Black Girls Heal

By Shena Lashey

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Episodes: 255

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Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools. Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.

Episode Date
#248: Getting Out of the Negative in Relationships
Jun 10, 2024
#247: 3 Signs You've Grown and Are Healthier
Jun 03, 2024
#246: The 4 Seasons of Healing
May 28, 2024
#245: The First 3 Steps of Healing Love Avoidance
May 21, 2024
#244: 4 Ways Family Trauma Will Normalize Emotional Abuse
May 14, 2024
#243: 3 Ways Love Addicts (Accidentally) Sabotage Their Relationships
May 07, 2024
#242: 7 Tips to Recover after a Friendship Breakup
Apr 30, 2024
#241: 3 Ways to Not Be Jaded in Love after Heartbreak
Apr 23, 2024
#240: 5 Stages of Healing from Love Addiction
Apr 16, 2024
#239: Secret Narcissistic Lovebombing Techniques that You Need to Know
Apr 02, 2024
#238: Reesa Teesa, Settling, and Finding Your Joy
Mar 26, 2024
#237: Top 15 Things I Do to Manage my ADHD (ADD)
Mar 19, 2024
#236: Taking a mini break
Mar 12, 2024
#235: Can I stay friends with my ex as a love addict?
Mar 05, 2024
#234: Overspending, Hoarding, Workaholism, and Financial Codependency (Money Trauma Pt 2)
Feb 27, 2024
#233: Money Trauma and Underearning for Love Addicts & Avoidants
Feb 22, 2024
#231: Mother Hunger with Dr. Piper Grant
Feb 06, 2024
#230: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult
Feb 01, 2024
#229: How to Know You Have a Problem as a Love Addict
Jan 30, 2024
#228: When Your Mom is Competitive WIth You
Jan 23, 2024
#227: Codependency & Boundaries
Jan 16, 2024
#226: Negging is Not Normal (and how to get away from it)
Jan 09, 2024
#225: Practicing Healthy Non-Attachment vs Avoidance for Self-Love
Jan 02, 2024
#224: Getting Ourselves Together in 2024 (Mother Trauma, Men, & Money!)
Dec 31, 2023
#223: [REWIND] You Can't Practice With Unhealthy People
Dec 19, 2023
#222: 4 Therapy Tasks for Love Addicts
Dec 12, 2023
#221: Online Dating, Vulnerability, & Finding Love with Anwar White
Dec 05, 2023
December Check In, ADHD, & Affirmations to Focus On
Dec 04, 2023
#220: How I Left My Unhealthy Relationship
Nov 28, 2023
#219: 8 Tips for Going Outside for Love Addicts & Love Avoidants (New Intro + Update)
Nov 22, 2023
#218: 4 Therapy Tasks for Love Avoidants
Nov 15, 2023
#217: 12 Promises of Hope for Love Addict
Nov 07, 2023
#216: 3 Things to Unlearn After an Unhealthy Relationship
Oct 31, 2023
#215: Can a Love Addict & Love Avoidant Make it Work? (3 Ways to Move Forward)
Oct 24, 2023
#214: 7 Tips for Dating Post Divorce
Oct 17, 2023
Now Introducing The Business of Healing Podcast!
Oct 15, 2023
#213: Is it compatibility or codependency?
Oct 10, 2023
#212: What it Feels Like to be Restored
Oct 03, 2023
#211: Feeling Safety in Your Body (Reclaiming Me)
Sep 26, 2023
#210: Building Positive Self Belief
Sep 19, 2023
#209: How to Use Coaching In Your Healing Process
Sep 12, 2023
#208: 4 Gains of Being Love Available (fixed audio)
Sep 07, 2023
#207: For Beautiful Ari & All Others Who Feel Not Enough
Sep 05, 2023
#206: Sisterhood Heals with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford
Aug 30, 2023
#205: Listen to Your Teachers, but Trust Your Gut
Aug 22, 2023
#204: Recovering as a Married Single Mother with Jasmine Chanelle
Aug 15, 2023
#203: When you feel love deprived and neglect yourself (Roadmap Episode)
Aug 08, 2023
#202: Do I tell them I'm a love addict? [repost]
Aug 03, 2023
#201: 3 Regrets as a Recovered Love Addict
Jul 25, 2023
#200: The 5 Steps to Heal from Love Addiction
Jul 18, 2023
#199: Refocusing and Self Love at BGH
Jul 11, 2023
#198: How to Apologize (and When Not to)
Jul 05, 2023
#197: Therapeutic separation with a neglectful partnership
Jun 27, 2023
#196: Allowing those who want to leave to leave
Jun 20, 2023
#195: (Re)training your body to experience good feelings
Jun 14, 2023
#194: 3 Ways to Optimize Community (and how to find it)
Jun 06, 2023
#193: Family boundaries, money trauma, explosive fights, sexual assault, situationship problems, queer dating and more! (Listener Q&A)
May 31, 2023
Join me in Portugal for our Fall Intensive!
May 31, 2023
#192: It’s time to work on what you’ve been avoiding
May 23, 2023
#191: The 4 Seasons of Self Love (in Dating)
May 16, 2023
#190: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict (Throwback)
May 09, 2023
#189: Mother Enmeshed Men
May 02, 2023
#188: Learning to Live in the Goodness
Apr 25, 2023
#187: The healing is in the repair
Apr 18, 2023
#186: 7 Steps to Cope with a Situationship Breakup
Apr 11, 2023
#185: No Contact + Surrendering in Relationships
Apr 03, 2023
#184: Emotional Anchors & Your Highest Level Self
Mar 29, 2023
#183: Stop Withholding Love and Be Love Available
Mar 21, 2023
#182: Situationship Singlehood + Asking for What You Want
Mar 14, 2023
#180: Coping with Chronic illness (5 encouragements)
Feb 28, 2023
#179: 3 Signs of an Expired Friendship
Feb 22, 2023
#178: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or your Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)
Feb 15, 2023
#177: Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in Love Languages
Feb 07, 2023
#176: 3 Reasons Your No Contact Process is Not Working
Feb 01, 2023
#175: Making the right decision for yourself on faith
Jan 24, 2023
#174: Healing our Womb & Pelvic Floor with Dr. Alicia Jeffrey-Thomas
Jan 18, 2023
#173: Betrayal Trauma Emotional Aftercare Support (Pt 2)
Jan 11, 2023
#172: Dealing with Betrayal Trauma with a Sex Addicted Partner
Jan 10, 2023
#171: Going from Love Deprivation To Felt Love Worthiness (Stages Of Change)
Jan 03, 2023
#170: Self Love and Dropping the Cape with Michelle Goodloe
Dec 29, 2022
#169: The Sadness that is Going Around
Dec 24, 2022
#168: Take Your Time
Dec 21, 2022
#167: Humiliation as a Red Flag
Dec 08, 2022
#166: When The Person With all the Answers Falls Short
Dec 06, 2022
#165: 3 Things Learned from Coaching Women
Nov 30, 2022
#164: The Art of Receiving
Nov 17, 2022
#163: How childhood emotional neglect leads to love addiction
Nov 09, 2022
For Healers #1: 3 Beliefs for Healing Professionals to Challenge
Nov 07, 2022
#162: Dealing with Seasons of Conflict
Nov 01, 2022
#161: Going from Love Avoidant to Love Available
Oct 25, 2022
#160: The No Contact Process as a Healing Tool for Love Addiction
Oct 19, 2022
#159: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your F'ing Hands)
Oct 11, 2022
Bonus Episode: October Catch Up with Shena
Oct 06, 2022
#158: Heart to Heart: Not Losing Your Self in a New Relationship
Oct 04, 2022
#157: Making Running the Household Fair with Laura Danger
Sep 30, 2022
#156: It Gets Better...
Sep 22, 2022
#155: Setting Unrealistic Expectations Based on Fantasy
Sep 13, 2022
#154: The Healed and Loved Woman: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced
Sep 06, 2022
#153: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant
Aug 30, 2022
#152: When You Like Someone as a Love Addict
Aug 23, 2022
#151: Grieving Being Let Down at Your Big Events
Aug 16, 2022
#150: Feeling Whatever You Need to Feel About Your Past Relationship
Aug 09, 2022
#149: Enabling vs Empowering
Aug 02, 2022
#148: Breaking the Habit of Self Criticism
Jul 28, 2022
#147: Hurt Feelings, Codependency, and Letting What I Give Be Enough
Jul 19, 2022
Transitions
Jul 13, 2022
#146: 5 Truths for Love Addicts Healing from Heartbreak
Jun 28, 2022
Now introducing our brother podcast, For the Fellas
Jun 19, 2022
#145: The Importance of Bids and Repairs in Your Relationship
Jun 14, 2022
#144: How to Let Your Partner Have Their Own Feelings
Jun 07, 2022
#143: 5 Signs You Feel Protected in a Relationship
Jun 02, 2022
#142: Just checking in with you and sending love
May 26, 2022
#141: Musings about ADHD, Diagnoses, and What Works for Me
May 17, 2022
#140: Your Trauma and Your (Conflictual) Relationship w/ Your Daughter
May 03, 2022
#139: Grieving The Relationship You Never Had With Your Mother
Apr 26, 2022
#138: Getting unstuck via self-forgiveness
Apr 19, 2022
#137: 4 Ways to Exit Love Deprivation
Apr 13, 2022
#136: On Being Triggered (My Repair Episode)
Mar 31, 2022
#135: Inspiration for You - Bodywork Healing, Motivation, and the Power Inside
Mar 22, 2022
#134: Lessons Learned from Divorcing
Mar 15, 2022
#133: Finding Your Voice in Your Recovery Journey
Mar 08, 2022
#132: Asking for What You Need Emotionally in Friendships
Mar 02, 2022
#131: Fighting Perfectionism with Dr. Marcuetta Sims
Feb 22, 2022
#130: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or you Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)
Feb 15, 2022
#129: Being a Healed and Loved Woman
Feb 08, 2022
#127: Internalized Misogyny & Love Addiction
Jan 25, 2022
#126: 5 Things I'm Doing to Cultivate Friendships
Jan 11, 2022
Checking In - It's Okay to be Tired (Covid related)
Jan 06, 2022
#124: Why You Gotta Take a Break!
Dec 07, 2021
#122: The 3 Things You Don't Need to Apologize For
Nov 23, 2021
#121: When You're Afraid to Try Again in Relationships
Nov 16, 2021
#120: Why Your Deep Intimacy & Trust Should be Earned
Nov 03, 2021
#119: When You Realize You Were the Toxic One
Oct 27, 2021
#118: 3 Things I Learned from The Healed and Loved Woman Retreat (About Fear and Hiding)
Oct 19, 2021
#117: How to Host a Relationship Check-In
Oct 12, 2021
#116: Coping When Family and Loved Ones Think Negatively of You
Oct 05, 2021
#115: Answering Your Questions (Part 1)
Sep 28, 2021
#114: Financial Complacency and Abandonment as a Red Flag
Sep 21, 2021
#113: Why Love Addicts are Actually Avoidant
Sep 14, 2021
#112: What to Keep in Mind When You Miss Red Flags
Sep 07, 2021
#111: 3 Ways to Know You’ve Grown and are Healthier
Aug 31, 2021
#110: 4 Ways to Not be Codependent as a Healer
Aug 24, 2021
#109: Being Healed and Loved Woman at All Times
Aug 17, 2021
#108: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
Aug 10, 2021
#107: Things I Learned During my Hiatus (Adult ADHD, Connecting, Feminine Energy, & More)
Aug 03, 2021
Summer break is loading!
Jun 24, 2021
#106: When They Break Up With You Because You ‘Deserve Better’
Jun 22, 2021
#105: Going Thru Transition is Okay
Jun 15, 2021
#104: The 12-Step Experience for Sex and Love Addicts
Jun 08, 2021
#103: How to Know When You Are Done with Your Healing Process
Jun 01, 2021
#102: 3 Mistakes Made as a Love Avoidant in Marriage
May 25, 2021
#101: 3 Mistakes Made as a Love Addict in Marriage
May 18, 2021
#100: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Avoidant
May 12, 2021
#99: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict
May 06, 2021
#98: The Importance of Self Care f/ Les Alfred
Apr 29, 2021
#97: Identifying Codependent Patterns in Your Everyday Life
Apr 22, 2021
# 96: Grieving Childlessness by Singleness & Circumstance
Apr 15, 2021
#95: For the Fellas: Black Men, Trauma, Intimacy, & Connecting
Apr 13, 2021
#94: Our Relationship With Food, Trauma, and Self Soothing f/ Dr. Ebony Butler
Apr 08, 2021
#93: Healing Your Mother Wound
Mar 23, 2021
#92: How to Tell if a Relationship is Safe For Your Healing
Mar 18, 2021
#91: Dimming Your Light For Self Protection
Mar 09, 2021
#90: 5 Reasons You Need to Apologize
Mar 02, 2021
#89: Coping + When It's Hard to Let Go (Reshare)
Feb 23, 2021
#88: Self Care While Dating with Francesca Hogi
Feb 17, 2021
#87: Connecting to Black Women After Being Rejected for Not Being Black Enough
Feb 11, 2021
#86: 5 Reasons You Need to Heal in a Group
Feb 05, 2021
#85: Healed and Loved Meditation & Affirmations
Jan 28, 2021
#84: From Love Deprived to Love Worthy (Re-Uploaded)
Jan 23, 2021
#83: From Love Avoidant to Love Available
Jan 17, 2021
#82: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced
Jan 06, 2021
#81: Coping with Lack of Closure
Dec 29, 2020
#80: 8 Lessons I Learned in 2020
Dec 22, 2020
#79: Lessons Learned Healing from Love Avoidance [Student Highlight]
Dec 16, 2020
#78: Dating After Heartbreak
Dec 09, 2020
#77: Getting Ahead of Her Codependency [Student Highlight]
Dec 01, 2020
#76: 3 Reasons Self Love is the Best Love
Nov 26, 2020
#75: Make Your Family Support Plan (for the Holidays)
Nov 24, 2020
#74: 3 Mistakes From Not Owning Your Value
Nov 17, 2020
#73: Processing of Post-Election Disappointment in Supposed Allies
Nov 11, 2020
#72: 10 Points of Healing for a Love Addict
Nov 03, 2020
#71: How to Be a Good Girlfriend
Oct 27, 2020
#70: What if I Can't Get Better [Student Highlight]
Oct 20, 2020
#69: The 4 Types of Love Addicts
Oct 13, 2020
#68: Mindfulness & Healing Your Trauma f Valerie Ritchie
Oct 06, 2020
#67: When You're the Friend Who Can't Get it RIght
Sep 30, 2020
#66: Changing and Learning New Lessons
Sep 22, 2020
#65: You're Worth It (Student Highlight)
Sep 16, 2020
#64: Stop Testing Yourself
Sep 08, 2020
#63: Take Your Time
Aug 25, 2020
#62: Therapy vs Coaching When Healing From Love Addiction
Aug 11, 2020
#61: The Four Communication Styles with Kourtney Dubois
Aug 04, 2020
#60: Grieving Who You Thought They Were
Jul 28, 2020
#59: Why They're Treating You the Way They're Treating You
Jul 21, 2020
#58: Living A life With Regrets
Jul 14, 2020
#57: Dealing with Feeling Unsatisfied (Student Highlight w/ Tahirah)
Jul 07, 2020
#56: Starting a Healing Circle
Jun 24, 2020
#55: Practicing Gratitude (Even When It's Hard)
Jun 18, 2020
#54: Building Supportive Friendships for Healing
Jun 10, 2020
#53: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness
Jun 02, 2020
#52: Make the Decision to Start (Student Highlight)
May 26, 2020
#51: Who Do You Want to Be in Your Relationship
May 19, 2020
BONUS: This One is About Racial Trauma
May 14, 2020
#50: 3 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Relationship
May 12, 2020
#49: The 4 Things Breaking Up Your Relationship
May 05, 2020
#48: 3 Ways to Know It's Safe to Reconnect
Apr 29, 2020
#47: You Can't "Practice" With Unhealthy People
Apr 14, 2020
#46: Understanding and Honoring Your Trauma Response
Apr 07, 2020
#45 - Why You Can't Take Everyone's Advice
Apr 01, 2020
#44: A Reminder in Case You Need It
Mar 25, 2020
#43: Looking for Corona Bae, Swiping, and Coping with Current Stressors
Mar 17, 2020
#42: Wanting (Needing) to be Loved is Not Being Spoiled
Mar 10, 2020
#41: Is Shame Controlling You?
Mar 03, 2020
#40: How to Connect Without Losing Yourself
Feb 25, 2020
#39: Healing Intellectual Trauma (Student Highlight)
Feb 18, 2020
#38: The Label DOES Matter
Feb 11, 2020
#37: Maybe It's You
Feb 04, 2020
#36: Sex as an Attachment Issue
Jan 23, 2020
#35: Avoiding Our Personal Potholes
Jan 14, 2020
#34: You Can Change Your Mind
Jan 07, 2020
#33: You Have the Power
Dec 31, 2019
#32: Top 5 Episodes of 2019
Dec 24, 2019
#31: Creating Your Own Traditions
Dec 17, 2019
#30: My Top 2 (Conflict) Communication Tips
Dec 12, 2019
#29: 3 Things to Keep in Mind When Making A Mistake
Dec 03, 2019
#28: Boundary Hangovers
Nov 26, 2019
#27: Ask Shena #1: Staying Present in a Healthy Relationship, Managing Fears and Expectations of Motherhood
Nov 19, 2019
#26: False Intimacy
Nov 15, 2019
#25: Trauma Bonds
Nov 05, 2019
#24: The Importance of Self Forgiveness
Oct 29, 2019
#23: 3 Traps We Fall Into When Forgiving Others
Oct 22, 2019
Check in!
Oct 16, 2019
#22: Building Self Compassion with Sarah Suzuki
Oct 09, 2019
#21: Manifestation & Mindset
Sep 24, 2019
#20: When It's Hard to Let Go - Q&A
Sep 16, 2019
#19: Are You Changing Or Just Thinking About Changing?
Sep 10, 2019
#18: 4 Things That Are Blocking You From Change
Sep 02, 2019
#17: What is Withdrawal?
Aug 27, 2019
#16: Healing Codependency
Aug 19, 2019
#15: Is it Time to Go Back to Therapy?
Aug 12, 2019
#14: 3 Things Avoidants Can Do To Make Their Lives Better
Aug 05, 2019
#13: Identifying Your Feelings (With an Intimacy Disorder)
Jul 29, 2019
#12: When Trauma Shuts You Down in Relationships
Jul 22, 2019
#11: When Living in Your Head Soothes You
Jul 18, 2019
#10: 3 Ways to Know It's Time to End a Relationship (Summer Reset)
Jul 02, 2019
#9: Avoiding a Victim Mentality in Relationships
Jun 19, 2019
#8: Letting Others In (The How To's & Roadblocks)
May 15, 2019
#7: When It's Hard to Let Go of a Relationship
Apr 29, 2019
#6: 3 Ways to Choose People Who Won't Burn You, Disappoint You, or Hurt You
Apr 22, 2019
#5: What is an Intimacy Disorder? - All About Love Addiction, Love Avoidance
Apr 20, 2019
#4: Coping with Anger from Your Past
Mar 06, 2019
#3: 3 Blocks to Inner Healing
Feb 28, 2019
#2: Why You Can't Control Them...
Feb 19, 2019
#1: 5 Reasons Why Intimacy is So Hard
Feb 14, 2019
[NEW!] Welcome to Black Girls Heal!
Feb 14, 2019