Flying Free

By Natalie Hoffman

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Flying Free is a support resource for women of faith who need hope and healing from hidden emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, and narcissistic abuse. Because of misogynistic theology taught in controlling and spiritually abusive churches, many Christian women find themselves in destructive marriages where there is an uneven power dynamic. Male partners use their status as a husband to gain power and control over a woman’s mind, emotions, body, social life, finances, and more. When she tries to get help from her equally abusive church environment, she is betrayed and re-abused. Flying Free offers a Christ-centered, gospel-oriented perspective on domestic abuse that protects and honors the voices and autonomy of women. Tune in each week to hear conversations with emotional abuse advocates and fellow survivors who will walk with you on your journey up and out. We hear you. You are not alone. Learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com

Episode Date
What the Healing Journey Looks Like
May 28, 2024
Teaching Children the CBT Model Tool
May 21, 2024
Is Your Church Safe?
May 14, 2024
The One About Bill
May 07, 2024
How to Reframe and Recover From an Abusive Sermon
Apr 30, 2024
A Story that Perfectly Describes Emotional Abuse
Apr 23, 2024
Holy Ghosted: Spiritual Anxiety and Religious Trauma
Apr 16, 2024
Reframing Nasty Things People Say to Victims
Apr 09, 2024
Do Marriage Intensives Help to Heal Abusive Marriages?
Apr 02, 2024
Does an Abuser Know They are Abusive?
Mar 26, 2024
Janet’s Excommunication Story
Mar 19, 2024
Excommunication Series: Valerie's Story
Mar 12, 2024
Excommunication Series: Marieda's Story
Mar 05, 2024
Is Teaching Boundaries Victim Blaming?
Feb 27, 2024
Now Available: All the Scary Little Gods
Feb 20, 2024
Deconstructing Your Faith Without Losing Yourself
Feb 13, 2024
All the Scary Little Gods: More Insider Scoop on My New Book
Feb 06, 2024
Doesn't the Bible Say to Remove the Log From Your Own Eye?
Jan 30, 2024
The Symbolism on the Cover of All the Scary Little Gods
Jan 23, 2024
Strategies to Deal with Toxic Communication Cycles
Jan 16, 2024
When You are Lonely and Sad in Your Christian Marriage
Jan 09, 2024
BONUS EPISODE: New Beliefs for Christian Women in Emotionally and Spiritually Abusive Marriages
Jan 05, 2024
How to Change Yourself While Still Stuck in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage: Interview with Diana Swillinger
Jan 02, 2024
Interrupting the Abuse Cycle
Dec 26, 2023
Ten Steps Out of an Emotionally Abusive "Christian" Marriage
Dec 19, 2023
What if My Husband Removed My Access to Money, a Phone, and More?
Dec 12, 2023
How Can I Be a Good Mom in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage?
Dec 05, 2023
Answers to Six Emotional Abuse Survivor Questions
Nov 28, 2023
Survivor Story: Stacie
Nov 21, 2023
I Don't Consider Myself to be a Victim, so How Do I Accept the Reality of my Abusive Relationship?
Nov 14, 2023
Untwisting Scriptures About Brokenness and Suffering: Interview with Rebecca Davis
Nov 07, 2023
How to Tell Your Kids You're Getting Divorced
Oct 31, 2023
Survivor Story: Shelly
Oct 24, 2023
Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn: Religion and Trauma Responses
Oct 17, 2023
Help! I Love My Abusive Husband So Much!
Oct 10, 2023
What an Emotional Abuse Survivor Needs
Oct 03, 2023
What About When People Don't Validate My Experience of Abuse?
Sep 26, 2023
What to Do When Our Kids Disapprove of Us
Sep 19, 2023
Survivor Story: Married by Myself
Sep 12, 2023
Love is Everything: Sneak Peek Part Four
Sep 05, 2023
Fight for Freedom: Sneak Peek Into My New Book Part Three
Aug 29, 2023
The Food Fight Inside Us: Sneak Peek Into My New Book Part Two
Aug 22, 2023
We All Need an Empathetic Witness: Sneak Peek Into My New Book Part One
Aug 15, 2023
Bad Advice Christians Offer Emotional Abuse Victims
Aug 08, 2023
A Story About Letting Go
Aug 01, 2023
Raising Resilient Kids Even if Your Co-parent Is Destructive: Interview with Jessica Nagy
Jul 25, 2023
Dealing With Grief When Waking up to Emotional Abuse
Jul 18, 2023
How Cognitive Dissonance Can Be a Sign of Healthy Growth
Jul 11, 2023
What if My Christian Husband Says My Body Belongs to Him?
Jul 04, 2023
Do Christian Women Ever Get Out of Their Abusive Marriage and Thrive?
Jun 27, 2023
Rising Above Narcissistic Abuse
Jun 20, 2023
How Understanding Your Personality Can Help You Get Unstuck in Your Life Part Two
Jun 13, 2023
How Understanding Your Personality Can Help You Get Unstuck in Your Life Part One
Jun 06, 2023
Will God Punish Me if I Get a Divorce?
May 30, 2023
I'm So Confused! Is This Really Abuse?
May 23, 2023
Raising Girls to Resist Toxic Teachings on Sex, Self, and Speaking Up: Interview with Sheila Wray Gregoire
May 16, 2023
Decluttering in a Toxic Environment: Interview with Dawn Madsen
May 09, 2023
Unraveling Purity Culture's Effects on Your Marriage: Interview with Dr. Camden Morgante
May 02, 2023
Dealing with Fear During Divorce: Interview with Wendy Hernandez
Apr 25, 2023
Eight Steps to Getting a Divorce: Understanding the Divorce Process
Apr 18, 2023
7 Ways to Prepare for Divorce: Interview with Rhonda Noordyk
Apr 11, 2023
Help! My Church is Going to Kick Me Out Unless I Submit to Their Authority and Go Back to My Abuser!
Apr 04, 2023
From Survivor to Psychotherapist: Interview with Yvette Stone
Mar 28, 2023
Do Marriage Intensives Work?
Mar 21, 2023
Understanding Reactive Abuse and Reabuse: Interview with Annette Oltmans
Mar 14, 2023
Won't Abusers Get Away With Everything if We Believe God's Love is Unconditional?
Mar 07, 2023
Setting Boundaries with Adult Children
Feb 28, 2023
An Adult Child of Divorce Answers Survivor Questions
Feb 21, 2023
A Man Who Admits to Being Abusive Asks "How Do I Fight For My Wife?"
Feb 14, 2023
A Groundbreaking Therapy that Fosters Healing and Connection with Self, God, and Others: Interview with Jenna Riemersma
Feb 07, 2023
Nine Codependency Behaviors Religious Communities Reward in Christian Women
Jan 31, 2023
Interview with My Second Husband: How We Met and Married
Jan 24, 2023
Help! My Husband Twists Words to Confuse Me, and I Feel Guilty and Full of Shame
Jan 17, 2023
Where Does My Help Come From? Interview with Keith Giles
Jan 10, 2023
Why We Get Stuck and How to Unstick Ourselves: Interview with Britt Frank
Jan 03, 2023
Celebrating the Holidays When Life Is Blowing Up - Part Two
Dec 20, 2022
Celebrating the Holidays When Life Is Blowing Up - Part One
Dec 13, 2022
200th Episode Celebration: The State of the Christian Survivor and Advocate Community
Dec 06, 2022
How Many Years Does a Christian Wife Owe Her Abusive Husband?
Nov 29, 2022
Why Don't I Feel Close to God? Interview with Krispin Mayfield
Nov 22, 2022
The Story About Your Family on the Bus (and a food fight)
Nov 15, 2022
How Far Should I Go to Give My Emotionally Abusive Husband a Chance to Change?
Nov 08, 2022
My Abusive Husband Says I’m Unbiblical Unless I Reconcile with Him
Nov 01, 2022
What Role Does Fear Play in Our Religion and Our Relationships?
Oct 25, 2022
Stop Waiting for Your Husband to Die so You Can Live
Oct 18, 2022
Confronting Religious Trauma and Reconstructing Faith: Interview with Dr. Tiffany Yecke Brooks
Oct 11, 2022
Why Self-Leadership is More Effective Than Being Held Accountable
Oct 04, 2022
What if I Want a Divorce but My Abusive Husband Doesn't?
Sep 27, 2022
I’m Afraid of My Christian Husband’s Criticism and Disapproval
Sep 20, 2022
When Your Ex-Husband Tries to Use Your Kids to Control You After the Divorce
Sep 13, 2022
Will Divorce Ruin My Kids and Their Opportunities in Life?
Sep 06, 2022
Why Being Rejected by Your Church and Family Hurts So Bad
Aug 30, 2022
How to Know If Your Christian Dating Relationship is Toxic
Aug 23, 2022
BONUS Episode: Stop Using the Word "Alienation" (Here's Why)
Aug 20, 2022
The Wife with Boundaries: Changing the Conversation on Biblical Submission
Aug 16, 2022
12 Life-Changing Beliefs That Will Unhook You From Abuse Part Three
Aug 09, 2022
12 Life-Changing Beliefs That Will Unhook You From Abuse Part Two
Aug 02, 2022
12 Life-Changing Beliefs That Will Unhook You From Abuse Part One
Jul 26, 2022
Understanding Three Sources of Anger (and why the source matters)
Jul 19, 2022
We Need a Sexual Reformation in the Church: Interview with Author Aimee Byrd
Jul 12, 2022
Does the Bible Say I Can't Take My Abuser to Court in Order to Divorce Him in 1 Corinthians 6:1-10?
Jul 05, 2022
How You and Your Faith Community Got Hoodwinked by an Abuser
Jun 28, 2022
Using Art to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse: Interview with Art Therapist Jennifer Kramer
Jun 21, 2022
I Don’t Want to Look Like a Bad Christian if I Leave My Abusive Marriage
Jun 14, 2022
Are Christian Abuse Victims Supposed to Be Like Job and Just Suffer?
Jun 07, 2022
What Does It Mean to Find Yourself After Getting Out of an Abusive Relationship?
May 31, 2022
Protect Yourself From Financial Abuse with Attorney Lisa Zeiderman
May 24, 2022
We Are Like the God We Worship
May 18, 2022
Does the Bible Say I Have to Give My Abusive Husband Sex on Demand?
May 10, 2022
Different Ways Emotional Abusers Don't Take Responsibility for Their Behavior
May 03, 2022
The Worst Things People Say to Justify, Minimize, and Excuse the Abuse You’ve Experienced
Apr 26, 2022
Am I Responsible for Fixing My Husband?
Apr 19, 2022
How Churches Can Help Abuse Victims (And How They Often Hurt Them Instead)
Apr 12, 2022
How Do I Know What Is Real or True When My Husband Gaslights Me?
Apr 05, 2022
How Not to Be an Ass: Interview with Author Andrew Bauman
Mar 29, 2022
The One About God and Religion and Hell
Mar 22, 2022
What If I Had an Affair While I Was Married to My Abusive Husband?
Mar 15, 2022
The Woman They Could Not Silence: Interview with Author Kate Moore
Mar 08, 2022
An Emotional Recovery Tool That Changes Everything
Mar 01, 2022
Ten Thoughts Confident Women Think When Their Husbands Act Like Jerks
Feb 22, 2022
How Will I Know When Enough Is Enough and I Can Walk Away?
Feb 15, 2022
How Do You Break the Cycle of Emotional and Spiritual Abuse?
Feb 08, 2022
What Are the Biblical Grounds for Divorce? (And Other Questions!)
Feb 01, 2022
When Wolves Play Dress Up
Jan 18, 2022
Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse
Jan 11, 2022
Making Health and Fitness Easier for Survivors
Dec 28, 2021
A Teen's Perspective on Divorce During the Holidays
Dec 21, 2021
How Do I Get My Kids to Believe and Understand That I'm a Victim of Emotional Abuse?
Dec 14, 2021
Managing the Holiday Blues
Dec 07, 2021
Changing Your Role (Chapter Eight of Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage) Part Two
Nov 30, 2021
Changing Your Role (Chapter Eight of Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage) Part One
Nov 23, 2021
Dealing with Difficult People During the Holidays
Nov 16, 2021
Doing Deep Internal Healing Through Spiritual Process Groups
Nov 09, 2021
Three False Beliefs My Abusive Relationship Gave to Me
Nov 02, 2021
Four Barriers That Keep Women From Leaving Abusive Relationships
Oct 26, 2021
When All Your Thoughts Are Despairing and Hopeless
Oct 19, 2021
How to Achieve Financial Independence After Abuse
Oct 12, 2021
But Didn't I Promise to Stay in Sickness and in Health? What about Mental Illness?
Oct 05, 2021
Finding Joy Even When Life Hurts
Sep 28, 2021
Does God Love You Less Because Your Marriage is Bad?
Sep 21, 2021
How Do I Make an Exit Plan?
Sep 14, 2021
Is the Bible Against Women?
Sep 07, 2021
What You Can Do When Your Christian Husband Bullies You Part Two
Aug 31, 2021
What You Can Do When Your Christian Husband Bullies You Part One
Aug 24, 2021
Survivor Story: Marie
Aug 17, 2021
What I Would Preach to the Modern Day Preachers (if they would listen...)
Aug 10, 2021
What You Need to Know When You Leave
Aug 03, 2021
Why Hanging on to Hope in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship Doesn't Work
Jul 27, 2021
Is the Cost to Leave an Abusive Marriage Worth It?
Jul 20, 2021
My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part Two
Jul 13, 2021
My Three Biggest Mistakes When Getting Away From Emotional Abuse Part One
Jul 06, 2021
How Pretending and Fear Keep You Stuck in abuse cycles (and what sets you free)
Jun 29, 2021
Emotional Abuse Survivor Q&A
Jun 22, 2021
The Big Problem with Christian Marriage Counseling
Jun 15, 2021
Is it Possible to Stay Well in an Abusive Marriage?
Jun 08, 2021
Finding Your Personal Style After Years of Emotional Abuse
Jun 01, 2021
Finding a Healthy Partner After Divorce
May 25, 2021
How I Encouraged an Abusive System with My Silence and Submission
May 18, 2021
Why Relationships Are Complicated for Survivors and How to Unhook from Relationship Drama
May 11, 2021
Consent in Christian Marriage: Why Your "No" Feels Confusing
May 04, 2021
Can Emotionally Abusive Marriages Be Restored?
Apr 27, 2021
How to Become Toxic Person Proof
Apr 20, 2021
Staying Connected to Our Kids Post-Divorce
Apr 13, 2021
Building Resilience in Children Who Have Experienced Coercive Control
Apr 07, 2021
Practical Help for Christian Women in Confusing and Painful Marriages
Mar 30, 2021
Has God Abandoned Emotional Abuse Survivors in the Church?
Mar 23, 2021
Untwisting the Bible on Authority and Patriarchy
Mar 16, 2021
Is it My Fault Our Marriage Is Bad?
Mar 09, 2021
The Great Sex Rescue
Mar 02, 2021
If There Is a Loving and Powerful God, Why Does He Allow Abuse? Part Two
Feb 23, 2021
Interview with Judge Tim Fall on Fairness for Victims of Abuse
Feb 16, 2021
If There is a Loving and Powerful God, Why Does He Allow Abuse? Part One
Feb 09, 2021
How Do I Heal After Abuse and Sexual Betrayal?
Feb 02, 2021
Christian Women Who Actually Care About Other Christian Women
Jan 26, 2021
What Life Can Look Like for Christian Women After a Divorce
Jan 20, 2021
How Do I Deal with Emotional Triggers?
Jan 13, 2021
Wisdom for Survivors: The Best of the Flying Free Podcast
Jan 06, 2021
How Do You Deal with the Pain of Being Rejected by Your Family?
Dec 30, 2020
How Do I Support My Adult Children Who Grew Up in a Spiritually and Emotionally Abusive Home?
Dec 23, 2020
How Writing Your Story Will Help You Heal From Emotional and Spiritual Abuse
Dec 16, 2020
You Are Not Responsible for Your Husband's Behavior
Dec 09, 2020
My Husband Changed After We Got Married
Dec 02, 2020
Parenting Small Children in an Emotionally Destructive Home
Nov 25, 2020
Do Gender Roles Contribute to Emotional Abuse in the Home and Church?
Nov 18, 2020
What is Gaslighting in a Toxic Narcissistic Relationship?
Nov 11, 2020
But I Don't Want to Hurt Anyone!
Nov 04, 2020
How Do I Know if a Church or Person Is Safe for Me?
Oct 28, 2020
Why Do I Feel Like I'm Going Crazy in My Marriage?
Oct 21, 2020
Protecting Yourself Financially During Divorce
Oct 14, 2020
What is Emotional Manipulation?
Oct 07, 2020
When Your Abusive Husband is a Pastor
Sep 30, 2020
Am I the Problem in My Marriage?
Sep 23, 2020
How to Prepare for Your Custody Case
Sep 16, 2020
Trusting God While Making Your Own Adult Choices in Your Controlling Marriage
Sep 09, 2020
I'm Always Walking on Eggshells in My Christian Marriage!
Sep 02, 2020
How Do I Forgive Someone Who Keeps Hurting Me?
Aug 26, 2020
When God and the Bible are Weaponized Against Christian Women
Aug 19, 2020
A Christian Woman's Identity Isn't About People Pleasing
Aug 12, 2020
Are You Married to a Quiet Covert Abuser with a Hidden Lifestyle?
Aug 05, 2020
Am I Codependent Just Because I'm Choosing to Stay with an Emotionally Abusive Partner?
Jul 29, 2020
The Ways Religion Kills People
Jul 22, 2020
When You Are Rejected by Family, Friends, and Church
Jul 15, 2020
When Your Christian Husband Yells at You All the Time
Jul 08, 2020
Can Emotional Abuse Survivors Ever Learn to Completely Trust Again?
Jul 01, 2020
Five New Ways for Christian Wives to Think About Their Destructive Marriage
Jun 24, 2020
Is It Rebellious for Christian Women to Say No?
Jun 17, 2020
When Giving the Silent Treatment is Emotional Abuse
Jun 10, 2020
Setting Boundaries with a Husband Who Blames You for Everything
Jun 03, 2020
The Link Between Narcissism and Legalism in the Church
May 27, 2020
Can Christians be Narcissists?
May 20, 2020
Should a Christian Wife Submit to an Abusive Husband?
May 13, 2020
God Loves You More Than He Hates Divorce
May 06, 2020
How to Respond to Emotional Abuse Tactics
Apr 29, 2020
Can a Christian Get a Divorce?
Apr 22, 2020
Seven Things an Abuser Does When You Set Boundaries
Apr 15, 2020
Abused by Husband and Rejected by Church
Apr 08, 2020
Are We "Tearing Down Our House" When We Set Healthy Boundaries?
Mar 27, 2020
Hope and Healing After Trauma
Mar 25, 2020
Exchanging an Abusive Faith for a True and Simple Faith
Mar 18, 2020
Nothing I Do Makes My Husband Happy
Mar 11, 2020
Questions Christians Have About Rebuilding Life After Divorce
Mar 04, 2020
Help Your Kids Overcome Trauma from Abuse and Divorce
Feb 26, 2020
Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem After Divorce
Feb 19, 2020
The Beliefs That Keep Christian Women Stuck in Abusive Marriages
Feb 12, 2020
When Your Pastor Says You're Not Being Abused if You Don't Have Bruises
Feb 05, 2020
Can My Alcoholic Husband Change?
Jan 29, 2020
When Abuse and Our Faith are Tangled Up Together
Jan 22, 2020
Emotional Abuse: When You Have All the Responsibility and None of the Freedom
Jan 15, 2020
I Feel Guilty Because Even Though He's Changing, I Still Want to Leave
Jan 08, 2020
Practical Tips for Facing the New Year with Hope
Jan 01, 2020
Why God Doesn't Rescue You From Your Bad Marriage
Dec 27, 2019
How Our Female Bodies Reflect God's Glory
Dec 10, 2019
The Holidays Make Separation and Divorce Even Worse
Dec 02, 2019
When Your Husband and Pastor Demand Reconciliation and Forgiveness
Nov 25, 2019
How Do I Find a Good Man and a Good Church?
Nov 12, 2019
The Intersection Between Abuse and Pornography
Oct 29, 2019
Calling the Church to Compassion
Oct 24, 2019
I Can't Stop Hoping He Will Change His Abusive Behavior
Oct 16, 2019
When You Are Betrayed by Your Church, Family, and Friends
Oct 01, 2019
Help! I'm Starved for Affection!
Sep 25, 2019
Why is My Husband So Mean to Me?
Sep 18, 2019
Shame Busting Your Divorce
Sep 11, 2019
Breaking Destructive Relationship Patterns You Learned in Your Family of Origin
Sep 04, 2019
Practical Tips For Christian Single Women After Divorce
Aug 28, 2019
Narcissistic Abuse in Your Family of Origin
Aug 21, 2019
What if I'm a Narcissist and Not a Victim?
Aug 14, 2019
Taking Back Your Life After Emotional Abuse
Aug 07, 2019
Learning to Love the Bible Again After You've Been Spiritually Abused
Jul 31, 2019
Sometimes Divorce is a Gift of Mercy
Jul 17, 2019
If I Leave My Abusive Marriage Am I Giving Up On the Power of God to Change My Husband?
Jul 10, 2019
This is What Covert Hidden Abuse Looks Like
Jul 05, 2019
Three Reviews of the Flying Free Sisterhood Community
Jun 26, 2019
How to Help Kids Heal From the Effects of Emotional Abuse in the Home
Jun 20, 2019
Co-Parenting with an Emotionally Abusive Man
Jun 13, 2019
But Maybe God Will Do a Miracle and Change My Husband!
Jun 05, 2019
Why the Church is Often the Most Dangerous Place for an Domestic Abuse Survivor to Get Help
May 31, 2019
The Difference Between a Normal Marriage and an Emotionally Abusive Marriage
May 23, 2019
Is Self-Care Selfish, or is it a Sacred Duty?
May 17, 2019
When Your Older Kids Side with Their Abusive Father
May 10, 2019
Is it Your Christian Duty to Surrender to Emotional Abuse in Your Marriage?
May 03, 2019
I Can't Be Perfect Enough for My Husband
Apr 23, 2019
During Separation, How Do I Cope With an Overwhelming Workload and No Support?
Apr 17, 2019
Christian Women, You Don't Need Permission to Make Your Own Decisions
Apr 09, 2019
What Happens When You Set Boundaries with an Emotional Abuser?
Apr 03, 2019
How to Set Healthy Boundaries to Keep Yourself Safe
Mar 26, 2019
How Do I Know If I'm Doing the Right Thing by Leaving My Emotionally Abusive Husband?
Mar 19, 2019
What Christian Women Need to Look for in a Counselor
Mar 11, 2019
What Does the Bible Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
Feb 19, 2019
Waking Up to Emotional Abuse so You Can Focus on Healing
Feb 13, 2019
The One Thing Every Healthy Relationship Must Have (and why!)
Feb 06, 2019
What Do You Do If You're Married to a Fool?
Jan 29, 2019
How Do I Know if My Church is Spiritually Abusive?
Jan 21, 2019
Is Suffering Really One of God's Purposes in Marriage?
Jan 08, 2019
Misogynist Theology Causes Emotional and Spiritual Abuse in Homes and Churches
Jan 08, 2019
How Can You Still Honor Yourself in an Abusive Marriage?
Dec 23, 2018
How Can You Tell if Your Abusive Partner Has Changed?
Dec 12, 2018