Patterns of Possibility
By Coach Lee Hopkins
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If you're a late-identified autistic (or suspecting) adult who feels disconnected at work, drained by socializing, or tired of masking to be accepted, this podcast is for you.
Hosted by Coach Lee Hopkins, an AuDHD transman and social connections coach, each episode delivers honest insights and practical tools to help you unmask, set boundaries, and build real relationships that don’t cost your identity.
New episodes drop every Tuesday.
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People Pleasing Hurts the People You Love
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May 26, 2026 |
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There Is No Wrong Way to React to Your Diagnosis
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May 19, 2026 |
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Not Everyone Deserves the Benefit of the Doubt
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May 12, 2026 |
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Ooops, You've Mistaken An Associate For A Friend
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May 05, 2026 |
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How To Stop Letting Them Use You
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Apr 28, 2026 |
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How Going with the Flow Ruins Your Relationships
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Apr 21, 2026 |
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Why You Keep Ending Up with the Same Person
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Apr 14, 2026 |
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You're Not Meant to Do This Alone
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Apr 07, 2026 |
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What People Get Wrong About Visibility and Vulnerability
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Mar 31, 2026 |
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Don’t Fall for This Common Manipulation Tactic
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Mar 24, 2026 |
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How to be empathetic without absorbing their pain
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Mar 17, 2026 |
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How to open up slowly so you don't get hurt
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Mar 10, 2026 |
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They Ask, You Answer, So Why Are We Fighting?
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Mar 03, 2026 |
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Reading Between the Lines Without Losing Yourself
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Feb 24, 2026 |
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Tired of Trying with People
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Feb 17, 2026 |
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Small Talk Is a Safety Test
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Feb 10, 2026 |
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Reject Them Now or Resent Them Later
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Feb 03, 2026 |
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Dreading Social Interactions (Practical Steps To Stop Ruminating)
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Jan 27, 2026 |
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Create Boundaries That Actually Work
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Jan 20, 2026 |
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Stop Wasting Precious Time Trying To Be Understood
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Jan 20, 2026 |
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Are They Friends or Just Friendly?
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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Why Your Boundaries Keep Backfiring
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Dec 16, 2025 |
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They Call You Negative Because You Notice
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Dec 09, 2025 |
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The Three Things That Identify “Your People”
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Dec 02, 2025 |
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What If You’re Not a Fraud After All?
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Nov 25, 2025 |
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Stay Calm When They Push Every Button
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Nov 18, 2025 |
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Finding Your Way to Be Heard
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Nov 11, 2025 |
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The Emotionally Immature Parent Trap
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Nov 04, 2025 |
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How to Be Known Without Explaining Yourself
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Oct 28, 2025 |
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When Being Seen Feels Dangerous
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Oct 21, 2025 |
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The Trick Narcissists Don’t Want You to See
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Oct 14, 2025 |
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The Shame Hiding Inside Your "Shoulds"
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Oct 07, 2025 |
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When Their Questions Aren't Really Questions
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Sep 30, 2025 |
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The Trap of Becoming the Caretaker
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Sep 23, 2025 |
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Everyone Knows. No One Says Anything.
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Sep 16, 2025 |
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Stop Playing Their Game
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Sep 09, 2025 |
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Being Alone Is Growth
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Sep 02, 2025 |
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Why Small Talk Feels So Irritating
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Aug 26, 2025 |
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When It’s Manipulation, Not Misunderstanding
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Aug 19, 2025 |
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5 Ways to Stop Carrying Everyone’s Stress
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Aug 12, 2025 |
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Will This Get Me Uninvited Next Time?
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Aug 05, 2025 |
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We Both Said ‘Friend’ But Meant Different Things
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Jul 29, 2025 |
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The Pain of Wanting to Heal with People Who Won’t
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Jul 22, 2025 |
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How 'The Right Thing to Say' Becomes the Wrong Reason to Stay
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Jul 15, 2025 |
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Helping them almost broke me (and they still wanted more)
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Jul 08, 2025 |
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Stop Guessing If They Like You
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Jul 01, 2025 |
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The Lie You Didn't Know You Were Telling Yourself
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Jun 24, 2025 |
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Becoming the Real You After Masking (3 Truths That Help You Cope)
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Jun 17, 2025 |
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You'll Always Be the Villian in Someone's Story
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Jun 10, 2025 |
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5 Phrases That Push People Away
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Jun 03, 2025 |
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Stop Shrinking. Stop Pleasing. Start Releasing
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May 27, 2025 |
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When Your Friends Know The Mask, Not You
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May 20, 2025 |
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7 Phrases Toxic People Use to Destroy Your Confidence
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May 13, 2025 |
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When AI feels like a friend but leaves you lonely
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May 06, 2025 |
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Self Diagnosed Autism: Harmful or Healing?
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Apr 29, 2025 |
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Talking to Strangers When You’re Wired Differently
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Apr 22, 2025 |
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Real Friends Talk To You, Fake Friends Talk About You
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Apr 15, 2025 |
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3 Social Cues to Master (And what to do to connect)
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Apr 15, 2025 |
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How To Build a Community Instead of Just Wishing for It
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Apr 01, 2025 |
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The Mask, the Unmasking, and Finding the Balance
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Mar 25, 2025 |
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5 Overused Phrases That Hold Back Real Friendships
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Mar 18, 2025 |
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How To Quickly Identify Friends and Associates
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Mar 11, 2025 |
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Dismissed & Discarded
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Feb 18, 2025 |
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Ep 2024 12.17.2024 - REPLAY One Sides Friendships
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Feb 11, 2025 |
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3 Overhyped Friendship Tips
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Feb 04, 2025 |
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5 Key Lessons for Social Confidence
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Jan 28, 2025 |
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Why do I push people away before they reject me?
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Jan 21, 2025 |
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I Just Realized I'm Autistic...
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Jan 14, 2025 |
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Breaking No Contact With Family
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Jan 07, 2025 |
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Your Guard Is Up, and It’s Keeping You Lonely
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Dec 03, 2024 |
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Let's Fight!
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Nov 26, 2024 |
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Be Grateful I'd Even Show Up
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Nov 19, 2024 |
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It's Better to Be Lonely
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Nov 12, 2024 |
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How To Fix Your Toxic Friend
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Nov 05, 2024 |
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When You're The Toxic Friend
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Oct 29, 2024 |
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My Friends Don't Care About Me
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Oct 22, 2024 |
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When Your Friend Is Upset with You
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Oct 15, 2024 |
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Shame On You
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Oct 08, 2024 |
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3 Strikes and You're Out
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Oct 01, 2024 |
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What you say
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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The Grandstander Friend
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Sep 14, 2024 |
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Don't Find Your Tribe, Attract Your Vibe
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Sep 10, 2024 |
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Holding You Back or Helping You Up?
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Sep 03, 2024 |
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Drifting From Friends
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Aug 27, 2024 |
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Is your friend using you?
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Aug 20, 2024 |
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Second Guessing Yourself
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Aug 13, 2024 |
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3 Skills to Make Friends
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Aug 06, 2024 |
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The Devil's Advocate Is No Friend
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Jul 30, 2024 |
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Toxic people have so many friends
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Jul 23, 2024 |
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Did you hear me?
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Jul 16, 2024 |
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You'll Take What I Give You
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Jul 09, 2024 |
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The Friend That Mocks You
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Jul 02, 2024 |
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Introverts, Don't Envy Extroverts
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Jun 25, 2024 |
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Friendship Is A Sacred Word
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Jun 20, 2024 |
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Friend That Ignores You
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Jun 11, 2024 |
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Superficial Relationships
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Jun 04, 2024 |
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Three Types of Boundaries
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May 28, 2024 |
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You're Being Breadcrumbed
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May 21, 2024 |
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Why Black Sheeps Struggle To Make Friends
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May 21, 2024 |
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Are You Seeking Outside Validation?
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May 07, 2024 |
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No Future in Past Friendships
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Apr 30, 2024 |
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Don't Do Favors
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Apr 23, 2024 |
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How To Build Resentful Relationships
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Apr 16, 2024 |
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Meetup Mastery - 3 Tips To Connect
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Apr 09, 2024 |
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3 Kinds Of Friends That You Want To Ghost
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Apr 02, 2024 |
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3 Things People Who Love Themselves Do
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Mar 26, 2024 |
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They're Not Your Friends
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Mar 19, 2024 |
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How Do You Know When To End The Friendship?
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Mar 12, 2024 |
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Don't Be The Therapist Friend
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Mar 05, 2024 |
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How I Found My Tribe
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Feb 27, 2024 |
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Lonely With Lots of Friends
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Feb 20, 2024 |
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Your Conversations Are Boring
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Feb 13, 2024 |
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Are You In A Toxic Friendship?
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Feb 06, 2024 |
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What It Really Means To Love Yourself First
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Jan 30, 2024 |
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How to Make Small Talk Into Big Talk
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Jan 23, 2024 |
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Fine is a 4-Letter Word
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Jan 16, 2024 |
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Level Up Your Social Game In 2024
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Jan 09, 2024 |
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REWIND: Shadow Work
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Jan 02, 2024 |
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A Powerful Technique To Deal With People Who Hold Grudges
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Dec 26, 2023 |
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3 Daily Habits for Stronger Relationships
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Dec 19, 2023 |
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Dealing with Fake Compliments
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Dec 12, 2023 |
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8 Toxic Friendships You Should Know
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Dec 05, 2023 |
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Best way to decide if you'll be vulnerable with someone.
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Nov 28, 2023 |
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Stop Being Nice! It's Hurting Your Relationships
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Nov 21, 2023 |
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When to Stop Investing in Your Friendship
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Nov 14, 2023 |
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3 Fundamentals of a Great Relationship
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Nov 07, 2023 |
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Don’t Care For Other’s Feelings... That’ Their Job!
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Oct 31, 2023 |
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Tell Your Friends I Said It's Ok To Ghost
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Oct 24, 2023 |
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Do "The Work" & Heal Your Relationships
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Oct 17, 2023 |
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The problem with breaking generational patterns...
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Oct 10, 2023 |
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What kind of people do you attract?
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Oct 03, 2023 |
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I didn’t expect this at the Meetup
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Sep 26, 2023 |
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What Should I Talk About?
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Sep 19, 2023 |
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Your Yearly Friendship Review
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Sep 12, 2023 |
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Lie to the people you don't like. Don't lie to your friends.
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Sep 05, 2023 |
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The Real You
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Aug 29, 2023 |
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3 Questions to Ask To Create Better Connections
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Aug 22, 2023 |
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When to let go of one-sided friendships
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Aug 15, 2023 |
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Be the friend you want to see in the world.
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Aug 08, 2023 |
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If you could change one thing your relationships would be better.
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Aug 01, 2023 |
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How to Turn Conflict Into Conversation
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Jul 25, 2023 |
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REWIND: All Fakes Are Not Fools and Other Things That Are True
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Jul 18, 2023 |
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How to Express Your Needs in Relationships
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Jul 11, 2023 |
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When their help hurts you…
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Jul 04, 2023 |
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Be Actively Chosen
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Jun 27, 2023 |
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5 Tips to Heal When a Friendship Ends
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Jun 20, 2023 |
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I'm at the Meetup, now what?
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Jun 13, 2023 |
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Being authentic is difficult but doable
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Jun 06, 2023 |
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Better Connections Start with Me
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May 30, 2023 |
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Can you take a compliment?
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May 23, 2023 |
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Developing a Rapport with Others
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May 16, 2023 |
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Oh boy... Rejection
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May 09, 2023 |
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People... Please Stop People Pleasing
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May 02, 2023 |
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A recipe for connection.
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Apr 25, 2023 |
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What a friends for?
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Apr 18, 2023 |
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The Therapist Friend
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Apr 10, 2023 |
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Socializing is a Skill
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Apr 04, 2023 |
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Believe, Behave, Become
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Mar 28, 2023 |
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Bottled Up Feelings...
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Mar 21, 2023 |
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Shame helps us avoid accountability.
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Mar 14, 2023 |
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No self-esteem destroys your friendships
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Mar 07, 2023 |
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Your friends are always where you are.
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Feb 28, 2023 |
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If the truth will set you free...
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Feb 21, 2023 |
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Reasoning with the unreasonable!
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Feb 14, 2023 |
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How to connect authentically with your friends
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Feb 06, 2023 |
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When your friendships feel lost...
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Jan 31, 2023 |
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Don't look out for lousy friends, look for lovely ones instead.
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Jan 24, 2023 |
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Friends who constantly complain.
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Jan 17, 2023 |
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How to start being yourself
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Jan 10, 2023 |
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New Year, 'Nother Day
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Jan 03, 2023 |
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Create Your Own Experience
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Dec 27, 2022 |
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Creating Chaotic Connections
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Dec 20, 2022 |
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Teach People How to Treat You
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Dec 13, 2022 |
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Interview #19 Breaking a pattern of emotional eating w/ Coach Jon McLernon
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Dec 06, 2022 |
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Holding & Releasing Grudges
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Nov 29, 2022 |
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A Cure For Boredom
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Nov 22, 2022 |
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The 4 Social Gifts
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Nov 15, 2022 |
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Vulnerability Is Necessary
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Nov 08, 2022 |
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Interview #18 Beginning a pattern of making conscious choices w/ Paul Sockett
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Nov 01, 2022 |
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Honest Supportive Friendships
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Oct 25, 2022 |
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Setting New Boundaries with Old Friends
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Oct 18, 2022 |
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How To Become A More Chill Person
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Oct 11, 2022 |
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Interview #17 Beginning a pattern of having deeper conversations w/ Kevin Strauss
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Oct 04, 2022 |
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Resentful Friendships
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Sep 27, 2022 |
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Compliments Are Connecting
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Sep 20, 2022 |
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Don't Run Away After Being Rejected
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Sep 13, 2022 |
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Interview #16 Breaking the pattern emotional paralysis with EFT w/Christine Bernat
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Sep 06, 2022 |
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Shopping For Friendships
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Aug 30, 2022 |
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Competent Communication
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Aug 23, 2022 |
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A Gamer's Perspective
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Aug 16, 2022 |
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Socially Awkward
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Aug 09, 2022 |
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Interview #15 Beginning a pattern of nurturing a child's emotional health w/ JT Kaltreider
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Aug 02, 2022 |
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Showing Trust In Friendships
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Jul 26, 2022 |
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Change The Friendship Game
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Jul 19, 2022 |
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Independence From Yourself
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Jul 12, 2022 |
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I'm Back... AGAIN!
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Jul 05, 2022 |
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Where has Lee been?
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Dec 28, 2021 |
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I'm Back
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Dec 14, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #009
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Jul 16, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #008
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Jul 02, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Sadie's Divorced And Happy
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Jun 26, 2021 |
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Don't Think Against, Think Again
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Jun 26, 2021 |
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Interview #14 Breaking the pattern being labeled to live her truth w/Hannah Pillow
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Jun 23, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #007
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Jun 19, 2021 |
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Interview #13 Breaking the pattern of shaming for sharing in Black communities w/ Gerina Fullwood
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Jun 16, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Diversity on Fire - LGBTQIA+ Round Table
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Refreshingly Human - Let's Talk About Sex & Shame
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: The Happiness Project
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: The S Room
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Sexy Cool Lounge Podcast & Emotional Vocabulary
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: The Turtle Stack
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Y.I.E.L.D. Today With Dallin Candland
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: The Roller Coaster
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Productive Discourse
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Interview #12 Breaking the pattern of teaching helplessness w/ Steven Cohen
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Jun 09, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #006
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Jun 04, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #005
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May 21, 2021 |
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Interview #11 Breaking the pattern of fooding feelings w/ Luke Dentler
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May 18, 2021 |
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Toxic Positivity
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May 14, 2021 |
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Interview #10 Breaking the pattern of living a life without direction to living by and harnessing the power of intention w/ Karina Koltai
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May 12, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #004
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May 08, 2021 |
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Interview #9 Break a pattern of living in low vibes and inspire others to reach new higher "sexy cool" vibes w/ Jimmy IV
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May 04, 2021 |
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Don't D.I.E. It kills the connection.
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May 01, 2021 |
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Interview #8 Breaking the pattern of blaming others to take responsibility for his own actions w/ Alex Noval
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Apr 27, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #003
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Apr 24, 2021 |
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Interview #7: Breaking the pattern of gambling addiction & living in escapism to bet on herself and live a present life w/ Terra Carbert
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Apr 20, 2021 |
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Say What?
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Apr 17, 2021 |
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Interview #6: Examining patterns of building community and connection in the past, present and future w/ Tyree Johnson
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Apr 13, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #002
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Apr 09, 2021 |
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Interview #5 Breaking the pattern of making decisions based in fear, anxiety and uncertainty w/ Doug Sands
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Apr 06, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Fear Less U - Guestisode #1
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Apr 01, 2021 |
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Interview #4: Breaking the pattern of living in codependent relationships to thrive in a relationship with yourself w/ KC Bass
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Mar 30, 2021 |
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Interview #3: Breaking the pattern of ineffective communication to have connecting conversations w/ Heather Payuer
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Mar 24, 2021 |
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Interview #2: Breaking the pattern of hoarding things and feelings w/ Elisabeth King
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Mar 16, 2021 |
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Interview #1: Breaking the pattern of alcoholism to embrace parenthood w/ Aubrey Johnson
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Mar 09, 2021 |
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I Put A Spell On You (Because You're Mine)
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Mar 03, 2021 |
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Answer Reddit - Friendship Advice #001
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Feb 23, 2021 |
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Quick Update - A Few Changes
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Feb 19, 2021 |
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Driven by Distraction
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Feb 17, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Refreshingly Human
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Feb 12, 2021 |
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Gaslight Prophecy
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Feb 03, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: The Rising Man
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Feb 01, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: The Dream Chasers Radio
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Feb 01, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: The More You Know
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Jan 30, 2021 |
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Don't blame me! Take ownership. Be accountable.
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Jan 20, 2021 |
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Sorry, Not Sorry
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Jan 05, 2021 |
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Signal Boost: Epic Communicators
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Dec 29, 2020 |
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Signal Boost: Depression
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Dec 28, 2020 |
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Signal Boost: SoundBalming
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Dec 28, 2020 |
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Signal Boost: Curing Curiosity
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Dec 25, 2020 |
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Signal Boost: Diversity On Fire
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Dec 24, 2020 |
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Just The Right Size
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Dec 08, 2020 |
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Clear And Present Resentment
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Nov 26, 2020 |
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Sidestep The Setup Part 2: Tips To Stop Arguments Before They Start
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Nov 10, 2020 |
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Sidestep The Setup Part 1: Tips To Defuse Any Argument
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Nov 03, 2020 |
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All Fakes Are NOT Fools (and other things that are true)
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Oct 16, 2020 |
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Communication Life Hack: Verification & Validation
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Oct 01, 2020 |
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Quick Update
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Sep 23, 2020 |
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Agreement Is Not Understanding
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Sep 08, 2020 |
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Intention Doesn't Matter As Much As Impact
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Sep 01, 2020 |
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The B.E.A.T. Part 1
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Aug 11, 2020 |
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Patterns Are Everywhere!
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Aug 04, 2020 |
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Trailer
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Jul 09, 2020 |