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Just two best friends who just turned 40 talking about their struggles--everything from relationships, to not feeling good enough, to dealing with depression and anxiety--in hopes of normalizing things and making people feel less alone.
Welcome to Bay Area Brats Struggling (BABS)! If you find yourself saying, “This is not what I thought my life would look like at this point,” you might be able to relate to this podcast.
Raised as Asian Americans who were promised successful lives if they just studied hard and focused on school, Amanda and Sam found themselves on the cusp of checking all the boxes. Careers. Marriage. Homeowners. Kids.
Amanda got married to her college sweetheart, had twin girls after dealing with infertility, and lived a seemingly perfect life. Sam graduated law school, achieved her aspirations of working at a big law firm, and got engaged to her longtime boyfriend.
But then Amanda asked for a divorce and blew up her life. Sam called off her engagement and got a cat. They had career identity crises. They had to start using dating apps in their 30s. They suffer from anxiety and depression. And while they can recognize their complaints can seem bratty at times, they’re also realizing the common precedent leading up to their meltdowns is that they were struggling in silence for too long.
In trying to live life defined by other people’s standards, they lost themselves—or rather, they realized they never took the time to figure out who they were and what they wanted in the first place. So join them as they struggle through life, and hopefully you’ll realize you don’t have to struggle in silence… even if people call you a brat.
Disclaimer: We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room.
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Struggling with recapping the best NYE in Vegas with BSB and besties
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Mar 04, 2026 |
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Struggling with lotto scratchers, picking favorite Stranger Things characters, and reflecting on 2025
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Jan 23, 2026 |
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Struggling with knowing love isn't enough, people not doing the work, and the state of the world
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Jan 23, 2026 |
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Struggling with first date green flags and red flags, appropriate questions to ask, and naming our insecurities
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Jan 09, 2026 |
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Struggling, with a guest star (!) who invites BABS to a live show and shares why she wants everyone to know We Are Enough
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Nov 05, 2025 |
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Struggling with chasing dopamine hits in the bread aisle at the grocery store
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Nov 03, 2025 |
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Struggling with FOMO, Labubus, and "good" dads
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Sep 20, 2025 |
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Struggling with boob reduction surgery, energy drinks, and how much we love Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders
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Sep 05, 2025 |
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Struggling with friendship insecurities, our bodies, and weighted vests
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Aug 07, 2025 |
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Struggling to figure out why we stopped podcasting and mentally prepare for turning 40
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Aug 07, 2025 |
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Struggling with the word lazy, weight & body issues, and first dates with the same guy
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Jul 12, 2024 |
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Struggling with ominous positivity, anti-heroes, and boob jobs
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Jul 08, 2024 |
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Struggling with our recent fight, being in love with exes, and Asian stereotypes
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Jun 27, 2024 |
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Struggling with dating apps (again), self-loathing thoughts, and how to get home
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Jun 13, 2024 |
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Struggling with reorgs, depressive thoughts, and Marvel tattoos
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May 28, 2024 |
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Struggling with whether our anxiety is making everyone worse and getting annoyed with ourselves
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May 12, 2024 |
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Struggling with letting go of the past, or rather the past letting go of us
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Apr 12, 2024 |
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Struggling with being judged for being almost 40 & single and thinking love is supposed to be painful
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Apr 05, 2024 |
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Struggling with the consequences of our dating decisions, and figuring out what's in our heads and what's real
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Mar 29, 2024 |
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Struggling with February, letting friends go, and disappointing ex-husbands
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Mar 15, 2024 |
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Struggling with being hella grumpy and trying not to cover up our uncomfy feelings with laughter
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Mar 05, 2024 |
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Struggling with anxious attachment and F boys with dirty bathrooms
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Feb 17, 2024 |
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Struggling with guys who don't respect your boundaries and feelings for your ex
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Feb 05, 2024 |
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Struggling with what depression looks and feels like
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Feb 05, 2024 |
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Struggling with first dates and if we liked them or just didn't hate them
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Jan 26, 2024 |
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Struggling with getting back on dating apps and spiraling anxiety
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Jan 25, 2024 |
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Struggling with being a depressed friend, repressed memories of bullying, and committing to plans
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Jan 08, 2024 |
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Struggling with matchmakers, dating apps, and if we're supposed to like the guys we date
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Jan 08, 2024 |
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Struggling with bad days, ex-fiances and ex-husbands, and the way people respond when you tell them you're depressed
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Nov 21, 2023 |
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BABS Intro
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Nov 06, 2023 |