Oversharing

By Betches Media

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Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Each week they’re responding to listener emails, tackling difficult ethical questions, playing games, and so much more. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.

Episode Date
A Good Compromise Is Where Both People Are Unhappy
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This week, Naomi was inspired to stop covering her gray hair which sparks the conversation about accepting yourself for who you truly are. The Oversharing email of the week is from a listener who is weighing her options for how to juggle spending Christmas with her and her husband’s family. Both Naomi and Jordana agree that she will have to focus on finding the best compromise rather than fighting to keep her childhood traditions alive. They move on to a Betchicist submission where a listener asks - can you tell your boyfriend that it bothers you he doesn’t pay for more things? How can you go about it without sounding “old fashioned"? They end on some Triggered scenarios around others discouraging your weight-loss journey, feeling left out, and nosy geriatric patients. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 27, 2022
Coming to Terms with Feelings of Jealousy
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This week, Jordana gives updates on giving the cold shower assignment a shot. Naomi then explains that when you give yourself the option to resist something you will, so practicing an “Acceptance Mindset” is great protection against resistance. This week’s Oversharing Voicemail is from a listener who’s having fertility struggles. They help her break down the intrusive thoughts that can accompany infertility. Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is figuring out how to tell her best friend she hates their partner. They end on some Triggered submissions about having an estranged father-daughter relationship, being called “old” by a Gen-Zer, and a father-of-the-bride speech gone wrong. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 20, 2022
Can We Find Happiness In Being Single? Ft. Almost 30
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Did Jordana complete her cold shower assignment from last week? Maybe not, but she did learn a valuable lesson from the experience anyway. Naomi explains how our ability to vocalize discomfort reflects our level of assertiveness. In this week’s Overshare, a listener is feeling obligated to maintain friendships and if she should be the fist one to “crack the pack”. They bring on the show’s very first guests, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik of Almost 30. Naomi is eager to talk about finding a sacredness in being single. Can we as a society find happiness in our individual accomplishments? Or will we always think our happiness is weighted in our relationships? They end on Triggered submissions about a mom’s unnecessary facebook comment, a flakey friend, and a sh*t talking sister-in-law. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 13, 2022
Friend Breakups: How To Find Closure
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How do you strike the right balance between assertiveness and complacency? Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about becoming more or less aggressive in daily interactions, along with some tips for getting outside your comfort zone. The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose close friend suddenly withdrew from the relationship back in college, leaving her feeling left out. Now that she’s back in close proximity, should she reach out and find closure, or leave things in the past? Next, they debate a challenging Betchicist question: is it okay to be disappointed by your partner’s plan for your milestone birthday, even if you hijacked their idea and paid for it yourself? How do we find satisfaction in our relationships and stop focusing on the negative? Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve a Tennis match betrayal, a disappointing breakup, and an overreach in couples therapy. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 06, 2022
The Secret To Finding Meaningful Connections
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Has the rise of social media left everyone feeling lonelier than ever? Jordana and Naomi tackle this challenging question and try to figure out why we often feel less connected, even when our online interactions are on the rise. Naomi offers some lessons from the group therapy sessions she leads, and they talk about the way the pandemic has affected introverts. They also discuss the way friends are made and maintained early in life compared to when you hit your 30’s and 40’s. Why is it so hard to make new friends as you get older, and how do you even meet new people anyway? Jordana shares her experience with traveling and breaking outside of her comfort zone. Finally, they offer some tips for spending quality time and finding your “friendship pickup line” at the salon. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 01, 2022
How To Stop Texting Your Ex
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Naomi and Jordana begin the week with a conversation about the transition from relying on your childhood family to starting a family of your own. Then they read the essie Overshare email of the week from a listener who is still texting an ex more than a year after the breakup. Is she really missing the ex, or is the loneliness she’s feeling driving her to miss the attachment? Naomi walks us through a visualization exercise for comforting your child-self (and healing our childhood attachment issues) along with a strategy for enlisting a friend to help resist the urge to reach out. This week’s Betchicist email comes from a single 30-something year-old woman who’s fed up with the societal pressure to get married and have kids. Naomi and Jordana wish there was an equal focus on celebrating partnership and other life accomplishments like success at work. They close things with a trio of Triggered submissions about an embarrassing Facebook pic, wedding photo drama, and a ring shopping insult. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 30, 2022
How To Fix A Fading Friendship
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It’s back to school season so Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about whether or not having kids really makes you happy (the answer: yes and no). The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who needs help with a long term friendship that’s on the rocks because of distance. Is a simple phone call all it takes to repair tension in a meaningful relationship? And should we stop relying on a text to say all that we need to say? The Betchicist email involves a soon-to-be-married couple that wants to adopt three children… but can they afford the expense? Jordana and Naomi debate whether or not it’s your place as a sister to offer an opinion on the decision to adopt. Then they finish the week with some Triggered scenarios, including body comments at the gym, inconsiderate parents, and a thoughtless friend. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 23, 2022
Why “I’m Never Speaking to You Again” Isn’t The Answer
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On today’s Oversharing, Naomi tells Jordana a story about her recent massage experience with a masseuse who went MIA for a little too long. Turns out a therapist off duty is still a therapist—the masseuse was going through it. Then it’s time for the essie Overshare email of the week, which comes from a listener who is feeling lonely and disconnected from family members even when she’s visiting her childhood home. How do you reconnect with loved ones when you’ve begun to drift apart? In this week’s Betchicist, a listener asks what to do about her mother’s pattern of being the “other woman.” How do you navigate a relationship with a family member whose choices you don’t agree with? They close with a game of Triggered, including parents who won’t go the extra mile, a mother-in-law who wants to be called ‘mom,’ and a listener whose husband wants a framed photo of him and his ex-wife in her home. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 16, 2022
How To Deal With Post-Breakup Anger
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In an Oversharing first, Jordana and Naomi record the show in-studio together. They start off with a conversation about being half-siblings and their complicated family tree. Next, they respond to an email from a listener who can’t help but feel like she wasted two years of her life in a relationship. Will she ever get over it? They talk about the therapeutic value of writing an angry letter to an ex—but never sending it—and why it helps you to reflect on what went wrong. For the Betchcist email, a writer asks if she can control who her kid is friends with. Naomi knows this feeling all too well—she suggests a psychological technique called “motivational interviewing” where the kid highlights the negatives of the relationship and comes to a realization about it themselves. Finally, this week’s triggered submissions include being called the wrong name, a vow renewal soon after a wedding, and judgements about how you raise your kids. Check out the Hung Up podcast here: Hung Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 09, 2022
How Men And Women Argue Differently
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Jordana and Naomi start the week with an email from a listener who feels like she can’t approach her partner with open communication because he gets too defensive. How do you navigate conflict with someone who escalates quickly and can’t deal with criticism? Plus, they talk about fights that arise from being on your phone too much, and how we often fight differently than our partner. For the Betchicist email, a listener writes in about a family feud and her complicated feelings about reconnecting with family members she hasn’t seen in years—would that be disloyal to her immediate family? Finally, the Triggered scenarios include an over-tired daughter, a friend who wants to call “dibs” on a guy she likes, and a couple who needs a new solution to a repeat argument. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 02, 2022
Should I Stop Doomscrolling?
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This week’s Oversharing starts with a listener email about an all-too-common source of anxiety these days: mass shootings and the safety of our loved ones. A listener writes in with a question about how to cope with a child going off to school for the first time during a time where shootings are constantly in the news, igniting feelings of fear and anxiety. How much caution do we need to exercise, and how much should we limit our exposure to anxiety-inducing information? Then Jordana and Naomi read this week’s Betchicist submission from a listener who got iced out by her sister after serving as her de facto nanny for years. How do you set new boundaries when a family member becomes too demanding? And how do you weigh your own needs for validation and autonomy against the needs of young children? Finally, they close with some Triggered scenarios about family members following an ex, animals after a breakup, and a lazy member of the group chat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 26, 2022
Signs You Need To Spice Things Up Vs Leave The Relationship
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Naomi and Jordana respond to FAQs in their DMs with an in-depth conversation about getting into therapy. Jordana shares her personal experience with trying therapy for the first time in her 20’s, and makes some suggestions for how to get into it yourself. Pro-tip: your therapist should address it if you’re late. Naomi discusses the importance of chemistry between therapist and client, and provides insight about the importance of self-care as a therapist. Then Naomi and Jordana discuss their therapy guidelines—Is it okay for your friends or family to see the same therapist as you? What is and isn’t a conflict of interest? Next, they respond to a listener who worries she’s settling down too early with her long-term boyfriend. Anyone else love date night? Drawing from their personal lives, Naomi and Jordana share how they keep things exciting with their own partners. Then, the Betchicist email sparks a conversation about verbalizing boundaries in relationships and the definition of monogamy. Finally, the Triggered submissions include a discussion of how to react when someone makes a rude comment, sharing news of an engagement with an ex, and projecting insecurities onto a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 19, 2022
Your Guide To Guided Meditation
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Jordana and Naomi are doing things a little differently today: instead of their usual convo, Naomi leads Jordana and listeners through a guided meditation (feel free to follow along). They discuss different kinds of meditation, and the best approach for listeners on the go. Naomi defines some key terms frequently thrown around (like ‘mindfulness’ and ‘mantra’) before sharing some tips and tricks for being mindful in your everyday life. Jordana uses her personal experience to provide insight into using meditation practices (yes, counting sheep is a thing) and relaxing her mind before bed. Then a listener writes in about getting fired from her job, and they give advice on how to move forward. Finally, this week’s Triggered covers the frustration of wanting to be invited to the events you don’t even want to go to. Stay tuned for next week where they’ll discuss tips for finding the right therapist. Check out the Hung Up podcast here: Hung Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 12, 2022
How To Allow Yourself To Really Feel Your Feelings
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Jordana and Naomi start the week with some tips for allowing yourself to feel your feelings and stop avoiding them with distractions. Naomi offers a great explanation of why it’s okay to lean into the physical feelings of emotion (painful as they may be). Then a listener writes in to ask how to cope with a recent failed relationship and find a sense of hope for the future. They examine a list of “qualities we want to find in a relationship” that she received from her therapist. Should we all examine our list of qualities that we’re looking for in a partner, or is it better to let things come naturally? Then another listener emails with a challenging Betchicist question: at what point is it okay to ask your future spouse to start therapy before getting married? In this case, is it fair to ask her boyfriend to confront his complicated feelings toward his mother? Finally, they close with a game of Triggered featuring a trio of tense situations resulting in anxiety, embarrassment, and a little jealousy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 05, 2022
Can A Relationship Survive After Cheating?
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Before getting into the heavy stuff, Jordana and Naomi begin the episode a convo about meditation. Naomi tells us about the importance of regular practice, while Jordana reflects on the difficulty of keeping it up. Then they dive into a discussion on cheating in relationships, and Naomi shares her thoughts on the age-old adage: “once a cheater, always a cheater.” They talk about reactions to cheating on both sides, and the importance of therapy in dealing with those emotions. This week’s Overshare comes from a listener who recently found out her serious boyfriend has cheated on all of his exes. About to enter a period of long-distance due to work, she questions whether her anxiety about his infidelity is valid, and how she can overcome it. The Betchicist email comes from a listener who is concerned her best friend’s boyfriend may be cheating. Should she bring it up, or let the situation unfold on its own? Finally, this week’s Triggered submissions address an airplane close encounter, nasty comments about an ex post-breakup, and being told you’re “punching above your looks.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 28, 2022
How To Confront A Toxic Family Dynamic
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Jordana starts the show with a story about having a positive customer service interaction (thanks to some great advice from the listeners). Then they dive into a conversation about setting the scene for a difficult conversation, and Naomi tells us what “doorknob comments” are in therapy. A listener calls in with an advice question about a toxic family dynamic involving her brother-in-law, and asks how to approach the relationship with her sister going forward. How do you share your true feelings without alienating a loved one? The Betchicist email of the week comes from a listener who has a family reunion planned but now feels pressured to miss it for a work obligation. Finally, the Triggered submissions include a know-it-all friend, a thoughtless boyfriend, and some relationship envy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 21, 2022
How Obligated Should You Feel To Express Your Political Opinions On Social Media?
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Jordana starts off this week by sharing about her recent work in becoming more grounded, and Naomi reveals how slowing down can actually help in preventing the urge to overshare. Then they respond to a listener voicemail all about how the urge to mention her relationship history too early has backfired. Why do we often feel the need to divulge too much, too early? Next they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is feeling pressure from her sister to express outraged on social media about social justice movements. Lastly, they end on a game of Triggered covering how to respond when someone else comments on your body image, being the “learning experience” child, and how to feel when you’re not invited to your own parent’s party. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 14, 2022
Am I Trapped In A Social Media Trance?
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Naomi starts the week with a confession about falling into a social media spiral after starting the podcast, and Jordana shares her own experience with seeking approval in the podcast review page. Then a listener writes in about a friendship that turned tense after becoming roommates. How do you go about repairing a damaged relationship, especially when you live together? Plus, they talk about the challenge of airing your dirty laundry to mutual friends when it could come back to bite you. Next, they debate the Betchicist email of the week from a listener who found out a friend cheated on an exam. Is it your duty to turn a friend in, or are you obligated to keep their transgression a secret? Finally, they close things with a game of Triggered featuring a jealous spouse, an ever-present sibling, and a slighted co-worker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 07, 2022
Am I Losing My Friend To Her Baby?
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This week starts with an audience response to Naomi and Jordana’s previous conversation about customer service, including some practical tips for how to make sure the interaction goes smoothly. Then they dive into the difficult topic of trying to maintain a meaningful relationship with a friend when they begin to have kids (and you don’t). The Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who feels left behind by a friend who recently had her first baby. Is it okay to feel resentful of the change? Then a listener sends in a challenging Betchicist question: should you call out a friend who is the “other woman” in a relationship, especially if you’ve been cheated on in the past. To close the show, they play a round of Triggered about backhanded compliments and feeling drained after work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 31, 2022
How to Stop Comparing Your Life To Others
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Jordana and Naomi start today’s Oversharing with a convo about allowing a friendship to be the primary relationship in your life (and how to reconnect when you begin to grow apart). Then they dive into the Overshare email of the week, all about comparing yourself to others and questioning your life decisions. Is there a trick to not falling into a spiral of envy? Then another listener writes in with a difficult Betchicist question: should you call out a friend for verbally abusing their romantic partner, or is it always better to keep it to yourself. Finally, they tackle a Triggered scenario about dating someone who is constantly negging you in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 24, 2022
How To Get Better At Taking Feedback
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This week, Jordana and Naomi start by telling us why it’s so hard to take feedback sometimes (and how to tell your therapist what they could be doing differently). Then the Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose fiancé has a family that feels like she’s stealing him away. Should she discuss the conflict directly with his family or let him handle it himself? Another emailer asks how to respond when her husband comments negatively about her body during pregnancy. Finally, they finish things out with another game of Triggered, including a check-grabbing opportunist, a mid-wedding proposal, and some awkward doggy-talk. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 17, 2022
How To Stop Sabotaging Your Own Relationship Success
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Jordana and Naomi are back for week two of the podcast and start things off with a convo about one of the most common sources of aggravation we all share: customer service. Why does the person on the other end of the phone get under our skin so often? Then they tackle the equally relatable topic of self sabotage. The (long af) Overshare email of the week involves a listener who ended things with a guy that was giving her f*ckboy vibes, but now she’s wondering if her past relationship problems caused her to sabotage the whole thing. When should you trust your gut, and when should you ignore your own misgivings? Next, they discuss a “Betchicist” ethical question about listening to a roommate’s therapy session through the walls (and what to do when they’re the ones you’re talking about). Finally, the show closes with another round of Triggered featuring bad kissers, backhanded compliments, and inconvenient truths. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 10, 2022
Sometimes You Should Go To Bed Angry
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In the first ever episode of Oversharing, sisters Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein kick things off with a conversation about why they wanted to host a podcast together, and where their shared love of therapy comes from. Plus, they tell us who gives the better advice. Then they dive into the Overshare email of the week, all about going through a difficult friend breakup. What’s the best way to approach a close friend about why you’ve lost touch? Next, they discuss a fascinating article from Esther Perel about the idea of “unconditional love” and why it’s not always practical. Is the conventional wisdom about going to be bed angry always useful? Finally, they play a round of Triggered, featuring a trio of touchy subjects to unpack. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 03, 2022
Oversharing (Trailer)
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Oversharing with Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein premiers Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022! Follow us now on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to be the first to hear it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 25, 2022