Black Girl Burn Out

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Black Girl Burnout is a podcast hosted by Kelley Bonner dedicated to helping black women manage the stress of daily living and preventing the detrimental effects of burnout. Black women often feel overburdened and undervalued, and this podcast offers palpable solutions for this undeniable phenomenon. Bonner is a licensed therapist with over 15 years of experience helping people and organizations transform, evolve, and heal burnout. Each week, she dives deep on topics around burnout including career burnout, relationship burnout, and how racism and sexism contribute to the acceleration of burnout-in just 15 minutes! Bonners helps listeners develop the tools to combat and overcome burnout. During each episode, she guides listeners through bite-sized and manageable practices that provide immediate relief by leaning into their own intuition and becoming more engaged and connected with themselves and their surroundings.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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Opt-Out Of Lies
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today's episode is all about opting out of lies. Now, lies happen every day, all around us. And if we're being honest, we're probably have told a few. But, today we're not going to focus on the lies that get told to us and the lies we may tell to others. That's coming up in future podcasts. Today, I'm going to talk about the lies that we tell ourselves. Next, I will discuss strategies that will help you to learn how to opt-out of those lies. I want to start by talking about the original lie, about black women being born to struggle, born to suffer, and born to be trapped in a cycle of fighting. For decades black women have been conditioned into believing that we will never experience joy, our true inheritance, and legacy. If you are ready to release these false beliefs from your life, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about it.
May 09, 2022
Opt-Out Of Drama
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk about how to opt-out of drama. Every time I think about drama, I think about Mary J. Blige’s song “No More Drama”. I picture Mary J and I think about all that she has endured and overcome along her journey. So in this episode, we are going to talk about ways to make your life drama free. In order to achieve this goal, we must first address the ways that we may be subtly inviting drama into our lives. Here is my question to you, are you addicted to drama, or are you ready to be fully drama-free? Let’s talk about it.
May 06, 2022
Opt-Into Forgiveness
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today, I want to ask you another question, do you struggle with forgiveness? I feel like that's a loaded and complicated question. I think that a lot of people may say, No, I forgive everyone. However, when you then dig a little deeper underneath the surface, those feelings are often not sincere or true. If you struggle with being able to forgive, full-heartedly, this episode is for you. We will begin by talking about what forgiveness is and what forgiveness isn't. When I'm talking about forgiveness, I want to be clear that I am not talking about condoning bad behavior, allowing people to mistreat you, or allowing people to disrespect you. Again, the whole goal of this podcast is to encourage the members of our community to opt-out of struggle on every level of our lives. Let’s talk about it.
May 04, 2022
Opt-Out Of Hard Work
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today we are going to talk about opting out of hard work. Specifically, we are going to talk about what I mean when I say “hard work”. We are also going to cover why some types of hard work can be considered toxic. Our goal is to align with doing things that in a manner that flow and bring ease into your daily life. In the past we have discussed toxic hustle culture, which is the belief that you've got to grind, you've got to push, you've got to force yourself to do things. Unfortunately, so much of that messaging keeps us opting into struggle, right? It keeps us always pushing ourselves, not feeling like we are doing something meaningful unless it is difficult, while not feeling like there's any reward. I feel like this toxic hustle myth is slowly killing our culture, particularly killing black women. We are some of the hardest-working people on the planet. We're over-educated compared to other demographics, and we have strong entrepreneurial skills. Many of us have a main hustle and three side hustles or two main hustles. We go, go, go, and we work hard, hard, hard. But not every type of hard work is healthy. It’s time to transition into a healthy work mindset. Let’s talk about it.
May 02, 2022
Opt-Into Community
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today we are going to close out our three-part series on opting into your inheritance and your legacy. In this episode, we will be discussing ways to opt into the community. The sense of community is really the glue that keeps everything together. We will focus on talking about what we mean by community, how to build your community, and how to identify healing practices that can help you to transition now if you feel like you need a new community. Let’s talk about it.
Apr 29, 2022
Opt-Into Abundance
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today we're going to continue with our three-part series on how to access your inheritance. And what are the qualities that you deserve in your life. Last episode, we talked about opting out of the struggle and opting into your true birthright, which was joy. We talked about how to bring more joy into your life in the benefits of joy. Today, we're going to talk about abundance, how to opt into abundance in your life, I truly believe that is also a birthright for us as black women. Let’s talk about it.
Apr 27, 2022
Opt-Into Joy
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today we're going to talk about how to Opt Into Joy. This episode begins a new three-part series, that is centered around fully aligning with your birthright inheritance of happiness, abundance and joy. It may be difficult at first to accept joy into your life. For Black Women, so often, the depth of the struggle tends to cloud our ability to even hope. However, we no longer have to accept the struggle as the norm. In fact, in this community, our focus is on taking the steps necessary to retrain our mindsets into the understanding that we deserve financial freedom, healthy relationships, and peace within ourselves. Joy to me is a state of being. It is the ability to make meaning of painful events. It is the prioritization of choosing to feel good more than allowing yourself to feel bad. Living a joyful life tends to mean you smile more. And while it's not easy initially to embark on that journey, it is completely possible and unbelievably rewarding when you get there. However, joy is not a one-moment destination. You must keep cultivating it to keep more joy coming back to you, even when you are enduring difficult situations. Here is my question to you, what is holding you back from fully receiving joy into your life? Let’s talk about it.
Apr 25, 2022
Opt-Into Adventure
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk about three ways to opt into Adventure. Each day I try to live as life as I full a life as I possibly can. I've always been pretty adventurous. As a kid I was pretty strong-willed, or stubborn you could say. If I wanted to strike out on an adventure, I didn't like anyone telling me what I couldn't do. But today, we're going to talk about how to infuse adventure in your life, in the context of having the kind of exciting life that you just can’t wait to jump into every morning. I'm going to specifically talk about how I injected adventure into my daily life. Here is my question for you, do you believe that it is possible for you to live an adventurous and happy life? Let’s talk about it.
Apr 22, 2022
Opt-Out Of Competition
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk about three ways to Opt-Out of Competition. Historically, for black women, competition comes out of a society-driven scarcity mindset. When we open our horizons to fully believe in abundance, it is possible to release the form of scarcity that can result in becoming a prisoner to jealousy-centered competitive ideation. Let’s be clear, jealousy is a very common emotion. When we feel threatened by someone who may seem to be doing better than us, feeling jealous is normal. The goal is to transform those feelings into empowering thoughts and actions. Competition has been known to bring out the best in people. However, when rooted in scarcity and fear, it can bring out the worst in us. The good news is that you have the power to choose your reality. Are you ready to release unhealthy competitive energy from your life experience? Let’s talk about it.
Apr 20, 2022
Opt-Into Romance
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk about opting into living a romantic life. This episode is all about how to inject more romance into your life in a healthy, self-loving, and expressive way. When you opt-out of struggle, you become available to a healthier relationship with romance. You deserve to have fulfilling love in your life. If you are ready to be free from toxic environments and toxic dynamics with people in toxic relationships, this episode is for you. Are you ready to embrace your inheritance and welcome healthy romance into your life? Let’s talk about it.
Apr 18, 2022
Opt-Out of Confusion
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today we're going to talk about how to opt out of confusion in your life and instead opt into clarity. I'm going to start our conversation with a question. Have you ever been confused? I'm laughing because I feel like that was my entire 20s. The entire decade was one of confusion. I was confused in every area of my life professionally, personally, financially, just a whole lot of confusion. In today’s episode, I specifically reveal an important link between confusion and struggle that could be blocking your progress. We will also discuss the reasons behind why we continue to accept and stay in situations draped in confusion. Lastly, we will discuss two strategies designed to help with implementing action steps towards open-heartedly opting into clarity. If you are ready to welcome intentional clarity into your life, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about it.
Apr 15, 2022
Opt-Into Moving in Silence
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today we're going to talk about how to Opt Into Moving in Silence. In a previous episode we discussed opting out of silence, an episode that addressed the fact that black women are more likely to experience domestic and sexual violence. Maintaining a cloak of silence about the pain and violation that we have experienced as a community is unhealthy and imprisons us into struggle. However, this community is all about Opting Out of Struggle. But, that's not what we're talking about today. Today, we're talking about something different. We're talking about moving in silence in the context of learning how to keep some things private, and just for yourself. I will admit that while I have never had a problem keeping other people’s secrets, I have struggled with keeping my own thoughts private. If I was making a professional move, I would tell far too many people before I made it. I would talk about a relationship that I kind of knew was going nowhere, I would talk about my financial goals with the wrong folks. It took me many, many, many years to learn how to move in silence. Here is my question to you, are you sharing your finances, goals, relationships, and dreams with too many people? Let’s talk about it.
Apr 13, 2022
What Are You Waiting For?
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout Podcast with Kelley. Today I have a question for you. What are you waiting for? I hope that this episode galvanizes and motivates you to live a little bit bigger and bolder in your life today as we talk about how to opt-out of waiting and opt into now. There are times when patience is definitely a virtue. There are also times when there are things that we have to wait on. But, we also need to accept that there are conditioned thoughts that may be stopping us from having all the goodness that we deserve. I talk about our inheritance being joy and abundance, and love and community. Today, I want to encourage you to receive that you can align with your inheritance now. So, as a community, we are going to discuss how to opt into now, by talking about ways that we can effectively change our thought process. We are also going to discuss how to achieve love in life and in work. I love the ongoing conversation that we're having as a community. I love being transparent and honest with you. Where I feel brave enough to do so I am going to talk about my own struggles. Let’s talk about it.
Apr 11, 2022
Opt-Into Healing
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burnout Podcast with Kelley. Today we are going to talk about opting into healing. This episode concludes this week’s “Family Meeting” three-part series. We are going to focus on healing strategies that can be replicated with consistency. Healing can be painful to embrace. But, this time, you are not alone. I am right here with you along this journey. We are a community dedicated to opting out of struggle on every level. And that includes any struggles that you may be experiencing as you work to align with a healing process that works for you. This week we have opted out of celebrating trauma, opted into loving accountability, and today family, it’s time to heal. Let’s talk about it.
Apr 08, 2022
Opt-Into Loving Accountability
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Welcome to the Black Girl Podcast with Kelley. Today we are going to continue our conversation about opting out of celebrating trauma. And we are going to begin our journey towards opting into loving accountability. Letting go of the cultural mentality of celebrating trauma is not easy. However, releasing yourself from this belief plays a key role in the healing process. In today’s family meeting we will also discuss ways to handle the disrespect that black women face in the world. Here is my question to you, how important is accountability to you? Let’s talk about it.
Apr 06, 2022
Opt-Out of Celebrating Trauma
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. And today, I am officially calling for a town hall/community family meeting. We're going to talk about opting out of celebrating trauma. Now hear me out. I want you to set a few ground rules. First, the vibe is going to be sensitive today. Although we're going to dig deep into elements of toxicity that are apparent in our culture, our focus will be on healing and love. In no way is today’s conversation intended to be harsh. However, there could be some uncomfortable moments. Second, I’m asking you to keep an open mind. I take this beautiful community that we are building so seriously. You all mean so much to my heart. And I want you to know that I sincerely thank all of you for downloading and engaging the strategies that have been delivered along the journey. More than anything, I want you to know that you are not alone. This podcast is exploding in popularity, which is proof that we really do have a mighty sisterhood forming. I do not take that for granted. I'm so grateful to each one of you, for taking the time to listen to this podcast every week. Together we will enter today’s family meeting with an open heart, a healing spirit, and an attitude of gratitude. Let’s talk about it.
Apr 04, 2022
Opt-Out of Emotional Exhaustion
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Are you tired? Today I want to talk about opting out of exhaustion. We've talked about opting into rest and my love of the nap ministry, which you can find on Instagram. But today I want to specifically focus on emotional exhaustion. Lately, exhaustion has been present across many demographics, but particularly amongst my fellow Black Women. Some are physically tired, but even more, are sick and tired of the mental fatigue from ongoing engagement with the struggle. Please believe, the struggle is real. So, I am going to cover effective strategies that you can use to navigate your journey towards opting out of exhaustion. Here is my question to you, is your mental health important enough to set healthy boundaries in your life? Let’s talk about it.
Mar 31, 2022
Opt Into Audacity
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. In today’s episode, I am going to share strategies that will help you to Opt-Into Audacity in your life. Full disclosure, Audacity is one of my absolute favorite words. My wish for you is to become more Audacious, day by day. I will also cover a healing practice that you can do right after this episode. If you have been journeying with me, today’s strategies can be deployed anytime you feel the need to inject more Audacity into your life. Do you have a willingness to embrace your bravery and take bold and fearless risks to better yourself? Let’s talk about it.
Mar 30, 2022
Opt-Out Of Toxic Positivity
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today we're going to talk all about what toxic positivity is and effective strategies that will help you to opt-out of that state of being. I, in full disclosure, am kind of obsessed with Instagram, it's my social media of choice. Over the last six months, I have seen an increase in posts about toxic positivity on Instagram. During the pandemic many have lost family members and struggled with high levels of anxiety and depression due to prolonged periods of isolation. In my research, I found that toxic positivity is directly linked to struggle, one of the cornerstones of this podcast. If you are at that stage in life where you are available take action steps towards positive change, this episode is for you. Here is my question, are you ready to opt into healthy optimism? Let’s talk about it.
Mar 28, 2022
Opt-Into Knowing Your Worth in Partnerships
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today’s episode marks the conclusion of this week’s 3-part “Know Your Worth “series. Thank you so much for journeying with me. To recap, Jessie Behrman’s quote, “When you learn how much you’re worth, you’ll stop giving people discounts” was established as the anchor concept of this series. We've talked about how to align with your worth in the business /professional realm. Plus, we addressed ways to manage boundaries with friends and family. However, knowing your worth in relationships is especially important. So many times, we go into relationships/partnerships, unaware of our value. Listen, if you don’t know your worth your true value, no one else is going to know it either. We often unintentionally project a vibe that we are for sale and at a cheap price. When this happens, we tend to give discounts to people who truly are not worthy of us. Here is my question to you, who are you giving discounts to? Let’s talk about it.
Mar 25, 2022
Opt-Into Knowing Your Worth Amongst Friends and Family
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today’s episode, part two of a three-part series, will be about opting into knowing your worth when it comes to family and friends. In part one we tackled ways to align with your worth in business. Now we are going to dive into navigating your value regarding business matters that involve family and friends. First, let me say that this entire series is anchored by Jessie Behrman’s quote, “When you learn how much you’re worth, you’ll stop giving people discounts.”. However, I fully acknowledge that business matters with family members can be tricky. That’s why knowing how to effectively set boundaries is important. If you are ready to learn one simple strategy that will help you to overcome objections when setting boundaries with family and friends, this episode is for you. Here is my question for you, are you setting healthy and effective boundaries with your family and friends? Let’s talk about it.
Mar 23, 2022
Opt-Into Knowing Your Worth In Business
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting into knowing your worth in business. I’m going to kick things off with a question, do you know how much you are worth? This episode is part one of a three-part series, all about helping you to align with your worth in the professional realm. There's a quote that says, “When you learn how much you're worth, you'll stop giving people discounts”. I love this quote because it very accurately reflects what happens when a person truly knows their value. When they understand how precious you are, you're more likely to protect, preserve, and honor who you are. So, join me on this short series as we talk about knowing our worth. Let’s talk about it.
Mar 21, 2022
Opt-Into Good Habits
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about ways to successfully build good habits. A sure way to opt-out of struggle in your life is to align with a pattern of positive behavior. Let’s be clear, it is not easy to set a new habit. In fact, it takes at least 18 days to establish new behavior as a habit. But, here’s the good news, if you are determined to release struggle from your life, you have to power to accomplish this goal. The science behind this actually tells us that when we create a behavior and then find ways to reinforce that behavior, it becomes something called a habit loop. Let’s talk about it.
Mar 18, 2022
Opt-Into Quitting With Ease
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about the process of quitting with grace. I am a firm believer in putting an end to people, places and things that no longer serve you. If it involves keeping you bogged down in a mentality of struggle, it has got to go. However, separating yourself from struggle needs to be done in a way that is healthy and emotionally positive. Today, we are going to focus on strategies to release relationships and employment with class and grace. There is absolutely nothing wrong with opting out of engagement with toxic people and workplace situations. Here is my question for you, who or what work-related issues would you like to release? Let’s talk about it.
Mar 16, 2022
Opt-Into Softness
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about softness. We will focus on strategies that show you how to opt-out of harsh living and harsh interactions. Instead, you will learn how to opt-into an experience of soft living and soft conversations. But, how can we have realistically engage with soft interaction in American Society? What is it about our culture, as black folks that makes softness so difficult? Let’s talk about it.
Mar 14, 2022
Opt-Into Your Gifts
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk about opting into utilizing your gifts in the workplace. How many of you are in a career, but don’t feel like you are living up to your full potential. A very smart friend of mine once told me that your inner genius resides at the intersection between ease and joy. When you can incorporate your passion and natural talents into your workday, this is the recipe for achieving peak performance within your career. Are you doing work that brings you joy? If you want to learn more about healing practices designed to help you with identifying what your gifts are and how to incorporate your gifts into your daily life, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about it.
Mar 11, 2022
Opt-Out of Dating Burnout
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. So today is all about opting out of dating burnout and opting into a desire for meaningful and healthy relationships. How do you know if you are experiencing dating burnout? Well, one of the main identifiers is cynicism. Pay attention to how you are reacting and receiving when you think about dating. If you are feeling overwhelmed with the prospect of dating this episode is for you. When we are able to release cynical snapbacks, we can become available to address issues that may be festering just below the surface. Let’s talk about it.
Mar 09, 2022
Opt-Into No
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting into being OK to say No! When was the last time that you said no to someone in an effort to stand up for yourself and set healthy boundaries? It is totally ok for you to say no to someone if a request is not right for you. Opting to decline is not always easy, especially when it involves family members who love you or your boss for fear of losing your job. But, if you are ready to learn how to embrace your Power of No, this episode is for you. Here is my question to you, are you afraid to tell people no? Let’s Talk About It.
Mar 07, 2022
Opt-Out of Bitterness
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting out of bitterness. Pain and repeated injury are two of the main forms that bitterness can present in your life. We are going to focus on the kind of bitterness that results from not being able to address the ways that our societal systems wrong and injure us. When you feel as though your voice is not being heard, mounting hurt can harden your heart. The good news is that bitterness can be released, find out how today. Let’s talk about it.
Mar 04, 2022
Opt-Out of People Pleasing
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Welcome to the Black Girl Burn Out Podcast with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting out of people-pleasing. As Black Women, we are often struggling to find balance between family, work, and personal time. One key to being able to find an aligning balance involves setting healthy boundaries. Allowing it to be ok to say no when a request overextends you. It is totally ok to say no, and you don’t have to justify your decision. If you are tired of riding the roller coaster of pleasing everyone around you while neglecting yourself, this episode is for you. Here is my question to you, are you ready to opt into a life of balance and boundaries? Let’s talk about it.
Mar 02, 2022
Opt-Into Rest & Reflection
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about releasing the need to maintain a constant “I’m busy” mentality. Opting into rest and reflection is necessary to achieve a healthy work-life balance. Black Women often feel compelled to always be on go, go, go mode. In our society, resting is commonly associated with laziness. However, this is a false sentiment. I will cover four ways to prioritize rest in your life. If you are ready to equip yourself with effective burnout prevention strategies, this episode is for you. Here is my question to you, are you ready to grant yourself the rest that you need to improve on every level in your life? Let’s talk about it.

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Feb 28, 2022
Opt-Out Of Clownery
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about love and the myths that define why we repeatedly attract less than desirable partners. We are going to focus on opting-out of the societal programming that binds us to struggle in our love lives. I know that you have heard the phrase, love is blind, or love hurts. Unfortunately, belief in those phrases can result in us turning a blind eye to glaring and harmful flaws. To be clear, this process will not be easy, but it will be worth it. Here is my question to you, are you ready to learn how to move forward, identify the struggle and address it by asking clear and concise questions? Let’s talk about it.

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Feb 25, 2022
Opt-Out Of Accepting Crumbs
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about Opting out of repeatedly accepting “Crumbs” in the workplace. How many times have you been overqualified for a position, yet agreed to crumbs for compensation? So often, Black Women are underpaid, undervalued, unseen, and unheard in the workplace. If you are ready to opt into the feast of financial abundance that you are entitled to, this episode is for you. Here is my question to you, are you ready for positive “self-value” driven empowerment strategies that can prepare you for your next performance evaluation? Let’s talk about it.

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Feb 23, 2022
Opt-Out of Toxic Hustle Culture: Level II
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out, with Kelley. Today’s episode is all about letting go of toxic hustle mentality and opting into a life of abundance. I will introduce 3 strategies designed to help you to manifest ease. It’s time to opt into ease as a way of facilitating abundance in your life. Let’s talk about it.

Feel free to reach out to me with your questions and shares. Join the Amplify Voices Community. Text “BGBO” to 310-582-5216 we would love to hear from you.
Feb 21, 2022
Opt-Out Of Silence
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about Opting Out of Silence. In many ways, American Culture encourages abuse-related silence. Medical professionals often don’t even believe Black Women when they speak up about their pain. However, the time has come for us to amplify safe environment assistance programs whereby Black Women can feel safe to speak out about verbal abuse, domestic violence, and sexual assault. If you or someone that you care about is silently enduring pain, this episode is for you. Violence against Black Women is not just historical, going back to times of slavery, but at present a very real problem. Let’s talk about it.

Feel free to reach out to me. Join the Amplify Voices Community. Text your questions and comments to 310-582-5216 we would love to hear from you.
Feb 18, 2022
Opt-Into Body Positivity
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out, with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about body positivity. The way that we deal with judgmental comments from others about our bodies can have a negative impact on how we view ourselves, as Black Women. I will cover 5 strategies geared towards helping you to infuse more positivity into your personal self-image. It’s time to let go of repetitive and harsh inner criticism. Are you ready to opt into fully loving yourself? Let’s talk about it.

Feel free to reach out to me with your questions and shares. Join the Amplify Voices Community. Text “BGBO” to 310-582-5216 we would love to hear from you.
Feb 16, 2022
Opt-Out of Toxic Money Struggles
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out, with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting out of Toxic Money Problems. When you have a scarcity mindset, plus on the verge of burnout, it can often feel as though there is never enough of anything, especially money. The first step in this process is to improve your relationship with money. If you are ready to have a healthy relationship with richness and wealth, this episode is for you. Here is my question for you, are you determined to live a rich life? Let’s talk about it.

Feel free to reach out to me with your questions and shares. Join the Amplify Voices Community. Text “BGBO” to 310-582-5216 we would love to hear from you.
Feb 14, 2022
Opt-Into Living A Full Life
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out, with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting out of hiding ourselves. When we limit our potential, we don’t allow ourselves to dream big. But know this, when we as Black Women “play” small, we are aware that we are capable of more. We simply don’t allow ourselves to express the fullness of our talents. If you are ready to opt into living a full life, this episode is for you. We no longer have to be scared of expressing the fullness of who we are and what we can do. Let’s talk about it.

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Feb 11, 2022
Opt-Out Of Hiding
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out, with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting out of Hiding. We will cover 3 powerful strategies designed to help you opt in to being present and fully visible. If you are ready to step into the true fullness of your life, this episode is for you. So often, we as Black Women minimize ourselves, our strengths, our presence, and our abilities. Some of us have been hiding for so long that we don’t even recognize ourselves. Here is my question to you, isn’t it time to stop quietly disappearing? Let’s talk about it.

Feel free to reach out to me with your questions and shares. Join the Amplify Voices Community. Text “BGBO” to 310-582-5216 we would love to hear from you.
Feb 09, 2022
Opt-Out Of Others Expectations
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out, with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting out of other people’s expectations of you. It can be challenging to find a healthy balance between the dreams and goals that we set for ourselves, while coping with the future that our parents have envisioned for us. If you are tired of living under the pressure of other people’s expectations, this episode is for you. Are you ready to pick one aspect of your dream life to work on? Let’s talk about it.
Feb 07, 2022
Opt-Out Obsessing Over Heartbreak
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting out of our obsession with heartbreak. Have you ever been heartbroken? Yes, right. Everyone has experienced heartbreak in one form or another. But did you know that a decline in the hormone dopamine contributes to why we feel so emotionally low? Our culture delivers beautifully melodic sad songs to help us cope with the pain. However, this only extends the time that we find ourselves attached to those sad emotions. If you are tired of feeling emotionally bound to the rollercoaster of heartbreak, this episode is for you. What if you could break free from holding on to heartbreak for weeks, months, and years. Let’s talk about it.
Feb 04, 2022
Opt-Out of Jealousy
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Welcome to Black Girl Burn Out, with Kelley. Today I want to talk to you about opting out of Jealousy. Our main objective on this podcast is to be mindful about taking action steps towards exiting all examples of the struggle. So, in today’s episode, we are going to focus on ways to opt into having an attitude of gratitude. At its root, jealousy is all about a sense of scarcity, that does not really exist. If you are tired of battling feelings of jealousy or envy, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about it.
Feb 02, 2022
Opt-Out of Complication
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Today I want to talk to you about Opting-Out of Constant Complication, by simplifying your life. In order to do this, it is important to accept that simple living is a mindset. It's a way of being that allows you to fully embrace yourself, fully embrace your goals, and fully embrace happiness. Most extremely successful or extremely happy people collectively agree that learning to align themselves with a mindset of simplicity was key to their ability to maintain achievement on elite levels. Merely reducing the amount of unnecessary complication in your life, sets you on the road towards living the joyful life that you deserve. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 31, 2022
Opt-Out of Potential
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Today I want to talk to you about 5 ways to successfully Opt-Out of falling in love with a person’s potential. Instead, you are going to learn how to begin opting into attracting healthy relationships. If you are tired of being treated poorly 95%, but still hanging around because the relationship has potential, this episode is for you. Leaning too heavily on a person’s potential can cause us to start projecting onto them the qualities that we desire instead of accepting them for who they are. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 28, 2022
Opt-Out of Closure with Others
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Today I want to talk to you about opting out of the need for closure from others. Are there people in your lives that have wronged you, and you're still waiting for that conversation with them where they apologize and instantly everything is alright? Stop that! One of the biggest keys to healing is learning how to move forward even when apologies don't show up. Answer this question, who are you still waiting for an apology from? Let’s talk about it.
Jan 26, 2022
Opt-Out of Distraction
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Today I want to talk to you about opting out of three types of distractions. We will focus on relationships, family, and meaningless work distractions. In our daily lives, it is so easy to become distracted. However, I will be presenting tools to help you to learn how to opt into a healthy lifestyle of focused “distraction-free” living. If you are tired of constantly battling one distraction and then another, this episode is for you. Stop living a life that you resent, unlock the life that you deserve. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 24, 2022
Opt-Out of Parenting Parents
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Today I want to talk to you about opting out of parenting, your parents. This is something that is very much a part of the black experience. To remain in alignment with opting into patterns that are healthy, we're going to talk about five ways to set boundaries with our parents so that we can make sure that we are not parenting them. It is finally okay to balance eternal gratitude for our parents with healthy adult boundaries. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 21, 2022
Opt-Out of Avoiding Therapy
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Today I want to talk to you about opting out of therapy avoidance. Yes, that’s right. It is officially time to stop avoiding therapy. Opting in to your true birthright to live a life filled with happiness, financial abundance, and healthy relationships is within your reach. Listen to me, it is totally ok to reach out for help in an effort to let go of old thoughts and baggage that no longer serves you so that you can fully achieve wellness and balance in your life. Now I understand that finding a therapist can feel difficult for many women of color, myself included, it was hard for me to find the right therapist. But finding someone and engaging with them can literally change your life. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 19, 2022
Opt-Out of Covid Anxiety
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Today I want to talk to you about opting out of Covid Anxiety. I am going to share 5 strategies with you, to help you to reduce covid related anxiety. Do I have a cold? Do I have a cough? Or is it Covid? If you are stuck in a state of constantly recycling these questions, this episode is for you. Be safe, learn more about tools that can help you to stay safe, and then unplug from covid related anxiety. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 17, 2022
Opt-Out of Uneven Friendships
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Today I want to talk to you about opting-out of uneven friendships. However, I also want to talk to you about optin- into the process of building meaningful ones. If you are tired of repeatedly dealing with friendships where you are giving one hundred times more than you are receiving, this episode is for you. We have the right to joy, we have the right to balance, and we have the right to meaning in our relationships. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 14, 2022
Whose Burdens Are You Carrying?
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Today I want to ask you a very simple question, whose burdens are you carrying? If you have been feeling a heaviness in your gut, or in your heart due to carrying other people’s burdens, this episode is for you. Releasing other people’s burdens is all about identifying the weight that we may be carrying on ourselves and being able to fully align with the source of those burdens. You don’t have to continue through life repeatedly claiming emotional weight that isn’t yours to carry. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 12, 2022
Opt-Out of Mediocrity
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Today I want to talk to you about deleting mediocre connections and intentionally living your best life. When we exist in state of mediocracy, we tend to lack confidence in ourselves, we don’t invest in ourselves, and we often hate our jobs. If you are ready to embrace the process of doing things that bring you joy, this episode is for you. My question for you is, when are you going to stop believing that life is supposed to be a struggle, that is a lie. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 10, 2022
Visualize Your Success
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Today I want to talk to you about visualizing your success. Visualization is a very powerful tool, especially when it is paired with writing down what you desire to achieve on paper. If you are experiencing life hurdles, self-doubt or imposter syndrome this episode is for you. Those are just a few of the types of blocks that could be getting in the way of your success. My question to you is, are you intentionally picturing yourself achieving your goals? Let’s talk about it.
Jan 07, 2022
Opt-Out Of Pain
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Today's episode is all about opting out of physical pain by building a meaningful self-care practice for your body. Black women are more commonly diagnosed with diabetes and heart disease. We also have a disproportionately high rate of incidence of fibroids and issues with our menstrual cycles. I want you to really dig in and think about how you're taking care of yourself. My question for you today is, how are you physically feeling in your body? Let’s talk about it.
Jan 05, 2022
Opt-Out Of Struggle: Unlock & Exit
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Today I want to revisit the concept of the Struggle with you. This time we will cover unlocking yourself from even the concept of struggle so that you can fully exit. If you are exhausted, feel like you're constantly trying to keep your head above water, and you're constantly in this battle, this episode is for you. Join me, we can Opt-Out of the struggle together. Let’s talk about it.
Jan 03, 2022
Caregiver Burnout
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Today I want to talk to you about caregiver burnout. Being a caregiver often leads to periods of overwhelming stress and depression. If you are a black woman who is caregiving, I want to talk to you about what that looks like when you're experiencing caregiver burnout and give you some tips on how to overcome this state of being. Whichever way it may be manifesting for you, just know that relief is in sight. Let’s talk about it.
Dec 31, 2021
Level Up
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Today I want to talk to you about three signs to look for when determining if you are living life at the most optimal level. Many of us hold back from living up to our full potential. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. I want to walk you through an exercise that will help you to start living a full life, even if you haven't achieved that level before. Plus, I will show you how to maintain the ability to experience life at the next level. If you are currently blocking yourself from living up to your full potential, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about it.
Dec 29, 2021
Unplug Haters, Period
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Today I want to talk to you about five strategies that will help you to eliminate the impact that haters have on your life. Being intentionally undermined, diminished, or disappointed by people that you've trusted, results in a special kind of pain. The fact is, if you are successful and dedicated to personal and professional achievement, racism and sexism increase the likelihood that you will encounter haters at some point in your life. Isn't it time to remove haters from your life and heal the pain left behind? My question to you is, are you sick of haters taking up so much of your time and energy? Let’s talk about it.
Dec 27, 2021
Maintain An Attitude of Gratitude
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Today I want to talk to you about five gratitude practices that will help you to maintain an attitude of gratitude. I believe that gratitude heals burnout, and it helps prevent it. It's a really powerful tool for relieving stress and de-escalating anger. Even in the worst of times, there's always something to be grateful for. Gratitude is a very component of resilience. If you are looking for a way to set and maintain an intention to stay grateful, this episode is for you. My question to you is, what are you grateful for? Let’s talk about it.
Dec 24, 2021
Eliminate Invisible Distractions
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Today I want to talk to you about identifying distractions that are associated with racism. In reality, racism is a distraction. It keeps you in a disruptive cycle of proving and explaining yourself, repeatedly. However, as Toni Morrison says, “there will always be one more thing”. I am going to cover 3 strategies that will help you to end the toxic cycle of racial distractions in your life. If you feel as though your visions and goals are out of reach due to the false thoughts implemented by racism, this episode is for you. Once you realize that you absolutely can end the cycle of uncertainty, dismissal, and being ignored, your life will change in a positive way. So, my question for you today is, how is racism distracting you? Let’s talk about it.
Dec 22, 2021
Release The Past
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Today I want to talk to you about 5 key techniques that will help you to finally let go of things that no longer serve you. As black women, we face a lot of disappointment. And we are constantly attacked, vilified, and sexualized. If you are feeling weighed down by something, disappointment, resentment, or missed opportunity, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about it.
Dec 20, 2021
Transcend Escapism
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Today I want to talk to you about three critical skills that will help you to work through the pain and avoid escapism. When the pain becomes too much to bear, we tend to run away from it. I have, and in some way, we all have. But in the end, we still wind up having to deal with ourselves. If you struggle with the pain of self-doubt or find yourself constantly dealing with chronic escapism, this episode is for you. It is finally ok for you to stop building cranes in the sky. Let’s talk about it.
Dec 17, 2021
Engage in Self Kindness
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Today we are going to talk about self-kindness. I want to focus on self-kindness because I think it's the one thing that we as black women just don't get enough of. This episode is for you if you are constantly forcing yourself to do things. Self-kindness is about expressing understanding and patience to ourselves, even when we make mistakes. When was the last time that you treated yourself with warmth and kindness? Let’s talk about it.
Dec 16, 2021
Breakaway from self-judgment
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Today I want to talk to you about 5 tips that will help you to finally put an end to self-judgment. It's something that I have struggled with all my life. If you have a pattern of setting extremely high standards for yourself, you know what I mean. I often tell people that I'm a perfectionist in recovery. I am by far my harshest critic. I have spent many years trying to figure out how to stop setting unrealistic expectations and undervaluing myself. If any of this sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Let's talk about it.
Dec 15, 2021
Conquer Family Burnout
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Today I want to talk to you about 10 healthy survival strategies to help you with navigating gatherings with family and friends. Perhaps, you know that you're going to see your family members and you experience tension just thinking about having to attend your family gathering. Or, maybe you don’t feel like engaging with a potential religious conflict. Burnout comes in all forms. We don’t only experience work burnout, sometimes we have family and relationship burnout as well. This podcast is for you; if you want to learn how to self-deescalate tense moments with family or friends so that you can stop feeling overwhelmed. You don’t have to go to Tahiti in your mind. Let’s talk about it. 
Dec 13, 2021
Be Good To You
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Today I want to talk to you about Self-Compassion and three pillars designed to teach you how to treat YOU better. We will focus our self-healing exercises on mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness. If you are struggling with a harsh inner self-critic, this episode is for you. I also struggle with the same challenges as you. This podcast is about being here for you. And letting you know that what you are going through is completely normal. So, if you feel isolated, or you feel like you're struggling remember, you are not alone. Learn how to achieve an aligning awareness with your own suffering, so that you can finally let go, and resolve it. Let’s talk about it.
Dec 10, 2021
Opt-Out of The Struggle
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Today I want to talk to you about the Struggle, and the Four Pillars that will help you to Opt-Out of Struggle with consistency. It’s time to affirm who you are, write your own story, be intentional, and establish a positive environment. This episode is for you if you are coping with multiple different mini-crises per day, worried about your physical health, a pressing assignment at work, or the fact that people don't appreciate you at work. You might be burnt out of terrible first dates, disappointing partnerships, or struggling with your body image or your weight. There are so many different ways that the struggle is 100% real. But today, I want to challenge you a little bit. And I want to ask a question. The struggle is real, but does it have to be? Let’s talk about it.
Dec 08, 2021
Identifying Burnout
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Today I want to talk to you about the three things, what burnout is, the symptoms of black girl burnout, and what burnout specifically means for black women. You have likely felt the impact of burnout before. It is the knots in your shoulder. It is the rock in the pit of your stomach. It's the exhaustion you feel when you must engage with a co-worker who is committing all kinds of microaggressions against you. It's the frustration of realizing that if the American dream isn't even possible for white people anymore, why am I even trying? It's the tears you hold back when you see another incident of police brutality or another verdict that just reinforces for you that the justice system was never created for black people. Let’s talk about it.
Dec 07, 2021
Introducing Black Girl Burnout
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My name is Kelley Bonner, and welcome to the Black Girl Burnout podcast. This podcast is dedicated to helping black women manage the stress of daily living while preventing the detrimental effects of burnout. As black women we often feel overburdened and undervalued. This deadly combination demands a podcast offering probable solutions for burnout just for you. As a licensed therapist with over 15 years of experience, helping people and organizations transform, evolve and heal burnout. I am ready to dive deep on topics around burnout, including career burnout, relationship burnout, and how racism and sexism contribute to the acceleration of burnout. Spend just 15 minutes with me three times a week, and I will help you develop the tools needed to combat and overcome burnout. During each episode, I will walk you through bite sized and manageable practices that will give you immediate relief by leaning into your intuition and becoming more engaged and connected with yourself and your community. This podcast is a labor of love because it's about us having my own painful experiences with burnout and recovery. I see you because I am you. Join me on the Black Girl Burnout podcast and let's build a community of resilient women thriving through the week together with optimism, humor, and a lot of grace. I can't wait to heal with you.
Dec 02, 2021