Barb Knows Best

By Michelle Maros & Barb Schmidt

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Welcome to Barb Knows Best, the podcast! I'm your co-host, Michelle Maros, and along with my dear mother, Barb, who is most commonly known as Peaceful Barb, we will be chatting with you weekly on some of life's most important and helpful topics. We've been working together for over a decade to provide simple, helpful tools to help you manage the stresses of daily life, and we are thrilled to be with you all in this new format to invite you into this living room style chat on how we process daily life. Thanks so much for being with us, we love being with you and sharing life with you all! Please make sure to follow us at @barbknowsbestpod @peaceful_barb and @michellemaros on social media, and subscribe to the pod wherever you listen to podcast. We love to hear your thoughts on topics you'd love to hear us chat about! *The information and opinions expressed in this program are for educational purposes only, are not intended as medical or other health advice, and solely reflect the personal experiences of the host and guests. You should not act or rely upon any information contained in this program without seeking the advice of a qualified medical provider. Any reproduction or rebroadcast of this program, in whole or part, is prohibited without the prior written permission of Michelle Maros, LLC. © 2022 Michelle Maros, LLC*

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Ep. 25 - How We Cultivate Inner Peace

This week, Barb and Michelle discuss one of the most important practices we can do for inner peace. Forgiveness is a practice that we often think about extending towards people in our lives who have harmed us, but how often do we extend that same grace to ourselves? In this episode you’ll learn Barb’s practice for self-forgiveness to get you started on your journey.


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Episode Notes:

· Self-forgiveness means forgiving ourselves for any thoughts in the past that we wish were different.


· Forgiveness can’t be don’t on command, but you can set the intention to forgive


· Barb’s practice to assist with self-forgiveness

1. I offer myself forgiveness for any harm I may have caused myself or others.

2. I forgive myself for the times I have betrayed myself or others.

3. I forgive myself for the times I have abandoned myself or others.

4. Send love to your heart.

a. I am enough. I am complete. I am loved. I am worthy.


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

· When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron

Aug 09, 2022
Ep. 24 - Our Top Practice for 2022
In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle discuss the #1 trait they are working to cultivate this year. Any guesses what it is? Resilience! We know how hard life has been for all of us lately, so tune in to learn their top five tips for cultivating resilience. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at
Resilience can be learned.
Five tips to help you cultivate your resilience:
1. Shift your perspective.
a. The practice of asking yourself how to see things differently.         
2. Look on the brighter side of the situation.
a. Search for whatever goodness you can find in a bad situation.
b. Visualize what you want to accomplish for yourself. Be specific.
3. Cultivate a deep sense of hope.
4. Have gratitude for the simple joys.
5. Practice self-compassion and self-forgiveness.
Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:
The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck


Roadmap to Resilience by Donald Meichenbaum
Aug 02, 2022
Ep. 23 - Q&A with Barb and Michelle

In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle switch it up and answer your questions! We are so grateful to everyone who sent in questions, and we loved answering them! The most hot topic questions are on dealing with narcissists, more on our personal story, and more of our thoughts on managing grief!


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Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:


Barb’s favorite books

Man ‘s Search For Meaning by Vicktor Frankl



When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön


Michelle’s favorite book

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert  


Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life Bookshelf


Jul 26, 2022
Ep. 22 - Our Favorite Self-Care Practice

In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about their favorite self-care practice, setting boundaries. In this conversation, they break down what a boundary is, why it’s so helpful for us to set them, and why this practice is truly the ultimate form of self-care. 

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Episode Notes:

Boundaries allow us to have more compassion. 


Boundaries are not about the other person. They are about self-care and empowering yourself.


How do we set boundaries for ourselves?

  • Notice within your life the trigger points that brings complaining. 
  • Remove yourself from situations that don’t align with your beliefs. 
  • Don’t share private information with people who haven’t earned your trust. 
  • Choose to mute or unfollow people that don’t make you feel good about yourself. 


When communicating your boundaries:

  • State your needs. Use “I” statements, such as “I need”. Avoid “you” statements and words like never, always, all the time. 
  • Be open to listening and engaging with the person you are communicating with. 


Top four tips for setting healthy boundaries:

  1. Be clear about what the boundary is. 
  2. Keep it simple enough for someone to remember it. 
  3. Do not apologize when setting the boundary. It sends mixed messages. 
  4. Be consistent when reinforcing your boundaries. 


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Brené Brown -

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab

Jul 19, 2022
Ep. 21 - The #1 Habit We are Trying to Break

In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about the #1 habit they are trying to break in their relationships…and it might surprise you! 

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Episode Notes:

  • The desire we have to change other human beings is natural.
  • A person isn’t going to change unless they truly want to. You can’t love someone out of their mindset or beliefs.
  • People will always do what they want to do, what they feel driven to do and what matters to them.       
  • Make a realistic decision on where this person or people fit into your life based on who they are and not on who you wish they could be.                   
  • Have a connection with yourself to know who you are, what you want, and what you value.
    • Be able to communicate these values with your loved ones.
    • Ask yourself are you okay with this? Are you okay with how a person may feel or think differently than you do about a situation?
  • Focus on the things you can control.
  • Give people a chance to transform themselves by themselves.
  • Use your energy and time and your precious resources to speak up and speak out and do what matters most to you.


Jul 12, 2022
Ep. 20 - The Company We Keep

In this week’s episode of the pod, Barb and Michelle discuss the old adage “you are the company that you keep”. Learn how Barb and Michelle think is the best way to cultivate meaningful, aligned relationships as well as being the example for the people in your life. 


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Episode Notes:

  • Emotional contagion refers to a phenomenon of an automatic adoption of an emotional state of another person. We, as humans, have a natural tendency to mimic the people around us.    

  • Spend time with people that align with you are. Carefully choose the company you keep as they can influence how you think about yourself and how show up in the world.

  • Be mindful of the places you hang out in, in the digital sphere, as it can influence you as much as those around you.

  • You have choice. You can determine how you process and interpret the situation.

  • Choose people that inspire you. Embrace the habits that you see in other people that will help you be the best version of yourself.

  • Instead of modeling perfection, model authenticity. Be exactly who you are and just show up.



Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

  • Emotional Contagion (Studies in Emotion and Social Interaction) by Elaine Hatfield, John T. Cacioppo, Richard L. Rapson


Jul 05, 2022
Ep. 19 - The #1 Habit That Drains Our Energy

In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about this sneaky habit that drains our energy: writing stories. Our minds are extremely powerful and creative, if unchecked, our minds can go into overdrive writing stories and contemplating possibilities that we simply don't know to be true. We can never know what it’s fully like to walk in someone else’s shoes, so we might as well stop trying to fill in the gaps with our own creative ideas. 

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Episode Notes:

  • Writing stories is the #1 habit that drains our energy.
  • Deepen your awareness of what your mind is feeling and where it is going so that you can redirect the mind from going down a negative path.
  • Name it to tame it. 
    • Noticing and naming our emotions helps create some distance between the emotion and the intense feelings that accompany it.
  • Ask yourself, is this true? Is the story you are writing true?
    •  Find a neutral statement to replace the negative.
  • Ask yourself, is the story that I’m writing right now empowering me and inspiring me?
    • The stories we tell about ourselves matter most.    


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:


Jun 28, 2022
Ep. 18 - Finding Peace in the Present, Part 2

In a follow up from last week’s episode about being present, Barb and Michelle dive into the habits that tend to take us out of the present moment, and what we can start to do today, to bring us where our feet are. Remembering that the present moment is where you have all your power.


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Episode Notes:

  •  Studies show 85% of the things we worry about do not happen, and the 15% of the things that do happen, we handle better than we thought we would. 

  • Common life instances that keep us from being mindful and in the present:
    • Worry and anxiety
    • Boredom and restlessness
    •  Impatience
  • If you are feeling these feelings, take a moment to pause and see where your feet are.


  • Remember the good that comes from tapping into the new patterns of being more focused and mindful. 


  •  Some of the benefits that come from being present and focused are:
    • Having more productive action.
    • Being able to recognize the tiny joys.
    • More confidence 
    • More energy 

 Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

A Wandering Mind Not a Happy Mind –

Jun 21, 2022
Ep. 17 - Why Multitasking Isn’t It, Part 1
We live in a world that pushes us towards doing many tasks at once, for the sake of productivity and efficiency. In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about why multitasking might not be as beneficial to us as we are made to believe, and challenges us all to start being singularly focused on tasks in our lives.

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Episode Notes:

  • Being mindful and present is a training of the mind. 
  • Find one place in your life where you can be focused.
  • The Barb Knows Best Challenge, tell us that one thing you are going to try and be singularly focused on and drop us a note.


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Essays and Poems by Ralph Waldo Emerson

 Being Conscientiously Still or Stagnant – Michelle’s Blog 

Jun 14, 2022
Ep. 16 - Overcoming Overwhelm
In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about overwhelm, managing the feelings that come with being too booked and busy, and how we can start to remove things from our very full plates. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at


Episode Notes:

  • Overwhelm means an extreme level of stress and emotional and or cognitive intensity to the point of feeling unable to function. The big difference is we can function and stress. We really can't function in overwhelm. And the research shows the nothingness is the only way to really reset after overwhelm.

  • Give yourself the grace to rest, recharge, regroup and start again.


  • Ways to manage the overwhelm:
  1.     Remember to carve out some time for silence and stillness. 
  2.     Remember to cultivate positive self-talk.
  3.     Remember that you don't have to be perfect and have it all together all the time.
  4.     Make your tasks manageable.
  5.     Set the boundaries that you need to set, and learn to say no when you need to say no.


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Atlas of the Heart by Brene’ Brown

Jun 07, 2022
Ep. 15 - Noticing Unhealthy Habits

In this week’s episode, for the first time, Michelle shares her journey to sobriety and recognizing the toxic patterns and habits in her life that stemmed from drinking. Barb and Michelle share their personal stories and histories of addiction, dysfunction, and making the choice to make a change. 

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Episode Notes:

Notice where your “line” is. Know what it means to cross the line.

  • Toxic patterns stem from crossing the line, addictive habits stem lines being crossed
  •  Notice when your choices are no longer in your control
  • Ask yourself, do I have a choice? Am I in control?
  • Am I hiding my habits?
  • Do I feel shame?


May 31, 2022
Ep. 14 - Saying No with Confidence

Sometimes the most difficult thing we can do is say no. Many of us avoid saying no for fear of disappointing, hurting, or pushing away others, but how often does this lead us to say yes to others and no to ourselves? In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about how to say no with confidence, as a highest form of self-care. 

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Episode Notes:

  •     Self-love is an ability that we can cultivate.
  •     Identify what's the one thing in the day that you need to do for yourself that will help bring you to that place of being 100%, or feeling close to 100% your best.
  •     The loving kindness and care that you share, that you have for yourself, is your highest priority.
  •     Self-compassion is one of the secrets to self-care, to being able to say “No” with confidence.

 Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:


May 24, 2022
Ep. 13 - The Root of Rejection & How to Manage It

In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle dive into the often painful topic of rejection. Many of us live our lives trying to avoid being rejected at all costs. In this episode, we’ll talk about how to reframe rejection and remember that it’s not rejection, it’s redirection. 

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Key Points:

  1. Ask yourself important questions and get in touch with your emotions. 
  2. Don’t beat yourself up, cultivate that self-compassion.
  3. Try to see the situation from all perspectives. 
  4. Let go of control. 
  5. Trust that what is meant for you will find you. 
  6. Act as if. If you really are searching for something in your life, act as if you already have it. 
  7. Find a trusted support system to help lift your spirits. 
  8. Be grounded and confident in yourself. 


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

  • When Things Fall Apart  By Pema Chödrön

  • Michelle’s Blog 

May 17, 2022
Ep. 12 - Becoming Your Own Best Friend

We spend so much time trying to cultivate and perfect relationships in our lives, but so often we push aside the relationship we have with ourselves. In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about how they both started to establish a strong foundation within, why that even matters, and how it impacts every other aspect of life.  Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at


Key Points:

  • The relationship you have yourself is the most important relationship you will have in your life. 
  • Have compassion of yourself. We haven’t been taught to listen to the heart and the body instead of only listening to the mind. 
  • Your life matters. 
  • The four questions to ask yourself:
  1. Who am I?
  2. What do I really want? 
  3. What matters most to me and what do I value? 
  4. What impact do I want to make? How do I show up in the world?

 Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

James Finley - 

May 10, 2022
Ep. 11 - Living With Grief - Part 2
In part two of Barb and Michelle’s take on grief, learn the one common piece of advice that didn’t resonate, and some of the biggest lessons we’ve learned when living with grief. This episode will dive into how we can transform our relationship with grief and learn to ride the waves. 

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Key Points:

  • Grief and death are the teacher.
  • Accepting that life will never be what it was before, it will take a different form. 
  • Healing leads to transformation.
  • The 90 Second Rule - According to Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion and allow it to dissipate while you simply notice it.
  • Be aware of the different stages of grief you may be in:
  1.     Denial 
  2.     Anger
  3.     Bargaining
  4.     Depression
  5.     Acceptance

 Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross


May 03, 2022
Ep. 10 - How We Manage Grief - Part 1

In this two-part series, Barb and Michelle open up about their personal experiences with grief and loss. Michelle opens up about the unexpected loss of her dad, and the lessons she learned from her grief, while Barb shares her recent experience of loss and how she is processing it in real-time. 


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Key Points:

  •     Allow yourself the moment to grieve. Be in your feelings.
  •     Don’t put yourself on a timeline to feel your grief. 
  •     Don’t be embarrassed by your grief. Let yourself be sad. 
  •     Don’t compare yourself to others. Grief is personal.
  •     Find people who you can be with without judgment.


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast: 

E.E. Cummings – “I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart) I am never without it.”

Michelle’s Blog -


Apr 26, 2022
Ep. 9 - It’s Good to Be You!

One of the most common topics we get asked about is how to cultivate confidence. We all want to feel good in our own skin and know that we hold power and meaning in this world. In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle discuss their own journeys to feeling confident, how to “fake it til you make it” and things to remember in the journey to knowing that you’re perfect exactly as you are.

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Key Points:

      Confidence is knowing you are enough.

      Write down the things you love about yourself and what you are good at. Be grateful for those things.

      The best antidote to self-doubt is taking that one tiny step, because it will move you that little inch forward.

       As promised here the quote that Barb couldn’t quite place…“I never view mistakes as failures. They are simply opportunities to find out what doesn't work.” – Thomas A. Edison

      Visualization as a tool to help you achieve the goals you want from how you want to act or react or goals you want.

Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

       Self-Esteem Book – Joe Rubino



Apr 19, 2022
Ep. 8 - Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

We all know the pain of a difficult romantic break-up, but there’s nothing that stings like a friendship gone south. In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle share their personal stories of friendship break-ups and even how they overcame a heartbreaking ghosting from a close friend.

Learn the lessons they’ve learned from the ending of a friendship, and a reminder that it doesn’t make us any less worthy of love and support. 

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Key Points:

When a friendship ends: 

  1.     Feel your feelings.
  2.     Give yourself a timeframe how long you are going to let yourself sit in the feeling. 
  3.     Speak your truth if you can.
  4.     Don’t try to control the situation. 
  5.     Reflect and try to understand what happened. 
  6.     Work through the feelings and find acceptance.  

Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

  • Michelle’s Blog -
Apr 12, 2022
Ep. 7 - Finding Your Practice

We hear all the time from listeners that they want to start to incorporate mindfulness practices into their lives, but are unsure where or how to start. In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle dive into how to find your practice, and practice it! They break down the myths and stigmas of what it means to practice mindfulness and help you to better understand how these meaningful tools can be woven into your life.

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Key Points:

●      Consistency is key when finding your practice.

●      Take a temperature of yourself and check in with yourself.

●      Find your practice and practice it.

●      Find your teachings that inspire you and learn from them.

●      Find your Community, the people in your life that lift you up and inspire you to the be the best version of you.  Be with them.

Apr 05, 2022
Ep. 6 - The Habit of People Pleasing
Just as Mary Oliver said, we have one wild and precious life. How much of that life do we spend agonizing over pleasing others, and oftentimes, at the expense of our own happiness and joy?

In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle tackle the habit of people pleasing, why so many of us fall into this habit, and how we can start to lovingly change gears. Barb and Michelle will give tips and tools on how you can care for yourself, while caring for the people in your life. 

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Key Points:

  • Be aware of where people pleasing is showing up in your life and your relationships.
  • Get in touch with your feelings. 
  • Understand your motive. 
  • Communicate your needs clearly and kindly.
  • Accept the outcome and release the judgment of that person or whatever happens. Accept your truth. 


Mar 29, 2022
Ep. 5 - It's The Little Things

In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle differentiate between happiness and joy, and how we can start to cultivate both, even during difficult times. With so much happening in the world around us, it’s easy to believe that happiness is out of reach. In this episode, Barb and Michelle talk about how to identify what brings us joy and how to release the guilt in doing so.

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Key Points:

  • Happiness comes from within.
  • Guilt is a useless emotion.
  • Journal what you are thinking.
  •  Identify the things that bring us joy.
  • We are all deserving of that feeling of joy and happiness.


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Mar 22, 2022
Ep. 4 - It's Not Personal

Are you someone who internalizes the actions and words of other people? Do you find yourself taking things very personally? If so, you’re not alone! It’s common to feel sensitive about what other people do, especially in how it relates to us. In this week’s episode, Michelle and Barb dive into how we can start to not take what people do personally, and find freedom in doing so.


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Key Points:

  • What is Triggered? -  Triggered means that someone has done something or said something that creates an emotion. This emotion could be rooted in a past trauma. It's a conditional behavioral response.
  • Name it to tame it.
  • Awareness is the key to life.
  • Just Pause
  • The Power of Choice

       Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Mar 15, 2022
Ep. 3 - Your Body is Your Home

We’ve all felt the pressure and expectation of body image and diet culture.  If we want to create changes in any aspect of our lives, it must start with us. In this week's episode, Barb and Michelle dive into body shaming and the language we use around speaking about each other's bodies. Barb vulnerably shares her own story and struggles with eating disorders, and her path to recovery.

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Key Points:

  • You are the boss of your own mind. 
  • Connect with your body through yoga, meditation or however you feel best allows you to take a moment to be present and mindful.
  • Are you HALTY? 
  • Don’t allow yourself to become hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. 
  • Take A Pause – Take a pause before you react


Resources Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

  • Abby Wambach - WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game


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Mar 08, 2022
Ep. 2 - Dealing with Difficult People
Relationships and how we engage with the people around us can be some of the most challenging lessons and opportunities in life. Lately, we all have felt the strain on interacting with people, and managing the unnecessary stress that difficult conversations can bring. People can be challenging and push our buttons, this happens to all of us.

In this week's episode, Barb and Michelle guide us through ways to identify who those difficult people are and how you can manage your relationships with them and also learn how to tap in if you might be the difficult person yourself. With love of course.

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Mar 01, 2022
Ep. 1 - Let's Get Into It

Life can feel stressful and overwhelming. We all struggle from time-to-time and we are here to help you feel less alone, and maybe give you some tools to guide you through the tough stuff. Barb Knows Best hosts Barb Schmidt and Michelle Maros, a mother-daughter team, are here to invite you into this living room-style chat about life, happiness, and everything in between.

Barb and Michelle are the founders of the non-profit, Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life, which is dedicated to furthering ginner peace and wellness by educating and inspiring individuals. Barb and Michelle have started this podcast to provide you with a more intimate look into how they mindfully manage their daily lives and while facing the challenges of every day. Because as we know, Barb Knows Best!


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Feb 22, 2022
Welcome to Barb Knows Best!

A sneak peek at what's ahead on BKB!

Feb 20, 2022