Be A Better You

By Allison K. Dagney

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The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined. 

I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.


Episode Date
Ep: 217 The Story You Make Up About What Everyone Thinks of You
May 19, 2026
Ep 216: Crystals & What They Actually Do for Healing (w/Guest Christine Luken)
May 12, 2026
Ep 215: Chemistry Isn't Always a Green Flag (Especially After Abuse)
May 05, 2026
Ep 214: Your Dreams Are Opening a Door You’ve Been Ignoring (Guest Dream Worker Oneiraya)
Apr 28, 2026
Ep 213: It’s Not the Coping Mechanism—It’s What You’re Trying Not to Feel
Apr 21, 2026
Ep 212: The Science of Healing After Emotional Abuse (Interview on The Survivor’s Playbook)
Apr 14, 2026
Ep 211: The ‘Ick’ That Won’t Go Away: Emotional Residue After Toxic Relationships.
Apr 07, 2026
Ep 210: Why Smart People Stay in Toxic Relationships
Mar 31, 2026
Bonus EP: You Have a Story… So Why Haven’t You Told It Yet? Guest Author Heather Hutzel
Mar 26, 2026
Ep: 209 Co-Rumination: The Healing Habit That’s Secretly Hurting You
Mar 24, 2026
Ep 208: Your Spicy Brain Is Not Broken: How to Work With Your Mind, Rewire Your Beliefs, and Become Unstoppable
Mar 17, 2026
Ep 207: “Who Do You Think You Are?” - Getting Out of Imposter Syndrome
Mar 10, 2026
Episode 206: Why You Thought You Were Crazy in Your Relationship (But You Weren’t)
Mar 03, 2026
Episode 205: Reinforcement Strategies to Break the Trauma Bond
Feb 24, 2026
Episode 204: How to Read People (and yourself) Accurately After Emotional Abuse
Feb 17, 2026
Ep 203: Subtle Signs You Were Emotionally Controlled (That Don’t Look Like Abuse)
Feb 10, 2026
Episode 202: Why Trauma Bonds Feel Stronger After You Leave
Feb 03, 2026
Episode 201: Emotional Sobriety: Detoxing From the Highs and Lows You Got Addicted To
Jan 27, 2026
Ep 200: What 200 Episodes Taught Me About Healing (Why Ease Matters More Than Effort)
Jan 20, 2026
Ep 199: A Matchmaker’s Perspective: Dating After Abuse (with Tina Joy)
Jan 15, 2026
Episode 198: Your Solution to Why You Can't Stick to it Past 2 Weeks
Jan 13, 2026
Episode 197: Actionable Steps to Unblocking Your Path to Success
Jan 06, 2026
Episode 196: The Secret to Following Through to Be A Better You!
Dec 30, 2025
Episode 195: The Narcissistic Hoover Season & How to Combat it
Dec 23, 2025
EP 194: Holiday Trigger Season: Why You Feel Pulled Back Into the Past & How to Ground In the Present
Dec 16, 2025
Episode 193: Stop Trying to Rescue Everyone - The Holiday Savior Complex
Dec 09, 2025
Episode 192: Stressmas - How to Reduce Holiday Stress for You and Your Kids
Dec 02, 2025
Episode 191: Doing Positive Affirmations Wrong is Wasting Your Time
Nov 25, 2025
Episode 190: The Truth About “Doing the Work” (and Why You’re Still Stuck)
Nov 18, 2025
Episode 189: When Healing Feels Like Betrayal & Letting Go of The Guilt
Nov 11, 2025
Episode 188: The Lone Wolf Trap & Why Healing In Isolation Isn't Working
Nov 04, 2025
Episode 187: The Hidden Costs of Emotional Abuse
Oct 28, 2025
Episode 186: The Cycle That Keeps You Hooked: Love Bombing & Trauma Bonds
Oct 21, 2025
Episode 185: Unusual Signs of Emotional Abuse You’ve Probably Never Heard Of
Oct 14, 2025
Episode 184B: Proof That Healthy Relationships Do Exist with Michelle Lentz
Oct 09, 2025
Episode 184: Gaslighting, Coercive Control and Minimization
Oct 07, 2025
Episode 183: Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies to Protect Your Peace & Power with Chantal Contorines
Oct 02, 2025
Episode 182: Mini Series 4: Why You Should Be Angry About It
Sep 30, 2025
Episode 181: Mini Series 3: Why You Shouldn't Have Left Sooner
Sep 23, 2025
Episode 180: Mini Series 2: Why You Couldn't Have Known Better
Sep 16, 2025
Episode 179: Mini Series 1: Why You Shouldn't Have Seen The Signs
Sep 09, 2025
Episode 178: Struggling With Indecision & How to Build Self Trust
Sep 02, 2025
Episode 177: Self Love Hack: A Powerful and Quick Manifestation Trick
Aug 26, 2025
Episode 176: Why Nothing Changes When You're Trying So Hard
Aug 26, 2025
Episode 175: Creating Peaceful Co-Parenting with Maria Natapov
Aug 20, 2025
Episode 174: The Hidden Impacts of Emotional Abuse — And Why You Don’t Have to Live With Them Forever
Aug 19, 2025
Episode 173: Two Women. Two Stories. One Message: You Can Heal.
Aug 14, 2025
Episode 172: Why You Can't Stop Worrying and 4 Steps to Stop
Aug 12, 2025
Episode 171: 10 Signs You Were The Mirror Not The Partner
Aug 05, 2025
Episode 170: The Dangers of Agreeable AI and How To Use it to Help Not Harm
Jul 29, 2025
Episode 169: Who Am I Without My Pain
Jul 22, 2025
Episode 168: 10 Ways Defending Yourself Keeps You Trapped: When Survival is a Cage
Jul 15, 2025
Episode 167: Hidden Ways You Abandon Yourself (and How to Stop)
Jul 08, 2025
Episode 166: Healing Childhood Abandonment and Rejection Wounds
Jul 01, 2025
Episode 165: Why Guilt and Regret are Keeping You Stuck
Jun 24, 2025
Episode 164: The Thoughts You're Ashamed to Admit After Abuse & Why They Make Sense
Jun 17, 2025
Episode 163: The First Thing You Should Do to Recover From Emotional Abuse
Jun 10, 2025
Episode 162: When You're Tired of Healing but Still Not Healed
Jun 03, 2025
Episode 161: 3 Quick Tips to Shut Down Emotional Chaos Before It Takes Over
May 27, 2025
Episode 160: Clinging to Your Opinions is Keeping You Stuck
May 20, 2025
Episode 159: When Seeing the Good in Others Becomes Self Abandonment
May 13, 2025
Episode 158: From Religion to Resonance: Reclaiming Joy, Spirituality & Self with Wendy Harvey
May 08, 2025
Episode 157: What I Actually Do Every Day to Heal, Grow, and Stay Free
May 06, 2025
Episode 156: How to Finally Manifest What you Deserve and Desire
Apr 29, 2025
Episode 155: 10 Signs Your Nervous System Still Thinks You’re in That Relationship
Apr 22, 2025
Episode 154: Why Shrinking Yourself Attracts the Wrong People
Apr 15, 2025
Episode 153: Becoming Abundant: Healing Money Wounds & Unpacking Financial Abuse
Apr 10, 2025
Episode 152: Rumination Relief is Possible For You
Apr 08, 2025
Episode 151: Unlocking Healing & Purpose Through Human Design with Adriana Keefe
Apr 03, 2025
Episode 150: 10 Signs it Wasn't You, It Was Emotional Abuse
Apr 01, 2025
Episode 149: Am I The Toxic One? Understanding Your Defensive Reactions
Mar 25, 2025
Episode 148: How to Feel Safe in Your Body After Emotional Abuse
Mar 18, 2025
Episode 147: Reclaiming Your Power: Why Seeking Validation Keeps You Stuck
Mar 11, 2025
Episode 146: Neural Plasticity in Action: My Real Life Story and Tips to Change Your Brain
Mar 04, 2025
Episode 145: How to Avoid a Narcissist: Shifting Beliefs and Energetics that Make You Vulnerable
Feb 25, 2025
Episode 144: 3 Common Beliefs Keeping You Stuck (and ways to shift them)
Feb 18, 2025
Episode 143: What No One Tells You About the Healing Journey
Feb 11, 2025
Episode 142: Radiate and Rise: Turning Pain Into Power
Feb 04, 2025
Episode 141: Smear Campaigns: How to Protect Your Peace When They Attack Your Character
Jan 28, 2025
Episode 140: My Top Tips to Communicating with a Narcissist
Jan 21, 2025
Episode 139: How to Deal When the Abuse Continues Post-Separation
Jan 14, 2025
Episode 138: You Can't Love People Harder Into Loving You
Jan 07, 2025
Episode 137: Setting Intentions for Emotional Healing in 2025
Dec 31, 2024
Episode 136: The "V" Word
Dec 24, 2024
Episode 135: How ‘Knowing You Know Nothing’ Can Transform Your Life
Dec 17, 2024
Episode 134: You Are Not Broken
Dec 10, 2024
Episode 133: Low Self-Worth, Rumination, and Comparing Yourself to Others
Dec 03, 2024
Episode 132: Why Can't I Ever Be Good Enough - A Painful Personal Story **Listener Disclaimer
Nov 26, 2024
Episode 131: You Are Not Your Ruminations: Your Thoughts Don't Define You
Nov 19, 2024
Episode 130: What's Keeping You Tethered to the Pain?
Nov 12, 2024
Episode 129: Why You Can't Stop Thinking About It
Nov 05, 2024
Episode 128: Fantasy Ruminations that Keep You Stuck
Oct 29, 2024
Episode 127: Stop Letting Rumination Rule Your Life
Oct 22, 2024
Episode 126: How to Deal with Conflict as an Abuse Survivor
Oct 15, 2024
Episode 125: Unveiling Narcissistic Abuse: The Effects of Withholding on Self-Esteem
Oct 08, 2024
Episode 124: 17 Signs of Emotional Abuse for Domestic Abuse Awareness Month
Oct 01, 2024
Episode 123: Your Brain as a Healing Tool: Why It’s Time to Use It
Sep 24, 2024
Episode 121: Shifting Self-Blame with the Power of the Subconscious Mind
Sep 10, 2024
Episode 120: Calm the Storm: Regaining Control After Emotional Abuse
Sep 03, 2024
Episode 119: The Real Reason Letting Go Feels so Hard
Aug 27, 2024
Episode 118: Managing and Removing Your Triggers
Aug 20, 2024
Episode 117: Rewiring Your Brain Isn’t as Hard as You Think
Aug 13, 2024
Episode 116: Breaking the Cycle of Trauma Bonds
Aug 06, 2024
Episode 115: How to Reduce and Prevent Anxiety
Jul 30, 2024
Episode 114: The Hidden Side of Codependency
Jul 23, 2024
Episode 113: How to Stop Giving Your Power Away After Abuse
Jul 16, 2024
Episode 112: The Healing Power of Community: Why You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Jul 09, 2024
Episode 111: Easy Ways to Begin Healing through Action and Celebration
Jul 02, 2024
Episode 110: 3 Ways to Decrease Physical, Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Jun 25, 2024
Episode 109: Navigating Isolation After Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse
Jun 18, 2024
Episode 108: Escaping the Swamp of Emotional Abuse Recovery
Jun 11, 2024
Episode 107: A Peek Inside Parts Work with Guest Riessa Monique
Jun 04, 2024
Episode 106: Clearing Subconscious Blocks to Achieve Your Goals
May 28, 2024
Episode 105: Embracing Your Worth: A Journey to Self-Love with Elizabeth Foster
May 21, 2024
Episode 104: Do You Know Your Soul's Blueprint? Decoding Human Design Centers
May 14, 2024
Episode 103: A Lesson on Chakras: A Key Piece to Your Well-Being
May 07, 2024
Episode 102: Mind - Body - Spirit Alignment: A Pop Up Conversation
Apr 30, 2024
Episode 101: Beyond the Surface: Healing Your Relationship with Food
Apr 23, 2024
Episode 100: An Eye Opening Discussion on Religious Deconstruction
Apr 16, 2024
Episode 99: Why You Can't Stick to Something Long Term & What do to About it
Apr 09, 2024
Episode 98: Empowerment through Accountability: Embracing Change for a Better You
Apr 02, 2024
Episode 97: 4 Tips to Cultivate a Positive Mindset
Mar 26, 2024
Episode 96: Navigating Overwhelm: Empowering Women to Thrive in Today's Demands
Mar 19, 2024
Episode 95: Beyond the Bubble: Unleashing Growth Outside Your Comfort Zone
Mar 12, 2024
Episode 94: Unlocking Your Potential - An Introduction to Human Design
Mar 05, 2024
Episode 93: Uncovering Your Self-Sabotage to Bring You To Success
Feb 27, 2024
Episode 92: How Removing Subconscious Blocks Can Build Your Dreams
Feb 20, 2024
Episode 91: 3 Simple Tips to Be a Better You!
Feb 13, 2024
Episode 90: From Darkness to Light: A Discussion of Parental Narcissistic Abuse
Feb 06, 2024
Episode 89: 3 Powerful Questions to Help Remove Your Blocks to Healing
Jan 30, 2024
Episode 88: My Best Tips to Stop Rumination so You Can FEEL JOY
Jan 23, 2024
Episode 87: BONUS: Betrayal Trauma & Actionable Steps to Move Through the Pain
Jan 18, 2024
Episode 86: Breaking Free from the "I Am Not Good Enough" Mindset
Jan 16, 2024
Episode 85: Transformational Stories: A Guest Interview with a Former Client
Jan 09, 2024
Episode 84: My Christmas Story: How I Spent it All Alone
Jan 02, 2024
Episode 83: Breaking Chains: From Stripper to Psychologist - A Woman's Journey of Resilience and Transformation
Dec 26, 2023
Episode 82: How to Stop Catering to the Abuser After Divorce
Dec 19, 2023
Episode 81: Narcissists Aren't Smarter: Debunking the Myth!
Dec 12, 2023
Episode 80: A Lesson on Chronic Pain & Ancestral Clearing
Dec 05, 2023
Episode 79: Accelerate Your Healing Journey and Make it More Enjoyable!
Nov 28, 2023
Episode 78: The True Source of Loneliness
Nov 21, 2023
Episode 77: Are You Self Gaslighting? Strategies to Stop Doubting Your Reality
Nov 14, 2023
Episode 76: Why Subscribing to Other People's Views on Narcissism Hurts
Nov 07, 2023
Episode 75: Systems, Formulas, and Functional Beauty for Inner Freedom
Oct 31, 2023
Episode 74: From Black and White to Technicolor: The Journey of Emotional Abuse Recovery
Oct 24, 2023
Episode 73: BONUS: Elevate Your Emotions - The Power of High Frequency
Oct 19, 2023
Episode 72: Overcoming Rumination & Trauma Bonds to Make Space for Joy After Emotional Abuse
Oct 17, 2023
Episode 71: Unveiling the Hidden Mind: Understanding Conscious Thoughts and Subconscious Beliefs
Oct 10, 2023
Episode 70: BONUS - Shift Happens: Feeling Differently with FUN!
Oct 05, 2023
Episode 69: Unpacking Shame and Guilt
Oct 03, 2023
Episode 68: Bonus Episode: 5 Ways to Repel a Narcissist
Oct 01, 2023
Episode 67: How Do You Know if You're on the Right Path?
Sep 26, 2023
Episode 66: Empowering the Family Through the Subconscious Mind
Sep 19, 2023
Episode 65: A Quick Tip to Feeling Your True Value
Sep 12, 2023
Episode 64: Simple Steps to Uncovering the Real You After Emotional Abuse
Sep 05, 2023
Episode 63: Breaking The Chains of Labels: Trauma Bonds, Twin Flames and Soul Mates
Aug 29, 2023
Episode 62: Harmony Within: Exploring Ho'oponopono and Empathic Healing
Aug 22, 2023
Episode 61: BONUS: Transforming Self-Worth After Abuse - I'm Worthy!
Aug 18, 2023
Episode 60: Empowering Minds: Healing from Emotional Abuse through Metacognition
Aug 15, 2023
Episode 59: Can a Narcissist Love? The Deeper Meaning Behind this Question
Aug 08, 2023
Episode 58: Losing Relationships with Friends and Family After the Break up: How to Deal
Aug 01, 2023
Episode 57: Empowered! From Broken Down and Rock Bottom to Totally Transformed
Jul 25, 2023
Episode 56: Three Steps to Overcome Conditioning by the Narcissist
Jul 18, 2023
Episode 55: Why You Feel So Confused When the Abuser Starts Being Nice!
Jul 11, 2023
Episode 54: The Language of Healing: Your Emotional Abuse Recovery through Word Reframing
Jul 04, 2023
Episode 53: Beyond Exercise: Pilates and A Course in Miracles as Profound Tools for Personal Healing
Jun 27, 2023
Episode 52: The Fastest Way to Feel Indifferent Toward Your Ex
Jun 20, 2023
Episode 51: How to Use The Power of Being Present for Recovery
Jun 13, 2023
Episode 50: How to Release Anger and Dealing with Injustices After Abuse
Jun 06, 2023
Episode 49: Achieving the Life of Your Dreams After Emotional Abuse
May 30, 2023
Episode 48: The Negative Impacts of Financial Abuse and 3 Simple Steps to Overcome It
May 23, 2023
Episode 47: Understanding and Releasing Fear for Emotional Abuse Recovery
May 16, 2023
Episode 46: The Root of Emotional Pain & Why You Might Resist Healing
May 09, 2023
Episode 45: BONUS - The Road to Recovery: Candid Conversations about Healing from Childhood/Sexual Abuse
May 02, 2023
Episode 44: Breaking the Silence: How to Reclaim Your Voice While Healing from Emotional Abuse
Apr 25, 2023
Episode 43: The Closure Myth: Why You Don't Need it to Heal from Emotional Abuse
Apr 18, 2023
Episode 42: Surviving and Thriving: A Mother and Daughter's Story of Overcoming Emotional Abuse
Apr 11, 2023
Episode 41: How to Process Emotions When the New Supply Is Being Treated Better Than You
Apr 04, 2023
Episode 40: 3 Easy Steps to Stop Taking Things Personally
Mar 28, 2023
Episode 39: Is it Really Your Ex You're Missing?
Mar 21, 2023
Episode 38: Healing Your Memory After Emotional Abuse
Mar 14, 2023
Episode 37: Assembling a Support Team For Your Healing Journey
Mar 07, 2023
Episode 36: Is it Really Possible to Forget The Past?
Feb 28, 2023
Episode 35: Want to Jump Start Your Healing? Here are 4 Quick Tips
Feb 28, 2023
Episode 34: The Real Reason we People Please and How To Stop
Feb 21, 2023
Episode 33: Escaping the Egyptian Narcissist with Author Maggie Petraki
Feb 14, 2023
Episode 32: Narcissists Everywhere! How to Feel Safe
Feb 07, 2023
Episode 31: 5 Signs Your Subconscious is Healing
Jan 31, 2023
Episode 30: Are you Future Faking Yourself?!
Jan 24, 2023
Episode 29: The Power of Values & Knowing Your True Self After Trauma
Jan 17, 2023
Episode 28: BONUS Episode: The Love of Wisdom and How it Can Help You Heal
Jan 14, 2023
Episode 27: Trauma Bonds: 8 Reasons You Feel Stuck and What to do About it
Jan 10, 2023
Episode 26: How to Deal With the Smear Campaign
Jan 02, 2023
Episode 25: Letting Go! 3 Simple Hacks No One Has Told You
Dec 27, 2022
Episode 24: The Power of Telling Your Story to Heal
Dec 20, 2022
Episode 23: How to Help Yourself Get Out of the Holiday Blues
Dec 13, 2022
Episode 22: Part 2 - New Relationships After the Breakup: More Things You Need to Know
Dec 06, 2022
Episode 21: Part 1 - New Relationships After The Breakup: 5 Things You Need to Know
Nov 29, 2022
Episode 20: How to Repair Your Relationship with Money After Financial Abuse
Nov 22, 2022
Episode 19: Setting Healthy Boundaries without Guilt and Fear
Nov 15, 2022
Episode 18: The Grief Stages of Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Nov 08, 2022
Episode 17: When Tears Leave Scars Chapter 1 Reading
Nov 01, 2022
Episode 16: Step-Parents and Blended Families - Healing Together
Oct 25, 2022
Episode 15: How to Tame the Triggers After Emotional Abuse
Oct 18, 2022
Episode 14: Helping Children with Toxic and Narcissistic Parents
Oct 11, 2022
Episode 13: Are Nightmares Disrupting Your Sleep!? Let's Fix That
Oct 04, 2022
Episode 12: How You Can Use Manifestation to Help You Heal
Sep 27, 2022
Episode 11: The Secret to Creating More Self Confidence
Sep 20, 2022
Episode 10: Trusting Again After Betrayal
Sep 13, 2022
Episode 9: 3 Tips to Get Your Power Back After Narcissistic Abuse
Sep 05, 2022
Episode 8: Unraveling the Trauma Bond with Eve Bradley
Aug 30, 2022
Episode 7: My 4 Best Tips to Creating Your Own Happiness After a Toxic Relationship
Aug 23, 2022
Episode 6: How Your Subconscious Could be Sabotaging Your Healing
Aug 16, 2022
Episode 5: How to Undo the Narcissistic Conditioning
Aug 09, 2022
Episode 4: A Deep Dive Into the Subconscious Mind
Aug 02, 2022
Episode 1: Wanna Know the Secret to Getting Unstuck?
Aug 02, 2022
Episode 3: Stop Thinking About Your Ex and Start Being Present with Your Loved Ones
Aug 02, 2022
Episode 2: So Your Ex is a Narcissist. Now What?
Aug 02, 2022
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