The Adoption Files

By Ande Stanley

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The Adoption files seeks to provide a place for adoptees and allies to discuss the laws preventing adoptees from accessing their identities, and the emotional and physical challenges adoptees face in the process of dealing with the obstacles we face. We recognize the need to expose the problematic aspects of the adoption industry and the narrative they perpetuate. We will not only talk about the laws and the challenges they create, but also the ways that the mythology around adoption impacts the way we move through our lives, as adopted people and as mothers and other family members.

Episode Date
Expecting Perfection, and other thoughts on control
Nov 02, 2026
On Being Trafficked: a conversation with Patricia Knight Meyer, author and adoption reform advocate
Oct 31, 2026
Bearing Witness: Holding Space for Our Selves
Oct 26, 2026
Seeing or Solving: Adoption and Spiritual Trauma
Oct 19, 2026
Being Held, or How Attending CUB 2026 Profoundly Impacted Me
Oct 14, 2026
Adoption Abolition: A Conversation
Oct 01, 2026
Quality Counts: Early Connections and Big Questions; continuing the conversation on adoption and spiritual trauma
Sep 28, 2026
Holding Space: Healing in Relationship
Sep 21, 2026
Turning Towards the Pain: a Continuing Conversation on Spiritual Trauma and Adoption
Sep 14, 2026
Healing, Recovery, Remaking: Which makes sense for you?
Sep 07, 2026
Gods will or?
Aug 31, 2026
I am terrible at titles. Continuing the conversation about spiritual trauma as people impacted by adoption
Aug 24, 2026
Feel the Feelings: continuing our conversation on spiritual trauma
Aug 18, 2026
How to use Spirituality as a Defense against Discomfort: Spiritual Bypassing
Jul 26, 2026
Your Feelings Matter: the Core Emotions and Spiritual Trauma
Jul 22, 2026
Victim, Villain, Valiant Hero: The Drama Triangle and Spiritual Trauma
Jul 12, 2026
Let's: See What Develops: The Essentials. Continuing the conversation on spiritual trauma
Jul 08, 2026
Returning to the Familiar: When we keep going back to things that hurt
Jun 30, 2026
What we need from the beginning: Continuing the conversation on spiritual trauma
Jun 26, 2026
Alert: California SB 381. California adopted people need your support
Jun 22, 2026
The Culture we Swim in, Pt 2. Spiritual Trauma is NOT fun!
Jun 10, 2026
The Culture we swim in: continuing the conversation on spiritual trauma and adoption
Jun 07, 2026
The Adoption Paradox: a Conversation with Author Jean Kelly Widner
Jun 02, 2026
Fundamentally Bad: a Survivor's Universal Experience of Spiritual Trauma
May 26, 2026
This Feels Familiar: How leaving the system that harmed you can be hard to do. Plus more fun stuff about spiritual trauma!
May 20, 2026
System Erasure; Ecological Systems Theory and adoption. More on Spiritual Trauma and Adoption
May 14, 2026
Happy Mother's Day?
May 10, 2026
Feeling naked: continuing the conversation about spiritual trauma
May 05, 2026
Codependency, yuck.
Apr 26, 2026
The Same , Even if it Seems Different: a conversation with a stepparent adoptee about access to original birth certificates
Apr 22, 2026
Consequences and Compliance : continuing our exploration of how spiritual trauma exists in our lives as a first mom and an adopted person
Apr 19, 2026
To Be Real: a conversation with Elizabeth Barbour, New York Adoptee.
Apr 16, 2026
Catching up with Paige Strickland, pt 2
Apr 12, 2026
Catching up with Paige Strickland: Pt 1 of a conversation about obtaining an Ohio adoption file
Apr 12, 2026
Coping Strategies; Finding Ways to Live with Loss Pt 2 of my conversation with mom Cindy Shultz
Apr 05, 2026
Control: figuring out how spiritual forms of control have played out
Apr 02, 2026
All Tied Up: Spiritual and Religious Trauma
Mar 23, 2026
Tiny, Little Happy Bows: How Trauma Lives in the Body. Continuing the conversation on Spiritual Trauma and Adoption
Mar 19, 2026
Beyond the Band-Aid: going Deeper into the Examination of Spiritual Trauma and Adoption
Mar 12, 2026
Finding Our Way: Continuing the Conversation Concerning Spiritual Trauma and Adoption
Mar 08, 2026
Adriana Calin is still fighting to be recognized as a person: A Romanian Adoptee/ Human Trade Victim
Mar 04, 2026
The Mom Myth: thoughts on my conversation with Cindy Shultz
Mar 01, 2026
Open Adoption is Not the Answer: a conversation with Cindy Shultz
Mar 01, 2026
Fragmentation: continuing the conversation . Holy Hurt and Spiritual Trauma, episode 2
Feb 24, 2026
Be a Partner in Something Powerful: a conversation with Sullivan Summer, Lora Alegria and Lilly Anspach, the Board of Adoptees for Family Preservation
Feb 20, 2026
At the Intersection of adoption and spiritual trauma; Holy Hurt: Understanding Spiritual Trauma and the Process of Healing by Hillary L McBride PhD,
Feb 19, 2026
Spiritual Trauma and Adoption, an unholy union. Reviewing Holy Hurt by Hillary L McBride PhD from the lens of an adoptee and a first mom's experiences
Feb 08, 2026
Did they or didn't they? The Conclusion to my trip to Georgia to maybe meet maternal family
Feb 06, 2026
Movement
Feb 01, 2026
A Very Messy conversation with myself
Feb 01, 2026
California has a bill! Ca SB 381 needs your support.
Jan 08, 2026
Good Intentions A conversation on adoption with Lorah Gerald
Nov 08, 2025
Every Voice: A conversation with North Dakota Adoptee Mary Kae Kelsch
Mar 07, 2025
a Stolen Identity, a Fraudulent Adoption; Part 4 of Adriana's Story
Mar 03, 2025
A Stolen Identity, a Fraudulent Adoption: Part 3(ish) of Adriana's story
Mar 03, 2025
A Stolen Identity, a Fraudulent Adoption: Part 2 of Adriana's story
Mar 03, 2025
A Stolen Identity, a fraudulent adoption: Part One of Adriana's story
Mar 03, 2025
Love is not enough: a conversation with Lorah Gerald about the National Adoption Competence Mental Health Training Initiative
Feb 18, 2025
Sacred Information: Partnering with your Partner during their Search
Feb 11, 2025
The Marketing of Open Adoption: a Lived Experience, with Connor Howe
Nov 26, 2024
No Magical Mind-reading: An Adoptee and Non-Adoptee in a Romantic Relationship. A Conversation with Andrea Steiner-Coates and Greg Gentry
Nov 24, 2024
Adoptee/ Non1Adoptee conversations: being curious, with Andrea Steiner Coates
Nov 20, 2024
Almost Loved: a NAAM conversation with poet and adopted person Rena Joy
Nov 14, 2024
Courage: a conversation with Lorah Gerald for National Adoption Awareness Month
Nov 09, 2024
Finding identity, and Community: a conversation with Haley Radke
Nov 08, 2024
The Odd One: a NAAM episode
Nov 07, 2024
Healing the Wounds: therapy
Nov 05, 2024
Illegitimate: TJ Johnson, musician, English teacher and adopted person, shares
Nov 04, 2024
Wait, What? My first blog post; attempting to navigate adoption
Nov 03, 2024
National Adoption Awareness Month: Sophi Richman Fletcher shares on finding her father
Nov 02, 2024
National Adoption Awareness Month 2024
Nov 01, 2024
Entitlement in Adoption; a deconstruction exploration
Oct 28, 2024
Deconstruction and Sexuality: Why its important to talk about sex
Oct 15, 2024
Adoptee Advocates of Michigan: a conversation with Anna Thompson and Valerie LeMieux
Oct 13, 2024
There's no such thing as utopia, and other pitfalls of deconstruction
Oct 08, 2024
Transracial Adoption, Racism and Suicidality; a Conversation with Lina Vanegas, MSW
Oct 04, 2024
Deconstruction, adoption and the morass that is American politics
Sep 25, 2024
The Godly Family: deconstructing from adoption and religious trauma; a conversation with Dani Joy
Sep 09, 2024
Braving the National Council for Adoption conference: a conversation with Katie Nelson Burns and Renee Gellin
Jul 29, 2024
Final Thoughts: wrapping up our reveiw of Conceiving Christian America
Jun 29, 2024
Supreme Appeal: the run-up to the overturning of Roe v Wade
Jun 28, 2024
Deconstruction: a conversation with Dani Joy about examining narratives around racism, adoption and faith
Jun 24, 2024
A Warm Body: They Just Need a Receptive Uterus!
Jun 08, 2024
Disability and embryo "adoption" Part 2 of our discussion of Chapter 4, Conceiving Christian America: Embryo Adoption and Reproductive Justice by Risa Cromer
May 25, 2024
Attending Untangling our Roots, or, Ande tries hard to not freak out
Apr 27, 2024
A discussion of Conceiving Christian America with Guest Lorah Gerald, Chapter Unselection
Apr 23, 2024
Waiting; an Interlude. Conceiving Christian America; Embryo Adoption and Reproductive Politics by Risa Cromer. A discussion
Apr 12, 2024
A conversation with Donna Jane, a California adoptee
Apr 11, 2024
Support Californias' Senate Bill 1274
Apr 05, 2024
Part 2 of Ch 3 Conceiving Christian America; Embryo Adoption and Reproductive Politics by Risa Cromer, as discussion
Apr 01, 2024
Conceiving Christian America: Embryo Adoption and Reproductive Politics by Risa Cromer, Ch 3. Or, as Lynn calls it These Gifts are never Free
Apr 01, 2024
Embryo Saviorism : Ch 2 Conceiving Christian America
Mar 27, 2024
Claiming Adoption: Conceiving Christian America: Embryo Adoption and Reproductive Politics
Mar 21, 2024
Chapter 1 Life After IVF, Conceiving Christian America; Embryo Adotion and Reproductive Politics
Mar 18, 2024
What we call things matters: Conceiving Christian America; Embryo Adoption and Reproductive Politics Episode 3
Mar 10, 2024
Exploring the Intro to Conceiving Christian America: Embryo Adoption and Reproductive Politics by Risa Cromer.
Mar 06, 2024
Interview with Katie Nelson Burns of The Family Preservation Project
Mar 04, 2024
Interview with Jennifer Trudeau of Parents Partnership
Feb 28, 2024
A Note on the new series Conceiving Christian America; Snowflake Adoption
Feb 26, 2024
Conceiving Christian America: introducing a new series on Snowflake Adoption, with Ande Stanley and Lynn Grubb
Feb 26, 2024
Interview with Valerie from Washington Adoption Reunion Movement
Feb 23, 2024
Interview with Beth Steury
Feb 11, 2024
Virginia's House Bill 550, with guest Rebecca Ricardo
Feb 04, 2024
Forever is not a guarantee
Feb 03, 2024
Interview with Gaye Sherman Tannenbaum
Dec 11, 2023
Interview on Adoptee Rights 101, with Lynn Grubb, president of Adoptee Rights Coalition
Nov 06, 2023
The Burning Question: Will the Government finally decide I am a real person?
Oct 31, 2023
Interview with Dani Joy
Oct 18, 2023
Interview with Lina Vanegas, MSW
Sep 27, 2023
Interview with VellaMae Travis
Sep 09, 2023
Interview with Lisa Elaine Scott
Jun 05, 2023
Interview with co-host Lynn Grubb and guest Lorraine Dusky
May 07, 2023
The Cult-Like Aspects of Adoption Episode 6 with co-host Lynn Grubb and guest Rebecca Dragon
Mar 30, 2023
AB 1302, a California bill that would further diminish California adoptee rights
Mar 19, 2023
Insufficient and deficient; a comment on adoption cruelty
Mar 13, 2023
The Cult-Like Aspects of Adoption Episode 5 Andrea Coates
Mar 13, 2023
Lynn and Ande interview Emma Stevens for episode 4 of The Cult-Like Aspects of Adoption, a therapy episode
Mar 03, 2023
Realid
Mar 02, 2023
The cult-like Aspects of Adoption Episode 2 pt 2 with guest Greg Gentry
Feb 28, 2023
The Cult-Like Aspects of Adoption with Lynn Grubb and guest Greg Gentry Pt 1
Feb 19, 2023
Intro to The Cultlike Aspects of Adoption with Lynn Grubb and Ande Stanley
Feb 15, 2023
Interview with Marilyn Huff
Feb 13, 2023
Interview with Beth Figuls
Dec 01, 2022
Interview with Daphne Keys
Nov 18, 2022
A Talk about the Different Types of Adoption, with Paige Adams Strickland and Renee Gelin
Nov 05, 2022
Interview with Rich Clark
Oct 28, 2022
Interview with Mary Ellen Gambutti
Oct 21, 2022
interview with Annie Oxborough
Sep 30, 2022
Interview with David Lang
Aug 07, 2022
Non Adoptee/ Adoptee Conversations: You were adopted a long time ago. Why are you still talking about it?
Jun 25, 2022
Interview with Dr. Kristy Howell
Jun 18, 2022
Interview with Renee Gelin, founder and president of Saving our Sisters
May 22, 2022
Non-Adoptee/Adoptee conversations: a talk with Andrea Coates about respectful dialogue
May 20, 2022
Birthdays and Gotcha days
May 11, 2022
Interview with Laureen Pittman
May 08, 2022
Adoptee Access and the state of Vermont
May 02, 2022
Advertising for Babies
May 02, 2022
In the Market
Apr 24, 2022
Open Adoption: what is Open Adoption?
Apr 20, 2022
Lynn Grubb, the Adopted Genealogist, interviews the host of The Adoption Files
Apr 17, 2022
Interview with Victoria Bond
Apr 10, 2022
Arguing with Experts
Apr 04, 2022
Interview with Mary Constance
Apr 03, 2022
Kidnapping is not morally ambiguous
Mar 30, 2022
Interview with Margaret Theriault
Mar 27, 2022
A note on mental health
Mar 21, 2022
Interview with GAAR, the Georgia Alliance for Adoptee Rights
Mar 20, 2022
Interview with Jamie Weiss
Mar 13, 2022
Interview with Emma Stevens
Mar 06, 2022
Interview with Daryn Watson
Feb 27, 2022
Interview with Ann Rehfuss Mikeska
Feb 20, 2022
Interview with Kirsten Weatherford
Feb 14, 2022
Interview with Deborah Hart Yemm
Feb 06, 2022
Interview with Jamie Nagy
Jan 31, 2022
Interview with Christine Mueller Dechert
Jan 24, 2022
Interview with Dr Abby Hasberry
Jan 17, 2022
Interview with Samantha W
Jan 09, 2022
Interview with Lisa Ann
Jan 02, 2022
Interview with Courtney Fleming Humbaugh
Dec 25, 2021
Interview 2 with Elle Cuardaigh
Dec 20, 2021
Interview with Lora K Joy
Dec 12, 2021
Interview with Elle Cuardaigh
Dec 10, 2021
Interview with Becky Conrad Drinnen
Dec 06, 2021
Interview with Lorah Gerald
Nov 29, 2021
Interview with Jude Conn
Nov 21, 2021
Interview with Michelle Madden
Nov 14, 2021
Interview with Julie Ryan McGue
Nov 08, 2021
Adoptee Remembrance Day
Nov 01, 2021
Adoptee Remembrance Day, a Day Early
Nov 01, 2021
Total Strangers
Nov 01, 2021
Interview with Andrea Steiner Coates
Nov 01, 2021
Social Worker Interviews
Oct 26, 2021
Compelling Evidence
Oct 26, 2021
Disclosure Vetoes
Oct 26, 2021
Interview with Paige L Adams Strickland
Oct 26, 2021
Interview with Lynn Grubb, the Adopted Genealogist
Oct 09, 2021
The Adoption Files (Trailer)
Oct 08, 2021