Playing With Fire
By Joli Hamilton
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Episodes: 196
Description
Welcome to Playing With Fire, the podcast for people who are ready to custom-build their love.
We’re talking about non-monogamy–however you design it–as an individuation opportunity.
Want to leave the default and make your life spectacularly you? You’re in the right place.
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197 I Want What They’ve Got: Feeling Envy Towards Your Partner
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Mar 29, 2025 |
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196 Envy: How to Use It and How to Lose It
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Mar 22, 2025 |
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195 Help, I’ve Struck Gold: Handling NRE in Two Relationships
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Mar 15, 2025 |
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194 Reimagining Relationships
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Mar 08, 2025 |
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193 Beyond Good Intentions: Building True Integrity in Relationships
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Mar 01, 2025 |
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192 [Replay] What would you do with your full power? A conversation about kink, power exchange, and everyday life with Mollena Williams-Haas
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Feb 22, 2025 |
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191 [Replay] Turn your Toxic Attractions into Psychological Growth with Sunny Megatron
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Feb 15, 2025 |
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190 [Replay] Shadow work: What if your monsters were trying to help you live the life you always wanted?
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Feb 08, 2025 |
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189 [Replay] Can my attachment style do non-monogamy?
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Feb 01, 2025 |
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188 [Replay] Justice Jealousy
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Jan 25, 2025 |
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187 [Replay] Imago Dialogue: Transforming Conflict into Connection
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Jan 18, 2025 |
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186 Polyamory in the Second Half of Adulthood with Kathy Labriola
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Jan 11, 2025 |
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185 Conscious Uncoupling
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Jan 04, 2025 |
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184 Q&A Quickie: Why get married?
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Dec 28, 2024 |
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183 Pelvic and Sexual Health for Every Body with Dr. Ariana Cesare
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Dec 21, 2024 |
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182 Q&A Quickie: What should I do when my partner wants gender-based rules in non-monogamy?
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Dec 14, 2024 |
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181 Q&A Quickie: Privacy vs. Transparency—How do I feel safer?
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Dec 07, 2024 |
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180 Hyper-Individualism vs Healthy Autonomy: Am I The A**hole?
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Nov 30, 2024 |
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179 One Kid’s Reflection on Being Raised by Polyamorous Parents
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Nov 23, 2024 |
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178 The One to Share with Your Concerned Family Members
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Nov 16, 2024 |
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177 Shadow Dance: Navigating Projections in Relationships
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Nov 09, 2024 |
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176 Dismantling Defensiveness
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Nov 02, 2024 |
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175 Coming Out as Non-Monogamous: Risks, Rewards, & How To Get Ready
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Oct 26, 2024 |
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174 Social Monogamy: The Impact of Maintaining Your Mono-Image
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Oct 19, 2024 |
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173 Getting off the Relationship Escalator (Or Choosing Not To)
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Oct 12, 2024 |
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172 Grieving Change: A Crucial Relationship Skill
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Oct 05, 2024 |
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171 Why Self-Agreements Will Make or Break Your Relationships
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Sep 28, 2024 |
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170 Jealousy & Attachment Panic
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Sep 21, 2024 |
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169 Q&A Quickie: Why am I having such a hard time sticking to my agreements?
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Sep 14, 2024 |
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168 Ethics, Responsibility, and the Changing Landscape of Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin
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Sep 07, 2024 |
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167 Unfuck Your Monomind, Part 2
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Aug 31, 2024 |
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166 Q&A Quickie: How do I deal with my anxiety when my partner is on a date?
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Aug 24, 2024 |
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165 Monogamy, In This Economy? with Laura Boyle
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Aug 17, 2024 |
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164 I HATE THIS: Get Unstuck with Existential Kink (A shadow work method)
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Aug 10, 2024 |
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163 Playfulness, Vulnerability, and Parenting with Abbey & Liam from Evolving Love
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Aug 03, 2024 |
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162 Non-Monogamy & Community: Real Stories from YOO
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Jul 27, 2024 |
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161 Adopting a Polyamorous Lens with Alex Alberto, Author of Entwined
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Jul 20, 2024 |
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160 Getting Your Needs Met
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Jul 13, 2024 |
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159 Q&A Quickie: How can I handle my resentment that my partner isn’t into what I want?
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Jul 06, 2024 |
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158 Desire Discrepancy: What to Do When Your Wants Don’t Align
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Jun 29, 2024 |
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157 What Is Compersion? with Author Marie Thouin
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Jun 22, 2024 |
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156 Betrayal Trauma & Non-Monogamy
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Jun 15, 2024 |
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155 Q&A Quickie: How do we rebuild from lost trust?
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Jun 08, 2024 |
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154 Research-Backed Therapy for Non-Monogamous People with Dr. River Farrell
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Jun 01, 2024 |
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153 Limerence vs. New Relationship Energy
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May 25, 2024 |
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152 How to Take Intentional Relationship Breaks
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May 18, 2024 |
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151 Justice Jealousy
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May 11, 2024 |
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150 Asymmetric Agreements: How much balance should we strive for?
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May 04, 2024 |
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149 Relationship Agreements 101
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Apr 27, 2024 |
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148 Can my attachment style do non-monogamy?
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Apr 20, 2024 |
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147 How to Build Healthy Differentiation
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Apr 13, 2024 |
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146 Will non-monogamy make it possible to stay together?
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Apr 06, 2024 |
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145 How can I handle dysregulation in my relationships?
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Mar 30, 2024 |
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144 Handling Polyamory Problems: Q&A with Polywise Authors Jessica Fern and David Cooley
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Mar 16, 2024 |
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143 Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex in a Changing World with Author Dr. Eric FitzMedrud
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Mar 02, 2024 |
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142 Enmeshment: Are you over-functioning in your relationship?
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Feb 17, 2024 |
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141 Being Polywise with Jessica Fern and David Cooley
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Feb 03, 2024 |
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140 [Replay] Balancing Individuation & Secure Attachment with Polysecure Author Jessica Fern
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Jan 20, 2024 |
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139 Hinge Skills Part 2: How to Go From Squeaky Hinge to Skilled Tapestry Weaver
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Jan 13, 2024 |
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138 How can I be a better hinge partner?
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Jan 06, 2024 |
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137 Handling the Stress of Relational Growth
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Dec 23, 2023 |
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136 Help, I got poly-bombed!
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Dec 16, 2023 |
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135 Veto Power: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
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Dec 09, 2023 |
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134 Agreements, Boundaries, and Consequences
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Dec 02, 2023 |
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133 Doing the Relationship Work
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Nov 25, 2023 |
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132 Why am I not enough?
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Nov 18, 2023 |
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131 De-Escalating Relationships with Care
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Nov 11, 2023 |
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130 Turn Your Toxic Attractions Into Psychological Growth with Sunny Megatron
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Nov 04, 2023 |
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129 Imago Dialogue: Transforming Conflict into Connection
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Oct 28, 2023 |
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128 Unfuck Your Mono-Mind
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Oct 21, 2023 |
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127 Comperstruggle: When Jealousy & Compersion Collide with Dr. Marie Thouin
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Oct 14, 2023 |
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126 Finding Your People with the Hosts of Normalizing Non-Monogamy, Emma & Fin
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Oct 07, 2023 |
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125 The Jealousy Roadmap
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Sep 23, 2023 |
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124 Are you ready to bring your whole quirky self to your relationships? with Rachel Wright
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Sep 09, 2023 |
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123 Weasel Words and Creating More Intimacy in your Relationships
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Aug 26, 2023 |
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122 Get The Skills to Build your Own Relationship - With Guest Expert Carrie Jeroslow
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Aug 19, 2023 |
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121 Am I cut out for non-monogamy? Finding safety during your exploration
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Aug 12, 2023 |
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120 How do I break through relationship stagnation?
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Aug 05, 2023 |
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119 Soft Cock Week with guest expert Michelle Renee
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Jul 22, 2023 |
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118 Are there quick and easy ways to manage stress? A: Yes. With guest experts Elisabeth Kristof, Melanie Weller, and Matt Bush
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Jul 15, 2023 |
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117 Business and pleasure with Beth Hankes
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Jul 09, 2023 |
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116 Mindful Dating with guest expert Marie Thouin
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Jul 01, 2023 |
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115 The Nature of Relating with guest expert Megan Bhatia
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Jun 17, 2023 |
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114 Non-monogamy is a psychological growth lab: Are you ready?
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Jun 10, 2023 |
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113 How to do hard things & build exceptional love with Neuro-Somatic Intelligence expert Elisabeth Kristof
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Jun 03, 2023 |
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112 Sex clubs and more with Ashley Weller from What's Your Position podcast
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May 27, 2023 |
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111 Build Your Relationship Toolkit with guest experts Dedeker, Emily & Jase of the Multiamory podcast
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May 20, 2023 |
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110 How surrogate partner therapy works with guest expert Brian Gibney
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May 13, 2023 |
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109 We Opened Up & EEK! What to do when exciting beginnings turn scary
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May 06, 2023 |
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108 What would you do with your full power? A conversation about kink, power exchange, and everyday life with Mollena Williams-Haas
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Apr 29, 2023 |
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107 Power dynamics for non-kinksters (part 2) How to share power when you were raised to be an entitled jerk & a martyr
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Apr 17, 2023 |
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106 The conversation that will change your life: Power dynamics for non-kinksters
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Apr 08, 2023 |
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105 Shadow work: What if your monsters were trying to help you live the life you always wanted?
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Apr 01, 2023 |
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104 Help! What can I do with all my feelings when my partner is on a date?
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Mar 25, 2023 |
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103 How to successfully ask your partner to explore non-monogamy
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Mar 11, 2023 |
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102 How to find, create, and enjoy non-monogamous community with guest expert Libby Sinback
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Mar 04, 2023 |
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101 Three ways of being polyamorous
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Feb 25, 2023 |
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100 Finding relationship happiness through creative projects
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Feb 18, 2023 |
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99 Balancing individuation & secure attachment with Polysecure author Jessica Fern
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Feb 11, 2023 |
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98 You're *too much*
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Feb 04, 2023 |
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97 Jealousy and sexual arousal: getting off on the green-eyed monster!
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Jan 28, 2023 |
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96 Which is better: To open from the start or to establish couplehood first?
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Jan 21, 2023 |
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95 Envisioning Your Dream Relationship
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Jan 14, 2023 |
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94 Romantic Friendships: Subversive & Awesome
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Jan 07, 2023 |
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93 [MOST POPULAR EPISODE replay] Relationship agreements in the wild
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Dec 31, 2022 |
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92 Finding help and hope during your shift from monogamy to polyamory
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Dec 24, 2022 |
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91 How to deal with criticism so it doesn't ruin your relationships with Dr. Jessica Higgins
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Dec 17, 2022 |
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90 How to make exciting relationship changes less scary
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Dec 10, 2022 |
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89 Which relationship style is right for you? Learn the taxonomy of non-monogamy
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Dec 03, 2022 |
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88 How do I build sensual & sexual desire?
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Nov 26, 2022 |
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87 Is polyamory practical? with guest Laura Boyle
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Nov 19, 2022 |
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86 Stop compromising in your intimate relationships.
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Nov 12, 2022 |
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85 How can I feel more compersion? with Dr. Marie Thouin
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Nov 05, 2022 |
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84 How to have happier relationships using Neuro-Somatic Intelligence
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Oct 22, 2022 |
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83 How to heal from jealousy and envy
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Oct 15, 2022 |
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82 Choosing an individuation relationship with or without your partner
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Oct 08, 2022 |
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81 Here's why we are Playing with Fire!
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Oct 01, 2022 |
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80 Creating conscious, compassionate, open relationships with guest author Kate Loree, LMFT
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Aug 28, 2022 |
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79 Expansive Intimacy with Jim Young, The Centered Coach
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Aug 21, 2022 |
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78 How, When & Why to Visit a Pleasure-Centered Shop with Beth Hankes from Earth & Salt
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Aug 14, 2022 |
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77 Naturally attract the partners you long for with guest Allana Pratt
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Aug 07, 2022 |
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75 Leaving purity culture for a life you love - with guest Lauren Elise Barnes
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Jul 24, 2022 |
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74 Why is my partner so weird? Wait, why am I so weird?
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Jul 17, 2022 |
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73 How to start building a designer relationship
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Jul 10, 2022 |
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72 How to be a classy visitor to a strip club with expert guest Elle Stanger, CSE
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Jul 03, 2022 |
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71 Doing what you said you'd do: When accountability works and when it doesn't
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Jun 26, 2022 |
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70 Guest Expert Megan Bhatia: Choosing Polyamory While Raising a Family
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Jun 19, 2022 |
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69 The Year Of Opening
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Jun 12, 2022 |
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68 Train Your Nervous System to Transform Your Relationships with Elisabeth Kristof
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Jun 05, 2022 |
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67 Exploring **Potential** Kinks
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Apr 24, 2022 |
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66 Who Started It? The Decision to Open Up
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Apr 17, 2022 |
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65 Relationship Agreement Skills - Shared Values & Relationship Purpose
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Apr 10, 2022 |
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64 Trust: Building and Rebuilding
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Apr 03, 2022 |
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63 Relationship Sabotage
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Mar 27, 2022 |
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62 Wounds & Apologies
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Mar 20, 2022 |
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61 Relational Individuation: On becoming your Self
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Mar 13, 2022 |
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60 Making FUN happen in long term relationships
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Mar 06, 2022 |
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59 What do I do with unrequited hots?
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Mar 01, 2022 |
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58 Anxiety when you are consensually non-monogamous
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Feb 20, 2022 |
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57 Affection and Non-sexual Intimacy
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Feb 13, 2022 |
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56 Creative Monogamy
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Feb 06, 2022 |
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55 Parenting While Polyamorous
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Jan 30, 2022 |
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54 Where do we learn the skills of adult friendships?
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Jan 02, 2022 |
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53 How to be happier when big changes threaten your marriage
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Dec 26, 2021 |
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52 Sex parties? Yes, sex parties.
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Dec 19, 2021 |
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51 Let's optimize our sex lives!
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Dec 12, 2021 |
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50 Where is envy secretly kicking your ass?
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Dec 05, 2021 |
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49 Using love languages to make the gift-giving season more pleasurable
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Nov 28, 2021 |
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48 Keeping sex hot over the long term
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Nov 21, 2021 |
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47 Nuanced Conversations in Polyamory: Secondaries, Solos, and Couple's Privilege
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Nov 14, 2021 |
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46 How, when, and why to CELEBRATE!
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Nov 07, 2021 |
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45 Silent agreement - One person's perspective on a sexless marriage
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Oct 31, 2021 |
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44 Three ways porn has brought us closer together
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Oct 24, 2021 |
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43 The missing ingredient in boundary work with guest Melissa Hite
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Oct 17, 2021 |
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42 It's normal to be a messy human in messy relationships. Really, it is.
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Oct 10, 2021 |
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41 Emotional regulation and co-regulation
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Oct 03, 2021 |
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40 How to have a productive consensual non-monogamy conversation
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Sep 26, 2021 |
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39 I want to be consensually non-monogamous: how do I talk to my partner?
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Sep 19, 2021 |
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38 How jealousy was the best thing that ever happened to me
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Sep 12, 2021 |
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37 Summer's over... negotiating how we handle getting back to the grind
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Sep 05, 2021 |
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36 Vacation sex at home
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Aug 29, 2021 |
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35 How not to let your relationship agreement screw up your relationship
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Aug 22, 2021 |
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34 Three ways masturbation improves your relationship
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Aug 15, 2021 |
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33 Individuation Accelerator: What if we don't keep the same beat in our relationship?
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Aug 08, 2021 |
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32 What do I do when my partner's family is driving me crazy?
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Aug 01, 2021 |
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31 Threesomes... what to consider before the fun
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Jul 25, 2021 |
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30 How to go from off-the-rack to custom-designed relationship
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Jul 18, 2021 |
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29 Letting your partner grow at their own pace
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Jul 04, 2021 |
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28 Showing up for your partner during heartbreak & grief
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Jun 20, 2021 |
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27 Relationship agreements in the wild
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Jun 06, 2021 |
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26 Doesn't this person ever leave?
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May 09, 2021 |
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25 No, really, who IS this person I love?
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Apr 25, 2021 |
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24 Do I really want my lover to see me?
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Apr 18, 2021 |
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23 Magic marriage ingredient: Play
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Mar 28, 2021 |
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22 Relationship flags - red, green, and otherwise
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Mar 21, 2021 |
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21 A secret weapon for relationship satisfaction
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Mar 14, 2021 |
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20 What an open relationship *might* look like
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Mar 07, 2021 |
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19 The shame of a messy beginning
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Feb 28, 2021 |
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18 Shame & secrecy (and sex!)
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Feb 21, 2021 |
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17 Sexual Fantasies
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Feb 14, 2021 |
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16 Relationship agreements and polyamory (or monogamy!)
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Feb 07, 2021 |
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15 What does intimacy look like if you are non-monogamous?
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Jan 31, 2021 |
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14 Why polyamory?
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Jan 24, 2021 |
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13 Celebrating and still learning
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Dec 29, 2020 |
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12 Feel like a failure when a relationship ends? 3 tools to help ease life's big transitions
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Dec 24, 2020 |
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11 Making money talk-aboutable
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Dec 22, 2020 |
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10 Navigating drastically different communication styles
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Dec 18, 2020 |
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9 Fighting with love...how we relearned how to argue
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Dec 15, 2020 |
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8 Sex reimagined...with one question
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Dec 10, 2020 |
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7 How to get what you want for the holiday (or any day!)
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Dec 08, 2020 |
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6 The courage to want
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Dec 03, 2020 |
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5 Relationship resilience for the holidays
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Dec 01, 2020 |
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4 Who the heck IS this person I love?
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Nov 26, 2020 |
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3 Boundaries at the holidays
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Nov 24, 2020 |
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2 Empowered relating & holiday stress
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Nov 18, 2020 |
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1 Wanting more in love (even at the holidays!)
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Nov 17, 2020 |