Pillow Talks

By Vanessa & Xander Marin

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Episodes: 152


 Apr 26, 2023


 Jun 11, 2021

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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

Episode Date
Episode 152: Breaking Down A Text Fight
Apr 18, 2024
Episode 151: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up About Sex (Even If They’re Resistant)
Apr 11, 2024
Episode 150: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Volume 3)
Apr 04, 2024
Episode 149: Partner Having Penis Performance Problems? Here’s What To Do - And What Not To Do
Mar 28, 2024
Episode 148: “Help Me See Where My Partner Is Coming From!” (Advice Episode)
Mar 21, 2024
Episode 147: Your Sexual Fantasies Revealed
Mar 14, 2024
Episode 146: Are You Nagging? Or Is Your Partner Being Childish?
Mar 07, 2024
Episode 145: What Your Partner Secretly Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom
Feb 29, 2024
Episode 144: We’re In Couples Therapy
Feb 22, 2024
Episode 143: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex
Feb 15, 2024
Episode 142: Are You Lazy In Bed? Here’s What Your Partner Says…
Feb 08, 2024
Episode 141: How To Get Your Partner To Be More Romantic
Feb 01, 2024
Episode 140: What Your Sex Personality Type Says About You In The Bedroom
Jan 25, 2024
Episode 139: Xander’s Vasectomy Part 2: Answering Your Questions About Pain, Performance, And Masculinity
Jan 18, 2024
Episode 138: Your Funniest Foreplay Fails
Jan 11, 2024
Episode 137: Xander Got A Vasectomy!
Jan 04, 2024
Episode 136: The Top 10 Pillow Talks Podcast Moments of 2023
Dec 28, 2023
Episode 135: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition
Dec 21, 2023
Episode 134: Everything You’re Getting Wrong About Intercourse (And How To Get It Right)
Dec 14, 2023
Episode 133: Dead Bedrooms Part 2: We Coach Another Couple Through Resuscitating Their Sex Life
Dec 07, 2023
Episode 132: Why We Started Making Out Every Night
Nov 30, 2023
Episode 131: How Honest Is Too Honest?
Nov 22, 2023
Episode 130: The Bristle Reaction, Icky Initiation, And Bad Assumptions: 5 Surprising Lessons From Your Feedback About Our Book
Nov 16, 2023
Episode 129: Do You Have Silent Sex? Here’s Why That’s A Problem
Nov 09, 2023
Episode 128: Sneaky Ways To Get Your Partner More Involved In Your Relationship
Nov 02, 2023
Episode 127: Ask Us Anything: Spilling Our Business Secrets
Oct 26, 2023
Episode 126: Queefing, And Farting, And Squirting, Oh My! Bodily Functions In The Bedroom
Oct 19, 2023
Episode 125: Am I The Asshole?
Oct 12, 2023
Episode 124: Is Your Sex Life Too Boring?
Oct 05, 2023
Episode 123: A Parent’s Guide To Making Time For Sex And Intimacy
Sep 28, 2023
Episode 122: “Don’t Touch Me Like That”: Confronting Unwanted Touch In Your Relationship
Sep 21, 2023
Episode 121: When She Wants It More: Navigating Mismatched Libidos When The Woman Has A Higher Drive
Sep 14, 2023
Episode 120: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior
Sep 07, 2023
Episode 119: Jealousy In Relationships: Why Do We Get Jealous, And What Do We Do About It?
Aug 31, 2023
Episode 118: The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong
Aug 24, 2023
Episode 117: So You Think You Know Us? Answering Your Assumptions!
Aug 17, 2023
Episode 116: What Do I Do When My Partner Is Always On Their Phone?
Aug 10, 2023
Episode 115: Grief And Sex: Loving Each Other Through A Loss
Aug 03, 2023
Episode 114: Can We Come Back From This? Part 2: Even More Relationship Make Or Break Moments
Jul 27, 2023
Episode 113: Bump And Grind: Sex During Pregnancy
Jul 20, 2023
Episode 112: Creating A Shortcut To Intimacy With Compliments
Jul 13, 2023
Episode 111: What To Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Want To Talk About Sex
Jul 06, 2023
Episode 110: Unzipped And Unfiltered: Your Funniest Sex Fails
Jun 29, 2023
Episode 109: This ONE Thing Is Secretly Affecting Your ENTIRE Relationship
Jun 22, 2023
Episode 108: “Help! I’ve Been Faking Orgasms So Long I Don’t Know How To Stop!”
Jun 15, 2023
Episode 107: Ask Each Other Anything: Celebrating Our Queer Community With A Q&A
Jun 08, 2023
Episode 106: Exposing Our Biggest Relationship Frustrations With Enneagram Expert Tracy O’Malley
Jun 01, 2023
Episode 105: “Is This Normal?” 2.0 — More Questions You Never Dared To Ask Out Loud
May 25, 2023
Episode 104: An Exclusive Sneak Peek: Chapter One Of Sex Talks
May 18, 2023
Episode 103: What Do Women Really Think About…? (Masturbation, Butt Stuff, Penis Size, And More!)
May 11, 2023
Episode 102: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Intercourse Edition)
May 04, 2023
Episode 101: Is Gaming Hurting Your Relationship? Part 1 Of The “I Love You But I Don’t Like You” Series
Apr 27, 2023
Episode 100: Our 100th Episode Extravaganza: The Ultimate Round of “Know Ya Boo”
Apr 20, 2023
Episode 99: The Bristle Reaction: What It Is, How It Happens, And What You Can Do To Fix It
Apr 13, 2023
Episode 98: Dead Bedrooms: We Coach One Couple Through Resuscitating Their Sex Life
Apr 06, 2023
Episode 97: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Foreplay Edition)
Mar 30, 2023
Episode 96: Things That Go Bump (Or Bang) In the Night
Mar 23, 2023
Episode 95: Mental Load Part 2: Conversations About Perfectionism, Gender Roles, And Finding Balance With Your Partner
Mar 16, 2023
Episode 94: The “Start Here” Episode - Allow Us To Reintroduce Ourselves
Mar 09, 2023
Episode 93: Would You Rather?
Mar 02, 2023
Episode 92: The Brutally Honest Truth About Our New York Times Best Selling Book
Feb 23, 2023
Episode 91: “Is This Normal?” 15 Questions You Never Dared To Ask Out Loud
Feb 16, 2023
Episode 90: Why Missionary Is (Secretly) Our Favorite Position
Feb 09, 2023
Episode 89: How To Get The Intimacy You’ve Always Craved
Feb 02, 2023
Episode 88: How To Decide If You Should Have Kids Or Not. And Are We Still Child Free By Choice?
Jan 26, 2023
Episode 87: Sex Talks: Sharing All The Secrets Behind Writing Our First Book
Jan 19, 2023
Episode 86: Ask Us Anything Part 4: This Time It’s Personal
Jan 12, 2023
Episode 85: Make 2023 The Year You Finally Feel Sexy
Jan 05, 2023
Episode 84: Top 10 Podcast Moments of 2022
Dec 29, 2022
Episode 83: How To Fight Fair In A Relationship: Breaking Down A Listener Argument
Dec 22, 2022
Episode 82: The 15 Lessons That Keep Us Saying “I Do” After 15 Years
Dec 15, 2022
Episode 81: Ho Ho Help! How To Survive Holiday Stress
Dec 08, 2022
Episode 80: Be A Man And Talk About Your Feelings
Dec 01, 2022
Episode 79: Sex Confessions: The Good, The Bad, And The WTF
Nov 23, 2022
Episode 78: Initiation: What You And Your Partner Are Doing Wrong - And How To Get It Right
Nov 17, 2022
Episode 77: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Orgasms
Nov 10, 2022
Episode 76: How Much Do You Really Want It? The Sex Drive Episode
Nov 03, 2022
Episode 75: Am I Being Unreasonable?
Oct 27, 2022
Episode 74: Are We…Growing Apart?
Oct 20, 2022
Episode 73: Do You Ever “Owe” Sex To Your Partner?
Oct 13, 2022
Episode 72: The Lowdown On Painful Sex
Oct 06, 2022
Episode 71: Ask Us Anything Part 3: Extra Spicy Edition
Sep 29, 2022
Episode 70: How To Keep Stress Low And Pleasure High When You’re Trying To Conceive
Sep 22, 2022
Episode 69: What Do Men REALLY Think About… Part Two! (Lingerie, Boobs, Money, Queefing, and More!)
Sep 15, 2022
Episode 68: The Ultimate Butt Stuff Episode
Sep 08, 2022
Episode 67: Hot Takes: How We REALLY Feel About Your Most Requested Topics
Sep 01, 2022
Episode 66: The True Story Of How We Built A Sex Therapy Business
Aug 25, 2022
Episode 65: How To Overcome Sexual Shame With Our 7-Step Process
Aug 18, 2022
Episode 64: Are You Roommates or Romantic Partners?
Aug 11, 2022
Episode 63: Does Your Partner Care Enough About YOUR Pleasure?
Aug 04, 2022
Episode 62: The Truth About Money and Relationships
Jul 28, 2022
Episode 61: Putting The O Back In Mom: Reigniting Your Sex Life After Kids
Jul 21, 2022
Episode 60: Help! My Partner Hates Self-Improvement!
Jul 14, 2022
Episode 59: Roleplaying 101: Ditch The Awkwardness And Find Your Confidence
Jul 07, 2022
Episode 58: The Sex Act You Should Be Doing - But Probably Aren’t
Jun 30, 2022
Episode 57: Is This Your Shit Or Mine?
Jun 23, 2022
Episode 56: What Do Men REALLY Think About… ? (Vulvas, Emotional Intimacy, And More!)
Jun 16, 2022
Episode 55: The 69 Episode
Jun 09, 2022
Episode 54: Ask Us Anything Part 2: MORE Of Your Burning Questions, Answered
Jun 02, 2022
Episode 53: How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For Beginners
May 26, 2022
Episode 52: How To Get Your Man To Take Control In The Bedroom
May 19, 2022
Episode 51: The Art of Flirting (In a Long Term Relationship)
May 12, 2022
Episode 50: I Don’t Know How To Say This, But...
May 05, 2022
Episode 49: The Truth About Squirting (And Why Men Are Obsessed With It)
Apr 28, 2022
Episode 48: How To Get Out Of (And Prevent) Dry Spells
Apr 21, 2022
Episode 47: What Penis Performance Problems REALLY Mean
Apr 14, 2022
Episode 46: The Hygiene Episode: What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Taking Care Of Themselves
Apr 07, 2022
Episode 45: Busting – And Confirming! – The Wildest Sex Myths
Mar 31, 2022
Episode 44: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up
Mar 24, 2022
Episode 43: How To STOP Getting Distracted During Sex!
Mar 17, 2022
Episode 42: Are You Sexually Compatible?
Mar 10, 2022
Episode 41: The Ask Us Anything Episode: All Your Burning Questions, Answered!
Mar 03, 2022
Episode 40: When Your Partner Wants Sex But You Don’t
Feb 24, 2022
Episode 39: If You Had To Ask, Does It Even Count?
Feb 17, 2022
Episode 38: You Want Connection, Your Partner Wants Sex. Who Comes First?
Feb 10, 2022
Episode 37: The Truth About Why We’re Child-Free
Feb 03, 2022
Episode 36: Can We Come Back From This?
Jan 27, 2022
Episode 35: Fine, I’ll Just Do It Myself: The Danger of Weaponized Incompetence
Jan 20, 2022
Episode 34: I Want You To Want Me
Jan 13, 2022
Episode 33: The Episode We Almost Didn’t Release
Jan 06, 2022
Episode 32: 5 Ways To Make 2022 Your Most Intimate AND Nasty Year Ever
Dec 30, 2021
Episode 31: Should We Open Our Relationship?
Dec 23, 2021
Episode 30: Sex With Other People...Around
Dec 16, 2021
Episode 29: Anxious? Avoidant? What Your Attachment Style Says About You (And Your Relationship)
Dec 09, 2021
Episode 28: So Your Partner Told You Their Fantasy... And You're Not Into It
Dec 02, 2021
Episode 27: Your In-Law Holiday Survival Guide
Nov 24, 2021
Episode 26: Are You Good In Bed?
Nov 18, 2021
Episode 25: Are You Too Needy?
Nov 11, 2021
Episode 23: Butt Stuff!
Oct 28, 2021
Episode 22: How To Not Pass Sexual Shame On To Your Kids
Oct 21, 2021
Episode 21: Cowgirls And Doggies And [Redacted], Oh My! Your Guide To Trying New Sex Positions
Oct 14, 2021
Episode 20: Should We Break Up?
Oct 07, 2021
Episode 19: How To Have Amazing Sex With A Brand New Partner
Sep 30, 2021
Episode 18: How To Get That New Relationship Energy Back
Sep 23, 2021
Episode 17: How To Allow Yourself To Receive In The Bedroom
Sep 16, 2021
Episode 16: No, Your Partner Didn't Make You Feel That Way - Your Feelings Are Your Responsibility
Sep 09, 2021
Episode 15: The Secret To Feeling More Pleasure In The Bedroom
Sep 02, 2021
Episode 14: How To Navigate Different Political, Social, And Religious Beliefs In Dating And Relationships
Aug 26, 2021
Episode 13: How To Handle Rejection When Your Partner Says No To Sex
Aug 19, 2021
Episode 12: How To Let Your Partner Love Your Body - Even If You Don't
Aug 12, 2021
Episode 11: How Vanessa Turned Her Orgasm Struggles Into A Sex Therapy Business!
Aug 05, 2021
Episode 10: Communication Breakdowns: We Coach Real Couples Through Their Worst Fights So You Can Get Better At Yours
Jul 29, 2021
Episode 9: How Often Is Everyone REALLY Having Sex? And What's Healthy For Your Relationship?
Jul 22, 2021
Episode 8: Has Purity Culture Harmed Your Sex Life? How To Overcome Religious Shame
Jul 15, 2021
Episode 7: What Makes a Great Kiss? And What to Do if You Don’t Like the Way Your Partner Kisses
Jul 08, 2021
Episode 6: This Is Why Your partner Won't Work On Your Relationship With You - And How To Finally Get Them To!
Jul 01, 2021
Episode 5: How to “Let Go” During Sex
Jun 24, 2021
Episode 4: Mental Load: What It Is and How to Stop It from Destroying Your Relationship
Jun 17, 2021
Episode 3: Should Sex Happen Naturally?
Jun 10, 2021
Episode 2: Can You Actually Solve Problems In Your Relationship?
Jun 10, 2021
Episode 1: The Secret To Hot Sex? Talking About It!
Jun 10, 2021
Welcome to the Pillow Talks Podcast with Vanessa + Xander
May 25, 2021