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Sibling Aggression & Conflict | Why It Happens & What To Do (Step by Step) | 17
Few things are more triggering than seeing your kids fight nonstop with each other. And when there's aggression involved, our brains go into emergency mode and want to make it stop right NOW.
And rightfully so. Our main job is to keep our kids safe and aggression towards others is a threat to safety.
There's so much to say about sibling conflict but in today's episode, I want to talk specifically about the dynamic where an older sibling (I'm imagining toddler or preschool age) becomes aggressive towards their younger sibling (an infant, young toddler).
How do we respond? What's the best way to intervene in these situations? Let's discuss.
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|May 23, 2022|
PACIFIERS, TODDLER BEDS AND POTTY TRAINING ... Which Order to Do! | 16
The toddler years are full of so many transitions. From bottles to cups, pacifiers to other comfort items, cribs to toddler beds, and diapers to underwear - it’s a lot of transition and it can feel stressful for both kids and parents. You might be wondering — Which one comes first? Is it pacifiers, toddler beds, or potty training?! What’s the best order? How do I minimize the tears and make it as smooth as possible? In this episode, I share exactly what order to do all these transitions in and why! DOWNLOAD MY FREE POTTY TRAINING CHECKLISTS for a complete list of signs to look out for, potty training essentials, and how to mentally prepare yourself and your child for potty training: https://themompsychologist.com/pottychecklists
|May 16, 2022|
Are You Breaking Generational Cycles? 6 Signs You're Growing as a Parent | 15
I know in the parenting world, it's easy to focus on the areas we need to grow and the areas our children need to grow. But today, I want to share signs you are GROWING as a parent. I know it's easy to focus only on the areas where we need to improve (discipline, validating feelings, boundaries, etc) that it's so easy to lose sight of our WINS. I'm a huge fan of celebrating our wins as parents because if we start to pay attention to them, the wins start to stack up! All of a sudden, we're WINNING! In this week's episode, I dive into the 6 signs you're growing as a parent and breaking generational cycles! JOIN THE MOM SISTERHOOD FOR PARENT COACHING & COMMUNITY! http://themompsychologist.com/sisterhood
|Apr 25, 2022|
How to Enjoy Motherhood MORE | 14
Are you feeling burned out and miserable as a mom? Do you feel like life is passing you by while you sludge from one pointless task to another? Maybe you've started to regret becoming a mom because you miss your old life before when you could sleep in, be more spontaneous, and relish in your own desires and needs without having to constantly consider another's. Then, once you realize you're having these thoughts, here comes the MOM GUILT. "I'm such a bad mom! I can't believe I miss my life before kids. I love my kids. Why am I thinking like this?!" If you can relate, please know I see you + you're soooo not alone! This week, I'm bringing another episode of Ask Dr. Jaz where you ask questions and I offer my thoughts. And a fellow mom from our community, bravely shared that she doesn't enjoy motherhood and often regrets her old life. Come hear my advice for Emma (and all moms out there) struggling to find JOY in motherhood! PS: Be sure to take my free 2-min quiz to find out your parenting style and tips for better connection and cooperation! Link in my bio or go to www.themomopsychologist.com/quiz
|Apr 18, 2022|
IN A RUSH?! How to Be a Patient Parent When You're in a TIME CRUNCH! STORY TIME & TIPS | 13
IN A RUSH?! How to Be a Patient Parent When You're in a TIME CRUNCH! STORY TIME & TIPS | The Mom Psychologist A quick story time about morning impatience, rush, and stress to show how I used my power of awareness to harness more patience and calm. JOIN THE FREE 5 DAY MINDFUL MAMA CHALLENGE for greater self-awareness, patience, and presence! ➡ http://www.themompsychologist.com/challenge
|Apr 11, 2022|
Exactly What to Say to Kids When You're ANGRY | 12
When we're frustrated at our kids, we tend to move with haste. Everything feels like an emergency that needs to be handled immediately.
I know it sounds almost too simple to be effective, but talking out loud can help you slow down.
Taking time to label your emotions, talk through what's happening in the moment and how it's impacting you can have such a powerful impact.
Doing this teaching your child:
✔Intense emotions are normal
✔How to handle intense feelings in the moment in healthy ways
✔Feelings aren't good or bad. They just are. It's what we do in response to our intense feelings that matters.
✔Feelings come and go
In this video, I'll share exactly what to say in the moment when you're feeling frustrated in front of your kids.
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|Apr 04, 2022|
About to Yell at Your Kids? Try This Instead! | 11
Let's face it. We all need breaks from our kids. It's impossible to be "ON" 24/7 as parents. Trying to be ON all the time leads to us yelling, losing our cool and doing and saying these we later regret. That's why I think it's so important for us parents to regularly take breaks from our kids. This truly is an excellent skill to model for kids. They'll learn this from seeing us do this over and over again. Ideally, our kids will come to expect this from us and even take their own breaks when needed. Think of parenting as a marathon, not a sprint. Every day, we're running a marathon and we will need periods of rest and mental breaks to get back in the race. In this week's episode, I break down how to tell your kids you need a break, step by step! I also share troubleshooting advice when they get upset by our need for a break and how to take breaks when with infants and young toddlers. Take my free 2-min quiz: What's Your Parenting Style?http://www.themompsychologist.com/quiz
|Mar 21, 2022|
Need to Increase Cooperation and Listening in Kids? Try These Phrases & Tips! | 10
Figuring out how to redirect behavior and increase your child's cooperation can feel tricky in the moment. We know that our language is important but it's easy to feel flustered and fall back on old habits and say and do things we hate, like yelling, punishing, and dishing out empty threats. Ideally speaking, it's important to think ahead on how we want to show up in the moment and what we want to say so that we can show up in the ways we want most. In general you want to: ✔Provide information on why you want to do something different ✔Give them an alternative to try in the moment ✔Make a plan for when they can get their need/want met ✔Let them know of the consequence if the behavior continues ✔Choose clear language that directly sets expectations for behavior In this week's video, I break down each point and provide examples and phrases to try in the moment. This will help you feel more prepared for how to handle difficult parenting moments. Take my free 2-min quiz: What's Your Parenting Style?http://www.themompsychologist.com/quiz
|Mar 14, 2022|
Child Won't Nap? Try Quiet Time Instead! | 9
Transitioning out of naps can feel tricky to navigate. ❓At what age do kids drop naps for good? ❓What to do their naps start to interfere with bedtime? ❓What to do if they resist staying in their room during their usual nap time? It's tricky, partly because every child's sleep needs and routine are different. In general, I recommend keeping naps for as long as possible (as long as it's not interfering with bedtime sleep). And when they stop napping (or naps stop being helpful), quiet time can be a great alternative to try. During quiet time, kids engage in play and other activities by themselves. Their area is quiet and away from stimulation. They may even still have their sound machine on and the room can be dim. They're not interacting with anyone else or on their screens. Why is quiet time important? Everyone (including our kids) needs time during the day to rest and recharge. We are more likely to get irritable and overstimulated if we're around people all day and don't have time to ourselves. This is also an important skill to learn (The art of being alone) and this time alone encourages creativity, innovation, and self-reflection. In this episode, I share: ✅How to know when it's time to shift from naps to quiet time ✅How long quiet time should be ✅What activities are best for quiet time ✅How to implement quiet time if you live in a small house and/or your kids share a room ✅How to respond if/when your child resists quiet time and leaves the room QUIET TIME ESSENTIALS (AMAZON AFFILIATE LINKS): https://a.co/3PWEcVL Don’t forget to check out my free discipline workshop, “How to Get Your Child to Listen Without Yelling” - www.themompsychologist.com/workshop
|Mar 07, 2022|
Common Signs of Stress in Kids & How to Help | Ask Dr. Jaz | 8
Undergoing major life transitions like starting a new grade, moving to a new home, or welcoming a new sibling can be really stressful for kids.
Common signs of stress in kids include tantrums, regression (including sleep and potty training), body complaints (stomachaches, headaches, etc), general anxiety and worry, anger, crying, separation anxiety, and/or new or recurring fears.
In this week's episode, I share:
✅How to start the conversation with your kids about their stressful experience(s)
✅How to help your child problem solve and cope better with stress
✅Several other practical tips for stress management for kids.
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|Feb 28, 2022|
TANTRUMS: What to Do & Say | Ask Dr. Jaz | 7
So you've been trying all the latest tips and tricks when it comes to positive parenting. You've been reading up on tantrums and you're trying to validate your child's feelings and label their emotions because ultimately you want to raise an emotionally intelligent child who makes good choices. The only catch is it seems to backfire in the moment. Rather than helping to calm your child's tantrum, your words seem to escalate them! You go to talk about feelings, and it only activates their feelings even more! What gives?! Well in this episode of Ask Dr. Jaz, I breakdown the common reasons why your words backfire and how the experience may feel for your child. I also dive into what to do and say during these stressful moments if your words seem to hurt rather than help. PS: Call (916) 581-0177 to submit your question for a chance to be featured in a future episode.
|Feb 21, 2022|
Are Potty Training Rewards GOOD or BAD?! | 6
I know the topic of rewards while potty training can be a bit controversial and many of us have mixed feelings. In this week's episode, I share my candid clinical recommendations as well as my personal experience when it comes to rewards and potty training. But I'll cut to the chase in this email - I think it's up to the parent/caregiver to decide. Every parent is so different and what motivates one child might not motivate another. I think it's important to decide what's best for your family even if it takes a bit of trial and error to get there. This week's episode dives in to what positive reinforcement is, the different forms (including rewards) and some things to consider about each form. Now one thing I didn't mention in the episode that I want to make clear is there's a difference between rewards and bribing. Rewards are pre-planned and intentional. It follows the behavior you're trying to teach while bribes precede the behavior. A reward sounds like, "WHEN you sit on the potty, THEN you'll receive this." VS a bribe sounds like, "I'll give you a piece of candy IF you sit on the potty." Bribes are often done out of desperation and overwhelm. Visit https://themompsychologist.com/pottybootcamp to check out my potty training class!
|Feb 14, 2022|
How to Know When Your Child Is Ready to Potty Train | 5
The number one question I receive when it comes to potty training is, "How do I know when they're ready???"
Here's the thing - there's no magical age when it comes to potty training.
Every child is different and should start when they are developmentally ready.
In general, you want to look out for developmental signs of readiness including:
In this episode, break down exactly what the most common signs are in each category. Keep in mind, they don't need to show *all* signs to be deemed ready and there are things you can do to help prepare them for potty training (discussed during the episode).
POTTY TRAINING CLASS: Visit http://www.themompsychologist.com/pottybootcamp for all the details.
|Feb 07, 2022|
Phrases to Avoid While Potty Training | 4
The early days and weeks of potty training can be really tricky! Accidents and resistance are par for the course. But with all the struggles, it can be hard to know what to do and say while potty training. In this video, I'll breakdown: ✔Top phrases to avoid saying while potty training ✔Why you want to avoid these phrases ✔What to do and say in the moment for more potty training success! Need more potty training support? Don't miss my live potty training class on Feb. 16th! Click the link for all the details! http://www.themompsychologist.com/pottybootcamp
|Jan 31, 2022|
How to Teach Kids About "Stranger Danger" | 3
Of course we hope our children never encounter an unsafe stranger. We hope they will never be in a place where they have to scream and defend themselves against an unsafe person or stranger.
But, just as with other important life skills, this is an important life skill to teach our children. Begin to teach them about strangers around age 4.
You'll also want to teach about body boundaries and consent. Unfortunately, some familiar adults can prove dangerous as well.
In this episode, I share:
|Jan 24, 2022|
6 Phrases to Stop Saying To Your Kids | 2
In parenting, we tend to fall back on phrases when talking with our kids. We use the same phrases over and over again. Some of these phrases work and others, not so much. It's so important to reflect on the language we use, especially if our goal is to elicit more cooperation and help our kids make good choices. In today's episode, I'll share 6 common parenting phrases to stop using. For each phrase, I'll share why we often say these phrases in the first place, why it backfires on us, and most importantly, what to say instead and why. Hope you enjoy! PS: Check out my free discipline workshop, How to Get Your Kids to Listen Without Yelling, at www.themompsychologist.com/workshop!
|Jan 17, 2022|
Top Phrases to Teach Kids (to Cutback on Tantrums & Aggressive Behaviors) | 1
Giving our kids the language to use during social situations is KEY. When we teach kids exactly what they can say to get their needs met in social situations, we are building their self awareness, confidence, and ability to advocate for themselves. In general, I'm a fan of teaching good manners (e.g., please, thank you, excuse me), how to advocate for boundaries, how to ask for help, how to communicate their feelings and needs, and how to initiate conversations. In today's episode I will the exact phrases, word for word, to start teaching your child to say. You'll want to start teaching these phrases as soon as possible. Even if you have an infant. You can start teaching them through your modeling. Kids are always listening and picking up on our language (for better or worse, lol). Mind as well be intentional about the language we use so they can start advocating for themselves. Teaching these phrases will cut back on tantrums and aggressive behaviors because now they have the language they can use instead of lashing out with their bodies. It's a win-win! Hope you enjoy! PS: Check out my free discipline workshop, How to Get Your Kids to Listen Without Yelling, at www.themompsychologist.com/workshop!
|Jan 09, 2022|