Good Inside with Dr. Becky

By Dr. Becky Kennedy

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Catherine
 May 13, 2021
Dr. Becky is a wealth of parenting knowledge, and breaks down scenarios in easy to understand language. I recommend this podcast for any and all parents.

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Join clinical psychologist and mom of three Dr. Becky Kennedy on her weekly podcast, as she takes on tough parenting questions and delivers actionable guidance—all in short episodes, because we know time is hard to find as a parent. Her breakthrough approach has enabled thousands of people to get more comfortable in discomfort, make repairs after mistakes, and always see the good inside. You'll gain the tools to embody your authority while developing a stronger parent-child connection, helping you become the parent you want to be and helping your child develop the skills necessary for life success.

Episode Date
What can I do when my child says "I can't do it"?
00:29:29
Kids are constantly learning new things—from using the potty to tying their shoes to tackling a math problem—and, as we all know, learning is hard. Sometimes, the frustration of not-knowing-yet leads kids to “I can't do it!" In this week's episode, Dr. Becky talks to three parents about how to help a child through these moments with actionable strategies and scripts. (Hint: It's all about building up a kid's frustration tolerance, not solving the problem for them).

Preview of the good inside this episode:

(4:25-4:58): How to model realistic regulation

(10:49-11:56): How to build resiliency

(19:57-20:50): The plight of being a younger child

(26:17-27:57): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts: https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Outschool (www.outschool.com/goodinside), an online educational platform that inspires kids to love learning - and a platform that Dr. Becky loves to use with her own kids. Use the code GOODINSIDE20 to get a $20 credit towards Outschool classes.

Jul 20, 2021
Deep Dive: How do we respond to a child’s pretend weapon play?
00:38:42
What do you do when your child pretends to have a gun? First, take a deep breath. There's nothing wrong with your child, and this doesn't mean they want to harm anyone. Young kids often go through a phase of pretending to have weapons as a way of exploring big ideas like good and bad, power, control, and more. In this Deep Dive episode, Dr. Becky talks with parents Nina and Tom, whose three-year-old recently pointed his finger at his parents and said "Pish! Pish!" She explains what's going on underneath pretend gun play, and models actionable strategies and scripts for responding in the moment. The three also discuss how to navigate delicate conversations around gun safety with kids, and why it's important to differentiate between pretend guns and real guns.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(3:15-8:24): Is pretend weapon play normal?

(9:45-13:11): Building skills in play

(13:12-15:12): How to respond to pretend weapon play

(15:24-21:39): Pretend weapon play with other kids and Consent

(21:55-24:53): How to explore the theme of power in other ways

(24:54-29:36): How to talk about real guns and gun safety

(29:37-34:17): Toy guns

(35:28-37:10): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts: https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Outschool (www.outschool.com/goodinside), an online educational platform that inspires kids to love learning - and a platform that Dr. Becky loves to use with her own kids. Use the code GOODINSIDE20 to get a $20 credit towards Outschool classes.

Jul 13, 2021
How do I handle being rejected by my child?
00:31:32

When your child says things like "I only love mommy" or "Go away, I want daddy to give me a bath!", it's easy to feel like you're doing something wrong. Remember this: Your child's rejection is not a barometer of your parenting. In these moments, there's nothing wrong with the in-favor parent, the out-of-favor parent, or the child. In fact, your child's rejection is a sign that they feel safe enough in your presence to even express their displeasure. In this week's episode, Dr. Becky hears from three parents who are struggling with phases of parental preference. She gently reminds each parent of their goodness and provides actionable strategies to manage these tricky and often triggering moments.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(2:58-4:34): Why do kids get upset at parents who aren't around as much?

(12:16-14:30): Why is my daughter mean to me?

(21:57-22:39): How to parent my kid when they don't want me to?

(28:14-29:52): Three main takeaways

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts: https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Outschool (www.outschool.com/goodinside), an online educational platform that inspires kids to love learning - and a platform that Dr. Becky loves to use with her own kids. Use the code GOODINSIDE20 to get a $20 credit towards Outschool classes.

Jul 06, 2021
Does praise have unintended consequences?
00:30:08

When our kids show us a new drawing, score their first soccer goal, or ace a test, we want to celebrate their wins. And when our kids are struggling, our first instinct is to build them back up. But here's the tricky thing about showering kids with praise in high or low moments: It wires them to look to others for validation, instead of learning to feel at home with themselves. In this episode, Dr. Becky talks to three parents about rethinking praise. She offers strategies for how to build stable, long-lasting confidence that your child will be able to access no matter what comes their way in life.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(4:36-5:24): To praise or not to praise

(10:03-11:22): Can I tell my kid, "good job?"

(20:40-22:01): What to say when my kid is feeling down

(26:45-28:15): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts: https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Outschool (www.outschool.com/goodinside), an online educational platform that inspires kids to love learning - and a platform that Dr. Becky loves to use with her own kids. Use the code GOODINSIDE20 to get a $20 credit towards Outschool classes.

Jun 29, 2021
Deep Dive: Two moms with different parenting styles raising a strong-willed child
00:40:28

Raising a strong-willed child can feel like you're constantly locked in a power struggle. The same goes for parenting when your partner differs in approach. But here's something to consider in any relationship: When we prioritize connection over being right, we can begin to work together against a problem... instead of seeing each other as the problem. In this Deep Dive episode, mothers Jessica and Joanna come to Dr. Becky for advice on raising their opinionated daughter Jada differently from how they were raised, while navigating their own clashing parenting styles. As the three explore what's behind their tough moments with Jada, they discuss breaking intergenerational cycles, infusing difficult moments with playfulness, and switching up their rigid roles as parents. As always, Dr. Becky provides actionable takeaways for tricky situations—modeling scripts and strategies along the way.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(3:00-7:09) : The influence of our own childhood in parenting

(7:21-14:02): Raising a strong-minded daughter

(14:09-19:07): Me against my kid vs me and my kid against a problem

(19:08-21:39): Giving kids specific time to be in control

(21:40-23:48): Using play to teach skills

(23:50-30:07): Consequences, fear, and behavioral compliance

(30:15-33:32): Thinking of your spouse as living on a different planet

(33:33-35:28): Mantras for difficult moments

(36:55-38:43) Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts:https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Frida (https://frida.com/).

Jun 22, 2021
I struggle with codependency. How do I raise my kids differently?
00:25:14

One of the best things we can do as parents is recognize the traits we need to repair in ourselves, so we don't unintentionally pass them on to our kids. If you grew up defining who you are based on other people's reactions, it can be hard to tune in to your own wants and needs. But it's never too late to change these patterns. In this episode, Dr. Becky hears from three parents with codependent tendencies working to show up differently for their children. She offers multiple strategies for rewiring your own codependence, while raising kids with a strong sense of self.

(2:10-2:48): Unintentionally fostering codependency

(9:11-10:33): Separating your feelings from your child's

(16:58-17:34): Establishing boundaries with parents

(22:37-23:38): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts:https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Frida (https://frida.com/).

Jun 15, 2021
Talking with your kids about private parts, how babies are made, and more...
00:27:22

There's no "appropriate age" to start talking about sensitive topics, like sex or private parts, with kids. When a child asks a question, it means they're ready for a (developmentally appropriate) answer. Of course, while many of us want to talk openly with our kids, few of us had honest conversations about these topics when we were younger. It's normal to feel stuck or awkward! In this episode, Dr. Becky walks through multiple scripts for affirming your child's natural curiosity about bodies, babies, and more without any shame, so they feel safe coming to you with all sorts of questions as they get older. Remember this: It's not our honesty, but our avoidance, that makes kids uncomfortable about their bodies.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(4:30-5:20): Why are private parts private

(11:42-12:19): My son can't stop touching himself

(17:52-18:41): Where do babies come from

(24:48-26:04): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts:https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Frida (https://frida.com/).

Jun 08, 2021
How do I handle sibling competition?
00:26:39

It's hard for kids to share their parents. Siblings can feel like they're competing for the ultimate resource: your love and attention. While we can't get rid of those competitive feelings, we can help our kids learn to recognize and regulate them (and this of course is what leads to improved behavior!). In this week's episode, Dr. Becky offers several strategies to parents navigating sibling rivalry—from validating our kid's tricky feelings about siblinghood to encouraging cooperation to introducing mantras through play.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(2:32-4:04): Encouraging cooperation, not competition

(7:56-9:06): Needing to be first

(16:29-17:50): Struggling when a sibling succeeds

(24:06-25:30): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts:https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Frida (https://frida.com/).

Jun 01, 2021
What can I do to stop my kid's aggressive behavior?
00:27:22

When our child is kicking or biting someone, our first thought is probably, "How do I protect the other person?!" But here's something to consider: We also need to protect our child from associating their bad behavior with being a bad kid. In this episode, Dr. Becky advises three parents on how to respond to aggressive behavior while keeping everyone safe. She walks through distancing "the urge" from "the action," emotionally vaccinating kids for frustrating moments, and enforcing boundaries instead of punishments. In every situation, she gently reminds each caller that they're a good parent with a good kid.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(2:55-4:22): Biting siblings

(11:12-12:11): Impulse control at the park

(16:27:17:34): Defining consequences

(24:45-26:06): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts:https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Frida (https://frida.com/).

May 25, 2021
Deep Dive: Myriam Sandler of MOTHERCOULD on frustration tolerance and sibling dynamics
00:39:40

We want our kids to know what they want and stand up for their beliefs—and we want them to be flexible and get along with others. In this Deep Dive episode, Myriam Sandler of MOTHERCOULD comes to Dr. Becky for advice on helping her oldest daughter in moments of intense frustration: the ones that lead to shutting down and declaring "It's all ruined now!" or "I'm not doing it anymore!" As Dr. Becky and Myriam look at what's really driving these tough moments, they talk about building resilience, managing feelings about siblinghood, and recognizing ourselves in our kids. As always, Dr. Becky translates deep thoughts into actionable strategies, modeling scripts and how-tos along the way.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(3:35-5:53): Frustration tolerance

(6:00-11:30): Narration

(11:48-14:18): Adding a choice

(15:14-19:17): Model realistic regulation

(21:45-25:17): Practice

(25:18-36:31): Sibling dynamics

(36:53-38:38): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts:https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Frida (https://frida.com/).

May 18, 2021
What should I say when my kid is afraid?
00:26:54

How do we help our children face what feels scary? In this episode, Dr. Becky hears from three parents looking for ways to help their kids work through fears. She shares why kids develop fears, the significance of how we respond to their fears, and nearly 10 strategies to help them cope—from retelling the story of what happened to naming conflicting feelings (like scared and excited) with "parts language."

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(3:02-4:00): The unexpected

(8:36-9:57): Scary spaces

(17:37-18:11): Hesitation

(24:50-25:54): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts:https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Frida (https://frida.com/).

May 11, 2021
How do I handle screen time with my kids?
00:27:06

Screen time for kids is tricky: While we love the guaranteed down time it provides, we don't love the addictive nature, the meltdowns, or the protests... Tune in as Dr. Becky answers your pressing questions about what's really happening during screen time, what strategies you can use to manage it, and why it never feels like enough -for any of us.

A preview of the good inside this episode:

(2:38-3:28): What's happening inside?

(9:11-10:18): Monitoring

(17:10-17:59): How much?

(25:29-26:20): Tying it all together

Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/

Subscribe for weekly strategies and scripts:https://goodinside.com/newsletter/

Learn more with Dr. Becky’s workshops: https://learning.goodinside.com/

This episode is brought to you by Frida (https://frida.com/).

May 04, 2021
Are tantrums normal?
00:25:33
Apr 27, 2021
Why won't my kids listen to anything I say?
00:25:24
Apr 20, 2021
Trailer
00:01:00

Join Dr. Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist and mom of three as she rethinks the way we raise our children. Her breakthrough approach has enabled thousands of parents to get more comfortable in discomfort, make repairs after mistakes, and always see the good inside.

 

 

Apr 07, 2021