Be A Better You

By Allison K. Dagney

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The Be a Better You Podcast (formerly The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast) is hosted by Best Selling Author and Certified Rapid Reprogramming™ Coach, Allison K. Dagney.  As a young adult, I met a man who I believed was the love of my life. We got married quickly and brought three kids into the world. But something was wrong. I was miserable. And I blamed myself for all the problems in our marriage. What I didn't know, was that I was being emotional abused by who I believe is a narcissist. I decided it was time to break free and step into the person I was always meant to be — confident and free to live the life I’ve always imagined. 

I escaped, and I turned my personal story of transformation into a memoir. And now I coach women all over the world to help them transform their pain into empowerment, experience peace and joy, and start living life like never before.


The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect my personal views, opinions, or professional positions.


Episode Date
Bonus EP: Designing the Life You Love with Lyndsey Kampen
Jul 23, 2026
Ep 226: The One Thing You're Avoiding That's Keeping You Stuck
Jul 21, 2026
Ep 225: Are You Growing From Adversity...Or Staying Stuck
Jul 14, 2026
Bonus EP: What We Can Learn from a Narcissistic Mother After Death
Jul 09, 2026
Ep 224: The Things You Don't Expect After Leaving a Toxic Relationship
Jul 07, 2026
Bonus EP: Breaking Through Your Financial Limits with Money Mindset and Manifestation Coach Victoria D'Ambrosio
Jul 02, 2026
Ep 223: The Hidden Grief Nobody Talks About After a Toxic Relationship
Jun 30, 2026
Ep 222: The Real Reason You Replay Conversations for Hours Afterwards
Jun 23, 2026
Ep 221: You Know They Were Toxic, So Why Do You Still Care?
Jun 16, 2026
Ep 220: Why You Keep Mentally Fighting With Your Ex (or your Abuser)
Jun 09, 2026
Ep 219: Loving Someone’s Potential Is Keeping You Trapped
Jun 02, 2026
Ep 218: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You (Guest Lisa Johnson BTGO)
May 26, 2026
Ep 217: The Story You Make Up About What Everyone Thinks of You
May 19, 2026
Ep 216: Crystals & What They Actually Do for Healing (w/Guest Christine Luken)
May 12, 2026
Ep 215: Chemistry Isn't Always a Green Flag (Especially After Abuse)
May 05, 2026
Ep 214: Your Dreams Are Opening a Door You’ve Been Ignoring (Guest Dream Worker Oneiraya)
Apr 28, 2026
Ep 213: It’s Not the Coping Mechanism—It’s What You’re Trying Not to Feel
Apr 21, 2026
Ep 212: The Science of Healing After Emotional Abuse (Interview on The Survivor’s Playbook)
Apr 14, 2026
Ep 211: The ‘Ick’ That Won’t Go Away: Emotional Residue After Toxic Relationships.
Apr 07, 2026
Ep 210: Why Smart People Stay in Toxic Relationships
Mar 31, 2026
Bonus EP: You Have a Story… So Why Haven’t You Told It Yet? Guest Author Heather Hutzel
Mar 26, 2026
Ep: 209 Co-Rumination: The Healing Habit That’s Secretly Hurting You
Mar 24, 2026
Ep 208: Your Spicy Brain Is Not Broken: How to Work With Your Mind, Rewire Your Beliefs, and Become Unstoppable
Mar 17, 2026
Ep 207: “Who Do You Think You Are?” - Getting Out of Imposter Syndrome
Mar 10, 2026
Episode 206: Why You Thought You Were Crazy in Your Relationship (But You Weren’t)
Mar 03, 2026
Episode 205: Reinforcement Strategies to Break the Trauma Bond
Feb 24, 2026
Episode 204: How to Read People (and yourself) Accurately After Emotional Abuse
Feb 17, 2026
Ep 203: Subtle Signs You Were Emotionally Controlled (That Don’t Look Like Abuse)
Feb 10, 2026
Episode 202: Why Trauma Bonds Feel Stronger After You Leave
Feb 03, 2026
Episode 201: Emotional Sobriety: Detoxing From the Highs and Lows You Got Addicted To
Jan 27, 2026
Ep 200: What 200 Episodes Taught Me About Healing (Why Ease Matters More Than Effort)
Jan 20, 2026
Ep 199: A Matchmaker’s Perspective: Dating After Abuse (with Tina Joy)
Jan 15, 2026
Episode 198: Your Solution to Why You Can't Stick to it Past 2 Weeks
Jan 13, 2026
Episode 197: Actionable Steps to Unblocking Your Path to Success
Jan 06, 2026
Episode 196: The Secret to Following Through to Be A Better You!
Dec 30, 2025
Episode 195: The Narcissistic Hoover Season & How to Combat it
Dec 23, 2025
EP 194: Holiday Trigger Season: Why You Feel Pulled Back Into the Past & How to Ground In the Present
Dec 16, 2025
Episode 193: Stop Trying to Rescue Everyone - The Holiday Savior Complex
Dec 09, 2025
Episode 192: Stressmas - How to Reduce Holiday Stress for You and Your Kids
Dec 02, 2025
Episode 191: Doing Positive Affirmations Wrong is Wasting Your Time
Nov 25, 2025
Episode 190: The Truth About “Doing the Work” (and Why You’re Still Stuck)
Nov 18, 2025
Episode 189: When Healing Feels Like Betrayal & Letting Go of The Guilt
Nov 11, 2025
Episode 188: The Lone Wolf Trap & Why Healing In Isolation Isn't Working
Nov 04, 2025
Episode 187: The Hidden Costs of Emotional Abuse
Oct 28, 2025
Episode 186: The Cycle That Keeps You Hooked: Love Bombing & Trauma Bonds
Oct 21, 2025
Episode 185: Unusual Signs of Emotional Abuse You’ve Probably Never Heard Of
Oct 14, 2025
Episode 184B: Proof That Healthy Relationships Do Exist with Michelle Lentz
Oct 09, 2025
Episode 184: Gaslighting, Coercive Control and Minimization
Oct 07, 2025
Episode 183: Navigating High-Conflict Divorce: Strategies to Protect Your Peace & Power with Chantal Contorines
Oct 02, 2025
Episode 182: Mini Series 4: Why You Should Be Angry About It
Sep 30, 2025
Episode 181: Mini Series 3: Why You Shouldn't Have Left Sooner
Sep 23, 2025
Episode 180: Mini Series 2: Why You Couldn't Have Known Better
Sep 16, 2025
Episode 179: Mini Series 1: Why You Shouldn't Have Seen The Signs
Sep 09, 2025
Episode 178: Struggling With Indecision & How to Build Self Trust
Sep 02, 2025
Episode 177: Self Love Hack: A Powerful and Quick Manifestation Trick
Aug 26, 2025
Episode 176: Why Nothing Changes When You're Trying So Hard
Aug 26, 2025
Episode 175: Creating Peaceful Co-Parenting with Maria Natapov
Aug 20, 2025
Episode 174: The Hidden Impacts of Emotional Abuse — And Why You Don’t Have to Live With Them Forever
Aug 19, 2025
Episode 173: Two Women. Two Stories. One Message: You Can Heal.
Aug 14, 2025
Episode 172: Why You Can't Stop Worrying and 4 Steps to Stop
Aug 12, 2025
Episode 171: 10 Signs You Were The Mirror Not The Partner
Aug 05, 2025
Episode 170: The Dangers of Agreeable AI and How To Use it to Help Not Harm
Jul 29, 2025
Episode 169: Who Am I Without My Pain
Jul 22, 2025
Episode 168: 10 Ways Defending Yourself Keeps You Trapped: When Survival is a Cage
Jul 15, 2025
Episode 167: Hidden Ways You Abandon Yourself (and How to Stop)
Jul 08, 2025
Episode 166: Healing Childhood Abandonment and Rejection Wounds
Jul 01, 2025
Episode 165: Why Guilt and Regret are Keeping You Stuck
Jun 24, 2025
Episode 164: The Thoughts You're Ashamed to Admit After Abuse & Why They Make Sense
Jun 17, 2025
Episode 163: The First Thing You Should Do to Recover From Emotional Abuse
Jun 10, 2025
Episode 162: When You're Tired of Healing but Still Not Healed
Jun 03, 2025
Episode 161: 3 Quick Tips to Shut Down Emotional Chaos Before It Takes Over
May 27, 2025
Episode 160: Clinging to Your Opinions is Keeping You Stuck
May 20, 2025
Episode 159: When Seeing the Good in Others Becomes Self Abandonment
May 13, 2025
Episode 158: From Religion to Resonance: Reclaiming Joy, Spirituality & Self with Wendy Harvey
May 08, 2025
Episode 157: What I Actually Do Every Day to Heal, Grow, and Stay Free
May 06, 2025
Episode 156: How to Finally Manifest What you Deserve and Desire
Apr 29, 2025
Episode 155: 10 Signs Your Nervous System Still Thinks You’re in That Relationship
Apr 22, 2025
Episode 154: Why Shrinking Yourself Attracts the Wrong People
Apr 15, 2025
Episode 153: Becoming Abundant: Healing Money Wounds & Unpacking Financial Abuse
Apr 10, 2025
Episode 152: Rumination Relief is Possible For You
Apr 08, 2025
Episode 151: Unlocking Healing & Purpose Through Human Design with Adriana Keefe
Apr 03, 2025
Episode 150: 10 Signs it Wasn't You, It Was Emotional Abuse
Apr 01, 2025
Episode 149: Am I The Toxic One? Understanding Your Defensive Reactions
Mar 25, 2025
Episode 148: How to Feel Safe in Your Body After Emotional Abuse
Mar 18, 2025
Episode 147: Reclaiming Your Power: Why Seeking Validation Keeps You Stuck
Mar 11, 2025
Episode 146: Neural Plasticity in Action: My Real Life Story and Tips to Change Your Brain
Mar 04, 2025
Episode 145: How to Avoid a Narcissist: Shifting Beliefs and Energetics that Make You Vulnerable
Feb 25, 2025
Episode 144: 3 Common Beliefs Keeping You Stuck (and ways to shift them)
Feb 18, 2025
Episode 143: What No One Tells You About the Healing Journey
Feb 11, 2025
Episode 142: Radiate and Rise: Turning Pain Into Power
Feb 04, 2025
Episode 141: Smear Campaigns: How to Protect Your Peace When They Attack Your Character
Jan 28, 2025
Episode 140: My Top Tips to Communicating with a Narcissist
Jan 21, 2025
Episode 139: How to Deal When the Abuse Continues Post-Separation
Jan 14, 2025
Episode 138: You Can't Love People Harder Into Loving You
Jan 07, 2025
Episode 137: Setting Intentions for Emotional Healing in 2025
Dec 31, 2024
Episode 136: The "V" Word
Dec 24, 2024
Episode 135: How ‘Knowing You Know Nothing’ Can Transform Your Life
Dec 17, 2024
Episode 134: You Are Not Broken
Dec 10, 2024
Episode 133: Low Self-Worth, Rumination, and Comparing Yourself to Others
Dec 03, 2024
Episode 132: Why Can't I Ever Be Good Enough - A Painful Personal Story **Listener Disclaimer
Nov 26, 2024
Episode 131: You Are Not Your Ruminations: Your Thoughts Don't Define You
Nov 19, 2024
Episode 130: What's Keeping You Tethered to the Pain?
Nov 12, 2024
Episode 129: Why You Can't Stop Thinking About It
Nov 05, 2024
Episode 128: Fantasy Ruminations that Keep You Stuck
Oct 29, 2024
Episode 127: Stop Letting Rumination Rule Your Life
Oct 22, 2024
Episode 126: How to Deal with Conflict as an Abuse Survivor
Oct 15, 2024
Episode 125: Unveiling Narcissistic Abuse: The Effects of Withholding on Self-Esteem
Oct 08, 2024
Episode 124: 17 Signs of Emotional Abuse for Domestic Abuse Awareness Month
Oct 01, 2024
Episode 123: Your Brain as a Healing Tool: Why It’s Time to Use It
Sep 24, 2024
Episode 121: Shifting Self-Blame with the Power of the Subconscious Mind
Sep 10, 2024
Episode 120: Calm the Storm: Regaining Control After Emotional Abuse
Sep 03, 2024
Episode 119: The Real Reason Letting Go Feels so Hard
Aug 27, 2024
Episode 118: Managing and Removing Your Triggers
Aug 20, 2024
Episode 117: Rewiring Your Brain Isn’t as Hard as You Think
Aug 13, 2024
Episode 116: Breaking the Cycle of Trauma Bonds
Aug 06, 2024
Episode 115: How to Reduce and Prevent Anxiety
Jul 30, 2024
Episode 114: The Hidden Side of Codependency
Jul 23, 2024
Episode 113: How to Stop Giving Your Power Away After Abuse
Jul 16, 2024
Episode 112: The Healing Power of Community: Why You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Jul 09, 2024
Episode 111: Easy Ways to Begin Healing through Action and Celebration
Jul 02, 2024
Episode 110: 3 Ways to Decrease Physical, Mental and Emotional Exhaustion
Jun 25, 2024
Episode 109: Navigating Isolation After Emotional and Narcissistic Abuse
Jun 18, 2024
Episode 108: Escaping the Swamp of Emotional Abuse Recovery
Jun 11, 2024
Episode 107: A Peek Inside Parts Work with Guest Riessa Monique
Jun 04, 2024
Episode 106: Clearing Subconscious Blocks to Achieve Your Goals
May 28, 2024
Episode 105: Embracing Your Worth: A Journey to Self-Love with Elizabeth Foster
May 21, 2024
Episode 104: Do You Know Your Soul's Blueprint? Decoding Human Design Centers
May 14, 2024
Episode 103: A Lesson on Chakras: A Key Piece to Your Well-Being
May 07, 2024
Episode 102: Mind - Body - Spirit Alignment: A Pop Up Conversation
Apr 30, 2024
Episode 101: Beyond the Surface: Healing Your Relationship with Food
Apr 23, 2024
Episode 100: An Eye Opening Discussion on Religious Deconstruction
Apr 16, 2024
Episode 99: Why You Can't Stick to Something Long Term & What do to About it
Apr 09, 2024
Episode 98: Empowerment through Accountability: Embracing Change for a Better You
Apr 02, 2024
Episode 97: 4 Tips to Cultivate a Positive Mindset
Mar 26, 2024
Episode 96: Navigating Overwhelm: Empowering Women to Thrive in Today's Demands
Mar 19, 2024
Episode 95: Beyond the Bubble: Unleashing Growth Outside Your Comfort Zone
Mar 12, 2024
Episode 94: Unlocking Your Potential - An Introduction to Human Design
Mar 05, 2024
Episode 93: Uncovering Your Self-Sabotage to Bring You To Success
Feb 27, 2024
Episode 92: How Removing Subconscious Blocks Can Build Your Dreams
Feb 20, 2024
Episode 91: 3 Simple Tips to Be a Better You!
Feb 13, 2024
Episode 90: From Darkness to Light: A Discussion of Parental Narcissistic Abuse
Feb 06, 2024
Episode 89: 3 Powerful Questions to Help Remove Your Blocks to Healing
Jan 30, 2024
Episode 88: My Best Tips to Stop Rumination so You Can FEEL JOY
Jan 23, 2024
Episode 87: BONUS: Betrayal Trauma & Actionable Steps to Move Through the Pain
Jan 18, 2024
Episode 86: Breaking Free from the "I Am Not Good Enough" Mindset
Jan 16, 2024
Episode 85: Transformational Stories: A Guest Interview with a Former Client
Jan 09, 2024
Episode 84: My Christmas Story: How I Spent it All Alone
Jan 02, 2024
Episode 83: Breaking Chains: From Stripper to Psychologist - A Woman's Journey of Resilience and Transformation
Dec 26, 2023
Episode 82: How to Stop Catering to the Abuser After Divorce
Dec 19, 2023
Episode 81: Narcissists Aren't Smarter: Debunking the Myth!
Dec 12, 2023
Episode 80: A Lesson on Chronic Pain & Ancestral Clearing
Dec 05, 2023
Episode 79: Accelerate Your Healing Journey and Make it More Enjoyable!
Nov 28, 2023
Episode 78: The True Source of Loneliness
Nov 21, 2023
Episode 77: Are You Self Gaslighting? Strategies to Stop Doubting Your Reality
Nov 14, 2023
Episode 76: Why Subscribing to Other People's Views on Narcissism Hurts
Nov 07, 2023
Episode 75: Systems, Formulas, and Functional Beauty for Inner Freedom
Oct 31, 2023
Episode 74: From Black and White to Technicolor: The Journey of Emotional Abuse Recovery
Oct 24, 2023
Episode 73: BONUS: Elevate Your Emotions - The Power of High Frequency
Oct 19, 2023
Episode 72: Overcoming Rumination & Trauma Bonds to Make Space for Joy After Emotional Abuse
Oct 17, 2023
Episode 71: Unveiling the Hidden Mind: Understanding Conscious Thoughts and Subconscious Beliefs
Oct 10, 2023
Episode 70: BONUS - Shift Happens: Feeling Differently with FUN!
Oct 05, 2023
Episode 69: Unpacking Shame and Guilt
Oct 03, 2023
Episode 68: Bonus Episode: 5 Ways to Repel a Narcissist
Oct 01, 2023
Episode 67: How Do You Know if You're on the Right Path?
Sep 26, 2023
Episode 66: Empowering the Family Through the Subconscious Mind
Sep 19, 2023
Episode 65: A Quick Tip to Feeling Your True Value
Sep 12, 2023
Episode 64: Simple Steps to Uncovering the Real You After Emotional Abuse
Sep 05, 2023
Episode 63: Breaking The Chains of Labels: Trauma Bonds, Twin Flames and Soul Mates
Aug 29, 2023
Episode 62: Harmony Within: Exploring Ho'oponopono and Empathic Healing
Aug 22, 2023
Episode 61: BONUS: Transforming Self-Worth After Abuse - I'm Worthy!
Aug 18, 2023
Episode 60: Empowering Minds: Healing from Emotional Abuse through Metacognition
Aug 15, 2023
Episode 59: Can a Narcissist Love? The Deeper Meaning Behind this Question
Aug 08, 2023
Episode 58: Losing Relationships with Friends and Family After the Break up: How to Deal
Aug 01, 2023
Episode 57: Empowered! From Broken Down and Rock Bottom to Totally Transformed
Jul 25, 2023
Episode 56: Three Steps to Overcome Conditioning by the Narcissist
Jul 18, 2023
Episode 55: Why You Feel So Confused When the Abuser Starts Being Nice!
Jul 11, 2023
Episode 54: The Language of Healing: Your Emotional Abuse Recovery through Word Reframing
Jul 04, 2023
Episode 53: Beyond Exercise: Pilates and A Course in Miracles as Profound Tools for Personal Healing
Jun 27, 2023
Episode 52: The Fastest Way to Feel Indifferent Toward Your Ex
Jun 20, 2023
Episode 51: How to Use The Power of Being Present for Recovery
Jun 13, 2023
Episode 50: How to Release Anger and Dealing with Injustices After Abuse
Jun 06, 2023
Episode 49: Achieving the Life of Your Dreams After Emotional Abuse
May 30, 2023
Episode 48: The Negative Impacts of Financial Abuse and 3 Simple Steps to Overcome It
May 23, 2023
Episode 47: Understanding and Releasing Fear for Emotional Abuse Recovery
May 16, 2023
Episode 46: The Root of Emotional Pain & Why You Might Resist Healing
May 09, 2023
Episode 45: BONUS - The Road to Recovery: Candid Conversations about Healing from Childhood/Sexual Abuse
May 02, 2023
Episode 44: Breaking the Silence: How to Reclaim Your Voice While Healing from Emotional Abuse
Apr 25, 2023
Episode 43: The Closure Myth: Why You Don't Need it to Heal from Emotional Abuse
Apr 18, 2023
Episode 42: Surviving and Thriving: A Mother and Daughter's Story of Overcoming Emotional Abuse
Apr 11, 2023
Episode 41: How to Process Emotions When the New Supply Is Being Treated Better Than You
Apr 04, 2023
Episode 40: 3 Easy Steps to Stop Taking Things Personally
Mar 28, 2023
Episode 39: Is it Really Your Ex You're Missing?
Mar 21, 2023
Episode 38: Healing Your Memory After Emotional Abuse
Mar 14, 2023
Episode 37: Assembling a Support Team For Your Healing Journey
Mar 07, 2023
Episode 36: Is it Really Possible to Forget The Past?
Feb 28, 2023
Episode 35: Want to Jump Start Your Healing? Here are 4 Quick Tips
Feb 28, 2023
Episode 34: The Real Reason we People Please and How To Stop
Feb 21, 2023
Episode 33: Escaping the Egyptian Narcissist with Author Maggie Petraki
Feb 14, 2023
Episode 32: Narcissists Everywhere! How to Feel Safe
Feb 07, 2023
Episode 31: 5 Signs Your Subconscious is Healing
Jan 31, 2023
Episode 30: Are you Future Faking Yourself?!
Jan 24, 2023
Episode 29: The Power of Values & Knowing Your True Self After Trauma
Jan 17, 2023
Episode 28: BONUS Episode: The Love of Wisdom and How it Can Help You Heal
Jan 14, 2023
Episode 27: Trauma Bonds: 8 Reasons You Feel Stuck and What to do About it
Jan 10, 2023
Episode 26: How to Deal With the Smear Campaign
Jan 02, 2023
Episode 25: Letting Go! 3 Simple Hacks No One Has Told You
Dec 27, 2022
Episode 24: The Power of Telling Your Story to Heal
Dec 20, 2022
Episode 23: How to Help Yourself Get Out of the Holiday Blues
Dec 13, 2022
Episode 22: Part 2 - New Relationships After the Breakup: More Things You Need to Know
Dec 06, 2022
Episode 21: Part 1 - New Relationships After The Breakup: 5 Things You Need to Know
Nov 29, 2022
Episode 20: How to Repair Your Relationship with Money After Financial Abuse
Nov 22, 2022
Episode 19: Setting Healthy Boundaries without Guilt and Fear
Nov 15, 2022
Episode 18: The Grief Stages of Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Nov 08, 2022
Episode 17: When Tears Leave Scars Chapter 1 Reading
Nov 01, 2022
Episode 16: Step-Parents and Blended Families - Healing Together
Oct 25, 2022
Episode 15: How to Tame the Triggers After Emotional Abuse
Oct 18, 2022
Episode 14: Helping Children with Toxic and Narcissistic Parents
Oct 11, 2022
Episode 13: Are Nightmares Disrupting Your Sleep!? Let's Fix That
Oct 04, 2022
Episode 12: How You Can Use Manifestation to Help You Heal
Sep 27, 2022
Episode 11: The Secret to Creating More Self Confidence
Sep 20, 2022
Episode 10: Trusting Again After Betrayal
Sep 13, 2022
Episode 9: 3 Tips to Get Your Power Back After Narcissistic Abuse
Sep 05, 2022
Episode 8: Unraveling the Trauma Bond with Eve Bradley
Aug 30, 2022
Episode 7: My 4 Best Tips to Creating Your Own Happiness After a Toxic Relationship
Aug 23, 2022
Episode 6: How Your Subconscious Could be Sabotaging Your Healing
Aug 16, 2022
Episode 5: How to Undo the Narcissistic Conditioning
Aug 09, 2022
Episode 4: A Deep Dive Into the Subconscious Mind
Aug 02, 2022
Episode 1: Wanna Know the Secret to Getting Unstuck?
Aug 02, 2022
Episode 3: Stop Thinking About Your Ex and Start Being Present with Your Loved Ones
Aug 02, 2022
Episode 2: So Your Ex is a Narcissist. Now What?
Aug 02, 2022
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Jul 12, 2022