Untethering Shame

By Kyira Wackett

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New episodes every Sunday! Shame is the fear of not being good enough or worthy of connection and belonging. This silent plague keeps us tethered to the performance, focused on external validation and approval versus internal rooting. It can disrupt every relationship, thought, and experience if left unchecked. And it's time we say enough. Join licensed mental health therapist, Kyira Wackett, in the quest to build insight and take meaningful and intentional actions as we untether ourselves from shame. 

Episode Date
🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E53: The Three Buckets That Will Change Every Relationship You Have (Needs, Wants, and What You've Been Quietly Accepting)
Jun 17, 2026
Shame & Lying: From People-Pleasing to Telling the Truth with Mary Beth Thomsen
Jun 14, 2026
🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E52: When You've Both Changed (How to Renegotiate a Relationship Without Blowing It Up)
Jun 10, 2026
Shame & Childhood Trauma: How Early Wounds Become Core Beliefs in Adulthood with Sabrina Trobek
Jun 07, 2026
🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E51: When Family Calls You Selfish for Choosing Yourself (And How to Hold Your Ground Without Losing Yourself)
Jun 03, 2026
Shame & Attraction: Why Your Brain Falls for the Wrong People with Leah Mitchell
May 31, 2026
🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E50: Why You Keep Snapping (And What Your Reactions Are Actually Trying to Tell You)
May 27, 2026
Shame, Power, and Desire: A Trauma-Informed Look at Dominance & Submission
May 24, 2026
Ask Me Anything – E49: I Don't Know Who I Am Anymore (How to Find Your Way Back When Burnout Took Everything)
May 20, 2026
Shame & Silence: Lessons on Listening and Love from a Child of Deaf Adults with Maria Gallucci
May 17, 2026
Ask Me Anything – E48: Why Choosing Yourself Feels Like Losing Everyone (And What to Do When It Does)
May 13, 2026
Shame & Abandonment: Rescuing Your Inner Child with Bronwyn Schweigerdt
May 10, 2026
🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E47: Why Rest Isn't Restoring You (And What an Energy Audit Actually Reveals)
May 09, 2026
Shame & Conditioning: When Silence Was the Price of Belonging — Part 2 with Ingrid Hu Dahl
May 03, 2026
Shame & Nervous System Regulation with Elizabeth Kipp
Apr 26, 2026
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E46: When They Change After You Leave (And Why It Hurts More)
Apr 22, 2026
Shame & Bully Culture: The Silence That Protects Toxic Leaders with Andy Regal
Apr 19, 2026
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E45: Why Doesn’t Anything Ever Actually Fix Me?
Apr 15, 2026
Shame & Grief: The Hidden Cost of Self-Blame with Chris Mamone
Apr 12, 2026
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E44: How the F*ck Are We Supposed to Be Mentally Well in a World Like This?
Apr 09, 2026
Shame & Strength: Reclaiming Power Beyond Diet Culture with Clarissa Gannon
Apr 05, 2026
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E43: Gentle Parenting, Boundaries, and Parental Guilt
Apr 03, 2026
Shame & Recovery: Naming the Space Between Sick and Well with Mallary Tenore Tarpley
Mar 29, 2026
Shame & Success: Why So Many High Performers are Exhausted, Lonely, and Quietly Falling Apart with Garrett Wood
Mar 21, 2026
Shame, Screens, and the Nervous System: Why Willpower Isn’t the Problem with Abby Payne
Mar 15, 2026
Shame & Loss: Holding Space for What Can’t Be Fixed with Chris Mamone
Mar 08, 2026
Shame & Money: Rewriting the Rules of Wealth with Mel Dorman
Mar 01, 2026
Shame & Narcissistic Abuse: When Love Slowly Turns Into Self-Abandonment with Kathy Wisniewski
Feb 22, 2026
Ask Me Anything – E41: Radical Acceptance of Imperfection
Feb 19, 2026
Shame & Body Confidence: How the Binge-Restrict Cycle Transfers to Work, Life, and Hustle Culture with Jemma Haythorne
Feb 15, 2026
Ask Me Anything – E40: You’re Not Behind — Letting Go of the Myth of Enough Time
Feb 12, 2026
Shame & Parts Work: Understanding the Inner Voices Behind Binge Eating with Jane Pilger
Feb 08, 2026
Ask Me Anything – E39: Trauma Bonding Isn’t What the Internet Says It Is
Feb 05, 2026
Shame & Getting Scammed: How Scammers Hijack Your Nervous System with Michele Ilich-Daubas. Part 2
Feb 01, 2026
🎙️ Ask Me Anything – E38: “When Helping Others Triggers Your Own Imposter Syndrome”
Jan 28, 2026
Shame & Scams: The Psychology of Deception with Michele Ilich-Daubas. Part 1.
Jan 25, 2026
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E37: When You Feel Guilty Saying No
Jan 21, 2026
Shame & The Inner Critic: Befriending the Bully and Awakening the Coach
Jan 18, 2026
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E36: How Do I Trust Myself After Picking the Wrong People So Many Times?
Jan 14, 2026
Shame & Perimenopause: Breaking the Silence and Embracing the Evolution
Jan 11, 2026
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E35: Why Do I Lose Interest When Someone Is Nice to Me?
Jan 07, 2026
Shame & Speaking Up: Why We Stay Silent and How to Reclaim Our Voice with Salvatore Manzi
Jan 04, 2026
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E34: The Fine Line Between Boundaries and Control
Dec 31, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E33: When Social Media Becomes a Measure of Self-Worth
Dec 24, 2025
Shame & Money: What Money Fights Are Really About with Jordan Pendleton
Dec 21, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E32: Navigating Santa, Tight Budgets & Childhood Comparison
Dec 17, 2025
Shame & Belonging: Growing Up Between Worlds and Coming Home to Yourself with Ingrid Hu Dahl
Dec 14, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything - E31: When My Mom Keeps Crossing My Boundaries
Dec 10, 2025
Shame & Conditional Love: How Childhood Scripts Shape Adult Relationships with Cassandra Johnson
Dec 07, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything - E30: How Do I Stay Grounded When the World Feels Uncertain?
Dec 03, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E29: When You Feel Invisible in Your Relationship
Nov 24, 2025
Shame & Online Dating: From Self-Erasure to Self-Worth with Amanda Quinby, PhD
Nov 23, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E28: When Your Brain Won’t Shut Off (Ruminating at Bedtime)
Nov 17, 2025
Shame & Emotional Repression: The Hidden Cost of “Holding It Together” with Bronwyn Schweigerdt
Nov 16, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E27: When You Can’t Be There (Shame & Caregiving from Afar)
Nov 10, 2025
Shame & The Healing Backslide: Why It’s Normal to Revisit Old Patterns with Sabrina Trobak
Nov 09, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E26: When Planning Steals the Present
Nov 03, 2025
Shame & Money: Rewriting the “I’m Bad with Money” Story with Michelle Waymire
Nov 02, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E25: When It’s Not About You (But It Still Hurts)
Oct 27, 2025
Shame & Being Dangerous: The Revolutionary Act of Loving Yourself with The Tracy Piper
Oct 26, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E24: Why Can’t I Keep It All Together Without Crashing?
Oct 20, 2025
Shame & the Shoulds: Unlearning Who You Were Told to Be with Mikkel Leslie
Oct 19, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E23: Am I Wrong for Limiting My Parents’ Access to My Kids?
Oct 13, 2025
Shame & Creative Inhibition: Unlearning the Fear of Making with Shannon MacFarlane
Oct 12, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E22: Why Do I Feel Like the Villain Every Time I Set a Boundary with My Mom?
Oct 06, 2025
Shame, Food & All-or-Nothing Thinking with Renae Saager
Oct 05, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E21: Am I Ungrateful If I Don’t Want to Pay for My Parents?
Sep 29, 2025
Shame & Self-Trust: Choosing Yourself Even When It’s Hard with Renee Nelson
Sep 28, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E20: Am I Really Selfish for Not Visiting My Dad More?
Sep 22, 2025
Shame, Religion & Ambiguity: The Courage to Not Know (Part 2 with Carl King)
Sep 21, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E19: Why Does It Feel Like I’m Always the Bad Guy for Not Calling My Mom?
Sep 15, 2025
Shame & Suppression: Breaking the Cycle of Avoidance
Sep 14, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything - E18: Living by Your Values When You’ve Always Lived by “Shoulds”
Sep 08, 2025
Shame & Asking for Help with Avani Patel
Sep 07, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything - E17: Grieving Someone Who’s Still Alive
Sep 01, 2025
Summer Replay: Shame & The Shadow Self with Lena Papadopoulos
Aug 31, 2025
Shame, Body Hair, and Taking Back the Narrative
Aug 28, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything - E16: When High Achievement Becomes Your Identity
Aug 25, 2025
Summer replay: Shame & Money with Kyley Caldwell
Aug 24, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything - E15: When You’re Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop
Aug 18, 2025
Summer Rerelease: Shame & Ambition with Andrea Barr
Aug 17, 2025
Rewriting the Story: The Power of Cognitive Reframing
Aug 14, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything - E14: Learning to Receive Compliments Without Shame
Aug 11, 2025
Summer Replay: Shame & Binge Eating with Jane Pilger
Aug 10, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything - E13: Breaking the Habit of Being the “Fixer”
Aug 04, 2025
Summer Replay: Shame & the Inner Child with Cassandra Flora
Aug 03, 2025
Shame, Wasted Money, and the Myth of Perfect Use
Jul 31, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E12: Too Tired for Sex
Jul 28, 2025
Summer Replay: Shame & People Pleasing with Abby Payne
Jul 27, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E11: Getting Stuck in the Same Arguments
Jul 21, 2025
Summer Replay: Shame & Narcissism with Stacey Sanderson
Jul 20, 2025
When You’re Triggered: How to Recognize and Calm Your Inner Alarm System
Jul 17, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E10: Learning to Care Less About What Others Think
Jul 14, 2025
Summer Replay: Shame & Co-Dependency with Jessica Parente
Jul 13, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E9: Managing Grief and Judgment in Sobriety
Jul 07, 2025
Summer Replay: Shame & Core Beliefs with Sabrina Trobek
Jul 06, 2025
It’s Not Because I Couldn’t Do It: Shame and the Incomplete Goal
Jul 03, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E8: Making Friends When You Feel Like You Don’t Belong
Jun 30, 2025
Summer Rerelease: Shame & Men's Mental Health with Simon Rinne
Jun 29, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E7: How to Handle the Anxiety of Unexpected Changes
Jun 23, 2025
Shame & Surviving a Cult: Part 2
Jun 22, 2025
The Problem Isn’t Your Standards—It’s the Context
Jun 19, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E6: Is It Really Possible to Love and Accept My Body?
Jun 16, 2025
The Unshaming Way with David Bedrick
Jun 15, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E5: How Do I Set Boundaries with My Mom Without Hurting Her?
Jun 09, 2025
Shame as a Teacher
Jun 08, 2025
How a Small Change in Self-Talk Leads to Big Healing
Jun 05, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E4: How Do I Stop Feeling Guilty for Taking Time for Myself as a Parent?
Jun 02, 2025
Shame, ADHD & Neurodivergence
Jun 01, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E3: How Do I Stay Emotionally Present During Conflict?
May 26, 2025
Shame & Coming Out: From Suppression to Self-Acceptance
May 25, 2025
Why Burnout Keeps Coming Back (And What to Do Instead)
May 22, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E2: Who Am I Becoming Through All This Change?
May 19, 2025
Shame & The Loss of Self in Parenthood
May 18, 2025
🎙️Ask Me Anything – E1: Does Venting Actually Help?
May 12, 2025
Shame & The Law of Attraction with Veronica Weedon
May 11, 2025
Feeling Your Feelings
May 08, 2025
Shame & Complicated Grief: Moving With, Not On
May 04, 2025
Shame & Human Trafficking: A Survivor's Journey
Apr 27, 2025
Jealousy: The Ego, Comparison & Shame
Apr 24, 2025
🚨 NEW PODCAST SEGMENT ALERT! 🚨
Apr 21, 2025
Shame & The "Self": Inner Child Healing
Apr 20, 2025
Shame & Money: Healing Our Financial Wounds
Apr 13, 2025
Conditional vs. Unconditional Love
Apr 10, 2025
Shame & Brainspotting: The WHAT, WHY & HOW
Apr 06, 2025
Shame & The Shadow Self
Mar 30, 2025
Cognitive Rehearsal
Mar 27, 2025
Shame & Self-Expression
Mar 23, 2025
Shame & Kids "Falling Behind" in School
Mar 16, 2025
Whose Story Are You Living In?
Mar 13, 2025
Shame & The College-Or-Bust Mentality
Mar 02, 2025
The Productivity Trap: How to Stop Feeding a Broken System
Feb 27, 2025
Shame & The Mirrors Kids Hold Up
Feb 23, 2025
Shame & The Breastfeeding Dilemma
Feb 16, 2025
Stop Trying to "Fix" It
Feb 13, 2025
Shame & Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy
Feb 10, 2025
Shame & Binge Eating
Feb 02, 2025
Your Needs are Non-Negotiable
Jan 30, 2025
Shame & A 20-Year Old Identity Crisis
Jan 26, 2025
Shame & Binaries
Jan 19, 2025
Are you Alone or Lonely?
Jan 16, 2025
Shame, Religion and Performance
Jan 12, 2025
Shame & The Compliant Child: The Illusion of Control in Parenthood
Jan 05, 2025
Shame & People Pleasing
Dec 29, 2024
Shame & Core Beliefs
Dec 22, 2024
Shame & Unpacking Marital Conflict: The Hidden Truths
Dec 15, 2024
Shame & Losing A Child
Dec 08, 2024
Shame & Creativity: A Space to Be Seen
Dec 01, 2024
Why You Struggle with Control
Nov 28, 2024
Shame & Teaching: An Emotional Roller Coaster
Nov 24, 2024
Shame & Ambition
Nov 17, 2024
Stop Ending Your Story Early
Nov 14, 2024
Shame & Blame: Breaking the Cycle
Nov 10, 2024
Shame & Self-Love
Nov 03, 2024
Toxic Positivity
Oct 31, 2024
Shame & Rewiring the Brain
Oct 28, 2024
Shame & The Scale: Our Atrocious Relationship with Weight & Body Image
Oct 20, 2024
5 Ways to Increase Confidence
Oct 17, 2024
Shame & Mast Cell Activation Syndrome: A Journey Through Chronic Illness
Oct 13, 2024
Shame & Narcissism
Oct 06, 2024
Managing Disappointment
Oct 03, 2024
Monthly Recap - September 2024
Sep 30, 2024
Shame & Healing Childhood Trauma As A Parent
Sep 29, 2024
Shame & Emotional Eating
Sep 22, 2024
5 Childhood Lies to Let Go Of
Sep 19, 2024
Shame & Performing: Our Hidden Realities
Sep 15, 2024
Shame & Trauma
Sep 08, 2024
Loving Without Expectation
Sep 05, 2024
Shame & Healing from a Cult
Sep 01, 2024
Year 1 Review!
Aug 29, 2024
Shame & Finding Fulfillment: Exploring Authenticity
Aug 25, 2024
Letting Go of Relationships
Aug 22, 2024
Shame & The Perfect Parenting Myth
Aug 18, 2024
Shame & Death: Finding Closure
Aug 11, 2024
Unreasonable Expectations
Aug 08, 2024
Shame & Intuitive Eating: Why Don't We Trust Our Body?
Aug 04, 2024
Shame & Work-Life Rhythms
Jul 28, 2024
The "Hard Work" Paradox
Jul 25, 2024
Shame & Break-Ups
Jul 21, 2024
Shame & "The Work"
Jul 14, 2024
We Can't Just "Get Over It"
Jul 11, 2024
Shame & The Inner Child
Jul 07, 2024
Shame & Co-Dependency
Jun 30, 2024
You're Not That Important
Jun 27, 2024
Shame & Fatness
Jun 23, 2024
Shame & Eating Disorders
Jun 16, 2024
Stop Chasing External Validation
Jun 13, 2024
Shame, Activism & Oppression
Jun 09, 2024
Shame, Addiction & Intergenerational Trauma
Jun 02, 2024
I don't want more kids
May 30, 2024
Shame, Sex & Social Justice:
May 26, 2024
Shame & Men's Mental Health
May 19, 2024
You're PART of the Problem
May 16, 2024
Shame & Chronic Health: Diagnosis & Disease - Part 2
May 12, 2024
Shame & Body Love: Reclaiming Your Body and Healing Within
May 05, 2024
Addressing Negative Thinking
May 02, 2024
Shame & Stepparenting
Apr 28, 2024
Shame & Decolonizing Therapy: Exploring Our Role as Helping Professionals
Apr 21, 2024
Rumination
Apr 18, 2024
Shame & The Working Mom: Managing the Constant Tension
Apr 14, 2024
Shame, People Pleasing & Covert Narcissism
Apr 07, 2024
Perfectionism
Apr 04, 2024
Shame & Veganism
Mar 31, 2024
Shame & Doing It All: Who Am I If I Am Not This?
Mar 24, 2024
Terminal Uniqueness
Mar 21, 2024
Shame & The Complexities of Motherhood
Mar 17, 2024
Shame & Pageantry: The Pressure of Perfection
Mar 10, 2024
People Pleasing
Mar 07, 2024
Shame & Toddlers: Raising Self-Aware, Confident Kids
Mar 03, 2024
The Comparison Trap
Feb 25, 2024
Shame & Having Kids: "What if I don't want them?"
Feb 25, 2024
Shame & Identity Burnout: The Problem with Role Over-Identification
Feb 18, 2024
The Importance in Being Selfish
Feb 11, 2024
Shame & The Service Industry: Where We Lost Our Way
Feb 11, 2024
Shame & Aging: The Meaning We Make
Feb 04, 2024
Reacting vs. Responding
Jan 28, 2024
Shame & Immigration: Finding Yourself When You Feel Lost in Space
Jan 28, 2024
Shame & Menopause: Breaking the stigma and shame with an aging body
Jan 21, 2024
Shame & The Eneagram: What's Your Type?
Jan 14, 2024
6 Hard Truths
Jan 14, 2024
Shame & Motherhood: The Off-Kiltering Balancing Act
Jan 07, 2024
Shame & Sugar Addiction: Breaking the Cycle
Jan 05, 2024
Burnout
Dec 31, 2023
Shame & Sales
Dec 31, 2023
Shame & Wanting More
Dec 24, 2023
Family Get-Togethers
Dec 17, 2023
Shame & Chronic Pain: The Intersection Between Emotional & Physical Health
Dec 17, 2023
Shame & Chronic Health: Diagnosis & Disease
Dec 10, 2023
Radical Acceptance
Dec 03, 2023
Shame & Heterocissexism: Queer and Gender Expansiveness and Liberation
Dec 03, 2023
Shame & Feeding Your Child
Nov 26, 2023
Thanksgiving
Nov 19, 2023
Shame & Sex: Embracing Ourselves as Sexual Beings
Nov 12, 2023
Shame & The Adoptee Journey: Expanding Our Awareness
Nov 05, 2023
Core Beliefs
Oct 29, 2023
Shame, Sex & Sensitivities: An Evolving Identity & Accidentally Coming Out to Millions
Oct 29, 2023
Shame & Stigma: A Conversation About Suicide Awareness
Oct 29, 2023
Shame & Expectation: Shedding The Shoulds
Oct 22, 2023
Shame & Baby Loss: You Are Not Broken
Oct 15, 2023
The Drama Triangle
Oct 15, 2023
Shame & Comedy: Being Black Outside the Lines
Oct 08, 2023
Let's talk audio!
Oct 08, 2023
Shame & Grief: A Match Made in Misery
Oct 01, 2023
Guarding Vulnerability: Interpersonal Defenses Against Shame
Oct 01, 2023
Shame & “The White Man’s Religion”: Following Jesus as a Black, Queer Woman
Sep 24, 2023
Shame & Ethical Non-Monogamy
Sep 17, 2023
Shame 101: An Overview
Sep 17, 2023
Untethering Shame Trailer
Jun 08, 2023