Okay, so last week’s foray into the world of physical fitness podcasting was admittedly short-lived. BUT Therepy Jeff and Sarah Rice are back with something even more exciting. We're answering your sex questions. Here's what was on your mind this week:

- How can I work on increasing my sex drive?
- Is enjoying rough sex a trauma response?
- Is it okay to leave someone with erectile dysfunction?
- What do you think of sex tapes?
- How do I ask for better aftercare?
- How do you adress STIs and have a "normal" (heavy air quotes) sex life with herpes?

Also, Sarah shares a very cool and fun experience she had at a ropelay class, which ended up being way more emotional and empowering than she ever expected.

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Welcome to This Changes Everything, the only running podcast hosted by two mental health professionals–just kidding! But Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice do happen to have some stories about their recent journeys into physical movement that have some real tie-ins with some of the topics they’ve talked about on the show. They also answer plenty of your questions, of course. This week, they focus on questions about emotion: emotional regulation, availability, vulnerability, all of the stuff we know is good for us but can sometimes struggle to access. 

Sarah recommends a trio of books this weeks:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. (Jeff highly recommends getting this one as an audiobook.)

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff. (And the accompanying TEDTalk)

Therapy Jeff recommends Eckhart Tolle’s absolutely iconic work, The Power of Now. But be warned, it did make Jeff want to become a monk.

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Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are back and answering all of your questions! This week, we’re covering a little bit of everything. From feeling anxiety about seeing a new therapist FOR anxiety, to feeling uncomfortable if your queer partner is being affectionate with their friends of the same gender, to struggling to make eye contact during intimate moments, Therapy Jeff and Sarah are weighing in on everything you wanted to know this week! 

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This week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are letting romantic relationships take a backseat to friendship and self-love! What do you do when you realize you’ve been putting in all the effort and energy to keep a friendship going? How do you believe in yourself and feel confident if you’re feeling anxious about where you’re at in life? Do people deserve a second chance when they haven’t been good to you in the past? And maybe more importantly than all of those other questions, should Jeff try out for Survivor? Your hosts are answering all of those questions, and more this week on This Changes Everything!

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Our listeners have come through big time with questions lately, and Sarah Rice and Therapy are coming through right back with answers. This week, you wanted to know what your This Changes Everything hosts thought about:

- Why am I single, if everyone says I'm "such a great catch"?
- How do I get my parents to respect me as an adult?
- How can I heal my relationship after my partner has cheated?
- How do I "Let it go"?
- How do I decide between my current partner and someone who might be a better fit?

Sarah referenced The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel in this episode.
Here is the article Esther Perel wrote about infidelity that was also referenced in this episode.

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We asked for more questions, and folks, you delivered! Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are answering even more of your most thoughtful questions. We love getting to hear what’s on your mind. Are we the new Loveline for the podcast crowd? Could be!

Here’s a taste of what we’re talking about today:
- What can I do about texting anxiety?
- Do I have to be friends with my ex in order to be a good coparent?
- Should I be upset that I’m not my boyfriend’s body type?

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Listener questions! You slid into our DMs with lots of really thoughtful questions, and Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are responding to them with equally thoughtful answers. Here’s a taste of what we get into this week:

- How do I navigate my own feelings when dating someone of the same gender for the first time?

- Is it okay to flirt with someone who is dating someone else?

- Should I tell my new partner if I can’t stop thinking about my ex?

- Is it possible to date someone whose world views or values are different from mine?

Hear our answers to all of those and tons more in this episode. And keep the questions coming!

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John and Julie Gottman are two long-practicing psychologists and the founders of the aptly named Gottman Institute. Even if you aren’t familiar with their names, you’re likely familiar with the work they’ve done on relationships, including their groundbreaking relationship assessment tool, The Love Lab. (The Gottmans aren’t sponsoring this episode. We’re just fans.) Today, your hosts Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are breaking down Six Stages of Relationship Growth as outlined by the Gottmans–from falling in love to keeping that love alive years down the line (and how to avoid what the Gottmans call the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” in your relationship along the way). Whether you’re still looking for your person or you’ve been married for decades, this list is such a helpful resource for folks in all stages of relationship. Let us know what you think!

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In today's episode, Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are tackling a topic that is difficult, but one that many of us have gone through or will go through at some point in our lives: breakups. Breaking up can be a really tough decision to make, and sometimes it's hard to know if you're acting in the heat of the moment or if you've really considered the choice you're about to make. To help you sort through how you're feeling, Sarah and Jeff are sharing twelve questions you should ask yourself before you decide once and for all to breakup. Some of these might be uncomfortable because they'll require taking a long, hard look in the mirror, and we all know how much fun that isn't. But hopefully these questions will help you find the focus and clarity you need to help you decide if you're going to stick it out or if it's time to say goodbye.

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Our last few episodes have been pretty intense, so Therapy Jeff and Sarah have decided to lighten things up with something else our listeners have been asking for. This week, it's all about the apps. Whether you're out there looking for a good time or a long time, we've got 10 great tips to help you get the most out of your dating profile. We cover everything from your profile picture, to how to write a fantastic bio, to just how honest you should be in your profile. Sarah and Jeff are at odds when it comes to grammar and punctuation, so you'll have to listen to see whose side you're on there. Let us know if our tips help you find true love–or whatever else you might be looking for!

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It's time for another round of one of our favorite show topics: Therapy Jeff and Sarah asked you are answering your questions! Some of the questions addresssed in this episode include:

- How do I ask him to be exclusive without seeming needy?
- Can a long distance relationship work?
- How do you feel about your partner checking out other people?
- How do I get over "the ick" in small things?
- How do I keep the spark going in a longterm relationship?
(Jeff shares some really thoughtful questions you can ask  to get deeper with and learn more about your partner.)
- What do I do when my partner says objectionable or borderline sexist things?
- How do I begin to repair trust after infidelity?


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Listeners, you've been asking us to cover this one. Today, Sarah and Theraphy Jeff are talking divorce. They're talking about the messages we all got about divorce growing up, being children of divorce, their own divorces, and a lot more. They talk about coping with grief, guilt, anger, sadnesss, and all of the tough emotions that are attached to such an intense life event. Sarah discusses why it's so important to set boundaries and get some space. They commiserate over the uniquely modern problem of detangling all of the shared streaming service logins. Jeff suggests letting your friends know what kind of support you need at any given moment. ("I just need to vent" vs "Can we just play video games?") They also talk about all the feelings that come along with dating after divorce and how to know when it's time to start dating again.

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Therapy Jeff and Sarah asked you to slide into their DMs with your therapy-related questions, and you all delivered. Some of the questions they tackle this week:

- Should I give my ex a second chance?
- When should I move in with my partner?
- What do you do when the person you're breaking up with says you've ruined their life?
- How do you know if your therapist is a good fit for you?
- How do you deal with the fading of new relationship energy?
- When do you know you're ready to start dating again?
- How should I feel about my partner following Instagram models?
- Is it okay to keep thinking about your ex?
- What should you expect at a first therapy session?
- And lots more!

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Sarah and Therapy Jeff are back with the second half of this listener-suggested episode. Last week, we focused on what grief looks like and the ways it can show up in your life that you might not instantly recognize. This week, Jeff and Sarah are talking about what to do when you are grieving: how to accept grief, how to give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel. They talk about the ways a therapist can help you work through what you're feeling, and how it doesn't always look like having a huge meltdown. Sometimes it does though, and that's fine, too!

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This week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah are covering grief, so you might want to have your happiest movies and softest blankets ready to go after this one. When we think of grief, we usually think of grieving the death of a loved one, and that’s definitely one kind of grief. But we can grieve for so many reasons. Whether due to death, the end of a relationship, or leaving a job, any kind of loss can lead to grief, and it’s important to recognize this. We can even experience grief when something good happens. Moving in with a partner or getting married, for example, can lead to a feeling of loss that deserves to be felt and processed. To help with this process, Sarah walks us through Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s famous stages of grief. Most people are familiar with her early model, which outlined five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, but she eventually added two additional stages, shock and testing, which helped to create a more accurate and nuanced model. Understanding these stages may be helpful when it comes to identifying grief and its associated feelings and behaviors. But once you’ve identified the fact that you’re grieving someone or something, what should you do? Sarah and Jeff have some suggestions in this episode, but of course, everyone is different, so if you are someone who’s going through it right now, try to show yourself some compassion and remember that there’s no single right or wrong way to grieve.

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We’re starting this episode off with an update from Sarah on the relationship question she asked Therapy Jeff last week. Then we’re picking up on the conversation we started last week. Last time we were talking about red flags that look like green flags. This time, we’re talking about green flags that might, at first glance, look like red flags. A lot of these are the healthy side of habits that can be problematic. For example, last week we talked about the fact that wanting to spend every single second with a new partner might be a red flag. This week, we’re saying that making yourself available is a green flag. As always, there’s nuance here. It’s all about balance, and it’s important to recognize when a behavior is veering from green flag to red flag.

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This week, Sarah starts this one off with a personal relationship question for Therapy Jeff, and he really flips it on her. Then they get into the heart of the episode, red flags that look like green flags. It might seem pretty obvious, but so many of our favorite love stories are deeply problematic when you think about them for, say, 10 seconds? Jeff blames The Princess Bride for his “As you wish” behaviors and Sarah explains her own complicated relationship with The Neverending Story’s Childlike Empress. How do we see these tropes playing out in our real adult relationships? Therapy Jeff and Sarah are pointing out a few things that seem positive at first but might warrant a second look. Come back next week for part two: Green flags that look like red flags.

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Last week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah focused on breaking up. This week, they're talking about staying together. Specifically, they're talking about marriage. Sarah asks Jeff to break down his "Four Things a Relationship Therapist Wants You to Keep in Mind Before Getting Married" video. First, they're talking about the fact that when you say yes to one person, you are, in a way, saying no to the possibility of anyone else. Second, Jeff reminds us that when you settle down, you're settling for a person who can't possibly meet all your needs (and you shouldn't expect them to). Third, you're going to get triggered by your spouse, but the important thing to remember is that's not necessarily a bad thing. Fourth, when you get married, you're going to have conflict with your spouse. So be prepared to take a break and get some space. These are all realities of being in a long term relationship that might seem negative at first glance, but they all provide opportunities to learn more about yourself, your partner, and the relationship you're building together. And that's a good thing.

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Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are talking about something that’s always hard to deal with and not always fun to talk about–the dreaded breakup. Whether you’re the one being broken up with or the one doing the breaking up, it’s never a good time. But Sarah and Jeff are offering their thoughts on the best way to deal, no matter what side of it you’re on. If you’re the breaker-upper, what do you say? How do you say it? When do you say it? Jeff makes the distinction between ending things after just a few dates, and Sarah makes a good point, that this avoidance falls into the camp of good old procrastination. It’s a little different than breaking up with someone you’ve been dating for a little while. Or what about when you’re in a long term relationship? What if you’re married? Things definitely get more complicated then. There’s no totally right or completely wrong way to do it, but Sarah and Jeff have some ideas that can help both people in the relationship come out better on the other side of their breakup.

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Sarah and Therapy Jeff are back to answer another round of your thoughtful, candid questions about sex! You asked about erectile dysfunction, using protection, sex with a therapist, having sex after a breakup, and so much more. Sarah and Jeff are doing their best to answer your questions, or at least to help you think through them productively!

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As we enter the post-holidays, post-New Year part of winter, people may be dealing with bigger, heavier feelings of sadness. This week, Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are here to help you recognize and identify those feelings, to break down the difference between general sadness and depression, and to tell you about a few of their own strategies for dealing with sadness. Sometimes, it means laying on the floor and listening to the most angsty emo you can find; other times, it might mean being as gentle with yourself as you would a child, and sometimes, you have to start simple and do what Sarah’s mom says: “Chop wood. Carry water.”

Here's an article about the differences between sympathy, empathy, and compassion Sarah referenced:

And here’s Brené Brown’s talk on the subject.

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It's 2023, and we're back, baby! Everyone's talking about New Year's resolutions, and Sarah and Therapy Jeff have some thoughts of their own to share. Despite the fact that so many of us make them, New Year's Resolutions are notorious for being unsuccessful. Why is that? And why do we bother making them in the first place? As Sarah explains, there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting to start out the New Year with some goals in mind, but having unrealistic expectations can lead to feelings of failure, disappointment, and self-judgement. So Sarah and Jeff are here to talk about what makes for successful goals and resolutions in the New Year. Sarah explains why it's so important to look at the difference between resolutions we make for the person we think we should be versus the person we really want to be. And Jeff talks about setting goals that are based in inspired versus anxious action. Sarah walks us through a really useful exercise that starts with examining your current self-story and envisioning the best version of you that you want to work toward in the coming year, and Jeff has some really useful tips for how to start enacting that story in actionable ways.

We hope you all had a healthy and restful holiday. We're excited to kick off 2023 with you all!

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Sarah and Therapy Jeff are continuing last week's conversation about ending relationships. Dealing with the end of a relationship is hard, no matter the circumstances. Do we need closure? How do we get closure? What do we even mean by "closure' in the first place? We often think getting closure means understanding exactly why a relationship has ended in the hopes that this will save us from heartache, but Sarah talks about the importance of closure in terms of allowing yourself to grieve the end of a relationship. Jeff asks us to consider why we feel like we need closure in the first place. Sometimes it's a healthy and healing experience. Other times, we're just looking for ways to retread old wounds, and maybe that's when it's time to think about having a conversation with a therapist instead of your ex. If you are struggling with letting go, Jeff's got some questions you can ask yourself to help you think through moving forward from the end of a relationship, and Sarah's got some concrete suggestions for things you can do to get back in touch with who you are when you're not in relationship. Take yourself out on a date. Eat the spicy food your partner couldn't stand. Remember, you aren't alone because you're always with yourself, and this is a great time to put you first!

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Relationships aren't always easy, and every relationship has its ups and downs. But how do we know when a rough patch is more than a rough patch? How can you know for sure that something isn't quite right in your relationship, and what should you do about it? The best answer is probably the most obvious one: talk to your partner. But there are some signs you can be on the lookout for that might mean it's time to priotize talking with your partner in the first place. So here they are. Seven sins your partner might be feeling done with your relationship. **DISCLAIMER** Therapy Jeff and Sarah are not saying that if any of these signs resonate with you that your relationship is doomed. If anything we talk about today sounds familiar to you, it might be time to sit down and have a conversation with your partner about what you both want from your relationship. And if it turns out your relationship is ending, that's okay! The important thing is that you're taking care of yourself, in whatever way is best for you.

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Well, it's the so-called "cuffing season," which means folks may be feeling the pressure to find someone to snuggle up with or to lock things down with that cutie they've already found. It's a fitting time of year to wrap up our mini-series on attachment styles because Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are breaking down all the ways different attachment styles interact with one another. For example, what happens when two anxiously attached people get together? Fireworks! Maybe some inadvertent love bombing? Sarah and Jeff are breaking down the tendencies that can lead to stress or roadblocks in your relationship and offering ways you can address those issues to make sure your relationship is as strong and healthy as you want it to be!

Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are breaking down a topic that listeners have been asking for: relationship attachment styles. Attachment styles are established with our earliest relationships, so they can be deeply ingrained and take a lot of work to recognize and work through. Jeff tells us why the securely attached might seem boring, but really they're #goals. Sarah tells us what secure attachment has in common with The Four Agreements. They also outline dismissive/avoidant, anxious, and disorganized attachment styles. Then, they outline some useful ways to think about your own attachment style and how it interacts with the attachment style of your partner(s). Sarah and Jeff each suggest a few ways to work on becoming more secure in your own attachment style, and Sarah provides a delicious metaphor in the process. 

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The holidays can be a really wonderful time to connect with the people you care about, but that doesn't mean they aren't also a really stressful time. Whether it's as simple as feeling like you have to wrap the presents exactly right, or the more complicated aspects of going home for the holidays, especially when home doesn't always feel like the safest place, Sarah and Therapy Jeff are sharing their best strategies for making it through the holidays, no matter what you're dealing with. Sarah talks about the importance of making your own traditions. Jeff shares what it was like the first time he decided he wasn't going home for the holidays. If you think you might need to skip out on the family celebrations this year, that's okay. And remember, you're not going to fix your childhood trauma over Thanksgiving dinner. The most important thing is that you take care of yourself, no matter the time of year.

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Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are talking about that old classic, anxiety. Jeff provides a useful explanation of the actual science behind how anxiety works in your brain and what you can do to help yourself work through it when it feels like anxiety is really taking over. Sarah breaks down the ways that physiological, cognitive, and emotional responses can feed and be fed by anxiety. Jeff has some strategies for recognizing early subtle signs of oncoming anxiety. Sarah talks about grounding as a really helpful way to manage anxiety in the moment. Jeff and Sarah trade their favorite grounding exercises, from doing semi-complicated mental math to five-finger breathing. Remember though, no matter how you get there, when it comes to anxiety, your main goal is to convince your brain that it's safe. This episode is chock full of great ways to think through and about anxiety.

Sarah recommends Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey's book What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing. The audiobook is especially good! 

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Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are back, and they're answering even more of your sex-related questions. This week, they tackle tricky questions like:

-How important is sexual chemistry?
-Is it okay if my partner thinks about someone else when they masturbate?
-Are kinks a dealbreaker?
-How do I talk to a potential partner about having an STI?
-How to manage high and low desire discrepancies in a relationship?

Hint: the answer is almost always, "it depends," and/or "just say the thing."

Plus, Sarah tells us how she took some advice she and Jeff shared last week and applied it to her own relationship. There's also plenty of talk in this episode about what makes Halloween the sexiest holiday and why Jeff has wet dream envy. So, you know, it's a totally typical episode of This Changes Everything.

Thank you all so much for your fun and thoughtful questions! We'll be doing this again sometime, so keep them coming.

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You and me baby ain't nothin' but mammals, so Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are answering all of your sex-related questions. How do you stop worrying about how much energy your partner is putting out when you're having sex? What are some good ways to communicate your wants and desires without making your partner feel like they've been doing everything wrong? What's the nicest way to tell your partner their after-gym scent just isn't doing it for you? Sarah and Jeff share their thoughts, experiences, and some advice to help you live your best sex life. They also weigh in on whether or not music has a place in the bedroom and what some good lighting can do to help set the mood. Come back next week for part two!

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This week, Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are talking about the single life and why it's important to find ways to be happy and secure when you're not in a relationship–whether for 6 months or the rest of your life. What are the benefits of taking some time to be single and just focus on yourself without having one eye toward looking for your next relationship?

Sarah tells us about folks who are, as Dr. Bella DePaulo describes them, "single at heart?" Are you someone who doesn't need a plus-one at every event? Do you thrive in solitude? Would you much rather watch your shows and eat your snacks without having to share with someone else?

Jeff breaks down the Relationship Escalator–those steps society expects us to take when it comes to finding a partner and advancing our relationships (dating, marriage, kids, etc.)–and describes the ways society can really look down on people who, for one reason or another, don't adhere to that formula.

Jeff and Sarah talk about their favorite Disney movies and how stories like The Little Mermaid and Aladdin can reinforce our ideas of what being in a relationship should look like, for better or worse. Give up your voice for a man? Come on!

If you're single, now's the time to lean into the cliche of dating yourself. Use the fancy teacup. Don't save the bath bomb. Take some time to explore and ask yourself who you are, for your own sake. This might be a great time to revisit our episode, "How to Feel Your Feelings".
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-feel-your-feelings/id1640548625?i=1000578782910

Bella DePaulo's article about people who are single at heart: https://medium.com/fourth-wave/single-at-heart-the-worlds-most-joyful-and-unapologetic-single-people-e928887276c4

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Therapy Jeff and Sarah Rice are tackling the second part of their conversation on boundaries and accountability. They're breaking down what accountability is, how to take accountability, and why it's so crucial for our relationships. The importance of intention versus impact comes up big time in this episode. Should you be ready to take accountability when you cause someone pain, even if your intentions were good? Jeff tells a story about a past relationship with someone who really helped him figure out the purpose and value of a genuine, authentic apology. Sarah wonders if an apology can be authentic if it doesn't come with remorse. After all, she's definitely witnessed her fair share of inauthentic apologies during her time on The Challenge. Taking accountability can be its own kind of challenge, but it gets easier the more you do it, and Sarah and Jeff have another template you can use if you need a little help to get you there.. As Jeff says in this week's episode, "Taking accountability is like the glue that keeps relationships together in a lot of ways." And as Sarah says, "Accountability is foreplay! Who knew?"

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Sarah Rice and Therapy Jeff are back with the first half of their two-part conversation on boundaries and accountability. This first episode is all about defining, understanding, setting, communicating, and respecting boundaries.

Jeff breaks down why setting boundaries can be really difficult and how we might gaslight ourselves into thinking our desire to set boundaries is asking for too much. But really, a boundary can be a "gift or a little map" to tell someone else how to be a good friend, lover, co-worker, or family member (because boundaries aren't just for romantic partners).

Sarah and Jeff model a caring, loving way to set boundaries, and Sarah shares her "Relationship Mad Libs" which is a template you can use when you need to establish a boundary in your life.

We also get introduced to Sarah's superhero alter ego that she calls in to do the hard stuff. Her name is Rogue Carbonara, and she's a boundary-setting badass.

We want to hear about your superhero alter ego! They're your favorite superhero combined with your greatest weakness. Jeff's is He-Man Algebra, but we're still workshopping that one.

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Sarah and Therapy Jeff have been talking a lot about grief and how to deal with it when a relationship ends. Now, they're shifting gears a bit to talk about how to make sure your next relationship is a healing one. We all have fears and insecurities that follow us from one relationship into the next, but as Sarah says in this week's episode, "rather than letting those fears and worries and doubts grow legs," it's important to get them out in the open before they become too overwhelming to address. To help do this, Jeff poses ten questions you can ask yourself and your partner at the start of a new relationship to make sure you're both feeling safe, seen, and supported. Questions like, "What didn't you hear enough of in your last relationship that you would like to hear more of in this one?" and "What's your biggest relationship fear?" These questions might be just a bit too intense for the first date, but you'll definitely want to keep them in your back pocket so you can pull them out on the fifth or sixth. We also learn a lot about our hosts this week, like what animated children's movie the two share a deep love for, and why you shouldn't bother inviting Sarah to Coachella.

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This week, Jeff is sharing his list of "9 Completely Normal Things That Don’t Have to Be a Red Flag in a Relationship." For example, is it a red flag if someone holds a place in their heart for an ex? How about wanting to go on vacation without you? Is perpetually fighting about the same thing a red flag? (Look, Jeff just wants to go watch basketball by himself. And Sarah is definitely going to text you back... eventually.) This week is all about the tricky aspects of a relationship that make us stop and wonder if we're with the right person. What do you think? Did any of your usual red flags make Jeff's list?

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This week, Sarah and Jeff go on a journey that runs the full spectrum of human emotion. Jeff starts by telling us about a really hard decision he had to make recently, which leads to a thoughtful discussion about grief and why it's so important to feel your feelings, even–and especially–the more difficult ones.  As Sarah says in this episode, "Grief helps you explore more of the human experience." Jeff breaks down parts work and Internal Family Systems therapy, and Sarah explains why it can be helpful to identify where and how in your body you feel particular feelings. Sarah also tells us how a mosquito bite and Tommy Lee's penis made her reflect on the tattoos she got when she was a younger person. This revelation brings up some other questionable decisions our hosts' younger selves made, like when Jeff wore suspenders with baggy pants and Sarah rebelled by going through a ska phase.

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Sarah's a happy camper, literally, and Jeff doesn't get what's so great about sleeping in the dirt. Sarah claims camping is a great way to see a different side of your partner–for better or worse. Sarah and Jeff talk about the importance of understanding and articulating wants and needs in any healthy relationship, but what happens when you realize you and your partner want and need different things? As Jeff says this week, "The cliché is true: relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be?" Apparently, how your parents loved you when you were a child has a lot to do with how you love others as an adult. In fact, the first two months of life are the most important when it comes to being a securely attached, emotionally intelligent adult. Sarah's mom carried her constantly for the first few months of her life, which Sarah claims is the reason she isn't a serial killer. Sarah reminds us that even though our coping and survival strategies can become our superpowers, "Batman can't be Batman all the time."

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Welcome to a brand NEW podcast, and possibly a brand new you. If you're overwhelmed, stressed and struggling like most people are these days, MTV Challenge star, Sarah Rice, AMFT and TikTok Sensation, Jeff Guenther, LPC are here to help you (and each other!) Each week, Sarah and Jeff will use their professional training, wit, irreverence, and self-disclosure, to discuss all things mental health related.

By the end of each episode, you’ll realize that “this changes everything!”