Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour

By Kim Lee

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I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do.



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Kim


Episode Date
When Panic Hits
Sep 26, 2026
So I Did
Sep 26, 2026
When Behaviour Speaks
Sep 18, 2026
When Avoidance Must End
Sep 18, 2026
How Many Absences Can A Family Hold
Sep 17, 2026
Feelings Without A Home
Sep 16, 2026
When Childhood Enters Love. What could possibly go wrong?
Sep 15, 2026
How Avoidant Parenting Shapes A Child’s Inner World
Sep 14, 2026
A Family Organized Around Absence
Sep 13, 2026
The Mavericks
Sep 11, 2026
The avoidant parent and the violent child. Stop negotiating with the volcano!
Sep 11, 2026
The Child Who Learned Not To Need
Sep 10, 2026
Avoidant Parents (part 2)
Sep 09, 2026
The Avoidant Parent. Series intro
Sep 09, 2026
The label part 2 (the other episode was abruptly ended)
Sep 08, 2026
Beyond The Label
Sep 08, 2026
'Little Hands'
Sep 06, 2026
Safeguarding Comes First
Sep 06, 2026
A blunt instrument?
Sep 06, 2026
A Counter Allegation Can Turn A Safeguarding Concern Into Suspicion
Sep 05, 2026
Protection Recast As Alienation
Sep 04, 2026
A Child Refuses Contact, what might that mean?
Sep 03, 2026
When A Child Refuses Contact
Sep 02, 2026
The Maverick
Aug 31, 2026
Fire in The Hole
Aug 27, 2026
I can do better than that.....
Aug 25, 2026
Burn Alone
Aug 24, 2026
Keep your name.......
Aug 23, 2026
A Clinician’s Response To The Great ADHD Myth
Aug 20, 2026
When A Child Refuses Contact
Aug 19, 2026
The Three Rs For Healing Harmful Relationships
Aug 18, 2026
The Life That Belongs To You. The Author speaks.
Aug 11, 2026
The Life That Belongs To You
Aug 10, 2026
The Reckoning
Aug 06, 2026
The first stage. Recognition
Aug 05, 2026
Ep 1. Empty Box Syndrome
Aug 03, 2026
Introduction to Coercive Control
Aug 02, 2026
Dangerous Relationships Episode 2. Living Inside The Relationship
Aug 01, 2026
Dangerous Relationships. Understanding Sociopathy
Jul 24, 2026
Dangerous relationships. Recovering Your Reality
Jul 22, 2026
Dangerous Relationships. Narcissistic Patterns. Emotional Insight Vs Intellectual Insight
Jul 22, 2026
Dangerous Relationships. Narcissistic Traits Vs Narcissistic Personality Disorder Ep1.
Jul 21, 2026
Dangerous Relationships. Episode 1 part 2. Addiction. When Love Becomes Enabling
Jul 20, 2026
Dangerous Relationships. Ep 1 part 1. Living With Addiction
Jul 20, 2026
Dangerous Relationships, Introduction to the series.
Jul 19, 2026
Emotional Decontamination And The Self Beneath
Jul 18, 2026
Not Everything You Feel Is Yours
Jul 17, 2026
Emotional decontamination
Jul 16, 2026
When No Is Only Today’s Answer
Jul 16, 2026
Reclaiming Your Emotional Life
Jul 15, 2026
Emotional Contamination Explained
Jul 15, 2026
Whose Feeling Is This?
Jul 08, 2026
I can do better than that......
Jul 05, 2026
The Boy Who Found His Anger
Jul 05, 2026
Story 1. Episode 2. The Cost Of Untruth
Jul 05, 2026
The Truth That Changes Everything
Jul 05, 2026
What goes around, instrumental intro
Jun 29, 2026
The Hidden Family Stories Behind Child Behavior
Jun 28, 2026
When Grownups Fight Kids Hurt
Jun 28, 2026
Mentalization Episode 10. How Parents Build A Child Who Can Reflect
Jun 25, 2026
How Curiosity Shuts Down
Jun 24, 2026
Stop Calling It Attention Seeking And Start Listening
Jun 19, 2026
Autism And Mentalization
Jun 18, 2026
Mentalization And ADHD: Why Perspective Disappears Under Stress
Jun 18, 2026
The Social Media Ban Problem
Jun 16, 2026
Ep 5. Why Trauma Shuts Down A Child’s Thinking Brain
Jun 15, 2026
Episode 4. How Parents Become A Child’s External Brain
Jun 14, 2026
Ep. 3-The Brain Behind Mentalization
Jun 14, 2026
Episode 2,How Mentalization Grows
Jun 13, 2026
Mentalization In Plain English
Jun 12, 2026
Recovery After The Empath Avoidant Trap
Jun 11, 2026
The Reckoning
Jun 11, 2026
The Day Hope Ends
Jun 09, 2026
The Empath & The Avoidant. Ep.3. Death By A Thousand Cuts
Jun 09, 2026
The Avoident & The Empath. Ep.2. Chasing Closeness, Chasing Distance
Jun 08, 2026
The Empath And The Avoidant
Jun 07, 2026
When An Avoidant Meets An Empath
Jun 06, 2026
Episode 5: The Adult Relationships of Attachment — Why We Keep Recreating patterns
Jun 04, 2026
The Psycholgy of Attachment. Compulsive Care Seeking
Jun 03, 2026
Episode 3: Compulsive Caregiving — The Child Who Learns to Look After Everyone Else
Jun 02, 2026
Beyond Attachment Styles. Ep 2. The Child Who Stops Needing Anyone
Jun 02, 2026
Hidden Attachment Strategies In Adolescence. Introduction to the series.
Jun 01, 2026
Attachment styles. Disorganized Attachment. When Love & Fear Are The Same.
May 31, 2026
The Avoidant Attachment Pattern
May 31, 2026
Attachment styles. Ep.2. Anxious Attachment
May 27, 2026
Secure Attachment
May 25, 2026
An Introduction To Attachment. Ep.1. Attachment As An Invisible Blueprint
May 24, 2026
Hold The Line !!
May 23, 2026
The Psychology of Control. Reality Breaks The Spell
May 23, 2026
The Psychology of Control, Ep 9. When Control Collapses
May 21, 2026
The Psychology of Control. Ep 8. Gaslighting
May 21, 2026
The Psychology of Control. EP 7. How Family Secrets Turn Into Psychological Control
May 20, 2026
The Psychology of Control. Family Dynamics Shape A Child’s Personality
May 14, 2026
The Psychology of control. Episode 5.Guilt As Control
May 13, 2026
The Psychology of Control. Withdrawal
May 11, 2026
The Psychology of Control. The Child Is Not The Problem
May 10, 2026
The Psychology of Control. Ambiguity
May 10, 2026
The Psychology Of Control. Introduction.
May 09, 2026
Why it feels like it's happening again. The Story We Tell Ourselves
May 05, 2026
Episode 3: When Small Changes Feel Like Big Threats. When Silence Hits
May 03, 2026
Why It Feels Like It’s Happening Again. Episode 2.When The Past Feels Present
May 01, 2026
Podcast Series: Why It Feels Like It’s Happening Again. Episode 1: The Moment Something Shifts
May 01, 2026
Hidden Harm And Emotional Neglect
May 01, 2026
Hidden Harm. Children Learn To Shrink When Love Has Conditions
Apr 30, 2026
Hidden Harm. "Good Behaviour" - Or Is it....?
Apr 29, 2026
Hidden Harm. The Too-Grown-Up Child
Apr 29, 2026
Hidden Harm, After-School Meltdowns
Apr 28, 2026
Hidden Harm. The Overcompliant Child
Apr 28, 2026
Hidden Harm. The Child Who Never Complains
Apr 27, 2026
Safeguarding When You Are Worried
Apr 27, 2026
A Practical Guide To Recognizing Child Safeguarding Risks
Apr 26, 2026
What Child Safeguarding Really Means And Why It Matters
Apr 26, 2026
Children Absorb What We Don’t Process
Apr 25, 2026
Overwhelm Isn’t Failure, It’s Capacity Being Exceeded
Apr 25, 2026
Parental Anger Unpacked
Apr 23, 2026
The Avoidant. Reality Confrontation After An Avoidant Relationship
Apr 22, 2026
The Avoidant Partner. Episode 2. If It Felt Like Love Yet Broke You......
Apr 22, 2026
The silent Damage. Avoidant Attachment Explained
Apr 21, 2026
Episode 3. The Parent in The Consulting Room, The Depressed Parent
Apr 14, 2026
Episode 2. The Parent in The Consulting Room, The Anxious Parent
Apr 13, 2026
The Parent Beneath The Parenting Episode 1.
Apr 13, 2026
Relational Injury Recovery
Apr 11, 2026
Relational Injury. Episode 2. The Reckoning.
Apr 09, 2026
Relational Injury. Part 1. Recognition
Apr 09, 2026
Adolescence Netflix series.- Family Systems Under Stress
Apr 08, 2026
Adolescent Rage. Netfkix series.- Disorganized Attachment And Adolescent Rage
Apr 07, 2026
From Inside The Consulting Room. The Child In The Middle
Apr 07, 2026
From Inside The Consulting Room. When Therapy Is Not Enough
Apr 07, 2026
Trauma, Sexualisation, and Adolescent Risk-When Closeness Feels Dangerous
Apr 07, 2026
Sexualisation and Trauma — When The Body Speaks
Apr 05, 2026
From inside the consulting room.The Angry Child
Apr 05, 2026
The Quiet Child
Apr 04, 2026
From Inside The Consulting Room. Relationship first......
Apr 04, 2026
Childhood In the Digital World. Episode 6. Build Before You Ban Screens
Apr 02, 2026
Childhood In a Digital World. Episode 5. Connection Before Control
Apr 01, 2026
The Digital Childhood. Episode 4.Dopamine Design And Kids Screen Time
Mar 31, 2026
Childhood in the digital world .The Disconnected Self
Mar 29, 2026
Childhood In The Digital World. Episode 2. Belonging & Connection.
Mar 29, 2026
The Digital Childhood. Episode 1. Are we asking the right questions?
Mar 29, 2026
The Screen Time Evidence Gap.
Mar 28, 2026
Adolescent Criminality Is A Developmental Signal, Not An Identity
Mar 28, 2026
The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Ep 5. Emotional Neglect And Youth Offending
Mar 28, 2026
The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Episode 4 corrected version
Mar 27, 2026
The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Ep 3. The Unseen Child & Acting Out
Mar 26, 2026
The Psychology Of Adolescent Criminality. Ep 2. The Adolescent Brain Under Pressure
Mar 26, 2026
The Psychology of Adolescent Criminality. Episode 1. When A Teen Breaks The Law
Mar 25, 2026
The Psychology of Adolescent Criminality. Introduction. Rethinking Youth Crime
Mar 24, 2026
Inside the Consulting Room. Episode 10. When A Child Feels Safe
Mar 24, 2026
Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 9. The Exploding Adolescent
Mar 23, 2026
Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 8. The Child Who Felt Too Much
Mar 23, 2026
Inside The Consulting Room. Ep. 7.Emotional Parentification The Child Who Carries The Family
Mar 21, 2026
Inside The Consulting Room. Episode 6. Trust, Betrayal, And A Sixteen-Year-Old’s Guard Up
Mar 21, 2026
Inside The Consulting Room. Episde 5. Childhood Fear And The Need For Rituals
Mar 20, 2026
Inside the consulting room. Episode 4.The Invisible Child
Mar 18, 2026
Inside The Consulting Room, Episode 3. The Angry Child
Mar 18, 2026
Inside the Consulting Room. Episode 2. When Helping Everyone Becomes A Hidden Cry
Mar 17, 2026
In the Consulting Room. E[psode 1. Silence Speaks
Mar 17, 2026
Inside the Consulting Room. Introduction. The Blessed Drink That Nobody Can Touch
Mar 17, 2026
Small People Big Lives
Mar 16, 2026
Trauma Recovery
Mar 15, 2026
Shame After Trauma
Mar 15, 2026
PTSD. Episode 4. When Trauma Leaves A Scar
Mar 15, 2026
PTSD. Episode 3. Traumatic Memories In Children
Mar 14, 2026
PTSD Episode 2. A Brain Under Threat
Mar 14, 2026
How Trauma Stays In The Body
Mar 13, 2026
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 5. Leaving The Psychological Labyrinth
Mar 13, 2026
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 5, When Relationships Organise Around Deception
Mar 12, 2026
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 3.Chronic Ingratitude
Mar 11, 2026
Leaving The One Way Street. Episode 2.Envy’s Quiet Violence
Mar 11, 2026
Leaving the one way street. Episode 1. Reality Fracture
Mar 11, 2026
Adrianna & Chris. Teaser 2,,,,,,,
Mar 10, 2026
Children Living in the Shadow of Addiction. Episode 6. Breaking The Shadow Cycle
Mar 10, 2026
Children living in the shadow of addiction. Episode 5. Lost In The Chaos
Mar 10, 2026
Leaving The One Way Street Teaser
Mar 09, 2026
Children living in the shadows of addiction. Episode 4. The Damage.....
Mar 09, 2026
Children living in the shadows of addiction. Episode 3. Guardians Of The Family Secret
Mar 09, 2026
Children Living in The Shadow of Addiction. Caught Between Love And Fear. Episode 2.
Mar 08, 2026
Children In The Shadow Of Addiction
Mar 08, 2026
When conditions collide. Episode 6.
Mar 07, 2026
When conditions collide. Episode 5
Mar 06, 2026
When conditions collide. Episode 4
Mar 06, 2026
...Burning Skies. Close your eyes, and see what you see......
Mar 05, 2026
Two Systems, One Child. When Conditions Collide. Episode 3.
Mar 05, 2026
When Conditions Collide. Episode 2.
Mar 05, 2026
When Two Neurotypes Collide. Episode 1.
Mar 04, 2026
Facing Psychological Reality. Episode 10. Integration (joining the dots)
Mar 04, 2026
Anxiety, Avoidance, And What Lies Beneath
Mar 03, 2026
'In Relationship" The Introduction
Mar 03, 2026
A Therapist’s Preface To Understanding Your Child
Mar 01, 2026
How A Childhood Shaped A Child Psychotherapist
Feb 28, 2026
Psychological Reality, Plainly Stated
Feb 28, 2026
Silent Scars: Understanding Emotional Harm In Children
Feb 28, 2026
Shades Of Truth
Feb 27, 2026
From Attachment To Identity: How Early Relationships Shape Who We Become
Feb 27, 2026
From Being Held In Mind To Becoming A Self
Feb 26, 2026
Facing Feelings, Not Fighting Them
Feb 26, 2026
Inside The Mind We Live In
Feb 26, 2026
They Swore To Tell The Truth… Just Not The Whole Truth
Feb 25, 2026
“I Don’t Lie” And Other Cowardly Magic Tricks
Feb 25, 2026
You Didn’t Fail; Your Expectations Were Shaped And Shattered
Feb 25, 2026
Seeing Through Emotional Deception
Feb 24, 2026
Trust Shattered
Feb 23, 2026
How Fear And Shame Turn Truth Into A Mask
Feb 22, 2026
Emotional Deception, Defined
Feb 22, 2026
Understanding Adolescent Stress During GCSEs
Feb 22, 2026
Calm Beats Pressure For GCSEs
Feb 22, 2026
Your Teen Says “I’m Fine,” Their Nervous System Disagrees
Feb 21, 2026
How Internalized Pressure Turns Studying Into Fear And What To Do About It
Feb 20, 2026
Your Anxiety Doesn’t Define Your Parenting
Feb 20, 2026
Untitled Episode
Feb 20, 2026
How Early Wounds Resurface When You Become A Parent
Feb 19, 2026
Anxiety And The Caring Parent
Feb 19, 2026
Parenting Anxiety, Explained Simply
Feb 18, 2026
Understanding Parental Depression And Its Impact On Children
Feb 17, 2026
Your Feelings Set The Weather Your Child Grows In
Feb 16, 2026
Holding Certainty, and the Uncertainty Beneath It.
Feb 16, 2026
Holding Complexity In Gender Distress
Feb 16, 2026
Why Your Feelings Are Always Real And Your Actions Still Count
Feb 14, 2026
Children Caught In The Crossfire
Feb 14, 2026
Your Lawyer Isn’t Your Therapist, And Your Child Isn’t Your Messenger
Feb 13, 2026
From Defiance To Regulation: A Practical Guide For Parents
Feb 13, 2026
Untangling ODD From Look-Alike Conditions
Feb 13, 2026
From Diagnosis To Direction: Evidence-Based Help For Defiant Behavior
Feb 12, 2026
Understanding Oppositional Defiant Disorder From The Inside Out
Feb 12, 2026
When Defiance Isn’t Just Disobedience: A Clinician’s Guide For Parents
Feb 12, 2026
They Called You Daily, Yet Never Asked About You
Feb 11, 2026
Congratulations, You Blocked Them; Now Evict Them From Your Head
Feb 11, 2026
From Control To Respect
Feb 11, 2026
Why Some Men Change
Feb 10, 2026
Taking Responsibility Changes Everything You Keep Repeating
Feb 10, 2026
From Wound To Wisdom: Reclaiming Your Worth
Feb 09, 2026
So You’re Not Controlling? Your Partner Disagrees
Feb 09, 2026
A Therapist Explains How Men Can Recognize And Change Coercive Behavior
Feb 09, 2026
You Are Not The Problem—Naming Abuse Restores Power
Feb 09, 2026
Green Peppers, Guilty Conscience, And A Better Self
Feb 08, 2026
Realization And The First Step Out
Feb 07, 2026
Why I Speak About Domestic Abuse
Feb 07, 2026
How One Emotionally Available Parent Can Change Outcomes
Feb 06, 2026
Parents Can Protect Children By Noticing The Signs Of Emotional Strain
Feb 06, 2026
Children Don’t Just Hear Arguments, They Feel Them
Feb 05, 2026
I Didn’t Get Hit But It Hurt Anyway....
Feb 05, 2026
How Coercive Control Echoes Into Parenting And What Heals It
Feb 05, 2026
Rethinking Parental Alienation
Feb 05, 2026
When Therapy Enters The Courtroom
Feb 04, 2026
Rethinking 50-50 care Through A Child’s Eyes
Feb 04, 2026
Parenting Under Pressure
Feb 04, 2026
Understanding Adolescent Drug Use Through A Psychological Lens
Feb 03, 2026
Your Teen Isn’t Broken, Their Brain Is Remodeling
Feb 03, 2026
Understanding Eating Disorders In Young People
Feb 02, 2026
Breaking The Giver–Taker Loop In Relationships
Feb 01, 2026
How Children Experience OCD And What Helps
Feb 01, 2026
Your Teen Isn’t Broken, Their Brain Is On Wi‑Fi With No Router
Jan 29, 2026
We Made Four Courses So You Don’t Have To Google At 2 A.M.
Jan 28, 2026
When Adolescence is harder than you thought ep 3 of 8
Jan 27, 2026
Depression & Suicidality in young people
Jan 27, 2026
Responsibility 'for' or 'to'?
Jan 26, 2026
The pain of 'Loss'....
Jan 22, 2026
What......? Not 'why?'.
Jan 22, 2026
Who pulls the strings..?
Jan 21, 2026
When adolescence is harder than you thought-ep 2 of-8
Jan 21, 2026
Adolescence. When it's harder than you thought. EP.1 of 8
Jan 19, 2026
When the sadness doesn't lift.....
Jan 19, 2026
My Co-Therapists are, Oscar & Jess, MY DOGS
Jan 16, 2026
Understanding Self Harming Behaviours in Children & Young People.
Jan 15, 2026
Waiting for CAMHS.....
Jan 14, 2026
ADHD. Episode 3.
Jan 11, 2026
ADHD. Helping parents understand and develop new tools. Episode 1.
Jan 10, 2026
ADHD. Shame and self esteem.
Jan 10, 2026
Belefs 3. How we can facilitate change.
Jan 10, 2026
Just ask the Therapist....
Jan 09, 2026
Internal Beliefs. Part 2
Jan 09, 2026
Internal beliefs
Jan 08, 2026
When not to ask 'why did you.....?'
Jan 07, 2026
Parents can learn.....
Jan 07, 2026
I do what I am, I am not what I do
Jan 05, 2026
Attachment, early formation and types
Jan 05, 2026
Empathy & Emotional intelligence
Jan 05, 2026
Parenting Adolescents in Distress
Jan 04, 2026
Birth and the brain experience
Jan 04, 2026
The developing brain during pregnancy
Jan 04, 2026
Growing healthy small people
Jan 03, 2026
The Narcissist
Apr 15, 2025
Dirty little secrets
Jun 25, 2024
The Narcissist part 2.
Jun 09, 2023
Episode 5 Extinguishing the Gaslighter
Feb 23, 2021
Episode 4. Anxiety reduction
Aug 02, 2020
Episode 3. The SOOTHE technique
May 07, 2020
Covid-19 Stress, and the internal psychological world experience.
May 02, 2020
Episode 1. An introduction to Child development series
Apr 26, 2020