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66: From the Steve Harvey Show to Engagement! Sadaf's Love Story
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Listen to this amazing episode with Sadaf, a Smart Dating Academy client, and she tells her amazing story!
"I grew up in a very loving home. I would always watch my parents and see how in love they are with one another. I always wanted to experience a love like theirs. I wanted to find a man who would love me as much as my dad loves my mom. I always thought I would get married by the age of 25 and have my first child at 27. I had a list in my head for a perfect guy in mind. He would be tall, handsome, funny, family oriented, kind, generous, love to travel and adventurous. When it came time for me to start dating, I was not very successful, my timeline came and went. I got asked out a lot and went on many dates, but I was not able to make a connection with any of them. As I approached 30, the guys who came in my life were all narcissists, controlling or not looking to settle down. I wasted years dating guys who were not right for me and caused me lots of heartache. My friends and family would always tell me that I am a great catch, and I would find the right person when the time is right, I always wondered when my time would come? At some point even my parents’ friends tried to set me up on dates. They always liked me to link up with their sons since they knew me and my family, but it would never work out. When I was 31 and after yet another failed relationship, I was very upset one day wanted to find some funny videos on YouTube. I came across a video of Steve Harvey show segment with Bela as a guest on the show. I immediately started researching her and learned about SDA. I reached out and started working with Bela and Ilene. I soon realized I need to change my whole approach and ways when it comes to dating and finding my perfect match. I flew to Chicago and met Bela in person during the photo shoot. She and everyone on her team were so gracious to me and gave me the confidence and tools that I have been lacking. They helped me build my profile, how much time I should spend on the app, screen out red flags and most importantly not to lose hope, because I tried online dating on my own before and I was not successful. In December 2021, I messaged a man who I thought would be a great match for me. I read over his profile with Ilene and analyzed it several times 😊 He was exactly what I was looking for. I realized he is very family oriented and adventures. Luckily, he messaged me back and we went on our first date. What I liked about him on our first date, other than the fact that he was very handsome, funny, and charming is that he asked lots of questions and truly tried to get to know me. We had the best time during dinner and the rest is history… we kept on going on dates and spending more time with one another, went on vacations together and on out 1 year anniversary he asked me to marry him… of course I said YES!!! Now we live together, and life could not be any better. My fiancé is the sweetest, kindest, most gentle man I have ever met. He loves me for who I am. He is my biggest supports and cheerleader in life. He helped me to be a better person. He makes me feel loved in a way that no one ever has. We are getting married on October 28th 2023. He comes from a very loving family. They are very close to one another and made me feel welcome. We grew together as a couple and continue to do so. If you want to be the next Sadaf, change something!! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Mar 27, 2023 |
65: From Betrayal & Divorce to Happily Ever After!
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This episode is FILLED with gems with our guest, Divorced Women's Empowerment Coach & Healer Wendy Sterling. Wendy's story, chronicled in her new book, Divorce Sucks Now What, is a gripping example of taking your own life and OWNING it. Your divorce didn't happen to you, it happened FOR you. In this episode, you will hear:
1) How Wendy found out that her husband was cheating 2) What was the moment that she knew it was OVER? 3) Why did she put up with abusive treatment, and how did she 'get her voice' back? 4) What was her contribution to the marriage's demise, and what was on 'her side of the street?" 5) What did the Smart Dating Academy "Online Dating Love Lab" teach her? 6) How did she start dating again? 7) How did she meet her husband? You'll hear so many gifts in this episode, and you'll learn to use your own voice, and take responsibility for YOUR OWN life and happiness. If you'd like to buy Wendy's book, click here to buy: https://bit.ly/3FqSd8P Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Mar 20, 2023 |
64: Opening Your Heart to Love with a Spiritual Medium
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In this episode, Bela talks with Spiritual Medium Erika Gabriel about opening yourself up to love! This episode will blow your mind because you will learn:
1) Erika's BEST trick for lowering anxiety immediately 2) How to Know if you're operating from fear or intuition 3) What the KEY to manifesting your mate is (it's not what you think!) 4) What are the "False Agreements" we make with ourselves? 5) What are the 3 things that block people from love?? If you like our conversation, GIVE THIS A RATING! It's the BEST way to give back :). And, if you want more Erika, we will do an IG LIve on Wednesday 3/15 where she will answer YOUR questions! If you'd like to check out Erika's site or new course, click here: https://smerikagabriel.thinkific.com/courses/the-way-1 Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Mar 13, 2023 |
63: Does My Love Language Need to Match My Partner's?
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Mar 10, 2023 |
63: The BEST Way to Say What's Bothering You!
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Mar 09, 2023 |
63: Why Butterflies are BAD in Dating!
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Mar 08, 2023 |
62: 4 Sentences That Will Bring You More Love, INSTANTLY
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Bela will share an amazing set of sentences that she learned serendipitously from Dan Harris that will bring you more joy, ease, and reduce anxiety. It has changed her world in the last week, and everyone she has shared it with has LOVED it. Today, she's giving it all to us in this jewel of a mini episode. Be ready for things to change for you in a very loving way.
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Mar 07, 2023 |
62: Does Exclusivity Mean They're Your Boyfriend / Girlfriend?
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Mar 06, 2023 |
61: How a Brilliant Ivy League Grad Found a WONDERFUL Husband - Love Story!
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Today's podcast is with an amazing former client named Anushka, an Ivy League graduate who was having trouble finding love, listened to a podcast, found Bela, and started her dating adventure! In this episode, you will hear:
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Feb 27, 2023 |
60: How to Create the JUICIEST Life, at ANY Age with Sheri Salata
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Listen to this chat with Sheri Salata, the woman who was Oprah's right hand Executive Producer when Oprah ruled the planet! Sheri wrote a book called "The Beautiful No", and we chat about her life at Oprah, and when she decided to pursue her OWN life at 56 years old. She will tell you HOW she did it, and has the BEST life she could imagine! You'll love this inspiring episode, and want to HOP into your own best life ASAP!
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Feb 20, 2023 |
59: Will Dating a Friend Ruin the Friendship?
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WIll dating a friend ruin the friendship? The answer to this question, as you might expect, is complicated, and there isn't a firm yes or no. It's going to depend on you, and the person. Before you get into the relationship, look at this person crucially. Listen to this amazing podcast where Bela explains the eight crucial things to consider before jumping into a relationship with a friend (and she has a LOT of experience with this with her own marriage and clients)!
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Feb 13, 2023 |
58: Kristy's Love Story - Love After Loss & a BAD Narcissist
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Kristy is a professor at the University of Alabama, and had two things that are so familiar to many of us. First, she had a wonderful marriage but lost her husband Dave to Glioblastoma too early.
When she was vulnerable, a man from 'high school' came back to sweep her off her feet at her most VULNERABLE time, and hear the story of what happened with the "Narcissist" - and how she got rid of him. Kristy started to date with our 'guard rails' around her, and met Greg, a wonderful man. Listen to how she navigated her grief, her job promotions, the loss of her Mom, and a narcissist -- to finally come out on the other side to win in the love game. An inspiring story of courage and perseverance - and you don't always know what a narcissist is when you're IN IT. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Feb 06, 2023 |
57: How to Love Bravely with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
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In today's episode, Bela discusses how to "love bravely" with Dr. Alexandra Solomon. She is a couples therapist, a Northwestern University professor, and a brilliant mind. In this podcast we talk about:
1) What does it take to "love bravely"? 2) Why is relational self-awareness so important? 3) How to talk to yourself (hint - if you wouldn't say something to your best friend, you shouldn't say it to yourself) 4) What are the 3 patterns we can take on from our family of origin? 5) What are the lists to make to determine what you value from your family, and what you don't? 6) Why communication is so key to love and sex 7) How to share feedback with your partner (this is SO good, and can avoid dreadful arguments) Dr. Solomon is the author of "Loving Bravely", "Taking Sexy Back", and the host of the "Reimagining Love" podcast! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Jan 30, 2023 |
56: Finding Love After Loss - How Dawn Found Love with "Moussaka Matthew"
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Bela has a beautiful conversation with Dawn Anderson, Smart Dating Academy client, who lost her husband Mike in a tragic farming accident. After a dark period of grief and change, Dawn reached out to Bela for a coaching session, and then worked with Smart Dating Academy to find "Moussaka Matthew" -- the new love of her life. Listen to how she did it all, from her first sighting of Bela on Steve Harvey, to getting engaged at the Eiffel Tower in 2022! This story will make you know that true love can happen not just once, but twice.
Dawn has written a book about her grief journey, called "The Darkness and the Stars." It's truly a story of loss and hope. All proceeds go to the Mike Anderson Foundation , a charitable organization that was created in his honor, to spread light and help others in need. A link to purchase her book is here: https://bit.ly/3iVbXtk Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Jan 23, 2023 |
55: What is Infla-Dating and How to Have Fun Dates!
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Today, Bela defines "infla-dating" which is a term that has swept the media! She's breaking it down here, and infla-dating means dating with inflation in mind! She will tell you:
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Jan 16, 2023 |
54: WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO START AND END A DATE?
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Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes!
Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO START AND END A DATE” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Jan 13, 2023 |
54: WHY ARE YOU AFRAID OF COMMITMENT?
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Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes!
Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “WHY ARE YOU AFRAID OF COMMITMENT?” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Jan 12, 2023 |
54: HOW DO YOU TAKE THINGS SLOW, SO THEY LAST?
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Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes!
Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “HOW DO YOU TAKE THINGS SLOW, SO THEY LAST?” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Jan 11, 2023 |
54: WHAT TO SAY WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE ATTRACTIVE
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Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes!
Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “WHAT TO SAY WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE ATTRACTIVE” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Jan 10, 2023 |
54: WHO PAYS FOR THE DATE?
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Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes!
Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “Who Pays for the Date?” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Jan 09, 2023 |
52: The Top 10 Reasons They Didn't Ask You Out Again
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In this episode, Bela interviews founder of "Divorced Girl Smiling" Jackie Pilossoph on her top 10 reasons you might not get asked out again (spoiler alert - some of them do NOT have to do with you)!! A few are that your date decided to get back together with an ex, and they haven't done 'their work.' For the rest of them, LISTEN to the episode for an in depth conversation on the reasons, and lots of real-life stories to back up the list!
TIME IS RUNNING OUT!! Make sure you join our "Online Dating Love Lab" on January 8th from 1pm-4pm to FILL YOUR FUNNEL with great people. You won't have to worry about if someone didn't call you back because you'll have so many great options to choose from!! Link to register: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-in-chief of DIVORCED GIRL SMILING, a media company comprised of a website, podcast, mobile app and professional resources. Pilossoph, who holds a Masters degree in Broadcast Journalism, is a former television news reporter and features reporter and writer for the Chicago Tribune. Her syndicated weekly column, LOVE ESSENTIALLY, was published in The Pioneer Press, The Chicago Tribune, and all Tribune Publishing editions for 6 1/2 years. Pilossoph was also a Huffington Post divorce blogger for five years. To learn more, visit: www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com. |
Jan 02, 2023 |
53: How to Get "Set Up" on Dates - Create a Dating "Board of Directors"
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What is a Dating Board of Directors and how do you develop one? Listen to this amazing mini-podcast jam packed with information on how to get amazing set ups from your networks! Bela lays out the step-by-step process to do it and if you do, you'll potentially have a WHOLE new dating funnel!
Good Morning America Segment (talking about 3 Ways to Boost Your Dating Life - Including Dating Board of Directors) - https://bit.ly/3GoMcue Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Dec 30, 2022 |
51: How Many Times Should I Date Someone Before Calling it Quits?
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In this mini laser focused episode, Bela answers one of the top dating questions -- how many times should I date someone before calling it quits?
Do not miss ANY of this episode, because you will learn about chemistry (what to do if you feel butterflies, and what if you feel nothing), how long you should let it 'simmer', and what red flags get someone thrown out RIGHT AWAY without question. And, what do you do if something might be a red flag but you're not sure? Listen in and hear it all!! We hope you are listening to this wonderful series of podcasts and please rate and review if you're enjoying them!! And, as promised, here is a link to the 1/8 Online Dating Love Lab (zoom workshop) which will be LIVE from 1pm-4pm!! Get your spot now, and thank us later lol! Put this link in your browser to register: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela Update Description |
Dec 29, 2022 |
50: 10 Signs You're Dating a PLAYER
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In today's mini episode in honor of Peak Dating Season, Bela explains 10 BIG red flags that you're dating a PLAYER! Here are 3 of them, and to hear them ALL, listen to this amazing mini-episode which will open your eyes WIDE!
We hope you are listening to this wonderful series of podcasts and please rate and review if you're enjoying them!!
And, as promised, here is a link to the 1/8 Online Dating Love Lab (zoom workshop) which will be LIVE from 1pm-4pm!! Get your spot now, and thank us later lol! Put this link in your browser to register: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela Update Description |
Dec 28, 2022 |
51: How to Create a Dating Funnel & Date MULTIPLE People!
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The biggest mistake people make is NOT having a dating funnel! Listen to this short, info packed episode where Bela cuts through the brush to tell you:
If you want to maximize your chances of finding love in 2023, join the January 8th, "Online Dating Love Lab" by putting this link in your browser! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab
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Dec 27, 2022 |
49: What are the BEST Dating Apps for 2023?
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This week is a GREAT week as Bela is doing a mini daily episode from Monday through Friday, answering your most pressing dating questions! What are the best dating apps for 2023 and why? Tune in to hear the dish about Tinder all the way to Raya! Tune in tomorrow to hear, "How to Create a Dating Funnel and How to Date Multiple People at the SAME TIME!" Are you ready?? This show will get you fired up and educated at warp speed!
And, click HERE to join our January 8th Online Dating Love Lab - it's the BEST present you'll give yourself for 2023, and you are WORTH it! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Dec 26, 2022 |
48: HOW to Get Ready for 2023 Peak Dating Season!
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In this episode, Lindsay (SDA Dating Coach) and Bela discuss Peak Dating Season - which officially begins on 12/26/22. We will talk about:
If you loved this episode, a HUGE gift to us would be to write a review! Or share it with friends that SHOULD be dating smarter!
If you're ready to jump into 1:1 coaching with us, go to www.smartdatingacademy.com and fill out a form. It's the best gift you'll give yourself - the gift that will keep on giving Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy for more free tips and tricks! |
Dec 19, 2022 |
47: That Sucked. Now What?
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How do you get over the awful things that life throws at you? This episode's guest, Dr. Neeta Bhushan explains the formula for that. Her new book called, "That Sucked. Now What?" is an explanation of HOW to get through the 'suck' and to rise again.
Bela and Neeta met over coffee at Whole Foods when Neeta was single almost a decade ago. Neeta has experienced more loss by the age of 19 than most people do in a lifetime. She lost her father, mother and younger brother starting at the age of 15, and by 19 years old, she was raising her younger brother. She went on to get a DMD degree, and open up dental practices, with financial success but a hole inside of her. She married someone she thought her parents would 'approve' of, and after his last 'punch' (literally to her face) on New Year's Eve, 2011, she left him and began to rebuild her life. Neeta has found love, had kids, founded the "Global Grit Institute" and so much more. In this episode, you will hear: -How Suffering is part of Being Human 101 -How to Avoid the Victim Mentality -How to Create "Bounce" in your life, and the 4 factors that lead to bounce (resilience)
-After you 'bounce', the 5 Steps to 'fly forward!'
Neeta and I implore you to get 'coaching' in any area you need it. I have coaches, she has coaches, and we have been there to coach each other. If you need a 'kick in the pants' to get some help for Peak Dating Season, click this link to set up a consultation with us! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela
To buy Neeta's Book click here: https://www.amazon.com/That-Sucked-Now-What-Embrace-ebook/dp/B0B4ZF99PS Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Dec 12, 2022 |
46: How to Be a Psychotic Optimist!
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In an ever-changing dating world, it can be hard to stay positive. We often have two choices, we can be optimistic or pessimistic. The NYT reports that optimists earn more money, have better relationships, and even live longer! Today, I will explain to you not only how to rewire your brain for optimism, but PSYCHOTIC OPTIMISM! Psychotic optimism is something Smart Dating Academy is renowned for, (believing in your CORE that love exists for you) and today, we pull back the curtain on our best techniques to become a psychotic optimist! And yes, optimism can be learned - you don't have to be born with it!
You will learn how to: Identify the negative voice in your head, give it a name, and TALK BACK TO IT! Reframe Situations, Positively Reframing Them (so important)! How to make 2 lists that can bring you JOY (and avoid pain) How to Evaluate the Company you Keep and decide if they're good for you or Debbie Downers! Why volunteering is good for your mind and soul Why Gratitude is KEY and why you should religiously write down 3 things you're grateful for. Exercise -- Get the Dopamine GOING! Do something you're afraid of every day. Make a playlist of happy songs!! Connect with a friend or family member you haven't talked to in a while And, most importantly, Peak Dating Season is coming up - so it's time to AMP UP the psychotic optimism! It's time to get your profile in EXCELLENT shape - and there is nothing better you can do than schedule a one hour consultation with us to make sure you're at the top of your game. Email datecoach@smartdatingacademy.com, or check our website for more details :) Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Dec 05, 2022 |
45: How to Find an Awesome Husband in your 30's (even when you're a successful professional)!
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Nicky's love story is amazing. She met Bela at a holiday party sometime around 2010 when she was in her 20s (Nicky was a colleague of Bela's husband Andy at the time).
She was a successful professional who didn't have a lot of relationship experience, and pursued dating as she would her work life. Trying different things like matchmaking, speed dating, How About We, dating apps -- but had an epiphany that was work related. She said, "if I was doing something at work for 10 years and didn't get the results I wanted, I would really reevaluate and change my approach." She enlisted some help from Smart Dating Academy at the age of 34, and found love just before the pandemic, and prevailed over the pandemic. She got engaged recently in Italy, and will share her awesome and relatable story in this episode. If you are looking for a husband and maybe kids in your 20s, 30s, or 40s - or just a partner at any age, listen to this episode for inspiration and delight! You'll hear:
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Nov 28, 2022 |
44: Andrew Gelwicks - Celebrity Stylist
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Bela chats with celebrity stylist and author Andrew Gelwicks about how a kid from Ohio grew up, moved to Manhattan, and realized he was meant to be a stylist.
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Nov 21, 2022 |
43: Fix Your Picker by Looking At Your Imprinting!
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In this amazing episode, you'll have your mind BLOWN by my chat with Dr. Roksana Badruddoja (Dr. Rokbad) about how fixing your picker is about MORE than just your attachment system and your relationship with your parents. The way we show up in relationships can be 'wired' into us, and the trauma of generations before us can come into us without us even being aware of it! My mind was blown, and I'm sure yours will be too! You'll hear: Bio:
Dr. Roksana Badruddoja is an an inherited family trauma liberation scholar; a family constellation therapist; a tenured full professor of sociology, women and gender studies, and critical race and ethnicity studies and the Chair of the Department of Sociology at Manhattan College; and a queer mother to four fierce energy beings. Dr. Badruddoja focuses on inherited family trauma as a platform to explore how people interact in their relationships. Here, Dr. Badruddoja thinks deeply, every day, about how vulnerability and woundedness are imagined and how trauma impacts the ways in which we show up in the world. Dr. Badruddoja is the author of National (un)Belonging: Bengali American Women on Imagining and Contesting Culture and Identity (Brill/Haymarket, 2022), the editor of “New Maternalisms”: Tales of Motherwork (Demeter, 2016), and a contributor of Good Girls Marry Doctors: South Asian Daughters in Obedience and Rebellion (Aunt Lute, 2016). web: drrokbad.com Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Nov 14, 2022 |
42: How Mindy Found Love After Divorce, Infidelity & a Business!
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Mindy is a successful entrepreneur, and a single mom of two teens. Her parents were loving and supportive - and had a 'love hard' but 'fight hard' dynamic. Listen to her story of how she was set up with her husband at 19, how she built a business with him. Her gut started to tell her something was wrong, and she learned he was having an affair with Mindy's best friend (who was now their office manager). Talk about gaslighting and lies - oy! After the divorce, she did therapy, and jumped back into the dating pool, and yes, she dated someone WORSE than him afterward (you'll hear what happened at the two month mark). At the end of 2021, she was sick and tired of being sick and tired, and decided to take the 'steering wheel' of her dating life. You'll be inspired as to how she embarked on her "new and improved" love journey and how she was guided to slowly find love. And she did. Mindy is just like so many of us - going from bad to worse. Learn what she did to turn her love life into magic during this episode helmed by both Bela and Lindsay.
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Nov 07, 2022 |
41: How to Talk to a Man or Woman You're Attracted To!
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In this episode, Bela interviews Tripp Kramer, a coach who teaches shy men how to talk to women! This conversation is riveting because we hear what he teaches guys about approaching women (ladies and gents, you're gonna want to hear this)!
-How Tripp went from a shy introverted guy (at the University of Illinois) to a confident man -- and now teaches self-conscious men about meeting women! What is his TED formula for approaching women? -How do you deal with the fear of approaching attractive strangers? -What is "man crack"? (Spoiler Alert - it's ANYTHING! Listen to what he tells Bela about HOW a woman can approach a man) -What are the subjects that Tripp says ALL women will talk about, and are GREAT ways to make conversation? "Chick Crack" (this is hilarious) -How do you deal with rejection? -Are there things women can do to increase their attractiveness to men? -Are there things women can do to have more men approach them? -Do men like it when women approach them? Tripp has GREAT advice for anyone looking to make better conversation with people! BIO: Tripp Kramer is an international dating coach for men. He created his "TED system" to help shy men confidently attract the women they desire. In his earlier years he was a shy guy who figured out through trial and error how to get better and meeting, dating and finding the right type of woman for you. He currently has a popular podcast on iTunes called "How To Talk To Girls" and has a book called Magnetic which teaches all his secrets on dating and attraction. www.trippadvice.com/chick-crack Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Oct 31, 2022 |
40: Dating as a Widow with Jody LaVoie
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Dating as a widow is certainly different than dating at any other point in your life. Many have lost amazing partners, and the 'love of their lives.' This is the story of Jody LaVoie, entrepreneur, Mom, mentor, CEO, and now, a smart dater. Jody tells the story of how she met her husband Steve, how wonderful their love was, and how his life was brutally ended by an employee. Jody steered their company to sale, and her 3 daughters (and herself) through the grief tunnel. She finally felt ready to date in 2018, and has re-entered the dating pool. How do her kids feel? How do her in-laws feel? Listen to her amazing story, and you'll fall in love with her. AND, learn what NOT to say or expect when you date a widow/widower.
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Oct 23, 2022 |
39: How to Find Love Over 50 or 70!! How Kathy Found Love at 71!
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Is it possible to find love over 50? Hell yes!! Is it possible to find love over 70? Hell yes!! Kathy, from a rural town/state found love at 71, and shares her entire story of how she did it (online)!
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BE LIKE KATHY & JOIN OUR DATING OVER 50 LOVE LAB!! The workshop that started it ALL for her is coming back for the FIRST and ONLY time in 2022! It's 3 hours, over Zoom, on 10/29/22 from 1-4pm CT - and was the VERY first step Kathy took. Get your spot by putting this link into your browser, now! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/dating-over-50-love-lab To read Kathy & Ruben's Story on our website: https://bit.ly/3S3815f Arthur Aron's 36 Questions (the fun questions Kathy and Rubin asked each other): https://www.rd.com/list/arthur-aron-36-questions/ Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Oct 17, 2022 |
38: Dating After Divorce - The Top 10 Things to KNOW!
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Top 10 Things To Do When You’re Dating After Divorce
1. Do the work – DO therapy / coaching. Make sure you have processed the relationship, and most importantly, know what YOUR part in the relationship break up was
2. Hire someone to help you 3. Fix Your Picker – Have you noticed that your ‘picker’ is broken? Get help around this – it’s due to social media, attachment, not knowing what you need vs. want, evolution, and more 4. Get Psychotically Optimistic about your future – does the thought of dating excite you? 5. Get online the right way – Take this seriously!! a. Have great photos b. Write a great profile c. We don’t pick great photos of ourselves! 6. Have a dating strategy – 15 minutes in the morning/evening a. Date multiple people at the same time b. If you’re a single parent, use video to be efficient! Crazy can’t hide for more than 10 minutes c. Only go on a few dates per week! 7. Keep things slow!! You’ll probably want to rush out especially if your love cup is empty. Wait 15 dates so you don't get any love bombers/narcissists, etc. Time is the most important commodity in dating! 8. Don’t go over to anyone’s house prematurely. Listen to WHY in the episode! 9. Get physical if and only if you want to. There is no such thing as a 3 date rule!! Only do what you’re comfortable with. There is NO pressure to do anything, and if someone is making you feel bad that you’re not ‘fast enough’ they’re not for you 10. Only take advice from people who can guide you correctly. Your friends mean well, but probably not well-versed in dating. Goes back to rule #2 to hire someone to help you! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Oct 10, 2022 |
37: Should I Tell My Friend Their Partner is Cheating?
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Cheating -- If you see someone's partner cheating, do you tell them? This week's episode breaks it ALL down!
What sparked this whole episode was a text Bela received from someone that said: "Have you ever had a client that was on a dating app, and saw someone else’s significant other/someone they’re dating on a dating app? Do I tell the person? I mean, I would want to know but now every woman would want to know. I told someone once and they stopped talking to me. What do I do?"
I gave her some advice but more importantly, I was SO curious to hear what YOU think, so I ran a poll on Instagram last week, and the results were AWESOME. Tune into this sweet 25 minute episode to hear ALL the dish including:
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Oct 02, 2022 |
36: Safe Sex and EVERYTHING You Need to Know!
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How do you make sure you are having safe sex? Whether you're out there dating, or thinking of dipping your toe into the pool, this episode with Dr. Lauren Streicher will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know (fact and fiction) about safe sex including:
This and SO much more in the episode! Just make sure you're ALONE when you're listening to this -- you don't want to be with your Mom or your kids!!
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Sep 25, 2022 |
35: How to ACE Every Date, Business Meeting, and Build Strong Relationships (using the “NCG” Method)!
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How do you create amazing personal and professional networks? Today's guest, Larry Kaufman (the King of Linked In with over 30,000 contacts and author of the NCG Factor) wil tell us HOW he has cultivated deep, meaningful relationships with literally thousands of people through his method of authenticity, and NCG (networking, connecting and giving). And it's not the 'ugh' type of networking. In this episode, we will show you specifically:
Relationships are at the center of the human experience, and the primary reason for people's happiness. This episode has GREAT advice for anyone whether you're single or in a relationship! You'll learn tips on how to be a better human and friend. (Brief Bio): Larry Kaufman is the Best-Selling Author of The NCG Factor – A Formula for Building Life-Changing Relationships from College to Retirement. He is a connector, giver, and rainmaker who lives his life to help others succeed. He is a Senior Level Sales & Operations Leader running the Midwest Region for Jefferson Wells. Larry has also been a globally-published speaker and trainer on LinkedIn for more than a decade. Larry is an investor and advisor to several local technology companies and supports a number of local and national charities. Larry resides in a Chicago suburb with his wife and two children. Book Link: https://lnkd.in/g6xyVq5N (The NCG Factor on Amazon) Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Sep 19, 2022 |
34: How to Fix Your Picker and Find Real Love! - Marilyn's Story
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Bela talks to client Marilyn Dollar about how she found love after TWO bad marriages -- one was at the age of 17 (involving physical abuse), and the other was the father of her children (infidelity). In a prior podcast episode, Sugar mentioned how a Smart Dating Academy Instagram Live episode with Marilyn changed her dating life, so we invited Marilyn to tell ALL of you the story that inspired Sugar. Marilyn is so relatable - we all have Marilyn inside of us. Listen for the following gems:
You will get chills listening to Marilyn's story, and be inspired that the lid to your pot is just one message away!
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Sep 11, 2022 |
33: Insider's Secrets to Dating Success - Part 2
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Part 2 of this episode is amazing! Bela and Lindsay of Smart Dating Academy are back, discussing MORE secrets that have made their clients successful in finding love! Here are some nuggets you'll hear:
Where there is smoke, there is fire - Most of my divorced clients can point to something very specific early on that indicated something wasn’t right.
People make time for things they want! There is no such thing as being “too busy” when someone is ready to date. They will ALWAYS make time. Even if it’s just for a quick cup of coffee. The busier someone is and the less they prioritize you is a sign that their “taxi light is not on”….they aren’t ready.
Believe that you are a catch and act like one! He or she is lucky to meet you and they will earn you. Create an identity around dating.
Everyone is afraid of rejection. You are afraid. They are afraid. It’s neutralized. What you think about dating decides your outcome! Mindset is everything! Our positive clients who embrace dating (even when it is DRY AS A DESERT) find love because they never give up. Our clients who decide they hate it…usually don’t. What can you do to become psychotically optimistic??? Old trauma often shows up in new relationships. · Pay attention to what people tell you in the beginning. · Past trauma has a big impact on ability to find love without therapy · Know their triggers so you can avoid them in a relationship. Clarify if you might have misinterpreted something.
Never assume! Just ask. Don’t make assumptions…ask. Clearly define the relationship and you won’t be surprised down the road
Sex changes everything, and how to have the best sex of your life
The people around you shape who you are! You are the combination of the 5 people you spend the most time with! When it comes to finding love, make sure you share what’s going on with people who are encouraging and supportive. Like us….ahh!
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Sep 04, 2022 |
32: THE INSIDER'S SECRETS TO DATING SUCCESS - PART 1
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Bela chats with her long standing Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson in a 2 part episode to review the secrets of her most successful clients! Lindsay has been helping people find love for over 20 years, and has helped thousands of singles find love! They will discuss the patterns that have HELPED their clients most! You won't want to miss any of this, and here are some highlights of the episode:
1) You won’t know who the love of your life is based off on online profile or a first date - and hear WHY! 2) Ignore the clock - internally and externally! How and why to do that! 3) Doing something everyday adds up to big results over time - what's the best routine? 4) Treasure Hunting - How people find love in the most unexpected places! 5) Diversify your dating life - how do you do that? 6) Where there is smoke, there is fire....Kick the tires, and hard! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Aug 29, 2022 |
31: Body Language - Do They LIKE Me?? Learn the key signs!!
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Have you ever wondered if someone was 'interested' in you? Body language is a critical part of attraction - and understanding it can help you to not "blow" an opportunity! And, you can understand how to BEST use it to your favor, and indicate your interest to someone! In this episode, Bela discusses 7 key signs of attraction, with a whole section on what "men" vs. "women" do when they're 'showing interest!' You'll love this short and sweet episode - and make sure you save it to play and replay! 93% of attraction/first impressions comes from non-verbal communication! We will discuss:
And so much more! Bela will take you through each point quickly, in a way that. you will clearly remember!
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Aug 21, 2022 |
30: Small Changes that lead to BIG Dating Results
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What are some SMALL changes you can make TODAY for BIG results in your dating life? Bela goes through 8 ways that you can have positive changes instantly, and here are some things she will cover!
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Aug 14, 2022 |
29: The KEY signs of a Catfisher / Fraud (some not so obvious ones)
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Know the signs of a catfisher or con-person that aren't so obvious? Bela and Ilene drop ALL the bombs here -- from their real life client experience, and highlights from the Tinder Swindler that could happen to ANY of us! There's a little bit inside most of us that has the "Disney fairy tale ending" wish inside of us (both men and women). And, that can make the smartest of us susceptible to red flags such as :
And there are WAY more tips/clues that you'll hear in the episode. It's short, sweet and FULL of gems - so make sure you download this one to be in the know at all times.
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Aug 07, 2022 |
28: THE BEST THING TO BE ON DATES AND IN LIFE? BE RELATABLE!!
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Rachel DeAlto, author of Relatable, and TV relationship expert and I discuss being "relatable", and why it's so much more than being "likable." It's about someone wanting to connect with you on a deeper level, because you emit 3 things. This episode will help you to have better relationships in dating & while making new friendships! Here are some amazing things you'll hear in the episode:
-The 3 factors to being "relatable!" -- Connect, Communicate and Inspire - One in four Americans report that they have zero friends (twenty years ago it was one in ten) - How many 'connections' we need to actually be happy (you'll be happy to hear what Rachel reports) - The best ways to meet new people in an easy way - How to become more relatable even if you have social anxiety - Why digging into your 'personality flaws' makes a big difference - If you're wondering whether you're "positive" - we talk about the "Positivity Scale" and what things impact your positivity Enjoy the episode, and share it with everyone who needs it to put more love and relatability into the world! Here is a link to Rachel's book: RACHEL'S BIO Rachel DeAlto is a communication and relatability expert, media personality, and speaker. She is the author of “relatable: How to Connect with Anyone Anywhere (Even if It Scares You)” (Simon & Schuster’s Tiller Press, Fall 2021). Rachel has appeared as a relationship expert on Lifetime’s Married at First Sight and TLC’s Kate+Date. Rachel DeAlto maintains a law degree, a Master’s in psychology, and an influential social media presence, engaging and inspiring over150,000 active followers over her platforms. In addition to her regular appearances, Rachel has also been featured on a multitude of media outlets including The TODAY Show, Access Hollywood Live, and Fox News. She has also given three TEDx talks including Being Authentic in a Filtered World which is featured on TED.com. Join our free newsletter database by signing up here: www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Follow us on Instagram at @smartdatingacademy Schedule your consultation with us here! We are on a waiting list, and would love to help you! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela |
Aug 01, 2022 |
27: How Sugar Found Love (and never believed it would be possible)
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Sugar is a 46 year old woman working at a large multinational firm, who sits on many non-profit boards (including her alma mater, Purdue U)! She was married to a man she met in college, and went through a devastating divorce after 10 years. It took Sugar 8 years to get back on her feet. She had a lot of anxiety & tons of self-doubt around doing this again, and she bravely started her journey one year ago. Was it easy? No. Did she find love and prevail? Yes! This inspiring story will make you know that love exists for ANYONE that wants it, including you. Learn what Sugar did to find love, including:
Tune in to the WHOLE episode to hear this darling story, and Sugar told her story to inspire YOU to find love!
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Jul 25, 2022 |
26: The Breakthrough to Quantum Love With Dr. Laura Berman
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What is Quantum Love? It's a concept created by today's amazing guest, Dr. Laura Berman. Listen to EVERY word, because it will take your breath away, and teach you how to ATTRACT the most amazing love into your life:
Quantum love is the ideal combination of exciting and safe love - the type we ALL desire. Dr. Berman tells us:
1) How she got into this work?
2) How she created the concept of Quantum love, and the INSTANT results she saw with Ethan
3) How to think about the type of love you want, which is how you want to FEEL
4) How to ground yourself to get into 'the zone' (Bela asks her to guide you through EXACTLY how to do this)
5) Why it's an amazing way to attract likeminded people to you
6) How to manifest the perfect mate
7) Why Quantum love is the basis for the "Law of Attraction" (ie, it's the "Secret of THE Secret")
You will feel yourself shifting from shame/guilt to peace/safety during this episode. I'm SO excited to hear what you think!
Dr. Laura Berman is a therapist specializing in sex, love and relationships. She's a best-selling author of nine books, and an award-winning radio and TV host. She's starred in and hosted four TV series on OWN, Showtime, and Discovery Health, and is a regular guest expert on daytime news outlets. Dr. Berman is also the host of The Language of Love, a podcast focusing on love, sex & relationships from a mind, body and spirit perspective.
Link to her love quiz: https.//drlauraberman.com/quiz
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Jul 17, 2022 |
25: Perfect Your Summer Face and Look!
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Want to make your face gorgeous and glowy all summer long? Listen to this episode with Enisa, Smart Dating Academy's chief hair/makeup guru! You can use these tips today and ALWAYS -- even in the dead of winter when you're going on vacation to somewhere warm! And, if you like this episode, a link to MORE is below!
Here are some of the gems you'll hear:
"Good Makeup starts with good skin!" How do you 'prep your skin' for this time of year to make it GLOW?
What's Enisa's biggest secret to anti-aging?
What's the difference between BB and CC cream? Enisa thinks everyone knows this - but Bela had to ask for clarification!!
Why you may need two shades of foundation (oohhhh)...
The best way to achieve a unified look -- and what Bela learned about having it 'dry' vs. 'wet!'
The best way to keep a light 'berry lip' for the summer
And, the most important thing to have it all stay in place (and wait for it because she spills the beans on her FAVORITE product here)!
Listen to the WHOLE episode and you'll have tips to glow up!!
And, if you liked the episode, here is the Makeup Webinar that has been invested in by hundreds of people! (learning HOW to apply, live with Bela & Enisa showing you how, and their FAVORITE products), click here! You'll learn how EXACTLY to apply your skin prep, foundation, concealer, eye shadow, liner, mascara, contouring, and giving yourself an "eye lift" with a trick!!! And, we will email you a detailed product list of EVERY product we used. This webinar has blown people away! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/webinars
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Jul 10, 2022 |
24: How to Be More Attractive & Independent!
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In honor of Independence Day, I'm so excited to share my own 7 tips with you about how to appear more attractive and INDEPENDENT on your dates, and in relationships! These are things I practice in my own life, and I know that you'll learn some new things here, and be able to EXECUTE them as well!
1) Create a life for yourself that you love, and talk about the things that you love to do.
2) Start traveling & doing things on your own -- go on trips alone, go to restaurants alone, museums, all of the things! you can be your own best company!
3) Learn to recognize and deal with your own emotions! Don't expect someone to mind read and always do the right thing.
4) Have friends outside of your relationship! And spend time with them!
5) Develop a hobby of your own that you are passionate about! And immerse yourself in it, and talk about it!
6) Learn to be interdependent not co-dependent!
7) When you're in a relationship, realize that your relationship can't be EVERYTHING for you! You'll put too much pressure on the relationship, and too much pressure on the other person Spend some time thinking about the other things in your life besides your relationship that are important to you, and start to take action on that!
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Jul 03, 2022 |
23: How to Lower Anxiety in Dating and LIFE!
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Dating anxiety is something even the best daters can feel sometimes. What are some easy ways to help diminish the anxiety, so we can present the best / most authentic version of ourselves? I called on my colleague Ilene Collins, dating coach extraordinare at Smart Dating Academy, to discuss this. She's got a great background in mental health coaching as well, and this conversation was amazing.
You'll learn:
How to stay in the PRESENT moment (if you have anxiety, you're living in the past or catastrophizing the future). Ilene shares her favorite, easy ways to bring you "BACK" to this moment.
Why getting active before a date can REALLY help (I share my Peloton hack)
How is your messaging to self (Cheerleader or judge?)
BEST self care and dating routine (spa, fav music, candles)
If you're feeling anxious on a date, are you REALLY listening to the other person? We talk in depth about this.
Why "listening to understand" is SO important, and helps immensely with anxiety
Why the video date is AWESOME to do before a 'real' date - and how to use it to lower fears
HOW to get prepared - prepare for a date like you would a job interview! What questions give you anxiety? Role play with a friend, or do a session with us!
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Jun 27, 2022 |
22: How to Know if Someone is THE ONE & The Science of Finding Love
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Dr. Terri Orbuch is a renowned love researcher. During this episode, she and Bela have an incredible chat that spans the biggest reasons for divorce, what makes for the happiest relationships, love vs. lust (how to tell which it is), and how to know if someone is 'the one.'
You will hear about:
This episode is one you will want to listen to again, and again and again. We certainly are!
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BIO: Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world-renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, therapist and relationship coach, Distinguished Professor at Oakland University, Research Professor at University of Michigan Institute for Social Research, and media personality. She is also the director of a landmark study, funded by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for over 3 decades. Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Her latest book, “Secrets to Surviving Your Children’s Love Relationships” was published in March 2022. Dr. Orbuch has been featured in such publications as, The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, USA Today, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and TIME magazine and has appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, and CNN. Her TEDx talk has over 2.8 million views. For more information, please go to: DrTerriTheLoveDoctor.com.
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Jun 20, 2022 |
22: How Andrea Found Love in her 40s After Two Divorces
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Andrea Javor is just like you in so many ways. She's beautiful, smart and successful (works in marketing AND as a divorce coach). Andrea, like so many of us, had a broken picker. Her parents are wonderful, and she's surrounded by love, but healthy romantic love had always eluded her. She was divorced twice before she 'fixed her picker' and found love with Jason. Listen to this sweet story, and you'll not only be inspired, but pick up LOTS of nuggets that she drops for you! We will discuss:
-- The message that Andrea wished she got from her parents while growing up
-- Why she thought her first husband was IT, and how that QUICKLY unraveled.
--How she embarked on a BIG self-healing and learning journey, and found so much love within herself...
--How the years of therapy didn't fix her picker (oy)
--What happened in her second marriage? Why was it worse than the first?
--When she knew she had to do something different
--What she learned about HERSELF during date coaching -- and the root of her dating issues (spoiler alert--anxiety)...
--How she did NOT settle, and how her man is "old-school normal" and awesome
--How she met 'the one' and how we know this one is a KEEPER!
She is incredibly happy, and I love sharing these stories of hope with YOU. Please know that your time will COME to find love. Remember, no matter who you are, if you want it, love will come to YOU! It's a when, not an IF!
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Jun 13, 2022 |
21: Weight Gain - Why it Happens and How to Get Rid of It!
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Weight gain is something most of us have struggled with, or will struggle with at some point in our lives - whether we are male or female. Is it just me, or does it seems harder with each year to keep it off? In this episode, I chat with one of the most renowned physicians in the US, Dr. Lauren Streicher about why we gain weight (especially in mid-life & menopause), and HOW to get rid of it in a healthy way.
We are all beautiful as we are, and it is NOT necessary to have six pack abs or be a size 2 to find love. What this episode will tell you is how to get to the BEST and healthiest version of you, because how you feel impacts everything relationship you're in (especially if you're dating or in a romantic one). Here are just some of the topics we covered:
1) How does metabolism change throughout life? This answer blew my mind, btw!
2) Why sleep is MORE important than ever in the 'battle of the bulge.'
3) Where the "muffin top" comes from, and why...
4) What men REALLY think about our thighs, butts, and cellulite (it's hilarious)...
5) What's the WORST type of fat to gain and why?
6) A great substitute for a date that keeps you healthy and happy!
7) How you can manage 'drinking' calories in a better way (I have started to do this, and it's magical)!
8) What you should offer to bring to a party and WHY it benefits you
9) Lauren's FAVORITE book for weight loss (listen to find out)
If you loved this episode, please give it a review - we LOVE LOVE LOVE reading them, and if we can figure out who you are, we will send you a personal note back (you can email us through our website about your review at www.smartdatingacademy.com)
If you're READY to find LOVE, schedule a consultation with us at www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact
If you want more FREE tips, follow us on Instagram @smartdatingacademy
Bio: Dr. Lauren Streicher is a top gynecologist, professor at Northwestern University, author of multiple books about women's health, and the host of the podcast "Dr. Streicher's Insider Info - The Menopause Podcast."
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Jun 06, 2022 |
20: What is Love Bombing vs. Love Seeking, and How Can You Take Control?
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What is Love Bombing vs. Love Seeking, and How Can You Take Control?
In this amazingly informative episode, Bela and Dr. Katherine Helm discuss the VAST differences between a Love Bomber (bad) and a Love Seeker (good). They address the following questions in depth:
1) What is love bombing?
2) Why is love bombing harmful?
3) What is the difference between a love bomber and someone who is romantic (a love seeker)?
4) What's the KEY step to know the difference between the two types?
5) What do love bombers want from you?
6) How do you know if you’ve been love bombed?
7) What should you do if you are in a relationship with a love bomber? What signs existed in Netflix's Tinder Swindler?
8) What should healthy boundaries look like regarding romantic gestures early in a relationship?
You will not be confused anymore after you hear this episode between a bomber and a seeker, and you'll know EXACTLY how to TAKE CONTROL of the situation!
BIO:
Katherine Helm, PhD is a Professor of Psychology and Director of Graduate Programs in Counseling at Lewis University, Romeoville, IL. She is also a practicing psychologist in part-time private where she sees individuals and couples. Katherine has authored several publications about racial and cultural issues in mental health, couples’ issues, and pedagogy in multicultural courses and has an extensive background facilitating counselor trainings. Katherine has had several media appearances on radio and video and is a TEDx speaker. She is a sought-after author, presenter, public speaker, professional trainer, and clinical supervisor.
If you love this episode, please rate, review and SHARE!! If you are INSPIRED to seek help with you love life, sign up for our newsletter at www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact
If you are REALLY INSPIRED to make changes, schedule a 1 hour consultation with Bela! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela
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May 30, 2022 |
19: 7 Things you NEED For Summer Love!
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This is a WONDERFUL episode where you will hear Bela FIREHOSE you with the 7 things you NEED to do this summer to find love! This episode will educate you and INSPIRE the heck out of you - you'll want to RACE onto the dating scene armed with these 7 things!!
7 Things you NEED For Summer Love!!
1) Get Psychotically Optimistic about Love and that you WILL Find Love!! Get rid of the cobwebs and monkey mindsets that keep you stuck (and Bela will explain an easy trick on how to do this)!
2) Deep Dive into Yourself – Fix Your Picker! Oof - this is a biggie. Look at your relationship history, and know that the common denominator is YOU. Are you chronically picking the wrong people that ghost, cheat, or bore you?
3) Build Your Dating Funnel – Think of your dating life as you would a "horse race" where you are the PRIZE!!! She explains how and why to do this!
4) Start Online Dating the Right Way
5) Have a Daily Dating Routine – Doing something daily is great, and Bela explains her tried and true way that clients master this!!
6) Don’t Skip Video Dates! She gives you compelling reasons why you should NEVER skip video!
7) Plan Fun Dates that are side to side! Spoiler alert - you will have more interesting conversations AND build ATTRACTION!!
If you love this episode, please rate, review and SHARE!!
If you are INSPIRED to seek help with you love life, sign up for our newsletter at www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact
If you are REALLY INSPIRED to make changes, schedule a 1 hour consultation with Bela! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela
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May 23, 2022 |
18: The Soulmate Secret with Arielle Ford
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Arielle Ford is a love and relationship expert, and a leading personality in the personal growth space - she's been a pal of Bela's for many years. This episode is FILLED with answers to questions that have been wrestled with for centuries, and they break it down for you step by step:
1) What is LOVE? (Spoiler Alert - Bela and Arielle are in 100% agreement about the definition)! And, Bela discloses the book that made her understand love back in college....Curious? :)
2) What is the unknown secret to relationship success everyone needs to know?
3) Why you should wear "rose colored" glasses when it comes to seeing each other (or, use Dr. Laura's "defense attorney" trick we talk about in detail)!
4) Why we must learn to be personally responsible for our own happiness in life and especially in relationships....
5) The universal law that can be sued to find your soulmate
6) How Arielle met her soulmate (an amazing story that started with a dream)!
7) Does everyone have a soulmate and how many can you have in a lifetime?
You will LOVE the gems in here -- and if you do, and you're READY to find love, we are here for you!
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May 15, 2022 |
17: The 15 Date RULE That Helped Silvia Find Love!
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Silvia Foti is an amazing woman, author, high-school English teacher, and a client of Smart Dating Academy who found love. Silvia was willing to share her inspiring story with all of YOU to show you that love is possible under even the toughest of circumstances.
Silvia was married for 35 years. Her mother died when Silvia was 38 years old, and her last wish on her deathbed was that Silvia finish her book, documenting her grandfather’s heroic military career in Lithuania. What Silvia discovered is that her ‘heroic’ grandfather was anything but that – he was helping Hitler exterminate thousands of Lithuanian Jews. It took Silvia ten years to process the grief of this – and another ten to write the book (which has brought death threats from around the world). Her daughter overdosed and passed away at the age of 21 in 2016. In 2019, her husband blindsided her with a divorce. Listen to this story of amazing perseverance, cleverness, and heart of how Silvia found her “federal agent” love – how they waited 15 dates for….you know….and how in LOVE they are today. He travels with her supporting HER career and book, and went at HER pace, showing her that a man that wants to be with you will move MOUNTAINS to be with you.
Here are some gems you'll hear!
· What is the Smart Dating Academy 15 date rule??
· How she felt when she got online (and got new pictures/profile)?
· What happened when she ‘launched’ her profile on November 3rd?
· How Ilene helped her get out of the ‘pen-pal’ phase…
· What he brought her on the first date…
· What he brought her on the SECOND date, and what she sprung on HIM!
· Why the way he held her hand almost caused her to end it
· What he said when she said she wanted to wait “15 dates” (one of the BEST moments of the show)!
· How they've now spent over 1,000 hours together, and how in love they are….
Here is a link to book your consultation with Smart Dating Academy if you are READY to find love in 2022! https://bit.ly/3vIWY9n
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May 09, 2022 |
16: The Secrets to Flirting & Charisma!
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This episode is something you have ASKED FOR! Flirting, building charisma & confidence is something we ALL want to get better at - whether we are single or coupled! I brought on one of my favorite experts, Kimmy Seltzer, who is a confidence therapist, flirting wingwoman and personal stylist. There is something for EVERYONE in this episode - woman or man!
You'll love this episode -- I certainly did! If you did, rate it, write us a love note, and SHARE with your networks! We LOVE that, and will do a coaching giveaway for people who write reviews!
If you want to hear more from us, click here to join our free newsletter database! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact
If you're ready to find love and schedule a session with us, click here to invest in a session that will change your life! https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela
If you want Kimmy's free gift, click www.kimmyseltzer.com
Kimmy's Bio: Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Image Expert. With a vat of knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, she has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success and build valuable relationships using her unique “confidence makeover” process. Using an outside-in approach, Kimmy implements targeted style, emotional and social intelligence in people’s lives using her signature formula, “The Charisma Quotient,” working on body language, first impressions, image/wardrobe and flirting and how it impacts attraction. This Los Angeles-based expert travels the country helping people discover confidence, charisma and connection as a speaker at National Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, Neutrogena, The Guild at Universal, UCLA and iDate. Kimmy is also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post with appearances in Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Reader’s Digest, AskMen, Fox News Magazine, Yahoo and the Washington Examiner, among a myriad of other publications. Kimmy has been the leading love expert on the traveling live dating show The Great Love Debate, a show on Amazon Live with SwayTv, Kimmy’s Love Hub and the cable reality series, The Romance. You can also listen to her on her podcast, The Charisma Quotient and regular Ask Kimmy segments on the Chaz and AJ Morning Show on 99.1 PLR and 95.9 The Fox.
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May 02, 2022 |
15: How to Talk to Men & The Secret to Happiness!
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Apr 25, 2022 |
14: SEX and DATING - Everything You Need to KNOW!
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This episode is AMAZING with Rachel Zar, renowned sex and relationship therapist.
We discussed ALL of the things you need to know - and make sure you don't have little ears around you while listening to this!
1) WHEN is the right time to have sex?
2) If you've had sex with someone, is it advisable / necessary to have sex every time?
3) What's the thing that causes the BEST sex, always?
4) What is the right thing to do with "hair down there"??
5) How do you get to know your own body?
6) If the sex isn't good the first time, what should you do?
7) We don't want men to be inexperienced, but don't want them to have 'hooked up' with too many women? What gives?
8) When to talk about STI's?
9) What we should be focusing on during sex (hint - it's not just orgasm)!
Listen to this episode, and if you love it (you WILL), please please write a review (it's worth it's weight in gold)! Share with friends as well!
If this episode has inspired you to get back into the dating world, and your profile & photos need an overhaul, join our "Online Dating Love Lab" Zoom workshop on April 24th, from 1pm-4pm CST! Go to:
www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab to JOIN! Spots are LIMITED! If you want to watch Bela's TEDx talk about the "Secret to Finding Lasting Love", click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SIyvhq3zWLg&t=48s
Rachel Zar, LMFT, CST is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist who specializes in relationship and sex therapy. Rachel sees clients at Spark Chicago Therapy and at The Center for Sexual Medicine and Menopause at Northwestern Hospital.
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Apr 18, 2022 |
13: What Men REALLY Want - Secrets from an A-List Hollywood Actor!
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Colin Egglesfield is an AMAZING actor who has walked the red carpets of Hollywood, starring in "Something Borrowed" with the beautiful Kate Hudson. He's also been on All My Children and Melrose Place, just to name a few. Colin is a VERY eligible bachelor, and came on the podcast to talk about what men like him are REALLY looking for in women (he's dated both actresses as well as us 'normal' girls too)! We shared: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/the-online-dating-love-lab Colin is hosting an Inspire Summit in Chicago, where Bela will be speaking on 4/23 -- and you can grab your tickets here (put this link in your browser)! https://www.eventbrite.com/e/inspire-summit-2022-with-colin-egglesfield-tickets-302182224167 |
Apr 11, 2022 |
12: TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS & FRIENDSHIPS - HOW TO AVOID THEM AND STAY OUT OF THE RED ZONE!
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In this episode, I discuss TOXIC friendships/relationships and staying out of the "RED Zone" with therapist Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo who is Shaquille O'Neal's "Head Coach for Happiness", author of "Get Out of the Red Zone", and mental health expert on the TODAY Show, Good Morning America and the New York Times.
We covered a TON, and you're going to love it all, especially:
I hope you LOVE the episode, because I loved doing it! If you do, PLEASE give it 5 stars and a great review - it means the world to us! Sending you a cyberhug for it! :)
Dr. E's Bio:
In her first week of psychology school, Elizabeth was madly taking notes as her professor spoke, and something hit her. “Why do I have to get a Ph.D. to learn this information? We would all benefit from better understanding how our mind works and how to make it work for and not against us.” And this became her life mission: to share research-supported techniques to optimize your mindset and thrive in life.
Dr. E, as her clients affectionately call her, has personally helped numerous high-profile individuals achieve success. Her newest book entitled “Get Out of the Red Zone: Transform Stress and Optimize True Success” helps individuals and organizations better cope with stress to enhance engagement, productivity and profitability. Having worked with many Fortune 500 companies, including Coca-Cola, Deloitte, UBS and Westinghouse, Dr. E is considered one of America’s most-trusted celebrity psychologists. Dr. E is passionate about helping people transform their personal and professional lives through proven methods.
Watch: TED Talk - The Secret to Lasting Love! (link is here if you need it - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SIyvhq3zWLg&t=128s)
Buy Dr. E's Red Zone book: https://www.amazon.com/Get-Out-Red-Zone-Transform/dp/1953445071/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=get+out+of+the+red+zone+book&qid=1647637436&sprefix=get+out+of+the+red+%2Caps%2C83&sr=8-1
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Apr 04, 2022 |
11: Why women LOVE narcissists, and how to STOP!
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This episode with Dr. Michelle Roberts is about women, narcissistic abuse, why it happens, and how to heal from it (this is what she researched and practices today). It blew my mind, because I didn't even know that C-PTSD was a diagnosis, and what it meant. It's SUPER significant in the dating world, and if you've had dating patterns, this episode will change them!
In this episode, we cover:
If you'd like to book a session with us to get help with dating, click: www.smartdatingacademy.com/11-coaching/coaching-call-with-bela
If you'd like to sign up for our newsletter, click: https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/contact Watch Bela's TEDx Talk with almost 100K views on "The Secret To Finding Lasting Love!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SIyvhq3zWLg Dr. Michelle Roberts - Bio Dr. Michelle Roberts is a psychotherapist, journalist, and professor. Her work focuses on the intersection of culture, relationships, and modern narcissism. She helps women break trauma cycles that keep them from becoming their whole, radiant selves. Her ground-breaking research identified and focused on survivors for the very first time. But almost none had been diagnosed with this severe form of trauma. In the only peer-reviewed survey of its kind, women who identify as narcissistic abuse survivors scored four times higher for the presence of childhood trauma than the average population. And nearly three out of four met the clinical criteria for complex post-traumatic stress disorder, or C-PTSD. Michelle has worked with more than 300 individual narcissistic abuse survivors to help them escape the often-unconscious patterns that keep them stuck in relational trauma cycles. With compassion and careful pacing, she helps them take deep plunges to the bottom of things. |
Mar 28, 2022 |
10: Step It Up With Steph!
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This episode was a gem-filled chat with Stephanie Mansour about "Building Your Confidence at Every Age and Size!" |
Mar 21, 2022 |
9: How to Find Love After Betrayal and Avoid Drama!
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How Rachel Went from Betrayal to Love - and got out of the "Drama Triangle!"
This week's episode is an amazing chat with serial entrepreneur Rachel Graham, about finding love & purpose after betrayal. Rachel is the founder of Evolve and Transform, co-founder of Healing Springs Ranch, and has a beautiful love story that came after lots of bumps & bruises along the way. She's so relatable, you'll want to listen to every word. She will help you to see that we ALL have a role in betrayal, and how to step out of the 'drama triangle.' Here are just a few gems that you will here in this episode:
*The darkest moment where Rachel found her purpose, while her house was flooding
*What HER contribution was (in her own words) to the betrayal she experienced.
*How she broke free of the victim mentality, and how we can ALL do that.
*How to find the 'meaning' in any mess that's presented to you
*How you can be the 'lotus flower in the muck'
*Why you can't go around the pain
*Why her boyfriend told her she's like Rapunzel (and you'll ALL relate to this)
*How to live your life through 'scars' and not 'open wounds.'
*Why most relationships have a shelf life (and what to do at that point)
*Her definition of rejection -- it's protection and redirection
*How she found love and is SO happy now (YAY)!!
*The Drama Triangle vs. The Empowerment Dynamic" - and how to switch from drama to empowerment
To see photos of Rachel and her "Fly Guy" and the "Drama vs. Empowerment Triangles" as we promised in the episode, click here!!
To hear live advice, monthly, on Bela's Instagram Live show - www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy
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Mar 14, 2022 |
8: Does backing up mean backing down? What do you REALLY value?
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This episode taught me a lot about myself, and I hope it will do the same for you. It will change you to think about your core values in a NEW way. It'll inspire you to really think about yourself, who you are, and maybe what a better career is for you OR a better partner (there are TONS of similarities between job search and partner search)!
In this episode, I interview the inimitable Ashley Stahl (I watched her Ted talk and knew I had to interview her, stat). Ashley Stahl is counterterrorism professional turned career coach and bestselling author of the book You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, and she's on a mission to help people get into a career they're excited about and aligned with. Through her two viral TEDx speeches, her online courses, her email list of 500,000 and her show, You Turn Podcast, she's been able to support clients in 31 countries in discovering their best career path, upgrading their confidence and landing more job offers. Ashley is also single, out there in the dating world, and is very open about her dating life (and you know I LOVE that). Here are just a few of the topics we cover this week!
If you'd like to read Ashley's book if you're considering a career pivot, here it is!
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Mar 07, 2022 |
7: Celebrity Divorce Attorney Laura Wasser
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Bela has a REAL, in depth chat with celebrity divorce attorney Laura Wasser, who has represented celebrities like Kim Kardashian, Britney Spears, Dr. Dre, Kelly Clarkson, Jimmy Iovine, Maria Shriver, Stevie Wonder and the list goes on.
Laura Wasser is also an author, entrepreneur, and Family Law expert. She is the senior partner at the law firm Wasser, Cooperman, Mandles, the founder and C.E.O. of It’s Over Easy, the online divorce service and one of the creators of the Next Chapter Collection of luxury candles.
Laura maintains that divorce is the great equalizer—it terrifies everyone, but that your next chapter can be better than ever! Bela and Laura talked about SO many things, including the following:
Here's a link to get date coaching from Smart Dating Academy - www.smartdatingacademy.com
To hear live advice, monthly, on Bela's Instagram Live show - www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy
To get the amazing 'divorce' candles for your "next chapter" -- https://www.perfectdaycandles.com/nextchapter
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Feb 28, 2022 |
5: The best questions to ask someone on dates (and everywhere)!
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Danielle who has created a life she LOVES at the age of 30. She's a famed TV host, entrepreneur, podcaster, and a dear friend. She has interviewed Taylor Swift, Michael B. Jordan, Helen Mirren -- and Larry King says that she 'has the ability to make people feel seen." In this chat, Danielle shares with us:
I know you're going to get some good laughs and information from this podcast. You'll be inspired by how Danielle has brought more love into her life with work, AND, how she is going to start dating!!
You can get the cards Danielle shared with us here at https://prettysmartshop.com/collections/shop/products/question-everything-card-deck-1 Download this episode, share it on social, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com). Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy!
Bela Gandhi of Smart Dating Academy, is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. SDA offers the best tips to start to date smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Good Morning America, Steve Harvey, NBC, Harry Connick Junior, Kelly Clarkson, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more...
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Feb 21, 2022 |
6: Can You Find Love After 50? Nancy Hala's Love Story
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This episode is PURE fire, and so perfect for Valentine's Day. Nancy Hala is a renowned entrepreneur, podcaster, who became a Smart Dater with Bela. Nancy found love online and got married in September 2021 to the most magical man ever (and they're both over 50). Nancy and her podcast partner Sheri invited Bela to be the 'dating coach' on their podcast -- coaching Nancy to find love. This episode takes you through the WHOLE story, including:
For those of you that want to READ her full story, you can read it after you listen by putting this link in your browser:
https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/success-stories/nancy-and-david And, please SHARE this episode with your friends that need it! And we would LOVE a review and your comments! If you're in need of any dating help, follow us on Instagram @smartdatingacademy, AND come to our www.smartdatingacademy.com, and fill out any contact form to receive our free newsletter with ALL of the things!!
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Feb 14, 2022 |
1: What and when is "peak dating season"? - Smart Dating Academy with Bela Gandhi
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Most people think that Peak Dating Season is in the SUMMER, but guess what? It's from 12/26-Valentine's Day! Why? Because half of US adults are SINGLE and they're making resolutions to get back into the dating pool and FALL IN LOVE!
In this episode, I'll talk about HOW to take advantage of PEAK DATING SEASON (whether it's in this time frame or anytime)!
If you're doing the same thing over and over again, if you don't know how to vet the dates, know you have a problem that needs solving, we can help you at Smart Dating Academy!
Download this episode, share it on social, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com). Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy!
Bela Gandhi of Smart Dating Academy, is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. SDA offers the best tips to start to date smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Good Morning America, Steve Harvey, NBC, Harry Connick Junior, Kelly Clarkson, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more... Follow Smart Dating Academy on |
Jan 11, 2022 |
2: You Dated a Narcissist... Now What? - Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast with Bela Gandhi
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The "N" word -- "narcissist", is a word that is thrown around a LOT in our culture. We use it to describe people in our family, colleagues, bosses, friends, and more! But what are the REAL signs you're dealing with a narcissist? In this episode, I will tell you:
The 9 actual parameters that therapists use from the DSM-5 to diagnose narcissism
How narcissists will show up in your dating life
The red flags that should make you run!!
You will want to have this episode with you ALWAYS as you're dating, as a good check for you if you've had problems with this in the past, OR if you're just getting out into the dating pool after being divorced or widowed!
If you're doing the same thing over and over again, if you don't know how to vet the dates, know you have a problem that needs solving, we can help you at Smart Dating Academy!
Download this episode, share it on social media, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com). Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy!
Bela Gandhi of Smart Dating Academy, is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. SDA offers the best tips to start to date smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Good Morning America, Steve Harvey, NBC, Harry Connick Junior, Kelly Clarkson, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more... Follow Bela on
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Jan 11, 2022 |
3: "I'm Divorced/Divorcing - When Can I Start Dating?!"
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In this episode Bela explores dating during and after divorce with Susan Guthrie. Susan Guthrie, nationally recognized as one of the Top Family Law and Mediation Attorneys in the country, has been helping individuals and families navigate separation and divorce for 30 years. Susan provides online divorce mediation and legal coaching services to select clients around the world. Susan is also the host of the "Divorce & Beyond Podcast". You can see more about Susan Guthrie here.
If you're doing the same thing over and over again, if you don't know how to vet the dates, know you have a problem that needs solving, we can help you at Smart Dating Academy! Download this episode, share it on social, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com). Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy!
Bela Gandhi of Smart Dating Academy, is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. SDA offers the best tips to start to date smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Good Morning America, Steve Harvey, NBC, Harry Connick Junior, Kelly Clarkson, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more...
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4: NEVER Settle, EVER! Jill Sherer Murray, author of Big Wild Love and TEDx Speaker! - Smart Dating Academy Podcast With Bela Gandhi
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In this AMAZING episode, Bela interviews Jill Sherer Murray, author of best-selling inspirational book, "Big Wild Love."
Jill shares with us the story of her own searching, and finding her Big Wild Love (and her TEDx talk about it has MILLIONS of views). In this episode, Jill shares with us:
I know you're going to see yourself in this podcast - we are all Jill, or have been Jill. She is so forthcoming, and her book is AWESOME and the link to order it is here:
Big Wild Love: The Unstoppable Power Of Letting Go Download this episode, share it on social, and sign up for our free newsletter by filling out any contact form on our site (www.smartdatingacademy.com). Follow us on Instagram as well @smartdatingacademy!
Bela Gandhi of Smart Dating Academy, is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. SDA offers the best tips to start to date smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Good Morning America, Steve Harvey, NBC, Harry Connick Junior, Kelly Clarkson, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more...
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Jan 11, 2022 |
6: 7 Biggest Dating Myths...BUSTED - Smart Dating Academy with Bela Gandhi
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In this Instagram Live edition, Bela busts the biggest dating myths out there including:
1) Dating is a numbers game 2) You need to feel a spark of chemistry right away 3) You need to be in 'lust' right away 4) Online Dating is only for losers 5) Men take longer to fall in love 6) Men don't want to date successful women 7) Short men have no dating prospects Bela Gandhi of Smart Dating Academy, is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. SDA offers the best tips to start to date smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Good Morning America, Steve Harvey, NBC, Harry Connick Junior, Kelly Clarkson, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more... |
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