Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
By Sam Tielemans, LMFT
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Break free from pornography and rebuild the trust in your relationship. Hosted by licensed marriage therapist Sam Tielemans, Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction is your go-to podcast for overcoming porn addiction, restoring emotional and sexual intimacy, and healing after betrayal trauma in your marriage.
Each episode offers practical tools, relationship advice, and real stories of men and couples navigating the path of porn recovery and restoring your marriage. Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or want to go deeper in quitting pornography and rebuilding your relationship, this podcast gives you the clarity, hope, and next steps you need.
Topics include:
How to overcome porn urges and triggers without relying on willpower
Rebuilding trust after betrayal in your marriage
Restoring emotional connection and sexual closeness
Understanding the root causes of porn use
Navigating communication breakdowns, shame, fear, and disconnection
New episodes every week. Subscribe now and start your healing journey toward lasting freedom and relationship renewal.
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211: The Carrot or the Stick - How to Bring Her Wall Down Without Pressure
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Aug 28, 2025 |
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210: A Simple Tool Anyone Can Use to Reduce Urges: Interview with Jeremy Lipkowitz
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Aug 21, 2025 |
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209: You Feel Pressure to "Do Better" But You Don't Have a Plan – Steal Mine
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Aug 14, 2025 |
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208: "If He Relapses Again, I'm Done." (How to Protect Your Marriage the Right Way)
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Aug 07, 2025 |
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207: The One Conversation That Rebuilds Security After Betrayal After Pornography Use
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Jul 31, 2025 |
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206: How To Stop Self-Sabotage So You Can Quit Pornography and Repair Your Relationship
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Jul 24, 2025 |
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205: Can She Really Know If He’s Not Struggling With Porn Anymore? Look For This.
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Jul 17, 2025 |
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204: He Quit Porn — But the Marriage Still Feels Broken (here's what to do)
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Jul 10, 2025 |
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203: Live Session: The Best Tools to Help You Resolve Triggers and End the Arguments
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Jul 03, 2025 |
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202: The Only Plan You Need to Quit Pornography By the End of 2025
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Jun 26, 2025 |
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201: "Why Did You Do It?" How to Navigate the Hardest Question After Pornography Use
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Jun 19, 2025 |
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200: The Real Reason You Keep Struggling with Porn — And Why More Rules Won’t Help
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Jun 12, 2025 |
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199: You Don’t Need to Do Everything to Quit Pornography — Just This One Thing
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Jun 05, 2025 |
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198: If You Want Your Urges for Pornography to Go Away, Do This
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May 29, 2025 |
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197: You’re Not Codependent — You’re Craving Connection (Here’s the Difference)
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May 22, 2025 |
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196: Summertime: Visual Temptation Is Everywhere — Here’s How He Can Stay Grounded and Help Her Feel Safe
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May 15, 2025 |
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195: Why Stress Triggers Porn Addiction — And How to Break the Pattern
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May 08, 2025 |
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194: A Simple Way to Make Big Progress—In Solving Problems & Building Skills (pt. 3)
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May 01, 2025 |
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193: 5 Relationship Skills You Need to Repair the Damage and Find Closure (pt. 2)
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Apr 24, 2025 |
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192: 5 Core Skills You Need to Overcome Pornography For Good (pt. 1)
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Apr 17, 2025 |
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191: When His Sexual Desire Goes Down as He Becomes Free From Pornography (and tools to rebuild your sexual relationship)
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Apr 10, 2025 |
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190: My Simple 3 Step Framework to Resolving Triggers and Ending Relapse Cycles For Good
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Apr 03, 2025 |
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189: We Rewired John's Subconscious Mind to No Longer Desire Porn (in 44 minutes)
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Mar 27, 2025 |
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188: Jacob Success Story – From Daily Struggles to Not Thinking About or Battle Urges at All Anymore
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Mar 20, 2025 |
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187: How to Overcome Pornography Use When You're Overwhelmed and Don't Have a Lot of Time
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Mar 13, 2025 |
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186: Will Sad and Painful Days in Our Marriage Get Better? Yes, If You Follow This Blueprint
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Mar 06, 2025 |
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185: She Thinks If She Was Enough, He Wouldn’t Have Watched Pornography (you need to hear this)
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Feb 27, 2025 |
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184: Rob's Success Story: How He Went From Almost Divorced to No More Triggers and Urges
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Feb 20, 2025 |
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183: Fundamental Steps to Repairing Your Marriage After Discovering Pornography Use
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Feb 13, 2025 |
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182: Is Porn Addiction Just Part of Who I Am? Do This and It Won’t Be
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Feb 06, 2025 |
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181: When Repair Conversations Fail: He Gets Defensive, Sounds Robotic, and is Unemotional
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Jan 30, 2025 |
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180 Success Story: Tyler's New Approach to Ending His Porn Use In Just A Few Months Without Anxiety and Self-Punishment
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Jan 23, 2025 |
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179: Critical Advice For Men Who Aren't Free From Porn For 90 Days Yet
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Jan 16, 2025 |
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178: 3 Safety Indicators When It’s Hard For Her to Believe He’s Telling the Truth
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Jan 09, 2025 |
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177: 5 Mistakes to Avoid if You Want to Quit Pornography in 2025
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Jan 02, 2025 |
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176: Why Quitting Pornography Has Felt Hard (and 3 practical strategies that make it much easier)
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Dec 26, 2024 |
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175: When He Doesn’t Talk About His Urges, She Thinks He’s Just Hiding Them
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Dec 19, 2024 |
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Mini Episode 3: A Proven Strategy to Rebuilding Trust After Pornography Use
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Dec 16, 2024 |
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174: Don’t Suppress Urges, Here’s How You Can Use Them to Overcome Pornography Use
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Dec 12, 2024 |
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Mini Episode 2: Understanding Emotions Can Shortcut the Healing Process
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Dec 09, 2024 |
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173: Improving Sexual Intimacy When There's Been Damage By Pornography Use
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Dec 05, 2024 |
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Mini Episode 1: If You Struggle With Repeated Setbacks, Do This
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Dec 02, 2024 |
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172: When He Starts Making Progress, She Gets Scared He’ll Fall Back
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Nov 28, 2024 |
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171: One Step 100 Times vs 100 Steps – The Few Skills That Matter For Progress on Self and Marriage
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Nov 21, 2024 |
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170: 3 Step Framework to Solve Problems in Your Marriage and Overcome Pornography
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Nov 14, 2024 |
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169: Rebuilding Trust After Pornography Use (Assumed vs Acquired Trust)
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Nov 07, 2024 |
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168: The Best Tool to End Fights Faster And Find Closure in Conversations
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Oct 31, 2024 |
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167: Managing Urges and Triggers vs Being Free From Them
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Oct 24, 2024 |
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166: Success Story: Mike Finds Freedom after 30 Years of Struggling to Quit Porn
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Oct 17, 2024 |
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165: Why He Turned To Porn or Someone Else and Not His Wife - Explained
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Oct 10, 2024 |
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164: Live Call: Overcoming Inadequacy, Shame, and Procrastination
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Oct 03, 2024 |
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163: How to Soften The Pain of Betrayal Due to Pornography Use
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Sep 26, 2024 |
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162: The Blueprint For When A Husband Can’t Break The Cycle of Pornography Use Every Few Weeks Or Months
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Sep 19, 2024 |
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161: 3 Relationship Pillars to Help Create Connection and Security
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Sep 12, 2024 |
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160: What If He Secretly Returns to Pornography? How She Can Know, And 5 Ways He Can Rebuild Security
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Sep 05, 2024 |
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159: Struggling to Quit Porn For Good? You're Likely Using the Wrong Tools (do this instead)
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Aug 29, 2024 |
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158: Success Story: How Kevin Eliminated Pornography Use As A Coping Mechanism
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Aug 22, 2024 |
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157: Build Security Back Into Your Marriage With This Easy, Effective Approach
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Aug 15, 2024 |
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156: Is It Possible to Quit Porn and NEVER Return Again? (…yes, here’s how)
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Aug 08, 2024 |
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155: If She Stays, She Thinks He’s Just Getting Away With Everything
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Aug 01, 2024 |
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154: LIVE CALL – How to Resolve Triggers During / After Sexual Intimacy
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Jul 25, 2024 |
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153: When She's Hurt By Him Looking at Women in Public
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Jul 18, 2024 |
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152: 3 Things to Jumpstart Marriage Repair
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Jul 11, 2024 |
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151: From Grief, Sadness, and Hurt to Healing and Closure
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Jul 04, 2024 |
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150: He’s a Source of Pain AND a Source of Comfort
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Jun 27, 2024 |
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149: A New Twist On Identify and Resolving Underlying Issues That Lead to Pornography Use
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Jun 20, 2024 |
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148: 5 Signs That the Trust in Your Marriage is Seriously Damaged
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Jun 13, 2024 |
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147: Tools to Help Your Relationship Progress If She Brings Up Her Pain
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Jun 06, 2024 |
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146: Success Story: Braden Shares the 5 Specific Things That Changed His Life and Helped Him Quit Pornography
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May 30, 2024 |
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145: When It’s Hard to Work On Your Marriage and Forgiveness Seems Impossible to Achieve
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May 23, 2024 |
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144: 5 Signs She’s Feeling Betrayal Trauma (And How You Can Address It)
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May 09, 2024 |
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143: How to Avoid Pornography If Your Spouse Leaves Town or For The Day
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May 03, 2024 |
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142: Success Story: Todd is Free From Porn 2 Years Later (and here's how)
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Apr 25, 2024 |
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141: Why a Husband Avoids Initiating Conversations and How to Resolve It
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Apr 18, 2024 |
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140: When Shame and "Self Pity" Dissolves Connection and Breaks Down the Conversation
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Apr 11, 2024 |
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139: When a Wife Brings Up Her Husband's Lack of Follow Through
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Apr 04, 2024 |
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138: The Top 3 Ways to Kill Your Chances of Having a Strong Marriage
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Mar 29, 2024 |
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137: How Long Does It Take to Repair A Marriage After Pornography Use?
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Mar 21, 2024 |
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136: How Long Do We Need To Keep Talking About It?
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Mar 14, 2024 |
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135: She Found Out He Was Hiding A Slip… Now What?
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Mar 07, 2024 |
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134: He Thinks He's Making Progress Helping Her Feel Safe, She Doesn't
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Feb 29, 2024 |
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133: Narcissism and Pornography Use: Why They've Had It Wrong The Whole Time
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Feb 22, 2024 |
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132: When the Tools Don’t Help You Feel Better or Make Progress
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Feb 15, 2024 |
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131: Emotional Safety in Marriage is Key: Here Are 3 Ways to Create It
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Feb 08, 2024 |
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130: The Solution to Avoid Trading One Bad Coping Mechanism for Another
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Feb 01, 2024 |
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129: How to Help Her Feel Secure Again in the Relationship After Pornography Use
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Jan 25, 2024 |
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128: How to Overcome Feelings of Unworthiness and a Lack of Self Love
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Jan 18, 2024 |
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127: The Key to Addressing Her Sadness If It Feels Like You’re Not Making Progress
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Jan 11, 2024 |
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126: The Damage of Pornography Use and Deception Can Be Healed – Here’s How
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Jan 04, 2024 |
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125: He Wants to Move Forward, But She’s Still Hurting and Her Wall is Up
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Dec 28, 2023 |
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124: When Seeking Validation Leads to Pornography and/or Physical Infidelity
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Dec 21, 2023 |
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123: Harvard Professor Shares a Critical Factor in Successfully Quitting Pornography
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Dec 14, 2023 |
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122: This Conversation Can Unintentionally Harm Your Ability to Directly Address and Resolve Pornography Use
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Dec 07, 2023 |
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121: Can Having Sex Make it Harder For Him to Overcome Pornography?
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Nov 30, 2023 |
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120: The 3 Best Ways to Help Her Pain Go Away
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Nov 24, 2023 |
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119: Success Story with Kenna and Dave – From Near Divorce to Connection and Safety
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Nov 16, 2023 |
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118: When She Says, “If You Loved Me, You Never Would Have Watched Pornography”
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Nov 08, 2023 |
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117: How to Eliminate the Desire for Pornography So You Can Feel ”Normal”
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Nov 02, 2023 |
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116: If a Wife Has Unmet Expectations and a Husband Feels Like His Efforts Aren’t Enough
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Oct 26, 2023 |
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115: When Saying How You Feel Leads to a Fight
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Oct 20, 2023 |
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114: Avoid This Thought Pattern So You Can Overcome Pornography and Betrayal Trauma
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Oct 12, 2023 |
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113: You’ll Never Overcomes Pornography With This Subconscious Belief
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Oct 05, 2023 |
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112: Avoid Emotional Spirals With This New Approach
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Sep 29, 2023 |
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111: Success Story With Kevin: Reclaiming His Self Worth and Improving His Marriage
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Sep 21, 2023 |
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110: Identifying Source of Urges and Triggers: Habit vs Emotional Coping
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Sep 14, 2023 |
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109: When He’s Doing Well, But She Can’t Reciprocate the Love
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Sep 07, 2023 |
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108: In Session (Behind the Scenes): Repair Your Marriage With THIS Conversation
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Sep 01, 2023 |
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107: Reprocessing Triggers & New Habits: The Key to Avoiding Relapse
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Aug 25, 2023 |
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106: How to Guard Against Temptation and How She Can Help
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Aug 17, 2023 |
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105: How to Know If You’re Ready For Sexual Intimacy Again in Your Marriage?
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Aug 10, 2023 |
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104: 3 Ways to Have Hard Conversations More Productively So You Can Find Closure
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Aug 03, 2023 |
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103: Slip vs Relapse and Should He Tell His Wife?
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Jul 28, 2023 |
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102. How to Achieve Forgiveness Without Pressure and Forcing It
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Jul 20, 2023 |
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101. How to Eliminate Scorekeeping and Resentment From Your Marriage
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Jul 14, 2023 |
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100. Instantly Reduce Relapses With This Simple Tweak
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Jul 06, 2023 |
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99. Get Unlimited Motivation to Overcome Pornography Addiction
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Jun 29, 2023 |
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98. 3 Strategies to Overcome a Man’s Knee-Jerk Dishonesty With His Wife
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Jun 23, 2023 |
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97. New Tools for When Communication Breaks Down (Part 2)
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Jun 15, 2023 |
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96. Breaking Negative Communication Cycles and Preventing Arguments (Part 1)
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Jun 09, 2023 |
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95. 3 Strategies to Build Your Self Esteem
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Jun 01, 2023 |
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94. How to Deal With Urges For Pornography Without Needing Willpower
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May 25, 2023 |
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93. Self Compassion: A Research-Based Tool to Reduce Slips and Heal Trauma
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May 18, 2023 |
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92. Tools For A Marriage When There’s No Emotional Safety
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May 11, 2023 |
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91. When the Fear of Another Relapse Is In the Back of Your Mind
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May 04, 2023 |
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90. 3 Critical Conversations to Have to Heal Your Marraige
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May 01, 2023 |
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89. The 4 Steps in the Addiction Cycle (Here’s How to Break It)
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Apr 20, 2023 |
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88. 2 Ways to Increase a Husband’s Compassion and Empathy in Marriage
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Apr 14, 2023 |
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87. How to Properly Disclose a Relapse (and Avoid a Fight)
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Apr 06, 2023 |
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86. 3 Ways To Improve Intimacy After Pornography Addiction
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Mar 30, 2023 |
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85. 3 Tools to Overcome Feelings of Unworthiness
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Mar 23, 2023 |
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84. These Types of Boundaries Can Unintentionally Hurt Your Marriage
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Mar 09, 2023 |
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83. How to Identify the Root Cause of Your Pornography Addiction
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Mar 03, 2023 |
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82. When She Feels Lots of Anger and Resentment
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Feb 24, 2023 |
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81. 3 Tools to Bounce Back Effectively After a Relapse
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Feb 19, 2023 |
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80. How to Avoid Slipping From Stress Triggers
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Feb 09, 2023 |
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79. Codependency and Self Esteem
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Feb 03, 2023 |
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78. 5 MUSTS to Heal Your Marriage This Year
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Jan 24, 2023 |
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77. 5 MUSTS to Overcome Pornography Addiction Within 90 Days
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Jan 09, 2023 |
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4 Pillars of Communication That Work in Any Relationship
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Dec 29, 2022 |
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How to Heal Individually and In Your Marriage Faster (and More Thoroughly)
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Dec 22, 2022 |
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The #1 Factor Between Healthy and Unhealthy Couples
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Dec 16, 2022 |
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ANNOUNCEMENT FOR THE MEN (sorry ladies)
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Dec 12, 2022 |
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Instead of Guilt and Shame to Avoid Slips, Do This Instead
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Dec 08, 2022 |
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How She Can Feel More Comfortable Bringing Her Wall Down
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Dec 01, 2022 |
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When Conversations Break Down Because She Doesn’t Believe Him
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Nov 19, 2022 |
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Key Advice For Breaking Free From Self Criticism and Judgement
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Nov 11, 2022 |
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What Does a Neuroscientist Report about Pornography and the Brain? (No Judgement)
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Oct 20, 2022 |
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Would He Have Ever Changed If He Didn’t Get Caught?
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Oct 13, 2022 |
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Tools to Handle It When Triggers to Act Out Won’t Leave
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Oct 06, 2022 |
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When He Can’t Answer Her Question ‘Why Did You Do This?’
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Sep 29, 2022 |
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She Said He Knew Pornography Hurts Her But Did It Anyways
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Sep 22, 2022 |
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What Happens if a Wife Becomes ’Addicted’ to the Trauma of Betrayal, and How You Can Move Forward - Part 2 with Jolene Wynn
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Aug 29, 2022 |
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When a Husband Gets Better and His Wife Gets Worst - Part 1 with Jolene Wynn
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Aug 25, 2022 |
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Strategies for Healing When Even His Presence Triggers Her
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Aug 16, 2022 |
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When A Wife’s Best Efforts Aren’t Good Enough
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Jul 22, 2022 |
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When Pornography Addiction Escalates to Sex Addiction and How to Overcome It
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Jul 02, 2022 |
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How to Consistently Not Give In to Temptation for Pornography
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Jun 09, 2022 |
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The Key to Creating Security in Your Marriage After Pornography Addiction
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May 23, 2022 |
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Fastest Method to Resolving Any Argument Before It Escalates
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May 10, 2022 |
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The 90-Day Blueprint to Heal Your Marriage After Pornography Addiction
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Apr 22, 2022 |
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The 90-Day Blueprint to Overcome Pornography Addiction
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Mar 26, 2022 |
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A Couples Success Story: 3 Key Tools That Saved Their Marriage From Divorce
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Feb 25, 2022 |
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Overcome Shame, Guilt, and Regret with Sathiya Sam
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Feb 10, 2022 |
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The Key to Overcome Pornography Addiction Without 12-Step, Accountability Partners, or Filters on Devices
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Jan 27, 2022 |
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The Traditional Way of Seeing Addiction Can Harm You – Try This Instead
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Jan 10, 2022 |
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Struggling With Self-Worth? Here Are Some Powerful Tools to Help
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Dec 23, 2021 |
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The Best Response to Increase Connection and Safety When She‘s Triggered
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Dec 17, 2021 |
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Everything is Always My Fault
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Dec 03, 2021 |
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How to Quickly Diffuse a Fight Before It Even Begins
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Nov 18, 2021 |
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If You Can‘t Deeply Feel God‘s or Your Spouse‘s Love, Here‘s What Helped Me
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Nov 04, 2021 |
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Consider This Before You Begin or End a Separation
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Oct 22, 2021 |
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How to Instantly Reduce The Rate of Slip Ups in Porn Addiction Recovery
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Oct 07, 2021 |
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How to Get Over the Past Without Sweeping It Under the Rug
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Sep 24, 2021 |
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How to Identify Your Triggers for Porn Addiction [Don‘t Miss This Step as You Heal]
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Sep 10, 2021 |
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How to Apologize and Repair to Create Closure
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Sep 03, 2021 |
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Why People Can’t Follow Through on Breaking Bad Habits or Patterns
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Aug 26, 2021 |
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His Pornography Addiction Just Came Out... What Are The First Steps to Heal?
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Aug 20, 2021 |
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Can Sex With a Spouse Trigger the Pornography Addiction?
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Aug 14, 2021 |
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2 Key Indicators It’s Safe to Trust Again
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Aug 06, 2021 |
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What If I Am Falling Out of Love With My Spouse?
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Jul 31, 2021 |
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The Key Components to Her Healing From Betrayal Trauma and Beginning to Trust Again
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Jul 23, 2021 |
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My Intentions Are Good But I Struggle to Consistently Follow Through
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Jul 16, 2021 |
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If Her Wall Stays Up Despite His Best Efforts
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Jul 08, 2021 |
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How to Resolve Her Fears That Prevent Affection and Sex
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Jul 01, 2021 |
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A Powerful Tool to Process Through Addiction or Trauma Triggers Successfully
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Jun 24, 2021 |
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How to Talk About Sexual or Addiction Triggers Without Fighting
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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A Highly-Effective Way to Get Through Overwhelming Moments
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Jun 03, 2021 |
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His Sex Drive: When It‘s Healthy vs Addiction Driven
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May 27, 2021 |
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Is Minimal Effort Being Put In or Are Expectations Too High?
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May 20, 2021 |
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What to Do When Lying Erodes A Relationship: Tools For Both Him and Her)
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May 13, 2021 |
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The 5 Pillars to Overcome Pornography Addiction: How To Know If He‘ll Actually Be Successful
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May 06, 2021 |
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How to Have the Type of Conversation That Builds Connection
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Apr 23, 2021 |
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Even The Worst Kind of Emotional Pain Can Be Resolved By Doing This
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Apr 16, 2021 |
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The Simple Approach to Heal From Pornography Addiction and Trauma Without Work
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Apr 09, 2021 |
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How a Man Can Deeply Love His Wife, Yet Struggle With Porn Addiction [And How to Make Lasting Changes]
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Mar 31, 2021 |
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There‘s a MUCH Better Option Than Divorce
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Mar 25, 2021 |
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A Powerful Tool to Completely Eliminate Depression or Anxiety (Even if you’ve had it for years)
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Mar 19, 2021 |
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How to Cure Defensiveness in Your Marriage
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Mar 12, 2021 |
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How to Shortcut 4+ Years Off Your Healing Journey
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Mar 07, 2021 |
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Sex: Processing Triggers, Rejection, Creating Safety and Feeling Desire
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Feb 25, 2021 |
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Relationship Healing For Difficult Marriages
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Feb 19, 2021 |
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The Most Harmful 6-Letter Word That Prevents Permanent Healing
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Feb 11, 2021 |
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When One Spouse HATES Talking About Feelings – Do THIS
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Feb 05, 2021 |
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He Says He‘s Telling The Truth.. But How Can She Know
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Jan 28, 2021 |
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The Key to Unlock & Sustain His Motivation For Change
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Jan 21, 2021 |
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The Best Approach to Heal a Relationship Damaged By Pornography Addiction
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Jan 15, 2021 |
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Five Unexpected Ways She is Impacted by Pornography Addiction
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Jan 08, 2021 |
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How to Heal the Core of Pornography Addiction So It Never Comes Back
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Dec 24, 2020 |
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Couples Healing Trailer
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Dec 17, 2020 |