Pillow Talks

By Vanessa & Xander Marin

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 Jun 11, 2021

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Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

Episode Date
Episode 51: The Art of Flirting (In a Long Term Relationship)
50:43

“Why should I have to flirt with my partner? We’ve been together forever!”

A lot of us in long-term relationships feel hesitant to flirt with our partner. It feels awkward, clunky, or just plain unnecessary.

But flirting is an amazing way to ignite that spark you once had and remind you of those exciting early days of your relationship.

Most importantly: flirting can make both of you feel SO good about the way you see each other.

We know it can feel daunting to flirt with your partner, especially if you’re out of practice or don’t consider yourself good at it, so we’re doing a whole episode on exactly how to flirt.

Even if you feel like flirting “isn’t for me” or doesn’t come naturally to you, we promise that this episode will boost your confidence and have you trying out some new techniques ASAP — and don’t blame us if things get a little sweeter (and spicier)! 😉

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode51

May 12, 2022
Episode 50: I Don’t Know How To Say This, But...
47:55
You know that thing you really want to tell your partner but you just... don’t know how?

Maybe you’re nervous, you really don’t want to hurt their feelings, or it feels like the time is never right.

Well, you’re not alone!

Our Instagram audience hit us with alllll the things they wish they could tell their partner, and we’re giving them our best advice for how to keep it real while avoiding the dreaded “we need to talk” opener.

Check out the show notes: vmtherapy.com/episode50

May 05, 2022
Episode 49: The Truth About Squirting (And Why Men Are Obsessed With It)
46:18

Squirting: is it real? Where does it come from? IS IT PEE?!

In this episode, we are doing a deep dive on the mystery of squirting: specifically what it is, why it happens, and how we all became so obsessed with it.

Join us for a very educational episode and learn why this topic gets Vanessa so fired up!

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode49

Apr 28, 2022
Episode 48: How To Get Out Of (And Prevent) Dry Spells
46:05

Can’t remember the last time you had sex?

Or maybe you remember the exact day and it’s been... too long.

It’s time to talk about one of the most-dreaded issues that comes up in relationships... DRY SPELLS!

You might find yourself wondering if there’s an end in sight. Has your relationship cooled off for good? When you do have sex again, is it going to be awkward or bad, leading to yet another dry spell? Or maybe you’re scaring yourself because you don’t even miss having sex at all!

Dry spells can send you to some really dark places, but we’re here to tell you: there is hope!

In this episode, we’re giving you five tips for combatting dry spells, no matter your circumstance.

We’re also talking about preventing this issue, so even if you’re not in a dry spell right now, you don’t want to miss this episode!

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode48

Apr 21, 2022
Episode 47: What Penis Performance Problems REALLY Mean
53:23
You’re having a steamy makeout session with your partner, things are getting hot and heavy and leading to sex, but your partner just can’t get or stay erect. (Or maybe their erection isn’t the problem, but their orgasm is.)

What does it mean??

For most women, we think the answer lies within ourselves. We’re not hot enough. We’re not experienced enough or lacking technique. Something is wrong with our body, not theirs.

What you THINK these performance issues mean vs. what they REALLY mean are two very different animals, so in today’s episode, we are going there.

Whether your partner has trouble getting and staying hard, orgasming too quickly/taking too long to orgasm, we’re talking about how these issues have affected us in our relationship and giving you all of our best tips for navigating them in (and out) of the moment.

And, spoiler alert, this episode turned into a mini therapy session for us!

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode47

Apr 14, 2022
Episode 46: The Hygiene Episode: What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Taking Care Of Themselves
36:12

If you’re like many people, hygiene seems pretty basic. Take a shower, brush your teeth, wear deodorant, what’s so hard about that?

So you may find yourself confused about why your partner can’t seem to take good care of themselves.

How can your partner expect you to want to kiss them, have sex with them, or even be attracted to them in the first place if they haven’t kept up basic hygiene habits?

In today’s episode, we’re tackling the topic you’ve been dying for us to address: your partner’s hygiene - or lack thereof.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode46

Apr 07, 2022
Episode 45: Busting – And Confirming! – The Wildest Sex Myths
43:20

Is squirting really just pee? Can pineapple make your vulva taste and smell sweet? What the heck is the deal with belly button sex??

We turned to Instagram to ask, “What’s something you’ve heard about sex and aren’t sure if it’s true?”

Some of these urban legends are funny, some of them are damaging and harmful, and some of them are actually true!

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode45

Mar 31, 2022
Episode 44: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up
56:02

Do you find yourself wishing your partner would share more about their emotions, or at least just more details about how their day went?

If your partner never opens up to you, it can leave you feeling pretty damn lonely. You may even find yourself feeling suspicious about why they won’t share more with you.

In this episode, we’re giving you practical tips on how to get your partner to “open up”, once and for all.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode44

Mar 24, 2022
Episode 43: How To STOP Getting Distracted During Sex!
48:15

Have you ever been in the middle of some HOT sex and all of a sudden you start thinking about something completely unrelated? Maybe you need to get a babysitter for next weekend or you totally forgot to send that email to your boss.

Regardless of what you’re distracted by, it can be so frustrating and you can end up feeling powerless to your thoughts. You may even feel self-judgment or shame that you’re not able to stay focused during sex.

In this episode we’re giving you lots of practical tools for how you (and your partner) can navigate distractions and stay more present during sex.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode43

Mar 17, 2022
Episode 42: Are You Sexually Compatible?
57:41

“Are we sexually compatible?” This haunting question comes up in the majority of relationships at some point. So what does it actually mean when it starts to feel like you’re not sexually compatible?? Is your relationship doomed?

The answer is - it depends! In this episode, we’re digging into sexual compatibility using an exciting new model Vanessa developed! Plus, we’ll even share our own “rankings” for how compatible (and incompatible) we are.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode42

Mar 10, 2022
Episode 41: The Ask Us Anything Episode: All Your Burning Questions, Answered!
50:39
So how DID Xander propose? How often do we really have sex? You’re about to find out in this “ask us anything” style episode, where we answer your most frequently asked, burning questions.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode41

Mar 03, 2022
Episode 40: When Your Partner Wants Sex But You Don’t
58:15

What do you do when your partner initiates sex, but you’re not in the mood?

This can be one of the trickiest moments to navigate in a relationship. You might find yourself freezing up, worrying about hurting your partner, or even feeling irritated at them for initiating in the first place.

In this episode, we walk you through exactly what to do. You might even be surprised by our suggestions!

Check out the show notes: vmtherapy.com/episode40

Feb 24, 2022
Episode 39: If You Had To Ask, Does It Even Count?
50:16
You wish your partner would do something thoughtful for you, and you definitely DON’T want to have to ask them to do it — because if you did, it wouldn’t really count as something thoughtful anymore! Right?!

This episode is the remedy for this all-too-common complaint. We’re giving you steps to take toward more intentional, joyful moments for both you and your partner.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode39

Feb 17, 2022
Episode 38: You Want Connection, Your Partner Wants Sex. Who Comes First?
42:35

There are two types of people: those who need to feel connected before having sex, and those that need to have sex in order to feel connected. In a cruel twist of fate, relationships typically have one of each type of person. This can lead to a stand-off situation that often manifests in long dry spells or straight up bad sex.

In this episode, we give our surprising (and perhaps controversial) answer to what comes first — emotional or physical connection, and talk about how to end the ‘stand-off’ once and for all.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode38

Feb 10, 2022
Episode 37: The Truth About Why We’re Child-Free
01:08:10
One of the most frequent questions we get is, “Do you have kids?” Followed closely by “why don’t you have any?” While it hasn’t always been an easy journey, we’ve gotten to a place where we’re really comfortable and confident in our choice to be child-free. So today’s episode is all about how we got there! We get deeply vulnerable and yes, tears were shed. We’re answering your burning questions and discussing how we decided to be child-free, the way we told our families and how they reacted, and the feelings that come up around knowing we won’t have children.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode37

Feb 03, 2022
Episode 36: Can We Come Back From This?
01:00:28

What do you do when your partner says something hurtful that you just can’t shake, even months or years later? Is it something you can grow and heal from or is it simply a deal breaker?

This advice-column style episode dives into the “grey area” of relationships. We’ll hear stories from members of our community who are sharing their most harrowing ‘can we come back from this?’ moments and give our best advice on how to move forward.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode36

Jan 27, 2022
Episode 35: Fine, I’ll Just Do It Myself: The Danger of Weaponized Incompetence
01:16:47

Has your partner ever done a task so poorly or asked you so many questions that you finally just said “fine, I’ll do it myself!”? This is called weaponized incompetence, and while your partner may not mean for it to be, it can be harmful in a relationship. In this episode we’re going to talk about how to identify weaponized incompetence, how it shows up in OUR relationship, and what to do if you or your partner are doing this.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode35

Jan 20, 2022
Episode 34: I Want You To Want Me
57:58

We all want to feel desired, but so often in relationships we get into a place where it feels like one partner wants the other more.

If you’re the higher desire partner, you’re probably feeling lonely and scared - scared that your partner might not be into you, and scared that you’ll get rejected if you initiate any kind of sex or intimacy. In fact, you may even be withholding affection for fear of being turned down!

If you’re the lower desire partner, you might be feeling ashamed, like there’s something wrong with you. You may even be tempted to start giving your partner half-hearted sex or intimacy in an attempt to appease them.

Unfortunately, none of these techniques end up being very successful, and in fact tend to only reinforce the feeling of imbalance.

In this week's podcast episode, we show you how to unravel these painful dynamics.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode34

Jan 13, 2022
Episode 33: The Episode We Almost Didn’t Release
52:18

Full transparency: we didn’t know if we were going to release this episode. We’re talking about everything from how we processed the chaos that is the holidays to whether we upheld our “Holiday Classic” sex pact.

Jan 06, 2022
Episode 32: 5 Ways To Make 2022 Your Most Intimate AND Nasty Year Ever
43:44

This episode is all about making 2022 the best year of your relationship yet! Get our five favorite sustainable and actionable tips for making your relationship a priority next year.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode32

Dec 30, 2021
Episode 31: Should We Open Our Relationship?
47:16

Have you ever thought about opening up your relationship? Have WE ever thought about opening up our relationship? Some see it as a necessity to fully express their sexuality while others think it might be the perfect salve for a hurting relationship. One thing’s for sure, open relationships are subject to a lot of misconceptions. Tune in to find out what open relationships are all about, and find out if WE are taking the steps toward this relationship structure.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode31

Dec 23, 2021
Episode 30: Sex With Other People...Around
46:07

Having sex when there are guests around (or when you are a guest in someone's home) can be a major source of anxiety — but sometimes you just HAVE to do it! Today, we're going to walk you through how to respectfully, discreetly get down wherever you're spending the holidays.

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode30

Dec 16, 2021
Episode 29: Anxious? Avoidant? What Your Attachment Style Says About You (And Your Relationship)
50:38

Attachment Style Theory looks at the ways we respond to other people based on the way we responded to our earliest relationships: our relationships with our parents. In this episode we're talking about what each style means for the people who have it, plus how the styles relate to each other.

 

Check out the show notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode29

Dec 09, 2021
Episode 28: So Your Partner Told You Their Fantasy... And You're Not Into It
32:37

Do you have a fantasy you've always wanted to explore? Maybe your partner does as well, but it doesn't 'match up' with yours. In this episode we're diving into a five step process for dealing with different fantasies in relationships.

Dec 02, 2021
Episode 27: Your In-Law Holiday Survival Guide
51:35

In-laws are tricky. Holidays are tricky. Put them together and you've got some truly stressful situations. In this episode we are once again going 'advice column-style' to help some of our audience members sort out their frustrations. We're talking a lot about boundaries and communication, and even if you have typically stress-free holidays, this episode is definitely entertaining.

Nov 24, 2021
Episode 26: Are You Good In Bed?
46:55

We turned to our Instagram audience @vanessamarintherapy to ask them "what makes someone good in bed?" and they DELIVERED. They also opened up on telling us what makes someone bad in bed. Do you really know what actually makes sex good? Listen to find out some major themes we noticed. We'll unpack our findings and give you practical advice to sharpen your skills in the bedroom.

Check out the Show Notes at: vmtherapy.com/episode26

Nov 18, 2021
Episode 25: Are You Too Needy?
40:34

When you hear the word 'needy', it's probably the last thing you would ever want to be described as; being needy is so steeped in shame! Today we're going to talk about what neediness is - and what it isn't - and some genuinely helpful tools for addressing neediness.

Check out the show notes here: vmtherapy.com/episode25

Nov 11, 2021
Episode 24: Butt Stuff: The Sequel
43:10

The follow up to episode 23: Butt Stuff (if you haven't listened to that episode yet, go ahead and check it out)! Today we're talking about how to actually do butt stuff — step by step — as well as what not to do.

Check out the show notes here: https://bit.ly/3BHpDeM

Nov 04, 2021
Episode 23: Butt Stuff!
42:10

This is the first of two episodes about butt stuff, and it's your primer episode! What makes anal play so great anyway and why are people so intimidated by it? Well, we're answering those questions and talking about how to break through some of the objections surrounding this topic. Next week we'll talk about the mechanics of how to actually try anal play and anal sex.

Check out the show notes at vmtherapy.com/episode23

Oct 28, 2021
Episode 22: How To Not Pass Sexual Shame On To Your Kids
53:05

In this episode, we're talking about how to cut through the shame, awkwardness and embarrassment that we've been taught to have when talking about sex; specifically when it comes to talking to your kids.

Check out this week's show notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode22

We also talk about some resources that you can check out on this topic:

Episode 8: Has Purity Culture Harmed Your Sex Life? How To Overcome Religious Shame

YouTube Video — The Ultimate Guide to Talk to Your Kids About Sex

Oct 21, 2021
Episode 21: Cowgirls And Doggies And [Redacted], Oh My! Your Guide To Trying New Sex Positions
40:16

Trying new sex positions is a really fun way to spice up your sex life, but it can feel super intimidating to even get started when you're already in a comfortable routine.

In today's episode, we are addressing your concerns and helping you gain the confidence to dive right in and add to your repertoire!

Check Out The Show Notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode21

Pick up your copy of the Sex Position Playbook!

Oct 14, 2021
Episode 20: Should We Break Up?
46:30

How do you know if or when to end a relationship?

To see if we could help answer that question, we reached out to our Instagram community for story submissions and were overwhelmed with the number of responses from people wondering whether to continue or end their relationships. These submissions cover everything from not getting 'butterflies' anymore to feeling "emotionally starved". Today, we'll be sharing some of the stories we received, walking you through these nuanced and complex situations, and offering our best advice for how to move forward.

Check out this week's show notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode20

Links and Resources mentioned in this episode:

Free Guide: The Golden Rules of Communication Podcast: How To Navigate Different Political, Social, and Religious Beliefs In Dating And Relationships

Oct 07, 2021
Episode 19: How To Have Amazing Sex With A Brand New Partner
55:05

Awkward, fun, nerve-wracking, and exciting: all words that our community used to describe first-time sex with a new partner. There can be a lot of high expectations and common misconceptions about first times, so today we're going to be helping you navigate the waters of getting it on with someone new.

Even if you're in a long term relationship, there are tips on communicating with your partner about sex. And of course, we had to share the embarrassing details about our first time!

Check out this week's show notes at: https://vmtherapy.com/episode19

Sep 30, 2021
Episode 18: How To Get That New Relationship Energy Back
49:59

We all want to feel wanted.

That's why we're talking about something that can totally change your relationship for the better, and it's something you've already done..."dating" your partner!

We've heard from our community (and this is something we as a couple have gone through as well) that when you've been together for years, even decades, you can go through phases where you feel more like roommates than romantic partners. Maybe you have kids and you know you're on the same team, but romance has taken a back seat to parenting and just life in general. Whatever the case may be, we're excited to talk about the role desire can play in your relationship and how - yes - you can reignite that spark from the 'old days'.

Sep 23, 2021
Episode 17: How To Allow Yourself To Receive In The Bedroom
44:57

In order to enjoy sex, we have to receive. Whether it's time, attention, love, or energy, there are so many aspects of great sex are tied into receiving. Your ability to receive can affect many things, like your ability to be present in the moment, feel pleasure, be emotionally connected to a partner, and especially to orgasm!

In today's episode, Vanessa and Xander talk about how you can get more comfortable with the idea of receiving in the bedroom.

Sep 16, 2021
Episode 16: No, Your Partner Didn't Make You Feel That Way - Your Feelings Are Your Responsibility
49:18

Feelings. Is there anything that makes you feel more uncomfortable? It's hard enough to process your own feelings, so when your partner does something that brings up big feelings for you, it's so easy to blame them for the way you feel.

But the unfortunate reality is we can't actually blame other people for how we're feeling!

In today's episode, Vanessa and Xander discuss why our feelings are our own responsibility, and give their best tips for navigating challenging emotions.

Sep 09, 2021
Episode 15: The Secret To Feeling More Pleasure In The Bedroom
44:30

Have you ever found yourself thinking, "Sex just feels so blah. I don't get what the fuss is all about"? This is one of the most common complaints we hear from women! So many women want to FEEL MORE in the bedroom, but they just don't know how.

In today's episode, Vanessa and Xander unpack why the key to feeling more pleasure in the bedroom is to start with masturbation.

Sep 02, 2021
Episode 14: How To Navigate Different Political, Social, And Religious Beliefs In Dating And Relationships
50:39

Politics, religion and social issues are already such divisive topics, so what happens when you disagree about them in a relationship?

Should differing beliefs be deal breakers? Are they enough to end a relationship over?

In today's episode, Vanessa and Xander tackle these thorny questions!

Aug 26, 2021
Episode 13: How To Handle Rejection When Your Partner Says No To Sex
51:03

Anytime you ask for something you want, it’s a vulnerable experience. You're putting yourself out there, and in the position to be turned down. Which is why initiating sex is one of the most vulnerable things we do in our relationships.

In today's episode we are talking all about how to deal with sexual rejection, so you and your partner can feel way more confident initiating with one another.

Aug 19, 2021
Episode 12: How To Let Your Partner Love Your Body - Even If You Don't
46:14

Body confidence is something that affects everyone, whether it's an occasional thing or a daily struggle. Usually we think of it as a personal issue - feeling self conscious, or having critical and judgmental thoughts towards ourselves.

But there's another aspect to body confidence that actually has a huge impact on how we show up in our sex lives and relationships: our ability to let our partner love our body.

In today's episode, Vanessa and Xander discuss how to let your partner love your body and share their best tips for receiving and accepting compliments from your partner.

For full show notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode12

Aug 12, 2021
Episode 11: How Vanessa Turned Her Orgasm Struggles Into A Sex Therapy Business!
59:13

When you hear the words “Sex Therapist”, you probably think of someone who knows exactly what they want and how to get it in the bedroom, right?

So what happens when an aspiring sex therapist is struggling with her orgasm?

In this interview-style podcast, Vanessa tells her own personal orgasm journey, and how it inspired her to start a business teaching thousands of women how to orgasm.

For full show notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode11

 
Aug 05, 2021
Episode 10: Communication Breakdowns: We Coach Real Couples Through Their Worst Fights So You Can Get Better At Yours
43:20

Good communication is really hard. 


We'll be the first to admit that in the heat of the moment it can be really tough to validate your partner's experience, use clear and empathic language, and also ask for your needs to be met.

We make a living teaching couples how to have good communication and we STILL struggle with this.

So in this episode, we're roleplaying some of our listener-submitted arguments, and breaking down their communication breakdowns.

Jul 29, 2021
Episode 9: How Often Is Everyone REALLY Having Sex? And What's Healthy For Your Relationship?
49:39

Everyone wants to know what the magic amount of sex is to keep their relationship healthy. So many of us think that if we hit a certain quota, it means out relationship is successful.

So we decided to do a little experiment to see what the sex lives of our followers really look like. We created a sexual frequency and satisfaction survey, and we've now had 12,000 people respond!

Jul 22, 2021
Episode 8: Has Purity Culture Harmed Your Sex Life? How To Overcome Religious Shame
56:59

Did you grow up in Purity Culture?

Purity Culture teaches that it's important to wait until marriage to have sex, because people who wait are more pure, wholesome, and desirable.

It also has a lot to say about dressing modestly (especially for girls), pleasure being sinful, & masturbation being evil.

In this week's episode, we're breaking down the effects Purity Culture can have on your sex life- and what you can do to counteract it.

For full show notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode8

Jul 15, 2021
Episode 7: What Makes a Great Kiss? And What to Do if You Don’t Like the Way Your Partner Kisses
01:00:27

When was the last time you had a truly amazing kiss?

The sad reality is that most couples just don't really kiss anymore!

A lot of us, if we're really honest with ourselves, feel a little insecure about our kissing technique.

And if we're even more brutally honest, a lot of us don't really like the way our partner kisses.

There's a lot of sex advice out there about oral sex technique and sex positions, but you rarely hear discussions of kissing technique.

In this episode we're back to basics and talking all things kissing.

For full show notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode7

Jul 08, 2021
Episode 6: This Is Why Your partner Won't Work On Your Relationship With You - And How To Finally Get Them To!
53:00

Do you think that relationships should be effortless? Or that having to work on your relationship means there's something wrong?

 

Or does your partner think these things?

 

A lot of people think that they should only need to put effort into their relationship to solve serious problems. Or they wait until things are bad to start putting in effort.

 

But your relationship CAN NOT survive without effort.

 

In this episode, we reframe work in a completely different - and much more helpful, effective, and fun! - way.

 

For full show notes: https://vmtherapy.com/episode6

Jul 01, 2021
Episode 5: How to “Let Go” During Sex
47:52

What’s keeping you from letting go in the bedroom?

 

People we polled said that body image, kids, and to-do lists all contributed to having a difficult time staying present during sex.

 

People tend to feel that “letting go” is the main thing that could make sex better and more pleasurable. But for many of us, just letting go is a lot harder than it sounds!

 

In this episode, we talk about what “letting go” during sex could look like, and whether that’s actually something we should be striving for in the bedroom.


For full show notes, head over to www.vmtherapy.com/episode5

Jun 24, 2021
Episode 4: Mental Load: What It Is and How to Stop It from Destroying Your Relationship
01:04:33

Do you secretly keep score of who does what in your relationship? 

 

Do you feel like your partner gets to be carefree and happy while you’re stressed out trying to hold it all together?

 

In today's episode, we talk about one of the most popular topics we’ve ever talked about: mental load.

 

If you’ve never heard the term before, mental load refers to the invisible mental burden of keeping track of household and family needs. 

 

Seriously, people go bananas whenever we talk about mental load, so this is an episode you don’t want to miss!

 

Get full show notes and resources mentioned in this episode here: www.vmtherapy.com/episode4

 

 

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Jun 17, 2021
Episode 3: Should Sex Happen Naturally?
39:23

Should sex happen naturally?

This is one of the most common questions we get asked, and it can cause some serious tension in relationships. You may want to work on improving your sex life or making changes, but your partner refuses because they think it should just happen naturally. 

In this episode, we're going to uncover the truth about how sex really works in a long-term relationship. We think you’re going to be pretty surprised...

Get full show notes and resources mentioned in this episode here: www.vmtherapy.com/episode3

 

GIVEAWAY ALERT!

If you leave us a review on Apple Podcasts before June 20 and we'll enter your name into a drawing to win any one of our courses for free! That’s up to a $1,000 value! 

(Just make sure to take a screenshot of your review and DM it to us at @vanessamarintherapy. Apple doesn’t like to show every review, so we want to make sure you get added to the giveaway.)

Thank you in advance for taking the time to leave us a quick review!

 

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Jun 10, 2021
Episode 2: Can You Actually Solve Problems In Your Relationship?
50:38

Has this phrase ever been uttered in your home: “We’ve talked about this a million times before”?

So many of the arguments we get into with our partners are different versions of the same argument we've already had. And it can feel exhausting and demoralizing to keep having the same conflict over and over. 

In today’s episode, we’re introducing you to the concept of unresolvable conflict. According to research, 69% of conflicts in long-term relationships are unresolvable.

What does that even mean? And what are you supposed to do if you can’t resolve a conflict? Tune in to find out!

Get full show notes and resources mentioned in this episode here: www.vmtherapy.com/episode2

 

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If you leave us a review on Apple Podcasts before June 20 and we'll enter your name into a drawing to win any one of our courses for free! That’s up to a $1,000 value! 

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If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

Jun 10, 2021
Episode 1: The Secret To Hot Sex? Talking About It!
36:49

How comfortable are you talking about sex with your partner? If you’re like most people, your face is already bright red! You need to be able to talk about sex if you want to have an extraordinary sex life.

So to kick off the Pillow Talks podcast, we’ve got your back with a step-by-step process for talking about sex in your relationship - even if you never have before. 

In this episode, we’ll walk you through five steps you need to take to get comfortable talking about sex. We’ll share funny stories of our own communication mishaps, and give you the courage to open up! 

Get full show notes and resources mentioned in this episode here: www.vmtherapy.com/episode1

 

GIVEAWAY ALERT!

If you leave us a review on Apple Podcasts before June 20 and we'll enter your name into a drawing to win any one of our courses for free! That’s up to a $1,000 value! 

(Just make sure to take a screenshot of your review and DM it to us at @vanessamarintherapy. Apple doesn’t like to show every review, so we want to make sure you get added to the giveaway.)

Thank you in advance for taking the time to leave us a quick review!

 

If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!



Jun 10, 2021
Welcome to the Pillow Talks Podcast with Vanessa + Xander
03:37

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

Whether you’re looking to learn how to orgasm, skyrocket your confidence, or rekindle the spark with your partner, Vanessa & Xander can help you identify and overcome your blockages around, and learn how to have more fun in the bedroom. Head over to vmtherapy.com

May 25, 2021