Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; motherhood, toddler tantrum, behavior, co

By Kaili Zeiher

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Are you tired of struggling to figure out what to do about your child’s behavior? Do you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers while at the same time trying to calm your child down and feel like nothing is working? Do you feel guilty after losing your cool 15 minutes into a tantrum and wonder if you’re doing this whole motherhood thing right? Are you wishing there was something that would just work consistently to get your child to listen? Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist and momma to 2 energetic boys and I’m so grateful you are here! I remember what it felt like to struggle with my son’s aggressive behavior. I felt alone. I felt like no one else I knew was going through the same things or could understand what I was going through. And I had no idea what to do. I tried everything I could think of but nothing really seemed to work or that stuck anyway. Feeling completely overwhelmed and exhausted, like I was at the end of my rope, I found Hand in Hand parenting and I completely fell in love with the approach. It was everything I had ever dreamed motherhood would be about; training my child in a way that actually felt good and didn’t require rewards and punishments to obey and respect my authority. Plus, it focused on what the child’s behavior actually meant! Resolving things at a root cause level. What could be better than that?? Needless to say, I was hooked and after implementing the different connection focused strategies I saw more transformation than I ever thought possible. But not just in my son’s behavior, in my ability to remain calm through it all and my confidence in the approach I had chosen. No more comparison or worry of judgment. I knew this was the right path. I wanted to make sure other moms out there who were struggling just like I was, had access to this information so I completed a professionals intensive training in Hand in Hand parenting and started sharing it. Inside this podcast you will find tips, strategies, and perspective shifts to manage your child’s behavior as well as your triggers, and a constant shove outside the mainstream recommendations to utilize manipulation to change your child’s behavior. We are going to dive deep into how to implement CONNECTION, a vital necessity that the world wants to make us believe our children don’t actually need. This is the game-changing, missing link and I’m going to give you tangible steps on how to incorporate it into your daily routines and in those extra challenging moments so your home doesn’t feel like a stressful and chaotic place but rather one where feelings are welcomed, behavior is understood as communication, and joy abounds. So get comfy, I know you need a minute to take a rest after all you’ve been doing today, and join me as we jump into managing behaviors through connection! XO Kaili The Motherhood CONNECTION monthly membership: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65977fa029eaba0244c4dd66 Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaili.zeiher/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kaili.schwirtz/

Episode Date
5 Ways You Are More Like Your Child Than Unlike Him/Her
Mar 06, 2024
Is your child's aggressive behavior due to a sensory processing issue?
Feb 28, 2024
Birthday Envy: What to do when one child is jealous of a sibling's birthday + presents
Feb 21, 2024
Do you want to shift the attitudes and behaviors in your home?? Here's how!
Feb 14, 2024
Do you ever feel overwhelmed or exhausted and then struggle to approach behavior with connection?
Feb 08, 2024
Do your kids struggle to get along? 3 keys to approaching sibling conflict!
Jan 31, 2024
Do you ever struggle to figure out how to handle a certain behavior or what to say in a given situation? Not anymore! One tip that will transform how you determine your response!
Jan 24, 2024
4 Ways to Help You Keep Your Cool When You Get Triggered!
Jan 16, 2024
The Missing Piece When Teaching Your Child How To Use Calming Strategies To Regulate
Jan 09, 2024
Behavior Focused Goals, Habits, and Routines for a Year of More Connection, Joy, and Peace in your Home!
Jan 04, 2024
Surviving the Holiday Hangover: 3 Strategies to Support Your Child’s Emotions Without Losing Your Mind
Dec 27, 2023
[SPECIAL GUEST -Part 2] Does meal planning and prep feel overwhelming?? + Navigating holiday food with kids!
Dec 20, 2023
[SPECIAL GUEST - part 1] Are you struggling with your child’s picky eating?? Here’s how to approach mealtimes with safety and connection!
Dec 13, 2023
Elf on the Shelf: Should you do it??
Dec 05, 2023
Are you in a motherhood season that feels overwhelming? 5 tips to help!
Nov 28, 2023
The truth about timeouts and what you can do instead!
Nov 21, 2023
A FUN way to manage aggressive/physical behaviors!
Nov 12, 2023
Does your child run from you in public places? A step by step guide for what to do without requiring a ”leash”!
Nov 03, 2023
Listener Q & A
Oct 27, 2023
Luella’s Birth Story
Oct 21, 2023
Stop talking so much! 2 areas you could be creating more overwhelm, overstimulation, and behavior.
Oct 06, 2023
SPECIAL GUEST: The Calm Mom! Tips + strategies to help come to behavior with more calm.
Sep 29, 2023
SPECIAL GUEST: Are you just trying to SURVIVE in Motherhood? Learn to implement systems that will transform your family’s experience!
Sep 22, 2023
Have you ever lost your cool with your child? Here’s how to repair your connection and improve behavior!
Sep 15, 2023
Has your child ever had a meltdown in public? 3 different ways to respond
Sep 08, 2023
4 Tips to Make the Transition Back to School Easier (and with LESS Behavior!!!)
Sep 01, 2023
Potty Training....Without Rewards! (If your child tends to be more on the controlling side, this episode is also for you!) PLUS: 1 major shift that will make it much easier!
Aug 25, 2023
Communication Mini Series: Praise; How I was Unintentionally Creating a Perfectionist
Aug 18, 2023
Communication Mini Series: Training your child in problem solving
Aug 11, 2023
Are you having a difficult parenting day?? Listen to this!
Aug 04, 2023
Are you viewing your child’s behavior through a CONSEQUENCE or CONNECTION focused lens??
Jul 28, 2023
Punishment is a DISTRACTION + 6 simple strategies you can use to avoid punishment while getting better behavior!
Jul 21, 2023
Are you actually accepting, allowing, and holding space for your child’s feelings? 3 phrases you may be using that is communicating otherwise!
Jul 14, 2023
Are you struggling with your child’s behavior? What if you looked at it from a different perspective...behavior as communication!
Jul 07, 2023
Do you ever feel burnt out, extremely frustrated or impatient as a mom? 3 ideas to help!
Jun 30, 2023
2 steps to train your child to use calming strategies more effectively and independently!
Jun 23, 2023
LISTENER QUESTION: when child has a massive tantrum right before having to leave and there isn’t an option to just let the child have the tantrum, what do I do?
Jun 17, 2023
Do you feel like your child’s sleep habits, patterns or routines need to change? Here’s a step by step formula of how to do it in a connected way that creates lasting results!
Jun 09, 2023
Does your child struggle with going to bed and/or the bedtime routine? 2 simple and effective tips that will turn dread into fun!
Jun 02, 2023
Did you know you play a key role in the development of your child’s mental health?? 4 steps to focus on!
May 26, 2023
Should you require your child to apologize? A few key things to consider...
May 19, 2023
Do you or your child ever get frustrated when you struggle to understand each other, especially during meltdowns? Tune in for tips and strategies from a Speech Therapist!
May 12, 2023
Do you ever just feel like you woke up on the wrong side of the bed? What if that happens to your kid(s) too?!
May 05, 2023
Do you struggle to know what steps to take when your child is having a big tantrum or meltdown? Try this 3 part process!!
Apr 28, 2023
Your child’s reaction when upset is often a mirrored response to your reactions when you are upset or triggered. Do you like what you’re seeing?
Apr 21, 2023
Surprise Announcement + BONUS tips and strategies for difficult life situations & experiences
Apr 14, 2023
What about the ”good” kids?? Are no tantrums really better?? (REPLAY)
Apr 08, 2023
Is screen time causing your child to have more meltdowns and behaviors?
Mar 24, 2023
Does your child struggle with sleep and/or the bedtime routine? Here’s what to do about it! (REPLAY)
Mar 10, 2023
You don’t actually need to know what’s wrong with your child in order to help him/her work through it! Here’s why + how to help them resolve big feelings
Mar 03, 2023
Are timeouts really effective?
Feb 24, 2023
Huxton’s Redemptive Birth Story
Feb 17, 2023
Does your child ever hit him/herself when upset? Here’s why and what to do about it!
Feb 10, 2023
Does your child ever struggle with transitions? 3 simple ways to take away the frustration and move your child along!
Feb 04, 2023
Does your child have meltdowns when something doesn’t go as planned? 2 reasons why this happens and 3 ways to help!
Jan 28, 2023
Myles’ birth story + what I learned from my traumatic experience
Jan 20, 2023
Do you ever find yourself triggered by the same situation over and over again? Check out this strategy to help!
Jan 17, 2023
Parent check in time...Are you doing this?
Jan 13, 2023
Do you ever feel like you are failing as a mom because of your child’s behavior? 10 reasons why it might actually be a blessing!
Jan 10, 2023
Do you want to gain more immediate obedience when you give your child a direction? Learn how to set and hold a limit with connection.
Jan 05, 2023
Is gentle parenting actually harming your kid(s)?
Jan 03, 2023
Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the goals you have for your child’s behavior or your ability to remain calm? My best advice for you heading into the New Year!
Dec 30, 2022
Does your child ever get on your last nerve? 3 simple things to do about it that will save your sanity!
Dec 27, 2022
Q&A: Picky eating, potty training, jealousy, and MORE!
Dec 23, 2022
Tips for navigating your child’s heightened emotions, overstimulation, and behaviors during the holiday season
Dec 20, 2022
Does your child struggle with impulse control and quickly go from happy to hitting, kicking, biting, or throwing? 3 strategies to start implementing today!
Dec 16, 2022
Does your child tend to have more behaviors with you than anyone else? Are you struggling with feeling like you’re doing something wrong? Here’s what’s really going on + a simple routine to help!
Dec 13, 2022
What would you do if you couldn’t use consequences to change your child’s behavior?
Dec 09, 2022
Are you using Santa to manipulate your child’s behavior?
Dec 06, 2022
Have you ever planned a really special day or outing for your child and it ended with a meltdown or some not so nice words? Perspective and strategies to bring with you into the holiday season.
Dec 02, 2022
Does your spouse have trouble managing their triggers? 5 strategies to help increase awareness of triggers and provide support following behavior
Nov 29, 2022
Are you feeling exhausted or burnt out from your child’s behaviors? Why self-care isn’t the answer + 2 strategies to replenish and refuel!
Nov 25, 2022
Does it ever feel more difficult to connect with one of your children as compared to the other? 3 strategies to help!
Nov 22, 2022
When giving choices is counterproductive and what to do instead
Nov 18, 2022
Do you ever get triggered by your child’s behavior? 2 questions to ask yourself
Nov 15, 2022
Does your child get frustrated easily? Here’s why + 3 ways to help them get regulated!
Nov 11, 2022
”choose your battles” = a fallback strategy that does you and your child a disservice. The 1 strategy I recommend instead!
Nov 09, 2022
Does your child struggle with sharing? How your natural response could be increasing your child’s unwillingness to share
Nov 04, 2022
Does your child ever cry for you when he/she is with your husband? 3 reasons staying where you are is beneficial
Nov 01, 2022
What we speak about our kids matters, whether they hear it or not. Here’s why...
Oct 28, 2022
Do you like to use tickling as a form of play? What you may not know about tickling
Oct 25, 2022
Do you know what your triggers are but can’t figure out how to manage them? Try this!
Oct 21, 2022
Have you ever wondered if a sticker chart would help ”fix” your child’s behavior? 4 reasons why I believe they are unnecessary and ineffective
Oct 18, 2022
Does your child use a nuk or suck his/her thumb to self-soothe? How it might be causing more behaviors...
Oct 14, 2022
Does your child struggle with self-regulation? Why self-regulation programs aren’t the answer.
Oct 11, 2022
Do you have a child that purposefully does the opposite of what you ask? Here’s what they really need!
Oct 07, 2022
”I don’t want to mess up my kids.”
Oct 04, 2022
Do you find yourself getting extremely frustrated when your child isn’t listening? Stop commanding, start training
Sep 30, 2022
I have a question for you...
Sep 27, 2022
Does your child ever shut down before they even start the thing? Here’s how to create a just right challenge for your child’s emotional development
Sep 23, 2022
Do you turn down opportunities because your child has difficulty separating from you? 4 strategies to help prepare your child if you will be gone for a longer amount of time
Sep 20, 2022
Are you struggling to get your kids to listen to you the first time? Why counting to 3 isn’t working in your favor.
Sep 16, 2022
Have you ever felt pressure to mother/parent a certain way?
Sep 13, 2022
Do your kids struggle to get along? 6 simple shifts to build sibling relationships
Sep 09, 2022
Do you ever need your child to stay in one place AND be somewhat quiet? 2 essential components for success!
Sep 06, 2022
Have you ever heard the saying, ”play is the work of the child”? 1 simple way to make play more connecting
Sep 02, 2022
What to do when your child says ”leave me alone!”
Aug 30, 2022
Do you feel like you have to peel your child off whenever it’s time to separate? 4 tips for a smoother transition
Aug 26, 2022
My Story & the creation of Chaos to Connected
Aug 23, 2022
Do you feel bad when your child cries? Or like it’s your job as a mom to make it stop?
Aug 19, 2022
Are you in search of a parenting method that finally gets rid of your child’s behaviors?
Aug 16, 2022
Did you know, the same reason your child has behaviors is the same reason you struggle to keep your cool during them?
Aug 12, 2022
LIVE COACHING: Behavior Blueprint session (behavior is communication)
Aug 09, 2022
Have you ever needed a break from your kid(s)?
Aug 05, 2022
LIVE COACHING: Behavior Blueprint Coaching Session (separation anxiety)
Aug 02, 2022
SPECIAL GUEST: One of the foundational building blocks to managing your triggers
Jul 29, 2022
LIVE COACHING: Behavior Blueprint Coaching Session (aggressive behaviors)
Jul 26, 2022
Do you ever find yourself comparing your motherhood journey to another mom’s?
Jul 22, 2022
Do you struggle to stay calm when your child is misbehaving? 3 keys to help you manage your triggers
Jul 19, 2022
Do you ever feel guilty for allowing your child to have screen time? 4 ways to transform screen time
Jul 15, 2022
Does your child have a calming space? Important factors to consider when creating one
Jul 12, 2022
Did you know your child doesn’t actually need all of the calming strategies and spaces to learn to regulate?
Jul 08, 2022
”Parents don’t really go on vacation, they just take care of their kids in a different city.” 3 strategies to help with behaviors while on vacation
Jul 05, 2022
Do you feel like all you say to your child is ”no”, ”stop”, or ”don’t do that”? 3 keys to creating your ”yes” environment
Jul 01, 2022
Are you saying these 3 words/phrases? Here’s how to remove them from your vocab to benefit your child’s emotional and physical health.
Jun 28, 2022
Do you feel like you are constantly bombarded with parenting advice and struggle to know what to follow?
Jun 24, 2022
Do you ever have more than one child vying for your attention? Here’s a guide for how to respond
Jun 21, 2022
SPECIAL GUEST: Tools and tips to becoming a kingdom mother to parent kids in the ways of the kingdom, the way God parents us!
Jun 17, 2022
What about the ”good” kids?? Are no tantrums really better??
Jun 14, 2022
Do you and your spouse disagree on behavior management strategies?
Jun 10, 2022
Do you find yourself in the middle of what feels like a losing battle with your child? My top tip to gain compliance in frustrating situations
Jun 07, 2022
Are you really ok with the crying? 3 ways you might be unintentionally stopping your child(ren) from releasing big feelings
Jun 03, 2022
SPECIAL GUEST: How to transform your motherhood and create life balance without having to choose between your family, priorities, and yourself.
May 31, 2022
Does ignoring behavior actually work?
May 27, 2022
Do you have a child that hits/kicks/bites? 5 Tips to Understand and Manage Aggressive Behavior.
May 20, 2022
Do you ever go to bed at night feeling guilty about the time and/or attention you couldn’t give to your child?
May 13, 2022
Are you feeling overwhelmed by your child’s big feelings or challenging behaviors?
May 06, 2022
SPECIAL GUEST: The Highly Sensitive Mom/The Highly Sensitive Child
May 03, 2022
Have you ever given your child exactly what they wanted and they still had a meltdown? 1 Simple Strategy to help you through it!
Apr 29, 2022
Does your child need help learning how to regulate? 5 fun and simple activities to implement
Apr 22, 2022
Do you want to know the difference between punishment and discipline??
Apr 15, 2022
Did you know inconsistent connection leads to more behavior? The #1 way to decrease unwanted behaviors
Apr 08, 2022
Is your child afraid of going to the doctor or the dentist? 5 tips for difficult appointments
Apr 05, 2022
Do you ever feel like the whining, back talk, and arguing is constant? 5 simple strategies to get out of meltdown mode
Apr 01, 2022
Do you find it challenging to keep your calm during meltdowns? 5 game changing tips
Mar 25, 2022
Do you want to know the secret to better behavior?
Mar 18, 2022
Does your child need 50 things before bedtime? 2 Strategies that will help you transform your bedtime routine!
Mar 11, 2022
Did you know naming feelings actually stops your child from working through them? 3 reasons you don’t need to label emotions
Mar 04, 2022
Have you ever been in the midst of a tantrum, whining, or sibling fights and found yourself at a loss of what to do?
Feb 25, 2022
Have you ever used the phrases the ”terrible twos” or ”threenager” to describe your child? Here’s why you should reconsider
Feb 18, 2022
Are you struggling with your child’s behaviors?
Feb 10, 2022