We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle

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 Dec 23, 2021
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 Jun 29, 2021
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I’m Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed – the book that was released at the very start of the pandemic and became a lifeline for millions. I watched in awe from my home while this simple phrase from Untamed – WE CAN DO HARD THINGS – the mantra that saved my life twenty years ago, became a worldwide rally cry. Because we experienced the hardship of the pandemic collectively, many of us finally acknowledged what was true before COVID and will be true after: That life is freaking HARD. We are all doing hard things every single day – things like loving and losing caring for children and parents; forging and ending friendships; battling addiction, illness, and loneliness; struggling in our jobs, our marriages, and our divorces; setting boundaries; and fighting for equality, purpose, freedom, joy, and peace. On We Can Do Hard Things, my sister Amanda and I will do the only thing I’ve found that has ever made life easier: We will drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard. Each week we will bring our hard to you and we will ask you to bring your hard to us and we will do what we were all meant to do down here: Help each other carry the hard so we can all live a little bit lighter and braver, more free and less alone.

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How Family Secrets Shape Us: Emotional Inheritance with Dr. Galit Atlas
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1. How we are each haunted by our family’s secrets and trauma–whether we know them or not–and how to break the cycle for future generations.  2. The astounding new research on generational trauma showing that our personal trauma is passed down genetically to our children and grandchildren.   3. Our unconscious need to heal what our parents could not–and how to mourn what we cannot control.   4. Why our bodies carry what our mind won’t remember–and how to release that burden.   5. Dr. Galit’s new book Emotional Inheritance and the incredible new way to understand ourselves.   About Dr. Atlas: Dr. Galit Atlas is a psychoanalyst and clinical supervisor in private practice in New York City. She is on the faculty of the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis. Dr. Atlas has published three books for clinicians and numerous articles and book chapters. A leader in the field of relational psychoanalysis, Dr. Atlas is a recipient of the André François Award and the NADTA Research Award. She teaches and lectures throughout the United States and internationally. Her new book Emotional Inheritance was published in January 2022 and is being translated into 17 languages. IG: @galit_atlas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 19, 2022
Cameron Esposito: How to Save Your Damn Self
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Glennon and Abby welcome their dear friend Cameron Esposito to discuss: 1. Cameron’s brutiful relationship with her body–and how it feels playing a sexy TV role. 2. The way Cameron grew up using humor as self-defense and to become socially “valuable”–and the moment she wondered if comedy was no longer working for her.  3. Why Cameron says she’s able to cry for the first time in 35 years.  4. How as a gender-nonconforming queer kid, Cameron felt “overnoticed”–and how being a comedian allows her to “hide in plain sight." 5. The rule Cameron and Glennon made to help them become better at friendship. CW: eating disorders About Cameron: Cameron Esposito is a queer, gender non-conforming standup comic, actor, writer and host. As a standup, Cameron has headlined tours and festivals nationwide and internationally. As an actor and host, Cameron has been seen across television and film, appearing in big budget films and beloved Sundance indies, and on Netflix, HBO, NBC, ABC, CBS, FOX, Starz, Comedy Central, Logo, TBS, IFC, E! and Cartoon Network. Cameron's podcast, Queery, features hour long conversations with some of the brightest luminaries in the LGBTQ+ community, including Emmy and Grammy winning performers, Olympians, politicians, even an astronaut. Cameron's writing has been published by The New York Times, Vulture/New York Magazine, Vanity Fair, Bon Appetit, Refinery29 and more. Cameron's first book, Save Yourself, was an instant bestseller and is available in paperback March of 2022. Next up, Cameron is set to recur on the ABC series A Million Little Things and appear in HBOMax's Moonshot. Cameron lives in Los Angeles and likes to swim. TW: @cameronesposito IG: @cameronesposito Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 17, 2022
Why Elizabeth Gilbert Disappeared & What She Came Back to Say
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Part Two of our gorgeous conversation with Elizabeth Gilbert: 1. Liz describes Rayya’s death as “a fist fight”–and how Rayya went out swinging. 2. In the wake of Rayya’s death, how Liz grieved, and what helped. 3. Liz’s spiritual practices: communing with a higher power, her recovery community, and starting over. About Elizabeth:  Elizabeth Gilbert is author of the international bestseller, EAT PRAY LOVE, which has been translated into over thirty languages, and sold over 12 million copies worldwide. The book became so popular that Time Magazine named Elizabeth as one of the 100 most influential people in the world. In 2010, Elizabeth published a follow-up to EAT PRAY LOVE called COMMITTED—an instant a #1 New York Times Bestseller, as well as BIG MAGIC: CREATIVE LIVING BEYOND FEAR. She is author of two novels: THE SIGNATURE OF ALL THINGS, and CITY OF GIRLS. And she is the creator of the Onward Book Club, which takes place on her Instagram via a live chat, as a way of spotlighting, studying, and celebrating the work of Black women authors.  Elizabeth divides her time between New York City, rural New Jersey, and everywhere else. TW: @GilbertLiz IG: @elizabeth_gilbert_writer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 12, 2022
Liz Gilbert Shares the Whole Story for the First Time
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Part One of our intimate conversation with Elizabeth Gilbert: 1. When Glennon called Liz about Abby–and Liz then told Glennon about Rayya. 2. The moment Liz imploded her life as she knew it. 3. How, after a decade of friendship, Liz finally told Rayya that she was in love with her. 4. The brutal chaos of Rayya’s addiction at the end of her life–and what Liz had to do and say to protect herself. About Liz:  Elizabeth Gilbert is author of the international bestseller, EAT PRAY LOVE, which has been translated into over thirty languages, and sold over 12 million copies worldwide. The book became so popular that Time Magazine named Elizabeth as one of the 100 most influential people in the world. In 2010, Elizabeth published a follow-up to EAT PRAY LOVE called COMMITTED—an instant a #1 New York Times Bestseller, as well as BIG MAGIC: CREATIVE LIVING BEYOND FEAR. She is author of two novels: THE SIGNATURE OF ALL THINGS, and CITY OF GIRLS. And she is the creator of the Onward Book Club, which takes place on her Instagram via a live chat, as a way of spotlighting, studying, and celebrating the work of Black women authors.  Elizabeth divides her time between New York City, rural New Jersey, and everywhere else. TW: @GilbertLiz IG: @elizabeth_gilbert_writer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 10, 2022
BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive?
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1. With everything going on in the world, and in our lives, is “Burnout” the reason we all feel like zombies?  2. Why stress is like trash: You have to get rid of it often or your life starts to stink.   3. Emily and Amelia Nagoski – the authors of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle – answer our Pod Squad’s burning questions about how to bounce back from burnout.  About Emily:  EMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. Emily’s new podcast, Come As You Are, is launching this Summer and her forthcoming book, Come Together, will be released in 2023. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist. TW: @emilynagoski IG: @enagoski About Amelia:  AMELIA NAGOSKI, Amelia is the co-author with Emily, of the New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. A Doctorate of Musical Arts, her job as she describes it is to run around waving her arms and making funny noises and generally doing whatever it takes to help singers get in touch with their internal experience. She lives in New England with her husband, one cat, and two rescue dogs. IG: @amelianagoski Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 05, 2022
Chanel Miller Promises: We are Never Stuck
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1. Thinking of depression as a way of seeing the world … through toilet paper roll binoculars.  2. Why healing might actually just be permission to go.  3. Chanel’s definition of success: refusing to succumb to perfection or exhaustion–and showing up as herself in every moment. 4. The healing moment when Chanel returned to Stanford and was held in sound–which set her free.   About Chanel:  Chanel Miller is a writer and artist who received her BA in Literature from the University of California, Santa Barbara. Her critically acclaimed memoir, KNOW MY NAME, was a New York Times bestseller, a New York Times Book Review Notable Book, and a National Book Critics Circle Award winner, as well as a best book of 2019 in Time, the Washington Post, the Chicago Tribune, NPR, and People, among others. She is a 2019 Time Next 100 honoree and a 2016 Glamour Woman of the Year honoree under her pseudonym, “Emily Doe.” IG: chanel_miller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 03, 2022
Better Sex & Lives in Menopause with Dr. Jen Gunter
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1. How to get your orgasm back. 2. Dr. Jen Gunter’s advice–and personal mantra–for surviving hot flushes. 3. How to differentiate between mental health challenges and menopause. 4. The one easy thing you can do at the doctor’s office to ensure better care. 5. Is menopause a reboot of the brain and an opportunity to reallocate mental resources? Resource: North American Menopause Society (NAMS)    About Jen:  Dr. Jen Gunter is an OB/GYN and pain medicine physician and the author of The Menopause Manifesto, The Vagina Bible, and The Preemie Primer. She is the host of the podcast Body Stuff (TED Audio Collective) and of the streaming docuseries Jensplaining (CBC Gem). She blogs at TheVajenda.com and her writing can also be found in the New York Times, Glamour, DAME, and other publications. Her mission is to build a better medical Internet. She has been called Twitter’s gynecologist, the Internet’s OB/GYN, and a fierce advocate for women’s health. TW: @DrJenGunter IG: @drjengunter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 28, 2022
Menopause: What We Deserve to Know with Dr. Jen Gunter
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1. Hot flushes, night sweats, sleep disturbances, vaginal dryness, and the less common, frequently-missed symptoms of menopause.  2. A strategy and script for how to talk to your doctor without being dismissed. 3. The lies and truth about menopause hormone therapy. 4. Why our culture is fixated on investing to ensure men never lose their erection, but is fine with women losing their quality of life.  5. What we need to know about our bodies and lives during menopause, which will impact up to 20 years of our lives.    Resource: North American Menopause Society (NAMS)    About Jen:  Dr. Jen Gunter is an OB/GYN and pain medicine physician and the author of The Menopause Manifesto, The Vagina Bible, and The Preemie Primer. She is the host of the podcast Body Stuff (TED Audio Collective) and of the streaming docuseries Jensplaining (CBC Gem). She blogs at TheVajenda.com and her writing can also be found in the New York Times, Glamour, DAME, and other publications. Her mission is to build a better medical Internet. She has been called Twitter’s gynecologist, the Internet’s OB/GYN, and a fierce advocate for women’s health. TW: @DrJenGunter IG: @drjengunter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 26, 2022
Enneagram: What does your number say about you? with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober
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1. What is your Enneagram number–and how does this ancient wisdom explain WHY you do what you do?  2. Why Glennon *really* didn’t want to accept her Enneagram number, and how she finally saw herself clearly in it.  3. How the Enneagram helps Amanda have much more compassion for herself–and how she uses it to understand common patterns in her marriage.  4. Glennon and Amanda use the Enneagram to dissect what is *actually* going on in their conflicts, and how to make each other feel seen and understood. About Ashton: Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober is an author, public speaker, Community Psychologist, and certified Enneagram educator. With a desire to see relationships strengthened and people empowered, she created Enneagram Ashton in early 2019. She is the author of Enneagram for Relationships, The Two of Us: A Three Year Couples Journal, and The Enneagram Made Simple. IG: @enneagramashton Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 21, 2022
Brené Brown & Barrett Guillen Sisters Double Date!!
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1. Brené and Barrett share their parenting strategy that Brené calls “the opposite of raising a child that’s full of shame.” 2. The family of origin roles that Brené (the Protector) and Barrett (the Peacekeeper) had to adjust in order to work together–and the two keys to working well with family.   3. The ways in which a child who grows up living on eggshells becomes an adult who is fearful–and how that fear shows up differently for Brené, Barrett, Glennon, and Amanda.    4. The hilarious moment when each sister confesses a secret that they fear the other believes about them–and we find out whether or not it’s true.  5. How Brené and Barrett are walking through the grief of their mother’s sudden decline, and how they circle back when the stress of that grief makes them shitty to each other.   About Brené:  Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work.She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, is the author of six #1 New York Times bestsellers, and is the host of the weekly podcasts Unlocking Us and Dare to Lead.  Brené’s books have been translated into more than 30 languages and titles include: Dare to Lead, Braving the Wilderness, Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection. Most recently Brené collaborated with Tarana Burke to co-edit You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience.  In her latest #1 New York Times bestseller, ATLAS OF THE HEART, which has been adapted for television and now streaming on HBO Max, she takes us on a journey through eighty-seven of the emotions and experiences that define what it means to be human.  Brené lives in Houston, Texas, with her husband, Steve. They have two children, Ellen and Charlie. TW: @BreneBrown IG: @BreneBrown About Barrett:  Barrett Guillen is Chief of Staff for Brené Brown Education and Research Group. With her team, Barrett supports both Brené and the organization by helping to prioritize competing demands, managing relationships, and building connective tissue and strategy across all business initiatives. Barrett holds bachelor’s and master’s degrees in Kinesiology from the University of Houston. After more than a decade in education in the Texas Panhandle, Barrett and her family moved back to the Houston area to join Brene’s team in making the world a braver place. Having the opportunity to work with her sisters every day has been one of the great joys of her life. Outside the office, you can find Barrett spending time with her family (immediate and extended), enjoying her daughter’s games, eating her husband’s famous burgers, floating in the water (any water!), or on the pickle ball court. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 19, 2022
Jen Hatmaker & Tyler Merritt Double Date!
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Jen Hatmaker is back with the new man in her life–actor, author, and activist Tyler Merritt–for a double date with Glennon and Abby discussing:   1. How Jen and Tyler met, what first attracted Jen and Tyler to each other–and who made the first move.   2. How not knowing any “dating rules” led Jen to jumpstart the “define the relationship” step.   3. The triggers for Jen that led to an early relationship “wobble” and how Jen is navigating issues of trust and safety after her divorce.  4. The joys and challenges of dating as two fully formed grown up adults.  5. Jen, Tyler, Abby, and Glennon each share the one thing they love most about their partners.  About Jen:  Jen Hatmaker is the New York Times bestselling author of For the Love and Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire, along with twelve other books. She hosts the award-winning For the Love podcast, is the delighted curator of the Jen Hatmaker Book Club, and leader of a tightly knit online community where she reaches millions of people each week. Jen is a co-founder of Legacy Collective, a giving organization that grants millions of dollars toward sustainable projects around the world. She is a mom to five kids and lives happily just outside Austin, Texas. To learn more about Jen, visit www.jenhatmaker.com. TW: @JenHatmaker IG: @jenhatmaker About Tyler: Tyler Merritt is a Nashville-based actor, activist, cancer survivor, founder of The Tyler Merritt Project, and author of "I TAKE MY COFFEE BLACK: REFLECTIONS ON TUPAC, MUSICAL THEATER, FAITH AND BEING BLACK IN AMERICA." Over the course of his career, Tyler has gained recognition through notable acting projects including "Kevin Probably Saves The World," "Outer Banks," and "The Outsider," as well as serving as the face of the worldwide teaching curriculum for The Gospel Project for Kids. Tyler Merritt made headlines with his 2018 viral video "Before You Call The Cops," which has been viewed by over 60 million people worldwide and appeared on Jimmy Kimmel Live. As a 6’2'' dreadlocked Black man living inAmerica, where racial injustices continue to plague our society, Tyler has emerged as a steadfast activist in the face of racism. TW: @TTMProject IG: @thetylermerrittproject Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 14, 2022
Jen Hatmaker: What We Win When We Lose It All
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1. Jen describes the shock of losing her 26-year marriage overnight.  2. How, looking back, Jen sees that she knew something was wrong in her relationship well before she “knew” something was wrong–and the moment she reached out to Glennon to share it for the first time.   3. Why Jen’s friends told her she was a “human spotlight” and “cleanup crew” in her marriage–and the pain of realizing she was powerful in every role other than wife.   4. How Jen convinced herself that her marriage was enough when in reality she felt like a pot of water slowly building to a boil.  5. The common hell of being lonely inside of marriage–and why we won’t be fully honest with ourselves, our partners, or our friends about what we are most afraid of.   About Jen:  Jen Hatmaker is the New York Times bestselling author of For the Love and Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire, along with twelve other books. She hosts the award-winning For the Love podcast, is the delighted curator of the Jen Hatmaker Book Club, and leader of a tightly knit online community where she reaches millions of people each week. Jen is a co-founder of Legacy Collective, a giving organization that grants millions of dollars toward sustainable projects around the world. She is a mom to five kids and lives happily just outside Austin, Texas. To learn more about Jen, visit www.jenhatmaker.com. TW: @JenHatmaker IG: @jenhatmaker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 12, 2022
Susan Cain Says Sadness is a Superpower
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1. How to know if you are a “Bittersweet” type. 2. On “stabs of joy”—and why our joy is often accompanied by dread. 3. How to complete the cycle of sadness, in order to live with more joy. 4. Susan and Sister’s best relationship advice: That our longing for the perfect partner is not really about our partner. 5. Why Glennon thinks those who feel the ache are often those who fall into addiction. About Susan: Susan Cain is the author of the bestsellers Quiet Journal, Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts, and Quiet: The Power of Introverts in A World That Can’t Stop Talking, which has been translated into 40 languages, spent seven years on the New York Times best seller list, and was named the #1 best book of the year by Fast Company magazine, which also named Cain one of its Most Creative People in Business. Her new masterpiece, Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, was published by Crown on April 5, 2022. LinkedIn named Susan the 6th Top Influencer in the world. Susan partners with Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant and Dan Pink to curate the Next Big Idea Book Club. They donate all their proceeds to children’s literacy programs. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her record-smashing TED talk has been viewed over 40 million times, and was named by Bill Gates one of his all-time favorite talks. Cain has also spoken at Google, PIXAR, the U.S. Treasury, P&G, Harvard, and West Point. She received Harvard Law School’s Celebration Award for Thought Leadership, the Toastmasters International Golden Gavel Award for Communication and Leadership, and was named one of the world’s top 50 Leadership and Management Experts by Inc. Magazine. She is an honors graduate of Princeton and Harvard Law School. Visit Susan at susancain.net.  TW: @susancain IG: @susancainauthor Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 07, 2022
Mothers & Sons with Ocean Vuong (and Chase Melton)
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Glennon’s son, Chase, joins Glennon for a special conversation with his hero, author Ocean Vuong, to discuss: 1. Chase shares with Ocean the impact his work has had in his life–and Glennon thanks Ocean for helping mother her son. 2. What Ocean learned from his mother about how to navigate being an Asian boy in America–and Glennon’s recognition that she did not prepare Chase for the same realities. 3. Ocean’s new book, Time is a Mother, and why watching his own mother die gave Ocean a deep empathy and connection to every person. 4. His relationship to maleness–and why Ocean is interested in “staying and complicating” masculinity. About Ocean: Ocean Vuong, author of the critically acclaimed poetry collection Night Sky with Exit Wounds, and the New York Times bestselling novel On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous is a recipient of the 2019 MacArthur "Genius Grant" and the winner of the Whiting Award and the T. S. Eliot Prize. In Time Is a Mother, Ocean's newest poetry collection available now, he reckons with his mother’s death, embodying the paradox of sitting within grief while being determined to survive beyond it. His writings have been featured in The Atlantic, Harper's Magazine, The Nation, The New Republic, The New Yorker, and The New York Times. Born in Saigon, Vietnam, he currently lives in Northampton, Massachusetts. IG: ocean_vuong Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 05, 2022
Brené Brown: What to Say to Get What You Need
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1. How to know when to dig deep–and when to quit digging.  2. The greatest blocker of connection–and how to remove it. 3. How to handle our fear (without obsessively controlling our people and our environment). 4. Why we all deserve a standing ovation for navigating relationships over the past two years.   About Brené:  Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, is the author of six #1 New York Times bestsellers, and is the host of the weekly podcasts Unlocking Us and Dare to Lead.  In her latest #1 New York Times bestseller, ATLAS OF THE HEART, which has been adapted for television and now streaming on HBO Max, she takes us on a journey through eighty-seven of the emotions and experiences that define what it means to be human.  Brené’s books have been translated into more than 30 languages and titles include: Dare to Lead, Braving the Wilderness, Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection. Most recently Brené collaborated with Tarana Burke to co-edit You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience.  Brené lives in Houston, Texas, with her husband, Steve. They have two children, Ellen and Charlie. TW: @BreneBrown IG: @BreneBrown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 31, 2022
Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better
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1. Why Hannah describes her later-in-life Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis as “an exfoliation of shame.” 2. How neurodiversity affects Hannah’s relationships–and how she connects to the world through what’s “interesting” instead of what’s “important.” 3. Hannah’s revolutionary commitment to stop using self-deprecating humor about her body, sexuality, and gender–and why we might all consider the same commitment. 4. Why it’s easier for Hannah to share her personal stories “in bulk” on stage instead of one-on-one. 5. What it takes for Hannah to prepare for conversations–like ours on We Can Do Hard Things. About Hannah: Tasmania’s own Hannah Gadsby stopped stand-up comedy in its tracks with her multi-award-winning show, Nanette. When it premiered on Netflix in 2018, it left audiences captivated by her blistering honesty and her singular ability to take them from rolling laughter to devastated silence. Its release and subsequent Emmy and Peabody wins took Nanette (and Hannah) to the world. Hannah’s difficult second album (which was also her eleventh solo show) was named Douglas after her dog. Hannah walked Douglas around the world, selling out the Royal Festival Hall in London, the Opera House in Sydney and the Kennedy Center in DC, a sit-down run in New York and shows across the US, Europe, Australia and New Zealand. Douglas covered Hannah’s autism diagnosis, moving beyond the trauma at the centre of Nanette and instead letting the world see the view from Hannah’s brain – one that sees the world differently but with breathtaking clarity. The show was an Emmy-nominated smash hit and is available throughout the world on Netflix, recorded in Los Angeles.  Hannah Gadsby’s “overnight” success was more than ten years in the making, with her award-winning stand-up shows having been a fixture in festivals across Australia and the UK since 2009. She played a character called “Hannah” on the TV series Please Like Me and has hosted multiple art documentaries, inspired by her comedy art lectures. In 2022, Hannah’s first book Ten Steps to Nanette: A Memoir Situation was published by Ballantine, an imprint of Penguin Random House, in the United States, Atlantic in the UK, and Allen & Unwin in Australia. Hannah has done plenty of other things over the course of more than a decade in comedy, but that will do for now. IG: hannah_gadsby TW: HannahGadsby Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 29, 2022
Pro-Aging: Why the Best is Yet to Come with Ashton Applewhite.
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1. Why we’ve been sold a lie–and the truth that we actually get happier the older we get! 2. The two most important–and shocking–predictors of aging well. 3. Busting the most prevalent misconceptions and about getting older. 4. How believing the myths about aging literally harms our health and makes us more vulnerable to the fears we hold about aging. 5. Glennon paints a mental picture of her older self–and encourages the Pod Squad to do the same. About Ashton:  The author of This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism, Ashton Applewhite is a leading spokesperson for the emerging movement to raise awareness of ageism and to dismantle it. A co-founder of the Old School Anti-Ageism Clearinghouse, she has been recognized by the New York Times, the New Yorker, National Public Radio, and the American Society on Aging as an expert on ageism. Ashton has written for Harper’s, the Guardian, and the New York Times, blogs at This Chair Rocks, and is the voice of Yo, Is This Ageist? She speaks widely at venues that have ranged from colleges and symposia to the TED mainstage and the United Nations. In 2022 she appeared on HelpAgeUSA’s inaugural 60 Over 60 List and on Fe:maleOneZero’s first international edition of 40 over 40 – The World’s Most Inspiring Women. Twitter: @thischairrocks Instagram: @thischairrocks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 24, 2022
This is 46: Why I’m Pumped About Midlife
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1. How Glennon is using her 46th birthday as an intermission–to slow down and decide what to bring with her into Act 2. 2. The counterculture power of knowing what is enough, and letting ourselves go. 3. The way to transition from Role Living to Soul Living–and why Glennon has Joni Mitchell on repeat. 4. The real meaning of “crisis”–and the idea that living well now means reimagining everything we learned in the first half of life.  5. Amanda’ s good news that if you don’t feel like Glennon does at this moment in life, it is very, very normal. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 22, 2022
The Power of Rethinking Everything with Dr. Yaba Blay
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1. Why the construct of beauty is oppressive, but the essence of beauty is freedom.  2. What living with integrity looks like. 3. Why Dr. Blay doesn’t need any more allies—and what she really wants from an accomplice. 4. How “Karens” have been around for centuries—and the direct line from “Miss Anne to Karen.” 5. Dr. Blay’s greatest hope for her granddaughters—even if she doesn’t like it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 17, 2022
REGRET: What if we’d done things differently?
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1. Amanda shares the biggest regret of her life: the one that still wakes her up in the middle of the night. 2. The five biggest regrets of the dying—and how to make the necessary changes to avoid them. 3. Why we should reframe regret as proof of a life well-lived. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 15, 2022
Double Date with Brandi & Catherine Carlile!
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In this hilarious and heartwarming in-person double date with Abby and Glennon—and their dear friends and brilliant artists Brandi and Catherine Carlile—we learn: 1. Why Brandi was completely dismayed the first time she met Catherine; 2. Who made the first move—and why it made Catherine sweat; 3. All about the Carlile family compound—where they are raising their girls surrounded by family, band members, and exes; 4. How they communicate and deal with jealousy; and 5. Why Brandi believes this conversation—two queer couples sitting on a couch publicly discussing marriage, family, and domesticity—is revolutionary. About Brandi: Brandi Carlile is a six-time GRAMMY Award-winning singer, songwriter, performer, producer, #1 New York Times Bestselling author and activist, who is known as one of music's most respected voices. Her new album, In These Silent Days, recently debuted at #1 on Billboard’s Americana/Folk Albums chart, Top Rock Albums chart and Tastemaker Albums chart and continues to receive overwhelming acclaim. The New York Times praises, “Larger than life and achingly human…she empathizes, apologizes and lays out accusations. She’s righteous and she’s self-doubting. She proffers fond lullabies and she unleashes full-throated screams," while NPR Music declares, “absolutely breathtaking, across the whole album Brandi Carlile pulls out all the stops. It’s just extraordinary…she’s just claiming rock god status." Carlile recently received five nominations at the 64th Annual Grammy Awards including Record of the Year, Song of the Year and Best Pop Vocal Performance for the album's lead single, "Right On Time." Following a breakthrough debut on "Saturday Night Live," Carlile and her band will embark on a series of landmark concerts next year including stops at Washington’s Gorge Amphitheatre, Los Angeles’ The Greek Theatre and New York’s Madison Square Garden among many others. In addition to her 6 GRAMMY Awards, Carlile has been recognized with Billboard’s Women In Music “Trailblazer Award,” CMT’s Next Women of Country “Impact Award" and received multiple recognitions from the Americana Music Association Honors & Awards including Artist of the Year for the past two years. TW: @brandicarlile IG: @brandicarlile About Catherine:  Catherine Carlile has devoted her life to the intersection of music and activism with over 20 years of experience. Since 2012, she has served as the Executive Director of the Looking Out Foundation, which has raised over $3 million for a variety of grassroots causes including close work with Children In Conflict/War Child. She also serves as creative director for Phantom 309 Productions. Prior to her current work, Catherine worked with Sir Paul McCartney in coordinating his charitable interests and endeavors. Originally from London, Catherine now lives outside of Seattle, WA with her wife, Brandi Carlile, and their two daughters, Evangeline and Elijah. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 10, 2022
Brandi Carlile: Live From My Couch!
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1. The two disagreements between Brandi and Glennon that started, and cemented, their friendship. 2. Brandi’s lifelong quest to continuously “calibrate” herself so that her outsides are in tune with her insides. 3. The trait Brandi loves most about Catherine—and the sticky note on Glennon’s desk with the same message.  About Brandi: Brandi Carlile is a six-time GRAMMY Award-winning singer, songwriter, performer, producer, #1 New York Times Bestselling author and activist, who is known as one of music's most respected voices. Her new album, In These Silent Days, recently debuted at #1 on Billboard’s Americana/Folk Albums chart, Top Rock Albums chart and Tastemaker Albums chart and continues to receive overwhelming acclaim. The New York Times praises, “Larger than life and achingly human…she empathizes, apologizes and lays out accusations. She’s righteous and she’s self-doubting. She proffers fond lullabies and she unleashes full-throated screams," while NPR Music declares, “absolutely breathtaking, across the whole album Brandi Carlile pulls out all the stops. It’s just extraordinary…she’s just claiming rock god status." Carlile recently received five nominations at the 64th Annual Grammy Awards including Record of the Year, Song of the Year and Best Pop Vocal Performance for the album's lead single, "Right On Time." Following a breakthrough debut on "Saturday Night Live," Carlile and her band will embark on a series of landmark concerts including stops at Washington’s Gorge Amphitheatre, Los Angeles’ The Greek Theatre and New York’s Madison Square Garden among many others. In addition to her 6 GRAMMY Awards, Carlile has been recognized with Billboard’s Women In Music “Trailblazer Award,” CMT’s Next Women of Country “Impact Award" and received multiple recognitions from the Americana Music Association Honors & Awards including Artist of the Year for the past two years. TW: @brandicarlile IG: @brandicarlile Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 08, 2022
ALOK: How do we interrupt trauma? How do we heal?
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1. How do we make a new thing with our life? 2. What is your fingerprint on the world? 3. Who does history try to erase and why? 4. What does pain do to our bodies? 5 .What is our capacity for transformation? About ALOK: ALOK (they/them) is an internationally acclaimed writer, performer, and public speaker. As a mixed-media artist their work explores themes of trauma, belonging, and the human condition. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017), Beyond the Gender Binary (2020), and Your Wound/My Garden (2021). They are the creator of #DeGenderFashion: a movement to degender fashion and beauty industries and have been honored as one of HuffPo’s Culture Shifters, NBC’s Pride 50, and Business Insider’s Doers. Instagram: @alokvmenon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 03, 2022
ALOK: What makes us beautiful? What makes us free?
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“The days that I feel most beautiful are the days that I am most afraid.” “What feminine part of yourself did you have to destroy in order to survive in this world?” “Why have we been taught to fear the very things that can set us free?” About ALOK:  ALOK (they/them) is an internationally acclaimed writer, performer, and public speaker. As a mixed-media artist their work explores themes of trauma, belonging, and the human condition. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017), Beyond the Gender Binary (2020), and Your Wound/My Garden (2021). They are the creator of #DeGenderFashion: a movement to degender fashion and beauty industries and have been honored as one of HuffPo’s Culture Shifters, NBC’s Pride 50, and Business Insider’s Doers. Instagram: @alokvmenon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mar 01, 2022
Pet Love: Are Animals the Closest We Come to Unconditional Love?
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1. Amanda shares the story of Séamus, the newest addition to her family–and how he has ruined her “religion” of the spreadsheet.  2. Why Glennon says that Honey and Hattie are the only “people” who truly understand her–and what each of them teach her about love. 3. The ways we hilariously project emotions onto our pets–and how Abby has fallen for Tish’s pet hamster, Biscuit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 24, 2022
Double Date with Megan Rapinoe & Sue Bird!
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For their first (of hopefully many) podcast double dates, Abby and Glennon sit down with the icons, activists, and Olympians Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bird. In this honest and hilarious conversation, we find out: 1. The delightfully awkward moment Megan and Sue first met; 2. What’s hard for each of them right now; 3. The boundaries they’re working on together; 4. How they communicate and deal with jealousy; and  5. How they help each other show up in the world as champions for change.   About Sue:  Regarded as the world’s premier point guard, Sue Bird is the WNBA’s All-Time Leader in Assists and known for being selfless, driven, encouraging, funny and smart. Bird is a seasoned veteran and a born leader who has dominated at every level. She is one of only seven women to win an Olympic Gold Medal (she’s won five), a World Championship Gold Medal (she’s won four) an NCAA Championship (she’s won two), and a WNBA Championship (she’s won four – the last just weeks before her 40th birthday). Sue is also a five-time Euroleague Champion, a twelve- time WNBA All-Star, was voted by the fans as one of the WNBA’s Top 15 Players of All Time. Off the court, Sue spends time as a basketball analyst for ESPN and as an outspoken and visible activist advocating for Black Lives, equality, health and wellness and expanding opportunities for girls and all marginalized people.   TW: @S10Bird IG: @suebird10 About Megan:  Two-time World Cup Champion and Olympic Gold Medalist, Megan Rapinoe is a fan favorite and one of the team’s most technical and craftiest players. A vocal leader on and off the pitch, Megan helped lead the USWNT to the 2019 Women’s World Cup Championship scoring some of the biggest goals of the tournament. Megan took home the tournament’s two top honors – the Golden Boot for top scorer, and the Golden Ball for the best player in the tournament. Megan is an advocate for equality for all and has been able to intersect her passion for humanity and authenticity.    TW: @mPinoe IG: @mrapinoe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 22, 2022
Be Messy, Complicated & Afraid–and Show Up Anyway
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Today, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda continue their conversation about Glennon’s eating disorder relapse and the Next Right Thing for their family.    CW // eating disorders Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 17, 2022
Mailchimp Presents: Going Through It Season 3 with Jenny Yang
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With new host Jenny Yang, Going Through It returns for its third season featuring 15 notable guests reflecting on what they learned from the elders who influenced them at just the right time. New episodes releasing every Monday.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 16, 2022
My Hardest Thing
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Today, Glennon shares about her recent eating disorder relapse.   If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today.   If it triggers: Skip today.     CW // eating disorders Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 15, 2022
Pet Peeves: What Do Our Biggest Annoyances Say About Us?
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1. Glennon explains her “soundaries”—and why a lack of audiorial yield in public places is her biggest peeve. 2. Abby’s struggle, as a bonus parent, adjusting to a kid-filled life with zero personal space and personal property boundaries. 3. Why Amanda is allergic to the word “fine”—and why she’s stopped saying “I didn’t have time.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 10, 2022
SARAH PAULSON IS PLAYING GLENNON ON TV!!
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1. Glennon reenacts her first emotional and hilarious email exchange with Sarah Paulson about the Untamed TV show.    2. Sarah contemplates how she will prepare for the role of Glennon–and why she’s “never been more excited about anything truly ever. ” 3. Glennon, Sarah and Abby discuss who will play Abby–and how they will recreate the “There She Is” moment.  About Sarah:  Sarah Paulson’s acting work includes lead roles in FX’s anthology series "American Horror Story,” and playing Marcia Clark in "The People v. O. J. Simpson,” for which she won an Emmy Award, a Golden Globe Award, a Screen Actors Guild Award, a Critics’ Choice Award, and a Television Critics Association Award.  Her film credits include the Academy Award-winning "12 Years a Slave,” as well as “Carol,” "Ocean’s 8,” and many others.  She can be seen in the FX miniseries "Mrs. America,” Lionsgate’s "Run,” in the title role in the Netflix series "Ratched,” which she executive produces, and most recently in the third installment of American Crime Story: Impeachment as Linda Tripp.  IG:@misssarahcatherinepaulson TW: @MsSarahPaulson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 08, 2022
How to Get More Joy with Martha Beck
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1. Why it’s important to prioritize our own needs, wants, and feelings–and how that creates freedom and peace for those we love. 2. What Glennon says was the hardest thing about telling her kids that Craig and she were getting a divorce–and how truth telling frees us all. 3. Martha’s helpful strategy for how to choose freedom over fear when we’re faced with a tough decision. About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller. Book: The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self Instagram: @themarthabeck Twitter: @marthabeck Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 03, 2022
How to Come Home to Yourself with Martha Beck
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1. How do we tap back into living by our inner compass after living by consensus and following outer voices for so long?  2. What Martha said to Glennon and Abby when they told her they were in love but scared to move forward—and how that advice changed their lives.  3. How to make a plan to cultivate joy when it feels like you are army-crawling through life.   About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller. Book: The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self Instagram: @themarthabeck Twitter: @marthabeck Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 01, 2022
How Do We Make–and Keep–Good Friends?
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1. How chronic social isolation throughout the pandemic has impacted our friendships–and why that’s affecting our mental health and cravings for connection. 2. Glennon, Amanda, and Abby each make a Next Right Thing plan for prioritizing friendship in their lives. 3. How we grieve a friendship ending when there’s no cultural template or ritual to acknowledge that deep loss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jan 27, 2022
FRIENDSHIP: What is it and why do we need it now more than ever?
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1. Why the connection of friendship is emerging as the single best thing for your wellness—and three things that define a healthy friendship. 2. How friendship has changed for Abby since retiring from soccer—and why Glennon fears commitment in friendships more than other relationships. 3. How to recognize ambivalent relationships—and why they can be just as bad for us as toxic ones. CW // eating disorders Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jan 25, 2022
How to Live a Little Happier with Dr. Laurie Santos
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1. The simple exercises Laurie conducts with her students at Yale to help them reset their brains and restructure their days in order to access happiness.   2. Why being “time famished” is one of the most common obstacles to happiness, the signals our bodies give us that we are starved of unstructured time, and what we can do to build more of it.   3. How understanding that our brains are wired as “comparison machines” incompatible with happiness can lead to improved wellbeing.   About Laurie:  Dr. Laurie Santos is Professor of Psychology and Head of Silliman College at Yale University. Dr. Santos is an expert on human cognition and the cognitive biases that impede better choices. Her course, “Psychology and the Good Life,” teaches students what the science of psychology says about how to make wiser choices and live a life that’s happier and more fulfilling. The class is Yale’s most popular course in over 300 years and has been adapted into a free Coursera program that has been taken by over 3.3 million people to date. Dr. Santos has been featured in numerous news outlets including the New York Times, NBC Nightly News, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, NPR, GQ Magazine, Slate, CNN and O, The Oprah Magazine. Dr. Santos is a winner of numerous awards both for her science and teaching from institutions such as Yale and the American Psychological Association. She has been featured as one of Popular Science’s “Brilliant 10” young minds and was named TIME's “Leading Campus Celebrity.” Her podcast, The Happiness Lab, launched in 2019 has over 48 million downloads. Instagram: @lauriesantosofficial Twitter: @lauriesantos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jan 20, 2022
The Big Lies & the Truth About Happiness with Dr. Laurie Santos
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1. One easy thing we can do to increase our happiness by 1% when we’re feeling tired and overwhelmed. 2. Our misconception that happiness is about our circumstances–the next promotion, the new relationship–and the reality that often people with fantastic circumstances are miserable. 3. Why our emotions flow directly from our thoughts–and how we can improve our wellbeing by changing our mind’s interpretation of events. About Laurie: Dr. Laurie Santos is Professor of Psychology and Head of Silliman College at Yale University. Dr. Santos is an expert on human cognition and the cognitive biases that impede better choices. Her course, “Psychology and the Good Life,” teaches students what the science of psychology says about how to make wiser choices and live a life that’s happier and more fulfilling. The class is Yale’s most popular course in over 300 years and has been adapted into a free Coursera program that has been taken by over 3.3 million people to date. Dr. Santos has been featured in numerous news outlets including the New York Times, NBC Nightly News, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, NPR, GQ Magazine, Slate, CNN and O, The Oprah Magazine. Dr. Santos is a winner of numerous awards both for her science and teaching from institutions such as Yale and the American Psychological Association. She has been featured as one of Popular Science’s “Brilliant 10” young minds and was named TIME's “Leading Campus Celebrity.” Her podcast, The Happiness Lab, launched in 2019 has over 48 million downloads. Instagram: @lauriesantosofficial Twitter: @lauriesantos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jan 18, 2022
Are Your Friendships Draining or Charging You? with Luvvie Ajayi Jones
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1. How do we build a squad of friends–people we can trust our truth and imperfection with, and who take responsibility for one another’s care? 2. How to know when it’s time to let a friendship go–and how we release one another without the hard feelings.   3. Why when we have a problem trusting others, it sometimes has to do with a lack of trust in ourselves.    4. Why Luvvie says her friends have rewired her brain, and answers the question: Can Black and white women really be friends? About Luvvie: Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a two-time New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and sought-after speaker who thrives at the intersection of humor, media, and justice. Her critically acclaimed books Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual and I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual were instant bestsellers and established her as a literary force with a powerful pen. Professional Troublemaker was just released in paperback.  She’s an internationally recognized speaker who takes on dozens of stages every year around the globe and has spoken at some of the world's most innovative companies and conferences, including Google, Facebook, Amazon, and Twitter. She is also co-creator of the #SharetheMicNow global movement and hosts her podcast, Professional Troublemaker. Instagram: @luvvie Twitter: @Luvvie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jan 13, 2022
Telling the Truth of Who We Are with Luvvie Ajayi Jones
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1. A hilarious, profound take on judging people, and why Luvvie’s telling the world–and has often told Glennon–to: “Fix your face.” 2. How to prepare for hard conversations with those we love–including the lists Luvvie brings to those talks that help keep her calm and vulnerable. 3. The importance of sitting with the fear behind the questions: “Who am I when I am not giving something to somebody?” and “What is my worth when I have nothing to offer?” 4. How we can affirm our teen Troublemakers to keep being different–that their power is in remaining as odd and amazing as they already are–and the complications that led to in Glennon and Abby’s home.  About Luvvie: Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a two-time New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and sought-after speaker who thrives at the intersection of humor, media, and justice. Her critically acclaimed books Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual and I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual were instant bestsellers and established her as a literary force with a powerful pen. Professional Troublemaker was just released in paperback.   She’s an internationally recognized speaker who takes on dozens of stages every year around the globe and has spoken at some of the world's most innovative companies and conferences, including Google, Facebook, Amazon, and Twitter. She is also co-creator of the #SharetheMicNow global movement and hosts her podcast, Professional Troublemaker. Instagram: @luvvie Twitter: @Luvvie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jan 11, 2022
Be Still: How to Listen to That Something Inside That Always Knows
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1. What if we stop trying to figure out whether our feelings and intuition are “right” or “wrong”– and instead, just acknowledge them as real–and move toward them? 2. How Glennon is experiencing a little shift in peace, joy, and non-reactivity through her newfound relationship with meditation. 3. Why a lot of our suffering exists in the space between the Knowing and the Doing–and how life is at its best and most exciting when we shorten that gap. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jan 06, 2022
New Year, Same You: Good News About Bad January Branding
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1. Why do we spend our lives trying to become what our culture ascribes as “good” only to burn ourselves out, wake up, and realize: I thought it would all be more beautiful than this? 2. Why Glennon says that stillness has been her greatest teacher–and how she was able to find it in her most rock bottom moments.  3. How listening for and committing to the next right thing then leads us to the next thing–and why we should rush towards whatever looks and feels like freedom. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jan 04, 2022
Walking Our People Through Hard Things with Kate Bowler
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1. What we should STOP saying to people who are struggling—and what to say, or do, instead.  2. How Kate received the support she needed because people were willing to embarrass themselves in their attempts to show up—and why we shouldn’t be scared of doing it wrong. 3. Kate offers some words to a Pod Squader feeling anticipatory grief—and how to accept that we can’t always make it okay for the people we love.  About Kate: Kate Bowler, PhD is a New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and a professor at Duke University. She studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we’re capable of change. She is the author of Blessed: A History of the American Prosperity Gospel and The Preacher’s Wife: The Precarious Power of Evangelical Women Celebrities. After being unexpectedly diagnosed with Stage IV cancer at age 35, she penned the New York Times bestselling memoir, Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I’ve Loved) and her latest, No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear). Kate hosts the Everything Happens podcast where, in warm, insightful, often funny conversations, she talks with people like Malcolm Gladwell and Anne Lamott about what they’ve learned in difficult times. She lives in Durham, North Carolina with her family and continues to teach do-gooders at Duke Divinity School. Book: No Cure for Being Human: (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) Instagram: @katecbowler Twitter: @KatecBowler Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 30, 2021
What to Do with Our Short, Precious Life with Kate Bowler
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1. Kate describes the overwhelming feeling of love—not anger—that she felt when she was sure she was near death.  2. Why it’s time we throw out expressions like “Everything is possible” and “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger,” and rewrite our cultural cliches.  3. Why Kate delights in celebrating the holidays—and how to survive the holiday season when there’s grief and loss and fear in all of us.  4. Kate and Glennon bond over their love for swear words—and how using them is a reflection of what’s going on inside of them. About Kate: Kate Bowler, PhD is a New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and a professor at Duke University. She studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we’re capable of change. She is the author of Blessed: A History of the American Prosperity Gospel and The Preacher’s Wife: The Precarious Power of Evangelical Women Celebrities. After being unexpectedly diagnosed with Stage IV cancer at age 35, she penned the New York Times bestselling memoir, Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I’ve Loved) and her latest, No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear). Kate hosts the Everything Happens podcast where, in warm, insightful, often funny conversations, she talks with people like Malcolm Gladwell and Anne Lamott about what they’ve learned in difficult times. She lives in Durham, North Carolina with her family and continues to teach do-gooders at Duke Divinity School. Book: No Cure for Being Human: (And Other Truths I Need to Hear) Instagram: @katecbowler Twitter: @KatecBowler Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 28, 2021
Eff Perfection: Let’s Rest in the Rubble Together
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1. What if we deleted the picture in our head of how it’s “supposed to be,” and looked at “what is” right now, as enough? 2. What makes a good apology–and why we shouldn't pretend that it is possible to reorder what we did to people. 3. Glennon describes “the ache”–and how it’s really love, coming and going, and making life more beautiful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 23, 2021
Unexpected Joy: How do we redefine success so we can find joy?
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1. Glennon, Abby, and Amanda share how opening up and being vulnerable on the podcast has changed their lives.  2. What your preparation style says about your personality—and how some people bring their “magic” while others bring index cards.  3. Abby recalls “the biggest bomb of her life”—and why she was nervous to join Glennon and Amanda on We Can Do Hard Things. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 21, 2021
How to Love Yourself & Let Yourself be Loved with Ashley C. Ford
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1. Why Ashley says we have to talk about what hurts if we’re ever going to heal. 2. Glennon asks Ashley about the power of apologizing—and why Ashley says we must begin apologizing to the people we love. 3. How many of us are really good at loving other people, but often struggle to let ourselves be loved. 4. Why Ashley says that nothing has ever given her more peace and power than knowing that she doesn’t really need others to believe in her—because she believes so deeply in herself. About Ashley: Ashley C. Ford’s New York Times best-selling memoir, Somebody’s Daughter, was published by Flatiron Books in June 2021. Ford is the former host of The Chronicles of Now podcast, co-host of The HBO companion podcast Lovecraft Country Radio. She currently lives in Indianapolis, Indiana with her husband, poet and fiction writer Kelly Stacy, and their chocolate lab Astro Renegade Ford-Stacy. Ford has written or guest-edited for ELLE Magazine, Slate, Teen Vogue, New York Magazine, The New York Times, Domino, Cup of Jo, and various other web and print publications. Book: Somebody’s Daughter Instagram: @smashfizzle Twitter: @iSmashFizzle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 16, 2021
FORGIVING & FINDING PEACE with ASHLEY C. FORD
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1. How to find a way to live in peace: to actually love complicated parents without compromising our love for ourselves. 2. How we can’t change our past—and why Ashley says that forgiveness is accepting the fact that the past is never going to be different. 3. The importance of being able to hold two truths at the same time: that, for some of us, our parents did the best they could—and it wasn’t close to good enough. 4. Why Ashley says she struggles, even in adulthood, to accept love and care from people who are not obligated to love and care for her. 5. Why anger often reveals our passion points—and for Ashley, why that leads her to show up for children. About Ashley:  Ashley C. Ford’s New York Times best-selling memoir, Somebody’s Daughter, was published by Flatiron Books in June 2021. Ford is the former host of The Chronicles of Now podcast, co-host of The HBO companion podcast Lovecraft Country Radio. She currently lives in Indianapolis, Indiana with her husband, poet and fiction writer Kelly Stacy, and their chocolate lab Astro Renegade Ford-Stacy. Ford has written or guest-edited for ELLE Magazine, Slate, Teen Vogue, New York Magazine, The New York Times, Domino, Cup of Jo, and various other web and print publications. Book: Somebody’s Daughter Instagram: @smashfizzle Twitter: @iSmashFizzle  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 14, 2021
First Ever Live Q & A with the Pod Squad!
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1. Why embracing that it’s not possible to do everything brings freedom. 2. One change that Amanda made to get back into her body and reclaim her fire. 3. How to navigate our anxieties about the impending “return to normal” and how to hold onto the rhythm many of us have found comforting during the pandemic. 4. How Glennon’s been rethinking her popular Untamed quote “The braver I am, the luckier I get.” 5. How inviting more life into your life gives your people permission to live more fully.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 09, 2021
GET UNTAMED (Live!): This is How You Find Yourself
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1. What Tish said when asked, “Who has taught you the most about love?”— why it was the best day of Abby’s life, and led her to redefine what it means to be a mother.   2. Glennon declares herself a great adventurer, without movement: an inner travel guide—and how the new journal will help steer us toward our next right thing.  3. How the pandemic brought Amanda’s anxieties, traumas, and relational cracks, previously on a slow burn, to center stage—and what she’s learning from “Be Still and Know.”  4. Why Glennon says whatever we’re envious of is what we need to go for—and how that led to the creation of this podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 07, 2021
Dr. Brené Brown: On Holding Boundaries & Facing Our Fear
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1. Brené and Glennon role play through a scenario on how to put boundaries in practice with family members this holiday season. 2. Why Brené insists that starting “a love affair with the thing you’re most afraid of” will change your life.   3. Glennon asks Brené the question she’s been dying to ask about how a woman’s work is defined and received in the world compared to her male counterparts.  4. How understanding that grief and loss are an inevitable part of change helps us navigate toward the decisions that serve us.  5. Brené answers questions from the Pod Squad and our rapid fire session on: tough emotions, tattoos, and her favorite place on Earth. About Brené: Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. Brené is also a visiting professor in management at The University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business.   She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers, and is the host of the weekly Spotify Original podcasts Unlocking Us and Dare to Lead.  Brené’s books have been translated into more than 30 languages and titles include:  Dare to Lead, Braving the Wilderness, Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection. Most recently Brené collaborated with Tarana Burke to co-edit You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience.  Her TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 50 million views. She is also the first researcher to have a filmed lecture on Netflix. The Call to Courage special debuted on the streaming service in April 2019.   Brené lives in Houston, Texas, with her husband, Steve. They have two children, Ellen and Charlie. Book: Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience Instagram: @brenebrown Twitter: @BreneBrown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 02, 2021
DR. BRENÉ BROWN: How to Know Ourselves & Be Known by Our People
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1. Why Brené’s new book ATLAS OF THE HEART is a game changer for communicating hard emotions more easily.  2. Brené breaks down the difference between stressed and overwhelmed—and gives us tools to navigate both. 3. How our survival strategies from our families of origin can become both our superpowers and our stumbling blocks in our relationships and wellness.   4. How we can make sure our kids experience deep, steady belonging—even if they don’t feel like they “belong” out in the world.   5. The one question that Brené now asks herself whenever she’s considering a decision—and how it’s changed everything.  About Brené: Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. Brené is also a visiting professor in management at The University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business.   She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers, and is the host of the weekly Spotify Original podcasts Unlocking Us and Dare to Lead.  Brené’s books have been translated into more than 30 languages and titles include:  Dare to Lead, Braving the Wilderness, Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection. Most recently Brené collaborated with Tarana Burke to co-edit You Are Your Best Thing: Vulnerability, Shame Resilience, and the Black Experience.  Her TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 50 million views. She is also the first researcher to have a filmed lecture on Netflix. The Call to Courage special debuted on the streaming service in April 2019.   Brené lives in Houston, Texas, with her husband, Steve. They have two children, Ellen and Charlie.  Book: Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience Instagram: @brenebrown Twitter: @BreneBrown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 30, 2021
YOUR HOLIDAY PEP TALK: “We ask no questions of this day.”
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1. Glennon gives you a beautiful Thanksgiving pep talk that has Amanda and Abby nodding along and rolling with laughter.  2. Why Amanda suggests that we can be free to be our full selves at the Thanksgiving table, if we also each bring our own damn casserole.  3. Why the best predictor of how a family member is going to act is how a family member has always acted.  4. We’re taking holiday-themed questions from our beloved Pod Squad about in-laws, when to break tradition, and how to navigate different family of origin patterns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 25, 2021
HAPPYISH HOLIDAYS: Our Top Three Hacks
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1. How our second holiday hack—“Be unsurprised”—eliminates walking on eggshells around family, and leaving holiday gatherings feeling badly about ourselves or our people.   2. Amanda shares the first time she broke her family’s biggest holiday tradition—and how it’s now one of her most precious memories.  3. Abby remembers watching her mom stress out by preparing and perfecting every holiday detail—and the change she made to minimize her own holiday stress.   4. How carrying around a cup of hot tea serves as Glennon’s super shield. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 23, 2021
RUNNERS & CHEERERS: Marathon Life with Shalane Flanagan
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1. How a marathon is an analogy for life: the danger of comparison, the ride of emotions and self-doubt, that love is fuel, and that the world needs both runners and cheerers.   2. The question Abby kept asking herself throughout the race—and why she’s still wearing her marathon medal while doing the dishes and running errands.  3. Why race day was so profound to Glennon— even though she is strongly committed to NOT running—and how she experienced her first sports injury while cheering.  4. A special visit by the kids’ middle school cross-country coach, Coach Loux, who became Abby’s marathon coach—and what she said at the 24-mile mark that shifted everything for Abby.   5. A conversation with marathon champion Shalane Flanagan about the bond and joy of running—and how she played a magical part of Abby’s marathon day. About Shalane Flanagan:  Dedicated to giving back to the sport she loves, Shalane Flanagan is now an elite coach to the Bowerman Track Club, global spokesperson, and a mom, after retiring as one of America’s most decorated distance runners. Flanagan’s accolades include four-time Olympian, Olympic silver medalist, 2017 TCS New York City Marathon champion, World Cross Country Bronze medalist, and multiple American record holder. She is the third fastest American marathoner in history, with a time of 2:21.14. Shalane is the fastest American woman to run the Boston Marathon, 2:22.02. Along with her coauthor, Elyse Kopecky, she is the 3-time New York Times bestselling author of Run Fast. Eat Slow. and Run Fast. Cook Fast. Eat Slow. and Rise & Run, which became an instant bestseller. Shalane attributes her long career and incredible success to her nutrient-dense diet. Shalane has left the track behind, but you’ll still find her logging high mileage on trail run adventures with friends! Recipes from all three of her cookbooks fuel these strenuous miles. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 18, 2021
GABRIELLE UNION: Infertility, Bonus Parents & Free Families
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1. Gabrielle shares—as rawly and honestly as we’ve ever heard—about the “emotional chaos” of her years experiencing miscarriage, infertility, and surrogacy. 2. Gabrielle and Abby discuss the label and perception of “stepmom”—Gabrielle shares what she avoids at all costs in that role, and the most vital part of the role for her: consistency. 3. How Gabrielle coached her NBA husband Dwyane before Zaya shared with him that she is gay, and how his reaction encouraged Zaya to tell the people on her “never-ever” list. 4. Gabrielle’s insistence that home is a sanctuary where all are embraced with love, understanding, and joy—and how, if you can’t get behind all of her family members, you’re not welcome. About Gabrielle: Gabrielle Union is an actress, executive producer, activist, best-selling author, and Time100 cover honoree. Union will next be seen in Disney’s remake of CHEAPER BY THE DOZEN developed by Kenya Barris for Disney+. She was last seen in “L.A.’s Finest,” the highly anticipated TV spinoff of the BAD BOYS movie franchise. She reprised her starring role as Syd Burnett opposite Jessica Alba in the series and served as an executive producer through her production shingle “I’ll Have Another.” Union formed “I’ll Have Another” in 2018 with the goal of telling stories that center marginalized communities with their specific point of views in an authentic manner.    In May of 2021, Gabrielle released – in partnership with her husband Dwyane Wade – her second children’s book, “Shady Baby,” which became a New York Times best seller the first week of release. Her first book, We’re Going To Need More Wine: Stories That Are Funny, Complicated and True, was released in 2017 and instantly became a New York Times best seller. The highly anticipated follow up “You Got Anything Stronger?” was released in September of this year and was a New York Times best seller as well.    Union has always had an eye for forward-thinking businesses centered around inclusion, accessibility, and affordability. In August of 2020, she relaunched her haircare brand “Flawless by Gabrielle Union” for women with textured hair. Prior to relaunching Flawless, Union co-founded Bitsy's with the goal of making healthy, allergen- friendly, school-safe snacks that are accessible and affordable for all families regardless of their socioeconomic or geographical status. Union serves as a leader and advocate for inclusion in the entertainment industry. She is also a champion of breast health and combating sexual violence. Instagram: @gabunion Twitter: @itsgabrielleu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 16, 2021
Esther Perel Answers Your Relationship Questions
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1. Why Esther often recommends letter writing if you don’t know quite how to start—or have—hard conversations.   2. What to say—and when to say it—to show up for a friend who is in a bad relationship. 3. The importance of rituals in transitioning through breakups—what we should do when it’s time to say goodbye; and what we can do if we’ve never gotten the closure we need. About Esther Perel:  Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work? Her latest project is Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories with Esther Perel. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 11, 2021
ARE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ALIVE? with Esther Perel
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1. How, if you have been struggling in your romantic, parental, family, or work relationships through the lingering uncertainty of the last two years, you are not alone. 2. The revolutionary understanding that, in relationships, “behind every criticism is a longing; behind every anger is a hurt.” 3. What to do when your relationship is a bond of co-parenting / life management instead of a partnership of ongoing discovery.  4. The link between trauma recovery and the process of enlivening “dead” relationships. 5. Esther’s everyday conflict resolution practices. About Esther Perel:  Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work? Her latest project is Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories with Esther Perel. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 09, 2021
LANDING IN LOVE: Is the settling-in phase the best stage of love?
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1. How Glennon and Abby transitioned from the “falling in love” phase to “landing in love” at different times—and how Glennon felt “bamboozled” by it. 2. How the self-inflicted guilt of pursuing joy ruins everything. 3. Why a precious gift from Abby made Glennon feel like she’d finally landed in the right galaxy. 4. How the things about our partners that drive us nuts are the same things that attracted us to them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 04, 2021
FALLING IN LOVE: Is there really “the one” or is “the one” YOU?
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1. Why “falling in love” feels like you’re losing your mind—and Amanda’s experience when Glennon fell hard for Abby.  2. Why Abby thinks the idea of “the one” is the most romantic way to live, and why Amanda thinks “the one” is unromantic and uninteresting.   3. Glennon’s belief that loves are like plants: some loves are perennials that continue to bloom, others are annuals, full for a season and then back to earth to nourish soil—but that no love is ever, ever wasted.   4. Why so many of us either think we can be fixed by love, or that we can fix others with our love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 02, 2021
Passion, Praise & Getting Personal
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1. Glennon makes a “pod-pology”—and why we should stop saying, “I can’t imagine.”  2. Amanda makes the case for no longer praising people as “superheroes”—and why we should stop giving them lip service and bring them a sandwich instead.   3. How we abandon things we love because the environments surrounding them are unbearable—and how to recreate the environment and reclaim what we love.    4. Amanda’s reaction to her new role opening up on the podcast—and how she feels like the very intimate stories she shares are “not personal at all.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 28, 2021
HOW TO SAY NO with Simone Biles and Laurie Hernandez
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HOW TO SAY NO with Simone Biles and Laurie Hernandez  In this very special conversation, three GOATs and Glennon discuss: 1. What we can learn from Simone’s revolutionary decision at the Tokyo Olympics to choose her physical and mental health over the world’s expectations of her.  2. The tiny decisions that helped Laurie practice trusting herself again after surviving a toxic coach. 3. Why Simone, Laurie, and Abby believe their talent is both a blessing and a curse.  4. The places and times Simone and Laurie create where they have nothing to prove—to remind themselves they are human beings, not performance machines.  5. How Simone and Laurie are a big part of one of Abby and Glennon’s favorite family stories. About Simone:  Simone Biles, one of the greatest gymnasts of all-time, is the first woman to capture five All-Around World Championship titles. She is the most decorated gymnast in World Championships history—male or female—with 25 medals overall (19 gold), and is a seven-time Olympic medalist (4 gold). A three-time Laureus World Sportswoman of the Year, she earned the rare distinction of having four skills named in her honor—called The Biles.  Simone’s autobiography Courage to Soar is a New York Times bestseller.   Simone advocates for change and supports initiatives that provide education and assistance for children and young adults associated with adoption and childcare. Instagram: @simonebiles Twitter: @Simone_Biles About Laurie:  Laurie Hernandez is a second generation American, as her grandparents are from Puerto Rico, making her the first U.S. born Latina to make the U.S. team since 1984. Laurie is an Olympic medalist, winning both Gold and Silver medals at the 2016 Rio Olympic Games. Her book I Got This: To Gold and Beyond and her children’s book She’s Got This are both New York Times bestsellers. Laurie is a fierce advocate for the importance of mental health, and travels the country speaking to the next generation about following their dreams.  Instagram: @lauriehernandez Twitter: @LaurieHernandez About The GOLD OVER AMERICA TOUR (GOAT): Simone and Laurie—and an all-star team of gymnasts—are on the road this Fall for the 35-city Gold Over America Tour, showcasing their fierce talent and athletic brilliance in ways we’ve never seen before… their way! The show emerges from their personal values of empowerment, friendship, positive body image, mental health awareness, and self-confidence. Together, they are a united force proudly representing the sport of women’s gymnastics and inspiring audiences across the nation. More information: https://www.goldoveramericatour.com/goat Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 26, 2021
Creativity, Chemistry & Claiming Your Joy
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1. How Amanda’s breaking point—when her life felt like all “shoulds” and no “wants”—led to simple, concrete changes.  2. Why the labels put upon us early—the sporty one, the smart one, the artsy one—can shut us off from exploring other parts of ourselves. 3. How Glennon feels like Ben Affleck in Good Will Hunting—and why she wants Amanda to “go see about a girl.” 4. What the chemistry of fire has to teach us about how we can resurrect our Fun selves.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 21, 2021
WRITING & ART: When does your real self get to breathe and be seen?
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1. How writing is a lifeline for Glennon because it’s the one place her real self can tell the truth. 2. Why Abby feels that her time on the soccer field was art.  3. The unorthodox way Glennon’s writing evolved from hourly 5AM sessions to survive sobriety with three young kids to three New York Times Best Sellers. 4. Why it’s horseshit that books by women authors are indiscriminately labeled “self-help.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 19, 2021
UNBOUND with Tarana Burke—Part 2
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We’re continuing our conversation with activist, founder of the me too movement, and our personal friend and hero,Tarana Burke. We talk about:  1. What Tarana would say to her twelve-year-old self that might have changed the trajectory of her life. 2. Tarana’s life-shifting realization that her relationship struggles with her mother were not due to her mother’s lack of desire to love her well, but her lack of capacity—and how Tarana built more capacity for her own child.    3. The one thing Tarana said to her child that changed everything—and why Amanda now says the same thing to her children.   CW: We reference sexual abuse and trauma. About Tarana:  For more than 25 years, activist and advocate Tarana J. Burke has worked at the intersection of sexual violence and racial justice. Fueled by commitments to interrupt sexual violence and other systemic inequalities disproportionately impacting marginalized people, particularly Black women and girls, Tarana has created and led various campaigns focused on increasing access to resources and support for impacted communities, including the ‘me too.’ movement, which to date has galvanized millions of survivors and allies around the world. Book: Unbound: My Story of Liberation and the Birth of the Me Too Movement Instagram: @taranajaneen Twitter: @TaranaBurke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 14, 2021
UNBOUND with Tarana Burke—Part 1
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Please join us in the first part of our joyful, energizing, and hopeful conversation with activist, advocate, and our personal hero,Tarana Burke. We talk about: 1. How the spoken and unspoken rules for girls led Tarana to constantly perform the role of “good girl” so that “her secret” would never be revealed.   2. The impossible double bind so many survivors live through: that the protection of our community is what saves us, but the need to protect our community is what silences us. 3. Why Maya Angelou’s work changed everything for Tarana—and how, in her early twenties, she began documenting everything joyful in her life.  4. How dancing with Rob was the one place Tarana could safely explore her sexuality with no demands on her body—and how meaningful that was for her.    CW: We reference sexual abuse and trauma. About Tarana:  For more than 25 years, activist and advocate Tarana J. Burke has worked at the intersection of sexual violence and racial justice. Fueled by commitments to interrupt sexual violence and other systemic inequalities disproportionately impacting marginalized people, particularly Black women and girls, Tarana has created and led various campaigns focused on increasing access to resources and support for impacted communities, including the ‘me too.’ movement, which to date has galvanized millions of survivors and allies around the world. Book: Unbound: My Story of Liberation and the Birth of the Me Too Movement Instagram: @taranajaneen Twitter: @TaranaBurke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 12, 2021
Living by Your Own Original Music Instead of Crappy Cover Tunes
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1. Why Glennon believes the bravest thing she’s ever done was marching into her counselor’s office in high school—and what made her finally say, “I’m not leaving until I get some help.” 2. How we can identify the difference between our Knowing versus our anxiety and conditioning. 3. Why Glennon describes herself as Dory from Nemo, and how she returned to meditation when her mind became unmanageable. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 07, 2021
BEING BRAVE: What does it take to REALLY be Brave?
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1. The story that led to Abby’s iconic haircut—how that decision terrified her, changed how she played the game, and changed how she lives her life.  2. How Abby and Glennon view “brave” differently—and why Amanda believes their perspectives may be more similar than they think. 3. Why for Amanda the bravest decisions feel like “lonely certainty” that can never be explained or defended to others.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 05, 2021
Answering Your Sex Questions with Emily Nagoski
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We’re back with author and sex educator, Emily Nagoski, taking our Pod Squad’s questions about sex.  1. How to navigate a relationship when one partner has a lower sex drive and the other has a higher sex drive. 2. The “sleepy hedgehog” practice Emily suggests to help partners find their way back to each other after months (or years) of not having sex.  3. How to raise our kids in a more sex-positive family culture. 4. Emily advises Glennon on an exercise to help unbind her bedroom silence.  EMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling COME AS YOU ARE and THE COME AS YOU ARE WORKBOOK, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller BURNOUT: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist.   The book recommendations Emily made during this episode:    Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Peggy Kleinplatz What Fresh Hell Is This? by Heather Corinna Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic by Alison Bechdel (Ages 15+ years)  The Times I Knew I Was Gay by Eleanor Crewes (Ages 15+ years)  Let’s Talk About It by Erica Moen and Matt Nolan (Ages 14+ years)  Queer: The Ultimate LQBTQ Guide for Teens (Ages 11+ years)  Wait, What? by Heather Corinna and Isabella Rotman (Ages 9+ years)  Sex Is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg (Ages 8 - 11 years)  What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg (Ages 2 - 5 years)   Podcast: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com Instagram: @enagoski Twitter: @emilynagoski Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 30, 2021
REAL, JOYFUL SEX with Emily Nagoski
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We welcome our very first guest, author and sex educator Emily Nagoski, who talks with us about how to finally build true, joyful, confident sex lives: 1. How our sex issues are totally normal—we’re all worrying about the same things.  2. Why more than 75% of women do not orgasm from penetration alone—and why Glennon thinks the world doesn’t want us to know that. 3. The single factor that is most predictive of strong sustained sexual connection over time.  4. How Abby’s still healing after a lifetime in locker rooms spent comparing her body to other women’s bodies. CW: We reference sexual trauma, including what to say when someone discloses sexual trauma to you.  About Emily: EMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling COME AS YOU ARE and THE COME AS YOU ARE WORKBOOK, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller BURNOUT: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist. Podcast: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com Instagram: @enagoski Twitter: @emilynagoski Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 28, 2021
People Pleasing, Unlocked Doors & First Kisses
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1. Why Abby says that people pleasing is both her superpower and her Achilles heel. 2. Why Glennon says playing with kids is just the worst—and insists it’s okay for adults to sit it out. (This is why she’s not a parenting expert.) 3. Why Glennon and Abby decided to say goodbye to Florida and hello to California. 4. Glennon, Abby, and Amanda answer rapid fire questions about: their astrological signs, first kisses, and their morning routines. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 23, 2021
LET HER REST: We respond to the Pod Squad’s mind-blowing questions.
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1. The one question to ask ourselves if we want to know if our love is really reaching our people. 2. How Glennon’s dearest friend Liz Gilbert taught her that a relaxed woman is the new revolution. 3. Abby offers tips for bonus parents—and why she says earning her kids’ love has been the most rewarding part in her entire life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 21, 2021
California Love, Sex Fantasies & How to Know What to Do (in Bed)
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1. The amazing life hack that has Glennon and Abby replying “Yes” to social invitations. 2. Glennon acknowledges her sexual fantasies … and TRIES (but fails) to share them. 3. Glennon talks about how she “knew what to do” the first time she and Abby were together. 4. The best and worst parts of Glennon and Abby’s big California move. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 16, 2021
SEXUAL DESIRE: How do we know who and what we really want?
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1. How Abby discovered she was gay while out to dinner with her parents at a Macaroni Grill. 2. The moment Glennon knew for sure she was queer (in an Amish Boogie Nights bathroom)—and the song that sealed the deal. 3. How, as a straight, cis woman, Amanda never had to wrestle with her sexuality, why she thinks that stunted her exploration. 4. How Glennon’s failed Van Gogh visit inspired Amanda’s next sex steps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 14, 2021
You’re NOT A MESS. The world is.
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1. The viral note Glennon wrote to herself in her car this week—and how the world’s response confirmed that we’re all struggling right now. 2. How we tend to either Avoid the world’s pain or Be Consumed by it—and how to survive the overwhelm by embracing the Third Way. 3. What Glennon fears most as her oldest child leaves for college. 4. Why we can’t let the fact that we can’t fix everything keep us from doing something—and how Together Rising began. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 09, 2021
ALL THE FEELS: Can we experience our emotions—not as good or bad—but as information to guide us?
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1. Glennon describes how she’s feeling as her oldest leaves for college—and the survival strategy that’s getting her through. 2. The life secret someone told Glennon in early sobriety that changed her life. 3. Amanda discusses the only two strategies that are proven to help us cope with our emotions and become more resilient.  4. How hard feelings always reveal something to you about you. 5. How the life hack Glennon calls “Save as Drafts” has saved her relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 07, 2021
Lightning Love & Not Calming Down
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1. Amanda presents a case for “summer rain” love—and rejects “lightning love” as the highest form of romantic love. 2. Glennon’s theory for when to speak up and when to shut up. 3. How Abby’s experience in a mostly male meeting showed her that “silent solidarity” is a cowardly lie. 4. The trick Glennon uses to communicate with highly sensitive kiddos. (Abby swears it works every time.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 02, 2021
REAL TALK: How can we begin to use conversation as a key to unlocking each other?
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1. Five communication ideas that might help us connect more deeply with people. 2. How Glennon feels that “everyone is talking but nobody is listening to each other ever” and why that’s one of the reasons most of us feel lonely.  3. The conversation strategy that Glennon and Abby use at the dinner table with their kids and friends. 4. Why we love talking about ourselves—and when it helps (and when it hurts) our relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 31, 2021
On Cussing, “Cattiness” & What Feminism Means to G
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1. Glennon lets f-ing loose about the misogyny in our cursing lexicon—and how it reveals our hidden conditioning. (Note: Don’t listen with the kiddos.) 2. The connection between how little girls are taught to avoid conflict with each other and how adult women are called “catty.”  3. What Glennon really means when she says she’s a feminist—and why she’s baffled when a group fighting for their own equality turns on another group fighting for theirs. 4. Why Glennon says that the teenage years may be her favorite parenting era yet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 26, 2021
PLAYING OUR ROLES: How does culture’s invention of gender typecast every last one of us?
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1. How, in the business world, Amanda is labeled as aggressive and dominant—and why that’s a gender trap. 2. Abby’s experiences of being publicly misgendered—and how that makes her feel. 3. Why is gender the last place we’re agreed it’s acceptable to make identity assumptions? 4. Why do we tell people who they are before they’re even born—and a thousand different ways every day after? 5. Why Glennon says two women in a marriage, handling their own business, rocks the patriarchal boat.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 24, 2021
SISTER ACT: Who is Amanda—and seriously, how does she know all the things?
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1. The Pod Squad is peeved that Glennon refers to Amanda as “Sister”—so what should we call her? 2. How Glennon and Amanda both spent their college weekends in jail—but for very different reasons. 3. Getting to know Amanda and her innate obsession with the link between our personal experience and our location within systems of power. 4. What’s making life a little easier for the Doyle sisters this week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 19, 2021
“BEAUTY”: How did we get trapped in this cage, and how do we break free?
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1. Why are we conditioned to spend so much of our precious time and energy on our appearance? 2. Why is it that when men put work into the world, the world asks if his work is worthy—but when women put work into the world, the world asks if she’s worthy?  3. Why is half the population’s face allowed to exist as is, while the rest of our faces “need” to be covered in concealers, colors, botox, etc., etc....? 4. How is it that the ultimate way to insult a woman is to say that she’s “let herself go”? 5. The better “beauty” standard for women that is liberating Glennon right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 17, 2021
EASY THINGS: Why, for some of us, is lightening up the hardest thing to do?
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1. Glennon’s radical acceptance that she’s always going to be a midnight person in a sunshine world. 2. Our favorite movies and music—and what they reveal about our personalities. 3. Why Abby is objectively hot, but please don’t say that to Glennon at parties. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 12, 2021
QUITTING: When is it time to let something or someone go?
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1. The one question to ask yourself when deciding whether it’s time to quit something. 2. Why Glennon actually believes that quitting each day is necessary for her survival. 3. The big quits that led Abby to Glennon.   4. Amanda’s unexpected great relief—and hope for your relief—in learning about how we’re all just as happy as we’re ever going to be. (And how, as expected, Glennon disagrees.)  5. Rethinking the ending of a marriage as a positive quit and how to talk to friends going through it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 10, 2021
Sexy Qs, Farewell to Faking It & Vouching for Vibrators
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1. If you’re like 75% of women, Amanda’s hot tips for setting yourself up for success in the bedroom. 2. Detoxing from religious purity / sex shame culture, and raising kids with a healthier relationship to sex.  3. The one sex subject that’s a hard no for Abby and Glennon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 05, 2021
SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren’t we talking about sex more?
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1. Glennon, Amanda, and Abby discuss their sex origin stories and how that shapes their current sex fears. 2. Glennon’s high-pressure situation of sex with Abby for the first time—and how it didn’t go quite as you’d expect. 3. The biggest sex challenges in Glennon, Abby, and Amanda’s marriages now. 4. What Amanda regrets about her past sex life—and how she’s already worried about what she’s going to regret when she’s eighty. 5. How Pod Squaders taught Glennon and Abby about “lesbian deathbed.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 03, 2021
Brave Parenting Qs & the Power of Saying YES!
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Glennon and Amanda decided to add a second episode each week after Glennon’s big move to California—in the first Thursday episode, they discuss: 1. Glennon’s experiment of Saying Yes to anything the universe invites her to. 2. How much screen time is too much screen time? 3. Are we all just Pendulum Parenting (over-correcting parents’ mistakes and screwing our kids up in the equal and opposite way our parents screwed us up)? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 29, 2021
PARENTING: How do we make this thrilling, terrifying roller coaster ride a little bit easier?
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1. The 5 things Glennon wishes she’d known during those early days with young kids. 2. Why it’s important to let our kids see us mess up, cry, and lose it every once in a while. 3. How to let go of Expectation Parenting and embrace Treasure Hunt Parenting. 4. On teaching kids the most important lesson: How to disappoint everyone else (including you) before they disappoint themselves. 5. Why if you’re listening to this podcast worried about how you’re parenting, things are likely already okay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 27, 2021
REDEFINING FAMILY with Craig: Does letting go of what family “should be” help us embrace the family we have?
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1. Craig’s first two thoughts the moment Glennon sent him “the text.” 2. How Glennon and Craig told the kids they were divorcing.  3. The big mistake Glennon and Craig agree they made in the early days of blending their family. 4. What Craig says is the most annoying thing about co-parenting with Glennon, and the best thing about co-parenting with Abby. 5. How Craig really feels about Glennon writing their stories.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 20, 2021
OUR BODIES: Why are we at war with them and can we ever make peace?
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TW // eating disorders 1. Glennon’s “final frontier”—her attempt to stop controlling her body. 2. The opportunity costs of a lifetime spent obsessing about our size and shape. 3. How we’ve been taught to fixate over every hair, wrinkle, and pound—but have never been taught how our bodies actually work. 4. How to quit conditioning girls to stay small in body, hunger, ambition, and desire. 5. The tyranny of the weigh-in at the doctor’s office—and why BMI is horseshit.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 13, 2021
QUEER FREEDOM: How can we be both held and free?
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1. How Abby learned from church as a child to hate herself—and the healing moment she realized that God and religion are not the same. 2. The miraculous letter Glennon received from a reader the day after she came out.  3. Glennon’s response to the statement “I disagree with your lifestyle, but I love you anyway.” 4. When it’s time to either raise hell inside of—or leave—the institutions that require us to deny who we are or what we know. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 06, 2021
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met?
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1. How to create lives that we don’t need to escape from. 2. Why our resentment toward others is our Secret Self-Care Signal. 3. Why refusing to be selfless is the best way to care for others and the world. 4. How to stop passing down the brutal legacy of martyrdom to our children. 5. Glennon’s life-changing spiritual practice: Habitual Quitting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 29, 2021
FIGHTING WELL: Is your conflict style making or breaking your relationships?
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In this episode, in which Abby joins Glennon and Amanda, discover:  1. How Glennon and Abby realized that each of their recurring Five Fights (about money, food, etc.) are all actually about the exact same thing—and how it all goes back to their childhoods.   2. The guardrails Abby and Glennon built to protect each other when they fight.   3. How to handle a relationship in which one partner runs from conflict (Team Abby), and the other rushes toward conflict (Team Glennon). 4. The one red flag that Amanda insists is a relationship-ender. TW // eating disorders Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 22, 2021
OVERWHELM: Is our exhaustion a sign that we’re CareTicking time bombs?
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In the episode discover: 1. How the constant to-do list ticker looping in Amanda's brain makes her feel like a dormant volcano. 2. The job description we've somehow accepted for motherhood—and whether self-abandonment is a job requirement. 3. The way gender expectations even creep into Glennon and Abby's marriage. 4. How to know whether your partner is a co-builder or an assistant. 5. How to make the invisible load of caretaking visible—and potentially bearable.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 15, 2021
ADDICTION: How do we love an addict and how does an addict love herself?
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TW // abortion, bulimia, addiction  In this episode discover:     1. How Amanda protected their sisterhood from Glennon’s addiction. 2. Which of the 12 steps Glennon refused to take. 3. What it took for Amanda to finally quit the wine.   4. The answer to the Pod Squad’s question about quarantine drinking and how much is too much.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 08, 2021
FUN: What the hell is it and why do we need it?
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In this episode—in which Abby confronts my sister and me about our inability to have fun—discover: 1. The one “fun” post that caused more people to unfollow me on social media than any other. 2. Why girls may disassociate early from their ability to access fun. 3. Science’s insistence that when we’re gloomy, rest won’t fix us. We gotta play the blues away. 4. A playlist I created for YOU—if you, like me, need daily help awakening your dormant Fun Self:https://open.spotify.com/user/f50axmsbwkhwq81ttiwovo1yf?si=707cb22232aa4cdf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 01, 2021
INFIDELITY: How do we trust—and fully love—again?
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In this episode, discover: 1. The messed up way my sister Amanda learned her marriage was over -- and how that sabotaged her healing process. 2. How we often cling to unforgiveness because it’s the last connection we have left.   3. The one question not to ask someone who is recovering from infidelity and what you can say instead.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 25, 2021
BOUNDARIES: Are too few (or too many) why we stay stuck?
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In this Episode, discover: My quirkiest boundary and how I finally fired Texts as the Boss of Me.  Our response to a Pod Squad listener’s question about creating and holding boundaries with her in-laws. How my aversion to moderation has led me from too few boundaries to way too many. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 18, 2021
ANXIETY: Is it just love holding its breath?
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In this episode discover: 1. Glennon’s description of an anxiety attack. 2. The 3 strategies that help her find calm. 3. The original We Can Do Hard Things anthem, written and performed by Glennon's daughter Tish Melton and produced by Brandi Carlile.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 11, 2021
We Can Do Hard Things Podcast Premieres Tuesday, May 11th!
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Introducing We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle! I’m Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed – the book that was released at the very start of the pandemic and became a lifeline for millions. I watched in awe from my home while this simple phrase from Untamed - WE CAN DO HARD THINGS – the mantra that saved my life twenty years ago, became a worldwide rally cry.  Here, on WE CAN DO HARD THINGS, my sister, Amanda - my best friend and the person I go to all my hard things -- and I will do the only thing I’ve ever found that has ever made life easier: We will drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard.  Life is hard. Let’s do it together. Meet us here, every week, on We Can Do Hard Things. The first episode drops on Tuesday, May 11th. Before you forget, follow We Can Do Hard Things so you’ll get every show as soon as it’s released. Listen to and follow this presentation of Cadence13 Studios for free on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Audacy and wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 24, 2021