OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball and leading therapists

By Louise Rumball

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OPENHOUSE - a fresh, fun and real podcast that explores the amazing impact that therapy and human connection can have on all areas of our lives. Louise and her favourite therapists, clinical psychologists & mental health experts take weekly thoughts, questions and stories as well as digging into Louise's life (the good, the bad and the ugly) so you can get your #FreeTherapy fix and know that you are not alone. From relationships to dating, to sex, intimacy, family, friendship and more, this podcast has something for everyone.

Episode Date
74 - HEALING - How TF to actually *feel your feelings* to be more emotionally stable ft. Angie Lila River
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Ever wondered how to manage emotions like anger, anxiety, jealously and rage before they become so overwhelming that they ruin your hour, day, week or even your relationship?

Louise is joined by Angie Lila River, embodiment coach, who helps Louise understand why: 

  • Why we are never actually taught to 'feel' our feelings
  • The concepts of intellectualizing vs. feeling 
  • Why we suppress, distract and avoid from discomfort + the follow on impacts
  • How to navigate intense bouts of sadness, anxiety anger and jealousy
  • The concept of rage release + how to practice it safely
  • Is movement really medicine?

+ how Louise is learning to feel for the first time ever - and more!

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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl___
Connect with Angie on TikTok:  @angielilariver
Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @openhouselife
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Feb 06, 2023
73 - SEX - How to have better, stronger & longer orgasms ft. breathplay. choking & edging
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Ready to take your sex life or self-pleasure journey to the next level? This episode is for you. Join Louise and Dr. Massimo Fontana, sexologist, sex therapist & clinical psychologist, as they discuss:

  • How breath, breath play and breath restriction can elevate your orgasms
  • The difference between the 'hold' and the 'choke' and the 'strangle' 
  • The 101 guide on how to neck hold safely
  • Cosmic orgasms, what they are and how to get there
  • Erotic massage and what this entails
  • Edging towards orgasm & how vibrators can help you
  • The internal and external orgasm and how to pair them well together
  • The vaginal barbell (yes REALLY)

And more!

Additional recommended listening:

70 - Sex happens in our bodies, so why do we get so damn stuck in our heads?
66 - If casual sex traumatizes the f**k out of you, you are not alone - but why?

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife
Connect with Dr Massimo Fontana: @massimo.stochi.fontana
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

Jan 30, 2023
72 - HEARTBREAK - How to heal heartbreak ft. a neuroscientist
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Louise is joined by neuroscientist, Emily McDonald to discuss the neuroscience behind heartbreak and:

  • The 3 ways to speed up the withdrawal stage of the break up 
  • The one supplement that can be miraculous for a break up 
  • The psychology of romanticising the f**k out of a break up
  • Why your brain drives you back even to unhealthy relationships 
  • The ‘Cold Turkey’ breakup vs. The ‘Slow Taper’ 
  • The 3 Point List you HAVE to make straight after a break up 
  • A reflection on mistakes + and why your brain kicks yourself once a relationship is over
  • The science behind whether men or women get over breakups quicker

And more!

5HTP Recommendation: https://www.thorne.com/products/dp/5-hydroxytryptophan

DISCLAIMER: This does not constitute medical advice. Always consult your Doctor before starting any new medications or supplements.

Rat Park Study: https://livrepository.liverpool.ac.uk/3028403/1/Rat-Park-acceptedmanuscript.docx

FMRI & Physical Pain Study: Social rejection shares somatosensory representations with physical pain' https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3076808/

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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl___
Connect with Emily on TikTok:  @emonthebrain
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Jan 24, 2023
71 - DATING - Why attention isn't intention + situationships
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Louise jumps on a solo HOME TRUTHS episode to discuss 3 recent dating stories from ladies inside The House. She breaks these down and gives her honest opinion on what is going on, as well as sharing insight into:

  • Her 1.5 year situationship (what she learned from this experience)
  • The neuroscience behind flirting + why it feels so damn good 
  • The attention / intention conundrum; and
  • How to break down and analyze someone’s behaviour to avoid dating disappointment

And more.

Recommended listening on dating:
⇢#16 - how to deal with out of bounds relationships / why we keep it quiet
⇢#64 - why are you attracted to people’s confusing behaviour?
⇢#33 - why you’re attracted to inconsistent men / women (+ how to break these cycles ⇢#44)

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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl___
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Jan 16, 2023
70 - SEX - Sex happens in our bodies, so why are we in our heads?
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Louise joins Dr. Massimo to discuss why - when pleasure is a body-based experience, why do so many of us get stuck in our heads. 

The pair discuss: 

  • How much sex is the right amount of sex?
  • The concept of the Orgasm Wall and how everyone's wall is built differently
  • How body image, stress and lifestyle impact libido
  • How climax anxiety and performance anxiety are real
  • The concept of spectatoring - when we are in our head rather than our body
  • How to get out of our head and into our body 

And so much more. 

Jan 09, 2023
69 - How to avoid a breakup or divorce
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Louise joins Dr. Tari Mack to discuss the 4 predictors of relationship breakdown and divorce and how these show up in conflict and communication.

The pair also discuss: 

  • the difference between criticism and feedback;
  • why eye-rolling ties into a belief of superiority;
  • why defensiveness covers up deep rooted vulnerability;
  • why stonewalling can be so infuriating;
  • age regression when being triggered

and more.


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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife
Connect with Dr Tari Mack on Instagram: @drtarimack
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Music Sources

Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

Dec 30, 2022
68 - HOMETRUTH - Why healthy relationships feel foreign after toxic ones
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In a new solo HOMETRUTH segment, Louise hops on a solo episode to ask 'why does no one talk about how hard a healthy relationship is after years of toxic ones? '

Louise talks about the truths you need to accept, why healthy relationships feel uncomfortable after toxic ones, what to do about it, and more, including:

⇢ healthy love after toxic love
⇢ suspicion & being hyper vigilant to every future partner
⇢ self sabotage & why you might just want to f**k it all up 
⇢ why healthy sometimes feels boring or gives you the “ick”
⇢ the nervous system activation of “butterflies” & attachment trauma 
⇢ what we need to learn about baby butterflies; and
⇢ why even the sex might feel different in a healthy relationship. 

Recommended listening on toxic relationships:

⇢#16 - how to deal with out of bounds relationships / why we keep it quiet
⇢#67 - ‘hard work partner or toxic abuse?’
⇢#24 - how to leave a toxic relationship, safely
⇢#64 - why are you attracted to people’s confusing behaviour?
⇢#33 - why you’re attracted to inconsistent men / women (+ how to break it #44)
⇢#13 -Louise's experiences in a toxic relationship
⇢#12 - how codependency can also suggest toxic trauma bonds
⇢#47 - d**khead or narcissist? The 101 guide to narcissism and

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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl___
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Dec 26, 2022
67 - RELATIONSHIPS - hard work partner or toxic relationship?
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In this OPENHOUSE Submission, Dr. Tari Mack, clinical psychologist, breaks down a question submitted to the OPENHOUSE Hotline around whether someone’s husband is just ‘hard work’ and that’s why her friends don’t like him or whether his behaviour is actually emotional abuse and leaning into narcissistic behavior and traits. 

The person explains that there have been a number of issues around being rude to her, belittling and demeaning her, flirting with other people, borrowing and repaying money, and more. 

Louise Rumball & Dr. Tari Mack look at:

⇢ The difference between one off behavioural incidents and repeating patterns
⇢The warning signs of an emotionally abusive relationship and how to avoid falling for one 
⇢ Why violence in a relationship does not have to be just physical
⇢ The connection between money, showing off and some forms of narcissism 
⇢ How your relationship & marriage can impact your children long before you realize it
⇢ Why narcissistic behavior, emotional abuse and manipulation often get overlooked

Recommended listening:

  • Episode 47 - NARCISSISM - Did I spend years of my life with a narcissist or was he just a really sh*t person? The ultimate 101 guide to identifying a narcissist 

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife
Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Music Sources

Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY


Dec 19, 2022
66 - SEX & DATING - If casual sex traumatizes the f**k out of you, you are not alone - but why? Ft. Dr Massimo Fontana
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Does casual sex strike fear, regret, guilt, sadness and rejection in you when for others it seems to be fun, free and easy? In today’s episode, Louise is enjoyed by Dr. Massimo Fontana to ask WHY!

The pair discuss why casual sex can be so damn traumatic for some of us, and not others, while also sharing Louise's personal experiences so you can feel just a little bit less alone.

Louise & Dr. Massimo get into: 

⇢The tie to anxious attachment
⇢How sex can be mini traumas
⇢The grief cycle of casual sex 
⇢Why it’s particularly bad for those who are anxiously attached or with an abandonment wound
⇢The concept of ‘giving yourself away’ and why we feel empty the next day
⇢How to handle grief, regret, shame connected to sex; and
⇢The chemicals behind being 'love drunk' 

And more.

Dec 12, 2022
65 - GIRL TALK - Can we all just be real about our sex lives? Because no one is f**king 10 times a week
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In this episode of Girl Talk, Louise and Monica meet in Tulum and record the episode *together* to discuss the things that people aren't talking about online -  sex, pleasure, libidos, sex lives and, more importantly, the reality of sex that no one talks about. 

In a world of everyone else looking perfect, it’s easy to get sucked into the belief that everyone is having the best sex of their life, constantly. The truth? That’s just not true. 

The pair discuss: 

⇢The truths about sex that no one is talking about
⇢Louise’s recent experience with dengue fever & how it impacted her sex life
⇢Pressure to sleep together, pressure-to-orgasm and how to relieve this pressure (and the impact it has on your body)
⇢How your environment can impact your nervous system and your libido
⇢Sexual blueprints & the different ‘types’ of sex we can enjoy
⇢How FIFA, gaming & stress can get in the way of your sex drive

And more.

Other GIRL TALK episodes: episodes 36 and 43 of the OPENHOUSE Podcast

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Connect with Louise on IG: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__
Connect with OPENHOUSE on IG: @openhouselife
Connect with Monica on IG: @monicayateshealth

Sign up to access ‘The House’ and to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com 

Music Sources
Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

Dec 05, 2022
64 - DATING - Stop asking why their behaviour is confusing and instead start asking - why am I so attracted to it?
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Louise & Dr Tari jump on a quick OPENHOUSE HOTLINE episode to answer a submission about a guy who's behaviour has been confusing, unclear and misleading since a listener first started dating, interacting and sleeping with him. The episode takes an interesting turn when Dr Tari starts to talk more about the listener, than the guy in question. Dr Tari talks focuses the episode talking about the concepts of intentional dating, communication, pacing, boundaries and more and helps shift our perspective on a situation that so many of us have experienced before.

Louise shares her personal experience with a similar situation, as well as the concepts of:

⇢Why silence drives a cycle of 'pick me, choose me'
⇢Why stupid games lead to stupid relationships
⇢Why the cool girl needs to die 
⇢How communication can alleviate the likelihood of pain, rejection and ghosting 
⇢Why you don't 'have to test the sex before investing in them'

And more. There are also multiple features from an OPENHOUSE guest - a very noisy cat.

Other recommended listening episodes: 
⇢Episode 11 & 29 - unconscious attraction & how childhood drives adulthood
⇢Episode 30 - pacing 
⇢Episode 22 - getting over ghosting

Welcome home! 

Nov 27, 2022
63 - INFIDELITY - The psychology of "The Other Woman" and how to avoid becoming her (+ how to heal)
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The OPENHOUSE therapists discuss a user submission on someone who has been the ‘Other Woman’ for too long. She asks the team:

⇢ *HOW* did this situation happen?
⇢ How did she get so brainwashed?
⇢ What sort of man (or woman) entertains a long term affair?
⇢ Why and how does this person have so much power over her?; and
⇢ Where does she go from here?

Louise and the therapists discuss:
⇢ How affairs start
⇢ The type of man or woman who are most susceptible to being ‘The Other’
⇢ The statement ‘I can’t leave’ and what this really means
⇢ The concept of power play and adrenaline
⇢ The difference between attention & intention
⇢ The darker, shadow sides of when we accept shameful love
⇢ How to leave or end an affair and
⇢ How to avoid one happening in the first place

And more.

Louise also shares her own personal experience with ‘being the other’ and discusses The Thimble Analogy - the game changing therapy analogy that radically changes the way that you understand how, and why, you accept less than loving love - and how to change this.

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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__
Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast
Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack
Connect with Massimo Fontana on Instagram: here
Join ‘The House’ - the private OPENHOUSE community - here

Access our therapy guides, sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list or submit a question to the OPENHOUSE HOTLINE: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Music Sources
Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

Nov 21, 2022
62 - DATING - Why does anxious attachment + dating make us feel CRAZY AF? And how to start healing
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UPDATE: ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT THERAPY EBOOKS NOW AVAILABLE

⇢ The Ultimate Guide - How to navigate & heal your anxious attachment style when dating  - A 26 page PDF guide created by clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack & Louise Rumball - linked HERE

⇢ The Ultimate Script - How to communicate your anxious attachment style when dating  - a 14 Page Script PDF - linkedHERE

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Do you feel full of dread every time you go on a date, or when it has ended? Do you constantly focus on whether they are into you or whether they’re going to text back or ask you out again -  rather than focusing on getting to know you? Do you hate it when they don’t reply, or are sat online and constantly wonder if they are about to ghost you or reject you? If you’re anxiously attached and in the dating world- it’s painful, and you’re not alone.

Louise talks with Dr Tari Mack, clinical psychologist and relationship expert on how to make the dating world a little more manageable. 

The pair talk:

⇢ Why dating and an anxious attachment style do not mix well together
⇢ The 6 things you need to understand to navigate the dating stage more easily 
⇢ The concept of neutral, negative and positive cues when dating
⇢ How and when you can start talking about things they do that trigger you
⇢ When you should talk about your anxious attachment (and how) 
⇢ The psychology of words and actions aligning
⇢ The concept of ‘communication’ and then ‘observation’

And more

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast
Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list & to get access to our free community area, THE HOUSE at www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Music Sources
Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

Nov 15, 2022
61 - MONEY - We share a bed with them, so why don't we share our finances with them? + the surprising connection between money, sex & food
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In this episode, Louise is joined by psychologist Dr. Alex Melkumian and writer, speaker and Louise's  great friend, Ellie Austin-Williams of This Girl Talks Money to discuss all things money and how it has us in such a chokehold.

The group discuss:

⇢ How our money habits start to form before we are even born (+ the intergenerational cycles of money)
⇢ A discussion around which caregiver drives our money habits the most;
⇢ The connection between money, sex & food - and which is Louise’s favorite; 
⇢ The threshold at which money stops making us more happy; 
⇢ The concept of retail therapy - is this just normalized addiction;
⇢ The big money taboo;
⇢ Why we’re happy to share a bed with someone but not discuss money; and
⇢ How to start having the conversations that will 

And more!

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl___
Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast
Connect with Alex on LinkedIn: here
Connect with Ellie on This Girl Talks Money: here
Listen to Money Unfiltered on Spotify: here

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Music Sources
Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

Nov 07, 2022
60 - LIFE UPDATE - New fear unlocked: Dengue Fever PLUS + 2 major life realizations
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A bonus update and solo episode from Louise as she discusses her recent life challenge in Mexico and what she learnt from it.

Nov 02, 2022
59 - CELIBACY & SEX - Can less sex lead to the best sex of your life? How giving space to your sex life and relationships can revolutionize them Ft. Jordan Jeppe
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Join Louise and Shadow Work Guide, Jordan Jeppe, as they discuss how the simple act of giving space to your relationships and sex life can revolutionise them

With the pair coming to you from Mexico, Jordan shares her experience with 13 months of conscious and intentional celibacy, and Louise shares her 2 year experience of being a ‘naughty celibate’ as well as discussing:

⇢Healing from heartbreak, jealousy, and toxic traits and patterns
⇢Why celibacy is nothing like you think it is
⇢The concept of the 'sexual pause'
⇢Why we all need space to reflect on our past and present
⇢How our shadow drives our past relationships
⇢Are you masturbating intentionally? and
⇢How to review your connection with self pleasure

And MORE!

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast
Connect with Jordan on TikTok: @jordanjeppe

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Music Sources
Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

Oct 17, 2022
58 - SEX - We’re having sex, not going to the circus - so why are we out here performing? Ft. Dr Massimo Fontana
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Our sex episodes are back. Join Louise & OPENHOUSE sex therapist, psychologist, & intimacy coach, Massimo Fontana, as the pair discuss:

⇢Making love in the dark;
⇢The balance between receivership and service in the bedroom;
⇢The impact of pornography and ‘fake it till you make it’ culture on our sex lives today
⇢The fragile ego + why we take things personally if our partner doesn’t orgasm
⇢Why we’re not creating space to explore our sexual self
⇢How to communicate what you like and what you don’t like in the bedroom
⇢How to build a space of intimacy where it doesn’t matter whether you orgasm or not 
⇢The importance of being in your body rather than cerebrally being in your head 
⇢And the importance of aftercare, safety and non-violent sexual play

Massimo and Louise also chat breath play, blindfold play, creating sex tapes, the Master’s and Johnson Orgasm curve & crying in the shower after sex + the HEARTSPACE trick to bring you and your partner closer together. 

Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast
Connect with Massimo Fontana: @massimo.stocchi.fontana

Join the mailing list or submit a question to the OPENHOUSE Therapist Hotline through the OPENHOUSE website: www.thisisopenhouse.com

Interested in reaching your truest sexual self image and healing yourself through your sexuality? Book your exploration consultation with Massimo HERE and quote OPENHOUSE. 

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Music Sources
Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY


Oct 10, 2022
57 - LIFE UPDATE - Why did I leave Mexico, am I going back, long distance love, my summer in London, the future + more - Ft. Louise Rumball
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As summer draws to an end, Louise hops into the studio to give you a *QUICK* solo episode and life update. After a busy summer and things growing fast at OPENHOUSE, she's juggling lots of plates and hasn't taken a hot second in a while to tell you what's going on, behind the scenes, in her life. 

So, grab a tea, grab a coffee, go for a walk and join Louise as she chats a little dose of real life reality (because not everything can be sex, love and intimacy):

⇢Why did she come back from Mexico? 
⇢Is she going back? 
⇢What are her thoughts on long distance love? 
⇢What is the future of OPENHOUSE
⇢What is she still working on in therapy? 
⇢Who trolled her;

and more!

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball |
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast |
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events:
www.thisisopenhouse.com |

Oct 06, 2022
56 - THERAPIST HOTLINE - I’m in a happy relationship, so why am I thinking about someone else?
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In today’s first ever OPENHOUSE Hotline episode, Louise reads clinical psychologist, Dr Tari, Mack and sex therapist Massimo Fontana a listener’s question that explains she is in a happy, long term relationship but has started to think about someone she has met at work …. A lot. 

Louise asks the therapists their thoughts on what to do when you start to think about someone who is not your partner.

The group discuss: 

⇢ Is this normal? Does this happen to everyone?
⇢ What to do when it happens; 
⇢ Why this is often more about you, rather than the person outside of the relationship; 
⇢ But what the other person can show you about yourself and your relationship; 
⇢ Why stepping out of bounds isn't always the solution; 
⇢ The shame and guilt that people experience when they do engage with the 'other person' thinking it might make them feel better;

As well as asking;

  • Is it normal to fantasize about someone who isn’t your partner? and
  • What tips and tricks that you can introduce into your relationship to re-connect both inside and outside of the bedroom.

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball



Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast


Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack



Connect with Massimo Fontana

Follow Massimo Fontana on Instagram: here

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com



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Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

Oct 03, 2022
55 - MOMMY ISSUES - Of course your Mom knows how to push your buttons, she's the one that installed them. Exploring mommy issues & the mother wound
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Mothers define our childhood, so it only makes sense that they might define our adulthood too, right? 

In today’s episode, Louise is joined  viral TikTok Therapist, LMFT and EMDR/TRM trained therapist and the powerful pair discuss all things Mummy issues and look at the complex relationships we can have with our Mother’s. They look at the positives we can take from our Mother’s in childhood and adulthood but also the way that they can push our buttons like no others. Louise & Lisa look at healthy relationships all the way through to toxic relationships, setting boundaries, commenting on our lives and decision making and more including:

⇢ The psychological model of the ‘Good Enough Mother’ 



⇢ What we learn from Mom, and what we learn from Dad;



⇢ How often we look at the parent who made the ‘loudest’ or most ‘painful’ wounds - and ignore the quieter one; 



⇢ How to understand Mum’s judgment, criticism and constant feedback - as well as the guilt when she always calls and you’re ‘too busy’ to talk;

⇢ How to set boundaries, why they are important and how to handle the backlash; 



⇢The ‘Fleet’ Analogy - about how to have a healthy relationship with your parents (and family) that doesn’t lead into isolation or enmeshment; 



⇢ The ‘Characters We Play In Our Families’ - how everyone is taught to play a role in the family and how you can change this when you shine a light on it.

And so much more.


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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__

Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast



Connect with Lisa Smith on Instagram: @somymomsatherapist

Connect with Lisa Smith on TikTok: @somymomsatherapist

Stream So My Mom’s A Therapist on Spotify: here



Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com



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Sep 21, 2022
54 - DATING APPS - Dating app dread? How to find the pot of gold at the end of the dating app rainbow (without hating the journey along the way)
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Do you hate dating apps? Do you think people are lazy? Never reply? Always think there are more fish in the sea? Always keep meeting useless people and heading back to the apps? 

Louise talks with Dr Tari Mack, clinical psychologist and relationship expert on how to make these damn apps work for you. 

The pair talk:

  • Approach & intentionality - clarity around shopping list and qualifiers that you HAVE to be clear on before you download the app; 
  • Dealbreakers, red flags - how to talk about them and how to identify them;
  • How you can get in your own way with search criteria; 
  • How to set up your profile to share your true self - and to weed out people who are interested in your fake self; 
  • How to stop wasting mental time and energy engaging with the wrong people; 
  • How to start conversation; 
  • How long should you talk before meeting?


And more.



Louise also shares: 

  • Some of the amazing stories she has experienced through dating apps; 
  • And how many hilariously BAD stories she has also experienced thanks to her poor use of dating apps. 


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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball


Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast

Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack


Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com



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Sep 19, 2022
53 - TRUST ISSUES - I don't have trust issues, so why don't I trust them? Exploring how anxiety, attachment, insecurity & trauma can get in the way of happy harmony
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Welcome to ‘No Mans Land’ - when you have no trust issues in your relationship and no reason to not trust your partner but you struggle with trust & insecurity. It’s a sticky in between area when sometimes you feel uncomfortable and you find yourself thinking ‘do I trust them!?’ or ‘do I not trust myself? Is this the problem coming from me or is it being caused by them? Is it because of a partner or incident before? Should they be doing more to help me or should I be pulling myself together? Am I being irrational? Are they being irrational? If you can relate, this episode is for you. 

Today, Louise is once again joined by Lisa Smith, of TikTok’s ‘So My Mom’s A Therapist’ notoriety to discuss all things TRUST. 

They pair discuss: 


⇢ The concept of silence, suppression, the crazy girl and the cool girl

⇢ How the cool girl and crazy girl show up in our cognition and in our brain patterns

⇢ Why it’s not needy to have needs but why we don’t act on our feelings because of rejection

⇢ The physical impacts of ignoring our own needs

⇢The real of ‘reasonable’ - what can you ask your partner to do to make you feel better?

⇢ How to understand the difference between overactive anxiety and an overactive nervous system response vs. our gut trying to tell us the truth


⇢ The secret to soothing your nervous system, alone, and with your partner; 

⇢ How to navigate these situations when our bodies aren’t happy and we don’t feel safe. 


And so much more.


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OPENHOUSE Links

Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__

Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcast

Connect with Lisa Smith on Instagram: @somymomsatherapist

Connect with Lisa Smith on TikTok: @somymomsatherapist

Stream So My Mom’s A Therapist on Spotify: here

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Sep 07, 2022
52 - SEX - Meet my sex therapist. Why do we glorify big d*cks, why do people get pu$$Y shamed and what are the foundations of self worship?
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Friends, I am beyond excited to introduce you to my Sex Therapist, Massimo Fontana. He is the most incredible sex therapist and he is the man that is going to help the OPENHOUSE audience start reach the pinnacle of sex, intimacy and deep connection.

While I am all for female empowerment, I LOVE that Massimo brings a bit of ‘male’ to the podcast, because the way he looks at what we discuss is revolutionary and allows us to consider today’s sexual conditioning from all stand points. 

In today’s episode, I introduce Massimo and then we jump straight into the juicy stuff, including: 

  • The rise of designer vaginas and how pornography has led to a misguided belief that your pu$$y should be ‘perfect’
  • What you’d think about your genitals if you were stranded on a desert island
  • How religion sets the foundations for sexual shame and keeping pleasure inside the marital home
  • How many of us are not connected to our sexual self
  • Why society glorifies big penises, and focuses on performance based sex
  • The Bell Curve for male & female orgasm; 
  • Why today’s society overlooks foreplay; and more!

I also share my personal stories of what I have learnt in my own sex life over the past decade and Massimo doesn’t hold back with any of his questions.

It’s a juicy one, and is the first of many very important, intimate discussions to come.

If you took value from this episode, please share to your socials & give us a rating on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help us reach as many people as possible with the life changing and transformative impacts of therapy and emotional health practices. 

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast
Connect with Massimo Fontana: @massimo.stocchi.fontana
Head to the OPENHOUSE website: www.thisisopenhouse.com

Interested in reaching your truest sexual self image and healing yourself through your sexuality? Book your exploration consultation with Massimo HERE and quote OPENHOUSE. 

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Sep 05, 2022
51 - TIPS & TRICKS - 'The significance of the small' - how to make someone feel love, cared for, cherished & adored with just 30 seconds a day
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In this bonus episode, Louise jumps into the podcast studio at Shoreditch House to discuss something she's been thinking about lately - the significance of the small and how we can use tiny, 30 second moments to make people feel loved, cared for, cherished and adored. A little really goes a long way in a world lonelier and more disconnected than ever before.

Louise discusses her top 10 tips on how the little things can become the big things - and how she has put some of these into action in the last few weeks of her life with those around her.

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
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Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Aug 31, 2022
50 - HEALTH - How relationships, your partner, your friends, and your city can either hurt or heal your nervous system (+ how coming back to London f**ked me up) Ft. Dana Doswell
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Ever feel like everything is just a little too much and that you feel more sensitive than most people? Or that you are either hyper stressed out, with 101 things on your to-do list that all need to be done at once? Or, alternatively, do you not feel much at all? Are you lethargic and struggling with motivation and can think of nothing better than lying on your sofa, never leaving the house & eating take out and binging netflix? Has the pandemic changed you as a person and the outside world doesn’t feel as good as it used to? 

In today’s episode, Louise sits down with nervous system coach and somatic therapist Dana Doswell to discuss how our relationships, community, city and even the pandemic can either hurt or heal your nervous system.

Dana & Louise get into: 

  • What is somatic bodywork;
  • How and why emotions show up in the body; 
  • Louise’s personal tendency to shift into fight & flight as opposed to rest & digest or freeze; and
  • How so many of us are disconnected & numb to what is really going on around us and inside of us. 

The pair also discuss the impact that coming back to London has had on Louise’s nervous system as well as discussing how other big changes, like the pandemic, are deeply distressing to so many people’s nervous systems (even if you didn’t realise it) and how it has shifted the entire way that your body (and mind) may function. 

Dana also runs through the three ‘states’ of the nervous system and how these are supposed to work in a healthy functioning and resilient nervous system, as well as discussing the impact that loving and stable relationships can have on your biology and physiology vs. those that are unhealthy

And so much more! 

If you took value from this episode, please share to your socials & give us a rating on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help us reach as many people as possible with the life changing and transformative impacts of therapy and emotional health practices. 

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcast
Head to the OPENHOUSE website: www.thisisopenhouse.com


Check out Dana's private coaching, free guide to healing your post-pandemic freeze response & free nervous system healing guide, plus more: here

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Aug 29, 2022
49 - DATING - 3 key reasons you haven’t found your person yet (+ how to avoid making these mistakes)
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Ever wondered why you keep dating, and dating, and never really getting anywhere? Maybe you find yourself jumping from relationship to relationship or attracting and engaging with people that turn out to be total disappointments.In this OPEN(HEART) episode of OPENHOUSE, Louise is joined by head OPENHOUSE therapist, clinical psychologist & celebrity relationship expert, Dr Tari Mack as she discusses the three key areas that she sees people missing time and time again when they are trying to find their life partner. 

The two discuss: 

  • the importance of a shopping list; 
  • the importance of building foundations before jumping into bed together; 
  • why you keep going for the same types of men on repeat, even though it’s not working; 
  • the importance of leading with consistency rather than chemistry alone;
  • how to break the chemistry cycle; 
  • why you have to be able to communicate about what you want and what you don’t want before you start jumping into bed together

And more. 

Louise also shares all she has learnt about:

  • how you can be your own red flag
  • how you often can be perpetuating the cycles of wrong partner choice due to your own unconscious attraction & bias;
  • how much therapy has helped her to move from poor communication, conflict styles & partner choice to her healthiest relationship yet. 

Dr Tari Mack also shares more about her exclusive “Single To Engaged” course launching this month (enrolment closes August 30th 2022) and how the 3 month, 12 module course (including a 1-1 individual relationship reading of your blind spots - plus  option of a & live coaching group and WhatsApp access) could be the perfect way for you to deep dive into therapy and find the partner for you. Even if you’re not ready to find your forever person, Dr Tari will prepare you for healthy dating, While the Single to Engaged live coaching group is only open until Aug 31,   the online course is self-paced and always available.

Sign up to Single to Engaged HERE

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife
Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Aug 22, 2022
48 - ANXIETY - What to do when busy life just gets too much + Louise's 12 step approach to getting life back into a state of calm and control
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In today’s episode, Louise discusses coming back to London and how it has been a total shock to the system. She starts with a solo episode discussing something she has a lot of experience with - living a high energy, hectic, calendar full, big city life that can often lead to you feeling very overwhelmed - and how she is now back into the thick of it.

As things have got increasingly stressful, Louise shares the 12 things that help her navigate when life gets just a little bit too much.

Louise shares the ‘Jenga Analogy’ - a way that she has found incredibly helpful to help share her feelings and communicate when others that things are getting too much

At the back end of the episode, Monica joins Louise to discuss how her actionable tips and tricks on what to do when life, business, relationships and the world get too much. 

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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__

Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @openhouselife

Connect with Monica: @monicayateshealth

Listen to The Feminine as F*ck podcast with Monica Yates: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/231-girl-chat-3-being-the-female-breadwinner-staying/id1449633522?i=1000569258572

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Aug 13, 2022
47 - NARCISSISM - Did I spend years of my life with a narcissist or was he just a really sh*t person? The ultimate 101 guide to identifying a narcissist
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Ever dated a really, really sh*t, mean, hurtful, poorly communicative or downright disrespectful person? Us too - but today, so many people throw the term ‘narcissist’ around so much that it seems like those with Narcissist Personality Disorder are around every corner. The truth? Experts estimate that up actually only around 5% of people have Narcissist Personality Disorder - and a lot of people are not actually suffering from the personality disorder that we tell everyone they are. So, why are we pathologizing this so much? 

Is every relationship with a narcissist a trauma bond?

Is an angry person always a narcissist?

In today’s episode, Louise and clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mac help you understand the difference between someone with some negative personality traits or damaging, disrespectful & destructive learned behavior / coping mechanisms vs. being able to actually identify those with a narcissist personality. The two look at:

⇢ What narcissism is

⇢ How it starts

⇢ Can you get rid of it

⇢ The 3 different types of narcissism

⇢ How we mistreat it

⇢ How we enable it

⇢ What it gets confused with, and more. 


Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack look at: 

⇢ What is really beneath narcissism; 
⇢ What traits do people cover it with; 
⇢ The 3 different types of narcissist;
⇢ How obsessively taking instagram photos might come onto that continuum;
⇢ How it develops, and why; 
⇢ Whether you can ever change a narc;

⇢ Or whether a narc is ever likely to commit to changing themselves; and more. 


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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball
Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife
Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack
Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY


Aug 08, 2022
46 - DATING - How micro moments can help you meet someone, the story of how Louise met her man, how to approach 'exclusivity', avoid arguments and more - with Lisa Smith ('So My Mom's A Therapist')
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If you are on TikTok, it’s almost impossible to not have come across Lisa Smith - better known as ‘So, My Mom’s a Therapist’. Lisa takes people’s TikToks and breaks down the psychology of what is going on behind the scenes and with over 600,000 followers, Lisa is doing so much good in this world. Based out of California, Lisa is a trauma therapist and is EMDR and TRM trained and honestly - her charisma and personality is next to none. 

Lisa invited me on her podcast which was a *major* fangirl moment for me - and I asked her if I could share the recording with my beloved OPENHOUSE Audience. She said sure, so, here we are! 

In this episode, Louise & Lisa discuss: 


⇢ The 3 key things Louise has learnt from 3 years of therapy;

⇢ The cutest story re: how Louise met her new boyfriend & what she is learning from her healthiest relationship yet;

⇢ The micro moment approach + how to let love in; 

⇢ The flip flop analogy and how to avoid emotional suppression or emotional outbursts

⇢How to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself and those around you


And so much more.


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Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__

Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @openhouselife

Connect with Lisa Smith on Instagram: @somymomsatherapist

Connect with Lisa Smith on TikTok: @somymomsatherapist

Stream So My Mom’s A Therapist on Spotify: here

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

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Track: Morocco — Amine Maxwell [Audio Library Release]

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Aug 03, 2022
45 - CHEATING - Em Rata showed us that *anyone* can get cheated on. How can you build a bullet proof relationship that will avoid infidelity?
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In light of the recent news that beautiful specimen Em Rata got cheated on, the whole world is shouting 'WTF'... and we are too. People are thinking - if it could happen to her, then it could happen to anyone, and are any of us truly safe from the big bad concept of infidelity and a partner being unfaithful? 

It is thought that 1 in 4 adults are unfaithful at some point in their life and in today’s episode, Louise & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack go deep into why people cheat, but perhaps more importantly and interestingly - how you can build a relationship that will withstand the likelihood of infidelity. The pair discuss personality traits, communication, needs, boundaries, intimacy, sex, curiosity and more and a ton of free therapy tips on how to navigate love and attraction both inside your relationship and outside of it. 

Louise shares her very personal insights from her own journey around infidelity and learning the hard way that often it says a lot more about you, than the person you are cheating with.

Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack look at: 

⇢The epic formula that explains cheating in 6 words

⇢The 8 main reasons that people cheat

⇢How to build intimacy in your relationship without scaring your partner off

⇢The importance of boundaries and a mutual understanding of what classifies as cheating in a relationship

⇢How to discuss cheating and infidelity long before it happens 

⇢Why cheating is often not about the other person

⇢ What to do when you meet someone that you have even the smallest spark with

Louise also shares:

⇢ How she has built a relationship of trust & communication after cheating in her younger relationships; 


⇢ How many men seem to think it is ok to message her while being in a relationship 


⇢ What discussions, boundaries & conversations she is putting in place with her new man.

 

And more! 

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife

Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

Quote OPENHOUSE for your discount on a relationship reading with Dr Tari - https://www.drtarimack.com/

 

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Music Sources

Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud

Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY


Jul 25, 2022
44 - DATING - You only date or chase emotionally unavailable people, if you are emotionally unavailable too. Discussing subconscious blocks to finding love
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Constantly chasing after hot and cold men and women? One moment they are interested, the next they aren’t? They say they want to hang out but then they disappear? You get close, then they pull back. This episode is for you - and we have one hard truth to swallow: you only date or chase emotionally unavailable people, if you are emotionally unavailable too

Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack look in today’s episode at: 

⇢What is unconscious attraction 

⇢Why you choose people who reinforce how we feel about ourselves

⇢Why we are attracted to partners who recreate our patterns, roles, templates from childhood

⇢Why you can think you want a relationship, but be blocking yourself

⇢What have you been conditioned with that has shaped your beliefs around love, dating and more?

⇢The psychology of breadcrumbing + how to stop engaging with it

 

Louise also shares:

 ⇢How she has been breaking her unconscious attraction in micro moments


⇢Why it’s ok for the process to take a while

⇢And who she has been missing from her past 

And more! 

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife

Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com

Quote OPENHOUSE for your discount on a relationship reading with Dr Tari - https://www.drtarimack.com/

 

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Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud

Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY


Jul 18, 2022
43 - GIRL TALK - For the women who love to work - how to make a lot of money but let your man *energetically* still be the provider
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In this episode of Girl Talk, Louise is joined by her great friend Monica Yates where the two get into a juicy conversation about how to work hard, make a lot of money & let your man (energetically) still be the provider, rather than finding the situation emasculating, unattractive or awkward.  

The high-energy pair discuss: 

⇢Their own personal experiences with men and money - past & present - and how they have learnt to navigate;

⇢Why so many more women today are challenging traditional gender roles;

⇢How to manage your man making the same or less money than you;

⇢Why men being the provider needs to be looked at differently;

⇢Why making money is sexy;


⇢Examples of how your man can love, care and lead for you in other ways other than money.

+  plus the incredible concept of 'Provision vs. Execution' which will change everything for your relationship.

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Music Sources

Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud

Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY

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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife

Connect with Monica: @monicayateshealth

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com 

Listen to The Feminine as F*ck podcast with Monica Yates: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/231-girl-chat-3-being-the-female-breadwinner-staying/id1449633522?i=1000569258572

Jul 11, 2022
42 - DATING - The fearful avoidant attachment style, how to communicate without being toxic and how to know if your partner is ever going to change
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The attachment style - fearful avoidant, also known as ‘disorganized’ is often overlooked. Do you feel like you want to be close to people and want their love, but when you get close, you feel like it is a dangerous space to be in? Maybe you push people away before they can push you away, but deep down want to be and feel loved? Did you experience deeply stressful, neglectful or abusive situations as a child that make you feel that love is not only scary, but sometimes actually dangerous? Do you expect or fear people might hurt you? 

If this is you, or it sounds like your partner, this episode is for you.

Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack discuss:


⇢What is a disorganized attachment style

⇢How did it form in childhood

⇢What are disorganized people actually scared of (you might be surprised!)

⇢What’s the difference between feeling fearful and avoidant in life or dating and actually having a disorganized attachment style?


Plus, we discuss what happens & what to do when a partner is not working on their attachment style.

Louise asks Dr Tari: 

⇢How patient should you be with someone’s attachment style?

⇢Is an attachment style enough to break up with someone for?

⇢What to do if someone’s attachment style is bringing you unhappiness?

⇢And, ultimately, how conflict can actually bring you closer together if you learn to regulate your attachment style


And more! 

Louise also shares her own experiences with a ‘disorganized’ ex boyfriend and how one moment changed the entire relationship. 


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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife

Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com


Quote OPENHOUSE for your discount on a relationship reading with Dr Tari - https://www.drtarimack.com/

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Music Sources

Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud

Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY


Jul 04, 2022
41 - DATING - Are they poor at communication or are they avoidantly attached? Exploring the Avoidant Attachment Style
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Ever dated an avoidant man or woman? They disappear when conflict starts or a conversation heats up? You feel like you get close to them, but never quite fully there? Maybe you are one yourself and other people feel ‘too needy, too much’, or that being independent and alone is safer and less hectic. Maybe you don't see the point in talking about your feelings, don't like to depend on others for help, think relationships are a lot of work or just prefer 'being mysterious?'

If this is you, or it sounds like your partner, this episode is for you. After the success of our anxious attachment series, we know you will take deep value from this episode 

Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack discuss:

⇢What is an avoidant attachment style

⇢How did it form in childhood

⇢What are avoidantly attached people actually scared of (you might be surprised!)

⇢Why do the avoidantly attached live life with a ‘buffer’ between them and others 

⇢Why the fear of true intimacy drives an intermittent reinforcement cycle


⇢Why an anxiously attached person is often an avoidantly attached person’s worst nightmare


⇢Why you can never truly thrive with an avoidant attachment until you are working on it


⇢How conflict can actually bring you closer together if you learn to regulate your attachment style


And more!

Louise also shares her own experiences with:

⠀The difference between solutions based love and reassurance based love when in conflict


⇢Tolerating avoidantly attached relationships

⇢Trying to pull men closer to get them to experience true intimacy; and

⇢ Dr Tari shares why there is only one person who can fully break the cycle.


If you are anxiously attached, be sure to listen to Episodes 38, 39 and 40 of the podcast before getting into this one. 


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Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball

Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselife

Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack

Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com


Quote OPENHOUSE for your discount on a relationship reading with Dr Tari - https://www.drtarimack.com/


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Music Sources

Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud

Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY


Jun 27, 2022
40 - Going deeper with the Anxious Attachment Style ft. Sarah Murphy
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UPDATE: ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT THERAPY EBOOKS NOW AVAILABLE

  1. The Ultimate Guide - How to navigate & heal your anxious attachment style when dating  - A 26 page PDF guide created by clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack & Louise Rumball - linked HERE

  2. The Ultimate Script - How to communicate your anxious attachment style when dating  - a 14 Page Script PDF - linkedHERE

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Struggling with anxiety or an anxious attachment style? This episode is for you. Louise is joined by her friend Sarah Murphy in their first ever OPEN(BODY) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast to discuss the connections between mental health and physical health and most importantly --> nervous system health. 

The ladies discuss and explore:

⇢What is the nervous system?

⇢The science behind anxious attachment.

⇢What happens when an anxious attachment (or anxiety) gets triggered

⇢What happens after the fight or flight kicks in and how the 30-90 second rule can change your life

⇢Grounding & the influence of nature on your nervous system

⇢Why the foundations for your anxiety may have started before you were born;

⇢The connection that your Mother's nervous system has to your breathing;

⇢Why so many of us 'don't breathe properly' today;

⇢The connection between mental health & nervous system health;

⇢How to stop a trigger in its tracks by understanding your nervous system; and

⇢Sarah's product recommendations of choice.

Sarah has dedicated her life to seeking root cause answers to mental and physical health challenges. She started out as a certified nutritional practitioner and a clinical herbalist before moving on to study across a board of multiple holistic healing modalities including traditional Chinese medicine, Ayurvedic medicine, homeopathy, detoxification, toxicology, environmental medicine and, most relevant for this podcast potentially, the mind body work and polyvagal theory. She’s a lifelong student of health and is a goldmine of info. 

All product recommendations in this episode come from her 10 + year career owning health food shops in Toronto & practicing with clients. She understands how many products on the market are toxic, not organic and just full of chemicals and junk. She is the only person I trust when it comes to product recommendations. 

Product recommendations: 

Simba weighted blanket (premium price point) https://amzn.to/3OasQdA

BLYSS weighted blanket (mid price point) https://amzn.to/3O3wI0q

BEDSURE weighted blanket (lower price point) https://amzn.to/3O3wI0q

Rescue Remedy - for on the go in your handbag - https://amzn.to/3OasQdA

Bach Flower Essences Rescue Remedy Pastilles, Black Currant Pastilles - https://amzn.to/3QsFCpC

Rescue Day Dropper and Pastilles Bundle Pack https://amzn.to/3xzZHSe

Magnesium L Threonate https://amzn.to/3QvzpJL

Organic Lavender Oil https://amzn.to/3HJALN6

Organic Ylang Ylang https://amzn.to/3QEWXM4

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Jun 21, 2022
39 - ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT - The 4 stages of your Anxious Attachment Style
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UPDATE: ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT THERAPY EBOOKS NOW AVAILABLE

⇢ The Ultimate Guide - How to navigate & heal your anxious attachment style when dating  - A 26 page PDF guide created by clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack & Louise Rumball - linked HERE

⇢ The Ultimate Script - How to communicate your anxious attachment style when dating  - a 14 Page Script PDF - linkedHERE

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The feedback from pt. 1 of this episode was phenomenal. You guys really went crazy for our first anxious attachment podcast episode where myself and clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack looked at the anxious attachment style that over 20% (1 in 5 people ) in the global population live with, after having it form in childhood. 

After a lot of requests, in today’s episode, Louise & Dr Tari go deeper into this, looking at:

⇢Breaking down the four stages of an anxious attachment style 
⇢The underlying fears behind an anxious attachment style 
⇢The triggers that provoke an anxious attachment attack
⇢The activation of your attachment cycle - understanding what happens in your body when your attachment style is activated + how to handle it
⇢The concept of protest behaviours and why we use them to try and re establish connection

Louise & Dr Tari also discuss:

⇢Why you can’t have reassurance on tap all of the time
⇢How to calm and regulate your anxious attachment style
⇢How to heal it in the long run
⇢The concept of meeting in the middle with whoever you are dating
⇢ Can you heal and date at the same time? 
⇢ A couple of Q&A topics from Louise’s recent TikToks 

Louise also shares: 

⇢ The concept of ‘positive intent’ which has changed her life
⇢ Her personal experience fears, triggers and protest behaviours
⇢How soon is too soon to share your trauma with someone you are dating?

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.


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Jun 11, 2022
38 - ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT - How to heal your anxious attachment style
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UPDATE: ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT THERAPY EBOOKS NOW AVAILABLE

⇢The Ultimate Guide - How to navigate & heal your anxious attachment style when dating  - A 26 page PDF guide created by clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack & Louise Rumball - linked HERE

⇢The Ultimate Script - How to communicate your anxious attachment style when dating  - a 14 Page Script PDF - linkedHERE

Having an anxious attachment is stressful as f**k. And what’s even more stressful? When people don’t talk about how stressful it is. In this episode, we look at an anxious attachment style *in action* as Louise feels anxious about the new man she is dating. Dr Tari helps to talk her through what she is feeling, where the fear is coming from, how to handle the situation and more. 


In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Dr Tari Mack for a live coaching session. 

Louise and Dr Tari explore

⇢ What it means to have an anxious attachment style;
⇢ How to manage and regulate your anxious attachment style; 
⇢ How to communicate this with someone else; 
⇢ How to finally break your own attachment cycles once and for all. 

Louise also asks Dr Tari:

⇢ Whether you can fully heal the anxious attachment style; 
⇢ Who you should be avoiding when dating; and
⇢ How to stay regulated when things really feel out of control. 

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.


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Jun 02, 2022
37 - DATING - should we wait for Mr ‘I'm Just Not Ready Yet' or should we move the f*ck on?
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Waiting for someone who is just not ready to date you, to be ready to date you? I ask my therapist, should we wait for them to start their healing, get over their ex, let their busy period at work calm down for them to step up to the plate - or should we just move on? Should we entertain them as a friend? Should we stay in contact? Should we keep things going until they see how good you two could be together? 

In this OPENHEART episode of OPENHOUSE, Louise Rumball asks Dr Tari Mack, clinical psychologist and relationship expert, what to do when the person you are interested in is not ready to commit. 

Louise and Dr Tari explore

⇢ The clear, conscious and subconscious ways that people say they ‘can’t show up for you right now’

⇢ What to do if someone is acting nonchalant or is expressly communicating that they don’t want a relationship but they like you;

⇢ How to ask someone what they want in a relationship (and when you should do so); 

⇢ How and why people use sex and hook ups to avoid emotional vulnerability and intimacy.


Louise also asks shares:

⇢ Her personal story around how meeting someone who ticks ‘most of the boxes’ can lead you on a wild goose chase of waiting for them to be ready;

⇢ Her friends recent story, and whether you can really be friends with someone you have slept with; 


⇢ Her experience of why not all men’s word can be trusted.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.


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May 30, 2022
36 - GIRL TALK - Stop texting dudes to get them to validate you. Listen to this episode instead [w/ Monica Yates]
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The best sagittarius duo, Louise & Monica and their epic friendship bring the fire in this first ever GIRL TALK episode between the two of them. After recently being together in Tulum and knowing they need to share their healing lessons with the world.  

Now you can join this powerful pairing as they talk real life, dating, men, falling in love, sex, intimacy and more, covering:

  • Why you keep texting men to distract yourself, instead of actually doing the work to find a good one; 
  • Why our nervous systems are always f&cKING on & how dating only perpetuates this cycle; 
  • How your childhood wounds drive the partners you are picking and dating today;
  • Louise & Monica's own personal stories around their childhoods;
  • Why you are probably your own red flag;
  • Polarity between masculine & feminine energy & why this is so important in your romantic relationships; 
  • Monica's new boyfriend & the guy Louise is dating in Tulum;
  • How sex can be a healing experience, as can relationships;

And MORE!

Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball

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May 27, 2022
35 - DATING - 'You’re hot, so what?' Exploring surface level love & attraction vs. deep connection & intimacy
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Attracted to looks, power, status and aesthetics but want to really find true meaningful connections? 

This episode is for you. 

Today, Dr Tari Mack and Louise Rumball explore why today’s society are attracted to external metrics and what we really need to be focusing on to be building deeper, healthier and more conscious connections. 

The pair explore: 

⇢ The external metrics of attraction

⇢The concepts of superficial love vs. deep intimacy and emotional vulnerability 

⇢How social media today makes you feel ‘less than’ others


⇢How a focus on the external world does not cultivate the internal world that ultimately attracts the right people around you



⇢How a focus on the external in terms of appearance, aesthetics and ‘fine tuning our facial work’ will not take you to true happiness

⇢How to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself and those around you 



⇢The concept of ‘non-judgment’ in relationships

⇢What it means to be attracted to money, success and status

⇢What subconscious fears are running what you are attracted to



+ Louise’s personal experiences of




⇢How not being ‘the prettiest’ at school shaped her relationship with her self and body

⇢How her dating has changed throughout her 20s and into her 30s - and how dating attractive people & used to validate her



⇢What is important for her now in a relationship


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May 23, 2022
34 - GHOSTING - You ghosted me, then hung around - I ask my therapist ‘what next!?’ Exploring the psychology of orbiting
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34 - You ghosted me then ‘orbited me’ so my therapist told me to block you. Exploring the psychology of orbiting

Orbiting is the newest toxic relationship trend. Orbiting is when someone breaks off direct contact with you after you have been talking, dating or sleeping together, but then they continue to engage with you on social media - orbiting around you. 

In this quick fire OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Dr Tari Mack for a live coaching session on what to do with a guy that is orbiting her. 

Louise and Dr Tari explore

⇢ What is orbiting;

⇢ Why people do it;

⇢ What it means;

⇢ What to do if you are on the receiving end of it;  


Louise also asks whether:

⇢ You should block someone who is orbiting you; 

⇢ Whether blocking someone seems too dramatic; 


⇢ Whether she should have a conversation with the person. 


Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.


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May 20, 2022
33 - LIVE THERAPY - Have I finally broken my attraction to the sexy, inconsistent & avoidant man?
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Why do some of us love partners that make us chase after us? Or that are inconsistent? Hot and cold? Treat us well then disappear?  In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Dr Tari Mack for a live coaching session. 

Louise and Dr Tari explore

⇢ How Louise is feeling about starting to date again;

⇢ Her recent romantic experiences in Tulum;

⇢ What to do when faced with ‘the bad guy’ and the ‘good guy?' and going for the 'good guy' feels unfamiliar and unusual';

⇢ How to finally break cycles of attraction once and for all; 


Dr Tari also asks Louise about: 

⇢ The concept of earning love; 

⇢ The concept of looking forward into the future; and

⇢ Why it can feel so damn good to go for the wrong choice. 


Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.


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May 15, 2022
32 - DATING - If J Lo got over her trust issues, so can you. Exploring the psychology of trust & insecurity
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Louise sits down with clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr Tari Mack to discuss the psychology of trust issues and why people have them, and how to get over them.

We look at trust issues through the vehicle of J Lo, who after being cheated on publicly by A Rod and acknowledging that she had trust issues, was able to move through this to get engaged to Ben Affleck.

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari explore:

⇢What are trust issues?

⇢The psychology behind trust issues

⇢How do you know if it’s you having trust issues or if it’s an actual issue in the relationship?

 ⇢If you found out that your partner has cheated on previous relationships, how to stop bringing this into your relationship with them?

⇢ Is there ever a good reason to not trust someone?   

⇢ How do you know if its trust issues or an anxious attachment style?

⇢ For people that have experienced trust issues feel like they follow them around forever?

⇢ What about people who just feel like they only attract the same type of person?

⇢ How to communicate to someone that you are struggling with trusting.

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⇢ Hope that there are good men and women out there that are trustworthy, reliable, kind and will not hurt you.

Louise also shares her own experiences of her exes and what she has learnt about trust over the years.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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May 02, 2022
31 - DATING - the psychology of being 'just friends' with your ex
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Louise sits down with clinical psychologist look at the concepts of attachment, validation, power, comfort, attention, security and more in this episode of OPENHOUSE - with a dose of juicy stories along the way.

⇢ How to be friends with your ex - and whether you really should be trying to be?

⇢ What is the psychology behind what drives someone to want to stay in touch with your ex?

⇢ We explore validation, power, comfort, attention, security and more - why do we find it so hard to let go of these things?

⇢ Louise’s experience of bumping into an ex years down the line;

⇢ How a new partner coming into the scene impacts the experience.

Things also get deep in this exercise when Louise shares her feelings about her most recent ex boyfriend and Dr Tari Mack gives her some sobering home truths.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Apr 25, 2022
30 - DATING - The psychology of pacing and exploring the slow grow vs. the rollercoaster romance
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr Tari Mack to discuss the psychology of pacing, dating and the slow grow vs. the euphoric rollercoaster romance.

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari explore:

⇢ Pete Davidson and Kim Kardashian and why everything moves so damn quickly in life and in Hollywood

⇢ Why pacing is one of the magic bullets in a relationship⠀

⇢ Why people struggle with pacing

⇢ Why we attach super quickly

⇢ How to information gather and date smart

⇢The psychology of losing ourselves in a new relationship

⇢The benefits of the go-slow rather than the rollercoaster romance

⇢Why the initial parts of a relationship are the equivalent to taking drugs.

Louise also shares her own experiences, particularly in relationship to the benefits of the slow grow and how to hold onto the roller coaster romance.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Apr 19, 2022
29 - SELF REFLECTION - Will Smith learnt violence from his childhood. What did you learn?
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In this episode, we look at the recent drama of Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars in defense of his wife Jada Pinkett Smith, when Chris Rock disrespected her with a joke about her hair-less condition, alopecia.

Louise starts the episode by sharing that she felt like the missing piece of the jigsaw was when she read a section of Will Smith’s autobiography where he explained that he grew up in an abusive environment, watching his Father beat his Mother and that this developed his ‘biggest regret to date’ that he was a ‘coward’ and never ‘avenged his Mother’.

Today, we discuss the stories, limiting beliefs and conditioning that we pick up in childhood, subconsciously and consciously, and how these shape how we show up in the world, and how they hold us back from living our best life.

Louise & Dr Tari talk about:

⇢ How we often learn we are not enough, that we have to fight for love, earn it, or that we are going to be abandoned;

⇢ Family dynamics, sibling relationships and what you can learn if you are, or are not, the golden child of the family;

⇢ How stories can be picked up around hobbies and food; and

⇢ How picking up your attachment style from your caregivers will impact all of your relationships later in life.

Louise also goes deep and shares her personal experience of:

⇢ Her experience with high level ballet and gymnastics as a child;

⇢ How her relationship with food was defined from her relationship with her family; and

⇢ How her relationship with her family unit maybe developed becoming an introvert later in life.

If you enjoyed this episode, please do share on your social media or leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so we can help spread the word about our #FreeTherapy.

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Apr 11, 2022
28 - FRIENDSHIP BREAKDOWN - What to do if your friend (or partner) dumps you or phases you out
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Welcome to the final episode of the friendship series. In this OPEN(HEART) episode we ask clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack what to do when a friend (or a partner) breaks up with you.

Louise & Dr Tari take a recent example that one of Louise’s friends went through, when she got ghosted by a friend. Dr Tari Mack shares information on:

⇢ How self-awareness can help avoid these situations happening;

⇢ How open conversation, communication & discussion can reduce the severity of the situations.

Dr Tari and Louise also discuss:

⇢ How the same principles in friendship breakdowns apply to romantic relationships;

⇢ What to do when someone sets a boundary that you feel is unfair;

⇢ Whether you ever really are owed a conversation or discussion by someone else?

⇢ How to move on from friendships that you don’t know if you can.

And:

⇢ How helpful therapy can be with the breakdown of friendships to help with the healing and self-awareness process.

If you enjoyed this episode, please do share on your social media or leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so we can help spread the word about our #FreeTherapy.

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Apr 04, 2022
27 - FRIENDSHIP - What friendship breakdowns can teach us + Louise’s personal experiences
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Welcome to the friendship series. In this OPEN(HEART) episode we ask clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack about all things friendship breakdowns.

Louise and Tari discuss why they happen, why they hurt, why they’re inevitable, how to handle them when they change or break down, how to learn from them and, ultimately, how to grow and be happier after them.

Louise Rumball also goes deeper into three of her own personal friend breakdowns:

⇢  1. Her childhood best friend & how she dreamt about her for years & what this meant;

⇢ 2. A good friend in her 20s who Louise bonded with over their equally disastrous and toxic relationships - and whose friendship then slowly broke down when they didn’t bond over that any more;

⇢ 3. Her most recent friendship breakdown - with someone who she loves and cares about but feels is incompatible with her at this point in her life.

Dr Tari and Louise also discuss:

⇢ How to self-reflect on your friendships using the Wedding Cake analogy;

⇢ How to broach a friendship that isn't feeling good;

⇢ How to communicate with yourself and others; and

⇢ How to lean into the changes of friendships to your benefit, rather than them hurting you.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify if it resonated.

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Mar 28, 2022
26 - GIRL TALK - All my friends are getting married and having babies. Can our friendships survive?
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Emma Wilson, the first Turning 30 Coach to discuss how much life changes when you hit the big 3-0.

Today, the focus is friendship - and together, Louise and Emma explore:

⇢ What happens when your friends start settling down; and you don’t

⇢ Whether forever friendships can really last forever

⇢ How the situation changes further when your friends start to have babies

⇢ How to communicate with friends that things no longer feel the same.

The girl’s also talk about their own personal experiences of:

⇢ Neglecting friends when they fall in love;

⇢ Having uncomfortable but life changing conversations; and

⇢ Discussing where and how to make new friends in today’s busy, fast paced society.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Mar 14, 2022
25 - FRIENDSHIP - Best friends or effective enablers?
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discuss all things friends, the psychology of enablers and the less than healthy friendships that we love.

We take a look at this through the lens of the recent finale of Euphoria and the very special, sweet and sad situation that we all got to experience alongside the captivating characters of Rue and Elliott.

***SPOILER ALERT*** If you haven’t watched the finale of Euphoria yet, then skip this episode and come back to it later!

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:

⇢ Rue & Elliot and why their friendship worked initially, and why he ultimately showed true friendship through his actions later on in the series;

⇢ What is an enabler + the psychology behind enabling;

⇢ Why do we enable others;

⇢ How to broach a friendship that isn't feeling good;

⇢ Understanding how to break the cycle of a less than healthy friendship; and

⇢ How to deal with the anger of another person as you break the cycle.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Mar 07, 2022
24 - TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS - How to leave your psychopath with Maddy Anholt & Louise Rumball
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise interviews Maddy Anholt, author of ‘How to Leave Your Psychopath’

Are you forever finding yourself in the stranglehold of controlling companions? Today’s chat will help you wave ta-ta to unhappy and unhealthy relationships for good.

We talk about red flags to look out for, how and why people exert control, and also discuss lovebombing, gaslighting, and negging.

Backed with personal story and supported by psychological insight Louise & Maddie share their personal journeys and all they have learnt along the way.

In this episode, Louise & Maddy break down:

⇢ Why it isn’t just ‘doormats’ and ‘weak women’ who find themselves being treated awfully in relationships;

⇢ The traits that these types of people look for in their partners;

⇢ How to tell the difference between a ‘d*ckhead’ and an abuser;

⇢ The hormonal addiction cycle & how the cycle plays out in practice;

⇢ Why there isn’t a breaking point for everyone;

⇢ And how to leave if you are in a potentially dangerous situation.

If you are or someone you know is experiencing family violence and need someone to talk to, contact a local domestic abuse service by using Women's Aid Domestic Abuse Directory www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-abuse-directory

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Feb 25, 2022
23 - ATTACHMENT HUNGER + RED FLAGS - the psychology of why we ignore red flags + the Tinder Swindler in discussion
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we get into the topic that everyone is talking about - the crazy Netflix documentary - The Tinder Swindler, The so-called Tinder Swindler is Shimon Hayut (aka 'Simon Leviev'), a convicted fraudster born in Israel. He used dating apps to meet multiple women, then got them to take out loans and credit in their names, ultimately leaving them holding the bills when he would later disappear - but not before he had spent ALL of the money on an insanely lavish lifestyle that he used to impress OTHER women.

In today’s episode, Louise & Dr Tari break down:

⇢ The psychology of Attachment Hunger - something that starts in childhood when we don’t get the appropriate bonding and nurturing form our parent figures, and then later shows up in adult life as attaching too quickly to romantic partners;

⇢ The reason that so many people today ignore red flags; 

⇢ Why sexual validation and attention are not the same as healthy loving care;

⇢ The importance of knowing ourselves before we can really know another; and

⇢ Why some people only attract superficial relationships.

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also break down the specifics of the situation and look at;

⇢ Immediate red flags that should have been picked up on in the episode;

⇢ How to navigate dating apps when meeting someone new (+ the questions you have to ask);

⇢ How to actually get to know someone;

⇢ How to keep an eye out for someone like the Tinder Swindler so you can avoid at all costs; and

⇢ The importance of boundaries and time to attach when you meet someone new.

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Feb 18, 2022
22 - GHOSTING - Why do people ghost & how to stop ghosting if you do it
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In Episode 20 of the OPENHOUSE podcast we covered all things ghosting, because if you haven’t already heard, Louise got ghosted. 

Today, in Episode 22, Dr Tari Mack is back from holiday & we are looking at the flip side of getting ghosted.

We ask Dr Tari:

⇢ Why do people ghost? 

⇢ How this can tie back to more significant personality traits, like narcissism and sociopathy;

⇢ But how it can also tie back to our experience in childhood and what we were taught by our caregivers about conflict; and

⇢ What ghosting teaches us about another person. 

Louise also shares her personal experience of how she used to ghost people when she was younger, but also shares:

⇢ How she now understands why she used to act the way she did; 

⇢ How her behaviour has changed since going to therapy;  and

⇢ Her tips and tricks on how not to ghost people. 

We also share live examples of messages that Louise has sent to people when she has needed to communicate that she wasn’t into things, rather than ghosting, and get Dr Tari’s feedback. 

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Feb 10, 2022
21 - SINGLE & 30+ - Rihanna - The 5 therapy-backed reasons that being single in your 30s should be treated as a blessing, not a catastrophe
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise gets into a solo episode discussing all things Rihanna & A$AP Rocky and the news that they are having a baby! 

In this episode, Louise looks at ‘Rihanna energy’ and her break up from Hassan Jameel at 31, an age when many people would feel pressurised by society to stay in their relationship or make it work, rather than the fear of being ‘thirty and single’. 

In this episode, Louise shares: 

⇢ The psychology of our brain development in our 30s vs. our 20s and how this impacts our dating decisions; 

⇢ Why sometimes we have to date a ‘Chris Brown’ to meet our very own A$AP Rocky; 

⇢ Why being single in your 30s can be a revolutionary and insightful phase of self-awareness; and 

⇢ How you can use it to your advantage, helping to take you closer to the right person. 

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Her experience of dating her very own Chris Brown and what she learnt;⠀

⇢ What watching her friends settle down and have babies has taught her about what she wants in a relationship; 

⇢ Her top 6 tips to embracing being single in your 30s + 40s;

⇢ And why you need to date ‘smart’, ‘fast’ and ‘with intention’ as you get older.

As well as chatting all things fertility and biological clocks. 

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀

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Feb 04, 2022
20 - GHOSTING - Ghosting f**king hurts. The 9 things I learnt in therapy about how to get over being ghosted
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Hey guys,
 
Louise here returning with a solo episode of OPENHOUSE. In Episode 20, we are talking all things GHOSTING and what to do when you are on the receiving end of getting ghosted by someone you are dating.
 
So, if you couldn’t tell, I got f**king ghosted and I've got stuff to say. I’m not even embarrassed about it, because it is so normal in today's dating pool, but what I am going to do is share with you what I learnt about me, about the person that ghost me - and so much more, during this experience of getting ghosted.
 
In today's episode we go through:
 
*What is schema chemistry;
*My most recent ghosting story and why I should have seen the red flags from the start;
*The psychology of ghosting and the chemical and biological impacts it has on you
*Why ghosting makes you feel like you're going crazy
*How ghosting makes other people feel (we asked!)
*A 9 step, therapist backed plan to getting over ghosting; and
*How you can use ghosting to your advantage.
 
And so, ghosting happens, and it’s part of modern dating today but that doesn’t make it ok. And it shouldn’t be ok. And it shouldn’t be normalised - because we need to learn to develop our communication skills so that we can handle healthy conflict and uncomfortable situations and communication.
 
If you are hurting, I hope this episode provides some respite - and a couple of laughs.
 
Louise x

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Jan 27, 2022
19 - RELATIONSHIPS - Kourtney Kardashian - what happens when the honeymoon phase ends?
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast we discuss all things Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker & their big love.

We look at Kourtney’s evolution from someone who was once cold, boundaried, not very emotional and fairly private into someone who can’t stop expressing her love outwardly for her partner.

We discuss whether this is coming from a place of true happiness, or whether there is something more to it. And we also ask - what happens when this intense lust, love and excitement slowly starts to die down over time? Who will they be then?

Louise Rumball & Dr. Tari Mack look at the psychology behind what happens when the honeymoon phase ends and dive into:

⇢ What does a healthy long term relationship like?;

⇢ What to do after the honeymoon phase ends; and

⇢ Therapist tips on how to keep the relationship alive.

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Her experience of self-abandoning when she was younger; and

⇢ Her experience of setting boundaries, using her voice and the importance of authenticity in a relationship.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Jan 11, 2022
18 - RELATIONSHIP JUMPING - J Lo & the psychology of relationship jumping
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Hate being single or spending time alone? In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast we dive into all things ‘relationship jumping’. Whether you’ve just come out of a relationship and you’re already in another one, or looking for another one, or perhaps you’re going straight back to that boyfriend or girlfriend you know you shouldn’t - this episode is for you.

We look at ‘relationship jumping’ through the vehicle of JLo with clinical psychologist Dr. Tari who has appeared on Access Hollywood recently talking about this and even given relationship advice to JLo herself.

Louise Rumball & Dr. Tari look at the psychology behind ‘relationship jumping’ and dive into:

⇢ What is going on when people just can’t seem to be alone;

⇢ How we use relationships as a way to avoid the pain and discomfort of feeling alone and empty;

⇢ How your patterns go back to your childhood experiences, particularly mirroring and emotional attunement; and

⇢ The role of fear and its impact of keeping us from taking time to connect with ourselves and not search for another partner.

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Her experience of Schema Therapy and the discovery of the defectiveness wound; and

⇢ Why sometimes you can swing too far the other way - loving being alone as a protective mechanism.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Dec 03, 2021
17 - DATING - 'I like a bad, bad boy' - exploring the psychology behind bad boys & girls
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, and off the back of the release of Jesy Nelson’s and Nicki Minaj’s newest single, Boyz, we dive into all things ‘bad boys’ and explore the psychological, emotional, physiological, and chemical reasons that underlie our attraction to ‘bad boys’ [or girls] and how it can actually be an addiction that we’re not aware of.

Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack explore the reason we’re attracted to bad boys, why we get bored of the ‘nice guy’ and the chemicals that are released that keeps us wanting more and more of something we know isn’t good for us.

We look at the psychology behind the allure of bad boys and dive into:

⇢ What is intermittent reinforcement?;

⇢ The cocktail of chemicals at play;

⇢ How to break this cycle & level up to reach a new pool of potential partners; and

⇢ The angry man - and why sometimes we’re attracted to this.

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Her experience of dating bad boys - including someone that later got sentenced to five years in prison; and

⇢ Why she is now not as interested by bad boys.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Nov 16, 2021
16 - DATING - Zayn & Gigi - the psychology of “out of bounds behaviour” and why we keep it quiet
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we take a look at the recent news of Zayn Malik & Gigi Hadid and their break up that very few saw coming.

We discuss all things tumultuous relationships, why we keep them a secret and what to do if you find yourself in this situation - whether you are dating someone, in a relationship with them, or feel like it’s not possible to leave.

We dive into out of bounds behaviour, the cycle of bad behaviour, whether a leopard can actually change their spots and also take you through lots of actionable tips and tricks and communication soundbytes on how to move forward out of these situations if you are experiencing them yourself.

We recap on unconscious attraction and Louise shares her own personal experiences with an ex-boyfriend who re-appeared and certainly did not change his spots. She also shares her experiences of red flags, when she should have walked away and didn’t - as well as her more recent experience of working with a subconscious therapist which has taught her that children really do pick up what is going on with parents.

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:

⇢ Behaviours that are out of bounds and how these can be normalised / unrecognisable by us if we’ve witnessed them in relationships around us growing up;

⇢ Why it’s hard for people to change unless they are fully dedicated to it; and

⇢ How DENIAL / EMBARRASSMENT / SHAME leads us to silence these out of bound behaviours and what to do when we find that we’re doing that.

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ An ex-boyfriend who reappeared last week;

⇢ Seeing red flags early on but only recognising them with hindsight; and

⇢ Experience of working with a subconscious therapist - looking at the environment in which she was conceived.

And, finally, they discuss all things having a temper - how to regulate it, how to work on it, and how to take responsibility for it.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Nov 08, 2021
15 - HEARTBREAK - How to get over the breakup or person that you think you can't get over
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, off the back of Episode 14 discussing all things Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker’s new engagement, today we look at Scott - discussing all things breakups as we shine a light on what we know Scott Disick might be feeling.

We dive into what to do when you feel like someone has got away, the different stages of a breakup and how to truly move through the relationships that we think we can never get over.

As Dr. Tari says, “breakups are the catalyst for the biggest chapters of healing,” leading us to explore why it’s important to look inward and why the feelings surrounding a breakup could go much deeper than the breakup itself. We discuss all things emotional wounds, including the abandonment and defectiveness wound - with Louise sharing her own experiences about what she learnt about her own break up.

We look at the psychology behind when we genuinely think that that person we are not with is the one and dive into:

⇢ Why heartbreak can be worse than grieving the loss of somebody who died;

⇢ Dr. Tari’s insight into why, if there’s been a breakup, that’s a clear indication that they are not your person;

⇢ The psychology behind connection and closure - and why you do NOT need it in the way you think you do; and

⇢ How to handle unhealthy coping mechanisms and why it’s important to stay in our power during a break up.

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:

⇢ Scott choosing people that are at the same emotional maturity level as him;

⇢ The different stages of a break up; and

⇢ Why a relationship is never about the other person.

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Her last breakup; and

⇢ Her healing journey post breakup and what she’s most proud of.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Oct 28, 2021
14 - FINDING THE ONE - The evolution of Kourtney Kardashian - how our relationships ultimately lead us to ‘the one’ + how to let go of time pressure
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discuss this week’s BIG celebrity news - the announcement that Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker are engaged. We dive into Kourtney finding her person later in life, and how her previous relationship with Scott taught her what she didn’t want / need in her future relationships.

We explore the reason it’s important to do our own internal work in order to level up into a safer, more stable kind of relationship and why, as women, we shouldn’t feel pressured to find the perfect partner, and instead should focus on our own alignment.

We look at the psychology behind why many of us are more likely to find our person later in life and dive into:

⇢ Dr. Tari’s thoughts on the people that are mourning over Kourtney & Scott’s relationship;

⇢ How Kourtney’s relationship with Scott prepared her to be in a healthier relationship with Travis; and

⇢ Why we need to choose people who grow and change with us.

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:

⇢ Why, when we haven’t done the work to regulate ourselves, that we will be attracted to relationships that are chaotic;

⇢ How feeling safe with your person can lead to a more sexual and passionate relationship; and

⇢ Discuss why you don’t have to actively look for your partner.

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Why her past relationships have taught her what she wants or does not want moving forward; and

⇢ Why she has 0% panic or fear of finding a partner, settling down or having children.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Oct 21, 2021
13 - TOXIC RELATIONSHIP - I don't judge Justin or Hailey - I've been on both sides of a toxic relationship
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Following on from Episode 12 and our analysis of Justin & Hailey and all things 'couple goals or codependency' - join Louise in one of her most raw solo episodes yet where she discusses her own personal experience being on both sides of a toxic relationship - both like Justin, becoming reliant on the excessive love, care and support of another - as well as being Hailey, trying to care for someone troubled, often erratic and volatile.

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Oct 17, 2021
12 - CO DEPENDENCY - Hailey & Justin Bieber - couple goals or codependency? Are you his lover or his mother?
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we dive into Hailey & Justin Bieber and explore the fine line between couple goals and codependency and how to know when it might be a problem in your relationship.

We explore the complex nature of Justin Bieber and why he often acts like a man child, and why Hailey Bieber acts like a submissive spouse who continually dotes on him. Is it really couple goals if you’re too busy caring for your partner that you forget to take care of yourself?

We look at Hailey & Justin Bieber and dive into:

⇢ Why are so many relationships in today’s society fitting in this territory of being passionate and toxic at the same time?;

⇢ Hailey’s family history and how this has created a template for her relationship with Justin;

⇢ Why Justin is so dependant on Hailey; and

⇢ Why Hailey has lost herself in return for supporting Justin.

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:

⇢ The psychology behind why we act like caregivers to our lovers and partners;

⇢ Why we need to set healthy boundaries; and

⇢ How you CAN reparent yourself;

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Her experience of being in a codependent relationship; and

⇢ How she started to learn to set healthy boundaries.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Oct 07, 2021
11 - UNCONSCIOUS ATTRACTION - Khloe Kardashian & Tristan Thompson - what is unconscious attraction, why do we attract badly behaving partners + how to rebuild a relationship
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we dive into Khloe & Tristan and Kylie & Travis and explore why we keep choosing people that end up cheating on us or treating us badly?

Plus, we explore can we really make a relationship work again with someone who has been unfaithful and the top, therapist backed tips, that you HAVE to consider if you want to rebuild a relationship that has gone through infidelity?

We look at Khloe Kardashian and dive into:

⇢ Why did Khloe continue to take Tristan Thompson back after his repeated infidelity?

⇢ Comparisons to her marriage to Lamar Odom;

⇢ What is going on with Khloe’s unconscious attraction; and

⇢ Why do we act like caregivers to our lovers and partners?

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:

⇢ The psychology behind why we choose people who treat us badly;

⇢ Why do we stay with people who cheat on us and can it ever work?;

⇢ Unconscious attraction EXPLAINED; and

⇢ Why do we repeat the same cycles even when we’re aware it’s not good for us.

We also look at Kylie & Travis - and how they have overcome challenges in their relationship. Dr Tari shares the 10 things that HAVE to happen from both parties in a relationship if you want to help a relationship recover from infidelity.

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Bad behaviour of her ex-boyfriends and how this impacted her;

⇢ Finding herself in a ‘mum’ / caregiver role with her most recent ex and what this meant; and

⇢ Her thoughts on rebuilding relationships after infidelity..

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Sep 23, 2021
10 - CHEATING & INFIDELITY - Cardi B & Offset - why do people cheat and the signs that predict cheating
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discuss Cardi B & Offset as our celebrity couple as a vehicle so that we can further explore the big, and sometimes painful, question - why do people cheat?

We follow the rocky rollercoaster of the Cardi B & Offset romance, whilst going deeper into:

⇢ The psychology of cheating;

⇢ Why do people cheat;

⇢ The top 10 signs that someone is a serial cheater;

⇢ The top 4 reasons that people cheat;

⇢ Does your partner have narcissistic and sociopath tendencies?;

⇢ Is 'one time a cheater, always a cheater, true?'

⇢ The connection between cheating, self-esteem, communication, and validation;

⇢ How much of a role does sex play in cheating?

⇢ The impact that cheating in our childhood can have on us; and

⇢ How and why cheating goes back to often many years, or even decades, before the event itself happens.

We also explore Louise’s own experiences with infidelity - something that it has taken her many years to come to terms with, release shame from and be able to speak openly about.

We discussed why she cheated, how she feels confident she won't again as well as a couple of her own personal dating stories - ex boyfriends, watch out!

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Sep 02, 2021
09 - OPEN(HEART) - DATING AFTER HEARTBREAK - Jason & Chrishell - The psychology of dating after heartbreak
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode, we start by discussing the recent announcement that Jason & Chrishell from Selling Sunset are dating.

Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack go deeper into:

⇢ The psychology behind why no one is happy for them;

⇢ How soon is too soon to start dating again after a breakdown or a divorce;

⇢ The power dynamics of dating whilst rich, beautiful and... short;

⇢ Exploring the fast chemistry blow out vs. the slow build friendship; and

⇢ Why do people so often turn friendships into something more when it isn't always the best option?; and

 ⇢ The psychology of the unavailable man.

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ What her most recent relationship taught her about finding love in unusual places;

⇢ The importance of different sex friendships and the dangers that they bring with them.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Aug 19, 2021
08 - CONFLICT - Teddy & Faye - A therapist's take on conflict, toxic conflict and relationship breakdown
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Welcome to Series 2 of the OPENHOUSE Podcast and our first OPEN(HEART) episode where Louise is joined by the incredible Dr Tari Mack - a leading clinical psychologist and a celebrity relationship expert.

In this episode, Louise & Tari go deep into the recent Teddy & Faye argument that recently blew up on Love Island and use it as a vehicle to discuss conflict and toxic conflict, what does it mean when we get triggered, where and who do we learn our anger responses from, and is anger self-sabotage or does it hold the key to something deeper?

Dr Tari also takes the pair through who was gaslighting who in this situation, who should have walked away; and whether or not she would advise the two to repair their relationship. ⠀
They also look at the biology of anger, what healthy conflict means; and the four 'horseman' - the four communication and conflict errors that have been statistically proven to be most likely to lead to divorce and relationship breakdown.
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Aug 10, 2021
OPENHOUSE - Series 2 - Trailer
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Join Louise Rumball and her team of leading psychologists as we venture into Series 2 of the OPENHOUSE podcast. This quick trailer gives you a sneak peak of what you may expect in all things OPENHOUSE Series 2. 

Aug 09, 2021
07 - HEALING FROM HEARTBREAK - The 10 things I learnt in therapy that helped me navigate heartbreak
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When my recent break up happened,  it hit me like a truck and I went into a total tailspin of panic, sadness, fear, distress and desperation.

Breakups are hard enough in normal, day to day life but there is something about going through any kind of break up during a global pandemic that makes this event even worse. 

In this episode, I share the top 10 things that I have learnt from therapy around break ups and how they have helped me so far.

This is the episode that I wish someone had given me before everything happened. 

I'm bringing the therapy to you.

This episode covers:

⇢  the things you NEED to know when you enter into break up territory;

⇢ why our bodies and minds react so severely to rejection of any kind;

⇢ how MRI scanners will show that you're not too different from a drug addict going cold turkey;

⇢ how understanding the concepts of attachment, love and fear cycle will help you to be ok with what is happening;

⇢ how neural affirmations and self-care can help to calm your nervous system and re-wire your brain;

⇢ the psychology behind 'out of sight and out of mind', and what to do with your memories together; and

⇢ how to stop romanticising your past relationship and objectively understand the WHY.

⠀My two favourite parts of the episode include:

⇢ how understanding your - and your ex's - personality style and attachment style will help you to understand why you both might be reacting differently in the wake of a break up; and ⠀
⇢ what closure really means (and it’s really not what you think!).

If you yourself are struggling, or you know someone that is, please do seek professional help. ⠀
If this is not possible, then I hope that you digest this episode and apply some of it to your own situation so you can move forward.

Whatever you are going through - my heart goes out to you - I would not wish heartbreak on anyone.

I trust that you can heal.

I hope you believe that too.

With love,

Louise

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Jan 25, 2021
06 - How to survive a Corona Christmas [live therapy workshop]
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Welcome to our second live therapy workshop in partnership with FORA London, London’s tailored workspace that provides its residents with spaces to be happy and healthy to deliver their best work.

This workshop - ‘how to manage the uncertainty of a Corona Christmas’ is a pre-record of a live therapy workshop where Louise & clinical psychologist Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver work through a vast variety of topics that often come up in therapy in the winter months, whilst going deeper on specific topics such as the winter blues, seasonal triggers, family boundary setting, loneliness, excess around Christmas, and more. The workshop also discusses management techniques to make this Christmas a little less stressful than those gone before.

The free worksheet for this session is available at https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/coronachristmas

To start the workshop, Dr Helene explores Louise’s historical connection with the winter blues and how her winters previously have been very different to this one. Dr Helene discusses Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), explore whether Louise has ever experienced it, and the two discuss the value of a morning routine and the small daily activities that Louise feels are contributing to her good mental and physical health this year. The two work through a morning routine exercise and Dr Helene also demonstrates a ‘Locus of Control’ exercise to help us better manage anxiety, uncertainty and catastrophising.

Louise & Dr Helene then explore how lockdown has impacted Louise and how she is feeling - connected, disconnected, reliant on others, independent?. They discuss friendships, relationships and how, for many, loneliness is rearing its head. The pair also explore a trigger and boundary setting exercise to help you best manage any familial situation this Christmas when many personalities all come under one route.

To finish the workshop, Louise & Dr Helene explore how the pandemic this year has made many people feel pressurised that they have not yielded any progress or moved forward. The pair go through a positive and compassionate reflection exercise on the year gone by and look towards 2021. This is led by Louise and her own experiences throughout 2020.

Throughout the session, Louise & Dr Helene also take live therapy questions and help viewers at home with any questions that they might have.

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Dec 07, 2020
05 - Louise Rumball - My Sobriety Story
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In this episode, Louise and Dr Helene explore Louise’s coping mechanisms over the past few years and how an intense life of hard work and constant pressure, often led to her partying harder than she had wanted to on the weekends. Whilst initially seemingly innocent, Louise started to understand that whilst she didn’t classify herself as having a traditional ‘problem’ with alcohol, her relationship with alcohol wasn’t as healthy as it could be, often ending up in awful hangovers, bad decisions and added stress when Monday came around.

Louise and Dr Helene explore why, unfortunately, Louise had to come head to head with a traumatising event one evening whilst intoxicated before she decided that it was time to face up to her relationship with alcohol and sleeping pills.

Since that evening, Louise embarked on a journey of sobriety and it has now been 2 years and 8 months since she decided to stop drinking. Until now, Louise has never shared this personal story, but is today sharing in the hope that it may be comforting for others who have been in a similar situation, and potentially inspiring for those who are sober curious and interested in exploring a life without alcohol and drugs.

In this episode, she discusses how her relationship with alcohol and sleeping pills developed throughout her 20s, whether she ever classified this as a problem and why it took so many years for her to come to the decision to finally stop drinking.

Louise & Dr Helene also discuss how she went sober, whether she did it with professional help or on her own, and how she has managed to stay sober in a world full of party animals and normalisation of drinking.

In a touching and uplifting episode, Louise reflects on how far she has come and the incredible positives she has gained from her journey over the last few years - and the message she wants to share with anyone who is listening or has gone through a similar journey.

This episode is for anyone - the people who love drinking but hate the hangovers, the people who end up making bad decisions and wish they could stop but don’t know how, those who self medicate with alcohol and drugs to distract from reality, and those who would just be interested in knowing what it might be like to not drink for a day, week or month.

In this episode - everything is on the table - and we hope that you enjoy as we breakdown society’s relationship with alcohol, as well as Louise’s. How is your relationship with alcohol? Is it something you would like to work on? Would you one day consider going sober?

Love the podcast? Did our message resonate with you? Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review! We appreciate your support in bringing therapy and human communication and connection to the masses!

Trigger warning - this episode contains information regarding sexual assault

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Nov 09, 2020
04 - 99 Problemz & Perfectionism is one!
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Hi friends - Louise here and thrilled to be introducing Episode 4 of our podcast.

In today’s live therapy session Dr Helene and I explore what it means to be a perfectionist. For me, I have never classified myself as one - I always thought that I was too ‘much’ to be a perfectionist. I wasn’t super tidy, nor the perfect homemaker, the perfect partner or the perfect daughter, and I always had so much on my plate, that I never thought this term was right for me.

However, what came out of Episode 3 was that perfectionism has shown up in my life in so many of ways but mainly as a constant and relentless drive and pressure to be more successful, to be in better shape and to achieve more and keep up with those around me. The underlying driver of perfectionism is the feeling that you have to be MORE of something to be more worthy, more lovable or more valuable.

In this episode, we go deeper and explore why this is - how it ties back to my family experience, school and university experiences and early career milestones, as well as how it has mainly shown up in my relationship with my career and my body in adulthood.  We also touch upon my relationship with men and ageing.

In today’s society, we so often are left feeling just not good enough in comparison to those around us and the shiny lives of others on social media - so I love how we are able to run through the impact social media also has on those who have a tendency to feel ‘less than’.

In this episode, we also go through an analogy to understand how to keep your self-esteem stable, as well as considering how your life objectives can either support your self-esteem or sabotage it. These exercises can be completed at home after the episode.

So, this is OPENHOUSE. Our goal is to normalise these conversations so together, we can be happier. Everyone is invited and I’m so glad you turned up.

If you love this podcast, please be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review and share your listening experience with us on social media.

Love Louise x

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Oct 19, 2020
03 - How does our childhood define the adults we become? [live therapy workshop]
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Hi friends! Welcome to Episode 3 of OPENHOUSE. This one is a little different to our usual pre-recorded podcast episodes and it is a live-streamed therapy workshop where we explore how childhood impacts your development into adulthood.

This episode includes an at-home worksheet booklet for you to work through as we go through the session. If you want to join into the session, please head to http://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/episode-3- to get yours!

The importance of childhood experiences cannot be underestimated. Seemingly small events in childhood can sometimes have more significance than major events in adulthood and hugely impact the way we develop. The situations that we grow up in become our baseline normal and we form ideas about how life should be and how others should act from this perspective. Many are not always aware of this template that has been built from a young age.

Should we experience stressful situations as a child, we also may develop unhelpful coping mechanisms that can endure long into adulthood and our adult relationships.

Join us in this session where we explore a number of questions - looking through the lens of Louise and her life experiences, before asking you to look inwards and query:

What did you learn from your family?

What is an attachment style and how do they impact our connection with those around us?

 ⇢ How to work out our attachment style with those closest to us. Are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganised? How does this differ across family members?

 ⇢ What is self esteem, how is self esteem built in childhood and how does it change into adulthood?

What are love languages and how can you most effectively manage your relationships in order to help them flourish by understanding these?

We also run through a number of different analogies - including the Oil Rig analogy - to best understand how you can bolster your self esteem to support you as you grow from childhood, into adolescence and then into adulthood, as well as answering live questions along the way.

Did you like this live podcast? Did our message resonate with you? Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5-star review and please do share onto your socials and tag us - so we can start a conversation with you! We appreciate you!

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Oct 05, 2020
02 - Back to the therapy room - the old me, the new me and my biggest regret
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Hi friends! Welcome to Episode 2 of OPENHOUSE, where I have my first LIVE therapy session with Dr. Helene. Together, not knowing where the session would take us, we began by exploring how I felt about doing live therapy.

Having gone through a couple of months of therapy already, I mention to Dr Helene that I wonder if this session may be more structured and controlled. She queries what the need for control and structure means to me?

We explore my biggest regret and how trauma can cause lasting effects on development into adulthood. The brain does not fully develop until around the age of 25, so often, the decisions that we make before that age in response to trauma are immature and irrational. 

 Why does memory loss often occur around traumatic events? What kind of lasting effects can repression of memories cause later in life? How did “brushing it under the rug,” so-to-speak, contribute to my physical and mental pain?

The need to belong and to feel accepted has been long programmed into our biological code, and Dr. Helene and I examine how the desire to feel accepted and how the fear of being an outcast led to destructive behavior at University after my traumatic experience.

We also explore how social media can play a tremendous role in how we believe others should perceive us. For me, there is the “online” Louise and the “offline” Louise, and I’m conflicted with my need for perfection and control that is in direct conflict with my desire to be “real” on social media and in life.

We loved sharing Episode 2 with you - our first ever live therapy session! We hope in this episode that people may understand that therapy is not just needed in times of crisis. It is never too late to pick up a topic to discuss with loved ones, or more preferably, a professional.

What is your biggest regret so far? How are you processing it?

⠀Love the podcast? Did our message resonate with you? Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review! We appreciate you!

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Sep 21, 2020
01 - What happened to Louise Rumball?
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Hi friends! Louise here introducing my first ever solo episode of Openhouse - a fresh, fun and real podcast that explores the amazing impact that therapy and human connection can have on all areas of our lives.

⠀In this intro episode, I’m going to introduce you to who I am and tell you a little more about the journey I have been on throughout life so far.

From childhood to adolescence, through university and into adulthood, this episode will give you some background context of my life and how I got to where I am today, as well as why I decided to start this podcast. From good and bad relationships, to career development, perfectionism, trauma, substance abuse and subsequent sobriety, this episode  is the first one in which I start to peel back the layers into who I am, and why I am this way.

With 1 in 4 people being diagnosed with a mental health disorder in their lifetime, we need to pick up the pace on the mental health discussion and I want to help make a change by getting us talking.

In Series 1 of Openhouse, Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver will guide me through a series of personal therapy sessions. Together, we plan to explore all aspects of my life and EVERYTHING is up for discussion!

Dr Helene is a Clinical Psychologist who trained at Oxford University and Royal Holloway University of London - she is amazing - we are so excited to start this podcast and we hope you join us for the ride.

We live in a society where so much is left unsaid and we so often suppress, avoid, and distract ourselves from the things that truly need our attention. Openhouse is here to foster open and honest communication along this journey we call life, whilst providing you with a space to self-reflect, learn and grow.

Everyone is invited - and I’m so glad you turned up.

If you love this podcast, be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review.

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Sep 07, 2020
OPENHOUSE Official Trailer
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Openhouse - a fresh, fun and real podcast that explores the amazing impact that therapy and human connection can have on all areas of our lives. 

In Series 1 of Openhouse, Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver will guide me through a series of personal therapy sessions. Together, we plan to explore all aspects of my life and EVERYTHING is up for discussion!

Dr Helene is a Clinical Psychologist who trained at Oxford University and Royal Holloway University of London - she is amazing - we are so excited to start this podcast and we hope you join us for the ride. 



Sep 07, 2020