Self-care may be a trending topic, but it can be hard as adults with ADHD to regularly take care of ourselves mentally and physically. 

In this episode, I’m diving into everything from the privilege of self-care that not everyone has available to them, forms of free and cost-associated self-care, and how to determine if your self-care is actually just avoidance.

You may think you don’t have the capacity to consider self-care, but have you considered options like gratitude journaling, snuggling a pet, or doing a cold plunge/ice bath?

Some of us didn’t grow up with self-care being a priority, and it can be challenging to give ourselves permission to seek support. I truly hope you can come to a place of knowing your worth and take small steps toward protecting your mental and physical well-being. 

If you have the opportunity to consider paid self-care, my group coaching program FOCUSED is a wonderful method of receiving encouragement and support.

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Do you feel like you received an ADHD diagnosis late in life? There is no clinical definition of “late.” Age plays no part in it. It is entirely based on your perception. If this is you, there can be a range of emotions and new stages of growth that you experience after gaining clarity in this area.

You may have heard of the five stages of grief. Well, this episode covers the four stages, or emotions, of a late ADHD diagnosis. These include relief, confusion, grief, and restructuring.

You could experience these in different orders and come back to some more than once. If you take nothing else away from this episode, please understand that however you feel is valid.

No matter your age or season in life, it is a privilege to receive an actual diagnosis to better understand and embrace the fullness of who you are.

If you are looking for a place to get started discovering this new side of you, come join my group coaching program FOCUSED.

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I’m going back to ADHD basics today by addressing how to cut down on the chaos of our everyday lives. As adults with ADHD, we know this is a regular problem for us. We may have an epiphany and simplify for a while, but inevitably, things pile up again and again and again.

Why do we find ourselves in this cycle? Shouldn’t we know the answer by now to avoid so much stress? In this podcast episode, I dive into the neurodivergent struggles that influence us to say ‘yes’ too often. Unsurprisingly, it’s a long list! But hopefully it helps you feel seen and understood, instead of causing you to feel shame and guilt that the neurotypical world has often tried to place on us.

Then comes the hard part - taking action to address and reduce the chaos. It may bring some pain, grief and a lot of FOMO, but I promise you’ll also finally be able to experience peace, rest, clarity and purpose.

You don’t have to do this alone, though. If you join my group coaching program FOCUSED, you’ll receive support from peers going through the same thing and the training to get better at setting good boundaries.

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Have you ever felt emotionally hungover? I think all of us adults experience this semi-regularly, especially if you have ADHD. When you have a full life of responsibilities, it can be challenging managing your energy and stewarding your capacity.

In this week’s episode of the podcast, I am sharing a recording of my group coaching program FOCUSED, where I chat with three people who feel overwhelmed.

Adult #1 is dealing with the grief of losing a loved one and feeling unable to move forward with their own life. Could perfectionism and excuses be keeping her from taking any action? Could the answer lie in starting small and simple? 

Adult #2 is physically, mentally and emotionally carrying burdens for herself, her family and her community. How does she decipher what her priorities are so she can do it all? Should she even be the one to do it all? 

Adult #3 feels like she is cheating her students by waiting til the last minute to create lesson plans. But if everyone is successfully learning and leaving positive feedback, is there even a problem to worry about?

I hope you can take something from these coaching sessions and apply it to your own life to feel more regulated and in balance.

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It’s my birthday week! I love birthdays, getting older, and celebrating life and growth. So for this special birthday episode, I’m sharing a comprehensive list of the books that have changed my life and the reasons why.

Books that have changed my life:

1. ADHD-focused:
2. Taking Charge of Adult ADHD, by Dr. Russell Barkley 
3. Rethinking Adult ADHD, by Dr. Russ Ramsay
4. Delivered From Distraction, by Dr. Ned Hallowell
5. Personal Growth:
6. Essentialism, by Greg Mckeown
7. Effortless, by Greg Mckeown 
8. Atomic Habits, by James Clear
9. Atlas of the Heart, by Brene Brown
10. Loving What Is, by Byron Katie
11. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Dr. Lindsay Gibson
12. Recovering From Emotionally Immature Parents, by Dr. Lindsay Gibson
13. Boundaries:
14. Boundaries, by Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud
15. Set Boundaries, Find Peace, by Nedra Glover Tawwab
16. Necessary Endings, by Dr. Henry Cloud
17. Trauma:
18. The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk
19. What Happened to You, by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey
20. Was It Even Abuse, by Emma Rose Byham
21. Healthy Spirituality:
22. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, by Peter Scazzero
23. Honorable Mentions:
24. A World Without Email, by Cal Newport
25. Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown
26. Good to Great, by Jim Collins

I’m also excited to announce that I am getting my trauma-informed coaching certification, which has been a major goal for me. If you aren’t already a part of my group coaching program FOCUSED, it’s a great time to join! Lastly, if you’d like to get me a little something for my birthday…*wink wink*...it would mean the world if you could subscribe to the podcast and leave a review! Thank you all. I hope you enjoy these books!

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I believe I have the best Mother’s Day gift ever for adult women with ADHD! There is a new study revealing that there is no connection to children developing neurological conditions or physical impairments whose mothers took ADHD medication when pregnant.

This is huge news! Please see below for links to this study and two additional supporting articles. 

This episode is all about prioritizing your needs for mental and physical wellness. You deserve nurturing as much as your baby. There are enough pressures in this world on pregnant women and mothers, and I’m here to tell you that YOU MATTER TOO.

Medication can and should be considered for pregnant women with ADHD that benefit from it. At the end of the day, the decision is yours. The responsibility to do the research and talk to your doctor is yours. But I’m so happy to see actual research out in the world today in support of ADHD medication for mamas that could really need it.

You don’t have to go through this season alone. My group coaching program FOCUSED is filled with women, parents and adults with all kinds of life experiences ready to welcome you in our community with open arms. Come check us out!

• Pregnant Women with ADHD Can Breathe a Sigh of Relief - Mt Sinai Health System
• Pregnant Women with ADHD Can Breathe a Sigh of Relief - AARHUS University
• In utero exposure to ADHD medication and long-term offspring outcomes

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The last episode of the rejection series is a good one on how to respond to and soothe the pain from rejection. Like eating something super cold or hot with sensitive teeth, adults with ADHD tend to react more strongly to rejection than others. Due to repeated rejection, we’ve developed maladaptive coping mechanisms that do not benefit us in the long-run. 

Avoidance, people-pleasing and perfectionism are responses that many of us identify with as a way of limiting the amount of rejection in our lives. These serve us in the short-term, but they limit our growth potential and can be downright emotionally exhausting. These three coping mechanisms can be replaced with productive strategies, however, which I have double the options for! 

I even offer a free course on addressing perfectionism at ihaveadhd.com/perfect.  

The last, and perhaps the most important, of the productive strategies is to surround yourself with safe people. If you’re struggling with finding a strong, encouraging community, come join my group coaching program FOCUSED with similar adults working on becoming their best regulated selves.

The Power of Therapy for Rejection Sensitivity

Helen Villiers is here with me again in this week’s podcast! You might remember Helen from Episode #200: Maybe I’m Not the Problem: Understanding Emotional Abuse with Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna. Helen is a psychotherapist and co-host of the podcast, In Sight - Exposing Narcissism.  

In part 3 of the rejection series, we talk about rejection trauma from the beautiful perspective of a therapist with ADHD. This episode is so affirming of my feelings and opinions shared last week on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. 

Helen explains important terms such as toxic shame, moral defense, mirroring and stonewalling. We also learn how to identify if a therapist is a good therapist. But my favorite part is when Helen helps me identify why it can be so hard to not take rejection personally and why I look for mirroring in relationships to help me feel safe.

The moral of the story is: therapy works! And immersing yourself in good education, encouragement and coaching in a group like FOCUSED can make a world of difference in dealing with rejection in everyday life.

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I get bold and honest in this episode as I challenge “expert” opinion on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). And honestly, I'm scared you're going to reject me for it. 

Most of us adults living with ADHD have many experiences from childhood onwards of being rejected due to our neurodivergence. We've grown up in families and systems that have indeed rejected us. OF COURSE this means that we're more sensitive to rejection. 

But I reject the idea that our ADHD itself is the genetic and neurological CAUSE of our rejection issues. No. Growing up in a world that constantly rejects us is the cause of our rejection issues. 

Yet there is one published ADHD expert who claims that RSD is genetic to those with ADHD and that the ONLY treatment is medication. He says that "psychotherapy does little to help" those with rejection issues.

Well, I reject these statements as they lack the following:

1. Any evidence at all
2. Any mention of other supportive research
3. Any anecdotal confirmation from real life adults living with ADHD

Rejection is real. Those of us with ADHD have experienced and do experience a lot of it. That doesn’t mean we have genetic disorder giving us rejection sensitivity and that doesn’t mean that only medication can help us improve our sensitivity.

Thankfully I’m not the only one who feels this way. Take a look in the references below and make your own best judgment based on the existing research, your personal rejection experiences, and what you know about the ADHD community.

Rejection sensitivity IS REAL, and most of us ADHDers experience it. But I reject the term RSD, and I wonder if you'd like to reject it, too? 

Be in community with kind, like-minded individuals living with ADHD and join my group coaching program, FOCUSED.

Referenced Articles:

RSD: The Feelings are Real but the Cause is All Wrong 

Dodson's Additude Mag Article on RSD 

Medical News Today: RSD is Controversial


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A brand new series is here, and it’s on everyone's favorite topic: rejection. 

From childhood to adulthood, we experience rejection in a variety of ways and learn how to respond to it. Those of us with ADHD often experience this frequently and at an early age. As a result, we tend to have heightened sensitivity to feelings of exclusion or dismissal. We react extremely or suppress our own desires in order to please the people around us whose love and approval we most crave.

The first episode in this series involves a critical self-examination and reflection time to determine whether or not you may demonstrate rejection sensitivity. 

I discuss expert opinions on the relationship between having ADHD and experiencing rejection, how rejection can be perceived but not real and the importance of nurturing our psyches when we experience these strong feelings.

While this episode may bring up some intense memories or emotions, I’m here to offer generous validation and grace so that listeners can better prepare for self-regulation in times of uncertainty.

In addition to finding a good trauma-informed therapist for support, my group coaching program, FOCUSED, is a great, supportive community for other ADHDers learning how to harness our strengths and overcome our weaknesses. I hope you check us out!

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Referenced Links:

Experiences of criticism in adults with ADHD
Rejection sensitivity and the social brain
Rejection sensitivity and disruption of attention
Peer Functioning in Children with ADHD
Peer victimization in children with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder

I’m so relieved to be wrapping up the last episode in the executive function series. This episode focuses on self-motivation, which is quite funny seeing as how I have felt very little of it to get this series done. 

The timing of this episode couldn’t be more perfect, however, because we are in the last few weeks before taxes are due! Many of you adults with ADHD may be especially struggling with the motivation to beat that deadline, and I’m here to explain why.

It all comes down to our lack of dopamine, but that doesn’t mean we are lazy or a lost cause for productivity. A customized cocktail of support can help us improve in this impaired executive function.

I provide several tips in the episode for improving motivation through determination. Three of these include:

1. Talking to your doctor about medically increasing your dopamine
2. Setting up rewards systems for yourself
3. Joining a coaching program, like FOCUSED

Listen to this episode,  and please share with a friend who could also benefit!

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We are now five down with one to go in my executive function series. Part 5 is on self-awareness - the ability to reflect, evaluate and ponder your thinking patterns. 

This executive function, also known as metacognition, is closely influenced by emotional regulation and working memory. 

For ADHDers, self-awareness can be a very uncomfortable thing to do and it might bring up a lot of shame and guilt. That’s why I offer six super helpful tips to implement that will create a safer space for you to examine your way of thinking and make a game plan for positive change.

There is a significant shift within my group coaching program FOCUSED. I’m now offering the emotional regulation course in the first batch of courses now for all new participants! This is truly the foundation of our ability to make changes, and I’m happy to offer this at the beginning now. 

Listen in as I discuss what active mindfulness and compassionate self-reflection look like as we embark on a journey to be more self-aware.

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My conversation with Dr. Lindsay Gibson generated pure gold in this week’s episode about emotionally immature parents. It’s important to note that this is in no way parent-shaming but instead illuminates how many people with ADHD were likely raised by emotionally immature adults (and perhaps perpetuating this behavior).

We’re often led to believe that we ADHDers are always the problem. But maybe we were raised by adults that used manipulation and guilt to force us into people-pleasing and parentification to prioritize their needs and wants at all times above our own as children.

While ADHD is hereditary, emotional immaturity can sometimes be passed down through generations as well. A cycle of neurodivergence coupled with emotional immaturity is not an ideal combination, so I invite you to listen in as we discuss how to identify this type of parenting, common coping mechanisms to avoid, and the pathway toward peace and freedom.

Many of the participants in my group coaching program FOCUSED can relate to this and are in good company as we work towards being more emotionally mature adults. If you’d like to learn more about this topic, I encourage you to check out drlindsaygibson.com and read one of her many helpful books.

In this special episode, I’ve invited emotional abuse and relationship experts, Katie McKenna and Helen Villiers, to share their perspective on toxic relationships and how they affect ADHDers. You may know these incredible women from their podcast In Sight: Exposing Narcissism.

With Helen being a fellow ADHDer and Katie deserving a gold medal for supporting neurodivergence, I’m in great company during this conversation as we learn definitions for emotional abuse, narcissism, gaslighting and even mysophonia. 

Many of us adults with ADHD were raised with neurotypical or even narcissistic parents who did not understand and accept us for our neurodivergence. As a result, we may be more susceptible to similarly toxic and abusive relationships with people who deny our feelings and needs.

Please give this episode a listen and share with friends and family as you never know who may be suffering in an abusive relationship. I encourage my listeners to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800.799.SAFE (7233) if you feel that you are in danger and need help.

I invite you to join my group coaching program FOCUSED, where adults like you receive regular coaching calls and have a supportive community with all the tools needed to thrive with ADHD.

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Part 4 in the Executive Function Series is here, and I’m focusing on problem solving. This includes “fun” elements like planning, organizing and prioritizing that many ADHDers struggle with. 

The truth is, while those of us with ADHD may be good at solving big, complex problems, facing the breakdown of smaller situations can be a real challenge. In Episode 199, I share info from articles, books, and direct feedback from people in my group coaching program to help you understand why problem solving is so hard and what we can do to tackle it head-on. 

Problem solving shouldn’t be scary. It’s supposed to manifest like mental play, or a game of chess, with our brains simulating multiple scenarios with choices and actions and helping us decide the best course of action.

Listen in on my basic tips for approaching and solving a problem, and don’t forget to check out my FOCUSED group coaching program to receive tools to keep you on track with accomplishing your goals.

Here is the article I mentioned in this episode.

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You’ll want to save this episode to re-listen and share with your neurotypical friends because Episode 198 is solid GOLD. In part three of my six-part series on executive functions, I’m diving into emotional regulation and how it’s impacted with ADHD. But the truth is, we ALL can use help getting our emotions under control sometimes.

Emotional regulation directly impacts how productive we’re able to be because how we feel drives our actions. While ADHD inhibits our ability to self-regulate, leading us to react poorly at times, there are so many useful tools we can use to regain control of our body’s response to external stimuli.

While I myself even get worked up a bit in this episode, I cover my frustrations with clinicians for not sharing more info about this executive function after diagnosis, the biological differences between ADHD brains and neurotypical brains, and how to SURF our emotions in the moment instead of avoiding them.

The 37 minutes of this episode are chock full of good info, but if you’re looking for even more training on emotional regulation, you can receive a full course on this topic after completing three months of my group coaching program FOCUSED!

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Part two of my six-part series on executive functions is all about inhibition. This one’s a little heavy and a little scary. Those of us with ADHD can attest to how debilitating it is to not have strong, internal self-restraint that can protect us from automatic urges and impulse decisions. 

From interrupting conversations to cutting in line to leaping before we look, life with impaired inhibition can be daunting. In episode 197, I share the four types of inhibition (including cognitive, behavioral, and emotional motor) that impact our reactions and decision-making. I also offer tips on how we can keep this impairment in check and guard ourselves against making hasty choices.

While there are some ADHD tools out there to support children, adults continue to need help understanding a new diagnosis or just managing day-to-day life. That’s why I started my group coaching program FOCUSED, and I invite you to sign up today and learn how to practice inhibition with a supportive and encouraging group of people just like you.

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Referenced Links:

What is Inhibitory Control? and How is it Related to ADHD?

Inhibitory capacity in adults with symptoms of Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

In Episode 196, I am kicking off the anticipated Executive Function series! I’ll be breaking down the six key executive functions that are impacted by ADHD. Today’s focus is all about Working Memory. 

Working memory is a temporary storage system that allows you to hold information in your mind long enough to do something with it. I like to think of working memory as an internal bulletin board where sticky notes get posted temporarily. 

Did you know there are two types: verbal and non-verbal? Join me as I dive into understanding the mind’s voice and the mind’s eye that are both necessary to picture the steps involved in a task and get it done.

This is an easy one to give ourselves a hard time about. We think we SHOULD be able to do XYZ from start to finish, and we shame ourselves when we don’t. As you’ll find out in the podcast, my biggest lesson here is to embrace acceptance of our impairment and learn how to externalize these plans of action to help us accomplish them. 

Ready to make a game plan for yourself to improve life with ADHD? I invite you to join my group coaching program FOCUSED, where adults like you receive regular coaching calls and learn how to hold themselves accountable in a loving but firm way.

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Episode 195 welcomes Daniel Jones from The Aspie World as a special guest! PLEASE NOTE: There is strong language used in this one. 

Daniel has been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder Level 2), ADHD, OCD, and Dyslexia. He’s especially passionate about providing education, support, and diagnosis access to any and everyone. 

In this special episode, we chat through the differences and similarities between ADHD and Autism. Daniel shares tips for tricking the ADHD side of his brain into staying focused for longer periods of time and expresses why it’s so important to love each other and not feed dissension amongst our neurodivergent community.

You can find Daniel across all your favorite social media channels @theaspieworld. 

My group coaching program FOCUSED is a great place for folks with neurodivergent conditions like ADHD, and we believe we’re better together!

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This is a very vulnerable podcast for me. I made a goal to talk about one thing, told myself it would be easy, then procrastinated and realized it was more work than I was ready to handle. My mind originally had me living in this fantasy world, and I left it before thinking through the logistics and effort required to get it done and do it right. Have you been here before?

At this point in January, many of you may be starting to feel the same way about those New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you’re bored. The ideas just aren’t flowing anymore, and now you realize it is not going to happen unless you take significant action.

Sometimes even the things we love most in life are going to feel like drudgery and mundane work. In Episode 194, I share how this is one of the hardest things about dealing with ADHD for me personally.

So here we go! I’ll talk through the things I did wrong this week, the steps I skipped, and the danger of excitement that I floated on instead of facing reality. Let’s learn together, and I hope I can help you avoid the pain I went through with this good but difficult goal.

Maybe you are struggling with this as well and know you need an intervention to keep you on track. I invite you to join my group coaching program FOCUSED, where I help other ADHDers set goals and follow through with them. We'd love to have you!

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more resources.

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 As an adult with ADHD, I know how hard it can be to fight the way my brain works and spend too much energy shaming myself and wishing I was different. But in Episode 193 of the podcast, I coach three separate, amazing adults dealing with very different life challenges and help them embrace and accept who they are and find ways to live their best lives alongside ADHD.

The first coaching session focuses on how to tackle a new, unstructured career by building in the accountability and framework needed to manage new challenges with patience and gentleness.

The second session deals with parent/child dynamics between spouses where one has a neurotypical brain and the other has ADHD. I coach on how to surf reactionary emotions, take stock of the message of trauma or justified need that your brain is sending you, and how to set appropriate boundaries to protect your autonomy.

Finally, in session three, I support a newly diagnosed ADHDer in accepting their brain’s differences, educating their loved ones on how to accept it, and finding peace amidst all the distractions.

If you loved listening in on these coaching sessions and would like my support for yourself, come join my group coaching program, FOCUSED. You’ll be in great company!

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In the first episode of 2023, I'm chatting with Felicia Broccolo, Director of Operations at I Have ADHD, about impossible goals. This time of year, everyone is setting resolutions — something that can be especially hard for those diagnosed with ADHD.

An impossible goal doesn’t have to be something huge and scary though. It can be as small as finishing work every day when you say you’re going to or waking up at the first alarm without hitting snooze.

The goal itself isn’t often what’s out of reach, it's our mindset about ourselves and negative self-talk that holds us back. The truth is, setting and working towards goals of any size helps us with our emotion management and facing failure head-on.

Because we tend to be our own worst critics, finding a supportive coach and community is super essential to keep positive forces around us that don’t let us self-sabotage ourselves. That's exactly what you get when you become a part of my group coaching program, FOCUSED.

Plus, members who have completed one full year get access to tons of additional resources, including an Impossible Goals course. Click here to join FOCUSED today and start working towards your goals of all shapes and sizes.

Barbara Arrowsmith-Young overheard her first-grade teacher telling her mom, “Barbara really isn’t going to amount to much.”

Growing up, Barbara struggled to learn to read and write. Back then, there was no such term as “learning difficulty” — the understanding was that your brain was fixed forever. To Barbara, it felt like a life sentence.

Today, she is known as “the woman who changed her brain.” After years of living with a diagnosed “mental block,” Barbara set out to understand why parts of her brain weren’t functioning the way they should.

What she discovered changed her understanding of the brain entirely, and she knew it was her life’s work to help others overcome the learning difficulties that might be holding them back.

The Arrowsmith Program is helping thousands of people worldwide reduce the factors in their life causing negative neuroplasticity so they can become effective, confident, and self-directed learners.

Learn more about The Arrowsmith Program by visiting their website. Be sure to take the free questionnaire to get a snapshot of your own cognitive profile.

I help people struggling with learning difficulties regularly in my group coaching program for adult ADHDers. Click the button below to learn more.

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The only way to be a perfect parent is to toss out the word "perfect" altogether. Our expectations and emotions can easily get in the way of effective parenting when we make things all about US instead of all about what our kiddos need.

In episode 190, I'm serving some spicy advice on ways we can all grow and improve as moms and dads to our little ones.

You'll find that my tips don't have a lot to do with the actual kids, and that's because there is work we as adults need to do before we expect things from our children.

It doesn't have to be right 100% of the time. You can begin to develop skills that will build connections with your kiddos and make your job as a parent feel so lovely. It can actually be fun.

Listen in with your partner or when you have a quiet moment alone to yourself. And if you'd like to join a supportive community to help get you through the day-to-day, I'd love for you to become a part of my coaching group.

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Do you or do you not have the extra cash to spend on holiday gifts this season? Episode 189 includes a recorded excerpt from the FOCUSED ADHD group coaching program with tough questions to ask yourself ASAP in order to properly prepare for holiday gift-giving without going into debt or feeling shame.

Those of us with ADHD know how easy it is to overspend due to feelings of guilt and/or anticipation. This happens especially around this time of year when regulation and routine seemingly fly out the window.

In this episode, I talk about managing emotions when it comes to your finances and how to approach holiday spending from a grounded, reality-centered place. 

I'm proud of you for listening to this podcast and seeking out growth. Keep up the moment by joining my group coaching program, FOCUSED, so you can gain more tools and a strong support system.

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Facing the holiday season can be intimidating. Normal everyday life is complicated enough living with ADHD, and yet so much more is expected of us in the last few months of the year.

Our inner child may have this beautiful fantasy of a perfect holiday season, but we feel let down when it doesn’t all go according to plan. So how can we approach this year differently to make sure we make the most of all the magic without getting swallowed by it?

In episode 188, I offer a strategic plan for managing your expectations and capacity in order to face this time with intentionality and prioritization. By staying grounded in reality and sitting in the driver’s seat of how we want this season to go, we can avoid those icky feelings of shame, exhaustion, disappointment, and stress while embracing real connection, rest, and genuine joy!

If you want to set yourself up for success before it gets hard with a fantastic support group, I invite you to join my group coaching program, FOCUSED. All month long, I’ll be focusing on ways to manage the holiday season, and I’d love to take you along with us.>>FOCUSED<<

This one’s for all the neurotypical friends and family who have a loved one living with ADHD. There are SO many misconceptions about this diagnosis, and it can be super challenging for us to communicate our experiences to you effectively.

Societal shame and childhood upbringings have played a huge role in diminishing the voice of ADHDers. But there are so many things we’d like you, our friends and family, to know about us! Thanks to the input of several friends in the community, I’m sharing 3 things we wish you knew about ADHD and 3 things we’d like to ask from you.

Without giving away too much, it’s crucial for you to start by understanding how hard it is for us to share our struggles and ask for help. THANK YOU for taking the time to listen to this episode and for being our support system!

Another helpful thing you can do for a loved one living with ADHD is encourage them to get support. My group coaching program FOCUSED offers a supportive community and the tools needed to thrive with ADHD. >>FOCUSED<<

If you’re guilty of adding too many tasks to your to-do list and then feeling guilty for not completing them, this message is for you! To-do lists are meant to be useful for prioritization and recollecting what needs to get done — but it’s easy to lose ourselves in the list itself and struggle to cross anything off at all, leading to procrastination, dread, and shame.

It may sound scandalous, but you should consider the email concept of “archive all” to cleanse the clutter in your brain and let yourself off the hook! To those of us living with ADHD, this may sound terrifying… impossible even. But the only way to make progress is by taking one step at a time, tackling items one by one.In this episode, I’m divulging why I relish archiving ALL THE THINGS that take up too much brain space and how it helps me be *more* productive in the long run.

It’s time to let go of the unnecessary weight you’ve been carrying for far too long. Archive it all — with no strings attached!

Want to start tackling your to-do list? Check out my coaching program for adults with ADHD >>FOCUSED<<.

Big, impossible goals are sexy. That’s what the world wants us to think. We have to do all of the things and be great at each one. But unrealistic goals are a challenge for adults with ADHD, and they set us up for failure.

Michelle Carter is an American shot putter and three-time Olympic athlete who took home a gold medal in the Rio 2016 Olympic Games. But more importantly, she’s an adult with ADHD who’s achieved some pretty amazing things by giving herself the space to choose what’s a priority to her and working on her goals one step at a time.

Michelle shares what she learned about ADHD that’s helped her identify and achieve her goals in a way that works for her — plus, we discuss the emotional moment she realized she’d won gold at the Olympics.
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If you're an adult with ADHD who struggles with hobbies, all I have to say is, "SAME!" I find that a lot of us ADHDers struggle to rest and play, and we have all the drama about participating in activities that are not 'productive.' Want to stop over-working and actually get a hobby? I've got 7 doable steps for you! You'll learn why we struggle to have hobbies and how to go out and actually find something that you enjoy doing (and yes, I include a LONG list of hobbies for you to try!).

Books featured in this episode:
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Children of the Self Absorbed
You're Not Crazy, It's Your Mother
Dr. Ramani's YouTube Channel
Was It Even Abuse? Restoring Clarity After Covert Abuse

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We end our relationships series by circling back to the most important relationship: the one we have with ourselves. Dr. Russell Ramsay is here with us to chat about why self trust is especially difficult for adults with ADHD, and what we can do to build it.

Dr. Russell Ramsay is co-founder and co-director of the University of Pennsylvania’s Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program and a professor of clinical psychology in the department of psychiatry in the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania. He’s authored several books on ADHD including one that that I reference often called Rethinking Adult ADHD: Helping Clients Turn Intentions into Actions

Learn more about Dr. Russell Ramsay here!

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Saying no can be very difficult for any human, but I believe it's especially hard for adults with ADHD. In this episode you'll learn:

• Why saying no is hard for us
• What executive functions are involved in saying no
• Practical tips on exactly HOW to say no

ADHDer, the more you say no when you want to, the more you are in the driver's seat of your own life. Enjoy!

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ADHDers are notoriously bad at setting boundaries. So many factors go into this, but I believe it’s mostly because we feel poorly about ourselves, we don’t have a lot of self-trust, and we are embarrassed about our annoying ADHD symptoms. The result of this is that we ADHDers often don’t believe we even deserve to set boundaries. Additionally, many of us were not raised in families that talked about or even allowed boundaries to be set…so, it comes to boundaries, most of us are floundering.

A big part of having healthy relationships is being able to express our own personal boundaries. But, how? Like actually, HOW?

I am by no means an expert on this topic, so I invited an expert on to share her wisdom with us: best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert, Nedra Glover Tawwab.

Nedra has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. This episode has the potential to change your life, so enjoy it!

Nedra’s book, "Set Boundaries Find Peace" and the accompanying workbook are available on amazon, And I highly recommend that you visit her website to take her boundaries quiz…this will help you to determine your next step when it comes to boundaries.

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We are on a mission to improve all of our relationships, and today we discuss the difference between someone who is safe verses someone who is unsafe. This has been a critical (and truthfully, painful) exercise that I have gone through in my own life that has improved my experience of every single relationship that I have. Tune in to hear why it's important to understand safety in relationships and exactly what makes someone relationally safe verses someone who is relationally unsafe. Click here to read the Psychology Today article that I reference in this episode.

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In this episode, we talk about surrounding ourselves with people who are willing and able to meet our needs. AND we talk about the importance of being willing and able to meet THEIR needs, too. It's both/and. You'll learn my 4-tier system for prioritizing relationships and I'll give you permission to let some relationships go. If you want to take these concepts deeper, join my coaching program FOCUSED.

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Most ADHDers struggle with relationships, and I am no exception to this. In the last 3 years, I've done a TON of work in therapy and in coaching, and I've really changed the way that I view relationships. In this 4-part series, I'll share everything I've learned about healthy relationships with you so that you can change your relationships, too.

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It's that time of year when I want to set 100 goals. BIG GOALS. I want to do all the things and I want to do them all perfectly. On today's episode, we talk about why ADHDers struggle to set realistic goals, and how to make sure that we don't set ourselves up for failure by setting outlandish, unreachable goals. You'll walk away with a more grounded sense of how to set goals that you can actually accomplish! Let's go.

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Today you'll hear from 3 of the coaches that I trained this year. They tell you about their experience, why they decided to become coaches, and what they loved/hated about my program.

Interested in training with me? Go to www.ihaveadhd.com/coach for all of the information!

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If you want to be an ADHD coach and you like my approach, I would love to train you as a coach!

Part 1 and Part 2 of this series are so important for you to listen to as you make your decision of what coach training program to invest in.

Applications go out on September 15, 2022 to Focused members only. Email focused@ihaveadhd.com or DM me on Instagram if you have any questions!

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Buckle up, my friends! In this episode I dish all of my thoughts on ADHD coaching and the coaching industry. I let you know what I think is awesome, and what I find annoying, and I tell you how I'm going to solve the problem: By training ADHD coaches myself.

The coach training programs out there are notoriously not ADHD-friendly. I wanted to create a training program for the ADHD brain, and I did.

The type of coaching that I practice with my clients (causal coaching) is not something that many ADHD coaches are currently being trained in, and I want to fill that void.

Tune in for all the details!

Testimonials from Focused ADHD Coaches:"I'm so glad that I took the leap, it was manageable, and I got so much out of it. If you want to be the kind of coach that Kristen is, it's the perfect next step." - Kyla Roma

"The Focused ADHD coach training program is excellent. I feel completely confident in being able to coach anyone with ADHD on what's holding them back, or how to live the full life they're dreaming of. I feel like I can support any clients - and especially neurodivergent clients - in an affirming, supportive, motivating way that puts them in touch with their own resourcefulness." -Erin King

"I have zero regrets with my choice to take the Focused ADHD Coach Training program. I honestly feel I am well prepared to coach people with and without ADHD. Kristen shared her knowledge AND experience with us in a way that supported my ADHD brain and let me learn in a way and at a pace that felt comfortable." Dylan M.

"This is the best investment for yourself. Even if you're unsure about being a coach full time, you will leave equipped to apply this training into your personal life and your work life." Jenni N

"The philosophy of ADHDers supporting other ADHDers to succeed is at the core of why Focused works and why this coaching program appealed to me. The approach is fundamentally grounded in respect and a deep understanding of what the coachee experiences and struggles with, because the coaches-in-training have the same struggles. I don’t think most life coach training programs can offer that perspective or opportunity to consider both sides at once." Briony Kidd

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This episode is a compilation of a few coaching conversations I’ve had in the last couple of weeks in my coaching program, FOCUSED. I am sharing it with you because  I truly believe that while you listen, you will relate to each person I speak with and you’ll be able to have life-changing transformation.

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Today's episode is one that every ADHD needs: a fun and simple lesson in how to be productive. I'll take you through the 5 steps that I teach all of my clients when we talk about productivity: Constrain your list down to just 1 or 2 things, decide ahead of time what you're going to do, schedule everything on your calendar, take massive action (no more researching!), and then evaluate how you did and make any adjustments for tomorrow. It may sound complicated, but really these steps are simple if you're willing to feel terrible and TRUST yourself to implement the steps. Buckle up for an episode that just might change your life forever.

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It can be hard to decide whether or not you should share your ADHD diagnosis with the people in your life. Is it their business to know? Will it help or hurt the relationship? This is one of the questions that we get asked most often, and so I wanted to share some tips to making the decision!

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If you feel like you're always taking 2 steps forward and 3 steps back, this episode is the antidote to that. In it, I teach you WHY ADHDers often self-sabotage, and exactly how to stop. You're not going to want to miss this life-changing episode!

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If you have ADHD, you struggle to go to bed...it's a whole thing for us. This episode will provide you with 10 doable tips for getting your sweet little ADHD butt to bed at the time that you SAY you're going to go to bed.

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ADHD entrepreneurs face a specific set of challenges, and I know exactly what it takes to run a successful business with a distracted brain. Spoiler: It doesn't take being consistent! I've created a mastermind group for established ADHD entrepreneurs who want to grow their businesses without being shamed for how their brain works.

You'll learn how to make your business more ADHD-friendly so that your brain and your biz are not constantly in a fight.

You'll learn how to set boundaries and protect the ebb and flow of your energy so that you can follow your calendar and work muuuuuch more efficiently.

You'll learn how to lead your team even though you're the messiest person in the room.

And, you'll learn that you're not alone. Entrepreneurship is isolating. ADHD entrepreneurship can be excruciating. This mastermind is the antidote.

We're going to get rolling with or without you, but I would LOVE for you to be a part. Click here to apply.

We all know that getting and staying organized is a MAJOR challenge for adults with ADHD. This is like saying the sky is blue or the grass is green. In this episode, you’ll learn exactly why organization is hard for us, why it’s so important we divorce our ability to organize from our self-worth, how our spaces are a direct reflection of our minds, and exactly HOW to organize.

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Adults with ADHD struggle to make decisions. We don't trust ourselves and we tell ourselves that we don't know what to do. When it's time to make a decision, we often spin out in confusion and overwhelm. We delay and procrastinate and don't think things through clearly, and this makes it so that we struggle move forward in our lives. THIS EPISODE IS THE ANTIDOTE TO THAT. In it, I give you 6 solid tips on how to make a decision that feels good to you and is in line with your values. I teach you how to do this quickly and in a way that is not paralyzing. The best part? I will teach you how to make a decision that you don’t beat yourself up for – no matter what the outcome. This episode will help you to become a decision-making MACHINE. Enjoy!

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Raise your hand if you still beat yourself up for things you did DECADES ago. Most ADHDers shame themselves relentlessly, and on today's episode I am going to teach you how to let go of your past mistakes. Ironically, holding onto the past is one of the best ways to REPEAT the past (ever feel like you make the same mistakes over and over??). In order to move into a different future, you've got to unshackle yourself from the past, and that's what this episode is all about!

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If you're an ADHD Entrepreneur who struggles to understand your business's finances (raises hand) and conceptualize what EXACTLY to do with your revenue (raises both hands), this episode is going to rock your world. Mike Michalowitz is a highly successful entrepreneur who is here to share the brilliance from his best-selling book Profit First. This book changed my life, and I think it'll change yours, too!

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In this DELICIOUS episode you will learn how rest and play are connected to your business's bottom line $. Africa Brooke is a coach, consultant, strategist and seasoned entrepreneur...and did I mention she's MY coach? She's here to teach you all of the things I've learned from working with her over the last year.

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ADHD entrepreneurs are BRILLIANT...but are you spending the majority of your time and energy in your zone of genius or are you wasting your time trying to fit into a neurotypical box? Today's episode is all about ditching society's expectation of you so that you can lean into your secret sauce and 10x your business revenue.

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks was a primary resource for today's episode.

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Oooooo baby get ready because we're doing a 4-part series on ADHD + Entrepreneurship!

This first episode is all about making your business more compatible with your ADHD brain so that the two of you (your biz and your brain) are not constantly in a fight. These are 5 easy steps that you can apply to your business and your life TODAY. Enjoy!

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I promise you, constraint is SEXY...let me convince you in this 30 min episode!! Stop cheating on your dreams with one-night-stand ideas, join me as I persuade you to become an essentialist: someone who knows exactly what's important and is willing to go after it!

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Did you know that ADHDers are very likely to struggle with binge eating? Find out why on today's episode! Registered Dietitian Becca King is here to explain what binge eating is, why it is so prevalent among ADHDers, and how we can stop. Get ready for a shame-free, judgement-free discussion around eating, intuition, and ADHD management. [CONTENT WARNING: Disordered eating, binge eating, bulimia]

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Every ADHDer wants to focus...but HOW!? Today's episode is exactly what you need when you're feeling scattered, lost, or overwhelmed. Kristen covers 10 practical steps to getting focused that you can implement NOW and use over and over again.

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Raise your hand if imposter syndrome holds you back from living your life to the fullest. I see you! This week's episode is all about what Imposter Syndrome is, why we experience it, and how to manage it.

Here's a great article written by Dr. Russell Ramsay on the topic.

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ADHD legend Dr. Ned Hallowell (Driven to Distraction, Delivered from Distraction, ADHD 2.0) is here today to share his infinite wisdom on all things ADHD. You KNOW I don't think ADHD is a gift, but Dr. Hallowell so beautifully articulated his perspective on this topic that I really wanted to share it with you. Find more from Dr. Hallowell here

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Some ADHDers struggle with Problematic Pornography Use, and that's what we're talking about today...GET READY! My guest, Danny Poelman, is a certified life coach who helps people stop looking at porn in a sustainable (and enjoyable!) way. If you are feeling powerless in the area of porn or ANY unwanted habit, this episode will be so encouraging and helpful to you. 

Learn more about Danny here!

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Are you stumped when someone asks you to define ADHD? Do you either give them a super basic answer OR totally over-share? On today's episode, I intend to solve that problem! We discuss what is ADHD exactly, and how to explain it to someone without getting too lost in the weeds.

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Today’s episode is a powerful coaching call that I hosted inside of my Focused ADHD coaching program a few weeks ago. As soon as the call ended, I knew I wanted to share it with you on this podcast so that you could benefit from the transformations. I truly think this is going to blow your mind. 

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Let's talk about S E X, shall we? Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST is a psychologist and certified sex therapist specializing in diagnosing and treating people with ADHD, as well as couples and sex therapy. Join us as we discuss his most recent book, ADHD After Dark, the ways that ADHD impacts sex, and how to improve your "after dark" relationships.

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The last 4 episodes were dedicated to honoring the female ADHD experience. Join me today as I synthesize what I learned this month and show you how you can apply it to your life in tangible ways. So you don't do that thing where you hear something awesome and then forget about it entirely and never actually do anything with it. Or is that just a me thing?! 

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Yakini Pierce is here to share with us her expertise on all things being a mama who has ADHD. We talk about the highs and lows of motherhood and what amazing transformations can take place in your home when you honor your own ADHD and make space for yourself to have flaws. Yakini is a late diagnosis woman with adhd. She's a mom of 2 amazing ADHD kids and host of the ADHD Love Parent Talk Podcast. Yakini shares her wisdom on Instagram @adhdlove2020 and YouTube. Go check her out! 

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March is International Women's Month, and we're dedicating all 5 weeks to honoring the female ADHD experience. Tune in today to hear from Paula Engebretson and Meagan Vigil, two women with ADHD who also coach women with ADHD. It's a casual and fun conversation that will open your eyes into some of what it's like to be a woman with ADHD. 

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If you have ADHD, then you struggle to prioritize and make decisions. In this episode, we'll work on accepting our ADHD brains and begin to develop the skill of turning UP the volume on what's important and turning DOWN the volume on what's not as important. And of course, we'll chat about how to even decide what's important in the first place. 

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If you've wondered if you should give coaching a try, or if it even works, this episode will give you all the clarity. Hear my hot take on coaching, and what type of coaching I feel is most effective for ADHDers. After coaching over 1,000 people with ADHD, I have lots of thoughts to share with you!

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Certified sex educator Cate Osborn is with us today to talk about all things sex as it relates to ADHD. Get ready for a fun and enlightening episode about how ADHD affects sex and intimacy, and how you can begin to overcome these challenges so that you can reach your potential ...even in the bedroom (too far? Sorry). 

Learn more about Catie:

Website 

Instagram 

Tiktok 

Youtube 

Podcast - Catie and Erik's Infinite Quest

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"This will just take me 5 minutes" or "It'll be fine" or "It'll be different this time" are examples of potentially problematic positive thoughts. Positive thinking isn’t always helpful, and maladaptive positive thoughts can get us into a lot of trouble. In today’s episode, I’m going to help you to identify your own problematic thinking and give you strategies on how to combat it. 

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More of your questions answered! As an ADHD expert, certified coach to hundreds of adults with ADHD, and an ADHDer myself, I am uniquely positioned to bring expertise, understanding, and relatability to all of your burning questions about ADHD. LET'S GO!

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As an ADHD expert, certified coach to hundreds of adults with ADHD, and an ADHDer myself, I am uniquely positioned to bring expertise, understanding, and relatability to all of your burning questions about ADHD. Today I'm answering all kinds of questions from my Instagram friends about ADHD and it's going to be FUN!

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Let's learn about our attention from a neuroscientist, shall we? Amishi Jha, Ph.D, is here to discuss her new book, Peak Mind, in which she explains what attention is, the types of attention, and what happens when we pay attention to our attention. SPOILER ALERT: Attention is trainable. Yes, research conducted by Dr. Jha and her colleagues proves that even adults with ADHD see improvements in their attention when they implement Dr. Jha's mindfulness training techniques. Listen to find out more. 

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What 2 things do an attorney, a solopreneur, and an architect have in common? 1. They all have human brains 2. They all have ADHD. If you have a human brain and you have ADHD, you're going to get SO MUCH out of this coaching session that I have with 3 of my clients. Tune in for life-changing ADHD coaching and support to start your year off right.

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Because of our deficient frontal lobes, planning, prioritizing, and following through are very difficult for ADHDers. This makes setting and achieving goals HARD! Today, I will walk you through a fun exercise to plan out what might be possible for you in 2022 and give you a simple action plan to make it happen. 

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ADHDers aren't great at reflection, which often leads us to staying stuck. In this episode, I walk you through a practice of evaluating your year so that you can move forward and create the life that you want! I also spill the tea about what's happened in MY life in 2021. Tune in for an all-around great time. 

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If ADHD isn't your superpower (it isn't), then what is? Today Kristen walks you through an exercise to determine what your true gift, superpower, and awesomeness is. Tune in for the most encouraging episode of the entire year!

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Welp...this episode is either going to make you feel super validated and pumped-up orrrrrrrr super triggered. What we're chatting about today is my OPINION, and I acknowledge that not everyone thinks the same way that I do. I encourage you to listen and see what YOU think: Is ADHD a superpower? A gift? Or, "awesome"? Hear me explain why I think this way of speaking about ADHD has the potential to do more harm than good. I promise we end on a really happy, loving, and validating note, so listen to the end, my friends! 

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[Trigger Warning: Fat phobia, anti-fat bias, Thanksgiving, obesity, medical bias toward plus-sized people. Please save this episode for a time when you feel emotionally able to interact with these ideas]

Gather 'round the table, my friends, we're going to have a chat about being plus sized and ADHD, and the specific challenges that plus sized people face when seeking to obtain ADHD diagnosis and treatment. Please be gentle with me and with yourself as you listen to this conversation that I have with my dear client, Sarah.

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Today I'm interviewing my team and giving you a behind the scenes look at what it's like to work with a crazy ADHD brain. I am a firm believer that if we have the ability to hire out our frontal lobe, we SHOULD! This episode will help you to let go of some of that control, be willing to feel vulnerable, and get the help that you deserve.

Want to work with MY team? Reach out to Selena @selenanjegovanvirtualsolutions or visit www.selenanjegovan.com and Felicia (for coaching!) @feliciaannabroccolo

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Today's episode is a compilation of funny ADHD stories sent in from listeners around the world - from leaving the car running to booking a flight to the wrong country, ADHD never disappoints....it always keeps interesting! Sit back, relax, and enjoy these hilarious and relatable stories! 

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Today we're going to dive deep into a question that I get asked a lot: "Should I tell people that I have ADHD?" The truth is, only you can decide...and I am here to help you make a decision that feels aligned with who you are and what you want. 

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There's a reason why you want to stay up later (and then wake up later) than all of the neuro-typicals in your life, and it's not because you're lazy. Turns out, about 75% of ADHDers studied report symptoms in line with Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome. Tune in to learn more!

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome May Be Linked

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Every ADHDer wants to learn the skill of overcoming procrastination. In this episode I give you my top 4 tips on how to stop procrastinating and get sh*t done. 

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Are you massively creative and feel like the ideas just never stop coming? How in the world do you constrain and choose one thing to focus on? This episode is a conversation I have with my client Lindsay Eagar who's a critically-acclaimed author with no shortage of ideas! We chat about all the things and I know you're going to love it! 

You can find more information about Lindsay and her books at www.lindsayeagarbooks.com

You can also finder her on Twitter @lindsaymccall

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You know that thing we do where we have to spend at least an hour doing nothing...essentially "wasting time" before we get into our  work for the day? Yeah, I recorded a whole episode on this topic! This episode is for those of you who need a ton of warmup and prep-time before actually getting anything done. I have good news for you: YOU'RE NORMAL....and I know you're going to love this episode!

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How is it possible that it's taken me 126 episodes to record one on time management? This episode is deep - we talk about the REAL reasons we can't manage our time, and what we can do about it. 

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If you have trouble slowing down and shutting your brain off, this episode is for you! I'll dive into why we resist rest and how we can begin to overcome this tendency.

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Self-sabotage is a (normal) human behavior pattern that undermines our success and thwarts forward motion. In this episode, we dive DEEP into why we sabotage ourselves and how we can interrupt this self-defeating pattern. 

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Today's episode is a behind the scenes look at Kristen Carder’s journey. I've changed A LOT in the last 3 years and I'm sharing the specifics of who I used to be and who I am now. 

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[TRIGGER WARNING: I discuss current world events on this podcast and invite you to feel negative emotion with me] 

In the last 2 weeks, some very heavy and concerning world events have taken place. With so much suffering happening right now, I wanted to record an episode for you that acknowledges our collective pain and gives you some strategies on how to cope so that you can be an informed and caring human without being totally distracted and non-functional. I am sending you so much love!

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Today’s episode is for senior adults who have been diagnosed or are considering seeking a diagnosis for ADHD. Is it worth it? Should you bother seeking treatment? Listen as I chat with my client Jane who was diagnosed at 52 and is experiencing all kinds of relief.

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Dr. Russell Barkley joins me on today's episode to discuss the different types of ADHD medications and what he sees as THE BEST treatment plan for adult ADHD. 

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/symptoms to get the freebie mentioned in today's episode. 

Hang out with me on Instagram @i.have.adhd.podcast

Dr. Russell Barkley is THE authority on adult ADHD and he is here with us today to chat about all the things. Do not miss this! 

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for more resources

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The adhd penalty is the self-inflicted punishment that we feel obligated to inflict upon ourselves because of our adhd shortcomings. This penalty ALWAYS ends up making our lives harder, and in many ways exacerbating our symptoms even further. It’s a vicious cycle that many of you are on, and I hope that my words today inspire you to hop off this self-defeating hamster wheel. 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more resources

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If I add "gross, I know" to the title, does it make this episode more palatable to you?! Today I talk to my client Sacha about his journey going SLOWLY on his self-development work. Of course we ADHDers prefer to go fast, but what if that impatience actually doesn't serve us? Today we're going to inspire you to slow down and look for little wins along the way!

Hang out with me on Instagram @i.have.adhd.podcast

www.ihaveadhd.com for more resources

Today’s episode is for those of you who question your diagnosis. My client, Emma Strong shares her journey of getting diagnosed and then questioning whether or not she “deserved” support…this is deep work! I know you are going to be so encouraged by this conversation. 

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for more resources

Hang out with me on Instagram here!

BUCKLE UP!!

If you are someone whose family didn't understand or validate your ADHD, you are going to LOVE this conversation. And especially, if you are in Latin America and/or have a lot of Latin influences in your life, this episode is going to speak directly to your heart!

Please enjoy this conversation with my very lovely client, Fernanda Gamboa.

Reach out to Fernanda here:
@Especial-Mente2.0 on instagram
https://www.especialmente.org/

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Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for more resources

Sign up for my 5-day training at www.ihaveadhd.com/course

Calling all entrepreneurs! You don't have to be consistent in order to be a success in your biz. Join me for a 5-day training July 12-16 where I will teach you how to be a successful entrepreneur with an inconsistent, un-disciplined ADHD brain. 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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Most adults with ADHD often identify as time-wasters. I’m going to walk you through why this is super counter-intuitive and why we should NEVER believe that wasting time is even possible. This episode is short and sweet and packs a big punch.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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I've got the secret to being productive and I'm giving it to you today! In this episode I discuss the number one reason why you're not productive...and to be honest, I think it might surprise you. 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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Easily swayed by others? Don't feel steadfast in making decisions? Your ethics and values are at the core of establishing an internal authority. Tune in as I lead you through my process of establishing these for myself and help you to establish your own! 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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Do you struggle to manage your impulsivity in order to follow your calendar? Do you feelings of fear and shame ever hold you back from doing what you need to do?  Do you struggle to believe that you've done enough so that you can relax? Do you have trouble accepting yourself and your ADHD? Well then today's episode is for YOU! 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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Do you struggle to identify and meet your own needs? Do you struggle to self-validate? Do you melt when someone disapproves of you or a decision you make? On today's episode, we're talking about how to establish an internal knowing so that you can be empowered, grounded, and live to your fullest potential. 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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At some point, every adult with ADHD has to wrestle with this question: Am I just making an excuse? So it's high time we have a heart to heart about the difference between an excuse and an explanation. Buckle up, friends, this is a good one! 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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This interview is in the series of interviews I did with my BIPOC clients on the theme that 'ADHD is not just for white people.' Today I have a conversation with my client Gabriela, whom I’ve come to absolutely adore over the last almost year and a half that she’s been in Focused. Tune in to hear about identity, racial identity, ADHD identity, and learning to stop fighting against what makes you unique. 

To reach out to Rene Brooks: https://blackgirllostkeys.com/
@blackgirllostkeys

To reach out to Gabriela Taylor on Instagram: @gabrielabtaylor

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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Most people downplay ADHD in adults. Isn't it a childhood disorder? I thought it was just for boys? What's the big deal? Call your aunties and your grandpas, let's chat about why we should all be taking this neurodevelopmental disorder seriously! 

Research Studies:

Why the Diagnosis of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Matters

ADHD May Reduce Life Expectancy by As Much As 13 Years

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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When I was diagnosed, my doc said, "Yep, you have ADHD. Here's some Concerta!" Maybe your experience was similar to mine. This episode is a deep dive into all the things I wish I knew about ADHD 20 years ago. 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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3 days ago I made what I considered to be a huge mistake. Today I'm sharing all of the juicy details with you in an effort to NORMALIZE our flaws. Enjoy! 

www.ihaveadhd.com/focused to take advantage of the Double Book Bonus. 

It can be very hard for ADHDers to make and keep friends. Why? And what can we do about it? On today's episode I have my ADHD BFF Verity Garvey here to chat with me about ALL the friendship things: Why making friends was hard for us when we were kids, and how we are navigating friendships now as adults. Most importantly, we discuss self-acceptance and the significance of knowing what you bring to the table in a friendship.

Check out Verity on Instagram here!

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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It's hard to have ADHD. We are so often misunderstood and rejected by our peer groups. Dr. Ned Hallowell says that fellowship is the safest and most effective drug that we have. If you don't have a group of like-minded ADHD adults, I hope by the end of this episode you will be inspired to find one.

Dr. Ned Hallowell's Book: Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder

Research Study: The Importance of Social Contextual Factors in Peer Relationships of Children with ADHD

Scaffolding is a system, structure, or framework of SUPPORT. Dr. Russell Barkley says that humans of ADHD must have a scaffolding of support around them if they're going to succeed, and I agree with him 100%. In this episode you'll learn what a scaffolding is, why we resist it, and how it can help us get the results we've always wanted.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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Calling all entrepreneurs, side-hustlers, and anyone trying to get sh*t done! This episode is a coaching call from Focused. Every month we have a business call, and I thought it would be super helpful to YOU today, so here you go! 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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If you're a perfectionist, this episode is for YOU! I can't wait for you to hear from my client, Melia, who was the first to come up with the concept of the Pardon. Melia fleshes this concept out for us in such a beautiful way; I know you'll be inspired!

Find Melia here or visit www.evolvingperfectionist.com

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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It's time that you issue a pardon to your past self. Failed a class in college? Pardoned! Forgot to pack your kid's lunch? Pardoned! Got fired from your dream job? Pardoned! Haven't been to the dentist in 6 years? Pardoned! In this episode, I talk about the importance of forgiving the misdeeds of your past so that you can create a different kind of future for yourself. 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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Tune in today for an eye-opening and vulnerable conversation that I have with my client, Shannon Taylor. Shannon is a perfect example of what's possible for a black woman with ADHD. This episode is the first in a series of episodes that I look forward to recording with my BIPOC clients.

RESOURCES:
www.adhdonline.com
www.adhdology.com/adhd-medication-chart/ 
www.CHADD.org 
www.add.org 
www.understood.org 
www.additudemag.com 

YouTube:
Driven to Distraction
How to ADHD  - What It's Like to Be ADHD and Black

Attention! Magazine

Check out these Black ADHD coaches (obviously this is not a comprehensive list!):
Inger Shaye
Ada Sewell
Rene Brooks

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources

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I've got a major ADHD life hack for you today! It's probably not exactly what you're expecting, but it's changed my life and I think it will change yours, too. 

The power move is when we intentionally get out of our HEADS and drop down into our BODIES. We feel. On purpose. Sounds excruciating, right!? I know...but I swear it'll be worth it. 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources

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I don't know about you, but I turn into a complete monster when I have a day off. And since we just got through the Christmas break, I have a LOT of thoughts about how we can treat ourselves (and others) better when we're not in our normal routine.

Today you'll learn the 5 strategies to surviving Saturdays

1. Prioritize your mental health
2. Stop fantasizing 
3. Constrain
4. Make a plan
5. Don't believe everything you think

I promise you that implementing these steps will lead to MORE FUN and MORE REST on your days off!!

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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I love it when my clients are amazing examples of what is possible for adults with ADHD.

My dear client Rich sent me his 2020 evaluation and I HAD to invite him onto the podcast to share it with you all.

Rich discusses his ADHD experience of 2020, the emotions he went through, and how he was able to rewrite his year in a way that serves him. We even get to discussing what he might set as his impossible goal for 2021.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

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Need a boost? Perfect, this call is for you. I coach on anxiety, overwhelm, obligations, procrastination, and business. I want you to see how helpful it is to get coaching and how you can apply this coaching to your own life.

Aside from medication, coaching has been the most helpful thing to me, and to many others. Many of my own huge transformations have come when watching or listening to someone else being coached.

If you’re seeing this in real time, you've got to sign up for my FREE webinar on Wednesday, December 30th where I’ll be walking you through how to plan out 2021 in a way that makes sense for your ADHD brain. Sign up now at www.ihaveadhd.com/webinar.

In this episode I interview my sister Adrienne Himelright. Adrienne has ADHD and is a Doctor of Physical Therapy. She's an awesome example of what's possible for someone with ADHD and I can't wait for you to hear from her! 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources. 

Click here to hang out with me on Instagram. 

Adrienne coaches healthcare workers and helps them to avoid burnout and love what they do. Reach out to her at theempoweredpt@gmail.com or find her on Facebook here.

When adults with ADHD set goals, we usually strive for the IDEAL rather than something attainable. This creates MORE failure for us. In this episode we’ll dive into the concept of a minimum baseline and how it will help you to achieve your goals with a much higher success rate!

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.  

Ever have one of those days where you "lose" 6 hours to spacing out on the couch? When you do, how do you treat yourself? This episode is a deep-dive into self-acceptance. 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources

ADHDers don’t like to be told what to do. So why do we spend so much of our own mental energy telling ourselves that we “should” and “have to” do things? It’s not fun and it’s not working! Today’s episode is a bit of a smackdown. Are you ready?

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

I don’t have it all together. There, I said it. In this episode I dive into why it’s important to focus on our strengths and allow ourselves to have areas of weakness. Want to know the 10 things I’ve messed up on recently? Here ya go!

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources. 

You can’t hate yourself into improvement. You have to change your mind about yourself first.

On today’s episode, I chat with my client and friend Verity Garvey, who went from self-loathing to self-acceptance and is now coaching others to do the same. Be inspired, my friend. If it’s possible for Verity, it’s possible for you.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

If you're being medically treated for your ADHD, then coaching can make all the difference in helping you move from point A to point B.

This episode is the audio of one of my recent coaching calls. We tackle phone addiction, insecurity at work, and self judgement.

Some of my most transformative breakthroughs have been when I’ve listened to OTHER people get coached, and I know this is possible for you, too. 

www.ihaveadhd.com/focused to join my ADHD coaching membership.

I had a REALLY bad day recently and it just so happened to be podcast recording day. I almost didn’t record an episode for you, but thought maybe it would be helpful to share my own bad day with you so that you can learn to process and accept your bad days. You are 100% not alone, ADHDer. I got you.

For more adult ADHD resources, visit www.ihaveadhd.com/coaching

Every adult with ADHD wants to learn how to follow through. This episode includes a 4-step process that you can use to become someone who does what they say they’re going to do. Do you identify as reliable? I do. It’s possible for you, too!

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.  

This episode is kind of a good news/bad news situation :) If you have ADHD, then your memory is terrible. Specifically, your nonverbal working memory. That’s the bad news. The good news is, it’s not your fault and there are ways you can hack your memory. Tune in to find out how to be successful even with a sucky memory!

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

In last week’s episode, I taught you the concept of your future self. This week you’re going to hear from Jen 2.0, one of my clients who has used this idea to change her whole dang life. You’ll see how you can practically apply this concept and access your future self in order to totally crush your goals. Change starts now.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.  

Most of us spend a lot of time thinking about the past and beating ourselves up about it. The result we get from this is MORE of the past. Ever notice that you keep making the same mistakes? You need to learn how to access your future self…the version of you who has it figured out. Sound weird? Hear me out! Check out this podcast episode to hear one of the most helpful concepts that I teach my clients.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more ADHD resources.

Massive action is the type of action that produces an actual RESULT. It's the opposite of passive action (researching, learning, asking for help) which doesn't actually PRODUCE anything. Tune in to learn more!

Finally! We’re chatting today about procrastination – why we do it and how to overcome it.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

In the midst of Covid-19, an election year, and all of the difficult cultural issues in our world, here’s my pep talk for you to STAY FOCUSED on what’s most important and consume less of other people’s thoughts. Hang out with me while I process my own anxiety while we chat :)

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources. 

No one tells you that success actually feels TERRIBLE, but it does. I want you to be on the lookout for the discomfort that goes along with reaching goals and experiencing the good stuff so that you don’t self-sabotage and derail yourself from forward motion. ADHDers are so used to failing…how do we even handle life when we actually start succeeding??

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.  

All adults with ADHD want to learn how to be more productive. Today on the podcast I’m sharing my 5-step FAIL PROOF system for upping your productivity. Get ready for one of my most value-packed episodes ever.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

Today I’m and telling you about the 2 mindsets that will always 100% steal positive results from you. I speak from experience, and I hope you find this to be extremely insightful. If you can rid yourself of these 2 insidious ways of thinking, you will 10x your positive results!

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

ADHDers are notoriously bad with money – I want to lead CHANGE for our community in this area. Everything about my finances has transformed in the last year, and I want to give insight into my new thoughts and beliefs about money so that everything can change for you, too. This episode is all about bringing up your money BS, analyzing it, and creating new results for yourself on purpose.  

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

Do you wonder if it’s too late for you? Do you make the same mistakes over and over and wonder if improving is even possible? On today’s episode, I’m interviewing 4 of my clients who are doing the work of real change in their own lives. Be inspired. Change is possible for you, too!

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

This is probably the most important episode I’ve recorded to date.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.  

Buffering is anything we do to avoid feeling badly. Identifying buffering in your life is a MAJOR ADHD HACK because once you see it for what it is, you can gently help yourself to get back to the task at hand.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

Today’s episode is all about intentionally spending on your time on what you’re good at and outsourcing the stuff that you suck at. I’ve got lots of ideas of how to do this for FREE as well as how to spend your money strategically so that you don’t have to waste hours of your life on the mundane stuff that you hate.

 www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources!

Failure is the most important skill you need to learn if you want to be successful. I know we've talked about it before, but DUDE! If we ADHDers could learn to fail (and be ok), we'd be unstoppable! 

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources and info on how to work with me. 

Today we talk about sticking with ONE idea at a time and seeing it through to completion. Our brains love novelty and hate boredom, but if we want to live up to our potential, we need to stick with something long enough to ACCOMPLISH it.

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

Today I’m sharing the 5 things I’ve recently learned about entrepreneurship that have changed EVERYTHING for me. It’s allowing me to create money FAST. If you have a business or a side hustle OR if you’re an entrepreneur wanna-be, this episode is for you!

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources and info on how to work with me.

Self-acceptance is the FOUNDATION for behavior change. You will never produce consistent positive results in your life if you don’t first decide to accept your own humanity and your ADHD brain. This is probably the most important episode I’ve ever recorded.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

Raise your hand if you struggle with self-confidence. Today’s episode is a class that I taught in Focused on Self-Concept & Identity, which are the building blocks for self-confidence. I wanted to share this with all of you because whether you’re a client of mine or not, you deserve the tools to feel better about yourself and create results that you WANT in your life.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

Do you give yourself permission to rest and relax? My guess is that you don’t. Let’s chat about how ADHD adults can peacefully turn their Ferrari brain off to recharge.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more adult ADHD resources.

Raise your hand if you struggle to go to bed on time. “On time” = when you want to go to bed, or when you promise yourself (and others) that you’re going to go to bed. This is a constant struggle for many of my clients, and in this episode I give you 10 tips to getting to bed ON TIME.

www.ihaveadhd.com for more resources and information on how to work with me.

Today we’re talking about perfectionism: Holding yourself to unrealistically high standards and then beating yourself up when you inevitably do not meet those standards. Perfectionism is a productivity killer, a contentment killer, and it prevents us from celebrating our wins.

For more resources and info on how to work with me, please visit www.ihaveadhd.com

Procrastivity is a term that Russell Ramsay coined, and I love it. Ramsay is the author of the new book, Rethinking Adult ADHD, and I’m telling you: HE GET US. 100%.

On today’s episode, I dive into a portion of Ramsay's book in which he talks about procrastinating with activity that SEEMS productive, but isn’t. Procrastination + non-essential activity = procrastivity. This is a game changer!

For adult ADHD resources and information on working with me, check out www.ihaveadhd.com

Today’s episode is part 2 of my conversation with my husband, Greg. We laugh about time blindness, the fact that I hate getting out of the car whenever we arrive somewhere (why can’t I just sit on my phone for hours and ease into the transition?), and the art of believing the best about your partner.

For adult ADHD resources and information on working with me, visit www.ihaveadhd.com.

Meet my husband Greg! He’s my polar opposite and he’s here to chat about what it’s like to be in relationship with an ADHDer. On today’s episode, we laugh a lot and explore the ways that he was introduced to my ADHD brain. If you’re in a bi-neurological relationship (I just made that up), I hope listening to us makes you feel VERY NORMAL.

If you’d like Adult ADHD resources and information on working with me, visit www.ihaveadhd.com.

One of the topics that I coach on the most is getting out of bed “on time.” This is HUGE for adults with ADHD. If you struggle with waking up and getting yourself moving in the morning, this episode is for you!

Now is the perfect time to hire a coach to help you feel better and get things done. Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for information on how to work with me.

Well, here we are! If you’re struggling to find your way during quarantine, you’re not alone. I am too. I’m here today with 5 reason why quarantine is especially hard for those of us with ADHD, and 5 simple ways we can make it better.

The next few episodes will be dedicated to helping adults with ADHD thrive during this quarantine time in our lives.

Now is the perfect time to hire an ADHD coach. Go to www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for information on working with me.

No one ever told me that I get to choose how I feel about something. I always thought my emotions happened to me. Today we chat about interrupting our go-to spirals and generating more useful emotions.

Why do emotions matter? Because each emotion leads to action (or inaction). If you’re procrastinating, it’s because of an emotion. If you’re avoiding, it’s because of an emotion. If you’re over-eating, it’s because of an emotion. If you’re working hard, it’s because of an emotion.

EMOTIONS ARE EVERYTHING.

For info on working with me in an ADHD coaching scenario, visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused.

Emotions always lead to our actions. So…want to stop avoiding? Wish you could stop procrastinating? Sick of getting stuck on social media? The secret is to learn how to feel and process your negative emotion.

Also - we chat about the 3 types of emotions. Which ones are useful and which are indulgent. 

www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for coaching for adults with ADHD. 

Shame is something that all of us with ADHD experience. It’s the feeling of contempt that we have for ourselves when we fail to meet our own expectations. And. It’s. Paralyzing. Here’s how you can experience shame and still get into action.  

Life is 50% positive emotion and 50% negative emotion. This means that when you feel awful, nothing has gone wrong…you’re normal. Want to stop procrastinating? Learn how to process and allow negative emotion.

Take the work deeper: Join Focused! It’s my monthly coaching membership where I teach you how to tame your wild thoughts and create the life you’ve always wanted. www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more info. See you inside.

In this episode, ADHD coach Jessica Heimsoth chats with Kristen about the importance of managing our thoughts and FEELING our emotions. I wanted you to hear it from someone else...I'm not the only ADHD coach saying it! 

www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for info on coaching!

If you're being treated for ADHD and still don't feel like you're reaching your potential, I want you to join Focused. It's my monthly coaching membership where I teach you how to tame your wild thoughts and create the life that you've always wanted. Workbooks + Coaching Calls + Community. It's awesome. Go to www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for more information.

If you are an adult with ADHD who needs a coach, check out www.ihaveadhd.com/focused

People often say "I want to get this done, but something always comes up" Let's discuss this concept. In my world, nothing EVER comes up. Here are 10 practical tips to getting the shiz done. 

www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for coaching info. 

Stop fantasizing and start DOING. 

www.ihaveadhd.com/focused

Decisions + ADHD = HARD!!! Here are some tips to help you!

Setting priorities is so difficult for us! How in the world do we choose what is important? 

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused if you want to be coached by ME! 

visit www.ihaveadhd.com/focused for information on coaching for adults with ADHD.

5 Steps to feeling better when someone says or does something to set you off. 

Yep, you read that right I"M DONE WITH MOTIVATION. Here are 5 things I'm doing instead. 

You asked for it! Here ya go! Definitely NOT the "10 tricks to being a perfect parent" episode that you were probably hoping for, but still valuable and encouraging, I promise.

It's so hard to say no - especially for us ADHDers. Let's chat about why saying no is ESSENTIAL if we're going to stay focused and reach our potential! 

The ability to fail (and not let it break us) is one of the most necessary skills that we need to develop. What I am noticing as I am coaching my ADHD clients, and also hearing from many of you, is that the ADHD community has an extreme intolerance to failure.

Our friend Laura Brooke (PHL Organizer) is back to discuss her recent diagnosis of ASD and to give us some insight to how ADHD and ASD differ and how they're the same.

Your  ADHD brain is in charge of EVERYTHING in your life, and it can change and improve!

How does one acquire an ADHD diagnosis? Here are some very practical tips. 

Ready for some inspiration?! Well, here it is. I'm super pumped to share this episode with you! From Simone Biles to Bill Gates - there's nothing we can't do. 

If you have ADHD, then you struggle with habits! Let's figure out a way to do the things we want to do....

I'm baaaaaaaaaaaack!!! So excited to be with you today! Serving up some things I've learned over my two-month break! Enjoy!

Anyone else drowning in all of the craziness of summer? 

Raise your hand if you struggle with motivation! This episode explains why we struggle and some ways to combat it.

I finally recorded an episode on the enneagram personality types and I could not be more excited to share it with you! I'm obsessed! Go to www.ihaveadhd.com/eg for enneagram resources! 

Many of us ADHDers are broke. We make impulsive decisions, are in debt, feel that we never have enough, and don't know how to CHANGE. In this episode, I share what I've been learning about having a great money mindset, curb impulsive spending, get out of debt, and create money for myself. 

If I had only been diagnosed sooner

If I had only taken my ADHD seriously sooner

If I only NOT gone into debt or NOT married that person or NOT gotten that tattoo or NOT exploded at my boss or WHATEVER…

What is it that you regret? How in the world can we let it go? Here are some simple steps that can help you to accept your past and create a new future for yourself. Find more at www.ihaveadhd.com

We spend a lot of time hating on our ADHD brains - but what if your brain is your most valuable asset? The truth of the matter is, your entire life is created by your brain, so investing in your brain is an investment in your entire life. In this episode, I share how I'm choosing to think about my brain differently, and how it's changing everything for me.

In this episode, Laura Brooke, professional organizer (who has ADHD) gives us all the practical steps to organizing our space.

 Think that ADHD and organization don't mix? Think again! You can be organized. Organization is a talent for some, but it's also a skill that can be developed by the rest of us who are just naturally messy people.

 And of course, Laura was kind enough to put a free printable download together for us. BECAUSE SHE ROCKS. This thing is so practical - print it out and hang it up on your wall to refer to as you tackle your clutter!

Organization and ADHD do not mix, right? WRONG! Today I welcome my very first guest to the podcast: Laura Brooke, a professional organizer diagnosed with ADHD. Crazy, right? In this episode, Laura walks us through the mindset of organization and uncovers for us exactly what it takes to change our thoughts on this never-ending struggle.

I know this episode is longer than usual, but I’m telling you, it’s worth it! Laura really packs a punch with her stories and advice, and I learned so much from our conversation (was legit taking notes the whole time!).

Make sure to grab Laura’s free download at www.ihaveadhd.com/organization.

This is the number one brain hack I have encountered – I use it in my own life and try to get EVERY ADHDER I know to do it, too.

***WARNING I AM OFF MY MEDS FOR THIS EPISODE!!!***

Ever have those days (or weeks) when you’re just not OK and you’re not sure WHY? Yeah, me too. Let’s talk about some practical strategies to overcoming intermittent depression.

Based on the book Atomic Habits, let’s chat about how our small steps can lead to huge changes. And OH HOW WE AVOID those small methodical steps, don’t we?!

Hey it's just me over here dropping some truth bombs about relationships! I hope this episode is super helpful to you as you interact with the people that you love! 

This is the first in a series of episodes on relationships. This is for MEN AND WOMEN - it is not a touchy feely episode, so make sure to listen. This is the foundation for the tips and tricks and hacks that you're all wanting! 

Life changing! If you are not getting results in your life that you are happy with or proud of, you need to change your thoughts.

visit www.ihaveadhd.com/5beliefs for show notes and additional resources

Thanks for listening - it means the world to me 

Suck at managing your money? Join the club. Let's chat about it - here's some really practical advice.

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com/money for more resources

Do you often over-react or find yourself exploding emotionally? This is COMPLETELY NORMAL if you have ADHD. The experts call it emotional dysregulation. This episode is primarily about anger and frustration.

[I will do an episode on anxiety and depression soon!]

Please visit www.ihaveadhd.com/emotions for all of the resources used in this episode. 

No idea how to set or achieve goals? I feel ya! Here are 5 practical tips you can apply today to get started on crushing those goals!

Do you hate grocery shopping as much as I do? Why do the "easy" things in life seem so hard for you and me? One word: dopamine. Let's commiserate about how much we hate mundane tasks!

Vision is the picture you have in your mind of what you want your life to be. It's the destination. The end goal. Unfortunately those of us with ADHD pretty much suck at living with a vision. But don't worry, I've got some tips for ya!

So many of us adults with ADHD are walking around feeling ashamed of our symptoms and behaviors. Shame can be limiting and debilitating. I invite you to let go of shame and change your thinking so that you can begin to make positive changes in your life! Warning: I get super vulnerable in this episode.

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for a psychologist-approved list of symptoms, resources, and additional support.

I thought I hated Marie Kondo's Netflix show, Tidying Up, but I've changed my mind. Find out which of Marie's tricks we ADHDers can use as we attempt to declutter our homes. If you've got piles everywhere, this episode is for you.

The clutter is a constant struggle, isn't it? It is for me!

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for a psychologist-approved list of symptoms, resources, and additional support.

Your life won't improve until you accept and own your diagnosis. That's when the party really starts.  It’s taken me several years to really change my thinking about ADHD. Once I changed my thinking, I could change my actions and improve my life, and you can, too. That’s actually psychology 101 – your thoughts determine your feelings. Your feelings determine your actions your actions determine your results. So if you want different results, it’s time to think different thoughts.

You can read more about my diagnosis experience HERE.

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for a psychologist-approved list of symptoms, resources, and additional support.

Join me, as I chat about the frustrations, challenges, and humor of living life as an adult with ADHD.

Every podcast episode will be filled with education, encouragement, and support for adults with ADHD. I'll help you understand your unique brain and implement systems to help you reach your potential.

Here's the gist: Episode 2 is all about your frontal lobe and executive functioning and why you should care about both. It's life-changing information regarding adult ADHD that my doctor never told me!

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for a psychologist-approved list of symptoms, resources, and additional support! 

Join me, as I chat about the frustrations, challenges, and humor of living life as an adult with ADHD.

Every podcast episode will be filled with education, encouragement, and support for adults with ADHD. I'll help you understand your unique brain and implement systems to help you reach your potential.

You know I have ADHD, right? So the thought of writing detailed show notes for every single podcast episode is laughable. It’s just not going to happen.

You're here to listen to the podcast anyway, not read boring show notes, right?

Visit www.ihaveadhd.com for a psychologist-approved list of symptoms, resources, and additional support!