Pillow Talks
By Vanessa & Xander Marin | QCODE
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Subscribers: 311
Reviews: 3
Episodes: 205
My name?
Feb 17, 2025
Really not bad. Even if it is mostly written for women. (the base of their audience). It would be interesting to see a spin off or a monthly episode where Xander gets to run the show. May get more guy listeners that way.
Apr 26, 2023
Jun 11, 2021
Description
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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EPISODE 205: Couples Coaching Session: How To Ask For More Even If You Don’t Know What You Want
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Apr 24, 2025 |
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EPISODE 204: Confessions Of An Overactive Bladder
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Apr 17, 2025 |
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EPISODE 203: Is This Cheating? Part 2
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Apr 10, 2025 |
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EPISODE 202: Am I being defensive, or am I defending myself?
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Apr 03, 2025 |
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EPISODE 201: Couples Coaching Session: They Love Each Other… So Why Does Their Sex Life Feel Stuck?
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Mar 27, 2025 |
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EPISODE 200: 200 Episodes Later: Let’s Get Personal! (Ask Us Anything)
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Mar 20, 2025 |
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EPISODE 199: Am I The Asshole? Masturbation, Snooping, and Jealousy
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Mar 13, 2025 |
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EPISODE 198: Stop Doing THIS If You Want More Sex (Initiation Fixes You Need to Know)
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Mar 06, 2025 |
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EPISODE 197: Ask A Sex Therapist - Resentment, Sexual Frustration, And The Death Grip
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Feb 27, 2025 |
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EPISODE 196: 90 Prompts to Transform Your Sex Life (We Answer Some Live!)
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Feb 20, 2025 |
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Episode 195: Giddyup, Cowgirl! Tips, Tricks, & Techniques For Maximum Pleasure
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Feb 13, 2025 |
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Episode 194: What Your Partner Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom Part 2
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Feb 06, 2025 |
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Episode 193: The Things We Can’t Say In The Comments
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Jan 30, 2025 |
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Episode 192: “Is This Normal?” Part 4 — Low Desire Husband, Never Had A Fight, & Baby Talk
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Jan 23, 2025 |
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Episode 191: Breaking Free From Purity Culture And Religious Shame
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Jan 16, 2025 |
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Episode 190: Am I Being Reasonable Or Ridiculous?
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Jan 09, 2025 |
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Episode 189: Can We Have A Fresh Start? Or Is It Too Late?
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Jan 02, 2025 |
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Episode 188: Is Your Ultimatum Going To Work?
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Dec 26, 2024 |
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Episode 187: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition Part 2
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Dec 19, 2024 |
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Episode 186: Period Sex, Internal Vs External Processors, & Queer In A Straight Relationship
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Dec 12, 2024 |
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Episode 185: How To Navigate Porn In Your Relationship
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Dec 05, 2024 |
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Episode 184: How To Get More Physical Intimacy From Your Partner
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Nov 27, 2024 |
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Episode 183: How To Get More Emotional Intimacy From Your Partner
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Nov 21, 2024 |
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Episode 182: “Help! I’m Not Into My Partner’s Fantasy!”
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Nov 14, 2024 |
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Episode 181: A Brutally Honest Relationship Check-In
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Nov 07, 2024 |
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Episode 180: Smash Or Pass: We Try The Weirdest Women’s Magazines Sex Tips
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Oct 31, 2024 |
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Episode 179: All Your Female Orgasm Questions: Answered!
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Oct 24, 2024 |
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Episode 178: Tie-Breakers: We Solve Your Relationship Standoffs
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Oct 17, 2024 |
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Episode 177: Why You Should Try Mutual Masturbation And How To Do It
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Oct 10, 2024 |
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Episode 176: Is This Cheating?
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Oct 03, 2024 |
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Episode 175: “Should I Put Up With This In The Bedroom?”
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Sep 26, 2024 |
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Episode 174: Ask Us Anything: Addressing All Of Your Assumptions
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Sep 19, 2024 |
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Episode 173: I’m Attracted To Someone Else, What Do I Do?
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Sep 12, 2024 |
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Episode 172: Bring Sex Toys Into Your Bedroom (Without Making It Weird)
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Sep 05, 2024 |
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Episode 171: Your Funniest Stories About Getting “The Talk”
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Aug 29, 2024 |
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Episode 170: What Do Women Really Think About ___? Part 2
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Aug 22, 2024 |
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Episode 169: Is This Your Shit Or Mine? Part 2
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Aug 15, 2024 |
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Episode 168: Long Distance? How To Keep The Spark Alive
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Aug 08, 2024 |
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Episode 167: Should We Open Our Relationship?
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Aug 01, 2024 |
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Episode 166: How To Create More Privacy For Sex
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Jul 25, 2024 |
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Episode 165: How To Actually Be Vulnerable With Your Partner
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Jul 18, 2024 |
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Episode 164: Why You Need To Flirt In Your Relationship And How To Do It
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Jul 11, 2024 |
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Episode 163: Should We Have A Threesome?
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Jul 04, 2024 |
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Episode 162: “Is This Normal?” Part 3 — More Questions You Never Dared To Ask Out Loud
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Jun 27, 2024 |
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Episode 161: We’re In Couples Therapy - Ask Us Anything!
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Jun 20, 2024 |
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Episode 160: These 4 Communication Mistakes Cause Breakups
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Jun 13, 2024 |
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Episode 159: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior Part 2
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Jun 06, 2024 |
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Episode 158: Maybe It’s Not Low Libido…
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May 30, 2024 |
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Episode 157: Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)
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May 23, 2024 |
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Episode 156: What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)
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May 16, 2024 |
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Episode 155: Am I The Asshole? In-Laws Edition
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May 09, 2024 |
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Episode 154: How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship
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May 02, 2024 |
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Episode 153: The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About
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Apr 25, 2024 |
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Episode 152: Breaking Down A Text Fight
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Apr 18, 2024 |
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Episode 151: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up About Sex (Even If They’re Resistant)
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Apr 11, 2024 |
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Episode 150: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Volume 3)
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Apr 04, 2024 |
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Episode 149: Partner Having Penis Performance Problems? Here’s What To Do - And What Not To Do
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Mar 28, 2024 |
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Episode 148: “Help Me See Where My Partner Is Coming From!” (Advice Episode)
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Mar 21, 2024 |
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Episode 147: Your Sexual Fantasies Revealed
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Mar 14, 2024 |
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Episode 146: Are You Nagging? Or Is Your Partner Being Childish?
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Mar 07, 2024 |
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Episode 145: What Your Partner Secretly Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom
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Feb 29, 2024 |
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Episode 144: We’re In Couples Therapy
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Feb 22, 2024 |
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Episode 143: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex
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Feb 15, 2024 |
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Episode 142: Are You Lazy In Bed? Here’s What Your Partner Says…
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Feb 08, 2024 |
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Episode 141: How To Get Your Partner To Be More Romantic
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Feb 01, 2024 |
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Episode 140: What Your Sex Personality Type Says About You In The Bedroom
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Jan 25, 2024 |
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Episode 139: Xander’s Vasectomy Part 2: Answering Your Questions About Pain, Performance, And Masculinity
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Jan 18, 2024 |
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Episode 138: Your Funniest Foreplay Fails
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Jan 11, 2024 |
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Episode 137: Xander Got A Vasectomy!
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Jan 04, 2024 |
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Episode 136: The Top 10 Pillow Talks Podcast Moments of 2023
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Dec 28, 2023 |
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Episode 135: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition
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Dec 21, 2023 |
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Episode 134: Everything You’re Getting Wrong About Intercourse (And How To Get It Right)
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Dec 14, 2023 |
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Episode 133: Dead Bedrooms Part 2: We Coach Another Couple Through Resuscitating Their Sex Life
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Dec 07, 2023 |
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Episode 132: Why We Started Making Out Every Night
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Nov 30, 2023 |
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Episode 131: How Honest Is Too Honest?
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Nov 22, 2023 |
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Episode 130: The Bristle Reaction, Icky Initiation, And Bad Assumptions: 5 Surprising Lessons From Your Feedback About Our Book
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Nov 16, 2023 |
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Episode 129: Do You Have Silent Sex? Here’s Why That’s A Problem
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Nov 09, 2023 |
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Episode 128: Sneaky Ways To Get Your Partner More Involved In Your Relationship
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Nov 02, 2023 |
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Episode 127: Ask Us Anything: Spilling Our Business Secrets
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Oct 26, 2023 |
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Episode 126: Queefing, And Farting, And Squirting, Oh My! Bodily Functions In The Bedroom
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Oct 19, 2023 |
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Episode 125: Am I The Asshole?
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Oct 12, 2023 |
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Episode 124: Is Your Sex Life Too Boring?
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Oct 05, 2023 |
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Episode 123: A Parent’s Guide To Making Time For Sex And Intimacy
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Sep 28, 2023 |
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Episode 122: “Don’t Touch Me Like That”: Confronting Unwanted Touch In Your Relationship
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Sep 21, 2023 |
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Episode 121: When She Wants It More: Navigating Mismatched Libidos When The Woman Has A Higher Drive
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Sep 14, 2023 |
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Episode 120: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior
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Sep 07, 2023 |
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Episode 119: Jealousy In Relationships: Why Do We Get Jealous, And What Do We Do About It?
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Aug 31, 2023 |
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Episode 118: The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong
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Aug 24, 2023 |
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Episode 117: So You Think You Know Us? Answering Your Assumptions!
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Aug 17, 2023 |
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Episode 116: What Do I Do When My Partner Is Always On Their Phone?
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Aug 10, 2023 |
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Episode 115: Grief And Sex: Loving Each Other Through A Loss
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Aug 03, 2023 |
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Episode 114: Can We Come Back From This? Part 2: Even More Relationship Make Or Break Moments
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Jul 27, 2023 |
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Episode 113: Bump And Grind: Sex During Pregnancy
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Jul 20, 2023 |
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Episode 112: Creating A Shortcut To Intimacy With Compliments
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Jul 13, 2023 |
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Episode 111: What To Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Want To Talk About Sex
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Jul 06, 2023 |
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Episode 110: Unzipped And Unfiltered: Your Funniest Sex Fails
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Jun 29, 2023 |
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Episode 109: This ONE Thing Is Secretly Affecting Your ENTIRE Relationship
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Jun 22, 2023 |
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Episode 108: “Help! I’ve Been Faking Orgasms So Long I Don’t Know How To Stop!”
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Jun 15, 2023 |
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Episode 107: Ask Each Other Anything: Celebrating Our Queer Community With A Q&A
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Jun 08, 2023 |
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Episode 106: Exposing Our Biggest Relationship Frustrations With Enneagram Expert Tracy O’Malley
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Jun 01, 2023 |
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Episode 105: “Is This Normal?” 2.0 — More Questions You Never Dared To Ask Out Loud
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May 25, 2023 |
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Episode 104: An Exclusive Sneak Peek: Chapter One Of Sex Talks
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May 18, 2023 |
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Episode 103: What Do Women Really Think About…? (Masturbation, Butt Stuff, Penis Size, And More!)
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May 11, 2023 |
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Episode 102: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Intercourse Edition)
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May 04, 2023 |
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Episode 101: Is Gaming Hurting Your Relationship? Part 1 Of The “I Love You But I Don’t Like You” Series
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Apr 27, 2023 |
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Episode 100: Our 100th Episode Extravaganza: The Ultimate Round of “Know Ya Boo”
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Apr 20, 2023 |
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Episode 99: The Bristle Reaction: What It Is, How It Happens, And What You Can Do To Fix It
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Apr 13, 2023 |
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Episode 98: Dead Bedrooms: We Coach One Couple Through Resuscitating Their Sex Life
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Apr 06, 2023 |
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Episode 97: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Foreplay Edition)
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Mar 30, 2023 |
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Episode 96: Things That Go Bump (Or Bang) In the Night
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Mar 23, 2023 |
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Episode 95: Mental Load Part 2: Conversations About Perfectionism, Gender Roles, And Finding Balance With Your Partner
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Mar 16, 2023 |
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Episode 94: The “Start Here” Episode - Allow Us To Reintroduce Ourselves
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Mar 09, 2023 |
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Episode 93: Would You Rather?
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Mar 02, 2023 |
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Episode 92: The Brutally Honest Truth About Our New York Times Best Selling Book
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Feb 23, 2023 |
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Episode 91: “Is This Normal?” 15 Questions You Never Dared To Ask Out Loud
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Feb 16, 2023 |
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Episode 90: Why Missionary Is (Secretly) Our Favorite Position
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Feb 09, 2023 |
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Episode 89: How To Get The Intimacy You’ve Always Craved
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Feb 02, 2023 |
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Episode 88: How To Decide If You Should Have Kids Or Not. And Are We Still Child Free By Choice?
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Jan 26, 2023 |
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Episode 87: Sex Talks: Sharing All The Secrets Behind Writing Our First Book
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Jan 19, 2023 |
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Episode 86: Ask Us Anything Part 4: This Time It’s Personal
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Jan 12, 2023 |
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Episode 85: Make 2023 The Year You Finally Feel Sexy
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Jan 05, 2023 |
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Episode 84: Top 10 Podcast Moments of 2022
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Dec 29, 2022 |
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Episode 83: How To Fight Fair In A Relationship: Breaking Down A Listener Argument
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Dec 22, 2022 |
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Episode 82: The 15 Lessons That Keep Us Saying “I Do” After 15 Years
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Dec 15, 2022 |
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Episode 81: Ho Ho Help! How To Survive Holiday Stress
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Dec 08, 2022 |
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Episode 80: Be A Man And Talk About Your Feelings
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Dec 01, 2022 |
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Episode 79: Sex Confessions: The Good, The Bad, And The WTF
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Nov 23, 2022 |
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Episode 78: Initiation: What You And Your Partner Are Doing Wrong - And How To Get It Right
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Nov 17, 2022 |
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Episode 77: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Orgasms
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Nov 10, 2022 |
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Episode 76: How Much Do You Really Want It? The Sex Drive Episode
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Nov 03, 2022 |
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Episode 75: Am I Being Unreasonable?
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Oct 27, 2022 |
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Episode 74: Are We…Growing Apart?
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Oct 20, 2022 |
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Episode 73: Do You Ever “Owe” Sex To Your Partner?
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Oct 13, 2022 |
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Episode 72: The Lowdown On Painful Sex
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Oct 06, 2022 |
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Episode 71: Ask Us Anything Part 3: Extra Spicy Edition
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Sep 29, 2022 |
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Episode 70: How To Keep Stress Low And Pleasure High When You’re Trying To Conceive
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Sep 22, 2022 |
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Episode 69: What Do Men REALLY Think About… Part Two! (Lingerie, Boobs, Money, Queefing, and More!)
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Sep 15, 2022 |
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Episode 68: The Ultimate Butt Stuff Episode
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Sep 08, 2022 |
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Episode 67: Hot Takes: How We REALLY Feel About Your Most Requested Topics
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Sep 01, 2022 |
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Episode 66: The True Story Of How We Built A Sex Therapy Business
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Aug 25, 2022 |
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Episode 65: How To Overcome Sexual Shame With Our 7-Step Process
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Aug 18, 2022 |
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Episode 64: Are You Roommates or Romantic Partners?
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Aug 11, 2022 |
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Episode 63: Does Your Partner Care Enough About YOUR Pleasure?
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Aug 04, 2022 |
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Episode 62: The Truth About Money and Relationships
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Jul 28, 2022 |
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Episode 61: Putting The O Back In Mom: Reigniting Your Sex Life After Kids
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Jul 21, 2022 |
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Episode 60: Help! My Partner Hates Self-Improvement!
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Jul 14, 2022 |
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Episode 59: Roleplaying 101: Ditch The Awkwardness And Find Your Confidence
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Jul 07, 2022 |
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Episode 58: The Sex Act You Should Be Doing - But Probably Aren’t
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Jun 30, 2022 |
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Episode 57: Is This Your Shit Or Mine?
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Jun 23, 2022 |
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Episode 56: What Do Men REALLY Think About… ? (Vulvas, Emotional Intimacy, And More!)
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Jun 16, 2022 |
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Episode 55: The 69 Episode
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Jun 09, 2022 |
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Episode 54: Ask Us Anything Part 2: MORE Of Your Burning Questions, Answered
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Jun 02, 2022 |
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Episode 53: How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For Beginners
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May 26, 2022 |
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Episode 52: How To Get Your Man To Take Control In The Bedroom
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May 19, 2022 |
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Episode 51: The Art of Flirting (In a Long Term Relationship)
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May 12, 2022 |
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Episode 50: I Don’t Know How To Say This, But...
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May 05, 2022 |
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Episode 49: The Truth About Squirting (And Why Men Are Obsessed With It)
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Apr 28, 2022 |
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Episode 48: How To Get Out Of (And Prevent) Dry Spells
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Apr 21, 2022 |
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Episode 47: What Penis Performance Problems REALLY Mean
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Apr 14, 2022 |
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Episode 46: The Hygiene Episode: What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Taking Care Of Themselves
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Apr 07, 2022 |
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Episode 45: Busting – And Confirming! – The Wildest Sex Myths
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Mar 31, 2022 |
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Episode 44: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up
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Mar 24, 2022 |
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Episode 43: How To STOP Getting Distracted During Sex!
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Mar 17, 2022 |
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Episode 42: Are You Sexually Compatible?
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Mar 10, 2022 |
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Episode 41: The Ask Us Anything Episode: All Your Burning Questions, Answered!
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Mar 03, 2022 |
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Episode 40: When Your Partner Wants Sex But You Don’t
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Feb 24, 2022 |
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Episode 39: If You Had To Ask, Does It Even Count?
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Feb 17, 2022 |
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Episode 38: You Want Connection, Your Partner Wants Sex. Who Comes First?
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Feb 10, 2022 |
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Episode 37: The Truth About Why We’re Child-Free
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Feb 03, 2022 |
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Episode 36: Can We Come Back From This?
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Jan 27, 2022 |
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Episode 35: Fine, I’ll Just Do It Myself: The Danger of Weaponized Incompetence
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Jan 20, 2022 |
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Episode 34: I Want You To Want Me
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Jan 13, 2022 |
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Episode 33: The Episode We Almost Didn’t Release
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Jan 06, 2022 |
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Episode 32: 5 Ways To Make 2022 Your Most Intimate AND Nasty Year Ever
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Dec 30, 2021 |
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Episode 31: Should We Open Our Relationship?
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Dec 23, 2021 |
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Episode 30: Sex With Other People...Around
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Dec 16, 2021 |
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Episode 29: Anxious? Avoidant? What Your Attachment Style Says About You (And Your Relationship)
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Dec 09, 2021 |
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Episode 28: So Your Partner Told You Their Fantasy... And You're Not Into It
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Dec 02, 2021 |
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Episode 27: Your In-Law Holiday Survival Guide
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Nov 24, 2021 |
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Episode 26: Are You Good In Bed?
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Nov 18, 2021 |
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Episode 25: Are You Too Needy?
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Nov 11, 2021 |
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Episode 23: Butt Stuff!
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Oct 28, 2021 |
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Episode 22: How To Not Pass Sexual Shame On To Your Kids
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Oct 21, 2021 |
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Episode 21: Cowgirls And Doggies And [Redacted], Oh My! Your Guide To Trying New Sex Positions
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Oct 14, 2021 |
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Episode 20: Should We Break Up?
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Oct 07, 2021 |
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Episode 19: How To Have Amazing Sex With A Brand New Partner
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Sep 30, 2021 |
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Episode 18: How To Get That New Relationship Energy Back
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Sep 23, 2021 |
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Episode 17: How To Allow Yourself To Receive In The Bedroom
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Sep 16, 2021 |
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Episode 16: No, Your Partner Didn't Make You Feel That Way - Your Feelings Are Your Responsibility
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Sep 09, 2021 |
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Episode 15: The Secret To Feeling More Pleasure In The Bedroom
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Sep 02, 2021 |
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Episode 14: How To Navigate Different Political, Social, And Religious Beliefs In Dating And Relationships
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Aug 26, 2021 |
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Episode 13: How To Handle Rejection When Your Partner Says No To Sex
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Aug 19, 2021 |
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Episode 12: How To Let Your Partner Love Your Body - Even If You Don't
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Aug 12, 2021 |
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Episode 11: How Vanessa Turned Her Orgasm Struggles Into A Sex Therapy Business!
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Aug 05, 2021 |
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Episode 10: Communication Breakdowns: We Coach Real Couples Through Their Worst Fights So You Can Get Better At Yours
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Jul 29, 2021 |
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Episode 9: How Often Is Everyone REALLY Having Sex? And What's Healthy For Your Relationship?
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Jul 22, 2021 |
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Episode 8: Has Purity Culture Harmed Your Sex Life? How To Overcome Religious Shame
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Jul 15, 2021 |
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Episode 7: What Makes a Great Kiss? And What to Do if You Don’t Like the Way Your Partner Kisses
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Jul 08, 2021 |
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Episode 6: This Is Why Your partner Won't Work On Your Relationship With You - And How To Finally Get Them To!
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Jul 01, 2021 |
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Episode 5: How to “Let Go” During Sex
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Jun 24, 2021 |
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Episode 4: Mental Load: What It Is and How to Stop It from Destroying Your Relationship
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Jun 17, 2021 |
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Episode 3: Should Sex Happen Naturally?
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Episode 2: Can You Actually Solve Problems In Your Relationship?
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Episode 1: The Secret To Hot Sex? Talking About It!
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Jun 10, 2021 |
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Welcome to the Pillow Talks Podcast with Vanessa + Xander
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May 25, 2021 |