Growth Over Easy: Relationship Skills for Long-Term Love

By Lilly Rachels

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Growth Over Easy is a modern relationship podcast about living relationally, building nervous system capacity, and creating long-term love that actually feels good to be in. Hosted by Lilly Rachels, MSW — relationship coach and co-founder of Relational Somatics — this show covers vagal authority, emotional regulation, attachment patterns, communication, intimacy, conflict repair, and relationship skills that help people build healthier, more connected partnerships. This is not a “just communicate better” podcast. It’s a practical, grounded look at how your childhood blueprint and nervous system shape the way you love, argue, shut down, connect, and stay present. Lilly brings a direct, modern approach to long-term relationships that values both growth and levity, because healthy love should have depthand be fun. If you want better communication, more emotional capacity, deeper intimacy, and a smarter approach to love, this podcast is for you. New episodes weekly.

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Episode Date
182: Why You Think You Know What Your Partner Is Thinking (And Why You're Wrong)
Apr 28, 2026
181: You're Not Avoiding the Fight — You're Making It More Expensive Later
Apr 21, 2026
180: Why Playing the Victim Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What to Do Instead)
Apr 14, 2026
179: What ChatGPT Said About Being Human, Presence, and Why You Need to Slow Down
Apr 07, 2026
178: How to Stop Ruminating on the Past and Worrying About the Future (A Nervous System Approach)
Mar 31, 2026
177: The Simulation You're Living In, Why You Keep Misreading Your Spouse, and What Past Wounds Have to Do with It
Mar 24, 2026
176: Why Everything Feels So Urgent in Your Life and Relationship (What Your Nervous System Is Really Doing)
Mar 17, 2026
175: Core Values, Checking Your Energy, and Why ChatGPT Can't Save Your Relationship
Mar 10, 2026
174: Why You Keep Having the Same Fight (You're Treating the Symptom, Not the Cause)
Mar 03, 2026
173: Here's Why Your Wife Says Your Feedback Is Criticism (And How to Fix It)
Feb 17, 2026
172: Why You Can't Turn It Off at Home (Chronic Activation Explained for Men)
Feb 10, 2026
171: Why High-Performing Men Snap at Home (And How to Stop the Explode Shutdown Cycle)
Feb 03, 2026
170: Why You Keep Her at Arm's Length (Fear of Rejection Explained)
Jan 27, 2026
169: Vagal Authority: Why You Can't Relax at Home (And How to Build It)
Jan 20, 2026
168: Why You Explode Over Small Things (And How to Stop)
Jan 13, 2026
167: What's In and Out for Relationships in 2026
Jan 06, 2026
166: Losing Strategy #5: Withdrawal (And Why It Slowly Kills Your Relationship)
Dec 30, 2025
165: Losing Strategy #4: Retaliation (And Why It Creates a Cycle of Payback)
Dec 23, 2025
164: Losing Strategy #3: Unbridled Self-Expression (And Why Your Partner Can't Hear You)
Dec 16, 2025
163: Losing Strategy #2: Controlling Your Partner (And How It's Destroying Your Relationship)
Dec 09, 2025
162: Losing Strategy #1: Fighting to Be Right (And Why It's Wrecking Your Communication)
Dec 02, 2025
161: Why Your Apologies Aren't Working (And What to Do Instead)
Nov 25, 2025
160: Why Traditional Therapy Fails Men (And What Actually Works)
Nov 18, 2025
159: Why High-Performing Men Shut Down at Home (And How to Fix It)
Nov 11, 2025
158: Stop Acting Like You Don’t Care: The Truth About Emotional Detachment and Attraction
Nov 04, 2025
157: The Three Silent Killers of Communication in Relationships
Oct 28, 2025
156: The Relational Blueprint Method: A Framework for Long-Term Love
Oct 21, 2025
155: Why Relationships Are the Ultimate Space for Growth
Oct 21, 2025
154: Welcome to Relationship Growth: How to Build and Keep a Healthy Relationship
Oct 21, 2025
153: Why You’re Playing Two Different Games in Your Relationship
Aug 11, 2025
152: Why “Not Caring if You’re Cheated On” Isn’t Strength — It’s Avoidance
Jul 21, 2025
151: Why We Shut Down in Love: Inner Child Wounds, ChatGPT Therapy, and Repairing Ruptures
Jul 15, 2025
150: Waiting for an Apology, Marvel Villains, and I Forgot My Swimsuit
Jun 29, 2025
149: Crying in the Mountains, Talking to ChatGPT, and Remembering What Matters
Jun 22, 2025
148: Life Update & 3 Relationship Insights You Need to Hear
Mar 04, 2025
147: What Comes Out When Life Squeezes You? How I Dropped Complaining and Chose to Raise My Vibration
Feb 18, 2025
146: Three Things I Do to Find Peace When I’m Stuck in Overthinking and Overwhelm
Feb 11, 2025
145: Rethinking Breakups: It’s Over, But That Doesn’t Mean It Was a Waste of Time
Feb 04, 2025
144: 3 Simple Strategies I Use to Quiet My Mind and Listen More Deeply in Relationships
Jan 28, 2025
143: The Moment I Realized It Wasn't Him, It Was Me
Jan 21, 2025
142: Why Can’t I Let Love In? How to Stop Pushing People Away When You Want Them Close
Jan 14, 2025
141: Is Your 'Venting' Ruining Your Relationship?
Jan 07, 2025
140: New Year, Happier Us: Relearning Relationships in 2025
Dec 30, 2024
139: The Fear of Rejection: How to Overcome Hyper-Vigilance and Self-Protection in Relationships
Dec 16, 2024
138: The TWO Things Ruining Your Relationships (and How to Stop Them)
Dec 09, 2024
137: Gratitude in Action: Transform Your Relationships in 31 Days
Dec 02, 2024
136: THIS Is What It Takes to Experience Deeply Supportive Relationships
Nov 25, 2024
135: Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop? Stop Self-Sabotage in Relationships
Nov 18, 2024
134: Masculine and Feminine Energies in Relationships: What Beth and Rip Can Teach Us About Polarity
Nov 11, 2024
133: The Power of One Honest Conversation: How Assumptions Nearly Ended an 8-Year Friendship
Nov 04, 2024
132: How to Face Conflict Without Running Away
Oct 31, 2024
131: Escaping the Thought Spiral: Mastering Emotions and Easing Anxious Overthinking
Oct 28, 2024
130: Attachment Styles Aren’t Permanent (And How to Change Yours)
Oct 21, 2024
129: Resolving Conflict in Relationships: How Childhood Patterns Shape Your Reactions
Oct 14, 2024
128: Shift Your Mindset: How Gratitude Transforms Relationships
Oct 07, 2024
127: Unpacking Your Definition of Love
Oct 01, 2024
126: Stop Hurtful Words: Change the Way You Speak in Your Relationship
Aug 16, 2024
125: Don't Go To Couples Therapy! Do This Instead...
Jun 20, 2024
124: Strengthen Your Relationships with Healthy Boundaries
Jun 07, 2024
123: Craft vs. Convenience in Relationships: Embracing the Journey
May 29, 2024
122: Ask Yourself This If You Want A Long-Term Relationship
May 04, 2024
121: My Biggest Frustration When Couples Break Up
Apr 05, 2024
120: Peace: An Inside Job + New Program Launch
Mar 29, 2024
Workshop: Growth Over Silence
Mar 27, 2024
119: Men, Are You Regulating Or Suppressing Your Emotions?
Mar 22, 2024
118: Are You Using Sarcasm to Bypass Your Pain?
Mar 15, 2024
117: Communication Builds Community
Mar 09, 2024
Workshop: How to Calm Your Mind
Feb 28, 2024
116: Let’s Talk About Anxiety
Feb 23, 2024
115: 4 Ways Overthinking is Keeping You Lonely
Feb 16, 2024
Workshop Replay: “I Can’t Believe This” - The Stages of Grief: Denial
Feb 09, 2024
114: How to Start Releasing Suppressed Grief
Feb 02, 2024
113: I'm Angry My Mom Died
Jan 26, 2024
Workshop: Grief Sucks & I'm Confused
Jan 20, 2024
112: I Miss You and I Don't: Navigating Complicated Grief
Jan 20, 2024
111: Let's Talk About Grief
Jan 20, 2024
110: This Will Ruin Your Communication
Nov 13, 2023
109: Breaking Free from Emotional Loops
Nov 06, 2023
108: Fighting to Be Right: A Relationship Roadblock
Oct 30, 2023
107: Are You Quietly Quitting Your Relationship?
Oct 23, 2023
106: My 7 Keys to Healthy Communication
Oct 02, 2023
105: Stop Saying "I'm Fine" When You're NOT
Sep 18, 2023
104: Relational Microdosing
Sep 11, 2023
103: The Evolution of Relationship
Aug 21, 2023
102: Healing Where You Are
Aug 01, 2023
101: Campsite Principle
Jun 26, 2023
100: Beneath the Ice: Grooming and Sexual Abuse in Youth Sports
Jun 05, 2023
99: How You Get Rid of Things Matters
May 22, 2023
98: Do You Need An Emotional Demo Day?
May 04, 2023
97: What Your Physical Space Says About Your Emotional State
Apr 17, 2023
96: Are You Destination or Journey Minded?
Apr 10, 2023
95: Is Relational Dedication Dead?
Mar 27, 2023
94: What Truly Creates Deep Relational Connection
Mar 20, 2023
93: How To Process Uncomfortable Emotions
Mar 13, 2023
92: Becoming an Optimist through Gratitude
Feb 27, 2023
91: Why it's Important to Pursue Growth in Your Relationship
Feb 20, 2023
90: Dealing with Overwhelm w/ Laurie Gery
Feb 06, 2023
89: The 2 Missing Pieces for Effective Communication
Jan 30, 2023
88: Finding JOY After Divorce with Heidi Bee
Jan 23, 2023
87: 5 Things Harming Your Relationship
Jan 16, 2023
86: Why You Need a Mentor with January Donovan
Jan 09, 2023
85: Check On Your Happy Friends
Dec 15, 2022
84: Other's Perspectives
Dec 08, 2022
83: Your Communication Blueprint
Dec 01, 2022
82: Jillian Flodstrom
Nov 28, 2022
81: Thanksgiving Gratitude
Nov 24, 2022
80: Jerremy Newsome
Nov 21, 2022
79: Communication Energy
Nov 17, 2022
78: From Corporate Career to Award-Winning Photographer: John Mollura on Imposter Syndrome and Transformation
Nov 14, 2022
77: Friends over Followers
Nov 10, 2022
76: Growth Over Comfort w/ Carli Kahl
Nov 07, 2022
75: Stay Curious
Nov 03, 2022
74: Adaptive Child vs. Functional Adult
Oct 27, 2022
73: Climbing Together
Oct 20, 2022
72: Dr. Shahana Alibhai
Oct 17, 2022
71: Feeling Overwhelmed
Oct 13, 2022
70: Heidi Gruss
Oct 10, 2022
69: Reflective Responses
Oct 06, 2022
68: Dr. Alice Penn
Oct 03, 2022
67: Words Matter
Sep 29, 2022
66: Anton Gunn
Sep 26, 2022
65: Healing Conflict
Sep 22, 2022
64: Johanna White
Sep 19, 2022
63: Holding Space
Sep 15, 2022
62: Dr. Justin Moseley
Sep 12, 2022
61: Mindset Morning Routine
Sep 08, 2022
60: Helping Kids Build Confidence Through Movement with Philip Laslett
Sep 05, 2022
59: Your G.P.S
Sep 01, 2022
58: Finding Your G.P.S. in Life with Leadership Expert Juan Alvarado
Aug 29, 2022
57: Climbing the Vibrational Ladder
Aug 25, 2022
56: Johanna Buchweitz
Aug 22, 2022
55: Choosing Your Vibration (RV Story)
Aug 18, 2022
54: Ed Howie
Aug 15, 2022
53: Are they just asking you a question?
Jun 27, 2022
52: Boundaries with Yourself
May 24, 2022
*Welcome to Growth over Easy
May 24, 2022
51: Let Grief Flow
Feb 06, 2022
Ep. 50: Talk To Me Like You Love Me
Jan 31, 2022
Ep. 49: I Choose this because I Want that
Jan 19, 2022
Ep. 48: Pay Yourself First
Jan 11, 2022
Ep. 47: What You Put Up With You End Up With
Dec 17, 2021
Ep. 46: Let’s Get International.
Dec 15, 2021
Ep. 45: Owning Your Behaviors
Jun 15, 2021
Ep. 44: Unbridled Self-Expression
May 25, 2021
Ep. 43: Mind Monsters
May 18, 2021
Ep. 42: Uncomfortable Conversations
May 04, 2021
Ep. 41: Falling for the Potential
Apr 20, 2021
Ep. 40: How to be Less Annoyed
Apr 13, 2021
Ep. 39: Personal Standards
Apr 06, 2021
Ep. 38: Your Heart is a Muscle
Mar 30, 2021
Ep. 37: I Will Handle It
Mar 23, 2021
Ep. 36: Leaky Boundary Syndrome
Mar 16, 2021
Ep. 35: "you made me"
Mar 09, 2021
Ep. 34: Uncomfortable Feelings
Mar 02, 2021
Ep. 33: Internal vs. External Processors
Feb 23, 2021
Ep. 32: The Pause Tool
Feb 16, 2021
Ep. 31: Gut Instincts
Feb 09, 2021
Ep. 30: Sadness vs. Depression
Feb 02, 2021
Ep. 29: Fights, Arguments or Conversations
Jan 26, 2021
Ep. 28: Visualize Your Ideal Relationship
Jan 19, 2021
Ep. 27: Schedule Your Freak Out
Jan 12, 2021
Ep. 26: The Four Horsemen
Jan 05, 2021
Ep. 25: Releasing Into 2021
Dec 29, 2020
Merry Christmas
Dec 22, 2020
Ep. 24: I Will Tell You
Dec 15, 2020
Ep. 23: Social Media Detox
Dec 08, 2020
Ep. 22: Too Much Personal Growth
Dec 01, 2020
Ep. 21: Grief
Nov 17, 2020
Ep. 20: Give People the Space to Feel
Nov 10, 2020
EP. 19: Language Matters
Nov 03, 2020
Ep. 18: Seven Second Silent Rule
Oct 27, 2020
Ep. 17: Compliment Your Partner
Oct 20, 2020
Ep. 16: Hiking Wisdom
Oct 13, 2020
Ep. 15: Employ Empathy
Oct 06, 2020
Ep. 14: Why are Healthy Relationships Boring?
Sep 29, 2020
Ep. 13: Look for the Good
Sep 22, 2020
Ep. 12: Micro Goals
Sep 15, 2020
Ep. 11: Suicide Prevention
Sep 08, 2020
Ep. 10: Leading with Your Feelings
Sep 01, 2020
Ep. 9: The Hard Stuff
Aug 25, 2020
Ep. 8: How to Listen
Aug 18, 2020
Ep. 7: Asking for Help
Aug 11, 2020
Ep. 6: Navigating Conflict
Aug 04, 2020
Ep. 5: Unverbalized Expectations
Jul 28, 2020
Ep. 4: Replacing Negative Thoughts
Jul 21, 2020
Ep. 3: Cultivating Self-Awareness
Jul 14, 2020
Ep. 2: Identifying Your Core Values
Jul 14, 2020
Ep. 1: What is Eat Your Peas?
Jul 14, 2020
Trailer
Jun 16, 2020