The Date Brazen Podcast

By Lily Womble

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How do I find the right relationship when dating apps suck? How can I find better dates? How can I deal with that nagging anxiety that no one is out there for me? How can I navigate dating with more confidence and find that right relationship? Welcome to The Date Brazen Podcast, where we’ll answer ALL of these questions and so much more. Week after week, host, former top matchmaker and dating coach, Lily Womble brings you all the tools, strategies and coaching you need to build a clear path to the best relationship of your life. After matching hundreds, Lily realized that with training, women can match themselves better than anyone else ever could. Now she helps thousands of women around the world build fulfilling, joyful and successful dating lives on their own terms. She’s here to help you do the same. If you’re looking for unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works, this podcast is for you. Along with her best kept secrets, Lily will share interviews with experts and live coaching sessions, so you can feel seen, heard and inspired.

Episode Date
114. Brazen Client Story: Jenny’s Self-Compassion Journey
47:28

This week, Date Brazen client Jenny is on the podcast. Jenny embodies main character's energy in a beautiful way. In this episode, she shares what it felt like to bet on herself (and her dating life), embrace self-trust, and practice self-compassion.

We hope you are loving the stories from women who are taking massive courageous action to become the center of their permission-filled, self-trust-fueled, bold-as-hell love story.

Hot-takes from this episode:

  • Practicing self-compassion in a space of learning and growing (5:33)

  • Jenny shares about the bad dating advice she bought into including the number game and using dating apps. Hot-take: If you don’t know another way of dating, you’ll continue to follow the advice that doesn’t feel intentional (9:12)

  • Why Lily thinks dating is a portal to greater well-being (10:05)

  • The ripple effects of working with an intersectional feminist dating coach (20:13)

Links and resources:

Show notes:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/jennys-self-compassion-journey/

 

 

Jun 28, 2022
113. Brazen Client Party: How Kate and Julianne stepped into their best “Hell, Yes!”
01:07:07

This week, we are continuing the podcast series which showcases women who are embodying their main character energy. Last week we heard from Maggie and this time, we welcome Kate and Julianne to the show. They share how they stepped into their best, “Hell, yes!” and learned to practice radical self-trust. 

If you’ve listened to the podcast recently, you know there are big shifts happening here at Date Brazen. Kate and Julianne were a direct influence on the energetic shift so the work we do is deeper and more impactful in all areas of life.

Hot-takes from this episode:

  • Julianne shares her story of why she felt the need to find a new approach to her love life (2:09)
  • Kate opens up about why she began working with Lily, to “figure out why dating sucks”
  • What it’s like to be a feminist woman who wants a relationship (6:06)
  • Being secure in yourself for not settling and living your authentic life is a radical act of self-care (28:00)
  • What self-trust looks like for Kate and Julianne now that they have embraced this new way of approaching their love lives (50:57)

Links and resources:

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/stepping-into-your-best-hell-yes

Jun 21, 2022
112. Brazen Client Story: Maddie's Main Character Energy
44:33

This week kicks off our new series on the podcast of amazing folks who’ve worked with Lily and who are embodying their main character energy. You're going to hear more about how these women are giving themselves permission to have what they want and take massive courageous action. 

Today’s episode is all about Maddie's main character energy journey. We worked together last year. She shares how she has been taking up space, asking for more, and valuing her worth. 

Hot-takes from this episode:

  • The three pillars of main character energy! (00:25)

  • Having genuine belonging is better than accumulating connection (7:58)

  • What it was like for Maddie to step into the personal growth space (12:28)

  • The benefits of dating mindfully and with intention (20:30)

  • How Maddie went from people-pleasing to understanding what she wants and putting herself first (28:11)

Links and resources:

Show notes with transcript: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/maddies-main-character-energy/

 

 

Jun 14, 2022
111. Big vulnerable exciting news (aka: what self-trust will do)
31:02

Vulnerability alert! This week I am sharing some big, exciting news with y’all. In fact, I am taking lessons from the work I do with my clients and applying them to my professional life. I am showing up, being courageous, and trusting that this next path for Date Brazen is the right one. Yes, I said next path! Listen to this episode to hear about the big shift that is coming and what harnessing your main character energy has to do with it all.  

I am going to be talking about diving deeper into your self-trust because when you do, you will feel incredible about every decision in your dating life. I’ll also share what one client said to me and how that one sentence was the catalyst for the deep and meaningful change in my life’s work and mission to support women like you. 

When you create your own freedom in your life, when you show up fully for yourself, when you start to unlearn the ways the patriarchy has kept you playing small, you can create the impact you want to see in yourself and in the world around you.   

Links and resources:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/what-self-trust-will-do

 

Jun 07, 2022
110. Better Sex with Pleasure Expert Danielle Savory
49:21

This week we are talking about how to create a pleasure-filled sex life with or without a partner. Joining me in this episode is pleasure expert Danielle Savory. Danielle weaves together her background in neuroscience, her expertise in mindfulness, and her skills as a coach to help women rewire their brains, connect with their bodies, and take an empowered approach to their sexuality.  Join us for this bold, empowering, and juicy episode! 

Hot-takes from this episode:

  • The mind-body connection and embracing your sexuality 
  • Your dream sex life will keep growing and evolving as you grow and evolve too
  • How the practice of self-compassion can shift your sex life
  • Getting your needs met when you don't have a sexual partner!
  • We redefine the idea of casual sex
  • What it means to live as a "turned on woman"

Links and resources:

SHOW NOTES:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/better-sex-with-danielle-savory

 

May 31, 2022
109. Dating Wisdom with Jodi Rodgers from Netflix's Love on the Spectrum
01:08:48
This week’s episode has been in the works since early 2020! In March of that same year, Chris and I started watching Love on the Spectrum, a Netflix series that follows young adults on the autism spectrum, who explore the unpredictable world of dating and its unique challenges. I quickly recognized how beautifully crafted the series was and how much we can learn from it. So, I invited Jodi Rodgers, the show’s sexologist and therapist, to share all of her dating wisdom with us! 

Jodi Rodgers is a qualified sexologist, counselor, and special education teacher. She has worked within the education and community sectors in Australia and all over the world. She has extensive experience working with neurodiverse people of all ages.

She created her private practice, Birds and Bees, after 25 years of working in education, disability, and sexuality fields. Birds and Bees specializes in delivering counseling services and workshops for people with a disability, with a focus on sexuality, sexual health, and relationships, as well as training for parents, carers, and professionals to raise the community's capacity in this sometimes tricky area.

Hot-takes from this episode:

  • Communication in the dating world today is complex
  • Knowing how to exit a date is just as important as knowing how to enter a date
  • Why it is important to find ways to communicate our differences
  • What neurotypical people should know about dating 
  • The most integral part of being human is our ability to connect with other people
  • We ALL struggle with dating and everybody needs support

Links and resources:

May 24, 2022
108. Master self-care while creating healthy relationships with Fila Antwine
43:41
Fina Antwine and I are going deep on all things self-care, how to embody your desires, how to trust your body, and step into your sacred power. If you are available for this powerful as hell conversation, listen in because it will impact your day for the better.  Fila Antwine is an emotional wellness coach with expertise in teaching you how to master self-care while creating healthy relationships and putting yourself first so you can build a life that you actually love.

Note: We discuss themes of sexual abuse in this episode. If that is not for you today, please take care of yourself and skip this episode. 

Hot-takes from this episode:

  • When you say, "There are no good men", this is a learned trauma response passed down from the women in your family. 
  • You can have high self-esteem and how self-worth
  • Where women struggle the most in today’s dating space
  • “What do you need most now?” This question can be comforting AND scary
  • The act of Sacred Self Care - what it is and how to practice it in your life!
  • The biggest obstacle to living sacred self-care and how to tackle it

Links and resources:

Fila’s website
Fila’s Love of Your Life Intensive
Fila on Instagram
Date Brazen on Instagram
Anwar White

SHOW NOTES:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/love-of-your-life-intensive-with-fila-antwine

May 17, 2022
Episode Spotlight: How to declare your boundaries and affirm your worthiness
20:17

I am excited to be sharing one of my favorite episodes to date; on boundaries!

Boundaries are one of the most important tools (besides self-compassion) that you have, in your dating arsenal.

In this episode, I share a boundary starter pack and explain why it may be hard for you to declare your boundaries, and offer a strategy that will help you get started.

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-declare-your-boundaries

May 11, 2022
107. How to do alcohol-free dating with Amanda Kuda
33:58
Have you ever wondered if your life could be different without alcohol? This week, alcohol-free lifestyle expert, Amanda Kuda, joins me for a conversation about elective sobriety and sober dating. Amanda helps ambitious women design alcohol-free lives they are in love with. Whether you are sober-curious or already sober-free, this episode is for you. 

Amanda says that “Everything can change in your life if you choose to live alcohol-free.” In this episode, we explore what it means to be sober-free, the notion that elective sobriety does not mean anti-alcohol, and how to maneuver dating as a sober, badass woman. 

Hot-Takes from This Episode:

  • Elective sobriety is when you are choosing to eliminate something from your life that is suppressing you from living to your true potential
  • There are lessons to be learned from your resistance to living a sober-free life
  • Discovering what life can be like without alcohol
  • Sober-dating and how to navigate the conversation that you are alcohol-free
  • Amanda shares her top tips for sober-free dating

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-do-alcohol-free-dating-with-amanda-kuda

 

May 03, 2022
106. Dating only one person at a time
28:13

If you have decided you only want to date one person at a time, but aren’t sure how to go about it - this episode is for you! Today, I am talking all about how to navigate dating multiple people at once, dating one person at a time, how to know what is right for you, and how to express your wants and needs to a potential partner.

This episode is an invitation to give yourself permission to want what you want. If what you want is to date multiple people at once, go for it. If you want to date one person at a time - go for it. You are the CEO of your love life. 

Hot-Takes from This Episode:

  • What to do when you feel like wanting to be exclusive feels like you are being too much
  • How to define your boundaries around commitment
  • Plus, expressing and understanding your commitment preferences
  • Think about: "What are you hoping for in your dating life? What are you excited to happen in your dating life?"
  • Give yourself permission to focus on one person at a time. The right person for you will choose you, too.
  • Encouragement to map out your expectations/preferences for monogamy/exclusivity 

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-only-one-person-at-a-time

Apr 26, 2022
105. Moving from competition to party mindset in your dating life
21:38

This week I am talking about the concept of competition in your dating life. I’ll be sharing how to move from a competitive mindset to a party mindset. Of course, it's hard NOT to think of dating as a competition..., especially when being in a relationship represents "moving forward" into a new stage in life. However, I am here to remind you that's a patriarchal narrative that no longer serves you.  

In this episode, I explore how competition shows up, what it is a reflection of and how you begin to practice self-trust and confidence in order to change your dating mindset for good. 

Dating is not a race to the finish line. It's a party where your only job is to own what you desire, own what you need, get your needs met, and allow the magic of co-creation to do the rest.

Hot-Takes from This Episode:

  • Being stuck in a cycle of perceived competition and comparison
  • Patriarchal narratives do not serve you or your dating life
  • Getting into a more expansive and empowering truth
  • We are here to play, to have fun, serve ourselves and others, and create the world we want to see
  • How can you create more freedom in your life?
  • Life and dating are not zero-sum games

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/moving-from-competition-mindset-to-party-mindset-in-your-dating-life

 

Apr 19, 2022
104. Building the love life you want with marriage coach Maggie Reyes
51:30

Going from single-hood to being partnered can be quite a transition. It can leave you feeling a mixture of emotions, introduce you to new experiences, and uncover new (and old) insecurities. Gorgeous friend, that’s okay! This week, Modern Marriage Mentor, Maggie Reyes, joins me to discuss how to build the love life you desire, get comfortable with moving from independence to interdependence, and show up in your relationship honestly.

We discuss the intersection between my work as a dating coach, helping women make dating feel like self-care, and Maggie’s work helping women master their mindset in order to make their marriage better. 

Listen to hear this fun and empowering conversation!

Hot-Takes from This Episode:

  • What if you treated your “quirk” as a feature and not a bug

  • Transitioning from life as a single woman to life with a partner, and honoring the grief or other feelings you may feel 

  • Maggie weighs in on the idea that “men don’t do the same emotional work women do.”

  • Moving away from the “all or nothing” mindset

  • How Maggie helps women communicate in relationships including open-hearted or uncomplicated communication

  • Creating awareness around the stress cycle and how you are responding 

  • Is wanting what you want somehow too much within a relationship?

  • Why Maggie says to write a job description for your ideal partner

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/building-the-love-life-you-want-with-maggie-reyes
Apr 12, 2022
103. Why we choose situationships (and how to get out of this pattern) with therapist Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter
42:18

Are you currently in a situationship? You are ‘kind-of’ seeing someone but there is no commitment and no talk about the future. Why do you keep falling into situationships and what can you do about it?  Therapist Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter joins me for a discussion about how to practice self-love and worthiness in and out of relationships.

Dontea’ Mitchell-Hunter is a self-worth therapist that helps BIPOC women get out of unfulfilling relationships and recreate self-love & happiness - single or partnered. She wants women to know their worth doesn’t come from being in a relationship nor what others think of them.

Hot-Takes from This Episode:

  • Coming into your boundaries and releasing people who are not respecting them.

  • Situation-ships: what they are and why we find ourselves in them. 

  • Standing by your personal preferences, like not wanting kids.

  • What to do when your values isolate you from people you care about.

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/why-we-choose-situationships-with-dontea-mitchell-hunter

 

Apr 05, 2022
102. Big Happy Money and your love life with Serena Hicks
57:11

Pleasure. Money. Dating. That is what we are talking about on the Date Brazen podcast this week! Serena Hicks teaches coaches how to make, have, and move BIG Happy Money ™ as a Love-leading revolution in this world. She joins me for a discussion about love, relationships, and the money mindset. 

Together we talk about moving from a scarcity mindset, which sounds something like, “There aren’t enough good people out there, I’ll never find love. I need to take whatever I can get and take it now!” To one of there is enough, as in, “The one is out there and that is enough for me.  Knowing this truth IS enough.”  

Hot-Takes from This Episode:

  • What Big Money is and how Serena discovered it after a shame spiral about money and living from a scarcity mindset.
  • Sometimes our net worth is a reflection of our self-worth. 
  • Systems of oppression and patriarchy are affecting your worth.’
  • Why we feel so much shame about debt and what we can do about it.
  • How to solve for underearning starts with getting hip to realizing how awesome you are. 
  • Functioning from scarcity concept to functioning from ENOUGH. 

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-stop-shoulding-yourself/big-happy-money-and-your-love-life-with-serena-hicks

 

Mar 29, 2022
101. How to stop "shoulding" yourself
17:55

Today we are going to be talking about the word “should”. Specifically, what it means if you are shoulding yourself, how it’s affecting your dating life, and how to start choosing an easier path forward. 

I should let it go.
I should have figured this out by now.
I shouldn’t care so much.
I should just push a little harder.

“Should” thoughts such as these are so insidious. Tune in to hear how to start shedding the shoulds from your dating life for good.

Hot-takes From This Episode: 

  • “Shoulding” is a sign that you need to play with self-compassion

  • What if should was not an option? What would that sound, look, and feel like?

  • Why should is a weapon against your own agency.

  • You deserve to be self-trust-filled and empowered.

  • The “should” standard is there to keep you oppressed.

  • “Should” is your teacher, it is not the enemy. It is here to teach you where to practice self-compassion and unhook from previous norms that kept you in a box.

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-stop-shoulding-yourself

 
Mar 22, 2022
100th Episode Celebration: Chris Asks Lily Anything
45:13
Welcome to a very special episode of the Date Brazen Podcast! It’s episode 100, y’all! Returning to the show is my partner Chris. He joined me for an Ask Chris and Lily Anything episode way back in 2020. In this episode, he joins me as my host and asks me some burning questions about dating, relationships, growing Date Brazen, and everything in between. Join us for this fun and behind-the-scenes episode! Hot-takes From This Episode: 
  • My favorite Date Brazen episodes
  • The hardest part of our relationship: being human together. 
  • What I am most PROUD to say “No,” to.
  • Do I believe in red flags? Hint: YES!
  • Chris shares some of his favorite Date Brazen-isms

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/100th-episode-chris-asks-lily-anything

 

Mar 15, 2022
99. Why it feels like shit to put yourself first (and what you can do about it)
20:16

Why does it feel like shit to put yourself first? This week I am talking all about putting yourself first, why it feels uncomfortable, and what you can do about it. 

When we choose ourselves and set boundaries to protect ourselves, it doesn't always feel like sunshine and roses. In fact, it can feel uncertain and downright scary. 

Here’s the thing, as women in a patriarchal society, we’ve been socialized to put the needs of others before our own. So it’s going to feel shitty when we choose to respond to our own needs first. And that’s okay.  

It’s time to choose YOU, my gorgeous friend. I invite you on this journey.  

Hot-takes From This Episode: 

  • Why putting others first feels safe and putting yourself first feels unsafe.
  • Break up with the attachment of the thought, “Discomfort means I did something wrong.”
  • Practice self-compassion: Yes, putting yourself first is going to be uncomfortable and it is okay.
  • I share a simple meditation to help you to learn to put your needs first. 

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/putting-yourself-first

Mar 08, 2022
98. Becoming the MAIN Character of Your Life: Lauren’s Brazen Breakthrough Story
50:44

This week Lauren, one of my clients from the Brazen Breakthrough Mastermind, joins me to share her transformation story. And y’all, her courage to do something that is out of her comfort zone, like being on a podcast, is indicative of her power to show up for herself.

Before the Brazen Breakthrough, Lauren felt as though something was inherently wrong with her because dating didn’t come easily. In this episode, she shares her decision to join the Brazen Breakthrough and explores how it helped her to become the main character in her life, show up for herself, and embrace her power. She also talked eloquently about how her biggest breakthrough had very little to do with dating and everything to do with believing in herself. 

Hot-takes From This Episode: 

  • We explore the idea of being stuck in the story of “I’m too old to find a partner.”
  • How the patriarchy frames and shapes our thoughts about dating.
  • The deep work we do in the Brazen Breakthrough is not just about finding a date. 
  • How Lauren learned to harness and embrace her main character energy. 
  • You are worth the investment.
  • Lauren’s realization that she has everything she needs in order to get everything she desires.

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

Show Notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/laurens-brazen-breakthrough-story

 

 

Mar 01, 2022
97. Is an emotionally intelligent AND attractive partner possible?
30:55

“I can’t expect to have an emotionally intelligent partner and be attracted to them.” Woah. If you are thinking to yourself, “Yes, that’s me. I think that!” Then yes, friend, that is where we are going today. In this episode, I help illuminate this story you have been carrying around about your love life, help you to excavate it, gently, and come out the other side feeling more in control. 

So yes, you have a lot of expectations and desires for your dating life. Your job is not to know how things are going to happen. Your job is to ask for what you want and to learn how to overcome patriarchal narratives that have been keeping you confined. 

Tune into this episode as we hold space for your human experience and rewrite narratives that have been holding you back from the expansiveness of who you are! 

Hot-takes From This Episode: 

  • What is an emotionally intelligent partner, anyway?
  • How to describe and attract what you desire.
  • Confirmation bias: if your brain has decided what you want doesn’t exist, your brain will continue to look for that evidence! 
  • Wanting what you want means starting to look for evidence that what you want DOES exist. 
  • Consider: What does attraction mean to you? 
  • Moving from an Either/Or mindset to a Both/And mindset.
  • The patriarchal influence on your dating life. 
  • Journal: What is a thought that feels useful and true? 

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

Show notes: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/is-an-emotionally-intelligent-and-attractive-partner-possible

 

Feb 22, 2022
96. How to respond to bad dating advice
19:03

Have you ever received bad dating advice from family or friends? And has that advice impacted you in negative ways? Well, this week, I talk about how to deal when you get bad dating advice from people who have no business dishing it out. 

Some of the advice could sound something like:

"Maybe you're single because you asked for too much." 

“Maybe you're single because you didn't lose weight.”

“Maybe you didn't give them enough of a try.”

“Maybe you are just too old.”

Getting bad advice SUCKS. Yes, and, if you think those thoughts to be true, it’s time to breathe new life into the stories you are believing about your love life. This episode is going to help you do just that.

Hot-takes from this episode:

  • Acknowledge that bad dating advice SUCKS. 
  • Allow yourself to feel your feelings, including anger, resentment, or fear. 
  • Ask yourself: What does this advice say about the person giving it? 
  • Prioritize your self-care. 

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-respond-to-bad-dating-advice

 

Feb 15, 2022
95. What to do when you're jealous of your coupled friend
20:29
Jealousy can be a scary emotion for a lot of women.  With Valentine’s Day coming up, you may have some complicated feelings about yourself, about your love life intermixed with some feelings of jealousy. 

In this episode, I dispel jealousy myths and talk about what to do if or when you are feeling jealous. I’ll also give you some of my hot takes about why jealousy isn’t bad, how to hold yourself with compassion, and move forward powerfully.

Remember, jealousy is not something that excludes you from attracting more, it just means you are human. 


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Hot-takes from this Episode: 

  • Why it’s hard to feel negative emotions, such as jealousy.
  • Journaling prompt: What story are you making up about feeling jealous?
  • Your feelings are your feelings and you get to have them.
  • A reminder that desiring something is normal.
  • Notice where you are feeling jealous in your romantic life.
  • Think about: What the feeling of jealousy is meant to teach you about yourself.

Here Are The Links & Resources Mentioned In Today’s Episode:

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/what-to-do-when-youre-jealous-of-your-coupled-friend

Feb 08, 2022
94. How Jessie Jolles and Claire Burns created badass love lives
46:43

This week I dive into the good and bad of dating with guests Jessie Jolles and Claire Burns, hosts of the popular podcast No Such Thing As Love. In this episode, they share some of the ways in which their dating lives have changed over the past two years and some of the lessons they have learned.  

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-jessie-jolles-and-claire-burns-created-badass-love-lives

 

Feb 01, 2022
93. Why West Elm Caleb is a Call to Action For the Dating World
26:53

West Elm Caleb is taking social media by storm. In this episode, I break down who West Elm Caleb is and why his dating style, which included love-bombing and ghosting, was causing an uproar online. More importantly, I explain why this entire scenario is a call to action for the dating world.   Alright, if you want to know why I am referring to this as a call to action - here’s a quick hot-take, which I dig deeper in this episode: 

Dating is experiencing a public health crisis. Yes, you read that correctly, my beautiful friend.  The way in which dating has evolved, with dating apps at the center, is deeply affecting our nervous systems. Dating is exhausting and affects our nervous system to the detriment of our health.  

The goal of every dating app is this: to introduce you to someone outside of your social circle and to make money. 

Your job is to take care of your nervous system. 

Your job is to learn to trust yourself so that you can spot the next West Elm Caleb versus someone who is interested in a deeper connection. 

Of course, sometimes shit is going to happen. Both, and - your job is to respond to it with self-compassion. I dive into a lot more in this episode.

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/call-to-action-for-the-dating-world

 

Jan 25, 2022
92. From ordinary to extraordinary: Creating a safe and confident sex life with Vanessa Marin
43:50

I have a spicy and amazing episode for you this week! Joining me to talk about how to take the intimidation out of being intimate is Sex Psychotherapist, Vanessa Marin. Vanessa’s work is so impactful and has shifted the way couples (and singles) view sex, helping them create extraordinary sex lives and relationships. 

In this episode, we get into the topic of authenticity in the bedroom, explore some of the shoulding we have about sex, like, “I should be more bold and adventurous,” and discuss the various baggage we carry around about sex and dating. 

SHOW NOTES:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/creating-a-safe-and-confident-sex-life

 

Jan 18, 2022
Episode Spotlight: Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
55:36

Today I wanted to draw your attention to one of my favorite episodes ever of the podcast. It is with the incredible Simone Seol, who is a business coach who coaches people around the world who deeply care about making an impact in the world. We talked about how to focus on what you can control instead of fixating on goals that are measuring your worth. This episode is a must-listen!

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/worthiness-and-winning-results-with-simonegraceseol

 

Jan 11, 2022
91. Episode Spotlight: Envision your future partner meditation
21:54

I have something special for you this week; a future-self meditation. Yes, that’s right, I am going to walk you through a 10-minute meditation that will help you to embody the feelings you want to have in your future relationship. It will allow you to release the tension and suspend your disbelief that there is more for you.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-spotlight-envision-your-future-partner-meditation

 

Jan 04, 2022
90. What to expect from 2022 dating (my trend predictions!)
16:45

I have another juicy episode for you! I am sharing three of my top dating trends for the new year. Plus, I’ll share three tips to help you experience agency and joy in the dating process. My desire is that this episode will leave you feeling hopeful for the new year and beyond.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-trend-predictions-and-tips-for-2022

APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

Dec 28, 2021
89. How the hell to meet someone in-person
23:22

This week on the podcast I am talking about how to meet someone in-person in 2022. Yes, get prepared to dive deep and create a dating action plan for the new year. In this episode, you’ll hear practical advice and my five-step plan to help bring more joy and compassion to in-person dating.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-the-hell-to-meet-someone-in-person

APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

Dec 21, 2021
88. Overcoming dating self-doubt with these 3 steps
24:00

“How the hell am I supposed to get excited about my dating life?” If you’ve been feeling hopeless about your dating life, this week I am going to start a three-step process to help you overcome intense double and negative self-talk. 

The goal for this episode is to get you into the energy of what you want, to be full of possibility, and hope for what is to come. I walk you through my three-step process which includes giving voice to your thoughts and feeling all the feelings. This process will help to rebuild neural pathways about your dating shine like the opalescent sunflower you are in this world.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/overcoming-dating-self-doubt-with-these-three-steps

APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

Dec 14, 2021
87. Your dating life is not a joke
22:04

The holidays can be a triggering time to talk about or even think about your dating life. It’s tough to be a single person in a room full of coupled people, especially if they are family and friends during holiday celebrations. One way you may be minimizing yourself during this trying time is by using humor as a defense mechanism. And guess what, my gorgeous friend, you do not need to joke about your singleness. In this episode, I offer my hot take on how to respond to family and friends about your singleness without turning to jokes for deflection.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/your-dating-life-is-not-a-joke

APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

Dec 07, 2021
86. A loving pep talk: From slow burn to soul-quenching support
16:33

This episode is an invitation to explore what is beneath the surface and bring space and curiosity to what your dating life and your personal life can truly be. I’ll explore some of the reasons why you may be hesitant to work with a dating coach and some ways to overcome these mindset blocks.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/from-slow-burn-to-soul-quenching-support

APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

Nov 30, 2021
85. Support, clarity, and community for your dating life
24:01

This episode is all about bringing a community to your dating life. You may be thinking, "Lily, what on earth do you mean?!"  This episode explores how the Brazen Breakthrough offers support and clarity for your dating life from within a safe space and community.  Brazen Breakthrough alumni join me for a transparent conversation about what it was like to come into this space, what impact they saw in their dating lives, and what it was like to do this work together.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/support-clarity-and-community-for-your-dating-life

APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

Nov 23, 2021
84. How to move through your holiday dating anxiety
24:49

In this episode, I provide you with action-oriented information on how to handle holiday dating anxiety and stress; both internally and externally. You’ll get strategies that will help you feel amazing, and move forward with power and confidence in your love life. Plus, I’ll share some ways to respond to others who ask you about your dating life.  I created this episode to offer you some support and normalize your experience during the holidays and beyond.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-move-through-your-holiday-dating-anxiety

 

Nov 16, 2021
83. "It doesn't take time, it takes alignment." (here's how to build it)
17:04

Having feelings of frustration because you're not where you want to be right now is valid. But what I want to remind you is your thoughts influence the result that you create in your life. So, what if you started practicing a new thought which could bring the transformation you desire? 

In this episode, I am sharing thought work I’ve been practicing in my life and helping my clients practice in their dating lives too. 

“It doesn’t take time, it takes alignment.” 

With this new thought, you move from a place of stagnation to one of action. What action can you take to get into alignment?  Think about what you can do today to get into alignment with your values and move towards the life you desire tomorrow. 

JOIN THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITING LIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-align-with-your-desires

Nov 09, 2021
82. Behind the scenes of two dating coaches (plus, how to believe you are worthy of love).
41:47

If you’ve ever wanted to glimpse behind the scenes of dating coaching; this week’s episode will make you very happy! Relationship and well-being coach, Shula Melamed, joins me for a discussion about what we see people struggle with in their dating lives, how we help them, and everything in between.

SHOW NOTES:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/believing-you-are-worthy-of-love

Nov 02, 2021
81. Unpacking what it means to be YOU
22:04

This week I am getting a bit personal on the show. I talk about a vulnerable experience I recently went through, how it made me aware of the stories I’ve been telling myself when it comes to wanting people to like me, and what I learned about myself. And of course, I talk about how my lesson can be applied to your dating life.

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/unpacking-what-it-means-to-be-you

Oct 26, 2021
80. Reclaiming your sexual agency with Dr. Juliana Hauser
40:40

Sexuality is at the core of who we are, our identity, and our power. Sometimes due to the stress of dating, people-pleasing, or losing sight of yourself after past relationship trauma; you shut the door to your own sexual identity. Joining me this week to talk about how to reclaim your sexual agency and transition from self-judgment to self-compassion is Dr. Juliana Hauser.

SHOW NOTES:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/reclaiming-your-sexual-agency

 

Oct 12, 2021
79. The impact of trauma on your dating life (and how to get the support you need) with Julia Hochstadt, LCSW
42:54

I am talking with Julia Hochstadt, LCSW, about how trauma can show up in your dating life and what you can to do get support. Many of the people I work with also get support from trauma therapists.  Trauma deeply affects dating, their love lives and impacts their healing process. Because I am not an expert on the topic, I invited Julia to share information and resources around abuse, trauma, and dating. 

Trigger warning: In this episode, we talk about the themes of abuse and trauma. If that's something you know wouldn't serve you in your journey today, then please skip this episode.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-trauma-impacts-your-dating-life

 

Oct 05, 2021
78. Rest and refocus: why it's okay to take a break from dating
14:47

I want to dive into a lesson I am actively learning in my life, which is to do nothing. I’ve been thinking about how my clients and listeners of Date Brazen can apply this lesson to their dating lives too. So yes, this week, I am inviting you to: Do nothing.

Doing nothing is a key part of the intentional effort you are making. Intentional effort leads to intentional results. BUT, intentional action doesn’t always mean BEING ACTIVE or constantly DOING. No, it can also mean laying down, deleting the dating app for a week (Yes!), and most importantly, being intentional about rest.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/rest-and-refocus-why-its-okay-to-take-a-break

 

Sep 28, 2021
77. How to declare your boundaries and affirm your worthiness
22:14

This week I am talking about boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most important tools (besides self-compassion) that you have, in your dating arsenal.

In this episode, I share a boundary starter pack of sorts and explain why it may be hard for you to declare your boundaries and offer a strategy that will help you get started. When you declare your boundaries, you also affirm your worthiness. And as you know I often say, you are worthy of what you desire.

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-declare-your-boundaries

 

Sep 14, 2021
76. You don't need to lose weight to find love (plus, dating profile picture tips) With Christine Buzan
37:17

I am so excited to welcome Christine Buzan to the show. She is a confidence personal style and posing expert. During this episode, she helps us understand how we can show up in our lives more fully, at any size.  We cover a lot of ground including the idea that we carry around beliefs about our worthiness and how sometimes those beliefs stop us from showing up authentically. You deserve to be seen as you are, right now, today; my gorgeous friend.

SHOW NOTES:

https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/you-dont-need-to-lose-weight-to-find-love

 

Sep 07, 2021
75. Stephanie’s radical transformation (and the long term impact of the Brazen Breakthrough)
48:25

Radical transformation - that’s just one of the topics on deck for this week’s episode, friends. I am talking to one of my clients, Stephanie, who I worked with as part of The Brazen Breakthrough.  She ended up having a radical transformation within herself and in her love life; as a result attracted extraordinary love.  

Stephanie shares some of the lessons she learned through her Brazen Breakthrough journey, including learning to trust yourself and know that you are worthy of love.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/stephanies-radical-transformation

Schedule an application call with Lily for The Brazen Breakthrough Mastermind. https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application

 

Aug 31, 2021
74. A powerful take on self-compassion and your dating life with Lauren McQuade
45:22

Self-compassion is transformative in so many ways. Did you know that self-compassion has a huge role in dating? This week I am joined by self-compassion coach, Lauren McQuade. She works with high achievers and helps them transform in so many ways - going from fearful to confident in many aspects of their lives.

Tune in to our conversation to hear actionable steps towards self-compassion and move towards a more graceful, enjoyable, and rewarding life.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3j8dedW

 

Aug 24, 2021
73. Your Brave Things List (and how to move from fearful to confident in your dating life)
12:09

Schedule an application call with Lily for The Brazen Breakthrough Mastermind. https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application

Aug 17, 2021
72. How to Harness Your Inner Elle Woods (plus other dating lessons from Legally Blonde)
25:41

If you didn't notice by the title of this episode, I am bringing you my hot takes on the classic movie, Legally Blonde starring the incomparable Reese Witherspoon. I break down several of the most notable scenes through the Date Brazen lens.  Legally Blonde has a lot to teach us about dating, love, and what it means to own your power as a woman in the world.

SHOW NOTES: 

https://bit.ly/37waale

 

Aug 10, 2021
71. Embracing Your Enoughness with Dina Scippa
39:22

This week, we are exploring what it means to embrace your enoughness. To help me dig into this topic is the fabulous, Dina Scippa. Dina is the Founder and CEO of Enough Labs, and host of the Embracing Enough podcast. She helps her clients with letting go of expectations, finding their inner voice, and embracing their confidence. 

We also uncover what it means to belong to ourselves, rather than yearning to be in a relationship so someone can prove we belong.  Your enoughness is tied to your existence in the world - not to what you have obtained, have done, or have yet to do. You are enough.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3fnFRkO

 

Aug 03, 2021
70. My thoughts on Bennifer 2.0 (and should you get back with your ex?)
16:41

In this episode I share my thoughts about Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s rekindled relationship - after being apart for 19 years.  If you are single and dating, their romance may have you asking, “Should I get back with my ex?” Before you pick up that phone, tune into this episode where I share some of the lessons Bennifer’s reconnection can teach us.

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/my-thoughts-about-bennifer-and-should-you-get-back-with-your-ex

 

Jul 27, 2021
69. Worthiness + Winning Results with Simone Grace Seol
55:29

Maybe it’s not about getting to the relationship but it’s about uncovering the belief that you are enough.” That’s just one of the topics my guest Simone Seol and I talk about in this episode. Yes, y’all, my business coach, Simone Seol, is on the show this week! She is a business coach who coaches people around the world who deeply care about making an impact in the world. We talk about what you can do to feel more soulful in your dating life as a result of Simone’s advice and work.

I am thrilled (and beyond grateful) to share Simone’s knowledge with you. I have been so impacted by her work, practices, and her framing. It changed the way I think about my business and think about your dating life. I hope you find our conversation just as impactful.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/worthiness-and-winning-results-with-simonegraceseol

Jul 20, 2021
68. How Shwetika learned to date (and live) on her own terms in the Brazen Breakthrough
55:25

This week I am talking with one of my clients, Shwetika about her experience in the Brazen Breakthrough.  Shwetika has a lot of incredible relationships in her life. Yet, dating was something that she did not know how to do in a fulfilling way or in a way that felt like it was on her terms.  Things were cloudy, unsettled, and uncertain. If Shwetika’s story sounds familiar, keep listening.

During the Brazen Breakthrough, she was able to map out her year and her goals, and treat them seriously. Shwetika’s journey has been amazing. And I cannot wait for you to listen to our conversation.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-shwetika-learned-to-date-and-live-on-her-own-terms

GET ON THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://bit.ly/35VZLyo

 

Jul 13, 2021
67. Why I'm changing my "origin" story
22:22

In this episode, I open up about my moment of stuckness, expand on my journey and explain how I hope to share my story moving forward in order to feel more empowered, confident, and healed.  I also encourage you to gently excavate and look at your past stories. Healing is possible and is in progress.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/why-im-changing-my-origin-story

 

Jul 06, 2021
66. How to redefine your dating ROI
10:08

You are spending hours swiping apps, going on dates; and you are not getting out of dating what you are putting in.  And your current ROI (return on investment) may be at the root of your dating frustration. This week I am talking about how reframing your dating ROI can help you to actually see the progress you are making. 

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-redefine-your-dating-roi

GET ON THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://bit.ly/35VZLyo

 

Jun 29, 2021
65. The balance between immediate and future self-care
14:25

You hear me say it often, “You can make dating an act of self-care,” but perhaps you are having trouble connecting the dots. In this episode, I talk about the two different types of self-care,  immediate and future, explain how you can achieve a balance between the two, and bring it all together so that you can create a clear path forward.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/the-balance-between-immediate-and-future-self-care

 

Jun 22, 2021
64. How to love the shit out of your single life with Vasavi Kumar
41:01

Today we are talking all about how to enjoy the shit out of your single life.  Maybe you are dating or maybe you aren't. Regardless of where you are in your dating life: you still get to enjoy being single and love it!  Vasavi Kumar, an on-camera Confidence and Content Creation Coach, is here to explore this topic.

Vasavi pivoted from being a therapist where she worked with women for over ten years. The conversation her patients kept bringing to her was, ‘Why am I not in a relationship?”  Vasavi's mission is to help women sustain themselves financially, emotionally, and psychologically.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-love-the-shit-out-of-your-single-life-with-vasavi-kumar

 

Jun 08, 2021
63. Envision your future partner meditation
22:50

I have something special for you this week; a future-self meditation. Yes, that’s right, I am going to walk you through a 10-minute meditation that will help you to embody the feelings you want to have in your future relationship. It will allow you to release the tension and suspend your disbelief that there is more for you. 

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/envision-your-future-partner-meditation

 

Jun 01, 2021
62. The patriarchy and your dating mindset with Becky Mollenkamp
44:48

Patriarchal conditioning and messaging that is harmful to both women and men.  It is harmful, humans are meant to feel. So how does the patriarchy affect our dating lives? That’s a topic I am diving deeper into this week, with the help of returning guest Becky Mollenkamp. We explore patriarchal systems and how they are impacting women’s every thoughts, hopes, fears, and desires.  

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/the-patriarchy-and-your-dating-mindset-with-becky-mollenkamp

 

May 25, 2021
61. Cultivating a mindfulness practice for your dating life with Upasna Gautam
48:11

Join me for a conversation with my guest, Upasna Gautam, as we explore what it means to bring mindfulness into your dating life for lasting impact and peace.  And yes, it’s hard to know what mindfulness is, oftentimes, until you find a way to work it into your daily life.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/cultivating-a-mindfulness-practice-for-your-dating-life

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

May 18, 2021
60. Bless and Release: How to make room for the “Hell, Yes!” people in your life
20:16

This week I am responding to a listener’s email, let’s call this listener Jen. Jen recently wrote in asking how to reply to men who text or call to “check-in”, AFTER they have broken up with her. Here’s an excerpt from her email: 

“I don't want to be someone's backburner chick. I want to be a Number 1 gal! So what should I do in this situation--is ghosting appropriate (is it even ghosting)? Or does your "clarity is kindness" mantra mean that I should respond directly letting them know that I don't wish to stay in contact as a romantic partner or friend?”

In this episode, I break down a simple bless and release method that will help Jen (and listeners out there who need to hear it!) live into her, “Yes!” When you can set a boundary, bless and release; you make more room for people in your life who are a “Hell, yes!” to you. 

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-make-room-for-hell-yes-people-in-your-life

APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application

May 11, 2021
59. How to Own Your Story and Create a Different Ending
22:56

A lot of my work includes figuring out how to lovingly interrogate the stories that we’ve built up about our romantic past and experience. In this episode, I’ll explore how to let go of the thoughts that you're not worthy, how to step back from taking everything personally and how to defy the ending to that story you learned long ago.

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-own-your-story-and-create-a-different-ending

APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:
https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application

May 04, 2021
58. How Maddie built a dating action plan and found love
35:18

Today I am joined by Maddie, who just finished the Brazen Breakthrough in March. In this episode, she opens up about the blocks she was experiencing in her dating life before joining the mastermind, she reflects upon her time in the cohort and talks about what success looks like for her now.  Maddie also describes how she took what she learned, made it her own, and claimed exactly what she desired. 

APPLY FOR BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH MASTERMIND:
https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-maddie-built-a-dating-action-plan-and-found-love

 

Apr 27, 2021
57. How to listen to your body with Steph Gaudreau
49:41

This week, I am joined by Steph Gaudreau, a nutritional therapy, intuitive eating, and strength training expert. She helps purpose-driven women like you, learn to build stronger bodies and healthier relationships with food. 

We hope you come away from this conversation empowered to be in a beautiful relationship with yourself and then with others. It is an Invitation to learn to trust yourself. 

APPLY FOR BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH MASTERMIND:
https://calendly.com/brazen-lily/brazen-breakthrough-application

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-listen-to-your-body

 

Apr 20, 2021
56. How to build swagger-level confidence with Anniedi Essien
34:22

This week, Anniedi Essien, Chief Swagger Officer at Idem Spark, joins me for a discussion about owning your unique identity and rocking your confidence.

Tune in to hear how to build swagger-level confidence that will have you attracting ideal jobs, clients, and yes - even potential mates.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-build-swagger-level-confidence

 

Apr 13, 2021
55. How to Build An Irresistible Dating Profile
23:44

Your dating profile can be a unique and authentic expression of who you are and what you desire. Through a deeper lens, I wanted to explore how you can rebuild your dating profile to be attractive to the right people and disqualify the wrong people for you with ease. 

Most often, dating profiles are trying to cater to everyone who views them. Here’s the thing, my gorgeous friend, you are for the few and not the many. In this episode, I share some strategies you can use to rebuild your dating profile to showcase the most important person in your life - you.

You are uniquely qualified for the love of your life. Why wouldn’t you want a profile unique to your dating life too?

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3uniqxh

3-STEP GUIDE TO MAKE DATING FEEL LIKE SELF-CARE: https://date-brazen.ck.page/c651f5218e

 

Apr 06, 2021
54. Dating apps are not the answer
22:12

Here’s a truth bomb for you: dating apps suck. They are supposed to make your dating life easier. Instead, they can be soul-sucking and addictive. Today I am talking about why dating apps are not the answer to your dating life and what the answer can be instead. 

You deserve better. You deserve better than the download-delete cycle. You deserve a clear path forward that prioritizes you.

SHOW NOTES:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-apps-are-not-the-answer

DATE LIKE A BADASS IS OPEN - CHECK IT OUT HERE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/date-like-a-badass

 

Mar 30, 2021
53. Introducing: Date Like a Badass
11:43

This week, you’re going to hear all my new program, Date Like a Badass, and how it can help you move forward in your dating life with confidence and curiosity. 

So, how do you want to feel about your dating life in the next six months? What intention do you want to bring to fruition? Intention is a powerful source. Intentional effort leads to intentional results.  Women who invest intentional effort into their dating life are ready for a step-by-step plan to find that soul-quenching love. They are ready to date like a badass

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/introducing-date-like-a-badass

3 STEPS TO DATE LIKE A BADASS (AND FIND LOVE):
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/webinar

Mar 23, 2021
52. Lessons from the Brazen Breakthrough: Choosing questions that qualify the right people (and disqualify the rest)
19:27

Tune into this week’s show to hear how to choose bold questions that will help you qualify dates and stop wasting your time. 

You are in the driver’s seat, you are in control of who you spend your time with - that is what this episode is all about. Ask bold questions, qualify the people who could be ‘your person’, and disqualify those who are not right for you. 

Remember, you can’t say the wrong thing to the right person, so it may as well be bold.

3 STEPS TO DATE LIKE A BADASS (AND FIND LOVE) MASTERCLASS: http://datebrazen.com/masterclass

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/2Osabkp

 

Mar 16, 2021
51. Lessons from The Brazen Breakthrough: Claiming your deeper preferences
14:46

This week I walk you through how to claim a bold vision for your dating preferences and why doing so is essential for your dating life. When it comes to preferences, most people are very aware of their checklist preferences - things like age, height, location, religion, and education. And, this is where most people stop. But you can deepen your checklist preferences. In this episode, I’ll show you how. Additionally, you’ll learn how having clear, essence-based preferences can aid you in making empowered choices about dating with ease.

SHOW NOTES:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/claiming-your-deeper-preferences

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

 

Mar 09, 2021
50. Lessons from the Brazen Breakthrough: The Relationship Reflection Guide
19:16

Today we are going to dive into another lesson from my coaching experience, The Brazen Breakthrough. I will share how my relationship reflection guide can help you review past relationships and move forward with self-compassion. 

Why is reflection work important? Because how you relate to your past relationships says a lot about how you relate to yourself in your dating life. When I was so caught up in the hurt of a past relationship, I was relating to myself in shame and embarrassment. 

The relationship reflection guide helps you take an intentional look in the rearview mirror and allows you to see: 

  • How your past relationships influenced your present experience in your dating life.
  • The truths about your dating life from your past relationships. 
  • Your survival stories.

SHOW NOTES:
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/the-relationship-reflection-guide

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

Mar 02, 2021
49. Lessons from The Brazen Breakthrough: How to believe empowering thoughts in your dating life
21:38

I am pulling back the curtain on the Brazen Breakthrough nine-step framework. This week I am going to walk you through the first tenant of the Brazen Breakthrough, thought work. I explore some ways in which your thoughts are creating your reality about your dating life. And, I share a practice that will help you get back into the driver seat of your thoughts and move forward with self-compassion and self-forgiveness.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3qPaeo8

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

Feb 23, 2021
48. Three steps to get grounded in your dating life
19:57

Tune in to hear three steps to get out of anxious spiraling or future-tripping, and back into believing what is actually possible for your dating life.

When you think about your life and you think, “Wow, I really want a partner,” it’s not that you need someone to be whole. Instead, you simply desire a person to share your life with. If that hasn’t happened for you yet, you may feel frustrated. 

Finding the love of your life is possible. 

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3jRW7M4

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

 

Feb 16, 2021
47. How to get out of suffering and into empowered action in your dating life
13:48

This week I am sharing how the Brazen Breakthrough can help you go from feeling lonely and sorrowful in your dating life to one of confidence, empowered, and actionable.

I give you a taste of how my transformational, signature coaching program can get you out of suffering and into empowered action in your dating life. 

When you intentionally invest time, energy, and, yes, money into your dating life to help build an abundant strategy that focuses on you, your life changes. I want that for you, my gorgeous friend, I truly do.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3jtg3Vz

BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

LIVE MASTERCLASS FOR BADASS SINGLE WOMEN:
http://datebrazen.com/masterclass

Feb 09, 2021
46. Giving Yourself Permission to Trust What You Desire
25:16

Self-trust is really hard. I had an assumption that self-trust was something you were born with or not. Turns out that assumption is B.S. But, how can you trust the decisions you make in your dating life if you’ve had bad relationships in the past? This week I am going to provide some strategies you can take to increase your capacity to trust yourself in your dating life.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2YyJU5l

BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge

LIVE MASTERCLASS FOR BADASS SINGLE WOMEN:
http://datebrazen.com/masterclass

 

Feb 02, 2021
45. How The Brazen Breakthrough changed Kate’s life
36:38

Does this sound like you? You are successful in your career. In fact, you are successful in almost every area of your life, yet when it comes to dating, you feel like you are less than.  Well, my gorgeous friend, you are not alone. My client Kate has been there, done that, and is here this week to talk all about it. She opens up about what her dating life was like before, during, and after joining the Brazen Breakthrough. Kate dishes on all things dating and life.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3obB1Je

BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge

Jan 26, 2021
44. You don't have to feel lonely in your dating life
26:14

I am sharing three ways to get out of loneliness and into belonging in your dating life. Because, dating, most of the time, is lonely and frustrating. 

A few years back, I was in a toxic relationship. Following that dating experience, I was stewing in a hot soup of loneliness. If that sounds like you, I want to support you. So today I offer three ways you can get out of loneliness.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3inEUtj

BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge

Jan 19, 2021
43. Dating as a feminist act
14:56

Dating is a hotbed of patriarchal, conventional bullshit.

For example: "Laugh more on a date. Boys like girls who are jovial. Be more of a mystery. Guys like the thrill of the chase. Ask more questions. Get on all the dating apps because it's a number's game."

Translation: Dating successfully means making yourself smaller, talking less, going on more dates, lowering your standards— #bullshit. 

In this episode, I shine the light on how dating can be a feminist act and what dating from an intersectional feminist lens can look like. When you permit yourself to want what you want, you extend that permission to others around you. How you date is an expression of who you are as a woman in the world. 

I want you to find your life's most extraordinary love with the emotional tools you need to do so. Finding love on your terms is possible; figuring out how to do so on your terms and how you plan to show up is the first step. 

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/35yXV6U

BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH WAITLIST:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/BrazenBreakthrough

CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge

 

Jan 13, 2021
42. Boundaries for abundance in your dating life
32:09

I wanted to start the new year with one of my favorite parts of last year: The Finding Your Fearless Retreat which we held in December. During the retreat, I gave a lesson on boundaries and, today, I am sharing that session with you! You'll hear the dating boundaries I recommend you create to invite in more abundance, how to craft boundaries to invite in more self-care, how to protect your heart, and find people who are right for you. 

I wanted to share this lesson with you because my words for 2021 are abundance and ease. While boundaries may not be easy to create or enforce, when you're able to set them clearly and support yourself in developing them, they bring more comfort to your everyday life. I'm so excited for you to listen, and I am so excited to be your dating coach in 2021.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3rSwnD0

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

 

Jan 05, 2021
41. Building your 2021 dating strategy
09:13

A new year is almost here. For the last episode of 2020, I wanted to set the stage so that you can build your 2021 dating strategy with focus and compassion.

When I say strategy, I don’t mean swiping in a specific way on dating apps or playing a numbers game. 

Instead, your dating strategy is knowing what you want, the actions that can lead you to find what you are looking for, and how to protect your heart and cognitive load in the process.

To help you build your dating strategy, I’ve come up with three questions to ask yourself. These questions will help you to reflect on what worked in 2020, what didn’t, and what you should (or shouldn’t) focus on in the year to come.

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/34BdhHv

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

Dec 29, 2020
40. Are you being too picky?
17:36

When is pickiness a problem versus when your preferences are perceived as picky by others - that’s the topic of this week’s episode.

"Why haven't I found my person yet? Maybe I am just too picky?" 

Sound familiar?  

PIckiness can be a problem when the story you tell yourself is that nobody is good enough for you. I share why that type of story is typically rooted in past trauma and past self-protection; and what you can do about it. 

I also explore how dating from a place of abundance instead of proving something or someone wrong helps you attract people you align with and are excited to be around. 

In other words, when you stop trying to please others and instead turn the focus on your wants and needs, your person will gravitate towards you. 

As you listen to this episode, ask yourself these questions: What do I sincerely want? How can I permit myself to be authentic? And, how can I work on remaining open to being surprised?

Chances are, my gorgeous friend, you are not too picky. But that doesn't mean there isn't some work to be done. 

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3h6s2qK

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram/com/datebrazen

Dec 22, 2020
39. How to move past the "shoulds" in your dating life
38:46

When you live a life of shoulds, life looks really good on paper. But when you start to realize the shoulds are no longer making you happy, life can feel heavy. It’s easy to fall into a spiral of shame and blame. Learn how shoulds and upper limit problems might be holding you back and what you can do about it.  

Becky Mollenkamp joins me to offer her experience and expertise on these topics.  Becky believes women deserve to feel powerful and fulfilled. As a certified business mindset coach, she helps smart, ambitious women dream and play bigger, while also finding contentment in the here and now.

Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat:
http://datebrazen.com/retreat

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3mU8TdN

 

Dec 08, 2020
38. Biggest holidays dating fears and how to move through them
23:43

The holiday season is here. And as we step into the final month of the year, what are you worried about in your dating life?  What are your fears? Today, I'm going to be talking about how you can work through those fears and move forward with intention. 

In fact, some of the most common dating fears I’ve heard recently, from clients, include:

Time is running out. 

I haven’t found love and that’s a failure.

In this episode, I provide you with a roadmap to help you overcome some of these pandemic-specific dating fears.

Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat:
http://datebrazen.com/retreat

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3obZ4rW

Dec 01, 2020
37. The “What’s Going Well” Trick
09:08

How can you tell what is going well versus what is not? Are you following your vision or do things just seem at a standstill? That’s just some of what I dive into, in this week’s show.

It's really easy to see what is not going well. That’s why I created a practice called, “The What’s Going Well Tracker.” I share how this trick will help you transform the ways in which you are mindful about what is going well in your life, today and in the future. 

Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat:
http://datebrazen.com/retreat

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/2J8RrD9

Nov 24, 2020
Listener Favorite: Need a boost? Here’s an epic dating pep talk
27:41

If you're looking for some encouragement and joy, I've got your back. In this pep talk, I'm giving three reasons that you can experience hope in your dating life right now.

Sneak peek:

  • You are uniquely qualified for the love of your life.
  • What is meant for you will not pass you by.
  • Your past is not an indicator of your future.

Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat:
http://datebrazen.com/retreat

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/epic-dating-pep-talk

 

Nov 17, 2020
36. Building an unapologetic dating life
43:39

Today, I want you to practice CLAIMING why you are awesome. What you love about yourself. Why someone is going to feel so lucky to call you their partner. 

Pushing down what made me EXACTLY who I was, why I was awesome and complicated and beautifully “too much”, it made me feel like a hollow husk of myself in my dating life.

That all changed when I shifted the focus to exactly why I loved myself, why I was worthy of love, what I was bringing to the table on dates, that’s when dating started to feel like self-care. In this episode, I am going to share how I made the shift and how you can too.

With this shift, dating became an opportunity to explore and live out what I loved about myself.

What if you approached your dating life while clearly knowing exactly why you’re awesome? How would it change the way you approach your dating life? 

You are brilliant. 

You are amazing. 

It’s time to unapologetically build your dating life.

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
http://instagram.com/datebrazen

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3eIDmbn

 

Nov 10, 2020
35. Some quick encouragement
03:22

This week I have a short podcast episode for you. It’s election day in the United States and so I wanted to infuse some encouragement into your life. In this episode, I share with you an IGTV by Elizabeth Gilbert. I watched it recently and it brought me solace. I hope it does the same for you. It’s all about dancing in times of uncertainty. Remember to take a deep breath and a moment to celebrate you. 

ELIZABETH GILBERT'S LET'S DANCE IGTV:
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CHF-Xw0BLDM/

DATE BRAZEN ON INSTAGRAM:
https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

Nov 03, 2020
34. How The Brazen Breakthrough Can Transform Your Dating Life
31:22

How happy and supported can you stand to let yourself be? Well, I know the following things to be true: you can completely transform your dating life and feel like a joy-filled badass by the end. And the Brazen Breakthrough can help you get there. This week, I invite you to hear all about this transformative framework.

I share the origin story of the Brazen Breakthrough including how past toxic relationships led me to become a dating coach. I also share my badass dating framework and explain how it can help you to find extraordinary love on your terms. If you’ve ever wondered if the Brazen Breakthrough is right for you, this episode is one you won’t want to miss.

LIVE MASTERCLASS FOR BADASS SINGLE WOMEN:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/webinar

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/35hzeL0

Oct 20, 2020
33. Behind the scenes of my Celebrate Your Single-Self Challenge
12:50

I’m going to take you behind the scenes of my upcoming Celebrate Your Single-Self Challenge! You’ll hear what the challenge is and how it can help you bring more self-care into your life.

In this unpredictable, chaotic time in our nation’s history (where we are out of control in so many ways), it’s not time to “push until you figure it out,” and it’s not time to “figure it out all on your own.” It’s time to transform your dating life from a soul-suck into an act of self-care so you can find the best relationship of your life, with a community of other badass, single women who have your back. 

Tune into this week’s episode to hear all about the challenge. I hope you give yourself permission to show up and be supported.

JOIN THE CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/2SQg2OV

Oct 13, 2020
32. Why you need to celebrate where you are right now
16:52

Alright, so you’ve acknowledged that dating isn’t easy. And...you have lost sight of why you are awesome and why someone will be lucky to be your partner. So, now what? Well, gorgeous friend, this episode is going to be your baby step forward towards transformation. 

Where to start? By acknowledging what you bring to the table.  Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “Lily, I know I’ve accomplished a lot. And it feels like some of my accomplishments have been at the mercy of finding a person.”  

This episode is a reminder to acknowledge the work you have done, and then to give your brain a break from the flight or fight response. When you do, your higher functioning can step back in and imagine a different way to go about dating. You want something more and you are ready to get it.

JOIN THE CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/30DB6MG

 

Oct 06, 2020
Bonus: Why dating is so f*cking hard (and what to do about it).
16:03

I’ve worked with hundreds of people and most everyone says a version of: “I don’t know what’s wrong with me. Dating shouldn’t be this hard, it wasn’t for my friend/coworker/mom.” If you think that dating should be easier than it is, this is the episode for you. In this episode, I peel back the curtain of why dating is so hard and what you can do about it.

JOIN THE CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLENGE:
https://date-brazen.mykajabi.com/challenge

SHOW NOTES:
https://bit.ly/3ijwUrq

Oct 01, 2020
31. Fear you’re a dating cliche? This is for you.
18:05

“I can’t believe I’m single and talking to a dating coach. I don’t want to be a cliche.” That’s a phrase I’ve been hearing a lot from my clients, lately. If that sounds like you, then this week we dig into why you are not a cliche for seeking help for your dating life. 

In this episode, I uncover some of the reasons why you are feeling this way, I shed light on the patriarchal dating tropes which may be keeping you stuck, and offer some mindset shifts to help you move forward with power and confidence. 

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3l7Mo3V

 

Sep 29, 2020
30. How to use improv rules to spark joy in your dating life
19:22

Did you know that improv comedy is similar to your dating life? Well, this week I am going to share some of the lessons I learned from my improv days and how they can apply to how you can date in a powerful way. Get ready because these improv rules have the potential to add more joy and fulfillment than you thought possible in your dating life.

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3624Tm1

 

Sep 22, 2020
29. Creating a comparison-free dating life
18:48

One of the biggest energy drains is comparison and the patriarchy; especially when it comes to your dating and love life. Last week, I talked about self-compassion. Today I’m going to build on that, and discuss how to create a comparison-free dating life! 

You might be feeling comparison creep in when you see your friends in a relationship. Or when one of your friends is “great” at dating and you can’t seem to find a great date.  In this episode, I break down the ways in which comparison can show up in dating, help you to become your own comparison detective, and offer some key strategies so you can kick comparison to the curb.  My hope is that you will emerge from these comparative thought patterns and step into the life you desire.

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3lWyin5

Sep 15, 2020
28. Build your dating confidence with self-compassion
28:46

This week I am talking about self-compassion and why it is a necessary tool for a successful and fulfilling dating life. According to Kristen Neff, having compassion for yourself means you honor and accept your humanness. I tend to think of self-compassion as a superpower. So, how can you harness this power for good? In this episode, I share my quick-hitting advice about how to get out of your head, into the self-compassion driver’s seat, and create a confident dating life.

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/2ZceH8M

 

Sep 08, 2020
27. Live Coaching Session: Mindset shifts to get out of your dating funk
44:28

Today’s dating scene can be a soul suck, am I right? With a few simple (and sometimes not so simple) mindset shifts, you can move past feeling stuck in your dating life. Nobody knows this better than my client, Sarah. This week she joins me on the podcast for a live coaching session.  

In this episode, Sarah shares openly about the various mindset shifts she employed in order to transform her dating life. And talks about how and when she realized she was fully capable of her own transformation. By sharing Sarah’s story, my hope is that it will help you to feel less alone and more inspired.

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/2YRmRDe

 

 

Sep 01, 2020
26. How to navigate money in your dating life
32:52

Hello Gorgeous Friends, in today’s episode I am talking all about money and dating. Why does this topic matter? Money is a complicated topic. It impacts our lives - both negatively or positively. Whatever your situation, money may have been a source of tension and strive in your dating life. 

The stories we make up about money can be brutal and can trickle into our thoughts and feelings about our dating preferences, who we date, and how we date. So today, I am going to help you break down how to navigate money in your dating life confidently and with curiosity. 

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3aRqGwS

 

Aug 25, 2020
25. What is date coaching? With fellow dating coach Anwar White
58:26

This week you are in for a treat - I am talking shop to fellow dating coach, Anwar White. In this episode, you’ll learn exactly what a dating coach is and how partnering with one can help you. We also dish on some of our favorite topics like the biggest dating stumbling blocks we see, our thoughts on two Netflix dating series, and our number one priority for our clients. Tune in to hear two dating coaches talk shop and offer dating advice too!

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3hbMg1L

 

Aug 18, 2020
24. My thoughts on Netflix’s Indian Matchmaking as a former matchmaker
42:35

Today, I will be talking about the Netflix show, Indian Matchmaking! As a former matchmaker, I had a lot of thoughts, feelings, and opinions about the series. I just had to get on the mic to talk about four of my favorite characters, some of the lessons you can take away from each of their experiences and I even offer dating advice for them, in case they happen to be listening!

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3kABbJI

Aug 11, 2020
23. How to love yourself in dating profile photos with Damaly Shepherd
41:35

Let’s talk about dating app profile photos for a moment, friends. Often in my work, I see my clients coming up against mindset blocks or negative thoughts about their appearance when choosing their profile photo. Sound familiar? Well, in today’s show I am talking to photographer and coach, Damaly Shepherd about how to love yourself in photos. 

In this episode, Damaly provides mindset shifts and insightful advice to help you uplevel your camera confidence. By the end of this episode, we want you to have the tools to feel incredible about yourself in and out of your dating profile photos. Because as Toni Morrison said and Damaly agrees, “You are your best thing."

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/31eAtcb

Aug 04, 2020
22. Making the case for a self-indulgent dating life
20:56

In this episode, I am talking about self-indulgence and self-care. I examine some of the feelings that come up when we are practicing self-indulgence, like shame or guilt. This episode asks you to explore your relationship with the word self-indulgence, helps you to identify and break through the negative connotations, and asks you to consider how it is hindering your ability to nourish yourself. So, what kind of self-indulgent woman do you want to be?

SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH LILY → https://bit.ly/306ZRQx

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/2BzvnhI

 

Jul 28, 2020
21. How Maya Found Love
45:36

Looking to transform your dating life? Well, this week I am sharing a conversation with my former client, Maya.  Last year, Maya went through my coaching experience, The Brazen Breakthrough.  In this episode, we walk through what Maya’s dating life was like before working with me, the blocks she had, how her life transformed after the Brazen Breakthrough, and how she found love. Your dating life does not have to suck. It’s time to transform too.

SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH LILY → https://bit.ly/306ZRQx

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/2CpETVg

 

Jul 21, 2020
20. Ghosting, asking out, and saying no: My go-to guide for messaging
36:33

Have you been wondering, “How can I be more intentional in my messaging?” Well, friends, in today’s show I will be sharing how to step up your boldness with your communication. You’ll hear the text messaging templates I use with my clients; which will help you move from unsure to clear and bold in your messaging. 

Did you know that 33% of people on dating apps never go beyond texting? If your dating why is deeper than a ‘pen-pal’ relationship, you have to back that up with some strategy. I’m going to take you through my recommended text responses for matching on a dating app, meeting someone in person, and how to respond to someone, if you have been ghosted. 

Yes, this episode calls you to do more in your dating communication and in your dating life. With these direct communication strategies, you will be able to show up in the reflection of your deeper why. You deserve extraordinary and you deserve someone who knows how to communicate too.

SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH LILY → https://bit.ly/306ZRQx

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://bit.ly/3eqnVD6

Jul 14, 2020
19. How to move from fearful to powerful in your dating life with Coach Imani Nekohl
40:38

In this week’s show, I am talking to life coach, Imani Nekohl, about fear and dating. Imani is a life coach who helps women find their confidence and step into their purpose. She’s a badass, long-time friend, and an incredible inspiration to me.

When it comes to fear and dating, there’s no need to be “fearless” (in our conversation, you’ll hear all about how that goal isn’t even possible for us humans). This episode will break down the three main fears that you probably are facing in your dating life. Plus, Imani shares some tactical takeaways to help you to move past these three dating fears into power.

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/move-from-fearful-to-powerful-in-your-dating-life

Jul 07, 2020
18. My easy system for qualifying the right dates (and saying bye-bye to the rest)
25:53

The problem: You go on dates with people who turn out to be duds. You can’t find good people. You’re stuck in a never-ending cycle of bad dates. Well, in this episode I am going to share my three-step system for qualifying and disqualifying dates.

Yes, my friend, the idea of qualifying the right people versus the wrong ones is scary. To get what you want from your dating life, you need to create a high barrier to entry. You have access to the many, and you need to be swiping and dating for the few. My system will help you do just that.

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/find-the-right-dates

Jun 30, 2020
17. Live Coaching Session: How to cut straight to meaningful conversation on dating apps
57:22

When having conversations on dating apps, are you staying surface level out of fear of being too straightforward? You’re not alone. 

This week, I have a live coaching session with my client, Caitlin. She’s been struggling with how to have deep and meaningful conversations with the men she is dating. During our time together, we also uncovered some ways she can get unstuck from old patterns.

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: 
https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/intentional-dating-app

Jun 23, 2020
16. The first step to a badass dating action plan
23:04

On today’s show we will be talking about the question that you need to ask yourself to define meaningful success in your dating life and how to root out scarcity thinking.

SHOW NOTES→ https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/badass-dating-action-plan

ANTI-RACISM RESOURCES FOR WHITE PEOPLE→ https://bit.ly/3fu2zp7

SELF CARE RESOURCES FOR BIPOC→ https://bit.ly/3fpHk7O

Jun 16, 2020
15. Our relationship: Ask Lily and Chris anything
56:48

Today's episode of The Date Brazen Podcast is an unscripted conversation with my life partner, Chris.

​We sat down in our bedroom (my usual closet space was too small for the both of us) to record this conversation on Sunday, and we kept it really real.

In our convo today, we get into how we met, our first disagreement (eek), how he felt about me starting Date Brazen (it was a little rocky), and his thoughts on men in the dating world.

I can't wait for you to get to know him!

DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/our-relationship

May 19, 2020
14. How to build an abundance mindset in your dating life
25:11

If you feel like it's hard (near impossible) to have an abundant, powerful dating mindset, then this episode is for you.

And if your environment is making it hard to have a powerful dating mindset, this will give you the framework to feel more in-control of your dating life.

Grab all the resources we discussed in today's episode here--> datebrazen.com/podcast

May 12, 2020
13. How to move on from self-limiting beliefs after a bad relationship
12:48

Today’s episode is all about how you can advocate for your own needs in your dating and love life.

After recording this episode, I definitely had a vulnerability hangover… and I know that it’s worth it. I hope my sharing this story gives you the tools you need to show up for yourself.

My intention here is to help you identify your needs and then ask for them to be met. Let’s do this.

May 05, 2020
12. How being selfish can actually serve others with Kim Grevler
39:17

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a framework for rewiring your anxious thoughts, getting selfish and serving others along the way.

Meet today’s guest: Kim Grevler

Kim Grevler is a licensed as a Clinical Social Worker, life coach, and the founder of selfishladies, a movement that teaches women how to redefine anxiety and put their needs first.

Grab all the resources we discussed in today's episode here--> datebrazen.com/podcast

Apr 28, 2020
11. Need a boost? Here’s an epic dating pep talk.
25:15

If you're looking for some encouragement and joy, I've got your back. In this pep talk, I'm giving three reasons that you can experience hope in your dating life right now.

Sneak peak:

  1. You are uniquely qualified for the love of your life.

  2. What is meant for you will not pass you by.

  3. You have more power RIGHT NOW than you think. (and I wanna teach you how to harness it)⁠

Check out the show notes of today's episode here--> datebrazen.com/podcast

Apr 21, 2020
10. How to look and feel amazing on your virtual date with Joanna Lovering
38:18

By the end of this episode, you will know how to be camera confident for your virtual date. 

Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: datebrazen.com/podcast.

 

Apr 14, 2020
Live Coaching Session | Overcoming fear and finding courage to be vulnerable
47:41

Do you have fear in your dating life? Maybe you have questions like —

“How do I know where I stand with a new relationship?” 

“How do I navigate my own fear and not bring it into my dates?”

“What if I get ghosted… again?”

These questions carry so much fear and anxiety. So, how can you move past them to find deeper connection and vulnerability?

Today’s episode is a live coaching session with my client, Alissa, who has struggled with all of the fears above, and wants strategies to choose courage— to hopefully find deeper connection with herself and the new person in her life.

Apr 07, 2020
8. How to be well in a season of hard feelings with Helanah
39:04

By the end of this episode, you’re going to have a self-care action plan to be well in the midst of a hard season.

Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: datebrazen.com/podcast.

Mar 30, 2020
7. How quarantine can supercharge your dating life
28:35

This episode of The Date Brazen Podcast is my actionable, uplifting love letter to everyone who has questions about dating in the age of corona.⁠

Like...⁠

What does this quarantine mean for my dating life?⁠

What does this crazy time mean for my mental health?⁠

How can I not let panic get to me?

Let’s take a deep breath. ⁠

Just because things are on hold doesn’t mean YOU are on hold. ⁠

In this episode, I take you through three action steps to keep your life moving forward during this crazy season.⁠

(and even how this could be the best season of your dating life from the comfort of your couch)⁠

RSVP for the Guide to Amazing Virtual Dates masterclass here→ https://www.datebrazen.com/yes

Mar 24, 2020
6. How to curb your freak out with self-compassion with Megan Saxelby
46:15

Being stuck in a freak out spiral sucks. Especially in your dating life.

What’s the key to moving through and out of those overwhelming feelings?

Expert Megan Saxelby is here to share actionable strategies for moving through freakout with the simple (and radical) tool of self-compassion.

Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: datebrazen.com/podcast.

Mar 17, 2020
5. Create a self-care plan for your dating life (no sheet masks necessary)
28:25

Let's get tactical about your self-care strategy. And I’m not talking about a bubble bath or a sheet mask.

On today’s episode, we’ll talk about how you can create a dating life that feels like self-care with three really easy (and free) steps.

Growth happens outside of our comfort zone, so let’s go!

Mar 10, 2020
4. Live Coaching Session | How to find love without a dating app
36:19

I have some big news for you and your dating life: You don’t have to be on a dating app to find love. 

Conventional dating wisdom says that you need to play the numbers game, that dating apps exist so you MUST be on them to be “Trying” in your dating life.

I know this isn’t the truth. Dating apps are amazing at 2 things: 1. introducing you to someone outside of your social circle and 2. Getting to know your dating personality. But they are not the answer to your love life.

Today’s episode is a live coaching session with my client, Amelia, where we dive into her dating life, hear about her struggles and come up with three actionable strategies for her to use right now to find love in-person (without a dating app).

I can’t wait for you to hear our conversation, so let’s dive in.

You can download "The Friendly Guide to Setting You Up" in the show notes here → datebrazen.com/podcast.

Mar 03, 2020
3. Why self-love (and bragging) are essential to your dating life
13:25

"Wait, I should brag in my dating life?"

Yep. The practice I teach in this episode will supercharge your self-love strategy, allowing you to feel confident in what you're bringing to the table and find better dates as a result!

Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: datebrazen.com/podcast.

Feb 25, 2020
2. How to move on from your ex AND find the best relationship of your life
14:35

“How do I move on with my dating life after a really hard breakup?”

It’s a question I get all the time, and today I have the answer for you.

In this episode, I’m getting really vulnerable and sharing about my most recent ex with the help of the Brazen Relationship Reflection Guide (which you can download for yourself in our show notes here!).

Reflecting on your past relationships can be tough (it was for me). And it’s also the key you need to find the best relationship of your life.

Let’s supercharge your dating life (or current relationship) together right now!

Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: datebrazen.com/podcast.

Feb 25, 2020
1. Three steps to be the boss of your dating life (and kiss overwhelm goodbye)
24:02

BAD ADVICE ALERT: "Dating is a numbers game."

In this episode, I'm going to tackle one of the biggest problems that I see people facing in their dating lives - the “Numbers Game”.

From coaching hundreds, I know that this common piece of dating advice is actually hurting your dating life. I'm here to share why and what you can do about it.

Listen in to this episode to hear the three steps you can use right now to find better dates in less time while swiping!

Find all the info and links from today's episode in the show notes: datebrazen.com/podcast.

Feb 25, 2020
Introducing: The Date Brazen Podcast
04:35

Join dating coach and former top matchmaker, Lily Womble for weekly doses of unconventional, feminist leaning dating advice that works. Subscribe now for updates.

Feb 12, 2020