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These podcasts are a reflection of Ruth & David’s ongoing conversations, which are both intimate and professional and touch on complex topics like how systems fail victims and children, how victims experience those systems, and how children are impacted by those failures. Their discussions delve into how society views masculinity and violence and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners. During these podcasts, David & Ruth challenge the notions that keep all of us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures and as families into safety, nurturance and healing. Note: Some of the topics discussed in the episodes are deeply personal and sensitive, which may be difficult for some people. We occasionally use mature language. We often use gender pronouns like “he” when discussing perpetrators and “she” for victims. While both men and women can be abusive and controlling, and domestic abuse happens in straight and same-sex relationships, the most common situation when it comes to coercive control is a male perpetrator and a female victim. Men's abuse toward women is more closely associated with physical injury, fear and control. Similarly, very different expectations of men and women as parents and the focus of Safe & Together on children in the context of domestic abuse make it impossible to make generic references to gender when it comes to parenting. The Model, through its behavioral focus on patterns of behavior, is useful in identifying and responding to abuse in all situations, including same-sex couples and women's use of violence. We think our listeners are sophisticated enough to understand these distinctions.
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Season 5 Episode 4: Unveiling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Children: Beyond the Myth of the Child Witness
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Apr 16, 2024 |
Season 5 Episode 3: An Introduction to the David Mandel's Book "Stop Blaming Mothers and Ignoring Fathers: How to transform the way we keep children safe from domestic violence"
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Apr 02, 2024 |
Season 5 Episode 2: Women’s Use of Force in Intimate Relationships: An Interview with Lisa Young Larance
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Feb 18, 2024 |
Season 5 Episode 1: Sexual and Domestic Violence In the Military: An Interview with Never Alone Advocacy
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Feb 11, 2024 |
Season 4 Episode 12: Research That Puts Survivors at the Center
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Dec 09, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 11: Human Resources Policy & Domestic Violence: Creating A Domestic Violence-Informed Organization
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Dec 05, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 10: Ensuring the Voice of the Child is Heard, and Child’s Best Interests are Considered in Domestic Abuse Cases: How the Safe & Together Model Helps Promote the Rights of Children
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Nov 18, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 9: The Last Drop Film: A revolutionary new tool for professionals working with young people around Coercive Control
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Nov 01, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 8: “Heart Healing”: An interview with Mibbinbah’s Lisa and Jack Bulman
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Oct 18, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 7: Survivors Are Better Parents Than Most People Think (even survivors themselves)
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Jul 06, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 6: “The Professional Part of Me is Not Separated from the Personal:” An interview with Nneka MacGregor
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Jun 26, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 5: An interview with Caring Dads co-creator Dr. Katreena Scott
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Jun 20, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 4: Being abused by a partner while advocating for others: An interview with Leah Vejzovic, the Safe & Together Institute North American Regional Manager
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May 23, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 3: The silent effects of non-fatal strangulation: A conversation with international & lived experience expert, Nneka MacGregor
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May 05, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 2: Coming “Out” As A Survivor in a Professional Setting: A Practitioner’s Journey
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Apr 27, 2023 |
Season 4 Episode 1: Using the Concept of Partnering with Survivors to Promote Worker Health and Well-Being
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Feb 27, 2023 |
Season 3 Episode 13: What Domestic Violence Perpetrators Steal From Survivors
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Dec 20, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 12 Weaponize & Fabricate: How Domestic Violence Perpetrators’ Behaviors Intersect with Survivors’ Mental Health and Substance Misuse Issues
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Nov 20, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 11: Pivoting to The Perpetrator: An essential tool for interrupting victim blaming
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Nov 11, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 10: “Slow Motion Murder:” Widening the understanding of the link between domestic violence and child deaths
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Oct 14, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 9: Coercive Control in Children's and Mother's Lives: An interview with author and academic Dr. Emma Katz
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Sep 22, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 8: Understanding Reproductive Coercion: An Interview with Dr. Heather McCauley
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Aug 18, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 7: Understanding and Validating Survivors' Acts of Resistance
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Jun 05, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 6: 7 Myths about the Safe & Together Model
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Jun 03, 2022 |
Season 3 Special Minisode: Interview with Celine Donovan, a New Zealand Safe & Together Model Certified Trainer
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May 27, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 5 Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: Managing Your Own Fears About the Safety of the Family
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May 15, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 4: Reproductive Coercion
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May 10, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 3: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Have Their Own Histories of Abuse
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Feb 06, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 2: Perpetrators' Weaponization of Mental Health and Addiction Against Survivors
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Jan 17, 2022 |
Season 3 Episode 1: "This is a collective male problem:" An interview with international journalist Grant Wyeth
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Jan 10, 2022 |
Season 2 Episode 24: From Police Inspector to “Moral Rebel”: An interview with Graham Goulden
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Dec 24, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 23: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Are Survivors Themselves
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Nov 27, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 22: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: The Connection Between Worker Safety and Victim Blaming
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Nov 27, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 21: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: When workers are targeted by the perpetrator
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Nov 07, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 20: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: Intro to the series
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Oct 31, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 19: Using the concepts of collaborative co-parenting to hold perpetrators more accountable in family court
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Oct 31, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 18: Multiple Pathways To Harm: An assessment approach that better mirrors the lived experience of survivors
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Oct 13, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 17: Intervening with Domestic Violence Perpetrators: "We can't leave anything on the table"
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Sep 18, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 16: "We have to remember who we are advocating for": An interview with Aboriginal domestic violence leader Ashlee Donohue
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Sep 03, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 15: She is Not Your Rehab: A global invitation to men to end abuse of women & children through radical self responsibility & healing
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Aug 24, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 14: How to perpetrator proof custody & access processes
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Aug 16, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 13: An Interview with Courageous Fire: Reparations & the Unique Experience of Black Domestic Violence Survivors
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Jul 12, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 12: How coercive control harms child safety & wellbeing: An interview with researcher Dr. Emma Katz
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Jun 29, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 11: "We need a revolution:" Integration of trauma healing and behavior change for people who choose violence
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Jun 04, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 10: Trauma-informed is not the same as domestic violence-informed: A conversation about the intersection of domestic violence perpetration, mental health & addiction
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May 17, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 9: Finally! A realistic feature film about coercive control: An interview with Chyna Robinson and Tracy Rector
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Apr 26, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 8: "I spiraled down to a dark place:" An interview with a young survivor of officer involved domestic violence and his Mum
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Mar 23, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 7: 'Radical Resistance to the Status Quo': A Look Behind the Scottish Coercive Control Law with Dr. Marsha Scott
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Mar 11, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 6: The Male Victim
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Feb 27, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 5: How professionals & systems can avoid being manipulated by perpetrators
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Feb 16, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 4: Making Good Decisions: How Professionals use the Safe & Together Model Critical Components to help adult and child survivors
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Feb 07, 2021 |
Season 2 Episode 3: "Cultural Tsunami": How the Safe & Together Institute Seeks to Transform Systems
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Jan 31, 2021 |
Season 2, Episode 2: Coercive Control Laws: A discussion with investigative reporter and author Jess Hill
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Jan 18, 2021 |
Season 2, Episode 1: 6 Steps to Partnering with Survivors
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Jan 16, 2021 |
Episode 33: Our 1st Season Wrap Up: Looking back on PWAS 2020
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Dec 20, 2020 |
Episode 32: Domestic Violence Advocacy in a Time of Police Reform: An interview with author Leigh Goodmark, and the staff of a survivor agency who stood up for racial equity and got defunded for it
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Dec 18, 2020 |
Episode 30: 4 Ways the Concept of Trauma Bonding Works Against Survivors
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Dec 05, 2020 |
Episode 31: "Acting in bad faith:" UK Centre for Women's Justice files groundbreaking "super-complaint" against the the police forces in England and Wales
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Dec 05, 2020 |
Episode 29: Family courts are failing the "best interests" of adult and child abuse survivors: An interview with Joan Meier
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Nov 12, 2020 |
Episode 28: “I have something I want to talk to you about...”: A conversation about the experiences of OIDV survivors with pioneering researcher Dr. Leanor Boulin Johnson
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Oct 28, 2020 |
Episode 27: “How much crime are you willing to let your police commit?”: An interview with Lieutenant Detective Mark Wynn (Ret) and Police Chief Tom Tremblay (Ret)
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Oct 16, 2020 |
Episode 26: Listening to the voices of survivors of officer-involved domestic violence: An interview with Nanette Chezum
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Sep 30, 2020 |
Episode 24: The healing power of survivor impact panels
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Sep 23, 2020 |
Episode 25: When police officers commit domestic violence: Award winning journalist and author Alex Roslin on the global problem of officer-involved domestic violence
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Sep 18, 2020 |
Episode 23: Unraveling the gender paradox at the center of the Safe & Together Model
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Sep 07, 2020 |
Episode 22: When Culture, Religion & Domestic Violence Meet: How to partner with survivors when their communities or religious leaders have adopted coercive control and violence.
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Aug 31, 2020 |
Episode 21: Listening to the Voices of Children and Young People Harmed by Fathers Who Choose Violence: An interview with Professor Cathy Humphreys and Dr. Katie Lamb
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Aug 21, 2020 |
Episode 20: Partnering with Survivors Using Restorative Practices: An interview with Dr. Eloise Sepeda
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Aug 19, 2020 |
Episode 19: 9 Ways to Collude with a Person Who Chooses Violence
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Jul 30, 2020 |
Episode 18: Survivors aren't Broken! An intimate discussion about support and partnership in relationships impacted by trauma histories
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Jul 17, 2020 |
Special Episode: Charlie Webster Undiscussible on Talk Radio: Recognizing Spiritual and Domestic Abuse
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Jul 08, 2020 |
Episode 17: Choose to Change: Your Behavior, Your Choice’: A new community-based men’s behavior change toolkit
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Jun 18, 2020 |
Episode 16: Family and Friends Guide: How to be an ally to a loved one who is being abused
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May 04, 2020 |
Episode 15: Coercive Control, Entrapment & Isolation: An interview with Luke & Ryan Hart
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Apr 25, 2020 |
Episode 14: Caring for self while caring for others: An interview with Laura van Dernoot Lipksy
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Apr 02, 2020 |
Episode 13: Mapping domestic violence perpetrator's use of COVID-19 pandemic to increase coercive control
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Mar 24, 2020 |
Episode 12: COVID-19: Helping families impacted by domestic abuse in a time of crisis
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Mar 20, 2020 |
Episode 11: Getting Inside the Mind of Men who Use Violence
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Mar 15, 2020 |
Episode 10: Lived Experience Episode with Ryan Hart and the Y Change Team, Berry Street
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Feb 28, 2020 |
Episode 9: "My daughter is being abused and I don't know what to say:" The friends and family episode
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Feb 21, 2020 |
Episode 8: Male Parental Development and how Father's Parenting Choices Matter
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Feb 09, 2020 |
Episode 7: Torture Tactics, How Coercive Control is Similar to Torture in its Methods and Impact on Victims
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Feb 06, 2020 |
Episode 6: Gender, Power Dynamics and Abuse
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Feb 05, 2020 |
Episode 5: Professional Safety & Trauma
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Jan 30, 2020 |
Episode 4: Gender Double Standards
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Jan 23, 2020 |
Episode 3: Language and professional terms which cover up realities of abuse
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Jan 15, 2020 |
Episode 2: Victim Blaming
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Jan 13, 2020 |
Episode 1: Coercive Control and Consent
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Jan 12, 2020 |