Nope! We're Not Monogamous
By Ellecia Paine
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Episodes: 156
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Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, tantra and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.
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How to Stop Spiraling When Jealousy Takes Over, Ep. 156
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May 14, 2026 |
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Jealousy, Boundaries, and the Things You’re Afraid to Ask For, EP. 155
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Apr 23, 2026 |
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Why Jealousy Hits So Hard (And What It’s Really Trying to Protect) EP. 154
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Apr 23, 2026 |
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If It Feels Hard… You’re Not Doing It Wrong, EP. 153
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Apr 16, 2026 |
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Dating Someone Who’s Already Partnered… and Still Feeling Alone, EP. 152
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Apr 09, 2026 |
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Communication Triangles in Polyamory: The Subtle Dynamic That Creates Drama EP. 151
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Apr 02, 2026 |
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Showing Up Alone to a Swingers Event Changed Everything - Ep. 150 with Kate Heskett
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Mar 26, 2026 |
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Metamours, Friendship, and the Myth of Instant Kitchen Table Polyamory, EP. 149
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Mar 19, 2026 |
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NRE: Why New Relationship Energy Feels So Good (and Why You Should Slow Down) EP. 148
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Mar 12, 2026 |
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Resentment Is a Boundary Problem (And It’s Not What You Think)
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Feb 26, 2026 |
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Poly Agony: The Mistakes, Repair, and Reality of Raising Kids While Open with Candace Sogren
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Feb 19, 2026 |
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Needs vs Wants in Non-Monogamy: There’s No Prize for Needing Less EP.145
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Feb 12, 2026 |
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The Real Glow-Up: Self-Love, Desire, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Dr. Joy Berkheimer, EP. 144
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Feb 05, 2026 |
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Saying Yes to Non-Monogamy with Natalie Davis, EP. 143
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Jan 29, 2026 |
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Jealousy Is Shame in Disguise (And That Changes Everything) Ep. 142
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Jan 22, 2026 |
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When Honesty Isn’t Enough: The Missing Piece of Emotional Safety in Open Relationships, EP. 141
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Jan 15, 2026 |
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Before You Open: The 5 Signs Your Relationship Isn’t Ready Yet, EP. 140
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Jan 08, 2026 |
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How to Talk to a Partner Who Insists on OPP, Forced Triads, or “We Only Date Together” EP. 139
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Dec 25, 2025 |
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Dating Separately: The Secret to Actually Surviving Polyamory as a Couple, EP. 138
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Dec 18, 2025 |
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The Taboo Side of Non-Monogamy: Pleasure, Healing, and Desire with Sharon Marie Scott
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Dec 11, 2025 |
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The Relationship Skills That Actually Matter in Non-Monogamy with Dr. Dan Sneider Ep. 136
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Nov 27, 2025 |
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You Can’t Logic Your Way Out of Jealousy (But You’ll Definitely Try) Ep. 135
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Nov 20, 2025 |
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Rethinking “Success” in Polyamory with Jessica Morgenthaler Ep. 134
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Nov 13, 2025 |
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Pelvic Floors, Orgasms, and Why We Don’t Discriminate Against the Monogamous with Jana Danielson
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Nov 06, 2025 |
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The Truth Hurts - But Hiding It Hurts Worse, Ep. 132
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Oct 30, 2025 |
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Why You Can’t Just Talk Your Way Out of Jealousy in Polyamory (And What Actually Helps) Ep. 131
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Oct 23, 2025 |
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Rewriting Your Relationship Code: Ditching the Defaults for Real Freedom, Ep. 130
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Oct 02, 2025 |
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Relationship Anxiety in Polyamory: It’s Not Just You, Ep. 129
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Sep 25, 2025 |
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The Polyamory Trap of Finding Different Partners to Fill Different Needs, Ep. 128
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Sep 18, 2025 |
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Polyamory’s Biggest Struggle Isn’t Jealousy — It’s Scheduling, EP. 127
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Sep 11, 2025 |
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Midlife, Menopause & Non-Monogamy: Reclaiming Pleasure, Power & Desire with Carla Wainwright EP. 126
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Sep 04, 2025 |
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The Brutal Truth About Open Relationships, Ep. 125
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Aug 28, 2025 |
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Patriarchy and Polyamory — Unpacking Power, Gender, and ENM with Cass Banker, Ep. 124
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Aug 21, 2025 |
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The Cost of Shrinking: When Monogamy Doesn’t Fit, Ep. 123
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Aug 14, 2025 |
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Leaving Purity Culture, Finding Non-Monogamy: Healing, Desire & Autonomy with Leah Carey, Ep. 122
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Aug 07, 2025 |
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Why Finding Your People Changes Everything in Non-Monogamy, Ep. 121
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Jul 31, 2025 |
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You’re Not Wrong for Wanting More: Let’s End That Lie, Ep. 120
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Jul 24, 2025 |
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Your Brain Gets Polyamory—But What About Your Body? Ep. 119
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Jul 17, 2025 |
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Creating Sexy, Safe, and Soulful Community with Jamie Love, Ep. 118
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Jul 10, 2025 |
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You Don’t Have to Be the ‘Chill Poly Partner’ to Deserve Love, Ep. 117
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Jul 03, 2025 |
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Why You’re Stuck in the Same Fight on Repeat (and How to Break the Loop) Ep. 116
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Jun 19, 2025 |
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How to Say the Hard Thing Without Burning Everything Down, Ep. 115
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Jun 12, 2025 |
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Tantra, Throuples, and the Best Sex of Her Life at 65 with Xanet Pailet
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Jun 05, 2025 |
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Stop Compromising, Start Collaborating: A New Approach to Non-Monogamy Ep. 113
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May 29, 2025 |
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Why Self-Love Looks Different in Non-Monogamy (And Why You Can’t “Positive Vibes” Your Way Through Comparison)
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May 22, 2025 |
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Love Beyond Boundaries: Jeff Hudson on Throuples, Jealousy & Non-Monogamy
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May 15, 2025 |
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The Hidden Costs of Comparing Yourself to Your Metamour, Ep. 110
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May 08, 2025 |
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Reframing Jealousy as a Powerful Tool in Open Relationships with Dr. Emma Smith
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May 01, 2025 |
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Jealousy to Compersion: Communicating Through Emotions in Open Relationships with Ally Iseman
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Apr 24, 2025 |
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Why You Keep Comparing Yourself to Your Metamour (And How to Stop), Ep. 107
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Apr 17, 2025 |
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Open Monogamy, Jealousy & Mismatched Desires | Dr. Tammy Nelson on Rethinking Relationship Agreements
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Apr 10, 2025 |
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Unmasking Ashley Madison: Why People Cheat & What It Reveals About Modern Relationships, Ep. 105
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Apr 03, 2025 |
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5 Simple Tools for Profound Intimacy in Non-Monogamy, Ep. 104
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Mar 27, 2025 |
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Thriving in Non Monogamous Social Situations Without Drama, Ep. 103
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Mar 20, 2025 |
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From Should to Could - Designing Your Non-monogamous Relationships, Ep. 102
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Mar 13, 2025 |
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The Hidden Price Tag of Figuring Out Non Monogamy Alone
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Mar 06, 2025 |
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Building Polyamorous Community and Connections with Aly Moon
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Feb 27, 2025 |
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The #1 Secret to Thriving in Open Relationships, Ep. 99
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Feb 20, 2025 |
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The Anxious Person's Toolkit for Successful Non-Monogamous Connections with Lola Phoenix
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Feb 13, 2025 |
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The Hidden Costs of Ignoring Jealousy in Non-Monogamous Relationships, EP. 97
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Feb 06, 2025 |
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Reignite Your Dating Life: Overcoming App Burnout and Finding Your People
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Jan 30, 2025 |
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Why DIY Jealousy Solutions Fall Short in Non Monogamy
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Jan 23, 2025 |
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The Unexpected Paths of Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with Annie Undone, EP. 94
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Jan 16, 2025 |
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How to Turn Jealousy Into a Tool for Growth, Ep. 93
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Jan 09, 2025 |
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Why 2025 is the Year to Let Go of Jealousy, Ep. 92
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Jan 02, 2025 |
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Polyamory Explored: Jealousy, Communication and Coming Out Strategies With Kathy Labriola
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Dec 26, 2024 |
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Graceful Rejection: The Art of Saying No Without Burning Bridges
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Dec 12, 2024 |
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Beyond Swiping Finding Authentic Connections in Seattle
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Nov 28, 2024 |
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Catapults and Consent: When Kink and Polyamory Overlap with Still
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Nov 14, 2024 |
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Boundaries, Bedrooms, and Beyond, Navigating Non Monogamous Dating with Shannon Whaley
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Oct 31, 2024 |
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Beyond Vanilla The Intersection of Polyamory and Kink with Maeve McBride
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Oct 17, 2024 |
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Sex Geeks Get Real: Consent Talks Before Getting Busy with Reid Mahalko
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Oct 03, 2024 |
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Managing Jealousy in Open Relationships with Therapist Ann Russo
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Sep 19, 2024 |
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Shuffling Relationship Dynamics with a Deck of Cards, Ep. 83
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Sep 05, 2024 |
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Fluid Bonding and STI Awareness Navigating Sexual Health in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Susan Bratton
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Aug 22, 2024 |
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Monogamy? In this Economy? With Author Laura Boyle
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Aug 08, 2024 |
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Navigating Consent and Pleasure in Non-Monogamy with Jamie Love
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Jul 25, 2024 |
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Polyamorous Elders: Planning for Your Future
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Jul 11, 2024 |
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The Alchemy of Pleasure: Transforming Relationships with Sasha and Moritz
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Jun 27, 2024 |
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First Date Fun: Navigating Non-Monogamy with Humor and Insight
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Jun 13, 2024 |
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From Strict Religion to Ceremonial Celebrations: Dan's Story
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May 30, 2024 |
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Unpacking the Relationship Escalator: Lessons from 2 Decades of Ethical Non-Monogamy
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May 16, 2024 |
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No Rules Polyamory: Exploring Pleasure, Tantra and Sex Magic
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May 02, 2024 |
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Beyond Fairy Tales: Real Connection Strategies Unveiled
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Apr 18, 2024 |
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The Marathon Problem: Overcoming Fears to Embrace Non-monogamy with Poly Pocket Podcast Ep. 72
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Apr 04, 2024 |
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From Polyamory to Monogamish: Relationship Coach Gets Real About Polyamory, Ep. 71
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Mar 21, 2024 |
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Polyamory Pitfalls: Handling Jealousy in Non-Monogamy with Ali Hendry, Ep. 70
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Mar 07, 2024 |
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How I Learned to Embrace Abundance in Non-Monogamous Relationships, Ep. 69
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Feb 22, 2024 |
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Self-Love, Jealousy, and Somatic Healing in Non-monogamous Relationships
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Feb 08, 2024 |
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Shedding Resentment and Finding Freedom in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Daisy Sky
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Jan 25, 2024 |
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Embracing Your True Self: The Journey Through Non-Monogamy, Jealousy, and Sacred Rage with Sandra Possing
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Jan 11, 2024 |
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Thriving in Non-Monogamy: Deana Tanner's Guide to Healthy Humaning, Ep. 65
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Dec 26, 2023 |
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Finding Balance in an Unconventional BDSM Triad, Ep. 64
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Dec 14, 2023 |
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Sexual Safety in Non-monogamy with Evalene Dacker-MD
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Nov 30, 2023 |
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Unlocking Desire: Exploring the Transformative Power of Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia De Vine
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Nov 16, 2023 |
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Radical Honesty and Responsibility in Non-Monogamous Relationships with Leslie Tavernier
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Nov 02, 2023 |
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Polywise - A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships with Jessica Fern and David Cooley
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Oct 18, 2023 |
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Long-Distance Love: Non-monogamy Across Continents with CJ
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Oct 05, 2023 |
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The Art of Setting Boundaries in Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with Dirty Lola, Ep. 58
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Sep 21, 2023 |
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Navigating Polyamory and Parenting
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Sep 07, 2023 |
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Crushing Stereotypes: Exploring the Realities of Non-Monogamous Relationships with Rich and Siobhan
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Aug 24, 2023 |
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Shedding Labels and Overcoming Societal Expectations with Alex Cox
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Aug 10, 2023 |
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Navigating Polyamory with Emotional Intention with Victor Salmon
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Jul 27, 2023 |
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A Journey of Liberation and Empowerment with Casey Donatello
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Jul 13, 2023 |
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Delighting in Self-Connection with Lee Harrington
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Jun 29, 2023 |
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Healing and Reclaiming Power in Non-Monogamous Relationships with Lucy Price
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Jun 15, 2023 |
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Celebrating 50 Episodes: Exploring Relationship Escalators, Jealousy, and Growth in Non-Monogamy
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Jun 01, 2023 |
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Embracing Compersion in Your Relationships with Marie Thouin, Ep 49
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May 18, 2023 |
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Health, Happiness, and Safe Relationships in Non- Monogamy with Nurse Dynamite, Ep 48
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May 04, 2023 |
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The Journey Through NRE to the Relationships You Desire, Ep. 47
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Apr 20, 2023 |
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Reclaiming Your Power Through Self-Love and Pleasure with Kim Coffin, Ep. 46
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Apr 06, 2023 |
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Intimacy and Non-Monogamy: Embracing Embodied Choices, Ep. 44
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Mar 09, 2023 |
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Kitchen Table Poly: Unpacking Metamours and Breakups, Ep. 43
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Feb 23, 2023 |
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Relationship Vetos: The Process of Relationship Grieving, Ep. 42
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Feb 09, 2023 |
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Finding Your Inner Dom(me), Ep. 41
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Jan 26, 2023 |
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Navigating Polyamory as a Pagan, Pansexual, Parent
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Jan 12, 2023 |
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Finding Community and Authenticity in Polyamory, Ep. 39
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Dec 29, 2022 |
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Love Outside of the Romance Novel with Eleanor O’Brien, Ep. 38
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Dec 15, 2022 |
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Somatic Practices in Non-Monogamy with Isha Vela, Ep. 37
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Dec 01, 2022 |
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The Power of Wants and Needs in Relationships, Ep. 36
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Nov 17, 2022 |
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The Importance of Human Connection and Sex Work, Ep. 35
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Nov 03, 2022 |
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Pregnancy & Non-Monogamy, Ep. 34
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Oct 06, 2022 |
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Discovering Our Queerness, Ep. 33
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Sep 22, 2022 |
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Finding Yourself in Non-Monogamy, Ep. 32
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Sep 07, 2022 |
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Good Girls Talk About Non-Monogamy, with Leah Carey, Ep. 31
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Aug 11, 2022 |
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Boundaries for Building Safety and Trust, Ep. 30
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Jul 28, 2022 |
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Honing Your Desires in Polyamory, Ep. 29
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Jul 14, 2022 |
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Is non-monogamy written in your DNA?, Ep. 28
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Jun 30, 2022 |
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Sexy, Confident Non-Monogamy, Ep. 27
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Jun 16, 2022 |
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Lazy Successful Non-Monogamy, Ep. 26
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Jun 02, 2022 |
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The Importance of Self-Consent, Ep 25
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May 19, 2022 |
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Growing Through Jealousy, Ep. 24
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May 05, 2022 |
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Navigating the Biggest Pitfalls of Open Relationships, Ep. 23
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Apr 21, 2022 |
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Epic Communication with the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships, Ep 22
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Apr 07, 2022 |
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Starting Out Strong: First Steps to ENM, Ep. 21
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Mar 24, 2022 |
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Vikings, Vulnerability, and Polyamory, Ep. 20
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Mar 10, 2022 |
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Diversity and Equity in Non-Monogamous Communities, Ep. 19
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Feb 24, 2022 |
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Astrology and Non-Monogamy, Ep. 18
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Feb 10, 2022 |
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A Unicorn's Story, EP 17
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Jan 27, 2022 |
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The Pillars of Polyamory with Deana Tanner, EP 16
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Jan 13, 2022 |
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Swinger Events and Hotel Takeovers with Ying Ying Lee, EP. 15
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Dec 30, 2021 |
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Taming The Green Eyed Monster, Jealousy Ep.14
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Dec 02, 2021 |
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Sexual Safety in Non-Monogamy Ep. 13
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Nov 18, 2021 |
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The Spectrum of Non-Monogamy Ep 12
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Nov 04, 2021 |
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The Sexiness of Communication, EP 11
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Oct 21, 2021 |
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Relationship Autonomy and the Power of Words Ep.10
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Oct 07, 2021 |
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Decolonizing Polyamory & Relationship Anarchy Ep. 9
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Sep 23, 2021 |
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Digging into Insecurities Ep. 8
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Sep 09, 2021 |
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Veganism & Polyamory Ep. 7
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Aug 26, 2021 |
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Beyond the White Picket Fence - Breaking Out of the Life Everyone Expects You to Live
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Aug 12, 2021 |
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Body Image and ENM Relationships Ep.5
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Jul 29, 2021 |
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Blending Polyamorous Families S1. Ep4.
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Jul 15, 2021 |
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Polyamory and Divorce S.1 Ep.3
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Jul 01, 2021 |
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Dating for Polyamorous Nerds S1. Ep.2
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Jul 01, 2021 |
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Enthusiastic Non-Monogamy - Our Story S1. Ep.1
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Jul 01, 2021 |
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The Trailer
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Jun 19, 2021 |