We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle

By Glennon Doyle & Cadence13

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Susan
 Jun 29, 2021
Glennon and Sister talk about the things I need to hear about. They are inspiring and lovable. I'm grateful for this podcast!


 Jun 8, 2021

Crystal
 May 24, 2021
Love this podcast!

Emily Robinette
 May 20, 2021
I love it so much! So much wisdom and goodness! Thank you for sharing it with the world!

Description

I’m Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed – the book that was released at the very start of the pandemic and became a lifeline for millions. I watched in awe from my home while this simple phrase from Untamed – WE CAN DO HARD THINGS – the mantra that saved my life twenty years ago, became a worldwide rally cry. Because we experienced the hardship of the pandemic collectively, many of us finally acknowledged what was true before COVID and will be true after: That life is freaking HARD. We are all doing hard things every single day – things like loving and losing caring for children and parents; forging and ending friendships; battling addiction, illness, and loneliness; struggling in our jobs, our marriages, and our divorces; setting boundaries; and fighting for equality, purpose, freedom, joy, and peace. On We Can Do Hard Things, my sister Amanda and I will do the only thing I’ve found that has ever made life easier: We will drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard. Each week we will bring our hard to you and we will ask you to bring your hard to us and we will do what we were all meant to do down here: Help each other carry the hard so we can all live a little bit lighter and braver, more free and less alone.

Episode Date
California Love, Sex Fantasies & How to Know What to Do (in Bed)
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1. The amazing life hack that has Glennon and Abby replying “Yes” to social invitations. 2. Glennon acknowledges her sexual fantasies … and TRIES (but fails) to share them. 3. Glennon talks about how she “knew what to do” the first time she and Abby were together. 4. The best and worst parts of Glennon and Abby’s big California move. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 16, 2021
SEXUAL DESIRE: How do we know who and what we really want?
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1. How Abby discovered she was gay while out to dinner with her parents at a Macaroni Grill. 2. The moment Glennon knew for sure she was queer (in an Amish Boogie Nights bathroom)—and the song that sealed the deal. 3. How, as a straight, cis woman, Amanda never had to wrestle with her sexuality, why she thinks that stunted her exploration. 4. How Glennon’s failed Van Gogh visit inspired Amanda’s next sex steps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 14, 2021
You’re NOT A MESS. The world is.
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1. The viral note Glennon wrote to herself in her car this week—and how the world’s response confirmed that we’re all struggling right now. 2. How we tend to either Avoid the world’s pain or Be Consumed by it—and how to survive the overwhelm by embracing the Third Way. 3. What Glennon fears most as her oldest child leaves for college. 4. Why we can’t let the fact that we can’t fix everything keep us from doing something—and how Together Rising began. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 09, 2021
ALL THE FEELS: Can we experience our emotions—not as good or bad—but as information to guide us?
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1. Glennon describes how she’s feeling as her oldest leaves for college—and the survival strategy that’s getting her through. 2. The life secret someone told Glennon in early sobriety that changed her life. 3. Amanda discusses the only two strategies that are proven to help us cope with our emotions and become more resilient.  4. How hard feelings always reveal something to you about you. 5. How the life hack Glennon calls “Save as Drafts” has saved her relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 07, 2021
Lightening Love & Not Calming Down
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1. Amanda presents a case for “summer rain” love—and rejects “lightning love” as the highest form of romantic love. 2. Glennon’s theory for when to speak up and when to shut up. 3. How Abby’s experience in a mostly male meeting showed her that “silent solidarity” is a cowardly lie. 4. The trick Glennon uses to communicate with highly sensitive kiddos. (Abby swears it works every time.) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 02, 2021
REAL TALK: How can we begin to use conversation as a key to unlocking each other?
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1. Five communication ideas that might help us connect more deeply with people. 2. How Glennon feels that “everyone is talking but nobody is listening to each other ever” and why that’s one of the reasons most of us feel lonely.  3. The conversation strategy that Glennon and Abby use at the dinner table with their kids and friends. 4. Why we love talking about ourselves—and when it helps (and when it hurts) our relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 31, 2021
On Cussing, “Cattiness” & What Feminism Means to G
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1. Glennon lets f-ing loose about the misogyny in our cursing lexicon—and how it reveals our hidden conditioning. (Note: Don’t listen with the kiddos.) 2. The connection between how little girls are taught to avoid conflict with each other and how adult women are called “catty.”  3. What Glennon really means when she says she’s a feminist—and why she’s baffled when a group fighting for their own equality turns on another group fighting for theirs. 4. Why Glennon says that the teenage years may be her favorite parenting era yet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 26, 2021
PLAYING OUR ROLES: How does culture’s invention of gender typecast every last one of us?
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1. How, in the business world, Amanda is labeled as aggressive and dominant—and why that’s a gender trap. 2. Abby’s experiences of being publicly misgendered—and how that makes her feel. 3. Why is gender the last place we’re agreed it’s acceptable to make identity assumptions? 4. Why do we tell people who they are before they’re even born—and a thousand different ways every day after? 5. Why Glennon says two women in a marriage, handling their own business, rocks the patriarchal boat.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 24, 2021
SISTER ACT: Who is Amanda—and seriously, how does she know all the things?
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1. The Pod Squad is peeved that Glennon refers to Amanda as “Sister”—so what should we call her? 2. How Glennon and Amanda both spent their college weekends in jail—but for very different reasons. 3. Getting to know Amanda and her innate obsession with the link between our personal experience and our location within systems of power. 4. What’s making life a little easier for the Doyle sisters this week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 19, 2021
“BEAUTY”: How did we get trapped in this cage, and how do we break free?
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1. Why are we conditioned to spend so much of our precious time and energy on our appearance? 2. Why is it that when men put work into the world, the world asks if his work is worthy—but when women put work into the world, the world asks if she’s worthy?  3. Why is half the population’s face allowed to exist as is, while the rest of our faces “need” to be covered in concealers, colors, botox, etc., etc....? 4. How is it that the ultimate way to insult a woman is to say that she’s “let herself go”? 5. The better “beauty” standard for women that is liberating Glennon right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 17, 2021
EASY THINGS: Why, for some of us, is lightening up the hardest thing to do?
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1. Glennon’s radical acceptance that she’s always going to be a midnight person in a sunshine world. 2. Our favorite movies and music—and what they reveal about our personalities. 3. Why Abby is objectively hot, but please don’t say that to Glennon at parties. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 12, 2021
QUITTING: When is it time to let something or someone go?
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1. The one question to ask yourself when deciding whether it’s time to quit something. 2. Why Glennon actually believes that quitting each day is necessary for her survival. 3. The big quits that led Abby to Glennon.   4. Amanda’s unexpected great relief—and hope for your relief—in learning about how we’re all just as happy as we’re ever going to be. (And how, as expected, Glennon disagrees.)  5. Rethinking the ending of a marriage as a positive quit and how to talk to friends going through it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 10, 2021
Sexy Qs, Farewell to Faking It & Vouching for Vibrators
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1. If you’re like 75% of women, Amanda’s hot tips for setting yourself up for success in the bedroom. 2. Detoxing from religious purity / sex shame culture, and raising kids with a healthier relationship to sex.  3. The one sex subject that’s a hard no for Abby and Glennon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 05, 2021
SILENT SEX QUEEN: Why aren’t we talking about sex more?
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1. Glennon, Amanda, and Abby discuss their sex origin stories and how that shapes their current sex fears. 2. Glennon’s high-pressure situation of sex with Abby for the first time—and how it didn’t go quite as you’d expect. 3. The biggest sex challenges in Glennon, Abby, and Amanda’s marriages now. 4. What Amanda regrets about her past sex life—and how she’s already worried about what she’s going to regret when she’s eighty. 5. How Pod Squaders taught Glennon and Abby about “lesbian deathbed.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 03, 2021
Brave Parenting Qs & the Power of Saying YES!
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Glennon and Amanda decided to add a second episode each week after Glennon’s big move to California—in the first Thursday episode, they discuss: 1. Glennon’s experiment of Saying Yes to anything the universe invites her to. 2. How much screen time is too much screen time? 3. Are we all just Pendulum Parenting (over-correcting parents’ mistakes and screwing our kids up in the equal and opposite way our parents screwed us up)? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 29, 2021
PARENTING: How do we make this thrilling, terrifying roller coaster ride a little bit easier?
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1. The 5 things Glennon wishes she’d known during those early days with young kids. 2. Why it’s important to let our kids see us mess up, cry, and lose it every once in a while. 3. How to let go of Expectation Parenting and embrace Treasure Hunt Parenting. 4. On teaching kids the most important lesson: How to disappoint everyone else (including you) before they disappoint themselves. 5. Why if you’re listening to this podcast worried about how you’re parenting, things are likely already okay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 27, 2021
REDEFINING FAMILY with Craig: Does letting go of what family “should be” help us embrace the family we have?
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1. Craig’s first two thoughts the moment Glennon sent him “the text.” 2. How Glennon and Craig told the kids they were divorcing.  3. The big mistake Glennon and Craig agree they made in the early days of blending their family. 4. What Craig says is the most annoying thing about co-parenting with Glennon, and the best thing about co-parenting with Abby. 5. How Craig really feels about Glennon writing their stories.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 20, 2021
OUR BODIES: Why are we at war with them and can we ever make peace?
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TW // eating disorders 1. Glennon’s “final frontier”—her attempt to stop controlling her body. 2. The opportunity costs of a lifetime spent obsessing about our size and shape. 3. How we’ve been taught to fixate over every hair, wrinkle, and pound—but have never been taught how our bodies actually work. 4. How to quit conditioning girls to stay small in body, hunger, ambition, and desire. 5. The tyranny of the weigh-in at the doctor’s office—and why BMI is horseshit.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 13, 2021
QUEER FREEDOM: How can we be both held and free?
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1. How Abby learned from church as a child to hate herself—and the healing moment she realized that God and religion are not the same. 2. The miraculous letter Glennon received from a reader the day after she came out.  3. Glennon’s response to the statement “I disagree with your lifestyle, but I love you anyway.” 4. When it’s time to either raise hell inside of—or leave—the institutions that require us to deny who we are or what we know. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jul 06, 2021
SELF CARE: How do we identify our real needs and finally get them met?
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1. How to create lives that we don’t need to escape from. 2. Why our resentment toward others is our Secret Self-Care Signal. 3. Why refusing to be selfless is the best way to care for others and the world. 4. How to stop passing down the brutal legacy of martyrdom to our children. 5. Glennon’s life-changing spiritual practice: Habitual Quitting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 29, 2021
FIGHTING WELL: Is your conflict style making or breaking your relationships?
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In this episode, in which Abby joins Glennon and Amanda, discover:  1. How Glennon and Abby realized that each of their recurring Five Fights (about money, food, etc.) are all actually about the exact same thing—and how it all goes back to their childhoods.   2. The guardrails Abby and Glennon built to protect each other when they fight.   3. How to handle a relationship in which one partner runs from conflict (Team Abby), and the other rushes toward conflict (Team Glennon). 4. The one red flag that Amanda insists is a relationship-ender. TW // eating disorders Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 22, 2021
OVERWHELM: Is our exhaustion a sign that we’re CareTicking time bombs?
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In the episode discover: 1. How the constant to-do list ticker looping in Amanda's brain makes her feel like a dormant volcano. 2. The job description we've somehow accepted for motherhood—and whether self-abandonment is a job requirement. 3. The way gender expectations even creep into Glennon and Abby's marriage. 4. How to know whether your partner is a co-builder or an assistant. 5. How to make the invisible load of caretaking visible—and potentially bearable.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 15, 2021
ADDICTION: How do we love an addict and how does an addict love herself?
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TW // abortion, bulimia, addiction  In this episode discover:     1. How Amanda protected their sisterhood from Glennon’s addiction. 2. Which of the 12 steps Glennon refused to take. 3. What it took for Amanda to finally quit the wine.   4. The answer to the Pod Squad’s question about quarantine drinking and how much is too much.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 08, 2021
FUN: What the hell is it and why do we need it?
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In this episode—in which Abby confronts my sister and me about our inability to have fun—discover: 1. The one “fun” post that caused more people to unfollow me on social media than any other. 2. Why girls may disassociate early from their ability to access fun. 3. Science’s insistence that when we’re gloomy, rest won’t fix us. We gotta play the blues away. 4. A playlist I created for YOU—if you, like me, need daily help awakening your dormant Fun Self:https://open.spotify.com/user/f50axmsbwkhwq81ttiwovo1yf?si=707cb22232aa4cdf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 01, 2021
INFIDELITY: How do we trust—and fully love—again?
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In this episode, discover: 1. The messed up way my sister Amanda learned her marriage was over -- and how that sabotaged her healing process. 2. How we often cling to unforgiveness because it’s the last connection we have left.   3. The one question not to ask someone who is recovering from infidelity and what you can say instead.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 25, 2021
BOUNDARIES: Are too few (or too many) why we stay stuck?
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In this Episode, discover: My quirkiest boundary and how I finally fired Texts as the Boss of Me.  Our response to a Pod Squad listener’s question about creating and holding boundaries with her in-laws. How my aversion to moderation has led me from too few boundaries to way too many. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 18, 2021
ANXIETY: Is it just love holding its breath?
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In this episode discover: 1. Glennon’s description of an anxiety attack. 2. The 3 strategies that help her find calm. 3. The original We Can Do Hard Things anthem, written and performed by Glennon's daughter Tish Melton and produced by Brandi Carlile.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
May 11, 2021
We Can Do Hard Things Podcast Premieres Tuesday, May 11th!
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Introducing We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle! I’m Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed – the book that was released at the very start of the pandemic and became a lifeline for millions. I watched in awe from my home while this simple phrase from Untamed - WE CAN DO HARD THINGS – the mantra that saved my life twenty years ago, became a worldwide rally cry.  Here, on WE CAN DO HARD THINGS, my sister, Amanda - my best friend and the person I go to all my hard things -- and I will do the only thing I’ve ever found that has ever made life easier: We will drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard.  Life is hard. Let’s do it together. Meet us here, every week, on We Can Do Hard Things. The first episode drops on Tuesday, May 11th. Before you forget, follow We Can Do Hard Things so you’ll get every show as soon as it’s released. Listen to and follow this presentation of Cadence13 Studios for free on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Audacy and wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Apr 24, 2021