Ask the Unfaithful
By James & Sam
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The Ask The Unfaithful Podcast, is a safe place for both Unfaithful and Betrayed Partners to find hope and healing. This podcast draws on both our personal and professional experience to provide expert insight into the mind of the Unfaithful, and how their behaviors traumatically affect the life, heart and even brain plasticity of Betrayed Partners.
Ask the Unfaithful is hosted by two Unfaithfuls in long-term recovery, James and Sam:
Therapist and coach James Annear who co-owns CORE Relationship Recovery with his wife, Sharon Rinearson. They have been helping couples recover from the traumatic impacts of infidelity, sexually compulsive behaviors and addiction for over a decade.
Formerly with Affair Recovery and now host of Sam's Healing Podcast, Sam has been producing videos for almost 10 years and helping to care for those in crisis due to infidelity and addiction for almost 15 years.
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4 MISTAKES THAT PREVENT COUPLES FROM HEALING FROM INFIDELITY
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Sep 10, 2026 |
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THE VICTIM MINDSET: WHY THE UNFAITHFUL WHINES, BLAMES, AND ISN'T EMPATHETIC
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Aug 26, 2026 |
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4 WAYS THE UNFAITHFUL MINIMIZE AND DEFLECT
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Aug 12, 2026 |
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4 WAYS THE UNFAITHFUL LEARNED IT WAS OKAY TO CHEAT
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Jul 29, 2026 |
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5 PATTERNS THAT CAN CAUSE THE UNFAITHFUL TO CHEAT (AND TO FAIL IN BETRAYAL RECOVERY)
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Jul 17, 2026 |
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THE ONE ACTION THAT UNLOCKS THE UNFAITHFUL'S RECOVERY WORK
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Jul 02, 2026 |
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IS THE UNFAITHFUL SLEEPWALKING THROUGH BETRAYAL RECOVERY?
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Jun 17, 2026 |
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BREADCRUMBING: HOW THE UNFAITHFUL CREATE A TRAUMA BOND THAT KEEPS THE BETRAYED POWERLESS TO HEAL
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Jun 06, 2026 |
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10 Hallmarks of Authentic Betrayal Recovery In The Unfaithful
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May 21, 2026 |
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15 LANGUAGE SHIFTS THE UNFAITHFUL CAN USE TO REBUILD TRUST AFTER BETRAYAL
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May 09, 2026 |
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IN BETRAYAL RECOVERY, WORDS MATTER - HEALING vs. HARMFUL LANGUAGE
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Apr 24, 2026 |
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3 CORE MISUNDERSTANDINGS THE UNFAITHFUL HAVE THAT BLOCK RELATIONAL RECOVERY
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Apr 08, 2026 |
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THIS "RECOVERY BEHAVIOR" IS JUST ANOTHER FORM OF BETRAYAL
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Mar 26, 2026 |
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UNDERSTANDING BETRAYAL: DO MEN AND WOMEN CHEAT FOR DIFFERENT REASONS?
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Mar 12, 2026 |
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SUBTLE WAYS THE UNFAITHFUL PHONE IN BETRAYAL RECOVERY - PERFORMATIVE VS REAL RECOVERY
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Feb 27, 2026 |
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Peter Pan Syndrome: Can The Unfaithful Ever Really Grow Up?
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Feb 12, 2026 |
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Rebuilding Trust: The Missing Key The Unfaithful MUST Know
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Feb 03, 2026 |
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Is The Unfaithful's Self Care Really Self Indulgence?
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Jan 15, 2026 |
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S6: NEW BEGINNINGS - The Hidden Turning Point For the Unfaithful In Betrayal Recovery
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Jan 02, 2026 |
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7 WAYS THE UNFAITHFUL MISHANDLE THE BETRAYED'S DISENFRANCHISED GRIEF
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Dec 18, 2025 |
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LIMERENCE: CAN THE DAMAGE EVER BE REPAIRED?
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Dec 04, 2025 |
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What are No Lose Decisions In Infidelity Recovery?
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Nov 28, 2025 |
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HEALING FROM SECRET INTRIGUE
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Nov 06, 2025 |
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INTRIGUE: The Silent Saboteur of Healing and Connection After Infidelity
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Oct 24, 2025 |
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What Are The Consequences of People Pleasing For the Unfaithful?
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Oct 09, 2025 |
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ATU Shorts SE5: Helping the Unfaithful Move From "Not It!" to "Got it!"
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Sep 25, 2025 |
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10 Ways the Unfaithful's Distorted Thinking Destroys Hope
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Sep 11, 2025 |
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Entitlement in the Unfaithful: From Demanding to Devotion
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Aug 28, 2025 |
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4 Ways Shame and Avoidance Sabotage Healing from Infidelity
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Aug 14, 2025 |
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The Arousal Template: Identifying Triggers and Blindspots
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Jul 18, 2025 |
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Was the Unfaithful Really in Love with the Affair Partner?
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Jul 02, 2025 |
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5 Signs the Unfaithful Isn't Sorry...Yet
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Jun 18, 2025 |
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How Criticism Sabotages Affair Recovery
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Jun 08, 2025 |
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How Judgment Affects Affair Recovery
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May 22, 2025 |
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Why Are the Unfaithful So Afraid to Do Recovery Work?
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May 15, 2025 |
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What People Pleasing Does to Betrayed Partner
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May 09, 2025 |
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What People-Pleasing Does to the Betrayed Partner
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May 01, 2025 |
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How Excessive Self-Protection by the Unfaithful is Toxic After Infidelity is Discovered
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Apr 18, 2025 |
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Why Do the Unfaithful Take Things Personally?
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Apr 04, 2025 |
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What is Toxic Negativity & What Can Be Done About It?
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Mar 20, 2025 |
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How Not Keeping Promises Undermines Recovery
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Mar 06, 2025 |
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6 Essentials to Maintaining Momentum in Relational Recovery
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Feb 24, 2025 |
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Why Is the Unfaithful So Hot and Cold? Understanding the Push-Pull Dynamic
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Feb 11, 2025 |
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How to Know If the Unfaithful Is Still Using the Betrayed
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Jan 23, 2025 |
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ATU Shorts SE4: James' Journey: A Message of Hope
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Jan 23, 2025 |
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4 Reasons the Unfaithful Avoid Hard Conversations
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Jan 09, 2025 |
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Finding Healing During Holidays & Anniversaries
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Dec 19, 2024 |
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5 Signs of Emotional Immaturity in the Unfaithful
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Dec 06, 2024 |
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When Is It Time for a Therapeutic Separation?
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Nov 20, 2024 |
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ATU Shorts SE3: Terminal Uniqueness - The Value of Surrender
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Nov 19, 2024 |
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Breaking the Reaction Cycle of the Unfaithful
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Nov 09, 2024 |
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ATU Shorts SE2: How to Feel & Deal with Your Feelings
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Nov 02, 2024 |
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3 Warning Signs the Unfaithful Isn't Committed to the Betrayed
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Oct 24, 2024 |
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Communication Style the Betrayed Need from the Unfaithful
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Oct 17, 2024 |
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4 Harmful Communication Styles of the Unfaithful
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Oct 11, 2024 |
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What Are the Two Most Overlooked Keys to Recovery?
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Oct 04, 2024 |
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5 Signs of Emotional Intelligence
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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6 Signs of an Emotional Affair
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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What are 4 Damaging Ways the Unfaithful Seek Attention?
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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What are 5 Smokescreens the Unfaithful Use to Deflect?
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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What are the 5 Stages of Change for The Unfaithful?
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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5 Communication Mistakes the Unfaithful Make
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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10 Reasons Why the Unfaithful Self Sabotage
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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What are the Signs of Denial in the Life of the Unfaithful?
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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What are the Consequences of Betrayal for the Unfaithful?
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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What is Parental Enmeshment and How Does it Affect Affair Recovery?
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Sep 25, 2024 |
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How Do the Unfaithful Invalidate the Betrayed's Feelings?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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5 Ways the Unfaithful are Defensive and Reactive
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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Why are the Unfaithful Dishonest with Themselves?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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6 Ways the Unfaithful Retraumatize the Betrayed Partner
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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How Can the Unfaithful Stop Draining the Betrayed's Energy?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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Why is Perfectionism so Dangerous for the Unfaithful?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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How does the Unfaithful Make Amends Early on in Recovery
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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What Are the Biggest Red Flags in the Unfaithful's Early Relational Recovery?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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How Can the Unfaithful Begin to Rebuild Trust in Early Recovery
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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Are All Unfaithfuls Intimacy Avoidant?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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How is the Unfaithful's Progress in Recovery Measured?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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Why is Resentment so Destructive in the Life of the Unfaithful?
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Sep 24, 2024 |
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Is Relapse a Part of Recovery?
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Sep 20, 2024 |
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What Does Being "All-In" in Recovery Work After Infidelity Look Like?
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Sep 20, 2024 |
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Why Do the Unfaithful Disparage the Betrayed to their Affair Partner?
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Sep 20, 2024 |
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Why are the Unfaithful so Angry?
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Sep 20, 2024 |