Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons: For Parents Who Worry

By Lynn Lyons LICSW, Robin Hutson

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Parenting isn't easy, and it's normal to worry. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast full of laughs, and practical advice without the psychobabble. At the beginning of the pandemic, Lynn and Robin started the Flusterclux podcast when their parenting retreats went on hiatus, and they're now 2 years in, talking about anxiety and worry, their love for Mr. Rogers, and the crazy things the mental health field gets WRONG about anxiety. Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons has been a therapist for over 30 years. She's an author of 3 books with a new one coming out in October and has traveled around the US and Canada training hundreds of audiences teachers, school nurses, counselors and parents about managing anxiety. Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm. Each episode is filled with practical advice for parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. New episodes every Friday at 5AM EST. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/

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What You Really Need To Know About Tracking Your Kids
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Technology allows us to track most everything, including our children. But do tracking apps actually keep our families safer? And how does tracking impact the development of key skills our kids need to be out in the world? Anxiety loves certainty, but it comes with a price. JOIN US IN ORLANDO FOR OUR FIRST FAMILY RETREAT This is our first retreat where you can bring the kids, too, and we’re hosting an incredible weekend at the Four Seasons Orlando September 30-October 2. In addition to two morning workshops with Lynn Lyons, you can expect an exclusive Disney party inside the theme parks, and the chance to relax at the country’s best family pool. The Four Seasons offers a complimentary kids club for ages 4 through 12. We’re half sold, so register today! THE LATEST ANXIETY MANAGEMENT COURSE FOR PARENTS! MANAGING ANXIETY IN CHILDREN: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you’ll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. Refinance your auto loan through Auto Approve, and they’ll send our listeners $100 autoapprove.com/adalyst. We’ve worked out a special deal with Hiya Health for their best selling children’s vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn. Credit Karma uses your credit data to find loan offers that are personalized to you, so you can have a better idea of what loan amount you can get approved for. Credit Karma will even show you your chances of approval, so you can choose between loan offers that you’re more likely to get approved for and apply with more confidence. Comparing loan offers on Credit Karma is 100% free, won’t affect your credit scores and could save you money. Ready to apply? Head to creditkarma.com/loanoffers to see personalized offers. FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
May 20, 2022
Here’s How Anxiety Sneaks Into Your Marriage
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What role does anxiety play in your marriage? Anxious patterns will often show up differently in a couple, and sometimes, even as a bossy, inflexible third partner. When you look at some common marital friction points with an anxiety lens, conflicts become conversations. And what’s up with that Atlantic article on intensive parenting? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons weighs in on the latest discussion of helicopter parenting. JOIN US IN ORLANDO FOR OUR FIRST FAMILY RETREAT This is our first retreat where you can bring the kids, too, and we're hosting an incredible weekend at the Four Seasons Orlando September 30-October 2. In addition to two morning workshops with Lynn Lyons, you can expect an exclusive Disney party inside the theme parks, and the chance to relax at the country's best family pool. The Four Seasons offers a complimentary kids club for ages 4 through 12. We're half sold, so register today! THE LATEST ANXIETY MANAGEMENT COURSE FOR PARENTS! MANAGING ANXIETY IN CHILDREN: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you’ll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. Refinance your auto loan through Auto Approve, and they'll send our listeners $100 autoapprove.com/adalyst. We’ve worked out a special deal with Hiya Health for their best selling children’s vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Check out PrepDish.com/FLUSTER for your first 2 weeks, FREE, to take the stress out of dinner time all week. This is a no-brainer! Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn. Credit Karma uses your credit data to find loan offers that are personalized to you, so you can have a better idea of what loan amount you can get approved for. Credit Karma will even show you your chances of approval, so you can choose between loan offers that you’re more likely to get approved for and apply with more confidence. Comparing loan offers on Credit Karma is 100% free, won’t affect your credit scores and could save you money. Ready to apply? Head to creditkarma.com/loanoffers to see personalized offers. FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
May 13, 2022
The Uncomfortable Truth About the Mom Wine Culture
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The mom wine culture is well-rooted now, and statistics show that women are indeed drinking more, significantly outpacing men. Are women paying a higher price with their emotional and physical health? Is the Mommy Wine culture more than just a way to take the edge off a busy day? What are the warning signs moms need to heed as we navigate a stressful world with our various coping strategies?  THE LATEST ANXIETY MANAGEMENT COURSE FOR PARENTS! MANAGING ANXIETY IN CHILDREN: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you’ll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. All listeners will receive $100 cash if they refinance their auto loan through Auto Approve at autoapprove.com/adalyst. We’ve worked out a special deal with Hiya Health for their best selling children’s vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Check out PrepDish.com/FLUSTER for your first 2 weeks, FREE, to take the stress out of dinner time all week. This is a no-brainer! Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn. Credit Karma uses your credit data to find loan offers that are personalized to you, so you can have a better idea of what loan amount you can get approved for. Credit Karma will even show you your chances of approval, so you can choose between loan offers that you're more likely to get approved for and apply with more confidence. Comparing loan offers on Credit Karma is 100% free, won't affect your credit scores and could save you money. Ready to apply? Head to creditkarma.com/loanoffers to see personalized offers. FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
May 06, 2022
Separation Anxiety: How Parents Can Manage It And Not Make It Worse
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Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks to a listener about her 6 year old with separation anxiety. This family has been working hard on their own and with a therapist to get their daughter comfortable being away from mommy. This is a very common issue and one of the first patterns of anxiety to appear developmentally. Learn how to manage these situations and conversations with your young children and how to talk to their teachers to get everyone on the same team against letting anxiety be in charge. THE LATEST ANXIETY MANAGEMENT COURSE FOR PARENTS! MANAGING ANXIETY IN CHILDREN: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you’ll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. autoapprove.com/adalyst We’ve worked out a special deal with Hiya Health for their best selling children’s vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Check out PrepDish.com/FLUSTER for your first 2 weeks, FREE, to take the stress out of dinner time all week. This is a no-brainer! Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn. Credit Karma uses your credit data to find loan offers that are personalized to you, so you can have a better idea of what loan amount you can get approved for. Credit Karma will even show you your chances of approval, so you can choose between loan offers that you're more likely to get approved for and apply with more confidence. Comparing loan offers on Credit Karma is 100% free, won't affect your credit scores and could save you money. Ready to apply? Head to creditkarma.com/loanoffers to see personalized offers. FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
Apr 29, 2022
How to Know If Your Kid Has Sensory or Anxiety Issues or Both
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What if your kid needs things “just so” or a meltdown is imminent. When your child seems to be overwhelmed easily and unable to tolerate many sensations, it is sensory processing disorder or is it anxiety? Even trickier, how does a sensory processing disorder lead to an increase in anxiety disorders in children? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons discusses how parents can understand the difference between the two, as well as how and at what age to seek treatment and how to combat your child’s rigidity ruling the family. THE LATEST ANXIETY MANAGEMENT COURSE FOR PARENTS! MANAGING ANXIETY IN CHILDREN: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you’ll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. autoapprove.com/adalyst We’ve worked out a special deal with Hiya Health for their best selling children’s vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Check out PrepDish.com/FLUSTER for your first 2 weeks, FREE, to take the stress out of dinner time all week. This is a no-brainer! Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn. Credit Karma uses your credit data to find loan offers that are personalized to you, so you can have a better idea of what loan amount you can get approved for. Credit Karma will even show you your chances of approval, so you can choose between loan offers that you're more likely to get approved for and apply with more confidence. Comparing loan offers on Credit Karma is 100% free, won't affect your credit scores and could save you money. Ready to apply? Head to creditkarma.com/loanoffers to see personalized offers. FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
Apr 22, 2022
Your Parents' Anxiety: How to Lessen Their Impact On Your Kids
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Patterns of anxiety are often passed down in families. If you are actively working to shift the culture in your family to manage anxiety, where do your parents fit in? While your parents can be supportive and helpful, some like those of this listener do not believe in “this therapy nonsense”. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons address both the positive and negative ways grandparents get involved and how to talk to them (or when to keep them out if it). Fear of flying? Don’t go on the big family trip this summer without listening to this episode. Past Episode Referenced: Difficult Mothers-in-Law THE LATEST ANXIETY MANAGEMENT COURSE FOR PARENTS! MANAGING ANXIETY IN CHILDREN: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you’ll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   VISIT OUR SPONSORS FOR SPECIAL OFFERS JUST FOR YOU Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. autoapprove.com/adalyst We’ve worked out a special deal with Hiya Health for their best selling children’s vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. Check out PrepDish.com/FLUSTER for your first 2 weeks, FREE, to take the stress out of dinner time all week. This is a no-brainer! Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn. Credit Karma uses your credit data to find loan offers that are personalized to you, so you can have a better idea of what loan amount you can get approved for. Credit Karma will even show you your chances of approval, so you can choose between loan offers that you're more likely to get approved for and apply with more confidence. Comparing loan offers on Credit Karma is 100% free, won't affect your credit scores and could save you money. Ready to apply? Head to creditkarma.com/loanoffers to see personalized offers. FOLLOW US Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
Apr 15, 2022
Helping Your Kids With Self-Hatred and Self-Blame
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When some children make mistakes or get overwhelmed, they jump quickly to self criticism and even self hate: “I’m terrible! I suck! You don’t love me!” What does this mean? Is it a red flag? And how should parents react? In this episode, anxiety expert Lynn discusses the traps to avoid and the family skills to promote when this dramatic pattern takes hold.  Referenced in this episode: Past Episode: Helping Kids With Shame & Self-Harm   The Latest Anxiety Management Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Visit Our Sponsors For Special Offers Just For You Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. autoapprove.com/adalyst Hiya Health: We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. PrepDish: Check out PrepDish.com/FLUSTER for your first 2 weeks, FREE, to take the stress out of dinner time all week. This is a no-brainer! Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn. Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
Apr 08, 2022
Pixar's Turning Red and Inside Out: How These Movies Boost EQ
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In this episode we talk about how Pixar’s latest movie Turning Red dives into the big emotions and shifting relationships of the tween years. We also discuss Inside Out, the gold standard of Pixar’s commitment to the development of emotional intelligence. Pop culture-from Mr. Rogers to Pixar-shows the power of story to teach us all…when it’s used this well. Why and how can these movies can be a part of your parenting toolkit? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons explains. Referenced in this episode: Past Episode: The Most Powerful Resolution: Earning a Black Belt in Emotional Management And this podcast episode: https://onbeing.org/programs/kate-dicamillo-for-the-eight-year-old-in-you/ Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens-3 Days Left!!! Registration Open until April 3! Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.    The Latest Anxiety Management Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Visit Our Sponsors For Special Offers Just For You Auto Approve is an online service that makes vehicle refinancing easier and faster. Auto Approve connects vehicle owners with a network of top credit unions, banks and finance companies to find the best available interest rates – then helps handle the paperwork, simplifying the vehicle refinance process from beginning to end, and putting more money back in your wallet. autoapprove.com/adalyst Hiya Health: We've worked out a special deal with Hiya for their best selling children's vitamin. Receive 50% off your first order. To claim this deal you must go to hiyahealth.com/FLUSTER. Get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults. PrepDish: Check out PrepDish.com/FLUSTER for your first 2 weeks, FREE, to take the stress out of dinner time all week. This is a no-brainer! Better Help: Flusterclux listeners get 10% off their first month of online therapy at BetterHelp.com/lynn. Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 6:00AM EST.
Apr 01, 2022
How to Manage Your Anxiety and Your Child’s Chronic Illness
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On this Flusterclux In Session episode, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks to a mom who is managing a tricky combination of factors: her own worry, her daughter's worry, and her daughter’s chronic illness. Knowing the difference between what worry demands and how to manage a serious condition (like type 1 diabetes or anaphylaxis-causing allergies) can be hard to discern. But it’s a skill families must learn together when your child's mental and physical health are on the line. Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens Registration Open until April 3! Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.    The Latest Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 6:00AM EST.
Mar 25, 2022
Hypochondria: Is Your Anxiety About Your Family’s Health Normal?
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Of course parents should pay attention to their family’s health. But when does your worry about illness in a global pandemic become too much? How does your health anxiety impact your family? How do we educate our kids on the ways anxiety can create physical symptoms so that they know when their worry is the cause of the tummy ache?   Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens Registration Open. Our discounted room block is available until today, March 18, 2022. Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.    The Latest Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 6:00AM EST.
Mar 18, 2022
Raising Kids Who Are Really Ready For College Isn’t What You Think
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Parents and students are focusing on college admissions earlier and earlier, hoping to get a head start on what has become an increasingly competitive race through high school. They say they want their kids to be “happy” and “successful” in college, but if parents are obsessed with getting in, are they developing the right skills to help them thrive once there? Anxiety Expert and therapist Lynn Lyons shares her perspective after treating teens for decades through this process and well after. We invite you to listen (or re-listen!) to our prior episode, "High Anxiety & Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture". Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens Registration Open. Our discounted room block is available until today, March 11, 2022. Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.      NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 6:00AM EST.
Mar 11, 2022
Talking To Your Kids About The War In Ukraine
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As we find ourselves struggling to process such horrific news, how do we help our children understand it? Once again we must deal with our own big emotions and theirs during a time of great uncertainty. Lynn offers some guidance from little kids to teens as we love them through it and our own anxiety.   Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens Registration Open. Discounted rooms available until March 11, 2022. Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.    NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
Mar 04, 2022
OCD in Kids: Managing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder As a Family
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It's time for a new Flusterclux In Session episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares a consultation with a listener. Lynn talks to mom of three, Erica, whose youngest son has developed OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). Lynn gives Erica tools not just for her nine-year-old son but for the whole family to be united in managing this very common disorder.   Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens Registration Open. Discounted rooms available until March 1, 2022. Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.    NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
Feb 25, 2022
Are Your Family's Anxiety Issues Unique?
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In the second of a two-part episode, we complete a list of four common traps in which parents get stuck. While we can face many unique challenges to parenting if we are divorced, single by choice, raising kids with special needs or facing chronic illnesses, it's helpful to understand when a custom approach to anxiety is needed. Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens Registration Open. Discounted rooms available until March 1, 2022. Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.    NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 5:00AM EST.
Feb 18, 2022
These Parenting Traps Feed Anxiety and Are The Hardest to Stop Doing
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It’s so easy to step into the parenting traps that feed anxiety and worry. We’ve all done them, so you’re in good company. In this episode we look at the patterns of inconsistency, trying to control outcomes because of our own worry. And we unpack the important distinction between emotional availability and emotional enmeshment.  We also reference a past episode focusing on reassurance.    Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens Registration Open. Discounted rooms available until March 1, 2022. Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.    NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Feb 11, 2022
Passing Out From Anxiety: Funny Tales From Our Family of Fainters
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Do you know anyone who has a tendency to faint? Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks about her own experience with vasovagal syncope, a condition shared by her father, siblings, and son. Learn how she manages it, and how she helped her son. And enjoy the many laughs about our family’s most embarrassing fainting moments. Lynn references this video of a talk she gave about her own history of fainting and overcoming it.  We also reference a a listener episode of  Flusterclux Retreat for Parents And Teens Registration Open! Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.  NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Show Less
Feb 04, 2022
Helping Teens Reframe Their Social Anxiety
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It's time for a new Flusterclux In Session episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons offers a listener consultation. Hear from Mom Becky who is worried about her anxious 16 year old daughter. Becky is thinking ahead and wondering how to prepare her kind, sensitive daughter to take the next steps toward college. Social anxiety and a traumatic event have teamed up to shut this teenager down from seeking social connection. Lynn guides this mom out of her own worry and reframes her daughter’s strengths to get them both moving forward. Lynn references this video of a talk she gave about her own history of fainting and overcoming it.  She also references a past Flusterclux episode of a family overcoming a traumatic event. Flusterclux Retreat on Parenting Teens Registration Opens January 29th at 12pm EST. Equipping Teens To Launch: The Connections, Conversations, and Skills Families Need Specifically for families with teens aged 13-19, Lynn Lyons and Robin Hutson of Flusterclux will present a full day of programming on Saturday, April 9th, 2022, from 9am until 5pm at the Woodstock Inn in Woodstock, Vermont.  NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Show Less
Jan 28, 2022
Rage: Managing Our Anger in a Tinderbox World
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Rage. As we all grieve for a pre-pandemic world, we feel a lot of rage with our sadness. Anxiety expert and therapist Lynn Lyons talks about why we collectively feel anger and brings it home to our family and children. How do you help your children through outbursts? How do you raise kids who don't have outbursts as an adult? How do you manage your own rage? Flusterclux Retreat on Parenting Teens Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration coming this month! The retreat will be held at the Woodstock Inn in Vermont. Registration will go live soon!   NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jan 21, 2022
Burnout: Parents, Teachers, Healthcare Workers, This Is For You
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Burnout. It's certainly a word we're hearing frequently, particularly in those who work in healthcare and education. But because burnout is often specific to the role of caring for others, there's a reason why parents feel burnout, too. We unpack burnout, what helps and what makes it worse.  Flusterclux Retreat on Parenting Teens Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration coming this month! The retreat will be held at the Woodstock Inn in Vermont. Registration will go live soon!   NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jan 14, 2022
When Anxious Kids Deny They're Anxious
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When anxious kids can't see that they are anxious or refuse therapy, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons talks about options parents have in helping their kids. We also discuss a listener question where a daughter denies she's anxious or has OCD tendencies.  Flusterclux Retreat on Parenting Teens Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration coming this month! The retreat will be held at the Woodstock Inn in Vermont. Registration will go live soon!   NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the Facebook group to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jan 07, 2022
A Reminder for Silliness and the Power of Play
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In this quick check-in for the New Year, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons reminds parents that silliness is just about the healthiest energy in a house, and that the power of play is very, very real. Parents and Teen Retreat Announced! Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration coming this month! The retreat will be held at the Woodstock Inn in Vermont. Registration will go live soon!   NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Dec 31, 2021
The best advice for handling difficult family members
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On this busy Christmas Eve, we offer a very short episode, but a very powerful piece of advice for the holiday season. Don't visit the relatives without hearing this first. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares the best advice she ever received from her mentor on taking things personally.  Parents and Teen Retreat Announced! Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration coming this month! The retreat will be held at the Woodstock Inn in Vermont. Registration will go live in December.   NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  
Dec 24, 2021
Flusterclux in Session: When Anxiety Is Your Teen's Life Coach
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One listener's teen is trapped by the details of her many worries, and her mom is trying to address each one with rational information and reassuring promises. Hear me offer mom Tori an alternative to letting her daughter's worry rule the family. It’s hard for parents to step out of the content of worry, but it’s also the key to success. Would you like to apply for an upcoming Flusterclux in Session episode? Join the Facebook group and complete the form. Parents and Teen Retreat Announced! Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration coming this month! The retreat will be held at the Woodstock Inn in Vermont. Registration will go live in December.   NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Show Less
Dec 17, 2021
Flusterclux in Session: When Sleep Causes A Family Anxiety
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What happens when anxiety around sleep becomes a nightly ritual? In this Flusterclux In Session episode a parent is becoming all too aware of how her worry about sleep shapes bedtime for her son…and it is probably showing up elsewhere. Listen to Lynn coach a mom on how to make a few key adjustments to the worry routine at bedtime and beyond. Would you like to apply for an upcoming Flusterclux in Session episode? Join the Facebook group and complete the form. Parents and Teen Retreat Announced! Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration coming this month! The retreat will be held at the Woodstock Inn in Vermont. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Show Less
Dec 10, 2021
Flusterclux in Session: The Stress of Two Different Parenting Styles
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We're so excited to deliver the first of our family session episodes. You'll hear anxiety expert Lynn Lyons offer a listener a 45-minute consultation on the way anxiety is presenting in a family. Be a fly on the wall learning how other families' struggles are comfortingly familiar. In this first Flusterclux in Session, Lynn talks to Eleanor, who wants to discuss two very different parenting styles. Hear how Lynn unpacks this family dynamic and her solutions.  Would you like to apply for an upcoming Flusterclux in Session episode? Join the Facebook group and complete the form. Parents and Teen Retreat Announced! Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration coming this month! The retreat will be held at the Woodstock Inn in Vermont. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Show Less
Dec 03, 2021
We’re Our Own Worst Critics
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Anxiety and depression are both internalizing disorders, and identifying our own internal patterns is good to understand so that we can proactively reach externally and connect with others. In honor of the holidays and giving thanks, we discuss the difference between limiting gratitude to an internal habit or leveraging the power of gratitude externally And this episode gets a little silly.    Parents and Teen Retreat Announced. Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Show Less
Nov 26, 2021
Do Your Kids Know How To Ask For Help?
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As parents, we want our kids to learn how to ask for help. We want them to ask directly and to the right people, but how do we help them build those skills? How do we teach them when not to ask for help? We'll help in this episode. Parents and Teen Retreat Announced. Save the date for the weekend of April 9th! Join the Facebook group for first access to information and registration. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Show Less
Nov 19, 2021
The Anxiety Vaccine For Kids Pt. 2: Emotional Management
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What is emotional management and why is it the key to a family's mental health? How can you model it for your kids, and how can you teach them the skills they need to show up at life's difficult moments?  Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons discuss the traits that most anxious parents have in common and how they impact anxious kids. She walks you through those parenting conversations that promote skills that can "immunize" our children against developing anxiety disorders. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Nov 12, 2021
The Anxiety Vaccine For Kids
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There are known strategies that can prevent anxiety disorders from developing. In this two-part episode, anxiety expert Lynn Lyons share her skill-based approach to raising emotionally literate children with the tools needed to manage worry. Prevention starts with our parenting. How can we reduce the impact of anxiety in our families? NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Nov 05, 2021
The progress we’re making with anxious kids
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In response to last week's episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares the mistakes we keep making around helping our kids and students with anxiety and trauma, this episode celebrates the progress we've made since the 2013 publication of her book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. Lynn talks about the effective ways some schools and parents are promoting connection and anxiety management. And Robin asks Lynn about the movement away from a family systems approach to anxiety management in children. In response to last week's episode where anxiety expert Lynn Lyons shares the mistakes we keep making around helping our kids and students with anxiety and trauma, this episode celebrates the progress we've made since the 2013 publication of her book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. Lynn talks about the effective ways some schools and parents are promoting connection and anxiety management. And Robin asks Lynn about the movement away from a family systems approach to anxiety management in children. Links from this episode: Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents by Lynn Lyons and Reid Wilson Challenge Success at Stanford University SPACE Treatment at Yale University NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Oct 29, 2021
The Mental Health Mistakes Schools Make
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Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons discusses ways high schools and colleges support student mental health despite the research indicating they have opposite results, from safe rooms to trigger warnings. We can do better to support students and our kids with anxiety and trauma, but we must avoid quick fixes. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Oct 22, 2021
Ted Lasso Is What We Need
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Ted Lasso, the critically acclaimed show starring Jason Sudeikis on Apple TV, serves as a springboard in this podcast episode to discuss the emotional lives of fathers and sons. We encourage parents to watch Ted Lasso with their tweens and teens and the many lessons the show teaches on mental health, connection, and injury. Note: Spoilers are in this episode for those who have not viewed Seasons 1 and 2 of Ted Lasso. The episode we encourage you to listen to is Dads, Depression, and Anxiety.   NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Oct 15, 2021
If Our Kids Are Anxious, Do We Blame Ourselves?
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Join Lynn and Robin as they respond to a listener question that will resonate with many. When parents struggle with anxiety, it is difficult to watch their children repeat similar patterns. Lynn describes how to disrupt family patterns and how we can move through the blame and shame. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Follow Us Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Oct 08, 2021
How to Raise Problem Solvers
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Every parent wants to raise a problem solver, but that means we have to give them the practice of creating solutions, not fixing things for them. Join anxiety expert Lynn Lyons wrap up the third of a three-part series on the principal skills parents want to help their children develop for a strong foundation in mental health along with flexibility and autonomy. Don't miss them. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Oct 01, 2021
Developing Your Kid's Cognitive Flexibility From Toddlers to Teens
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A kid with a flexible brain becomes a person who can go with the flow when life doesn’t unfold as planned. Handling the unexpected is a critical skill in most scenarios. Rigidity just makes life harder. What does it mean to be cognitively flexible and how can you help your child get there?  In this new, three-episode series, we unpack Lynn Lyons's big triad: Autonomy, Flexibility, and Problem Solving. These essential skills help prevent mental health issues from developing, and, of course, Lynn will tell you how to nurture them in your children.   We reference this past episode of ours on flexibility and rigidity, this podcast on The Pursuit of Happiness with Dr. Catherine Sanderson, and this study by David Yaeger.   NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Sep 24, 2021
Developing Your Kid's Autonomy: How Controlling Are You?
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In this new, three-episode series, we unpack Lynn Lyons's big triad: Autonomy, Flexibility, and Problem Solving. These essential skills help prevent mental health issues from developing, and, of course, Lynn will tell you how to nurture them in your children. We tackle autonomy in this episode, and the important question every parent should ask: "How controlling am I with my kids?"  NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Sep 17, 2021
What Parents Need To Know About Anxiety Medication For Children
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The decision to medicate an anxious child is a big one for parents, as it should be. In this episode, we address the most important considerations. And Lynn gets real about the changes she’s seen over her thirty years of clinical practice. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn Lyons, LICSW, and 9 additional Q&A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up.   Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Sep 10, 2021
The Good News About Your Kid's Psychological Immune System
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immune system and the role of both positive and adverse childhood experiences. While adverse childhood experiences could happen to our kids, parents can have much more control over creating the seven positive childhood experiences that support mental health for life. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn and 9 Q & A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall!  Registration closed August 30th, but this is when those last minute registrants appear, so register by Monday! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Sep 03, 2021
What's New in Season 4 of Flusterclux
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Anxious Kids? Worried Parents?  Flusterclux offers authentic, compassionate straight talk for parents to support their family’s mental health with the stresses of our new normal. Anxiety has been a growing, dominant force in the culture in recent years, and parents need to be on the offense to manage it for themselves and for their kids. Anxiety is treatable when families have the right tools. Psychotherapist and author Lynn Lyons guides you through the "flusterclux" of raising a family. NEW COURSE FOR PARENTS! MANAGING ANXIETY IN CHILDREN: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn and 9 Q & A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you’ll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall!  Registration closes August 30th. Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Aug 31, 2021
Back To School! 4 Ways to Boost Your Kids' Mental Health
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The Back To School season is here, and it's important to check in on the state of your kid's mental health. Anxiety expert Lynn Lyons walks us through this list of things to think about to see how you can support your family's mental health, from sleep to social connection. Lynn also talks to parents feeling anxious about sending their kids off to class in another year of COVID. Join us for a Facebook Live on Sunday, August 29th at 8:30PM EST where Lynn will answer questions live about the new school year in Flusterclux Facebook group. NEW Course for Parents! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self-paced course covers the core tools a family needs to manage their anxiety, the same principles Lynn teaches to families in her private practice. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn and 9 Q & A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall!  Registration closes August 30th. Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Aug 27, 2021
Yelling At Our Kids: When its OK and When It's Not
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Yelling, or even when kids perceive that we are yelling, is a part of most family communications. In this episode anxiety expert and therapist, Lynn Lyons, LICSW, talks about the things we need to pay attention to if and when we yell. This is the last of our short summer episodes before Season 4! NEW Course! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This guide for parents covers the core tools a family needs to know in order to manage their anxiety. This course includes 6 video modules from Lynn and 9 Q & A videos from Lynn and Robin of Flusterclux. What you'll get: Understand how anxiety works so that you can help manage your kids and your own. Learn what to say when anxiety shows up for you or your kids. For Kids: A special video that explains how anxiety works suitable for those ages 6 and up. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall!  Registration closes August 30th. Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Aug 20, 2021
Anxiety in Families: Is it Nature or Nurture?
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Is anxiety genetic? Does it run in families? If your parents had anxiety or depression, what does that mean for you and your children? What approaches can we take to disrupt these generational cycles?    NEW Course! Managing Anxiety in Children: A Guide for Parents This self paced video course launches Monday! Grab a presale discount on your purchase through Sunday of $24.   Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall!  Registration closes August 30th. Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24.   Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Aug 13, 2021
Not Talking About Anxiety Makes It Worse
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One of the easiest mistakes we make when trying to deal without anxiety is to try get rid of the thing that makes us anxious. Lynn Lyons, leading anxiety expert, explains why talking about anxiety is a key piece in learning to manage and tame it for adults and kids. Enjoy this mini episode on our summer break! Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Aug 06, 2021
Find This Sweet Spot In Parenting Where There's Room For Mistakes
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Even though parenting feels like walking a tight rope, it isn't. There's lots of room for your mistakes as long as you stay within the sweet spot of emotional management. Here's how.   Enjoy this mini episode on our summer break! The Anxiety Audit is available again for the month of July only. Hurray! Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jul 30, 2021
Global Language in Kids: How "Never" & "Always" Lead To Anxiety & Depression
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What is global language? Do you or your kids have a habit of using it? Why is it such a strong predictor of anxiety and depression? Here's what to do if your kid loves to drop "always" and "never" bombs.  Enjoy this mini episode on our summer break! The Anxiety Audit is available again for the month of July only. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jul 23, 2021
The Opposite of Anxiety isn't Certainty: A Tale of Two Toddlers
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Parents love offering certainty to their kids. It feels very loving and nurturing. But the opposite of anxiety is not certainty. Hear what parents should focus on helping with instead, as soon as their kids can talk. It's the game changer.   Enjoy this mini episode on our summer break.  The Anxiety Audit is available again for the month of July only. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jul 16, 2021
Take a Vacation From Mom Guilt
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There's no time for mom guilt in a busy summer. Or ever.  Enjoy this mini episode on our summer break.  The Anxiety Audit is available again for the month of July only. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jul 09, 2021
Why Anxiety Makes Us Overreact With Our Kids and How To Shift
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  Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. The Anxiety Audit is available again only for the month of July so you can have a summer reset.  The Anxiety Audit, step by step, gives you signs, indicators, behaviors, and solutions to figuring out where your anxiety lives how to disrupt its process with practice. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jul 02, 2021
How Anxious Parents Give Too Much Information To Their Kids
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Anxiety Expert Lynn Lyons offers some summer homework for anxious parents: stop giving your kids too much information. Learn what to do instead and why anxiety drives this habit. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. The Anxiety Audit will be available again for the month of July.  Stay tuned for more info! Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jun 25, 2021
Summer Safety Traps for Anxious Parents
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Summer’s here and parents are stressed. Hear Lynn talk about safety chatter, what it is, and why anxious parents do it. Our language matters so much. Lynn shares how to offer safety instructions to kids and teens that are practical and not catastrophic. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jun 18, 2021
This Makes Anxiety Worse: What Not to Do to Help Your Kids
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At the conclusion of Mental Health Awareness month, we weed through the bad advice that is so prevalent about anxiety that only makes it worse. We discuss the certain skills we must help our kids (and ourselves) develop to manage anxiety, and we talk about the things parents might try that have the desired outcome. This is an updated version of a previously released episode.  Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat this fall! Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jun 11, 2021
Listeners Ask: Teens & Drinking and Anxiety vs. Intuition
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In today’s episode Lynn answers two listener questions. First a mom discovers her 15 year old has been thinking of drinking to manage her stress. What are the conversations parents should be having with their teens around stress, substance abuse and peer pressure? And another mom raised by an anxious parent is trying to break the cycle with her daughters. She asks Lynn how to know when the voices inside her head are generational patterns of worry repeating or intuitive warnings. How does anxiety filter the decisions we make and the information we receive? Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat! Work with Lynn to discuss your family. Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Parenting Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.
Jun 04, 2021
OCD in Families: What it Is and Isn't
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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is often missed or just misunderstood. What is OCD and what isn’t? How does it differ from really anxious thoughts? How is it treated? While it can show up at any point in life, some kids commonly show signs around 7 when there’s a family history. Lynn explains the connection with anxiety and how it differs, but most importantly, how to manage it and what signs to look for.   Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat! Work with Lynn to discuss your family. Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24.   New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
May 28, 2021
Dads, Depression, and Anxiety
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So often the moms assume the role of supporting the family’s health and mental health, but dads have a critical role to play. What is that role? And how do you encourage your partner to step into that role? When a man is unsure of how to talk about emotions with his children, what should he say? What if he doesn’t want to talk about them with anyone? In this episode, we get raw and deep reflecting on the men most dear to us. How do we raise boys that have the permission and the know-how to connect with others? And how do we help them now become the available and emotionally literate dads of tomorrow? Article referenced: Mom, the Designated Worrier Past Episode discussed: The Anxious Parent: When Its One or Both of You   Join Us For Our Parenting Retreat! Work with Lynn to discuss your family. Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Retreat at Canyon Ranch October 22-24.   New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
May 21, 2021
Summer Camp & Separation Anxiety
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After an atypical year of intense togetherness with our kids, parents may be out of practice being apart from their kids. Today we talk about the separation anxiety parents feel around summer camp, because it really is harder on us that it is on them. How can we best prepare our own kids leaving home for somewhere new? How we can manage our worry when our kids are out of our sight? Why is it so important to learn this skill as a parent? The Anxious Parent: Most families have one, some families have two. But what important role does a non-anxious parent play? How do worry and control often dictate parenting dynamics that put stress on a relationship? How can you tell if anxiety is in charge of your household, and what can you do about it? Here is the article we mention where Lynn was interviewed in Outside Magazine talking about summer camp and technology. Join Us October 22, 2021 at Canyon Ranch Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Retreat at Canyon Ranch.  Advanced Clinician Training-Just a few spots left! Mental health clinicians, register for Lynn’s June 4th advanced clinical training: ANXIOUS FAMILIES: HOW TO USE PROCESS, PARENTS, AND HOMEWORK TO GET FAMILIES MOVING. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
May 14, 2021
The Anxious Parent: When It's One of You or Both of You
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The Anxious Parent: Most families have one, some families have two. But what important role does a non-anxious parent play? How do worry and control often dictate parenting dynamics that put stress on a relationship? How can you tell if anxiety is in charge of your household, and what can you do about it? We mention two past episodes in this week's.  First we mention an episode called Romance and Resentment. And second we discuss an episode and out family baggage and how we parent. Join Us October 22, 2021 at Canyon Ranch Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Retreat at Canyon Ranch.  Advanced Clinician Training-Just a few spots left! Mental health clinicians, register for Lynn’s June 4th advanced clinical training: ANXIOUS FAMILIES: HOW TO USE PROCESS, PARENTS, AND HOMEWORK TO GET FAMILIES MOVING. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
May 07, 2021
The Real Truth About Phobias and How To Manage Them
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What’s the truth about phobias? Emetaphobia, Astraphobia, Autophobia. Some kids became afraid of a variety of things: throwing up, needles, dogs, thunderstorms, the dark. As parents we want to help, we want to make our kids feels safe and comfortable. We want to address the worry. But how we do that often just makes the worry and fear stronger. In this episode I ask Lynn to explain her effective approach of addressing the process of worry and not the content. Because when we try to address the specifics of what our kids worry about, we invite anxiety to move in and take hold. Join Us October 22, 2021 at Canyon Ranch Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Retreat at Canyon Ranch.  Advanced Clinician Training Mental health clinicians, register for Lynn’s June 4th advanced clinical training: ANXIOUS FAMILIES: HOW TO USE PROCESS, PARENTS, AND HOMEWORK TO GET FAMILIES MOVING. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Apr 30, 2021
Social Anxiety Or Social Awkwardness: What's Normal?
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Do you or your child have Social Anxiety or are we now pathologizing ​shyness, too? Learn the different between real signs of social anxiety or just a more introverted temperament. What skills do we need to teach our kids to help them connect with others? As we leave our quarantined isolation, some kids might be feeling out of practice being with other kids and teens again. Hear Lynn tell us how to support them. Join Us October 22, 2021 Get more information about registering for the Flusterclux Retreat at Canyon Ranch.  Mental health clinicians, register for Lynn’s June 4th advanced clinical training: ANXIOUS FAMILIES: HOW TO USE PROCESS, PARENTS, AND HOMEWORK TO GET FAMILIES MOVING. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Apr 23, 2021
What every parent should understand about the college admissions race
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In honor of May 1st's deadline for many college bound seniors to make their choice, Lynn shares really relevant advice from her perspective over the last few decades of watching her adolescent clients to college and struggle with anxiety. Parents struggle knowing how to support academic success for their kids in a healthy way, so Lynn offers advice for parents of kids of all ages.  We also answer a listener question in response to the recent episode on the toxicity of the achievement culture. If you haven’t heard it yet, I suggest you stop and listen to the first episode of Season 3 on Anxiety and good grades.  Events! Mental health clinicians, register for Lynn's June 4th advanced clinical training: ANXIOUS FAMILIES: HOW TO USE PROCESS, PARENTS, AND HOMEWORK TO GET FAMILIES MOVING. Join Lynn and Robin for a luxe parenting retreat at Canyon Ranch this fall on October 22.  Sign up for the presale when you complete this survey. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Apr 16, 2021
Panic Attacks Vs. Anxiety Attacks: What's the Difference?
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Panic Attacks. While they are incredibly common, they are often mislabeled and misunderstood. Teenagers, even adults, will casually throw the label around. What’s the difference between those really powerful moments of anxiety and a panic attack? How do you help your family members when they experience them? New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Apr 09, 2021
Let Your Kids Fail; Don't Let Your Kids Drown: Teens & Homework Coaches
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Mistakes and Failures can be some of life’s best teachers. When it comes to letting our kids fail, how do we know the difference between letting them fail and letting them drown? What do you do if your teenager hasn’t mastered the skill of asking for help? Or, what do you say when your teen doesn’t even care? New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Apr 02, 2021
When Your Teen's Friends Are In Crisis: A Guide To Building Healthy Boundaries
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At some point one of your children’s friends will be in crisis. How do you help your teens help their friends? How do you teach them to develop boundaries with those friends? When your child shares that a friend is feeling suicidal or cutting or other self-harming behaviors, what do you do? New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Mar 26, 2021
School Anxiety: How To Help Our Kids & Teens
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Many families are feeling anxious about changes to their school routine, both kids and parents. How do we support our kids and teens and help them manage their worry about going back to school? And when does this worry become more serious and lead to school avoidance and school refusal? Lynn references Breaking Free of Child Anxiety and OCD: A Scientifically Proven Program for Parents by Eli Lebowitz and her own book co-authored with Reid Wilson, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents.   New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit available until March 30th! Purchase the self-paced course now. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Mar 19, 2021
Families & The Power of Listening
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We talk a lot about the power of words...teaching kids to put words to their feelings, modeling emotional literacy. But the flip side of talking—the critical flip side—is listening. What happens when you don’t feel heard? What’s the toll on your mental health, royal or not? When our kids and teens talk, can we tap into the full power of listening? We discuss the way the public health conversation may change after Oprah's interview with Megan and Harry. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit available until March 30th! Purchase the self-paced course  Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Mar 12, 2021
The Bad Advice That Makes Anxiety Worse
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There's a lot of bad advice out there to weed through when so many claim to be parenting or anxiety experts. But some well-meaning advice will actually strengthen your child's anxious habits, and Lynn Lyons explains why.  Previous Episodes Mentioned: The Anxiety Vaccine Part 2: What Parents Can Do Right Now When a Family Experiences Trauma New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course. Register closes Friday March 5th for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Mar 05, 2021
COVID Fatigue & The Physical Symptoms of Anxiety
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All parents need this pep talk about managing COVID fatigue. And we recast a very popular episode. Anxiety shows up in the body—headaches, tummy troubles, and more. We talk about how understanding the mind body connection can help manage the physical symptoms of anxiety for you and your kids. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course.  Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Feb 26, 2021
Parenting, Perfectionism, and Anxiety: How We Reward Its Toxicity
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Previous Episodes Mentioned: The Anxiety Vaccine Part 2: What Parents Can Do Right Now Extreme Shame and Self-Harm Unpacking Your Family’s Emotional Baggage and Starting Fresh With Your Kids   New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course.  Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Feb 19, 2021
Romance & Resentment: Co-Parenting Tips You Need Now
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Does parenting squash all romance? No, resentment does. This pandemic has disproportionately impacted mothers. It's putting our relationships to the test. So as we work to support our kids, there are traps we all fall into our our relationships. We talk about learning to ask for help in the right way, dropping that defensiveness, reducing that resentment, and how improving your co-parenting will help your kids more than you know, New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course.  Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Feb 12, 2021
High Anxiety & Good Grades: Our Toxic Achievement Culture
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We end Season 2 with a bang of an episode. Finishing off our conversation about preventing anxiety in our kids, we tackle the toxicity of our achievement culture. It’s so normalized it’s invisible to us. And we answer a listener question about how to develop a strong work ethic in her 8 year old twins. Lynn has a must hear answer for kids of any age. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course.  Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Feb 05, 2021
The Anxiety Vaccine pt 2: What Parents Can Do Right Now
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As we face a mental health crisis alongside the pandemic that we really focus on the emotional management skills that we can teach our children. It's an effective way to immunize them against emotional difficulties by talking about their emotions, raising their awareness of them, and parents modeling emotional literacy. Lynn discusses the commons trait that most anxious parents have in common in how they raise anxious kids. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Purchase the self-paced course.  Register for the live Anxiety Audit workshop March 6th, 2021. You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and sell the course to your parenting community as a fundraiser. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Jan 29, 2021
The Anxiety Vaccine: Can Parents Prevent Anxiety Disorders in their Kids?
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While we wait for a vaccine distribution plan to address our global pandemic, there is a mental health crisis happening simultaneously. Our numbers for anxiety were alarming even before 2020, and now, yikes. But there ways parents can promote a skill-based immunization strategy for our family’s mental health. Is there really a vaccine for anxiety? We reference a webinar featuring Lynn Lyons with Dr. Ashish Jha, MD and Dean of the Brown School of Public Health called "Living Through the Pandemic: Managing Hope and Concern with Vaccines on the Horizon." New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Register for the live workshop by 7pm EST January 22nd, 2021. Purchase the self-paced course.  You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and fundraise with Lynn's courses. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Jan 22, 2021
Supporting Teens in the Pandemic: How They Need Us Most
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Supporting Our Teens Teens are part of the age group hardest hit by the impact of the pandemic. Missing out on both the social development and high school's rituals, teens are losing motivation, sleep, and connection. Here's how to help them. We reference a past episode on election anxiety that has many relevant tips to process and talk about very stressful current events in a healthy way with your kids. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Break your 7 habits of worry with Lynn. Register for the live workshop. Purchase the self-paced course.  You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and fundraise with Lynn's courses. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Jan 15, 2021
Helping Kids With Shame & Self-Harm and the Parent Message in Pixar's Soul
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Shame & Soul How do you support your children who feel shame very intensely? They feel shame so intensely that it might include self harming practices. What do you say when children say "I feel no worth?" Or "I can't believe I did that," or "I'm so stupid." How do you support your children who handle their mistakes in such a way that's self-punitive, and they're unforgiving with themselves? Also, we watched the movie soul and there is a message in that movie that we want all parents to hear. 26:00 Lynn and Robin discuss Pixar's latest movie Soul and the teaching opportunities in it for kids and parents. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021!  Register for the live workshop. Purchase the self-paced course.  You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Therapists and school counselors, become a Flusterclux affiliate and fundraise with Lynn's courses. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Jan 08, 2021
The Most Powerful Resolution: Earning a Black Belt in Emotional Management
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New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021!  Register for the live workshop. Purchase the self-paced course.  You can receive a $40 bundle discount for both formats, if you buy the course on the Eventbrite website at the time of registration. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Jan 01, 2021
How Silliness and Laughter Can Be Your Best Parenting Tool
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Silliness has never been a more a critical parenting tool than in 2020. Here's how to use it to make manage your anxiety and make your kids feel safe. Creating "joy" with your family may sound like too much pressure, so we break it down to a few 2 minute increments of joy. And we discuss the toxic humor to avoid. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Registration begins January 1. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Dec 25, 2020
Tough Dynamics At The Holidays: Blended Families and Angry Teens
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For some families, holidays bring out their toughest dynamics. How do divorced parents manage a blended holiday putting their kids first? What if you have a house of angry teenagers with one of them recently in crisis? Is it possible to enjoy your holiday at home when all they want to do is fight?  On a lighter note, what secrets does Gilligan's Island hold for every quarantined family? The digital picture frame Lynn references is on Amazon. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Don't Miss the Anxiety Audit for 2021! Registration begins January 1. Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Dec 22, 2020
Covid's Excuse: The Family You Won't Miss This Holiday
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What if COVID is giving you a pass this year that relieves you? What if you're glad to miss a family holiday? One listener hates Christmas because of her overbearing and difficult mother? How do you set boundaries with your parents? And is it ever too late? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.  New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Dec 18, 2020
Santaphobia: Why Santa Freaks Some Kids Out
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Santaphobia is real. Santa can freak some kids out. How do you help your child who’s afraid Santa will bring COVID into the house? How do you help the child who doesn’t want to hear anything at all about Santa? And how can the Santa story creep into toxic territory when used as a threatening or shaming tool? Do you do that? What’s a healthy way to talk about Santa? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.  New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Dec 16, 2020
Holiday Grief From COVID Chaos: A Pep Talk
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What if your kids are freaking out that they can't celebrate their December holidays in the usual way this year? What if you are? Parents have an exceptional burden this year trying to make magic when they probably don't feel it. How do you manage the disappointment everyone feels and find inspiration to make the best of a situation this December? Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.    New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Join the email list to get news on the upcoming courses for parents, teens, and kids. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Dec 11, 2020
Social Anxiety, Teens, And A Pandemic
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If you have an anxious tween or teen who didn't like joining in before, how do you support them in a pandemic with remote learning? And another parent asks about her six year old's struggles with blaming others and finding friends. What do you say to the child who says, "Nobody likes me?"  Books mentioned in this episode: Playing With Anxiety by Lynn Lyons and Reid Wilson Outsmarting Worry by Dawn Huebner David Gets In Trouble by David Shannon Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.  Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Dec 04, 2020
Flusterclux: For Parents Who Worry
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Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 has challenged every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.   Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast free of psychobabble and full of concrete advice.  In each episode, Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. Find us at flusterclux.com Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Nov 29, 2020
Unpacking your family's baggage about anger, grief, and worry
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Just because your Thanksgiving table will have empty chairs this year, doesn't mean that your family's dynamics aren't with you. What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings. This is an updated version of a previous episode (#10) about three of the most powerful patterns that shape not just our relationships with our families, partners, children, and friends but the world outside our homes. Lynn walks us through the very big sweet spot where we want to be modeling for our kids healthy emotional management and examples of the extremes to avoid.   Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.  Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Nov 27, 2020
Reassurance Traps: How to Know When Anxiety Is In Control
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"It'll be okay." "Everything will be fine." "I'm right here." Our kids turned to us for reassurance, and anxious kids ask for a lot of it. When we tell them everything will be fine, it feels like the right thing to do in the moment. But is it? How does our well-meaning reassurance interfere with our children developing critical psychological skills? And what should we do instead? We'll answer that question in this week's episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. Lynn Lyons 0:32  Hi, I'm Lynn Lyons. I'm an anxiety expert, speaker, Mom and author. I've been a therapist for 30 years. Robin Hutson 0:38  You're here because your family has some anxiety issues, or you want to prevent them. I'm your co-host and Lynn's sister in law, Robin, and I'm here to ask your questions. Lynn Lyons 0:47  Parenting can be a Flusterclux, and I'll help you find your way. There are so many things that we do for our kids, things that are loving and caring and supportive. Things that feel intuitive. Things that we know make our kids feel better. Oh, but if you've heard me talk about these things, oftentimes when it comes to worry and anxiety, there are a few of these things that get a little bit tricky, a little bit sticky. And we're going to talk about one of those. Today, we're going to talk about reassurance. Watch the What I know What I don't Know video on Lynn's Facebook page of her explaining the game. Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.  Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Nov 20, 2020
What I Wish Everyone Knew About Gratitude
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We'll hear a lot of hype about gratitude with the holidays coming. We'll go over how gratitude is proven to help you and how you may have been thinking about it all wrong. What are gratitude's powers? And what are its limits? And one listener asks what to do for her usually studious freshman, who's suddenly indifferent to high school and grades this year.  Recommended talks on gratitude Brian Doyle, 365 Days of Thank you Louie Schwartzberg, Nature. Beauty. Gratitude. Laura Tice, Remember to Say Thank You Michael Norton, How to Buy Happiness   Manage Your Kids' Screen Time The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.  Robin reads Lynn a listener question on what to do for a usually studious freshman who's suddenly indifferent to high school and grades this year. Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode and to learn more about the origins of Chip and Dale and the Chippendale dancers. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Nov 13, 2020
The Physical Symptoms of Anxiety: What You Need to Know
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Anxiety is loud and messy. And it's physical, and it brings with its diarrhea and vomiting and headaches and tummy aches and hives, and all sorts of physical symptoms that can really confuse kids and parents alike. 2:08 Robin references Lynn's video that breakdown the physical process of anxiety for kids.  19:23 The Circle lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kid's Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.  19:34 Robin reads Lynn a listener question Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Nov 06, 2020
Listeners Ask: Difficult Mothers-in-law and Middle School Slobs
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When your middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist— dirty hair, dirty room, indifference to academics, we discuss. And how do you parent your anxious kids in front of unsupportive in-laws? We’ll answer that question in this week’s episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. 1:01 Robin asks Lynn a question from a listener who was reacting to the perfectionism episode a few shows back. Her middle schooler is the opposite of a perfectionist embracing sloppiness and mediocrity. 14:53 Lynn references Robin’s travel website Luxe Recess.  18:57 Robin shares why she uses a circle to manage her kids screen time.  Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle.  17:41 Robin reads a listener question about a mother-in-law who is unsupportive and passive aggressive. 19:38 Lynn references her mentor Michael Yapko and his saying there’s a difference between something that impacts you personally, and something that you have to take personally. 26:26 Robin references Lynn’s books and videos as resources for parents and grandparents to get on the same page helping an anxious child.  29:46 Join the Flusterclux Facebook group, so that you can ask your question on a future episode. New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Oct 30, 2020
How to prevent depression and understand your risk factors
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Winter is coming; let's talk about how to prevent depression. While 2020 has put anxiety center stage, there are risk factors that can bring about depression, too. What are they? And if you have them, what can you do? We'll answer that question in this week's episode of Flusterclux with Lynn Lyons, the show for real talk about worry and other big feelings in parenting. 15:16  Lynn references Michael Yapko, one of her professional mentors. 29:17  Robin reads a listener question about a 13-year-old who sought treatment for social anxiety in the past. Since COVID, she’s become more withdrawn, eating less and just not interested in going anywhere. How does one know if she really is fine or if it’s more serious like depression. 38:46  So, join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you have an opportunity to ask Lynn, your question for an upcoming episode. And that’s Flusterclux with an X. SUGGESTED READING LIST Breaking the Patterns of Depression by Michael Yapko Advice I Ignored: Stories and Wisdom from a Formerly Depressed Teenager by Ruby Walker Feeling Great: The Revolutionary New Treatment for Depression and Anxiety by David Burns New episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST.  Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.  
Oct 23, 2020
Election Anxiety: How Not to Scar Your Kids
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:40 Lynn cites the American Psychological Association research, 68% of adults say currently that the election is “a significant source of stress.” 19:39 Lynn references a past episode that talks about when parents argue and model a resolution verses the vitriol of political debates among family members. 29:04 And Robin recommends all three seasons of Long Way Up starring Ewan McGregor and Charley Boorman as an antidote for election anxiety. 30:22 Lynn recommends the Dolly Parton documentary Here I Am on Netflix. 32:20 please join the Flusterclux Facebook group. And we want to let our listeners know that we are switching our schedule, and new episodes arrive Friday at 12:00AM EST. Episode 27 arrives October 23rd. Follow Flusterclux on Facebook and Instagram. Follow Lynn Lyons on Twitter and Youtube.
Oct 16, 2020
How to Find A Good Child Therapist For Your Kid's Anxiety
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1:13 We’re going to do a progress report for students this fall. 4:04 HOW TO SUPPORT YOUNG LEARNERS THIS FALL 7:15 MIDDLE SCHOOLERS AND REMOTE LEARNING 13:01 HIGH SCHOOL, COLLEGE, and ACADEMIC PRESSURE 17:56 Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a Circle to manage your kids’ screen time at home.  18:22 A LISTENER QUESTION: THE CHILD THERAPIST RELATIONSHIP “I have a 17 year old daughter with general and social anxiety that is seeing a licensed mental health professional for about nine months now. I’ve now realized this professional is not making any headway with my daughter’s anxiety. How do I end the relationship with this therapist? My daughter does like her, and 1) find a new therapist that can truly help my daughter and 2) not cause my daughter’s anxiety to go into a tailspin with a new therapist and possibly damage our relationship.” 24:59 WHAT TO ASK A CHILD THERAPIST FOR ANXIETY Lynn goes over the questions parents should ask any potential therapist for their child. She goes over recommended approaches for anxiety and OCD.  27:36 Robin and Lynn discuss their obsession with watching Masterclass  lessons. 33:22 Join the Facebook group so that you can ask Lynn your question on future episodes. Follow Flusterclux on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.
Oct 12, 2020
Picky Eater Kids: Preventing and Managing Food Anxiety
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0:55 Lynn mentions an eating disorder called avoidant restrictive food intake disorder that came out in the latest edition of the DSM five, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Fifth Edition of Psychiatric Diagnosis. 6:22 Robin shares a parenting hack to introduce new fruits or vegetables to young children. 8:47 Robin suggests a game called eat your face, where you take a variety of cut up fruits and vegetables to start design facial expressions. 14:06 Robin asks Lynn if picky eaters are grasping for control because they do not feel that have autonomy. 26:52 Lynn describes what isn’t a picky eater. 28:18 Robin references Lynn’s books, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents. Use the Circle to manage your kids screen time. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a circle. I love it. 30:59 Listener Question about the pandemic affecting a child's memory. Join the Facebook group so you can ask your question to Lynn in a future episode. Closing Music Courtesy of Susie Tallman, "Apples & Bananas"
Oct 05, 2020
Parenting, Perfectionism, and Anxiety: How We Reward Something Toxic
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1:09  Lynn describes the connection of perfectionism and anxiety in adults and kids she treats and suggests parents start looking at themselves and the messages around perfectionism they are sending. Robin references the book The Conscious Bride. 11:23  Lynn mentions the episode when she refers to the marital snort. 13:52  Lynn discusses the connection between perfectionism and procrastination and signs of perfectionism in children. 23:30 The Circle is what we use to manage our kids’ screen time. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off a circle device for your home. 23:37  Robin reads a listener question for Lynn to answer about two girls who have anxiety of getting shots. 31:03  Robin references the co-parenting episode in relation to loading the dishwasher. 32:03  We talk about family silliness and the idea of embracing the messy 33:14  We encourage you to join our Facebook group so that you can submit a question for a future episode with Lynn.
Sep 28, 2020
How Family Laughter And Silliness Are Our Families' Most Powerful Tonics
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Lynn references the three prior episodes on the arc of diagnosis in anxiety and depression and what to notice in your child and what to do if you have a diagnosis and helping your child get the best treatment. 3:02  Robin mentioned in one of our first episodes the powerful that when children see us being playful, it’s telling them that they are safe— that the world is okay. 3:45  Lynn references an amazing podcast on bias with Jordan Harbinger and mentions Paul Eckman’s work on micro-expressions. 14:41  Robin talks about blogger Tania Lamb and her Halloween costumes, and I think she has a Facebook Live show, and her website is called Lola Lambchops. 20:58  Lynn shows the family culture of comedy giving James Corden and his parents as examples of two people who love to laugh. 22:30  We talk about teasing being toxic and not to exploit a child’s suffering, referencing Jimmy Kimmel’s annual Halloween candy prank as something not to do. But we are all for pranking adults like young woman who got her wisdom teeth out and her brothers picked her up and convinced her there was a zombie apocalypse. LISTENER QUESTION 23:03 This listener question is from a mom of three teens who are home with remote learning. She wants to know how to keep her kids engaged with work, and wonders how much nagging it acceptable to keep everyone on track while also working from home. MANAGE YOUR INTERNET WITH A CIRCLE 34:13 It lets you set daily limits for different apps and social media. It also controls your kids’ Wi Fi schedules, and you can adjust age appropriate filters for searches from little kids to teens. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off of a Circle. I love it. 34:30 Lynn brings up the discussion of fears from the week prior and explains why she is afraid of rats and the role the movies in our heads play in conjuring fear. Robin is afraid of sharks. 36:53  Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode.
Sep 21, 2020
Hope After A Teen Anxiety and Depression Diagnosis
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Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask your question on a future episode. Suggested Reading Don't Say That Depression Is Caused by a Chemical Imbalance Stressors and chemical imbalances: Beliefs about the causes of depression in an acute psychiatric treatment sample. Suggested Viewing Lynn Lyons' Teen Anxiety and Depression Webinar Michael Yapko's Keys to Unlock Depression:  Why Skills Work Better Than Pills  
Sep 14, 2020
When You Should Get Your Child A Depression or Anxiety Diagnosis
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1:00 Lynn provides an overview of getting a child a mental health diagnosis and asks th4e questions all parents should consider. How do you get one? Do you need one? 8:26 Lynn explains the right way to think about a diagnosis and its role in treating a child or teen. She explains a child’s diagnosis is often a family diagnosis and references the book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents that give families a roadmap after an anxiety diagnosis. She talks about how a depression, anxiety or ADHD diagnosis affects all members of the family and how to stop accommodating the diagnosis. 12:47 We talk about siblings of the diagnosed child and how they experience the disorder. 17:28 Robin talks about why she love her Circle to manage screen time with her kids. Our affiliate link will get you $20 off of a Circle. 18:10 Robin reads a listener question by a parent who is married to someone with anxiety and depression that has increased from the stress of two children, one with special needs and work. Lynn shares references for couples therapy: Michelle Wiener-Davis, and Terry Real. ADDITIONAL BOOKS AND PODCASTS FOR PARENTS WITH SPECIAL NEEDS KIDS Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid: A Survival Guide for Ordinary Parents of Special Children Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid Podcast The Mama Bear podcast Join the Flusterclux Facebook group so that you can ask Lynn a question in a future episode.   The podcast launched with the temporary name A Mom's Retreat in April 2020 for its pilot season. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/
Sep 07, 2020
Welcome to Flusterclux: Fix Anxiety With Lynn Lyons LICSW
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Parenting isn't easy in the best of circumstances, and 2020 will challenge every parent to support the emotional health of their kids and themselves.   Flusterclux represents that feeling of overwhelm and tells parents how to better manage their worry and big feelings like anger and sadness so that they are modeling healthy emotional awareness. Lynn Lyons, therapist, author, and speaker is one of the world's experts on helping parents, kids, and teens manage anxiety. She talks with co-host and sister-in-law Robin Hutson in a weekly podcast free of psychobabble and full of concrete advice.  In each episode, Lynn answers listener questions and gives parents concrete strategies for developing the traits that are their kids' best defenses against anxiety and depression later in life: flexibility, resilience, autonomy, and problem solving. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/       The podcast launched with the temporary name A Mom's Retreat in April 2020 for its pilot season. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/
Aug 31, 2020
Why Rigidity is the Bellwether of Anxiety Disorders in Children
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Show Notes 0:34 Lynn and Robin discuss the new season of Flusterclux and describe who the podcast is for. Lynn describes emotional management as a goal for her therapy clients and her own family and why it is such a critical skill to strengthen relationships and prevent loneliness. 6:10 Robin and Lynn discuss the reason behind the name change from A Mom’s Retreat to Flusterclux. 8:46 Robin asks Lynn how families can tell if anxiety and anxious patterns are creeping into a household as a result of the stress of 2020. Lynn talks about rigidity and routine and explains the critical importance of flexibility within a routine for children and teens. 19:06 Robin asks Lynn how parents should be talking to their children about fall schedules to make room for its possibilities of changing. 21:53 Robin asks Lynn if there are better ways to talk to teens about school this fall than others to promote flexibility and adaptability. Lynn asks listeners a critical question she suggests all families ask themselves about the pandemic. 24:19 Lynn answers a listener question about a child who gets anxious being on camera and needs a reassurance that remote learning cannot provide. Lynn talks about the skill to develop around accepting criticism and social anxiety’s fear of judgement. 30:12 Lynn shares stories of her husband’s past whistling and then shows off her own whistling talents. 32:10 Join our Facebook group so that you can submit a question for a future episode with Lynn. We thank our sponsor Milestones Pediatric Therapy Center. Find us at flusterclux.com https://www.facebook.com/flusterclux https://www.instagram.com/flusterclux/ Show music by Peter Sandberg.
Aug 31, 2020
When a family experiences a traumatic event together & If your child says "nobody likes me"
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Show Notes :037 Robin reads the first of three listener questions in the episode. the first question. A mom asks how to help her six-year-old son who says other kids hate him. Lynn provides guidance on improving social skills as a life-long challenge, learning to take criticism, and learning to play with more flexibility. 12:06 The second listener question involves a family who experienced a traumatic accident while hiking together when a boulder crushed their daughter. They are trying to help her overcome her PTSD and flashbacks from the accident. Lynn discussing how to create mental distance from the event, avoid globalizing the event, and how to support the family’s different preferences of healing. 26:40 Robin reads the 3rd listener question about encouraging flexibility in a 4 year old. 27:07 Lynn teaches parents how to encourage flexibility in their children using the wall of flexibility and uncooked spaghetti. 31:44 Robin and Lynn discuss the Annie’s Mac and Cheese stage of parenting 33:42 Robin mentioned Lynn’s book Anxious Kids Anxious Parents that she wrote with Reid Wilson. Season 2 begins with new name next week! 33:06 Lynn mentions this is our last episode before we launch Season Two next Monday, 8/31/20 with a brand-new name. If you are a subscriber, it will be a seamless transition. Make sure that you subscribe on whatever platform you listen to the podcast on. And also at 8:30PM on Sunday night, August 30, join us on the Mom’s Retreat Facebook page for a live Facebook get together where we will give have giveaways and share announcements about new content coming for Season 2. So please join us this Sunday, August 30th at 8:30PM EST.  See you then! Find us at www.amomsretreat.com https://www.facebook.com/amomsretreat https://www.instagram.com/amomsretreat/ https://twitter.com/Amomsretreat
Aug 24, 2020
Back To School Anxiety: Supporting The Social-Emotional Needs of Students and Teacher
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0:49 Robin reads the first question from listeners. Hi, I’m a school counselor in an elementary school. The return to school has many parents, myself included, anxious. With that said, how do you suggest I coach parents on supporting students prior to the return date? We know kids are picking up their cues from the adults. They’re surrounded by and many times those adults are unintentionally feeding student fears. How can I assist a family member and myself who’s super stressed and anxious, but is unwilling or unable to change patterns? 7:44 Lynn talks about the importance of positive expectancy in our language with our children. 9:44 Lynn gives in home and at school ways to create ritual for a new school year. 12:10 Lynn talks about why academics are NOT the priority this fall, and has a special message for parents concerned about their children falling behind academically. 15:49 Robin reads the second listener question about teacher anxiety I facilitate the majority of our building-based professional development as I try to think about what the fall will look like, and I really can’t. We have a few teachers we’re really concerned about in regards to their emotional health and readiness for in-person instruction. My principal and I have discussed this at length, how do we address this with them gracefully without putting them over the edge and make them feel supported? We think they could really use some professional help. What can we do? 19:17 Robin referenced one of Lynn’s Facebook Live videos talking about feeling back to school anxiety for the first time: “the worry rookies”. 21:13 Robin talked about this Facebook post that was a letter from nurses to teachers. 22:03 Lynn talks about not misplacing anger or blame on the school situation but to model empathy. Get inspired by our summer guide in order to make some memories or celebrate the start of school.
Aug 17, 2020
Listeners Ask: Siblings Fighting: Don't Say Boys Will Be Boys
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0:31 HOW TO HELP SIBLINGS STOP FIGHTING “How to best deal with sibling fights being stuck at home for such an extended time. All the extra emotions everyone is feeling siblings are fighting way more than usual. What can I do?” 0:54 Lynn differentiates between the two kinds of sibling fights. One is that it’s mostly verbal and yelling and calling each other names or arguing over who gets to sit where on the couch, etc. And the other is when they get physical, and so somebody is in danger of getting hurt. 7:42 AVOID “BOYS WILL BE BOYS” THINKING Lynn explains the negative impact tolerating violence causes and how to set limits to curb it. 13:49  The Montessori school cure all of a little Dixie cup of water 14:30 A WORKING MOM WITH AN EMPTY TANK “As a working mom with two children under five, I’ve noticed a significant change in my own frustration, tolerance, and increased exhaustion and anger during the quarantine. Aside from taking a walk with the stroller, time alone or spending any time on myself is just nonexistent. And neither child sleeps through the night consistently. What strategies can I employ at home to be less emotionally reactive?” 15:09 Start with sleep. We did a whole episode on sleep, 19:11  The playifcation on relaxation with tingly head massagers that are in the shape of a tulip. 22:09 Join our Facebook group where you can submit your own questions to Lynn for a future episode. We’re relaunching this podcast August 31st for a second season under a new name. Follow our social media. That’s where you’ll learn about the new name first.
Aug 10, 2020
Listeners Ask: Back To School Anxiety and Teens Self Diagnosing Their Depression
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Aug 04, 2020
Listeners Ask: Teens And Peer Pressure
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For our summer bonus episodes, Lynn is answering listener questions.  "Help. I do not recognize my newly turned 13-year-old, she is exhibiting behavior I never would have anticipated. She has a thrill for adrenaline and constantly asking me about stupid things I did as a kid, and I feel like I'm mourning the sweetest little girl I've ever known. She recently confessed that she has attempted cutting which absolutely floored me." Lynn talks about how to help your teenagers develop skills to say no to their friends and how to show empathy without imitating their friends who have self destructive habits. Lynn mentions her webinar, Teens, Anxiety, and Depression, for teens and parents for families who feel that their children are struggling during this age. Robin references Lynn's Facebook Live video about the stresses of fall school and how parents are trying to manage the choices of going back to school this fall. If you have a listener question for Lynn, be sure to join the podcast Facebook group to submit one.
Jul 27, 2020
Co-Parenting In A Pandemic: How to Find A Better Balance
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 The research shows this pandemic has been disruptive to our families in significant ways. It's putting our marriages and relationships to the test. Collegial coparenting is critical.  So as we share the parenting load, there are traps we all fall into with our partners and spouses. Lynn talks about asking for help in the right way, dropping defensiveness, resentment, and learning not to take the wrong things personally. In this episode Robin references Deb Perelmen's article in the New York Times: "In the Covid-19 Economy, You Can Have a Kid or a Job. You Can’t Have Both." Robin also references an episode of Celebrity Wife Swap but could not remember who starred in the episode. It was actually the premiere episode featuring Carnie Wilson and Tracey Gold. When referencing the movie This is 40 by Judd Apatow, Robin speaks of her past as a travel writer and how she's trying to bring the feeling of a vacation into the home. And if you need some inspiration, we have that summer episode guide from last week with all sorts of ways to create some family fun. The end song is Susie Tallman's Kookaburra, from one of her many outstanding children's albums.
Jul 07, 2020
A Family Summer Guide To 2020: Social Distancing Fun
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Summer's here, and after our spring, we all would like to have some special summer moments outside with our families. In this episode, Lynn Lyons discusses how to handle common reactions from children. Maybe your child is anxious the virus and doesn't want to ease back into normal activities. Maybe your older kids are wanting to be too social or not social enough. We unpack boredom and its connection to creativity and unstructured play so that listeners can be ready with a constructive response to "I'm bored". And finally we discuss our ultimate summer guide to family fun. We asked podcast listeners to share their ideas on ways to make some magic for their kids this summer. The guide has 33 ideas: inside, outside, virtual, and local; you're bound to find ideas right for your family. We mention several things for summer activities and socializing that we compiled as an Amazon list. It includes the chocolate coins, picnic and hiking supplies, and the portable potty system Robin discusses. Music at the end of the episode includes "Summertime" with permission by Susie Tallman whose children's albums were some of our favorites when our kids were younger.
Jul 01, 2020
Listeners Ask: Meltdowns, Anxiety And Depression in Kids
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This has been a crazy 2020. I mean, things were changing month by month, then week by week now, day by day, and what I'm hearing and perhaps what you're experiencing as parents is that kids are feeling more emotional. Maybe you're seeing an uptick in their anxiety, they're a little more withdrawn, more depressed, maybe there's an increasing feeling of anger or fear or frustration about what's going on in the world with the virus and with the protests. So today, we're going to take questions from you, the listeners, about the things you're seeing emotionally in your kids and what we can do to help as we try and navigate what continues to be such a tricky time. Lynn answers five questions from members of our Facebook group. And we discuss our next episode on ways to make your summer still memorable with several ideas for socially distanced family fun. Read a complete transcript on our website.
Jun 15, 2020
Confronting White Fragility and Colorblindness
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As the world reacts to the Black Lives Matter movement. we discuss how emotional management can help white people handle white fragility and why families should stop the cycle of raising colorblind children. We provide additional resources for our listeners to read, watch, and listen to for themselves and their children. Articles for Therapists, Teachers, and Parents An Invitation to White Therapists Specific, Candid, and Helpful Responses to Expressions of Racism and Bias My White Friend Asked Me on Facebook to Explain White Privilege. I Decided to Be Honest As a Black Mother, My Parenting Is Always Political Dear White Parents, My Black Son and Husband Need You Right Now White Kids Need to Start Using Their Privilege for Good — Here’s How to Teach Them 9 Phrases Allies Can Say When Called Out Instead of Getting Defensive Beyond Blackout Tuesday: Starting Your Lifelong Anti-Racism Journey Suggested Reading So You Want to Talk About Race, by Ijeoma Oluo Waking Up White, by Debby Irving  How To Be Less Stupid About Race, by Crystal M. Donaldson  How To Be An Anti-Racist, by Ibram X. Kendi Antagonists, Advocates, and Allies by Catrice M Jackson Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad They Were Her Property by Stephanie E. Jones-Rogers, PhD I’m Still Here by Austin Channing   Social Media To Follow Ally Henny's Facebook Page Rachel Cargle's Instagram Page Waste Free Marie's Instagram Page Podcasts By Black Mothers   Articles by Black Bloggers To Support 5 Movies To Watch On Netflix In June 2020 Starring Black Leads Black YouTube Family Vloggers DO Exist! 3 TV Moments That Perfectly Portray “The Talk” For Black Families Teach Your Child to Be An Advocate For Change
Jun 08, 2020
Unpacking Your Family's Baggage And Starting Fresh With Your Kids
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What did you learn about handling anger, sadness, and worry as a child from your family? How does that affect your parenting? We unpack our family baggage in this episode to see how we can stop dysfunctional generational patterns and give our kids the space for healthy feelings. This is a very special episode about three of the most powerful patterns that shape not just our relationships with our families, partners, children, and friends but the world outside our homes. Lynn walks us through the very big sweet spot where we want to be modeling for our kids healthy emotional management and examples of the extremes to avoid. Links to what we talked about The Jane Fonda documentary Our prior episode on flattening our emotional curve "Ac Cent Tchu Ate The Positive" that great Bing Crosby and the Andrew Sisters cover Everyone should watch Lynn's video on her website of a lecture she gave called "Can Mr. Rogers Save Us All?"
Jun 01, 2020
Listeners Ask: Mom Guilt, Burnout, and School Stress
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Mom guilt, burnout, and stress over remote learning has most parents exhausted these days. Hear psychotherapist Lynn Lyons share ways to manage these common pandemic parenting stresses. In this bonus episode, we asked listeners to share what they needed help with most, and Lynn delivers strategies to make days smoother. 1:38 We address burnout and how to fill an empty tank is small breaks. 6:56 A listener mentions that she feels guilty telling her children she is working when they want her attention. Lynn discusses the real purpose of guilt as an emotion and the toxicity of misapplied guilt. 12:06 The conversation moves to schoolwork stress and how to give the right space for kids to perform and why getting involved isn't always best. 19:06 We discuss how the lockdown has been a teacher of resilience for kids used to getting what they want. Lynn describes the difference between disruption and devastation and how the pandemic affects families differently. Lynn explains that our own self care must be independent of our children's emotions. 29:29 Robin asks Lynn to relay a time as a mom that she couldn't easily show her vanilla ice cream face. Read the whole transcript on our site.
May 25, 2020
Parents: Try These Bedtime Routine Hacks
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Our sleep is very illustrative of other things that are going on. When we opened it up on our Facebook group and asked people if they had questions, we got a lot of responses. So, for anybody who's listening and who's wondering whether or not the sleep issues that they're dealing with in their family are unique, the answer is no. They are not. 3:42 Our first section of the show, Lynn offers guidance to parents of younger children. Starting at age four, Lynn offers ways for children to fall asleep and stay in their own beds. Lynn gives a glimpse of the recorded scripts she makes for her clients to help their children go to sleep, and we offer a free download of an example for you to use. 13:15 Lynn talks about the "mommy fruit scale" and how to convey to your younger kids that you just feel out of gas. 14:45 Lynn goes over realistic boundaries for tween and teen sleeping schedules and how to negotiate healthy sleep limits with them. We talk about the role of devices in sleep disruption and how to manage it. We discuss a WiFI device that can shut off at night to prevent kids from accessing the internet past bedtime. Use our affiliate link for a $20 off coupon. 22:35 We discuss the need to limit our exposure to the news, particularly children, who cannot process it well, as one listener's 4th grader is now waking throughout the night and watching news throughout the day. 26:20 Lynn gives parents her own favorite sleep trick that prevents the brain from ruminating. She goes over her ABC game and its magical amount of cognitive functioning to prevent rumination. Outro music is the wonderful Susie Tallman and her cover of "Slumber Song" from her album Lullaby Themes For Sleepy Dreams.
May 18, 2020
Helicopter Parents: Strategies for Landing
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Helicopter parenting isn’t just about being nervous at the playground. Helicopter parents is a loaded label, and we define it in this episode as a hovering parent trying to control an outcome. 4:27 WHEN WE CAN’T GO TO THE ER AS EASILY We discuss the pragmatic balance of reducing the risk of physical play during a pandemic when the same medical care isn’t as straightforward of an option. 7:19 HELICOPTER PARENTS DURING PLAY Lynn gives examples of parents intervening in play that isn’t helpful. She answers a listener’s question about her 6 year-old’s right to privacy and potty language habits while using Facetime. 10:12 HELICOPTER PARENTING AND ACADEMICS Lynn talks about the opportunities for parents who helicopter and intervene to step back in this new pass-fail scenario where the stakes aren’t so high and encourages ways to inject more independence with students. 13:06 WHAT DOES HELICOPTER PARENTING MEAN? Lynn explains that academic helicopter parenting is a fear-based effort not let the chips fall where they may, to not let a child fail out of fear of failure, being judged, or other reasons. 15:54 BRINGING UNSCHOOLING INTO THE HOME We talk about the opportunity to introduce the importance of learning life skills from parents around the home, and discuss the chance to introduce unschooling opportunities—the chance for child-led learning on topics they choose over the summer. Here’s the remote learning platform we are using. 20:23 NEARLY EVERYONE HELICOPTERS IN AT LEAST ONE AREA Some parents intervene more in their children’s school work, the safety of their play, their friendships or appearance. Lynn asks how parents might step away now from those areas and see what happens when the stakes aren’t so high. 24:41 THE CRUX OF THE HELICOPTER PARENTING We want to protect our kids from hard feelings. Lynn gives examples of moms who won’t buy a pet so her daughter won’t have to grieve for it when it dies. Her "Mr. Rogers Talk" is referenced. Watch it here. Lynn outlines the key parenting habit that is a predictor of anxiety disorders developing in children. 28:26 HOMEWORK FOR PARENTS Lynn gives parents to some homework to think about and some language to use with their kids. We suggest you join the Facebook group so you can submit questions for future episodes. A full transcript is available on our site.
May 07, 2020
Regressive Behavior From Toddlers to Teens: What’s Normal
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You've finally gotten your little one to stop asking you to wipe his bum. Or you've finally gotten your teenager to be able to handle things without huge emotional disruptions. And now, the behaviors are back. Parents, that's called regression. It's a normal part of development. It's normal under the most usual of circumstances. And it's certainly normal during this time of pandemic parenting. 1:28 WHY WE’RE SEEING SO MUCH CHILD REGRESSION NOW 3:49 REGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR SHOWS UP AT TIMES OF STRESS AND CHANGE Lynn references the book Touchpoints-Three to Six: Your Child's Behavioral and Emotional Development by T. Berry Brazelton and Joshua Sparrow 7:13 REGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR IS LIKE COMFORT FOOD Robin references Susie Tallman's "I've Been Working on the Railroad" 10:15 LISTENER QUESTION Lynn answers a listener question about a 7-year-old boy who is now hitting and talking back, behavior that has happened since staying at home. 12:30 HYPO AND HYPER AROUSAL AND HOMEOSTASIS IN CHILDREN'S BEHAVIOR 16:37 WHY EVERYONE FEELS OUR OF GAS 22:00 LISTENER QUESTION #2 Speech regression and stuttering in a 3-year-old boy. Mom wonders if this new behavior is related to being stuck at home. 25:45 REGRESSION TEENS AND TWEENS Join the Facebook group where you can submit questions for future episodes.
Apr 29, 2020
Plan Now for the Next New Normal
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As states try and determine the safest schedules to reopen businesses and schools, parents will want to think about an eventual transition back to normal and which family quarantine habits will be tough to break. We didn't have time to prepare when we were thrown into this traumatic change, but we can prepare for our journey out. Full transcript available on our website. 1:37 Lynn identifies the importance of bringing back structure, chores, and sleep routines to assist children, and 8:40 She shares how teens might even angrier and more withdrawn more and what to do about it. We discuss this internet device to set screen limits. You can use our affiliate link for $20 off. 10:58 We discuss Bill Hader and Kristen Wiig doing a great lip sync duet to “Nothing's Gonna Stop Us Now” from the movie Skeleton Twins. The scene will make parents of teens feel validated. 17:55 Lynn asks what we are seeing in our families and how has this increased stress manifested in your family patterns. Who is being more rigid? Blaming? Emotive? Withdrawn? How can this experience be a teacher showing areas of family behavior that can shift. 25:15 We discuss how the pandemic brought some powerful revelations, like "It took a pandemic to make me realize blank." Lynn references Jill Bolte Taylor's book My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist's Personal Journey.
Apr 23, 2020
Why We Must Flatten Our Emotional Curve For Our Kids
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Parents must attempt to manage their emotions in front of their kids. Lynn talks about how to handle powerful moments of anger and panic in an an ideal way as well as how to conclude unintentional emotional outbursts in a positive way to model emotional literacy for your kids. What is emotional vomiting and why it is a destructive habit. We also talk about the trap of unhealthy reassurance, even when the Hogwarts ride breaks down at the Harry Potter theme park. Lynn outlines the list of behaviors that should always be off limits at home, too, around physical behavior and language. Full transcript available on our site.
Apr 16, 2020
Managing Disappointment: When FOMO Becomes Just MO
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What important family event are you missing out on? All of these events, these milestones, these celebrations, they’re being canceled and postponed. And it’s not just the actual event. It’s all the fun, the excitement, all the preparation, all the anticipation. In this episode, we find silver linings in ways to teach our kids critical life skills in adaptability and managing disappointment. We talk about why to put those perfection issues on the brakes and how to focus on creativity, silliness, and connection. 1:35 FEAR OF MISSING OUT VS. MISSING OUT Lynn talks about all of the ritual that we are missing that mark birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, weddings, and births. Lynn talks about how to be empathic for everyone missing out but still figure out a way to mark the celebration and give meaning to it. 3:20 MARKING MILESTONES Lynn suggests a way to acknowledge a milestone by changing something in the house or a family behavior or privilege when social gatherings can’t take place. 6:07 THE ROLE OF FLEXIBILITY Lynn explains why flexibility is so critical to manage anxiety. Anxiety want rigidity. Lynn challenges the commonplace advice of our need for structure right now. These new conditions are an opportunity to increase our kids’ skills in being adaptive and managing disappointment. 7:30 MANAGING DISAPPOINTMENT Teaching our kids that things are bigger than they are and to manage disappointment can be a positive outcome of our social isolation. Life will be filled with disappointments and learning to adapt well to it is an important skill. 10:58 THE ROLE OF SOCIAL MEDIA Lynn talks about the dangers social media can play now in making a parenting competition of how families are celebrating kids birthdays, for example. She warns that social media doesn’t foster social connection, but social comparison. 14:05 PROTECT JOY AND CREATIVITY Focusing on creativity and silliness are balms for anxious states. Indulge in the creative work of others being shared online instead. 15:02 PERFECTION ISSUES Lynn advises those with perfection issues to realize a pandemic is no time for striving for perfection. She advises those to use it as a time to work on authenticity and vulnerability. Perfection is a joy smusher, too, and it interferes with your ability to connect. 18:44 A HUMBLING MOMENT FOR LYNN Lynn talks about how great it is to have her two college-aged sons home from college now and how much laughter there is. I ask her to imagine these circumstances when her boys were both under the age of 8. 19:18 FACEBOOK GROUP AND NEXT EPISODES Thanks for listening and join the Facebook group for the podcast if you’d like to submit topics for us to talk about. We’re looking at all of that stuff coming in! We discuss upcoming topics we’re planning on family sleep, regression, and losing it in front of your kids. Full Transcript here. Show music is "First Little Steps" by Peter McIsaac
Apr 12, 2020
Stuck-In-Home Parenting
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0:05 THE STUCK-IN-THE-HOUSE PARENT We’ve got stay-at-home parents; we’ve got working full-time parents. We have entered into a new category of parenting. This is the stuck-in-the-house parent. This is our first episode ofA Mom’s Retreat podcast with Lynn Lyons (my sister-in-law). This podcast has stepped in to take the place of in person parenting retreats we began in the fall. Lynn explains why we feel like we are riding a new emotional rollercoaster, and why we feel so exhausted, as our brains are working overtime to absorb our new life conditions. She compares this time’s mental and emotional drain to having a newborn at home for the first time. 3:27 CATASTROPHIC LANGUAGE  Lynn asks that we pay attention to the undeniable anxiety we feel and to avoid patterns of catastrophic language in front of our children. 4:47 DAVID BARLOW  She references David Barlow who defined anxiety as an overestimation of a problem and an underestimation of your resources to deal with it but shares we are in the opposite of an underestimation of the problem with an overestimation of our resources. 6:13 CATASTROPHIC PARENTING Lynn validates that we have reason to be worried. We have reason to feel uncertain, we have reason to feel as if we’re off our kilter a little bit. Lynn gives guidance on communicating uncertainty reasonably and catastrophically with our children. 8:09 KEEPING YOUR COOL AND THE POWER OF SILLINESS  Lynn talks about taking a reset or a reboot. She explains what she means be learning to be vanilla ice cream for your kids. Silliness and doing things that are unexpected are a great way to shift the emotional tone in your family. Lynn gives examples of how consciously injecting play can rebalance both parents and comfort children and gives examples how. Lynn talks about her own childhood memories of her parents doing the twist in the kitchen to At the Hop albums. 15:15 SLOWING DOWN IN SOCIAL DISTANCING  We talk about the gifts that can come from this chapter with more time together at home when children’s schedules are lighter. Lynn encourages us to fill this time as a family with more play in a way that doesn’t feel like an additional chore for parents. Lynn’s book Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents has several examples at the end of every chapter of ways to be silly, inject surprise, and make family time more playful as a practice. She discusses the power of external connection among our family and friends to stave of the anxious and depressive patterns we are vulnerable to right now by stating in an internal state. 18:06 OUTRO So, thanks for joining us on this first episode of A Mom’s Retreat. You are not alone in this. Join us next episode as we discuss the milestones we are missing. We are all in this together. The purpose of this is for us to feel connected, validated, and supported. Robin Producer of A Mom’s Retreat A full transcript is available on our website. Our show music is “First Little Steps” by Peter McIsaac.
Apr 09, 2020
Trailer: Flusterclux With Lynn Lyons
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Hi, This is Lynn Lyons, and I’m a psychotherapist focusing on anxiety and families. I’ve been in practice for close to 30 years and have traveled the world speaking to thousands of parents about how to best manage anxiety.  Even prior to 2020’s unprecedented events, anxiety has been impacting more and more families. Now, we all face uncertainty that fuels worry.  As parents, we’ll need to up our game in order to raise resilient children and navigate what’s ahead of us.
Apr 05, 2020