The Reality Is

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A podcast about our problematic love for reality TV

Episode Date
*RE-RELEASE* Episode 45: Watch What Sappens w/ Ben Mandelker & Ronnie Karam (Part 2)
In the 2nd half of our chat with our PodDaddies Ben Mandelker and Ronnie Karam from Watch What Crappens, we talk about managing expectations when watching problematic shows, Jen Shah the telemarketer, and dive into a crappens mail-bag style Q&A! 
Nov 26, 2021
*RE-RELEASE* Episode 44: Watch What Sappens w/ Ben Mandelker & Ronnie Karam (Part 1)
This week our PodDaddies Ben Mandelker and Ronnie Karam from Watch What Crappens were sweet enough to hop on the podcast and talk about everything from Housewives to House Hunters! We had laughs and tears and Aarti may or may not have murdered Harold. Who is Harold? Listen in and find out!  OH! And we had so much fun talking to them that we had to split the episode into 2 parts! 
Nov 24, 2021
Episode 114: Ultimate Twirl Trip (RHUGT)

We had a great time binging episodes 1-4 of Real Housewives Ultimate Girls Trip and were truly blown away but how likable everyone but Ramona is! 

Nov 20, 2021
Episode 113: Shut THAT front door (RHOSLC / RHOP)
Everyone wants to know who called the Feds on Real Housewives of Salt Lake City but we wanna know how Meredith isn't a human prune after all that time in the tub! And on Real Housewives of Potomac Reunion Part 2, we suspect that perhaps all of these women are just secretly best friends and this is all one big act (that we can't get enough of)!
Nov 17, 2021
Episode 112: Melty Faced Dingleberry (VPR, Ask Your Aunties, Good Tweet Bad Tweet)

We're taking your questions from the Patreon "Ask Your Aunties" tier, we're introducing a new segment called "Good Tweet Bad Tweet" and we're talking about Scheana's ability to show growth and at the same time not change at all on Vanderpump Rules!

Nov 13, 2021

We're recapping 3 hours of some of the best television seen on Bravo, from the non-stop entertainment train of the Real Housewives of Potomac Reunion Part 1 to the runaway train or rather truck of one Jennifer Shah from the Feds on Real Housewives of Salt Lake City. Don't worry we dive into how absolutely batsh*t Mary M Cosby is and how unhinged Andy Cohen sounds yelling at Candiace. 

Nov 10, 2021
Episode 110: For White consumption w/ Selle @whoaskedmepodcast (VPR / RHOBH)

This week our friend Selle, host of @whoaskedmepodcast, hopped on to breakdown Vanderpump Rules and the anticlimactic and down right maddening final part of the unnecessary four part reunion of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. We also go deep into our problems with Bravo as a whole which actually mirror a lot of the problems in American society. Talk about problematic!

Follow @whoaskedmepodcast on Instagram and subscribe/rate/review Who Asked Me podcast everywhere podcasts are found!

Nov 06, 2021
Episode 109: Hu Renewal (RHOP/RHOSLC)

We're talking about the breaking new of Real Housewives of Dubai, breaking down the truly low budget vow renewal in Real Housewives of Potomac, and discussing the totally not subtle on screen scheming of Lisa Barlow in Real Housewives of Salt Lake City.

Nov 03, 2021
Episode 108: Uninspired (RHOBH / VPR)

Friends, we will be very honest with you this week of Bravo TV felt as uninspired as Schwartz & Sandy's, but we nevertheless we persevered, we watched Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and Vanderpump Rules, we took notes, we talked about it, and then we took a detour about the American fast food experience overseas. ENJOY!

Oct 30, 2021
Special Bonus: "Burn it to the ground!" w/ Les Kurkendaal-Barrett & Taria Faison

This is an episode from our friend Les Kurdendaal-Barrett's podcast "The Reality Reading Rainbow" with our friend Taria Faison from What Else is Going On podcast. We had a great deep dive into our feelings about Bravo's "diversity and inclusion" and Bravo viewers and even podcasters as of late. We don't hold back! 

Oct 29, 2021
Episode 107: Google at your own risk (RHOP / RHOSLC)

This week on Real Housewives of Potomac, Karen inserted herself into a cake and on Real Housewives of Salt Lake City everyone inserted themselves into silly little fights. 

Oct 27, 2021
Patreon Exclusive Bonus: You can't make a Tomlette without Cixing a few eggs

This week on the bonus our dear friend, current CEO of DumpsterStar DiveCo, and future President of the Fluff & Fold Laundry Empire, Tom Hamlett hopped on to "talk about" the season 3 premiere of HBO's Succession. Yes, talk about is in quotations because in true Dumpster Diva fashion we talked about many other things that have nothing to do with Succession.

Subscribe, rate, and review Dumpster Dive and follow Dumpster Dive @dumpsterdivepod and Tom @thetomhamlett on Instagram.

If you'd like to support us on Patreon, check us out on

Oct 24, 2021
Episode 106: Herpes, the TV show (Winter House / VPR / RHOBH)
This week the new Summer House spinoff, Winter House premiered which made us run, not walk, to the nearest clinic to get tested for STI's we may have caught from simply watching this show. On Vanderpump Rules, Tom Sandoval lost his marbles and Tom Schwartz continued to make us feel terrible for Katie. And on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Erika told lies and Bravo editors tried to convince us that 4 parts of this stupidity are somehow necessary. 
Oct 23, 2021
Episode 105: The real problematic husbands (RHOP / RHOSLC)

What a week of shitty dudes on bravo huh? Between Gordon on Real Housewives of Potomac and Duy and Robert Sr on Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, the thirst is not just real but it's exhausting to watch. 

Oct 20, 2021
Episode 104: Incessantly nonsensical and passively pathetic (Vanderpump Rules / RHOBH)

Never did we imagine that one day Vanderpump Rules would be the most wholesome content on Bravo, but here. we. are. We're talking about the proposal of Noor and Raquel's dreams on Vanderpump Rules. And then we're encouraging you to heavily medicate or not and just rage with us as we dive into the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Reunion Part 1. 

Oct 16, 2021
Episode 103: I'll toss my own salad thank you (RHOP/RHOSLC)
This week Noor subjects Aarti to making a case for Candiace on behalf of Candee-Gals and Bassett Hounds scream-watching Real Housewives of Potomac everywhere. It does not go as planned but no lettuce was harmed during the making of this podcast. Then in Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, Mary gave us many moments of wisdom, some truly wise and others that broke our brains. 
Oct 13, 2021
Episode 102: This isn't a costume party (Vanderpump Rules / RHOBH)

This week on VPR, Tom Sandoval did too much but somehow Lala did even more and all she got was a lousy sheet cake. Over on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, what was more confusing than Erika's stories were Erika, Kyle, and Rinna's lewks at Crystal's fabulous Chinese New Year Party. 

Oct 09, 2021
Episode 101: Don't claim her (RHOP / RHOSLC)

This week on Real Housewives of Potomac some how a horribly creepy old dude who makes dick jokes, pantomimes sex, and tells his wife to STFU was overshadowed by Candiace losing her cool. Over on Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, we had the case of the mysterious last minute catering cancelation which resulted in a classic and hilarious Housewives fight. 

Oct 06, 2021
Episode 100: Welcome back scumbags! w/ Kara Berry (Vanderpump Rules / RHOBH)

Friend of the pod and pop culture, bravo, reality tv, VPR aficionado Kara Berry host of Everyone's Business But Mine joined us this week as we reluctantly watched the return of Vanderpump Rules and much like the unexpected rush of emotions from a "pre-workout pill", were surprised at just how great it was! We also talked about RHOBH and wondered who clocked Kathy in the head with a golf ball during a Barbie commercial. 

Oct 02, 2021
Episode 99: Vassinated (RHOP / RHOSLC)

This week the ladies on RHOP showed us that great reality television is made on driveways, in front of construction, with paddles, and shade and the ladies on RHOSLC proved again what we already know about all of them except for Mary who somehow manages to surprise us every week.

Sep 29, 2021
Episode 98: Honesty not included (RHOBH / Ask Your Aunties)

The ladies in RHOBH head to a creepy hotel, Erika lies as usual, the ladies don't call her out, and then they all decide to grill Garcelle for no reason at all. We also ask a question from our Patreon "Ask Your Aunties" level Patron. Support us there on

Sep 25, 2021
Episode 97: Heather drives back to Jen (RHOP/RHOSLC)

We're breaking down this week's hilariously messy RHOP episode courtesy Miss Dotty and hilariously delusional RHOSLC episode courtesy all of them! Enjoy!

Sep 22, 2021
Episode 96: Do the ankle! w/ The Bravo Docket (RHOBH)

The brilliant Attorneys of The Bravo Docket, Cesie and Angela, graciously broke down all of our stupid questions about Erika, the Girardi case, and the impact of the case on the cast and show. We also talked about some of their very plausible conspiracy theories which may or may not have included a racoon. Follow The Bravo Docket on Instagram & subscribe to their podcast via

Sep 18, 2021
Episode 95: Jesus delivered w/ Sonia Sells (RHOP/RHOSLC)

Friend of the pod Sonia Sells hopped on to talk about a BLESSED Sunday where the House of Huger met the Church of Cosby and Lord was it glorious. 

Follow Sonia Sells on Tiktok @nochilarybanks & Twitter @soniamariesays

The Reality Is is now on Patreon!

Sep 15, 2021
Episode 94: C-words w/ Donny @realdonnywood & Chelsea @ohnobravo (RHOBH)

Bravo/Pop culture social media icons and hosts of I Am The Cute One: A Mary-Kate & Ashley Podcast, Donny & Chelsea hopped on and oh what fun we had discussing problematic favorites, what makes a good housewife, the RHOSLC taglines, RHOBH, and of many eggs can PK swallow whole? 

Sep 11, 2021
Episode 93: We all have foreheads (RHOP / Patreon Ask Your Aunties)

We're breaking down this week's Real Housewives of Potomac and discovering that the root of all the problems is misdirected anger which should be directed at Michael Darby. We're also answering some questions from our Patreon "Ask Your Aunties" Mailbag. 

Sep 08, 2021
Episode 92: Daggone Doodoo Nail (RHONY/RHOBH)
We said good bye for now to RHONY or at least they finally drop the Reunion which...who knows when that'll be and said OH HI HELLOOOOO to one of the greatest episodes of Housewives of all times in RHOBH.
Sep 04, 2021
Episode 91: How many wicks does it take to get to the center of the House of Huger? (RHOP/Shahs of Sunset)

We're diving into the aftermath of the Ashley Darby Williamsburg Dumpster Fire Incident of 2021 and asking important questions like "do we think our husbands would be beloved or hated on tv?". We also dive into Shahs of Sunset reunion/finale and discuss how stupid everyone is, as usual. 

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Sep 01, 2021
Episode 90: No apologies (RHOBH/RHONY)
The ladies of RHOBH laughably try to come for Garcelle and Sutton and the ladies of RHONY laughably try to convince us they’re friends.
Aug 28, 2021
Episode 89: Please pack your breast milk and go (RHOP/Shahs of Sunset)

Gizelle and Ashley stay messy, Robyn is lazy, Wendy is upset, Karen is obsessed, Mia is confused, and Candiace is hilarious. Oh, and the Shahs of Sunset are toxic and dysfunctional exactly the way we want them to be. 

Aug 25, 2021
Episode 88: Sutton brought notes (RHONY/RHOBH)
We are discussing black Shabbat on RHONY and the best god damn episode of RHOBH we have ever seen because of Queens Garcelle and Sutton. We also talk about real life stuff like the situation in Afghanistan. If you'd like to know more check out our instagram @therealityispod or this link for more information. 
Aug 21, 2021
Episode 87: Brown Eyed Bandits w/ Rae Sanni (RHOP, Shahs of Sunset, and RHOSLC Trailer)

We're hitting you with a supersized episode because when our friend and TWO TIME Emmy nominated writer and comedian Rae Sanni is on, we can't stop psychoanalyzing these psychopaths and also psychoanalyzing ourselves in the process. 

Timestamps: RHOP (3:10), Shahs of Sunset (1:07:10), RHOSLC Trailer (1:22:17)

  • Twitter - @raesanni 
  • Instagram - @rafizzle87
Aug 18, 2021
Episode 86: I don't know her (RHONY/RHOBH)

Take out your jade rollers friends because this week's Bravo was stressful, riveting, offensive, hilarious, and thrilling all at once! 

Aug 14, 2021
Episode 85: Doctor Wendy if you're nasty (RHOP/Shahs of Sunset)

Weekly gush session over how much we love the Karen vs. Gizelle feud and as usual spending too much time psychoanalyzing the psychopaths on Shahs of Sunset. 

Aug 11, 2021
Episode 84: Pretty F*cked (RHOBH/RHONY)
Put on your tinfoil hats because we have conspiracies on the grifting happening from Coast to Coast! First we have Erika's not so pretty mess of a web of lies in RHOBH and then Sonja's snake of a money manager Gaurav! 
Aug 07, 2021
Episode 83: Karen has a friend (RHOP/Shahs of Sunset)

Like trying to understand Mia's bad Math, English, and Anatomy, we are trying to understand how exactly Ambassadors function from county to county on RHOP and why Tommy has a point but also needs to get over it on Shahs of Sunset, among other things! Enjoy!

Aug 04, 2021
Episode 82: I think you're odd (Family Karma Finale/WWHL & RHONY)

We're breaking down the Family Karma finale as well as the juicy WWHL end of season pow-wow with the cast of Family Karma. It is as if our people knew this was the final exam and like good Indian kids, they aced it! We're also talking about this week's RHONY (51:00) at the end of this episode. So chug that last bit of wine like you're moving to Kentucky to be with your giant boyfriend and drink up the episode!

Jul 31, 2021
Episode 81: Not so Zen Wen on vacation (RHOP/Shahs)

We're talking Real Housewives of Potomac and Shahs of Sunset! 

Jul 28, 2021
Episode 80: An intervention at a bar (RHOBH/RHONY)

This week Erika told tall tales on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills (5:00) and Leah, Lu, Ramona, and Sonja held an intervention at a bar on Real Housewives of New York (29:01)

Jul 24, 2021
Episode 79: Some Desi Psychology

There's nothing we love more than psychoanalyzing our own people and the latest episode of Family Karma gave us plenty to psychoanalyze! From Monica's parents to Lopa's estranged daughter to Brian's lady troubles - Family Karma delivers again!

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Jul 23, 2021
Episode 78: PHD in Candles

We finally finished up the emotionally exhausting reunion of Married to Medicine (5:17). We talk about how Noor's theory about London being a production plant on Shahs of Sunset (15:09) is no long a theory, and actually just a fact. And of course, we talk about Karen Huger trying to convince us she and Ray still bone despite no one asking if they do, amongst other things on Real Housewives of Potomac (21:03).

Jul 21, 2021
Episode 77: Crystal is a bad bitch w/ Obi (@oddblackindividual) & Taria Faison (@weigopodcast)

The lovely Taria Faison subbed in as our Aarti this week as we chat all things RHOBH and RHONY with one of the smartest Bravo podcasters out here - Charlie Walls aka Obi - Host of @oddblackindividual. For the record, Sonja is a clown, Bershan is the moment, Sutton is annoying, and Erika is crying for real but probably more for herself than anyone else!

Jul 17, 2021
Episode 76: 4 degrees and 2 boobs w/ Kim Knight (@spicedbykim)

Friend of the podcast and our real lives Kim Knight (@spicedbykim) hopped on to talk about the FIERY premiere of Real Housewives of Potomac, the agonizing Married to Medicine Reunion part 2, and the oddest Friendsgiving on Shahs of Sunset.

We also discuss a little bit about what's going on in Cuba, because why not. Click here to learn more. 

Jul 14, 2021
Episode 75: Chunky Dory
Weekly Housewives Round up talking about RHOBH and RHONY!
Jul 10, 2021
Episode 74: We are all Brahm

Family Karma as usual is making us cry (thanks Nani Jaan!), but also making us cackle (thanks Chitra!). We're talking about Nani's special moment with Nicholas, the struggles of overbearing parents, and aiming to get to the Chitra and eventually Nani phases of our lives when we say FUCK IT let people live! 

Jul 09, 2021
Episode 73: We don't know everything

We are recapping Married to Medicine Reunion Part 1, which aired approximately 100 years ago. We are also addressing our last episode in which we placed our feet directly inside of our mouths. We are also for some fucking reason discussing Grey's Anatomy in the first 3 minutes of the episode, and maybe sharing a spoiler that isn't actually a spoiler for anyone who has watched the show beyond 5 seasons.

Jul 07, 2021
Episode 72: Vertigo Szn

Weekly RHOBH and RHONY roundup! 

Jul 03, 2021
Episode 71: He is my love

We are crying about I mean talking about Family Karma S2S4 and S2S5 and putting into the Universe that Family Karma should win every television award available because holy crap what an amazing show! 

Jul 02, 2021
Episode 70: Cannapuss

We are back and talking about Shahs of Sunset (9:45) and last week's RHOBH (30:00) where Erika fed us enough lies to be mildly fooled but actually not and what we've been up to while we were away!

Jul 01, 2021
Episode 69: Masculinity so toxic

Pull out your jade (or Nurse Jamie!) rollers friends because ugh the levels of toxic masculinity are at an all time high on the season finale of Married to Medicine (27: 50) and Destiney's Halloween party on Shahs of Sunset (2:15).

Jun 23, 2021
Episode 68: Welcome back fancy pants!

We are talking about the eventful week of all things Housewives from the shakeup in OC (1:20), Housewife & the Hustler (9:02), psychoanalyzing Crystal on RHOBH (16:15), and Leah the toddler on RHONY (31:29). 

Jun 19, 2021
Episode 67: Richa deserves betta

We're talking Family Karma S2E3 which means we're diving deep into the festival of Navratri, explaining Garba, and also making a case for why Richa is too fucking dope for a putz like Vishal. 

Jun 18, 2021
Episode 66: What can I Fans Only for you?
We recap our epic weekend of too much socializing, the lackluster episode of Married to Medicine (10:26) and the cultural appropriation bonanza on Shahs of Sunset (29:22)
Jun 16, 2021
Episode 65: Slow your roller Holla Mama

We're talking all things RHOBH (4:00) and RHONY (26:05) which happens to be filled with white ladies doing the most to be the worst. Enjoy!

Jun 12, 2021
Episode 64: One Tight Slap
We're breaking down the Auntie Party and Auntie dynamics on S2E2 of Family Karma, from Bollywood songs, to Lopa's sinister giggle, to Reshma's lack of eye contact with Bali and the muscle memory of a tight slap. For more information about the terror attack in London, Ontario Canada and how you can help the Afzaal Family, please check out the links below: Go fund me: The Pillars Fund:
Jun 11, 2021
Episode 63: Spoof there it is w/ Taria Faison (@weigopodcast)

THE Taria Faison of the What Else Is Going On Podcast hopped on this week to talk about the problematic bitch that is Bravo herself. Topics included Kenya Moore being terrible (5:00), Aarti's explanation of exactly what the scam is that Lisa Nicole is running on Married to Medicine (15:40), and the twisted game of thrones or game of clue that is Shahs of Sunset (44:00)! 

Jun 09, 2021
Episode 62: Fragility so white
What a week of problematic behavior it has been! We are diving into RHOBH (4:00) Kathy first and unfortunately into RHONY (23:48) curry first.
Jun 05, 2021
Episode 61: Not a prick tease!

Surprise! Family Karma is back! So we dropped a new weekly episode to talk about Family Karma! We're not sure if this will be weekly but the premiere was so juicy and content rich we needed to put some respect on its name. The whole gang is back and as Aunties ourselves, we had to spend some time psychoanalyzing the whole cast like local busy bodies at the masjid/mandir. 

Jun 04, 2021
Episode 60: Smash the pup-triarchy

**TRIGGER WARNING** We talk about the RHONJ Reunion and how terribly they presented the sexual harassment in the workplace discussion from 7:20 to 15:12. Feel free to skip ahead! Aarti is back! We talk about a lot of things that don't always flow into each other but we do laugh along the way.


  • Married to Medicine: 21:12
  • Shahs: 40:48
Jun 02, 2021
Episode 59: Kathy's sister Doogie w/ Chelsea (@ohonobravo)

This week on the pod we had Chelsea from @ohnobravo hop on to talk about all things Housewives from our heartbreak over Caroline Manzo, to Kathy Hilton's teeth, to Garth's curry, to the mess of a reunion that was RHONJ. Follow Chelsea on Instagram @ohnobravo and support her Patreon here


  • RHONY (15:32)
  • RHOBH (32:00)
  • RHONJ (52:39)
May 29, 2021
Episode 58: A trip to the ration store

We're talking Shahs, Pepto, Ration, Groceries, Holi, M2M! Enjoy!

May 26, 2021
Episode 57: A Cancellation Clause

This episode is a ramotional ramonacoaster. Here are some time stamps of all the things we had to say about Housewives, but trigger warning, we do talk about the Israel Palestine issue from the start to about 17 minutes.

  • RHONY (17:20)
  • RHOBH (34:27)
  • RHONJ (48:11)

An article about the clubhouse balance room mentioned on the episode.

A link to the Israel/Palestine clubhouse room.

Donate here to B’Tselem – The Israeli Information Center for Human Rights in the Occupied Territories strives to end Israel’s occupation, recognizing that this is the only way to achieve a future that ensures human rights, democracy, liberty and equality to all people, Palestinian and Israeli alike, living on the bit of land between the Jordan River and the Mediterranean Sea. 

May 22, 2021
Episode 56: We are grateful for Tommy Feight

Aarti is back! We said bye bye to Hannah Berner, said Hello to Shahs (23:44) and said HUH!? to whatever happened at Quad's party on Married to Medicine (9:15). 

May 19, 2021
Episode 55: Hashtag Love Wins w/ Adam Newborn (@romanticrealistpodcast) & Tom Hamlett (@dumpsterdivepod)

The hilarious @thetomhamlett of @dumpsterdivepod subbed in as Aarti this week and we had the delightfully hilarious @anewborn87 of @romanticrealistpodcast as our guest to talk all things Housewives, the mystery of Porsha Williams and Simon Not-van-kempen, why Andy Cohen is problematic, and so much more. 


  • RHOD (21:01)
  • RHONY (33:03)
  • RHONJ (51:53)
May 15, 2021
Episode 54: We recorded this before Porsha stole her friend's man

We are just managing expectations friends! We talk about RHOA Reunions (2:15) and briefly touch on the Porsha-Simon-Falynn-Maybe-Pregnancy of it all but are mostly conspiracy theorizing because we recorded on Monday afternoon before we got confirmation that Porsha set a fire to everything. We also talk Summer House reunion part 2 (15:30) and the latest Married to Medicine (37:00) where Quad killed us, as usual. 

May 12, 2021
Episode 53: Bravo's racism (and other) problems w/ Kim Knight

Friend of the podcast Kim Knight (@spicedbykim) hopped on the podcast this week to have probably the most eye opening and honest discussions we've ever had about Bravo's mishandling of racism and other problematic behaviors on Housewives. We talk about RHOD, RHONY Premiere, and RHONJ. 

May 08, 2021
Episode 52: On the stand w/ Kendrick Tucker (‎Me & You, The Housewives, & Marvel Too)

On this tangential episode, our friend Kendrick Tucker, host of Me & You, The Housewives, & Marvel Too (@housewivesmarvelpodcast) and also the Bravo Chat Room's #1 Fan, hopped on to talk about the Summer House Reunion Part 1, Married to Medicine, and just about everything else that you could imagine!  

May 05, 2021
Episode 51: Dolores Catania is goals

We are talking about all things housewives, but we are also talking about an issue that hits close to home for us, the COVID crisis in the South Asian subcontinent. Please donate what you can to the links below. 

Making the Difference is helping provide medical supplies for public hospitals and nursing homes in Mumbai as well as grocery and ration kits to daily wage earners. Details on how to donate here.

Rapid Response, India’s premier disaster-response and preparedness service, is seeking donations to provide dry food goods such as rice, dal, salt, and sugar to families across India. Details on how to donate here.

Breathe India, a fundraiser led by Indian Institutes of Technology alumni in conjunction with the SaveLife Foundation, is seeking donations to procure effective distribution of oxygen concentrators to hospitals in Delhi. Lack of supplemental oxygen is currently a massive problem amid the COVID surge in India. Details on how to donate here.

Seva Kitchen, a nonprofit in Nagpur, is seeking donations to provide meal kits for marginalized communities. More details on how to donate here.

Transgender Welfare Equity and Empowerment Trust (TWEET) has been creating and funding shelter homes for trans people in Delhi during the pandemic. Details on how to donate here.

Kailash Satyarthi Children’s Foundation (KSCF), a children’s rights organization based in India, is collecting donations to help children in poverty-stricken communities with access to meals and education. Details on how to donate can be found here.

HelpNow is an initiative led by young students in Mumbai to provide quick, 24/7 medical transportation. It is currently seeking donations to ensure adequate supplies and compensate its drivers. Details on how to donate here.

Give India, a crowdfunding nonprofit platform created to support India throughout the pandemic, is currently running fundraising campaigns for oxygen supply, food shortages, and women’s reproductive health amid the pandemic. Details on how to donate can be found here.

May 01, 2021
Episode 50: Psychoanalyzing reality tv w/ Rae Sanni (Part 2)

Before we dive into Part 2 of our mega chat with hilarious and brilliant comedian, writer on the Emmy Nominated "A Black Lady Sketch Show" (Season 2 out now!), lover and hate watcher of all things reality tv, and most importantly our dear friend, Rae Sanni, we are talking about Housewives Allstars and of course the Summer House Finale! Also make sure to check out The Cast with Jaquis Neal & Rae everywhere podcasts are heard.

Apr 28, 2021
Episode 49: Psychoanalyzing reality tv w/ Rae Sanni (Part 1)

Hilarious and brilliant comedian, writer on the Emmy Nominated "A Black Lady Sketch Show" (Season 2 out now!), lover and hate watcher of all things reality tv, and most importantly our dear friend, Rae Sanni hopped on the pod this week for a mega chat where we psychoanalyzed just about everybody on TV and maybe even ourselves. Also make sure to check out The Cast with Jaquis Neal & Rae everywhere podcasts are heard.

Apr 24, 2021
Episode 48: Like a public bus in India

Noor is talking about Ramadan and how she may be doing it so right that its wrong. We discuss the FANTASTIC hour of TV by the ladies of Married to Medicine, the sudden end to the Summer House season, and of course the sneak peak of the new Real Housewives of Potomac season.


Watch what happens, watch what crappens, real housewives of new york, real housewives of new jersey, andy cohen.

Apr 21, 2021
Episode 47: Sex-obsessed Lothario

This week Drew showed her internalized misogyny, Tiffany made us cry, and Jennifer made us believe that Bill Aydin really is the best house husband.

RHONJ, RHOA, RHOD, housewives, bravo, podcasts, wwhl, watch what happens, watch what crappens

Apr 17, 2021
Episode 46: Two truths and a lie

We are talking about RHOBH, Married to medicine, and Summer house. Here's 2 truth and a lie, in that order:

  • Sutton got a diamond because Kathy is a dud
  • We prefer Lisa Nicole over Contessa
  • We loved the star crossed lovers rom com level romance of Des and Hannah
Apr 14, 2021
Episode 43: No cheese left behind

We talk about Jen Shah and whether or not Bravo should be changing their casting process, we talk about the struggles of immigrant children bonding with their unemotional parents in Dallas (21:00), briefly plan Noor's 40th birthday in ATL/NOLA (31:00), and talk about another banger episode from our gals in Jersey (32:15). 

Apr 03, 2021
Episode 42: Your portfolio sucks

We're talking Married to Medicine (7:10) and how "the turntables" for us on Manjula and why anyone would think Luke in Summer House (29:20) is smart enough to manipulate anyone. Can Luke even spell manipulate?!

Mar 31, 2021
Episode 41: Barefoot Medusa (Ft. Tom & Cix Hamlett)

Join us on this deranged rollercoaster ride with Tom and Cix Hamlett from the Dumpster Dive Podcast. We discuss Kenya's insensitive costume in Atlanta (15:23), cafeteria Christianity in Dallas (38:54), and surprisingly beignets in New Jersey (1:02:59).  

Mar 28, 2021
Episode 40: Mad for Manjula

We break down the RHONY Trailer (1:59), continue to discuss why Kyle Cooke is a great dad (7:00), and deep dive into Married to Medicine like a nice cold bowl of rasmalai (19:40)

Mar 24, 2021
Episode 39: Don't make us defend the Shaman

This week we talked about RHOA, RHONJ, and RHOD, as usual. We also talk about the vicious attack on the Asian Community in Atlanta. We encourage our listeners to donate the following organizations: 

  • Asian American Advancing Justice (AAAJ) - Donations will help "ensure that low-income, immigrant and underserved Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders have access to free legal services and the most effective civil rights advocacy possible." 
  • The Asian American Advocacy Fund (AAF) - With a mission to "advocate for the civil and human rights" of those in the AAPI community, the group has different donation funds aimed at tackling specific issues. AAF also offers volunteer and civil engagement opportunities to drive positive change. 
  • The Center for Pan Asian Community Services (CPACS) - Donations to CPACS help the organization provide "comprehensive health and social services, capacity building, and advocacy" to immigrants, refugees and the underprivileged, especially Asian women, children and families with low incomes. 
  • Stop AAPI Hate - A non-profit organization for people to report and track anti-Asian hate incidents. Donations go toward the group's continuous effort to "track and respond to the surge in racism and xenophobia."
Mar 20, 2021
Episode 38: Low down dirty hoes (Ft. Lori)

We had a friend of the pod, Lori, join us this week to share her perspective on how the internet is handling the Meghan Markle discussion (spoiler alert: not well, bitch!). We also talk about how Kyle continues to be a total dad on Summer House and if we are Team Jackie or Team Simone on Married to Medicine. We are team give Toya some food. 

Mar 17, 2021
Episode 37: You want the truth? I'm a little hungry.

Hey Bravo - how about you make Married to Medicine Dallas and make Tiffany Moon your HBIC!? Until then, we are here bitchin' about all things housewives, air fryers and racism! Listen in!

Mar 13, 2021
Episode 36: Misogyny is a hell of a drug

Do you think Harry would get Meghan fish and chips takeout and take it out of the container like Stravy didn't bother doing for Lindsay? Well, we talk about all of that AND the Married to Medicine premiere. 

  • Meghan, Harry & Oprah (1:00)
  • Noor on WWHL (18:13)
  • Summer House (20:44)
  • Married to Medicine (29:45)
Mar 10, 2021
Episode 35: When microaggressions are macro

This week we learned (no surprise) that Jen Shah is a terrible human (4:18), Kenya is a sad human (7:37), Teresa is a dumb human (17:08), and Tiffany is the only decent human in Dallas (24:05). 

Mar 06, 2021
Episode 34: The Big Cry

Get your box of tissues because this episode takes a surprisingly emotional detour while we talk about Episodes 2 and 3 of Netflix The Big Day (20:45), but we promise not to nana-nana-boo-boo at you or stomp around like a toddler like Hannah did on Summer House (2:43). 

Mar 02, 2021
Episode 33: He gave us pumpkin to talk about

Everyone wants to talk about Bolo but we wanna talk about Marlo catching a whole ass shark on Atlanta (5:30), in New Jersey Teresa continues to be the dumbest person on TV (18:13), and on the final reunion episode in Salt Lake City, we learned that even women of color can be bad allies (28:24).

Feb 27, 2021
Episode 32: Her love language is quality quiznos

We're talking Summer House and Netflix's "The Big Day" (27:59).

Feb 23, 2021
Episode 31: WEATHER

Whether we're talking about actual weather in Texas or Heather and Whitney from SLC, this week Real Housewives across the country spun us into a whirlwind of excellent reality television. 

Here's how you can do more for Texas, than Ted Cruz - please Venmo what you can to:

  • @austinmutualaid (Austin)
  • @feedthepeopledallas (Dallas)
  • @dfwmutualaid (Dallas Fort Worth)
  • (El Paso)
  • @trinitymutualaid (San Antonio)
  • @mutualaidhou (Houston)
  • @ntrr4yall (North Rural Resilience)

Feb 20, 2021
Episode 30: Buried By The Bernards (not BernDogs)

We're talking Summer House but more importantly, we're recapping an amazing show on Netflix called "Buried By The Bernards" which showed us a hilarious and heartwarming look at running a funeral home. 

Feb 16, 2021
Episode 29: No Shoes Please

It was a week of microagressions: from not actually impeaching Trump, the Bachelor hosts asking for grace for a racist cast member, to the RHOD ladies picking on Tiffany because she has a schedule and thinks removing shoes is important IN A PANDEMIC. We talk about all of it and then we laugh our asses off about RHOSLC Reunion Part 1 because Lisa Barlow came guns blazing and well...we love that

Feb 13, 2021
Episode 28: Summer House of Ho

Tom Brady is the Bethenny of Sports Balls, Hannah is terrible, and House of Ho on HBO Max is fantastic family drama reality tv. 

Feb 09, 2021
Episode 27: Auntie with major niece energy

Before we get into the hilarity of Kenya Moore not feeding her guests in Atlanta (12:00), Kary weaponizing her child's mental health issues in Dallas (22:40), and Jen Shah's epic nosedive into terrible housewife territory (31:11), we thought it was important to discuss the #FarmersProtests in India (4:47). 

Below are some resources to get a better understanding on what it was Rihanna tweeted about this week:

#farmersprotests #standwithfarmers #iamwithfarmers 

Feb 06, 2021
Episode 26: A monkey in Anna Shay's circus

Before we get into our recap of Bling Empire Eps 4-8, we had to talk about Jen Shah's absolutely deplorable Instagram post. After discussing a nose dive more epic than The Countess tumbling into a bush, we talk about Bling Empire and tell you why we would also make Kevin our brother. 

Feb 02, 2021
Episode 25: Disengaged from stocks

Something happened this week with Cher and maybe she squeezed into some shorts near some hedges?! Then a bunch of nerds got rich?! Well it wasn't us! So we try to talk about that poorly and move onto the ups and downs of bravo this week, on and off tv! 

Jan 30, 2021
Episode 24: Anna Shay Is The Real Deal

We recapped the first 4 episodes of Bling Empire and are obsessed with every single person on the show! Listen in!

Jan 26, 2021
Episode 23: Dr. Tiffany Moon came prepared

We are diving into an incredible moment in history: Bernard sanders memes. JUST KIDDING. Obvi, we talk about the historic Inauguration! We also talk about RHOA, RHOD, and RHOSLC. And in case anyone was wondering (no one is wondering), Noor shares her clunky COVID19 vaccine journey.

Jan 23, 2021
Episode 22: White people...why?

Between moldy tin tubs at a spa in SLC and acting a damn fool at dim sum in Dallas...we had to ask...white people...why?

Jan 16, 2021
Episode 21: Who is Gauri Khan in this world?

We collaborated with Noor's other podcast (Raju Bangaya Podcast - a podcast about Shah Rukh Khan) to discuss the BIG BASH at Gauri Khan's house. In the finale of Fabulous Lives of Bollywood wives we learned that all this money and these ladies are as thirsty as the cast of Vanderpump Rules.

Check out Raju Bangaya Podcast on Instagram and Twitter!

Jan 12, 2021
Episode 20: Big Yikes in Little Dallas

We decompressed our thoughts on domestic terrorism by the hands of white supremacists on our Capitol this week, which was a great segue to Dallas's Brandi Redmond, the racist. In Atlanta, classic Kenya is activated and in Salt Lake City, Whitney drank too much and we got a textbook Housewives messy moment. 

@therealityispod (twitter + IG)

Jan 09, 2021
Episode 19: Unimpressive Lives of Bollywood Wives

Karan Johar thinks we were born yesterday as he presents us with the phoniest corniest biggest ad for Qatar tourism of a cast trip on the 6th and 7th episode of Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives. Listen in as we complain. 

Jan 05, 2021
Episode 18: Team Exhausted

This week we dedicated an entire episode to RHOP S5 (on and off camera) / Reunion Part 3, and pray to all of the lords that we never have to ever speak about The Samuels vs. The Universe ever again.

This SNL skit is truly what it has been like discussing anything about Potomac this season. We can't wait to move on to bigger and better things like agreeing that it's perplexing that Southern Charm and Brandi Redmond are on TV.

Jan 02, 2021
Episode 17: Hilaria-s Lives of Phony Wives

We are immigrant women who love to dust off our soap boxes to make a statement about appropriation, so naturally we had to spend a portion of today's episode talking about the HILLARY Baldwin fiasco before diving into a rather lack-luster episode of Bollywood Wives (episode 5). 

Dec 29, 2020
Episode 16: No plotation in this dancerie

This week we are recapping RHOP Reunion Part 2 and want you to know that we are not team Candiace, or team Monique, or team Gizelle. We are team shade and snacks (which is actually Robyn). We are audibly gasping and cringing while Cynthia plans her super spreader wedding on RHOA, and Porsha smokes hookahs. And are still perplexed as to the fandom for Meredith Marks and her weird son on RHOSLC. 

Dec 27, 2020
Episode 15: Chakkah-Chak

We're recapping Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives Episode 4! We dive into Bhavna's skin care routine, Samir's hatred of small talk (ugh same), and why it is confusing that MILF is offensive when we know way worse Hindi/Urdu obscenities.

Dec 22, 2020
Episode 14: Well That's Unfortunate

We are helping you pre-game for RHOP Reunion Part 2 by recapping Reunion Part 3, discussing colorism, the extremely problematic Jamal Bryant, and why people love Monique despite her Q*non level beliefs. We also chat about the worst husband since Shane Simpson, Ralph Pittman and if Mary Cosby is damaged or a weirdo OR BOTH!

@therealityispod (twitter + IG)

Dec 20, 2020
Episode 13: Krabs with Karan

We're recapping Episode 3 of Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives and going on multiple tangents about peeing outdoors, the value of gold, and allergies!

Dec 15, 2020
Episode 12: Delusions grander than the Grande Dame herself

We're talking about all the great things coming out of bravo this week: Jax is out, Braunwyn is out, Mary is out as a self-loathing racist, Cynthia's nipples are out, RHOP goes out with a bang!

Dec 12, 2020
Episode 11: Malaika F*ckin' Arora

We break down Episode 2 of Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives and answer burning questions like, Who are all these Kapoors and why are there so many? What IS le Bal? Why are the ladies so nervous about Karan Johar? Is he the Minister of Crab?!? And so much more!

Dec 08, 2020
Episode 10: We're brown girls, we eat.

This week we discuss RHOP and RHOSLC not without taking multiple detours on corrupt and philandering preachers and generational trauma of immigrant children. Spoiler alert: Men are trash and Colonialism as fucked us all the way up!

Dec 05, 2020
Episode 9: We're having Le Bal

Someone (Karan Johar, the Andy Cohen of India) combined the trash we watched as kids with the trash we're watching as adults, to give us The Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives. This week we're talking about Episode 1, discussing the D-Listiness of it all, Aarti's connections to Neelam, and what is a bichari. 

Nov 30, 2020
Episode 8: Mysterious Case of the Vibrating Pillow

We are giggling through the revelations in RHOP, like Karen's preferred method of self care and Gizelle's hosiery, and furrowing our brows at RHOSLC Mary's preacher voice and the one episode wonder that is Brooks Marks. 

Nov 28, 2020
Episode 7: Let's get Emoji-nal

To lift us out of our Winter blues, Bravo gave us two fantastic episodes of television this week.

We talk about mental health, COVID precautions, and our immigrant Thanksgivings (4:45), post-election blues (16:40), the RHOPortugal (23:30), and RHOSLC Episode 2 (38:15). 

Give us a big fat single or double thumbs up even if it is an eff you because we're not picky!

Nov 21, 2020
Episode 6: Good Time Girls (Ft. Mani)

The fantastic Mani, host of the hit podcast Mixing With Mani, joins us this week to talk about all kinds of HERstory being made: Kamala Harris, Jen Shah, and Karen Huger drinking a glass of cow's milk at the dinner table. 

Mani gives us all the details about Monique's live podcast, the zoom call/premiere party with (most of) the cast of RHOSLC, and her astute take on Wendy and Karen's feud. 

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Nov 14, 2020
Episode 5: Formidable institution of business and a marriage (ft. Rae Sanni)

Comedian and writer for the Emmy Nominated "A Black Lady Sketch Show", Rae Sanni joins us on this super sized episode to talk about all things housewives.

Nov 07, 2020
Episode 4: KADOOZE to you (ft. Richie D)
We have a grande dame ole time yapping it up with our friend Richie D, the genius behind He spills all the tea on his DMs with Bravolebs and we share all our RHOP-anon conspiracy theories.
Oct 31, 2020
Episode 3: Chaos Is Her Love Language
We are all over the place this week, just the way we like it!  Sometimes we laugh and sometimes we exasperatedly sigh and sometimes we ask ourselves who does Michael Darby think he is fooling? Donate to Breast Cancer Research: For more information on End SARS check out:
Oct 24, 2020
Episode 2: Karen Huger Rebrands Karens
Get your chai and parle g biscuits ready as we talk about everything from politics to Karen Huger riding a tractor. 
Oct 17, 2020
Episode 1: Villa Rosa Is Not Samosa Friendly.
Our very first episode! Get to know us: Learn about our favorite housewives, shows, and even who we're voting for! 
Oct 10, 2020
Trailer: The Reality Is

Trailer for our weekly podcast! Find us on Twitter and Instagram @therealityispod

Oct 10, 2020