The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

By Danielle Black

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The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

Hosted by Danielle Black


A no-fluff, evidence-based podcast for parents navigating post-separation abuse, family violence, coercive control, and high-conflict separation and divorce - with a relentless focus on protecting children in a system that too often fails them.


Hosted by Danielle Black, Australia’s leading specialist in child-focused post-separation parenting, this podcast is not about "amicable co-parenting at all costs", outdated ideologies, or adult notions of fairness. It is about understanding how abuse frequently continues through parenting arrangements after separation - and what genuinely child-centred decision-making looks like when risk, fear, or power imbalance is present.


Each episode challenges the myths that place children in harm’s way, including Australia’s dangerous obsession with 50/50 shared care, the misapplication of "friendly parent" ideals, and the expectation that protective parents should endlessly compromise to keep the peace.


Drawing on developmental science, research-based evidence, trauma-informed practice, and lived experience, Danielle breaks down:

  • How post-separation abuse actually operates
  • Why many standard parenting frameworks fail children in high-conflict cases
  • What evidence-based, defensible, child-focused parenting really requires
  • How to move from confusion and self-doubt to clarity and confidence


This podcast is for parents who are done minimising risk, done being gaslit by systems and professionals, and done prioritising adult comfort over children’s safety and development.

Expect direct language, research-backed insight, practical guidance and a few cuss words here and there - not platitudes, false balance, or pressure to accept arrangements that don’t sit right - because children’s wellbeing matters more than adult fairness. Always.


To go deeper, explore The Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™, Danielle’s flagship program supporting parents to make informed, protective decisions after separation.


Learn more at danielleblackcoaching.com.au




Keywords: post-separation abuse, family violence, coercive control, high-conflict parenting, separation, divorce, family court, Australian family law.


Episode Date
105. The 5 critical mistakes that parents make in early separation
May 20, 2026
104. If their name was Brian: family violence in lesbian relationships
May 13, 2026
103. What Mother's Day actually looks like when you're navigating post-separation abuse - and what to do with it
May 07, 2026
102. Everyone has a biggest problem - Why your pain is valid, why staying stuck is a choice, and what it costs both you and your children
Apr 29, 2026
101. AI tools for protective parents: Claude.ai, ChatGPT and AI Danielle - the 24/7 digital coach inside the Blueprint
Apr 22, 2026
100. The game is the same - 17 Years, 100 Episodes, and the debut of 'Stronger, Braver, Together'
Apr 16, 2026
99. Why your family lawyer can't do what you actually need - and what only you can do
Apr 08, 2026
98. How I did it - Dating after abuse, self-trust, and deciding you're not too broken
Apr 01, 2026
97. Can you find a healthy relationship after abuse? A conversation with my husband - plus the debut of 'Calm is Credible'
Mar 25, 2026
96. Family reports are not the verdict: What protective parents must know
Mar 18, 2026
95. The collaboration question: When it works, and when it doesn't
Mar 11, 2026
94. The invisible architecture of childhood: What primary caregivers carry - and why it matters
Mar 07, 2026
93. Divorce coaching, narcissism & high-conflict separation: Choosing the right support
Mar 05, 2026
92. Intrusive thoughts & rumination after separation: When coaching and self-management tools are enough - and when you need therapy
Feb 26, 2026
91. Stronger, Braver Together: How safe, professionally held, group spaces change post-separation parenting
Feb 18, 2026
90. Put on your own cape: Rewiring survival patterns, reclaiming worthiness & STEERing your future after separation
Feb 12, 2026
89. Meet Senior Coach Brigid Morgan: Protective parenting and post-separation empowerment in Australia
Feb 04, 2026
88. Considering separation? Let’s talk about the choice you’re already making
Jan 30, 2026
87. Welcome to 2026: What protective parents need to know (and utilise) this year
Jan 23, 2026
86. Information vs Integration - Why consuming content isn’t the same as becoming strategic
Dec 11, 2025
85. Why being strategic, and well-informed, saves you money in the long run
Dec 11, 2025
84. How likely is equal shared parenting time & decision-making?
Dec 09, 2025
83. To the parents who have invested in themselves - this episode is for you
Dec 07, 2025
82. When programs, certificates and parenting orders don't equal safety
Dec 01, 2025
81. Stop googling 'narcissists' - What Australian protective parents REALLY need to understand
Nov 27, 2025
80. Understanding coercive control (Part 2): The 7 patterns directed at children
Nov 26, 2025
79. Understanding coercive control (Part 1): Why most professionals miss it
Nov 24, 2025
78: Lead, don’t follow: Evidence over ideology in post-separation parenting
Nov 20, 2025
77. When loving the other parent feels like betrayal - How to support your child without making them choose
Nov 19, 2025
76. Changes in UK family law: What Australia must learn (and face)
Nov 13, 2025
75. Radical acceptance & capacity: What actually changes your life
Nov 11, 2025
74. The thought error keeping you stuck
Nov 06, 2025
73. Understanding the "Ted Bundy Effect" and making strategic decisions
Oct 30, 2025
72. Capacity for final trial: staying calm & credible in family court
Oct 26, 2025
71. When the family report gets it wrong
Oct 22, 2025
70. Preparing for your family report
Oct 14, 2025
69. The invisible work that leads to real change
Oct 12, 2025
68. The Power of your mind after separation: Sanctuary or Torture Chamber?
Oct 09, 2025
67. When silence feels safer, and why 'communicating better' isn't enough
Oct 06, 2025
66. Are you laying awake in the early hours? ...I've been there...
Oct 01, 2025
65. Child-Focused Parenting After Separation: A conversation with specialist coach Trudie Hargrave
Sep 29, 2025
64. Unveiling the Post-Separation Parenting Blueprint™
Sep 26, 2025
63. The System that Fails Children: Part 3 - The evidence-based solution and what protecting children actually looks like
Sep 23, 2025
62. The System that Fails Children: Part 2 - How the 2006 amendments betrayed children's safety and created twenty years of policy failure
Sep 21, 2025
61. The System that Fails Children: Part 1 - The professionals who can't identify abuse and why our children are paying the price
Sep 18, 2025
60. Breaking the cycle: Three important steps to protective parenting
Sep 16, 2025
59. It's never too late: Repairing your child's attachment after separation
Sep 14, 2025
58. Beyond "Kids are resilient": The neuroscience of attachment disruption
Sep 13, 2025
57. The '50-50' myth: When equal shared parenting time harms children
Sep 10, 2025
56. How my personal story shapes my mission to fight for better post-separation outcomes
Sep 08, 2025
55. Debunking post-separation myths: Why do so many professionals get the recommendations wrong?
Sep 04, 2025
54. Protective parenting vs. conflict avoidance: The choice that changes everything
Sep 03, 2025
53. Navigating communication with your controlling ex: The importance of boundaries for breaking the cycle of abuse
Aug 02, 2024
52. Do you have the right support on your separation journey? How to choose the right coach for you and your situation.
Jul 11, 2024
51. Part Two: Do they really have a personality disorder? Differentiating PTSD, male entitlement and personality disorders
Jul 05, 2024
50. Part One: Do they really have a personality disorder? ...Why it's time to stop calling abusers "narcissists"
Jun 28, 2024
49. Part 9 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Abusive and Neglectful Parenting
Jun 19, 2024
48. Part 8 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Cultural, Spiritual & Religious abuse
Jun 11, 2024
47. Part 7 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Economic and Financial Control
May 31, 2024
46. Part 6 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Undermining and sabotaging healthy parenting
May 16, 2024
45. Part 5 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using and disregarding children
May 09, 2024
44. Part 4 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Isolation
May 06, 2024
43. Not Your F*cking Job
May 02, 2024
42. Part 3 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Minimising, denying and blaming the protective parent.
May 02, 2024
41. Part 2 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Harassment, intimidation, stalking & threats.
Apr 29, 2024
40. Part 1 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using systems and institutions
Apr 25, 2024
39. Managing your mind post-separation: The importance of optimism
Apr 22, 2024
38. Empowering our kids: Nurturing consent and personal boundaries
Apr 18, 2024
37. Boundaries: Taking back our power and control, one boundary at a time.
Apr 16, 2024
36. Healthy boundaries: What are they and how can they help us post-separation?
Apr 11, 2024
35. When your mental health is attacked...and a rant about equal shared parenting time
Apr 08, 2024
34. Part Two: Confronting the internalised misogyny of flying monkeys...and ourselves
Apr 05, 2024
33. Part One: Confronting the internalised misogyny of flying monkeys...and ourselves
Apr 01, 2024
32. Unmasking 'Flying Monkeys': The allies, advocates and enablers of abusers.
Mar 28, 2024
31. BONUS: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - flexible thinking, compromise and high-quality preparation
Mar 28, 2024
30. Part Four: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - taking responsibility for healing trauma and complex PTSD
Mar 25, 2024
29. Part Three: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - regular written updates & photo sharing apps
Mar 21, 2024
28. Part Two: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - unsupervised day visits & drug and alcohol testing
Mar 18, 2024
27. Part One: Safe-guarding yourself from 'alienation' accusations - supervised visitation
Mar 14, 2024
26. The myth of 'parental alienation syndrome' and it's harmful legacy in Australian Family Law
Mar 11, 2024
25. The importance of building your village when navigating separation & divorce
Mar 07, 2024
24. Why Aussie women should STOP consuming American family law horror stories.
Mar 04, 2024
23. Let's talk about parallel parenting
Feb 29, 2024
22. Firm foundations after separation: the importance of emotion regulation
Feb 26, 2024
21. Embracing life post-separation: the power of radical acceptance
Feb 22, 2024
20. Empty promises: the abusers go-to lie to maintain control
Feb 19, 2024
19. Exploring stress and overwhelming emotions after separation
Feb 15, 2024
18. Surviving to Thriving: the foundations of self-care after separation
Feb 12, 2024
17. Crafting child-centered parenting plans post-separation
Feb 08, 2024
16. One family in two homes: talking with your children about separation
Feb 05, 2024
15. The importance of mindset and believing that your kids will be ok
Feb 01, 2024
14. Exposing the bluff in family law intimidation
Jan 29, 2024
13. Unseen battles: addressing post-separation abuse in same-sex relationships
Jan 25, 2024
Should you agree to your ex-partner's demands to avoid going to court?
Jan 22, 2024
12. The reality of family law and the court system
Jan 18, 2024
11. Dispelling the myth of shared blame in high-conflict separation & divorce
Jan 15, 2024
10. Navigating High-Conflict Separation: The Top 10 Mistakes to Avoid (Part 2)
Jan 11, 2024
9. Navigating High-Conflict Separation: The Top 10 Mistakes to Avoid (Part 1)
Jan 08, 2024
8. Navigating the Exit: Planning to leave an abusive relationship
Jan 04, 2024
7. Gaslighting unveiled
Jan 01, 2024
6. Unmasking D.A.R.V.O: Understanding how abusers distort reality
Dec 27, 2023
5. Leaving an abusive relationship
Dec 25, 2023
4. Christmas chaos
Dec 19, 2023
2. The unspoken reality of post-separation abuse
Dec 19, 2023
3. It's not an anger problem...
Dec 19, 2023
1. What is post-separation abuse?
Dec 19, 2023
The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast Trailer
Dec 10, 2023