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Unfollowing Mum : Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had is available for preorder NOW!
A therapist recommended podcast for cycle breakers by someone who has lived the experience. Host Harriet Shearsmith knows first hand how challenging it can be to navigate estrangement, toxic family and dysfunctional dynamics in a digital age where setting boundaries and protecting your peace is harder than ever.
In 2023 we’re unfollowing mum. We’re breaking the cycle, unsubscribing from the drama by healing generational trauma and putting ourselves and our mental health first.
Each week I will answer your anonymous questions, discuss experiences and tackle the issues surrounding estrangement, generational trauma and navigating toxic families. Sometimes I’ll speak to experts, people with lived experience and other cycle breakers to share their point of view.
You’re not alone, there is a community of people navigating parenthood without solid role models, learning to love themselves after emotional abuse whilst breaking the cycle for the future generations 💜
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Ep92 EMDR with Shelley Bradley-Scholey
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Oct 01, 2025 |
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Ep91 Parentification, young parents & moving into helping professions
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Sep 24, 2025 |
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Ep90 Enmeshed, estranged & toxic patterns: parents & in-laws
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Sep 17, 2025 |
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EP89 Unknown number: Toxic parenting extreme
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Sep 10, 2025 |
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Ep88 Summer holidays & IPT-AST to improve parenting skills
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Jul 16, 2025 |
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Ep87 TW parental death after estrangement
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Jul 09, 2025 |
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Ep86 The golden child with Lauren Smallcomb
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Jul 02, 2025 |
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Ep85 Breaking no contact after 4 years, harassment and toxic parents
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Jun 25, 2025 |
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Ep84 Being the scapegoat: the slow burn route to estrangement
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Jun 18, 2025 |
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EP83 Narcissistic, Emotionally immature & toxic - what is the difference?
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Jun 11, 2025 |
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EP82 The "phone works both ways" dads
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Mar 05, 2025 |
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EP81 "You remind me of my mum" :: Navigating familiar triggers
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Feb 26, 2025 |
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EP80 *TW* Abusive step parents, enabling parents & the physiological effect of trauma
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Feb 12, 2025 |
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EP79 What happens when your narc parent is cheated on?
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Jan 29, 2025 |
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EP78 Estrangement, alienation & freedom
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Jan 22, 2025 |
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EP77 University & estrangement
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Jan 15, 2025 |
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EP76 Happy New Year
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Jan 08, 2025 |
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EP75 Christmas boundaries with Natasha Nyeke
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Dec 18, 2024 |
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EP74 Unethical care & how to find the right therapist or coach
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Dec 11, 2024 |
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EP73 Sleep: the impact of narcissistic parents & attachment styles
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Dec 04, 2024 |
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EP72 Navigating antenatal & postpartum depression with toxic family
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Nov 27, 2024 |
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EP71 Thanksgiving, family politics & actual politics
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Nov 20, 2024 |
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EP70 Covid weddings & cutting contact whilst pregnant
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Nov 13, 2024 |
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EP69 Coming out, lack of acceptance and moving on with life
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Nov 06, 2024 |
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Ep68 Breaking the cycle when you're not a parent with Angèle Cristina
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Oct 30, 2024 |
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Ep67 Jealousy and shame from narcissistic mothers
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Oct 23, 2024 |
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EP66 Emotionally unavailable and abandoning fathers
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Oct 16, 2024 |
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Ep65 PMDD & weaponised mental health conditions
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Oct 09, 2024 |
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EP64 Generational trauma, hispanic cultural norms & living with a toxic parent
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Oct 02, 2024 |
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EP63 Discussing different sibling perspectives with Louise & Frankie
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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EP62 How can therapy help with Lucy Hills-Gale
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Sep 18, 2024 |
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EP61 I've got news! (and why we feel lazy when resting)
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Sep 11, 2024 |
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EP60 What comes after the confrontation? (TW: Covert SA)
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Jul 10, 2024 |
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EP59 Breaking cycles, boundaries & repair with Natasha Nyeke
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Jun 26, 2024 |
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Ep58 Father's day - the aftermath.
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Jun 19, 2024 |
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EP57 Religious abuse & estrangement
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Jun 12, 2024 |
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EP56 Bi cultural straddling & the unhealthy family dynamic with Sahaj Kohli
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Jun 05, 2024 |
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EP 55 Scapegoating, estrangement & lies with Harriet Gleeson
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May 22, 2024 |
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Ep54 Fight response, anger & shame
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May 15, 2024 |
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Ep53 Self care, boundaries & guilt for cycle breakers with Emma Benyon
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May 01, 2024 |
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EP52 Generational trauma & toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants
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Apr 24, 2024 |
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EP 51 Why is setting boundaries with your partner's family SO tough?
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Apr 17, 2024 |
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Ep 50 Late ADHD/ASD diagnosis and childhood trauma
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Apr 10, 2024 |
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Ep49 F.O.G - Fear, Obligation & Guilt: a narcissistic parent's toolkit
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Mar 12, 2024 |
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EP48 Complicated feelings that come up around Mother's Day
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Mar 06, 2024 |
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EP 47 Baiting - what is it & how do we stop it?
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Feb 28, 2024 |
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EP 46 Ending relationships and attachment styles
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Feb 20, 2024 |
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EP45 Birthdays - mine, theirs and why they are complicated
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Feb 07, 2024 |
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EP44 Emotionally immature parents, emotionally dismissive fathers & post-accountability repairs
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Jan 31, 2024 |
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EP43 TW Normalised sexual abuse & life after
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Jan 24, 2024 |
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Ep42 New Year pressures, toxic positivity & post-Christmas chaos
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Jan 17, 2024 |
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Ep 41 Setting Boundaries at Christmas
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Dec 13, 2023 |
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Ep40 Self discovery, being LGBTQ+ & neurodivergent with a toxic parent with Cara MacB
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Dec 06, 2023 |
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EP39 *TW* Narcissistic fathers, enabling mothers & childhood sexual abuse
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Nov 29, 2023 |
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EP38 *TW* Toxic motherwound, invalidation & silencing sibling sexual abuse with Christie Hayes
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Nov 22, 2023 |
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EP37 Trauma responses & C-PTSD trigger reactions
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Nov 15, 2023 |
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EP36 Toxic mothers, Spiritual abuse & Hispanic generational trauma with Rebecca Dominguez
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Nov 01, 2023 |
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EP35 Weaponising single parenthood, society's bias & toxic divorce
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Oct 25, 2023 |
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EP34 The Mother wound & challenging the inner critic with Marie Selleck
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Oct 18, 2023 |
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EP33 Dissecting "An Estranged Parent's POV" Meme
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Oct 11, 2023 |
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EP32 Narcissistic fathers & invalidating teens
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Oct 04, 2023 |
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EP31 :: Health scares when estranged
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Sep 27, 2023 |
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EP30 TW: Covert sexual abuse & toxic parents dating
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Aug 16, 2023 |
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Ep29 Golden children, spirituality & healing with Stephen
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Aug 08, 2023 |
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Ep28 Victim mode, toxic positivity and surface level healing with Triinu
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Aug 02, 2023 |
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Ep27 Financial impact of estrangement
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Jul 26, 2023 |
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Ep26 Toxic parents, narcs in disguise & weaponised trauma with Josh Connolly
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Jul 19, 2023 |
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Ep25 Jonah Hill, weaponising "therapy speak" & grief after estrangement
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Jul 12, 2023 |
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Ep24 Long term estrangement & consciously parenting teens with Katie Pratley
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Jul 05, 2023 |
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EP23 Emotional abuse, faking illness & guilt trips with Alexis Higgins
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Jun 28, 2023 |
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Ep22 Consumed by trauma, self responsibility & self blame
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Jun 21, 2023 |
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Ep21 Importance of talking, toxic parents & trauma with Ben Cole Edwards
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Jun 14, 2023 |
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EP20 Court, access requests & grandparents rights with Alisha
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Jun 07, 2023 |
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EP 19 Boundaries with Dr Deering
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May 31, 2023 |
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EP18 Trauma, cycle breaking & overwhelm with Libby Ward
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May 24, 2023 |
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EP 17 Was it neglect or just "a different time?"
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May 17, 2023 |
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EP 16 Toxic shame with Maggie Nick
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May 10, 2023 |
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EP 15 Addressing generational trauma in parenting with Dr Emma Svanberg
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May 03, 2023 |
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EP 14 Parentification & parental alcoholism with Jemma Wilson
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Apr 26, 2023 |
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EP 13 Misconception, excuses & estranged parents on tiktok
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Apr 19, 2023 |
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EP 12 Adopted by a Narcissist with Gaynor CherieAnn
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Apr 12, 2023 |
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EP 11 Prince Harry, Jennette McCurdy & the impact of public figures discussing estrangement
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Apr 05, 2023 |
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EP 10 Narcissistic parents with Helen Villiers & Katie McKenna
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Mar 29, 2023 |
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EP 9 Childhood trauma & toxic family with Elspeth Van Der Hole
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Mar 22, 2023 |
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EP 8 Estrangement on Mother's Day
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Mar 15, 2023 |
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EP 7 Importance of community, estrangement grief & cycle breaking with Abbey Williams
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Mar 08, 2023 |
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EP 6 Lack of Self in adult children of toxic parents
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Mar 01, 2023 |
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EP5 Surviving parental alcoholism & abuse with Helene Rabbitt
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Feb 22, 2023 |
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EP4 Addressing the Motherwound with Michaila Tyson
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Feb 15, 2023 |
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EP3 Access denied :: Cutting off toxic Grandparents
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Feb 08, 2023 |
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EP2 Gratitude, scapegoating & accountability.
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Feb 01, 2023 |
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EP1 Welcome to Unfollowing Mum
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Jan 25, 2023 |
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Introducing Unfollowing Mum
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Jan 19, 2023 |