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J.D. McCabe - Male Domestic Violence Survivor Tells Shocking Story of Marital Abuse
J.D. McCabe maintained a loving relationship with his wife for nearly twenty years before their marriage, family, and world began to crumble. Their foundation had been rooted in "trust is the bedrock of a healthy relationship". Indeed, Erin had always claimed that things wouldn’t — couldn’t — work without trust.
But Erin became suspicious of his every move. His phone calls, texts, and work emails were turned into proof of infidelity, drug addiction, and a network of lies on his part.
She enlisted her mother in her efforts, and together they forged the words of family, trust and honesty beat him into the ground. Their accusations accumulated, twisting reality, and eventually resulting in Danny's involuntary hospitalization.
|Jul 30, 2022|
Huge National Podcast "The Only One in the Room" - Interviewing Bill Mitchell
I was delighted when I was contacted by "The Only One in the Room" podcast. Hosts Laura and Scott have a series that has earned national attention.
Getting onto this podcast series takes having a story they feel is worth their precious time and attention. The story of our family's journey after my daughter's tragedy gained us this opportunity.
|Jul 03, 2022|
Victorea Luminary - Courageous Survivor of Two Narcissistic Relationships
From a very early age, Victorea Luminary and her father were abused by her alcoholic mother. Finally free from decades of abuse, she innocently ran into even more trouble with two different relationships with narcissists. One was her husband; the other a man she thought was going to become her savior.
To find out more about the good works of Victorea Luminary, head to https://takebackyourpowernow.com/
|May 12, 2022|
Bill Mitchell - Answering Your Most-Pressing Questions
I get a lot of questions via email, Facebook, Instagram, and before and after speeches. I felt it a good idea to answer them for you in this episode.
|May 01, 2022|
Why We Made this Podcast Series
So, therefore, the podcast series. The wonderful thing about podcasts is I can record one, edit it and share it all in the same day. I could not do that with a book.
I hope you listen to some of the episodes in this podcast series. There are 40 in all. I would love for you to share these with those you know who have children in high school or college. Consider this fact: one and three women will suffer serious physical harm from an intimate partner during their lifetimes. It typically happens between the ages of 16 and 24, but can happen to any woman at any age. It is shocking.
Thank you for listening to this. I hope you subscribe to this WHEN DATING HURTS series.
|Apr 20, 2022|
Tony Lapp - Executive Director of a Treatment Program for Abusers and Harmful Partners.
This time, I speak with Tony Lapp, the Executive Director at Courdea. Tony is also an experienced trainer, educator, writer, and therapist.
This organization sprang forth from the idea of getting to the root of relationship abuse. It’s all about treating the person who is doing the hurting with respect and warmth. Courdea’s tagline is” “Helping people become safe partners”.
|Apr 05, 2022|
Katie Campbell - Saving Survivors' Pets
The WHEN DATING HURTS podcast has covered many facets of the domestic violence issue. But this one is new to us.
Abusers often have patterns of violence towards all members of a household including children and pets. It’s difficult enough for the abused to find shelter for themselves. For that reason, many survivors stay in abusive homes for fear of subjecting their pets to continued abuse if left behind. And sometimes, it’s not only abuse, it’s torture or death.
RedRover, established in 1987, sought to do something to bring animals out of crisis. We will talk about the work of this wonderful organization with Katie Campbell, RedRover’s Director of Collaboration and Outreach.
|Mar 29, 2022|
"Sara" - This Domestic Violence Survivor is My Cousin
"Sara" is a domestic violence survivor. She is also my cousin.
Listen to a narrative of patience and courage. Sara took years before she could tell her story. We applaud her for sharing it with us on the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast.
|Mar 20, 2022|
Susan Saurman - Domestic Violence Survivor from an Early Age
Susan Saurman and I met in early 2021 when we traded emails soon after she read my book. She told me her upbringing was in a home made terrifying by domestic violence perpetrated by her cruel tyrannical father.
In this WHEN DATING HURTS episode, you will hear Susan describe her young life of abuse and tragedy. She describes an abusive upbringing, paralyzing fear she suffered, and events leading up to the murder of her mother when Susan was 14. Somehow she managed to turn her story into a breathtaking narrative of courage and ascendence. She ultimately found the strength to become the extraordinary survivor she is today.
You will never forget what Susan tells us. You can read Susan's entire story in her newly published memoir, The Courage I Learned. Find it in paperback and ebook on Amazon.
|Feb 15, 2022|
Retrospective - Outstanding Moments from 2021
On this special WHEN DATING HURTS episode, we include segments from some of our most remarkable moments in 2021. You will hear from survivors and domestic violence counselors whose insights help us better understand dating (and domestic) violence, how to detect it, how to cope, and ways to safely break free. It's worth your time if you know someone in or entering high school or college.
|Feb 11, 2022|
Scott Johnson, Host of the Nationally-Known Podcast, "What Was That Like?", Interviewing Bill Mitchell
Scott Johnson is the host of What Was That Like. His podcast is one of the most-followed podcasts in the country with more than 20,000 downloads per month!
It is quite an honor to be able to tell our daughter's story on Scott's powerful podcast. He is an excellent interviewer; you will hear it yourself here.
|Feb 08, 2022|
Three More Chapters from WHEN DATING HURTS Audiobook
In this episode, you can listen to three more chapters from the WHEN DATING HURTS audiobook. This audiobook joins the paperback and eBook versions on Amazon. You can also access this audiobook via Audible and iTunes.
THE WARNING SIGNS
|Feb 04, 2022|
Elaine - A Survivor Who Suffered 20 Years of Marital Abuse
Elaine is a domestic abuse survivor. She met the man she would later marry in a senior chemistry class in high school. They dated on and off in college. They were married during her senior year.
Elaine was married to "Doug" for over 20 years. Their two children were born and raised within a household of turbulence.
Today, with great courage, Elaine will tell you what it was like to know and be tethered to this man. Hers is a cautionary tale that if something feels wrong, it is wrong. Then do something.
You can start by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE and ask for guidance.
|Jan 28, 2022|
Off and Running in 2022. Plus: Preview Two More WHEN DATING HURTS Audiobook Chapters
This is a short episode but it includes a couple of questions for you about dating violence. Plus, we added two more chapters from the WHEN DATING HURTS audiobook which will be released soon on Amazon and Audible. We are in final editing. I wish we could move faster.
As we enter 2022, please think about putting a real emphasis on learning the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. You can google them online, or consider picking up a copy of the WHEN DATING HURTS book on Amazon. Not a big investment when it can make such a difference in someone's life.
If you know someone who's a survivor of dating (or domestic) violence, someone who wants to tell her (or his) story on this podcast, please contact me at BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com. We have been told our survivor stories are the most helpful episodes we have created.
|Jan 03, 2022|
WYPR 88.1 FM Baltimore - Segment with Bill Mitchell 12.22.2021
I was honored to appear on the Midday Show on WYPR which is hosted by Tom Hall. WYPR 88.1 FM is a local news station for NPR in Baltimore.
From WYPR's website:
|Dec 27, 2021|
Preview: New WHEN DATING HURTS Audiobook
The WHEN DATING HURTS audiobook will be coming out soon. We are in the final stages of editing.
On this podcast, you can listen to the first three chapters of WHEN DATING HURTS read by author Bill Mitchell.
|Dec 22, 2021|
Bill Mitchell - Interviewed on the "I Need Blue" podcast
From time to time, I am fortunate to be asked to be interviewed on someone else's podcast. This is one of those occasions.
"I Need Blue", hosted by Jen Lee, shares real-life stories of people who have experienced traumatic situations. It's a podcast that supports survivors of violent crimes. It also gives thanks to law enforcement professionals who were there to save the day.
|Dec 04, 2021|
Sheri Kurdakul - Survivor and Forward-Thinking Entrepreneur
Sheri Kurdakul is a domestic abuse survivor. There is nothing typical about the abuse she suffered. Like many survivors of abuse, her story is challenging to listen to but there is much to be learned from her.
Most survivors I have met tell of the frequent times they were on the receiving end of despicable abuse. But they also speak about the inventive ways they endured and eventually overcame those circumstances. This is one of those stories.
At first, you might feel sorry for Sheri but later you will come to admire and celebrate her courage and desire to rise above.
This is Sheri's story.
|Nov 12, 2021|
Laura Clary - Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner at Greater Baltimore Medical Center
Laura Clary, BSN, RN, FNE-A/P, SANE-A has been a registered nurse for 11 years. In 2010, she completed her Forensic Nursing training at Greater Baltimore Medical Center and joined the GBMC team as a Forensic Nurse Examiner. She has been the Clinical Program Manager of the GBMC SAFE (Sexual Assault Forensic Examination) & Domestic Violence Program since 2014.
Laura is certified to care for patients who have been victims of sexual assault, rape, child abuse/neglect, intimate partner violence, and human trafficking. Laura obtained her National professional certification as a Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner from the International Association of Forensic Nurses in 2013.
In May of 2017, she was nationally recognized and was awarded the title of “America’s Most Amazing Nurse” by Prevention Magazine and additionally awarded Baltimore County, Maryland’s Woman of the Year in 2018.
|Nov 05, 2021|
"Ruth" - A Survivor Shares Her Marital Domestic Abuse Story
"Ruth" hoped everything would go perfectly when she met her husband-to-be. It did not.
She found the weight of their relationship was squarely on her before, during, and after she was married. This was a marriage that eventually included three children—all boys.
|Oct 29, 2021|
"Gabby" - Survivor Tells Her Teen Dating Violence Story
"Gabby" was in an abusive dating relationship when she was in her sophomore year at college. Even though she had dated a man for only two months, his power and control techniques were turned on "full strength".
|Oct 24, 2021|
Angela Hayde - A Survivor of Teen Dating Violence
We were fortunate to catch up with Angela Hayde and hear her dating violence story. In captivating detail, she tells what it was like to be dating a young man who was abusive when she was in high school and in college.
|Oct 11, 2021|
"CausePods" Podcast - Interviewing Bill Mitchell of "When Dating Hurts"
"CausePods" is a podcast series created to raise awareness for the people who create podcasts to better their community, society, and the world.
The host of "CausePods", Mathew Passy, interviewed me (Bill Mitchell) this time. I appreciated this interview so much, I asked if I could include it on the WHEN DATING HURTS series. Here it is.
|Oct 09, 2021|
"No Grey Zone" Podcast - Interviewing Bill Mitchell of "When Dating Hurts"
Kathryn Marsh and Melissa Hoppmeyer are prosecutors who specialize in child abuse, sexual assault and domestic violence crimes. They are co-hosts of the thriving "No Grey Zone" podcast, now in season two.
|Oct 07, 2021|
"Ryan" - Male Domestic Violence Survivor Tells His Breathtaking Story
"Ryan" volunteered to speak with us. We're glad he did. What he says is stunning. This episode will be remembered as one of the most-compelling interviews in our entire WHEN DATING HURTS series.
I knew parts of Ryan's background, but I didn't know all he'd been through until we spoke. You will hear his full story as you experience and learn from it. I gained such respect for Ryan's courage by hearing about his terrifying ordeal.
Your time invested in listening will be rewarded by seeing how someone who experienced concurrent nightmares was able to pull himself together and find safety.
Be sure to share this with people you know who need to hear it. Each of us will learn from Ryan.
|Sep 22, 2021|
Denise Venuto - Dynamic Domestic Violence Counselor
Episode 19. Denise Venuto, Dynamic Domestic Violence Counselor
Denise's experiences, both personal and professional, led her to obtain her Master of Science Degree in Clinical Counseling Psychology from Chestnut Hill College in Philadelphia.
In 2018, Denise began a clinical internship with Laurel House then continued working with them as an individual, group and financial counselor. She has offered group counseling for young adults (ages 18-24) who have been affected by intimate partner violence.
Denise is now running a new program called the “Economic Justice and Empowerment Program” that will empower survivors in financial safety and career matters. Financial abuse occurs in 99% of all abusive marriages. A real 99%.
Denise makes such an informative interview. So glad she wanted to speak with us.
|Sep 17, 2021|
Nichelle Lynn-Hennigan - Professional Domestic Violence Counselor
Episode 18. Nichelle Lynn-Hennigan - Professional Domestic Violence Counselor
I spoke with Nichelle Lynn-Hennigan who is a licensed professional counselor. She joined Laurel House five years ago as a master’s level clinical counseling intern. Today, she is a senior counselor.
Before coming to Laurel House, for over 12 years, Nichelle had been advocating in the crisis work field with survivors. She was also a hotline crisis worker with Women Organized Against Rape, a crisis worker with Lenape Valley Foundation, and a counselor with the Center for Family Guidance.
Nichelle is a compassionate counselor whose hope is: "That one day all survivors of abuse will be able to find healing—and the tools to cope with the trauma they have endured."
|Sep 05, 2021|
Katie Sanford - Domestic Violence Counselor for Middle Schools, High Schools and College Students
Episode 17. Katie Sanford - Domestic Violence Counselor for Middle Schools, High Schools and College Students
Katie Sanford is an educator with Laurel House, a comprehensive domestic violence agency in Montgomery County, Pennsylvania.
Katie has been in prevention education for 3 years. She's worked with Laurel House for 2 years.
She received her undergraduate degree in Sociology with a minor in Gender Studies from Bloomsburg University in PA—and is currently attending West Chester University (also in PA) to obtain her Master’s in Public Health with a concentration in Community Health.
Katie’s core responsibility is talking with the community—mainly students ranging from middle school to college, about domestic violence. Her passion is to change behaviors and lessen the prevalence of dating violence in the future.
I’m excited to have this opportunity to speak with Katie. What she knows will save the lives of our children.
|Aug 29, 2021|
Emily McCoy - Professional Domestic Violence Counselor
Episode 16. Emily McCoy - Professional Domestic Violence Counselor
We hear from Emily McCoy who is a professional counselor working at Laurel House, a domestic violence agency in Montgomery County, Pennsylvania. Laurel House serves individuals, families, and communities throughout Montgomery County, PA.
Emily earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology from West Chester University (PA) and a master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Villanova University (PA).
She began work at Laurel House in January 2019. After volunteering for a few months, she accepted a position as an individual and support group counselor.
You can feel Emily's energy throughout this podcast. Her ideas and insights on how to help abused individuals makes this a compelling episode.
|Aug 18, 2021|
Bill Mitchell - June 3 Thoughts
A different kind of an episode this time. I felt like taking a walk and recording my thoughts around the time of the sixteenth anniversary of my daughter's death by dating violence.
I spoke what I was feeling never knowing if I would share this with anyone. I suggest you take a listen.
|Jun 28, 2021|
Rosie Santulli - Hotline Counselor at the Women's Center of Montgomery County (PA)
On this episode of the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast series, I had the honor of speaking with Rosie Santulli.
Rosie has been involved with the Women’s Center of Montgomery County for over ten years. The Women’s Center of Montgomery County is a domestic violence service near Philadelphia.
The Mission is: Freedom from Domestic Violence and other Forms of Abuse.
|Jun 21, 2021|
Maria Macaluso - Executive Director of the Women's Center of Montgomery County (PA)
It was my great honor to speak with Maria Macaluso this time.
In January 1998, Maria joined the Women’s Center of Montgomery County, PA as the executive director. The Women’s Center is a domestic violence service.
Since 1976, the Women's Center has been a volunteer, community organization whose mission is: Freedom from Domestic Violence and other forms of abuse.
|Jun 15, 2021|
Dave Thomas - Veteran Intimate Partner Violence Expert
Dave Thomas is focused primarily on projects pertaining to the National Law Enforcement Leadership Initiative on Violence Against Women—which is funded by the United States Office on Violence Against Women.
During his law enforcement career with Maryland’s Montgomery County Police Department, Dave Thomas taught at the Police Training Academy, served on the S.W.A.T. team, was a Hostage Negotiator, and a member of the Domestic Violence Unit.
In addition to helping create the Domestic Violence Unit, he was responsible for the department’s curriculum development in domestic violence training, as well as the policy development on domestic violence related issues.
Dave continues to challenge himself in his quest to achieve excellence in the domestic violence field and considers addressing violence against women his calling in life.
|May 28, 2021|
Jasmine Uribe - Leader in the Dating Abuse Prevention Movement
In 2010, Jasmine Uribe joined Break the Cycle, a nationally recognized non-profit working to end relationship violence with youth ages 12-24.
Now, with over 15 years working to amplify the voices of survivors of violence, Jasmine is a program innovator and pioneer in advancing national dating violence prevention efforts.
In her current role as CEO (and Founder) of “Leaders Ending Violence”, Jasmine offers a robust set of skills—to diverse audiences—at a senior consultant level. She’s a trained facilitator delivering workshops to both youth and adults related to increasing education, awareness, and support on matters related to dating and domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking, and cyber-stalking.
Jasmine is a trailblazer, willing to address the issues that matter—while challenging the status quo. Her mission is to development programs and opportunities that inspire change, break down barriers where they exist, and build authentic relationships along the way.
|Apr 29, 2021|
Karen Widdoss - Fearless domestic violence survivor and the driving force behind "Karen’s Law"
Karen Widdoss is the courageous survivor of a savage assault suffered when she was a teen.
In the summer of 1994, her ex-boyfriend attacked her and nearly took her life. How she managed to hold onto her life is a complete miracle.
Karen has given her voice to survivors of violent crimes by speaking out about her experiences so that no woman would ever suffer as she has.
In this episode, we also talk about "Karen’s Law" which dramatically changes the way parole board hearings are handled. "Karen's Law" was passed on November 25, 2020 by the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania.
Karen Widdoss has continually used her tragedy to dramatically help others in need.
|Mar 09, 2021|
Ann Burke - Mother of Dating Violence Victim
In September 2005, Ann Burke lost her daughter, when Lindsay Ann was murdered by her ex-boyfriend.
Lindsay Ann, who was 23 at the time, was similar to most victims of dating violence. Like my daughter, Kristin, she was not aware of the warning signs associated with dangerous relationships. Lindsay Ann's life was lost because she had never been informed.
Since 2005, Ann Burke has dedicated her life to teaching all she has learned about dating violence.
In July 2007, Ann, now a retired Health teacher living in Rhode Island, worked with legislators to pass into law the Lindsay Ann Burke Act. We talk about that and much more on this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast.
|Mar 05, 2021|
Heather Glogolich - Law Enforcement Professional and Survivor of Domestic Violence
Lt. Heather Glogolich and I met during an all-day conference on domestic violence in October 2020. We were so impressed with each other’s presentations we decided we needed to do something together. This podcast episode is a solid start.
On October 16th, 2008, Heather's life changed forever when she became the victim of intense emotional and physical abuse at the hands of her husband. He also was a police officer. Instead of succumbing to feelings of hopelessness, she used this opportunity to find her strength.
Heather took that horrific experience and turned it into her calling. She advocates for victims of domestic violence by offering resources and speaking to people all over this country.
Listen to Heather's story and all she has learned about the insidious epidemic known as domestic violence. If DV can happen to Heather, it can happen to anyone.
|Feb 08, 2021|
Carla Clanagan - Mother of a dating violence survivor
In 2015, I met Carla Clanagan at domestic-violence related events. Besides her limitless work in the domestic violence field, Carla is also the founder of "In His Eyes", an organization committed to helping women labeled as ex-offenders.
In 2017, Carla's daughter, Makenzie, was brutally attacked by an ex-boyfriend. She was very fortunate to survive. After much rehabilitation, Makenzie is now using her tragedy to speak out on intimate partner violence.
Carla has dedicated her life to helping young women stay safe from the epidemic we both know only too well as dating violence.
|Feb 01, 2021|
Patrisha McLean - Heroic survivor of 29 years of marital abuse.
Patrisha McLean was married to a world-renowned singer for 29 years. It started out as a fairytale relationship but devolved into a 24/7 nightmare.
Like many survivors, it took Patrisha a very long time before she recognized it as classic domestic violence. Getting out almost cost Patrisha her life.
This episode teaches what can happen to anyone who doesn't know the warning signs. It also informs you on what to do when these red flags are detected.
|Jan 25, 2021|
Detective Jim McGowan - Insights Into Dating Violence and More
On June 3, 2005, Detective Jim McGowan was the first person who contacted me with knowledge about what happened to my daughter. Earlier that day, he interviewed Kristin's murderer—her ex-boyfriend, Nick. From that time, Nick has remained incarcerated.
Over the years, I've gained invaluable insights from Jim on why abusers do what they do, and why abused women stay in dangerous relationships. Jim shares this and so much more on this "When Dating Hurts" episode.
It's a "must-listen-to" episode for parents, friends, and families of women who are, or might be, in dating relationships. I'm certain this episode will save someone's life.
|Jan 10, 2021|
Bill Mitchell - Father of Dating Violence Victim, Kristin Mitchell
I was interviewed by Jerusha Mack from Halton Women's Place, located in Ontario, Canada.
I felt this interview was so comprehensive, I asked to share it with our "When Dating Hurts" listeners. Ms. Mack, a licensed teacher and a public education team lead on Halton's Violence Prevention and Community Education team, graciously said yes. .
Halton Women’s Place provides shelter and crisis services for physically, emotionally, financially, and sexually abused women and their dependent children. They are dedicated to ending violence against women and their children.
Thanks to Jerusha Mack and Halton Women's Place for helping me get this lifesaving information to you.
|Jan 06, 2021|
"Caitlyn" - *Our Most Listened to Episode - Heroic Domestic Violence Survivor Tells Her Story
I met "Caitlyn" in the fall of 2009 before I gave a speech about my daughter's murder.
What Caitlyn told me was the most horrific story I had ever heard at that time. Honestly, it continues to disturb me.
I was fortunate to conduct an interview with Caitlyn. Her story shows how bad domestic violence can get, but also demonstrates how strong a determined woman can be.
There is no person I respect more than Caitlyn. You will soon know why.
|Dec 29, 2020|
Beth Sturman, Executive Director of Laurel House Domestic Violence Agency
Beth Sturman is the executive director of the Laurel House Domestic Violence Agency. She is also a dear friend of mine.
Laurel House is the largest DV agency in the Philadelphia area. I've known Beth for 15 years and she has explained what I needed to know to be able to speak out on the dating violence epidemic. I consider her a mentor and a friend.
What she discusses in this episode can save someone's life. You should listen to this! then share it with those you care about.
|Dec 27, 2020|
Intro - "When Dating Hurts" Podcast Series
Hi, I'm Bill Mitchell, and this is the When Dating Hurts podcast. My daughter, Kristin, was murdered by her ex-boyfriend in June 2005. It was twenty days after her college graduation. She had a position lined up with General Mills at that time, but never made it that far.
How can women protect themselves from dating violence? One way: listen to this podcast series. Then share it with those you care about.
This podcast is a space where I chat with people who appear in my book, and even more women and men I have met who have deep insights into dating violence.
You will come to find this podcast is not about MY family, it's about YOURS. It's for anyone with young women in their lives because they are at risk if they do not have ample awareness and education about dating violence. My guests and I will fill in the blanks and make this world a little safer for women.
|Nov 28, 2020|