Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

By Ruth Reymundo Mandel & David Mandel

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These podcasts are a reflection of Ruth & David’s ongoing conversations, which are both intimate and professional and touch on complex topics like how systems fail victims and children, how victims experience those systems, and how children are impacted by those failures. Their discussions delve into how society views masculinity and violence and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners. During these podcasts, David & Ruth challenge the notions that keep all of us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures and as families into safety, nurturance and healing. Note: Some of the topics discussed in the episodes are deeply personal and sensitive, which may be difficult for some people. We occasionally use mature language. We often use gender pronouns like “he” when discussing perpetrators and “she” for victims. While both men and women can be abusive and controlling, and domestic abuse happens in straight and same-sex relationships, the most common situation when it comes to coercive control is a male perpetrator and a female victim. Men's abuse toward women is more closely associated with physical injury, fear and control. Similarly, very different expectations of men and women as parents and the focus of Safe & Together on children in the context of domestic abuse make it impossible to make generic references to gender when it comes to parenting. The Model, through its behavioral focus on patterns of behavior, is useful in identifying and responding to abuse in all situations, including same-sex couples and women's use of violence. We think our listeners are sophisticated enough to understand these distinctions. 

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Episode Date
Season 5 Episode 4: Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child Witness
Apr 16, 2024
Season 5 Episode 3: An Introduction to the David Mandel's Book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence"
Apr 02, 2024
Season 5 Episode 2: Women’s Use of Force in Intimate Relationships: An Interview with Lisa Young Larance
Feb 18, 2024
Season 5 Episode 1: Sexual and Domestic Violence In the Military: An Interview with Never Alone Advocacy
Feb 11, 2024
Season 4 Episode 12: Research That Puts Survivors at the Center
Dec 09, 2023
Season 4 Episode 11: Human Resources Policy & Domestic Violence: Creating A Domestic Violence-Informed Organization
Dec 05, 2023
Season 4 Episode 10: Ensuring the Voice of the Child is Heard, and Child’s Best Interests are Considered in Domestic Abuse Cases: How the Safe & Together Model Helps Promote the Rights of Children
Nov 18, 2023
Season 4 Episode 9: The Last Drop Film: A revolutionary new tool for professionals working with young people around Coercive Control
Nov 01, 2023
Season 4 Episode 8: “Heart Healing”: An interview with Mibbinbah’s Lisa and Jack Bulman
Oct 18, 2023
Season 4 Episode 7: Survivors Are Better Parents Than Most People Think (even survivors themselves)
Jul 06, 2023
Season 4 Episode 6: “The Professional Part of Me is Not Separated from the Personal:” An interview with Nneka MacGregor
Jun 26, 2023
Season 4 Episode 5: An interview with Caring Dads co-creator Dr. Katreena Scott
Jun 20, 2023
Season 4 Episode 4: Being abused by a partner while advocating for others: An interview with Leah Vejzovic, the Safe & Together Institute North American Regional Manager
May 23, 2023
Season 4 Episode 3: The silent effects of non-fatal strangulation: A conversation with international & lived experience expert, Nneka MacGregor
May 05, 2023
Season 4 Episode 2: Coming “Out” As A Survivor in a Professional Setting: A Practitioner’s Journey
Apr 27, 2023
Season 4 Episode 1: Using the Concept of Partnering with Survivors to Promote Worker Health and Well-Being
Feb 27, 2023
Season 3 Episode 13: What Domestic Violence Perpetrators Steal From Survivors
Dec 20, 2022
Season 3 Episode 12 Weaponize & Fabricate: How Domestic Violence Perpetrators’ Behaviors Intersect with Survivors’ Mental Health and Substance Misuse Issues
Nov 20, 2022
Season 3 Episode 11: Pivoting to The Perpetrator: An essential tool for interrupting victim blaming
Nov 11, 2022
Season 3 Episode 10: “Slow Motion Murder:” Widening the understanding of the link between domestic violence and child deaths
Oct 14, 2022
Season 3 Episode 9: Coercive Control in Children's and Mother's Lives: An interview with author and academic Dr. Emma Katz
Sep 22, 2022
Season 3 Episode 8: Understanding Reproductive Coercion: An Interview with Dr. Heather McCauley
Aug 18, 2022
Season 3 Episode 7: Understanding and Validating Survivors' Acts of Resistance
Jun 05, 2022
Season 3 Episode 6: 7 Myths about the Safe & Together Model
Jun 03, 2022
Season 3 Special Minisode: Interview with Celine Donovan, a New Zealand Safe & Together Model Certified Trainer
May 27, 2022
Season 3 Episode 5 Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: Managing Your Own Fears About the Safety of the Family
May 15, 2022
Season 3 Episode 4: Reproductive Coercion
May 10, 2022
Season 3 Episode 3: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Have Their Own Histories of Abuse
Feb 06, 2022
Season 3 Episode 2: Perpetrators' Weaponization of Mental Health and Addiction Against Survivors
Jan 17, 2022
Season 3 Episode 1: "This is a collective male problem:" An interview with international journalist Grant Wyeth
Jan 10, 2022
Season 2 Episode 24: From Police Inspector to “Moral Rebel”: An interview with Graham Goulden
Dec 24, 2021
Season 2 Episode 23: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Are Survivors Themselves
Nov 27, 2021
Season 2 Episode 22: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: The Connection Between Worker Safety and Victim Blaming
Nov 27, 2021
Season 2 Episode 21: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: When workers are targeted by the perpetrator
Nov 07, 2021
Season 2 Episode 20: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: Intro to the series
Oct 31, 2021
Season 2 Episode 19: Using the concepts of collaborative co-parenting to hold perpetrators more accountable in family court
Oct 31, 2021
Season 2 Episode 18: Multiple Pathways To Harm: An assessment approach that better mirrors the lived experience of survivors
Oct 13, 2021
Season 2 Episode 17: Intervening with Domestic Violence Perpetrators: "We can't leave anything on the table"
Sep 18, 2021
Season 2 Episode 16: "We have to remember who we are advocating for": An interview with Aboriginal domestic violence leader Ashlee Donohue
Sep 03, 2021
Season 2 Episode 15: She is Not Your Rehab: A global invitation to men to end abuse of women & children through radical self responsibility & healing
Aug 24, 2021
Season 2 Episode 14: How to perpetrator proof custody & access processes
Aug 16, 2021
Season 2 Episode 13: An Interview with Courageous Fire: Reparations & the Unique Experience of Black Domestic Violence Survivors
Jul 12, 2021
Season 2 Episode 12: How coercive control harms child safety & wellbeing: An interview with researcher Dr. Emma Katz
Jun 29, 2021
Season 2 Episode 11: "We need a revolution:" Integration of trauma healing and behavior change for people who choose violence
Jun 04, 2021
Season 2 Episode 10: Trauma-informed is not the same as domestic violence-informed: A conversation about the intersection of domestic violence perpetration, mental health & addiction
May 17, 2021
Season 2 Episode 9: Finally! A realistic feature film about coercive control: An interview with Chyna Robinson and Tracy Rector
Apr 26, 2021
Season 2 Episode 8: "I spiraled down to a dark place:" An interview with a young survivor of officer involved domestic violence and his Mum
Mar 23, 2021
Season 2 Episode 7: 'Radical Resistance to the Status Quo': A Look Behind the Scottish Coercive Control Law with Dr. Marsha Scott
Mar 11, 2021
Season 2 Episode 6: The Male Victim
Feb 27, 2021
Season 2 Episode 5: How professionals & systems can avoid being manipulated by perpetrators
Feb 16, 2021
Season 2 Episode 4: Making Good Decisions: How Professionals use the Safe & Together Model Critical Components to help adult and child survivors
Feb 07, 2021
Season 2 Episode 3: "Cultural Tsunami": How the Safe & Together Institute Seeks to Transform Systems
Jan 31, 2021
Season 2, Episode 2: Coercive Control Laws: A discussion with investigative reporter and author Jess Hill
Jan 18, 2021
Season 2, Episode 1: 6 Steps to Partnering with Survivors
Jan 16, 2021
Episode 33: Our 1st Season Wrap Up: Looking back on PWAS 2020
Dec 20, 2020
Episode 32: Domestic Violence Advocacy in a Time of Police Reform: An interview with author Leigh Goodmark, and the staff of a survivor agency who stood up for racial equity and got defunded for it
Dec 18, 2020
Episode 30: 4 Ways the Concept of Trauma Bonding Works Against Survivors
Dec 05, 2020
Episode 31: "Acting in bad faith:" UK Centre for Women's Justice files groundbreaking "super-complaint" against the the police forces in England and Wales
Dec 05, 2020
Episode 29: Family courts are failing the "best interests" of adult and child abuse survivors: An interview with Joan Meier
Nov 12, 2020
Episode 28: “I have something I want to talk to you about...”: A conversation about the experiences of OIDV survivors with pioneering researcher Dr. Leanor Boulin Johnson
Oct 28, 2020
Episode 27: “How much crime are you willing to let your police commit?”: An interview with Lieutenant Detective Mark Wynn (Ret) and Police Chief Tom Tremblay (Ret)
Oct 16, 2020
Episode 26: Listening to the voices of survivors of officer-involved domestic violence: An interview with Nanette Chezum
Sep 30, 2020
Episode 24: The healing power of survivor impact panels
Sep 23, 2020
Episode 25: When police officers commit domestic violence: Award winning journalist and author Alex Roslin on the global problem of officer-involved domestic violence
Sep 18, 2020
Episode 23: Unraveling the gender paradox at the center of the Safe & Together Model
Sep 07, 2020
Episode 22: When Culture, Religion & Domestic Violence Meet: How to partner with survivors when their communities or religious leaders have adopted coercive control and violence.
Aug 31, 2020
Episode 21: Listening to the Voices of Children and Young People Harmed by Fathers Who Choose Violence: An interview with Professor Cathy Humphreys and Dr. Katie Lamb
Aug 21, 2020
Episode 20: Partnering with Survivors Using Restorative Practices: An interview with Dr. Eloise Sepeda
Aug 19, 2020
Episode 19: 9 Ways to Collude with a Person Who Chooses Violence
Jul 30, 2020
Episode 18: Survivors aren't Broken! An intimate discussion about support and partnership in relationships impacted by trauma histories
Jul 17, 2020
Special Episode: Charlie Webster Undiscussible on Talk Radio: Recognizing Spiritual and Domestic Abuse
Jul 08, 2020
Episode 17: Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’: A new community-based men’s behavior change toolkit
Jun 18, 2020
Episode 16: Family and Friends Guide: How to be an ally to a loved one who is being abused
May 04, 2020
Episode 15: Coercive Control, Entrapment & Isolation: An interview with Luke & Ryan Hart
Apr 25, 2020
Episode 14: Caring for self while caring for others: An interview with Laura van Dernoot Lipksy
Apr 02, 2020
Episode 13: Mapping domestic violence perpetrator's use of COVID-19 pandemic to increase coercive control
Mar 24, 2020
Episode 12: COVID-19: Helping families impacted by domestic abuse in a time of crisis
Mar 20, 2020
Episode 11: Getting Inside the Mind of Men who Use Violence
Mar 15, 2020
Episode 10: Lived Experience Episode with Ryan Hart and the Y Change Team, Berry Street
Feb 28, 2020
Episode 9: "My daughter is being abused and I don't know what to say:" The friends and family episode
Feb 21, 2020
Episode 8: Male Parental Development and how Father's Parenting Choices Matter
Feb 09, 2020
Episode 7: Torture Tactics, How Coercive Control is Similar to Torture in its Methods and Impact on Victims
Feb 06, 2020
Episode 6: Gender, Power Dynamics and Abuse
Feb 05, 2020
Episode 5: Professional Safety & Trauma
Jan 30, 2020
Episode 4: Gender Double Standards
Jan 23, 2020
Episode 3: Language and professional terms which cover up realities of abuse
Jan 15, 2020
Episode 2: Victim Blaming
Jan 13, 2020
Episode 1: Coercive Control and Consent
Jan 12, 2020