Your Secret Is Safe With Me
By Dr. Marie Murphy
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Dr. Marie Murphy talks about infidelity and other challenging relationship situations from a non-judgmental perspective. She shares practical tools and advice from her own coaching practice to help you make changes in your love life, and interviews professionals with complementary expertise, such as family law attorneys, mediators, non-violent communication specialists, and more. In addition, Marie discusses the social and historical context of romantic relationships to provide perspective on our taken-for-granted assumptions about how relationships are supposed to be. To learn more, visit mariemurphyphd.com.
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219: Thriving After Infidelity: Michael's Story
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Oct 23, 2025 |
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218: Creating the Future vs. Predicting the Future
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Oct 09, 2025 |
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217: The Perils of Telling the Truth
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Sep 25, 2025 |
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216: When Your Affair Partner Breaks Your Heart
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Sep 11, 2025 |
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215: Secretly Dating While You're Married
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Aug 28, 2025 |
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214: What If You Make the "Wrong Decision" About Your Relationship(s)?
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Aug 14, 2025 |
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213: Beginnings and Endings
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Apr 10, 2025 |
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212: Choosing Between Two Good Things
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Mar 27, 2025 |
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211. Dealing With Your Personal Problems When the World Is on Fire
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Mar 13, 2025 |
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210. Sex Work and Infidelity Part 2
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Feb 27, 2025 |
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209. Astrology and Infidelity with Karen Hawkwood (Part 2)
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Feb 13, 2025 |
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208. Sex Work and Infidelity Part 1
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Jan 30, 2025 |
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207. Astrology and Infidelity with Karen Hawkwood
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Jan 16, 2025 |
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206. Where Do You Want to Be a Year from Now?
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Jan 02, 2025 |
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205. What Can You Give Yourself More Credit For?
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Dec 19, 2024 |
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204. The Challenges of Infidelity During the Holidays
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Dec 05, 2024 |
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203. Your Money or Your Freedom
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Nov 21, 2024 |
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202. Breaking Up with Your Affair Partner
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Nov 07, 2024 |
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201. High-Conflict Breakups
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Oct 24, 2024 |
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200. Nostalgia
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Oct 10, 2024 |
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199. You Are Worthy of Acceptance
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Sep 26, 2024 |
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198. What Do You Owe Your Ex-Affair Partner's Spouse?
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Sep 12, 2024 |
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197. Affairs with Old Lovers
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Aug 29, 2024 |
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196. What Are You Tolerating?
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Aug 15, 2024 |
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195. Affair Relationships Can Last a Lifetime
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Aug 01, 2024 |
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194. Dealing With Doubt
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Jul 18, 2024 |
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193. What Do You Owe a Relationship Before You Can Decide to Leave It?
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Jul 04, 2024 |
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192. When Will I Stop Fantasizing About My Ex-Affair Partner?
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Jun 20, 2024 |
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191. Are You Just Having a Midlife Crisis?
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Jun 06, 2024 |
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190. The Magic Button
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May 23, 2024 |
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189. Scandal, Disgrace, and Redemption
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May 09, 2024 |
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188. When Your Affair Partner Leaves You for the Wrong Reasons
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Apr 25, 2024 |
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187. It's Okay to Change Your Mind
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Apr 11, 2024 |
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186. Why I Do the Work I Do (Part 2)
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Mar 28, 2024 |
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185. Why I Do the Work I Do (Part 1)
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Mar 21, 2024 |
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184. The Point of Resolving Your Infidelity Situation (Part 2)
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Mar 14, 2024 |
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183. When Your Affair is Over, You May be Bored
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Mar 07, 2024 |
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182. Why Considering Non-Monogamy Might Not be Helpful
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Feb 29, 2024 |
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181. How to Tell Someone You've Cheated on Them
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Feb 22, 2024 |
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180. When Your Affair Partner Has an Agenda for You
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Feb 15, 2024 |
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179. How Long Should You Wait for Your Affair Partner to Leave Their Marriage?
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Feb 08, 2024 |
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178. When You Have an Agenda for Your Affair Partner
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Feb 01, 2024 |
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177. What It's Like to Work with Me
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Jan 25, 2024 |
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176. Fear
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Jan 18, 2024 |
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175. The Right Tools for the Job
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Jan 11, 2024 |
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174. Believing in Your Capacity to Change
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Jan 04, 2024 |
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173. The Easy Hard Paradox
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Dec 28, 2023 |
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172: Missing Your Affair Partner
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Dec 21, 2023 |
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171. The Extreme Highs and Lows of Infidelity
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Dec 14, 2023 |
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170. Planning to Break up with Someone After the Holidays
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Dec 07, 2023 |
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169. Integrating Your Affair Partner Into Your Family
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Nov 30, 2023 |
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168. The Gifts of Your Infidelity Situation
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Nov 23, 2023 |
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167. Starting Over After a Breakup
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Nov 16, 2023 |
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166. The Hell of Being Broken up With
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Nov 09, 2023 |
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165. Ultimatums
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Nov 02, 2023 |
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164. Cheating On Your Affair Partner
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Oct 26, 2023 |
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163. Approaches to a Breakup: Breadcrumbs vs Bombshells
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Oct 19, 2023 |
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162. Becoming More Decisive
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Oct 12, 2023 |
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161. How Do I Know if I'm Being Reckless?
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Oct 05, 2023 |
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160. Cheating On Your Fiancé
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Sep 28, 2023 |
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159. You Can't Eat the Whole Elephant at Once
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Sep 21, 2023 |
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158. Forgiving Yourself & Forgiving Others
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Sep 14, 2023 |
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157. You Might Be an Asshole
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Sep 07, 2023 |
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156. Nurturing a Long-Term Affair (Part 2)
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Aug 31, 2023 |
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155. Nurturing a Long-Term Affair (Part 1)
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Aug 24, 2023 |
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154. Being Your Own Steward
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Aug 17, 2023 |
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153. Your Questions Answered (Part 5)
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Aug 10, 2023 |
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152. Seeing Your Ex-Affair Partner in Social Settings
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Aug 03, 2023 |
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151. Your Questions Answered (Part 4)
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Jul 27, 2023 |
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150. Your Questions Answered (Part 3)
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Jul 20, 2023 |
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149. Your Questions Answered (Part 2)
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Jul 13, 2023 |
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148. Your Questions Answered (Part 1)
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Jul 06, 2023 |
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147. You Can't Shame Yourself into Changing
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Jun 29, 2023 |
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146. Loving Your Decisions
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Jun 22, 2023 |
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145. Don't Wait to Get Caught
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Jun 15, 2023 |
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144. Your One Wild and Precious Life
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Jun 08, 2023 |
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143. Treating Your Infidelity Situation as a Life Project
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Jun 01, 2023 |
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142. Trying to Get Back to the Way a Relationship Used to Be
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May 25, 2023 |
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141. Contentment That Isn't Dependent Upon a Relationship
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May 18, 2023 |
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140. Loneliness
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May 11, 2023 |
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139. Comparing Your Spouse to Your Affair Partner
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May 04, 2023 |
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138. Telling a New Partner About Your History with Infidelity
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Apr 27, 2023 |
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137. If You Don't Feel Guilty About Cheating
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Apr 20, 2023 |
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136. If You've Been Stuck in Your Infidelity Situation for a While
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Apr 13, 2023 |
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135. When Your Infidelity Situation is Brand New
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Apr 06, 2023 |
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134. Cheating in Open Relationships
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Mar 30, 2023 |
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133. Don't Make Your Partner Break Up with You
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Mar 23, 2023 |
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132. Stop Minimizing the Importance of Sex
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Mar 16, 2023 |
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131. Breaking Up with Someone You've Been Cheating On
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Mar 09, 2023 |
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130. Implicit Permission to Cheat
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Mar 02, 2023 |
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129. Cultivating Clarity and Certainty (Part 2)
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Feb 23, 2023 |
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128. Cultivating Clarity and Certainty
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Feb 16, 2023 |
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127. The Limits of Other People's Advice
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Feb 09, 2023 |
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126. Regret is Optional
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Feb 02, 2023 |
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125: Privately Grieving the End of an Affair
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Jan 26, 2023 |
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124: Dealing with Other People's Discomfort (Part 2)
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Jan 19, 2023 |
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123: Abundance vs. Scarcity of Love
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Jan 12, 2023 |
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122: Yes, People Can Be Total Jerks Sometimes
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Jan 05, 2023 |
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121: How Good Can You Stand It?
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Dec 29, 2022 |
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120: Managing Your Worries
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Dec 22, 2022 |
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119: Explaining How a Relationship Began
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Dec 15, 2022 |
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118: The Intimacy of a Breakup
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Dec 08, 2022 |
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117: Jealousy
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Dec 01, 2022 |
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116: Uniquely Difficult Situations in Life
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Nov 24, 2022 |
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115: From an Affair to a Non-Affair Relationship
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Nov 17, 2022 |
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114: Questioning Common Beliefs About Marriage
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Nov 10, 2022 |
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113. Wanting Something and Not Having It Yet
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Nov 03, 2022 |
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112. Being a Human Feels Terrible Sometimes
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Oct 27, 2022 |
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111. The Price of Convenience
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Oct 20, 2022 |
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110. What Do You Owe Someone You've Cheated On?
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Oct 13, 2022 |
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109. You Don't HAVE to Make a Decision
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Oct 06, 2022 |
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108. Why Do People Cheat?
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Sep 29, 2022 |
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107. Is Monogamy (Un)Natural?
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Sep 22, 2022 |
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106. Ask Yourself the Right Questions
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Sep 15, 2022 |
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105. It May Be Time to Chuck Your Checklist
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Sep 08, 2022 |
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104. The Courage to Make Changes and Choices
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Sep 01, 2022 |
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103. Dealing with a Vindictive Affair Partner
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Aug 25, 2022 |
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102. You Got Caught Cheating
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Aug 18, 2022 |
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101. What Physical Pain Teaches Us About Emotional Pain
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Aug 11, 2022 |
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100. The Point of Resolving Your Infidelity Situation
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Aug 04, 2022 |
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99. What Do You Expect Out of a Romantic Relationship?
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Jul 28, 2022 |
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98. Stop Telling Yourself These Three Things Right Now
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Jul 21, 2022 |
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97. Re-Engaging in a Relationship After an Affair, Part 2
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Jul 14, 2022 |
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96. When You Leave Your Marriage but Your Affair Partner Doesn't
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Jul 07, 2022 |
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95. Dealing With a Needy Affair Partner
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Jun 30, 2022 |
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94. Is It Cheating if Your Spouse Has Alzheimer's?
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Jun 23, 2022 |
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93. Allowing Yourself To Want What You Want
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Jun 16, 2022 |
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92. Holding Our Desires Lightly With Katy Dion
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Jun 09, 2022 |
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91. The Intensity of a New Affair
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Jun 02, 2022 |
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90. Should I Go to Couple's Therapy?
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May 26, 2022 |
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89. Does Having an Affair Doom Your Marriage to Failure?
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May 19, 2022 |
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88. When Bad Sh*t Happens
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May 12, 2022 |
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87. Relationships, Divorce, and Money With Jessie Susannah Karnatz
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May 05, 2022 |
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86. When your Affair Partner Ghosts You
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Apr 28, 2022 |
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85. Past vs. Future Focus
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Apr 21, 2022 |
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84. Making Plans for the Future With Your Affair Partner
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Apr 14, 2022 |
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83. Boundaries with Melissa Hite
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Apr 07, 2022 |
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82. How to Cheat and Keep Your Sanity Intact
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Mar 31, 2022 |
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81. Conflict and Compatibility
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Mar 24, 2022 |
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80. It's Not Your Partner's Job To Make You Happy
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Mar 17, 2022 |
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79. Being Honest With Yourself
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Mar 10, 2022 |
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78. Lying About Infidelity
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Mar 03, 2022 |
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77. Infidelity, Shame, and Perfectionism
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Feb 24, 2022 |
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76. Regret
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Feb 17, 2022 |
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75. Perfectionism and Relationships
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Feb 10, 2022 |
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74. Dealing With Guilt and Shame
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Feb 03, 2022 |
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73. What To Say When You Break Up With Someone
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Jan 27, 2022 |
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72. Preparing for a Breakup
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Jan 20, 2022 |
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71. When You Love Your Partner And You Still Want To Cheat
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Jan 13, 2022 |
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70. What Does It Mean To Be Selfish?
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Jan 06, 2022 |
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69. Making Changes In 2022
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Dec 30, 2021 |
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68. Infidelity and Death
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Dec 23, 2021 |
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67. Choosing To Leave A Good-Enough Marriage for Your Affair Partner
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Dec 16, 2021 |
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66. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Four: Dealing with Nostalgia and Confusion
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Dec 09, 2021 |
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65. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Three: Putting off Decisions
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Dec 02, 2021 |
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64. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part Two: Being the Other Person
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Nov 25, 2021 |
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63. Infidelity and the Holidays, Part One
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Nov 18, 2021 |
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62. Making Difficult Decisions
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Nov 11, 2021 |
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61. Sex, Unhappiness, and Compromises in Marriage
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Nov 04, 2021 |
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60. Dealing with Other People's Feelings
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Oct 28, 2021 |
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59. Is the Grass Always Greener?
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Oct 21, 2021 |
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58. Financial Fears, Divorce, and Infidelity
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Oct 14, 2021 |
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57. Re-Engaging in a Relationship After an Affair
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Oct 07, 2021 |
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56. Cutting off Contact With Your Affair Partner
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Sep 30, 2021 |
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55. Contemplating Leaving Your Marriage
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Sep 23, 2021 |
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54. Embracing Your Contradictions
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Sep 16, 2021 |
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53. Divorce and Your Relationship with Your Kids with Abigail Wald
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Sep 09, 2021 |
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52. Dealing with Other People's Opinions, Part Three
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Sep 02, 2021 |
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51. Dealing with Other People's Opinions, Part Two
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Aug 26, 2021 |
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50. The Joys and Sorrows of Adultery with Mona Lisa
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Aug 19, 2021 |
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49. In Defense of "New Relationship Energy"
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Aug 12, 2021 |
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48. Forgiving Yourself
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Aug 05, 2021 |
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47. Being the "Other Person," Part Three
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Jul 29, 2021 |
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46. Dealing With Other People's Opinions, Part One
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Jul 22, 2021 |
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45. Being the "Other Person," Part Two
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Jul 15, 2021 |
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44. Moving Beyond Blame with Karilyn Ivers
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Jul 08, 2021 |
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43. Being the "Other Person," Part One
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Jul 01, 2021 |
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42. The Mindset of Pleasure with Danielle Savory
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Jun 24, 2021 |
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41. Clarifying What You Want in a Relationship
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Jun 17, 2021 |
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40. Blow Your House Down with Gina Frangello
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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39. Healing from Heartbreak with Dorothy Johnson
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Jun 03, 2021 |
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38. Sexuality, Religion, and Shame with Melissa Hite
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May 27, 2021 |
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37. Discomfort, Drama, and Infidelity
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May 20, 2021 |
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36. Good Enough Sex with Dr. Barry McCarthy
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May 13, 2021 |
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35. Changes and Choices in Relationships with Yael Haklai-Neagu
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May 06, 2021 |
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34. Mindfulness, Music, and Relationships with Dr. Richard Gold
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Apr 29, 2021 |
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33. How to Deal with Missing Your Affair Partner
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Apr 22, 2021 |
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32. Money and Your Relationships with Christine Luken
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Apr 15, 2021 |
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31. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship with Susan Wenzel
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Apr 08, 2021 |
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30. Affair Recovery for Couples with Idit Sharoni
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Apr 01, 2021 |
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29. How to Have a Secret Affair
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Mar 25, 2021 |
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28. When You're the One Who Cheats with Dr. Tammy Nelson
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Mar 18, 2021 |
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27. Recovering from Trauma in Relationships with Altagracia M. Felix
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Mar 11, 2021 |
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26. Having an Affair to Save a Marriage
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Mar 04, 2021 |
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25. Financial Infidelity with Adam Kol
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Feb 25, 2021 |
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24. All About Ashley Madison with Isabella Mise
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Feb 18, 2021 |
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23. Deciding to End a Commitment
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Feb 11, 2021 |
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22. The Beauty of Conflict for Couples with CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke
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Feb 04, 2021 |
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21. Shameless Sex with Amy Baldwin
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Jan 28, 2021 |
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20. If You've Cheated on Your Partner, Do You Have to Tell Them?
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Jan 21, 2021 |
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19. Divorce and Your Money with Shawn Leamon
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Jan 14, 2021 |
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18. Talking to Your Kids About Infidelity
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Jan 07, 2021 |
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17. New Year's Resolutions with Dr. Jonathan Horowitz
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Dec 31, 2020 |
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16. How to Have Difficult Conversations with Your Kids with Abigail Wald
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Dec 24, 2020 |
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15. Relationships and the Tarot with Courtney Moore
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Dec 17, 2020 |
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14. So You Were Cheated On—Now What?
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Dec 10, 2020 |
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13. A Private Investigator's Perspective on Infidelity with Art Tilis
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Dec 03, 2020 |
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12. Legal Implications of Infidelity with Rodrigo Dias
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Nov 26, 2020 |
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11. Personal Stories of Infidelity with Suzannah Weiss
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Nov 19, 2020 |
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10. Polyamory with Magenta Brooks
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Nov 12, 2020 |
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9. Debunking Myths About Infidelity
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Nov 05, 2020 |
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8. So You're Having an Affair—Now What?
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Oct 29, 2020 |
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7. Nonviolent Communication with Joyce Swaving
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Oct 22, 2020 |
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6. Historical Perspectives on Marriage with Dr. Devon Smith
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Oct 15, 2020 |
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5. Decision-Making and Your Power to Choose
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Oct 08, 2020 |
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4. Safe Sex Basics with Lisa Bayani
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Oct 01, 2020 |
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3. Emotions, Relationships, and the Body
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Sep 24, 2020 |
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2. Emotions 101
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Sep 24, 2020 |
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1. An Introduction to the New Podcast
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Sep 10, 2020 |