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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
Hosted by Danielle Black
A no-fluff, evidence-based podcast for parents navigating post-separation abuse, family violence, coercive control, and high-conflict separation and divorce - with a relentless focus on protecting children in a system that too often fails them.
Hosted by Danielle Black, Australia’s leading specialist in child-focused post-separation parenting, this podcast is not about "amicable co-parenting at all costs", outdated ideologies, or adult notions of fairness. It is about understanding how abuse frequently continues through parenting arrangements after separation - and what genuinely child-centred decision-making looks like when risk, fear, or power imbalance is present.
Each episode challenges the myths that place children in harm’s way, including Australia’s dangerous obsession with 50/50 shared care, the misapplication of "friendly parent" ideals, and the expectation that protective parents should endlessly compromise to keep the peace.
Drawing on developmental science, research-based evidence, trauma-informed practice, and lived experience, Danielle breaks down:
This podcast is for parents who are done minimising risk, done being gaslit by systems and professionals, and done prioritising adult comfort over children’s safety and development.
Expect direct language, research-backed insight, practical guidance and a few cuss words here and there - not platitudes, false balance, or pressure to accept arrangements that don’t sit right - because children’s wellbeing matters more than adult fairness. Always.
To go deeper, explore The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™, Danielle’s flagship program supporting parents to make informed, protective decisions after separation.
Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au
Keywords: post-separation abuse, family violence, coercive control, high-conflict parenting, separation, divorce, family court, Australian family law.
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105. The 5 critical mistakes that parents make in early separation
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May 20, 2026 |
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104. If their name was Brian: family violence in lesbian relationships
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May 13, 2026 |
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103. What Mother's Day actually looks like when you're navigating post-separation abuse - and what to do with it
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May 07, 2026 |
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102. Everyone has a biggest problem - Why your pain is valid, why staying stuck is a choice, and what it costs both you and your children
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Apr 29, 2026 |
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101. AI tools for protective parents: Claude.ai, ChatGPT and AI Danielle - the 24/7 digital coach inside the Blueprint
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Apr 22, 2026 |
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100. The game is the same - 17 Years, 100 Episodes, and the debut of 'Stronger, Braver, Together'
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Apr 16, 2026 |
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99. Why your family lawyer can't do what you actually need - and what only you can do
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Apr 08, 2026 |
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98. How I did it - Dating after abuse, self-trust, and deciding you're not too broken
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Apr 01, 2026 |
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97. Can you find a healthy relationship after abuse? A conversation with my husband - plus the debut of 'Calm is Credible'
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Mar 25, 2026 |
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96. Family reports are not the verdict: What protective parents must know
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Mar 18, 2026 |
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95. The collaboration question: When it works, and when it doesn't
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Mar 11, 2026 |
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94. The invisible architecture of childhood: What primary caregivers carry - and why it matters
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Mar 07, 2026 |
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93. Divorce coaching, narcissism & high-conflict separation: Choosing the right support
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Mar 05, 2026 |
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92. Intrusive thoughts & rumination after separation: When coaching and self-management tools are enough - and when you need therapy
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Feb 26, 2026 |
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91. Stronger, Braver Together: How safe, professionally held, group spaces change post-separation parenting
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Feb 18, 2026 |
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90. Put on your own cape: Rewiring survival patterns, reclaiming worthiness & STEERing your future after separation
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Feb 12, 2026 |
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89. Meet Senior Coach Brigid Morgan: Protective parenting and post-separation empowerment in Australia
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Feb 04, 2026 |
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88. Considering separation? Let’s talk about the choice you’re already making
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Jan 30, 2026 |
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87. Welcome to 2026: What protective parents need to know (and utilise) this year
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Jan 23, 2026 |
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86. Information vs Integration - Why consuming content isn’t the same as becoming strategic
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Dec 11, 2025 |
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85. Why being strategic, and well-informed, saves you money in the long run
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Dec 11, 2025 |
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84. How likely is equal shared parenting time & decision-making?
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Dec 09, 2025 |
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83. To the parents who have invested in themselves - this episode is for you
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Dec 07, 2025 |
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82. When programs, certificates and parenting orders don't equal safety
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Dec 01, 2025 |
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81. Stop googling 'narcissists' - What Australian protective parents REALLY need to understand
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Nov 27, 2025 |
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80. Understanding coercive control (Part 2): The 7 patterns directed at children
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Nov 26, 2025 |
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79. Understanding coercive control (Part 1): Why most professionals miss it
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Nov 24, 2025 |
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78: Lead, don’t follow: Evidence over ideology in post-separation parenting
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Nov 20, 2025 |
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77. When loving the other parent feels like betrayal - How to support your child without making them choose
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Nov 19, 2025 |
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76. Changes in UK family law: What Australia must learn (and face)
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Nov 13, 2025 |
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75. Radical acceptance & capacity: What actually changes your life
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Nov 11, 2025 |
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74. The thought error keeping you stuck
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Nov 06, 2025 |
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73. Understanding the "Ted Bundy Effect" and making strategic decisions
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Oct 30, 2025 |
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72. Capacity for final trial: staying calm & credible in family court
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Oct 26, 2025 |
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71. When the family report gets it wrong
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Oct 22, 2025 |
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70. Preparing for your family report
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Oct 14, 2025 |
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69. The invisible work that leads to real change
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Oct 12, 2025 |
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68. The Power of your mind after separation: Sanctuary or Torture Chamber?
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Oct 09, 2025 |
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67. When silence feels safer, and why 'communicating better' isn't enough
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Oct 06, 2025 |
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66. Are you laying awake in the early hours? ...I've been there...
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Oct 01, 2025 |
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65. Child-Focused Parenting After Separation: A conversation with specialist coach Trudie Hargrave
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Sep 29, 2025 |
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64. Unveiling the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™
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Sep 26, 2025 |
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63. The System that Fails Children: Part 3 - The evidence-based solution and what protecting children actually looks like
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Sep 23, 2025 |
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62. The System that Fails Children: Part 2 - How the 2006 amendments betrayed children's safety and created twenty years of policy failure
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Sep 21, 2025 |
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61. The System that Fails Children: Part 1 - The professionals who can't identify abuse and why our children are paying the price
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Sep 18, 2025 |
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60. Breaking the cycle: Three important steps to protective parenting
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Sep 16, 2025 |
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59. It's never too late: Repairing your child's attachment after separation
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Sep 14, 2025 |
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58. Beyond "Kids are resilient": The neuroscience of attachment disruption
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Sep 13, 2025 |
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57. The '50-50' myth: When equal shared parenting time harms children
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Sep 10, 2025 |
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56. How my personal story shapes my mission to fight for better post-separation outcomes
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Sep 08, 2025 |
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55. Debunking post-separation myths: Why do so many professionals get the recommendations wrong?
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Sep 04, 2025 |
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54. Protective parenting vs. conflict avoidance: The choice that changes everything
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Sep 03, 2025 |
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53. Navigating communication with your controlling ex: The importance of boundaries for breaking the cycle of abuse
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Aug 02, 2024 |
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52. Do you have the right support on your separation journey? How to choose the right coach for you and your situation.
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Jul 11, 2024 |
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51. Part Two: Do they really have a personality disorder? Differentiating PTSD, male entitlement and personality disorders
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Jul 05, 2024 |
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50. Part One: Do they really have a personality disorder? ...Why it's time to stop calling abusers "narcissists"
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Jun 28, 2024 |
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49. Part 9 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Abusive and Neglectful Parenting
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Jun 19, 2024 |
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48. Part 8 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Cultural, Spiritual & Religious abuse
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Jun 11, 2024 |
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47. Part 7 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Economic and Financial Control
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May 31, 2024 |
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46. Part 6 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Undermining and sabotaging healthy parenting
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May 16, 2024 |
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45. Part 5 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using and disregarding children
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May 09, 2024 |
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44. Part 4 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Isolation
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May 06, 2024 |
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43. Not Your F*cking Job
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May 02, 2024 |
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42. Part 3 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Minimising, denying and blaming the protective parent.
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May 02, 2024 |
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41. Part 2 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Harassment, intimidation, stalking & threats.
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Apr 29, 2024 |
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40. Part 1 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using systems and institutions
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Apr 25, 2024 |
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39. Managing your mind post-separation: The importance of optimism
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Apr 22, 2024 |
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38. Empowering our kids: Nurturing consent and personal boundaries
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Apr 18, 2024 |
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37. Boundaries: Taking back our power and control, one boundary at a time.
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Apr 16, 2024 |
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36. Healthy boundaries: What are they and how can they help us post-separation?
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Apr 11, 2024 |
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35. When your mental health is attacked...and a rant about equal shared parenting time
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Apr 08, 2024 |
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34. Part Two: Confronting the internalised misogyny of flying monkeys...and ourselves
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Apr 05, 2024 |
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33. Part One: Confronting the internalised misogyny of flying monkeys...and ourselves
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Apr 01, 2024 |
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32. Unmasking 'Flying Monkeys': The allies, advocates and enablers of abusers.
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Mar 28, 2024 |
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31. BONUS: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - flexible thinking, compromise and high-quality preparation
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Mar 28, 2024 |
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30. Part Four: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - taking responsibility for healing trauma and complex PTSD
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Mar 25, 2024 |
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29. Part Three: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - regular written updates & photo sharing apps
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Mar 21, 2024 |
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28. Part Two: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - unsupervised day visits & drug and alcohol testing
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Mar 18, 2024 |
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27. Part One: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - supervised visitation
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Mar 14, 2024 |
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26. The myth of 'parental alienation syndrome' and it's harmful legacy in Australian Family Law
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Mar 11, 2024 |
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25. The importance of building your village when navigating separation & divorce
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Mar 07, 2024 |
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24. Why Aussie women should STOP consuming American family law horror stories.
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Mar 04, 2024 |
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23. Let's talk about parallel parenting
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Feb 29, 2024 |
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22. Firm foundations after separation: the importance of emotion regulation
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Feb 26, 2024 |
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21. Embracing life post-separation: the power of radical acceptance
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Feb 22, 2024 |
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20. Empty promises: the abusers go-to lie to maintain control
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Feb 19, 2024 |
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19. Exploring stress and overwhelming emotions after separation
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Feb 15, 2024 |
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18. Surviving to Thriving: the foundations of self-care after separation
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Feb 12, 2024 |
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17. Crafting child-centered parenting plans post-separation
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Feb 08, 2024 |
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16. One family in two homes: talking with your children about separation
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Feb 05, 2024 |
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15. The importance of mindset and believing that your kids will be ok
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Feb 01, 2024 |
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14. Exposing the bluff in family law intimidation
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Jan 29, 2024 |
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13. Unseen battles: addressing post-separation abuse in same-sex relationships
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Jan 25, 2024 |
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Should you agree to your ex-partner's demands to avoid going to court?
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Jan 22, 2024 |
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12. The reality of family law and the court system
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Jan 18, 2024 |
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11. Dispelling the myth of shared blame in high-conflict separation & divorce
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Jan 15, 2024 |
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10. Navigating High-Conflict Separation: The Top 10 Mistakes to Avoid (Part 2)
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Jan 11, 2024 |
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9. Navigating High-Conflict Separation: The Top 10 Mistakes to Avoid (Part 1)
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Jan 08, 2024 |
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8. Navigating the Exit: Planning to leave an abusive relationship
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Jan 04, 2024 |
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7. Gaslighting unveiled
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Jan 01, 2024 |
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6. Unmasking D.A.R.V.O: Understanding how abusers distort reality
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Dec 27, 2023 |
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5. Leaving an abusive relationship
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Dec 25, 2023 |
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4. Christmas chaos
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Dec 19, 2023 |
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2. The unspoken reality of post-separation abuse
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Dec 19, 2023 |
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3. It's not an anger problem...
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Dec 19, 2023 |
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1. What is post-separation abuse?
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Dec 19, 2023 |
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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast Trailer
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Dec 10, 2023 |