You Are Not Crazy

By Jessica Knight

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Description

You’re exhausted from over-functioning. Always managing the chaos. Always trying to keep the peace.

You feel alone. Misunderstood. Like no one sees the full story—except you.


You question yourself constantly. You wonder if you’re the problem.


You’re not.


This podcast helps you understand emotional abuse, coercive control, narcissistic relationships, and trauma bonds—so you can stop doubting yourself and start trusting what you already know.


I’m Jessica Knight, emotional abuse coach and survivor. I help people make sense of confusing, destabilizing relationship dynamics—including gaslighting, manipulation, intermittent reinforcement, and post-separation abuse.


Here, you’ll learn to recognize the patterns of narcissistic abuse, understand the psychology of trauma bonding, and rebuild your sense of clarity, stability, and self-trust.


This podcast is especially for you if you are:

• Leaving or recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship
 • Navigating divorce or post-separation coercive control
 • Trying to co-parent with a high-conflict or manipulative partner
 • Questioning your reality after gaslighting
 • Rebuilding yourself after psychological abuse


You are not crazy. Your nervous system adapted to survive something real.


This is your space to understand what happened, reclaim your truth, and heal—on your terms.


🖤 Learn more and find resources at www.emotionalabusecoach.com


Episode Date
I'm Not Fucked Up, I'm Detoxing
May 20, 2026
Walking on Razor Blades: Life with Someone with BPD Description
May 13, 2026
How I Actually Healed (And Why It Didn't Look the Way I Expected)
May 06, 2026
What I Did When I Couldn't Trust My Own Mind
Apr 29, 2026
BPD Splitting in Relationships: What It Feels Like and How to Heal
Apr 22, 2026
Why They Never See It: The Psychology Behind Why Personality-Disordered People Don't Know They're the Problem
Apr 15, 2026
Pattern Recognition vs. The Blame Game
Apr 08, 2026
When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse
Apr 01, 2026
How I Help Clients Untangle High-Conflict Divorce
Mar 25, 2026
“No One Sees It” — The Pattern of Covert Abuse (And Why the System Misses It)
Mar 18, 2026
Wanting Them to Change Isn’t Abuse - Interview with Paul Colaianni
Mar 11, 2026
“Why Do I Feel Crazy?” — Life Inside a Trauma Bond
Mar 04, 2026
When Leaving Feels Impossible: The Hidden Reality of Loving Someone With Untreated BPD
Feb 25, 2026
Why They Feel Fine After the Blowup—and You Don’t
Feb 18, 2026
Emotional Whiplash, Hypervigilance, and the BPD Cycle of Abuse
Feb 11, 2026
When They Say You Can’t Communicate
Feb 04, 2026
Letting Go of the Why
Jan 28, 2026
The Blame Game: A Key Tactic in the Cycle of Emotional Abuse
Jan 21, 2026
When Co-Parenting Messages Make You Doubt Yourself
Jan 17, 2026
How Do I Stop Second Guessing Myself After Leaving an Abusive Relationship?
Jan 14, 2026
The Holiday Breakdown: Why High-Conflict Co-Parenting Becomes Unbearable
Jan 09, 2026
When “How to Treat a Man” Teaches Women to Disappear
Jan 07, 2026
Instead of Resolutions, I Do This
Dec 31, 2025
Dreading the New Year Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing
Dec 24, 2025
The Holidays, the Cycle of Abuse, and the Moment You Finally See It
Dec 17, 2025
Why the Holidays Feel Heavy (Even When You’ve Left)
Dec 10, 2025
Double Speak: When Coercive Control Hides Behind "Concern"
Dec 03, 2025
“You’re the Only One Who Has a Problem With Me”
Nov 26, 2025
When Everything Feels Like a Misunderstanding
Nov 19, 2025
How to Document DARVO in Family Court
Nov 14, 2025
When the Court Feels Like the Abuser: Family Court Awareness Month and the Fight for Safety
Nov 12, 2025
DARVO in Divorce — When the Abuser Becomes the “Victim”
Nov 07, 2025
When You Become the Villain in Their Story
Nov 05, 2025
How Do I Stop Craving Them? And Have They Really Changed?
Oct 31, 2025
Abusers Don’t See Themselves as Abusers
Oct 29, 2025
You’re Not Crazy—You’re Trauma Bonded
Oct 24, 2025
False Accountability and the Control Behind It
Oct 22, 2025
You Can’t Talk to Your Lawyer Like They’re Your Friend
Oct 17, 2025
What I Learned from Loving a Narcissist (Even Though It Nearly Broke Me)
Oct 15, 2025
High-Conflict Divorce and Co-Parenting
Oct 10, 2025
Inside the Trauma Bond: Why I Couldn’t Leave (and How I Finally Did)
Oct 08, 2025
Craving Relief: Why Trauma Bonds Feel Impossible to Break
Oct 01, 2025
How to Work With Me: Coaching, Courses, and What’s Ahead
Sep 29, 2025
The Cycle of Sexual Coercion
Sep 24, 2025
The “Nice” Version Isn’t Proof They’ve Changed
Sep 17, 2025
From Love Bombing to Losing Myself — and Finding My Way Back
Sep 10, 2025
Am I Overreacting?
Sep 03, 2025
When It Was Never About Change: Understanding the Psychology Behind Cluster B Abuse
Aug 27, 2025
Breaking the Trauma Bond
Aug 20, 2025
Healing a Trauma Bond: The Power You Still Have
Aug 13, 2025
Whose Shame Are You Carrying? How Abusers Offload Pain to Avoid Accountability
Aug 06, 2025
Why Abusers Believe Their Own Lies with Paul Colaianni
Jul 30, 2025
When You’re Not Allowed to Be Human: A Journal Entry from Inside the Cycle of Abuse
Jul 23, 2025
The Abuse That Didn’t Look Like Abuse
Jul 16, 2025
The Manipulation I Didn’t See—Until I Did
Jul 09, 2025
Mapping Your Specific Cycle of Abuse
Jul 02, 2025
Can a Narcissist Actually Change?
Jun 25, 2025
Why It Hurts So Much (Even After Everything)
Jun 18, 2025
Why They Couldn’t Love You: Understanding Emotional Capacity in Toxic Relationships
Jun 11, 2025
Understanding the Trauma Bond
Jun 04, 2025
The Outburst That Isn’t About You: Emotional Storms and BPD Traits
May 28, 2025
They're Just Avoiding Accountability
May 22, 2025
The Cumulative Effect: Why It Wasn’t “Just One Thing”
May 14, 2025
When Betrayal Breaks Your Sense of Self
May 07, 2025
Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: Why It Matters and How It Can Help
Apr 30, 2025
He Controlled the Money — Now What? with Victoria Kirilloff
Apr 23, 2025
Breaking Free from a Pathological Partner with Dr. Nae
Apr 16, 2025
How Abusers Use Therapy Against You
Apr 09, 2025
When Gaslighting Silences Your Inner Voice
Apr 02, 2025
Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish—It’s Necessary
Mar 28, 2025
Are You Trapped in a High Conflict Divorce with a Narcissist?
Mar 26, 2025
DARVO: The Manipulation Tactic That Keeps You Questioning Yourself
Mar 21, 2025
How Cluster B Traits Show Up in Toxic Relationships
Mar 19, 2025
I Love You, If You Do This: A Story of Realizing Sexual Coercion
Mar 14, 2025
Do You Feel Pressured to be Intimate?
Mar 12, 2025
Aimee the AI Advocate: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors of Emotional Abuse
Mar 05, 2025
Navigating Breakups
Feb 26, 2025
Understanding the Capability of Emotionally Abusive People with Paul Colaianni
Feb 19, 2025
Trauma Bonding – Understanding the Addictive Cycle in Toxic Relationships
Feb 12, 2025
Breaking Free from a Toxic Relationship
Feb 08, 2025
Why Am I Stuck?
Jan 29, 2025
Fear of Abandonment vs. Pushing People Away: Breaking the Cycle of Chaos in Relationships
Jan 22, 2025
When "No" Isn't Respected: Understanding Sexual Coercion
Jan 15, 2025
Divorce Coaching is a Game-Changer for High-Conflict Situations
Jan 08, 2025
Navigating New Year’s Pressure After Emotional Abuse
Jan 01, 2025
Holiday Triggers and Emotional Healing
Dec 25, 2024
High-Conflict Co-Parenting During the Holidays
Dec 18, 2024
Holidays Without Your Kids
Dec 11, 2024
Emotional Coercion
Dec 04, 2024
Coercive Control with Dr Christine Cocchiola
Nov 27, 2024
Financial Coercion with Victoria Kirilloff
Nov 20, 2024
Last Straw Moments
Nov 13, 2024
Is it love or is it control?
Nov 06, 2024
Why we romanticize past toxic relationships
Oct 30, 2024
Sexual Coercion
Oct 23, 2024
Understanding the Mindset of an Abusive Person
Oct 16, 2024
Insidious and Not-So-Insidious Control
Oct 09, 2024
The Challenge of Setting Boundaries
Oct 02, 2024
Seeing Them for Who They Really Are
Sep 25, 2024
A Relationship with someone w/BPD
Sep 18, 2024
Is Your Relationship Safe?
Sep 11, 2024
Are you feeling crazy after a breakup?
Sep 04, 2024
How to Work with Me
Aug 30, 2024
Are You Becoming Like Them?
Aug 28, 2024
"Co-parenting" with a Narcissist: Interview with Chantal Contorines
Aug 21, 2024
Q & A Episode: Responding to Fan Mail Questions
Aug 15, 2024
What Recovery FEELS Like with Paul Colaianni
Aug 14, 2024
Beginning to Heal
Aug 07, 2024
The Three Faces of Your Partner in an Abusive Relationship
Jul 31, 2024
Why It's Okay to Not Be Over It Yet
Jul 24, 2024
Trauma Bonding is Betrayal Trauma
Jul 17, 2024
Reclaiming your inner voice with Amy Fielder
Jul 10, 2024
Borderline Personality Disorder
Jul 03, 2024
Recognizing and Resisting Manipulation
Jun 26, 2024
Co-Parenting with Grace: Navigating Difficult Waters with Kind Mama Coaching
Jun 19, 2024
Q&A Episode with Jessica Knight
Jun 12, 2024
Cognitive Dissonance with Kerry McAvoy
Jun 05, 2024
Navigating the Financial Storm of Divorce with Victoria Kirilloff
May 29, 2024
Narcissists rewrite history to escape accountability
May 22, 2024
An Update on Christina Pierce
May 16, 2024
Understanding the Nuance of the Cycle of Abuse
May 08, 2024
The Danger of Oversimplified Advice
May 01, 2024
Recognizing the Red Flags of Abuse
Apr 25, 2024
A Guide for Protective Moms with Courtney Gilmartin
Apr 17, 2024
Further Unpacking Gaslighting
Apr 10, 2024
Breaking the Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse: Understanding the Discard with Ben Taylor
Apr 03, 2024
The 5 Love Languages Do Not Work With Abuse
Mar 27, 2024
Does the abuser see you as a person?
Mar 20, 2024
Emotional Immaturity and it's Ties to Abuse
Mar 06, 2024
Recognizing Manipulation and Healing from Emotional Abuse
Mar 05, 2024
Understanding Trauma Responses and Triggers with Emmy Marie
Feb 28, 2024
Is it Emotional Abuse? Assessment Tool
Feb 22, 2024
Coercive Control
Feb 14, 2024
Single Mother Stripped of Parenting Rights: The Reality of High Conflict Divorce
Feb 04, 2024
Detaching from an Abusive Relationship
Jan 31, 2024
Healthy After Toxic with Ginger Dean
Jan 24, 2024
Deciphering Personality Disorders and Navigating Manipulative Relationships with Kerry Kerr McAvoy
Jan 17, 2024
Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies and Insights with Family Court Strategist Tori
Jan 10, 2024
Inside the Mind of a Narcissist with Ben Taylor
Jan 03, 2024
Navigating the Maze of Subtle Emotional Abuse
Dec 27, 2023
Decoding Narcissistic Abuse and Manipulation Tactics with Katherine Kleis
Dec 20, 2023
Navigating the Journey from Emotional Abuse to Self-Awareness and Love
Dec 13, 2023
Understanding and Healing Trauma Bonds with Lisa Sonni
Dec 06, 2023
Navigating the Holidays with Narcissistic Ex's and Co-Parenting
Nov 30, 2023
Breaking the Cycle of Rumination with Trey
Nov 22, 2023
Navigating Abusive Relationships with Paul Colaianni: Q&A Episode
Nov 15, 2023
Love Addiction: Understanding and Overcoming with Psychotherapist Jodi White
Nov 08, 2023
Working Through Trauma from Abuse with Emmy Marie
Nov 01, 2023
Recognizing and Healing from Covert Narcissism with Erin Riley
Oct 25, 2023
How to Divorce a Narcissist with Tina Swithin
Oct 18, 2023
Reactive Abuse: Recognizing Patterns with Paul Colaianni
Oct 11, 2023
Understanding and Overcoming Gaslighting in Toxic Relationships with Dr. Frieda
Oct 04, 2023
Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse
Sep 27, 2023
Recognizing and Overcoming Abusive Relationships: Episode 100
Sep 20, 2023
Regaining Control in Toxic Relationships
Sep 13, 2023
End of Friendships & Navigating Post-Trauma Relationships
Sep 06, 2023
Choosing a Therapist or Life Coach when Healing from Abuse
Aug 30, 2023
Unraveling Insecure Attachment Styles: Understanding and Overcoming Anxiety in Relationships
Aug 23, 2023
Unraveling the Family Court System: Strategies for Protecting Your Child in High Conflict Divorces
Aug 16, 2023
Escaping the Cycle: Healing from Toxic Relationships and Trauma Bonds with Ben Taylor
Aug 09, 2023
Journey to Healing: Overcoming Trauma through Therapy, Yoga and Mindfulness with Anna Hindell
Aug 02, 2023
Love After Abuse with Nia Renee
Jul 26, 2023
How to Begin to Heal from a Trauma Bond
Jul 19, 2023
Breaking Free from Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse
Jul 14, 2023
Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist {Interview with Tori}
Jul 12, 2023
"How Can I Get Him to Understand Me?"
Jul 05, 2023
How I Got Here - My Story
Jun 28, 2023
Codependancy and Narcissistic Abuse with Manjit Rupri
Jun 21, 2023
Inside Love You More: Surviving Emotional, Sexual and Financial Abuse
Jun 14, 2023
Growing Up in a Narcissistic Home & Healing from Abuse with Katherine Kleis
Jun 07, 2023
The Healing Empath with Raven Scott
May 31, 2023
The Rollercoaster of Narcissistic Abuse with Rossana Faye
May 24, 2023
Importance of Community when Healing from Narcissistic Abuse with Kerry McAvoy
May 12, 2023
What is Trauma Bonding?
May 10, 2023
The Intersection Between Christianity and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor
May 03, 2023
Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse with Trey
Apr 26, 2023
When You're Stuck in Love with an Abuser
Apr 20, 2023
How Do You Know You're Not the Problem? {aka not a Narcissist}
Apr 12, 2023
Signs You're Co-Parenting with a Narcissist + Q&A
Apr 05, 2023
Shame, Blame and Narcissistic Abuse with Ben Taylor
Mar 29, 2023
Surviving Narcissistic Abuse with Ashlee Levitch
Mar 22, 2023
Divorcing and Co-Parenting a Narcissist with Kind Mama Divorce Coaching
Mar 15, 2023
Love Bombing
Mar 08, 2023
Sexual and Marital Coercion with Nat/Mending Me
Mar 01, 2023
Can the Abuser and the Victim Learn to Love Healthy? {Interview with Paul Colliani}
Feb 22, 2023
Fawning: What is it and why do we do it?
Feb 17, 2023
Healing After an Abusive Relationship with Emmy Marie
Feb 15, 2023
Fawning Explained - What it feels like
Feb 10, 2023
Pamela Anderson Documentary
Feb 09, 2023
The Narcissists Perspective with a Diagnosed Narcissist {Interview with Lee Hammock}
Feb 08, 2023
No Contact with a Narcissist
Feb 03, 2023
The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse with Psychologist Kerry Kerr McAvoy
Feb 01, 2023
10 Signs You're in a Trauma Bond
Jan 27, 2023
Understanding Narcissism in South Asian Culture
Jan 25, 2023
Narcissistic Personality Disorder with Manjit Kaur Ruprai
Jan 18, 2023
The Yellow Rock Method for Communicating with a Narcissistic Co-Parent
Jan 12, 2023
Parallel Parenting Explained
Jan 11, 2023
What I Learned from Being in a Relationship with a Narcissist
Jan 04, 2023
Is it Abuse or Toxicity? 3 Tools to Understand
Dec 29, 2022
5 Reasons Narcissists Ruin the Holidays
Dec 21, 2022
Did the Narcissist Love Me?
Dec 18, 2022
Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse Q & A
Dec 14, 2022
The Rules of a Non-Abusive Relationship Do Not Apply to a Narcissistic Breakup
Dec 09, 2022
How to Leave (Part 1)
Dec 07, 2022
5 Qualities of a Healthy Partner
Dec 02, 2022
"Don't Rock the Boat" is Toxic
Nov 30, 2022
Working to Control Your Thoughts is Important
Nov 23, 2022
A Meditation to Help You Connect to Yourself
Nov 20, 2022
Am I Responsible for Feeling Abused?
Nov 18, 2022
Understanding Trauma Bonds with Lisa Sonni
Nov 16, 2022
Emotional Abuse on Netflix Love is Blind (Matt and Colleen)
Nov 10, 2022
Post Separation Abuse and the Family Court System {Interview with Tina Swithin}
Nov 09, 2022
Narcissistic Projection Explained
Nov 04, 2022
When you don't know you're being Gaslit, you defend yourself endlessly
Nov 02, 2022
Conversations with a Narcissist
Oct 28, 2022
Identifying a Trauma Bond
Oct 26, 2022
The Difference Between Therapy and Coaching
Oct 21, 2022
What Emotional Abuse Looks and Feels Like
Oct 19, 2022
The Mind of the Abuser, Interview with Paul Colaianni, Host of the Love and Abuse Podcast
Oct 12, 2022
The Relationship Recovery Program
Oct 06, 2022
Types of Abuse in Domestic Partnerships
Oct 05, 2022
Season Break Update
Sep 05, 2022
End of Season Updates
Aug 26, 2022
A Purgatory
Aug 10, 2022
How to Stop Feeling Bad for a Narcissist
Aug 03, 2022
Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse
Jul 28, 2022
How to Break a Trauma Bond
Jul 18, 2022
Why Other Peoples Opinions Do Not Matter
Jul 13, 2022
Books that Helped Me Heal
Jul 10, 2022
Interview with a Love Witch
Jun 17, 2022
How to Use Canned Responses as a Boundary
Jun 15, 2022
Wait, do you only work with 20-30 yr olds?
Jun 07, 2022
7 Ways to Starve a Narcissist
Jun 06, 2022
Understanding Qualities of Narcissistic Behaviors - Part 3
Jun 01, 2022
Understanding Qualities of Narcissistic Behavior - Part 2
May 25, 2022
Understanding the Qualities of Narcissistic Behavior - Part 1
May 17, 2022
5 Strategies To Help You When Dealing with a Narcissist or Emotional Abuser
May 13, 2022
What is the Difference Between a Narcissist and an Abuser?
May 04, 2022
Emotional Abuse Q & A
Apr 27, 2022
What do you do when the Emotional Abuser comes back?
Apr 20, 2022
How to Diffuse a Narcissist
Apr 13, 2022
How to Set Boundaries with an Abuser
Apr 05, 2022
Learning to be There for Yourself
Mar 28, 2022
Understanding the Cycle of Abuse
Mar 23, 2022
An Abusers Apology and How to Know if they are Truly Sorry
Mar 15, 2022
I Hate the Rhetoric on Self Love
Mar 07, 2022
What it Feels Like to be in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Mar 02, 2022
What it's Like to Work with Me
Feb 23, 2022
Common Signs of Gaslighting and How to Ungaslight Yourself
Feb 12, 2022
Trauma Bonding and How We Can Heal
Feb 07, 2022
What are Signs of Emotional Abuse?
Jan 30, 2022
Will My Emotionally Abusive Partner Change?
Jan 18, 2022
My Story
Jan 10, 2022