The attachment style - fearful avoidant, also known as ‘disorganized’ is often overlooked. Do you feel like you want to be close to people and want their love, but when you get close, you feel like it is a dangerous space to be in? Maybe you push people away before they can push you away, but deep down want to be and feel loved? Did you experience deeply stressful, neglectful or abusive situations as a child that make you feel that love is not only scary, but sometimes actually dangerous? Do you expect or fear people might hurt you? 

If this is you, or it sounds like your partner, this episode is for you.

Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack discuss:

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⇢What is a disorganized attachment style
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⇢How did it form in childhood
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⇢What are disorganized people actually scared of (you might be surprised!)
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⇢What’s the difference between feeling fearful and avoidant in life or dating and actually having a disorganized attachment style?
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Plus, we discuss what happens & what to do when a partner is not working on their attachment style.

Louise asks Dr Tari: 
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⇢How patient should you be with someone’s attachment style?
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⇢Is an attachment style enough to break up with someone for?
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⇢What to do if someone’s attachment style is bringing you unhappiness?
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⇢And, ultimately, how conflict can actually bring you closer together if you learn to regulate your attachment style

And more! 

Louise also shares her own experiences with a ‘disorganized’ ex boyfriend and how one moment changed the entire relationship. 

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Ever dated an avoidant man or woman? They disappear when conflict starts or a conversation heats up? You feel like you get close to them, but never quite fully there? Maybe you are one yourself and other people feel ‘too needy, too much’, or that being independent and alone is safer and less hectic. Maybe you don't see the point in talking about your feelings, don't like to depend on others for help, think relationships are a lot of work or just prefer 'being mysterious?'

If this is you, or it sounds like your partner, this episode is for you. After the success of our anxious attachment series, we know you will take deep value from this episode 

Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack discuss:

⇢What is an avoidant attachment style
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⇢How did it form in childhood
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⇢What are avoidantly attached people actually scared of (you might be surprised!)
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⇢Why do the avoidantly attached live life with a ‘buffer’ between them and others 
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⇢Why the fear of true intimacy drives an intermittent reinforcement cycle

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⇢Why an anxiously attached person is often an avoidantly attached person’s worst nightmare

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⇢Why you can never truly thrive with an avoidant attachment until you are working on it

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⇢How conflict can actually bring you closer together if you learn to regulate your attachment style

And more!

Louise also shares her own experiences with:

⠀The difference between solutions based love and reassurance based love when in conflict
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⇢Tolerating avoidantly attached relationships
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⇢Trying to pull men closer to get them to experience true intimacy; and
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⇢ Dr Tari shares why there is only one person who can fully break the cycle.

If you are anxiously attached, be sure to listen to Episodes 38, 39 and 40 of the podcast before getting into this one. 

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Struggling with anxiety or an anxious attachment style? This episode is for you. Louise is joined by her friend Sarah Murphy in their first ever OPEN(BODY) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast to discuss the connections between mental health and physical health and most importantly --> nervous system health. 

The ladies discuss and explore:

⇢What is the nervous system?
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⇢The science behind anxious attachment.
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⇢What happens when an anxious attachment (or anxiety) gets triggered
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⇢What happens after the fight or flight kicks in and how the 30-90 second rule can change your life
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⇢Grounding & the influence of nature on your nervous system
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⇢Why the foundations for your anxiety may have started before you were born;
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⇢The connection that your Mother's nervous system has to your breathing;
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⇢Why so many of us 'don't breathe properly' today;
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⇢The connection between mental health & nervous system health;
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⇢How to stop a trigger in its tracks by understanding your nervous system; and
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⇢Sarah's product recommendations of choice.

Sarah has dedicated her life to seeking root cause answers to mental and physical health challenges. She started out as a certified nutritional practitioner and a clinical herbalist before moving on to study across a board of multiple holistic healing modalities including traditional Chinese medicine, Ayurvedic medicine, homeopathy, detoxification, toxicology, environmental medicine and, most relevant for this podcast potentially, the mind body work and polyvagal theory. She’s a lifelong student of health and is a goldmine of info. 

All product recommendations in this episode come from her 10 + year career owning health food shops in Toronto & practicing with clients. She understands how many products on the market are toxic, not organic and just full of chemicals and junk. She is the only person I trust when it comes to product recommendations. 

Product recommendations: 

Simba weighted blanket (premium price point) https://amzn.to/3OasQdA

BLYSS weighted blanket (mid price point) https://amzn.to/3O3wI0q

BEDSURE weighted blanket (lower price point) https://amzn.to/3O3wI0q

Rescue Remedy - for on the go in your handbag - https://amzn.to/3OasQdA

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The feedback from pt. 1 of this episode was phenomenal. You guys really went crazy for our first anxious attachment podcast episode where myself and clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack looked at the anxious attachment style that over 20% (1 in 5 people ) in the global population live with, after having it form in childhood. 

After a lot of requests, in today’s episode, Louise & Dr Tari go deeper into this, looking at:

⇢Breaking down the four stages of an anxious attachment style 
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⇢The underlying fears behind an anxious attachment style 
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⇢The triggers that provoke an anxious attachment attack
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⇢The activation of your attachment cycle - understanding what happens in your body when your attachment style is activated + how to handle it
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⇢The concept of protest behaviours and why we use them to try and re establish connection

Louise & Dr Tari also discuss:

⇢Why you can’t have reassurance on tap all of the time

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⇢How to calm and regulate your anxious attachment style

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⇢How to heal it in the long run
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⇢The concept of meeting in the middle with whoever you are dating
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⇢ Can you heal and date at the same time? 
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⇢ A couple of Q&A topics from Louise’s recent TikToks 

Louise also shares: 

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⇢ The concept of ‘positive intent’ which has changed her life

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⇢ Her personal experience fears, triggers and protest behaviours
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⇢How soon is too soon to share your trauma with someone you are dating?
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Having an anxious attachment is stressful as f**k. And what’s even more stressful? When people don’t talk about how stressful it is. In this episode, we look at an anxious attachment style *in action* as Louise feels anxious about the new man she is dating. Dr Tari helps to talk her through what she is feeling, where the fear is coming from, how to handle the situation and more. 

In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Dr Tari Mack for a live coaching session. 

Louise and Dr Tari explore

⇢ What it means to have an anxious attachment style;

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⇢ How to manage and regulate your anxious attachment style; 

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⇢ How to communicate this with someone else; 

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⇢ How to finally break your own attachment cycles once and for all. 

Louise also asks Dr Tari:

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⇢ Whether you can fully heal the anxious attachment style; 

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⇢ Who you should be avoiding when dating; and

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⇢ How to stay regulated when things really feel out of control. 

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Waiting for someone who is just not ready to date you, to be ready to date you? I ask my therapist, should we wait for them to start their healing, get over their ex, let their busy period at work calm down for them to step up to the plate - or should we just move on? Should we entertain them as a friend? Should we stay in contact? Should we keep things going until they see how good you two could be together? 

In this OPENHEART episode of OPENHOUSE, Louise Rumball asks Dr Tari Mack, clinical psychologist and relationship expert, what to do when the person you are interested in is not ready to commit. 

Louise and Dr Tari explore

⇢ The clear, conscious and subconscious ways that people say they ‘can’t show up for you right now’

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⇢ What to do if someone is acting nonchalant or is expressly communicating that they don’t want a relationship but they like you;

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⇢ How to ask someone what they want in a relationship (and when you should do so); 

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⇢ How and why people use sex and hook ups to avoid emotional vulnerability and intimacy.

Louise also asks shares:

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⇢ Her personal story around how meeting someone who ticks ‘most of the boxes’ can lead you on a wild goose chase of waiting for them to be ready;

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⇢ Her friends recent story, and whether you can really be friends with someone you have slept with; 

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⇢ Her experience of why not all men’s word can be trusted.

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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The best sagittarius duo, Louise & Monica and their epic friendship bring the fire in this first ever GIRL TALK episode between the two of them. After recently being together in Tulum and knowing they need to share their healing lessons with the world.  

Now you can join this powerful pairing as they talk real life, dating, men, falling in love, sex, intimacy and more, covering:

• Why you keep texting men to distract yourself, instead of actually doing the work to find a good one; 
• Why our nervous systems are always f&cKING on & how dating only perpetuates this cycle; 
• How your childhood wounds drive the partners you are picking and dating today;
• Louise & Monica's own personal stories around their childhoods;
• Why you are probably your own red flag;
• Polarity between masculine & feminine energy & why this is so important in your romantic relationships; 
• Monica's new boyfriend & the guy Louise is dating in Tulum;
• How sex can be a healing experience, as can relationships;

And MORE!

Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumball

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Attracted to looks, power, status and aesthetics but want to really find true meaningful connections? 

This episode is for you. 

Today, Dr Tari Mack and Louise Rumball explore why today’s society are attracted to external metrics and what we really need to be focusing on to be building deeper, healthier and more conscious connections. 

The pair explore: 

⇢ The external metrics of attraction
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⇢The concepts of superficial love vs. deep intimacy and emotional vulnerability 

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⇢How social media today makes you feel ‘less than’ others
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⇢How a focus on the external world does not cultivate the internal world that ultimately attracts the right people around you

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⇢How a focus on the external in terms of appearance, aesthetics and ‘fine tuning our facial work’ will not take you to true happiness

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⇢How to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself and those around you 

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⇢The concept of ‘non-judgment’ in relationships

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⇢What it means to be attracted to money, success and status

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⇢What subconscious fears are running what you are attracted to

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+ Louise’s personal experiences of

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⇢How not being ‘the prettiest’ at school shaped her relationship with her self and body

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⇢How her dating has changed throughout her 20s and into her 30s - and how dating attractive people & used to validate her

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⇢What is important for her now in a relationship

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34 - You ghosted me then ‘orbited me’ so my therapist told me to block you. Exploring the psychology of orbiting

Orbiting is the newest toxic relationship trend. Orbiting is when someone breaks off direct contact with you after you have been talking, dating or sleeping together, but then they continue to engage with you on social media - orbiting around you. 

In this quick fire OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Dr Tari Mack for a live coaching session on what to do with a guy that is orbiting her. 

Louise and Dr Tari explore

⇢ What is orbiting;

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⇢ Why people do it;

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⇢ What it means;

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⇢ What to do if you are on the receiving end of it;  

Louise also asks whether:

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⇢ You should block someone who is orbiting you; 

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⇢ Whether blocking someone seems too dramatic; 

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⇢ Whether she should have a conversation with the person. 

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Why do some of us love partners that make us chase after us? Or that are inconsistent? Hot and cold? Treat us well then disappear?  In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Dr Tari Mack for a live coaching session. 

Louise and Dr Tari explore

⇢ How Louise is feeling about starting to date again;

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⇢ Her recent romantic experiences in Tulum;

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⇢ What to do when faced with ‘the bad guy’ and the ‘good guy?' and going for the 'good guy' feels unfamiliar and unusual';

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⇢ How to finally break cycles of attraction once and for all; 

Dr Tari also asks Louise about: 

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⇢ The concept of earning love; 

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⇢ The concept of looking forward into the future; and
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⇢ Why it can feel so damn good to go for the wrong choice. 

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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Louise sits down with clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr Tari Mack to discuss the psychology of trust issues and why people have them, and how to get over them.
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We look at trust issues through the vehicle of J Lo, who after being cheated on publicly by A Rod and acknowledging that she had trust issues, was able to move through this to get engaged to Ben Affleck.
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari explore:
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⇢What are trust issues?
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⇢The psychology behind trust issues
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⇢How do you know if it’s you having trust issues or if it’s an actual issue in the relationship?
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 ⇢If you found out that your partner has cheated on previous relationships, how to stop bringing this into your relationship with them?
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⇢ Is there ever a good reason to not trust someone?   
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⇢ How do you know if its trust issues or an anxious attachment style?
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⇢ For people that have experienced trust issues feel like they follow them around forever?
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⇢ What about people who just feel like they only attract the same type of person?
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⇢ How to communicate to someone that you are struggling with trusting.
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⇢ Hope that there are good men and women out there that are trustworthy, reliable, kind and will not hurt you.
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Louise also shares her own experiences of her exes and what she has learnt about trust over the years.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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Louise sits down with clinical psychologist look at the concepts of attachment, validation, power, comfort, attention, security and more in this episode of OPENHOUSE - with a dose of juicy stories along the way.

⇢ How to be friends with your ex - and whether you really should be trying to be?
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⇢ What is the psychology behind what drives someone to want to stay in touch with your ex?
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⇢ We explore validation, power, comfort, attention, security and more - why do we find it so hard to let go of these things?
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⇢ Louise’s experience of bumping into an ex years down the line;
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⇢ How a new partner coming into the scene impacts the experience.
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Things also get deep in this exercise when Louise shares her feelings about her most recent ex boyfriend and Dr Tari Mack gives her some sobering home truths.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr Tari Mack to discuss the psychology of pacing, dating and the slow grow vs. the euphoric rollercoaster romance.
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari explore:
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⇢ Pete Davidson and Kim Kardashian and why everything moves so damn quickly in life and in Hollywood
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⇢ Why pacing is one of the magic bullets in a relationship⠀
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⇢ Why people struggle with pacing
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⇢ Why we attach super quickly
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⇢ How to information gather and date smart
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⇢The psychology of losing ourselves in a new relationship
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⇢The benefits of the go-slow rather than the rollercoaster romance
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⇢Why the initial parts of a relationship are the equivalent to taking drugs.
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Louise also shares her own experiences, particularly in relationship to the benefits of the slow grow and how to hold onto the roller coaster romance.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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In this episode, we look at the recent drama of Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscars in defense of his wife Jada Pinkett Smith, when Chris Rock disrespected her with a joke about her hair-less condition, alopecia.
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Louise starts the episode by sharing that she felt like the missing piece of the jigsaw was when she read a section of Will Smith’s autobiography where he explained that he grew up in an abusive environment, watching his Father beat his Mother and that this developed his ‘biggest regret to date’ that he was a ‘coward’ and never ‘avenged his Mother’.
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Today, we discuss the stories, limiting beliefs and conditioning that we pick up in childhood, subconsciously and consciously, and how these shape how we show up in the world, and how they hold us back from living our best life.
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Louise & Dr Tari talk about:
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⇢ How we often learn we are not enough, that we have to fight for love, earn it, or that we are going to be abandoned;
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⇢ Family dynamics, sibling relationships and what you can learn if you are, or are not, the golden child of the family;
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⇢ How stories can be picked up around hobbies and food; and
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⇢ How picking up your attachment style from your caregivers will impact all of your relationships later in life.
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Louise also goes deep and shares her personal experience of:
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⇢ Her experience with high level ballet and gymnastics as a child;
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⇢ How her relationship with food was defined from her relationship with her family; and
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⇢ How her relationship with her family unit maybe developed becoming an introvert later in life.
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If you enjoyed this episode, please do share on your social media or leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so we can help spread the word about our #FreeTherapy.
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Welcome to the final episode of the friendship series. In this OPEN(HEART) episode we ask clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack what to do when a friend (or a partner) breaks up with you.
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Louise & Dr Tari take a recent example that one of Louise’s friends went through, when she got ghosted by a friend. Dr Tari Mack shares information on:
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⇢ How self-awareness can help avoid these situations happening;
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⇢ How open conversation, communication & discussion can reduce the severity of the situations.
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Dr Tari and Louise also discuss:
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⇢ How the same principles in friendship breakdowns apply to romantic relationships;
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⇢ What to do when someone sets a boundary that you feel is unfair;
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⇢ Whether you ever really are owed a conversation or discussion by someone else?
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⇢ How to move on from friendships that you don’t know if you can.
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And:
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⇢ How helpful therapy can be with the breakdown of friendships to help with the healing and self-awareness process.
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Welcome to the friendship series. In this OPEN(HEART) episode we ask clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack about all things friendship breakdowns.
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Louise and Tari discuss why they happen, why they hurt, why they’re inevitable, how to handle them when they change or break down, how to learn from them and, ultimately, how to grow and be happier after them.
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Louise Rumball also goes deeper into three of her own personal friend breakdowns:
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⇢  1. Her childhood best friend & how she dreamt about her for years & what this meant;
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⇢ 2. A good friend in her 20s who Louise bonded with over their equally disastrous and toxic relationships - and whose friendship then slowly broke down when they didn’t bond over that any more;
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⇢ 3. Her most recent friendship breakdown - with someone who she loves and cares about but feels is incompatible with her at this point in her life.
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Dr Tari and Louise also discuss:
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⇢ How to self-reflect on your friendships using the Wedding Cake analogy;
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⇢ How to broach a friendship that isn't feeling good;
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⇢ How to communicate with yourself and others; and
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⇢ How to lean into the changes of friendships to your benefit, rather than them hurting you.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify if it resonated.
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise sits down with Emma Wilson, the first Turning 30 Coach to discuss how much life changes when you hit the big 3-0.
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Today, the focus is friendship - and together, Louise and Emma explore:
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⇢ What happens when your friends start settling down; and you don’t
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⇢ Whether forever friendships can really last forever
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⇢ How the situation changes further when your friends start to have babies
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⇢ How to communicate with friends that things no longer feel the same.
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The girl’s also talk about their own personal experiences of:
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⇢ Neglecting friends when they fall in love;
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⇢ Having uncomfortable but life changing conversations; and
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⇢ Discussing where and how to make new friends in today’s busy, fast paced society.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discuss all things friends, the psychology of enablers and the less than healthy friendships that we love.
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We take a look at this through the lens of the recent finale of Euphoria and the very special, sweet and sad situation that we all got to experience alongside the captivating characters of Rue and Elliott.
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***SPOILER ALERT*** If you haven’t watched the finale of Euphoria yet, then skip this episode and come back to it later!
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:
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⇢ Rue & Elliot and why their friendship worked initially, and why he ultimately showed true friendship through his actions later on in the series;
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⇢ What is an enabler + the psychology behind enabling;
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⇢ Why do we enable others;
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⇢ How to broach a friendship that isn't feeling good;
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⇢ Understanding how to break the cycle of a less than healthy friendship; and
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⇢ How to deal with the anger of another person as you break the cycle.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise interviews Maddy Anholt, author of ‘How to Leave Your Psychopath’
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Are you forever finding yourself in the stranglehold of controlling companions? Today’s chat will help you wave ta-ta to unhappy and unhealthy relationships for good.
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We talk about red flags to look out for, how and why people exert control, and also discuss lovebombing, gaslighting, and negging.
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Backed with personal story and supported by psychological insight Louise & Maddie share their personal journeys and all they have learnt along the way.
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In this episode, Louise & Maddy break down:
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⇢ Why it isn’t just ‘doormats’ and ‘weak women’ who find themselves being treated awfully in relationships;
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⇢ The traits that these types of people look for in their partners;
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⇢ How to tell the difference between a ‘d*ckhead’ and an abuser;
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⇢ The hormonal addiction cycle & how the cycle plays out in practice;
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⇢ Why there isn’t a breaking point for everyone;
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⇢ And how to leave if you are in a potentially dangerous situation.
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If you are or someone you know is experiencing family violence and need someone to talk to, contact a local domestic abuse service by using Women's Aid Domestic Abuse Directory www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-abuse-directory
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we get into the topic that everyone is talking about - the crazy Netflix documentary - The Tinder Swindler, The so-called Tinder Swindler is Shimon Hayut (aka 'Simon Leviev'), a convicted fraudster born in Israel. He used dating apps to meet multiple women, then got them to take out loans and credit in their names, ultimately leaving them holding the bills when he would later disappear - but not before he had spent ALL of the money on an insanely lavish lifestyle that he used to impress OTHER women.
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In today’s episode, Louise & Dr Tari break down:
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⇢ The psychology of Attachment Hunger - something that starts in childhood when we don’t get the appropriate bonding and nurturing form our parent figures, and then later shows up in adult life as attaching too quickly to romantic partners;
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⇢ The reason that so many people today ignore red flags; 
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⇢ Why sexual validation and attention are not the same as healthy loving care;
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⇢ The importance of knowing ourselves before we can really know another; and
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⇢ Why some people only attract superficial relationships.
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also break down the specifics of the situation and look at;
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⇢ Immediate red flags that should have been picked up on in the episode;
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⇢ How to navigate dating apps when meeting someone new (+ the questions you have to ask);
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⇢ How to actually get to know someone;
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⇢ How to keep an eye out for someone like the Tinder Swindler so you can avoid at all costs; and
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⇢ The importance of boundaries and time to attach when you meet someone new.
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In Episode 20 of the OPENHOUSE podcast we covered all things ghosting, because if you haven’t already heard, Louise got ghosted. 

Today, in Episode 22, Dr Tari Mack is back from holiday & we are looking at the flip side of getting ghosted.

We ask Dr Tari:

⇢ Why do people ghost? 

⇢ How this can tie back to more significant personality traits, like narcissism and sociopathy;

⇢ But how it can also tie back to our experience in childhood and what we were taught by our caregivers about conflict; and

⇢ What ghosting teaches us about another person. 

Louise also shares her personal experience of how she used to ghost people when she was younger, but also shares:

⇢ How she now understands why she used to act the way she did; 

⇢ How her behaviour has changed since going to therapy;  and

⇢ Her tips and tricks on how not to ghost people. 

We also share live examples of messages that Louise has sent to people when she has needed to communicate that she wasn’t into things, rather than ghosting, and get Dr Tari’s feedback. 

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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.

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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, Louise gets into a solo episode discussing all things Rihanna & A$AP Rocky and the news that they are having a baby! 

In this episode, Louise looks at ‘Rihanna energy’ and her break up from Hassan Jameel at 31, an age when many people would feel pressurised by society to stay in their relationship or make it work, rather than the fear of being ‘thirty and single’. 

In this episode, Louise shares: 

⇢ The psychology of our brain development in our 30s vs. our 20s and how this impacts our dating decisions; 

⇢ Why sometimes we have to date a ‘Chris Brown’ to meet our very own A$AP Rocky; 

⇢ Why being single in your 30s can be a revolutionary and insightful phase of self-awareness; and 

⇢ How you can use it to your advantage, helping to take you closer to the right person. 

Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:

⇢ Her experience of dating her very own Chris Brown and what she learnt;⠀

⇢ What watching her friends settle down and have babies has taught her about what she wants in a relationship; 

⇢ Her top 6 tips to embracing being single in your 30s + 40s;

⇢ And why you need to date ‘smart’, ‘fast’ and ‘with intention’ as you get older.

As well as chatting all things fertility and biological clocks. 

Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.⠀

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Hey guys,
 
Louise here returning with a solo episode of OPENHOUSE. In Episode 20, we are talking all things GHOSTING and what to do when you are on the receiving end of getting ghosted by someone you are dating.
 
So, if you couldn’t tell, I got f**king ghosted and I've got stuff to say. I’m not even embarrassed about it, because it is so normal in today's dating pool, but what I am going to do is share with you what I learnt about me, about the person that ghost me - and so much more, during this experience of getting ghosted.
 
In today's episode we go through:
 
*What is schema chemistry;
*My most recent ghosting story and why I should have seen the red flags from the start;
*The psychology of ghosting and the chemical and biological impacts it has on you
*Why ghosting makes you feel like you're going crazy
*How ghosting makes other people feel (we asked!)
*A 9 step, therapist backed plan to getting over ghosting; and
*How you can use ghosting to your advantage.
 
And so, ghosting happens, and it’s part of modern dating today but that doesn’t make it ok. And it shouldn’t be ok. And it shouldn’t be normalised - because we need to learn to develop our communication skills so that we can handle healthy conflict and uncomfortable situations and communication.
 
If you are hurting, I hope this episode provides some respite - and a couple of laughs.
 
Louise x

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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast we discuss all things Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker & their big love.
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We look at Kourtney’s evolution from someone who was once cold, boundaried, not very emotional and fairly private into someone who can’t stop expressing her love outwardly for her partner.
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We discuss whether this is coming from a place of true happiness, or whether there is something more to it. And we also ask - what happens when this intense lust, love and excitement slowly starts to die down over time? Who will they be then?
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Louise Rumball & Dr. Tari Mack look at the psychology behind what happens when the honeymoon phase ends and dive into:
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⇢ What does a healthy long term relationship like?;
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⇢ What to do after the honeymoon phase ends; and
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⇢ Therapist tips on how to keep the relationship alive.
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ Her experience of self-abandoning when she was younger; and
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⇢ Her experience of setting boundaries, using her voice and the importance of authenticity in a relationship.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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Hate being single or spending time alone? In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast we dive into all things ‘relationship jumping’. Whether you’ve just come out of a relationship and you’re already in another one, or looking for another one, or perhaps you’re going straight back to that boyfriend or girlfriend you know you shouldn’t - this episode is for you.
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We look at ‘relationship jumping’ through the vehicle of JLo with clinical psychologist Dr. Tari who has appeared on Access Hollywood recently talking about this and even given relationship advice to JLo herself.
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Louise Rumball & Dr. Tari look at the psychology behind ‘relationship jumping’ and dive into:
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⇢ What is going on when people just can’t seem to be alone;
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⇢ How we use relationships as a way to avoid the pain and discomfort of feeling alone and empty;
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⇢ How your patterns go back to your childhood experiences, particularly mirroring and emotional attunement; and
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⇢ The role of fear and its impact of keeping us from taking time to connect with ourselves and not search for another partner.
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ Her experience of Schema Therapy and the discovery of the defectiveness wound; and
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⇢ Why sometimes you can swing too far the other way - loving being alone as a protective mechanism.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, and off the back of the release of Jesy Nelson’s and Nicki Minaj’s newest single, Boyz, we dive into all things ‘bad boys’ and explore the psychological, emotional, physiological, and chemical reasons that underlie our attraction to ‘bad boys’ [or girls] and how it can actually be an addiction that we’re not aware of.
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Louise Rumball & clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack explore the reason we’re attracted to bad boys, why we get bored of the ‘nice guy’ and the chemicals that are released that keeps us wanting more and more of something we know isn’t good for us.
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We look at the psychology behind the allure of bad boys and dive into:
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⇢ What is intermittent reinforcement?;
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⇢ The cocktail of chemicals at play;
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⇢ How to break this cycle & level up to reach a new pool of potential partners; and
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⇢ The angry man - and why sometimes we’re attracted to this.
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ Her experience of dating bad boys - including someone that later got sentenced to five years in prison; and
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⇢ Why she is now not as interested by bad boys.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack
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Book your own Relationship Reading with Dr Tari by quoting OPENHOUSE or Louise Rumball for your discount: www.drtarimack.com
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we take a look at the recent news of Zayn Malik & Gigi Hadid and their break up that very few saw coming.
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We discuss all things tumultuous relationships, why we keep them a secret and what to do if you find yourself in this situation - whether you are dating someone, in a relationship with them, or feel like it’s not possible to leave.
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We dive into out of bounds behaviour, the cycle of bad behaviour, whether a leopard can actually change their spots and also take you through lots of actionable tips and tricks and communication soundbytes on how to move forward out of these situations if you are experiencing them yourself.
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We recap on unconscious attraction and Louise shares her own personal experiences with an ex-boyfriend who re-appeared and certainly did not change his spots. She also shares her experiences of red flags, when she should have walked away and didn’t - as well as her more recent experience of working with a subconscious therapist which has taught her that children really do pick up what is going on with parents.
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:
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⇢ Behaviours that are out of bounds and how these can be normalised / unrecognisable by us if we’ve witnessed them in relationships around us growing up;
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⇢ Why it’s hard for people to change unless they are fully dedicated to it; and
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⇢ How DENIAL / EMBARRASSMENT / SHAME leads us to silence these out of bound behaviours and what to do when we find that we’re doing that.
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ An ex-boyfriend who reappeared last week;
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⇢ Seeing red flags early on but only recognising them with hindsight; and
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⇢ Experience of working with a subconscious therapist - looking at the environment in which she was conceived.
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And, finally, they discuss all things having a temper - how to regulate it, how to work on it, and how to take responsibility for it.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, off the back of Episode 14 discussing all things Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker’s new engagement, today we look at Scott - discussing all things breakups as we shine a light on what we know Scott Disick might be feeling.
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We dive into what to do when you feel like someone has got away, the different stages of a breakup and how to truly move through the relationships that we think we can never get over.
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As Dr. Tari says, “breakups are the catalyst for the biggest chapters of healing,” leading us to explore why it’s important to look inward and why the feelings surrounding a breakup could go much deeper than the breakup itself. We discuss all things emotional wounds, including the abandonment and defectiveness wound - with Louise sharing her own experiences about what she learnt about her own break up.
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We look at the psychology behind when we genuinely think that that person we are not with is the one and dive into:
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⇢ Why heartbreak can be worse than grieving the loss of somebody who died;
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⇢ Dr. Tari’s insight into why, if there’s been a breakup, that’s a clear indication that they are not your person;
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⇢ The psychology behind connection and closure - and why you do NOT need it in the way you think you do; and
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⇢ How to handle unhealthy coping mechanisms and why it’s important to stay in our power during a break up.
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:
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⇢ Scott choosing people that are at the same emotional maturity level as him;
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⇢ The different stages of a break up; and
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⇢ Why a relationship is never about the other person.
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ Her last breakup; and
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⇢ Her healing journey post breakup and what she’s most proud of.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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Connect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimack
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discuss this week’s BIG celebrity news - the announcement that Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker are engaged. We dive into Kourtney finding her person later in life, and how her previous relationship with Scott taught her what she didn’t want / need in her future relationships.
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We explore the reason it’s important to do our own internal work in order to level up into a safer, more stable kind of relationship and why, as women, we shouldn’t feel pressured to find the perfect partner, and instead should focus on our own alignment.
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We look at the psychology behind why many of us are more likely to find our person later in life and dive into:
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⇢ Dr. Tari’s thoughts on the people that are mourning over Kourtney & Scott’s relationship;
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⇢ How Kourtney’s relationship with Scott prepared her to be in a healthier relationship with Travis; and
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⇢ Why we need to choose people who grow and change with us.
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:
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⇢ Why, when we haven’t done the work to regulate ourselves, that we will be attracted to relationships that are chaotic;
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⇢ How feeling safe with your person can lead to a more sexual and passionate relationship; and
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⇢ Discuss why you don’t have to actively look for your partner.
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ Why her past relationships have taught her what she wants or does not want moving forward; and
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⇢ Why she has 0% panic or fear of finding a partner, settling down or having children.
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Following on from Episode 12 and our analysis of Justin & Hailey and all things 'couple goals or codependency' - join Louise in one of her most raw solo episodes yet where she discusses her own personal experience being on both sides of a toxic relationship - both like Justin, becoming reliant on the excessive love, care and support of another - as well as being Hailey, trying to care for someone troubled, often erratic and volatile.
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we dive into Hailey & Justin Bieber and explore the fine line between couple goals and codependency and how to know when it might be a problem in your relationship.
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We explore the complex nature of Justin Bieber and why he often acts like a man child, and why Hailey Bieber acts like a submissive spouse who continually dotes on him. Is it really couple goals if you’re too busy caring for your partner that you forget to take care of yourself?
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We look at Hailey & Justin Bieber and dive into:
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⇢ Why are so many relationships in today’s society fitting in this territory of being passionate and toxic at the same time?;
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⇢ Hailey’s family history and how this has created a template for her relationship with Justin;
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⇢ Why Justin is so dependant on Hailey; and
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⇢ Why Hailey has lost herself in return for supporting Justin.
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:
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⇢ The psychology behind why we act like caregivers to our lovers and partners;
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⇢ Why we need to set healthy boundaries; and
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⇢ How you CAN reparent yourself;
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ Her experience of being in a codependent relationship; and
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⇢ How she started to learn to set healthy boundaries.
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Let us know how you enjoyed the episode and be sure to share this on social media, as well as giving us a rating and review on Apple or Spotify.
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we dive into Khloe & Tristan and Kylie & Travis and explore why we keep choosing people that end up cheating on us or treating us badly?
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Plus, we explore can we really make a relationship work again with someone who has been unfaithful and the top, therapist backed tips, that you HAVE to consider if you want to rebuild a relationship that has gone through infidelity?
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We look at Khloe Kardashian and dive into:
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⇢ Why did Khloe continue to take Tristan Thompson back after his repeated infidelity?
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⇢ Comparisons to her marriage to Lamar Odom;
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⇢ What is going on with Khloe’s unconscious attraction; and
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⇢ Why do we act like caregivers to our lovers and partners?
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack also go deeper into:
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⇢ The psychology behind why we choose people who treat us badly;
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⇢ Why do we stay with people who cheat on us and can it ever work?;
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⇢ Unconscious attraction EXPLAINED; and
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⇢ Why do we repeat the same cycles even when we’re aware it’s not good for us.
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We also look at Kylie & Travis - and how they have overcome challenges in their relationship. Dr Tari shares the 10 things that HAVE to happen from both parties in a relationship if you want to help a relationship recover from infidelity.
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ Bad behaviour of her ex-boyfriends and how this impacted her;
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⇢ Finding herself in a ‘mum’ / caregiver role with her most recent ex and what this meant; and
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⇢ Her thoughts on rebuilding relationships after infidelity..
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode of the OPENHOUSE Podcast, we discuss Cardi B & Offset as our celebrity couple as a vehicle so that we can further explore the big, and sometimes painful, question - why do people cheat?
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We follow the rocky rollercoaster of the Cardi B & Offset romance, whilst going deeper into:
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⇢ The psychology of cheating;
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⇢ Why do people cheat;
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⇢ The top 10 signs that someone is a serial cheater;
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⇢ The top 4 reasons that people cheat;
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⇢ Does your partner have narcissistic and sociopath tendencies?;
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⇢ Is 'one time a cheater, always a cheater, true?'
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⇢ The connection between cheating, self-esteem, communication, and validation;
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⇢ How much of a role does sex play in cheating?
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⇢ The impact that cheating in our childhood can have on us; and
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⇢ How and why cheating goes back to often many years, or even decades, before the event itself happens.
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We also explore Louise’s own experiences with infidelity - something that it has taken her many years to come to terms with, release shame from and be able to speak openly about.
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We discussed why she cheated, how she feels confident she won't again as well as a couple of her own personal dating stories - ex boyfriends, watch out!
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In this OPEN(HEART) episode, we start by discussing the recent announcement that Jason & Chrishell from Selling Sunset are dating.
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Louise Rumball & Dr Tari Mack go deeper into:
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⇢ The psychology behind why no one is happy for them;
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⇢ How soon is too soon to start dating again after a breakdown or a divorce;
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⇢ The power dynamics of dating whilst rich, beautiful and... short;
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⇢ Exploring the fast chemistry blow out vs. the slow build friendship; and
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⇢ Why do people so often turn friendships into something more when it isn't always the best option?; and
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 ⇢ The psychology of the unavailable man.
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Louise also shares her own personal dating stories, particularly:
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⇢ What her most recent relationship taught her about finding love in unusual places;
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⇢ The importance of different sex friendships and the dangers that they bring with them.
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Welcome to Series 2 of the OPENHOUSE Podcast and our first OPEN(HEART) episode where Louise is joined by the incredible Dr Tari Mack - a leading clinical psychologist and a celebrity relationship expert.
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In this episode, Louise & Tari go deep into the recent Teddy & Faye argument that recently blew up on Love Island and use it as a vehicle to discuss conflict and toxic conflict, what does it mean when we get triggered, where and who do we learn our anger responses from, and is anger self-sabotage or does it hold the key to something deeper?
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Dr Tari also takes the pair through who was gaslighting who in this situation, who should have walked away; and whether or not she would advise the two to repair their relationship. ⠀
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Join Louise Rumball and her team of leading psychologists as we venture into Series 2 of the OPENHOUSE podcast. This quick trailer gives you a sneak peak of what you may expect in all things OPENHOUSE Series 2. 

When my recent break up happened,  it hit me like a truck and I went into a total tailspin of panic, sadness, fear, distress and desperation.
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Breakups are hard enough in normal, day to day life but there is something about going through any kind of break up during a global pandemic that makes this event even worse. 
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In this episode, I share the top 10 things that I have learnt from therapy around break ups and how they have helped me so far.
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This is the episode that I wish someone had given me before everything happened. 
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I'm bringing the therapy to you.
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This episode covers:
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⇢  the things you NEED to know when you enter into break up territory;
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⇢ why our bodies and minds react so severely to rejection of any kind;
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⇢ how MRI scanners will show that you're not too different from a drug addict going cold turkey;
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⇢ how understanding the concepts of attachment, love and fear cycle will help you to be ok with what is happening;
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⇢ how neural affirmations and self-care can help to calm your nervous system and re-wire your brain;
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⇢ the psychology behind 'out of sight and out of mind', and what to do with your memories together; and
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⇢ how to stop romanticising your past relationship and objectively understand the WHY.
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⠀My two favourite parts of the episode include:
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⇢ how understanding your - and your ex's - personality style and attachment style will help you to understand why you both might be reacting differently in the wake of a break up; and ⠀
⇢ what closure really means (and it’s really not what you think!).
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If you yourself are struggling, or you know someone that is, please do seek professional help. ⠀
If this is not possible, then I hope that you digest this episode and apply some of it to your own situation so you can move forward.
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Whatever you are going through - my heart goes out to you - I would not wish heartbreak on anyone.
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I trust that you can heal.
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I hope you believe that too.
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With love,
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Louise
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Welcome to our second live therapy workshop in partnership with FORA London, London’s tailored workspace that provides its residents with spaces to be happy and healthy to deliver their best work.
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This workshop - ‘how to manage the uncertainty of a Corona Christmas’ is a pre-record of a live therapy workshop where Louise & clinical psychologist Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver work through a vast variety of topics that often come up in therapy in the winter months, whilst going deeper on specific topics such as the winter blues, seasonal triggers, family boundary setting, loneliness, excess around Christmas, and more. The workshop also discusses management techniques to make this Christmas a little less stressful than those gone before.
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The free worksheet for this session is available at https://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/coronachristmas
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To start the workshop, Dr Helene explores Louise’s historical connection with the winter blues and how her winters previously have been very different to this one. Dr Helene discusses Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), explore whether Louise has ever experienced it, and the two discuss the value of a morning routine and the small daily activities that Louise feels are contributing to her good mental and physical health this year. The two work through a morning routine exercise and Dr Helene also demonstrates a ‘Locus of Control’ exercise to help us better manage anxiety, uncertainty and catastrophising.
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Louise & Dr Helene then explore how lockdown has impacted Louise and how she is feeling - connected, disconnected, reliant on others, independent?. They discuss friendships, relationships and how, for many, loneliness is rearing its head. The pair also explore a trigger and boundary setting exercise to help you best manage any familial situation this Christmas when many personalities all come under one route.
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To finish the workshop, Louise & Dr Helene explore how the pandemic this year has made many people feel pressurised that they have not yielded any progress or moved forward. The pair go through a positive and compassionate reflection exercise on the year gone by and look towards 2021. This is led by Louise and her own experiences throughout 2020.
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Throughout the session, Louise & Dr Helene also take live therapy questions and help viewers at home with any questions that they might have.
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In this episode, Louise and Dr Helene explore Louise’s coping mechanisms over the past few years and how an intense life of hard work and constant pressure, often led to her partying harder than she had wanted to on the weekends. Whilst initially seemingly innocent, Louise started to understand that whilst she didn’t classify herself as having a traditional ‘problem’ with alcohol, her relationship with alcohol wasn’t as healthy as it could be, often ending up in awful hangovers, bad decisions and added stress when Monday came around.
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Louise and Dr Helene explore why, unfortunately, Louise had to come head to head with a traumatising event one evening whilst intoxicated before she decided that it was time to face up to her relationship with alcohol and sleeping pills.
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Since that evening, Louise embarked on a journey of sobriety and it has now been 2 years and 8 months since she decided to stop drinking. Until now, Louise has never shared this personal story, but is today sharing in the hope that it may be comforting for others who have been in a similar situation, and potentially inspiring for those who are sober curious and interested in exploring a life without alcohol and drugs.
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In this episode, she discusses how her relationship with alcohol and sleeping pills developed throughout her 20s, whether she ever classified this as a problem and why it took so many years for her to come to the decision to finally stop drinking.
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Louise & Dr Helene also discuss how she went sober, whether she did it with professional help or on her own, and how she has managed to stay sober in a world full of party animals and normalisation of drinking.
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In a touching and uplifting episode, Louise reflects on how far she has come and the incredible positives she has gained from her journey over the last few years - and the message she wants to share with anyone who is listening or has gone through a similar journey.
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This episode is for anyone - the people who love drinking but hate the hangovers, the people who end up making bad decisions and wish they could stop but don’t know how, those who self medicate with alcohol and drugs to distract from reality, and those who would just be interested in knowing what it might be like to not drink for a day, week or month.
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In this episode - everything is on the table - and we hope that you enjoy as we breakdown society’s relationship with alcohol, as well as Louise’s. How is your relationship with alcohol? Is it something you would like to work on? Would you one day consider going sober?
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Trigger warning - this episode contains information regarding sexual assault
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Hi friends - Louise here and thrilled to be introducing Episode 4 of our podcast.
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In today’s live therapy session Dr Helene and I explore what it means to be a perfectionist. For me, I have never classified myself as one - I always thought that I was too ‘much’ to be a perfectionist. I wasn’t super tidy, nor the perfect homemaker, the perfect partner or the perfect daughter, and I always had so much on my plate, that I never thought this term was right for me.
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However, what came out of Episode 3 was that perfectionism has shown up in my life in so many of ways but mainly as a constant and relentless drive and pressure to be more successful, to be in better shape and to achieve more and keep up with those around me. The underlying driver of perfectionism is the feeling that you have to be MORE of something to be more worthy, more lovable or more valuable.
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In this episode, we go deeper and explore why this is - how it ties back to my family experience, school and university experiences and early career milestones, as well as how it has mainly shown up in my relationship with my career and my body in adulthood.  We also touch upon my relationship with men and ageing.
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In today’s society, we so often are left feeling just not good enough in comparison to those around us and the shiny lives of others on social media - so I love how we are able to run through the impact social media also has on those who have a tendency to feel ‘less than’.
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In this episode, we also go through an analogy to understand how to keep your self-esteem stable, as well as considering how your life objectives can either support your self-esteem or sabotage it. These exercises can be completed at home after the episode.
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So, this is OPENHOUSE. Our goal is to normalise these conversations so together, we can be happier. Everyone is invited and I’m so glad you turned up.
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If you love this podcast, please be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review and share your listening experience with us on social media.
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Love Louise x
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Hi friends! Welcome to Episode 3 of OPENHOUSE. This one is a little different to our usual pre-recorded podcast episodes and it is a live-streamed therapy workshop where we explore how childhood impacts your development into adulthood.
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This episode includes an at-home worksheet booklet for you to work through as we go through the session. If you want to join into the session, please head to http://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/episode-3- to get yours!
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The importance of childhood experiences cannot be underestimated. Seemingly small events in childhood can sometimes have more significance than major events in adulthood and hugely impact the way we develop. The situations that we grow up in become our baseline normal and we form ideas about how life should be and how others should act from this perspective. Many are not always aware of this template that has been built from a young age.
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Should we experience stressful situations as a child, we also may develop unhelpful coping mechanisms that can endure long into adulthood and our adult relationships.
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Join us in this session where we explore a number of questions - looking through the lens of Louise and her life experiences, before asking you to look inwards and query:
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What did you learn from your family?
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⇢ What is an attachment style and how do they impact our connection with those around us?
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 ⇢ How to work out our attachment style with those closest to us. Are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganised? How does this differ across family members?
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 ⇢ What is self esteem, how is self esteem built in childhood and how does it change into adulthood?
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⇢ What are love languages and how can you most effectively manage your relationships in order to help them flourish by understanding these?
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We also run through a number of different analogies - including the Oil Rig analogy - to best understand how you can bolster your self esteem to support you as you grow from childhood, into adolescence and then into adulthood, as well as answering live questions along the way.
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Hi friends! Welcome to Episode 2 of OPENHOUSE, where I have my first LIVE therapy session with Dr. Helene. Together, not knowing where the session would take us, we began by exploring how I felt about doing live therapy.
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Having gone through a couple of months of therapy already, I mention to Dr Helene that I wonder if this session may be more structured and controlled. She queries what the need for control and structure means to me?
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We explore my biggest regret and how trauma can cause lasting effects on development into adulthood. The brain does not fully develop until around the age of 25, so often, the decisions that we make before that age in response to trauma are immature and irrational. 
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 Why does memory loss often occur around traumatic events? What kind of lasting effects can repression of memories cause later in life? How did “brushing it under the rug,” so-to-speak, contribute to my physical and mental pain?
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The need to belong and to feel accepted has been long programmed into our biological code, and Dr. Helene and I examine how the desire to feel accepted and how the fear of being an outcast led to destructive behavior at University after my traumatic experience.
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We also explore how social media can play a tremendous role in how we believe others should perceive us. For me, there is the “online” Louise and the “offline” Louise, and I’m conflicted with my need for perfection and control that is in direct conflict with my desire to be “real” on social media and in life.
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We loved sharing Episode 2 with you - our first ever live therapy session! We hope in this episode that people may understand that therapy is not just needed in times of crisis. It is never too late to pick up a topic to discuss with loved ones, or more preferably, a professional.
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What is your biggest regret so far? How are you processing it?
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Hi friends! Louise here introducing my first ever solo episode of Openhouse - a fresh, fun and real podcast that explores the amazing impact that therapy and human connection can have on all areas of our lives.
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⠀In this intro episode, I’m going to introduce you to who I am and tell you a little more about the journey I have been on throughout life so far.
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From childhood to adolescence, through university and into adulthood, this episode will give you some background context of my life and how I got to where I am today, as well as why I decided to start this podcast. From good and bad relationships, to career development, perfectionism, trauma, substance abuse and subsequent sobriety, this episode  is the first one in which I start to peel back the layers into who I am, and why I am this way.
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With 1 in 4 people being diagnosed with a mental health disorder in their lifetime, we need to pick up the pace on the mental health discussion and I want to help make a change by getting us talking.
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In Series 1 of Openhouse, Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver will guide me through a series of personal therapy sessions. Together, we plan to explore all aspects of my life and EVERYTHING is up for discussion!
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Dr Helene is a Clinical Psychologist who trained at Oxford University and Royal Holloway University of London - she is amazing - we are so excited to start this podcast and we hope you join us for the ride.
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We live in a society where so much is left unsaid and we so often suppress, avoid, and distract ourselves from the things that truly need our attention. Openhouse is here to foster open and honest communication along this journey we call life, whilst providing you with a space to self-reflect, learn and grow.
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Everyone is invited - and I’m so glad you turned up.
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If you love this podcast, be sure to subscribe and leave a 5 star review.
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Connect with Louise:
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📲 @iamlouiserumball
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Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
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Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY
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Openhouse - a fresh, fun and real podcast that explores the amazing impact that therapy and human connection can have on all areas of our lives. 
⠀
In Series 1 of Openhouse, Dr Helene Laurent-Oliver will guide me through a series of personal therapy sessions. Together, we plan to explore all aspects of my life and EVERYTHING is up for discussion!
⠀
Dr Helene is a Clinical Psychologist who trained at Oxford University and Royal Holloway University of London - she is amazing - we are so excited to start this podcast and we hope you join us for the ride.