When we take ourselves too seriously, we can snuff out the playful eros energy that keeps relationships vibrant and alive. After all, the happiest marriages thrive, rather than just survive. They are joyful because each person feels free to fully be themselves—without the need to pretend or contort themselves to earn approval. Making room for two people to be true to themselves and the relationship is where the real magic happens. I recently met with Dr. Jerry and Tammie Duggar of the Simple 7 Lifestyle Podcast to discuss how couples can find more happiness and a deeper sense of freedom in their relationships, and how the quality of our relationships impacts both our mental and physical health.

I recently joined Oliver and Lindsey of the Singled In Podcast for a conversation about the exceptional power of choice and its relationship to self-authoring, especially as it relates to being at peace with our sexuality. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: -Shifting from an external to an internal moral compass - Psychological maturation -Self-authoring and self-determination -The power of CHOICE -How relationships pressure growth -Sexual integration for singles

I am heartbroken to share with you on this Mother’s Day that recently my mom was diagnosed with a serious illness. An illness that will take her from us sooner than any of us had expected. Sherrae Phelps and I recorded this podcast episode last year, long before my mom’s diagnosis. The plan was always to publish the episode for Mother’s Day, but it feels particularly poignant to be releasing it now, in light of this diagnosis–to be celebrating my mother’s impact on me as I confront the reality of losing her. At ninety years old, my mother is a woman full of life and genuine beauty–she exemplifies feminine radiance and intuitive wisdom. Her life has demonstrated that the power of love, humility, and grace can make the world a better place. I am so grateful for her–grateful for her influence on me and on others. Grateful that she is who she is, and that she has shown up in her life the way that she has. She has given me so much.

The challenges in your sexual relationship can offer a glimpse into the unhealthy dynamics playing out in your life and marriage. Understanding and addressing your role in these difficult interactions will help you create an intimate relationship that can be a place of solace for both parties—where each partner feels desired, valued, and cared for. 

In this new podcast episode, I join Melissa of the Family Brand podcast to discuss our ability to find fulfillment in sexual relationships and how couples can overcome common roadblocks that interfere with desire, passion, and connection.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jordan and Ryan of The Stoic Dad podcast to discuss stoicism, desire, productive suffering, mature masculinity, and more!

The brief years of young adulthood are a vitally important period of our development. These are the years when we learn how to self-define. A time when we take the ideas and beliefs that were offered to us by parents, peers, and society and really sort out what we think about those ideas, and how we want to relate to them as we go forward. As most adults will remember, this can be a turbulent process, for both young adults and their parents. I recently had the opportunity to sit down with Isaac Burton, an incredible young college student, to discuss several topics that are on the minds of young adults. During the conversation, we discuss dating, career choices, the importance of self-definition, and more.

In this episode, I discuss with Monica Packer the importance of expanding ourselves and how constricting this process and taking refuge in stasis, limits not only our peace with ourselves, but also our ability to whole-heartedly love our partner.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Richard Ostler to discuss the experiences in her early life that shaped her personal, professional, and spiritual journey—including her shift from following cultural expectations to following her own heart and desires. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: -Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s personal, professional, and spiritual journey -Boundaries -Spiritual Maturity

Recently, I joined Dr. Paul Jenkins of Live on Purpose Radio to discuss the role that peace with our OWN sexuality plays in our ability to create a soulful and sustaining connection with our spouse. In the episode, we discuss several roadblocks that couples face as they try to create sexual and emotional intimacy–these roadblocks are more common than you might think and the good news is that they can be overcome.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why Podcast to discuss the divine gift of sexuality and the important role that our sexuality plays in our spiritual development.

In this special Valentine's Day edition of MormonLand, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, McArthur Krishna, and Bethany Brady Spalding join Peggy Fletcher Stack and David Noyce, hosts of the MormonLand Podcast, for a thoughtful discussion on the nature of Latter-day Saint marriages and an exploration of the content found in the recently released ebook "In the Image of Our Heavenly Parents: A Couple's Guide to Creating a More Divine Marriage."

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On podcast (@getyourmarriageon) for a deep dive into the topic of masturbation. During the episode, Dr. Jennifer explores the reasons why there is so much anxiety surrounding masturbation and offers insight on what we can do to make decisions around our sexuality that are wise and make us stronger.

Human beings are sexual beings from birth. As such, children are naturally and rightfully curious about their growing bodies. While this curiosity and subsequent exploration manifests differently in toddlerhood, childhood, and adolescence--a parent's comfort level with this natural process will have a big impact on the child's relationship with sexuality. In this popular podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Taralynn of the Find the Magic Podcast to discuss what parents can do to help their children develop a healthy relationship with sexuality. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: Taking the shame, fear, and anxiety out of talking to kids about sex Normalizing sexuality Teaching our children to be deliberate and thoughtful in their choices about sexuality Handling toddler and pre-adolescent curiosity about embodiment and sexuality Modesty

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Taylor Chambers MS, LMFT to discuss unwanted porn use and how our framing of the behavior can make all the difference. They also discuss how honesty with ourselves and our partner can open us up to more sexual fulfillment and connection. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: Addiction framing vs Agentic framing Sexuality as a mechanism for personal development Coming to peace with your sexuality Honesty and its role in our relationships Positive ways to respond to unwanted sexual thoughts/feelings Trust vs Trustworthiness

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Carter of the Heart and Soul podcast to discuss the complexity of making room for your own thoughts and desires when you also belong to a family or larger group, and how unyielding expectations can interfere with self-acceptance, body acceptance, and honest relationships with others. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: The importance of acknowledging our honest thoughts and desires Perfectionism Body Image Developing compassion towards our limitations and the limitations of others Resentment

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of the Barbie Does Dating Podcast for a discussion about dating! This episode covers how singles can differentiate in their relationships, how to recognize and overcome a fear of commitment, and healthy ways to approach the nuanced topic of sexual intimacy and compatibility while in celibate dating relationships.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast to talk about how we can develop sexual maturity and use our sexuality to create more partnership and connection in our marriages.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Lisa from The Lisa Show (@thelisashow) to discuss red flags within a relationship and how discomfort in relationships can help us grow into more mature and loving partners.

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps Nate and Nora see how they have each handled their fear and anxiety in destructive ways – Nora becoming rigid and Nate turning to condescension. These strategies are compelling because they are an easy escape from the intensity and discomfort of marital growth and expansion. Dr. Finlayson-Fife explains that the path to more stability and connection in their relationship is differentiation – learning to tolerate the aloneness and invalidation that comes when you love someone who sees and experiences the world differently than you do.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps and Kristi Bassett for a frank discussion about anxiety. During the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers an important distinction between fear and anxiety and gives practical tips on how we can each learn to better cope with the uncertainties that are inherent to life. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: *Fear vs Anxiety *How to increase our tolerance for anxiety and uncertainty *Supporting family members with anxiety *Anxiety medication

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Raini Hamilton to talk about the important role conflict plays in intimate relationships and how couples can use conflict to grow closer together and expand their lives and relationship.

In this NEW podcast episode, Kirsten and Alexis of the Sharing Her Journey podcast (@sharingherjourney) invite Dr. Finlayson- Fife to discuss challenging moments from her earlier years and the impact those challenges have had on her life and career path.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Ashlynn Mitchell of the This is Ashlynn podcast (@this.isashlynn) to help listeners better recognize how they overfunction and underfunction (that’s right, you may be doing both!) in their marriages and in parenting.

In this NEW PODCAST, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Cory Allan of the Sexy Mariage Radio Podcast to discuss duty sex and what couples can do to bring more desire, passion, and aliveness to their intimate relationship.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Brecklyn Winder of the Bread and Butter Podcast to discuss the negative meanings that many of us inherited around modesty and sexuality. Dr. Finlayson-Fife goes on to share how we can rethink and reframe those ideas to develop a healthier understanding of both modesty and sexuality.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Camille Scow of the Choosing Love podcast to talk about the complexities of pornography usage and how you can show love and support to your spouse and yourself in the wake of a pornography disclosure. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * The important role of self-compassion as we work through fears and anxieties associated with porn usage * Harmful meanings around pornography that hinder our growth and understanding * Anger as a positive resource * The true measure of progress for a porn user * Trust vs Trustworthiness

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting podcast to talk about the many emotions that can come as parents transition into the empty nest phase of life, and how we can best support our kids as they become more independent and step out into the world. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Dealing with the loss of purpose and identity as we transition to the empty nesting phase * Encouraging confidence and independence in adult children * Supporting married children to leave and cleave to their partner * Making room for a new daughter or son-in-law in the family culture

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Brewer of the Overcome Pornography For Good Podcast to discuss how taking responsibility for your own life and chocies will increase your capacity to love and be loved.

This NEW podcast episode is the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s recent presentation at a stake women’s conference. During this presentation, she focuses on how we can use conflict and difference to increase our wisdom and create more unity in our families and communities. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also addressed questions from members of the congregation about loving LGBTQ family members, women’s role in the Church, and how to better understand and love family members who leave the church.

In this recent podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Dave Noyce and Peggy Fletcher Stack of The Salt Lake Tribune's Mormon Land podcast (@mormonland) to discuss the recent viral "MomTok" video. In this discussion, Jennifer talks about how the lack of strong moral development in individuals can lead to vulnerabilities within a marriage.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins The Cultural Hall Podcast to discuss some of the false traditions that have been passed down through generations and are now being misunderstood as doctrine–topics like patriarchal order within the church and family, Mother in Heaven, equality, priesthood authority, polygamy, and sexuality. It’s important to pray, ponder, and discern your own position.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tony Overbay of The Virtual Couch Podcast (@tonyoverbay) to discuss differentiation, self-validation, and the vital role of self-confrontation in intimate relationships.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rohnda Farr (@rhondafarr_coaching ) to discuss the impact of over-functioning and feelings of superiority in marriage, and what couples can do to address the behaviors that are limiting the intimacy in their marriage. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * The self-deceptions of an over-achiever (you might be surprised) * Why you may feel the“need to be needed” * Recognizing your false sense of control * Dealing with powerlessness in your life * How competition can creep into marriage. * Wanting vs Desiring In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about the upcoming Art of Loving retreat for men. You can learn more about the retreat and get your ticket HERE.

This NEW podcast episode is the recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s presentation during a recent gospel study session hosted by Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought. This fascinating discussion focuses on the fall of King David and how each of us is still beloved by God, despite being vulnerable to our own hubris and self-deception. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * The importance of self-confrontation * The complexities of humanity * Facing our darker selves * Honesty * Spiritual development * Self-deception * Marriage as a mechanism for growth

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps to discuss ways Latter-Day Saints can navigate this period of transition within the church with strength and integrity, and what we can do as individuals to contribute to the development of our community.

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with Andy and April to see how they each contributed to the marital dysfunction and, in particular, how Andy's dysfunction was expressed in deception and betrayal. She works with the couple to help them see what they can do to move forward, as well as bring more honesty and equality to their relationship.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Matana of the Hope to Recharge podcast for a powerful discussion on faith, integrity, and spiritual development.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of the Bless the Refreshments Podcast to discuss why talking about sex with our kids and spouses can be so difficult and what we can do to reduce our own anxiety about sexuality.

In this episode of Marriage on a Tightrope, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kattie Mount to talk about the many incredible workshops and retreats she will be hosting this year. If you've ever been curious about attending an in-person event with Dr. Finlayson-Fife, you are going to love this episode!

In this conversation with Michelle Larson of Uplift for Kids, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses what parents can do to facilitate the healthy sexual development of their children throughout every stage of development.

Many of us inherited meanings about sexuality from our families and culture that have actually inhibited our sexual desire. In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rachel Nielson from the 3 in 30 podcast to discuss these restrictive meaning frames and how we can shift our mindset to make room for more desire and a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps for a powerful discussion about the often disillusioning middle years of life, and what we can do to remain hopeful, engaged, and productive during this phase of our development.

This NEW podcast episode is the recording of a recent Facebook live where Dr. Finlayson-Fife addressed the gift of men's sexuality and took questions from Facebook group members about masculinity, hierarchy, pornography, and more!

This is part to of the interview Monica Packer of About Progress conducted with Carolyn Bever & Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss parenting perfectionistic children. Listen to learn more about... - How to define your role as a parent - Shifting the value from external sources to one’s internal courage - More tips on parenting your perfectionistic child - And more...

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interview by the Find the Magic team about addressing and helping our children develop a healthy relationship with their sexuality. Listen to learn more about: - Questions to ask yourself to help you sort out your own relationship to your sexuality - How to help your child understand that they are a powerful chooser in their life, especially around their sexuality - How to create guidelines and boundaries with your kids as they learn to integrate their sexuality - Teaching your children that being careful around their sexual choices matters

Monica Packer of About Progress talked with Carolyn Bever & Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss parenting perfectionistic children. Listen to learn more about... - How to identify if you have a perfectionistic child - Why perfectionistic children can be over or underperforming - Separating your own sense of worth from your child’s achievements - How to illustrate the importance of failure in the process

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed by Ivy, Kristi’s daughter. Ivy is a smart and thoughtful teen who asked wonderful questions pertinent to all teens and parents of teens! Listen to this podcast to hear Dr. Finlayson talk directly to teens about: - Troubles that teens face in friendships and relationships - Anxiety - Disagreements with parents - and more!

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Momivate for a Momversation on the topic of improving your marital relationship. This episode is full of helpful tips and insights including: - How to address conflicts in the marital and sexual relationship that interfere with happiness - Claiming your sexuality as your own - A helpful distinction between forgiveness and trusting - Normalizing struggles in marriage and using those struggles for our growth

In this recording of a Facebook Live Dr. Finlayson-Fife teaches about boundaries. Listen to this episode to learn more about: - The purpose of boundaries - Types of boundaries - How to be clear headed when setting your boundaries - The immense importance of honesty

Morgan knows sexual desire, but she has deliberately repressed those feelings for so long that she is struggling to get them back. When she was younger, Morgan had a healthy curiosity about sex but felt she had crossed a line by reading romantic literature. In an effort to restore a sense of worthiness, she changed course and tried to never look back. While Morgan now tries to be sexual with Harry, her heart just isn’t in it. She finds it more intuitive to accommodate Harry than to find and express her own eroticism after so many years of trying to snuff it out. In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife explores how Morgan’s anxiety, perfectionism, and external moral reference have limited her capacity for intimacy, and what she can do to develop a healthier relationship to her sexuality as well as a more fulfilling intimate relationship with Harry.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer joins Courtney Anderson of the Glow Boss Podcast to answer your questions about sex. They cover everything from high libido to sexual dreams about an ex to the psychology of climaxing. Listen to hear more about: - How to integrate freedom in the sexual relationship in a committed relationship - Meaning frames that can help your sexual relationship thrive through changes in life such as the postpartum stage and aging - Navigating desire differences in your relationship

This episode is a recording of Dr. Jennifer reading an essay she wrote entitled "Let's Talk about Sex". The full episode can be found on the Breaking Down Patriarchy podcast hosted by Amy Allebest. Listen to this episode to hear more about.... - Women’s relationship to their sexuality in the context of a patriarchal society - LDS women’s ability to be choosers in the sexual realm - Cultural invalidation of women’s eroticism - Why self-hood is a stronger factor in desire than biological drive - How undermining women’s strength undermines strength in marriages, families and society

In this new podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of the Latter-day Contemplation podcast to discuss the Divine Feminine.

Rick and Sarah are really good at hiding. Rick hides behind his nice guy persona—he has learned through experience that if he keeps Sarah comfortable enough, he will maximize the chances of getting sex. So, he skirts around the truth and keeps his honest thoughts to himself in an attempt to keep the boat from rocking. Sarah has fully bought into this dynamic and pushes for Rick’s accommodation. She knows the part to play, plays it well, and takes refuge in fading into the background and letting Rick take care of her. While this one-up/one-down dynamic has created an amicable enough marriage, it hasn’t created much passion or intimacy. In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife meets again with Rick and Sarah to discuss how they can create a more equal and strong partnership by both bringing more courage and honesty to their relationship.

Zach and Darcy Spafford of The Self-Mastery Podcast: Overcome Pornography for Good interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife and discussed the roots of the issues surrounding unwanted pornography use, betrayal trauma and infidelity.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Sherrae Phelps to discuss how to navigate religious challenges with integrity, from the best within us.

“Parenting is noble work, in part because you are so often reaching through the dark trying to figure out what it means to love this unique child, with their specific challenges, strengths and desires.” Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Tina Gosney of the Parenting Through the Detour podcast to answer difficult questions that are on parents minds and souls.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan of Sexy Marriage Radio for a frank discussion about resentment in marriage and how we can avoid this common pitfall by becoming more honest with ourselves and learning to not rely on our spouses for validation.

It can be extraordinarily difficult to break free from the framing and meanings that we were handed in childhood. It is easy to perpetuate these systems unwittingly as adults because it is what we know--it's the water we are swimming in. The process of waking up to the way we are participating in unhealthy systems requires a lot of self-confrontation, faith, and courage. It means breaking free of the systems we know and taking the more courageous path of offering our partners and children something better than what we received. In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Paul Duane of The Soul Anarchist podcast for an engaging and powerful discussion of everything from the evolution of Jennifer's understanding of and relationship to God to the power of lipstick and high-waisted jeans.

Phil and Claire still have a lot to untangle from their past and the views they each inherited about sexuality from their family and culture. In this follow-up interview, Claire and Phil are wondering how they can bring more real passion into their intimate relationship. Listen in as Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with Phil and Claire to explore what they can do to bring their newfound honesty and authenticity to their physical relationship.

In this NEW podcast episode Jennifer joins Heidi Benjaminson of Confidence Coaching to talk to parents about confidence, perfectionism, and how to best help our kids navigate the awkward and uncomfortable process of maturing into adulthood.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tina Gosney for a timely conversation about the importance of bringing honesty and courage to our faith community, especially when it comes to complex and divisive social issues. Being both loving and honest, even with varying perspectives, fosters greater understanding and compassion, and helps us all become wiser.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jared and Ethan Thomas of the @a.brothers.creed podcast to talk about how society's view of masculinity has shifted over time and how to develop real masculine strength.

Feeling rejected by your spouse in any realm can be disheartening, but when the rejection is sexual, it can be exceptionally demoralizing experiencing. Sexual rejection is particularly potent because during arousal states the brain is highly plastic. So any emotion, good or bad, holds extra sway when it is experienced during an aroused state. In this episode of Sex Therapy 101, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cami Hurst to answer a listener's question about how to move forward and cultivate her sexuality after years of feeling undesired and fundamentally rejected by her spouse during their 21-year mixed-orientation marriage.

Adam and Sarah have a communication problem. While they feel that they don't communicate well, the reality is that their communication is crystal clear, they just don't like what is being communicated. Both Adam and Sarah entered the marriage with rigid ideas of what their relationship would look like, and when those expectations went unfulfilled, the resentment they felt for each other began to grow. In this episode, listen in as Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with Adam and Sarah to help them learn to become less dependant on each other while creating a relationship with more compassion and deeper honesty in the process.

In this episode of Mormonland Jennifer joins a panel with Michael Austin, Jacob Hess, and hosts Peggy Fletcher Stack and David Noyce to discuss the history, theology, and ethics of sexual relations in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Tiffany has never been able to orgasm and is having difficulty trusting her husband. Riley has been sexually compulsive from adolescence and induces anxiety in his wife through his untrustworthy sexual behavior. Listen as Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps Riley confront the fact that he is using his behavior to keep control of his wife’s validation, and how his framing of porn addiction misses the mark and interferes with him truly changing his behavior. To subscribe go to the Room for Two Webpage!

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Monica Packer, the host of About Progress, and Dr. Julie Hanks for a discussion about what true partnership in marriage looks like and how to work towards it.

In this episode, Jennifer helps Rick and Sarah see the unhealthy dynamic that has developed in their marriage and why this approval seeking is detrimental to passion. Jennifer guides Rick and Sarah to a new way of thinking, a mindset which will allow them to create a marriage where there is room for real choice and deeper intimacy.

In this episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of Bless the Refreshments to discuss how looking at improving yourself will improve your marriage.

Dave has spent his entire life being a problem solver--for his mother, his wife, and the world. This over-functioning has interfered with Dave’s ability to be knowable to others. As a result of this heroic tendency, Dave tends to view his wife as more of a problem to be solved than as an intimate friend. A dynamic that has left Carly feeling lonely, frustrated, and resentful. Listen to Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s input on how to help this couple to see the roles they have each played in this frustrating dynamic and what they can do to create a more intimate partnership and friendship.

Sherrae Phelps and Dr. Finlayson-Fife recorded a timely and thoughtful conversation about navigating your sexual identity as a teen and what role parents can play in that process.

Join Dr. Finlayson-Fife and ST Rappaport of the LifePix Relationships Podcast to discuss the inherent connection between emotional and relational intimacy in relationships.

A taste of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's new podcast Room for Two! Jane is a people pleaser. She has spent her life pursuing validation by doing all the things she knows she "should''. Up until now, her choices have been driven by seeking others’ approval, but she is ready for a change. Jane is wrestling with herself to find the courage to exert her desires and individuality into her relationship and into the world. Doing so has put pressure on Jane and John's marriage to evolve into something less traditional, transactional and guarded to a marriage more honest, open, and grounded in reality.

Join Dr. Finlayson-Fife and host Arielle Finlinson of the "Ladies Talking Love" podcast (@ladies.talkinglove) to discuss what you can do to challenge unhealthy meanings that are operating in your relationship and how to create a more robust sexual relationship with your partner.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Crystal Noelle of "The Freedom Moms" podcast to discuss what mothers can do to rediscover their desire and passions.

In this NEW podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dana Dodini of the "From the Mouths of Babes" podcast (@fromthemouthsofbabespodcast) to discuss how women can take claim of their lives and desires and how doing so will help them embrace their God-given sexuality. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Overcoming "Good Girl" Syndrome * Claiming your identity, sexuality, and desires * Challenging cultural ideals of femininity and masculinity * Transitioning from accommodation to ownership and desire * How to best teach our children about sexuality * The importance of prioritizing your own development

In this NEW podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Makenzie VanWinkle of My Audience is Me to discuss feminism, patriarchy and hierarchies.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Andrea Giles of the "Heal From Infidelity Podcast" for a candid discussion about infidelity and the opportunity it provides for growth within ourselves.

Amanda Louder of the Sex for Saints podcast interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife to discuss equality in marriage.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Jeff and Cathy of Love in the Later Years to discuss sexuality for mid singles.

This episode is the audio from a Facebook live that Dr. Finlayson-Fife hosted on the topic of modesty. Listen to learn more about: - The true meaning of modesty - Unhelpful messages we unwittingly give to men, women, boys and girls about modesty - Helpful messages to replace those harmful narratives

Brexton Bennett of the Rise by Lifting Others podcast interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife about becoming the respected therapist she is today.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting podcast to discuss our attitudes towards physical beauty and how to talk to your kids about these topics.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Heather Rackman of the Latter-day Life Coaches discuss honesty, truth, faith and where they all intersect in this episode about owning your spirituality.

This is part two of Dr. Finlayson-Fife's interview with Unashamed Unafraid.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Steve and James of the Unashamed Unafraid Podcast to discuss honesty and being fully human. Spoiler alert...the path is not perfectionism!

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interview on the Faith Matters podcast to discuss the tension between boundaries and belonging when it comes to returning to in-person church following the pandemic.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife spoke in the online I Am Mom summit in March 2019 about the common misconceptions and false beliefs that can undermine sexual identity and desire for mothers. Listen to this recording to learn more about: - Maintaining a sense of self in motherhood - Challenging the message that to be a good mother you must needless and wantless - Questions to ask yourself to strengthen your partnership and sexual relationship

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed by Sherrae Phelps of the Ten Thousand Hours of Writing project to discuss differences in marriage and how to navigate them. Listen to here more about... - The difficulty of navigating differences, especially religious differences, in marriage. - Self-indulgence vs self-definition. - The paradox and tension of marriage. - How to determine with integrity if a difference is too big for the marriage. - How we choose to navigate difference may matter more than the difference itself.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Shane and Jason of the Sprinkled With Hope podcast to discuss sexuality, intimacy and hope. Listen to hear more about... - A distinction between sex and intimacy - How to develop a capacity for intimacy - A positive strategy to use talking to your children about their sexuality - Advice for newlyweds as they begin their sexual relationship - Hope and encouragement for meaningful love and intimacy in your life

Dr. Finlayson-Fife had a fun and educational conversation with Rosemary Card of the Q.More Podcast where they covered questions we all have about sex. Listen to learn more about... - Integrating your sexuality regardless of what stage of life you are in - The process of self and sexual development - Intimacy and communication - Questions and discussions to help newlyweds navigate their new sexual relationship

Dr. Finlayson Fife joined Geoff Steurer of From Crisis to Connection to discuss reclaiming your sexuality after betrayal in your marriage. Listen to learn more about: - Reclaiming your individual sexuality after betrayal - The development opportunities afforded by crisis in your relationship - How anchoring in one’s sense of self enhances your relationship to your spouse - The courage required to love

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed on the Mormon Land podcast about Natasha Helfer's membership disciplinary hearing due to her public stances on masturbation, same-sex marriage and pornography. They discuss these topics as well as the potential effects of Natasha's hearing on mental health professionals and members alike.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife had an honest and empathetic conversation with Kimberlee & Alisha from The Clarity Call about raising children with special needs and the opportunities for self-definition in the face of a difficult reality.

This is a recording of an instagram live Dr. Finlayson-Fife did with musician, Jenn Blosil. They covered so many wonderful topics in this fun, uplifting conversation including: - The Divine Feminine - Sexual Energy - Sublimation - Modesty - and more!

Barbara Zabawa of the Lemon Spark podcast interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife about the journey that led her to the career she has today. Listen to hear more about: - Experiences in Jennifer’s life that led her to her career - Your ability to change your circumstances - Two types of “sparks” that can lead to growth

In this interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Valerie Hamaker of the Voices About Living podcast to discuss a case study. They cover topics including women's sexual health and how personal freedom impacts sex drive.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Julie Winn of The Porn Addict's Wife Podcast to discuss how the marital sexual relationship can be affected when a spouse is viewing pornography.

Lindsey Sanchez of the Beating Around the Book podcast interviewed Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss sex and intimacy in literature. Listen to learn more about: - What eroticism is, how to engage it, and how it relates to your partnership. - How literature with erotic content can move you out of the mundane of everyday life and into a place of play with your spouse. - How erotic literature can be used to enrich your life and partnership.

Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife and discussed sexuality for single individuals. Listen to this episode to learn more about: - Where is the line in regards to chastity? - How to help your children make self-directed choices around their sexuality. - A discussion about normal sexual developmental behavior - Core questions to ask yourself to get clear on your relationship to your sexuality - How to transition into a sexual relationship without guilt or shame when you get married

In a conversation with Nate and Angilyn Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers several questions sent in by listeners. The topics include: - What subjective and physiological arousal are and how to understand them in yourself. - The importance of play, self-acceptance and acceptance of others as adults. - What is a collaborative alliance and how to do your part in that alliance. - The benefit of giving and receiving in your sexual relationship.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed on the From the Mouth of Babes podcast to discuss all things intimacy! Listen to this episode to learn more about... - What true intimacy looks like and the courage it requires. - The importance of managing our own sense of self. - Why honesty is key in intimate relationships. - Managing differences in a marriage. - Asking questions to truly understand your spouse and build intimacy in your marriage. - How to rekindle intimacy and passion in your marriage.

In this podcast episode Don Wotherspoon facilitates a discussion with Dr. Finlayson-Fife, Carol Lynn Pearson and Stephen Carter for the Mormon Matters podcast. They cover multiple topics including beliefs that interfere with intimacy in mormon marriages, the effects of the history of polygamy on modern mormon marriages and how marriage can be an incredible opportunity for development and joy!

In this new podcast episode Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Courtney Anderson, host of The Glow Boss Podcast, to discuss Valentines Day and some easy and concrete ways to spice up your sex life.

In this new podcast episode discussing faith and faith development with Sherrae Phelps, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the topic of... Transactional Faith and how we grow into a higher understandings of Faith.

Jennifer and her sister Carolyn Bever speak with Monica Packer of the About Progress podcast all about how to develop ourselves without perfectionism getting in the way! Listen to hear more about... - How Carolyn went from only being able to run down the block to qualifying for the Boston Marathon. - What parenting has taught Jennifer about herself and her own problematic perfectionism. - How to overcome fears of failure or discomfort. - The normalcy of perfectionism, the false ideas within it, and how we can transcend it. This is a unique self-development podcast that you don't want to miss!

Are you dealing with betrayal trauma? Today we are reposting a popular podcast in which Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Scabs of Bloom For Women about... -Dishonesty in marriage. -Healing from marital betrayal. -How to move forward after a breach of trust. -What infidelity in marriage can show you about your spouse and yourself. -How you can become stronger in the face of betrayal. -How to rebuild trust.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins colleague Natasha Helfer to discuss Dr. Schnarch's teachings and legacy. They take up -Differentiation theory and Dr. David Schnarch's impact in the field of therapy. -Differentiation and how it's related to strong relationships and a solid sense of self. -How to better manage anxiety within your relationship and family. -Common relational and sexual challenges facing those who have grown up in a religiously conservative culture

In honor of David Schnarch, professional colleague Dr. Dave Jenkins, interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about -How she came to find Dr. Schnarch's work -Personal growth that has come from her experience as a therapist and coach. -The value of seeking for truth even when it's disorienting. -How her practice has been influenced by Dr. David Schnarch's life and work. -The importance of differentiation in human development and creating peace within oneself and healthy relationships

Talking to your kids about sex is a high anxiety experience for many parents! For LDS families with an LGBTQ child, it can be even more challenging. In this podcast episode, Allison from www.liftandlove.org and Jenie with Jenie Hunter Coaching talk with Dr. Finlayson-Fife about how to raise LGBTQ children and youth with a healthy sense of their sexuality and of their identity as a child of God.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On podcast. They discuss... -The 3 stages of sexual development, and how to bring your marriage to the next level. -The importance of fostering erotic energy in your relationship. -How to go from having sex to deep connection through love-making.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Monica Tanner of the "On The Brighter Side" podcast talk about entrepreneurism and its impact on relationships. Jennifer and Monica discuss.. -Why it can be difficult to ask for support from a spouse when you have a meaningful ambition. -The challenges that entrepreneurs often confront in their intimate relationships, given the sacrifices and emotional demands of a creative endeavor. -How to maintain your sense of self in the midst of entrepreneurial demands along with the responsibilities of marriage, and parenting, and work. -How to address resentment that emerge in marriage productively.

In this conversation with Tony Overbay of the Virtual Couch podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about living with a narcissistic spouse AND the frustrating pursuer-distancer dynamic common to many couples. Here are some of the specific things Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses.... -How to function in a relationship when your spouse has narcissistic traits or tendencies. -Where you are vulnerable when living with or loving someone who won't self-confront or change. -How to make sense of and address the experience of feeling more invested than your spouse. -How to grow in your capacity for an open hearted relationship if you tend to stay arm's length. -Understanding attachment or relational styles (such as being “clingy”, or “walled off” in relationship) and how to grow into a more self-sustaining and relational position.

Jody Moore of the Better Than Happy Podcast interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife on the topic of Spiritual Maturity. They discuss.. -The importance of spiritual maturity and how to achieve it. -How to live life more honestly and in line with your integrity. -The process of approaching obedience with wisdom. -The true meaning of modesty and how to teach it wisely. -How perfectionism is a counterfeit virtue, and what real goodness looks like. -What the fruits of spiritual maturity are.

Jennifer discusses the questions and findings of her research, looking at LDS women and the impact of a patriarchal religious structure on their peace with sexuality and sense of sexual agency. The third and final part of this conversation covers the following topics... -How to stand up for better in a sexless marriage -How to foster desire in marriage -Masturbation in marriage -Erotica and pornography

This 3-part interview was Jennifer's first-EVER (and one of her most-listened-to) podcasts! Jennifer discusses the questions and findings of her research, looking at LDS women and the impact of a patriarchal religious structure on their peace with sexuality and sense of sexual agency.

In this 2012 interview, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Natasha Helfer of the Mormon Mental Health podcast to discuss her dissertation research on LDS women and sexuality.

This podcast episode is for... -Those personally struggling with unwanted pornography use. -The spouse of someone who views pornography. -Anyone seeking to better understand and protect against unhealthy sexual behavior patterns.

In her conversation with Felica Allen of "Find The Magic Podcast", Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses -How women can find authentic pleasure in sexuality. -How to forge meaningful happiness. -How to take deeper responsibility for your life

In this interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins @courtneyspatrouve of the The Spa Trouve Podcast to talk about... Developing comfort with one's own sexuality. The importance of communicating honestly with a partner. What to do about painful of uncomfortable sex. And how to increase one's desire for sex.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Find Your Person Podcast to discuss the topic of singles, relationships, and sexuality! She address... -What healthy boundaries during dating look like. -The importance of sexual attraction in dating and marriage choice. -How to "course correct" while dating and recommit to shared goals. -Differences and similarities between male and female sexuality. -How to foster healthy sexuality in a dating relationship while staying true to ideals such as the law of chastity.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kami Banks of the Beyond Your Comfort Zone Podcast to discuss... How and why to invest in yourself The importance of differentiation and independence in being happy How to self-validate and gain greater confidence in who you are Learning from challenges

In this podcast Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Bauer of the Art of Play to discuss ✔️What your feelings of resentment are trying to tell you ✔️How to foster greater self-respect ✔️How self-development will positively benefit all your relationships ✔️How to tap into your own desires

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jeff and Sheldon of the Idea Gym podcast to talk about... ✔️ The foundational structure of an intimate marriage. ✔️ How to participate in a marriage where both partners thrive. ✔️ How to come to peace with our desires (both sexual and otherwise). ✔️ The importance of honesty with yourself and within your marriage in creating a peaceful partnership. ✔️ The difference between intimacy and validation. AND MORE!

In this podcast Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Monica Packer of the About Progress podcast to discuss -How to stop hating sex -How to make sense of your negative feelings towards physical intimacy. -The importance of sexual self-development in your personal confidence. -The importance of pleasure in living joyfully.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Andy Proctor of the @morehappylife podcast to discuss… -How parents can better talk to their kids about sexuality and pleasure (without embarrassment). -The gift of human embodiment and sensuality. -How people who experience themselves as addicted to sex can take more control of their choices. -How to think about sexuality as a religious single person in a way that facilitates your well-being.

This episode also includes discussion about... -Why we are often quick to judge others choices when they invalidate our own. -How and why we try to control or manipulate our spouse's beliefs or choices and how to better control ourselves (rather than others). -How to better respect integrity-based decisions, even when they differ from our own.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Bree and Adam of the Better Me with BodyByBree podcast to do a couples' coaching session! During their conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses -Differences/imbalances in desire between them -She exposes the implicit meaning frames between them that create resentment and undermine desire -She offers them a new way of thinking about their choices to create a sense of closeness and friendship -How to develop more confidence and courage in the marriage

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tamara K. Anderson of the “Stories of Hope in Hard Times” podcast to discuss -Self sufficiency -Overcoming self-doubt -Building self-confidence -Finding strength in trails and  -Learning from the imperfections of life.  Jennifer talks about her own experiences with self-doubt and suffering and the lessons she learned about herself, life, and God in the face of these challenging times. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.  www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on September 2, 2020. You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Marriage On A Tightrope podcast to discuss the topic of mixed faith marriage! Jennifer addresses topics such as ✔️How you can find shared values and spiritual practices when one stops believing. ✔️How you can deal with condescension from family or friends about a spouse's shift in belief. ✔️How each person in the couple can handle the difference in belief maturely or tyrannically. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.  www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on August 4, 2020. You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Mike Frazier with Strong Men, Strong Marriages Podcast to talk about... -Female sexuality and desire. -Why you need to stop being “pathetic” :-) and what to do instead. -How to approach sex with your wife in a way that’s attractive and effective. -How to better take ownership of your own sexuality in a way that will bless your marriage.

In a conversation with Nate and Angilyn Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers several questions sent in by listeners.

In Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s sixth podcast with About Progress, they discuss the notion of agency and choices and how taking responsibility for our choices impacts our happiness and peace of mind. This episode gives lots of examples of making choices within specific relational realities.

Dan Wotherspoon, host of "Mormon Matters" interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Natasha Helfer Parker about the messaging around modesty and sexuality and how to teach our sexual values most productively.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps to talk about the topic of obedience. They discuss questions such as… -When is it good to yield to the authority of another? -What is the difference between the choice to comply based in moral courage vs. obedience that is dangerous? -What is the risk in valuing obedience as an inherent virtue, and how do we reconcile the value of humility with moral responsibility?

In a conversation with Rhonda Farr of The Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about...   False cultural ideas that many men internalize about sexuality. How to manage desire differences and a spouse's refusal without anger or withdrawal. How to approach sexuality when a spouse has experienced sexual trauma. A sneak peek into what will be taught in the Men’s Sexuality course (COMING THIS FALL)! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In a conversation with life coach Heather Frazier of Pivot Parenting Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about... Why we measure ourselves by external things. How to be true to yourself. How to foster integrity and confidence in your children. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In a conversation with Nate and Angilyn Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers several questions sent in by listeners.

In a conversation with clinical psychologist Zac Rhodenizer of The Psychology Of Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about the the psychology of male sexuality.

In a conversation with Makenzie VanWinkle of the "My Audience Is Me" Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about what it looks like to live your life from your highest desires.

In this discussion with Sarah Mendenhall of the Sitting Down With Sarah Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife responds to questions such as… What are the stages that couples go through when facing a faith challenge? Can you arrive at shared values in a mixed-faith relationship? Can you live in two different paradigms of belief and still be friends and good parents? How can you talk to your kids about a parent's faith transition? How can you teach your children shared values when each parent believes differently? How can you find the courage to love in the face of difference? To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In part two of of her discussion with Matt Davis of Steelyard Academy Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the following topics...  Taking greater responsibility for yourself. Finding greater meaning and purpose in your life. How to better measure success and happiness. Understanding sex as a powerful form of communication. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In a discussion with Matt Davis of Steelyard Academy Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the following topics...  Understanding the relationship between anxiety and depression and externalized expectations. Claiming your life choices in the face of pressures from others. Understanding resentment and what it can teach you about yourself. Balancing expectations and freedom appropriately to foster self-development in your child. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan from Sexy Marriage Radio to discuss the higher desire wife and the lower desire husband relationship dynamic.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Amy Watson from the Smooth Stones Podcast to discuss intimacy after loss.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson Fife and Preston Pugmire of the Next Level Life Podcast examine emotional maturity, its roots, its effects and how to invest in your own self-development in order to thrive in relationships and business.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cherie Burton to talk about: How women often become disempowered sexually in religious traditions.  How many religious traditions (often unknowingly) contribute to body shaming, inhibit self-expression, and undermine self-development. How women can foster a stronger self in their lives and spiritual practices. How women can foster peace with their sexuality. AND MORE! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins The Betrayed, The Addicted, And The Expert Podcast to talk about: The common relational patterns at the root of addiction and betrayal and how to change these dysfunctional dynamics. How to relate to religious belief to foster courage and integrity rather than fear. What “sex-positive” means in a religious context. How women can integrate their sexuality without being vulnerable to a sexually irresponsible or indulgent spouse. How to understand aspects of sexual compulsivity. AND MORE! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The importance of intimacy in happiness. Perfectionism and its challenge to openness / intimacy. Understanding shame and guilt.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sara Payne from the The Doctor’s Wife Podcast to talk about resentment.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cami Hurst from the Sex Therapy 101 Podcast to talk about learning to say no when needed. They talk about topics such as learning to set boundaries and dealing with a spouse’s pornography use.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Cultivate A Good Life Podcast to talk about healthy sexual development. They talk about how to teach your kids about sexuality without shame and fear.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Cultivate A Good Life Podcast to talk about desire. They talk about what desire is, why it matters, and how to identify and develop the desires you have.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins her daughter Jane to talk about her career as a marriage counselor and the things she’s learned along the way. This interview was done for a journalism project for Jane’s 8th grade class. We ask that you please excuse any background noise caused by Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s family and dog.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Women With Fire Podcast to talk about topics such as sexuality, integrity, and teaching our kids about sex and desire.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Stephanie Webb from Eat Confident Co to talk about body image. Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers her perspective on how a woman’s relationship with her body influences her intimate relationship, how to set healthy boundaries in a marriage, and how to empower yourself as an equal partner in your marriage by healing your relationship with your body.  To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on February 5th 2020. You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rich and Celeste from the Marriage Theraoke podcast to talk about how we deal with the dissatisfaction in our marriages and how to more fully CHOOSE our partner every day.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Monica Tanner of On The Brighter Side Podcast. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about setting personal goals and setting goals as a couple. She goes into detail about what collaborative goals look like and common pitfalls/problems that come up when trying to keep new goals, and how to overcome these.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Ray Cox and Ellen Hersam from the Improving Intimacy in Mormon Marriages Facebook group. Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers questions about neediness, using sex to avoid conflict, differences in desire, and advice for newly weds.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Corey Allan from Sexy Marriage Radio to talk about the dynamic of desire differences and the lower desire wife.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Jodi Chaffee from Our Modern Heritage about how to raise kids in an overly sexualized world.

This podcast episode is an audio recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s presentation Sexuality and Singledom: Navigating with Clarity and Integrity. This presentation was recorded in New York City at a singles’ conference called “Of One Body: The State of Mormon Singledom.”

In this episode, Bloom for Women interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife as part of its Love Rice Podcast series. This is a continuation of the discussion that was begun in part 1. The topic of this conversation is "betrayal trauma" and overcoming the impact of infidelity and other forms of dishonesty in intimate relationships.

The Bloom for Women team interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife as part of its Love Rice Podcast series. The topic is "betrayal trauma" and overcoming the impact of infidelity and other forms of dishonesty in intimate relationships.

In an interview for the Love Rice podcast series from Bloom for Women, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about how to belong to others as well as ourselves. She also explains how reconciling these tensions is related to our spiritual development.

In this podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the question: How does one develop a solid sense of self within groups that celebrate "selflessness" as a feminine virtue?

The Mormon Channel Daily interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife on love and how to make your marriage better.

In this episode, Jody Moore interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about women's sexuality and desire, pornography and talking to our kids about sex.

In this interview with Nate Bagley from the Loveumentary, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about the following topics: how a patriarchal view of sex can be damaging to your relationship, why it's important to take ownership of your own desires and your own sexuality, helpful tips for experiencing orgasm, and how good sex takes lots of practice.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jody Moore for a discussion about how to teach our kids about their sexuality and the law of chastity without inviting shame, with children from infancy through the young adult years.

In this episode, Latter Day Lives Podcast host Sean Rapier interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about her journey discovering worth and strength as a woman in the church. They also talk about the marriage, intimacy and issues facing today’s LDS couples.

In an interview with Rhonda Farr, an LDS sexual intimacy coach, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the importance of developing one’s relationship with one’s own sexuality and desire. Rhonda Farr and Dr. Finlayson-Fife talk about how understanding the parts of yourself that you don't currently love, can actually lead you to find greater confidence. You can also listen to this interview on YouTube.

In this episode, the Marriage Laboratory interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife in an episode focusing on the high desire partner in a sexual relationship.

In this podcast episode, Greg Reynolds from the Marriage Mastery Podcast speaks with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about the importance of healthy sexual expression in marriage. They touch on topics such as the differences in male and female sexuality and how to create a happy relationship in which both members can thrive.

In a new "About Progress" Podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Monica Packer about our fruitless efforts to change a loved one, and what productive choices you can make instead!

In this podcast episode, Dan Wotherspoon from Mormon Matters Podcast, Chelsea Fife, Chelsea Strayer, and Dr. Finlayson-Fife discuss Mormonism’s messages about motherhood.

In this first ever LIVE recording of an Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Mormon Marriages team to address the following questions… Question # 1 - “My wife and I are trying to conceive. This is one of the most stressful times of my life, and stress is a major anti-aphrodisiac for me. How do I confront the pressure to perform?” Question # 2 - "My wife has a “fun” sexual past with her high school boyfriends. Before we dated she had shared too many of those experiences with me. I was fine with it, until I woke up to her crying on our wedding night. It triggered a jealousy and resentment where I feel she gave “them” her fun self. I got the Mormon prude and they got the fun girl. I love her, but I feel like she has never chosen me. I get that I’m at fault with the unforgiving heart and mad with jealousy that has built emotional walls. I feel like all our sex has been mercy sex. I don’t even want to have sex with her because that’s what it is. When we become intimate all I can see is her doing “this” with “them.” It makes me regret and feel bitterness that I strived to stay a virgin and be as "clean" as I could. I feel like I have lived life wrong. Since she is a terrific good person and she has the “dirty” past, she is the better more healthy person while I am the bitter/resentful seminary graduate boy. It makes me hate myself that I can’t get over that. I’m over 15 years into this and the cloud just gets darker and bigger. How can I start becoming more intimate with my wife while suffering with this intense jealousy? I just finished your course enhancing sexual intimacy and I am grateful for you and what you are doing. So, thank you and I would love to here your answer knowing it will be painful.” This episode is part two of the two part live podcast recording. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on October 11th 2019.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Natasha Helfer Parker from Mormon Sex Info to discuss the topic of how to best handle a pornography disclosure within a couple system.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins A Thoughtful Faith Podcast to discuss the topic of cognitive dissonance and faith transition.

In this first ever LIVE recording of an Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Mormon Marriages team to talk about… The story of what inspired Dr. Finlayson-Fife to dedicate her education and career to helping LDS women and couples improve their relationships and their lives. Two questions are answered, both asked by women: Question ONE addresses the cultural pressure to suppress sexuality and how to overcome it. Because the stereotype of a good LDS woman seems to not include comfort with her sexuality, how does one not succumb to this instinctively? Question TWO addresses one woman’s inability to orgasm. Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about the psychological shifts as well as behaviors that can help achieve or expand one’s capacity for climax. This episode is one of two parts of the live recording. Part 29 is the second half of this live interview. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on October 6th 2019.

The Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist podcast series has moved from Rational Faiths to Mormon Marriages with Nate and Angilyn Bagley. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife covers topics such as managing different levels of desire and premature ejaculation.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Buffy Stinchfield from the Birth Ready and Beyond Podcast, all about how to overcome the issue of painful or uncomfortable sex.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife chats with Michelle Stevenett from the Mind. Body. Boss. Podcast all about modesty. They cover topics like how to teach modesty and what modesty is and is not.

In this podcast episode with Tony Overbay, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses what to do if you no longer find your partner physically attractive, as well as how to communicate in a relationship where one partner has a high desire for intimacy and one has a low desire. She also engages in a discussion about how to deal with deception within a relationship (ex. pornography or infidelity).

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Tony Overbay on his podcast, The Virtual Couch, to talk about the challenges around sexuality that women (and men) face growing up in a faith-based culture.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife chats with Michelle Stevenett from the Mind. Body. Boss Podcast about body image. They cover topics like fostering self-compassion, feeling at peace with our bodies, and how body image impacts relationships.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Chanelle Neilson from the Moms Who Know Podcast about keys to a healthy marriage and intimate relationship. Her focus on changing oneself rather than one’s spouse is a powerful way to really improve a marriage.

In this episode, Molly from Divorced Mormon Mom Podcast interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and discusses the challenges of being a divorced, faithful Mormon who is committed to keeping covenants and also has experienced a sexual relationship before. Molly asks about common concerns and questions including fears with sex, complexities of dating after divorce, and sexual compatibility.

Bill Reel, host of Mormon Discussions, interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about healthy sexuality in a LDS context.

Have you ever heard the saying, "I am my own worst enemy?" If you've thought or said that about yourself, then this episode is for you. (And if you haven't, then this episode is also for you.)

Monica Packer from the About Progress Podcast interviews me on the topic of Goodness---How creating goodness is different from approval-seeking, as well as perspectives on how to develop and discern what is good when faced with real and imagined pressures.

Monica Packer from the About Progress Podcast interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about body image and gaining greater self confidence.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is back with another interview with Monica Packer from the About Progress Podcast. Monica interviews Jennifer addressing the importance of self-development (developing our gifts and capacities) to forge a stronger sense of self.

Monica Packer of the About Progress Podcast asks Dr. Finlayson-Fife for her thoughts on perfectionism, how to make sense of it, and how to overcome it.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lindsay Aerts from The Mom Show on KSL Radio to discuss how to talk with your kids about sex and abuse.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lindsay Aerts from The Mom Show on KSL Radio to discuss how to talk with your kids about sex and abuse.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lindsay Aerts from The Mom Show on KSL Radio to discuss what factors can affect desire in women and how you can overcome some of them.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lindsay Aerts from The Mom Show on KSL Radio to discuss how to create a culture of openness around sex and sexuality so your kids will be more likely to adopt healthy views of their own. And don't worry if you have older kids, Dr. Fife says it's never too late to start implementing healthy attitudes around sex, or repairing any well-intended missteps.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lindsay Aerts from The Mom Show on KSL Radio to discuss how you can help teach your kids about sex without making them feel like it's a bad thing or that they are bad for being curious.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about how to respect the differing views and beliefs of others as well as how to approach difficult or uncomfortable conversations about religious topics.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with life/relationship coach Trina Glines all about being a whole woman.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with life/relationship coach Trina Glines all about being a whole woman.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about how to respect the differing views and beliefs of others as well as how to approach difficult or uncomfortable conversations about religious topics.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of indulgent suffering. In this episode you will learn more about how to act out of virtue and integrity and how to let go of immature thought patterns that can be harmful to personal development.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Rachel Nielson the host of the 3 in 30 Podcast for moms. They discuss why your sex drive may have decreased post kids and marriage, as well as what you can do to get it back.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Sherrae Phelps on her podcast Ten Thousand Hours of Writing. They discuss the different “versions” of forgiveness and how to forgive in a way that is healing and not harmful.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of thinking for ourselves. In this episode you will learn more about how to make your own decisions based on your integrity and moral compass rather than approval of others.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of submission. In this episode you will learn more about what submission means and how it can be driven either by fear or moral courage.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by holistic nutritionist and eating psychology coach, Stephanie Webb all about how to create and maintain a sexual sense of self while in the throes of motherhood.

How to make sense of wet dreams in the context of marriage, how to address differences in sexual desire and biological needs in constructive ways, and the role of erotica and visually explicit imagery in a woman cultivating her desire in marriage.

In this podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to address three questions sent in by listeners. The first question is regarding maintaining intimacy in long distance relationships, the second is about discomfort with “talking dirty” during sex, and the last question is about masturbation.

Part two of a discussion with Dan Wotherspoon, Charles Randall Paul, Joseph Stanford, and Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the meaning of covenants in religious practice, and particularly the meaning of covenants when one's faith has evolved or shifted.

A discussion with Dan Wotherspoon, Charles Randall Paul, Joseph Stanford, and Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the meaning of covenants in religious practice, and particularly the meaning of covenants when one's faith has evolved or shifted.

In this episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to respond to two questions. One question is about navigating intimacy after having learned to orgasm after many years of going without. The second question asks how to respond in a relationship in which the spouse is habitually deceptive.

In this podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths team to respond to three new questions, all coming from men, covering topics of intimacy after tragic loss, disparity in desire, and becoming a more confident lover.

In this podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to answer two questions : The first question is about the impact of childhood sexual abuse and parental negligence on desire and intimacy in one woman's marriage. The second question is about a man whose wife wants him to be more sexually assertive.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Angilyn and Nate Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast to talk about intimacy, sexuality and the meaning frames or "false traditions" that limit our relational and sexual development in marriage.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife and the Rational Faiths team tackle two questions submitted by listeners. The first asks about “dirty/degrading” talk during sex and the second seeks advice on teaching about sex in a positive way.

Here in the 20th installment of the “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” series Jennifer responds to three new questions. One question is about garments and intimacy, another asks about the difficulty of communicating sexual needs, and the last question comes from a couple in a dependent relationship.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths team to answer two questions submitted by listeners about infidelity in marriage.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths team to answer three listener questions. The first question is about a sexually entitled husband who is unresponsive to his wife’s wishes, the second question is about the use of vibrators, and the third question is from a person navigating a mixed-orientation marriage.

Here in the 17th installment of the “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” series Jennifer answers two more questions submitted from listeners. Both questions address desire and desirability from different points of view.

In the 16th installment of the Ask A Mormon Sex Therapist series Dr. Finlayson-Fife responds to two more questions submitted from listeners. One focuses on nudity and modesty, and the second question comes from a person in a really tough position in a sexless marriage in which discussion and negotiation of sexual relations are off limits.

In this episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to discuss the results of a study about sexual arousal, and Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers a question from a listener who is frustrated at inability to reach orgasm during intercourse.

In this episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to talk about understanding and responding to pornography challenges as well as low sexual desire in men.

In this episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to discuss ways to spice up your sex life, how to navigate a robust sex life with older children in the home, and how to cope with physical ailments that often come with age like erectile dysfunction.

In this episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to take on questions about the cultural anxiety surrounding oral sex in a married relationship, and about objectification and appropriate lust.

In this episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to talk about overcoming the perceived threat of spouse's previous sexual experiences (including pornography), and the effect on desire and self-confidence. They also address the topic of long distance sexual relationships.

In this episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Rational Faiths Podcast team to talk about how to raise children (especially girls) to own their sexuality and how to help children navigate worthiness interviews.

What you can do as the higher desire person to improve your sexual relationship. They also have a discussion on LDS male sexuality.

Household duties, relationship dynamics, female desire, and LDS singles and sexuality.

The loss of sexual desire upon marriage, how to respond to it, and more on fantasy and how to reconcile it with goodness.

Re-framing masturbation and sexuality for children/youth and staying sexy while accepting the effects of age.

In this episode of “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist“, Laurel and Brian talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the topics of teaching young women about the Law of Chastity and the problem of pornography. CONTENT WARNING!!! During the pornography discussion we talk about demeaning pornography, and sex trafficking.

A discussion about sexual trauma, managing nudity with children, and developing sexuality as a single.

"How do I feel more sexual desire?" and "What is acceptable in an LDS sexual relationship?"

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with the Rational Faiths Podcast team about advice to give a virginal couple who is about to get married and the role of fantasy in sexual relationships.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Paul Barker of the Rational Faiths Podcast about issues of modesty within a school setting, romance novels as a form of erotica, what is “acceptable” within marriage & what is not, divorce and intimacy, and talking to kids about sex.

Mormon Matters Podcast invited Dr. Finlayson-Fife to participate in this panel discussion regarding the treatment of the concepts of obedience and agency in the Church. In this episode, Mormon Matters host Dan Wotherspoon and panelists Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, Chelsea Fife, and Michael Fife discuss the topic of obedience and integrity.