Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
By A.J. Mahari
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A.J. Mahari is a Counselor and Trauma Recovery Coach who has 35 years experience working with people surviving Borderline Personality Relationship Breakups in all relationship types, healing from codependency, Inner Child Healing, Family of Origin and Self Differentiation. A.J. also works with people surviving a Narcissistic Relationship Breakup or Co-Monbidly both BPD/NPD Breakup and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and much more.
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BPD Love is a Reverse Fairytale
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Aug 24, 2025 |
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Enmeshed in a BPD Relatioship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles
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Aug 24, 2025 |
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BPD Frustration Intolerance
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Aug 18, 2025 |
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7 Reasons Why BPD Relationships Fail
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Aug 14, 2025 |
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BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are Unseen
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Aug 10, 2025 |
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The BPD Love Paradox
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Aug 06, 2025 |
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The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck
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Aug 05, 2025 |
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BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication
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Aug 02, 2025 |
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BPD Triggers Explained
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Aug 01, 2025 |
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Is Codependency Really An Addiction?
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Jul 31, 2025 |
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BPD Ego Syntonic vs Ego Dystonic & BPD Alloplastic Defenses
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Jul 21, 2025 |
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Borderline Persecutory Object Invisible Partners and Exes
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Jul 19, 2025 |
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BPD Misinformation Hurts Borderlines and Codependents
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Jul 09, 2025 |
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BPD “Remission” Flawed and False Hope
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Jul 07, 2025 |
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Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization
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Jun 29, 2025 |
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BPD Sudden Shocking Discard Ex is Alone Now What Can You Do?
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Jun 21, 2025 |
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Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent
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Jun 21, 2025 |
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Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?
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Jun 19, 2025 |
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BPD Abuse Called Out is Denied Deflected BPD Lying
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Jun 13, 2025 |
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Wanting a BPD Ex Back The Fantasy Bond & Unanswered Questions
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Jun 01, 2025 |
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Unknowingly Loving a Borderline Suddenly Ghosted
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May 26, 2025 |
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BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?
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May 13, 2025 |
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BPD Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate
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May 08, 2025 |
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Want BPD Ex Back and Holding Out Hope?
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May 05, 2025 |
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BPD Emotional Arrested Development & Object Other Relating
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May 01, 2025 |
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Lost Yourself To A Borderline?
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Apr 23, 2025 |
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BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding
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Mar 17, 2025 |
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Borderline Betrayal Its Insidious Impact on You
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Mar 14, 2025 |
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BPD Awareness Can't Save Relationships
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Mar 12, 2025 |
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BPD Stable Before Relationship Rupture? Was My Ex Like Sherri Papini?
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Feb 22, 2025 |
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Borderlines Are Not Relationship Worthy
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Feb 09, 2025 |
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BPD Breakup Ghost or Discard Is Not Your Fault
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Feb 08, 2025 |
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BPD Relationship Rollercoaster Causes Codependent Rumination Need For Closure
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Jan 26, 2025 |
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Borderline Projection Through an Eternal Victim Lens
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Jan 20, 2025 |
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Two Codependents in Relationship After Previous Cluster B Relationships & Counter-Dependency
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Jan 18, 2025 |
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Borderlines Mixed Signals & Codependent Fantasy Bond Cycles
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Dec 26, 2024 |
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Borderlines Tattoos and Piercings Why pw BPD Get More Than Average
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Dec 26, 2024 |
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BPD Relationship Ruptures Are All Relationships Just Hard Work?
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Dec 15, 2024 |
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10 Ways To Help A Borderline - Fact or Myth
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Dec 04, 2024 |
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Borderlines Having Children - The Heartbreak of BPD Ex Loss or Co-Parenting
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Dec 02, 2024 |
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Borderlines Don't Make You Sacrifice Yourself
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Nov 25, 2024 |
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BPD Triggers Explained & Why They Are So Crazy-Making
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Nov 23, 2024 |
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What is BPD Transient Paranoid Ideation?
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Oct 27, 2024 |
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Borderlines Just Aren't That Into You The Emptiness of Idealization
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Oct 15, 2024 |
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You Can't Give Borderlines What They Need They Don't Want It From You Anyway
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Oct 15, 2024 |
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BPD Devaluation Introjected Now Is Codependents' Responsibility To Stop Internal Re Wounding
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Oct 15, 2024 |
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BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance
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Oct 03, 2024 |
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BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?
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Aug 25, 2024 |
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BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal
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Aug 08, 2024 |
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Quiet Borderline Inner Persecution and Codependent Reactionary Projection
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Aug 04, 2024 |
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Borderline Groundhog Day Repetition Compulsions Understanding Codependent Fantasy
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Jul 14, 2024 |
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BPD Relationship or Breakup Are You Codependent or Just Care Too Much?
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Jun 29, 2024 |
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Am I a Codependent in a Heartbreaking Cycle Of a Bpd Relationship or Breakup?
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Jun 28, 2024 |
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BPD Relationship Dynamics - Codependents Not Taking It Fighting Back
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Jun 24, 2024 |
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Empower Someone With BPD To End Unhealthy Life Choices Claims An Inauthentic Youtuber
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Jun 03, 2024 |
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Break The Betrayal Bond BPD or NPD Ex Adult Child & Codependency
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May 25, 2024 |
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Stop The Cycle of Bpd's Using You As An Atm and a Vending Machine
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May 18, 2024 |
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Losing Yourself Trying To Nurture and Aid a Borderline?
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May 06, 2024 |
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BPD Quiet Discouraged Subtype Specific Traits and Shocking Discards
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Mar 21, 2024 |
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Salacious BPD Women Are Not Dreams They are Relationship Nightmares
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Mar 19, 2024 |
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BPD Breakup Obsession & Codependent Excuses Waiting to Be Rescued by Who?
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Mar 10, 2024 |
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Borderlines Can’t Find Love Or Love You From Your Perspective
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Mar 10, 2024 |
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Petulant BPD Rage Uses You and The Why Insight of a Recovered Borderline
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Mar 03, 2024 |
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Borderline Splitting Cycles Mixed With Codependent Denial
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Feb 12, 2024 |
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Recontacting Your BPD Ex Increases Your Suffering
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Feb 11, 2024 |
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Borderlines Don't Value You in Dating or Relationships
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Feb 08, 2024 |
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Loving a Borderline Why You Will Never Know Who He or She Is or Was
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Feb 04, 2024 |
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BPD Discard & Dangle Fantasy Facade At The End Like the Beginning
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Jan 30, 2024 |
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BPD Breakup & Codependent Woundness Vulerability Becomes a Strengh In Healing
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Jan 30, 2024 |
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Responding To Borderline Ex Only When Contacted or Hoovered is Not NO CONTACT
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Jan 06, 2024 |
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BPD Deceptive Hoovers & BPD Ex Self Deceptive Reverse Hoovers
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Dec 26, 2023 |
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Riding the Chaotic Rollercoaster of a Borderline? Core Secret Understanding You Need To Know
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Dec 11, 2023 |
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Definition and 5 Signs of a Trauma Bond with a Borderline or Narcissist
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Nov 11, 2023 |
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The Borderline Set Up Hoover
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Nov 04, 2023 |
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LIMERENCE vs LOVE Obsessing on An Unavailable BPD Ex - Stop Relationship Recycling Go No Contact
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Oct 30, 2023 |
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Why Don't Borderlines Just Get It?
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Oct 09, 2023 |
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To Survive a BPD Breakup First Stop Relationship Recycling
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Sep 25, 2023 |
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BPD Silent Treatment vs BPD Ghosting
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Sep 21, 2023 |
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Trauma Bonding With a Borderline - What Codependnets Need To Know
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Sep 17, 2023 |
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BPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination - Get Off The BPD Rollercoaster
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Sep 15, 2023 |
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Borderline and Codependent Dance of Impossible Connection
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Sep 12, 2023 |
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Borderlines Want What (Who) They Want - Get It (You) Then Don't Want It (You) Anymore & Why This Is
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Sep 09, 2023 |
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BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/Pull
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Sep 01, 2023 |
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Can You Reach Out to a BPD Ex To Help Them In Repeated Failed Attempts To Have the Impossible Conversation?
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Aug 27, 2023 |
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7 Signs Your Loved One Has Borderline Personality That You Experience
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Aug 23, 2023 |
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5 Reasons Why Borderlines Lie - Is There Biology To BPD Lying
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Aug 22, 2023 |
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Borderlines are Drowning Emotionally Want Your Ex Back You May Drown In the Relation-SHIP
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Aug 19, 2023 |
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Borderline Inner Focus Leaves You Out - 5 Reasons Why
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Aug 08, 2023 |
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What Do Borderlines Need? 9 Red Flags You Can't Help Them & Why You Will Be Punished For Caring
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Aug 07, 2023 |
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BPD On/Off Relationship Recycling Limbo and Still Stuck Wanting Your BPD Ex Back? Why?
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Aug 06, 2023 |
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Loving a Bordeline is a One Way Relationship
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Aug 05, 2023 |
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Do Borderlines Lack of Empathy?
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Jul 31, 2023 |
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Borderline Provocation Manipulates You What Codependents Need To Know To Get Into Recovery Action to Break Free
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Jul 15, 2023 |
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Borderline Ghost You? Want BPD Ex Back? Is Your BPD Ex Thinking About You?
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Jul 01, 2023 |
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BPD Betrayal Can't Be Friends & Why No Contact Needs To Be For Life
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Jun 25, 2023 |
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Codependency Painful Emotional Dangers Rooted In Family Systems 16 Patterms Re Enacted In BPD NPD Adult Relationships
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Jun 18, 2023 |
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BPD Splitting Destroys Relationships - 14 Signs of How and Why You Need To Stop Relationship Recycling
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Jun 03, 2023 |
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BPD Relationship Recycling Getting Your Ex Back is Recycling The Trauma Bond
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May 10, 2023 |
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BPD Breakup No Closure Wanting The "Closure Conversation" With You Ex
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Apr 30, 2023 |
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Borderlines Use You - They Do Not Love or Attach to You
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Apr 28, 2023 |
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BPD Breakup and The Mother Wound - 7 Impacting Consequences For Men with Codependency
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Apr 16, 2023 |
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Borderline Tribalism & BPD Right Fighting - They Can't Handle The Truth
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Apr 10, 2023 |
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BPD Breakup Getting Your Ex Back - Dream Come True or Nightmare Revisited
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Mar 26, 2023 |
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BPD Risky Sexual Behavior and Impulsivity
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Mar 19, 2023 |
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Borderlines Always Know What They Are Doing? Codependent Logical Fallacies and Biases.
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Mar 06, 2023 |
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Borderline Red Herring Fallacy
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Mar 04, 2023 |
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BPD Relationship Impossibility in Polyamory or Monogamy
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Feb 26, 2023 |
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BPD Ex Diagnosed or Not Codependent Focus Wanting Your Ex Back
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Feb 25, 2023 |
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BPD Girlfriend Want Space - Slow Split to Devaluation and Ghosting Now what
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Feb 10, 2023 |
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Understanding BPD to A Point Facilitates Codependent Recovery & Building a Bridg
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Feb 04, 2023 |
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Borderlines Are Not Capable of Loving You
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Feb 04, 2023 |
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BPD or BPD/NPD or BPD/Psychopath - You Are Never Going To Change A Borderline - End The Breakup Cycles
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Feb 02, 2023 |
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Borderlines or Narcissists Do Not Cause Situational Narcissism in Codependents
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Jan 27, 2023 |
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Malignant Borderline as if Psychopathic vs BPD | 8 Traits & 4 C's of Differentiation
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Jan 17, 2023 |
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Malignant Borderline "10 Signs" of BPD/ASPD Supposed Co-Morbidity Conflated with BPD
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Jan 17, 2023 |
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BPD Breakup What is The BPD FINAL DISCARD? Go From Limbo To End Of Breakup Cycles
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Dec 23, 2022 |
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Extrem Focus on BPD Ex Increases Distress Drives More Focus On Ex - Dangerous and Painful
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Dec 18, 2022 |
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BPD Hoovers Are About The Borderline Not You
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Dec 18, 2022 |
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Borderline Emotional and Communication Deficits 7 Signs You Are Relating to a Borderline
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Dec 18, 2022 |
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Borderline and Codependent Denial - The BPD "We" & The Codependent "They"
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Dec 18, 2022 |
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BPD Ghost Discard & Hoovers Are Not About You
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Dec 15, 2022 |
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BPD or NPD Relationship Breakups The First Step to Surviving & Recovery
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Dec 10, 2022 |
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BPD Relationships Are No Win
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Dec 07, 2022 |
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BPD Triggers Not Your Responsibility Do Borderlines Make You Feel How You Feel?
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Dec 07, 2022 |
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How To Get Your BPD Ex Back Choices Actions & Consequences
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Nov 05, 2022 |
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BPD Breakup - Want Your Ex Back? Codependents Need For Radical Acceptance
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Nov 05, 2022 |
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Borderline Revolving Door Situationship - Can It Work?
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Nov 05, 2022 |
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BPD Ex Remember The Good Times?
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Oct 18, 2022 |
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Borderline Inability To Communicate Part 2 Tennis Anyone?
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Sep 12, 2022 |
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Borderline Core Communication Deficits No Ability to Repair Or Give Closure to Any BPD Episode
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Sep 12, 2022 |
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Reverse Hoovers of The Borderline After Being Ghosted
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Sep 11, 2022 |
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BPD Splitting More Devaluation Less Idealization In BPD Relationships
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Sep 11, 2022 |
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Borderline Idealization Phase Its Not Logical or Targeted
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Sep 10, 2022 |
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BPD Relationship Cycle - 7 Stages Of Rinse and Repeat Impossibility
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Sep 04, 2022 |
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Inside BPD Idealization Does or Did the Borderline Love You?
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Sep 01, 2022 |
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Borderlines and Narcissists - Codependent’s Focus On Cluster B's Is Not The Way of Healing
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Aug 31, 2022 |
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BPD Projection and Projective Identification Not Empathy
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Aug 25, 2022 |
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Borderline "Love" Why It Just Ends
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Aug 24, 2022 |
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Borderlines Why If They Go to Treatment Often Don't Stay In Treatment
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Aug 21, 2022 |
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BPD Breakup Extreme Pain Of No Contact
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Aug 19, 2022 |
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Narcissistic Abuse Codependency is Not The Flip Side of Pathological Narcissism in NPD
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Aug 13, 2022 |
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BPD NPD Relationships - What is Limerence? 12 Signs & 5 Traits - Codependency & Limerence
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Aug 06, 2022 |
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BPD Breakup Will BPD Ex Come Back? The Uncertainty and Fear of No Contact
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Jul 24, 2022 |
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BPD Breakup Men The "Man Up Be Tough" Has Nothing To Do With Breakup and Will Not Win Back BPD Ex
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Jul 02, 2022 |
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Borderline Projective Identification and Codependent Introjection Trauma Bond Dynamics
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May 08, 2022 |
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Loving a Borderline Can You Keep Or Make a Borderline Happy
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May 08, 2022 |
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BPD Breakup & Codependent Rumination
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Mar 16, 2022 |
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Borderline Abuse of Partners
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Feb 03, 2022 |
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Pt 3 of 3 Loving a Borderline Is Impossible
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Feb 03, 2022 |
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Pt 2 of 3 Loving a Borderline is Impossible with Live Q&A
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Jan 14, 2022 |
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PT 1 of 3 Loving a Borderline is Impossible with Live Q & A
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Jan 14, 2022 |
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BPD and Secondary Psychopathy In Severe BPD Not All With BPD
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Nov 28, 2021 |
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BPD Parents Partners Family Members Randi Kreger Interview on BPD and BPD NPD Co Morbidity and More
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Sep 21, 2021 |
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BPD and Codependent Trauma Bonds Not Rooted in Addiction Rooted in Trauma
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Jul 07, 2021 |
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What Is Codependency And Why Do you Need To Know
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Jul 06, 2021 |
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Part 2 My BPD NPD Co-Morbid Alcoholic Ex A.J. Mahari's Experience
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Jul 06, 2021 |
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A.J. Mahari on Her BPD NPD Co-Morbid Ex How The Relationship Began
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Jul 05, 2021 |
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BPD Relationships BPD Ex Carlos On His Experience Dating and Breaking Up
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Jun 16, 2021 |
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BPD Ex A Man Beaten Abused Discarded and in Legal Appeal To See His Son
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Jun 15, 2021 |
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BPD Male Instant Trauma Bond Dynamics With Codependent Woman Mary's Story
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Jun 08, 2021 |
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BPD Relationships and Breakups Man with 6 BPD Breakups Interviewed
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Jun 05, 2021 |
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BPD & Mental Health Challenges Mother's Day Movie Writer Director Travis Carlson Interview
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Apr 19, 2021 |
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BPD Mother Adult Child Codependent Independent Movie Must See Interview Coming and More on The Movie
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Apr 15, 2021 |
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BPD Relationship Dynamics with Codependents Projection and Introjection
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Apr 09, 2021 |
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Borderline Communication Impossibility
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Mar 30, 2021 |
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BPD Breakup Codependency Trauma Bond Not Caused or Resolved By Focusing on Attachment Styles
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Mar 20, 2021 |
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BPD Relationship Breakups and Recycling 5 Reasons
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Mar 07, 2021 |
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BPD Breakup Codependent Protective Patterns Inhibit Recovery
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Mar 07, 2021 |
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Borderlines Playing the Victim Are Borderlines Professional Victims
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Mar 07, 2021 |
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BPD and Codependency defined and explained
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Feb 14, 2021 |
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Borderline Magical Thinking Explained
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Feb 06, 2021 |
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Borderline Behavior and Abuse No Shared Objective Reality
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Jan 31, 2021 |
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BPD Ex's Codependents Needing Next Relationship after BPD Without Recovery Not Healthy
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Dec 26, 2020 |
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3 Stages of the BPD Relationship
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Dec 25, 2020 |
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BPD Relationships Begin to End From the Start
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Dec 25, 2020 |
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In Search of Intimacy with A Borderline
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Nov 04, 2020 |