Friend Crush with Amber Akilla
By Amber Akilla
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Welcome to Friend Crush with Amber Akilla! I am an Australian Chinese multi-hyphenate working in music and the creative industry. I am currently based in Shanghai, China. This is a space where I share my cute, chaotic and critical thoughts around friendship, love, relationships, dating, memes, pop culture, politics, self-help, self-empowerment and more ☆ come and join the party so you ensure you are staying hot & having fun!!! ♡ ♡ ♡
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it's not the thing, it's your relationship to the thing: rewiring your brain
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May 12, 2026 |
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decentering your hometown: hard to love yourself when you hate where you're from
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Apr 29, 2026 |
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navigating the creative industry - visibility, creative freedom & status
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Apr 15, 2026 |
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the first pillar of self-esteem: the practice of living consciously
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Apr 01, 2026 |
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baddie book club: being your own bestie, living consciously, journalling
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Mar 26, 2026 |
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consumption is not a hobby
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Mar 19, 2026 |
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flop eras, shrek-gate, ego death, supporting women's rights & wrongs
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Mar 06, 2026 |
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never argue with a man for free
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Feb 26, 2026 |
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decentering men while dating, first loves, envy, work crushes, casual hook ups
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Feb 19, 2026 |
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baddie book club: rejecting perfection, break-ups, gap year, failure & success
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Feb 15, 2026 |
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how to lock-in so hard your crush dies (metaphorically): limerence, yearning & being delusional
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Feb 15, 2026 |
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baddie book club vol. 1 week 1: discussion session ☆ the six pillars of self-esteem
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Feb 07, 2026 |
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when your bestie becomes a stranger - social circles & types of friendship
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Jan 29, 2026 |
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people pleasing dynamics (GRWM)
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Jan 21, 2026 |
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are all relationships transactional? what vibe do you bring to the function?
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Jan 14, 2026 |
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the book that changed my brain chemistry: the six pillars of self-esteem
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Jan 09, 2026 |
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non-negotiable hobbies for confidence: my pole dance journey
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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parents: avoid over-communicating and become living proof
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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you can't afford to be nonchalant - trying is cool
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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the pick-me seed: internalised misogyny, patriarchy, de-centering men
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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passion for your job is overrated
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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energy vampires & negging
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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is having a boyfriend embarrassing now? british vogue article thoughts & feelings
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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if you can't do it scared, do it ironically: micro-dosing risk, getting out of your comfort zone
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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all of your time is equally valuable ☆ being present
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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increase your baseline: discipline, acceptance, life audit, baby steps, being hot & having fun!!!
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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UNDERSTANDING LOVE: DEFINING CONNECTION
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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it's not the boy you're crying over: the crying gap - standards, expectations vs reality
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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everything is vibes - be hot and have fun!!!
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Jan 06, 2026 |
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rethinking imposter syndrome
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Aug 16, 2025 |
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hot girls don't let comparison be the thief of joy
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Jul 31, 2025 |
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what to do when you don't know what to do
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Jul 23, 2025 |
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growth doesn't have an aesthetic
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Jul 09, 2025 |
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a woman's ego in dating ~ eating dim sum in wuhan
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Jul 02, 2025 |
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kindness is never weakness
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Jun 25, 2025 |
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indifference is the best revenge ╮( ˘_˘ )╭
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Jun 18, 2025 |
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MOVING TO A NEW CITY - should you move, dating, making new friends
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Jun 03, 2025 |
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be crazy in private so you can focus on being hot in public: journalling
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May 27, 2025 |
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meditation for the unhinged & chronic over-thinkers (my 5 year review)
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May 22, 2025 |
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is your bestie acting like a hater? (female bullying & passive aggression)
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May 06, 2025 |
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do you need to kill the lover girl inside you?
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Apr 23, 2025 |
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don't let a fear of cringe get in the way of slaying
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Apr 17, 2025 |
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how hot girls make friends ☆
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Apr 14, 2025 |
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100 - miss you
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Mar 22, 2025 |
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real baddie behaviour
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Feb 21, 2025 |
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the philosophy of being hot & having fun (re-introduction for youtube))
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Feb 11, 2025 |
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before (or after) you send that essay text
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Feb 04, 2025 |
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the price of slaying is haters
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Jan 28, 2025 |
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things i learnt about friendship in my 20s
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Jan 21, 2025 |
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situationships are self harm
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Jan 14, 2025 |
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how to start new habits when your brain is mush
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Jan 10, 2025 |
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how to cure your chronically online clownery
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Jan 10, 2025 |
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30 things i learnt before 30 pt.2
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Jan 10, 2025 |
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30 things i learnt before 30 pt.1
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Jan 10, 2025 |
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how to be confident & unbothered
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Jan 10, 2025 |
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do what you enjoy
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Jan 10, 2025 |
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the disrespect is the closure
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Jan 06, 2025 |
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hot girl habits for crazy b*tches ☆
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Jan 06, 2025 |
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99 - FIGHT BACK (defending against haters)
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Sep 10, 2024 |
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98 - haters gonna hate: psychology behind criticism & negative feedback
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Sep 03, 2024 |
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97 - girl confessions: visa marriage, divorce, celibacy, living with men
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Aug 27, 2024 |
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96 - leaving your hometown: navigating new beginnings, cutting ties
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Aug 20, 2024 |
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95 - girl confessions: lovebombed by a creative director and unhinged flings - exploring modern romance
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Aug 13, 2024 |
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94 - full-time vs freelance: navigating your career path
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Aug 06, 2024 |
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93 - nice guys & pick-me girls: gender expectations
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Jul 30, 2024 |
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92 - girl confessions: crazy girlfriend era, delusional crushes & becoming secure
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Jul 23, 2024 |
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91 - go where you're appreciated: finding self worth in the right places
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Jul 16, 2024 |
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90 - DE-CENTER EVERYTHING: men, women, beauty, feminism - focus on yourself
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Jul 09, 2024 |
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89 - dating for money, financial dynamics & sprinkle sprinkle
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Jul 02, 2024 |
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88 - emotional accountability & relationship roadblocks
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Jun 25, 2024 |
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87 - 30 and no friends :( dealing w loneliness
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Jan 29, 2024 |
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voice memo 12 - is age just a number? pt.2 the privilege of aging
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Jan 10, 2024 |
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voice memo 11 - ageism, is age just a number?
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Jan 03, 2024 |
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voice memo 10 - decisions made in toxic comfort zones
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Dec 31, 2023 |
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voice memo 9 - allergic to bad vibes
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Dec 23, 2023 |
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86 - situationships
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Dec 12, 2023 |
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voice memo 8 - single & unbothered
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Nov 23, 2023 |
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85 - jealousy is a disease - envy & jealousy
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Nov 21, 2023 |
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84 - "high value women", growth & why people cheat
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Nov 14, 2023 |
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voice memo 7 - november thought dump
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Nov 09, 2023 |
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83 - quarter life crisis
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Nov 07, 2023 |
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82 - non negotiable hobby
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Oct 31, 2023 |
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voice memo 6 - character litmus test
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Oct 26, 2023 |
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81 - what do you have to offer?
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Oct 10, 2023 |
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80 - negative self talk
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Oct 03, 2023 |
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voice memo 5 - haters
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Sep 28, 2023 |
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79 - and what do you get out of it?
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Sep 26, 2023 |
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78 - resigning as the friend group therapist
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Sep 19, 2023 |
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voice memo 4 - feelings first, why? later
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Sep 14, 2023 |
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77 - offence vs disrespect
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Sep 12, 2023 |
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76 - girl confessions: hinge, single friends, age gaps, dating as a WoC
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Sep 05, 2023 |
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voice memo 3 - men & money???
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Aug 31, 2023 |
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75 - boy confessions: freshly 30, "the spark", dating expectations
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Aug 29, 2023 |
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74 - wtf is a boundary
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Aug 22, 2023 |
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voice memo 2 - friends to lovers to strangers, date ppl to get them out of the way lol
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Aug 17, 2023 |
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73 - what are you doing with your life???
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Aug 15, 2023 |
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72 - why people don't change
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Aug 08, 2023 |
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voice memo 1 - omg new crush just dropped!
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Aug 03, 2023 |
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71 - SEASON FIVE !!! one year back in shanghai !!!
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Aug 01, 2023 |
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70 - what about career switches? season 4 wrap!
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May 02, 2023 |
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69 - healing a broken heart vs a bruised ego
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Apr 25, 2023 |
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68 - SURVIVING NO CONTACT
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Apr 18, 2023 |
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67 - long distance relationships
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Apr 11, 2023 |
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66 - q&a - creating new habits, living at home vs full time work
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Apr 04, 2023 |
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65 - girl boss vs lover girl: wanting romantic connection
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Mar 28, 2023 |
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64 - what to do when your friend has become radicalized by the internet...
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Mar 21, 2023 |
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63 - betrayal trauma, sinophobia, working collaboratively, creative vs corporate
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Mar 14, 2023 |
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62 - normalize having no f**king idea
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Mar 07, 2023 |
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61 - q&a - finding yourself after a breakup, virtual romance
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Feb 28, 2023 |
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60 - de-influencing & intentional consumption
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Feb 21, 2023 |
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59 - how to live with your own clownery
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Feb 14, 2023 |
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58 - how to recover from people pleasing (youtube ep)
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Feb 01, 2023 |
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57 - do exes always come back and does it matter? (youtube ep)
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Jan 25, 2023 |
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56 - q&a - dating someone who is friends w their ex, incels, law school
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Jan 17, 2023 |
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55 - how to ask people out (youtube ep)
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Dec 29, 2022 |
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54 - boy confessions - "the game", people pleasing in men, authenticity in dating, ghosting & rejection
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Nov 29, 2022 |
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53 - w nadine milad - ghosting, people pleasing, friend break-ups
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Nov 22, 2022 |
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52 - pre 30 panic, quarter life crisis pt.2 listener submissions
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Nov 15, 2022 |
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51 - quarter life crisis, pre-30 panic pt.1 self esteem
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Nov 08, 2022 |
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50 - expectations, standards & the bare minimum
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Nov 01, 2022 |
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49 - boy confessions: "timothee" on cheating, 5 years single, new commitments & more
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Oct 25, 2022 |
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48 - friends with benefits & bootycalls
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Oct 18, 2022 |
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47 - adult friendships
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Oct 11, 2022 |
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46 - self-confidence & overcoming cringe
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Oct 04, 2022 |
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45 - q&a pt2 - boundaries, friends with your ex, books, pop culture, goals
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Sep 27, 2022 |
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44 - q&a pt1 - expectations, future faking, dating after a first love
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Sep 20, 2022 |
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43 - season four!! hi from shanghai!!! update/vibe check
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Sep 20, 2022 |
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42 - vibe check/ q&a - confrontation, friends & toxic exes, parental approval
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Apr 12, 2022 |
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41 - therapy
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Apr 05, 2022 |
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40 - w kicki yang zhang - art and influencing
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Mar 29, 2022 |
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39 - vibe check / q&a - breakups, boundaries, hinge replies, digital restraining orders
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Mar 22, 2022 |
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38 - w/ derrick gee - advice for creatives, 10 year marriage & tiktok
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Mar 15, 2022 |
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37 - skincare
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Mar 08, 2022 |
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36 - breadcrumbing and orbiting
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Mar 01, 2022 |
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35 - you are hot and having fun !!!
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Feb 22, 2022 |
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34 - random thoughts on healing
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Feb 15, 2022 |
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33 - hookup culture
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Feb 08, 2022 |
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32 - training for a breakup
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Feb 01, 2022 |
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31 - west elm caleb & dating apps
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Jan 25, 2022 |
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30 - any benefit mindset
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Jan 18, 2022 |
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29 - it's just a little crush!!!
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Jan 11, 2022 |
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28 - digital distancing
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Jan 04, 2022 |
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27 - 2021 thoughts & feelings
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Dec 28, 2021 |
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26 - if they wanted to they would?
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Dec 21, 2021 |
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25 - superficial vs spiritual self-care
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Dec 14, 2021 |
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24 - micro-cheating
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Dec 07, 2021 |
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23 - not having standards is bad for society
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Nov 30, 2021 |
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22 - being hot is not the same as being respected
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Nov 23, 2021 |
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21 - what’s good vs what’s best for you
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Nov 16, 2021 |
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20 - everything is connected 😌✨pt 1: authenticity
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Jul 28, 2021 |
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19 - grounding exercises to keep the crazy at bay
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Jul 20, 2021 |
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18 - random thoughts & realizations ~ truth vs opinion, authenticity
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Jul 15, 2021 |
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17 - reading is cool!!!!!!
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Jun 03, 2021 |
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16 - how to create awareness of and unlearn internalized racism
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May 19, 2021 |
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15 - are your friends kinda racist?
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Apr 29, 2021 |
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14 - the stages of realizing things ~ feminism & identity
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Mar 25, 2021 |
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13 - 20 things i learnt in 2020 #realizingthings
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Jan 01, 2021 |
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12 - getting off the gram
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Dec 29, 2020 |
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11 - what can we learn from friend break ups?
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Dec 21, 2020 |
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10 - confronting vs ghosting & can you get back together?? (friend breakups pt2 )
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Dec 03, 2020 |
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9 - is love a neurochemical con job??? understanding & practicing love
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Nov 23, 2020 |
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8 - friend break ups & why we CUT TIES!!!
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Oct 21, 2020 |
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7 - Elle @14strk on balancing her irl and url self
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Oct 15, 2020 |
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6 - making friends and finding your peoples
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Oct 13, 2020 |
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5 - yasmin suteja on identity and working in the australian creative industry
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Oct 09, 2020 |
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4 - control, crisis, consciousness & character
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Sep 30, 2020 |
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3 - body image: accepting and loving your skin suit
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Sep 16, 2020 |
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2 - chopsticks in the hair ~do we care?
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Sep 08, 2020 |
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1 - texting ur ex but it's me telling u what to say
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Aug 25, 2020 |
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welcome to friend crush!
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Aug 24, 2020 |