Gay Men Going Deeper

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Welcome to Gay Men Going Deeper, a podcast about personal development, sexuality, and mental health. Brought to you by the Gay Men’s Brotherhood and hosted by Calan Breckon, Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio. Visit us at www.GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the show on Patreon: www.patreon.com/GayMenGoingDeeper

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Ego
01:03:43

One of the greatest obstacles along the spiritual path is an overactive ego - that fear-based part of you that needs to control outcomes and win at all costs. 

But having an ego is necessary to the human experience, so how can we reconcile both the ego self and spiritual self? 

In this episode, we’re explaining how understanding your ego can actually benefit your spiritual practice. We’re answering questions such as:

  • How do you distinguish between your ego self and spiritual self?
  • How do you regulate your ego?
  • How can you develop a greater connection to the Spiritual Self?

Join us for this thought-provoking episode as we go deeper into the concepts of spirit and ego.

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Jun 30, 2022
Navigating Non-Binary
00:45:08

Change can be scary. And in today’s world of ever-evolving language around gender and identity, it can make it hard for someone to ask questions without feeling judged or misunderstood.

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon opens up the conversation around navigating non-binary with genderqueer author Jason June and what his journey was like and how it now informs his work as a writer.

Together they explore questions like…

  • What is Non-Binary and what does it mean to be non-binary?
  • What’s the most important thing people need to know about Non-binary and genderqueer people?
  • Why do you think we’re experiencing more of a conversation around gender and gender identities in recent years?
  • and much more!

After this episode, you'll have a better understanding of the term Non-Binary and how you can navigate this ever-evolving and growing landscape around gender and identity.

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About today’s Guest: Jason June (it's a two-name first name, like Mary-Kate without the hyphen or the Olsen twin) is a genderqueer writer mermaid who loves to create picture books that mix the flamboyantly whacky with the slightly dark, and young adult contemporary rom-coms full of love and lust and hijinks.

When not writing, JJ zips about Austin, Texas. He loves dinosaurs, unicorns, Pomeranians, and anything magical that takes you to a different world or time. JJ is a tried and true Laura Dern stan, and he is actively looking for an Andalite friend.

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Jun 23, 2022
Spirituality
01:02:51

Spirituality is an umbrella term that means many different things to many people. In this episode, we’re revealing our own experience with spirituality and spiritual practices by exploring these questions: 

  • What does spirituality mean to you?
  • What in your life brought you to spirituality?
  • What does your spiritual practice involve?
  • Where can someone start if they want to develop a spiritual practice?

Whether you’re spiritual or religious or neither, this episode will give you much to think about when it comes to nurturing that deeper connection to something greater.

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Jun 16, 2022
Guilt, Shame, and Religion
01:08:43

Guilt and shame are two of the most challenging emotions we encounter. For those who grew up with a religious or spiritual belief system, guilt and shame can have a uniquely traumatic impact on your sense of self and in your relationships.

In this episode, host Michael DiIorio speaks with inter-faith community leader, Jeremy Russo, who has used his experience with spiritual abuse to become a leader in the queer community helping others overcoming their own spiritual and religious trauma.

In this episode we cover:

  1. The similarities and differences between guilt and shame
  2. What is spiritual abuse and religious trauma
  3. The unique impact this has on queer people
  4. Resources and tips to help along your healing journey

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, this episode will help you better understand and navigate your way through guilt and shame.

TODAY'S GUEST: Jeremy Russo of Emerge, an inter-faith and ecumenical space for the “nones and dones,” LGBTQIA+ people, women, people of color, individuals with different abilities, ex-vangelicals, and anyone who feels like their voice and spiritual journey was discouraged or silenced by institutional churches.

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Jun 09, 2022
Toxic Positivity
00:55:15

Toxic positivity is the belief that people should maintain a positive mindset, no matter how challenging a situation may be.  This belief invalidates your authentic emotions and is a form of avoidance. 

In this episode, we're sharing our own experiences and understanding of toxic positivity and we'll answer the questions:

  • What are your thoughts on toxic positivity and the effects it has on silencing negative emotions and experiences?
  • What’s been your experience with pushing away negative emotions and how did it affect your mental health?
  • How have you learned to embrace all of your emotions and honour them in healthy ways?
  • What tips or practices can someone try if they’re just learning to engage with their negative emotions?

By the end of this episode, you'll have a deeper understanding of how toxic positivity may be showing up in your own life, and what you can do about it.

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Jun 02, 2022
Embracing Opposites
01:18:18

Have you ever found yourself conflicted about being top, bottom or vers?

Or maybe you find yourself torn between whether or not you want monogamy or non-monogamy...

Sometimes we can see pros and cons on both sides of our inner conflicts and it paralyzes us from making decisions.

Being conflicted about your desires is completely normal.

In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Miguel Ezra Ramirez talk about polarity in life and how to navigate contradictions, preferences and the duality of the human experience.

As human beings, we can’t have sadness without knowing happiness, and we can’t understand clarity without first knowing confusion - this is polarity. We are all navigating ourselves and this world through our minds and our souls, and the polarity of this experience can be overwhelming for some people.

We created this episode to guide you towards embracing more of who you are and what this universe has to offer you through learning to let go of preferences or attachments and embrace opposites. Come on this ride with us and you might learn something new about yourself. 

Together they explore concepts like:

  • What is dualism and polarity?
  • Matt and Miguel's personal experiences with dualism and polarity
  • How holding on too tightly to preferences might be inhibiting your growth
  • How fear prevents us from being able to embrace opposites
  • How can someone begin to embrace opposites?

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May 26, 2022
Emotional Health
01:04:11

While emotional health falls under the overall umbrella of mental health, it deserves its own conversation because your emotions have a profound impact on how you show up in the world and your overall quality of life.

This episode will answer questions such as:

  1. What does it mean to be emotionally healthy?
  2. How can you tell when your emotional health may be suffering?
  3. How do you handle challenging emotions?
  4. What are some simple things you can do to support your emotional health?

By the end of this episode, you'll be equipped with loads of useful tips and skills that will support your emotional health.

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May 19, 2022
Depression
00:59:29

Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the United States that affects an estimated 17.3 million adults and 3.2 million adolescents according to the National Institute of Mental Health.

Research shows that gay and bisexual men are at a higher risk for: Major depression, Bipolar disorder, and, Generalized anxiety disorder, and are more likely than heterosexual men to attempt suicide.

In today's episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks the heaviness around depression with guest and therapist, Jacob Monkarsh (LMFT & CGP).

Together they explore questions like:

  1. What is depression and how does it affect a person?
  2. Is it possible for someone to be depressed without knowing it? What are the signs and symptoms someone should be aware of?
  3. What are the biggest triggers for gay men struggling with depression?
  4. How can someone currently struggling with depression work to get out of the cycle?
  5. How can people best support someone struggling with depression?

During the episode, Jacob asked a very important question concerning gay men and our childhood experiences: "What happens when someone can't connect with themself?" and as children, we often can't connect with ourselves fully once we realize something is "different" about us and we begin hiding who we truly are, but is that creating disassociation within us and our community?

Listen to his answer and more in today's episode.

Guest: Jacob Monkarsh

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May 12, 2022
Suicide
01:13:12

Each year, over 800,000 people die from suicide and it is the 2nd leading cause of death among 10-24 year olds.

The LGBTQ community has a significantly increased risk and that’s why we’re dedicating an episode to having a candid conversation about suicide.

In this episode, we’ll answer questions such as:

  1. How have you been impacted by suicide?
  2. What are some of the stigmas around suicide?
  3. What is your advice to someone who is feeling suicidal?
  4. As a community, how can we best support someone who is suicidal?

If you are feeling suicidal please reach out for support: 

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May 05, 2022
Mirroring In The Gay Community
00:55:53

Your environment plays an important role in developing a strong identity and sense of self. Everything from the people you spend time with, where you get your news, and the social media accounts you follow will influence your sense of belonging in a community.

In this episode, LGBTQ+ affirmative psychotherapist Justin Oberste joins host, Michael DiIorio to discuss mirroring: how we reflect back our lived experience with the world around us. Today’s episode will answer these questions:

  1. What is mirroring?
  2. How can this strengthen our sense of self?
  3. How does this impact our relationships?
  4. How can we use this to elevate the gay community as a whole?

By the end of this episode, you’ll understand how developing a more conscious approach to your environmental influences can have a positive impact on your sense of self, relationships with others, and the greater community.

For more info on today's guest, Justin Oberste, visit his website or find him on instagram @justinoberste.

Today's host: Michael DiIorio

Michael's Instagram: @wellismo_coach

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Apr 28, 2022
Building Better Relationships
00:52:22

Relationships can be a minefield to navigate when you don't have the right tools or language to help you. Whether it's romantic or platonic ones, we all could use a little more guidance and support with it comes to creating more secure, healthy relationships.

In this episode, we're giving you a sneak peek into our exciting new course, Building Better Relationships, where we guide you on how to build better relationships in your life as well as deepen the one you have with yourself.

Today we're sharing our personal experiences with the course content and how it helped us improve our own relationships. Join us as we discuss…

  1. Which of the course modules we have experienced the most growth personally?
  2. Which lessons are we currently working on now in our own lives?
  3. What was our favourite lesson to teach?
  4. What are the biggest benefits for students going through the Building Better Relationships course?

By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of what all relationships need in order to grow and deepen as well as our outline for the Building Better Relationships course.

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Then Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community and sign up for the group cohort with Michael on the membership hub main page by May 4th!!

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With membership, you'll also get access to our Healing Your Shame course, monthly group Zoom's, our private members-only Facebook group as well as 35+ coaching videos ready and waiting for you to dive in!

Or, take our "Building Better Relationships" course at your own pace with our self-study option here: "Building Better Relationships" course (self-study)

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Apr 21, 2022
Fitness, Nutrition & Mental Health
00:46:17

In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel speaks with Nutrition Coach Scott Weisgarber about the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health.

Together they explore questions like:

  • What is the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health?
  • How come gay men are so concerned about physical health and appearance?
  • How does this obsession with appearance impact mental health?
  • The difference between approaching health from feel good vs look good mentality
  • How can we find more balance in our relationship between mind and body?

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Apr 14, 2022
Intimacy
00:54:04

Intimacy is defined as the feeling of mutual vulnerability and closeness in personal relationships. 

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our unique experiences with intimacy as gay men.

We’ll answer questions such as:

  • What does intimacy mean to you?
  • What was an intimate experience you’ve had that was not sexual? 
  • What unique challenges do gay men face when it comes to intimacy?
  • How can you nurture intimacy in any kind of relationship? 

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a more in-depth understanding of the different types of intimacy and what it takes to enjoy deeper and more authentic connections with friends and loved ones.

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Apr 07, 2022
Grappling with Grief: Addison Brasil
01:14:27

Grief can be a hard experience to navigate because nothing can really prepare you for deep and emotional loss. It's something that everyone will have to experience at least a few times in their life and each person's experience with it is going to be different.

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon is joined by special guest Addison Brasil to talk about his journey with grief after the lose his brother to cancer, find his father from suicide and survive a fatal event that killed a dear friend and left him needing to relearn how to walk and deal with a brain injury. After 13 years in the grief arena, Addison has learned a thing or two about grief and shares what has helped him in his new book "First Year Of Grief Club: A Gift From A Friend Who Gets It."

By the end of this episode, you should have at least a few more tools in your belt that can help you navigate grief whenever it might come up in your life.

Guest: Addison Brasil

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Mar 31, 2022
Secure Relationships
01:08:55

Relationships have a natural rhythm between feeling connected to your partner, and other times feeling disconnected from them. Each end of the spectrum can trigger different fears: the fear of being too close and/or the fear of abandonment. Understanding attachment styles helps you see how these fears show up in your relationships.

In this episode, we're exploring our attachment styles and sharing ways we can find a greater sense of security in the naturals ebbs and flows of connection in relationships.

We're answering questions such as:

  • What attachment style(s) do you most relate to and why?
  • What has prevented you from having secure relationships in the past?
  • What does a secure relationship look like for you?
  • What inner work have you done to have a more secure relationship style?

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Mar 24, 2022
Love, Intimacy & Connection: Vol. 2
00:48:26

In this juicy and personal episode, Michael is letting you take a behind-the-scenes peek into his relationship with his partner, Star.

While vacationing in Mexico, they are opening up about the lessons learned after one year together. Specifically, they're talking about relationship dynamics including conflict, intimacy, and communication. 

They'll be answering questions such as:

  • How have they grown over the last year?
  • What have been their biggest challenges?
  • How do they handle conflict? 
  • What are some communication do's and don'ts? 

This intimate and honest conversation between partners is full of tips and advice for couples and singles alike. 

Referenced in today's show- Episode 20: Love, Intimacy, & Connection (behind the scenes of a modern gay relationship)

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Mar 17, 2022
Heartbreak & Breakups
01:05:39

The painful sting of heartbreak is a uniquely awful experience that brings up a lot of our wounds around abandonment and rejection. In today's episode, we're getting raw and real about our heartbreak and breakups.

We'll be answering questions such as:

  • What was your hardest breakup and why?
  • What do you need when you go through a breakup and how do you usually manage it?
  • What have been some of the biggest life lessons you’ve learned through heartbreak?
  • Looking back, what are you grateful for about your past dating experiences?

Listen to this personal and poignant episode to learn how heartbreak can be a valuable part of your personal growth and development.

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Mar 10, 2022
The Sensitive Gay Man
01:09:08

Sensitivity is one of the most misunderstood temperament traits due to toxic gender norms and stereotypes about masculinity and femininity. Come learn about the science of sensitivity and ditch the stigma you may have inherited about what it means to be a sensitive gay man.

In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel unpacks all you need to know about sensitivity with Clinical Psychologist Dr. Chris Horan.

Together they explore questions like:

  • What does it mean to be sensitive? (the science and the stigma)
  • What is a Highly Sensitive Person?
  • Our sensitivity stories
  • Unique challenges of being a sensitive man
  • Why do gay men and HSP have such similar struggles?
  • Challenges we face as sensitive people
  • Benefits of being a sensitive person

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Mar 03, 2022
Forgiveness
00:56:18

Forgiveness is a necessary part of the healing process. When we are able to truly forgive others, we liberate ourselves from the pain of the experience so we can find peace and move on. But forgiveness isn't always easy

In this episode, we're here to help you out by answering questions such as:

  • Do you find it harder to forgive or to apologize?
  • Can you truly ‘forgive and forget’?
  • How can you tell if an apology is sincere?
  • What advice do you have for people who have a hard time with forgiveness?

Whether you're asking forgiveness or forgiving others, join us to learn how you can heal these emotional wounds and find peace within.

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Feb 24, 2022
Therapy
00:54:45

Therapy is crucial for our mental health, yet some people still look at it as unobtainable due to financial struggle. There are also still myths around Therapy that say you’re weak if you need to go, you’re less of a man if you want to talk about your emotions, and that Therapy is only for “other people who are broken.”

In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks all you need to know about Therapy with licensed marriage and family Therapist, Jake Myers, who’s also founder and CEO of LGBTQ Therapy Space and writes a regular column for Queerty.com.

Together they explore questions like:

  1. Why is it important LGBTQ+ peoples have access to specialize therapists from the community?
  2. What are some of the old myths about therapy that just aren’t true?
  3. How long does someone usually go to therapy?
  4. Where can someone find funding or support if they don’t have the means right now to cover the costs of Therapy?

By the end of this episode, you’ll have broken down the myths about Therapy and you’ll have the knowledge on how to start (or continue) your own Therapy journey.

Guest: Jake Myers

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Feb 17, 2022
Victimhood
01:14:17

Whether we're aware of it or not, we all have an inner victim within us that needs to be acknowledged. Processing this can be uncomfortable and triggering, but it is necessary in order to grow and evolve beyond it.

In this episode, we're talking about victimhood both at the macro level as queer people, right down to the micro level as individuals. We are answering questions such as:

  • How have we been victimized as gay men?
  • What impact do you see in our community from this victimization?
  • What is your personal experience with victimhood? 
  • How have you moved through victimhood? 
  • What advice can you offer people who may be stuck in victimhood?

By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of how victimhood is showing up in your life and how you can take the first steps to move through it.

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Feb 10, 2022
Betting on Yourself
00:53:00

Your life is a series of choices. Sometimes those choices will ask you to bet on yourself - to pursue what you love, even if there is an emotional risk in doing so. When you bet on yourself, you awaken a world of possibility. When you bet against yourself, you always lose. 

In this episode of, Michael is joined by Alex Ray as they talk about what it means to bet on yourself and why doing so can help you get unstuck and feeling more enthusiastic about your life. 

Today's Guest: Alex Ray

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Feb 03, 2022
Tips for Motivation
00:58:39

We all have those days when motivation is hard to come by. Whether you’re lacking time, energy, or inspiration, this episode will give you the useful tips you need to get and stay motivated. We answer questions like:

  • What helps you get motivated?
  • What are your biggest motivation distractors and how do you avoid them?
  • What keeps you on track with your goals and deadlines?

By the end of the episode, you’ll be ready to slay your goals and start taking action towards them.

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Jan 27, 2022
Discovering Authenticity Through Embodiment
01:01:58

In this episode Matt speaks with Gay Olympian, Kung Fu Master, QTBIPOC Counselor and Shaman Devante Love. They talk about how to heal and discover your most authentic self through connecting with the body. Here are the questions explored in this episode:

►What does authenticity mean to you? 

►What does embodiment mean to you?

►What is the connection between the body, our thoughts, our emotions?

►Why is it important for gay men in the 21st century especially to engage in embodiment practices?

►Forces that exist in society that have/can cause us to become disembodied: Capitalism, technology, colonialism, religion

►How do we become more embodied?

►Importance of developing a lexicon for bodily sensations

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Jan 20, 2022
Personal Transformation
00:50:20

Personal transformation can be fun when it comes to setting goals and imagining the possibilities of the future, but things get tricky when it comes time to execute these plans.

In this episode, we are going deeper on the topic of personal transformation. We’ll be exploring questions like:

  1. What does ‘personal transformation’ mean and why is it important?
  2. What is the most challenging part of changing yourself?
  3. What is the best advice for anyone who is serious about personal transformation?

By the end of this episode, you’ll have the inside scoop on how to make your personal transformation last.

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Jan 13, 2022
Dating & Disabilities
00:45:50

Dating is already a minefield to the everyday gay, add living with a disability to the mix and things get even more complicated. In today's episode host Calan Breckon explores the DO's and DON'Ts around dating and disabilities in the gay community. He's joined by special guests David Oliver Wudel and Ryan Michael Williams who both live with different levels of cerebral palsy.

In this episode, we're unpacking questions like:

  • What is acceptable vocabulary and what is no longer acceptable?
  • What’s the biggest struggle about being a gay man with a disability?
  • How can someone ask questions without coming across as an ignorant ass?
  • and what's the most important thing the community needs to know when it comes to our gay brothers living with a disability?

At the end of the day, we're all just looking for the same thing: love and acceptance.

David Oliver Wudel: 6wheelco.com / @6wheelco

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Jan 06, 2022
Emotional Intelligence
00:57:52

Emotions can cause a lot of unnecessary suffering when we are not equipped with the tools to manage them. In this episode, we are exploring what it means to have emotional intelligence: the idea of knowing our feelings, what they mean, and how they affect others.

Listen in as we share:

  • How we describe our relationship with our emotions
  • How we avoid our emotions
  • What situations bring up a lot of emotions for us
  • Our greatest learning about emotions

By the end of this episode, you'll realize that you have far more influence over your emotional well being than you give yourself credit for.

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Dec 30, 2021
Sex Positivity
00:55:33

Your sexuality is yours, and how you express it is the fun of life. But for so many of us, sex is wrapped up in shame. In this episode, Michael has a candid conversation with special guest, Mike Iamele, about sex positivity and sexual confidence. Together, they explore:

  • What is sex positivity?
  • The link between shame and sexual desire
  • How to be more sexually confident

Michael also volunteers to have his sensitivities mapped to illustrate how your sensitivities and desires are linked. By the end of this episode, you'll feel more empowered to be authentically you- both in and out of the bedroom.  

Mike Iamele: mikeiamele.com/map / @mikeiamele

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Dec 23, 2021
Dating Apps
01:03:03

Dating apps are one of the most common ways we connect with other gay men. Yet many people struggle to make the connections they seek, and many more give up altogether... at least for a little while.

In this episode, we're sharing many years of combined experience with using dating apps, specifically:

  • What are some best practices and a rule of thumb when using dating apps?
  • How can someone find success using dating apps?
  • What's the biggest mistake people make on dating apps?
  • What’s the # 1 thing people don’t include on their profiles that they should include?

Whether you love them or hate them, by the end of this episode you'll have some fresh perspectives and ideas to use next time you reach for the app.

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Dec 16, 2021
Sex and Porn Addiction
00:41:16

In this episode Matt interviews Psychotherapist and Clinical Sexologist, Dr. Joe Kort about Sex and Porn Addiction. Dr. Kort shares his 36 years of clinical experience working with sex addiction and compulsive sexual behaviors. In this episode we unpacked the following questions:

  • How do you define addiction?
  • What is the difference between compulsion and addiction?
  • How come you stopped labeling it sex addiction and now refer to compulsivity instead?
  • Why do gay men tend to struggle with sex and porn compulsivity? 
  • What are your thoughts on gay men and intimacy disorders?
  • How does sex and porn compulsions impact one’s ability to develop intimacy? 
  • What is a common course of treatment you would used to treat sex and porn compulsions?
  • What is one thing someone struggling with sex and porn compulsions can do to support themselves? 

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Dec 09, 2021
Fake vs. Real Confidence
01:05:30

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Self-confidence looks like a lot of different things, depending on who you ask. In this episode, we're shedding some light on the difference between fake confidence and real confidence. We'll be looking at:

  1. What does it mean to be truly self-confident?
  2. How do you tell the difference between fake confidence and real confidence?
  3. What are some unique challenges gay men face with respect to building confidence?
  4. What are some habits that help develop greater self-confidence?

By the end of this episode, you'll be feeling inspired and empowered to be more authentically you.

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Dec 02, 2021
Never Been In Love
00:53:58

About today's show

Have you ever seen that movie "Never Been Kissed" with Drew Barrymore? Well, today is kind of the adult gay man version of that story...only with love.

I'm sure many gay men out there can relate to Tyler Boyle's story of being a 30' something gay man who still has yet to fall in love. After being a late bloomer Tyler found himself navigating a very different dating world compared to his heteronormative past life. Along his journey, he figured out 4 key things to help him navigate this new gay world and to hopefully, one day, find love.

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www.tylercboyle.com / www.dreamwalkersmeditations.com

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Nov 25, 2021
Personal and Relational Boundaries
00:56:51

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Personal and Relational Boundaries are easy to talk about but can be challenging to implement. In this episode, we're sharing how setting and honouring boundaries is an act of self-care and ultimately helps increase your sense of self-love. These are the questions we'll be discussing:

  • What do boundaries mean to you?
  • What are some things you practice setting boundaries for?
  • How do you know when you need to set a boundary?
  • What are some fears that come up for you when setting boundaries?

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Nov 18, 2021
Queer & Christian
01:02:56

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While homosexuality and Christianity are often incompatible, there are many people who must navigate both. In this episode, Michael hosts a panel discussion with 3 queer men who grew up in the Christian faith. They are sharing their experiences in the church including how they came to terms with their sexuality. 

Even if you don’t consider yourself religious or spiritual, their stories will inspire you and illustrate that despite our differences, we have more in common than you think.   

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  • Matthew Wood @mosesmihyke / moses74656@gmail.com
  • Jherrel Peters @musiqchild007 / jherrelpeters007@gmail.com
  • Justin Oberste @justinoberste / justin@justinoberste.com

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  • Michael DiIorio @wellismo_coach / michael@wellismo.com

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Nov 11, 2021
Getting Your Needs Met
00:58:54

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We all have needs that, when met, allow us to live more authentically and enjoy more fulfilling relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode, we're talking about getting these needs met and will unpack questions such as:

  • What self-care practices do you have in place to ensure you are meeting your personal needs?
  • How do you know when you’re out of alignment with your needs and no longer being authentic?
  • What tips and advice do you have that have helped you along the way to figuring out how to meet your own needs?

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Nov 04, 2021
Self-Love
01:02:35

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Come spend the hour with Matt Landsiedel and Jerome Braggs to learn more about self-love. Jerome Braggs is a highly-gifted Intuitive Empath, Inspirational Speaker, Writer + Poet, and Psychopomp. He shares so eloquently with the listeners how he moved closer to wholeness and love for himself by healing shame. Jerome also shares his powerful story of a near-death experience that completely transformed him. He identifies this as being pivotal to learning what the essence of love is and how to access it more freely.

Some of the questions we're answering are:

  • What is self love?
  • What is the difference between self love and self worth?
  • How come gay men seem to struggle so much with self love and self worth?
  • What gets in the way of us loving ourselves?
  • What are some things we can do to develop more self love?
  • By the end of this episode, you'll be feeling a little more connected to love and have new wisdom and tools to develop more self-love.

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Oct 28, 2021
Everyday Courage
00:57:52

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We are all courageous if you look closely enough. On today's episode, we're talking about Everyday Courage- those small, simple acts of courage that we all experience, yet often overlook.

Some of the questions we're answering are:

  • What does it mean to be courageous?
  • What gives us courage? (and takes it away)
  • How can you show courage in your everyday life?
  • By the end of this episode, you'll be feeling a little more courageous in your own life to be able to face your fears and take steps towards greater empowerment and self-expression.

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Oct 21, 2021
Why LGBTQ+ Representation in Literature is Important with Author Robbie Couch
00:50:23

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Queer representation in stories and literature is starting to make its way into the mainstream market and big publishing houses. It's still a long road before we see LGBTQ+ books being promoted by big publishing houses as the new norm but with the help of today's guest, we're on track to getting there!

On today's show, Calan has a sit-down with author Robbie Couch to talk about why queer representation is so important in literature and how he managed to find success going the traditional publishing house route with Simon & Schuster.

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Books and Authors mentioned in today's episode:

SoulBound/Metahuman by Hailey Turner, The Magpie Lord by KJ Charles, Forsaken Fae by R.A. Steffan, Widdershins by Jordan L. Hawk, Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz, Running with Lions by Julian Winters, Jay's Gay Agenda by Jason June, You Should See Me in a Crown by Leah Johnson, Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli, Adam Silvera.

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Oct 14, 2021

Normalizing Fear
0:59:18

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Fear is a natural human emotion that is often misunderstood. In this episode, we're sharing our personal experiences with fear and giving some tangible tips on dealing with fear in your own life so that you can release the suffering that it often brings. We'll answer questions like:

1. How do you experience fear?

2. What are some things you're afraid of?

3. What are some strategies you use to overcome fear?

This episode will show you that you're not alone in your fear and in fact, it may just be the perfect opportunity for the next step of your personal development.

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Oct 07, 2021
Your Questions Answered on Non-Monogamous Relationships
00:59:02

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In this episode, Michael welcomes back special guest, Craig Cassey, to answer your questions about gay relationships, sex, and monogamy. Our episode on Non-Monogamous Relationships generated quite a bit of discussion, so today we are responding back to some of your juiciest comments and questions, such as:

  • How do I make a long-term relationship work?
  • How do I bring up the topic of openness with my partner?
  • How do I work through guilt and jealousy?

Join us for yet another candid discussion that will help you build stronger relationships with others and with yourself. Craig Cassey is a professional life, executive, and sex coach. You can find Craig at www.craigcassey.com or on Instagram at @craigcasseyjr

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Sep 30, 2021
FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)
00:55:23

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The Fear of Missing Out (a.k.a FOMO) tells us that if we could just be somewhere else, do something else, or be with someone else, we would be "better." All it really does though is take us out of the present moment and creates unnecessary anxiety. In this episode, we'll answer these questions:

1. What sparks FOMO in you?

2. Where do you think FOMO really comes from?

3. What can we do to alleviate and work through our FOMO?

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Sep 23, 2021
Transforming Limiting Beliefs
00:56:16

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In this episode, Matt speaks with Holistic Practitioner, Andrew Rowe about transforming limiting beliefs. Andrew and Matt share their best spiritual and psychological wisdom on how to shed those beliefs that are no longer serving us. Limiting beliefs tend to be the culprits that are preventing us from becoming our most authentic and confident selves. Time to learn how to let them go.

Here is what you can expect to learn from the episode:

●      What are beliefs?

●      How are limited beliefs formed?

●      How do limiting beliefs show up in our lives?

●      How do you transform-limited beliefs?

●      What are common beliefs you help gay men transform?

●      What can our listeners do to start to make this transformation to their limiting beliefs?

You can connect with Andrew on Instagram at @andrewrowe111

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Sep 16, 2021
Self-Acceptance
00:57:02

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We all want things for ourselves and our lives: more confidence, more love, more connection. But we can't get to more if we don't begin by accepting exactly where we are in the present, flaws and all. Join us on this episode as we unpack these questions:

1. What does it mean to accept yourself?

2. What are the practical benefits of self-acceptance?

3. How can you develop greater self-acceptance?

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Sep 09, 2021
Coming Out Later in Life
01:01:12

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Not all of us had the luxury of being able to come out at a young age and enjoyed the benefits of long fought for rights. There are many men around the world who still have to live in the closet due to fear of safety and many other reasons.

Today Calan hosts an open discussion with 3 amazing men who all came out later in life. Each one of them has a unique experience to offer through their own coming-out story. You can come out at 40, 50, 60, at any age really, and still have an amazing and fulfilling life living authentically true to who you are.

Thank you, Ron, DJ and Phil for sharing your stories of finding light at the end of the tunnel. If you think it’s too late for you, think again! It’s never too late <3

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Sep 02, 2021
People Pleasing
00:52:34

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What is 'people pleasing' and how is it different from simply wanting to be nice to others? In this episode, we're diving into this very common pattern that tends to have a unique flavour for gay men. We'll answer questions such as:

- how has people pleasing impacted your life?

- why do gay men start people pleasing in the first place?

- how can you start to overcome people pleasing?

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Aug 26, 2021
Non-Monogamous Relationships
01:04:24

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There is a cultural shift occurring where more people are questioning whether traditional monogamy is right for them.

In this episode, Michael has a candid and informative conversation with professional life & sex coach, Craig Cassey about alternative relationship structures.

From monogamy to polyamory and everything in between, this illuminating episode answers questions such as

What are different relationship structures and what do they look like?

How do you know what’s right for you?

How do you find people who want what you want?

How do you communicate this sensitive topic with your partner or potential partners?

Craig Cassey is a professional life, executive, and sex coach. You can find Craig at www.craigcassey.com or on Instagram @craigcasseyjr

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Aug 19, 2021
Finding Your Inner Circle
00:54:49

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Your inner circle are the people who you can count on to ride life's highs and support you through the lows. They can help us foster greater trust, intimacy, and vulnerability. On today's episode, we're sharing who is in our inner circle, why they are important, and what you can do to find and connect with these people in your own life.

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Aug 12, 2021
Sexual Consent with Court Vox
01:03:14

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In this episode, Matt speaks with Sex and Intimacy Consultant Court Vox about sexual consent. The term “consent” is becoming a lot more common in the gay community as men learn to honour and value their need for safety within their sexual and intimate relationships. Come spend an hour with Matt and Court as they unpack the following questions:

-What is consent?

-Implied consent vs actual consent?

-Why do many gay men struggle with consent?

-How does the hyper-sexualized culture of the gay community impact consent?

-How are gay men influenced by the heteronormative culture around consent?

-How do drugs and alcohol influence consent?

-How to properly ask for and give consent?

-How to create a culture of consent in the gay community?

Court Vox is a Sex and Intimacy Consultant, Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate. He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, and the Founder of The Body Vox.  He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship/s seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives.  When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years.  Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well-known sex educators who seek him out when they are wanting a professional to work with. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women,  Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe.

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Aug 05, 2021
Inside Out
00:52:58

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We tend to rely on external things in our lives to make us feel good, but the truth is that our power is actually within us at all times. In this episode, we're going deep within to understand how things like internal conditioning and beliefs impact our experience of the world around us. We'll also speak about the difference between external validation vs. intrinsic self-worth and how to find greater alignment with your true self.

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Jul 29, 2021
Exploring the Feminine with Chris Oh!
00:50:26

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Life likes to box us in a lot of the time. If you don’t fit into a nice and tidy box with a bow on the top then how are people suppose to judge you accordingly? Androgyny, Boylesque, drag queens, non-binary, it can all be a grey zone at times.

In today’s episode, Calan and special guest Christopher Olwage a.k.a. “Chris Oh!” have a dynamic conversation about exploring the feminine as well as all aspects of ourselves through self-expression. The former Mr. Gay World 2013 has an open and honest conversation about his journey to becoming one of the most sought-after Burlesque performers in the world. From his childhood obesity and suicide attempts to learning to love himself and embracing his gender-bending ways, Chris shares his journey with love, laughter and hope to inspire others to break out of their metaphorical boxes.

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Jul 22, 2021
Internalized Racism
01:26:31

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Welcome to a special takeover episode of GMGD, with special guests Reno, Starron, Mike, and Andre. Today’s episode is a deep, potentially heavy, important, introductory, and ongoing conversation around the topic of internalized racism. We are not experts in the topic, nor do we represent the perspectives of all BIPOC people. In this episode, we speak on our own personal experiences with internalized racism, while briefly touching on some of the definitions, and sharing how we’re working to create solutions to this problem.

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Jul 15, 2021
Loneliness & Belonging
00:57:20

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Going through life as a gay man can be alienating. In fact, some say that loneliness is the new gay epidemic. Despite widespread progress in legal and social acceptance of homosexuality, studies show that gay men are disproportionately affected by loneliness.

In today’s episode, Michael and special guest Phil McAuliffe a.k.a. “The Loneliness Guy” have a candid discussion about normalizing loneliness and how we can seek a greater sense of belonging.

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Jul 08, 2021
Internalized Homophobia
00:48:45

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What is internalized homophobia? How does it show up in your life? What can you do to address it?

In this episode, we’re going deeper within as we unpack internalized homophobia. We’ll share our own experiences as well as some tips that will inspire you to look within to heal the aspects of yourself that may be harbouring these negative beliefs.

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Jul 01, 2021
Demisexuality
01:18:45

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In this episode, Matt explores the topic of Demisexuality with fellow brothers Carlos, Ron and Andre.

All 4 men identify as demisexual and they candidly break down what it’s like to be demisexual in the gay community and the benefits and challenges of honouring this truth.

Here are some of the questions explored in the episode:

-What does it mean to be demisexual?

-In what ways do you find it difficult to fit into the gay community being demisexual?

-How has it been communicating with non-demisexual men your desire to develop intimacy prior to having sex?

-The benefits of dating a demisexual?

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Jun 24, 2021
Celebrating Our Gayness
00:59:45

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On this episode honouring Pride Month, we’re celebrating what it means to be gay. We speak out about the challenges we've faced and the valuable life lessons they have provided us. Pride has a unique meaning for everyone and this episode is about celebrating who you are in a way that feels authentic to you.

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Jun 17, 2021
Interview with Brita Filter from RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 12
00:55:04

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On today’s episode, Calan has a sit down with RuPaul’s Drag Race season 12 contestant Brita Filter (aka Jesse Havea) to talk about mental health and the experience of being on a show like RPDR. Jesse was very open, honest and candid with Calan as he shared his journey with depression, toxic social media, alcoholism, being painted as “the villain” on his season of RPDR, hitting rock bottom and attempting suicide. He also shared how he’s now on a healing journey, recovering, re-focusing his energies and learning how to navigate life in the public eye.

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Jun 10, 2021
Lone Wolf Syndrome
00:58:37

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The Lone Wolf mentality can feel safe and serve us in some ways, but as we share in this episode, it's also one of the common blocks that prevent us from belonging and connecting in community. We'll also share some tips on how you can allow more connection in your life.

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Jun 03, 2021
Evolution of the Gay Community with Tim McCaskell
00:56:27

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As Pride Month celebrations begin, Michael turns back the clock and takes a glimpse into the evolution of the gay community with long-time activist, author, and educator, Tim McCaskell. Tim shares his unique experience living through those watershed moments of our shared history including the fight for gay liberation and the AIDS crisis.

Together they discuss how the gay community has evolved through the last 50 years. They also take stock of where we are today and explore whether the notion of community is as relevant or necessary as it was in the past.

Connect with Tim: Tim_mccaskell@hotmaill.com

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May 27, 2021
Fear of Judgment
00:57:48

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Fear of judgment often prevents us from showing up as our authentic selves. Not only do we fear judgment and criticism of others, but we also have to contend with our self-judgment and self-criticism. In this episode, we're sharing our experiences with this deep-seated fear and the lessons we've learned on how to deal with it.

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May 20, 2021
Gender and Sexual Identity with Christiano Green
00:48:16

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In this episode, Matt Speaks with Identity & Mindset Coach, Speaker, Trainer, Author, Podcast Host, Thought Leader, & Entrepreneur Christiano Green about Gender & Sexual Identity.

These two coaches candidly breakdown the difference between gender and sexuality and how it is a spectrum, not a construct. Further concepts that are unpacked in this episode are gender fluidity, gender energies, rising of the feminine, topping and bottoming and how we view them as masculine and feminine, and gender stereotypes that are holding us back due to shame and patriarchal conditioning.

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May 13, 2021
The Power of Vulnerability
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We tend to avoid vulnerability but when we use it to our advantage, it can be a potent source of personal power and a means of establishing authentic connections with others. In this episode, we're sharing how vulnerability has actually helped us along our respective journeys to become more self-confident, more rooted in authenticity, and develop deeper relationships.

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May 06, 2021
Talking Relationships with Jordan Bach
01:15:12

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Relationships! Always such a hot topic in the gay community (and in all communities really). In today’s episode, Calan Breckon invites guest speaker, writer and Life Coach Jordan Bach back for a chat about gays and relationships.

Covering things like resentment after a rejection, conscious uncoupling, clearness is kindness, confidently asking someone out and what “pretty privilege” is and how it affects us are just a few of the topics that came up in today’s chat.

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Apr 29, 2021
Romantic Relationships
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Romantic relationships give us a perfect opportunity to learn more about ourselves and how we relate with others. In this episode, we're sharing our perspectives and lessons learned in love, dating & relationships.

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Apr 22, 2021
Myths & Misconceptions About Sexual Health
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What is ‘super gonorrhea’? What are the side effects of PrEP? What is U = U? In this bonus episode, Michael and special guest, Pharmacist Andrew Schonbe dismantle some of the myths and misconceptions about STIs and PrEP. Join us for an open and informative discussion about sexual health.

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Apr 15, 2021
Friendships with Gay Men
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Developing friendships with gay men can be challenging when the line between platonic friends, friends with benefits, fuck buddies is blurred. In this episode, we talk about our own unique experiences with making friends and how we've learned - and continue to learn - ways to nurture these important relationships.

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Apr 08, 2021
Talking HIV Stigma
01:19:48

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In this episode, Matt speaks with Arnoud Boek and Steven Band from the Gay Men’s Brotherhood about HIV Stigma.

The three of them unpack some of the heavy topics that surround this issue that many face within the gay community. Some questions they explored are:

1) How has Prep impacted the gay community?

2) How has being HIV+ impacted dating and intimacy for you?

3) How have your family relationships been impacted by your HIV+ status?

4) How quickly do you disclose your HIV+ status?

5) What needs to shift for the stigma to be lifted?

6) How are we contributing to the stigma?

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Apr 01, 2021
Surrender
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In this episode, the guys are talking about what it means to surrender. Whether it's surrendering control of outcomes or surrendering to our emotions, there are valuable gifts and lessons to be learned.

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Mar 25, 2021
Interview with Jordan Bach; Life Coach, Writer and Motivational Speaker
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In today’s bonus episode, Calan has a one-on-one with Jordan Bach; Life Coach, Writer and Motivational Speaker.

Jordan has been on the Life Coaching scene for over a decade and quickly became a trailblazer for gay men looking to go on a personal development journey.

In today’s episode Calan and Jordan chat about how he started his career as a coach, working through “imposter syndrome,” how to handle those nasty keyboard warriors, healthy boundaries and much more.

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Mar 18, 2021
The Illusion of Control
00:53:40

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Are you a control freak? Recovering Perfectionist? Or maybe you feel like you’ve never had any control.

Today we dive into the topic of control and how we navigate this illusion that we can control the things and people around us.

We share insights on how we learned to let go of the need to control everything around us and how we each embrace the energy of allowing and having faith in the process.

Calan also shares a very personal story in today’s episode about where his need to control came from and what he’s been doing to move through it and have more faith that everything is unfolding the way it’s supposed to. Be warned, you may shed a tear or two!

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Mar 11, 2021
Love, Intimacy & Connection: behind-the-scenes of a modern gay relationship
00:44:54

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In this juicy episode, Michael and his partner have a raw and refreshing chat about gay relationship dynamics including interracial love, monogamy, and conflict.

They’ll share how they overcame their fears and trust issues in a messy yet authentic way.  Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode is full of tips and advice for you.

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Mar 04, 2021
Shift Happens (Reno’s Last Episode)
01:02:24

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In today's episode, we're talking about how we handle change. A fitting topic for us as we say "goodbye for now" to our co-host, Reno who shows us how to gracefully navigating change.

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Feb 25, 2021
Racism in the Gay Community
01:23:47

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In this bonus episode, Matt & Reno unpack the hot topic of racism in the gay community with guests Mav Mehta & Edward Tsang. They share experiences of overt and covert racism, how our preferences can be a way to hide behind attitudes rooted in racism, and how to overcome the conditioning that may be contributing to our preferences. They also openly share their own personal biases when it comes to their own preferences/attractions and provide some solutions on how to start taking responsibility for our unconscious biases.

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Feb 18, 2021
I Want You in My Bubble…Butt
00:58:32

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Dating in the time of a worldwide pandemic brings a whole new set of challenges to deal with. Bubbles, social distance walks, and Zoom dates have become the norm in 2020 and beyond. This week we're talking about what we've learned about dating in the time of COVID.

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Feb 11, 2021
Interview with Stephen Lovegrove (aka America’s Life Coach)
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Today we are bringing you our first ever BONUS episode! In today’s episode, Calan has a sitdown interview with Stephen Lovegrove (America’s Life Coach) who has been featured on MTV, NBC, Fox, LA Times, OWN, Inc, CBS and USA Today.

They do a deep dive on how he got started as a coach, his religious cult upbringing and how that affected him as a gay man, mistaken and limiting beliefs which are usually the things holding us back in life, and much more.

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Feb 04, 2021
Coming Out
00:56:05

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It's the thing that we all have in common. We ALL know the feeling of being a little "different" than the other boys and eventually coming to that conclusion that yes, "I'm gay," and then eventually coming out. Here are our stories…what’s yours?

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Jan 28, 2021
Self-Compassion
00:59:35

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Self-compassion is a fundamental emotional skill that allows us to navigate the challenges of life with grace and humility. In this episode, we share how we incorporate self-compassion into our own journeys and some of the key lessons we've learned so far.

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Jan 14, 2021
Year in Review 2020
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A life without challenge is a life without growth. In our final episode of 2020, we reflect back on our highs, lows, and the valuable lessons this tumultuous year has gifted us.

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Dec 31, 2020
Reclaiming the Holiday Season
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It's easy to believe that the holidays are a time filled with joy, gifts, and loved ones. But we don't often talk about the loneliness, anxiety, and dysfunction that goes with it. In this episode, we're encouraging you to reclaim the holiday season on your own terms.

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Dec 17, 2020
The Porn Episode
00:54:22

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Love it or hate it, porn is a big part of the gay community. In this episode, we talk about how each of us has experienced porn and how that has evolved and contributed to our own sexual maturity and personal development.

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Dec 03, 2020
Our Relationship with the Gay Community
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The gay community can be fractured and catty. But it can also be a source of brotherhood and connection. In this episode, we discuss how our relationship with the gay community has evolved in tandem with our own personal development journeys.

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Nov 19, 2020
How We Cope With Challenging Emotions
00:58:50

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Challenging emotions like fear, anxiety, and anger are all part of living a full life. In this episode, we share our experiences with these emotions as well as some tips that can help you cope when they show up in your own life.

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Nov 05, 2020
How We Express Our Sexuality
00:59:46

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In today’s episode, we jump into discussing conscious sexuality and how we navigate our own sexualities as individuals. How do we enjoy the fun of a hookup without feeling empty or lonely after? How do we shed ourselves of any shame we have around being intimate with other men? We answer these questions and so many more in today’s episode!

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Oct 22, 2020
Our Social Media Dilemma
00:57:48

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In today’s episode, we jump into the social media dilemma of the gay community. Why do those guys with the perfect abs get so many likes? Why do we sometimes get left feeling more empty than full after scrolling for hours? Is social media using us, or are we using social media? Find out more in today’s episode!

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Oct 08, 2020
Open vs Closed Relationships
00:56:18

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In today’s episode, we explore open vs closed relationships in the gay community. This certainly was our most hot button topic yet! In our private Facebook community, the guys had QUITE a lot to say about this! If you haven’t already, join in on the conversations in the private community through the link below!

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Sep 24, 2020
Dating
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In today’s episode, we explore dating in the gay community. Oh GURL things get WILD in today’s episode! We dive deep into our own experiences with dating and being gay men and how it’s shaped the way we view dating now. Take a listen and see who you agree with on today’s episode!

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Sep 10, 2020
Body Talk
1:00:02

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In today’s episode, we explore body image in the gay community. Why does it rule our social world as gay men? How do we break the cycle? What changes need to happen in order for us to stop focusing so much on appearance? Listen and find out!

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Aug 27, 2020
Self-Esteem
00:59:45

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In today’s episode, we explore self-esteem. What is it? Where does it come from? Are you born with it or can you cultivate more of it as you get older? Are gay men prone to lower self-esteem? Listen to find out!

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Aug 13, 2020
Boundaries
00:57:09

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In today’s episode, we explore healthy boundaries. How do you create them? How do you know what’s right for you? What do healthy boundaries look like? Listen in and find out!

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Jul 30, 2020
Rejection
00:56:56

About Today’s Show

Welcome to our first ever episode of Gay Men Going Deeper! A podcast exploring the gay aspects of personal development, sexuality, mental health and much more. Brought to you by the Gay Men’s Brotherhood and hosted by Calan, Matt, Reno and Michael.

In this first episode, we explore rejection in the gay community and how we’ve handled it in the past.

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Jul 16, 2020