Oversharing

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Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Each week they’re responding to listener emails, tackling difficult ethical questions, playing games, and so much more. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.

Episode Date
How To Shut Down An Oversharer
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Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the week with a question about the best way to maintain positivity with daily affirmations. Is it better to list the “good moments” you experience each day or to focus on a list of things you’re thankful for? Then a listener emails in to ask about a neighbor’s unreasonable noise complaints. How do you navigate a tense relationship with a neighbor without letting it ruin your peace of mind? Then another emailer asks how to tell her sister that she overshares too many details about her sex life. Is there a tactful way to dial back someone’s sex convos without hurting their feelings? The intention-setting exercise for the week is all about a serial-cheating ex and putting things behind you. Finally, they tackle some Triggered scenarios about a catty cousin and an overbearing couple-friends. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 31, 2023
Why Can't I Commit To A Fifth Date? Ft. Jared Freid
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In an Oversharing first, Jordana invites her U Up? co-host Jared Freid for a dating therapy session with Dr. Naomi. They walk through Jared’s dating challenges, including why it’s so hard to get past the first few dates, and where his mind goes to when it’s time to end things. They talk about his dating habits and history, how his role as a podcast host affects his decision-making, and whether or not people are as upset about ending things after 3 dates as they are after 3 months. Plus, Naomi tells us how the trauma of past relationships inform our decision making with new people. Finally, they rate a pair of Triggered submissions about an inconsiderate mom and people who refuse to pronounce your name right. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 24, 2023
Is Honesty More Important Than Friendship?
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Jordana and Naomi start the week with an article about how creating time to call your loved ones can lead to happiness. But what if you have the opposite problem? The Oversharing email of the week comes from a listener whose in laws call and text multiples times a week without fail. Is there a way to make yourself less accessible to family without hurting any feelings? Then, this week’s Betchicist submission is all about weighing the consequences of placing the truth over trying to remain nice to a friend. Next, they discuss a recent TikTok trend called the “Lucky Girl Syndrome”. Is it possible for a positive affirmation trend to become toxic? To close things out, they rate some Triggered submissions about copycats and miscommunications. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 17, 2023
Why Is “Fairness” So Important To Us?
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Did somebody say White Elephant? Jordana and Dr. Naomi are back from the holidays and swap stories about the highlights of their own gift swaps. Speaking of lavish gifts, our first email of the day comes from a listener whose sister-in-law lives a lavish lifestyle funded by her wealthy parents, leading to feelings of resentment. Why do we feel the need to compare ourselves to others? And is our pursuit of “fairness” just keeping us focused on what we don’t have? Then another listener emails in with a Betchicist question about whether or not it’s worth holding her wedding at a family home even if it will inevitably lead to some serious drama. Should you consider choosing the perfect venue, even if it means that some people won’t be willing to attend? They dive into some intentions-setting for a new mother that’s about to return from maternity leave and struggling with the transition. How should you set intentions for creating a healthy work-family balance without feeling guilty? Finally, the triggered submissions come from a listener who found a list of her negative traits on her boyfriend’s phone, and another from a caller whose friend ripped off her wedding ring design. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 10, 2023
Breaking An Anxious Attachment Style
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Jordana starts off this episode by asking Naomi about how she feels now that her kids have cell phones. The Oversharing email of the week is from a listener struggling with anxious attachment. Jordana shares her own similar experiences and how anxiety creates the illusion that everything is personal. They answer a Betchicist about feeling bad for ghosting a situationship. Which leads to the bigger question of, how plugged in should we be? Then, they offer an intention for an “Unlikable Betch”. How do you overcome the feeling that no one likes you? Finally, they rate some Triggered scenarios about a gift withdrawal and a harsh critique from a supervisor. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 03, 2023
Can I Set Boundaries Without Being Rude?
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For the final episode of 2022, Jordana and Naomi start off by chatting about how the end of the year is a great time for reflection. They jump into an Overshare email about a mother who is anxious when spending time with family due to her and her SIL’s difference in parenting styles. Is there a way to change your mindset before family time? They move on to this week’s Betchicist from a listener who doesn’t want to be rude, but can’t stand staying at her boyfriend’s parent’s house due to its uncleanliness. Naomi reassures that it’s okay to want a physical space that you can go to and regroup. Then, they create an intention for a listener who feels guilty that they are far away from their loved ones. To close out the episode, they read some Triggered submissions about choosing your friends over your partner and a noisy mother. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 27, 2022
Does “Manifesting” Actually Work?
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Jordana starts the week by uncovering one of her ghosts of Christmas past, and Naomi explains why it may be relevant to all of us. The Oversharing email of the week comes from a listener who is curious about the difference between manifesting vs. reality. Naomi advises that what you pay attention to in your own mind is where your reality lives, so “don’t bullsh*t yourself”. Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who was given sensitive information from their mother-in-law. Should they ignore the elephant in the room when everyone is together for the holidays? They offer some intention-setting help to a “worried Betch” who believes something terrible will happen to their loved ones. To close, they rate a pair of triggered submissions about blind dates and pushed boundaries. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 20, 2022
How To Detach Single-ness From Attractiveness
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Resolution season is right around the corner, so Jordana and Naomi start the week with another intention-setting email from a listener who’s looking to find a more healthy narrative about why she’s single. They tell us why being single may not be as connected to attractiveness as you think, and why attraction is more subjective than any of us realize. Then another listener writes in to ask why her husband keeps asking her to do “Dry January” even though she’s made it clear that she doesn’t want to stop drinking for a whole month. Is this a veiled attempt to get her to curb her drinking, or is he simply unwilling to accept that she won’t go along with his every request? The Betchicist scenario involves a marital dispute over relocating to a warmer climate in the Winter, which necessitates lying about their dog being a service animal. Is this really about the animal, or an excuse from someone who doesn’t want to leave town in the first place? Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve a revelation about a friend who cheated, and another about not being allowed to ever be in a bad mood. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 13, 2022
How Do I Avoid Becoming My Parents?
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What’s more relatable than having to deal with difficult parents? Jordana and Naomi start the week by revisiting their deepest parental fears from childhood. Then a listener writes in to ask how to deal with a father who refuses to consider the feelings of others, and a mother who often flies off the handle. How do you avoid turning into your own parents, and what’s the best approach to dealing with a difficult parent? Another emailer writes in with a Betchicist question about feeling jealous of your own sister’s happy relationship. Is it okay to feel envious of someone close to you even though you know you should be happy for them? Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with some intention-setting about silencing negative self-talk and finding contentment in life. Finally, they dive into some Triggered submissions about getting shamed for a workplace affair, and another about delaying your own honeymoon. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 06, 2022
How To Move Past A Moment Of Rejection
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Did you wait all day for Taylor Swift tickets, only to have your dreams dashed? Same. Jordana and Naomi talk about the Taylor Swift presale fiasco and tell us why it’s okay to feel frustration and disappointment about something as trivial as concert tickets. Then a previous emailer writes in with an update about clearing the air with her future sisters-in-law over feelings of exclusion. Communication is key, as they say. Another emailer writes in to ask how to deal with feelings of disappointment after getting rejected from a dream job. How do you move past rejection when everyone around you knows how much you wanted it? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who can’t help but overshare her story of growing up with an alcoholic father whenever the subject comes up. Is it better to let the floodgates of honesty stay open even though it may make people uncomfortable, or shut it down at the risk of returning to a place of secrecy? Next, they respond to an Intentions email from someone who is learning to trust their own decision-making. Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve the desire to “own” your anniversary weekend, and a brother-in-law who doesn’t even know your name. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 29, 2022
Is It Okay That I Want My Partner To Make More Money?
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Dr. Naomi is back from the top bunk at sleep-away camp and Jordana finds out how it went (the white noise machine in the moms cabin was working overtime). Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a voicemail about setting boundaries with her boyfriend’s mom now that they’re living in the same town. What should you do when you suddenly get stuck answering all the tough questions on behalf of your partner? An emailer asks what to do about her husband declaring his intent to quit his corporate job and become a teacher. How does she come to terms with the lifestyle change that will coincide with his pursuit of a fulfilling career? Next, it’s time for some intention-setting: a listener writes in asking for guidance on properly setting intentions, including how to let the little comments go and shift your thoughts when you start to think the worst is going to happen. Finally, they dig into some Triggered scenarios involving disparaging work-from-home comments and an insensitive roommate in your time of need. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 22, 2022
Will I Ever Find My Happy Ending?
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It’s only been a week and Jordana’s social media break is over, leading to a conversation about feeling triggered by other people’s IG posts. Then they dive into an email from a listener who regrets her life choices from the past decade and feels like her chance at happiness is already over by her mid-30’s. How do we rewrite our own story and take control of our destiny without getting discouraged? Next, the Betchicist email is all about reaching back out to someone you have wronged. When is it okay to be the ex who pops back in with an apology? Finally, they tackle some Triggered questions about an airline seat dispute, a mother who won’t listen, and a tardy engagement gift. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 15, 2022
Is Learning “How To Struggle” The Key To Success?
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When is it time to take a break from social media? Jordana found herself deleting the Instagram app from her phone this weekend (just taking a break, don’t worry) and Naomi tells us why it’s okay to take a step away depending on your headspace. Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a question about fearing that she’ll become the “default parent” once she and her husband start having kids. How do you set expectations that you won’t end up shouldering too much of the parenting mental load? Plus, Naomi tells us why teaching someone “how to struggle” may be the secret to raising a successful child. Next, the Betchicist question is all about differing philosophies for how to throw a party. Is it okay to expect your guests to respect your traditions, even if they feel uncomfortable doing things your way? They finish things up with some Triggered scenarios including a forgotten birthday, an unsolicited plastic surgery offer, and getting called “sweetie” at work. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 08, 2022
Help! I Don’t Have Any Friends
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How do people actually find a therapist they like? Is everyone just sticking with the first therapist they find, or is it better to hunt around until someone sticks? Jordana and Naomi start with a convo about intention-setting and the challenge of searching for a good match in therapy. Then a listener writes in with an Overshare email all about flaky friends and the struggle to find meaningful friendships. What do you do if you’re feeling lonely and struggling to make friends you can rely on? Next, they answer a Betchicist email from a kosher bride whose in-laws insist on serving bacon at her after-wedding brunch. Do you have the right to dictate the menu at an event you’re not paying for? They close the show with a trio of Triggered scenarios including a forgotten birthday, an unsolicited plastic surgery offer, and getting called “sweetie” at work. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 01, 2022
How To Change Your Attachment Style
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How do you stop yourself from spiraling? This week, Jordana and Naomi start with an email from a listener who is convinced her boyfriend might break up with her. Jordana opens up about what helped her overcome her own struggles with attachment and change her attachment style. Is the key to strengthening relationships to remind yourself you’ll be able to take care of yourself no matter what? Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is worried her friend might be in a toxic relationship. How do you provide space for others to share their true emotions without passing judgment? Finally, they answer a trio of Triggered submissions about a possible wedding crasher, a future Grandpa, and a boyfriend’s wandering eye. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 25, 2022
Is The Division Of Parenting Labor Destined To Be Unequal?
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Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein are back for another special crossover episode of Betches Moms and the Oversharing podcast. This week they’re talking about parents who struggle to split the “mental load” equally and what to do when there’s an imbalance. They share examples of splitting duties with your partner, as well as examples of the unseen emotional weight that one parent often takes on. Plus, they offer some practical tips for finding balance in the division of labor and sharing the mental load. Finally, they read a listener-submitted No Mom Guilt all about taking a moment away from your kids to look out for yourself. Are children better off if they learn to spend time away from their parents? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 24, 2022
Are Psychedelics Useful In Therapy?
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What’s the deal with psychedelics and psychotherapy? Jordana and Naomi are joined by Dr. Michelle Weiner to talk all about cannabis and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy. They start with a convo about Naomi and Dr. Weiner’s close friendship as teenagers, and what it’s like to reconnect after so many years apart. Then Dr. Weiner walks us through the process of drug-assisted therapy, including why it’s helpful (gotta drop that ego somehow), how she administers treatment safely, and when it’s the right option for a patient. Plus, they talk about other psychedelic therapy treatments, and what people are looking to get out of these therapy sessions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 18, 2022
How Unhealthy Is Social Media For Kids?
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In this special crossover episode with Betches Moms and Oversharing, hosts Jordana Abraham and Dr Naomi Bernstein talk all about parenthood, changing social dynamics, and how long we should wait before exposing kids to social media. From TikTok to Instagram (and everything in between) Naomi shares her experience with setting boundaries, and they explore whether or not it’s a losing battle for parents. They also talk about how things have changed since this generation of parents were kids, and what the equivalent of social media used to be. Finally, they read a listener’s No Mom Guilt email all about putting your kids in organized sports. Are we living vicariously through our kids, or just trying to give them a chance to have the same experiences we had? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 17, 2022
Is It A Betrayal To Air Your Relationship Dirty Laundry?
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Jordana is still on island time –sorry the Hawaii vacation is over– and Naomi welcomes her back with a debrief of the latest U Up? With Benefits episode she caught. Then a listener calls in to the Oversharing hotline with a question about venting to your friends and family about your relationship. How much can you air your dirty laundry before it becomes something you’ll regret? They debate the pros and cons of sharing your relationship frustrations when it may be difficult to walk back your comments later on. Plus, they discuss the danger of coming off as insincere if you fail to disclose enough about relationship struggles. Then they dive into a Betchicist question about trying to recover from an experience of emotional betrayal with a partner. A listener writes in with a story about her husband’s nicotine addiction having a traumatic impact on her birth experience, and why she can’t seem to get over it. Finally, they tackle a trio of Triggered scenarios about a boyfriend talking in his sleep, a bride-to-be’s mom making a rude joke, and a boyfriend who charges rent. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 11, 2022
How to Maintain Friendships Without Gossiping
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This week, both Naomi and Jordana share about their recent relaxing getaways. However, Jordana explains how she had a hard time sleeping over the weekend and how she became frustrated when implementing sleep meditation didn’t seem to help. Naomi explains that meditation isn’t a way to manipulate your reality, but a tool to embrace it. This week’s Oversharing email, comes from a listener who wants to know if her partner’s anger management issues should be a marriage deal breaker. Both Jordana and Naomi remind the listener that all “positive” qualities come with equally “negative” qualities. Which ones are you willing to tolerate forever? Next, they read a Betchicist email where a listener’s friend group can’t stop gossiping. Is there a way to resist the temptation to gossip? She worries that if the “exciting” parts of their chats are taken away, their conversations will become stale and boring. They close with a few Triggered scenarios about forgetful in-laws, unsupportive friends, and therapist deal breakers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 04, 2022
A Good Compromise Is Where Both People Are Unhappy
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This week, Naomi was inspired to stop covering her gray hair which sparks the conversation about accepting yourself for who you truly are. The Oversharing email of the week is from a listener who is weighing her options for how to juggle spending Christmas with her and her husband’s family. Both Naomi and Jordana agree that she will have to focus on finding the best compromise rather than fighting to keep her childhood traditions alive. They move on to a Betchicist submission where a listener asks - can you tell your boyfriend that it bothers you he doesn’t pay for more things? How can you go about it without sounding “old fashioned"? They end on some Triggered scenarios around others discouraging your weight-loss journey, feeling left out, and nosy geriatric patients. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 27, 2022
Coming to Terms with Feelings of Jealousy
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This week, Jordana gives updates on giving the cold shower assignment a shot. Naomi then explains that when you give yourself the option to resist something you will, so practicing an “Acceptance Mindset” is great protection against resistance. This week’s Oversharing Voicemail is from a listener who’s having fertility struggles. They help her break down the intrusive thoughts that can accompany infertility. Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is figuring out how to tell her best friend she hates their partner. They end on some Triggered submissions about having an estranged father-daughter relationship, being called “old” by a Gen-Zer, and a father-of-the-bride speech gone wrong. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 20, 2022
Can We Find Happiness In Being Single? Ft. Almost 30
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Did Jordana complete her cold shower assignment from last week? Maybe not, but she did learn a valuable lesson from the experience anyway. Naomi explains how our ability to vocalize discomfort reflects our level of assertiveness. In this week’s Overshare, a listener is feeling obligated to maintain friendships and if she should be the fist one to “crack the pack”. They bring on the show’s very first guests, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik of Almost 30. Naomi is eager to talk about finding a sacredness in being single. Can we as a society find happiness in our individual accomplishments? Or will we always think our happiness is weighted in our relationships? They end on Triggered submissions about a mom’s unnecessary facebook comment, a flakey friend, and a sh*t talking sister-in-law. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 13, 2022
Friend Breakups: How To Find Closure
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How do you strike the right balance between assertiveness and complacency? Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about becoming more or less aggressive in daily interactions, along with some tips for getting outside your comfort zone. The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose close friend suddenly withdrew from the relationship back in college, leaving her feeling left out. Now that she’s back in close proximity, should she reach out and find closure, or leave things in the past? Next, they debate a challenging Betchicist question: is it okay to be disappointed by your partner’s plan for your milestone birthday, even if you hijacked their idea and paid for it yourself? How do we find satisfaction in our relationships and stop focusing on the negative? Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve a Tennis match betrayal, a disappointing breakup, and an overreach in couples therapy. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 06, 2022
The Secret To Finding Meaningful Connections
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Has the rise of social media left everyone feeling lonelier than ever? Jordana and Naomi tackle this challenging question and try to figure out why we often feel less connected, even when our online interactions are on the rise. Naomi offers some lessons from the group therapy sessions she leads, and they talk about the way the pandemic has affected introverts. They also discuss the way friends are made and maintained early in life compared to when you hit your 30’s and 40’s. Why is it so hard to make new friends as you get older, and how do you even meet new people anyway? Jordana shares her experience with traveling and breaking outside of her comfort zone. Finally, they offer some tips for spending quality time and finding your “friendship pickup line” at the salon. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 01, 2022
How To Stop Texting Your Ex
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Naomi and Jordana begin the week with a conversation about the transition from relying on your childhood family to starting a family of your own. Then they read the essie Overshare email of the week from a listener who is still texting an ex more than a year after the breakup. Is she really missing the ex, or is the loneliness she’s feeling driving her to miss the attachment? Naomi walks us through a visualization exercise for comforting your child-self (and healing our childhood attachment issues) along with a strategy for enlisting a friend to help resist the urge to reach out. This week’s Betchicist email comes from a single 30-something year-old woman who’s fed up with the societal pressure to get married and have kids. Naomi and Jordana wish there was an equal focus on celebrating partnership and other life accomplishments like success at work. They close things with a trio of Triggered submissions about an embarrassing Facebook pic, wedding photo drama, and a ring shopping insult. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 30, 2022
How To Fix A Fading Friendship
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It’s back to school season so Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about whether or not having kids really makes you happy (the answer: yes and no). The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who needs help with a long term friendship that’s on the rocks because of distance. Is a simple phone call all it takes to repair tension in a meaningful relationship? And should we stop relying on a text to say all that we need to say? The Betchicist email involves a soon-to-be-married couple that wants to adopt three children… but can they afford the expense? Jordana and Naomi debate whether or not it’s your place as a sister to offer an opinion on the decision to adopt. Then they finish the week with some Triggered scenarios, including body comments at the gym, inconsiderate parents, and a thoughtless friend. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 23, 2022
Why “I’m Never Speaking to You Again” Isn’t The Answer
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On today’s Oversharing, Naomi tells Jordana a story about her recent massage experience with a masseuse who went MIA for a little too long. Turns out a therapist off duty is still a therapist—the masseuse was going through it. Then it’s time for the essie Overshare email of the week, which comes from a listener who is feeling lonely and disconnected from family members even when she’s visiting her childhood home. How do you reconnect with loved ones when you’ve begun to drift apart? In this week’s Betchicist, a listener asks what to do about her mother’s pattern of being the “other woman.” How do you navigate a relationship with a family member whose choices you don’t agree with? They close with a game of Triggered, including parents who won’t go the extra mile, a mother-in-law who wants to be called ‘mom,’ and a listener whose husband wants a framed photo of him and his ex-wife in her home. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 16, 2022
How To Deal With Post-Breakup Anger
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In an Oversharing first, Jordana and Naomi record the show in-studio together. They start off with a conversation about being half-siblings and their complicated family tree. Next, they respond to an email from a listener who can’t help but feel like she wasted two years of her life in a relationship. Will she ever get over it? They talk about the therapeutic value of writing an angry letter to an ex—but never sending it—and why it helps you to reflect on what went wrong. For the Betchcist email, a writer asks if she can control who her kid is friends with. Naomi knows this feeling all too well—she suggests a psychological technique called “motivational interviewing” where the kid highlights the negatives of the relationship and comes to a realization about it themselves. Finally, this week’s triggered submissions include being called the wrong name, a vow renewal soon after a wedding, and judgements about how you raise your kids. Check out the Hung Up podcast here: Hung Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 09, 2022
How Men And Women Argue Differently
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Jordana and Naomi start the week with an email from a listener who feels like she can’t approach her partner with open communication because he gets too defensive. How do you navigate conflict with someone who escalates quickly and can’t deal with criticism? Plus, they talk about fights that arise from being on your phone too much, and how we often fight differently than our partner. For the Betchicist email, a listener writes in about a family feud and her complicated feelings about reconnecting with family members she hasn’t seen in years—would that be disloyal to her immediate family? Finally, the Triggered scenarios include an over-tired daughter, a friend who wants to call “dibs” on a guy she likes, and a couple who needs a new solution to a repeat argument. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 02, 2022
Should I Stop Doomscrolling?
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This week’s Oversharing starts with a listener email about an all-too-common source of anxiety these days: mass shootings and the safety of our loved ones. A listener writes in with a question about how to cope with a child going off to school for the first time during a time where shootings are constantly in the news, igniting feelings of fear and anxiety. How much caution do we need to exercise, and how much should we limit our exposure to anxiety-inducing information? Then Jordana and Naomi read this week’s Betchicist submission from a listener who got iced out by her sister after serving as her de facto nanny for years. How do you set new boundaries when a family member becomes too demanding? And how do you weigh your own needs for validation and autonomy against the needs of young children? Finally, they close with some Triggered scenarios about family members following an ex, animals after a breakup, and a lazy member of the group chat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 26, 2022
Signs You Need To Spice Things Up Vs Leave The Relationship
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Naomi and Jordana respond to FAQs in their DMs with an in-depth conversation about getting into therapy. Jordana shares her personal experience with trying therapy for the first time in her 20’s, and makes some suggestions for how to get into it yourself. Pro-tip: your therapist should address it if you’re late. Naomi discusses the importance of chemistry between therapist and client, and provides insight about the importance of self-care as a therapist. Then Naomi and Jordana discuss their therapy guidelines—Is it okay for your friends or family to see the same therapist as you? What is and isn’t a conflict of interest? Next, they respond to a listener who worries she’s settling down too early with her long-term boyfriend. Anyone else love date night? Drawing from their personal lives, Naomi and Jordana share how they keep things exciting with their own partners. Then, the Betchicist email sparks a conversation about verbalizing boundaries in relationships and the definition of monogamy. Finally, the Triggered submissions include a discussion of how to react when someone makes a rude comment, sharing news of an engagement with an ex, and projecting insecurities onto a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 19, 2022
Your Guide To Guided Meditation
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Jordana and Naomi are doing things a little differently today: instead of their usual convo, Naomi leads Jordana and listeners through a guided meditation (feel free to follow along). They discuss different kinds of meditation, and the best approach for listeners on the go. Naomi defines some key terms frequently thrown around (like ‘mindfulness’ and ‘mantra’) before sharing some tips and tricks for being mindful in your everyday life. Jordana uses her personal experience to provide insight into using meditation practices (yes, counting sheep is a thing) and relaxing her mind before bed. Then a listener writes in about getting fired from her job, and they give advice on how to move forward. Finally, this week’s Triggered covers the frustration of wanting to be invited to the events you don’t even want to go to. Stay tuned for next week where they’ll discuss tips for finding the right therapist. Check out the Hung Up podcast here: Hung Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 12, 2022
How To Allow Yourself To Really Feel Your Feelings
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Jordana and Naomi start the week with some tips for allowing yourself to feel your feelings and stop avoiding them with distractions. Naomi offers a great explanation of why it’s okay to lean into the physical feelings of emotion (painful as they may be). Then a listener writes in to ask how to cope with a recent failed relationship and find a sense of hope for the future. They examine a list of “qualities we want to find in a relationship” that she received from her therapist. Should we all examine our list of qualities that we’re looking for in a partner, or is it better to let things come naturally? Then another listener emails with a challenging Betchicist question: at what point is it okay to ask your future spouse to start therapy before getting married? In this case, is it fair to ask her boyfriend to confront his complicated feelings toward his mother? Finally, they close with a game of Triggered featuring a trio of tense situations resulting in anxiety, embarrassment, and a little jealousy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 05, 2022
Can A Relationship Survive After Cheating?
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Before getting into the heavy stuff, Jordana and Naomi begin the episode a convo about meditation. Naomi tells us about the importance of regular practice, while Jordana reflects on the difficulty of keeping it up. Then they dive into a discussion on cheating in relationships, and Naomi shares her thoughts on the age-old adage: “once a cheater, always a cheater.” They talk about reactions to cheating on both sides, and the importance of therapy in dealing with those emotions. This week’s Overshare comes from a listener who recently found out her serious boyfriend has cheated on all of his exes. About to enter a period of long-distance due to work, she questions whether her anxiety about his infidelity is valid, and how she can overcome it. The Betchicist email comes from a listener who is concerned her best friend’s boyfriend may be cheating. Should she bring it up, or let the situation unfold on its own? Finally, this week’s Triggered submissions address an airplane close encounter, nasty comments about an ex post-breakup, and being told you’re “punching above your looks.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 28, 2022
How To Confront A Toxic Family Dynamic
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Jordana starts the show with a story about having a positive customer service interaction (thanks to some great advice from the listeners). Then they dive into a conversation about setting the scene for a difficult conversation, and Naomi tells us what “doorknob comments” are in therapy. A listener calls in with an advice question about a toxic family dynamic involving her brother-in-law, and asks how to approach the relationship with her sister going forward. How do you share your true feelings without alienating a loved one? The Betchicist email of the week comes from a listener who has a family reunion planned but now feels pressured to miss it for a work obligation. Finally, the Triggered submissions include a know-it-all friend, a thoughtless boyfriend, and some relationship envy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 21, 2022
How Obligated Should You Feel To Express Your Political Opinions On Social Media?
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Jordana starts off this week by sharing about her recent work in becoming more grounded, and Naomi reveals how slowing down can actually help in preventing the urge to overshare. Then they respond to a listener voicemail all about how the urge to mention her relationship history too early has backfired. Why do we often feel the need to divulge too much, too early? Next they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is feeling pressure from her sister to express outraged on social media about social justice movements. Lastly, they end on a game of Triggered covering how to respond when someone else comments on your body image, being the “learning experience” child, and how to feel when you’re not invited to your own parent’s party. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 14, 2022
Am I Trapped In A Social Media Trance?
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Naomi starts the week with a confession about falling into a social media spiral after starting the podcast, and Jordana shares her own experience with seeking approval in the podcast review page. Then a listener writes in about a friendship that turned tense after becoming roommates. How do you go about repairing a damaged relationship, especially when you live together? Plus, they talk about the challenge of airing your dirty laundry to mutual friends when it could come back to bite you. Next, they debate the Betchicist email of the week from a listener who found out a friend cheated on an exam. Is it your duty to turn a friend in, or are you obligated to keep their transgression a secret? Finally, they close things with a game of Triggered featuring a jealous spouse, an ever-present sibling, and a slighted co-worker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 07, 2022
Am I Losing My Friend To Her Baby?
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This week starts with an audience response to Naomi and Jordana’s previous conversation about customer service, including some practical tips for how to make sure the interaction goes smoothly. Then they dive into the difficult topic of trying to maintain a meaningful relationship with a friend when they begin to have kids (and you don’t). The Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who feels left behind by a friend who recently had her first baby. Is it okay to feel resentful of the change? Then a listener sends in a challenging Betchicist question: should you call out a friend who is the “other woman” in a relationship, especially if you’ve been cheated on in the past. To close the show, they play a round of Triggered about backhanded compliments and feeling drained after work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 31, 2022
How to Stop Comparing Your Life To Others
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Jordana and Naomi start today’s Oversharing with a convo about allowing a friendship to be the primary relationship in your life (and how to reconnect when you begin to grow apart). Then they dive into the Overshare email of the week, all about comparing yourself to others and questioning your life decisions. Is there a trick to not falling into a spiral of envy? Then another listener writes in with a difficult Betchicist question: should you call out a friend for verbally abusing their romantic partner, or is it always better to keep it to yourself. Finally, they tackle a Triggered scenario about dating someone who is constantly negging you in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 24, 2022
How To Get Better At Taking Feedback
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This week, Jordana and Naomi start by telling us why it’s so hard to take feedback sometimes (and how to tell your therapist what they could be doing differently). Then the Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose fiancé has a family that feels like she’s stealing him away. Should she discuss the conflict directly with his family or let him handle it himself? Another emailer asks how to respond when her husband comments negatively about her body during pregnancy. Finally, they finish things out with another game of Triggered, including a check-grabbing opportunist, a mid-wedding proposal, and some awkward doggy-talk. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 17, 2022
How To Stop Sabotaging Your Own Relationship Success
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Jordana and Naomi are back for week two of the podcast and start things off with a convo about one of the most common sources of aggravation we all share: customer service. Why does the person on the other end of the phone get under our skin so often? Then they tackle the equally relatable topic of self sabotage. The (long af) Overshare email of the week involves a listener who ended things with a guy that was giving her f*ckboy vibes, but now she’s wondering if her past relationship problems caused her to sabotage the whole thing. When should you trust your gut, and when should you ignore your own misgivings? Next, they discuss a “Betchicist” ethical question about listening to a roommate’s therapy session through the walls (and what to do when they’re the ones you’re talking about). Finally, the show closes with another round of Triggered featuring bad kissers, backhanded compliments, and inconvenient truths. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 10, 2022
Sometimes You Should Go To Bed Angry
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In the first ever episode of Oversharing, sisters Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein kick things off with a conversation about why they wanted to host a podcast together, and where their shared love of therapy comes from. Plus, they tell us who gives the better advice. Then they dive into the Overshare email of the week, all about going through a difficult friend breakup. What’s the best way to approach a close friend about why you’ve lost touch? Next, they discuss a fascinating article from Esther Perel about the idea of “unconditional love” and why it’s not always practical. Is the conventional wisdom about going to be bed angry always useful? Finally, they play a round of Triggered, featuring a trio of touchy subjects to unpack. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 03, 2022
Oversharing (Trailer)
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Oversharing with Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein premiers Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022! Follow us now on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to be the first to hear it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 25, 2022