Were You Raised By Wolves?

By Nick Leighton

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Subscribers: 89
Reviews: 4

Mandy
 Jul 19, 2021

Jamie
 Apr 25, 2021
This show is amazing...and the more episodes you listen to, the more you realize how sharp and smart it is. The topics are well-researched and the hosts are lovely and hilarious.


 Sep 30, 2020


 Aug 24, 2020
I wanted to like this podcast, but it wasn't meant to be. The hosts are abrasive and they're not even etiquette experts! So why should we listen to them if they pretty much know as much as the next average person!?

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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


Episode Date
Wearing Hats, Behaving on Boats, Remembering Song Lyrics, and More
00:39:10

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing hats, behaving on boats, remembering song lyrics, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we had your address.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Hats
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Boats
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to wear flip-flops in public? I forgot to close out my open tab at a bar...what should I do? Is it OK to loudly broadcast someone's private garage keypad code?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Toto's "Africa", Penciling things in
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thank you for the pecans, A nice review


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 106

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Sep 20, 2021
Telling Cooks They're Terrible, Leaving Cash on Tables, Handling Wet Laundry, and More
00:30:49

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about telling cooks they're terrible, leaving cash on tables in restaurants, handling strangers' wet laundry, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • How do you tell a friend they’re a terrible cook and they shouldn't bother?
  • At a restaurant, is it OK to leave cash on the table and then leave?
  • What do I do about my family who jumps on FaceTime with other relatives whenever they're over at my house?
  • Is it OK to offer to meet someone “halfway” when I live outside of the city?
  • Should you put wet laundry that isn't yours in a dryer?
  • Aftermath: An awkward Zoom date turns into a marriage


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 105

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Sep 13, 2021
Wearing Name Tags, Shopping Yard Sales, Fat-Shaming Pets, and More
00:35:27

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing name tags, shopping yard sales, fat-shaming pets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Name Tags
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Yard Sales
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for people to make comments about how fat my pet is? Do I have to sell my car to my in-laws if I don't want to? How do we feel about pre-printed thank you notes at a party?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Criticizing towns, Littering in cemeteries
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to dentists, A nice review


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 104

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Sep 06, 2021
Drinking Abandoned Sodas, Skipping Destination Weddings, Squeezing into Revolving Doors, and More
00:24:56

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about drinking abandoned sodas, skipping destination weddings, squeezing into revolving doors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • There have been two LaCroix sodas sitting in the work fridge for more than a year…can I take them?
  • Is it rude that my friend booked a vacation house for our trip without checking with me first?
  • Is it OK to drink wine at a dinner with members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints?
  • I’ve decided to skip a destination wedding in Europe I’m invited to…does this mean I should buy a more expensive gift than I normally would?
  • I invited some parents over to my house for a party, but other parents who weren’t invited are now upset. Was I wrong?
  • Vent: Squeezing into the same wedge in a revolving door


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 103

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Aug 30, 2021
Eating Croissants, Pretending Not to Notice, Missing Plumbers, and More
00:41:24

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating croissants, pretending not to notice, missing plumbers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Croissants
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Pretending not to notice
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When eating ice cream cake, do you have to wait for everyone to be served before you can start eating? How do I tell a former coworker I don't want to see them socially? Should I bring a gift to my new neighbors?
  • VENT OR REPENT: An unflattering photo, A no-show plumber
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to chauffeurs, Thanks for the pecans


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 102


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Aug 23, 2021
Breaking Up With Hairdressers, Crashing Bachelor Parties, Cracking Eggs, and More
00:31:04

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about breaking up with hairdressers, crashing bachelor parties, cracking eggs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • I have a relative who sticks her personal utensils in communal dishes...can I just never invite her again?
  • People we didn't invite are coming to our bachelor party weekend...do we now have to invite them to the wedding?
  • How do I get out of a bad hair relationship?
  • What do I do about a rude volunteer at a food pantry?
  • At a restaurant, where do you put a fancy handbag?
  • Vent: Rude experience with a dental hygienist


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 101

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Aug 16, 2021
Very Special 100th Episode Extravaganza
01:05:28

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this very special 100th episode extravaganza, Nick and Leah revisit their favorite moments from the series and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Otohime (音姫)
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: House sitting
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you're asked to chaperone a children's birthday party but your own child isn't invited? Is there a polite way to eat Cheetos? Do you have to share your famous cake recipe? When do "dibs" expire after you call them? How do you deal with dinner party guests who won't follow the invitation instructions? How do I decline old lentil soup from a friend? Are you allowed to bring your own bell to a restaurant?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Walking slowly up stairs, Choosing the correct fork
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Special thanks


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 100

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Aug 09, 2021
Telling People to Smile, Judging People’s Homes, Keeping Quiet in Gazebos, and More
00:26:37

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about telling people to smile, judging people's homes, keeping quiet in gazebos, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What should I say when I'm told to smile?
  • Should people respect my need for quiet in a public park?
  • After a divorce, how much responsibility does an ex have in maintaining ties with former in-laws?
  • I'm an architect...what can I say to friends who think I'm judging their home when I'm only a guest?
  • I'm housesitting...should I tell the owner the bed wasn't made when I arrived?
  • Vent: Nurses putting patients in dirty cars


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 99

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Aug 02, 2021
Eating Bananas Properly, Sipping With Straws, Spraying Colognes on Buses, and More
00:37:09

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating bananas properly, getting that last sip of a drink with a straw, spraying colognes on buses, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bananas
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Getting a massage
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the correct way to imbibe the last sip of a drink with a straw? What should I do about paying my hairstylist who won't tell me how much I owe? How do I determine the correct spelling when someone's written their own name two different ways?
  • VENT OR REPENT: A revision of a previous vent, Cologne on a bus
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to nature, A nice note


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 98


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Jul 26, 2021
Commandeering Televisions, RSVPing to Facebook Events, Returning Shopping Carts, and More
00:28:21

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about commandeering televisions, RSVPing to Facebook events, returning shopping carts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What should I do about guests who were rude and disrespectful to me in my home?
  • How do I handle a neighbor who drops by unannounced and invites herself to events?
  • Is it rude to change your Facebook Event RSVP the day of the event?
  • Should I send a thank you note to my host after being their house guest?
  • What's the correct procedure for needing to spit something out and you only have a cloth napkin?
  • Vent: Returning shopping carts


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 97

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Jul 19, 2021
Giving Business Cards in Japan, Behaving in Locker Rooms, Ignoring Ventriloquists, and More
00:38:36

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving business cards in Japan, behaving in locker rooms, ignoring ventriloquists, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Business cards in Japan (Meishi kōkan - 名刺交換)
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Locker room etiquette
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to tip in an Uber I didn't order for myself? Do I have to send hand-written thank you notes to guests of my Zoom baby shower? My son's invited to a pizza party and doesn't eat pizza...what should I do?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Ventriloquists, The NATO phonetic alphabet
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: In-flight bridal shower, Thank you for the book


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 96


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Jul 12, 2021
Interrupting Excessive Talkers, Proposing to Bridesmaids, Criticizing Soups, and More
00:24:04

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about interrupting people who won't stop talking, proposing to bridesmaids, criticizing soups, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • When is it OK to interrupt?
  • What do I do about a package I'm holding for my non-responsive neighbor?
  • Should my friend formally ask me to be her bridesmaid?
  • What do I bring to a fancy dinner party and what do I do if I'm served something I don't eat?
  • Do I have to respond to people who email questions that were already answered on my website?
  • Vent: Don't criticize a restaurant's specials


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 95

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Jul 05, 2021
Reusing Napkins, Attending Movie Premiers, Hanging up on People, and More
00:37:26

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle reusing napkins, attending movie premiers, hanging up on people, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkin rings
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going to a movie premier
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle game nights when I keep winning and other players get discouraged? How do I tell a friend I can't do her makeup for her wedding because I was just offered a big job opportunity out of state? Is it rude to hang up a phone without saying goodbye?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Unsolicited cautionary tales, Banks breaking promises
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Angelenos, Thanks for the birthday video


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 94

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Jun 28, 2021
Building Fences, Following-up on Gifts, Running Out of Hot Water, and More
00:27:51

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about building fences, following-up on gifts, running out of hot water, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What do I do about my neighbor who won't stop talking negatively about our new fence?
  • How can I ask if someone likes the Amazon Echo Dot I gave them as a gift?
  • How do you feel about saying "go!" when asking a question in a Facebook group?
  • How long should I wait before following up on an email if I don't get a response?
  • Was bringing a bottle of wine an acceptable gift when invited over for dinner by new neighbors? And do we have to return the favor?
  • Repent: Running out of hot water


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 93

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Jun 21, 2021
Attending Polo Matches, Inquiring About Missing Invitations, Receiving Outrageous Emails, and More
00:32:21

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle attending polo matches, inquiring about missing invitations, receiving outrageous emails, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Polo
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Beach etiquette
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do if I received a text save-the-date but no follow-up? When is it appropriate to Google someone? Can I refuse to allow someone I dislike onto my property?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Outrageous emails, Maddening phrases
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A helpful Lyft driver, A nice review


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 92

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Jun 14, 2021
Commandeering Gym Saunas, Demanding Money From Grandchildren, Dressing Like Identical Twins, and More
00:22:01

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about commandeering gym saunas, demanding money from grandchildren, dressing like identical twins, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude for someone to be doing yoga in my gym's sauna?
  • What do I say to my grandma who is demanding money for a gift?
  • Someone overheard me complaining about them...what do I do?
  • At what age is it no longer appropriate for identical twins to dress alike?
  • What's the polite thing to do if a friend insists on paying for dinner but we're worried he can't afford it?
  • Local etiquette: Iowa Nice


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 91

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Jun 07, 2021
Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More
00:41:00

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Peking Duck, borrowing DVDs without returning them, flaunting office ice cube rules, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Peking Duck (Běijīng Kǎoyā - 北京烤鸭)
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Staying at hotels
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about friends who borrow but don't return my DVDs? What do we do about a friend who cancels at the last minute for dinner parties when she doesn't like what's on the menu? Is it rude for someone to eschew the office's ice cube rules?
  • VENT OR REPENT: An unfortunate bathroom incident, Sending "you're welcome" emails
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Incandescent candy


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 90

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May 31, 2021
Eating Pop-Tarts, Boarding Airplanes, Returning Overdue Library Books, and More
00:27:55

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Pop-Tarts, boarding airplanes, returning overdue library books, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What is the correct way to eat Pop-Tarts?
  • How do I let my bridal party know I'm not expecting any gifts?
  • What do I do about my mother-in-law who needs special tissues?
  • What do I do about someone who doesn't respect the airplane boarding procedure?
  • What's the most polite way to correct someone who misunderstood a bilingual conversation?
  • What do you think about returning a library book about manners after 32 years?


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 89

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May 24, 2021
Flying the Flag at Half-Staff, Being the Perfect House Sitter, Using Charity Return Address Stickers, and More
00:30:53

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day, being the perfect house sitter, using the free return address stickers from charities, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: House sitting
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you can't afford a friend's bachelor party? Is it OK to use address labels from a charity if you haven't donated? How can I remember the hard-to-pronounce names of my new neighbors?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Rethinking past answers, Missing a Zoom meeting
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the parents, A nice letter


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 88

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May 17, 2021
Inviting Yourself To Other People's Vacations, Handling Unwanted Art, Wearing White to Weddings, and More
00:21:53

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about inviting yourself to other people's vacations, handling unwanted art, wearing white to weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude for my husband's ex-wife to invite herself to our family vacation?
  • What do we do about a friend's art we no longer want to hang in our home?
  • What's a good hostess gift for a girls' weekend to Florida?
  • Is it rude to chew on ice?
  • Do I need to return a voicemail just to say "thank you"?
  • Repent: Telling someone not to wear white to a wedding
  • Vent: Dog-earing books from the library


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 87

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May 10, 2021
Vacuuming in Germany, Turning Friends Into Third Wheels, Giving Gift Receipts, and More
00:30:33

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle vacuuming on Sundays in Germany, turning friends into third wheels without warning, including gift receipts with presents, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sundays in Germany
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Buying a car
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about always being the "third wheel"? Is it rude to not include a gift receipt with a gift? What do I do about friends who are terrible hosts?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Annoying phrases, Riding the bus
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a dentist, A nice letter


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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 86

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May 03, 2021
Adding Ice Cubes to Wine, Wiping Down Gym Equipment, Shouting in Supermarkets, and More
00:25:28

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about adding ice cubes to wine, wiping down equipment at the gym, shouting at employees in supermarkets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it OK to ask people to buy me housewarming gifts even if there's no party?
  • Is it rude to add ice cubes to your wine?
  • At the gym, should you wipe down equipment before or after use?
  • What would be a good gift for someone who wrote me a reference letter?
  • Vent: A host makes guests do all the work
  • PSA: Shouting at people in the supermarket


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 85

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Apr 26, 2021
Being Late for Surprise Parties, Sending Provocative Selfies, Lighting Candles, and More
00:39:36

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle being late for surprise parties, sending provocative selfies, lighting candles, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Blackening candle wicks
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using Uber and Lyft
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the best way to handle being late for a surprise party? What do I do about a neighbor who assumes I will always take care of her dog? How can I get my friend to stop sending me provocative selfies?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Long-distance moving companies, Holding up the line at supermarkets
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A very helpful neighbor, Adorable children


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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 84

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Apr 19, 2021
Buying Engagement Rings, Eating Lunches on Zoom, Snapping at Waiters, and More
00:21:44

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about spending three months' salary on engagement rings, eating lunches during Zoom meetings, snapping at waiters to get their attention, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What do I do about a friend that doesn't want me to bring guacamole to a potluck?
  • Is it rude for my mother-in-law to snap and clap to get waiters' attention?
  • Does someone really need to spend three months' salary on an engagement ring?
  • My friend is getting divorced...should I hide a photo taken at her wedding when she comes over?
  • Is it rude to eat lunch on Zoom?
  • Repent: Talking loudly in a waiting room

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 83

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Apr 12, 2021
Asking About Botox, Reaching for the Right Glass, Stealing Packages, and More
00:35:34

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking people if they've had Botox, reaching for the right glassware at dinner parties, stealing packages from mailboxes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Which water glass is yours
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Moving
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about a friend who is sharing a scarf? Is it OK for couples to site side-by-side in a restaurant? Is it rude to ask someone if they've had Botox?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Stolen packages, Email experiences
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Zoom, Thanks to a listener


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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 82

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Apr 05, 2021
Strip Mining Tarte Tatins, Paying What You Think Is Fair, Eating Quail With Your Hands, and More
00:33:18

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about strip mining Tarte Tatins, paying "whatever you think is fair," eating quail with your hands, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What is rude about my step-daughter eating just the apples out of my Tarte Tatin?
  • How do I handle situations where someone asks me to pay "whatever I think is fair"?
  • Is it rude to take a food sample if you don't make a purchase?
  • What do I do about people who don't respect the fact I am the owner of my business?
  • When is it OK to eat quail with your hands?
  • PSA: Keeping blackberry brambles secret


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 81

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Mar 29, 2021
Eating Kit Kat Bars, Wearing Perfumes, Forcing Cake Forks, and More
00:36:13

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Kit Kat bars, wearing perfumes and colognes, forcing guests to use cake forks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Asparagus
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Wearing perfumes and colognes
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm left handed...what should I do about a host who is forcing me to use a cake fork? How would you address a teacher who is mispronouncing my child's name? Is there a right way to eat a Kit Kat bar?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Late Christmas cards, Being run over by bikes
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the cable company, A nice voicemail


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 80

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Mar 22, 2021
Burdening Friends with Cake, Ousting Toxic Club Members, Tidying Up Messy Schools, and More
00:21:40

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about burdening friends with chocolate cake, dealing with toxic club members, tidying up messy piano schools, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • How do I tell my son's piano school they need to clean up?
  • How do I avoid sending the Zillow link of my new home to friends?
  • Is it rude to leave leftovers for a friend since they'll have to wash the dish before returning it?
  • How do we get rid of a new club member whom we dislike?
  • What should I do about a misdirected thank you note?
  • Repent: Allowing a date to make a mess with rice


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 79

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Mar 15, 2021
Enjoying Pho, Harassing Celebrities, Profiting Off Friends, and More
00:29:50

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Vietnamese soups, spotting celebrities in public, profiting off friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Phở
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Seeing celebrities in public
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about a friend who is profiting off of her friends? Is it rude for my mother to do laundry in our house without permission? Is there a polite way to tell someone to wear a bra?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Too many pastries, An inappropriate joke
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the neighbors, Making folding tolerable


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 78

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Mar 08, 2021
Trespassing Nomads, Getting Loud in Hot Tubs, Receiving Unwanted Gifts, and More
00:26:22

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sleeping in friends' houses without permission, enjoying hot tubs at night, thanking people for unwanted gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What do I do about a friend who stayed in my apartment without my permission?
  • How to I handle my neighbor who thinks I'm being too loud in my hot tub?
  • Do I have to send a thank you note for an unwanted "gift"?
  • What is the proper etiquette for sending a gift when someone does pro bono work for you?
  • PSA: Please don't use your phone in waiting rooms

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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 77

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Mar 01, 2021
Saving Water in Japan, Smoking on Gondolas, Using Treadmill Desks, and More
00:39:28

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle saving water in Japanese bathrooms, behaving properly on the ski slopes, using treadmill desks while on Zoom, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Otohime (音姫)
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Skiing
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to be using a treadmill desk while on a video call? My boss is making me feel bad for eating sushi and not sharing...what should I do? Why are people thanking me when calling balls "in" during a tennis game?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Filling out paperwork, Not having voicemail
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to mom, A nice Patreon note

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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 76

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Feb 22, 2021
Screaming Out of Limousines, Loading Dishwashers Properly, Keeping Unwanted Photos, and More
00:22:32

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about screaming out of limousine sunroofs, loading dishwashers the right way, keeping unwanted photos from friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude to leave a note on a dishwasher about how to load it?
  • What do I say to people who ask why I'm vegetarian?
  • Is it rude to scream your head off out of a limousine sunroof?
  • Should you say something if a friend was undercharged when making a purchase?
  • How long do I have to keep friends' photos?
  • Vent: Things our mother-in-law does


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 75

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Feb 15, 2021
Eating King Cakes, Hijacking Vacations, Finding Surprises in the Trash, and More
00:34:48

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating king cakes, hijacking vacation plans, finding surprises left in the trash, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: King Cake
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using other people's trashcans when cleaning up after your dog
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to be on speakerphone in bathroom? Should you break down your cardboard boxes when you live in an apartment building? Is it OK to hijack a friend's weekend getaway plans?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Dirty bathrooms, Narrow aisles
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A young artist, Help with silver


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 74

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Feb 08, 2021
Eating Spaghetti, Avoiding Chatty Neighbors, Starving at Dinner Parties, and More
00:24:24

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating spaghetti properly, avoiding chatty neighbors, attending dinner parties without enough food, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What's the proper way to eat spaghetti?
  • What should I do about coworkers who said rude things during a video conference?
  • What's a polite way to tell someone they don't make enough food for their dinner parties?
  • How should I ask someone whether or not they received my gift?
  • How can I stop my neighbor from making unwanted overtures for conversation?
  • Vent: Making a mess at all-you-can-eat sushi restaurants


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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TRANSCRIPT

Episode 73

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Feb 01, 2021
Showing Up Empty-Handed, Riding French Elevators, Having Nice Weekends, and More
00:34:15

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle showing up at dinner parties empty-handed, riding elevators in France, being unapologetic about having nice weekends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: What to say in a French elevator
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: What to bring to a dinner party
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond when someone says, "must be nice"? In a walk-up building, can you buzz people in or do you have to personally greet them at the building's front door?
  • VENT OR REPENT: A not-important email, TV Spoilers
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Supporting others, Bagging groceries at the supermarket


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 72

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Jan 25, 2021
Wearing Sequins, Flirting Politely, Thanking Good Samaritans, and More
00:28:57

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about wearing sequins during the day, commenting on appearances when flirting, thanking good Samaritans for their help, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude to invite people to a party when you're not the host?
  • Is it rude to wear sequins during the day?
  • Is commenting on appearance still rude if you're intending to flirt?
  • What do I do about a coworker who says mean things and then says "just joking"?
  • How do I properly thank good samaritans who helped me get back into my car when I locked my keys inside?
  • Vent: People who don't make an effort to be helpful in their email responses


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 71

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Jan 18, 2021
Paying for Party Crashers, Sharing Pregnancy News, Drinking Cappuccinos in Italy, and More
00:38:22

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle paying for people who crash your dinner parties, congratulating friends who are pregnant, drinking cappuccinos in Italy after 11am, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Drinking cappuccinos in Italy after 11am
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Reacting to news a friend is pregnant
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Where should couples sit in a car? What do I do about my overly friendly roommate? Was it rude for one of my guests to invite more people to my dinner party without asking?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Christmas card advice, A missed appointment
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: The Mandalorian, A nice email


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 70

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Jan 11, 2021
Stealing People's Spotlights, Tipping While Bartering, Leaving Negative Reviews, and More
00:23:12

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about making major life announcements at other people's parties, tipping while bartering, leaving negative reviews, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude to make a life announcement about yourself at someone else's party?
  • In Sydney, how does one signify they're done with their meal if eating with chopsticks?
  • How should I let my sister-in-law know that I've just made a contribution to their child's 529 Savings Account?
  • Should you tip if you're bartering services?
  • How should you listen to your podcast in a group setting?
  • Aftermath: Should I leave a review for my wedding photographer who was late with the photos?


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 69

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Jan 04, 2021
Eating Caviar, Imagining Etiquette of the Future, Hiding During Video Conferences, and More
00:38:09

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating caviar, imaging what etiquette might look like in 300 years, turning your camera off during video conferences, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to eat caviar
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Etiquette in the future
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you have your camera on during Zoom meetings? How do I tell my friend I don't want to hang out at my house? How do I stop a colleague from using two periods to end sentences?
  • VENT OR REPENT: A crosswalk altercation, A brief update
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Leah's new book, A nice email


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

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Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 68

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Dec 28, 2020
Sharing Sonograms, Sending Company-wide Emails, Cleaning AirBNBs, and More
00:22:34

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about declining to see people's sonograms, sending company-wide emails, cleaning AirBNBs before departure, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What do you do if you don't want to see someone's ultrasound photos?
  • How do you stop people from wanting to share too many YouTube videos with you?
  • What greeting is best for company-wide emails?
  • At an AirBNB, is it rude to ask guests to clean up in addition to charging a substantial cleaning fee?
  • Is it rude to share your podcast with people specifically to get them to stop doing the rude things you talk about?
  • Vent: Asking for your name at the drive-thru.
  • PSA: Don't go to weddings you don't want to go to.


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 67


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Dec 21, 2020
Flying on Private Planes, Forgetting To Take Gum Out, Blowing Leaves Blindly, and More
00:36:53

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle traveling with VIPs on private planes, forgetting to take gum out at dinner parties, blowing leaves into neighbors' yards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Flying on a private plane with a VIP person from the government
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to disagree
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about my neighbor's leaves? Was my massage therapist wrong for scolding me? What should I do with dirty sheets when a houseguest?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Gum at a business dinner, Giving enough space in line
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Nick, Thanks for winter flowers


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 66

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Dec 14, 2020
Napping Without Permission, Removing Price Tags, Positioning Toilet Lids, and More
00:25:52

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about napping guests, removing price tags on gifts, leaving toilet lids up, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude for guests to nap in the living room?
  • How do I navigate my office's holiday gift giving culture?
  • Is it rude to write personal messages in some holiday cards but not others?
  • Should the toilet seat lid be left up or down after use?
  • Should you remove price tags from gifts?
  • More on the French cheese course


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 65

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Dec 07, 2020
Tipping at the Holidays, Ordering Too Much at Drive-Thrus, Begging for Gifts, and More
00:36:18

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle tipping at the holidays, ordering too much at drive-thru windows, begging people to buy you presents, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Circumambulation at a Buddhist temple
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Christmas Tipping
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond to unsolicited requests for presents? Should my children have done more to acknowledge our big wedding anniversary? Is there such thing as "too large" an order for a drive-thru?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Intentionally splashed, Interrupting numbers
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Birthday presents, Best wishes from China


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 64

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Nov 30, 2020
Hanging Wind Chimes, Questioning People's Choices, Being Overly Competitive, and More
00:28:12

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hanging wind chimes in your back yard, questioning people's life choices, being overly competitive about a dog costume contest, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude to have wind chimes in your yard?
  • What do you say to people who question your choice to take a "gap year"?
  • What to do about someone who's being overly competitive about a dog costume contest?
  • Should you tell someone that they're on speakerphone if there are other people in the room?
  • Is it OK to not hand-write the addresses on my holiday cards?
  • PSA: Show up for your job interview on time


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 63

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Nov 23, 2020
Eating French Cheeses, Going Home for the Holidays, Blowing Up Other People's Credit Cards, and More
00:36:30

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating cheeses at French dinner parties, going home for the holidays, blowing up other people's credit cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: The cheese course at a French dinner party
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being a good houseguest when home for the holidays
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I stop my mother-in-law from blowing up our credit card when dining out with her? How can I tell a friend she texts too much? Is it OK for a passenger to touch a car radio without permission?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Not taking "no thanks" for an answer, A quick coffee turns into a long Thai meal
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Friends supporting a show, Thank you for a book


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 62

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Nov 16, 2020
Flipping through Wall Calendars, Enduring Boring Relatives, Waiting to be Noticed, and More
00:27:25

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about flipping through people's wall calendars, enduring boring conversations with relatives, waiting for people to notice you when you walk into a room, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude to flip through someone's wall calendar?
  • How do I make conversations with my mother-in-law more interesting?
  • Is it rude to ask you to text something and then not acknowledge receipt?
  • How do I shut down nosy questions about my late husband?
  • When walking into a room, is it better to interrupt or should I wait to be noticed?
  • Vent: Driving in Philadelphia


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 61

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Nov 09, 2020
Asking for Favors, Borrowing Spices, Using Service Plates, and More
00:38:16

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking people for favors, letting people know their spices have expired, using service plates the right way, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Chargers
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking for favors
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I tell my neighbor her spices have expired? What do we do about a wedding photographer who is late with our photos? Do we have to serve the bottle of wine our dinner guests brought?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Daylight Saving Time, A loud person on a train
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: People who listen, CordialsOfKindness.com


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 60

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Nov 02, 2020
Gifting Peacocks, Paying with Benjamins, Ignoring DMs, and More
00:23:00

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending thank you notes for peacocks, asking to be seated away from other diners in restaurants, ignoring people's DMs on social media, paying with $100 bills, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • How do you write a thank you note for a peacock?
  • Is it OK to ask to be seated away from other diners in a restaurant?
  • Is it rude to create a new post on a social media platform if you have unread DMs?
  • Is it rude to pay with $100 bills?
  • Is it OK to have a wedding website if we eloped? And should we send announcements?
  • Aftermath: Summer home being overrun with uninvited guests


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 59

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Oct 26, 2020
Touching Fruit in Italy, Flossing in Public, Answering the Door in a Robe, and More
00:34:35

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle buying produce in Italy, going on a job interview, flossing in public, opening your door in a robe, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Buying produce in Italy
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going on a job interview
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to ask someone to help you bake a cake for a party you're not invited to? When did it become normal to floss in public? When someone shows up at your door unannounced, is it more rude to make them wait while you put on clothes or more rude to open the door in a robe?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Recommending cancelled shows, Voicemail system options that haven't actually changed
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: People who listen, CordialsOfKindness.com


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 58

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Oct 19, 2020
Asking Doctors to Wash Their Hands, Waiting for Bosses to Show Up, Yawning Too Much, and More
00:23:38

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about asking doctors to wash their hands before an exam, waiting for bosses who are never on time to meetings, telling therapists that they are yawning too much, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • How can I tell my doctor to wash his hands before examining me?
  • How can I stop people who invite themselves to my goat farm?
  • Is it rude that my boss is always late to our meetings?
  • What can I do about my yawning therapist?
  • How can I tell colleagues that I can't offer instant responses to every email?
  • Audience Repent: A late birthday card


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 57

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Oct 12, 2020
Poaching Friends, Putting Elbows on Tables, Refusing Old Soup, and More
00:35:39

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle putting elbows on tables, poaching friends, refusing old soup, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Elbows on the table
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Friend poaching
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I decline old lentil soup from a friend? Is it OK to send thank you notes with a mailing service? Is it rude to text "are you home" with no additional information?
  • VENT OR REPENT: An encounter at Starbucks, Companies that waste your time
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Lost and found items, A nice review


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 56

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Oct 05, 2020
Hosting Against Your Will, Reheating Leftovers at the Office, Inviting Yourself to Events, and More
00:24:26

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about being forced to host against your will, inviting yourself to events, reheating leftovers at the office, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it OK that my husband doesn't want to take my leftovers to reheat at the office?
  • What do I do about a party guest who wants to take their dip home early?
  • Is it rude to jump when startled?
  • What do you do about a coworker who invites themselves to a non-work dinner?
  • Do I have to let my family cook a Thanksgiving turkey in my house if I'm a vegetarian?
  • Aftermath: We don't want to carpool with our colleague. (Original Question)


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 55

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Sep 28, 2020
Eating Like Europeans, Signing Business Emails, Giving Repeat Gifts, and More
00:31:06

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating like Europeans, signing business emails, giving repeat gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: American versus European fork usage
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Email closings
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can I tell my boss I don't want the same Christmas gift as last year? What do you do if someone doesn't apologize for hitting you with a ball? Can I tell a friend I'm never going to read the book they gave me?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Nearby carpentry, A big thumb's up
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Mah Jong, A nice review


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 54

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Sep 21, 2020
Ranking Wedding Guests, Refusing Requests for Money, Prodding Slow Charities, and More
00:28:55

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ranking wedding guests, refusing requests for money, prodding slow charities, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude to put your wedding guests in priority groups and tell them which group they're in?
  • Is it OK to ghost if someone you don't know very well asks you for money?
  • How do you deal with someone who leaves inappropriate comments on your Instagram posts?
  • What do you do if a charity isn't giving you the information you need to write thank you notes?
  • How could things have been handled better during an episode at the theatre when texting was involved?
  • What's a polite way to tell someone they tell boring stories?


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 53

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Sep 14, 2020
Wearing White After Labor Day, Apologizing Correctly, Sending Glitter, and More
00:35:08

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing white after labor day, apologizing the right way, sending things with glitter, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Wearing white after Labor Day
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Apologizing
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you tell someone not to answer their door in their underwear? Can you confront a friend who smudges glassware? Is it rude to ask for your pan back?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Mask-wearing in stores, Sending things with glitter
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: To parents, to listeners


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 52

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Sep 07, 2020
Hiking on Trails, Criticizing Your In-laws, Writing in Cursive, and More
00:27:33

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hiking on trails, criticizing your in-laws, writing in cursive, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • When there's a meal train for a new mom, is it OK for her to make last-minute changes?
  • Is it OK to write in cursive if people have trouble reading it?
  • How can I get more people to learn hiking trail etiquette?
  • Is it OK to include your business card or Instagram handle in correspondence?
  • Should we teach our nieces and nephews about thank you notes?
  • Is it rude to invite someone as "and guest" to your wedding?


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 51

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Aug 31, 2020
Cutting Lines, Answering Phones, Picking Berries, and More
00:35:05

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle answering phones, cutting lines, telling restaurants it's your birthday, selling items online, responding to rude customer service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Answering the telephone
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cutting in line
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to tell restaurants it's your birthday? What's the best way to handle selling items online? How do you respond to rude customer service?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Unsafe drivers, Selling things online
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Berry picking, A nice review


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 50

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Aug 24, 2020
Meeting New Neighbors, Going Overboard with Gifts, Avoiding Carpools, and More
00:27:44

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about moving into a new neighborhood, going overboard with giving gifts, avoiding carpooling with people you don't like, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What do you do if you don't want to carpool with someone?
  • How to handle a friend who goes overboard with gifts?
  • When buying a home, do you have to give closing gifts to your real estate agent or the seller? How should you go about meeting the new neighbors?
  • What's the best way to follow-up with someone who is ignoring your email?
  • Is it OK to redecorate a temporary office?
  • How should you handle rude people on public transit?


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 49

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Aug 17, 2020
Slamming Car Doors, Eating Cocktail Garnishes, Borrowing from Friends, and More
00:33:27

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle borrowing things from friends, eating olives in martinis, slamming car doors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to insert a card into an envelope
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Borrowing things from friends
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are you allowed to bring your own bell to a restaurant? At what point can you eat the olive in your martini? How to handle sharing internet with a neighbor?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Scratching CDs, Slamming car doors
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Pollination gardens, Candy care packages


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 48

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Aug 10, 2020
Handling Mothers-In-Law, Disobeying Gift Instructions, Exiting Gracefully, and More
00:28:50

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about replying to voicemails with text messages, handling mother-in-laws who don't respect your wishes, making graceful exits, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Can you reply to a voicemail with a text message?
  • What do you do about a mother-in-law who refuses to accept you haven't taken your husband's last name?
  • What snacks do you have to offer your guests?
  • Are you allowed to ignore a host's instructions about what gifts to buy for a baby shower?
  • How do you make a graceful exit when your host won't stop talking?
  • Vent: A Christmas dinner gone horribly wrong


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 47

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Aug 03, 2020
Eating Corn on the Cob, Asking Someone's Age, Ignoring RSVPs, and More
00:39:27

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating corn on the cob, asking people how old they are, handling people who never RSVP, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Eating corn on the cob
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking people how old they are
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you stop inviting someone who never responds to RSVPs? What to do about a relative who doesn't want to fix something they broke? Should you stop someone who is about to repeat a story you've heard before?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Sending emails, sending thank you notes
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Zoom Zumba, Borrowing a car


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Episode 46

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Jul 27, 2020
Sliding Into a Stranger’s DMs, Leaving Dirty Dishes at the Office, Using Wedding Gifts Before the Wedding, and More
00:25:30

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sliding into people's DMs, dealing with a coworker's dirty dishes, following up on whether gifts were received, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude to slide into someone's DMs?
  • Is it OK to ask about the cost of a "market price" or a daily special item at a restaurant?
  • Would it be rude to leave a coworker's dirty dishes on their desk if they don't wash them?
  • How can I make sure a gift I sent was actually received?
  • At the gate of my gated community, is it OK to drive ahead of guests waiting to be buzzed in?
  • Can you use a wedding gift card before the wedding?


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Episode 45

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Jul 20, 2020
Giving Toasts, Blowing Bubbles, Leaving Out Cash, and More
00:30:28

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving toasts, blowing bubbles, holding photos hostage, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Topping Trees
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Giving Toasts
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave cash out for someone without a note? What do you do if a friend is holding photos hostage? How to handle someone who over-anticipates the arrival of an Uber?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Loud music in parks, blowing bubbles
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Pharmacy workers, a nice voicemail


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Episode 44

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Jul 13, 2020
Texting During Therapy, Cutting in Lines, Uninviting Guests, and More
00:28:22

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about cutting in lines, scraping teeth on forks, sending thank you notes for checks, handling a therapist who texts during sessions, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • If I'm first into a parking lot, does this mean I should also be first in line?
  • Is it rude to scrape your teeth on a fork?
  • What should you do if you feel unwelcome on a conference call?
  • When should you send a thank you note for a gift check?
  • What should I say to my therapist who is texting during my sessions?
  • How should I decline an invitation when I already have company?
  • What do I do about my husband inviting guests to our home without my permission?


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Episode 43

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Jul 06, 2020
Meddling Neighbors, Pre-approving Gifts, Flying the American Flag, and More
00:32:35

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flying the flag, pre-approving children's gifts, dealing with nosy neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Etiquette for the American Flag
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Etiquette with very close friends
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it normal to have parents require pre-approval for children's birthday gifts? I received a gift addressed to both me and my now ex-husband...should I tell the gift-giver that I'm now divorced? What should I do about my nosy neighbors?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Impolite emails, a shot across the bow
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Healthcare workers, borrowing gym equipment


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Episode 42

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Jun 29, 2020
Wedding Bonus: Bringing Your Own Food, Skipping Thank You Notes, Inviting Yourself, and More
00:31:02

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus wedding-themed episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about paying for weddings, scheduling mid-week ceremonies, skipping thank you notes, bringing your own food, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Who pays for a wedding?
  • Is it rude to have your wedding on a holiday or on a day other than Saturday?
  • I'm a bridesmaid and am feeling under-appreciated by the bride...what should do I do?
  • What do I do about people who are inviting themselves to my daughter's wedding?
  • Is it OK to donate to charity in lieu of sending written thank you notes for wedding gifts?
  • Do you have to give a gift for someone's fifth wedding?
  • Is it OK to bring your own food to a wedding reception?
  • If a reception takes place a year after the wedding, when should you send the gift?


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Episode 41

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Jun 22, 2020
Eating Lobsters, Leaving Group Texts, Bashing Hometowns, and More
00:38:42

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle serving guests, eating lobsters, bashing hometowns, cutting birthday cakes without permission, leaving group texts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: French, Russian, and American service
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to eat Lobster
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you say to someone who criticizes your home town? Should a birthday person wait until friends are gathered before cutting the cake? What do you do about a group text you no longer want to be on?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Standing in doorways without a mask, repeating voicemail messages
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: An encouraging audience member, hand-delivered lemon bars


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Episode 40

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Jun 15, 2020
Wedding Bonus: Asking for Cash, Declining Invitations, Giving Gifts, and More
00:33:09

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus wedding-themed episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about creating guest lists, declining invitations, asking for cash gifts, forgetting to send thank you notes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Who do you have to invite to your wedding?
  • Do you have to go to a wedding if you're invited?
  • What do you do if you can't afford to go to the bachelor or bachelorette party or to the wedding itself?
  • Is it OK to ask for cash instead of gifts at a wedding?
  • Do you have to bring a gift if you're a plus-one to a wedding?
  • Is it OK to not bring a gift to a wedding?
  • I haven't sent thank you notes for my wedding gifts yet...what do I do?


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Episode 39

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Jun 08, 2020
Attending Zoom Parties, Wearing Cummerbunds, Giving Babies "Weird" Names, and More
00:37:59

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing cummerbunds, attending Zoom parties, giving babies "weird" names, addressing letters to couples, handling complicated coffee orders, commenting on innocuous social media posts, taking out the garbage, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Cummerbunds
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Zoom parties
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to name your baby a weird name? When using first names in a letter, does the man or woman's name come first? How to handle complicated coffee orders?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Commenting on innocuous social media posts, taking out the garbage
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Care packages, #bringbackthehowl


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Episode 38

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Jun 01, 2020
Orienting Toilet Paper Rolls, Sending Insincere Invitations, FOMOing on Venmo, and More
00:27:56

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about installing toilet paper rolls, responding to insincere invitations, changing RSVPs, declining photos at tourist attractions, making inside jokes on Venmo, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What is the correct way to install a toilet paper roll?
  • A friend invited me to an expensive destination birthday knowing I couldn't afford it...was I really invited?
  • If you RSVP "no" and then later discover you can make it after all, should you ask to be re-invited?
  • How do you politely decline to have your photo taken at tourist attractions?
  • Is it rude to have inside jokes on Venmo?


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Episode 37

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May 25, 2020
Ordering at Drive-Thrus, Offering Tap Water, Passing Ports, and More
00:38:25

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing decanters of port, ordering at drive-thru windows, offering guests tap water, taking advantage of tea enthusiasts, talking in elevators, using smart watches at the theatre, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Do you know the Bishop of Norwich?
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Drive-thru Window Etiquette
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to offer my guests tap water? What do you do about people who sat themselves in a restaurant? Should you be annoyed that someone took more than one tea bag?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Talking in elevators, smart watches at the theatre
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A nice review, a thank you for our transcripts


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Episode 36

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May 18, 2020
Using Knives on Salads, Holding Doors for Others, Tipping on Discounts, and More
00:23:26

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about holding doors open for others, liking your own social media posts, cutting salads with knives, getting colleagues to respect your desk space, tipping when there's a discount, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What is the appropriate time or distance to hold a door open for others?
  • Is it rude to like your own posts on social media?
  • Are you allowed to cut salad with a knife?
  • How do you get colleagues to respect your personal space?
  • Do you tip on the pre- or post-discount amount?
  • Vent: People who stop by your table to say hello at a restaurant


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Episode 35

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May 11, 2020
Ghosting, Visiting Renaissance Fairs, Using Hot Towels, and More
00:28:21

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using towels at a Japanese restaurant, ghosting, dressing appropriately for Renaissance fairs, speaking to flight attendants while wearing headphones, correcting people who get your name wrong, asking about a partner's opinion, visiting crowded museums, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Oshibori (おしぼり)
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Ghosting
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to wear a superman costume at a Renaissance fair? Is it OK to keep your headphones on when talking to a flight attendant? Am I allowed to correct people who assume I took my husband's last name?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Getting a man's permission, crowded museums
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Small gifts, a nice review


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Episode 34

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May 04, 2020
Receiving Tacky Gifts, Cracking Knuckles, Knocking Before Entering, and More
00:22:34

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about accommodating dietary restrictions, knocking before entering public restrooms, receiving tacky gifts, cracking knuckles in public, tipping on credit cards, asking inappropriate questions in groups, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • At a dinner party, do I have to accommodate everyone's dietary restrictions?
  • Should you knock first to check if a public restroom is occupied?
  • What do you do about relatives who always give tacky gifts?
  • What do you do about people who crack their knuckles in public?
  • Shouldn't I be allowed to tip using my credit card at a salon?
  • PSA: Asking inappropriate questions in group settings


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Episode 33

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Apr 27, 2020
Making Small Talk, Eating Pistachios, Recognizing Celebrities, and More
00:30:31

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating pistachios, making small talk, telling people they have toilet paper stuck to them, returning dropped calls, correcting incorrect terminology, recognizing celebrities, handling annoying phone calls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Eating pistachios
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Making small talk
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you tell someone they have toilet paper stuck to them? When a call drops, who should call back? Is it OK to correct people who use the terms "bug" and "insect" incorrectly?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Not recognizing a celebrity, dialing while talking
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Excited fans, new Patreon members


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Episode 32

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Apr 20, 2020
Invoicing Party Guests, Keeping Scent Secrets, Walking Around Barefoot, and More
00:30:27

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about invoicing party guests for food, walking around apartment buildings without shoes, asking friends to keep quiet at lunch, getting rowdy at musicals, handling inconsiderate dog owners, snooping on other people's phones, keeping scent secrets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Can you charge guests for food at a party?
  • Is it OK to walk around your apartment building barefoot?
  • How do we tell a friend to not talk during lunch?
  • Is it OK to get rowdy at a musical?
  • What do we do about an inconsiderate dog owner in our home?
  • Is it OK to not want other people looking at my phone or computer screen?
  • Can I keep my perfume's identity a secret?


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Episode 31

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Apr 13, 2020
Raiding Strangers' Fridges, Wearing Backpacks on Subways, Declining Multi-Level Marketers, and More
00:38:05

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle riding escalators in Osaka, being around people who don't like you, declining multi-level marketing solicitations, going through a stranger's pantry, buying gifts for real estate agents, wearing backpacks on subways, breaking rules on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Riding escalators in Osaka, Japan
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to handle being around people you don't like or who don't like you
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do decline multi-level marketing (MLM) invitations? Is it OK to go through someone's pantry? Should you buy a closing gift for your real estate agent?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Backpacks on the subway, breaking rules on an airplane
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Gracious hosts, Listener feedback


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Episode 30

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Apr 06, 2020
Eating Cheetos, Knitting in Public, Calling Dibs, and More
00:31:58

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Cheetos, calling dibs, handling supermarket line cutters and slow baggers, behaving at a funeral, shutting down resentful relatives, going barefoot in a no-shoe household, emailing professors, knitting in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is there a polite way to eat Cheetos?
  • When do "dibs" expire after you call them?
  • How do you handle line cutters and slow baggers at the supermarket?
  • What are the etiquette rules for talking to mourners at a funeral or viewing?
  • How to deal with relatives who are resentful of your inheritance?
  • If you're not wearing socks, do you still remove your shoes in a no-shoe home?
  • How formal should you be when emailing a professor?
  • Is it rude to knit in public?


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Episode 29

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Mar 30, 2020
Borrowing Money, Forgetting Invitations, Saving Forks, and More
00:33:35

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating mukhwas, asking friends to repay you, forgetting to invite important relatives to parties, handling people with big hair, getting attention at a bar, sharing fears, saving forks, getting rides, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Mukhwas
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking friends to pay you back
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do if you forget to invite important people to a party? How to handle people with big hair? How to get attention at a bar?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Sharing fears, Saving forks
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Getting a ride, A nice review


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Episode 28

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Mar 23, 2020
Unfollowing Exes, Standing on Escalators, Vaping in Offices, and More
00:30:18

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about cleaning a roommate's dishes, hovering over people in restaurants, seating in taxis, avoiding conversations with drivers, unfollowing exes on social media, handling a coworker's after-hours messages, vaping in offices, splitting restaurant bills, telling provocative stories, standing on escalators, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Am I expected to clean my roommate's dishes?
  • What are your thoughts on hovering over people in restaurants?
  • Where should you sit in a taxi? What do you do if you don't want to talk to your driver?
  • Should I explain to an ex why I'm unfollowing them on social media?
  • What do I do about a coworker who is contacting me after-hours?
  • How do you handle a coworker who is vaping at the office?
  • Is it OK to ask for separate checks if only one person has ordered alcohol?
  • PSA: Telling tragic stories
  • PSA: Standing on the left on escalators


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Episode 27

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Mar 16, 2020
Scolding in Elevators, Tipping Bathroom Attendants, Worrying for Others, and More
00:36:43

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle slashing names on social stationery, worrying for other people, conflicting information on invitations, scolding people in elevators, tipping bathroom attendants, handling impolite parents, FaceTiming in public, overcrowding in vestibules, holding packages for neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Slashing your name on social stationery
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Worrying for other people
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to deal with conflicting information on an invitation? Is it OK to scold people in an elevator? What's the deal with bathroom attendants? What do you do if you were raised by wolves?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Face-timing in public, crowding vestibules
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Holding packages, a nice review


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Episode 26

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Mar 09, 2020
Eating Oreos Properly, Dumping Your Hair Stylist, Seating Incomplete Parties, and More
00:33:19

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Oreos properly, dumping your hair stylist, toasting grammar, duplicating housewarming gifts, seating incomplete parties at restaurants, dealing with gassy coworkers, lowering the volume on loud people, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What is the proper way to eat an Oreo cookie?
  • How do I dump my hair stylist?
  • What is the proper grammar for the word "Cheers"?
  • How many times do you need to bring a housewarming gift?
  • Is it rude for restaurants to refuse to seat incomplete parties?
  • How do you deal with gassy coworkers?
  • How do you lower the volume on people who talk too loud?


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Episode 25

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Mar 02, 2020
Eco-shaming Friends, Giving Gifts in China, Visiting a Hospital, and More
00:35:42

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving gifts in China, visiting people in a hospital, eco-shaming friends, falling asleep on the subway, using "san" in Japanese correspondence, getting people sick, choosing the right fork, sending us calligraphy, leaving out cookies, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Gift giving in China
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Hospital Etiquette
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond when you've been eco-shamed? What do you do if someone falls asleep on you on the subway? What does "san" mean when it's attached to someone's name in Japanese?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Getting people sick, choosing the correct fork
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Calligraphers, cookie plates


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Episode 24

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Feb 24, 2020
Criticizing Wedding Dresses, Spreading Rumors, Splitting Cupcakes, and More
00:27:06

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about criticizing someone's wedding dress, drying your hands without towels, dealing with nasty rumors, handling someone who always criticizes their own body, feeling obligated to make someone a bridesmaid, missing cutlery at a dinner party, handling in-laws who arrive hours early, taking just half a cupcake, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is there a nice way to tell someone you don't like their wedding dress?
  • What do you do if there's no hand towel in a bathroom?
  • Should you meet up with an ex-colleague to discuss a nasty rumor?
  • What do you say to someone who always criticizes their own body?
  • Are you obligated to make certain people bridesmaids?
  • What do you do if your place setting is missing cutlery?
  • How do you handle in-laws who insist on always coming over 2 hours too early?
  • PSA: Take the whole cupcake.


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Episode 23

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Feb 17, 2020
Stealing Baby Names, Ignoring Emails, Garnishing Without Consent, and More
00:38:18

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using unlucky numbers, handling conversations with people who don't ask questions, stealing baby names, being asked to chaperone a children's party when your own child isn't invited, garnishing dishes without consent, ignoring emails, buttering dinner rolls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Unlucky numbers
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: People who don't ask any questions
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to steal someone's baby name? What do you do if you're asked to chaperone a children's birthday party but your own child isn't invited? PSA: Garnishing food without consent.
  • VENT OR REPENT: Ignoring emails, buttering dinner rolls
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Mutual admiration


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Episode 22

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Feb 10, 2020
Snuggling Aggressively, Giving Damaged Gifts, Tipping Only 1%, and More
00:27:45

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dealing with damaged gifts, giving Starbucks a fake name, splitting an AirBNB fairly, handling PDAs on a school trip, leaving low tips, tipping on expensive spa procedures, explaining to a friend why they're not invited to your home, powering your phone all the way off, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What is the etiquette for unknowingly giving someone a damaged gift?
  • Is it rude to give Starbucks a fake name when you order?
  • Should the AirBNB bill be split by the number of families or the number of bedrooms?
  • What do you do about too many PDAs on a school trip?
  • Should people not attending a birthday party be invited to participate in a group gift?
  • On a $100 dinner, is leaving a $1 tip better than nothing?
  • Should you tip 15% on an expensive spa procedure?
  • What do you say to a friend who wonders why they haven't been invited over in a while?
  • PSA: Power your phone completely down at the theatre.


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Episode 21

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Feb 03, 2020
Sabotaging Recipes, Tossing Napkins, Blocking Stairs, and More
00:36:28

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using napkins, behaving at a live performance, redeeming gift cards, sharing cake recipes, departing earlier than expected, being distracted on stairs, leaning into other diners, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkin etiquette
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to behave at a live performance
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do when someone gives you a used gift card? Do you have to share your famous cake recipe? Is it OK to "check out" early when you're an unhappy houseguest?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Walking slowly up stairs, leaning into other diners
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Something nice from a listener, something nice about Nick


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Episode 20

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Jan 27, 2020
Returning Wedding Gifts, Paying for Birthday Parties, Locking Out Relatives, and More
00:30:32

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about paying for your own birthday party, picking the right urinal, bumping into passengers on an airplane, distracting relatives, trying to exit a crowded bus, choosing between the banquette and the chair, sending wedding gifts back after a wedding is called off, refusing to eat at a dinner party, bringing opened food to a dinner party, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it rude to not pay for your birthday party?
  • What should you keep in mind when using a urinal?
  • Is it rude to bump into people when boarding a plane?
  • What do you do if an older relative is distracting you at work?
  • How do you get off a crowded bus if you're far away from the doors?
  • Who should get the banquette and who should get the chair?
  • The wedding was called off and I already sent a gift...should they send it back?
  • What do you do if you simply cannot eat something at a dinner party?
  • Is it OK to bring something that's opened to a dinner party?


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Episode 19

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Jan 20, 2020
Reclining on an Airplane, Using Finger Bowls, Hitting Reply All, and More
00:35:28

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using finger bowls, emailing the right way, reclining on an airplane, remembering birthdays, using business' bathrooms when you're not a customer, speaking Spanish around non-Spanish speakers, declining free samples, clearing plates at restaurants, losing keys, singing our theme song, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Finger bowls
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Thoughts on emails
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to recline your seat on an airplane? Should you remind someone it's your birthday? Is it OK to use a bathroom at a business if you're not a customer? Is it rude to speak Spanish around non-Spanish speakers??
  • VENT OR REPENT: Declining free samples at the grocery store, clearing plates before everyone's done
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Lost keys, singing our theme song


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Episode 18

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Jan 13, 2020
Unloading Emotional Baggage, Planting Cherry Trees, Humming Aggressively, and More
00:34:39

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about unloading emotional baggage on your friends, removing offensive taxidermy, texting at the theatre, commenting on people's body size, getting out of conversations at Whole Foods, eating loudly at the office, taking up too much space at a café, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it OK to unload emotional baggage onto your friends?
  • What do I do about a friend who is offended by my taxidermy?
  • How should I handle someone who is texting at the theatre?
  • What can I do when people comment on my body size?
  • How do I get out of a conversation at Whole Foods?
  • What can be done about a colleague who eats loudly at the office?
  • Is it OK to take a booth at a busy cafe if you're only one person?


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Episode 17

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Jan 06, 2020
Clinking Glasses, Making Eye Contact on the Subway, Tipping Tow Truck Drivers, and More
00:34:29

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving and receiving toasts, behaving properly in New York City, offering guests tours of your home, tipping tow truck drivers, giving aspirational presents to friends trying to lose weight, arriving at exercise classes late, being surprised by unlisted ingredients at a restaurant, buying new luggage, being delighted by a surprise treat, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Toasting Etiquette
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: New York City etiquette, including walking, umbrellas, subways, delis, and taxis
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you give guests tours of your home? Should you tip your tow truck driver? I have a friend trying to lose weight and I gave him a shirt that's in the size of his goal...was this OK?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Arriving at an exercise class late, a restaurant doesn't disclose ingredients
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Buying new luggage, an unexpected meal


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Episode 16


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Dec 30, 2019
Regifting Fruitcakes, Partying at the Office, Taking Down Your Tree, and More
00:20:27

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this holiday-theme bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about behaving at your office holiday party, sending Amazon Wish Lists to your Secret Santa, dealing with a Secret Santa who's no longer with the company, responding to work emails the day before and after Christmas, regifting, giving people fruitcakes, making handmade gifts for friends, tipping parking garage attendants, hiding from family and friends when going home for the holidays, taking down your Christmas tree, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Office holiday party dos and don'ts
  • Is it OK to send my Amazon Wish List to my Secret Santa?
  • What do we do if someone in our office Secret Santa group quit the company?
  • Do you have to respond to work emails on December 24th or 26th?
  • Is it rude to regift?
  • Is it rude to give someone a fruitcake?
  • If you're feeling stressed about money, is it rude to give handmade gifts to your friends?
  • I keep my car in a garage and tip every time I take my car out...do I have to tip again at Christmas?
  • Is it rude to not see all my friends and extended family when I go home for the holidays?
  • When should you take down your Christmas tree?


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Episode 15

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Dec 23, 2019
Using Chopsticks in a Thai Restaurant, Being Prompt, Giving People Personal Space, and More
00:30:24

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using chopsticks in a Thai restaurant, being prompt, asking people to "watch your stuff" at a café or airport, queuing properly at a supermarket, asking for more bread at a restaurant, honking at cars as soon as the light turns green, giving people personal space when dining, asking people to remember your name, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Using chopsticks in a Thai restaurant
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: The importance of being on time
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you say when people ask you to watch their stuff at a café or airport? What is the etiquette when a new queue opens up at supermarket? Is it OK to ask for more bread at a restaurant? When a light turns green and the person in front of you doesn't go, how long should you wait before you honk?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Personal space when dining out, asking people if they remember your name
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice fan mail, civilized behavior on an airplane


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Episode 14

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Dec 16, 2019
Greeting with a Kiss, Going Rogue at a Dinner Party, Getting Catfished, and More
00:24:36

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this extended bonus segment, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about greeting people with kisses, dealing with rogue dinner party guests, deciding who should go first in a buffet line, removing fish bones from your mouth, giving gifts that need to be displayed, leaving your phone number in a voicemail, stripping sheets when you're a houseguest, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What do you do if you accidentally went in for a kiss when they went in for a handshake?
  • How do you deal with dinner party guests who won't follow the invitation instructions?
  • What is the appropriate response when a friend tells you they're getting a divorce?
  • Who should go first when there's a buffet line?
  • How do you remove a fish bone from your mouth?
  • Don't give gifts that have to be displayed.
  • Say your number slowly when leaving a voicemail.
  • When you're a houseguest, should you strip the bed on your last day?


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Episode 13

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Dec 09, 2019
Giving Compliments, Reading Menus with Flashlights, Entering Without Knocking, and More
00:29:58

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soup, giving and receiving compliments, doing business with rude people, entering without knocking at your boyfriend's house, using your phone's flashlight at a restaurant when you can't see the menu, squeezing limes the right way, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to eat soup
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Giving and receiving compliments
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to do business with people who have bad manners? Is it OK to enter without knocking at your boyfriend's house? Is it OK to use your phone's flashlight at a restaurant if you can't see the menu?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Using your phone in a spin class, squeezing limes
  • CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: At the gym, at the coffee shop


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Episode 12

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Dec 02, 2019
Talking Politics, Being Vegan, Saying Grace, Bringing Tupperware, and More
00:24:44

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this Thanksgiving-themed bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about talking politics at the dinner table, bringing flowers without a vase, arriving and departing at appropriate times, selecting good gifts for the host, being gluten-free and vegan, saying "grace" if you're atheist, hating turkey, bringing your own Tupperware for leftovers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is there a polite way to talk about politics at Thanksgiving?
  • Should you bring cut flowers in a vase?
  • When should you arrive and when should you leave?
  • What's a good gift for your host?
  • Asking hosts "how can I help"?
  • I'm gluten-free and vegan...what do I do?
  • Do I have to say "grace" if I'm not religious?
  • I hate eating turkey...do I have to eat it?
  • Am I allowed to take leftovers?


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Episode 11

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Nov 25, 2019
Ordering Wine in a Restaurant, Writing Condolence Letters, Talking in Elevators, and More
00:30:38

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle ordering wine in a restaurant, writing condolence letters, saying farewell to colleagues when leaving a job, correcting people who spell your name wrong, getting dragged into other people's problems, talking in elevators, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to order wine in a restaurant
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Writing condolence letters
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you say farewell to colleagues when leaving a job? Can you correct someone who keeps spelling your name wrong?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Getting dragged into other people's problems, talking in elevators

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Episode 10

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Nov 18, 2019
Texting Late at Night, Escaping Dinner Parties, Regifting Dreamcatchers, and More
00:22:17

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending texts late at night, escaping long dinner parties, telling people their fly is down, receiving unusually large gifts, waiting for people to retrieve their finished laundry so you can use the machine, abandoning a friend without Global Entry, returning missed calls when there's no message, regifting dreamcatchers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • How late is too late to text?
  • Is there a polite way to excuse myself from a dinner party that drags on?
  • How do you tell someone their fly is down?
  • Is it rude to give someone a large surprise gift that would require you to rearrange your house?
  • How long should you wait before taking out someone else's clothing from a machine at a laundromat?
  • If you have Global Entry, do you have to wait in line with a friend you're traveling with who doesn't have it?
  • Do you have to return missed calls when someone doesn't leave a message?
  • What do you do if you receive an unwanted dreamcatcher?

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Episode 9

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Nov 11, 2019
Eating Grapes the Wrong Way, Exercising in the Airplane Bulkhead, Texting Thank You Notes, and More
00:27:28

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating grapes correctly, using foreign words in conversation, bringing wedding gifts to the ceremony, following up with someone who doesn't send a thank you note, sending thank you notes via text, stretching your legs in the bulkhead on an airplane, wearing earphones when not listening to anything, criticizing live performances while you're still in the venue, taking too long to fill up your water bottle at the gym, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: The correct way to eat grapes
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using foreign words in conversation
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you bring a wedding gift to the ceremony? What do you do when someone doesn't send a thank you note? Is it OK to send a thank you note via text? Is it OK to stretch your legs in the bulk head on an airplane if you're not seated there? What's good earphone etiquette?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Criticizing a live performance while you're still in the venue, taking too long to fill up a water bottle at the gym

THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 8

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Nov 04, 2019
Halloween Helpings: Dealing with Greedy Children, Choosing Appropriate Costumes, Being Too Old for Trick-or-Treating, and More
00:09:42

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions how to choose appropriate costumes, whether gore is OK at the office, cultural appreciation versus appropriation, how old is too old for trick-or-treating, what to do about greedy children at your door, and more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • What's considered "appropriate" for halloween costumes?
  • If I'm invited to a costume party, do I have to dress up?
  • How old is too old for trick-or-treating?
  • What do you do about trick-or-treaters who take more than one piece out of the bowl?
  • What do you say to trick-or-treaters who don't like your candy?


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

Episode 7

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Oct 28, 2019
Removing Socks on Airplanes, Splitting Bills at Brunch, Hosting Weddings on Grass, and More
00:26:58

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using wooden Japanese chopsticks, asking people "What do you do?", cleaning your host's filthy home in the middle of the night, removing your socks on an airplane, splitting the bill at brunch, disclosing environmental hazards to your wedding guests, being too folksy in a restaurant, giving bad directions to strangers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: The correct way to use wooden chopsticks
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking people "What do you do?"
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can I clean my host's filthy home in the middle of the night? Is it OK to remove your socks on an airplane? What's the right way to split the bill at brunch? Should you disclose environmental hazards to your wedding guests?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Being too folksy in a restaurant, Giving bad directions to strangers


THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW


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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 6

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Oct 21, 2019
Leaving Your Spouse in Coach, Confronting Celebrity Neighbors, Avoiding Obnoxious Colleagues, and More
00:17:24

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about whether you have to upgrade your spouse if you're flying in business class, how to avoid inviting an obnoxious colleague to a party, when it's appropriate to burp in public, what to do about a celebrity neighbor who won't take a hint, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Do I have to upgrade my spouse if I'm flying business class?
  • How do you not invite someone to a party who's a bad guest?
  • Is it OK to burp in public?
  • What to do about neighbor won't take a hint about their obnoxious leaf blower?
  • What do you say to people who comment on your food choices?

THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 5

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Oct 14, 2019
Congratulating Brides, Sending Food Back, Leaving Voicemails, Remembering Names, and More
00:22:43

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle proper greetings for brides, sending food back at restaurants, charging guests at weddings, remembering names at parties, leaving voicemails, standing too close on the subway, and more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: What not to say to a bride
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Remembering people's names
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you have a cash bar at a wedding? Do you send a thank you note for a thank you gift? If you send food back, should other people wait for you?
  • VENT OR REPENT: Leaving voicemails, standing too close on the subway

THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 4

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Oct 07, 2019
Wearing Windsuits, Ghosting Colleagues, Seasoning Food, Flagging Waiters, and More
00:22:39

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about being forced to wear a windsuit at work, what to do if you're being professionally ghosted, whether or not it's rude to salt your food before tasting it, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:

  • Is it ok to listen to music on your phone on speaker in public?
  • What do you do when you're being professionally ghosted?
  • Do I have to participate in my school's "Windsuit Wednesdays"?
  • How do you tell someone they have something on their face?
  • Is it rude to put salt and pepper on your food without tasting it first?
  • In a restaurant, is it OK to flag down someone who isn't your waiter?

THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 3

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Sep 30, 2019
Popping Champagne, Cancelling Plans, Double-Dipping, and More
00:17:27

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle popping champagne bottles, cancelling plans the right way, double-dipping when you're dining alone, giving up your seat to the elderly, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to open a champagne bottle
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cancelling plans on others
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you double-dip when dining alone? When to give up your seat on the subway?

THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 2

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Sep 23, 2019
Snooping in Medicine Cabinets, Tipping on Take-out, Going to the Opera, and More
00:25:38

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing dishes at a dinner party, behaving at the opera, posting photos of others on social media, tipping on take-out, snooping in medicine cabinets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS

  • AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing platters at a dinner party
  • BE OUR GUEST: Sam Neuman, Opera Expert
  • A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Posting photos of people on social media without their permission
  • QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you tip on take-out? Is it OK to look in someone's medicine cabinet?

THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW

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CREDITS

Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

TRANSCRIPT

Episode 1

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Sep 09, 2019
Sneak Peek: Were you raised by wolves?
00:02:02

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and stand-up comic Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema

Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton

Theme Music: Rob Paravonian


TRANSCRIPT

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Aug 27, 2019