growing up, were fed more of the fantasy idea of ‘the one.’” [19:43] “When we’re dealing with the person who is not truly best for us, things are going to go left for us, [...] because we do not connect correctly.” [23:11] “The toxic man is toxic in many ways.” [25:16] “A lot of guys are good guys in the wrong relationship, and there’s a lot of good women in the wrong relationship…” [26:35] “When a woman feels the need to have to propose it’s because deep inside you sense that if you don’t he will never.” [27:30] “Every woman who dates from now on should give that man permission to be blatantly, brutally honest because it will save her the headache of confusion and his fear of how she’ll receive it.” [29:46] “It’s not about what the person does, it’s about how they handle your feelings about it, how they handle you addressing it. That’s when you’re going to see what we’re really working with.” [45:22] “The process of a man getting sex and the process of a woman getting sex are viewed completely different, and they are completely different. [58:55] “Once you take time to master the person’s body, you will be on a level that no one else can match.” [1:17:24] “Some people want to make empowerment about not wanting or needing a man. I view empowerment as living in your truth.” [1:25:59] Follow Stephan Speaks: Website: https://www.stephanspeaks.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow  Twitter: https://twitter.com/StephanSpeaks  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships/ 

GIFT YOURSELF RADICAL CONFIDENCE: https://bit.ly/3UK2WAK DISCOVER THE BADASS IN YOU: https://bit.ly/3fSXqNe On Today's Episode: Ever argued about money in your relationship? Maybe sometimes felt guilty about not contributing money to the relationship? In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share how they manage and talk about money in a way that deepened their love, respect, and overall relationship. Watch this episode to learn their proven strategies and plug them into your relationship to create the loving, lasting relationship you always dreamed about. After you watch this episode, you´ll be able to: Split money in a way that is fair for both sides. See the value you bring to your relationship, even when it´s not money. Make your partner feel good about staying at home. Know how to stop feeling guilty for not contributing monetarily. Avoid the critical mistake most people make that ruins their relationship. SHOW NOTES: Why Lisa doesn’t like being called a housewife and the unusual name Tom called her instead, that made her instantly feel good about what she was doing. [1:26] The open conversation about money you need to have, so both of you feel equally contributing to the relationship. [3:12] Why the money should be split 50/50 and how that is fair for both sides. (Even when only one partner goes to work. [4:13] How Lisa can spend money on shoes & Tom on video games without feeling guilty or ask for permission (Even when spending the money seems stupid for the partner.) [5:19] The critical mistake most people make that ruins their relationship. (And how to prevent it.) [6:49] The foundation that makes a relationship worth making sacrifices for. [7:46] Two strategies you can use to instantly stop feeling guilty about not contributing monetarily. [9:38] Lisa’s strategy to feel like an independent woman instead of a maid while managing the household. [10:23] QUOTES: “If we are coming into this as a partnership. If we decided this is what we are doing as a partnership. You´re gonna go to work every day, and I'm gonna stay at home and work on the “Bilyeu Enterprises” then whatever money comes in should be 50/50…” [4:13] “If I put myself in a position of power, that feels great for me, but it disempowers you, and it's gonna feel terrible for you. That just seemed so obvious to me, that it's a terrible long term strategy...” [6:49] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

GIFT YOURSELF RADICAL CONFIDENCE: https://bit.ly/3UK2WAK DISCOVER THE BADASS IN YOU: https://bit.ly/3fSXqNe On Today's Episode: The thought of family gatherings gives the best of anxiety. Navigating close relationships and those once or twice a year holiday encounters doesn’t have to be so intimidating with the right tools.  The key is recognizing that you have disordered boundaries, and the Boundary Boss, Terri Cole, is back with us again to make this super easy to follow. Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. The steps she lays out for you to take the Resentment Inventory are life changing.  We all tell ourselves lies to avoid the conflict and get around difficult conversations but this doesn’t make our relationships any better, and it leaves us with more stress than being succinct, accurate, and honest about our preferences from the start. By the time you finish this episode you’ll have the skills and strategies you’ll need to identify your disordered boundaries that need work, and catch the amplified emotions that are stemming from childhood traumas. Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Terri Coles 0:36 | Take A Resentment Inventory 6:40 | Self Blame for Broken Boundaries 13:00 | Learned Boundaries From Childhood 23:19 | Reading Emotional Boundaries 30:48 | Unmet Needs In Relationship 34:43 | Internal Boundaries Are A Must 35:30 | Codependent Relationships 45:47 | Are You Auto-Advising People? 52:22 | Suppressed Anger Boundaries 58:40 | Tips To Express Your Boundaries 1:05:01 | Strategies for Family Gatherings 1:13:50 | Broken Boundaries Have Real Consequences QUOTES: “When it comes to our boundaries, it’s always an us thing. Because we are the keeper, we are the one who knows…” [5:39] “At the base, so much of disordered boundaries has to do with people pleasing [7:20] “It’s about becoming the observer without judgment of yourself and your reactions in real time.” [17:38] “If you have a deep pain from you don’t actually love, I promise you, you’re most likely having a transference.” [18:06] “It’s so much easier to go to anger, [...] than it is to be vulnerable and say, ‘this is why I’m hurt.’” [28:43] “Anger feels empowering, where sorrow does not.” [29:24] “Being a boundary boss means keeping your word to yourself.” [34:56] “At its core, codependency is and overt or covert bid to control other people’s outcomes.” [36:33] “Resentment is anger. If you’re feeling resentment, most likely something happened that initially you felt angry about.” [56:26] “Silence is a lie. You are abandoning yourself and not saying what is on your mind.” [58:29] “Your job is to be as unprovokable as possible.” [1:06:22] “Not all boundaries are non-negotiable, some things are just preferences.” [1:16:11] Follow Terri Cole: Website: https://www.terricole.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw  Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/terri_cole  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ 

Are you and your partner feeling the pressure to have kids but just aren’t ready yet? Are your parents, friends, and family constantly asking, "When are you going to have children?” but you don’t know how to respond without disappointing them? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you should approach the decision of having kids and why you shouldn’t feel guilt or regret if you decide not to. They discuss how to deal with pressure from family, why honesty about what you want is important, why you shouldn’t let fear of regret drive your decisions, why desire of fulfillment always leads people to have kids, and how children are a reflection of each partner. SHOW NOTES: Pressure | Lisa and Tom discuss how they deal with pressure to have kids. [0:34] Honesty | Lisa and Tom discuss why you have to be honest about what you want. [2:36] Regrets | Lisa and Tom discuss why you shouldn’t live with regret in mind. [3:54] Fulfillment | Lisa and Tom discuss why fulfillment is the driver behind having kids. [5:50] Holding On | Lisa and Tom discuss why having children connects your to partner. [7:42] QUOTES: “I’m not willing to make a decision about having kids now if it’s not right for a fear that I have in the future.” [5:40] “So, at the end of the day it comes down to fulfillment. Like one of the reasons I think people have kids…” [5:50] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

GIFT YOURSELF RADICAL CONFIDENCE: https://bit.ly/3UK2WAK DISCOVER THE BADASS IN YOU: https://bit.ly/3fSXqNe On Today's Episode: If you’ve struggled with what you see in the mirror, you’re not alone. So many women, beautiful women, struggle with what they see. Our mental health is challenged trying to fit in, looking for love and acceptance, and wanting to somehow feel like you’re good enough. This is the episode where it gets real, it gets personal, and it hits home for many of us. Today’s guest is the world renowned award winning hip hop dancing violinist, Lindsey Stirling. She was once humiliated on one of the biggest stages in front of millions of people, and now has over 3 BILLION views on her YouTube channel. She’s worked with some of the biggest names in music and it could have easily never started for her. When it comes to matters of the heart, uncovering where our behaviors are doing us more harm than good, and where they are separating us from the things we most love, you have to dig deep and be willing to fight for happiness. This is about finding a new normal outside of the lies you’ve convinced yourself of and outside of the comfort zone you’ve created for yourself. This is your opportunity to open your heart and get connected with yourself and the things worth fighting for. Check out Lindsey’s Snow Waltz Music Video: https://youtu.be/YIqSFna1RTY Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Lindsey Stirling 0:54 | Not Good Enough Yet 7:33 | Do This When Fear Takes Over 16:45 | The Battle With An Eating Disorder 32:59 | Beating Mental Health Triggers 36:03 | A Reason To Keep Pushing 45:57 | Gratitude Needs Balance Also 51:21 | Making Time for Love & Loss 1:05:21 | Snow Waltz Christmas QUOTES: “Just because you didn’t have the greatest moment doesn’t mean that you don’t have what it takes to be great tomorrow.” [3:28] “I was good enough because I put in the time and I didn’t give up and I listened to that inner voice.” [3:56] “Step one of any process is this feels impossible.” [12:26] “The most powerful experience you have in your court is doing something right.” [15:26] “I was willing to fight for my health because of the people I loved, I wanted to love them again, fully.” [20:01] “We do adopt a way of thinking to make our behavior feel okay, and by saying it’s normal makes us then be okay with the behavior and not then feel shame or embarrassment...” [24:14] Lisa Bilyeu “It doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person just because you’re having a hard time being full of happiness and gratitude.” [44:39] “Comparing ourselves to other people diminishes what we’re going through, it lessens the weight of what we’re going through, and I don’t think it serves us.” [45:40] Lisa Bilyeu “Certain people bring out your sparkle, [...] I know what I can feel and now it makes it so you can’t accept less than what you know you have the capacity to feel.” [55:27] “I deserve a life with a partner that supports me, or I deserve to freaking live on my own.” [1:02:43] Follow Lindsey Stirling: Website: https://www.lindseystirling.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/lindseystirling Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lindseystirlingmusic Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindseystirling/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lindseystirling

FREE Download: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: Boundaries are absolutely necessary, and without a doubt you should have personal boundaries in any healthy relationship. But what do you do when your boundaries are getting in the way of you creating a relationship? Are you stuck in a place where you want to get into a relationship, or maybe you want to take it to the next level, but you're stumbling over being too rigid or too laxed on your personal boundaries? Tom and Lisa walk you through several scenarios that may be tripping you up when it comes to setting boundaries and being relaxed enough to give the relationship space and opportunity to grow. As with every healthy relationship, communication is at the center of this issue as well. From being open, to defining types of boundaries, to recognizing your base assumptions, these tips will definitely help you. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Open to Relationship | Why single person thinking in a relationship defeats the purpose [1:58] Create Boundaries | How Tom and Lisa established boundaries when they started dating [4:48] Hard & Soft Boundaries | Why preset boundaries can be a problem and non-negotiables [6:28] Framing Boundaries | 2 responses to boundaries tested, shut it down vs. maybe later [8:48] Introducing Boundaries | Lisa’s advice for how to address boundaries at the right time [10:11] Communicate | How you communicate your boundaries and limits is critical [12:30] Taken Advantage Of | Why Tom says people don’t take advantage of you they only try [15:15] Assign Levels | Lisa shares example and reason assigning levels helps communication [18:05] Base Assumptions | The problem when both people think things are self evidently clear [20:19] Appreciate Friction | Why friction between people can be desirable & best for attraction [24:07] QUOTES: “Part of the joy of being in a relationship is to actually open yourself up to being a pair, and you've got to want that.” Tom Bilyeu [2:40] “Be in a relationship, don't be in a relationship doesn't really matter, but whatever you do, do it all the way. Like if you're going to be in a relationship, be in a relationship.” Tom Bilyeu [3:47] “Setting boundaries beforehand can be a little dangerous, because you may be setting some interest, you may be closing yourself off.” Lisa Bilyeu [7:13] “It's not that people are taking advantage of you because you either let that happen or you don't, but people can overextend.” Tom Bilyeu [16:21] “We may not agree with each other, a collision of values, but now we can understand each other, and that alleviates a lot.” Tom Bilyeu [23:35] “Public service announcement: In life, people have got to want a diversity of opinion. You've gotta want it. You have to believe that what makes the world work is the friction between competing viewpoints.” Tom Bilyeu [24:13] Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/

FREE Download: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: There is something called the nice girl syndrome which is an idea and expectation that you have to be nice to be loved and accepted. It leaves the mark of not feeling good enough. Being pleasant, agreeable, and accommodating doesn’t mean that you have to make yourself less than someone else. “Becoming and remaining a nice girl, is a kind of malnutrition to the soul of a woman.” -Asia Suler What happens to you when you’re always put last on your own list or lucky if you even make your own list? In this episode Lisa is channeling all of her badass energy into exposing how you can be nice and prioritize yourself and communicate your needs. You don’t have to be afraid of speaking up and worried about being rejected or thought less than by the right people in your life. Do a gut check with yourself on which one of these myths hit the hardest and come up with a plan to restore your power and balance where there is none. Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Nice Girl Myths 0:12 | #1 Nice Girls Aren’t Needy 8:15 | #2 Nice Girls Listen to Their Parents 21:12 | #3 Nice Girls Aren’t Rude 25:14 | #4 Nice Girls Don’t Push Back 31:02 | #5 Nice Girls Don’t Swear 31:16 | #6 Nice Girls Don’t Rattle Cages 39:12 | #7 Nice Girls Are Not Confrontational 47:11 | #8 Nice Girls Take Their Friends’ Advice 52:05 | #9 Nice Girls Don’t Show Their Emotions 1:02:46 | #10 Nice Girls Don’t Disagree 1:16:45 | 5 Biggest Myths About Love QUOTES: “There’s a big difference between being needy and having needs.” [0:40] “There should be no guilt in making that decision and then failing, even if your parents told you otherwise.” [20:48] “Sometimes it’s the fact that we don’t want to be rude that ends up being so frikin’ detrimental to us…” [21:17] “You absolutely can be nice and you can be firm; they don’t have to be separate. They can go hand in hand.” [25:49] “I can be nice, and I can say the hard frikin sh*t.” [30:01] “If you are in a cage you have to think about how you’re the one that’s gonna get yourself out.” [33:28] “You absolutely can confront someone when they’ve disrespected you and you can do it with utter frikin grace and ease.” [44:53] “If you do not address your emotions you will break.” [52:57] “If you allow your emotions to run wild, whether you like it or not, the truth frikin is that people may start to dismiss you.” [1:01:47] “You can disagree, but it doesn’t make them wrong.” [1:08:00] Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3QYeCOu Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://bit.ly/3AxL0BT On Today's Episode: Does your partner make you feel sexy? Do they appreciate you for the work you put in to look good for them? Is your partner not displaying enough affection, attraction, or giving enough compliments? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore what to do if your partner isn’t complimenting you or displaying signs of affection in a way that would make you feel sexy and attractive. They discuss the importance of raw sexual attraction with your partner, why giving compliments is crucial, how your self-esteem shouldn’t fully rely on your partner’s opinions, why communication might be the root cause of your problems, why externalizing thoughts is a trained skill and requires work, and why both partners need to have a deep understanding of each other’s love language. SHOW NOTES: Feeling Attractive | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do if your partner doesn’t compliment. [0:30] Compliments | Tom and Lisa discuss the need for signs of affection in a relationship. [2:10] Self-Esteem | Lisa and Tom discuss why you shouldn’t rely on others for confidence. [3:31] Communication | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of communicating your needs. [5:19] Externalize | Tom and Lisa discuss why externalizing thoughts is a trained skill. [6:05] Love Language | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of knowing your partner’s needs. [8:42] QUOTES: “You don’t have to choose. There is a world where you can date somebody who feels like your best friend and they make you feel sexy and attractive…” [2:40] “Cause I can’t just rely on you, right? If I just always got my self-esteem based on whether you were giving me compliments for not, I think that’s a disaster. I have to work on that by myself.” [4:21] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3QYeCOu Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://bit.ly/3AxL0BT On Today's Episode: We live with so many rules and ideas around diet that stem from effective marketing from food companies with one agenda, increase sales! The downside is that people have adopted these marketing messages as dietary facts. Eating processed grains for breakfast, 6 small meals a day, and avoiding fats are just a few examples.  Jessie Inchauspie is a biochemist better known as the Glucose Goddess on her Instagram and the international bestselling author of the book, Glucose Revolution. She is blowing our minds today in the crash course on all things glucose. You want to get off the energy roller coaster, stop the monstrous carb cravings and rebalance your hormones, then grab a pen and take notes. Jessie has hacks that anyone can do and with minimal effort, you can start using these hacks to lower the glucose spikes your food causes without completely changing your diet. The best part is that weight loss is a symptom of fixing your glucose spikes. Learn how to make food decisions for pleasure and enjoy the foods that you like guilt-free. You can be healthier and more balanced in energy mind and body with these simple hacks and knowledge that makes you unstoppable. Check out her book, Glucose Revolution: https://amzn.to/3zz3vVS  Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Jessie Inchauspie 1:00 | Crash Masterclass on Glucose 4:00 | Signs of Too Much Glucose 7:00 | Reduce Sugar Spikes For Good 14:45 | Fruit Juice vs. Coke 22:30 | Get Rid of Bad Labels on Food 29:42 | Calories Are B.S. for Weight Loss 40:58 | Healthy Sugars & Sweeteners 44:49 | Use Your Muscles to Lower Glucose 48:18 | Becoming the Glucose Goddess 55:55 | If You Must Do Carbs, This Is Best 59:55 | Tips for Fasting & Eating Before Bed 1:03:48 | Following Diet Trends & Habits 1:09:02 | Glucose Isn’t The Full Picture  1:12:07 | The Magic of Vinegar 1:17:41 | What Your DNA Can’t Tell You 1:23:18 | Science of Artificial Sweeteners 1:26:31 | Hormone Connected Glucose Spikes  1:33:22 | Do You Really Want Wrinkles? 1:34:45 | White Or Brown Doesn’t Matter QUOTES: “Weight loss becomes one of the consequences of learning about your glucose and stabilizing it, but it’s not really the main objective, nor is it the only thing that happens.” [1:18] “Often the symptoms we’re experiencing, we kind of mask or feel bad about the symptoms, when really often what’s happening is that these symptoms are, [...] messages.” [5:51] “You don’t have to change what you’re eating, just think about fiber and the fact that she needs to go in first, and that will completely change the impact of your meal on your health.” [14:16] “The fruit we find today in supermarkets is actually not natural at all.” [16:48] “In the same way we bred wolves into chihuahua, humans have bred ancestral bananas into bananas that we see today.” [17:26] “The amount of calories in something tells you nothing about what the food is going to do to your body.” [30:41] “The calories thing is an easy thing for the food industry to hide behind.” [37:41] “I don’t like saying good and bad carbs. I like the distinction between starches and sugars.” [57:10] “Your glucose levels are very tightly correlated to your hormonal system.” [1:28:08] “The decision of white sugar or brown sugar is not where health happens. That is not where feeling better happens.” [1:37:51] Follow Jessie Inchauspie: Website: https://www.glucosegoddess.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/GlucoseGoddesss  Twitter: https://twitter.com/glucosegoddesss  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/glucosegoddess/

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d On Today's Episode: More than half of all teenagers are totally uncomfortable discussing the same thing that nearly a third of adults are uncomfortable discussing. Sex! The question that Tom and Lisa tackle today is if waiting to have sex before marriage is the right thing. Yes, there are religious and cultural beliefs that will provide the answer and wisdom you need should you subscribe to those beliefs, but in this episode Tom and Lisa take a practical perspective about sex before marriage, living together first, and discovering compatibility and a common baseline in one of the most important aspects of your relationship. Their advice for a long-term healthy and happy relationship acknowledges the importance of feeling safe physically and emotionally, but more importantly being open to communicate and discuss sex together. SHOW NOTES: Sex Before Marriage | Tom why waiting for marriage to have sex is madness [0:35] Living Together | Tom explains why living together 1st is a best practice for longevity [1:25] No Fireworks | Lisa on the disappoint of first sexual experience and missing the fireworks [3:41] Safe Exploration | Connecting and having safety to physically and emotionally explore [5:28] Compatibility | Being on the same page, shared electricity, and know your sex flavor [8:05] Frequency | Having open communication about frequency and feeling neglected [9:02] Orgasmic | Tom on the neuro chemistry and power orgasm has for antidepressant [11:33] Fetishes | Important of openly discussing fetishes and having no judgement [13:07] Growing | Tom shares the value evolving in the sexual relationship and journey together [15:27] Real Talk | Real time communication Tom’s intention vs. Lisa’s values on “experiment” [16:06] QUOTES: “I thought fireworks were gonna go off, I was going to be crowned, my life was never going to be the same, I was going to be finally a woman, like, it was like this big grand thing. And I had sex for the first time and was like, ‘huh!?’” Lisa Bilyeu [4:10] “one of the best pieces of advice I ever got about sex was until you're able to talk about it openly don't have it.” Tom Bilyeu [5:49] “...the things you will learn about yourself, what you like, the nature of sex itself is so profound, that having a level of experience and exploration I think is truly rewarding.” Tom Bilyeu [11:02] “if you if you don't have sex beforehand, if you don't discuss it especially, then you may end up in a relationship with someone that is that may be the antithesis of what sexually turns you on.” Lisa Bilyeu [14:57] Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: The relationships you were in that made you doubt yourself because of what someone else told you about you. The times that you tried to stand up for yourself and your partner flipped the whole argument around and had you buying into lies and made the truth so blurry you couldn’t trust what you were seeing and hearing with your own eyes and ears. Staying in a relationship like that is self-destructive. You can’t stay just to keep the peace for everyone else while you suffer in silence. You can’t continue letting yourself down because you try to set a boundary and your partner stomps all over it and mocks you for even trying to have one. Today’s guest, Audrina Patridge, is the MTV reality show star of The Hills and author of the book, Choices: To The Hills and Back Again. She’s sharing the results she experienced from being a chronic people pleaser, and a woman stuck in toxic relationships living with the regret of bad decisions and wrong choices without any consideration for the consequences she would have to face. Audrina shares how she was able to break out of that and start identifying the areas she most needed boundaries and who the enablers were in her life that needed to go. You can break out of toxic relationships, these are solid tips and examples of how you can start on that path of healing and self-love today… Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction Audrina Patridge 0:18 | Stop Settling On Toxic Relationships 10:21 | People Pleasing Is A Choice 16:23 | Choices We Regret Instantly 20:28 | Handling Broken Trust 32:54 | After Trust Is Betrayed 38:40 | Communicate Clear Boundaries  45:20 | Manage Insecurities & Jealousy QUOTES: “You need a support system, you can’t do it alone.” [6:03] “I just didn’t think of consequences. I was always in the moment and impulsive and I learned a lot from that.” [9:34] “I ignored everything and I just kept pushing forward and I definitely took the hard route of love at that point…” [16:10] “You can’t change people, they have to want to change, and they have to go through life lessons and something to open their eyes, [...] they have to want it.” [30:56] “Sometimes you have to be loud and clear, and just blunt.” [42:25] “Be careful when you’re so quick to judge someone or when someone is in a bad mood…” [44:48] “To have a friend you have to be a friend.” [48:56] Follow Audrina Patridge: Website: https://audrinapatridgeonline.com/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/AudrinaPatridge   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/audrinapatridge/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AudrinaPatridge/ 

Download your FREE copy of The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: Be upfront about your cheating past. It may feel counterintuitive to open up about your history of cheating with your new partner to win over their trust, but it may actually be the absolute best thing you should do. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the best way to address your cheating history with your partner, when the best time to do it is, and how it will actually lead to a stronger, better relationship. They talk about how honesty is crucial, why you should set rules for your life, how being honest is actually a benefit to you, and why you shouldn’t be afraid to be brutally honest upfront. SHOW NOTES: Be Honest | Lisa and Tom discuss how to address your past cheating to your partner. [0:26] Rules | Tom and Lisa share why it’s so important to set rules for your own life. [3:30] Your Own Sake | Tom and Lisa discuss why being honest is actually for your benefit. [4:25] Be Upfront | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should be honest early. [5:17] QUOTES: “I will never ever cheat on you. I can’t say I’ll never break up with you.” [3:38] “The reason to be honest with somebody isn’t for them nearly as much as it’s for you.” [4:25] “It’s about the lie, not even about the actual incident.” [6:28] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Download Now: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3fZcbO5 On Today's Episode: Often we talk about and look up things like: feeling disrespected, how to enforce boundaries, relationship red flags and how to know if your partner is toxic or narcissistic. On this channel, we are all about empowering you to recognize your value and your worth. Developing the grit and strength you need to stand up for yourself is critical for the best version of you. So we go hard on self-love, radical confidence and upholding boundaries. But… what about when you’re the culprit in the relationship and if you’re honest, you could show up in your relationship a little (or a lot) better? Our guest today is the queen of real talk and a no b.s. take on life and what it means to reach your fullest potential. Mel Robbins is a best selling author, motivational speaker, and now the host of The Mel Robbins Podcast!  In this episode we’re going from how to identify when you’re being disrespected to what to do when you’re the one disrespecting your partner and your relationship. It’s not always obvious to people, but relationships are hard work and Mel is so real about how she shows up in her own marriage of 26 years. It’s easy to see a bit of yourself in her vulnerabilities of not being the perfect partner Check out Mel Robbins new podcast here: https://www.melrobbins.com/podcast  Women of Impact is sponsored by Growthday Network: https://growthday.com/podcasts SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Mel Robbins 1:11 | Disrespect In Your Relationship 9:40 | Take Responsibility In The Relationship 20:18 | Identify Your Toxic Behavior 29:40 | Alpha Female Ambitions 44:48 | The Power Dynamic of Money 50:10 | Do This to Fix Your Relationship 1:09:27 | Change & Separation  1:21:15 | MDMA Relationship Therapy QUOTES: “The second you are around a stranger, or a friend, [...] and something feels off, or you feel any kind of bad vibration, there is all the evidence that you need.” [12:35] “A lot of us were taught in childhood that love is transactional.” [14:31] “We feel guilty because we think we’re responsible for somebody else being happy.” [15:46] “I’m not a toxic person, but I engage in toxic behavior.” [20:42] “Nobody is going to get better if you don’t tell them what they’re doing wrong.” [23:22] “If you’re putting pressure on your partner when it comes to finances, that is your ambition, that is your desire. It’s not their responsibility to pay your bills and to provide for you.” [35:29] “Providing doesn’t, in society’s lane, mean love and emotional connection, it means money.” [36:30] “The gender roles that have been imposed on us are complete f*cking horse sh*t.” [44:48] “Power follows the money.” [47:05] “If you don’t value the support that your partner provides, that's a huge problem.” [49:10] “Couples therapy, in my opinion, doesn't work that well if you’re not also willing to work on yourself.” [52:10] “I had to see my own toxic behavior of using enthusiasm to bulldoze people.” [59:53] “You cannot expect another human being to know where your emotional landmines are.” [1:02:47] “If you have someone willing to meet you halfway, you will never regret at least trying to make it better.” [1:07:57] “When anybody grows or changes it makes the people around you question what they’re doing.” [1:12:15] Follow Mel Robbins: Website: https://melrobbins.com/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/melrobbins  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins 

Download your FREE copy of The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d On Today's Episode: Resentment, comparison, and our partner’s life circumstances versus our own. What do we do when our situation in life seems overwhelmingly harder than our partner’s and how do we deal with resentment in a healthy way? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they address resentment towards your partner in a relationship and how to overcome such feelings in a positive-healthy way. They discuss why we compare ourselves to our partner, why we need to take ownership of our life’s decisions, why resentment is just the projection of our own insecurities, and why we need to shift our focus back towards ourselves rather than onto others. SHOW NOTES: Comparing | Lisa and Tom reveal how to stop comparing yourself to your significant other. [0:27] Taking Ownership | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of owning your decisions. [2:22] Projection | Lisa and Tom discuss how we mirror and reflect resentment onto our partners. [4:17] Both Sides | Tom and Lisa discuss both sides of projecting resentment in a relationship. [5:21] Focus | Tom and Lisa discuss why resentment truly doesn’t move you towards your goals. [8:48] Acceptance | Lisa and Tom discuss not holding your wants in life against your partner. [10:29] QUOTES: “This is the perfect example of ‘comparison' being the thief of ‘joy.’” [1:53] “So stay focused on your options rather than comparing yourself to the one person.” [8:23] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Download your FREE copy of The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here: https://bit.ly/3dWyB2d FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3RJxOPM On Today's Episode: The uncertainty of dating and being part of a relationship that you want to make last forever causes many of us so much anxiety. The doubts if this person is for real, can you trust them, is this relationship as important to them as it is to you? You don’t have to keep living in fear of not knowing if the person you are dating is the love of your life forever or if it’s doomed to fail cause you’re missing all the signs and avoiding the right conversations, Today, let’s break down 9 questions you can ask your partner to determine if you’re placing you heart, your time, and your energy in the right place with the right person. For hard truth telling and relationship revelations around self worth, value and accountability, check out the full episode with Sarah Jakes Roberts: https://youtu.be/IbriO6QIxoU To hear more Red Flags from relationship expert, Matthew Hussey, check out this full episode with Lisa exposing if He’s Wasting Your Time: https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE Get all the juicy tips for communicating with your partner more openly about sex with the sex expert, Emily Morse, a.k.a. Sex with Emily here: https://youtu.be/KLukArHg-vk Relationship expert, Stephan Speaks, exposes all the ways men are wasting your time in this interview with Lisa, and you don’t want to miss this: https://youtu.be/dqEke-0o9y8 SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to the Relationship Test 0:18 | Is It Even A Relationship Without Actual Trust? 5:41 | Should Your Partner Value Anything Above You? 9:58 | What Deal Breakers Would End Everything? 17:59 | Does Your Partner Feel Supported? 34:19 | Do You Envision A Future Together? 41:55 | What’s Missing From Your Sex Life? 51:51 | If Your BFF Flirted With Your Partner!? 52:24 | Lisa Questions Tom On The Spot 1:00:48 | Does He Want An Independent Woman? QUOTES: “Without trust I don’t honestly see how the hell you’re going to have a long lasting relationship.” [0:30] “The relationship was a symptom, it was not the disease. It was a symptom of an insecurity that started long before I met the person.” Sarah Jakes Roberts [4:14] “Make sure you give your partner space to speak about what else they value apart from you.” [9:48] “Acknowledging and being able to deliver are two very different things.” Matthew Hussey [17:47] “It’s so terrifying to think how fragile trust really is that it only takes one gnarly comment that was aimed to be cruel and you can really do a lot of damage.” Tom Bilyeu [33:53] “You want to know the truth for your own sake so that you know how you show up in this relationship and whether it's a relationship you choose to be in.” [37:43] “Not only does your relationship grow and evolve, but you grow and evolve.” [38:02] “Bed death, [...] is literally poison to a relationship.” [46:11] “Even if you’re having the most incredible sex, and I’m telling you sex isn’t just about orgasms, in every single relationship, it’s going to get stale after awhile.” Emily Morse [50:54] “Red flags are not see it, run. Red flags are see it, address it, then if it’s not corrected walk away Stephan Speaks [1:05:44] “The goal should be not trying to fit into other people’s lives but see who we fit...

FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3StV8Sm On Today's Episode: The road to recovery once trust has been broken in a relationship can be long and painful for everyone involved. In this episode Tom and Lisa take a look from both sides of the one betrayed and the betrayer. Healing is a process and once that cannot be rushed, but is it more painful for the person who needs to forgive or the person that needs to earn back the trust that has been damaged? Regardless what side of the fence you are on, this conversation offers hard truths on both sides to consider. Letting go is easier said than done, and necessary if there is to be any recovery and future there after. SHOW NOTES: Getting past betrayal requires you to let it go [1:12] The challenge of being remorseful and changing your behavior [2:08] What the cycle of not letting go potentially looks like for the average person [3:22] Knowing how to actually let it go [4:29] Holding on to betrayal and not allowing yourself to heal [5:54] Taking ownership of the betrayal to regain your power and not be the victim [6:32] How to deal with letting go when it’s stills fresh [7:32] QUOTES: “Almost more of the work is on the side of the person that has to do the forgiving because you actually have to let it go” Tom Bilyeu [1:42] “If it’s a mutually recognized betrayal, she knows she’s in the right, he knows he’s in the wrong. So, how do you meet again as equals?” Tom Bilyeu [5:40] “If you haven't healed it's like a wound that keeps on bleeding” Lisa Bilyeu [5:58]

FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3StV8Sm On Today's Episode: We strive to be women who stand up for themselves, who walk into any room with total confidence, and who never allow excuses. Becoming that kind of woman takes a lot of work, but the more women we surround ourselves with that remind us of who we want to become, and the more examples of women we see like this, the easier it becomes for us. When you think of badassery at a level that leaves NFL Hall of Famers like Dione Sanders and Michael Strahan nodding in approval, this woman has to come top of mind, Constance Schwartz-Morini. She’s been holding her own, rising to the top, and commanding respect in the sports entertainment industry where men dominate for decades. Constance oozes authentic badassery and beautifully embraces her confidence and vulnerability even when things are uncertain. This episode is dedicated to helping the 20 somethings find their way to more confident 30 something, and to helping the 30 and 40 somethings realize their time for confidence and releasing a victim mindset has come. “The main challenge was what a lot of young women still face, guys getting brought in above me because they have connections. That happened three times. Instead of quitting or giving up I worked ten times harder, it put the battery in my back.” -Constance Schwartz-Morini Resource mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown Ted Talk, Vulnerability: https://youtu.be/iCvmsMzlF7o Rocket Fuel by Gino Wickman & Mark Winters: https://www.amazon.com/Rocket-Fuel-Essential-Combination-Business/dp/1942952317 SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Constance Schwartz-Morini 0:46 | Make Them Respect You 10:14 | Vulnerability Can Boost Confidence 15:43 | Girl, Lose Your Ego 21:40 | Lose The Victim Mindset 27:52 | Badass Leaders Need Support Too 32:16 | High Achievers Can Find Love 42:03 | Find the Right Partner For You 48:20 | Hustle Hard or Quiet Quit? 1:03:00 | Don’t Get Boxed Into Being Arrogant QUOTES: “I’m really good at what I know but I’m even better at what I don’t know.” [11:53] “It’s a constant battle to move the ball forward.” [23:05] “There’s no seat at that table for me, well f*ck you I’m building my own table.” [28:58] “You’ve got to make room for your partner, and you’ve got to make room for yourself.” [41:46] “You want to be with the right person that you can grow together, not part. [48:12] “If you don’t show up and show out, what do you think is going to happen?” [55:00] “I like to think that our discomfort is helping navigate the younger generation.” [1:05:14] Follow Constance Schwartz-Morini: Website: https://www.smac-ent.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/ConSchwartz Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/conschwartz/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SarahJakesRoberts Podcast: https://www.womanevolve.com/podcast

FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3DJbbHI On Today's Episode: Longing for a loving relationship that will stand the test of time is a dream for many people and yet it’s one of the hardest things to find. Building a long lasting love takes vulnerability, trust and a lot of communication. It also takes getting into a loving relationship with yourself. One of the worst things we can do when we’re dating is lack the self-trust, self-love and honesty we need to see the person we’re dating for who they really are. It’s easy to get carried away with a perception of your partner when you’re dating and everything is new. Matthew Hussey, relationship expert and bestselling author of Get the Guy, strongly urges women to boldly ask the right questions and not fear scaring the right person for them away. Stop fighting for dead-end, painful relationships that make you question your sanity and if the version of reality you’re living is actually real. Learn the rules for dating that allow you to invest in the right relationship and trust yourself to know when it’s time to leave because the intention and alignment is not right. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Matthew Hussey 0:10 | Want to Find Love? 21:51 | Build Long Lasting Love 48:47 | Commit to the Right Person 1:09:20 | Love Vs. Lust 1:35:06 | Bonus: Communication is Key QUOTES: “You don’t trust that someone is never going to betray you. You just trust that you’ll be able to handle it if they do.” [4:01] “It’s one thing if someone is acknowledging the gap, but acknowledging and being able to deliver are two very different things.” [12:22] “I’ve been a victim of me, and I need compassion for that, I deserve compassion for that because ‘me’ is a complex person.” [23:18] “I'm afraid that me asking the question is going to scare someone away, but if it’s going so well how are you going to scare someone away that easily? [...] it can only scare away the wrong person [59:10] “Attention is not the same as intention, you can give me lots of attention but have no real intention behind it…” [1:13:16] “There’s the economics of value. What is scarce, what is difficult to obtain, what I have to fight for must be more valuable, and that’s a really dangerous thing to apply to your love life.” [1:27:07] “No one is the bad boy to the person they choose, you can’t be! [...] If you’re chasing bad boys, you’re always chasing someone in a phase…” [1:31:51] “You have to be able to separate hw you feel about someone from how someone makes you feel.“ [1:34:11] “When do opposites become problematic? It’s all around values, [...] they just can’t fathom that there is another valid way to approach the world.” Tom Bilyeu [1:37:25] “If you're in a relationship where one person wants things clean and one doesn’t, I promise you, you are at a collision of values.” Tom Bilyeu [2:04:11] Follow Matthew Hussey: Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/

FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3DJbbHI On Today's Episode: Moving in together can be one of the biggest steps you take in your relationship. When do you know it’s time to make the move, why might you or your partner have hesitations, and what should you do if your partner keeps making excuses to not do it? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss these matters and more as they explore what you should do if moving in with your loved one is proving to be more difficult to make happen than first anticipated. They discuss what to do when they’re not ready for the move, why you should be logical and honest, why you should know whether it’s worth it or not to even be in the relationship, how to approach the move like a written contract, and why you need to be absolutely clear on what your needs are with your partner. SHOW NOTES: Moving In | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do if your partner isn’t ready to move in. [0:16] Logical | Tom and Lisa share their story of moving in together. [2:32] Honesty | Lisa and Tom discuss why you have to articulate the ‘why’ behind your decision. [3:33] Worth It | Tom shares the time when he weighed the sacrifices of being with Lisa. [6:04] Contract | Lisa and Tom discuss how living together should be treated like a contract. [8:17] PTSD | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to be open about your past living situations. [10:53] No Bullsh*t | Tom and Lisa discuss why you should be clear on what your pain point is [11:57] QUOTES: “…no, he’s just not that into you.” [1:07] “It isn’t that he didn’t want to get married, it’s that he didn’t want to get married to me.” [4:35] “What would have to be true for you to be willing to move in with me?” [12:02] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH

FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3DJbbHI On Today's Episode: Some seasons of life feel like one long endless battle. Maybe the battles are a result of decisions you’ve made, and maybe they’re unavoidable. Either way, it’s the moments in these battles that force challenge the real you, the authentic version of you that exists at your core. There’s a host of things that can prepare you for battle and there’s one core principle from which everything else is powered to help you leave every battle victorious, and that’s self-love. Roxy Saffaie is a super incredible badass. She’s the founder of Black Belt Beauty and a powerful voice for self-mastery. In this episode she’s showing us exactly how to connect and develop the mental fortitude through doing the hard sh*t that trains us physically. Strong mind. Strong body. Roxy is reminding all us that we need to be capable of carrying heavy loads and how it always comes back to really loving yourself. Self-love is not making excuses Self-love is getting f*cking uncomfortable Self-love is developing discipline Check out Roxy's Future Self digital course here: https://blackbeltbeauty.mykajabi.com/future-self-digitalcourse SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Roxy Saffaie 0:40 | How Much Effort Are You Worth? 4:34 | Do the Sh*t You Don’t Want to Do 7:41 | Get Mentally Stronger the Badass Way 12:20 | Ditch Your Excuses (At the Wall) 37:05 | Develop Discipline (To Hang On) 1:04:40 | Get F*cking Uncomfortable 1:22:39 | Stick to Your Path of Confidence QUOTES: “This effort that I’m making is really connected to my self-worth.” [1:29] “You have to feel worthy of the battle and the victory.” [2:39] “I embrace every challenge that is on my path knowing that, [...] me moving towards this challenge is me fortifying myself, the relationship I have with myself.” [6:44] “When I’m lifting heavy sh*t, I’m telling myself that I am capable to handle heavy loads in life.” [9:07] “That reserve moment is in f*cking everybody but not everybody is willing to push the trigger on it.” [17:19] “...I can fall with respect, I can fall and feel proud. Can you fall and feel proud? You can when you put your f*cking heart into the work.” [19:29] “To develop any kind of loving, trustworthy, respectable relationship with anybody, [...] you have to invest.” [30:11] “Pull the best out of yourself in any and every moment of your life.” [43:24] “When you are in your healthiest state, [...] the volume on your intuition is louder.” [46:45] “Be willing to start from the beginning, be willing to start from the f*cking bottom, be willing to suck, be willing to sweat to take the punches, [...] you are literally telling yourself, ‘I love you, you’re worth it.’” [51:09] “I wanted to go to the olympics, I didn’t go to the olympics but that’s okay because life is my sport and so everyday is like an olympic sport.” [56:21] “In moments where you’re uncomfortable, where you’re being challenged, can you stay loose with it, can you stay flexible, so that you can actually respond to the challenge in a way where you won’t break ?” [1:07:09] “When you really know who you are, nothing can override this knowing.” [1:24:53] Follow Roxy Saffaie: Website: https://www.blackbeltbeauty.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/blackbeltbeauty Twitter: https://twitter.com/roxylook

Do you struggle with trust issues? Did your last relationship scar you from ever trusting or putting yourself out there again? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to overcome your lingering trust issues so that you can start to put yourself out there again and find love. They discuss what may be causing your trust issues, why finding love requires being vulnerable, why the little things in a relationship build trust, and how to set rules in your relationship to maintain trust for years to come. SHOW NOTES: Trust | Tom and Lisa discuss how to overcome your own trust issues. [0:28] Love | Lisa and Tom recall a time in their relationship when they first said, “I love you.” [5:26] Be Willing | Tom and Lisa discuss why you have to be willing to get hurt again. [6:37] Divorce | Tom and Lisa discuss why even saying the ‘D word’ is difficult for them. [8:08] Little Things | Lisa and Tom discuss how the little things that build trust. [12:25] Rules | Tom and Lisa discuss how to know what rules to set in a relationship. [13:50] QUOTES: “If somebody comes into the relationship and they’re badmouthing their ex and they’re talking all kinds of shit, then just assume that’s exactly how they will be about you when you break up. So remember, you don’t divorce the same person that you marry.” [4:51] “If you know that love is brain chemistry, then you have to learn to take control of your brain chemistry and learn to recapture and recreate moments that make you feel that, cause it won’t happen accidentally. It’s like happiness. Happiness and love are very similar in that sense — that if you don’t work at it, it’s not going to happen.” [9:42] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3DjDr3x On Today's Episode: There’s no doubt that you’ve faced some heavy challenges in this lifetime. You’ve experienced loss and just out of the nature of being a woman you’ve definitely faced adversity on multiple levels. Yet, you’re here at this moment and that’s worth celebrating! Being resilient takes courage. It requires you to face down your fears and still be willing to go again even though you’ve made all the mistakes, even though you’re heart is hurting, and in spite of all the trauma you’ve experienced. In this episode, Rachel Hollis, who is no stranger to adversity, is sharing her heavy challenges and losses to share how she’s been able to overcome it all and become more resilient. Rachel is a bestselling author, lifestyle blogger, podcast host, and entrepreneur. Today we’re digging into the pain of showing up when you don’t want to, knowing yourself at a level that makes unstoppable, and how you can cultivate resilience to keep goin The bonus part of this conversation is thinking through how you feel about your hormones, your cycle and how you feel about the food you eat. It’s not about being skinny or looking a certain way, but rather having the best relationship you can with yourself as all of these things impact your mood, how you show up, and how you feel and think about yourself. Recommended Reading: Intuitive Eating, A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach: https://amzn.to/3RU9snz Period Power , Harness Your Hormones & Get Your Cycle Working for You: https://amzn.to/3Lc3AmX SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Rachel Hollis 0:34 | Secrets to Being More Resilient 8:38 | Keep Showing Up Even When… 15:00 | Positive Change Doesn’t Feel Great 22:39 | Trust You Know What’s Best 40:17 | How The Younger You Shows Up 48:14 | Stop Your Emotional Eating 1:14:38 | Overcome Fear, Failure &, Mistakes 1:22:26 | Brain Fog, Low Energy, & Hormones 1:43:47 | Embracing Your Cycle & Hormones 1:51:38 | Know Yourself At This Level QUOTES: 37 sec “If you don’t process it in the moment, you’re going to process it for the next decade, [...] There is no escaping the emotions of the hard stuff we go through.” [5:36] “Women are stronger negotiators when they are fighting for someone else.” [11:32] “If I have trust with myself, I feel like my inner knowing will always tell me if something is not okay.” [27:27] “When you learn to listen to that [intuition], I believe we are never guided incorrectly if you’re listening to true wisdom inside yourself.” [37:54] “We are either a reaction to, or a reflection of the people who raised us.” [52:15] “There was always a reason I could find to keep emotionally eating and never find a solution for how to make myself feel better in a way that didn’t involve food, […] nothing outside of yourself is ever going to satisfy you.” [57:25] “There isn’t bad food, but there is food that is incompatible with my body.” [1:06:55] “If we trusted that we would go again more than we trusted that we would fail, anything would be possible!” [1:14:38] “If you knew that it wasn’t normal you would feel empowered to take steps that would heal you. It’s because we think that feeling badly, [...] all of this stuff that we are made to believe is normal isn’t normal.” [1:45:54] “If you know yourself then you know what your intention is, you know your heart, you know your values, you know your why. And if you really truly know yourself and you mess up you’ll know that you were doing your best and that you’ll do your best next time, and you...

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3cb6AD7 On Today's Episode: Having a healthy vibrant sex life is not just fun, it’s also healthy for your relationship and for your personal health. In the past how comfortable have you been with talking about your sexual wants, desires, and fantasies with your partner? It can get super awkward and uncomfortable really really fast. In this episode we’ve got you covered with Emily Morse, the sex expert and host of the Sex with Emily podcast that has been saving people’s sex lives and relationships one after the other. All the ways you want your partner to please you, the things your partner does that don’t feel great, are one conversation away. Watch this and take notes so you can get more confident with your body, your sexuality, and discover how you like to be pleased so your partner can share in getting you to a real orgasm so you never have to fake it again. You can check both of Emily’s full conversations with Lisa here: Confidence in the Bedroom: https://youtu.be/CpSl1NH13zs 5 Taboo Tricks You Should Try: https://youtu.be/KLukArHg-vk SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction Emily Morse 0:17 | Secret to Sexual Desire 28:48 | Master Confidence in Your Body & Mind 59:25 | What No One Shares About Your Body QUOTES: “If you’re a couple that prioritizes health and wellness you can’t have you sex life be the outlier of your health and wellness.” [8:01] “The confidence comes from knowing you deserve pleasure, that you deserve to be in a healthy relationship…” [20:15] “If you don’t accept your own body, it’s going to be really hard to get somebody else on board with it as well.” [20:41] “Communication is a lubrication, talk about your sex life.” [32:19] “Your communication as a couple has to come first and foremost.” [43:40] “Women are slow cookers and men are frying pans.” [1:00:48] “Everything about sex needs to be rebranded, and one of them is that masturbation is shameful or wrong, [...] healthy masturbation is the key to unlocking our own pleasure because we’re responsible for our own orgasm.” [1:04:13] Follow Emily Morse: Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Email: Feedback@sexwithme.com Podcast: https://sexwithemily.com/listen/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/

On Today's Episode: You’re worth more. Period. Do not settle for someone isn’t bringing out the best in you and is championing the relationship. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu discuss when it’s time to let go of someone who is simply just dragging the relationship down and causing more pain than joy. They discuss how disfunction is at the root cause of any unhealthy relationship, how sacrifices need to be made to pursue both your personal goals and to support your relationship, and how you are worth more and deserve joy. SHOW NOTES: Let ‘Em Go | Lisa and Tom discuss breaking up versus giving space during uncertainty. [0:25] Disfunction | Tom and Lisa discuss when disfunction is the root cause of a relationship. [2:01] Sacrifices | Tom and Lisa discuss the focus between your goals and your relationship. [3:05] You’re Worth More | Lisa and Tom discuss what you deserve in a relationship. [4:56] QUOTES: “Do you feel like you’re their number one? Do you feel better about yourself when you’re around them?” [2:26] “I don’t think that a dysfunctional relationship makes your life better than being alone.” [4:05] “…you’re worth more…” [5:05] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3cb6AD7 On Today's Episode: You should never have to walk around not feeling safe just because you are a woman. Being a victim of a crime is horrendous that can cause lifelong trauma and setbacks. There are some stats that report over 40% of women in the U.S. have encountered sexual violence in their life. While fighting back can feel scary and impossible whether you’re five feet tall or 6 feet tall, the alternative of not fighting back is even scarier. In this episode Lisa brings on a 3rd Black Belt Badass to share her moves, tips, and tactics to defend yourself, stand up for yourself, and love yourself through it all. Jenn Cassetta has appeared on national television, and has helped brands such as Apple, Nike, and Uber teach self defense for women. After being attacked herself near her home late one night, she took her fear to a dojo and learned how to fight back and master her thinking. Jenn shares the Ultimate Comeback for life: Give yourself grace Reimagine your life Recreate your life Ignore the naysayers Set a plan in motion Having practical tactics to help you better deal with people when they’ve crossed your boundaries and ways to stand up for yourself that allow you to be more confident may save your life on the street or in the workplace. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Jenn Casetta 3:38 | Embrace the Suck (White Belt) 8:45 | Suited Up in Amour 11:12 | Choose to Defend Yourself - Peace - mind body connection 15:50 | Make Your Sh*ts List 23:29 | Bounce Back (Yellow Belt) 28:35 | The Ultimate Comeback 37:11 | The Ultimate Comeback Moves 39:27 | Block the B.S. (Orange Belt) 48:52 | Moves to Block B.S. 52:15 | Find Your Roar (Green Belt) 1:04:29 | Unleash Your Battle Cry 1:09:35 | Elevate Your Energy (Blue Belt) 1:19:09 | How to Kill Energy Vampires 1:30:34 | Connect to Your Inner Warrior (Red Belt) 1:38:28 | Take the Lead (Black Belt) 1:43:38 | 3 Tactics to Show Up for Yourself QUOTES: “We’re throwing ourselves into the unknown, into the uncomfortable and it’s the only way to get through and not just stay stuck.” [8:16] “We need to create our own safe space.” [9:58] “When you can look at your sh*ts list and be like, pat yourself on the back [...] and be like you did not have it easy, you weren’t dealt all the cards, [...] but here you are, still standing, you’re alive…” [17:16] “If you’re not actually doing the steps, you’re not going to get anywhere.” [37:02] “It’s also okay to raise your volume when you want to set a powerful boundary [59:34] “Ask questions! If you want to grow you’re going to need to learn to take feedback.” [1:01:59] “If you want to be a black belt in badassery, you need to really be aware of the words you’re saying to yourself, and then have some skills or some tools to turn that around when it gets negative…” [1:02:40] “All those negative thoughts are just like weeds that are growing in your mental space.” [1:04:06] “If we don’t stop and take an energy audit and see how much output of energy we’re giving versus the input and the self-care, sooner or later you’re going to head for burnout.” [1:11:11] “I want to be around people who want to lift themselves up too. It’s a different energy, and [...] you feel like you’re elevating with them.” [1:20:18] “If you’re feeling badly and you know, with grace ,that you’re comparing yourself, stop freaking following people.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:25:16] “We have to slow down to hear it and then have a practice, a daily practice, where we get to tune into her and really start to listen, and then over time not just listen but...

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3pD5YZM On Today's Episode: Communication is an essential part of great sex. But many people worry about hurting their partner’s feelings by bringing up the topic — especially if they'e not feeling satisfied. These conversations can bring up a lot of anxiety and can cause you to avoid having them. Thus, damage your relationship in the long run. But there are strategies to make these conversations easier. In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share how to talk about sex with your partner even if you are afraid to do so. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After watching this episode, you´ll know what the right moment for starting the conversation looks like. You'll understand how to prevent triggering your partner. Why asking for flowers isn't unromantic and how to guide your partner, so he knows what makes you happy. Furthermore, you'll learn how to handle your emotions when you're getting triggered and how men can articulate sexual attraction in a way that makes women feel good. SHOW NOTES: Why you should talk about sex if you're not sexually satisfied. [00:37] How does the right moment for starting the conversation look like? [3:21] This is how Tom and Lisa used the movie “Rush Hour” to end one of their biggest fights. [5:35] The most powerful question Lisa asked in the marriage. [7:33] The mindset you need to have to improve any area of your relationship. [8:10] Avoid this communication mistake to prevent triggering your partner. [9:45] What Lisa and Tom don't do (This radically improves their relationship.) [11:10] Why asking for flowers isn't unromantic and how to guide your partner, so he knows what makes you happy. [12:00] What “communication is key” does actually mean and how to implement it. [15:00] How to handle your emotions when you're getting triggered. [16:00] What happens to most relationships, so they end up in an unhappy relationship. [17:00] How men can articulate sexual attraction in a way that makes women feel good. [18:56] The difference in how women and men think about sex (If you don´t understand this, you think the other side is crazy.) [20:03] QUOTES: “If you’re not ready to talk with your partner about sex, you’re not ready to have sex.” [1:05] “I take on the ownership of: “What am I not giving you?” Because to trick ourselves into thinking we are always giving our partner exactly what they need all the time is absolutely putting blinders on.” [8:12] “Does this person love me? And if the answer is “yes” then I know that there is no ill-will, so whatever they’re trying to do, I am gonna give them grace and understanding, and I am gonna be open and receptive.” [16:40] “Women need to feel loved to have sex, and men need to have sex to feel loved.” [20:03] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3pD5YZM On This Episode: Maybe you’re a single mother, or a sister, aunt or best friend of a young man in your life trying to learn how to navigate the ropes of life and you’re wondering how you can be enough for him, and if you’re enough. There’s been a debate about whether a woman can raise a strong man or not, but today’s guest puts this argument to rest once and for all. Devon Franklin released an audible exclusive called, It Takes a Woman, to pay tribute to the love, the sacrifice and the value he and his brothers received from the women that helped raise them. Devon Franklin is an award winning film and TV producer, former Senior VP of Production at Columbia Pictures and current president and CEO of Franklin Entertainment. The way he connects to his emotions and pain with clarity of mind is inspiring. In this episode we’re discussing how to be okay and how to find the line where sacrifice requires more self-care to be even better for the people you love the most. There are things that only a woman can do to make things alright, but it doesn’t have to come in the form of perfection and it doesn’t need to be to your own detriment. “We never fully come to terms with the lost that cuts us to our soul” -Devon Franklin, It Takes a Woman Check out Devon’s Audible Exclusive, It Takes A Woman: https://www.amazon.com/Audible-It-Takes-a-Woman/dp/B09X24B5B1 SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Devon Franklin 0:41 | It Takes A Woman’s Strength 6:29 | A Mother’s Perfect Imperfection 14:55 | Remedies for Childhood Trauma 18:44 | Self-Care, Sacrifice, & Healthy Boundaries 29:54 | Define Your Role & Identity 37:41 | Strong Men Raised By Women 44:47 | Recognize the Pain & How You Feel 50:50 | Love, Sex, & Relationships QUOTES: “There’s an expectation that women are going to do a certain thing, and as a result it isn’t always valued.” [3:55] “My mother was a strong woman because of her vulnerability.” [5:17] “I’m not about being selfish, but I've learned the value of self-prioritizing.” [17:48] “As men we do tend to be selfish when it comes to what women offer us and give us, and we do tend to undervalue and take for granted what women give us.” [22:30] “Yes, you should sacrifice, certainly there’s nothing wrong with that, yet please don’t sacrifice to the detriment of who you are.” [24:05] “I love you enough to offer whatever advice or help or support, yet if I step in and do it for you, then I’m actually not loving you.” [28:08] “If I find my identity in service to someone else, that to me is the equivalent of building your house on sand.” [34:20] “A lot of things, when they hurt us, is because there’s a seed of truth in it. So our reaction is really very revelatory. How we react to certain things is a great indicator of what’s going on in here.” [42:03] “This pain is here to teach me if I let it, and this pain is here to help me understand who I am and who I’m not…” [43:43] “I’m a perfectionist in reform. I thought, [...] I want to get through life perfectly, and that didn’t work, so I rather get through it truthfully. It’s not going to be perfect and that’s okay as long as it’s true I can live with that.” [44:21] “I allowed others’ perception of me to be my prison.” [50:05] Follow Devon: Website: https://devonfranklin.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKqTVGX0BZGQ5xPX98ibb4g Twitter:...

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3wm30gd On Today's Episode: When you see your partner looking at other people, how does that trigger your emotions? Do feelings of jealousy come up? Do you start thinking there is something wrong with you? Do you attack yourself? Everyone comes across these feelings of jealousy and insecurity in life, and how you decide to respond to those feelings is critical. Often people want to address the other person’s actions, but exploring why these feelings are coming up for you is more important. Tom and Lisa expand on the importance of self-worth, building confidence, and working on yourself until you are unbreakable. Your value, your worth, and securities are not given to you, they are built from within. No matter where you are in your relationship, or even if you don’t have a relationship, the process of working through jealousy and insecurities is a highly prized skill that will serve you well. SHOW NOTES: Jealousy Trigger | When the feeling arises assess what insecurities are being triggered [1:30] Self-Worth | Not attaching self-worth to phases but on what’s valuable & worthy [5:21] Overcoming Insecurity | Lisa facing insecurity, anchoring to self-worth, keep your power [8:50] Self-Centered | Being strong & confident in yourself in a way you can always rebuild self [13:28] 1st Step Out of Jealousy | Work on yourself, build confidence, and set your boundaries [16:40] QUOTES: “...jealousy and envy is a good reminder to do the work in yourself to shore up your insecurities to figure out why you're on such an uneven footing with that” Tom Bilyeu [4:27] “I still want to be in the place where I'm so secure in myself that it's like if you choose that, it will break my heart, but you won't break me.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:46] “if you do hurt me, I can get back up because I built the foundation of how I see myself” Lisa Bilyeu [13:20] “He can't give you confidence, nor can he take it away. He can trigger something that's already inside of you, but he can't give it or take it away, so you have to do that work.” Tom Bilyeu [15:49] “if the behavior is predictable, it shouldn't upset you.” Tom Bilyeu [18:49]

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://bit.ly/3wm30gd On Today's Episode: We’ve normalized PMS, bloating, and mood swings so much you can find jokes, stereotypes and commercial products everywhere to treat those symptoms and more. But is it really normal for women to have all of these symptoms? Dr. Trevor Cate is the bestselling author of the book, Clean Skin from Within and she’s also the owner and founder of The Spa Dr, a natural skin care line. She’s chatting with Lisa to debunk all of the symptoms that have been normalized for women for far too long. It’s time to start paying attention to the symptoms we have and stop passing them off as the way it is. Dr. Cate shares in her new book how waking up refreshed from a full night’s sleep without coffee first thing in the morning and having energy throughout the day is attainable. We have to start recognizing these symptoms for what they really are, our bodies' way of getting our attention and letting us know something is off. Diet choices have more impact on our symptoms and our ability to alleviate them by treating the root causes than you know. Great sex drive and normal appetite and live in balance Take the Hormone Series Quiz: https://hormoneseries.com/quiz/ Check out Dr. Cates incredible book, Natural Beauty Reset: https://www.amazon.com/Natural-Beauty-Reset-Harmonize-Hormones/dp/163774126X SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction Dr. Trevor Cates 0:41 | Norm’s That Are NOT Normal 6:44 | Reset Your Diet in 7 Days 16:36 | Food Symptoms to Watch For 23:44 | Danger of Added Sweeteners 30:30 | Feeling Triggered by Food 34:01 | Don’t Dismiss Your Symptoms 39:27 | Hormone Disruptors You Don’t Expect 45:42 | What Is Leaky Skin? 49:36 | Symptom-Free Life Is Possible 51:43 | Tips for Thriving Sex Hormones 54:26 | Self-Correcting Sleep Habits QUOTES: “If we never give ourselves a break, and we don’t fuel our bodies with the right food, with the right movement, with the right mindset, those sorts of things, then we’re going to burn ourselves out, [...] our hormones get out of balance.” [3:06] “When we eat more diverse foods, especially those in season when they're closest to the earth or to picking it from the tree it actually helps our gut microbiome diversity.” [7:32] “There are things that we are doing that are interfering and creating symptoms that we don’t even realize that we’re having.” [9:11] “When you have a symptom, [...] pay attention to your body. Symptoms are a sign that something is not quite right.” [17:03] “Whether it’s kale or mac n’ cheese, it’s not that food that we’re hungry for sometimes, it’s something else.” [32:05] “Birth control pills were made for birth control, let’s just let them be that and not try to use them for managing symptoms.” [39:13] “If you can get your oxytocin going it will help you bond with your partner, [...] when you feel that connection you feel more in the mood.” [53:34] Follow Dr. Trevor Cates: Website: https://thespadr.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrTrevorCates Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thespadr/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHv9yE00OLWaqUYYKd48TZQ/videos

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/peivEjIfHbdT Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/1KvTyXoLARXc On Today's Episode: Do you struggle with low confidence when talking to a potential love interest? Do you find yourself wallowing in your insecurities, telling yourself that you’re not good enough for them? Well, now is the time to stop. You need to suck it up, own your insecurities, and shift you focus towards positivity and confidence so that you can develop a happy and healthy relationship. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore the importance of confidence in any relationship and how you can move away from a place of insecurity and towards a place of positivity. They discuss how to talk to women when lacking confidence, ways to develop confidence, how all of us have insecurities and ways to overcome them, why you shouldn’t obsess over your insecurities, and how to shift your focus onto productive and positive thoughts. SHOW NOTES: Talking | Tom and Lisa discuss the best skills needed when talking to a future partner. [0:13] Confidence | Tom and Lisa reveal the importance of confidence when talking to women. [1:55] Insecurities | Tom and Lisa discuss insecurities and why you shouldn’t obsess over them. [4:02] Fine Lines | Tom shares the differences between owning and obsessing over insecurities. [5:55] Emotions | Lisa shares a story of when emotions began taking hold of her insecurities. [10:31] Focus | Tom discusses the importance of shifting your focus towards positive thoughts. [12:46] QUOTES: “It is okay, be insecure about that thing. Don’t wallow in it and take action about it.” [7:14] “Absolutely no good behavior comes from obsessively thinking about something that you’re insecure about it. So do something to address or move on.” [10:23] “Don’t approach things to want to get the compliment by putting yourself down.” [12:04] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/peivEjIfHbdT Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/1KvTyXoLARXc On Today's Episode: How do you know if he’s really interested or just obsessed with you? In reality, it’s hard to decipher what’s fact and what’s myth when it comes to knowing what men want. Him chasing you and giving you lots of time and attention may not be reliable in determining his real intentions for you. His lack of time and communication doesn’t necessarily indicate that he’s playing games or not interested either. Stephan (Labossiere) Speaks is a relationship coach dedicated to helping men and women experience happier and more fulfilling relationships. In today’s episode, you’re going to see that much of the problems we need to address are internal. Ladies, it's time to reconnect with your greatest source of power, that female intuition, and slow down long enough to be honest with yourself. Having the best relationship of your life is possible, but it’s going to take you asking the hard questions and answering them honestly. Why are you really here in this current relationship? Why are you holding onto a relationship with the wrong person? What are you afraid of, really? It’s time to get some straightforward advice from the relationship expert himself, so you can be strong and have your own back in every relationship. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Stephan Speaks 0:13 | Don’t Fall for the Chase 12:19 | How to Spot Real Connection 26:30 | Do This On Your Next Date 42:54 | Connection, Compatibility & Chemistry 58:14 | Shamed Into Bad Relationships 1:04:02 | Don’t Stay Out of Fear 1:13:10 | Why Sex Too Soon QUOTES: “Him chasing you is not always the greatest indicator that he’s serious about you, or that he has genuine intention.” [1:08] “There’s this idea that men don’t have feelings or that men are not being heartbroken by women out there.” [8:06] “I do believe the strength of the man is the logical mind, and the strength of the woman is the intuition mind.” [15:10] “If you have to cultivate it that means you’re just growing attached to this individual that’s not a connection.” [20:49] “It can’t be not true love on my end, but true love on your end.” [22:07] “Stop doing what you think will work and do what works for you.” [31:22] “The goal should be not trying to fit into other people’s lives, but seeing who we fit together with.” [34:22] “Best foot forward should not be how do I win the date over. Best foot forward should be how do I really show who I am to see if they really connect with me.” [35:45] “The key to great long lasting sex is connection.” [55:54] “I believe a lot of people become narcissists in their relationship, they were not narcissists in the beginning.” [56:46] “Some of you are holding on because you’re afraid to be alone, not because you love them.” [58:14] “Are you willing to put in the work to receive what you want out of life?” [1:02:12] “One of the biggest mistakes a man or a woman can make is to let someone think that no matter what they do you will stay.” [1:07:02] “When a man really likes a woman, he’s more concerned about how she perceives his pursuit of it [sex], so he’s going to be more careful, he’s going to be more willing to be patient, [...] the last thing he wants to do is to make you think that’s all he’s here for…” [1:16:33] “Don’t have sex on the first date because you need time to evaluate what you’re dealing with, and doing...

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/yLbI0eaqgJdT Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/KRdZatnTjOXc On Today's Episode: The heartache after a bad breakup, the pain of being rejected, the suffering that comes along with hiding and not fully showing up as yourself, and the disappointment of not speaking up for yourself (again) makes us feel powerless and less than. If you’re in that space right now, or want to make sure you never return to that space again, healing yourself and finding your voice is crucial. Your life, your freedom, and your future is depending on you. Najwa Zebian is an activist, speaker, author and educator. Her poetry and message has been inspiring millions of people around the world while she speaks up for women everywhere. She uses words and poetry to encourage others to “live, love and create fearlessly.” This episode with Najwa has more aha moments than you can imagine, so let’s go! Check out both of her interviews with Lisa on Women of Impact: How to Stop Others From Mistreating You: https://youtu.be/5m0c0VDB_8s How to Establish Healthy Boundaries For Yourself: https://youtu.be/xWWSgnIGIRg SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Love Yourself 21:54 | Start the Process of Finding Yourself 48:48 | End Your Loneliness 1:08:54 | Move On & Embrace Your Pain QUOTES: “There’s nothing wrong with not constantly being that shining light on everyone and everything.” [2:25] “Saying no to a person in power, when you’re here and they’re up here, is not that same as saying no to a person who’s at your level of power. Consent is not the same when there’s power involved.” [9:06] “I decided to put this person aside and let this person flourish.” [13:07] “To start the healing process, healing couldn’t begin if I was ashamed of my story.” [14:41] “Every victim of any form of abuse is someone to someone, is worthy of being heard…” [18:48] “My most powerful asset was my truth at that point, there was nothing to hide.” [21:30] “The one who broke you cannot heal you. You have to heal you.” [31:42] “We give people the power to break us, [...] you give the power to someone to love you and you give the power to someone to break you. It’s their choice with what they do.” [34:05] “Boundaries aren’t about being in protection mode. Boundaries are about knowing that what you have within is so valuable that you will not allow certain people to come near it, [...] they stem from self-worth.” [37:57] “If pain is knocking at your door and you deal with the pain and take it out of the way, you’re allowing room for yourself to see and feel that happiness that’s waiting at your door.” [56:44] “Self-love is picturing the person that you love the most and telling yourself, ‘I will not treat myself any less than I will treat this person.’” [1:06:44] “The emptiness we feel on the inside doesn’t mean that we have nothing left within us, it just means that what we created we placed outside of us…” [1:16:27] “When you need love, don’t sit there on the floor, in your bathtub, in your bedroom with your phone by your side waiting for someone to magically write a couple words…” [1:23:28] You don’t deserve to have someone’s burdens placed on your back for them to believe you love them.” [1:25:11] “The price of someone loving you should not be you not loving you.” [1:25:44] Follow Najwa Zebian: Website:

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/peivEjIfHbdT Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/1KvTyXoLARXc On Today's Episode: Long distance dating can be difficult as there is certainly no substitute for close proximity. There’s no denying that. However, there are simple, yet powerful, practices that a couple can be mindful of that will ensure the relationship will go the distance while long distance dating. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly of long distance dating and what you can do to ensure you go the distance and still grow closer while living far apart. They speak about best practices for making the relationship work, what the endgame is, the importance of planning, how to maintain your connection and bond, the importance of maintaining sexual intimacy, and what it means to be giving the gift you know they want to receive. SHOW NOTES: Best Practices | Lisa and Tom discuss what is key for making long distance relationships work. [0:25] The Endgame | Lisa and Tom discuss what long distance relationships should be moving towards. [3:19] Power of Planning | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of a plan that seeks to maintain your connection and bond. [4:50] Intimacy | Tom and Lisa discuss sexual intimacy and sexting during a long distance relationship. [7:23] Clear Communication | Lisa and Tom discuss communicating your desires and dislikes in a relationship. [14:11] Giving | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of giving the gift you know they want. [15:20] QUOTES: “At the end of the day, there’s no substitute for proximity.” [2:05] “You need to communicate and find out if it is a gift that is desired.” [7:47] “Encourage the behavior you want, and discourage the behavior you don’t want.” [14:11] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/peivEjIfHbdT Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/1KvTyXoLARXc On Today's Episode: Has being a people-pleaser become part of your identity? Are you the person everyone knows they can rely on when they need something? Feeling like you're stuck in a rut and lacking the confidence you need to go after what you want isn’t serving you. In fact it’s leaving you feeling more like a low-value add in every relationship and situation you find yourself in. News flash homie! We are all high value! Lisa’s about to break down 8 traits of a high value woman and give you the boost and motivation you need to tap into your high value super power. Join Lisa and these amazing women to see how you can increase your value today! Sara Jakes Roberts is a woman of faith and the bestselling author of Woman Evolve. Her episode is absolute fire and will leave speechless in tears. Check out her full episode here: https://youtu.be/IbriO6QIxoU Elle Russ is a bestselling author, master coach and badass when it comes to women’s confidence You can catch her full episode on confidence and find out her superpower here: https://youtu.be/c5J8vR0fwzc Chalene Johnson is not only an entrepreneur, fitness coach and business coach she’s a fighter that proved herself to be a high value woman against the odds. You can checkout her inspiring full conversation with Lisa here: https://youtu.be/yn0GgM4wguI Faith Jenkins is an attorney, Divorce Court TV Judge, entrepreneur and bestselling author of the book, Sis Don’t Settle. In her episode with Lisa she really unpacked what it meant for her to be single as her option and something with her power, watch the full conversation here: https://youtu.be/zgmQHz0OqCE SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to High Value Woman 0:24 | A High Value Woman Doesn’t Need A Man 5:59 | A High Value Woman Has Self-Esteem 15:33 | A High Value Woman Has a Growth Mindset 17:34 | A High Value Woman Has a Self-Care Routine 25:47 | A High Value Woman Has Standards 31:40 | A High Value Woman Has Ambitious Goals 34:36 | A High Value Woman Celebrates Her Achievements 37:08 | A High Value Woman Listens to Her Intuition QUOTES: “A high value woman knows that she’s got her own frikin’ back!” Lisa Bilyeu [0:36] “I’d finally learned to protect my space and my energy and my growth, and I wanted to know that whoever I was inviting into my space could continue to cultivate the garden of who I am…” Sarah Jakes Roberts [5:41] “Everyday I’m going to do something that becomes an incremental step towards building my self-esteem.” Lisa Bilyeu [6:50] “If you don't speak up in life, from the bedroom to the boardroom, you’re not going to get what you want out of life.” Elle Russ [12:35] “Being open and okay with vulnerability is actually confident as f*ck.” Elle Russ [14:18] “A growth mindset allows you to take negative feedback and see the positive in it.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:42] “A high value woman actually knows to stop sacrificing for everybody else” Lisa Bilyeu [18:46] “What I do need to carefully covet and protect is my time, cause I can’t get more of that…” Chalene Johnson [24:46] “I knew I was already bringing a lot to the table and I wanted someone who was going to add to the happiness I already had.”...

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/V9q7g18sY4a4 On Today's Episode: Does your partner have ambitious goals but lacks the motivation to act on making them happen? Does it pain you to see your partner holding themselves back from the life they dream about having? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you can push your partner into a motivated state so they start accomplishing their goals and creating the life they want for themselves. They discuss how to motivate your partner, why rewarding your partner is powerful, why you should be able to have open communication, and why the problem might be that you have different work ethics. SHOW NOTES: Action | Lisa and Tom discuss motivating your partner to take action towards their goals. [0:05] Reward | Lisa and Tom discuss how you should reward your partner to motivate them. [6:07] Talk Through It | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should speak with an open heart. [8:43] Partnership | Lisa and Tom discuss how they each approach work differently. [11:49] QUOTES: “…always, always, always, whenever you can do it through reward, do it through reward. Because they feel like that wonderful-warm sensation about the person that’s rewarding them.” [1:55] “…and then sometimes you just have to trigger people’s emotions — because they don’t hear it until that point. But I’m telling you, if you lead with that, it will damage the relationship.” [3:28] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Get my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/V9q7g18sY4a4 Get my book Radical Confidence NOW: https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/jHWFRoZuL1Cp On Today's Episode: There are some statistics that report 1 in 4 women have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner, while other stats report more than 40% of women in emotionally abusive relationships. When you think of dating and being in a relationship with a romantic partner, Dr. Ramani reminds us in this episode that safety should be a high priority and concern. Neglecting the importance of safety and disregarding red flags that she and Lisa discuss in this episode can easily lead to patterns and behaviors that are unwanted, unsafe, and painful to escape with time. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a repeat guest and favorite on Women of Impact. She’s a clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic traits and behaviors. This conversation is about breaking the silence and helping women to reclaim the power we’ve lost and handed over to the wrong people in our lives. “Evil enters like a needle and spreads like an oak tree” -Dr. Ramani Check out Dr. Ramani’s new podcast, Navigating Narcissism: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/navigating-narcissism-with-dr-ramani/id1629909313 Take a look at Dr. Ramani’s Monthly Healing Program: https://doctor-ramani.teachable.com/p/taking-yourself-back-healing-from-narcissistic-antagonistic-relationships SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Ramani 0:07 | Questions That Raise Red Flags 6:54 | Are They Really Interested? 10:02 | Know Your Personal Red Flags 16:16 | How Narcissists Test Easy Targets 19:28 | Narcissistic Love Is This… 28:14 | Narcissists Don’t Support Your Success 35:24 | A Relationship Based in Fear 39:30 | Being Crushed by Narcissists 45:25 | Losing “Friends” to Narcissistic Lies 52:38 | Recognize the Isolation Game 56:33 | How to End A Narcissistic Relationship 1:00:03 | Who Gets Sucked In By Narcissists? 1:03:44 | Narcissistic Family Systems 1:07:18 | Helping Someone in Narcissistic Relationship 1:16:17 | What Works For Your Dating Life? 1:23:07 | Stop Giving Your Power Away! QUOTES: “It’s almost less of what the narcissist is doing and more of the story we’re telling ourselves about what they are doing.” [0:42] “What narcissistic people are really skilled at is learning everything about you so they can outplay you.” [6:16] “For all the damn time people spend in gyms, I would love it if people would actually spend time strengthening their boundaries.” [9:24] “My red flags aren’ always someone else’s. Sure there’s the universal ones, but beyond that they tend to be really personal.” [13:02] “For a narcissistic person it’s a very shallow experience. It’s about validation, it’s about attention, it’s about admiration, it’s about short-term pleasure, […] that’s what they mean by love.” [19:48] “When we talk about love, we talk about romance, we talk about fun, we talk about sex, what we don’t talk enough abut is safety.” [24:35] “You’ve got to judge the relationship on those bad days, not the good days, and too many people judge narcissistic relationship on the good days.” [27:01] “I’d argue that fear is the heart of the narcissistic relationship, [...] you’re constantly afraid of...

On Today's Episode: Dealing with mismatched sex drives can be horrifying, frustrating and a host of other undesired emotions for both partners. How do you find compromise when one partner is in the mood every day, any time ready to go, and the other partner could check in once or twice a week and be perfectly satisfied? In this episode, Tom & Lisa break down advice, solutions, and examples from their own relationship for how to deal with mismatched libidos. They discuss everything from frequency, porn, and orgasms all the way to being absolutely transparent about just wanting to be desired. SHOW NOTES: Neurochemical Sex Drive | Understanding frequency urges are related to hormones [1:17] Solution | Dealing with high sex drive and what it means to accommodate a partner [2:53] Sexually Satisfied | Finding compromise to satisfy each other for mutual benefit [5:02] Orgasmic Pull | Considering what your partner wants and the bond of orgasm [8:03] Foreplay | Getting her in the mood begins outside of the bedroom [10:58] Porn | How viewing porn and received with resistance from some parters as bad [13:22] Okay To Ask | How Tom & Lisa have agreed it’s okay to ask and it’s okay to say no [16:29] Open Dialogue | When there is a reason for concern having open communication [19:00] Desirable | Real talk with Tom & Lisa about changing sex drives and being desirable [21:06] Men Vs. Women | Tom on the relation between feeling connected, sex, and erection [25:43] Checking In | Lisa’s advice for regular check-ins with each other about sex and more [27:35] QUOTES: “if you're in a committed loving relationship, and you're not thinking about what your partner wants, that is a Horsemen of the Apocalypse” Tom Bilyeu [7:35] “I don't want to do it if we can't get you interested in the idea.” Tom Bilyeu [11:12] “once you have to hide something, now you start to feel like it's taboo, and it's bad.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:31] “you shouldn't have sex if you can't talk about it.” Tom Bilyeu [17:42] “guys don't need to feel connected to have sex, guys need to have sex to feel loved. Women need to feel loved to have sex.” [25:48]

Get my book Radical Confidence NOW https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/lky4upeE5tdT Get my FREE 4-part Confidence Course https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/0YzOqTVMWyCp On Today's Episode: When you are being used in a relationship, you may notice something feels off, and you may even pinpoint the things he’s doing to trigger you, but the scary truth is that you also may not notice these things. In this episode, we’re talking about red flags you cannot ignore, why it’s important to make accurate assessments of yourself first, and all the ways you’re going to be able to take back your power and never blindly hand it over again. If you’re dating, in a relationship, or debating if it’s time to go or not, this episode is for you. No one wants to be used in a relationship or taken advantage of wasting time with the wrong person. The key takeaway in this video is that taking back your power comes down to knowing that your ability to assess yourself, your feelings and the situations, decide for yourself, and honor your boundaries are all part of your superpower and badassery! Lisa Bilyeu is a successful entrepreneur, former housewife, all around badass and the best-selling author of Radical Confidence. She’s about empowering women and sharing practical tips that allow you to get tactical with how you level up and channel your inner badass to become unstoppable! Today is the day to make sure you're never used by anyone again and the day you step up and be the hero of your own life. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction Don’t Let Him Use You 0:06 | He Avoids Future Conversations 5:35 | Not Introduced to Friends & Family 8:45 | No Consideration for Your Feelings 13:20 | All He Does is Take! 15:51 | Threatening to End the Relationship 20:05 | Doesn’t Talk About His Feelings 24:02 | He Never Apologizes QUOTES: “There’s a big difference between actually putting someone to the test or putting yourself to the test.” [0:57] “In those moments of asking them the questions and being transparent you can get the truth out of them.” [7:49] “You just have to make a demand of yourself that you are so much better, you are worth so much frikin’ more than being with someone that doesn’t care about your feelings, [...] this is a non-negotiable!” [9:00] “If this is a partner that you want to try to build a relationship with, a long-term relationship with, you don’t just want to keep coming at them like they’ve done something wrong.” [12:20] “Maybe he is taking and taking and taking. The truth is you just need to get better at saying no.” [13:50] “They can only take what you’re willing to give them.” [15:23] “Someone using a fear tactic in your relationship is a big frikin’ red flag!” [16:00] “Don’t you dare give your power away when you see all these red flags. You have the ability, you have the strength, you have the frikin’ badassery to assess the red flag, [...] and you decide whether you’re going to accept it or not.” [19:42] “You never use their vulnerability as a weapon.” [23:10] “Their ego is so frikin’ important that they can’t bring themselves to say, I’m sorry…” [24:17]] Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu

Get my book Radical Confidence NOW https://www.radicalconfidence.com/UDX497 Get my FREE 4-part Confidence Course https://www.radicalconfidence.com/cdg501?r_done=1 On Today's Episode: You can be in a room full of people and feel completely alone. You can also have hundreds of relationships in your life and more friendships than you can count and feel unlovable and unworthy of love. History of abuse, emotional trauma and attachment issues are just a few reasons we struggle with insecurities, low self-esteem and lack self-love. Serial toxic relationships, blaming everyone and feeling helpless aren’t healthy, and luckily they aren’t permanent feelings or states of existence. This episode is for you if you need a reminder that confidence is a journey, and that noticing your triggers can be a major step in the many small steps needed to make changes for a better life filled with self-love. Let’s ditch other people’s opinions and find a routine practice for daily confidence that will get you on the right path with wisdom from these incredible women. Dr. Emily Morse is the doctor of human sexuality. She has the longest running sex and relationshi podcast called Sex with Emily. Watch her full episode, How to Get Rid of Insecurities: https://youtu.be/M02jJC70onE Gabby Bernstein is a NY Times Best selling author and spiritual coach that identifies as a holistic spirit junkie. Watch this full Women of Impact episodeto hear Gabby on the Difference Between Healthy and Unhealthy Love: https://youtu.be/tPJw8EMFY3U Brittany Burgunder is a certified professional life coach and author of the book, Safety in Numbers: My Battle with Eating Disorders. She helps others with similar struggles to find their path to recovery. Watch her full episode on How to Heal, Validate Yourself & Be Good Enough for You: https://youtu.be/H1ZoDLRUBto Lisa Bilyeu is a successful entrepreneur, former housewife, all around badass and the best-sellling author of Radical Confidence. She’s about empowering women and sharing practical tips that allow you to get tactical with ways to level up and channel your inner badass! SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Feeling Unlovable 0:37 | Gain Confidence in Your Mind & Body 24:08 | Get Rid of Shame and Guilt 47:11 | Forget Opinions & Focus On This 1:02:25 | Find Your Voice 1:25:26 | Fix Insecurity & Jealousy QUOTES: “We’re not going to pick always the best partners if we’re coming from desperation, or coming from a place of lack, or coming from a place of deep insecurity…” Dr. Emily Morse [1:49] “Confidence is not a destination. Confidence is a journey, and it is a lifetime journey.” Dr. Emily Morse [15:06] “If you don’t show up for what’s up it’s going to keep showing up.” Gabby Bernstein [26:00] “The only way I was able to uplevel in these moments of crisis was I was so devoted to feeling free, to being free in my energy system…” Gabby Bernstein [37:22] “The moment that you acknowledge your suffering, you open an invisible door to receive guidance.” Gabby Bernstein [40:22] “Whether we like it or not, sometimes, especially when people have insecurities, like really deep insecurities, they won’t be able to see past how that is a reflection of them.” Lisa Bilyeu [48:51] “If you want to show up as a routine, you have to pay attention to these tiny little things that we do on a daily basis.” Lisa Bilyeu [59:11] “I had to rearrange my thinking...

Get my book Radical Confidence NOW https://www.radicalconfidence.com/UDX497 Get my FREE 4-part Confidence Course https://www.radicalconfidence.com/cdg501?r_done=1 On Today's Episode: How do you know if you’re ready for your next relationship? Perhaps your past has left you in fear and apprehensive about falling in love again? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such questions and more as they explore the process of entering a new relationship, falling in love again, and how to learn from your past relationships to strengthen your next one. They discuss how love should drive your decision, how to address concerns going into your next relationship, how to heal from heartbreak, and how to own up to your past mistakes so that your next relationship isn’t riddled with them. SHOW NOTES: Waiting for Them | Lisa and Tom address chasing a love interest that’s dragging their feet. [0:24] Feelings | Tom and Lisa discuss how love, not apprehension, should drive a relationship. [2:53] Concerns | Lisa shares overcoming feelings of concern she had early in their relationship. [5:08] Forward | Lisa and Tom share how to move on from the pain of past-toxic relationships. [6:23] Heartbreak | Lisa and Tom discuss recovering from the trauma of heartbreak. [11:58] Fear | Lisa and Tom discuss their fears surrounding their relationship and life in general. [17:08] All In | Lisa and Tom discuss their journey of going ‘all in’ with their relationship. [18:54] Own It | Tom and Lisa reveal why you need to take full ownership of your mistakes. [20:14] QUOTES: “When you feel about somebody in such a strong way that you think no one has ever felt about someone the way that I feel about this person, that’s when you know it’s love.” [3:36] “…you can either let things be scars or you can just really heal them and let go.” [7:53] “The beauty of love is to know, “I can always be hurt.”” [14:05] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Get my book Radical Confidence NOW https://www.radicalconfidence.com/UDX497 Get my FREE 4-part Confidence Course https://www.radicalconfidence.com/cdg501?r_done=1 Listen NOW to the WOI Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865 On Today's Episode: What if the gap in equal pay for men and women is partly our own fault? What if in the spirit of Extreme Ownership and Self-Empowerment we saw part of the gap that exists as a result of us not being comfortable asking for more money? When we never ask or have the discussion about our initial salary, over an entire career we can fall short over $1 million in wages. Not negotiating your salary literally costs a fortune! Linda Babcock has a PhD in Economics, is a James M. Walton Professor of Economics, and is an expert on gender equity that researches equal pay and opportunity for women and girls to harness the power of negotiation. In this episode, Linda is sharing the blueprint we all need as women to become better negotiators. If you didn’t negotiate your last salary, if you’ve been avoiding making certain requests with your boss because it’s uncomfortable or you’re afraid of the pushback and possible negative reaction of asking for what you want, then THIS EPISODE IS A MUST FOR YOU! It’s easy to celebrate other people, and advocate why they are deserving of that promotion and salary increase, but it’s close to impossible when it comes to doing the same for ourselves. So, Linda is making this very practical and giving you the what, the why, and the how of getting what you want and negotiating like a pro. Here’s a hint, it starts with your mindset! Negotiation is a dialogue and a problem solving activity. The sooner you learn that questioning is a powerful strategy for negotiating and change your focus to having a discussion, and problem solving you’ll be way more comfortable and have much more success. Check out Linda Babcock’s books to take your negotiation skills to the next level. The No Club: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09JPHNHGJ/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0 Women Don’t Ask: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08CR5GGZL/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i2 SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Linda Babcock 0:22 | Why Women Don’t Negotiate 7:13 | Rethink Negotiation vs. Asking 14:07 | Why Negotiation Has High Costs 18:17 | Blueprint for Saying ‘NO’ 28:32 | Activate Negotiation Super Power 35:25 | Non-Negotiables & Being Told ‘NO’ 39:21 | Negotiating Personal Relationships 45:33 | Know Your Triggers Before Time QUOTES: “That is something that society tolerates from women is that women are allowed to be assertive on behalf of other people.” [4:33] “If you think about negotiation as a conflict, as a battle, as a war, as like threats and as aggressive behavior is what will work, then you’re going to be in big trouble.” [7:51] “The best way to think about negotiation is a cooperative problem solving activity.” [8:21] “Women are asked to do things more than men because we know they’re going to say yes.” [19:38] “If this ask was for today, would I feel just as excited about doing it, and the answer’s probably no.” [24:56] “You have to envision you sitting side by side trying to solve a problem rather than across a table [31:01] “A ‘no’ is not actually...

Are you struggling with an inner negative voice that tells you, “You’re not good enough,” and makes you feel insecure around your partner? It’s time, here and now, for you to shake off and silence that destructive way of thinking and step into a mindset of growth and positivity so that your relationship thrives in the long-term. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you can get out of your own head, shake off and silence your inner negative voice, and adopt a growth mindset within your relationship. They discuss why its critical you break any patterns of negative thinking, the importance of being real and openly honest with your partner, how to allow your partner to challenge you in healthy ways, the power of adopting a student mentality, and why loving the process is a non-negotiable when pursuing your passions. SHOW NOTES: Breaking Patterns | Lisa and Tom discuss how to silence your inner negative voice. [0:34] Being Real | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to encourage honesty. [3:42] Make Each Other Better | Lisa shares her story of overcoming feelings of inferiority. [4:53] Student Mentality | Tom and Lisa discuss how you can learn from your partner. [8:19] Love the Process | Tom and Lisa shares why you need to absolutely love the process. [9:24] QUOTES: “There’s nothing, nothing, worse in the long run than someone who is emotionally needy all the time. We all just have to step up, we all have to learn to love ourselves and be proud of ourselves. We cannot turn for external validation for that. It’s not a good look…” [2:40] “If you don’t love the process in and of itself, don’t do it, don’t go down the road…” [11:31] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

How many times have you come across influencers and ads on social media promoting intermittent fasting for weight loss, increasing energy and feeling great? The issue for us as women is that we get half the story, none of the results we’re really after and rarely does it turn into anything we can sustain over time. You’re left feeling frustrated, anxious, still overweight and bloated, and more like your energy has taken a nosedive. The Fasting MD is on set this time with Lisa, Dr. Amy Shah, and the way she simplifies fasting for women that works in alignment with our cravings, our hormones and monthly cycles is seriously a Game Changer! Dr. Amy Shah is a double-board certified medical doctor specializing in food allergies, hormones and gut health. Her book, I’m So Effing Tired, is more like a groundbreaking blueprint for women to take control of their health like never before. In this episode Dr. Shah is laying out the foundational things we need to understand as women about our menstrual cycles and how to fast effectively to maximize your energy levels, your quality of sleep, and your hormones. Today is about how we stop fighting our biology, give ourselves grace, and learn to customize your approach to fasting, and why you’ll want to start fasting, like today (or at least tomorrow). Key Pointers from Dr. Shah: 3-5 days Before Your Cycle: Avoid fasting, exercise, and big decisions - Eat high fiber, low glycemic foods. Focus on self care. Days 1-3 of your period - hormones are resetting, pay attention to how you are feeling. Day 14 of Your Monthly Cycle: Testosterone is spiking. Time to go harder on workout and make big confident bold moves during this time. How to Check-In with Yourself: How is your energy level? How is your sleep? How are your cravings? How are your hormones? Check out Dr. Amy Shah’s book, I’m So Effing Tired: https://www.amazon.com/Im-So-Effing-Tired-Burnout/dp/0358446422 SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Amy Shah 0:37 | Boosts How You Feel Every Day 5:19 | Fasting In Flow With Your Cycle 11:55 | How Fasting Improves Gut Health 17:28 | The Power of Circadian Fasting 22:56 | Live Healthier Without Sanitizing 25:35 | Relationships & Your Gut Health 34:05 | Sleep, Hormones, & Feeling Younger 51:42 | How Fasting Reduces Inflammation 58:25 | Stress-Eating “Comfort Foods” 1:06:15 | Customize Intermittent Fasting 1:16:00 | How to Eat For Your Cycle QUOTES: “Just like a nature walk is so good for you as a form of exercise [...] Circadian fasting, looking at time of day, and eating with the rhythm of the earth and with yourself is equivalent to a nature walk, everyone will benefit…” [1:27] “You’re feeling how the bacteria in your gut are feeling and what they walkie talkie to your brain.” [3:33] “Learn your cycle, it’s a vital sign.” [6:04] “Your confidence right now, your anxiety level, your happiness is coming from your gut…” [12:49] “Think about how biologically to support yourself, [17:05] “The circadian rhythms are everything, 80% of our body’s functions depend on circadian rhythms.” [19:23] “Your immune system needs to see other people, other bacteria, other illnesses. It needs that stimulation to be able to be as healthy as it can be.” [24:13] “Start to eat and live with your circadian rhythm, improve your diet quality, [...] you can feel twenty years younger.” [45:23] “Inflammation is total body health, and that’s where we’re going wrong in this world. We are eating foods that are so inflammatory, they are signals in our body that there is a problem.” [52:52] “We’re eating sugar, emulsifiers, toxic chemicals...

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! On Today's Episode: Mutual respect is a must for any successful relationship. Disrespect isn’t always obvious and can take on many forms. Your partner may leave you feeling resentful, wary, unseen and unheard, if so listen up! The goal of this episode is to reveal the red flags you’ll want to pay attention to so that you can see what mutual healthy respect for each other looks like. Tom and Lisa Bilyeu have been together more than 20 years and have gone through all of the ups and downs and have experienced many trials and errors in learning how to have a long lasting relationship and beautiful life long shared experience together built on trust, respect, and open communication. So, if you’re not sure that your partner is respecting you, or it feels like you are both disagreeing at a fundamental level with no agreement in sight, it’s time to take notes on what may save your relationship or help you decide if it’s time to go. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Red Flags on Respect 0:40 | They Weaponize Your Insecurities 28:02 | They Don’t Work Through Conflict 1:04:05 | They Don’t Support Your Feelings QUOTES: “Manipulation is moving somebody to your advantage and influence is moving them to their advantage.” Tom Bilyeu [4:14] “To be in a relationship and make that person feel better about themselves when they’re around you is to understand that leadership is fluid, and there are going to be times when I’m leading, there’s going to be times when you’re leading…” [9:08] “When someone has a conflicting value with you they see the world in a way that you think is worse.” [30:01] “When the other person is doing something nice for you, lavish them with praise for that…” [50:39] “When you really think about what makes a couple powerful it’s the way that you shape each other's value system…” [1:06:43] “In life you go through phases. Enjoy every phase for what it has to offer.” [1:17:59] “Focusing on all these other things allows me to get my confidence in other places, so that as I just get older and older I’m not attached to that and I’m not feeling insecure about it.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:25:51] “I don’t think just asking your partner to be sweet and kind and understanding is the answer to the long term solution.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:30:42] Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/

On Today's Episode: Are you sensing a disconnection between you and your partner? Have you communicated to them your needs in a clear and reasonable way but they still aren’t being met? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to tackle what to do when, despite clear communication, your partner still isn’t putting in the extra effort to meet your needs. They discuss how to maintain a connection with your partner through texting, why respecting needs is critical in a relationship, how to negotiate so everyone’s needs are met, the feeling of guilt over not meeting your partner’s needs, and the power of honesty in a relationship. SHOW NOTES: Needs | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of clarity when communicating your needs. [0:43] Leeway | Lisa and Tom share their texting habits during times of extended travel. [2:54] Respect | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of having your needs respected. [5:35] Negotiate | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should be willing to negotiate your needs. [7:29] Guilt | Tom and Lisa discuss feeling guilt due to not meeting your partner’s needs. [7:57] Honesty | Lisa and Tom discuss the power of brutal honesty in your relationship. [9:10] Mindfulness | Lisa and Tom share how they came to terms with texting. [11:06] QUOTES: “The person who is refusing to send the text and is saying, “That’s stupid,” is making a critical error of judgement.” [2:09] “If someone is saying, “That’s stupid,” right off the bat, they clearly aren’t respecting your wishes.” [6:02] “Trying to give your partner what they want when you can, I think is pretty important.” [12:13] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! On Today's Episode: Let’s address the habits you have that are destroying the most important relationship in your life, and we’re not talking about the relationship with your significant other or your family either. It’s time to address the habits that are destroying your relationship with YOU! As women, there are so many unconscious messages and programming taking place from the time we are toddlers till even now. It’s hard to solve a problem you can’t see exists, and in this episode Lisa is going to shine the light on a few habits you need to stop and put an end to today! After watching this episode, you’re going to be careful when you choose to use the 3 letter word “yes”. You’ll be able to practice embracing the 2 letter word “no,” and you can start eliminating the 5 letter word of death, “sorry” from your vocabulary when it isn’t even necessary. Grab your pen and paper, we’ve got work to do. Lisa is rolling out a grand plan for how to stop habits that are detrimental to your self-esteem, that devalue your self-care, and that put you last on your list of priorities (if you’re making it to the list at all). Lisa Bilyeu is a successful entrepreneur, former housewife, all around badass and the best-sellling author of Radical Confidence. She’s about empowering women and sharing practical tips that allow you to get tactical with how you level up and channel your inner badass to become unstoppable! SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Habits to Stop Doing! 0:08 | Stop Saying Yes to Everyone! 6:13 | Stop People Pleasing 15:43 | Break the Nice Girl Expectation 23:45 | Don’t Get Walked Over 31:08 | Set Boundaries 45:02 | To Apologize Or Not To Apologize QUOTES: “Don’t say yes out of fear of saying no.” [3:22] “Don’t just instinctually say yes to things and then regret them after, [...] because you want to be liked.” [5:56] “I really did want to please them, but it became my own trap. It became the velvet handcuffs that I put on myself, and I chose to frickin’ throw away the key.” [9:55] “When you go from being a people pleaser, and you want to change that into being the person that is proud of yourself, where you show up and please yourself first, that is going to cause maybe some friction…” [12:14] “Read yourself your boundary rights because you have every frickin’ right to have them.” [31:10] “We need to stop apologizing, and yet in the same tone, we need to always apologize.” [45:03] “It can be detrimental to who you are by saying sorry to the things that aren’t your fault.” [49:10] “When you say you’re sorry for choosing selfcare ahead of anything else, what do you think that subliminal message is saying to you?” [50:38] Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! This episode was shot as part of Radical Confidence Live. For the full experience, check out this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/GwCiv96H2lg On Today's Episode: Does the thought of defending yourself sound empowering or frightening? If someone were to cross a physical boundary with you, do you feel prepared and capable of protecting your boundaries? Safety is a primary concern when you are human, and it is even more of a concern when society isn’t doing the best job making you feel safe or capable of keeping yourself safe. Don’t dress that way and attract unwanted attention they say. Don’t walk alone late at night or early evenings they say. Often women are left feeling like the victim long before a crime or a siituation has occurred. Eve Torres Gracie is a Self Defense expert and instructor at Gracie University of Gracie Jiu Jitsue. She’s opening the conversation with how the core lof self defense for women is to feel confident and to be able to enforce boundaries. Defending your boundaries and giving yourself permission to know that you are worth defending is key. At this Rad Con Live event Lisa is joined by Celebrity Makeup Artist, Molly Roncal, Co-Founder of Bossbabes, Danielle Canty, Holistic Psychologist, Nicole LePera, and Self Defense Expert, Eve Torres Gracie. The conversation gets open and extremely vulnerable. Discussing aging and insecurities around beauty, scars, and self-worth isn’t easy to do openly, but as women we need to be able to have these conversations. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction Eve Torres Gracie 0:37 | Confidence to Set Boundaries 6:12 | Confidence to Save Yourself 11:23 | Get Tough As Hell 29:04 | Take Back Your Power QUOTES: “People will not set boundaries that they do not feel capable of enforcing.” Eve Torres Gracie [1:43] “Radical confidence really is not about feeling amazing, [...] It’s knowing that you can get started without the confidence, that you can keep moving forward…” Lisa Bilyeu [5:34] “When it comes to the moment we have to practice, start using our voice, or telling somebody no… that can be the challenge.” Eve Torres Garcie [8:35] “Part of what it is is reestablishng that relationship with our intuition and with those moments of reprioritizing our safety over other people’s feelings.” Eve Torres Gracie [10:23] “If we don’t feel safe, how can we feel confident.” Eve Torres Gracie [36:03] Follow Eve Torres Gracie: Website: https://evetorresgracie.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evetorresgracie Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EveTorresGracieOfficial/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evetorresgracie/

Love, trust, and the ever-growing connection between you and your partner. Are you focusing on these positive parts of your relationship, or are you letting anxiety, worry, and insecurity plant seeds of doubt and consume your mind? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters as they explore how to deal with insecurities, worry, and anxiety that stems from the possibility of your partner cheating. They discuss how to overcome such negative feelings, steps you can take to confront your own insecurity, the best parts of love, why someone might cheat, and how to become emotionally sober. SHOW NOTES: Anxiety | Lisa and Tom discuss overcoming feelings of anxiety due to fears of cheating. [0:32] Insecure | Tom and Lisa discuss the steps you can take to deal with your insecurities. [2:26] Constant Reconnection | Tom and Lisa discuss the best parts of what love is about. [3:42] Why Someone Cheats | Lisa and Tom why cheating isn’t about looks. [6:06] Emotionally Sober | Lisa shares the power of being emotionally sober and empowered. [8:11] QUOTES: “Insecurity is not sexy.” [2:37] “The shared experience is what the game of love is about.” [3:42] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Stop everything you’re doing and listen up! Not asking yourself the right questions keeps the best part of you hidden from the ones you love and even worse, it keeps you from you. Going through your days feeling stuck and somehow not even conscious of what’s wrong, or that something is wrong, or that there is a way better existence possible is not okay! What will it take for you to stop walking through life ignoring messages meant to save you and start living more aware in the moment of your emotions, your needs, your wants and even better what you don’t want and need? Jenna Kutcher is the host of Goal Digger, the podcast that delivers life struggles, reframes, clarity and value through the lens of a mom, entrepreneur and marketing guru. She’s taking this dive with Lisa to discuss her first book, How Are You Really, and get to the heart of what so many women are struggling to articulate. Pause where you are right now, before you continue and think about where you will be in 5 years if you continue as you are today with no changes? Is this what you want for yourself? What needs to change for you to get excited and really look forward to a version of you 5 years out that is worth moving towards? In this episode, grab the pen and paper, Jenna and Lisa are bringing hard questions we all need to be brave enough to really answer. From aligning with the future vision you have for yourself to creating space that allows creativity and curiosity, and dealing with burnout, Jenna is bringing sunshine to the reality of the emotions we all face. Check out Jenna Kutcher's new book, How Are You Really: https://amzn.to/3O6QLdO SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Jenna Kutcher 0:50 | Stuck Avoiding The Hard Question 11:25 | The 1st Step To Finding Your Truth 18:10 | Inviting Self Change 22:28 | Talked Out Of Your Feelings 29:16 | Motherhood, “Shoulds” & Balance 36:47 | Breakthrough Burnout With This 42:27 | Boundaries Are the Hero 51:23 | It’s Okay to Change Your Mind QUOTES: “The universe, our intuition, maybe a friend, our bodies are all trying to get through to us, but we just keep on, [...] We keep on doing all these things and we ignore all of these messages.” [8:28] “If the answer is that ‘I’m not okay,’ then I’ve got to face that, and I think we’re afraid to face it.” [10:17] “I learn better through what’s not for me than understanding what is for me.” [15:51] “We get so overwhelmed by these big visions that we let our procrastination turn into paralyzation.” [17:45] “If I look back on my decade of entrepreneurship, the biggest times that I had the greatest evolutions or breakthroughs were the times I gave myself margin and space, like time to think.” [21:48] “Sometimes we need to remember how to smell the flowers and blow out the candles so that we can just sit in our feelings without trying to push them or get past them or move through them too quickly.” [24:45] “I feel stretched thin because of the fullness of life. Nothing is bad and nothing is broken and nothing is wrong, but life is full, and I don’t know if I can always carry that.” [27:28] “Joy and gratitude can exist with challenge.” [32:44] “I have learned the exact opposite that boundaries keep me in my life , they keep me in the moment, they keep me in alignment, they keep me living in integrity.” [43:29] “We’ve gotta strike while the iron is hot. Well the iron is hot when you turn it on friend!” [47:34] “We all forget, we have our own microscope up to our own lives. Everyone is also head down in their own life, no one is paying that close of attention.” [58:41] “To me there is no greater compliment than someone saying, you changed.” [59:58]

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! On Today's Episode: Regardless of where you are located, your educational background, or your financial situation, we tend to have similar emotional and personal struggles, yet feel so isolated and alone dealing with them. Everyday stress and avoidant behaviors and habits leave you fearful, disappointed, and lacking enough significance in your own life to even prioritize YOU! Marissa Peer’s mission is to help people realize there are simple, rapid and effective techniques that can change life for the better. She is sharing these tactics here with Lisa and with you to understand the power that your words and thoughts have over your life. Put an end to your self-destructive behaviors and habits, get to the root of the feelings sabotaging you, and start telling yourself a better lie. “Thoughts dictate feelings, your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” Marisa Peer Check out Marisa Peer’s latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: https://amzn.to/39U2M7w SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Marissa Peer 0:25 | Control Your Thoughts, Not Your Feelings 23:29 | Start Practicing This! 42:49 | Find What Lies Beneath 59:23 | Bonus: Stop Feeling Trapped QUOTES: “When you can take control of your thoughts you really can make your life extraordinary.” [5:47] “If you’re not meeting your child’s needs for significance and safety, and being proud of them, then you haven’t really succeeded.” [10:57] “You may as well tell yourself amazing stuff because it’s very likely to become real.” [15:50] “If you can just like yourself you’ll never feel rejected, ever.” [23:21] “Responsibility means an ability to respond.” [25:44] “Just decide, I don’t have to let this in, it's her belief, it doesn’t have to be mine. It’s not easy being with people who are super negative, but you can just drown it out. You have a choice.” [27:09] “Your words form and shape your reality. If you don’t like your reality, before you try to change, try to change the words that are shaping it because that will change your reality.” [41:29] “Your mind is the genie, your wish is its command.” [51:17] Follow Marisa Peer: Website: https://marisapeer.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarisaPeer Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marisapeertherapy/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! On today's Episode: Change is “wildly complex!” It’s exciting, it’s inspiring, it’s also nerve wrecking, anxiety inducing and scary as hell. Some people do extremely well with change while others have meltdowns and can barely handle the stress of change. The thing we’re diving into in this episode is not just the external side of dealing with change, but the internal state of change. Whether you’re moving, taking a new job, ending a relationship, dealing with the loss of a loved one, or trying to adapt with polarized political wins and losses, your identity is being challenged at the core of everything. Maya Shankar is the host and executive producer of, Slight Change of Plans, a podcast about, “who we are and who we become in the face of a big change.” She is a former violinist that was accepted into Julliard who underwent a massive change of identity. Maya later found herself leading as the founder and lead of the White House Behavioral Science Team under President Barack Obama. Let’s talk about the tactics you need to let go of the identity you’re holding onto in the face of life’s major changes. As Maya points out, some of the changes you experience are willing and others are unwilling changes, but in both cases the value is placed on detaching your identity from the pursuit of a specific thing, and deciding on purpose who you are in the face of change. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Maya Shankar 0:25 | How Change Threatens Your Identity 10:32 | Grieving The Loss of Identity 27:02 | Recreate Habits for a New Identity 39:20 | Find Meaning In Suffering QUOTES: “In that moment, I was grieving the loss of the instrument, but actually in many ways I was grieving the loss of a huge part of myself…” [3:01] “If you can identify the things that make you happy about the things you do, and more strongly attach yourself to those things rather than the things itself, it’s going to give you a more stable self-identity as you move through a world that will inevitably change.” [8:49] “Sometimes the labels or the roles that we want to occupy, or the traits that we want to embody like independence, we might want to revisit from time to time to make sure that our working mode of what that thing ought to mean really aligns with our values and our long term goals.” [24:30] “Change is wildly complex, and you not only lack control over how you might respond to all those internal changes that are happening, but you don’t control how other people will respond differently to you…” [30:39] Follow Maya Shankar: Website: https://mayashankar.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/MayaUmaShankar Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmayashankar/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maya.shankar.14 Podcast: https://mayashankar.com/podcast

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Is being an independent woman about the way you dress? Is it about how others see you or feel threatened by you? Of course not! Those may be small factors in a much bigger picture, but being an independent woman is more internal than external. Are you thinking for yourself and putting yourself and your dreams first or allowing yourself to prioritize everyone else? When we start to do internal work, we begin to understand ourselves on a much deeper level. Doing so allows you to find confidence and let go of the insecurities and doubts that may have forced you to play small in the past, but those days are gone. Are you ready to start doing for yourself what you’ve been doing for everyone else and flourish? From managing your finances and opportunities to ditching your shame and making friends out of the inner b*tch that reminds you of every time you’ve messed up and what you’ll likely get wrong again, this episode is packed with a few of the most badass independent women and independent women supporters around. What does being an independent woman look like for you? Our guests on this episode include: Mel Robbins is a motivational speaker, television host, and the author of The 5 Second Rule and The High 5 Habit. She went from being a criminal defense attorney to one of the most inspirational and motivational speakers and public figures around. Patrice Washington is known as the Wisdom & Wealth Money Maven. She founded Seek Wisdom Find Wealth. She’s empowering money to develop better money habits, taking women from debt management to money mastery. Cyntia Pasquella-Garcia is the Modern-Day Coach that helps people become self-made. She’s inspiring women to rewrite their story by being the example. She’s no stranger to struggle and is expert at helping people ditch their shame and stop apologizing. Tom Bilyeu co-founded a billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and is the co-founder and other half of Impact Theory alongside his totally badass wife, Lisa Bilyeu. His mission is pulling people out of the matrix to realize that human potential is nearly limitless. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Independent Women 0:10 | Find & Pursue Your Dreams 18:44 | Become Your Best Self 42:42 | Don’t Be a Victim 1:06:28 | If He’s Threatened By Your Independence QUOTES: “If you’ve ever wanted something deeply, it doesn’t leave you, it gets stored in the subconscious part of your mind waiting for you to remember that it’s there, and to get to work on it.’ Mel Robbins [2:23] “We not only don't give ourselves support and celebration, we do the opposite. We tear ourselves down, and we beat ourselves up, and we pick ourselves apart.” Mel Robbins [8:00] “We rationalize a lot when it comes to our finances, and to me that means ration out lies, we like to lie to ourselves.” Patrice Washington [28:21] “I believe that what you verbalize, you magnify in your own life, and the more you talk about something, the bigger it becomes to you…” Patrice Washington [29:37] “I think that what’s going on is they don’t feel their worth doing it.” Cynthia Pasquella-Garcia [53:39] “We don’t always allow people to be who they need to be. Instead, we try to bring them along on this journey that they’re not even trying to be on but they think they should be on, and then we set them up for failure.”...

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Once upon a time someone started telling stories about falling in love, being swept off your feet and feeling butterflies in your stomach was a sign this person must be the one. How many of you have honestly deceived yourself trusting those butterflies? What if we told you, those butterflies didn’t mean love and connection, but they are actually a red flag to pay attention to? Looking for physical and chemical attraction from kiss and the smell of your date may be more reliable than trusting butterflies, but relationship expert and sex guru, Dr. Laura Berman is revealing exactly why you have to practice being self-aware first so you can be more careful of the traps we’re putting ourselves into. This is the episode you’ve been waiting for. It’s time to sit with yourself and think about how you can start opening the door to the basement of shame. Being clear about what you want is only possible when you’ve taken the time to know yourself and understand why the relationships you thought were great end up feeling like familiar anxiety, distrust, and old trauma wounds. “The pain of being in the relationship has to be greater than your fear of leaving it, or you’re not going to leave.” Dr. Laura Berman Healthy relationships, healthy boundaries, self-love, and healing are goals worth pursuing for the radically confident woman. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Dr Laura Berman 0:22 | Feeling Butterflies Is A Warning 2.15 9:07 | Why Your Stuck & Not Moving On 14:56 | The Gifts & Strategies of Your Shame 20:08 | What Feeling Are You After? 29:44 | Frequency of Painful Relationships 38:57 | The Sex Romance Stale Mate 49:30 | Sexual Exploration and Connection QUOTES: “More often than not, when we feel like we’ve known someone in that way, [...] ‘He feels so familiar to me, or she feels like I’ve known her my whole life’, that’s because they are embodying your wounds.” [0:50] “We fall in lust at first sight, we don’t fall in love. We fall in love at first insight, and it feels like peace.” [1:23] “What we’re taught to do in this society is to work around our gut, not listen to it.” [8:57] “Anytime you’re stuck in resistance and not being able to get over someone, it’s rarely about them.” [10:03] “Once it’s exposed to the light, shame almost always evaporates.” [14:03] “All of these wounds and the way that we respond to them is how we survive our childhood, and they all have gifts.” [19:00] “Look for those opportunities just to be in the energy of those feelings you most want to feel as much as possible.” [24:43] “Any boundary you don’t set is out of fear: fear of consequences, fear of abandonment, fear of judgment.” [36:51] “Most women in a long term relationship, [...] don’t have a ton of spontaneous horniness. They are inspired to be sexual…” [41:09] “Women are like a slow-burning stove, men are like a microwave oven.” [43:27] “She doesn’t understand that her not being sexually available for a man that has a healthy libido is like him being unwilling to ask you about your day or hold your hand.” [45:57] “You have to practice, you have to really get into the experience through self-stimulation, and self-reverence and self-exploration, of really claiming your own sexual experience for, by and with yourself.” [50:44] Follow...

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! The number of us who have been in (or are possibly still in) relationships where you don’t even recognize that you’re being manipulated is astounding. Unhealthy relationships have a way of starting off “normal.” You go from being showered with gifts and attention everyday to barely feeling seen or heard at all sometimes without even noticing. Nedra Glover Tawwab is practically a queen of boundaries She’s a therapist, relationship expert and the author of, "Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself". She’s been a guest on Women of Impact multiple times, sharing practical tips and solutions for setting boundaries, being assertive and learning how to recognize when you are in an unhealthy relationship and being gaslit. If you’ve been questioning your sanity after every argument, if you find yourself apologizing to your partner or people you have a relationship with even when you know you’re not to blame, it’s time to put an end to these unhealthy behaviors, set boundaries and find strength in you peace of mind. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction Nedra Glover Tawwab 0:13 | Look for These Signs! 19:00 | How to Set Boundaries 36:49 | Be Assertive & Know Your Value 49:58 | Take Control Today QUOTES: “When you apologize and sometimes you don’t even really mean it, you’re just using it as a peace offering, [...] it is a betrayal of self because nothing has been improved…” [4:19] “Anytime you’re apologizing to keep the peace, that’s not an authentic apology.“ [5:21] “Arguing is a choice, [...] I will not argue with you about something being my fault when I know it wasn’t.” [11:01] “When we find ourselves ruminating and talking about those things that are troubling and problematic, that is an indicator that we are having an issue with something.” [19:44] “You can’t change another person’s behavior. The best boundaries are the boundaries that we set with ourselves with other people.” [28:35] “Conflict is a growth tool.” [44:36] “It has to be okay for us to have some limits around when we’re able to talk about certain topics.” [54:46] “We’ve had so many boundaries put on us by other people, it is okay for us to have a few.” [1:00:40] Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nedratawwab/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/nedratawwab/_created/

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Show Notes: Comparison doesn’t sound super threatening. It’s easy to tell someone to stop comparing yourself to others. It’s even easier (and cheesier - although true) to say, comparison is the thief of joy. Who really wants to be reminded of that when they;re looking at the mess or their best next to someone else. The scary thing about comparison is the connection it has to low self-esteem, depression, and mental health issues. Not everyone copes with comparison the same and it can really affect yur quality of life and the quality of your relationships. Melissa Ambrosini is a best-selling author, “queen of mastering your mean girl,” dancer and former actress. She’s learned how to work with your inner critic and allow the energy of your emotions to go through you instead of fighting and suppressing them. Lisa is speaking with Melissa to understand how comparison is a disease that impacts self worth. As important as relationships are to us all, whether you admit it or not, accepting that the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll have in your lifetime. Regardless of the trauma you’ve experienced in your childhood, awareness about what you’re saying to yourself about yourself is critical, and so is the story you’ve been carrying with you since then. Melissa wants to remind you to embrace your uniqueness and know that you are the best in the world at being you. Melissa’s 4 Steps to Feeling ACE! A - awareness C - choosing a different path E - eliminate exit or exhale S - shift your state “Make no mistake, comparisonitis is a toxic disease that’s eating us up and spitting us out leaving paralyzed with fear, crippled with guilt, and our confidence in tatters” - Melissa Ambrosini Get Melissa’s new book, Comparisonitis: https://amzn.to/3Q0Nfn4 Lisa’s episode on the Melissa Ambrosini Show: https://bit.ly/3Q4MGZj SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Melissa Ambrosini 0:38 | Body Comparison Tearing Us Apart 7:40 | Careful What You Say to Yourself 11:34 | 4 Steps To Feel ACE 18:21 | Not Getting What You Want 26:05 | How to Park Your Emotions 35:12 | Use Self Sabotage As Fuel 41:34 | Stop Rejecting Your Emotions 50:53 | External Validation QUOTES: “Every ‘no’ that I got along my journey slowly chipped away at my self-confidence and my worth.” [2:54] “It’s really sad that we tear ourselves apart, that we pick apart every single freckle, bump, blemish on our body, [...] and our children are watching.” [5:18] “You’ve only got two options. You go down the comparison where you beat yourself up or you go down the other one which is inspiring and motivating.” [16:41] “Relationships are so important, and so many of them get fractured because we’re not practicing crystal clear communication. It is imperative, not only with others, but with ourselves.” [34:46] “Self-sabotage is a big area that a lot of people struggle with and it doesn’t have to be your reality. You can use the inspiration from other people as fuel to propel you forward.” [36:48] “My default was lack, but lack is so boring, and that default caused me a lot of suffering that I chose a different path.” [37:37] “Anytime we...

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! This episode was shot as part of Radical Confidence Live. For the full experience, check out this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DhrQsPIwWHU When you think of makeup what comes to mind ? Are you excited and ready to contour and beat your face to the gods? Do you feel like it takes away and diminishes the natural beauty of a woman? Or do you see women in makeup and feel critical, like she must be hiding something, she’s being phony or superficial? When it comes to being confident, looks do matter, but maybe not for the reason you think. Mally Roncal is an entrepreneur and celeb makeup artist that exudes levels of confidence and beauty anyone would want. She touches on why embracing what makes you different, what makes you unique, and sometimes what makes you feel the most uncomfortable is a power only you can harness. There is a connection between our inner beauty and the physical. You are not defined by one or the other, and there is no shame in celebrating yourself the way that makes you feel most confident. Beauty isn’t about other people, it’s about you and feeling good and dressing up and highlighting your beauty in the way you choose to feel and look your best. At this Rad Con Live event Lisa is joined by incredibly confident and strong women such as Danielle Canty of Bossbabes, Nicole LePera, and Eve Torres Gracie from Gracie Jiu Jitsu. The conversation gets open and extremely vulnerable. Discussing aging and insecurities around beauty, scars, and self-worth isn’t easy to do openly, but as women we need to be able to have these conversations. If you struggle with your appearance or catch yourself judging yourself and other women for the choices they make and don’t make in relation to beauty and living above the standards, this is a must watch! SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction Mally Roncal 0:19 | Badass Inside and Out 4:13 | Embracing Your Differences 11:43 | Be Your Own Beautiful 28:02 | Ditch Your Inner Critic QUOTES: “It can be your power. We don’t have to think of it as self hate, for wanting to look good, for wanting to feel like you can go out there and empower yourself by looking in the mirror.” Mally Roncal [3:23] “Finding a new relationship with makeup, and finding a new relationship with my face as it changes, and learning to do that with grace and appreciation is a journey.” Eve Torres Gracie [30:27] ‘Scars are the fact that you made it through something, [...] today I’m going to cover that because I feel like it, and today I’m not, and that’s okay too!” Mally Roncal [34:01] “Beauty is not for him or her or them, it’s for yourself.” Mally Roncal [36:28] “That's what love is, acceptance. It is the space to be exactly as we are in whatever moment that is.” Nicole LePera [38:43] Follow Mally Roncal: Website: https://mallyroncal.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mallyroncal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mallyroncal Twitter: https://twitter.com/mallyroncal

Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Very few things in life may be as difficult as being part of a thriving, healthy and happy long term relationship with the love of your life. Finding the love of your life can feel next to impossible. Even worse, feeling lost in the relationship between the responsibilities, work, and stress you both have to manage. When you’re in healthy, loving relationships you deserve to feel seen by you partner, but first you must learn how to select the right partner for you. Today I’m answering your questions and giving you tools you’ll need in your empowerment kit to be confident in how you show up in your relationship. This is about setting you up for success so that you learn how to set your partner up for success and for a long loving relationship. I can promise you this is no easy work. By learning about yourself, new strategies to try in your relationship, and how to give each other the grace to be human, you can turn your relationship around and set each other on fire for a beautiful life together. 6 Tips To Surviving Each Other’s Transitions: How you feel What makes you unhappy Share what makes you feel fulfilled and why Ask for your partner’s support on your new direction Mark and celebrate the transition together, Give your partner space to SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction Relationship Q&A 0:27 | Finding a Life Partner 4:09 | Is It Time To Walk Away? 11:02 | Qualities of a Good Partner 16:48 | If You’ve Grown Apart 24:38 | Are You Ready for Marriage? 31:07 | Take It To The Next Step 36:54 | Keep the Fire Burning QUOTES: “Set your partner up for success in what is about to happen. Be open to listening to them just like you want them to be open to listening to you.” [6:43] “He’s coming along the journey with me even though it's difficult, even though it’s not the path he’s currently walking, we did it together [23:31] “I think we focus on the wrong things. I think we need to focus on, do I trust them? Do I align well with them? Do they accept me…? [27:15] “Come back to how your instincts were when they responded…assess how your gut responded to it.” [33:53] “I just know as long as we’re always still trying. Sometimes it’s going to be a roaring bonfire and other times you’re going to be these little flames in order to try to make it fire more.” [37:29] Follow Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu

Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Meeting someone new that gives you all the right feels is tough. Once you’ve met that someone and that new relationship energy has you drunk in love and intoxicated with hormones, you blink and a year or two have passed and now you’re sobering up… uh oh! How do you make relationships work when all you know and can relate is what and how you feel, what you want, and what’s best for you to be happier here? Licensed therapist, Spirit breaks down why compatibility is more important than chemistry, ways to get pass the representative when you’re dating, and how to start coming to agreements once you’re in the relationship. Your relationship is different from you and your partner. Spirit reveals how your relationship is its own entity that both partners are committed and invested in caring for. Understanding how to respect and govern yourselves as two individuals while finding your way to the middle out of love and desire to be together, is tricky, it’s not easy, but there is a science to it that can be applied. It will change everything for you, but only if you put any ONE of these strategies into practice. Spirit’s reminder about the love you want in you relationship: Acknowledge there’s a problem Be honest with your partner Reinvigorate the relationship SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Spirit 0:15 | Stop Looking for Chemistry 6:53 | Avoid Relationship Splinters 14:00 | Set Proper Boundaries 23:57 | Grow From Forgiveness 32:19 | How to Make Love last 41:54 | Feelings, Thoughts, and Behaviors QUOTES: “People are afraid as chemistry changes. They’re afraid and they mistake the chemistry changing for them falling out of love.” [2:39] “We need to see them in different environments and then compare do they actually appear to be who they say that they are over time.” [9:21] “If you really want to know who somebody is divorce them, or break up with them. Many people learn way more about a person at the end of a relationship than they did in the entire relationship.” [11:37] “I can forgive you and accept that has happened to me and move on for my own healing and still put up appropriate boundaries or barriers that says, I choose to no longer engage you.’” [15:29] “People want immediate forgiveness, they don't want forgiveness that is part of a process to healing.”[16:53] “The key is not to forget but to pay attention to how it makes us feel, and if we’re still holding on to negative energy about a thing then that means that we need to heal it.” [24:21] Every relationship has scars. Scars are okay because scars are the testimony to what you survived. [...] Open wounds though over time will fester, will become toxic, and that will kill a relationship.” [24:35] “A compromise is where everybody comes to the table and everybody gets up winning or getting something that they wanted, but no one person is 100% happy. Because if I win and you lose, then our relationship loses.” [27:23] “The relationship is its own living breathing entity, and it’s up to the two of you to constantly work together in partnership to resolve the problems in your relationship.” [33:26] “You are not the problem and your partner is not the problem. The problems are not the problem, and it’s up to the two of you to work together as a team to solve the problems.” [33:38] “Everything starts with us as the individual and then radiates...

It is beyond disheartening that it’s believed that 90% of sexual abuse victims never say a word about their abuse to anyone. According to NAASCA.org, 50-60 million American adults have been sexually abused in their childhood. Unfortunately, the emotional trauma inflicted upon us as children doesn’t magically disappear. If you or someone you know has been a victim of childhood abuse, or any kind of abuse, our hearts are with you. If you are here, hopefully it means that you are on a journey seeking healing and ready to claim your power. Anne Heche is an Emmy Award winning actress that has been in more movies that we can name such as Donnie Brasco, I Know What You Did Last Summer, and even Dancing with the Stars! She’s brave, she’s bold, and so beautiful. She’s also a woman that learned to stand up and tell her truth, live her truth and take back her power from the abusive and traumatic childhood she experienced. In the conversation with Lisa, Anne shares the wisdom and hard lessons she’s learned from getting up and taking responsibility and taking action on the things that gave her the power she needed to reclaim her life and start loving herself. Her open, raw, powerful display of what it means to find your worth, love hard, and release the pain that was pushed on her at a young age may be the thing to hear today. Anne’s mantra: You are not your abuse Anne’s Power Questions to Get to the Other Side: Am I worthy of taking responsibility for myself? Do I value me enough to take care of me today? SHOW NOTES: Rejecting Self | How Anne found power of telling her truth through her father [1:02] Covered Reality | Anne explains the trap of going with what you know and telling truth [3:44] Seeing A New Path | Anne reveals how she thought her way out of the lies and abuse [6:38] First Step in Fear | Anne on how she took action and activated her power in self-love [10:17] Demonstrating Love | Why defining what love looks like for different people is needed [13:13] Being Validated | Anne on how she decided to show up after coming out in her truth [16:18] Power Over Abuse | Anne’s secret to taking power over the abuse you experienced [22:06] Power Questions | Anne’s two powerful questions to get you to the other side of abuse [27:28] QUOTES: “When you look back at somebody’s life, it makes absolutely 100% sense how they are and who they become cause you can look at their journey…” [3:10] “Go with what you know is habit, and also going with what you know has covered your reality so you become whatever it is that you’ve had to manufacture to make what you know make any sense at all.” [3:54] “Activating our curiosity enough to pause before hating ourselves so much that we dive deeper into our insecurities…” [17:02] “I asked myself if I really didn't commit to the truth, or if I was a lying sack of shit and wanted to join the crowd.” [20:06] “You have to get 100% clear on your story about what happened and who belongs to the pain of it and who belongs to the heart of it and the love of it, [...] You are the heart and the abuse belongs to somebody.” [23:02] “Responsibility is about beginning the story in the morning with yourself, and asking yourself if you want to take responsibility for where you want to be…” [26:06] Follow Anne Heche: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annehecheoffical Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anneheche/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/anneheche Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officialanneheche Podcast:

Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! One of the hardest things to accept as an adult is that many of the beliefs you have about yourself and the world you live in were developed from a childhood where you didn’t know any better and you weren’t equipped with the resources or capacity to process the complexities of life happening all around you. Those experiences helped you shape the story you tell yourself today. Whether the story is good or bad is irrelevant considering that chances are the story isn’t even accurate or factual. Marissa Peer is not just a best-selling author, she is a trained hypnotherapist that created Rapid Transformational Therapy, or RTT. She joins Lisa here to discuss the ideas from her latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie. Her tips and strategies are powerful to rewrite your story and create a narrative that gives you meaning, fulfillment and more happiness. Check out Marissa Peer’s latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: https://amzn.to/39U2M7w SHOW NOTES: RFPI Illness | The unconscious role, function, purpose and intent of illness [1:06] OCD Control | Marissa shares about an OCD patient’s illness rooted in control [5:55] Uncover The Root | Uncovering when and why trauma starts helps to identify the cause [10:14] Choose for Yourself | Helping people see their normalized behaviors on their own [17:07] Change Isn’t Hard | Choosing the unfamiliar over what’s familiar and comfortable [22:49] Be Enough | How you go from thinking it, to saying it, to actually feeling it’s true [27:19] Lie to Yourself | Marissa on why the lies you tell yourself are super powerful [30:39] Be Flaw-some | How you are a flawed person in a flawed relationship, be proud [36:20] Stressed Eating | Examining how you are hardwired and being accepted or not accepted [38:27] Self Sabotaging | Why people self destruct because they don’t feel self-worth [43:53] Feel Your Emotions | Marissa on why allowing yourself to feel all emotions is good [47:20] Outcome of Beliefs | Words shape your reality and that’s controlled by your thoughts [51:03] QUOTES: ““When you think a thought a lot, it’s not a thought. It’s a direct request to the mind.” [3:26] “That’s the saddest thing for children when they don't get love and care. When their needs aren’t met, they don’t stop loving the parent, they stop loving themselves immediately, and often permanently.” [11:47] “When the mind starts to look for what’s the same, it finds it. But if you look for what’s different you find that too.” [15:04] “You can make anything familiar with a little bit of persistence, [...] I have chosen to make this familiar, I have chosen to feel great about it.” [25:15] “If you didn’t have love, or success, or joy or wealth, that’s a shame, but you can go out and get it.” [29:33] “Nobody gets away without pain, but it’s what do you do with the pain.” [36:08] “The minute you fall in love with you, your world will change so dramatically.” [52:48] Follow Marissa Peer: Website: https://marisapeer.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarisaPeer Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy/ Instagram:

Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! The term narcissist gets thrown around a lot to the misfortune of people who are not actually narcissistic. Toxicity, emotional, mental, and verbal abuse are clear common markers of narcissistic behavior. Hopefully, you’re not in a relationship with a narcissistic person, but perhaps you’ve recently left a toxic situation and still feel lost, confused and uncertain how to handle the narcissist in your life. Dr. Ramani doesn’t mince words when it comes to dealing with narcissists. The depth of knowledge she has from working with victims of narcissism is mind-blowing. In this episode we’ve packed some of the best advice Dr. Ramani has shared with Lisa on Women of Impact so you can take notes and the cycle of abuse and start healing. If you’ve managed to avoid relationships with narcissists to this point, we’re cheering for you. We want you to be safe and be aware of the red fags many people miss until it’s too far gone. SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Ramani 0:09 | Look for These Red Flags 26:02 | They Weaponize Vulnerabilities 47:48 | 6 Types of Narcissists 1:04:44 | Red Flags in Conversation 1:15:15 | How to Heal & Detox 1:37:06 | Break the Trauma Bond 1:52:15 | How to Leave a Narcissist QUOTES: “Once you’ve communicated something about three times, and it has been dishonored, devalued, not listened to, or validated, that’s it! You're done…” [3:29] “Charisma is a tricky pattern, because we always assume, that it's a good thing and I think people have to be discerning about charisma.” [15:12] “We're literally more protective of the password we have for some game on our computer, then we are with the most sacred parts of our psyche.” [27:02] “There's a short list of reasons people stay in their relationships, hope, fear, guilt, and lack of information.” [40:48] “Secure, people don't lash out at other people, [...] they know they're not always going to get it right. They're not always trying to overcompensate, they apologize when they are wrong.” [52:18] “this is it. This is who this person is. You stay. And this is how it is” [1:04:40] “It's not just about the trust of the other. It's about that you have the right to set a boundary. And that's about trusting yourself. “ [1:36:30] “The primary motivations of these difficult relationships are that the narcissistic or difficult person wants power. They want control. They want everything for their own pleasure, their own needs.” [1:51:19] “There’s no such thing as failing at healing. If you’re getting out of bed in the morning, even if you’re slow and even if it’s later than you want, you’re healing because you had the courage to face down another day.” [1:54:03] Follow Dr. Ramani: Website: http://doctor-ramani.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DoctorRamanDurvasula Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorRamani Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani Podcast:

What up homie! If you're struggling to find purpose and strength to achieve your frikin' dreams, join me and 5 other world-leading experts this Saturday May 14th at RADCON Live to learn how to become Radically Confident in all areas of your life! Registration is free at radconlive.com - see you there! Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Confidence is something too many of us struggle with. Tragically, lack of confidence impacts the quality of life for many of us, and the lack of confidence isn’t necessarily a reflection of the things you have and don’t have. It’s internal, it’s personal, and it’s self reflective of how you feel about yourself. The great news is that you can give your confidence a major boost. Being confident today is an ongoing process, and Lisa is stepping into her Bad B*itch Boots to get vulnerable and share with you the hard road to Radical Confidence. Admittedly, it’s been a heck of a rollercoaster ride. There is pain, tears, many fears, and stages of denial along the way that Lisa not only had to overcome, but that she admits to still working on even still! In this special episode, Lisa is reading passages from her first book, Radical Confidence and giving you the lowdown on how to start taking charge and changing your life today. It’s time to stop living in denial about the reality of the life you’re living, and it’s time to start dealing with the negative thoughts, and Dream Killing mentality that has you living in a mundane existence. Lisa’s experiences are not only totally relatable, but they are an inspiration of how you can take small planned incremental steps toward confidence and showing up for yourself today! Lisa’s 3 Dream Killers to Look Out For: Dismissing your own Happiness Not defining the Dream or Goal No Deadline on the Dream Lisa’s 5 Tips for Negative Thoughts: Observe your thoughts Identify the patterns Put your thoughts on trial Allow the negative thoughts to fuel you Deal with your negative thoughts Practice! Practice! Practice! SHOW NOTES: Part 1 | You Can Change Your Life [0:46] Outside Perspective of Your Reality [7:04] Dream Killers | Lisa’s 3 Dream Killers [10:17] Part 2 | You Can Figure Sh*t Out [12:24] Journey to Becoming the Entrepreneur [15:37] 4 Tips for Your Negative Thoughts [19:12] Part 3 | You Can Boost Your Confidence [24:27] Lisa’s Confidence Boosters [31:30] Vanessa’s Event Tips for Confidence [34:37] Boost Your Confidence in Style [41:02] QUOTES: “We don’t let our dreams die by chance. They aren’t taken away from us. We’re not unlucky, it’s a choice.” [0:52] “You can be over the top freaking grateful for what you have and you can be madly in love with parts of your life, and be utterly miserable in others.” [1:51] “Sometimes you need a slap in the face for us to actually see the reality. We really cannot see ourselves the way other people see us.” [5:48] “Just like I made small, tiny choices every single day to be stuck, I actually could make small tiny choices in the opposite direction to get myself out.” [10:03] “I started to see that I don't know, was nothing more than an excuse. If I didn't know how to do something, then I had to get radically confident and bloody learn, period.” [12:54] “I had to overcome the obstacles [...] I had to show up every single freaking day and face my inadequacies...” [14:21] “There is no moment where there's no negative...

Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Have you ever set out for a get together, family dinner, or a company meeting thinking, ‘I hope no one here likes me.’ Of course not! Though some of us have a harder time admitting to it, we all want to be liked. No one sets a goal to show at the next social event feeling awkward and unaccepted and not liked. As social beings, our nature drives us toward being social, but our awkwardness drives us to feel (and sometimes live) like social outcasts. Vanessa Van Edwards, professional behavioral scientist and queen of the recovering awkward people, is no stranger to the show. We’re bringing some of Vanessa’s best highlights with tips and tricks to help you put your social anxiety to rest, and walk into the next event feeling confident and capable. By following her strategies to up your likability and knowing how to unapologetically say no, you can become a recovering awkward person too. Vanessa’s 3 Keys to Saying No: Offer something nice to say Do not offer a reason Offer an alternative plan or idea (only if you want to, no obligation) SHOW NOTES: The Secret of Being Liked [0:08] It’s Okay to Say No, This Is How [10:54] Boost Confidence & Charisma [22:34] Deal with Awkwardness [43:59] Be More Likable Online [58:30] QUOTES: “You are in control of how many people like you because you like the most other people.” [2:57] “Saying no is a skill. It’s a skill that as women as men, we have to hone that skill, and we have to get good at it.” [12:56] “If you give a reason, it invites someone to question your reason.” [13:41] “Most emotions fade quickly [...] but contempt sits and it festers.” [43:16] “If you’re setting yourself up to be fake, it’s almost impossible for you to get into authentic, real, deep connecting discussions and relationships because you’ve primed yourself for it.” [50:45] “I decided to put my awkwardness forward, [...] I don't want you to fake it til you make it. I want you to show up anxious and awkward and learn how to use it.” [57:07] Follow Vanessa Van Edwards: Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT/featured Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/

Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Check out our sponsor: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Matthew Hussey is a great relationship expert with solid advice. “How a person is making you feel is more important than how you feel about them,” is just one tiny piece of his advice that will surely challenge the perspective you have of your current and former relationships. It’s not easy putting yourself out there, being vulnerable and open to the possibilities of a new relationship when you're barely navigating the signs of how into you this person is, and what to do with the off comment he or she made over dinner you didn’t like. Matthew rejoins Lisa with no shortage of knowledge. If you’ve been stuck trying to figure out if you’re in love or in lust with your current partner, this episode will help open your eyes and consider angels of your relationship you haven’t considered. SHOW NOTES: Love or Lust | Examining the differences between the two and if love at first sight it real [0:40] Defining Love | Knowing what love means to not be victim of being lavished with attention [5:23] Be Intentional | Matthew shares how to be intentional and communicate what you want [12:01] Value Consistency | How love values consistency but it needs to be communicated [16:26] Bedazzled | Matthew exposes truth on why average days matter more than 5% dazzling [19:33] How He Makes You Feel | Why how he makes you feel is the reality of the relationship [24:28] He’s Not All Bad | How someone can be bad for you and not inherently bad as a person [28:10] Different Person | The person you break up with isn’t the same person you started dating [33:03] Address Issues | Ignoring issues becomes inevitable problems, confront the hard topics [37:45] Trust Yourself | Ways to take comfort in trusting yourself even if you’ve been wronged [48:10] Putting Yourself Out There | Matthew shares 2 easy steps to putting yourself out there [55:36] Breaking Beliefs | Secret to breaking existing beliefs that keeps you from happiness [1:00:00] Run Experiments | Trying new things in similar dating situations can help you evolve [1:06:08] Be Humble | Matthew exposes how humility is needed to see how wrong you are [1:11:50] QUOTES: “Attention is not the same as intention. You could give me lots of attention, but have no real intention behind it. There might be no intention for this thing to go anywhere.” [4:38] “It's very easy to value intensity, when we have it, especially because it plays to some kind of love story or an idea of a love story we've had in our head…” [7:42] “A longtime partner is someone we have to be able to live with, not be dazzled by.” [21:27] “If you're chasing Bad Boys, you're always chasing someone in a phase. You're chasing someone who's in that period of their life, but they won't do that to someone else down the line.” [23:28] “I had convinced myself that the bad times weren't indicative of who he was, and the good times were” Lisa Bilyeu [25:04] “You have to be able to separate how you feel about someone from how someone makes you feel.” [25:33] “Because the reality for you, if somebody is bad, it doesn't make them evil. It just makes the reality for you bad.” [30:19] “They're not the devil. They're a complex person, but I care enough about me to protect myself...

RADCON LIVE - a FREE ONE-DAY LIVE EVENT HOSTED BY LISA BILYEU, author of Radical Confidence Saturday May 14th, 10am. Become the HERO of your own life. Join Lisa and the world's leading coaches & teachers - LIVE & FREE! Learn their top strategies on how to overcome the things holding you back & live YOUR life with Radical Confidence! When you walk into a new situation, a new job , or family function, how you show up matters more than most would rather admit. How you dress, the way you speak, and your facial expressions are all communicating and telling a story on your behalf. Evy Poumpuras, former secret service agent has been a guest on Women of Impact multiple times, and each time she’s brought so much knowledge and hard hitting truths with her that can level you up and change your life. Whether it’s being more confident, taking control of your emotional responses, or commanding respect in the workplace, Evy is unpacking everything you need to know to be super badass. SHOW NOTES: Master Body Language & Be Warm [0:28] How to Handle Disrespect [20:39] Master Confidence [37:33] Master Your Emotions [48:56] This Commands Respect [1:14:23] Think & Speak With Conviction [1:23:48] How to Handle Confrontation [1:36:30] QUOTES: “My goal isn't how I want that person to feel about me, my goal is what do I want my end result is this, and how do I navigate my conversation to get to that point…” [3:02] “The more you have stress in your life, the more you're able to cope better if you know how to use these situations as a learning tool.” [10:38] “Even if you can't articulate it, even if you don't understand it, if you feel it, follow it! There is a point where you have to trust in yourself…” [16:06] “If I cannot master myself, forget about the outside world. So, it always has to begin with you.” [25:56] “You're not going to own my response to you. I'm going to own it. That's why, I do for me not for you.” [33:50] “When you assert yourself as an authority, in body posture, and voice in speech, and how you present yourself, people are less likely to mess with you.” [58:10] “If you're not dealing with any stress, if you're not dealing with adversity, you're not dealing with obstacles, then when something does happen, you're not going to know what to do.” [1:15:36] “When you avoid conflict, you don't know what to do when real conflict shows up [...] repetition in creating habits that are healthy, so that when things happen, you default to those habits.” [1:26:57] “When you first meet people, and you're trying to figure them out, let them do the talking. Ask open ended questions, and then that way, let people guide you and give you the information you need rather than guessing.” [1:42:32] Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact Do you have an internal voice screaming every time you’re ready to speak up about something you see could be done better? Does the voice get louder in agony when you get complimented on the project knocked out of the park and impressed everyone? What does that inner voice say to you when you’re scrolling and see how much prettier, how much richer, how much more ‘ers’ everyone else seems to have on your feed? You want to be more confident. You want to accept praise with grace, and not feel like a total imposter as you reach new levels. Learning how to discern and control your inner voice is a critical lesson that takes specific strategies, trial, errors, and lots of practice over time. Lisa is giving you a run down on tactics and strategies you can start practicing immediately to step up and stop villainizing your inner critic, your inner voice, today! You don’t have to give default to feeling jealous, you can absolutely feel inspired. You don’t have to deflect the compliments you receive, you can accept them and simply say thank you. Get ready to take notes and put these tips into practice right away! SHOW NOTES: Trick to Comparison | Comparison that inspires and avoids feelings that bring you down [0:13] Be Confident | Lisa’s tips to show up confidence without being obnoxious, or arrogant [5:46] Accept Praise | Why you should stop deflecting compliments immediately and own it [12:32] To Fake It or Not | Do what makes you feel best and don’t waste time on anything else [17:59] Inner Critic | How to change your inner critic’s voice by listening and not villainizing her [21:32] QUOTES: “When you can look at someone so mind blowingly amazing [...] and not let it be detrimental to your self esteem, but actually be the complete opposite, see it as a frickin inspiration.” [4:30] “Confidence isn’t me just coming into a room and saying why I disagree. Confidence is someone disagreeing with me and me being able to admit that they’re right! [11:34] “Stop thinking that we are boasting, or that it means that we're big headed, if we accept the compliments that actually come with recognizing that we frickin busted our asses [...] let's freakin’ own that shit.” [17:32] “We hold meaning to things, and the meaning we hold to things can really hold us back...” [20:16]

Dating in 2022 can feel like a lost cause, it can feel exhausting, and worthless when you come up empty handed and broken hearted (again). How can we start to date wiser, smarter, and more fearless without falling into the same traps over again? Matthew Hussey is a relationship guru who has helped thousands of women navigate their feelings and emotional responses to dating. Between not getting caught up in the stories we create before the first date, to recognizing the warning signs we usually ignore and excuse, to knowing when it’s time to be brave and ask the difficult questions we fear the answers to, Matthew Hussey is brutally honest. He’s like the big brother every girl needs. As an added bonus to get your dating life on the right track, Stephan Speaks another high value relationship guru is breaking down what makes a relationship truly successful and how women can use their natural senses to make better decisions when it comes to dating and choosing partners to start building with. SHOW NOTES: He Only Says What You Want To Hear [0:18] 4 Stages of Importance in Relationships [5:39] Relationship Work and Sunk Costs of Staying [11:25] Identifying the Truth in What He Says [14:57] Is He a Liar or an Avoider of the Truth? [21:04] Having Difficult Conversations with Ease [27:05] They’re Narcissistic Leaning [34:01] How to Be Vulnerable with Your Emotional Wounds [39:06] When Your Feelings May Not Be Valid [46:23] His Behavior Doesn’t Match His Actions [53:49] Be Honest About Your Own Actions Too! [57:24] Timing Is Important But Not A Reason To Keep Waiting [1:11:43] Bonus: Biggest Dating Problems with Stephan Speaks [1:16:22] The Value of Connection Over Settling [1:24:20] Not Maintaining the Person He Fell In Love With [1:37:53] QUOTES: “Instead of going in with a curiosity, we go in with a conclusion.” [5:19] “Part of people’s frustration is that they are really deeply unhappy with what they’re getting, but they haven’t found the courage to go find something else, or to value themselves more.” [12:43] “You have to assume that who they are today is who they’ll be.” [13:54] “When a guy on a date says, ‘I’m not looking for anything serious,’ you can trust that he’s either, not looking for anything serious or he thinks that there’s a very good chance that he’s going to end up hurting you...” [17:30] “When someone is being intentional about dating, they are asking intentional questions.” [19:42] “Women have to be brave enough to ask questions that they’re afraid of the answers to.” [22:31] “Be kind in your tone, ruthless in your actions.” [26:17] “We often scare people off in relationships not because of our wounds, we scare them off with our weapons.” [39:06] “All of these moments where you have friction are absolutely necessary, they’re wonderful because they give you a moment to put another brick in the house of the relationship.” [1:06:31] “You have to assume that what someone’s telling you about what they want is the reality.” [1:14:28] “Staying together does not equate success. A happy fruitful relationship equates success.” Stephan Speaks [1:19:59] “The reality is, if you don’t know you are then you don’t know who belongs in your life.” Stephan Speaks [1:21:51] Follow Matthew Hussey: Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ Follow Stephan Speaks: Website: https://www.stephanspeaks.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/StephanSpeaksVideos Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact When it comes to physical health, it’s no secret that too often research of new medications and studies being released are disproportionately reflective of results based on men. Women’s health issues have been poorly studied for years. More physicians and scientists are starting to shine light on the problems that exist with treating men based studies as sufficient evidence for how to best treat women. Dr. Lisa Mosconi is a neuroscientist and author of the book, The XX Brain, which dives deep into women’s cognitive health and preventing Alzheimer’s disease. If you’re curious about how stimulants such as caffeine or alcohol effect you between cycles or how significant physical activity truly is for women over the age of 35, this interview is going to help you get started. As Lisa Mosconi says, it’s not about which is better or more superior. men’s brains or women’s brains, it’s about understanding there are functional differences that we can optimize for to have greater cognitive function and energy throughout our lives. Check out Lisa Mosconi’s latest book, The XX Brain: https://amzn.to/3rBH4ex SHOW NOTES: Bikini Medicine | Lisa on women’s health is treated indistinguishable from men’s health [1:07] Ambien Study | A study that revealed how women medicated with Ambien crashed more [4:30] XX Brain | Lisa on understanding how the xx brain is wired and responds and functions [6:56] Brain in Puberty | Lisa explains what happens to the brain during puberty for women [13:42] Brain During Menstrual | How menstrual flow effects women’s changes in the brain [17:10] Caffeine Stimulants | Lisa explains how to optimize energy from stimulants for your cycle [21:28] Diet for Your Cycle | How foods functions for women’s brain health and how to optimize [26:39] Supplements | Lisa shares how to supplement with a healthy diet to optimize xx brain [31:03] Exercise for Women | Lisa on why consistency is usually more important than intensity [33:05] Stress in Women | Reducing stress is a brain protective strategy that relies on hormones [38:33] Tips Against Stress | Practical tips that can help you effectively fight stress day by day [43:13] Magic of Sleep | Lisa reveals the self care process that happens during sleep [46:41] Pregnancy & Your Brain | How pregnancy stimulates brain plasticity and connection [50:08] QUOTES: “Men's brains and women's brains are not different. In the sense that one is better than the other, [...] the way that the brain is built, or the way the brain functions really dictates different strengths in different vulnerabilities.” [7:54] “This is a system that works as a system and changes at the same time, and whatever happens to your ovaries has an impact in your brain.” [19:29] “The truth is that the same exact foods that change your body also really impact the functionality of the brain.” [22:15] “There's so much more to food than just food. Food is information and food is function, and one of the functionalities of food is that very specific nutrients can literally speak to our cells.” [27:22] “What the brain wants the minimum, it's a moderate intensity exercise, and the need for frequency ranges between three and five times a week.” [35:03] “Reducing stress doesn't just save your day, it also really says your brain for the long term.” [40:59] “Very little has been done for people to really have the tools to cultivate mental health and well being, and we...

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact As a woman, how many times have you politely stayed quiet because culture wouldn’t allow anything else. Whether the culture came from your workplace, your family and home life, or social environment because of the country you live in, this doesn’t always have to be your reality. Sure, we’re all guilty of not speaking up at some point or another, but we can certainly agree there are extremes of being a woman forced to silence that exists in the world. Not all forms of extreme are far from home or in third world countries either. Julia Haart joins Lisa to discuss her eye opening experience that led her to a brazen victory far away from cultural and religious oppression that made her feel powerless, frustrated, and insignificant. There is a part of her story each of us can take with us to be more confident, more powerful and more secure in who we are as women. Check out Julia Haarts new book, Brazen: My Unorthodox Journey from Long Sleeves to Lingerie: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593239164?tag=randohouseinc47720-20 SHOW NOTES: Invisible Woman | Julia on traditional roles of women and not conforming to invisibility [0:52] Spiritual High | Julia talks about the nature of being righteous and miserably trapped [3:10] Breaking Beliefs | Julia reveals how she came to question her beliefs and breaking away [7:42] Giving Up Power | How extreme religions trap you with strong beliefs & being powerless [11:19] Brazen Moments | Julia on laws of Judaism versus add ons and standing up against it all [12:16] Walking Away | How Julia walked away from her religion and strict life for her daughter [18:46] Courage to Go | Julia shares how she made moved towards the impossible to be free [27:04] Polite Women | Julia sheds light on the trouble of polite women tolerating too much [31:34] Reprogram Old Beliefs | Julia reveals the slow process of reprogramming old beliefs [35:03] Work In Progress | Julia is honest about the ongoing work to get to putting herself first [39:14] Get Uncomfortable | Julia on how to be successful in spite of the fear and discomfort [43:43] QUOTES: “The greater of a woman you want to be the more you need to have complete removal of self” [2:53] “The odds stacked against me seemed impossible to overcome.” [27:44] “It was me accepting these boundaries, these rules, these commandments and strictures that made my life so miserable. I chose to do that. It was my mind that was keeping the prisoner.” [31:21] “There are words that are reserved exclusively for women. You ever heard the word a well behaved man?” [32:52] “As far as I've come, I still find myself in a place where I think men know better” [35:50] “I have a long way to go until I eradicate that inferiority complex I've had my whole life” [42:12] “I don't think fearless actually means not having fear. I think fearless means facing your fear and overcoming it.” [44:47] “Just because this is how something is done. Doesn't mean it's something how it should be done. I literally don't give a flying fuck” [48:45] Follow Julia Haart: Twitter: https://twitter.com/JuliaHaart Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/juliahaart/

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Losing your cool has probably never ended well for anyone. Whether you are in the workplace or home with your family, there never is an ideal or acceptable time to lose control of your emotions. But how can you keep it together when everywhere you go there is someone or something there to trigger you? Lisa has had lots of practice doing the inner work needed to gain control of her emotions, but she will also be the first to admit, it’s a process and no one is perfect, We all slip and fall short. Being dedicated to being empowered, successful and strong has taught her so much that in this episode Lisa is sharing tips and dropping gems on how you can take practical steps to control your emotions and start making progress everyday. Staying cool when someone has trigger you is far from easy and you may fail the test 100 times, but assessing the situation, your reactions, your feelings, and learning how to rewrite the script is going to set you on the path to self mastery, and it begins now. SHOW NOTES: Discover Your Triggers | Lisa’s steps for discovering her triggers when emotionally sober [0:34] Take a Step Back | How to make decisions when you are in an emotional state [11:05] Overcome Jealousy | Lisa shares tips on how to acknowledge it and determine if it’s real [18:09] Let Yourself Feel Emotions | Steps to uncovering the emotions you’ve been suppressing [29:58] How to Handle Arguments | Lisa 2 rules she has to not allow arguments to go too far [42:04] QUOTES: “I haven't seen any situation from my own experience, where I made a decision that I was proud of making in an emotional state.” [17:55] “Actions speak louder than words, they're showing you time and time again that they're saying, ‘this is on you, [...]. This is your problem.’” [27:24] “There's no room for jealousy in a relationship. So you have a choice, either acknowledge it, [...] or identify that the jealousy is actually very warranted, and they are totally disrespecting you.” [28:00] “I want to make sure that no one ever feels shame or embarrassment or any type of emotion around seeking help.” [30:35] “I can only assess why I acted the way I did once I look back without the emotion.” [34:07] “Giving yourself the freaking grace to get there over time, to put the work in, put a plan in place, and then every day make incremental steps to get there.” [40:37] “I can't control what the other person says to me. But you better frickin believe that I'm never going to lower myself to their level.” [43:16]

Check out our sponsors: Coinbase: coinbase.com/woi Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Are you choosing the history of a bad relationship, when times were good, over the pain of leaving an unhealthy relationship now? Often we make relationships about what the other person is or isn’t doing and we have the tendency to focus on our reactive emotions. What feels good and what doesn’t. The problem with this kind of relationship habit is that we give our power away. Judge Faith Jenkins has been a prosecuting attorney, a judge on Divorce Court TV, and is now hosting and producing an Oxygen True Crimes show, Killer Relationships. She is revealing the success we can have in healthy relationships when we realize our power to be happy comes from within. If you are single, Faith is highlighting all the lessons and opportunities available for you to properly prepare, learn, and plan for a successful marriage or relationship that you choose to be in. Taking some time to journal after this episode may be a great way to get started on having a better relationship now. Check out Faith Jenkins new book, Sis Don’t Settle: How to Stay Smart in Matters of the Heart: https://amzn.to/3uCFg5R SHOW NOTES: Relationship Disaster | How loving relationships turn into divorce or worst [0:37] Power to be Happy | Why your personal foundation is a must for healthy relationships [3:05] Lessons of Single Life | Faith reveals what single life is teaching and preparing you for [7:10] Accept, Reject, or Build | 3 options you have when taking relationship to next level [8:39] Being Resentful | Ways to navigate conflict and reveal a person’s true character [10:39] Normalized Hurt | Faith on why healing is your responsibility, not normalizing disrespect [15:22] Commitment | How to know if you are committing to love and the same things together [18:44] Manifesting Love | How Faith manifested love from knowledge and acceptance of self [19:38] Broken Love | Faith reveals the process for staying positive for love after being broken [26:44] Toxic Traps | Revealing how people get trapped and remain in unhealthy relationships [30:59] Danger Zone | Examining the danger of external pressure of being single and settling [36:38] Rejection is Okay | Faith on how rejection isn’t about you and cannot be taken personal [41:35] Due Diligence | How counseling gave Faith peace with her decision to marry and invest [46:38] Successful Love | Why love deserves the same planning for success as your career [49:11] QUOTES: “People don't really have a lot of relationship problems [...] they have problems that they bring into the relationship.” [1:27] “Being single was not a rest stop in my life, it was time for me to really live.” [6:07] “It is easy to treat people right when things are going well. How do people treat each other when things are not going well? That is the key and a reflection of someone's true nature. [15:10] “We aren't in charge of the person who hurt us. But we are in charge of our healing.” [15:58] “I knew I was bringing a lot to the table. And I wanted someone who was going to add to the happiness I already had.” [21:43] “I could not be a cynic about love and attract it into my life at the same time.” [26:28] “If you're not careful, over time, you will internalize that messaging, and being single can start to feel like something you're embarrassed about.” [38:07] “When you're single and you're dating, you can be the total package at the wrong address.” [41:48] “A lot of times rejection has nothing to do...

Check out our sponsors: Future makes one on one training available to our audience for just $19 Go to tryfuture.co/womenofimpact Sign up to crush your fitness goals! Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact So many women have problems with boundaries. If you are fortunate enough to have thought through what boundaries you should have in place, you may lack the skill and discipline you need to uphold them. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. She is turning the conversation of boundaries on its head and revealing the key players running defense against your best efforts to create stronger and healthier boundaries. Whether your boundaries have been too laxed or too rigid, Terri is spotlighting the importance of your relationship with yourself and why boundaries have to start with knowing your preferences, your desires, and your limits. Boundaries are more about you than the people around you. If you’ve been struggling with boundaries, there’s a good chance you’re frustrated with the people you love, you’re feeling exhausted, unappreciated and overly sacrificing yourself and it’s making you resentful. Take a moment, sit down, and open up for some self-reflection time with Terri and Lisa. Take Terri’s Boundary Quiz: https://boundaryquiz.com/ Check out Terri’s new book, Boundary Boss: https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688 SHOW NOTES: Assessing Boundaries | How corrupted boundaries affect you and ways to assess them [1:30] Self-Abandoning | Prioritizing needs and wants of others over what's true and right for you [4:37] Codependency | Terri on what high-functioning codependency looks like for women [5:26] Awareness is Key | Why being radically curious without judgment is the key to boundaries [8:50] Guilt-Free Boundaries | Why helping isn’t a help and how it hurts the one you love [13:57] Obligation-Free | Terri shares how important it is to recognize boundary issues [17:52] Boundary Violators | How to take small steps to uphold and honor your boundaries [20:40] Know Yourself | Why it’s important to know your preferences, limits, and deal breakers [23:22] Self-Love & Giving | Terri on what self-love is and how it’s a way of life not a feeling [26:10] People Pleaser | Strategies to stop the automatic ‘yes’ and start healthy boundaries [30:10] Type of Boundaries | Terri explains physical, material, emotional, & mental boundaries [33:49] Rigid vs. Non-Negotiable | Understanding what deal breaker boundaries for you [39:35] Boundary Consequences | Steps to take in relationships enforcing boundary violations [42:44] Stay in Your Lane | Terri discusses importance of respecting other people’s boundaries [50:12] Indecision | Terri reveals what indecisiveness really says about your situation [55:54] QUOTES: “Women have a tendency to over give, and let’s be honest about how we were raised, most of us were raised and praised for being self-abandoning [and] codependent.” [4:37] “But, what is codependency? It is you being overly invested in the feeling states, the outcomes, the circumstances, the relationships of the people in your life to the detriment of your internal peace…” [7:05] “It is wrong, emotionally, to think that we have the answers for others.” [15:58] “You must know your preferences, your desires, your limits, and your deal breakers because those are the things that not only...

Check out our sponsor: Future makes one on one training available to our audience for just $19 Go to tryfuture.co/womenofimpact Sign up to crush your fitness goals! Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Hey guys, Lisa here! If you didn’t already know, I am super frikin excited to share that I’m writing a book! To be the FIRST to get sneak peeks about my book and other exclusive content go to: http://lisabilyeu.com/ and be sure to sign up for my newsletter. With anxiety affecting more than 40 million Americans and 264 million people worldwide, chances are anxiety and stress have been affecting you too. Anxiety is more common in women, as we are twice as likely to be diagnosed than men. What’s the best solution for anxiety and is it a one size fits all kind of band-aid? Dr. Ellen Vora breaks down why treating anxiety strictly as mental health without looking at the entire body is problematic. Not only will it be beneficial to your anxiety and stress levels to look at your diet and lifestyle for clues to treat your anxiety, but it’s also a game changer and Dr. Vora is simplifying ways to address anxiety and lower your stress levels dramatically. Check ut Ellen Vora’s new book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063075091?tag=imprintweb-20 Dr. Vora takes a functional medicine approach to mental health, considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root, rather than reflexively prescribing medication. In addition to her private practice and speaking engagements, Dr. Vora consults for healthcare startups as well. SHOW NOTES: How Anxiety Manifests | Ellen explains why anxiety isn’t just coming from your mind [0:34] False Anxiety | Ellen reveals what avoidable anxiety does to our stress responses [4:34] Substance Induced Anxiety | How substances affect anxiety levels and neurotransmitters [9:17] True Anxiety | The beautiful side of anxiety that is a purposeful way to communicate [16:08] Body Relationship | Our relationship and ability to heal really listen to your body [18:39] False Yes | Ellen explains what a false yes and how it silences our inner voice [21:52] Healthy Boundaries | Ellen explains how to uphold boundaries to honor saying ‘no’ [23:39] Goals | Ellen reveals why finding balance is more important in deciding to go hard or not [28:12] Relaxation & Ease | How healing and doing the right thing is better achieved with ease [30:39] Long Term Diet Success | Ellen’s diet tips to help you focus on what to add into your diet [33:21] Sleep Shoe Size | Why the right amount of sleep is necessary to lower stress & anxiety [41:28] Hustle Culture | How to go after a fulfilling life first, be productive and allow space [51:27] Panic Attacks | Ellen gives grounding tips for moments of anxiety and panic [54:09] QUOTES: “A lot of what's happening in our brain, [...] it's often a downstream effect of things that are happening elsewhere in the body.” [1:03] “Many seemingly benign really common aspects of modern life are getting our body out of balance. And oftentimes it precipitates a stress response.” [4:57] “Avoid the temptation to pathologize it, we want to see it as not the nuisance or the symptom to suppress, but the communication to heed.” [17:16] “It's all about teaching ourselves not to betray ourselves, and if in that moment, not having the drink is the act of radical self love, we're now better at that we've developed that skill and kind of cultivated it.” [26:20] “A really healthy...

It’s been reported that the average person has 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day, 80% are negative thoughts every day. How many negative thoughts have run through your mind so far today? It’s easy to come across critics, naysayers, and haters with opinions about what you’re doing or saying and what you should be doing better. Whether the hate is coming from someone you love and respect, or people you’ll never meet, like internet trolls and gangsters, knowing how to maintain your confidence and identity through it all is super important. Evy and Lisa are exposing all the ways you can better face the haters in your life while taking aim on your most ambitious goals today. Questions to Ask Yourself Can I live with NOT following my dream? Who is this person? Why should I listen to them? What’s more important at this moment? My goal or my identity? SHOW NOTES: Negative Comments | Evy and Lisa react to negative comments and reviews [0:00] Tune Out Other Opinions | Deciding against strong opinions and culture for yourself [1:52] Stand Alone | Evy on choosing the police academy against her parent’s support [6:03] To Listen Or Not | How to decipher if a person is worth listening to about your dream [11:05] Cruel Hate | Tactics Evy uses to deal with people that have expressed hatred and cruelty [16:54] Screw What They Think | Showing up in spite of the hate being thrown your way [21:15] Goal Vs. Identity | Lisa reveals not being willing to sacrifice identity for your goals [24:03] Coping With Critics | Evy shares how she deals with haters and critics that don’t matter [29:20] Don’t Play Victim | Evy’s advice to not allow anyone to make you a victim [36:06] Ditch Your Inner Critic | Evy shares a time she allowed her inner critic to play small [38:17] When to Hear Your Inner Critic | How to discern when to listen to your inner critic [43:59] Negative Comments II | [55:02] QUOTES: “Just because somebody thinks something doesn’t mean I have to follow it.” Evy Poumpouras [8:53] “There’s an expiration date for how long you can blame somebody else for the dreams you didn’t achieve.” Evy Poumpouras [9:47] “I am not here to make choices to make the rest of the world happy. Do no harm, but live your life.” Evy Poumpouras [10:33] “Just because somebody is your family member [...] that does not mean that is in harmony with who you are and your value system, and it does not mean that you’re supposed to listen” Evy Poumpouras [15:03] “At the end of the day, if I betray who I am, who I feel like I want to show up every day to be, who I try to be every day. If I betray that, why am I doing a show to empower women? I would feel like a liar…” Lisa Bilyeu [26:21] “People self-select… so those people who have doubt, who don’t think they can, they’ve already self selected out.” Evy Poumpouras [46:26] “Focus on where you want to go because you don’t have the bandwidth to waste it on anything else.” Evy Poumpouras [54:54] Follow Evy Poumpouras: Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/

Check out our sponsors: Coinbase: http://coinbase.com/woi Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact Currently, women have been one of the slowest groups to learn and engage with NFTs, cryptocurrency, and Web 3.0. If you are clueless about what any of these things are, or you've heard about all of them but still don’t feel confident enough to explore, you’re not alone. Women only made up 16% of the NFT market. The NFT market is huge and consists of many layers of engagement and roles from all sorts of people. Until now, women have been showing very little interests, and this is the first episode Lisa is bringing a wildly successful NFT artist, Sara Baumann, up front to share how we can begin to change these disproportionate spaces that exists. NFTs are still new enough for you to become an early adopter and seize the opportunities being presented to you. It starts here with curiosity and ends with your commitment to self to not be left behind, not one more day. SHOW NOTES: NFT Gender Gap | Sara discusses the need for more women to venture into NFTs [1:00] Where to Start | Ways to start learning and the benefit of joining great communities [4:48] Imposter Syndrome | How to be confident with what you know and don’t know here [8:49] Peak Curiosity | How Sara slowly stepped into her curiosity to learn more abou NFTs [11:09] Sara’s Story | Sara reveals her path from occupational therapist to sold out NFT artist [12:28] Opportunities | Sara on the opportunities available through the NFT/Web 3.0 space [16:39] Beat Their Expectations | Sara reflects on cultural pressures and how to follow your gut [20:35] Failing | Sara breaks down how she charges forward with confidence and is prepared [27:06] Learn on the Go | Get over the fear of failing and embrace opportunity to learn on the go [31:03] Supporting Women | Sara on the ways she’s been able to support and elevate women [33:42] Community Vibe | How Sara leads her community & ways to choose a safe community [36:15] Women and Weapon Art | Sara reveals the meaning behind her art empowering women [39:58] NFT Art Business | The business side that Sara has been planning for to create value [44:58] NFT Utility | Sara on the use of owning an NFT and receiving digital or physical product [47:25] Metaverse Defined | Why this is a new way to interact and engage with community [49:33] QUOTES: “You are taking a risk jumping into a new space, but you’re also taking a risk by not jumping into this space and by not being early.” [4:13] “I am certainly not an expert in the web three area, but I am more than happy to learn about it. Because there is nothing wrong with having more knowledge.” [29:19] “I'm a huge believer in your vibe attracts your tribe.” [36:23] “If somebody has something negative to say about you, that's on them. That's not on you.” [39:47] “I want to give them weapons that are symbolic of the weapons that we as women carry on a day to day basis.” [41:46] “It's absolutely bringing us all together very much becoming like an in one place world friendship.” [53:34] Follow Sara Baumann: Website: https://www.womenandweapons.io/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/NFTSaraBaumann Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/NFTWomenandWeapons/

Check out our sponsors: Future makes one on one training available to our audience for just $19 Go to tryfuture.co/womenofimpact Sign up to crush your fitness goals! Coinbase: http://coinbase.com/woi Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. You may have heard this advice at some point in your life, “don’t listen to what people say, watch what they do.” Nonverbal communication can be more authentic and transparent than the things we verbally communicate. Vanessa Van Edwards, behavioral investigator, reminds us that nonverbal communication and cues can also send the wrong message if a person is nervous or anxious. In her latest book, Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication, Vanessa explores over 90 cues that will help you become more effective in your communication efforts and perceptive to areas that require more attention or follow through. Check out Vanessa Van Edwards new book, Cues: https://amzn.to/3leaa1j Don’t miss Vanessa’s last episode with Lisa, “Are They Lying to You”: https://youtu.be/LkOEShBS6hQ SHOW NOTES: Blindsided Cues | When you’re missing cues being shown while focused on your delivery [0:44] 4 Kinds of Cues | Vanessa shares four cues: nonverbal, verbal, vocal, and imagery[2:29] Imagery Cues | Vanessa explains how to use them to get your message across effectively [3:14] Goals of Cues | Trying to assess warmth and competence to speed up your connection [8:10] Listening Cues | Vanessa shares why watching people listen is more telling of their cues [10:00] Warmth Cues | Why trust and reliability are important cues and the power of a slow nod [13:15] Danger Zone Cues | How to spot danger zone cues and handle it when you see them [17:12] Lip Purse Cue | Vanessa explains why lip pursing is a red fag and how to address it [18:33] Lower Lid Flex | Vanessa describes why this cue that can be positive or negative [22:06] Question Inflection | Vanessa explains why vocal inflection clues you to deception & lies [24:14] Shark Tank Case Study | Vanessa shares cue insights on Jamie Siminoff’s pitch [28:02] 4 Space Zone | Vanessa breaks down how to use the 4 space zones to your advantage [32:58] Fronting Position | Vanessa explains the importance body, toe, and seating position [37:30] Context & Clusters | Vanessa shares why context matters and cues cannot be isolated [42:25] Contempt | Vanessa explains why contempt is the #1 cue to get wrong [46:26] QUOTES: “If you can cue someone for your warmth and competence, right off the bat, it actually speeds up your connection.” [8:45] “When someone's listening, they're not rehearsing anymore. They're off the clock, and their brain is much more focused on you.” [11:49] “If you are smart, you might run into this problem where people underestimate you and your ideas, because you're not delivering them with the right competence and warmth.” [32:47] “If someone is angled away, and they're just giving you head attention, their body and their feet are looking somewhere else. They are not fully engaged with you.” [41:29] “Contempt is the number one cue people get wrong.” [47:43] Follow Vanessa Van Edwards: Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ YouTube:

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact Trauma stems from any number of experiences, but women are twice as likely to develop PTSD and roughly 50% of women are reported to have experienced some sort of traumatic event in life. What trauma have you experienced that gets pushed out of your mind continuously so you can carry on with your day? When you still have to show up for work, care for your children, and attend family functions, when are you taking the time to face the trauma that is affecting you? As we disregard the warnings in our minds, symptoms can often manifest physically and go untreated. Gabby Bernstein is back to share the depth of work she’s been doing to get to the next level seeking freedom. Gabby is a NY Times bestselling author, spiritual coach and motivational speaker. She opens up and reveals her journey from being a meditative holistic spirit junkie to accepting medical diagnosis and prescription to help her through mental health challenges she needed to overcome. “When an eggshell is cracked from the outside it is broken, when it's cracked from the inside it is reborn.” Ama Check out Gabby’s new book, Happy Days: https://amzn.to/3JN8Dsb SHOW NOTES: You’re Not Crazy | Gabby on how to be compassionate and more curious about triggers [0:42] Being Medicated | Gabby explains how she came to accept a diagnosis and medication [7:13] Go Next Level | How being devoted feeling free is the catalyst for change to level up [12:56] Codependency | Gabby exposes how codependency in relationships is an addiction [18:14] Running Away | How to identify if you’re running away when you need to face the trauma [21:23] Address Wounds | Why addressing your core wounds is a must even when medicated [24:38] Shame of My Shame | Healing the trauma causing shame and caring for your inner child [28:00] Discomfort | How to sit in the discomfort when you are ready and desire to feel free [35:27] Rage on the Page | Gabby shares how to journal your anger and make space for love [38:49] Doing the Work | Gabby explains how to do the internal work in your own pace [44:00] Happy Days | Gabby explains why her book is meant to share hope of the other side [47:23] QUOTES: “When we're being guided and we're resisting that guidance, we block the miracles.” [12:19] “The only way I was able to up level in these moments of crisis is because I was so devoted to feeling free, to being free in my energy system.” [14:35] “Send those inner children just so much compassion, and so much love and respect and just calmness and say, ‘I am proud of you for getting to where you are. And I want to do more for you.’” [30:35] “Noticing the ways that I could be as respectful to my own inner children as I am to my son, was really profound for me.” [32:26] Follow Gabby Bernstein: Website: https://gabbybernstein.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabbybernstein/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gabriellebernstein Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbybernstein/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiGs8bAma9q1fqP-3SokQZw Twitter:

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! How many times has fear kept you in the place where you work or where you live? So many women (and men) are fearful of making moves that change careers or change the relationships in their lives, but why? How are you supposed to break free from the ‘I can’t afford to’ traps or the ‘this is what’s expected of me’ traps? Today’s guest, Payal Kadakia is the founder and executive chairman of Classpass. She’s a professional dancer and choreographer and entrepreneur from the corporate world that knows the pressure of living with multiple identities. She is sharing her experience and lessons of what it took to successfully merge her different identities and align with her North Star. LifePass, is the book she wrote to help you do the same. Get empowered, walk through the discomfort of life with confidence and a plan to change your fear into a life you want to live for everyday. Check out Payal’s book, LifePass, Drop Your Limits, Rise to Your Potential: https://www.amazon.com/LifePass-Develop-Mindset-Techniques-Optimize/dp/179720694X/ SHOW NOTES: Train of Expectation | Pursuing family expectations and finding balance with dance [0:45] Guilt of Expectations | How to live aligned with passion beyond the expectations [3:45] Dual Identity | Payal on being Indian in America and embracing what made her different [8:49] Self-Acceptance | Learning to blend her different communities to accept all sides of her [12:55] Breaking Assumptions | How sharing wins & failures of all sides of her life made impact [18:30] Listen to Yourself | Payal on not listening to others, setting boundaries to find your way [21:13] True North | Payal on aligning with passion & understanding the value driving her path [26:21] Plan B | Making sure to cover your bases and still wanting to live to the fullest [31:28] Motivated | Live more by what’s motivating you versus what’s an obligation [33:08] Be Emotional | Payal on allowing emotion and pushing through other side in business [35:23] Do It Your Way | Payal shares how playing to her strengths and not the norm was a win [43:29] Confidence & Fear | Focus on what you want to achieve rather than be a prisoner to fear [45:49] Uncomfortable & Intimidated | How to keep showing up and get to the other side [50:54] LifePass Goals | Payal on 3 steps of goal setting she designed for you to live with feeling [54:45] QUOTES: “Having these other things that helped me feel like I was progressing as a human being because really, that's really what it's all about is we're all looking for progress.” [3:12] “The guilt just goes away because you were just living your life so inline with your being, that everything just dissipates.” [6:08] “You might not be in a place today, where you can go after your dreams. But that doesn't mean you can't put a plan together today and start working towards it…” [8:14] “When you really are doing stuff that you really love. I think you stopped questioning it because you're in the right environment. And you're in the right state of mind.” [18:20] “Getting yourself in an environment where you are like, I'm going to do something and doing it well. [...] and getting that response from other people, helps you just break through a lot of those expectations of other people” [20:54] “Design the people in your life to help you fulfill your mission.” [24:05] “How can we create companies that have exceptional brands, if we're going to be devoid of emotion in our...

Get ready for Valentine's Day with this fun Q&A for you and your partner to get even closer: relationships.radicalconfidence.com Check out the deals from our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. The truth about happy long lasting relationships and marriages is that most times, couples don’t know how they survive, but in hindsight they can see what worked and what didn’t. Tom and Lisa have been thriving together for over 20 years. Through many trials and errors they have found the secret to building a healthy and lasting relationship. Lisa takes Tom through several topics they formulated 26 hardcore questions around that keep the love strong and the relationship focused on what matters. In their experience, thriving together has looked like telling each other hard truths, handing over their insecurities and vulnerabilities to each other in exchange for a beautiful shared life experience. SHOW NOTES: Desire | Tom shares why understanding your partner’s changing wants over time is critical [0:55] Perfect Day | Toms reveals what a perfect day would be if Lisa was down for anything [4:31] Speak Up | The importance of letting your partner know what makes you happy [6:00] Setup for the Win | How to set your partner up for the win and being happy[10:34] Trust | Tom discusses what total trust looks like for a healthy thriving relationship [12:33] Broken Trust | Tom and Lisa discuss ways to open up again after trust is broken [18:57] Insecurities | The importance of never using your partner insecurities to hurt them [23:17] Irreversible | Lisa shares 3 major things that can’t be taken back in healthy relationship [26:21] Hard Truth | Asking your partner the one trait they want in a partner, you don’t have [32:00] Reconsidering | Ask the hard question, what would make you reconsider the relationship [41:10] Disruptors | Lisa and Tom break down how to pattern interrupt big arguments [44:29] QUOTES: “All the things that are self evident to you may not resonate with them. And if you don't understand what resonates with them, what they want, where they're excited, then you can get into ruts.” Tom Bilyeu [2:13] “It's those moments where someone doesn't say anything [...] and now over time, I start to perceive that as you just keep pulling away from me, and that becomes the crack in your relationship.” Lisa Bilyeu [8:39] “The relationship, prioritizing it, and then thinking of it in different ways, even when it's inconvenient, is so freakin’ important.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:11] “To think about somebody else and compromise and make sure they're happy too [...] there's a lot of compromise, but there's certain things need to be true for that to be worth it.” Tom Bilyeu [14:40] “What makes love worthwhile is that you are in a position where they can devastate you, and they don't.” Tom Bilyeu [21:42] “I don't think that you can have what makes a relationship worth it, and be guarded, I don't think it's possible.” Tom Bilyeu [22:38] “At my worst, I still don't reach for things that are going to hurt you. All of my micro personalities, you're safe with.” Tom Bilyeu [30:17] “I think a lot of people get themselves in trouble because of one simple idea, I want them to know that it's important to me, I shouldn't have to tell them.’” Tom Bilyeu [37:04] Follow Tom Bilyeu: Website:

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Choosing the right person to date can be a high-stress situation for most of us. The choice is even more difficult when you begin to think about all of your previous choices and wonder if you can even trust your judgment anymore. Have you ever wondered how is it that you seem to attract not one, not two, but every wrong person possible? Does the madness ever end? This episode is dedicated to a few basic strategies and ideas worth learning about and practicing so that you can stop attracting the wrong person to your life and start picking the right partner for you. Spirit, the relationship therapist, and Matthew Hussey are united in wisdom for a masterclass on not just how to date better, but also how to make better choices and get out of the wrong situations even faster. Check out these full episodes: Secrets of a Successful Relationship with Spirit: https://youtu.be/2dkk3D8tXDs What Guys Really Think with Matthew Hussey: https://youtu.be/pse1IbIc7vM SHOW NOTES: Are you compatible | Spirit reveals truth about aligning with your partner [0:25] Dating Rules | Tips for dating potential life partners [5:18] Solving Relationship Problems | The healthy way to solve relationship problems [11:44] Ask Hard Questions | Knowing the truth is better than wondering [19:25] QUOTES: “Compatibility is about how do we line up in the areas of our lives in such a way that if you never changed, and I never changed, we would still fit like a glove, [...] and have our needs met in this relationship for the rest of our lives.” Spirit [3:14] “The longer that we can hold out on the sex, the more objective we can be about who the person is.” Spirit [8:58] “The relationship is its own living, breathing entity, and it's up to the two of you to constantly work together in partnership to resolve the problems in your relationship.” [12:06] “Everything starts with us as the individual and then radiates outward, and if you don't understand that, that's because either you haven't learned to be connected to all the parts of yourself, or somewhere along the line, somebody told you that what you needed and wanted wasn't important enough for you to express an advocate for you getting what you want in order to be happy.” Spirit [17:22] “When someone is being intentional about dating, they are asking intentional questions about who you are and what you're all about.” Matthew Hussey [20:18] “Be kind in your tone, but ruthless in your actions.” Matthew Hussey [26:53] “The uncomfortable conversation lasts an hour, maybe five minutes, the knowledge, the answer you have for the rest of your relationship.” Matthew Hussey [30:35] Follow Spirit: https://www.instagram.com/talk2spirit/ Follow Matthew Hussey: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/

Want to win a “hang out” with Lisa and Evy? Deadline to enter is February 6th 11:59pm Pacific. To enter: 1. Watch/Listen to this episode of Unstoppable 2. Subscribe to Women of Impact YT 3. Like this video 4. Comment I AM UNSTOPPABLE in the comments section below with any of your favorite takeaways from this episode Winners will be randomly selected and notified on their comments by February 7th 12pm Pacific and must email the provided email address to claim their prize by February 11th 5pm Pacific. The CDC reports that 60% of women do not have a regular form of exercise, and yet multiple studies and science points toward the benefits of exercise for improving women’s health. Maybe you don’t feel like you have time for an exercise routine. Possibly the thought of going to the gym is making you want to click on another video right now, but before you do, know that getting healthier, stronger and more unstoppable doesn’t have to look the way you may be imagining. Evy and Lisa are sharing practical strategies we can all put into effect starting today. Listening to your body is the biggest takeaway from this episode. As these ladies discuss workout routines, body movement, relaxation and how to eat, it all comes down to knowing your body and listening to yourself about what is best for you. Achieving better health is not going to be the same process for everyone. It will look different for each of us, but it can be fun even though it’s tough. It will also be rewarding when you are as Unstoppable as Evy and Lisa in your own unique way. Train for how your body feels and not for metrics. Need Help Choosing A Workout? What do you enjoy doing? What challenges you? How does this feel to you? SHOW NOTES: Get Physical | Evy shares mindset around a exercise, body movement, and routine [0:55] Mind-Body | Why mind-body cannot be separated for optimal performance [4:58] Get Uncomfortable | Evy and Lisa on doing hard things without being overly extreme [11:09] Cold Plunge | Lisa joins Evy for a cold plunge demo to talk or not talk [19:49] F*ucking Relax | Plan your time and honor boundaries to relax and take care of you [23:20] Avoid Burnout | What Evy and Lisa do to relax, avoid burnout, and sustain high levels [33:15] Relax Time | Evy and Lisa show the different ways they relax to recharge [43:55] Brain Food | How Evy and Lisa view food as fuel for the body to become unstoppable [47:41] Listen to Your Body | Allow your body to dictate what and when you need to eat [58:22] Collective Mindset | Evy on how collective ideas in the right environment shaped her [1:02:37] What I Eat | Evy and Lisa show what they eat to start the day unstoppable [1:06:59] QUOTES: “I do it first thing in the morning, and that’s when I get all my best ideas. In moving and in the gym and working [...] I get my best creative ideas.” Lisa Bilyeu [7:15] “I don’t do treadmills, I don’t want to see numbers. I don’t want to see how far I’ve gone. Some days I run three miles, some days I run a mile and a half, some days maybe I’ll go longer. I go with what I feel and I let my body guide me.” Evy Poumpouras [7:41] “I have this mindset, kill fear while it’s still small, so I kept that in check.” Evy Poumpouras [11:26] “It’s a lifestyle, and the second I shifted from ‘I just wanna deadlift 100 pounds’ to ‘I want to keep deadlifting until I’m 90.” Lisa Bilyeu [18:35] “It took me recognizing the importance of f*cking relaxing, the importance of sticking to it, the importance of setting boundaries to it, and the importance of understanding what it does to you and why you need to make it a habit.” Lisa Bilyeu [26:44] That’s why I’m not always in beast mode. I can’t sustain beast mode cause beast mode is going to make me crash. I save beast...

Heeeyyy guuuuyys!!! I’m SO frikin excited to share my upcoming book RADICAL CONFIDENCE with you guys! I have poured my heart and soul into this book and I CAN’T WAIT to share it with you! Sign up for updates about the book (and bonus content!!) here: lisabilyeu.com People that experienced abuse as children are significantly more likely to be abused as adults. Even more shocking is a recent study that cites women who suffered from childhood abuse are at a higher risk of dying young. Sadly, drugs and alcohol addiction play a major part in this. Cheryl Burke is a professional dancer, podcaster, motivational speaker, and entrepreneur. You may have caught her in one of her 20+ seasons on Dancing With The Stars. She has recently braved the storm and decided to come forward about her alcohol addiction and childhood trauma. While she is a work in progress and making moves towards healing and recovery from a complicated past everyday, she is joining Lisa to openly share her struggles with addiction and finding herself with love, compassion, and acceptance. For a deeper dive into Cheryl’s world and her story you can also check out the essay she published in US Weekly about her sobriety here: (https://www.usmagazine.com/entertainment/news/cheryl-burke-details-sobriety-healing-through-dwts-with-cody-rigsby/) SHOW NOTES: Abusive Past | Cheryl reveals traumatic events created addiction and Queen of numb [0:36] Out of Control | How social anxiety was amplified even after being called out for drinking [5:31] Pivotal Moments | Cheryl exposes what happened that helped her get sober [7:57] Body Dysmorphia | Coping with an unhealthy body image & social media stressors [9:37] Admitting Addiction | Steps Cheryl took to admit a drinking problem without sabotage [11:43] Self-Identity | How Cheryl is discovering herself beyond toxic addictions and learning self [15:43] Assessing Relationships | Deciding the relationships to stay with and outgrow for better [21:37] Accepting Compliments | Working through the discomfort of taking a compliment [23:55] QUOTES: “When I was calm, or when I was not creating drama around me there was something wrong.” [2:10] “Addiction is a disease and everybody will be triggered in certain ways that we will never know, and that doesn't mean it's your fault” [13:52] “I'm just trying to be happy and understand that peace is not boring. Peace is a beautiful thing. but there's only little tiny seconds that maybe once every few months that I experience that.” [17:52] “We get so consumed with what we think people want, that we don't know what we want.” [19:37] Follow Cheryl Burke: Website: https://www.cheryl-burke.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCemwzBiVg4zXdy9I4A8oGog Twitter: https://twitter.com/CherylBurke Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cherylburke/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialCherylBurke

Heeeyyy guuuuyys!!! I’m SO frikin excited to share my upcoming book RADICAL CONFIDENCE with you guys! I have poured my heart and soul into this book and I CAN’T WAIT to share it with you! Sign up for updates about the book (and bonus content!!) here: lisabilyeu.com The confidence gap between men and women has been studied and well documented. It was reported that 79% of women admit to struggling with self-esteem and confidence. Chances are that even if you are a confident woman, you have times where confidence is lacking and M.I.A. Lisa is exposing why you don’t have to feel confident 100% of the time. Whether you are in a professional setting or in the privacy of your home and family, being confident around the clock sounds stressful and unrealistic. It is, however, your responsibility to observe the things you do and don’t do that add and take away from how confident you feel. Taking back your power and showing up confident starts with you and that means not allowing other people in your life or in the room to affect your level of confidence. This episode is packed with tips for better strategies and tactics you can employ right now to start exuding more confidence. Before you show up in the next meeting, before you walk into the next event, and before you leave the mirror tomorrow morning do the internal work needed to be at your best. “Walk in the room and freakin’ own it” -Lisa Bilyeu SHOW NOTES: Confident Vs. Vain | The line between confidence and being vain about your success [0:29] Ditch Other’s Opinions | How to be sensitive to other without diminishing your confidence [5:27] Daily Confidence Routine | Lisa’s tips to get suited up everyday to be confident [12:51] The Right to Be Confident |Why you have the right to be confident no matter what [18:40] Recover From Embarrassment | How to not allow shame to break your confidence [19:54] Stop Hating Yourself | Recognize when you’re hating on yourself without judgement [26:46] Dress for Confidence | Lisa reveals what you are in control of that makes you confident [35:18] QUOTES: “If they're struggling, don't let their struggle diminish your accomplishment.” [2:40] “You can be confident that that journey existed, and confident that you were the one that did the work.” [4:59] “Do not diminish your confidence, do not fake that you are not confident if you really are, but just be sensitive to the people you are talking to.” [11:11] “When I dress up like this, and I step in front of the camera and I play my music, you better frickin believe I'm feeling confident.” [18:32] “I don't necessarily want self love all the time. I don't want to be like [...] everything's okay, just love yourself, no, you're fine. No! I'm not, I've got to improve “ [34:53] “The days you don't feel your best, you're not showing up as your best.” [35:59] “If you're dressing differently because you're feeling differently, you then walk in differently which means your body posture is probably going to be different because of all these other things.” [37:38]

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Attention and focus may be at the top of every employer’s list and every woman’s dating requirements. We live in a society that highly values attention and praises anyone who can focus long enough to accomplish the seemingly impossible. Yet, many of us continue to struggle with both. Mindfulness is viewed as something that would be nice but very few are actually mastering the practice of being present and attentive in the here and now. With stress and overwhelm overtaking us at every turn in the day our minds are flooded and vulnerable to digital attacks and sabotage initiated by our own self. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at University of Miami and author of the new book, Peak Mind: Find Your Focus, Own Your Attention, Invest 12 Minutes a Day. She’s joining Lisa to dispel the rumours that improving your attention and meditation skills means that you have to clear your mind. She’s calling it out, and giving simple strategies and techniques you can start using before this episode ends. It’s time to take back your attention, regain your focus and do it in 3 simple steps. SHOW NOTES: Attention | Amishi reveals while attention can be a superpower it is vulnerable too [0:36] Prioritized Info |How attention systems helps to prioritize information into subsystems [5:08] Flashlight Focus | Spotlight information like a flashlight versus not focusing on something [7:17] Suppressing Memories | Amishi shares ways to stop thinking about troubled memories [10:46] Floodlight Focus | Information that is not limited but has a broad and receptive range [12:49] Emotional Overwhelm | Strategy to manage emotions and overwhelm from 3rd person [15:32] Hijacked Focus | When we create a simulated reality and are not in the present [20:29] Mindfulness Practice | Ways that mindfulness in 12 minutes a day empowers you [25:32] Executive Control | Amishi on the power of your mind’s attention being guided by goals [29:51] Overriding Attention | Mindfulness of your attention requires initiating executive control [32:20] Meditation | How mindfulness meditation is about staying present without the extra story [34:34] Rumination Spiral | Time traveling in your mind and tips to break the lapse in attention [39:02] Becoming Aware | Amishi shares simple exercise to find your attention flashlight [43:05] Wandering Mind | Amishi on why you don’t need to clear your mind, redirect instead [49:35] Well Wishing Practice | Deliberately speak to deep care and concern to yourself [52:55] QUOTES: “Whatever it is that we pay attention to recalibrates the entirety of the way the brain operates.” [1:49] “Trying to suppress certain information actually brings it more saliently in your mind.” [10:12] “Our default is always to simulate reality, make assumptions, conceptually elaborate, emotionally react, and then mentally time travel.” [20:38] “If I can practice becoming more aware, moment by moment, I will have more opportunities to intervene, to best advantage what I want to succeed and do in my life.” [34:05] “Mindfulness meditation is about being in the present moment without a story about it.” [37:03] “We typically cannot think ourselves out of mental challenge. We've got to do something with our attention that is not thinking.” [41:43] “The moment you've noticed your mind has wandered away. That's a win!...

Check out our sponsor: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! By now, you are most likely aware of narcissistic behavior being grandiose, egotistical and charming. If many of us can describe a narcissistic person, then how do we fall into unhealthy relationships with people that have zero concern for our happiness or well being? If you’ve experienced a relationship with a narcissistic person or happen to be currently living through narcissistic abuse then you are familiar with the frustration, the gaslighting, and feeling totally lost on how to end it or get out of the relationship. There are very clear traps narcissists use to keep hold of the people they want to control. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is an expert in narcissism and clinical psychologist. She is also a repeat guest on the show, joining Lisa for the third time. She’s breaking down all the ways narcissists are trying to trap you, how to heal from narcissistic abuse to move on, and how to create better boundaries and a plan for revenge. SHOW NOTES: Feeling Lost | What does moving on from a narcissistic relationship look like [1:02] 5 Traps to Avoid | Dr. Ramani breaks down 5 traps in narcissistic relationships [5:39] Hoovering Trap | A powerplay tactic narcissist use to suck you in after you’ve left [9:38] Avoid Enablers | Dr. Ramani explains how enablers make it harder to walk away [11:44] The Hope Trap | Dr. Ramani reveals how narcissist trigger hope to keep you baited [13:44] Trapped by Guilt | When vulnerable narcissists trap with the belief you can save them [15:24] Responsibility | Dr. Ramani on why responsibility of being treated poorly is not on you [17:27] Trauma Bonding | Why people hold onto the good things in bad relationships explained [21:47] Breaking Triggers | Dr. Ramani explains why being alone for a whole year is necessary [25:35] Danger of Control | Why controlling what someone wears is a dangerous dynamic [35:53] Be Cherished | Dr. Ramani reveals why being cherished over desired is important [38:37] Rebuilding Trust | Why it’s hard to rebuild trust for with yourself and tips for progress [42:00] Boundaries | Dr. Ramani’s tips for setting boundaries when you don’t feel safe [55:21] Revenge | Dr. Ramani explains the best form of revenge against a narcissist [57:25] Self Efficacy | Dr. Ramani reveals how to heal from narcissistic abuse with indifference [1:04:38] QUOTES: “The hope is around, you are a better navigator of your own life, and you had the wisdom to extract the lessons from this really difficult experience.” [5:07] “You can retain your empathy and compassion, and you can also preserve yourself, and your job on this earth is not to rescue another capable adult. That responsibility lies on them.” [17:03] “Even if you try to teach them how you want to be treated, they ain't listening because they have no empathy. They don't care. You're merely an object to get them what they need.” [20:08] “That time and becoming reacquainted while you're not in a relationship is where you find out that your legs can stand on their own.” [32:04] “It's not just about the trust of the other, it's about that you have the right to set a boundary, and that's about trusting yourself.” [46:45] “You may not be able to like, boom, set this line in the sand with this person, but that doesn't mean you have to sit here quietly and endure an uncomfortable situation, you can give yourself permission to leave, and it ain't your job to school that person anyhow.” [56:06] “If you can think of revenge as you being your best self that shuts everybody down.” [59:04] Follow Dr. Ramani:

Check our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact It’s been said that more than 90% of people never achieve their goals. A big part of women and men failing their goals ties into fear of failing and being too scared to even dream of better. Lisa is experienced at handling multi-million dollar companies, leading teams, creating content that makes the world a better place, and becoming a bestselling author. In this Q&A, Lisa is sharing exactly how she prioritizes her goals and what you can do to create a toolbox that will help you stay the course and accomplish what you set out to achieve. SHOW NOTES: Goal Setting | Lisa on how motivation impacts achieving your goal [0:26] Transform Your Life | How to undertake a complete life transformation and prioritize [8:03] Steps to Your Goal | Lisa breaks down exact steps to achieving massive goals [14:53] Stick to Your Goal | How to stick with your game plan and if it’s time to change goals [20:26] Time Management | Lisa’s strategy for managing time and prioritizing all that she does [22:30] Setup for Success | Making sure that you’re able to get back up after failing a goal [35:03] Your Own Hero | Lisa reveals why not have family support doesn’t stop your goals [37:25] QUOTES: “When shit hits the fan, I just feel shitty about myself, that reminder of what my goal is, doesn't frickin help. It doesn't snap me out of this negative downward spiral” [2:44] “Start on one aspect of your life in transforming that. And over time, you will actually start to see it already starts to interconnect with the other parts of your life.” [13:59] “People change their path because of the difficulty it is to get to the goal, not because they don't want the goal itself.” [21:10] “If you are setting a goal. It won't be easy. If you are setting a goal, you fall on your frickin’ face. [...] now we have to say is Is this the goal unwilling to fall on my face for.” [21:59] “Even though you've decided these are the things that you love to do, there's going to be some times that you don't actually act in accordance, and you don't show up for the things that you've said.” [23:48] “Break every preconceived notion of how you do things.” [32:14] “I realized I'm the hero of my own life. Everything starts and ends with me.” [39:43]

Check out our sponsor: This episode is sponsored by Athletic Greens. Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! The Body Shop launched a global report this year that revealed 60% of women wish they had more respect for themselves. This study is shining light on a self-love crisis. Sexuality, economic status, age, and time on social media were all factors that seem to impact how people felt about themselves and their ability to love themselves. In this episode, we have 7 powerful women who understand the pain of being in a mental space that doesn’t make you feel confident or much like a badass. The throughline here seems to be that self love requires you to take the time to get to know yourself. So, in the next 35 minutes, take notes and think through areas you can start to remove the barriers in place preventing you from loving yourself. Where are you being most unkind to yourself? Where does self-doubt seem to always show up? It’s time to create an unbreakable relationship with yourself, and this is how… “I’m my own worst critic, talk a whole lot of shit, but I’m a ten out ten even when I forget! I wonder when I love me is enough” -Demi Lovato SHOW NOTES: Tip #1 | Spend Time with Yourself, Radhi finds herself through meditation [0:30] Tip #2 | Challenge Yourself, Roxy has loving dialogue and a journal for challenges [4:41] Tip #3 | Accept Yourself As Your Are, Cynthia says start with knowing who you are [11:30] Tip #4 | Know Who You Are, Patrice anchored to her true self not outward situations [17:42] Tip #5 | Treat Yourself How Like Your Best Friend, Najwa on making yourself feel heard [23:43] Tip #6 | Humbly Brag About Yourself, Daniele says start bragging on your achievements [25:49] Tip #7 | Slow Down, Mel takes pause to be with herself face to face in the mirror [30:07] QUOTES: “We never get into relationships with people or friendships without knowing them. We can't fall in love with someone without knowing them.” Radhi Devlukia [1:20] “To love yourself is to say this shit’s hard, I'm not comfortable, but I love myself so damn much, and I love what's on the other side of this, this vision that I hold, this impact that I want to make that girl, You better get your ass up!” Roxanne Saffaie [4:44] “The most valuable methodology tactic is really spending time in your journal to deeply connect with who you are, and developing a relationship with who you were blooming into.” Roxanne Saffaie [10:59] “We're trying to love an idea of who we wish we were not who we are currently, and that's why we fail so much when it comes to this idea of just loving yourself.” Cynthia Garcia [14:18] “We have to be fulfilled in different parts of our lives. if one thing goes down, that can't be the end all be all.” Patrice Washington [22:38] “Self love is picturing the person that you love the most and telling yourself, I will not treat myself any less than I would treat that person.” Najwa Zebian [23:46] “Be seen, so that you can see yourself because I think that's the thing is we're just like coasting through this life, thinking that we're supposed to get to this place, but it doesn't exist because everyone's trying to sell a salvation.” Daniele Della Valle [28:59] “Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every single relationship that you have. If you don't love and respect yourself, how on earth are you going to do that for other people?” Mel Robbins [34:31] Follow Radhi Devlukia: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/ Follow Roxanne Saffaie:

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. It’s not really a secret that there is a huge gap in confidence in the workplace for men and women. There are reports that show 79% of women lack confidence at work! Too often women play small, are shy about speaking up, and not able to call people out in a business setting without allowing emotions to take over. Tracy Tutor is the Million Dollar LA Listing Luxury Real Estate Agent that shows up to play hard. Though real estate agents are largely female, Tracy is the first female real estate agent to star on the Bravo TV reality series. When it comes to confrontation and holding her own in high stakes, multi-million dollar deals, Tracy runs with the best of them. Tracy is giving you high value strategies for better conversations, handling confrontations like a female alpha, and making a statement with your fashion. SHOW NOTES: Confrontation | Tracy shares how to check your emotions and communicate effectively [0:34] Being Emotional | Being tough doesn’t mean that you’re not dealing with being emotional [6:37] Gut Instincts | Tracy’s experience not following her gut, why intuition has to be trained [11:56] Conversation Tips | Tracy on how to lead with a question, have the last word, & move on [17:56] Processing | Why processing confrontational conversations are necessary [24:11] Own the Room | How understanding personality types helps you navigate the room [26:00] Different Moods | Tracy shares her tips on how to deal with apathetic and agitated moods [30:34] Self Deprecation | Why being able to poke fun at yourself keeps your insecurities in check [37:07] Relatable | Why being vulnerable and flawed and revealing yourself creates connection [43:17] Power Fashion | Tracy’s rules for dressing to impress and using clothes to empower you [45:45] Judgement | Tracy’s thoughts on the need for women to support women not judge them [51:04] QUOTES: “It's not about reeling back the emotion, it's about learning how to effectively communicate the emotion.” [6:03] “ I should be able to, to wear something that makes me feel sexy and confident and strong, but also be equally talented, still a boss and effective in business.” [11:01] “You have to find a way to connect on some level so that they're hearing you and that you're making that connection” [29:50] “If you can't poke fun at yourself, then you're more insecure than you should be. I think by having the ability to poke fun at yourself. It actually speaks to your insecurity being at a level that's reasonable.” [37:12] “By poking fun at your own insecurities and being aware of them. It's sort of like an exercise in being aware of your insecurities, and thereby making you less insecure” [38:02] “I know what I feel good in, and as long as I feel good, then that's going to make everybody else around me feel comfortable.” [46:48] “As women, we need to be more supportive of each other and celebrate each other's bodies and celebrate each other's successes.” [53:38] Follow Tracy Tutor: Website: https://www.tracytutor.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs_1Mw8sX8pfh8ARO3JesAg Twitter: https://twitter.com/thetracytutor Instagram:

Resilience is one of the most important things you can do for your mental health and well-being. Being resilient is how single mothers go on to raise increible children. Being resilient is how generations that lived through war survive to tell the story and continue their traditions. The problem is that you may not feel resilient, and you may not have taken inventory lately to uncover how much adversity you’ve overcome. Adversity is the catalyst for change and the training agent we all need to bounce back from struggles with a stronger mind. In part 4 of this series, Evy and Lisa are breaking down all the ways adversity and resilience make you the powerful badass woman that you are. This is how you can break the patterns that have been holding you back, become more resilient and reclaim power over your life. It’s time to answer the call and become more responsible to yourself. Tips To Become Mentally Resilient 1. Be the Leader in Your Own Life 2. Taking Ownership Makes You More Powerful 3. Don’t Weaponize the Other Person’s Insecurities Evy’s Nightly Journal Challenge: 1. Write 3 things you are grateful for 2. Write 3 things you want to do tomorrow 3. Write 3 things you could have done better today Resilient Terms: ● Adversity: Difficult or misfortune ● Progressive Overload: Gradual increase weight, frequency, or reps to get stronger ● Hypertrophy: Increase and growth of muscle cells achieved through lifting weights ● Acceptance: Taking stance of non-judgemental awareness ● Ego: A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance ● Disruptor: A person or thing that interrupts an event, activity or process SHOW NOTES: Adversity | How adversity creates mental resilience and is better to embrace [0:44] Shaped by Adversity | Evy and Lisa share ways they’ve pushed through adversity [6:55] The Reframe | Remove the negative, find ways to make it work, & give yourself grace [17:01] Take Ownership | Taking ownership makes you feel stronger & requires you to adapt [19:37] Solution Mindset | Evy on being adaptable by shifting from problem narrative to solution [23:03] Own It | How Lisa kicked herself into high gear and took ownership over her health [40:45] Disruptors | 3 ways to interrupt feeling emotional: distance, time, and environment [41:42] Lisa vs. Evy | It’s a battle of disruptors, whose disruptors take the win? What are yours? [57:26] QUOTES: “When you face adversity over a consistent period of time you know how to manage it, how to withstand it, it makes you stronger, it makes you more resilient” Evy Poumpouras [1:20] “I take ownership of how I act and how I show up in the world.” Lisa Bilyeu [20:40] “You are the recipient of whatever life is doing to you. You are affected, you are not affecting the world. The world is only affecting you.” Evy Poumpouras [22:07] “If it was my fault then it means that I have the power to do something about it. If it’s someone else’s fault, then I’m waiting for someone else to fix me.” Lisa Bilyeu [29:19] “It’s not okay to be vicious and mean to people, and it takes a lot of work to control that. It’s easy to lash out and rip somebody and shred them. It is not easy to control it.” Evy Poumpouras [52:27] “If you engage with every...

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. You’ve probably heard “it’s not how you start, but how you finish” and as cliche as it has become, it is such a powerful statement. Just because life starts out rough and harsh doesn’t mean it remains that way. Vanessa Lachey is a wife, mother, actress, model, and so much more and yet having her mother leave at the age of nine has not held her back. She shares with Lisa the perspective she’s developed over the years that has lead to her success and the release of her first book, Life from Scratch. Vanessa wants everyone to know that “creating your own happy ending,” traditions and happiness is always possible and within reach. If a life of shame and darkness or a string of failures and mistakes make it difficult to see how, she urges you to simply start with a time when you were your happiest and recreate from there. To Purchase a Copy Vanessa’s book ‘Life From Scratch’: https://www.harpercollins.com/pages/lifefromscratch SHOW NOTES: New Tradition | Vanessa explains how she found her way to start a life from scratch [0:46] No Regrets | Why living a life with no regrets started with knowing what you want [5:18] Friend Traditions | Nurturing bonds with friends being intentional to stay connected [9:02] Romantic Traditions | Making sure you don’t let important moments pass by big or small [13:15] Saying No | How to say no to stress and anxiety to make room for what matters no guilt [16:21] Self Care | Vanessa on what self care is for her to feel refreshed and better for others [19:36] Communicating | How communication helped strengthen Vanessa’s family and marriage [23:41] Future Rehearsal | Reframing mistakes, reshape the future, be prepared for what’s next [26:32] QUOTES: “You can make it happen! No one's going to bring you the job, no one's going to bring you the husband, it's not going to land in your lap. You have to be open to receiving it, to accepting it, but also [...] working on yourself to be ready for when it comes." [3:30] “The hardest thing about friendship is reciprocity, where we always want to know that people have our back when we're down, but we don't ever think to reach out to them.” [11:00] “In the moments of overwhelm or stress or anxiety, where's like that those are the times you really don't feel like it. But of course, those are the times that you really need it.” Lisa Bilyeu [16:22] “Finding ways to say no to other things that will stress you out or give you anxiety to be able to say yes to the things that matter.” [16:32] “People are really appreciative when you're like, ‘I'm going through a lot right now, and I think I over committed, can we raincheck, I don't know when ’” [18:04] “When you hold it in and you blow up, you end up beating yourself up or you end up hurting someone close to you and then beating yourself up for hurting them.” [23:22] Follow Vanessa Lachey: Website: https://www.vanessalachey.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VanessaLachey Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessalachey/?hl=en Facebook:

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Elfster: Get started by going to elfster.com or download the Elfster app. Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. It seems like everywhere you look, society is constantly reminding us that successful, powerful women are failing at dating. In a survey that was listed this year on mantelligence.com states 64% of women prefer to find a husband who earns more money! So, are successful women raising the bar too high, expecting too much and are men feeling the pressure of having to step up their game and their status way higher than before? Being strong, independent and successful doesn’t necessarily come with an ego or attitude for women. So what is the best way for you to approach dating when you have your shit together and don’t want to be single? Tom joins Lisa in this discussion and explores why at the root of this situation is a much needed conversation and a good working insecurity filter. It is important for women to understand that while there may be men that are intimidated by your success, there are also men that are confused by the mix of messages they are receiving from women. While one woman expects a man to pay for dinner another is easily offended. Have conversations while navigating the dating scene and meet people with compassion for where they are. Survey mentioned: https://www.mantelligence.com/dating-statistics/ SHOW NOTES: Facing Reality | Women being successful shrinks the dating pool, men want to lead [0:26] Is It Insecurity? | Being intimidated is not insecurity, it can be what you want to be better at [3:55] 50/50 | Making a safe assumption half of men are insecure the other half aren’t into it [12:40] Filter Insecurity | Why it’s not worth dating someone insecure and intimidated by you [14:58] Attraction | Being attracted to what matters and enjoying what you’re better at matters [21:17] Confusion Dating | Awareness that some women catch offence to a guy paying or not [24:36] Feel Good | Understand both of you have something you are good at than the other [29:46] QUOTES: “Deal with the world the way it is not the way that you wish it were.” Tom Bilyeu [0:55] “Feel good is an angle that people need to look at, instead of just writing everything off as insecurity.” Tom Bilyeu [9:04] “With utter compassion, you clearly have insecurities that you need to work through, or find someone that isn't actually successful or wealthy as me, and that's totally fine.” Lisa Bilyeu [15:27] “Have compassion for the people that have the insecurities” Lisa Bilyeu [16:40] “Guys are judged by their height and access to resources, it's the fucking way that it is. Women are judged for beauty and youth, it's the way that it is.” [17:46] “It's the differential. It's being good at something that you're not good at. It's you being good at something I'm not good at. That's what people like.” [24:26] “While us women find ourselves in a situation where it's difficult because we want to be our own person, we want to be independent, we want to be around wealth creators, and yet, we still want this.” Lisa Bilyeu [26:32] “People should very much avoid for their own reasons, avoid moralizing, or saying this is how people should be and help people move to where it is mutually better.” Tom Bilyeu [28:00]

When you hear about influence, maybe you think of influential people or you immediately think of social media influencers. Have you considered, however, your own influence? To varying degrees we all have some level of influence over someone or something. You probably have more influence than you take credit for and acknowledge. So, how are you using your influential power and do you know when and how to activate it and get the most out of it?Evy Poumpouras, a former secret service agent, is sharing her own strategies of influence so that you can find creative ways to connect with people and stop getting steamrolled over. Having influence and knowing how to activate that influence is another ingredient for becoming unstoppable. In the first episode of this series, we talked about confidence, in the next episode Evy and Lisa took a deep dive into the skills you need to start using your voice. In this episode it’s time to add another layer and look at how to effectively off balance people’s perception of you and better adjust and navigate to the people and situations all around.You can use these strategies to get people to say yes, stay in the forefront of their mind, and connect in a more authentic way.Influential Terms:Priming: exposure to one stimulus influences how a person respondsReciprocity: exchange of something between two or more people where something is givenStereotype: widely held and oversimplified idea of a particular type of person or thingCommon Ground: opinions or interests shared by two or more peopleIf you didn’t catch it the 1st time:1st Episode of Unstoppable, Be Confident As Hell: https://youtu.be/kZ7R1T2GCQA 2nd Episode of Unstoppable, Use Your Voice: https://youtu.be/_vG_OcS5QiA SHOW NOTES:Priming | Tips for priming people you need to influence [0:57]Pink Is Life | How to influence Evy into wearing pink on set [12:32]Do Something for Them | Evy explains the idea of reciprocity [14:35] Branding | The way you see yourself vs. the way others see you [24:08]Swag Bag | Lisa reveals what’s inside Women Of Impact’s Swag Bag [31:27]Common Ground | How to find common ground or create it [33:28]Influence in Action | Evy shows how all these strategies work [48:32]QUOTES:“This is not about manipulating people, this is about setting you up so that you understand people, understand behavior and put them in a space where they feel comfortable and feel connected to you.” Evy Poumpouras [6:34]“As long as you’re not manipulating or as long as You just don’t want this stuff to come off as disingenuous when you use influence techniques” Evy Poumpouras [41:35]“We are resistant to things we don’t understand, we are negative towards things we don’t know, and we really want to break down those barriers and find the threads that connect us.” Evy Poumpouras [46:25]“If you can just simplify people and find ways to connect and find that human element [...] how can I make you feel good about being with me and because I do that now I’ve influenced you to want to have a relationship with me.” Evy Poumpouras [48:12]

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Elfster: Get started by going to elfster.com or download the Elfster app. Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. A study referenced by the National Organization for Women, states that 53% of 13 year-old American girls are unhappy with their bodies. By the age of 17 the percentage of girls unhappy with their body increases to 78%! This isn’t a fad that ends when you reach womanhood, at least it doesn't seem to be the case for 60% of women surveyed in the U.K. How you feel about your body affects your confidence when you're dating and when you become more sexually active. “Hands down, men and women say confidence is the sexiest trait in and out of the bedroom” Dr. Emily So if you’re not feeling confident with your body image what are you supposed to do? Dr. Emily Morse returns to Women of Impact to give a lesson on confidence and some practical tips you can try right away! Being confident about your flaws and the parts of your body that you feel most insecure about is critical. 3 Ways To Boost Your Sexual Confidence (In and Out Of the Bedroom): 1. Make eye contact with yourself in the mirror 2. Look at yourself in the mirror in the nude and admire yourself. 3. Sign up for a pole dancing class or sensual dancing SHOW NOTES: Self Confidence | Dr. Emily on the importance of taking time to learn about yourself first [0:58] Body Confidence | Why getting to a place of body acceptance is important to feel sexual [4:59] Insecure Flaws | Acknowledging your physical flaws isn’t attractive or the right move [10:40] The Journey | How confidence is a practice, and a tool you use to get what you want [14:42] Aging Body | Celebrate your changing body and know that you deserve sexual pleasure [18:12] Reprogram | Dr. Emily gives practical ways to surround yourself with realistic images [22:15] Dating Confidence | How to show the real you when dating and not be confidently fake [26:39] Body Counts | Dr. Emily warns you to never discuss how many people you slept with [31:24] Good For You? | Why you should stop performing to please your partner and speak up [35:07] Sex Positivity | Becoming sex positive and sex confident with no judgement [43:07] QUOTES: “We're not going to pick always the best partners, if we're just coming from desperation, or coming from a place of lack, or coming from a place of a deep insecurity that this person is going to complete me.” [1:51] “A lot of women, too, are also focused on the external part of sex, which is how they look, and we're in our heads the whole time. But when we're in our heads, worrying about sex the whole time, the blood is washing away from our journals, and it's going to our head.” [13:15] “I am my own worst critic, we are our own worst enemies. If we can also remember that, it's just really important to take a step back. Your thoughts are not the truth, and your thoughts are actually something that is keeping you from living the life that you want and finding the partners you want.” [21:47] “You're choosing somebody whose difficulties you can work with, who's challenges you can work with.” [30:59] “Never have this conversation, the body count conversation, or it used to be how many people you slept with [...] you should never have this conversation because we are setting ourselves up for failure.” [32:03] “Find the partners that are invested in pleasure that have a growth mindset around sex, and...

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT Elfster: Get started by going to elfster.com or download the Elfster app. When was the last time you felt triggered? Was it a week ago? A few days ago? Within the last hour (no judgement here by the way)? Feeling triggered can not only make you feel threatened but it can also make you feel vulnerable and out of control in a situation. With stress and the potential for added stress on the rise everyday it’s more important than ever before to learn what’s triggering you and how to deal with it. Lisa’s taking your questions and opening the floor to discuss emotional triggers so you can be better equipped and prepared the next time it happens. The best part is that in this Q & A, Lisa is being completely honest and transparent about how hard it really is to tackle your triggers while remaining cool, calm and collected. In this episode, we’re going to give ourselves permission to try, fail and escalate when the situation demands it of us to honor ourselves. It matters how you feel about yourself at the end of the day. When you lay down at night to rest, you want to be proud of how you showed up, how you stood up for yourself, and how you responded without shame or embarrassment. Losing control, being mistreated and taken advantage of is a choice you make every day. Now Lisa is going to show you how to make that a conscious choice you can be proud of. Lisa’s Empowering Tips & Takeaways: 1. Remember how you felt the last time you lost control and use it to rewrite how you'll respond next time. 2. Empathy can be a superpower when you have the right boundaries in place. 3. Don’t allow someone else’s emotionally charged stay to dictate your emotional response. 4. When you need to show up for yourself, ask yourself, what's more important, being there for yourself? Or not offending people? 5. Know what kind of language to use in sticky situations so you can better handle them and honor your boundaries to get the results you want. SHOW NOTES: Anger | How to not be triggered by emotions but stay cool, calm and collected [0:15] Empathy | How empathy triggers boundaries needed to avoid being mistreated [8:08] De-escalation | How to not get triggered by someone else’s emotional turmoil [15:03] Guilt | How to stop being triggered by the guilt of being too assertive [24:48] QUOTES: “When you meet anger with anger, there's nowhere to go but up” [3:45] “When it comes to people crossing your boundaries when it comes to you feeling like you are mistreated by your friends or people are taking advantage of you, that is a freakin 'choice.” [10:10] “Stop dictating your actions based on how other people are going to perceive you, or whether you've hurt them or upset them or not.” [28:18]

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you have ever dated someone and created expectations long before a commitment was ever discussed, or fallen victim to being gaslit and thinking you were crazy because of the person you were involved with, this episode is for you. Being single is great when it’s your choice, and you have other goals that rank higher on your list of priorities. But, when being single feels like an involuntary life status and no one you date seems to be working out, what are you supposed to do? We’ve pulled together 7 Tips for dating and getting rid of unreasonable expectations to help you find love in a healthy relationship that allows you the space and environment you need to thrive. These 6 relationship experts break down everything from why you have to stop trying to be the problem solver when he tells you why he doesn’t have time for you to reasons why you have to start prioritizing sex and stop getting too far ahead of yourself. “Instead of going in with a curiosity, we go in with a conclusion.” Matthew Hussey Also check the full episodes from any of these amazing clips here: Matthew Hussey, Relationship Expert: https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE https://youtu.be/pse1IbIc7vM Spirit, the Professor: https://youtu.be/2dkk3D8tXDs Steph Purpura & Emily Morse: https://youtu.be/uTKIe8iVKls Najwa Zebian: https://youtu.be/xWWSgnIGIRg Stephan Labossiere, Relationship Coach: https://youtu.be/V96AzU8JZXA Emily Morse: https://youtu.be/KLukArHg-vk SHOW NOTES: Tip #1 | You Get Ahead of Yourself [0:38] Bonus | Matthew Hussey’s 4 Stages of Importance [5:10] Tip #2 | You’re Not Actually Compatible [10:54] Tip #3 | You Don’t Know How to Communicate [19:07] Tip #4 | You Ignore Your Past [27:04] Tip #5 | You’re Not Mature Enough [32:33] Tip #6 | You Don’t Prioritize Sex [36:53] Tip #7 | You Lack Self Awareness [41:18] QUOTES: “Instead of watching a story unfold, we've created the story before it's happened [...] so now what happens is our mind takes the 5% of what we know and uses it to build a story for the next 95%.” Matthew Hussey [2:06] “You are hiring for the most important position on Earth. And that position is for your life mate. And that's how we have to see dating” Spirit [13:45] “I had to understand how I got myself to a point where my whole self worth and my whole image of who I was, and understanding of who I was, was in someone's hands” Najwa Zebian [30:38] “Just because someone took advantage of those needs, and of those dreams, it doesn't mean that something was wrong with me for wanting them, we all want love” Najwa Zebian [31:31] “Recognize the difference between the person who does not belong in our life and continues to do wrong, and the person who does belong in our life, but makes mistakes.” Stephan Labossiere [35:36] “As soon as you're having sex with somebody, it's time to start talking about it.” Emily Morse...

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. More than 70% of people say they have regrets related to their ideal self. If you’re a human, you’ve most likely been in relationships and situations that spark regret, shame and confusion on what to do and who to be in the moment. So often, people spend time trying to please everyone around them. The way you dress, the way you style your hair, where you sit in the meeting, all of these decisions are so easily influenced by a want and desire to be given approval from the right people. But what about you? What do you want? How often are you spending time apologizing for feeling, and even better how often are you downplaying that you even feel anything? Najwa Zebian is an activist, poet and celebrated author. She joins Lisa for a second time to discuss how she came to radical self acceptance, and share the startling fact that we may actually be gaslighting ourselves when we diminish and disregard the pain we feel when vulnerability has been betrayed in the hands of the wrong person.  Najwa’s Questions for Self-Acceptance: 1. Who are you? 2. Why do I believe what I believe? 3. Why do I live my life the way that I do? 4. Why am I scared of X, Y and Z? 5. Why are you so afraid of feeling pain?  “When you build your home and other people you give them the power to make as homeless” -Najwa Zebian  SHOW NOTES:  Gaslighting Yourself | Why diminishing your painful experience lessens your self-worth [0:40] Homeless | How we build homes in others and end up homeless when they walk away [6:37] Toxic Savior | Trying to save someone doesn’t mean you’re owed anything, that’s toxic [9:47] Proof of Love | Examining the real cost of having someone love versus what you receive [16:03] Self-Aware | The need to be aware of your triggers and the filter you’ve created for life [19:56] Self-Acceptance | Self-acceptance versus indifference and know who you’re accepting [25:59] Identity Crisis | Najwa shares the personal crisis that made her question her identity [33:59] Being Hurt | Why you need to acknowledge the hurt and know healing in your power [39:30] Vulnerability | How to be open to vulnerability after being hurt even in protection mode [45:24] Unwinding Triggers | Finding the origin of your triggers and allow yourself to feel it [51:56] Self-Judgement | Not blaming or judging yourself for allowing things to happen [55:36]  QUOTES:  “You should never be okay with being treated that badly. You should never be okay with being betrayed. You should never be okay with having someone you trusted so much to turn around and treat you as if you never meant anything to them. You should never be okay with that.” Read by Lisa [0:46]  “Don't push yourself to a point where you gaslight yourself out of your own pain” [2:09]  “When pain knocks on your door, if you keep it out the door, yeah, it might stay there for a while, but you're adapting your life to noise in the background.” [5:45]  “The foundation of your home is self acceptance and self awareness. Once you have those two elements, you can build whatever home you want within” [9:23]  “Let me separate what I've chosen to give you from what you've chosen to reciprocate” [12:47]  “You don't deserve someone's burdens to be placed on your back for them to believe that you actually love them.” [17:18] “Once you become aware of yourself, historically, and in the moment, you're golden” [25:49]  “The one who broke you cannot heal you. You have to heal you. You can't expect the person who broke you into pieces to bring those...

Check out our sponsor:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Building a successful business takes confidence and some level of skill no matter who you are. As women, there are sets of challenges we face that have to become part of an intentional way through to success. Natalie Ellis and Danielle Canty are the genius inspiration, muscle and energy behind the infamous online community for ambitious women, BossBabe. Even after building an 8-figure business they share how imposter syndrome is still something to be dealt with at every level of success. They share the lessons and wisdom they’ve found along their journey and explain how to start having the right conversations to change your upper limits and reimagine what is possible. This episode is about having the understanding of the many forms of confidence it takes to be a successful entrepreneur and a Badass BossBabe!  SHOW NOTES:  Imposter Syndrome | Why imposter syndrome meets you at every level of success [0:35] Mindset | What it looks like being all in, getting resourceful, & deciding where to go [6:54] Competence | Finding confidence in what’s unknown through growing competence [9:06] Capabilities | How women doubt themselves more and ways to have more confidence [12:39] Confidence | Recognizing what your good at and celebrating yourself and others [14:32] Receiving | People struggling to receive compliments without deflecting back [19:26] Recognition | Why being recognized is important and can create positive spiral [22:28] Communication | Being open to conversation, being more efficient, avoiding triggers [25:19] Managing Emotions | Advice to manage emotions in business & personal relationships [29:15] Triggered | Being triggered and learning to work through it and not taking feeling as truth [34:33] Lifestyle | How lifestyle decisions impact confidence, productivity, and your responsibility [37:00] F.O.M.O. | Pursuing your goals and sticking to your decisions over what you miss [46:03] Money Talk | Why women are uncomfortable talking about money & the need for more [51:04] Upper Limit | Pushing through upper limits to find success without overwhelm [1:02:09]  QUOTES:  “Give yourself a reality check and do it anyway. There really is nothing that is going to set you up for success more than just being willing to do something, getting resourceful, leaving your excuses at the door and not waiting for anything to be perfect.” Natalie Ellis [1:28]  “A lot of my imposter syndrome was doing the things that I actually wanted to do, and the thought of not doing them then became worse or like the thought of not achieving the goals became worse than the imposter syndrome.” Danielle Canty [3:09]  “You have to own how you're feeling. So that you can start addressing it head on.” Danielle Canty [5:51] “If you're all in with something, you get resourceful. I can't say that enough, getting resourceful being the kind of person that just figures it out.” Natalie Ellis [7:31]  “When you look at people who are famous or experts in the industry, they start at nowhere, like they started at the beginning to” Danielle Canty [12:17]  “The people around me that actually matter will celebrate that I'm celebrating myself. And if they don't, I can't be around them.” Natalie Ellis [15:54]  “If you struggle to receive, it's actually very hard, [...] like you actually repel that too, because you're just not good at receiving anything: knowledge, money, love any of it.” Danielle Canty [21:18]  “You have to take responsibility for your words, your actions, everything. If you want to change your life, if you want to do something new, if you want to, if you don't like the situation, you have to take responsibility.” Danielle Canty [27:17]  “Your only success was going to be mentally and physically capable of being.”...

This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to http://Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more.  Though we all know how important communication is for literally every relationship you have, very few have taken the time to learn how to do it well. When communication is not done well, relationships suffer, individuals suffer and the consequences can be high stakes. If there’s any chance of your communication needing improvement, you’re in the right place. Grab and pen and paper, you’ll want to take notes and add this to your favorite playlist to listen to again. Evy Poumpouras is a former secret service agent and an Unstoppable Badass, here to lay out everything you need to know about communication alongside Unstoppable Badass, Lisa Bilyeu. Spoiler Alert! This is about you, and the tactics you can learn and practice to improve your communication skills to build rapport. It’s not about what the other person should do.  Unstoppable Women of Impact Tips: ● Build rapport ● Tell the other person exactly what you’re looking for Evy’s Strategies for Building Rapport 1. Acceptance: recognize what is being said without trying to change or protest it. 2. Adaptability: able to adjust to new conditions or circumstances. 3. Autonomy: having the capacity to make informed and uncoerced decisions. 4. Empathy: ability to see from the other person’s perspective Unstoppable Communication Questions to Ask: ● Who are you speaking to? ● Who is that person? ● How do I speak to this person? ● What is your goal and what is the best way for you to achieve that goal?  Unstoppable Key Terms: Rapport: The ability to understand and communicate with people Mirroring: When one person imitates how the person across moves, talks or acts Identify Based Motivation: Where perception of self motivates you to take action toward a goal Instrumental Based Motivation: The end state is what’s motivating the person to take action Relational Motivation: The way that two or more people are connected  Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4  SHOW NOTES:  Build Rapport | Eva on why established rapport is a ping pong match for communication [0:45] Strategies | 4 ways to build rapport and keep people talking and communicating [1:41] Using Strategies | Example for using these strategies with close relationships & situations [8:07] Building Blocks | How building rapport establishes connection, trust and faith [10:23] Close Relationships | Handling rapport and these strategies with close family & friends [13:28] Being Adaptable | Not being so rigid, allowing people the space y build rapport [16:15] Lisa’s Rapport | Lisa shares behind the scenes ways that she builds rapport with guests [17:51] Get In Synch | Identity motivation vs instrumental motivation & getting to cooperation [19:26] Cooperative Zone | When you find a way to move the conversation forward together [26:53] Motivation | Eva explains how to use base motivations to get in synch and adapt [33:20] Identity Vs. Instrumental | Lisa and Eva showing you how it’s done [34:03] Choose Your Words Thoughtfully | Define words that you use, comply vs. resist [35:40] ‘No’ | Improving ways that you say no with compassion and without being harsh [41:38] ‘Sorry’ | Ways that language diminishes you when you apologize for everything [43:13] Word Play | How words land with people: powerful, shut people down, provoke reaction [46:25] Word Challenge | Lisa & Eva share how different words make them feel [47:13]  QUOTES: “When it comes to communication, rapport is king. When you have rapport you have trust. When you have trust you have cooperation.” Evy Poumpouras [0:48] “I have someone who’s giving me no trust, and I want to move that relationship forward, I do it through rapport.” Evy...

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Girls begin going through puberty as early as 8 years old. From the moment you become aware of your body and people begin commenting on your changes, shame, discomfort, and confusion begin to settle in. While we all settle into our bodies in different ways and at different ages, the harsh reality is that 53% of American girls are not happy with their bodies by 13 years of age and by 17 the amount of unhappy girls grows to 78%! Behind the onslaught of body image issues and societal pressures that mark the barometer of where you fall on the ‘acceptance meter,’ are a mounting number of quietly misdiagnosed hormonal issues. Dr. Sara Gottefried is a Harvard and M.I.T. graduate, medical physician, and NY Times bestselling author of, The Hormone Cure. She shines light on the issues women are having with being properly diagnosed, treated and even heard on health issues that have been sold as not being related. As females, the number of factors that impact our hormones, our moods, our ability to function and feel like we have worth and value is mind-blowing. Dr. Gottfried is sharing some of the issues, their sources, how to resolve them and most importantly how to speak up confidently for yourself. She’s debunking myths about what’s the best diet for you and misconceptions around the “man hormone” testosterone and why it’s so critical for female health. “Genetics loads the gun and food pulls the trigger”  SHOW NOTES:  Misconceptions | Ways women can take ownership of their health and transparent risks [0:51] Testosterone | Why testosterone can cause problems with confidence and empowerment [4:15] Hormones | Identifying hormonal issues, and why cortisol is a big concern to watch for [7:13] Precision Medicine | How it starts with diet, lifestyle, & nutrition observed with wearables [13:34] Average Treatment | Dr. Gottfried shares reality of how medicine for the average works [16:58] After 40 | How hormonal changes affect women and allows us to speak our truth more [20:35] Food Plan | How to use elimination diet to assess how food is impacting your health, [24:15] Eating for Hormones | Connecting the dots between your food, hormones and mood [32:05] Body Messages | Stop ignoring the messages your body is sending you [38:33] Antibiotics | The havoc antibiotics caused Dr. Gottfried’s microbiome, changing it by 87% [43:28] Feeling Shame | How shame is holding you back from being honest about your health [46:29] Confidence | Feeling okay with challenging your doctor and getting hormones checked [52:38] Fertility Value | Women not given full evaluation and tests based on not wanting kids [54:52] Gut Related | Dr Gottfried explains why gut health has everything to do with estrogen [57:10] Nutrigenomics | How genetics predict food and nutrient response to gluten, salt, caffeine [58:30]  QUOTES:  “Whatever you're experiencing, is your truth, and you don't need a doctor to validate that for you.” [2:35]  “When it comes to your hormones. Your food is the backbone of the hormones that you make.” [32:10]  “What is a perfect meal for you today might be different than 10 years ago might be different than five years from now.” [36:32]  “Women have such clear messages about what's going on in their body, and yet were invalidated when we bring them to our doctors.” [38:56]  “It is normal for women to be moody. I just want to normalize that right now, that is totally cool, like that is our superpower to use our moodiness to use our willingness to speak our truth...” [47:56]  “A big part of stepping into our power is not just not allowing a physician to disrespect you, but to not do it to yourself, like not reinforce the habit by...

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Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. 

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. At what age did you become aware of your body? How long after becoming aware of your body did you start to feel shame or embarrassment? When your walking down the street, sitting in a class, at work, or scrolling through social media, everywhere you look, consciously or unconsciously you are silently judging others and judging yourself. Maybe you think to yourself, ‘she’s so pretty,’ ‘at least I have more curves than her,’ or ‘she’s too skinny (or fat).’ From Khloe Kardashian to Billie Eilish, from your grandmother to your best friend and the last woman you saw today, everyone seems to be struggling with body image, self-love and confidence. Emme, the first plus-size supermodel that flipped modeling industry standards for how thick or thin is actually beautiful, joins Lisa and discusses her experience getting into modeling and on her first big photo shoot, being called a ‘fatty’. Emme is an international ambassador and champion for changing beauty standards to help “real” women embrace and love the body they have. She is speaking out against unrealistic standards and talking about leveling up your life, your vibe, your passion and purpose for living.  For more information on eating disorders and body image issues, Emme highly recommends: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/  SHOW NOTES:  Big Photo Shoot | Photographer refuses to work with Emme. This was her response [0:31] Not About Me | Emme on why it's more about where the other person is coming from [4:31] Fear | Identifying when people are coming at you from a place of fear and bullying [7:45] Body Dysmorphia | Think about what your relationship is with food and view of self [8:53] Comparison | Emme on why comparison is problem, know what’s right for you first [12:11] Solutions | Limiting social media, knowing yourself and connecting to nature is a start [15:00] Gratitude | Reframing gratitude and having appreciation for your body and soul [19:15] Confident | Emme shares how she found confidence in spite of body shaming at home [22:48] Empowered | You choose your journey and how you decide to feel, it’s empowerment [29:51] Self Talk | How to talk to yourself & counter negative self talk, you’re a work in progress [33:38] Self Acceptance | Love yourself and be free with who you are in the present moment [35:33] Passion |How to live a full with joy and a meaningful life with purpose on purpose [38:36]  QUOTES:  “If I let one person trip me off of my game, that's my fault. [...] you don't know where people come from with their own ideas of body image” [3:31]  “The goal is always to be the master of your own universe” [10:49]  “It touches me deeply when you can really get into that place of gratitude, and thankfulness when it's all hairy and crazy all around you and you can save yourself” [19:15]  “You learn and then you go forward, and it's like life was presenting me with opportunities to get beyond that, but not to forget it.” [27:04]  “Set yourself free to be able to to be okay with just exactly who you are in this present moment. Not a second later. Not a second from before, but right here. And now.” [35:35]  “go for what really gets you so excited that [...] gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that you feel it all throughout your body and you know that that moment of truth is real.” [39:41]  “Go for what really gets you so excited that I'm goosebumps and pumps all over gets you so excited that when you talk about it and when you're engaged with it, that...

This episode is brought to you by Evy's new course Becoming Bulletproof: How To Read People And Detect Deception. Go to Bulletproof.ImpactTheory.com to learn more.  In this special episode Lisa and Evy tag team and bring you into their world of confidence and share all the tips you need to walk into your day with the most confidence. As Lisa shares, competence is confidence, and this episode is about empowering women to become more confident and learn what it means to be unstoppable.  Former Secret Service Agent and friend of the show, Evy Poumpouras, never disappoints and challenges you to reflect on all that you’ve overcome and everything you’ve accomplished to give your confidence an immediate boost. Think about your daily habits and examine if those habits are building your confidence or diminishing your confidence.  TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE: ● Don’t be afraid to raise your voice ● Be proactive to avoid being reactive ● Use clothes to feel confident and also affect how others perceive you ● Don’t let people's negative perception of you affect how you present yourself ● Being authentic to yourself helps you feel grounded and confident ● Shift and adapt to what you are doing and how you feel  A CHALLENGE FROM EVY: Write a list of the greatest accomplishments and difficulties you’re overcome.  SOMETHING TO TRY ASAP FROM LISA: Put on your best outfit and say out loud, ‘I got this,’ ‘I’m confident,’ ‘I’m unstoppable!”  Order Evy Poumpouras’ book, Becoming Bulletproof: https://amzn.to/3hDQ4e4  SHOW NOTES:  Confident Woman | How to step into a space with comfort of being woman not stereotype [0:50] Watch Self Talk | Flip negative voices so you are not tearing yourself down with words [4:00] Confident Now | Looking at your accomplishments can help boost your confidence now [11:00] The Inner Voice | Listen in on the inner voice Lisa and Evy use to push through training [14:15] Over Prepare | How preparation is the secret to confidence, over preparing is peace [15:18] Proactive | The value of having a plan in place, not being reactive, just being prepared [21:20] Lisa’s Prep | Quick peak into how Lisa prepares for another amazing interview [25:54] Look Confident | What you wear has an effect on the way you act & feel about yourself [27:07] Identity | Remaining confident and not having your identity tied solely to how you look [37:17] Camera Ready | Behind the scenes of how Evy and Lisa get ready to show up confident [42:24]     QUOTES:  “Confidence is not like genetics, you either have it or you don’t. I really think it’s like a skill you cultivate [...] I think you build it by gaining competence.” Lisa Bilyeu [6:07]  “50% is what the world does to you but 50% is you. This you can manage, and so if you want to be those things and you want to change those things, it’s something you can do.” Evy Poumpouras [13:21]  “When I’m over prepared, it’s one less thing I have to worry about.” Evy Poumpouras [16:36]  “I am proactive at prepare, prepare, so that when things happen I am less reactive. When you’re reactive you’re sloppy, you’re emotional, you’re in that moment, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re not sure.” Evy Poumpouras [23:20]  “We shift and adapt to how we’re feeling in that moment to what we’re doing, or maybe what we’re trying to feel.” Evy Poumpouras [39:41]  Follow Evy Poumpouras:  Website: https://www.evypoumpouras.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/evypoumpouras LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/evypoumpouras/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evypoumpouras/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evypoumpouras/ ...

Check out our sponsor: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! So, you’re up early, get the kids ready (or not), grab a coffee and you’re running out the door to start another- busy day. The problem is everyday is a busy day, and the reality is that a majority of women (and men too) never feel like there are enough hours in the day. This leads to more stress and more anxiety. Add to all this the fact that in 2020 it was estimated the average person was spending almost 2 and a half hours on social media every day. This would be okay, except that Dr. Wendy Suzki points out that continuous exposure to news and social media is contributing heavily to anxiety and stress. According to Dr. Wendy, there are healthy levels of stress you need in your life, and there are detrimental levels of stress and anxiety that do you no favors. So how do you cope with all the added stress? Avoid it? Pretend it’s not a thing, or even worse, spiral out of control ? There are free, simple, very portable and easy ways to effectively lower levels of “everyday stress and anxiety.” Dr. Wendy Suzuki is a Neuroscientist and Psychology professor that brings movement, joy and fun into brain science. This episode is best listened to before your next anxious situation or immediately after if it’s too late.  Order Dr. Wendy’s new book, Good Anxiety, Harnessing the Power of The Most Misunderstood Emotion: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1982170735?tag=simonsayscom  SHOW NOTES:  Value of Anxiety | Dr. Wendy on why anxiety is a protective emotion that is really valuable [0:41] Identify Anxiety | Dr. Wendy explains how anxiety shows up and useful tips to calm down [4:30] Self-Reflection | How to productively reflect on your anxiety to rebalance with positivity [8:40] Connection to Smell | Dr. Wendy explains why smell is so effective conditioning memory [10:51] Foolish Reframing | Why calling failure a failure is healthier than pretending you don’t [17:10] ‘What If’ Playlist | Dr. Wendy explains how to turn worry into action with a positive effect [25:44] Social Stress| Being prepared for social situations and the danger loneliness is shocking [29:32] Get Moving | Dr. Wendy on power of movement with verbal information you can do now [34:45] 5 Points in Anxiety | 5 points to help emotionally regulate and get out of anxiety [36:24] Change Responses | Dr. Wendy explains why your brain is capable of change for better [39:42] Power Reminders | What you remind yourself matters and your brain can learn anything [41:44]  QUOTES:  “I like to call a big failure, a big failure. And I think it's healthy, to be able to, to be able to admit that and to learn from it, because everybody has failures.” [18:34]  “Negative emotions, like embarrassment and fear and worry, are very useful for us.” [19:02]  “We are human, we have this whole array of emotions for a reason, and the reason for those negative emotions is to help us learn, help us learn about ourselves, help us motivate ourselves.” [20:00]  “It helped me realize how much wisdom comes from great pain.” [23:24]  “Just because that scary person or that scary question is there doesn't mean you have to go there. You can tactfully and thoughtfully avoid that to decrease your anxiety.” [38:06]  “The human brain is the most powerful structure known to humankind, and it was designed to learn.” [43:11] “You can train your brain to learn anything. If you remember that. That is the best mindset that you can go into life with.” [43:58]   Follow Dr. Wendy Suzuki: Website: https://www.wendysuzuki.com/

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. How many times have you come across that person that really sparks your interest and makes you want to get serious? What about that moment when you find out they’re not ready for a serious relationship, they just want to have fun, or go with the flow and see where things go. If you’re honest, how many mental gymnastics have you gone through to continue pursuing a relationship like that? You know they don’t want the same level of commitment, but you just feel like, ‘if only I hang in there long enough…’ Matthew Hussey is no stranger to Women of Impact and in this episode he’s addressing everything you need to know about commitment and why trying to commit and stick it out with someone who’s already told you they aren’t ready is not only foolish, but it’s high stakes and a total waste of your time. Matthew is the relationship expert many of you already know and love, but get ready because in this episode he’s going off to let you know how serious he is about the time you’re wasting on people that just don’t want a relationship. It’s hard truth ladies, but it’s a powerful dose of medicine you may need right now.  Make sure to check out this FREE 30 Day Challenge from Matthew Hussey to build confidence: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/challenge/  SHOW NOTES:  Committing | How dating apps and social media has made fear of commitment worse [0:59] Giving Yourself | Why it’s only painful in the wrong hands and choosing who to give to [6:36] Conditional Love | The costs involved with committing and how to assess what’s worthy [10:04] Energy Management | Protecting yourself from dating burnout from misplaced energy [13:50] Dating History | When a person’s character is questionable from their relationship history [19:00] Trust Yourself | Trust your gut and rely on people around you to make accurate decisions [24:16] Validation | Engineering answers you want to hear and not being honest about yourself [29:16] Communication | The purpose is making progress through the friction to get closer [32:39] Timing | Staying with someone not ready stunts their growth and wastes your time [41:00] Not Ready | When someone says they’re not ready what’s the best way to proceed [47:11] High Stakes | Why it’s arrogant to think you can change someone to want a relationship [50:15]  QUOTES:  “When we're away from someone and we're investing in them through our thoughts. Even if it's not visible to them, we're investing psychologically in the situation.” [3:10]  “Take the beauty in what you gave, and know that in the right hands, that remains a beautiful thing.” [7:49]  “The danger is if we say giving equals pain. No, giving doesn't equal pain. Ignoring things, ignoring the fact that I'm giving to the wrong person equals pain.” [8:29]  “Romantic relationships are conditional, because who would want to be in a relationship long term with someone who never gave back?” [9:56]  “Your game is not to worry about someone else. Your game is energy management for yourself.” [13:50]  “I have a limited amount of energy. Not everyone can have it. And my heart isn't something I give. It's a house that I invite people into.” [14:36]  “Character is something that you see in people's actions every day. It's not in a grand gesture. It's what behavior Am I seeing from this person every day” [20:40]  “On a first date, your job is not to be a human lie detector. Your job is to see if what they're saying aligns with the kind of person you're seeing in front of you.” [24:19] 

Check out our sponsors:  Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT In what ways did last year’s pandemic impact you as an individual? Yes, it was disruptive to all of our daily lives, routines, and relationships, but what fundamentally changed about you as a person? Mel Robbins, author of the 5 Second Rule, joins Lisa for the first time on Women of Impact, and she came in so real, so raw and so authentic to her truth, her failures and how much she uncovered and found unhinged in her own life from the pandemic. If you’ve been dealing with any kind of self-doubt or if you’ve ever stood eye to eye with yourself in the mirror and felt disappointed, disconnected or unworthy this interview is going to speak straight to your core. Mel is sharing the power she found in giving herself a simple high and why this simple gesture that packs so much meaning may be the catalyst you need to start connecting with yourself again and start dealing with the truths and pain we’ve all ran from at some time or another. Maybe you’re still running. If you are, sit down, catch your breath, and dare to see yourself in a new light today. Order Mel’s new book, The High 5 Habit: https://www.amazon.com/High-Habit-Take-Control-Simple-ebook/dp/B096JQSWQ6  SHOW NOTES: The Imposter | Mel exposes feeling like a total failure leading up to her Impact Theory interview High 5 Attitude | How Mel developed a high five attitude in the middle of perceived failure Pursue Dreams | What happens when something becomes so important to you, it takes over High 5 Habit | How Mel formed the high habit standing in her bathroom on a bad day Mirror Moments | Mel breaks down the power of taking a moment in the mirror in the mornings Celebration | Mel exposes how self validation and celebration is hard wired & not to be denied Put Yourself 1st | How to acknowledge your own existence by fulfilling your own needs R.A.S. | Mel explains the reticular activity system as a hair net and a filter you control Visualization | Mel breaks down why visualizing the suck part of the process is more effective Responsibility | Mel on how you are your own responsibility and that’s liberating power High 5 Your Heart | Mel breaks down why placing your hands on your heart helps anxiety Stop Running | How being busy is a distraction from the need to face yourself, slow down! Self Relationship | Mel on the importance of loving and respecting yourself first regardless Failing to Win | Mel gives the difference between loser mentality and winning mentality Look Forward | Mel shares why you have to look at the best days ahead not what past  QUOTES: “Your feelings are going to rise and they're going to fall, and feeling nervous and feeling scared and feeling on edge and imposter syndrome, it's all normal stuff. You’ve got to develop the ability to feel all that stuff, have your cheeks be as red as a baboon’s butt, and walk out there and do it anyway.”  “You need celebration and support so that you can do those things that you deserve and you want in your life.” “When you realize you can change the filter in your mind, at any time, you can silence the bullshit you've been saying to yourself.”  Instead of visualizing the finish line, which is what we all want to jump to in life, right? Visualize all the crappy, horrible things you have to do, in order to get to the finish line. [...] If you just visualize the good stuff, you are not preparing yourself to do the work that it takes to get that stuff.” 

Relationships inevitably have arguments, fights, and disagreements, but are you experiencing them more than normal? Are they taking a toll on the relationship? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to address these questions and discuss how to overcome chronic fighting and begin loving each other instead. They talk about how arguing is a sign of deeper issues, why you need to choose compassion, the importance of reframing your partners motives and understanding their perspective, how to let go and move on from arguments, and tools you can use to deescalate any disagreement.  SHOW NOTES: Constant Fighting | Lisa and Tom address a couple’s case of constant-explosive arguing. [0:35] Collision of Values | Tom and Lisa on how arguments are about something much deeper. [3:41] Choose Compassion | Tom and Lisa discuss strategically approaching problems. [4:34] Reframe Motives | Tom describes the letter he wrote himself to hack his neurochemistry. [7:30] Understanding | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need sympathy for your partner. [10:04] Fight for Them | Tom and Lisa reveal you need to know if you want to fight for them. [11:49] Let Go | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of truly letting go and moving forward. [13:39] Needs | Lisa recalls a time when both her and Tom’s deep needs weren’t in sync. [16:32] Tactics | Lisa and Tom discuss effective practices to keep yourself rooted in love. [19:31] QUOTES: “You can’t let dust settle in a relationship.” [2:10] “There’s a generosity of framing.” [10:04] “It comes down to people’s ability to make something sacred.” [21:12]  FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Gaslighting is one of those words that once you hear about it, you think to yourself “that’s what I’ve been dealing with all this time!?” When someone is gaslighting you, they are undermining your reality by denying facts and making you think you’re crazy. You find yourself asking questions like: Am I at fault? Did I do something wrong? Am I crazy? Do I need to start recording my conversations? Nedra Glover Tawwab is joining Lisa in this episode to take a deeper dive into manipulation and more specifically, gaslighting. If you’ve been in a relationship where you weren’t even aware that you were being gaslit, or you didn’t have the word to perfectly capture all the craziness and frustration, this is for you! Knowing how to recognize it is the first step in knowing how to respond and avoid being a victim of gaslighting in the future. These are unhealthy relationships to be a part of, getting the knowledge you need so you can apply it in the future is the beginning of stepping into your power. 3 Impactful Ideas from Nedra: 1. It's completely okay to not be perfect. 2. Arguing is a choice. 3. Conflict is a growth tool.  Check Out Nedra’s 1st Episode, Don’t Be Manipulated: https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo  SHOW NOTES: Gaslighting | Nedra explains why most people don’t realize it’s happening Apologies | The harm of apologizing when it’s not your fault, not being given apology Change Behavior | Focus on the behavior first not the origin story, action is a must Arguing | Nedra breaks down why arguing is a choice, you do not have to engage Speak Up | Nedra on finding courage to stand your ground and say it’s not your fault Internal Work | Practicing how to externalize the internal dialogue you should be having Be Assertive | Nedra explains difference between assertive and aggressive behavior Behaviors to Stop | Nedra breaks down conflict, the need to be right and denying others Preferences | Nedra exposes why arguing is usually about preferences Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab: Website: https://www.nedratawwab.com/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nedratawwab/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/nedratawwab/_created/

We’ve heard it from every relationship advice column ever: communication is key. But what does that even mean? In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share their secrets for effective communication. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After you watch this episode, you'll know why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. Furthermore, Lisa and Tom share how to use the right love language with your partner. SHOW NOTES: Why communication is the secret to a long-lasting relationship and how to communicate in the right way. [1:02] How to use the right love language with your partner. [2:24] The one word that Tom should never use because Lisa gets very upset. [2:59] QUOTES: “I think the more areas you have specific, discussed, and agreed-upon rules of engagement, the better off you´re gonna be.” [0:46] “Let me tell you if you know certain words gonna rub the other person the wrong way, don´t use them in an argument.” [2:24] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. In 2018, ‘toxic’ became Oxford’s word of the year. You’ve likely fallen victim to toxic behaviors in different relationships in your life. Even more shocking, is that you’ve even been toxic at varying times in your life. We all have. Whether the word is overused and completely misunderstood, this episode will help you think through toxic relationships and behaviors that may be costing you more than you know. After this episode, you’ll be able to identify some of the relationships that are no longer serving you and start examining the options you have for letting go of toxic people. Learning to set boundaries and identify language that you can use to spot red flags will serve you for many years to come.  Don’t miss the full episodes of these incredible guests on Women of Impact: Sarah Jakes Roberts - https://youtu.be/IbriO6QIxoU Dr. Ramani - https://youtu.be/uwtwnIxSO9s Amy Morin - https://youtu.be/fHzaceSFLwg Matthew Hussey - https://youtu.be/ny2KL8mYyFE Nedra Glover Tawwab - https://youtu.be/RslMYasPpxo Lori Gottlieb - https://youtu.be/gBRwYDZ4Vrs  SHOW NOTES: Vilify Toxicity | Don’t Vilify Toxic People with Sara Jakes Roberts [2:36] Complainers | Avoid Complaining About Them with Amy Morin [6:30] Vulnerabilities | Be Thoughtful About Sharing Vulnerabilities with Matthew Husssey [12:02] Stand Up | Stand Up For Yourself with Nedra Glover Tawwab [16:12] Empathetic | Reconsider Your Relationship With Them with Lori Gottlieb & Dr. Ramani [19:39] Boundaries | Create Clear Boundaries with Vanessa Van Edwards [24:33]  QUOTES: “When we encounter someone that is toxic, we have to understand that they are acting, thinking and speaking from their brokenness.” Sara Jakes Roberts [3:49] “If you have a toxic person in your life, and you find yourself wanting to complain about them all the time, it's probably a good sign that you need to do something different” Amy Morin [8:16]  “Confronting someone is sometimes the most loving thing that you could do, and that it's really the kind thing [....] it doesn't have to be bad. It's about saying, I respect myself, but I respect you enough that I think we need to talk about these talk about these things” Amy Morin [11:41]  “There needs to be some separation between labeling someone a toxic person and saying the way they're behaving is toxic, or the effect of their behavior is toxic.” Matthew Hussey [12:58]  “Once you start to recognize the tactics that people will use to silence you, you can stand up for yourself better.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [17:24]  “We must have tremendous empathy for narcissistic people. Otherwise, we lose the best part of ourselves, and I'll be damned if somebody who's toxic is going to be the reason the most beautiful part of myself gets turned off.” Dr. Ramani [23:57]  “I don't have people in my life who put me in step number three very often. And that way, I know that I can totally be easy when I'm in interactions.” Vanessa Van Edwards [25:22]  Follow Sara Jakes Roberts: https://sarahjakesroberts.com/ Follow Dr. Ramani: http://doctor-ramani.com/

Are you or your partner extremely competitive? Does it sometimes get out of hand? Are you looking for ways to support each other while still having a healthy dose of that intensity? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you and your partner can be competitive with one another in a healthy way that pushes each other while still showing support, care, and love. They discuss the tactics they use to strengthen their relationship, how to properly be competitive in your relationship, how to handle intensity when competing, why you should push each other, and how to be each other’s biggest fan.  SHOW NOTES: Tactics | Tom and Lisa discuss the best tactics they use to strengthen their relationship. [0:30] Competitive | Tom and Lisa discuss being competitive with each other in their relationship. [2:16] Intensity | Lisa and Tom reveal how they handle intensity when being competitive. [5:22] Working Together | Lisa and Tom discuss how they want to push each other. [7:10] Winning | Lisa and Tom discuss encouraging each other on a path towards winning. [9:08] Be Their Fan | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should cheer on your partner. [10:40]  QUOTES: “You can’t imagine how gross I would find it if you thought you had to lose to me. That’s so emotionally weak when somebody can’t, like, tolerate that.” [8:34] “Just putting them first and saying, “I believe in you so much and I really want to see you succeed,” gives a support that I don’t know how to replicate other than that, like be your partner’s biggest cheerleader. So powerful.” [10:19] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Real Good Foods: Click the link for $25 OFF any order of $25 or more! https://realgoodfoods.com/discount/WOMENOFIMPACT By now, you’re probably proficient at spotting narcissistic behaviors in people and relationships you are involved with. You may notice gaslighting or maybe you haven’t been able to put a finger on exactly what seems to be off, but if you’re honest you know something isn’t right. Spotting narcissism and knowing someone is portraying narcissistic behaviors isn’t enough if you’re going to protect yourself. Dr. Ramani Durvasula joins Lisa for round 2 to break down the rules of engagement. Understanding that some women are unable to get away from the narcissistic relationship they’ve been “stuck” in for years does not call for judgement. As Dr. Ramani clearly iterates, leaving these kinds of unhealthy relationships are never easy, and there is also no need for judgement. The good news is that Dr. Ramani came loaded today with practical tips and advice to give you and the people you love the best chance possible for dealing with narcissists when escape isn’t an easy option.  SHOW NOTES: Words Hurt | Why words hurt more than we like to admit and the damage being done [2:45] D.E.E.P. | Dr. Ramani reveals the D.E.E.P. technique to shut down narcissists [5:34] No Leaving | Dr. Ramani explains why some people can’t leave and how they survive [7:25] Don’t Defend | Why it’s not about being a doormat, it’s about not engaging in toxic routine [8:36] Firewalling | Not giving away your vulnerabilities and psychological “passwords” [10:56] Apology Cycle | Differentiating someone who is sorry or a repeat offender to shut down [14:21] Narcissistic Parents | Why these kinds of parents are tricky and how to deal with them [15:55] Narcissist Magnets | Why familiarity can be a magnet for unhealthy toxic relationships [18:32] Happiness | Dr. Ramani discusses if true happiness is possible with a narcissist [22:05] Staying In It | Dr. Ramani explains why people stay in narcissistic relationships [25:17] Empathy | Dr. Ramani shares having empathy for narcissist in an empowering way [27:26] Hangtime | That suspension time of trying to figure out and decide to stay or go [30:27] Support | How to best aide people leaving narcissistic relationships that are scared [34:05] Once You Know | Dr. Ramani’s advice on what to do and not do once you know [37:46] Responding | How to get out of dodge when under verbal attack and hold the tears [44:29] Good News | Dr. Ramani explains why you never share good news with narcissists [49:04] Communication | Why it’s best to have surface level conversations to protect yourself [49:35] Contempt | Looking for the contempt to identify narcissistic behaviors and not engage [51:45] No One’s Exempt | Dr. Ramani shares how even she still falls for the pity trap [56:16]  QUOTES: “I think some people feel like, beat me with a stick, but please stop. Stop criticizing me, stop undermining me, stop invalidating me” [2:55]  “Deep stands for don't defend, don't engage, don't explain and don't personalize.” [5:41]  “What gets challenging with the narcissistic relationships in our lives is you almost have to have two sets of strategies, one set of strategies you maintain in your healthy relationship, and a different toolkit in the narcissistic relationships.” [10:03]  “We're literally more protective of the password we have for some game on our computer, then we are with the most sacred parts of our psyche.” [11:34]  “Once you identify the difficult people in the system, you can still be in that system, but you got to be mindful.” [17:32]  “We must have tremendous empathy for narcissistic people....

Do you and your partner or spouse struggle with a clash of values? Do you find yourself in frequent disagreements, arguments, or fights and are looking to tackle the root cause of them for good? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you and your partner can overcome your disagreements and actually get to the bottom of what’s causing them. They discuss what to do when your values are different from your partners, how to properly handle disagreements, when and how to persuade your partner, and how to be open to your partner’s perspective. SHOW NOTES: Collision | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do when your values of your partner are different. [0:20] Values | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to break down your most important values. [2:15] Compromise | Lisa and Tom discuss how to properly handle disagreements. [4:51] Convincing | Lisa and Tom discuss when it is and isn’t time to convince your partner. [7:03] Be Open | Tom and Lisa discuss why you have be open to your partner’s side. [9:40] QUOTES: “When there’s a collision of values, you have to get into a situation where each of you are assessing the importance to which that value means something to you and where the compromise lies.” [5:09] “…and that’s a big thing, it’s like, not thinking about it of winning an argument, or being right, or getting what I want…” [8:45] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0 

Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. It’s so easy to get caught up trying to catch other people in lies. In your love life, working relationships, and even with family and friends, thoughts of, ‘what if this person is lying’ crosses your mind more than you’d like to admit. But, have you ever considered whether or not your own verbal and nonverbal cues were sending the wrong message and causing people to think maybe you’re the one not being honest? Vanessa Van Edwards is joining us to break down how to better identify if you are being lied to, and ways you can ensure you’re not sending the wrong signals. Lack of confidence, anxiety and shame are just a few of the ‘honest’ behaviors Vanessa warns could manifest almost identical to the cues used for dishonesty. Here is what you need to know to not just spot a lie, but to be a better communicator and create better relationships in your life built around honesty and transparency.  Preorder Vanessa Van Edwards’ new book, Cues: https://amzn.to/3leaa1j  SHOW NOTES: Science of Lying | Vanessa shares why mornings are better for honesty Assume the Truth | Up your ability to detect lies by assuming the truth Congruence | Vanessa breaks down looking for misaligned verbal and nonverbal cues Mixed Messages | Why anxiety and lack of confidence has same cues as lying does Step 1 Lie Detection | Establish a baseline of person when they tell truth Step 2 Lie Detection | Establish their nervous baseline to know their nervous tells Step 3 Lie Detection | Spot redflags and microexpressions incongruent with baseline Ignoring Instinct | Vanessa shares importance of not ignoring instinct if you see truth Step 4 Lie Detection | Look for redflag clusters, use the rule of 3 before moving to step 5 Step 5 Lie Detection | Circle back, ask questions, and give opportunity to to overcome the lie Share The Cues | Why learning cues together improves relationships and conversations Intentional Liars | Vanessa explains how to spot them and remove those toxic people Modes of Communication | Why people are more likely to lie over phone than text Kinds of Lies | When people are self-deceptive, ill-intentioned versus well-intentioned Truth Rules | Vanessa shares how to establish truth rules for people in your life Shame Cues | How to spot shames cues and respond for better relationships Modes of Lying | Listening for audio cues and how to communicate truthfully in email  QUOTES: “The more you seek the good and people the more you focus on the truth, the better you are at spotting lies.”  “The basis of lie detection is that liars have so many things they’re trying to keep straight that they forget where they leak out their truth. And so that means they're saying one thing, but their body, or their voice tone shows another.”  “baselining is looking at how someone acts, sounds and speaks when they're telling the truth.” “ I trust the body because it's hard to be incongruent, it takes more energy.”  “When you know what cues to spot, it gives you your confidence back, I think it's a secret backdoor into confidence.”  “Give our partners and our friends and our people as much communication advantages we have.”  “So if you've made it to set number three, with people over and over again, you're constantly in set three, you're constantly seeing red flags, you've confirmed, you've seen clusters, what's going on, you've done research, those people should not be in your life.”  “It's against our nature to put any kind of lie in writing because we think to ourselves, I could get caught.” “It's really important...

Are you struggling to communicate in a clear and healthy way with your partner? Does your relationship struggle due to arguing, fighting, or a pattern of bad behavior? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways to identify patterns of negative behavior in your relationship and how to fix them for good so that you can communicate together in a healthy way. They discuss how you should be communicating with your partner, dangerous patterns to look out for in your relationship, why you need to just be clear about your feelings, how to prevent problems from happening again, and why putting pressure on your partner isn’t doing the relationship any good. SHOW NOTES: Communicate | Lisa and Tom reveal how to better communicate with your partner. [0:17] Patterns | Lisa and Tom reveal the power of predicting patterns in your relationship. [5:54] Feelings | Tom and Lisa discuss why you need to be very clear about your feelings. [6:58] Prevent | Lisa and Tom reveal how to prevent repeating problems in the future. [8:33] Pressure | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should never dismiss your partner’s feelings. [10:10] QUOTES: “Don’t ever say, like, the other person shouldn’t be feeling something, right? Cause you feel it and it’s real and there’s nothing anyone could ever tell you that’s going to make that seem less valid." [7:40] “They may kind of resolve it in the moment but then they don’t think about, “How do I prevent this in the future?” Because having the same argument or the same problem over and over again is just, like, a waste of energy.” [8:45] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0 

Check out our sponsor:  Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. Relationships are never easy, and marriage is harder than most would imagine. With the average length of marriage in the U.S, being just over 8 years, I am happily celebrating 19 years of marriage this year and sharing some of the lessons learned along the way. I am answering your questions about everything from how to know if he’s the “one” to de-escalating those heated arguments that leave you angered and red in the face. Relationships are beautiful when you recognize the amount of work it takes to be in a great relationship, and when you finally realize the “perfect” relationship doesn’t exist and never did. So, whether you are in a relationship, thinking about marriage, dating or not even started yet, there’s definitely make you stop and think, ‘huh maybe I should give this a try.’ It’s not for everyone, but being married and in a healthy and loving relationship can be one of the best experiences for anyone.  BONUS TAKEAWAYS: 2 Tips for when you find yourself sabotaging your own relationships: 1. Write it down and reflect to explore your feelings in detail with no judgement. When and how did things progress from argument? Exactly was it that triggered your response. 2. Communicate with your partner about exactly what things are triggering you before the next argument. Be open, be vulnerable, and be patient with yourself.  How to disrupt heated arguments before they escalate any further: 1. Recall the argument and identify where would have been a good moment to walk away and take the time to change your mood. 2. Consider writing a letter to yourself to remind you to disrupt the moment. 3. Use something meaningful and significant, such as Lisa’s love chip, to signal to your partner and yourself what’s important.  SHOW NOTES: Selection Matters | Lisa breaks down why who you choose to be with is critical [0:42] Sacrificial Love | A love worth sacrificing for starts with open communication [1:52] Self Sabotage | When killing relationships is a habit, identify your triggers and talk [4:42] Growth Minded | Lisa on why you can’t grow with someone that doesn’t grow [13:49] Arguments | Unavoidable, but treatable when you find ways to disrupt the anger [17:16]  QUOTES: “If you're with somebody, you should be looking at them saying, are they worth the sacrifice that I could be spending on a relationship with myself?” [4:24]  “That's the beauty about being in a relationship, being vulnerable, showing that you want to get better, but that you're not there yet.” [8:06]  “If they're not going to be there for you, while you're stumbling while you're trying to figure it out, then maybe they're not the right one for you.” [8:48]  “It all comes down to being each other's security, knowing I'm not going anywhere, when you know, someone's not going anywhere. It gives you a sense of safety.” [12:26]  “Be vulnerable with your partner, show your weaknesses, show your vulnerabilities that builds trust. And honestly, a relationship without trust isn't a relationship.” [13:37]  “having the communication about what the disrupter means, and then both of you being on board with making sure that you can use it in order for you both to have a beautiful freakin relationship.” [26:36]

Are you and your partner looking for powerful tips to help your relationship last? Are you wondering what the key lessons are when it comes to making your love thrive for years to come? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they share their key tips to help make ensure your relationship can stand the test of time. They discuss why you sometimes need to put yourself first and be selfish, why you need to go deeper and understand the root cause of your arguments, and why having little to no expectations is best long-term. SHOW NOTES: Be Selfish | Tom and Lisa discuss the hidden benefit of being selfish in your relationship. [0:34] Go Deeper | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of addressing underlying issues. [6:24] No Expectations | Tom and Lisa discuss how to set realistic and healthy expectations. [16:00] QUOTES: “While it’s not romantic, I actually do think it is a hundred-percent important to be selfish in the sense of taking care of yourself, what makes you happy, so that you can show up to be happy in that relationship.” [3:22] “You can either feel like you’re saying different things but you’re actually saying the same thing or you can actually be saying different things and think you’re saying the same thing and it causes like a total derailment.” [5:53] “People are mistaking an emotion for objective truth…” [11:55] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0 

Check out our sponsor: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Big audacious dreams scare most people back into their regular full time jobs. The sad truth is that the discomfort most of us complain about is usually the comfort we seek when opportunities present themselves to go after those big dreams we secretly carry around. If this sounds familiar or feels familiar to you, then Ellen Marie Bennett’s inspirational story may be the kick you need to find your inner spark and dare to take action. She went from zero experience, being a line cook at a Michelin star restaurant, to jumping at an opportunity to make a difference that led to the multi-million dollar brand, Hedley & Bennett aprons. Her energy is infectious and willingness to dive into discomfort, fail, and figure things out along the way are beyond motivating. This episode is packed with goodies that may have you making some major moves today.  Order Ellen Bennet’s new book, Dream First, Details Later: https://amzn.to/3kgec8L  SHOW NOTES: Override Perfection | Ellen on how she showed up for the journey of life asking questions [3:02] Opportunity | The importance of not focusing on what you’re missing, just take action [6:17] Inner Dialogue | How to listen but not be overtaken by inner dialogue to light your spark [11:37] Perseverance | Ellen share the perfect response when you hit against a “no” and failure [13:24] Self Belief | Ellen on being your own cheerleader and what humble enthusiasm is [15:33] Humble Enthusiasm | Ellen explains being “excited to share and excited to learn” [16:33] Confidence Belt | Building confidence with successes & failures out of your comfort zone [21:04] Covid Shift | Applying humble enthusiasm to an operational pivot making masks [26:56] Purpose | Ellen breaks down how your ‘why’ is essential to get through the shitstorms [31:03] Imposter Syndrome | Leaning into who you are and honoring your own special sauce [33:27] Weaknesses | How to tackle leaning into areas that are not your core strengths [36:26] No Ego | Ellen on knowing how to get better and allow others to step in [39:32] What to Take On | Ellen shares how she decides what to take on and what to pass [43:40]  QUOTES: “You learn life on the journey, not staring at it or thinking about it or imagining what it can become, but simply, you want to do something, show up, start trying.” [4:53]  “It put me so far out of my comfort zone that I wasn't just thinking about it. I didn't have time to think I had to act, and that's a beautiful thing when you're doing it versus thinking about it.” [9:37]  “When you hit a no, a no is not a no, a no is like go left or go right, but still keep going forward in some capacity” [14:07]  “Every day, you have to wake up and know that nothing is just there. You have to create it and make it and be willing to shift when things happen, and your playbook goes flying out the window” [30:17]  “The shitstorms are so real. They're so aggressive, and so frequent, in growing something out of nothing, that if you don't truly believe in it, you don't have enough energy to fight through that storm.” [31:06]  “I'm not trying to be like that person, I'm going to walk in and be 100% myself. And they're going to appreciate that, because I'm not trying to act like somebody that I'm not. So there's an authenticity to it.” [34:24]  “If you have no ego, then you're willing to learn, and you're not claiming you know everything. Therefore, you can listen, if someone's telling you this is not working” [37:19]  Follow Ellen Hedley Bennett: Website: https://www.hedleyandbennett.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/hedleybennett

Are you still questioning whether your partner is 100% right for you? Do you sense a difference in your core values and aren’t sure if your relationship will go the distance? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore the importance of knowing if your partner is the right one for you and why you need to have clear and open communication about your shared values. They discuss the importance of selecting the right partner, understanding your differences, why you need to share the same core values, the power of communication, and why changing over time with your partner can be expected. SHOW NOTES: Selection | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of selecting the right partner for you. [0:28] Yin & Yang | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of always sharing core values. [2:56] Finding Each Other | Tom and Lisa discuss the experience of their early relationship. [5:00] Making It Work | Tom and Lisa discuss their connection despite early differences. [6:40] Communicate | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of having deep communication. [9:29] Changes | Tom and Lisa discuss the difference between change and influence. [11:35] QUOTES: “We understood very early on that you either grow together or you grow apart.” [2:36] “Once you get to the way things ought to be and you have a collision there. So, “I understand your position, you understand mine, but I think you’re crazy and you think I’m crazy.” That’s where it gets dangerous. You can have some — you will have some — but if you have too many and you don’t know how to navigate, or compartmentalize, or say, “Hey, cool like we’ll put that on the back burner,” you’re going to have a real problem.” [4:37] “…from the beginning, I think you have to establish communication with your partner, even when you have to say the hard things.” [9:33]  FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Check out our sponsor:  Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. When you are feeling overly emotional and trapped in your thoughts about stress, frustration and doubts you are having about everything happening around you, anything can set you off. Yet, so often you try to hold those emotions in, try to put on your brave and confident face for everyone else and feel like you’re falling apart inside. Radhi Devlukia Shetty joins me in this episode and opens up to all the vulnerabilities and insecurities we experience as women. We explore being emotional, and how healthy and freeing it is to have emotional release so you are not storing those emotions in your body.  SHOW NOTES: Estrogen | Radhi on the symptoms and way she’s dealing with high estrogen levels [0:38] Support | Recognizing when you’re emotional or just need a little more support [3:17] Being Emotional | Why crying isn’t a weakness and permission to sit with your sadness [5:34] Emotional Release | Radhi on value of allowing emotions to move through and out of you [8:06] Trapped Emotions | Advice on how to release trapped emotions as a routine practice [11:49] Meltdowns | Radhi on feeling overwhelmed and not knowing what to do out of frustration [16:11] Pressure | Feeling pressure like you “should” be good at everything and processing that [21:17] Comparison | Radhi breaks down how detrimental it can be to your person growth [23:26] Weakness | Radhi shares how powerful it can be to use your weaknesses to grow [27:19] Self Doubt | Radhi’s evolution, not allowing it to turn into self destructive behavior [34:12] Future Stuck | Radhi & Lisa discuss being stuck by future expectation & fear of unknown [38:18] Conflict & Pain | Radhi on the healing we block when we hurt and try hurting others [42:17] Self Control | Radhi explains why self control is a daily practice and having freedom in it [48:16] Being Proud | Radhi & Lisa discuss the angles of feeling pride and celebrating yourself [50:00]  QUOTES: “Whether you're getting a high from a happy thing, or a low from something that's made you sad, treat them equally. Allow them to feel those emotions equally, because actually, one is not better than the other.” [6:13]  “Even if you want to cry alone, don't see it as a weakness. See it as something that's making you stronger and happier in some way.” [7:41]  “Any emotions trapped in your body, anything mental trapped in your body is going to physically manifest in some way” [9:22]  “Exactly how I do with exercise now, exactly how I see with working out, exactly how I see journaling, exactly how I see my meditation, I see releasing of emotion being just as important. [...] energy is not meant to be stagnant in your body.” [11:16]  “If you just think of one thing that you're good at, and you realize that one thing actually does make you feel very happy, the rest is just bonuses.” [25:52]  “if your weaknesses are something that you really are fixated on, and that you want to change, and you really feel is preventing you from progressing in some way, take one weakness a week, take one weakness a month, however long it takes you to feel like you're a little bit more in control of it, you're a little bit better at it, then you were.” [28:02]  “Being a trustworthy friend, being someone who trusts in themselves, show up for yourself, show up for that person. That is how a relationship is built, and friendship is built in that way. So why do you think that you can keep going back on your word to yourself and still believe in yourself?” [32:01]  “belief in yourself is what you exude out of yourself, like what people feel the energy that they feel when they're around you. It's everything that you are feeling about yourself within you.” [33:25]  “I really have found so much growth in terms of doubting myself, but also so much growth which has come from the process of doubting myself.” [35:05] 

Check out the Relationship Theory Podcast here! Apple: https://apple.co/3wpECHD Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2SYC0Tz Are you and your partner struggling to have a deep and meaningful level of communication? Have emotions taken over your conversations and you can’t seem to achieve a break through? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they share their key communication techniques they find the most effective towards having a strong and healthy relationship. They discuss how they navigate moments of sticky communication, how emotions can skew your mind, the importance of being vulnerable with your partner, why you sometimes need to let your partner go crazy, how to help your partner during emotional times, why it’s always on you to improve, and how to learn from your past. SHOW NOTES: Communicate | Lisa and Tom share how they navigate sticky moments of communication. [0:31] Emotional | Lisa and Tom discuss how little things over time can influence your emotions. [3:39] Sanity Check | Tom reveals how Lisa keeps him from going too far into something. [7:20] Vulnerable | Lisa and Tom reveal the importance of being open with each other. [9:21] Crazy | Tom and Lisa reveal why you sometimes need to let your partner go all out. [11:38] Help | Lisa and Tom discuss how to help your partner during emotional times. [15:36] It’s on You | Tom and Lisa reveal why at the end of the day, it’s on you to step up. [16:59] Your Past | Lisa and Tom reveal why learning from the past is crucial to growth. [18:20] QUOTES: “In those moments, when someone says, “You’re just being emotional, it’s your hormones,” you want to fight back and say, “Stop using that as an excuse — as a defense mechanism,” right? “Stop deflecting, alright? Stop trying to blame me that it’s my emotions.” No, you actually did this.” [6:50] “You have to let the person, like, really go deep into crazy-land, before you say, “You’re being crazy…” [12:53] FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0

Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. As women, many of us have lived lives with moments that bring us shame, fill our hearts with pain, bitterness, and resentment. The thing is, you don’t have to stay in that mental space with negative thoughts and beliefs that say you’re not worthy, you have no value, or that you’re unlovable. Sarah Jakes Roberts is a woman of faith that breaks the mold and dares to own her scars, be bold, and walk in the truth of all that she is, from every mistake that she no longer allows to define her. She joins me today to help you flip the toxicity of the life you may be holding onto on its head and redefine what it means to create a meal worth serving from your leftovers.  Order Sarah Jakes Roberts latest book, Woman Evolve: https://www.amazon.com/dp/078523554X?tag=hcads-20  SHOW NOTES: Self Worth | Sarah defines her self-worth and share how her flaws add to her value [2:03] Shame | Ashamed of her truth and deciding what to create with the “leftovers” [4:38] Leftovers | Sarah exposes the hidden power of creating from what’s left after the struggle [6:30] Poison | Sarah on purging the insecurities, fear, false confidence, and false positivity [8:06] Living Divided | Denying part of your truth, avoiding the ruins, and missing your strength [10:14] Negative Thoughts | How to look at the root of negative thoughts that echo insecurities [12:11] Relationship Work | Bring value and purpose into the relationship with yourself [17:46] Marriage | Sarah’s 1st marriage failing was a symptom and that she could do better [20:48] Walking Away | Sarah on how to leave bad relationships & questions to ask yourself [24:47] Incubate Hope | Creating an environment for hope to grow and starving your fears [27:16] Toxic People | Instead of labeling people as toxic, see that we are all broken [28:28] Being Hostile | Sarah shares how being petty takes energy and takes away from you [30:13] Betrayal | Understanding what betrayal communicates to you and knowing it’s about you [34:01] Inner Circle | Sarah on the value of knowing people’s value and intention for you [38:12] Success | How success is obedience to the urge and nudge to manifest what’s within [45:27]  QUOTES: “Self-worth is believing in the value that I bring when I come into a room or space.” [2:31]  “I had to really come to this space where I realized I don't feel smart, I don't feel worthy, I don't feel valuable. This is my truth. And as painful as that was to say, it was also liberating, because I took the whisper that was haunting me and taunting me throughout my life and finally gave it a voice.” [5:57]  “I had my own poison that my insecurities were constantly pumping into my veins that fear was constantly pumping into my veins. And I realized that as long as I was poisoned, I could only attract poison.” [8:16]  “fall more in love with you than you do with the potential outcome that you're achieving or looking to achieve.” [10:47]  “I realized that just because a thought comes my way doesn't mean I have to accept it. To accept the thought is to say, I'm going to allow this to now become a part of my truth.” [15:06]  “So just like you have to work a relationship with somebody else, you have to work in a relationship with yourself.” Lisa Bilyeu [17:56]  “We're not qualified to be in a relationship until we realize what I need a person in my life for” [18:08] “at the end of the day, it's love that leads us out of places of fear.” [25:03]  When we know that I am betraying myself to be in relationship with someone, then I have to ask myself, what am I receiving to them that is so valuable, that I am willing to betray myself?” [25:22] 

Check out our sponsor: Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. It is so easy to take inventory and list every person, every event, and every situation causing stress in your life. Regardless of where you are, what your social status or income, we are all having a similar experience. The stress and anguish you experience on a daily basis to co-exist and keep the peace with family, friends, and co-workers is overwhelming to say the least. What if the solution to relieving this stress and finding true happiness is much simpler than you think? Martha Beck is an amazing life coach dedicated to freeing people from suffering. She shares some shocking truths about curing unhappiness and getting in alignment with your true nature. Find out why “going harder” is usually the worst decision you can make, and how all the little white lies we tell ourselves and people around us are hurting our body, mind, heart and soul. Order Martha Beck’s new book, The Way of Integrity: https://amzn.to/3xVGmcY SHOW NOTES: Integrity | Martha explains what integrity and being whole [0:52] Lost Integrity | Martha on living out of integrity without your true nature [1:45] 6 Symptoms | Signs that you’ve fallen out of integrity with your true self [2:45] Should | Marth shares 2 possible solutions driving actions from unseen truths [5:14] Lies | Martha breaks down the impact of self-deception on body, heart, mind & soul [6:42] What’s True | Martha on checking in with yourself and finding her integrity [10:33] Throw It Away | Martha reveals what she gained “throwing” her life away for her truth [13:16] Moment of Pause | Martha reveals the power of pausing and why it’s key to your truth [16:53] Mourning | Martha explains why losing the familiar causes you to mourn [21:27] Purgatory | Why breaking away from culture allows others to find their integrity [23:34] Looking Back | Martha explains the point of no looking back stepping into true nature [25:21] Bad Relationships | Martha shares what it takes to be true to yourself to move on [28:40] Don’t Go Harder | Martha on why doing more of what isn’t true for you makes it worst [31:37] Positive Stress | How to go with the flow of what you need and not fight yourself [34:29] One Degree Turn | Martha shares the secret to small incremental steps to what you love [38:41] In Integrity | The miracle of peace that happens when you live in your integrity [41:55] QUOTES: “Whether the lie is for good or for evil, it has the same effect on you. When you speak to other people in a way that presents a persona that isn't what you really are, you've sold yourself away for those people to make them happy.” [7:15] “A lot of times you don't have to tell those lies to be polite, but if you say something that's not true, you yourself end up paying the price.” [8:04] “if it's worth throwing your life away, for one little child, it's worth throwing your life away for another, for your own inner child, for the truth of yourself. [15:08] “There is so much joy in an ordinary day, when you're living in integrity” [20:53] “The shape that fits with integrity is integrity. So you're actually inviting everyone around you to be honest with you, as you're honest with them.” [24:57] “You’re split from yourself because you were trying to be good. And you need to find out where that pulled you away from your truth, and reexamine that, so you can find your truth. And when you have enough of your truth, you act, that's how it works.” [30:49] “When we're pushing ourselves to do more of something, that's not true for us, not in integrity for us, it actually makes the pain much worse very quickly.” [32:34] “for you not to answer your life's purpose would be the ultimate stress.” [38:18] “fill your time with things you love, and subtract the things you don't love. Step by step by step, your whole life will turn around.” [40:38] “you...

Check out our sponsor: Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. How often have you spent time with people you love only to feel frustrated and misunderstood? As humans we are all so complex in our network of feelings and emotions. Unfortunately, we’ve been raised thinking that negative emotions are bad and should be shunned. Many of us are barely holding it together, or are spiraling out of control because we don’t know how to handle the feelings that are leaving us totally overwhelmed. Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist and author joins me and breaks down why we don’t have to run away from those taboo feelings of envy and jealousy. She explains how to communicate better and hold space for your partner or children and allow them to just be heard. This episode is packed with so much you may have to listen a second time. Order Lori’s Latest Book, Maybe You SHould Talk to Someone: https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-You-Should-Talk-Someone-ebook/dp/B07BZ4F75T/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Maybe+You+Should+Talk+to+Someone%3A+A+Therapist%2C+HER+Therapist&qid=1623870198&s=books&sr=1-1 SHOW NOTES: Unreliable Narrator | Why your perspective isn’t the full story, it’s a faulty narrative [0:19] Unknow Yourself | Lori helping people unknow the stories they keep repeating [1:32] Insight | Lori explains why insight without action is useless [3:58] Idiot Compassion | Lori breaks down what this is and why it doesn’t help [5:05] Relationship Filter | Lori’s questions for examining people around you [6:45] Change | Lori on why change is difficult because of uncertainty and loss [8:17] 5 Steps | 5 stages of change to making a permanent change in your life [9:08] Change Anxiety | Getting through unfamiliar territory & anxiety with change [12:39] Choosing to Suffer | Lori on why we don’t choose pain but we choose to suffer [14:06] Numb the Pain | Distracting yourself from pain feeling overwhelmed [15:34] Feeling Compass | Lori on using feelings as a compass to know what you want [17:13] Negative Feelings | Why the way you deal with negative feelings matters most [19:28] Setting Intention | Lori on setting yourself up for a better day with confidence [22:55] Transformation | Lori shares why tiny steps are so important in change [26:35] Future Loss | Lori explains how change collapses the future & holds us back [32:18] Unfinished Business | How cycles repeat when we don’t address past issues [35:30] Selection | Lori confirms why selection is so important for healthy relationship [39:48] Childhood Wounds | Lori on why you have to give up hope for better childhood [41:53] Vulnerability | When someone opens up and how to navigate what they need [45:05 Understand | Why people need to be understood and heard, ask what they need [47:21] QUOTES: “my job as a therapist is to be an editor and to help people to edit these faulty narratives that they come in with.” [1:09] “Where people can really grow and change and communicate better is to understand and be curious about the other person's part of the story, the other person's perspective.” [2:38] “The fact that you're making the change, and that you were very human, and it was difficult sometimes, you're still on the path of success.” [11:49] “When we are in pain, we do something that is going to make us suffer instead of something that is going to help us sit with the pain and move through it in a more healing kind of process.” [14:48] “numbness isn't the absence of feelings. numbness is a sense of being overwhelmed by too many feelings.” [16:26] “feelings are like a compass, they tell us what direction to go in [...] all of our feelings are so useful there, there are no bad feelings, they're all extremely useful” [17:13] “there are no bad feelings. There are unfortunate ways that we deal with them.” [19:29] “therapy is like getting a really good...

Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Teonan: Go to TEONAN.com and use the code WOI to get 15% off your first purchase. What comes to mind when you think of what it takes to be a supportive partner in your relationship? Being in a relationship is beautiful, but you can run the risk of losing yourself if you’re not careful. You have to be mindful to communicate with your partner who you are, what you want, and how you can best be supported. In today’s episode, I am joined by the beautiful badass wife of Dr. Phil, Robin McGraw. They’ve been married over 45 years and she came to debunk any myths you have around what it takes to be a loving and supportive partner, especially when your significant other is larger than life and has a strong personality. She shares why she is so passionate about the importance of taking care of yourself and being okay with putting yourself first in order to show up 100% for your family. She’s unlocking the secrets of what it takes to spend a meaningful and purposeful lifetime together with the one you love, so take notes. SHOW NOTES: Supportive Wife | Robin on wanting to support Dr. Phil and not missing any shows [1:30] Purpose | Not being conflicted about your purpose, making sure your partner supports it [6:44] Changes | Robin explains why talking about changes together in marriage is so important [8:51] Non-Negotiable | Robin on what her deal breaker was and communicating that [10:25] Frustration | Robin on how she powers through anger with journaling and not lashing out [15:51] Put Yourself 1st | Why caring for your family isn’t a sacrifice but requires you to be #1 [18:58] Firm Beliefs | Robin on telling him how to treat you and what you want [28:17] Forgiveness | Robin on Dr. Phil not forgetting to mail hundreds of handwritten letters [30:39] Divorce | Robin discusses why divorce is not an option and early conversations about it [38:10] Payoff Phase | Robin shares what the dessert phase is like after 45 years married [42:40] QUOTES: “I respect myself and I always have. I respect who I am and what I stand for” [19:56] “it's not selfish to put yourself first you have to take care of yourself, so you can take care of those you love.” [21:14] “if you care about your kids, take care of their mother, if you care about your husband, take care of their wife, if you care about your parents take care of their daughter. [24:17] “I never knew how strong I was until I chose to forgive someone who wasn't sorry. and accept an apology that was never given.” [36:30] “The payoff for having so many conversations and working really hard is what the phase to life that we're in right now, and I call it the desert phase of our life.” [42:42] Guest Bio: Robin McGraw, #1 New York Times best-selling author, has been married to TV talk show host Dr. Phil McGraw for over thirty years. His viewers have embraced Robin--whether she's discussing her experiences as a mother and wife or dealing with issues that women face in their lives. Follow Robin McGraw: Website: https://www.ivegotasecretwithrobinmcgraw.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/robin_mcgraw Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robinmcgrawofficial Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robin_mcgraw/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPYeLvLCbf05dLQEwQanb2w

Check out our sponsor: Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Taking control of your health and learning about your body is more important than ever before. With environmental changes affecting your body, foods, and mental stressors, there is no wonder that women are quietly suffering through so many health issues. Dr. Aviva Romm joins me in this episode and just kept shocking me with information about what is going on with women on a hormonal level that is impacting girls as young as 7 years old. We discuss everything from diet to libido, and how you can start gaining control over your days and your power living in harmony with your menstrual cycle because you have a better understanding of how to work with it and not against it. Order Dr. Aviva Romm’s New Book, Hormonal Intelligence: https://www.amazon.com/Hormone-Intelligence-Complete-Balanced-Hormones/dp/0062796216  SHOW NOTES:  Early Menstruation | Dr. Romm explains why girls are starting puberty as early as age 7! [1:15] Hormonal Imbalance | Dr. Romm explains what hormonal imbalance is really costing [2:51] Microbiome | How increased antibiotics impact microbiome and hormones [3:41] Establishing Normal | Dr. Romm explains normal healthy vs. what’s normal ‘common’ [6:56] Quiet Risks | Not discussing issues like endometriosis is causing greater problems [9:36] 6th Vital Sign | Dr. Romm reveals menstrual cycles are the 6th vital sound for women [11:36] Me-Search | Dr. Romm emphasizes the importance of researching your own body [12:28] Behavior & Habits | How to use your cycle to your advantage for improving habits & behaviors [13:53] Diet Tips | Dr. Romm on eating habits around your cycle to improve health & cravings [21:28] Mind-Gut-Health | The shocking connection between the three that tie to your cycle [25:02] Long Term Process | Why you should understand long term health is not overnight [32:06] Sex Drive | Dr. Romm on knowing when you feel most sexual in relation to your period [35:24] Low Sex Drive | Dr. Romm share natural remedies to increase libido [38:46] Body Image | Dr. Romm on why body image and self esteem can lower your libido [42:03] Birth Control | Dr. Romm on what people should know about taking birth control [45:38] Depression | Dr. Romm exposes pill induced depression going unchecked and treated [50:11] QUOTES: “If your hormones are wonky, if things are going on, it’s not your fault, it’s not something you’re doing wrong.” [5:48] “It takes women nine years, on average, multiple different doctors to get a diagnosis.” [10:12] “So we’re doing ourselves a disservice by not pushing for information that we deserve to have.” [11:29] “If your microbiome is disrupted it can really have an impact on your hormones, especially your estrogen.” [26:25] “If you’re not feeling sexy, you’re not going to be feeling sexual” [36:00] “Right now, the use of electronic devices in the bedroom is one of the biggest buzz kills for sex.” [38:23] “In general, for an ongoing healthy sexual relationship and good libido it really is about that connection that we tend to want to get things going.” [41:23] “What I am opposed to is women not being told about the very real risks, and the risks of depression are real and they’re significant.” [46:35] “If you can do something as mild and safe and get lifelong benefits rather than do something that is just suppressive and has risks, why not try the other thing first?” [48:29] Follow Aviva Romm: Website: https://avivaromm.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/avivaromm/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AvivaRommMD Instagram:

Check out our sponsors: Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. What does it take for you to show up everyday? And I mean really show up! If I’m honest, even now after all these years, it can still feel uncomfortable and a bit scary, but I do it anyway. When I come across people that are showing up and being completely vulnerable and authentic to who they truly are, I am struck with admiration. Gigi Gorgeous, the famous YouTuber, Transgender Activist, Author, and so much more has been showing up since 2008 inspiring everyone on what it is to live your best life through the highs and lows. Learn through our candid conversation about being vulnerable, resilient and committed to changing and evolving into your truest self. No matter who you are or how you identify, her story is impactful and inspiring. SHOW NOTES: True Self | Gigi on the ongoing struggle being herself through hard times & being happy [3:18] Avoid Bottom | Seeing others living as their true self and using that to inspire you [5:48] Mental Resilience | Gigi on getting down your thoughts & building up when knocked down [8:30] Internal Transformation | Building confidence with every external change to not comply [12:10] Being Compliant | Gigi on not being compliant and being open to your real thoughts [15:10] Social Media | Gigi on having a healthy relationship with social media and protecting self [16:57] Insecurities | Gigi on not allowing others to project what they’re dealing with onto you [19:26] Getting Hate | Gigi on seeing unkind people as hurt people and not taking it personal [21:57] Evolving | Getting beyond the battles and rising above the grudges you let go of [26:27] Defending Yourself | Ready for battle, ready to talk about it but not defending decisions [29:47] Evolving Together | Gigi shares how her & her spouse have handled many changes [36:22] Labeled | Being empowered by the labels others create, owning it or rejecting as needed [42:53] Vulnerability | Gigi explains why vulnerable is beautiful, and vulnerability is key [44:40] Overcoming | Gigi shares what she is most proud of overcoming so far [46:07] Coming Out | The importance of living your truth, celebrating life, live it to the fullest [49:13] QUOTES: “There’s no better feeling waking up and being yourself, your authentic true self. You don’t have to hide anything, everyone has that. It doesn’t have to be gender thing, it doesn’t have to be sexual orientation thing we all hold things inside and when we let go it’s the most healing and beautiful thing” [2:32] Gigi quote read by Lisa “You can never experience true happiness if you haven’t experienced true sadness” [3:45] “it was all internal for me as well, and then the second I reached out, the second I started making changes, it just felt so good, and I feel like that’s when your confidence really skyrockets” [13:21] “If you can’t look in the mirror and be like b*tch I love the f*ck out of you then something’s got to change” [17:54] “Hey on some days I’m really insecure. Some days I don’t really like the way I look, sound, or am, and I get really down on myself. Those feelings always go away and it’s just about how you deal with them.” [18:29] Gigi quote read by Lisa “When you think about it, it’s impossible to hurt you. What people think of me is none of my business” [19:46] “I can’t ever let any negativity dictate how I show up, and that was the big difference between me caring and letting it dictate my life and caring and not letting it dictate.” Lisa Bilyeu [21:19] “the second that you let that go it's such a gorgeous feeling and it sets you free and honestly it ages you, like if you hold onto all this negativity and anger you’re going to look horrible” [25:54] “I love to say I hate change, but I think I love change, it’s exciting [37:29] Follow Gigi Gorgeous: YouTube:

Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Women’s sexual health has been neglected and shamed for far too long. Between being objectified and treated as taboo, women have been sitting in silence, often not brave enough to start asking questions about what it means to have a great sex life and what it takes to get your partner in on the action. Emily Morse, a sex therapist and host of the popular Sex with Emily podcast, joins me to answer all the embarrassing questions you were too afraid to ask. Emily breaks down exactly how to improve your relationship by first discovering your own pleasure, and then by having conversations with your partner so the two of you can explore and enjoy together. She’s here to change your sex life! Emily’s Yes, No Maybe List: https://sexwithemily.com/yes-no-maybe-the-list-every-relationship-needs/ SHOW NOTES: No Orgasm | Emily on why very few women orgasm with penetration [2:05] Faking Orgasms | Emily lists reason why women fake orgasms and the disservice it is [5:22] Masturbation | Emily explains its importance and why people think masturbation is wrong [6:30] Talking Sex | Emily’s 3 T’s of communication for how to express yourself to your partner [8:49] Sex Fantasies | Why having fantasies is healthy and normal and the 2 types of fantasies [14:11] Spice It Up | Emily reveals 3 things people miss that reveal it’s time to spice things up [16:03] Less Sex Drive | Emily shares what kinds of things may be impacting your sex drive [18:34] Mismatched Libidos | High desire and low desire partners revealed [19:36] Consistency | Emily on the magic number that works & getting in the mood for intimacy [23:18] Prioritizing Sex | Emily explains why sex is one of the top pillars of your relationship [29:27] Normalizing Sex | Emily shares her tips for making sex part of normal conversations [32:29] Porn | Emily shares her views on how porn is not a concern and when it is a concern [34:22] Being Judged | When your fantasies are judged & how soon you can share your desires [37:31] Sexual Confidence | Emily on being confident when discussing your sexual preferences [40:39] Pain During Sex | Why it’s so difficult for women to talk about the pain they experience [43:35] Hard To Say | More things women find difficult to communicate to their partner about sex [46:28] Impossible Orgasm | Emily reveals why she believes every woman can have an orgasm [48:53] QUOTES: “We need good ol’ foreplay. It’s not just a suggestion, it’s actually a requirement. It is a requirement for women to get turned on.” [3:20] “Healthy masturbation is the key to unlocking our own pleasure because we’re responsible for our own orgasm.” [7:00] “even if you're having the most incredible sex, [...] in every single relationship, it's going to get stale [12:09] “If we expect that every time our partner comes up to us, we should be ready to go, then we're not doing our part, we have to keep our own pilot light lit.” [18:16] “We got to make sex fun and something that you share. It’s not up to one person to carry the weight of the sex life.” [20:51] “Most people want to talk about it. They just haven't felt safe or had that person.” [34:01] “If you don't accept your own body, it's going to be really hard to get somebody else on board with it as well” [42:39] “we're going to be the ones who ultimately are going to be able to crack our own code, then we can share it with a partner.” [48:05] Emily Morse Bio: She is an American sex therapist, author, and media personality. She is the host of the long-running podcast Sex with Emily and is also known for her 2012 recurring reality television appearance in Bravo's series...

Check out our Sponsor Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Masculinity is being challenged on all fronts by women, men, judges, and corporate cultures everywhere. In this episode, Justin Baldoni joins me to discuss his new book, Man Enough. We discuss the problems men are facing with finding acceptance among themselves and with their female partners to be more open and vulnerable. The issues facing men today reach beyond just masculinity and ego. It’s an issue affecting women as well. Justin dives into how we as women were raised hearing and being impacted by the same stereotypes on gender roles as men were. Whether you are married, dating, or raising a son, this episode will help you start a conversation around the challenges men are having with learning to be more empathetic and open. Order Justin Baldoni’s new book, Man Enough: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063055597?tag=authorweb-20 SHOW NOTES: Being Human | Responding to error, having the bar set too low, and being empathetic [4:10] Masculinity | Justin unpacks masculine culture and dominance and how to end suffering [8:04] Power | Justin explains breaks down the zero-sum game of exerting power [12:26] Enough | Justin on why feeling enough means other’s success isn’t a threat [18:50] Socialized Women | Justin discusses the behaviors women are taught [22:25] Women Leaders | Justin highlights the disparity in how women are viewed in leadership [24:40] Open Men | When men risk vulnerability but his partner can’t handle it [28:11] Patriarchal Standards| How boys and girls raised desensitized to the same stereotypes [32:11] Traditions | Justin on why questioning is important and it’s not about right or wrong [38:05] Rightful Seat | Justin shares when your ego is tied to where you sit, move your seat [43:01]  QUOTES: “I would never ask women to have compassion for men. I would ask women to see how the patriarchal structure and system hurts men and let that be the entry point into compassion.” [8:29] “I would rather challenge a system that will make me feel less than that will make me feel like a traitor to my own gender, then continue to be miserable.” [10:36] “there's something wrong if I feel confidence, or pleasure exerting power over this person who loves me, for me.” [15:38] “we don't have to seek power. It's not a thing to go and find. It's a thing that's innate within us, and it starts with recognizing our own enoughness.” [16:30] “the second you enter what the patriarchy deems a man's place. You can't be emotional. You're not allowed. You have to conform, and you're immediately judged for the very same things that are okay for men. “ [23:13] “We have to be willing to cry, and be emotional and vulnerable to the women in our lives. And the women in our lives have to brush up against that discomfort.” [34:00] “My hope for men is that they don't feel they have to sit at the head of the table to feel like a man.” [43:02] “I'm on the journey with you. And you know what, I reserve the right to change my opinion and to have my ideas and thoughts changed and challenged. Because I'm growing.” [46:50] Follow Justin Baldoni: Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni? Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/justinbaldoni Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinbaldoni/

Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. It doesn’t matter what culture or social climate you were raised in, you come into adulthood, womanhood carrying the burden of social demands, pressure, and expectations that weigh heavily. Maybe you’ve never questioned the beliefs you have around how a woman acts, what true love looks like, or if being your true authentic self is even an option. Who is she? What does she like? How does she feel about herself, marriage, or children? In this episode, Lisa is joined by the NYT bestselling author and clinical psychologist, Dr. Shefali. The conversation gets super real and right to the heart of breaking down belief systems that are keeping you trapped so you can rethink and discern beliefs that are uniquely empowering for you as an individual woman. Order Dr. Shefali’s book, A Radical Awakening: https://www.aradicalawakening.com/ SHOW NOTES: Belief System | Dr. Shefali on how beliefs restrain you from discovering who you are [2:35] Love Debunked | The idea and agenda of love as an idea that comes with expectations [5:16] Motherhood | Dr. Shefali explores Lisa’s backlash deciding to not have children [11:25] Motherhood Pressure | Dr. Shefali debunks mothers just identifying through their child [17:41] Authentic Life | Dr. Shefali explains and Lisa punctuates discerning life on your terms [23:19] Beauty & Youth | Dr. Shefali breaks down positive & negative of the standard of beauty [26:30] Feeding Insecurities | The problem with tying self-worth to the physical & being powerful [36:45] Niceness | Dr. Shefali debunks being nice and embracing the bitch and authenticity [41:17] True Essence | Dr. Shefali reveals your true essence is not destructible, false self hurts [45:20] Toxic Femininity | When good qualities of femininity is extreme and excessive [47:29]  QUOTES: “we ingest these belief systems and then we robotically follow them, so they encage us, they don’t liberate us” [3:39] “The condition is always there, and there should be conditions. Those are called boundaries. Those are called, my standards, what I need, and we should flourish ourselves with conditions that allow us to blossom.” [8:35] “the fairytale ends when the real relationship begins.” [10:42] “There's a big distinction between biologically bearing a child and being a mother” [12:55] “We need the permission to believe that there are other options so that we can still feel worthy without what culture has told us...” [20:33] “We are at war with our own bodies, because of this inner critic. And we women need to say no more.” [29:26] “I'm learning for myself to neutralize the word cellulite, fat, thin, wrinkles, old. These are judgmental words in culture when actually they're just parts of life.” [31:18] “Everyone can have their own relationship with me. The key is, do I have a relationship with me?” [44:34] Follow Dr. Shefali: Website: https://www.drshefali.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drshefali Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrShefaliTsabary Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKzsU94h-PkLBiF5xHo-SjQ

Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. As humans our desire to be liked and accepted by others is part of the human experience. We are social by nature, so caring what others think about us is something we all experience on some level, but it can feel like kryptonite when you care too much. When it starts affecting our self-esteem, our self-worth, our confidence and our ability to show up, it becomes a problem we need to deal with. In this episode, Lisa introduces the tactics and strategies she uses and reveals how to turn your kryptonite into a superpower that leaves you in charge with your empathy intact.  SHOW NOTES:  Beating Yourself Up | Lisa’s tip for catching yourself and asking ‘what’s the lesson?’ [2:18] Social Anxiety | Lisa shares tips socially awkward situations and having a plan [4:54] People Pleaser | Lisa reframes the problem & defines the main issue with people pleasing [9:56] Inner Critic | Lisa explains why caring isn’t a problem but listening to your gut is crucial [17:32] Caring for Others | Lisa reveals why boundaries and self-care are needed [25:21]  QUOTES:  “So every time negative thought comes in, you ask yourself, what is this telling me? Can I listen to it? Can I just do it? Can I get better? And then use it as getting better” [4:40]  “...overcome the fact that caring and people pleasing can actually become detrimental to you. Don't switch off the part of you that is special. Just develop tactics to overcome them.” [8:52]  “it can be beautiful to complete someone. But if you seek your value in that, that's where it becomes dangerous” [10:36] “your protection is having your own value system that cannot be damaged by external people.” [13:43] “ Give your gut the megaphone and go, now does it feel true? What these people are saying? Does it feel true? [...] But if something doesn't feel right, that someone's telling you, ask yourself why, and start following that thought.“ [22:56]  “....the reason why you give yourself over is because you do care because they are meaningful to you, so don't shut that off, but don't give up who you are.” [28:23] Lisa’s Book Suggestion for Social Anxiety: Captivate by Vanessa Van Edwards, https://www.amazon.com/Captivate-Succeeding-Vanessa-Van-Edwards/dp/0399564489

Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory If you fall into the category of average, you may be dealing with unresolved traumas and experiences that have left your mental and emotional state in chaos. Too many of us have been left coping with behaviors and feelings we don’t quite understand and therefore struggle to resolve. In this episode Lisa explores unresolved trauma, letting go of control, what it takes to surrender and living judgement free with the #1 NY Times bestselling author, Gabby Bernstein. Gabby shows up with grace and honesty to help you step out of the illusion of control into a place where you can exist and create from inspiration and balanced energy. You are capable of being genuine with yourself and letting go of your controlling ways. Take a dive in to get the exact steps how, so you can start today!  SHOW NOTES:  Unresolved Wounds | Gabby breaks down what it means to show up for you wounds [3:06] Honoring Wounds | Gabby shares why honoring your wounds starts with a decision [5:53] Judgement | Gabby on judging others and self and the need for evaluation & compassion [8:42] Self-Care | Gabby on being unapologetic about self-care and making time [13:56] Radical Honesty | Gabby reveals her practice of radical honesty in healthy relationships [19:40] Surrender | Gabby breaks down the difference between surrender and control [22:15] Lose Control | Gabby on letting go of control to succeed and be more grounded [26:31] Control Recovery | 3 steps to letting go of control and identifying negative control [28:53] Inspired Surrender | Gabby on getting into mindset of surrender and allowing inspiration [32:48] Choose Again | Gabby shares 3 steps to mentally recondition negative thoughts [34:43] Trauma | Gabby on her experience recovering traumatic experience & the gratitude [39:41]   QUOTES:  “...unresolved wounds from attachment breach, from childhood experiences, from feelings of being unlovable, and not good enough, [...] they will show up until you show up for them” [3:11]  “So you have these moments in life where you are in the wound, you feel the experience, and you realize there has to be a better way. Those moments are a miracle because an invisible door opens for you” [7:12]  “when we're judging, we're actually projecting out a disowned part of our shadow, a part of us that is unresolved, a part of us that is still needing resources and healing and support.” [9:38]  “if my temple, if my energy field, if my physical presence, if my mental psyche is not steady its not at ease, it's not regulated, then everything in my life gets dysregulated” [14:15]  “when people walk their talk, that is when they become unapologetic. Because it's no longer this thing I have to prove, it's something that I have to stand by.” [17:39]  “when it comes to giving advice to others, and caring for others, just just telling the truth, is the most loving thing we can do.” [20:55]  “surrender isn't giving up, it's giving over, it's welcoming a path, that may not be what we expected, it's taking our hands off the wheel, releasing control, opening up our consciousness to something that could be this or something better.” [22:17]  “So when you release the control, you've relaxed your container, which is your energy field, your nervous system, and in that relaxed state, you have far more power to create and to cultivate.” [28:15]  “you can still be in the pursuit of growth and healing and feel really fucking great at the same time.” [42:40]  Follow Gabby Bernstein: Website: https://gabbybernstein.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabbybernstein/

Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Sometimes it’s not about the marriage or the kids, or anyone else. Sometimes you go all out and are in it to win just for you. Fun fact, there are 114% more women entrepreneurs now than there were 20 years ago (source). In this episode two successful badass women entrepreneurs discuss purpose, life, taking pause from everything to reconnect with yourself and listening to your gut. A woman’s journey is never easy, but Camila Alves McConaughey opens up about the fulfillment, the rejection, the pain and the success she’s found along the way following her intuition. She and Lisa jump right in to get real, get vulnerable and get practical about what it takes to start successful businesses and balance marriage and kids. Episode Photos - Courtesy of Camila Alves’ Instagram  SHOW NOTES:  Business Journey | Camila recounts rejections and obstacles starting Yummy Spoonfuls [1:17] Purpose | Knowing when to leave and understanding the purpose of your business & self [5:32] Family Effort | Camila explains the importance of involving the family with business plans [9:03] Seasons of Life | Picking the right path for the season and knowing your priorities [15:07] Take Pause | Not getting lost in the journey and quieting the negative voices [20:58] Evolving | Growing with the journey and having new goals as we reassess [24:35] Ask Questions | Camila on how to ask yourself questions and find answers and therapy [26:34] Time for You | Giving yourself time to reconnect to you and find your adventure [31:17] Intuition | Camila and Lisa discuss going with intuition & listening to you gut responsibly [34:47]  QUOTES: “So I think that having a purpose is so important beyond [what] you can even imagine because the hard times are going to come, the doubts are going to come, the questions are going to come and the sacrifice is going to come, so you need to have that purpose really clear to yourself, so it helps you through the journey.” [8:31]  “I do believe [in] hard work and do things for the right reasons. [...] Be a good human and the universe and people around you, they will see that. It kind of shelters and you will find your path and you'll find your journey.” [38:26]  “if you just really seek to do better for yourself, you can do better for others around you and for your community.” [39:29] Follow Camila Alves McConaughey: Website: https://womenoftoday.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/iamcamilaalves Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wotbycamila/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/camilamcconaughey/?hl=en

Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you’re not sure what to look out for, or you think your partner’s behaviors are a bit questionable, then today’s episode is going to reveal all the red flags and warnings of toxic unhealthy relationships you’ll want to avoid as early as possible.  SHOW NOTES: Identifying Flags | Know difference between toxic behavior and not being the right match [0:28] The Facade | Get past the representative to avoid a commitment to the wrong person [3:56] Narcissist Trap | When you’ve been disregarded 3 times staying is devaluing yourself [9:45] Lack Empathy | If your partner is not showing empathy it could signal a narcissistic trait [12:19] Unbalanced Effort | Acknowledge the gap, their intentions, and if the gap is reduced [14:54] Self Righteousness | Watch out for rigid people that thinks they’re right and knows better [19:48] Misaligned Values | Not aligned and lacking a mutual respect for the other perspective [20:55] Jumping Conclusions | Not attributing the absolute worst intention to behaviors [28:40] No Boundaries | A partner tries to set boundaries over your boundaries to stop you [30:58] Weaponized Insecurities | Using trusted information against a partner is broke trust [33:48] Broken Trust | Don’t live in fear of trusting others, trust in yourself [35:13]  Matthew Hussey is a dating expert on ABC’s What To Text Him Back, columnist for Cosmopolitan Magazine and NY Times Bestselling author. He is a specialist in human attraction and relationship-coaching all over the world. Spirit is the owner and clinical director of her mental health group practice T2S Enterprises. She is also the host of Love Goals on the Oprah Winfrey Network. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, best-selling author, professor, speaker and more. She is the go to expert on narcissism devoted to demystifying toxic narcissistic relationships.  Evy Poumpouras is a former U.S. Secret Service Special Agent turned TV personality, host and multimedia journalist that authored the book, Becoming Bulletproof. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a therapist, content creator and author. Her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace dives deep into healthy boundaries and how to say no. Tom Bilyeu is co-founder of Impact Theory along with his wife, Lisa Bilyeu. His mission is to pull people out of the matrix at scale through mindset   QUOTES:  “when someone is saying something that's not been earned yet, by the point in relationship you're at, that is something of a red flag.” Matthew Hussey [2:27]  “people will tell you one thing, but their behavior can tell you something completely different. It takes time in order to see that.” Spirit [5:55] “with a narcissistic person, the earlier you leave, the easier it is to extract, right” Dr. Ramani [11:11]  “people reveal who they are not through their words, but through situations. And you have to in order to really see who someone is you have to see them in in enough situations.” Matthew Hussey [15:24]  “Highlight the gap in a classy and tactful way. Look at whether this person acknowledges the gap because it's usually the sign of a toxic relationship if the gap can't even be acknowledged.” Matthew Hussey [18:08]  “You have to look at people holistically who they are with everybody, because that's going to come back to you.” Evy Poumpouras [20:40]  “without immediately labeling, without immediately accusing if we can create just a little bit of space between the point at which we get curious and the point at which we've drawn all of our conclusions, that space saves relationships…” Matthew Hussey [29:32]  “So the more you increase your language around what's happening in the situation, the better you will be at recognizing when someone is trying to set boundaries over your boundaries.” Nedra Glover Tawwab [32:28] 

Check out our Sponsor Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you find it a struggle to love yourself in spite of how much you put on the line day after day for everyone else? How can it be so easy to put others first? Have you ever wondered, If you said to others what you say to yourself, would they love you, could they trust you or build a deeper connection with you? Lisa speaks with Jordan Green, a licensed therapist and coach, and the founder of the Love Group about the importance of self-validation, self-love and relationships in this episode. Jordan shares incredible insights on what it takes to have healthy relationships, what healthy conflict looks like and how it all starts with first valuing and loving yourself.  SHOW NOTES:  Know Your Value | The importance of your value and how it impacts your relationships [1:29] Love Letters | You can start doing these two simple things to start valuing yourself today [2:16] Seeking Validation | When seeking validation is okay and where it becomes a problem [3:40] Healthy Relationships | What validation looks like in a health relationship [7:25] Interdependence | Jordan breaks down what healthy identities look for couples [8:28] Nonverbal Communication | Jordan breaks down 4 types of communication breaking down relationships [10:17] Criticism | Jordan explains how criticism breaks down relationships [11:25] Contempt | Jordan explains how contempt is the greatest predictor of divorce [12:49] Defensiveness | Jordan explains how defensiveness escalates conflict [15:59] Stonewalling | Jordan on how emotional overwhelm can lead to shutting down [17:48] Self Regulate | Jordan explains techniques to self regulate or co-regulate [ 20:54] Turning Towards | The power of turning towards a person seeking your attention [22:54] Healthy Conflict | Jordan shares healthy and unhealthy ratios of conflict in relationships [25:13] Better Relationship Tips | Small bank appreciation deposits and minimal withdrawals [27:17] Not Being Needy | Jordan on how to communicate and not feel needy in a relationship [31:43] Rupture Repairs | How to repair those ruptures when they happen and the effort it takes [33:28] 1-2-3 Baby! | How Lisa and Tom resolve their conflicts and one is emotionally sober [37:08] Certainty & Uncertainty | The healthy balance of both in a relationship [41:34]  QUOTES: “If you know what you have to bring to the table and the value that you bring to a relationship, it's going to make that relationship that much better.” [1:56] “validation is a skill that I think everyone should learn how to validate each other, and it's okay to sometimes feel like you need validation from the people around you, the issue is that when we need validation from others to feel lovable, and worthy.” [4:15] “So we have to retrain our minds by starting to focus on our partner’s strength and positive traits. And we have to start making repairs by making efforts to connect and communicate openly and show appreciation and love for each other.” [25:01] “I think a lot of times we feel guilty, like we shouldn't have to ask for that validation, or appreciation or love or, or to have to ask to do activities that help us to feel more connected, but it's totally okay to ask, and it's so important to ask,” [32:07] “It's totally normal to experience times of disconnection in our relationships. A lot of people think that we shouldn't have conflict. We have these beliefs from our childhood or just from society that we shouldn't have conflicts that until we avoid it, or we feel like there's something wrong, but it's totally normal to experience conflict, there's totally, it's totally normal to experience times of disconnection in your relationship.” [39:39]  Follow Jordan Green: Website: https://jordanandrea.com/

Check out our Sponsors Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Do you ever feel pressured to behave a certain way because your family, friends, or society expect it from you? Most of us want to be liked, but by trying to please everyone, we end up pleasing no one—ourselves included. That’s why most people don’t live the life they want. But how do you stay true to yourself if your best friends and your family shame you publicly? How do you stick to your choices under overwhelming pressure to change and adapt to others’ opinions? In this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by the YouTube phenomenon Haifa Beseisso to discuss such matters and more as they explore how Haifa went from getting rejected to traveling around the world by succeeding on YouTube. How to keep going even if your closest friends judge your choices. Why awareness is the key to change, and what needs to change to give everyone the freedom to make their own choices. They discuss how to stay emphatic to people that try to tear you down, and what to do if you feel like other people don’t understand you, and much more.   SHOW NOTES:  Lisa introduces today’s guest Haifa Beseisso and shares why she´s a role model for being authentic. [0:00] What Haifa loved about Lisa when they first met and why this video is not about motivating other women to remove their hijab. [2:15] How Haifa went from getting rejected to traveling around the world by succeeding on YouTube. [4:40] How to keep going even if your closest friends judge your choices. [8:09] Why listening to your body can uncover if you should change. [15:02] Why awareness is the key to change. [21:20] What really needs to change to give everyone the freedom to make their own choices. [24:30] Haifa´s tactics to handle depression and find her soul´s mission. [31:18] How to stay emphatic to people that try to tear you down. [37:32] What to do if you feel like other people don´t understand you. [40:00] How Haifa deals with family attacking her and the choice you have at that moment. [45:15] Haifa shares how you can connect with her. [53:24]   QUOTES:  “I deserve respect. Me and any girl that’s standing to make any choice that they want. We need to learn how to do that.” [11:59]  “I used to really care about being loved by everybody, and my biggest growth was: “You don´t all have to like me.” [18:30]  “What I´ve learned is that there isn´t some ultimate truth. What could be true to me might not be true for another girl living in Jordan or Syria or America. What´s important is that we have the ability to think and know what our choices are as individuals, as all genders, and decide for ourselves without controlling one another.” [25:13]  “Instead of seeing them as an attacker, I feel sorry for them.” [38:00]  “The more we are open to seeing different realities and truths, the more we can live freely.” [51:50]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW HAIFA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flywithhaifa/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-utv5IW04U Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/flywithhaifa/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/flywithhaifa/

Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Today is the day to go from underestimated to unstoppable. It’s time to learn how to turn your setbacks into set-ups for success. Now is the time to push through failure and obstacles holding you back to build the unstoppable self-belief you need. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by one of Forbes America’s Richest Self-Made Women, Jamie Kern Lima, and CEO of the BRNGroup, Dia Simms, two women behind billion-dollar brands with incredible success stories. They discuss why most female entrepreneurs fail and what to do when you keep failing, and you can’t get back up again. Jamie shares how she managed to take on big risks and pushed through no after no. They explore the one moment, Jamie doubted herself most, yet she decided to trust her gut, thus completely changed her business. Dia shares how she failed with her first company, but what she learned made her successful 15 years later. Jamie reveals why your setbacks are actually your set-ups for success and much more.   SHOW NOTES:  Lisa introduces today´s guests, two women behind billion-dollar brands. [00:04] Dia and Jamie share why most female entrepreneurs fail. [5:17] What to do when you keep failing, and you can´t get back up. [10:10] Why entrepreneurship is actually the safer road. [12:24] Jamie shares how she managed to take on big risks and pushed through “no” after “no.” [13:21] The one moment, Jamie doubted herself most, yet decided to trust her gut, thus completely changed her business. [19:04] Why success is about taking risks over and over again and how to do that. [21:17] Dia shares how she failed with her first company, but what she learned made her successful 15 years later. [23:16] Jamie reveals why your setbacks are actually your set-ups for success. [26:20] What you will be most proud of when you´re successful. (Not what you think.) [29:09] Lisa, Dia, and Jamie share what they still struggle with today. [30:00]   QUOTES: “The truth is none of us sat there and just loved ourselves. It has been an ongoing effort and work to look at our insecurities, our negative voice, all the things we had to go through.” [4:55]  “I have the capability inside me because that is just science.” [11:25]  “The greatest risk is not to trust yourself.” [14:08]  “I would rather stand for something in that moment than sell a whole lot of products and stand for nothing.” [19:04]  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW JAMIE: Website: https://jamiekernlima.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamie-kern-lima-35574a71/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JamieKernLima Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JamieKernLimaPage/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamiekernlima/  FOLLOW DIA: Website: https://www.diasimms.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diasimms/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/diasimms?lang=de Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diasimms/?hl=en

Check out our Sponsor Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Why do we stay in bad relationships? If you find yourself in one bad relationship after another, it could be a sign that you’d rather be with anyone than be on your own. Many people become complacent and settle for less than they deserve just because they like the idea of having someone. But how do you know if you are settling for less than you deserve? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Certified Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, & Bestselling Author Stephan Labossiere, a.k.a Stephan Speaks. They explore three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. Stephan explains the bad advice that makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. Furthermore, Stephan shares the fundamentals that every successful relationship needs and why a connection isn´t built, how to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. He explains why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone and what to do if your partner has changed in a negative way and how to differentiate tough times with when it’s time to break up with your partner.   SHOW NOTES: Three common reasons why most women settle for an unfulfilling relationship. [00:20] Why Lisa stayed with her ex-boyfriend before she met Tom. [1:41] This lousy advice makes most people stay in relationships they don´t belong in. [2:01] The fundamentals that every successful relationship needs. [3:29] Why connection can´t be built, and even a great connection is not enough for a successful relationship. [11:23] How to know whether you’re listening to your fear or intuition. [14:30] Why analyzing everything is sabotaging your relationship. [15:51] This is what kills most relationships and the three things you have to learn to build a successful relationship. [17:20] Why couples lose attraction and how to recreate attraction if you feel it´s gone. [21:59] What to do if your partner has changed negatively. [29:10] How to differentiate tough times with when it´s time to break up with your partner. [34:45] This mindset is the reason for Lisa´s long-lasting, happy relationship with Tom. [36:59] Implement this communication habit to keep your relationship on track. [38:48] Why being authentic from the beginning is essential for a lasting relationship. [41:25] Stephan shares how to connect with him. [43:30]   QUOTES: “Women confuse intuition and fear, and they allow fear to overrun their intuition.” [14:28]  “Especially within relationships where two people have a connection: This is the person that could hurt you the most and make you the happiest.” [18:12]  “We got to recognize the difference between the person who doesn´t belong in our lives and continues to do wrong and the person who does belong in our life and makes mistakes.” [20:34]  “The majority of people are not with the person they most love. The majority of people are not with someone they have a connection with.” [36:08]   FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW STEPHAN: Website: https://www.stephanspeaksshop.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/RelationshipExpert1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/

Check out Our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Are you tired of feeling lost with no purpose? Most people wake up one day and realize they have no idea what they should do with their lives. But what would happen if you allow yourself to trust your gut and step into your true authentic self? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Former National Spokesperson, #1 Best Selling Personal Finance Author and Speaker & Money Maven of the Steve Harvey Morning Show, Patrice Washington. They explore why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. Patrice shares how her career skyrocketed after she accepted herself. They discuss why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful and much more.  Pre-order Patrice´s book “Redefine Wealth for Yourself, How to Stop Chasing Money and Finally Live Your Life's Purpose” https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08RSNZQ7M?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420  SHOW NOTES:  Why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. [1:22] Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. [3:04] Why you´re confused and feel like something is missing even when you read all the books. [3:58] How to build passion around the things you´re good at even when your natural gifts are unsexy. [6:34] How Patrice’s career skyrocketed after she accepted herself and stopped caring about others. [7:35] The story about how Lisa first met Patrice and why Lisa was shocked when Patrice started to speak. [10:24] Why most people put their talent in a box and how to unleash it. [11:50] How Patrice threw away her suits, started to live into her authentic self, and why the reaction that followed made her cry. [13:40] Why you shouldn´t leave room for a plan B and go all-in when you make a real decision. [15:00] Why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful. [16:20] How Patrice transformed from being insecure to badass self-esteem with the first pillar of her book. [17:47] The confident practices Patrice still does to this day. [21:00] How to use her book´s second pillar to create wealthy relationships that matter. [23:10] What is Patrice´s first responsibility, and what does she prioritize in her life above everything else. [26:40] Why Patrice turned down interviews with huge platforms that would´ve brought in lots of sales. [29:00] How Patrice trust and acts on what feels right for her. [30:20] The pillar of faith that helped Patrice through the most challenging times when her child died. [33:34] Three things you really need to be successful. (Most people will realize their current goals don´t matter.) [37:30] Why even when you feel miserable right now, you´re exactly on the right way. [43:18] How to know if it´s just a roadblock or if something isn´t for you. [45:26] Why you shouldn´t give up even when you feel like nothing is working. [49:00] Patrice shares how to connect with her. [52:27]   QUOTES:  “I believe purpose will connect you to the people you´re supposed to serve. That´s why I don´t care about pissing everybody else off.” [17:02]  “Your business is only going to grow to the extent you´re willing to heal.” [19:49]  “The thing that has allowed me to keep going is this idea, that none of those things happen to me; they happen for me.” [34:30]  “We have to do it until other people believe it. We have to show up until they start to show up. If we don´t show up for ourselves, why would anyone else?” [39:40]  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh...

Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Do you casually throw a narcissist label on people simply because they were unkind, harsh, or brief with you? How do you know if a person is truly narcissistic or just experiencing emotions or a situation that hasn’t been communicated? In this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu speaks with Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist, best-selling author, expert of narcissism and so much more. Dr. Ramani and Lisa go deep into the world of narcissism. Together they walk you through a complete journey to getting a better understanding of the narcissist, their motivators, and how you may be allowing yourself to be the victim. Dr Ramani begins with the 6 types of narcissistic behaviors and teaches you what the narcissistic game is and how you can play to win by removing yourself or taking responsibility for staying.  Order Dr Ramani’s book, “Don’t You Know Who I Am?” https://www.amazon.com/Dont-You-Know-Who-Entitlement/dp/1682617521/ref=sr_1_2crid=3DVXDMXL6FQAD&dchild=1&keywords=dr.+ramani+durvasula&qid=1614728895&sprefix=Dr.+Ram%2Caps%2C221&sr=8-2  SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa welcomes Dr. Ramani Durvasula Define | Dr. Ramani explains what a narcissist is? [3:52] Grandiose | Dr. Ramani defines the classical grandiose narcissist [3:53] Covert | Dr. Ramani defines the covert narcissist [4:34] Malignant | Dr. Ramani defines the malignant narcissist [5:01] Communal | Dr Ramani defines the communal narcissist [5:35] Neglectful | Dr Ramani defines the neglectful narcissist [6:10] Self Righteous | Dr Ramani defines the self-righteous narcissist [6:42] Insecurity | Dr. Ramani explains the relationship between narcissism and insecurity Pathological Insecurity | Dr. Ramani explains the difference between Pathologically insecure and conventionally insecure [8:30]  Misconceptions | Dr. Ramani talks about the misconceptions of narcissism [11:02] Relational Responsibility | Dr. Ramni explains the responsibility of respect, empathy and clarity[17:07] Not Changing | Dr. Ramani explains what to do when they are not going to change [19:41] Red Flags | Dr. Ramani reveals red flags to look for [20:40] Rules of Three | Dr. Ramani breaks down rules of engagement with narcissistic people [21:00] Wanting is Fine | Dr. Ramani explains it is okay to want what you want, but accept truth [23:22] Devaluing Yourself | Dr. Ramni explains about devaluation of yourself dealing with narcissist [24:14] The Game | Dr. Ramani reveals the narcissist's game [25:15] Avoid the Trap | Dr. Ramani explains how to void the narcissistic trap [26:00] Abandonment Issues | Dr. Ramani reveals narcissist have abandonment issues [26:30] Holding Safe Space | Dr. Ramani explains holding space when you’ve hurt someone [28:25] Communication | Dr. Ramani explains narcissistic people shut the lines of communication [29:45] Conversations | Dr. Ramani talks about having conversations when you’ve been shut out [31:17] Identify Narcissism | Dr. Ramani explains how important it is to identify these behaviors immediately [31:58] Charisma | Dr. Ramani explains the connection between charismatic people and narcissist [32:28] Changing a Narcissist | Dr. Ramani reveals her thoughts if narcissists can change their rigid behavior [37:17] Men vs. Women Narcissists | Dr. Ramani explains social impact on behaviors that impact narcissistic behaviors in men and women [42:07] Raising Kids | Dr. Ramani shares tips how to raise children to not be narcissistic [44:17]  QUOTES: “Too many people try to draw water out of empty wells, they want people to communicate with them the way that they want. If this is not working for you then leave. Do not try to...

Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you find yourself living your life on others terms? Do you tend to let your friends, family, and even strangers influence your goals, dreams, and what you’re ultimately capable of? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by celebrity life coach, nutritional expert, and CEO Cynthia Garcia to discuss such matters and more as they explore the power of changing your perspective on your life, rewriting the stories you tell yourself, and how to live life on your own terms as your true authentic self. They discuss how to reframe your perspectives, why you need to look inward, how to get used to discomfort and change, why you need to understand and change the stories you tell yourself, the silver-lining of trauma and pain, how to stop focusing on what others think of you, why it’s okay to not always be happy, the power of curiosity, and much more.  SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa introduces and welcomes today’s guest, Cynthia Garcia. [2:20] Reframe | Cynthia reveals the power of reframing and controlling your perspectives. [5:00] Inside | Cynthia reveals why you have to look inward and refrain from ‘numbing out.’ [7:28] Release | Cynthia reveals why getting uncomfortable is required for change. [9:30] Unstuck | Cynthia reveals how to break negative patterns and get unstuck from your rut. [10:35] Change | Cynthia reveals what you need to be truly change the course of your life. [17:38] S.T.O.R.Y. | Cynthia reveals the power of understanding the stories you tell yourself. [20:15] Immerse | Cynthia reveals the power of immersing yourself in the world you desire. [30:17] Endings | Cynthia reveals what to do if your story truly doesn’t have a happy ending. [32:00] Trauma | Cynthia reveals how the impactful events of your life form your narrative. [33:33] Aware | Cynthia reveals why you need to make an effort to be aware of your stories. [37:56] Naysayers | Cynthia reveals how to let go of what other people think of you. [42:31] Know Yourself | Cynthia reveals why you must know the truth about who you are. [45:12] Happiness | Cynthia reveals the truth about why it’s okay to not be always happy. [50:15] Stay Curious | Cynthia reveals why you should remain curious in life. [53:46] Enjoy Pain | Cynthia reveals the power and beauty of pain in your life. [56:48] Connect | Cynthia shares how you can stay connected to learn more. [1:01:14]  QUOTES: “Our past is creating our present and, if we’re not careful, it will also create our future.” [6:30]  “So there’s two requirements to do this work — two. One is you have to be willing and you have to be ready. If you can’t see it, you’re not ready…” [18:33]  “That’s what stories are… We give meaning to events that don’t have them, but we need to make sense of it…” [26:52]  “Any real solution that doesn’t explore our underlying feelings of shame, and unworthiness, and deep-seated beliefs that we hold is a distraction. It’s a distraction from the real work that needs to be done and trying to be happy all the time is a distraction. You can’t understand how to be happy all the time if you don’t know what makes you sad. You cannot know the light if you’ve never seen the darkness.” [51:27]  FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW CYNTHIA: Website: cynthiagarcia.com Website: transformationalnutrition.com Instagram: instagram.com/iamcynthiagarcia Facebook: facebook.com/iamcynthiagarcia

Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Life is going to knock you down. You are going to have setbacks. It’s almost certainly inevitable. Still, it’s on you, and you alone to push away the temptation to simply become a victim of life. Instead, you must rise above, stand tall, and continuously adapt as life throws you curveballs. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by author, reporter, host of the ‘Better Together’ podcast, and all-around badass Maria Menounos to discuss such matters and more as they explore how to overcome setbacks in life and why you need to find your voice, feel a sense of empowerment, and start putting yourself first. They discuss Maria’s incredible journey from entertainment reporter to overcoming a brain tumor, why you need to feel a sense of empowerment, the power of being open to every perspective, why hardship is a blessing, how Maria has re-defined her definition of success, why you need to live life on your own terms, the power of purpose, and much more. Listen to Maria’s all-new podcast, ‘Better Together with Maria Menounos’: mariamenounos.com  SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest Maria Menounos. [0:30] Journey | Maria shares her incredible journey of discovering she had a brain tumor. [3:00] Learning | Maria reveals what she would have done differently when looking back. [9:06] Empowered | Maria reveals how to empower yourself to start speaking your mind. [13:36] Possibilities | Maria reveals why you have to think of every perspective possible. [20:56] Hardship | Maria reveals how she pushes through pain and overcomes challenges. [23:18] Success | Maria reveals why it’s okay to radically re-define your definition of success. [28:11] Living Your Way | Maria reveals why she decided live her life on her own terms. [33:08] Dreams | Maria shares how her dreams have evolved and shifted over time. [37:48] Purpose | Maria reveals the little things that led her to finding her purpose. [41:16] Connect | Maria reveals how to stay connected and follow her for more. [43:50]  QUOTES: “…I know our beliefs create a chemistry in our bodies that make shit happen.” [19:29]  “You have to realize that your pain, your traumas, they can all be your fuel. They can be your ally in your pursuit of your dream.” [26:43]  “For me, it was redefining success and knowing that just because I can doesn’t mean I should and then making choices that supported that — or it’s like, “Is this gonna serve my soul? Is this gonna to make me feel like I’m living my purpose? Or is this going to make me feel happy and have fun?” And if it wasn’t, I was like, “Well, not interested.”” [42:10]  FOLLOW LISA:  Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW MARIA:  Website: mariamenounos.com YouTube: youtube.com/mariamenounos Instagram: instagram.com/bettertogetherwithmaria Instagram: instagram.com/mariamenounos Facebook: facebook.com/MariaMenounos/ Twitter: twitter.com/mariamenounos

Check out our Sponsors Relationship Theory YouTube channel: Watch and subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/c/RelationshipTheory Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. The term ‘toxic relationship’ gets thrown around quite often in today’s digital age, but what does it actually mean? How can you truly identify the red flags and warning signs of one? How do you know you’re not the problem in the relationship? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by the world's leading dating advice expert Matthew Hussey to discuss such matters and more as they explore the red flags of a toxic relationship and what to do if you spot them. They discuss why not everything is toxic just because it was labeled as so, why the rationale behind your feelings might be invalid, how to properly approach a breakup, what to do after you’ve broken up, how to heal your trust issues, why you need to be self-aware and self-reflective, why you need to have compassion when approaching your partner, and much more.  SHOW NOTES:  Intro | Lisa welcomes back today’s guest and relationship expert, Matthew Hussey. [1:03] Red Flags | Matthew reveals the key red flags to watch out for in your relationship. [2:36] Toxic | Matthew reveals how labeling things as ‘toxic’ can be going over the line. [6:30] Feelings | Matthew reveals why the rationale behind our feelings may be invalid. [12:22] Breakups | Matthew reveals why people use language poorly while exiting a relationship. [16:23] Post-Breakup | Matthew reveals why reaching out after a breakup can lead to pain. [19:22] Forgiveness | Matthew reveals why it can be so difficult to forgive. [22:46] Trust | Matthew reveals how to let go of the pain from your past relationships. [23:40] Compassion | Matthew reveals the power of approaching your partner with compassion. [30:05] Healthy Signs | Matthew reveals what to look for early into a relationship. [33:03] It Might Be You | Matthew reveals why you need to reflect and have self-awareness. [36:32] Be Curious | Matthew reveals why you should never rush to drawing a conclusion. [39:08] Vulnerable | Matthew discusses why you need to be vulnerable. [43:08] Connect | Matthew shares how you can connect with him to learn more. [45:50] QUOTES: “…when we’re scared, when we’re hurt, when we’re wounded, we have our favorite weapon. Our favorite weapon could be passive aggression. Our favorite weapon could be the silent treatment. Our favorite weapon could be storming off — it could be attacking you. We all have our favorite weapon and I think we often scare people off in relationships not because of our wounds, we scare them off with our weapons.” [7:45]  “You don’t trust that someone’s never going to betray you, you just trust that you’ll be able to handle it if they do.” [27:55]  “It’s very difficult, especially when someone is making us feel like we’re overreacting, to get impartial and to say, “Where is the line between me asking too much and me asking the right amount?” … and sometimes I think people don’t realize they’re toxic because they’re so convinced of their story.” [38:48]  FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW MATTHEW: Website: getcoreconfidence.com YouTube: youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Instagram: instagram.com/thematthewhussey Facebook: facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Twitter: twitter.com/matthewhussey TikTok: tiktok.com/@thematthewhussey

Check out our Sponsor Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Do you struggle with self doubt and a habit of putting yourself down right as you’re getting started on a new path? Do you tell yourself things like “I’m not good enough,” “I’ll never meet their expectations,” or “What’s the point of even trying?” It’s time to silence that negative inner voice for good and start walking on a path towards empowerment, encouragement, and letting your true self shine. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu answers your questions about how to overcome these negative inner voices and stomp out self rejection and doubt. She discusses how to own your true self, why you need to speak to yourself with encouraging language, how to not let others dictate your decisions, how to start valuing yourself, and how to set expectations that serve you in life.  SHOW NOTES:  Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about overcoming self doubt and self rejection. [0:20] Being You | Lisa reveals how to block out your self doubt and own your true self. [1:09] Build Yourself Up | Lisa reveals the power of using encouraging language with yourself. [7:16] Keep Showing Up | Lisa shares how to stop others from dictating your decisions. [11:22] You’re Valuable | Lisa reveals the importance of building a foundation of valuing yourself. [19:15] Expectations | Lisa reveals how to have expectations that serve you in life. [26:36]  QUOTES: “So, be the student, don’t worry about all the failures or the mistakes you’re going to make — that’s part of the process. So you want to know the language I use, “It’s part of the process, I’m a student.”” [11:08]  “It’s not about whether you care or not, it’s about whether you act or if you freeze. That’s what matters.” [13:14]  “…eventually start showing people, start taking action, show what you’re made of, and who you are, and who you’ve decided to be… but first it comes to ‘decide who you want to be.’” [17:24]  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW

Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you struggle to say no when others demand or expect something from you? Do you fold under pressure, constantly apologize, and have a fear of disappointing others? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by therapist, content creator, and author Nedra Glover Tawwab to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways you can begin to set powerful and clear boundaries in your life while still maintaining healthy, loving relationships. They discuss how to acknowledge the boundaries you need to set, how to shift the language you use to put you in control of situations, how to handle conflicting boundaries within your relationships, why you need to take ownership over your choices, how to handle disrespect, the power of being clear, why you need to stop apologizing, how to maintain boundaries after setting them, and much more.  Pre-Order Nedra’s book, ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’: amazon.com/dp/0593192095/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_6LXdGbMN7FMVF  SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest, Nedra Glover Tawwab. [1:46] Acknowledge | Nedra reveals how to acknowledge the boundaries you need in your life. [3:22] Recognize | Nedra reveals why you need to recognize when you’re being manipulated. [5:51] Language | Nedra reveals why you need to develop the language you use. [8:23] Boundaries | Nedra reveals how to deal with conflicting boundaries in your relationships. [9:13] Fine Line | Nedra discusses why you need to set boundaries with others within yourself. [11:57] Choices | Nedra reveals how you can take ownership over the relationships in your life. [14:06] Do This | Nedra reveals what to do if someone isn’t respecting your boundaries. [17:18] Empower | Nedra discusses the empowerment within recognizing you have the choice. [21:26] Lifestyle | Nedra reveals how you can build your lifestyle around empowering yourself. [23:42] Being Clear | Nedra reveals how to be clear with others about your boundaries. [26:50] Fear | Nedra reveals why you need to get over the fear of disappointing others. [30:03] Don’t Apologize | Nedra reveals how to avoid apologizing when you shouldn’t be. [33:20] All Around You | Nedra reveals how boundaries are constantly all around you. [34:56] Restate | Nedra shares how to keep boundaries in tact with your relationships. [38:20] Co-Dependency | Nedra shares how boundaries are healthy in your relationship. [41:26] What’s Key | Nedra shares the one key thing you can start immediately. [44:51] Connect | Nedra discusses her book and how you can stay connected with her. [46:52]  QUOTES:  “The more you increase your language around what’s happening in the situation, the better you will be at recognizing when someone is trying to set boundaries over your boundaries. They’re really trying to say, “Hey, I don’t want you to talk to me about this thing and this is how I’m going to get you to stop.”” [8:00]  “You can’t make a person respect your boundary, you can only make a request. So you can say, “This is what I need, I would really like,” but you can’t change another person’s behavior…” [13:03]  “The person that I have to please the most is me. It doesn’t mean that what I need or what I want is more important than anyone else, but I certainly believe in self-care first because I cannot care for anyone or anything before I care for myself.” [31:20]  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW NEDRA: Website: nedratawwab.com Instagram: instagram.com/nedratawwab Facebook: facebook.com/nedratawwab/ 

Check out our Sponsors Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Believe it or not, the person you talk with most in your life is actually yourself. Are you treating yourself with kindness, grace, acceptance and love? Or are you harsh, unkind, brutal, and unforgiving towards the person you see in the mirror? It’s time for you to away from the scale and step towards a path of self-love and acceptance. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by award-winning fitness instructor, entrepreneur, and creator of ‘Blogilates’ Cassey Ho to discuss such matters and more as they explore why it’s critical you silence your inner negative-voice and begin to treat yourself with love, acceptance, and grace everyday, no matter your weight or size. They discuss the importance of being your true self, why you should love yourself unconditionally, how to end your negative thoughts, the four stages of your relationship with the scale, how to approach health, how to stop hating yourself and start loving yourself instead, the rules you need to set for yourself, why grace is important in growth, and the key steps you can take to get started today.  SHOW NOTES:  Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest, Cassey Ho. [0:47] Transformation | Cassey shares her realization that she wasn’t being truly herself. [3:02] Be Kinder | Cassey reveals why you need to be kinder to yourself. [6:05] Change | Cassey shares how you can start to break your negative thoughts. [6:41] Be You | Cassey shares why you should never let others dictate your decisions. [9:09] The Scale | Cassey shares the four relationships you have with the scale. [11:21] Health | Cassey reveals why you can’t go overboard and disregard your health. [16:01] Stopping | Cassey shares the time when she had to stop a workout YouTube video. [18:12] Love Yourself | Cassey shares how to love your body while still pushing yourself. [20:26] Journey | Cassey shares her journey to being physically and mentally healthy. [24:10] Rules | Cassey shares why you should create a flexible structure for yourself. [25:35] Adapt | Cassey shares why it’s okay to have setbacks on your journey forward. [27:18] Slipping Back | Cassey shares how to avoid fluctuating and reverting back. [28:25] Confidence | Cassey shares how accomplishing your goals builds confidence. [30:46] Comparing | Cassey shares why you shouldn’t negatively compare yourself to others. [32:31] Grace | Cassey reveals why you should give yourself grace to slip from time to time. [36:25] Get Started | Cassey reveals what you need to get started on your fitness journey. [40:28] Connect | Cassey shares how you can continue to follow and workout with her. [41:58]  QUOTES:  “You know, there’s a camp of people who believe that if you want to change, it means you don’t love yourself… No, you can do both because in loving yourself, you want to improve yourself…” [10:26]  “So, I highly suggest that anyone going through an abusive scale relationship, they need to take the scale out of their life until, at some point, they can see the scale again simply as a tool, not as something that can tell you if you’re going to have a good day or a bad day…” [14:28]  “When you go on any type of journey, you have to write out your rules so that you stay in line and I think it’s really important to be very strict and ridged with yourself so that you know exactly where you’re going and how you’re going to get there…” [25:38]  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU:  Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW CASSEY:  Website: blogilates.com YouTube: youtube.com/user/blogilates Instagram: instagram.com/blogilates Facebook: facebook.com/blogilates/ Twitter: twitter.com/blogilates LinkedIn:...

Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Are you struggling to make truly impactful change in your life? Do you struggle with overthinking, fear, worry, and you continue to make decisions that are self-destructive and continue to hold you back in life? Today, put an end to that way of living and start walking down a path of embracing change and owning every single one of your life’s choices. On this episode of Women of Impact, holistic psychologist and author Dr. Nicole LePera joins Lisa Bilyeu to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you can put an end to your self-destructive ways that are holding you back from making real and necessary change in your life. They discuss how to identify the things in your life that are causing self-destruction, how to let go of your thoughts, how to overcome fear of change, how to stop betraying yourself, how to start on a path towards making the changes you want for your life, why you need to stop overthinking, how to find meaning and purpose, how to start the healing process, and much more.  Pre-Order Dr. LePera’s book, ’How To Do The Work’: amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X  SHOW NOTES: Sabotage | Dr. LePera reveals how you can identify and address your own self-sabotage. [1:17] Awareness | Dr. LePera reveals how to begin to shift your mind so you can change. [3:50] Release | Dr. LePera reveals the power of letting go of your thoughts. [5:55] Thoughts | Dr. LePera reveals how to process and address your thoughts. [8:25] Fear | Dr. LePera reveals how to overcome fear and just start putting in the work. [11:13] Betrayal | Dr. LePera reveals the difference between self-sabotage and self-betrayal. [16:01] Intervene | Dr. LePera reveals how to not get caught up vulnerable moments. [18:20] Changes | Dr. LePera reveals why your life, mind, and body is always changing. [23:03] Shifting | Dr. LePera reveals why we fear change in ourselves and others. [25:07] Expression | Dr. LePera reveals why you have to retrain your mind before doing. [30:40] Overthinking | Dr. LePera reveals how your habit of overthinking is holding you back. [32:19] Meaning | Dr. LePera reveals how to cultivate meaning and purpose. [33:06] Choices | Dr. LePera reveals why you need to make positive-choices a habit. [36:22] Healing | Dr. LePera reveals why you have to reverse-engineer your life’s choices. [37:15] Connect | Dr. LePera reveals how you can continue to follow and learn from her. [39:33]  QUOTES: “…there’s a universal reality that most of us humans share, or all of us humans share, which is that change is hard. Period.” [2:31]  “…It’s not about the smallness of the promise, it’s not even about the promise. When we’re talking about healing from self-sabotage and self-betrayal, it’s just the act of observing yourself show up.” [15:49]  “I think overthinking is a sabotage. I think humans and our thinking brain has become so primed,our school system trains us to solve all of problems from up here…” [32:27]  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW DR. LEPERA: Website: yourholisticpsychologist.com YouTube: youtube.com/c/TheHolisticPsychologist Instagram: instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist Facebook: facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ 

Check out our Sponsors Cured Nutrition: Use coupon code IMPACT at checkout to save 15% off your order at https://www.curednutrition.com/?rfsn=4704338.94d141c Are you currently on or considering a plant-based diet? Have you been convinced that animal protein and eating meat is detrimental and a danger to your health? You would be surprised to know these current narratives being spun around in the medical community are simply wrong and are, in fact, the real danger to your health. On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Dr. Gabrielle Lyon to discuss such matters and more as they explore how the trending narratives in the medical community are leading you astray, aren’t rooted in true medical data, and may be jeopardizing your health longterm. They discuss why red meat is something you should have in your diet, why most medical studies get healthy diets wrong, the pitfalls in a vegetarian diet, what optimal eating looks like, why protein is powerful for achieving great health, why your goal should be to optimize your health and body composition, the differences between plant and animal protein, and how you can start to eating healthier for longevity.  SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode about food shaming and welcomes Dr. Lyon. [0:54] Red Meat | Dr. Lyon reveals the one thing you can do to optimize your health. [4:13] What’s Factual | Dr. Lyon discusses why some groups refuse to listen to true data. [8:56] Vegetarian | Dr. Lyon reveals how she got sick from being a vegetarian. [14:01] Optimal | Dr. Lyon reveals the exact diet she recommends for optimal health. [16:30] Why Protein? | Dr. Lyon reveals the power of packing your diet with protein. [17:58] Body Composition | Dr. Lyon reveals why you need enough muscle. [20:24] Optimize | Dr. Lyon reveals why you should care about protein and muscle. [21:30] Plant vs Meat | Dr. Lyon reveals the key differences between protein types. [23:10] Younger | Dr. Lyon reveals why most vegetarians and vegans are young. [25:20] Longevity | Dr. Lyon reveals what she concluded from seeing people live unhealthily. [28:03] Obesity | Dr. Lyon reveals why we’ve been focusing on the wrong thing. [31:03] Start | Dr. Lyon reveals how you can get started to shift your diet to optimize yourself. [33:11] Feeling | Dr. Lyon reveals how to be in tune with your health and how you feel. [37:39] Real Talk | Dr. Lyon reveals why what she teaches and believes is so significant. [38:46] Success | Dr. Lyon reveals what success looks like to her on this journey to educate. [40:45] Connect | Dr. Lyon shares how you can connect with her to learn more. [42:12]  QUOTES: “This really isn’t about protein, this is about longevity. How you want to live?” [18:28]  “We are missing the much bigger picture. And the much bigger picture is longevity and how you want to age and how you want to function.” [20:50]  “…we’re going to be victim to what people tell us. And if you are victim to what people tell you, you don’t have a chance.” [40:04]  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW DR. LYON: Website: drgabriellelyon.com Instagram: instagram.com/drgabriellelyon Facebook: facebook.com/doctorgabriellelyon Twitter: twitter.com/drgabriellelyon