1. How Anushka Found Her AMAZING Husband Online!
2. Anushka's journey from childhood to adulthood and her struggles in finding love.
3. Anushka's experience with online dating and her lack of success.
4. Anushka's parents' attempts to set her up with potential partners.
5. How Anushka discovered SDA and reached out to Bela and Lindsay.
6. Anushka's experience with SDA and how they helped her change her approach to dating.
7. The rules Anushka followed and how they helped her get more dates.
8. Anushka's first date with her now-husband.
9. Anushka's second date and her husband's direct approach.
10. Anushka's success in finding love through following SDA's rules.

• How inflation is impacting the dating scene?
• Tips for you to budget for dates
• Budget friendly date ideas for both singles & couples
• Bela & Andy's fun favorite date, starting when they got married!

Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-in-chief of DIVORCED GIRL SMILING, a media company comprised of a website, podcast, mobile app and professional resources. Pilossoph, who holds a Masters degree in Broadcast Journalism, is a former television news reporter and features reporter and writer for the Chicago Tribune. Her syndicated weekly column, LOVE ESSENTIALLY, was published in The Pioneer Press, The Chicago Tribune, and all Tribune Publishing editions for 6 1/2 years. Pilossoph was also a Huffington Post divorce blogger for five years. To learn more, visit: www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com.

1. They're super smooth in their approach.  They know exactly what to say and what to do - how to flirt with you.
2. They say they're "not looking for anything serious" or "just something fun!"
3. They're not consistent about being in touch -- it could be hours, days, or longer between when you hear from them

• Why you should have a dating funnel
• Why everyone is dating everyone until you've had the EXCLUSIVITY conversation!
• How do you build a dating funnel?  Listen to yesterday's episode - pick an app, and have great photos and a great profile (if you don't have those join our Online Dating Love Lab)!
• How to answer the question, "Are you dating other people?" if someone asks!    
• When can you shut down your dating funnel??

• What is Peak Dating Season?  Why does it happen?
• When is the busiest online day of the year and why?
• What you should do to get ready for it!
  • Great photos (dos and don'ts of photos)
  • Why YOU aren't the best judge of your own photos and should have someone in your life help you
  • Having positive profile text (we come up with a "Top 10" List idea that's SUPER fun)
• What night of the week is best for messaging?  
• What men should do that they don't do enough of!
• Why you should have goals and celebrate your successes each week?
• The biggest dating gift you can give yourself?  

1. Your Upbringing
2. Your Current Environment
3. Your Emotional Capacity
4. Your Self-Awareness

1. Falling
2. Igniting
3. Rising
4. Magnifying
5. Thriving 
6. Spreading Your Wings

• How Nicky was floored at how her approach to dating wasn't working, and what 'video' inspired her to change
  
  
• How she BECAME the fun that she wanted to have on dates
  
  
• How she dated before (just swiping 'quantitatively), and looking for instant
  
  
• chemistry
  
  
• What SDA rule she "expedited" under careful guidance
  
  
• How she didn't own any flour when Lucas asked her to cook pizza at her
  
  
• apartment
  
  
• Why Elevator people make ALL the difference
  
  
• How Lucas made her feel on the first date (which was different than ANYONE
  
  
• else she had dated)....

• How did he get his first break?  
• What is it like to style Catherine O'Hara, Uzo Aduba, Bette Midler and so many more?  
• What inspired him to write his book, interviewing some of the most iconic/influential gay influencers, and what did he learn from writing his book?  
• What is his best tip to look YOUR best no matter what age or size you are?  

In this amazing episode, you'll have your mind BLOWN by my chat with Dr. Roksana Badruddoja (Dr. Rokbad) about how fixing your picker is about MORE than just your attachment system and your relationship with your parents.  The way we show up in relationships can be 'wired' into us, and the trauma of generations before us can come into us without us even being aware of it!   My mind was blown, and I'm sure yours will be too!  You'll hear: 

• What is Family Constellation Therapy?
• How does something that happened to an ancestor impact our relationships, like our love life?
• What is trauma? 
• What is love?
• What is the relationship between (romantic) love and trauma?
• Why is it important for singles looking to enter the relationship/dating world and couples before committing to one another to do this work?

• Kathy was divorced after 42 years of marriage
• She lives in a small rural town, in a Southwest state and was a stay at home Mom
• She was blindsided by her husband when she went to surprise him for Mother's Day (by his new girlfriend)
• She was left with $400, and had to borrow $ from her daughter to hire a divorce attorney
• She rose, battled through the dark tunnel, and became stronger / more resilient
• She dated for nine years, but something just wouldn't click.  
• She saw a dating coach on Steve Harvey that she liked :).  (enter Smart Dating Academy), and finally hired them.
• She transformed her dating life.  Her look, her mindset, her online profile, her parameters, all of it.  
• She met Ruben online and they are now living together (he asked her daughter for her blessing on that)
• They're planning a 'commitment' ceremony
• She's found the lid to her pot, who makes her SO happy.
• It's possible at ANY age!

• Should you tell someone that their partner is cheating?   
• How many of you have been cheated on?
• How did the VAST majority of people find out they were cheated on?
• If someone told you that your partner was cheating, were you mad?
• What's the best way to give yourself comfort that your partner isn't cheating?
• HOW should you treat someone who tells you your partner is cheating?

• Do you have to have 'sex-sex' (intercourse) to get an STI?  Spoiler alert - no.  
• What should you do to 'get tested'?
• The Top 5 tests in Dr. Streicher's "STI screen"
• What men think about 'vaginal grooming' today - and what Dr. Streicher's survey says!
• What if you can't have an orgasm?  She divides it into two groups -- NEVER had one before, and HAD them before but can't now...
• What are "safe sex panties"??  
• Does wearing a condom protect you from all STIs?
• What's the whole deal with 'anal sex' and how should you 'do it' if you want??

• How to SHINE in any interaction you have (a date, an interview, a new friend)
• What "If you Lead With Yourself, You Leave With Yourself" means, and how to AVOID this!  
• How to be a true "giver" vs. a "taker"
• How to tell someone they're talking too much (not asking you ANYTHING about yourself - ahem, has this NEVER happened to you on a date, lol!?)
• How to never "show up and throw up."
• How to get set up with amazing singles (Smart Dating Academy's "Superconnector" strategy)
• How Larry met his wife at McDonald's (yes, she was wearing burgundy polyester)
• How Larry helped a CEO in transition to get a great gig, and to fall in love!
• How to truly approach connections and "give" (people will NEVER forget)
• What to do if you're with a taker!

• What made Marilyn realize she needed help in the dating process (it might have to do with a boyfriend that she only spent time with in the bedroom or Home Depot)
• How Marilyn changed so much that she found love AND was promoted from an "Admin" four levels to "Global Marketing Manager"
• What happened 7 days after Marilyn met Bela & Lindsay at the Four Seasons, and why didn't Bela recognize her?
• What site she MET the love of her life on (hint....it's NOT Bumble or Hinge or Match)
• What parameters she changed to bring Jim into her filter, that would have NEVER brought him to her beforehand?
• Does a dozen roses on date 1 mean he's a "love bomber?"
• How she deprioritized "height" and found a tall guy anyway!
• What's Marilyn's BEST advice for you at the end?  It has to do with light, and it's NOT what you might think it is 

• How to use your eyes for maximum attraction and HOW someone looks at you to know if they're interested
• What our FEET will tell us
• What preening is, and how men/women do it...
• What kinds of questions indicate interest
• What is 'mirroring' and why does it indicate interest (or not)!

• What online parameters can you change for biggest results?  Bela will tell you the ones that MATTER and where her clients have had success!  
• Start playing the game 3 Blind Mice online (described in detail)!  You never know WHO you'll meet!  
• How can you change your story?   Listen for how Jill changed her story and got a GREAT date by one tip...
• What time do you go online every day?  Why does doing a different time matter?
• How long should you be on a site or an app?  Should you buy a 1, 3, 6 or 12 month plan?
• How do you change up your mood instantly for a date?  
• Why does your 'internal clock' derail you?  

1. Receiving a message from someone who seems 'too good to be true' (their photos & profile are the stuff of legends)
2. Over the Top gestures
3. Tries to lure you off the dating site
4. Won't pick up spontaneous calls / Facetimes
5. You have a feeling in your gut something is off…..
6. They ask for personal info but don't give their own
7. You don't see their home life
8. Take on trusted identities- military, service, working abroad
9. They don't keep their promises

• The Perfect Storm in her life that pushed her off the edge
• The fortune cookie message that said, "You need to make more time for romance"
• How her demons did a "number" of er self confidence
• How her "stubbornness" held her back (and it's SO similar to most of our clients and what they WANT vs. NEED)
• How psychotic optimism became her motto
• How Marilyn Dollar's success story on Bela's IG Live show inspired her to really put it into high gear, and change the way she dated
• Her Dating "FUN"-NEL and how she made it FUN
• What site she met Justin on, and he lives 100 miles awayyyy....Whattttt?
• Their first date was on his birthday
• Their first trip together
• What's going to happen now that he is moving to Dallas to go to pilot training school???

1. Dr. Terri's NIH research project that has been following the same couples for over 30 years (how many couples divorced, and how many of them found love again - and this is super inspiring)!
2. What is the #1 factor that leads singles to find love?
3. What are some additional ways that singles can improve their odds of finding love – based on science?
4. How does someone know if a relationship is the right one?
5. The 4 keys ways to distinguish lust vs. love
6. Why 'picking your battles' is usually the wrong strategy
7. Why conflict is so important (what happened to the 12 couples that reported NO conflict)
8. What you should do EVERY MORNING with your partner to maintain love (and it's not sex, lol)
9. Your new book is called “Secrets to Surviving Your Children’s Love Relationships.” Briefly – what is it about? What motivated you to write it?
10. How to get over the HURT of infidelity or relationship trauma -- 
11. What conversations are most important for parents to have with their children?

• What is the magic formula, The Charisma Quotient and how do you use it to build a sexy confidence?
• What is the 'outside-in' approach?   
• Why does everyone (including men!) need a red dress moment?  What was Kimmy's (and it has to do with Birkenstock's and nursing bras)....  
• What is the biggest style mistake men make?  And women?  What are the 3 Cs for style makeovers?
• Why is flirting such an important part of dating and being irresistible?
• HOW can you flirt, especially if you're shy?   
• What is a flirting move you can start TODAY?   
• How do you take the fear out of flirting & rejection?
• How did Bela's client who went to Harvard change her approach -- which led to her marriage?  :)
• What are the best conversation starters to make a chat feel FUN?  
• What are the common mistakes women make when it comes to flirting and being in their feminine?  Men?

This conversation covers AMAZING gems, including:


--3 Myths About Men (these are awesome, and have to do with 'the chase', sex, and feelings)

--The differences between men's & women's brains (I about passed out when I learned this - it makes COMPLETE sense)

--The AWESOME four communication archetypes (are you a lioness, puppy, koala bear or scorpion)?

--How to get men to HEAR you (and it doesn't have to do with raising your voice)!

--What are some quick communication tips that women can use in challenging situations with men?   

--How to get men or anyone to help you (it's called the 'appreciation' sandwich)

--The ONE simple daily practice to stay in balance

--How we can tell if our lives are OUT of alignment (and how that affects our dating lives)--Why 'going hard' is BAD for a relationship

--What 'coming from a place of love' can do to blossom your love for EVERYONE in your life. 

Sandy Weiner, Bela's guest, is the founder of Last First Date, is a TEDx speaker, relationship coach, author and podcast host.   

Sandy's communication archetype quiz is here:  https://lastfirstdate.com/4-communication-archetypes/#sthash.HVO24czW.dpbs

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Colin Egglesfield is an AMAZING actor who has walked the red carpets of Hollywood, starring in "Something Borrowed" with the beautiful Kate Hudson.  He's also been on All My Children and Melrose Place, just to name a few.   Colin is a VERY eligible bachelor, and came on the podcast to talk about what men like him are REALLY looking for in women (he's dated both actresses as well as us 'normal' girls too)!   We shared:

1. How a kid from Michigan ended up being a Versace model (entered a contest)
2. How he ended up in Hollywood
3. What Colin is MOST attracted to
4. Why he hasn't been married yet (it's not for lack of opportunity)
5. His favorite quality in women
6. What his BIGGEST turnoff is (oof!)
7. Why dating is like auditions
8. How to REJECTION proof your dating mindset (brilliant tip here)!

Listen to the whole thing, because it's full of juice and nuggets you'll want to share with ALL of your friends!

ONLINE DATING LOVE LAB - April 24!
To get your TOTALLY date ready for the summer, we have opened the doors to our small group, April 24th "Online Dating Love Lab!!"   You'll know how to take AMAZING photos, which are your best photos, and you'll write 2 amazing profiles by getting our private workbook to do it!  Seats are VERY limited, and get yours now!  Bela will be hosting this with the SDA team on April 24th (1-4pm CST) via Zoom, and you can register/get a spot by putting this link into your browser!  

https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab 

Colin is hosting an Inspire Summit in Chicago, where Bela will be speaking on 4/23 -- and you can grab your tickets here (put this link in your browser)!   https://www.eventbrite.com/e/inspire-summit-2022-with-colin-egglesfield-tickets-302182224167

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• What are the signs of a toxic relationship?
• HOW to check our own internal dialogue before declaring a relationship toxic
• What are some steps to take if you are in a toxic relationship?
• Do toxic people REALIZE they're toxic?
• What is the Red Zone?
• What happens in the Red Zone?
• How do we know if we are in the Red Zone?
• How does being in the Red Zone impact our relationships?
• How can we get out of the Red Zone?

• How therapists are MISSING the C-PTSD diagnosis with their clients, and why
• How she became a crime journalist to doing groundbreaking work on narcissists, and women who are sucked into their lair
• How the ACES test will help you to define if you're at risk for C-PTSD
• The types of therapy that will HELP you to mitigate the C-PTSD
• What survivors struggle with the MOST
• How to stop gaslighting YOURSELF into staying in this relationship
• Understanding the HOOK that they have in you
• Knowing the BOTTOM line behaviors you can NOT accept
• Building your own sweet life & how to do that!  
• How to surround yourself with people that love you, and how NOT to isolate yourself!  

This episode was a gem-filled chat with Stephanie Mansour about "Building Your Confidence at Every Age and Size!"

Stephanie Mansour is a nationally recognized Health & Fitness Expert and host of “Step It Up with Steph” on American Public Television. She is weight-loss coach for women. You can see her health, fitness, food, and lifestyle TV show on PBS stations across the country! Steph is also seen on Today Show, Dr. Oz, CNN, FOX and more. Steph reaches more than 52 million viewers per month. Stephanie is a certified personal trainer, Yoga instructor, Pilates instructor, professional life coach, and has her BA in Communications with an emphasis on Women's Studies and Psychology from the University of Michigan.

Bela and Steph covered 10 different tips, including the five counter-intuitive ways to build your confidence, and five things you can do before a date to get yourself into a good physical/emotional state!  They both talk about their weight struggles, and give you TONS of tips for feeling & looking your personal best!  Listen for:

• Bela's secret personal affirmation to put on your mirror that will make you do the RIGHT thing!
• The best thing to eat before a date to make you feel your best!
• The 3 steps to great posture during a date to make you look/feel more attractive
• Steph's 60 second facial trick to making yourself happy
• How to connect deeply to your "why" - and how that keeps you motivated!
• Why flexibility is the key to a great health regime (even while dating)
• Why self-care is good for you, and sexy to others

Join Steph for daily inspo on Instagram and in her new app, “Step It Up with Steph” full of daily challenges, workouts, recipes, and motivational exercises. 

Sign up for the Smart Dating Academy newsletter by filling out any form at www.smartdatingacademy.com, and follow Bela on Instagram to get LIVE tips, Q&A and daily inspiration!   

• Ashley tells people not to follow their passion. Why?  Amazing answers that NO one gives us.
• What was the moment that she knew that she was in the WRONG career at the Pentagon?
• She teaches us how you REALLY define what your core values are.  This was a mic drop moment for me.
• What are some myths that keep people stuck in their career and life, and how do we become more experimental?
• What were my 'dark years' in my life, and what were the two lists I made to find who i "am" and start Smart Dating Academy?
• How do you get into your masculine/feminine energy for dates?
• How do you get reconnected to yourself?
• Why 'backing up' doesn't mean 'backing down' in life

• How Laura became a divorce attorney
• What she thinks about love the second (or third or fourth) time around
• Why divorce sucks (she hosted a show called "Divorce Sucks")
• Is she single?  :)
• Why a pre-nup can be a GREAT tool for a strong marriage
• How celeb marriage/divorces differ from 'our normal' ones
• What is part of her 'dating ritual'?  
• Does everyone have just one 'lid to their pot' or could there be 'many'????

1. The way she got to know herself (it has to do with 800 questions....)
2. What happened when she got her first dream job (hives might be involved, spoiler alert)!
3. How to be WAY more interesting at dinner parties
4. What dating tip I gave her that has talked her into getting back into the game (woo hoo me!!)
5. The new product she has created to make conversations REAL

• Nancy's background as a single mom, raising two tiny kids on her own
• How she intrepidly got online
• What a man will do when he REALLY loves you
• What her 'last first date' was, and what she noticed about David soon as they stood up
• Why she knew he was 'the one'
• How obsessed we are with 'the berry lip'
• The photoshoot on the 100F day
• Her best advice to women about finding love
• How she lives in a magical forest now :)

1. The Right Mindset
2. Apps - Which ones and how many?
3. Photos - what kind and how many??
4. Profile Text - Is it important?
5. Dating Strategy - How to get the ball rolling?

1. Why she stayed in a relationship for 12 years that she knew wasn't going anywhere
2. What finally happened to get her OUT of it (and it was in a bathroom)
3. What she needed to let go of to find herself
4. How she met her husband Dan online, and what she wore to the date that he thought was bizarre
5. Jill's biggest piece of advice for you to find your Big Wild Love!